The shouldvereadthefineprint's Podcast: Recent Episodes
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Hello Fine Listeners of SRFP!
Blended families are defined as any family that has brought a child of any age under a new parents' roof. Our family is a little bit more complex than that... Finally, getting to the heart of our experiences as step parents and parents steering a blended family!
We are @shouldvereadthefineprint
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When the going gets rough, the rough gets going. We are a dynamic husband and wife duo who have seen so many parenting trials and tribulations throughout the years. Now we are going to simply talk about what chapter we are at, and talk about how to point due north on this parenting journey through the crisis we are in. All will be well in time, but enduring this crisis is going to take some effort, and naturally some of our energy away from the robust family life we have been living.
One promise I can make definitively: All the challenges we face are temporary. They have both a beginning and indeed, an end.
We are shouldvereadthefineprint@gamil.com
Hey Everybody, big welcome back!
We are breaking into a new season of life in podcasting. This episode we are going to be making sense of why we judge the world around us. Is it okay? Is it detrimental? Is it pointless?
You gotta listen in to find out our take! We are so glad you decided to join us!
Jason and Kimberley shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
@shouldvereadthefineprint
Hi Everybody,
There is so much we are living for and intending to do in life and the road of life is long and full of stories. Many of us remember the challenges we have faced and remember fondly the moments of joy and love. While we are out there living there comes moments of chaos too. Sometimes we make mistakes that have serious consequences or sometimes things just happen that turn our world temporarily upside down. There are times in life that can be described as a crisis.
We will talk about how to respond to crisis and reality check about how we can navigate the feelings as one occurs.
Come have a listen!
shouldvereadthfineprint@gmail.com
Hello Everybody,
We are currently on a road trip traveling through the south of the US! Instead of taking a break, we decided to put out an episode that might be a bit different than our usual. Hopefully, y'all will enjoy listening to our answers to spontaneous questions! (maybe this will be even better than our usual stuff :)
Thank you for the use of your lovable lovely ears!
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello Good People of SRFP,
We are back again with an episode about our own accountability because what we see more often than not is that children do what the see, more so than what they hear. While we teach our youth many things by passing on information, we see them taking on characteristics that are not intentionally taught, but passed to them through example. Does that mean we need to clean up our act? No. Well, yeah maybe, but the fact is, we all blow it sometimes and how we react matters maybe more than how often we get things right or wrong.
Come on in and close the door behind you to have a listen to what we believe is the secret sauce to our success as good role models for our kids! (can't believe I said "secret sauce")
Thanks again for being here and wanting to be better with us!
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello Friends,
Bad mouthing your ex is regarded as harmful by every court in the US. It places a burden of guilt and shame on children that have had no choice in their circumstance. Divorce is not an uncommon thing in our country and it is a doozie of a life transition. Many times parents feel justified speaking disparagingly about their ex or their ex's family because of pain they have suffered. When bad mouthing is infrequent and love is bountiful there are rarely serious issues, but if bad mouthing becomes a habit or coping skill, it's effect is called brain washing.
This is what we call "Divorce Poison". When someone becomes the target of Divorce Poison, they may not be aware of why their child, grandchild, nephew or niece is acting contemptuous, but the behavior change will be clear. A beloved grandchild begins to ask not to be alone around their grandpa anymore, or a step mother goes from being regarded as a close friend to being treated like a stranger. It is uncommon, but sometimes children who have been abused this way eventually try to give up on their connection to their own mom or dad.
Hopefully, no one reading this has children (or were once children themselves) experiencing the kind of agony that is the result of Divorce Poison, but there are people who do. Our work today is talk about how it works, and how to put a stop to it when it is happening.
Thank you all for being here,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello Listeners,
No. Nope on a rope as we say often in our house, is a powerhouse of an expression that has infinite applications. Today we are talking about how to confidently speak your truth when the truth is that you want to or need to decline. Sometimes a casual friend wants a favor, or a neighbor has so much more to say while your child is using more and more intense methods of directing your attention back to them. Sometimes we are too busy with work, and sometimes we would just prefer to do something more meaningful for ourselves than what someone else wants from us.
When it is time to be blunt and simply say "No.", or "No more.", we are offering a recipe to doing so without social casualties because when we say a clear "No" to time spent in a void, we say "Yes" to an allowance of time for ourselves. And we fucking deserve it.
Thank you for joining us,
We are shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hi Listeners!
Today on SRFP we are examining some of the WORST advice we have been given as well as some of our favorite good advice. It's always interesting to think about where we get our ideas from because often they are mosaics, made up of fragments of experiences, stories, and guidance from the people in our lives. The way we interpret these things and create our own viewpoint of the world around us is unique. The good advice we hear can't always be received, and the bad advice can often be a reminder to avoid it.
Take a little tour through our advice history and as promised you'll hear the good, the bad, and the ugly:)
Thank you all as always, for the use of your lovable, lovely ears,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail..com
Hello Wonderful Human Beings!
So glad you are back to hear from us again. It is likely that you, much like most of humanity are feeling a little ragged from a long season of pandemic life and curious and also anxious about what the future may hold. Before the days of working from home and health checks go away, what are your thoughts about this past year+ and what do you hope to take with you as we become busier than we have been for a long time?
If you tune in this week you will hear how to form your own mantras for the future you desire.
Thank you dear friends,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello all you Beautiful Listeners!
Our hearts and souls go into giving our kids the best possible love and care, but it is not always easy. In fact, when it comes to having kids who live under multiple roofs, experiencing many polar opposite in home cultures, it's never easy, it's a good day when it's not damn hard!
Some of you are in this boat with us and others may be curious how it all works. Well, take a seat and have a listen as we take y'all on a personal tour of what life looks like, the challenges, the triumphs, that shape and tell a blended family story.
You're going to see how much work is involved and understand how it pays off, that's for certain.
Thank you for being here, let's jump in to the blender!
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello Fantastic People of SRFP!
It is getting close to our 100th episode and starting to consistently feel like our message to all of you is concise and applicable each week. That said, we would love, love, love, love LOVE it if you could share this episode with a friend who hasn't heard us yet and help us get the message into more of your lovely ears. Thank you.
Now about this weeks episode: We all experience being in the wrong from time to time, or if you're like me, frequently. When this happens, how does it make you feel? Mostly, we can explain our good intentions and apologize and move on to never think of the mistake again. Sometimes though our mistakes can linger in ways that are uncomfortable. Maybe we aren't sure if our apology was well received, or maybe we are afraid we have hurt someone more than they let on... Alternatively from how we explain our side of the story to others is how we process our own understandings about why we made the mistake at all. Aren't we allowed to screw up? Why do we often find ourselves making similar mistakes to the ones we have made before, and how I ask, are we able to respond to ourselves with compassion not criticism?
Thank you as always, for the use of your lovable, lovely ears,
Jason and Kim
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Okay, okay, this title is a little misleading folks,
We are going to talk about some parenting habits and opening up about how to evolve as parents. We won't be wandering too far of course from that theme, but I'll give you an idea of what our talking points are:
Humility in problem solving with your loved ones.
Disciplining a well-behaved and/or easy going kid.
Being yourself and protecting yourself through adversity.
Thank you all ever so much for joining us!
We are:
@shouldvereadtehfineprint
shouldvereadthefineprint.com
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hi there fair and fine listeners!
This week we are dilineating between healthy and unhealthy conflict. When resolution is the mutual goal, we have a much better chance at moving forward with someone we love despite differences of opinion. Unfortunately, most of us have, or have had someone close to us where our efforts to reconcile always seem to fall short, or quickly fall apart.
Sometimes we accept that the battle cannot be won because the separate parties' desires are just not mutual. So then what? Disengagement from a person who seems to hound us with more and more troubles simultaneously halts adding fuel to the fire while giving us space to breath and reflect on our personal well-being.
Come have a listen to hear what that disengagement looks like, how to maintain it, and when you know its working.
Thanks for being a part of the SRFP community!
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello Beautiful People!
It is cheesy and possibly taboo to be talking about "love language", but thankfully for you, we have maximized the value extraction, all with our usual, carefully balanced concoction of sincerity and irreverence. Truly, it matters to us how others express their love for us. Some people need hugs while others would prefer gift cards. There are no wrong ways to love someone, but it goes a long way in understanding how people in our lives desire to have your love for them shown. It can easily get lost in translation when you are not aware of how a person interprets your expression of care and love, so let's break this conversation open.
This is a fun, entertainment podcast about how hard normal life stuff can be. If you gain insights and life hacks along the way, all the better! Just remember you are incredible, and you are doing such an amazing job.
Thank you for the cool loan on those lovable earlobes:)
Jason, @shouldvereadthefineprint shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hi Everybody, and welcome! It is our pleasure to invite you into our heads each week as we piece together the way our lives feel more purposeful and meaningful. This week however, we are inviting all to observe the oddities and wonders of dreams. What does it mean when Jesus greets you in the form of a bumpkin? Or what about when you keep ripping people's hair our of their head? And yes, it can be quite terrifying dealing with a tree... especially a tree with boobs.
Thank you all so much for tuning in. All the likes,
Jason and Kimberley
Hello Fine and Fair Listeners!
A normal life consists a series of chapters, divided into unique moments that ebb and flow to create our whole story of being. While we journey through our own lives, we encounter trials, troubles and tribulations, and few, if any individuals live a life without them. Often in these struggles we experience leave a lasting hurt called trauma.
Although it is perfectly reasonable that we try to avoid these moments to spare ourselves the suffering that trauma can cause, we inevitably end up having to deal with painful experiences along the way. Despite the way it appears, the traumas we experience also have something positive to give us.
When our limits are tested, we learn the limits we set on ourselves are not concrete. We can grow beyond what we know of our own strength.
While trauma is not something we desire, and our inevitable encounters with it in life make us want to avoid it, we are often indebted to it for forcing us to turn the page in our story, and discover new chapters that could never have formed without its effect.
We are Shouldve Read the Fine Print, thank you very much for being here.
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Howdy Beautiful Listeners!
The way we are shaped by our parents, the adolescent rebellions, and who we eventually settle into as ourselves are a fascinating and unique part of life. Much of how we express ourselves is related to what has come about in our journey. Many things in this world we see as foreign or unreal, but there are some things that we feel we are so close to us that we would call them our identity. So come on inside and take a gander at our family’s culture after five years of marriage. There’s a lot to see and experience here as we have had all kinds of influences over the years. Maybe you might even reflect on some of our experiences that mirror your own.
Thank you for being here,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello Wonderful Listeners!
Getting together with my favorite sister-in-law this week to follow up on a year in the life of COVID19. This episode includes swearing, shenanigans, and "special sauce". It may not be your typical SRFP episode, but once in a while it is refreshing to just allow ourselves to be plain, unpolished, and crude. :)
We are always so grateful for our community listeners. You are the finest creatures this world had to offer and we adore all of you! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Until next week,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello all,
This week on Should’ve Read the Fine Print we are giving our interpretation on how gratitude colors our daily life. The stressful times are diminished by it. The good times enhanced by it. Gratitude is not an emotion as much as an ability that we are free to possess if we are willing to develop it. Want to know the steps to get there? Listen as we discuss one of the largest proponents to living a healthy and hearty life.
Thank you as always for the use of your lovable, lovely ears.
Hi Listening People!
We have finally gotten to deliver on a promise to talk about attachment styles this week and I think you are going to enjoy it. Think of this episode as just another friendly conversation with us as we sit casually in our bean bag sofas and peel back the layers of understanding about how we connect (or attach) to others. We all have our own style, but there are a a few psychological distinctions that can used to form us into groups. Secure, Avoidant, Anxious, and Disorganized are the different kinds. Which one are you?
Thank you so much for joining us. We love the you are here!
Welcome, welcome our wonderful listeners!
When we encounter trials in life, we develop techniques of dealing. Sometimes we find ways to cope, sometimes we strengthen our ability to strategize and fight, sometimes we learn to live without. Every person who comes to life on this planet exists with connections to others and without our relationships to others, we die. So what happens when a relationship we hold dear is torn apart at the seams? We all must eventually face loss in our lives, but we don’t want to because it hurts. In fact the more we love someone, the more it hurts, so I ask you; Why endeavor to love deeply when the loss of that love could cause so much pain?
If you want to hear how Kimberley and I answer this question, spend the next hour with us.
Thank you as always, for the use of your lovable, lovely ears!
Hi Everyone!
This conversation is about the good stuff of parenting. That's right, we are celebrating the big moments and the small so if you're in the mood for some levity, you are in the right place.
Thank you as always, for the use of your lovable, lovely ears.
Hello Listeners!
This week we are using our last episode about control as a jumping off point to talk about how power is an essential component of our ability to control. It is odd that power, by some definition, can eradicate a definition of empowerment. We are going to break that up and explain the pieces.
After that, we are going to get into where empowerment can exist, and how essential it is to us. Hopefully this episode will even help you consolidate your perception of your on self-empowerment.
We love making every episode for the wonderful people that are part of this community!
Jason and Kimberley
Hello Listeners!
We can begin by saying we don't have any. Control, in its complete definition, would require omniscience and a total lack emotion. So why are we all trying so hard to take the reins of our life and be in control? Maybe it makes us feel safe, or maybe it gives us a sense of strength. Maybe it's just our nature to want it so that we can have certainty about our place in the world. Especially while the world is currently grappling with a deadly virus, some of us are looking for control more than ever.
Join Kimberley and I as we talk about our struggle to possess control, to let it go of control completely, and reasons to find a balance between these.
Thank you as always, for the use of your lovable, lovely ears!
Jason and Kimberley
Hello again!
We are back to discuss our first impressions on what 2020 taught us. Although some things may seem negative, we want to observe what truths have been revealed through the difficult times.
Afterwards, we want to talk some on how we may be at a turning point soon with the pandemic and how we are likely going to respond to a new world ahead.
Thank you as always for the use of your lovable, lovely ears,
Jason Morse
Hello listeners!
Vulnerability throughout this episode as we toss around ideas regarding the concept and process of forgiveness.
We are as always, ever so grateful for the borrow of those lovable ears!
-Jason
Hiya Friends and Family,
Come have a listen as Kim and I do one of our favorite things: Have a conversation. We in the States are looking on with tremulous hope as we anticipate the change in power after some really volatile years in politics. Who are the people still being overlooked? How do we afford to care for our loved ones through these bottle neck days of the pandemic while the turmoil continues drain on us? Please join us as we ping some of our thoughts off one another and try to massage some of the anxieties out of the way.
We love all our listeners and would love to hear some of your thoughts on the struggles you face as well!
Contact us through the website: shouldvereadthefineprint.com and as always, thank you for the use of your lovable, lovely ears.
Hello Friends and Familiars,
You do not need children under your roof to delight in this one. Listen in as talk about the internal struggle to have a more calm and objective approach to emotions, especially the difficult ones. We also go into the misconceptions we have around praise and positive reinforcement, boundaries with demanding kids, and doing a little self-worth therapy.
Thank you, thank you, thank you, as always, for the borrow of those lovable, lovely ears.
Jason and Kim
Hello beautiful friends and family,
We don't have a map for 2021. We are in a new domain since "normal" departed upon the onset of the pandemic, and there hasn't been a standard set of rules since. You don't need us to tell you that you are good people, but what we can tell you is that you are in a position to be radical people.
Most folks are thinking about their desire to commit to change for the new year. Cool, let's talk about that. Let's scoop up our lessons of 2020 and turn our toward 2021 with an attitude of intention, because this year, more than others, it is going to matter what you intend to do. Let us give you a template of sorts, to help your ideas about the new year stick.
Thank you as always, for the use of your lovable, lovely ears,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
We’ve been doing this blended family thing for five years now, and boy how things have evolved! We could have never predicted some of the challenges we faced; however, there was one thing that we did which kept us afloat physically and mentally. Tune in to learn how we have kept this family together and thriving for five years strong.
Thank you, as always, for the use of your lovable and lovely ears,
Kim & Jason
Hello Friends and Family,
Today we are going to do a little self-care on our ability to communicate... with ourselves. Internal monologues, dialogues, and sometimes entire conversations are happening betwixt our ears, whether we are paying attention to it or not.
So what does your internal voice tend to sound like?
We are going to talk about technique on how to become more intentional about the way we talk to ourselves. We are going to talk about how we receive and process information from outside of ourselves. And we are going to listen to the voices and get to know them, ourselves, a little better.
Thank you as always, for the use of your lovable, lovely ears.
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Soooo, is Christmas cancelled this year since we cannot gather to celebrate? We don't think so! Tune in for some hot tips on how to make this season feel holly and jolly, while simplifying and learning to appreciate the lack of the usual hustle and bustle. In addition we share some of our favorite holiday traditions, as well as some of the life changing modifications to the holidays that we have made as a family. Enjoy!
Thank you for the use of your lovable, lovely ears!
-Kimberley & Jason
Hello Friends and Family!
Whether it is to victims of sexual assault or victims of bullying, how can we show our support to these individuals? Or maybe it is a question of if we should even risk speaking out. On this episode we talk about the benefits and the consequences of showing support versus not showing support. We also address the problem of victim blaming in our society. Kimberley shares her personal experiences with sexual assault and bullying, and what effects that support, or lack there of it, had on her experience. Tune in as we talk about some hard, but necessary material.
Thank you as always for the use of your lovable, lovely ears,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hi Friends and Family!
2020.
Our lives have been topsy turvy for a while now. In fact, when we look back at life before we understood COVID19, we see a different reality. I wish that were a hyperbolic statement, but if we went to a salon last year and were stopped at the door by a masked employee, temperature checked, asked to fill out a statement saying that we had been feeling healthy, we would be beyond perplexed.
There's a new normal in town and it has innumerable effects on our minds and lives. We want to invite y'all to come sit with us and listen while we talk about becoming aware of the need to give ourselves some extra grace in this new reality.
Thank you so much for listening,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello Friends and Family!
Well, it hasn't been an exact science but we are prrretty sure this is our 52nd episode, which would mark the one year anniversary of this humble podcast! Another anniversary to celebrate would be ours as husband and wife! Yes, five years of harmonious solidarity and unrelenting affection and love! Well, almost.
We are all doing our best out there in the world and at home, but let's be serious, we're human beings. We stumble, we procrastinate, we sometimes haven't got a clue what the hell is going on. So Kimberley and I are going to take a little time talking about how most of us, if not everyone, would like to be their best despite our worst, and how we can begin to redirect some of our "keeping up with appearances" energy into some good old fashioned self improvement.
Thank you all, as always, for the use of your lovable, lovely ears!
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello Friends and Family!
It you can hang through our awkward intro about feline squirrel molestation, we deep dive into peacekeeping verses peacemaking. We identify the differences between the two and demonstrate how peacekeepers can inadvertently impede peacemaking.
Our new president has called our country to unite, but many people worry that the divide is too great. Seasoned peacemakers recognize that our country cannot just wait it out and hope that this one blows over...they understand that in order to establish peace with others and within themselves, they must honestly face the problem head on. This kind of real engagement is uncomfortable and often tense, but with boundaries in their back pockets, peacemakers build an environment to make peace possible, while speaking up for themselves and allowing others who desire to join the conversation to do the same. Although making peace through reconciliation is the goal, peacemakers do not quietly suffer disrespect, and that’s where the good ‘ol boundaries come in. The process can be slow, messy and uncomfortable, but with patience and trust in the process, some, not all of us can unify. By detaching with love from certain individuals, we empathetically alllow them the space to feel the consequences of their choices and behavior while not compromising on our core morals and values, our truth and justice. Not everyone will find their way, but some will.
Tune in and we will lay it all out for you.
Hi Folks!
It's curious that we have always capitalized the F in Friends and Family in our greeting because these two words, and what they mean to us is the topic of the week. With the era of technology the allows us to be face to face with another across the world, we are now being given the choice of who we will consider spending our time, energy, vulnerability, and intimacy with. Traditions such as gender roles and patriarchal law have led us to consider connecting to people not necessarily in our bloodlines, but instead choosing the people who accept us and respect us whether they share a heritage or not.
This topic is difficult and fraught with aforementioned traditions that do not serve all of us all well. Let's get into it.
Thank you for the use of your lovable lovely ears,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello Friends and Family,
We are full of gratitude and delight to be able to offer to you the words of the brilliant and talented Pamela Sue Johnson! You will get to hear of the journey from the strenuous factory work she was doing to being a full time painter and teacher. Her lessons offer people more than technique, but offer us a sense of how to connect to what creativity stirs inside us.
So without the ados going any further, we thank you for the use of your lovable, lovely ears!
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Podcast Notes:
Find Pamela Sue Johnson and her art at www.pamelasuejohnson.com
Instagram: @pamelasuejohnson
Facebook: pamelasuejohnson11
You can also get free (FREE!) online creative lessons from Pamela at “Art It Up Studio”
Hello Friends and also Family,
After many an episode of delving into some deep topics we have decided to take a short breather for our community. The biggest thing happening in this episode, is laughter.
Turns out being a parent gives us some pretty hilarious material to work with, so without too much further ado...
Thank you for the short loan of your lovely and lovable ears,
shouldvereadthefineprint.com
Hi Friends and Family,
Want to learn a few mindfulness tricks without feeling out of your depth or separated from the way you do life today? Sure! You got it!
At this point, American society has an awareness of the term "Mindfulness", but it still seems to be a niche exercise associated with certain groups like hipsters, yogis, or spiritually minded individuals. I am happy to say that mindfulness is more generic than its stigma.
There are some clarifications to be made and distinguishing mindfulness from a relentless positivity that glosses over or ignores the troubles that we face is what we are going to focus on here.
Unfortunately, there is still so much ground to cover. I think that one hour is just not enough time to sum up the complex body of work that mindfulness is deserving of. There will be more on this subject in the future, I am certain of it. For now, enjoy the show!
Podcast Sources:
Happify- Why Mindfulness Is a Superpower: An Animation
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w6T02g5hnT4
Thank you as always for the borrow of your lovable and lovely ears,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello Beautiful Listeners,
It would seem we have had our finger on the pulse of our Nation at present. When the president was diagnosed with COVID-19 earlier this week, many citizens have been speculating on whether or not the information about this event is true, or how much of it is true. There is confusion in our society as a result of the president, a person of paramount authority having only one technique to deal with the heavy burden of his responsibilities: To lie.
Our confusion is a result of gaslighting.
We have had a lot of feedback about and around this topic. I'm confident that if you found our first episode on gaslighting compelling you will feel the same about the second.
Thank you all, as always, for the use of your lovely, lovable ears,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello to you all!
I don't know how many folks have had to deep dive into the way gaslighting works, or worse learned how it works through being gaslighted. Kimberley, has achieved both and is here to enlighten us.
Thank you all so much for allowing us into your beautiful ears!
Hello listeners!
Art is perhaps the most profound way human beings have to express ourselves, yet there seems to be a myriad of stumbling blocks that prevent our creativity from being common practice. Some of us have just moved on with our lives, accepting that part of us is not necessary for survival, but when we have access to our own creativity, we thrive.
One of the perceived hurdles of developing and exercising our creativity is managing to even put it onto our schedule. Well, what if that's the trick? Can blocking out an hour during your week be all it takes to rediscover or rekindle our creative side?
My guess is, it's definitely worth a shot.
Thank you, as always, for the borrow of your lovable, lovely ears.
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hi listeners!
Parenting is a never ending endeavor and the information on doing it successfully is almost literally infinite. Recently, Kimberley and I realized that while our techniques in parenting has brought noticeable improvement to our kids' lives, we were lacking enough of that sweet stuff called positivity. Reminding us that whether we are gracefully navigating parent life, or banging our head against the wall, there are always additional options.
You may know by now that we are big, big fans of charts, and we have added a new chart to our wall: Introducing... "Cool Charts"!
And if you were thinking of skipping this episode, at least drop in on the last few minutes revealing a memorable new number by the lovely and talented Kimberley Zerzan.
Thank you forever and always for the borrow of those lovable, lovely ears,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hello listeners!
It seems we left a few stones unturned in our previous episode on boundaries so we are going to take another dive into this critical ability to lead honest and authentic lives. After all, folks have written books on the subject so if you'll humor us, we would love to open up our hearts and delve deeper into the use and effects of living your life with healthy boundaries.
Thank you as always for the use of your lovable, lovely ears,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hey Y'all!
Developing and supporting boundaries can feel impossible at first. Then it gets super easy?
Well... No, no not really. The truth is people are cringey around boundaries. These are independent efforts we make as individuals to establish an environment of self-care and self-respect, and they can get in other people’s way.
Self-care? Self-respect? Those are wonderful qualities! Why would anyone put aside those things as secondary to the care or respect of others?
Because when it comes to standing up for others' values, we are told by our culture that we are honorable and courageous and good, but when we stand up for our own individual values, we are met with many voices of doubt. Most of the time that includes our own voice.
This episode could be the nudge you need to take the next step in your desire to be self-empowered. You are 100% worth the work.
As always, thank you for the borrow of your beautiful ears,
Jason and Kimberley
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Show Notes:
“Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life”
By Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
“Codependent No More”
Melody Beattie
Dr. Nicole LePera on Instagram
@the.holistic.psychologist
Hey listeners!
While the pace of life has been slowed and in some cases ground to a halt, we still are able to see personal progress. Certainly it can feel defeating when bogged down by day to day routines. It isn't obvious that you are an improved, more authentic version of yourself, but when you try looking back down the long corridor of your life you will be able to better assess your accomplishments, successes and so on. You may find yourself relaxing your internal critic in this moment and recognizing that all in all, you have come a long way in life. Hey, if not, there's still plenty of space for you to grow!
Thank you everyone for the borrow of those lovely ears on the sides of your lovely heads,
shouldvereadthefineprint@gmail.com
Hi listeners!
This week our offering is a conversation about improving the way we distribute our time, energy, and money so they are not wasted. We all have guilty pleasures, but some are more detrimental than they are cute. To that particular group we are suggesting a fantastically efficient phrase to help us not waste anymore of our resources on them: Fuck it.
Thank you as always for the borrow of your beautiful ears,
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Hello listeners!
We bring you this week a story about being different, about being unique, and about being connected to individuals who are on the Autism spectrum! We are often challenged by our kid on the spectrum but more consistently delighted, transfigured, and inspired by Lucy because she does not adhere to what we consider social norms or parental norms. For her life has a unique affect and we are only lately beginning to find the rhythm to which her little drum beats. Please join us as we reveal some of the best things about being a person diagnosed with Autism.
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Hello Wonderful People,
It seems we still have a few questions to hash out together and I think you are going to enjoy this round. We get real personal, take a drive down memory lane, and offer up our signature style advice through our experiences as parents and as people thus far.
Please enjoy and thank you for the use of your lovable ears,
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Hello Beautiful Listeners!
This week we have grabbed up a big handful of queries and tried to give our finest responses to them at random. As you all know, this advice podcast is not intended to pontificate scholarly repeals to the daily demands and stresses of our lives, but rather to provide our down to Earth experiences and valuable pieces of wisdom found through the experiences of being a blended family of seven in this crazy world. We hope you find something to take away from this eclectic episode and enjoy our attempts to give away the best advice we can when put to the test.
Thank you forever and always for the use of your lovely, beautiful ears,
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Hey Y'all,
If you don't feel like you have got your finger on the pulse of the pandemic, you are not alone! In fact, you are in the same camp as, well, LITERALLY EVERYONE else... Trying to solve the world's problems or even our community's problems because of the effects of COVID19 can become anxiety provoking for even the most chill bodhisattva. So what is the plan? We have a few suggestions for you out there~
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Hello Friends!
Coming off of a difficult week we have delivered to you our follow up to last weeks episode. If you haven't heard it, I do not think it will matter because although we are sharing many current events about us, we are also offering information on a term, or syndrome called "Parental Allegiance" and "Parental Alienation". It is a tough world out there for parents right now and everyone else, and I am proud to say that our problems may be out of our control to correct but we are choosing to understand them, and live our best despite them.
Please enjoy, and thank you for the use of your lovely, beautiful ears,
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This one's a journey. Hi listeners, this week has been a little better than some, a little harder than most. It is one of those things where we are reminded that despite our training and hard work, so many things are just out of our hands. Lucky to say that we have a place to share our troubles and although this episode is long, I hope you are encouraged by it. I hope you are encouraged to not think of our troubles as what defines us, but only what has come at us and sculpted our strength of character in years past.
As always, thank you for the lovely use of your ears,
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Hello Fine Listeners,
Parenting is hard. Anyone who says that it isn't, is lying....or their kids are emotionless robots. I kid, I kid. Seriously, though, getting in tune with those complex little humans can be tough, and sometimes it takes a little experimenting to learn what works and what does indeed NOT work. This isn't our way of admitting our mistakes, nor is it a long list of "Dos" and "Don'ts". Here in this one we want to share a couple of our creative endeavors in parenting while reassuring you; When it comes to raising people, we all make mistakes.
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Hello fine Listeners! Let me start by saying that we always strive to be open to as wide an audience as possible. If you are not sure what Anti-Racism is, please know that does not put you outside of our love for you. We are very happy to bring you what is sure to be a stimulating and honest story about racism in America. We believe in the agenda of Equality, True Equality, and we think that if you have come this far down from the header you too want peace and justice to prevail!
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Hello! One super power of blended families is the objectivity that the non bio parent provides when it comes to their step kids. But without a healthy dose of empathy you can find yourself in a hostile environment between a bio parent and their bio child. Listen in as we discuss how we navigate this issue!
Thank you as always, for the borrow of your lovely ears!
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Hello fine listeners,
This week we have decided to push our planned episode back awhile so that we can create room for black voices. Black lives matter. We are not watching only, but DO-ing. We are listening and learning. Please take the time that you would have listened to our podcast to check out some of these important resources that have taught us a LOT this week:
PODCASTS:
Brene Brown with Ibram X. Kendi: How to Be an Anti-Racist--listen here: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-with-ibram-x-kendi-on-how-to-be-an-antiracist/
Racism and What We Can Do to Dismantle It Right Now with Louiza Doran https://smartcouple.libsyn.com/racism-and-what-we-can-do-to-dismantle-it-right-now-louiza-doran-294/
Ahyiana Angel https://www.switchpivotorquit.com
Cathy Heller https://www.cathyheller.com/2020/06/the-most-empowering-stories-advice-from-successful-black-female-entrepreneurs/
INSTAGRAM:
@oshetamoore
@accordingtoweeze
@theconsciouskid
ARTICLES:
For Our White Friends Desiring to Be Allies by Courtney Ariel https://sojo.net/articles/our-white-friends-desiring-be-allies
How To Talk to Relatives Who Care More About Looting Than Black Lives by Rachel Miller https://apple.news/AE-6on0gBQjyfo_o0xFa_vA
NEWS MEDIA:
Unicorn Riot: https://unicornriot.ninja
BOOKS:
Me And White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad--Read for free, no wait time here: https://multcolib.bibliocommons.com/item/show/1426911152
How to Be an Anti-Racist by Ibram X. Kendi --buy here https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40265832-how-to-be-an-antiracist
FILM:
Just Mercy with Michael B. Jordan, Jamie Foxx (PG13) YouTube, Google Play, Amazon Prime
Selma with David Oyelowo, Carmen Ejogo, (PG 13) Google Play, Amazon Prime
Notice me. Be with me. I need you.
When you hear the words of an injured friend, an angered child, or an infuriated lover, they do not sound like they are trying to communicate these phrases. The truth is that our bond with the person/persons we love are held together by the belief that we are safe with them. The more secure and protected we feel, the more connected and understood and supported.
Please use this episode to help you engage with this principal of love and relationship. Spend some time contemplating this and and reflecting on the relationships that you are in.
As always, thank you for the time your ears have given us. We appreciate you and would love to hear from you!
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I wonder how many of our friends and how many of our listeners still wonder how the F we manage to stay healthy and happy among so many children (five) in this modern world. One thing that helps unify us as an "Us" is our fifth child. We didn't know, or pretend to know the effect of having a child together would have on our already complicated family dynamic, but we followed our hearts and our minds and ended up with a child who was not embroiled in step-parenting drama. These are some of the effects of having a child together after becoming a blended family.
Thank you, as always, for the attention of your ears. We appreciate you.
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We humans are no more than 15% different from any other, biologically speaking of course. Somehow, we can seem so much more opposed to other people than that! Consider the most unexpected things people have done around you while they were with you under the pretense of offering you an exclusive look at who they are... That's what we are talking about today: our worst experiences while on a date. So have a cuppa and take a seat, this episode is all about having fun!
As always, thank you for your listening ears!
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Maybe you’ve been married once, never, or like five times already. As for us, it’s our “second time around"' and we have some insight and warnings about the conscious and unconscious differences that we have experienced as we navigate our second (or whatever number) attempt at a lifetime commitment. Tune in for our awkward and honest take!
Hello Friends! How about these times, huh? We are in a new era of sorts and while there is some concrete information out there, there are a lot of people trying actively to distort it and plough through reality as it sits. We can always create a silver lining, but what do you believe we should preserve from this time of reflection and relative calm in America? Kimberley and I have a few ideas and there is so much more to the conversation but I suggest you start here.
Thank you to all who have given us your time (and your ears).
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Hello listener! Have you ever wondered what it's like under the roof of a blended family. There's plenty of coming and going and growing pains are real, however; These fine young people can become the most important people in our lives. Come along with us on a tour of our own personal child factory (family of seven) and see the magic, the struggle, and the everlasting bonds that can form when you devote yourself to new family members.
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Hi Y'all! Have anything on your do before you die list? Kim does! Or at least she says that she does. Is dragging your five children and adorable husband to every farm in the state really a bucket list?;) Help us settle this by listening to a conversation about getaways, challenges, and all the interesting opportunities to work with animals... this is definitely stretching the use of the term bucket list. Come have some fun with us!
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Hello listener! This ep is certainly one of our more vulnerable and accessible ones. If you've never heard us before, this is a great place to start. We are going to be less checklist focused and a little more conversational as we dive into a recent fight we had and how we untangled the cause and effects of it. Hope you can loan us your ears for a spell!
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Have you heard? Toilet paper is out, and sweet, adorable, tiny peeping baby chicks are what's IN! See ya later TP, hello "Cheep, Cheep";) In this go around you will receive the kind and benevolent wisdom of the Vancouver Chicken Queen herself, Kim Exotic! Seriously though, if you are one of those people thinking about getting in the home grown hen game or just want an hour of entertainment have a listen.
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Hi folks, hope you are well. There are so many feels swirling around us right now and some of them are dreadful. What is it that these feelings are telling us and do they have a pattern? As a matter of fact, they do tend to be cyclical and the more aware of the cycle we are the more emotionally prepared we can be. Let's get into it.
Hiya friends, we have so much time on our hands at the moment so maybe its time to start thinking about doing some gardening... Straw bale style!
We hope you like our show and are waiting to hear from y'all:
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We're here with the lovely Casey Williams: Accounting and Audit manager for Provenance Hotels, and although it certainly would be more exciting than it sounds, we are not going to talk accounting and auditing today. Instead, we want to throw out some ideas on how to break through the boredom that is bound to be in everyone's lives as we all hunker down to prevent the spread of coronavirus.
Just a note here to all of our friends: We are aware of how difficult this time will be for some of us, and there are still a lot of unknowns as our country begin to make efforts to contain COVID-19. We love our friends and family who listen and want them to know that we are here as a listening ear, as a friend. We hope that all will be well.
Hey everyone, this week we explore our favorite personality test! Tune in to learn more about the enneagram and us!
As people, we are met with adversity and calamity and sometimes the hurt is so painful we just need to survive. We are survivors, but what does that mean for our inner world? In this episode we are going to boil down some of the most difficult, most painful experiences we have had, and share what eventually came from surviving those traumatic events.
Hiya folks! You know how you said the wrong thing at the wrong time, or gave out unsolicited advice, or just didn't notice someone when they want to be noticed… Well, I got two little words for you and they’re not I’m sorry, they’re “Been there.”, they’re also “Done that.” And I might as well add “This week.”, if not “To day”. This show is about bettering ourselves and nothing helps better us faster than a little helping of humble pie.
Hey everyone! Sit back, relax, and enjoy this episode in a orderly and efficient manner because we are going over some of our in home/in life systems we follow using Lists and Charts. Yay!
Howdy folks, settle in for a little story. In this here episode we talk about what we look for in friends now that we are older, wiser middle aged folk. We also share our personal stories of what happens when the stuff hits the fan and the revelations that come from our “friends’” behavior afterward.
Hi Everyone! We all love getting away, but sometimes the detachment from our everyday routines bring us unusual and unexpected problems that trouble our attempts to kick back and forget about our worries for a bit. Listen to this before you plan your next getaway and get a little advice on how to expect the unexpected, or at least find the amusement of it.
Hi folks! In this go around Kimberley and I are trying to break up the social stigmas surrounding mental health diagnosis and the prescribed medications that aid individuals through the hard times and the not so hard times. We all need support, but dagnabbit if it isn't a cultural stigma to be depressed or anxious and need actual chemistry to be part of that support. We love you guys and it's pretty much our mission statement when I say: We want to see you living your best lives. Even when we don't need a prescription from our medical doctor, what we sometimes need is a little dose of a medication we call "humility" in order to get into the mindset of living our best.
Hey everyone! We interview Zoe Zerzan and share our own guilty pleasures when it comes to making our favorite foods.
Bon appetit!
Hey guys! I'm not going to let the holiday season and this nasty week of illness stop us from delivering to you an episode that's worth a good listen (I say I'm not so won't, no I won't). Anyway... Once we finally nail the take off of this episode we get into a near and dear subject for me; the roles of men in the household today. Don't forget to like us, subscribe and leave a review! Thank you!!!
Hello everyone and Happy New Year! In this go around we are talking about how prominent electronic devices, especially games, media, and television are and how they have permeated our everyday lives. We dig into a lot of parenting on this particular episode, but you may be struggling with the same problem kids often have: When you are bored, you turn on the little handheld light and enter a virtual space that is literally infinite.
In this go around, we are talking about taking steps to reduce the amount of stuff that is in our lives. Stuff can bring us happiness and it can be overwhelming. Let's talk about the balance and maybe do a little thrifting!
Hey everyone! This week we dive into a comparative look at people with action packed, funtastic, no plan necessary personalities and people with personalities where they are prepared, have a plan, and are organized. We both lean toward the latter, but what happens when these opposites are paired? Hope you enjoy this episode!
If the holidays are supposed to be "happy," then why do we find ourselves overspent, literally and figuratively? If you, too, find yourself exhausted and stressed by the pressures of the holiday season, tune in for some hot tips on making this season merrier!
We've all heard that money can't buy happiness, but it seems that we can't help but believe it until we all test this theory first. What happens when we forgo simple living in order to pursue "raking in the Benjamins?" This leads us to the question...what is the cost of wealth?
We are all angry sometimes but some of us run hotter than others. In this go around we talk about our emotional inclinations when responding to the unexpected. Please join us!
Hey everyone! The original of this episode was a little difficult to hear, especially my voice so I attempted to tinker it into better condition and I suppose I did okay;) Enjoy!