Elegant Warrior Podcast with Heather Hansen: Recent Episodes
Heather Hansen
The Elegant Warrior is a podcast for all of those who want to ask for what they want and get it, with elegance. Heather Hansen interviews guests like activist, mom and actress Kelly Rutherford, authors BJ Fogg and Nir Eyal, ABC Legal Analyst and host of Live PD Dan Abrams, and many more, discussing how they define elegance and how they maintain it in times of trial.
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In today's episode, Heather shares a powerful and counterintuitive truth about charisma. It is not rooted in self confidence, body language, or perfect delivery. It begins with your belief in the people in front of you.
Whether you are leading a team, persuading a jury, navigating a difficult conversation, or presenting on stage, your energy communicates what you truly believe. And people feel it.
Drawing on her experience as a trial attorney and leadership coach, Heather explains why setting a high goal and expressing authentic confidence that others can achieve it is one of the most transformational communication shifts you can make.
If you want to be more influential, more persuasive, and more magnetic in your leadership, this episode gives you a practical tool you can use immediately.
In this episode, you will learn:
- Why Confidence in Others Creates Charisma How belief in your audience, jury, or team shapes your tone, energy, and results.
- Two Charismatic Leadership Tactics That Change Everything Why setting a high goal and communicating confidence in others builds influence.
- Lessons from the Courtroom How believing a jury could understand complex medical evidence transformed both delivery and outcomes.
- Why Doubt Is Detectable How hesitation and skepticism leak into your communication and undermine trust.
- The Tool of Playing with Evidence How to intentionally build belief by collecting and creating evidence.
- Collecting Evidence Why looking at past successes, mentors, and historical examples strengthens conviction.
- Creating Evidence How breaking big goals into smaller milestones builds momentum and proof.
- The Reciprocity Principle Why liking, trusting, and believing in people often leads them to respond in kind.
- Why Charisma Is Not Performance How shifting focus from yourself to others elevates your presence naturally.
In this episode:
Resources and Links:
- 📚Learn more about Charismatic Leadership Tactics from Dr. John Antonakis
- 🎙️Listen to Heather's previous episode featuring Dr. Antonakis
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
In today's episode, Heather shares one of the 12 proven tools for increasing charisma and mastering difficult conversations and it comes down to just two words: it's like.
While storytelling has dominated the communication world for years, Heather explains why metaphor can be even more powerful. Stories take time. Metaphors create instant clarity. By comparing something unfamiliar to something your audience already understands, you not only become more charismatic, you become unforgettable.
Through courtroom examples, coaching breakthroughs, and practical exercises, Heather shows how metaphor builds connection, increases inspiration, and helps you avoid the number one fear in communication: being misunderstood.
If you want to feel more confident, persuasive, and impactful in negotiations, feedback conversations, presentations, or high-stakes moments, this episode gives you a tool you can use immediately.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why Metaphor Beats Storytelling in Many Situations How stories require time and structure, but metaphors create immediate understanding.
- The Two Words That Increase Charisma Why saying "it's like" instantly makes your message clearer and more compelling.
- How Metaphor Prevents Misunderstanding Why comparing the unknown to the known helps your audience grasp complex ideas quickly.
- A Courtroom Example That Changed Everything How a surgeon compared knee cartilage to tire tread and helped a jury truly understand.
- The Coaching Breakthrough Why cleaning cabinets instead of floors perfectly illustrated client expectations and created an aha moment.
- Two Simple Questions to Generate Metaphors How asking "What's it like?" or "How is it like something my audience understands?" unlocks powerful comparisons.
- Cultural Awareness in Communication Why metaphors only work when your audience shares the reference point.
- Why Metaphors Make You Memorable How concise comparisons stick longer than long stories.
In this episode:
[00:00] Why communication tools create real excitement
[01:24] The 12 proven charisma tools and where metaphor fits
[03:00] The power of "it's like"
[04:00] Simple examples of everyday metaphors
[06:07] The surgeon who explained knees like tire tread
[08:32] The cleaning floors versus cabinets breakthrough
[10:50] Two practical ways to create metaphors
[12:00] Cultural awareness and testing your comparisons
[13:30] Why metaphor is more memorable than story
[15:17] Preview of next week's charisma tool
Resources and Links: 📘 Book: I Never Metaphor I Didn't Like
A playful collection of metaphors to help you see comparisons everywhere and strengthen your communication.
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
In today's episode, Heather shares the one sentence that will get you to show up for high-stake conversations, even when you absolutely don't want to. While mindset and emotional management are powerful, some conversations - like receiving tough feedback or facing a dreaded interview - can't be thought or felt out of. Sometimes, the only answer is a simple mantra: Do it anyway.
Drawing from her diverse background as a trial attorney, psychology major, and certified hypnotist, Heather explains why acting in spite of dread is the ultimate secret sauce to communication. This episode is a deep dive into the power of evidence and why "doing it anyway" is a win for your personal growth, regardless of the conversation's outcome.
Together, we explore how to collect and create evidence that supports your dreams and how to prove to yourself that you are capable of far more than your feelings suggest.
In this episode, you'll learn: * The Power of "Do It Anyway": Why this simple sentence is the key to breaking through the avoidance of difficult conversations. * The Evidence Secret Sauce: How collecting and creating evidence makes you more persuasive, influential, and charismatic. * Evidence You Can Do Hard Things: How pushing through a dreaded talk provides lasting proof of your own resilience. * Why Feelings Aren't Fatal: A reminder that emotions like embarrassment, fear, or boredom are survivable and don't have to dictate your actions. * The Trap of the "Soft Life": Why letting your feelings hold you back can prevent you from achieving your goals in 2026. * Dismantling the "Difficult" Myth: How doing the hard thing often reveals that the conversation wasn't as difficult as you imagined.
In this episode: 00:00 Welcome & Introduction to High-Stakes Conversations
02:10 Episode Theme: The Mantra "Do It Anyway"
03:55 The Role of Evidence in Personal Growth
05:00 Evidence #1: You Can Do Hard Things
03:26 Evidence #2: Feelings Aren't Fatal
10:01 Evidence #3: It Might Not Be That Hard
11:33 Tool for Today: Use Evidence to Support Your Dreams
12:24 Preview of next week's episode
Resources and Links: 📘 Book: Advocate to Win by Heather Hansen – Master the tools of a trial lawyer to advocate for your own goals and dreams.
🎧Podcast Interview: How Heather uses the Evidence Journal to build self-belief
🎥Cindy Brady Freezes on Live Television Heather uses this as an example of how "feelings aren't fatal"-even intense embarrassment like Cindy's can be survived. Connect with Heather:
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
Ever feel your heart race or your voice shake the moment you need to ask for a raise, set a boundary, or give tough feedback? High-stakes conversations don't have to be high-stress battles.
In this episode, communication expert Heather shares three powerful tools to help you master your emotions and handle "difficult" conversations with clarity and calm. You'll learn how to shift your mindset from "combat" to "collaboration" using the BEAR technique - understanding how your beliefs lead to your energy, actions, and results. Heather breaks down how to stop viewing others as enemies and how to use a simple linguistic trick used by top athletes to stay objective under pressure.
Whether you are navigating workplace confidence or strengthening personal relationships, these tools will help you advocate for yourself with charisma and ease.
✨ In this video, you'll learn how to:
- Define what advocating really means.
- Break down your goals into actionable, strategic steps.
- Overcome fear and guilt about wanting more at work.
- Identify the right people to ask for opportunities or resources.
- Strengthen your confidence by following through on your commitments.
💡 Heather introduces three core tools you can use immediately:
- Persuade yourself to believe something different: Use the "ladder of beliefs" to shift from fear to opportunity without gaslighting yourself.
- Be A.G.I.L.E.: Learn to "Assume Good Intentions, Love Everyone" to change your energy and get better results.
- Practice Illeism: Use the psychological power of speaking about yourself in the third person to remove emotional triggers.
🕒 Chapters:
00:00 Introduction: Handling emotions in high-stakes conversations
01:23 The BEAR framework: beliefs, energy, actions, results
02:00 Tool #1: Persuade yourself to believe something different
03:05 Using a ladder of beliefs (without gaslighting yourself)
04:18 Collecting vs. creating evidence for new beliefs
05:31 Tool #2: Be agile - assume good intentions, love everyone
06:28 Seeing others as teammates, not enemies
09:39 Tool #3: Illeism - speaking about yourself in the third person
12:08 Recap: the three tools for emotional control
13:08 What's coming next + listener invitation
📝Related Resources:
📘 Book: Advocate to Win by Heather Hansen https://www.amazon.com/Advocate-Win-Tools-What-Want/dp/1642936634
🧠 Book: Chatter by Ethan Kross https://www.amazon.com/Chatter-Voice-Head-Matters-Harness/dp/0525575235 📗Book: Shift: Managing Your Emotions--So They Don't Manage You by Ethan Kross https://www.amazon.com/Shift-Managing-Your-Emotions-So-Manage/dp/B0D5YZ42FL/
💬 Join the Conversation: Which of these three tools do you need most for your next big meeting? Let us know in the comments!
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In today's episode of The Elegant Warrior, Heather breaks down why "difficult conversations" are only difficult if you believe they are. Whether you're giving or receiving feedback, negotiating a raise, setting a boundary, or asking for help, Heather shares three practical tools to help you prepare mentally, emotionally, and strategically.
Drawing from her experience as a trial attorney, communication expert, and advocate, Heather explains how your beliefs shape your energy, your actions, and ultimately your results. You'll learn how to reframe the story you're telling yourself, calm your nervous system when fight, flight, freeze, or fawn shows up, and recognize when argument helps and when it hurts.
This episode is a grounded, actionable guide to approaching high-stakes conversations with more confidence, calm, and clarity.
In this episode, you'll learn: * Why "difficult" is just a story How your belief about a conversation determines your energy, behavior, and outcome. * The BEAR framework How belief leads to energy, energy leads to action, and action leads to results. * How to test your story Why changing the narrative in your head can immediately change how your body responds. * Mothering the animal of your body How to work with your nervous system instead of fighting it when stress shows up. * The three Bs for calming your nervous system Breathing, binding, and bending to signal safety and control. * Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn How these instinctive responses show up in conversations like negotiations and feedback. * When argument is the wrong tool Why arguing rarely works when the other person is the decision maker. * A grounding mantra for high-stakes moments A simple phrase to calm your subconscious and help you choose presence over fear.
In this episode: 00:00 – Introduction & Evolution of the Podcast
04:00 – Preparing for High-Stakes Conversations
04:30 – Tool 1: Test Your Story
08:24 – Tool 2: Mothering the Animal
09:47 – The Three B's: Breathe, Bind, and Extend
14:28 – Tool 3: Know When to Argue
17:15 – Summary of the Three Tools
18:21 – Tool For Today (TT): Affirmation Mantra
20:12 – Conclusion & Closing Remarks
Resources and Links: 📘 Book: Advocate to Win by Heather HansenLearn how to persuade, influence, and communicate effectively in high-stakes situations.
🎧 Grace Smith, Clinical Hypnotherapist Learn more about hypnosis, subconscious calming techniques, and the mantra shared in these videos. Learn more about Grace Smith at her official website: gracesmith.com
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
In this episode of The Elegant Warrior, Heather welcomes leadership expert Susan Drumm to explore how music, neuroscience, and the Enneagram can transform your leadership and your life. Susan shares her fascinating journey from Harvard Law School to consulting, television, acting, and ultimately leadership development, showing how following intuition and curiosity can lead to extraordinary growth.
Together, Heather and Susan dive into practical tools for recognizing patterns, disrupting limiting behaviors, and building new mental "playlists" that support empowerment, confidence, and personal growth. Whether you're a leader, an entrepreneur, or someone looking to level up your self-awareness, this episode provides actionable strategies grounded in research, neuroscience, and Susan's decades of experience.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- How Susan's background in law, consulting, and acting shaped her approach to leadership development
- The concept of "old playlists" vs. "new playlists" and how music rewires your brain for growth
- How to identify your belief statements and practice being in an empowered state
- What the Enneagram reveals about your blind spots, superpowers, and path to growth
- Tools to apply both music and the Enneagram for leadership, personal development, and team success
In this episode: 00:00 Welcome and Susan's journey from Harvard Law to consulting
02:08 Why the "sweatshop" law firm model didn't fit Susan's personality
06:41 Experiences at NBC: Learning the importance of organizational culture
08:42 Pivoting to acting: Developing empathy and mastering the inner critic
11:41 Pattern recognition and the concept behind The Leader's Playlist
13:46 Neuroscience: How music rewires neural pathways and shifts mental states
17:20 Practical steps: Creating your empowered "I am" playlist
21:19 Introduction to the Enneagram: Nine leadership styles and blind spots
24:45 Why accurate assessments matter and the "Enneagram Applied" program
26:21 Breaking down Enneagram Type 3 (The Achiever) and Type 7 (The Visionary)
30:11 Free quiz: Your Leadership, Superpower, and Roadblocks
Resources and Links: 📘 The Leaders Playlist by Susan Drumm – Explore music, neuroscience, and leadership. 🎯 Free Quiz: Leadership Superpower & Roadblock Assessment🌐 Susan Drumm - Website
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In today's episode, Heather sits down with Kim Bisset to explore Motivational Interviewing and why it is such a powerful tool for communication, leadership, coaching, and advocacy. Rather than relying on pressure, persuasion, or fixing, Motivational Interviewing focuses on curiosity, collaboration, and helping people uncover their own reasons for change.
Drawing from Kim's expertise and Heather's background in law, coaching, and healthcare communication, this conversation breaks down what Motivational Interviewing really is, what it is not, and why it works so well in high stakes conversations. Whether you are leading a team, working with clients, parenting, coaching, or advocating for yourself, this episode shows how changing the way you ask questions can change outcomes.
Together, Heather and Kim unpack how Motivational Interviewing builds trust, reduces resistance, and helps people move forward without feeling pushed or judged.
In this episode, you'll learn: * What Motivational Interviewing Actually Is A clear explanation of the principles behind Motivational Interviewing and why it is more effective than telling people what to do. * Why People Resist Change How resistance is often a signal of miscommunication, not stubbornness. * The Power of Autonomy Why people are more likely to change when they feel heard, respected, and in control of their choices. * Asking Better Questions How open ended questions invite insight, reflection, and ownership. * Listening for Change Talk How to recognize the language that signals readiness for growth and how to respond to it. * Motivational Interviewing in Real Life How these tools apply in leadership, healthcare, law, coaching, parenting, and everyday conversations. * Why This Skill Matters More Than Ever How compassion based communication creates better outcomes in a world full of pressure and noise.
In this episode: 00:00 Introduction to Motivational Interviewing and inner wisdom
02:25 What Motivational Interviewing is and how Kim discovered it
04:15 How MI is used in real-world work with youth and communities
06:05 Why telling people what to do often shuts them down
08:20 When Motivational Interviewing works best and why it's effective
09:55 Understanding ambivalence and mixed motivations
12:10 Finding the reasons behind behavior and change
14:20 Change language, sustain language, and emotional motivation
15:55 The spirit of Motivational Interviewing: belief, compassion, and autonomy
18:20 OARS explained: Open-ended questions, Affirmations, Reflections, Summaries
21:10 Why specificity and affirmations build trust and confidence
24:10 Helping people feel seen, heard, and understood
27:45 Reflections and summaries as powerful communication tools
29:40 Is Motivational Interviewing manipulative? Addressing misconceptions
31:05 Where to find trained Motivational Interviewing practitioners
33:10 Final thoughts on conversations that empower change
Resources and Links: 📘 Motivational Interviewing Book: Helping People Change by William R. Miller and Stephen Rollnick Learn the foundational framework behind Motivational Interviewing and why it works.
🧠 Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers (MINT) Explore training resources, research, and best practices for Motivational Interviewing.
🌐 Connect with Kim Bisset - Website
Learn more about Kim's work, training, and approach to compassionate communication.
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
In today's episode, Heather challenges one of the most popular beliefs in personal development: that mindset alone creates change. While visualization, manifestation, and positive thinking all have value, Heather explains why none of them work without action.
Joined by frequent guest Judge Rosemarie Aquilina, Heather explores how thinking, dreaming, preparing, and acting each play a role in real transformation and why action is ultimately what creates momentum.
Together, they unpack the limits of visualization and manifestation when they are not paired with effort, practice, and follow through. Drawing from personal stories of writing books, building careers, preparing for court, and navigating big life transitions, Heather and Judge Aquilina show how confidence, clarity, and growth are built through doing, not just thinking.
This episode is a thoughtful and practical guide for anyone entering 2026 feeling stuck in their head, overwhelmed by goals, or unsure which next step to take. Whether you are a planner, a dreamer, or someone who thrives on action, this conversation will help you understand yourself better and move forward with intention.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why action creates the evidence that builds confidence and belief
- How overthinking can quietly block progress even when intentions are good
- The difference between dreaming as motivation and dreaming as avoidance
- Why preparation is an action, not just a mental exercise
- How the WOOP framework helps turn intention into execution
- Why small actions matter more than perfect plans
- How creativity and thinking outside the box support meaningful action
- What it really takes to prepare for high stakes conversations and decisions
- How patience, consistency, and effort compound over time
In this episode:
[00:00] Why this conversation matters heading into 2026
[01:16] Action versus thinking and why it is not an either or debate
[03:41] The real obstacle most people face when taking action
[06:00] Visualizing outcomes versus feeling pride and confidence [07:30] Effort, talent, and the role of grit in achievement
[10:42] Manifestation, karma, and why action creates results
[13:09] Different paths to success and knowing what works for you
[15:34] Impatience, shiny distractions, and staying committed
[17:53] Why preparation builds confidence in high pressure situations
[20:14] Thinking, planning, and practicing as forms of action
[22:34] Using if then planning to stay grounded and consistent
[24:49] Creativity in action, leadership, and problem solving
[26:40] Final advice for setting goals and moving forward in 2026
Resources and Links: 📖 Book: Rethinking Positive Thinking by Gabriele Oettingen
📖 Book: Grit by Angela Duckworth
📖 Book: The War of Art by Steven Pressfield
🧠 WOOP Method
🌐 Follow Judge Rosemarie Aquilina – Website
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In today's episode, Heather challenges one of the most popular ideas in personal development: that mindset alone creates change. While visualization, manifestation, and positive thinking all have value, she explains why none of them work without action.
Drawing from her own journey with weight loss, running marathons, writing books, and building a career in advocacy and communication, Heather shows how real transformation only happens when thinking turns into doing. Backed by research, neuroscience, and practical tools, this episode is a powerful reminder that intention without action keeps you stuck, while action creates momentum.
Together, we explore why your subconscious rewards necessity, how overthinking can sabotage progress, and how a simple framework can help you turn goals into results.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why Action Beats Mindset Alone How visualizing success without acting can actually reduce motivation and delay progress.
- The Hidden Trap of Positive Thinking What research reveals about why imagining success can trick your brain into believing the work is already done.
- Action Creates Necessity Why the subconscious mind responds to what feels necessary, not what feels optional.
- The WOOP Framework How Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, and Plan help bridge the gap between intention and execution.
- Why Inner Obstacles Matter More Than Outer Ones How identifying your own habits and distractions gives you back control.
- From Thinking to Doing Why preparation, practice, and repetition are the real keys to confidence and performance.
- Choosing Action as a Way of Life How adopting action as a guiding principle can change the way you approach goals, work, and growth.
In this episode: [00:00] Why this is not a rerun and why action matters right now [01:12] Heather's weight loss story and why visualization alone did nothing [03:32] The danger of thinking too much and acting too little [05:57] Research on positive thinking and why it can backfire [07:30] How the subconscious rewards necessity [08:19] Introducing the WOOP method [10:36] Turning obstacles into action plans [12:48] Why communication and confidence require practice, not thought [15:16] Choosing act as a word for the year [17:33] Why 2026 is about momentum and movement [19:40] Action as the foundation of advocacy, growth, and change
Resources and Links: 📘 Book: Rethinking Positive Thinking by Gabriele OettingenExplore the research behind why positive thinking alone can hinder success and how to use mental contrasting effectively.
🧠 WOOP Method Learn more about the Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan framework and how to apply it to your goals.
🎥 Heather Hansen TEDx Talk on empathy and perspectiveWatch Heather's TEDx talk on seeing situations differently and why perspective shapes action.
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
In today's episode, Heather welcomes authors, leadership consultants, and husband and wife team Dr. Linda Schubring and Brian Schubring to explore the deeper meaning of identity, transformation, and trusting your inner map. Together, they discuss their bestselling book Unfolded: Lessons in Transformation from an Origami Crane, a powerful allegory that invites readers to rediscover their inner wisdom and reshape how they show up in the world.
Through stories of leadership coaching, personal reflection, and creative collaboration, Heather, Linda, and Brian unpack how uncertainty, change, and self doubt can become catalysts for growth. This conversation is a reminder that your experiences have already shaped the map you need, and that unfolding your potential is both an internal journey and a shared one.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why the Map Is Already Inside You How your past experiences hold the answers for where you are meant to go next.
- Transformation Is a Choice Why the shape you are in today does not have to be the shape you stay in.
- The Power of Community in Growth How different voices, including critical ones, help shape who we become.
- Reflection and Action Must Coexist Why introspection without action leads to paralysis and action without reflection leads to burnout.
- Creating a Practice That Is Truly Yours How journaling, meditation, and reflection work best when tailored to your own needs.
- Navigating Noise and Distraction Why stepping away from constant external input helps you reconnect with your inner voice.
- Wisdom Across Generations How mentors, inner dialogue, and lived experience guide transformation at every stage of life.
In this episode: [00:00] Introducing Dr. Linda and Brian Schubring and their book Unfolded [02:00] The origin story behind the origami crane allegory [04:18] Anchoring certainty within during times of uncertainty [06:37] Agency, reshaping identity, and choosing how you show up [08:57] The role of community, inner voices, and leadership teams [11:19] Reflection versus action and why both matter [13:40] Meditation, journaling, and intentional pauses [18:14] Listening to your inner voice amid constant noise [22:55] Wisdom, mentors, and being the owl for others [27:36] Writing together, creative process, and collaboration [33:31] A closing meditation on trust, courage, and taking flight
Resources and Links:
📘 Book: Unfolded: Lessons in Transformation from an Origami CraneDiscover a powerful allegory about identity, growth, and transformation.
🌐 Website: Leadership Vision ConsultingLearn more about Dr. Linda Schubring and Brian Schubring's leadership and organizational work.
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
In today's episode, Heather invites you to rethink everything you've been taught about power poses, confidence, and presence. While the classic "hands-on-hips" stance is often linked to authority, this episode reveals a far more effective and far more compassionate power move: simply sitting down.
Drawing from real experiences in leadership, advocacy, and high-stakes conversations, Heather shares how lowering yourself to someone else's level can transform interactions, build trust, and leave a lasting impact. From courtroom moments to everyday leadership lessons, you'll see why compassion, presence, and perspective are the true sources of personal power.
Together, we explore why power doesn't require taking up more space, sometimes it is found in offering space to others.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- The Real Power in Sitting Down Why sitting communicates presence, compassion, and connection more effectively than traditional "power poses."
- Compassion as a Leadership Superpower How compassion strengthens advocacy, relationships, and influence, and why people feel safer when you're willing to sit with them.
- The Psychology of Being at Eye Level How leveling the physical playing field changes energy, reduces intimidation, and allows genuine dialogue.
- Lessons from the Courtroom What a malpractice case taught Heather Hansen about human connection, and why a simple act like sitting on a patient's bed moved an entire jury.
- A Story Heather Hansen Never Forgot The emotional impact of a colleague and how 18 minutes of presence can change a life.
- Empathy vs. Compassion The difference between feeling what others feel and seeing what they see, and why action is what matters most.
- Why Slowing Down is the New Power Move In a world obsessed with speed, volume, and "looking powerful," Heather Hansen explains why slowing down, sitting down, and connecting deeply are the traits that build true charisma.
In this episode: [00:00] Rethinking the classic power pose [01:10] Why the "stand big" approach isn't always effective [02:20] Compassion research in healthcare [03:17] A malpractice case and the power of sitting at the bedside [04:50] How sitting changes difficult conversations at work [05:39] The psychology of being on the same level [07:30] Joanne's story and the impact of presence [10:14] Compassion as the foundation of advocacy [12:40] Cognitive vs. affective empathy [14:30] Why sitting is the new power pose [15:08] How presence builds confidence and charisma
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🎥 Heather Hansen TEDx Talk on empathy and perspective
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In today's episode, Heather Hansen breaks down one of the most important skills we all need in a world shaped by rapid information, social media trends, artificial intelligence, and constant noise: the ability to avoid being fooled, misled, or scammed. As a trial attorney who spent decades cross-examining witnesses and uncovering the truth, Heather Hansen shares a simple but powerful four-part process you can use to stay discerning, think critically, and protect yourself from false ideas, misleading content, and even your own unexamined thoughts.
Whether it is viral AI clips, trending online statistics, persuasive pitches, or the limiting beliefs in your own mind, Heather Hansen teaches you how to slow down, investigate, and choose what to believe with intention.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why We Get Fooled So Easily How speed, distraction, and overstimulation make us more vulnerable than ever to scams and misinformation.
- The PITS Process for Discernment Pause, Is this true, Take the other side, and Settle into how it feels. Heather explains each step in detail and how to apply it in real time.
- How to Consider the Source Why credentials, familiarity, and authority figures can trick you into believing something without questioning it.
- How to Take the Other Side The trial-lawyer technique that helps you evaluate any claim or belief by arguing the opposite and gathering evidence for both perspectives.
- How to Stop Scamming Yourself Why your own thoughts often fool you more than outside influences and how to challenge internal stories like "I'm too old" or "I should wait."
- Real Examples from Everyday Life From AI-generated TikTok videos to misleading job-loss statistics to high-profile investment fraud, Heather shows how the PITS method exposes the truth.
In this episode: [00:00] Heather Hansen on Thanksgiving, life updates, and the importance of discernment [00:55] Why avoiding scams and misinformation matters more than ever [03:17] The PITS process and how to use it [05:35] Step 1: Pause and consider the source [07:59] Step 2: Ask "Is this true" and why truth is rarely simple [08:45] Step 3: Take the other side and gather opposing evidence [10:21] A real-world example involving misleading workforce statistics [12:46] How the PITS process applies to viral AI content [15:09] Why credentials do not equal credibility [17:29] How investors could have avoided the Theranos debacle [19:53] Using the PITS process on your own thoughts and limiting beliefs [22:18] The benefits of starting before you feel ready [23:50] How discernment improves confidence, advocacy, and decision-making
Resources and Links:
📖 Book: Loving What Is by Byron KatieExplore The Work, a method for questioning stressful thoughts.
📖 Book: Compassionomics by Dr. Stephen Trzeciak and Dr. Anthony MazzarelliDiscover the science behind why compassion improves outcomes.
📖 Book: Wonder Drug by Dr. Stephen Trzeciak and Dr. Anthony MazzarelliLearn seven research-backed ways serving others benefits your health and well-being.
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In today's episode, Heather Hansen explores one of the most powerful tools we have for connection, credibility, and healing: compassion. Drawing from research, courtroom experience, and two decades defending healthcare providers, Heather Hansen breaks down the real meaning of compassion and the specific actions that genuinely make people feel seen, heard, and supported.
She also shares new insights from recent medical research on how compassion improves patient outcomes, reduces burnout for healthcare providers, and strengthens every relationship in your life. Whether you are a leader, parent, partner, clinician, or friend, these eight proven behaviors can transform the way you communicate and connect.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- The Real Definition of Compassion – Why it is not about suffering with others, but about recognizing their struggle and taking action to relieve it.
- Eight Proven Compassion Behaviors – The research-backed actions that make people feel understood, respected, and supported.
- Why Tone Matters – How the way you speak communicates your energy and becomes a key sign of compassion.
- The Power of Nonjudgment – How dropping judgment makes people more open, honest, and trusting.
- Gender and Race Differences in Compassion Needs – What research shows women and people of color uniquely identify as compassionate behavior.
- Everyday Compassion – How to apply these actions at home, at work, and in your community to create meaningful change.
In this episode: [00:00] Heather Hansen on being an Elegant Warrior and embracing life's challenges [02:00] Why compassion is one of the three pillars of credibility, compassion, and charisma [04:47] How compassion affects patient outcomes and healthcare burnout [07:10] The eight behaviors that signal compassion in medical research [09:34] Listening carefully and taking concerns seriously [11:59] Eye contact, presence, tone, and nonjudgment [14:09] Why the least judgmental people are the most trusted [16:36] Responding to opportunities to show compassion [18:30] What women uniquely perceive as compassionate [19:03] What people of color identify as signs of respect and compassion [21:26] How to create a ripple effect of compassion in your daily life
Resources and Links: 📘 Book: Compassionomics by Dr. Stephen Trzeciak and Dr. Anthony Mazzarelli 📘 Book: Wonder Drug by Dr. Stephen Trzeciak and Dr. Anthony Mazzarelli
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In today's episode, Heather Hansen sits down with her good friend and returning guest, Judge Rosemarie Aquilina, Michigan judge, author, and trailblazer best known for presiding over the Larry Nassar USA Gymnastics case. Together, they dive into Judge Aquilina's newest book, Speak Up: Lessons in Trusting Your Instincts, and unpack what it truly means to embrace your voice, conquer fear, and stand in your self-worth.
Drawing from her decades on the bench, her time in the military, and her role as a mentor for women, Rosemarie shares how we can turn fear into fuel, failure into wisdom, and change into growth.
In this episode, you'll learn: * The Power of Fear – Why fear isn't something to eliminate but something to learn from. * Owning Failure – How accepting your mistakes can transform them into moments of strength. * The "Blue Ink" Lesson – How one lawyer turned public embarrassment into a courtroom victory. * The Language of Leadership – Why small word choices (like using the instead of a) can change how people perceive your authority. * Embracing Change – How preparation, adaptability, and voice help you thrive through uncertainty. * Building Self-Worth – Why being your own hero is the foundation of authentic confidence.
In this episode: [00:00] Meet Judge Rosemarie Aquilina, her story from Munich to Michigan's first female JAG Corps member
[02:00] Fear, failure, and the courage to show up anyway
[06:30] The "blue ink" courtroom story and lessons in embarrassment
[09:30] How metaphors and language shape persuasion
[11:00] Embracing change, preparation, and control
[15:40] Why Judge Aquilina never asks "why"
[18:00] The difference between a solution and the solution
[22:00] How to be an insider in your own life
[26:00] Writing as a tool for self-discovery and healing
Resources & Links: 📘 Speak Up: Lessons in Trusting Your Instincts – Buy the book here
🌐 Follow Judge Rosemarie Aquilina – Website
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In today's episode, Heather sits down with John Lowry, lawyer, negotiation coach, and author of Negotiation Made Simple, to uncover what it really takes to become a confident, effective negotiator. John's experience as a professor at Pepperdine University's renowned Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution, CEO of The Lowry Group, and consultant to major organizations gives him a unique lens into the psychology and strategy behind every great deal. Together, Heather and John explore how mastering negotiation isn't just about tactics; it's about managing yourself, understanding others, and learning to balance ambition with empathy. In this episode, you'll learn: * The Inner Negotiation – Why the first and most important negotiation happens inside your own mind and how managing your emotions, fears, and self-talk determines your success. * Cooperation vs. Competition – How to know when to lean into collaboration and when to assert your position with strength and clarity. * The Power of Patience – Why "you often pay for the time you save" and how slowing down the process helps you make better, more strategic decisions. * Axelrod's Four Steps to Effective Negotiation – Start cooperatively, respond in kind, forgive, and be clear. John and Heather unpack how these steps build trust and drive results. * The Ambition + Empathy Equation – What Harvard research reveals about top dealmakers and how combining drive with understanding gives you a competitive edge. * Real-World Lessons – Insights from John's work with executives, mediators, and organizations on how to use negotiation to build healthier relationships and stronger outcomes.
In this episode: [00:00] Meet John Lowry – Lawyer, author, and negotiation expert [02:46] The first negotiation: managing yourself [06:17] When to cooperate and when to compete [10:47] Getting comfortable with uncertainty [14:49] Why patience pays in negotiation [18:00] Recognizing signals vs. words [22:14] Forgiveness and cooperation in business [26:29] Collaboration vs. cooperation explained [31:12] Building trust through clarity [35:20] Ambition and empathy, the twin pillars of great dealmakers Resources & Links: 📘 Book: Negotiation Made Simple by John Lowry 🎙️ Podcast: Negotiation Made Simple Podcast 🌐 The Lowry Group: lowrygroup.net Connect with Heather:
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In today's episode, Heather sits down with award-winning interior designer Manuella Moreira, founder of Manuella Moreira Interiors, to talk about what it really means to advocate for yourself in business, creativity, and life. From her leap of faith leaving a stable job to launching her own design studio, to building a media presence with features in Forbes, The New York Times, and Architectural Digest, Manuella shares how trusting your intuition and showing up with courage can open the doors you've been waiting for. Together, Heather and Manuella explore how self-advocacy, boundaries, and creativity intersect and how you can design a life that feels as beautiful as it looks. In this episode, you'll learn: * How to Know When It's Time to Leap – Why "ready" is a choice, not a feeling. * The Art of Advocacy – How to speak up for your business, your worth, and your creative vision without feeling like you're bragging. * The Client Experience – Why the best designs aren't about your style but your client's story. * Media & Momentum – How Manuella built lasting relationships with top publications and became a trusted design voice. * Avoiding Burnout – What moving across the country taught her about balance, intuition, and redefining success. * Saying Yes Before You're Ready – How the universe meets you halfway when you take bold action.
In this episode: [00:00] Heather's update on podcast consistency and introducing Manuella [03:26] Manuella's journey from firm designer to founder [06:45] The Bali trip that changed everything [10:45] Advocating for yourself as an entrepreneur [16:44] Landing her first Forbes feature and how to stand out with media [22:20] Knowing your audience and serving their needs [24:30] Collaborating with BEHR Paint for the Color of the Year reveal [25:50] Advocating for your boundaries and avoiding burnout [31:30] The power of asking and what to do when you get a "no" [33:36] Manuella's new podcast and why she believes design is for everyone Resources & Links: 🌐 Manuella Moreira Interiors: manuellamoreirainteriors.com 📸 Follow Manuella on Instagram: @manuellamoreirainteriors 🕯️ Explore Manuella's candle collection: https://manuellamoreira.com/shop/ 🎧 Listen to Manuella's podcast on design and intentional living: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/design-unscripted/id1807446750 Connect with Heather:
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In today’s episode, Heather wraps up her three-part series on how to advocate for yourself at work and this one’s all about the magic moment: mastering the art of the ask. If you’ve ever hesitated to ask for what you want because you weren’t sure how to do it gracefully, persuasively, or confidently, this episode is for you. Heather breaks down what true charisma really means (it’s not about being flashy or loud!) and how you can use empathy, storytelling, and the right tone to inspire others to say yes. With powerful stories, evidence-based research, and step-by-step guidance, Heather shows you how to turn your next “ask” into a collaborative, impactful conversation that gets results. In this episode, you’ll learn: * What Charisma Really Is – It’s not charm or popularity, it’s the ability to get people to act. * How to “Know Your Jury” – Why understanding your audience’s pain points, needs, and goals changes everything about how you ask. * The Power of Believing in Your Jury – How your energy and mindset shape the way others respond to you. * Storytelling vs. Metaphors – Why the right metaphor can connect faster and hit deeper than a long story. * The Role of Evidence – How to collect and create evidence to strengthen your case before you ask. * Tone Over Body Language – The science behind why tone of voice carries more weight than posture or facial expressions. * The “What Now?” Question – What to ask if your first request doesn’t get a yes and how it helps you find your next step.
Resources & Links: 📘 Free Guide: Advocate for Yourself at Work – Download Heather’s companion workbook to put this three-part series into action. 🌐 The Elegant Warrior – Visit elegantwarrior.com for more resources In this episode: [00:00] Welcome to Part 3: Mastering the Art of the Ask [01:15] What “charisma” actually means [04:45] Knowing your jury and why it matters [06:40] The difference between empathy and perspective [09:10] Believing in your jury before they believe in you [11:23] Why your words matter more than your body language [13:45] Storytelling vs. metaphor: what connects faster [16:10] How to collect and create evidence [18:30] The truth about tone of voice and energy [20:50] What to do when your ask doesn’t get a yes [23:00] Putting it all together: the three steps of self-advocacy 💬 Quote of the Episode “Before you worry about them believing in you, try believing in them and see what a difference that makes.” Connect with Heather:
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In this second episode of Heather’s three-part series on how to advocate for yourself at work, she dives into one of the most transformative steps: asking for what you want out loud and with delight. Building on the foundation from Part 1 (“Know What You Want”), Heather explores why choice and energy are everything when it comes to advocating effectively. Asking for what you want isn’t just about words—it’s about how you feel when you ask. From her years as a trial attorney to her experience coaching clients, Heather reveals how shifting your beliefs can transform your results, your confidence, and your career. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why Manifesting Isn’t Enough – You can journal, visualize, and set intentions—but to get results, you must also advocate out loud to the person who can give you what you want. * The Hidden Cost of Hinting – How implying your desires (instead of saying them) leads to resentment, and how to break that pattern. * The Energy of Asking – Why your energy speaks louder than words, and how delight, curiosity, and confidence attract what you want. * The BEAR Formula – How your Belief, Energy, Action, and Result connect—and how changing your belief changes everything. * The Belief Triangle – A powerful framework for building unshakable confidence: believe yourself, believe in yourself, and believe you can help. * Real Talk from the Courtroom – Heather’s story of how asking out loud (and with delight) changed her career and her results.
Resources & Links: 📘 Free Download: Companion Guidebook-How to Advocate for Yourself at Work 📚 Advocate to Win – Heather’s book on mastering the art of self-advocacy 📖 The Lion Tracker’s Guide to Life by Boyd Varty – as mentioned in this episode 🌐 The Elegant Warrior – Visit elegantwarrior.com for more resources In this episode: [00:00] Welcome back: Step two of self-advocacy [01:47] Why “asking out loud” is a choice—and how to make it [04:08] The difference between manifesting and advocating [06:33] Why implying what you want leads to frustration [08:55] The danger of resentment when you don’t ask directly [10:31] How your energy reveals your belief [13:39] The BEAR Formula: belief → energy → action → result [16:02] Choosing beliefs that lead to confidence and delight [17:40] The Belief Triangle: building your foundation of self-trust [18:29] What’s next: Step three—Mastering the Art of the Ask 💬 Quote of the Episode “Your energy is your belief made visible.” Connect with Heather:
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In today’s episode, Heather kicks off a special three-part series on how to advocate for yourself at work, whether you’re seeking a raise, a promotion, or a new opportunity. Advocacy isn’t just about asking, it’s about asking in a way that makes you likely to get it. This first episode focuses on the foundation of self-advocacy: knowing what you want. Heather shares how clarity, specificity, and the courage to want what you want can completely change the way you approach your goals. Through real client stories and practical tools, she reveals why defining what you want is the key to every other step of advocacy and how small, strategic steps can lead to big wins. In this episode, you’ll learn: * The Three Steps of Advocacy – Why every successful ask starts with clarity, confidence, and follow-through. * The Power of Specificity – How breaking your goal into smaller steps (and knowing who can give you each one) can change your results. * Permission to Want What You Want – Why allowing yourself to desire something, even when it feels uncomfortable, is essential for growth. * Redefining the Win – How success isn’t just about getting the job or promotion, but building belief in yourself and evidence that you can do hard things. * A Real-World Story – How one client went from dropping her resume on LinkedIn to securing multiple interviews and rediscovering what she truly wanted.
Resources & Links: 📘 Free Download: Companion Guidebook-How to Advocate for Yourself at Work📚 Advocate to Win – Heather’s book on mastering the art of self-advocacy🌐 The Elegant Warrior – Visit elegantwarrior.com for more resources In this episode: [00:00] Welcome to the three-part series on self-advocacy [01:08] Why knowing what you want changes everything [03:30] From big dreams to actionable steps [05:52] A client’s story: turning a resume drop into an opportunity [10:31] Learning to want what you want [15:17] Redefining what it means to “win” [17:40] Believing you have your own back [19:58] What’s next: Step two, asking for what you want out loud and with delight 💬 Quote of the Episode “Knowing what you want is the foundation of advocating for yourself. When you allow yourself to want what you want, you’ve already begun to win.” Connect with Heather:
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In today’s episode, Heather speaks with Simone Knego, author of The Extraordinary Unordinary You, about what it truly takes to build confidence, embrace your story, and live fully. From adopting three children from South Korea and Ethiopia, to climbing Mount Kilimanjaro, to co-hosting a podcast with her daughter, Simone’s life has been a series of extraordinary experiences that shaped her outlook on resilience, patience, and self-worth. Together, they unpack how confidence is not about being perfect, but about choosing to see yourself differently and taking small, brave steps toward growth. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why Patience Builds Confidence – How parenting her son Noah taught Simone to redefine patience and see it as a strength. * The Power of Choices – Why even small, bold choices can completely change your trajectory. * Living Like You Have One Life – Lessons from her daughter Mili on resilience and joy despite difficult beginnings. * Climbing Your Own Mountains – Simone’s Kilimanjaro climb and how it inspired her to say “yes” to growth outside her comfort zone. * Breaking Free from “Just” – Why removing the word just from your vocabulary transforms the way you see your value. * Control-Alt-Delete for Confidence – Simone’s simple mindset tool for shifting negative self-talk in the moment.
Resources & Links: 📖 The Extraordinary Unordinary You: Follow Your Own Path, Discover Your Own Journey – Get Simone’s book 🎙️ Her Unshakeable Confidence Podcast – Simone’s podcast with her daughter 🌐 Simone Knego’s Website – Learn more about her work and upcoming book Real Confidence In this episode: [00:00] Meet Simone Knego, author, speaker, and mother of six [03:45] Why patience is the foundation of confidence [10:37] Choices that shape your story – stepping out of line [12:59] Lessons from Mili: you only get one life [15:19] Climbing Kilimanjaro and finding purpose [20:06] Breaking free from “just” and claiming your value [22:26] Building unshakable confidence with her daughter [24:42] Control-Alt-Delete: a confidence reset tool [27:00] Where to find Simone and her books Connect with Heather:
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In today’s episode, Heather answers a powerful question from her Instagram community: How do I advocate for myself without bragging? This is a challenge so many of us, especially women, face. How do you share your gifts, your expertise, and your accomplishments with confidence and authenticity without feeling arrogant? Heather breaks it down into three core strategies that will help you shift your mindset and your approach so you can advocate with grace, clarity, and impact. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Talk About the Thing, Not Yourself How externalizing your gifts makes sharing them feel like service, not bragging. * Believe in Others as Much as Yourself Why trusting the openness and curiosity of the people you’re speaking to shifts your energy and confidence. * Own Your Gifts Why fully embracing and sharing your talents is essential to living your purpose and making a difference. * The Role of Service in Advocacy How approaching advocacy from a place of contribution removes the stigma of bragging. * Practical Tips to Change Your Self-Talk From using “iliism” to adopting a service mindset, Heather shares tools to reframe doubt into empowerment.
Resources & Links: 📖 Chatter by Ethan Kross – Learn more about self-talk strategies🎧 [Heather’s conversation with Ethan Kross on The Elegant Warrior Podcast] In this episode: [00:00] Listener question: How do I advocate for myself without bragging? [02:00] Talk about your gifts as a “thing” separate from you [07:30] Believe in the people you’re speaking to [11:50] Own your unique gifts with confidence [14:20] Advocacy as service vs. bragging [17:30] Final thoughts & invitation to send your questions to Heather Connect with Heather:
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In today’s episode, Heather sits down with Dr. Christie McMullen, educator, author, speaker, and leadership expert, to explore how learning truly takes root. With a 25-year career spanning high school classrooms, adult education, and leadership training, Christie brings a wealth of experience to the conversation. Her book, Learning Can Stick: A Guide to Make Every Learning Experience Safe, Logical, Fun, and Memorable, offers strategies for teaching and leading that apply far beyond the classroom. Together, Heather and Christie dive into why everyone is a teacher, whether you’re guiding patients, mentoring employees, or leading a courtroom, and how to make every lesson both memorable and impactful. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Performance vs. Learning Goals – How setting both helps define success and the steps to get there. * “Clear is Kind” – Why clarity is essential in teaching, leading, and everyday communication. * The Power of Connection – How learners deepen understanding by engaging with each other. * Trusting the Learning Process – Why letting go of control often leads to better outcomes. * Making It Personal – How emotion and reflection anchor lessons in memory. * Note-Taking vs. Note-Making – Why interacting with your notes makes all the difference. * Sprinkle, Splash, Flood, Drip – Christie’s framework for ensuring information actually sticks.
Resources & Links: 📖 Learning Can Stick: A Guide to Make Every Learning Experience Safe, Logical, Fun, and Memorable Buy the book here🌐 Christie McMullen Learn more about her work and speaking In this episode: [00:00] Meet Dr. Christie McMullen, educator, leader, and author [02:30] Performance vs. learning goals explained [07:00] Why “clear is kind” in leadership and teaching [09:20] Leveraging connection to make learning stick [12:45] Trusting the process and formative feedback [16:30] Making it personal: emotion, reflection, and relevance [22:00] Turning notes into learning tools [27:40] Sprinkle, splash, flood, drip: repetition that works [31:10] Final reflections and key takeaways Connect with Heather:
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n today’s episode, Heather speaks with Rebecca Heiss, evolutionary biologist, speaker, and author of Springboard: Transform Stress to Work for You. Rebecca shares her groundbreaking perspective on stress, not as something to eliminate, but as a force you can reframe and harness. With her Fearless Stress Formula, she teaches how to stop fighting stress and instead use it as fuel for growth, resilience, and meaning.
Rebecca’s journey spans science, entrepreneurship, and personal challenge from founding an ice cream company to leading discomfort challenges and building communities. Together, she and Heather unpack the myths about stress and how you can shift your relationship with it to live a more powerful, purposeful life.
In this episode, you’ll learn: * The Fearless Stress Formula: A three-part system to stop fearing stress and start working with it. * It’s Not a Tiger: How to recognize when your body’s “danger” signals are overreacting to everyday life. * Transforming Stress into Energy: Why reframing anxiety as excitement can boost your performance. * Curiosity Over Fear: How asking questions interrupts stress spirals and shifts perspective. * Trajectory and Action: Why small steps into discomfort matter more than avoidance. * Post-Traumatic Growth: The surprising science that shows stress and growth can coexist. * The Power of Community: How stress can actually deepen connection and why support systems matter.
Resources & Links: 📖 Springboard: Transform Stress to Work for You Get the book here🌐 Learn more about Rebecca’s work rebeccaheiss.com🏀 Game Changer Basketball WeAreGameChanger.org
Episode Highlights: [00:00] Meet Rebecca Heiss – scientist, author, and entrepreneur [04:54] The Fearless Stress Formula: It’s Not a Tiger [09:41] Stress as a sign of meaning and purpose [11:12] Transforming stress into excitement and energy [14:53] Why curiosity and fear can’t coexist [17:57] The power of trajectory and action [22:03] Learned helplessness vs. agency [26:13] Post-traumatic stress and post-traumatic growth [29:41] Building community with Game Changer Basketball [32:57] Hope and the importance of support systems Connect with Heather:
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Heather Hansen takes us back to her two decades as a trial attorney and reveals the surprising ways courtroom wisdom can shape your life and career. From the first day she stepped into court, Heather realized it wasn’t just a place of law; it was a classroom of leadership, persuasion, influence, and resilience.
In this episode, Heather shares five powerful lessons from the courtroom that apply far beyond the legal world. Whether you’re navigating career growth, relationships, or leadership challenges, these insights will help you see “the jury” in your life more clearly and make choices that lead to real wins.
If you’ve ever struggled with setbacks, conflict, or defining success on your own terms, this conversation will inspire you to see every challenge as an opportunity to collect and create evidence of your growth.
In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why everyone has a “jury” in life and how to win them over * The importance of truly knowing your jury before trying to persuade them * Why confusion, not people, should be treated as the real enemy * The tough-love truth: if you’re not losing, you’re not trying * How to redefine what it means to “win” in your life and career
Resources & Mentions 📚 The Elegant Warrior by Heather Hansen
🌐 Learn more about Heather’s consulting and coaching by setting up a call here.https://calendly.com/beliefbuilders/consult
Episode Timestamps [00:00] Heather introduces the idea of lessons from the courtroom [01:00] Lesson 1: Everyone has a jury [03:00] Lesson 2: Know your jury [07:30] Lesson 3: Confusion is the enemy [10:15] Lesson 4: If you’re not losing, you’re not trying [14:45] Lesson 5: You get to define a win [17:00] How to apply courtroom lessons to everyday life ✨ Quote of the Episode "If you’re not losing, you’re not trying. Losing is evidence that you’re willing to bet on yourself and take risks with pride." – Heather Hansen
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No one likes the feeling of being misunderstood. It can create frustration, conflict, and even missed opportunities, whether in the courtroom, the boardroom, or at home. In this episode, Heather Hansen shares three powerful steps to move from feeling unseen and unheard to becoming the “queen of your kingdom.”
Drawing from her decades as a trial attorney, her consulting work, and personal lessons, Heather shows why misunderstanding doesn’t have to hold you back. Instead, it can be the very spark that strengthens your clarity, influence, and power.
If you’ve ever felt dismissed, overlooked, or simply not “gotten,” this conversation will help you turn confusion into connection.
In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why your first choice of thought and feeling determines how others receive you * How curiosity and compassion create pathways to understanding * The importance of truly seeing the other person’s perspective before trying to persuade * Heather’s three-step process: Choose, Understand, Advocate * How to master “the art of the ask” by using stories, evidence, and energy * Why delight, not resentment, is your greatest advantage when communicating
Resources & Mentions: 📚 The Elegant Warrior by Heather Hansen ✉️ Join Heather’s weekly newsletter for stories, strategies, and updates 🌐 Learn more about Heather’s consulting and coaching at ElegantWarrior.com
Episode Timestamps: [00:01] The universal challenge of being misunderstood [02:00] The “Martian” metaphor for communication gaps [03:18] Lessons from defending doctors in medical malpractice cases [05:45] Step 1: Choose your thoughts and feelings [08:08] Step 2: Understand their perspective before persuading [12:53] Step 3: Advocate with stories, evidence, and energy [15:15] Stepping into your power by mastering communication
✨ Quote of the Episode: "Choose, understand, advocate. When you do, you’ll transform being misunderstood into being powerfully understood." – Heather Hansen
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Heather Hansen takes on a question from listener Molly, who asked about two challenges many professionals face:
- How to think big-picture and work toward career advancement without getting bogged down in day-to-day responsibilities.
- How to stay in the know across a large organization and use that knowledge to broaden personal and team perspectives.
Heather combines these into one powerful conversation about choice. With stories from her days as a trial attorney, lessons from her consulting work, and wisdom borrowed from her own mentors, she shows why every career move comes down to the decisions you make — and the evidence you create for yourself and others.
If you’ve ever struggled with balancing responsibilities and growth, this episode will inspire you to be deliberate, intentional, and bold in choosing your future.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why recognizing that you are always choosing is key to career growth
- How focusing only on daily tasks limits your long-term opportunities
- The tough-love truth: growth sometimes requires trade-offs in personal time
- Micro-strategies to stay informed — like using podcasts as a personal curriculum
- How to transform learning into leadership through “lunch and learns”
- Why creating evidence of your initiative gets you noticed by decision-makers
- The difference between collecting evidence and becoming the evidence of what’s possible
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Episode Timestamps:
[00:00] Heather introduces Molly’s question about delegation and staying informed [01:25] The overlap between focusing on tasks and thinking big-picture [03:00] Lessons from Heather’s early career as a trial attorney [06:15] Saying “yes” to opportunities that aren’t billable but expand your growth [08:40] Choosing reading and podcasts over distractions like Instagram [10:55] Rudy’s advice: lead something for the team (like a lunch and learn) [13:15] The power of creating evidence of your leadership and vision [15:35] The truth about making tough choices with delight
✨ Quote of the Episode: "You are always choosing. If you don’t recognize your choices, you risk missing the opportunities that could change your career." – Heather Hansen
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In today’s episode, Heather speaks with Anna Crowe, founder and CEO of Crowe PR, about the real meaning of authenticity in leadership and life. Anna’s journey from auditor at a Big Four accounting firm to leading a bi-coastal PR agency gives her a unique perspective on building trust, showing up genuinely, and leading with transparency. Together, they unpack why authenticity is more than just a buzzword—and how you can cultivate it in your own life.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The Foundation of Authenticity – Why trust starts with being real with yourself before you can be real with others.
- The Five Habits of Authenticity – Including the power of consistency, owning your mistakes, and admitting when you don’t know something.
- Contextual Authenticity – How you can show different sides of yourself in different settings without being “fake.”
- Four Principles of Authentic Leadership – From staying flexible to communicating directly, Anna shares how to lead in a way that connects and inspires.
- Feedback as a Leadership Superpower – Why giving and receiving feedback is one of the most vulnerable—and authentic—things you can do.
- Real-World Leadership Lessons – Insights from Anna’s career spanning corporate giants, global PR work, and building her own agency from the ground up.
Resources & Links: 📖 Get Real: The Power of Genuine Leadership, a Transparent Culture, and an Authentic You – Buy the book here 🌐 Crowe PR – Learn more about Anna’s agency
In this episode: [00:00] Meet Anna Crowe – From Big Four auditor to PR agency founder [03:45] Defining authenticity and why it matters [07:32] The Five Habits of Authenticity [16:59] Anna’s corporate and entrepreneurial journey [18:45] Four Principles of Authentic Leadership [27:17] Final thoughts on getting real
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In this fiery and insightful episode, Heather Hansen takes a bold stand against one-size-fits-all communication advice — especially the kind coming from male experts that simply doesn't work for women. With decades of experience in advocacy, law, and coaching, Heather breaks down why advice from well-meaning male voices like Jefferson Fisher and Vin Gang may actually backfire for women in real-life situations, especially when it comes to being interrupted, advocating for yourself, or commanding authority.
She offers a powerful alternative: learn how to advocate the way that actually works for you. With stories from her courtroom days, coaching practice, and research-backed insight, Heather shows women how to stop trying to “man up” their voice and instead lean into proven techniques designed for how women are actually perceived — and how we naturally communicate.
If you’ve ever followed advice that left you feeling ignored, labeled as “too much,” or just plain ineffective, this episode is your permission slip to do things differently.
In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why “great advice” often fails women — and how to know if it’s not for you * The difference between communication and advocacy (and why you must master both) * What research says about women being interrupted — and why standard advice can make it worse * How women are judged differently for the same behaviors as men — and what to do about it * Why avoiding conflict OR mimicking male assertiveness both backfire * The proven tools that help women advocate effectively, without being labeled abrasive or bossy * Why Heather’s courtroom experience taught her to prepare men and women differently — and how you can apply that in everyday life
Resources Mentioned: 📚 The Elegant Warrior by Heather Hansen📖 The Next Conversation by Jefferson Fisher🎧 Jay Shetty’s podcast interview with Vin Gang📊 The recent study on how women CEOs are labeled
Bonus Announcement: 🎓 FREE Masterclass: How to Handle Interruptions (and Be Heard) Without Being Dismissed 🗓️ August 13 at 3 PM ET ➡️ Can’t join live? Sign up to get the replay. 🎁 But if you can make it live, there’s a special surprise just for you! 🔗 [Register here]
In this episode: [00:00] Heather sets the tone: Why she’s tired of advice that doesn’t work for women [01:45] Communication vs. advocacy — how they’re different and why it matters [03:10] Why following male experts left Heather confused and frustrated [05:00] The two critical questions to ask before following anyone’s advice [05:30] The case of Jefferson Fisher: great communicator, but his advice may not fit [07:50] Why women’s voices and presence are systemically dismissed [10:00] Research reveals the biases women face when speaking up [12:30] Why “too much” isn’t always powerful — and what actually gets results [14:00] How to know your audience (or “jury”) before you speak [15:00] The feminine communication edge — and how to use it strategically [16:30] Heather’s courtroom wisdom: train men and women differently for better results [17:15] A call to action: Get the tools to speak effectively and get what you want
“You have to speak for your ideas, your potential, and your worth — because they can’t speak for themselves.” – Heather Hansen
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In this powerful episode, Heather responds to a heartfelt question from listener Natalie, who is navigating life with a chronic illness that others often misunderstand. Natalie asks how to advocate for herself without sounding like she’s complaining — a question that resonates with so many living with invisible pain.
Through personal stories, insights from neuroscience and psychology, and actionable steps, Heather teaches how to communicate your needs clearly, choose the right audience for your vulnerability, and advocate for yourself with both strength and grace.
Whether you're facing chronic illness, emotional pain, or just want to show up better for yourself, this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and empowered.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The First Question to Ask: Before speaking up, Heather shares the key question you must ask yourself: What do I actually want from this person?
- Why Hinting Doesn’t Work: Learn how vague expressions of pain don’t lead to help, and how to turn your situation into a clear request.
- The Energy of the Ask: How asking with delight (or conviction) radically changes how others respond to your needs.
- When to Stay Silent: Why talking about your pain can sometimes make things worse and how to choose when to share, and when to journal instead.
- The Power of JournalSpeak: Discover how Heather used Nicole Sachs’ “JournalSpeak” method to reduce physical pain and emotional overload during a crisis.
- Why Misunderstandings Hurt and What To Do About Them: Heather explains when to advocate for deeper understanding and when to let people think what they want.
- Healing Through Expression: The science behind why venting to people can increase pain, but venting in a journal can actually ease it.
- How to Prepare Yourself to Advocate Even When You’re Not at Your Best: Practical tools to reclaim energy, reset your mindset, and step into confident advocacy.
Resources Mentioned:
📚 All of Ethan Kross’ Work✍️ All of Nicole Sachs’ Work & JournalSpeak Resources
🎧 Nicole Sachs’ Podcast: The Cure for Chronic Pain with Nicole Sachs, LCSW
Bonus Announcement:
📅 Heather's FREE Masterclass – How to Handle Interruptions and Being Ignored
🗓️ August 13 at 3 PM ET
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In this episode: [00:00] Listener Natalie’s question: The struggle of invisible illness and being misunderstood
[01:45] Heather’s personal story: Migraines, functionality, and feeling "off"
[03:50] What do you really want? Sympathy, understanding, or help? [06:00] The golden rule of advocacy: Ask clearly, ask with delight [08:30] When not to share your pain, and why complaining can backfire [10:50] Journaling vs venting: Research-backed ways to process emotions [12:50] The story of Heather’s father, her grief, and how she discovered JournalSpeak [14:30] JournalSpeak and emotional pain: The power of writing what you can’t say [16:00] Advocating through pain: How journaling clears the way for charisma [17:00] Misunderstood? Why sometimes it’s worth correcting, sometimes it’s not
[18:10] Heather’s 3-step framework for self-advocacy while in pain [19:00] Final thoughts: Vulnerability, visibility, and strength in the face of suffering
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In this engaging conversation, Heather Hansen speaks with Dr. John Antonakis, a leading expert on the science of charisma. They explore the definition of charisma, its importance in leadership and influence, and how it can be learned. Dr. Antonakis shares insights from his research, including studies on the impact of charisma on performance and the role of cognitive empathy in effective communication. The discussion also touches on the potential influence of AI on charisma and the importance of genuine human connection in leadership.
In this research-packed episode, you'll learn:
- Introduction to the Science of Charisma – Heather and Dr. John Antonakis open with a deep dive into what charisma truly is—not charm or confidence, but a learnable skill grounded in peer-reviewed science.
- Charisma's Measurable Impact on Performance – They explore powerful studies—including one with a robot—showing how charismatic speech alone can increase workplace performance by up to 17%.
- The Building Blocks of Charisma – John introduces his framework: symbols, values, and emotions, and explains how these components combine to create influence that inspires action, not just applause.
- The Power of Metaphor and Framing – Heather and John discuss how storytelling, metaphor, contrast, rhetorical questions, and the “rule of three” work together to create speeches that stick.
- Cognitive vs. Affective Empathy – The duo breaks down why cognitive empathy (understanding how others think) matters more in leadership than feeling what others feel—and why that distinction is critical for decision-making.
- The Myths About Body Language – John challenges the popular belief that charisma is mostly non-verbal, presenting evidence that words drive behavior far more than gestures or facial expressions.
- Charisma as an Equalizer – They unpack how charismatic speech can neutralize biases based on attractiveness, race, and gender, offering hope for more equitable influence in politics, business, and beyond.
- Artificial Intelligence and Charisma – Can AI replicate charisma? Heather and John explore the limitations of using AI to craft influence—and why doing the reps yourself still matters most.
- Practical Tools for Everyday Leaders – Whether you’re a parent, teacher, executive, or coach, you'll walk away with actionable techniques to become more charismatic and persuasive—based on science, not guesswork.
Resources & Links:
🔗 Harvard Business Review Article – Learning Charisma
🎥 Dr. Antonakis’ TEDx Talk – Let’s Face It, Charisma Matters
📰 Newsweek Article – Dog Predicts 2024 Presidential Election
Bonus Announcement:
📅 Heather's FREE Masterclass – How to Handle Being Interrupted
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In this episode:
[00:00] Introduction to Dr. John Antonakis
[03:45] Understanding Charisma's Impact
[16:33] The Mechanics of Charisma
[21:10] The Components of Charisma
[36:53] The Role of AI in Charisma
[45:43] Conclusion and Resources
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In this episode, Heather answers a heartfelt question from a listener named Z about people-pleasing Heather breaks down the root of resentment that often comes from saying “yes” too often — and receiving “no” in return. Through relatable stories and actionable guidance, she empowers listeners to advocate for themselves with confidence and grace.
In this empowering episode, you’ll learn:
- The Resentment Cycle of People Pleasers - Z’s question echoes a common struggle: always saying yes, only to feel hurt when others don’t return the favor. Heather explores how this dynamic creates resentment and disconnection — both at home and at work.
- False Consensus and Miscommunication - Heather explains the false consensus effect — the mistaken belief that others see and value things the same way we do. She emphasizes the importance of communicating needs clearly instead of assuming others "just know."
- From Silent Hints to Clear Requests Through the story of a high-powered client and her husband, Heather illustrates the danger of hinting instead of asking. Saying “I’d love to go to this concert” is not the same as saying, “Will you come with me?”
- A Better Follow-Up Question - Heather suggests asking, “What would have to change for you to say yes?” as a non-confrontational way to open conversation, gain insight, and gauge someone’s willingness.
- Understanding the Law of Reciprocity - Referencing Robert Cialdini’s “Influence,” Heather unpacks the psychological principle of reciprocity — and how gently reminding someone of past support (without guilt-tripping) can increase the chances of a return favor.
- Power Dynamics and Reciprocity - People in positions of power often feel less pressure to reciprocate. Heather highlights this dynamic and how it explains why some people — especially at work — may not return favors.
- Saying No as a Spiritual Lesson - In one of the episode’s most powerful insights, Heather reframes the struggle as part of your Divine Curriculum. Quoting Marianne Williamson, she suggests that learning to say no is not just practical — it’s part of your personal growth and purpose.
- Recap and Encouragement - Heather closes with a reminder that not everyone sees your effort. Advocate with clarity. Ask with delight. And sometimes, the greatest lesson is how to say no with confidence and self-respect.
In this episode for Libsyn:
[00:00] - Listener's question about being a people pleaser and handling requests without reciprocity
[00:28] - Personal story about attending a Pearl Jam concert and navigating requests from others
[03:18] - The importance of recognizing when others ask for things and the concept of reciprocity
[04:43] - The significance of understanding what you need and asking for it effectively
[06:48] - The challenge of asking for what you want without feeling guilty or selfish
[08:29] - Reflection on working together and helping each other in professional settings
[09:23] - Feelings of frustration and defensiveness about asking for help
[12:16] - The law of reciprocity and its role in relationships and requests.
[14:43] - Recognizing the importance of asking for what you need and the role of reciprocity
[15:00] - The value of understanding and respecting others’ boundaries and needs
[16:58] - The significance of the last piece of the reciprocity puzzle
[17:23] - The divine curriculum and its relation to giving and receiving
[18:53] - The importance of saying no and setting boundaries
[20:00] - The value of encouraging others to say yes and the importance of mutual support
[21:50] - Final thoughts on answering questions and ongoing engagement with listeners.
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
In this episode, Heather introduces "Credible Charisma™" as a key to becoming irreplaceable in a world where many feel replaceable due to the rise of AI and other technological advancements. She shares personal experiences and introduces a framework to help listeners cultivate this essential quality.
In this insightful episode, you'll learn:
- The Fear of Being Replaceable: The speaker addresses the widespread anxiety of feeling replaceable, whether due to artificial intelligence, aging, or other life circumstances, and asserts that everyone is inherently irreplaceable.
- Credible Charisma™ as the Antidote: She introduces "Credible Charisma™" as the learnable combination of qualities that makes someone unforgettable and irreplaceable, contrasting it with the idea that being smarter, faster, or better is sufficient.
- The Belief Triangle for Credibility: The speaker outlines her "Belief Triangle™" framework for building credibility, emphasizing three crucial aspects: people believing you (keeping promises), believing in you (having the necessary experience and talent), and most importantly, believing you can help them (understanding their pain and problems).
- Lexi: An Embodiment of Credible Charisma™: Through the story of her former paralegal, Lexi, Heather shares how someone can become irreplaceable by consistently demonstrating credibility (keeping promises, possessing skills, and understanding needs) and charisma (making others feel seen, safe, and special).
- Debunking Charisma Myths: The speaker challenges common misconceptions about charisma, particularly the idea that it's "fluffy" or primarily non-verbal. She debunks the widely cited 93% non-verbal communication statistic, clarifying its true context.
- The True Nature of Charisma: Drawing on research from Dr. John Antonakis, the speaker defines true charisma as being based on "what you say and how you say it" (content and delivery), and her personal interpretation that this combination makes people feel seen, safe, and special, with safety being paramount.
- The Interdependence of Credibility and Charisma: She emphasizes that charisma cannot exist without credibility, stating, "You can't have charisma without credibility. Without credibility, you can't win."
- Building Credibility Through Stories and Evidence: The speaker introduces her "SEE Technique™" for building credibility, which involves sharing stories that resonate with others and providing evidence (like research studies) that makes people feel safe to believe.
- The Power of Para-verbal Communication: She highlights the importance of "para-verbal" communication (tone, pace, volume, inflection) over body language and facial expressions, asserting that it's a more significant component of charisma and reflects true belief.
- Credible Charisma™ as a Foundation for Resilience: The episode concludes with a powerful analogy: credibility is a "huge, solid cliff" that withstands change, and charisma is a "lighthouse resting securely on that cliff," guiding and calling people home to a place where they feel seen, safe, and special.
In this episode for Libsyn:
[00:09] - Introduction to Credible Charisma [01:00] - The Concept of Irreplaceability [02:14] - Personal anecdotes [04:28] - Belief triangle [07:00] - Charisma: Making People Feel Seen, Safe, and Special [08:29] - The impact of Lexi's departure and the inability to replace her, even with artificial intelligence. [09:38] - The Credible Charisma Framework™ [12:41] - Defining True Charisma (with Dr. John Antonakis)
[13:48] - The Interplay of Credibility and Charisma [16:32] - Verbal, Para-verbal, and Non-verbal Communication [18:26] - Conclusion and Call to Action
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In this episode, Heather introduces a previously recorded conversation with Judge Rosemary Aquilina from December 30, 2019. This re-release serves as an introduction to Judge Aquilina before she and Heather launch their new podcast, "Undeniable," in August. The episode highlights Judge Aquilina's impactful role in the Larry Nassar case and her unique approach to justice, emphasizing listening and healing.
In this insightful episode, you'll learn:
- Introduction to Judge Aquilina: Heather sets the stage for the conversation, explaining why she's replaying this particular episode and introducing Judge Rosemary Aquilina, highlighting her significance in the Larry Nassar case and her upcoming joint podcast with Heather.
- Early Life and Influences: Judge Aquilina shares her childhood experiences, including her immigration story and feeling unheard, which profoundly shaped her desire to advocate for others and led her to pursue a career in law.
- The Path to Law and Justice: Judge Aquilina discusses her decision to attend law school, driven by a rebellious spirit and a deep-seated need to give a voice to the unheard, a theme that resonates throughout her career.
- Breaking Barriers in the Military: Judge Aquilina recounts her experience as the first female JAG officer in Michigan history, illustrating her determination to overcome obstacles and challenge norms.
- The Power of Listening in the Courtroom: Judge Aquilina emphasizes the importance of listening in her judicial practice, particularly in the Larry Nassar case, where her approach encouraged over 100 women to come forward and share their stories.
- "What Do You Want Me to Know?": Judge Aquilina explains the origin and impact of her signature question, "What do you want me to know?", revealing how this simple inquiry fosters trust and allows individuals to feel heard and understood.
- "Leave Your Pain Here": Judge Aquilina discusses the profound effect of her statement to the Nassar victims, "Leave your pain here. Go out and do your magnificent things," and how she views her role as a healer in the courtroom.
- The Healing Power of the Robe and Gavel: Judge Aquilina describes how she perceives her judicial robe and gavel not just as symbols of authority, but as tools for healing and rehabilitation, aiming to empower individuals to move forward.
- Continued Connection with Survivors: Judge Aquilina shares that she remains in contact with many of the Nassar survivors, offering ongoing support and demonstrating her continued commitment to their well-being.
- Personal Resilience and Family Life: Judge Aquilina touches upon her personal life, including having children later in life, and how her family provides stability and balance amidst her demanding career.
- Defining Elegance and Inspiration: Judge Aquilina shares her personal definition of elegance, emphasizing inner character and dignity, and reveals her theme song and a book that has inspired her throughout her life.
In this episode for Libsyn:
[00:00] - Introduction to Judge Aquilina [06:39] - Early Life and Influences [10:24] - The Path to Law and Justice [11:43] - Breaking Barriers in the Military [20:46] - The Power of Listening in the Courtroom [23:29] - "What Do You Want Me to Know?" [25:50] - "Leave Your Pain Here" [26:44] - The Healing Power of the Robe and Gavel [29:54] - Continued Connection with Survivors [32:07] - Personal Resilience and Family Life [33:05] - Defining Elegance and Inspiration
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In today's episode, Heather Hansen answers a listener's question from Mary, a woman over 50 who is struggling to find a job and feeling replaced by younger generations. This episode is not only for those in a similar situation but also for anyone who believes something they want is impossible, or who is concerned about artificial intelligence impacting their career. Heather emphasizes that the root of "elegance" is to choose, and she provides three crucial choices to navigate these challenges.
In this insightful episode, you'll learn:
- Addressing the Listener's Core Concern - Heather directly addresses Mary's fear of being replaced by younger generations and the broader concern about AI taking jobs, setting the stage for the episode's advice.
- The "Elegance" of Choice - Heather introduces the core concept that the word "elegance" means "to choose," framing the entire discussion around the power of intentional decision-making in one's career and life.
- The Power of Perspective - Heather introduces the "rubber band experiment" to illustrate how changing your perspective from "this is" to "this could be" can open up new possibilities, especially in career paths like fractional roles, consulting, or independent contracting.
- Exploring New Career Avenues - Building on the idea of perspective, Heather suggests concrete alternative career paths such as fractional roles, consulting, independent contracting, or exploring non-profits and startups, encouraging listeners to think beyond traditional employment.
- Building Belief through Evidence - Heather discusses how belief shapes energy in job interviews and how to cultivate a positive belief system. She explains two ways to gather evidence: collecting existing data (e.g., studies showing older workers are more reliable, companies actively recruiting them) and creating your own evidence through action.
- The Value of Older Workers - Heather provides compelling evidence from studies (Stanford and Harvard) and corporate initiatives (Goldman Sachs returnships) that highlight the reliability, trustworthiness, and effectiveness of workers over 50, directly countering the belief that age is a barrier.
- Strategic Action for Opportunity - Heather highlights the importance of taking strategic action beyond just sending out resumes. She emphasizes leveraging one's "ecosystem" or network, suggesting regular interaction with contacts as a powerful way to create opportunities and build evidence for your beliefs.
- Human Differentiators in an AI World - Heather revisits the previous week's discussion on AI, explaining that human energy and unique ecosystems (networks) are qualities that artificial intelligence cannot replicate, making them crucial differentiators in the job market.
- Leveraging Your Ecosystem/Network - Heather elaborates on the concept of an "ecosystem" as a valuable asset, providing personal examples of how her own diverse networks have led to professional opportunities, encouraging listeners to recognize and utilize their own.
In this episode for Libsyn:
[01:04] - Addressing the Listener's Core Concern [02:39] - The "Elegance" of Choice [02:55] - The Power of Perspective [05:00] - Exploring New Career Avenues [06:50] - Building Belief through Evidence [09:10] - The Value of Older Workers [12:09] - Strategic Action for Opportunity [15:00] - Human Differentiators in an AI World [17:16] - Conclusion and Final Encouragement
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AI is about to change everything—except what makes you irreplaceable. As artificial intelligence evolves, it's taking over tasks rooted in logic, data, and even decision-making. But there's one thing it can’t replicate: human energy—and women have mastered it for generations.
In this episode, Heather Hansen (trial attorney, keynote speaker, and communications consultant) reveals:
✅ Why AI makes your energy your most valuable asset ✅ The 3-step method to master and project energy that influences others ✅ How evolution gave women an edge in the era of “experiential AI” ✅ Real courtroom stories that show energy wins cases—not just facts
Whether you're a woman looking to lead with charisma or a man who wants to develop magnetic presence, this episode gives you a roadmap to thrive in a world where logic is automated—but influence is not.
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📚 Mentioned in the episode: The Elegant Warrior (book): https://www.amazon.com/Elegant-Warrior-Trials-Without-Yourself/dp/1989025269
🗣 “People will forget what you said, forget what you did, but they’ll never forget how you made them feel.” — Maya Angelou
In this powerful return to The Elegant Warrior, Heather Hansen shares why she’s reviving the podcast after a heartfelt farewell seven months ago. With honesty, emotion, and insight, she explores the deeper reasons behind her comeback—from honoring her late father to responding to a rising tide of anger in our culture. Heather invites listeners to trade frustration for delight and introduces an exciting new podcast collaboration with Judge Rosemarie Aquilina, Undeniable. Plus, she teases an upcoming episode on why AI is actually good news for women—and how your energy is your new superpower.
🔑 Topics Covered:
- Why Heather ended—and then restarted—The Elegant Warrior
- The emotional and energetic costs of misalignment
- Why delight is more effective than anger when asking for what you want
- The concept of resolve as a high-vibration alternative to anger
- How artificial intelligence amplifies the value of human energy (especially women’s)
- The upcoming launch of Heather and Judge Aquilina’s new podcast, Undeniable
- Honoring her late father and reclaiming Thursdays for joy
TEW Podcast Episode 321 - Delight Over Anger - Timestamps [00:00] - Introduction [00:21] - Podcast Revival Announcement [02:41] - Energy Management [04:37] - Artificial Intelligence [08:12] - Personal Reflection on Father's Day [10:00] - New Show Announcement with Judge Rosemary Aquilina [13:07] - Podcast Schedule Changes
Who is your jury? You have one. Your jury is anyone you want to influence and persuade. Your jury is the person/people who give you your wins.
And a jury’s job is not to judge. A jury’s job is to listen and to choose what to believe. Your job is to know your jury and give them something to believe.
In this episode, you will learn:
-How to recognize that you have a jury and to start identifying them
-The most important jury you will ever face
-The story of the name “The Elegant Warrior”
-Heather’s big announcement about what’s next for her and for you!
Here’s the link to meet with Heather to talk about Keynotes or Strategy Days.
Here’s the link to Heather’s YouTube channel, The Belief Builder’s Academy
Here’s the link to join the Belief Builder’s Academy Membership for just $97/month; cancel anytime
Here’s the link to buy/review Heather’s book, The Elegant Warrior-How to Win Life’s Trials Without Losing Yourself.
Here’s the link to follow Heather on Instagram
And finally, Heather’s LinkedIn profile
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
In today’s episode, Heather talks to Marcia Dawood about angel investing and what it means for you. Marcia has been an angel investor for over a decade. She is the author of Doing Good While Doing Well and hosts The Angel Next Door podcast. She’s Chair Emeritus of the Angel Capital Association and a founding member of their Growing Women’s Capital Group. Marcia is a member of Golden Seeds, one of the largest angel groups in the US.
In this conversation, she shares what angel investing is and why you want to be involved. Heather and Marcia discuss the importance of angel investing, especially for women and people of color. Marcia breaks down the ways you can become an investor with as little as $50, and how you can use charity money to invest. This is an important and educational conversation that will get you excited to get involved!
In this insightful episode, you'll learn:
- Introduction to Angel Investing - Heather and Marcia had an overview of what angel investing is and its significance in the investment landscape.
- Investment Strategy and Risk Management - Heather and Marcia advising audiences on how much of one’s investable assets should be allocated to angel investing, emphasizing the importance of risk assessment and not using essential funds for high-risk investments.
- Networking Opportunities through Angel Investing - They both discuss the value of networking through Angel investing or getting to know entrepreneurs and companies before investing, highlighting the long-term nature of angel investing.
- The Halo Strategy - Heather and Marcia had an introduction to the "halo strategy," which refers to investing based on admiration for a founder rather than a structured investment approach.
- Discussion on Women and Minority-Owned Companies - Marcia and Heather are having an important conversation about addressing the statistics related to female founders in the investment space and the need to change the narrative around investing in women.
- Differences in Questioning Between Male and Female Founders - Heather and Marcia had an examination of the different types of questions male and female founders receive from investors.
- Equity Crowdfunding Explained - Heather and Marcia have provided an overview of equity crowdfunding, explaining how it works and its benefits for new investors.
- Conclusion and Summary of Key Points - A wrap-up of the episode, summarizing the key takeaways and encouraging listeners to engage with the topics discussed.
Marcia’s book choice is Buoyant: The Entrepreneur’s Guide to Becoming Wildly Successful, Creative and Free.
Her song choice is Unstoppable by Sia
Link to buy the Doing Well While Doing Good book:
https://bit.ly/3yxekKD
Link to buy the Doing Well While Doing Good workbook
bit.ly/3ToZMUN
Marcia’s website is
www.marciadawood.com
Her podcast is The Angel Next Door
https://www.marciadawood.com/angelnextdoor
In this episode for Libsyn:
[00:49] - Introduction to Angel Investing
[03:28] - Investment Strategy and Risk Management
[08:00] - Networking Opportunities through Angel Investing
[10:27] - The Halo Strategy
[12:13] - Discussion on Women and Minority-Owned Companies
[16:53] - Differences in Questioning Between Male and Female Founders
[18:45] - Equity Crowdfunding Explained
[26:42] - Conclusion and Summary of Key Points
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
In this exciting episode, Heather welcomes back Ruth Gotian. This time, Ruth shares insights from her latest book, The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring: A Complete Guide to Effective Mentoring.
Heather and Ruth discuss how mentees can advocate for themselves and highlight their accomplishments. They explore the importance of networking in mentorship, share practical strategies for finding the right mentor, and delve into the dynamics of feedback and critique on the path to success.
Dr. Ruth Gotian is the Chief Learning Officer and an Assistant Professor of Education in Anesthesiology. She is the author of The Success Factor: Developing the Mindset and Skill Set for Peak Business Performance. Remarkably, at age 43, she pursued a doctorate focused on success and wrote The Success Factor during the pandemic while working full-time.
In this enlightening episode, you'll learn about:
- Introduction (Elements of Success) - In this segment, Ruth introduces the concept of success by outlining the four key elements that contribute to achieving it with Heather. They highlighted that these are derived from interviews with high achievers, setting the stage for a deeper discussion on what defines success and how individuals can harness these elements in their own journeys.
- Networking in Mentorship - The discussion between Heather and Ruth focuses on the critical role of networking within mentorship relationships. They both emphasized that effective mentors not only provide guidance but also facilitate connections by introducing their mentees to valuable networks. This access can significantly enhance a mentee's opportunities and professional growth.
- Finding a Mentor - Here, they offer practical advice on how to find a mentor. They suggest that individuals should engage in conversations and build relationships organically, rather than actively seeking out a mentor. This approach fosters more genuine connections and can lead to mentorship naturally developing over time.
- Pressure on Mentors - Heather and Ruth address the pressure that can be placed on mentors by their mentees. They discuss the importance of mentees being mindful of this pressure and encourage them to seek guidance in a way that doesn't impose obligations on their mentors. It can foster a healthier and more productive mentorship dynamic.
- Feedback and Critique - The conversation highlights the significance of receiving constructive feedback and critique as part of personal and professional development. Ruth and Heather draw a parallel to elite athletes, who actively seek feedback from their coaches to improve performance, suggesting that individuals in any field should embrace feedback to enhance their skills and growth.
- Role of Different Types of Support - This topic explores the various roles that different types of support can play in an individual's career. Heather and Ruth discuss the distinctions between mentors, coaches, sponsors, and role models, explaining how each contributes uniquely to professional development and success. Understanding these roles can help individuals seek the right kind of support for their specific needs.
Ruth’s last episode of The Elegant Warrior is here
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ruth-gotian-and-success-factors/id1438007738?i=1000547400352
Get all of your mentoring information and resources here
https://mentoring-guide.com/
Ruth’s song is I’m Possible by Emily Falvey
Her book is Right Kind of Wrong by Amy Edmondson
In this episode for Libsyn:
[01:24] - Introduction (Elements of Success)
[05:00] - Networking in Mentorship
[08:03] - Finding a Mentor
[12:56] - Pressure on Mentors
[19:24] - Feedback and Critique
[22:21] - Role of Different Types of Support
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
In today’s episode, Heather chats with Siobhan McHale, author of “The Hive Mind at Work-Harnessing the Power of Group Intelligence to Create Meaningful and Lasting Change”.
Siobhan shares how her childhood interest in bees led her to see the similarities and differences between group dynamics at work and how bees work together. She shares how she’s used this new way of looking at group intelligence to turn the ANZ Bank in Australia from the worst-performing bank in the country to the number-one-performing bank.
Her nine laws of group dynamics are an important way to understand groups and how they work, and her LENS approach to making changes in teams. Ultimately, Siobhan makes the case that IQ and even EQ don’t matter as much as GQ–group intelligence in group settings.
In this insightful episode, you'll discover:
- Introduction to the Hive Mind Concept -
Heather introduces the episode by discussing her fascination with bees and the metaphor of the hive mind, setting the stage for a deep dive into group dynamics with Siobhan McHale.
- ANZ Bank's Turnaround Experience -
Siobhan shares her experience with the ANZ Bank, detailing how it transformed from the worst-performing bank in Australia to the top performer by applying principles of the hive mind.
- Overview of the Nine Laws of Group Dynamics -
Siobhan McHale introduces the nine laws of group dynamics, emphasizing their relevance across various ecosystems, including organizations, teams, and communities.
- Connectedness and Ripple Effects -
Siobhan highlights the interconnectedness of ecosystems and how changes in one area can ripple through and affect others.
- Understanding Current Reality Before Change -
The importance of assessing the current reality before making changes is discussed, illustrated by a case study of a manager's misinterpretation of the root causes of customer dissatisfaction.
- Living Group Values -
Siobhan and Heather both stress the significance of leaders embodying their organization's values to maintain credibility and trust among team members.
- Four Leadership Roles -
This exciting episode explores the four key leadership roles: delivery leader, performance coach, business strategist, and change leader, discussing how leaders can embody these roles in different situations.
Here’s a link for more information about Siobhan and where to find her book
Siobhan’s book choice was Our Iceberg Is Melting by John Kotter
Her song is Eye of the Tiger by Survivor
In this episode for Libsyn:
[00:04] - Introduction to the Hive Mind
[04:26] - ANZ Bank's Turnaround Experience
[07:22] - Nine Laws of Group Dynamics
[09:24] - Connectedness and Ripple Effects
[14:30] - Understanding Current Reality Before Change
[18:33] - Living Group Values
[20:00] - Four Leadership Roles
Connect with Heather:
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- Schedule a call with Heather
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
Today, you’ll hear from workplace performance expert and author Henna Pryor about her book "Good Awkward: How to Embrace the Embarrassing and Celebrate the Cringe to Become the Bravest You." In this insightful conversation, Henna and Heather delve into the nuances of awkwardness and embarrassment, the importance of self-awareness, and the role of reframing negative experiences.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The Difference Between Awkwardness and Embarrassment: Henna clarifies the distinctions between these two social emotions, emphasizing that while they share similarities, embarrassment tends to be more fleeting and shared, while awkwardness can be adopted as an identity.
- The Power of Reframing: Learn how to shift your perspective on awkward moments from contamination stories to redemption stories, enabling you to embrace challenges and grow from them.
- The Importance of Self-Awareness: Discover the difference between self-consciousness and self-awareness and how cultivating self-awareness can empower you to navigate uncomfortable situations more confidently.
- Overcoming Social Muscle Atrophy: Understand the impact of technology on our social skills and how to combat the tendency to retreat into our phones. Henna encourages listeners to practice social interactions in small, everyday moments.
Guest: Henna Pryor, workplace performance expert, executive coach, and author of "Good Awkward"
Podcast: The Elegant Warrior Podcast
Topic: Embracing awkwardness, self-awareness, and reframing negative experiences
Key quotes:
- "There is no such thing as a factually awkward person."
- "It's the start that stops. Most people don't even give themselves a chance to become publicly self-conscious."
- "We have small moments that we can practice giving ourselves a social push-up."
Henna Pryor's book: "Good Awkward: The Self-Consciousness Scale”
Henna’s book choice is Say What They Can’t Unhear by Tamsen Webster.
Her song is Damn It Feels Good to Be a Gangster by Geto Boys
In this episode, Heather and Henna uncovered:
[0:00] Introduction
[0:49] Introducing Henna
[2:22] awkward versus embarrassing
[6:48] Easily, empathetically embarrassed
[14:57] Self conscious and. Self aware
[26:29] Social push up
Connect with Henna Pryor:
- Website
- Chat with Henna
Connect with Heather:
- Get Heather’s 8 Beliefs to Change Your Life here
- Schedule a call with Heather
- Follow Heather on Instagram
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- Watch Episodes on Youtube
- Heather’s TikTok
The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
Heather talks to Willie Pietersen about his book "Leadership: The Inside Story" They discuss the transformative power of asking the right questions and how storytelling can elevate leadership practices.
Willie Pietersen is a seasoned consultant for CEOs and teaches at Columbia University.
In this insightful episode, you'll learn:
- How Evolution, Philosophy, and Astrophysics Influence Leadership
Willie shares how his interest in evolution, philosophy, and astrophysics has influenced his leadership, thinking and approach. Willie explains how these fields have helped him understand the importance of continuous learning, adaptation, and humility in leadership.
- Learning and Memory
Willie discusses the importance of writing down and reviewing learnings and shares research on memory retention. Willie also shares his experience of keeping a learning journal since he was 16 and how it has helped him retain knowledge and insights.
- Asking the Right Question
Willie shares a historical example of how asking the right questions can lead to breakthroughs. He emphasizes the importance of framing questions correctly in leadership and how it can help leaders avoid getting stuck in a particular mindset or approach.
- Storytelling in Leadership
Willie shares the power of storytelling in leadership. He highlights the importance of storytelling and how it can help leaders convey complex ideas and values simply and memorably.
In this episode for Libsyn:
[0.00 - 3.24] Introduction and Background
[3.25 - 7.28] Influences on Leadership Thinking
[12.34 - 16.03] Learning and Memory
[20.00 - 28.32] Asking the Right Questions
[28.33 - 34.54] Storytelling in Leadership
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The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
This week Heather and Jodi are in a heartfelt conversation about Jodi’s book “You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets”, and the importance of living with intention and urgency in light of mortality. They explored themes such as Memento Mori, personal specialness, and the impact of habits on zest for life.
Jodi Wellman has a Master of Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. She’s a professor at the University of Pennsylvania, a certified coach, and the author of the “You Only Die Once: How to make it to the end with no regrets”.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
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Overview of “You Only Die Once: How to make it to the end with no regrets.” - Heather and Jodi provide insights into the book, which explores how acknowledging our mortality can motivate us to live more fulfilling lives without regrets.
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Memento Mori: In this interesting topic, Heather and Jodi explain the concept of Memento Mori, encouraging listeners to remember their mortality to enhance their lives richness.
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Balancing Health and Experiences: Heather and Jodi examine the tension between making health-conscious choices and the desire to engage in fulfilling life experiences.
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Hazards of Habits: Jodi and Heather warn against the dangers of falling into habitual routines that may lead to a lack of fulfillment and a sense of living on autopilot.
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The Role of Zest: They highlight the importance of zest and vitality in life, encouraging listeners to seek out experiences that energize them.
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Impact of Screens on Connection: Both Heather and Jodi reflect on how excessive screen time can detract from human connection and personal zest, urging a conscious approach to technology.
- Conclusion and final thought - The episode wraps up with a reflection on the key insights shared, along with Jodi’s theme song that embodies the spirit of adventure.
Connect with Heather:
- Get Heather’s 8 Beliefs to Change Your Life here
- Schedule a call with Heather
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In this episode:
[08.03] Overview of Jodi’s book, “You Only Die Once.”
[10.57] Memento Mori - 10:57
[19.27] Balancing Health and Experiences - 19:27
[33.20] Hazards of Habits - 33:20
[36.48] The Role of Zest - 36:48
[39.57] Impact of Screens on Connection - 39:57
[46.03] Conclusion, theme song, and final thoughts - 46:03
The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
Heather devotes a lot of podcast episodes to the power of belief. Today, she will share how that power has impacted her life. You’ll learn how your belief can be a foundation for achieving goals across various life stages.
In this amazing episode, you'll discover:
- Introduction and Personal Reflection -
In the introduction, Heather shares anecdotes that set the stage for her journey. She discussed the significance of belief as a driving force in her life and how it has shaped her experiences.
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Belief in Ability to Lose 100 Pounds - This section delves into Heather's struggles with weight loss during college. Emphasizes how shifting her belief from doubt to possibility allowed her to make significant changes in her lifestyle and achieve her weight loss goals.
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Hypnosis and Weight Loss -Heather recounts her introduction to hypnosis as a tool for weight loss. She expresses how using hypnosis helped bolster her belief in her ability to lose weight, ultimately leading to a successful transformation.
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Legal Career and Trying Cases -Heather shares her journey in the legal field, highlighting her eagerness to try cases as a young attorney. She reflects on the challenges faced in proving her capabilities and the importance of self-belief in this competitive environment.
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Transition to Television - Here, Heather narrates her unexpected move into television. She talked about fears and beliefs that needed to be addressed to embrace this new career path and how she convinced herself and others of her suitability for the role.
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Building a Business and Leaving Law - Heather emotionally discusses her journey of leaving law to build a coaching business. She describes the gradual process of redefining her identity and the evidence collected along the way that reinforced her belief in herself as an entrepreneur.
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The Importance of Belief - Heather underscores the overarching theme of belief. She discusses how belief influences every aspect of life, from personal health to professional success, and invites listeners to explore ways to cultivate belief in their own lives through the Belief Builders Academy.
Connect with Heather:
- Sign up for the Belief Builders’ Academy here
- Schedule a call with Heather
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- Website
- Watch the episodes on YouTube
- Heather’s TikTok
In this episode (TIMESTAMP):
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Introduction and Personal Reflection - 00:02
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Believing in 100 pounds - 02:24
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Hypnosis and Weight Loss - 05:51
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Legal Career and Trying Cases - 08:00
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Transition to Television - 15:00
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Building a Business and Leaving Law - 16:41
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The Importance of Belief - 19:50
The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
In today’s episode, I’m diving into the incredible role belief plays in achieving success—whether financially, professionally, or personally. Drawing from my own experience as a trial attorney in Philadelphia, I’ve seen firsthand how belief can be a major driver of financial outcomes. I’ve witnessed how deeply believing in yourself and your goals can transform not only your career but also your entire life.
Have you ever felt like something was impossible? I’m here to tell you that belief can make the impossible a reality. I’ll share the story of Roger Bannister, who famously broke the four-minute mile—a feat once thought to be unachievable. His story demonstrates how belief can push you beyond perceived limits. My hope is that by hearing this, you’ll feel inspired to tap into your own belief systems and use your mind as a tool to manifest your goals.
I’m also excited to introduce the Belief Builders Academy, a program I created where belief is at the center of achieving success. Through this program, I’ve seen clients completely transform their lives—whether it’s landing promotions or strengthening their personal relationships—all thanks to the power of belief. In this episode, I’ll share some of these incredible stories and explain how our community, coaching, and masterclasses can help you build both conscious and subconscious belief systems to truly transform your life. Sign up here: https://www.beliefbuilders.com/belief-builders-academy
Let’s dive in and make belief your greatest asset!
Sign up for the Sept 30th Masterclass, How to Persuade and Influence with Delight: https://beliefbuilders.myflodesk.com/delight Join the Belief Builders Academy here: https://www.beliefbuilders.com/belief-builders-academy
Stay Connected with Heather:
Get Heather’s 8 Beliefs to Change Your Life here: https://beliefbuilders.myflodesk.com/8beliefs
Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/
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Website: https://advocatetowin.com
Watch Episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@heatherhansenpresentstheel5059/featured
Heather’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theelegantwarrior
In this episode, Heather discusses the following:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:21] Belief Builders Academy Launch
[03:31] Wealthy Lawyers and Their Belief
[06:53] Beyoncé's Example of Belief
[07:55] Manifestation and Belief
[09:57] Subconscious Belief Work
[14:54] Belief Builders Academy Features
[15:57] Hypnosis in the Academy
[19:24] Pricing and Membership Details
The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
If you want to learn how to believe in yourself and all that’s possible for you, you need to join the Belief Builders’ Academy. If you want to learn how to get others to believe in you and your value, you need to join the Belief Builders’ Academy. In today’s episode, Heather talks to two BBA members and they share their experiences.
In this conversation, Debbie and Amy share what they’ve learned after a year in the Academy. They share how learning about beliefs, delight and evidence has changed their lives for the better. Don’t miss this conversation, especially if you want to learn more about the membership!
Doors to the Belief Builders’ Academy open on Sept 30th, and it is only $97 a month. You can cancel anytime Here’s the link for the waitlist: https://beliefbuilders.myflodesk.com/.
Debbie is the co-founder of Tessie Pearl, a community for widows where women will experience emotional healing, build financial confidence and rediscover life's passions. Retreats and memberships will be starting in 2025. She is on social media, YouTube and her website is tessiepearl.com.
Scams are a concern for everyone these days and widows are especially targeted. Debbie has a PDF of some common scams that we can protect ourselves from.
https://tessiepearl.com/can-you-spot-a-scam
Amy is a single mom, a life science and biotech program manager and a consultant. She’s very active in her daughter’s Montessori school
Sign up for the Sept 30th Masterclass, How to Persuade and Influence with Delight
Sign up for the Belief Builders Academy Waitlist here
Stay Connected with Heather:
Get Heather’s 8 Beliefs to Change Your Life here: https://beliefbuilders.myflodesk.com/8beliefs
Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/
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Website: https://advocatetowin.com
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Heather’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theelegantwarrior
You may believe in the power of delight and know that when you use delight well, you win. But now the question is-HOW do you find that delight? In this episode, Heather shares three ways to find delight when you need it.
In this episode, you'll discover:
- The difference between delight and joy. Understand why delight is a more accessible and powerful emotion.
- The three pillars of delight. Learn the practical steps you can take to cultivate delight in your life, including movement, positive self-talk, and curiosity.
- The transformative power of delight. Discover how delight can enhance your relationships, improve your productivity, and increase your overall well-being.
- Overcoming obstacles to delight. Learn how to overcome common challenges that may prevent you from experiencing delight.
- The importance of self-compassion. Understand why it's essential to be kind to yourself, even when you're not feeling delighted.
Are you ready to break free from the chains of negativity and embrace a life filled with joy and fulfillment? In this episode, we explore the secrets to unlocking the transformative power of delight.
Sign up for the Sept 30th Masterclass, How to Persuade and Influence with Delight
Stay Connected with Heather:
Get Heather’s 8 Beliefs to Change Your Life here: https://beliefbuilders.myflodesk.com/8beliefs
Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/
Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/
Website: https://advocatetowin.com
Watch Episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@heatherhansenpresentstheel5059/featured
Heather’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theelegantwarrior
In this episode: [00:00] Introduction
[02:48] Delight is not joy.
[03:44] Delight is pleasure.
[07:46] Movement can bring delight
[09:45] Words are magic
[14:28] Curiosity
[17:43] If you are not in delight, you are not doing it wrong
The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
Heather is always focused on asking for what you want with delight. But why is delight so important? In this engaging episode, Heather sheds light on what delight is, why it’s crucial, and how it helps us to reach goals and influence people. She will also highlight how delight serves as a powerful tool in many areas of life.
In this episode, you'll explore:
- The Difference Between Delight and Joy: Heather distinguishes between delight and joy, emphasizing that delight is more accessible and can be a powerful tool in various aspects of life.
- The Power of Delight to Change a Room's Energy: Heather will unveil how delight can be a force that can change the energy in a room, making interactions more positive and effective.
- Delight vs. Gratitude: Heather expresses why delight can be more powerful than gratitude, arguing that delight brings more energy, creativity, and success.
- Delight as a Key to Getting What You Want: In this part, Heather will share stories and examples of how delight has helped her clients achieve their goals in various situations.
Ready to start embracing the power of delight in your life? Shift your mindset today by tuning in to this amazing episode.
Here is the list of articles and books referenced in this episode
Link to study about energy being contagious
Link to study about the power of gratitude
Link to the book The Magic by Rhonda Byrne
Sign up for the Sept 30th Masterclass, How to Persuade and Influence with Delight
Link to get more information about hypnosis
In this episode, Heather discusses the following:
[00:00] Introduction to Delight
[00:01] Difference Between Delight and Joy
[05:00] The Power of Delight in Changing a Room's Energy
[09:23] Delight vs. Gratitude
[18:40] Delight as a Key to Getting What You Want
[27:27] Upcoming Masterclass on Persuasion and Influence with Delight
Stay Connected with Heather:
Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/
Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/
Website: https://advocatetowin.com
Watch Episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@heatherhansenpresentstheel5059/featured
Heather’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theelegantwarrior
The content in Episode 309 - "Why Delight Always Wins" and other materials provided by Heather Hansen are for informational, educational, and entertainment purposes only. This information is not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding any medical, mental health, or business-related concerns.
We might think only salespeople are selling, but we're all selling in different ways every day. In this episode, Heather and Danielle talk about how to sell with joy and why believing in what you're offering is key to success. They show how a positive mindset can help you sell more effectively.
Danielle is the Co-Founder and CEO of Scrunch, a global membership for marketers, and the Founder of SPARK, a membership for women in business who want to grow their profit and impact.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Beliefs for Selling Well: Danielle and Heather talk about how believing in your product and being its biggest supporter helps you sell better.
- Positive Interactions: They explain that to keep relationships healthy, you need 5 positive interactions for every negative one.
- Women in Business: Danielle shares how women can achieve great things in business and grow their companies faster, making a bigger impact in their communities.
Want to learn how to sell with joy and make a bigger impact? Listen to Episode 308 with Heather and Danielle to discover the key beliefs for successful selling and how to build positive interactions in your business.
Don't miss out—listen now!
Here is the list of Danielle’s books:
Danielle’s book choice was 10X Is Easier than 2X.
Her song was 9 to 5 by Dolly Parton.
You can find Danielle and all of her offerings here.
In this episode, Heather and Danielle uncovered:
[00.00] Introduction
[00:28] We're Always Selling
[01:58] About Danielle's Business Life
[05:06] Launching Scrunch
[09:35] Beliefs needed to sell things effectively
[13:44] Positive Interactions
[27:22] Women in business
You don’t have to build beliefs on your own. Heather has created a checklist of 8 Beliefs you can embrace today to change your life completely. You can get that list here,and have your own go-to beliefs for anytime you’re looking to change feelings, actions and results.
Get Heather’s 8 Beliefs to Change Your Life here.
To get on the Belief Builders' Academy waitlist, click here!
Stay Connected with Heather:
Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/
Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/
Website: https://advocatetowin.com
Watch Episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@heatherhansenpresentstheel5059/featured
Heather’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theelegantwarrior
The content in Episode 308 - "How to Sell With Delight" and other materials provided by Heather Hansen and Danielle Lewis are for informational, educational, and entertainment purposes only. This information is not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding any medical, mental health, or business-related concerns. Use this content at your own risk.
Don't miss the opportunity to join the Belief Builders' Academy! The waitlist is here.
We’re often told to “believe in yourself,” but rarely are we shown how to do it. That ends today. In this transformative episode, Heather unveils the three secrets to cultivating delightful confidence—the kind of confidence that uplifts you and attracts positivity into your life.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- The Power of “Delightful” Confidence: Heather explains why aiming for delightful confidence is essential and how other types of confidence can actually hold you back. This is the kind of confidence that feels good and does good.
- The Secret Cs of Confidence: Heather reveals her 3 Secret Cs that form the foundation of delightful confidence. These practical strategies are not just concepts but actionable steps you can apply immediately.
- How to Build Your Belief with the Secret Cs: Learn the secrets themselves—how to Choose a story to believe, Create and collect evidence to support that story, and Cushion your belief against doubt. These are the exact steps Heather and her clients use to maintain unshakeable confidence.
- Real-Life Success Stories: Hear how Heather and her clients have successfully integrated these secrets into their lives, transforming their confidence and achieving remarkable results.
Ready to unlock delightful confidence and truly believe in yourself? Tune in to this episode and start your journey today.
If you want to learn more about Hypnosis, here's the 5 Things You Didn't Know About Hypnosis sheet.
To get on the Belief Builders' Academy waitlist, click here!
In this episode:
[00:00] Introduction
[00:02] The reason you want to believe in yourself, the Secret Cs
[04:02] Choosing your belief
[12:01] Collecting and Creating Evidence
[18:49] Cushioning your belief
[24:10] Combining conscious and subconscious tools
[28:03] Information and pricing for Belief Builders’ Academy
Stay Connected with Heather:
Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/
Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/
Website: https://advocatetowin.com
Watch Episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@heatherhansenpresentstheel5059/featured
Heather’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theelegantwarrior
The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
You think that your thoughts create your life, but you’re wrong. It’s your beliefs that create your life, because nothing happens until someone believes. And today, Heather is sharing why that is the case.
First, Heather shares one story which shows exactly how different beliefs and thoughts are, and why it’s not your limiting thoughts but your limiting beliefs that hold you back. Next, you’ll learn about the “BEAR process” which illustrates how beliefs work and how they become your results. Third, you’ll learn 3 secrets about beliefs that will help you to know the difference between beliefs and thoughts and how to use thoughts to serve your beliefs. And finally, you’ll learn why remembering that nothing happens until someone believes helps you with building your beliefs and building the beliefs of those you lead, serve and love.
You don’t have to build beliefs on your own. Heather has created a checklist of 8 Beliefs you can embrace today to change your life completely. You can get that list here,and have your own go-to beliefs for anytime you’re looking to change feelings, actions and results.
- Get Heather’s 8 Beliefs to Change Your Life here.
Resources: Placebo effect study/review: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2582668/
In this episode: 0:02-Thoughts vs beliefs, with examples from personal experience 3:36 Beliefs vs thoughts and their impact on feelings and actions 11:01 How to recognize and manage your beliefs, and use your thoughts to serve them
Stay Connected with Heather:
Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/ Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/ Website: https://advocatetowin.com/ Watch Episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@heatherhansenpresentstheel5059/featured Heather’s TikTok
The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
This podcast is all about choosing and building your beliefs. But what beliefs will serve you best? After coaching hundreds of clients, Heather has discovered 8 beliefs that have made the most significant impact. And now she’s sharing them with you. Click here to get the 8 Beliefs that will change your life!
Cindy Carrillo was a businesswoman for over 40 years who has started several of her own businesses, including being the Founder and CEO of a national B2B company that provided work/life services to employees of top Fortune 500 businesses, she knows the life cycle of a business. Her recent book, Finding Your Nxt-When You’re Ready for the Life You Really Want, is out now. You can learn all about Cindy and get her book here.
In this conversation, Cindy discussed her experience of leaving her previous career to move on to the next chapter of her life. She emphasized the importance of self-empowerment, pushing beyond comfort zones, and designing life with purpose. Heather and Cindy also stressed the need for self-awareness, curiosity, and patience in navigating the processes of change and growth. This conversation highlighted the significance of defining one's purpose and never doubting your ability to make a change.
Heather and Cindy discussed 02-Finding one’s next phase of life, including the importance of wanting more and embracing multiple big dreams.
1021 Identifying and pursuing audacious dreams versus fantasy dreams with a focus on self-awareness and intentional living.
1828 Major life changes, leaps and the importance (and challenge!) of patience
25:59 Taking the next step, with a focus on self-authorship
Cindy’s book choice was You Are a Bad Ass by Jen Cincero
Her song was We Are Family by Sister Sledge
Don’t forget that all of our guests’ songs are featured on The Elegant Warrior playlist!
Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/ Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/ Website: https://advocatetowin.com/
In today’s episode, Heather shares why you should WANT to be more manipulative. Then she shares the importance of WHO you are manipulating. Finally, she gives you the three steps to be more manipulative and how to put them into practice.
If you want to get on the waitlist for the Belief Builders’ Academy, sign up here.
Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/ Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/ Website: https://advocatetowin.com/
Here’s the link to chat with Heather about 1:1 coaching.
Colin Coggins and Garrett Brown are adjunct professors of entrepreneurship at USC’s Marshall School of Business, where they teach the popular class they created, “Sales Mindset for Entrepreneurs.” They are also authors, speakers, sales professionals, and best friends who met while working at enterprise software startup Bitium, which they helped lead to Google's acquisition.
They are the authors of the Wall Street Journal best seller “The Unsold Mindset” In this fun conversation they discuss what it means to “fall in love” with your customers and to have pathological optimism.
You can find them and their book here.
Garrett’s book choice is Demon Copperhead by Barbara Kingsolver
Colin’s book choice is Super Communicator by Charles Dughigg.
Colin’s song choice is Summer by Calvin Harris
Garrett’s is Call Me Maybe by Carly Rae Jepsen
And if you want to get on the waitlist for the Belief Builders’ Academy, sign up here.
Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/ Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/ Website: https://advocatetowin.com/
“With delight or not at all.” Since Heather has taken this on as her mantra, it has changed everything.
It started with her definition of advocating. She defines it as 1-knowing what you want 2-asking for it, out loud and with delight and 3-mastering the art of the ask.
That delight piece was interesting because she started getting what she wanted when she asked with delight. Then she wondered what would happen if she did everything with delight. Find out what did happen-and what could happen for you!
To meet with Heather about 1:1 coaching, schedule a call here.
To get on the wait list for the Belief Builder’s Academy (and get some facts you might not know about hypnosis!), sign up here.
Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/ Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/ Website: https://advocatetowin.com/
Dr. Darnyelle Jervey Harmon worked in corporate for a bank, and while there she got her MBA. However, she knew there was something greater for her so she left the security of that job to work for Mary Kay. But she knew that she was being called to have her own business, so she took the leap and started her business, Incredible One Enterprises. She coaches, has her own podcast and has written numerous books.
In today’s episode we discussed her newest book, Move to Millions, the Proven Framework to Become a Million Dollar CEO with Grace and Ease Instead of Hustle and Grind. We talked about confidence, forgiveness and surrender, and how they play into our ability to succeed.
Learn more about Dr Darnyelle here: https://drdarnyelle.com/
The 7 Figure Summer Success Series
Darnyelle’s books were:
A Happy Pocket Full of Money by David Cameron Gikandi
The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
The Shack by William P Young
Her song was Bravo by Ledisi
To Work with Heather, click on the links below:
Here’s the link to the Hypnosis info/waitlist.
If you want to talk to Heather about working 1:1 or joining the Belief Builders’ Academy, the link to meet with her is here.
The link is here if you want to bring Heather into your organization to build belief in a change you’re making.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/ Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/ Website: https://advocatetowin.com/
In this episode, you’ll learn why the ability to build beliefs is the key to anything you want in life. When you know how to build your own beliefs, you’ll be able to overcome self-doubt and fear, go for what you want, and get it. When you know how to build others’ beliefs, you’ll be able to persuade them to give you what you want because it is also good for them.
Listen to this episode for the secrets to building belief!
Here’s the link to get on the list for information about hypnosis.
To Work with Heather, click on the links below:
If you want to talk to Heather about working 1:1 or joining the Belief Builders’ Academy, the link to meet with her is here.
The link is here if you want to bring Heather into your organization to build belief in a change you’re making.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/ Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/ Website: https://advocatetowin.com/
Jodi Harrison Bauer is a two-time World Bikini Champion, founder and owner of JodiFit boutique fitness studio, host of Fearlessly Authentic podcast and the oldest woman to ever compete for the iconic Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue.
She is also 63 years old, and great evidence of all that we can be as we age. In this episode we talked about aging, being authentic, using and being evidence, and the power of silence. You don’t want to miss this conversation.
Find links to all of Jodi’s offerings here.
Her book is Things I Wish I Told My Mother by Susan Patterson
Her song is Courage to Change by Sia
To Work with Heather, click on the links below:
Here’s the link to the Hypnosis info/waitlist.
If you want to talk to Heather about working 1:1 or joining the Belief Builders’ Academy, the link to meet with her is here.
The link is here if you want to bring Heather into your organization to build belief in a change you’re making.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/ Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/ Website: https://advocatetowin.com/
Everyone wants to be more confident, but there are 3 blocks that stand in your way. Confidence is simply a belief–believing yourself, believing in yourself, and believing you have your own back. And these three things stop you from believing. When you know how to overcome them, you build your belief. And confidence follows.
Find links to all of Jodi’s offerings here.
Here’s the link to last week’s episode.
Here’s the link to the Hypnosis info/waitlist.
Here’s the link to chat about working together.
To Work with Heather, click on the links below:
If you want to talk to Heather about working 1:1 or joining the Belief Builders’ Academy, the link to meet with her is here.
The link is here if you want to bring Heather into your organization to build belief in a change you’re making.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/ Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/ Website: https://advocatetowin.com/
Barry Beder is an absolute phenom in the world of hypnosis. He has a psychology degree from Northeastern University and a Masters degree in Social Work from the University of Michigan. When he saw that one of his colleagues who used hypnosis was getting better results than he was, he asked that colleague to teach him hypnosis. Since then, he’s used hypnosis to help people lose weight, quit smoking, get over phobias, stop stuttering, and so much more. Decades ago, I did hypnosis with Barry and lost 100 pounds. It changed my life and so many others.
Barry has also worked with organizations like the Dana Farber Institute and the Red Sox! In this conversation, we discuss what hypnosis is, what and who it is good for, and the many ways it could change your life!
If you want to get on the list to learn more about hypnosis and be the first to learn when I’m certified and offering sessions, here’s the link.
Barry’s book choice was Moby Dick by Herman Melville
His song choice was Gonna Fly Now by Bill Conti
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
To Work with Heather, click on the links below:
If you want to talk to Heather about working 1:1 or joining the Belief Builders’ Academy, the link to meet with her is here.
The link is here if you want to bring Heather into your organization to build belief in a change you’re making.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/ Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/ Website: https://advocatetowin.com/
In today’s solo episode, I share my takeaways from the book The Wealth of Shadows by Graham Moore. In August of 1939, a young tax attorney goes to DC to work for the Treasury Dept to bring down Nazi economy. This book is all about this challenge, and his work with historical figures like John Maynard Keynes, FDR, JP Morgan and so many others.
But most of all it’s about belief. We will discuss how belief is necessary for everything in life, but especially for money to work. We will dive into how to build belief, and why this is a skill you must learn if you want to step into your full power.
If you want to talk to Heather about working 1:1 or joining the Belief Builders’ Academy, the link to meet with her is here.
The link is here if you want to bring Heather into your organization to build belief in a change you’re making.
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
Stay Connected with Heather:
- Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/
- Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/
- Website: https://advocatetowin.com/
Christine Miles is a coach, speaker, and an author but most of all she is a listener. She wrote the book “What Is It Costing You Not to Listen?” and the answer is-everything. In this conversation we talk about Transformational Listening, Story Gathering, the role of the subconscious and 6 questions that will change how you listen. We also talk about Howard Stern, patience and ear phones. Don’t miss this important conversation!
Christine’s book choice is The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker
Her song is What It Feels Like For a Girl by Madonna.
If you want to talk to Heather about working 1:1 or joining the Belief Builders’ Academy, the link to meet with her is here.
The link is here if you want to bring Heather into your organization to build belief in a change you’re making.
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
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In this episode, Heather shares the story behind the podcast's name (The Elegant Warrior), the change to the podcast name for the “season,” and the change back. Most importantly, she shares how this story can help you with the choices and changes you face in your life.
Heather also shares how her BEAR Forumula™ applies to all of our choices and to how we approach and optimize change.
If you want to talk to Heather about working 1:1 or joining the Belief Builders’ Academy, the link to meet with her is here.
The link is here if you want to bring Heather into your organization to build belief in a change you’re making.
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
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Paul Epstein is a former high-level executive for multiple NFL and NBA teams and a 2x bestselling author of The Power of Playing Offense and Better Decisions Faster. In 2022, he was named one of SUCCESS magazine’s top-thought leaders who get results.
In this conversation, we talk about making decisions with your heart and your head and using your hands to put those decisions into action.
His book recommendation was Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
His song was My House by Flo Rida
If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather.
And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that!
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
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I bet you’ve heard people talk about using their body language to become a better presenter or speaker. You may have also heard them talk about using your body language and facial expressions to become a better leader. But have you heard people talk about using your tone of voice to be a better speaker, leader, and advocate?
Probably not. And that’s a problem. In many ways, your tone of voice is more important than your body language or facial expressions. In this episode, you’ll learn why that’s true and how to use your tone of voice to build belief and win.
If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather.
And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that!
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
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Bridgett Burrick Brown has over two decades of experience as a professional model. She combines her industry insights with curated studies in holistic health, body image, and eating disorders. She holds certifications as an Integrated Nutrition Health Coach from IIN, a Body Image Coach from the Institute for Body Image, an Eating Disorder Intuitive Therapy Practitioner from EDIT, and a physical Personal Trainer from WITS.
She is the CEO and founder of the Beyond Beauty Project, offering inspirational keynotes, interactive workshops, expert coaching, and an inspiring educational podcast
In this conversation, we discussed quieting body and food noise, following our intuition, and being our own authority.
Her book recommendations are The Five Love Languages and The Artist’s Way.
Her song is Let It Be by The Beatles.
If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather.
And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that!
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
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In today’s episode, I will share the enlightening difference between control and power and how you can harness power to enhance your energy and influence. You’ll learn how power can invigorate your energy, and the exponential impact you can have when you choose power over control.
In this episode, I referenced The Perfectionists’s Guide to Control by Katherine Morgan Shafler.
If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather.
And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that!
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
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Tara Stiles is the co-founder of Strala Yoga, a best-selling author, and a well-being expert. Tara revolutionized yoga for millions, transforming a practice so often seen as dogmatic and guru-based into an everyday movement that supports ease and well-being.
Strala Yoga is practiced in more than 100 countries, thousands of Guides lead Strala classes around the globe, and Tara shares yoga with thousands of people on the Strala Yoga app. She has been profiled by The New York Times, Times of India, and The Times (UK), and featured in most major national and international magazines.
In this conversation we talked about being your own authority, writing books and incorporating tai chi into your yoga practice.
Her book recommendation is The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra
Her song is the Eye of the Tiger by Survivor
If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather.
And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that!
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
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Do you know the difference between saying “no” and setting a boundary? Saying no is often much harder but also much more powerful. Setting boundaries delays the inevitable, while saying “no” opens the door to many more “yeses.”
In this valuable episode, Heather shares the difference between saying “no” and setting boundaries. Take a listen and start saying “no” with delight today!
Sign up for the waitlist for the Mastering Difficult Conversations here.: https://bit.ly/difficultconversationswaitlist
Check out Heather’s necklace at graycglass here: https://graycglass.com/
If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather.
And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that!
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
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Amy Kemp is the CEO of Amy Kemp, Inc. She uses over 20 years of experience growing her own successful business in sales to guide her work and to connect with leaders and businesses within her growing company. She helps leaders and business professionals understand how deeply habits of thinking affect every part of their work and lives. Her new book is I See You-A Guide for Women to Make More, Have More, and Be More-Without More Work.
In this conversation, Amy shares what the Giving Tree can teach us about ourselves (it’s not what you think!), how money is a mirror, how your self-worth impacts your income, and what it’s like to live “on the edge of completely bananas!” I loved this conversation so much, and so will you.
Her book recommendation is Secrets of Six Figure Women
Her song is All I Know So Far by Pink
If you want to sign up for the wait list for the Difficult Conversation course, here’s the link: https://bit.ly/difficultconversationswaitlist
If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather.
And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that!
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
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- Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/
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Do you know how to ask a question that actually gets you the answer you need? If anyone does, it’s Shanin Specter. Shanin is a preeminent American trial lawyer. He is a founding partner of Kline & Specter, one of the leading catastrophic injury firms in the United States. He has obtained more than 200 jury verdicts and settlements over $1 million and more than 50 case resolutions greater than $10 million.
In this conversation, Shanin shares the secrets to asking productive and helpful questions. While he’s a brilliant legal mind, you can apply this conversation to any time you want to ask an effective question.
Shanin’s book recommendation is The Years of Lyndon Johnson Series by Robert Caro.
His song is As Time Goes By–Dooley Wilson
If you want to sign up for the wait list for the Difficult Conversation course, here’s the link: https://bit.ly/difficultconversationswaitlist
If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather.
And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that!
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
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In today’s episode, you’ll learn how to master difficult conversations. Do you struggle with giving or getting feedback, negotiating, asking for what you want, saying no, or setting boundaries? You’re not alone.
And now that many of us have returned to the office and we’re bumping into more people every day, we’re having more of these conversations. So it’s time to master them. In this episode, Heather shares how to change the story we tell ourselves about these conversations so that we can master them and start to get what we want out of them.
If you want to sign up for the wait list for the Difficult Conversation course, here’s the link: https://bit.ly/difficultconversationswaitlist
If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather.
And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that!
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
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What does advocating have to do with health, wellness and achieving a body you feel comfortable in and about? A LOT!
In today’s episode I chat with one of my soul sisters, Courtney Gray. We talk about advocating for ourselves, our health and our bodies. We talk about advocating TO ourselves about our bodies. And we talk about pinning and winning….
Courtney’s book choice was The Last Word on Power by Tracy Goss.
Her theme song is River Flows In You by Yurima
If you want to talk to Heather about 1:1 coaching or having her speak to your team, here’s a link to her calendar!
Learn more about Courtney:
Website: https://courtneygraycoaching.com/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/modern-body-modern-life/id1720478442
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
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What story do you tell yourself about money? If you’re like me, you tell yourself that you’re “bad at it”, that it’s confusing, and that you’re doing it wrong. But it’s time to tell a different story.
In this conversation, Anne Lester tells us about how to have Your Best Financial Life. And she wrote the book on it. Anne spent 20 years as the Head of Retirement Solutions at JP Morgan. She co-founded The Aspen Leadership Forum on Retirement Savings. And now she’s sharing with us how we can think of money differently. If you’re ready to think about money differently, this is the podcast for you.
Anne’s book recommendation is Money Doesn’t Grow on Trees by Neal S Godfrey
Her song is Barbie Dreams
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
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“Take a deep breath.” I feel like I’ve heard this advice for as long as I can remember. I am a crier and always have been. Often when someone can see I’m about to cry, this is their advice. It’s not the greatest advice.
Taking a deep breath may actually make you MORE anxious and upset. But don’t worry, Stacy Fritz will explain which breath will help you. Stacy is one of my very good friends and she’s the founder and inventor of vidaBALL–a tool that will help you to use your breath and trust it. And in the process you’ll trust yourself.
In this wide ranging conversation we talk about breathing, self-advocacy, advocating for your ideas and riding the waves of grief.
Here’s the link to vidaBALL–it’s an amazing tool!
Here are the links to the breathing exercises that Stacy described.
Water–good for anytime
Wine/Whiskey-to relax
Coffee–for energy
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
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You need to hear this episode. Danielle and I are both “recovering trial attorneys”, but we arrived at different times and ways. Have you ever felt like you were doing the wrong thing, but didn’t know how to make a change? When your work/family/role is your identity, changing it can be a huge challenge. And no matter who you are or where you are in that process, this conversation will help.
You’ll learn the power of feeling your feelings and seeing different perspectives on every situation. And, as always, we’ll dive into the power of beliefs and how they guide everything we do.
You can learn more about Danielle here:
Website: https://daniellesunberg.com/
Book: Atlas of Being: https://daniellesunberg.com/book/
You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here.
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In this episode of the podcast, Heather welcomes Urs Koenig, a former United Nations peacekeeper and NATO military peacekeeping commander, who is also the author of "Radical Humility: Be a Badass Leader and a Good Human." Urs discusses the importance of humility in leadership, proposing a shift from traditional heroic leadership to what he calls "now leadership," which is centered on radical humility. This leadership approach is anchored in three pillars: accurate self-knowledge, self-awareness, and relational leadership. He emphasizes that feedback is crucial for growth and development as a leader and that vulnerability is key to building trust.
Heather and Urs also explore how his endurance athletic background has shaped his views on leadership and the skill of learning to lose. They talk about effective communication and the various ways of conveying messages to reach different audiences. Urs shares insights into his upcoming book "Leadership Now," which aims to be personal, research-based and includes practical exercises for readers to apply its concepts.
In this episode you will learn:
(00:00:02) Introducing Urs Koenig on Radical Humility
(00:01:00) Katie Shipman's New Book on Leading with Radical Humility
(00:07:26) The Importance of Feedback for Leadership Growth
(00:09:59) Building Trust through Vulnerability
(00:12:04) Earning Vulnerability in Relationships by Brene Brown
(00:18:43) Radical Humility and Endurance Athletics
(00:22:04) Highlight from Page 147 of Radical Humility
(00:25:33) Leadership Prompts for Immediate Application
(00:27:43) Book Recommendations from Urs Koenig
Learn more about Urs Koenig:
Book: Radical Humility: Be a Badass Leader and a Good Human
Website: https://www.urskoenig.com/
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In today’s episode of How to Advocate, we’re talking about complacency. Whether you’re an individual leading yourself or a leader within an organization, complacency is a problem. When people are complacent they don’t engage and they certainly don’t invest. They don’t collaborate and they don’t grow.
But how do you overcome complacency? The answer is BELIEF. In this episode, Heather shares the CURE for Complacency. The CURE is belief that is Contagious, Unapologetic, Reasoned (not reasonable), and Empathetic. (and if you need help with the Empathy piece this exercise will definitely help!) https://bit.ly/ThreeExercisesforGreaterPerspective
And if you want to dive deeper into this work, The Self Advocacy School is the easiest place to start. It’s a place where you can practice building belief (first your own, then others’) and become an extraordinary advocate. Here’s the link to join.
Finally, if you want Heather to help your team CURE complacency and gain exponential growth, here’s the link to chat!
Whether you’re leading yourself, a team or an organization, you’re always going to face complacency. You need the CURE!
In this episode, you’ll hear
2:00-The dangers of complacency in personal and professional growth
2:22 The cure for complacency through belief
7:04 Contagious belief and unapologetic leadership
12:09 Motivating and leading others through empathetic belief
14:21 Overcoming complacency in personal and professional life
19:57 Belief and its impact on growth
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This week Heather shares the 3 Es of an Advocate–Energy, Empathy, and Evidence. She shares how you can use these three Es to build belief. There are examples of how to use these 3 Es in corporate life and family life. Enjoy!
Register here for the Feb 16th masterclass on How to Be the Strongest Energy In the Room.
Join the Belief Builder’s Academy here.
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Advocating is overcoming doubts and building beliefs. Ultimately, it’s the ability to ask for what you want and get it, over and over again. After 25 years of studying the art of advocacy, Heather Hansen has identified three simple steps to ask for what you want and get it.
1-Know what you want.
2-Ask for it, out loud and with delight.
3-Master the art of the ask.
In this episode, you’ll learn the specifics of all three steps. And you’ll walk away with the ability to ask for what you want–and get it.
If you want help with these 3 steps, you can get free access to the exercises that will help you to see other perspectives. The ability to do so will help you with all 3 steps. You can access those exercises here.
And if you want to own the magic of these three steps, you could join The Self Advocacy School. The opportunity to be a Founding Member will be over at the end of February, so this is your chance to get what you want, over and over again. Find out more here.
And now, in this episode you’ll learn more about:
- Advocacy and knowing what you want. (0:02)
- the definitions of advocacy
- Advocating is about asking for what you want and getting it, whether in personal or professional settings.
- How being unsure of what you want leads to paralysis and a lack of clarity in career or personal goals.
- Heather’s personal growth and career development. (4:30)
- Heather’s experience of transitioning from trial attorney to coach, highlighting the importance of practicing and being willing to make mistakes in discovering one's true desires.
- Finding and asking for what you want in life. (7:49)
- The difference between “leaping” and “creeping” to what you want.
- How Heather crept into her new career by experimenting with different roles while still maintaining her full-time job as an attorney.
- The importance of asking for what you want directly and with delight, rather than relying on manifesting or giving what you want to receive.
- Recognize the common mistake of trying to prove oneself by doing extra work, rather than simply asking for what you want.
- The importance of asking with delight. (12:27)
- Ask with delight to increase the likelihood of getting what you want.
- Advocacy skills for personal and professional growth. (15:58)
- Understand the importance of mastering the art of the ask, which involves understanding and addressing the needs and perspectives of one's jury.
- Reception skills are key to advocacy, as they involve listening and figuring out what the “jury” wants and needs, and then speaking to that perspective in a way that changes their beliefs.
Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
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- Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/
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There are many tools you can use to advocate for anything you want, and today we’re focusing on one of the most important tools-Evidence.
Whether you’re a leader advocating for change, a salesperson advocating for your product/service, an individual advocating for more resources or a partner advocating for more support, you can use evidence to build beliefs and win.
- You build belief through the evidence you collect and create in your life. 00:02
- You can start by recognizing the limiting beliefs that are holding you back.
- You believe in things outside of yourself all day long. 2:18
- Examples of all the ways you believe in things outside of yourself.
- Ways you can start building belief in yourself
- You can collect and create evidence to build your beliefs in yourself and your potential.
- You are also evidence for the people in your life. 7:16
- Your vibration alone is a very strong piece of evidence that impacts you and others.
- Your words, actions and results may be building belief for others.
- An example of how Jasmine Star serves as evidence for Heather, and how others can serve as evidence for you. 11:58
- Master the skill of collecting and creating evidence and you can believe in (and achieve) almost anything! 15:35
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In this episode, Heather shares why we must all think of ourselves as advocates. She explains that leading, selling and serving are really advocating. Advocating is building belief, and when you learn to do it well-you win.
You’ll hear about:
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Advocacy in various contexts. 0:02
- Recognize the importance of advocacy in various contexts, including supporting TV shows, selling broccoli to children, and serving clients in the courtroom.
- Advocacy involves leading and selling, creating a customer experience, and providing evidence and stories to influence decisions.
- How to provide a positive experience by being aware of the needs of those you serve, while also remembering that those needs change.
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Advocacy, leading, selling, and creating experiences. 4:47
- Learn the importance of advocating, leading, selling, and creating an experience for others, highlighting the interconnectedness of these concepts.
- Advocating is a crucial aspect of these processes, as it involves serving and providing value to others to the point where they become advocates for you.
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When Heather turned jurors into advocates in the courtroom and got a mistrial. 9:42
- Jurors were evenly divided, with some advocating for the patient and others for the attorney, leading to a mistrial.
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Advocacy in business, leadership, and customer experience. 13:17
- How you can turn people into advocates by teaching them how to effectively advocate for you.
- The three steps to advocating are knowing what you want, asking for it with delight, and mastering the art of the ask.
- Appreciating the importance of storytelling and advocacy in business.
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Mastering the art of persuasion through empathy and understanding. 17:02
- Learn about the importance of seeing things from the perspective of the person you want to influence, whether it's one person or many.
- Mastering the art of the Ask involves understanding and communicating from different perspectives to effectively advocate for change.
- Learn how to build belief in yourself and others to turn them into advocates.
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Advocacy skills and emotional connection. 22:01
- Heather describes a powerful experience with a juror who became an advocate, believing in their case and making them feel seen and heard.
- Information on how to share the podcast and join their self-advocacy school, offering exclusive resources for founding members.
Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/
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This is a new season of The Elegant Warrior, and it’s called How to Advocate. No matter what you want this year–better health, more money, better relationships–you will have to advocate to get it. You’ll need to advocate for more time, more resources, more money, better boundaries, and more help. In this episode, you’ll learn the tools to begin.
But before we begin, it’s important to remember that one of the biggest tools of an advocate is perspective. When you communicate, you share perspectives. When you advocate, you change them. So I created 3 exercises to help you get better at seeing other perspectives. You can access that here https://bit.ly/ThreeExercisesforGreaterPerspective
Whether you’re a leader, in sales or just starting your career, you need to learn to advocate. In this episode, Heather Hansen teaches you
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How to use Advocacy for personal and professional growth. 0:02
- The importance of advocating for personal goals and intentions to succeed.
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Advocacy, overcoming doubts, and cross-examining experts. 1:47
- Advocacy skills from the courtroom and how to overcome doubts through cross-examination.
- How to use facts, evidence, and expert testimony to challenge anyone, including yourself
- How to build belief and overcome doubts through advocacy. 5:48
- the importance of building belief in oneself and others, rather than just overcoming doubts.
- the "three C's of an advocate" (curiosity, compassion, and credibility) as a framework for turning facts into evidence and stories into proof.
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Advocacy and self-care for professionals. 7:51
- The story of an emergency room physician in a challenging case involving a patient's death and subsequent lawsuit.
- How Heather learned to advocate for herself, transforming her life and teaching others to do the same.
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Advocacy skills for personal and professional growth. 11:32
- The importance of advocating for oneself before advocating for others.
- In How to Advocate, you’ll learn How to advocate for yourself and others through weekly episodes on topics such as leadership, sales, health, and more.
- Heather will use her 20 years of courtroom experience, psychology degree, and reading of 200 books a year to provide valuable insights and tools for listeners to become stronger advocates.
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In today’s episode, you’ll learn what it means to advocate, and why you must master the skill if you want to win.
Heather will share:
-the formal definition of “advocate”
-her definition and how it all relies upon building belief.
-the 3 steps to advocating for yourself and what you want.
-why you must believe in order to do steps 1 and 2.
-how evidence plays a role in advocating
-the role that “elegance” plays in mastering this skill.
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I had the privilege of interviewing Dr. Gladys McGarey today. Dr. Gladys McGarey is a 102-year-old doctor and author of The Well Lived Life: Six Secrets to Health and Happiness at Every Age. In this episode, she shares how to be truly alive, the importance of your true nature and how to spend your energy wisely.
Dr. Gladys McGarey is no ordinary centenarian. A true trailblazer, she is recognized as a founding diplomat of the American Board of Holistic Medicine. Her influence has been felt across the medical landscape as the co-founder and past president of the American Holistic Medical Association. Her commitment to bridging the gap between conventional and holistic approaches is truly inspiring.
In this incredibly insightful episode, we're reminded that age is truly just a number when it comes to a passionate pursuit of knowledge and healing. Dr. Gladys McGarey's legacy continues to remind us of the immense potential that lies within the field of holistic medicine.
To learn more about our guest, visit these links:
Book: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Well-Lived-Life/Gladys-McGarey/9781668014486
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/begladmd/?hl=en
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In this episode of The Elegant Warrior podcast, we're diving into the importance of standing up for yourself and unlocking your fullest potential. I've learned from my experience as a trial attorney that standing up for yourself goes beyond just avoiding being taken advantage of - it's about asking for what you want in a way that gets results.
I share a story from my early career where I stood up for someone in a tense mediation situation. This experience taught me the power of taking up space in a room and advocating for my own wants and needs.
Standing up for ourselves doesn't mean we are disconnected from others, in fact, it allows us to share our boundaries, our dreams, and our potential. It helps us to navigate challenging conversations more effectively and move forward in our journeys, towards the path of fulfilling our dreams and accessing our limitless potential.
Key Takeaways:
· Discover the profound impact that standing up for oneself has on personal and career trajectory.
· Gain insightful methods on eloquently expressing your needs and desires for more productive interactions.
· Understand the potential drawbacks of avoiding difficult discussions and how they can impede progress.
· Delve deep into the transformative power of self-assertion in reaching peak performance.
· Learn the secrets of successful negotiation for better outcomes in challenging conversations.
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Today’s guest is Cait Donovan. Cait Donovan is a Keynote speaker, one of New York City's leading burnout experts, host of “Fried – The Burnout Podcast,” author of the book "The Bouncebackability Factor", and an acupuncturist with a master's degree in Chinese medicine.
This was a great conversation about burnout, resentment, and boundaries. We discussed:
- Feeling not good enough. 2:00
- The biggest component of burnout is feelings of not being enough.
- What does burnout mean to you? 4:18
- Burnout is when the pilot light in the body goes too low and there is not enough energy to sustain normal functioning, rejuvenation, etc.
- The feeling of not being enough is part of burnout, and being too much is also part of it.
- The difference between burnout and stress. 9:21
- Stress and burnout are a continuum. Burnout is the far end of chronic unmitigated stress, while stress is healthy and good when it is not chronic.
- Resentment is the number one tool for keeping yourself out of burnout. It is one of the main tools that she teaches people.
- More on resentment
- If you pay close attention to resentments objectively, you will notice that each and every zone of your life where your boundaries are being crossed.
- Boundaries make you more generous and more forgiving. 17:00
- When boundaries are in place, the places that you enjoy being generous are available to you and you can use them.
- What does it mean to honor your calendar? 19:03
- The importance of honoring appointments and paying yourself back
- What resentment feels like to Cait
- How to set boundaries when you feel resentment. 20:48
- When she feels resentful, it is because she is over giving and feeling like she is doing the same thing.
- When there is a mismatch in a relationship and resentment is building up, ask yourself a few questions to sort through what is really going on.
- For some of us and even relationships, we bounce before sending a boundary because we are afraid of setting a boundary.
- How to avoid burnout? 26:04
- Finding the balance between bringing resources in and only releasing the resources that are available.
- If one does not learn in one area of their life, they can leave whatever relationship or job they want and take it with them to another place.
- What is the first step to identifying your resentments? 28:26
- Identifying resentments is one of the first steps when people come to work with you, because they are the signposts.
Here’s a link to Cait’s mini-course on resentments!
https://www.caitdonovan.com/store
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In this episode of "The Elegant Warrior," we have a special guest, Dr. Sasha Shillcutt, an accomplished physician, author, and advocate for women's empowerment. Sasha is the founder and CEO of Brave Enough, a platform dedicated to helping women set boundaries, say no, and take control of their time. In her book, "Brave Boundaries," she shares valuable insights and strategies for establishing boundaries to lead a more fulfilled and balanced life.
Key Takeaways:
- The Struggle with Setting Boundaries: Dr. Sasha Shillcutt discusses the societal expectations that often make it challenging for women to set boundaries for themselves. Women are often seen as caregivers and helpers, making it difficult to prioritize self-care. This tendency can lead to boundary backlash and challenges when trying to set personal boundaries.
- Persuading Yourself to Set Boundaries: To overcome the difficulty of setting boundaries, Dr. Shillcutt advises persuading oneself by telling a new story. She encourages women to identify false beliefs about boundaries and replace them with the understanding that boundaries are essential for wellness and self-care. By persuading ourselves, we can enforce boundaries confidently.
- Identifying Boundary Categories: In her book, Dr. Shillcutt outlines different boundary categories, such as professional life, personal life, family, social media, and more. By identifying and understanding these categories, women can take the first step toward establishing meaningful boundaries in their lives.
- Approachable vs. Accessible: Dr. Shillcutt highlights the distinction between being approachable and being accessible. Being constantly accessible can lead to burnout and disengagement. Setting boundaries allows women to control when and how they engage with others, ensuring they can give their best to every aspect of their lives.
- The Power of Compartmentalization: Compartmentalization can be a powerful tool for creating balance and productivity. Dr. Shillcutt shares how she compartmentalizes different aspects of her life, like work and family, allowing her to focus on one area at a time and be more present in each role.
Boundaries are essential for well-being and empowerment. Dr. Sasha Shillcutt's book, "Brave Boundaries," offers valuable insights and strategies for setting boundaries that lead to a more balanced and fulfilled life. By persuading ourselves of the value of boundaries, identifying our priorities, and learning to compartmentalize, we can create a life that aligns with our mission and purpose.
To learn more about Dr. Sasha Shillcutt and her work, visit her website at becomebraveenough.com. Don't forget to check out her book, "Brave Boundaries," for practical tips and inspiration to create a life with healthier boundaries.
Remember, elegance is a choice, and setting boundaries is a powerful step towards living an elegant life. Embrace your power, say no when necessary, and stand strong in setting your boundaries for a more fulfilled and empowered life.
Sasha’s book choices The Confidence Code/The Confidence Code for Girls
Sasha’s song choice Titanium
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In part 2 of my How to Believe series, I will explain the next step to believing in yourself and I’ll share how I recently used this to go on a trip I’ll never forget.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- How to make yourself believe first
- The power of evidence and storytelling (the Santa Claus experience)
- How we can both collect and create evidence to build belief
- Why we may need to take the leap and do the thing in order to create our own evidence
Mentioned in this episode:
Joie: A Parisian's Guide to Celebrating the Good Life by Ajiri Aki
Second Life podcast with Hillary Kerr
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We’ve heard it many times, we have to believe in ourselves and our abilities. But no one really talks about how. In this episode, I want to teach you how to believe.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- The two steps to believing
- The real reason why you don’t know what you want
- Four types of belief styles, and how to identify which one you have
- Why evidence is an important part in believing
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Author and psychologist Michael Banissy offers insight on the new science of human touch, and the impact it has on our physical and mental health, relationships, and more.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- How the pandemic and going on lockdown was the inspiration for his book
- How a self-hug during a stressful scenario can be just as beneficial as a hug from somebody else
- What happens when we don’t receive enough touch and ways that we can access it
- Why different people may need different levels of touch
Michael’s book recommendation, The Practice of Groundedness by Brad Stulberg
~ ABOUT MICHAEL BANISSY ~
Michael is an award-winning Professor of Psychological Science at the University of Bristol (where he is also Head of Psychology). He is an author and science communicator who regularly participates in public events, podcasts, radio, and television. Michael has also been recognized for his engagement with the public and industry. He is a member of the Royal Society Industry Fellows College. He also regularly works with organizations to apply psychological science in the workplace in areas such as creativity and innovation, empathy, teamwork, and social connection.
Book, Touch Matters: Handshakes, Hugs, and the New Science on How Touch Can Enhance Your Well-Being
Website, Banissy.com
Instagram, @mbanissy
Twitter, @mbanissy
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If you're feeling trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and anxiety every time you make a mistake, constantly seeking external validation and approval to avoid being wrong, then you are not alone! Many individuals struggling with the fear of being wrong find themselves stuck in this painful emotion, unable to fully embrace their true potential. Despite their efforts to avoid making mistakes, they may still face criticism, rejection, and a lack of personal growth.
It's time to shift the perspective on being wrong, empowering ourselves with the mindset that mistakes are opportunities for learning and growth, and advocating for our own beliefs and ideas confidently.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Discover the art of embracing uncertainty and turning it into a powerful tool for growth.
- Uncover unique ways of switching your outlook on being wrong and see it as a stepping stone to success.
- Learn how accepting failure opens doors to invaluable learning experiences.
- Realize the profound impact fear can have on your ability to advocate effectively.
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For the holiday week, I’m re-releasing one of my MVP (Most Valuable Podcast) episodes. Author Oliver Burkeman explains how we can all gain a new relationship with time and stop pushing ourselves to fit it all in.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Why our time is finite
- The reality behind procrastination
- Why we should focus on enjoying the things we have time for and not the things we don’t
References Mentioned:
Maria Shriver’s Newsletter, I’ve Been Thinking…about What We Truly Need
The Guardian article, Time Millionaires
Oliver’s book recommendation, Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life by James Hollis
~ ABOUT OLIVER BURKEMAN ~
Oliver Burkeman is a winner of the Foreign Press Association's Young Journalist of the Year Award and has been short-listed for the Orwell Prize. He wrote a long-running weekly column on psychology for The Guardian, "This Column Will Change Your Life," and his work has also appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Psychologies, and New Philosopher.
Book, Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals
Website, oliverburkeman.com
Twitter, @oliverburkeman
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Society often tells us (especially women) that we must be humble and not speak about our accomplishments, but how can that serve us in getting what we want? Author and speaker Lisa Bragg shares why waiting for someone to notice your work is just not enough in today's noisy world and how to brag the right way.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- How she fought against the conditioning to hide her successes in order to fit in
- Why bragging should be viewed as self-love and expressing pride in your work and not self-aggrandizing
- The difference between wanting a spotlight only on yourself and encouraging everyone to shine
- How to view competitors as collaborators
Lisa’s book recommendation, Widest Net by Pamela Slim and Wonderhell by Laura Gassner Otting
~ ABOUT LISA BRAGG ~
Living with the name Bragg, Lisa has had to master the art and science of self-promotion. She’s seen when being too humble has cost international deals and when bragging right has unlocked opportunities leading to untold fortunes. Lisa helps high-achievers of all sorts to be seen, heard and share their value with the world. She then takes it a step further to show leaders how to help less visible people on their teams to do the same.
Book, Bragging Rights: How to Talk about Your Work Using Purposeful Self-Promotion
Website, lisabragg.com
Instagram, @thatlisabragg
LinkedIn, Lisa Bragg
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Do you struggle with setting boundaries in your personal and/or professional life? I’ll explain the main obstacle getting in your way and how to overcome it.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Why you first need to persuade yourself that you deserve the boundary you want to set
- How you can confidently state your boundaries, and not ask for them
- How to change your own perspective around your boundaries
Listen to my other episode, Advocating for Your Boundaries
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Robyn Moreno, former media maven turned modern curandera, shares her journey to healing, saving her soul, and tapping into her ser.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- How she realized she was experiencing susto (soul loss)
- The 5 cardinal directions in Curanderismo
- Different ways to build a relationship with your ancestors
Robyn’s book recommendation, Woman Who Glows in the Dark by Elena Avila
~ ABOUT ROBYN MORENO ~
Robyn Moreno is a Curanderismo practitioner, meditation teacher, and author. Robyn has worked to lift the stories and voices of Latinxs via her popular podcast Get Rooted with Robyn Moreno, and in her books, including Border-line Personalities: A New Generation of Latinas Dish on Sex, Sass, and Cultural Shifting. She has been invited to the Obama Whitehouse, the Sundance Film Festival, and SXSW Interactive; and has interviewed powerhouse women from Rihanna to Jennifer Lopez, Hillary Clinton, and more.
Book, Get Rooted
Website, robynmoreno.com
Instagram, @robynmoreno
Podcast, Get Rooted with Robyn Moreno
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There are 3 reasons you’re not getting what you want, and today Heather will tell you what they are. She’ll also tell you what to do to overcome them.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- How you can be grateful and still want more
- What it means to “ask out loud”
- How to “master the ask”
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Former CEO, Alisha Fernandez Miranda, shares the life lessons she learned when she decided to quit her career and spend a year taking unpaid internships at the dream jobs of her childhood.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- How she was molded by the example of immigrant parents
- How she overcame the guilt of wanting something more
- How making a “selfish” decision made her a better wife and mom
Alisha’s book recommendation: Women Are the Fiercest Creatures, by Andrea Dunlop
Alisha’s book, My What If Year
Her website, alishafmiranda.com
Instagram, @alishafmiranda
Podcast, Quit Your Day Job with Alisha Fernandez Miranda
~ ABOUT ALISHA ~
Alisha Fernandez Miranda is a Cuban-American, born and raised in Miami who has spent her adult life in New York and London and is currently based in Scotland. Alisha is the ex-CEO and current Chair at I.G. Advisors, an award-winning social impact intelligence agency that consults to the world’s biggest non-profits, companies and foundations on their philanthropy and social impact.
Alisha the author of My What If Year, which details her year of unpaid internships in the dream jobs of her childhood. The book follows Alisha on her quest to figure out what might have happened if her life had taken a different path. Alisha and her story have been featured on Good Morning America, CNN, MSNBC and as one of People’s Best New Books.
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Do you believe there is value in selfishness? In this episode, I will be making the case on why you should choose selfishness.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- The stigma behind selfishness
- My personal experience of how not choosing myself negatively impacted my relationship
- 3 steps to work on your “selfishness muscle”
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Maddy Ellberger, DBT therapist , explains the difference between CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) and how you can use both in your daily life.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Collecting evidence vs creating it
- How mindfulness feeds into DBT
- And vs. But, Could vs. Should
- What three questions you should ask yourself multiple times a day
Maddy’s book recommendation: Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, by Lori Gottlieb
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Instagram, @millennialmindfulnessdoc
Website, downtownbehavioralwellness.com/
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We’ve all had moments where we would’ve benefited greatly from someone advocating on our behalf. But why is it so difficult to ask someone to toot our horn for us? I’ll share some tips on how to ask someone to advocate for you, and how to be a better advocate for others.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- What it means to go from a witness to an actor
- How to determine what your advantages are and how to use them to advocate for someone else
- Why questions beat assumptions
- How listening plays an important role both in being an advocate and asking someone to advocate for you
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If you are marketing your business, your product, or even yourself for an opportunity, how can you earn the trust of your audience? The award-winning branded content creator and author Melanie Deziel shares how you can provide the proof needed to build trust.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- How to take the journalist approach of “show, don’t tell”, and apply it to marketing
- How to decide what’s relevant when providing proof
- Why we as consumers tend to be more skeptical of subjective claims vs objective
Mel’s Book Recommendation: Everybody Writes, 2nd Edition by Ann Handley
To learn more about Mel Deziel, visit the links below:
Book, Prove It: Exactly How Modern Marketers Earn Trust, by Melanie Deziel & Phil Jones
Website, storyfuel.co
LinkedIn, @MelanieDeziel
Instagram, @meldeziel
About Melanie Deziel:
As a keynote speaker, author, and award-winning branded content creator, Melanie has spent her career developing the skills to think differently and discover new ways to engage audiences through content. She has developed and taught graduate-level content marketing courses for both Fairleigh Dickinson University and City University of New York, and frequently guest-lectures for the many universities that use her books as texts.
In addition to delivering keynotes, leading workshops, and coaching clients on organized creativity, Melanie is also the co-founder of both The Convoy and GroupUps, B2B marketplaces that help small businesses save money so they can invest more in themselves and their communities. She advises multiple other startups and also serves as a judge for several industry awards.
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You may not realize it, but in nearly every aspect of life, you make a case either to yourself or others. I will share with you the tools for successfully making your case and getting what you want.
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- The powerful effect that belief has on your body, mind and heart
- Why you need to ask for the perspective of those you’re wanting to convince
- What it means to own the room
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Executive coach and attorney Laura Terrell shares advice on gaining the confidence to pivot your professional career into a new lane.
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- The right questions to ask when figuring out how you’d like your career to look
- How to focus on consciously applying the skill of listening
- Redefining what it means to feel stuck
Mentioned in this episode, Bono’s interview on Smartless podcast
Laura’s book recommendation, First: Sandra Day OConner by Evan Thomas
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LinkedIn @LauraTerrell
Instagram @lauraterrellcoaching
About Laura Terrell
Laura became an executive coach in order to help others make powerful and positive changes in their professional lives. As a practicing lawyer and business advisor with over 25 years of experience, she has built a successful career working with individuals and companies all over the world.
Prior to coaching, Laura was a Special Assistant to the President at the White House, a senior-level appointee at the U.S. Department of Justice, an equity partner in two large, global law firms, and in-house counsel at a publicly traded company.
Partnering with her clients, Laura says the best part of coaching is seeing her clients succeed, helping them reach their goals and build confidence in their careers.
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The feeling of embarrassment can make you doubt yourself and whether you are as good as the image you’re trying to portray. But that’s only if you let it. In this episode, I’ll share why you should embrace embarrassment and how to do it.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- How I let an embarrassing conversation affect the way I would interact with others in college
- How embarrassment is different from shame
- Why it is important to recognize the risk of embarrassment
- Five ways to shift your perspective around embarrassment
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Master Certified Weight and Life Coach Corinne Crabtree shares how her personal weight loss journey transformed into a successful business and she helps women blaze their own trails as well.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Her belief process throughout her weight loss journey
- How to stay motivated and proud when the “newness wears off”
- How to set big goals and not lose the big picture if they’re not met
- Why women especially need to be more conscious of finding the proud moments
About Corinne Crabtree:
Corinne Crabtree is the host of the podcast Losing 100 Pounds with Corinne and creator of the No BS Weight Loss Program which helps women drop harmful diet mentalities so that they can lose weight in a way that is sustainable while also feeling good. Corinne herself lost 100 pounds 15 years ago, and ever since then, she’s made it her mission to help as many people as possible do the same.
She’s also creator of the No BS Business Woman program helping women entrepreneurs build confidence and find success. Through the two membership models, she’s been able to build deep connections with women, shift mindsets, and provide her clients with the day-to-day support they need to move forward in their journeys.
Corrine’s book recommendations:
Two Weeks Notice by Amy Porterfield
The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
The People Part by Annie Hyman Pratt
To learn more about Corinne Crabtree, visit the links below:
Corinne’s No BS Weightloss Program
Corinne’s No BS Business Women Program
Corinne’s Instagram @corrinne_crabtree
Corinne’s Losing 100 Podcast
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There are things in life you want that you don’t get, and I know why. In this episode, I will provide two reasons you aren’t getting what you want and how to get past them.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Why we need to figure out exactly what it is that we want
- Why we shouldn’t assume that our actions alone will communicate what we want
- Why you need to know your jury and their perspective when preparing to ask
- Why gathering evidence will help build belief in your ask
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Dr. Carolyn Kurle shares with us that there is a voice we all have that knows exactly what to do when it’s time to make a choice in life, big or small. She will explain ways to find your authenticity and trust it.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- What the Guidance Groove is and four Unproductive Grooves
- Why you need to take a pause and examine whether you’re telling yourself a false story
- How your entire body is part of your life experience and sometimes you need to quiet your mind
About Dr. Carolyn Kurle ~
Dr. Carolyn Kurle holds degrees in Zoology, German Literature, Wildlife Science, and Ecology, Evolution, and Behavior. She is a tenured biology professor at the University of California, San Diego (UCSD). Working with her students helped inspire her to write The Guidance Groove as she saw many of them struggle with feelings of inadequacy, obligation, scarcity, and unworthiness and exhibit many of the behaviors that stem from adherence to the Unproductive Grooves detailed in her book.
Dr. Kurle’s goal in writing The Guidance Groove is to teach everyone to recognize the false stories we tell ourselves so we can learn to stop believing them and discover where they come from and how they breed inauthenticity.
Dr. Kurle’s book recommendation is Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge and the Teachings of Plants by Robin Wall Kimmerer
To learn more about Dr. Carolyn Kurle, visit the links below ~
Read her book, The Guidance Groove: Escape Unproductive Habits, Trust Your Intuition, and Be True
Website, guidancegroove.com
Twitter, @Guidance_Groove
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Today, many self-help gurus and influencers emphasize why we need to believe in ourselves, but not neccessarily how to build that belief. In this episode, I will share the tools I’ve successfully used throughout my career as an attorney and how you can use them in your life.~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~ * Why you need to be the first to buy what you’re selling * How to advocate for yourself and stand up against the negative voices, even if they’re your own * The ‘SEE’ technique, and how it will allow you to make the case for a different voice
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In today’s solo episode, I’m announcing a change to The Elegant Warrior podcast.
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As an avid reader, I’m excited to share that I read nearly 200 books in 2022. In today’s solo episode, we will take a look at my top 10 book choices from the year and discuss the impact they had on me.
My Book Choices:
- House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune
- The Change by Kirsten Miller
- Wrong Place Wrong Time by Gillian McAllister
- Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelby Van Pelt
- Iona Iverson’s Rules for Commuting by Clare Pooley
- Why Greatness Cannot Be Planned by Kenneth O. Stanley
- Mindfulness by Ellen Langer
- Into the Magic Shop by James Doty
- Golden: The Power of Silence in a World of Noise by Justin Zorn and Leigh Marz
- Against Empathy by Paul Bloom
Honorable Mentions:
- Demon Copperhead by Barbara Kingsolver
- Put Your Ass Where Your Heart Wants to Be by Steven Pressfield
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Many are taking on the practice of choosing a “Word of the Year” so that, instead of setting a lot of different resolutions, you select one single word to be your focus for the new year. I will discuss why choosing a word helps you stay motivated and intentional, and I will walk you through my process for selecting my word.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- How words have energy and we should be conscious how we use them
- Why I don’t believe in ‘how-to’ and what I prefer instead
- What I thought would be my word for 2023, but why I changed my mind
Listen to my previous podcast, Planning for the New Year…in October
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Candace Doby explains how we can develop courage professionally and personally, and why courage looks different on everyone.
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- Why risk is at the center of courage
- Three questions we should always ask ourselves
- How we can activate courage as though it were a muscle
- How to act courageously without the worry of appearing arrogant
- How fear of judgment is the most common obstacle to courage
About Candace Doby:
Candace Doby is a speaker, author of A Cool Girl’s Guide To Courage, and coach who works with organizations to create a culture of courage where employees perform at their highest potential. She is the creator of The Courage Hotline podcast and host of The Own Your Brilliance retreat.
Candace combines a decade of research on courage with her experiences leading marketing teams at Chipotle and traveling the world solo. This unique combination equips her with the implementable strategies she has shared with thousands of leaders to help them courageously speak up, step up and show up in the workplace. Her work has been featured on MSNBC and NPR.
Candace’s book, A Cool Girl’s Guide to Courage
Candace’s book recommendation, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and We Should All Be Millionaires by Rachel Rodgers
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Website: candacedoby.com
Speaker Reel
Podcast: The Courage Hotline with Candace Doby
Instagram: @candacedoby
Facebook: CandaceDoby
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What do you want to believe? And do you want to change what others believe about you? I will discuss the tools I’ve used in the courtroom and in my life to successfully make believe.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Why helping someone believe something goes beyond simply saying it repeatedly
- The story I told myself, and evidence I collected, in order to believe I could embrace something new
- The difference between collecting evidence and creating it, and how both are helpful
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What is something you really want to change? Do you believe you can do it? In this solo episode, I’ll share my 4-step process for successfully making any change in your life, professionally and personally.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- How to change by learning to advocate
- When you need to change your behavior and when you need to change yourself
- How to collect evidence to prove you can make the change
- How to find a different story to tell yourself in order to believe you can do it
Book mentioned:
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Immunity to Change by Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey
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The marginalization of specific groups is no doubt an all-too-common occurrence affecting many people. In this solo episode, I’ll share ways to advocate for yourself, your ideas, and your potential when you’re in a marginalized community.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- The beliefs that can stop us from advocating for ourselves
- How to recognize that you are worthy of being advocated for and why you need to persuade yourself first in order to persuade others
- My SEE technique: Stories + Evidence + Energy, and how it contributes to self-advocating
- How to see your differences as an advantage and then capitalize on them
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The marginalization of specific groups is no doubt an all-too-common occurrence affecting many people. In this solo episode, I’ll share ways to advocate for yourself, your ideas, and your potential when you’re in a marginalized community.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- The beliefs that can stop us from advocating for ourselves
- How to recognize that you are worthy of being advocated for and why you need to persuade yourself first in order to persuade others
- My SEE technique: Stories + Evidence + Energy, and how it contributes to self-advocating
- How to see your differences as an advantage and then capitalize on them
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How can understanding true inclusion lead to successful leadership? Dr. Gena Cox discusses the highlights of her book ‘Leading Inclusion,’ and shares insights based on her own years of experience in corporate America, as well as the experiences of colleagues and clients.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Why she believes inclusion tops diversity
- The breakdown of the REDI, or Respect First, Model
- The 3 Cs critical to successful leadership
- Why she doesn’t use the term ‘belonging’ in reference to inclusion
About Gena Cox, Ph.D:
Dr. Gena Cox is an organizational psychologist, executive coach, speaker, and author of the new book Leading Inclusion, a groundbreaking guidebook for corporate leaders who want to build inclusive organizations from the top down. Gena has spent more than 25 years helping leaders, including some in the Fortune 500, build healthy organizational cultures and measuring employee opinions. A noted voice on human-centered leadership, Gena shows executives how to stop using 2019 behavior to address 2022 workplace challenges.
Gena has written for Harvard Business Review and has been quoted in Forbes, Fast Company, BBC Worklife, The Business Journals, Linkedin News, and other national media.
Gena holds a PhD in Industrial and Organizational Psychology from the University of South Florida and is an International Coach Federation Professional Certified Coach (PCC). She is a member of the Society for Industrial and Organizational Psychology (SIOP), and the American Psychological Association (APA).
Dr. Cox’s Book recommendation: Unapologetically Ambitious by Shellye Archambeau
To learn more about Dr. Gena Cox, visit the links below:
Her book, Leading Inclusion: Drive Change Your Employees Can See and Feel
Her website, GenaCox.com
Twitter, @genacox
LinkedIn, GenaCox
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Out of my 5 C’s of an advocate, I often emphasize compassion, curiosity, and credibility as the most important. In this solo episode, we will highlight how compassion and perspective can be secret weapons in self-advocacy.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
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How my definition of compassion goes beyond just the desire to take action
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The difference between perspective and empathy
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How perspective has allowed me to even maintain relationships with some of my exes
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How a letter from a dear friend motivates me to continue seeing things from other’s perspectives
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“If someone doesn't do as you expected, all you know for sure is that he or she didn't do as you expected.” Ann Latham explains the disconnect between what you expected and what happened in a chapter-by-chapter breakdown of her book The Disconnect Principle.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- What it means when people do not live up to our expectations
- How shifting our focus to fixing the situation instead of the person leads to a better dialogue
- How our thoughts about someone communicate louder in our body language and facial expressions than in our words
- How to do something with someone rather than to them
About Ann Latham:
Ann Latham is the founder of Boston area consulting firm Uncommon Clarity®, Inc. Her clients represent over 40 industries and range from for-profit organizations, such as Boeing, Medtronic, and Hitachi, to nonprofit organizations as diverse as Public Television, United Way, and colleges and universities. Ann has been interviewed and has been written about in 85 media sources, including The New York Times, Bloomberg BusinessWeek, Forbes, Inc., Management Today, and many podcasts.
Ann Latham is founding the newest branch of management science: clarity. Cognitive clarity, to be more precise. She is credited with exposing our inability to recognize our natural disclarity and the tremendous waste and damage it causes. Showing people how to create clarity quickly became her passion. She knew that clarity offered an enormous opportunity to improve performance and her consulting was the perfect way to practice and prove her methods. This passion drives her writing. She is on a mission to make organizations, if not the world, a better place through greater cognitive clarity.
Read Ann’s Book, The Disconnect Principle
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Her website: Annlatham.com
Forbes article: Embrace the Disconnect Principle
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I’ve been thinking a lot about choices, specifically the choices that brought me to the new place I’ll be calling home. In my second book, Advocate to Win, I broke down three steps to making choices. I’ve recently added a fourth step that I’m excited to share in today's podcast.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Why I prefer the word ‘choose’ over ‘decide’
- Times in life where we choose without realizing it
- Lessons I’ve learned from my choices in moving
- How to determine which part of you is choosing
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What is the deepest silence you’ve ever known? Justin Zorn and Leigh Marz discuss the world's loudness and how silence and stillness can bring clarity and peace into our lives.
~WE’LL DISCUSS~
- Why silence isn’t just an absence of noise, but a presence that brings energy, clarity and deeper connection
- Why silence can be a good alternative to meditation and mindfulness
- How the impact of noise falls disproportionately on those with a lower income
- How to create pockets of silence throughout the day in order to rejuvenate yourself
ABOUT JUSTIN AND LEIGH:
Justin Talbot Zorn has served as both a policymaker and a meditation teacher in the U.S. Congress. A Harvard- and Oxford-trained specialist in the economics and psychology of well-being, Justin has written for the Washington Post, The Atlantic, Harvard Business Review, Foreign Policy, and other publications. He is cofounder of Astrea Strategies, a consultancy that bridges contemplation and action, helping leaders and teams envision and communicate solutions to complex challenges.
Leigh Marz is a collaboration consultant and leadership coach for major universities, corporations, and federal agencies as well as a longtime student of pioneering researchers and practitioners of the ritualized use of psychedelic medicines in the West. In her professional work, she has led diverse initiatives, including a training program to promote an experimental mindset among teams at NASA and a decade-long cross-sector collaboration to reduce toxic chemicals in products, in partnership with Green Science Policy Institute, Harvard University, IKEA, Google, and Kaiser Permanente. She is the cofounder of Astrea Strategies.
Golden reveals how to go beyond the ordinary rules and tools of mindfulness. It’s a field guide for navigating the noise of the modern world—not just the noise in our ears but also on our screens and in our heads. Drawing on lessons from neuroscience, business, spirituality, politics, and the arts, Marz and Zorn explore why auditory, informational, and internal silence is essential for physical health, mental clarity, ecological sustainability, and vibrant community.
Read or listen to their book, Golden: The Power of Silence in a World of Noise
Book Recommendations:
Leigh’s Recommendation: Finding Freedom and That Bird Has My Wings by Jarvis Jay Masters
Justin’s Recommendation: The World of Silence by Max Picard
To learn more about Leigh Marz and Justin Zorn, visit the links below:
Justin’s website: justinzorn.com
Leigh’s website: leighmarz.com
Justin’s Twitter: @JustinZorn
Leigh’s Twitter: @LeighMarz
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I will share why I believe this is the best month to start planning for next year, and what that planning should involve.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Why planning before the holidays can be more productive than waiting till after
- The benefit of creating 45-minute increments of ‘Thinking Time’
- Five questions to ask yourself, and how to be deliberate when choosing the words in your answers
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Other books mentioned:
The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte
The Road Less Stupid by Keith J Cunningham
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Adrienne Bankert talks about making kindness your superpower, and taking the term ‘People Business’ to heart.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Her conviction at 12 years old that one day she would be on the set of her own show
- How her community shaped her identity
- Her desire to have conversations with people and allow them the liberty to think how they want to think
About Adrienne Bankert
An Emmy award-winning veteran journalist, Bankert joined NewsNation in April 2021 as an anchor/correspondent. She covered national affairs and delivered special reports across the network’s prime-time weeknight news broadcasts.
Prior to that, Adrienne was a New York-based national correspondent for ABC News covering breaking news on both the East and West Coast. She covered some of the most significant stories of the last decade. In addition to her distinguished career in journalism, Ms. Bankert also is the author of “Your Hidden Superpower: The Kindness that Makes You Unbeatable at Work and Connects You with Anyone.”
Adrienne’s Book Recommendations: The Way of the Shepherd by Kevin Leman
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News Nation Website: https://www.newsnationnow.com/author/adrienne-bankert/
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- Website: https://adriennebankert.com
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdrienneBankert/
- Instagram: @ABonTV
- Twitter: @ABonTV
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Asking others, even friends, to advocate for us does not always come naturally. Recognizing that asking is the fastest way to a win could be the motivation to turn everyone around us, even adversaries, into our advocates.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
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How to be comfortable asking the people around us for advocacy
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The difference between implying and directly asking
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Getting over the feeling that you shouldn’t have to ask
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Joe Hirsch explains why giving and/or receiving feedback often induces panic and fear. He also shares how changing our approach can leave us feeling restored instead of depleted.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- How we can use R.E.P.A.I.R. to provide ‘feedforward’
- How “Yes, and…” can turn barriers into opportunities
- How feedback can be used to give people the confidence to take control of their future
~ ABOUT JOE HIRSCH ~
Joe Hirsch helps organizations design and deliver feedback without fear. He is an internationally recognized expert on leadership and communication, and has earned accolades from Fortune 500 executives to NFL coaches for his forward-thinking approach to improving organizational culture and effectiveness. Joe makes research-based practices more accessible to improve the way people work, learn and lead.
Joe's work and research has been featured in Harvard Business Review, CNBC, Forbes, Inc., The Wall Street Journal and other major outlets. He's shared his strategies across three continents and has helped more than 10,000 people communicate with impact and experience the joy of feedback.
Joe’s Book Recommendations:
Crucial Conversations by Joseph Grenny
Team Genius by Rich Karlgaard
Buy Joe’s Book, The Feedback Fix: Dump the Past, Embrace the Future, and Lead the Way to Change here
To learn more about Joe Hirsch, visit the links below:
- Podcast: I Wish They Knew
- Website: JoeHirsch.me
- LinkedIn: Joe Hirsch
- YouTube: Joe Hirsch
- Twitter: @joeahirsch
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As patients, we don’t always recognize the vital role we play in our healthcare. Understanding that our knowledge is power can give us the tools needed to advocate for ourselves.
~WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Why William Osler, the first Physician-in-Chief of Johns Hopkins Hospital, believed that patients were the source of medical knowledge
- How to use the 3 C’s of an advocate as patients
- Why you should consider praising the doctors and nurses on your healthcare team
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Fotini Iconomopoulos explains how taking an unconventional approach to negotiation can help us all have better conversations and get what we want out of work and life.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- The power of finding your mental pause button and taking a meditated breath during negotiations
- What a BATNA is and why we all need it when entering negotiations in life and work
- How to use your knowledge as a superpower
~ ABOUT FOTINI ~
Nicknamed “the negotiator” since childhood, Fotini Iconomopoulos is an expert communicator with a passion for helping organizations and individuals get what they want. She thrives in empowering people to navigate high-stake scenarios, and always leaves her audiences with tangible actions to immediately help them tackle their next challenge.
When she’s not strategizing with clients, Fotini is a sought-after speaker on negotiation, communication, leadership, and conflict management. She’s passionate about helping people, particularly women and disadvantaged groups, develop the confidence to take on whatever challenges come their way. She is also a frequent guest on CBC and CTV, and an instructor of MBA Negotiations at the Schulich School of Business at York University in Toronto.
Fotini’s book recommendation: Influence is Your Superpower by Zoe Chance
To learn more about Fotini Iconomopoulos, visit the links below:
Fotini’s book: Say Less, Get More
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In today’s solo episode, I will share why every Labor Day weekend is so special to me and how I am deciding to see my birthday this year. I’m focused on enjoying getting older, strengthening my relationships, and making the most out of the next 50 years.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
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Why I view my birthday as a new beginning, a second New Year
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How we can use the placebo effect to our advantage
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Why you should decide what you see and believe
Read the NY Times article on Ellen Langer’s study here
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In today’s solo episode, I will share why every Labor Day weekend is so special to me and how I am deciding to see my birthday this year. I’m focused on enjoying getting older, strengthening my relationships, and making the most out of the next 50 years.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
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Why I view my birthday as a new beginning, a second New Year
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How we can use the placebo effect to our advantage
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Why you should decide what you see and believe
Read the NY Times article on Ellen Langer’s study here
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Heather Hansen reveals how the only way to conquer challenges in professional communication is to unmute yourself.
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- Microcultures, the 3% Rule, and how we’re influenced by the way we organize ourselves
- Three types of communication – Conscious, Confident, and Connected
- Why we have an emotional connection with tone of voice (and how Siri helped Heather name one of the chapters in her book)
~ ABOUT HEATHER ~
Heather Hansen helps top global professionals show up, speak up, and inspire action in a changing world. She is on a mission to empower global voices to contribute to conversations that matter – in business, politics, and life.
Heather fights against micro-inequities related to language and accent in international teams, and helps companies build communication cultures where every voice is heard. She is called upon by some of the world’s largest companies to unmute leaders and teams so they can be more innovative, inclusive, and efficient while adapting to modern challenges.
Heather’s latest book, Unmuted, outlines her framework for successful global communication in multinational companies.
Heather’s Book Recommendation:
Advocate to Win by Heather Hansen: https://amzn.to/3Kme3M9
Heather’s Book: Unmuted : https://amzn.to/3APAeqM
To learn more about Heather Hansen, visit the links below:
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Training Firm: https://globalspeechacademy.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hansenheather/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heather.hansen/?hl=en
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When you have a goal, do you have to delay gratification until you meet that goal?
~ WE’LL DISCUSS ~
- How you can get instant gratification before your goals are fully met
- Why you can and should decide where you find your pleasure
- Four sources of pleasure and gratification
This podcast can help you develop good habits, break bad habits, achieve your goals and enjoy your life on the way
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Judge Rosemarie Aquilina shares how her career was molded by her upbringing and the importance of really listening. We also talk about the magical question she asked during her infamous trial that I have continued to ask to this day.
WE’LL DISCUSS:
- How her desire to be heard as a child played a role in becoming a lawyer, and how a child abuse case moved her to become a judge
- Why she decided to stop writing during law school
- How her approach to the infamous sexual abuse trial of sports doctor Larry Nassar allowed for the Army of Survivors to come forward
ABOUT JUDGE AQUILINA:
Judge Rosemarie Aquilina was elected to the 30th Circuit Court for Ingham County in November of 2008. She became part of Michigan’s history by becoming the first female JAG Officer in the Michigan Army National Guard when she enlisted. Ultimately, she became one of the most requested JAG Officers because of her dedication to service and the soldiers she served with. Judge Aquilina opened Aquilina Law Firm, PLC, which grew to become very successful and which resulted in her becoming the host of Ask the Family Lawyer, which became syndicated.
In addition to all the other amazing things Rosemarie does, she is also a published author with three books under belt- All Rise, Feel No Evil, and Triple Cross Killer. Her books are thrillers from start to finish, keeping everyone guessing and on the edge of their seat.
Judge Aquilina’s Book Recommendations:
Gone With The Wind by Margaret Mitchell: https://amzn.to/3zYJxTG
Judge Aquilina’s Books:
Just Watch me: https://amzn.to/3ppoUuV
All Rise: https://amzn.to/3pppj0p
Feel No Evil: https://amzn.to/3phuJdV
Triple Cross Killer: https://amzn.to/3Qr6dmL
To learn more about Judge Aquilina, visit the links below:
Website: https://www.rosemarieaquilina.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/authoraquilina/?hl=en
Twitter: https://twitter.com/aquirosemarie?lang=e
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In this week’s podcast, I have the pleasure of interviewing Amber Cabral, Inclusion Strategist, certified coach, speaker and author of Allies and Advocates: Creating an Inclusive and Equitable Culture. Amber discusses the events that led to her leaving the corporate world to start her podcast You Can Have Whatever You Want®. She also provides insight into the desire to have one’s identity and culture be understood, as well as how she grew and learned from the experience of not fitting in. Additionally, Amber shares about the wonderful work she’s doing with Brown Girls Do Ballet, as well as the message she’s focusing on in her newest book, Say More About That
Amber’s Book Recommendation: The Broken Earth Trilogy, by N.K. Jemisin: https://amzn.to/3zGCbEc
To learn more about Amber Cabral, visit the links below:
- Amber’s book: Allies and Advocates: Creating an Inclusive and Equitable Culture: https://amzn.to/3JzTE5Q
- Say More About That: ...And Other Ways to Speak Up, Push Back, and Advocate for Yourself and Others: https://amzn.to/3A50vRu
- Amber’s website: ambercabral.com
- Amber’s podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-can-have-whatever-you-want/id1492759592
- Amber’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bamcabral/?hl=en
- Amber’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ambercabral
- Brown Girls Do Ballet website: https://www.browngirlsdoballet.com/
- Brown Girls Do Ballet IG: https://www.instagram.com/browngirlsdoballet/?hl=en
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This week’s podcast is a replay from a previously aired episode where I interviewed Alexis Brink, president of Jin Shin Institute in New York City and author of “The Art of Jin Shin.” Alexis has been practicing this art since 1991 and it was an absolute pleasure discussing it further with her.
In this interview, Alexis talks about the fascinating history of Jin Shin, and how her life forever changed when she first discovered it as a dancer in NYC. She explains how our attitude can affect our body’s harmony, and why problems are called ‘projects’ in Jin Shin practice. We also discuss using the hands as “jumper cables” to restore energy to the body, Finger Holds, FAST acronym and The Big Breathe Life.
To learn more about Alexis Brink and Jin Shin Institute, visit the links below:
The Art of Jin Shin book: https://amzn.to/3QcyiOd
Website: https://theartofjinshin.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alexis.brink.3
LinkedIn: alexis-brink-46055325
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In this week’s podcast, I had the pleasure of interviewing Aly Giampolo and Colette Dong, co-founders and instructors of The Ness, an NYC-based trampoline cardio and sculpting studio that has taken the boutique workout scene by storm.
Aly and Colette discuss the incredible thought that went into naming their business and what they attribute their growth to. They explain their similar dance backgrounds, how they got into fitness trampoline training, and how their friendship/partnership has worked to balance each other out. We also discuss some of the struggles they face and how they manage to maintain their energy in a physically demanding world.
Listen out for Aly’s very special connection to her book recommendation.
Aly and Colette created a code for you to have 15% off your first month of The Ness Digital! The Elegant Warrior: ELEGANT15
Book recommendations:
(Colette) The Anatomy of Anxiety - Ellen Vora, MD
(Aly) True Biz: A Novel - Sarah Novic
To learn more about Colette and Aly, visit the links below:
- The Ness Website: https://www.thenessnyc.com/
- The Ness Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenessnyc/?hl=en
- Colette’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/colettedong/?hl=en
- Colette’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/colette-dong-a10b361a2
- Aly’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alygiampolo/?hl=en
- Aly’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aly-giampolo-2b52251a3
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In this weeks episode, we will discuss some tried and true strategies for building credibility. We all have gained skills in our everyday lives that can be used to build the life we want, we just have to be creative in looking for evidence and see the value of putting in the energy needed. I will be explaining that with formula, Credibility= energy x evidence, and how this can work for everyone.
Keynote Speaker: Are you looking for a keynote speaker to teach you how to advocate for your ideas, for change, for your product and for sales? I would love to come and speak to your team and show them how to advocate to win in their business. Please fill out the form below and I will contact you with more details. https://form.jotform.com/221107324351139
To learn more about my services and to stay connected, visit me at:
- Website: Advocate to Win
- Instagram: @imheatherhansen
- Sign up for your consultation: https://meetheather.heatherhansenpresents.com/#/customer/4318473000000041098
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I have the pleasure of interviewing Heidi Hazen, Certified Master Hypnotist, Reiki practitioner, Human Design Guide, and Energetic Agency Teacher. Heidi is passionate about her work and loves to help her clients do the most important work they’ll ever do – finding their way back to their original self so that they may authentically live.
In this episode, Heidi discusses how she started on the journey of 5-PATH (5 Phase Advanced Transformational Hypnosis). Heidi describes the types of programs she offers, her Alignment schools and why she started providing audio sessions. We also discuss her teaching of energetic alignment and how to be intentional with our actions, as well as the importance of taking ownership of our own energy.
Many of us would agree that things have been written in our story that were not written by us, but that doesn’t mean we can’t control who we are and how we react to situations. We will dive into the importance of recognizing that subconscious programming. Heidi details how she helps tap into her clients subconscious and untether them from stories that no longer serve them.
Heidi’s Book Recommendations:
Michael Singer ‘The Untethered Soul’: https://amzn.to/3yRgrq8
Joe Dispenza ‘You Are The Placebo’: https://amzn.to/3Rn83Wv
To learn more about Heidi Hazen, visit the links below:
Website: https://heidihazen.com/
Website for Alignment School: https://heidi-hazen.teachable.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heidihazen/?hl=en
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To learn more about my services and to stay connected, visit me at:
- Website: Advocate to Win
- Instagram: @imheatherhansen
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To get others to believe in you, you have to go first. Do you look for ways to impress yourself? In today’s podcast, I’ll be discussing how I used my own accomplishments (both large and small) to serve as evidence that I could believe in myself and build credibility. I will also dive into how making promises to ourselves and keeping them leads to earning credibility. And when we learn to believe in who we are and build credibility, we can make the case for anything, even ourselves.
Keynote Speaker: Are you looking for a keynote speaker to teach you how to advocate for your ideas, for change, for your product and for sales? I would love to come and speak to your team and show them how to advocate to win in their business. Please fill out the form below and I will contact you with more details. https://form.jotform.com/221107324351139
To learn more about my services and to stay connected, visit me at:
- Website: Advocate to Win
- Instagram: @imheatherhansen
- Sign up for your consultation: https://calendly.com/advocatetowin/introduction-call
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On this episode of The Elegant Warrior Podcast, I have the pleasure of chatting with fellow book enthusiast Zibby Owens. Zibby is an author, podcaster, publisher, CEO, and mother of four. Zibby founded Zibby Owens Media, a privately-held media company designed to help busy people live their best lives by connecting to books and each other. Join us as we talk about her love of reading, her new book, and book therapy.
Zibby tells me about how she became a writer and the huge effort that it took to get her latest book published, which is the story of her life as seen through the books she was reading at the time. She reveals why she doesn’t like rereading books and gives tips on how to make more time in your life for reading, even if you’re a busy mom.
This episode is a must-listen for all bookworms and wannabe bookworms. If you enjoyed it, please follow or subscribe to The Elegant Warrior Podcast.
Topics Discussed:
- [0:07] I introduce Zibby onto the show and talk about her dazzling career
- [2:56] Where does Zibby get her drive from?
- [4:15] “Books, for me, are the throughline:” Zibby on her passion for reading
- [5:56] How Zibby started writing and got her most recent book published
- [10:08] You just have to keep going! Why Zibby knew this book would make it
- [12:17] Zibby’s booklist
- [13:03] Book therapy with Zibby: How do you make time for reading?
- [16:03] Why Zibby doesn’t like rereading books
- [17:52] How Zibby stays on top of her reading
- [19:36] Passion and consistency: They make a difference!
- [20:36] The story behind Zibby’s publishing company
- [23:52] 22 in 2022: Zibby’s book challenge
- [26:08] What Zibby wants you to take from Bookends
To Learn more about Zibby, click on the links below:
- Zibby Owens
- Zibby on Instagram
- Zibby on Facebook
- Zibby on Twitter
- Bookends: A Memoir of Loss, Love, and Literature by Zibby Owens
Keynote Speaker: Are you looking for a keynote speaker to teach you how to advocate for your ideas, for change, for your product and for sales? I would love to come and speak to your team and show them how to advocate to win in their business. Please fill out the form below and I will contact you with more details. https://form.jotform.com/221107324351139
To learn more about my services and to stay connected, visit me at:
- Website: Advocate to Win
- Instagram: @imheatherhansen
- Sign up for your consultation: https://calendly.com/advocatetowin/introduction-call
- Don’t forget to Subscribe to the Advocate with Elegance FREE private podcast here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/613921e87accb4c0210201c5
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This week's episode is an interview with Tiffany Sorya, the founder and CEO of Novel Education Group which offers home school programs to children K-12 with the best homeschool teacher. She is a renowned influencer and thought leader in the education industry, widely recognized for spearheading a fundamental change in the way young people engage with education in the digital age. She’s worked with high-profile clients, including Kendall and Kylie Jenner.
In the interview, Tiffany shares the motivation behind her motto, "Making smart stylish again." We discuss the challenges of encouraging the youth to pursue basic education in a social media-driven world, and how it starts with making them feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable and admit when they don’t understand. Tiffany also talks about what led to her business decisions, and why she didn’t focus on the “what-ifs” when starting on her path.
Tiffany’s Book Recommendation:
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondō: https://amzn.to/39xGQiM
To learn more about Tiffany Sorya and Novel Education, visit the links below:
Website: https://noveleducationgroup.com/about/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffanysorya/?hl=en
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tiffanysorya/
Keynote Speaker: Are you looking for a keynote speaker to teach you how to advocate for your ideas, for change, for your product and for sales? I would love to come and speak to your team and show them how to advocate to win in their business. Please fill out the form below and I will contact you with more details. https://form.jotform.com/221107324351139
To learn more about my services and to stay connected, visit me at:
- Website: Advocate to Win
- Instagram: @imheatherhansen
- Sign up for your consultation: https://calendly.com/advocatetowin/introduction-call
- Don’t forget to Subscribe to the Advocate with Elegance FREE private podcast here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/613921e87accb4c0210201c5
Would you like to ask me a question? Please leave me a message by calling (856) 390-4831. Don’t forget to let me know if we can use your call on the show.
KeyNote Speaker: Are you looking for a keynote speaker to teach you how to advocate for your ideas, for change, for your product and for sales? I would love to come and speak to your team and show them how to advocate to win in their business. Please fill out the form below and I will contact you with more details. https://form.jotform.com/221107324351139
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In today’s episode, we have the pleasure of interviewing award-winning veteran journalist Ashleigh Banfield, host of “Banfield.” She has launched “Rising Tide: The Value in Mentoring Others,” a free monthly symposium featuring interviews with VIP leaders in the industry to share their advice to broadcast journalists of all ages and demographics. Her goal is for “Rising Tide” to be an opportunity for the next generation of professionals to improve their craft through mentorship and networking with those who have risen to the top.
In this interview, we will consider the impact that agenda has on the media and Ashleigh’s hopes to bring fairness back to news reporting. She shares the beauty in seeing the vulnerable side of tv anchors, how showing authentic emotions builds relationships with viewers, an outlook we can apply to our everyday lives. We also discuss how important it is that we show patience with ourselves just as much as with others. Additionally, Ashleigh shares her interesting take on the word ‘elegance.’
Jonathan Haidt article ‘The Dark Psychology of Social Networks’: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2019/12/social-media-democracy/600763/
Ashleigh Banfield Forbes article: https://www.forbes.com/sites/vickisalemi/2022/05/18/ashleigh-banfields-rising-tide-the-value-in-mentoring-others-supports-broadcast-journalists/?sh=47ffa98a11fe
To learn more about Ashleigh Banfield, visit her at:
Rising Tide website: https://www.newsnationnow.com/banfield/rising-tide/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleighbanfield/?hl=en
Twitter: https://twitter.com/tvashleigh
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BanfieldonNewsNation/
Book Recommendation:
“Dark Genius of Wall Street” by Edward J Renehan Jr - https://amzn.to/3NLNqkG
“Dead Wake” by Eric Larson - https://amzn.to/3zz5D0t
To learn more about my services and to stay connected, visit me at:
- Website: Advocate to Win
- Instagram: @imheatherhansen
- Sign up for your consultation: https://calendly.com/advocatetowin/introduction-call
- Don’t forget to Subscribe to the Advocate with Elegance FREE private podcast here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/613921e87accb4c0210201c5
Would you like to ask me a question? Please leave me a message by calling (856) 390-4831.Don’t forget to let me know if we can use your call on the show.
KeyNote Speaker: Are you looking for a keynote speaker to teach you how to advocate for your ideas, for change, for your product and for sales? I would love to come and speak to your team and show them how to advocate to win in their business. Please fill out the form below and I will contact you with more details. https://form.jotform.com/221107324351139
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BJ Fogg is the founder and director of the Behavioral Design Lab at Stanford. He is the author of the New York Times Best Seller Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything. This is one of my favorite interviews, and BJ’s tip for advocating will change your life. He will teach you how to shine, how to be light as a feather and how to change your life.
You can buy his book here: https://amzn.to/3x51Mp3
To learn more about BJ Fogg, visit the links below:
https://www.bjfogg.com/
https://www.instagram.com/bjfogg/
To learn more about my services and to stay connected, visit me at:
- Website: Advocate to Win
- Instagram: @imheatherhansen
- Sign up for your consultation: https://calendly.com/advocatetowin/introduction-call
- Don’t forget to Subscribe to the Advocate with Elegance FREE private podcast here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/613921e87accb4c0210201c5
Would you like to ask me a question? Please leave me a message by calling (856) 390-4831.Don’t forget to let me know if we can use your call on the show.
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In this weeks podcast, we welcome Karen Joy Hardwick, a clinically and spiritually trained psychotherapist-turned-leadership coach and speaker. She helps others awaken, courageously lead, and unlock the power of connection in their lives and at work. She joins us to discuss her book The Connected Leader - 7 Strategies to Empower Your True Self and Inspire Others.
It was a pleasure to explore how we can develop healthy and sustainable connections with people and why this is important. We consider how figuring out who we are inside is valuable in making connections, and the need to allow time for self-discovery. Karen shares how her life experiences have shown her the beauty in mindfulness, being present, and slowing down to listen to both herself and to others. Tune in to hear her beautiful explanation of what she calls ‘the sacred awe.’
To learn more about Karen Hardwick, visit the links below:
- Book: The Connected Leader: 7 Strategies to Empower Your True Self and Inspire Others
- Website: https://karenjhardwick.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karenjhardwick/?hl=en
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KarenJHardwickInc/
- Karen’s podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/gravity-leadership-podcast/id1356585852
To learn more about my services and to stay connected, visit me at:
- Website: Advocate to Win
- Instagram: @imheatherhansen
- Sign up for your consultation: https://calendly.com/advocatetowin/introduction-call
- Don’t forget to Subscribe to the Advocate with Elegance FREE private podcast here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/613921e87accb4c0210201c5
- Would you like to ask me a question? Please leave me a message by calling (856) 390-4831.Don’t forget to let me know if we can use your call on the show.
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In today’s solo episode, Heather shares what years of cross examinations in the courtroom have taught her about liars. She gives you 4 tools to tell whether someone is lying, and what to do when you need to prove that someone is lying. And her examples include Amber Heard and lip injections!!! You don’t want to miss this episode.
And don’t forget to sign up for the private podcast. This Thursday Heather will dive deeper into liars and lying. The link to sign up is here.
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To learn more about my services and to stay connected, visit me at:
- Website: Advocate to Win
- Instagram: @imheatherhansen
- Sign up for your consultation: https://calendly.com/advocatetowin/introduction-call
- Don’t forget to Subscribe to the Advocate with Elegance FREE private podcast here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/613921e87accb4c0210201c5
- Would you like to ask me a question? Please leave me a message by calling (856) 390-4831.Don’t forget to let me know if we can use your call on the show.
KeyNote Speaker: Are you looking for a keynote speaker to teach you how to advocate for your ideas, for change, for your product and for sales? I would love to come and speak to your team and show them how to advocate to win in their business. Please fill out the form below and I will contact you with more details. https://form.jotform.com/221107324351139
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On today’s episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing Matt Hulett, author of Unlock: 5 Questions to Unleash Your Company's Hidden Power.
Matt is a seasoned technology executive leading world class public and private companies and working closely with Boards and investors in organizations that include Rosetta Stone, RealNetworks, Expedia and many more. While his book is written for those seeking success with their business, much of what he shares can be beneficial for everyone.
Some of the points we discuss from the book are how we can become comfortable and confident in the skills we offer to others. Matt shares how he came to appreciate the role timing plays in business, and why we should be honest as to whether we need to walk away from certain ideas. The book also touches on the significance of communicating with your team and celebrating their potential, a concept Matt finds especially valuable in today’s digital world.
To learn more about Matt Hulett, visit him at:
- https://startupwhisperer.com/
- https://twitter.com/matt_hulett
- Book: Unlock: 5 Questions to Unleash Your Company's Hidden Power
To learn more about my services and to stay connected, visit me at:
- Website: Advocate to Win
- Instagram: @imheatherhansen
- Sign up for your 15 Minute consultation:https://calendly.com/advocatetowin/15min
- Don’t forget to Subscribe to the Advocate with Elegance FREE private podcast here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/613921e87accb4c0210201c5
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In today’s podcast, we will discuss judgment. Though it is not always a bad thing, it is frequently held in a negative context. We may even find that our thoughts and decisions are often motivated by it. Most people are not afraid of failing, but they’re afraid of being judged for having failed. With that in mind, we will consider three ways that we can avoid being judged and how we can get out of the habit of judging.
KeyNote Speaker: Are you looking for a keynote speaker to teach you how to advocate for your ideas, for change, for your product and for sales. I would love to come and speak to your team and show them how to advocate to win in their business. Please fill out the form below and I will contact you with more details. https://form.jotform.com/221107324351139
To learn more about my services and to stay connected, visit me at:
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- Instagram: @imheatherhansen
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- Don’t forget to Subscribe to the Advocate with Elegance FREE private podcast here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/613921e87accb4c0210201c5
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It was a pleasure to once again interview Dr. Stephen Trzeciak. He is a physician scientist, professor and chair of medicine at Cooper Medical School of Rowan University, and the chief of medicine at Cooper University Health Care. Dr. Trzeciak is a practicing intensivist, and a clinical researcher with more than 120 publications in the scientific literature, primarily in the field of resuscitation science. He’s also the author of Compassionomics, a book about the ROI of compassion in medicine.
Today we will talk about his latest book, The Wonder Drug: We will dig deep into this book and how the evidence that proves that the power of serving others can be a life changing therapy for everyone.
The Wonder Drug Book: 7 Scientically Proven Ways That Serving Others Is the Best Medicine for Yourself: https://amzn.to/3wgJ5P5
To learn more about Dr. Trzeciak, visit him at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephentrzeciak
https://www.instagram.com/stephentrzeciak/
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And now on to the show!
Do you consider soft skills as something nice to have, but not a necessity? Most people don’t realize how soft skills effect the outcomes of trials, negotiations, and general every day business transactions.
Today, I am going to talk to you about soft skills and how you can use them to win within your jobs and life.
Some topics we will cover are:
Using the 5 C’s of an advocate to win
Why soft skills are necessary
Why people don’t understand the benefits of soft skills
MIT Research
Article Mentioned:
https://sloanreview.mit.edu/article/top-performers-have-a-superpower-happiness/
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It was a pleasure to interview Michael Meyer, an author and Fulbright Scholar. He has published three critically acclaimed books: The Last Days of Old Beijing, In Manchuria, and The Road to Sleeping Dragon. His newest book, which we will be discussing today is called: Benjamin Franklin’s Last Bet: The Favorite Founder's Divisive Death, Enduring Afterlife, and Blueprint for American Prosperity
Benjamin Franklin is one of the most influential people in the history of America. Michael discusses the details and contents of his book, which were all about Franklin’s last will. We also talked about tradespeople and how much they mattered to him. Michael also shares with us how and why Franklin left money for Philadelphia and Boston and how there are lawsuits revolving around the will.
Some topics we will cover are:
- All About the Book: Benjamin Franklin’s Last Bet
- Franklin’s Last Will and Testament
- All About Tradespeople
- The Bet against the Factional Elites
- The Money Franklin Left for Philadelphia and Boston
- The Role of Women
- Lawsuits about the Will
- Franklin as a Philanthropist and its Importance
Learn more about Michael Meyer, click on the links below:
- Website: https://inmanchuria.com/
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/meyerwriter
- Book: Benjamin Franklin’s Last Bet: https://amzn.to/3vm0CVm
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Today we will talk about White Space. White Space is the room you leave for people to believe. Whether it be in your professional or personal life, we all need to learn to leave this space and pause so that others have time to process what we are telling them. As well as we need to allow ourselves this space to help our minds be freed from the worlds distractions, which will lead to increased creativity.
Listen in as I discuss the many benefits of White Space and how to use it in your life now.
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Today, Julie Wilcox of Julie Wilcox Wellness, author of The Win-Win Diet: How to Be Plant-Based and Still Eat What You Love, joins us on the show to share some helpful insights on why quality food choices are essential for our overall health, how to choose a diet that you can stick to, and how food consumption and portioning correlates with self-discipline. Julie Wilcox is an entrepreneur, author, and specialist in health and well-being. Julie is the founder and CEO of Julie Wilcox Wellness, a global wellness consulting firm. Her courses emphasize a comprehensive approach to healthy living. She has facilitated wellness initiatives for thousands of people in corporate, institutional, and non-profit settings.
Food has always been essential to our survival as a species. Our food preferences have developed in tandem with our methods of obtaining, preparing, and consuming it.
The quality of our food impacts the quality of our lives. Nobody can deny the concept behind the ubiquitous adage “Health is Wealth,” but what does that even imply to a consumer?
Don’t miss out on this episode because it will change how you think about food intake and preparation.
To learn more about Julie, visit the links below:
- Website: https://www.juliewilcoxwellness.com/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JulieWilcoxMethod/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliewilcoxwellness/
- Book: The Win-Win Diet: How to Be Plant-Based and Still Eat What You Love
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- Instagram: @imheatherhansen
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Today, we will be talking about “Making the Case,” so that you can learn to ask for what you want. Living a life that is true to yourself so that you will not have regrets is something that can be done through advocating. Becoming a strong advocate and using the tools that I used in the courtroom such as questions, credibility, evidence, perspective taking, arguments, words, body language, and creativity to name a few is how you can begin to build your case.
Building the evidence for yourself is something that I have my private coaching clients do daily. I will go over how I help them find their evidence and what to do with that evidence to build a case for themselves.
Link discussed:
https://www.nytimes.com/2015/10/10/opinion/can-we-end-the-meditation-madness.html
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It was a joy to interview Liz Wiseman an author, researcher and executive advisor who teaches leadership to executives worldwide. She is the CEO of the Wiseman Group, a leadership research and development firm headquartered in Silicon Valley, California. Some of her recent clients include Apple, AT&T, Disney, Facebook, Google, Microsoft, Nike, Salesforce, Tesla, and Twitter.
Liz Wiseman is here on the show today to tell us how impact players help the leaders of companies stay successful. “While others do their job, Impact Players figure out the real job to be done.” We will discuss this topic in detail as we walk through her most recent book, Impact Players: How to Take the Lead, Play Bigger, and Multiply Your Impact.
I had an amazing time talking with her and I enjoyed discussing our shared ideas on leadership and authoring our own lives.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why did Liz write about being a contributor rather than a follower in her book
- How does an impact player go beyond "just tell me what to do"
- The ambient problems of the workplace and their solutions
- Scenarios where you have to lead the leader
- How curiosity lends itself to success as an impact player
- The importance of asking WHY
To learn more about Liz, click on the links below:
- Website: http://thewisemangroup.com
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/LizWiseman
- Book: Impact Players: How to Take the Lead, Play Bigger, and Multiply Your Impact
- Book recommended by Liz: Made to Stick: Why some ideas survive and others die
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- Learn How to Advocate 8 Week program starts on March 24th: Schedule your 15-minute consultation for the 8 weeks program, to get more information and to see if this is the program for you. https://calendly.com/advocatetowin/15min
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It is so important that you realize when you try something new and it doesn't work out, it doesn't mean you have failed. It means that you have just found another “Not this” job or situation. Not this means that you have tried something and it isn't the perfect fit for you. Or, if it’s something that you have been doing for a long time it may not be what you want to do anymore.
Listen as I talk about the many “Not this” things that I have done throughout my life. It has taught me to not be afraid of trying something new, because each thing that I tried that didn’t work out lead me closer to what I currently love to do, which is keynote speaking and coaching people on how to advocate for themselves. Don’t be afraid to try something new. You might find what your “This” is, and you will finally find what makes you happy and fulfilled.
Episode mentioned:
https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/13715144
Upcoming Events:
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I had the pleasure of interviewing Ann Latham, author of The Power of Clarity: Unleash the True Potential of Workplace Productivity, Confidence, and Empowerment. Ann has also written The Clarity Papers and Clear Thoughts Volume 1 and 2 and she is the CEO of Uncommon Clarity.
Today we will take a deep dive into The Power of Clarity book. I believe that even though this book is meant for workplace productivity, it can be used for your family and your own productivity as well.
Some of the topics we will cover are:
- How Ann decided on the name for her company
- Treadmill Verbs vs Destination Verbs
- Being very specific about what you want
- Asking for what you need
- Avoiding kitchen sink conversations
- What must be different when you’re done?
- Cards with the Pope
- Process clarity
- Focus on outcome instead of to do lists
**Also, On March 18th I am doing a free LIVE webinar on “How to be bold enough to advocate for yourself.” Sign up here: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_hDFBy0McSZqag4B8gyCgkQ
Schedule your 15-minute consultation for the 8 weeks program, to get more information and to see if this is the program for you. https://calendly.com/advocatetowin/15min**
To Learn more about Ann, click on the links below:
- Website: https://annlatham.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/uncommonclarityinc/
- The Power of Clarity Book
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Today we will talk about advocating and regrets, and to help better understand this topic I will be using the book by Daniel Pink called The Power of Regret. His book brings to light 4 types of regrets which are foundational regrets, connection regrets, moral regrets and boldness regrets. But we will focus on the boldness regrets. Boldness regrets are chances not taken, such as not advocating for yourself when you knew you deserved something. Listen as I tell you about the power of regret and how it teaches us so much about ourselves and how advocating for yourself can lead to less regrets.
On March 18th I am doing a free LIVE webinar on “How to be bold enough to advocate for yourself.” Sign up here: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_hDFBy0McSZqag4B8gyCgkQ
Schedule your 15-minute consultation for the 8 weeks program, to get more information and to see if this is the program for you. https://calendly.com/advocatetowin/15min
Links mentioned in this episode:
- Daniel Pink article: https://time.com/6145246/daniel-pink-regrets-failure-resume/
- Failure Resume: https://stvp.stanford.edu/blog/tag/resume
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On this episode of The Elegant Warrior, I talk with Kat Norton. Kat Norton is a TikTok influencer who goes by the name of Miss Excel. She uses her platform, which has millions of views, to explain Microsoft Excel hacks. In the short span of her career she’s garnered many accolades, including the prestigious Microsoft MVP award, as well as over 100,000 followers on TikTok.
We begin by exploring Kat’s journey from her previous corporate job to where she is today, a CEO of her own successful company.
Together, we discuss leaning into your intuition and how Kat was able to make the leap from having a full-time job to pursuing her own business. We then dive into how Kat monetized her platform by creating an Excel course. Listen to the end to find out Kat’s plans for the future.
To learn more about Kat, click on the links below:
- Kat Norton on Instagram
- Courses by Kat Norton
- Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself by Dr Joe Dispenza
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I had a great interview with Oliver Burkeman, which is the author who wrote my favorite book of 2021. He is also the author of Help: How to Become Slightly Happier and Get A Bit More Done, The Antidote: Happiness For People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking., and of course my favorite book for 2021 Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management For Mortals.
Today, we will take a deep dive into his Four Thousand Weeks book and discuss how he came up with his topics and his reasons behind writing this book. This book is a must read and it really puts perspective on our lives and how we use our time.
Some of the topics we will discuss are:
- A perspective shift
- I will look for the wonder when I’m done
- Choosing to Choose
- What we do with our time is a choice
- The Importance Trap
- Procrastination
- And much more
To learn more about Oliver, click on the links below:
Website: https://www.oliverburkeman.com/
Four Thousand Weeks Book
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It was a pleasure interviewing Kristoffer Carter, author of Permission to Glow: A Spiritual Guide to Epic Leadership. Kristoffer is also a speaker, coach, and retreat leader. He has coached top executives from businesses such as Amazon and AT&T, using his 4 Permissions Framework.
This was a fantastic book and I really enjoyed taking a deep dive into the different parts of the book and how it relates back to his overall spiritual teachings of the intersection of consciousness and business.
Book Topics we will discuss:
- Permission to Chill
- Permission to Feel all the Feels
- Permission to Glow in the Dark
- Permission to Glow in the Light
To learn more about Kristoffer, click on the links below:
Website: https://www.thisepiclife.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/permissiontoglowbook/
https://www.instagram.com/kristoffercarter/
Book: Permission to Glow: A Spiritual Guide to Epic Leadership
Sign up for the February 7th FREE Overcoming Time Famine Masterclass here: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_SYLWmWPITVi0SAjkhie8xQ
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Do you feel like no matter what you do, no matter how hard you work, you just can’t seem to reach your goals? If you feel like you don’t have enough time in the day, the month, or even the year, then you have time famine.
Today, I will be talking about Time Famine and how I no longer suffer from this issue and in fact I now have time abundance. Listen as I talk about my personal experience as an attorney that had to account for each minute that I worked on a case and how you can begin to look at time with a new perspective. I will also talk about a major mindset shift that needs to happen in order to move away from time famine and into time abundance.
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It was a pleasure to interview Dr. Nate Zinsser, author of the new book The Confident Mind: A Battle-Tested Guide to Unshakable Performance.
Dr. Zinsser is an expert in the psychology of human performance and consults with individuals and organizations seeking a competitive edge. He has been endorsed by people like Eli Manning, bestselling authors Jon Krakauer and Steven Pressfield, and US Olympic Bobsled Head Coach Mike Kohn.
He has created a sports psychology program for cadets seeking the mental edge for athletic, academic, and military performance that the United States Military Academy has adopted.
His talk today provides a glimpse into mental toughness training at West Point and how you can alter your physiology for better performance.
Topics we will discuss:
- What is the first victory?
- Modifying your brain in a way that will lend you more success
- What are the five affirmations that make you successful?
- Does the affirming bring the belief, or does the belief make the affirmation work?
- About the shooters' mentality
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To learn more about Dr. Zinsser, click on the links below:
Website: Dr. Nate Zinsser
Book: The Confident Mind: A Battle-Tested Guide to Unshakable Performance.
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Today I will discuss how our actions are completely affected by what we believe is true. Even if we know that we have done a great job at something, the negative attorney somehow always tries to sneak into our thoughts and makes us doubt our abilities. You never want to let someone else's doubts be the reason you choose to settle and kill your belief. Give your inner jury a choice every time. Below are some of the questions that I will answer today:
- How do you explore situations and analyze both sides?
- How do you overcome doubts?
- How can you be aware of whose doubts are feeding you?
Tune in to this episode of questions and doubt and find out more!
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Success has a different meaning for each of us. But the thing that unites all of our definitions of success is that we should set a goal and achieve it to consider ourselves successful. So, how do we do this? Ruth Gotian is here on the show today to explain how.
Dr. Ruth Gotian is the Chief Learning Officer and Assistant Professor of Education in Anesthesiology and author of The Success Factor: Developing the Mindset and Skillset for Peak Business Performance. At the age of 43, she attended school to get a doctorate on success and wrote the book The Success Factor in the middle of the pandemic, while working full time.
Ruth will go over the four elements of success which are: intrinsic motivation, perseverance, a strong foundation that is constantly being reinforced, and continuous learning through informal means.
We will also discuss what she means when she says, “No, is a not yet” and “Being busy vs. being productive.”
To learn more about Ruth, click on the links below:
- Passion Audit: https://www.ruthgotian.com/passionaudit
- Website- https://www.ruthgotian.com/about
- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ruthgotian/
- Book - The Success Factor: Developing the Mindset and Skillset for Peak Business Performance
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Words have enormous value, and if you have been listening to me for even a short time you will know how much I love words. Today, I am going to do a deep dive into the word Dignity. Dignity is something that everyone is born with and is defined as the state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect. By always reflecting back on this word, it has helped me to treat people with respect and it has kept me in the correct mind frame when I was defending my clients during trials.
Let 2022 be the year that you realize your Dignity and let it guide you in everything that you do to reach your goals.
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In today’s episode of The Elegant Warrior podcast, I had the pleasure of speaking to Mike Zeller, a business architect, Author & Mentor. Mike helps professionals find their zone of genius and rewire their subconscious. He is the author of “The Genius Within” and has mentored more than three hundred high-level entrepreneurs. “The Genius Within” helps uncover your genius and achieve your purpose in life. The book contains action plans, impact models, and exercises. I love his book, and next week I will be journaling on a question from this book as I prepare for 2022. “What would it look like for me to fully step into my greatness, and what would I need to release and claim my greatness?” Besides, Mike recommends the reader to think and grow rich but not act and grow rich!
Listen in to find out the four pillars that give us clues about our genius, what hinders the genius within, risk tolerance, and reversing the belief. We will also discuss how can you claim your power, and what’s the power positioning statement.
To learn more about Mike Zeller, click on the links below:
Website: MikeZeller.com
LinkedIn: The Mike Zeller
Instagram: The Mike Zeller
Book: The Genius Within
NLP Meditation: Claim your power
The 6 steps to finding your Genius Free Guide: Text: GeniusU to 474747
Book Mentioned:
The Power of Full Engagement
Personality tests:
Kolbe.com
Strengthsfinder
DISC
Wealth dynamic tests
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Who is the authority in your life? For a long time, my job was my authority. Being a lawyer dictated my choice, my story, and it dictated the way I saw myself. The character that I was writing for myself was the character of a lawyer. I did things a lawyer would do, and I didn’t do things that I thought a lawyer wouldn’t do. My job as my lawyer started to tell me who I was and what I did.
My biggest challenge over the past few years has been the authority in my life when it comes to my business. This is because I wasn’t sure who I wanted to serve, whether Business to business (B2B) or speak for women I knew were not advocating for themselves (B2C).
My success story lay on the other side of being the authority in my life. Stay tuned to this podcast and learn how being your own authority can change your life.
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On today’s episode, I had the pleasure to talk with the Gloria Feldt, former CEO of the Planned Parenthood Federation of America and is currently the cofounder and President of Take The Lead. Gloria has just published a new book called Intentioning, a guide to achieving the life and career you want, which is aimed specifically at women. Gloria encourages women to step into the post-pandemic power vacuum to build a better and more equal society. I found this book such a good read, because not only is it so useful, it’s also really fun and lighthearted.
Intentioning lays out nine leadership tools that readers can use to get comfortable with being powerful. Gloria and I discussed each of these tools in depth, along with the demons that can undermine us. One of my personal favorite tools is her adage that you should “Research your worth.” Our worth isn’t just limited to fair compensation, although that’s important, but it’s also thinking about your unique qualities and the ROI that these resources bring to others. Listen in to hear us discuss the tools, and why Gloria’s optimistic about the future of gender equality in our post-pandemic society.
To learn more about Gloria, click on the links below:
Gloria Feldt website
Gloria Feldt on Instagram
Intentioning website
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The journey to start advocating for myself happened after returning from the hospital with a severe allergic reaction, to myself. It was hard to believe and understand because I was consistently named as one of Pennsylvania’s top 50 female attorneys, I had been inducted into the American College of Trial Lawyers and I’d also just started a media career as a legal expert making appearances on TV news. But also at the time, I was on back-to-back trials, under pressure, and in a bad relationship.
Anyone looking at me from the outside would have thought I had it all: a great job, six figure salary, a boyfriend, a condo, a media career, but I wanted more. I knew I wanted to write a book, to start a podcast, to use my psychology degree, to have a relationship with someone who was more supportive. It was at this point that I decided that no-one else was going to help me, so I had to help myself and become my own advocate.
All of my dreams lay on the other side of advocating for myself, and yours do too. Stay tuned to this podcast to get the tools you need to advocate for yourself. I can help you to advocate for yourself through my private podcast, my mastermind and through my one-on-one coaching program. You need to identify what you want, own it and seek it out. And I’m here to help you do that.
Listen through the final ending of this podcast, where I will answer the questions that I was asked from my private podcast clients and learn whether or not I won the trial!
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It was a pleasure interviewing my guest Alisa Cohn today. Alisa has been nominated as the Top Startup Coach in the World by Thinkers50/Marshall Goldsmith Global Coaches Awards in London, she’s worked with companies such as Venmo, DraftKings, and Etsy, and has coached CEOs and C-suite executives of Dell, Google, Microsoft and Calvin Klein. Around her guest lecturing schedule at Harvard and Cornell, she also writes articles that have appeared in publications such as Forbes, has had TV appearances on BBC World New and Bloomberg TV, and she’s a keen amateur rapper. Alisa and I sit down to discuss her new book ‘From Start-Up to Grown-Up’, which is her complete guide to achieve personal and professional success. The book is split into three sections, first talking about managing yourself, then talking about managing your team, and then managing your company. Her advice is relevant to everyone, regardless of whether or not you have started your own company, because as Alisa points out, we all have to learn to manage ourselves first, and we eventually build up towards managing others, whether that’s in our personal or professional lives.
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The Work Is In You Rap by Alisa Cohn
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Have you ever hired someone to do something for you and you just know it’s going to be done correctly? Or have you assigned someone a job to do at work and you know that they are going to get the work done no matter what? This is what I call the “I’ve Got You Energy.”
Today on The Elegant Warrior Podcast, I will be discussing in detail what the “I’ve Got You Energy” is and how you can become the person that others know will complete a given task no matter what obstacles get in your way. This energy can be life changing for you on the receiving end as well as the giving end, and I will go over ways that will help you get better at both.
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Today, I had the great pleasure of interviewing Darcy Eikenberg. She is a leadership and career coach and the author of the book, Red Cape Rescue: Save Your Career Without Leaving Your Job. Her mission and the mission of this book is “to help us change our lives at work without having to change everything in our lives.”
We will take a deep dive into the 3 sections of her book; Reset How You Think, Revise What You Say and Reinvent What You Do. It seems to be the norm that when you don’t like what you are doing at work or you begin to get bored that you move companies and make a career change. So, I found it very interesting how she has come up with a way of helping people and showing them how they don’t have to completely change their lives but yet still be fulfilled and excited about getting up for work everyday.
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Website: https://redcaperevolution.lpages.co/red-cape-rescue/
Instagram: Darcy Eikenberg
Episodes mentioned:
Episode 182: Know. Ask. Get. Repeat
Leslie Ehm - Swagger
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On this episode of The Elegant Warrior Podcast, I discuss the simple fact that you are capable.
Recognizing your capability is a key part of becoming your own advocate. It’s also the first stage in being able to take risks, and if you’re not taking risks, you’re not opening yourself up to all the potential opportunities that come with the risk.
I believe in you and your capability, because by listening to this podcast, you’re showing me and yourself that you’re interested in getting comfortable with risk and with seizing opportunities. When you’re doing that, you’re advocating for yourself.
Please reach out to me to let me know how you’re advocating for yourself and how you have discovered your own capabilities; I love hearing your inspiring stories.
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On today’s episode of The Elegant Warrior podcast, I invite special guest author and researcher Courtney Ackerman on to the show to talk about her new book, ‘The Book of Patience’. Courtney has compiled 250 tips, tricks and thought-provoking ideas to help us to become more patient, which is something that is so relevant and necessary as we all wait for COVID-19 restrictions to stop dominating our lives.
I love her book as her advice is so intuitive and it’s the kind of book that encourages you to flick through it over and over again. Courtney’s approach is to give different kinds of advice and to illustrate her point in several ways so that you can find the parts that resonate with you the most. She emphasizes that patience is a choice that we have to make - perhaps we can’t change the situation that we’re in, but we can work on our mindset to change how we feel about it. When we apply this technique, our patience will grow over time, like a muscle.
Listen in to find out how to embrace the downtime and how practicing the art of patience will help you to reconnect with the world around you and feel like you’re a small part of a whole. Once you make room for patience in your life, you’d be surprised what other positive changes come along too!
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The Book of Patience
Courtney’s Instagram
Simonandschuster.com
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On today’s episode of The Elegant Warrior podcast, I cover a crucial concept in the process of beginning to be your own advocate: the risk versus opportunity matrix.
Sometimes, some people can be put off from advocating for themselves because they perceive the risk as being too great. When you ask your boss for a raise, or try to lay down a boundary with a tricky family member, you may be worried about risking a close relationship or making a fool of yourself. It’s natural to be averse to risk; in fact, it’s part of the human condition.
However, being averse to risk can mean that you stay stuck in the same place, not getting the things you want for yourself. I know what it feels like to take a risk - and to lose! - and I want you to know that people who take risks are generally more satisfied in life. I explain how to reframe your thinking around risks and opportunities so that you feel ready to take a risk in life and to be your own advocate. Listen to this episode to find out how to prepare yourself to take a risk, making sure to control the elements of the situation that you can so that you give yourself the greatest possible chance to succeed.
Stay tuned all the way through to find out how you can sign yourself up for one of the two spots left in my one-on-one coaching program, so you can learn how to step up and seize the opportunities in your life.
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On today’s episode of The Elegant Warrior, I had the pleasure of speaking with Jason Harris, co-founder and CEO of Mekanism, a San Francisco-based advertising agency that has shaped the image of brands such as Ben & Jerry’s, OkCupid, Jose Cuervo and Alaska Airlines.
He is the author of the book ‘The Soulful Art of Persuasion: The 11 Habits that will make Anyone a Master Influencer’. I was blown away by the messages in his book, which is an entertaining and easy read that’s packed with great insights and interesting stories.
Make sure to stay tuned right to the end to listen to Jason and I discussing skill hunting and how to use your talents to give back to the world around you. I loved his idea of looking within yourself to apply the skills you already have to a new audience - it’s a simple idea that can make such a huge difference.
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Being good at advocating means that you are able to ask for what you want in a way that you will get it. Today, I will cover the 4 steps that are the basis of advocating:
- Knowing what you want.
- Asking for what you want.
- Getting what you want.
- Repeat.
If you want to learn more about advocating for yourself and want the steps to move forward with your advocating skills, this is the episode for you.
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Resources discussed during this episode:
Book: Advocate To Win
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Today I had the pleasure, once again, of interviewing Dorie Clark. Dorie is an author, keynote speaker, consultant, and she teaches executive education at Duke University’s Fuqua School of Business and Columbia Business School. She has been named one of the top 50 business thinkers in the world by Thinkers50 and was recognized by the Marshall Goldsmith Leading Global Coaches Awards as the #1 communications coach in the world.
She has written several books, but today we will be focusing on her newest book The Long Game. Listen as we discuss the different topics within the chapters. This book brings to light the way we see the world around us, and it provides real strategic actionable advice. I know you are going to enjoy this episode as much as I did.
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Interview with Dorie – The Elegant Warrior Episode 118
Dorie Clark's Website
Book – The Long Game
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In this solo episode, Heather shares how you can use the tools of an advocate (Credibility, Compassion and Curiosity) to advocate for your boundaries.
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Dr Haythe is a Critical Care Cardiologist at Columbia University. She is the Co-Director of the Women’s Heart Center and the Director of their Cardio-Obstetric Program.
Her Wall St Journal opinion piece, House Calls Are Back-Virtually is here.
The IAT test to measure Implicit Bias is here. Sate
Her book choices were:
State of Wonder
Pachinko
And her song choice is Kanye West’s Stronger
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This episode Heather shares how to choose your way to your highest potential.She also shares details of her new, private podcast Advocate with Elegance. Subscribe to the Advocate with Elegance private podcast here.
Jessica is the founder of Zimmerman Events & Education and the author of Sleeping With a Stranger. You can find all of her offerings, including the book, here.
Jessica’s book choice is Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert.
She chose two songs-I Am Here by Pink
Known by Tauren Wells
In this solo episode Heather shares the Win/Lose/Weird Process she uses in the courtroom and with her coaching/consulting clients.
Sedruola Maruska is a cancer survivor, speaker, social justice advocate and consultant. In this episode, we talk about dropping our defenses and asking more questions around race.
Sedruola’s website is here.
Her book choice is The Nickel Boys by Colson Whitehead
Her song choice is I Choose by India.Arie
In this episode Heather dives deeper into the feminine and masculine energies, and her story of integrating them to capture more wins.
Angie Byrd is the founder of Wild Studio, a Sensuality Coach and an Embodiment teacher. In this episode we discuss how everyone would benefit from being a little more feminine. Angie’s website is here.
Her book choice is Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
Her song choice is Are You Going to Go My Way by Lenny Kravitz.
In this episode, Heather tells the story of how she was able to trade her defensiveness for curiosity in a parking garage. And how she did, in fact, park like ass.
The other episode that Heather references, Trading Defensiveness for Curiosity, can be found here.
Linda is an author, speaker, TV host and speaking empowerment coach. She’s the author of the new book Delight in the Limelight-Overcome Your Fear of Being Seen and Realize Your Dreams.
We talk about the power of affirmation, a new way to see your inner critic, and how to have fun with your voice.
You can find out more about Linda and buy her book here.
Linda’s book choice was Cassandra Speaks by Elizabeth Lesser, which you can buy here.
In addition, Heather’s podcast with Elizabeth Lesser is here.
Linda’s song choice is Gambia by Sona Jobarteh which you can find here
In this episode Heather talks about the value of anger, and the importance of how you use it. When you use it to harm, it controls you. But when you use it to prevent harm, it can help you win. In this episode Heather refers to her podcast with Elizabeth Lesser, which you can find here: https://podcasts.apple.com/rw/podcast/elegant-warrior-podcast-with-heather-hansen/id1438007738
She also refers to the book Fierce Self Compassion, which you can find here: https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwjpsqyU_KvxAhUrBYgJHWCOATIYABAFGgJxbg&ae=2&ei=RznSYIaYNKuo5NoPyYOP-A4&sig=AOD64_09m8iH8OO-bqEQVRKx9YwFlc2B_g&ctype=5&q=&ved=2ahUKEwjG16KU_KvxAhUrFFkFHcnBA-8Q9aACegQIARBa&adurl=
Judge Aquilina is back! Judge Rosemarie Aquilina is featured in both of Heather’s books for good reason--she’s extraordinary. She’s the author of the Audible original Just Watch Me, which you can buy here. She’s also the co-host of the podcast Warrior Women Speak.
Listen to our last conversation here.
In this conversation Heather and the Judge discuss why you shouldn’t start with why and the pros and cons of expectations.
Judge Aquilina’s book choice was My Yucky Feeling by Anne Melver
She also chose Born a Crime by Trevor Noah
Her song choice was My Way by Frank Sinatra
In this episode, Heather explains the difference between reacting and responding and the importance of “the moment”. When you find that space, you find the ability to collect more wins.
In this episode, Heather gives two examples of your Inner Jury and how she wants to work for you. She shows you how you can help your Inner Jury make the best possible choices, so you can live your best possible life.
Ethan Kross is one of the world’s leading experts in controlling the conscious mind. He’s a Professor at the University of Michigan psychology department and the Director of the Emotion and Self Control lab. He’s the author of the phenomenal book Chatter-The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. Buy it here.
You can find more on Ethan here.
His book choice was Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. You can buy it here.
His song choice was U2, A Beautiful Day
Erica Maurer is a partner at EMRG Media and The Event Planner Expo. She is also the co-founder of Women Insider Network (WIN). Erica shares how to pivot in face of adversity, how to bring more energy to your next meeting and how the new norm is anything you want it to be.
Erica’s instagram is @ericamaurer7
Her books were:
Believe It by Jamie Kern Lima
Undoubted by Kara Goldin
Think and Grow Rich by Sharon Lechter
Her song choice is We Had a Thing by Abstract Truth, Matty’s Body and Soul Remix
In this episode we talked about the Blue Yeti microphone, the logitech camera and ring lights.
Ever since Advocate to Win came out, I’ve received one question more than any other. “Why don’t I want to ask?” Well I have 3 answers to that question, and I’ll explain in this episode. The bottom line is you must ask. Over and over. You can’t get what you don’t ask for, so overcome the three hurdles I describe and get asking.
You can buy Advocate to Win here.
Alden Mills led 3 Navy Seal platoons through multiple missions. He founded Perfect Fitness, which created sales of $90million. And he’s the author of two fabulous books-Be Unstoppable-The 8 Essential Actions to Success at Anything and Unstoppable Teams-4 Essential Actions of High Performance Leadership.
In this episode, Alden takes us through his CARE Loop and shares why love is always the bottom line.
His book choice was The Alchemist
His song choice was The Best Day of My Life by The American Authors
In this episode, I share more about my next book, Advocate to Win. I tell you about the ten tools of an advocate, and how you can use them to ask for what you want and get it! You can buy Advocate to Win here.
And you can listen to Judge Aquilina’s episode of The Elegant Warrior here.
Don’t forget to review The Elegant Warrior book and podcast!
Katie Hess is a flower alchemist. She’s the author of Flower Evolution, the host of The Flower Lounge Podcast and the founder of Lotus Wei, one of the world’s leading floral apothecaries. You can find all of Katie’s offerings here
Her book choice was Poems of the First Buddhist Women
In this episode, I share why I had to name my new book Advocate to Win. And I share my definition of winning-to receive something positive because you’ve earned it. When you use this definition of winning, you don’t need to be afraid to lose. You always win, because there’s always a different something positive to receive.
I share an example that has to do with presumptuous energy. Take a listen to learn more-and know that Presumptuous energy wins!
You can buy a copy of my new book here. And please don’t forget to review it!
Jill Huntley Taylor has been a trial consultant for 20 years. She has her PhD in social psychology and uses it to apply a story model of juror decision making. In this episode, we dive into YOUR jury, whether it’s your family, your partner, your friends or your clients and customers. We also discuss advocating for your stories using all of the tools of an advocate.
Jill’s book choice was Just Mercy
Her song choice was It’s Amazing by Jem
In today’s episode, I share a question that has changed many of my coaching clients’ lives. Is it fun? Too often we are pushing, striving and working so hard to achieve success that we forget the value of fun. Here I discuss just how valuable fun can be, and three questions to ask yourself every day that will help you to have much more fun.
Meaghan Murphy is the Editor in Chief of Women’s Day and the author of Your Fully Charged Life-A Radically Simple Approach to Having Endless Energy and Filling EVery Day with YAY!
You can buy her book here: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Fully-Charged-Life-Radically/dp/0593188578
Her book recommendation is Clearing Up Your Mental Mess by Caroline Leaf
And her song choice is Feeling Myself by Will I Am and Miley Cyrus: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VRuoR--LdqQ
This week I’m talking about the Entitlement Gap. It’s the idea that men feel entitled to promotions, jobs, support and power and women do not. I read about it in The Female Lead’s study, which is here. And I wrote about it in a Medium article, here.
Bryan McFarland is an entrepreneur and the founder of 3x5 Life. At 3x5 Life they make daily productivity cards to keep track of tasks and celebrate wins. The cards are analog, so you don’t have to go into your phone to check what is on your schedule or To Do List. They’re in sight, to remind you of your tasks. And they also contain morning gratitude and afternoon win prompts, to keep you focused on the good and on celebration.
Bryan’s book choice is The Slight Edge-Turning Simple Disciplines Into Massive Success and Happiness You can buy it here: https://www.amazon.com/Slight-Edge-Turning-Disciplines-Happiness/dp/1626340463
His song choice is Trevor Hall “Everything I Need": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E2Ppwwa3zfI
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Twenty years as a defense attorney will make you defensive. It’s part of the job after all. But I’ve found the more defensive I am, the worse I do, in the courtroom and also in life. And when I trade defensiveness for curiosity, I win. As a self advocacy coach, I’ve seen this work for my clients as well. When they trade defensiveness for curiosity, they win.
First, you should know my definition of win. It’s from the Cambridge Dictionary, and it is to “receive something positive because you’ve earned it”. You can receive more fun, better relationships, more self awareness, and better outcomes when you earn it by trading your defensiveness for curiosity.
It worked for me. Years ago I’d been in a relationship for a few years and we’d been through a lot together. But suddenly my partner started saying “You’re miserable.” This made me miserable! I got very defensive and I could feel it in my body. My shoulders jumped up and became earrings. My stomach tied itself in knots, my jaw clenched and my hips tightened. So I defended.
“I’m not miserable! Ask anyone. Anyone who knows me will tell you I’m enthusiastic, optimistic and happy. For God’s sake, my nickname used to be Pollyanna!” I’d yell — miserably.
And I’d become more miserable. Then one day I was working on my next book, Advocate to Win, and sharing the 5 Cs of an Advocate. One of those Cs is Curiosity, and I decided to try trading my defensiveness for curiosity. I got curious.
“Am I miserable?” The answer was yes. The thoughts I was thinking about this relationship were making me miserable. As soon as I put down my defenses that became very clear. Then I decided to get even more curious. What if I owned it? “I am miserable.” It didn’t feel good, but it gave me a lot of insight. It was time for a change. After some work and some awareness I was able to change my thoughts about the relationship so that I felt less miserable. And then I was able to leave the relationship and maintain the friendship. No more misery-that was my win! And I earned it by putting down my defenses and being curious.
My clients have had similar results when they’ve traded their defensiveness for curiosity. One of my clients has a husband who called her boring. She told me about this and listed all of her defenses.
“I get up at 4am to play volleyball!” “I love to party!” “I play dress up with the kids all the time!”
She had her defenses ready. But I asked her to trade them for curiosity.
“Are there times you are boring?”
I visually watched her shoulders drop.
“Well, sure. I go to bed early. I don’t always want to watch TV late at night with him. And sometimes I don’t want to go out when he does…..Maybe I AM boring!”
We both laughed. It was no longer such a big deal to be boring when she owned that it was possible. And that meant she could talk to her husband about it without fighting. When you trade defensiveness for curiosity, you tend to fight a whole lot less. They talked about the ways in which she could be less “boring” and he could be less “lazy” (her biggest criticism of him). And now they’re both having a lot more fun.
And trading your defensiveness for curiosity doesn’t mean you have to acquiesce. Sometimes you do have to defend. In those situations, you start with curiosity and then move on to the defenses.
When I was trying cases, I’d always start with curiosity. I defended doctors when their patients sued them. And when the case came in, I’d approach the allegations with curiosity. How could this be true? How could the jury think this is true? When I was curious about all of the things that the other side would say, I was better able to defend my client against them.
You can do the same. If you are competing or a sale, a position or a client, be curious about your competition. What terrible things could they say about you? How could they hurt your reputation, your pitch and your odds of getting that thing you want? Put down your defenses and pick up curiosity. Explore all the ways you could lose — and then you’ll be much more likely to win. You will be prepared for every point because you weren’t afraid to look at them.
Trading defensiveness for curiosity can change your relationships, your work and your entire life. And it’s so much more fun. So try it for yourself. Put down your defenses, pick up curiosity and see what you win.
Alain Hunkins is a keynoter, a facilitator, a coach and a leadership expert. He’s also the author of Cracking the Leadership Code-3 Secrets to Building Strong Leaders. You can find his book and all things Alain here.
https://www.alainhunkins.com/
Alain’s book choice is The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
https://www.franklincovey.com/the-7-habits/
His song choice is Firework by Katy Perry
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QGJuMBdaqIw
My clients want to become better advocates for their teams, their ideas, their products or their bank accounts. They come to me to learn how to build credibility, use evidence, ask better questions, hone their body language/tone of voice and argue if necessary. And I give them the tools to become an extraordinary advocate. But we begin with their core values. Because when you know your core values, your choices become clear and your wins become easy.
Core values are the foundation upon which we build our choices, our actions and our results. In my keynotes I share the 5 Cs of an Advocate — Connection, Compassion, Creativity, Curiosity and Credibility. Those are the core values of an advocate, the foundation upon which they build their ask. And 3 of those are my core values as well. Compassion, Curiosity and Credibility are my core values. They are my touchstones, the three things I measure every decision and every action by, and they help me advocate to win.
I use these core values every day. I use them to decide who to hire, whether to take on a project, whether to work with an individual, when to stay and when to go. They guide everything. But that’s not the most important reason to have core values. The most important reason is to overcome self doubt.
Much of my work is helping my clients doubt more and believe less. We all have self doubt and it won’t ever be completely eradicated. But there are proven tools that can help. And one involves knowing and using your core values. When women know and reflect on their core values before a competitive business endeavor, they do better. And many believe this is because they have less self doubt.
In this study, Zoe Kinias and Jessica Sim took female MBA students and separated them into 2 groups. One reflected on and wrote about their personal values before taking exams and making presentations. The other reflected on and wrote about institutional values. In the group that reflected on institutional values, there was a gender gap in GPA, with the women performing worse than men. In the group that reflected on their personal core values, there was no gap.
Kinias and Sim attributed this difference to participants having less self doubt and more self worth after reviewing their values. And that surely helped. But I also believe that reviewing the values helped the women to remove themselves from the equation. When I’m advocating for Curiosity, Compassion and Credibility it’s a lot easier than when I’m advocating for me. We know that women are phenomenal advocates for others and less so for themselves. Maybe the women in this study were suddenly advocating for their values. And that allowed them to win.
So I encourage you to take the time to know and own your core values. Reflect on them, write on them, commit them to heart. If you have trouble coming up with them, begin by brainstorming all of the words/qualities that most resonate with you. Come up with at least 10 words. Then see where those words have overlap. For example, when I decided on my core values I came up with kindness, love, connection, caring and ability to see through other’s perspective. These all overlapped with one overriding word — compassion. That, therefore, became one of my core values.
Do the work to know your core values. Then reflect on them before you advocate for yourself. See yourself as advocating for those core values. You might find that you begin to doubt less and believe more. My definition of win is always the Cambridge Dictionary definition “to receive something positive because you’ve earned it”. You might receive better grades, more compensation, more clients, better culture and happier team mates if you earn it by knowing and living your core values.
Elizabeth is the co-founder of the Omega Institute and the author of many books including New York Times best seller Broken Open-How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow. She is one of Oprah’s Super Soul 100. Her new book Cassandra Speaks-When Women Are the Story Tellers, the Human Story Changes is an eye opening look at the stories we’ve told.
You can find all things Elizabeth here: https://www.elizabethlesser.org/
Her book choice was A Room of One’s Own by Virginia Woolf: https://www.amazon.com/Room-Ones-Own-Virginia-Woolf/dp/1614272778
Her song was Break the Shell by India.Arie:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tuKvUKSFDq0
What you see is what you get. That means if you change what you see, you’ll change what you get. In this solo episode I explain how changing your perspective can change your life, and how asking this one question is the perfect start.
Suneel Gupta is the founder of RISE, on the faculty at Harvard and went from being the face of failure at the New York Times to the New Face of Innovation at the New York Stock Exchange His book Backable-How to Convince Anyone to Take a Chance on You is one of my favorite books of 2021 so far!
You can get it here. https://www.backable.com/
His book choice was The Legend of Bagger Vance and you can get it here.
His song choice is My Way by Frank Sinatra
Lara is a coach and the author of Author Your Life-How One Writer Changed Her Life Through the Power of Storytelling and How You Can Too: https://www.authoryourlifenow.com/
Her book choice was Loving What Is by Byron Katie: https://www.amazon.com/Loving-What-Four-Questions-Change/dp/1400045371
And her song choice was OK Go’s This Too Shall Pass: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qybUFnY7Y8w&noredirect=1
Leslie Ehm is a former TV host, chief fire starter at Combustion Training and author of Swagger-Unleash Everything You Are and Become Everything You Want
You can find Leslie’s book here https://www.leslieehm.com/
You can find her book recommendation, The Self Employed Life, here:
https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-self-employed-life-jeffrey-shaw/1137309578
And her song selection here:
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1lhgP6mjF0kPE9zwm77RFW?si=Ak9tAafJQ9iNOROf_Rn1fQ
Most of my clients come to me to learn to advocate for themselves, their business, their careers, and their pocketbooks. But before they can advocate, they have to believe. Before they can advocate for their worth, they have to know it deep in their soul. This week I share ways that you can start to know your worth. And then the fun begins.
Here’s a link to my calendar if you want a free mini session. https://calendly.com/elegantwarrior/15min
Samhita Jayanti is the founder and CEO of Ideamix, a community of people who want to nurture their passions and ideas into purpose. She is passionate about entrepreneurship, and in this conversation she defines what that means and how it applies to you no matter what you do.
https://www.theideamix.com/
Sam’s conversation with her co-founder is here.
Sam’s books were:
Everything I Never Told You
Think Like a Rocket Scientist
Your Inner Jury listens and chooses. She doesn’t judge. So many of my clients and listeners still think that your Inner Jury is there to criticize and judge you. So in today’s episode, I dive deeper on the role of your Inner Jury. She listens. She chooses. And those choices make your life.
If you’d like to work with me, sign up for a free consult here. https://calendly.com/elegantwarrior/15min
Emma Isaacs is the founder of Business Chicks, a global, thriving community that operates in two continents and eleven cities. A business owner by the age of 18, property investor by 19 and millionaire by 23, Emma is a true entrepreneur. In this episode we discuss focus, failure and being worthy. We also discussed being pragmatic and not dramatic--which was my greatest takeaway from her fabulous book Winging It-Why Action Beats Planning Every Time.
Here's a link to Business Chicks - You can find Emmas’s book there
Emma’s book recommendation is Untamed by Glennon Doyle
Her song is Green Light by Lorde
In this episode, Heather explains how dangerous doubt can be and gives two ways you can have less doubt and more confidence, today.
Sara is a coach, certified wilderness guide and the author of Walk Through This: Harness the Healing Power of Nature and Travel the Road to Forgiveness.
Find her here:
https://www.saraschultingkranz.com/
Sara’s book choice is The Body Keeps the Score
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748
And her song choice is Belong
https://genius.com/X-ambassadors-belong-lyrics
In this episode, I share why I hate “Imposter Syndrome” and why I think you should embrace “Aspiring” instead. I also share the ways that belief can overcome Imposter Syndrome.
If you want access to the free webinar you’ll find it here: https://heatherhansenpresents.com/
Dr Lois Frankel is the President of Corporate Coaching International, an executive coach and internationally recognized expert in leadership development for women. She’s the author of the best selling Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office. Her recent audio book, Nice Girls Don’t Speak Up or Stand Out, is a must read for any nice (or not so nice) girl.
Here’s the study about women being unethical in negotiations: https://hbr.org/2018/09/research-simple-prompts-can-get-women-to-negotiate-more-like-men-and-vice-versa
Here’s the link to Dr Frankel’s website: https://www.drloisfrankel.com/
Lois’ book choice: https://www.amazon.com/Certain-Trumpets-Leadership-Garry-Wills/dp/0684801388
Lois’ song choice: https://www.google.com/search?q=sisters+are+doin+it+for+themselves&spell=1&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjUw6bfu9rsAhXQlnIEHXIOAPgQkeECKAB6BAgeECk
In this solo episode, I share a practice that has changed my life. Just like lawyers cross examine opposing witnesses to attack their credibility, you can do the same to your negative thoughts. Beliefs are thoughts that you have evidence to support and that you repeat. When you cross examine your negative thoughts, they have a hard time becoming beliefs. And when you choose what to believe, you start winning. If you want more info about coaching with me or to get on the waiting list for my mastermind, email me: heather@elegantwarrior.com
Jill is a business owner, author and recovering academic. She’s also one of the best communicators I know. You can find her and her book here.
http://www.thedynamiccommunicator.com/
Her book choice is here: https://www.amazon.com/What-Would-Google-Do-Reverse-Engineering/dp/0061709697
And her song choice is here on the Elegant Warrior Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1lhgP6mjF0kPE9zwm77RFW?si=Ak9tAafJQ9iNOROf_Rn1fQ
In this solo episode, I dive into the differences between comparison and competition, and let you know which one is going to make you more healthy and happy. I also let you know about my Cure for Imposter Syndrome webinar. If you want access to that, just email me: heather@elegantwarrior.com
What are the deeply held core values that guide you when you are making the hardest decisions? Do you spend your time focusing on those values or floating from idea to idea with no real purpose or end goal in mind?
My guest today is Brant Menswar, the author of Black Sheep: Unleash the Extraordinary, Awe-Inspiring, Undiscovered You. He wrote this book to help people identify what matters most in the moments that matter most, and today we discuss the importance of deliberately defining your values and knowing exactly what matters most to you so that you can take the most meaningful action every day.
Today we discuss —
What are your black sheep values?
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Do you know why farmers don’t value black sheep as much as the rest of the flock?
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Everyone has five black sheep values that should be embraced no matter what.
- Your non-negotiable values have to be separated from your important values — what matters most?
- You cannot find your purpose if you can’t define what your core values are.
What is the value of purpose?
- 99% of us are just winging it — why is that a problem?
- You can’t do anything on purpose if you’re just winging it.
- There is a massive difference between being intentional and living your life with deliberate intention.
- Don’t try to find your purpose — choose your purpose.
What is a good choice?
- A good choice is born from your black sheep values.
- A good choice is a result of all of the information you can access.
- A good choice honors what you are feeling in the moment.
- The only thing that you can control is the deliberate intention that goes into making decisions.
- Your happiness cannot depend on the results of your decisions.
Four facts about your black sheep values
- Truth does not have to be final based on the facts in the current room — do you have the right people having the right conversations?
- When you don’t feed your own sheep they don’t recognize you — you have to engage with your values in deliberate intention every single day.
- Spending all of your time feeding other people’s sheep distracts you from what matters most in your life.
- You have to start by identifying your what, not your why.
Brant’s book recommendation is Limitless: How to Ignore Everybody, Carve Your Own Path, and Live Your Best Life by Laura Gassner Otting
Brant’s song recommendation is “Purple Rain” by Prince
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Black Sheep: Unleash the Extraordinary, Awe-Inspiring, Undiscovered You by Brant Menswar
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Do you ever feel like a fake? That you don’t have the experience or credibility you need to do the work you’re doing and you’re afraid someone is going to find out the truth? We often call that impostor syndrome and I am here today to tell you that it is doing nothing to serve you. The first time I defended in the courtroom I knew I had zero experience but I didn’t let that stop me. I used other experiences in my life as evidence that I could do this new thing well too. You can overcome impostor syndrome by doing three things — believing in yourself, building credibility in yourself, and empowering yourself with the evidence — to help yourself move forward with confidence.
Today we discuss —
Identifying impostor syndrome
- Impostor syndrome refers to high achievers who are unable to internalize their success, resulting in self-doubt
- In order to advocate for yourself, you have to believe in yourself
- If you don’t believe in yourself, no one else is going to believe you either
Building credibility in YOU
- Credibility is the most important tool for advocating for yourself
- Credibility starts with believing in yourself
- First, build credibility with yourself and then you can build it with others
- Your inner jury first chooses doubt or belief and then influences the outer jury
- Look for evidence that builds your credibility
- Use a journal to document the instances of your success
Believe YOU
- It is more important that others believe you than that they believe IN you
- Make small promises and keep them
- Set small expectations and keep them
- Build credibility by owning the expectations and promises that you don’t keep
Empowering YOU
- When you are faced with a new endeavor, look for evidence that you will succeed
- There are experiences in your life that will prove that you are capable of succeeding
- Impostors are liars — do not call yourself a liar just because you’re trying something new
- Use words that support your hopes and dreams and abilities
- Empower yourself with evidence of your credibility
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Do you know how to ask for what you want? Negotiating is an art, and my guest today is going to teach us how to ask the right questions to get what we want most. Alexandra Carter is the author of Ask For More: 10 Questions to Negotiate Anything and I absolutely love the approach she takes to negotiating with yourself and with others. She shares the language you need to use when asking questions to get what you want and highlights the importance of asking for more so that you can pave the way for those who come after you.
Today we discuss —
Negotiations and relationships
- Negotiation is so much more than haggling over money or demanding that you get your way.
- Negotiations are conversations in which you are steering your relationships.
- Effective negotiation requires conversations that teach people how to treat you and how to value you.
- Generating trust is key to negotiations in relationships.
Negotiations and questions
- You will get much farther in negotiations with a question than with an argument.
- 93% of people don’t ask the questions that will get the most out of their negotiations.
- Asking open questions helps to surface needs, goals, and concerns.
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“Why” questions convey blame, fact-finding, and backward-looking instead of forward-thinking.
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“What” questions move from blame to diagnosis and provide more information.
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How you can move a question from “why” to “what” to make meaningful change.
Negotiating with mirrors
- Mirrors allow us to see ourselves more fully and more compassionately.
- Too often we shut ourselves down before we give anyone else a chance to reject us.
- Our inner jury is always the hardest jury to handle, but it doesn’t have to be that way.
- Quiet listening can be the key to figuring out how to negotiate most effectively.
- Ask yourself — what is the problem I want to solve? What do I need? How have I handled this successfully in the past?
Negotiating with windows
- Ask others — what do you want me to know?
- Ask others — what do you need? Or what does that look like? Intangible requests cannot easily be negotiated but concrete requests can.
- Don’t be afraid of a few seconds of silence to help move you forward.
- Ask others — what is the first step?
Alex’s book recommendation is The Memo: What Women of Color Need to Know to Secure a Seat at the Table, by Minda Harts
Alex’s song recommendation is “Woman,” by Kesha
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Ask For More: 10 Questions to Negotiate Anything, by Alexandra Carter
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Do you get caught up in what is going on in other people’s lives? I know I do, and it rarely results in anything good. I want to talk to you today about O.P.B. — other people’s business. Too often we allow other people’s business to distract us from what matters most in our own lives. We waste time focusing on what someone else is wearing, doing, earning, or experiencing when we could be spending that same time shaping and benefitting our own lives. I want you to understand the dangers of focusing on O.P.B., why you need to overcome it, and what you stand to gain if you can take that same energy and put it into improving your own life.
Today we discuss —
The danger of focusing on other people’s business
- O.P.B. can be one of the greatest distractions and addictions in our lives.
- Every time you visit social media websites, you are getting into O.P.B.
- O.P.B. can become an addiction if left unchecked.
- Spending time on social media and in O.P.B. takes you away from your own life, dreams, plans, and goals.
- Comparing yourself to your competitors can distract you from focusing on your work.
How to overcome your obsession with O.P.B.
- Check yourself and make sure that you are staying in your “own lane.”
- Focus on earning your own wins, whether they be at work, or in your personal life.
- Worry less about what other people think of and say about you.
- Ask yourself Byron Katie’s four questions to define what you should be focusing on.
- If you are spending your time in someone else’s business, and they are spending time in their business, who is spending time in your business?
Tips for staying focused on YOUR business
- Call it what it is — if you are going on Facebook say, “I am spending an hour of my time in someone else’s business.”
- Spend so much time in your own business that you have no time for O.P.B.
- Focus on fostering your real-life relationships rather than virtual ones.
- Consider what you stand to gain by putting your time into your business.
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The Work of Byron Katie
Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life, by Byron Katie
Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life, by Nir Eyal
Heather Hansen on Instagram
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The career you chose years ago was your choice, and what you make of your career today is also your choice. The choices that you make every day about your career, your relationships, your life are just that — your choice. My guest today is author Carson Tate and she’s here to teach you how to master the choices you make in your career. She shares tools to help you own it, love it, and make it work. You will learn that it’s okay to want to be recognized and appreciated, that knowing your strengths will give you the credibility to grow your confidence, and that you always have the power to choose your reaction to the course that you are on.
Today we discuss —
Own It
- Admit that you have recognition needs, and communicate those needs to others.
- Feedback and recognition can come in many forms, and they don’t equate to neediness.
- SEE framework will help you identify and clearly communicate what you are looking for when requesting feedback.
- Align your strengths and gather data that supports those strengths.
Love It
- Your next job will not be any better than your current job if you’re not happy right now.
- Take the power back — if your job is not working, figure out why and what you can do about it.
- Develop your skills so that you can show up as your best self every day.
- Cultivate relationships more effectively with the SCARF model, which addresses status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness.
Make it Work
- You can design your job in the way you want it to look.
- Any job can be meaningful because you define the meaning in it.
- What are the differences between a job, a career, and a calling, and which one are you pursuing?
- The role of retirement in your work and your goals.
- You can’t always choose the course you are on, but you can always choose your reaction to it.
Carson’s book choice is The Blue Zones of Happiness: Lessons from the World’s Happiest People, by Dan Buettner
Carson’s song choice is “Brave,” by Sara Bareilles
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Work Simply: Embracing the Power of Your Personal Productivity Style, by Carson Tate
Own It. Love It. Make It Work. How to Make Any Job Your Dream Job, by Carson Tate
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The goals that you set for yourself are far more likely to be achieved if you also know what your intentions are. Intentions and goals work hand in hand but they are not the same thing. Today, we are going to discuss the characteristics of goals and intentions and how both are necessary to help you get what you want most. Whether it’s winning a court case, earning a promotion, or getting a divorce, your intentions guide your actions as you work toward your goals. My actions in the courtroom and in my personal life have varied widely based on my intentions, but in every case I have seen this truth — when your goals are firmly grounded by your intentions, the sky’s the limit to what you can achieve.
Today we discuss —
Three characteristics of goals
- Goals are defined as something that you want to reach in the future.
- Goals are easily measurable by other people.
- Goals have an end point — data will prove whether you have met a goal or not.
Three characteristics of intentions
- Intentions are something that you have and are aware of right now.
- Intentions can only be measured by you — only you know if you have done your best.
- Intentions focus on stretching and reaching for your purpose today.
Reaching for goals while honoring intentions
- It’s imperative that you know what your intentions are as you reach for your goals.
- Your intentions will dictate your actions as you work toward your goals.
- Ask yourself — what do I want to accomplish in the process of working toward this goal?
- SMART goals can also help you define your intentions along the way.
- Combining your goals with your intentions will give you unlimited possibilities in what you can achieve.
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The Elegant Warrior: How To Win Life’s Trials Without Losing Yourself, by Heather Hansen
Zen Bender: A Decade-Long Enthusiastic Quest to Fix Everything (That Was Never Broken), by Stephanie Krikorian
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How often do you hesitate to make a choice because you’re not sure if it’s the right one? Or second-guess the choice you did make because you don’t know if you made it for the right reasons? Today, I want to share with you three ways that you can know without a doubt that you are making the best choices for your life. When you confidently make your choices, you confidently choose your life. I want to help you eliminate the doubt and instead begin to make choices more confidently, more quickly, and more decisively. I can promise you that these three things will help you to make better choices for your life, starting today.
Today we discuss —
Know that you are choosing
- When you know that you are making choices you can do so much more intentionally.
- Even the choices that you don’t necessarily enjoy are still intentional — what would happen if you chose not to wake up on time or not to go to work today?
- Elegance lies in making your choices intentionally.
- Limiting your choices with food, dress, or exercise can help you focus on the most important intentional choices.
Know your inner jury
- Your ego, your fear, or your habit should not be the part of you that makes the choice.
- Be friendly with your inner jury and know what is best for her.
- Think of your inner jury as the “future you” when considering your health, finances, and relationships.
- Your inner jury can be an older, calmer, more serene version of yourself.
- Try referring to yourself in the third person to better understand your alter ego.
Know the reasons for your choices
- You cannot let fear keep you from making the best choices for your life.
- Knowing the reasons for your choices will help eliminate stress.
- You will be able to stand by your choices when you know the reasons you made them.
- Stop second-guessing your choices by knowing the why behind them.
- You may never know if a choice was right or wrong, but you can know that you like the reasons that you made the choice.
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Do you manage and lead a team but hesitate to call yourself the CEO? Do you feel uncomfortable or even apologetic about the successes you’ve worked so hard for? It’s time for that to stop, and my guest today is here to give you permission to own your role as CEO. Thought leader and entrepreneurial expert Kris Plachy understands how to manage anyone on anything at any time, and it all starts with owning your role as a feminine leader. Together Kris and I talk about the importance of building a team to help you get things done and how changing your future can be as simple as changing your mindset. Join me as we discuss the importance of leading a team with confidence in any setting, whether you are in the courtroom, the classroom, or working from home.
Today we discuss —
The importance of building a team
- Telling yourself that you should be good at something when you’re not only prevents you from finding the resources that will help you get things done.
- Transitioning from solopreneur to CEO requires that you figure out how to get work done through other people.
- There is power in overcoming the voiceless problem that you should feel shame about your inability to build a team.
- Your passion can be your poison for others and for yourself, but you can change that.
You are a CEO — own it
- No one is going to give you the title in your own business, but you can give it to yourself.
- A CEO has a different mindset than a solopreneur or an entrepreneur — which one do you want to be?
- Leadership is feminine, and women have valuable leadership skills that the business world needs.
Change your future by owning your leadership
- Be unapologetic about who you are and what you have to offer the world.
- Step into the title that garners the respect that you deserve in your role.
- Clearly communicate the expectations that people can have of you.
- “Never apologize” is poor leadership advice — don’t hesitate to apologize when harm has been done.
- The systems for good leadership and managing people well are the same in every industry.
Kris’s book recommendation is Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams by Gabrielle Bernstein
Kris’s song choice: “Defying Gravity” from Wicked
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“The Voiceless Problem For Female Entrepreneurs”
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You can win just about anything you want. The power to win is all about elegance, and elegance starts with making the best choices every day. You make your choices and then your choices make your life. I know it sounds simple because it really is that simple. I want to share with you some of the choices that I’ve made in my life, big and small, that have shaped who I am today. I currently live in New York City and since the pandemic, I’ve had to make some difficult choices that I want to share with you today. Join me as we discuss the power of advocating for yourself by using the tools of choice to impact change and what you need to do now to make the elegant choices that will shape your best life.
Today we discuss —
The power of your choices
- The root of the word elegance is to choose.
- You choose everything in your life, whether you think about those choices or not.
- If you want to have a different life, you have to start making different choices.
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Every successful big choice starts with a series of smaller daily choices.
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What have your choices cost you? Good and bad choices both have an impact on your success.
Choosing your thoughts
- You can choose the thoughts that lead to your feelings, actions, and results.
- Your perspective will first shape your thoughts.
- Your inner jury has the ability to make the choices that will best affect the outcome.
- Use evidence to support your story and change your perspective.
- In order for change to happen, choice has to come first.
The tools of choice
- Elegance means choosing with intention.
- Words will influence your inner jury.
- Perspective will shape how you see yourself and see the world.
- Question yourself to help your inner jury make better decisions.
- Credibility means you believe in yourself and your choices.
- Evidence can support your inner jury in making the best choices for you.
- Presentation and reception can influence the way you make decisions.
- Negotiation and argument can be used effectively on your inner jury.
Making choices in times of crisis
- A midlife crisis can be a choice to do something you love.
- A crisis is a turning point when change has to come.
- The pandemic has given us opportunities to make choices.
- You choose your elegance and you choose your choices — make sure that you’re doing it intentionally.
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No matter how uncertain your year or your life has become, resilience is one thing we can all be certain of no matter our circumstances. My guest today is living proof of that fact. Known as the “Queen of Resilience,” Stacey Copas has created a framework of resilience based on the life experience of overcoming the adversity of becoming quadriplegic at 12 years old. I am thrilled that she has joined me today and I know you are going to come away from our conversation ready to take on the world. We discuss simple ways to develop greater resilience, how resilience can change the story of your life for the better, and the one popular piece of advice about developing gratitude that drives her crazy (and what she does instead).
Today we discuss —
Are we born resilient?
- Resilience is a continuum that shifts based on our life experiences and the work we put into developing it.
- Resiliency requires our effort every single day.
- Rituals for resilience will increase our feeling of control and certainty.
- Daily journaling provides the opportunity to rewrite experiences. Start with the prompt “Today I had the opportunity to.”
- Stacey’s experience with the 2014 Australian Athletics Championship taught her that she could decide how she would feel about the embarrassing, challenging, and defining moments in her life.
How can we increase our resilience?
- Focus on what you want to have or to gain rather than what you might lose.
- View every experience you have as an opportunity.
- Be mindful of sarcasm — it is a dangerous coping mechanism.
- Be grateful for the experiences you are having as you are having them.
- Identify what you need to learn in each moment and how it can improve both your life and the lives of others.
- Be clear about what you want and conscious of how you are presenting it to the world.
Three resilience questions to ask yourself
- What did I have the opportunity to do today?
- What is the lesson I will learn from this experience?
- How can this experience help others?
Practices to help you develop gratitude
- A gratitude journal may not be the most effective way to develop gratitude.
- Try out Stacey’s mantra to help increase your daily gratitude.
- Identify the opportunities that you’ve been given and stay true to them to increase your credibility to yourself.
- Make your gratitude practices non-negotiable — and always keep that commitment to yourself.
Resilience wisdom from Stacey
- You can choose if your life is going to be viewed as a comedy or a tragedy.
- Say yes to good things and then figure out the details later.
- Regret things you did, not the things you didn’t do.
- Take the first step and trust that the path will appear before you.
- Be willing to collect experiences — even if they scare you.
Stacey’s book recommendation is The Mastery of Love, by Don Miguel Ruiz
Stacey’s song choices are “I Won’t Back Down,” by Tom Petty and “Roll With It,” by Oasis
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How To Be Resilient: The Blueprint For Getting Results When Things Don’t Go To Plan,
by Stacey Copas
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How many of your life plans have changed this year? If you’re like most of my clients and listeners, the answer is a lot. We are all experiencing so much uncertainty right now in work, in school, in the unknown of the future, and in caring and providing for our families and ourselves. And while the world outside of you may feel incredibly uncertain and out of control, I want you to know that you still have so much that you can be certain of. Today, I want to show you how you can find certainty inside yourself, prepare your body and your mind for uncertainty, and make the choices that will lead you to feel certainty within yourself in any circumstance. My upcoming 10-week advocacy course will help you become more certain within yourself than ever before and I would love for you to sign up today.
Today we discuss —
Finding certainty in yourself
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In times of uncertainty, you can be certain of yourself, your resilience, and your ability to deal with change.
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Increased self-awareness will allow you to see beyond chaos.
- You can be certain in making the choices that will best serve you, your family, and your bank account.
- You can be certain in your preparation for your current circumstances.
Preparing your body and mind for uncertainty
- Even when you don’t know where you will be, you can still be certain of who you will be.
- A mindfulness practice, such as yoga or meditation, will help you be better prepared for whatever comes at you.
- Creating a daily routine will give you a greater sense of control regardless of external circumstances.
- Identify the choices that you can be certain in, know your reasons for making those choices, and then stop worrying about them.
- Choose the thoughts that best serve your actions and your abilities.
Finding certainty beyond reasonable doubt
- You can be certain that you are resilient.
- You can be certain that you can rely on yourself and your ability to handle almost anything.
- Rely on the evidence that proves you have been able to handle difficult circumstances in the past.
- You can be certain in your ability to make the choices that will serve you best.
- You can be certain in your preparation for each day.
- You can be certain in your self-awareness and its ability to positively influence your life.
What are you certain of?
- Ask yourself what you can be certain of in a time of uncertainty.
- In hard times, go back to the things you know you can be certain of.
- Your body, your mind, and your life are certain — embrace that certainty.
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Today, I am delighted to finally be joined by the author of a book that came into my life at the time that I really needed it. Throughout my life, I have used different yoga and meditation practices to help maintain my mindfulness, and these practices all have one thing in common — a dedicated focus on breathing. I’ve discovered that when I slip in my practice, I have found myself stuck in a pattern of negative thoughts, and this author reminded me of what I was missing out on.
I’m joined today by Breathe to Succeed author Sandy Abrams to discuss the power of your breath. She explains how controlling your breath can transform your emotions, increase your self-awareness and your productivity, and help you stay in control of your life, even in this crazy world that we are living in. Sandy also offers one very powerful and extremely simple task that I want you to try right now to start to regain control of your breathing, your thoughts, and your life.
Today we discuss —
Transforming your emotions with your breath
- Robert Heller said, “Fear is just excitement without the breath,” but how is that possible?
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Other emotions can be transformed with your breath as well.
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Breath is the catalyst that gets you from point A to point B.
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Your emotions are always your choice, even in these unprecedented times.
- Taking three deep breaths can help you take control of your emotions.
The importance of letting go
- Exhaling is just as critical inhaling when managing your breath
- The inhale and the exhale are both important for different reasons.
- Inhaling through your nose connects to the part of your brain that regulates your emotions.
- Mindset goals are easier to achieve by managing your breathing.
Increase self-awareness to increase productivity
- Only 10-15% of people today are truly self-aware.
- Too many of us allow our smartphones to dictate how we are going to feel each day.
- Clear intentions overcome mindless checking off the to-do list.
- Mindfulness allows you to take control of your day.
- You can’t afford the luxury of a negative thought in your day — just feel it and let it go.
The power of three deep breaths
- You DO have time to pause and take three deep breaths with your eyes closed.
- Close your eyes to set a boundary between the internal and the external.
- Employ the power of three deep breaths before you pick up your phone to check social media.
- Digital overwhelm is real, but it doesn’t always have to be that way.
- Chronic shallow breathing will leave you in a perpetual state of stress.
- Don’t wait until something goes wrong to try this simple practice.
Your breath is always with you
- When you own your breath, no one can steal your peace.
- Your breath is the key to your next-level success.
- You can always find a breath in whatever moment or challenge you are facing.
Sandy’s book recommendation is The Artist's Way, by Julia Cameron
Sandy’s song choice is “Waiting On The World to Change,” by John Mayer
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Today I’m sharing with you everything that I love about the ten-week advocacy course that I have been thinking and planning and preparing for, for years. This course distills down the ten tools of an advocate in a way that you can use to communicate with confidence to both your inner jury and your outer jury. I will teach you how to identify your inner jury and then help you communicate and advocate to your outer jury with more confidence than you’ve ever had before. We will spend a week on each of the ten tools of an advocate, and I want to share with you a first look at each of them on today’s podcast. I have seen these tools work in my life and in the lives of all of my clients, and I am eager to help you see the value of this investment of time, money, and effort spent on yourself to help you get what you need most in your life right now. YOU are your own best advocate. No one else can do it for you, but I can certainly help with my ten-week course.
Today we discuss —
The value of learning how to advocate for yourself
- You may think that one-on-one coaching may not be the right fit for you right now, but this course will give you the tools you need at a price you won’t want to miss.
- My superpower isn’t my ability to advocate for others, it’s teaching people how to advocate for themselves.
- The preparation you will gain from this course is the key to your confidence in advocating for yourself.
- Juries don’t want to hear from the people advocating for you, they want to hear from the most confident YOU.
The ten tools of an advocate we will cover in this course
- Elegance in what you advocate for and choosing your highest potential
- The magic of words and how to use them effectively in self-talk and with your jury
- Changing your perspective and your thoughts as well as the thoughts of your outer jury
- The powerful questions that can build connection, challenge, build love, and create opportunities
- Increasing your credibility to believe in yourself so that others believe in you as well
- Using evidence effectively to support your story, your perspective and your ‘ask’ to get what you want
- Reception and reading of body language as a tool for understanding the messages you are sending and receiving
- The presentation of your body language and how to control your tone of voice to effectively share your message
- Negotiation with yourself and with others, when to set non-negotiables, and how to negotiate most effectively
- Argument — the last resort of an advocate, and how to use it most effectively
What you will gain from this course
- These ten tools will help you find the confidence you need to advocate for yourself now.
- My money-back guarantee ensures that you will get what you need most out of this course.
- Weekly Zoom meetings and a Facebook group will give you the support you need.
- You will be part of a community of men and women who are advocating for themselves with confidence.
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What are you doing today to ensure that you will have self-confidence tomorrow? Do you break the promises that you make yourself, or are you constantly telling yourself that you aren’t capable of getting anything right? As a combination of a confidence coach and a communications coach, I want you to learn how to advocate for yourself with greater self-confidence. Confidence in yourself is so important in today’s rapidly changing world, and I want you to know how to ask for what you want and what you need.
Today, I’m going to share with you the experience I had in high school that taught me just how important self-confidence is. This experience created the foundation of my self-confidence and has allowed me to do everything I’ve done since then, from my work as a successful lawyer to becoming a TV legal analyst, writing a book and becoming a keynote speaker to starting my coaching business and even starting this podcast — it all started with this one experience. I am also going to share with you two of the ways that I help my coaching clients increase their confidence — through increased credibility and through evidence.
Today we discuss —
Why self-confidence matters
- The high school experience that taught me that everyone needs self-confidence
- Even after losing a trial, clients remember how confident they felt during the experience even more than the trial itself.
- Self-confidence lays the foundation for making needed changes in our lives.
- Increased preparation will help you feel stronger and give you the confidence to know that you are ready for anything.
- In the wake of the pandemic, confidence in yourself is more important than ever.
How to increase self-confidence through increased credibility
- Building credibility is less difficult than you think.
- Credibility isn’t dependent on your resume or your work experience — it comes from the ability to believe in yourself.
- Believing yourself means that you meet the expectations you set for yourself and keep the promises you make to yourself.
- When you can’t meet a promise, own it and move forward.
- Credibility is the foundation of trust, and trust is the foundation of self-confidence.
- The time and effort that is required for increasing credibility is always time well spent.
How to increase self-confidence through evidence
- The story that you tell yourself requires evidence that you can trust and rely on.
- An evidence journal can help you identify your strengths and the times you have relied on and trusted your feelings.
- Your brain will begin to believe the positive story you tell yourself as you write down the evidence of the times you got it right.
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How do you talk to yourself? Are you as kind and understanding of yourself as you are to everyone else? We know that our thoughts lead to our emotions, but what if you could change your thoughts before they had a chance to impact the way you feel? The conversations you have with your inner jury are the most important conversations you have, and the way you talk to yourself can help or hurt you as you deal with all of the emotions, including anxiety and depression and especially in the current climate of COVID-19. My guest today is full of valuable advice to help you thrive through this difficult time and to recognize the power of truly feeling all of your emotions. I’m joined by cognitive behavioral therapist and host of the Your Anxiety Toolkit podcast, Kimberley Quinlan, to talk about refining your inner voice, celebrating your emotions, and how to recognize if you have anxiety or depression or if you're just feeling stressed out with all that life is throwing at you.
Today we discuss —
Understanding the thoughts that lead to anxiety and depression
- Errors in our thinking about how we exist in our lives include irrational thoughts about the world and include black and white thinking such as “I have to be perfect” or “I am a fool.”
- Errors in our thinking about our sense of coping, such as “I can’t handle this” or “I won’t survive this,” often lead to depression.
- Your thoughts have a great impact on your emotions, but you can control their power by addressing the things that you do have control over.
Correcting your self-talk
- Use power statements such as “I will do the best with what I have” or “I will use this opportunity to master what I’m going through.”
- Using a compassionate and understanding tone with yourself will make a huge difference in the outcome of an experience.
- Being self-critical is demotivating, not inspiring.
- Employ a “kind coach” to validate your pain and encourage you, along the way.
- Remember specific instances of difficult experiences you’ve thrived through to help you thrive again.
- Recognize the difficulty of experiences to help correct your thinking about current challenges.
- Little tweaks in the tone you use with yourself can make a huge difference in how you experience your day.
Celebrating all of the emotions
- Fight, flight, or freeze is a natural response to stress and anxiety, but you have to keep each of them in check in order to keep moving forward.
- Fear and sadness are celebrated emotions that encourage safety and connectedness to others, but anxiety addresses not only dangers but the possibility of dangers in everyday situations.
- If we don’t experience the hard emotions we can’t truly celebrate the positive ones.
- There is a lot of loss associated with COVID-19 and it’s essential to experience the grief.
- Don’t disregard your feelings, rather accept what is and validate what is happening for you right now.
- Our brains are malleable and reversible, which means we can change our brains to think better thoughts than they naturally tend to.
Practicing mindfulness
- Mindfulness means being present and aware in this moment without judgment.
- Petting your cat or taking a shower are examples of valuable mindfulness.
- Quality interactions come from genuine connections.
- If you can’t make connections with loved ones, find connections by being mindful and present in this moment.
Kimberley’s book recommendation is How to Love (Mindfulness Essentials),
by Thich Nhat Hanh.
Kimberley’s song choice is “True Colors,” by Justin Timberlake and Anna Kendrick
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Do you know what you want? Too many women don’t, and even if they do, they’re reluctant to own it. Setting goals is one of the most powerful ways to advocate for yourself and get what you want, but it can be difficult to know where to start. My guest today understands the most effective way for women to get together and not only talk about their goals but also go on to achieve them. Darlene Whitehurst is the president of Adsource Media, the founder of GF Global, LLC, and director of the international Goal Friends foundation. She is passionate about dream making, goal setting, and purposeful living, and she teaches women the transformational strategies of empowerment that come with advocating for yourself to get what you want most out of your life.
Today we discuss —
How to define your goals
- Too many women don’t even know what they want, but that doesn’t have to be you.
- Ask yourself open-ended questions like “What do I want my life to look like?” and “How can I create the world that I want to live in?”
- Clarify what you want to achieve to help you create distinct and attainable goals.
How to achieve your goals
- Create a treasure map or vision board so you can better visualize your goals.
- Write your goals down, create action steps, and set up goal deadlines.
- Report your progress to increase your accountability and likelihood of success.
- Employ the generation effect by physically creating your goals.
The power of women supporting each other
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Increased clarity in your goals will help you define both what you want and what you don’t want in your life.
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There is no limit to what women can achieve when they are supporting each other.
- Don’t be afraid to ask people for what you want and also expect the universe to give it to you.
- High drivers are humbly bold as well as feminine, nurturing, and supportive.
- Following the current pandemic, future in-person meet-ups are going to be more powerful than ever.
Darlene’s book recommendation is The Success Principles: How to Get From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be, by Jack Canfield and Janet Switzer
Darlene’s song choice is “I’ve Had the Time of My Life,” by Bill Medley and Jennifer Warnes
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Too often we find ourselves waiting for other people to give us permission to advocate for ourselves. We expect other people to reach out to us, to help us in our careers, or to give us what we think we deserve, but often end up frustrated because we’re still not getting what we want. It’s time to stop waiting for that permission from others and to start teaching people how to treat you. I’m joined today by an expert on the topic — one of the world’s top 50 business thinkers and the number one communications coach in the world Dorie Clark. Dorie is someone that is not just focused on her own career but also takes the time to help other people in their careers, and it has taken her far. From developing a powerful presence on LinkedIn to inspiring public speaking, performing stand-up comedy to writing musical theater Dorie appears to be fearless. She has tossed the standard script of life out the window and she knows how to get what she wants. Together we discuss how anyone can take that same level of confidence and use it to get the things you want most from your career, your network, your passions and your life.
Today we discuss —
Lessons from Dorie on successful entrepreneurial endeavors
- Use down time in your schedule to focus on your backseat dreams
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Explore every possible avenue to generate sources of income
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Moments of necessity will help you utilize all of your skills and abilities
- Flexibility in trying new things and the ability to serve will be the keys to your success
- Take the long-term view when responding to others both virtually and in person
Networking tips to help you become a recognized expert in your field
- Gather the people you want in your network together in whatever way you can
- If you want to get an invitation, it may require that you extend an invitation first
- Continue networking during the pandemic with virtual happy hour connections
- Set your focus on your content creation, your social proof and credibility, and the social proof that comes with a solid network
How to appear fearless
- Putting yourself out there is not something that you need to be afraid of
- People take their cues about how to treat you from YOU
- Don’t get in the way of your own success by hesitating or waiting to receive permission from other people about how you should be treated
- Teach people how to treat you by the way that you treat yourself
Figuring out what’s next
- Don’t be afraid to change the script that you have been reading from
- Use the career pause provided by the pandemic to pinpoint what steps you need to take next
- Take Dorie’s ‘reinventing you’ self assessment found here
- Don’t limit yourself based on your training or education, rather identify the skills that you have and find a way to use them into a career you love
Dorie’s books are Stand Out: How to Find Your Breakthrough Idea and Build a Following Around It, Reinventing You: Define Your Brand, Imagine Your Future, and Entrepreneurial You: Monetize Your Expertise, Create Multiple Income Streams, and Thrive
Dorie’s book recommendation is Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb
Dorie’s song choice is “You Gotta Be” by Des’ree
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Are you constantly seeking the validation of others to define your self-worth? What evidence is already present in your life that you can use to help you advocate for the things you want to ask for? In today’s episode, we are talking about the evidence that is all around you, from your actions in your work to your relationships. Every one of your accomplishments is a piece of evidence in support of your worth and value, and you can use that evidence to find the internal motivation you need to get what you deserve. I’m joined by Ani Anderson, the founder of Motivation Beyond Measure, who uses evidence in her work to help her clients understand how feelings and sensations are evidence of thoughts. We talk about the importance of loosening your grip on control, how you can tap into your internal motivation, and the value of understanding your sensations as well as your emotions.
Today we discuss —
Loosening your grip on control
- Look for win-win solutions rather than insisting that your way is the only right way.
- Recognize that you don’t have as much control as you think you do.
- The motivation of others is never truly in your control.
- Harnessing the larger energy that works within us brings greater success and safety.
Tapping into internal motivation
- Figure out who you are and who other people are by taking genuine time and asking sincere questions.
- Everyone has the same set of motivational drivers, but which ones we utilize makes all the difference between individual successes.
- Motivational drivers include clusters of growth, achievement, and relationship priorities.
- Drivers can change over time with our self-concept and expectations.
- The compatibility of couples and other relationships doesn’t depend on having similar drivers, but it can help you understand others better.
Sensation-based motivational coaching
- Understanding how you are feeling, from a sensory aspect is just as important as understanding how you’re feeling, emotionally.
- Emotions are a thought and a sensation, and when both are addressed we are able to make change and find motivation.
- Effective change requires addressing both thinking and feeling.
- Becoming more aware of your sensations is the first step to change, and you can get started by asking yourself “Where in my body am I feeling something?” and “What does it feel like?”
- Resistance is a sensation in the body that keeps us from reaching our true potential.
Ani’s book recommendation is The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, by Don Miguel Ruiz
Ani’s song choice is “Something in the Way She Moves,” by James Taylor
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The Elegant Warrior is the podcast about elegance in all of its many forms. We’re talking about our definitions of elegance and how we maintain it during times of trial.
Do you realize that you were born perfect? All of us were, but over the course of a lifetime, we pile on protective layers that are meant to help us but actually make us less perfect. The angel inside each of us is covered with marble, but that doesn’t mean we have to stay hidden behind our imperfections. Inner confidence and elegance are two of the ten tools of an advocate that we are going to discuss in today’s conversation. To help make sense of this, I’m joined by Mia Hewett, the Aligned Entrepreneur and creator of the Aligned Intelligence Method. If you’ve found yourself stuck in your mind and unable to break free of negative behavior patterns, then you need to listen to our conversation as we discuss ways to overcome the inner critic, overcome past trauma and heal emotions so that you can live the life that serves you best.
Today we discuss —
Overcoming your inner critic
- Happiness does not always equal fulfillment, but then what is the next step?
- Achieving success cannot be the only benchmark of your satisfaction with your life.
- Consider the importance of focusing on your feelings rather than thoughts and actions.
- The Aligned Intelligence Method explains our focus on our imperfections and how to overcome early traumatic experiences.
- After healing the emotion, the mind is free and we can create the life patterns we do want.
Steps to healing your emotions
- Traveling back to your core beliefs and emotions will allow you to release and heal trauma.
- How to identify the trauma that is affecting your life, and how to avoid judgment of its significance.
- Moving forward from awareness to understanding and processing emotions to live in a place of freedom and healing
- Identify the lies you are telling yourself that may not be serving you well.
- A return to neutrality will allow you to act the way that you want to feel.
Serving your best self
- Contrast who you are from who you are not, and stay true to who you are.
- Ask yourself if you are acting as your ego or as your aligned self.
- Be unapologetically you and know who are really are.
- Honor and value who you truly are and respect the dignity of the life journey of others.
Mia’s book is Meant for More: Stop Secretly Struggling and Become a Force to Be Reckoned With
Mia’s book recommendation is The Science of Getting Rich: How to Make Money and Get the Life You Want, by Wallace D. Wattles
Mia’s song choice is “Stronger,” by Kelly Clarkson
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The Elegant Warrior is the podcast about elegance in all of its many forms. We’re talking about our definitions of elegance and how we maintain it during times of trial.
If you knew that what you put on would have a greater impact on your success for the day, how much thought would you give to what you wear? What we wear and what we do with the outside of us has a great impact on the inside of us. The pandemic has given all of us an excuse to relax into sweatpants and ponytails, but does that deliver our best self? My guest today would say no. Personal stylist, fashion and creative consultant, and creator of the SALON x LKS series, Laura K. Sawyier has joined me to uncover the value of getting yourself dressed. The clothes we wear can empower us to feel and to be our best selves, and I know that today’s conversation is going to inspire you to deliberately dress for your best self every day.
Today we discuss —
The value of dressing for yourself
- When you take time to dress for yourself and understand yourself, you will shine.
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The way we present ourselves on the outside makes a real difference in how we feel on the inside.
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How we dress impacts the way that others see us as well as how we think about ourselves.
The impact of dressing for yourself
- How you dress impacts your moods, your behaviors, and your performance in your workday.
- There is danger in wearing clothes that don’t feel like “you.”
- The notion of discovery requires that effort must be put into the process of increasing our self-awareness.
- Aspirational authenticity guides us as we dress and present ourselves to others.
The why and how of dressing for yourself
- Fashion is for everybody — it will always be a part of your life.
- Pay attention to what doesn’t work for you find what does work for you.
- Every person is dynamic and different from everyone else.
- Specific tips for caring for the style items you love most, including one that might even change your meditation practice
Laura’s book recommendation is The Psychology of Fashion, by Dr. Caroline Mair and The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, by Don Miguel Ruiz
Laura’s song choice is I Have a Dream by ABBA
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The Elegant Warrior is the podcast about elegance in all of its many forms. We’re talking about our definitions of elegance and how we maintain it during times of trial.
Everything is a negotiation. The exercise of give-and-take that you experience daily with yourself and with others can be one of your greatest tools for advocating for yourself. I’m joined today by Mori Taheripour, an expert negotiator and author who teaches Negotiation and Dispute Resolution at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania. We discuss the power of negotiations and how they can help you become a better advocate for yourself. From negotiating with yourself when your alarm clock goes off in the morning to giving up your people-pleasing tendencies, join us today as we talk about meaningful ways that you can gain a greater perspective in your life and truly master the power of negotiations in your everyday life.
Today we discuss —
Negotiating every day
- Negotiating simply means working through a problem and coming to a good solution.
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Negotiations are the problem-solving conversations and decisions we make with ourselves and others every day.
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When your negotiations lead you to give up on the things that matter most, you will begin to lose credibility with yourself and with others.
- Negotiations with yourself are just as, if not more, important than the negotiations you make with others.
- Overcome negative negotiating experiences by giving yourself credit for the times you do get it right.
- Negotiations don’t have to be a complete and total win or loss situation — as long as you receive something that will serve you in the long run, it’s a win.
How to give up your people-pleasing tendencies
- Nobody takes anything away from you, you only give it to them.
- People pleasers too often risk their own happiness to avoid conflict.
- No one is going to set your boundaries for you — it’s up to you to define your limits.
- Taking personal responsibility for your behavior allows you to change when needed.
- Give yourself permission to take care of yourself first.
Gaining perspective to master negotiations
- Ask questions to understand the perspective of other people.
- An increased perspective allows you to give the gift of empathy.
- Being a better listener will give you the power to negotiate with more information.
- ‘I understand’ does not have to mean ‘I agree,’ but it can offer validation for both sides.
- Identify your vulnerabilities so that you can strengthen them and improve your negotiations.
Mori’s book is Bring Yourself: How to Harness the Power of Connection to Negotiate Fearlessly
Mori’s book recommendation is Untamed, by Glennon Doyle
Mori’s song choice is “Just Fine,” by Mary J. Blige
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Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In, by Roger Fisher and William Ury
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, by Brene Brown
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In these uncertain days, it has quickly become more important than ever to listen carefully to your inner jury and start giving real credit to your inner voice. It’s time to reflect on your self-talk — do you speak to yourself in a motivational way, especially in challenging times? Do you stay focused on the things that matter most and motivate yourself with attainable baby steps? We know that constraints can drive creativity, but what does that mean in your efforts to advocate for yourself? I’m joined today by the number one start-up coach in the world — Alisa Cohn. She shares some of the techniques that she uses to help start-up companies succeed, and together we explore how those same techniques can be applied to your personal start-up efforts.
Today we discuss —
How to master your personal start-up efforts
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Utilize an entrepreneurial mindset to increase your creativity and productivity
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Resilience and persistence are key to your successful start-up
- Constraints can drive creativity if you approach them with the right perspective
- Keep your expectations lower when trying new things
- Ask yourself what you want to have accomplished when you look back on your efforts
Effective leadership in every situation
- Leaders need to take time for themselves before expecting to lead others effectively
- Acting in humility, rather than vulnerability, is a key leadership goal
- The number one job of a leader is to help their people navigate uncertainties
- Three points for leadership that can be applied to the individual every day
- Aim for small forward-moving baby steps rather than perfection
Staying Motivated During Times of Crisis
- Maintain clarity — don’t allow yourself to be distracted by every small idea that comes along
- Repetition is an essential key to communicating your expectations, especially to yourself
- Identify and congratulate yourself on the quick wins of everyday life
- Focus on what is possible, regardless of the constraints of life
Alisa’s book recommendation is What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful, by Marshall Goldsmith
Alisa’s song choice is “Closer to Fine,” by The Indigo Girls
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“A-Game Leadership,” by Alisa Cohn
The CEO Next Door: The 4 Behaviors that Transform Ordinary People into World-Class Leaders, by Elena Botelho and Kim R. Powell
“How to Keep Your Team Upbeat During a Crisis,” by Alisa Cohn
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I am thrilled to introduce you to a 10-week course that I am offering to help you learn how to advocate to both your inner jury and your outer jury. The course includes coaching through emails and videos as well as a weekly group chat where I can answer your questions live. I am so confident that you’re going to love the tools you gain from our time together that I’m offering you a money-back guarantee for the course. The link goes live on my website on June 12th, and the course starts on July 12th. Please sign up today!
On today’s podcast, we’re going to talk about tool number three of the ten tools of an effective advocate. I know I say every tool is my favorite but this one truly is the most vital tool in the advocacy toolbox. This tool is the most critical for making effective and lasting change in your life, in your commitments, and in your relationships with others. I have seen it in the courtroom and I have seen it in my own life — this tool will give you the confidence you need to begin truly believing in yourself and rising to your best self.
Today we will explore —
The importance of believing in yourself
- You have to find something that you believe in before you can advocate for anything
- You are far less likely to get what you want if you don’t believe you deserve it
- Credibility is a tool that allows people to develop a belief
- Credibility is the predecessor to trust and confidence
- If you want to have confidence in yourself, you have to believe in yourself first
How to build credibility
- Make and keep promises, and set and meet expectations to yourself and to others
- Your trust and self-confidence will increase when you build credibility with yourself
- Admit to yourself and others when you fall short of the promises you’ve made
- Humility offers a grounded alternative to allowing yourself to be vulnerable
- If you’re not ready to own these tools for yourself, you can lean on my beliefs, for now
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I am thrilled to introduce you to a 10-week course that I am offering to help you learn how to advocate to both your inner jury and your outer jury. The course includes coaching through emails and videos as well as a weekly group chat where I can answer your questions live. I am so confident that you’re going to love the tools you gain from our time together that I’m offering you a money-back guarantee for the course. The link goes live on my website on June 12th, and the course starts on July 12th. Please sign up today!
On today’s podcast, we’re going to talk about the first two tools of an advocate and how you can use each of them on both your decision-maker inner jury and your outer jury, whether that be clients, customers, family or friends. The definition of inner elegance and the importance of using the best words are the perfect starting point for becoming the most effective advocate for yourself.
Today we will —
Define inner elegance
- We have the opportunity every day to choose our own elegance.
- Elegance as an advocacy tool means to be aware of your own elegance.
- Define your highest potential — what are you meant to be?
- Identify your best parts and hire that part of yourself to be your advocate.
Use the best words
- One word can be the difference between a win and a loss, so choose your words carefully.
- We must be discerning when choosing the words to use on our inner jury.
- Identify the value and power of the words you use.
- Do you know the magical power of the word ‘abracadabra’?
- If you can use your words effectively you can change the way your IJ and OJ see, think, feel, act, and respond.
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I've been a lawyer for over 20 years, and I know the importance of a good jury. The most important jury of all is the one that resides inside you. Your inner jury brings focus to your life and guides your decisions. Every day you are faced with two different stories, and your inner jury is the one that decides what you will do. I want you to learn how to overcome your own doubts and objections and choose the best story so that you are more likely to win. Your inner jury is with you all the time, and I want you to learn how to tell the stories that make it easy for your inner jury to support your decisions.
Today we will —
Meet your inner jury
- Your inner jury weighs the facts and stories presented to you and then decides what to do next.
- The story your inner jury believes can be a help or a hindrance to the way that you present yourself to the outer jury.
- What tools does your inner jury need to develop into its best version?
Know to your inner jury
- A good lawyer knows the law, a great lawyer knows her jury.
- Advocating for yourself starts with knowing what you really want.
- Questions to ask your inner jury to identify your true self.
- Your inner jury will drive you to get what you really want.
Listen to your inner jury
- Permission and validation need to come from your inner jury, not the outer jury.
- Let your inner jury be the one to remind you that you are good enough, strong enough, and experienced enough to go after what you want most.
- Let your inner jury be the voice that tells you that you did the right thing, and who will win.
- Use the evidence to tell the inner story that will best serve you in the long run.
- Use your elegance, your words, and your power to tell a story of success.
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Today I want to give you an update on the podcast. Many of you have reached out to tell me how much you’ve enjoyed my solo Thursday episodes, and I have heard you! I will be making some changes to the podcast schedule so that I can give you more of what you’ve asked for. I have some incredible guests lined up that I know you’re going to love, and I am genuinely thrilled to begin to focus on the importance of advocating for yourself.
Today I discuss —
The importance of advocating for yourself
- My motivation behind starting this podcast over 100 episodes ago
- The importance of advocating for yourself — for more respect, for your wants, and for your needs
- Two common problems that women need to overcome when advocating for themselves
- How to be more confident in yourself without looking for outward permission or validation
- Advice for those who think they don’t have the tools to advocates for themselves, and for those who advocate for themselves all the time but still don’t get what they want
Advice for effective advocacy
- My personal mantra that keeps me focused on the purpose behind advocating for myself
- The 10 tools of an effective advocate
- The importance of influencing the people around you to become your advocates
- Is it possible to turn adversaries into advocates?
- How to turn losses into opportunities in this ever-changing world
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God winks and shoulder taps—being aware of those special moments.
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The Elegant Warrior is the podcast about elegance in all of its many forms. We’re talking about our definitions of elegance and how we maintain it during times of trial.
This timely interview focuses on something that we’ve all been forced to do as a result of COVID-19 — hit the pause button on life and take stock of what matters most. While this exercise can be uncomfortable at worst and life-changing at best, it is in these moments of pause and reflection that we can become our most refined, mindful, and elegant selves. I’m joined by Codi Shewan, author of Everyday Legacy, to examine the need we all have for creating a more mindful life. He shares the experiences that have increased his intentionality and offers simple yet powerful suggestions that can help you begin to live your legacy, starting today.
Today we discuss —
Creating a more mindful life
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How staring death in the face taught Codi everything he knows about living.
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Echoes of regret and the importance of mindful living.
- Codi shares the meditation practice that increases his mindfulness.
- A cancer scare led Codi to ask, “What do I want to be remembered for?”
- How to hone your legacy DNA in a way that impacts your everyday choices.
Living effectively versus efficiently
- The lesson Codi learned from his grandma that guides how he shows up in life.
- Self-full time creates in us the energy that allows us to give something to others.
- The outside-imposed pause required by COVID-19 is requiring us to look inward in a way that may be uncomfortable but is essential.
Taking time to meet yourself
- Codi shares his life-changing experience at an ashram in the Bahamas.
- Removing yourself from the demands of your current life can provide greater clarity and perspective.
- Take time to refocus on the people, rather than the things, in your life.
- Finger snaps and shoulder taps are two important ideas that can help shape your life decisions.
Codi’s book recommendation is The DaVinci Code, by Dan Brown
Codi’s song choice is “Higher and Higher,” by Jackie Wilson
Codi’s book is Everyday Legacy: Lessons for Living with Purpose, Right Now.
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We all have stories we tell ourselves about our potential, our lives, our past and our future. And since we’re telling the story, the plot is up to us. Want a different story? Tell it differently.
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The Elegant Warrior is the podcast about elegance in all of its many forms. We’re talking about our definitions of elegance and how we maintain it during times of trial.
Your style is so much more than simply what you choose to wear each day. It encompasses the stories of your life, a representation of your brand, and a symbol of your strength. I’m joined today by executive brand strategist and author Janel Dyan, an expert on building a story to achieve brand alignment for both company and customer success. We discover how personal style impacts success, the powerful role of women as both consumers and leaders, and the importance of defining and protecting your personal vision and priorities.
Today we discuss —
The power behind your style
- The motivation for writing Janel’s book came from a desire to empower women.
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Janel’s three-step process starts by defining your story, then building your style, and launching an authentic brand.
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A woman’s closet holds the stories of her life, which she relives every time she puts on an outfit.
- Facing the vulnerability of a closet audit will help us begin to reveal our stories and find the strength behind them.
- You have the power to control the conversations of your life through your appearance.
The business side of your style
- How to feel more confident in pricing out the value of the services you offer
- The importance of holding true to the purpose and the why behind your services
- A concrete ROI is not essential to identifying the value of your services.
- The book that became the catalyst behind forming JD Executive Brand Strategy
- Understanding the importance of developing your own V2MOM
The power of defining your non-negotiables
- Personal, family, and business priorities all deserve the commitment you’ve made.
- Compromising your non-negotiables even one time will weaken the trust others have in you.
- Defining your non-negotiables will make your decisions easy.
- Protecting your mental and physical health is essential.
- What FOMO means to Janel and how it keeps her focused on her values
Sylvia’s book recommendation is Educated: A Memoir, by Tara Westover.
Sylvia’s song choice is “Rise Up” by Andra Day.
Janel’s book is Story. Style. Brand.: Why Corporate Results are a Matter of Personal Style.
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The Work of Byron Katie
Behind the Cloud: The Untold Story of How salesforce.com Went from Idea to Billion-Dollar Company and Revolutionized an Industry, by Marc Benioff and Carlye Adler
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The choice is yours. But when you respond….you win.
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The Elegant Warrior is the podcast about elegance in all of its many forms. We’re talking about our definitions of elegance and how we maintain it during times of trial.
The conversations we have with ourselves hold the power to change our attitude, our outlook and our influence in any situation, especially in these unprecedented times of COVID-19. I’m joined today by motivational speaker and emotional intelligence expert Sylvia Baffour. She shares ways we can develop greater emotional intelligence and illustrates the power of choosing elegance in seasons of crisis and calm.
Today we discuss —
How to develop your emotional intelligence
- Sylvia’s motivation for writing her book began at a boarding school in Zimbabwe.
- How aware are you of the impact that you have on the people around you?
- Are we born with emotional intelligence or do we grow into it?
- Sylvia shares the life lesson she learned when she met Maya Angelou
Using your words to handle your emotions
- Begin by understanding the three components of emotions.
- Saying ‘I feel’ gives you greater control over your emotions than saying ‘I am.’
- Identify the difference between reacting and responding.
- Recognize and reframe the self-talk conversation inside your head.
- The value of growing the gap between triggers and the moment when you react
The value of talking to yourself
- Enduring through a time of trial can lead to triumph and reward.
- Recognize and stop harmful monologue.
- Sylvia shares an expensive story about the cost of negative self-talk.
- How to properly talk yourself through the self-isolation of COVID-19
Sylvia’s book recommendation is How to Win Friends & Influence People, by Dale Carnegie
Sylvia’s song choice is Tina Turner’s The Best
Sylvia’s book is I Dare You to Care: Using Emotional Intelligence to Inspire, Influence, and Achieve Remarkable Growth
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Leaping Beyond Barriers
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Handling Conflict…with Elegance. On this week’s mini episode I give my thoughts on conflict and how to deal with others while staying true to yourself
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Jennifer is the CEO of Alignment Strategies Group and the author of Optimal Outcomes-Free Yourself from Conflict at Work, at Home and in Life. IN this episode we talk about conflict and how to break the cycle.
You can find Jennifer’s book here
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0062893653?pf_rd_p=ab873d20-a0ca-439b-ac45-cd78f07a84d8&pf_rd_r=ZAD7C6WE2Y37C3WD9GPD
Her book choice was The Art of Gathering
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=the+art+of+gathering&i=stripbooks&ref=nb_sb_noss_1
And her song choice was N-O is the New Yes by Karen Drucker
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LhpZKpnrOCQ
Valerie is a Professor of Linguistics at University of Nevada, Reno. She specializes in sociolinguistics, and we talk about how our accent and speech influences our lives.
Valerie’s book choice is Born a Crime by Trevor Noah
https://www.amazon.com/Born-Crime-Stories-African-Childhood/dp/1531865046Heather Hansen
Her song choice is Every Day Is a Winding Road by Sheryl Crow
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=khrx-zrG460