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The Orion Way of Life podcast discusses masculinity in the world today by creating new roadmaps for discovering your identity, passion and purpose in life. A new episode is released every Thursday. Email your questions or comments to orionwaymailbag@gmail.com
DJ Corban and Anthony Lovato talk about the dance club scene from Salt Lake City from back in the late 80's through the present. Listen in as we talk about our experience with the local clubs of the Salt Lake area that created a big club scene that is still going on today.
This is a new podcast where we'll be going deep into more stories as the episodes come out.
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Al Richards is a true inspiration to those who have faced addiction and are seeking a way to overcome it. After battling a weekend alcohol and cocaine addiction for eight years, Al lost his job of 24 years as a result. But instead of giving up, he turned his life around and spent the next 14 years working tirelessly on himself and helping others understand addiction. In March of 2021, he started The Other Side of Addiction Podcast, which has quickly become a space for open and honest dialogue about addiction and recovery. And just this past February, Al started the ARC/Addiction Resource Collective Networking group, in an effort to connect people with the resources and support they need to overcome addiction. Al believes that it's time to lift each other up, and he is leading the way with his powerful message of hope and healing. Learn more about Al and his work at https://www.resiliencetalknetwork.com/the-other-side-of... https://podcasts.apple.com/.../the-other.../id1667993425 https://www.youtube.com/c/TheOtherSideofAddiction https://theothersideofaddiction.podbean.com/
We brought Dawni Angel back to discuss her new book coming out and how it all plays into what really drives you and how it impacts all of your relationships. Sit back, because this is a good one!
Creativity can set you free, this is very true with today’s guest. Brian Higgins was homeless a decade ago and now is doing things to help the homeless situation in his state. He also hosts the 48 hour film project in Salt Lake City, as well as runs the instagram account Mental Healthy F.I.T. You can see what he’s up to by checking in on www.mentalhealthyfit.org and join in his efforts. You can check out his latest article here: https://www.sltrib.com/news/politics/2021/12/24/decade-ago-he-resigned/
#boyswillbeboys features Topher Payne who is a writer for the stage and screen, fixed “The Giving Tree” ending.
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Greatness has a hard time happening in your comfort zone. To get that you have to stretch and expand beyond what you normally do. This year is the year that I make a concerted effort to get uncomfortable in order to reach for the things that I want in life. I started naming my years now and it has had an impact on how I show up through out my year. What will you name your year?
#boyswillbeboys features Jean-Carlo, A trucker who shared his food with other stranded people caught in a snow storm on the freeway.
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If you could be guaranteed to get 10% of what you asked for if you were to write them down, how many things would you write down? Steve Harvey opened my eyes to the 300 list in 2019. I've been making a written list every year since then and it's definitely working out great for me. I also discuss vision boards and Bullet Journaling to have a more productive year.
Credit to www.tut.com for a quote.
Here is the video I use in this episode: https://youtu.be/DlMAIYd7-J4
#Boyswillbeboys features Mike and Mark Patey make a Christmas rescue. https://www.ksl.com/article/50318105/utah-county-pilots-perform-unique-christmas-eve-rescue
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So many people think that they need to be independent in this world and they fail to realize that they would never have survived infancy without the aid of someone else in their life. We are all dependent on someone else at any given point in this life and we should be doing more to cultivate connectivity. I discuss the book We: Ditch the Me Mindset and Change the World by Eric George and cover the 6 outcomes he writes about from creating connectivity.
#boyswillbeboys features Jim Finch who showed up in Kentucky with a truck full of food and a BBQ grill to feed the people devastated by the latest tornado.
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As we get near the end of another year, it’s a good idea to start to look forward to next year's goals. But first we need to take an honest look at where you are now. How can you know where you’re going if you don’t know where you currently are? I’ve talked a lot about finding your passion and purpose in life, but now I’m going to reveal to you how to really find out what that is and how it can drive you into your future. You need to connect to your purpose and take committed action or else you’re not really going to go anywhere.
#boyswillbeboys features Mr. Beast from YouTube. Just go and subscribe already if you haven’t.
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Instagram influencer Jón þormar of Nordic_Masculinity joins me today to discuss the world-wide issues that are affecting men and how that is a real problem in today’s society. I was lucky enough to get a session with him to talk about things that are common problems not just in the USA but also in other parts of the world and it’s very surprising. We cover a vast array of topics, so you’ll want to hear the whole thing.
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#boyswillbeboys features a 12-Year-Old Boy Scout Rescues Couple and Injured Dog. https://people.com/human-interest/12-year-old-boy-scout-rescues-couple-and-injured-dog-lost-on-hawaii-trail/
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Ben Steinbacher helps people to discover their purpose and deeper gifts to stand out, make an impact, and leave this world better than they found it! He is a men’s personal coach that helps men get back on their feet after they get divorced or to help them find their purpose in life. He has been coaching for over 7 years and shares much of what he’s learned over the years on this episode.
#boyswilllbeboys features Brandon Shutt who helped his competitor to cross the finish line instead of qualifying for the State Finals. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/nebraska-teen-runner-helps-blake-cerveny-brandon-schutt/
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Want a sure fire way to create resentment in your relationship? Just start acting like their parent instead of their partner. In this week's episode, I cover many of the examples of what you or your partner may be doing that would be considered parental and what it is that you can do to fix that before it's too late. Once resentment gets to a certain point, it is almost impossible to recover the relationship. Better to identify these things early on and get it corrected while you can. Or better yet, recognize them yourself and choose to not get into this type of relationship.
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Nebraska Congressman Madison Cawthorn recently called on mothers to raise their sons to be monsters. It was a very toxic masculine thing to say and I whole-heartedly disagree. There are many reasons why men are not owning their masculinity. I will cover just a few of them in this week’s episode.
#boyswillbeboys features Michael J. Fox who just raised $1 Billion dollars to help find a cure for Parkinson’s Disease. https://www.sunnyskyz.com/good-news/4433/-039-I-Won-039-t-Stop-Until-It-Happens-039-Michael-J-Fox-Raises-1-Billion-To-Find-Cure-For-Parkinson-039-s
My uncle Franklin has been a Marine, a Clothier for over 15 years and now a photographer and actor and general overall handyman. He is almost always the sharpest dressed man in the room and I thought it would be great to have him on to discuss men’s fashion and how sometimes the clothes do make the man. We also got into many other topics, it was a fun sit-down, hope you enjoy it.
Also The Orion Way of Life is going to be changing to Men’s Headspace, so keep an eye out for the new name of the podcast.
#boyswillbeboys features Dawson Swanson and Scott Murdoch, two Wildlife officers that helped remove a tire from an elk's neck after 2 years. https://www.livescience.com/elk-with-tire-around-neck-freed
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I am an extroverted introvert. You’d be surprised at how many actors would actually consider themselves introverts. This should not prevent you from having amazing moments in life though. In this episode, I talk about events that happen in our life that lead to new paths that we never would have been on had we not put ourselves in certain circumstances. Some are good things that happen to us, and some are bad. Either way, if you look at the situation with the right frame of mind, you could end up in a much better situation than you thought originally possible.
#boyswillbeboys features Wesley Gray from Gadsden, Al. He saved a woman from drowning after she had driven it into a river. https://abc3340.com/news/local/gadsden-man-saves-woman-from-drowning-car-in-coosa-river
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I am thrilled to have Mike on to talk about his story. He’s an entrepreneur, author, real estate trainer, public speaker and personal Coach for over 30 years. He went from building a near $100 Million company in 30 months, to losing it all and going to Federal Prison for 8 years for wire fraud and mail fraud. He came out of it on the other side with a degree in Theology and created a whole ethics course that is being taught in Universities today. Now he’s coached hundreds of people to ethically invest in Multi-Family apartments and build for retirement. You can connect with him at www.mycoreintentions.com and get into his courses there.
#boyswillbeboys features Phil McCrory, who’s idea helps clean up oil spills with human hair clippings. https://www.goodgoodgood.co/articles/hair-stylists-are-using-hair-clippings-to-clean-up-oil-spills
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I have a great guest coming on next week, but for now, I have some things I want to get off of my chest. Big concerns that I have in this world that I think it’s our responsibility to be not only aware of, but begin to do something about. If we don’t stand up for ourselves and begin to come together, more and more of our freedom will be taken away from us, it’s already starting to happen.
Here is a link to that Heineken commercial I talked about in this weeks episode: https://youtu.be/etIqln7vT4w
#boyswillbeboys features Fionn Ferreira, a youth that has figured out how to remove microplastics from the ocean and is actually doing something about it. https://www.fionnferreira.com/about
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Dawni Angel joins me again to talk about how to communicate authentically. What does that mean? Well, first off it requires you to have an open mind while listening so that you can truly hear what it is the other person is trying to say. We take a deep dive into being aware of how you communicate and what intention you’re setting when you communicate with someone that you are giving your attention to.
#boyswillbeboys features Lawrence Brooks who just turned 112 years old and is the oldest living veteran of WWII. https://apnews.com/article/oldest-world-war-ii-veteran-lawrence-brooks-c52e4957963103a906ffcae5519d70b3
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Did you realize that making a decision is a masculine trait? When you allow your woman to make a decision, like where to go out to eat, you are giving up your masculinity. If you find that you’re spinning your wheels, or are over-analyzing/overthinking, it’s because you can’t make up your mind. Have you ever heard, “Hamlet was wrong?” He was the most notorious person in literature for overthinking and he died young as a result. Don’t let that be you.
#boyswillbeboys features Peter Mutabazi who has been taking on foster kids during the pandemic. https://www.today.com/parents/foster-dad-opens-his-home-kids-during-pandemic-t229001
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Is it just me, or does it feel like we’re being divided up into smaller and smaller groups nowadays? I discuss things that cause divisiveness among us as a society and ask the question - What is it all for? Who wants us to be a divided people, for what cause? It can’t be a good one. We need to find some way to stop fighting amongst ourselves and start to pay attention to what is going on in our country and find out who this is actually benefiting. If you’re like me and not one of the richest people or one of the lawmakers, then you’ll want to listen up and ask yourself some good questions around this problem as well.
#boyswillbeboys features Rudolph “Blaze” Ingram who is the fastest kid in the world. https://www.indiansingulf.in/kiddies-korner/2020/10/24/meet-rudolph-ingram-the-fastest-kid-in-my-the-world
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Fellow Men’s Headspace member and Actor friend Aaron J. Owen joins me in this episode to talk about making the conscious choice to have SINGLE as a relationship status. He isn’t part of the MGTOW movement, not a RED PILL guy, he just made a choice after realizing that he has other things that are more important than having a relationship to get after right now, and he is generating his own success and happiness as a result of it. Listen to his story to see if this is a conclusion that you can come to yourself if you are having trouble in your dating life.
#boyswillbeboys features Donnie Wiseman who jumped into an alligator tank to save a woman it tried to drag into the water. https://www.thedailybeast.com/bystander-leaps-into-tank-to-wrestle-alligator-during-attack-on-utah-zoo-worker
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I stumbled upon a YouTube video that was titled, MGTOW - Why Men Stopped Dating. I’ve been asking for your cautionary tales for awhile and this one video was chalk full of them. To be clear I want to find a way to bridge the divide that currently exists between men and women. I’m hoping that pointing out what is wrong with these situations helps do that, not make it worse. Here is a link to the video so you can watch it on your own: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uprnmYKb_2s
#boyswillbeboys features Engineer Sonam Wangchuck who is solving a water problem in the desert. https://www.goodgoodgood.co/articles/scientists-have-figured-out-how-to-solve-a-desert-water-crisis
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What exactly can you do to get that woman to go out with you? How can you tell when it’s time to make a move and get that kiss? So often guys are like deer in the headlights and completely miss their opportunity. Then they sit and wonder why they didn’t get a second date, or why she didn’t seem interested. In this episode, I reveal the answer and explain what you need to do in order to escalate and give you the best chance for propelling your dating life further. This isn’t Pick-Up Artist BS, this is the real honest way to approach and escalate.
#boyswillbeboys features Lawson Lundberg, a 3-year old genius who is the youngest member of Mensa. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/premature-baby-becomes-prodigy-by-3/
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Lucas Charon is a 12 year educator in the public school system. He’s been a listener of this show and wanted to talk about a trend he’s noticed with our boys falling behind in school due to the system changes and rules that punish regular boy behavior and hinder natural masculine growth. Lots of great elements to this topic.
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#boyswillbeboys features street artist Richard Hutchins who went from rags-to-riches after a fire took his home and studio. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/painter-richard-hutchins-was-homeless-now-hes-the-top-artist-in-la/
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A no show Zoom call turned into a live episode this week. I share a conversation I had with my son based on a bad parental nightmare where I thought I had “lost” my son to someone who was giving him bad advice and he no longer wanted to listen to me. It turned into me getting very real and very deep with my boy and was a positive conversation that is something I think we all need to have with ourselves and our kids.
#boyswillbeboys features Abhimanyu Mishra, a 12-year-old boy from New Jersey who became the youngest chess grandmaster in history. https://www.cnn.com/2021/07/01/sport/abhimanyu-mishra-youngest-grandmaster-chess-spt-intl/index.html
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Award winning Fight Choreographer, Spencer Hohl joins me to talk about some of the best fights on film as well as the technique, the practice and what really makes these film fights so appealing and entertaining. We geek out on Star Wars, John Wick, The Princess Bride and more, plus honoring all the professional fight choreographers that put them together. You’ll never look at film fights the same way again! Later we talk about why these violent films are very cathartic for men and what role they play for the release of that pent up energy that resides in all men and what to do going forward.
#boyswillbeboys features Officer Jason Burba who saves a girl from a kidnapper. His bodycam footage shows him approaching the car she’s locked in. https://www.thedailybeast.com/louisville-cops-rescue-of-kidnapped-6-year-old-girl-caught-on-bodycam
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Author, Public Speaker and Former member of the Harlem All-Stars, who played with the greats from the Globetrotter teams, Pee Wee Harrison joins me this episode to talk about a new movement he’s behind called I Choose Love. This movement was inspired from a song done by The Brown Sisters and has been something that this world needs more of in the troubled times we’re living. We chat about what that means to choose love and how it is the only solution to change the world. I also got to pick his brain about his playing days and his book, “The Perfect Assist.” You can book Pee Wee for your public event by going to his website https://www.peeweeharrison.com/
He also helped clean up a block in his hometown of Omaha, Nebraska on May 1st in the “One Block at a Time” group as part of our #boyswillbeboys segment.
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Dawni joins us for a 3rd time to talk about a formula for success that she’s been using with her clients and it incorporates 4 main circles to be at a high level in your life. They are The Circle Of Mastery, The Circle of Integrity, The Circle of Showing Up Consistently and The Circle of Attitude. We break all of these down and really give you an understanding of how you can gain higher levels of success by focusing on these with full honesty.
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#boyswillbeboys features High School principal, Marcus Gause, serenading his graduating class. https://www.today.com/news/watch-high-school-principal-serenade-his-students-during-graduation-t221630
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Many of us have been in the presence of someone with narcissistic tendencies. In fact all of us have, because we all possess them, some at higher levels than others. Sophie Kjaervik, PhD student in communication at the Ohio State University, did a research paper that reviewed 437 studies on narcissism and aggression with over 123,000 participants. We break down her research and what it revealed in this deep dive into narcissism and how it impacts relationships and the workplace.
Her research is featured on The Conversation, Very Well Health, and Inc. Magazine.
#boyswillbeboys features 7 year-old Chase Poust who swam an hour to save his father and sister. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/chase-poust-7-year-old-swims-an-hour-to-rescue-his-dad-and-little-sister/
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We hear all about the bad things that people do in relationships, but what about the good signs? What are some of the things you need to actually look FOR in a relationship. So often we spend so much time looking for warning signs in relationships that we never take the time to look for what makes this person “a catch” and it can be to our own detriment.
I start off with examples of the 8 biggest red flags and then dive into a slew of green flags to turn it into a positive episode. Discover what things in your relationship are good things by listening in.
#boyswillbeboys features Jesus Del Rio who is 7 and killing it on The Voice Kids in Spain. https://consequence.net/2021/06/7-year-old-boy-ac-dc-highway-to-hell-the-voice-kids/
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Death always makes you take a deeper look at your life. What am I doing? What could I be doing better? When you realize that time is shorter than you thought, you have to really start taking action now. I used to believe that I wouldn't live past 40 and now that I have, I feel like I'm on borrowed time. I have to make better decisions with my time, that's what this episode is all about.
#boyswillbeboys features Harrison Gurney who cheered up his grandad with a special surprise. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/grandson-helps-grandpa-fulfill-wish-of-flying-in-spitfire/
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Taking ownership of your life means being accountable to yourself. If you don’t take the time to look at what it is that you truly want to accomplish and then formulate a plan and get someone to hold you accountable, the odd of you getting that thing done is slim to none. Accountability is next of kin to self respect. You have to have the will and desire to see things through so you can be proud of yourself. I talk about my own shortcomings as a man and a father and how I went about turning that around so that I come out on top. Hopefully this will help you out too.
#boyswillbeboys features Deputy J. Holt of Virginia single-handedly lifting a car to save a woman. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/video-captures-jon-holt-single-handedly-lift-overturned-car/
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I have been very busy leading up to the start of summer. This episode is about what is coming up in my summertime series, guests that I’m getting locked in and a rundown about things I’m looking for you all to send me for my next mailbag episode. Send your questions to orionwaymailbag@gmail.com and I’ll be sure to get to them in an upcoming episode. Sorry I sound so tired, it’s what happens when you really push yourself and that is what I’ve been doing, but it’s all for a good cause.
#boyswillbeboys featuresTani Adewumi who at 10 years old, became the U.S. Chess Champion! https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/tanitoluwa-adewumi-refugee-chess-champion-national-master/
My fiancé joins me on this episode to talk about what it means to “be real” in a relationship and also her definition of what “normal” even means to her and to many women at large. We discuss how our relationship started, and how we were able to let our guard down over time despite our concerns. Relationships don’t have to be hard, and oftentimes we expect them to be, but if you allow yourself to be real and vulnerable, you can cut through a lot of the things that eventually show up later in your relationship that can be deal breakers. Bringing your “representative” to relationships can waste a lot of time getting to what’s really going to just be in the relationship. It’s better to get that stuff out of the way early rather than later so you don’t have to be so wrapped up emotionally and make it hard on yourself to get out of a bad relationship that really, shouldn’t have gone farther than the first date.
#boyswillbeboys features Ben Mazur of Alton, Illinois. An autistic grocery store worker that saved a toddler’s life with his quick action.
https://www.sunnyskyz.com/good-news/4250/Grocery-Store-Employee-With-Autism-Is-Honored-For-Saving-A-Child-039-s-Life
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Inspirational speaker, author and life coach, Paul Gotel is back to talk about self love. Self love is to replace your self imposed ideals with self acceptance. This idealization leads to triggers getting set off and then you fail to realize that you actually ARE love yourself. This is a great interview and totally worth listening to. You might want to take notes listening to this one to find personal acceptance and realize you are a bright loving being.
Paul joins me from Hawaii, so the signal goes in and out from time to time, but I didn’t want to miss anything.
You can get his book, The Big U on Amazon, or Audible or go to his website http://www.paulgotel.com or follow him on instagram @paulgotel to get his quick vids and fantastic quotes.
#boyswillbeboys features a good Samaritan who risks his life to save a toddler. https://www.cnn.com/2021/05/03/us/maryland-good-samaritan-infant-rescue-trnd/index.html
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A quick run down of what this podcast is all about, mainly, masculinity in the world today and helping men find their passion and purpose in life. Feel free to binge on these episodes, but just know that I started going solo at Episode 84 because I felt my co-host was on the side of a woman hater. We wouldn't be here without women, so I took control of where I wanted this to go. The material is evergreen so feel free to pick an episode title that appeals to you and go from there. Thanks for joining me on this journey!
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Dawni is back! This time with more insight into how to apply your core values in your life and relationships. My fiance and I had a session with her to discuss what our 3 main core values are and how that has had such a positive impact on us going forward. There is a deeper dive into how these core values define us and what lens we see the world through. What incentivises us and gets us to do what we need or want is our core values.
At midway we talk about the value of knowing your kids core values and how that can seriously impact your relationship with them for good.
At the 53:15 mark Dawni goes through her list of the most common core values that she reads off for you to find out what your core values really are.
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#boyswillbeboys features a couple of unlikely strangers sharing a meal and a chat together. The photo from this article went viral. https://wgntv.com/news/photo-of-meal-shared-between-strangers-at-mississippi-restaurant-goes-viral/
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Zack is an entrepreneur who started two companies, rainmakr.io and driskomedia.com where he helps companies do digital marketing in a catchier way. He is also a freelance writer and I highly recommend you check out his articles on his Drisko Media site. He joins me today to talk about masculinity in the workplace and balancing the home/work lifestyle.
#boyswillbeboys features Anthony Fitzgerald doing a walrus impression on live television. https://www.indy100.com/news/walrus-impression-ireland-rte-b1817730
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Backburner- Postpone consideration of or action on. Have you ever been put on the backburner? You’re probably not alone back there. This episode features two researchers who have done extensive work on backburner relationships. Dr. Michelle Drouin, a professor of psychology at Purdue University, Fort Wayne (instagram @dr.michelledroin) and Jayson Dibble, an associate professor at Hope College (Twitter @jaysondibble). Their research has been talked about in The Atlantic Monthly, TIME, Psychology Today, Women’s Health Magazine, IFL Science, The Conversation, Huffington Post, Yahoo News among others. We take a dive into what constitutes a backburner relationship and how common they really are.
#boyswillbeboys features father Greg Long who started #danceon to help his son and many other boys who are dancers to get through the bullying. https://www.today.com/parents/dad-starts-danceon-nonprofit-after-son-bullied-dancing-t194833
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My big little brother is the CEO of fintech company SOON. It’s a startup that is fresh off of the TechCrunch Pitch-Off and has raised over a million dollars in startup capital to get this business off the ground. Why? Because 54% of millennials have invested less than $5,000 in their lifetime. Something needs to be done to help them invest in real assets while still having access to their money in the here and now. That’s where SOON comes in. If you have bitcoin, gold, stocks and would like to use that as an asset like you use your debit card, you have to give this podcast a listen.
Chris is offering a free calculator to estimate how much you could have saved by getting an account with SOON. Go here to see for yourself: https://soon.app/
#boyswillbeboys features 8-year old Jaxon Dempsey who saved his baby sister from choking with the help of John Cena. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/john-cena-video-jaxson-dempsey/
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I’ve been working hard to bring on more awesome guests for you all. In this episode, I talk about what is coming up for you these next 3 weeks as well as some big news in my life that I’m pretty excited about. So tune in to hear all about that. Included among that was my awesome interview on Actor’s Spotlight which can be found here: https://youtu.be/0E4_MLLDx7w
#boyswillbeboys features Shaquille O’Neal doing more good things in the world. https://www.espn.com/nba/story/_/id/31209382/shaquille-oneal-saw-man-buying-engagement-ring-decided-pay-it
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I’m not a religious person, but if I was, I would have to say, my religion is love. I talk about the human need for love and even some of the origins of it. What is the difference between feeling a gong and a thud, and what it means to truly understand your feelings and gut and to see how that can guide you going forward. I also talk about why I do this podcast and what impact I want to make on masculinity in the world today to make this world a better place for everyone.
#boyswillbeboys features software exec, Billy Adams of D.C. who is doing his part in the world. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/software-exec-walks-12-miles-daily-to-pick-up-trash-in-dc/
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My guest is author and divorce attorney, Jill L. Coil. She just wrote her first book titled “No One Dies From Divorce” out in May along with a Docuseries that will be on Amazon Prime in May, starring me as The Husband. Jill is an advocate in helping dads get the custody rights they deserve in a divorce and what to think about if you know that you’re going to have a tough fight ahead of you in the process of divorce.
Find her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/jillcoil/
#boyswillbeboys features Naoto Matsumura and Sakae Kato who are taking care of all the animals left behind in Fukushima. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/two-men-live-in-fukushima-taking-care-of-animals-naoto-matsumura/
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What are your top 3 Core Values and what are those of your partner? If you don’t know either, you could be having arguments that could easily be avoided. Entrepreneur & Relationship Coach, Dawni Angel is my guest today and she totally brings her A game. Known on Instagram and YouTube as Coffee with Dawni, she brings her 19 years of experience in this realm to help us all learn how to be more effective in the way we communicate with our significant other in our relationships and why it’s important to really know what makes you tick so you can be a better partner.
You can reach out to her at www.dawniangel.com and set up a session.
#boyswillbeboys features Hong Kong Photographer Edas Wong. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/edas-wong-hong-kong-photography/
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Professional Men’s coach and author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, Tripp Lanier joins me to talk about his book and the insights that I gathered from it to apply into my own life. Tripp has been coaching men to better their lives for the past 16 years and he really knows his stuff when it comes to finding out what really motivates you with what you want in life. A great interview that you don’t want to miss. Bring your notebook for this one.
You can find his book and hook up with him at www.tripplanier.com
#boyswillbeboys features Robert Peters who had a car gifted to him for his exceptional service. https://www.cbsnews.com/news/robert-peters-pizza-hut-delivery-car-tip/
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I tackle this subject on debate style. (see what I did there?) I give 5 minutes being for sports and then give 5 minutes being against. You'll have to listen to see what won in the debate. If I missed anything, please let me know at orionwaymailbag@gmail.com
#boyswillbeboys features a couple of guys who come to the rescue of a baby deer on thin ice. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/fishermen-risk-walking-on-frozen-lake-to-rescue-baby-deer/
With divorce rates blowing up with the Baby Boomers, we have seen this impact children growing up without both their mother and father under the same roof. This is also what makes our dating life so chaotic if you’re single. So what do we do, and how do we navigate this situation with a single mother that we started dating. Coming from someone that has been a stepchild as well as being a stepdad, I have a unique perspective to share when it comes to relationships and integrating families together.
#boyswillbeboys features a man who rescues and hatches an abandoned egg at a pet shop. https://www.sunnyskyz.com/happy-videos/10246/Man-Rescues-And-Hatches-An-Orphaned-Parakeet
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The best way to succeed is to get outside of your comfort zone but a lot of people don’t really know how exactly. In this episode I’ll break down the simple steps of what you need to do to move just outside of your own comfort and build momentum.
#boyswillbeboys features Kentucky coal miner John Burke who saved a woman from a car before it went up in flames.
https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/coal-miner-plucks-mercedes-boggs-from-car-kentucky-fire/
At 8:00 I talk about making decisions and how this is a masculine trait but also vital to get out of your CZ. At 16:00 I talk about Integrity and what that even means. At 18:45 I get into Honesty. At 19:37 I mention assiduity. At 23:35 I bring up phrases that motivate. At 28:10 I talk about responsibility in relationships and reaching out to friends.
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With Valentine’s Day coming up, a lot of people are feeling some sort of pain of not being in a relationship. The holiday season is a harsh reminder if you’ve been single for a long time. I break down why single people are still single and what you can do to make the necessary changes to turn the tide towards changing your status to “in a relationship”.
#boyswillbeboys features 10 Year Old Christian Stone who helped clean snow off of front line COVID-19 workers at hospital after a big storm. https://www.cnn.com/2021/02/05/us/snow-hospital-good-deed-trnd/index.html#:~:text=Wildfire%20Tracker-,A%2010%2Dyear%2Dold%20boy%20and%20family%20friend%20cleaned%20snow,hospital%20workers'%20cars%20during%20storm&text=Ten%2Dyear%2Dold%20Christian%20Stone,Just%20call%20them%20snow%20angels.
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You’ve probably heard of the Grip 6 belt by now, but if you haven’t, this episode will still inspire you if you have a great idea and want to see it come to fruition. Winslow let us in on the very beginnings of his company Grip 6 seven years ago and how it grew from failure. Perseverance is the key to making a product that people know by name across the world! If you’re thinking about getting a business off the ground, this is a great one to hear! Go to www.grip6.com to get your belt today!
We sidetracked about my business and you get a good example of how to network. My voice over and acting demos are at www.antheratops.com to get an idea of what I can do for you.
#boyswillbeboys features James Anderson who has helped over 10,000 families in need, fix their heating and plumbing problems on his own dime during the pandemic. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/hero-plumber-helps-10000-families-for-free-during-pandemic/
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Dr. Robert Glover has been a personal hero of mine and has helped me in so many ways through his 2 books, No More Mr. Nice Guy, and Dating Essentials for Men. This particular lesson, about making a great cake of life and the ingredients that make it up and what doesn’t, was the one that really turned my life around and helped me get clear what is #1 in my life. After listening to this podcast, you’ll know tons more about how to make your life great! It was only an hour session and it turned into 90 minutes, and you’ll enjoy every minute of them.
Get his materials here: DrGlover.com or NoMoreMrNiceGuy.com or DatingEssentialsForMen.com
#boyswillbeboys features professional surfer Mikey Wright who risked his life without even thinking twice about it to rescue a woman who was being pulled out to sea by the tides. https://abcnews.go.com/WNT/video/woman-saved-dramatic-hawaiian-beach-rescue-75018312
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There is nothing more intimidating than being practically naked in front of an audience of 900 people, but that’s precisely what my guest Derek Smith has been doing. He played Tarzan on the Hale Center Theatre stage 7 years ago, then got after his programming career and also got into a car accident and had to will his body back into shape over 2 years to play that role again. We talk about his journey and what you can do to make sure that you can keep after your own fitness goals. The most important things are to set your goals, measure them, track your progress and give yourself a break.
#boyswillbeboys features 11-year-old Tyler Grimshaw how breaks his own record in the same year catching a 48-pound lake trout. https://www.fox13now.com/news/local-news/what-a-catch-11-year-old-utah-boy-snares-48-pound-lake-trout
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In order to be as healthy and happy as you can be, it would make sense that you need to do things that put your body in the best alignment for that. Dr. Suzanne has been my Chiropractor for 9 years, Dr. Scott is fairly new to the same office I go to and they have radically helped make my life better. I got them to come on and talk about the differences that they notice with men and women who come into their office and why.
#boyswillbeboys features 61-year-old British artist Simon Beck who makes incredible patterns in the snow with his snowshoes. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=raSK2-bvO98
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If you could give this year a title, what would you want it to be called? This is the one that I picked. I am pumped about this next year and of the possibilities that are ahead. I also talk about what to expect coming up this first part of the year about masculinity in the world today. Upcoming guests, Lingo questions, a quick hit on sports, and a new year of intentions.
I skipped a #boyswillbeboys on the podcast this week, but here is a link to an awesome story anyhow. https://www.ksl.com/article/50073130/utah-man-discovers-friend-living-homeless-helps-him-return-home
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53 Year old English author, life-coach and inspirational speaker, Paul Gotel joins us to talk about his book The Big U: A Guide To Self-Revolution. He just made it into an audiobook and joined us from his Hawaiian getaway to talk about his experience of reading it out loud years after he initially wrote it and what he got out of that experience.
Be sure to listen until the end, where he really dives into LOVE.
Paul is an incredible guest that you’ll want me to have on again and again. Give it a listen. You can also purchase a copy of his book here: www.paulgotel.com or look for it on Amazon.
#boyswillbeboys features Phil Ross who is making bricks that are stronger than concrete out of mushrooms. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/phil-ross-invents-mycelium-mushroom-bricks-arch/
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My mom stopped by to join me on the podcast to talk about her generation and all sorts of things that could be very beneficial to The Fellowship. I learned a lot from my mother, and who better to have on than one of the most down to earth, nice, beautiful and caring souls in the universe, My mom.
#boyswillbeboys features two boys Ayaan and Mickey Naqvi invented the Ornament Anchor and then donate 10% of all profits to local animal shelters.
https://www.cnn.com/2020/12/19/us/christmas-ornaments-trnd/index.html
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I had a couple of guests lined up this past week, but due to the plague and Holiday bustling, they had to postpone. I'm really looking forward to the guests I have coming up, including my mother. In the meantime, please email me your cautionary tales of men going through some bad situations at orionwaymailbag@gmail.com.
Also you can check out A Christmas Carol on Broadway On Demand at https://www.broadwayondemand.com/series/Tq811xxkOLEM-a-christmas-carol--hale-center-theatre?fbclid=IwAR00fnhYOPhQovbsUqDK-oDcIIxXiZ-IjhDVcqQwFafgrsG95J_s5V0NkOE
and my latest 4 Shorts comedy sketch at https://youtu.be/BfEas71X0vM
If you are thinking about getting a divorce, or have recently been through one, this is probably a good place to start. Dave Musselman is an Arbitrator and Mediator who has personally overseen and negotiated for 27 years and over 8000 cases. After dealing with over 34 divorces a month, Dave has seen it all and knows what men go through in divorces. I am so grateful for him to drop in and give his advice to men on how to handle this situation.
#boyswillbeboys features retired music teacher, Grover Wilhelmsen who thanks his angels who helped him during his recovery from COVID-19 with his violin because he couldn’t talk. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/covid-patient-who-couldnt-talk-thanked-hospital-with-violin/
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It’s been a busy week. I’ve been doing so much acting that I didn’t get a guest or topic lined up and then I realized that my show A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens IS a story and a lesson all thrown into a podcast. I share why I have done this show for 11 years in a row and will probably continue doing this show until I can no longer perform. Live your life in the past, present and the future for just one night in your mind's eye and see what happens to the way you look at the world.
#boyswillbeboys features Canadian Ranger Gary Bath who drives a stranded American family 1,000 miles to Alaska. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/canadian-man-drives-stranded-american-family-1000-miles-to-alaska/
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There are many Facebook singles groups across the world with titles like The Unwed, or (your state)Singles Only and many others. This was a post about a guy ranting about being put in the Friend Zone and how it sucks that good men get rejected and there isn’t that much support for guys who go through that. Well I’m here to cover this situation and break it down for you on how it is actually your mindset that leads to these rejections stinging so badly and how to cope in this modern era of dating. Plus my metaphor entitled, “Love is Like a Marathon Race.”
#boyswillbeboys features Chris Nickic who is the first person to finish an IronMan competition with Down’s Syndrome https://www.sbnation.com/2020/11/12/21562267/chris-nikic-ironman-triathlon-down-syndrome
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“How to actually make and keep America Great!” This is a lecture/class that Captain Josh Curtis has given to his students at the Utah Military Academy where Josh teaches in a Military Prep School. I reached out to him to be a guest because he is so awesome with words, and he’s a fun guy to be around. So bring your notebook, secure your headphones and listen up class as Captain Curtis gives us this rare and special treat.
#boyswillbeboys features Gordon Wayne who walked more than 500 miles on foot to raise money for the homeless.https://abcnews.go.com/US/homeless-college-student-walks-500-miles-raise-awareness/story?id=73797950
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What’s going on? What?! Anthony is doing a solo episode? What is up with Scott? Is he alright? The answers are on this podcast and hopefully a lot more. Scott might not like what I say in its entirety but he can’t stop me from putting this up since I am also the producer and recorder of the podcast and I am more invested in what it means for me to want to talk about what it means to be a good man and what I think about these #crazycovidtimes who knows, we’ll see. I might do this more often, like once a month. Let me know what you think of this #specialaddition. Help me find a name that you think I should call it. #imgonnaunloadOWL or #AntsrantOWL. Chime in and let me know. Reach us at orionwaymailbag@gmail.com.
#boyswillbeboys is one that Anthony remembers well from a film he watched when he was in Middle School. Listen in to hear.
More often than not, we think that we are right. That’s not a bad thing however we do have blind spots that we think are not a problem when really, it’s not a problem we can see but everyone else can. I used to think there was nothing wrong with me. I was a nice guy and everybody liked me, but when I really took the time to reflect on myself and notice my flaws, I suddenly realized that I was pretty messed up. This is a topic that I think many men feel like they are just fine the way they are and if we took some real accountability, we’d find that we could definitely improve ourselves.
#boyswillbeboys features Gregory Tino, a non-verbal autistic man who learns how to communicate through writing and now has his own blog and published a book called “Autistic Mind Finally Speaks.” Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Autistic-Mind-Finally-Speaks-Letterboard/dp/B08LJN18BY/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=gregory+tino&qid=1604530575&sr=8-1 and his Blog ishere https://inautism.wordpress.com/
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It’s so easy to compare your life to others with Social Media these days. In fact, the curated life that people portray on their profiles often tends to make those that compare very depressed and give feelings of inadequacy.
We offer a better solution than comparison to others. Hopefully it will guide you through your life to make it more powerful and positive going forward.
#boyswillbeboys features Fidel Ybarra, a convict on work release who helped an injured woman finish the race. https://www.ksl.com/article/50029432/woman-finishes-68th-marathon-with-the-help-of-prison-inmate-on-work-release
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With the adding of letters to the LGTBQ+ community alphabet, I’ve come to realize that sexuality isn’t just gay and straight. In fact, I’d guess that there are not as many people on the 100% gay or 100% straight end of the spectrum as you’d think. Most people float at some point in between the two ends of the spectrum. Scott and I discuss this spectrum and how it applies to you and why it’s important to know where you stand on it so you can move forward completely comfortable with your own sexuality.
#boyswillbeboys features Elijah Hale who was in the right place at the right time to rescue a girl from a house fire. https://www.wgal.com/article/it-was-very-split-second-off-duty-volunteer-firefighter-rescues-girl-in-burning-house/34300070#
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Today we have two special guests to cover our topic on the sleep-deprived masculinity stereotype. We chose them to help us because they both conducted and wrote a research article of the same title.
Nathan Warren is a Ph.D. candidate in marketing at the University of Oregon. And Troy Campbell, a behavioral scientist (PhD, Duke University), former marketing professor (University of Oregon), former art, film, and psychology scholar (UC Irvine), professional designer and researcher (Netflix Insights, Disney Imagineering, UnitedHealth) and currently chief scientist at On Your Feet.
Prior research connects masculinity to agentic characteristics (e.g., assertive, individualistic) and finds that health-related consumption is often aversive for males. The problem appears to be especially prevalent in men, who report getting significantly less sleep, on average, than women.
Here is the article: http://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/10.1086/711758
#boyswillbeboys features Diego Aguilera who helped save a co-workers life on his first day on the job. https://ktiv.com/2020/09/21/bvu-freshman-helps-save-coworkers-life-first-day-on-the-job/
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With many examples in our life we have come to realize that your beliefs shape your destiny. If you want to have a better life you first must begin with the thoughts that are going through your head on a daily basis. Listen to the end for the best examples of how to have a better more positive day.
#boyswillbeboys features 14-year-old William Cabaniss who is making Vanilla Extract to help provide meals for people in need. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/tennessee-teen-raises-thousands-for-food-bank-by-creating-vanilla/
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We decided to go with a lighter topic for this episode and discuss the manly movies that informed us on our own masculinity. Originally we wanted to do a top 10 list, but Anthony being an actor couldn’t resist and did his own top 10 list so then Scott pulled movies from memory that he would use to round out his own top 10, so here you go with a list of seriously manly films that if you haven’t seen, you totally should.
#boyswillbeboys features 89-year-old pizza delivery driver and Tik Tok star, Derlin Newey and the Valdez family who helped raise $12,000 to give to him. https://www.cnn.com/2020/09/25/us/delivery-driver-surprise-tip-trnd/index.html
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A mailbag episode for our listeners, from our listeners! We have had a couple of emails come in and they were both so full of great questions that we took the whole episode to get through these two situations. Feel free to chime in on future episodes by sending us an email to orionwaymailbag@gmail.com. We took one from a male and a second from one of our female listeners. We’re having a thank you episode coming up in November so please send us what you’re thankful for coming up in an email.
#boyswillbeboys features Dallas Cowboys QB Dak Prescott for being a hero for stepping up and admitting that he has depression and that Skip Bayless is wrong. https://ftw.usatoday.com/2020/09/skip-bayless-dak-prescott-depression-comments-response-undisputed
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We had some technical difficulties with our website but we wanted to keep our regulars informed. If you're new to the pod welcome, but now go back and listen to an episode that we did earlier that is specifically what you need to hear. We'll have a new episode out tomorrow but hopefully this will tide you over until then.
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Chef de cuisine at Salt Lake’s own Bourbon House, J Looney took some time out of his busy day to talk to us about food and how men should know how to make a couple of tasty dishes. It’s very masculine in fact and women love a man that knows his way around the kitchen.
“Food is a magical powerful thing and I don’t think people realize this, but when you think about it, food is the most intimate thing we do next to sex. We're voluntarily taking something into our body and in the same regard our bodies are engineered to basically take care of themselves.”
@chefjlooney
http://m.facebook.com/groups/232930550472071 to request to be on Kitchen 101 with J.
#boyswillbeboys features Emmett Albrect who drew a picture of NBA Center Rudy Gobert and sent it to him in a letter and he took a picture of it and posted it on his social media.
https://www.fox13now.com/young-jazz-fans-gobert-drawing-goes-viral
Go to our web page to get j's recipe for Chile Verde www.theorionway.com
Limiting Beliefs can seriously alter your life in many aspects. We all have them in our lives. Beliefs about relationships, success, money, career, etc. As men we have to swim through those from the aspect of our own masculinity. What happens in your youth really does have a way of shaping you and to break the mold, you need to have new beliefs that are beyond what you think you know. Scott and Anthony did an exercise that they challenged each other to for this one.
#boyswillbeboys features 11 year old Eli Harrison who dove into the ocean to save a toddler. https://www.sunnyskyz.com/good-news/3928/11-Year-Old-Dives-Into-Sea-And-Saves-Toddler-From-Drowning
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I came across this article 5 years ago and it’s something that is still going on today. When I read it, it resonated with me on so many levels. I shared it with Scott and it made his blood boil and thus this episode came to light. Here is the article: https://www.tickld.com/heartwarming/1844220/woman-realizes-that-shes-been-accidentally-abusing-her-husband-this-whole-time/
Listen in to the Podcast as we break it down. Nagging is a form of mental abuse and you'll soon see why.
#boyswillbeboys features YouTuber Canyon Chasers who could have been a grumpy man protecting his property and instead made the best out of a situation. https://www.ksl.com/article/50011527/have-you-seen-this-guy-deals-with-kid-playing-in-his-driveway-in-the-best-way-possible
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A process through which a child becomes estranged from a parent as the result of the psychological manipulation of another parent. The child's estrangement may manifest itself as fear, disrespect or hostility toward the distant parent, and may extend to additional relatives or parties. It often occurs with borderline women or narcissistic men to get the kids on their side through lies, gas lighting and talking bad about the other parent or their family. More often than not it eventually backfires.
Scott covers more of this on his company’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EgaBlmTirUk
#boyswillbeboys features 4 friends that carried Aaron Friesen in his wheelchair up to see a waterfall that he’d never be able to see otherwise. .https://calgary.ctvnews.ca/aaron-goes-wherever-we-go-friends-carry-man-in-wheelchair-to-view-waterfall-1.5058310?cache=
“You’re either born as a fighter or not!” says Jeremy Horn, at least that’s the way he used to think. “There is no in between. Some people can get punched in the face while training and they just shrug it off and some people get hit in the face and just breaks them.” Now that he’s been training other people for a while, he’s come to realize that there actually is an “in between.” You can be eased into dealing with pressure in all areas of your life and learn to deal with that to where you have a plan to get through any adversity and still move forward. Join us on this interview with the Professional MMA fighter and pioneer of the sport to discuss masculinity in the world today through the eyes of a real warrior.
Want to train with a legend? Check out his gym here: https://eliteperformancegym.com/ or his facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Jeremy-Horns-Elite-Performance-244231695635480/
#boyswillbeboys features Andrew Grande, a dad who saved his daughter from a 12 foot alligator in Texas by acting quickly. https://www.cnn.com/2020/08/06/us/texas-alligator-rescue-trnd/index.html
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“Women aren’t interested in me.” “I can’t lose weight.” “My boss doesn’t like me.” These are all phrases that someone with a victim mentality says. The truth is this type of thinking is only going to keep you in your place and never move into a better situation/relationship/job in your life. Being around someone who is always complaining can be very draining, Imagine what is happening to the person doing the complaining? The best thing to do is to take accountability and live up to the positive masculine energy within you. Take charge and demand more of yourself.
#boyswillbeboys features New Orleans trumpeter Shamarr Allen who started a program to exchange trumpets for guns. https://www.npr.org/2020/07/24/895123707/to-help-keep-new-orleans-safe-musician-trades-kids-trumpets-for-guns
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Gary L Price is an American sculptor who has pieces all over the globe, joins us today to talk about his story and how he found his passion and purpose in the world and what he is currently doing to share those gifts. He is the designer of The Statue of Responsibility that was mentioned in Victor Frankl’s book Man’s Search For Meaning that will be built on the West Coast of the United States to bookend the Statue of Liberty. We also get into meditation, fasting and learning new skills with all of it going back to a sense of responsibility.
#boyswillbeboys features Gary Price and the good he is putting out in the world with his Great Contributors series of park benches. https://garyleeprice.com/product-category/great-contributors/
Also check out and donate to the cause of The Statue of Responsibility at https://www.statueofresponsibility.com/ and buy one of the smaller sculptures for your own home.
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Our guest this week is a former gang member who went to prison and turned his life around after he served his time. We talk to Junior about his tumultuous past, what got him into that life and what he did to get out of it. He tells us about what he saw along the way and how taking full responsibility for his actions was the only way that he could free himself from the blame game and allowed him to transition from boy to man to move forward to a better, more fulfilled life. The Thug Life is not all that it might seem to be and the plateaus that members of gangs aspire to are really not that high minded. It is mostly a situation of circumstances and what you choose to do in those moments.
#boyswillbeboys features NBA Champion, Shaquille O’Neal helping keep a woman calm who got into a car accident until the police arrived. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/shaquille-oneal-stops-to-help-stranded-motorist/
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Is it real? Or is this something that every man goes through. Most of the time as men, we can live in a cocoon of denial and tend to live our lives for other people until we reach a breaking point. When that happens, it feels like our whole life crumbles. Thus the word Crisis in that phrase. You have to start to figure out what it is that YOU really want FOR YOURSELF and that can lead to some destructive habits, unless you can get a handle on it and redirect your energy towards something productive.
#boyswillbeboys features 6 year-old Bridger who helped save his 4 year-old sister from a dog attack and then was awarded and praised for his bravery as a hero by actors who played his favorite heroes in the movies. https://www.cbsnews.com/news/dog-attack-dog-saves-sister-chris-evans/
Looking for an adventure during your mid-life crisis? Sponsor and train a wild mustang at Mustang Medicine, tell Hugh Vail how you heard about it for a great discount. https://www.mustangmedicine.com/sponosorships
We got Hugh back for another episode! This time we’re talking about the need to have a mentor, why it’s important to save you time and how to go about finding one. Hugh discusses his failures and successes and how having a mentor brought about those conclusions versus not having one. He also talks about how it’s important to be coachable and to be willing to do the really hard work to create the opportunity to get the mentor that you need to move forward. Without a mentor you are left to experimentation, which is a valid way to figure things out but it takes so much longer.
#boyswillbeboys features comic artist Gary Larson who publishes his first comics in 25 years. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/gary-larson-publishes-first-comics-in-25-years/
As men we get subjected to expectations by our parents on what it is that we should be in our career. Some men go through their whole life working a job that they never would have picked out for themselves only to have a mid-life crisis and realize that what they really want is something else entirely. The reason some men take so long to make that change is because of their fear of disappointing their parents, and the truth is, you’re going to disappoint them one day anyway, so better to take that stand early in your life so that you don’t live it for other people.
#boyswillbeboys features 3 young rappers helping elderly woman get into her car. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/watch-police-officers-viral-video-of-three-young-men-helping-elderly-woman-get-back-into-her-car/
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If you consider yourself a nice guy, you probably have not noticed that you tend to put your needs and wants on the backburner, especially in relationships. It’s hard for some guys to even know what their needs and wants are and then knowing how to go about getting them fulfilled.
There is such a thing as positive selfishness that is a healthy thing. Listen in to get the full scoop.
#boyswillbeboys features NBA Player Kevin Love who donates half a million dollars towards anxiety research at UCLA. https://bleacherreport.com/articles/2897256-cavaliers-kevin-love-donates-500k-to-ucla-for-mental-health-awareness
Books mentioned in the podcast: Joe Dispenza - You Are The Placebo; The Artist’s Way - Julia Cameron; The Four Agreements - Don Miguel Ruiz
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Almost 50 years of combined service on the police force between these two police officers who are married and have a family and all the same issues that most people have raising a family and being married. They are human beings. We talk to Chad and Holly, some of Utah’s finest, to talk about the current situation that cops have to live in and what their thoughts are on it all.
The truth is many police officers are upset about what happened to George Floyd and feel like what happened to him would not have happened on their watch. They would like the bad apples weeded out as well because it makes their job more difficult because of the poor decisions that those officers make.
#boyswillbeboys features Chad Ziegenhorn for rushing into a burning house before the fire department arrived to rescue and old woman who was trapped inside. https://www.deseret.com/2007/5/8/20017339/west-valley-officers-honored-for-heroism
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This week we actually have as our guest the male that we feature on our #boyswillbeboys segment. Ken Akers is a former Navy Military Policeman that stood up in front of a 7-Eleven during the protests and stopped a mob from looting the store. Ken, A black man who looks like a professional football player decided that there wasn’t going to be looting at the 7-eleven on his watch. He used his voice to take his stance and for 2+ hours he kept hundreds of people at bay and even got people to stand behind him. Here is a couple of links with him on the local news channels in Utah. We talk about what caused him to even put himself in that situation and how that translates into masculinity in the world today and how we are still powerful and have more ability that we give ourselves credit for, even when standing up for something you believe in. The birth of a new man.
This is the fox interview where he tells the story about the soda bottles in the principles closet. Ken Akers can stand against looters today because someone stood for him as a child
Here he is on KSL showing more footage of Mr. Akers taking a stand in front of the 7-eleven. https://ksltv.com/438698/man-who-defended-7-eleven-from-looters-speaks-with-ksl/
Here is the Trevor Noah interview that Anthony referred to on the podcast. Worth a watch and a wonderful way to word this whole thing. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4amCfVbA_c
Go to www.theorionway for the bonus coverage we recorded right after this ended.
There is such a thing as a code among men that isn’t openly stated but is definitely honored, well, for the most part. We want to reveal some of these codes to those that don’t know but also to provide a little bit of entertainment during these difficult times. We also share some of our animosity in what we are personally experiencing and hopefully this will give you some insight into how you’re handling the pandemic and protests as well.
#boyswillbeboys features Academy Award winning actor Denzel Washington who helps the LAPD deal with a distressed homeless man when he could have just drove on by. https://www.cnn.com/videos/us/2020/05/29/denzel-washington-lapd-distressed-man-sb-orig.cnn
Having good guy friends is probably one of the most important rules a man can have for survival in this life. We as men must have another guy we can confide in and bounce stuff off of to make sure that we’re not crazy for thinking what we think about situations. Getting a males perspective is essential when making big decisions. Why do so many men not have not have another male that they can call their best friend? Mostly that has to do with worrying about what it looks like and our history. Scott and Anthony break down this strange phenomenon and what to do about it.
#boyswillbeboys features High School Junior Dylan Carollo raises over $30k to help frontline workers during the quarantine. https://www.cbsnews.com/news/teen-raises-money-for-frontline-workers-through-radio-station/
Song theme of today’s podcast: https://open.spotify.com/track/3lPj2nA1lIrWIpbnhNG57v
Well are you? A good question to ask yourself while sorting through your relationships. Most Nice Guys have a semblance of codependency and tend to attract partners that are too. Your love life will be much more fulfilling if you are in it for the right reasons and not based on enabling or caretaking. We give you the tips to know if you are and how to make the necessary changes in this podcast.
#boyswillbeboys features Hu Yuanchan, hailed “real-life Spider-Man” by locals for scaling a 6-story building to save a 5-year old girl. https://www.timesnownews.com/the-buzz/article/man-scales-six-storey-building-to-rescue-little-girl-hanging-precariously-from-balcony-hailed-a-hero/596430
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Gordon Bruin, M.A., C.M.H.C. has worked as a clinical therapist for over 25 years. He has spent thousands of hours helping individuals understand how to overcome all forms of addiction and other self-defeating behaviors. We take a deep dive with him specifically on porn addiction and the limbic system in the brain to help men understand why they get hooked on things and how to gentle yourself through that. We also discuss more of being a man of virtue and what that means.
You can reach Dr. Bruin at innergold@gmail.com or on facebook at Innergold online recovery support. Also check out www.mustangmedicine.com
#boyswillbeboys features Richard Allen who simply helped feed an 87 year old woman in need. https://metro.co.uk/2020/05/19/kind-supermarket-manager-paid-cafe-cook-dinner-elderly-customer-87-12725760/
So many men are looking for that hot girl that completely takes their breath away. Some might call that The Thunderbolt. Going after this woman can actually be disastrous because you’ll probably end up pretzling yourself to be who you think she wants you to be instead of being your fully authentic self. The truth is you’ll have much better odds of finding and keeping a woman that doesn’t turn every guy's head as they pass and that you can find the deeper inner beauty in. After all looks fade with time and if all they have going for them is looks and that goes away, you’ll be really bored with them in your old age, that is if you even make it that far while other guys are trying to steal her away from you.
Here is a link to the Crazy Hot Matrix https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbpGkrViOcE
#boyswillbeboys features 11-year-old Gui Khury, a skateboarder from Brazil who breaks Tony Hawks record by landing a 1080-degree aerial spin on a vertical ramp. https://www.tvnz.co.nz/one-news/sport/other/brazilian-boy-11-nails-stunning-1080-break-record-held-legend-tony-hawk
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With the weather finally getting better it seems like everyone is wearing less and less clothing. As a man this is my favorite time of year and I absolutely appreciate the view. For many guys though, this can make some of us think that perhaps the grass is greener on the other side. What we are failing to see is that when we make the choice to go to the other side, after a few weeks or months that grass that your now on starts to look very similar to the grass that you just left for this one. Scott and I discuss how to avoid this and what is the main factor to help you get through this.
#boyswillbeboys features Principal Tabari Wallace, the principal at West Craven High School in Vanceboro, North Carolina
https://abcnews.go.com/US/principal-surprises-220-graduating-seniors-celebratory-visit-home/story?id=70502320
Special Guest Hugh Vail of www.mustangmedicine and was a part of the Operation Underground Railroad. He talks about his journey on finding out what virtue really is beyond what you would normally think. It comes from the Greek word Arete which means: Excellence In All Things. We as men can all strive to be this form of virtue, to ourselves and one another. He shares his story about how he is making virtue popular through his horsemanship. We all have faults and we all have deficiencies, it’s how we adapt that can make all the difference and sometimes we need to learn how to ”just be.”
This is a great interview and so many great conversations about the correlation between wild horses and humans in this one that you simply have to experience.
#boyswillbeboys features 99 year old war vet Tom Moore who walks to raise $9 million towards National Health Service https://www.npr.org/2020/04/15/835308119/british-world-war-i-veteran-walks-for-national-health-service-raising-6-million
Special Guest Dr. Kat Lofley from Trilogy Medical Center joins us to talk about Erectile Dysfunction and helps us look into the mental and mechanical aspects and cures for this malady that has seemed to increase among men as of late. With the increase of access to free porn and the hookup culture of online dating, the age of men affected by E.D. has been getting lower and lower.
For many men, their masculinity and identity is seriously tied to one organ and if they don’t reach out and get help from a professional, it can lead to major depression.
Dr Kat can be found on Instagram @drkatnp.trilogy
Or through the Website www.trilogymedicalcenter.com
#boyswillbeboys features a young man who helped a 96 year-old woman through a long flight and helped to keep her calm during the entire flight and made sure she had a good experience. https://www.travelandleisure.com/airlines-airports/young-man-helps-96-year-old-woman-during-turbulent-flight
Resilience - 1. The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. 2. The ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.
Ever notice how when you're chasing your dreams, things tend to get tough when you’ve been after it a while. These are the tests and challenges that you must face and the only way to get through them is to be resilient. What does that really mean though? What are the traits of being resilient and why must I at these moments? Listen in and Scott and Anthony will give you the rundown.
#boyswillbeboys features the truck drivers that are keeping our supply lines open and stocking the stores with the necessary supplies with the #coronavirus #pandemic going on. Also a big shout out to the men who run the sanitation trucks and continue to pick up our garbage so we don’t get overrun with it and potentially spread more disease through pestilence. One of those truck drivers is James E. Merl who is the author of the book Anthony narrated called Chicago 1871 available on Audible, Amazon and iTunes.
Golf ball hitting steel super slo mo. That’s resilience! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aMqM13EUSKw
One Year!!! We have posted a podcast every Thursday for a week about masculinity in the world today and have helped thousands of men understand more about themselves. The #1 question we received is, “Why Orion?” In this episode we discuss why Orion was who we chose to model our podcast and website after and why it’s important to understand what your purpose in life is. Check this out and more at our website www.theorionway.com
#boyswillbeboys features a couple of men, the first one is John Krasinski doing a new series on YouTube called Some Good News, check that out here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F5pgG1M_h_U&fbclid=IwAR3ijUsxJcz8VmYdxHrKRpFtSWMHgyo2iSG-IkevvLJOUStS_iIS-kKFBMQ&app=desktop#menu
The second is Drew Brees who donated $5 million to help Louisiana providing meals during the Corona Virus outbreak.https://www.today.com/news/drew-brees-talks-decision-donate-5-million-help-louisiana-t176971
Young boys are really struggling in this world of girl empowerment and they are being left in the dust with the way that society has revered boys in this day and age. From home life to school they are getting the short end of the stick and are not getting their needs and wants met emotionally and mentally. Men aren't the only one dealing with changes in masculinity. If you have young boys give this a listen to get some tips on ways to approach your son(s). It begins with validation.
#boyswillbeboys features East Hampton Teen saves life a boy in Florida. Reilly Howard convinces a boy hundreds of miles away to not take his own life.
https://www.nbcconnecticut.com/news/local/east-hampton-teen-prevents-friend-from-attempting-suicide/2027547/
Some of the happiest looking people are often only showing you a mask on the outside. As men we have been conditioned to, “suck it up, be a man,” and many other phrases that come across as not masculine, so instead we keep it inside with no outlet and not able to realize that other men are probably also suffering from the same things we are. This is why we suggest having more guy friends because there is nothing more therapeutic than hearing another guy talk about the same things you’ve been keeping inside and realizing that you’re not crazy for thinking those thoughts.
#boyswillbeboys features NBA Player Charles Barkley sells his Gold Medals to build affordable housing. https://www.insider.com/charles-barkley-auctioning-off-medals-for-alabama-affordable-housing-2020-3
If you too wish to help Anthony during this time he isn’t working, his venmo account is @Antheratops
Andrew Scott talks about suffering in silence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a2FBI17HvmI
We recorded this mere hours after Utah got hit with the biggest earthquake in 27 years and during self-imposed Social Distancing. It’s important to realize that during these times, worry is not going to help. Panic is not going to solve the problem. It’s time to keep calm and wash your hands. There is always a different outlook to take on these things and leaders are flexible enough to know when to make a zig when others zag. We get into the top qualities that represent leadership and how men can do something about it.
#boyswillbeboys features some of our top NBA Players as well as superstars from the NFL, MLB and NHL. https://theundefeated.com/features/sports-stars-shining-a-light-on-those-in-need-during-coronavirus-pandemic/
We live in a consumer culture, where most people spend time only consuming (taking) rather than creating. It’s almost like a disease that we only consume. Much of the time men hold themselves back because of fear of not being good enough at creating art, writings, films, music, etc. When the truth is, that sense of perfectionism is more crippling of masculinity than anything and nothing good was ever created on the first try. It’s like we are trapped in the expectations of others, and that is a prison we put ourselves into for no good reason. The only person you have to compete against is yourself. So what are the real benefits of creating? Listen for the answer.
#boyswillbeboys features Teenager Peter Hanne who saved a truck driver from his truck as it was teetering over a cliff. http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/662486/Teen-hero-rescues-teetering-truck-driver
Ever wondered how to build confidence? Have you experienced a significant power distance between you and your boss or someone of importance in your realm of existence? We shouldn’t feel intimidated to ask our boss how their weekend was, or if they know of any good Thai Restaurants because they are human too, and once you can break down the distance and realize that they put on their pants one leg at a time too, and that they have needs and wants just like you do, then you can start to see the humanity in everyone and reduce this artificial gap we created in our minds and start to feel on equal footing with them and regain our confidence in any situation. What about a woman that seems, “out of your league?” Are you allowing there to be a power distance there? Why? We get to the bottom of this on this podcast.
#boyswillbeboys features Officer Kevin Zimmerman who instead of issuing a ticket, bought car seats for a single mom who couldn’t afford them to safely transport her kids.
https://www.cnn.com/2019/10/21/us/police-officer-buys-children-car-seats-trnd/index.html
Books we reference: Iron John, The Outliers
Ever find yourself wanting to control every little thing that goes on in your life? Do you sense that you are the one that is being controlled in your relationship or is it the other way around?
Anthony and Scott take a deeper look at how to recognize your situation and what to do about it.
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria or the fear of getting rejected or abandoned can lead to having a controlling personality.
Scott also plugs an old article that he wrote in reference to this: https://medium.com/@scottc_79199/my-step-by-step-instructions-for-getting-other-people-to-change-9cedb3ed7f09
#boyswillbeboys features 5-year-old Noah Wood who remained calm during a house fire and saved his sister and family dog.
https://wreg.com/news/georgia-boy-pulled-his-sister-out-of-house-fire-and-went-back-in-to-save-the-family-dog-hes-5-years-old/
In the era of lost masculinity, are you finding that you are needy after you get involved in a relationship? Do you tend to cling and have it backfire in your face? The needy/clingy mindset is actually repelling what you want most away in your life. It’s actually better to change your perspective and think about how excited you’ll be to have it instead of being desperate to keep it. That is a lack mentality and the only way to break this habit is to start giving without expectation if you want to be a healthy man.
#boyswillbeboys features a High School baseball team that lifts a car off of a student in the school parking lot. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/baseball-team-lifts-car-saves-life_n_3248973
Do you find yourself going from one relationship to another with little to no downtime between romantic affairs? You may have a problem that is bigger than you realize. It’s not just guys that do this, yet it’s problematic no matter who you are.
We discuss the number of reasons why it’s unhealthy for you and for your next relationship. Perhaps you are using it as a way to avoid pain and leaning on it like a form of medication like that of a junkie with smack. You could be self-medicating with a new relationship.
#boyswillbeboys features 8-year old Keoni Ching, from Vancouver, WA. Inspired by his favorite NFL Player Richard Sherman, he made and sold 803 keychains at $5 a pop to raise $4,015 to pay off lunch debt for students at his school. https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/living/story/year-presents-school-4k-check-making-keychains-pay-68725360
For some people in the world, Marijuana is actually doing more harm than good. For all the medical benefits that are being discovered with weed, there are also people who basically are allergic to it now and it is sending people to the emergency room with them not even knowing that partaking in Marijuana is actually causing the pain that makes them throw up uncontrollably.
Alice Moon has collected more data on CHS than anyone in the world right now. We are covering this topic because Anthony and Alice both have this affliction and suffered from it for a long time before finally discovering what had been causing them pain for years. We want to help others more aware of it so they can finally get help and take their life back.
Substance abuse is oftentimes a way that men (and women) deal with anxiety and depression, but like with many things it will only work for you until it doesn’t.
We hope this podcast helps you or a loved one become more aware of what CHS is and how to know if you or someone you know is affected by it.
Alice Moon can be found on instagram @thealicemoon or her website https://alicemoon.la/
CHS Awareness Group on Facebook
Search for Recovery From Cannabinoid Hyperemesis on Facebook Group which is only for people who are serious about healing themselves.
#boyswillbeboys features Ryan McGuire (17) from Trinidad Tobago, who gave his life saving two others from drowning.
https://www.guardian.co.tt/news/hero-teen-dies-saving-two-others-from-drowning-6.2.1022091.14203ce4c8
We’ve all heard about IQ, but what about EQ? What is emotional intelligence and what does it mean? Is it something that can be learned or improved? Why is it so important in relationships these days? Scott and Anthony break it down the best way they can for you and put it into terms that you can start to apply and improve your relationships today. There isn’t a book called Emotional Intelligence for Dummies, but this is the closest thing to it. Mindfulness, self-discovery, empathy and awareness is Emotional Intelligence.
Listen in to get the benefits of EQ and how it will also make you more productive.
#boyswillbeboys features some quick-thinking teens in Vancouver, Canada who saved a boy falling from a ski lift.
https://ftw.usatoday.com/2019/03/quick-thinking-youths-save-boy-dangling-from-ski-lift
Boundaries are one of the most important things you can set in your relationships for your life. Too many times we feel like setting boundaries is selfish or not becoming of a good partner, but the opposite is actually the truth. Boundaries are actually a healthy thing but they take work to preserve them.
The first thing you need to do is know what your boundaries are and when they have been crossed. Scott and Anthony recall experiences where they didn’t set proper boundaries and what happened as a result and also times when they made positive boundaries and how it made a huge difference for everyone involved.
#boyswillbeboys features Curtis Green grabbed a hammer and jumps into the water to save two people from a sinking ship.
https://nbc16.com/news/local/they-would-have-drowned-oregon-man-swam-from-dock-to-save-people-aboard-sinking-ship
What is acceptable behavior for men these days. It’s become very difficult for men to be in the dating scene as they try to tread lightly. Meanwhile women are confused as to why the men they are with aren’t making a move with them when honestly, the men just don’t want to be accused of anything that would make them seem like a sexual predator.
The problem is, the real predators are getting away with it because they are selective at choosing their victims and innocent men are getting hit with charges of rape when they didn’t do anything. It’s probably going to get worse before it gets better. We take a crack at this and what can be done about it right now.
#boyswillbeboys features Jerimiah Murrill A Chick-fil-A employee in Wilmington, North Carolina, who brightens people's day with his incredible customer service. https://www.wcvb.com/article/chick-fil-a-employee-goes-viral-after-video-captures-upbeat-attitude/30357910#
What is BPD? Scott has become somewhat of an expert on this disorder. We discuss what is it, what are the signs of it, and what can be done about it. We’ve discovered that BPD Women and Nice Guys tend to be drawn to each other like magnets. Why does this happen? Listen in and we’ll get into that. Any question you may have about Borderline women and Narcissistic men is pretty much covered on this one.
#boyswillbeboys features 5 students who help a woman make it to her dialysis treatment by digging out her driveway at 4:30am to shovel snow so she could get her treatment.
https://mypositiveoutlooks.com/five-students-helped-woman-make-it-to-her-dialysis-treatment/
New Years resolutions don’t often have the teeth necessary to make good things happen. Setting clear, definable goals is a much better solution and gives you the best possibility for success.
First thing you have to ask yourself is, “What do I want for myself?” Your goals has to be for your own personal reason.
There are 3 types of goals, they are: Objective goals, Process goals and Performance Goals. We discuss those, so listen in.
Remember to divide them up into Short, Mid and Long-term goals.
The only way to be the man you want to be is by setting goals. Otherwise you’ll just be drifting through life.
#boyswillbeboys features coach Keanon Lowe from Oregon saves a students life with a hug.
https://abcnews.go.com/US/video-shows-oregon-coach-disarming-student-embracing-police/story?id=66389192
In this year end podcast we discuss the year and what’s ahead, but we also dive into one of our most controversial topics that many men have fallen victim to.
The best way to avoid this is to have a solid 5 and 5 list of qualities that you must have in a significant other and those that you won’t tolerate. Anthony and Scott give a sample of their lists.
Our first posthumous #boyswillbeboys featuring Mike Ilitch quietly doing a good deed for Rosa Parks.
https://www.cnn.com/2017/02/15/us/mike-ilitch-rosa-parks-trnd/index.html
As a man, it's important to admit that you have a dark side to you. We all do. This isn’t a knock on men for having this. What we want to let men know is that, yes, you have Dark Energy within you and once you acknowledge that, you can take ownership of it and utilize it as a way to advance your cause. Like Batman, who never kills anyone, even his enemies.
We discuss that every man has a well within that they can stuff the angst down into. Some men have a deep well and others it can be very shallow. This can lead to gaining development and understanding of this energy at different times in your life. Sometimes it builds up and you have raging energy like the Hulk and you are always angry and easily triggered. Again, acknowledging the dark energy within and the level it’s at is only going to help strengthen you as a man and better deal with the tough situations that arise.
#boyswillbeboys features a real live Pet Detective in Shanghai that helps reunite pets with their owners.
https://www.breakingasia.com/news/shanghais-pet-detective-reunited-thousands-of-beloved-pets-with-owners/
In what ways do men tend to envision what it means to be masculine? As men we seem to have an idealized version of what it means and that isn’t necessarily healthy or accurate, or even something that is possible to them so we tend to feel confused or inadequate.
Men in film like John Wick, Rambo, James Bond give off this idea that men need to do things all on their own, when in reality the richest men in the world got there with a team who helped them rise to prominence and success.
Do you have to always be strong and aggressive in situations? Or can you take a step back and see if another approach might achieve what you want better and quicker?
#boyswillbeboys features four teens - Narayan Weibel, Spenser Stratton, Adrian York, and Taj Ortiz-Beck came to the rescue of two drowning swimmers last month.
https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/four-teen-surfers-rescue-drowning-brothers-on-foggy-coast/
Why do we men think it’s not cool or unmanly to ask for help? Do we really think that this will get us what we want faster? How do the most successful people gain all that success? Well, they certainly didn’t do it all by themselves. It’s become a stigma for men to ask for help without realizing that this kneecaps them from getting what they want much faster.
True strength is being willing to relinquish leadership to someone who knows what they’re doing more than you do.
#boyswillbeboys features Matt White who took it upon himself to help a young man Chauncy Jones who offered to carry his groceries for some food. Matt set up a gofundme page for Chauncy and it’s helped raise over $90k for Chauncy and his mom.
https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2016/06/24/tennessee-hunger-in-america-teenager-grocery-store-kindness/86340880/
How do you escalate with women during the #metoo movement? Are you like a deer in the headlights? Not sure what move to make without getting labeled as a creep? You’ll want to listen in on this one.
Sexual assertiveness starts with low level sensuality and it can’t have strings attached. You can’t do something like giving her a backrub and expect to get sex out of that. You have to do that because you genuinely want to get her to be more relaxed and then just read the signals she gives. But she will immediately sense if you do that and have expectations behind it.
#boyswillbeboys features 2 men, Rob Goodman and Ed Costner, of Florida who helped an elderly woman escape from her submerging vehicle
https://www.usnews.com/news/best-states/florida/articles/2019-10-26/2-men-rescue-elderly-woman-from-partially-submerged-car
Mental Health is a very real thing. Being depressed is a normal cycle to go through for anyone, but deep depression can lead to self injury. In this episode, we take a look under the hood and see why men are the highest demographic for suicide rates and why that’s increasing.
The truth is we need empathy, we need connection in this world. The solution to getting out of the funk you’re in can be found by listening to the suggestions Anthony and Scott make.
#boyswillbeboys features 7 year-old Roman McConn who has helped save over 2000 dogs from being euthanized.
https://www.wrdw.com/content/news/Dog-rescuing-7-year-old-Roman-McConn-receives-5th-award-for-making-a-difference--511831301.html
Is being stoic a good thing or a bad thing? Scott and Anthony get into it about elements of stoicism that can be effective in nearly all situations. The thing is, it has to be applied in the correct way. You can’t be passive aggressive and call it being stoic. There is a huge difference. We give examples of historic and modern day men who have applied themselves with a stoic nature and how that had a bigger impact that flying off the handle.
#boyswillbeboys celebrates Carson King, who helped raise nearly $3 million dollars for charity by holding up a sign on College Game Day asking for beer money on his Venmo account.
https://www.desmoinesregister.com/story/news/2019/10/01/carson-king-fundraiser-ends-dollars-raised-childrens-hospital-busch-light/3819735002/
In order to live your best life, you have to dig down and be true to what your values are. Know yourself and that which brings you joy. The second order of that is to trust yourself, trust in your abilities and skills.
Often times a mid-life crisis will push is to evaluate what it is we’re doing with our life. This is something, we feel, you should take inventory of sooner rather than later.
Don’t be afraid to take a deep dive into your life. Being responsible, especially for yourself, is a very masculine thing to do, don’t put yourself last when it comes to getting what you want in life.
#boyswillbeboys features HS Senior Dylan Ence of St. George, Utah who helped out students in Mexico with getting them a bus to help them have more time to get educated without having to walk most of the day.
https://www.stgeorgeutah.com/news/archive/2019/10/11/arh-dixie-high-senior-purchases-bus-fills-it-with-supplies-for-students-in-mexican-village/#.XcQsYjNKiUk
Professional wrestler, Marty “The Moth”, joins us to talk about autonomy. He is someone who is truly following his passion and found his autonomy as not only a pro wrestler, but also as an actor, health enthusiast, YouTuber, and Twitch Gamer. Check out his website at martincasaus.com to see what he’s up to.
Scott and Anthony discuss with Martin how he came to give up his stockbroker day job to go after his dreams. We get into what you can do in discovering your own desires and passions to find your own autonomy and have the life you want.
#boyswillbeboys features a 12 year old boy that has been carrying his disabled friend to school because he can.
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6865471/Schoolboy-12-carried-disabled-best-friend-class-SIX-years.html
What’s wrong with being a nice guy. Maybe you’ve been called a nice guy, but it didn’t mean anything to you in a negative sense. Do you frequently miss out on red flags until after you’re already committed? Do you find yourself pointing fingers at your significant other that all the problems are on her end? Nice guys tend to be blind to their own behaviors and the behaviors of others. In this episode, we uncover what some of those things are. It may be you or someone you know who has experienced some of these traits and behaviors.
#boyswillbeboys features an unnamed Nokomis, Florida, resident who saw that his Labrador retriever had fallen into a canal behind his house where there was a 6 to 8-foot-long alligator.
https://www.ibtimes.com/alligator-tries-eating-pet-dog-alive-owner-rescues-canine-predators-jaws-2811056
When your Ambassador meets the Ambassador of a potential partner, The Shit Test is what you come up against. Has a girl ever asked you if you think she looks fat in certain clothes, does she ask you if you think another girl is pretty? This is a Shit Test and many guys fail them, mainly because they don’t know the solution to these questions. Scott and Anthony talk about why they happen and what to do about them.
We also talk about how you should also be conducting Shit Tests with them to find out who they really are.
#boyswillbeboys features U.S. Air Force Tech. Sgt. Kenneth O’Brien who saved the life of a baby while on his way to being awarded with airman of the year for pulling a person from a flaming vehicle.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2019/09/27/an-airman-was-picking-up-an-award-heroism-first-he-saved-baby/
There is a definite dynamic difference between men and women. Katie runs her own podcast about the feminine energy, The Feminine Ascendance Circle. We ask Katie many questions about the feminine energy and how it has evolved over time and has also shifted along with the masculine energy in this day and age. We dig down to understand how we can progress the sexes by having more insight as to why men and women think the way they do in modern culture and how to bridge the gap to sort out the best way to approach women and communicate with them from a better perspective.
#boyswillbeboys features Kristopher Graham and Antwan Garrett who raided their own closets and gathered stuff to give to new student Michael Todd who was getting teased for wearing the same clothes every day.
https://fox2now.com/2019/09/12/this-freshman-was-mocked-for-wearing-the-same-clothes-every-day-then-students-stepped-in-to-help/
This is part 3 from what we started in Episode 23. Go back and listen to those episodes if you haven’t.
In this one we discuss, “What does it mean to be a distinguished man?” We reveal the behaviors that are implicit to being a man with a positive sense of masculinity vs. boy mentality. There are many good qualities listed on this podcast on how to rise up above thinking like a boy and have a greater sense of emotional maturity.
#boyswillbeboys features Uber Driver, Brandon Gale, who helped save a woman from an aggressive guy that wouldn’t take no for an answer by pretending to be her boyfriend when he arrived.
https://www.someecards.com/life/women/uber-driver-helps-female-passenger/
Different types of ROP have occurred throughout history, but they have since disappeared from society today. It is this missing ritual that has lead to the toxic boy mentality and hasn’t allowed men to grow up and claim their manhood in the world. Many men have expressed that they are still waiting for their Mancard to come in the mail, and it’s not going to until they go through a Rite of Passage on their own.
We discuss the historic ROP and how to apply some of those principals today.
#boyswillbeboys covers 2019 Google Science Fair winner, Fionn Ferreira who is 19 and found a way to remove microplastics from the ocean.
https://www.cnn.com/2019/08/01/us/irish-teen-wins-google-science-fair-trnd/index.html
Toxic Masculinity is a buzzword right now that is getting the wrong type of hype. Over all Masculinity is not toxic, it’s the mentality that goes on behind the actions that people shake their heads. Scott and Anthony are now calling this Boy Mentality or Boy Thinking because these are males that have not actually had the opportunity to graduate from boys to men.
Boys will be boys features an anonymous man who buys 100 generators for the survivors of the Bahamas. https://www.wtxl.com/news/florida-news/florida-man-buys-over-100-generators-to-send-to-bahamas
Time spent working out never feels wasted. We talk about the demise of our fathers who yo-yo’d with their weight and what they did poorly with their health and how to learn from their mistakes.
What would it mean to you to get into the best shape of your life? We discuss finding the motivation for making this a goal in your life. We also offer our tools that we’re using to help you. Things like: Habit trackers, bullet journals, home workout routine where you minimize your excuses and find your own personal reason.
Boys will be boys features Derrick Byrd who rushed into a burning house to save his 8 year old niece.
https://people.com/human-interest/uncle-saves-niece-running-into-burning-house-severe-burns-no-regrets/
Anthony breaks down the steps that need to be taken in order to get out of a relationship that you no longer want to be a part of. The first step is knowing why you want out, and what is your end goal. You can end up with an enemy or someone that you wouldn’t feel awkward if you randomly ran into them.
Boys will be boys: 4 teens run into a burning house to rescue 90 year old neighbor. https://www.wptv.com/news/local-news/water-cooler/4-oklahoma-teens-rush-into-burning-home-to-rescue-their-90-year-old-neighbor
This is an introduction to Nic Hundley, he will be a regular guest on our show to talk about nutrition and the effect that nutrition has not only on how you feel physically, but also how it affects your mental health.
He is of the belief that good nutrition can cure depression and even anxiety.
He talks about gut health and its relation to anxiety. We also touch the surface of CHS.
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Boys will be boys features: 7th grader Diesel Pippert who donates $15,000 dollars from his livestock sales at the county fair to St. Judes.
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/7th-grader-donates-earnings-from-ohio-county-fair-to-st-jude-childrens-research-hospital/
We dive deeper in an article that Scott wrote on our website, www.theorionway.com and discuss why men (and women) do this.
We incorporate how the MGTOW movement is men’s way of combating this idea. Anthony reveals the two main issues that men who take the red pill has to go through to come out the other side able to cope with staying away from women. He also explains how he has had matchmaking skills to help other people see where their relationships aren’t going to work, but he’s not very good and doing it for himself and this is why you need other people’s feedback when getting into a relationship. Scott explains why his article says that you’ll end up more lonely if you’re in a bad relationship.
Boys will be boys features teacher Finn Landing who adopts one of his students so that he can get back on the transplant list to get a new kidney and no longer be homeless. https://kdvr.com/2019/05/28/local-teacher-adopting-sick-student-to-help-him-get-a-new-kidney-and-a-home/
Go fund me link:https://www.gofundme.com/f/w72u3-help-damien-get-a-kidney?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=fb_u_g&fbclid=IwAR3Cn0X4Qhhvmk7I0KMoZv9yyz9TfYPP-9yBcx0ZTdQCmKEfi_oQIoDrW0E
Ghosting is when someone just up and disappears in the relationship, where they don’t respond to your texts or phone calls and you wonder if they’re dead or fallen off the face of the planet.
Anthony reveals to Scott that he’s been on both sides of the ghosting phenomenon and how it made him feel. He tells his stories about both experiences and what he wished he would have done in those circumstances and how he now ends relationships.
Boys will be boys features Arborist David Millarch is cloning Redwood trees to save the forests and help the environment. https://e360.yale.edu/digest/arborists-have-cloned-ancient-redwoods-from-their-massive-stumps
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Anthony and Scott discuss what is a MGTOW and and INCEL and the similarities and differences. Men Going Their Own Way and Involuntary Celibate gets defined. We also discuss what is next or what the possible solution would be to make both of these situations more reasonable with the world today.
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Both Scott and Anthony talk about their fathers that are not among us anymore. Both offer their perspective of how their father shaped their lives in different ways and how Anthony has taken on the challenges of being a father with his son and what is at stake when you invest in your children as a father.
Boys will be boys: A 10 year boy performs heartwarming routine for a blind deer every day.
https://honesttopaws.com/boy-helps-blind-deer/
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Civilizations of ancient times had established the idea of a brotherhood to help keep the aggression, assertiveness and friendly competition in check with one another. It was used as a reason and way to push each other to be better than they were the previous day. It was a form of accountability that made men thrive and civilization as a whole. Scott and Anthony talk about brotherhood and the need to bring this lost establishment back to society today.
We talk about competition and where it is a healthy way for men to test their mettle and appreciation for other men and why it makes life more enjoyable to have the playing field to see how well you can play up to your own personal ability with other men.
Boys will be boys: https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2017/12/19/eagle-scout-among-heroes-chaotic-moments-after-amtrak-derailment/963994001/
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There’s a lot of things that keep us in fear, fear of success, fear of failure or both. What you fear is for the most part, all in your head. How do you overcome these fears to go out in the world and have the life you want?
Scott and Anthony discuss these fears and others and how to go about facing them and that they aren’t as scary as we like to think they are.
Boys will be boys 6-year-old boy calls 911 because he’s lonely, befriends officer Tallahassee police officer Joe White responded to a local home after a six-year-old-boy, who is not being named publicly, called the police last week, unbeknownst to his mom.
https://nypost.com/2019/05/14/six-year-old-boy-calls-911-because-hes-lonely-befriends-officer/
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There’s a difference between a “Red Flag” and a healthy flaw. Do you know how to recognize what the difference is? That is what we dive into on this podcast. Nobody is perfect, and seeking perfection is not going to get you into a solid relationship, but there should be a set criteria for what you will and will not accept in a relationship. Just remember, everyone is crazy, it’s what kind of crazy you’re willing live with.
Boys will be boys honors Drew Falcowitz https://www.tampabay.com/education/usfs-youngest-grad-ever-hes-16-and-will-get-a-degree-in-cell-and-molecular-biology-20190502/
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Bryan Anderson is not only a musician and rapper in Broken Silence and Freemind Movement, he is also a Vegan and a married man. Anthony and Scott interview Bryan on how he balances those things together.
Anthony also reveals some of the Pillars to a Great Relationship and how Bryan had figured out what works for him in a relationship and how he managed to find a wife that strengthens the Pillars rather than weaken them. We get into the questions you need to ask before getting seriously involved with someone while you’re “digging your tunnel” so you don’t lead your partner on thinking that you’re going to be a certain way with her.
And of course we talk about music.
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Boys will be boys features Luke Mickelson https://www.cnn.com/2018/06/28/us/cnnheroes-luke-mickelson-sleep-in-heavenly-peace/index.html
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Special musical guest Bryan Anderson from Broken Silence and Freemind Movement joins us on this podcast. We talk about the ambition and the hoops you have to jump through in order to follow your passion. Bryan reveals what got him started in the music industry and the path he took with his first group that started in High School. He also reveals his influences and the challenges in the music business as a whole. With technological changes, the way a musician or group has to get noticed and become successful is more advanced from the way it was 20 years ago, but this shouldn’t stop you from going for it.
When you make a decision to follow your passion, what other things do you need to do or get into in order to sustain yourself while going after your dreams. Music has an effect on your feelings and emotions, how does it move you? Check out his work below:
Broken Silence EP We See Everything https://open.spotify.com/album/3bO3KL7c8MuWe0bpw63Xvy?si=SG1I5Aq-RIiM0HFnJyR7kg
Freemind Movement Album Saint Villain https://open.spotify.com/album/5hnrn4cpHCJ1xaTA3uYn1o?si=qICc313RSU-K4kuLFiK-yQ
Our Boys will be boys features the founder of Fathers New Mexico, Barry McIntosh. https://www.freethink.com/articles/the-forgotten-parent-how-one-father-is-making-sure-teen-dads-dont-go-overlooked
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Have you been ghosted by your friends as soon as they get married? What causes this, and is it a good thing or a bad thing, and for how long. How do you go about bringing your friends back into the fold? We discuss giving up your man card for your spouse and what effect that can have on your marriage and personal life. We uncover some of the bad habits that crop up as a result of immersing yourself so deep into a relationship that you forget who you really are and what makes you tick.
Boys will be boys, highlights Liam Hannon an 11 year old boy, for Liam’s Lunches of Love to make free lunches for homeless people.
https://www.liamslove.com/
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Why do we see this now? What is the cause for the increase of public shootings across the country. What are the signs of seeing this coming and how do we treat those boys in ways that might lead them to do something so awful.
We discuss the idea that men who can’t cry, shoot bullets. Some shoot bullets at themselves and some shoot bullets at others and touch on people who identify with being an INCEL, or involuntary celibate.
Boys will be Boys, we talk about Riley Howell who stopped the shooter at UNC Charlotte by charging him and losing his life in the process.
https://www.cnn.com/2019/05/01/us/uncc-victims-shooting-riley-howell/index.html
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Part 2 of our interview with Nicole Emma, a sex worker and Tedx Salt Lake City speaker. Nicole shares her expertise and insights into sexuality and the taboos that get associated with sex. https://youtu.be/r7xLfeTytns
We talk further in depth about the things she talks about in her video and how they pertain to men in the world today and how they can get their needs met. There are discussions about sugardaddies and the neediness of men in certain circumstances.
we bring up people who identify as an incel and how boys who can't cry, shoot bullets. What can be done about this and how it could be preventable.
Boys will be boys highlights Eli Beer and how he created the fastest ambulance system in the world. https://youtu.be/bFwwaB9n_x0
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In this episode we are graced with the presence of TedX Salt Lake speaker, Nicole Emma where she gave a talk titled, "What a sex worker can teach us about human connection. "What a sex worker can teach us about human connection." https://youtu.be/r7xLfeTytns
We talk about sex education and the stigma around sex work and the necessity for it in the world today. There are tips in how to resolve your arguments in your relationships by resolving to always Argue Naked.
There are many misconceptions about sex and sexuality that we try to cover and clarify why men need help getting their needs met and how they can get resolved with the help of a sex worker.
In our Boys will be boys segment we highlight Brandon Tadeo Alvarez and the Alton, Texas Police Department. https://www.foxnews.com/us/texas-police-dept-names-9-year-old-boy-with-liver-cancer-its-honorary-captain
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Why is failure so emotionally charged? We discuss the reason we fear it and how to overcome it. There are examples of how failure has lead to success in all kinds of situations and that most successful people have an attitude of looking forward to failure so that they can learn and grow from that. Failure teaches more often than not.
Boys will be boys: Aquatic Biologist Tim Wong single handedly repopulated a rare butterfly species in his backyard. The blue winged California Pipevine Swallowtail butterfly is now thriving because of his efforts he started in his own backyard.
https://returntonow.net/2019/04/24/how-one-man-singlehandedly-repopulated-a-rare-butterfly-species-in-his-backyard/
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In this episode, we talk about The Nice Guy and what defines a man who would call himself a Nice Guy. We reference No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover and mention how this book impacted our lives and how it was a factor in us creating The Orion Way. Is being a nice guy a syndrome, is it a curse? Is it something that should be overcome? Scott talks about how he saw the need for more hands on coaching and instruction about how to not be a Nice Guy through his therapy sessions and through his interaction on his Quora forums. The discussion leads to the process to overcome being a Nice Guy and what you must go through in order to come out the other side, not as a total jerk, but as an integrated male.
Boys will be boys: Felix Finkbeiner aims to restore the world’s forests by planting a Trillion trees.
https://news.nationalgeographic.com/2017/03/felix-finkbeiner-plant-for-the-planet-one-trillion-trees/
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Anthony and Scott talk about a booklet that Anthony penned called, “So You Wanna Get Married Huh?” and get to the heart of why he felt it necessary to write it.
Asking someone to marry you is probably one of the biggest decisions you'll ever make in your entire life. This podcast talks about the reasons for doing it in the first place and what signs to look for before making that decision. The book was based on 3 main rules that Anthony learned after getting divorced from his first wife. Rule #1: When your friends tell you someone is bad for you, listen to them. Rule #2: When you haven't made up your mind about the person your dating and your friends tell you someone is good for you, don't listen to them. Rule #3: When you're already smitten and you solicit your friends opinion, all you're looking for is Rule #1.
We dissect each rule and also discuss other universal truths in relationships that nobody really talks about before you get married. We also talk about all the wrong reasons people get married and how to avoid those.
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Anthony and Scott get into a discussion about the sexless marriage. It's becoming more and more common for couples to stop having sex in their relationships. We dive into why this occurs, how to identify the underlying reason for why sex is dropping off in activity in your relationship and what could be done about it.
Sexless marriage is a symptom of something deeper that is going on one of both of the people in the relationships lives. There could be trust issues, or lack of a good approach. It could have something to do with expectations vs results, or even something that occurred early on in their childhood that is resurfacing.
Plus we start a new section of the podcast called, "Boys Will Be Boys," where we give light to the boys and men that are doing good in the world with their masculine side to make a positive difference.
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Identity is an issue that most men have a hard time with based on their own personal wants and needs. Most times we do what we do based on what others expect of us rather than what we truly want for ourselves. In this episode, Anthony and Scott explore how to uncover your identity and what ways you can nurture it to greater expansion of your life and way of being.
These identity issues are usually based on a paradigm that we create as a child and that dictates what we think is important for us to fight for based on our wants and needs. Those things usually get put on the back burner and we end up living unfulfilled lives that we try to fill by meeting the needs of the people we're involved with instead.
Plus we continue on with our ,"Boys Will Be Boys," segment where we highlight the men and boys of the world that doing good things in their community and the world at large.
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An intro episode where we learn a little about Anthony LeRoy Lovato and Licensed Therapist Scott Carter and what the Orion Way is all about. We dive into the topic of 'What is the current issue with men,' and how to resolve it.
Anthony is a professional actor on the stage, screen and voice over. He has been in films and television series as well as an audiobook narrator with titles on Amazon and Audible. He is also the audio and video content creator on www.theorionway.com and contributing member of the team.
Scott is a Licensed Therapist with a focus on troubled youth. He is a content creator on www.theorionway.com and has a pretty large following on quora answering questions for men over the past 5 years.
Men are facing a lot of issues in the world and it has caused a major shift in the masculine dynamic of our society. We put this podcast together to help uncover those things and to create a movement towards men being able to thrive again in their lives and the world.
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