iamherpodcast: Recent Episodes
Misty & Khalilah
2 lifelong friends asking some questions, creating conversation, and sharing some laughs. We welcome you to join us!
In this episode, Misty and Khalilah discuss what it means to shut out all of the noise of consumerism and focus on having a relational Christmas/holiday with relational giving.
Gratitude, thankfulness, or gratefulness, from the Latin word gratus ‘pleasing, thankful’, . In this episode Misty & Khalilah talk about gratitude and how this helps them cope and thrive in these uncertain times.
We hope you all have been safe and well. Misty and Khalilah are back and are discussing where they are in life right now... during a quarantine, during a pandemic. Tune in!
When we said "2 girlfriends traveling through life together" we never thought it would be in a pandemic. There have been some weeks Misty wanted to record and Khalilah didn't and the other way around. The one thing I've been so impressed by in this friendship is our ability to hold space for where the other person is. It makes me proud of our friendship and what we've built as partners in this podcast. We recorded this June 19th and it's taken us a while to release it because being vulnerable is hard and this episode felt very vulnerable. And yet, necessary. Listen in as Misty and Khalilah check in with each other and find out how the other is doing.
In this episode Misty & Khalilah are 2 months in to quarantine and ask each other "How are you doing?". They both try to answer honestly and share the things they are doing to stay well.
The greatest and most important adventure of our lives is discovering who we really are. In the latest edition of The Love Series, Misty & Khalilah welcome back Misty's husband, Greg Rea. In this episode they discuss their beliefs, cultural conditioning and how one comes to know and love their true self.
In this episode, Misty & Khalilah sit down with Dana Beck, CEO of Drink Nutrient to discuss her experience of being disconnected from her body for 12 years and her journey into nutrition and making friends with her body.
Why do we question our worthiness and potential so much that it stops up from doing hard things that make us grow? In this episode Misty & Khalilah discuss making friends with your body, taking care of your body and specifically worthiness and fear.
In this episode, Misty and Khalilah discuss what happens when you let go of control, trust your potential and believe that everything will be as it's meant to be.
In the Season 4 opener, Misty & Khalilah discuss what they've been doing during the break and share what staying connected to themselves has created in their lives.
Intention. Noun. "a thing intended, an aim or plan". In this episode, Misty and Khalilah discuss their journey of setting intentions for the New Year and how this has transformed their lives.
Or is someone else?! In this episode, Misty & Khalilah discuss being connected to yourself, meditation, the latest podcast they are listening to and the New Year Intention Setting Workshop they are holding January 18.
What do you do in a season of silence and loneliness? In this episode, Misty & Khalilah talk about continuing to connect to yourself and what to do when we can't see the light in our lives
It is a great time to ask yourself "What do I want this holiday season to look like? What do I want the New Year to look like?" In this episode, Misty & Khalilah discuss setting intentions for the holiday season and beyond and remembering that no matter how dark it may get, the light is coming.
It's the most wonderful time of the year and a great time to pause and ask ourselves "what do I want the Holidays to look like this year?" In this episode, Misty & Khalilah discuss the things they do to make the holidays exactly what they want them to be...magical and stress free.
In this episode, Misty and Khalilah continue their conversation about the dark sides of themselves and Khalilah shares what some of her shadows are and how she learned to hold them with grace and love.
Have you ever been driving and gotten cut off and felt like you could pull out a gun and shoot someone? And later wondered "where did THAT come from?!" That's a part of your shadow. Psychiatrist Carl Jung described “the shadow self” as "the site of repressed desires, emotions and impulses hidden from our conscious awareness." In this episode, Misty and Khalilah discuss those unconscious parts of themselves and hear about Khalilah's journey to a shadow workshop.
Blond hair. Blue eyes. Black skin. Christian. Atheist. Democrat. Republican. So many labels, so many differences. In this episode, Misty & Khalilah discuss the concept of "radical inclusivity" and what it means; asking themselves the question "is the next right thing moving me towards love and connection".
"Human progress will always bring more freedom, inclusion and complexity"
Whether you're a mother who works outside the home or a stay-at-home mom, an entrepreneur, a marketing exec or a student - as humans what does it mean to be "present and mindful" In this episode, Misty & Khalilah discuss this concept and what that looks like in their own lives.
In this episode, Misty and Khalilah discuss their journey to and from Burning Man 2019, Misty's second time, Khalilah's first.
"Transformation happens whether we believe it or not; but if we have learned anything in our Burning Man experience it is that we do have a say in our own futures, that agency is ours if we choose to pursue it. While we may never know the ultimate outcome, there is a shared belief that our dreams matter, and that together and as individuals we have the power to shape our own stories and transform ourselves in positive ways."
-burningman.org
Misty & Khalilah are back for Season 3. In this episode, they welcome their listeners back and discuss what's been happening in their lives.
Misty & Khalilah are back for Season 3. In this episode, they welcome their listeners back and discuss what's been happening in their lives.
Misty & Khalilah are back for Season 3. In this episode, they welcome their listeners back and discuss what's been happening in their lives.
Misty & Khalilah's first live podcast! Celebrating the one year anniversary of the podcast!
In this episode Misty & Khalilah discuss their first live event in Reno, NV, iamherLIVE, May 10th @ 7PM and also the meaning of friendship, and what it means to be the Real Housewives of KINDNESS.
In Oprah's new book, "The Path Made Clear", Michael Bernard Beckwith says, "There's a shift that takes place when you're talking about the possibilities more than you're talking about your issues...if you start talking about possibility then your energy goes up...you start to notice little tiny miracles happening in your life." In this episode, Misty and Khalilah discuss their journey in taking action on their dreams and the magic of getting to their first live event.
Radically authentic. Overcomer. Powerful. Three words we would use to describe our latest guest. In this episode, Misty & Khalilah talk to Abbi Whitaker about her journey from Stratford-upon-Avon to her incredible life in Reno, Nevada.
*explicit language
What does it mean to return to yourself? In this episode, Misty and Khalilah answer that question for themselves and discuss how starting the podcast, believing they can trust themselves and sharing their truth has been therapeutic and is transforming their lives.
"To me fitness is not just my job, it's my passion". In this episode Misty and Khalilah sit down with Mena Spodobalski, an immigrant from humble, oft times scary beginnings, to discuss her life and passion to help people be the best they can be thru her gym, Evoke and the breastcancertobikini program.
“When you're accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.” In this episode, Misty and Khalilah speak with Greg Rea about his upbringing as a consertive, republican, white, middle-class male and how his worldview has evolved and made him the person he is today.
In Do the Work, Steven Pressfield's follow up work to War of Art, he says "When you beat resistance and move into whatever it is you need to do another (mystical) force comes along - ASSISTANCE - it's where the magic begins". In this episode, Misty and Khalilah continue to discuss resistance and the 3 A's - acceptance, action and assistance.
In War of Art, Steven Pressfield defines resistance as the mythical force that blocks creativity and feeds on dreams, leaving only disappointment. In this episode, Misty and Khalilah talk more about that resistance - what it is and how to overcome it.
"...the more important a call or action is to our soul's evolution, the more RESISTANCE we will feel toward pursuing it."
Happy New Year! In this episode, Misty and Khalilah discuss setting your intention for the year.
Christmas cards ordered and addressed? Stockings hung by the chimney with care? Gifts for everyone bought and wrapped? Don't forget to move that Elf on the Shelf! (insert blank stare). In this episode Misty and Khalilah discuss the concept of presence over presents, doing Christmas differently, and how to end the year with more peace, love and joy.
In this episode, Misty & Khalilah celebrate diversity & inclusion, the results of the recent midterm election in the US, and why some white women vote the way they do.
What does it mean to really love yourself? Listen to yourself? Trust yourself? And how do you do that when times are tough? In this second episode of The Love Series, Misty and Khalilah discuss being brave, listening to yourself and fighting for peace in the midst of the darkness. As Rupaul says, "If you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love someone else?" Can we get an AMEN!
It is a very heavy time, so we called in some help from our guy with the good energy, Mr. Tyler Colton! "When you need some levity call a gay". We agree Tyler! Listen and get to know our lovely friend. Also, if you don't have a gay friend we feel sad for you.
Like Glinda the good witch from The Wizard of Oz reminds us - everything you need is already within you. In this episode, Misty and Khalilah discuss the concepts of self-love and acceptance.
Racism, misogyny and making fun of sexual assault survivors. And that was just last week. In this episode, Misty and Khalilah lean into and discuss the discomfort they have been feeling as a result of current events in the US and discuss ways to cope when you are going through tough situations
WARNING: explicit language
In this episode, Misty and Khalilah discuss living a brave, wholehearted life and what they are learning from Brene Brown's book Rising Strong: How the ability to reset transforms the way we live, love, parent and lead.
Misty and Khalilah are thrilled to welcome Misty's husband, Greg as their first guest! In this episode, Greg shares more of his own experience from Burning Man 2018 and how that has affected his marriage and his world.
Welcome to Season 2! Misty is back from her first Burning Man experience. Listen and learn how she "bubble hopped" her way to more fun, forgiveness, acceptance, healing and love!
Season 1 of iamher is complete and in this final episode, Misty and Khalilah discuss what they learned during Season 1, their plans for summer, and what to look forward to in Season 2. We have some exciting things planned! We welcome you to join us!
In part 2 of their talk on "conscious parenting", Misty and Khalilah talk more about being present and awake in your life and especially while parenting, which can be the most difficult thing to do.
In this episode Misty and Khalilah discuss "conscious parenting" and Dr. Shefali Tsabary's idea that "all children need is a direction back to themselves...acceptance of your child AS-IS is the first step to connection".
In episode 16, we talk about body positivity, the body positivity movement and Misty shares her "secret" to losing 50LBS!
Want to know more about iamher's hosts?! In this episode, Khalilah talks to Misty about her life and asks her a few questions.
Want to know more about iamher's hosts!? In this episode, Misty talks to Khalilah about her life and asks her a few questions.
In Episode 12, Misty and Khalilah continue their talk on thoughts and how they create your reality. We discuss Dr. David Burns, a professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Stanford University who says there are 10 common cognitive distortions that can contribute to negative emotions. They also fuel catastrophic thinking patterns that are particularly disabling. Listen and see if you can identify any that are familiar to you.
Do you believe that your moods are created by your thoughts? In this episode, Misty and Khalilah discuss thoughts and how the way you think about things as well as your world view, belief systems, values and behavior create your reality.
Many of us think of mani's and pedi's and facials (oh my) when we think of self care and, indeed, those are things we would list as physical self care. Have you considered that "saying no" and "releasing the need to be perfect" are also considered self care? In this episode, Misty and Khalilah talk more about practicing self-care, self-compassion, self-acceptance and self-love.
If you've ever flown on an airplane, you've heard the flight attendant instruct you that should there be lower oxygen pressure in the cabin to put your own oxygen mask on first before helping others. It's a great metaphor for life. If you're dying you cannot help anyone else. In this episode, Misty and Khalilah discuss why self care is so important and what they do to reset.
In Episode 8 of I am her, we hear Misty share what it's like being an "empty-nester", the exciting thing she's doing this weekend and other ways she is practicing self care.
"The more important a call or action is to our soul's evolution, the more resistance we will feel pursuing it." -Steven Pressfield
In episode 7, Misty and Khalilah continue their talk on fear by defining the difference between fear and anxiety and how both show up in our lives.
Merriam-Webster dictionary defines fear as "an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger, reason for alarm". Fear is a vital response to physical or emotional danger and we all experience it - especially during this time of so many school shootings. In Episode 5, Misty and Khalilah discuss fear, what it is and how they experience it and what helps them to feel the fear, and live anyway.
Have you ever been scrolling on another woman's page on social media and you start judging yourself and pretty soon you've branded yourself a failure. As humans, as women we are constantly fighting big and small battles, battles over weight gain, battle for the promotion, battle over your emotions and fear, but a battle over someone else? That's not a battle we believe you should be fighting. In part 2 of this episode on friendship. Misty and Khalilah discuss how important it is to remember that the other women is NOT your enemy. we are STRONGER TOGETHER!
The American novelist S. E. Hinton once said, “If you have two friends in your lifetime, you’re lucky. If you have one good friend, you’re more than lucky.” In this episode Misty and Khalilah discuss what friendship means to them and how they came to realize that their friends were their sanity.
Like any long term relationship, there are times when it is easy, at times you have to fight for the magic and others you just hold on. Misty and Khalilah continue the "Relationship" conversation and answer the question we asked in part 1 "are relationships worth it?" In this episode, they share the tools they use to take care of themselves and keep things fresh and fun. Because, yes, we believe relationships are so worth it.
Brene' Brown says we are hard-wired for connection and she defines it as the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard and valued, when they can give and be seen without judgment. Sounds good, right? The road to that isn't easy and in this episode Misty and Khalilah ask, is it worth it?
In this debut episode, Misty and Khalilah talk about the beauty of empowerment and the magic of showing up for your one beautiful life.