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Dr Phil Parker, the Lightning Process's designer explores the research on how words affect your wellbeing and health. Fascinating listening for all those involved in healthcare and anyone interested in how they use these ideas to assist their own health journey.
Dr Phil Parker introduces some of the research on the power of self-kindness and how to build it.
Dr Phil Parker introduces some of the research that explains why discovering the mind-brain-body connection might be the most important breakthrough in your health.
We all expect certain things from life such as having a career that fulfills us, meeting our soul mate – the person who understands you completely and to be happy and healthy. Those were your expectations and it’s great if everything went as planned but what if life panned out differently?
These curve balls can come in all shapes and sizes, for some of us it’s an illness, for others it could be the loss of someone important or not achieving something which seem to flip our expectations on their head.
In this episode, we’re going to discuss how to deal with these curve balls and actually use them as stepping stones into a fantastic life.
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Recently we have become inspired by the work of Dr Claire Weekes and her book ‘Self Help For Your Nerves’ which was recommended by a client of ours.
Her philosophy is that our most effective defense against anxiety attacks involves the use of paradox; meaning doing the opposite of what you think you should do when dealing with these feelings. She recommends four methods of dealing with these symptoms which are: face the symptoms – do not run away; accept what is taking place – do not fight it; float with your feelings – do not tense and let time pass – do not be impatient.
The lesson from Dr Claire Weekes is that it’s your attitude or approach matter more than techniques you’re using to try and combat your issues. We discuss this fascinating topic in this episode.
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Have you found yourself say yes to something when you really wanted to say no? It’s almost like saying yes to something is too easy, it’s an automatic response!
When we’re asked to do something we may start to think, no, I don’t want to do that or I haven’t got the time to do that, but then you might start to feel nervous, fearful and then you worry you may come across as rude or unkind and then before you know you’re saying a big fat yes to something that you know you really want to say ‘no’ to!
We are discussing the consequences of saying ‘yes’ to everything and how you can learn to say ‘no’ and claim back your choice.
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Illness is a natural part of being human and everyone gets ill from time to time but it can be a major concern, especially with someone who has only recently got their health back or who finds themselves facing re-occurring bugs and symptoms.
We believe dealing with illness is definitely do-able and you can learn to approach it in a healthy way. In this podcast, we offer you some suggestions to help your body deal with illness.
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Joy is very different from the feeling of excitement, which is fun and amazing, but we see joy as a much fuller feeling, more sustaining and rewarding. Cultivating joy is one of the most important steps we can take toward creating fulfilling lives.
Excitement can appear to be genuine joy but in reality it’s not. For example someone winning the Lottery could start shaking, crying, screaming, or hyperventilating, we could describe this as happiness, but actually it’s evidence that their neurological fight-or-flight mechanism has been triggered. Switching on this mechanism switches off the physiological processes that allow us to relax, connect, and absorb joyful experience.
We discuss joy and how to cultivate the deep and meaningful, peaceful feelings that accompany it.
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Do you make it a priority to convey loving feelings through loving actions to those who are most important to you in your life? All to often those we give the fewest appreciative words and kind actions to are ourselves and our nearest and dearest.
We consider being loving as appreciating, caring, helping and sharing with that person or yourself. These habits spread positive energy and it feels gratifying and safe to be our authentic selves within this kind of loving relationship.
In this episode we are discussing how to be loving both towards yourself and others.
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Guilt is an emotional warning sign that most people learn through their childhood social development. Its purpose is to let us know when we’ve done something wrong, to help us develop a better sense of our behaviour and how it affects others and ourselves.
This is known as ‘healthy’ or ‘appropriate’ guilt because it serves a purpose in trying to help direct our moral or behavioural compass. It prompts us to re-examine our behaviour so that we don’t end up making the same mistake twice.
Unhealthy guilt’s purpose is only to make us feel bad about ourselves for no real legitimate reason. This can be excessive in terms of feeling constantly guilty about what you have done, haven’t done, should have done, what someone else has done and the list goes on.
In this podcast we want to discuss how to deal with both.
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Gratitude is expressing appreciation for what you have as opposed to a consumer-oriented emphasis on what you think you want or need.
By learning to cultivate gratitude, we are able to increase our well-being and happiness. Getting into the habit of expressing appreciation both to ourselves and others will result in an increase to our energy and overall feelings of joy so we though this was a great topic for discussion.
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Body language for communication and health is the subject of this podcast. Good communication is the foundation of any successful relationship, whether it is personal or professional. It’s important to consider that it’s not just the spoken word we should pay attention to, it’s our non-verbal communication – our facial expressions, gestures, eye contact, posture, and tone of voice – which actually speak the loudest and that we do completely unconsciously!
The ability to understand and use non-verbal communication, or body language, is a powerful tool which can help you connect with others, but also with yourself. Certain postures and tone of voice mean different things to us and we can work with this to improve our health, wellbeing and confidence.
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In this episode we are discussing how to deal effectively with anger and frustration. Feeling angry is part of being human. It is a natural response to being attacked, insulted, deceived or frustrated.
Anger is normal, but it can also be quite scary. When you respond to something with anger, adrenalin causes your body to prepare for ‘fight or flight’, giving you energy and making you feel tense. Releasing this energy and tension is good for you, but it’s not so easy at times to do so in ways that are constructive. In most situations, fighting back or running away (‘fight or flight’) isn’t helpful and anger can often lead to responses that make things worse rather than better.
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Avoiding avoidance simply means trying to avoid things we perceive as scary or challenging.
As children, we learnt that this strategy was effective in keeping us safe by avoiding situations associated with pain and danger. Unfortunately, as we grow, we can find ourselves applying the same logic in other scenarios such as things that make us uncomfortable or afraid.
Every time you withdraw from something you perceive as scary, you may get a short term feeling of relief, but this calm doesn’t last. This is common with phobias, a person starts by avoiding the initial thing that they fear. This then develops and expands to other things because the brain starts to create different connections and associations which increases the number of things being avoided.
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There are obvious times when you will experience grief, like the death of a loved one, but we also experience other times when we grieve in our life, such as the end of a relationship, loss of health, money, career etc.
And there are even more subtle losses like our youth, children growing up or dreams that we haven’t actualised.
Interestingly, any change, even positive change involves loss. Getting promoted or married are changes that we think of as wanted and very positive, but these are changes and can involve an element of loss too.
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We usually see luck as being some magical thing outside of our control, but if we view luck this way, we can end up feeling negative or resentful of people we consider to be ‘lucky’. It stops us from realising that some ones good fortune has more than likely been through good choices that this person has made.
We are suggesting you view luck as a ‘feeling’ rather then something out of your control. Just as you can choose to be happy, you can also choose to be ‘lucky’.
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We believe that learning how to flourish is a key element of living a life you love. The feeling of happiness is too fleeting to invest all our energy into and if we aspire to flourish instead, we will find it fulfilling.
Flourishing is all about the journey; it’s about creating positive change while boosting your well being instead of thinking I’ll be happy when such and such happens, it’s about having a brilliant life while your reaching for your goals.
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Confidence is the topic of this podcast. When babies are first born, they aren’t worried about crying and they don’t feel insecure about the way they look.
You’re confident that it will rise in morning and set at night, it is the natural order.
What if we develop confidence in ourselves and our abilities ? What if we have the confidence to shine and be our authentic selves? How great would life be?
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Why do we need to deal with change in a positive way?
Change is coming because everything changes. When you consider nature, does it stay static or is it consistently changing? Seasons come and go and, unfortunately, we all get older. This is the same with our lives.
Whether you look forward to a change or dread it, what is for certain is that change triggers powerful effects in your body and with your emotions. Importantly You can increase your sense of empowerment and steer your life into positive territory when you know how to deal with change effectively which is what we discuss in this episode.
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Do you know that states of mind and body are contagious? Laughter is so infectious. Have you noticed that when one person starts to giggle it makes you want to laugh too?
We’re having fun with the topic of how laughter is a vital ingredient for maintaining and creating health, and how you can get more of it in your life.
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In this episode we are looking at ways you can stop assuming the worst in your life or what we call, catastrophising. We all create stories in our head; it’s a natural thing for our brain to do, it likes us to make sense of things based on past experience, so helps us to expect or assume certain things for certain events.
This quote by John Milton, sums it up so well “The mind is it’s own place and in itself can make a heaven of hell or a hell of heaven”
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Forgiving someone and moving on isn’t always that easy especially when we feel we have been wronged, but we believe that exercising forgiveness can improve your health.
We discuss how you can go about forgiving someone and claiming back the time and energy that is keeping the anger and upset running.
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Contentment is not a personality trait, it is a learned skill. You may be focused on the next thing you want and whatever you long for now, it is likely that you want it so you can feel a certain way. You may believe that taking that trip; having more money and losing that weight will finally make you happy and content. Or will it?
These things may make you happy for a short time and then once the buzz wears off you will move on to what’s next. What you’re really searching for is that certain experience of warm contentment that you feel on the inside.
We discuss how can you cultivate real, sustainable and consistent contentment in this episode.
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What would it be like to have the most amazing coach in your life, available on tap 24/7, ready whenever you needed them, providing great insights based on deep experience and knowledge of who you are, your past, your strengths and the way you tend to sabotage yourself at times?
We discuss the power of being your own coach and learning to coach yourself brilliantly.
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In this podcast we discuss the incredible power of recognising that you have choice, and also how much personal power that can give you in all situations and especially at those times when it really feels like there is no choice.
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Being present is about focusing your awareness into the here and the now, so that right now there is just this moment and nothing else. Being present is so integral to a great life that is part of many spiritual and philosophical approaches so we discuss what it is to be present in this episode of our podcast.
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In this podcast we discuss what it is to live a life that is authentic to you, where you can feel fully and completely yourself.
Many people feel they live a life that is out of alignment so we look at what stops us living a life that is fitting for us and what we can do to find our true authentic self.
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Balance is one of those intangible things where we have a sense of needing it but often, we are not quite sure how to achieve it so we look at how you can create balance in your life.
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Every day we are inspired by the courage of our clients so we are discussing what it means to be courageous. In this podcast we share some great quotes and tips on how to build your courage.
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One of our our most common complaints are feeling tired and just under the weather, and that feeling energetic is our strongest need. In this podcast we discuss how we can identify what drains our energy and where we can find emotional energy that we can cultivate.
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We often spend so much of our energy and time looking out for others that we completely forget to be compassionate to ourselves. We discuss how you can start to befriend yourself, as you are, with all of your individual qualities and quirks.
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Many people unintentionally drain their energy by focusing too much on past regrets. They spend so much time reliving the past that they completely miss out on living in the present and living their lives to the full and engaging with it. We discuss what you can do to move beyond your regrets.
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Rather than simply living with stress, we look at how you can effectively master your stress levels and build emotional resilience to help you to feel and perform better on a daily basis.
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We discuss how you can learn to use your powerful imagination to create a better life for yourself.
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We discuss the issue of being chronically busy, how this effects you and what you can do to get some ‘you’ time back.
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The purpose of your life is not to be as busy as possible, in fact this busyness often blocks you from finding out what you really want. We share our thoughts on how you can start to identify your authentic purpose in life.
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We look at how you can learn to trust yourself and your instincts in a world that demands so many different things from you.
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We talk about how you can deal with your own negative feelings and what you can do if you want to change these thoughts and behaviours that can spiral out of control.
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We discuss our top tips for getting a great nights sleep and wake up refreshed and ready for your day.
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We are celebrating 8 years since Claire took the Lightning Process as a client and her journey to health and becoming one of the top Lightning Process Practitioners in the world.
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We discuss some of the numerous ways that we can distort our reality and make life difficult for ourselves and provide some useful tips to help us change them.
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We all have difficult people in our lives from time to time and we look at how you can effectively deal with the challenges they present.
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We discuss how being overwhelmed can stop you from operating effectively and what you can do about it with some easy to follow tips.
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Discover how you can get stuck in co-dependent relationships, the effects they have on everyone concerned and what you can do to change the balance.
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Discover how you can increase your levels of happiness by learning how to focus on the good and positives in your life.
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Discover how your perfectionism can sabotage your happiness and limit your success in all areas of your life.
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Discover ways to avoid sabotaging your life by changing the language you use – Part 2
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Discover ways to avoid sabotaging your life by changing the language you use – Part 1
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Discover how your language can hinder and help your health and happiness.
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Discover how your Unconscious Mind can hinder and help your health and happiness and how you can get stuck in destructive spirals.
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Dr Phil Parker, the Lightning Process's designer explains what is the Lightning Process and introduces you to the idea of being influential in your health and life.