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Tom Conrad: Addiction Recovery Podcaster
If you or a loved one are battling alcoholism or drug addiction, this podcast will give you inspiration and hope that there is a way out. Addiction isn't a life sentence. People recover everyday. It takes time and some hard work, but in the end it is worth it!
Hosted by Tom Conrad, a recovering alcoholic and drug addict himself. Tom shares from his own experiences and the experiences of others to teach you the things that you can do TODAY to start living a sober and free lifestyle!
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She overdosed at the airport before she ever made it to treatment. Her face turned blue. The plane had to pull away from the gate so the ambulance could reach her. Her sister stood there thinking she was dead.
That's how close it got — and she still wasn't ready to get sober. Katie has 14 years of sobriety, works in addiction treatment overseeing family services, and knows this world from every angle — as the addict who nearly died, as the professional who works with families daily, and as a wife who watched her own husband relapse and felt the exact same terror she once caused.
Her message to families is direct: the most loving thing you can do is stop rescuing them. Letting things get messy isn't giving up — it's the only real path forward
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If you have a loved one struggling with addiction, you've probably tried everything. You've pleaded. You've set ultimatums. You've researched treatment centers at 2am. And nothing seems to actually move the needle. In this episode, Tom and Ben break down a simple, 5-part framework — one originally used in the business world — that gives family members a clear, practical way to evaluate every decision, request, and boundary that comes up when a loved one is struggling with addiction. What you'll learn in this episode: How to tell the difference between a reasonable request and one that's setting you up for failure Why "I need you to go to treatment" isn't enough — and what to say instead How to set goals for your loved one's recovery that are actually measurable Why belief matters more than you think — and how to find it again after years of disappointment How to know if what you're asking for is actually achievable right now Why bypassing levels of care almost never works, and what that means for your loved one's recovery This framework won't fix everything overnight. But it will give you clarity in a situation that's felt impossible to navigate.
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Kratom is being sold at every gas station and vape shop in America. People are ending up in comas. People are dying. And nobody is officially tracking it. In this episode, Tom, Ben, and Destiny break down three of the biggest issues hitting the addiction and recovery world right now — and what families and loved ones need to know.
What's covered in this episode: Why Kratom 70x extract is sending people to the hospital and killing them Why law enforcement knows it's illegal and isn't doing anything about it Why Kratom withdrawal is being described as worse than heroin and fentanyl Why overdose deaths from opiates are declining — and what's really behind it The dangerous rise of performance-enhancing drugs among young people Why so many addicts are being misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder and ADHD What happens when you put someone on psych meds without testing for drug use first Why 24/7 eyes on a client beats a 30-minute psychiatrist appointment every time If your loved one is struggling with addiction and you don't know where to turn, this episode is for you.
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Cliff is 49 years old. Nine months ago he was living in a friend's garage in California, knocking on death's door from end-stage alcoholism. He had cirrhosis, esophageal varices, acute pancreatitis, and a doctor who told him he had a year, maybe two. He had lost everything — his home, his health, his hope. He was having seizures so severe he punched through a window just to get outside. He was done.
Then something shifted.
He heard a Mind Pump podcast, called a number he didn't think would lead anywhere, and ended up on a plane to South Florida — alone, sick, and with almost nothing to his name.
Today Cliff is sober, working, painting, surfing, and helping other people in recovery find their footing.
This episode covers his full story — growing up as a military kid moving from country to country, how drinking took hold early and never let go, the years of relapses and hospitalizations, a parasitic infection that left him paralyzed for three months, smoking meth in the final stretch, and what finally brought him to the point of real surrender.
This is what recovery actually looks like. Not a clean story. Not a straight line. But proof that no matter how far down the scale you've gone, there is a way back.
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If you want to get sober and STAY sober there are certain areas that we needs to focus on! In this episode I break these down into very achievable steps and hope that you can start to empliment these today!
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If you're living with an addict or alcoholic, you already know the lying, the cheating, the stealing, and the manipulation. But what nobody talks about is what all of that is actually doing to you. In this episode, Tom sits down with Steve — who runs the family program at Rock Recovery Center — to break down the real symptoms families experience when a loved one is deep in addiction. Not the addict's behavior. Yours. What you'll learn in this episode: Why your trust doesn't just break — it erodes slowly over time How addiction makes you question your identity as a parent, spouse, or loved one Why families isolate themselves just as much as the addict does The dangerous cycle of internalized shame that keeps families stuck How the victim mentality sneaks in — and why it's keeping you from the solution Why stop absorbing the chaos may be the most powerful thing you can do You don't have to keep living this way. There are answers, and there is freedom on the other side of this.
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After meeting each other at a liquor store three Sundays in a row waiting for it to open, Don and Nan spent years drowning in addiction together — and somehow got sober at the exact same moment. In this episode, Tom sits down with Don and Nan to talk about what actually worked, why tough love isn't always the answer, and how one father's compassion (instead of consequences) may have been the thing that saved his son's life. If you have a loved one struggling with addiction, this episode will challenge everything you've been told about what it takes to get someone sober.
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In this episode, we break down why romantic and sexual relationships are one of the top drivers of relapse in early recovery — and what families need to watch for. They cover the four core reasons relationships derail recovery, share real stories from years of working with clients, and talk about what actually needs to be in place before someone in recovery is ready to date. Whether you're a family member trying to understand what's happening with your loved one, or you're in recovery yourself, this episode is a must-watch.
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Am I an alcoholic? If you're asking that question — or asking it about someone you love — this video is for you. I breaks down 10 real warning signs of alcoholism from personal experience in recovery. Not textbook symptoms. Real signs that real people miss every day.
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Is kratom really a safe alternative — or just another addiction in disguise? In this video, I'm giving you my honest, real-world take on kratom based on working with addicts every single day. This isn't theory. This is what I actually see happening to people who use kratom thinking it's going to help their recovery.
We're talking about kratom effects, kratom addiction, and why I don't believe kratom belongs in anyone's recovery plan. If you or someone you love is using kratom or thinking about starting, watch this first.
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Does it seem no matter how hard you try, your addict loved one never seems to listen to you? This is totally normal. There are a few stratagies that you need to master before you can get anywhere with them. The main this is, dont get frustrated. In this episode i am going to breakdown 3 things that you can work on to have more influence over your addict loved ones.
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She got sober at 18 years old — before she ever had a legal drink. In this episode, I sit down with Anna, a 19-year-old who went through multiple treatment attempts, residential, PHP, IOP — the whole process — and came out the other side with a year and a half of sobriety, a job in treatment, and a life she's actually proud of. We talk about what finally made it click, what her parents did right (and what they struggled with), and why waiting for someone to "hit rock bottom" might not mean what you think it means. If you're a parent watching this wondering what you could have done differently — this episode is for you. And if you're young and think you're too young to have a real problem — this one's for you too.
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Is your husband's alcoholism affecting your family? You're not alone — and you're not overreacting.
In this video I'm going to give you three things: clarity on what you're actually dealing with, a real strategy based on who your husband is, and permission to start taking care of yourself. We cover the difference between problem drinking and alcohol use disorder, the 11 clinical signs from the DSM-5 in plain language, what actually works when talking to your husband (and what makes things worse), and how to protect yourself and your kids regardless of what he decides to do.
Whether you just started noticing something is wrong or you've been living this for years — this video is for you.
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If your loved one agrees to seek help for their addiction, do you have a plan ready? This video addresses the critical need for families to be prepared for those moments when a loved one is ready for addiction recovery. With over 15 years in recovery, I explain how to build an effective plan for drug addiction so you can act immediately.
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0:00 - Introduction — Are You Ready?
0:52 - Why You Need a Plan
1:19 - How Addiction Works Against You
2:16 - Step 1: Research Treatment Centers
4:00 - Step 2: Understand the Logistics
6:17 - Step 3: Build Your Support Team
8:14 - Workshop Invite
8:47 - Step 4: Understand Your Finances
13:22 - Step 5: Mentally Prepare for the Conversation
15:27 - Recap & Final Workshop
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If your loved one explodes in anger every time you try to help them with their addiction, this video will change how you understand what's really happening. After 15 years of sobriety, I can finally explain what was going through my head when I raged at the people trying to save my life. Their anger isn't about you - it's about shame, fear, and survival. Once you understand this, everything changes about how you approach them.
In this video, I break down: Why your offer of help triggers their rage (the shame bomb) What they're actually protecting when they push you away The real translation of "leave me alone" and "you don't understand" Specific phrases that work better than "you need help" How to stay present without enabling The person you love is still in there. Your job isn't to make them ready - it's to be there when they are.
0:00 - Why they attack when you offer help
0:45 - The shame trigger
3:30 - You're threatening their survival tool
6:00 - Anger keeps you away 8:30 - What they're really saying
10:30 - What actually works 13:00 - Final message for families
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If someone you love is struggling with alcohol and drugs, the words you choose matter more than you think. In this video, I break down the 4 phrases that push addicts deeper into their addiction — and what you should say instead.
These are the exact things my dad said to me when I was using, and I'll show you why they don't work and how to communicate in a way that actually moves the needle toward recovery. 0:00 Intro: Words That Push Addicts Away
1:15 Phrase #1: "If you loved us, you would quit"
3:45 Why conditional love destroys trust
5:20 What to say instead of questioning their love
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8:10 Phrase #2: "You're weak - why can't you stop?"
11:40 Why willpower isn't the answer
13:25 What to say instead of calling them weak
15:50 Phrase #3: Bargaining - "If you do this, I'll do this"
18:30 Why rewards backfire in recovery
20:15 What to say instead of negotiating
22:40 Phrase #4: "I don't care anymore"
25:10 Why detachment works but verbalizing doesn't
27:00 What to say when you're at your breaking point
29:30 Final thoughts: Being strategic with your words
31:45 How to get support for your situation
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Does your new sober life seem to be boring and mundane? Are you having a hard time finding purpose? This is an episode that you dont want to miss!
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What does it actually take to stay sober for the first 90 days?
In this episode, we break down a simple, practical framework for alcoholics and drug addicts who want real stability — not just white-knuckling it. We also speak directly to families and loved ones, sharing clear benchmarks that help you tell the difference between real progress and empty promises.
If you or someone you love is early in recovery, this episode gives you tangible actions you can start today and clarity on what healthy sobriety actually looks like.
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Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling guilty, confused, or responsible for someone else's choices?
You're not imagining it — and you're not weak. In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, I break down 4 manipulation tactics addicts commonly use against the people who love them most.
These patterns are subtle, emotionally charged, and incredibly effective — especially on parents, spouses, and family members who just want to help. I've been on both sides of this. I used these tactics when I was in active addiction, and today I help families recognize them so they can stop enabling and start healing.
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As we head into a brand new year, many family members and loved ones are carrying a mix of hope, exhaustion, and uncertainty — especially when someone they love is struggling with addiction.
This video is not about resolutions. It's not about fixing anyone. And it's not about doing more.
In this episode, I share a few simple intentions you can carry into 2026 — practical, grounded ways to protect your own well-being, strengthen connection, and walk into the new year with clarity instead of fear.
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If it's Christmas Eve and you're lying awake right now, worried about your child, this episode is for you. While the rest of the world seems to be celebrating, many parents are quietly carrying fear, guilt, and exhaustion—wondering where their son or daughter is, if they're safe, or if things will ever change.
In this solo episode, I speak directly to parents who are struggling tonight. We talk about why Christmas Eve can feel heavier than any other night, the lies fear tells us when things get quiet, and what actually helps when you're feeling powerless. This isn't about fixing anything or having all the answers.
It's about getting through tonight—with a little more peace, perspective, and hope. If you love a child who is struggling with addiction or destructive behavior, you are not alone. And this story isn't over.
Merry Christmas.
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In this powerful episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Ricki Santiago, a licensed clinician who opens up about his own experience growing up with an alcoholic mother—and how that trauma shaped his entire life.
Before he was a therapist helping others heal… he was a kid watching his mom drink herself into the grave.
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In today's episode, we break down the difference between true narcissism and the narcissistic behaviors that show up during addiction. These can look identical — manipulation, gaslighting, lack of empathy, emotional abuse — but the root cause is often very different.
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In today's conversation, Hilary shares one of the most powerful trauma stories we've ever had on the podcast. Before addiction ever entered her life, trauma did. From growing up in chaos… to being pushed into acting at five years old… to living in fear, shame, and survival mode — her story explains
EXACTLY why so many addicts and alcoholics struggle the way they do.
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Getting into a relationship in early recovery can feel amazing… until it quietly becomes the thing that takes you out. In this episode, we talk honestly about why early-recovery relationships are so intense, why they so often end badly, and what actually makes a relationship healthy in long-term sobriety.
And we finally share something big with the Real Recovery Talk family: Ben and Destiny are in a committed relationship now. 🎙❤️
We use their story as a real-life example of what can work in recovery—and why most people in early sobriety probably aren't ready yet
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Learn how you can stop focusing on your addict loved one and RECLAIM your life back!
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A lot of people think if they haven't gotten sober by 40, it's too late. That the damage is done. The truth? It's not too late — but it is different. In this episode, we break down what it really takes to get sober after 40.
From rebuilding your health and relationships to rediscovering your purpose, this conversation is raw, practical, and full of hope.
We talk about how to stop comparing your journey to everyone else's, how to get your body and mind back after years of neglect, and how faith and community play a massive role in long-term recovery.
Whether you're just realizing you need help or you've been trying for years — it's not over. You can rebuild.
You can recover. And your best years can still be ahead of you.
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When your own dad struggles with addiction, it changes everything. In this episode, Omar shares the painful truth about growing up with an alcoholic father — the fear, the confusion, and the faith that eventually brought healing.
We talk about what addiction does to families, how faith can transform even the darkest situations, and why true recovery goes far beyond just "getting sober." Omar opens up about his father's alcoholism, his mother's strength, and how God used all of it to shape his purpose and calling.
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When Rachel was adopted as a baby, she didn't understand why she felt so different. By age 12, she was already using drugs — searching for a sense of belonging she never felt.
For the next 26 years, addiction took everything from her — her health, her peace, her identity. But through it all, she discovered a truth that changed everything
In this episode, Rachel shares her powerful story of addiction, adoption, and redemption — from childhood confusion and rebellion to finally finding purpose, peace, and freedom in sobriety.
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You've probably heard the promises:
"I swear I'll change."
"You don't trust me?"
"If you loved me, you'd help me."
These are phrases many families hear over and over again — and it's exhausting.
In this video, we break down how addicts manipulate the ones who love them most, why it happens, and what you can do to stop getting caught in the emotional trap. This isn't about blaming or shaming — it's about understanding the psychology behind addict manipulation so you can finally respond with strength, clarity, and peace of mind.
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Why do we keep going back to drugs or alcohol — even when we swear we’re done?
In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, Tom, Ben, and Jeff dive deep into the uncomfortable truth: for many, addiction becomes worship. It’s not just about the substances — it’s about what we’re running from, what we’re trying to fill, and the void that only a higher power or spiritual awakening can heal.
Jeff, from Reprieve Treatment Center, shares his personal story of overdose, survival, and discovering true freedom in recovery. The guys discuss detox myths, the emotional and spiritual roots of addiction, and how to finally find peace without drugs.
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Fifteen years. Zero drinks. Thousands of days in recovery.
In this special episode of Real Recovery Talk, Tom reflects on what it takes to reach a milestone few ever see: 15 years of continuous sobriety.
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Most people think alcoholism is easy to spot — heavy drinking, blackouts, or DUIs. But the truth is, some of the most dangerous signs are the subtle ones you’re probably missing.
In this video, I break down five hidden signs of alcoholism that don’t always get talked about but can completely change the way you view addiction. These are the red flags I’ve seen over and over again working with individuals and families for years in the recovery field — and you may even recognize one of them in yourself or someone you love.
👤 I’m Tom Conrad — 15 years sober and co-host of the Real Recovery Talk podcast. I’ve spent my career helping people and families understand addiction, get treatment, and rebuild their lives.
📌 In this video, you’ll learn: The subtle behaviors that reveal hidden alcoholism Why these signs are often missed until it’s too late
What to do if you recognize them in yourself or a loved one
👉 Don’t ignore these warning signs — they could be the difference between awareness and disaster.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Mattie Johnson, a firefighter who was told he would never ride a fire truck again. Why? Because alcohol nearly killed him.
For years, Mattie lived fast — drinking hard, partying, and pushing his limits while working in the fire service. He ignored repeated warnings from doctors: “If you don’t stop drinking, you’re going to die.” The wake-up calls came in the form of multiple ICU visits, coughing up blood, and finally stage 4 liver failure.
At one point, Maddie accepted that he would drink himself to death. But then, against all odds, he received a life-saving liver transplant, and chose recovery.
This is a raw, unfiltered story of:
- 🚒 Fire service culture & alcoholism
- 💉 Near-death experiences from alcohol abuse
- 🩸 Facing liver failure & a transplant
- 🙏 Finding purpose, sobriety, and a second chance
If you or someone you love is battling alcoholism, Maddie’s story proves that even from the edge of death, recovery is possible.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, Tom and Ben sit down with Franchesca, who shares her powerful story of getting clean without traditional addiction treatment. After multiple failed attempts at rehab, Franchesca found recovery in the rooms of a 12-step fellowship — and she’s been clean for 13 years.
This conversation dives into her early struggles, being a teen mom, losing and regaining custody of her son, detoxing without medical help, and how community, surrender, and honesty saved her life. Whether you’re in recovery yourself or walking alongside a loved one, this story is a reminder that there isn’t just one way to get sober.
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In today’s episode, Erik takes us through A Vision For You from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
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What happens when a woman struggling with addiction becomes pregnant — and discovers there are little to no resources to help her? In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, Tom and Ben sit down with Heather, a researcher and advocate, to unpack the hidden struggles women face when battling addiction, especially during pregnancy.
From stigma and lack of support to how treatment centers and families can respond, this conversation pulls back the curtain on an issue most people never talk about. Why pregnant women are one of the most stigmatized groups in addiction.
The uphill battle mothers face when seeking treatment. How stigma and lack of resources often keep women from asking for help. Stories of hope and what real recovery can look like for women and families.
This is one of our most eye-opening conversations yet — whether you’re in recovery yourself, love someone who is, or simply want to understand this issue better.
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In today’s episode, Erik takes us through Working with Others: Part 2 from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
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I was listening to a guy on a podcast talk about what it really takes to build a successful business. He said most entrepreneurs spend the first few years working seven days a week, sixteen hours a day, pouring absolutely everything into it. And I thought—man, that’s exactly what early sobriety should look like. You get out what you put in. If you treat your recovery like it’s part-time, you’re going to get part-time results.
But if you go all-in, the payoff is massive. So today, we are breaking down three specific things you can start doing right now to make sure you’re building your sobriety the right way from day one.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with George, who recently graduated with not one — but two master’s degrees. His story is a powerful reminder that getting clean and sober isn’t the end of the road — it’s the start of an entirely new life.
George opens up about his journey through addiction, the turning points that led him to sobriety, and how he’s used his recovery as a launching pad for personal and professional transformation. From rebuilding his self-worth to achieving academic excellence, George’s story proves that recovery can unlock possibilities you never thought were within reach.
If you’ve ever wondered what’s truly possible in sobriety, this episode will leave you inspired and motivated to see the opportunities waiting on the other side of addiction.
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In today’s episode, Erik takes us through Working with Others from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
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Why is Florida the #1 place in the U.S. for addiction treatment? In this episode, we reveal how Palm Beach County became the model for recovery programs nationwide — and why other states are trying to copy it.
From the huge recovery community to world-class sober living, here’s why so many people come here to get sober… and stay sober.
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If you love someone struggling with addiction, you probably know the constant fear of “waiting for the call.” The call that something terrible has happened. The call you’ve been dreading. In this episode, we have an honest conversation about what it’s like for parents and loved ones living with that constant anxiety.
We talk about: Why addiction creates so much fear for families
The emotional toll of “waiting for the other shoe to drop”
Practical steps you can take to regain peace and protect your own well-being
How to set boundaries without abandoning your loved one If you’re a parent, spouse, or sibling of someone battling addiction, this episode is for you.
You are not alone. There is hope.
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In today’s episode, Erik takes us through Step 8,9,10 from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
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Fentanyl is killing more people than any other drug in American history — and it’s not slowing down.
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In this episode, we break down how fentanyl became the deadliest street drug in the U.S., why it’s showing up in everything from fake pain pills to cocaine and marijuana, and what you absolutely need to know to protect yourself or your loved ones.
⚠️ One pill can kill. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
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In today’s episode, Erik takes us through Step 6,7,8 from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
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Are you married to someone struggling with alcohol?
In this episode, Abby and Marshall share their story of living with an alcoholic husband — the chaos, the heartbreak, and what it finally took to make a change. Whether you're in the middle of it or trying to heal, this conversation will give you clarity and hope.
What You’ll Learn: How alcoholism affects marriage and mental health
What boundaries actually worked
The mistake she stopped making that changed everything
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Drug addiction. Alcoholism. Prostitution. Jail. Institutions. Trauma that most people couldn't even imagine. Lorraine lived through it all. At just 24 years old, Lorraine was lost in active addiction, caught in the grip of heroin, crack cocaine, and sex trafficking. For months, she was held against her will, beaten, sold, and stripped of her humanity. She was certain she would die in that house. But by nothing short of a miracle — she escaped.
Now, after 9 years clean and sober, Lorraine is a licensed therapist helping others recover from addiction and trauma. Her story is gut-wrenching, raw, and real — but it’s also filled with hope, redemption, and healing. If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, this story will remind you that recovery is always possible, no matter how far gone it may seem.
💬 Topics We Cover: Her descent into addiction at age 12 The moment she was chained and trafficked
How her mother never gave up on her What finally led to her surrender and recovery
Why she now helps others as a therapist Her advice for families who feel hopeless
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In today’s episode, Erik takes us through INTO ACTION from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with a mother who shares what it’s really like to love someone battling addiction. She opens up about the eotions that she had to go thru, throughout this whole season of life.
Vann and Robert talk openly about how their relationship has been restored through Roberts sobriety. Together, they talk about: The early signs of alcoholism What it took to finally get help How their relationship changed through recovery Whether you're a parent, sibling, or loved one of someone struggling with addiction, this episode will hit home.
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In thgis episode we sit down with Nikki. She does into detail about her sobriety journey al what it took for her to finally get sober. Nikki talks openly about getting stuck in the South Florida Shuffle which we break down in the episode. It is an amazing story or resilience.
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In today’s episode, Erik takes us through Sex Inventory from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
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Have you ever felt completely hopeless watching someone you love spiral out of control?
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with our close friend and coworker, Shermain, who shares how he went from the streets of Memphis—deep in gang life and heroin addiction—to now celebrating over 5 years of sobriety.
Charmaine opens up about:
- Growing up in poverty and addiction
- His darkest moments alone in a hotel room
- What finally got him clean after years of relapse
- Why surrendering to the program saved his life
His story is raw, real, and proof that recovery is possible for anyone—no matter how far gone they feel.
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In this episode, Ben and I are talking about something that came up during our Family Reconnect call that really stuck with us… setting boundaries for yourself. A lot of times, families are focused on setting rules for the addict — but we don’t stop to ask: What about me? What am I doing to protect my own peace and sanity?
Here’s what we cover: Why boundaries only work when you stick to them What it really means to “love someone from afar” Why helping too much might be hurting How addiction affects the entire family, especially siblings And why failing at boundaries in the past might actually help you get it right now If you’re tired of the chaos and feel like you’re doing all the work while they keep getting high — this one’s for you.
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In today’s episode, Erik takes us through How It Works from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous Part III
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In this episode, Tom, Ben, and Dr. Tamberi talk about why weed (marijuana) is not as harmless as many people say it is—especially for young people. A lot of big influencers and celebrities are telling kids that weed is totally safe, but we don’t agree.
We’ve seen many people come into treatment because of weed, and it’s not just “no big deal.” Some struggle with serious anxiety, depression, and even scary thoughts after using weed a lot.
We talk about real stories, the science behind how weed affects the brain, and why it’s important to know the truth. If you're a parent, a teen, or just someone trying to understand what’s really going on, this episode is for you.
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In this powerful and emotional episode, we sit down with Sage, who shares her journey of trying everything to get clean and sober — from treatment centers across the country to an experience in Mexico involving ibogaine. Despite her desperate efforts, nothing seemed to work. Sage opens up about the moment she cried out to God, asking Him to just let her die — and how that moment of surrender led to real, lasting change. This episode is filled with hope, faith, and raw truth — a must-listen for anyone who has a loved one struggling with addiction.
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In today’s episode, Erik takes us through the second half of How It Works from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.
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In this episode, we sit down with our friend Destiny, who just celebrated eight years of continuous sobriety! Destiny shares her incredible journey — from the depths of addiction to a life filled with purpose, hope, and service. We talk about what it really takes to stay sober long-term, how her mindset has evolved over the years, and the ways she continues to grow in her recovery. Whether you’re brand new to sobriety or years into the journey, this conversation is packed with insight and inspiration.
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In this episode, I’m joined by Ryan Laabs and Pastor Todd Mullins, lead pastor of Christ Fellowship Church here in South Florida. Pastor Todd shares the story behind his new book Don’t Let Doubt Take You Out - and how doubt shows up in our addictions, recovery journeys, and everyday life.
We all opened up about our own experiences with self-doubt: how it creeps in, how it can pull us off track, and what it takes to break through it. Whether you’re new to sobriety, a family member trying to support a loved one, or simply someone battling your own inner doubt, this conversation will inspire you to keep moving forward.
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In today’s episode, Erik takes us through the first half of How It Works from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. This is one of the most read and quoted sections in all of AA — but do people really understand what it’s saying? Erik breaks it down line by line, shares how it applied to his own recovery, and calls out some common ways people misinterpret this chapter. If you’ve ever wondered why “rigorous honesty” is so emphasized — or if you’ve gotten hung up on words like “spiritual awakening” — this episode will give you a deeper understanding. Part 2 coming soon!
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In this episode, Tom, Ben, and Dr. Tamanini sit down for a real conversation about antidepressants. We break down common questions like: Do they really work? Should people in sobriety take them? Are they overprescribed?
Dr. Tambini brings her clinical experience to the table, and we talk openly about what we’ve seen in the addiction and recovery world when it comes to these medications. Whether you’ve taken antidepressants yourself, know someone who has, or are just curious about their role in mental health and sobriety—this is an honest conversation you won’t want to miss.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, Tom Conrad and Benjamin B. discuss the impactful history and personal influence of Alcoholics Anonymous, the significance of Men's Mental Health Month, and their own experiences with these topics.
These discussions also touch on the Family Reconnect program and their personal lives, including a humorous segment on pet care challenges.
00:00 Introduction to Today's Episode
00:04 Importance of Alcoholics Anonymous
00:18 Men's Mental Health Month
00:29 Personal Stories and Experiences
00:50 Family Reconnect Program Overview
01:20 Gratitude and Viewer Engagement
01:40 Impact of the Family Reconnect Program
02:34 Special Features of the Family Reconnect Program
07:37 Challenges in Helping Others
15:03 Celebrating 90 Years of Alcoholics Anonymous
15:50 Big Book Insights
19:21 Structure of AA and Personal Stories
30:44 Men's Mental Health and Community Support
42:54 The Role of Relationships 54:45 Closing Segment and Farewells
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In this episode, we dive deeper into We Agnostics, continuing the conversation around developing a relationship with a Power greater than ourselves. This section of the chapter challenges us to look at our past beliefs—or lack thereof—and how those ideas may have blocked us from getting sober. We break down the spiritual logic laid out in the Big Book, discuss how fear and ego can keep us stuck, and explore what it really means to be open-minded when it comes to spirituality in recovery.
Whether you’re new to the steps or revisiting them, this part of the study will help you connect the dots between willingness, faith, and the foundation for lasting sobriety.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, Tom Conrad, Benjamin B, and their guest, Josh, discuss Josh's eight-year sobriety journey. They dive into topics such as geographical change sparked by divine intervention, how life continues to challenge sobriety, and the significant impact of a spiritual journey.
00:00 Introduction of the Episode and Guests
00:21 Josh's Sobriety Journey and Key Moments
00:58 Sponsor Segment - Soberlink
02:29 Introductions Continued
03:42 Discussion on the Reality of Sobriety
14:31 Josh's Experience in Sober Living
17:42 The Importance of Community in Recovery
30:28 Impact of Helping Others in Recovery
35:23 Insights on Treatment and 12-Step Programs
41:10 Personal Reflections and Hobbies
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In this episode, we’re joined by Kevin Lanning, host of The Rise Above Podcast, who shares his powerful story of recovery after nearly a decade of battling opiate addiction. Now with 7½ years clean, Kevin opens up about what it truly took for him to achieve long-term sobriety — from hitting bottom to finding purpose through service and connection.
Kevin talks in detail about how working with others has been the driving force behind his recovery and how The Rise Above Podcast has helped him build meaningful relationships, spark honest conversations, and stay grounded in the principles of recovery.
This is a conversation about healing, purpose, and showing up for the next person in line. If you’re looking for hope and real insight into what long-term recovery looks like, don’t miss this one.
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In Week 9 of our Big Book Study, we dive into the first half of We Agnostics — one of the most pivotal and misunderstood chapters in Alcoholics Anonymous. This section speaks directly to those who struggle with the idea of a Higher Power, offering both challenge and invitation.
We break down how the Big Book addresses resistance, doubt, and past experiences with religion, and why belief doesn’t have to come all at once — or look any certain way. If you’ve ever thought, “I want recovery, but I’m not sure about all this God stuff,” this is the episode for you.
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This one’s for the person who’s stuck—tired of using, tired of lying, tired of being miserable, but terrified of what sobriety actually looks like. I’m not here to sugarcoat it. Getting clean isn’t easy. It takes grit, honesty, and a willingness to do things differently. But it’s possible. In this episode, I’m talking directly to you—the addict who knows they need to change but doesn’t know where to start. If you’ve been waiting for a sign, this is it.
You’re not broken. You’re not hopeless. But you are going to have to fight for the life you want. Let’s talk about what that fight looks like… and why it’s worth it.
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In this episode, we sit down with Kat, who opens up about what it finally took for her to get sober after years of fighting recovery. She shares how she never saw herself as someone who would walk into an AA meeting — and definitely didn’t think it would work.
But when nothing else worked, Kat made the decision to surrender. That decision changed everything. Kat talks in detail about how Alcoholics Anonymous helped her rebuild her life from the inside out. Today, she's not just sober — she's thriving, and she's passionate about giving back and helping others find the same freedom she did. If you’re on the fence about recovery — or love someone who is — this one’s for you.
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In this episode, we continue our deep dive into the Big Book with Part Two of “More About Alcoholism.” This section pulls no punches — it lays out what makes us different from the “average drinker,” and why self-knowledge, willpower, and good intentions just aren’t enough to stay sober.
We break down the powerful stories in this chapter that show just how cunning, baffling, and powerful alcoholism really is — especially when we start thinking we have it all under control. We also talk about the emotional and mental obsession that keeps alcoholics trapped in the cycle, even when they know the consequences.
Whether you’re working the steps, revisiting the Big Book, or supporting someone in recovery, this episode is packed with truth, perspective, and reminders of why surrender is the beginning — not the end.
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In today’s episode, we open by talking about the latest news surrounding Britney Spears — not to add to the media frenzy, but to reflect on the heartbreaking reality that unfolds when someone you love is in emotional or mental crisis. Her public struggles mirror what so many families quietly go through when a loved one is battling addiction or mental health issues behind closed doors.
That sparks a deeper question we explore in this episode: How do family members measure progress in their own lives, even when their addicted loved one is still in chaos? We shift the focus away from trying to “fix” the addict, and instead talk directly to the family member who’s exhausted, confused, and wondering if anything they’re doing is actually helping. We offer real tools — boundary-setting, emotional detachment, accountability, and mindset shifts — to help you start regaining your peace, your power, and your sanity. Whether your loved one is still using, in treatment, or you’re just trying to hold it together — this episode will give you a new lens and a plan you can start using today.
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In this episode, we sit down with Kat, who opens up about what it finally took for her to get sober after years of fighting recovery. She shares how she never saw herself as someone who would walk into an AA meeting — and definitely didn’t think it would work.
But when nothing else worked, Kat made the decision to surrender. That decision changed everything. Kat talks in detail about how Alcoholics Anonymous helped her rebuild her life from the inside out. Today, she's not just sober — she's thriving, and she's passionate about giving back and helping others find the same freedom she did. If you’re on the fence about recovery — or love someone who is — this one’s for you.
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In this episode, we dive into Part One of “More About Alcoholism” from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. This chapter hits hard — it forces us to confront the delusion that so many of us hold onto: that somehow, someday, we’ll be able to control and enjoy our drinking.
We break down the stories and examples laid out in this section, and we talk honestly about how dangerous that kind of thinking can be. If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe this time it’ll be different…” — this one’s for you. Whether you’re in recovery, just starting your journey, or supporting someone who’s struggling, this chapter brings powerful clarity.
Part two is coming soon — but for now, we dig into what makes this section so real, so relatable, and so necessary.
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In this episode, Tom and Steve react to Chrissy Teigen’s recent announcement that she started drinking again after a period of sobriety. This sparks a bigger conversation: why do people relapse — even when life looks “good” on the outside? We break down some of the most common reasons people pick up again, including emotional triggers, social pressure, unresolved trauma, and lack of support.
Whether you’re in recovery or supporting someone who is, this episode is a real look at what can lead someone back to the bottle — and how to prevent it.
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In this episode, we dive into the idea of "sponsor families" — you’ve probably heard someone say, “My sponsor’s sponsor was sponsored by so-and-so,” almost like a sobriety family tree. But is that even a real thing? Or is it something we made up to feel more important in the rooms?
We talk about where the concept might have come from, why some people cling to the lineage of their sponsorship like a badge of honor, and whether this creates more division than unity. At the end of the day, we all date back to Bill Wilson — so is the whole sponsor-family vibe helpful or just ego in disguise? Tune in for a thought-provoking, honest conversation with a little humor mixed in.
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In this episode, we continue breaking down one of the most impactful chapters in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous — There Is a Solution. This time, we dive into the second half of the chapter, where the Big Book gets into what the real solution actually is.
We talk about the idea of spiritual experience, the power of the fellowship, and the critical role that working with others plays in long-term recovery. This isn’t about quick fixes — it’s about a complete shift in how we live and connect with the world around us. Whether you’re brand new to recovery or years in, the second half of this chapter offers depth, direction, and clarity that can re-center your entire program.
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In this episode, we’re joined by Dr. Labor — a medical doctor who also happens to be in long-term recovery from drug addiction. Her story is powerful: from the outside, she had it all together — a successful career in medicine — but behind the scenes, addiction was slowly taking over her life.
Today, she not only shares her personal experience getting sober but also helps us understand why addiction is so misunderstood — especially by those who have never experienced it. Dr. Labor breaks down the brain chemistry behind addiction in a way that’s easy to follow and incredibly eye-opening.
We talk about how the reward system gets hijacked, what happens neurologically when someone tries to quit, and why the common advice to “just stop” doesn’t work for alcoholics and addicts. She offers both personal insight and professional knowledge, helping bridge the gap between science and lived experience. This episode is for anyone trying to make sense of addiction — whether it’s your own, a loved one’s, or someone you’re trying to help.
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In this episode, we sit down with Brian, who shares his powerful journey through nearly four years of sobriety. Brian opens up about the brutal depths his addiction took him, and what it finally took for him to get clean.
But his story takes a turn — even after spending a full year in treatment, he relapsed almost immediately upon leaving. Why? That’s what we dig into. Brian reflects on his lack of willingness during that time and the truth he wasn’t ready to face.
Joining us is Nicole, who was Brian’s therapist during his original treatment stay back in 2017. She offers insight into what might have been missing, the patterns she saw, and why sometimes relapse is part of the journey — not the end of it.
This is a real, honest look at what recovery really takes, and why simply being in treatment isn’t enough if you’re not willing to do the inner work.
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In this episode, Eric picks up where we left off with the second half of Bill’s Story from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. This part dives deeper into Bill’s spiritual awakening, the critical moments that led to lasting sobriety, and how his experience laid the foundation for what would become the AA program.
Eric walks us through the powerful shift that took place once Bill fully surrendered—highlighting the principles, the pain, and ultimately the peace that came from choosing recovery. Whether you’re just getting started or have been sober for years, this episode brings fresh perspective and clarity to one of the most transformational stories in recovery.
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In this episode, we dive into all those one-liners and slogans you hear tossed around in and outside of 12-step rooms — from “One Day at a Time” to “Let Go and Let God” to “Fake It Till You Make It.” Some of them carry real depth and meaning… others?
Not so much. We talk about which ones have actually helped us in our sobriety, which ones we think are overused or misunderstood, and how sometimes people repeat them without really knowing what they mean. It’s a lighthearted convo about the clichés, the classics, and the ones that make us roll our eyes. Whether you love them or love to hate them, this episode is for you.
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In this episode, we’re joined by Brave—someone who not only got clean and sober but has dedicated his life to helping others do the same. Brave walks us through his personal recovery journey, what it took to finally surrender, and how he rebuilt his life one day at a time. But his story doesn’t stop with his own sobriety.
Brave is now deeply involved in the substance abuse field, working hands-on with those still struggling. He shares the realities he sees in communities hit hardest by addiction and talks candidly about the gaps in support, the barriers people face, and what truly makes a difference. This is a raw, honest, and inspiring conversation that sheds light on both the personal and systemic sides of addiction—and what it takes to create real change.
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In this episode, Eric picks up where we left off with the second half of Bill’s Story from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. This part dives deeper into Bill’s spiritual awakening, the critical moments that led to lasting sobriety, and how his experience laid the foundation for what would become the AA program.
Eric walks us through the powerful shift that took place once Bill fully surrendered—highlighting the principles, the pain, and ultimately the peace that came from choosing recovery. Whether you’re just getting started or have been sober for years, this episode brings fresh perspective and clarity to one of the most transformational stories in recovery.
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In this powerful episode, we’re joined by Craig, a successful attorney who opens up about his personal battle with addiction and how he found lasting sobriety. Craig shares the highs and lows of his journey—from struggling in silence while practicing law to finally hitting rock bottom and seeking help.
But his story doesn’t stop there. Today, Craig uses his recovery and legal background to help families take action when a loved one is caught in the grips of addiction. He specializes in using the Marchman Act and other legal tools to guide families through the complex process of getting someone into treatment—even when they’re resistant or in denial.
Craig breaks down how the legal system can be used as a pathway to healing, not punishment. If you're a parent, sibling, or loved one feeling stuck and unsure of what to do next, this episode offers hope, guidance, and practical next steps.
🖥️ Learn more about Craig’s work at www.wevebeenthere.com
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In today’s episode, we sit down with Kaitlyn, better known on Instagram as @soberasamotherfocused. Kaitlyn opens up about what her life has looked like over the last 2.5 years of sobriety — the wins, the struggles, and everything in between. She shares how working a 12-step program completely changed her life, but also reminds us that sobriety isn’t a magic shield from life’s challenges.
Hard stuff still happens — grief, stress, loss, everyday chaos — but now she faces it with a completely different mindset and a strong recovery foundation. We talk about the real work it takes to stay sober when life gets messy, how motherhood plays into her journey, and why it’s so important to stay plugged into a recovery community.
This is a raw and honest conversation about what real sobriety looks like once the pink cloud fades. If you’re early in recovery or just need a reminder that tough days don’t mean you’re doing it wrong, this one’s for you.
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In this episode, Erik takes us deep into Bill's Story from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. From the man himself, Bill is one of the founders of alcoholics anonymous.
👉 Whether you’re new to AA or have been around for years, this is a fresh look at a section that often gets overlooked.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we’re talking about something that a lot of people overlook when it comes to addiction: anxiety. Anxiety isn’t just a side effect—it can actually be the root cause of why many people start using in the first place. Whether it’s panic attacks, social anxiety, constant overthinking, or just that feeling like something bad is always about to happen… anxiety can push people straight into the arms of drugs, alcohol, or other unhealthy coping mechanisms.
We discuss:
🔹 How anxiety shows up in early sobriety
🔹 Why untreated anxiety leads to relapse
🔹 What we’ve seen with clients struggling with both
🔹 Real tools and strategies to cope—without turning back to substances
We also reference real-life stories (our own and others') that show how powerful it is to face anxiety head-on—because until we deal with the anxiety, sobriety is always going to feel like a battle.
👉 If you or someone you love deals with anxiety and addiction, this episode will give you clarity and direction.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we dive into the age-old debate—is it actually healthy to have a couple drinks at night? We’re not talking to the alcoholics here—we’re talking to the everyday folks who wind down with a glass of wine or two after work.
We break down what the research says about alcohol and your health, and we reference a recent article where Joe Rogan opens up about his decision to stop drinking altogether—not because of addiction, but because of the potential long-term health consequences. From sleep disruption and gut issues to increased cancer risk and mental fog, we cover it all. Is the occasional drink really harmless? Or are we just ignoring the warning signs because it’s normalized?
Tune in to find out what we learned—and what you might want to consider before pouring your next glass. 👉 Whether you're sober curious or just health conscious, this one’s for you.
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In this episode, Erik takes us deep into The Doctor’s Opinion from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. If you’ve ever wondered why alcoholics can’t just stop or what’s really going on beneath the surface of addiction, this chapter lays the foundation.
We break down the concept of the allergy of the body and obsession of the mind, and why understanding this is absolutely critical for recovery.
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In this video, we break down everything you need to know about our brand new Family Reconnect Program, officially launching on June 3rd. This program is designed specifically for families who have a loved one struggling with addiction — whether they’re in treatment, thinking about getting help, or still in active use. We discuss how the program works, what’s included, and why we created it in the first place.
We cover:
✅ Weekly coaching sessions
✅ Step-by-step education on addiction
✅ Tools for setting boundaries
✅ Support for navigating tough conversations
✅ And how families can finally find healing too — not just the addict.
If you’ve ever felt helpless, frustrated, or unsure of what to do… this program was made for you.
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In this powerful episode, we sit down with Prema — a mother who shares the heartbreaking story of losing her 20-year-old son to fentanyl poisoning. Prema opens up about the unimaginable pain of that loss and what it’s been like navigating life in the aftermath.
She talks about the deep grief, the healing process, and how this tragedy has transformed her from the inside out. Prema also shares how she’s now using her experience to serve others by hosting healing retreats at her home in Sweden — creating a space for people to come together, reflect, and find peace.
This episode is a raw, emotional, and inspiring look at how one mother found a way to honor her son’s life by helping others find hope through their own pain.
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In this episode, we sit down with Mark — the very first recipient of our scholarship through our partnership with the Mindpump Podcast. Mark shares what life has looked like over the last 7 ½ months as he’s fully leaned into his recovery journey.
We talk about what ultimately led him to taking that leap of faith, what he’s learned about himself throughout the process, and how doing the work has completely transformed his life.
Mark also shares his next big move — making Florida his permanent home — and what his future looks like now that sobriety has given him a second chance at life.
This is a powerful story of willingness, growth, and what happens when you finally surrender and do the work.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we’re getting honest about something we see all the time—families losing faith in the treatment process. Whether it’s due to relapse, lack of communication, or just feeling like nothing’s working, it’s incredibly common for loved ones to feel burned out, discouraged, and ready to give up. We break down the five biggest reasons this happens, including:
Why relapse can feel like treatment failed
How unrealistic expectations create disappointment
The disconnect families feel when they’re left out of the process
The weight of broken promises and emotional exhaustion
And the powerful truth that healing has to happen on both sides
We also talk about how families can begin to rebuild trust in the process, and why support, education, and community are crucial not just for the person in treatment—but for the family as well. If you’re tired, confused, or losing hope, this episode will remind you that recovery is still possible—and you don’t have to walk it alone.
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In this deeply moving episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Tiffany Owen, author of Wounded to Warrior, to hear her raw and powerful story of transformation.
Tiffany opens up about her darkest moments—multiple suicide attempts, the hopelessness she felt in active addiction, and what it finally took for her to surrender and get sober. Her story is one of pain, but also of resilience, redemption, and radical change.
Today, Tiffany is living a life with purpose. She has created a powerful program that helps others become the best version of themselves, using the same tools and mindset shifts that helped her rebuild from the ground up. She’s a coach, a speaker, and an example of what’s possible when we stop running and start healing.
This is an episode for anyone who’s ever felt broken beyond repair—or has a loved one who has. Tiffany’s message is clear: you are not your past, and there is always hope.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Fausto—better known online as Not Your Average Counselor. Fausto shares his powerful sobriety journey and how he turned some of life’s biggest challenges into fuel for something much greater.
After getting sober, Fausto made it his life mission to help others heal—offering therapy and mental health support for free. Yep, free. His passion for service and his ability to connect with people on a real, raw level has helped him impact thousands of lives across California and beyond.
We talk about how Fausto found purpose through pain, why accessibility in mental health care matters, and how he’s using his platform to change the game. Whether you’re early in recovery, thinking about getting clean, or just looking for some serious inspiration—this episode is for you.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we dive deep into the Fourth Step of Alcoholics Anonymous—the personal moral inventory—and why the spirit behind this step is just as important as the words on the page.
Too often, this crucial step gets misunderstood or misused. We talk about how some sponsors—without meaning to—slip into the role of therapist, crossing lines that can actually hurt more than help. We unpack why this step is not about blame or shame, but rather about truth, clarity, and freedom.
We also discuss the importance of working the 12 steps with someone who truly understands the spiritual foundation of the program, not just someone going through the motions. Over the last 50+ years, the 12-step world has changed—and in some ways, the original message has gotten diluted. We get honest about what’s working, what isn’t, and how to get back to the basics that actually lead to long-term sobriety.
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If you’re in recovery, working with a sponsor, or even sponsoring someone yourself—this episode will challenge you to go deeper and get real about what this step is all about.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, Tom and Eric sit down to explore a topic that often gets overlooked in early sobriety: gratitude—not just for the good days, but for the tough ones too.
We kick off the conversation with a powerful question from someone inside our Sobriety Network Facebook group: “How do I stay grateful when everything feels hard?” That sparks a raw, honest discussion about how the path of sobriety isn't always sunshine and serenity—but how the struggles, setbacks, and emotional lows are often the moments that shape us the most.
We talk about how easy it is to drift into frustration or comparison as time goes on in recovery, and how important it is to shift our mindset back to gratitude—gratitude for growth, for clarity, for peace of mind, and even for the hardships that teach us who we really are.
Eric and Tom share personal stories of times when sobriety felt like a grind, and how pushing through those seasons actually deepened their appreciation for the life they’ve built in recovery. We also reflect on how gratitude isn't something that just shows up—it’s something we cultivate through practice, service, and perspective.
If you’re in a season where sobriety feels heavy, or you’re just looking for some encouragement to help you keep showing up, this one’s for you.
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In this episode, we sit down with Adam Nimoy — filmmaker, author, and son of the legendary Leonard Nimoy, best known as Spock from Star Trek. Adam opens up about what it was like growing up in the shadow of fame, the challenges within his relationship with his father, and how addiction shaped so much of that dynamic.
But this isn’t just a story about struggle — it’s about healing. Adam shares how working a 12-step program not only changed his life, but ultimately helped repair the relationship with his dad after years of distance and dysfunction.
With over 21 years sober, Adam talks about what’s kept him grounded, what recovery looks like today, and why the spiritual principles of the program still guide him every day. This conversation is honest, inspiring, and a reminder that it’s never too late to change — and never too late to reconnect.
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In this episode, we’re hanging out with Brad Compton, who shares his story of addiction, how far it took him down, and what it took to finally turn things around. Brad gets real about the role a 12-step program played in his recovery and how leaning into his spirituality completely changed his life.
Today, he’s celebrating 11 years clean and sober, and he’s using his experience to help others. Brad now works with Family First, an amazing adolescent program that supports teens (ages 12–17) who are struggling with addiction.
His passion for helping young people and their families is powerful — and it all stems from the life he’s lived and the freedom he’s found in recovery. If you’re looking for a story full of honesty, hope, and what’s possible when you surrender and do the work, this one’s for you.
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Chat with us! https://www.realrecoverytalk.com/services In this episode, we’re joined by Dr. Sam Zand, founder of Anywhere Clinic, to talk about the evolving landscape of addiction treatment. Dr. Zand shares what he’s learned over the years working with substance abuse patients and what truly makes a difference in their recovery journey.
We dive into some of the cutting-edge treatments that are starting to gain traction in the mental health and addiction world, and we also take a hard look at where modern medicine has missed the mark—especially when it comes to truly healing the whole person.
If you’re curious about what’s next in addiction recovery, what needs to change in how we treat it, and how we can bridge the gap between science and compassion, this is a conversation you don’t want to miss.
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In this heartfelt episode, we sit down with Laura, a mother who opens up about her son’s battle with addiction and how it’s impacted her life. She shares the emotional highs and lows of watching her son struggle, and the overwhelming sense of gratitude she feels now that he’s finally entered treatment.
Laura talks about how, despite having no prior experience with addiction, she’s learning to lean on faith—and truly believes that God has aligned every step of this journey for the better. She also shares the honest truth about her fears, her uncertainties, and how she’s choosing to stay hopeful as her son begins his path to recovery.
This episode is for any parent navigating the chaos of a loved one’s addiction. Laura’s story is a powerful reminder that even in the darkest moments, there’s still room for hope.
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In this episode, we dive into the subtle but dangerous ways people sabotage their recovery by trying to find loopholes—justifying behaviors, bending the rules, or searching for “safe” ways to still get high without calling it a relapse.
We talk about what it looks like when someone isn’t truly solid in their sobriety, and how setting unrealistic expectations for themselves—like needing to be perfectly healed or have everything figured out—can set them up for disappointment and, ultimately, relapse.
We also discuss the topic of hidden reservations—those quiet little “what ifs” in the back of someone’s mind. “If it gets too hard, I can always use.” Often, these reservations aren’t obvious to the people around them, but they’re dangerous and real.
Finally, we break down why it’s so important to build a strong foundation in early sobriety, and how having a clear reason—and desire—to stay sober is what truly makes the difference. If you’ve ever struggled with being half-in or noticed someone you care about slipping without fully falling, this episode is for you.
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In this episode, we’re joined by Jared, who shares a raw and honest look at what it really took for him to get clean and sober. Jared opens up about the darkest parts of his addiction—the chaos, the desperation, and the extreme lengths he would go to just to get his next fix. But he didn’t stay stuck there.
Jared walks us through the turning point in his life, what finally pushed him to seek help, and how his recovery has transformed not just his sobriety, but his outlook on life. This is a powerful conversation about what happens when you hit bottom—and what’s possible when you decide you’re done digging.
If you’re looking for hope, truth, and a reminder that recovery is possible no matter how far gone you feel, this episode is for you.
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In this episode, we talk directly to parents and loved ones who are sending their adult child off to treatment. It’s one of the hardest things to do—trusting someone else with your child’s recovery. But as tough as it is, learning when to lean in and when to step back can make all the difference.
We dive into how much involvement is actually helpful, and where well-meaning actions can cross into being overly controlling. We also cover the common pitfalls parents face during this process—like micromanaging treatment or trying to emotionally buffer every consequence.
We explain why it’s so important to let the professionals do what they’re trained to do, while still staying supportive in a healthy, balanced way. If you’ve ever struggled with how to support your loved one without getting in the way of their recovery, this episode is for you.
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In this episode, I sit down with Ben and Eric to talk about one of the most powerful—and often misunderstood—parts of getting clean and sober: the amends process. We break down why making amends is such a crucial part of recovery, how it helps us repair the damage we’ve done, and what it actually looks like when done the right way.
But we also talk about the flip side—why making amends too early can do more harm than good. A lot of people want to rush into it with two weeks sober, thinking it’ll fix everything, but the truth is, timing matters. There’s a reason the amends process comes after working the previous steps.
Whether you’re new to recovery or have been walking this path for a while, this episode is full of real insight on what to do—and what not to do—when it comes to repairing relationships and moving forward in your sobriety.
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In this episode, we reconnect with Brian, who first joined us back on episode 361 while he was enrolled in our treatment program. Today, Brian is 14 months sober and has since transitioned back home to Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.
He shares in detail what that transition was like—the challenges he faced, the emotional and environmental hurdles he had to overcome, and what he did to stay grounded in his recovery. Brian opens up about the habits, mindset shifts, and support systems that have helped him maintain sobriety over the past year.
This episode is full of real talk about life after treatment and what it takes to keep going when the structure of treatment is no longer there. If you’re wondering what long-term recovery looks like after the program ends, this is one you don’t want to miss.
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In this episode, we explore a topic that holds incredible weight in recovery—forgiveness. We’re joined by two guests who’ve done extensive research on how forgiveness impacts not just our emotional health, but our overall well-being, especially in sobriety. We dive into the science behind forgiveness—how holding onto resentment, guilt, and shame can keep us stuck, and how choosing to forgive (ourselves and others) can actually lead to measurable improvements in mental, physical, and spiritual health.
Our guests share real-life examples and research-backed insights that show how forgiveness plays a critical role in long-term recovery. Whether you’re early in your sobriety or years into it, this episode offers tools and perspective to help you let go of what’s been holding you back—so you can truly move forward.
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One of the biggest things that keeps recovering addicts and alcoholics stuck in the cycle of relapse and self-destruction is victim mentality. It’s that mindset of "Life is out to get me," "No one understands what I’ve been through," or "I can’t succeed because of my past." In this episode, we’re digging deep into: What victim mentality looks like in recovery – the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways it creeps in.
Why this mindset is dangerous – how it leads to resentment, isolation, and relapse. How to shift from self-pity to accountability – practical steps to take control of your sobriety. Why service work and gratitude are the ultimate antidotes to victim thinking. We also discuss how family members, sponsors, and recovery communities can help someone recognize when they’re stuck in a victim mindset—without enabling their excuses.
At the end of the day, your recovery is YOUR responsibility. No one is coming to save you, but the good news is—you don’t need saving. You just need to take action. If you’re ready to move from blaming to thriving, this episode is for you!
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Relapse doesn’t happen overnight—it starts long before someone picks up a drink or a drug. In this episode, we’re breaking down the three biggest warning signs of relapse so you can recognize them early and take action before things spiral out of control.
We will cover:
Emotional relapse – When someone starts isolating, bottling up emotions, and neglecting self-care.
Mental relapse – The dangerous inner battle of cravings, romanticizing the past, and rationalizing use.
Behavioral relapse – The shift in actions, avoiding accountability, and making reckless choices.
Whether you're in recovery or supporting a loved one, knowing these warning signs could be the difference between staying sober and falling back into addiction. Tune in to learn how to catch relapse before it happens and what steps you can take right now to prevent it.
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On this episode, we sit down with Ian Fee, who shares his powerful story of getting sober and what ultimately led him to make the change seven years ago. But Ian’s path to sobriety wasn’t the traditional route—he opens up about the unconventional way he got sober and how it shaped his journey in recovery.
We dive into what’s worked for him, the challenges he’s faced, and the lessons he’s learned along the way. Whether you’re new to sobriety or have been on this journey for a while, Ian’s story is proof that there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to getting clean—but there is always hope. Tune in for an inspiring conversation!
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On this episode, we sit down with Andrew “Ace” Greenspan, who opens up about his sobriety journey over the past nine months and what ultimately led him to make this life-changing decision. Diagnosed with autism at 18, Andrew shares how that impacted his addiction and the unique challenges he faced along the way.
He also talks in detail about the serious health consequences he suffered due to his substance use and how he’s working to rebuild his life. But what truly stands out in Andrew’s story is his deep connection to music—he explains how it has shaped his recovery and how he’s using his musical talents to inspire and impact the recovery community.
This is a powerful conversation about resilience, self-discovery, and the role that creativity plays in healing. Don’t miss it!
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Struggling to quit drinking but can’t go to treatment? In this episode, we discuss the exact strategies we’d use to stop drinking while living at home.
From building a solid support system to reshaping daily habits, we break down practical, real-world steps to help you take control of your sobriety. Whether you’re cutting back or quitting for good, these tips can help you on your journey. Let us know your thoughts in the comments!
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Not all alcoholics fit the stereotype of someone whose life is falling apart. In this episode, we dive into the reality of functional alcoholism—what it looks like, how it goes unnoticed, and why it’s still a serious problem. We break down the key signs of a functional alcoholic, including:
✔️ Justifying or downplaying their drinking habits
✔️ Hiding alcohol or lying about how much they drink
✔️ Experiencing mood swings and irritability when they can’t drink
✔️ Using alcohol as a way to cope with stress or emotions
✔️ Gradually increasing their alcohol consumption over time
For family members and loved ones, we discuss how to recognize the warning signs and the best ways to approach someone who may be struggling. Just because someone holds a job or keeps up appearances doesn’t mean they’re not battling addiction. If you’ve ever questioned whether someone you love (or even yourself) might be a functional alcoholic, this episode will help bring clarity and guidance. Don’t miss it!
One of the hardest realities of addiction is watching someone prioritize drugs or alcohol over the people who love them the most. In this episode, we dive into why addiction takes control, making it seem like someone is choosing substances over their family, even when deep down, they don’t want to.
If you’ve ever struggled to understand why your loved one keeps using despite everything at stake, this episode will give you insight into the painful reality of addiction—and how real recovery is possible.
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On this episode, we sit down with Robert, who opens up about his journey through sobriety, the tough lessons he learned, and the reality of relapse. After completing treatment, Robert made the decision to go home early—something he now realizes was a mistake. Without the right foundation and support, he found himself slipping back into old patterns, leading to a relapse that he never saw coming.
But instead of letting that setback define him, Robert used it as a wake-up call. He shares why leaving treatment too soon wasn’t the right move, how relapse reshaped his perspective on recovery, and what he’s doing now to ensure he doesn’t make the same mistakes again. He dives deep into the sacrifices he’s making to put his sobriety first and the mindset shift that’s keeping him on track.
If you’ve ever struggled with the fear of relapse or wondered what it really takes to stay sober long-term, this episode is for you. Robert’s story is a raw, honest reminder that sometimes we have to fall to truly understand what it means to rise. Don’t miss it!
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In this deeply moving episode, Maria shares the traumatic experience of losing her mother to suicide at just 13 years old and the lasting impact it had on her life. She opens up about how that loss shaped her path, the struggles she faced, and how she ultimately chose to use her pain as motivation to create something meaningful—a nonprofit foundation dedicated to making a difference.
Maria talks in depth about her relationship with God and how faith has been the cornerstone of her healing journey. She also shares her experience as a mother of two and her determination to break the cycle, ensuring that she doesn’t follow in the same footsteps as her mother. This is a powerful conversation about resilience, faith, and turning trauma into purpose. Don’t miss it!
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Getting sober is one thing—staying sober for the long haul is another. In this episode, we break down five essential tips that will help you build a solid foundation for lasting sobriety. These are the same principles that have helped countless people stay clean and continue growing in their recovery.
Whether you're new to sobriety or years into recovery, these five tips will help you maintain momentum, avoid pitfalls, and continue growing into the best version of yourself. Tune in and let’s talk about what it really takes to ensure long-term sobriety!
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If you’re skipping meetings, avoiding your sponsor, and feeling stuck in a cycle of depression, you’re not alone. This is something that happens to so many people in recovery, but the good news is—you don’t have to stay stuck.
In this video, we break down why this happens, how to recognize the warning signs, and steps you can take right now to get back on track. We’ll talk about simple but effective ways to rebuild momentum, reconnect with your support system, and start feeling better—without overwhelming yourself.
Recovery isn’t just about putting down substances; it’s about learning how to push through tough times without isolating. If you’re feeling lost, disconnected, or just not yourself, this video is for you. You are not alone, and there is a way out.
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On today’s episode, we sit down with Amber Hollingsworth, the founder and CEO of Put the Shovel Down, a YouTube channel with nearly 800,000 subscribers helping families understand addiction and recovery.
Amber breaks down the importance of the family dynamic when it comes to addiction—how families can support their loved ones without enabling and what they can do to actually help. We get into why having the right people in your corner is critical when things get tough, and we go over real, practical strategies families can use to encourage their loved ones to get the help they need.
Toward the end, we touch on Soberlink, a tool that can be a game-changer for accountability in early sobriety. If you’ve ever struggled with how to handle addiction in your family, this is an episode you don’t want to miss!
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In this episode, we sit down with Eric from Synergy Sobriety Solutions to hear his powerful story of addiction, incarceration, and ultimately finding recovery. Eric opens up about his time in federal prison, his attempts to beat the system while on parole, and what it finally took for him to get clean and sober.
He shares how moving to Florida and living in a sober living environment introduced him to addiction treatment—an experience that completely changed his life. Now, Eric spends his days working with addicts and alcoholics, helping them find the same freedom he did. His journey is a testament to the power of second chances and the importance of giving back. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience, redemption, and the impact of recovery.
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In this episode, we sit down with Eric, Ben, and Dr. Tambini to dive into a hot topic in the recovery world—talking about drugs inside Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). Some people in AA believe discussions should strictly focus on alcohol, while others recognize that addiction, in any form, is part of the same struggle.
We break down why this debate exists, why some people are against mentioning drugs in AA meetings, and ultimately, why it shouldn’t matter. At the end of the day, recovery is about honesty, connection, and finding a solution—no matter what substance was involved. Tune in for a real, unfiltered conversation about inclusivity in the recovery community.
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In this episode, we sit down with Tom, who shares a deeply personal and powerful story about handling life’s toughest moments while staying committed to sobriety. Tom opens up about receiving the life-changing news that his 7-year-old daughter was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes. He talks in detail about how he processed this news, the emotions that came with it, and most importantly, how he stayed grounded in his recovery.
Tom shares the steps he took to ensure he could show up for his family in the best way possible—without turning to old coping mechanisms. This conversation is a reminder that sobriety isn’t just about avoiding substances; it’s about learning how to navigate life’s challenges with clarity, strength, and service. Don’t miss this inspiring episode!
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk we delve into the essential questions you need to ask when looking for a treatment center for drug and alcohol addiction.
Navigating the multitude of options available can be overwhelming, but asking the right questions can help ensure you or your loved one receives the best possible care.
We'll cover: Accreditation and Licensing: Why it's crucial to choose a facility that is properly accredited and licensed. We'll explain the different types of accreditation and what they signify.
Treatment Approaches: Understanding the various treatment modalities available, from inpatient and outpatient programs to holistic and traditional therapies. We'll discuss how to determine which approach aligns best with your needs.
Staff Qualifications: The importance of qualified and experienced staff. Learn what qualifications and experience you should look for in doctors, therapists, and support staff.
Facility Amenities and Environment: The role of a comfortable and supportive environment in the recovery process. We'll discuss what to look for in terms of living conditions, recreational activities, and overall atmosphere.
Aftercare Support: The significance of aftercare programs in maintaining long-term sobriety. Learn what kinds of aftercare services are offered and how they can help prevent relapse.
Family Involvement: The role of family in the recovery process and the types of family support programs available.
Join us as we equip you with the knowledge to make informed decisions and choose a treatment center that offers the best chance for a successful recovery. Tune in for expert insights, personal stories, and actionable advice to guide you on your journey to sobriety.
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In this episode, Steve and Maya join us to explore the vital role that family plays in the recovery process. At Rock Recovery Center, the family program is designed to not only support the individual in treatment but also to help families heal and rebuild together.
Steve and Maya dive deep into how addiction impacts family dynamics and the different roles family members often play—whether as enablers, supporters, or bystanders. They explain how the program helps families better understand addiction, set healthy boundaries, and become a positive force in their loved one’s recovery journey.
If you’re supporting someone in recovery or looking to understand how family involvement can transform the healing process, this episode is packed with insights and actionable advice. Don’t miss this heartfelt discussion about the power of family and the impact it can have on lasting sobriety.
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In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Tamanini as we dive into an often-overlooked aspect of recovery: the importance of exercise and proper nutrition. While many people think sobriety is just about putting down drugs and alcohol, we explore why true recovery involves so much more. We discuss how physical health impacts mental clarity, emotional stability, and long-term sobriety.
Dr. Tamanini shares practical tips for incorporating fitness and healthy eating into your daily routine, even if you’re just starting out. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to build a strong foundation for lasting recovery. Tune in to learn how taking care of your body can transform your journey to sobriety!
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In this inspiring episode, we’re joined by sisters Natalie and Valerie, who share their powerful story of getting clean and sober. Natalie opens up about the moment she knew she had to intervene in her sister’s life to help her get the treatment she desperately needed.
Together, they discuss how their recovery journey has transformed not only their own lives but also the lives of their entire family. Now, as co-owners of a detox center in Port Charlotte, Florida, Natalie and Valerie are dedicated to giving back to their community and helping others find hope and healing. Their story is one of love, resilience, and the incredible power of family. Don’t miss this heartfelt conversation!
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In this powerful episode, we’re joined by Johnny, who shares his incredible journey of sobriety. Johnny takes us back to his years serving as a United States Marine, opening up about the challenges he faced and how his addiction persisted even during his time in the military.
Johnny dives into what it finally took for him to get sober and how his life has transformed since then. Now, he dedicates much of his time to giving back to the recovery community, with a special focus on helping veterans who are struggling with substance abuse issues. Johnny’s story is one of resilience, service, and hope—a must-listen for anyone in recovery or supporting someone on their journey. Don’t miss it!
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In this episode, we’re joined by Derek, who shares his inspiring story of sobriety and the journey that brought him to where he is today. Originally from Massachusetts, Derek owned and operated numerous sober living homes before recently transitioning to Florida, feeling a strong calling to continue his work here. Derek opens up about the life circumstances he faced because of his addiction and the lessons he’s learned along the way.
We dive into the topic of relationships in early sobriety—whether they help or hinder recovery—and why navigating them carefully is so important. Derek also sheds light on the role sober living homes play in helping individuals build a solid foundation for long-term recovery. This episode is packed with insight and advice for anyone looking to better understand the path to a sober and fulfilling life. Don’t miss it!
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In this powerful episode, we sit down with Pat, who opens up about her experience navigating her son’s addiction. Pat shares the heart-wrenching challenges her son put her through and the difficult steps she had to take to cope and move forward.
She talks in detail about her struggles with trying to fix him and the pivotal moment when she realized that she couldn’t. Pat’s story offers a raw and honest perspective on the impact of addiction on families and the importance of setting boundaries and focusing on personal healing. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking insight, hope, and understanding in the face of a loved one’s addiction.
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In this episode, we’re joined by David, the Aquatics Director of Stoked on Life, a non-profit organization dedicated to helping people heal through the transformative power of surf therapy. David shares how the ocean and surfing create a unique space for mental, emotional, and physical healing.
We dive into the impact of surf therapy, how Stoked on Life is making a difference in the lives of those in recovery or struggling with life’s challenges, and why connecting with nature can be such a powerful tool for growth. Whether you’re a surfer or not, this episode will leave you inspired by the incredible healing potential of the waves. Don’t miss it!
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In this episode, we’re joined by Colin, who shares how he’s stayed sober for three years without being deeply involved in Alcoholics Anonymous. Colin’s approach to recovery is all about staying busy and filling his days with purpose.
He talks about his journey through completing a master’s degree and his plans to possibly pursue a second one, showing how education and personal growth have played a key role in his sobriety. Colin also dives into the importance of physical fitness and proper nutrition as tools for staying clear-headed and focused.
If you’ve ever wondered what alternative paths to sobriety can look like or need inspiration for building structure in your life, this episode is packed with practical tips and motivating insights. Don’t miss it!
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In this episode, we sit down with Ramsey, who opens up about her powerful story of growing up in Miami and how her environment played a role in her descent into severe alcoholism. Ramsey shares what it was like navigating life in Miami, the struggles that led her to rock bottom, and what it ultimately took for her to get sober.
She also talks candidly about her battle with an eating disorder, how it impacted her life for years, and the journey that has brought her to nearly nine years in recovery. Ramsey highlights the critical role that having strong women in her life has played in her sobriety and how working a 12-step program for the past three years has been a transformative experience. This episode is packed with raw honesty, hope, and practical insights for anyone on the path to recovery. Don’t miss it!
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In this episode, we dive into some key questions about the 12-step journey. We discuss the value of family members getting involved in a 12-step program and the role of Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) in helping families heal. Can working the 12 steps repeatedly continue to provide value, or is there a point where the returns diminish?
We explore whether it makes sense to keep revisiting the steps and how they can evolve over time depending on where you are in your recovery journey. This is a thought-provoking conversation for anyone curious about maximizing the impact of the 12 steps while keeping recovery balanced and meaningful. Tune in to get some clarity and perspective!
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In this episode, we tackle a topic that comes up a lot: the objections people have to working an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) program. Whether it’s skepticism about the steps, discomfort with the concept of a higher power, or resistance to group settings, we address the common reasons people hesitate to give AA a try.
We’ll break down these objections and share insights on how to overcome them, including personal experiences and practical advice for anyone on the fence about joining a 12-step program. If you or someone you know has been hesitant about AA, this episode will help clarify misconceptions and offer a fresh perspective on why it works for so many people. Tune in for an honest, no-nonsense conversation!
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On today’s episode, we’re joined by Harrison, who’s about to hit six years of sobriety at just 27 years old. Harrison’s story is a powerful example of what sobriety can look like when you fully commit to the process. He shares how building a strong community has been the foundation of his recovery and why staying connected to others in sobriety is so critical.
Harrison dives into the importance of personal growth and how he strives daily to be a better person. For him, it’s not just about staying clean—it’s about living with purpose and being of service to others. He explains how helping people is not only a cornerstone of his recovery but also something that brings him joy and fulfillment.
In the last part of the episode, Harrison opens up about his career, the blessings he’s experienced through sobriety, and why he feels incredibly grateful for the life he gets to live today. This episode is packed with inspiration, practical advice, and real insight into what it takes to live a meaningful life in recovery. Don’t miss it!
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In this episode, we’re joined by Kevin, who reflects on his 14 years of continuous sobriety and the lessons he’s learned along the way. Kevin shares how his perspective has evolved over the years, explaining why tangible items no longer hold the same importance to him. For Kevin, it’s not about what he owns—it’s about the relationships he’s built and the lives he’s impacted.
Kevin opens up about the critical role service plays in his recovery, emphasizing the importance of working with other alcoholics and mentoring newcomers. He explains how staying grounded in his own sobriety is deeply tied to helping others and being part of a strong community. Kevin also highlights why having a tight-knit group of sober men around him is essential—they’re not just friends, but accountability partners who call him out when he strays from his spiritual path.
This episode is a powerful reminder that recovery is about so much more than staying sober—it’s about connection, service, and staying spiritually aligned. Whether you’re new to sobriety or years into the journey, Kevin’s story offers invaluable lessons and inspiration for everyone. Tune in for an honest, heartfelt conversation!
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Ready to take your recovery to the next level? In this episode, we’re diving into how to maximize your sobriety in 2025. Recovery isn’t just about staying sober—it’s about growing, thriving, and creating the life you want. We’ll cover how to set impactful goals, build stronger connections, prioritize self-care, and give back to the recovery community.
Whether you’re new to this journey or have years of sobriety under your belt, this episode is packed with tips and inspiration to help you make 2025 a year of growth and purpose. Let’s maximize your recovery together!
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In this episode, we’re joined by Stuart, who’s celebrating 20 years of continuous sobriety. Stewart shares how building a strong community has been one of the most important factors in his recovery. Together, we explore why sobriety isn’t just about quitting drugs and alcohol—it’s about the relationships we build along the way.
Stuart’s story is a powerful reminder that connection and community are at the heart of long-term recovery. Whether you’re just starting out or have years under your belt, this episode will inspire you to focus on what really matters: the people who walk this journey with you. Don’t miss this conversation about hope, growth, and the power of authentic relationships!
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In this episode, we sit down with Tammi, who’s been sober for two years after completing treatment at Rock Recovery Center. What makes Tammi’s story so incredible is that she didn’t even start drinking until her mid-40s—but within just two years, she was a full-blown alcoholic.
Tammi shares what led her to pick up alcohol later in life, how quickly things spiraled, and what it took to finally get sober. She talks about going through treatment just once, doing everything that was expected of her, and taking full advantage of the tools and support she was given. Her story proves that it’s never too late to make a change and shows what’s possible when you’re willing to put in the work. You don’t want to miss this one—it’s full of hope, honesty, and inspiration!
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In this special episode, we’re honored to welcome Russell Brand for an inspiring and candid conversation about his recovery journey. Russell reflects on where he is today in his sobriety and shares how his newfound faith has transformed his life. He emphasizes the critical role that God now plays in maintaining his recovery and offers profound insights on the spiritual foundation of sobriety.
Russell also discusses the importance of truly committing to the process if you choose to engage in a 12-step program, sharing why doing the work is essential for meaningful change. With his mix of humor, honesty, and wisdom, Russell provides a fresh perspective on recovery, spirituality, and the path to personal transformation. This episode is a powerful reminder of what’s possible when we embrace accountability, connection, and faith.
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Yes we did have Russell Brand on the podcast, and no, the episode is not out yet! But it will be soon! Here are our thoughts...
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In this heartfelt episode, we sit down with Chris to explore the harrowing yet inspiring journey that led him to sobriety. For much of his life, Chris cycled in and out of jails and institutions, caught in the relentless grip of addiction. Just over seven years ago, he reached a point of total surrender—an act that would change his life forever.
Today, Chris is a proud husband and father to a beautiful daughter, living a life he once thought impossible. He takes us through the darkest chapters of his past, detailing the pain and consequences of his addiction, and shares the pivotal moment that finally pushed him to seek help.
Chris now dedicates his life to serving others, working with addicts daily to guide them toward recovery. He explains why helping others is not just part of his journey but a key to maintaining his own sobriety. This conversation dives deep into the realities of addiction, the power of surrender, and the hope that recovery offers—even for those who feel like all is lost.
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In this episode, we take a closer look at Kratom and share why we’re so passionate about this controversial topic. Following a recent episode that sparked numerous comments, we’re here to clarify our stance and discuss why we don’t believe Kratom is a safe alternative for most people pursuing a clean and sober life. While we acknowledge there may be specific situations where Kratom could be useful, we explain why it’s not something to mess with for those committed to long-term recovery. This is a candid conversation about the risks, realities, and the importance of staying informed in your sobriety journey.
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In this episode, we’re joined by our good friend Lee, who opens up about his powerful sobriety journey and what it’s taken to stay on the path. Lee shares the challenges he’s faced over the years, including chronic depression and anxiety, and the sacrifices he had to make to finally get sober at 30 years old.
Lee talks about hitting rock bottom and experiencing the gift of desperation—a turning point that led to one life-changing event that transformed his future. Through his raw honesty and hard-earned wisdom, Lee’s story is a testament to the resilience it takes to overcome life’s toughest struggles and build a better life in sobriety.
If you’re looking for inspiration, hope, or just a reminder that you’re not alone in your challenges, this episode will speak to you. Tune in to hear Lee’s incredible journey and how he found strength through the darkest times.
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In this episode, we’re diving into questions from our Facebook support group, The Sobriety Network. One of the most common—and toughest—questions we tackle is: “How can I make my loved one recognize that they have a problem?” We share our honest thoughts and opinions on this topic and explain why we believe this isn’t something you can force someone to do.
We also explore other important questions and topics that came up in the group, offering insights, advice, and support for those navigating the challenges of addiction and recovery in their families.
Join us for this truthful and informative conversation, and if you’re not already part of The Sobriety Network, we invite you to join the community and be part of the discussion. Enjoy the show!
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In this episode, we sit down with Ian from the Palms Recovery Center to hear his powerful story of overcoming addiction. Ian recently celebrated 7.5 years of sobriety, but his journey was anything but easy. He shares how, for years, he would go to treatment to get off opiates but held onto reservations about drinking alcohol and smoking pot—habits that kept pulling him back into addiction.
It wasn’t until Ian hit rock bottom at 28, when the rug was completely pulled out from underneath him, that he realized something had to change. He surrendered to his addiction and made the decision to live a life of complete sobriety. Ian opens up about the lessons he’s learned, the challenges he faced, and how he’s found purpose in helping others through his work at the Palms Recovery Center.
If Ian’s story resonates with you or someone you care about, take action today. Whether it’s reaching out for help, joining a recovery program, or supporting someone on their journey, the first step can make all the difference. Don’t wait—change starts now!
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In this episode, we dive into a groundbreaking study that could change the way physicians assess a patient’s risk of addiction. This new tool, based on psychosocial history, aims to help doctors determine whether prescribing opioids is a safe option—especially for patients undergoing surgery.
We also discuss real-life situations where people in recovery face elective surgeries and the difficult decisions that come with them. From understanding the potential risks of being prescribed narcotics to the strategies you can use to protect your sobriety, we cover it all.
If you or someone you love is in recovery and may face surgery or prescribed pain management, this episode is packed with practical advice and insights to help navigate those challenges. Don’t miss this important conversation about staying clean and sober while managing medical needs.
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In this inspiring episode, we celebrate Kayla’s incredible milestone—one year of sobriety! Over the past year, Kayla has faced her fair share of challenges but stayed determined and did everything she needed to do to maintain her sobriety.
Kayla shares the highs and lows of her journey, the lessons she’s learned, and the tools that helped her stay grounded during tough times. Her story is a powerful reminder that, no matter how hard things get, recovery is possible with the right mindset and support system.
Whether you’re new to recovery, supporting a loved one, or just looking for some inspiration, Kayla’s story will leave you feeling hopeful and motivated. Tune in to hear her honest reflections on the past year and what she’s looking forward to in her sober future!
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In this episode, we sit down with Erik to talk about the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and why it’s been such a huge part of his recovery. Erik opens up about his journey, sharing the real struggles he faced when getting sober and how the lessons in the Big Book helped him through tough times. He talks about what it took to stay on the path and how the book continues to guide his everyday life.
We’re also excited to announce our live Big Book study starting on January 6, 2025! Every Monday, we’ll go through the book together, breaking it down so it’s easy to understand and apply. This study isn’t just for people in recovery—it’s for anyone who wants to learn more about the principles of the Big Book. Family members and loved ones are especially encouraged to join, as it can help them understand what their addicted loved one is going through and how they can offer better support.
Erik also clears up some of the common myths about the Big Book. Many people think it’s only for alcoholics, but the truth is, anyone can benefit from its teachings if they take the time to dig in. Whether you’re in recovery, supporting someone who is, or just curious about the Big Book, this episode is packed with honest insights and practical advice.
Don’t miss this conversation—it’s a chance to hear how the Big Book has changed lives and how it might just change yours, too!
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In this transformative episode, we connect with Trish, a passionate advocate for holistic healing who has been living a vibrant, sober life since 2014. Trish opens up about her journey from addiction to recovery, shedding light on the challenges she faced and the pivotal moments that changed her life.
Today, she dedicates her energy to helping others through the power of holistic practices like breathwork and wellness coaching, offering a unique perspective on recovery. But that’s not all—toward the end of our conversation, we switch gears and dive into an unexpected topic: cryptocurrency.
Trish shares her thoughts on how this digital revolution intersects with personal empowerment and financial independence, sparking a fascinating dialogue that bridges wellness and modern innovation. Whether you’re seeking inspiration for your own recovery journey, curious about the benefits of holistic health practices, or looking to learn more about crypto’s potential, this episode is packed with wisdom, practical advice, and fresh perspectives. Don’t miss it!
In this packed episode, we dive deep into how resentment can lead people back to using drugs and alcohol. Drawing from the Big Book, we explore the strong correlation between unresolved resentment and relapse, offering insights and tools to help break the cycle.
We also cover several pressing topics in the addiction and recovery world. First, we discuss the alarming TikTok trend known as chroming, where kids are dangerously huffing spray paint. Next, we examine the risks associated with ADHD medications like Adderall and their potential for misuse.
On a brighter note, we highlight the recent downward trend in overdose deaths this year, exploring what might be driving this positive change. Lastly, we discuss San Francisco’s controversial proposal to require drug testing as a condition for receiving welfare checks, sparking a broader conversation about addiction, accountability, and support systems.
This episode is filled with critical information and thought-provoking discussions that are essential for anyone navigating sobriety, working in recovery, or wanting to stay informed about trends impacting the addiction community.
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In this inspiring episode, we’re joined by John and Bill from Enlightened Recovery in New Jersey. Together, they share their incredible journey from addiction and living on the streets of Camden, New Jersey, to finding hope, healing, and a life dedicated to helping others recover. John and Bill open up about the techniques they’ve used to stay sober over the years, emphasizing the power of community, networking, and building meaningful relationships.
They also discuss how developing a connection with a higher power has played a critical role in their recovery. Through raw honesty, they recount the darkest moments of their addictions—what brought them to their knees—and the strength it took to crawl out of that deep place into the light of recovery. Now, as leaders in recovery, they’ve helped thousands of people on their paths to sobriety.
This episode is a testament to resilience, faith, and the transformative power of helping others. Whether you’re in recovery or supporting someone who is, John and Bill’s story will inspire and encourage you.
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In this episode, we take a closer look at GLP-1 medications like tirzepatide, Ozempic, and Mounjaro and their potential impact on alcoholism. These medications, widely known for treating diabetes and aiding in weight loss, are now being studied for their ability to reduce alcohol cravings and consumption. Could this be a game-changer in addiction treatment? Dr. Tamanini joins us to break down the science behind this exciting research and explain how these medications work in the body.
We also dive into some important questions raised in our Facebook community, The Sobriety Network. How do you navigate pricing out treatment for a loved one who needs help? And is it possible to get addicted to prescription drugs while trying to stay sober? These are critical issues many in recovery face, and we offer practical advice and insights to guide you.
If you’re curious about cutting-edge advancements in addiction science or looking for answers to common recovery challenges, this episode has something for you. Tune in to learn, grow, and stay inspired on your sobriety journey!
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In this heartfelt episode, we are joined by Ryan Laab's, an associate campus pastor at Christ Fellowship Church in South Florida, who shares his profound journey from addiction and self-destruction to a life of faith, purpose, and service. Ryan opens up about the years he spent battling self-harm and addiction to drugs and alcohol—struggles that often led him to emergency rooms and moments of despair. At 28 years old, after years of denial, he entered treatment and finally surrendered to the disease of addiction, beginning the hard but rewarding path to recovery.
Ryan credits his transformation to his relationship with God, specifically through his Christian faith and connection to Jesus Christ. He speaks candidly about how embracing his faith gave him hope and direction when he needed it most, leading to a life far greater than he could have ever imagined.
Today, Ryan celebrates multiple years of sobriety, a loving marriage, and the joy of raising two adopted children. He dedicates his life to helping others through his ministry work, offering guidance, empathy, and inspiration to those struggling with their own challenges.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking hope, especially those wondering how faith and community can play a role in recovery. Ryan’s story is a powerful testament to resilience, surrender, and the transformative power of finding your purpose.
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The conversation begins with a discussion on a recent study that claims selling 2/3 pints of beer instead of full pints could potentially reduce overall alcohol consumption. While this may sound effective for social or “normal” drinkers, we dive into why this approach wouldn’t necessarily work for those struggling with alcoholism, who might simply compensate by drinking more of these smaller servings.
From there, we tackle the core question of the episode: Is being "ready" a requirement for getting sober? Often, people feel they need to reach a point of complete readiness before committing to sobriety. However, we explore why this readiness may not actually be essential. Many individuals find that by surrounding themselves with a strong community of sober people and receiving support, they can begin to follow a positive path even if they initially had doubts.
We highlight how sober support can be a mirror, reflecting back the values, habits, and choices that encourage sobriety. Being in the company of like-minded people can inspire change without the individual needing to feel fully prepared or confident at the start. Having a roadmap or guide in early sobriety—someone to lay out achievable steps—also helps keep motivation high and provides a sense of direction.
Ultimately, the episode emphasizes the importance of connection, guidance, and community, arguing that with the right support system in place, readiness can emerge naturally over time as individuals grow into their sober journey. This episode is an invitation to rethink how we approach sobriety and to trust that with the right environment, change is possible—even if you’re not fully "ready" yet.
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In this episode, we’re joined by Tek, who opens up about his powerful story of sobriety. Growing up in California, Tek faced unique challenges that tested his strength and resilience at every turn. He shares the struggles he’s endured, the lessons he's learned along the way, and how each hardship has shaped him into the person he is today. Join us as Tek provides a raw, unfiltered look at his journey—proof that even in the face of adversity, it’s possible to find strength, growth, and ultimately, sobriety.
Inthis episode of Real Recovery Talk, we dive into two essential parts of early recovery: setting realistic goals and maintaining mental health. Starting out in sobriety often comes with a renewed sense of purpose, and setting goals can be exciting. But it’s easy to get carried away with big plans and forget that staying sober is the top priority. We discuss how to create simple, achievable goals that support your recovery journey without adding too much pressure.
We also talk about mental health—an area that’s especially important in early sobriety. With emotions and challenges that come up, keeping your mind healthy is crucial. We’ll share practical ways to take care of your mental health, like grounding techniques, finding healthy routines, and staying connected with people who support your journey. This episode is all about building a steady foundation in recovery so you can grow without losing sight of what matters most.
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In this episode, we dive into a recent study from Stanford University that sheds new light on the effectiveness of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) in helping individuals achieve lasting sobriety. This comprehensive study compares AA to traditional therapy modalities, analyzing how AA’s community-based, peer-support approach stacks up against other treatment methods. The findings reveal that AA not only fosters greater rates of abstinence but can also reduce healthcare costs over time.
We break down the study’s key points, exploring why AA’s unique structure works so well for many people. From shared experiences and accountability to a focus on practical steps and self-reflection, we discuss what makes AA a powerful tool for recovery. Whether you’re in AA, curious about the program, or considering different paths to sobriety, join us for an insightful look at how AA continues to be a game-changer in the fight against addiction.
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In this episode, we tackle the challenging topic of relapse—an all-too-common part of the recovery journey that many individuals face. We delve into the signs and symptoms that often signal a potential relapse, discussing the subtle behavioral and emotional cues that can go unnoticed until it's too late. Drawing from the Big Book, we break down a key segment on relapse, offering insight into how it defines and addresses this issue.
We also explore why relapse can sometimes happen even while someone is still in treatment. This insight is crucial for understanding the complexity of addiction and the ways that patterns of behavior and thought can persist, despite external support and resources.
Our conversation doesn’t stop there; we share practical tools and actionable strategies to help individuals strengthen their resilience against relapse. From building a support network to maintaining healthy routines, we provide a toolkit that can serve as a foundation for long-term sobriety. Tune in to learn how to spot the warning signs early, understand the psychology behind relapse, and empower yourself or your loved ones with the resources to stay on track.
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In this episode, we’re joined by Dominic Scalzo, who shares his journey of using health and fitness as a cornerstone of his sobriety. Dominic explains why he chose a fitness-focused lifestyle to manage stress and navigate the challenges of staying sober. We dive into simple, practical ways to incorporate fitness and nutrition into daily life, with Dominic emphasizing the importance of not overcomplicating things—starting with small steps, like taking a daily walk.
Dominic also takes us through his recent experience preparing for the Leadville race in Colorado. He opens up about the physical and mental hardships he encountered along the way and the valuable lessons he gained from pushing himself to new limits. Tune in for an inspiring conversation on resilience, self-care, and the power of health and fitness in recovery.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, Heather takes us through her path to sobriety, sharing the unique challenges she faced while getting clean at such a young age in New York. Her story offers insight into the mental and emotional hurdles of young sobriety and how she overcame them through determination and support. She talks about the critical importance of finding a reliable sponsor and the difference it made to have a solid, supportive community of women around her who understood the journey.
Heather dives into how her faith became a cornerstone of her sobriety, not only as a source of strength but as a daily guide that she leans on for hope and direction. This faith eventually led her to take on a new mission: establishing a sober living home for women in Delray Beach, Florida. She describes what inspired her to create a safe space for women seeking recovery, emphasizing her belief in the power of community, accountability, and compassion. Heather’s story is one of courage and service, highlighting how faith and fellowship can transform not only a life but a community.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk we delve into the nuanced world of sponsorship within both Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA). Sponsorship is a cornerstone of these programs, but each fellowship offers unique approaches and philosophies. We discuss how AA’s focus on alcoholism and NA’s approach to addiction in general shape sponsorship styles and what these differences mean for the sponsor-sponsee relationship.
We also share our thoughts on guiding someone through the 12 steps effectively, emphasizing how critical it is to tailor the process to the individual. In doing so, we highlight some common missteps that can turn the steps into hurdles rather than tools for growth. For instance, moving too quickly, being overly rigid, or focusing more on personal beliefs than on helping can be detrimental to a sponsee's journey.
This episode serves as both a guide and a reflective piece, offering valuable insights for sponsors, sponsees, and anyone interested in how the right approach to sponsorship can make all the difference in recovery.
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In this episode, we sit down with Daniel, who opens up about his journey to sobriety and the unexpected challenges he faced along the way. Daniel shares how his Christian faith initially made his path to recovery more complex, presenting unique struggles as he worked to get clean. Through his story, we explore what it took for Daniel to finally reach long-term sobriety and the essential steps he takes today to maintain it.
Daniel emphasizes the role that building a strong community played in his early recovery, highlighting how those connections have supported his lasting success. His story is one of resilience, adaptation, and faith redefined. Join us for this inspiring conversation on the power of community and finding harmony between personal faith and the path to sobriety.
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In this episode, we welcome Alexander to share his powerful story of overcoming addiction at such a young age. As he completes the program here at Rock Recovery Center, Alexander reflects on his journey of transformation. At first glance, Alexander didn't seem like someone who would be able to stay clean and sober, but by following directions and embracing the guidance given, he’s now on the path to long-term sobriety.
Alexander dives into the details of his past, explaining why it was so difficult for him to get clean and what finally clicked to set him on the right track. He also offers valuable insights on what it truly takes for others to get clean and sober. As he looks toward the future, Alexander shares his plans and what keeps him motivated to continue living a life of recovery. This episode is a testament to resilience and the power of following through on the advice that can change your life.
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In this episode, we dive deep into the role of religion within the sobriety journey and explore how it fits into 12-step programs. We discuss our own thoughts on the intersection of faith, spirituality, and recovery, emphasizing the importance of keeping an open mind and being receptive to suggestions when starting the path to sobriety. Responding to a listener's comment, we also address the delicate balance between religion and recovery, examining how rigid religious perspectives can sometimes push people away from 12-step programs.
We highlight why it's crucial to give multiple meetings a try—because each meeting can have a different tone, group dynamic, and approach. It's important to stick with the 12-step process long enough to gain a true understanding of how it works and to see if it resonates with your journey. Sometimes, initial discomfort can give way to breakthroughs as you find the right group and environment to foster your growth. Join us for an insightful conversation on how to keep an open heart and mind in sobriety, while exploring the balance between faith and recovery.
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In today’s episode of Real Recovery Talk, we are joined by Dani La berrie, a licensed clinical social worker, who shares her personal journey of battling codependency and how it ultimately led her to recovery. Dani opens up about the complexities of codependency, how it deeply infiltrated her life, and the turning point that helped her realize she needed to make a change.
Now, as an online coach for both men and women, Dani helps others better understand their own codependency and provides tools for improving relationships and self-awareness. Join us for an insightful conversation on identifying the signs of codependency, its impact on personal and professional life, and practical steps for healing and growth.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we are joined by Dr. Jordan Zabriski to explore the vital role that living a pain-free lifestyle plays in supporting long-term recovery. Dr. Zabriski explains how chronic pain, often caused by poor movement patterns and lack of exercise, is a common gateway to opiate addiction. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining proper physical health, not just to avoid pain, but to amplify recovery and well-being.
We discuss practical strategies for improving movement, flexibility, and strength, as well as how incorporating consistent exercise can significantly reduce the need for pain medications. Dr. Zabriski also shares insights into how movement and physical fitness can improve mental health, emotional stability, and overall quality of life in sobriety. This episode is filled with actionable tips and advice for anyone looking to stay healthy, active, and pain-free while maintaining their recovery.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Steve, who shares his journey through recovery, relapse, and finding a new path to wellness. After multiple years of sobriety, Steve relapsed, but his biggest challenge throughout recovery was neglecting his physical health, which led to severe health consequences. As a former firefighter, Steve opens up about how the pressures of the job fueled his substance use and made maintaining sobriety more difficult.
We dive into Steve’s transformative experience with yoga and how it has revitalized both his body and spirit. He shares how this practice has helped him sustain his sobriety and improve his overall well-being, mentally and physically. Join us as Steve talks about the importance of holistic health in recovery and the powerful changes he’s made to rebuild his life.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we explore the important role that proper nutrition and supplementation play in the recovery process from alcoholism and drug addiction. After years of substance abuse, the body often becomes depleted of essential nutrients, and supplementation can help restore balance and improve overall health.
We discuss the key vitamins and supplements that are particularly beneficial during recovery, such as B vitamins for energy and mood stabilization, magnesium for relaxation and sleep, and omega-3 fatty acids for brain health. We also talk about how these supplements can aid in reducing cravings, supporting mental clarity, and promoting physical healing. Tune in to learn more about how the right supplements can be a valuable part of your recovery toolkit, helping you feel stronger and more balanced as you rebuild your life.
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In this special episode of Real Recovery Talk, we welcome long-time listener Russ Lusk, who traveled all the way from Texas to share his powerful story. Russ opens up about his sobriety journey, detailing the struggles he faced and what it finally took for him to get sober. He candidly discusses how religion, at one point, drove him deeper into addiction, leading to feelings of betrayal by the church that he carried for years.
We also explore the importance of finding a strong community in recovery, which Russ credits as a key factor in maintaining his sobriety. Additionally, Russ reflects on his time in the military and how his experiences there impacted his battle with alcoholism.
Join us for an inspiring and raw conversation about overcoming adversity, the complexities of faith, and the strength that comes from a supportive recovery community.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we share the story of Michael, who came into Rock Recovery Center angry and skeptical of the idea of sobriety. Initially resistant to the process, Michael eventually embraced the treatment journey and realized that his struggles with alcohol were deeply tied to unresolved internal issues.
Through the therapeutic process, Michael began addressing his character defects and learned healthier ways to manage his emotions, rather than turning to alcohol. Having completed our program and committed to maintaining long-term sobriety, Michael's story highlights the power of self-awareness and personal growth. Join us as we dive into the role that character defects play in addiction and how a structured treatment process can lead to lasting change.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we dive into the often-overlooked risks of alcohol alternatives and non-alcoholic beer. While these products may seem like a safe option for those in recovery, they can actually keep you connected to addictive behaviors and hinder true sobriety.
We discuss the importance of abstinence-based sobriety and why completely stepping away from alcohol, even in its alternative forms, is crucial for long-term recovery. By relying on alcohol substitutes, individuals may unintentionally trigger old habits and thought patterns, making sustained sobriety more difficult.
Join us as we explore the psychological and emotional effects of alcohol alternatives and the reasons why choosing total abstinence is the key to lasting freedom from addiction.
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In this inspiring episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Will, who got sober at the age of 62 after a long battle with addiction. Will shares his journey, discussing how growing up and being immersed in the music industry fueled his addiction and led him down a path of alcoholism.
Will reflects on the struggles that ultimately brought him to his breaking point and the moment that drove him to seek sobriety. In a particularly powerful part of his story, Will talks about meeting a couple who shared a single word that sparked a life-changing transformation. Join us as Will opens up about his recovery journey and how his decision to get sober at 62 turned his life around for the better.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we are joined by Josh Katz, Vice President of Business Development for Harmony Hills mental health facility in Florida.
Josh opens up about his personal recovery journey, sharing the challenges he faced and what it finally took for him to get clean and sober. He emphasizes the crucial role that a strong, supportive community plays in long-term recovery and how it helped him stay grounded. We also dive into the importance of understanding mental health and its integral role in the recovery process.
Josh explains why addressing both mental health and addiction is key to a successful recovery, and why it’s important to approach both with compassion and knowledge. This episode offers deep insights into recovery, mental health, and the power of community.
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In this powerful episode of Real Recovery Talk, we welcome Aaron and Nikki from Boca Detox to share their deeply personal stories of overcoming challenges in sobriety.
Nikki, who is eight months pregnant with her first child in recovery, opens up about the emotional journey of being pregnant after previously experiencing a miscarriage with twins. She reflects on how this experience has impacted her emotionally and how her sobriety has helped her navigate these challenges.
Aaron shares the heart-wrenching story of his six-year-old son’s stroke and the ongoing challenges it has presented for him and his family. He talks about the strength he's found through sobriety and how it has helped him cope during this difficult time.
We also dive into the intricacies of detox care and discuss why it’s critical to provide persistent, compassionate attention to clients during the detox phase of recovery. This episode is a deep dive into the realities of maintaining sobriety through life’s toughest moments and the importance of providing quality care in the recovery community.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Tyler, who shares his incredible journey of sobriety and how he has maintained it up to this point. Tyler opens up about his battle with addiction while growing up in the Philadelphia area and the struggles he faced along the way. Now, Tyler is making an impact in the addiction community, helping others find their way to sobriety.
Tyler talks about his decision to not pursue a high-pressure career but instead take a job at Starbucks, a choice that allowed him to focus on his recovery and appreciate life’s simple pleasures. This experience, he explains, set him up for long-term success. We also dive into the importance of avoiding relationships in early sobriety, and how getting involved too soon can derail progress. Tyler’s story is full of valuable lessons on patience, perspective, and the importance of building a strong foundation in recovery.
In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, Ben and I address an important topic for families and loved ones supporting someone in recovery: holding boundaries and understanding that it’s okay if your loved one isn't reaching out as much.
We explain how, oftentimes, when someone in recovery goes silent, it can mean they are in a growth phase, focusing on their personal journey. Silence from a loved one in recovery can indicate a period of personal growth. Less communication doesn’t necessarily mean they’re struggling—it might mean they’re focused on their own healing.
The Importance of Boundaries:
Why setting and holding healthy boundaries is crucial for both you and your loved one. How boundaries encourage independence and self-reliance in recovery.
Offering Love and Support Without Enabling:
The balance between providing emotional support and avoiding enabling behaviors. Understanding that sometimes love means stepping back.
Investing in Yourself:
Use this time to focus on your own self-care and well-being. The importance of building your own support network and finding healthy outlets for stress.
The Long-Term Benefits:
How maintaining boundaries can lead to a healthier relationship with your loved one.
The role of patience in supporting long-term recovery and mutual growth. We dive into why it’s crucial to maintain boundaries, offering only love and support without enabling, and why this can actually encourage independence in your loved one. It’s also a reminder to take this time to invest in yourself and prioritize your own well-being. Join us as we offer insights and practical advice for families navigating these delicate dynamics.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Mike Harper as he shares his candid story of battling addiction and the hard-earned lessons that came with his journey to sobriety. Mike opens up about his years of on-and-off relapse, often justifying that smoking marijuana was acceptable, only to realize that it led him to the same emotional and mental rock bottom as harder drugs.
Mike dives deep into the work he’s had to do to maintain his sobriety, explaining why being completely abstinent from all mood and mind-altering substances is the only path that works for him. Join us as we discuss the importance of full commitment to recovery, and why finding what works for you—whether it’s total abstinence or another method—is crucial for long-term success.
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In this inspiring episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Destiny, whose life has transformed dramatically after years of battling addiction and spending 10 months in jail. After facing multiple overdoses and reaching a turning point, Destiny made the courageous decision to get clean and sober, completely turning her life around.
Today, Destiny is thriving in nursing school, working toward her dream of becoming a registered nurse. Not only is she focused on her own future, but she’s also giving back by working in the field of addiction, helping others who are struggling just as she once did. Join us as Destiny shares her powerful story of resilience, recovery, and her passion for helping others find the same hope she discovered on her path to sobriety.
In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we explore the intricate dynamics of codependency with guests Ben Harrison and licensed mental health counselor Nicole Montgomery. Together, we take a deep dive into the roots of codependency, how it impacts relationships, and why it’s crucial to address for both individuals in recovery and their loved ones.
- Recognize and Acknowledge Codependent Behaviors The first step in overcoming codependency is identifying it. Be honest with yourself about patterns such as prioritizing others' needs over your own, feeling responsible for others' happiness, or struggling to set boundaries.
- Set Healthy Boundaries Start establishing clear and healthy boundaries in your relationships. Learn to say “no” without guilt, and prioritize your emotional and physical well-being. Boundaries allow you to maintain your sense of self and prevent burnout.
- Practice Self-Care and Self-Compassion Focus on taking care of your own needs, both emotionally and physically. Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you reconnect with yourself. Developing self-compassion is essential for breaking free from the need for external validation.
- Seek Professional Support Working with a therapist, especially one experienced in codependency, can be incredibly helpful. A licensed professional can help you uncover the root causes of your codependency and guide you toward healthier relational patterns.
- Develop Independent Interests and Relationships Pursue hobbies, goals, and friendships outside of your codependent relationships. Cultivating a sense of independence allows you to rely less on others for validation and fosters personal growth.
These tips can guide you toward breaking the cycle of codependency and creating healthier, more balanced relationships.
Nicole provides her professional insights into how codependency manifests, while Ben shares his personal experiences with it. We also offer practical tips and strategies to help you recognize codependent behaviors in yourself or your relationships and actionable steps to break free from the cycle. Whether you’re directly struggling with codependency or supporting a loved one, this episode is packed with valuable tools to guide you toward healthier, more independent relationships.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we are joined by Zach B. who shares his powerful story of sobriety and the transformative journey that led him there. Zach opens up about his upbringing in Palm Beach County and the pivotal moments that compelled him to put down the drink and drugs. He discusses how his addictions held him back from growing his businesses and how achieving sobriety became the key to unlocking success in every aspect of his life.
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Zach Brady’s Sobriety Journey:
- His upbringing in Palm Beach County and the pivotal moments that led to sobriety.
- The impact of addiction on his personal and professional life.
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Addiction and Business:
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How addiction held Zach back from growing his businesses.
- The positive changes and success that followed his commitment to sobriety.
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Faith and Sobriety:
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Zach’s deep relationship with God and how it has guided him through tough times.
- The importance of putting God first in his life and decision-making.
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Androgenix and HRT Therapy:
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Overview of Zach’s business, Androgenix, and its focus on HRT therapy.
- Discussion on testosterone replacement therapy, Ozempic, and other related topics.
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Insights and Inspiration:
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Lessons learned from Zach’s journey and how faith and sobriety intersect.
- Tips for integrating spirituality, business, and recovery in a balanced, fulfilling life.
Zach also delves into his deep relationship with God and how his faith has carried him through the toughest times in his sobriety. By putting God first in everything he does, Zach has found strength and purpose that guide him daily. Additionally, we explore his business, Androgenix, and his expertise in HRT therapy, discussing topics such as testosterone replacement therapy, Ozempic, and more. This episode is a deep dive into the intersection of faith, business, and recovery, offering insights and inspiration for anyone on the path to sobriety.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we explore the powerful role that rituals play in both addiction and recovery. When struggling with addiction, rituals often become a part of daily life—whether it’s the routine of acquiring substances or the behaviors associated with using them. We dive into these addiction-driven rituals and discuss why it’s crucial to break free from them as part of the recovery process.
We also emphasize the importance of creating new, positive rituals that support sobriety. By filling your time with activities and routines that promote well-being, you can build a strong foundation for lasting recovery. Join us as we discuss strategies for replacing old habits with new, healthy ones, and how to effectively use rituals to stay on the path to sobriety.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we explore the concept of balance in recovery, using the metaphor of a pie chart to illustrate where you're putting most of your efforts. We discuss the importance of dedicating sufficient time to your recovery, especially in the early stages, to build a strong and lasting foundation. However, we also emphasize the need to balance this with enjoying life’s pleasures, continuing hobbies, and having fun.
Too often, people focus so intensely on their recovery that they neglect other aspects of life, leading to burnout. We talk about strategies to make recovery sustainable, ensuring that it enhances, rather than diminishes, the joy and fulfillment life has to offer. Tune in to learn how to find the right balance between staying committed to sobriety and living a full, enjoyable life.
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In this insightful episode of Real Recovery Talk, we explore the concept of balance in recovery, using the metaphor of a pie chart to illustrate where you're putting most of your efforts. We discuss the importance of dedicating sufficient time to your recovery, especially in the early stages, to build a strong and lasting foundation. However, we also emphasize the need to balance this with enjoying life’s pleasures, continuing hobbies, and having fun.
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The Recovery Pie Chart:
- Visualizing your efforts in recovery as a pie chart.
- Understanding where you’re dedicating most of your time and energy.
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Building a Solid Foundation:
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The importance of focusing on recovery, especially in the early stages.
- How a strong foundation in recovery supports long-term sobriety.
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The Role of Fun and Hobbies:
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Why it’s crucial to continue enjoying life’s pleasures while in recovery.
- The risk of burnout when recovery becomes all-consuming.
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Achieving Balance:
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Strategies for maintaining a balanced approach to recovery.
- How to integrate recovery with personal interests and social activities.
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Sustainable Recovery:
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Tips for making recovery a sustainable, lifelong commitment.
- The importance of finding joy and fulfillment in sobriety.
Too often, people focus so intensely on their recovery that they neglect other aspects of life, leading to burnout. We talk about strategies to make recovery sustainable, ensuring that it enhances, rather than diminishes, the joy and fulfillment life has to offer. Tune in to learn how to find the right balance between staying committed to sobriety and living a full, enjoyable life.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we share the story of Elizabeth, who has committed herself fully to getting and maintaining her sobriety. After a short stay in treatment, Elizabeth returned home only to find herself relapsing—a turning point that made her realize she needed a more extensive commitment to her recovery.
Elizabeth opens up about the importance of being brutally honest with herself about the challenges she was facing and the changes she needed to make. She discusses her decision to spend a significant amount of time in treatment and how that choice has been crucial to her ongoing sobriety. This episode offers a powerful reminder that sometimes, the path to recovery requires deeper honesty and a willingness to invest in long-term treatment to build a solid foundation for lasting change.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we explore the challenging and emotional process of getting your loved one into treatment. We discuss three distinct options that families often face when dealing with a loved one’s addiction.
Option one is putting your head in the sand and pretending nothing is wrong, which only allows the problem to worsen over time. Option two involves educating yourself about addiction and engaging in open-ended, non-emotionally charged conversations with your loved one, which can help them feel supported but may not always lead to action.
Option three, and our recommended approach, is seeking professional help. We dive deep into why this is the most effective path, highlighting the benefits of involving experts who can guide both you and your loved one through the complex journey of recovery. Tune in to learn why professional support is crucial, how it can make a difference, and how to take that first step towards getting your loved one the help they need.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we hear from Jackie, who has tried countless ways to achieve sobriety but only found true freedom from her addiction after going through treatment. Jackie opens up about the harrowing depths her addiction took her to and the transformative journey she embarked on to reclaim her life.
Jackie candidly shares her experiences with Ayahuasca retreats, explaining why she ultimately found them unhelpful in her recovery and why she believes they might not be the right path for everyone. She also discusses the challenges and pitfalls of getting into relationships in early sobriety, emphasizing the importance of focusing on personal healing first.
Additionally, Jackie speaks about her time on Suboxone, sharing her perspective on why she feels it may not be the best option for those striving for lasting sobriety. This episode is a raw and honest conversation about the different paths to recovery, the lessons learned along the way, and the importance of finding what truly works for you.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we explore the critical connection between physical health and the journey to sobriety. Taking care of our bodies is not just a part of recovery; it’s a cornerstone of building a strong foundation for long-term success. We delve into why maintaining physical health is essential when getting sober, from improving mental clarity and emotional stability to boosting overall well-being and resilience.
We discuss practical ways to incorporate fitness, nutrition, and self-care into your daily routine, and how these habits can significantly enhance your sobriety journey. Whether you’re just starting out or have been sober for years, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable tips on how prioritizing your physical health can empower you to stay on the path of recovery. Join us as we highlight the transformative power of a healthy body and mind in achieving lasting sobriety.
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In this gripping episode of Real Recovery Talk, we delve into the story of Dustin, who is currently serving an 18-year prison sentence for a crime he committed at just 20 years old while under the influence of crack cocaine. Dustin opens up about his addiction and how it consumed the early years of his life, leading him down a destructive path that ultimately resulted in his incarceration.
From the confines of prison, Dustin shares the powerful story of how and why he finally decided to get clean. He discusses the challenges and triumphs of achieving sobriety while serving his sentence, and the ways in which his life has transformed since making that life-changing decision.
Dustin’s journey is one of redemption and hope as he reflects on what sobriety has brought him, even in the most difficult of circumstances. This episode offers a raw and honest look at the impact of addiction, the consequences of choices made under its influence, and the possibility of finding a new path, even in the darkest of times.
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In this compelling episode of Real Recovery Talk, we hear from Kaitlyn, who recently celebrated just over one year of sobriety from drugs and alcohol. Kaitlyn’s journey has been anything but easy; she spent multiple years living on the streets and panhandling, deeply entangled in the grips of addiction.
Kaitlyn opens up about the harsh realities of her life before sobriety, sharing the struggles and the paths that addiction led her down. She also reflects on the transformative year she’s had, detailing the actions and commitments that have helped her stay clean and sober.
From securing gainful employment to paying her own bills, Kaitlyn talks about the immense sense of pride and accomplishment that comes with her newfound stability. With raw honesty, Kaitlyn describes the joys that sobriety has brought into her life, the gratitude she feels, and the plans she has for her future.
This episode is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the profound changes that can happen when one chooses the path of recovery.
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In this heartfelt episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with James and Robin, a married couple who have been together for 10 years and married for the last four. Recently, they welcomed a set of twins into their lives, adding a new layer of complexity to their journey. James opens up about his decade-long battle with addiction and the ongoing struggles with relapse that have tested their relationship.
Robin shares her perspective on coping with James's addiction, detailing the enabling behaviors she unknowingly engaged in and the steps she’s now taking to keep her family intact. She speaks candidly about the strict boundaries she’s established and how James knows exactly what’s at stake if he relapses again.
Despite the challenges, James and Robin reveal how their struggles with addiction have ultimately strengthened their marriage. They discuss the resilience they’ve developed, the hard-earned lessons they’ve learned, and the hope they hold for their future together. This episode offers a raw and honest look at how addiction can impact a marriage and how, with determination and love, a couple can emerge stronger on the other side.
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In this inspiring episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Jimbo, who has been sober since 1996. Jimbo shares his incredible journey, starting with his upbringing in New York and his move to West Palm Beach, Florida at 18, where his drinking and partying spiraled out of control. Faced with a life-or-death decision, Jimbo chose sobriety and has been committed to it ever since.
Jimbo opens up about the many challenges he has endured over his decades of sobriety, including a battle with stage four colon cancer. He talks about how Alcoholics Anonymous and the supportive community within it were crucial in helping him navigate through his darkest times. Jimbo also discusses the profound role that God and the power of prayer play in his life, providing him with strength and guidance.
In addition to his spiritual journey, Jimbo shares his physical transformation, having lost over 100 pounds. He explains how this transformation has positively impacted his sobriety and overall well-being. Join us for a heartfelt conversation filled with wisdom, resilience, and the transformative power of faith, community, and personal commitment to change.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we welcome Tyler, who has achieved 9 1/2 years of sobriety. Tyler shares his incredible journey, from growing up in the Bronx, New York, to finding himself in Arizona, where he spent 2 1/2 months in treatment. His story takes a transformative turn as he transitions to Florida, where his sobriety truly flourished.
Tyler emphasizes the vital role of community in maintaining sobriety, highlighting the importance of having a reliable support network. We also delve into the controversial topic of marijuana maintenance programs, discussing both the pros and cons. Additionally, we shed light on some of the bad practices historically seen in treatment centers and explore the current landscape of treatment options available in Florida today.
Join us for an engaging and informative conversation as Tyler's experiences offer valuable insights into the significance of community support, the complexities of treatment approaches, and the evolving nature of recovery programs.
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In this powerful episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Felix, a retired Marine who served 20 years in the United States Marine Corps. Felix opens up about his long and challenging journey to sobriety, including his struggles with addiction and the numerous treatment centers he cycled through over the years.
Felix shares how he finally found the right recovery center where he's now building on his sobriety like never before. We delve into the significant shift in his mindset, comparing his current approach to recovery with his past experiences. Felix's story is one of resilience, transformation, and hope, offering valuable insights for anyone on their own path to sobriety. Join us for an inspiring conversation about perseverance, the power of the right support system, and the profound changes that come with a committed approach to recovery.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, Ben and I discuss addict manipulation and what to look out for. Often times people are being manioulated and they dont even know it! Manipulation could be happening right underneath your nose and you need to know what to do and how to respond!
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, Ben and I dive deep into the day-to-day practices that help us stay grounded and effective in our roles as recovery advocates. We open up about the challenges and triumphs of balancing our professional responsibilities with personal self-care. From the meticulous planning and recording of our podcast to the dedicated care of our clients, we explore what it takes to manage it all without losing sight of our own well-being.
Understanding the importance of maintaining patience and composure, especially given the sensitive nature of the population we work with daily, is a key theme in this discussion. We share our strategies for staying grounded, including mindfulness practices, setting boundaries, and finding time for personal reflection and growth. A significant portion of this episode is dedicated to our Family Reconnect Program.
We discuss its crucial role in helping families heal and rebuild relationships that have been strained by addiction. By sharing success stories and practical advice, we aim to inspire other families to seek similar support and find hope in their own recovery journeys. Join us for an in-depth conversation filled with valuable insights, real-life experiences, and practical tips on how to maintain balance in the demanding yet rewarding field of addiction recovery. Whether you're a recovery professional, a family member, or someone on their own recovery path, this episode offers something for everyone.
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In this episodeof Real Recovery Talk, we discuss the challenging world of cravings and their impact on the journey of recovery from substance abuse. Cravings can be an obstacle, but with the right strategies, they can be managed effectively.
We'll discuss the psychological and physiological aspects of cravings, share real-life experiences from those who have successfully navigated them, and offer actionable steps to help you stay on track in your recovery journey. Whether you're in early recovery or have been sober for years, this episode provides valuable insights and tools to support your ongoing commitment to sobriety.
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In this inspiring episode, we sit down with Marshall, who has just completed his first treatment program at Rock Recovery Center. Marshall shares his courageous journey, detailing the challenges he faced and the triumphs he achieved by following the program diligently. As he prepares to transition back home to North Carolina, Marshall opens up about his comprehensive plan for maintaining long-term sobriety. Join us as we delve into his strategies for staying on track, the support systems he has in place, and his unwavering commitment to a healthier, addiction-free life. This episode is a testament to the power of resilience and the importance of a solid recovery plan.
Points of Discussion: 1. Marshall’s Background: Understanding his life before treatment and what led him to seek help. 2. First Impressions of Treatment: Marshall’s initial feelings and experiences upon starting the program at Rock Recovery Center. 3. Key Challenges: The biggest obstacles he faced during treatment and how he overcame them. 4. Support Systems: The role of family, friends, and the recovery community in his journey. 5. Daily Routines and Habits: The habits and routines Marshall established during treatment that he plans to continue at home. 6. Relapse Prevention: Specific strategies and tools he will use to prevent relapse. 7. Transitioning Home: The emotional and practical preparations for returning to North Carolina. 8. Ongoing Support and Resources: The support groups, therapy sessions, and resources he will utilize post-treatment. 9. Personal Goals: Marshall’s personal and professional goals moving forward and how they align with his sobriety. 10. Advice for Others: Words of wisdom and encouragement from Marshall for those who are just beginning their recovery journey.
Tune in for an episode filled with hope, practical advice, and a heartfelt story of transformation.
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In this milestone 400th episode of Real Recovery Talk, hosts Tom Conrad, Benjamin B., and Dr. T discuss their recent trip to California where they had an incredible time recording with the Mind Pump Podcast. They share their travel experiences, key takeaways from recording with the Mind Pump team, and Tom's journey leading up to this achievement. The team also touches on the importance of hard work and perseverance in reaching goals. Listeners are invited to share their comments, questions, or concerns, and are encouraged to visit their site for helpful resources. Tune in for an inspiring episode filled with insights and personal stories.
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:39 Meet the Hosts
01:56 Traveling to California
04:12 Exploring San Jose and San Francisco
12:35 Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk Adventure
17:22 Basketball Showdown Recap
18:18 Chinatown Adventures
19:18 Recording with Mind Pump
19:46 Navigating the Interview Process
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In this inspiring episode of Real Recovery Talk, we celebrate a major milestone with Josh, who has just reached two years of sobriety. Josh opens up about his challenging journey to get sober, sharing the obstacles he faced and the pivotal moments that led to his success.
Our conversation includes:
- The Road to Sobriety: Josh reflects on his past attempts to get sober, the setbacks he encountered, and the turning point that finally led to his breakthrough.
- The Power of Sober Living: He discusses the critical role that sober living environments played in his recovery, providing structure, support, and a sense of community.
- Physical Health Transformation: Josh reveals how he started prioritizing his physical health, detailing his weight loss journey and the positive impact it has had on his overall well-being.
- Lessons Learned: Insightful tips and advice from Josh on what it takes to achieve and maintain sobriety, emphasizing the importance of persistence, self-care, and support systems.
Join us for a heartfelt and motivational episode as Josh shares his story of transformation, offering hope and inspiration to anyone on their own path to recovery and self-improvement.
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In this empowering episode of Real Recovery Talk, we delve into the complexities of depression, exploring how it can deepen over time if left unaddressed. Understanding and recognizing the symptoms early is crucial in preventing its progression and reclaiming control over one's mental health.
Our discussion includes:
- Understanding Depression: A comprehensive look at what depression is, how it manifests, and the different ways it can impact one's life.
- Early Warning Signs: Identifying the subtle and overt symptoms of depression to ensure early intervention.
- Effective Coping Strategies: Exploring a range of techniques to combat depression, from traditional methods like therapy and medication to holistic approaches such as exercise and mindfulness practices.
Join us as we break down the stigma surrounding depression, offering practical advice and hope to those struggling with this condition. Whether you're experiencing depression yourself or supporting a loved one, this episode provides valuable insights and actionable steps to foster healing and resilience.
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In this insightful episode of Real Recovery Talk, we tackle one of the most challenging aspects of addiction recovery: supporting a loved one in early sobriety. This critical period requires a delicate balance of empathy, understanding, and practical support. Often, despite our best intentions, we might say or do things that could inadvertently hinder their progress.
Our discussion covers:
- Understanding Early Sobriety: What your loved one is experiencing physically, emotionally, and mentally during the initial stages of recovery.
- Effective Communication: Key phrases and topics to avoid, and how to express your support in a positive and constructive manner.
- Building a Supportive Environment: Practical ways to create a safe and nurturing space that encourages sobriety without feeling overbearing or intrusive.
- Common Pitfalls: Identifying actions and behaviors that might seem helpful but can actually be detrimental to their recovery journey.
Tune in to learn how you can become a source of strength and encouragement for your loved one, helping them build a solid foundation for long-term sobriety. This episode is filled with real-life examples, expert tips, and heartfelt stories that highlight the importance of informed and compassionate support in early recovery.
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Hey everyone! In this episode we are having light conversations and taking a break on recovery stuff! Of course we do incorporate it to a certain extent but this one was fun and we laughed a lot. Hope you enjoy!
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we dive into the world of functional alcoholism, exploring how certain characteristics can mask the seriousness of alcohol dependency. Join us as we unravel the six key steps that often define a functional alcoholic and discuss how these factors can create barriers to seeking sobriety.
- Successful Professional Life: We'll start by examining how maintaining a thriving career can provide a false sense of control and normalcy, making it difficult for individuals to recognize their addiction.
- Denial and Justification: Next, we'll explore the powerful role of denial and the justifications functional alcoholics use to convince themselves and others that their drinking is under control.
- Routine Drinking Patterns: We'll discuss how the establishment of regular drinking routines can disguise the extent of alcohol consumption, reinforcing the illusion of moderation.
- Minimal Legal Issues: Functional alcoholics often avoid legal troubles, further feeding the belief that their drinking is not problematic. We'll look into how this lack of consequences can delay the realization of an issue.
- Maintaining Relationships: Many functional alcoholics are able to keep their relationships intact, which can create a façade of stability and deter loved ones from recognizing the need for intervention.
- Continued Achievements: Lastly, we'll talk about how ongoing personal and professional achievements can bolster the illusion of control and success, making it even harder for functional alcoholics to see the need for change.
Tune in as we uncover how these six steps can collectively reinforce a functional alcoholic's resistance to seeking sobriety and what can be done to break through these barriers. Whether you're personally affected or supporting someone who is, this episode provides valuable insights into the complexities of functional alcoholism.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we delve into the importance and effectiveness of gender-specific treatment centers for substance abuse. These specialized facilities offer tailored programs that address the unique challenges faced by men and women in recovery, providing a supportive environment that enhances the chances of long-term sobriety. However, there are also potential drawbacks to consider.
Join us as we explore:
- Why Gender-Specific Treatment?: Understanding the unique needs and experiences of different genders in addiction and recovery.
- Benefits of Specialized Programs: How these centers provide focused care, from therapy techniques to peer support.
- Cons of Gender-Specific Treatment: Discussing potential downsides, such as limited social interaction with the opposite gender and possible reinforcement of gender stereotypes.
- Choosing the Right Center: Tips for finding a treatment center that aligns with your gender-specific needs.
Tune in to gain a balanced understanding of how gender-specific treatment centers are making a difference in the lives of those battling substance abuse, while also considering the potential challenges. This episode is a must-listen for anyone considering treatment options or supporting a loved one through recovery.
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In this special episode of Real Recovery Talk, we tackle the challenges and opportunities that come with celebrating the 4th of July while maintaining sobriety. With fireworks, barbecues, and parties all around, staying sober can feel daunting, but with the right strategies, it’s entirely possible to enjoy the holiday without compromising your recovery.
We break it down into five actionable steps:
- Plan Ahead: Learn how to prepare for potential triggers and make a game plan for your day.
- Make Your Own Drinks: Discover delicious, alcohol-free beverages that keep you included in the festivities.
- Stay Busy: Engage in fun activities that keep your mind occupied and away from temptation.
- Have an Exit Strategy: Develop a plan for leaving situations that may jeopardize your sobriety.
- Utilize Your Support Network: Connect with meetings, stay in contact with your sponsor, and leverage your support system.
Join us for practical tips, personal stories, and expert advice to ensure your 4th of July is both enjoyable and sober. Tune in to stay strong, stay safe, and celebrate your independence from addiction!
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, hosts Tom Conrad and Ben discuss four critical skills that family members and loved ones can implement today to help themselves and support someone struggling with addiction.
We cover the importance of good communication skills, self-care, building a strong support network, and spirituality. Tom and Ben also update listeners on their Family Reconnect Program and other resources available for those in need.
Tune in for practical advice, personal stories, and valuable insights on navigating addiction recovery.
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:32 Podcast Announcements and Promotions
01:26 Webinar and Family Reconnect Program Details 03:53 Coaching and Communication Skills
09:34 Skill 1: Good Communication Skills
17:50 Skill 2: Importance of Self-Care
21:37 Balancing Work and Personal Time
22:38 Finding Healthy Distractions
24:47 The Importance of Self-Care
28:41 Building a Strong Support Network
32:36 Embracing Spirituality
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Dealing with an Alcoholic Spouse: Expert Insights and Practical Advice
In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, hosts Tom Conrad, Ben, and Dr. Tambini address an email from a listener struggling with her partner's alcohol addiction. The team discusses strategies for handling anger and resentment, setting boundaries, and prioritizing self-care. They introduce their Family Reconnect Program, explain the importance of community support, and answer questions about enabling behavior and professional consequences. Tune in for expert advice on helping yourself and your loved one through addiction.
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:42 Meet the Hosts
01:38 Family Reconnect Program Announcement
03:43 Real-Life Example and Program Benefits
13:49 Email from a Listener: Seeking Advice
32:52 Enabling Alcoholism: The Hard Truth
33:05 The Importance of Stepping Away
35:10 Codependency and Self-Worth
36:49 The Role of Profession in Addiction
38:37 Emotional Compromise and Seeking Help
40:24 Reflecting on Relationships and Self-Healing
42:11 Personal Stories and Al-Anon
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we tackle the challenging situation of having a spouse who won't stop drinking. Navigating this difficult terrain requires a combination of empathy, firmness, and self-care. We discuss five essential strategies to help you cope and take action effectively.
Key Points Discussed: 1. Objective vs. Subjective: Understanding the importance of being objective when dealing with your spouse's drinking problem. We explore how to separate your emotions from the situation to address the issue more effectively. 2. Determining Proper Boundaries: Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial. We discuss how to set clear, firm boundaries with your spouse to protect yourself and encourage positive change. 3. Building a Life for Yourself: It's essential to focus on your own well-being and interests. We highlight the importance of building a fulfilling life for yourself, independent of your spouse's drinking habits. 4. Education: Knowledge is power. We provide resources and information to help you understand alcoholism, its effects, and the available treatments. Being well-informed will equip you to handle the situation more effectively. 5. Getting Support: You don't have to go through this alone. We emphasize the importance of seeking support from friends, family, and professional resources. Joining support groups can provide comfort, advice, and a sense of community.
Join us for a compassionate and practical discussion as we provide actionable steps and insights to help you cope with a spouse's drinking problem. This episode aims to empower you with the tools and support needed to navigate this challenging situation and prioritize your own health and happiness. Tune in for valuable advice and encouragement
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we address a YouTube comment from a listener who was upset about her boyfriend breaking up with her while getting sober and in treatment. This situation, while painful, is not uncommon, and it brings to light the importance of evaluating relationships during the recovery process.
Topics Discussed: 1. Understanding the Breakup: We explore why breakups can happen during treatment and early sobriety. The challenges of maintaining relationships while focusing on personal recovery goals. 2. The Importance of Evaluation: Discussing why it’s crucial to reassess relationships during recovery. How sobriety often brings clarity and highlights unhealthy or dysfunctional dynamics that were previously overlooked. 3. Healthy Boundaries vs. Dysfunction: The difference between relationships with healthy boundaries and those that are dysfunctional. We provide insights on how to identify and establish healthy boundaries in your relationships. 4. Personal Growth and Self-Discovery: Emphasizing the significance of personal growth and self-discovery in recovery. How focusing on oneself can lead to healthier relationships in the future. 5. Encouragement and Advice: Offering encouragement to those experiencing similar situations. Practical advice on coping with breakups during treatment and how to use this time for self-improvement and healing.
Join us for an empathetic and insightful discussion as we delve into the complexities of relationships during sobriety. Whether you are experiencing a breakup or supporting someone in recovery, this episode provides valuable perspectives and advice to navigate these challenging times.
Go to realrecoverytalk.com/guide to get our free guide, 5 Steps to Take When Getting Help for Your Loved One In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we discuss the crucial steps you can take to support a loved one struggling with addiction and alcoholism. Knowing how to approach and assist someone in need can be challenging, but with the right guidance, you can make a significant difference in their journey to recovery.
Key Points Covered: 1. Recognize the Signs: Understanding and identifying the signs of addiction and alcoholism. We discuss common behavioral and physical indicators that your loved one might be struggling. 2. Educate Yourself: The importance of educating yourself about addiction and its effects. We provide resources and tips for gaining a better understanding of the condition to offer informed support. 3. Open a Compassionate Dialogue: How to initiate a conversation with your loved one about their addiction. We offer strategies for approaching the topic with empathy, avoiding judgment, and encouraging open communication. 4. Explore Treatment Options: An overview of different treatment options available, from inpatient and outpatient programs to therapy and support groups. We discuss how to research and choose the best treatment plan tailored to your loved one's needs. 5. Provide Ongoing Support: The role of continuous support in recovery. We highlight ways to stay involved in your loved one's journey, from attending therapy sessions together to creating a supportive home environment and being patient with the recovery process.
Tune in for this insightful and practical episode, where we equip you with the tools and knowledge to help your loved one take the first steps towards a healthier, sober life. Whether you are a family member, friend, or caregiver, this episode provides essential advice and resources to support those you care about in their fight against addiction and alcoholism
Go to realrecoverytalk.com/guide to get our free guide, 5 Steps to Take When Getting Help for Your Loved One Join us in this insightful episode as we dive deep into the interconnected realms of fitness, nutrition, spirituality, and mental health with special guest Sal Di Stefano, the esteemed host of the MindPump Podcast. From debunking fitness myths to unraveling the secrets of sustainable nutrition, we explore the holistic approach to wellness that encompasses both physical and mental well-being.
Discover the power of the mind-body connection and gain valuable insights on fostering a balanced lifestyle, optimizing performance, and cultivating meaningful relationships in your journey towards self-improvement. Whether you're a seasoned fitness enthusiast or just embarking on your wellness journey, this episode promises to inspire, educate, and empower you to live your best life. Tune in and embark on a transformative exploration of what it truly means to thrive in mind, body, and spirit.
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In this special episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Patrick, a former client of Rock Recovery Center, to hear his inspiring story of overcoming alcoholism. Patrick's journey took him from the depths of addiction in Washington state to a new life of sobriety in Florida.
Highlights of Patrick's Story: 1. The Struggle: Patrick shares his battle with alcoholism, detailing how he got deeper into his addiction and felt hopeless about ever getting sober. 2. The Turning Point: Discover what finally made Patrick decide to seek treatment and how he chose Rock Recovery Center as his place of healing. 3. The Treatment Experience: Patrick opens up about his time in treatment, the challenges he faced, and the support he received that helped him start his journey to recovery. 4. The Decision to Stay: After completing his treatment, Patrick contemplated returning to Washington but ultimately decided to stay in Florida. He explains why this was the best decision for his recovery and how it impacted his life. 5. Two Years Sober: Now two years sober, Patrick reflects on his journey, the changes he's made, and the happiness and fulfillment he has found in his new life. 6. Advice for Others: Patrick offers heartfelt advice for anyone struggling with addiction and considering treatment, emphasizing the importance of taking that first step and believing in the possibility of a better future.
Join us for an episode filled with honesty, resilience, and hope as Patrick shares his remarkable journey from addiction to sobriety. Whether you are struggling with addiction yourself or supporting a loved one, Patrick's story is a testament to the power of recovery and the transformative impact of making the right choices. Tune in for this moving and motivational conversation.
If you are struggling with ANYTHING AT ALL please feel free to reach out to us: Info@realrecoverytalk.com In this episode of Real Recovery Talk we delve into the essential questions you need to ask when looking for a treatment center for drug and alcohol addiction.
Navigating the multitude of options available can be overwhelming, but asking the right questions can help ensure you or your loved one receives the best possible care.
We'll cover: Accreditation and Licensing: Why it's crucial to choose a facility that is properly accredited and licensed. We'll explain the different types of accreditation and what they signify.
Treatment Approaches: Understanding the various treatment modalities available, from inpatient and outpatient programs to holistic and traditional therapies. We'll discuss how to determine which approach aligns best with your needs.
Staff Qualifications: The importance of qualified and experienced staff. Learn what qualifications and experience you should look for in doctors, therapists, and support staff.
Facility Amenities and Environment: The role of a comfortable and supportive environment in the recovery process. We'll discuss what to look for in terms of living conditions, recreational activities, and overall atmosphere.
Aftercare Support: The significance of aftercare programs in maintaining long-term sobriety. Learn what kinds of aftercare services are offered and how they can help prevent relapse.
Family Involvement: The role of family in the recovery process and the types of family support programs available.
Join us as we equip you with the knowledge to make informed decisions and choose a treatment center that offers the best chance for a successful recovery. Tune in for expert insights, personal stories, and actionable advice to guide you on your journey to sobriety.
In this powerful episode, we delve into the deeply personal story of Harrison, a man who battled with addiction from a young age. From the allure of substances to the depths of despair, Harrison's journey through addiction was tumultuous and heartbreaking. He candidly shares his struggles, admitting that at one point, he couldn't envision a life without drugs.
However, against all odds, Harrison found the strength to seek help and embark on the path to recovery. Through perseverance and support, he gained the tools necessary to maintain his sobriety, reclaiming control of his life one day at a time. Now, Harrison not only stands as a testament to the power of resilience but also as a beacon of hope for others grappling with addiction.
Today, Harrison's life is radically transformed. He works tirelessly in the field of addiction treatment, extending a compassionate hand to those still struggling. With his relationships restored and a newfound sense of purpose, Harrison radiates a joy and fulfillment that once seemed unattainable. Join us as we explore his remarkable journey from darkness to light, proving that recovery is possible for anyone willing to embrace it.
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In this compelling episode, we're delving into Ryan's incredible story of overcoming addiction and finding purpose in helping others do the same. Raised in the vibrant yet tumultuous landscape of South Florida, Ryan battled with addiction and alcoholism for years. He knew that breaking free from the grip of substances in a place known for its party culture would be an uphill battle, but he refused to let his circumstances define him. Through perseverance and determination, Ryan embarked on a journey of self-discovery and recovery.
Despite the setbacks and challenges he faced along the way, he emerged victorious, leaving his past behind and charting a new course for his future. After getting clean, Ryan pursued his passion for law, eventually landing a position at a firm where he specializes in the field of substance abuse. Now, he's not just a survivor; he's a beacon of hope for others struggling with similar demons. Join us as we explore Ryan's journey from the depths of addiction to the heights of advocacy.
We'll uncover the transformative power of resilience, redemption, and the unwavering human spirit. It's a story of triumph, inspiration, and the endless possibilities that come with embracing a life of sobriety and service to others.
Welcome to a deep dive into the tangled world of methadone. It's often pitched as being a hope in the fight against opioid addiction, but there's a lot more to the story than meets the eye. Join us as we peel back the layers and explore the highs and lows of this controversial medication.
We discuss what we have seen on a first hand basis and what we have experiences with personally. Although it can work for SOME people, the vast majority of people would be far better off in an abstinence based program.
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In this enlightening episode, we explore the profound connection between water and our mental well-being with Dr. Wallace J. Nichols, the pioneering founder of Blue Mind Therapy. As a former sea turtle marine biologist turned advocate for water's therapeutic power, Dr. Nichols delves into how various forms of water can profoundly impact our thoughts and emotions. Drawing from his extensive research and personal experiences, he reveals how immersing ourselves in water, whether it's the ocean, rivers, or even a simple shower, can positively transform our mental states and enhance our overall quality of life.
Furthermore, Dr. Nichols discusses the close correlation between water therapy and addiction recovery, shedding light on how embracing a "blue mind" mindset can play a pivotal role in overcoming challenges such as substance abuse. Through insightful anecdotes and scientific evidence, he showcases the profound potential of incorporating water-based practices into therapy and addiction treatment programs.
Join us as we delve into the depths of Blue Mind philosophy and discover how reconnecting with water can lead to profound shifts in the way we think, feel, and ultimately live our lives.
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In this episode, we delve into the inspiring journey of Erica Garwood, the founder of the Mark Garwood Foundation. Erica's life took an unexpected turn when she tragically lost her son to the grips of drug addiction at the tender age of 24. Driven by her grief and a profound sense of purpose, Erica embarked on a mission to honor her son's memory and make a meaningful impact in the lives of others facing similar struggles.
Through the Mark Garwood Foundation, Erica is providing individuals in recovery with a transformative opportunity: the chance to pursue higher education once again. Join us as we explore Erica's remarkable resilience, the genesis of the foundation, and the stories of hope and renewal it has sparked in countless lives. From darkness to light, Erica's journey exemplifies the power of compassion, perseverance, and the unwavering belief in the potential for positive change.
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In this episode, we sit down with Mark Astor, a compassionate attorney who's dedicated his career to being a lifeline for those in need. Specializing in leveraging the legal system to support individuals battling substance abuse and mental health issues, Mark shares his inspiring journey of using the law as a tool for healing and recovery.
With empathy and expertise, Mark delves into the intersection of law and mental health, shedding light on the vital role that legal advocacy plays in getting people the help they need when they need it most. Through compelling anecdotes and real-life cases, he illustrates how navigating the legal landscape can often be the first step towards a brighter, healthier future for those facing addiction and mental health challenges.
Join us as we explore Mark's unwavering commitment to making a difference in the lives of others, one legal intervention at a time. Get ready for an eye-opening conversation about the power of compassion, advocacy, and the transformative impact of using the law as a force for good in the realm of recovery.
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In this compelling episode of Real Recovery Talk, we delve into the remarkable story of Jason Phillips, a man who transformed his personal struggle with anorexia into a beacon of hope for others. Join us as we unravel the layers of his journey, from the depths of his battle with anorexia to the heights of his entrepreneurial success.
Jason's journey began with a fierce internal struggle against anorexia, a battle that tested his physical and mental fortitude. Through perseverance and determination, he emerged victorious, but his journey was far from over. Fuelled by his own experiences, Jason embarked on a mission to help others navigate the complexities of fitness training and nutrition coaching.
Enter the Nutritional Coaching Institute, a groundbreaking venture founded by Jason Phillips. This innovative company is not just about transforming bodies; it's about transforming lives. Through personalized coaching and evidence-based strategies, Jason and his team empower individuals to achieve their health and fitness goals, one step at a time.
Join us as we explore the founding principles of the Nutritional Coaching Institute and the impact it's having on the lives of countless individuals worldwide. From overcoming adversity to inspiring change, Jason Phillips' story is a testament to the power of resilience, passion, and the human spirit. Tune in and be inspired by his incredible journey of transformation and empowerment.
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Get ready for a heart-to-heart as Tyler takes us through his rollercoaster ride of recovery. He's been through the wringer with multiple treatments, but it wasn't until he started really listening to others and taking their advice that things clicked for him.
Tyler's got stories that'll tug at your heartstrings. Despite all the tough times, he's reached a point where he can look back and see the silver lining in everything he's been through. From hitting rock bottom to finding his footing, Tyler's journey is a testament to the power of perseverance and the importance of leaning on others when times get tough.
Join us for a candid chat as Tyler shares his ups, downs, and everything in between on his road to healing and self-discovery.
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Join us for an inspiring episode featuring Chris Powell, known for his role on the television series Extreme Makeover: Weight Loss Edition. In this candid conversation, Chris shares his personal battle with drug addiction and the pivotal moments that led to his recovery. Reflecting on his journey, Chris opens up about navigating the highs and lows of the business world, facing failures head-on, and transforming setbacks into opportunities for growth. Tune in as Chris delves into the challenges he's overcome, the lessons he's learned, and the power of resilience in crafting a meaningful life beyond the spotlight.
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Join us for an episode where we talk about why people sometimes hesitate to seek help for addiction and alcoholism. We'll chat about the common excuses people make, like feeling embarrassed or scared of what others might think. We'll also share stories about how some folks believe they have to hit rock bottom before they can get better. But guess what? You don't have to wait until things get worse to ask for help!
Through our chat, we hope to show that it's okay to reach out for support, no matter where you are in your journey. We'll share tips on how to overcome these excuses and take that first important step towards getting better. So, if you're struggling or know someone who is, join us as we talk about breaking free from excuses and finding the path to recovery.
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In this episode, we sit down with Brad Jensen, also known as The Sober Bodybuilder, to explore the highs and lows of his journey from addiction to sobriety. Brad shares candidly about his turbulent past, recounting periods of incarceration and the strains on his relationships. However, amidst the darkness, Brad found a glimmer of hope—a moment that sparked his determination to break free from the cycle of addiction. Today, Brad stands as a testament to resilience, juggling roles as a successful business owner, dedicated entrepreneur, and loving father. He devotes much of his time to supporting others in their recovery journeys, drawing from his own experiences to offer guidance and encouragement. Join us as Brad delves into his transformation, his unwavering commitment to helping others overcome addiction, and the profound power of redemption.
In this episode, we're talking about the importance of starting slow when you decide to get clean and sober. We'll share why it's crucial not to overwhelm yourself with too much at once. Plus, we'll break down the idea of setting SMART goals—simple, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound—and how they can help you in the early stages of sobriety.
We'll give practical examples of what these goals might look like, tailored to fit your own situation. Whether you're just thinking about getting sober or you're already on your way, this episode will give you useful tips for setting achievable goals and being kind to yourself along the journey to recovery.
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Get ready for a raw and real ride as we dive into Patrick's gripping tale of addiction and redemption. Hailing from the hustle and bustle of New York City, Patrick's life was a rollercoaster of substance abuse from the get-go. No substance was off-limits as he struggled to cope with the chaos around him.
Hoping for a fresh start, Patrick made the leap to Florida, seeking refuge from his demons. But sunny skies couldn't chase away the darkness of addiction. Despite his best efforts, he found himself drowning in the same old cycle.
Yet, amidst the struggle, Patrick stumbled upon a lifeline. Through the ups and downs of treatment, he discovered a powerful tool: vulnerability. By opening up and truly listening to others' stories, he found the strength to face his own demons head-on.
Join us as we follow Patrick's journey of self-discovery and recovery. Through his unfiltered account, we'll explore the highs, the lows, and the moments of sheer triumph that come from embracing connection and finding hope in the darkest of places.
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In this episode, we delve into the complex journey of addiction and recovery, exploring the stages of change individuals may encounter on their path to healing. From the initial recognition of a problem to the maintenance of long-term sobriety, we unravel the intricate web of emotions, challenges, and triumphs that characterize this transformative process.
Through personal stories and professional guidance, we aim to shed light on the multifaceted nature of addiction recovery, offering hope, understanding, and practical strategies for those navigating their own path towards recovery or supporting a loved one through theirs.
Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the stages of change, and find inspiration in the resilience of the human spirit as we explore the journey from addiction to empowerment.
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Buckle up, folks, because today's episode is a rollercoaster ride of resilience and redemption! Meet Adam, the man who survived being crushed by a massive 2000-pound steel plate—and wouldn't change a thing about it. We'll dive into Adam's incredible story of survival, exploring the moment that changed his life forever and the remarkable journey of recovery that followed. From the depths of despair to the heights of triumph, Adam's tale is a testament to the human spirit's indomitable strength.
But Adam's journey isn't just about physical resilience; it's also a deeply personal exploration of sobriety. We'll take a candid look at the ups and downs, twists and turns of his path to recovery, from rock bottom moments to the empowering breakthroughs that kept him moving forward. Through it all, Adam's unwavering determination and refusal to be defined by his circumstances will inspire and uplift listeners.
Join us as we celebrate his resilience, reflect on the power of sobriety, and explore the endless possibilities that come from embracing life's challenges with courage and grace. So grab your headphones and get ready for a story you won't soon forget. This is Adam's journey!
Join us in this episode as we dive into the inspiring journey of Nate, a guy who found his way to sobriety without the confines of traditional treatment centers. Nestled in the heart of Tallahassee, Florida, Nate's story is one of resilience, community, and finding light in the darkest of times.
Without the need for fancy programs, Nate carved his path to sobriety through the supportive embrace of the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). Through shared experiences, laughter, and tears, he found a solid foundation of friends who became his lifeline on this challenging journey.
Tune in as Nate shares his raw and unfiltered story of overcoming addiction, navigating the ups and downs of recovery, and discovering the true meaning of friendship along the way. From rock bottom to the sunshine of sobriety, Nate's story is a testament to the power of human connection and the unwavering strength found within oneself.
So grab your favorite beverage (non-alcoholic, of course!), cozy up, and join us as we embark on Nate's remarkable journey of sobriety in the heart of Tallahassee, Florida and making his way to South Florida!
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Hey party people! Grab your balloons and confetti because this episode is a double celebration! Join us as we pop champagne and blow out the candles for a special occasion: Ben and Tom both turning the big 4-0 on the exact same day!
But this ain't your typical birthday bash. Nope, we're diving deep into the journey of turning 40 and what it means for us, especially considering our shared journey through sobriety. From wild nights to clear mornings, we've seen it all, and now we're ready to share our reflections.
We'll reminisce about the good ol' days when a night out meant bar-hopping and shots galore, and how those moments have evolved into meaningful connections and adventures without the liquid courage. Plus, we'll dish on the challenges and triumphs of staying sober through life's ups and downs.
But turning 40 isn't just about looking back; it's about embracing what lies ahead. We'll spill the beans on our bucket list items and where we would like to improve moving forward. And of course, we'll share a few laughs as we imagine what our 20-year-old selves would think of us now.
So grab a slice of cake and tune in as we raise a toast to friendship, sobriety, and the adventure that lies ahead. Here's to 40 and fabulous! 🥳🎉
In this deeply personal episode, we sit down with Ben as he opens up about his journey through childhood sexual trauma. With raw honesty and vulnerability, Ben shares the painful experiences that once haunted him, and how he discovered the power of helping others by sharing his story.
For years, Ben carried the weight of his past in silence, struggling with the scars left by his traumatic experiences. In this candid conversation, he bravely confronts the shadows of his past to find light and healing.
Join us as Ben recounts the moment he realized that his story could make a difference in the lives of others. Through tears and moments of reflection, he shares how embracing his truth empowered him to turn his pain into purpose.
Through Ben's journey, we see the incredible impact of breaking the silence surrounding sexual trauma. Discover how his courage to speak out not only liberated him but also became a source of strength and inspiration for others.
This episode is a reminder of the resilience of the human spirit and the healing power of sharing our stories. Tune in as we journey alongside Ben, finding hope and healing in the midst of darkness.
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In this touching episode, we delve into the powerful story of Josh's battle with addiction and his remarkable journey to sobriety. With heartfelt honesty, Josh shares how his mother, Julia, played a pivotal role by setting clear boundaries that ultimately led to his recovery.
For years, Josh struggled with the grips of addiction, feeling trapped and lost. Despite his mother's unwavering love, it wasn't until Julia decided to establish firm boundaries that Josh began to see a way out.
Join us as Josh opens up about the challenging moments of facing tough love and accountability. Through tears and triumphs, he recounts how his mother's courage to set boundaries became the catalyst for his transformation.
Through Josh's story, we witness the profound impact of boundaries in the journey to recovery. Discover how drawing the line gave Josh the strength and motivation to break free from addiction and reclaim his life.
This episode celebrates Josh's resilience and determination, highlighting the importance of support and boundaries in overcoming addiction. Tune in as we follow Josh on his inspiring path to sobriety and newfound hope.
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In this episode, we delve into a crucial yet often overlooked aspect of addiction recovery: sleep. Join us as we explore the profound impact of quality rest on the journey towards sobriety. We'll uncover the science behind how addiction disrupts sleep patterns and discuss the challenges individuals face in achieving restorative sleep during recovery. Through this episode with, we'll examine the importance of addressing sleep disturbances as part of a comprehensive treatment plan. From practical tips for improving sleep hygiene to strategies for managing insomnia and other sleep disorders, this episode offers valuable insights and guidance for individuals navigating the delicate balance between sobriety and sleep. Tune in as we illuminate the path to sleeping sober and reclaiming rest as a cornerstone of lasting recovery."
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, host Tom Conrad is joined by licensed mental health counselor Brian Wood, known as B Wood, and primary therapist Maya to discuss the transformative impact of experiential therapy in substance abuse and mental health treatment. Through a deep dive into B Wood's journey from Barbados to becoming a pivotal figure in art therapy, the discussion reveals how engaging with the arts and other experiential modalities can facilitate healing beyond traditional talk therapy.
By embracing creativity, participants can explore their emotions, confront trauma, and discover a path to self-worth and legacy. The episode is punctuated with powerful stories of transformation, an exploration of the therapeutic impact of art on the brain, and B Wood's contributions to the community through mural projects and programs for human trafficking victims, veterans, and at-risk youth.
In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we delve into the topic of online counseling in the journey towards recovery. Join us as we explore the emergence of virtual therapy platforms and their role in breaking down barriers to access treatment. We will share our opinions for who it is best for and who will most likely benefit the most from virtual therpy.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, host Tom Conrad and Dr. Tambini engage in a heartfelt and insightful conversation with guest Morgan, exploring her unique journey from battling addiction to rediscovering her passion for yoga and fitness and eventually contributing positively to the recovery community. Morgan candidly shares the pivotal moments that led her from giving up her childhood swimming passion for partying to her subsequent struggle with addiction.
Through her recovery journey, Morgan discovers the transformative power of yoga and fitness, not only in recovering from addiction but also in improving her overall mental health and well-being. The conversation touches on the importance of choosing the right level of care, the role of parents in the recovery process, and the undeniable connection between physical health and recovery.
Morgan also delves into her current role as a recovery companion, highlighting the intimate and impactful work she does by living with and supporting individuals struggling with addiction and mental health challenges across the United States. This episode emphasizes the theme of turning one's mess into a powerful message of hope and transformation.
In this deeply personal episode of Real Recovery Talk, we delve into the transformative journey of Brian, who bravely shares his struggles with ADHD and addiction, and his courageous path to sobriety. Growing up with ADHD, Brian faced numerous challenges that often left him feeling misunderstood and disconnected. He eventually turned to substances as a means of coping, only to find himself trapped in a cycle of addiction.
Through introspection and determination, he embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing. With the support of loved ones and professional guidance, Brian confronted his demons head-on, embracing sobriety.
Join us as Brian shares the pivotal moments that shaped his recovery, offering insight and inspiration to those grappling with similar struggles. His story serves as a powerful reminder that, despite the challenges we face, redemption is always within reach for those who dare to believe in the possibility of change.
Tune in to Real Recovery Talk as we celebrate Brian's triumphs and explore the profound lessons he's learned along the way. It you have any questions you can reach us at info@realrecoverytalk.com
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In this powerful episode, Destiny shares her incredible journey of nearly 7 years of sobriety, marked by the pivotal moment of a life-altering car accident. From the depths of addiction to the heights of recovery, Destiny's story is one of resilience, growth, and the unwavering determination to overcome. Tune in as she reveals how the accident served as a wake-up call, propelling her towards a life filled with purpose and joy, and offering hope to anyone grappling with their own battles.
In this episode we have a conversation about the often overlooked connection between bariatric surgery and alcoholism. In this episode, we unpack the unique challenges and risks associated with alcohol use post-surgery, as well as strategies for maintaining sobriety and optimal health. Whether you're considering bariatric surgery or supporting someone who has undergone the procedure, this episode offers valuable insights and guidance for navigating the journey towards a healthier, alcohol-free lifestyle.
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In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, we delve deep into the complex intersection of pain management and addiction. Join us as we unravel the tangled web of physical discomfort, pharmaceutical solutions, and the very real risk of addiction that lurks within.
Pain is a universal human experience, and for many, finding relief becomes a top priority. But what happens when the quest for pain management leads down a slippery slope towards addiction? That's exactly the question we explore in this episode.
But this episode isn't just about highlighting the problem – it's also about showcasing solutions. We discuss some of innovative approaches to pain management that prioritize patient well-being and minimize the risk of addiction. From mindfulness techniques to personalized treatment plans, we uncover the tools and strategies that offer hope in the face of adversity.
Join us for this conversation that's equal parts informative and inspiring. Whether you're grappling with chronic pain, supporting a loved one in need, or simply seeking a better understanding of this complex issue, this episode is sure to leave you with a fresh perspective and renewed sense of hope.
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In this compelling episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Pat, a retired cop with 20 years of service under his belt, who shares his courageous journey to sobriety. From patrolling the streets to navigating the complexities of addiction, Pat's story is one of resilience, redemption, and the power of second chances.
Pat realized that his reliance on alcohol was spiraling out of control, threatening to consume his very identity. With the support of his family and fellow officers, Pat made the courageous decision to confront his addiction head-on and take the first steps toward a life of sobriety.
From the challenges of detox to the joys of newfound clarity, Pat shares the highs and lows of his recovery journey with raw honesty and vulnerability. Through therapy, support groups, and a newfound sense of purpose, Pat has emerged from the darkness of addiction stronger, wiser, and more determined than ever to live life to the fullest.
But perhaps the most inspiring part of Pat's story is his unwavering commitment to paying it forward. As a retired cop, he continues to advocate for addiction awareness and support within the law enforcement community, offering hope and encouragement to those who may be struggling in silence. Pat is the host of a podcast title CJEvolution. It can be found on all the podcast players and youtube.
So grab a cup of coffee and join us for this powerful conversation as we celebrate Pat's journey from the beat to the bright side of sobriety. It's a story of courage, resilience, and the transformative power of redemption – one that will inspire listeners from all walks of life.
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Hey there! Kick back, relax, and join us for another episode where we dive into the fascinating world of addiction. Today, we're exploring a concept that's as easy to remember as your ABCs but perhaps a tad more complex: the 4 C's of addiction.
We'll start by breaking down what the 4 C's are all about: craving, control, continued use, and compulsion. Don't worry if you're not familiar with these terms – we've got you covered!
First up, craving. We'll chat about those intense desires that sneak up on us when we least expect it, whether it's a sudden urge for a sweet treat or a longing for that nicotine fix. We'll explore what triggers these cravings and how they play a role in the addictive process.
Next, we'll tackle control – or rather, the lack thereof. From gambling to substance abuse, addiction has a knack for hijacking our ability to regulate our behaviors. But fear not! We'll discuss strategies for regaining a sense of autonomy and reclaiming control over our lives.
Of course, no discussion about addiction would be complete without mentioning consequences brought by continued use! We'll take a candid look at the ripple effects of addictive behaviors, from strained relationships to financial woes. But hey, it's not all doom and gloom – we'll also explore ways to mitigate these consequences and move towards a healthier, happier lifestyle.
Last but not least, we'll delve into the concept of compulsion. Ever found yourself engaging in a behavior despite knowing it's not in your best interest? Yeah, we've been there too. We'll unpack the psychology behind these compulsive tendencies and share some insights on breaking free from their grip.
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In this episode we take a deep dive into Cardivascular health and the impacts that our addictions can have on our hearts! Dr. T goes into details as to what each substance can do to our hearts and the things to look out for if you or someone you know struggle with addiction. If you have any questions you can reach us at info@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, we discuss a potentially new bill that is being passed in Florida that is discussing medical marijuana. If you've been listening to the podcast for any length of time, you know by now, our stance on medical marijuana and when we think that it is beneficial versus when we think it is detrimental to someone's recovery. We also discuss the Kansas City chiefs parade and our thoughts on Travis Kelce, and Patrick Mahomes being drunken drunks during the parade! If you have any questions you can reach us at info@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode of RRT, we delve into the delicate yet vital topic of relationships in early recovery. Join us as we navigate the complexities of rebuilding connections, fostering intimacy, and nurturing healthy bonds during this transformative period.
We explore the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and cultivating self-awareness in building strong and supportive connections. Through real conversations and personal experience, we discuss the joys and pitfalls of forming intimate relationships during this vulnerable phase of recovery.
Join us as we embark on a journey of healing, resilience, and rediscovery, highlighting the power of connection in the journey toward lasting sobriety and fulfillment. Whether you're navigating your own recovery journey or supporting a loved one, this episode offers valuable insights and inspiration for fostering meaningful relationships in early sobriety. If you have any questions you can reach us at Info@realrecoverytalk.com
The podcast delves into a significant event involving the father of NFL superstar Patrick Mahomes, Sr., who was involved in a DUI (Driving Under the Influence) incident. We analyze the incident from multiple angles, examining its impact not only on Mahomes Sr. but also on his son's career and public image.
We discuss the ramifications of such a high-profile figure's personal struggles, including the potential legal consequences and societal implications. We delve into the broader issue of alcohol-related incidents and the responsibilities of public figures to set positive examples.
Moreover, we discuss the potential effects on Patrick Mahomes Jr., who is a prominent athlete in his own right. How does his father's actions reflect on him? How might this incident influence his relationships with sponsors, teammates, and fans?
We also address themes such as forgiveness, redemption, and the importance of acknowledging and learning from mistakes. We explore how Mahomes Sr. and his family navigate the aftermath of the incident and work towards personal growth and accountability.
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In this episode we discuss Mental Health and the things that we see on an everyday basis with people who are trying to get sober. Mental health is something that we dont take lightly and know that it is important to see it for what it is. We alse believe that people can rest on their diagnosis and it can prevent them from taking further action in getting better. If you have any questions you can reach us at info@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I had on Erin who works with Flyland Detox and Residential facilites. We asked Erin to come on the show because she is a STRONG female in recovery and knows what it is like when it comes to beating our addiction. Erin has a great story which includes many treatment attempts. We know you will find value in this episode and hopefully you can understand better what people go thru when getting clean and sober! If you have any questions you can reach us at INFO@realrecoverytalk.com
In this this episode Ben has on Allison and David with Stoked on Life. Allison and David wanted to come on the podcast and discuss surf therapy and how they have seen it work with drug addicts and alcoholics. Allison and David are both very open about their own recovery and why they found it necessary to start their nonprofit foundation. It's an interesting episode and we think you will learn a lot and will have a better understanding as to how surf therapy can help someone when recovering from addiction and alcoholism! If you have any questions you can reach us at Info@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episdoe Ben, myself and Dr. Tambini role-play a phone call and what it would normally sound like when we're speaking to parents and loved ones. Often times we find parents and loved ones ask a lot of questions but end up getting a lot of answers that they don't necessarily need. You will hear what a typical phone conversation would normally sound like and the direction that it needs to go in order to get them to help that you want. If you have any questions you can reach us at info@rockrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode we have on Madison! She wanted to come on the show and share her journey and what it has been like getting sober this time around. Madison talks in detail about what it was like for her when she relapsed and where she is at today. Its a conversation that will help yopu understand that no matter the situation you are in, there is always help out there! If you have any questions you can reach us at Info@realrecoveytalk.com
In this episode, we have on Johnny Rios. Johnny is a licensed mental health counselor who has worked many years in the addiction field. Johnny now spends his time coaching and training men on how to live a more purposeful life. Johnny has helped a lot of men find meaning in their lives and give them a connection with themselves and their families. We talk a lot in detail about what he found has worked when dealing with addiction, and how if we can have addicts find purpose and meaning, it will help them stay sober long-term. If you have any questions you can email us at info@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode, we discuss your typical over-the-counter drugs like cough medicine, Benadryl, Robitussin, and your typical allergy medication's. It might be easy to think while these are over the counter they can't be that harmful, but in reality, they can be extremely harmful. We get into detail about the chemical compounds of these drugs and how they can affect our brain and ultimately become extremely dangerous drugs if not taken properly. If you have any questions, you can email us at info@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode we talk about alcohol detox and if it makes sense for you to go into an in-patient. You may have experienced detox symptoms such as anxiety, night sweats, racing heart or even mild hallucinations. Either way, if you are drinking a lot and feel detox is necessary then you should entertain the idea of going to an inpatient setting. If you have any questions you can reach us at info@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have on a long time listener! Lorenzo has been listening to the podcast for a long time and we have had the honor of sitting with him and hearing his story. Lorenzo has 22 years of clean time and goes into detail as to what his clean time has looked like over the years. He spend many years not attending meetings and he shares the once isolated incident that made him realize that he needs to start going back to meetings. If you have any questions you can reach us at Info@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, we discuss everything alcohol detox. It is pretty well known that detoxing off of alcohol can be rather hard and very dangerous. Make sure you make an informed decision and also consult your doctor before making any decisions on your own. This is a crucial part of your recovery process, and we would not want you to get this part wrong. A lot of times, people try and detox on their own, only to find themselves drinking more and more and putting themselves in a worse off possession. If you have any questions, you can reach us at info@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode of real recovery talk we have on a special guest named Keith. Keith has a remarkable story and he has come on to share it with you all. It's really hard to believe some of the stuff that he has gone through in the past, but he shares how he is grateful for all of it, and what it has given him today. Keith has really built a life for himself over the last 15 years and makes it a part of his mission to help others recover from drug addiction. If you have any questions you can reach us at info@rockrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode we have a young man named Seth come on the show and share what his experience has been like thus far in treatment at Rock Recovery Center. Seth, in the beginning, was unsure if he wanted to be sober. After spending some time around good people and seeing what sobriety is REALLY about, he has decided that this is something that he would like to do for a long time!
If you have any questions you can reach us at INFO@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have on Dr. Tambini. We discuss all things medically, assisted treatment, including Suboxone, Subutex, methadone, vivitrol, and naltrexone. This is a very debatable topic, and we share a lot of our opinions when it comes to MAT in general. Please understand that this is from our experience and what we have seen over the years working with thousands of clients at this point. If you have any questions, you can email us at info@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode we have on Bridgette and she gets into detail of her sons overdose and the things that she has learned during the process. We talk a lot about how she had to help herself during the process while her son was getting help. She shares in detail the things that she has done during this process and how she was able to live in peace finally. If you have any questions you can reach us at INFO@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have on Steve and we discuss when we think it would be an appropriate time to try and stop smoking and vaping. Often times we have people that want to try and quit numerous things all at once and we dont think that it is a very good idea. We stress to people to only quit one thing at a time. If you have questions you can reach us at iNFO@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have on Dr. Tambini again and we get into details about ADHD and the effects that it has on addiction. Its a great conversation and I learned things that I didnt know. If you have any questions you can reach us at INFO@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have on Matt! We had such a good conversation and went into a lot of detail about his past and where his addiction took him. We discuss what it finally took for him to get sober and what it was like for him coming out as a gay man. Matt is such an inspiration to others and has such a good heart. We had an amazing time in this interview and we hope that you feel the same! If you have any questions you can reach us at Info@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have on Dr. Tambini. She will me coming on the podcast once a week to help address the medical side of addiction! She has been working in the field for 8 years and is a Board Certified Addictionologist. We are so happy to be able to add her to the show and we know that she is going to bring so much value to YOU the listener! If you have any questions you can reach us at INFO@realrecoverytalk.com
Hey everyone! In this episode we have a guest on named Jared! Jared has a hell of a story and he gets into detail about what he has been through in his life as a result of his addiction. He gets very open and honest about where he life was heading and ultimately when he was contemplating suicide. Jared went from being an IV heroin user to fighting professionally in mixed martial arts.
Jared has been through so much but admits that he is grateful for all of it. He has had people by his side the whole way and talks openly about his relationship with God and how that relationship has gotten him through the toughest of times. If you have any questions you can reach us at INFO@realrecoverytalk.com
Hey Everyone! In this episode we have on Joey. Joey is a 25 year old male who is really thriving in his sobriety right now. Joey talks a lot in detail about what his upbringing was like and ultimately how addiction took over his life. Joey gets very vulnerable and discusses with us a lot of his fears around sobriety and how he can best manage his anxiety moving forward. He also discusses a lot about how he is bought into sobriety at this stage because of the fact he is seeing sobriety work in other peoples lives. If you have any questions you can reach us at info@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episdeo Ben and I discuss some of the things that we are grateful for! The podcast is something that we really enjoy doing and are grateful to be able to come on here and share with you all every week! We hope to be able to bring you great content week after week! If you have any questions you can reach us at Info@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, Ben and I have on Jeremy. Jeremy comes on the show and shares in detail what it was like for him while he was drinking and drugging and ultimately what it took for him to get sober. He talks about the first time that he really experienced the sense of a strong community and how it impacted him getting sober. We talk a lot about fitness and why it's important to incorporate fitness into your daily routine and how it can better make you feel and your sobriety journey. If you have any questions you can reach us at info@rockrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode, Ben and I have on Adam Banks, who is a certified interventionist. Adam Banks has a lot of experience when it comes to doing interventions and what they can possibly do when done properly. Adam gets in detail a little bit about his story and how he finally decided to get sober and what it took for him to finally put down the drugs and alcohol. Adam then discusses in detail what are an intervention entails, and how to properly go about one. If you have any questions you can reach us at info@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode, I'll give you five tips on how you can maintain your sobriety through the holidays. Often times people enter into the holidays without a plan, and they don't really think through the potential risks they could be posed with throughout the holiday season. The holidays often times consist of a lot of drugs and alcohol and you need to be prepared for that and have a plan. Don't let yourself be caught off guard. If you have any questions you can reach out at info@rockrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode we have on Dom Scalzo. Dom has a heck of a story around his addiction and where it took him. He shared what it finally took for him to put down the drugs and adopt a lifestyle of sobriety and fitness. Dom was at one point 260 lbs which is 80 heavier than what he is today. He trains people across the globe in nutrition and fitness and is currently training to run a 100 mile terrain race! Dom will give you the inspiration you need to not only succeed in your sobriety but also achieve you health and fitness goals as well. If you have any questions you can reach us at info@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, Ben and I have on Sean. Sean is the cofounder of lit which is a program available to families that have struggled with loved ones who are addicted. Often times I don't know who to turn to or how to navigate the situation which is why Sean started this nonprofit organization four years ago. In this episode, you'll find out different strategies that you can utilize to navigate the current situation that you are in and you also be left with resources that you can use to help you with your situation. If you have any questions, you can email us at info@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have on Will and we discuss with him what it was life getting sober for him. He spent 6 years as a Marine. We talk about what it was like for him transitioning back to civilian life and how it made it difficult for him to get sober. We talk in detail about what his life was life and what it is like now! If you have any questions you can reach us at INFO@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I are joined with Steve and we talk about a bunch of stuff! Im not exactly sure where some of this content came from but we know that you will enjoy it! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, we have on Ben Harrison. We discuss in detail why it is important. We feel to have a therapist, even though you have worked a 12 step program or our currently working a 12 step program. Often times people assume that just because they are in recovery, they don't need a therapist, which we challenge that thought. We feel that it is vital for people to continue seeing a therapist no matter what, because what do you have to lose? If you have any comments, questions or concerns, you can reach us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, Ben and I discuss what it means to be strong and our sobriety across all four dimensions, being physically, mentally emotionally and spiritually. Often times we see people get so caught up in the physical presentation that they put off to others they forget about the other three areas. It doesn't necessarily matter how much weight you can lift or how fast you can run, but how are you handle situations that are stressful and how you handle yourself in tough situations. Are you vulnerable? Are you emotionally available to others? Do you handle yourself with respect and do you have a good moral compass? These are all questions that we cover in this episode. If you have any questions, comments or concerns you could reach is tom@rockrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk..
In this episode we have on Alyssa. She is the host of The Banyan Podcast which is another show all about addiction! She tells her story on addiction and what it was like getting clean and what it finally took for her to surrender. She has a great story of hope and inpiration for other women and we know that you will get a lot out of this episode! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I discuss what sobriety can do for people and who so many people dont get to experience what TRUE sobriety is about. It involves work and effort and if you are not willing to do either of those things then you are not going to have the full experiences from sobriety! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, Ben and I have on Stephany, who shares her story of being a mom of an addict. Stephany shares about what it was like for her going through this process, and when she finally came to the realization that she hast to help her self in order to help her loved one. Stephany shares in detail the things that she went through trying to help her loved one, where she went wrong and what she did right. Stephany also discusses the programs that she has worked over the past few years that has really helped her understand her role in the whole recovery journey. If you have any questions, you can always reach us tom@rockrecoverytalk.com and ben@rockrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode, Ben and I discuss how people try and get sober and 30 days without taking into consideration that they spent decades, drinking and drugging. It's not a simple process and it does take time and effort. It's been our experience that the longer that one is in treatment, the much higher chance of long-term sobriety they have. Often times people treat sobriety like a quick fix diet, they want to go away for 30 days and hope that they can stay sober just from doing that and unfortunately that rarely works. If you have any comments, questions or concerns you can always reach us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com.
Ben and I had a blast interviewing Matt who is the founder of FROPRO. A delicious snack bar that gives you the energy you need to get through till your next meal! Matt has a heck of a story and we were honored to have him on and share his recovery story and what it took for him to start his business. You are really going to enjoy this one! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have on Steve and we talk about enjoying the journey of recovery rather than the destination. We talk about setting small goals for ourselves and being able to attain those rather than setting to large of goals for oureselves. If you have any questions you can reach out at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, I discuss with you the importance of diet and exercise, when getting clean and sober off drugs and alcohol. We often times take it for granted that our body will just automatically become healthy because we stopped using drugs and drinking alcohol. The reality of it is is that we did a lot of damage to our bodies and it's gonna take some time for us to get our bodies back to a normal level of healthiness. If you have any questions, you can always reach out to tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com.
Does your loved one not want to accept help with their addiction? Are you willing to give them the help but they are neglecting the help completely? In this episode we discuss a couple of tactics that you can use to ensure that they get the help that they need. Some of this may be hard to hear, but it is the truth! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, Ben and I have a conversation with Steve around relationships in recovery and why it's detrimental to people in early sobriety. We also discussed the importance of having a strong community of people within our sober net work. We then venture off and do some fantasy football drama where Steve has been let down yet again by the Cleveland Browns then we discuss my upcoming trip to Melbourne Florida with my son. If you have any comments, questions or concerns, you can always reach us tom@realrecoverytalk.com, and ben@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this video we discuss the difference of AA and NA and why both programs are VERY helpful for people on their journey to sobriety. We also discuss the importance of building community within sobriety! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I discuss what spirituality means to us. We discuss its pitalls within the AA program and where we think people fall short when it comes to spirituality. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I discuss with you three questions that I would suggest asking ANY treatment center before committing to going there. Often times treatment centers will make their website look a certain sort of way to attract for clients only to find out when you get there, it is nothing like it was presented. DO NOT BE FOOLED! Not all treatment centers are created equal! If you have any questions you can reach out at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have on a gentleman named Joey. We talk in detail about his addiction and where it took him. We get into details about what it was like going to treatment here in Florida and some to the corruptness that was taking place within the substance abuse industry. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, Ben and I have a conversation around sponsorship. We discuss what we believe is the job of a sponsor, and we also discuss what we believe is not the job of a sponsor. There are people out there that tend to have these lines blurred, and it is ultimately at the expense of the one trying to get sober. If you have any questions, you can always reach us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com, and ben@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode we have on Amy and she shares her story of being on suboxone for 21 years! We get into detail about what it was like for her while being on Suboxone and what it is like now that she has been in our ABSTINENCE BASED program now for the last 60 says. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, we have a discussion around boundaries. The parents can set boundaries not only with themselves, but their loved ones so that they can fully experience what treatment has to offer. Often times we run into the situation's where parents and loved ones find it absolutely necessary to interject their opinions into their loved ones treatment. They often times will tell us how they think things should go, and the approach that we need to take in order to help their loved one get clean and sober.
We won't take our hard, earned money and invested into the stock market through a financial advisor and then tell them exactly how we want it done, right? This is the same exact situation. If you have any questions, you can always reach us at Tom @realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com.
in this episode, we have on Tristan who suffered an overdose in early January of this year. Tristan is extremely lucky that he is alive and with us today. Tristan ended up going to treatment for the second time to address his addiction. Through hard work and surrender to his disease of addiction Tristan is coming up on eight months of sobriety, and couldn't be happier. Tristan talks in detail about not wanting to be involved in treatment and at points in his sobriety wanting to give up. Through hard work and spending his time with good people, Tristan has that himself up for success in the future and is now on a mission to help people who were just like him. If you have any questions about your specific situation, you can email us at tom@rockrecoverytalk.com and ben@rockrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode Ben and I discuss with Rod what it was like for him getting sober and why it was so important for him to surrender to the process. Rod shares in detail what the program has done for him and how he is helping the homeless community. If you have any questions you can reach out to Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I discuss how the 12 steps can be incorporated into business and our everyday lives! There are a lot of parallel's when it comes to business and the 12 steps. We believe that you become a better person and a better employess as a result of the steps which is why we believe that the steps should be taught in school! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have on Alex and Maya (primary therapist at Rock Recovery Center) and we discuss ACOA and what the benefits are from working that program. We get into detail around dysfuntional familes and what are things to look out for within these dynamics. Alex talks in detail how working an ACOA program has given her insight into her past that she never knew existed. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have on Rabbi Mark and he discusses his journey of sobriety and what it took for him to finally surrender. We get into a lot of details with AA and some of the history around AA. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I have on Jordan and we have a lot of fun talking about his recovery and what he is up to now! Jordan has been on tour across the world playing drums for different bands all while speading the message of mental health and the ways that we can improve ourselves. He gets into detail about his own mental helath issues and what he has done to recover from those. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, Ben and I have on Reverend Glenn, who shares his story about how he has maintain his sobriety for 39 years!
Reverend Glenn is one of those guys that you can just sit back and listen to for hours on end and soak up all the wisdom that he has to offer. I think he will get a lot out of this episoWith understanding what sobriety looks like from an long-term sobriety perspective. If you have any questions you can reach out to us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com, and then at real recoverytalk.com.
In this episode I discuss with you why I believe that people sabotage their sobriety and end up going back out drinking and using drugs. It is unfortunate because people can spend a lot of time trying to get sober only to find themselves going in and out of treatment for years on end letting their lives pass them by. If you have any questions you can reach out at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
in this episode, Ben and I have on Chris, who comes on the show to discuss his sobriety that he had over the course of eight years and ultimately how he ended up relapsing. He goes into detail about his childhood being brought up and how he ended up becoming addicted to drugs and alcohol. Chris is very open about his relapse and everything that led up to it and also where he is at right now with his recovery. If you have any questions, you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have on Chris Martinez and Matt Anderson. Chris is the owner of Resilience Recovery which is a program that treats adolescents that struggle with addiction. We get into a lot of detail with topics ranging from what substances they are using, the music they are listening to and what is the proper way to treat them. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have a discussion around an article that I found that discusses how they have found that Gen Z are not consuming as much alcohol as millenials. We discuss why we think that is and where we think that things are trending. If you have any questions you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
Hey there! We are finally here! We are at step 12 of the program of alcoholics anonymous! This is where we finally get to take other people through the steps and show them what has worked for us! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I and have Steve and we discuss making progress in our recovery not only within the 12 step program but in every aspect of our lives. We often times see people crushing it in their sobriety and 12 step program but when it comes to their overall health and wellness, that takes a back seat. We believe that it is all encompassing and everything needs to be tended to in order to thrive! If you have and questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I discuss what the actual job of a sponsor is! We often times hear people say that they want a sponsor that is going to call them out on their BS but we DO NOT AGREE with that at all! You will be interested to find why we have our opinions around this. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I am glad to say that Ben is back from his trip and we talk a little bit about what he had going on up there in Minnesota. He discusses what it was like to go to meetings up there and how it was different going there with 12 years of sobriety. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, I discuss with you ways in which you can stay motivated when your sobriety just isn't that great. There are going to be points of time in our sobriety when it doesn't seem worth it. I gave you a few items that you can implement today that will help you stay on the track of long lasting recovery. You have to trust that it will be worth it in the long run and it's not going to be easy all the time. If you have any questions, you can reach out to us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode I discuss with you what it looks like when someone first comes home from treatment or is just getting sober. I have a lot of conversations with families and loved ones and they often times dont know what to say or how to act when their loved one returns home from treatment. In this episode I give you some tangible items that you can use for when your loved one does return home! If you have any questions you can reach out at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I discuss with you the importance of sober living and why it is SO important! There are things that we need when getting sober. Structure, community and STRONG recovery being the 3 main points. If you have ANY questions you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
Hey everyone! In this episode we continue on with our step study and today we are on Step 11! This is where we can talk to a God of our understanding and also listen to see if we get any feedback! It may not be exactly the way that you think it is! There is a lot to this step so make sure to listen the whole way through! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have on Megan and Ariel from Roseway Soberliving for females. Roseway is a great option for those who have completed treatment and are looking for the next steps in their recovery! If you have any questions about your situation you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I discuss whether or not we feel if it is beneficial to work the steps more than one time? There are a lot of differing opinions when it comes to this topic, so we are sharing from our experience and what we think is going to be the most benefial for you in the long run? If you have any questions about your specific situation you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
Are you new to sobriety and dont know what it is all about? In this episode we take a deep dive into what it is like to help someone that is new to the whole "recovery" thing. We have on Erik who has an amazing story and does such a good job at introducing people to a 12 step program, the PROPER way. I think that you will enjoy how he articulates his experiences and how he uses his past to help others today! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I discuss the topic of AA meetings and why, sometimes, people say that they cant identify with people in AA. There is a lot that goes into this tpoic and it is important that we discuss it. A lot of times people will get turned off of AA based on their very first experience and that is not good! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com
and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I disuss step 10 and what it means to take personal inventory! This is a crucial step and is considered a maintenence step. This is where we get to see a lot of that growth that has been had within us! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have on Jaclyn who shares with us her story of addiction and recovery. She goes into detail with everything that she had to go thru to get to where she is today. This is a great episode of you have been struggling with taking the first step to changing your life! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
This episode was so much fun! We had to Ryan and he shares his story about being addicted to substances and where it led him to. Ryan talks openly about the struggles that he has had to go through to get to where he is today! Ryan his found his purpose through paddleboarding and bringing people to love the sport just as much as he does! Yall are going to really enhoy this one! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we get into the amends process! This is where we make theings right with the people that we have wronged! This is a big growth step for people and needs to be done right! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I discuss both steps 6 and 7. They are very important steps in the process and can not be glanced over! This is a pivotal point in our journey and this is where a lot of change takes place! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, Ben and I have on Eddie. Eddie shares his story about growing up in Philadelphia, and the path that his drug addiction took him down. He then goes into detail as to how he ended up getting sober in the life that his sobriety has given him up to this point. Eddie now has 13 years of continuous sobriety and isn't looking back. If you have any questions, you can reach out to us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com.
As we continue our step study here we are on step 5! This is a big step for people to take and Ben and I talk about our experiences with it and the benefits that we had. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I discuss some of the mistakes that we have made in our recovery and the mistakes that we see other people make when they are getting sober. We have learned a lot over the years and want to share with you all the things that we have seen so hopefully you dont make the same mistakes! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we discuss step 4 of Alcoholics Anonymous. We discuss what a proper 4th step looks like and where people go wrong when doing this step. Please remember we do not represent AA as a whole and this is from our own experiences. If you have any questions you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I get into step 3 and what it means to us. Please remember we do not represent AA as a whole nor any other 12 step program. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I discuss with you the two common things that cause people to relapse. It is ok to have relationship and to want to make money. When it becomes the focal point of our lives is when we can run into trouble. I hope to open your mind to what it looks like having balance in our recovery. If you have questions you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have on Brave who is currently getting ready to transition out of Rock Recovery Center and and head back home to Illinois where he will practice all of the skills that he has learned while here. Brave at one point had 9 years of sobriety and he talks about what happened with him and how he ended up relpsing and ultimately what he did to get back on track. If you have any questions you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, Ben and I break down step two of Alcoholics Anonymous. We are going to take a deep dive into what it says about step two in the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous and how it is often interpreted by recovering alcoholics. We hope at the end of this episode, you have a better understanding of step two, and how it can help you with long-term sustainable sobriety. If you have any questions about your specific situation, you can reach out to us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have a discussion around AA and how it has helped millions of people around the globe get sober. We take a deep dive into Step One and the menaing behind it. This is part of a series where we will be explaining each step in detail and what it means. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode it is just me and I share with you all my story. There is a lot that has happened over the years and I thought that it would be a good idea for you all to hear from me how I got to where I am today. I hope you enjoy! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
Hey everyone! in this episode Ben discusses what it was like for him the first time that he want to treatment. He talks about all the things that SHOULD NOT happen while in treatment. We give you pointers and guidance on what to look for and the questions to ask. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I discuss when it is appropriate to talk to your loved ones about the things that they have done in the past. We often times get this question and it is hard to decide if it is ok to bring up their past mistakes. Ben and I give our thoughts on this and if we think there is a time and place to talk about this stuff. If you have any questions you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
Hey everyone! In this episode we have on Jack who shares his story of recovery as this is his first time in treatment. Jack shares how he had so much going for him and when he was faced with tough times all he knew that would comfort him was drugs and alcohol. This drove him into a deep addiction, where he ultimately found himself going into treatment! Jack now has an opportunity to really capitalize on his life and make something for himself! If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
Hey everyone! In this episode Ben and I have on a couple of guests who are with Boca Recovery Center. BRC is a Detox and Residential facility and they have came on the show to discuss what ll goes into properly detoxing someone when they are coming off of drugs and alcohol. If you have ever wondered what goes into properly detoxing someone, this is a good episode to listen to! If you have any questions about your specific situation you can always reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, Ben and I have on Frank. Frank wanted to come on the show and discuss his experience strength and hope with everyone and how he got sober. Frank talks openly about his living in New York and how it was a struggle for him to get clean while there. Frank has worked a program of recovery in Narcotics Anonymous for nearly the last 14 years and he shares in detail what it took for him to finally realize what recovery really meant. If you have any questions about your specific situation, you can always reach out to us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode we have on Ryan do you want to come on and share his story on how he got sober. Brian is somebody that had a couple of treatment times in the past, only to find himself in a desperate situation when he finally realized he's needed to get sober. Luckily for Ryan, he had a couple people in his life that really stepped up to the plate for him, and set him up on a path of success. If you have any comments, questions or concerns, you can reach out to us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com enjoy the show.
In this episode we have on Mike who shares his story on how he got sober at 26 years old. We dont often head about the people that get sober after only going to treatment one time! Here we have a guy that said enough is enough and it was time to make a change. Mike shares his story on what it was like when he was using and what is like now that he is clean and sober almost 9 years! If you have comments or questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode, Ben and I have on Justin, who shares his story about how he got clean and sober inside prison. Justin spent just about four years inside prison walls, but inside those walls is when he had his spiritual experience, and was then finally able to get clean and sober. Justin goes into detail about his drug addiction and ultimately want to talk from him and his life. If you have any questions about your specific situation, you can reach out to us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode Ben and I have on a dear friend names BEN as well! Ben is a man who has stayed sober for 21 years and shares his story on the struggles that he had growing up as a gay man and how it fueled his addiction. He also shares his struggles through recovery being a gay man and the REVELATION that he had 3 years into his recovery that changed everything for him! If you have any questions about your specific situation you can email is at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have on Greg who shares his story on how he got clean and sober and what it took for him to finally get there. Greg is very open about his faith and what it has done for him this time around. If you have any questions you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have on two therapists that work here at Rock Recovery Center! Nicole and Maya wanted to come on and share how the have seem families impacted by their addictions and what they can do to help. We often times look over the families and dont focus on what they can do to help themselves. If you have questions you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have Nick who is a 19 year old young adult who has a opportunity ahead of him that he has taken advantage of! Nick is well on his way to create a life for himself that will serve him very well in the years to come! You will hear a message of gratitude in this episode and we are thankful to be a part of Nicks journey!
In this episode we have a guest on names Tim! Tim has decided to attend treatment here at Rock Recovery Center in Florida all the way from California! We get into detail about why it took so long for Tim to get sober and ultimately what help him back for so long! We have a great conversation and I know you will anjoy it! Enjoy the Show!
In this episode, Ben and I have an opportunity to sit down with Jack, who decided he wanted to share his story with all of you. Jack first was addicted to many hours in the gym. Jack shared that his gym addiction was to address an internal issue that stemmed from a lot of bullying in high school. Once Jack got a hernia from too much time in the gym, he turned to marijuana. Jack shares how his marijuana use caused him to try other things and and how it all affected his life. If you have any questions you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode myself, Ben and Steve have a discussion both around Suboxone and Xanax. We discuss what our observations have been with both ourselves, and others, when is comes to taking this drugs. We talk about the pitfalls of taking them and ultimately what it can do to you in a negative manner. If you have any questions about your specific situation you can always reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I want to discuss with you find your WHY behind getting sober. I know I have talked about this before but I think it is worth bringing up again. It is easy to stop using substances, but what is going to keep you from picking up again? This is why I ask people to define their "why" when getting sober. If you have any questions you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have a discussion with anthony who has opted to come on the show and share his experience with getting clean and sober! Anthony is open about how many times he went to treatment and ulitmately what it took for him to finally stop using. If you have any questions about your specific situation you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have on Matt Anderson again to have a discussion around helping other people and spreading the message of HOPE! Far to often, people go into a 12 step meeting and dont get the message that they are needing to hear. If you have any questions about your specific situation you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have a discussion with Billy. BIlly is a good friend of ours that has had his struggles with drugs and alcohol. Billy is now clean 6+ years and he goes into detail about what it took for him to finally stop. If you have any questions about your specific situation you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I discuss the process that it took for him and I to build the careers that we have lover the past 10 years. We often times hear from people in early recovery, that they want to work in treatment. Although we think that it is a very good field of work to be involved in, we also think that you have to be in the right position and mindset to be able to take that on.
If you have any questions about your situation you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have a conversation with Brian who shares his story about getting sober. Brian shares what his mindset was before deciding to get clean and sober and how things quickly changed for him when he started his recovery journey. Brian talks a lot about how his mindset shifted once he started opening up to people and how that helped him. If you have questions about your situation you can contact us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
Hey there! In this episode Ben and I discuss rehab remonaces! We see them all to often and they 99.999% of the time never work. We talk in detail about our specific situations when attempting this and how it ended up for us! If you have any questions about your situation you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I have a discussion around parents and loved ones of people trying to get clean and sober. There are times when they think that they are helping when in fact all they are doing is hurting. If parents and loved ones were able to just step back and leave things up to the professionals then it would make the situations a lot easier! It is very easy for people to get caught up in their emotions and think that they are doing good, when in fact they are not! If you have any questions about your specific situation you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
It is January 1st! Can you believe it? Another year is down, and nother one to come. WHat are you going to do different this year? Are you going to get sober? If you are sober, lets do something to ANTI-UP your sobriety! If you have any questions of comments please feel free to reach out at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
On this show, we have on Tara, who talks in detail about her recovery over the years. Tara talks a lot about her history with drug use, and how she ended up becoming an addict at a very young age. Tara talks a lot about her recovery and sobriety and how she tries to make an impact on people today. If you have any questions about your specific situation, you can reach out to us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com, and ben@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode we have on Steve! We wanted to come on and just talk Christmas! Steve shares about his past Christmas's when he was in active addiction and what it is like now! If you have any questions, comments or concerns you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we take a deep dive into the minds of the insurance companies when it comes to covering treatment for addiction. We have a special guest, Brad, who's job is to talk to the insurance companies and get them to cover as much treatment as possible! It is very interesting to hear from Brads perspective what the insurance companies are looking for. Enjoy the Show!
In this episode we have a special guest Matt Anderson! Matt has a heck of a story and has come on the show to share it with all of you!
In this episode, I have a conversation with Tom, who, seemingly on the surface has it all put together. Tom does struggle with alcoholism and is on his journey of sobriety as we speak. Tom speaks in detail about how alcoholism has affected his life and ultimately taken a lot of freedoms away from him. Tom shares his gratitude for his sobriety today and the things that he is looking forward to in the future with his newfound recovery. If you have any questions, comments or concerns about your specific situation, you can always reach out to us at Tom @realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode we have on Steve who is a clinical case worker here at Rock Recovery Center. Steve spends his days working with each individual client making sure that they are attaining their goals they have set for themselves all while advancing in their recovery. In this episode you will see the things that we look for when someone goes through the treatment process here at Rock Recovery Center. If you have any questions or concerns about your specific situation you can reach us at Tom@rockrecoverycenter.com and Ben@rockrecoverycenter.com
In this episode Ben and I have a conversation with Payton around her failed treatment attempts and ultimately what it took for her to get sober. She goes into detail about her mindset with past treatment attempts to what her mindset is now having 4 months of sobriety! Payton has changed her perspective on sobriety and life in general. She now feels that she has something to offer other women who are trying to get sober themselves. If you have any questions about your specific situation you can always reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I discusse four aspects of our recovery that we can always work on. There are always improvements to be made in our sobriety journey and if we don't make a conscious effort to make those improvements then we will not reach our fullest potential of our sobriety. Take into consideration your current circumstances and think of ways that you can improve them. If you have any questions about your specific situation you can reach out to us at tom@reelrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com.
In this episode Ben and I have a guest on who we have gotten to know rather well over the past year. Joey has decided to come on and share what his experience has been like getting sober and the areas in which he screwed up. Joey has done a lot of work over the past year and it is finally starting to show! GOOD JOB JOE! If you have any questions about your specific situation you can always reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I discuss why some people end up wasting their time while in treatment. We see it more often then we care to admit. When we have someone that enters into the treatment process and they dont do anything, they are wasting their time! I wish we could guarantee sobriety but we cant. If you enter into treatment, and do everything that you are suppose to, there is a good chance that you will stay sober long term. If you have any questions or concerns about your specific situation, you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@rockrecoverycenter.com
In this episode I discuss ways in which you can enjoy the holidays and stay sober at the same time! It can be a very stressful time of year. If not fully prepared, it could be a high risk of relapse. If you have any questions about your situation you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I discuss what cutting corners can do to you in the recovery process. We benlieve it is very necessary for people to put forth as much effort as possible without cutting corners. Cutting corners can prevent us from having the true growth that recovery and sobriety has to offer. Often times people think it is just about putting down the drinking and the drug and everything will be OK, when in fact, recovery and sobriety is a complete life change. If you have westerns about your specific situation you could reach out to us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I discuss three areas in which I believe are extremely important to pay attention to. Sobriety is an offensive game. We need to be stragtegic with our day to day life and not put ourselves in situations where we are vulnerable! If you have any questions about your specific situation, you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben and I discuss the 4 pillars of recovery/sobriety! We discuss having a healthy home, having our health intact, having a purpose for ourselves and having a strong community! We believe that it is important to have a good grasp on all four of these areas! If you have any questions about your specific situation you can always reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have on Alex and Brennan who are a lovely married couple who have agreed to come on and share their experience with addiction within their marraige and how they have recovered! They talk in detail how addiction has effected their relationship and what they have had to do to get their marraige to where it is today! If you have any questions about your specific situation you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I discuss with you how important it is to have obstacles in our sobriety journey! Often times we want our sobriety to be perfect. We don't want to have any setbacks and we dont want to go through any tough times. Well, reality is, that we are going to have obstacles and we can understand how we can learn from them. It is important to see them for what they are, a learning opportunity! If you have any questions about your specific situation you can always reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this epsiode I discuss the 5 stages of alcoholism! Where do you see yourself amongst these stages? These stages are very interesting in the sense that you can jump around from stage to stage. We are hopeful that you can get to the recovery stage ASAP! If you have any questions, comments or concerns feel free to reach out to Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we discuss what the process was like for a mother who was extremely helpful for her son to get sober. We discuss in detail what the relapses looked like and finally what she ended up having to do in order for him to get sober. She discusses the freedom that she has with her now knowing that he is sober but how she is also on guard in the event that he has another relapse. As always if you have any questions comments or concerns your can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I discuss a topic that could be a massive pain point for some people. Often times it is difficult for people to let their loved ones fight their own battles. We need to allow people to experience struggle when getting sober! If we do everything for them, make all the phone calls, do all the advocating, what are they actually learning?
In this episode I discuss the importance of neglecthing things in our lives in order to build a much more solid foundation of sobriety. Often times we are to consumed with outside noise, car, job, career, relationships etc. If we spend to much time on these things when getting sober, it takes away from the most important part of the journey, which is staying sober! If you have any questions about your specific situation you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we read to you an email that we recieved from one of our listeners! We dont not use names of course to keep them anonomous. In this particular email we have someone ask if it is ok for them to use Kratom when getting sober? We go into detail with our thoughts on this and we think that you will find great value in this episode! If you have specific questions about your specific situation you can email us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com!
In this episode we have a guest Eric who wanted to come on the show and tlak about his mental health struggle growing up and how it influenced his addiction for many years! Eric has done a great job at taking his sobriety and really allowing it to take him to the next level. This yound man had a seemingly hopeless life ahead of him. It wasnt until he decided that he was going to make a change for himself is when he really started to notice deep change within himself. We hope that you enjoy this episode and as always you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode Ben discusses his thoughts and opinions on Spirituality in within the confins of getting sober! It is no secret that any 12 step program has a strong emphasis on spirituality. Now, some people have a hard time with spirituality and dont want to buy in to the whole "God" concept. Well, that is ok! Enjoy the Show!
In this episode I discuss the importance of doing service work when getting clean and sober! We often times hear about how important it is to do service work, but is it really that important? Well, in my opinion it is one of the most vital peices what we can hold on to that will take us into long last sobriety! Take a listen and as always, you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I discuss with you what meetings look like in reality compared to what we wish that they looked like! If we just go to meetings, it will not keep us sober. We need to build a network of people that will help us navigate our sobriety and also hold us accountable to our actions! If you find that you dont like the first few meetings that you attend, dont give up! Try new ones!
If you have any questions about your specific situation you can contact us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we take a deep dive into a real life experience with someone that was on suboxone for a really long time! Brennan shares with all of us why he was on it and why it took him so long to come off of it! Goes without saying, we are not medical doctors so dont take any of this as medical advice! Enjoy the show!
If you have any questions about your specific situation you can always reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I discuss why it is so important to think selfishly when first getting clean and sober. We need to think about what is best for us and not what is best for other people. It is easy to allow outside influence dictate our next move in sobriety. To many times, people dont reach their fullest potential because they allow other people, places or things have inluence over them.
In this episode I give you three tips that you can implement today to anti-up your sobriety! It does not take a lot of work to implement what I am about to tell you. Just because we put down the drink in the drug doesn't mean that everything is going to be OK, it is going to take some work on our end. So strap on your running shoes because you're gonna need them! Enjoy the show
In this I discuss the importance of making new friends when getting sober. Often times when we get sober our old friends look at us like we're an alien or something. Reality is, that you will not be able to keep the same friends that you had while you were using. Items we need to change everything about ourselves including our friends and those that we think we're friends with. It's time that we look for people that are going to add value to our lives rather than take away from our lives. If you have any questions about your specific situation you can reach out at tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@rockrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I have a young man names Zach who was couragous enough to come on and share his experience in his first 2 months of sobriety! Zach is very wise and has a lot of good information to share. Zach has come such a long way in a short 2 months! Thanks Zach!
If you have any questions about your specific situation you can reach out at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this that I discuss why it is so important to take some initiative not only for yourself but for your recovery. Nothing sobriety process is going to get handed to you. We have to take the initiative to put 1 foot in front of the other to attain the things that we want. Sobriety has so much to offer us but we're going to have to work to get it. If we're not willing to take the initiative needed and put forth the work that we need to then we will end up with stale sobriety and nobody wants that!
If you have any questions about your specific situation you can always email us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we discuss why it is so important to build rapport right off the bat with out clients. Often times our clients come into treatment and they dont trust anyone, let alone want to be in treatment! That is wny we focus so much on building a good relationship with them right out of the gate. We want our clients to know that they can trust us no matter what they are going through.
If you have any questions about your specific situations you can reach us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we have Nicole Bufano who is a licensed clinical social worker and works here at Rock Recovery Center. Nicole is our assistant Clinical Director and also a primary therapist here. In this episode we discuss measurable goals that we look for for each client, which helps us gauge if in fact they are making progress in the treatment process. Nicole gets into detail about things that she looks for from the client and how she can tailor the treatment plans to work best for them. We hope you enjoy this episode and if you have any questions comments or concerns about your specific situation you recovery you can reach us at Ben@realrecoverytalk.com and Tom@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we discuss the importance of being able to trust people when getting clean and sober. Often times in our addictions we felt betrayed and felt like we didn't have any support from anybody. It is not uncommon for us to not be able to trust anybody when getting newly clean and sober. We discussed the importance of why we need to be able to trust people in our sober network and how we can rely on them moving forward.
If you have any questions about your specific situations you can always reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode I discuss the importance of having a vision not only for your sobriety but also for your life in general. Often times we think getting sober is just about putting down a drink in the drugs, but there is so much more to it. If we do not have goals set for ourselves that are attainable it can be very difficult for us to see progress in our sobriety.
It's about that we start taking responsibility for our lives and build something with the remaining years we have left on this earth. Let's make our sobriety worth having that way we can continue living the life that we ultimately want to live. If you have questions about your specific situation you can reach out to us at tom@rockrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we continue our discussion about different personalities that we come in contact with throughout the treatment process. We discuss how the different personalities that we interact with can ultimately affect our recovery in a negative or a positive way. We discussed ways in which you can identify these different personalities in the best ways to handle them.
If you question about your specific situation you can always reach out to us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we discuss a few different ways in which somone can present differently when getting clean and sober. It can be a lot to handle and knowing how to naviagate each person differerently can be a huge advantage. If you would like to talk about your specific situation you can reach out to us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we discuss taking advice from people when first getting sober. We discus the importance of being able to seek wisdom from those who have lived recovery. We discus situations in which you could get bad advice from people and how ultimately this whole recovery thing is based on opinion. Just because something doesn't work for one person doesn't mean I can't work for you and vice versa.
If you have questions about your specific situation you can email us at Tom@realrecoverytalk.com and Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we discussed Wyatt is so important to be vulnerable in the recovery process. Often times people have a hard time opening up to others, which causes them to not have the level of growth in their recovery as they should. When we are able to be open and honest with other people about what is truly going on in our lives, it tends to catapult our recovery. It is OK to share your true feelings with other people about what is going on in your life. This is the only way that we can achieve true growth. Don't be ashamed for sharing with others your thoughts and feelings. I encourage you to listen to this episode in its entirety. If you start practicing bein vulnerable with others, I promise you, you will understand the benefit of it.
In this episode I discussed a life-changing event that took place on June 14, 2022. My dad had a massive stroke and lost his vision. Along with that a lot of his memory has been severely affected. These are the things that we often talk about when getting sober that we need to be prepared for. Life throws things at us and if we're not ready for them it can very easily be a reason to drink or use drugs. Fortunately for myself I had a lot of support from friends and family that I could rely on to get me through this tough time. My hope for you in this episode is that you can see it is it possible to endure these challenges without using drugs or alcohol.
If you would like to reach out about your specific situation you can email me at tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com enjoy the show!
In this episode we discuss the Top 5 reasons/excuses as to why people dont go into drug treatment. We are very good at talking ourselves out of doing the things that we know are best for us.
Realtiy is, there are no good excuse to not go to treatment when it is needed. Dont let anyone or anybody talk you out of making the best decision of your life.
If you would like to reach out to us and discuss your specific situation you can email us at
Tom@realrecoverytalk.com
Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
In this episode we discuss five tips to keep your sobriety intact and not let it get stale. No matter where you are in the sobriety journey it is important to stay active and to continue to build on your sobriety. We can do this in many different ways, but most importantly we need to continue to work on ourselves.
These tips are very applicable and can be done at any moment. If you want to amplify your sobriety, take a listen and emplement these stratagies today!
If you would like to reach out to us you can email us at
Tom@realrecoverytalk.com
Ben@realrecoverytalk.com
Thank you for all of your support!
In this episode we discuss the top five reasons why you keep going back to treatment. Unfortunately people have unrealistic expectations around what treatment is supposed to be for. We tell people all the time, if you're not doing it while you're in treatment, you won't do it when you are out of treatment. If you take these five things and really focusing on them during your treatment process it is going to be very hard for you not to be successful.
Thank you everyone for your support. Remember, you can always turn your mess into your message! If you would like to reach us you can email us at tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com also please go and take a look at our Youtube Channel!!
The holiday season is here upon us. This can be tough for those who are in early recovery, especially being with family. Along with family comes a lot of emotions. You may have indulged in drugs and alcohol to get through previous holidays to get yourself through this time. Now, however; you are sober and you’ll need to put new tools in your toolbox to move through the holidays sober.
The big question I’m going to discuss today: How can we go into the holiday season and be sure we will be OK when we get out the other side?
Don’t go into the holiday season with the idea that this will be hard for you. Put your fear aside, celebrate being joyful with friends and family. Especially if you’re new to sobriety, take heart to follow these steps and make your holiday season a good and memorable one.
Here is a plan you can follow to have a safe, fun and enjoyable holiday season this year:
#1 Create a plan for your holiday
Not just plan where to go, but how you are going to deal with situations. If you are seeing family, you’ll most likely be going back to the same dysfunction or bad habits of the family. Think about what you are going to do and say when family members put you in a “party” situation or try to bring you to a bar.
#2 Find a meeting where you are going during the holiday
Find a support person locally to reach out and talk to someone who can support you.
#3 Communicate with your family members
Tell your family your boundaries and expectations for your health and to support you. Let your family know if they cannot support you, that you will not be coming to the family function. They won’t know what you expect unless you communicate with them effectively. Share with them your expectations weeks before you are going to meet them for the holidays. This will relieve the awkwardness of your family so they will know what you feel comfortable with during events. Tell your family that you don’t want to be offered alcohol or drugs. If they are drinking, you may need to be in a different room.
#4 Set up your accountability partners beforehand
The newly recovered person should decide before they go to a family function who the responsible family members are which they can have for support.
#5 Look at this as an opportunity to create new, wonderful memories with your family!
Look for happy moments and fill your time with fun activities with your family and friends. Have meaningful conversations and tell them about your newfound sobriety. You may be a vehicle for others to become sober. You may have spent years not being there for your family, this is your time to show your family and friends you are sober and there for them. Have gratitude you have this opportunity to spend time with them.
- If your family is a party family and always uses drugs or alcohol, your best choice is to not attend a family gathering. Be proud of your sobriety and do not put yourself in a situation to lose what you have done for yourself!
There’s nothing on the face of this planet that is worth more than your sobriety.
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Show Notes:
[01:44] Sobriety - you haven’t had to be sober for previous holidays, but now you do!
[03:22] Going into your first holiday season as a sober person.
[04:33] #1 Create a plan for your holiday
[07:11]What should you do when your family puts you in a not-so-great situation? Plan ahead!
[09:09] #3 Communicate with your family members
[12:03] Decide what family members are supportive and communicate with them. #4 Set up your accountability beforehand.
[15:59] Know that you have a say in what you do with alcohol.
[19:09] Be proud to be the sober person in the crowd.
[20:15] There’s nothing on the face of this planet that is worth more than your sobriety.
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“Addiction is so big in our society right now that it’s best that you let loved ones know that they can have help. They can receive help, and they can do this. It doesn’t have to kill them.” -Devin
Today, Ben and I chatted with Devin, who’s an example of getting back on track. He began drug usage during childhood, and found himself in prison later. Devin gathered the strength to face himself and the beast within. He doesn’t do it alone, but with the help of the people around him. Listen in as he talks about using drugs to feel a void, getting back on track after a relapse, and how families can help their loved ones through treatment.
Too Much Time on His Hands
Isolation created a gap in Devin’s childhood of growing up in Atlanta, GA. He raised himself since 5th grade while his family was busy with work and life. His family’s absence made him yearn to be noticed. Devin felt lost despite knowing his family was working to give him a better life, especially his father.
Devin smoked his first joint around the age of 13. As he experimented with different substances and alcohol, it progressed into something he wanted to do every day. Devin thought the drugs and alcohol changed the way he felt. Besides that, he had a lot of time on his hands, and a gap in his life to fill.
Devin tried Xanax at 15, and then Cocaine at 18. All his experimenting led him to using Meth at age 20. He lived with this addiction, even while in prison. After prison, he felt the urge to change his relationship with substances.
Family and friends became a major inspiration for Devin receiving guidance about treatment, and even helping him get back on track after a relapse. Devin managed the beast within by refusing to give up on himself.
A Message to Families and Friends
Since family and a supportive community played a role in Devin’s treatment, he encourages other families about their role in a loved one’s recovery journey. Structure and accountability are needed in recovering and maintaining sobriety. Devin mentions the small routines, like making his bed, that helps him along the way. With the belief from himself and people around him, Devin is able to keep getting back on track day by day.
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Show Highlights
[02:12] - How early did Devin start experimenting with substances
[05:07] - Isolation can influence substance abuse
[08:46] - What did Devin’s aunt say to him to help him get treatment
[12:13] - A relapse occurs when he thinks he has his drug usage under control
[18:30] - What was Devin’s mindset when he restarted his program against drug usage
[21:24] - Here are steps to support loved ones through treatment
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“I have a purpose today, and I feel God steps in my life a lot and he was telling me to have courage and be fearless.” -Ira
Today, Ben and I chatted with Ira, who’s a real deal addict. He’s had a ton of health issues like cancer, diabetes, and even facing death as a result of his drug and alcohol addiction. But he managed to turn his life around and now he’s going on two years sober! Listen in as he talks about getting addicted, how he overcame it, and all the people who helped save his life along the way.
Struggling to Find His Place
Growing up in the 70s as half Irish and half Vietnamese, Ira felt like he never fit in anywhere. He went through some verbal and physical abuse at an early age.
In seventh grade at age 13, he picked up his first beer and smoked dope for the first time. By age 15, he was an IV drug user and hooked on cocaine and opiates. Then he dropped out of high school with only a 9th-grade education and eventually became a convicted felon in Pennsylvania, New Jersey, and Florida.
Years after his father passed away from cirrhosis, Ira turned to heavy drinking. “I drank alcoholically because I was searching for the high from dope and pills or whatever it may be, and I wasn’t getting it.”
This led to frequent illness and hospital visits that did nothing to help his addiction... until a pivotal low point marked the real beginning of his turbulent recovery.
Helping Others in Recovery
After a lot of pain and uncertainty about where his life was headed, Ira has taken up a mantle that not many sober people choose. He shares his story in hopes of helping others recover from their addictions. Through his own experience of 35 years and newfound faith, he meets great people in places like hospitals, treatment centers, and psyche wards. Ira knows the importance of having a supportive person or group on the road to sobriety.
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Show Highlights
[05:26] What made Ira swear off heavy drinking for 13 years
[07:26] How he got high on alcohol and drugs at the same time
[10:49] Frequent hospital visits as an easy way to get a fix
[14:11] Why the substance of choice plays a minor part in addiction overall
[18:46] Ira’s downturn before the turnaround
[29:36] An intervention that led to him getting treatment for his health problems
[40:04] The place and the meeting that ended up saving his life
[46:58] How the last few months of Ira’s life have changed
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“I have a place that I was comfortable with that I was already a part of for my recovery.” -Reed
Today, Ben and I chatted with Reed, who tells his story about how his addiction started in college. Raised locally in Palm Beach Gardens, Reed had a good life growing up with loving parents who gave him many opportunities in life. However, with his parents being conservative regarding drinking, Reed didn’t get drugs and alcohol from his parents.
Experimenting with Drugs
While in high school, Reed did drink and smoke weed, but drugs and alcohol weren’t a big problem at this point in his life. However, when he went to the University of Mississippi, he started to heavily get into drugs and alcohol. In his second year at university, his roommate sold multiple forms of hard drugs.
With easy access to drugs and alcohol, it was easy for Reed to become addicted to his personality. “That opened the door of my first year of solid, heavy drug use.” When his house was raided by the DEA, and his roommate passed away from an overdose, Reed was charged, went to jail, and left school.
Talking to Your Kids About Drugs and Alcohol
Reed agrees with us when we talk about being overly strict with your kids about drugs and alcohol, especially in teen years. Instead of telling them not to do anything, be open and frank with your children and have discussions with them about the adverse effects of drugs and alcohol.
When kids aren’t allowed to do anything and have a very restrictive home life, they will generally go out and start to party hard out of control because they were too sheltered in high school.
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Show Highlights
[06:04] Starting by experimenting with drugs and alcohol during his high school years.
[09:48] Reed’s progression from college drinking and drugs to DEA raids.
[21:27] Why being a helicopter parent can persuade your kids to do drugs.
[32:19] Entering into his first treatment program.
[41:27] Needing a geographical change depends on your home life.
[50:11] We discuss the pros and cons of methadone.
[57:46] Speaking to other through AA to educate college students on drugs and alcohol.
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“Life continues to show up, whether you want to be a part of it or not.” -Natalie
Today, Ben and I chatted with Natalie, who endured horrible abuse as a small girl that gave her immense amounts of childhood trauma that ended up turning into a drug and alcohol addiction as a teen. Listen in to discover how Natalie overcame her addiction by healing her emotional wounds as an adult.
Her Early Years Traumatized as a Child
At the age of eight, Natalie was sexually molested and started drinking at the age of 14. As her disease progressed, she started using Zanax and was arrested at 17 and put on probation.
She couldn’t trust anyone by the age of 10 and didn’t know who she was or what to do in her daily life. Natalie felt a constant challenge of wanting to be the best and fitting in with other kids her age.
In college, Natalie became addicted to oxycontin, robbed her neighbor’s home, and was picked up and put in jail for 14 days. Her father wouldn’t bail her out, and she was considered the black sheep of her family. Shortly after her jail sentence, Natalie moved to Canada and started selling herself for sex to keep up with her drug addiction.
Learning to Utilize Her AA Tools to Heal
Surrendering is Natalie’s lifeline to healing. “Everyday you need to surrender yourself.” Natalie understands the importance of having a good, reliable support group, such as the people she’s found at Rock Recovery Center.
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Show Highlights
[02:32] Natalie talks about her past history growing up in a family of six children.
[07:22] Using the white chip to surrender yourself so you can heal.
[12:53] How surrendering leads to recovery for addicts.
[17:48] Utilizing sobriety in the form of having clean people around you to help you change your lifestyle.
[22:49] Moving from one addiction to another because you need the high to survive.
[33:07] How Natalie’s life has changed since she started her recovery.
[45:00] What she is doing to continue her recovery into sobriety.
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“You’ve got to surrender - I came here and gave it all up to you.” -Sher
Today, Ben and I chatted with Sher Canada, a former client at Rock Recovery Center. We could tell that she was someone special shortly after she arrived at Rock Recovery. In our interview with Sher, you’ll find out how addicts can recover into an exciting life with a purpose and not have to live their sober days bored and complacent.
Early Life with an Alcoholic Mother
When she was young, Sher discovered the slew of alcohol bottles her mom hid in their bathroom. She remembers almost being killed in car accidents and then becoming “mom” to her siblings at age 14 when her mom went away to rehab.
She decided to move to Miami to attend college, drove to Miami from her home in Nebraska, and started working in retail. “I always liked to have nice things,” says Sher. In addition, she also loved to make women feel beautiful. As a result, she was able to sell and moved up in ranks. Sher eventually became VP of the hottest retail company in the US by the time she was 30.
Deciding to Take Alcohol Out of Her Life
Living in California, she married her personal trainer. Having to travel often for work, she didn’t realize that her husband had become an alcoholic. When her husband lied to her about his addiction, she moved out the same day. With her dad an alcoholic, her mom a recovered alcoholic, and her sister also an alcoholic, Sher didn’t want to perpetuate the alcoholism in her life.
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Show Highlights
[02:45] Sher’s childhood with an alcoholic mother.
[11:33] Striking a balance between serving addicts and family life.
[21:57] Retiring at the age of 56, Sher joined a tennis club and started drinking.
[25:06] Her partner starts to realize she is drinking too much.
[35:55] Figuring out what you love to do and make money at it for your career.
[37:10] Sher’s partner moves out and leaves alcohol recovery center information behind.
[44:03] Her first few days at Rock Recovery Center.
[56:36] No matter how successful you are, alcohol and drugs can bring you down in life.
[61:33] Finding her sponsor through the AA program.
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In today's episode, Ben and I talk with Vince, a 25-year-old recovering addict from Philadelphia. He stole a bottle of vodka and drank the entire bottle in sixth grade. In the summer of his freshman year of high school, Vince started smoking pot. Cocaine became a weekend sports celebration during his junior year of high school. Vince became an addict after his team coach gave him a prescription narcotic drug in his second college year.
Vince was involved in sports as early as he could remember. His family consisted of three sisters, one of the older and two of them younger than him. Both of his parents were supportive of him and good, hard-working people. "Growing up, I was instilled with morals and values." He was brought up to respect elders, women, and to have good social manners.
"I remember going to this fight in third grade. Everybody started cursing and fighting. Immediately after that, I said my first curse word, then I went home and started watching fighting videos." He isn't sure if this one incident brought him down a negative road, but his life was very different after this experience. The next year in fourth grade, he ended up getting kicked out of school for fighting. "I was fighting and cursing and doing things kids that age shouldn't be doing."
He felt a purpose playing sports as he was always asked to play with the older kids in the next league up. "Everything on the outside just mattered so much, and I thought that was who I was. I thought that I was based on all external things." However, if anything went wrong, he immediately turned to anger and aggression, which he remembers his father modeling for him at an early age.
His school discipline record was horrible. However, the school let him slide because of his athletic abilities. Vince remembers not having any consequences for fighting during his high school years. This enabled him to continue this behavior, along with smoking pot with his friends.
Listen in as Vince tells his story of how he lost his scholarship to Rutgers, what happened when he became addicted to opiate drugs, and his multiple attempts at getting sober.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
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Show Notes:
- [03:09] Vince talks about his past experiences growing up in Philadelphia.
- [07:11] His first experience drinking in sixth grade.
- [13:33] Social acceptance and drug culture.
- [15:21] Personal identity associated with career for men.
- [18:25] Vince had his first experience with opiate drugs his senior year in high school.
- [19:45] He started stealing from his family to buy more opiate drugs.
- [25:11] The “Florida Shuffle” moving on from the treatment facility to another facility.
- [28:40] Ben talks about the incredible recovery culture in Florida.
- [33:10] Why Vince having his daughter wasn’t enough to keep him sober.
- [37:01] Sobriety and addiction and how these two can easily interchange.
- [40:13] What is different for Vince in this recovery process?
- [43:42] His biggest fears for the recovery process.
- [45:27] Vince’s spiritual AA experience.
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“What alcohol was doing for me outlaid what it was doing to me.” --Tom
Today, Ben and I are talking to Tom, who works in the recovery field. Born and raised in downtown Manhattan, he became a drug dealer and eventually became sober from drugs and alcohol. He has been on the road to recovery for the past seven years.
Starting the Drinking Habit at Age 10
Born and raised in New York City, Tom grew up in abusive family life, reflected in his poor behavior at school. Feeling like something was missing in his life, he discovered that alcohol filled that void at 10. From the beginning, Tom drank too much and didn’t know how to stop drinking as he was trying to impress the older adults who surrounded him. He was so obsessed with drinking and doing drugs that he had to stay an extra year in high school to finish up the credits that he missed from his addiction during the school year.
Falling into Becoming a Drug Dealer
Since many of his friends ended up selling weed in high school, Tom decided to go the same route as college wasn’t even on his radar. “I had a big retail business with guys delivering for me. I was a career pot dealer.” Although he knew he was living a lie as a drug dealer, the thought of becoming clean was scary because Tom realized if he left dealing drugs and his lifestyle that he would have to grow up and become responsible.
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Show Notes:
[02:05] Tom’s early years and how he became addicted to alcohol.
[04:22] How New York and growing up in a fast-paced environment impacted Tom’s addiction.
[10:32] His circle of friends in high school was drug dealers selling weed.
[14:00] The thought of getting sober was scary for Tom because he realized he would need to grow up.
[16:55] The first time he decided to stop being an addict was on 9-11.
[18:33] Discovering opiate drugs and how Tom thought he would be OK with opiates.
[21:44] Adding cocaine to his alcohol and opiate drug addiction.
[26:29] First time Tom experience hope in his life to get off of drugs and alcohol.
[35:14] The point at which Tom stopped making excuses in his life.
[40:16] Surrendering and how this affected his healing journey to recovering.
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“’Alcohol was the substance I just could not go without - I felt safe with alcohol.” -Al
Today, Ben and I are talking to Al, a native of Pittsburgh, who is sharing with us today his journey and what he did to become sober. He talks with us about Foundations - a program that provides housing for men moving through their journey of sobriety.
His First Experiences with Alcohol
At the age of 16, Al found a bottle of homemade wine in the basement of his home and decided to try it. When he drank, Al noticed that he didn’t feel embarrassment, a common emotion he would have in public. “It seemed that alcohol was a solution for me, I didn’t realize the hell that was in for me with alcohol.” Although he wasn’t aware of becoming an alcoholic, this was the start down the path to addiction.
Alcoholic’s Perspective on Drinking
“I thought that everyone drank to feel good,” says Al. He didn’t recognize that there was a social aspect to drinking. Today, Al acknowledges that you need to be OK with your strengths and weaknesses and that having good self-esteem and self-worth is a key component to completely recover from an addictive state.
When he talks about his addiction, Al says that his wheels fell off when the alcohol “didn’t work anymore.” At this point, there wasn’t an amount of alcohol that he could drink that didn’t make him sick. However, he didn’t know how to or who to ask for help.
Today, Al is grateful that he doesn’t have to use alcohol to feel good. “It’s incredible to not have that chemical holding me hostage all day!” Now, he learns about himself daily and seeks out meaningful relationships with others.
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Show Notes:
[03:15] Al’s experience with alcohol and growing up with an alcoholic father.
[07:04] The emotional void that alcohol fills.
[10:08] Starting to drink in the morning to avoid feeling hungover.
[17:56] The wheels fall off when the alcohol doesn’t work to solve your problems.
[20:01] How he decided to go into rehab and who helped him get there.
[24:58] Going into recovery simplified Al’s life in a very profound way.
[30:39] His first conference call with an addiction counselor.
[34:34] Be willing to take suggestions from others to help you on the road to recovery.
[39:33] What AA is all about and how you can use AA to recover.
[43:48] Giving up alcohol gave Al his entire life back.
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Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Do you know someone who is considering going to a treatment facility for up to 30 days? Today, I’m going to talk about how you most likely won’t be cured by going to treatment for 30 days. There are a few people who have been successful after just 30 days; however, they are few and far between.
The first day of treatment consists of detox, which generally ranges from day one to day seven. Detox can vary from one to fourteen days, depending on the individual and specific variables. Variables that can affect the length of detox are the types of drugs you are using, how long you are using drugs, the vehicle of use of drugs. For example, are you using drugs IV, orally? Similar variables apply to alcohol, with some additional factors such as drinking alone or with others.
A detox facility is a safe place where you can get meals, medical attention, and be in a safe environment when you detox. During this time, your body will start to repair the damage inflicted by drugs and alcohol. From this point, you can now transfer to a residential facility where you will be day and night for treatment.
You may have a behavioral technician keeping tabs on you every 15 minutes when you join the residential treatment program. This part of the team makes sure everyone is safe and comfortable. They also ensure that you are getting to your programs, meetings, and medical appointments on time. This period is known as a “drying out period.”
Therapy is still minimal, as you are usually not yet ready to start treatment. At this stage, you’re detoxed and are moving toward creating a support group, getting to know your peers, and your therapist.
Next, you’ll need to figure out your personal triggers. What are your triggers? Are there specific environments in which your triggers are set off? Have you developed tools in your toolbox to deal with these triggers and to keep your calm in anxious situations? Have you considered your role or your family dynamics when dealing with triggers and healing from addiction?
Listen in to find out why the first thirty days of recovery only scratch the surface. Understand why recovery is a process in which each individual needs to move through at their own pace. Learn why you’ll need to continue healing and be consistent to work through previous trauma and have a successful recovery.
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Show Notes:
[05:48] What the first seven days of treatment will most likely be for an addict in recovery.
[06:05] Variables which affect the length and severity of detox.
[09:28] The next phase of your healing: moving to a residential facility.
[12:24] You may have spent multiple years becoming an addict, you will most likely spend months if not years to recover to the point of not falling back to your addiction.
[14:41] Have you identified your triggers? If so, what are coping skills you are using to calm your reaction to your triggers?
[16:48] An example of what shouldn’t happen when you come in for recovery.
[19:42] We work with clients for three to four months on a continual basis to continue their recovery process.
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“Kratom feels like an opiate, you get strong feelings similar to opiates.’” -Perry
Today, Ben and I are talking to Perry, a 24-year-old from Maryland and started smoking marijuana at age 16. He lost everything that he owned and had to drug and alcohol abuse in a short period of time. We talk with Perry about his experience with Kratom and how it negatively affected his life.
Kratom and Kava
Kratom is sourced from an Asian variety of pine trees and works the same as an opiate drug in your body. Kratom is addictive and you easily get hooked. Kava is a root herb from the Polynesian islands that is not addictive and is mostly used by people for relaxation and sleep. In many states, Kratom is illegal because of its addictive side effects. In low doses, Kratom is a stimulant. In higher doses, it’s a sedative.
Perry’s Experience with Kratom
After taking Kratom, Perry quickly realized that this legal street drug has very similar physical and mental effects to opiate drugs. He thought he had found the answer to his addiction issue and felt he would be able to continually use Kratom without negative side effects. What he soon learned is that he could build tolerance and that Kratom has the same effect as addictive drugs.
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Show Notes:
[01:33] Perry talks about his backstory and history of addiction.
[04:11] How he became interested and addicted to psychedelic drugs.
[06:55] Social aspect of doing drugs and participating in raves.
[11:47] Ben talks about what Kratom is and why it’s a bad choice to get off of drugs.
[14:44] The first time Perry tried Kratom and how he became addicted to this drug.
[22:09] How Perry decided to get back on Kratom after he was clean for a year.
[31:57] Different phases of Kratom use when taking it daily.
[36:07] Life became unmanageable once he was addicted to Kratom.
[41:57] How Perry decided to get off Kratom and his plan for his future.
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“You couple substance abuse with PTSD and I’m wondering, ‘How do I fit in?’” -Ken
Today, Ben and I are talking to Ken, a 35-year active military combat-in-arms, now veteran, discussing his alcoholism and addiction and what his post-military recovery journey has been for Ken. He is now paying it forward, helping others recover from their addiction.
Ken’s Background
Born in 1964 to an Irish-Catholic family and the youngest of seven, the first memory of drinking alcohol is at age eight. With an abusive family environment, and alcohol readily available, Ken needed an escape.
As a child, his escape was sports until he started drinking hard in 7th grade. He met up with a guitar player in his teens and started a band. After that, he skipped most of high school until he was thrown out of school at 16. He remembers trying everything except for heroin.
“We knew the path we were on and decided that we can’t keep on this path, so we joined the service.” Having enrolled in the military in 1981, he saw much of the similar trauma he grew up with, such as suicides, fighting, and seeing a lot of blood, were familiar sites to Ken.
The Military and Drugs and Alcohol
Ken remembers how alcohol was a part of daily life in the military. “This is normal, this is the way we operate.” He remembers the monthly keg in the breakroom and the keg in addition to alcohol troops brought to the barracks, there was “alcohol in mass quantities.” He also recalls that the military didn’t have the same policy regarding drugs as they would “disappear.”
Once he left the army, it was hard to integrate into society with a different language, no one to give orders, and a different lifestyle. So when he re-entered the civilian world, his life slowed down exponentially.
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Show Notes:
[06:20] Ken talks about the parallels between his childhood and the military.
[07:38] He discusses how drinking was embedded into the military back in the 80s and 90s.
[10:01] Ken recalls his experience in Iraq on a specific “crazy” mission.
[13:25] Why many men in the company used heroin as their drug of choice in the military.
[16:10] How the military and his marriage kept him busy enough that he drank less.
[21:17] Having the root of his moral compass grounded in God.
[22:52] Ken describes the series of events leading him up to his successful recovery at Rock Recovery Center.
[31:59] The seven points of rehabilitation he took on his journey to recovery.
[50:23] Where Ken is going from here and what his future looks like.
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“I can’t even put into words how tight-knit a community that we’re a part of.” -Ben
Today, Ben and I will cover the top five unexpected benefits that have come about because of our sobriety. These positive side effects are items that naturally and organically happen through the process of sobriety. But, of course, these come with time and work on ourselves, along with setting goals.
Original Thoughts On Sobriety
Initially, I thought that I would spend 45 days in a sober rehab facility, then go back to Pennsylvania and spend time drinking beer with my buddies. As developments happened over time, I realized that I couldn’t fully comprehend the life I could potentially have for myself. Ben was living in a false reality. From his perspective, every person drank alcohol and did drugs, and that some people have figured out a way to moderate their addiction.
Surrounding Yourself with Other Alcoholic and Drug Addicts
I surrounded myself with alcohol and drug addicts while living an addiction lifestyle. I thought that they were true friends, but I realized everything that we did revolve around alcohol. There wasn’t a gathering that I attended that didn’t consist of massive amounts of alcohol. So when my friends started changing, and I changed friends, my life started moving in the right direction. You can tell who wants to be sober and do the work to get better, and while in treatment, I surrounded myself with that crowd.
What AA and NA Has to Offer
Not only do AA and NA offer drug and alcohol recovery, but they also offer so much more! One of our clients attending AA wasn’t into the work to achieve the 12 steps. In conversation with him, I mentioned the amount of professional networking at meetings, which can potentially build his business. There are many opportunities outside of sobriety when you build trust in relationships during sessions. We encourage our clients to participate and share with others so that the community can get to know them better.
Change of Hobbies with Sobriety
Golfing, bowling, and archery were all activities that I used to participate in while drinking. It took me some time and effort to realize that I could again do these activities without having alcohol involved. Ben had re-tuned his life and activities and is now better at the hobbies that he enjoyed when he was an addict. Not only is his skill set increased, but he enjoys his hobbies much more now that he is sober.
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Show Notes:
[02:51] Ben’s benefits from sobriety that he didn’t expect.
[05:00] Ben thought that every person was an addict when he was addicted.
[07:50] I talk about how my friends’ circle changed when I became sober.
[11:01] How addicts typically view the AA program when they first get into recovery.
[17:15] Using the sober community to support yourself during recovery.
[18:17] Finding and participating in new hobbies and activities sober.
[21:54] Ben explains how much time he wasted on drugs and alcohol.
[25:32] How I spent all my money before I earned my money.
[30:00] Ben talks about his financial insecurities when he entered sobriety.
[35:12] Hiding alcohol and drugs and learning to cope with reality without the addiction.
[42:38] The importance of filling your spirit when recovering.
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“You have choices in what you do with your time, and that’s up to the individual.” -Cody
Today, Ben and I are chatting with Cody, who was very successful in life, and then addiction took it all away. Listen in to find out how he is rebuilding his life as a sober member of society and how drugs and alcohol can create alternative negative behaviors that aren’t a part of who you really are.
Growing Up with Learning Disabilities
Cody had multiple learning disabilities in grade school growing up. Because of his learning disabilities and not getting support in the school system, Cody couldn’t make good grades. He wanted to play sports but could not get on a team because of his low marks in school. He quickly learned that smoking pot was a solution to lessen his school anxiety and found that it helped him in school.
Using Drugs in High School
When he entered high school, Cody continued to use drugs. In addition, he also decided to make an income selling drugs. At one point, he was making a better income than his mom during his high school years.
Going to Prison for Drugs
Cody ended up in prison for violence, acting under the influence of drugs and alcohol from the age of 17 to 21. While in prison, another inmate introduced him to AA meetings. Even though he was in prison, Cody was able to easily access drugs and alcohol through the microeconomy of the prison.
Success and Addiction
With his first success at age 21 creating an app, he was bringing in good money. However, since he was an addict, Cody says, “being an addict gave me no respect for the scenario, and I needed drugs and alcohol as the highlight of the situation. Drugs and alcohol always came first in my life.”
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Show Notes:
[03:00] Cody talks about his drug and alcohol use starting at an early age.
[04:16] Ramping up from using drugs to distributing drugs.
[07:32] Attending his first AA meeting in prison at the age of 19.
[12:34] Differences between jail and prison.
[17:37] Why drugs and alcohol make you violent.
[21:58] How addiction can take down the most successful people.
[30:01] Philanthropy in addiction and recovery.
[36:45] Reflecting on his previous decade of life and figuring out what he needs to do to make amends.
[44:11] Negotiating and figuring out how to get money when you’re an addict.
[47:34] Building blocks needed for an addict to recover their life.
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“One day I broke into tears and told my dad I can’t stop drinking and I needed help.” -Kevin
Today, Ben and I are chatting with Kevin, who is an alumnus of Rock Recovery Center. Listen in and find out how Kevin could move past his anxiety, which was the cause of his alcoholism, and move into a life of sobriety. Learn how Kevin is making amends with those he hurt while he was alcoholic, and how he is giving back by supporting other members who are recovering.
Dealing with Severe Anxiety
Although Kevin never was an alcoholic growing up, he discovered that he suffered from severe anxiety and noticed that when he had alcohol, he wouldn’t have panic attacks or other anxiety fallout. In addition, he would also experience anxiety when he came down off of the alcohol he drank, causing his condition to worsen and Kevin to drink more often.
Drinking Alcohol to Reduce Panic Attacks
At the age of 31, Kevin worked at a local high school when he had a severe panic attack that lasted a week. His doctor put him on an SSRI, which helped, and he could go back to work.
A year later, he was drinking daily and wasn’t able to work at all. Working for his father, Kevin had to tell him he was an alcoholic and needed help. Not knowing about detox facilities, Kevin went to his local hospital, which admitted him for a high heart rate for several days from his anxiety. Two months later, he was back in the hospital from heavy drinking and using cocaine.
Outpatient Treatment
He attended an intensive outpatient treatment but did not identify as an alcoholic. Although the center recommended that Kevin take an AA program, he refused to go to meetings.
After trying three centers, including a PHP center, he was only clean for three days until he went back to drinking. Kevin finally found freedom from his addiction at Rock Recovery Center in 2021.
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Show Notes:
[04:36] Kevin introduces himself and gives his backstory.
[11:42] Anxiety as an underlying issue to alcoholism.
[15:48] Drinking intermittently to calm a week-long panic attack.
[20:40] Progression from alcohol to cocaine and other dry goods drugs.
[23:05] How Kevin started drinking and how his alcoholism progressed with his anxiety.
[29:05] Going through the levels of care to get to recovery.
[32:29] Back into drinking when living at home with his parents post-recovery.
[33:30] Red flags and issues that Kevin had when he came to Rock Recovery Center.
[41:11] Being of service to others by driving them to meetings.
[43:01] Coming up on one year of sobriety!
[48:22] How Kevin has turned around his life since coming to Rock Recovery Center.
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“At Rock I’m getting to talk to people and come to an understanding of what each of the twelve steps means.” -Darell
Today, Ben and I are chatting with Darell, who served 13 years in the United States Air Force as an EOD. We talk about his challenges post-service in the military and his progression of alcoholism through childhood, the military, and how he found solutions to his addiction when he returned to civilian life.
Darell’s History with Alcohol
Growing up in New York, Darell can’t remember when alcohol wasn’t in his home. His first memory of his grandfather around the age of three was giving him tobacco to chew. So Darell spits it out, and his grandfather gave him a beer to wash it down.
Growing up on a farm, he always had early morning farm chores with his siblings. His older sister would drink beer with his dad after chores in the morning. In addition to the morning alcohol at age five, he also remembers large parties at his farm where his parents would truck in kegs of liquor.
Addicted to Alcohol as a Teen
At 14, Darell was an addict, inviting friends over for drinking parties. “Once I started my goal was to get blackout drunk.” He refused to stop drinking, and as his disease progressed through his teen years, he came to a point where he would drink an entire bottle in one night.
Joining the Air Force as an Alcoholic
Darell says, “I wanted to get away from where I was because everyone was on their second or third DUI.” He realized that this was where he was headed if he didn’t change his environment. Since many of his family members had positive experiences in the military, Darell thought this would be an excellent way to sober up and reclaim his life.
“For me it was a no-brainer just do what you’re told and you’ll get through this,” he says of his first days in the military. His job was to dispose of explosives and other weapons in his unit. He spent three tours abroad, disarming bombs in Iraq and Afghanistan.
Listen in and find out how Darell was able to get alcohol while on tour, why being in the military didn’t stop him from drinking, and why he decided to quit drinking.
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Show Notes:
[01:40] Growing up with alcohol on a farm in New York.
[04:30] Starting his alcohol addiction at age 12.
[10:00] Addiction norms depending on your culture and location.
[15:26] Ben’s inability to stop drinking while addicted.
[18:35] How different people get into alcoholism.
[20:11] Why Darell decided to join the Air Force.
[25:57] His job and the responsibilities that came along with ammunition disposal.
[27:52] How Darell was able to acquire alcohol while on tour in Afghanistan.
[33:37] His exit from the military and circumstances leading to his medical discharge.
[37:09] The diagnosis of PTSD and how that led him to medical treatment.
[45:01] Transitioning from military to civilian life.
[49:00] Changes that happened when he exited the military.
[53:30] What’s different for Darell now that he has his second round of sobriety.
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“I’ve built routines here at Rock Recovery Center that I still have today.” -JP
Today, Ben and I are chatting with JP Burton, an alumnus of Rock Recovery Center. We speak about essential life skill development that accompanies the treatment process and the road to recovery. Listen to our conversation about prayer, meditation, and positive lifestyle changes that have stayed with JP through his treatment and beyond.
JP’s History and What Led Him to Drug Use
Before drugs, JP enjoyed a life full of family, a home, and a comfortable lifestyle. Through his addiction, he lost his home, his relationship with his children and wrecked or sold his vehicles. By the time he was admitted into treatment in November of 2019, JP was homeless, and the only item he owned was the clothing on his back.
Putting Addiction First
JP acknowledges that he didn’t lose his family, homes, and cars. He readily admits that he had a choice and gave away all that he had. “No one was holding a gun to my head, I just gave it all away.” When he first went to treatment, he was healing from a compound fracture to his leg and started walking in detox. “You’ve never seen someone so excited about treatment.” However, when he finally was able to get drugs out of his body, he realized he needed to change his mindset if he could survive and thrive after addiction.
It’s not a Drug Problem, It’s a Personality Problem
Ben says that his mentor told him that he didn’t have a drug problem; he had a personality problem. After years and years of repeated patterns and behavior, learning to become sober long-term equates to creating changes in thinking. You can put down the alcohol and drugs, but remember that this takes time to find and replace negative habits with positive habits.
Building New Routines for His New Life
JP has never missed a day of routine since he came to Rock Recovery Center. He wakes up at 5 am, prays, and reads. Then, he’s off to the gym to work out. Establishing this routine and making an effort to meet others who are also in recovery has helped him rebuild his life step-by-step and give him the ability to make his world better.
Listen in and find out why community is a big part of a successful recovery, why helping others with their sobriety brings joy to JP, and why JP believes that routine is vital for successful sobriety.
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Show Notes:
[03:34] Why JD decided to put drugs first and lose everything.
[04:33] Playing the victim role when we lose material goods to drugs.
[07:38] When alcohol or drugs take over your life, you start to lose the ability to choose.
[10:24] The realization of what life is like without drugs and alcohol.
[14:12] How JP’s mindset changed once he was at Rock Recovery Center.
[16:10] Building new routines for a more successful life.
[21:18] Buying into the process of routine and becoming a member of the community.
[26:12] Why JP wants to help as many people become sober as possible.
[30:03] JP’s routine and why it keeps him moving forward in his sobriety.
[36:00] What to look for if you’re searching for a good recovery center for your loved one.
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“I’ve had family members that have died from addiction, but I never thought that I would have an addiction.” -Tommy
Today, Ben and I are chatting with Tommy, who became an addict after taking narcotic drugs for pain relief after a motorcycle accident. Since he has addiction in his family, Tommy wasn’t a stranger to the effects of drugs and alcohol on a person and their loved ones.
Why Tommy Didn’t Think Addiction was in his Future
“I never saw myself as that person that has a need for anything other than myself,” Tommy explains. Looking back, Tommy sees behaviors and patterns that led him down the path to addiction. He would go to parties and drink to the point of losing time, hurting himself or others, and not remembering events that happened while he was drinking.
Prescription Pain Medications as Gateway Drugs
Tommy quickly found that he liked the feeling prescription painkillers afforded him as he felt like he could get up and do anything. At first, he would run out of his prescription early, which quickly escalated to increasing his dose, then the doctor hopping to get more drugs legally. When one of his doctors wouldn’t write him refills for pain medication, he turned to buy heroin and oxycontin on the streets. “Then I was so tired from these drugs that I started cocaine and crack.” Within five years of starting his addiction to prescription pain medication, Tommy was out on the street purchasing only illegal drugs.
The First Round of Addiction Treatment
In 2019, his family gave him the option of getting treatment or leaving their home, so Tommy decided to go to his first treatment facility. “I was scared and didn’t know what to think. I didn’t fully believe in it and I didn’t want to do it.” At this time, he didn’t acknowledge that he was having an issue with drugs and alcohol and didn’t believe that he needed help to get past his addiction. Realizing that he needed help with getting sober, Tommy was motivated to get back on track during his second treatment at Rock Recovery Center.
Listen in and find out why Tommy changed his viewpoint about getting help for his addiction, why having a drink will lead addicts back to treatment in a short time, and why Tommy was scared that he wouldn’t be happy as a recovered addict.
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Show Notes:
[03:33] Decompression surgery to his skull led to more health problems after his motorcycle accident.
[04:08] What treatment was like the first time in recovery for Tommy.
[05:37] How his prescription for pain medication led to illegal drug use.
[07:53] Tommy reflects back on his time at the first recovery facility.
[13:08] Getting back to life requires a lifestyle change after addiction.
[18:35] Tommy’s second time in recovery at Rock Recovery Center.
[23:56] The danger of hanging out with old friends who drink and do drugs when you’re an addict.
[29:48] Questioning if he is going to be happy when he was in recovery.
[34:11] The importance of surrounding yourself with positive people after addiction.
[39:08] Life changes that happened to Tommy as he worked through the recovery program.
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“My mom was my biggest enabler and as soon as she took her foot off the gas pedal my life came crumbling down around me. That’s where the biggest change and growth came from.” -Noah
Today, Ben and I are chatting with Noah, who was 20 when he received his first DUI. His parents kicked him out of the house after this event. Forced to attend AA, his grandmother took him to his meetings. Not understanding the program or the benefits of completing the 12 Step Program, Noah wasn’t an engaged participant in the program when he first started his road to recovery.
Events that Led to Noah Receiving His First DUI
“Me and my mom would get into it over anything and everything,” explains Noah. He would fight with her about little details and would refuse to help out around the house. Noah liked his work pattern: go out to drink, come home, and repeat this daily pattern. Although his mom was encouraging Noah to seek help, he didn’t believe he had a problem. “I was living life the way I thought it should be lived.” He didn’t see his alcoholism because he found that many of his friends lived the same type of lifestyle, so Noah normalized his way of life through others.
His Life Post-DUI
Losing the ability to be independent and drive himself to where he wanted to go, Noah soon realized the humiliation that accompanied losing his privilege to drive. “I had all this freedom to do what I wanted and then suddenly it was stripped away.” Sitting at his parent’s house, his mom caught him drinking. She sent him to a nearby detox center to clean up his act.
Relapse Patterns and His Struggle to Become Sober
Not feeling like he belonged in treatment, Noah wanted to fast track to the next step so he could get home and live the way he wanted to live. Putting on a show and not being his genuine self, Noah refused to dive into what he needed to do to become a sober member of society.
After going through his first detox treatment in his hometown, Noah ended up back drinking alone in his room. His mom sent him back to detox again.
Listen in and find out why the crowd at the detox center affected Noah’s ability to get clean, what happened when his mom wouldn’t let him live at home, and why Noah was kicked out of recovery.
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Show Notes:
[03:33] Noah’s first DUI, which led him down a negative spiral of life events.
[04:20] What led Noah’s parents to kick Noah out of their home.
[05:53] His life after getting kicked out of his parent’s house post first DUI.
[10:34] Noah struggles through multiple attempts at recovery.
[14:42] What happened after Noah left his first detox treatment in Illinois.
[17:21] His mom reaches her breaking point and doesn’t allow Noah to live with the family again.
[21:01] Ben explains recovery capital and the reason for living after addiction.
[22:12] Rehab romance and why it didn’t end well for Noah.
[26:11] Noah was asked to leave on administrative discharge because he wasn’t progressing through the addiction program.
[28:59] Ben tells mom to stop paying for all of Noah’s mistakes.
[31:37] Noah regresses back to drinking after this fourth time in recovery.
[34:13] The importance of pulling the plug and not enabling your addict.
[41:49] Why a support group is needed to hold each other accountable.
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“Alcoholics Anonymous didn’t just save my life, it taught me how to live a life worthy of having been spared and changed me from the inside out.” -Eric Sheets
Today, Ben and I are chatting to Eric Sheets, who is sharing his story of recovery and how he has taken his experience to give back and help other addicts become sober again.
Eric’s Background with Drugs and Alcohol
Eric says he came to the 12 Step Program a “broken man” and admits that this is the first time he has been honest with himself. “I could see that fear has governed my life as long as I can remember.”
He did have a stretch of sobriety between 2003 and 2010 when his wife fell ill with a rare lung disease and was terminally ill. “In that time I found God and my understanding of him” because, for the first time in his life, he understood his purpose. Although he realized that God put his wife into his life, he still didn’t believe that he was an addict and didn’t understand what this lifestyle entails.
The Second Phase of Drinking for Eric
After his wife passed away, Eric didn’t drink for several weeks until he was invited to a dinner party where a woman gave him a glass of wine after convincing Eric that he wasn’t an alcoholic. He remembers that moment like it was yesterday and picked up his addiction at the moment he left off.
At the moment he realized he couldn’t move on anymore, he walked into a hospital and told the emergency staff he was going to commit suicide; and he was baker-acted and introduced to Alcoholics Anonymous.
Living a Life of Purpose
“Living a life of purpose makes me happy,” Eric comments. He found that when he has a purpose, he can live sober and help others live sober. “Living in communion with my creator is how I found my purpose and what greater purpose can there be?”
Listen in and find out how Eric came to find his purpose, what happened when he stopped being of service, how fear and selfishness crept into his life, and how he rebuilt his relationship with his son.
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Show Notes:
[05:01] History and background on Eric’s early history.
[10:58] The days and weeks following his wife’s death.
[12:45] Picking up his first glass of wine after being sober for seven years.
[14:54] Eric’s rapid progression through alcoholism.
[17:05] When Eric started working the 12 steps, he started to care about other people.
[18:56] How Eric found purpose in his life and how his purpose motivated him to stay sober.
[20:53] The importance of addressing the little issues that trip up addicts.
[23:30] How Eric patched his relationship with his son.
[34:11] Eric found his new wife after his addiction.
[40:23] Putting a “why” between his alcohol and his addiction.
[43:34] The importance of having faith when you’re a recovering addict.
[53:13] His spiritual experience when going through the fifth step.
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“I’m able to get high on life with sobriety.” -Faith Penda
Today, Ben and I are chatting to Fatih Penda, a long-term addict who has recovered and is now leading a drug and alcohol-free life. Leading to building a recovery center, Fatih is now leading other adults into recovery and positive life.
Fatih’s Background with Drugs and Alcohol
Born in Salem, Massechuessets with a Muslim upbringing, Fatih always felt different than everyone else. Although his uncle did drink, he isn’t sure where his addiction comes from. “Throughout high school I started taking drinking to the next level, then using and abusing drugs and taking that to the next level,” where he went back and forth between drugs and alcohol.
Spending his summers overseas in Turkey, Fatih understood and spoke two languages fluently, going to school in Turkey and the US. “It was always hard to adjust when I came back to school after the summer.” In his eighth grade year, he found out he was going to start high school in Turkey. With no drinking age, he was able to smoke and drink whenever he wanted to.
Picking Up his First Drink and Getting into Addiction
He would experiment with different drugs and return to the United States for his freshman year of college. Fatih found himself treating life as an adult, and it was hard to get back in with his jock friends and the circle of athletes he previously hung out with. Fatih’s friend gave him acid, and he started tripping in classes, and his drug use escalated from there. Moving onto cocaine and other drugs, including prescription drugs, Fatih’s addiction spiraled out of control.
Fatih’s First Experience with Addiction Treatment
The Muslim culture doesn’t understand addiction and the concept that addicts can’t just stop their addiction. His parents sent him back to Turkey, in an attempt to get him away from the environment that was supporting his addiction. However, Fatih found a way to get prescription drugs cheap and was hooked on Xanax for weeks, eventually ending up in a mental health facility.
Listen in and find how Fatih received sobriety through the 12 Step Program from AA, action steps you can take to start your journey into sobriety, and how sobriety has changed his viewpoint and perspective on life.
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Show Notes:
[04:30] Fatih’s early years and his upbringing.
[10:00] Returning back to the states for his college education.
[15:00] His first attempt at recovery from his addiction.
[19:02] Going to a Scientology recovery center for his second treatment.
[28:49] Action steps you can take to make your first move into sobriety.
[33:56] Witnessing the journey from addiction to sobriety.
[35:44] Fatih talks about his upcoming heart surgery.
[38:37] What saved Fatih from crashing and burning on drugs and alcohol.
Episode Links and Resources
Real Recovery Live Chat
Real Recovery Talk on the Web
Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
Rock Recovery Center
Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
Find out more about Al-Anon and how this resource can support your family
Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
Today I will talk about the process and path of a person moving from being a "normie" to using drugs and alcohol and becoming an addict.
In this episode, I talk with Brad Jensen, the founder of Key Nutrition, and is in recovery. He comes to us today to talk about how fitness and health have positively impacted his sobriety. Brad also talks about his struggles with sobriety. He'll talk about his experience, his awareness of the three pillars to life, and how he can assist clients with his coaching to be more successful on the path of sobriety.
Struggling with anxiety and ADD from age 12, he tried alcohol as a release and found drinking worked to relieve his stress. Additionally, he was overweight and was picked on by friends. By age 14, Brad jumped into reading books on health and fitness and was hooked on his health class at school. He remembers wanting to look like a bodybuilder on the cover of a magazine, then realizing that alcohol would not let him achieve his goal and quit drinking. At the end of his sophomore year, he was fit, but still had anxiety and was presented with opiates at a party.
Even with a stable family situation and a good life, Brad fell into drugs and alcohol. "This wasn't supposed to happen to a guy like me," he says, recalling his stable family life. Brad continued bodybuilding, along with his heroin addiction, until he finally ended up in prison for an extended period.
Listen in to find out how Brad denied his addiction for years, how he recovered from his long-term addiction in November of 2012, and the best thing his parents did for him during recovery. Brad also talks about how the loss of his grandfather affected his recovery from addiction.
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Show Notes:
- [03:59] Brad’s journey through addiction and his background with drugs and alcohol.
- [06:01] Brad tells his story of how he was introduced to and hooked on opiates.
- [08:45] His experience of trying to take more pain pills and how to get a hold of more.
- [10:56] Building his identity through distributing opiates, the significant power this gave him and his first experience with heroin.
- [14:52] His senior year of high school his mom found a briefcase full of drugs.
- [22:56] Brad’s first experience with a long-term prison sentence.
- [26:18] How Brad’s parents stopped enabling him and how this helped him to stop using drugs.
- [28:06] What happened when Brad asked his mom for drugs.
- [30:00] Brad’s first steps to recovery after he was released from 30 days in prison.
- [36:54] How materialistic items can keep people sober.
- [46:30] How fitness and health has impacted Brad’s sobriety.
- [51:54] Get your anger, anxiety and issues out of your head with a good workout in the gym.
- [54:54] It’s not how long you’ve been sober, it’s what you’ve done during and after your recovery time.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Brad Jensen | Key Nutrition Coach
“I wanted to take something hard that I had to go through that was painful and help another human being to get through without struggling as hard as I did.” -Maya
Today, Ben and I are chatting to Maya who is a full-time employee at Rock Recovery Center. She is here to talk about her past history and how she became a professional in the substance abuse space.
Why Maya Chose to Work with Recovering Addicts
“I never thought that I’d be here working in mental health and the substance abuse field,” Maya says about her career choice. She is excited to be working with us at Rock Recovery Center and is an excellent fit for our team.
She was born and raised in Florida, growing up in an upper-middle-class family with a strong work ethic. However, both her parents were addicts, and her dad died of his disease. “I never felt a part of, or good enough, or that I belonged in any environment.”
Her parents divorced when she was one and didn’t have good relationships with her stepparents on either side. “I was an addict long before I picked up any substance,” as she was trying to validate her worth early on with love being conditional based on her achievements. As a result, she was a high-achiever in academics and sports. “It’s hard to maintain that level of expectations.”
Her First Drink at Age 15
She remembers feeling scared when she picked up her first drink at 15 and the feeling of the potential damage that could arise with drinking. “It’s like a switch flipped and it wasn’t very pleasant.” However, since there was some sense of relief, she continued with the addiction. It wasn’t long before her disease progressed and friends noticed. Dropping out of school in the next year, she moved from her prestigious private school to public school.
Waking Up and Realizing Her Addiction
Having had opiates in her system every day of her life for over a decade, Maya was struggling just to survive. When she woke up in the medical unit of jail, she gave up hope and thought she would die.
Listen in and find how Maya decided to become a mental health provider, why her recovery has to be separate from her work and clients, and her advice on how to deal with someone who is addicted.
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Show Notes:
- [03:45] History and how she became addicted to alcohol and drugs.
- [07:49] Maya now embraces herself with her flaws and strengths.
- [08:30] Picking up her first drink at age 15 and the consequences of drinking.
- [11:17] Trying to forge her identity as an adolescent.
- [19:10] Her dad passes away and she ends up in jail for stealing a car.
- [27:10] Why addicts can’t stop even though they want to stop the addiction.
- [31:14] How she decided to become a licensed social clinical worker.
- [33:44] Her personal experience navigating as a clinical worker and being in active recovery.
- [34:22] How she separates her personal recovery and work life.
- [43:16] Maya’s advice for families dealing with a loved one’s addiction.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Find out more about Al-Anon and how this resource can support your family
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
Tom and Benjamin B. are joined by Keith. Keith is a rockstar when he plays the guitar. He is also here to talk about why it's so important to have structure within sober living. There are some places that don't have any structure, but a guy like Keith could whip them into shape really fast.
Keith is a behavioral health tech. He has also been a house manager, and he is a recovering addict. He tells it like it is, but is able to do it in a way where he doesn’t offend people and is able to gain the respect of the clients. This episode is a great insight into how structure can help someone move forward with their life.
Show Notes
- [03:00] Ben and Keith have known each other for at least three years now. Keith is also in recovery, and he is a behavioral health tech.
- [03:12] Keith is known for some methods that are tied into the structure and regimen that we are going to be talking about today.
- [03:30] Keith is an addict. He came to Florida in 2013 from a homeless shelter. This is where he first learned to start having a regimen.
- [04:16] He didn't want to be drunk, high, and irresponsible anymore.
- [05:12] Get up in the morning, make your bed, do your dishes, take a shower, and take care of yourself.
- [05:42] A lot of clients that we deal with tend to be a little bit spoiled. Keith had limited resources, but took what was available and applied what he needed to.
- [07:06] Keith was grateful to have a roof over his head at the homeless shelter when it was snowing outside.
- [08:04] Keith lost everything and anything that came to him after that he considers a gift.
- [10:27] Tom and Ben both started this text as well.
- [10:47] Keith demands respect, and he is very straightforward with his clients.
- [12:53] Clients spend 90% of the day with the techs, and it might just be the most important position here.
- [13:53] You have to think about what the client is going through.
- [15:18] People aren't perfect. Who runs treatment centers? People.
- [17:03] The work actually starts after you get sober.
- [17:34] A house manager is someone with a certain amount of sobriety time. This is one of the hardest positions to find.
- [19:13] It's really a job on top of a job.
- [20:28] Being a house manager was an opportunity that Keith took while he was also working another full-time job.
- [20:42] This was his opportunity to make things different and fix things that were wrong when he was a client.
- [22:02] Keith has flipped mattresses, and even set up a guy's entire room in a gazebo.
- [24:04] Keith is always involved in exciting stuff, and his life looks like a blast. The clients seem to pick up on that.
- [25:00] He'll go diving and jump out of a plane all in one day. He has also broken every bone in his body.
- [26:34] Say what you mean, but don't say it mean.
- [29:05] Experience is what Keith had to bring to the table.
- [31:25] There is meant to be confrontation in treatment. The job is to give people the opportunity to utilize coping skills.
- [33:15] It's a client's responsibility to contribute to the safety of the treatment program.
- [34:07] There are people from all walks of life with every defect in the house.
- [36:22] Keith has opinions that bring truth and help the treatment plan have balance.
- [41:41] Keith is from the Bronx. He presents himself for who he is.
Links and Resources:
- AA
Geographical change can help assist people going through recovery. A change that includes getting away from the people and influences that led to the addiction in the first place can be helpful. Benjamin B. and Renee L. are here today to talk about the benefits of sending your loved one to recovery someplace that includes geographical change.
We talk about South Florida recovery versus Northeast recovery and Renee shares her experience with both. Renee and Ben both share their experience with recovery and geographical change. We talk about medically assisted therapies like suboxone and methadone and how additional therapy geared toward abstinence, spirituality, or AA are needed along with a desire to change.
Show Notes
- [02:50] Prior to coming to South Florida, Renee was deep in her addiction. She actually came to South Florida for geographical change.
- [03:21] She didn't stay in the Northeast because of people, places, and things.
- [03:40] In the Northeast, there's the high-end recovery that focuses on yoga or medically assisted treatment.
- [04:00] Renee had tried suboxone therapy and it didn't keep her sober.
- [04:18] There are a lot of suboxone clinics up north.
- [04:47] Ben also has experience with methadone and suboxone.
- [06:24] When Ben was taking the methadone, he received therapy once a month. The methadone and suboxone kept him alive long enough to gather enough tools to want abstinence.
- [08:35] Ben went to therapy in Minnesota where his grandmother lived.
- [09:07] Medically assisted treatment means some type of methadone or suboxone, but there is no actual therapy.
- [10:02] Technically, Renee wasn't sober. She was just switching from opiates to suboxone.
- [11:47] Suboxone is also an abusable drug that people can become dependent on.
- [12:53] Geographical change removes the addict from the place where they are comfortable with their addiction.
- [13:17] Getting on an airplane and going 1500 miles away from home is a commitment. It's also a good way to avoid triggers.
- [14:25] Without geographical change, Renee doesn't think she would have gotten sober.
- [16:50] In the first year, Renee changed nothing other than where she was living. Relationships made getting clean the hardest for her.
- [18:01] When relationships failed, Renee went back to drugs.
- [18:57] South Florida is known for having great recovery.
- [20:30] It's hard to get clean when you're still surrounded by people who don't want that to happen.
- [22:59] By traveling for recovery, it's harder to change your mind and go home. Addicts can be extremely impulsive.
- [24:28] It's vital that loved ones and those involved don't make the geographical change with the addict. This includes over the phone and Skype. People need to make their journeys on their own.
- [27:04] Life is going to happen no matter what. You can get through things without getting high. Treatment is not easy for your love ones, you can't derail it as a family member.
- [30:23] Families being involved are a vital part of the process, but there is a time and a place.
- [33:37] Renee is hoping to start a meeting in the Northeast. She built a good foundation during the five years she was in South Florida.
- [35:09] Exercise abstinence first. Don't look at a MAT program as your first option. Benefits to geographical change include commitment, recovery based culture, and lack of triggers.
- [37:33] Geographical change is very important if it is a viable option for you.
Links and Resources:
Episode 20: Is Methadone an Effective Treatment Option?
“I know people that have gotten clean and sober off of their drug of choice... and have tried this 'medical marijuana' aspect of it... and... I don't know of anybody that was able to stay that way and maintain sobriety after going down that road.” -Tom Conrad
Today, Ben and I are chatting about California Sober, brought to light recently by Demi Lovato on Joe Rogan's podcast, offering our opinions on it. While we aren't here to criticize how other people recover from addiction, as we are not witch burners, we just want to offer our opinions based on our own experiences being former addicts ourselves.
How We Ultimately Feel About California Sober
In her interview with Joe Rogan, Demi Lovato defines what she means by being California Sober, saying, “It's a term that a lot of people use to identify this path of moderation with the help of some green plants.” Our perspective on this is that that isn't going to work for everyone. We both agree that while marijuana isn't usually a gateway drug and wouldn't likely cause us to revert back to harder substances, it wouldn't likely have any benefit in our lives and would, in fact, likely hinder productivity. Give it a go if it works for you, but our experiences suggest that, again, it does not work for everyone.
How People Like Joe Rogan Have Misunderstood the Twelve Steps
The first step of the twelve steps is admitting that you are powerless in your addiction, and some people seem to confuse powerlessness with helplessness. If you were helpless, then there wouldn't be recovery programs. Being helpless refers to an inability to take action, but these programs offer things that you can do, ways to fix the problem. It isn't helplessness. In fact, if anything, it can actually be empowering.
Our Experiences and How They Shape Our Opinion on Marijuana MaintenanceWe, for starters, have known people who have relapsed and even died of overdose after years of sobriety because they started smoking marijuana. Living in the Palm Beach County Area in Florida, we have also seen four local treatment centers adopt the marijuana maintenance treatment method. Two of them were actually shut down by the FBI and owners got arrested because of how addicts were being taken advantage of, one voluntarily shut down because of its clientele not being serious about actually wanting to recover, and, finally, someone that we know personally throwing in the towel on the program because of his perspective that it had absolutely no benefit to him.
What the Best Approach Is in Our Opinion
While, again, we are not witch burners and are not even against marijuana, there is absolutely nothing to support the idea that marijuana maintenance is a more effective treatment than abstinence based treatment. While marijuana maintenance (or California Sober) works for some, that doesn't seem to be the norm, so it is our belief that it is always better to completely abstain from illicit substances, that that's always the best approach.
Listen in and hear us discuss our experiences and how they shape our opinions on this topic. Be sure to check out our new website where you can download any episode along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [04:16] What the topic of this episode will cover – California Sober.
- [08:19] How Tom and Ben feel about Demi Lovato's discussion of being California Sober.
- [09:54] Whether or not marijuana is a gateway drug and what kind of effect it could have on someone trying to maintain longterm recovery from harder drugs.
- [12:18] How Tom feels about Joe Rogan commenting on helplessness in the addiction and recovery community.
- [15:01] How Joe Rogan's perspective on the twelve steps is misguided because there is a difference between powerlessness and helplessness.
- [19:54] Marijuana Maintenance has been adopted in treatment centers in the Palm Beach county area of Florida, none of them successes.
- [24:00] Why abstinence from all illicit substances is the best path to recovery.
- [30:53] How recovery is not absolute or black or white.
- [34:45] How substance abuse is, for some people, all or nothing, which is why abstinence is the best approach.
- [39:16] Summary of the episode's main points about California Sober.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Tom's Instagram Page
- Ben's Instagram Page
- Demi Lovato on Relapsing and Being “California Sober”
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Find out more about Al-Anon and how this resource can support your family
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
“This disease does not discriminate and it’s really hard to get sober.” -Nicole Bifano
Today, Ben and I are chatting to Nicole Bifano, a primary worker at Rock Recovery Center and an LCSW, about the therapeutic process, the steps of detoxification, and the details of AL-ANON membership.
Why Nicole Chose to Work with Recovering Addicts
Nicole felt called by God to work in the realm of addiction treatment. Working at a treatment center was her only option when she graduated. Although Nicole didn’t plan on working in an alcohol and drug rehab center, she fell in love with her job. “I was able to discover who I was in the process as I had an attachment to this disease since I grew up around it.”
Nicole’s Perspective on Counseling Addicts
She realizes that it’s not about the substance; for addicts, it’s the underlying emotional imbalance that brings them into addiction. “For me, it’s about identifying with people on a human level.” Nicole looks to connect with those in recovery to show them that they are loved and cared for as human beings. “Connecting with people on their level gives you the ability to help them.”
Breaking Through the Addictive Mindset
Clients have a range of issues, and sometimes they are still in the party and drugging stage. By looking at their past life history and experiences, Nicole can get a good insight into the source of their addiction and work with them to move past their emotional grief. Many of her clients don’t feel loved or that they don’t belong, and addiction to drugs gave them a feeling of inclusion.
Listen in and find out the multiple facets of addiction, how Nicole facilitates the healing process, and how she guides her patients through the recovery process.
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Show Notes:
- [04:14] Why Nicole chose to work with those recovering from addiction.
- [06:15] Her approach to counseling those with addiction issues.
- [10:30] Nicole's treatment approach with her counseling.
- [12:51] Common elements across patients with drug addiction.
- [18:45] How time is spent working with clients during counseling.
- [20:27] Creating connection through a relationship built on trust.
- [25:05] Resources to support your loved one through their healing process.
- [32:55] Tangible Al-Anon takeaways and why Nicole uses them as a resource.
- [39:33] The importance of relinquishing control as an addict.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Find out more about Al-Anon and how this resource can support your family
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
“I knew I didn’t like myself, but I didn’t even know myself.” -Steve
Today, Ben and I are chatting with Steve, our intern at Rock Recovery Center, who will celebrate 12 years of sobriety this week! Steve has been with us since January. He is attending university for his bachelor’s degree in social work, and we are excited to have him on the show today to talk about his recovery and his work here at Rock.
What Steve is Contributing to Rock Recovery Center
Being an addict in recovery, Steve understands our family's struggles and challenges here we at Rock Recovery Center go through regularly. “I think I can contribute to working with young adults, as I was a young adult when I decided to go into recovery.” His parents sent him into recovery, where he was able to get back on his feet and stop living the junkie lifestyle that was “exhausting.”
Steve’s History of Drug Use
Growing up with Crohn's disease, Steve was in and out of the hospital dealing with the medical implications of this auto-immune disease from the time he was 11 to the time he was 17. The doctors had put him on high doses of Prednisone, destroying his hips, resulting in Steve's use of crutches and a wheelchair to be mobile.
Steve dealt with many different side effects from being on long-term, high-dose steroids, such as excessive weight gain, which kids at school bullied him about daily. He also grew up in a chaotic household with his parents constantly arguing until their divorce.
He started his abuse of drugs by smoking pot in his late teens. He remembers smoking pot and telling his friends he didn't want to not feel stoned. Steve had a hard time emotionally and used marijuana to self-medicate. By the age of 22, he was homeless and smoking crack daily in his car. "My life spiraled so fast from using Oxycontin and Roxie's - the next thing I know I'm smoking crack."
Listen in and find out Steve's big wins from his 12-year sobriety, what steps to take to bring yourself out of the addict's mindset, and why Steve chose to work with addicts in a recovery center.
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Show Notes:
- [03:46] Why Steve decided to work in the substance abuse field.
- [06:17] His battle with addiction and becoming homeless.
- [08:20] Steve’s history growing up and how he became addicted to drugs.
- [17:03] Biggest sobriety accomplishments to date.
- [23:21] How to get ahead of the game when you’re working on getting sober.
- [25:17] What draws Steve to work in a therapeutic setting.
- [33:19] Steve’s future and what he is planning to do in the next five years.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
Getting clean and sober can be stressful. We try to do everything possible to help people going through recovery deal with stress. It's scientifically proven that exercise will help reduce stress levels. This is why we can't emphasize the importance of exercise enough in the process of getting clean and sober.
Today’s episode is about exercise and why it is important to incorporate into your journey. Tom and Ben will be discussing this important topic along with the benefits of exercising throughout the recovery process and how exercise can affect your overall physical and mental well being. It can even have an effect on heart health and inflammatory issues.
Show Notes
- [02:23] Stress reduction. Exercise is a natural stress reducer. It naturally correlates with the chemicals in your brain. It also gives you an opportunity to take your mind off of whatever you've been thinking about for the day.
- [03:42] Getting clean and sober can be stressful. There are a lot of things that you aren't used to doing that you now have to do while you're sober.
- [04:20] There is even research out there that shows stress can cause heart and inflammatory issues.
- [04:50] Exercise also incorporates into time management. Going to the gym right after work gives you an opportunity to step away from the stressors of the day.
- [05:46] If you exercise, you get better sleep. Most people in recovery are prescribed some type of sleep aid. It's hard to fall asleep when you first begin recovery.
- [06:52] It's extremely beneficial to wean off of the sleep meds, and exercise can help you do this.
- [09:57] Seroquel is an antipsychotic used for sleep. It makes you tired and makes you sleep. Tom became dependent on it.
- [11:29] Tom has to do something exercise-related during the day even if it's just going for some walks. It definitely helps him sleep.
- [12:15] In Ben's opinion, sleep medication helps maintain the addicts behavior and mentality.
- [13:11] While we're sleeping our bodies rejuvenate and repair themselves.
- [13:51] Improves mood. Exercising actually improves your mood. Exercise helps with the depression and anxiety that people in recovery frequently have.
- [15:45] We just built a gym and run our clients through a workout routine. We ask them to pay attention to their mood before and after the exercise. We frequently see people walk out of the exercise session with a smile on their face.
- [17:32] Opiates release endorphins. A runner's high is similar to the endorphins from opiates. It's the same chemicals on the brain.
- [19:48] Most people who get regular exercise aren't depressed.
- [20:10] CrossFit or something with a community workout gives people a sense of accomplishment.
- [21:15] We find exercises that we can modify for all of our clients.
- [22:06] Increase of energy. Energy capital. Even though exercising expends energy, by exercising you end up with more energy throughout the day.
- [24:05] Coffee and energy drinks are not the only way to energize.
- [25:26] If you work out you sleep better, if you sleep better you have more energy. It all comes full circle.
- [26:01] Exercise gives you a stronger immune system. It's important to have a strong immune system during recovery, because you don't want to get sick.
- [27:20] Exercise can help push out the last of the detox process.
- [28:49] Pot is fat soluble and can store in your fat cells.
- [30:07] Exercising as a whole will help with relapse prevention.
- [30:24] It's a challenge, it gives you purpose, it's something you enjoy, you sleep better and feel better.
- [30:59] Also add good nutrition and have a sense of community or a 12-step program, and you will be setting yourself up for success.
- [31:44] Tom just competed in a US powerlifting competition.
- [32:29] A big part of recovery is fellowship.
- [35:12] We have seen exercise work time and time again. It helps with mood and everything else.
- [35:47] This is why we incorporate exercise into our programs. We give people the tools they need and coach them through the workouts.
Links and Resources:
- Ep. 27 – Is Steroid Use in Recovery Considered a Relapse?
Today, Ben and I are chatting with Allie Severino, host of the “Dope Sick Nation”, which premiered on VICE in 2019. Allie’s goal is to help educate and heal America with her series offering a unique, inside perspective on the addiction problems facing our country in addition to the addiction treatment industry.
Allie is passionate about educating families on the advancement of addiction treatment, harm reduction, and holistic approaches. She believes in education to aid prevention and advance the recovery of people with substance abuse. Allie’s goal is to help families and loved ones affected by addiction.
Allie’s Addiction History
After getting arrested at 17 for drug use and receiving probation, Allie admitted herself into recovery. She earned her GED and started working full-time, obtaining her real estate license in the process. Allie wasn’t enjoying real estate as she had hoped, so she started her own Fresh Start magazine. She wrote and published under a fictitious name, not wanting anyone to know who published this magazine.
Pitching “Dope Sick Nation”
To get “Dope Sick Nation” picked up by a production company, Allie and her friends had to go in and pitch it more than once. The first time, they hated it; the second time, they loved the idea. She talks about how several of her friends died during the filming of the series. “There was a lot of emotional stuff going on while we were filming.” While there were definitely positive memories, such as Shane, who is still in recovery doing well, much of it was very intense.
Alex’s Story of Addiction, Relapses and Recovery
Starting treatment in Florida last year, he heard of “Dope Sick Nation” being filmed. In 2020, he had relapsed very severely and was drinking heavily daily. Since he was looking for treatment in Florida, he decided to reach out to Allie to be in the series.
Listen in and find out what you can expect from watching “Dope Sick Nation”, and how Alex decided to stay in recovery instead of going home to Arizona.
Check out our new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [03:15] Allie gives us a bit of her history from addict to recovery.
- [07:11] How Allie’s friend decided to create a movie on patient brokering.
- [10:21] From the movie American Relapse to getting syndicated as a TV series.
- [16:50] Ben and Allie discuss drug addiction recovery options.
- [19:18] Allie’s experience with couples recovery.
- [22:35] What you can expect when you watch “Dope Sick Nation”.
- [25:45] Alex tells us his story of addiction, relapse and recovery.
- [30:10] Allie’s visit with Alex in recovery.
- [33:37] How we incorporate physical fitness at Rock Recovery Center.
- [40:39] Alex’s plans for the near future.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
- Visit Allie Severino on the web
- Check out American Relapse
Today, Ben and I are chatting to Jacob, who tells us his story of relapse, which led him to his deterioration and how he dug himself back out to sobriety again. Being introduced to alcohol at age 8, Jacob had a long and challenging life ahead of himself, which has led to his recovery with support from Rock Recovery Center.
Starting His Life of Alcohol and Drugs at Age Eight
At 26, Jacob has been living in Florida for over eight years. He was first introduced to alcohol at age 8, where he was given sips of drink at a New Year’s Eve party. Jacob liked taking whatever activity he participated into the extreme, and drugs were no exception. He had his first introduction into a drug and alcohol rehab program at the age of 14. Although he was there for a week, he participated but didn’t take the program seriously.
Jacob Meets Ben at Rock Recovery Center
At 18, Jacob came down to Florida to Rock Recovery Center and first met Ben. He didn’t like anyone telling him what to do and was always in trouble. When he turned 20, Jacob finally took his recovery seriously and was able to pick up his 90-day celebration chip on his 21st birthday.
Taking Recovery to Heart
“The steps were easy for me in the beginning, and looking back on it now, I wasn’t fully honest through all the steps.” At nine months sober, Jacob lost a best friend who was like a little brother to him and promised him that he would throw his heart and soul into recovery.
Jacob spent three and a half years sober before he fell into the cycle of drugs again. His relapse started when he stopped connecting with his support group and supporting the recovery community. Jacob began to manipulate the people around him. “The depression, the anxiety, and the anger set in, and it was taking over me.”
Listen in and find out what Jacob had to do to change his mindset and stay sober after his harrowing experience on and off of drugs.
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Show Notes:
- [06:00] Jacob’s first experience in a drug rehab program at age 14.
- [09:15] Promising the soul of his lost best friend that he would put his heart into recovery.
- [12:42] What his first two years of sobriety looked like for Jacob.
- [19:05] Jacob’s ego got the best of him and started drifting back to drugs.
- [26:03] Users and recovering addicts should avoid kratom as it binds to your opioid receptors.
- [32:01] He thought he had arrived when he started drinking himself to a blackout when he felt depressed.
- [38:08] Why Jacob went back out and did drugs and alcohol.
- [40:43] Dealing with past trauma and how that affected his addiction.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
Today, Ben and I are chatting about gaining enough positive capital into your life for relapse prevention. Many people get sober, and relapsing can be expected. In this episode, we want to teach you tools and action steps to prevent relapse. Build your emotional capital as a buffer against wanting to go back and becoming an addict again.
Becoming Proactive in Your Recovery Process
Being proactive in your recovery process is a big part of staying on track in your sobriety. If you do your work on the front end, it’s easier to resist those cravings and stay clean when you do have desires. One way to be proactive is to go to meetings regularly - skipping meetings gives cravings a chance to sneak back into your thoughts. Make sure to consistently be doing the work to keep your sobriety.
Sobriety Before Relapse
Someone sober has made strides and put forth the effort to become sober. A dry person has put down the drugs and alcohol for the time being, but they haven't done the emotional work necessary to fix the addiction's root. It's possible for an individual to go to meetings and be dry because they haven't created the internal rearrangement to become sober. When a person relapses, they have experienced emotional trauma or stress, which has made them crave drugs to feel better again.
Rearranging Yourself Internally
During our addiction, behaviors ingrained in us are negative, selfish actions used to acquire our drug of choice takes a lot of effort to redirect.
You also must build recovery capital by becoming proactive. Gaining capital is a good cushion against relapse because withdrawals happen through negative experiences, and if we overdraw your account, relapse can happen.
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Show Notes:
- [05:26] Relapse prevention is not a black-or-white topic.
- [07:26] A prerequisite for relapse is for a person to be in active recovery.
- [09:21] It's possible to go to meetings and be dry because that person hasn’t created the internal rearrangement to become sober.
- [12:50] Start your day ready to add emotional capital to your account.
- [18:21] The importance of keeping challenges in your life to prevent boredom and relapse.
- [24:06] Having more responsibility results in more chances for negative circumstances to occur.
- [32:08] Learning how to be sober and deal with negative emotional feelings on your own is important to preventing relapse.
- [41:05] Enjoy activities for the activity, not for the past memory of what you did previously.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
Today, I’ll be talking about three questions you want to think about and reflect on before deciding to speak with your loved one about becoming clean and sober. No matter if they are a daughter, son, parent, or friend, these are three critical questions that you want to have answered before you start the conversation on recovery.
Keep in mind that drugs and alcohol are not the only two forms of addiction. Food, sex, gambling, and shopping are all conduits for addiction. These outlets are no less of an addictive substance than drugs or alcohol as the process ignites the same pleasure systems in the brain.
Common Themes Parents Talk About with their Addicted Children
While deciding to have a conversation with your child about their drug habit is a good choice, you first want to consider if this is a fear-based or care-centered conversation. Parents who have conversations out of fear speak out of emotion, leading to a charged conversation with negative side effects. Words such as “need to”, “should”, “do you realize”, “how can you”, don’t belong in a conversation in which your goal is to get your loved one to rehabilitation.
What do You Want for Your Son or Daughter?
Many parents have a big plan for their children for what they want for their son or daughter based on what they want out of life. We want them to live a happy life with a caring partner, have children, and experience grandchildren for themselves. However, we must pause and reflect on what we are asking of them. Are we basing our children's plans based on what we want for them or what they want out of life?
I’ve experienced parents who have expectations of their children based on what they want for them, not what their children want. For selfish reasons, parents are looking for their kids to live a certain lifestyle because it’s easier for the parent, not the child. Evaluate your motives when you are thinking about what your children “should or should not do.” Give your kids space to breathe and space to make decisions on their own.
Do You Have Realistic Expectations for Sobriety?
I can’t tell you the number of parents who had no realistic expectations of their children for their recovery. Children are set up for failure when they can’t achieve their parent’s goals.
Understand that when your child enters into sobriety, they are most vulnerable. They must solely focus on themselves to successfully move ahead in the process and become clean again.
Check out our new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [05:41] Conversations I have with parents about talking to their children about recovery.
- [08:41] Negative side effects of having a conversation out of fear.
- [13:38] Tom recalls the conversation with his dad in which he decided to become clean.
- [17:37] Make sure your goals for your children are based on what they want and need out of life.
- [23:50] How children decide who is involved in their recovery process.
- [27:38] Reasons to reflect on these questions before you talk to your son or daughter.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
Are you considering methadone or suboxone prescription as a way to treat heroin addiction for you or a loved one? Is this a safe way to beat an opioid addiction or will it only make the struggle more difficult? Ben Bueno is a recovering heroin addict shares his experience of being treated with methadone.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Facebook Support Group
RealRecoveryTalk.com/Facebook
Everyone on the planet is affected by self-esteem in one way or another. Today, Tom discusses how self-esteem in general can influence addiction. In this episode, he talks about what self-esteem is and why positive self-esteem is so important for sobriety and getting and staying sober. He shares his own battle with self-esteem issues and why finding the root cause is so important.
He also stresses that it’s a process that needs to be facilitated by a good therapist. He talks about action steps that anyone can take to start building up their self-esteem in a positive way. By the end of the show, you'll be able to understand how the health of one's self-esteem can directly impact whether someone will have or develop an addiction problem.
Show Notes:
- [02:03] Just after we did a show on the dangers of Suboxone, we found out that the manufacturers have been ordered to pay a 1.4 billion dollar settlement for negligent marketing.
- [04:14] Everybody has self-esteem. It can be good or bad, and it's learned over a period of years.
- [04:51] Traumatic events are a driver of negative self esteem.
- [05:41] The majority of the way someone feels about themselves will develop during their childhood state.
- [06:35] If someone has negative self-esteem growing up, the likelihood of them turning to something like addiction is higher.
- [07:43] One of the first things Tom and his team try to do is help clients identify where their negative self-esteem is coming from.
- [08:48] Figuring this out comes through therapeutic process.
- [09:19] If we can figure out what it is that's causing low self-esteem, we are in a position where we can reinforce positive things to build self-esteem back up.
- [09:26] Once self-esteem is built up, it won't be necessary to act out the way an addicted person did in the past.
- [11:20] Tom shares his childhood abandonment issues and how when he first began counseling he didn't believe that it was a problem.
- [12:12] Once Tom realized that he did have abandonment issues, it was a good place for him to start building upon that.
- [14:05] We want to know what happened prior to your drinking and using drugs that made you turn to them in the first place. One of the biggest reasons for this is one's self-esteem.
- [14:45] Providing a life that reinforces positive self-esteem will reduce the likelihood of your child turning to drugs and alcohol.
- [17:19] Once the self-esteem issues are established, it's time to reinforce and build up things that will encourage positive self-esteem.
- [17:33] People have to have some type of sense of identity and sense of security where they are okay with themselves.
- [18:00] Community and having friends is a big part of the sobriety process.
- [19:03] Take the top five people that you surround yourself with the most and you are the average of those five people.
- [19:39] Having a sense of purpose is a big part of the process. Having something to work towards will keep you going when you are sober.
- [21:59] It takes internal search to find your purpose. It's also okay to reach out to people and be vulnerable.
- [22:48] You also have to feel capable and have a sense of self-confidence.
- [23:19] Tell yourself that today might be hard, but you can get through it. If you don't believe this, you'll never achieve it.
- [24:22] Make a list of your strengths and things that you have accomplished in the past.
- [26:04] Eat good food and exercise. What you put in your body will directly impact the way that you feel.
- [26:57] Have some quiet time and go for walks on your own or listen to a podcast.
- [27:24] Be clean and take care of yourself and your hygiene.
- [27:38] Make sure you're home and living area is clean and organized.
- [28:10] Do things that you enjoy. Try things that you haven't done before to see what you like.
- [28:35] Doing all of these things will really help to build up your self-esteem.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Ep. 75 – Suboxone – Our Opinions – The Pros and Cons
We received two phone calls a couple of days ago that two people we know quite well had overdosed on drugs. One was rushed to the hospital, treated, and released. However, the second person is in ICU and will most likely not make it through his overdose. As a result of these recent tragedies, Ben and I decided to talk about what happens when addicts come to a place where they overdose and signs you can look for to hopefully prevent this from happening to someone you love.
Ben Recalls His Early Days of Addiction
While addicted, his mom would warn him to make sure that his drug source was “OK” because she was worried that his source could be laced with another drug. His mom was concerned, and now, Ben feels the same. When Ben would doctor shop, he knew his opiates would be regulated through a pharmacy.
The “Wash and Rinse Cycle” of Treatment
People will go to treatment, get clean time, and then their tolerance to drugs and alcohol drops as they haven’t had their drug of choice in their system for some time. At this point, you can get the wrong combination when you buy drugs off the street and you can easily overdose. It’s playing Russian roulette if your drug of choice is opiates and you choose to purchase them off the street.
The majority of clients coming in for treatment have dabbled in opiates, even if their main drug of choice is alcohol. It’s rare to see a client that hasn’t tried opiate drugs. The primary drugs we see people recovering from at Rock Recovery Center are heroin and opiates, although many identify as an alcoholic.
Relapsing to Drugs Via Alcohol
Alcohol is a gateway drug to other harder street drugs. We’ve seen people start to drink from an office party, then slide back into drug addiction. Whether or not alcohol has been a problem for someone in the past, if you’ve been an addict to drugs, you also need to stay away from alcohol so as not to relapse back into your old pattern.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [04:41] Differences in drug addicts and alcoholics.
- [07:19] The dangers of laced drugs in the 21st century.
- [10:08] What it means to have a case of severe jitters when you’re addicted.
- [14:05] Alcoholics typically die slow, painful deaths.
- [16:46] Relapsing into drugs starting with alcohol.
- [18:53] The ease of covering up alcoholism as it is socially accepted and easily available.
- [22:25] Why alcoholism needs to be recognized as a powerful drug.
- [26:38] Addiction needs to have more resources to be combated.
- [30:20] This circumstance has been heartbreaking and we don’t want to see another person overdose again.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
Charlie is here today to pick up his two years sobriety medallion at Rock Recovery Center. He is a graduate of our program and has successfully navigated a clean and sober life since leaving Rock Recovery Center. Charlie and his wife chat with us about how Charlie has been living his daily life as a clean and sober society member.
The Beginnings of Charlie’s Addiction
At age 13, Charlie left his home and started drinking socially to the point that he was drinking five gallons of alcohol a week. Before he started drinking heavily, he started taking hard drugs. “Once the drinking took off, my addiction became like a wildfire.” His portfolio of drugs included “meth, cocaine, crack, acid, shrooms, and I was in for anything that didn’t take a needle.”
“Balancing” Work-Life and Addiction
At 42, Charlie had to make sure he was clean for his job. “I was a Union carpenter, and I worked in a nuclear facility, so my background had to be squeaky clean, so I could pass the Homeland Security background check.” He would work 12 hour days, six days a week. After work, he would drink a few shots, go to sleep, then get up and go back to work. His addiction progressed into drinking in the morning to hold him over until break time at work, where he could drink a few shots, then drink again when he drove home from work.
Switching from Drugs to Alcohol
At first, he was able to “drink like a normal person,” and Charlie says that the “alcohol was socially acceptable, so it was easy to get.” He felt it was OK to get drunk at home by himself, watching TV, or “playing around in my workshop. I could cut off as many fingers as I wanted to because I was by myself, and it didn’t bother anybody.” Charlie was a solitary alcoholic and didn’t drink around friends or family.
Charlie’s Wife Amy and Her Perspective on His Addiction
“When we first got together, he point-blank told me that he was an alcoholic and he likes to drink.” She was OK with that until things progressed and they were in a more serious relationship. He started isolating and not paying attention to her or the children. Charlie decided to go to recovery, came back, and then relapsed soon after.
“We live right down the street from a liquor store,” so it was easy for Charlie to get a hold of alcohol. They separated, and then Charlie decided to go to Rock Recovery Center for treatment as Amy didn’t want to continue the relationship with Charlie’s addictive behavior.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [02:24] Charlie talks about his childhood and addiction background.
- [05:48] He reflects on his history of work and addiction.
- [09:57] Amy gives her perspective as a wife of an addict.
- [12:15] Charlie remembers driving drunk with his three-year-old grandson in the car.
- [14:25] Coming to Florida to Rock Recovery Center was Charlie’s first immersive rehabilitation experience.
- [19:05] What Charlie is doing daily to continue his successful recovery.
- [19:45] Amy’s experience with Charlie’s recovery and her wedding proposal to Charlie.
- [24:28] Living life on life’s terms and the importance of reaching out for support.
- [28:01] Charlie talks about his solid sobriety foundation.
- [31:36] Why life isn’t boring when you’re sober.
- [32:46] Charlie’s recommendation on the first steps to sobriety.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
“I feel that if I didn’t take that crappy job that I hated, that I wouldn’t be here on the path I was meant to be on.” -Ben
Ben's First Two Years in Recovery
Today, Ben and I celebrate Ben's tenth year of sobriety! "Years two through now have flown by for me," says Ben reflecting back on his journey. He remembers his first two years being rough for him as his first two years were a struggle. Ben refers to AA's founder and his recollection of having waves of resentment and self-pity through his process.
Why Ben's First Year Was Extraordinarily Hard
Ben realizes what made his first year so difficult was that he wanted to go back to his comfortable life. This was when he started taking suggestions and takeaways from meetings and other members of the various groups he belonged to in his recovery. Ben encourages others to take advice and try suggestions from successful sober society members to see what works for their recovery. If something doesn't work, they need to note what didn't work and try a new solution.
After two years of sobriety, he created a career change from bartending and personal training to working for a moving company, although he didn't want it as a job choice. He didn't realize that this job would lead him to go to school, getting his degree, and giving him the ability to work with recovering addicts. People realized Ben was owning his own plan and working out of his comfort zone, and they decided to support him.
How Trust Makes Sobriety Work
When you first come "off the street," you don't trust hardly anyone. However, to have a complete recovery, you'll need to put your trust in a few people to support you in your journey. Ben reminds us that we cannot have a successful recovery without trusting others, giving them a chance to "buy-in" to our recovery, and letting them be a part of our team and lead us to a healthier lifestyle.
Listen to Ben's challenges his first two years and how he got through his hardships, how he came to accept "life on life's terms," and how he changed his life's paradigm to create less conflict and justification in his life, which led to his complete recovery.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [02:36] Ben celebrates ten years of sobriety!
- [03:37] He reflects on his first two years of being clean and sober.
- [09:14] Trying new solutions when the previous idea didn’t work.
- [12:33] Do you really need a job that humbles you?
- [14:37] Getting out of your own way and how that can help you in life.
- [18:05] Ben’s most challenging hardships the first two years of sobriety.
- [21:13] What prevented Ben from picking up drugs and alcohol during his recovery.
- [25:41] Playing “Simon Says” to stay sober.
- [31:07] Confidence in taking action in order to stay clean.
- [35:17] Life doesn’t get easier, you have to get better at handling life situations.
- [38:20] What he does today to stay sober and how sobriety is possible.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
If you or a loved one have tried a 12-Step program like Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous and weren't successful this episode is for you.
Find out what works and what doesn't work in the typical 12-step recovery program.
Our guest, Ron, will also teach you what it takes to conduct an intervention to get someone you love into treatment for their alcohol or substance abuse issues.
“There are two kinds of people in this world: people in recovery who think they’re not and people in recovery who think they are.”
Tullian Tchividjian
Today, I’ll be talking with Tullian Tchividjian, a pastor and active in the addiction community that Ben and I have gotten to know very well. He has come to Rock Recovery Center to share his experience and strength with our clients. Tullian is a pastor for The Sanctuary, a church in Jupiter, Florida.
Tullian grew up in a laid-back Christian home that was supportive and friendly. In the middle of seven children, he always had a family at hand. At the age of 16, Tullian started to dabble in drugs and alcohol. His parents gave him the choice of giving up drugs and alcohol or leaving home. Tullian decided to live life on his own.
First, he enjoyed his newfound freedom. Then, at age 21, he realized “there’s got to be more to life than what I’m experiencing.” With his parents laying a good foundation, Tullian realized he needed to go back to God, similar to the Prodigal Son story in the Bible. “I was so taken by God’s amazing grace and his unconditional love in coming after a train wreck like me that I wanted to spend the rest of my life telling the world about this God.”
At the age of 41, his entire world came crashing in with a divorce, losing friends, and book deals. “Dealing with the guilt, shame, regret, and loss of all of this and beginning my life of recovery from this ordeal” felt to Tullian as if he was in recovery and dealing with many of the same feelings although he hadn’t been an addict.
His second wife, Stacey, came into his life and was an active part of recovering his life. At this point, non-Christians were the people who helped him feel “less alone,” which resulted in Tullian having no interest in leading a church as a pastor again. His belief is that we all have a negative connection to something in this world and that we are all in constant recovery to reach the next level of our own humanity.
Listen to his amazing story of how he came to transform and reinvent himself, his new congregation and his message of Christianity for everyone.
Bio
Tullian is a south Florida native. The middle of seven children, he dropped out of high school and got kicked out of his house at 16 years old. After a few years of running from God, God captured him and gave him a burning desire to reach a broken world with God’s boundless grace. He eventually graduated from Columbia International University, where he earned a degree in philosophy, and Reformed Theological Seminary in Orlando, where he earned his Master of Divinity degree.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [05:15] Tullian speaks about his background and history.
- [08:47] He ended his life of enjoyable freedom from his parents and school at age 21.
- [10:14] Tulian finds out that he needs to go back to God to find purpose.
- [15:39] How his world came crashing down during his first divorce.
- [17:20] His second wife Stacey and how she was the cornerstone of his recovery.
- [23:48] The activities Tullian used to fill the void of his life.
- [25:20] Tullian’s views on why God is in your life even though you may not feel his presence.
- [27:45] How shifting blame from himself to others played a role in his recovery.
- [31:00] The moment he recognized his freedom for himself.
- [38:38] God works with everyone, including “messy” people.
- [43:00] How Tullian approaches people that don’t buy Christianity.
- [50:26] “The only qualification to be a part of Christianity is to admit that you’re not qualified.”
- [51:25] His experience with his younger brother, Antony and Antony’s battle with addiction.
- [55:14] Tullian says “The best people to lead a recovery center are former addicts.”
- [58:07] Pastors could get farther and reach more people in their ministry if they were transparent about their shortcomings.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
- Visit Tullian on the web Tulian.net
- Twitter TullianT
- Facebook TullianT
- Instagram TullianTch
- Listen to his podcast The Sanctuary
Alex Uslar is the manager of the Hybrid Gym and the Director of Operations for the online company Hybrid Performance Method. Alex is a powerlifting, weight lifting, and crossfit coach. The Hybrid Performance Method is a virtual gym that provides accessible, affordable, and effective online workout programs to athletes of all skill and experience levels.
In this episode, we talk about Alex’s journey and how he used nutrition and working out to stay sober. Like many addicts, Alex had a rough start and turned to alcohol and drugs. Unlike many, he discovered what he wanted to do at a young age. He was then able to harness that desire and use it as fuel for sobriety. We talk about his journey and how he was able to turn his experience into a positive.
Show Notes
- [02:47] Alex is 26 years old, and he just had his 7 years sobriety date.
- [02:59] He was born in South Florida and moved to Pensacola when he was 4 years old.
- [03:15] When he was 13, he moved to Miami.
- [03:44] He had some emotional and psychological abuse when he was younger.
- [04:13] He was expelled from private school, and he started public school in the middle of the year.
- [04:47] It only took two or three days before kids tried to sell him drugs.
- [05:06] He started smoking marijuana.
- [05:31] There are people who drink super heavily in the punk rock scene. They're also the straight edge kids.
- [05:49] Things escalated after 8th grade for him.
- [06:51] His parents are from Venezuela.
- [07:18] His family left Venezuela when things got really bad, but his dad stayed over there.
- [08:01] Ben and Tom see a lot of clients who have had instability in their lives when they were young.
- [09:12] From 13 to 19, Alex's entire life revolved around music and partying.
- [10:51] Alex wouldn't change or trade anything that he went through, because without that he wouldn't be where he is now.
- [12:49] He dropped out of school and in the process, he got arrested. The counseling he had to go through helped him a lot.
- [17:09] He still went down a super destructive path. When he was 19, he wanted to get his act together.
- [20:29] The catalyst for him was getting a DM from an older punk rocker who owned a gym. They had similar stories and signing up for the gym was his first day sober.
- [21:23] He even realized that he wanted to work at a gym.
- [21:53] Staying sober and staying mentally strong and going to the gym was one of the hardest things he did. He had to relearn how to live.
- [25:34] He was given an opportunity to do an unpaid internship at the gym. The owner was his mentor in sobriety and coaching. He eventually became one of the head coaches.
- [32:06] Follow your passion if you work hard, you have the opportunity to rewrite the script.
- [32:46] Taking steps forward can be uncomfortable.
- [33:56] Alex became an extrovert as he learned how to sell gym memberships. There weren't any promises that he would get hired. He still worked hard and kept getting more and more work.
- [35:44] He ended up with the most personal training clients and made more money than anybody at the gym.
- [36:32] He showed so much ambition and desire that he kept growing and growing until h maximized his abilities and income.
- [38:52] Alex left his mentor's gym in 2017 to go work for Hybrid.
- [40:18] They talked three or four days ago.
- [45:18] People come and go in life sometimes.
- [47:16] Utilizing fitness and nutrition in sobriety. Alex feels people need something to rely on.
- [49:39] He believes that you control your thoughts and your actions.
- [52:06] At the end of the day, we are all trying to get to a better place.
- [53:58] If you don't want to look for a higher power, find a higher purpose.
- [55:46] Alex got sober by working out.
- [57:44] He loved seeing his clients transform. Now his social media following has grown.
Links and Resources:
- Hybrid Performance Method
- Alex Uslar on Instagram
- The OK Podcast by Tom Boyden & Jujimufu Stefi Cohen & Alex Uslar
Today, I’ll be talking about how to handle talking to your loved one to find out if they have a problem with addiction. Parents can have denial about their children’s addiction, and family members may not recognize signs of addiction. Find out how you can recognize the signs of addiction and what language to use in the delicate conversation of talking to your loved one who may be addicted to drugs and alcohol.
How we frame our message in the conversation is important, such as, “I want to allow you to get help.” Be patient and don’t demand that they reach out for help. It is a privilege to be able to have the resources to obtain assistance to become clean. However, many times the addict doesn’t want to become clean and sober, even if they can participate in a rehab center.
Be tactful when approaching your loved one. Make sure to have guidance on how to have this conversation. Create an open conversation to not push your child or loved one away from moving them towards recovery.
Also, make sure to have options that you have vetted put into place before you speak with your loved one. If they agree to be treated, you want to keep that momentum going and have options already in place to offer to them. The next step should be readily available, and they should be ready to go within 24 hours of agreeing to treatment.
If they refuse, use leverage points to make them uncomfortable and want to go. For example, if you provide a car, home, food, cell phone, or other necessity, take it away until they decide to recover. When you provide these things for them, it is easier for them to use their cash to buy drugs or alcohol.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [03:45] The difficulty of navigating talking to your children about addiction.
- [04:57] Does your child recognize that they have an issue with drugs or alcohol?
- [06:30] The privilege to have the resources to get clean and sober.
- [08:07] How to phrase your concerns - words to use and not to use.
- [12:10] Be ready with treatment options so as not to put time in between your loved one agreeing and going to treatment.
- [14:26] What to say when they refuse treatment.
- [19:45] Don’t go into a conversation being hostile.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
Ben and I talk to Sean, who works for Behave and Detox here in South Florida in today's episode. He is here to share his story of addiction and his recovery process. Sean shares what to look for in a detox center and details about the detox process.
Born in the Bronx, Sean moved to Brooklyn with his mom when his parents separated. Brooklyn was a tough place filled with violent crime, drugs, and alcohol - similar to his household. Today, his father has over 30 years of sobriety, and Sean follows in his footsteps.
His mother was physically violent with him from an early age. "What I got as corporal punishment back then is considered child abuse now." He didn't get into drugs or selling drugs because he was too afraid of his mother beating him.
At 12, Sean developed addictive behaviors as drugs and alcohol were easy to hold in his town. "That was when crack had first come out, and I rarely went to school in the 8th grade. He was offered his first drug in junior high during 6th grade. "When I really got in trouble in the neighborhood, my mother decided to take me out of there." He and his mother moved to Florida for a better life when he was 14.
Once in Florida, he started doing drugs and alcohol. Every summer, he would visit his family in New York without rules or boundaries. An addict at 18, he had to change high schools five times before receiving his diploma. His mother wanted him to go to community college. "I said, save your money, I'm going to a party. That's what I wanted to do because that's all my friends did."
Getting into the plumbing industry at the age of 22, he quickly spent his money on drugs and alcohol. As per tradition, apprentices in the union didn't pay for alcohol at the bar. For five years, he never paid for a bar tab. "That was the deal, Thursday at lunch we'd cash our paychecks, we'd go to the bar, and I'd drink for free. Then I'd go home and have my own party."
Listen in to find out why Sean was constantly drinking and drugging, how he made excuses for not going to rehab and the events that led him to check in to rehab for the first time at the age of 33.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [04:51] Sean gives his background history.
- [06:15] He describes what it was like growing up in Brooklyn in the 80s.
- [07:35] How Sean was introduced to drugs at the age of 12.
- [10:01] When he was offered his first drug in sixth grade.
- [13:53] Sean’s life after high school graduation.
- [16:50] Getting into his 30’s as a full-blown addict and alcoholic.
- [17:33] Events that led Sean to realize he needed to go to rehab.
- [24:15] What happened after Sean left rehab.
- [29:10] Sean’s fourth attempt at sobriety with only two weeks available to him in rehab.
- [31:16] Ben gives his perspective on Sean’s story.
- [36:06] How Sean’s role has changed in his new life.
- [40:36] Why AA was the best thing that happened in Sean’s life.
- [43:53] Distinguishing “the life” from recovery.
- [46:46] Why Sean didn’t know how to live.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
In today's episode, I talk to Jeremy about his story of addiction. He has decided to be a guest today to inspire others to also start their journey to sobriety. This is Jeremy's eighth attempt at sobriety and learning to live a clean life.
Jeremy is now medically retired from the army at age 39 as a result of PTSD. He served our nation for nine years, starting at age 23.
Brought up in Concord, North Carolina, Jeremy was a household child who taught respect and manners. He grew up with two siblings, an older brother, and a younger sister. "My childhood was really great. I was involved in baseball, football, and dirt bike racing." He remembers his friends not having the same solid family foundation, so his parents would take them under their wing and support his friends.
At the age of five, however, Jeremy was sexually molested by a member of his church. He wasn't sure how to handle this emotional trauma. As a result, his teen years were an emotional turmoil as his previous trauma bubbled to the surface. His doctors prescribed him anti-anxiety, antidepressants, and sleep medications. "It progressed from there, I just started numbing myself out. Even at that young of an age, I would abuse benzos." He quickly found out that he could "reach for a substance for comfort" early in his life.
"About 16 years old, I started drinking with my girlfriend and drinking with friends." From this teen experience, he evolved to keg parties with high school kids. At this point, he also experimented with cocaine. At 18, a friend introduced him to oxycontin. He soon realized this type of drug took away his social awkwardness and made him feel more comfortable around people.
Jeremy went back and forth with his addiction until, at age 20, he went to a methadone clinic for a year. From this point, he decided to get clean on his own. At age 23, he talked to an army recruiter as he liked the aspect of military life, and "I knew that's what I wanted to do once I got sober."
Listen in to find out why Jeremy's growth was stagnant on methadone treatment, how he became addicted again through his military experience, and why Jeremy believes in healing physically and spiritually.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [04:14] Jeremy gives listeners a bit of background about his story.
- [06:59] He talks about his younger, formative childhood years.
- [08:47] Jeremy talks about how he learned his addictive behavior from using doctor prescribed medications.
- [11:44] The feelings he has had to deal with as a result of his childhood trauma.
- [13:27] Part of his addiction is genetic as his father was an alcoholic.
- [15:30] Two weeks after first trying oxycontin, Jeremy was addicted.
- [18:43] Jeremy’s experience taking methadone.
- [23:49] What happened to Jeremy when he enlisted in the military.
- [25:56] Factors that led to Jeremy staying clean for seven years.
- [27:47] Advice Jeremy gives to addicts looking to join the military to overcome addiction.
- [32:44] The army substance abuse program and how the military treats addicts.
- [37:49] Why Jeremy is grateful for his battle with addiction.
- [40:26] Biggest contributing factors for Jeremy moving forward.
- [44:00] His plans for his new future.
- [45:30] Words of encouragement to others who are looking to get freedom from their addiction.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
In today's episode, Ben and I talk to Kat, who shares her experiences, the strength she found in her recovery, and the hope she has for her future. Kat's home is in Louisiana, and she is a current resident at Rock Recovery Center. At 32, Kat's second attempt at recovery, with her previous attempt at a different location.
Kat started using at the age of 15 and quickly chose heroin as her drug of choice. Much of her drug use has been with family and friends, such as her mother and younger sister. Her mother denies that she is addicted, however; she supports Kat in her journey to become free of drug use.
Drugs are a normalized part of her family life. In her 17 years of addiction, she has experienced the same detox treatment center ten times, and one other recovery center in addition to her stay here at Rock Recovery Center.
If you or your loved one has been to numerous treatment centers, and you are wondering why you can't come clean of your addiction, many times, it's the person's mindset that is preventing them from coming clean of their dependency. To successfully move through treatment, you or your loved one needs to be there because you want to be free of your habit.
After being arrested and thrown in jail, Kat came to the realization that she would either be spending a lot of time in jail unless she could free herself of drugs. She understood, "I would get my kids back, I would get my family back, I'll get everything I want back if I put my mind to it and do it!"
Parents and families ask us, "when do we throw in the towel on people and give up," and the fact is that we never give up to get an addict free of their habit. We consistently reach out to potential clients to see when they are ready to join others in their journey to freedom and a better life.
Listen in to find out how the Rock Recovery Center has surpassed Kat's expectations, the benefits of treatment at Rock, and how her support system has been key to Kat's recovery.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [04:24] Kat talks about her using history and how she became addicted to drugs.
- [08:45] Ben explains how family dynamics play a role in recovery.
- [12:23] Her first experience at a detox center in 2012.
- [14:12] Reflecting back on her previous detox attempts.
- [16:29] The stages of change in the detox process.
- [17:35] Kat’s moment when she had her mindset shift in recovery.
- [20:36] She talks about the exhaustion of constantly being around negative influences as a result of doing drugs.
- [23:15] Lying as a social norm of an addict’s life.
- [25:26] How Kat’s experience has surpassed her expectations.
- [27:22] Her experience at Rock and what she has really enjoyed about her stay.
- [30:45] Comparing Rock Recovery treatment center to other plans of treatment.
- [33:26] How Kat stayed off of narcotic drugs post-surgery.
- [38:00] Hospital stay experiences when you are in active addiction.
- [42:00] Ben and I reflect on Kat’s amazing progress at Rock Recovery Center!
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
In today's episode, Ben and I talk with Vince, a 25-year-old recovering addict from Philadelphia. He stole a bottle of vodka and drank the entire bottle in sixth grade. In the summer of his freshman year of high school, Vince started smoking pot. Cocaine became a weekend sports celebration during his junior year of high school. Vince became an addict after his team coach gave him a prescription narcotic drug in his second college year.
Vince was involved in sports as early as he could remember. His family consisted of three sisters, one of the older and two of them younger than him. Both of his parents were supportive of him and good, hard-working people. "Growing up, I was instilled with morals and values." He was brought up to respect elders, women, and to have good social manners.
"I remember going to this fight in third grade. Everybody started cursing and fighting. Immediately after that, I said my first curse word, then I went home and started watching fighting videos." He isn't sure if this one incident brought him down a negative road, but his life was very different after this experience. The next year in fourth grade, he ended up getting kicked out of school for fighting. "I was fighting and cursing and doing things kids that age shouldn't be doing."
He felt a purpose playing sports as he was always asked to play with the older kids in the next league up. "Everything on the outside just mattered so much, and I thought that was who I was. I thought that I was based on all external things." However, if anything went wrong, he immediately turned to anger and aggression, which he remembers his father modeling for him at an early age.
His school discipline record was horrible. However, the school let him slide because of his athletic abilities. Vince remembers not having any consequences for fighting during his high school years. This enabled him to continue this behavior, along with smoking pot with his friends.
Listen in as Vince tells his story of how he lost his scholarship to Rutgers, what happened when he became addicted to opiate drugs, and his multiple attempts at getting sober.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
- Share this podcast with a friend and leave us a review!
Show Notes:
- [03:09] Vince talks about his past experiences growing up in Philadelphia.
- [07:11] His first experience drinking in sixth grade.
- [13:33] Social acceptance and drug culture.
- [15:21] Personal identity associated with career for men.
- [18:25] Vince had his first experience with opiate drugs his senior year in high school.
- [19:45] He started stealing from his family to buy more opiate drugs.
- [25:11] The “Florida Shuffle” moving on from the treatment facility to another facility.
- [28:40] Ben talks about the incredible recovery culture in Florida.
- [33:10] Why Vince having his daughter wasn’t enough to keep him sober.
- [37:01] Sobriety and addiction and how these two can easily interchange.
- [40:13] What is different for Vince in this recovery process?
- [43:42] His biggest fears for the recovery process.
- [45:27] Vince’s spiritual AA experience.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
In today's episode, Ben and I talk with Nick, a client here at Rock Recovery Center. Nick originates from Cleveland, Ohio, and this is his first time in recovery at the age of 27. Listen in to this episode to find out how he became addicted to drugs at 11.
At a very young age, his first experience was smoking pot at age 11 and had his first drink at 12. Nick is close to his sister, whom he spent many afternoons after school hanging out.
Nick followed his dad, playing the same sports. His father was "more of a coach than a dad," coaching Nick in the sports he participated in as young as age three. His father always pushed him to be good at what he did in life. He also remembers his father hiding alcohol bottles around the house and drinking for hours by himself in the garage. In addition, Nick's dad would pass out in the hallway, drunk in the hotels, at sporting competitions. His mother is clean and has never been addicted to drugs.
At 13, Nick was in a fight and had several teeth knocked out. This led him to take narcotic pain medication. He quickly realized that taking a pain killer was a release from the physical pain from playing multiple sports. His parents did not monitor his pain medication and worked full-time. At 16, he had teeth pulled and had narcotics prescribed. Nick's doctor trusted he would take the narcotics as directed and is the reason he is addicted to drugs.
When he moved out of his house at 17 to play hockey, he moved in with three guys addicted to pain medication from multiple sports injuries. Nick brought the pot, and his friend came with narcotic drugs. Drugs ended up being a commonality between the two for the next four years.
He was kicked out of college and lost his scholarship. At this point, Nick returned home and went to community college and worked at a car dealership. Daily drinking eventually turned into a "game," where he and his friend would binge drink driving home from work. Nick finally realized that he needed help when his daughter was born, and he couldn't spend time with her because he needed to use drugs.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [04:07] Nick introduces himself and talks about how he became addicted.
- [08:03] He didn’t like drinking when he was young, but had his first drink at 12.
- [12:02] The progression of Nick’s addiction from the age of 16.
- [15:40] Nick’s college experience.
- [21:39] What led Nick to seek help at Rock Recovery Center.
- [27:24] COVID hit and he stopped going to his recovery meetings back home.
- [31:59] Nick talks about the relapse that moved him into recovery.
- [35:17] Ben tells how hard he works to stay sober ten years after he stopped using.
- [36:54] Recovery expectations when Nick came in the center.
- [41:23] Tom’s challenge to Nick in recovery.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
In today's episode, Ben and I will talk about how addicts can get accustomed to the lifestyle of alcohol and drugs. It's often problematic for addicts to comprehend how to live a "normal" life without the use of illegal substances. Ben and I are both AA graduates, and our experience of sobriety results from working hard to successfully complete the 12 steps of sobriety outlined in AA. This work brought a spiritual foundation into my life, and this is what my sobriety hinges on today.
There are multiple modalities and programs in which you can find sobriety, the 12 step program being one program. If this program doesn't work for you, please seek out a drug and alcohol program that appeals to you and gives you hope. Whatever way you choose, sobriety is your goal. The fruits of sobriety will give your life the positive change you are looking for to live a better life.
In section 83 of the AA book, there is a section titled "The Nine-Step Promises." One promise, "We are going to find new freedom and a new happiness." Freedom and happiness are different for each person. Freedom can be relief from feeling the physical trauma to feeling mentally free from the reliance on addiction.
Serenity and peace are two other aspects we are focusing on today. When you acquire these two feelings, you are OK sitting by yourself, without anxiety, want, or fear. Conflict resolution is a large part of achieving these two qualities for yourself. There are tools we learn to create change within ourselves or our situation, even if we can't change the world around us. These tools lead to achieving peace and serenity inside ourselves.
The Big Book talks about the fear of uselessness and self-pity. When you feel like you don't amount to anything, self-pity creeps into your life. You may feel like you will never have a family, go to college, or be happy. This is a destructive cycle for addicts, which disappears when you become clean.
Some grapple with the higher power aspect of AA. If a "higher power" isn't in your life, you can also shoot for a higher purpose. What is your purpose? Find a positive change to make in someone else's life. When you are sober, your outlook on life will change because your mind will clear, and you will see situations differently.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
- Share this podcast with a friend and leave us a review!
Show Notes:
- [03:17] Imagining a life without drugs and alcohol is hard to comprehend for addicts.
- [05:18] No matter what your substance is, what you need to move forward is a design for living.
- [06:55] The Nine-Step Promises that AA lists in their book.
- [10:07] There is no true freedom when we are tied to another substance.
- [13:19] Learning conflict resolution to achieve peace and serenity.
- [18:00] Fear of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.
- [22:51] Higher power and higher purpose.
- [26:19] The root of our problems is selfishness and self-centeredness.
- [27:44] Attitude and outlook on life will change when you become sober.
- [32:52] Read the big book from AA to find out more aspects of your life that can change when you become sober.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
In today's episode, Ben and I discuss the turning point when a newly sober client can start to make decisions for themselves. In the beginning, the person in recovery will be assigned a sponsor who is there for support and answering questions. Along the process, there's become a point in time that the person who is healing needs to become more independent and start to create change for themselves.
Working with thousands of people through the recovery process, Ben and I see many different cases. We receive feedback from clients and become a sounding board for those in recovery. A vast majority of the time, we will confirm that the sponsor gives the patient sound advice. However, the individual moving through the healing process needs to take the responsibility of making their own decisions.
Even though Ben is almost ten years sober, he still utilizes his support circle when he is in a challenging situation or bad day. In the end, Ben makes his own decisions for himself, but having a good, solid support group to assist you in your decision making is very important to stay on your path of sobriety.
A sponsor's responsibility is no longer just taking someone through the steps. A client is calling with many different issues for advice from their sponsor. There is a progression of questioning where at first, clients are asking for almost anything. However, there should be situations where someone can take an independent step on their own. Growth will enable someone to become an independent decision-maker.
Developing a GOD Power or the ability to deliver Good Orderly Direction gives you the ability to consciously figuring out problems on your own. By taking inventory of your behaviors, through the practice of working the program, and learning how to make situations right, you develop your skills to become an independent person.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [03:45] Ben’s experiences with clients who want to rely solely on their sponsor for help.
- [06:55] When you should be making your own decisions and not relying on someone else to make your decisions for you.
- [08:20] Ben and his sponsor relationship.
- [09:40] An example of bouncing ideas off of a sponsor for advice.
- [13:19] A sponsor’s responsibility to their charge.
- [14:33] Dating another person who is going through recovery.
- [15:37] The progression scale of learning how to become an independent decision maker.
- [17:35] Developing GOD Power - Good Orderly Direction.
- [18:32] Step ten of the 12 Step Program.
- [19:57] The importance of having a clear outcome.
- [21:10] Looking at failure as an opportunity to learn.
- [22:04] Giving sober supports too much power in your life.
- [25:17] Sponsors need to give their charges the opportunity to have experiences in life.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
- Podcast editing and show notes by Pro Podcast Solutions
In today's episode, Ben and I discuss how we measure our client's progress and what to expect in the first one to three months of recovery treatment. We'll talk about where we see our clients make the most common mistakes and where addicts fall short in the treatment process.
During our team meeting once a week, our staff discusses challenges and celebrations among our patients. "One issue that jumped out at us yesterday is video game addiction." Ben believes that this addiction can significantly sidetrack the recovery process, slowing it down. One negative effect is the disruption in client sleep cycles. In this episode, Ben gives real client examples of the adverse effects of video game addiction.
We choose not to restrict our members from the outside world because that is unrealistic. This gives us the chance to see negative behaviors in our clients and the opportunity to correct those during their recovery period. "I want to know the truth about people and what their behavior truly looks like. I don't want some version of them that I'm creating, that's not organic by putting parameters on what they are allowed to do and not allowed to do."
Our team looks at how our clients are utilizing their treatment time outside of scheduled activities. We hold our clients accountable for their treatment homework and follow-up to ensure they have their assignments completed before their scheduled time. Clients need to complete their task, as working through recovery involves learning about yourself. If a client doesn't do their homework, they will not progress through therapy.
Getting into the habit and responsibility of completing your homework in therapy gives you an understanding of what it takes to continue your work outside of treatment. When you consistently complete assignments, you give yourself the foundation to continue your work when you leave our recovery center. This usually results in clients who are more successful at continuing their recovery for life.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [04:49] The process at Rock Recovery center for information intake.
- [05:40] Examples of video game addiction.
- [09:20] Ben talks about the importance of seeing bad behaviors so they can be addressed.
- [11:34] A good determinate of how our clients are going to do post-treatment is how they are progressing during treatment.
- [13:45] How a client spends their time during treatment versus after they leave and what they are doing with their friends.
- [17:35] When clients don’t do their homework in rehab, they typically don’t follow-up outside of rehab.
- [19:33] Our team wants to see the effort our clients put in at Rock Recovery Center.
- [20:11] Those who focus on others instead of themselves is a red flag.
- [23:42] We are here to be part of the process, however; a client must be willing to learn.
- [27:57] Behaviors that can lead to relapse.
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In today's episode, Ben and I are discussing the risk versus reward for addicts. We talk about the real risk of dying from a drug overdose as opposed to the more minimal chance of passing away from contracting COVID when traveling to a rehab facility or attending AA meetings.
Many facilities have removed group gatherings at their location. As a result, many addicts are not able to attend their rehab meetings in person. Some have been able to participate in online, however; it's easier to not go to meetings when it's no in person.
Some facilities are moving forward with meetings, requiring masks and temperature screenings. Others have locked down entirely and aren't taking anyone who isn't a part of their program, leaving addicts without options for recovery.
COVID has removed much of the community for many recovering alcoholics and drug addicts. People are afraid to catch the virus and won't go to groups, or they don't have the means to meet online. We need to build and cultivate options for people until groups open back up regularly.
Person to person meetings have a more personal feel, and Ben has made a choice to attend real-life sessions. There are restrictions in place for safety, such as masks and social distancing. Many others have decided that drug and alcohol relapse is more harmful to their health than the risk of catching COVID.
Additionally, you can’t blame COVID-19 for all of your problems or as the sole reason for going back to being an addict. COVID is a stressor and it does create anxiety, however; you have to apply the tools you learn in recovery to overcome the challenges in life.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
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Show Notes:
- [04:31] Benjamin discusses his personal experience with recovery.
- [07:00] Recovery built on the aspect of community for sobriety and recovery.
- [09:12] Ben talks about the importance of spirituality and community.
- [12:57] Many parents are scared to send their loved ones to rehab in Florida.
- [14:22] Being vigilant about health standards has been a key piece for reducing the spread of COVID in addiction groups.
- [16:45] How a halfway house has more people die of drug overdose but none of their members died of COVID.
- [18:04] The elements of building a solid foundation of recovery.
- [22:32] Some clients were caught off-guard when they had to leave recovery.
- [24:36] Precautions we are taking at Real Rock Recovery Center to protect our clients.
- [27:29] Ben is glad he is continuing meetings and staying sober and clean.
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- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
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- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
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“There’s always hope, you have to take the first steps.” -Tony
In today’s episode, I’m talking with a current patient who has been with us at Rock Recovery Center for three weeks and is 31 days clean today! He is 37 years old and comes to us from Detroit, Michigan.
His sister would take care of him and his siblings, as his mom was “in and out a lot” as a result of her addiction to drugs and alcohol. He didn’t lead a “normal” childhood life and grew up on the rough streets of Detroit. Tony remembers visiting his aunt and cousins, who lived down the road.
When his father found out where he was living, he drove to Detroit and moved in with his mom. They were trying to mend their marriage when his dad died of an asthma attack in 1992 when Tony was seven years old. Tony found himself in the same previous situation with his mom’s addiction and his unstable childhood.
Tony and his siblings were dispersed among both sides of the family, he ended up with his grandmother and a violent uncle. At the age of 16, Tony decided he had enough and left his home to find his mom. He enrolled in school and stayed with his mom.
He grew up in and out of foster care as a result of his mother’s addiction and ran away from the group home where he was living. At the age of 17, he remembers meeting up with other kids who ran away and recalled taking his first drink of alcohol. “I don’t know if I liked it, but I did notice that it got me out of myself. It made me more comfortable with my surroundings and what was going on at that time.”
As a child of mixed races, Tony experienced racism from both white and black communities and felt that he never “fit in” either culture. He started working out and landed a job as a bouncer in a local nightclub. Tony found it easy to hang out with the girls who worked there, who were also addicts. At this point, he was introduced to cocaine, and he found he liked the excitement and attention he was getting.
He started experimenting with shooting up the pills and found out that he needed to have his opiates to feel good. Tony then realized that heroin was cheaper and easier to use and became addicted to heroin. Listen in to find out how Tony hit rock bottom and finally ended up clean at Rock Recovery Center.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
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Show Notes:
- [03:49] Tony’s story of how he got into drugs and alcohol.
- [04:36] How alcohol gave Tony comfort from his feelings.
- [08:15] Growing up with his uncle and grandmother.
- [11:09] He looks for his missing mom at a local bar she frequented.
- [13:44] Why Tony hung out with other kids who drank alcohol.
- [17:15] Drinking on the weekend was the “thing to do” with his cousins.
- [19:34] Getting involved with the females who worked at the club with him.
- [21:19] How Tony became addicted to opiates in addition to alcohol and cocaine.
- [25:22] Ending up homeless and on the streets as a result of heroin use.
- [27:50] Tony opens up about his faith and how his belief became his guide in life.
- [30:36] Prayer and how this has helped Tony with his recovery from addiction.
- [33:29] How he made the decision to put 100% of himself into his recovery.
- [34:49] Tony’s advice to current users and drug addicts.
- [37:05] Sharing your story of addiction with the right person.
- [42:06] Giving up your will, prayer and the practice of being a good person.
- [45:52] Impacting people you wouldn't have been able to reach if you weren’t a recovering addict.
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- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
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- Rock Recovery Center
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In today’s episode, Benjamin and I are going to talk about the “why” behind being an addict. Drinking and doing drugs is a cover for an underlying emotional issue that must be addressed to fully recover successfully.
Our clients, because of the choices they have made in the past, do not have the best behavior or comments when they are moving through the process of recovery. In today’s episode, Ben and I will talk about questions and feedback we hear from clients most often, and how we respond to their concerns.
If you’re in a treatment program, make sure to really focus on treatment so you can get better and move on with your life. Realize the recovery process, to be successful, take time. You may have been an addict for over a decade - spending two weeks in recovery will not give you enough time to recognize what you need to change.
Also, realize that you will need to not only be aware of the emotional issues that ended you up in recovery, but you’ll also need to process these emotions and be mindful of triggers that can lead to continuing your addictive behavior. It’s also easy to be in a mindset of not wanting to drink or do drugs, but that alone will not lead to a successful recovery.
We talk about the six legs of alcoholism, including consequences, which, in and of themselves, are not enough to give you a clean and sober life. Some clients want to get back to their family and responsibilities. However, we see clients that leave early as they have self-evaluated they are OK, they go home and continue their addiction.
Many times, you weren’t helping before you came to rehab, as your addiction came first. You were most likely stealing and being an emotional and spiritual burden to your loved ones. When you’re not ready to leave, you aren’t prepared to take care of someone else, let alone take care of yourself.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. We care about the success and safety of each and every one of our clients from the moment they step into our center to the future of their well-being.
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Show Notes:
- [03:27] Why people come for treatment at Rock Recovery Center.
- [04:12] When our clients “don’t even feel like using anymore.”
- [08:19] Motivators and consequences for the addict.
- [11:17] Addicts saying they don’t want to drink or drug anymore is usually a precursor to a future negative event.
- [14:07] Unicorn addicts who can successfully complete the program in 30 days.
- [18:15] Treatment and sober living can take up to a year to recover.
- [19:49] “I just want to move on and put ‘this’ behind me.”
- [22:19] SMART goals and creating a new and healthy routine.
- [24:40] The difference between leaving and leaving when you are ready.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
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- Rock Recovery Center
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- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
“When I started coming to meetings, I actually saw freedom in people’s faces, and in the way they spoke, they were just really happy! And I wanted that, you know? It gave me a whole new perspective.” - Patricia
Ben and I are chatting with Patricia today. She is a very successful member of our community. Patricia took our suggestions and acted on them to become sober. Consuming her first drink at 12, Patricia decided she liked the feeling of drinking, trying to escape her feelings.
This process became a never-ending cycle, bringing fear into her life until she finally realized she couldn’t live the life she was living. She had several factors that led up to her eventual sober recovery. With her third DUI and recently breaking up with her boyfriend, Patricia started binge drinking for weeks on end, then stopped.
While binge drinking, she would pay for a motel, drink until she passed out, then wake up the next day and repeat the pattern again. She also held a job at a bloodwork lab during the day and worked 60+ hours per week.
Part of her knew if this behavior continued that she would die. Patricia realized she needed a change and wanted to do whatever she could to get back on the right path.
The first time she checked into treatment, she worked on her sobriety for a year-and-a-half. “I was stuck in a sort of a bubble, and I was so focused on my internship that I didn’t have time for anything else. When I got out of that, it was very much a culture shock for me. I didn’t have anything else to rely on besides my new husband, and life got very overwhelming for me, and I ended up in a motel room.” She didn’t have a clear path to fall back on when she was released from her prior treatment center and returned to drinking.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. Many times, we don’t have to remove freedoms from our clients as they are going down the right path with guidance.
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Show Notes:
- [03:35] Patricia is a star member of our sober community.
- [04:37] She tells of her story of spiraling downward into addiction.
- [06:04] Factors that led to her second attempt at treatment, including her third DUI.
- [08:40] What Patricia learned during her treatment at Rock Recovery Center.
- [10:40] How Patricia would deal with her previous life stressors running away.
- [13:53] Her daily schedule interning at her first treatment center.
- [16:50] Recovery happens outside of work, not inside of your workday.
- [19:45] Patricia realized that the choices she was going to make came down to her making the right decisions.
- [21:49] Treatment models that fail is because they do not give the opportunity to practice their new tools in treatment.
- [26:00] Providing the opportunity for yourself to do better.
- [27:28] Three suggestions given to Patricia to help her build a better life.
- [31:33] The challenges and reality of becoming sober.
- [34:48] Why rehab romance never works.
- [39:27] The pattern of romantic relationship development in rehab.
- [41:27] Thanks to Patricia for coming on the show. We are honored to witness her sobriety.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
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- Rock Recovery Center
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“I have little brothers and sisters that currently don’t have a dad so I feel like if I work on myself and get better for myself I can be a better role model and support for my family back home.’ ” - Mitchell
Ben and I are chatting with Mitchell, who is 21 and has been in treatment five times because of his previous cocaine addiction. He started his addiction at 16, with college friends smoking weed mixed with cocaine. Then, he had two knee surgeries as a result of football injuries at age 17 and was hooked on Percocet. Not only was he addicted, but he also sold his prescription to other friends.
He admits that early on, during his addiction, "I lost a lot of really good friends, and I lost a perfect girl at that time." Mitchell's mother was monitoring his medication and realized he was taking too many drugs and decided to stop giving him his medicine. At that time, Mitchell decided to go into treatment for juveniles at age 17 for one year.
After his time in rehab, Mitchell returned home to live with his parents. He soon became, "caught in the wrong crowd, started fighting, stealing and not living the life that I should've been. It was really hard."
At 19, he had to get another surgery, let his friends persuade him to take narcotic pain medications. From this point, he went back to cocaine, then switched to Xanax, and tried a multitude of other drugs. At 20, he went to detox again in Miami. Since then, he has been bouncing back and forth between centers without success until he came to Rock Recovery Center.
He understands how peer pressure really pulls him down in a negative cycle. Mitchell knows he has to work on himself and have more self-control with his emotions. His family has a big part in gaining his sobriety. Dad is currently in prison, he loves his dad and feels that he has to help himself before he can help his dad. Even though his dad is in a tough situation, Mitchell understands that he needs to become clean so his dad won't be disappointed in him.
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Show Notes:
- [03:58] Mitchell introduces himself and starts with his story of addiction at age 16.
- [06:20] How he played the healthcare system to get more opioid drugs.
- [09:34] What elements made Mitchell become unstable in recovery?
- [10:30] How he is influenced by females and why he wants to break this habit.
- [12:56] Ben talks about his experiences with previous relapses.
- [15:48] Pitfalls that have given Mitchell huge obstacles for his sobriety.
- [19:18] What things Mitchell can’t go without during his sobriety.
- [21:45] Going to treatment to go back and contribute to your family’s health.
- [25:03] Mitchell’s plans and goals moving forward.
- [28:20] Mentors and people to look up to during treatment.
- [30:48] Priorities with relationships - make sure you are going in the right direction.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
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- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
“I remember looking in the bathroom mirror and saying to myself, ‘You’re an alcoholic because you are drinking just like your old man.’ ” -John S.
Ben and I are chatting with John S., who is a “real alcoholic” in his words. We are going to talk to John about sponsorship, which he is very adamant about. Our group chat will also dive into the differences between privately run and not-for-profit run treatment centers.
John is a “real alcoholic” who was born in New Orleans, which is the drinking city of the world, where you can purchase drive-through alcohol. His father was a “beer-drinking alcoholic who loved to fight.” He was unfaithful to his wife and cheated when playing games. His parents divorced around age 5, as his dad was very abusive.
He started drinking casually in high school and remembered that he was always the guy pushing the alcohol on everybody during high school games. During college, he joined a fraternity and continued to drink, however, he didn’t finish college. Even with drinking full-time, he never received a DUI.
In addition to drinking, he added cocaine to his addiction in the mid-’80s. Since he was a functioning alcoholic, John was able to land a good banking job, making good money. He purchased a home and a lovely car with his new salary. He was living the good life until he was rear-ended by a dump truck and wasn’t able to work because of damage to his spine and his neck.
Now at home full-time, he started drinking more during the day as he was home alone. Drinking was an escape for his pain and suffering from his accident and subsequent surgeries. He would hide his alcohol in different places within his home and drink straight from the bottles. John would drink a little bit from each bottle, however, his partner only knew of one bottle he was drinking, so he didn’t understand how much he was drinking. His doctor and his therapist didn’t think he was an alcoholic.
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Show Notes:
- [04:38] John talks about his story, his path to alcoholism and his recovery.
- [07:05] He started drinking during his high school years.
- [08:56] John’s mom remarried and moved, thinking that a geographical change would help her son.
- [10:23] His story of being rear-ended by a dump truck and the resulting effects.
- [13:36] John’s friends who were in AA would try to get John to come to meetings.
- [15:54] The point at which his partner told him he needed to go to treatment.
- [18:30] His first night in a treatment center in Salt Lake City, UT.
- [22:24] Hiding bottles from himself, his partner and his family.
- [24:00] John started helping people the first day he was in recovery.
- [33:30] His take on relating to other people who were alcoholic, but not successful in life.
- [39:56] He talks about his “sponsees” in the program.
- [41:29] He and his person he has sponsored are total opposites but have a strong friendship.
- [46:19] John talks about his current living situation and sobriety.
- [51:51] Alcoholism as a progressive illness and relapse.
- [55:45] How desperation sets people apart.
- [58:44] John talks about how he came into Rock Recovery Center spiritually and morally bankrupt but came out the other end a whole person.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
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Benjamin and I will give you advice on how to overcome the three biggest challenges you may face when you are moving from a life of addiction to a life of sobriety.
First, you have to establish new relationships with other sober people. Don’t hang out with your old friends who are drinking or doing drugs. They will be a negative influence on your life and can drag you back down to return to being an active addict. You’ll outgrow the addicts that used to be your “friends,” recover your family relationships and build new positive habits in your life.
Look at your relationships and review your connections with others. Find those who genuinely love you and care about your well-being and restore these relationships. Review the relationships with others who are your drinking buddies or your friends you did drugs with and do not continue those connections.
Grow your network that contains people who are also recovering, people who will assist you in moving forward in your sobriety, and add those who are a part of your sobriety journey.
Secondly, you have to establish a new lifestyle as the former lifestyle is not conducive to sobriety. You have many hours to fill without drugs and alcohol. Find positive activities you like to do, such as exercise, finding a new hobby, and finding a job you want to do. Fill your day with positive, fun activities instead of the negative influence of drugs. You can also relearn to love old activities while sober!
Third, be careful not to get into the “groundhog’s day” syndrome. Make goals that are time-sensitive, and plan your day around moving forward toward your goals. Do activities that help you achieve what you want out of life. Make sure to start your day out positive.
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Show Notes:
- [03:15] Stopping your addiction is not easy, but you can recover and live a better life.
- [03:54] Establish new relationships with other sober people.
- [06:05] Build your life of recovery with spiritual growth and other positive habits.
- [10:34] You may want to restore relationships with others who stopped hanging out with you because of your addiction.
- [13:16] Establish a new lifestyle for your new life of recovery.
- [16:26] Why Ben hates running and he thinks it sucks, and why he does it every morning.
- [18:18] Find new activities you like to do through your new sober connections.
- [20:29] What can you do to deal with the boredom?
- [24:04] The Triangle Club meets at 7am for those who are dedicated to getting their lives back together before they go off to work.
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
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- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
Benjamin and I will give you advice on the questions you should ask and how you can research recovery and addiction centers. There are seven key questions or points you should discuss when you are looking for a center.
#1 Confirm that the person who answers the phone actually works at the facility and isn’t a hotline operator. Make sure you are speaking to someone at the center, not an answering service. A team member can give you a better idea of what is going on at their treatment center and details about daily living and structure. When someone calls Rock Recovery Center, Ben and I see you, sit in on meetings, and follow-through with your recovery.
#2 Seek an organization that provides a list of full-time healthcare and addiction facility team members, along with their credentials. Find out the client-to-staff ratio in the system that you are looking to go to or place your loved one. Ask about the longevity of the staff and the turnover rate.
#3 Check with state and federal agencies to see if complaints have been filed with the center or its staff members. Look for places that are licensed through your local children and families, Joint Commission, or other reputable organizations. Look at Google reviews, but read the reviews, don’t just look at star ratings. See what people are saying about the center.
#4 Do not use a facility that offers perks such as free flights, rent, food, cash, drugs, or other open items in exchange for joining their program. This is an illegal offering from the facility or a client / patient broker.
#5 Look for a facility that is associated with a medical institution, depending on what state you are looking for treatment. Some states, like Florida, have better small care treatment facilities. Ask about caseload to doctor ratio - make sure the large facility doesn’t have a large client to doctor or therapist ratio. More than eight to 12 clients per therapist aren’t going to give your loved one good care. Also, ask about staff turnover.
#6 Abstinence, for long-term, is, in our opinion, the best form of treatment. We have had clients tell us their drug of choice and don’t consider themselves to be sober when they are on “treatment drugs.” Clients who have been on Suboxone can get hooked on this for years and are very sick when they get off their secondary drugs. Some centers will not take addicts who are on these drugs.
#7 Check for accreditation for the facility you are looking into for your loved one. Review that facilities are doing activities to improve their standards.
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Show Notes:
- [05:56] #1 Confirm that the person who answers the phone actually works at the facility and isn’t a hotline operator.
- [11:15] Ben does his best to personally greet clients when they arrive at Rock Recovery Center.
- [12:10] #2 Seek an organization who provides a list of full-time healthcare and addiction facility team members, along with their credentials.
- [17:16] Read Google reviews to see what others are saying about the facility.
- [19:30] #4 Do not use a facility that offers perks such as free flights, rent, food, cash or other free items in exchange for joining their program.
- [22:16] Avoid places that are involved in illegal activity, they cannot be trusted.
- [25:10] Be wary of treatment centers that first ask you what type of insurance you have.
- [30:13] Ask about case load to doctor ratio - make sure the large facility doesn’t have a large client to doctor ratio.
- [33:09] Our discussion about using drugs to get off of addiction.
- [36:36] Ben talks about our success rate at Rock Recovery Center and the benefits of abstinence based therapy.
- [40:54] You can’t relapse if you’re not sober. Suboxone and other drugs are more addicting than the illegal drugs people are trying to get off of.
- [45:40] Ben and I discuss the checkboxes for staying accredited.
- [47:39] Give us a call or email us with questions!
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
- Real Recovery Talk on Facebook
- Ideas for a show? Email us tom@realrecoverytalk.com and ben@realrecoverytalk.com
“In every single way, my sobriety has become a blessing for me.” -Sean, Rock Recovery Center
I have a guest today, Sean, who is from Long Island, New York. He came to our recovery center eight years ago for thirty days and decided to become a resident of Florida. We talk about Sean’s stage character, how he dropped his walls, and his process of recovery.
Two days before he came to Rock Recovery Center, Sean remembers “almost drinking myself to death. Everything was dark in my life. I didn’t see a way out, and 99% of my thinking had to involve some sort of alcohol. I was losing my health, my wife and children, borderline diabetes with more than 120 pounds extra weight.” He was Baker Acted after police came to his house because they received a call and thought he was going to hurt himself.
When he returned from the hospital, he talked with his wife. In this conversation, he was yelling at her, then had a moment of clarity. The next day, he told his wife he needed help. Although he realized he needed help, he was adamant about not participating in a 12 Step Program as he didn’t think it would work for him. When Sean landed in Florida for his first day of recovery, he felt he would erase over two decades of drinking in 29 days.
In his first AA meeting, he didn’t let any of the conversations in his head. He was 100% sure that this program wouldn’t work for him. He created a calendar with 29 days to cross off until he went home. At the time he had six “x” marks on his calendar, he understood the fellowship of AA. “The lower your bottom, the higher your hope.” He heard others who had much worse situations with addiction tell their stories of hope. “They were talking about how wonderful and amazing their lives were. If they could do it, I could do it! That little mustard seed of hope, that little bit of open-mindedness cracked open. Once it cracked open, it was off to the races.”
Listen in to find out how Sean realized he had a problem with alcohol, why he owes a debt of gratitude to the friend who told his wife details about his alcoholism, and why he thought he could “think his way through this” because of his education as a health coach. Learn how Sean views his recovery process today, how he came to the realization that he had to let the program process “in,” and why prayer has made a significant difference in his life.
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Show Notes:
- [04:34] Sean’s story of how and why he came to Rock Recovery Center.
- [07:34] What woke Sean up to his reality was a “look” he got from his then wife.
- [09:29] His first day of recovery at Rock Recovery Center.
- [11:33] Ben talks about his witness with Sean’s process.
- [13:30] Sean says, “I was without a doubt, a polished up garbage can.”
- [18:18] He saw the pain and sadness in his wife’s eyes.
- [20:55] The key people in his life that influenced Sean to go to recovery.
- [22:55] For twenty years he tried to break the cycle of alcoholism on his own.
- [24:32] What factors changed Sean to stop drinking and how he views his recovery process today.
- [25:33] The day he decided to start praying, he has prayed everyday since and hasn’t missed a day.
- [27:06] His experience in outpatient treatment after his inpatient time at the recovery center.
- [33:23] When Sean realized his new “normal” in his life.
- [37:27] How the community we build around us will directly affect your level of success.
- [41:10] Sean getting in with the “old timers” who had been sober for many years.
- [45:08] His old company rehires him and he was able to stay away from alcohol on the job and how his sobriety has made him stronger.
- [48:58] “There’s a lot of respect for my sobriety” with people who drink.
- [51:14] His post recovery relationship with his children and his family.
- [53:42] How he recovered his relationship with his sister.
- [55:43] “You never know what meeting is going to change your life.”
Episode Links and Resources
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
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I can’t tell you how many phone calls I get from parents that don’t know what to do with her addict son or daughter, a good place to start is setting some boundaries.
Having a loved one with addiction problems can be a very stressful situation. Often times we try and navigate this path on our own and think that we know what’s best for our loved one. When we can understand that we do not know what’s best for them and we can finally reach out for help is when the real healing starts to happen. There are many situations in which we can handle addiction and it can be different for everybody given different circumstances.
Most importantly we need to be able to ask for help and recognize that we don’t know what’s best and be OK with that
I have a guest today, Maggie, from Pittsburgh, who has come forward to share her story with us. This is the third time she has been in recovery from alcoholism and is going to tell her story of her past, her present, and where she plans on taking her life in the future.
Maggie is in our program at Rock Recovery Center. She is 25 years old and started drinking 13 years ago as a result of trying to keep up with her two older brothers. The crack head down the street would go and buy them alcohol in exchange for watching her child when she was gone. Since their parents were out working a lot, her friends and her brothers' friends would come over to their house and party after school in their backyard pool. They would clean up their mess and then go to a park or another location to continue to party.
She started high school at a Catholic High School, failed 9th grade. Her parents moved to a better area of Pennsylvania, and she was in a new school that was bigger than her old school. In the IMPACT program and not knowing any students in her new school, Maggie gravitated towards the "druggie kids" as they were her classmates. Maggie started doing several different types of drugs when she started going to RAVE clubs. She then got into a car accident, flew through the windshield, and was hospitalized with reconstructive surgery to her face.
After high school, she became a bartender and started doing cocaine and Adderall to keep going throughout the day. She was hardly sleeping and felt that she was cool because she was only 18 but was able to be at the bar all day and night. At 21, she was drinking all night and ended up in a stranger's bed. Her friends were concerned with her safety. She realized at this point that she had a problem.
Listen in to find out why she mixed Adderall, cocaine, and alcohol to get through her day, how she had blackouts and would sleep with strangers, and why she always had to drink alcohol, even while studying for college. Learn how Maggie broke down and finally called a rehab, how she had an affair with a male married nurse at another facility, and what led to Maggie's relapse after her first rehab.
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Show Notes:
- [04:22] Maggie shares her story of her past and how she became alcoholic.
- [07:47] Her Catholic high school and her friend groups in school.
- [09:59] She started drinking and smoking weed at 12 years of age.
- [11:54] How Maggie started going to RAVE clubs and doing drugs.
- [15:02] Her parents were in denial of the situation.
- [19:17] Maggie, at age 21, would end up drinking and ending up in a stranger’s bed.
- [22:40] She decided to go to school full-time as a paralegal.
- [24:58] Her transition from bartender to full-time paralegal.
- [26:56] The first time Maggie sought treatment and her experience.
- [31:34] Maggie’s first sponsor for her first outpatient.
- [34:47] Her bouts with depression, how she felt unsettled again.
- [38:23] How Maggie came to Real Rock Recovery Center.
- [42:49] Differences between her home rehab and Florida rehab.
- [47:05] What Maggie thinks about her new sober lifestyle.
- [49:47] How Maggie sees her new future in Florida.
- [52:01] Why working for her sobriety makes a significant difference in her recovery.
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Ben and I have two guests today who are sharing their experience with their current recovery experience concerning their past recovery experiences. We will talk to Dakota and Chris about what had impacted them from when they started their sobriety journey to where their journey is taking them in the future. My guests will also talk about how their hard work has paid off, and benefits sobriety has brought to their lives.
Dakota was addicted to heroin and has been sober for a year at the end of May. Chris is 21 years old, has been to nine treatment centers. His addiction was cocaine, and he has been sober for eight months. Both men have been to multiple treatment centers to achieve sobriety.
Dakota woke up one day at age 19 and didn’t want to live anymore. “That feeling that I had inside that I didn’t want to live anymore is the worst bottom I’ve ever had.” Originally going to treatment to get off opiates, Dakota still planned on drinking and smoking marijuana. He watched his situation worsen over time. “I had to get beaten down so bad that I became willing to do whatever it took to stay sober off everything.” He didn’t understand the steps he had to take to get sober. After several years of treatment, Dakota realized that he would have to go entirely off all drugs to be successful in his treatment.
Chris has been through three previous treatment centers and is 30 years of age. A drug user since the age of 15, with the most substantial amount of clean time at seven months, much of that time being spent in jail. He pushed everyone out of his life as he only wanted to be with drugs and alcohol. “I basically messed up my life so bad, I lost about everything, I was barely holding on to a job.” In 2018 he decided that drugs and alcohol were a problem. He felt bankrupt not only financially but emotionally and spiritually. In his first attempt at Rock Recovery, he relapsed after 45 days, drank for three days straight. This confirmed to Chris his problem with alcoholism.
Listen in to find out how being alcoholic can become a habit, why Chris felt his alcoholism was on auto-pilot, why having positive habits is a vital ingredient to sobriety. Learn why addicts can’t just stop doing drugs and alcohol, the struggles Chris and Dakota have faced in their recovery and how hard both clients have had to fight to become sober.
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Show Notes:
- [04:32] Dakota shares his previous treatment center experiences.
- [07:20] See link below to hear Dakota’s entire story on episode 80.
- [11:40] Chris talks about his addiction and relapse experience.
- [14:06] He decides he is an alcoholic after a three-day relapse spent drinking.
- [16:18] Chris didn’t know what to do when he was done work, so he chose to drink.
- [17:47] Find out why addicts can’t “just stop doing drugs and alcohol”.
- [21:37] Advice Dakota gives to others who are starting their journey to sobriety.
- [25:27] How he has gotten through rough times, especially with COVID-19
- [26:30] How Chris’ situation is different for him now that he is sober.
- [27:48] Why having a sober support community has impacted both clients’ sobriety.
- [29:24] Helping other addicts helps those with addiction stay sober.
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- Listen to Dakota tell his story in Episode 80
Ben and I have a guest with us today who is a patient at Rock Recovery Center. Mathew K, our special guest, shares his history and experience with recovery from alcohol addiction. Matt has been in several different types of treatment several times over the past five years. We discuss Matt’s past wins, mistakes, and his past history related to his addiction.
Currently, in his mid-30’s, he started drinking at age 14 and his first use of drugs at age 15. His earliest childhood memories at the age of five were of a work-oriented father who wasn’t present and gave Matt constant negative feedback and a mother who was giving. Several times his father would come home drunk and have arguments with his mom, which is the reason Matt remembers feelings of being protective of his mother. He played several sports and remembered his grandparents watching his games. School was a safe place for Matt as he was an outstanding athlete and received good grades, until his junior year in high school.
When drinking, Matt felt that he was free, and his state of being drunk made the world feel like it was slowing down. His alcoholism progressed with his junior and senior years when he quit sports, found a job, and bought a car. Additionally, he was friends with many of the cheerleaders and sports jocks who liked to throw parties. Known as “the party guy,” he held parties on his property as his parents had a large property with land, which he would host parties on frequently.
By the time he was out of high school, he had identified with being the bartender. He would boast he could “drink like his dad.” Like a badge of honor, this was a sense of accomplishment and entrance into manhood. He was continually trying to “one-up” himself drinking.
He realized at the age of 25 that he had become an alcoholic. Even though his friends pointed out he had become alcoholic, he would respond with “alcoholics go to meetings.” About four years ago, he had to time out how often he needed to drink so he wouldn’t get the shakes. Matt avoided drinking during his workday as a pizza delivery associate because he didn’t want to be drunk and kill someone drunk driving.
His drinking, bad eating habits, and smoking ended him up in the hospital with pancreatitis at the age of 30. Since then, he has been hospitalized 15 times for pancreatitis. His liver and pancreas are so weakened that he will die from pancreatitis or liver shutdown if he continues to drink.
Listen in to find out when Matt sought out treatment for alcoholism, his residential rehab experiences, and the different programs he went through during the past five years. Learn why he couldn’t stand to be in his first treatment program, and what his criteria are for being successful at a rehabilitation clinic.
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Show Notes:
- [05:34] Matt shares his history of addiction with Ben and I.
- [09:32] How Matt reacted and dealt with his dad’s drinking at a very young age.
- [11:44] Alcoholism paving the way for Matt to have trauma related to his dad’s drinking.
- [13:06] Neurological aspects of alcohol addiction.
- [14:18] Matt’s first experience getting drunk involved eating pizza with cigarettes on top.
- [18:34] His road to alcoholism starting in his junior year of high school.
- [19:33] When Matt did eight shots twice, then kept drinking and blacked out in the snow.
- [23:14] Upholding drinking as a badge of honor, this was a sense of accomplishment and entrance into manhood.
- [24:15] When Matt realized he had become an alcoholic.
- [26:30] The reason he went into treatment was because he had pancreatitis.
- [29:41] Why Matt has been hospitalized 15 times in five years.
- [32:01] Matt’s attempt at drinking with attempted moderation after being diagnosed and told he would die if he continued to drink.
- [35:24] Ben’s professional opinion on 30 days of treatment for addiction.
- [40:20] Why Matt had to fall flat multiple times to keep himself in treatment.
- [41:30] Matt’s criteria for a rehabilitation clinic.
- [46:09] The importance of a geographical change when getting sober.
- [50:27] This is the longest period since his teens that Matt has been sober.
- [52:44] Ben discusses the positive aspects of recovery far away from home.
- [55:12] Sobriety support in the “Recovery Capital of the World”.
- [58:16] Taking pride in your sobriety.
- [61:13] Drivers for addicts to become sober.
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Ben and I both share the same birthday - April 7th, 1984, with Ben just a few hours older than me!
COVID update from South Florida, as we are starting to get to the height of the Coronavirus. Professionals are currently predicting April 16th as the peak time for COVID in Florida. We are continuing our support for our clients with changes as necessary to prevent the spread of Coronavirus.
We are both predicting addiction rates increasing because of the economic downturn and lack of work available. Social media news outlets are influencing people around the world. I believe that we are going to look at how much we depend on the media after COVID passes.
Returning Home Post Treatment
“Set yourself up for success where you are at today, not where you think you’re going to be tomorrow.”
- Ben Rock Recovery Center
Your loved one may have returned home from treatment. Especially during the outbreak, people are stressed and can easily fall back into relapse. Make sure to encourage your loved one or yourself to call for help when you feel you need assistance before you are in dire straits. Prevent yourself from getting into an old negative pattern you don’t want to experience again in your life.
No matter where you go for treatment, you will most likely take more than one attempt to recover. This does not mean you can’t recover in one attempt. To improve in one attempt, “all the seeds need to plant and grow.”
While Ben needed multiple attempts to recover, I was able to be clean after one treatment, however; I was able to make all the seeds grow. Mainly to learn to cope with the underlying issues which pushed me into using drugs and alcohol.
Listen in to find out Ben’s experience with multiple times trying to recover from addiction, why people don’t want to identify as a drug addict, and why people are not aware of challenges when they get back home after recovery. Learn why you will fail 100% of the time if you are not into the treatment process and learn the components to make your recovery work.
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Show Notes:
- [03:05] South Florida COVID update and peak time prediction.
- [05:50] How social media is influencing people around the world.
- [08:49] Pick up the phone and reach out for support when you need to without guilt.
- [10:02] Ben’s experiences post-treatment with several tries detoxing.
- [11:21] My experience with treatment and why I could successfully treat one time.
- [13:04] Why people don’t want to identify as a current or past addict.
- [16:05] Spouse and marriages, addiction and divorce.
- [17:35] Why you should do as much as possible during treatment.
- [20:30] Ben’s favorite recovery quote.
- [23:30] Focusing and understanding that recovery is up to the individual and learning from failure.
- [26:31] What happens when people come back to recovery the second time.
- [30:24] Negative habits of drug addiction, please take the initiative and call and reach out for assistance!
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Here we are, chatting outside in the beautiful Florida weather, with Real Recovery Talk! COVID-19 has affected so many aspects of our lives, including how Ben and I record our podcasts. We are doing our best to provide recovery at Rock Recovery Center, along with abiding by all state, federal, and local guidelines regarding patient care and the COVID virus.
Many people are struggling with the decision to put their loved one on a plane to send them to recovery. They are worried their family member could contract COVID. What many people don’t realize is that if you have a family member who is addicted to drugs, the drugs are more likely to kill them than the COVID virus in many cases. Waiting one day too many to send your loved one to recovery could be the difference between survival and death.
Drug addicts use drugs and alcohol to cope with stressful situations, especially in cases like we are seeing recently. We believe that the use of drugs and alcohol during recent weeks is continuing to escalate because we are in a stressful environment.
We believe that many addicts are being cut off from their addiction source, starting to go through withdrawal and deciding to come to treatment. Additionally, there are over 14,000 methadone patients in New York who cannot currently get their methadone treatment. MAT programs can have many downfalls, the lack of medication in situations such as we are going through at the moment is just one of the downfalls of MAT programs.
Listen in to find out Ben’s experience with methadone treatment, methadone’s horrible physical and mental withdrawal symptoms, and why we practice abstinence-based recovery and treatment. Find out why you can still look at the positive side of our current situation, why you can take this time to better yourself and your life and what you can do now to ensure you come out better when this situation is over.
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Show Notes:
- [02:39] How COVID is affecting our podcast, our lives and our recovery center.
- [03:50] Modifications in client care as a result of protection against Coronavirus.
- [05:49] Waiting one more day to send your loved one to recovery can be the difference between survival and death.
- [08:43] How many of the recovery and addiction groups in South Florida have adapted their meetings because of the COVID outbreak.
- [12:21] The lack of methadone treatment in New York and throughout the country.
- [15:35] Negative effects and downfalls of the MAT program.
- [17:55] Charlie’s experience with the methadone when he was in recovery.
- [22:35] Steps Ben and I are taking in our long-term sobriety to continue to be sober.
- [26:30] Ben’s pros and cons of the current situation.
- [29:02] Activities you can still take part in, even if your gym is closed.
- [30:12] COVID-19 is not a reason to not give your loved ones a chance at recovery.
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Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Ben and I are driving and podcasting at the same time today, we are here having our car chat and recording this episode.
Have you considered an addict that you need to be managed? This is a hard proposition to accept, as we want to feel in control of our lives. Much of the management is in the context of timelines and includes goals. Ultimately, you and your mentor wish to get to the same place in your recovery; however, the path you choose may not be your best option. Let your mentor or another professional help you choose the best path to your goal.
Managing your case involves setting expectations, not dictating our client's every move. We want you to have the freedom and move forward in your healing process. Your case consists of the consideration of your input and discussion with a professional at our center. We will give you the reasons why individual decisions and input are positive or why we think a particular choice is not in your best interest.
One case we focus on in this episode is a client who has been in recovery seven times. When asked why he had been in recovery seven times, he replied: "Well, because I have felt it's my duty to get back to my mom who is struggling and having a hard time making ends meet." Allowing our new client to be a part of the process and listening to his input, we can better serve him and refocus his journey to be successful.
A second case example is a woman who is in our program. She wanted a pass to hang out with her new boyfriend, who lives close to the center before she started treatment. Trust has not been earned yet, as this relationship has not been developed. Both parties must spend time together to learn to trust the relationship.
Listen in to find out why you should have an upfront contract when you start your recovery, what having input into your treatment looks like and sounds like in a conversation and why reconsidering to do an activity at a later time is essential to your full recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [02:54] Who needs to be managed and what does that mean?
- [05:07] A case example of a client who doesn’t want to be managed.
- [07:15] The importance of validating expectations.
- [09:07] Building a treatment plan around the client’s input and perspective.
- [10:40] Why one of our clients has been in recovery seven times.
- [12:23] Intensive outpatient and how this part of recovery can support you and keep you on the right track.
- [13:54] The importance of having an upfront contract when you begin recovery.
- [16:41] Trust is tested to the max in the treatment process as the client needs to give some of their freedoms to create a successful recovery.
- [18:17] Best mindsets for people to have as a client and family of a client.
- [20:22] Expectations of clients depending on previous experience.
- [22:41] Understand when you seek out a treatment facility that certain aspects of your life will be managed.
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Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Let's find out what the five stages of change are and how you could be enabling your loved one to stay addicted to drugs and alcohol. Addicts can transfer from one stage to another daily. There are many different factors in the addict's life, which will play into what stage the addict is currently experiencing. This episode is not only for those who are addicted but for the loved ones, friends, and family who have a role in the addict's life.
Stage #1: Precontemplation Stage
The addict is clueless about their behavior, how their behavior affects others around them and is perplexed about why the people around them are responding to them in the manner in which they see. The addict does not even register that they have an issue and will usually give excuses about their behavior or think their behavior is in the normal range of socially acceptable behavior.
Stage #2: Contemplation Stage
The addicts look at their behavior and think their possibly could be a problem with their behavior. They may see room for change. However, they aren't ready to make that change at this stage. The addict can start to see a daily pattern in their addiction. The person isn't convinced they have a problem when they are going through this stage.
Stage #3: Understanding the Problem
For drug addicts and alcoholics to get to this stage can take multiple years of the same destructive behavior day after day to recognize that this behavior is a problem. They realize their tolerance to drugs, alcohol has increased, and their problem is affecting their work and family life. Poor habits such as not eating, not sleeping, or not bathing are regular daily choices. Health is on the decline, and they understand this behavior is negatively affecting them. At this stage, they know they have a problem and see the evidence of their behavior.
Stage #4: Action Stage
At this stage, the addict realizes they have an issue and start to make changes. They may realize they need to check themselves into treatment or start to attend a support group. At this point, the addict needs support, as this stage takes a large amount of willpower. The addict will start to understand the reason behind their addiction. Next, they can attend therapy to work through the healing process. For the family member, you now have the opportunity to learn about addiction and how to properly support your child or family member in their newfound recovery.
Stage #5: Maintenance Stage
Find support groups, mentors, and others who will positively support you and your family. This stage can last for years and does not have a specific stopping point in your life. You may find a therapist who you trust and rely on to help you through your healing journey.
Listen in to find out why you need to draw boundaries around addicts and how boundaries can move the addict through to the fourth and fifth stages of recovery. Find out why it's so important to learn about addiction and why you should find others who are in a similar position to you to learn from them what to expect and how you can support your child or loved one.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery. Look for our new daily shows, which are five minutes or under! Listen in for yourself or for a friend. You can also find our new short episodes on our Facebook page.
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Show Notes:
- [04:33] Addictive habits including eating, power-lifting, drugs and alcohol.
- [06:38] Stage #1, the Precontemplation stage explained.
- [07:55] Stage #2, Contemplation stage and the behavior of the addict in this stage.
- [10:10] Stage #3, Understanding the problem and how the addict comes to this point.
- [13:50] Addicts can move through one or more of these stages on the same day.
- [16:13] Ways parents, friends and family members enable drug and alcohol addicts.
- [18:28] How enabling addicts to be able to function is negatively impacting their route to recovery.
- [20:10] Stage #4, the Action Stage where the behavior change starts.
- [24:04] Learn how you can support your loved one through their Action Stage.
- [25:07] Stage #5, the Maintenance Stage will last for a long time and usually involve support groups and mentors.
- [26:37] The Relapse Stage and why people relapse back into addictive behavior.
- [29:37] Contact us with questions or comments if you or a loved one need help!
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Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Ben is hosting our show today with our guest Johnny, a recovered alcoholic and drug addict and part of the team at Futures Recovery Health Care in Jupiter, Florida.
Johnny grew up in a financially stable household and was a very privileged child, attended prep school, and expected people to always tell him he was brilliant. He graduated from college and landed a great job in Washington DC, making great money for his age at 21. He soon fell into cocaine addiction and was the life of the party until this came to an end when he became homeless.
He found himself out on the streets in Phoenix, Arizona. Johnny liked hanging out with people who were making fun of others because “we were better than them.” Out of control and in with the wrong crowd, “I realized I violated every type of value I had: physical, emotional, and sexual.” His life became a catch 22 of doing anything for money to get drugs, then needing to take drugs to forget about the action he had just received. This series of recurring events took Johnny to a place “where I had no hope.”
His distorted perception of body dysmorphia, along with the belief his parents instilled in having to be the best at both being an athlete and student, led him to have unrealistic standards for himself. Now, Johnny always needed to feel connected to a group. Looking back, he realized how much of a puppet he had become.
By August 16th, 2007, Johnny had been through five treatment centers and didn’t realize how much he was hurting his family, as well as himself. Johnny decidedly made a choice to not put a mind-altering substance in his body again.
Listen in to find out Johnny’s struggles with God, how he reconnected to God, and how Johnny continued to lie and struggle before he found a sponsor. Find out how his past actions when he was addicted caught up to him in the form of federal prison several years later. Learn how Johnny used this opportunity for 35 months to help other prisoners become sober and straight.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery. Look for our new daily shows, which are five minutes or under! Listen in for yourself or for a friend. You can also find our new short episodes on our Facebook page.
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Show Notes:
- [01:28] Johnny tells his story of how he fell into addiction.
- [05:06] You can’t outthink drug and alcohol addiction once addiction gets a hold of you.
- [05:28] Johnny talks about the void which drugs and alcohol filled for him.
- [08:14] August 15th, 2007, Johnny had been through five treatment centers
- [09:53] Johnny and his belief and disbelief in God.
- [11:35] Taking a look at sobriety and abstinence.
- [13:02] Johnny’s past catching up with him five years after his actions.
- [16:48] Looking at the impact of drug and alcohol abuse on family and others around you.
- [17:57] Patrick, a counselor in Lima, PA, helped Johnny unload his fears and move through the process of healing.
- [19:30] Brene Brown and the courage to be vulnerable.
- [21:29] Sharing and the role of sharing in the process of healing and relations theory.
- [23:00] Three types of recovery programs at Futures Recovery Healthcare Center.
- [27:40] Working with people who cannot show weakness.
- [31:02] The experiential process, hands on, working with recovering addicts one-on-one.
- [34:30] Johnny’s daily thinking process and mindset as he moves through daily life.
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Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Ben is with me today, and we are going to talk about what you can expect from day 31 on when you are a recovering addict. The first thirty days are all about detox and living in a safe environment. The next phase for patients is intensive outpatient treatment. You can easily underestimate how well you will do after 30 days and may want to skip this phase, however, many who do jump the second 30 days of outpatient treatment usually end up using again.
When you decide to recover from drug and alcohol use, make a promise to yourself to see your recovery past 30 days. You may want to get back to your regular life; however, there are many environments that you may not be strong enough to withstand, and you can quickly end up relapsing without enough support.
The stronger you are, the better husband, wife, daughter, son, brother, and sister you will be. You have the choice to be a better you, and only you can create the change which will make this happen. Remember, your drug addiction may have been with you for years, and the trauma which led you to your addiction may have also lasted many years. You cannot heal from multiple years of engrained trauma and abuse in only 30 days. Take the time to put in 100% for yourself from the start of your recovery.
On days 30 to 120, you’ll be a part of PHP and IOP programs. Generally, you’ll spend about 30 days in the PHP of the recovery program. At this point, you’ll be assigned a therapist and start digging into the source of your addiction. You may be going to a supermarket with a group and learn to navigate through the aisles without buying alcohol. This is a useful program as you’re spending approximately 25 hours of clinical therapy per week to have the support necessary to move through the healing process.
IOP can last 120 days past your initial start of recovery. You’ll be able to give the treatment team a good perspective of where you are for the team to be able to identify where you’ll need support and what emotional factors you’ll need to work on in your recovery.
Listen in to find out why you will gain more and be more successful when you see your therapy through the past 30 days, why a drug or alcohol addict’s behavior is worse when they are not using drugs or alcohol for the first time, and how you can replace drugs and alcohol with other risky behaviors.
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Show Notes:
- [05:43] Let’s move into today’s show with a profile scenario.
- [09:01] It’s very easy to underestimate the amount of control you have over your addiction during the first thirty days of treatment.
- [11:49] Ben and I discuss the details of intensive PHP therapy.
- [13:29] The purpose of PHP is to figure out what the underlying conditions are which caused your addiction.
- [15:15] Ben and I talk about why we became addicts, our emotional triggers and what we had to work through to become clean again.
- [20:28] Why an addict’s behavior is worse for the first few days or weeks after they become clean of drugs or alcohol.
- [22:08] When you are addicted to drugs or alcohol, you need to find a positive behavior to replace the old behavior.
- [25:10] The most important part of recovery is the transitional level of care.
- [29:28] Staying in your program until you have dealt with your emotional hurt is the best way to receive the support you need when recovering from addiction.
- [31:18] Getting your life back on track and how your sponsor can be an important support in this process.
- [34:17] Be willing, open and honest when moving through recovery.
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Everyone experiences pain. Whether it be addiction, trauma, mental health, or the like. These are just a few examples. My question to you is, what are you gonna do with that pain? Are you going to turn it into a strength? Are you gonna let it fuel your eternal fire to have a better life? Are you able to turn your liabilities into assets? I encourage you to use your pain to grow. I encourage you to use your pain to help others. I encourage you to share your successes!
Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Do you know someone who is considering going to a treatment facility for up to 30 days? Today, I’m going to talk about how you most likely won’t be cured by going to treatment for 30 days. There are a few people who have been successful after just 30 days; however, they are few and far between.
The first day of treatment consists of detox, which generally ranges from day one to day seven. Detox can vary from one to fourteen days, depending on the individual and specific variables. Variables that can affect the length of detox are the types of drugs you are using, how long you are using drugs, the vehicle of use of drugs. For example, are you using drugs IV, orally? Similar variables apply to alcohol, with some additional factors such as drinking alone or with others.
A detox facility is a safe place where you can get meals, medical attention, and be in a safe environment when you detox. During this time, your body will start to repair the damage inflicted by drugs and alcohol. From this point, you can now transfer to a residential facility where you will be day and night for treatment.
You may have a behavioral technician keeping tabs on you every 15 minutes when you join the residential treatment program. This part of the team makes sure everyone is safe and comfortable. They also ensure that you are getting to your programs, meetings, and medical appointments on time. This period is known as a “drying out period.”
Therapy is still minimal, as you are usually not yet ready to start treatment. At this stage, you’re detoxed and are moving toward creating a support group, getting to know your peers, and your therapist.
Next, you’ll need to figure out your personal triggers. What are your triggers? Are there specific environments in which your triggers are set off? Have you developed tools in your toolbox to deal with these triggers and to keep your calm in anxious situations? Have you considered your role or your family dynamics when dealing with triggers and healing from addiction?
Listen in to find out why the first thirty days of recovery only scratch the surface. Understand why recovery is a process in which each individual needs to move through at their own pace. Learn why you’ll need to continue healing and be consistent to work through previous trauma and have a successful recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [05:48] What the first seven days of treatment will most likely be for an addict in recovery.
- [06:05] Variables which affect the length and severity of detox.
- [09:28] The next phase of your healing: moving to a residential facility.
- [12:24] You may have spent multiple years becoming an addict, you will most likely spend months if not years to recover to the point of not falling back to your addiction.
- [14:41] Have you identified your triggers? If so, what are coping skills you are using to calm your reaction to your triggers?
- [16:48] An example of what shouldn’t happen when you come in for recovery.
- [19:42] We work with clients for three to four months on a continual basis to continue their recovery process.
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Just want to say thank you!
Tom and I just wanted to take a moment to thank everybody for allowing us to be a part of their recovery. In this segment we discussed a few phone calls that we received in the past weeks from clients who are doing exceptionally well.
They reported getting their families back, buying a house, attaining a career, and most importantly finding internal peace. Not to mention all the medallions we hear about being picked up. Getting to be a part of the journey of others obtaining sobriety is one of the gifts of doing what we do. There is nothing better than seeing others hit milestones and landmarks.
We are GRATEFUL!!!
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When we only have very little sober time, we should hang with people that have more sober time than us! When we have a few years sober, we should hang with people that have very little sober time!
The idea behind this is when we are young and sobriety we need to be surrounded by wisdom. Often times people with wisdom have multiple years sobriety. As we mature in our sobriety we need to hang with people that need our wisdom, we are called to help them as we were helped when we were young in sobriety.
When we have multiple years of sobriety, we too need to hang with people that have the same amount of time as us, if not more. We always want to be able to talk about our situations with other people and get advice and wisdom from others!
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I love you man!
In this excerpt, I discuss the importance of brotherly love in recovery. It is not weak to tell another man you love him. Many of us were raised to think that we have to be big, strong, tough and brutal. When we recover we find that we have to be inspirational leaders and caring protectors. That is what defines a man!!!
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No need for a romantic relationship at this time!
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There is a reason why people suggest to not get into a relationship when establishing a foundation of sobriety. When we get sober we need to focus on nothing but ourselves. Getting into a relationship means that we are taking away from ourselves and putting it into another person. This could be for many reasons, but the most likely reason is because that other person makes us feel good. When we are with this other person we feel good, when we have sex with this person we feel good, when we are on the phone with this person we feel good, when we are texting with this person we feel good. All in all, this person being in our lives make us feel good.
It is easy for us to not focus on ourselves and to focus on the relationship. The question is, what do we do if and when this relationship goes astray. I see a lot of times people meet their “soulmate“ in detox and think that they are meant for one another.
This can’t be further from the truth. Do yourself a favor don’t get into any relationships until you know the time is right and the people around you know the time is right. This
Here we are with Real Recovery Talk! Have you or someone you loved relapsed back into drug and alcohol addiction? Today, I’m going to talk about five different types of mindsets, which can lead to relapse. If you notice yourself or your loved one in one of these mindsets, make sure to reach out and get support and help - avoid the relapse cycle!
The first mindset to watch out for is complacency. We hear about this all the time in rehab. Complacency is the thought process that leads us to believe we don’t need to do much else to move forward. During the early stages of rehab, we get many of the things back that we lost, and then we can become complacent because we are now “OK.” Many people will stop going to meetings as regularly as they used to. Sometimes we even see our sponsors less, or we don’t return their calls. Whatever the case, stay diligent in your treatment and follow through with your responsibilities to have a successful rehab.
One solution is to challenge yourself in an activity you enjoy, experience a new experience, and allow yourself to move forward in different areas of your life.
The second mistake you can make is overconfidence. Don’t take your sobriety lightly. The “I’ve got this” mentality is when you feel you don’t need to go to meetings, volunteer, and see your mentor. Many of these people will be very defensive when their overconfidence is questioned. They feel that there is nothing that can come in between them and their sobriety.
The third mindset which can trap you is hanging out with old friends, people, places, and things. To get sober, you must develop a sober support network of others around you who are solemn and involve themselves in dry activities.
The fourth way to fall back into addiction is comparing yourself to others. I see this with people who are new to recovery. When you set the bar too high, especially in the beginning, you’ll see people comparing themselves to others who have been sober for a long time. As a result, they view their recovery activities as holding them back from getting what they want out of life.
A fifth mindset to avoid:
Listen in to find out why you want to follow through with your recovery, be persistent, and have a positive attitude, which is essential to your recovery. Slow, consistent progress is critical to recovering fully from your addiction. Make sure to slow down and take enough time (more than 30 days) to move through the process of healing.
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Show Notes:
- [02:00] Relapse starts before we re-engage with drugs and alcohol.
- [03:05] How you can connect with us on social media and our website.
- [04:05] Complacency and how this mindset can sneak into your life.
- [07:20] When you find that you’re being complacent, find an activity to challenge yourself!
- [08:33] Sobriety can lead to overconfidence, make sure you avoid this pitfall.
- [10:51] Make sure you’re not hanging out with old friends who are a negative influence on you.
- [13:53] Comparing yourself to others is not a positive mindset to have at any time, especially when you are becoming sober.
- [17:20] Don’t be an “Eeyore” and have a cloud of doom above your head all day!
- [20:37] Most people have a combination of one or more of the above mindsets.
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Prioritizing time when getting sober
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When getting sober we find that we are likely unemployed, lacking any meaningful relationships with family or loved ones due to our addiction, and have a lot of extra time on our hands. The question is, what do we do with all of this time? 🤷🏻♂️
Well, if you are in a detox or inpatient type program then there really isn’t much to do outside of what the program tells you to do. But if you are in some sort of outpatient program or living on your own then you may find you have a lot of extra time that you need to fill. If we don’t take the action steps necessary to fill this time with productive tasks or things to do then we could find ourselves spending a lot of time in our heads, which is not a good place for us to be. 😖
It goes without saying that we will need to find employment at some point in time. So go out and find a job, this cannot wait. Also, as newly sober people we need to rely on sober friends and sober support networks. These are things that we can work on as well. Find new friends, spend time with them. Do productive things that will help you progress life.
Whatever it is that you find yourself doing make sure you have balance. Don’t put all of your eggs in one basket. Balance is key, with everything.
Exercise and fitness is very important but that doesn’t mean spend five hours a day in the gym and another five hours researching the latest fad diet and fitness programs. Go to the gym, get a good workout in, leave and move onto the next thing. Go to the library, research a new career path that you want to endeavor on. Make new friends, create new hobbies, experience new experiences.
Often times people will look at failure as a setback. I encourage you to look at failure as an opportunity to improve. When people relapse continuously it’s easy for them to fall into the mindset of “I will never be sober”. This is unrealistic thinking, just because we relapse doesn’t mean we’re not going to ever be able to achieve long-term sobriety.
This does not lessen the effect of relapse. We often times hear relapse is a part of recovery, that couldn’t be further from the truth. Relapse is a part of recovery only if we let it. In the case that we relapse, let’s look at the things that led up to the relapse.
Ex: have I stopped reaching out to sober supports? Have I stopped going to meetings? Am I becoming angry and short tempered easily? Did I treat my family and loved ones any differently? Did I set the bar too high for myself? Did that relationship ending assist in my relapse? What can I learn from this relapse?
If we can ask ourselves these questions and answer them honestly, then this relapse becomes an opportunity for us to learn. If we can learn what led up to the relapse and prevent it from happening again then we just failed forward.
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There are certain things that we can do when in early recovery that will help us feel better mentally emotionally and spiritually. It is vital for us to do all three of these in conjunction with our support program and or treatment. These three things are:
Exercise: 🏃🏃♀️🏀🏊♂️move a muscle change a thought. This doesn’t mean that we have to take on CrossFit, powerlifting or Pilates. Start small, go for a walk. Anything is better than nothing
Eat right: 🍏🍌🥑🥦🌽🥔 not 🍔🍟🌭🌮🍕🌯The food that we put in our body is going to directly affect the way that we feel. Rather than pumping a bunch of highly processed highly palatable foods into our body, let’s eat nutrient dense foods that Will make us feel a lot better in the long run. Eat quality proteins, fruits and vegetables and non-processed carbohydrates. Start out small make one meal a healthy meal rather than all our meals being fast food and ice cream
Prayer and meditation: 🙏🙏 If you’re working some sort of 12 step program, he will come to find out that it is spiritual in nature. So if you are not already doing so, start a practice of prayer and meditation into your life and you will feel a lot better spiritually.
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When having a conversation with somebody it’s important that we try and practice active listening. Active listening will let that person know that we hear them, although we may not be able to relate, we understand what they are saying. Active listening is a great way to have healthy communication with whoever that person may be.
If you have a loved one that is struggling with addiction, eventually you will have to have a conversation with them. So being able to listen actively is very important. If we cannot listen actively, it portrays that we don’t care for them, we don’t hear them, and we are disregarding their feelings.
Active listening is something that we can practice on a daily basis. Next time you’re having a conversation with someone pay attention to your body language, your tonality, and your eye contact. Try not to stare off into space somewhere, leaving them think that you are not paying attention to them. Repeat back to them what they have said in your own words and offer your feedback if warranted. Often times all people want is for you to listen and to not speak. Don’t forget that.
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Today Ben and I will talk about the importance of helping other people in sobriety and why this is significant for your own recovery. When we help other people, we are helping ourselves, which is, in essence, selfish. However, this is a definite form of selfishness because when we help others, we are also assisting ourselves in not only their recovery but our own recovery.
In this episode, I talk with Brad Jensen, the founder of Key Nutrition, who is in recovery. He comes to us today to talk about how fitness and health have positively impacted his sobriety. Brad also talks about his struggles with sobriety. He'll talk about his experience, his awareness of the three pillars to life, and how he can assist clients with his coaching to be more successful on the path of sobriety.
Ben talks about a quote he learned, "The best way to get out of your own shit is to jump into someone else's shit." There are days and situations where you may feel down regardless of what you do to get yourself out of feeling low. When I start helping someone else, my positive state of mind when helping others definitely changes my attitude.
At Real Rock Recovery, we work with the local church and nursing home as an opportunity to help others, which keeps up humble and appreciative of what we have in life. Finding joy and peace in helping others, especially when mentoring other addicts, creates a sense of gratefulness for what you have.
Listen in to find out how you can become grateful for what you have, what you can give others, having the ability to become a sponsor, and give others their medallion. Find out what type of commitments Ben has made at H & I's and how he feels rewarded by using his time to help others. Find out what Ben has to say to others who feel that they have nothing to share.
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- [06:27] Why you should be selfish with your recovery.
- [09:21] Tom talks about his opportunity to help others in Bell Glade.
- [15:44] Ben speaks about the medallion ceremony, the thoughts and the hard work behind those who have earned their medallion.
- [18:20] How Ben figured out he wanted to start helping and mentoring others through sobriety.
- [20:02] People who want to help others versus people who aren’t interested in helping others.
- [21:44] What Ben would say to people who think they have nothing to offer others.
- [24:56] No matter how much time we have, there will always be someone with less time than us.
- [26:44] Are you hanging out with someone at the same level as you or are you branching out and meeting new people?
- [30:18] No matter what way, shape or form, reach out to help other people!
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It is not weak to admit defeat!
I am an addict. I am an alcoholic.
In this video we discuss the importance of qualifying.
We have the only disease, that tells us we don’t have it, that has to be self diagnosed.
If I do not admit to myself that I have a problem, I am most likely not going to seek out a solution. Admitting that I am an alcoholic or a drug addict, is simply stating that I need to change.
When the pain of staying the same, becomes greater than the pain of change, is when change occurs.
Does it need to be said? Does it need to be said by me? Does it need to be said by me right now?
After putting down the drink and drug, my next goal was to figure out how to live life.
How can I live life in such a way that minimizes anxiety, worry, resentment or the like?
I know that if I live my life feeling these negative feelings as a constant, I will eventually go back to the “ease and comfort” of a substance.
So my new job is to minimize the amount of time that I have these feelings. The question is, how do I keep these feelings to a minimum? That begins with making sure that I do not put myself in such situations to begin with.
How can I best avoid confrontation and conflict so that these feelings don’t arise? First of all, I need to learn how to communicate with others. One of the best ways to do this, is to figure out when and where to involve myself in disagreements.
I have come to find that by just sitting back and keeping my mouth shut, I find myself in less confrontation. Time heals all wounds.
What may have seemed like a big deal today, may mean nothing by tomorrow. If I had just kept my mouth shut, I could’ve avoided a lot of confrontation.
You are who you surround yourself with!
The people that we choose to hang around with will directly affect the level of success we achieve throughout our sobriety. If we choose to hang out with losers, we will lose. If we choose to hang with winners, we will win.
This goes for anybody in life. Not just people getting sober. If you want to be a successful business person then hang out with successful business people. If you want to be a successful mountain climber hang out with successful mountain climbers. Although this sounds very surface level it is the absolute truth.
Often times people claim they want to be “sober” but spend the majority of their time doing things that non-sober people would do. Sobriety means so much more than just putting down the drink or the drug. It is about changing our lifestyle. And that often times means changing our people, places and things. We need to have a total mindset shift when getting sober and that happens by hanging out with people that resemble sobriety.
Stick with the winners!!!
So you think you know what it means to surrender in recovery?
A term that gets thrown around a lot in recovery is the word surrender.
It sounds good when you say it, but do you really know what it means? Do you really know what you’re committing to? I thought surrender meant to go over to the winning side, or give up.
Come to find out, it means “to agree to the terms of peace.” Meaning, if you want peace, there is going to be terms. There may still even be consequences.
Just because I surrender, doesn’t necessarily mean I get to go home free. I’m probably still gonna have to go to jail or report to court at some point. That doesn’t sound fun!
Point is, surrender is usually followed up with some sort of commitment, task, consequence or the like. When I surrender to a life of recovery, it means that I am going to have to do some work to find and keep the PEACE.
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You Gotta Put In the Work!
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If you are going to take the plunge into getting sober, you have to understand that it is going to take a lot of hard work. I sometimes think that people are under the misconception that getting sober is just about stopping using drugs and alcohol. That is very far from the truth.
I have noticed that when things get hard for people that is when they tend to quit. When challenges arise, or uncomfortability sets in, then they’ll throw in the towel. This is the time that you have to knuckle down and do the work that you don’t necessarily want to do. When you are in addiction treatment it is hard work. If you want to get anything out of treatment itself you have to be willing to work hard, be vulnerable, be honest and grind it out
If you’re able to continue to work hard and to put forth all your efforts into your sobriety you will succeed. I can guarantee sobriety for anybody that is willing to work hard, nonstop! Don’t come into this looking for an end date or a graduation certificate. Come into this understanding that there is no end date and this isn’t something you graduate from, it’s a lifestyle.
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I can see straight through your “stage-character!”
There is a reason 30 days is not enough to get to the underlying issues and the root of the problem.
Every client comes into treatment presenting their stage character. This is the person that they want everybody to think they are, so they can get the reputation they think they deserve.
Funny thing is, this usually gives way after about three weeks. When a client is under the watchful eye of a facility, they can only keep their character defects hidden for so long.
Their true character will eventually come out. This is a good thing.
It exposes the truth about their personality and character. A personality and character that must change in order for an individual to attain long-term sobriety.
My sponsor told me, I didn’t have a drug and alcohol problem; I had a personality problem.
So let me ask you. If it takes a treatment team around three weeks to see what the underlying issues are, how are we supposed to fix that in a remaining week? This is assuming the client committed to 30 days of treatment. This is why it is so highly recommended that somebody commit to around 90 to 120 days at minimum.
Years of drug and alcohol addiction can not be undone in 30 days! This is assuming, you are of course the real deal addict or alcoholic.
In my case, I have the PRIVILEGE of participating in recovery everyday for the rest of my life! And it is awesome!
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Today I will talk about the process and path of a person moving from being a "normie" to using drugs and alcohol and becoming an addict.
In this episode, I talk with Brad Jensen, the founder of Key Nutrition, and is in recovery. He comes to us today to talk about how fitness and health have positively impacted his sobriety. Brad also talks about his struggles with sobriety. He'll talk about his experience, his awareness of the three pillars to life, and how he can assist clients with his coaching to be more successful on the path of sobriety.
Struggling with anxiety and ADD from age 12, he tried alcohol as a release and found drinking worked to relieve his stress. Additionally, he was overweight and was picked on by friends. By age 14, Brad jumped into reading books on health and fitness and was hooked on his health class at school. He remembers wanting to look like a bodybuilder on the cover of a magazine, then realizing that alcohol would not let him achieve his goal and quit drinking. At the end of his sophomore year, he was fit, but still had anxiety and was presented with opiates at a party.
Even with a stable family situation and a good life, Brad fell into drugs and alcohol. "This wasn't supposed to happen to a guy like me," he says, recalling his stable family life. Brad continued bodybuilding, along with his heroin addiction, until he finally ended up in prison for an extended period.
Listen in to find out how Brad denied his addiction for years, how he recovered from his long-term addiction in November of 2012, and the best thing his parents did for him during recovery. Brad also talks about how the loss of his grandfather affected his recovery from addiction.
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- [03:59] Brad’s journey through addiction and his background with drugs and alcohol.
- [06:01] Brad tells his story of how he was introduced to and hooked on opiates.
- [08:45] His experience of trying to take more pain pills and how to get a hold of more.
- [10:56] Building his identity through distributing opiates, the significant power this gave him and his first experience with heroin.
- [14:52] His senior year of high school his mom found a briefcase full of drugs.
- [22:56] Brad’s first experience with a long-term prison sentence.
- [26:18] How Brad’s parents stopped enabling him and how this helped him to stop using drugs.
- [28:06] What happened when Brad asked his mom for drugs.
- [30:00] Brad’s first steps to recovery after he was released from 30 days in prison.
- [36:54] How materialistic items can keep people sober.
- [46:30] How fitness and health has impacted Brad’s sobriety.
- [51:54] Get your anger, anxiety and issues out of your head with a good workout in the gym.
- [54:54] It’s not how long you’ve been sober, it’s what you’ve done during and after your recovery time.
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MTV Real World: “the halfway house”
In this video I will discuss the abundance of stimulus one feels while living in a sober support community.
There is always something entertaining going on. It is the excitement of a new environment. It is the chaos of living with others.
I discuss this topic to bring awareness and preparation for the day that you move out into the adult world. All of a sudden you will find yourself alone and dependent upon the outside support community that you have either built or have not built.
I always tell our clients to duplicate the same sense of community they feel in treatment, outside of treatment. Being in treatment exposes one to the connection that can be felt. After being exposed, one may find value in establishing a more permanent recovery Community.
Treatment and halfway is only temporary. Are you preparing yourself for the day that you move out? Will you feel like you have an abundance of support even though you are no longer enrolled in treatment?
Forget halfway, and go the WHOLE-WAY!
Have you ever tried having a conversation with someone and it just isn’t going the way that you thought that it would? 🙋🏻♂️
I know for myself when someone is not responding to me in the way I don’t want to be responded to, I get on the defense. I will start to justify why I am right and you are wrong, I will get angry, I will get defensive and in the end it’s not a productive conversation at all. In this video I discuss why it’s important to try and have healthy conversation as an adult in recovery. We know resentment is the number one offender. So it is important for us to be able to have conversations with people in a manner that gets something accomplished rather than getting into arguments and everybody gets in a race to see who can become victim first.
Ben taught me “You get more with honey than you do vinegar.” When I first heard that I questioned it. 🧐 I wasn’t quite sure what he was trying to say. But over time it makes sense, the goal is to have constructive conversations with people and in the end everybody is happy.
It’s easy for me to get angry and defensive and jump on the defense but that never accomplishes anything.. We all do it, but we can all fix it!!
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To cannabis or not to cannabis in recovery?
A very popular subject amongst the recovery community is whether or not utilizing marijuana is a relapse or not. The sober support community that I surround myself with does consider it a relapse; Though, one will find individuals who fall into both camps. Who is to say what is sober and what is not?
I believe this is for every individual to decide for themselves. We have the only disease, that tells us we don’t have it, that has to be self diagnosed. If one chooses to take the risk, are they willing to potentially pay devastating consequences as a result of putting certain motions into play?
Or maybe they pay no consequences? Does someone who has worked hard for their recovery really want to take the risk? In this video I will discuss my personal opinion, and look at some of the potential downfalls to partaking in cannabis use. I would advise against doing so, but that is just my opinion.
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Am I the only one that I am hurting?
Often times as addicts and alcoholics we think that we are the only ones that we are hurting. The unfortunate part is that we are hurting a lot of people around us. The people that we are hurting the most are the people that we hold closest to us.
The loved ones tend to think as well that they are not the ones with the problem an”why can’t he/she just stop?” Or “its their problem, they can figure it out”. So, loved ones, understand that you are part of the problem too. We all play a part in this wether we like to admit it or not.
BUT once we are all able to admit that we ALL play a part, let the healing begin!
How dare you take someone else’s inventory!!! Not!
Have you been told not to take other people’s inventory? Well, maybe you should not heed that advice. Reason being, if you spot it you got it.
Often times, taking inventory of others is a mirror reflection of character defects that I may own myself. In addition, I had to learn how to be open to allowing others to take my inventory. If I am lying to myself, how do I know? You can’t spot self-deception by yourself.
Welcoming the feedback of others, and ultimately asking for others to take your inventory can be a necessary tool to achieve an entire psychic change. In conclusion, do not take the inventory of others so that you can be critical of them; take the inventory of others so that you can advise your own personal growth. Never be afraid to hear the feedback of others if it will mean making personal progress.
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No is an “OK” Answer
Often times it is so hard for parents and loved ones to say NO to the ones that they care about the most. The unfortunate thing about that is, sometimes because we never say NO, it can drive someone deeper and deeper into their addiction.
I spend a lot of time talking with parents and loved ones, trying to convince then that it is OK to draw boundaries! There is nothing wrong with saying “No, I am not going to pay your cell phone bill this month” or “No, I am not going to loan you $20 dollars for gas”
Addicts and Alcoholics will take someones “niceness” and turn it into a “weakness”. It’s like the ol’ saying, “you give an inch, they will take a mile” Now this doesn’t mean, go home and throw your alcoholic son or daughter out oof the house tonight! But it does mean, take a look at yourself, and ask yourself, Am I part of the problem?
- Am I being to nice?
- Am I enabling this person to use drugs and drink?
- What am I doing to provide for this person, while they continue to go out every night and sometimes not even come home?
The list goes on and on, I think you get the point. Its OK to say NO!
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Today I will talk about the process and path of a person moving from being a "normie" to using drugs and alcohol and becoming an addict.
In this episode, I talk about the progression of drug, alcohol, sex - any behavior which can become addictive. Many addictions have the same process from start to finish. However, I'll primarily talk about the four reasons people get addicted to drugs and alcohol.
Reason #1: People are trying to mask another problem or issue such as mental illness. Drugs and alcohol help cope with mental illness and make them feel better, or people who have mental illness believe that drugs and alcohol help them to cope with and deal with their mental illness. In my experience, I see the opposite happen. Drugs and alcohol are not a solution, especially schizophrenia.
Reason #2: Drugs and alcohol relieve stress. Addicts in this category have a hard time dealing with stress or have always used drugs and alcohol to avoid dealing with a life stressor. This is a perpetual cycle = worsening issues, more drugs and alcohol, the stress doesn't go away, the situation gets worse, so the person takes more drugs and alcohol.
Reason #3: Environment - the addict is around others who are using drugs and alcohol. Alcohol was the love of my life, introduced to me by my friends. At 12, I tried Zima with a group of older kids, who I was easily influenced by teenagers who were older than me. As long as someone else was worse than me, that would reinforce that I wasn't an alcoholic.
Reason #4: Medical intervention with addictive painkillers causes addiction. When the issue which was causing the pain was resolved, our body goes through withdrawal. Many IV heroin addicts started with opiate painkillers used after an accident and injury. These people usually don't have a family history of drugs and alcohol.
Listen in to find out more detail about the four paths to drug and alcohol addiction and how families react to their loved one's addiction.
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Show Notes:
- [05:20] Reason #1 People get addicted to drugs because they are trying to cope with a mental illness.
- [08:25] Schizophrenia is negatively affected by marijuana use.
- [10:00] Reason #2 Drugs and alcohol relieve stress
- [12:14] Parents and loved ones always ask “Why can’t they just stop?”
- [15:50] Reason #3 The addict is surrounded by drugs and alcohol.
- [19:13] Reason #4 Addiction from the use of opiate drugs prescribed by a doctor.
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Wear Recovery like a loose garment
Recovery isn’t something that is supposed to stress us out! We are being given the opportunity to start a new life, and we can create it however we want to create it! Often times people look at sobriety as a “death sentence” and think since they are sober now they they are not going to be able to have fun and now their life is going to suck!
That is so. Far. From the truth! We should not be so stuck up! Enjoy the process and everything that goes with it! There are new experiences that we are going to have and people that we are going to meet, and it is because we GOT SOBER!
Dont let the idea of sobriety hold you back. Yes, the decisions that we make moving forward need to have our sobriety in mind. We do not want to put ourselves at risk to relapse. But don’t let sobriety choke you out! It isn’t supposed to be miserable!
Spirituality and using substances to connect
Do you struggle with the concept of spirituality or God in recovery? Check out this “five minute or less” video. Were we not trying to have spiritual experiences through alcohol and substances? Come on all you hippie ravers!?! Were we not trying to connect with others through social lubricant a.k.a. alcohol? Do they not refer to alcohol as spirits? While Recovery is not black and white, maybe this excerpt will get you thinking about spirituality and it’s principals? Do you want nothing to do with the concept, yet demonstrate through active addiction that you want everything to do with it?
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Im not that bad, yet! Don’t let the “Yet” get ya! As addicts and alcoholics we tend to compare ourselves to other people and circumstances.
I remember sitting at the bar and looking at all the other people around me that are “for sure alcoholics” and comparing myself to them. I would tell myself things like, “When I get that bad then I will make a change” or “I haven’t gotten a DUI, YET” or “I still have my job and I am able to pay my bills”. I would tell myself these things even after I had been sitting at the bar for the past 8 hours!
Little did I know at that time, all of those “Yet’s” were soon to come. I was in such denial, that I would look at people around me and my surroundings and convince myself that I didn’t have a problem!
If you find yourself in a position to where you are trying to convince yourself you don’t have a problem, because X,Y,Z hasn’t happened to you, think of it this way.
YOU ARE TRYING TO CONVINCE YOURSELF YOU DON’T HAVE A PROBLEM, WHICH MEANS YOU MIGHT HAVE A PROBLEM!
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What if they don’t want to get sober?
When I am talking to parents or loved ones, they sometimes have the response “If they don’t want to get sober then what is the point in them going to treatment?” Although this does make somewhat sense, it isn’t entirely true.
See, when someone is seeking treatment or goes to treatment, chances are they are not WANTING to go in the first place. Maybe they are, but chances are they are not. That is OK. Addiction Treatment can be a very scary thing to do, especially if we have never done it before! As addicts and alcoholics we tend to want to stay where we are most comfortable, in our addiction. So when presented with the “option” of going to treatment, it is not a surprise that they say they don’t really want to get sober or “I don’t think I need treatment”
My recommendation is always, get someone to treatment whatever way possible. They don’t have to come “willingly” or have some overly positive attitude about going to treatment. The fact is, they are going and that is all that matters. Leave the rest up to the professionals.
If your loved one gets involved in a community that is healthy and fosters good sobriety, they will organically become that as well. You become a product of your environment, ya know?
Can I be sober and have fun at the same time?
Often times when people get sober they think that they are buying into this new idea that they are going to live boring mundane lives. Done get me wrong, I do know people that are super boring and would be in better moods if they were drunk. Those are people we like too call “dry drunks” 😂
Sobriety and Recovery can be boring if we don’t take the initiative to make it fun! We need to find people that we can surround ourselves with that are going to help us enjoy our new fund sobriety.
I tell people all the time, find new stuff to do. Have new experiences. Without those, sobriety can be boring. Let’s face it, if sobriety can’t be fun, then what is the point?
Remember, it takes initiative. We have to make our sobriety what we want it to be or we are going to go back to what we know best. Drugs and Alcohol 💪✌️
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Stay the Course
The ever changing landscape of addiction can be rather daunting. At first it’s beautiful, sunny, perfect weather and no storms. We are just enjoying the weather
Eventually though, the inevitable happens.
Storms start to come through.
What do we do when this happens? Often times addicts and alcoholics will let this turn into an excuse to drink or drug. Rather than looking at the situation as an opportunity, we can look at it as oppression. “Why did this have to happen to me?”
We can’t let that happen. When life smacks us in the face, which it will. I promise. We need to be able to look at it through sober eyes. Ask yourself:
- how can I grow through this situation?
- Will I grow mentally, physically, spiritually?
- What is God or The Universe trying to show me?
- Once I get to the other side of this situation, what might I have learned
Let’s start handling life circumstances differently. Let’s not use them as a reason to pick up. Let’s look at life circumstances as opportunity rather than oppression.
LETS STAY THE COURSE
Many people don't fully understand that a relapse starts WAY before one actually picks up a drink or a drug. It is very important to understand that you have to think it through when you are faced with the temptation of relapse. Think of the consequences that you could face when picking up that drink or drug.
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Today I will talk with Benjamin B., and we reflect on our holiday musings. How being clean was a much different experience than showing up high. Being sober is more work; however, Ben was able to participate in the holiday events now that he is sober and received much more out of the experience while sober.
In this episode, Ben talks about how he really is in tune with 12 Step Programs. Learn how Ben benefited from treatment in a facility and the reasons why and when you should choose a treatment facility over a support group for rehab.
Ben and I talk about the “$30,000 big book” from AA and how the founder of AA went through three types of treatments before he developed an AA program. Why support programs may not address the underlying symptoms such as childhood abuse, trauma, and PTSD. Twelve steps are applicable, however, not specific for healing trauma. A therapist who can meet with you one-on-one on the outside of the program will assist you in learning how to heal the trauma, which is fueling the alcohol and drug addiction and move you towards emotional balance. The result and effect of personal counseling will fan out throughout all facets of your life.
Treatment centers give you the added benefit of the community. Community to be supported and feel comfortable with others who are suffering from addiction and may have similar challenges. Support groups are optional and do not create a need to go to multiple meetings. Treatment centers give you the support of professionals for evaluation and take you through the process, working alongside you for your time at treatment.
Listen in to find out what treatment centers can offer and who can benefit from a treatment center with a more positive outcome than only participating in a support group. Find out why accountability, community, and support make the big difference for your success in detox and healing.
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Show Notes:
- [05:31] Ben talks about his experience with 12 Step Programs.
- [07:51] Trying AA, church or another recovery method first may not be your best choice.
- [10:15] Combining a program with a counselor or psychologist who you see outside the program to work through trauma can be a good path to recovery.
- [12:37] What you can take from support groups and support therapy.
- [17:50] Go to multiple meetings and / or multiple support groups to find one which is a good fit for your personality.
- [19:38] Numbers and data for treatment center success.
- [22:26] Clients see the support they have during treatment and building support outside of treatment.
- [24:30] Recap of the elements which support your treatment at a facility.
- [26:45] Parents should stay out of treatment until the client is ready for outside responsibility.
- [29:30] The importance of seeing a counselor or therapist on a weekly basis.
- [33:24] People who have been diagnosed with a mental illness, when they come clean, find out they are not mentally ill.
- [34:59] The winning formula for recovery.
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Today I will talk to a former drug addict, Glenn, who almost lost everything because of his addiction to drugs. Many addicts come from a background where addiction is present or the environment they lived in as a child promotes drug and alcohol abuse, however, Glenn is an exception to this rule. His family background is from a supportive family with a stay-at-home mom and a dad who worked out with him at the gym every week.
Sports were big for Glenn, especially wrestling. He excelled at wrestling and had the opportunity to wrestle in college. When the time came to sign to go to college, Glenn told his dad he didn’t want to wrestle in college. His dad was surprised but gave him his blessing, and Glenn attended college. Glen decided to not wrestle after his senior year because wrestling was too high pressure.
Glenn talks about how his workouts and winning were addictions, and he won’t play a game unless he could win. His friends in college were all leaders of the sport they played. This was his main group of friends. Glenn and his buddies would go hang out in the woods and drink, usually ending up passing out in the basement of his house. Glenn’s parents would not allow alcohol in the house, but they were OK with his friends sleeping over.
In 2008, his dad had a stroke and was fired from his job because he couldn’t perform his work duties. Being the only income in the household, Glenn decided to pitch in to help pay the mortgage for his dad and mom. He secured a job with a local union that paid well and continued to drink on the weekends. One weekend he fell and separated his shoulder snowboarding. His doctor prescribed pain killers, and after his doctor cut him off, he went through detox. One of his co-workers started selling him his personally prescribed pain killers, which led Glenn down the road to addiction at age 19.
One of his friends offered him heroin, and Glenn was addicted in a week. Heroin was less expensive and gave him a better feeling at age 21. He continued to work his job, but called out often and didn’t get paid much. Glenn would only go to work when he needed money for drugs.
He was pulled over a few months later and was arrested with a DWAI. His parents wanted him to go to rehab, he started isolating himself. When he wanted to go home to his parents, they refused to take him in, and Glenn checked himself into rehab. His family knew something was wrong, but no one would address the problem.
Listen in to find out how Glenn found solace in the structure of sober living at Rock Recovery Center, why getting out of the town he lived in was a positive for him, how finding out about his son having a brain tumor affected him and how he lost his sobriety after drinking on a cruise vacation with his family.
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Show Notes:
- [04:04] Glenn talks about his life as a child and his environment growing up.
- [12:16] How Glenn started drinking in college with other leaders in sports.
- [14:30] Glenn’s new addiction to painkillers.
- [17:37] Glenn is introduced to heroin.
- [20:35] How Glenn’s addiction affected his relationship with his parents.
- [26:13] What Glenn was able to get away from when he came to Florida for rehab.
- [28:21] After getting clean, getting married, Glenn falls back into addiction.
- [29:40] Glenn’s mindset while living at the hospital with his wife to take care of his son.
- [30:56] Glenn decided to not go back to meetings after five years of being sober.
- [31:37] Glenn’s experience with drinking.
- [33:35] Alcohol can get you re-addicted even if you didn’t drink as an addict.
- [37:18] How getting off your diet is similar to getting back onto drugs.
- [38:35] Glenn relapsed for six months then ran out of money.
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Today I will talk about the most common rehab myths, boil down the real issues, dissect and talk about each myth piece by piece.
You may give yourself excuses as to why you don’t want to be clean and sober. There are reasons which may be playing over and over again in your head, which are preventing you from getting clean and sober. Or maybe you are the person who loves an addict, and you are making excuses for them not to enter rehab.
The biggest fear I commonly hear about from clients is the fear of the withdrawal process. More poignantly, the first five to ten days of recovery. This is the most intense part of the recovery process. Other factors that affect withdrawal are the types of drugs used, the frequency and amount of drugs used, the combination of drugs and alcohol, and prescription medication addiction. These are the most common factors which will play into how long and intense the withdrawal process will take for an individual.
While the withdrawal process may be uncomfortable, some tools can assist you in moving through the process to get to the other side. I know from personal experience, this process cannot be bypassed.
The two most intense addictions to move past are alcohol and anti-anxiety drugs. You can die from detoxing from these two if you do not have medical supervision when you are moving through this withdrawal. Removing these chemicals from your body is hard on your brain, and there can be medical effects such as seizures.
Heroin, crack cocaine, and opiate addiction are going to be more of a “psychological detox”. There is very little chance of dying from these types of detox. Under medical supervision, the process can be better with detox medication in a detox facility. I believe these medications should be used only in a medical environment.
These reasons are not an excuse to not go through the detox process. Ultimately, I ended up realizing withdrawal is going to happen, but that it’s better when you can go through this process at a facility.
If your only rehab option is to detox at home, here are guidelines to follow for recovery:
- Stay hydrated with water
- Ask the family to remove alcohol from the house
- Take away all temptations of drugs and alcohol from your home
- Ask your family members not to do drugs or drink around you
- Find a supportive community, a support group or other people who can help you through the process
I talk about how people say they aren’t like other people who are addicted. The common identity is you and the other people at the center have had drugs and alcohol destroy their lives. If you are thinking you are not like the others in recovery because you have a job or a car and you’re not homeless, you may never be able to get sober. This is a barrier and insecurity to sobriety.
Others say they won’t know who they are without drugs and alcohol. The person on drugs isn’t the emotional or mental person you see before you- this is the person who is addicted. Decision-making is fueled by their addiction. When you have been driven by drugs and alcohol for years, the person you see is not the real person inside. The fourteen years I spent drinking had molded me into somebody that didn’t know life without alcohol. I had to get sober - I had to submit to the fact that I had to learn how to relive my life.
People who get sober come from all walks of life. From janitors to car salesman to executives are all “cut from the same cloth.” We are all human, and there is going to be conflict; however, this is a part of life. You learn how to be challenged and overcome these challenges.
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Show Notes:
- [03:30] Reasons you could be playing over and over again to prevent you from being clean and sober.
- [05:02] The withdrawal process is uncomfortable, but with the right tools, you can move through the process.
- [10:05] Wanting to avoid the fallout of detoxification from withdrawal is not an excuse to avoid getting sober.
- [11:37] Guidelines to follow for recovery if you are detoxing outside of a medical facility
- [14:31] You’re in the same boat as others who are going through and have been through recovery.
- [16:57] What addicts who are not successful think about.
- [21:56] My personal example of how I became an alcoholic.
- [24:48] How my life revolved around drinking and how I had to reinvent myself.
- [28:04] These things are easy for me to say now, but not easy for me to go through ten years ago.
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Disclaimer: The information found in this episode should not be used to diagnose, prescribe or treat an individual and should not be used in place of medical advice from a licensed healthcare practitioner.
We recently attended a celebration of life for a friend, which was beautiful. He touched so many people with his kindness and love.
Today Ben and I will chat about real experiences we have come across in our journey, focusing on MAT - Medically Assisted Treatment. MAT can be useful with proper execution and planning for the challenges which lie ahead for the client. Mood and mind-altering drugs are a necessity in some cases; however, our experience has shown us a better recovery method in Abstinence Based Recovery.
At Rock Recovery, we have a step-down program for our clients to transition from our center to living a clean, sober, and independent life. We assist our clients by giving them the tools to safely and effectively live on their own, including community support.
One phone call Ben accepted recently sounded like the potential client was a good fit for our program. Let’s call this person, “Mike.” Mike claimed he was eight months sober and living on his own with a job and wanted to have additional support and treatment. Ben met Mike for a pre screen drug test, which lit up with three different types of drugs. The man claimed sobriety, which was not valid based on the analysis. Ben found out that Mike’s insurance ran out at eight months sobriety and was asked to leave the previous facility he was treated at. The doctor released Mike with two different drugs, which can be fatal if you mix them with alcohol. Additionally, both of these drugs have extreme medical withdrawal.
Ben was troubled with the provider who left this person on his own with drugs, which could have easily killed him if he drank. Mike didn't understand why we couldn't take him into our sober living and had to explain to him what sober living is for the recovery center.
MAT treatment is becoming normalized when this shouldn’t be the norm. This method does not take into effect the six requirements for living a sober life. Giving someone drugs and leaving them to their own devices was not responsible for the treatment center who left him out in the cold.
We talk about abstinence-based sobriety and the MAT sobriety process and how we use this therapy in the Rock Recovery Center. We have clients come to us and tell us they want to get off Suboxone and move forward without using drugs for recovery.
Our location in South Florida feels like paradise. This beautiful environment and area to enjoy and relax is a great place to recover and live when you are out of your recovery at the Rock Recovery Center. Ben talks about the many outdoor activities you can participate in during your recovery.
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Show Notes:
- [05:51] The shortcomings and pitfalls which people experience with MAT.
- [06:57] Ben shares his experience with MAT based fallout.
- [14:21] Mike was left out in the cold, with drugs that could have had a fatal side effect.
- [15:19] How Mike was given drugs, but he barely had enough money to live.
- [17:11] When the promises come true.
- [18:17] Who should you see if you are looking for responsible MAT treatment?
- [20:46] Ben’s personal experience with Suboxone.
- [23:23] Understand the dangers of using drugs to come off of an addiction.
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My wife and I brought a beautiful baby girl, Winnie Margaret Conrad, into the world six weeks ago!
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Today Ben and I will chat about stopping your drinking and drugging. If you’re ready to get sober, find a place which you enjoy, that is beautiful. A place where you can focus on your recovery. Florida is a great location to start your journey to renew your life.
Many of our clients are from the northeast. I believe there are multiple reasons why people like to come to south Florida for recovery. One of the main reasons is South Florida is a strong recovery community, which is essential when you are looking to get sober. Ben draws the analogy of the south Florida recovery community to the best place you would seek a specific type of sport. You want to go where the sport is played the most, especially if you’re competing. South Florida is THE place to be when you are recovering.
The clients who come down to South Florida commonly stay here to live full-time. You can easily find many sober people in South Florida in a restaurant or shopping in a market. It’s easy to build relationships here with other people who are sober and are looking to engage in sober activities together.
Clients who return to the northeast find that there are many commercials and programs which are MAT-based. Sometimes a person will move from their current drug to Suboxone - a prescription medicine used to treat adults who are addicted to opioid medications. This drug is used in conjunction with a complete treatment program, which can also include counseling and behavioral therapy. Ben and I believe that using another drug to get off of your current drug isn’t the best form of treatment. Many of the addiction programs in the northeast use this type of therapy. At Rock Recovery Center, we want you to thrive without drugs, which is why we do not use this type of therapy.
We talk about abstinence-based sobriety and the MAT sobriety process and how we use this therapy in the Rock Recovery Center. We have clients come to us and tell us they want to get off Suboxone and move forward without using drugs for recovery.
Our location in South Florida feels like paradise. This beautiful environment and area to enjoy and relax is a great place to recover and live when you are out of your recovery at the Rock Recovery Center. Ben talks about the many outdoor activities you can participate in during your recovery.
There are many employment opportunities in South Florida, along with an extensive network of people who are recovering who can give you referrals to jobs. Find out how many opportunities you can find when you are sober!
Many of our clients want to return to South Florida to remain sober. Give us a call, contact us through our website, and find out why Rock Recovery Center is an excellent opportunity for you to become sober and live a fulfilling life.
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Show Notes:
- [03:10] The company and culture in South Florida recovery.
- [04:54] What is a recovery community?
- [08:21] Why Ben and I are fans of abstinence-based treatment.
- [10:35] What patients have shared with us about their experience using Suboxone.
- [12:42] Ben’s recovery experience in Minnesota and South Florida.
- [14:30] Employment opportunities in South Florida.
- [17:46] What sobriety looks like after the recovery center and process.
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- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
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My wife and I brought a beautiful baby girl, Winnie Margaret Conrad, into the world five weeks ago!
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Ben and I want to talk about gratitude to give thanks to where the podcast has gone, how the show has helped people, and chat about our thankfulness.
Certain concepts are hard for those in the grip of addiction to understand. One is the thought that their life can be turned around. Another is the idea that there is a positive side at the end of this time in your life.
Ben didn’t understand how someone could be a grateful recovering addict. He talks about how he crossed the line with drugs and alcohol. There wasn’t one particular moment which he remembers thinking he needed to change. He does, however, remember one instance shortly before his son’s first birthday, where the DEA came to his home and arrested him for drug use. Ben remembers thinking that he may be going away and would be locked up for an extended period.
“Recovery must come first in my life” because, without his recovery, his family, child, or anything else isn’t going to work. Ben is thankful to find his purpose in helping other people. From sponsoring others to sobriety to reaching so many others and working with them to caring for a friend’s child when his mother died of a drug overdose, Ben is finding the world needs him in more ways than he had ever expected.
At one point, I felt that I was going to die an alcoholic. At 26 years old, with a hunting shotgun in the corner of my room, I thought to myself that I could quickly end my life right there in my room.
Don’t take the fear of living without drugs and alcohol take over your thoughts. Make a choice to overcome your fear and move forward with your recovery. Ben recalls his early recovery feeling like he didn’t have the strength physically, emotionally, or spiritually to make it through another minute.
Ben reiterates his “why” of being here because he now has a purpose. He holds onto resonating with his words, making sure he walks the walk and talks the talk. He often hears about new people in recovery, saying the right words in the group but then doesn’t follow through with actions. Ben believes that if they at least know the idea and realize they need to change their behavior, they will eventually move towards more positive behavior.
What we have talked about on this podcast is a reflection of the lives we have built for ourselves. We speak the language because we have been in their shoes. Ben can't put into words what it was like to be an addict. Additionally, he cannot put words to how he feels about living his life without drugs and addiction.
If you’re struggling with the idea of sobriety and getting treatment, think about the opportunities which can lie ahead of you when you make a choice to change.
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Show Notes:
- [02:38] Concepts which are hard for those in the grips of addiction to understand.
- [03:12] What drove Ben nuts in early recovery.
- [04:09] The point where you feel that something has to change in your life.
- [05:35] Ben wasn’t being the man he knew he was capable of being.
- [06:32] How Ben’s experiences have led him to the point at which he is living today.
- [09:14] I tell my story about how I had bought into the concept that I would die an alcoholic.
- [12:59] Ben’s work with people in recovery reminds him everyday how valuable his work is.
- [15:52] I talk about suicide being the easy route to escape.
- [20:15] Why we publish this podcast.
- [23:23] Addicts can relate to Ben and gives him a level of trust.
- [29:35] Why having any drugs or alcohol is beneficial for Ben.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
My wife and I brought a beautiful baby girl, Winnie Margaret Conrad, into the world four weeks ago!
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The holiday season is here upon us. This can be tough for those who are in early recovery, especiallly being with family. Along with family comes a lot of emotions. You may have indugled in drugs and alochol to get through previous holidays to get yourself through this time. Now, however; you are sober and you’ll need to put new tools in your toolbox to move through the holidays sober.
The big question I’m going to discuss today: How can we go into the holiday season and be sure we will be OK when we get out the other side?
Don’t go into the holiday season with the idea that this will be hard for you. Put your fear aside, celebrate being joyful with friends and family. Especially if you’re new to sobriety, take heart to follow these steps and make your holiday season a good and memorable one.
Here is a plan you can follow to have a safe, fun and enjoyable holiday season this year:
#1 Create a plan for your holiday
Not just plan where to go, but how you are going to deal with situations. If you are seeing family, you’ll most likely be going back to the same dysfunction or bad habits of the family. Think about what you are going to do and say when family members put you in a “party” situation or try to bring you to a bar.
#2 Find a meeting where you are going during the holiday
Find a support person locally to reach out and talk to someone who can support you.
#3 Communicate with your family members
Tell your family your boundaries and expectations for your health and to support you. Let your family know if they cannot support you, that you will not be coming to the family function. They won’t know what you expect unless you communicate with them effectively. Share with them your expectations weeks before you are going to meet them for the holidays. This will relieve the awkwardness of your family so they will know what you feel comfortable with during events. Tell your family that you don’t want to be offered alcohol or drugs. If they are drinking, you may need to be in a different room.
#4 Set up your accountability partners before hand
The newly recovered person should decide before they go to a family function who the responsible family members are which they can have for support.
#5 Look at this as an opportunity to create new, wonderful memories with your family!
Look for happy moments and fill your time with fun activities with your family and friends. Have meaningful conversation and tell them about your new found sobriety. You may be a vehicle for others to become sober. You may have spent years not being there for your family, this is your time to show your family and friends you are sober and there for them. Have gratitude you have this opportunity to spend time with them.
- If you’re family is a party family and always uses drugs or alcohol, your best choice is to not attend a family gathering. Be proud of your sobriety and do not put yourself in a situation to lose what you have done for yourself!
There’s nothing on the face of this planet that is worth more than your sobriety.
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Show Notes:
- [01:44] Sobriety - you haven’t had to be sober for previous holidays, but now you do!
- [03:22] Going into your first holiday season as a sober person.
- [04:33] #1 Create a plan for your holiday
- [07:11]What should you do when your family puts you in a not so great situation? Plan ahead!
- [09:09] #3 Communicate with your family members
- [12:03] Decide what family members are supportive and communicate with them. #4 Set up your accountability before hand.
- [15:59] Know that you have a say in what you do with alcohol.
- [19:09] Be proud to be the sober person in the crowd.
- [20:15] There’s nothing on the face of this planet that is worth more than your sobriety.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
My wife and I brought a beautiful baby girl, Winnie Margaret Conrad, into the world three weeks ago!
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The question to ask yourself when you are considering treatment: How do drugs and alcohol add value to my life today?
There are many different reasons addicts will not go into drug and alcohol rehab. One reason may be because the addict thinks they won’t be able to become clean, so what is the point of going? With that attitude, you definitely won’t become clean and sober again.
I’m here to tell you, relapse is NOT a part of recovery. This statement, which I’ve heard many times, is BS. Relapse is only a part of recovery if you choose to make this a part of your recovery.
In this episode, I’m going to talk about the most common fears people have when considering treatment options. Many people have a fear of the unknown. Remember, treatment for any problem, whether the issue is medical, such as a broken leg or addiction, is purposeful. The reason you go for treatment is for repair. Treatment is generally uncomfortable; however, the goal for your treatment is to heal successfully.
When you enter into drug and alcohol treatment, it may be hard to comprehend your life moving forward without drugs and alcohol. You may be asking yourself the following questions:
- What does drug and alcohol treatment look like?
- What can I expect during this process?
- What are the actions and steps I’ll have to do in the addiction program?
- What types of treatments will my rehab consist of?
- Who will be leading my rehabilitation?
- What types of doctors, psychologists, will I be working with during rehab?
- What will this process look like for me?
I’ll be speaking with my guest, Griff, today about his fears about going into drug and alcohol rehab. He has been in rehab for six months and will talk to us about dealing with emotions.
Fear #1: Talking about your emotions. As an addict, we tend to live emotionless lives to avoid feeling emotions. You are using drugs and alcohol to mask your true emotions. Your feelings are overwhelming; however, if you do not process your emotions, you have a significant chance of falling back into the addiction cycle.
When Griff first started feeling emotion, he felt love for the first time. This was the first experience he had with loving himself. Also, he experiences the emotion of hate for his actions in the past.
He now realizes he has a choice not to live a life of addiction. He feels he is a better person now than he was before. Griff realizes that he feels different if he is around others who are drinking.
Fear #2: Loneliness: Make sure to have a trusted counselor or other professional to work through your emotional process and have a clean and positive community of friends who can be there for you when you are working through the recovery process.
Griff talks about how vital the community at the Rock Recovery Center is for him through his process of recovery. He felt welcome and accepted at the Rock Recovery Center. Even though he considers himself an introvert, he realizes how his new friends are looking out for him.
Listen in to hear more detail about three common fears many people experience when considering drug and alcohol rehabilitation.
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Show Notes:
- [03:54] Trying to comprehend your life without drugs and alcohol.
- [04:06] Common modalities and activities you may have in your recovery program.
- [04:33] Fear #1: The fear of dealing with your emotions
- [05:59] My guest Griff talks about using since he was 12 and not having to deal with emotions for a very long time.
- [07:02] Feeling guilt and shame when going through the treatment process.
- [07:25] Griff talks about harnessing his new found emotions to change and become a better person.
- [09:09] Going through and processing emotions with a trained therapist who you can trust and feel comfortable with when healing from addiction.
- [10:56] Stay away from environments which have drugs or alcohol when you are in early recovery.
- [11:09] Fear #2 the fear of loneliness.
- [12:39] Griff talks about the relationships he has developed during treatment.
- [13:39] Be an asset to your community during treatment.
- [14:59] Griff talks about his new found “family” at the Rock Recovery Center and the importance of having this community for his well-being.
- [17:04] The community at the Rock Recovery Center holding each other accountable.
- [20:04] Perspective: look at how wonderful your life would be without dependence on drugs and alcohol instead of thinking about life without drugs and alcohol.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Live Chat
- Real Recovery Talk on the Web
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
- Rock Recovery Center
My wife and I brought a beautiful baby girl, Winnie Margaret Conrad, into the world two weeks ago!
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I’m going to give you three things you can do to end your addiction. Whether you’re addicted to drugs, alcohol, or nicotine, consistently following these three steps can get you out of your addiction and onto your road of recovery.
These three steps are so easy to do, normies do this every day:
- Get Busy - the saying “idle hands make the devil’s workshop” applies to #1. Don’t sit around and let time pass you by. Doing the same thing day in and day out, without purpose, is not healthy. You want to fill your time with productive, purposeful activities to be in the right frame of mind. You can volunteer at a local pet shelter, go back to school, or pick up a new trade or hobby. Find activities you like to do and do them every day.
- Get out of Toxic Relationships - when you are inactive addiction, you will surround yourself with others who approve of your negative behavior. You can easily cosign your addiction when you stay in toxic relationships. Remember to look around, the toxic person doesn’t have to be an addict, they can be a normie but is emotionally, physically, or sexually abusive. Find positive friends, moving forward in life, and lead meaningful lives.
- Get Support - find others outside of your immediate family to positively support you in your journey and will hold you accountable. Find a support group or support system of others outside your family who you can talk to when you need support. Your family may love you; however, family situations can be stressful and create the opposite effect. Family members who don’t understand how you feel usually can’t support you in the way you need to be supported. They want to help you but do not have the tools to assist you in the road to recovery. A good support group or person can walk you through a tough journey.
When we are stuck in our heads and have no way to get out of our heads, the negative self-talk will walk back into our minds. From this point, the negativity snowballs, and we are back on the path to addiction. Whether your addiction is shopping, gambling, or drugs, this applies to all addictions.
Remember, toxic relationships include any person who is not serving a positive purpose in your life. Breakaway from these people and move from your “comfortable” place. You have to get rid of toxic people and relationships, or you’ll be fighting an uphill battle. These people will not support you wanting to get clean or get out of your addiction.
Find a MeetUp group that doesn’t drink. Make sure to be with positive people who can build your sobriety and help lift you back up. Positive support will assist you in being and stay sober.
There’s no guarantee, however, if you are consistent and follow-through with these three steps, you can be on your way to sobriety.
Listen in to hear more detail about my three steps to put you on the path of sobriety, no matter what your addiction.
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Show Notes:
- [02:15] I introduce my new baby girl, Winnie Margaret Conrad,
- [03:55] Three things you can do to end your addiction.
- [04:51] The first thing you can do to put an end to your addiction - be productive and engage yourself in mindful and meaningful activities.
- [08:56] Number two: Get out of toxic relationships - surround yourself with healthy, good people.
- [13:22] Number three: get support!
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes
I hope that Steven's message today will give you the ability to go out and get help with your addiction. Listen in on his message of hope.
Steven decided to come onto the show today to share his message of hard work and determination when coming off drug addiction. His early life, as a child living with his mother, gave Steven his first exposure to drug use and addiction. This was a radical difference from the structured and disciplined military life he led when he was under his father’s care.
At eight years old, his aunt gave him his first joint, and his uncle gave him his first beer that summer. Later that year, he started smoking cigarettes, also given to him by a family member on his mother’s side. By the time he was 13, he was smoking a pack a day of cigarettes.
Enabling children and giving them what they want tends to lead a person down the path of addiction. Being able to do “anything you want” gives the impression that doing anything is OK. The enabler is not able to stop the behavior that is allowing the addict to continue.
Steven’s introduction to continual access to drugs and alcohol started in middle school, where he would idolize rock bands, play music and go out into a field and get drunk with his friends. In high school, he joined his first band, half of whom were on probation. Steven himself ended up on probation for six months. During his probation, he developed a reliance on synthetic cannabinoids. Even though he was on-track to graduate early from high school, he was expelled his junior year and dropped out twice his senior year. Steven thought drinking was a typical teen activity. Looking back, he realized his behavior wasn’t normal - the party never stopped - he was continually drinking throughout the day. Playing in a band gave Steven purpose, finding a role in music was where he fit in socially.
His world as an adult is still tied to his childhood traumas, with abandonment issues and feeling he isn’t good enough. These are the feelings that lead to addiction and make addiction so hard to break.
In 2017, Steven broke up with his girlfriend, and he realized he was always drunk. He would buy beer, put the beer in his backpack, and drink beer in the bathroom every hour he was at work. His ex-girlfriend was also addicted, she didn’t want to be addicted. Steven realized that he, as well as she, needed to go into rehab.
Listen in to hear Steven’s story of drinking, being miserable and him being in and out of IOP and working a 12-step program.
Show Notes:
- [04:29] I introduce Steven and he gives background on his lifestyle growing up and the large amount of difference between living with his mother and living with his father.
- [07:25] Steven tells about his family growing up, how his family became a blended family.
- [09:29] His mother and aunt are still addicted and not clean.
- [11:45] Steven and I talk about the enabling aspect of addiction.
- [15:26] Where Steven’s addiction stems from.
- [17:20] Steven’s first consequence: probation for six months.
- [19:27] The party never stopped for Steven, he was always drinking.
- [20:30] He describes how playing in a band gave him purpose.
- [25:49] Steven deals with abandonment issues, even as an adult.
- [27:24] The turning point where Steven decides he has to make a change.
- [35:23] How Steven started drinking more to cope with the misery of the breakup with his girlfriend.
- [38:03] What is Steven doing now and what would he say to the Steven that was living under the bridge several years ago.
- [44:05] The message I’m hearing is hope!
- [48:26] “Give yourself a shot, even if you don’t think you’re worth it.”
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
Gormy is an Instagram influencer @gormy_goes_keto. He has a history of food addiction, starting as a child. At his heaviest, he weighed 540 pounds. He built a life that supported and enabled his food addiction and focused his world around food. As long as he could access food, he didn’t care about his health issues, reduced mobility, or an unhealthy lifestyle. Gormy realized, after not being able to find work, that he needed to change and get into better shape.
He developed habits such as “sneak eating,” how he would only lose weight to please his parents, and how Gormy didn’t have any ownership in moving toward a healthy lifestyle. As an adult, he realized that he needed to lose weight to get a job. He got to his goal weight of 210 for his 40th birthday in 2011. Then, he decided to have a cheat meal, which turned into a cheat weekend and then snowballed into completely giving up into eating any type of healthy food. He put on 100 pounds in the first month of eating in this fashion. Gormy went from 210 to 480 in 6 months. Listen in to find out how Gormy went from resigning life to moving to be an inspiration to others.
Show Notes:
- [03:23] I introduce Gormy and he gives background on how he developed Gormy Goes Keto.
- [04:12] Gormy talks about his food addiction history, dating back to when he was a child.
- [07:15] After college, Gormy’s food addiction turned for the worse.
- [08:58] Gormy talks about the physical challenges of being obese.
- [10:15] He talks about how he avoided doctors, even with multiple medical conditions.
- [12:31] The psychological impact of his parents paying him money to lose weight when he was a child.
- [17:19] His second diet, at 16, he started off at 350 pounds. He would “sneak eat” food and throw out the wrappers so his family didn’t know what he was eating.
- [23:42] As soon as Gormy found a new job on the East Coast, he was back eating again and gained back much of the weight he lost.
- [34:09] Gormy resigns himself to dying and writes a letter to his family.
- [40:01] We compare food addiction to drugs and alcohol addiction, what do these have in common?
- [43:34] Gormy remembers his stepmom crying because she thought he was going to die because of his weight.
- [45:51] Eating too much has become normalized in our society.
- [48:18] Gormy realizes his responsibilities have changed when his dad asks him for help to take care of two newborns.
- [50:33] Gormy realizes his life has impact and that he is now responsible for somebody else other than himself.
- [54:19] He thinks about who he wants to be as a person, as well as what does he want to weigh?
- [01:00:50] What steps does Gormy take now for his accountability?
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Gormy on YouTube
- Gormy on Instagram
- Gormy’s Blog
- The Fat Guy Forum on Apple Podcasts
Brandon Lilly is a strength coach and top ranked powerlifter. He was ranked as one of the strongest powerlifters of all time lifting over 2000 pounds in multiple classes. His Cube Method has also helped other men do the same and has helped women total over 1000 pounds.
After a devastating knee injury that required Brandon to have 17 surgeries, he ended up in bed with time for reflection. During this time, he realized that his powerlifting had become an obsession, and he had let most other aspects of his life fall by the wayside. Addiction can take many forms, and it doesn’t have to only apply to drugs and alcohol. As Brandon explains, it can even apply to powerlifting.
Show Notes:
- [03:37] Brandon started to recognize that addiction is somewhat woven into the fabric of human existence. We all have addictive qualities to some degree.
- [04:48] We've done a poor job of classifying people as broken, when they're not broken, they're just human.
- [05:12] Brandon was so addicted to powerlifting that he made choices for the progression of the sport not the progression of himself. Powerlifting consumed who he was and his life.
- [06:24] Brandon had a catastrophic injury that required multiple knee surgeries. When he wasn't able to power lift, it gave him time to take a pause and think about all that he had given up in order to powerlift.
- [07:48] He knew the isolation and loneliness that he was feeling was going to be recurring if he didn't make some changes in his life.
- [10:38] The first step may be changing the food or the drink, but there has to be a second and third step. Patterns have to be broken.
- [16:38] Mark Bell had a similar experience when he was injured, and it was a pivotal moment in his life.
- [18:51] Brandon experienced a lot of loss and wanted to use that to be the best in powerlifting, but he was alienating himself from his family while being obsessed with the sport.
- [22:07] He had so many issues with his leg, because he wouldn't give up what was killing him. He should have only had 3 surgeries, but he had 17, because he wasn't taking care of himself.
- [23:34] Brandon realized that he was exactly where he was, because that is where he put himself.
- [24:30] For him, the powerlifting was a positive expression until it wasn't.
- [26:24] We all have something that we are fighting against. Brandon was mad at the world for no reason.
- [28:25] He was the smallest kid on the block and had a chip on his shoulder. He always felt like he needed more to be more.
- [33:01] Success doesn't happen quickly, it's better to build something for life.
- [37:50] People have to decide they want help on their own and not be forced into it.
- [42:55] It's no effort to do the things that you are truly doing for yourself.
- [44:23] Brandon speaks for himself and doesn't want to be controversial. He doesn't fall into the trap of trying to impress people anymore. He's very real about his struggles.
- [52:18] It's important to have a community and find people who support you and help you reach your goals.
- [59:09] Without the hard days, Brandon wouldn't be able to enjoy the sunrise that he enjoys now.
- [01:06:31] If Brandon can make someone's life better with a smile, he'll smile.
- [01:07:06] Brandon got very strong very fast when he started powerlifting. He wanted to be liked, followed, and make a living. Now he just wants to be a functional human.
- [01:08:29] His workouts now consist of two heavy days one upper and one lower, two rep days one upper and one lower, and two speed days one upper and one lower. He takes one day off and also hikes three to four days a week.
- [01:12:51] Hold on and recognize the small miracles and things that matter.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Brandon Lilly
- Brandon Lilly on Instagram
- Brandon Lilly on Twitter
- BrandonLilly3@yahoo.com
- Ep. 48 – Mark Smelly Bell: Founder and CEO of Super Training Gym and The Slingshot: Using fitness and nutrition to help with your addiction
- Terrence Mitchell on Instagram
- Born to Run
- The Cube Method
Getting sober and being sober is great, but how can you ensure that you’re going to have sustainable long-term sobriety and recovery? For those who struggle with relapse and can't string together any substantial clean time, it becomes like a repetitive hamster wheel that they feel like they can't get off of.
I’m on my ninth year of sobriety. For me, as time goes by, it’s easier to stay sober. This doesn’t mean I don’t have those low points that can make staying sober a challenge. It just means that I’ve found ways to help stay sober. Today, I'm going to discuss some techniques that I use to ensure that I have long lasting sobriety.
Show Notes:
- [05:54] You have to understand that nothing about the process is easy, but the longer you go the easier it gets.
- [07:05] I don't want to lose any of the things that I've gained that has monetary value.
- [08:30] Wants someone is getting sober and gets a job, it feels good to have money in their pocket.
- [10:35] There will be challenges, but you need to be resilient.
- [11:50] People who are sober get knocked down and they pick themselves up, they don't go and get high. They do whatever they need to do to protect their sobriety.
- [12:31] We need to learn to delay gratification.
- [13:36] If I want something, I try to table it for 30 days and then if I'm still thinking about it, I'll think about getting it.
- [15:26] We need to slow down and understand what the steps are for as we work them not rush through them.
- [16:35] I've also taken on new interests that are outside of the recovery world.
- [18:58] I want to do things that I wouldn't have done before I was sober. I want to experience what life has to offer.
- [23:06] You have to have community. Not just community in your 12-step group. As human beings, we need to be surrounded by human beings.
- [25:06] It's even possible to isolate in a public place.
- [25:37] In sobriety, you can't isolate. You need to be around people that have gone through what you have gone through and gotten to the other side.
- [26:31] It's also great to have a community with your outside interests.
- [27:36] You can still have friends who drink. We need people to help us reach our goals and be better people.
- [28:57] Sobriety is going to be tough. Build some interests. Keep in fun. Experience new things. Build a community around you that you can reach out to.
- [30:03] You will have low points and need people to help pick you up. If you do these things, you can maintain sobriety.
Links and Resources:
Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
We've been getting a lot of comments and questions about SMART Recovery. So today, Tom and Ben discuss SMART Recovery along with why it's important to do some type of treatment and get the help you need. You really just have to pick something, and then you have to do it.
Ben has attended a SMART Recovery meeting. He shares the acronym for SMART goals, and his opinion of the program. We also talk about how important it is to stick with whatever program you choose to get the results that will benefit you for your entire life.
Show Notes:
- [03:49] Ben is an AA 12-Step guy through and through. He has also learned not to pigeon himself into one way and one way only.
- [04:15] The acronym SMART stands for specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and timely when referring to goals.
- [05:06] We want clients to be self-sufficient and find jobs. Finding a job isn't specific, but filling out 10 applications is.
- [07:11] You want your goals to be attainable and realistic.
- [09:19] A lot of recovery programs are similar and related.
- [09:58] SMART Recovery is also based on therapy. It's based on three musts. I must or I'm a failure. You must treat me a certain way. I must not have pain, worry etc.
- [11:12] Realistically you will feel negative feelings. You need to apply rational thoughts and reframe situations.
- [13:23] SMART Recovery has an ABC. A is an activating event. B is a belief. C is the consequence. It's a process of rational thinking.
- [14:21] Ben went to a SMART Recovery meeting. It's like group therapy without the therapist. They are run differently from state to state. There is consistency in 12-Step programs.
- [20:09] Whatever program you are using, you need to go to the meetings and practice it. You have to give it time and an opportunity to work.
- [23:25] Don't say something doesn't work until you've done the whole thing. If you do everything you are supposed to do, it will work.
- [26:32] Don't focus on the end date. Focus on the journey and the program.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- SMART Recovery
- AA
People often say, why don't you just stop using? It's obvious what it's doing to your life and the lives of those around you. If curing addiction where that easy, everyone would do it and addiction issues wouldn’t be an issue. We all know that addiction is an issue and has a strong hold on many.
This episode goes into the reasons why it's impossible to just cure addiction. We talk about how humans are programmed for pleasure, how drinking initially feels good, how it can turn into something that is almost impossible to stop, and more. People have a lot of different opinions about this topic. I would love to hear what you think, so feel free to weigh in with your opinion.
Show Notes:
- [03:17] Human beings are programmed for pleasure and like to feel good. Drugs and alcohol give people a euphoric feeling that they enjoy.
- [04:32] The problem is that the good feeling eventually turns into problems like DUIs, lost relationships, withdrawal symptoms, and so on.
- [05:08] That first sip of alcohol can make us feel good and limit inhibitions. We love that dopamine hit.
- [06:01] People also have addiction with relationships. If we don't address the underlying issues, we'll just look for something else to make us feel good.
- [06:54] The underlying issue that's fueling the addiction needs to be uncovered.
- [07:25] People get addicted to things to avoid pain. When people stop drinking and drugging they have to deal with the pain without the substances.
- [08:43] If we're not getting clean and sober, and we're experiencing emotional or physical pain, the only way to deal with it is drugs and alcohol.
- [10:06] People always have multiple issues going on. As people get clean and sober it takes a lot of work to uncover the underlying issues. Anxiety and depression are very common.
- [12:54] The system is often set up to punish people. There is nothing rehabilitating about going to jail. Drugs addict can find drugs in jail. Once again, the underlying issue needs to be addressed.
- [14:12] Lack of purpose is a common issue with drug addicts. People need to feel like they have some type of purpose.
- [16:25] Once the drugs and alcohol are gone, it's time to figure out why you are here. Having something that you really enjoy will give you something to look forward to.
- [18:34] It's my opinion that addiction can't be cured. It can be put at bay. It can be maintained, but it can't be cured.
- [19:30] If we're willing to do the work, we can put the addiction on the shelf, but it's unfair to say it can be cured.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
Hannah Marks is someone who Tom has known for seven years, and they have both been sober ever since. Hannah and Tom talk about Hannah’s journey to addiction and sobriety. Her story is a little different, because she started drinking when she was 11 and got sober at 17 years old. Hannah shares how her gateway drug was trauma, and how she started drinking after the death of her father.
Hannah is also the founder of an advocacy website called Wherehab. This site helps people explore treatment options without a sales pitch. It doesn’t operate on leads. The focus is just to help educate people about treatment options and what would work best for their unique situation. She also has an app launching soon. We talk about trauma, sobriety, treatment, Hannah’s great life, and world travel.
Show Notes:
- [03:02] Trauma was Hannah's gateway drug. Her dad died when she was 11, and she started drinking a lot.
- [03:56] After getting sober, Hannah still had a lot of mental obstacles to overcome. She had to really dig deep and do a lot of therapy.
- [04:27] She wasn't talk the coping skills to deal with what she was dealing with, and she didn't have a strong sense of self.
- [05:04] After getting sober, she realized that she had more things to deal with. She learned that trauma could be from not trusting herself and having an identity.
- [06:18] Trauma is different for everyone.
- [08:46] After her dad's death, it took Hannah five or six years to get her feelings back. She didn't know how to feel feelings like sadness, so she would do whatever it would take to distract herself like eat.
- [10:11] If she wasn't getting high, she felt like she would die. Drugs and alcohol are a symptom to deal with thoughts and feelings.
- [11:41] Hannah was 17 when she got sober. She started going to meetings and was involved with positive people.
- [13:58] After high school, Hannah's sister invited her to stay in Gainesville. She ended up at an AA meeting by chance after giving someone a ride.
- [16:50] A sense of community is so important.
- [18:32] Getting sober is kind of like facing the fear of death. You either have to have the community or hit rock bottom.
- [20:29] Wherehab is resource where you can learn about quality treatment providers without being sold leads. They have a blog, and you can learn about different treatment modalities.
- [22:05] Hannah has toured over 500 rehab centers.
- [23:03] There isn't a one type fit all treatment. Different plans will work for different people depending on where they are at. The way you learn recovery will be unique to you.
- [25:35] Hannah makes her own work schedule and goes on awesome trips around the world. She has the perfect sober life. She is also more selective about who she lets in her life. She is also going to Asia for a month.
- [26:59] She has been to Mexico, Costa Rica, Bahamas, Canada, England, Italy, France, Japan, India, Burma, Thailand, Germany, Austria, Hungary, or 13% of the world.
- [27:33] She also just did a soft version of a meeting finder app. It has many functions like finding a community, mentors, and setting goals. It's called SYN or Sober Young Network.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Wherehab
- Wherehab on Twitter
- Wherehab on Facebook
- Hanna on LinkedIn
- Wherehab on Instagram
Ben's cousin Joel H. is here today to talk with Tom and Ben about his story of addiction, what he went through, getting sober, and staying sober. Joel is four years older than Ben and was super influential on Ben when they were growing up. Ben also shares how important it was for him to see Joel go through the process.
Ben was born with one hand, but that didn’t deter him from playing all of the sports especially karate. His mom also encouraged him to be social and surrounded him with friends. Like many of us, Joel drank as a teen. His addiction issues didn’t really flare up until he was injured and tried oxycontin. We talk about this and more in this encouraging and entertaining episode.
Show Notes:
- [03:55] Ben shares how Joel got him to work out by punishing him on heavy weights. He was a huge influence to him.
- [05:00] Ben also took Joel to his first AA meeting.
- [06:07] Joel was born with one hand. He was an only child, but his mom always made sure he had friends around and got to try all of the sports. Karate was his favorite.
- [07:04] His parents drank on weekends. That didn't seem to have a huge effect on his addiction.
- [08:16] When he was nearing the end of his teen years, several events took place that he didn't have the coping mechanisms to deal with. He went through a breakup. His grandfather died, and his parents also got divorced.
- [08:50] He also had two groups of friends. The church group that was into sports and the pot smoking surfer group.
- [09:06] He started spending more time with the second group, because he liked the effects of alcohol and it helped him cope with his current losses.
- [09:24] He was still responsible. He went to school, worked, and got married.
- [10:14] When he was 28 years old, he had an accident in the weight room. He began taking Oxycontin for the pain and ended up spending his money on it for the next two years.
- [11:39] He got to a point where he overdosed.
- [12:03] He divorced and got into a new relationship. His pain began again, and he got legitimate pain meds. This led to addiction and depression.
- [13:01] Joel got into trouble for the first time in his life. Joel shares a story where he ended up being dubbed the one handed bandit. He also broke into a courthouse building.
- [14:36] He ended up turning himself in and losing his home and relationships.
- [15:21] Ben and some friends knew it was time to get him into treatment.
- [16:06] Joel started to go to meetings, get a sponsor, and work the steps.
- [20:03] Part of the process of re-evaluating your life is taking an inventory of the way you were behaving and the way you would like to behave.
- [21:08] It's more fun being sober and not waking up with a hangover. The biggest gift of recovery is peace of mind.
- [23:01] At treatment, Joel felt like he wasn't alone. He was around people with a similar story, and the counselors were great.
- [25:05] Tom found out that his false beliefs were at the center of his addiction.
- [26:16] Joel couldn't imagine dealing with his pain without using. In meetings, he learned that this was possible.
- [29:22] Praying started helping Joel to get his confidence back. He surrounded himself with winners.
- [34:14] Fitness really helps with sobriety and having goals and something to shoot for. Joel inspires other people with his one handed bench presses.
- [37:13] Ben shares how hiking and speed walking can alleviate depression and anxiety.
- [40:37] A lot of common sense stuff can be applied to treatment. Going for walks or to the gym really helps.
- [42:15] Part of treatment is practical application of the tools.
- [44:06] Joel was in a sober living environment for almost two years. That attests to his willingness to do the work.
- [46:27] The recent loss of Joel's mom made him feel helpless. His treatment tools and support group enabled him to cope with the loss that would have normally sent him back into addiction.
- [52:49] Joel now works in treatment, and it's great for his relationship with Ben.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- AA
- Fern House
- Dave Ramsey
A lot of people make an effort to get clean and sober for the wrong reasons. They are doing it for a family member or a loved one. To have success, the addict needs to be committed and want to do it for themselves. In today’s episode, Tom talks to Dakota. Dakota is someone who Tom has known for the past year. They talk about how he ended up addicted and how he ended up in South Florida.
Dakota openly shares his story and how he got introduced to weed when he was 10. It didn’t take long before he moved on to other things and ended up with a full blown problem. Tom and Dakota talk about some of the parallels of addicts and having problems with their home life. Dakota also shares his unsuccessful attempts to get sober and how things didn’t click until he was all in and truly wanted to work the steps.
Show Notes:
- [03:56] Dakota was born in Maine and moved to Phoenix when he was 4. His father was an alcoholic. His mom worked all the time.
- [04:59] He tried weed when he was 10 and instantly fell in love with it. Then he began drinking. He then moved on to other drugs.
- [06:35] The drugs gave him a feeling of acceptance. His relationship with his dad affected his self-esteem. He was always seeking validation.
- [10:17] Being a drug dealer made Dakota feel needed.
- [11:16] The addictive mentality puts us in positions that we wouldn't normally be in.
- [12:22] Things escalated and Dakota began fighting and ended up in one alternative school after another. Things went downhill when he tried Oxy.
- [14:34] He got clean for about four months for a girl he was dating. He then began doing Oxy behind her back. They broke up after a year.
- [16:02] Dakota was sick and on withdrawals and tried heroin. He was just going to do it one time. The Oxy didn't compare to the heroin.
- [17:34] After a year, he decided to go to rehab. He just went to detox and then immediately relapsed.
- [19:18] He then overdosed and was really an addict. He lost friends, lived on the street, and went in and out of programs.
- [22:04] After another overdose, someone in rehab told him about rehab in South Florida. He got 50 days clean and then started drinking again.
- [24:43] After using and going in and out of detox or rehab, he finally decided to call Rock Recovery.
- [25:31] He had a moment of clarity and putting the needle in his arm filled him with shame and made him feel miserable.
- [27:26] You can't just get clean for other people. You have to want it for yourself.
- [28:04] Dakota couldn't change until he put in the actual work.
- [30:03] Addicts tend to play the victim. Everyone is out to get them.
- [34:22] Parents have to show tough love before their addicted child gets a wake up call. You can't keep enabling your loved ones.
- [36:26] Dakota overdosed and almost died. Nick found him passed out.
- [37:26] He felt like the people at Rock really cared. Dakota got a sponsor through some help from Ben, and he just hit the ground running.
- [38:17] Dakota was completely against doing the steps, but when he actually did them it was exactly what he needed.
- [39:30] Sponsorship is something that you should try before you knock it.
- [41:31] It's not about the amount of time that you have been clean and sober.
- [42:34] Dakota talks about the importance of surrounding himself with people doing what he does. Community and people to connect with are important.
- [46:02] Dakota has been clean for 75 quality days.
- [47:10] He has had a huge impact on the sober community. It's important to consider yourself a student and learn everyday.
- [49:02] You need to have some type of balance when you go through the program. Go to meetings, but have fun and live life too.
Links and Resources:
Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
Tom and Ben discuss why addiction treatment is so expensive. People call all the time and unfortunately, they don't all have private insurance or a lot of money. It really pulls at the heartstrings when we hear people's backgrounds and what is going on with them. We would really love to help everyone, regardless of resources.
We are going to talk about the different aspects of what makes up treatment and things that can make private treatment more expensive. If we could help everyone for free, we would. But there are a lot of resources that go into treatment, and we break some of that down today.
Show Notes:
- [05:35] When Ben went to get sober at a state funded detox, they would only open the door when someone left. There is a lot of demand for free detox.
- [06:45] On average, some places can be $80,000 for 30 days. These are for people who have a lot of money. Most private in-patient treatment can run $20,000 to $30,000 a month.
- [08:14] Private insurance can have an upfront deductible that the patient pays. Insurance companies authorize a certain amount of days. They don't actually pay what they are charged.
- [12:32] Treatment centers need to make a certain amount of money to stay afloat. Private treatment centers are a business.
- [13:42] Cash amounts are different according to the services that are provided. Licenses therapists went to school, and they need to be compensated.
- [15:15] You get what you pay for. A poorly paid therapist isn't going to be focused on the patient when they have money problems going on at home.
- [16:43] Business owners that take of their team have the positive results trickled down to everyone else. You want people at the treatment center to be invested in the clients.
- [17:47] Liability insurance and other overhead is very high at a treatment center. Accreditation and upkeep also take up money and man hours.
- [19:07] A brick and mortar facility where people live can have expenses really add up. They also have adventure activities and little extras like trips to McDonalds and gas for the vans.
- [22:22] Not all insurance companies pay equally, so sometimes there is extra cash required. We never know what they are going to pay.
- [23:39] Good paying insurance policies allow us to treat other people who don't have insurance that is as good.
- [24:36] There are different treatment centers and level of care. Look at it as an investment as opposed to an expense. Treatment is the most reliable way to get sober on the front end.
- [26:37] Make sure the patient is completely invested before a loved one puts things on the line with a lot of money.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Ep. 69 – Choosing the Right Treatment for Me
Tom and Ben talk with Vinny Bocassi about how addiction affected his past and brought him to where he is today. Vinny had a great family growing up, but once he started partying in high school, he just couldn’t stop. He even found identity through drugs and partying.
It actually took overdosing three times and being found by his parents and seeing how much they were affected to create a catalyst for change. Finally, seeing how hurt his parents were Vinny went to treatment. This was five years ago and it was his first and last treatment. Now Vinny helps others find sobriety. Today, Vinny shares his story, and how he was able to move past addiction and find identity in recovery.
Show Notes:
- [03:00] Vinny was relatively young when he started with alcohol and weed. Unfortunately, once he started it was hard to stop.
- [04:11] His reputation from partying made him finally feel like he fit in at school. By the next year, he got into harder drugs.
- [05:04] He played sports in school and when he got injured, he tried opiates which became a huge problem.
- [08:29] It's the way our bodies respond to alcohol and drugs that makes us addicts.
- [11:50] Getting numb and being cool took over for Vinny.
- [16:10] After college, Vinny started working for Verizon. Even though, he barely made it through college and lost several scholarships, it took almost dying three times before he realized that enough was enough.
- [18:44] Vinny's parents dropped in for a surprise visit and discovered that he had overdosed, and they barely found him in time to save his life.
- [19:33] Seeing how hurt his parents were he decided to go into treatment.
- [22:28] He is now closer to his parents than ever. He was also his brother’s best man.
- [24:49] Vinny now works at Chapel Hill Detox in South Florida.
- [25:30] When talking to parents of people going into treatment, Vinny shares his story and gets really vulnerable.
- [31:54] Going to a treatment center further away from home is the best. People need to be in treatment for at least 30 days.
- [34:18] Vinny shares the life young people can have ahead of them when they get sober. Showing people what sobriety is about, can help them see how great it is.
- [37:05] Recovery stereotypes need to be broken. Vinny does his best to explain the fun that can be had in sobriety. He even goes to music festivals. You are also more free to travel without the drugs. People getting high can miss out on experiences.
- [39:58] Vinny loves active stuff like American Ninja Warrior courses and working out.
- [46:14] Vinny just bought a house. He plays music and is becoming an addiction counselor. He wants to become a CAC and run music groups.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Chapel Hill Detox
- Vinny Boscassi on Facebook
Noah Kingery is a living inspiration. He runs Nutrition Management with 100 clients worldwide. He is also only 26 years old, yet he has overcome addiction, gained and lost over 200 pounds, and started and stopped a successful fashion business. When Tom heard about Noah’s story, he knew he would be the perfect guest to have on the show to inspire listeners and clients.
In this episode, Tom and Noah talk about Noah’s story. The road to recovery. How different upbringings can affect addiction. And Noah shares a lot of wisdom around finding the right support and reasons to stay sober, overcome addiction, and focus on health. This is an inspirational story of success and missteps that are all part of life and living. We want to welcome Noah to the show!
Show Notes
- [03:12] In 2007, Noah was playing soccer and chasing dreams. Noah wanted to escape and two years later he was drinking and doing drugs.
- [04:42] Addiction takes anything good in your life and destroys it.
- [05:47] Noah was born and raised in Bangalore, India. He has two sisters. His family never gave up on him through the addiction process.
- [07:20] Noah also gained 210 pounds in one year. Food can be an addiction too.
- [09:45] Noah worked in the fashion industry and was a functioning addict.
- [14:04] Ridding yourself of guilt and shame and adding accountability is one stepping stone to getting out of addiction.
- [16:25] People who cared deeply for Noah were shattered by his addiction.
- [17:32] Building a disdain for the addictive lifestyle can be incredibly strong fuel for making the right decisions.
- [18:20] In 2014, Noah ended up under financial investigation. He knew it was time to get sober and rebuild his integrity.
- [19:28] He used the gym and quiet time with the lord as sanctuary for release. A year later, he lost the weight and the problems were fixed.
- [21:13] He was under house arrest, so it changed his environment and allowed him to make drastic changes in his life.
- [23:30] He showed up and pushed through even when he didn't feel like it.
- [25:16] In 2016, he closed the door on the fashion industry.
- [26:19] His relationships hold him up and help him stay sober.
- [28:11] When people get sober one of the first things they want to get back is money.
- [29:39] He started Nutrition Management and had 13 clients. He wasn't sure if this was going to be a passion or a career. He was all in and wanted to do it full time.
- [31:58] He now has 50 clients overseas and 50 clients in the US.
- [32:32] Start to steward small things and it will add up.
- [36:47] Whenever urges for emotional eating start to come back, Noah reaches out to his support system.
- [39:13] It's so important to have one person that you can talk to on a deep emotional level.
- [42:37] Identify what you're running from. Identify what you want to accomplish. Deeply root how good it feels to make optimal decisions for your life. Find your purpose and your passion.
- [45:31] Remember how much work you had to do to get to where you are now. Recovery capital. The longer you are sober, the more likely you are to stay sober.
- [53:25] Noah is grateful for this opportunity and wants Tom to continue to create the impact that he is creating.
Links and Resources:
- Nutrition Mgmt.
- Noah J. Kingery on Instagram
- Noah Kingery on Facebook
- Real Recovery Talk YouTube
- Ep. 76 – How Self Esteem Directly Affects Our Recovery
Everyone on the planet is affected by self-esteem in one way or another. Today, Tom discusses how self-esteem in general can influence addiction. In this episode, he talks about what self-esteem is and why positive self-esteem is so important for sobriety and getting and staying sober. He shares his own battle with self-esteem issues and why finding the root cause is so important.
He also stresses that it’s a process that needs to be facilitated by a good therapist. He talks about action steps that anyone can take to start building up their self-esteem in a positive way. By the end of the show, you'll be able to understand how the health of one's self-esteem can directly impact whether someone will have or develop an addiction problem.
Show Notes:
- [02:03] Just after we did a show on the dangers of Suboxone, we found out that the manufacturers have been ordered to pay a 1.4 billion dollar settlement for negligent marketing.
- [04:14] Everybody has self-esteem. It can be good or bad, and it's learned over a period of years.
- [04:51] Traumatic events are a driver of negative self esteem.
- [05:41] The majority of the way someone feels about themselves will develop during their childhood state.
- [06:35] If someone has negative self-esteem growing up, the likelihood of them turning to something like addiction is higher.
- [07:43] One of the first things Tom and his team try to do is help clients identify where their negative self-esteem is coming from.
- [08:48] Figuring this out comes through therapeutic process.
- [09:19] If we can figure out what it is that's causing low self-esteem, we are in a position where we can reinforce positive things to build self-esteem back up.
- [09:26] Once self-esteem is built up, it won't be necessary to act out the way an addicted person did in the past.
- [11:20] Tom shares his childhood abandonment issues and how when he first began counseling he didn't believe that it was a problem.
- [12:12] Once Tom realized that he did have abandonment issues, it was a good place for him to start building upon that.
- [14:05] We want to know what happened prior to your drinking and using drugs that made you turn to them in the first place. One of the biggest reasons for this is one's self-esteem.
- [14:45] Providing a life that reinforces positive self-esteem will reduce the likelihood of your child turning to drugs and alcohol.
- [17:19] Once the self-esteem issues are established, it's time to reinforce and build up things that will encourage positive self-esteem.
- [17:33] People have to have some type of sense of identity and sense of security where they are okay with themselves.
- [18:00] Community and having friends is a big part of the sobriety process.
- [19:03] Take the top five people that you surround yourself with the most and you are the average of those five people.
- [19:39] Having a sense of purpose is a big part of the process. Having something to work towards will keep you going when you are sober.
- [21:59] It takes internal search to find your purpose. It's also okay to reach out to people and be vulnerable.
- [22:48] You also have to feel capable and have a sense of self-confidence.
- [23:19] Tell yourself that today might be hard, but you can get through it. If you don't believe this, you'll never achieve it.
- [24:22] Make a list of your strengths and things that you have accomplished in the past.
- [26:04] Eat good food and exercise. What you put in your body will directly impact the way that you feel.
- [26:57] Have some quiet time and go for walks on your own or listen to a podcast.
- [27:24] Be clean and take care of yourself and your hygiene.
- [27:38] Make sure you're home and living area is clean and organized.
- [28:10] Do things that you enjoy. Try things that you haven't done before to see what you like.
- [28:35] Doing all of these things will really help to build up your self-esteem.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Ep. 75 – Suboxone – Our Opinions – The Pros and Cons
Suboxone has been a hot topic for us recently. Today, Tom and Ben take some time to educate you about Suboxone, so that you can make an educated decision for yourself or your loved one. Ben has personal experience being on Suboxone and it was one of the medically assisted treatment or MAT options. It’s also a drug that is marketed by the manufacturers.
In this episode, we share some of the pros and cons of using this substance. We aren’t against MAT programs, but some of the information can be misleading. We do believe that abstinence based long-term sobriety has better outcomes. We talk about the importance of identifying the proper candidate, some of the marketing, whether it can get you high or not, and much more.
Show Notes:
- [02:59] Ben has personal experience being on Suboxone long-term. It's a medically assisted treatment MAT option.
- [03:19] One thing to be aware of is that there's a pharmaceutical company and marketing behind Suboxone.
- [04:40] We are here to educate you on the pros and cons of it.
- [05:08] Suboxone can help a lot of people get to that abstinence-based part of their recovery.
- [06:18] Suboxone is a partial opioid agonist mixed with an opioid antagonist. It blocks all other opiates. You have to be in full withdrawal before going on Suboxone.
- [08:12] Someone who is using for a long time would be candidate. They've made several attempts at sobriety, but their brain chemistry has changed. Tapering down and using Suboxone should help.
- [10:43] Suboxone is marketed as a magic pill or a cure. It really just assists in the process.
- [11:49] It definitely has an opioid effect for people who have a low tolerance. Used properly it can help change the lifestyle and help focus on treatment and therapy.
- [14:12] Suboxone is used in a detox center as a taper. Without medical assistance, a heroin user can go through a lot of withdrawals.
- [15:02] After two weeks, you should be off the Suboxone completely and have nothing in your system.
- [15:35] The problem arises when people start using Suboxone as a crutch or realize that it can get them high, then they are just trading one for the other.
- [15:47] People on Suboxone maintenance programs can be on it for multiple years. Coming off of the Suboxone will be just as bad or worse than coming off of the heroin.
- [16:29] Ben was on Suboxone for more than a couple years. Ultimately, the game plan should be to get off of everything, even if that plan takes a couple years.
- [18:20] Another thing to think about is what would you do if your insurance runs out or if the pharmacy runs out of Suboxone.
- [19:15] Ben will take someone through the 12 steps even if they are on Suboxone. You get the most sick when you drop from 1 mg to 0.
- [21:22] The tipping point where it's about to get uncomfortable is one of the hardest places for an addict to be when trying to maintain sobriety.
- [22:10] There's going to be an uncomfortable part of the process, but you have to go through it to get to the other side.
- [25:24] Are you going to reach your fullest potential when you are on Suboxone? No, the longer you are on it, it becomes the new normal.
- [27:13] Suboxone is a narcotic that wreaks havoc on the body. You won't be in as good shape having this in your system as you would be with it not in your system.
- [28:18] People are even going into treatment to get off of Suboxone.
- [31:42] Addiction is a symptom of something that is going on. Let's figure out what's causing anxiety that makes you need to take the anti-anxiety medicine.
- [33:40] We need to figure out what's causing all of these uncomfortable feelings and address that.
- [34:52] We aren't anti Suboxone, but we do believe you need to take an individualistic approach.
- [35:22] Don't make the decision to use Suboxone alone. Reach out to someone who has the education to help you.
- [36:57] Your loved one has to buy into their own treatment plan.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
Why do people leave treatment early? Tom and Ben we'll be discussing the top five reasons why people leave treatment early in this podcast episode. There are so many excuses and reasons that people use to say that recovery isn’t working for them. Most of these come from within. We discuss the top five, and how these objections can be overcome.
We also talk about each of the reasons and explain how they can apply to different people. Recovery isn’t easy, and it isn’t supposed to be. We talk about the importance of being challenged and having opportunities for growth. We also talk about how family members can contribute to the problem and more.
Show Notes:
- [02:48] They are in denial that there is even a problem. Sometimes people have to be strong-armed into going into treatment. There are interventions, and things are taken away.
- [03:37] If treatment is forced on people, they may not believe that they have a problem.
- [04:10] Any part of the family dynamic can be in denial not just the addict. This is why we don't want the loved ones intervening during treatment.
- [06:54] As time goes on, people start feeling better and the addiction starts creeping back in. This is unfortunate because this is the time people start leaving treatment. Getting 90 to 120 days in treatment is the key.
- [07:53] The program is just too difficult. If it was easy everyone would do it. Without a challenge, you won't grow.
- [08:53] We have adventure challenges and make things difficult, so people have an opportunity to constantly grow.
- [09:44] Having to adapt and follow rules creates challenges that can help people in treatment grow and learn to face challenges.
- [10:40] We want the opportunity for things to be difficult, because it's about the application of the tools clients learn to use.
- [13:25] Withdrawal symptoms. People still feel bad after detox. This can cause people wanting to leave when they can't get through this uncomfortable feeling.
- [14:39] Post acute withdrawal can cause anxiety and depression where people still aren't thinking quite right.
- [16:53] If someone is clinically depressed, it's our responsibility as a facility to help with that.
- [18:53] It really takes us about three weeks in treatment to get into the work and see the patterns and behaviors.
- [20:00] Anxiety and depression can have an effect on all of these things we are talking about today and can prevent people from having the lifestyle transformation they need to make.
- [20:27] Doesn't think treatment is effective. People have been to multiple treatment centers, and they're not learning anything that they don't already know.
- [21:04] If you've been to 10 treatment centers, we have the opportunity to teach you how to apply the stuff that you've learned. Knowing the tools and applying them are two different things.
- [23:45] People can get discouraged and adopt a mentality of this is pointless, and I'm not going to do it.
- [25:38] Go into group with enthusiasm. If you've been to 10 treatments, you probably have something to offer other people. Try to find a purpose like bringing hope and inspiration to others.
- [26:26] I already have the tools to stay sober. You can't teach me anything that I don't already know. You have to create an environment where people want to apply the tools that they've learned.
- [27:27] People need to be in an environment that fosters sobriety.
- [27:57] Denial that there is a problem. The program is too difficult. We're still going through some withdrawal systems. They don't think the program will be effective. I have the tools to stay sober already.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
This episode is all about the benefits of adventure therapy. It’s no secret that I’m affiliated with Rock Recovery and one of the things we offer is adventure therapy. This type of therapy has so many benefits. In this podcast, I’m going to talk about what it is. Why you would want it, and how it helps prepare people for a life during and after recovery.
We offer activities like kayaking, paddleboarding, rock climbing, and more. We also understand the benefits of just being outside. It’s our goal to create the best environment for the recovery of you or your loved one. Being located in Florida is the perfect place to get outside and try something new. Plus, the benefits are huge, and that’s what I’m talking about today.
Show Notes:
- [04:10] The purpose behind adventure therapy. It's a psychotherapy that's designed to challenge our clients.
- [04:37] Doing something you've never done before will cause anxiety and challenge you, but you come out the other side as accomplished.
- [05:28] We do a lot of activities like kayaking, paddle boarding, surfing, snorkeling, and climbing rock walls. These are a lot of things that addicts and alcoholics have never experienced before.
- [06:10] Before the activity there will be a lot of anxiety and then afterwards people will feel great.
- [06:28] It also removes people out of their element and their comfort zone.
- [06:58] Adventure therapy changes we do something different all the time.
- [08:00] We also do things that don't provoke anxiety like nature walks or just being outside. We also visit the Japanese garden.
- [10:20] A lot of our clients come from the Northeast and it is different in Florida. They get opportunities to do things that they haven't done before, and they begin to know and understand that sobriety is fun.
- [11:27] Sobriety needs to be worth having, and if it's boring no one is going to want to do it.
- [12:17] Adventure therapy also helps people be in the moment and eliminate outside influences.
- [13:21] In group, you won't retain anything if you're just thinking about what's going on back home. When you're out doing things, you have to be attentive and engaged.
- [13:58] Adventure therapy doesn't allow us to sit there and ruminate. It makes us be in the moment.
- [14:28] When people first become sober it's very important to stay busy and surround yourself with people with the same goals.
- [15:41] We need to be able to branch out, try new experiences, and surround ourselves with people with positive input.
- [17:10] We encourage people to try, and it builds their confidence and gives them a new joy.
- [18:39] We can cover everything involved in treatment while we're outside doing different things.
- [19:25] Giving people new opportunities to grow is one of the best ways to help with their sobriety.
Links and Resources:
- Rock Recovery Center
Tom and Ben are going to be talking about using your time efficiently in recovery. They will be referencing the movie Moneyball, because there are many parallels between the movie and using your time efficiently in recovery. In the movie, the manager, played by Brad Pitt, gets rid of his star players who swing for the fence and replaces them with players who focus on just getting on base.
The main parallel is the importance of incremental steps. You can’t change everything at once. It’s important to get sober and then work on life skills to properly transition back to real life and stay sober. Getting a job and paying your rent is an important first step to living real life while being sober. We talk about how these principles apply to the client, the facility, and the family or loved ones of the client.
Show Notes:
- [04:35] Average players get on base. One base at a time, you still get the same amount of points. It's just playing it safer.
- [05:03] In treatment, there is a limited amount of time, so it has to be used efficiently.
- [06:01] Sometimes people in treatment want to change everything about themselves right now.
- [06:25] It's important to recognize at the primary purpose of treatment is to get off of drugs and alcohol. Setting the bar too high sets unrealistic expectations.
- [07:05] What we're asking clients to do is make progress. You don't have to go from 0 to 100 in 5 seconds.
- [07:10] We want to take incremental steps and continue to progress.
- [08:04] It's the responsibility of the family, loved ones, and clients to pick a facility that fosters an environment for progress.
- [08:31] You need something worth hanging onto after you stop drugs and alcohol.
- [09:40] IOP intensive outpatient is the step after the inpatient lockdown part. It's the transitional step that goes from treatment into the real world.
- [11:33] The responsibility of the facility should help clients acclimate to the real world.
- [13:41] Clients have a responsibility to look for work.
- [14:24] During IOP, clients need to take ownership of their own recovery.
- [14:37] Being in recovery is an opportunity to work on yourself and only yourself.
- [15:09] We want clients to take incremental steps and make a resume and map out potential jobs.
- [16:45] Clients need to progress and get to the steps that will make them self-sufficient.
- [18:59] Parents can unwittingly work against the progress of their loved one by making it too easy for them and not expecting them to get a job.
- [20:07] To get in a sober house, you have to have at least 30 days of sobriety. You have to be employed and pay the $150 a week rent on your own.
- [20:38] It comes down to a sense of accomplishment and ownership in one's recovery.
- [21:21] Don't let your whole recovery ride on a job offer. Have something in case your big plans fall through.
- [26:14] We are supposed to be exposed to things like bills and work during treatment.
- [27:24] Set yourself up for success where you are at today.
- [28:16] We see more success with clients that just go and do it.
Links and Resources:
- Moneyball
A lot of people think vaping is a harmless and safe alternative to smoking. Even worse, it’s being marketed to kids as a fun safe thing to do. Unfortunately, the vape oils and ingredients are unregulated, and we don’t even know what is in them. We do know that some of the substances like nicotine can have detrimental effects to young minds and bodies. It’s also very addictive.
Even worse, a large majority of kids are trying vaping with their friends or vaping on a regular basis without their parents or teachers even knowing about it. This episode is all about vaping. I’m going to talk about the risks, things we don’t really know, and what to look out for if you think that your kids are vaping. This is a new and dangerous territory that we all need to get educated about.
Show Notes:
- [03:56] Tom talks with a lot of kids in school. One of the most common things he sees is that everyone is vaping.
- [04:22] When asking how many students have tried vaping 95 out of 100 will raise their hand.
- [05:07] Kids are vaping everywhere. They are even using small devices like the JUUL and discretely blowing the smoke into their sleeves.
- [05:59] Talking about it more and raising awareness should help arm kids with the information they need to choose whether they want to do it or not.
- [06:17] About 10 or 12 years ago, vaping was used for smoking cessation.
- [06:56] The idea behind it was to produce something that would help people stop smoking.
- [07:40] Keep in mind, we are only ten or twelve years into the e-cigarette craze. At this point, we don't really know what the health repercussions are.
- [08:41] We are beginning to see some health repercussions to vaping.
- [09:06] Now people are bypassing cigarettes and going straight to vaping.
- [09:57] Unfortunately, vaping is marketed as some sort of great thing. When it's actually very similar to smoking cigarettes. We are also seeing young kids going straight to vaping.
- [10:21] Kids who vape have a 30% higher chance of developing a cigarette habit then kids who didn't start vaping.
- [11:05] The nicotine content in these oils are high.
- [11:51] Vape oils aren't regulated, and they don't even say what's in the product.
- [12:24] Nicotine is the most addictive substance on the face of the planet.
- [13:36] Flakka is also being put inside vape oils.
- [14:47] Sometimes Flakka can cause permanent damage, and there's nothing you can do about it.
- [15:24] Nicotine has an effect on the brain, and it slows the developmental side of the brain.
- [16:20] Casual vaping can build up a tolerance and turn into habitual vaping. Months down the line it's addictive like a pack of cigarettes would be.
- [17:34] Inhaling nicotine also has a biological effect.
- [17:39] Vaping in vegetable glycerin can create popcorn lung.
- [18:49] The JUUL looks like a USB drive. Parents won't even know kids are vaping. This is marketing for kids.
- [21:17] Kids talking about the products to their friends are the number one form of marketing.
- [23:06] This is promoting addiction to preteen boys and girls.
- [24:02] Saying it's okay to vape, and it's better than the alternative is what ties it in to addiction.
- [25:30] Talk to your kids about these things. You are the parent. Reach out and find resources and talk about the dangers, risks, and whys.
Links and Resources:
- Real Recovery Talk on YouTube
- Flakka
We recently did an episode called, “Am I An Alcoholic” today, we are taking that a step further and helping to answer questions that you could have if you are wondering if you are addicted. First off, we want you to know that there are no stupid questions and if are having questions about these issues hit the chat button at the bottom of the page and Ben or I will be there to answer your questions.
In this episode, Tom and Ben will help you understand if you are addicted and some signs to look out for that might signal that you are addicted. Addiction can encompass a wide variety of things, but if your behaviors are out of control or negatively affecting your life it might be time for some self-reflection and look into the warning signs and see if any of them apply to you.
Show Notes:
- [02:51] Alcoholism is somewhat like addiction, but addiction encompasses a large variety of things.
- [03:07] You can become addicted to anything but there is a progression to it.
- [03:41] Most people go to a casino to win money, but with slot machines people get addicted to the ritual.
- [06:14] Just seeing the bar, made Tom feel better, people addicted to drugs start feeling better before they actually do the drugs.
- [08:36] They say if you drink alcohol or do a drug long enough that it will literally change your DNA.
- [09:01] Addiction can be a broad term for the overuse of anything.
- [10:09] Early signs of addiction.
- [11:10] Physical dependence and can be two different things, but being physically dependent will cross you into addiction.
- [14:00] When you cross the line and doing drugs is destroying your life with many different negative consequences, those are probably signs that you are addicted or close to being addicted.
- [15:20] Some warning signs can include things like your friends changing. You might find friends who will drink or shop like you.
- [16:27] When Ben was addicted he thought everyone did cocaine. Now that he is sober, he found out not that many people do it. The people you surround yourself with matter.
- [18:27] When you become addicted, you start doing things that you wouldn't normally do and legal consequences come down the line.
- [19:47] Is pornography addiction making you late for work or ruining your relationships? Are you spending too much time online?
- [20:51] Your tolerance increases and that she drink or use more and more Health consequences come along with that.
- [20:54] All of these signs point more and more to some type of addiction.
- [21:15] Alcoholism is slow, but drugs can be more of an immediate type thing.
- [22:37] Methamphetamine and crack release a huge amount of dopamine.
- [24:51] Being in denial and not thinking that you are addicted could be a warning sign that you actually are.
Links and Resources:
- Episode 68 – Am I An Alcoholic?
- Al-Anon
In honor of Memorial Day, I would like to thank everyone in the armed services for all they've done for us, and all they continue to do for us to keep us safe. A lot of people think about getting into treatment, but they have no idea where to start. They have no clue about what resources are available or what resources would be best for them.
The whole process can be confusing. Today's episode is about clearing up that confusion. I'm going to talk about how to get to treatment, what are the best treatments for you, and by the end of the episode, you should have a good idea what the process is like and how to move forward.
Show Notes:
- [04:45] One of the hardest hurdles to get over is admitting that you have a problem, if you are looking for treatment, you've gotten over that hurdle and understand that you have an issue.
- [05:00] There are different types of treatments like detox, residential, intensive outpatient, intensive inpatient, and outpatient. These are all different names for different levels of care. They all encompass teaching you how to stay sober.
- [05:27] Sobriety is the byproduct of figuring out what causes us to use in the first place. There is a therapeutic process for this, and you can really only get it in treatment.
- [06:18] Treatment also provides you with a safe place to be. You have a community of people around you that are struggling with the same things and have the same goal in mind.
- [08:17] Where you go to treatment usually depends on the resources that you have. If you have health insurance, you can go to treatment almost anywhere in the US depending on your benefits.
- [09:07] If you have a medicaid plan, there are state funded providers that you can go to. There are also state funded places and the Salvation Army for people with no medical plan at all.
- [10:14] If you have the resources to go to a private treatment center, do that. I hate to say it, but you do get what you pay for.
- [10:27] Private treatment centers have the ability to have better treatment options. Employees at private treatment centers are paid well. They went to school for their profession and love helping people and love what they do. Many of them are also professional counselors.
- [11:18] If you love what you do, you'll never work a day in your life. This is the case with a lot of the people at the private treatment centers.
- [11:36] If you don't have the resources, a state-funded place will do the job.
- [11:48] Getting sober really lies within the person. If you want help, you will get it one way or another.
- [12:31] You can interview a treatment center. Have a list of questions. One of the things about sales is that you have to know your product.
- [14:12] Ask about the location? Is it conducive for employment? How many people are in the groups? Are the therapists licensed? How long have they been doing this? Don't go overboard. Time isn't on your side with addiction.
- [15:12] Get your basic questions answered and get there.
- [15:40] Set clear cut boundaries with your loved ones. You need to focus on yourself. Outside influence should be limited.
- [17:12] Going out of town for treatment can be uncomfortable, but it can also be the best thing.
- [17:49] Being able to go somewhere for 60, 90, and 120 days is an opportunity to create a solid foundation for your sobriety.
- [18:43] Don't let your family dictate where you can go for treatment.
- [19:19] Going somewhere unfamiliar is another opportunity for you to grow.
- [20:16] Local rehabs can be tied in with surrounding places like employment opportunities.
- [21:02] Drug addicts and alcoholics can be very productive people once they get sober.
- [22:38] Staying local keeps you in your comfort zone, your stomping grounds, and you know where you can get drugs.
- [23:26] State run places can also be harder to get into, because they have a waiting list.
- [23:55] Smaller treatment centers can also have a waiting list. They give more personalized care.
- [24:55] Options are out there whether you have private health insurance or no money at all. It's just a matter of seeking help.
- [26:29] It's amazing what people can do once they decide to get sober. Don't get stuck in hopelessness, because you don't have the right support or health insurance.
- [27:32] If you reach out enough, you will find the help that you need.
Links and Resources:
- Alcoholics Anonymous
- Al-Anon
- Salvation Army
- Faith Farm
- Dunklin Treatment Center
Have you ever wondered if you an alcoholic? In this episode, we talk about signs that might mean that you are an alcoholic. Alcoholism is a progressive disease. Most people don’t just wake up and become an alcoholic. Although, some people may be genetically predisposed to alcoholism. There are a number of signs that when combined can mean that you are an alcoholic or that are precursors to becoming an alcoholic.
We also talk about the importance of self-diagnosis, because you can’t fight something that you don’t believe is true. We also talk about recovery and how it is about living life without needing alcohol to cope. We share some of our personal experiences, along with, how recovery can be a great experience if you find the right place to do it at. We also talk about the differences between heavy drinking, binge drinking, and being an alcoholic.
Show Notes:
- [03:25] Alcoholism has to be self-diagnosed. If you don't buy into it yourself, what path are you going to take?
- [03:36] We are going to dive into what is the difference between the problem drinker and the real alcoholic. It's going to come down to the measures that need to be taken.
- [04:21] Alcohol abuse is the precursor to alcoholism. It's possible with alcohol abuse that there aren't any physical consequences yet.
- [04:38] Alcoholics are physically dependent on alcohol. Meaning your body can't go without having it. If you start getting the shakes and having alcohol withdrawal, you have crossed that line.
- [05:06] With alcohol abuse and binge drinking your body may not be physically dependent on it, but it is the precursor to alcoholism.
- [05:33] Alcoholism is progressive. When you get to the point where you're substituting alcohol for the natural neurotransmitters in your brain, that's when you become dependent.
- [06:37] Once you've had a drink, are you able to stop? Not being able to stop, once you start, is probably the easiest way to define it.
- [07:11] People who abuse alcohol can generally stop.
- [07:52] Needing alcohol just to get through the day is a big difference.
- [08:36] Heavy drinking for women is having more than three drinks a day or seven drinks a week. In truth, these things can't really be quantified by the number of drinks. Drinking patterns vary.
- [10:26] Just because you don't drink everyday, it doesn't mean you're not an alcoholic.
- [10:45] Ask if you're able to stop once you start drinking for the night?
- [11:08] Binge drinking can bring you to the frequency of drinking daily.
- [11:50] There is a difference in alcohol metabolism with alcoholics. The symptom is a phenomenon of craving. Once you start, can you stop?
- [13:13] Age isn't a factor. People at any age can start drinking heavily and have it turn into alcoholism.
- [14:28] Tom was 26 when he couldn't stop drinking. He was in treatment with guys who were in their 50s.
- [15:09] If you're questioning whether you're an alcoholic, there's a good possibility that you are.
- [16:01] Even if you are functional, you could still be an alcoholic.
- [18:28] The very first sign and symptom of being an alcoholic is alcohol craving. It's the craving after the first drink. The first drink is the mental obsession. The next drink is the physical craving.
- [20:01] The mental obsession to drink comes from daily interactions and feelings. People go to treatment to learn how to live without drinking.
- [21:57] If alcohol takes up a lot of real estate in your mind then that is the mental obsession.
- [23:26] The more time you spend in a bar, the more you will drink and the more tolerance you will build up. Building up a tolerance is also a sign.
- [24:41] Alcoholism can be very slow and very progressive in a lot of people.
- [25:47] Alcohol is an artificial source of Gaba. The more you drink, the more you need to feel a buzz.
- [26:09] There's also a reverse tolerance where someone's liver and blood is so saturated with alcohol all the time that it only takes one drink for them to get drunk. Reverse tolerance occurs with chronic alcoholics.
- [27:28] Benzos and alcohol are identical with the effect they have on the brain.
- [28:40] It's important to get a doctor that's well-versed in alcohol and addiction if that is what you are suffering from.
- [29:56] There are only two substances that you can die of from withdrawal and that is alcohol and benzodiazepines.
- [31:46] Are you drinking alone? Is it something that is increasing? It can start out socially, but eventually gets to the point where you might drink alone.
- [34:35] Mood swings and irritability is a sign of being an alcoholic.
- [38:23] Despite the outcomes, we are going to continue to drink. This is where the consequences come in when you are an alcoholic.
- [41:05] Drinking in the morning. If you are sitting at home, and you can't function without taking a shot, you are probably an alcoholic.
- [42:40] Risky behavior is another sign. Such as doing things that you normally wouldn't do.
- [45:46] The inability to stop drinking after that first drink.
- [47:20] If you've had to ask if you have a problem, you might already have your answer.
- [47:36] The first step is to identify that you have a problem, then you can just reach out to someone like us to talk about it.
- [48:17] Ben is grateful that he has gone through what he's gone through, because the life he lives today is amazing.
- [48:44] There is a lot of freedom in being able to identify that you are an alcoholic. If you can put in some work, you can build a life beyond your wildest dreams.
- [50:29] There are a lot of recovery options that are actually pretty awesome.
Links and Resources:
Alcoholics Anonymous
Talking to your kids about addiction can be difficult. At what age should you start? How open should you be? In this episode, we discuss all aspects of talking to your kids and loved ones about addiction. Every person and situation can be different, but we want to equip you with answers to discover what’s right for your family without making mistakes that can end up backfiring.
We also talk about the three Cs of control, cure, and cause. These are things that people need to do for themselves. You can support them in a helpful way, but you can’t do it for them or make it happen. Tom and Ben have an honest discussion of what they have seen in a clinical setting and how they are going to approach these issues with their own kids.
Show Notes:
- [02:45] Ben's son is 9 years old and he is at the point where he might have to make a personal decision about when to talk to him about the subject.
- [03:29] The plan that Ben is going to take is driven by the things he's already seen.
- [03:49] The three Cs. You can't control it, you can't cure it, and you didn’t cause it.
- [04:11] You can't control it. The cause and control could come out of anywhere. No matter how hard you try, people are going to do what they are going to do.
- [06:29] As parents, we will want to control it. This can lead to manipulation and lies. You can't control your child's every action.
- [08:03] Ben wants to assist his son in making an educated decision.
- [09:06] Sheltering kids from the outside world can have an affect where kids feel like they are missing out.
- [13:09] Taboo and scare tactics don't work well.
- [15:14] You might have a good time, but it will come with consequences.
- [17:05] You can't cure your child's addiction for them.
- [17:24] Helicopter parents won't let their loved ones figure it out for themselves.
- [18:34] Let the professionals and the people with the experience handle the situation.
- [20:05] Young adults who have lived with very controlling parents end up acting out in ways that often times lead to drugs and alcohol.
- [20:55] When your loved one is in recovery, take a back seat and let the process play out with the professionals.
- [22:00] Sometimes parents have her over everything and want to know every decision that's been made. The client may not want their parents to know everything.
- [23:07] Even if the parent is a professional, they should let the counselors and the program work without emotional involvement.
- [24:15] You don't have to bring your child to every 12-step meeting you go to.
- [25:34]You didn't cause it. Addiction is addiction and it happens. You can't cure it, you can't control it, and you didn't cause it.
- [26:14] Addicts will make you feel like you caused their addiction, so that they can manipulate you.
- [26:44] They brought it on themselves, and they can get through it themselves.
- [27:07] Ben will give his son some exposure and answer questions honestly.
Links and Resources:
- Alcoholics Anonymous
We are so excited to have Carl on the show today. Carl is a client here at Rock, and he is celebrating his 90 days of being sober. In fact, he says that he hasn't been alcohol free for 90 days since he was 16 years old. Carl has given back and contributed to our community and this conversation shows his commitment to sobriety and service.
One of the interesting things about recovery is the diversity of people. People with different backgrounds, jobs, economic experiences, and different ages all coming together to battle the same problem. We talk about how being open and listening can broaden your attitude and actually help you learn about yourself as you learn about others and find common ground in the recovery community.
Show Notes:
- [04:02] As a kid, Carl stole alcohol from his parents.
- [04:19] In high school, it was practically required that he party and be part of the in crowd.
- [04:39] His dad was also a highly functioning alcoholic. In the 70s, drinking was common and it was accepted.
- [04:50] Eventually, his social drinking became more regular.
- [08:28] Ben grew up where there wasn't a lot of alcohol, so he wanted to be part of the normal group and that's why he went and drank and partied.
- [10:06] Alcohol followed Carl through college. He also played sports which allowed him a regimen that got him through college.
- [11:26] In the business world, everything around you is about doing more and doing better. You are looking at the end result, and drinking becomes part of your environment.
- [12:57] After his 30s, drinking became an everyday thing for Carl.
- [14:32] We can all do a holiday of not drinking, it's a rest of the life of not drinking that's more challenging.
- [16:17] There is a diversity of people at the Rock Treatment Center. They have a gentleman who has studied human genomes. They have a kid who shot dope off the streets. A homeless guy. A stock market guy who's the number one salesman. There is a diversity of class and a diversity of age.
- [19:35] Carl has learned a lot by being around a diverse group of people who have the same problem as him. It's very humbling and enlightening. He finds the service aspect healing.
- [20:52] Don't be afraid to get into recovery with people who you think you don't have anything in common with. The real victory lies within crossing over the threshold. We are all fighting for our lives from addiction.
- [21:36] Older people have had a whole lifetime to develop pride and ego. It's a challenge for clinicians to break down the walls of someone who's been drinking for 30 years.
- [26:32] One base at a time can beat swinging for the fences. Something to think about.
- [28:34] Regardless of age the journey speaks to you. You just have to be there to receive it.
- [31:44] There's more to the process than just getting clean.
- [32:14] If you can get through the challenge of living with the diverse group of people and different personalities, you can get through anything.
- [33:20] The housing component is like 80% of treatment. The majority of the day is spent outside of the clinical setting.
- [33:57] You get opportunities to practice conflict resolution and learn how to deal with negative feelings without picking up a drink.
- [36:35] Don't assume you think you know what other people are about or what they have to offer.
- [37:14] Carl is more service driven. He thanks God that his mindset has changed.
- [40:18] Ben thinks Carl brought more to Rock than they gave him.
Links and Resources:
- Alcoholics Anonymous
Therapy is a powerful tool for anyone, and today we’ll focus on the role of therapy for someone who is struggling with addiction. My guest, Josiah, is a licensed therapist who has been in the addiction industry for around five years. He has a past history of addiction, so he deeply understands this topic from various angles.
Early in our conversation, we’ll take a deep dive into why asking whether a therapist has struggled with addiction is the wrong question. This is a common question for addicts to ask, but we compare it to asking an oncologist whether she has ever had cancer before letting her treat yours. We’ll also explore the importance of vulnerability, what to expect when you start going to a therapist for the first time, and much more.
Show Notes
- [01:23] Tom introduces today’s guest, Josiah, a licensed therapist.
- [01:59] Josiah tells listeners a bit about himself and explains how he got into therapy and the addiction industry.
- [03:15] What does Josiah say to the opinion that a therapist should have personal experience with addiction?
- [05:23] Josiah shares something else that he tells people who are concerned about their therapist having had an addiction problem.
- [07:18] We hear Josiah’s thoughts on the root behind the question of whether a therapist has a history of addiction.
- [11:18] Why would someone want to see a therapist?
- [14:37] Tom elaborates on the role of vulnerability in what Josiah has been talking about.
- [16:39] Outside of drug addiction and alcoholism, who should really see a therapist?
- [19:45] We learn about the #1 thing that Josiah tries to do in his therapy practice.
- [21:40] Tom points out that you need to get through the uncomfortable to have growth.
- [23:25] “What you put into therapy is what you’re going to get out of it,” Josiah explains.
- [25:20] What should someone expect if they’re walking into a therapist’s office for the first time?
- [28:20] The length of therapy is determined between the therapist and the client, Josiah points out.
- [29:35] Tom talks about people’s expectations of the length of therapy, and how it relates to holding onto control.
- [31:08] Josiah talks more about the potential expectations when you start therapy, and why they’re problematic.
- [33:55] How do you know when you’re done with therapy?
- [37:01] Josiah shares his final thoughts for listeners, pointing out that therapy isn’t about whether there’s something wrong with you.
Links and Resources:
- Al-Anon
Josh Gamaitoni is here today. Josh is the National Director of Business Development for Banyan Treatment Center. Josh has helped so many people and is a legend in the treatment world. It wasn’t always that way, though. Josh started doing drugs when he was 10 and went on a downward spiral as he grew up. He eventually tried some treatment options, but nothing stuck until he decided that getting sober was something he was going to stick to for a year.
After getting sober, he became a janitor at a church. He also realized that being sober was something that he enjoyed and made it a permanent lifestyle choice. His confidence also grew, and he became sincerely interested in talking to people and helping them. Eventually, he began working in treatment and became the legend he is today. Josh and Tom also go way back as they got sober together at the same time and the same place. Ben joins them for this inspirational conversation.
Show Notes
- [04:23] Josh started using drugs at 10 years old and went down a rapid path of addiction. He got sober around 21 years old. This was the first real program he went into.
- [07:01] He used afterwards, and needed help. He was broken and really wanted to get sober and do something in his life.
- [08:42] He is a firm believer in getting away. Going to South Florida helped Josh.
- [10:15] He got into a really great program. He did 45 days and moved into a recovery home. HOP is a house of principles.
- [17:12] It's beneficial to get out of your own backyard when you are going into recovery.
- [20:15] If you surround yourself with people who you want to be like, do what they do.
- [21:57] Josh realized he did have a drinking problem. He had an anything that made him feel better problem.
- [24:01] Josh became a janitor at the church. He soon learned how to talk to people and eventually, he became the National Director of Business Development at Banyan Treatment.
- [28:58] Josh manages and helps people do what he does. He also goes to the clinics and shares his story.
- [33:06] Communication skills are so important. We need to talk to people in a way that they are able to receive that.
- [33:43] Trust and transparency are very important, because people need to feel safe and know that you have their best interest at heart.
- [37:37] It's okay to take the time and see a therapist. It's okay to not be okay and do what it takes to feel better.
- [40:22] Josh is a huge fan of interventions. It's planned chaos. There are different approaches. You can usually find one that works.
- [47:29] Sometimes people are so crazy when they are out there, that they just need to be stopped. Also people sometimes don't know what they want.
- [50:50] How do you know you want sobriety if you've never been sober before?
- [53:40] Josh spends his time today, helping people find sobriety. His wife is also a therapist. He loves what he does.
- [01:00:16] Josh wants more resources available and one day there will be a way to help everyone that is lost.
- [01:04:35] Holding the truth in his heart is one thing that has helped Josh during the trying times.
Links and Resources:
Banyan Treatment Center
We are big proponents of the 12-step program. There is also a spiritual component of the program. For many people this can be a big turn off. Other people have trouble reconciling the difference between spirituality and their individual religion. We talk about all of this today with our guest Elliott Hughes.
Elliott is the National Outreach Coordinator for Chapel Hill Medical Detox. In this episode, he shares his struggles with getting sober with just religion and how he didn’t accept the spiritual components of the 12-step program. Then he shares how he learned to balance the two. He needed the support, community, and action of the program, which then allowed him to practice a stronger faith in his own religion.
Show Notes
- [03:43] Elliott grew up in Indiana. He went to church. He was a decent student. He was an athlete.
- [04:35] in spite of his Christian background, he fell into the grips of addiction.
- [04:43] He began drinking and smoking pot at 14. Things progressed until he found heroin, which really brought him to his knees.
- [07:02] Elliott doesn't think it was rebelling against church that made him start partying.
- [07:40] He just didn't have a solid foundation and chose the route of partying.
- [09:54] The 12-step program talks about a power greater than yourself. It's a spiritual program not a religious program.
- [11:44] Ben found church in his heart and grasps on to the fact that God spoke to him through other people.
- [13:11] You can get sober even if God isn't your path.
- [14:07] When Elliott meets one-on-one, he doesn't want to dilute the message of getting sober by preaching his beliefs.
- [16:36] Ben was a late bloomer with the higher power thing.
- [17:36] Elliott tried to get sober through church for years.
- [18:05] Elliott tried a 12-step program and it didn't work. Then he started a faith-based program, but just going to church wasn't enough.
- [19:25] It takes more than just going to church. You need a program combined with spirituality.
- [20:09] There is a sense of community in the sober community. It's hard to find like minded people at church who are also struggling with addiction unless you tell everyone about it.
- [21:07] With the 12-step program you do more than just attend meetings you have to take action.
- [21:20] There's a sense of community with like-minded people you all have the same goals and there's a service aspect. There is also the sponsor and sponsee part.
- [23:02] The 12 steps and the program gave me a practical way to take a look at myself that going to church didn't.
- [24:42] When people aren't vulnerable and honest, you can't see their transformation.
- [28:19] Faith without works is dead.
- [31:22] What Ben knows is from experience. We can use our struggles for His glory.
- [32:57] Elliott struggles between the balance of spiritual and religious. It's important for him to have the balance and feed himself spiritually.
- [34:40] Someone who hasn't struggled with addiction can't help him like someone who has could.
- [36:49] The difference between religion and spirituality for Elliott was a shift in his heart.
- [39:06] Spirituality is about the relationship you build with your higher power.
- [43:11] If people are out there struggling, they should just hold on because they can recover.
Links and Resources:
- Chapel Hill Medical Detox
- Real Elliott Hughes on Facebook
- Real Elliott Hughes on Instagram
Joyce Matera is the National Marketing Director for Inspire Recovery. Inspire is located in West Palm Beach and it’s specifically for people under the LGBTQ umbrella with a specific focus on helping transgender people. Having a safe place for people to go where they can be who they are and get help with like minded people while going through recovery is so important.
Tom, Ben, and Joyce talk about Joyces background and how she got involved in the community and recovery industry. Joyce shares some of the issues that are specific to clients at Inspire and why it is so important to find a peer group that they can trust. They talk about important aspects of recovery and how it specifically applies to this underserved community.
Show Notes
- [02:21] Joyce has been in recovery for 35 years. She was a gay activist during the 1970s, 1980s, and 1990s.
- [02:40] A lot of her friends passed away from AIDs. It was also hard for gay people with human rights issues.
- [03:01] She moved to Florida about 12 years ago. She discovered there were treatment centers all over the place. She wanted to do service and saw a gay guy getting bullied at an AA meeting.
- [03:50] She realized there were no treatment options specifically for people in the LGBTQ community. She opened Lambda North which was a 12-step clubhouse.
- [04:07] They have a lot of events for support and meetings.
- [04:20] Inspire Recovery in West Palm Beach is specifically for the LGBTQ community. Joyce helps educate people about issues related to the treatment facility.
- [05:34] People are housed at Inspire Recovery according to their personality, because they don't see gender.
- [06:18] People fall in love at treatment centers all the time.
- [06:55] Most treatment centers are gender specific. Many treatment centers don't know how to house transgender people, so there was a need for this specific treatment center.
- [08:26] They have created a community where people can get peer support and find sponsors and go through the Big Book and whatever things they need to do.
- [10:15] Everything operates like a regular treatment center. They just don't separate clients by gender.
- [10:42] Most of the staff is under the LGBTQ umbrella and is in long-term recovery. Everyone can still use training.
- [13:18] The goal is to bring out the human factor in each person. They are just experts in the LGBTQ community and the transgender community.
- [15:44] A lot of the community hid their identity. It's a lot easier for younger people to be who they are.
- [16:39] They also get clients in their 50s and 60s who have shame over their identity.
- [17:15] If a center isn't a good fit, that person needs to be referred to a place that is a better fit.
- [19:08] At Inspire, they believe hormone replacement therapy is a human rights issue. They have created a safe place to explore.
- [21:32] The transgender community is a underserved population that has been marginalized all of their lives. Inspire is the only place that helps predominantly transgender people.
- [25:57] Groups at Inspire are centered around healing, trauma, and bullying.
- [26:57] People used to stay at Inspire for a year, now the program is two to three months.
- [28:16] Many people stay in the area after building a community and finding peers.
- [30:25] If you're struggling with your sexual identity or gender identity and need a safe place, give inspire a call. They are open 24/7.
Links and Resources:
- Inspire Recovery
- (561)899-6088
- Joyce Matera on LinkedIn
- Lambda North
Josh McBride now works at Coastal Detox after his own experience with recovery. Josh’s journey is different from many people’s. He was diagnosed with Crohn's Disease at an early age, and eventually his pain management led him to addiction and moving to street drugs. Passing out in his car, led him to a 75-day stay in jail without any drugs or medication.
Josh shares his journey with Tom and Ben. He talks about how he didn’t have a lot of resources and had to turn to county and free resources. He also talks about the mind shift he had that convinced him to finally take recovery seriously. His story is unique and his perspective is inspirational. This is a wonderful conversation about how to think about recovery and how to find a way to accomplish it.
Show Notes
- [02:49] Josh is originally from Orlando.
- [03:00] At a young age, Josh was diagnosed with crohn's disease. He began using pain meds to control the symptoms of his disease.
- [03:44] Eventually, he became chemically dependent and struggled with addiction for at least 10 years.
- [04:45] In his early twenties, he accepted that he wasn't going to live long and just wanted to stay comfortable with this medication.
- [05:01] Unfortunately, the pain pills led to heroin and in 2011, a police officer found him hunched over in his car.
- [06:17] He went to pill mills and got pills.
- [08:53] He ended up selling his prescription drugs and buying street drugs. He overdosed, convinced the doctor in the hospital to give him oxy, and when he was released he shot up in his car.
- [11:42] People who overdose are medically discharged within an hour. There are gaps. People need to get into treatment after overdosing.
- [14:08] Josh's experience getting clean is different from the average person's.
- [14:55] In 2011, when Josh was arrested, he was put in a county jail that had a lot of different rules. He began a cold turkey detox. He was there 75 days. His mom asked the jail to keep him for two more days until a Monday, so he could go straight into a Faith Farm work program.
- [19:21] He was released on the Saturday, and he walked five miles to a county detox program. They kept him safe for two days, and then his mom took him to Faith Farm.
- [21:17] He was at Faith Farm for almost two years.
- [24:18] He had to put in a lot of work with his Christian based recovery. He took feedback even when he didn't believe in it.
- [27:35] Josh works at Coastal Detox, and it's a great facility.
- [28:02] People need to be under supervision when they are coming off of drugs. There is also a psychological factor. Coastal offers an interdisciplinary approach, plus all of the client's needs are taken care of.
- [30:03] Couples need to be split up to be treated in a healthy way.
- [30:23] There are resources out there for people who don't have good insurance coverage.
- [33:58] There are many ways for people to get clean. There are different paths. Pay attention to what is available to you. You just need a little motivation and be willing to ask for help when you feel discouraged.
Links and Resources:
- Faith Farm
- Coastal Detox
Ira Levy is the National Marketing Director of Sunrise Detox. Ira has 28 years in the sobriety industry and has been sober since 1980. Ira got into the industry by accident, but continued to learn, educate himself, and move up. He has worked in every aspect of the industry and is as passionate about helping clients as he is about educating their families.
Tom, Ben, and Ira talk about the detox process and what patient and family members can expect. Ira shares some of his own personal experience about how important it is to decide not to use and then find other ways to cope with life events. We talk about the importance of family members learning about addiction, how to find a good treatment facility, and the importance of individualized treatment.
Show Notes
- [03:02] Ira stumbled into the recovery business by accident. 28 years ago he moved to Florida as a health tech and worked his way up.
- [03:57] The owners of Sunrise Detox needed a marketer who understood the treatment industry. Ira has been with them for 15 years.
- [04:54] Sunrise started with one facility and perfected their program, and now they have 8 facilities.
- [05:04] Ira has really worked in every aspect of the industry.
- [06:52] Ira has been sober since 1980.
- [08:31] Ira went through
- [09:18] Ira finally gave sobriety a real try. Mistakes happen in sobriety and life, but you really just need to try.
- [10:18] A turning point for Ira was when his father passed away, and he wanted to get high. A friend of his said if that will bring your father back let's do it. This was a turning point in his life and he didn't get high.
- [11:03] Ira tries to get patients at Sunrise to understand some of the right ways to success.
- [11:55] When something bad happens, and you want to use, stop and think about where you will be in 72 hours.
- [14:48] Ira is available 7 days a week to speak to families and explain what's going to happen. Sometimes people just want to know what happens in detox.
- [15:15] Ira tries to educate the patient and let them know what detox going to be like and that it's going to be a positive experience.
- [15:42] He wants to educate people, and he will help them find the proper place even if Sunrise isn't for them.
- [17:27] Sunrise won't take people in if it's not a good fit.
- [18:17] Ira recommends to trust your gut and your gut feeling. You want to feel warm, welcome, and nurtured.
- [20:26] Education is so important in these centers. The client or patient needs to be detoxed, and the family needs to be educated.
- [23:52] Sunrise does accept people on methadone. The detox process is longer. It can be done and Sunrise has success. It's usually a 14 to 21 day detox.
- [26:45] They also mix clinical in with medical.
- [28:49] MAT or medication-assisted treatment doesn't have a great success rate. It needs to be done right. Treatment needs to be individualized.
- [32:05] It's a struggle to get insurance companies to cooperate.
- [35:42] Ketamine is now having a resurgence.
- [37:58] Contact people who have a passion for recovery and don't make a rash decision. Explore options.
- [40:14] Research addiction to help your loved one. Go to Al-Anon and learn about the process.
- [43:59] The average time to get medically stable and detox is 6 or 7 days and then the client can move to a sobriety program.
- [45:51] After detox, some kind of therapy can be helpful. People need to commit to an aftercare program that fits their life.
- [48:08] From a medical standpoint, alcohol and benzos are the most medically dangerous to stop cold turkey.
Links and Resources:
- Sunrise Detox
- Al-Anon
Alex Uslar is the manager of the Hybrid Gym and the Director of Operations for the online company Hybrid Performance Method. Alex is a powerlifting, weight lifting, and crossfit coach. The Hybrid Performance Method is a virtual gym that provides accessible, affordable, and effective online workout programs to athletes of all skill and experience levels.
In this episode, we talk about Alex’s journey and how he used nutrition and working out to stay sober. Like many addicts, Alex had a rough start and turned to alcohol and drugs. Unlike many, he discovered what he wanted to do at a young age. He was then able to harness that desire and use it as fuel for sobriety. We talk about his journey and how he was able to turn his experience into a positive.
Show Notes
- [02:47] Alex is 26 years old, and he just had his 7 years sobriety date.
- [02:59] He was born in South Florida and moved to Pensacola when he was 4 years old.
- [03:15] When he was 13, he moved to Miami.
- [03:44] He had some emotional and psychological abuse when he was younger.
- [04:13] He was expelled from private school, and he started public school in the middle of the year.
- [04:47] It only took two or three days before kids tried to sell him drugs.
- [05:06] He started smoking marijuana.
- [05:31] There are people who drink super heavily in the punk rock scene. They're also the straight edge kids.
- [05:49] Things escalated after 8th grade for him.
- [06:51] His parents are from Venezuela.
- [07:18] His family left Venezuela when things got really bad, but his dad stayed over there.
- [08:01] Ben and Tom see a lot of clients who have had instability in their lives when they were young.
- [09:12] From 13 to 19, Alex's entire life revolved around music and partying.
- [10:51] Alex wouldn't change or trade anything that he went through, because without that he wouldn't be where he is now.
- [12:49] He dropped out of school and in the process, he got arrested. The counseling he had to go through helped him a lot.
- [17:09] He still went down a super destructive path. When he was 19, he wanted to get his act together.
- [20:29] The catalyst for him was getting a DM from an older punk rocker who owned a gym. They had similar stories and signing up for the gym was his first day sober.
- [21:23] He even realized that he wanted to work at a gym.
- [21:53] Staying sober and staying mentally strong and going to the gym was one of the hardest things he did. He had to relearn how to live.
- [25:34] He was given an opportunity to do an unpaid internship at the gym. The owner was his mentor in sobriety and coaching. He eventually became one of the head coaches.
- [32:06] Follow your passion if you work hard, you have the opportunity to rewrite the script.
- [32:46] Taking steps forward can be uncomfortable.
- [33:56] Alex became an extrovert as he learned how to sell gym memberships. There weren't any promises that he would get hired. He still worked hard and kept getting more and more work.
- [35:44] He ended up with the most personal training clients and made more money than anybody at the gym.
- [36:32] He showed so much ambition and desire that he kept growing and growing until h maximized his abilities and income.
- [38:52] Alex left his mentor's gym in 2017 to go work for Hybrid.
- [40:18] They talked three or four days ago.
- [45:18] People come and go in life sometimes.
- [47:16] Utilizing fitness and nutrition in sobriety. Alex feels people need something to rely on.
- [49:39] He believes that you control your thoughts and your actions.
- [52:06] At the end of the day, we are all trying to get to a better place.
- [53:58] If you don't want to look for a higher power, find a higher purpose.
- [55:46] Alex got sober by working out.
- [57:44] He loved seeing his clients transform. Now his social media following has grown.
Links and Resources:
- Hybrid Performance Method
- Alex Uslar on Instagram
- The OK Podcast by Tom Boyden & Jujimufu Stefi Cohen & Alex Uslar
Tom’s friend Blake Cohen is here to today to talk about his work, his recovery, and his upcoming book, “I Love You More” which is coming out in June. Tom and Blake have gotten to know each other while being part of a program where they go to schools and talk to students about addiction including everything from vaping to heroin. Blake is the National Outreach Manager at Recovery Unplugged which is a recovery program that includes music as part of the program.
Blake and Tom have a lot in common and in this episode, they discuss addiction, recovery, and Blake’s story. Blake also talks about why he wrote his book and what the purpose and format is. They both discuss their passion for helping addicts find a way to recovery in a positive life changing way that only gets better over time.
Show Notes
- [03:03] Blake had a great childhood. Sometimes he thinks he's an example of a person who could never develop an addiction.
- [03:41] He grew up in Boca Raton, Florida. His brother did struggle with addiction.
- [04:39] When opiates were introduced in Blake's life, he immediately got hooked. He had surgery on his wrist and got a prescription for pain pills when he was 15.
- [05:30] He loved the way he felt and took the whole bottle in one night.
- [06:01] He told his mom that he was in a lot of pain and got more pills.
- [06:44] When he was older he snorted oxycodone. It turned out his neighbor was a dealer.
- [07:42] Things evolved and Blake got arrested and went to some treatment centers.
- [08:13] His family held an intervention and sent him to treatment, and he got sober.
- [09:02] He majored in Psychology at UCF. He then switched to FAU.
- [10:06] Geographical change doesn't make everything okay.
- [11:38] Blake's Mom had back pain, and there were pills around.
- [13:30] Blake got sober at 25.
- [16:46] When his family found out everything that Blake was doing, he knew it was time to get sober.
- [18:15] Blake has always enjoyed writing. He believes in visualization and writing a book was one of the schools.
- [19:06] Blake's book is for the families of the addicts and for people to learn what it is like to go through addiction. There are three short stories that go into recovery, continued use, and overdose and death.
- [20:01] The book is called, "I Love You More" and it jumps from the different perspectives of people involved.
- [20:45] It's an easy to read book that brings perspective and has questions at the end that can be tied into a treatment center.
- [21:08] In his book, the stories are fictional but the emotions are very real. He interviewed people who have been through these situations.
- [21:22] This book is a powerful tool that can be used by treatment centers.
- [23:30] Blake currently works for Recovery Unplugged. It's a really special program that has music infused throughout the program.
- [23:58] He is the National Outreach Manager and he connects Recovery Unplugged with the community.
- [25:02] Prior to this he worked as a director of admissions at another recovery program.
- [25:36] The fear of giving tough love is what stops family members from giving their loved ones the push that they need.
- [27:16] People in active addiction respond to tough love. That's what they need.
- [30:43] In the beginning of treatment, people need to be prepared to work and take suggestions.
- [32:48] Once Blake gave AA a real shot it worked out for him. Work the 12-steps. Find a meeting that works for you.
- [35:16] The more we talk about it and educate people the more comfortable people will feel about asking for help.
Links and Resources:
- Recovery Unplugged
- Alcoholics Anonymous
Getting clean and sober can be stressful. We try to do everything possible to help people going through recovery deal with stress. It's scientifically proven that exercise will help reduce stress levels. This is why we can't emphasize the importance of exercise enough in the process of getting clean and sober.
Today’s episode is about exercise and why it is important to incorporate into your journey. Tom and Ben will be discussing this important topic along with the benefits of exercising throughout the recovery process and how exercise can affect your overall physical and mental well being. It can even have an effect on heart health and inflammatory issues.
Show Notes
- [02:23] Stress reduction. Exercise is a natural stress reducer. It naturally correlates with the chemicals in your brain. It also gives you an opportunity to take your mind off of whatever you've been thinking about for the day.
- [03:42] Getting clean and sober can be stressful. There are a lot of things that you aren't used to doing that you now have to do while you're sober.
- [04:20] There is even research out there that shows stress can cause heart and inflammatory issues.
- [04:50] Exercise also incorporates into time management. Going to the gym right after work gives you an opportunity to step away from the stressors of the day.
- [05:46] If you exercise, you get better sleep. Most people in recovery are prescribed some type of sleep aid. It's hard to fall asleep when you first begin recovery.
- [06:52] It's extremely beneficial to wean off of the sleep meds, and exercise can help you do this.
- [09:57] Seroquel is an antipsychotic used for sleep. It makes you tired and makes you sleep. Tom became dependent on it.
- [11:29] Tom has to do something exercise-related during the day even if it's just going for some walks. It definitely helps him sleep.
- [12:15] In Ben's opinion, sleep medication helps maintain the addicts behavior and mentality.
- [13:11] While we're sleeping our bodies rejuvenate and repair themselves.
- [13:51] Improves mood. Exercising actually improves your mood. Exercise helps with the depression and anxiety that people in recovery frequently have.
- [15:45] We just built a gym and run our clients through a workout routine. We ask them to pay attention to their mood before and after the exercise. We frequently see people walk out of the exercise session with a smile on their face.
- [17:32] Opiates release endorphins. A runner's high is similar to the endorphins from opiates. It's the same chemicals on the brain.
- [19:48] Most people who get regular exercise aren't depressed.
- [20:10] CrossFit or something with a community workout gives people a sense of accomplishment.
- [21:15] We find exercises that we can modify for all of our clients.
- [22:06] Increase of energy. Energy capital. Even though exercising expends energy, by exercising you end up with more energy throughout the day.
- [24:05] Coffee and energy drinks are not the only way to energize.
- [25:26] If you work out you sleep better, if you sleep better you have more energy. It all comes full circle.
- [26:01] Exercise gives you a stronger immune system. It's important to have a strong immune system during recovery, because you don't want to get sick.
- [27:20] Exercise can help push out the last of the detox process.
- [28:49] Pot is fat soluble and can store in your fat cells.
- [30:07] Exercising as a whole will help with relapse prevention.
- [30:24] It's a challenge, it gives you purpose, it's something you enjoy, you sleep better and feel better.
- [30:59] Also add good nutrition and have a sense of community or a 12-step program, and you will be setting yourself up for success.
- [31:44] Tom just competed in a US powerlifting competition.
- [32:29] A big part of recovery is fellowship.
- [35:12] We have seen exercise work time and time again. It helps with mood and everything else.
- [35:47] This is why we incorporate exercise into our programs. We give people the tools they need and coach them through the workouts.
Links and Resources:
- Ep. 27 – Is Steroid Use in Recovery Considered a Relapse?
Cotton Fever is the name of a condition that is caused by bacteria getting into the blood and creating extreme flu like symptoms and uncontrollable shaking. Unfortunately, addicts will use cotton to filter heroin before injecting it. If the cotton contains bacteria, it can get into the syringe and then the addict’s blood stream and create this condition.
In this episode, Tom and Adam discuss the symptoms and Ben shares some personal experiences that happened, before he was in recovery. The whole purpose of this episode is to make people aware of this condition, the symptoms, and what to do if they experience these symptoms. We also talk about the deeper issue of finding help for addiction and eliminating these dangerous behaviors.
Show Notes
- [02:05] Cotton fever is caused by germs left in cotton that is used to filter drugs before being put in a syringe. The bacteria gets injected into the bloodstream.
- [04:24] Ben and his girlfriend both got cotton fever. He shot the heroin, and then got a severe headache, involuntary muscle shaking, and severe flu like symptoms.
- [05:38] His roommates could hear him moaning and got him some Tylenol and NyQuil.
- [06:20] Cotton fever doesn't seem to be fatal, but the symptoms are severe. Ben was scared when he saw his fiance go through it.
- [07:54] She was really frightened and even called her mother. They wanted to go to the hospital but were afraid of getting arrested.
- [08:15] They waited it out through the night. They felt a little better in the morning.
- [08:56] There isn't a lot of medical research on cotton fever. It is similar to flu like symptoms. Fever, nausea, anxiety, shaking, it can mimic withdrawal.
- [10:32] The symptoms are a bit different than withdrawal.
- [11:38] If it doesn't subside in a few hours or days, an antibiotic is necessary to kill the bacteria in the bloodstream.
- [12:24] It's probably not safe to assume that your severe symptoms are cotton fever. Seek help if something is wrong.
- [13:32] Ben also had a girlfriend who got a staph infection in her arm.
- [14:46] Ben was in detox and a woman who was there shot heroin with well water that wasn't sterilized and got an infection in her brain through her blood.
- [16:14] Opiates take a lot of the part of the brain that gives you the ability to have logical thought.
- [18:50] Addiction is scary and can cause people to make very bad decisions when it comes to how they get high.
- [20:44] If you think you have cotton fever don't freak out too much. Treat it with some Tylenol, take a warm bath and get some sleep. Drink water not alcohol.
- [21:24] The main thing that Adam wants to talk about is you shouldn't shoot heroin in the first place.
- [21:39] There are so many dangers involved. It's like Russian Roulette. Especially with all the dangerous fentanyl floating around.
- [23:19] If you're making a phone call about cotton fever or you're concerned about cotton fever, there is something wrong.
- [24:12] If you're having symptoms, and you feel you need to see a doctor, please go see a doctor.
Links and Resources:
- Tom@RealRecoveryTalk.com
- Ben@RealRecoveryTalk.com
- Adam@RealRecoveryTalk.com
Tom and Benjamin B. are joined by Keith. Keith is a rockstar when he plays the guitar. He is also here to talk about why it's so important to have structure within sober living. There are some places that don't have any structure, but a guy like Keith could whip them into shape really fast.
Keith is a behavioral health tech. He has also been a house manager, and he is a recovering addict. He tells it like it is, but is able to do it in a way where he doesn’t offend people and is able to gain the respect of the clients. This episode is a great insight into how structure can help someone move forward with their life.
Show Notes
- [03:00] Ben and Keith have known each other for at least three years now. Keith is also in recovery, and he is a behavioral health tech.
- [03:12] Keith is known for some methods that are tied into the structure and regimen that we are going to be talking about today.
- [03:30] Keith is an addict. He came to Florida in 2013 from a homeless shelter. This is where he first learned to start having a regimen.
- [04:16] He didn't want to be drunk, high, and irresponsible anymore.
- [05:12] Get up in the morning, make your bed, do your dishes, take a shower, and take care of yourself.
- [05:42] A lot of clients that we deal with tend to be a little bit spoiled. Keith had limited resources, but took what was available and applied what he needed to.
- [07:06] Keith was grateful to have a roof over his head at the homeless shelter when it was snowing outside.
- [08:04] Keith lost everything and anything that came to him after that he considers a gift.
- [10:27] Tom and Ben both started this text as well.
- [10:47] Keith demands respect, and he is very straightforward with his clients.
- [12:53] Clients spend 90% of the day with the techs, and it might just be the most important position here.
- [13:53] You have to think about what the client is going through.
- [15:18] People aren't perfect. Who runs treatment centers? People.
- [17:03] The work actually starts after you get sober.
- [17:34] A house manager is someone with a certain amount of sobriety time. This is one of the hardest positions to find.
- [19:13] It's really a job on top of a job.
- [20:28] Being a house manager was an opportunity that Keith took while he was also working another full-time job.
- [20:42] This was his opportunity to make things different and fix things that were wrong when he was a client.
- [22:02] Keith has flipped mattresses, and even set up a guy's entire room in a gazebo.
- [24:04] Keith is always involved in exciting stuff, and his life looks like a blast. The clients seem to pick up on that.
- [25:00] He'll go diving and jump out of a plane all in one day. He has also broken every bone in his body.
- [26:34] Say what you mean, but don't say it mean.
- [29:05] Experience is what Keith had to bring to the table.
- [31:25] There is meant to be confrontation in treatment. The job is to give people the opportunity to utilize coping skills.
- [33:15] It's a client's responsibility to contribute to the safety of the treatment program.
- [34:07] There are people from all walks of life with every defect in the house.
- [36:22] Keith has opinions that bring truth and help the treatment plan have balance.
- [41:41] Keith is from the Bronx. He presents himself for who he is.
Links and Resources:
- AA
Adam and Tom are joined by Myles today. Myles is 23 years old, and this is his first serious time in treatment. When he was 19, his parents forced him to go into treatment, but his heart wasn't into it. He left after 20 days. He shares his journey and how alcohol contributed to a serious health issue.
Myles is now committed to treatment. In this episode, we talk about what has changed for him and what has shifted in his head to convince him to take treatment more seriously. He also shares how he went from a lonely place to feeling connected and being part of the community.
Show Notes
- [03:57] Myles started drinking at the bar, and then just started drinking about a fifth of whiskey each night.
- [05:43] His parents got divorced when he was six.
- [06:44] His dad got remarried when he was seven, and he had a new stepmom and two step sisters.
- [07:23] Myles was by himself when he was six during those formative years. Drugs and alcohol became an escape for a period of time.
- [08:14] He loved pot the first time he tried it.
- [08:41] When he was a senior in high school his pot smoking really took off.
- [09:23] He played division 3 NCAA football. He was an offensive line left guard. He was around 300 pounds.
- [10:21] He lost around 70 lbs in his first year of football. He then packed all the weight back on, because he was drinking. Then he was diagnosed with congestive heart failure and ended up in the hospital and lost all the weight.
- [11:00] The doctors think the congestive heart failure was related to the drinking.
- [13:19] Drinking and smoking weed temporarily made Myles problems go away.
- [15:47] Myles went to live with his grandparents in Savannah, Georgia. The isolation became worse, and he started drinking again.
- [18:25] Father Martin says if we don't handle our emotions they will always handle us.
- [19:07] If you hold emotions in, they are going to come out in negative ways.
- [20:23] Myles loved it when he first came to Florida. He needed help, because he couldn't put the bottle down by himself.
- [22:07] He is harnessing his past as a positive.
- [23:58] Myles wants to feel like he belongs and being part of the recovery community is helping him get there.
- [24:38] He found that he can contribute to the community and that life is worth living.
- [26:25] Myles was reluctant to feel vulnerable, because it made him feel like he was searching for pity or that he didn't deserve sympathy.
- [27:35] He finally saw that he had to be vulnerable to heal. He is getting over a lifetime of holding things in. This made him feel lighter.
- [30:04] Not letting people in can feel safe, but it's also very damaging.
- [31:17] Myles was actually thinking about continuing to smoke weed, but he realized that it wasn't a good idea for him.
- [33:35] Reach out don't make excuses to be alone in life.
Links and Resources:
- Father Martin's Chalk Talk on Alcohol
Our Guest today is Matthew the musician. He has never been to treatment before and is 1 day clean. he is going to share his story and what his expectations are. Since he has never been to treatment before this is going to be a learning experience for him.
In this show, he gets the opportunity to ask us questions and we get the opportunity to ask him questions. This show is a good Insight on the perspective of someone who has never done this before and is 1 day clean. Rene and Benjamin join Tom today in this special show with Matt.
Show Notes
- [03:11] Matt has a twin brother and life has been pretty great. He moved from Connecticut to Westchester, New York when he was about 10.
- [03:26] He started using pot when he was 11, and then moved on to psychedelics, heroin, and benzos.
- [04:26] He used substances for about 22 years.
- [04:47] When he was 11, he took a cigarette out of the ashtray that turned out to be pot. Age 15 and 16 were formative years for his drug use.
- [06:36] When he was around 12, he started playing guitar and got into music.
- [08:00] Matt wants to get sober and take his music career further.
- [09:06] Matt hasn't seen his child in five years, and he believes it's due to his lifestyle choices.
- [12:15] Matt is interested in finding out why he took such comfort in changing his state of mind when he was younger.
- [13:39] His motivating factor in seeking treatment is that he's just really tired.
- [17:27] Matt knows he needs help and can't do it alone. That is why he is here.
- [19:23] He hopes that life is different in a more positive productive way when he is done with treatment.
- [20:48] Matt tried AA last year.
- [22:27] The recovery culture and 12-step meetings in South Florida are amazing.
- [24:02] AA and NA give us an opportunity to devote time to our recovery.
- [24:24] Matt is going to be here in treatment for the next 30 days.
- [25:01] Being open to suggestion is the best place someone can be when they choose to go to treatment.
- [25:47] Matt doesn't know how he'll feel at the end of the 30 days, he's not sure if he'll be completely cured.
- [26:22] The most important thing for Matt is getting better.
- [27:08] After 30 days of treatment, people rarely go back to life like nothing has happened.
- [29:48] Doing it alone is impossible.
- [29:52] It's a daunting task to cure people in 30 days. It takes about three weeks just to get a feel of how a person is.
- [32:04] People like Matt need people like Ben and Rene and Tom who devote their time to helping people.
- [33:34] It's refreshing to see someone with Matt's attitude.
Links and Resources:
- AA
- Narcotics Anonymous
Mark Jennison the founder and CEO of I Am A Comeback is here today. I Am A Comeback is a program created by Mark to help men who are high-level earners and executives get their addiction under control. He has an online component, and he holds his clients accountable by texting them everyday.
Mark helps many men get back on track. One of the interesting things about him is that he takes a very different approach than I do. His unique approach is different than AA. It doesn’t even focus on complete abstinence. Although, that is the goal. It is about the Comeback 7. Find out about Mark and his wild story and his unique program that is helping men to regain control of their lives.
Show Notes
- [02:03] The whole purpose of recovery is to make sure that you get better. Addiction doesn't discriminate.
- [02:49] Mark is 38 years old. He had been drinking and using drugs since he was 14 years old. He has been clean and sober for four years.
- [03:19] Things got rocky when he was 19 or 20 years old.
- [03:45] He was dating a woman who became a stripper, and it broke his heart. This was the catalyst for finding ways to take away the hurt.
- [04:26] He moved to Southern California and drugs and drinking were prevalent. Being able to drink other people under the table to find who he was.
- [05:00] He drank in Southern California from 2000 to 2007.
- [05:39] He then began doing crystal meth. It seemed like it made him better, until it made him worse.
- [06:25] He then went back to Wisconsin and slept on his brother's couch.
- [06:51] His uncle owned a trucking company. Mark helped grow the company into a different company.
- [07:37] He was still involved with drugs and alcohol, but he now had the ability to make money.
- [08:02] He built the company into a multimillion-dollar company. He also got married and had a child.
- [08:17] He still drank, did drugs, and went to strip clubs.
- [08:52] He went from being a millionaire to his life unraveling. He went on a trip to Jamaica and when he came home his business was in shambles.
- [09:25] He wasn't able to make payroll, and his company failed.
- [09:55] He lost the business in 2013. He hit rock bottom and was suicidal.
- [11:35] He met a girl who was using heroin and next thing you know he started doing heroin. A friend of his joined them and then OD'd on heroin.
- [12:42] Mark lost everything.
- [13:29] He then got sober for a brief time and built another business.
- [14:17] He then started network marketing an sold Isagenix protein shakes.
- [15:36] He then started selling cars. Once he had cash, he started drinking again.
- [16:17] It seemed like he would always relapse between May and July after getting sober.
- [16:32] He went to a treatment center in Rockford, Illinois. He got out after 28 days.
- [18:09] He did just one shot which led to many more shots and another relapse and more heroin.
- [18:29] It took six hours for him to leave rehab and relapse.
- [21:05] After relapsing over and over, Mark decided to finally get his life back.
- [23:21] AA didn't work for him, so he went to a church.
- [24:33] He started putting pieces in place like faith, family, fitness, and making money.
- [25:31] His moral inventory wasn't about who he hurt, it was more about why he hurt.
- [30:02] There are parallels between Mark and Tom's life, because they were both in the car business.
- [30:36] Tom got baptized when he was 23 years old. The 12 Steps also played a big part in his life.
- [32:06] It doesn't make sense to mark that there is only one way to get sober.
- [32:58] People who have the resources go to South Florida to get sober.
- [33:29] People value what they put their money into.
- [34:57] Mark's clientele are high-level sales executives and people like himself. Making money is an important part of his program.
- [35:41] Mark has 81 guys in his program, and he texts each of them individually every day. He helps to pivot their mindset.
- [36:57] He doesn't promote complete abstinence.
- [37:16] At some point, the amount of people is going to outgrow his methods for accountability. He already has a plan in place to solve that issue.
- [37:29] His plan works because his clients are connected to him 24/7.
- [38:23] They have online group discussions on Tuesdays and Thursdays.
- [38:57] He wants to be a rival for AA.
- [40:23] Mark's plan is specifically for men. They go through his funnel and have to make 12 micro commitments before joining.
- [41:26] He is located in Wisconsin.
- [42:28] One of his approaches is that alcohol isn't the problem, it's the solution. The problem is really what is fueling the addiction.
- [43:31] According to Mark, drinking alcohol is a choice that you make.
- [44:51] Alcohol makes it easy not to think about stuff.
- [45:17] Mark works with his clients for 45 days. There is a six-week course. The first thing is mindset. Then they assess where they are. The third thing they work on his confidence. The fourth thing is balancing your life with new ideas.
- [46:19] Mark doesn't believe in balance. he believes in abundance.
- [46:29] In week 5, they go through all of the obstacles that they are facing. Week 6 is all about discipline.
- [46:52] If you've successfully completed the 45 days, then you just stay in the chat group. If you need more help, you become part of the 6-month comeback alliance.
- [47:17] This consists of coaches with meditation, spirituality, and fitness, etc.
- [48:29] Then he implements the Comeback seven which is faith, finances, family, fitness, future, freedom, and foundation.
- [55:07] The great thing about I Am A Comeback is that it's designed for men who are at a certain place in their life where they need to be surrounded by similar people.
- [01:01:02] When people come to the Rock Treatment Center they know they're coming to a family environment where people really do want to help them.
Links and Resources:
- I AM A Comeback
- The Comeback Podcast
- Mark Jennison on Facebook
- I Am A Comeback on YouTube
- Dave Ramsey
Rene and Nick are here today to talk with Tom about sober living. We are going to talk about what it consists of. What to watch for. What to expect. When is the right time to leave? We are even going to talk about how do you even know if you've left successfully.
Nick and Rene are very successful at running sober living facilities. They share their expertise and help us to understand what the process is like. A sober house is a house where you remain sober. Find out about the clinical component and the other aspects in this episode.
Show Notes
- [02:59] A sober living house consists of addicts and alcoholics.
- [03:19] Sometimes they are associated with an insurance based group therapy or an IOP.
- [03:40] They're all kinds of rules including remaining sober and drug test and breathalyzers.
- [04:04] You typically work some type of program like AA or NA.
- [04:19] You go to meetings, and you have a sponsor and work the 12 steps.
- [05:33] Rene believes that being in a sober environment with other people who have the same goal as you is key to sustaining sobriety.
- [06:07] Some homes don't own the clinical aspect of it. This may not be the most efficient way to get sober.
- [06:23] Rene believes that clinical and housing should be all in one.
- [07:02] People are often on their best behavior in groups. It can be different at home.
- [08:10] Not having housing and clinical tied together can lead to a breakdown in communication.
- [08:51] Housing that's not tied to a clinical component is better for people who've already completed their first treatment program.
- [10:26] Red flags to look out for in sober living.
- [11:03] A sober living house should be ran as if the client is still in treatment. They should require a certain amount of sober time and not allow couples.
- [12:12] If a sober living house lets someone back in three days after they relapse it looks like a revolving door.
- [13:01] Not getting drug tested is also a red flag.
- [15:29] FARR certification goes through everything. These places tend to do what they are supposed to do.
- [16:29] These are things to look out for whether you are interested in sober living for yourself or if you are a parent or loved one of someone going to sober living.
- [17:48] Working and paying the rent is a very important piece of recovery. People need to look for a job, so they can pay rent. Jobs also fill time.
- [19:18] Getting a job is about learning how to grow up and be an adult. Once you get a job, then you can look at what you might want to do for a career or school.
- [25:11] What can you expect when moving into sober living?
- [25:30] The biggest challenge is having to follow the rules. The structure is set up for success. You need to follow the rules, although it can be hard.
- [29:04] There is a correlation between organizing your stuff and staying sober.
- [32:07] Not doing your chores doesn't mean you won't stay sober but it does mean you have a problem with authority. Listening and doing things you don't want to do can help you stay sober.
- [34:50] People are going to eat your food and upset you.
- [35:17] There's bound to be conflict, but if there wasn't any conflict no one would grow.
- [36:18] Sober living isn't comfortable. Real life is filled with challenges also.
- [37:00] The amount of time it takes to graduate from sober living is different for everyone. Nick thinks 9 months is a good amount of time. If it takes a year to live sober and clean, it is worth it.
- [38:24] Your first year of sobriety should probably be under some form of sober living.
- [40:09] Even though sober living takes time, it goes by really quickly.
- [41:00] Do your research before you go into a sober living facility.
- [41:01] Take suggestions and don't ask questions
Links and Resources:
- AA
- NA
- FARR
Our guest today, is Devon. He has a heck of a story and is willing to share some of the sacrifices he had to make in order to get sober. Getting sober can be challenging. If it were easy everyone would be doing it. There are sacrifices that have to be made. Some of them aren't too bad, but some of them are so difficult not everyone can make them. Devon has done what it takes to become sober, and he shares that with us here today.
Show Notes
- [02:56] Devon has 80 Days of clean time.
- [03:28] Devon has gotten clean in the past, but the longest it lasted was 110 days.
- [03:25] After 45 days of treatment in Florida, he went home and worked the program for about a month, he didn't work the program in the last month and that's when problems happened.
- [04:02] His biggest accomplishment so far is graduating from high school early and getting an opportunity to go to any Big Ten college he wanted to.
- [06:14] At age 11, he started taking Vyvanse prescribed by his doctor.
- [06:58] Vyvanse is a stimulant similar to Adderall.
- [08:02] He switched from Vyvanse and Adderall over to marijuana.
- [09:29] After High School, he experimented with other things from Xanax to alcohol.
- [10:32] The first time he tried rehab he didn't put in the work. He just thought of it as sort of a vacation.
- [14:26] Going home after getting sober can be extremely uncomfortable. We can't be in the same atmosphere we used to be in.
- [16:19] Devon missed the birth of his child while he was in rehab. He also had to give up his old lifestyle. He also doesn't have family in Florida.
- [17:46] Devon had to give up certain jobs that he had back home, because they would be a bad influence towards his sobriety.
- [18:38] He even created a whole new social media profile, so he could keep up with people in Florida and not be influenced by his old friends.
- [19:08] For him, the big sacrifices are giving up comfort and familiarity to embrace a new healthier lifestyle.
- [20:51] He talks to his family daily over FaceTime. He gets to see his mom and his daughter and his sister.
- [23:23] It would be selfish for him to have his girlfriend move down to Florida when all of her family and support group is back home.
- [24:49] People are often afraid to go to treatment and leave their children behind, but if you look at the path of destruction they have been on stepping away is the best thing.
- [26:37] After having recovered, Ben has the opportunity to be the best dad he can possibly be.
- [28:29] This is also an extreme life change for Devon's girlfriend. To be a good dad, Devon can't bypass this process.
- [31:04] It can take yours from going from a liability to an asset in a family. It takes time for people to recognize that. When the tables turn and your family reaches out to you for help it feels good.
- [31:51] Some accomplishments that Devon wants to achieve is he wants to hit 90 days and then go for that all-important year. He also wants to finish the 12 steps. He also plans to go back to college.
- [32:20] He wants to major in architecture or auto body paint.
- [32:47] Devon really wants to be the best father I can be for my child. Devon wants to be an asset for my family. He wants to own his own home, get a car, and set himself up for retirement.
- [35:14] What you are doing now is directly going to affect what happens in the future.
- [36:44] For Ben, getting sober was the hardest thing he ever did in his life.
- [37:33] The challenge of alcoholism and addiction is underestimated by many people.
- [39:20] Final thoughts are to stay sober and do the right thing.
We are going to discuss what exactly you should look for when getting a sponsor in this episode. We will also talk about what to watch out for. There are people out there who in my opinion have no business being a sponsor. By the end of this episode, you should be able to identify the rules of a sponsor, their primary purpose, and what it looks like if they overstep their boundaries.
Tom is joined by Benjamin B. and Billy Badass. We are coming to you from South Florida the recovery capital of the United States. People come here to get clean and sober every day of the week. There is a very fluent AA and NA community. Wherever people are in AA and NA, you have to have sponsors. If you are looking for a sponsor, this episode should help you discern if you've found the right person.
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Show Notes
- [04:40] The job of a sponsor should be providing inspiration.
- [05:00] It's a sponsor job to share their experience. They need to take the clear precise directions that come from the big book.
- [06:25] They need to stick to the steps and share their experience.
- [07:52] A sponsor can give another viewpoint and help look at things from a different angle.
- [09:49] Sponsorship and having someone to guide you and show you the message is absolutely vital.
- [10:41] It's a sponsor's responsibility to share that their opinions are opinions and if they give advice that is not part of the 12-step program be clear that it is not part of the program. It is just something that they've found helpful.
- [13:20] The sponsors job is to take the sponsee through the 12 steps.
- [14:33] Sponsors aren't there to tell you what to do. They can give suggestions.
- [15:36] A sponsor starts out as an instructor who teaches people a method that already exists. They then end up as a teacher who shows people how to think on their own.
- [17:22] The 12th step is sponsoring someone. That is where the magic happens if you want to see growth in somebody.
- [18:42] A sponsor isn't in the results business, they are in the business of just showing up.
- [22:33] If all you do is plant a seed it's good. Don't withhold the truth or have people call you for 30 days before helping them.
- [24:52] Be willing to help people.
- [25:52] A sponsor doesn't have to be clean and sober for a year before sponsoring someone.
- [28:58] The steps are laid out in the textbook. Go through it together.
- [29:34] A sponsorship is a promise.
- [35:15] You get a sponsor and do the step work, so you can find out about yourself and the disease.
- [36:23] Having a sponsor helps with the treatment side and the accountability. Treatment and 12 step work are two different things.
- [37:15] Nobody should be forced to go to an AA meeting. Being in treatment and having the willingness to do whatever it takes goes along with attending AA.
- [38:43] You have to find meetings and fellowships that you like. Don't let any certain individuals make you condemn AA as a whole.
- [39:23] Some people don't buy into AA and then other people are way over the top.
- [40:26] Doctors should be utilized. Most sponsors aren't doctors or therapists.
- [41:08] Ben believes that the 12-step programs are the best way to get sober. He also believes that opinions can kill alcoholics. He believes that sponsors should not overstep their boundaries.
- [42:14] 100% of Ben's sponsees who have done all 11 steps and then became sponsors and continue to do the work stay sober.
- [44:12] To find a good sponsor take suggestions from other people.
- [44:47] Put yourself out there You have to be okay with getting uncomfortable.
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Links and Resources:
- Alcoholics Anonymous
- Narcotics Anonymous
- Ebby Thacher
- The Big Book
I am in West Sacramento, CA with Mark Bell of Super Training Gym. Mark is a powerlifter and entrepreneur who has had his own experiences with addiction. In this episode, Mark shares his early exposure to addiction and talks about how everybody needs something to hold onto while overcoming addiction.
Mark shares all kinds of knowledge like how exercise and nutrition can make everything better and the importance of looking into why you have certain behaviors. Mark is a husband, father, gym owner, powerlifter, inventor, podcaster, and inspiring guy. This podcast is packed with knowledge and inspiration that will help anyone start to look at addiction in a different light and make positive changes towards their life.
Show Notes
- [01:34] I am with Mark Bell of the Super Training Gym in West Sacramento, CA.
- [01:55] Training here has been a huge deal for me. I have been following Mark for 5 or 6 years. I wanted to get into powerlifting.
- [03:28] When people get clean and sober they want to change everything. I tell them to take it slow. The men always want to get jacked.
- [04:09] Mark's first experience with addiction. There was a lot in his family and he recognized it at a very young age.
- [04:56] Every year they dreaded going to Marks Mom's side of the family's house, but then they enjoyed going to his Dad's side of the family's house.
- [06:35] As a kid, Mark was always slightly uneasy when he went to his mom's family's house.
- [06:57] A lot of his mom's family struggled with addiction.
- [11:44] There's always a possibility that your child could end up being addicted to something.
- [12:48] Addicted people are no longer really in control.
- [14:22] If you are struggling with drugs and alcohol try to find one thing that you can hold on to like lifting weights or something.
- [16:21] When people give up drugs and alcohol it's like losing their best friend.
- [19:38] Sometimes Mark likes to get away from weight lifting and focus on his health.
- [21:33] A lot of great things happen when you're forced to do something. A strong why will help you figure out how.
- [25:08] Hold on to something and tell yourself that you have the discipline to do something until it is finished.
- [28:18] Why would you continue to do something that's harming other people in your life that you care for?
- [29:47] When you are addicted to something that suffocates you and consumes your life in your time.
- [36:48] People need to distinguish what being sober means to them. It's your own internal definition of what being sober means. Kratom could be a new addiction, it depends on why people use it.
- [42:34] Nutrition and exercise can be helpful towards any problem that you have.
- [44:40] What you put in your mouth is going to directly affect how you feel.
- [47:14] People in active addiction can't take ownership of anything and everything is someone else's fault.
- [49:04] Constant movement promotes constant movement. Do more be more.
- [50:11] Move a muscle change a thought. If you lay around on the couch all day that's exactly what you're going to get.
- [51:16] A 10-minute walk is a great life lesson because you can do 10 minutes of anything.
- [52:23] Look into why you're not doing the things that you should be doing. If you just do the things you're supposed to do, even if you don't want to do them, you will be so much further ahead of everyone else.
- [55:04] Coming clean with pornography addiction is very difficult. Even more difficult than coming clean with alcohol or drug use.
- [55:34] You have to be careful about what you put in your brain.
- [57:16] Mark usually does his personal development stuff from 4 to 6 a.m. This includes drinking some water maybe going outside going for a walk or listening to a podcast.
- [59:10] He plans his days in advance, so he can get done what he wants to get done.
- [59:43] He then cooks for his kids, goes to some meetings, gets to work out, and create his podcast.
- [01:02:04] Mark tries to get people excited about fitness even though it's a long painful process.
- [01:02:50] Mark can take wisdom that he learned from lifting and apply it to other areas of life.
- [01:03:35] Gain knowledge on the things you love to do and have those be part of your life.
- [01:04:36] Everyone possesses the ability to learn, gain more knowledge, and be stronger. Our abilities are endless once we open up our minds.
- [01:05:20] The more you can learn about yourself the more you can help other people.
- [01:05:57] If you are struggling right now reach out and ask for help.
- [01:06:46] If you recognize that someone has an addiction problem, take them out to lunch and see what's going on.
Links and Resources:
- Mark Bell Sling Shot
- Mark Bell Super Training Gym
- @MarkSmellyBell on Twitter
- Mark Bell on Instagram
- Mark Bell's Power Project
- Mark Bell’s Power Project iTunes
We have a round table with a group of addicts and alcoholics. We are all sitting here in a circle. We're going to talk about real life experiences when it comes to getting clean, staying clean, and what treatment is like. We also talk about what they've been going through and the struggles that they have.
We also talk about what they're looking forward to. Chris, Evan, Casey, Dylan, and James kick off the discussion with what they were going through prior to treatment. We talk about turning points and the actual treatment process once they are here. Everyone shares their struggles and more in this episode.
Show Notes
- [03:38] The group consists of Chris, Evan, Casey, Dylan, and James who are first going to talk about some of the barriers they had prior to treatment.
- [04:13] Life blowing up in your face is one of the things that gets you to treatment.
- [05:16] Evan was only 16, and he was embarrassed about his drug use. He overdosed and his parents knew something needed to be done.
- [08:34] Accepting that you are an alcoholic is a big part of going to treatment and having it work.
- [09:58] Changing things like beginning to exercise and who you hang out with can help, but you really do need the treatment process.
- [12:31] Everybody shares what they struggle with the most while they're in treatment.
- [12:59] For Chris, relationships are a struggle while in treatment. He needs to find relationships with people who have long-term sobriety.
- [16:24] People have different reasons for coming to rehab.
- [18:28] Certain things that you have done in the past can lead to misery. Don't repeat those behaviors that lead back to addiction. Don't get overconfident.
- [19:37] You don't realize how much you actually have until you look at it everyday and see all the things you have to be grateful for.
- [20:55] Go to treatment where you're going to be living. Build a support network because 30 days isn't enough.
- [22:52] A lot of people have the urgency to progress forward. Goals have to happen within a certain time frame. It can't be rushed.
- [25:49] Sometimes people with heroin addiction think that they can drink. There isn't much of a difference with the addiction aspect and needing to change something about yourself with a substance that you will use to an extreme.
- [30:42] Be okay with what you feel and what you think and try to find the core reason why you're putting these substances in your body in the first place.
- [31:37] Drinking begins as a social thing than it progresses to something more when you have the addictive mentality and the addictive mindset.
- [32:59] If you're not a drug addict or an alcoholic, you may never discover some of the things from childhood that are holding you down.
- [33:27] Tom's addiction has given him the opportunity to look at everything that has happened in his past.
- [35:12] Fears that come when treatment comes to an end.
- [36:02] It's crucial to build a foundation around people who are serious about recovery.
- [36:28] Reach out and find people in meetings to hold you accountable.
- [37:56] A big fear is what are you going to do when no one is watching you.
- [39:59] Stay as long as you can and make sure you are ready to go home. There's a good chance that home isn't a sober place to be.
- [40:35] When you go to treatment be completely open-minded and let the people there make the decisions for you.
- [41:03] Do your research on treatment places before you go, and 30 days isn't enough. Take your time, because you can't fix your problems and do what you have to do when you're using.
- [41:54] Be careful who you associate with. Get in a 12-step program. Take some time and sit with yourself.
There is no shortage of people who need to be in recovery. Many people in recovery consider at one point or another working in the industry. There are wrong reasons and right reasons to work in the addiction recovery business. Today Tom, Ben, Adam, and Renee discuss how and why they got into the business.
We also talk about the right reasons and the wrong reasons to get into the business. We talk about the challenges and complete chaos that happens as well as the joy of seeing people succeed. We talk how you have to have a desire to help people to be successful and why your own recovery is a separate thing.
Show Notes
- [02:00] Why would somebody want to work with a bunch of addicts?
- [02:48] Adam asks why wouldn't someone want to work in this field? It is so rewarding. Even though, there is chaos all the time and so many moving parts.
- [03:06] Adam went to school to become a counselor. He tried several things, but working with the addiction population is way more exciting and fun.
- [05:55] Adam has a four-year degree with a specialty major in something related to psychology and a graduate degree in mental health counseling. He had two years of supervised work. Then he sat for his exam. Then he can go out and help people.
- [07:45] Adam was told do what you love and the money will follow and he loved helping people.
- [09:20] There's a common story in the helping profession, people have just been doing it their whole lives.
- [11:49] It's pretty natural for a lot of our clients to decide to get into this field. There is definitely a right way to do it and a not so right way to do it.
- [12:29] If you go full time to the addiction program it's 18 months.
- [12:48] The South Florida Shuffle is when people come down here and get into treatment and they start marketing for treatment centers down the road. The South Florida Shuffle is people bouncing from treatment center to treatment center because some street marketer got involved.
- [15:39] One of the problem is these people don't know anything about the care that these clients will receive.
- [16:11] There is now less client brokering going on here in South Florida.
- [16:44] You can also start as a behavioral health tech and work your way up. This is what Ben, Renee, and Tom did.
- [17:12] This is a great way to find out what it's like and to spend time with clients.
- [18:47] Legitimately good treatment centers require you to have at least a couple years of being sober.
[22:11] We let people know that if they relapse they have a place to come to.
[22:27] Renee was managing a pest control company. A friend of hers told her about a job in the recovery industry. At first, she really didn't want to do it.
[23:04] Ben was Renee's tech, and she wasn't a good client at that point.
[24:02] She was actually blacklisted from that treatment center.
[24:59] Renee and Ben ended up working together and Renee was HR and case management.
[25:15] Once Renee started working in the field, she never wanted to do anything else. - [25:31] Renee loves the fact that we want to make the world better.
- [27:01] Ben says that Renee is so valuable because there's not much that she can't say to a client or a parent that she hasn't been through.
- [29:48] Treatment work is not your recovery. Your personal recovery happens outside of work.
- [30:44] In the addiction industry, you are caring for other people.
- [34:00] Sometimes Ben feels even more effective helping people outside of work.
- [37:06] Everybody sees themselves staying in this job for the future.
- [38:03] They not only love working with clients, but they also love working with each other. People in this field are very passionate.
- [39:08] The opportunities helping people are amazing. They have built lives that they could never met imagine. They're always trying to find creative ways to treat people.
- [40:16] If you like helping people and you're strong in your recovery then get in the industry.
To get the right answers, you have to ask the right questions. Today's episode is a recording of a group session led by Tom and Ben. Eric and Casey are their guests. Tom asked these gentlemen to answer the following questions. What is your name? Who are you? What are you interested in? Where are you from?
He also asked about what their lifestyles consisted of, what are their backgrounds, values, how people describe them, what people notice about them, future goals, what makes them smile, perfect date, qualities of a life partner, and what do they believe is the key to a successful relationship? As we work through their answers, it’ll become clear why Tom asked these questions as he puts a bow on things and ties up the end of the show.
Show Notes
- [03:26] Eric is a person with a strong sense of morals finding his way to a better life on the path of recovery.
- [03:48] Casey is a brother, son, and uncle who loves music and Pokemon.
- [04:13] Eric and Casey are both from Georgia. Ben is from South Florida, and Tom is from Pittsburgh, PA.
- [04:35] Eric is interested in having a good time and being intellectually stimulated.
- [04:55] Casey likes music, art, Pokemon, social science and self-care.
- [05:25] Eric works at two stores and is going to five AA meetings and two group sessions.
- [05:51] Casey is looking for a job.
- [06:48] Eric has a retail background and is a communications major. He comes from a broken family and was orphaned and moved around.
- [07:26] His background and fear of abandonment and uncertainty tied into his addiction.
- [07:41] Casey is one of 10 kids. He has one semester left to graduate.
- [08:06] Both guys are 24 years old.
- [08:29] Eric's values include honesty, respect, and doing the right thing no matter how difficult it may be.
- [08:45] Casey's values include Independence, work ethic, honesty, and creativity.
- [10:00] Casey has been clean 62 days and Eric 65 days.
- [10:32] Eric is described as loving and caring yet sometimes irresponsible or incompetent.
- [11:29] Casey is a good person who makes terrible. His decision-making is getting better.
- [12:51] Eric is open and easy to talk to.
- [13:09] Casey comes off as shy but opens up once you start talking to people.
- [13:32] Ben has been told that he is intimidating.
- [15:36] Eric's future goals are establishing a career.
- [17:00] Casey wants to get a job. He wants to get six months sober. He also wants to go back to school and graduate with a degree in anthropology.
- [17:54] Humor makes Eric smile and random acts of kindness.
- [18:46] Casey likes seeing himself grow and when his higher power works things out for him. He also loves his nieces.
- [19:51] One of the first signs of relapse is losing the attitude of gratitude.
- [21:50] A perfect date for Eric would be dinner, shopping, a movie, and then back to his place.
- [22:48] A perfect date for Casey would be to go to a mom-and-pop restaurant and then chill outside. There would be lights, a fire, and they would even hang out and drink hot chocolate.
- [23:46] Eric would want his mate to be honest, caring, resourceful, intelligent, physically attractive, and to love his family.
- [23:59] Casey would want his mate to be independent, confident, kind, giving, honest, possess a good work ethic, patient, and they would have respect for themselves.
- [24:14] Compassion, understanding, trust, dependability, and honesty are the keys to a great relationship for Eric.
- [24:30] Honesty, not relying on each other too much, self-awareness, effective communication, and being able to spend time apart are keys to a great relationship for Casey.
- [25:16] These questions all came off of match.com.
- [25:41] The point of all this is a question that Tom noticed from Andy Stanley. The question is are you what you are asking for?
- [26:18] This is an opportunity to look at your answers to these questions and ask if you are in a position to get in a relationship right now.
- [26:52] New relationships often cause relapse, because they are an excuse not to focus on yourself.
- [31:27] Are you exuding the values that you say that you have?
- [32:19] The recovery process takes an emotional toll and it takes time to heal. It wouldn't be good to jump into a relationship before you are ready.
- [34:54] Nick shares tips for working on your weaker qualities one by one until they are mastered.
- [39:30] Even casual dating is opening yourself up emotionally.
- [41:51] The important thing to understand is relationships right now shouldn't be part of the equation.
- [42:57] The person you want to date will not be the same person after your 12 steps are completed.
- [45:24] Anything you put before your recovery and your sobriety, you will lose.
Links and Resources:
Andy Stanley
David was a guest we had on episode 12 last January. He talked about his journey from addiction to sobriety. That David was a totally different David than today’s David. After the episode, he joined the military, had a relapse, and became sober again. We talk about his journey and the LGBT recovery community.
He shares how the military was a scapegoat for him, but it didn’t work out. He ended up getting discharged and going on a party bender right afterwards. He then went back to detox for a week and spent 90 days in Rock Recovery. He has been sober for eight months now and shares the entire story with us.
Show Notes
- [01:56] David was here at the beginning of the year in Episode 12. He had a slip after the episode was recorded. He has since been sober for about 8 months.
- [02:00] David joined the military and had a mental and emotional relapse before the physical relapse.
- [03:03] Recovering addicts and alcoholics are some of the most accepting people on the face of the planet.
- [03:58] David about nine months ago talked about his journey and going into the military.
- [04:32] When he knows people are going to tell him something opposite from what he wants to do, he just doesn't talk about that thing.
- [04:55] In the back of his mind, he thought that joining the military would be a way to leave and use again without people knowing.
- [05:43] He discovered that the military environment wasn't the most supportive emotionally, plus he was being messed with for being gay.
- [06:09] The Baker Act means you spend a week in a psych ward and then he got a medical discharge.
- [07:15] After his discharge, he went on a party binge.
- [08:02] He was in the military for three months.
- [09:55] He did learn discipline and a code of ethics while he was in the military.
- [11:55] After his binge, he went back to detox for a week and then 90 days in Rock Recovery.
- [12:14] He has a new sponsor and has been sober first. He went through the steps in the book.
- [15:43] From David's experience, LGBT people want to be treated equal, but they want their struggles to also be recognized.
- [17:08] The common denominator between all of us is that all addicts have the same type of issues.
- [22:49] How some gay people may feel that making themselves vulnerable and showing who they are is showing weakness, so they use deflection to stay apart from the group.
- [23:39] Many gay guys take on the identity of stereotypes, because that's what society tells them is their role.
- [24:43] Doing the steps and finding a higher power can help someone become more comfortable with who they are.
- [25:35] You can grow from the steps. You figure out what defense mechanisms you use in your life with other people, and then you can change them and grow as a person.
- [26:03] Being vulnerable is a key step to recovery.
- [29:18] Things that we can't control don't need to differentiate us so much that we can't bond with other people. Our underlying experiences and emotions are similar.
- [31:14] If we look at our similarities instead of looking at what makes us different, our experiences are going to be so much greater.
- [31:19] If you get vulnerable, other people around you will get vulnerable.
- [36:36] We all have different issues. Gay people can have different issues in therapy, but a lot of us have the same issues. Everyone has traumatic events.
- [39:29] David tries to treat people the same and not look at them as being different. The only thing about being gay that sets him apart is that he's attracted to men.
- [40:41] Ben gets David's opinion on transgender people.
- [42:31] Ben also asks David about LGBT exclusive recovery meetings. David thinks these might be distracting.
- [44:55] While doing steps, people don't really have an idea about who they are. It's not the best time to be in a relationship to give love and respect.
- [45:38] Know who you are before getting in a relationship.
- [46:14] Exclusive meetings can be closing yourself off.
- [47:17] Gay men may be more prone to sex addiction. Sometimes people can get confused as sex as love.
- [51:03] It's very easy for gay guys to find hookups.
- [54:22] David suggests not to only hang out with people in the gay community when you're a gay person in recovery. Also, stay off of the dating apps. Open up and share your story. Use your drug addiction experiences as a beacon of light.
- [56:56] Ben is super proud of David, he is nailing quality sobriety.
- [57:42] Giving back to the community is what keeps him sober.
Links and Resources:
Ep. 12 - A Discussion with David, His journey from Addiction to Sobriety
We recently received a text from the mother of one of the people that we tried to help. It thanked us for our efforts but said that her son recently lost his battle with addiction and life. Getting a message like this puts everything in perspective. It is sad and heart breaking, but it also is a reminder of why we do what we do.
It’s a reminder of all that we have to be thankful for and why it is important that we do the best we can to help people cherish their lives and strive to move foreword in a positive way. Today, we are going to discuss how serious addiction can be even when you do everything possible to help someone.
Show Notes
- [02:34] We received a text message from the mother of someone that we have known for more than a year. It said that he had lost his battle with addiction.
- [02:56] We did everything we possibly could to help him.
- [03:37] even when we do everything right on our end someone can still lose their battle with addiction.
- [03:43] We aren't in the results business. We are in the business of showing up.
- [04:04] We do what we can with what we have to help people. Unfortunately, this stuff happens a lot.
- [04:58] We feel a sense of responsibility to the parents of the people who come to us for treatment.
- [06:04] In some cases, we work for three or four months with the parent before we even meet the person who is struggling with addiction. We get to know the parents very very well.
- [06:38] It hits home when you know the family and know that they are depending on you to do the best job possible.
- [07:13] We are at a loss for words because we know this is a terrible Thanksgiving for this mother who lost her son.
- [08:37] There's a fine line between helping someone and enabling someone. You need to be able to look back and know that you did everything you could. In this case, this mother did do everything that she possibly could.
- [09:31] Ben's aunt recently passed away from alcohol and drug induced overdose.
- [10:16] A childhood friend of his also recently passed away.
- [10:52] If you stick around recovery long enough, you're going to see a lot of death. On the other hand, you're going to see miracles that outweigh the tragedies.
- [11:48] People react differently with the grieving process. Ben has seen parents get angry at him. and he has had parents thank him for all that he tried to do.
- [13:00] It's not your fault. The three C's. You didn't cause it. You can't control it, and you can't cure it.
- [14:00] Sometimes tragedies like this bring more awareness to the battles that people have with addiction.
- [15:13] We need a lot more people doing the same thing that we are doing and getting the word out about addiction.
- [15:52] It hurts when people don't have the resources to get into a good treatment center.
- [17:04] If you have the opportunity to get help, please utilize it.
- [17:41] Treatment helps, but it's not a cure-all.
- [19:07] If someone decides that they want help down the road, if they've been to treatment before, at least they know that these resources exist. Sometimes success in our field is planting a seed that will sprout later.
- [19:30] There are faith-based organizations out there and AA and 12-step programs and Celebrate Recovery.
- [19:54] Tom is grateful and thankful that he and Ben get to do this and talk to multiple people throughout the days in an effort to help them and spread the message of recovery.
- [20:36] Ben is thankful for the here and now. He is so grateful and proud of the people in the groups that he is a part of.
- [22:41] Ben is making up for all of the harm that he did in the world. Being a dad is an amazing feeling. He is grateful for the little things in our precious lives.
- [23:55] Be grateful for what you have been through and what you are here to do now.
- [26:04] Ben and Tom have known each other for 7 years plus. Now they podcast together, work together, and help as many people as possible.
- [26:30] If you have questions or need help with anything, please reach out to us. We are a resource that you can utilize.
- [28:23] Getting better is more important than being home for the holidays.
Links and Resources:
Celebrate Recovery
Billy is a man who has been clean for 14 months and is helping other people to do the same. In this episode, he shares his story and his history of abuse. He was in a downward spiral until a man he met in jail told him about Fern House recovery center. Billy took it step by step and just followed the directions. He now not only is in recovery, but he is helping others do the same.
This show is going to focus on the differences between a private treatment center and a state-run treatment center. People whose resources have been used up often end up in a state run center or a non-profit like Fern House. These centers are much more bare bones, and you really have to want it to recover with minimum help. We also talk about how people who are fortunate enough to go to a private treatment center have an opportunity of a lifetime. Listen in as Ben and I talk with Billy about treatment and recovery.
Show Notes
- [02:16] Billy has been in South Florida for about 23 years.
- [02:27] He is from Pomona, California. He is 45 years old and has been clean for 14 months.
- [03:40] Billy was in a motorcycle accident about 10 years ago when he was trying to outrun the police.
- [03:48] He was put on medication and it eventually got a hold of him. He would go to a dual diagnosis hospital and get his meds for the month so that he would not be sick.
- [04:23] He had a pain medication doctor who would legally subscribe his medication. He was abusing the medication, so he would run out before the month was up.
- [05:14] Billy already had a history of addiction. He started with pot when he was just a kid and gradually worked up the chain of drugs. He even did something that he said he would never do and put a needle in his arm when he was 36.
- [07:19] After his motorcycle accident, Billy lost his new house and his business and had to move back in with his parents.
- [08:26] He had limited insurance, but he would use it to fuel his drug habit. When he ran out of medication, he would get admitted to a dual diagnosis hospital to be given pain medication during treatment.
- [09:21] A dual diagnosis Hospital treats mental illness and substance abuse. The Baker Act means if someone is a harm to themselves or others, they can be put into a hospital for up to 72 hours.
- [10:03] At the dual diagnosis hospital they do provide treatment groups, but you don't have to attend. You basically just eat and sleep and go out for cigarette breaks while being high on the drugs that they give you.
- [11:16] Things continued to spiral downward for Billy. He got arrested and met a guy in jail who told him about Fern House residential rehabilitation.
- [11:20] He went there and stayed there for six months. People in jail or prison get referred here often.
- [13:10] In state-funded facilities the clinicians aren't paid very well, and it's more of a bare bones treatment plan. Private centers have more resources.
- [18:41] At the Fern House, Billy learned to go to meetings, and he kept following the directions. He did what people told him and followed the process.
- [20:55] Ben and Billy met at the Fern House and Ben shared his 12-step experience with Billy.
- [21:32] Today, Billy sponsors guys at the Fern House and passes it on.
- [22:38] Billy shares a story of how lying is not the best idea. Honesty is part of the process.
- [25:28] Sending kids to a treatment facility is not sending them on vacation.
- [26:16] Private facilities provide more in client care such as quality well-paid therapists. You can also have fun, because getting sober isn't easy. At Rock they do fun activities like boating and fishing.
- [28:07] It can be a struggle to learn how to live again at a state lock-down type facility.
- [31:21] Ben would look at Fern House as more of a boot camp style facility.
- [32:01] People need to be ready for treatment, but having insurance can be an excuse to not try because they can keep going into treatment.
- [33:19] Going in and out of detoxing can cause people to overdose.
- [34:32] Alcoholics recover when they have two options either die or recover.
- [35:31] Billy helps people recover in the right way.
Links and Resources:
Fern House
Tom and Ben discuss the top five reasons to come to South Florida for treatment. There are a lot of reasons why South Florida is a great place to come to for treatment for you or your loved ones. We talk about those reasons along with real life examples that have affected us.
We also give our real opinion on the TV show Dope Sick Nation. We want to set the record straight on why everything on TV isn’t portrayed as accurately as it could be. We also talk about what a good recovery center is and the importance of having a great community.
Show Notes
- [03:54] How Dope Sick Nation is a bit misleading.
- [06:03] When treatment doesn't work out for people the first time. Then they lose insurance and need a scholarship to go through treatment again.
- [06:20] Scholarships in Florida are limited because there's been a huge crack down on client brokering. Unscrupulous owners can look at individuals as insurance policies.
- [07:04] The show does not show accurate representations of professionals in the recovery field.
- [07:56] The detox being represented in Dope Sick Nation isn't well-established.
- [08:48] Unfortunately, addicts can use suboxone to get high.
- [09:27] Dope Sick nation is not what South Florida treatment looks like. You can't stay street and continue to help people.
- [10:38] True interventionist inspire people, they don't go running around looking for addicts.
- [12:35] It looks like premature intervention is what's going on in the show. You can't treat people until they are ready.
- [13:12] We think South Florida is a good place for treatment. There is a good recovery community here.
- [13:30] The 12-step Community is key. There is a meeting on every corner at every hour in South Florida.
- [13:52] The recovery community is widespread. We can't go anywhere without seeing someone in recovery.
- [14:39] South Florida fosters a good environment for people to get clean.
- [15:18] When you come to South Florida for recovery, it's like a getting a fresh start. There is no fear of running into people who know about you.
- [16:51] There's very little stigma in South Florida and a lot of acceptance.
- [18:12] The meetings are great opportunities to meet new people even if you are looking for a job. Talk and mingle because you never know what opportunities you will find.
- [19:16] When people get clean and sober, they have an opportunity to do whatever they want.
- [20:22] By going to treatment, you get the opportunity to rewrite your script.
- [20:43] Geographical change. There are so many benefits to getting out of your hometown. You get a new place and a new you and you get to portray something different.
- [22:11] There are so many cool things to do in South Florida that you don't have time to go out and get high.
- [22:42] We take our clients surfing, boating, horseback riding, and do all kinds of fun activities.
- [23:17] Adventure therapy shows that there are other things to enjoy.
- [25:29] These activities also give people an opportunity to develop new hobbies that they enjoy.
- [25:44] We aren't the only good treatment center in South Florida. There are many great treatment centers here.
- [27:22] The FBI has a task force that cracks down on unscrupulous treatment centers. We wish Vice News would cover the better treatment centers.
Links and Resources:
Dope Sick Nation
Ep. 38 – Geographical Change: Assisting People Through Recovery
We have a very special guest today, it's my wife Amanda Conrad. Amanda has a lot of knowledge to offer. Many people in her family have struggled with addiction. She is here to talk about what it is like growing up with addiction and being the only one not struggling with it.
Some of the things we discuss are how behaviors that she thought were normal actually weren’t. She started to realize this when she was around other families. We also talk about why Amanda was never an addict, how Amanda had to set boundaries with her father, and more.
Show Notes
- [02:35] Amanda and I have been married just over 4 years. I am an alcoholic and a drug addict.
- [02:56] Addiction played a role in Amanda's life well before me.
- [03:11] Her father started drinking when Amanda and her sister were in the 4th or 5th grade. He was sober for 3 or 4 years.
- [04:17] Being a dry drunk in the recovery world is when someone just stops drinking, but they don't work on anything.
- [04:51] Amanda sister also struggled with depression, eating, and cutting. She has a lot of addictive tendencies.
- [05:20] She would hide the food or sneak.
- [05:35] Amanda's brother smoked pot and used drugs and alcohol which caused a psychotic break.
- [06:22] Amanda has no idea why she didn't become an addict, she thinks a lot of it has to do with going to private school and the Christian aspect of things.
- [09:14] Fear of relapse and addiction creeping in is a problem for Amanda. She is co-dependent without knowing it. There are things she accepts that aren't normal.
- [10:41] She thought it was normal for her dad to get drunk or drink in the car. These things are toxic and unhealthy.
- [12:18] Amanda surrounded herself with families that she wanted her family to be like. Like moms that baked cookies. This allowed her to see that her dad's behavior wasn't healthy.
- [13:36] Addicts are the last ones to know that something is wrong. They don't believe that their behavior is affecting the people around them.
- [14:29] A lot of stress and unmanaged emotions probably played into Amanda's father's addiction.
- [15:11] Drinking can creep in and take over your life before you know it.
- [15:44] She has cut her father out of her life. This is the best boundary that she could set.
- [16:17] She was seeking love from her father. He would choose alcohol over being present.
- [17:07] Not all alcoholics hit rock bottom, but this is what it sometimes takes to clean up their life.
- [17:38] Amanda's fear of relapse comes from seeing the destruction of her family.
- [18:41] Anyone can become an addict by the simple choices that they make.
- [19:27] There was something calm about Tom that attracted Amanda to him. She felt safe.
- [22:13] Amanda still sometimes reads things based on the environment that she grew up in.
- [23:01] Her dad would raise his voice when he was drunk. Tom hardly ever raises his voice. She has a subconscious fear of Tom yelling which never comes true.
- [24:43] When Amanda was growing up their dad would hover over them when they cooked. She kind of has cooking PTSD.
- [25:33] Amanda became a Christian in 2008. She surrounded herself with like-minded people that were able to lift her up. She also went to Al-Anon.
- [27:00] Being around people who don't judge her has played a part in her life hear it.
- [27:45] Al-Anon is the most common group for people dealing with the addiction of a loved one.
- [29:07] When alcoholics and addicts get clean and sober they have a lot to offer.
- [30:01] Boundaries with people around you are something that you need to learn every single day. Especially, for people to grow up around addicts.
- [30:54] Learn how to create clear boundaries and have someone hold you accountable to those boundaries.
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Paige Fant is back to talk about what it is like to be married to an active user and what it is like being married to someone in recovery. We are joined by Adam Colling and Ben Bueno. Paige shares her personal experience with codependency and how it is important to love without being self-destructive.
We talk about the importance of setting boundaries and finding outside support from 12-step programs like Al-Anon and AA. We also talk about achieving balance and each person being responsible for their own pain. Finding support and a therapist are also helpful when going through the process.
Show Notes
- [02:54] Often times people don't know what to do when they're married to an active user, and they just retract and don't do anything.
- [03:24] A good place to start is by asking the question is this person willing to get help or have they ever asked for help.
- [03:44] A dry person is someone who has stopped drinking, but they're absolutely miserable and nothing else has changed.
- [04:00] Family members and friends are all responsible for dealing with their own pain. How they deal with it is very important.
- [04:44] Learn about alcohol and addiction and try to understand what your loved one is going through.
- [05:17] Sometimes it feels really good to relate to somebody that has gone through what you're going through.
- [07:23] The idea of Al-Anon is a place where relatives can gain support. It's a great place to find support but also find a therapist.
- [08:00] Boundaries and settling your emotions down are the most important things in this process.
- [08:40] The families of addicts experience so much embarrassment and shame and people don't realize that. There is also a loneliness to that that makes Al- Anon a safe and inclusive place.
- [09:21] It's about finding a good meeting that's the right fit for you with a wide variety of people in different stages of recovering.
- [11:12] Paige had some friends who recommended that she go to Al-Anon. She cried during her first meeting.
- [12:11] Paige was interested in someone who was in recovery. She was in Al-Anon for about 6 years, and she credits the health of her marriage to it.
- [14:27] Alcoholics can be very co-dependent, and they frequently move on to Al-Anon after their 12 step program.
- [16:19] Having an addict as a family member can take control of your life. This is one of the reasons why a support group is so important.
- [18:14] Paige became enslaved needing the approval of others. She felt like she had to please everybody else. She had to learn the balance and how to lovingly treat someone suffering from addiction without it hurting her.
- [20:39] Don't try to convince others to go to AA with you.
- [21:55] Alcohol and drug addiction has to be self-diagnosed. You can't tell someone that they need to go to AA.
- [22:25] it's Insanity to go to a 12-step program and not work the 12 steps.
- [22:47] The 12 Steps in Al-Anon are the same 12 steps in AA.
- [24:34] It's important to recognize major boundaries. You need to take care of yourself and live your own life independently.
- [25:53] It's important to step back and not make major decisions right away.
- [28:16] When someone gets clean their loved one suddenly has no one to help.
- [30:36] When you are married to someone in recovery their program is not your program. You have to take your hands off of your spouse's program.
- [32:07] It's important to not be insecure and resent the time your spouse spends in AA.
- [34:51] It can be hard to find balance between meetings and family life.
- [37:06] Nobody is immune from the effects of the addiction. It affects everybody and all the family members.
- [37:46] If you go to a 12-step program, do the work.
- [38:29] Get a therapist too.
- [39:01] Family Support is so important. Keep searching until you find the right support.
Links and Resources:
- Ep. 33 – Rehab Romances: Will A Relationship Mess Up Your Recovery?
- Al-Anon
- AA
- Tides Counseling
Geographical change can help assist people going through recovery. A change that includes getting away from the people and influences that led to the addiction in the first place can be helpful. Benjamin B. and Renee L. are here today to talk about the benefits of sending your loved one to recovery someplace that includes geographical change.
We talk about South Florida recovery versus Northeast recovery and Renee shares her experience with both. Renee and Ben both share their experience with recovery and geographical change. We talk about medically assisted therapies like suboxone and methadone and how additional therapy geared toward abstinence, spirituality, or AA are needed along with a desire to change.
Show Notes
- [02:50] Prior to coming to South Florida, Renee was deep in her addiction. She actually came to South Florida for geographical change.
- [03:21] She didn't stay in the Northeast because of people, places, and things.
- [03:40] In the Northeast, there's the high-end recovery that focuses on yoga or medically assisted treatment.
- [04:00] Renee had tried suboxone therapy and it didn't keep her sober.
- [04:18] There are a lot of suboxone clinics up north.
- [04:47] Ben also has experience with methadone and suboxone.
- [06:24] When Ben was taking the methadone, he received therapy once a month. The methadone and suboxone kept him alive long enough to gather enough tools to want abstinence.
- [08:35] Ben went to therapy in Minnesota where his grandmother lived.
- [09:07] Medically assisted treatment means some type of methadone or suboxone, but there is no actual therapy.
- [10:02] Technically, Renee wasn't sober. She was just switching from opiates to suboxone.
- [11:47] Suboxone is also an abusable drug that people can become dependent on.
- [12:53] Geographical change removes the addict from the place where they are comfortable with their addiction.
- [13:17] Getting on an airplane and going 1500 miles away from home is a commitment. It's also a good way to avoid triggers.
- [14:25] Without geographical change, Renee doesn't think she would have gotten sober.
- [16:50] In the first year, Renee changed nothing other than where she was living. Relationships made getting clean the hardest for her.
- [18:01] When relationships failed, Renee went back to drugs.
- [18:57] South Florida is known for having great recovery.
- [20:30] It's hard to get clean when you're still surrounded by people who don't want that to happen.
- [22:59] By traveling for recovery, it's harder to change your mind and go home. Addicts can be extremely impulsive.
- [24:28] It's vital that loved ones and those involved don't make the geographical change with the addict. This includes over the phone and Skype. People need to make their journeys on their own.
- [27:04] Life is going to happen no matter what. You can get through things without getting high. Treatment is not easy for your love ones, you can't derail it as a family member.
- [30:23] Families being involved are a vital part of the process, but there is a time and a place.
- [33:37] Renee is hoping to start a meeting in the Northeast. She built a good foundation during the five years she was in South Florida.
- [35:09] Exercise abstinence first. Don't look at a MAT program as your first option. Benefits to geographical change include commitment, recovery based culture, and lack of triggers.
- [37:33] Geographical change is very important if it is a viable option for you.
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Episode 20: Is Methadone an Effective Treatment Option?
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Zach thought he was going to be a “White Chip Wonder” but ended up relapsing shortly after getting through treatment. Zach talks about how he thought he had the steps all down and he was secure in his recovery.
Today he'll tell you there were a few critical components overlooked, one of which was his need to begin supporting others in their recovery.
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You'll hear from Paige who is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Addictions Professional currently working with individuals in various stages of their recovery.
We'll explore why romantic relationships can feel like a great thing and might even make you feel stronger in your recovery, but in truth, these relationships can be a substitute for our previous addictions.
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One of the most important hurdles to overcome while in addition recovery treatment is the shame our loved ones can feel about their past actions. Hear how this issue is addressed and the positive changed what comes out of it.
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Josiah is a licensed therapist in the addiction recovery industry. He has a rare story to share today as he walks you through his recovery process and shares the struggles he faced along the way. Josiah has achieved 4 years of sobriety.
He uses his experience by sharing the knowledge and expertise he gained through the years of his own addiction and recovery. He also helps you better understand what it means to have a sponsor, and what one can gain from them.
Your prescription medications may be what your body needs to function properly and it could help you stay off whatever drug-of-choice brought you to treatment. But, oftentimes the prescriptions you've been given were needed to counteract the effects of your addiction. So, how do you know what you need and what you don't?
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Get ready for some brutally honest truths about the substance abuse treatment industry. What works and what doesn't work and how the staff, clients, and loved ones of those in the center can make sure they're doing the very best they can do to be successful in recovery.
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A lot of people, especially those in recovery for drug addiction, are looking for the next best quick-fix.
For most addicts in recovery, steroid use isn't considered to be a relapse (by them). They walk into a treatment center and their first desired step of recovery is to change their appearance.
Whether, you're numbing your pain with drugs and alcohol, or taking steroids for fast results, you're looking for an external quick-fix to change your internal well-being.
Understand the different levels of treatment as well as the length of time you can expect each level to require from you. Also, what you should tell a loved one about their expected length of stay. You'll also hear about the factors that will contribute to this length of stay.
If you or a loved one have tried a 12-Step program like Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous and weren't successful this episode is for you.
Find out what works and what doesn't work in the typical 12-step recovery program.
Our guest, Ron, will also teach you what it takes to conduct an intervention to get someone you love into treatment for their alcohol or substance abuse issues.
There's been a lot of media coverage revolving around the drug and alcohol treatment centers in South Florida who are just in it to make money. Most of these places will leave an addict in worse shape than when they arrived. It's scary! But there are signs you can look for and ways for you to identify the ones to avoid.
It wasn't until she was arrested and faced losing custody of her son that Traci finally found the treatment she needed to overcome her addictions.
She shares what motivated her and how her family helped her get into treatment and keep on track in her recovery.
If you have a loved one struggling with addiction or alcohol abuse, this episode will give you some direction and encouragement.
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Nick Conti was raised in a wonderful and supportive family in Pittsburgh, PA. He played sports, excelled in school and went on to graduate with a business degree. He earned his way into a great career and had everything going for him by all outward appearances. Listen to how he ended up overdosing on heroin and spending a week in the hospital looking for an opportunity to get more drugs?
This is a South Florida Success Story, spotlighting those who have completed addiction treatment in South Florida and are thriving today with a life many thought they lost. Here's how Nick found his path to sobriety through South Florida.
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Co-Dependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Care For Yourself by Melody Beattie
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In this episode we discuss 5 things that you can look for to determine how co-dependent you are. Co-Dependency is within every family dynamic and plays a role within addiction. We also discuss 3 things you can do to resolve your co-dependency
In this episode we discuss addiction and how it resembles a hurricane. At the eye of the storm, it is calm. But the outer bands come very often with calm points in-between, but rest assured they are coming!
We need to know how addiction can rip through our families and destroy everything in its path.
We, the loved ones, do not to be affected as much as we often times are. We have to stand up for ourselves and set boundaries!
In this episode I go over some of the questions that I have heard over the years from people looking for treatment for their loved ones. There are a few questions that need to be asked and thats it,
Ask,
Get the answer,
Leave it at that!
Don't over analyze it and look for the perfect treatment center.
IT DOESNT EXIST!
In this episode we discuss Vapes and what you should know about them: They are everywhere and they are becoming an issue in schools and are affecting our teens and young adults.
Also, You can out drugs in these things! And they can look like a USB drive!
Parents, listen intently....Enjoy the Show!
In this episode we discuss relationships, again. I don't think it can be talked about enough. People get buried because they try and get into relationships to early, fact.
Two sickies don't make a welly and Ill tell ya why!
People newly clean don't have the bandwidth to offer to another person, they must focus on themselves.
Period.
In todays episode with talk with David. David is an amazing person with a lot of insightful information to offer those wondering about addiction.
Having struggles with it himself for many years, David is well aware of the dangers and pitfalls that it can cause left untreated. David tells us his story and how he found a life of sobriety for himself.
Sit Back, Relax and ENJOY THIS SHOW!
In this episode we talk about things that YOU can do to help ensure that your child or children don't grow up and develop an addiction.
There are many factors that play into ones addiction and the things that may have happened during childhood that determines how much of an addiction they develop.
Social, Environmental, Physical, Cognitive, Spiritual Etc. These are all factors to look at and they all need to be addressed equally.
Take notes and ENJOY THIS SHOW!!
In todays episode we discuss 5 myths that you may have heard when it comes to addiction. There are certain things that people say and believe about addiction and recovery that are just not true.
An interesting episode for people that may have a skewed idea of addiction and recovery.
Grab a pencil, open your ears, take notes and enjoy this show!
In this episode we discuss the importance of gratitude and why we need to have an abundance of it to maintain our sobriety.
Gratitude is not hard to get, but it is hard to keep. There is work involved with keeping it at the forefront of your heart.
Generally when someone is sober for a while, gratitude is the first thing to go when they get on the road to relapse. Which is why it is important to do things daily to remind yourself of how grateful you are! Gratitude and resentment cannot live in the same mind.
Enjoy the show!
In this episode I go over some questions that you should ask when researching addiction treatment centers. Some are good and some are bad, and it can be hard to tell what you are getting. Don't be afraid to ask questions and do your own research, but remember, don't look for the perfect treatment center!
In this episode we discuss Kava and Kratom and the reasons behind why someone would want to use this, especially while in early recovery. We discuss the pros and the cons of it and I share my opinion as to why I don't fully believe in it.
Do your own research and formulate your own opinion from there.
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In this episode we I talk with my dad and discuss what I was like when I was in active addiction and the decisions that he had to make to make sure that i got help. The intent of this episode is to show you what its like with other parents dealing with their loved ones in addiction. Enjoy the show!
In this episode we discuss romantic relationships in early recovery and the reasons why it is a bad idea. We discuss the things to look out for and explain in detain why getting into this type of relationship can be extremely detrimental to ones recovery and sobriety.
We also have a guest! Renee is someone that has experience with this very topic and was gracious enough to come on and let everyone know her story and why getting into a relationship in early recovery prevented her from truly recovering for a very long time.
Enjoy!
In this episode we discuss what the process of addiction looks like and how people get there. We talk about how being addicted isn't exactly an enjoyable process and once there how difficult it can be to get out. We also discuss the Jellenicks Chart of addiction.
In this show we discuss things that YOU may need to hear. What are you doing that is aiding in your loved ones addiction? Do you understand the implications that this may have? Also, we discuss things that you can do to help your loved one get clean and sober and strengthen your relationship all at the same time.
On todays episode we discuss the future of Real Recovery Talk and the vision for this show. You will hear a little bit about myself and the reasons behind WHY I want to do this show.