Relational Parents of Adolescents: Recent Episodes
Theresa Puckett
Would you like to stop reacting reflexively to your teen's behavior? Join me for a chat and to question what we think we know! This is not about more information, it's about more LOVE. What if we don't have to make our kids OR ourselves - Wrong?! xo ~ T
What comes to mind when you think about a “great” student? Play with me, and in 12 minutes you could be (even) more Relational!
Want to stop reacting reflexively to your kid’s behavior? Schedule a complimentary call to clarify your vision and next steps: https://relationalparents.as.me/ClarityWithT
Gone the days when they depended on us for everything. It’s time to get more skillful in order to provide more for them now than food and shelter. Let’s chat!
Register for September’s FREE playshop, where writing coach Joanna Norland is sharing a Magic way to connect with our kids, when they’re not even there!! https://relationalparents.mykajabi.com/playshop
Join me as I chat with Linda Lederman (pronounced Letterman), whose mission is to teach us how to make meal preparation easy, and mealtimes FUN!! Sounds like a recipe for a joyful household.
Join me for the upcoming free Playshop: https://relationalparents.mykajabi.com/playshop
Surprise! My kids are no different than yours in this regard! This is the story from the Parent perspective, as opposed from the “parenting” perspective. Keeping it real!
Join me for the upcoming free Playshop: https://relationalparents.mykajabi.com/playshop
I’m putting a stake in the ground, to reduce the misunderstandings and emotional charge associated with talking about “masculine energy” and “feminine energy.”
Join me for the upcoming free Playshop: https://relationalparents.mykajabi.com/playshop
We know Yin is slower, relative to Yang. But Harmonizing our energy is about SO. MUCH. MORE. As it turns out, your speed does not NEED to change in order to experience incredible harmony!
Join me for the upcoming free Playshop: https://relationalparents.mykajabi.com/playshop
What does Yin & Yang – the nucleus of the ancient Taoist philosophy – have to do with our challenges as parents? Plenty, as it turns out!
Need more Yin, to balance the Yang? You are in great company. Check out Frenzy to Flow, and consider joining us!
We all have recurring patterns (unwanted ones!). But often we are confused about what they are, what they mean, or what to do about them. That is, if we are even aware of them!!
We may be doing fewer things, but stress and anxiety are more palpable than ever. In this episode I share about an amazing physical practice that can help us learn to trust ourselves. From the YINside out!
To find out more: www.FrenzyToFlow.com
How do you feel threatened? How do you feel blocked from showing up as the REAL You? This One Thing can help. Can soften. Can help You to soften! What will you try for 5 minutes today or tomorrow?
If you like what you’re hearing, register for our upcoming LIVE Playshop!
We all have triggers, and we all filter some things out (words, attitudes, energies). Living with an adolescent can present some extra-challenging situations. The gag is, when interacting with an adolescent it’s even MORE important to be aware of our own filters.
If this resonates for you, register for our upcoming LIVE Playshop!
Are you making it easy for them to share with you – or are there barriers you can remove? When we as parents shrink the energetic environment around our expectations, often there are unintended consequences.
If you like to soften the energetic environment in your home, register for our upcoming LIVE Playshop!
This week's episode takes a look at what it means to "UN-script your life,"
with my guest, Hayden Humphrey, who shares about about Art, Moxie, and UN-scripting Your Life. It’s a powerful conversation that can open the door to your own Possibility Thinking!
Go to https://www.haydenhumphrey.com/ to take the quiz and find out how scripted YOUR life is. His apparel business, whose profits support mental health advocacy organizations, is https://wearlift.com/.
Which authentic parts of yourself have you shut down or “sent away,” perhaps in response to someone’s expectations, advice, or judgment?
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We ARE human, every one of us. And part of that is making ‘mistakes’ – having experiences that we regard as imperfect. My son inspired this episode with how he handled himself recently. So naturally I’m sharing ~!
Friend, I invite you to register for our upcoming Playshop here!
It’s not about “sounding good.” It’s about really resonating and being in SYNC. After this 10 minute episode, if you are intrigued I invite you to reach out to me via email (support@relationalparents.org). Just Because I would love to connect.
Friend, I invite you to register for our upcoming Playshop here!
Same day, same town. Totally different dynamic between THIS dad and his kids.
An incredible real-life lesson in Harmony, and one of the key ingredients to cultivate it.
It’s more than a lack of conflict. And it’s broader than ‘perfect’ tranquility.
In this episode I share a simple ingredient that is absolutely NECESSARY for Harmony.
Save your seat at our free playshop this Friday May 7th, Mine your Mind!! (It's LIVE!!)
How else can I explain it? I said something to my child and got a Wildly Negative reaction, and then I saw something I couldn’t BELIEVE!
Join us for our upcoming Free Playshop: {Mine your Mind!}
What if it’s NOT too good to be true? What if you really could have that amazing relationship with your child? What if you really COULD escape the “Terrible Two’s (or Teens!)”?
Who are YOUR Magicians? You know. Those people in your life that can turn ANYthing into fun! That is a beautiful ability to share, nurture, and allow in our families.
Join us for our upcoming Free Playshop {Reflect – to – RISE!!!}
It's so enticing...finding the RIGHT way. Finding the Right way makes everything else wrong, though. What other Magic is Possible?
If you are ready to get UNstuck with your kiddo, let's connect!
The question should be "HOW" are we commanding - we all do it to ourselves in some way. In 2015 I was commanding myself to be a better mother. Bah! That was a HARD way. This episode is for you if you're ready for something Different!
Listen in & if you’re ready to get UNstuck, HERE is the link I promised. ~ xo ~ T
What does Self-Care look like? Join me as I speak with Dr. Kim D'Eramo and she reveals the simple truth about what is REALLY necessary for our well-being, and how we can care for ourselves whenever we choose.
Join me for some extra fun! Tara Nieves Green, Master Trainer and Founder of BreathAwakening.com shares some HUGE benefits of breathwork, including how it can affect us physically - and why!
This week I'm getting real about all the ways that Positive Discipline's 'Family Meeting' tool did not work for me. Permission for You to feel into what's a contribution to YOUR Family Atmosphere.
In this episode I share how my child-centered mission evolved from Montessori, to meeting Parents as we are, Today.
From a parenting perspective, our joy has a lot to do with the energetic environment we create for our children. The first step is to become aware of this Energetic Environment!
Each of us has our own unique ways of being "stuck." But we all have some Good News in common!
When you are Choosing a path, a certain set of skills is helpful. Different from the set that would support you in FORGING a path.
We've been conditioned to look Outside ourselves for the answers. "They must know." Hmm... what else is possible?
It's a special time in our collective history. A time that is providing parents with unique challenges and opportunities.
Do you keep it, or do you share it? Sure, spreading it around has benefits. But what are some ways to get started?
Where you place your attention is one of the Only Things in your control. How can you make the most of it?
EVERY ONE of us experiences challenges with our kids (me too!). The REAL question is: Are we taking Advantage of these opportunities?
We are conditioned to do, Do, DO and go, Go, GO… yet true Receiving cannot happen on-the-run.
How is it that these can be SO Challenging for so many of us? And what can we do to smooth things for both ourselves and our children?
What is happening in your body when you're triggered? And what does it mean for you, and for your child?
Why are we trying to be perfect, or even 'a little closer' to perfect? Let's consider some ways this mindset harms our children.
Cultivating this energy is a practice, and there are so many different ways to go about it. I share a few here, and you may just create one of your own!
It's powerful enough to turn your world around in amazing ways - but not by accident. Skeptical? Give me just 10 minutes to bend your ear!
Allowance is a POWERFUL way to teach children about money - all kinds of lessons. The first one I share here is one it took me over 12 years to learn!
"Play it safe." "Stay small." How does PRAISE send these messages? And what's the Relational Alternative?
Of course not (smile). In this episode I'm sharing 5 tools to help you get the help you Desire AND Deserve!
Anxiety is at an all-time-high + Our Energy is Contagious. Here are some steps we can all take to diminish feelings of anxiousness, independent of what is happening around us.
What we are doing is Not Working. Today I share 2 of my real-life examples as well as 2 practical Tools to diminish feelings of anxiousness.
We are spending more time with our kids, and Our Energy has everything to do with the atmosphere at home.
This time it's ALL About YOU!! In this episode we consider a new perspective on what being KIND and FIRM to You REALLY MEANS ~ for your CHILD/REN's sake!
Do you believe that it is EASY for Learning to be Fun? This week I'm sharing 5 different "tricks" to help you remember - and to connect with your child at the same time!
In this episode I share tools & strategies to help you create an atmosphere where your children can thrive. Where you will find peace & joy as well!
There are so many ways to structure a Learning Day at Home - approach this with the Energy of Possibility!!
Use this link to Register for our NO COST Book Study of The Self-Driven Child (5 weeks in September): http://bit.ly/Sept20_BookStudy
We’ll learn & discuss strategies based on Cutting edge Brain Science, and The Latest Behavioral Therapies
Join us weekly as we share aha’s, ask questions, dive deeper. Together we will learn how to help our children thrive through the challenging days ahead!
Learn the Positive Discipline Tool that will pave the way to a smoother 2020/2021 school year!
Use this link to Register for our NO COST Book Study of The Self-Driven Child (5 weeks in September): http://bit.ly/Sept20_BookStudy
We’ll learn & discuss strategies based on
• Cutting edge Brain Science, and
• The Latest Behavioral Therapies
Join us weekly to share aha’s, ask questions, dive deeper. Together we will learn how to help our children thrive through the challenging days ahead!
You've heard the quip, "You've got 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason..."? Here are 4 Positive Discipline tools that can help us put those ears to Good Use as we seek to understand our children!
Use this link to Register for our NO COST Book Study of The Self-Driven Child (5 weeks in September): http://bit.ly/Sept20_BookStudy
We’ll learn & discuss strategies based on
• Cutting edge Brain Science, and
• The Latest Behavioral Therapies
Join us weekly to share aha’s, ask questions, dive deeper. Together we will learn how to help our children thrive through the challenging days ahead!
Brain science confirms it - TELLING kids is not the way to go! And Positive Discipline is right there, with tools you can USE to get better results. Listen in as T shares 3 of them!
Use this link to Register for our NO COST Book Study of The Self-Driven Child (5 weeks in September): http://bit.ly/Sept20_BookStudy
We’ll learn & discuss strategies based on
• Cutting edge Brain Science, and
• The Latest Behavioral Therapies
Join us weekly to share aha’s, ask questions, dive deeper. Together we will learn how to help our children thrive through the challenging days ahead!
"Do you Understand Me?" "How many Times do I have to tell you?" They read our Energy long before they understand our words. Learn how to make this work FOR you as a parent!
Use this link to Register for our NO COST Book Study of The Self-Driven Child (5 weeks in September): http://bit.ly/Sept20_BookStudy
We’ll learn & discuss strategies based on
• Cutting edge Brain Science, and
• The Latest Behavioral Therapies
Join us weekly to share aha’s, ask questions, dive deeper. Together we will learn how to help our children thrive through the challenging days ahead!
Let me count the ways we try...right? And more importantly, let's step back and take a look at the longer game, and the effects of what we do with the best of intentions!
This is the last episode of 7 that follow Jane Nelsen's flagship book, Positive Discipline. I distill the top 3 things we need to keep in mind as parents, and name 5 of the many PD tools that work well to diffuse power struggles.
One of the most important things we can do as parents is take a look at how WE are contributing to the current dynamics. This episode gives us a Great Opportunity to do just that, using the work of Nira Kefir, on Personality Priorities.
Encouragement is at the HEART of Positive Discipline (and Effective Parenting!!) - butwhat is Encouragement REALLY, and how can we support our children in Cultivating Courage?
Imposing Consequences for unwanted behavior can feel like a great option - sometimes the ONLY option. Neither is True. Tune in to better understand the side effects, and what else you can do!!
Dr. Jane Nelsen gives us "Magic Lenses" to see our children's misbehavior differently. We can use these lenses to connect with the child's NEEDS (to feel like they belong & are significant) rather than reacting to, and fueling, their (mis)behavior.
Birth Order is significant. It is one circumstance that influences how we (all of us!) show up.
When we as the family leaders learn about these dynamics, we can consciously choose to smooth them out for our children, rather than magnify them.
Part 1 of 7 - The ROOT of Misbehavior, a Kind AND Firm approach, and the Importance of Energy.
This episode accompanies and reflects the first two chapters in the original Positive Discipline book.
A closer look at Punishment & Permissiveness.
Do you frequently feel overwhelmed or frustrated by to-do's, emails, other people's expectations? Yes, yes, and yes?! I hear you! In fact I used to LIVE there.
It is very rewarding chart your own course. It's a journey best undertaken with grace and support.
When have someone's words stuck with you for decades?
Our words are powerful! If you are willing to step off Autopilot, you can use this tool, one I use daily.
What if shifting only 5% could make All the Difference? It turns out, IT CAN!!!
HOW can you reliably create space for just a 5% shift? So glad you asked...!
Often the more important something - or someone - is to us, the more attached we are to our own point of view, to how things "should be."
But is it true? What else is possible?
In this episode I share 2 stories of how My Own Perspective needed to get flipped on its head, in order for me to get the gifts!!
We ALL lose it - or feel like we are About To lose it - sometimes!!
Listen in for 3 no-nonsense ways to Recover - or Reconcile - with Grace.
In the process you'll be modelling and teaching your kids fabulous Life Skills!
Swirling in overwhelm or power struggles with your kids? Beating yourself up on a regular basis?
I was there for a long time. Here are 3 of my favorite Overall Strategies for starting to move in a better-feeling direction.
Recognizing and meeting our children's needs is so much easier when we remember One Thing. It's probably not what you think!
Getting involved in your kids' squabbles and dispensing justice can seem like a "given."
Most parents ask me how to Stop the Fighting, not realizing how they are unconsciously fanning the flames.
What comes up for you, after listening to this episode? I would love to hear your comments! Email support@relationalparents.org.
A very wise psychologist counselled me (and a room full of other preschoolers' parents) years ago, "Don't think about what your kids will be like when they're 15, think about how they'll be when they're 25!"
In today's fast-paced world of instant gratification, that can sound crazy - even terrifying!
Listen in and I'll share with you how his statement makes a ton of sense!
This tool is so incredible that a book series is devoted to the idea of it! In this episode I share some of the biggest benefits to Morning Time, as well as what it looks like, and tips to get started.
How is it working for you? What questions do you have? You can ask in the Relational Parents (free) Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/RelationalParents
Would you like to see Incredible Results with very little time spent? If so, Special Time is the tool for you!! Open your ears and heart to the true spirit of the tool. When you approach it in the way it is intended, not only will you be looking forward to spending this time with your child, you'll begin to notice some other welcome changes...!
So often we see our Biggest Challenges in life as obstacles to overcome. I did too! What I have learned is, the Bigger the Challenge, the Bigger the Opportunity! Where can you apply this and see an opportunity in your life, right now today?
Do you sometimes feel like you are taking one approach, and then another very different one, with your children? You are not alone!
We all go through low periods throughout life, periods where things are not 'going our way,' either in one area of life, or many areas. In this episode I talk about my winter as a parent.
Have you ever had a moment that would change your life in ways you could not yet imagine? Today I'm sharing one of my life-changing moments, beginning with just one word.
In this episode I share a bit of my backstory - as you'll soon realize I was not always a very confident, courageous, or even effective, parent!
Life today is so fast-paced, it can be very easy to stay stuck in our own perspective.
Our child/ren’s perspectives can be surprising! We have only to put down our own lenses and observe them, to get our first clue.
Reflecting on a tumble that I took in yoga this morning, and how it related to a challenging moment with my teen-age son.
There are so many gifts in staying in the present moment.
Years ago I would have created an intense amount of drama and made the situation so much worse. I've done a LOT of work on myself since then, and I'm excited to begin this journey with you!