All The Things We Ever Said: Recent Episodes
Richard and Izzy
Are you looking for the secret to a happy, long-lasting relationship? Us too!
We’re Rich and Izzy the hosts of the All The Things We Ever Said podcast. We’re determined to find the secrets to long and lasting love and share them with you in these funny, sometimes outrageous and often surprising episodes.
Maintaining a happy relationship isn’t always easy and if you have ever wondered if anyone is getting it right, then you’re not alone. Join us from our studio in Nottingham as we reveal all about our past loves and experiences in this raw and confessional podcast.
Love is - as the song goes - all around, but do we have enough left over for us? And is learning to love yourself really the greatest love of all? So many questions when what we actually want to know is when will we stop using corny song titles as terrible puns? More on that later.
In this episode, we take a serious look at why self-love is often the hardest to come by and examine our own experiences of the ups and downs of self-esteem. We ask whether you can truly love someone else if you don't love yourself and reveal our own personal relationship struggles and successes.
Richard talks about how he turned around feelings of low self-esteem and Izzy has a lightbulb moment and discovers she's doing much better than she gives her self credit for. But she still has a bit of a cry anyway. Well, what else would you expect from this podcast?
So get ready to love yourself a little bit more as we ask the question, how deep is your self-love?
If you're dating and trying to meet new people, you wouldn't just sit at home, right? Well, it turns out that's exactly what Richard should have done. In this episode, we reveal the truth behind one of the stories we just didn't have time for in previous episodes, starting with how Izzy and Richard very nearly met, years before their first date.
We look at how a tidy house and clean towels can be a powerful aphrodisiac and why the bar for successful dating is lower than you might think.
Also, ever heard people say 'boys mature more slowly than girls'? Or how about, 'boys will be boys'?. Well, we don't know about you but these grinds our gears so in this episode we challenge these beliefs, how we've encountered them in our own lives and look at the damage that these seemingly innocent phrases can do to adult relationships.
Meanwhile, Izzy admits how she might be judging your other half. You have been warned.
How do you keep the spark in your relationship? Is buying a tiny box of cereal for your loved one a grand romantic gesture? Recorded on Valentine's day, we compare love gifts and also find out if living with Richard is like a military regime. Izzy reveals the secret to keeping the magic alive with some boundary advice involving lounge pants. Meanwhile, who is getting dressed up to put out the bins and also feeling rage at the simple act of someone eating a ripe peach? Also in this episode, Richard fails to be zen due to some exuberant weightlifters while Izzy reveals a dark secret.
In this episode, we ask is it right to catalogue all the dumb and weird things your partner says? Richard has been writing down Izzy's words of love and particularly all her weird and wonderful phrases.
Have you ever wondered what a fish-themed Beatles tribute band would sound like? Wonder no more as we imagine it for you.
We also look at how the hell anyone thought to turn sand into glass, why one of the world's biggest stars is too hip for her own good and the utter futility of windbreaks at the beach.
Richard takes up the fight against West Coutryism and Izzy asks the question, what on earth is Richard doing in the shower for so long every morning? Do we want to know!
We also delve deep into our new favourite thing and Richard recalls his attempt at 'the naked man' with unexpected results.
In the endless pursuit of happiness have we forgotten the value of what it means to feel sadness?
Often treated like an emotion that is a nuisance to be got rid of with some self-help wisdom, we are going to tune into some of the great things about this maligned emotion - like how it has inspired great art and music. There's also evidence that it can be motivational and give us better judgement.
Izzy turns up at the studio feeling sad (which is convenient) so we make her cry - but only for the ratings! Meanwhile, Richard reveals his no-nonsense approach to dealing with returning music that doesn't meet strict sadness criteria. Radiohead fans should probably not listen.
Join us as we take a trip into the heart of melancholy.
It's an industry that's worth billions and many of us spend our lives trying to find the key to happiness. So why can it be so hard to be happy and what is holding us back? In this episode, we look at our own experiences and find Richard reminiscing about a good bank statement and trashing decluttering gurus. Meanwhile, Izzy reveals her love of a good cry and how the happiness wisdom of an anarchic Scottish avant-garde artist was diminished when he got naked in a cinema.
Join us as we try to unravel the secret to happiness.
With one in seven couples ending their relationships during lockdown, we look back at the most challenging year of all time and ask, how did we do? What annoying habits have tested our patience and what have we discovered about each other?
Izzy gets triggered by a walk and realises that she may be part cat. Richard reveals that his "chillaxing" is about as chill as a certain Conservative MP and comes to terms with his passive-aggressive kitchen moves.
Join us as we confront our most annoying habits and look at the highs and lows of love during lockdown.
In our Christmas edition, we look back at 2020 - is it good riddance or have we managed to get something good out of this year? We suggest Amnesty International get involved in the British retail sector, uncover how Scandinavians enjoy getting drunk in just their underwear and talk about the best and worst Christmas song of all time (hint: it's the same one!).
We reveal our dating successes and why we wanted to stop swiping. Can true, lasting love be found on Tinder, or is it just for hookups? We talk about our dating success stories and reveal the best dates we ever went on. Richard unveils his secret formula for successful online dating (well it worked once anyway) and Izzy breaks her golden rule. How did it work out for her? Join us as we try to restore your faith in online dating.
We reveal our dating disasters and why it's so hard to stop swiping. Have dating apps like Tinder made it easier to find love, or just made us all disposable? With so much choice is it becoming harder to settle for the one? How do we know if we've found the one when there are still so many people to swipe right on? Why is this introduction asking so many questions and will they be answered?
Don't be afraid of commitment, just click play and enjoy our dating episode.
It started out like a fairytale; a shy young woman meets a handsome prince and falls in love. The story of Charles and Diana turned sour and of course ended in tragedy, but thanks to the Netflix dramatisation of their lives, a new generation is getting a glimpse into their complicated love story.
So what can we learn about our own relationships from their story? As our hosts - two people from two different generations - sit down to watch The Crown two very different points of view emerge with different sympathies. If you've been taking side sides, like we have, while watching The Crown, this episode is for you.
We also talk about the bigger picture and what place the royals have in modern life. In an era of food banks and cuts to the welfare state, can we justify having a royal family that hoards so much wealth? Richard experiences cognitive dissonance as he recalls an idyllic childhood moment that fixed his idea of the royals and Izzy imagines that she can talk the queen into giving Buck palace to the people.
Can our Gen X and Gen Z agree on the future of the monarchy?
Breaking up a relationship can be heartbreaking, so is staying friends with your ex just cruel? In this episode, we look at our own experiences of being friends with past lovers and whether it can ever be a good thing.
Richard reveals how he ended up hiding under a table when a late-night exes booty call went badly wrong. And Izzy confesses her guilt trip strategy for dealing with breakups when she's the one getting dumped.
Meanwhile, after years of chaotic splits, bad blood and recriminations, Richard lays out what he learned from his past relationships and how to pull off the perfect break up.
If you've ever said "I hope we can still be friends" and especially if you've been on the receiving end of that line, then this episode is for you.
In our first episode, we talk about, what else but, new beginnings and why so often they are so damn difficult. What prevents us from starting something new? Fear of failure or something much deeper from within our psyche? Either way, we managed to overcome it as we're here with our podcast debut. Izzy is the resident Zoomer with an inspiring story of a new beginning but also how hard it is to commit to projects. And we find out not only how Richard thinks he nearly invented the internet, but how he also quit Facebook in one of the big cringe moments of the decade.