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Gila Ross
Gila Ross shares short Jewish ideas from the Torah that pack a punch in this exciting podcast that has been named in the top 20 Jewish podcasts worldwide! Gila is a mum to 8 kiddos and a warm, dynamic and down to earth educator for more than 15 years! The podcast contains a series on the complete Pirkei Avot - timeless wisdom for modern times each episode just a few minutes to listen to at your convenience, positive parenting in just 20 minutes, morning mindfulness & spiritual Judaism. Subscribe so you don't miss out!
Shame is one of the most powerful—and often misunderstood—human emotions. But what role does it play in Jewish thought and life?
In this episode, we explore:
- Why do we feel shame? Is it just a negative emotion, or does it serve a deeper purpose?
- Is shame a good thing? How Jewish sources distinguish between toxic shame and healthy shame that guides us toward growth.
- How should we respond to shame? Practical wisdom on transforming shame into an opportunity for reflection, connection, and change.
Join us as we uncover how Judaism frames shame not as something to hide from, but as a tool for personal development and a reminder of our potential.
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In this episode, we explore one of the most famous teachings of Hillel from Pirkei Avot:"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? And if I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?"
This timeless mishna challenges us to reflect on three essential questions of life:
Self-responsibility: What does it mean to take ownership of my life, my growth, and my spiritual journey?
Connection and responsibility to others: How do I balance caring for myself with giving to others?
The urgency of now: Why is procrastination so tempting, and how can we overcome it to live with purpose today?
We’ll discuss how Hillel’s words remain as relevant as ever in our world of endless distractions and competing demands.
You’ll walk away with practical insights into finding the balance between self-care, community, and taking action in the moment.
Join us as we dive deep into this short but powerful teaching that can change the way you approach your daily choices.- Check out my book Living Beautifully, for more insights to bring meaning, joy and love into your life
Respect is something we all crave — yet, surprisingly, it doesn’t always come naturally to give it. In this episode, we explore the idea that human nature often pushes us toward judgment, dismissal, or even disrespect. If that’s true, then the challenge is clear: we need to consciously lean into respect, giving more of it than we might instinctively feel.
What does it mean to live a life of purpose without expecting a reward? In this episode, we dive into the profound teaching of Antignos ben Socho, who said:
"Do not be like servants who serve their master for the sake of receiving a reward, but rather be like servants who serve their master without the intention of receiving a reward; and let the fear of Heaven be upon you."
We explore:
✅ What does it really mean to do good for its own sake?
✅ How can we apply this in a world driven by incentives and recognition?
Whether you’re curious about Jewish ethics, personal growth, or want a practical takeaway for living more meaningfully, this episode will leave you inspired and challenged.
🎧 Listen now and discover why serving without expectation leads to the ultimate reward.
What is the single most important quality a person can hold onto in life? In this episode, we dive into the Mishnah in Pirkei Avot where Rabbi Yochanan ben Zakkai asks his students: What is the best path a person should cling to? Each student suggests something different—generosity, friendship, foresight, kindness—but Rabbi Elazar says: a good heart.
Why did Rabbi Yochanan declare this the most valuable path of all? What does it mean to truly have a “good heart”—and how does that shape the way we see others, ourselves, and even God?
Join us as we explore:
- The different answers the students gave and why each matters
- Why a good heart includes all the other qualities
This Mishnah invites us to reframe success—not by what we achieve or acquire, but by the quality of our inner world and how it radiates outward.
Some love falls apart. Some conflict builds worlds.
What makes the difference?
In this episode, we explore one of the most powerful teachings in Pirkei Avot (Ethics of the Fathers 5:16–17):
“Any love that depends on something—when that thing ceases, the love also ceases. But a love that does not depend on anything will never cease.”
“Any dispute that is for the sake of Heaven will have a lasting outcome, and one that is not for the sake of Heaven will not have a lasting outcome.”
With vivid examples—Amnon and Tamar’s destructive love vs. David and Jonathan’s deep bond; Korach’s rebellion vs. the debates of Hillel and Shammai—this Mishnah gives us a roadmap to understand what makes relationships endure and disagreements bear fruit.
Excerpted from my book, Living Beautifully - how to bring meaning, joy and love into your life based on the timeless wisdom of Pirkei Avot - gilaross.com/book
Fear is a natural part of life - but what if fear isn’t just about what we’re afraid of… but what we don’t value enough?In this powerful episode, we explore how fear often reveals a lack of clarity in our values. Through the stories of Esau selling his birthright and the spies sent to scout the Land of Israel, we uncover how giving in to fear can cause us to miss out on our greatest opportunities—and even on our purpose.💭 In this episode:Why Esau gave up his future for a bowl of stew—and what that teaches us about fear-How the spies' fear of failure outweighed their trust in G-d and their sense of missionFor more insights to bring meaning, joy and love into your life, check out my book Living Beautifully - gilaross.com/book or on Amazon - https://a.co/d/c97E2Yg.
In this meaningful episode, we explore The Three Weeks—a period of national mourning for the Jewish people that begins with the 17th of Tammuz and culminates on Tisha B’Av. But what exactly are we mourning? And what can the loss of the Beit HaMikdash (Holy Temple) teach us about our lives today?We’ll journey back in time to discover what life was like when the Temple stood and what its absence means for us now. From open miracles to spiritual clarity, the Temple wasn't just a building—it was a living lesson in connection, purpose, and unity.For more insights to bring meaning, joy and love into your life, check out my book Living Beautifully - gilaross.com/book
In this episode, excerpted from my book Living Beautifully, we dive into a powerful question: Does God really care about the small stuff? From a missed smile to a small act of kindness, from a quiet prayer to a hidden struggle—can something so seemingly small matter in the grand scheme of the universe?
Together, we explore Jewish wisdom and stories that show how every detail, every person, and every action carries cosmic significance. Whether you’ve ever wondered if your efforts make a difference or felt invisible in a world that values the “big and bold,” this conversation will leave you uplifted, empowered, and inspired to embrace the holiness of the small.
📌 What You’ll Learn:
Why Judaism believes that every action—even the tiniest one—matters
What it means that every person has a unique mission in this world
🌱 Takeaway Message:
There are no extras in God’s world. You matter. Your choices matter. Even the ones that seem small.
🎧 Listen now and rediscover the sacred in the everyday.
In moments of tension, our instinct might be to smooth things over or "fix" the situation—but what if that causes more harm than good?
In this episode, we explore the profound wisdom of the Mishna that teaches us when not to act, especially in the delicate space of someone else's experience.
You'll discover:
- Why trying to calm someone down in the heat of the moment can backfire
- What real support looks like when emotions are high
- The power of timing in building trust and connection
Whether you're navigating a tense conversation with a friend, partner, or child, this episode will help you pause, reflect, and respond with wisdom—so you can help without hurting.
Excerpted from my book, Living Beautifully, we dive into the Mishna (Avos 3:1) that teaches: "Know from where you came, where you are going, and before whom you are destined to give an accounting."We explore this powerful teaching on three levels:Our Life: What does this Mishna reveal about the fleeting and humble nature of our physical existence? How can reflecting on our origin and destination motivate us to live with greater purpose, integrity, and gratitude?Our Soul: Beyond the physical, we discuss how the Mishna invites us to recognize our soul's journey: from its divine source, through our life in this world, and ultimately returning to give an accounting before God.Our Actions: Every deed leaves a mark. We look at how this Mishna pushes us to consider the beginning, end, and accountability of each action, not just life as a whole.Along the way, we bring in insights from classic commentaries and offer thought-provoking questions: How does knowing where you came from shift the way you see your challenges? What does it mean to "give an accounting," and how can that inspire us rather than frighten us?Join us as we uncover the depth of this simple yet transformative teaching, and learn how it can help us live more intentionally, spiritually aware, and accountable lives.
In this powerful episode, we explore the three core relationships every human being must cultivate for a life of depth and balance: our relationship with ourselves, our relationship with others, and our relationship with God.
Drawing from timeless Jewish wisdom, we unpack the three spiritual tools designed to help us grow in each area:
- Torah – as a mirror to develop self-awareness and purpose.
- Prayer – as a pathway to build a real and personal relationship with God.
- Kindness – as the soul-language that connects us deeply with other people.
We reflect on the idea that these tools aren’t abstract or outdated — they’re deeply human, practical, and transformative. With relatable stories, thoughtful insights, and actionable takeaways, this episode is a roadmap for spiritual and emotional wellness grounded in Jewish tradition.
In this eye-opening class, we dive deep into the powerful forces of jealousy, lust, and honor-seeking—three drives that Rabbi Elazar HaKappar warns can take a person out of this world. But where do these impulses come from? Why do they have such a strong hold on us? And most importantly, what can we do to rise above them?We explore the roots of these desires, how they show up in daily life, and how Jewish wisdom offers transformative antidotes to each one. Through timeless teachings and real-life applications, you'll walk away with clarity, tools for inner strength, and a renewed perspective on what truly matters.
In this special Shavuot episode of the PowerUp Podcast, we dive into one of the most compelling and powerful Midrashim about the giving of the Torah: the cosmic “fight” between Moses and the angels.Who is the Torah really for? Angels, who are pure and perfect? Or human beings—with all our flaws, struggles, and failures?Join us as we explore:-The deeper meaning behind the angels’ objection to giving the Torah to mankind- The bold and brilliant response that affirmed the Torah’s rightful place on Earth- Why the mitzvos—far from being outdated—are more relevant than ever in our modern lives- How Shavuot calls on each of us to step into the arena, embrace our imperfections, and strive for greatness through Torah livingThis is an episode about courage, responsibility, and divine faith in humanity. Whether you’re new to Torah or have been learning for years, this conversation will leave you inspired by just how personal and powerful the Torah truly is.💬 We’d love to hear your thoughts! Email us at gilaross@gmail.com
In this powerful episode, we explore one of the most well-known — and puzzling — stories from the time of the Omer: the tragic death of Rabbi Akiva’s 24,000 students. Why did such a spiritually elite group meet such a harsh end? And more importantly, what message is this story trying to send us across the centuries?
Join us as we uncover the deeper meaning behind the Talmudic statement that they “did not show proper respect for one another” — and how this applies not just to how we treat others, but also how we view ourselves.
Whether you’re in the middle of counting the Omer or just looking to grow in character and connection, this episode will leave you with practical insight into the Jewish approach to honor, humility, and healthy relationships.
A fascinating discussion as we dive into the remarkable journey of Rabbi Akiva—one of the most influential sages in Jewish history. From humble beginnings as an uneducated shepherd to becoming a towering Torah scholar with 24,000 students, Rabbi Akiva's life is full of powerful lessons about perseverance, faith, love, and leadership. We explore key moments in his story, including his late start in learning, his deep partnership with his wife Rachel, and his unwavering belief in the future of the Jewish people—even in times of national tragedy.
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We explore the powerful Jewish belief in techiyat ha-meitim — the resurrection of the dead — and how it offers a transformative lens for how we live our lives today. Far from being just a theological concept about the distant future, belief in the resurrection calls us to recognize the eternal value in every moment of life.
We discuss:
What the resurrection means in Jewish tradition
Why belief in it is one of the Thirteen Principles of Faith
How it reshapes our relationship with time, choices, and purpose
The idea that nothing is wasted — not an action, word, or opportunity
Whether you’ve thought deeply about the resurrection or are hearing about it for the first time, this episode will leave you inspired to infuse every moment of life with meaning.
Lets explore a powerful and timeless topic — the coming of the Messiah. Why is belief in the Messiah so central to Jewish faith? How does it shape our daily lives, our hopes, and our future?
We'll discuss:
- What Judaism teaches about the coming of the Messiah
- Why belief in the Messiah isn't just about the future — it's about how we live today
- The emotional and spiritual strength that comes from believing in redemption
- How hope for a better world drives personal growth and communal unity
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Why were we in such a rush to leave Egypt? Couldn’t we have taken a little more time, packed some snacks, maybe even let the dough rise?In this episode of the PowerUp Podcast, we dive into one of the most curious details of the Exodus story — the haste. We explore why leaving Egypt in a hurry was not just circumstantial, but spiritual. The matzah, our flat and humble bread of affliction, holds within it profound lessons about urgency.💥 You’ll learn:The connection between haste, freedom, and faith.Perfect for anyone preparing for Passover or seeking inspiration during challenging times. Get ready to power up your understanding of matzah, Exodus, and personal liberation.
Does Judaism believe in divine reward and punishment? How do our actions—and even our thoughts—shape our spiritual and physical reality? In this episode, we explore the Jewish perspective on accountability, consequences, and the deeper meaning behind reward and punishment.
Join us as we unpack these deep and sometimes challenging ideas, offering insights that can help us live more intentionally and with a greater sense of purpose.
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How does G-d communicate with us? In this episode, we dive into the nature of divine communication, exploring the role of prophecy in Jewish tradition, the unique relationship between G-d and Moses, and what this means for our understanding of the Torah’s truth.We’ll discuss:The concept of prophecy in JudaismWhy Moses’ prophecy was unique among all prophetsHow the Torah is considered the ultimate divine communicationWhether G-d still speaks to us today, and how we can recognize His presence in our livesThrough ancient texts and modern insights, we unpack the ways G-d reaches us and what this means for our personal and communal journey.🔔 Subscribe and leave a review to stay connected! Have thoughts on this episode? Share your insights on social media or email us at gilaross@gmail.com
What does it mean to have a divine soul? How do we connect with God in a deep and personal way? In this episode, we explore the nature of the divine soul, its connection to the infinite, and how understanding this relationship can transform our spiritual journey.
Through ancient wisdom and modern insights, we unpack the duality of the human experience—the pull between the physical and the spiritual—and how recognizing our divine essence can bring clarity, strength, and purpose to our lives.
Purim is more than just costumes, hamantaschen, and graggers—it's a story of power, faith, and personal transformation. In this episode, we dive into the profound ideological clash between Mordechai and Haman. What drove their conflict, and how did their worldviews shape the Purim story? We also explore Esther’s remarkable metamorphosis from a passive figure to a bold leader who risks everything for her people. And finally, we unpack one of Purim’s greatest lessons: why we should embrace hard things in life, just as Esther did.
🔹 In This Episode:
- How Mordechai and Haman’s values were fundamentally at odds
- Esther’s transformation: from hidden to heroic
- The Purim message that challenges us to step up and do hard things
- Why discomfort is often the birthplace of greatness
🔥 PowerUp Challenge:
This Purim, take on something outside your comfort zone. Whether it's standing up for what’s right, speaking up when it’s difficult, or pushing yourself beyond what feels easy—channel your inner Esther and power up!
🎧 Listen now and get inspired to embrace the challenge!
In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into a fundamental yet complex question: What does God want us to think about God? Exploring Jewish perspectives, Torah sources, and philosophical insights, we examine how our understanding of God shapes our faith, actions, and relationship with the divine.Our perception of God influences our spiritual growth, decision-making, and the way we relate to others. This episode provides clarity and inspiration for anyone looking to deepen their connection to God.🔹 Tune In & Power Up!
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Judaism has some deep, and fascinating beliefs—some you might know, and some that will totally surprise you! In this episode, we’re diving into the beliefs that set Judaism apart from other religions. Whether you’re curious, or just love a good mind-blowing discussion, this one’s for you.
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How do we start our day with purpose, gratitude, and strength? In this episode, we explore the profound impact of the Morning Blessings (Berachot HaShachar) and how they help us recognize G-d’s guidance in our lives. These blessings are more than just words—they shape our mindset, fortify our resilience, and remind us that we are never alone.
Join us as we break down the deeper meanings behind these prayers, share insights on cultivating faith and trust, and offer practical ways to bring more mindfulness into your morning routine. Whether you’re looking to strengthen your connection with G-d, build resilience, or simply start your day with a greater sense of clarity, this episode is for you.
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In this episode, we explore the deep significance of the morning blessings (Birkot HaShachar), focusing on the blessings of clothing (Malbish Arumim) and freedom (Matir Asurim). Clothing is more than just fabric—it’s a symbol of dignity, protection, and self-expression. We discuss how these blessings remind us of both physical and emotional liberation, the power of boundaries, and how we can integrate mindfulness into our daily rituals.
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For more insights into how to bring meaning, joy and love into your life based on the timeless wisdom of Pirkei Avot - grab one of the last few copies of my book, Living Beautifully - https://amzn.to/4aCoYgqIn this episode, we take a deep dive into the Morning Blessings (Birkot HaShachar)—a powerful series of prayers that set the tone for the day. These blessings, recited each morning, guide us in cultivating gratitude, mindfulness, and connection with the world around us. We’ll explore their meaning, how they shape our mindset, and practical ways to integrate their lessons into our daily lives. Key Takeaways:💡 Gratitude isn’t just about saying “thank you”—it’s about recognizing the miracles in the everyday💡 The Morning Blessings help us shift from routine to mindfulness, making each moment more meaningful 💡 Incorporating these blessings into your life—even in small ways—can lead to a more positive and fulfilling dayReflection Questions: 📝 Which Morning Blessing resonates with you the most? We’d love to hear your thoughts! Share your reflections and how you practice gratitude by reaching out to us at gilaross@gmail.com🎙 Subscribe & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review—it helps us spread more light! #Gratitude #MorningBlessings #JewishPrayer #Mindfulness
In this heartwarming episode, we dive into the power of morning prayers to set the tone for your day. Today’s focus? Self-appreciation and understanding. Life gets busy, and we often overlook the most important relationship we have: the one with ourselves. These simple yet profound prayers are designed to help you connect with your inner self, embrace your uniqueness, and find peace in the present moment.
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For more insights into how to bring meaning, joy and love into your life based on the timeless wisdom of Pirkei Avot - grab one of the last few copies of my book, Living Beautifully - https://amzn.to/4aCoYgqIn this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the universal struggle with prayer. Why does it sometimes feel so hard to connect, to find the words, or to stay consistent in prayer? Together, we explore the deep spiritual dynamics that can make prayer challenging and uncover the profound insights behind two distinct types of prayer: the Leah prayer and the Rachel prayer. We discuss: - The Struggle to Pray: Common reasons why people find it difficult to pray, from distractions and doubt to feelings of inadequacy or a lack of connection. - Leah vs. Rachel Prayer: The difference between the personal, Leah prayer and the global Rachel prayer. Whether you're a seasoned prayer warrior or just starting to reconnect with your spiritual side, this episode offers relatable insights and actionable ideas to deepen your prayer life.
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In this heartfelt episode, we dive into the beauty, challenges, and questions surrounding prayer. Whether you’re new to prayer, struggling to find meaning, or looking for ways to deepen your connection, this episode offers insights, encouragement, and practical guidance.
We’ll explore:
- The purpose and power of prayer.
- What to do when your prayers feel unanswered.
- FAQs: Common questions people ask about prayer.
Join us as we uncover the timeless wisdom behind prayer and discover how it can be a transformative tool in your spiritual journey.
Prayer is a deeply personal journey. It’s okay to have questions, moments of doubt, or challenges. The important thing is to keep showing up and finding ways to make prayer meaningful for you.
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Chanukah is a time of light, celebration, and reflection, but its message goes deeper than oil that lasted eight days. It’s a story that beautifully weaves together miracles from above and the incredible power of human effort. In this episode, we dive into the dual lessons of Chanukah: recognizing divine intervention while embracing the transformative power of self-help and personal initiative.
Join us as we explore:
- The balance between relying on miracles and taking action in our own lives.
- How the Maccabees' courage and determination are a blueprint for resilience and self-reliance.
- Ways we can apply these lessons to overcome challenges and light up our own lives.
- The enduring relevance of Chanukah’s message in today’s world.
Reflection Questions:
- How do you balance taking initiative with trusting in forces beyond your control?
- Have you ever experienced a “miracle” that began with your own effort?
- What steps can you take to create light in your own life and for those around you?
Actionable Tips:
- Start Small: Just as the Maccabees did, take one bold step toward your goal and trust the process.
- Notice the Miracles: Reflect on moments in your life where unexpected help or outcomes emerged.
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Chanukah teaches us that while we can hope for miracles, we also have the power to create them. Tune in to learn how this timeless lesson can bring light and strength into your life!
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For more insights into how to bring meaning, joy and love into your life based on the timeless wisdom of Pirkei Avot - grab one of the last few copies of my book, Living Beautifully - https://amzn.to/4aCoYgqChanukah isn’t just a celebration of miracles and light; it’s also a profound lesson about the different kinds of illumination we bring to our lives. In this episode, we explore the two types of lights we see in life and what it teches us about the daily grind of consistency and the moments of unexpected brilliance. Join us as we discuss: - The symbolic meaning of the menorah’s lights and their relevance to our personal journeys. - How consistency in small, everyday actions creates the foundation for meaningful living. Reflection Questions: - How do you stay consistent in your daily responsibilities and routines? - When was the last time you experienced a moment of “miraculous” inspiration? - How can you bring more light—both steady and extraordinary—into your life and the lives of others? Connect With Us:- Follow us on Instagram @itsgilaross and Facebook for more insights into the wisdom of Chanukah and beyond. - Share your reflections or stories of light and miracles at gilaross@gmail.comThis Chanukah, let’s learn to honor the grind while celebrating the sparks of the miraculous. Tune in to find the inspiration to light up your life every day!
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In a world where apologies are increasingly performed on public platforms like social media, how do we navigate the deeply personal and nuanced act of forgiveness? In this episode, we explore the controversy of seeking forgiveness online, the complexities of letting go of hurt, and how to discern when it’s time to repair or release a relationship.
Join us as we delve into:
- The rise of social media apologies: Are they genuine or performative?
- How to process hurt and determine whether to offer forgiveness.
- When it’s time to work on a relationship and when it’s better to walk away.
Reflection Questions:
- How do you feel about public apologies on social media? Do they seem authentic or hollow?
- Is there a hurt you’re holding onto that you’re ready to release?
- How do you decide whether to mend or end a challenging relationship?
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- Share your thoughts or forgiveness journey with us at gilaross@gmail.com
Forgiveness, whether personal or public, is a complex and deeply human process. Tune in for insights and tools to help you navigate this journey with clarity and compassion.
For more insights into how to bring meaning, joy and love into your life based on the timeless wisdom of Pirkei Avot - grab one of the last few copies of my book, Living Beautifully - https://amzn.to/4aCoYgqFriendships are one of the most rewarding yet complex aspects of life. In this episode, we dive into the art of navigating friendships, from how we treat others to mending and balancing relationships, and even letting go when necessary. Whether you're looking to strengthen connections or move forward with grace, this episode is packed with insights to guide your journey. 1. How We Should Treat Others.2. How We Can Change the Relationship3. How to Bring Back Balance into a Relationship:4. How to Let Go of Grudges: Friendships are dynamic, and nurturing them takes time and care. Whether you're strengthening a bond, finding balance, or learning to let go, every step brings you closer to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Don’t forget to share this episode with a friend—it might just spark an incredible conversation!
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In this heartwarming and insightful episode, we dive into the art of building meaningful friendships. Why are friendships so vital to our well-being? How can we deepen our connections with others, and what does it take to maintain these bonds over time? Whether you're looking to strengthen existing relationships or forge new ones, this episode is packed with practical tips, inspiring stories, and expert advice to help you navigate the world of friendship.
Listener Challenge:This week, do one thing to invest in friendships!
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What does it mean to live a good life? In this episode, we explore the inspiring story of Sarah, one of the most influential figures in Jewish history, to uncover timeless lessons about defining and achieving a life of meaning, fulfillment, and purpose.
Sarah’s life was far from simple—marked by challenges, resilience, and unwavering faith.
We’ll delve into what we can learn from Sarah about cultivating joy, gratitude, and connection even in difficult times.
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What differentiates the patriarchs and matriarchs from other Biblical personalities? We delve into some of their personalities and the challenges they had throughout their lives and we see something profound that can teach us what to expect in our lives and how we can achieve balance.
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In this episode, we explore the complex and often hidden roots of self-sabotage. Why do we sometimes act in ways that go against our own best interests? Through insights from Torah, we unpack the underlying fears and limiting beliefs that contribute to self-sabotaging patterns. From procrastination to negative self-talk, self-sabotage can appear in many forms, subtly hindering our progress in both personal and professional realms.
Self-sabotage can ultimately hold us back from our true potential. By identifying its roots, we can begin the journey toward self-acceptance, resilience, and freedom from these limiting patterns.
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In this episode, we dive into the core elements that shape the Jewish spiritual experience. We explore the "DNA of Judaism" through three foundational concepts: the fear of God, the pursuit of self-mastery, and the Jewish perspective on our relationship with God. These principles not only frame Jewish spirituality but also serve as a guide for leading a meaningful and purpose-driven life. By unpacking each of these elements, we uncover how they connect deeply to our daily lives and to the greater purpose of Jewish faith.
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Fear of God: Reverence and Awe
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What It Means: Fear of God is often misunderstood as fear of punishment, but in Judaism, it’s about cultivating awe and respect for the Divine. This reverence shapes how we conduct ourselves, make decisions, and approach the ethical dimensions of life.
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Self-Mastery:
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What It Means: In Jewish thought, self-mastery isn’t about suppressing our desires but rather elevating them to serve a greater good. It’s about self-discipline, resilience, and aligning our behavior with our values.
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Our Relationship with God: Connection and Partnership
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What It Means: The Jewish relationship with God is built on a foundation of connection and partnership. Rather than seeing God as distant, we view the Divine as an active presence in our lives, guiding, supporting, and challenging us.
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Together, the fear of God, self-mastery, and our relationship with the Divine form the "DNA of Judaism." These elements remind us that our lives are not random but meaningful, with opportunities for growth, connection, and service. By integrating these principles into our lives, we carry the torch of Jewish wisdom and share its light with the world.
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We have a mitzvah to be happy on sukkot1. How can we be told to be happy??2. Wouldn't having to sit in an uncomfortable sukkah detract from our happiness?Let's discover what happiness is and how to achieve it
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In this episode, ahead of Yom Kippur we take a deep dive into what it really takes to make meaningful, lasting changes in our lives. We’ll explore how we deal with failure, the role of effort and resilience in creating change, and the problems with procrastination. More importantly, we’ll share strategies to help you push through setbacks and make your efforts stick for the long term.
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Understanding failure as an inevitable part of any change journey.
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How to reframe failure not as a dead end, but as a learning experience that helps refine your approach.
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The importance of a growth mindset: viewing setbacks as opportunities for growth rather than reasons to quit.
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Why procrastination is often a barrier to change, leading to delay and avoidance.
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Recognizing the small wins along the way and celebrating progress, even if it’s not perfect.
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How to foster self-compassion throughout the process and give yourself grace while striving for progress.
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Change is hard, but it’s also possible with the right mindset, effort, and tools. This episode is a reminder that failure doesn’t mean you’ve reached the end of the road—it’s just a bump along the way. By pushing through procrastination, building resilience, and focusing on consistent effort, you can turn your goals into reality and make lasting change stick.
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The astonishing answer to why knowledge of what we should and shouldn't do is not enough to help us change. And what we need instead.--For more insights into how to bring meaning, joy and love into your life based on the timeless wisdom of Pirkei Avot - check out my almost sold out book, Living Beautifully - https://amzn.to/4aCoYgq
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In this episode, we dive into one of the most powerful stories of personal transformation in the Bible: the journey of Rachav (Rahab). Once known as a harlot in the city of Jericho, Rachav made a bold decision that changed her life forever. Her story challenges us to think about the capacity for change, redemption, and how people can rise above their past to embrace a new identity and purpose.
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What we can learn from Rachav’s story about personal change and transformation in our own lives.
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How to apply Rachav’s journey to our own lives, whether it’s through forgiveness, starting fresh, or encouraging others on their path to change.
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Are you allowed to vent? What about whistle-blowing?
This episode focuses on understanding the concept of lashon hara (negative speech) in Jewish ethics and exploring the seven conditions that make it permissible to speak negatively about someone—but only for a constructive reason (to’elet). The intention is to clarify when it is allowed to share information that would otherwise be considered lashon hara, ensuring the speech is used to prevent harm and promote positive outcomes.
- Definition: Lashon hara refers to speaking negatively about another person, even if the information is true. In Jewish ethics, this kind of speech is prohibited because of the potential harm it can cause to individuals and communities.
- Constructive Purpose: There are rare cases where it is permissible to share negative information, but only if it is done with the goal of preventing harm or achieving a positive outcome.
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What's so wrong with saying telling other people the truth about themselves? Should we worry about triggering other people?
We look at the impact of our words on other people and the 5 categories of forbidden speech in Jewish law.
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In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of free will and explore how understanding it can significantly enhance our ability to empathize with ourselves and those around us. Join us as we unravel the complexities of free will, its impact on human behavior, and how this knowledge can transform our interactions and self-perception.
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Defining Free Will:
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What is free will, and why is it such a crucial concept to understand?
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How much control do we really have over our actions?
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Empathy and Free Will:
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How understanding free will can lead to greater self-compassion.
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The role of free will in understanding others’ actions and intentions.
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Common Misconceptions:
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Debunking myths about free will and responsibility.
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Real-life examples and case studies illustrating the impact of understanding free will on empathy.
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Thank you for tuning in! We hope this episode helps you navigate the fascinating interplay between free will and empathy, enriching your interactions and self-understanding.
Does it matter what you think of other people? Who cares what's going on in your head? In this episode we look at 3 important reasons why it makes a huge difference what we think about other people.
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If you're like me you probably hate being judged... and yet, who wants to be taken for a ride? In this episode we look at:
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what does Judaism expect from us when it comes to judging other people?
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How we make sure we aren't niave?
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What does Judaism say about Heaven and hell? What is heaven and hell? What are they there for?
Shavuot celebrates us becoming the nation who received the Torah. Why do we read the book of Ruth? Ruth teaches us how to achieve radical transformation in our lives.
Let's talk about reincarnation. Why reincarnation would happen and what it can tell us about our life in this world.-For more insights on how to bring meaning joy and love into your life check out my book Living Beautifully. Currently 25% off with code avot25 at gilaross.com/book
In the next part of our soul's journey we look at the life review!!! Gulp. But wait before you get scared listen to this episode. It will give you a fresh and empowering view of life!!--For more insights on how to bring meaning joy and love into your life check out my book Living Beautifully. Currently 25% off with code avot25 at gilaross.com/book
Let's take a look at what happens after death, in the second episode of our soul's journey. Any questions reach out to gilaross@gmail.com Use AVOT25 to save 25% at gilaross.com/book
In this new series we're going to learn about our soul's journey! Why do we need a soul and why does the soul need to be in this world?--Use code AVOT25 to save 25% on my new book Living Beautifully- how to bring meaning, joy and life into your life based on the timeless wisdom of Pirkei Avot at gilaross.com/book
A fascinating look at the mitzvot of the Pascal Lamb and how it teaches us about the structure of the Jewish people, building community and giving from an abundance mindset. --For more insights into how to bring meaning, joy and love into your life based on the timeless wisdom of Pirkei Avot - check out my new book, Living Beautifully - https://amzn.to/4aCoYgq
I was talking to a friend the other day about when life just feels hard and progress is slow, minimal or seemingly non-existent... interestingly enough there are deep roots for why it has to be this way -- and rhe first time we see this is in the strange way the pesach story happened. Listen for this important idea that has the potential to change how you view life's ups and downs.--For more insights into how to bring meaning, joy and love into your life based on the timeless wisdom of Pirkei Avot - check out my new book, Living Beautifully - https://amzn.to/4aCoYgq
Yesterday someone said to me, "I have always had this feeling that if you don't do the High Holidays right, then catastrophic things are going to happen."
Well, it didn't exactly inspire him to approach the High Holidays confidently and to make the most out of these days! Is there a better way to head into Rosh Hashana?
Yes!
Rosh Hashana is the beginning of the Jewish year, and beginnings have a lot of energy. Start something well and you are on a roll, it is much easier to build on that momentum. If something starts on the wrong track, it is much harder to bring it back to where we want to take it.
So, we definitely want to tap into Rosh Hashana and start the year off well. To do that, you need to know these 2 things!
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Let's talk about parenting... and how challenging it can be... you can feel competent in other areas of your life and yet, our little people can bring us to our knees... Now summer is coming and with that comes extra challenges, join me as I share easy tips to make summer parenting easier and more enjoyable.
Plus find out about my new group coaching program launching in a week. Limited spots available for people who want to truly transform their lives! Check it out here: https://www.subscribepage.com/stucktosuccess or email gilaross@gmail.com to see if you qualify to join!
It's the time of our freedom. But are you feeling free? In this episode we find out what true freedom is, how to get it and how to feel free this year! To schedule a free strategy call with Gila email gilaross@gmail.com.
In honour of International Women's Day, we look at a great Biblical woman, Rachav who underwent the ultimate transformation to answer the question, can people really change?
Do you struggle to fit self-care in? Do you feel guilty about taking time for you? Or do you engage in self-care and still feel like you're running on empty?
Then this class is for you! To claim your free gift of a one to one strategy session with Gila, email gilaross@gmail.com
What does healthy self-esteem look like? What chips away at our self esteem? And what is the antidote? This episode is a must listen!
Question 1) Is it OK to add food colouring to water for decorative purposes?Question 2) Can you use a toy fork that will change colour, eg when touching ice cream?Question 3) What about using lipstick?Question 4) Can you spill dark juice on a white table?Question 5) Pinching a kids face that turns red, ok?Question 6) Wearing eyeglasses that darken in sunlight?Question 7) Invisible ink?The melacha of dying was necessary for the manufacturing of the special curtains and tapestries of the mishkan.Colouring of any materials or substance is the melacha whether accomplished by changing the colour of the material or by adding a coating to it.Even darkening an existing colour is problematic.Any material is included, including painting a wall, adding food colouring for decorative purposes etc.Even if the colour will fade after a while on it's own its still not ok to use, eg cosmetics like lipsticks, eye shadows etc or kids toy plastic cutlery that changes colour with heat/cold.To be the melacha it must entail a measurable change to the surface itself, so to pour dark juice on a white table is ok as there is no meaningful change to the surface.If the colouring is brief and unintentional it's ok, eg to pinch a kids cheek.It would be ok to sit outside on a hot day even though one could become tanned as it's unintentional.If brief colouring occurs indirectly its ok even if intentional, so you can wear photo gray lenses, even though the purpose of them is to become darker with sunlight as the colouring is indirect and subsequently disappears when you return indoors. There are other reasons it's ok too, including that it's purpose is a protection from the sun and not to create any colouring effect.Invisible ink or dye is not ok
Self knowledge is fundamental. In this episode the Wednesday Wisdom group delves into why its so important
↘️How do you want this Chanukah to be? Watch this Insta Live Pre-🕎Chanukah Replay for some amazing inspiring tips 🤩With@itsgilarossGila RossParenting & Life coach with a speciality in managing screentime & advocating for your child, Top Jewish Podcaster, Rebbetzin & Educator @fullyinbalanceDalia Brunschwig Certified Nutrition Health Coach helping Jewish women find their unique blind spot that prevents them from losing weight.@veg.it.out Bayla Haskel, Founder & CEO of Veg it out. Israel's first meal subscription caterer@esthertaubfitness Personal fitness trainer helping women with the physical and mental side of fitness 👉Chanukah is coming and you want to know How to..🍩Have fun with all Chanukah treats but also to keep BALANCE, right?Is that even possible? Check it out!
How do we handle strong emotions? Let's look at Moses failed prayer and this will give us an insight into best way to channel our emotions. We also look at hoshana rabbah and what sometimes holds us back from prayer. ALSO what's coming next on the podcast!!!
As a rebbetzin I get a lot of questions... one of the harder ones is why some religious people do bad things... in this episode we explore this issue.
If you've ever been told that it's in your head you'll know it's usually said to diminish an experience. But what is the value of our thoughts. Here's some stunning insights.
We're coming up to Rosh Hashana and the High Holidays ... there's lots of prayers there. Let's take a deep dive into what prayer is not, what ut is and how we can achieve peace of mind
Can Independence help you live a happier life and make more confident decisions? Is the ideal to be completely self-sufficient? Is it a curse to be dependent?
One of my earliest childhood memories is of meeting the queen. It made a huge impact on me! Her death yesterday was a sad day. Some reflections on her death, a strange mitzvah and the power of waiting in our life...
I had a fascinating conversation with my coach, she showed me how knowledge isnt what you need. So what is it? Listen to this episode to find out
Must listen!!! Is Judaism filled with restrictions and fear? Is there any fun in Judaism? Is there any joy??
We might know an old Jewish story but does it have anything to do with you? In this episode we look at the way G-d gave the Jews the torah and explore how it impacts your daily life.
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how can we tap into Shabbos to look after our soul and keep it going into the week? Question 1) Why is the "kedusha" in the amida longer on shabbos than during the week? Question 2) Why should we care about this?! Question 3) Is it OK to take a shower or bath on Shabbos? Any limitations? Question 4) What to do when hot tap is accidentally turned on? A) We don't beat raw eggs because this is almost exclusively for frying, cooking or baking, and so looks like cooking preps. B) Another ordinance connected with this melacho is not bathing ones entire body. One can't do this even if the water was warmed before shabbos. Bathing and showering were prohibited amongst other reasons because one could forget themselves and warm up the water on Shabbos for the bath. You can wash parts of your body, such as face, hands arms and feet and even in hot water. One must be careful not to wash most of one's body at one time as this would be considered like washing ones whole body. Even when washing parts of ones body in warm water please bare in mind: 1) the water must be heated before shabbos. 2) a wash sponge and the like can't be used. 3) hard soap may not be used. 4) shampoos may not be lathered into ones hair. Swimming in a lake or swimming pool isn't OK for a number of reasons. A lady whose mikva night is Friday night does go in its warm water, she should be wary of not squeezing her wet hair and not comb it. Bathing a child who is soiled in warm water that was heated from before shabbos is ok, eg you can pour hot water from a kettle into a dry wash tub and then add hot water to make it lukewarm. C) Using a hot water tap isn't ok, as its "cooking". Check out how the boiler works! If the hot water was accidentally turned on there is a problem with turning it off, especially if left on for say 15 minutes full force the water in the tank probably cooled and by shutting the tap it will cause the cold water remaining in the tank to stay and become hot thereby doing "cooking". You could hint to a non jew to turn it off. Note, depending on type of system you have that is warming your water, it may be a problem even if on for a shorter period of time, so safest is to not turn it off yourself even in this circumstance.
When someone hurts you, the feelings run deep. Can you make peace with what happened? We look at an ancient city of refuge for a clue to bringing peace into our life.
Unfortunately we all see injustice in our lifetimes... How should you handle it? Is it someone else's problem? Is it something we have to go out and fight? How do we know if your response is proportionate?
How do you react to hearing a controversial ideal? Some incredible stories of the right and wrong way to react.
1) Can you wrap a schnitzel in aluminium foil to keep it hot? 2) Can you put chicken soup in a thermos flask to stay hot? 3) What about putting kishke in aluminium foil so it doesn't dissolve in a chullent in a crockpot? 4) Can you put a towel over your food on a hotplate on shabbos morning to warm food up?
Insulating is forbidden on Shabbos. The concern is that someone will be anxious that his food isn't being kept warm enough and may forget it's shabbos and then place the food on a proper flame.
Some forms of insulating are forbidden even before shabbos begins. Read on.
In order for something to be forbidden under insulating it requires 4 conditions to be present:
1) Total enwrapment, ie the food must be totally covered by insulation.
It is therefore permissable to partially cover or wrap any hot food or hot container of food. As long as a significant area is left exposed it's ok, eg one may not completely wrap a hot potato on shabbos with aluminium foil to keep it warm. However, if you keep it open slightly, thereby exposing a part of the potato, it's ok. Note, it's likely that the first layer of foil is ok if it's main purpose is to prevent food drying out. However a second layer isn't necessary. Also, please note the aluminium foil would need to be precut.
Another example is it's ok to put towels over an urn or hot pot of soup as long as a significant part of the urn/pot is exposed.
2) Original container, ie still in the first vessel.
However if the food was transferred to a second container, its ok to insulate it, eg its allowed to cover a hot tea with a towel to keep it warm as it's in a second vessel, or another example is you could pour hot coffee into a thermos to retain it's heat as the thermos is a second vessel.
3) Intention, ie the intent must be for insulating purposes.
However if the purpose is to protect the food, covering it even totally is permitted, eg its allowed to cover a hot pot of soup with the lid even though the lid acts as an insulator, as the primary purpose is to protect the food. Even if your intention is also to keep the food warm, its ok. Another example is leaving a kishke inside a chullent pot which is wrapped in silver foil is ok. The main purpose of covering the kishke is to separate it from the chullent, and so not an issue when aim is to prevent it dissolving into the chullent or to prevent it absorbing to much of the flavour of the chullent.
4) Direct Contact, ie the wrapping material must be in direct contact with the food or container.
Therefore if the towel or wrapping is not touching the walls of the pot, it's ok to insulate., eg one can place a large plate on top of a pot and drape a towel over it as the insulating materials will envelope the pot whilst not touching its walls.
If any of these 4 conditions are absent, insulating is permitted.
There are 2 categories of insulation; one which generates added heat and 1 which only retains heat.
1) Generates added heat; when materials that are used do more than just insulate, as they produce heat, eg hot sand, salt, grass etc. This is a problem even when done before shabbos, eg wrapping a pot in an electric blanket is not ok even before Shabbos.
2) Only retains heat; eg blankets, dry straw, wheat etc. It's ok to insulate in this way before shabbos, but not on shabbos, eg it's forbidden on Friday night to completely cover a pot of hot soup with a blanket after the pot was removed from the blech. However on Friday afternoon you could do this to keep it warm until the meal.
Crockpots we looked at in an earlier session in terms of insulating. It could be that the crockpot with its cooked food inside it's metal cylinder is a form of generating added heat, which would deem it potentially forbidden to set up even before shabbos if so!? The way to circumvent the issue is by lining the inside wall of the
Question 1) is it OK to put a tray of cold roast chicken on the blech to reheat it?
Question 2) Is there a way to return a hot cholent pot back into a crockpot after you serve from the pot?
Question 3) Is it OK to take pot from fire and put on hotplate?
It is prohibited to return any food even if fully cooked directly onto the heat source, ie the "blech" during the course of shabbos. So, this prohibition even applies to foods that one is otherwise permitted to reheat, eg you can reheat a cold tray of roast chicken if placed near to the blech, but you can't place it on the blech to warm up.
The reason it's forbidden to return food to the fire is it has the outward appearance of cooking and could lead people to think that cooking is allowed.
There are 4 conditions under which it's permitted to return a cooked food to the fire:
1) it must be fully cooked. 2) it must be the intention to return it. 3) it must be held the entire time even if held on a surface, eg a table. 4) it must be returned to a properly covered flame.
In the case of a mistake, as long as the food is fully cooked and returned to the blech, ie conditions 1 and 4.
You could transfer a pot from an oven to blech but not the other way round. You couldn't transfer a pot from the blech to the hotplate as transferring is like returning. The only way to do this acceptably would be to put the pot on the hotplate with a sheet of foil or another blech would cover the hotplate.
There are 2 ways without the 4 conditions to permissibly warm food:
1) to place food near to the blech, even if the food to get properly hot.
2) to place food on a pot that's on the fire already or even to put down an empty pot on the fire. Eg if you want to heat up a cold kugel put it on top of an upside down tray. Now it lacks the appearance of cooking.
How does one return a crockpot to its cylinder?
On the surface this would be an issue of returning. The way to allow this is to cover the interior of the cylinder with aluminium foil. Then you would have to know its fully cooked, have the intention to return it and hold it whilst serving from it.
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Question 1), could there possibly be any issue with leaving raw food on a flame before shabbos? Normally no issue with a melacha with setting it up ahead of shabbos, what about here?
Question 2) If your using a hotplate or crockpot is there anything you need to do to it ahead of shabbos to allow you to put food into it before shabbos?
Mishna teaches us that a raw food that has began cooking may not be left on an uncovered flame over shabbos. This is despite the fact that the act of positioning the food on the flame was done before shabbos.
This restriction is called "shehiyoh".
The reason our Rabbi's forbade this was that one might be inclined to adjust the flame in order to make it cook faster.
The general custom is to cover the range top with a sheet of metal called a "blech" before shabbos and even when the food is fully cooked.
The blech does 2 things:
1) it diminishes the heat of the fire
2) it serves as a visual reminder that adjusting the flame is prohibited.
On modern stoves one should cover the flame and preferably the control knobs too. A sheet of metal placed over the grates and burners is adequate.
Note that when a blech is in place you could even leave raw food on it, such a raw chullent which is placed there just before shabbos. When this is done, the pot may not be moved or tampered with until after the food is definitely cooked.
If you forgot to put a blech on, as long as the food is 1/3 cooked you can use the food.
It's best not to put uncooked food into an oven before shabbos to finish cooking. The only way to deal with this would be to cover the source of the heat. In most ovens it comes out of the bottom of the oven so only the bottom of the oven must be covered with a piece of heavy duty foil.
To add to this issue, if the thermostat is very sensitive a sudden change in temperature can cause the oven to ignite instantaneously.
A crockpot or hotplate without a temperature settings doesn't need a blech, ie it doesn't require a piece of aluminium foil as there is no possibility that you may adjust the source of heat on shabbos.
But please note that for other reasons (insulating) it's best to line the inside of the cylinder of a crockpot with aluminium foil and allow the foil to extend noticeably higher than the cylinder walls.
However if the crockpot or hotplate have a temperature control it can only be used if the food was mostly cooked before shabbos, and the controls should be taped or covered before shabbos. For a hotplate, put heavy aluminium foil or a few layers of regular foil as a blech.
There is an exception to the requirement of covering the heating element when maintaining food on a flame from before shabbos; this is when raw meat is placed in a slow cooker where it cooks slowly and will therefore only be available for the day meal and not the Friday night meal.
Sometimes it feels like we're the lone voice standing up for what's right and we wonder whether there's any point...
- Warming cold noodles in a hot pot of soup? 2, reheating boiled chicken on shabbos, is there a way? 3, dipping challah in hot soup? 4, heating a dessert on hot plate where margarine will melt? Although we can't heat a food to the point of the heat where the hand would not touch it as its so hot, we can reheat foods under certain circumstances. This is because a food can't undergo halachik cooking twice. If you recall cooking is defined as the changing of a food or substance by use of heat. However in the case of a previously cooked food this doesn't hold true as the food has already undergone a major change when it was first cooked, so reheating isn't considered cooking. There is a big difference between solids and liquids. To be able to reheat a food, it must be a solid food and dry. A cooked liquid can only be reheated if still warm. Additionally a food may only be reheated with the same method that was used to heat and prepare it the first time, eg a roasted food by roasti ng it and a cooked food by re cooking it. Some examples,
1) it's allowed to take a cold baked potato from the fridge and to place it near flame where it can become hot.
2) one can place cold boiled chicken from the fridge into a hot pot of soup (1st vessel) that was removed from the flame ). 3) matzah or challah may not be put into a hot pot of soup since challah and matzah are baked, and you are now cooking them. How dry does dry have to be? It doesn't have to be literally dry. As long as no significant accumulation of gravy or liquid its OK. Eg meatballs are considered dry even if moist, as long as not in gravy.
Margarine, congealed fat are regarded as "dry" as there current status determines them and they are dry at room temperature. Examples include rewarming chicken with congealed fat or a dessert being rewarmed that has margarine in it.
Anything that is a liquid can't be rewarmed. Examples include meatballs in sauce, pouring ketchup into a hot pot of chullent, a pot of soup etc.
The reason liquids are different is that heat doesn't have an intrinsic transition in a liquid, which therefore means that a change in temperature of a liquid to a hot point is itself the state of cooking.
As long as the liquid remains warm it can still be reheated. "Warm" would mean it could be used for a hot drink. Eg if leftover soup is hot enough it would still be enjoyed, it can be poured back into a the hot pot.
It should be noted that only intense dry heat radisting from a direct flame is an issue, therefore boiled chicken or noodles can be put on a hotplate isn't intense enough to cook it.
Foods that were both roasted and cooked go after status of last process, eg a lokshen kugel.
So back to our questions. 1) Warming cold lockshen in hot soup ok as long as pot off the fire, as its same way the lokshen was cooked. 2) Reheating boiled cold chicken is ok either by placing it into a pot of soup or by putting it onto a hot plate as the heat isn't hot enough to be an issue. 3) Dipping challah into hot soup is an issue as the challah was baked and you would now be cooking it. The way to do this permissibly would be if either the soup in bowl is no longer terribly hot or if your the hot soup is in a 3rd vessel. 4) Heating a dessert is ok even though the margarine will melt as its considered a dry food as we look at it's current status.
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Question 1) Putting spices into a pot that's on the flame? Ok?
Question 2) Putting milk and sugar into a hot coffee? Ok?
Question 3) Making a cup of tea on shabbos how to do?
There are a number of different categories of how heat can be used to heat uncooked liquids and foods.
1) 1st vessel 2) 2nd vessel 3) 3rd vessel
For our purposes please note that we are going to use halachik rather than scientific principles. Ultimately we are saying that the first vessel can cause cooking when its really hot, whereas the second vessel can't, even when it's hotter..
So, it must be dependent on more than simply how hot a vessel is but other factors too, including how the "walls" of the vessels are regarded in terms of "cooling" things off.
1) First vessel - the container into which a food or liquid was cooked or heated.
This can be on the flame itself, eg a pot of soup boiling on the fire where its absolutely forbidden to put any uncooked food or liquids into it, eg one can't put salt into a pot that's on the flame on shabbos.
Or it could even be a hot pot that's been removed from the flame.
You also can't put a baked item into a first vessel, eg croutons into a hot pot of soup.
So, what can be put into a first vessel? Any solid food that is completely cooked may be placed into it once its been removed from the fire, eg a piece of cold cooked chicken could be put into a pot of hot soup.
2) second vessel - it has a lower heat than a first vessel. Its any container into which hot food or liquid from a first vessel is directly poured, eg a cup of hot water filled directly from the hot water urn.
The rule is, anything that's deemed "sensitive" to heat can cook even in a second vessel. As its uncertain exactly what this includes the only items to put into a second vessel are things already cooked like warming a bottle of milk as the milk is pasteurised or to add cold milk or sugar to a coffee. Additionally water, oil, ginger, cinnamon, salt, pepper.
3) Third vessel - it's a different level of heat than a second vessel. We can rely on saying that a third vessel does not cause any cooking, no matter how hot it is.
So, use a 3rd vessel anytime you prepare hot drinks or food. So, make your tea or coffee this way.
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Question 1) What are the concerns of driving on Shabbos?
Question 2) What about pouring hot water from a kettle on a kiddush cup to melt away droplets of wax?
Question 3) Any difference between cooking a liquid and a solid? Like drops of water vs piece of chicken.
Question 4) What can be re warmed on shabbos?
Cooking is the causing of a change in the properties of a food or substance by use of heat.
This not only includes a raw food until it becomes edible, through cooking, baking, frying or roasting, but also in non foods too like heating wax until it melts or causing metal to become red hot.
In terms of a car there are a number of reasons it's an issue:
1) Melacha of "mavier" which we will do in a later session. Combustion is the issue here. Crazily this melacha occurs thousands of times per minute 🙈. Nothing else like this.
2) This melacha of cooking, due to engine lubricants such as engine oil which are cooked halachically. Similarly the cooling system causes the engine coolant such as the anti freeze to become very hot.
Liquids are more strict than solids in a regard. With solids it is considered cooked once there is a significant physical charge.
By liquids they don't need any significant change but rather it's the state of warmth itself which is the point at which cooking has taken place.
There is a similarity between liquids and solids in that it's only an issue once a substantial degree of heat has effected the food, this is the point at which ones hand would draw back from touching something due to its heat. So, room temperature wouldn't make you accountable for this melacha, eg if ice cream melted (granted you would have another issue of creation).
The temperature of the hand drawing back is somewhere between 40 and 71° celcius/ 104 and 160° degrees Fahrenheit.
Another aspect of cooking liquids is accelerating the process. These methods include:
1) Changing the position of the pot so it's closer to the fire.
2) Reducing the volume of what's in the pot cooking, as that causes what's remaining to cook faster.
3) Stiring the food in the pot on the fire.
4) Covering a pot with a lid whilst it's on the flame.
5) Closing an oven door if the food isn't completely cooked.
Reheating foods:
The only way to do this is with a 1)fully cooked dry food, 2) in an indirect way such as on a hot plate, and 3) in the same way it was cooked the first time!, eg if baked can only be re warmed dry if if cooked can only be re re warmed through liquid, like putting cold noodles into a bowl of hot chicken soup.
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Question 1) any issues making baby cereal on shabbos?
Question 2) you forgot to make charoset on erev pesach, what to do?
This melacha of kneading is the combining of small particles by means of a binding agent into a solid or even semi solid mass.
Even adding or mixing liquid into a think sauce or batter is the melacha, such as mixing baby cereal with milk.
To understand the kneading process there are 2 steps:
1) liquid comes into contact with the flour. 2) the 2 are mixed and blended with a kneading action.
Both of these steps are forbidden.
So it's forbidden to pour water into flour even without mixing and forbidden to mix water and flour even if it was already mixed.
Examples would include: Mixing oil or mayonnaise into mashed avocado or juice into mashed bananas.
However the melacha only applies to small bits which when combined will not be recognised individually but will be seen as 1 mass. Large chunks of food which remain clearly distinct are OK. Eg one can mix banana slices with sour cream or chunks of potatoes with mayonnaise to make potato salad as long as pieces are big enough to be clearly defined in the mixture.
So, how to make your favourite egg mayonnaise on shabbos?!
1) add a lot of mayonnaise in with the purpose of producing a thin mixture. 2) reverse the order of adding the liquid, eg if usually add the egg first, now add egg first. (If no normal order add solids first.) 3) stir the mixture in an unusual manner eg crisscross.
This would also be the way to make charoset on Seder night if you forgot to make it before yom tov, ie:
1) reverse the order and add wine before the charoset 2) add a lot of wine to produce a thin charoset mixture 3) stir it slowly with either a finger or handle of a spoon.
Other examples to look out for:
1) Making think oatmeal cereal, pudding or instant potatoes as these combinations produce think sticky non pourable mixtures. Not ok.
2) With baby cereal you can deal with this by preparing with a lot of liquid which will result in a batter type of mixture not a thick one. Then reverse the order of combining the ingredients and stir it in an unusual manner.
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1) Filtering tap water? 2) Straining foods with a sieve? 3) Sifting clumps from powdered baby cereal? 4) Using a salt shaker? 5) Filtering pressed fruit juice? The melacha is the separation and removal of unwanted matter from a mixture by sifting it through a sieve or similar device, eg using a sieve to remove solidified clumps of sugar in a packet of sugar. Note, nothing wrong with using a sieve to spread thin coating of sugar on a cake as nothing is being sifted. This melacha is the act of separating or isolating from a mixture, not merely scattering or sprinkling particles. Not only is sifting included, but so is straining and filtering. So, straining sediment from wine for example is a problem. It applies to non food items too. It's irrelevant whether what you desire or don't desire is removed, either way its a problem. It's only a problem when it "significantly improves". But let's say most people would not be bothered by what's there, you can't define this as a "significant improvement ". So let's look at impurities in water. If it's so bad people wouldn't drink it under almost any circumstances then filtering would be a "significant improvement ". Other examples would include: tea containing many tea leaves, old wine with heavy sediment, fresh juice with lots or pips and peal. But even a level lower than this whereby there is a noticeable amount of impurities that most people would only drink if filtered is also a problem. So this would mean you shouldn't filter tap water that's safe but cloudy enough that most would filter it, tea containing a small number of leaves. It's only liquids containing mixtures that are drinkable to most people that are OK to filter, eg our tap water, so you can filter it on shabbos. Please note if someone is finicky you couldn't filter for them on shabbos. Question 1) Tap water ok to be filtered if in place where most people would be able to drink it without filtering. Question 2) Straining foods with a sieve not ok. Question 3) Sifting clumps from powdered baby food not ok. Question 4) Using a salt shaker is ok as it's only an issue when removing undesired particles. Would be an issue if undesirable matter was being held back in the sieve like cap. Question 5) Filtering pressed fruit juice is ok as long as it would be drinkable to most people in its untrained state. If you personally are finicky you couldn't strain it. In any event this only applies to minor things in juice like pulp and seeds that would bother people.
In the time of the Talmud most medicines were derived from herbs, which were prepared by grinding or pulverizing. This involves the melacha of grinding, therefore any form of medication or therapy was Rabbinically forbidden to safeguard the melacha. Even exercise would be included in this as it improves one's fitness. 1) As a rule any form of progressive therapy is forbidden, so any form of corrective or health enhancing therapy is included, eg, ingesting pills, use of ointments acupuncture etc. This is even for a healthy person, therefore medications, exercise, vitamins taken to improve one's physical constitution are out.
2) However, vitamins are OK to maintain one's health, eg to prevent a relapse. Preventative therapy is ok as long as it doesn't also strengthen or also improve him. So vitamins not ok if also to improve his general health.
3) Only minor ailments are included in this prohibition. Severe illnesess etc were never restricted by Rabbinic ordinance.
4) Also note, if it could be excused as behaviour of a regular person it's ok, eg having a hot tea to sooth a throat is ok, as is taking a walk to ease tension, as people who are fine do these things too.
5) Medications that will only be effective when taken over many days consecutively may be taken. Antibiotics are fine to continue with as needed to complete the course.
6) For an illness such as a headache that it's bad enough to confine him to bed, he can then take medicine.
We shall now look at a number of real life examples and get a feel for how complicated this can be and why to ask a Rabbi in all cases!:
1) Removing a splinter? OK as not healing, but removal of "outside affliction".
2) Talcum powder for perspiring feet? Ok as only absorbing troublesome moisture.
3) Applying a plaster (bandaid) on shabbos?
Ok (as long as no ointment on it) as it merely covers and protects the wound.
4) Drinking whisky to to calm nerves?
Ok as it could be something a regular person does.
5) Taking a pill when fearful a headache could come on? Ok as preventative.
6) Sleeping pills? Ok as fatigue isn't regarded as a medical condition. What to do if I want/ need to take medication but it doesn't appear to follow any of the lenient examples? You can always camouflage it into food eg smeer with peanut butter or crush into a dribk before shabbos, as then it doesn't have appearance of medicine.
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How to make a salad on Shabbos? Or otherwise put what could possibly potentially be wrong with making a nice salad on Shabbos?
After the grain was isolated from the dirt it was ground into flour.
The melacha of grinding is breaking down and reducing a sizable entity into small parts whereby it becomes suitable for a new use.
So, crushing, chopping, pulverizing any object into small particles whether by hand or with a utensil.
Eg chopping lumber into wood chips.
By food, it's only an issue when food is reduced to small particles which makes it easier to eat.
There are 4 exceptions to grinding under which if you have even 1 of these 4 its ok:
1) It is only an issue with earth grown foods. So, meat, fish, cheese etc can be chopped up.
2) There is no problem of grinding after grinding.
So you could crush a cookie into tiny crumbs because the flour was already ground.
3) For immediate use is fine.
So even if it wasn't pre ground, and it came from the ground you can reduce the fruit or vegetable to a pulverised mass eg by chewing on a carrot.
4) When done in an abnormal way is fine, eg grinding with the handle of a knife is ok.
So, when we speak about making a salad on Shabbos, other than "borer" - sorting issues we saw such as removing bugs or taking the bad from the good, the issue to look out for is grinding related.
The way to deal with this issue is to prepare the salad immediately before consumption. The other exemptions of not growing from the ground and being chopped previously don't apply.
If it's not practical to chop the fruits or vegetables just "before" the meal you can avoid the issue by either using the back of a knife, or by cutting it into long thin slices under which the whole issue doesn't arise.
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Some scenarios: 1) Removing bones in chicken or fish? Can't do unless take some of good with it or whilst eating it to pull the bones out 2) Removing skin of chicken? Ok as considered same "type". 3) Trimming fat off meat? Must trim the meat from the fat. 4) Peeling an egg? This is fine as long as by hand and just before the meal. 5) Cracking a nut? Also fine. 6) Discovered small insects on lettuce how to dispose of the insect? Can't rinse leaf as that removing the bad from the good. So, solution is to cut away and discard part of leaf together with the insect. 7) Using a slotted spoon to remove salad or chullent? This is like a strainer ao no good. Unless it's a soupy chullent or thick dressing and undesired liquid isn't intended to be drained off. If you don't want the liquid drained, it's fine anyway. 8) Using a pot lid to allow soup to pour out whilst the noodles stay inside? This is a problem unless he makes sure to leave soup with the noodles. 9) Organising pieces of a game of different colours and returning to different compartments after been used? No good 10) Putting assorted books away that are left piled up? Best solution maybe to read a bit from each book before you put it away. 11) Setting the table on shabbos? Caution to do close to the meal and taking wanted cutlery from others not wanted. If it gives a nice feeling to have dining room set, this could be considered just before use even if done hours earlier.
1) Could there possibly be something wrong with removing the naturally unwanted nuts from the yum chocolate that's in a bowl? 2) What about getting those annoying bones out of my salmon? 3) What then about eating the delicious chicken off my plate whilst leaving the veg? After threshing, a mixed collection of waste matter remained there with grain kernels. They were sorted and removed by hand. So, for us it's a matter of choosing the bad from the good, eg, removing spoiled cherries from a bowel of cherries. This would be the melacha. The prohibition would also apply to things less desirable so if don't want nuts that are mixed with chocolate you couldn't remove the nuts, even if you happen to like both. Note, this melacha applies to both food and non food items, such as a mixture of cutlery. For us to have an issue of "sorting", 2 factors need to exist: 1) there must be a mixture 2) there must be 2 types in the mixture So, a bowl of cherries and blueberries has both criteria. Or a pile of mixed cutlery would too. But, if let's say clothing in a cupboard isn't mixed but hung loosely to each other, no problem. Or if it's just 1 type it's OK too, eg 2 cookies. But, if a chocolate cake and coffee flavoured cake, that's 2 types, and therefore not ok. Other examples of things considered mixed: 1) peanuts with raisins 2) an assortment of laundry in a basket 3) assorted books stacked together 4) loose pages of books that got mixed. 5) bones in fish 6) seeds in melon 7) wrappers stuck to a candy 8) grapes attached to stems 9) cream on top of milk 10) hair in a liquid Other examples of things not considered mixed: 1) oranges and tangerines scattered on a table 2) assorted cutlery spread out on a table 3) apples in a bag 4) food on a plate But..what if it's got the 2 criteria, ie a mixture and 2 types, is any way to get what I need out of the mixture? Eg how to eat a grape as its attached to its stem?! When have these 3 criteria it's ok: 1) by hand as opposed to with a utensil like a fork or a sieve. You are allowed to use a utensil when its being used solely for convenience, eg cutlery so your hands stay clean. 2) the good from the bad 3) for immediate use So, to get chocolate from nuts, remove the 1 you want by hand for immediate use, it's that simple😄😉 Other ways to get what you desire from a "mixture": 1) Peeling fruits or removing wrappers 2) Cutting away some of the good with part of the bad, eg cut a little good bit of melon together with the pits 3) Scatter the mixture so it's no longer a mixture, eg scatter the washing or the cutlery and then you can take piece by piece Lots of real life examples of this all next week..
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1) Crushing snow? 2) Warming up chocolate cookies (on shabbos hot plate) where the chocolate will melt? 3) Squeezing or shampooing hair? 4) Brushing your teeth? Gemara tells us that one may not crush snow and hail on Shabbos for purpose of producing water. From this we learn it's a problem to produce liquids by breaking down solids or even semi solids. This would extend to crushing or warming ice, ice cream, butter, congealed fat or similar substances to cause to melt or dissolve. These activities resembles the process of crushing grapes for their juices. Included in this is chopping up juice concentrate so it devolves faster into water. However you can put ice cubes into a liquid to melt, or even to crush into small ice fragments to put immediately into your drink, as not trying to produce water. That's the key, anything that is trying to break it down into a liquid is no good, so we don't stir a frozen cup of slush/slurpy. Nor can one squeeze a hand full of snow if the intention is to turn it into water. You can defrost a liquid at room temperature. It appears that using whip topping from a pressurised can could be problem as whilst in the can it's in a liquid form and once it comes out it becomes like foam. Some are lenient but interesting to see another possible application. In terms of melting margarine and the like, it's OK as long as most of the melted liquid becomes absorbed into a solid substance. Please note there may be an issue of "cooking" when melting ice cream or chocolate on a hot piece of cake. We are discussing the present issue of changing a substance. If your hair becomes wet on shabbos you can't squeeze it to extract the water. Similarly shampooing is a similar issue. Way to dry it is to wrap a towel around your hair to absord the wetness. You could use a dry toothbrush as long as done gently enough that it won't cause blood. A wet toothbrush is a problem as it involves pressing and squeezing the wet bristles of the toothbrush against the teeth. Toothpaste is also a separate issue.
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1) How to clean up a spill on Shabbos? 2) Grapes vs Strawberries 3) Making a lemon tea on Shabbos? 4) Washing up on Shabbos? After the stalks of wheat were sheaved they were brought to fields and threshed, which is the removal of the grain kernels from their chaff. The basic concept of threshing is extracting fruit or vegetable from its natural inedible shell, peel or similar attachment, eg breaking apart kernels of wheat from the stems. This melacha applies to plant life and human life, eg expressing human milk or milking an animal, or crushing a honeycomb to extract honey are problems. Other examples of this melacha are: Removing peas from the pods or squeezing grapes for their juice. Squeezing is related to threshing as the juice is extracted from the solid fruit in the same way that grain is detached from husk and peas extracted from their inedible pods. There are 3 conditions under which one can extract liquids: 1) to improve food 2) squeezing liquids into solid foods 3) sucking fruits/vegetables Grapes and olives are in a stricter category and dont follow these exemptions, so you can't squeeze then onto a solid food nor can you suck out the juice. It's best to not even cut up fresh grapes or olives onto a plate as it's inevitable that juice will flow out. Fruits commonly pressed for their juices, such as orange, lemon, apple and strawberry you can suck out the juice with your mouth, cut them on a plate, squeeze over a solid food, put them in tea, scrape it out with a spoon, or by lemon squeeze it over sugar which can then be stirred into tea, or cut a slice of lemon and place it in the tea. But you can't press it against a glass for the juice to come out, eg lemon against a glass, nor slice the fruit over the tea. Also, squeezing a wet cloth or sponge or any wet fabric to expel absorbed liquid is the melacha, or even to press down on a soaked cloth. Best way to deal with a spill on a tablecloth is to gently use a spoon to pick up not yet observed liquid..or use a plastic table cloth😉. Other methods are to use a rag or towel, just don't wring it out. To wash dishes on shabbos, you can't use a sponge as the scrubbing exerts pressure and consequently the water will be squeezed out. You can use a sponge that has a handle and to then wipe gently. Or use a brush with stiff synthetic material or of plastic or wire mesh. Expressing milk for a baby is also an issue. A mother who needs to express milk on shabbos should use a hand pump, put liquid soap into a cup and it that way the milk will be unusable.
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Can I 1) Pick up apples from the garden? 2) Rake leaves to form a compost pile? 3) Gather peanuts that have fallen in the kitchen? 4) Gather cutlery that has fallen? 5) Pick up a bunch of cotton shirts that have fallen? After reaping the cut stalks of produce were gathered and sheaved to be brought later to the threshing floor. Called the melacha of gathering. Essentially it's the collecting or combining of scattered fruits, produce or any other substance that grows from the ground, it applies to even 2 fruits even of different varieties. Additionally consolidating what has already been gathered such as compacting a mound of dates into a solid mass is also under gathering. Some examples of this melacha: 1) stringing figs 2) gathering a bucket of apples 3) raking leaves to form a compost pile You could pick up 1 fruit at a time and take into your house even though you will end up filling a container inside. Note, this is only where the fruits fell before shabbos! Otherwise are muktza under reaping (part 13).
4 exceptions to gathering: 1) the items must be earth grown, so cutlery can be gathered. 2) it must be gathered in its place of growth, so peanuts that scatter in the kitchen can be picked up. However note that if indoors is the place that it's ordinarily packed or consolidated, such as stringing figs, it's not ok indoors. 3) regathering isn't gathering, so if a basket of tomatoes tipped over in a garden you can collect them as they were already gathered once before. However if the fruits became scattered when they fell then for other reasons only do 2 or 3 at a time. 4) the objects must be in their original state, so wooden toys or cotton shirts can be gathered up even though from a material that in it's original state, gathering applies to.
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Seems little to do with our lives!, some of questions to investigate:
1) Picking a plum
2) Walking on grass
3) Using a hammock
4) Riding a horse
5) Smelling a fruit on a tree
Reaping is the uprooting or severing of any living plant or vegetation from its source of growth.
This can be by uprooting an entire plant or even by breaking off a leaf or a branch.
Classic examples?
Picking an apple even though the tree remains rooted to the ground. Or picking vegetables, flowers or pulling weeds from a garden.
We are not discussing merely inhibiting growth, that is ok and not included. Eg you can close a blind near a plant even though this will block sunlight.
Some examples of how this melacha applies:
1) Removing moss from damp wood, as that's its natural growing surface.
2) Removing seeds from a jar of water where they are sprouting.
3) Lifting a potted plant from soil.
4) Removing a non muktza seed from the ground isn't a problem as long as remained there less than 2 days as the seeds not yet began to germinate.
(Note - by dropping a seed onto the earth it's a problem immediately of sowing!)
5) Walking on grass is ok even though it may uproot grass because it's not inevitable.
6) Walking on delicate plants not ok as the stems will snap under foot, likewise heavy contact sports not simple at all. Even running on long grass an issue.
7) Deliberately kicking pollen laden dandelion not ok as the pollen will become detached.
On top of this the Rabbi's restricted 4 areas that could lead to this melacha:
1) Using a Tree:
Use includes climbing a tree, leaning against one or sitting on it. The concern was breaking off a part of the tree whilst on it. Therefore trees are muktza including even to lean one's full weight on it or even to place your jacket on it.
2) Using an animal:
The Rabbi's were concerned riding an animal could lead to this melacha as one might need a stick to prod the animal and may rip it off a tree.
3) Smelling a fruit on a tree:
Lest one come to pick it off the tree
4) Fruits that fell from a tree on Shabbos:
Are muktza.
Is Judaism just too hard? Are we being asked for too much? We look at the curious story of the Jews being threatened to be buried under Mount Sinai and learn what to do when it gets too hard.
How do you navigate social media useage with your kids (and yourself!)? How do you feel about your kids being on social media? Does it frighten you? A bit? Or more than a bit? Social media has changed the world that our kids are navigating, let's talk about how to help our kids navigate social media. Can you guess the lie? 1. Don't let your kids use social media in the dark 2. Social media is the root of our unhappiness 3. Tell your kids to follow more accounts on social media Guess which one is the lie, now listen and see if you got it right!
Sowing is the initiation or promotion of plant growth, whether accomplished by sowing, planting, watering or any other means.
1) Placing a seed on mud?
2) Planting a seed on a well used path?
3) Throwing remains of your apple core in the garden?
4) Washing hands over grass when having a picnic?
5) So how can you take off a sukkah roof when it's water logged and will get into the grass?
6) Covering a plant with a blanket to protect it from say the sunlight or cold
7) Plants, what's there status on Shabbos?
8) Flowers, what's there status on shabbos?
1) Placing a seed in mud is a problem as growth is possible.
2) Planting a seed on a well used path isn't a problem of sowing as the constant trampling will prevent the seeds from sprouting. Similarly fine to plant a seed in a dessert.
3) Must be careful of discarding fruits and vegetables outdoors as they could germinate in the ground.
4) Can't get water on grass as it promotes the growth. Just be careful not saying you can't drink outdoors.
5) It could be OK to take sukkah roof off even when you know the water will get onto the grass when either:
The grass is already water saturated so not adding anything.
Or if you open it over pavement even if it will then roll onto the grass.
A way out of this is to put a plastic tarp out before yom tov and that way when you lift the roof it will spill onto the tarp.
6) Can't cover a plant with a blanket as it's promoting its growth.
7) Indoor plants are looked same way as outdoor ones so we don't water indoor plants, nor do we proposely improve the light, air or temperature.
We can't put it on grass or even suspend it over grass as it as it's possible that in hakachik terms this assists in drawing extra nutrients from the soil.
8) Once a plant is detached it's no longer living so it's not muktza like a plant is. But we don't put into water if not done before shabbos.
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Blimie Heller, of Unconditional Parenting, talks to us candidly about her journey to gentle parenting and shares some truths and tools to parenting gently. Can you guess the lie? 1. Initially this way of parenting is harder, but it becomes more meaningful and makes parenting more enjoyable 2. Gentle parenting is permissive 3. We don't prioritize the child's needs over the parents needs and we don't prioritize the parent's needs over the child's. Now listen and see if you were right! Any questions please reach out to Gila on Instagram @itsgilaross
Questions to look at:
1) Why would plowing be a problem?
2) What does plowing have to do with us anyway??
3) Dragging a chair on mud, is that ok?
4) Digging in a sandbox, is that ok?
5) Can I remove rocks and twigs from a lawn?
6) Can I weeding?
7) Can I fertilise soil?
8) Can I place a bean in a jar of water?
9) Can I walk on soft soil and make a foot print?
10) Can I push a baby carriage on soil?
Now we begin going through the 39 types of work they did in the mishkan, which was like the temporary temple whilst they travelled through the desert.
In the mishkan they had the miraculous "lechem hapanim", which stayed fresh for an entire week!
The 1st 11 melachas will go through the steps of producing the bread, the 1st of which is plowing.
The basic premise of plowing is the preparation of soil for the purpose of making it more suitable for seeding or planting. Plowing loosens the soil, so any activity which loosens soil is included even if planting wasn't his intention.
So many ways we are involved in this even when we are not gardeners as we shall see.
Remember the tiniest hole is sufficient to accommodate a very small seed.
So going back to each question:
3) Not ok to drag a chair on earth as the chair legs scrape and loosen the soil whilst it's being dragged.
4) Digging in a sandbox is ok as it's too loose to form a hole. However if it was wet then could be an issue. (Reason sandbox not muktza is its automatically set aside for play.)
5) Removing rocks and the like not ok as it's making the land surface more cultivable.
6) Weeding not ok as it improves the soil potential.
7) Fertilising soil not ok as it enriches the soil so improving it for seeding or planting.
8) Placing a bean in a jar of water to sprout not ok.
9) Walking on soft soil is ok even if will cause a footprint because the walking only compresses the soil beneath the foot.
Loosening the soil is the problem, not compressing it. Compacting soil doesn't improve it for planting.
10) Pushing baby carriage on soil is also ok even if get a wheel mark as again it merely compresses it.
What do you do when you aren't feeling spiritual satisfaction with a mitzvah? Is there a point to doing the ritual? We look at some solid advice from the business world and from the Torah story of the Jews coming out of Egypt!
Can you guess which one is the lie?
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You deserve beautiful things!
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Your words create your reality!
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You're either confident or not!
We chat with Rivky Itzkowitz from Impact Fashion about body confidence for our kids... and ourselves!
Do we really know who someone is? We look at the personalities of Moses and Aaron to see who is greater and come away with an understanding of the secret to maximising life.
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The Gemara tells of the evil government that stopped us bringing wood to the temple in order that sacrifices wouldn't be able to be brought. And they stopped us bringing the first fruits to Jerusalem, which was part of a beautiful ceremony. Why did they stop these 2? Why not outlaw shabbos, mikva or circumcision? These 2 mitzvot had great celebrations associated with them. There were parades and more! They knew what kept us going even at "tough" times was simcha - joy. When I say tough it could be "tough" as our religion was persecuted or "tough " as maybe it's not cool to practice anymore. What we learn is joy in our mitzvah observance is the secret ingredient!!
There are 2 different elements of Shabbos, the positive mitzvot we do like enjoying, making it special etc and the prohibitions like not doing work.
Our work is to not just focus on getting the laws of Shabbos right but to add to the great joy and associate with Shabbos. All blessings of the week come from Shabbos.
Kiddush will be associated with this aspect.
Kiddush:
In the Ten Commandments we are commanded to “Remember the Shabbos day to sanctify it.” One fulfills this Torah obligation by saying Kiddush on Shabbos. The Rabbis instituted the recitation of Kiddush over a cup of wine.
Both men and women are equally obligated in this mitzvah.
The cup must hold at least a 3.8 fl. oz.; 112 ml. It is best to recite Kiddush using a silver kiddush cup. One may also use a glass or any other non-disposable cup. It is best to fill the cup to the top. However, if one does not have enough wine to fill the cup he need not fill it, provided that the cup contains the measurement above of wine.
Upon completing Kiddush, the one who recites it should drink a “m’lo lugmav,” the amount of wine that fills one of his cheeks. For an average adult male, this is between 1.5 and 2 fl. oz. (44-59 ml). This amount should be drunk within a 30 second time span
If it is too difficult for the one who says Kiddush to drink a m’lo lugmav, someone else may drink the cheek full.
Having cups of wine/grape juice prepared ahead of time so after you make kiddush you can share a bit from the cup of blessing into each of these so they can be passed around and each person can put a bit in their own cup.
One fulfils Kiddush only if a meal is eaten immediately after Kiddush in the same location.
If one does not eat bread, such as at a kiddush after shul one may eat a food containing the five grains. upon which the brocha of Mezonos is said.
Arguments to stand/sit:
a. Standing – “Vayechulu” is testimony that Hashem created the world and rested on Shabbos. Just as witnesses stand before Bais Din when testifying, similarly some stand for this testimony and remain standing while reciting the entire Kiddush. b. Sitting – When helping others fulfil their obligation, everyone is joined together for that moment, this is done through sitting.
Follow ones custom if you have one, or sit at least for the blessing.
For both kiddush and havdalah important to listen to words as someone is saying it on our behalf.
Challas should be covered during kiddush.
Havdalla:
Just as it is a mitzvah to sanctify Shabbos on a cup of wine as it enters, it is a mitzvah to sanctify it on a cup of wine as it departs. This is done by reciting havdalah. We also recite blessings over spices and on a candle. Women are also obligated to hear havdalah so they should listen to it carefully.
In a place where wine is not available, one may make havdalah on beer or any other beverage that is considered a local drink like coffee or tea.
Once night falls on Saturday, one may not eat or drink anything other than water before havdalah.
*Work may not be done before havdalah. Therefore, if you need to turn on lights or perform
Jacob asks his son Joseph to give him true kindness. Sometimes we're kind for ulterior motives. How do we cultivate true kindness and ensure we have no ulterior motives? (Vayechi)
Accepted custom is the woman accepts shabbos at the time of lighting - when she says the bracha. Others may continue to do work until just before sundown.
When a man lights, his Shabbos has not yet commenced, it's either a few mins before sunset or when shul he's in does last part of lecha dodi.
3 reasons for candle lighting:
honor, enjoyment, peace in the home.
How?
Usually one makes a blessing prior to doing the mitzvah. When a female lights Shabbos candles she can't make the blessing first, as then Shabbos would begin before she could light the candles! So, she first lights them and then makes the blessing.
If a man is lighting he first makes the blessing as for a man Shabbos doesn't come in with candle lighting but with sunset/last bit of lecha dodi.
What?
Candles or olive oil. Olive oil is preferable.
Electric lights - are acceptable when no other alternative but shouldn't make a blessing on them. e.g. hospital.
When?
Custom - 18-20 minutes before sundown. No later than 2 minutes b4 sunset. As early as "plag hamincha" which is 1 and quarter halachik hours before sunset.
How many?
Shamor and Zachor - the 2 aspects of Shabbat.
Basic requirement - 1 candle. Some have custom of adding on for each child.
If didn't light:
If negligent, doesn't apply to emergencies, has to light an extra candle forever!
What if I'm running late? the mitzvah is not to light.
When does "early shabbos" begin?
If 1 shul in town then it is binding on the whole community but if more than one shul it does not apply. When it is for convenience it is independent for each member of the household, i.e. if the husband accepts it early it doesn't impose on the wife.
Please see the beautiful blessing one can say at candle lighting time.
Also not myzmanim.org has an app that you can see any Friday the earliest time for lighting called plag hamincha and the latest, which is just before sundown.
I was so frustrated that I hadn't got an opportunity that I was hoping for. Until I understood the conversation between Joseph and Judah.
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⭐️ There’s room for creativity and imagination within formal prayer
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Usually it's OK to start a melacha - a forbiden work before Shabbos even if the process will be activated during Shabbos, e.g. lighting a candle before Shabbos even though it will burn on Shabbos or setting a trap before Shabbos that will catch an animal on Shabbos.
The exception to this is where the work is noisy, eg leaving on a clothes dryer, TV etc.
One also has to be mindful of benefiting from a fellow Jew's work even when it's not Shabbos for you, eg one shouldn't listen to a radio show from Israel when they are into Shabbos even though you are still some time until Shabbos.
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Timers are OK, e.g. for lights, for a hot plate to go on on Shabbos morning etc.
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It is fine to mail a letter first class on Friday even though you knew it will be delivered on Shabbos day. There are a number of reasons for this, one being that at best you are asking someone who is asking someone else, rather than a direct request to a gentile to do work for you.
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One other exception is leaving on a pot of cholent before shabbos. It's fine to do this, but due to concerns of adjusting a flame we are supposed to cover the flame.
We bring in Shabbos before sunset on Friday. There is a custom to bring it in 18 mins before sunset if possible.
The earliest time one can bring in Shabbos is an hour and a quarter of halachic hours before sunset. If one lit candles before this one would need to light again, beware in summer months when this can be late. For timings of times where you live, check myzmanim.org
When a person suffers through a painful experience, how can they rise above it? Is it possible to move to a place of joy? Joseph gives us inspiration. He was able to overcome and even name his child in gratitude for recovering from his difficulties. How?
Avoiding Distress, "Weekday Activities" and "Creative Changes"
Not allowed to cause anyone anguish or emotional distress on Shabbos, e.g. can't share bad news. We don't comfort mourners under most circumstances. We don't fast on Shabbos. Don't even say tehillim for someone unless person is dangerously ill.
Shouldn't play chess with someone if person will become depressed if he loses.
In order to distinguish shabbos from other days, we are to avoid "weekday activities" - "uvdin dechol".
These are activities that closely resemble the type of thing we would do on a weekday, these activities are ones that would involve a "melacha" - 1 of forbidden types of work.
Some examples:
1) Using a grater. Food can be chopped on shabbos but we shouldn't use a grater as it's an item which is usually associated with a melacha.
2) Hair brush. You can use a brush that you know won't pull out hairs but should designate a special shabbos brush even if your weekday one doesn't pull out hairs.
3) Using a computer example for zoom that's already switched on and you won't switch off after. Note a computer and zoom has other issues involved even when not being touched but would also full under this banner.
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On Shabbos we make the point of ceasing from creative acts. The Rabbis also added certain creative acts themselves.
We can't create a new entity or bring about a dramatic creative change in a substance.
Examples:
1) Crushing ice to water, as that change in substance is similar to a new entity.
2) Can't melt congealed fats to transform into a liquid.
3) Can't infuse a scent into a garment.
4) Not to strike a match on yom tov when it's permissable to make a fire.
Shabbos Treasures Week 6 - Preparing for after Shabbos needs.
Q) Pesach falls on a Saturday night, is it OK to have the kids sleep Shabbos afternoon so they will be up fresh and bright for Seder?
Our Sages forbade any type of effort or preparation during shabbos or yom tov for after in order to preserve the restful character.
Just like we shouldn't move many heavy tables and chairs unless for a mitzvah like shabbos meal so too here.
It is not a problem to prepare when:
1) it's not self evident why you are doing this.
2) it's done routinely, aka out of habit and it's a small deal to do this, as it's not "strenuous".
We were asked what's the cut off on this?
I think the answer is when it's done routinely and effortlessly by people our of habit and when we don't even have a conscious thought about it and it's simple i.e. it's not strenuous work, it's not deemed preparation.
3) a significant loss when involving a "minor" labor activity.
4) if useful to Shabbos e.g. it may give you pleasure now if its clean etc.
Let's now look at a number of examples:
1) Washing dishes - not ok.
So how to deal with on shabbos? You could leave in sink and as people wash their hands naturally over the day they get rinsed.
2) Wiping a table top clean: not ok, unless you will enjoy the clean table now.
3) Arranging dirty dishes in dishwasher; not ok, but if mess of dirty plates bothers you, you could put it in.
4) Making beds; not ok, unless them being messy bothers you.
5) Arranging dozens of books in shul; not ok.
6) Bringing wine for Havdalla from fridge before shabbos is out, not ok.
7) Returning a book to bookshelf; fine as out of habit not preparation.
8) Taking a coat for a walk on shabbos when not raining right now; ok as it's "common place" activity.
9) Taking out a key in a city with eruv; ok, same as 8.
10) Putting leftover challah in freezer; ok as preventing a loss.
11) Tidying up a room; ok if mess bothers you.
12) Leftovers in fridge; ok but don't say your doing it for tomorrow.
Sleeping on Shabbat afternoon to be fresh after Shabbat, ok as long as don't express why your sleeping.
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The question we are looking at in this episode is: There is a sale I want to go to right after shabbat? Can I walk there on Shabbat so I can be there right as Shabbat ends?
The prophet's words are a form of "rest" to protect spirit of Shabbos.
As its the prophet's speaking it carries weight.
In Yeshaya it says "you shall honour the Shabbos in your goings by refraining from pursuing your weekday occupations and from speaking of them".
Basically referring to 3 elements:
1) Walking
2) Weekday occupations
3) Speech
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Is it OK to:
1) ask a Jew who isn't particular about Shabbos to turn off a light?
2) ask a non-Jew to turn your light on?
3) ask a non-Jew to turn your annoying alarm off?
4) ask your non-Jewish cleaner to clean up from Shabbos?
5) ask your non-Jewish cleaner to set up for Saturday night event?
6) plug in your freezer which is full of meat when the plug got knocked out?
7) ask a non-Jew to bring you Challah from your neighbor when there is no eruv when you realise on Shabbos that you have run out of Challah?
You're not seolf-sabotaging. Here's 3 human tendencies that are why you fail. We look at the Torah Portion on Toldot and Rebecca and see insights into why we fail.
We will look at these scenarios and see whether it's muktza and your stuck or if there is a way to move?:
1) play in sandpit
2) phone left on a bed
3) crack open a nut with a hammer
4) throw out dirty nappy
5) move fallen sukkah decorations that have fallen in sukkah
6) fresh egg your chicken lays
7) use shabbos table for shabbos day once candlesticks were on it Friday night
Sometimes life can throw us insurmountable challenges - we learn from Abraham and his challenges a mindset that we can adopt to help us get through our tests. This episode is dedicated to the memory of Shlomo HaLevi Ben Masha.
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First part of our new series, Shabbos Treasures - upgrade your shabbat in just 20-30 minutes weekly. Written summary available on request.
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How do we access happiness during challenging times? Is it realistic? In this episode we explore a mindset shift that can make all the difference.
Yes yes listening is important in relationships! All relationships not just with our kids. But it's not always easy! Life is busy, kids can be reluctant to talk. In this episode we examine 3 elements to effective listening, plus am exercise to practice to bring the benefits of those skills to life. To join a parenting course or for individualized parenting solutions please contact gilaross@gmail.com or +447990-333-946.
In this episode of morning mindfulness we look at a powerful and new way to look at your amazing body! And we explore where using that mindfulness will take us and how it can really change our days. The blessing we explore is: "You, our G-d, Source of all blessings, Master of the World, created people with wisdom and made our bodies so complex with many cavities and many openings. It is obvious and known to You that if even one of them were to rupture or become blocked, it would be impossible to survive and to stand before You. You, Source of all blessings, Master of the World, heals our bodies and make wondrous creations. Complete the morning mindfulness challenge and let me know how it felt! You can get in touch on Instagram @gilaross or Facebook.
It's been really tense in Israel and in this episode we dig deep and explore what our relationship is with Israel? What makes that country unique? To join an upcoming session message Gila at +44-7990-333-946
Next up on the morning mindfulness series: we take a look at what it means to live with soul - spoiler alert: it's better than you thought and how we find our life curriculum. To sponsor an episode email gilaross@gmail.com.
Tapping into the spiritual energy of this time of year and how it relates to our lives. To sponsor an episode email gilaross@gmail.com.
How and when do we use incentives in parenting? What are the best types of incentives to use? Let us know how the ideas you hear work for your family. If you'd like personalised solutions for your family email gilaross@gmail.com.
I'm not a morning person -- you know those cups that say don't talk to me until I've had my coffee!?! Well! 🤦🏻♀️ So you can trust me when I say that I can't wait to share an incredible set of ideas to really level up our mornings and our days!! Let's jump right in and say goodbye to morning blues!
Personal responsibility is a big deal nowadays, but how do we develop a sense of personal responsibility that encourages us to take action in our life and that doesn't produce guilt!?! A look at why we resist responsibility and what we can do about it?
In this episode of parenting in 20 minutes we look at incentives and deterrents, the place they should play within parenting, and how and when to use them. To join a parenting course or for individualized parenting solutions please contact gilaross@gmail.com.
Adrienne Gold Davis went from hosting her own TV fashion and beauty show in a bathtub to a fully covered Orthodox woman, sharing spiritual wisdom much as she shared her passion for fashion! In this episode she shares her fascinating story and advice on using our obsessions to our advantage. This episode is sponsored in merit of the 45 people who tragically passed away in Meron. To sponsor an upcoming episode, please contact gilaross@gmail.com.
In last week's episode we spoke about strategies to beat our desire to do the wrong thing. Afterwards I got asked but why do we have the desire to do the wrong thing at all?? Well surprisingly enough it might actually be your best friend!! This episode is dedicated to all our dear supporters who helped us smash Seed's campaign! To sponsor an episode message +44-7990-333-946.
A student managed to make a life changing difficult decision -- and I asked him how he managed to find the inner strength to committ and follow it through -- his answer was surprising and led to a lively discussion, with a mind blowing story!!! This episode is sponsored in memory of Felix Shraga Ben Zalman Zilberstein, whose own life story is fascinating.
If you're a parent, chances are you've experienced a tantrum! In this episode of parenting in just 20 minutes we focus on tools to take charge of tantrums, specifically when the child is trying to gain control. To join a parenting course or for individualized parenting solutions please get in touch +44 7990 333 946.
Why do we want to do things we know we shouldn't do? Wouldn't it be easier if we didn't have the desire to do bad things? This episode is sponsored for the merit of Shoshana Faiga bas Chaim Yitzchok. To sponsor a future episode, email gilaross@gmail.com.
What do we know about how much G-d mixed into our lives and what difference does it make to our lives? This episode is dedicated as a zechus for Shoshana Faige bas Chaim Yitzchok
Have you ever wanted to change something and then not managed to? Here about the crazy dilemma of the person who underwent tzaraat - leprosy and hear how it can help us make changes stick in our lives. (Metzora)
Ever wish that you just had clarity!?! That you knew exactly what you should be doing? And that if you'd more clearly see the consequences of your actions so that it would make it easier to fulfill your goals? Then this episode is for you! A fascinating look at why the world is the way it is and how we should navigate it.
If you're a parent chances are you have experienced one 🤪 (Perhaps it's even been the kid that's throwing a tantrum!!) Some strategies for reducing and dealing with tantrums and meltdowns, before, during and after. To join a parenting course or for individualized parenting solutions, please get in touch - gilaross@gmail.com or +447990-333-946.
You can't help but love Yaffa! Her joy, her humour, her sincerity draws you in. Originally from New York to Israel to Mexico City to San Diego and now Miami, in this inspiring episode Yaffa shares her story and how she came to choose right over easy, again and again. And in telling her story she leaves us inspired to also choose right over easy and become the best version of ourselves. To sponsor an episode of the top rated Powerup Podcast, please email gilaross@gmail.com.
What are the important factors to keep in mind when choosing where to live and who to associate with? (Avot 6:9-11) And listen to find out about an exciting new launch!!
Unfortunately our history is replete with suffering, what's an appropriate response and how do we relate to our history?
Sometimes life can feel overwhelming, so many things threaten to derail us, but amidst it all there is hope!! Find out about the branch that we can grasp onto which gives us peace and will help us channel our qualities into something meaningful! (Avot 6:7-8)
How would you answer this question: What is the core of what it means to be a Jew? Surprisingly when we answer the 4 questions on Seder night, we answer this too (although this amazing answer is often missed)!
Meet Anne Schieber, who lived a crazy extreme life... What was up with her!?! Interestingly enough she was onto something profound!! (Avot 6:4-6)
Rabbi Ross and myself share a couple of interesting discussion points and ideas to share and to engage the participants at your Seder table!
In this special episode we chat with Meira Spivak, Innovator, Director of Oregon NCSY, Mother of a Very Large Family and most recently Author of 'How to Make Pesach in 5 Days'! She shares her secret to her can-do attitude, to stressing less and what her superpower is. What a joy to listen to!
The secret to unleashing so much happiness in our lives and to accessing the freedom to live with internal harmony. And what does the study of Torah have to do with us and our everyday life? (Avot 6:1-3)
Different ages and stages of life call for different focus!! And what's the best investment of our time? (Avot 5:25-26)
In this fascinating discussion our Wednesday evening group looks at how we fail and what separates the mediocre from those who go on to achieve their goals! A huge thank you to https://blog.feedspot.com/jewish_podcasts/ for naming the PowerUp Podcast as number 16 of the top 50 Jewish podcasts worldwide!!
Sibling rivalry - it drives us nuts as parents!! Use these 2 tools to reduce sibling rivalry in your family.
The 3 mindsets and 4 actions you need to develop to unleash your inner awesomeness and finding your area to to shine!! (Avot 5:22-24)
A special for International Women's Day - with our Wednesday night discussion group we look at women's role in Judaism? Do they have a secondary spiritual role? A surprising answer!
How do we build successful relationships and how do we weather the conflicts? Jam packed with great insights into relationships and how to harness them (Avot 5:19-21)
A look at the 3 stands we take to give our kids the structure and freedom to become great.
In a world inundated with information, what type of consumer are you? What type of giver? What is your attitude towards self-improvement. See if you can identify yourself in one of these 4 types. (Avot 5:16-18)
In this special anniversary edition, Rabbi Ross shares his dating rejection story and how Purim helped him make sense of it all.
Let's get practical! How do we deal with those moments when our kids break rules, don't listen etc.
There's a lot of talk about self improvement and the education that goes along with it but not much talk devoted to how different people learn. In this short episode we look at the 4 different types of learners and their pros and cons. Plus how each one can succeed. (Avot 5:15)
We're told we can discover the essence of a person by 3 things - how they behave when it comes to finances, when they are under the influence and when they are angry! Let's take a look at 4 different approaches to temper and meanwhile answer the age old question of can a leopard change its spots!?! (Avot 5:14)
We are currently in the month of Adar - the 'happy month'... Yet we're in lockdown, how do we access this happiness? Is it chocolate!?! 🤣 Is it just mindsets? Join us for a fascinating discussion that will give you a fresh perspective on this age old question!
I've often heard the sentiment I don't want to be a doormat... In fact I have grappled with it myself... How to achieve the balance of giving though? (Avot 5:13)
Do you believe that things that happen are supposed to happen? Do they happen for a reason? (Avot 5:10-12)
From the most unlikely source we learn some key skills to accessing serenity in our lives! (Avot 5:9)
More on this hot topic of judging other people with the fabulous Wednesday evening crew! Who deserves the benefit of the doubt? And hey, surely it's better not to judge others at all??
How do we get our kids to listen?? How do we build our kids self confidence? Using this positive and easy tool!
When my daughter heard the subject she turned up her nose 🤪 but even she was impressed by how important and relevant the two takeaways are! (Avot 5:7)
Sometimes we feel that if only we had a sign life would be different, we would be different! Is that true though? Let's examine it by using a case study. (Avot 5:5-6)
3 relevant ideas that we can learn from Tu B'Shvat to uplift us and bring more joy to our lives.
How do we help our children believe in themselves? A simple and effective tool to give our children more responsibility.
Let's take a look at Abraham and his tests and use it to understand what the point of tests and challenges are. (Avot 5:4)
While we may think of G-d as the big guy in the sky waiting and watching over us, what is the real picture? A fascinating view that we learn from some technical details listed in the Torah. (Avot 5:2-3)
Judging others, whether it's us being judgemental (let's be honest, we've all there 🤦🏻♀️) or feeling judged by others is a hot topic at the moment! What is the correct approach?
On a day to day basis what's the greatest gift we can give our kids? The foundation so that they feel our love and can learn from us?
A timely look at the opportunity that we are given in this world, resurrection and the accountability of each of our actions. (Avot 4:29)
Rules and boundaries are important for the functioning of our home. Learn how to teach rules and build our kid's self esteem at the same time. To get in touch with Gila, find her on Instagram @gilaross or on +44 7990 333 946.
As human beings we have some desires that are unavoidable, they can even be functional, but they are so easy to be taken to the excess. Take the desire for physical pleasure, so easily turned to gluttony or unhealthy habits! Join us to hear about 3 common vices and their antidotes. (Avot 4:28)
Here in the UK we've just gone into our 3rd lockdown, the weather is so cold, people are feeling the strain... How can we strengthen our relationships? Our Wednesday night group discusses a vital skill that we can easily develop.
Rules, rules and rules. Understanding why we need rules and boundaries will give us the confidence to set and follow through on appropriate ones.
We're often so quick to judge... But first, listen to this. Also when we make our self-care routines and healthy living resolution, make sure we do it the right way - as described at the end of the episode. (Avot 4:27)
Parenting in 20 minutes returns with an easy positive powerful tool to teach our kids our values and build their self esteem.
The differences between learning when you're young and when you're more mature. And the differences between learning from someone young and someone older. Plus how to maximize your learning no matter your stage of life. (Avot 4:24-25)
Some brilliant ideas about human relationships with those close and far from us. Sometimes we try to help people but we only end up making things worse! How do we ensure that we are actually being of help? And what should our attitude towards negative people? (Avot 4:23-24)
Our Wednesday evening group discusses: What impact does Chanukah have on us today? What was so threatening about the Jewish ideology that the Greeks wanted to destroy it? And what is our response?
In this episode of Parenting in 20 Minutes we look at the big question: How do we set and enforce boundaries?
A rabbi was once asked why his home was so sparsely furnished. His startling answer shares a brilliant mindset that we can carry with us to give us peace of mind and focus in this world. (Avot 4:21-22)
The classic question that we as humans struggle with. Join us as we explore this profound topic and a couple of takeaways that we can use to enhance our relationships. (Avot 4:19-20)
Self esteem is such a huge topic nowadays! Together with our Wednesday evening group we look at the pressures and antidotes to building a solid sense of self.
Is all greatness equal? How do we define greatness and how do we set ourselves up for true success? And the story of why we decided to uproot our family. (Avot 4:17-18)
Human nature is such that people find it difficult to give people the respect they deserve. Listen to this brilliant piece of advice from a master of respect. And is ignorance bliss or is it a failing? (Avot 4:15-16)
Our Wednesday evening group has a frank and fascinating look at ambition and multi-tasking!
Together with co-host Samuel Ross we launch a parenting in 20 minutes course with a taster session exploring the goals of parenting and how it can help us respond to parenting moments.
Try this powerful mindset to help us make the right decisions, both as an individual and also how to make teams function successfully! (Avot 4:13-14)
A jam packed episode!! We look at the value of teams, the challenge of judging others, dealing with financial or other stresses and 3 tips to staying focused on the important things! (Avot 4:9-12)
Our Wednesday evening group discusses easy questions like 'Who do we want to be?', visions and goals and how they can help us transcend today's difficulties.
Less than 5 minutes long and jam packed with goodies!! How can you see straight through to the essence of a person and the lowdown on compromising!! (Avot 4:8-9)
Do our motives matter? And should we have big goals? What about ulterior motives? (Avot 4:6-7)
We generally try for moderation, but are there exceptions? How do we stay authentic and grounded? (Avot 4-5)
Let's look at the significance of small things and also how important am I in the grand scheme of things. (Avot 4:2-3)
Must listen!!! We live in a world that puts value on things like knowledge, strength, wisdom and honour, but how does one get them? (Avot 4:1)
If you type living a on Google one of the first predictions is 'living a good life'. What are the elements that go into a good life? Listen to advice from well loved and knowledgeable person! (Avot 3:21)
What gives us the courage to become different whether it's from our own background or other people's perceptions of us? We also look at quantity versus quality and the role of justice in this world. A packed episode!! (Avot 3:19-20)
Our mindsets and beliefs have a powerful effect on our actions! In 5 minutes we look at 5 foundational beliefs that give tremendous meaning to our life! (Avot 3:15)
How do we find favour in other people without compromising our values? And 4 tips on how to maximize our time and the ultimate investment! (Avot 3:13-14)
Is ignorance really bliss!?! The two step foundation that we need to put into place to really be intelligent. (Avot 3:10-12)
What is true humility? Is it not being in touch with my worth? And how much does G-d demand from us? (Avot 8-9)
As much as we all hate stress is it an inevitable part of life?? But what if we can choose our stress? (Avot 3:6-7)
I was discussing with a friend how we can achieve life's goals when we are so weighed down by ... Life itself, whether it's work, family or day to day stress. Here's the answer :) (Avot 3:4-5)
Life is filled with opportunity, just as an entrepreneur seeks to utilise their means to maximize their success, so we should seek to maximize our opportunities. Find out how here. (Avot 3:3)
A pretty shocking view of humanity here! That people would eat each other alive - what on earth does this mean? (Avot 3:2)
The days leading up to Rosh Hashana are powerful days filled with opportunity! Let's take a lesson learned from Lockdown to make this coming year unforgettable, in a great way!
How comes we can have the best of resolutions and intentions and yet our actions can fall short!?! 3 Power questions for a healthy attitude that will keep us from messing up. (Avot 3:1)
Sometimes when we want to put together some resolutions it can be pretty disheartening when we realise we have tried and failed before. Like, what's even the point!?! In this short episode we hear WHY we must try again!! (Avot 2:20-21)
Do you ever feel like the list of stuff to accomplish and improve on is insurmountable?? It can get us down. In this short episode we look at whether it's worth the effort. (Avot 2:18-19)
What does Judaism have to say about your self-esteem? You'll be surprised at the answer! And what difference does it make what time we pray at? Some amazing insights here. (Avot 2:18)
What would you say is the key to living a happy, balanced and productive life? It's easier than you think! (Avot 2:17)
It's great to have a vision and goals but I think we all know it's not enough! How often have you started strong only to find ourselves derailed! So how do you stay the course? Short but powerful!
Respect seems to be a universally agreed upon value yet what stops people from giving others respect? In this episode we take a look at the in built coach life gives us. Plus how do we live with social media in a way that doesn't compromise our peace of mind?
There's a lot of talk about what attributes and values to develop, but what about the pitfalls to avoid? In this short episode we look at 5 masters and hear what we should avoid along this journey of life. (Avot 2:14)
On the first day of our family trip we found ourselves stranded on the side of the road with a flat tire... hear more about it and how it relates to a look at the attributes necessary for success and happiness? And is it better to be good at lots or to master one trait? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts! (2:13)
They say you can tell a person by how they are praised. We look at some amazing greats with inspirational stories! (Avot 2:9-11)
Woah! What a strange story of a floating skull 😳 but wait, there is a story behind the story! Come along as we examine different pathways to happiness.
Sometimes the best way to understand how to get something is to look at what holds us back. Join us to find out what can hold you back from achieving.
Can you imagine jumping out of bed in the morning not wanting to change a thing?!? Is that even achievable? Can we get a little more serenity and acceptance in our life? In this short episode we also look at waiting for the 'right' moment and examine some useful tools you can use now. (Avot 2:3-4)
This past weekend a friend reminded me of when I ran a virtual babka bake the day before I gave birth and asked me why on earth!?! Which of course got me thinking! What's your why? What keeps you going when you don't have to. Some fascinating insights here (Avot 2:1-2)
What would you say are the fundamentals that society needs to function? And do you ever get to the point where you wonder what the point of it all is? Listen for some fascinating motivation! (Avot 1:18)
It's not easy living with uncertainty... But is certainty achievable!?! And is there any advantage to certainty? Is silence really golden? And could there be anything wrong with being too charitable? In this next episode of the Perek Project we look at certainty, silence and more. (Avot 1:15-17)
But maybe tomorrow!! In this episode of the Perek Project we explore motivation, procrastination and vital human needs. (Avot 1:14)
This is one to listen to!! Fascinating insights and stories about the power of love, peace & bringing out the best in ourselves and others. Subscribe to join The Perek Project! (Avot 1:12-13)
In what seems to be quite controversial we are told to 'hate leadership' why? In the latest episode of the Perek Project we examine what we need and what we can gain by this attitude. We also look at some choice advice for living in a world of social media! (Avot 1:10-11)
Fascinating insights into our lives as people and influencers gleaned from an incredible educator & the Jewish judicial system. (Avot 1:9)
What types of relationships do we need in our lives? And the secret to maintaining them successfully. (Avot 1:7-8)
Dealing with things that make us uncomfortable... What's your approach? And why? (Avot 1:5)
We look at 3 timeless values for the triad of life's relationships plus revisit a north American road trip to understand reward in this world (and bad things happening to good people).
(Avot 1:2-4)
What gives them a right to discuss Ethics? And 3 relevant tools for developing potential. (Avot 1:1)
Introduction to the pirkei avot project: why should I care about details and what should I take pride in.
We sometimes find ourselves drawn to prayer as a way to achieve our desires, but how exactly does this work?
We all know that this year's Seder night is going to be memorable, take less than 2 minutes so that you can make it a powerful one!
We're living in unprecedented times... or are we? Join Gila Ross as we explore some fascinating ideas that will help you not just get through it but thrive!
We live in a world of incredible beauty and kindness but also incredible pain. A short message from the Purim story about how we face life's seeming contradictions.
A friend confided that her friend was going through a terrible situation. There seemed to be nothing for her to do to help. What could she possibly do? What can we do when it seems like we can't do anything?
After running a half-marathon I wondered about the 'easy' things I struggle with. Here's a 2 step process for turning failures around.
We've all been there! Set a goal, been inspired only to see it fizzle out - what's the secret to actualizing the inspiration?
We all want to live a meaningful life, but sometimes it seems that the search for meaning just makes us feel worse! Listen to this incredible insight into ourselves and discover a powerful mindset shift to learn why we feel bad and to leverage your guilty conscience and make it your friend!
There's always something... Life is filled with burdens - what are burdens and how do we deal with them?
Have you ever wondered why life is filled with challenges? We had one day in London to plan an activity that would keep 7 kids between the ages of 14 and 1 entertained and happy! We came up with a great activity that taught us a powerful lesson about life!
Personality types and quizzes are quite popular, I recently took part in a team building workshop that used a colourful one. But how useful is it to categorise ourselves and others? Tap into the energy of this time of year and learn the surprising and powerful answer from Moses!
This summer I challenged myself to read through books I had at home, I just finished my 11th book. How did I have the time to get through so many books? And was it worthwhile? Did I change because of this challenge? Listen for the powerful lesson I have learned so far.
Our house got broken into recently, and we felt very grateful! Why? And how did we maintain our positivity? Listen to our crazy story!
For anyone who has ever felt like they have done a thankless job! For volunteers, for teachers, for Mums, for dads, you must listen to this week's podcast for an incredible insight into the human tendency to grumble.
'I am not what I think I am, I am not what you think I am, I am what I think you think I am' - Cooley I heard this quote this week and then the craziest thing happened!
It was one of those days... I had exciting plans but then life happened! If you have ever been held back from achieving your goals because of life, then this podcast is for you! It will change your mindset and teach you how to achieve true success! I love hearing your feedback, so please get in touch and if you like this podcast, please share!
According to the World Health Organisation, burnout is an actual syndrome. How do we prevent it?
What do selfies have to do with Shavuot? Listen for a short message about Shavuot and a key to Success
Should I take pride in what I have done? Let's examine an old Jewish story of lions, bears and giants and discover a fascinating piece of wisdom for our lives today.