The Shiftshow with Adriana Bucci: Recent Episodes
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Join life coach Adriana every week to learn all about narcissistic abuse recovery, the mindbody connection and how to heal from trauma and chronic pain both physically and emotionally.
Claire is a narcissistic abuse educator, recovery coach and podcaster. She has worked extensively in the entertainment industry as a model, actor, dancer and presenter. She is passionate about self education, learning and educating people on healthy vs unhealthy relationships, trauma and recovery. Narcissistic and emotionally abusive relationship recovery is her main focus and she also draws from her own personal experience of domestic violence, trauma bonding and narcissistic relationship abuse and recovery.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theshiftshow/message
In this episode I had a great conversation with my good friend Lorenn on her struggle with infertility and how it brought the narcissists out. We had a great chat about this plus the childfree angle and how that brings the narcs out too.At just 15 years old, Lorenn was diagnosed with MRKH syndrome: a rare, congenital condition that affects the development of the female reproductive system. Having been a victim of narcissistic abuse in the face of her infertility, Lorenn has since been discussing the connection between these topics and helping to bring them to more public awareness: What do you do when a narcissist rubs their pregnancy news in your face? How do you handle their sudden discard once the baby arrives? What do you do when the narcissist shames you for having a medical condition like this? Learn more about Lorenn and her story: girlwithmrkh.com--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theshiftshow/message
Ken Reid is an Australian counsellor who specializes in relationship and grief counselling. He is trauma and attachment informed and guides clients to assist them in having a more secure attachment.Web: Ken Reid CounsellingInstagram: kenreid.co--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theshiftshow/message
Nadir is BACK!On today’s episode, I interviewed my amazing client Nadir! We started working together in 2021 and she came back on my podcast to share even more about her continuing healing journey. If you missed her first episode, click here to listen to it.I’m so proud of Nadir for showing up for herself, doing the work, and being the cycle breaker in her 60's - she proof that it’s literally NEVER too late to start your healing journey!If you’re interested in working with me in the next round of my B.U.L.L.E.T.P.R.O.O.F. group coaching program, click the link below to submit your application:https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/bulletproofvipapplication--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theshiftshow/message
If you have a question and would like to make your own submission, follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quizFor all my offerings and ways to work with me, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theshiftshow/message
If you have a question and would like to make your own submission, follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quizFor all my offerings and ways to work with me, including my free training about setting boundaries with a narc, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theshiftshow/message
If you have a question and would like to make your own submission, follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quizFor all my offerings and ways to work with me, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theshiftshow/message
If you have a question and would like to make your own submission, follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quizFor all my offerings and ways to work with me, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theshiftshow/message
If you have a question and would like to make your own submission, follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quizFor all my offerings and ways to work with me, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theshiftshow/message
Narcissistic in laws can be a very stressful situation! While Lisa and her husband have gone no contact with her husband’s parents after discovering they had been abusing their 3 children, the enablers and flying monkeys have come forward to justify and defend the abusers. Listen to this episode to hear my thoughts and recommendations for this situation. If you have a question and would like to make your own submission, follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quizFor all my offerings and ways to work with me, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theshiftshow/message
In today’s FIRST Dear Adriana Column episode I answer Tristan’s question on how to deal with their mother who divorced their narc step dad but is still putting him ahead of her family. To make your submission follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quizFor all my offerings and ways to work with me, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theshiftshow/message
So glad to be back! If you’d like to send in a submission for my Dear Adriana column, fill out this form: https://forms.gle/Sh51iFmD126kGiU49 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theshiftshow/message
Here's a pep talk for adult children of narcissists as Mother's Day can be a very triggering time.
Below are the resources mentioned in today's episode:
Mother's Day Survival Guidebook: https://sowl.co/s/bfCdhY
Community Membership: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/
1:1 Coaching: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18896339
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Thank you all for your patience and messages of support during my absence from the podcast, I so appreciate you all.
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It’s normal to feel like it’s “too late” or you’re “too old” to have learned about narc abuse because of all the lost opportunities and time. The truth is, this is repressed grief and as long as you’re a living breathing human, regardless of how old you are, it’s NOT TOO LATE! I’ve even heard people who are 20/21 years old saying it’s too late - it’s not! In this episode I explain why it’s absolutely not too late for you.
Interested in learning more about my community? Here’s the link with all the details! https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/
Self-coaching guide book for ACONS https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/product/i-was-raised-by-a-narcissist-wtf-do-i-do/
And they’ll be pretty upset with me for letting you know about them, but they can go cry about it in their little miserable corner of the universe 😆
Letting go of false hope mini course: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/product/letting-go-of-false-hope-mini-course/ The mini course is included in tier 2 of my community membership - much better value this way, but if the community isn’t for you, you can just grab the mini course separately :)
Link to join the community: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/
In todays episode I talk about why a narcissist might tell you you’re punishing them when you set a boundary with them. There’s nothing more frustrating than mustering up all the courage to set the boundary, carefully considering the other persons feelings, and finally going ahead and setting the boundary after overthinking it for weeks and weeks only to be accused of being some type of ogre. It’s yet another classic manipulation tactic narcissists love to use to try and control their target with guilt! Listen to the episode to learn more.
Free boundaries masterclass: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/free-boundary-masterclass/ Join my community for less than $1/day, early bird spots open till oct 17! https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/
This is the cycle that never ends, yes it goes on and on my friend! 🙃
Don’t be fooled by the love bombing! The narcissist has conditioned you to accept their behaviour as “normal” so the cycle can continue on as long as possible. In this episode, I talk about what's really going on when things are going well with the narcissist in your life. It's really just another manipulation tactic to keep the cycle of abuse alive and well.
You can’t change the narcissist, the only thing you can control is how you react. No reaction is the goal, but it’s hard when your emotions are bamboozled all over the place and the narcissist is trying to provoke you. It’s important to see through the manipulation tactics, take your emotions out of it, and make the logical choice rather than the emotional choice you’re being manipulated with.
Doing the inner work in baby steps is how you master this. One day at a time. Journaling is a great and free way to start doing the work!
🚨📣But if you’re looking for a supportive community with resources, guidance from a trauma informed coach with decades of lived experience who did the work, made it to the other side, and has worked with hundreds of survivors (hint: that’s me!!😆), courses, at an affordable price point, I invite you to join my new community membership! Follow this link to learn more and to sign up: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/
YES I AM BACK! You’re really seeing this new episode! Super excited to be back at this, moving forward my podcast will be less interview focused and more topic and info focused. In todays episode I dive into why narcissistic abusers say you’re “punishing” them when you set a boundary (hint: it’s a manipulation tactic to make you feel guilty). I hope this is helpful and I look forward to creating more episodes! If you’re interested in joining my new community membership, follow this link! https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community
On today’s episode, I interviewed my amazing client Nadir! She did my 12-week group program over the summer and was so amazed with her own healing that she wanted to share her story! I’m so proud of her for showing up for herself, doing the work, and being the cycle breaker at age 60 - proof that it’s literally NEVER too late to start your healing journey!
If you’re interested in the program, follow the link below to learn more and to apply. Please note if you’re seeing this after October 28th, 2021, applications are closed but you can sign up to be put on the waitlist for when they reopen in early 2022.
https://www.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/get-your-shift-together
Tina Swithin is the author of Divorcing a Narcissist (series), founder of One Mom’s Battle and the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program. Tina Swithin continues to champion children’s rights through her family court advocacy. Tina is working to raise awareness of the issues in the family court system and to educate the general public on post separation abuse and narcissistic abuse. Tina is remarried and resides in San Luis Obispo, California with her husband and two daughters.
Links:
https://www.onemomsbattle.com
https://www.hcdivorcecoach.com/
http://postseparationabuse.com/
Social media:
https://www.facebook.com/onemomsbattle
https://www.instagram.com/onemomsbattle
https://twitter.com/onemomsbattle
Michaila is the daughter of a narcissistic mother, advocate and coach for women who are also on a journey of self-discovery and reclaiming their power after abuse. She is an ex-nurse, wife and mother of two, who has spent over a decade healing from a lack of identity that often consumes daughters with this reality. Her mission and purpose are to guide women to a new realisation that they were never the problem, truly understand themselves and help them discover where their mother ends - and they begin.
You can find more information on Michaila and her work here: @mother_herselfandme
Today's interview is with my friend Alyssa. She is from New York and is a licensed social worker. She took the clinical route and currently works with adolescents providing individual counselling in a high school setting. She also have experience with the foster care population, substance abuse population and domestic violence population. Alyssa's expertise is in trauma and the mind-body connection. She believes that we all have the innate capacity to heal ourselves from chronic illness and other mysterious medical conditions. Just as trauma can wire our brains to being stuck in a perpetual state of fight or flight, creating physical and/or mental illness, healing from trauma can rewire our brains out of these conditions. Alyssa's mission is to spread this message of hope and healing with as many people as possible. Follow her on instagram @letstrainthebrain
Wow I finally made another podcast episode after almost a year of not doing this! This episode is a hi I’m back announcement, a convo about boundaries, and info on my boundary bootcamp. Below is the link for more info on that! https://www.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/boundarybootcamp
In this episode I rambled about how you do not have to spend time with toxic family. Here is the link to my workshop replay if you’d like to explore this more in-depth: https://lgyst.teachable.com/p/holidayworkshop
Matt spent 10 years battling his own depression and chronic pain. He went from a physically active, pain-free law student to a shell of his former self who could no longer work, sleep, or find joy in life. Since incorporating a TMS approach to pain, roughly three years ago, he has largely recovered from his symptoms. He is in the process of founding a startup focused on creating small, safe, boundary-driven healing communities for those with TMS pain. More information can be found at the website- joypops.org
The title says it all. Inspired by my posts on Instagram on this (follow me if you aren’t already @letsgetyourshifttogether). To work with me, access any of my resources, or sign up for my boundaries course follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether
Diane Halfman was an undercover cop for the San Diego Police Department where she experienced a unique perspective of life behind the scenes. Diane took her years of experience to pioneer the creation of her own company called SPAlife which stands for Seek Power Always. As the host of the Live Your SPAlife Podcast and as the RESET Specialist Diane Halfman travels the country speaking, consulting, conducting workshops dedicated to helping overwhelmed women entrepreneurs and corporate leaders move from a life of emergency to emergence. Click here for Diane’s free crisis resource: https://www.dianehalfman.com/crisis
In this episode I talked about what gaslighting is, what some of the signs are, and how it’s all part of abuse. If anyone tries to make you question your reality, don’t walk - run as far away as you can from these people. Setting boundaries is super important.
Sign up for my new course on setting boundaries. Use coupon code LASTCHANCE to save 25%! Enrolment ends November 1st so get in before it’s too late! https://lgyst.teachable.com/p/htsb
Want to work with me 1:1? Click here to book! https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18896339
Had an awesome interview with Tabitha Brooke today! She shared her story of having a narcissistic mother as well as toxic relationships.
Tabitha is the host of the Love Me Lab podcast. Love Me Lab podcast. Concocting the antidote to narcissism with Self Empowerment through Self Love. This is a podcast created to help bridge the gap from your traumatic past to the future you want through sharing story and learning to empower yourself through self love. The antidote to narcissism, from within and without, is the ability to accept oneself, fully, without shame or fear. If you were abused by one or more narcissistic parents you probably have Complex-PTSD, Chronic health issues that disrupt your life, and have had difficult relationships. You've either tried to move on from the past or are bogged down by it, and realizing this isn't for the faint of heart. If so, this is the podcast FOR YOU! You are not alone, life can get so much BETTER, and you can choose LOVE. You're worthy, and WELCOME!
Listen to the podcast here: https://lovemelab.buzzsprout.com/
Follow Tabitha on instagram: @love_me_lab_podcast
Here is the story about how I found out my mother was a narcissist. It's not the most linear story lol, but that tends to be the case when you're dealing with a narc. I hope this helps anyone newly discovering they have a narc parent or partner. Here is the link to access any of my resources or ways to work with me: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether
As well if you're interested in my course on setting boundaries make sure you sign up by this Sunday October 18th to save 50%! Or wait till after if you like paying full price for things lol. Here is the link for my course: https://lgyst.teachable.com/p/htsb
This episode is a great interview I had with Rory Mitchell. We spoke about what led us to become life coaches, narcissistic abuse recovery, and more!
Rory Mitchell went from fitness trainer for about 6+ years to podcaster for 3.5 and newly certified life coach in 2020. Rory aims to bring multiple streams of service for all avenues in life! If you need the help and can name he probably already talked about it on a podcast.
Rory aims to help people provide a certain level of mental clarity when it comes to life. LETS LEARN TO FIND YOUR WHY? To knowing that you can build the life by any means necessary by reflecting inward to building the best results in your lifestyle.
Rory's podcast is aimed to bring diversity conversations correlated towards society and culture. His driven topics on the podcast relates around sports, fitness, culture & relationships. Keeping it direct to the general listeners and engaging the community. All the topics on the show are skillfully crafted and thought out for the listeners to dive into. Check out Rory's podcast at this link: https://anchor.fm/rory-mitchell8
TEDx Speaker, #1 Bestselling author of The Six Habits and Life Mastery Coach, Laura DiBenedetto teaches how to create the life of our dreams without sacrificing what we love. Laura is the founder and CEO of the award-winning marketing company, Vision Advertising, located in the greater Boston area. Laura created, built and ran the growth-oriented enterprise for 19 years with tremendous success, before retiring from active involvement in 2018 at age 37, passing the reins to her successor. Over the years, Laura personally sold several million dollars in ongoing contracts, was featured on Fox News and other Boston programming several times, was publicly recognized for business accomplishments, and was named a 40 Under Forty winner at only age 23.
Having started her first business at 19, Laura began to search for her next big project in 2012, finally finding it right on the cusp of retirement. While Laura’s career had been speckled with accomplishments and accolades, when she retired, she was simply burnt out and unhappy. After years of classes, workshops, books, and more, Laura was confused and wondering why the personal development world had let her down and sought to solve the problem. She went on a radical journey of self-discovery, research, and testing, determined to find energy and lasting, fulfilling happiness in all areas of life.
Laura found the answers to the question that plagued her (and so many of us) – six of them, in fact. She is devoted to sharing the universally applicable and deeply liberating truths she discovered, so that others may find their own path out of misery and into lasting, fulfilling happiness and limitless possibility.
Laura moved away from Boston in 2019 to the island of Maui, Hawaii and lives in tropical bliss with her husband, cats and dog.
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lauraldibenedetto/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/lauraldibenedetto/
LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/lldibenedetto/
Website 1: https://lauradibenedetto.com/
Website 2: https://www.thesixhabits.com/
Amazon link for her book The Six Habits: click here
This episode is an interview I did with my good friend Nat! She shares her story about being married to a narcissist for 2 years. She had no idea her ex husband was a narc until they were in the process of divorcing. The signs were there, which she talks about, but when you are in the bubble of the relationshit the signs can be very easily missed. She also offers hope to anyone who is currently struggling with a breakup or divorce (or upcoming breakup or divorce) from a narcissist that it is absolutely possible to find love with a normal person who is not a narcissist once you take some time to yourself and do some healing. You are not doomed to repeat the pattern forever!
I had a great podcast interview with Beatrice Kamau! We discussed healing from narcissistic abuse, self love, and embodying what it means to heal.
Beatrice Kamau is what she likes to call a Registered Dietitian by trade and an inner child healing coach by vocation- she chose one, and the other chose her. She spent most of her life living passively, letting life happen to her as opposed to letting life happen through and for her.
Beatrice lived at the mercy of what other people thought about her, she was codependent on nearly everyone that walked into my life, she had no self esteem, and she was terrified of making mistakes. It was only during a very low point she experienced during grad school where she asked herself, “Where does your need for perfectionism come from?”. You see, this was a critical moment for her. For the first time in her life, she asked herself about the origins of my behaviour instead of blaming herself for them.
That was the beginning of her self awareness, her transformation, her healing from inner child wounds & codependency, and her deep and unconditional love for herself. From that moment on, Beatrice realized the woman she was always searching for, the woman she had always wished to become was always within. She just had to dig in and find her- and free her. Now, she wants to help you do the same. Beatrice's deepest hope for you is that you find the truth of who you are and that you find restoration and deep healing from your inner child wounds.
Freebie: my guide on Toxic Shame, the Inner Critic, and Low Self Esteem link: https://www.beatricekamau.com/freeguide
Follow Beatrice on Instagram: @theselflovefix
I had a great interview with Vera Wilhelmsen about her healing journey from chronic fatigue syndrome.
Vera Wilhelmsen is a Norwegian girlwoman (her words) with an incredible story. In her 20's she became bed bound for 3 years with chronic fatigue syndrome and was too sick to even sit in a wheelchair or leave the house. After giving up on the healthcare system she fought her way out of it completely on her own and is today fully recovered, works, exercises and shakes her butt at every opportunity. After her physical recovery she quickly realized that the cause of her illness and suffering was narcissistic abuse. Her healing journey from childhood abuse and medical neglect is still ongoing but she is now sharing her story and her joy on YouTube. In one year she has gone from (her words) a grey, people-pleasing, moldable blob to a color explosion!
https://www.verawilhelmsen.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0cyHUj7rY2ER96B-O0FijQ
https://www.instagram.com/verawilhelmsen/
I had a great interview with Eddy Lindenstein about his chronic pain journey! This episode will be an an inspiration for anyone on their TMS healing journey.
Eddy’s pain became really bad in the summer of 2016 after a reconstructive shoulder surgery rehab. Symptoms at the time included Sciatica, Thoracic Outlet Syndrome, Numbness, Tingling, Neck Pain, back pain, shoulder pain, knee tendonitis, bicep tendonitis. After he found Sarno, he also linked his asthma and allergies back to TMS and completely came off 5 prescription medications for those.
Eddy’s podcast, The Mind And Fitness Podcast, started in September of 2017 and has aired 140 new episodes since that time.
Check it out here! https://audioboom.com/channels/4937410
I had an amazing conversation with country singer Emily Daniels about her new song My Last Name. She was inspired to write the song after changing her last name to honour her stepfather after she had cut ties with her biological father. She is extremely talented and the song absolutely hits home for anyone in the adult children of narcissistic parents community. I hope you enjoy our interview, and whether you like country music or not - listen to her song! It's absolutely amazing! The lyrics are so spot on and I am sure so many people will be able to relate to her profound words. Nashville native Emily Daniels has the charm of the girl next door, fashion sense of a personal stylist, and the determination of an entrepreneur. Her witty and honest lyrics are perfectly blended with heartfelt, pitch-perfect, and infectious melodies. It’s a little Shania Twain sass with a dash of Maddie & Tae sweetness that will leave you humming all week long. Her music is as head-turning as her signature red outfits. A trained vocalist, Emily has studied with A-List Vocal Coach Renee Grant-Willams (Carrie Underwood, Faith Hill). She sites artists like Ben Rector & Tori Kelly as inspirations lyrically and melodically.
She has been awarded high praise from CMT, Opry Radio, BMI, NSAI, and others. Emily is a regular featured artist / writer at Nashville staples including Listening Room, City Winery, The Original Tin Roof, Ole Red, Belcourt Taps, and Alley Taps.
Emily has built strategic brand partnerships with Cracker Barrel, the Green Hills mall, local boutique Jondie, Le Grand Verre Wines and Molly Green. She also models for Nashville favorites like The Grand Ole Opry, Ryman Auditorium, Wildhorse Saloon, and Ole Red.
Be sure to follow Emily for updates on new music, shows, and more! Check out her song My Last Name: https://ffm.to/mylastnamesong Youtube link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HLyDdASCdY8
In this episode I talk about how closure is just a concept. It's not something you'll receive from a narcissist. It's important to create your own closure and I go into how you can do this for yourself.
Below are all the ways you can work with me/get your hands on my resources:
Book a 1:1 coaching experience with me: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18896339
Buy my book on how to heal: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/shop/ols/products/how-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
Sign up for my digital course: https://lgyst.teachable.com/p/transform-your-pain
Check out my free training: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/free-training-1
Follow me on Instagram @letsgetyourshifttogether
In this episode I talk about my recent experience with my narcissistic mother passing away last month. I speak about how I do not regret any of the boundaries I set, how I created my own closure and how you can create your own closure too because you will never receive closure from a narcissist no matter how you slice it. This is a topic not many people talk about so I hope this episode helps!
Below are all the ways you can work with me/get your hands on my resources:
Book a 1:1 coaching experience with me: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18896339
Buy my book on how to heal: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/shop/ols/products/how-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
Sign up for my digital course: https://lgyst.teachable.com/p/transform-your-pain
Check out my free training mentioned in this episode: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/free-training-1
Follow me on Instagram @letsgetyourshifttogether
Jen Gileno is happily married with two kids, a 1st time author and manager at a toy company in Canada. Her book Finding Happiness is a book about hope, healing from narcissism, bullying and recovering from childhood trauma. She shares personal stories of what it’s like to be raised by a mother who is suspected to have narcissistic personality disorder in the hopes that it helps others. It’s hard sharing stories as we’ve been taught not to talk about these subjects and that everything that we experienced is our fault. Her hope is that by sharing her stories plus her healing tactics, it will inspire others to know that they are not alone and start the path the healing.
To thank the Lets Get Your Shift Together followers, she is offering a chance to win a free copy of the book! The 1st 5 people to DM her at @finding_happiness_book will receive a free copy. In case you don’t win, she is offering a coupon code SHIFTTOGETHER until Aug 31 to get the book for $9.95 + shipping. Visit www.findinghappinessbook.ca to order.
This is the audio from a livestream I did on Instagram recently.
In this live I speak about how it’s normal to feel guilty after setting boundaries. It literally means you’re human. It doesn’t mean you made a mistake or you’re wrong or a horrible person or whatever. It literally means you are considering the other persons feelings - so congrats you are not a narcissist or sociopath 😊
In this audio I discuss what to do with that feeling of guilt.
Also remember: a healthy person will have no issue with you setting a boundary. A toxic or narcissistic person will. Your clue is the reaction to you setting a boundary. A negative reaction is a sign that this boundary should’ve been set yesterday and that you’re dealing with a selfish, toxic person and you don’t need to keep people like that in your life (even if it’s family)!
Below are all the ways you can work with me/get your hands on my resources:
Book a 1:1 coaching experience with me: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18896339
Buy my book on how to heal: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/shop/ols/products/how-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
Sign up for my digital course: https://lgyst.teachable.com/p/how-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
Check out my free training mentioned in this episode: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/free-training-1
Apply to my 8-week intensive 1:1 coaching program: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18896339&appointmentType=15856678
This was a live I did on Instagram where I talk about how you can trust yourself to be in a healthy relationship after being with a narcissist.
Awareness of the abuse and patterns are the first step. The abuse was not your fault. The narcissist manipulated you into thinking you were soulmates. They come on strong on purpose. Be wary of this in any future people you date. Always be suspicious when they come on strong. Consistency in the relationship is important.
Emotional expression is ultimately the way to heal. Follow me on Instagram if you're not already @letsgetyourshifttogether
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Here is my livestream from Instagram last night if anyone missed it! The topic was destructing the idea of "family" when it's time to disengage. Family is not everything for everyone. If you've been part of a narcissistic household, were raised by narcissists, or have been abused by your family of origin, know this: it's still abuse even if it's family. If you wouldn't accept that type of treatment from a random stranger, what makes it ok coming from family? "Because it's family"? That's just not a good excuse for abuse. You don't have to deal with keeping your dysfunctional family happy at the cost of your mental health just because society says you have to. It's ok to go your own way. You don't have to sit there and take abuse just because you share DNA strands with certain people. Your mental health is more important than the idea of family.
It's possible to heal from having a dysfunctional or narcissistic family. I am proof of this and this is why I am here spreading the knowledge. To work with me 1:1 or join my digital course, check out the links below.
The disclaimer I can't believe I have to write every time I post something like this: if your family is not dysfunctional, that is nice, this video does not apply to you, and I am happy for you. I am also not sure how or why you follow this page if you are coming here to tell me that your family isn't like that.
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Julie O’Brien is a chronic pain and anxiety coach that helps women learn how to heal themselves by retraining their brain and nervous system.
Julie healed herself from 2 years of debilitating pelvic pain along with panic attacks, OCD, agoraphobia, and a myriad of other mind body symptoms. She created the Mind Body Calm Method where she teaches her clients the brain and nervous system strategies she used to heal, along with thoughtwork, processing emotions, creating boundaries and self-compassion.
Julie offers online individual coaching to women. You can find more about her program by going to www.julieobriencoaching.com or you can follow her on IG @julieobriencoaching
This episode is a great interview I had with Mindbody Mentor Ann Seagraves. Ann has her own TMS story of overcoming vertigo, CFS, histamine intolerance and more using Sarno's mindbody principles.
Hi Adriana! Please disregard the previous bio. I'm re-wrote it in the 3rd person and added some of my story and background.
Your interview with Page was SO good!! 🙂
Ann supports women over 40 who find themselves stuck in a state of chronic illness or pain: Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Histamine Intolerance, Fibromyalgia, or ANY chronic symptom that conventional healthcare has not been able to help them with. She helps them heal with the power that already resides within them. For most of her life, Ann felt like she was on a never-ending rollercoaster of dis-ease, so when she finally got off that ride, she realized that she really could’ve gotten off SO much sooner, which is why she now teaches what she’s embodied and integrated to women who feel like they are on that same ride. Her background is in healthcare and education. She holds a Bachelor of Science in Exercise Physiology and has worked within the healthcare system in both Exercise Physiology and Physical Therapy. She home-schooled her two children and has worked as an educator in the public school system as well. Over the past four years, she has invested heavily in her own training and self-development and has also studied under Katelyn Michals, L.Ac. (Mindbody Mastery Podcast, Awaken the Alchemist, Soul-Level Mentors) and Christy Whitman (Quantum Success Coaching Academy).
This is a great interview I had with Roxana Safdia about Narcissistic Abuse, healing, recovery, and how to handle emotionally abusive situations.
Roxanna Safdia is the founder of The Black Sheep Survives. She has been consulting victims and survivors of abuse since 2016. She has earned her Master of Science in Conflict Analysis and Resolution. She lives in Houston, TX with her husband and 9-year-old twins.
Check out her website: www.theblacksheepsurvives.com
Instagram: @theblacksheepsurvives
This episode is a great interview I had with Page Kannor all about healing from chronic pain using Sarno's principles.
Page Kannor is a Mindbody Mentor and helps folks in chronic pain find the tools and resources to end the cycle. She started this work in 2019, after years of full-body symptoms led to her quitting a career in the fitness industry and outdoor field work. She’s now pain-free and enjoys an active lifestyle in Moab, Utah. Her favourite thing about being out of pain is showing up to things she’s always been afraid of and learning they’re (usually) not so bad after all.
Follow Page on instagram @pagekannor
To get in touch with Page email her at pageckannor@gmail.com
This episode is an interview with my amazing coach Katelyn Michals! Katelyn Michals, L.Ac. is a holistic practitioner and the host of the Mindbody Mastery Podcast and The Soul-Level Mentors Podcast. She is a Licensed Acupuncturist, Herbalist, Nutritionist, SIRPA-trained mind-body practitioner and chronic pain survivor. Her journey through the depths of chronic pain and symptoms inspired her to transform her Acupuncture practice into a Mind-Body Medicine practice so that she could empower each and every patient to re-discover their own innate healing abilities and transcend their symptoms for good. She now works with aspiring leaders in the mind-body community, helping them to share their stories, awaken their visions, embody their gifts, and launch their transformational work out into the world. She's also one of the lead coaches within PioneerU (pioneeru.com), and is working with a team of visionaries who are helping companies, entrepreneurs and conscious businesses monetize and expand their big visions.
Julie Markowitz is a psychotherapist specializing in the treatment of chronic pain and trauma. She holds a Master's in Social Work from New York University and an MBA from Columbia Business School. She is working to change the stigma that surrounds mental health issues and promote a trauma-informed approach to mental health care. She works in private practice in San Diego, California and coaches people out of chronic pain nationally.
Instagram: @julie_markowitz_therapy
Website: juliemarkowitztherapy.com
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/chronicpainrecoverygroup/
This episode is about all about TMS in an interview with TMS Coach Kevin Martillo Viner! If you’re unfamiliar with TMS, check out my previous episodes 5 and 6 for more info on how chronic pain can manifest from repressed emotions from childhood trauma.
Kevin Martillo Viner, Ph.D., is a TMS author and Coach based in Brooklyn, NY. The Mindbody Syndrome (TMS): a path to recovery & freedom is his debut book. For more information, please visit him at his website (www.thetmscoach.com).
Kevin Martillo Viner, Ph.D. Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B085RNKS75/ Website: https://www.thetmscoach.com/ FB: https://m.facebook.com/thetmscoach IG: @tmscoach
This episode is about covert narcissists. These are the ones that aren’t immediately obviously narcissistic. These are the ones you need to watch out for and you might even be in a relationship with them. Here’s how to tell if you are and what to do about it. Oh and also you are not crazy - you’re being manipulated- there is a huge difference. The narc will likely make you feel like you’re losing your mind but you’re really not.
For more resources and details on how to work with me check out the below links!
My course: https://lgyst.teachable.com/p/how-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
My ebook: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/buy-my-book?olsPage=products%2Fhow-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
Work with me! 1:1 coaching https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/coaching-experience
This episode is all about avoiding our emotions, why it’s normal, and how to stop doing it. I also share my own story on how I recently avoided my emotions, the physical pain I dealt with in the past few weeks and how I overcame it by feeling the underlying grief that just wanted to be let out.
For more resources and details on how to work with me check out the below links!
My course: https://lgyst.teachable.com/p/how-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
My ebook: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/buy-my-book?olsPage=products%2Fhow-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
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In this episode I talk about what you can do to cope and maintain your sanity while stuck in quarantine with a narcissistic or toxic person.
For more resources and details on how to work with me check out the below links!
My course: https://lgyst.teachable.com/p/how-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
My ebook: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/buy-my-book?olsPage=products%2Fhow-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
Work with me! 1:1 coaching https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/coaching-experience
In this episode I talk about what the narcissist wants from you. Ever wonder why when you try to lower contact with them they seem to be bothering you more and more? They want your emotional reaction! When they stop getting it they go to great lengths to get it from you. It’s like an addiction for them.
For more resources and details on how to work with me check out the below links!
My course: https://lgyst.teachable.com/p/how-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
My ebook: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/buy-my-book?olsPage=products%2Fhow-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
Work with me! 1:1 coaching https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/coaching-experience
This episode discusses why “thinking positively” doesn’t work!
For more resources and details on how to work with me check out the below links!
My course: https://lgyst.teachable.com/p/how-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
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In this episode I outline the personality traits associated with tension Myositis syndrome/mindbody syndrome/chronic pain and how this stems from childhood trauma, in particular narcissistic abuse in childhood. If you’re unfamiliar with TMS, I strongly suggest listening to last weeks episode first, so that this episode will make sense for you. I provide examples on how I had these traits and still have them from time to time because of my conditioning. It’s important not to demonize personality traits because they are created in childhood based on what we know to be true in our own reality. Doing the emotional work is what will help with seeing how these traits are nolonger protecting you and will help you to heal from chronic pain as well.
For more resources and details on how to work with me check out the below links!
Website mentioned at beginning of episode: www.tmswiki.org
My ebook: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/buy-my-book?olsPage=products%2Fhow-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
Work with me! 1:1 coaching https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/coaching-experience
Curable app: https://www.curablehealth.com/clara?signup=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIyLmpu4zw5wIVT18NCh0_6QYTEAAYASAAEgLLc_D_BwE
Like mind like body podcast: https://www.curablehealth.com/podcast
Katelyn Michals mindbody mastery podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/mindbody-mastery-podcast/id1350038986
Nicole Sachs cure for chronic pain podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-cure-for-chronic-pain-with-nicole-sachs-lcsw/id1439580309
Eddy Lindenstein the mind and fitness podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-mind-and-fitness-podcast/id1291091376
In this episode I talk about my chronic pain journey and how it’s connected to narcissistic abuse.
For more resources and details on how to work with me check out the below links!
My ebook: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/buy-my-book?olsPage=products%2Fhow-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
Work with me! 1:1 coaching https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/coaching-experience
Curable app: https://www.curablehealth.com/clara?signup=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIyLmpu4zw5wIVT18NCh0_6QYTEAAYASAAEgLLc_D_BwE
Like mind like body podcast: https://www.curablehealth.com/podcast
Katelyn Michals mindbody mastery podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/mindbody-mastery-podcast/id1350038986
Nicole Sachs cure for chronic pain podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-cure-for-chronic-pain-with-nicole-sachs-lcsw/id1439580309
Eddy Lindenstein the mind and fitness podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-mind-and-fitness-podcast/id1291091376
Wanting to help someone who is being narcissistically abused is amazing and on behalf of survivors of narcissistic abuse I want to say thank you! In this episode I tell you how you can help someone. The bottom line is that you can only lead them to the information and you can’t force them to cut someone off or talk to someone but leading them to the info is key and such an amazing thing for you to do for someone going through this.
For more resources and details on how to work with me check out the below links!
My ebook: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/buy-my-book?olsPage=products%2Fhow-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
Work with me! 1:1 coaching https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/coaching-experience
12-week transformation program https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/awaken-the-badass-program
Free webinar https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/free-webinar
This is a guideline on how to heal from narcissistic abuse. Healing requires doing inner emotional work. My ebook is a great resource for this. See below links for more info.
For more resources and details on how to work with me check out the below links!
My ebook: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/buy-my-book?olsPage=products%2Fhow-to-get-started-on-getting-your-shift-together
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I’m so excited to be starting my own podcast! Welcome to the shiftshow! In this episode I give you an introduction to who I am, why I’m a coach, and what I went through.
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The ultimate goal is to go no contact with a narcissist for the sake of your sanity and mental health. However it’s usually not possible to immediately go no contact so here are some tips on how to deal with a narc and prepare to go no contact even if that’s not something you can do right now you can still implement these tips in your dealings with a narc.
What are the signs of a narcissist? How do you know you’re dealing with one? Listen to this episode to find out!