The Porn Addict's Wife: Recent Episodes
Jolene Winn
This podcast is for LDS women with a spouse addicted to pornography. I am Jolene Winn and I am an active member of the LDS faith, a certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School, and the wife of a wonderful man who was once addicted to pornography. I am now on a mission to go find other women who are in the same situation. Women who are struggling to address emotions and thoughts they've never had to face. Women who want to understand their situation, who want to love their husband like they used to, who want to be free from living a life that revolves around their husband's addiction. This is all for you. Join me as I share tools and thoughts that you can apply to help you move forward in your life and begin to truly live again.
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I am so excited to have Dr. Trish Leigh on the podcast today! She is a neuroscientist who has completely transitioned her career to understanding and helping those who struggle with a pornography problem. Today she's sharing what inspired her career shift, how neuroscience helps us understand pornography problems, and she's diving into her new book "Mind Over Explicit Matter". This is a powerful conversation that will help you understand your husband's pornography problem better-so that you can BOTH know how to conquer it!
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We talk a lot about changing your thoughts about your situation. But today I want to talk about changing the circumstance! Join me!
My guest today is Victoria Sinis-an incredible woman who has a powerful inside look at the reality of OnlyFans! Victoria was once employed by an OnlyFans marketing agency and comes today to share the reality of what that industry looks like, how she dramatically changed from not believing it is wrong to converting to Christianity and fighting against it, and how Jesus has transformed her. I hope you enjoy this episode! Thank you to Victoria for her sweet testimony!
Rob joined me for today's episode! We are discussing what our present future looks like and the lessons we have learned over the last year while Rob has been full-time homeschool dad and I have been the breadwinner. If your circumstances have ever NOT looked like what you thought they would or you feel like you are taking a step back, this is for you.
Whether you are comparing yourself to what he's seen online or what you THINK he's seen online, or women in person...if you find yourself comparing and coming up short, this is for you. Today I'm diving into why we do this, what comes up for us when we do, and why it's so crucial to change!
If you are ready to stop feeling this way about yourself, next week's "Love Who I Am" Masterclass is for you! Click here to save your seat today and let's change what you believe about yourself.
Ready to change your life in 6 weeks? Come join me for the "6 Weeks To Healed" jumpstart to summer. I will lead you through my simple, 6 step process that will teach you exactly how to retrain your brain and process your emotions so that you can start moving forward today. Our kickoff call begins Monday, May 5 so join today for a 6 week transformation that will lead to a lifetime of support and coaching. Click here to sign up today for my lifetime access program and you'll get details sent right to your inbox!
If you ever feel like you're not good enough, this is for you. I am hosting a brand new "Love Who I Am" Masterclass and I want to invite you to join. Monday, April 28-Thursday, May 1 @ 12pm est daily. During this class I am going to teach you the tools you need in order to truly transform into the woman who loves herself fully -rather than just "knowing" that she "should". Click here for full details and save your spot today.
Retraining your brain takes a little bit of work-but it's like creating muscle memory. Today I'm talking about how retraining your brain works, what it feels like, and how to do it more effectively so you can get where you want to be FASTER!
Tired of feeling like you're not good enough? Come join me in the brand new "Love Who I Am" Masterclass- April 27-May1! This is where I will teach you how to break out of the toxic negativity cycles in your brain, move beyond regret and shame of the past, and establish hope in the future. Click here for full details and save your seat today!
There are two main ways we feel internal opposition. Today I'm going over both and what to do when you feel both kinds. This is how you change your life! Let's go.
When facing the pain of a spouse’s struggle with pornography, it can feel like your world is collapsing from the inside out. I've taken all the guesswork out and created a simple self-care checklist to help you heal yourself and give yourself the care you need. Click here and I'll send it right to you.
What are you commited to? What does commitment even mean? How do you know if you are commited to something? And how do you do it on purpose? That's what we are discussing today and it can change your life!
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Self pity is what I label as an indulgent emotion. But I want to discuss today why it's so important to become aware of and how it's different than pity you feel for others. Join me to learn more about it so you can start taking control of it in your life!
Click here to join the waitlist to be the first to know when the next Couples Course cohort launches! If you want to have a Porn Free Marriage and want to work together with your spouse to make that happen, this is for you!
You could be cheating on yourself and not even know it. That's what I'm talking about today. If you are not where you want to be in any area- your body, your marriage, your relationships-this episode is for you. I'm diving into why you might not be where you want to be yet and the key that will actually get you there. Let's go!
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The thoughts you think about yourself MATTER. And today I'm diving into why AND the 3 main ways that we subconsciously keep ourselves in a negative thought loop. Let's change that right now.
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If you're feeling stuck, it's not your fault. You've been lied to. And those lies are what are keeping you stuck in the betrayal and pain of your husband's pornography problem. But, you don't have to stay there. And, today, I'm going to identify what those lies are, how they're keeping you stuck, and what you can do about it!
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Are you worried about trusting or believing your husband because you did that in the past and you were naive? This is for you! Today I'm talking about the difference between naivete and ignorance and why they are so important to recognize and distinguish!
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Do you want to just make SURE that where you are is where you THINK you are? That what you believe is actually correct? If you find yourself wanting to check his phone or ask him just to have him reassure you that where you are is where you think you are, this is for you!
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Want to know how to have a porn free marriage? This is it. I'm sharing the outline for the brand new Porn Free Marriage Couples Course that is launching this Friday, February 14! This is a 6 week, interactive course with live group coaching calls that is designed to not only help you prevent pornography from entering your home again but also help you become free from the affects of pornography!
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This week is a replay of my MOST downloaded episode of all time. And it's one of the most important because it breaks down the lie that your husband's pornography problem has anything to do with you OR your sexual relationship. If you've listened to it before, it's time to refresh!
Want help breaking up with the lie that porn is about you or your sex life? Sign up for next week's "Sex and Intimacy" Master Class! joining gives you access to all 4 days of live coaching and content plus lifetime access to the replays! Click here to save your seat!
Want more info on the "Porn Free Marriage Couples Course"? Click here to join the waitlist and you'll be the first to know when enrollment opens on February 14!
Can you have sex without intimacy? What's the difference between the two? Today we're diving into it so you can start to create both on purpose.
Come join me for my Sex and Intimacy Master Class Feb 10-13! Click here for full details and save your seat today!
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Do you think things like "I used to think of my husband as..... but now I only see him as...". This is for you. When we have two versions of our spouse, it can cause A LOT of unnecesary negative emotion and keep us stuck. Today I'm going to discuss what reconciling is, why it's so important, and what the biggest problems are with keeping two versions of your husband in your mind.
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Come follow my NEW Instagram acount for Porn Free World! @prnfreeworld This is where I will be launching my first ever course for COUPLES on how to have a Porn Free Marriage! Click here to join the waitlist to be the FIRST to know when it launches!
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Do you want to have more compassion for your spouse but you're struggling with that? Maybe you don't like that you are judging him-especially if he's trying to change...This is for you. I'm diving into why we do this, why it's not a problem, and how to work through it.
Are you worried that you are enabling the behavior of someone in your life? Maybe you think you are enabling your husband in his pornography addiction or a child in their behvior? Today I'm diving into what enabling truly is, why we do it, and when it's not a bad thing!
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Just like physical habits like reading a book or scrolling your phone, we also have emotional habits. Today I'm diving into what those are, what they look like and why it's so important to start becoming aware of what those habits are in your life.
If you're ready to take control and chance some emotional habits in your life, come join me at next week's "A Year For You" Master Class! This will be January 6-9 @ 12pm est and is just $99 when you use the code "email50" at checkout. Click here for full details and save your seat today!
Today I'm sharing the #1 tool share with my clients when they're going through something hard. If you want to know how to get through hard times, this is it.
How do you move on when you don't have the full Truth? And, is there such a thing? Today I'm diving into all of it and showing you that YES! You can!
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Or any other time of year...:) It can be difficult to set boundaries...especially with the ones we love most. So, in this episode I'm going to walk you through 6 simple steps to help you set boundaries so that you can actually enjoy your holiday season!
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I transformed this year in a way I didn't even think was possible. And as I looked at what created that transformation, I wanted to offer the same opportunity to you. This year I am opening up 3 private coaching spots for those who are 100% committed to going after what you've previously believed is impossible...it isn't. That version of you is waiting. And I can help you get there.
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Why does that thing still hurt when it happened 18 years ago? Why does it still feel so fresh? Today I'm diving into the relationship between healing and time...and why it's the best news I could ever give you!
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Do you find it hard to feel gratitiude when your husband is still struggling with porn? Or maybe he's getting better but you are disappointed that YOU'RE not? This week I'm sharing a personal (and very recent) disappointing experience and what I've learned through it.
If you're ready to take this to the next level and start transforming your life, I want to invite you to join my coaching program. With a new lower pricing option and a limited time private coaching offer, there has never been a better time to sign up! Click here to schedule your free consultation call with me today!
How do you feel more attractive? Does it come from your spouse? What if he's watching porn? How are you supposed to feel more attractive if you can't change what he's doing? If you want to feel more attractive, this episode is for you! I'm diving into what creates attractiveness and leading you through an exercise that will help you identify why you don't feel attractive so that you can then change it!
Want to dive into this on a deeper level with my help? Come join us for this week's Attraction Master Class! Click here to sign up to get access to all 4 days of live coaching PLUS lifetime access to all the replays!
What is attraction? And, what do you do when you are no longer attracted to your spouse beacuse he's watching porn? Or how do you navigate your relationship when he's attracted to other women? Today I'm diving into the 6 most common lies we believe about attraction and why they are keeping you stuck where you are. Don't skip this one ladies!
Ready to take this and apply it in your life with personal help from me? Come join me at next week's brand new Attraction Master Class. November 18-21 @ 12pm est each day! We are going to take everything from this podcast and begin applying in a deep, personal way that will enable you to begin transforming your life and marriage. Click here for details and to sign up today!
Do you have someone in your life that is toxic? Or maybe it's not a person, but a situation? This episode is for you! We are talking all about what makes a person toxic and what to do!
Come join me for this month's brand new Attraction Master Class! This will be taught live inside my coaching program but I'm opening spots for you to join for the entire week plus get access to all the content and replays! Calls will be Monday, November 18-Thursday, November 21 @ 12pm est! Click here for full details!
Do you believe in unconditional love? Do you even know what it is? Inspired by a conversation with my husband, today I'm diving into how I think about unconditional love and how I believe it connects us to God. This is a deep one that I know you'll enjoy!
Do you feel overwhelmed sometimes? Maybe it's because you're not losing weight. Or because your kids aren't listening. Or perhaps it's because of all the responsibility you are juggling. Today I'm going to dive into WHAT overwhelm is AND what creates it so that you can finally start to change that pattern so you can ENJOY the life you have!
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Do you ever feel like you need a rest? A break from all the worry, overwhelm, and whatever is making you emotionally drained? This episode is for you. I'm talking about why this is so important to do, and how to do it the RIGHT way so that it's ACTUALLy restful.
Come join me for next week's live event! "How To Stop Feeling Overwhelmed By Your Beautiful Life". October 23 @ 12pm est. Click here to save your seat!
Do you know that the opposite of courage isn't fear? It's discouragement. And that's what today's episode is all about. What discouragement is, why it's there, and how to work past it so that you don't get stuck IN it. I'm sharing personal examples today and walking you through my journey. Whatever is making you feel discouraged right now, this is for you.
DON'T SKIP THIS ONE! I have an announcment at the end that you won't want to miss! I'm renaming the podcast (among other things) and this will tell you all about it!
Sometimes, ladies, we resist change. And we don't do the things we should...like buy ourselves new underwear because we are putting everyone else first. BUT I want to share that change can be amazing. This episode includes 9 lessons I learned at the in person retreat with my coach last week and how that's affecting you. Let's go.
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Every emotion that we feel and take action from creates a by product that shapes our life. Today I'm diving into what emotional by products are and why they're so important to understand and recognize in ourselves. This is a must listen!
Click here to get full details for my in person retreat! 7 spots left to join me for an intimate, 3 day getaway October 17-20 in Oak Island, NC!
What are you UNWILLING to negotiate on? Are you sure that if he had an affair you would leave? Or the next time he relapses he has to move out? Today I'm talking about non-negotiables and what to do if you have them and why you actually DON'T need them... :)
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What do you do when you're not in the mood? Is there any way to GET in the mood? Today is all about that! And, trust me ladies, it's going to change everything! Listen in to discover WHY you're not in the mood, WHAT you're not in the mood for, and what to do about it! The answers are not what you think!
Come join my live class on Thursday, September 12 @ 1pm est! This is a FREE call where I am going to teach you the 3 lies that you are being taught that are keeping you stuck AND what to do instead.
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Want to create the life you want? The relationship you dream about with yourself, your body, your husband? This is how you do it. Today I'm breaking down WHY you have the results you currently have in your life AND how to change it. Today. Let's go.
Register today for my FREE class: "How To Break Free From Your Husband's Pornography Problem" on September 12 @ 1pm est. In this class I am going to go over the 3 biggest lies that are being taught to you and why they are keeping you stuck. Sign up today to work with me one on one at the call so we can move you forward.
Want to meet me in person and spend 3 incredible, transformational days coaching? Sign up to join me at this year's in person retreat in Oak Island, NC! OCtober 17-20 I am taking 15 women to the beach for an intimate coaching experience that is unlike any other. Check out details here and reserve your spot today before they sell out!
Today I'm sharing a personal story. And how I'm letting go of it. I'm diving into what our stories are, why they are there, and what to do when they are no longer in our best interest.
Come join me for my next FREE live event: How To Break Free From Your Husband's Pornography Problem! Thursday, September 12 @ 1pm EST! Click here to register!
Ready to come meet me in person? Come join me at my in person, 3 day retreat at the beach! October 17-20 I am taking an intimate group to Oak Island, NC to spend a powerful weekend coaching and transforming. And it's your turn to come! Click here to reserve your spot today!
Do you feel uncomfortable, self conscious, insecure, or threatened by other women? This episode is for you! I am going to lead you through an exercise to help you uncover what's going on internally so that you can start to process through this AND change it!
Click here to join me for the free Retreat Info Call on Thursday, August 22 @ 12pm est.
Ladies, this year's retreat will be more powerful than any I've done before. Because it's time to go on offense. In this episode I'm giving you all the details of what the retreat will be like and what you'll learn there. If you're ready to go on offense, come join us. We're going forward.
Click here to sign up and save your seat at the retreat today! Only 12 spots left!
Click here to sign up to attend the REtreat Info Call on Thursday, August 22 @ 12pm est. I will answer your questions and go over all the details!
Ladies, anger isn't just yelling and getting in fights. Sometimes, anger can be sneaky and we can be feeling it even when we think we aren't. Today I'm going over 5 common ways that anger is expressed incognito! AND why it's so important to become aware of them.
Struggling with anger? Come join me for my brand new Anger Management Master Class! August 19-21 @ 1pm est! I am going to teach you how to defuse your anger so you don't feel like it's running your life! Use code "EMAIL" for $50 off when you sign up! Click here for details! Want to try coaching for free? Sign up for this week's FREE coaching call! Wednesday, August 14 @ 1pm est. Bring where you are stuck, come watch me coach others as you listen in, or get one on one help from me with whatever is going on in your life. Click here to sign up!
Interested in coming to this year's in person retreat? I'd love to see you there! I'm hosting a FREE Retreat Info Call on August 22 @ 12pm est! Click here to register for it and get all the retreat details!
I used to yell at my kids A LOT. And I hated it. But I felt like I didn't know how to stop it. If you struggle yelling at someone in your life or getting in arguments, this is for you. I'm going to break down exactly how I stopped yelling and how you can too so that it stops creating a negative affect in your life. Come join me for Anger Management! This is a new master class I'm teaching inside my coaching program but I'm oepning up a few spots for non clients! If today's episode resonated with you, this class is for you! Click here for details!
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What do you want to receive in your life? Because it's all available to you. It just might be something inside of you that's blocking it. In today's episode I'm diving into all the internal blocks that could be preventing you from having the thing that you want. Let's dive in!
Your primitive brain is keeping you alive. But today I'm going to teach you exactly HOW your brain is doing that-and how it can often be to your detriment. Not only will you learn more so that you can learn how to change it, it will also help you understand more about what's going on in your husband's brain too!
Click here to join me for today's FREE live event on how to solve your husband's pornography problem!
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A sunk cost is an investment you can't get back. Today I'm applying that idea to emotions and relationships and diving into what happens when you have an emotional sunk cost and what you should do about it.
Join me next week for me FREE live, one day event! In this class 'How To Solve Your Husband's Pornography Problem" I am going to teach you how to stop the false control and hustling that is leaving you emotionally exhausted and teach you what to do instead! Save your seat here!
If you don't feel confident in your body-this is for you! I am dissecting what confidence in your body truly is AND how to change it! p.s. You don't have to lose any weight to do it!
Want to join for this week's Body Confidence Master Class? Click here! You'll get lifetime access to all the replays and be able to join us for any live calls! Join today before the price goes up!
Want to learn how to solve your husband's pornography problem? Come join me on Monday, July 22 for a FREE one day live event! I will be breaking down exactly how to solve the problem that's creating so much drama in your life! CLick here to save your seat today!
This is a special Independence Day episode with a message that God has put on my heart to share. It's time to transfrom from victim to victor. It's time to stand up against the enemy and refuse to surrender. It's time to fight back. Let's go.
I'm fighting this battle. But I need more warriors. Come join me.
Did you know there are two types of body weight? There's the actual physical weight of your body that you measure. And then there's the emotional weight of your body that is added based on how you think and feel about your body. Today I'm talking about the second kind-how it affects us, and how to change it-along with why it's so important to do so!
If you want to dive deeper into this and want to truly heal your relationship with your body and stop carrying around the excess body weight that you don't need, save your seat at next week's Summer Body Confidence Master Class! During this 3 day class I will teach you how to conquer triggers, heal your relationship with your body, and create confidence from the inside out so that you can actually enjoy the experiences in your life without getting poisoned by anxiety. Click here for full details!
Ready for some incredible in person coaching? Come join me at this year's in person retreat in Oak Island, NC! Click here for full details and save your spot today!
Come join my FREE 1 day Live Event on July 22 called "How To Solve Your Husband's Pornography Problem"! Click here to save your seat!
We are all full of potential energy. It's what's stored inside of us, waiting for us. It's what's possible in our lives. But we are often stuck there. Just in the potential. And today I'm talking about what's keeping you stuck in potential energy, what's preventing you from actually having what you want in your life-and how to change it!
If you're tired of feeling stuck, come work with me! My program has no expiration date and I will work with you one on one to help you master the tools you need to confidently face the future. Click here for full details!
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Do you ever get annoyed by all the text messages and emails from shops alerting you to sales and information? Yeah, me too. But, at one point, you opted in to receving them...and that's exactly what's going on in your brain too. Today I'm talking about how that happens with our thoughts and feelings and how you can change it!
Also, it's Rob's birthday today! Let's celebrate him and thank him for all he does for me (and you!)! Join me on IG @jolenewinncoaching and drop him a happy birthday message!
Come join me in coaching! Click here to get full program details on how you can sign up for LIFETIME access to all my coaching and content! This is where we take everything from the podcast and uplevel it to apply it personally to your life so that you can finally see that exponential growth you've been waiting for!
Are you a coach or entrepreneur who is feeling stuck in your business? I want to help you! I am hosting a FREE 4 day workshop, June 24-27 and I'd love to see you there! During these week, I am going to teach you my simple formula for solving ANY business problem AND help you apply it to your own business! Click here to register today to join live or catch the replays!
Do you feel resentment toward someone in your life? Maybe it's your spouse for his pornography problem, or your mom for making you take piano lessons, or your car because it's always unreliable...today I'm giving you a taste of what I taught in my "Healing Resentment" master class and going into what resentment is and the main causes of it!
If you resonated with this episode and are aready to truly let the resentment go, click here to enroll in my Healing Resentment Master Class today! This is an online course that you can immediately begin consuming so that you don't have to wait one more day to start going forward!
Come join me in coaching! Click here to get full program details on how you can sign up for LIFETIME access to all my coaching and content! This is where we take everything from the podcast and uplevel it to apply it personally to your life so that you can finally see that exponential growth you've been waiting for!
Are you a coach or entrepreneur who is feeling stuck in your business? I want to help you! I am hosting a FREE 4 day workshop, June 24-27 and I'd love to see you there! During these week, I am going to teach you my simple formula for solving ANY business problem AND help you apply it to your own business! Click here to register today to join live or catch the replays!
Do you feel resigned to your situation? Like it's not something you can change and you just have to live with it? I get it. Today I'm diving into what resignation is and why it's a lie-yup. I said it! I'm going into the difference between resignation and acceptance and how to shift into acceptance!
Come join me in coaching! Click here to get full program details on how you can sign up for LIFETIME access to all my coaching and content! This is where we take everything from the podcast and uplevel it to apply it personally to your life so that you can finally see that exponential growth you've been waiting for!
Are you a coach or entrepreneur who is feeling stuck in your business? I want to help you! I am hosting a FREE 4 day workshop, June 24-27 and I'd love to see you there! During these week, I am going to teach you my simple formula for solving ANY business problem AND help you apply it to your own business! Click here to register today to join live or catch the replays!
It's time to celebrate! Over the last 6 months I have coached some incredible business clients inside an intimate business mastermind! And today I am honored to share with you Shelby's story! Not only is she an incredible coach who's personal story inspires me immensly (which she shares in this interview), she has also seen incredible growth over just the short months we've been working together! I can't wait for you to meet her!
Are you a coach or entrepreneur who is feeling stuck in your business? I want to help you! I am hosting a FREE 4 day workshop, June 24-27 and I'd love to see you there! During these week, I am going to teach you my simple formula for solving ANY business problem AND help you apply it to your own business! Click here to register today to join live or catch the replays!
It seems like your husband's pornography problem is causing all of the issues you are facing...but what if that's not true? And what if that's the best news ever? Today I'm using my concepts from my Sociology degree and talking about the difference between when one thing CAUSES another to happen (and what that means) versus when one thing is CORRELATED to another (and what that means--p.s. this is GREAT news!)
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Are you a coach or entrepreneur who is feeling stuck in your business? I want to help you! I am hosting a FREE 4 day workshop, June 24-27 and I'd love to see you there! During these week, I am going to teach you my simple formula for solving ANY business problem AND help you apply it to your own business! Click here to register today to join live or catch the replays!
What if you want sex more than your husband? What if he wants sex more than you do? How do you navigate that? That's what today's episode is all about! Inspired by a conversation with a listener on Instagram, this is covering exactly how to handle this situation (and why it's so hard in the first place!)
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Are you a coach or entrepreneur feeling stuck in your business? Let me help! I am holding a FREE 4day workshop, June 24-27 and I'd love for you to come! This will be where I teach you a simple formula that will enable you to solve ANY business problem you're facing AND I'll help you every step of the way! Click here to register to join live or catch the replays!
Have you ever thought "When I'm a parent, I'm never going to do___" or maybe you've thought, "It's too hard to keep doing this in my marriage. I just have to stop". That's what today's episode is all about! This is what I call emotional overcorrecting. I'm diving into what it is, and why it's a problem so that you can actually get back to where you WANT to be living!
I've opened a limited number of FREE one on one calls with me this week! If you are interested in coaching and want to chat with me about it, now is the perfect time! We will figure out exactly why you're stuck and map out exactly how to get you where you want to go! Click here to schedule today!
With Mother's Day coming up, I wanted to address a recurring theme from the last few weeks-how to handle the relationship with your mother in law. Today I'm sharing several tips and thoughts to help you navigate this relationship (or any difficult relationship in your life).
Do you feel like you just don't care anymore about something? Maybe it's your husband's behavior, maybe it's your body, maybe it's a different relationship...what do you do then? Today I'm going to tell you exactly what to do and why this is happening. And how to change it.
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I am SO honored to have a guest and colleague Frank Rich on this episode! He is vulnerable and powerful in telling his personal story of how he went from being introduced to pornography at a young age to being addicted to it as an adult to finding freedom from it now! He now helps men conquer their own pornography addictions by helping change them into a man who no longer desires pornography. Please enjoy his story and go follow him @coachfrankrich!
What is solid self love? And how do you develop it? And why do we even care if we do? Why is it important? Today I am asking (and answering) all of those questions with my friend and fellow coach Marci Owen! She is the self love coach and is launching her brand new container for coaching called the Self Love Lab tomorrow! If you resonate with her message and want help learning how to feel loved and confident in yourself, go check her out! Links below! Get details on the Self Love Lab here!
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We have a BIG announcement! And this is where we share it! So listen in to learn how we came to this decision, what we're learning from it, and how it applies to (and affects!) YOU!
There are two types of grudges and today I'm teaching you both! Let's dive into what a grudge is, how to know if you are holding a grudge, and why it's so important to notice!
If you want help letting go of your grudges, then come join me in my Healing Resentment Master Class. I am opening up a limited number of spots for this class and if this is for you, click here to join today and save $100 by signing up before it begins!
If you don't feel like your husband is an emotionally safe person for you to open up to-this is for you! Or maybe he USED to feel safe but now he doesn't...or perhaps you just don't feel safe feeling emotions in general. Today I'm talking all about what emotional safety is, why it's important and who the BEST emotional safety person is for you!
I reached an upper limit in my belief this week and I want to talk to you about it. I'm sharing the whole experience and teaching you what an upper limit is, how I worked through it, why our brain wants to create it, and sharing a HUGE breakthrough thought that will help you with your own. Happy Easter ladies! I love you!
Join me for a week of FREE coaching! April 1-3 @ 11am EST I am going live on zoom to answer your questions and help you with anything in your life. If you are struggling with something or want help applying something from the podcast, this is for you! Click here to register to come live and get the replays!
Have you ever thought that you don't want to get your hopes up? Me too. Today I'm diving into what hope really is and why our brain doesn't want to get our hopes up. But I'm also going into how you can change it if you want to! Join me!
Come join me for a week of free coaching! I am hosting Coach Week next week and I would love for you to come! This is where you can bring your questions and your struggles and I will help you work through them so we can get you unstuck and moving forward! Click here to register for free!
FYI: I am creating a brand new Master Class in April and I would love for you to be there. It is called "How to Extinquish Resentment" and it will be taught inside my coaching program April 22-25. Sign up today to get lifetime access and to join us in time to attend this Master Class live! Click here to join today!
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This is a celebration episode! I asked y'all for YOUR wins and transformations and I am sharing your responses to help celebrate the progress and work you've done! THANK YOU for inspiring me each week and remember that it's important to not just focus on how far you have to go but how far you've come! Celebrate your wins daily and keep going! I love you!
If you're ready to see an even greater transformation, then come work with me! Schedule a one on one consultation call with me by clicking here! We will talk about where you are now, discover exactly what's keeping you stuck, and come up with a game plan of how to break through it and move forward! Let's go!
Maybe the bulk of the pain of a past experience is gone, but what happens when we don't deal with all of it 100%? That's when we have residual pain. Today I'm talking about what that is, why it's so important to realize, and the 3 main ways that it affects you if you don't deal with it in a healthy way. Come join me!
Ready to let go of the residual pain and move forward? Schedule a one on one consultation call with me today! During this call we talk about what you are struggling with, identify what's keeping you stuck, and create a game plan for what to do next! Sign up today!
Last week we talked about responsibility...and here's part two. This is all about what YOU have responsibility for, what that looks like, AND why it's so imporant to understand! If you truly internalize this one concept, it can change everything about your life and your healing!
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Today I'm bringing you a conversation I had with Jenn Zingmark-the resident divorce coach expert! This is where we talk about ALL things divorce and what the struggles are with it, why it's so important to work through your personal emotional stuff, and the best way to do it. She is so vulnerable and opens up about her own divorce journey and has such great wisdom to share! Even if you aren't considering divorce, this is an incredible episode to listen to!
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What if he's not taking responsibility? Why do I have to do all the work? It's not fair! Let's dive in. What do you want him to take responsibility for? What would that look like? And what if he never does? ... Let's get into it.
How are pornography and sex connected? And what are you supposed to do if your husband's pornography problem is affecting your sexual relationship? Today I'm diving into what pornography is, what it is designed to do, how it's related to sex, and the two different cycles that someone watching pornography is going through. You'll also learn exactly what you CAN control in this scenario and what you CAN'T....but the things you can control are much greater than you think!
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Our primitive brain is often generating a victim behavior without us really noticing it. Here's two ways it does and why it's so important to notice. Plus, a very popular (and socially acceptable) way you could be perpetuating a victim mindset without realizing it!
Come join me for Valentine's Day! I am hosting a 3 day Galentine's Coach-A-Thon and I want you to come! We are going to dive into conquering sexual triggers, navigating sexual expectations (yours and his!), finally breaking the connection between porn and sex, AND handling subconscious sexual shame. Click here to join me for just $19!
People pleasing is where you change yourself or do what you think other people want you to do so that you feel a certain way. People pleasing yourself is where you change yourself or do what you think you "should" do so that you feel a certain way. But let's dive into what that looks like and why that's a problem...
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What is faith? And where does it fit into all of this emotional work? And why does it even matter? Today might be my favorite episode yet. It's all about what you believe and the secret that creates transformations.
Come join me in my coaching program this week for my brand new Faith Master Class! Monday-Thursday at 4pm est you can join me live as I teach and coach on what faith is, how to apply the tools of life coaching and intentionality to your faith, and how it can change the future of your faith!
Are there things you are "trying" to do? Lose weight? Not yell at your kids? Be more organized? Trust your spouse? Today I want to teach you how using the word "try" can be detrimental to creating what you want and how to shift it so that you can actually have what you say you want.
I am so excited to bring you this conversation I had with Matt and Katie! They are an incredible couple who have conquered pornography in their marriage and they both have so much wisdom to share! I hope you enjoy their story! And don't forget to give them a follow on social media!
We often hurt ourselves without even knowing it. The way that we respond emotionally can create an injury over time if we aren't conscious of it and don't change the behavior that is creating it. This episode is inspired by my own injury so let's dive in and see how it's related!
I'm so excited to offer business coaching for 2024! If you are ready to have your business feel easy and aligned with you and your dreams, this is for you! You can find all the details on my website by clicking here! Hurry! Only 2 spots left and we begin next week!
Resolutions aren't actually about what we think they are. Today I'm diving into what they're about and how you can guarantee you'll always hit every resolution you set.
If you're tired of setting the same resolutions every year, I have the perfect class for you! Inside my program this month I am hosting a brand new Master Class all about GOALS! Join my program today and you'll automatically get access to this class AND all the recordings! I'll see you there!
Allowing is a verb. It requires action. And today I learned that I have to allow myself to be healed. Join me as I discuss what allowing can look like and the difference it can make in healing from your husband's pornography problem.
What's the difference between letting go and giving up? And what if you feel like giving up? How do you switch? This week I had a few experiences that I'm sharing that have highlighted this for me and I want to share what I'm learning. I'm still learning how to let go. Join me.
Merry Christmas ladies! If you want the best Christmas present ever, come join my coaching program! Now is the perfect time and I will send you a gift in the mail to go under your tree! Click here to sign up today!
Is there something in your life you want to change or stop doing? Maybe a habit you want to break or an interaction with your spouse that always happens that you don't like? Maybe you have a belief about yourself you are tired of holding onto? This is for you. Today I am going to teach you a tool that is one of the most helpful in changing any behavioral, emotional, or cognitive pattern in your life.
Come join me for a free call! This Thursday, December 14 @ 11am est I am hosting a class called "Porn is Not OK.". If you want to know how to be ok IF your husband is watching porn even though you're not ok WITH your husband watching porn, this is for you! Click here to register for free and get access to the replay!
Stressful schedules, in-law gatherings, school parties, triggering situations...the holidays can be difficult to navigate. So today I am offering my best tips and advice on how to handle the holidays so that you can actually ENJOY them instead of just feeling stressed out!
I want to send you a Christmas gift! If you join my program throughout December, I am going to send you a Christmas present in the mail! That way you not only get what you WANT for Christmas (which is coaching), you ALSO get a wrapped present that you are guaranteed to LOVE! Click here to sign up today!
Finding the right professional help is like finding a good stylist...and I have some bad hair day horror stories to prove it! Bottom line, if you have a result you are looking for, it's worth paying someone who can get you there.
Have you heard that addicts need to hit rock bottom before they reach out for help? Well, turns out we are a lot more like them than we think! Today I am talking all about what rock bottom is, how we usually think about it, and how we have our own rock bottom to be aware of. Spoiler alert: Rock bottom isn't necessary to create change.
Come join me this week ladies! I am hosting a live, 5 day training inside my coaching program called "BEcoming Unbreakable" where I am teaching you how to process your emotions in order to: Let go of emotional baggage, disconnect triggers to render them powerless, rewrite painful memories, connect with your body to feel safe with your emotions, and unlearn negative beliefs that are no longer serving you.
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Today I am going over HOW you actually process your emotions and WHY it's the most vital skill you could learn. I am outlining the 3 main ways we typically respond to emotion and why they aren't what is best for the life we want to create. This is the one skill that has enabled me to confidently face my future without fear so tune in!
Come join me next week for my brand new course: Becoming Unbreakable. This course will be taught in a live, 5 day training where I will be working with each client individually until they master the skill of processing their emotions. We are going to release all of the emotional baggage that's being carried around and learn how to confidently face the unknown of the future. This is where suffering becomes optional and moving forward becomes a reality. Join my program today and you'll automatically be enrolled in this course. Don't miss it! We start in one week! Get details here and join today!
It feels like you are fighting, barely treading water, and it's exhausting, right? Today I want to offer how you can take all that energy, all that fight inside of you and apply it in a different way to get far greater results. It's time to fight smarter, not harder.
Come join me for a free Course Preview of the "Becoming Unbreakable" course! Click here to join me for a live call on Thursday, November 16 @ 11am est. I will be going over what you can expect in the Becoming Unbreakable course and I will answer any of your questions! Sign up today!
Ready to fight smarter and become the master the one skill that will truly make you unbreakable? Click here to join my lifetime coaching program today! This will automatically enroll you in the "Becoming Unbreakable" live, 5 day training that I am leading inside my coaching program at the end of this month. Today is the perfect time to join so you can get a jumpstart on this skill. Click here to join today!
We say we want certain things-to lose weight, change jobs, be more present with our kids, heal from our husband's pornography problems-but are we making the decision to create that result from our primitive brain or our pre-frontal cortex? And why is that so important to clarify? Today I am discussing all of that after a little self reflection exercise and I encourage you to do the same!
I am teaching a brand new course this month inside my coaching program called "Becoming Unbreakable" and I want to invite you to join me. I am teaching the exact process and skill that I have mastered that has enabled me to conquer every circumstance that I thought would break me. Find details and reserve your spot today!
This last 12 months have been the hardest months of my life. But they are also what has made me unbreakable. Today I am talking about why it was the hardest year and how I faced it to become who I am today.
I am teaching a brand new course on Becoming Unbreakable this month in my coaching program and I want you to come. I am reserving 20 spots for new clients to join this live, 5 day training and I will walk each woman through the exact process I have used over and over again to become unbreakable. Click here to join today and save your seat. C
When we experience trauma, our brain responds in a way to prevent us from getting hurt again. Which is great. However, when this programming is run unchecked, it can actually lead us to creating a mentality that leads to isolation and pain. Let's talk about it.
Don't know how to process your emotions? I can help! Inside my coaching program this month I am doing a deep dive into how to process your emotions and I would love to have you join us. Sign up today for lifetime access and come master the skill that will lead you to healing quicker than anything else.
Do you have a certain date that's painful? Or maybe a memory that always brings up negative emotion? Maybe it's your anniversary or your birthday or the date you found out about all of your husband's pornography problems. If so, this is for you. I'm diving into WHY this happens and HOW to fix it. Permanently.
Come coach with me for free! Next week I'm hosting a FREE class teaching how to connect with your spouse even if he's still watching porn. I'd love to have you there! Click here for full details and to sign up!
Do you feel really vulnerable with your husband? Or even just by yourself becaue of everything you've gone through? In this episode I am going to teach you what it means to be vulnerable and what vulnerability truly is.
Come join my next free class! How to Re-Connect with your spouse after betrayal trauma. October 30 @ 11am est! Click here to sign up!
Do you struggle communicating with your husband about his pornography problem? Do you find that it either leads to an argument or you shut down? I am diving into the 7 most common mistakes that I see women make so that you can start having more productive conversations with your spouse!
Click here to access my Free webinar: How To Talk To Your Husband About His Pornography Problem for more in depth coaching and teaching on this topic!
What is victim mentality? And how do we conquer it? And do we sometimes stay a victim to ourselves? Join me today as I talk about all of this and how to actually beat victim mentality to start taking control of your life.
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How do you believe something you've never believed before? How do you change what you believe? And why bother? Why is it so important to do it? Today I am diving into a concept I am teaching at the in person retreat in October and it has changed my life. Want to believe you can trust your husband? Want to believe you can lose weight? Want to believe you are a good mom? Want to believe you are good enough? This is for you.
Do you ever have a gut feeling that something is off? Do you have intuition that he's hiding something or that he's relapsed and not telling you? Today I am diving into what intuition is, why we feel it, and what to do about it. This is a good one ladies!
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In this episode I am so excited to be talking to my client Ghazal about her story! She is so powerful and one of the things I admire most about her is her willingness to look inward and her courage to take action even when it scares her. I know you will find inspiration from her story!
Do you ever feel like you don't love him like you used to? Like the things he's done have changed it so it's not possible to feel the way you used to feel about him? Today I'm diving into why this happens, how to change it if you want to, and what it means if you don't.
In this episode, my client Shawnie is talking about her story! She joined coaching about one year ago and she came to the in person retreat last year as the youngest client there :) She is being open and vulnerable and I hope y'all find hope in her strength and story! Thank you Shawnie!
Do you feel unsafe during physical intimacy with your spouse? Today I am going to talk about why that is and give you some ideas of what you can do to help you work through it. The main thing I want you to know is that however you feel is ok. It's normal. And you don't need to judge yourself for it.
First time ever my twin sister Kristi came on the podcast! She joined me today to talk about her experience going to the in person retreat in Nashville last year so listen in to hear what it was like from her perspective.
Bonus-at the end you'll hear some of our answers to common "twin" questions we get!
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That's right. I'm closing the doors to coaching. Listen in to find out why and what that means for you.
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Rob joined me on the podcast today to talk about what we've been working through the last 9 months. And one of those is attraction. In this episode we are diving into what he learned about attraction to other women, how our society perpetuates beliefs that aren't true, and how to work through attraction in your marriage. I hope you find this episode helpful in moving forward!
Have you ever wondered this? When is enough, enough? How much of this should I take? When should I leave? Is there a certain time when we should separate? Today I am diving into this question and I hope that even if you've never thought this you take a listen.
I'm bringing back Coach Week! Come try out coaching for free next week and get personal help from me with whatever you are going through. Details will be up on the website today so be sure to check it out and watch for emails letting you know when you can sign up!
How much should I know? What questions should I ask? Are there certain details I need to be made aware of? Today I am going to dive into this topic - and probably not in the way you expect!
Win a spot at my retreat! I am giving away a spot at my retreat and you could win it! To be eligible make sure you sign up and secure your spot before August 20 and then I will be refunding the full price to one lucky sign up! Click here for details and to sign up today!
My program is $1k off until August 20! Simply sign up for my lifetime coaching program and select the pay in full option at checkout! The discount is already applied so you can simply sign up and you're in! Click here to join today!
Our energy follows out attention. And where we put our energy is where change happens. So it begs the question, where are we putting our attention? Today I am going to take you through a process to figure out where you are putting your physical and emotional energy so that you can change it if you want to.
Do you want him to reassure you that you are moving forward? Or that he finds you attractive? or that he's working on his addiction? If you are seeking reassurance from him, this is for you. I'm going to teach you what reassurance is, why you want it, and how to get it for good. Enjoy!
External validation feels great. We all like to hear it, right? Today I am going to talk about what it really is and why we like it and how it can be a problem.
Coping mechanisms seem great, right? After all, they help us deal with stress. Today I'm going to dive into why coping mechanisms can be a problem and give you an alternative to that that's even better.
Do you feel like you're waiting for something bad to happen? Like you can never fully relax because you don't know if he'll relapse again? In this episode I'm discussing why our brains operate this way and how to start changing it!
Join my next free coaching call! Come try out coaching on Wednesday, July 18 @ 11am est! Click here for details!
How do you stop being controlled by others or your life circumstance? How do you become emotionally independent rather than feeling like your emotional state is dependent on your husband's behavior or pornography problem? Today I'm going to give a few ideas from our Founding Fathers and the early American army to answer that question. Happy Independence Day everyone!
I had no idea what a life coach was when I signed up for life coach training. I just knew it helped me and I wanted more of it. Today I am going to tell you what a life coach does, what my job is and how it can help you. I hope this helps you decide if this is what you are looking for! If you want more information on how to work with me, head to my website!
This is for the hard days. The days you don't want to get out of bed or you feel like you'll burst into tears at a moment's notice. That's exactly where I am today. So I'm going to share a few tips or tools on what you can do on those days to help you through them. The last one is the most important. :) I love you ladies.
This is a great question! Today I am going to dive into whether or not it's a good idea to have your husband tell you when he messes up (and how that's different from an accountability partner). I'm also going to dive into why it can be so hard to have him tell you and what to do about it.
Are you worried about going to the beach with your husband? Or his work party? Or going out to dinner and running into an attractive waitress? Today I am going to talk about the biggest mistakes we make in triggering situations and my tips on what to do instead.
Want more on triggers? Check out Episode 112: Triggers and Bonus: Conversations with Rob: Triggers and Temptations.
Are there areas in your relationship where you just want him to reassure you? Maybe it's that you can trust him? Or that he actually finds you attractive? Today I am going to talk about what it really means to want reassurance and why it's not actually possible the way we think it is.
Come coach with me for free! Join me on Wednesday, May 31 at 11am for a free coaching call! It's like a "try it before you buy it" call for anyone who wants coaching! Click here for details!
Want to coach with me one on one? I am opening up 5 private coaching spots this summer only and it won't be an offer I open up again! Want to chat about it to see if it's right for you? Email me at coach@jolenewinn.com and we will set it up!
I am so excited to announce that I am opening 5 private coaching spots this summer! If you want to work with me but want a personal coaching experience, this is for you! This is a limited time offer that expires on June 1 so sign up today by clicking here! Select the payment option for the Private Coaching plan that works best for you to secure your spot today.
I cannot wait to work with you!
Today is a very special episode with guest host Rob! This is a solo episode where he is discussing how pornorgraphy affects your brain and ultimately affects your relationships and your life. If you like this one, go give him some love and support by leaving a podcast review on iTunes! He'd love to know you appreciate his honesty!
Did you just find out your husband is addicted to porn? Or maybe you just found out about a relapse or a detail you didn't know before. This episode is for you. Today I am going through my biggest tips on what to do next that will help you start healing right away. I'm also listing some additional podcast episodes that might help!
Want this to be the best Mother's Day yet? I have a few ideas on how to make that happen. Listen in as I give 4 tips on how to get what you want this Mother's Day (or for anything you want in life!)
Have you ever thought something like, "I want to know he's as invested in this relationship as I am", or "I just want to know that he loves me as much as I love him" or "It's not fair that I'm putting in more work than he is"? That's what this episode is all about. WHY our brain does that and what it's actually trying to avoid. Plus, what happens when we do it and why it's so important to stop.
Sign up today for my next FREE class! May 22 at 11am est I am hosting a free call "Finding Peace When Your Husband Is Untrustworthy". Click here to save your spot and get access to the live call and the replay!
Struggling with your body image as you get ready for summer? Yeah. Join the club. Literally. This month inside my coaching progam I am teaching a brand new Master Class called "How To Not Hate Your Body". I am going to be teaching you how to actually change the way you FEEL about your body, not just give you pretty mantras to recite to try to fake it til you make it. If you are ready to completely change how you feel about your body, you can get access to this class by joining my lifetime coaching program today by clicking here. I'll see you there.
Ever find yourself feeling pain on behalf of your past self? Maybe you found out about something that happened in the past that you didn't know before and now you find yourself rewriting the memory in order to put in that new information? Today I'm going to talk about why our brain likes to do this and why it's so important to stop. Also, how to do it ;)
Come join my free class! On May 22 @ 11am est I am teaching a class called "Finding Peace When Your Husband is Untrustworthy" and I'd love for you to come! All you have to do is register and you'll get access to the live call and the replay! Click here to join for free!
I am so excited to bring you a conversation with one of my clients-Gina! She has such an incredible, sweet spirit and I am so inspired and in awe of her courage! I hope she inspires you and you resonate with her story!
Did you know there are 2 definitions of the word "compromise"? Today I'm going to talk about both definitions and how they often show up in our marriage. The second defition will blow your mind!
How do you deal with the moments of acute pain? Like when you first find out about your husband's pornography problem or when he relapses? There are a few ways we typically respond that unintentionally make our lives more difficult. Today I'm going over what those are and how to avoid them.
What is a boundary? How do I know if it's "healthy"? What if someone is violating my boundary? Am I supposed to be feeling anything negative if I set one? Is it ok to set one to avoid negative emotion? I am answering all these questions and going through examples in this episode so tune in! If you want more help with boundaries and want more clarity around them, go check out The Porn Addict's Wife podcast episode 17: boundaries v consequences
Want more one on one help setting boundaries? Come to my "How To Set Boundaries Workshop" next week! Come join me live for 4 days of coaching from April 17-20 all around boundaries and I'll teach you what they are and how to set them. I'd love to give you the one on one help you need for your situation so come join me by clicking here!
I am honored to introduce you to Allyson! She is one of my clients who wanted to share her story with you on the podcast! She is sharing her personal story, her biggest struggles, and the things that have helped her the most. I hope this helps you in your journey forward! Thank you Allyson for sharing your story!
Have you ever felt humiliated by your husband's actions? I have. And it inspired this episode today. I am diving into the difference between shame and humiliation, explaining the shame cycle and the humiliation cycle, and giving you the key to getting out of both!
See the video of this episode on youtube by clicking here!
Join me for "How to Set Boundaries Workshop"! This will be a week of coaching to help you learn what healthy boundaries are, how to set them, and how to do so in a way that makes you feel safe even if your husband is still watching porn. Register today for just $19 and join us April 17-20 @ 12pm est. See all details here!
What is the relationship between forgiveness and peace? And where does God fit into all of this? After all, we are commanded to forgive in the scriptures and God tells us He forgives us if we come to Him...so how does that all fit in? Today I'm sharing a few thoughts on the relationship between forgiveness and God and what it looks like to me. I hope you enjoy.
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This has been too long in coming :) The first part of Monica's story can be found in between episodes 72 & 73. Start with that part of her story and finish with this! A huge thank you to her for being the most incredible client and willing to share her journey with all of you!
A few weeks ago on Instagram, I asked you if you wanted to forgive your husband. And the vast majority of you said yes. Then I asked you why you haven't yet. Today I am going to read your responses and go through them with you and offer why they are keeping you stuck. If you truly want to forgive your husband, I can teach you how. Sign up today to join my How To Forgive Master Class and get instant access to my lifetime coaching program.
How do you forgive yourself for a pornography addiction? How do you forgive your spouse for one? How do you move on past something without carrying the shame and guilt with you even if you know it was wrong? Rob joined me today to discuss this and it's an episode you won't want to miss!
How do you know if you are stuck in resentment and pain? How do you know if you are holding onto it and haven't let it go yet? What does it look like and why do we do it? Plus, how do we stop? Covering all of that and sharing SO many personal examples because I have done this so much in my life!
If you want to forgive your husband but don't know how, I want to invite you to join my How To Forgive Master Class. This class will be taught live inside my coaching program starting March 27 so join today for lifetime access so you don't miss it! Sign up here!
Are you waiting for him to say sorry? Do you feel like you're stuck without closure because he hasn't acknowledged what he's done to you? Or maybe he has said sorry and you don't know why you aren't feeling any better about it? This is for you. Today I'm diving into why we want an apology and what happens if we don't get it.
Join me for my "How To Forgive" Master Class this March! From March 27-30 I am launching a brand new class inside my coaching program and I want to work with you. If you've been struggling with forgiveness but really want to move on, this is for you! Come join my program today and let's go forward!
Do you have to forgive your husband for his pornography addiction? For the lying and the hurt and the pain? First off, let's dive into what forgiveness is and then we will answer this question.
Other episodes of the podcast on forgiveness: Episode 53: Forgiveness
Bonus Episode: My Journey of Forgiveness (after episode 24)
Want to learn how to move forward and forgive your husband? Come join my new Master Class "How To Forgive" on March 27. This class will be taught inside my coaching program so come join us today for lifetime access and for one on one help moving forward and forgiving. I can't wait to see you there!
What is commitment? How commited are you to your healing? How do you know? And what do you do if you aren't as commited as you thought? Today I am sharing a few thoughts on commitment that I learned this week in my business mastermind and how I am applying them to help me be more commited to your emotional healing. Come join me and let's go forward!
Join me today to learn what true confidence really is. Spoiler alert: it's not what you think! Plus, learn about the difference between confidence and false confidence and how pride is related to all of it. Plus, I tell you the exact formula to follow to start increasing your confidence!
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We all feel insecure about some things. But our brain often takes it one step further and turns it into shame. In this episode I am going to go into what insecurity is, what shame is, how they are different, and how our brains often make our insecurities worse. Let's go deep on this one ladies! It's good!
Sometimes we don't give ourselves permission to feel emotions. Today, I am going over why we do this, what happens when we do it, and why it's so important to stop doing it. Your feelings are allowed. :) For more episodes on this topic, check out the Episode titled "Your Feelings Are Valid" and "Thoughts About Feelings".
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Insecurities are not personality traits that are unchangeable. They are a combination of thoughts and feelings that we can change. In our sexual relationship, there are 3 main areas where insecurities rise: physical insecurities, sexual insecurities, and insecurities around pornography. Today I am going to discuss what insecurites are, when they come up, the difference in these 3 areas, and how to change them for good.
Come join me for my Confident Sexuality Master Class. Just in time for Valentine's Day, I am going to teach you how to conquer your physical insecurities and vulnerabilities so that you can finally begin feeling confident in your sexual relationship. Check out the details today and register so you don't miss it.
I just got an email from a sweet follower and I want to share it with you. If your husband is addicted to sex and you are struggling with how it's affecting you and your sex life, this is for you. I can help you. Come join me.
How often should you have sex with your husband? Should he initiate or should you? Do you find yourself cringing at anything ultra feminine because it reminds you of pornography so instead you put on a baggy t shirt and pretend you're asleep? Today I am diving into the thoughts that we have about sexuality and why it's so important to become aware of them and how they are affecting your sexual relationship wtih your husband.
If your sexual relationship with your husband is not where you want it to be, I want to invite you to come join me for a special Master Class I am hosting in February all about Confident Sexuality. This class is from February 13-16 just in time to make sure you have an unforgettable Valentine's Day. Get all the details and sign up today here!
How do you actually hit the goals you keep setting every year? How do you actually lose that same 10 lbs that has been on your list forever? In this episode I am walking you through the steps that you need to take in order to hit your tangible goals-whether that's going back to school, starting a business, losing weight, or writing a book. Whatever your goal is, today I am going to teach you how to hit it.
Want help working through your goal and making a plan to hit it? I'd love to help you! Come join me for my Resolutions Master Class! This class is just $19 and it's 4 days of teaching and coaching to give you the one on one help you need in order to figure out what you want to achieve, what's in your way, and how to overcome each obstacle to ensure that you finally get the goal you want! Class is January 23-26! Click here for full details and to register today!
Y'all ever known anybody who hoards things? Trinkets? Knick knacks? Furniture? Broken cars? Just in case they might need them later? Today I am going to introduce you to something I call emotional hoarding. Join me as I discuss what emotional hoarding is, why we do it, why we should stop, and what it could look like if we did.
Come join me for my brand new Master Class: Resolutions from January 23-26! If you have some new year goals that you don't know how to hit or have something that you feel called to do but aren't sure how to get it done, I want to invite you to join me. In this class we are going to work through what you want and I am going to help you figure out exactly what's in your way and how to overcome it. Register today by clicking here.
What are you making room for? Too often we feel that we are emotionally at our wits end, and we are full of negative emotion that we've been carrying around for our entire lives. This is called emotional baggage. Sometimes we do this subconsciously, unaware that we are even doing this. And sometimes, we want it because it's familiar and we are afraid of what our lives would look like if we let it go.
We often think that it's only possible to feel peace once we have gotten rid of the adversity. But today I am going to talk about how to feel peace IN adversity. I am going through a few tips to help you reframe the way you experience adversity and give you personal examples to help you apply it. I love you all! Merry Christmas!
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We often think that the emotion that we are unwilling to feel, the emotion that we are suppressing isn't affecting anyone but ourselves. And that's a lie. Today I want to introduce you to a concept I call the Ripple Effect.
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Today Rob joined me on the podcast to talk about what it's like when you are in the thick of it. We share about an experience we have had over the last few weeks and tips that have helped us work through it individually and as a couple. The truth is, you have to go through the suck to come out on the other side and have the relationship you want to have. We are going to show you how.
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Sometimes we need to mourn. Sometimes we need to allow ourselves to process grief. But grief and despair are two different things and in this episode I am going to talk about what those differences are and when it's important to allow grief to be processed.
Sometimes we have sneaky thoughts. Thoughts that sound really nice and pretty. Thoughts that seem like they're positive. But they're not. Today I am going to teach you how to recognize these thoughts, why it's important to see them, and go through examples of them so you can begin to see them in your own mind.
With the holidays coming up, I wanted to help you with a few thoughts on how to get through them. Join me today as I give you a few tips and help you apply concepts you've already learned in how to interact with you family to hopefully make it the best holiday season yet!
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Have you ever thought that you are back at square one? Or maybe that you should be farther along in your healing than you are? Or perhaps you have thought that the pain you are feeling is so much worse because of how long your husband has been hurting you? Today, that's what I'm going to talk about. I'm going to discuss the way we think about timelines and why it's important to start letting that all go.
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Do you trust yourself to make good decisions? What actually makes a decision good? Today I am going to talk about self trust and why it's so important to understand-especially when you are struggling with trusting someone else.
If you want to learn how to apply this concept in a deeper way, go check out my How To Trust Master Class and get access to all my teaching and coachign on trusting your husband and trusting yourself.
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Oftentimes, we aren't even aware that we are feeling distrust because it is masquerading as anxiety. These two emotions are very similar and today I am going to talk about what these emotions feel like, why we feel them, and why it's so important to differentiate between the two (and how to do it!).
If you are struggling with trusting your husband, come join me for my "How To Trust" Master Class! I will teach you what trust is (and isn't!), the roadblocks we have to trust, how to start trusting your husband again, and the secret to trusting that we often forget! Get all the details here and sign up today!
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Today I am sharing an advanced concept that I taught this last week at my Go Forward Retreat in Nashville. I am going to teach you about what transactional and transformational relationships are, what the difference is, and why it's so important and powerful to shift into transformational relationships-especially with yourself!
If you are struggling with trusting your husband, I want to invite you to join my How To Trust Master Class next week! From October 24-27 I am going to teach you what trust really is, the lies we believe about trust, and how to put yourself back in control of the trust in your relationship (rather than leaving it at the mercy of his actions). Sign up here today!
Worry feels really important. Our brains think that worrying about something means that we care about it. But what if that's not true? Today I am going to dive into why we worry, why it isn't useful, and how to stop yourself from worrying!
Do you struggle to trust your husband? Do you want to trust him but find that you just don't and you're not sure why? Are you tired of trusting him only to have him do something that completely changes your feelings about him all over again? If this is the case for you, I want to invite you to come to my "How To Trust" Master Class. From October 24-27 I am going to teach you all about how to solve the trust issue in your marriage and put trust back in your control. Get all the details and sign up here today!
Do you ever feel like you are alone in whatever you are struggling with? Maybe it's your husband's pornography addiction but maybe it's your weight or your self improvement or maybe it's you wanting to start your own business or go back to school...there are so many things that we struggle with that we feel alone about. And today, I am going to talk to you about the importance of teaching your brain that you are not alone and the most powerful way to make that happen.
Did you know you're not your body or your thoughts? I know. It seems a little weird. But you are actually your soul. And just as your body and your mind need nourishment and attention, your soul does too. In fact, it requires even more of it. And yet we tend to ignore it. Today I'm going to discuss why it's important to take care of your soul, what your soul truly is, and offer a challenge to begin changing your life.
If your soul is ready to go to Nashville and change your life, reserve your spot today! There are just a few spots left and we are going to begin a transformation into who you want to be in just 3 short days. I can't wait to see you there!
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Do you ever think that you never would've chosen this? That, had you known about his pornography problem before you got married that you never would've said yes? If you have ever had those kinds of thoughts before, you are not alone. This is super common and something I want to address today!
If you want to coach with me one on one, come join me in Nashville. I am hosting an in person exclusive coaching experience and I want to invite you to come. Spots are limited and will sell out so get your spot reserved today.
Do you find yourself worrying that something that happened before will happen again? Today I'm going to talk about why this happens, and why it's important not to do it anymore! Let's go!
Come join me in Nashville! If you are ready to apply what you are learning on the podcast and want one on one help doing it, I want to invite you to come to my first ever LIVE event. Grab your best friend and come spend 3 days with me in Nashville, TN. I am going to teach you how to break through the things that are blocking you so you can propel forward into who you want to be. Click here for full details and to register!
Today my book launches! It is called "The Not-Enough Wife-Why We Look Outside Ourselves And How To Stop". And it's really good. Today I am going to talk about what inspired me to write the book, a little bit of the journey I had in writing it, and what each chapter is about. I would love your support by heading to Amazon and purchasing it and writing a review to let me know what you think! I love you ladies! This is for you!
Do you worry about your husband relapsing if he's alone? Yeah. Most of us have. This one is for you. I am going to break down why our brain is so worried about this, why it's not helpful, and how to work through it when it happens to you.
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Ready to take all of this to the next level? Come to Nashville! I am hosting an intimate, in person retreat in Nashville, TN from October 13-16 and I want you to come. This is your chance to get the personal attention you want from me plus make incredible new friends in one of the most fun cities! Get all the details and sign up here! Hurry! Spots are going to sell out!
We try to manage other people's emotions a lot. And it sounds really nice. Like, "I just don't want to add to his stress" or "I don't want to make her feel anxious". Today I'm talking about why this doesn't work, why we want to do it, and why it's important to stop.
Don't forget to register for Coach Week! It's a week of free coaching with me and it starts next week!
Think about that thing you want to do but haven't done yet. That's what we are talking about today. Buckle up, ladies, this is a tough love episode about why you don't have the life you want or why you aren't doing the things you want to do-spoiler alert-It's not the reasons you think! Today I am diving into both making decisions and taking action, why it's crucial to do both, what not doing both looks like, and what's standing in the way of doing both. I'm sharing some of my personal examples and how I applied what I've learned about thoughts and emotions to move me forward. Come with me!
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If you're ready to take everything you're learning on the podcast and take it to a whole nother level, come join me in Nashville. I am hosting an in person, intimate, 3 day retreat in Nashville TN from October 13-16 and I want you to come join me. We are going to take everything you've been learning and go deeper. You'll get coaching, classes, and one on one attention from me in a way that I've never offered before. Spots are limited so sign up today! Details and registration available here.
I know many of us feel this way. We want to open up to someone about our husband's pornography use but it's not our secret to tell, right? Well, maybe not. Today I'm going to address this concern and offer some thoughts that I hope will help you decide to open up and do so in a way that works for both you and your spouse.
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Come join me in Nashville! I am hosting a live retreat in Nashville from October 13-16 and I want you to come! The intimacy of this experience wille enable you to get one on one attention and coaching from me all while joining the most incredible group of women who are ready to welcome you! Click here for sign up details!
Today I am giving ya'll a sneak peek of my book that is coming out September 6! The book is titled The Not Enough Wife (Why We Look Outside Ourselves And How To Stop). This book is for any woman who has felt like she isn't enough. Not skinny enough, sexy enough, smart enough, gracrious enough...the list goes on and on. In this book, I am going to teach you why so many of us believe this about ourselves, why it’s so important to change it, and how to start changing it right away. Women spend so much time fearing, stressing that they're not enough. And I'm going to teach you exactly how to change that once and for all.
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Our brain often wants someone to blame. And it often doesn't want to blame him. As crazy as that sounds. Today I'm going over who our brain often wants to blame ( In laws, our past self, his past self) , why it happens, and why it isn't helpful.
Most of us try to avoid confrontation. Our brains don't like it because of the emotion it brings up. But, sometimes, confrontation is exactly what we need. Otherwise, we stay in conflict. Today I am going to explain what this looks like when we are in conflict with another person as well as when we have internal conflict, why it's important to confront, and how to do so.
Are you coming to Nashville?! Come join me and 14 other amazing women for this incredible, in person coaching experience. We are going to break through the mental barriers that are keeping you stuck where you are and push past into who you want to become. If you are ready to find out who YOU are again (not just who you are in relation to your husband's pornography use), this is the event for you! Click here to find the details and reserve your spot!
Learning how to think of your spouse with compassion is one of the greatest tools that you can learn to help you start improving your communication and the way you think about him and his pornography use. Today I am going to talk about why it's so important, a common mistake that many make when starting to transition to compassion, the biggest mental barriers to getting there, and more. Come join me!
Ladies! Come join me in Nashville! I am hosting a girl's weekend getaway in Nashville, TN from October 13-16! This is an intimate gathering designed to get you the one on one attention you've been craving as well as the support from like minded women! This is an experience you won't want to miss! Get all the details and sign up here! Hurry! Spots are going fast!
A very special bonus episode with all of the details you need about the upcoming retreat I am hosting in Nashville TN in October! If you are thinking about joining, listen in! And then sign up right away because there are only 15 spots total and they are going to sell out! I can't wait to see you there!
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Do you ever feel emotionally depleted? Like you have nothing left in your emotional reserves? How does that happen? How do we prevent it from happening? What do we do when it happens? That is what this episode is all about. I'm going to explain what your emotional energy baseline is, how to raise it, and why it's so important to be aware of.
Join me for my first ever IN PERSON retreat in Nashville, TN! This is an intimate experience designed to help you uncover the things that are keeping you stuck as the porn addict's wife and help you break through them so that you can start becoming the woman you want to be. Spots are limited so sign up today!
What is a trigger? What is going on in our brains when a trigger happens? And how do we change it!? That is what this episode is all about! Buckle up ladies, because this is a good one! (Spoiler alert-things outside of you can't create your feelings).
Ladies, join me today on a very special episode. This weekend, I am processing emotion and I am taking you along with me. I am sharing an experience I had this weekend and how it brought up some emotion from over 10 years ago and how I dealt with it alone and with my husband. This is a vulnerable episode that I hope you learn from.
Today I am going to bring together what we talked about last week and discuss what that looks like in relationships. How do we emotionally invest in a relationship when the other person seems to not be doing any work on their end? I'm going over the biggest lie that our brain believes about this and sharing why it's so important to recognize.
Don't forget to sign up for my email list to be the first to know when tickets go live for our Nashville retreat in October! I can't wait to see ya'll there!
There are two kinds of emotional investment-one that will produce the results that you want (a better marriage, a goal weight, a dream job) and one that won't. Today I am breaking down what emotional investment is, the two main types and the patterns they create, and why it's so important in order to achieve those goals you want.
What thoughts do you have about your husband? And how is that affecting your relationship? Today I am giving a few examples from clients about negative (and positive) thoughts we often have about our husbands that prevent us from moving forward.
So many of us struggle with making decisions. And it's all because of what we are thinking. Today I am breaking down how to make decisions in 4 simple steps and what our brain often does in those steps to make making decisions so difficult! Whether it's deciding what to wear or where to send your kids to school or even to stay married, this is a simple formula you can follow to make any decision in your life.
Do you struggle making decisions? Do you want to make a decision but feel like you "can't" or "don't know what to choose"? Today I am breaking down what indecision really is, the problems with it, why it's so appealing, and offering a small tip to help you start changing.
What do we do when we want two seemingly opposite things? Especially when we can't decide which one is "better"? How do we choose? How do we look at that? Today I am going to dive into what this looks like, how our brain likes to make decisions and what to do when you want to opposite things. (If you are struggling with trust, this is for you!)
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If your husband is struggling with depression (as so often goes hand in hand with addictive behavior), it can be super tough to know what to do. Do you recommend therapy? Is it ok to talk to him about it? Am I supposed to leave him alone? Our desire to help and our desire to not make anything worse often lead to an internal conflict that leaves us feeling hopeless and frustrated. Today Rob and I talk about what to do and not to do based on our 10+ years of marriage and working through his depression. Please pass this episode along to anyone who may be in a similar situation so they can find something helpful for them!
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Sometimes when we go through something traumatic, we forget to allow ourselves NOT to think about it. In fact, our brain thinks it is super important for us to constantly have it on our minds. But this often leads to anxiety and hyper-focus that creates emotional overwhelm and exhaustion. Today I'm going to talk about why this happens and why it's important to let it go. Sign up for my FREE Trust Workshop! May 23-25 @1pm est via Zoom. Click here to register today!
The thoughts we think about ourselves, our relationships, our fears and emotions...all of those create our story. And the story we tell ourself about our life creates our security blanket. It makes us feel warm and safe. But it also prevents us from going forward. Today I'm going to dive into this with specific examples and explain why becoming aware of your security blanket is so important to growth.
When our brain thinks there is a problem, it often chooses one of these 3 mindsets in order to handle it. Today I am going to dive into what each of these 3 mindsets are, the problem with the first 2, and why it is so important to get to acceptance. This is a deep episode that you will not want to skip! Let's go!
Let's Celebrate! This is the podcast's 100th weekly episode and I am so excited about it! Today I am going to share with you how I started and what that looked like to where we are now and the lessons I've learned along the way. I am so excited for everything that is in store and I am so grateful to all of YOU for making this happen!
You know when you reach your breaking point? And you think, "How did I get here?" Today I am going to give you the secret to preventing this from happening-no matter the circumstance. I'm going to dive into what emotional overwhelm is, the secret to preventing it, and tell you why this is so important in your life! If you want help applying what I teach in this episode, come join my coaching program! Not only do you get one on one coaching from me, you also get to join an incredible group of women so that you know you are not alone. Come join us today!
Have you ever thought, "Life's not fair"? Or "It's not fair that he has this pornography addiction and I'm the one dealing with the emotional fallout of it"? Most of you have. And that's ok. But I want to show you today how that is not a useful way of thinking...and it's using the word "fair" incorrectly. This is a tough love episode today ladies that, if you listen and apply it, will completely change your entire mentality!
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What is forgiveness? What does it look like? How do we do it? Why don't we do it? What prevents us from forgiving? Today I am going to dive into this and let you know exactly how to do it and what to do! This is not one to skip!
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Today Rob joined me on the podcast to talk about the men's group that is beginning on April 14! In this episode we go over why we are starting it and what makes this program so incredible for those who are struggling with a pornography addiction.
If you are ready to uncover the source of your pornography addiction and eliminate it for good, simply click here to join the group!
Want to know a little bit more about what the approach is for this group? Great! Simply click here to join the free webinar we are hosting next Thursday, March 24 @1pm est: How To Overcome A Pornography Addiction.
Did you know that healing can happen without feeling like you're running on a hamster wheel? That it can even be done with ease? I'm not saying it'll be EASY, but there are things you can do that will certainly make your healing journey filled with more EASE and less mental exhaustion. Today I am going through a few that you can immediately start implementing in order to make your healing process erase all the mental anxiety and drama!
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I LOVE hearing other couples who are working through pornography addiction and I am so excited to bring you Chandler and Jade's story! Chandler is the mastermind and owner of an accountability app for porn addicts called RELAY and he and his wife were gracious enough to come on the podcast and share their story. Give this young couple a listen because they have some powerful shifts in mindset that are incredible! Be sure to go follow them on IG @joinrelay!
Our very first men's coaching group is NOW ENROLLING! It will begin on April 14 and will run for 4 months so if your husband is ready to overcome his pornography addiction once and for all, sign up today! Have him click here to sign up for a free consultation call and we will get his spot saved! Hurry! There are only 7 spots left!
If you have been thinking of joining my coaching program, there's never been a better time! The Lifetime Program introductory price is ending soon and prices will be going up on April 1! Join today by clicking here and signign up for lifetime access!
Do you know the difference between being betrayed and feeling betrayed? Today we are going to talk about it and go into why it is so crucial to know the difference!
If you are ready to take what you are learning on the podcast and apply it so that you finally move forward, I want to invite you to come join my coaching program. This is where you take WHAT you are learning on the podcast and start understading HOW to apply it in order to move forward. Simply click here to join today for lifetime access!
I had the privilege of talking with Kristen Jenson, the author of Good Pictures, Bad Pictures and the owner of Defend Young Minds. She and I discussed how to talk to kids about pornography, how she got started in her business, how she wrote these books, and all the resources she has for you as parents! I am so grateful to her for the work she does and her willingness to sit down and share her wisdom with me! I know it will help all of you who have kids so listen in and go follow her through the links below!
Her IG @defendyoungminds
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What is intimacy? What is preventing you from feeling it right now? What can you do to fix it? I'm answering all of these questions on this episode today so get ready! And come join my program for the full class I taught called "Intentional Intimacy" and for one on one coaching with me! Let's go forward ladies!
Happy Valentine's Day!! Let's talk about love languages! SO many women are convinced that they give and receieve love in a certain way...and I'm going to talk about that today. Join me as I talk about what love languages are, how they can often be misused and why it's so important to be aware of your brain and how it thinks about love languages.
Join me for Coach Week! It's a week of free coaching! Register before February 16, 2022 to join and get access to all the calls and recordings! Click here to join!
Have you noticed that sometimes you tend to blame someone else for how you are feeling? "I'm upset because he...", "I'm frustrated when you...". This is called using an emotional scapegoat. Join me today as I dive into what this means, why it's so important to recognize and how to change it! I'm launching a new class inside my coaching program on February 17 called Intentional Intimacy. If you want to learn how to connect with your spouse on on emotionally intimate level (even if he's still addicted to porn), come join us! Click here to join my lifetime coaching program today to get access to all my classes, calls, and content!
Is there something you see in your life that you wish you saw differently? Perhaps it's the way you see your husband or the way you think about your kids or your job. Today I am going to talk about why changing your perspective is so important and give you 5 tips/tools to help you do it that apply to any situation.
Today I have my favorite guest (My husband Rob) joining me and going through some of the most frequently asked questions we get about his addiction and his recovery. He talks about what helped him the most, how he sees life differently now, and what he did to completely recover. Plus, there are a few great announcements you won't want to miss!
Do you feel like you are just going through the motions? Like you are meant to have a life that is more than what you have but you don't know how to get it? I have the answer for you today! Join me as I talk about the way to get the life that you want and HOW to create it. It's not a secret. It just takes a little focus and some intentionality. It's totally doable.
Come join coaching and I will help you figure out what you want in your life and teach you how to create it! Click here to join today before our Kickoff call on January 20!
(p.s. Join today so you don't miss out on our February coaching class! It's all about Intentional Intimacy and it's going to be amazing!)
Connecting with your spouse when he's addicted to pornography and you wish he weren't isn't easy. And learning how to communicate in that framework isn't easy. That is why I am so excited to bring you this conversation I had with Sam Tielemans! Sam is a licensed marriage and family therapist and works specifically with couples who are working to conquer pornography addiction. Ladies, if you are struggling knowing how to connect with your husband and talk to him about his addiction, this is for you! Be sure to leave a rating and review to let Sam know what you think!
If you're ready to take this to a deeper level and apply everything you've been learning on the podcast, come join my coaching program! I am going to help you overcome those hurdles that are preventing you from feeling free from your husband's pornography addiction and help you to finally live your life as MORE than the porn addict's wife. Sign up for a free consultation call with me to talk more about it or simply sign up directly through my website! Don't miss our kickoff call on January 20!
We tend to not deal with our emotions. But the problem with this is that then we store them. And we compartmentalize them, thinking that if they look neat and tidy, then we will deal with them later (Or maybe we won't have to). But, eventually, if you don't deal with your emotions, you run out of storage. Just like your email account, you have a certain capacity for storage that, once you hit, you cannot take any more. And that's when we break down. Today I'm going to talk about why this happens and how to prevent it from happening again.
Come join my coaching program! I am now offering LIFETIME access to all my coaching and content and I am SO excited about it! Join today so you can be on our Kickoff Call on January 20! We are going to talk all about those New Year's resolutions you have, the goals you've set, how to achieve them and what is in your way. If you haven't decided on goals yet, come! I will help you uncover what it is you want and WHY and help you create a plan to make it happen! Click here to join today!
Want to know the secret to actually accomplishing all of your resolutions for 2022? Here it is: you've been doing it all backwards so far. Today I am going to explain a concept to you called Be Do Have. And it is going to completely change how you think about the way you approach your life and your goals. We usually approach life with the attitude of Have Do Be. Once I HAVE the body/money/marriage/kids I want, then I will DO the things I want to do and then I will BE the person I want to be. It's opposite, my friends. Join me today and I'll show you.
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Where does God fit in to all of this? To me, it's like asking where Jesus fits into Christmas. The answer is the same: He is the reason for all of it. Join me today as I discuss how God fits in and how the miracles we want may not be the miracles we are getting...and expecting certain miracles might make us miss the ones we have.
Merry Christmas, ya'll! I love you!
Ladies! I have a new offer! You can now join my program at ANY time AND get lifetime access to all content and coaching! Listen in as I talk about what the program looks like and why it's changing and why I am SO excited about it!! Come join me today by heading to my website!
Just like an addict follows a physical addiction cycle, as the porn addict's wife, we often follow an emotional addiction cycle right along with it. If you feel like you are constantly "triggered" by his addiction and don't know how to get out of it, this is for you. In this episode I break down the cycle AND how to break it!
Join me for my FREE 3 day training: "More Than the Porn Addict's Wife" from December 13-15 @ 3pm EST! This training is all about YOU and helping you learn how to create the life you want. On purpose. Click here to register today!
If you are ready to stop living in a cycle of your husband's addiction and are ready to take what you're learning on the podcast and apply it even deeper, I want to invite you to join my coaching program. The next group begins in January and it has a spot just for you! Click here to see all the details and sign up today!
I am so thrilled to bring you this interview I did with Brock Bevell! He is a retired police officer who struggled with an opioid addiction and a pornography addiction and he now helps other men conquer their own addictions! In this episode, he and I sit down and he gives an inside look at pornography addiction from the point of view of the addict and breaks down the addiction cycle. Go listen to the whole thing and follow him for more information on how your husband can work with him in his online program!
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I often hear, "I'm broken". And, once upon a time, I felt that way too. But it's not true. Today I am going to show you why it's so important to change that thought and offer you a new one-one that has been extremely powerful for me. This thought helped me open up the future so that I could see that there was possibility and hope even during my husband's pornography addiction. Join me today and I'll show you!
Ready to create your own future instead of simply existing in the life you have? Sign up today to start coaching! I have 18 more spots that open up in January and they are ready for you!
Plus, if you sign up for coaching before December 13, you get access to my 3 Day Intensive: "More Than the Porn Addict's Wife" for FREE! (Full details for this training can be found here!)
Not sure what the best next step is? No worries. Sign up for a free consultation call today and we will get on the phone and chat about it!
Want to know the key to actually creating the life you want instead of reacting to it? Step 1: Create Space. Today I am going to tell you exactly what this means, why it's so important, the beliefs you need to adopt to make it happen AND how to actually create those needed beliefs! This is not life coaching 101. This is the next level. This is taking everything you have learned on the podcast so far and taking it deeper. And this is just the beginning. If you want to be more than the porn addict's wife, this is where you start!
Registration is OPEN for my 3 day intensive: More Than the Porn Addict's Wife! This training will run live from December 13-15 and is available to sign up now on my website! The focus has been on who you are in relation to his addiction and now we are going to shift it. After all, you are more than just the porn addict's wife. So let's start creating instead of reacting!
I am now accepting 20 new clients to begin coaching with me in January! If you have a resolution to make 2022 a better year than this one, this is where you begin! Sign up for a free consultation call with me today and let's get you started! Or simply head to my website and sign up right away!
Do you ever find yourself overreacting? Exploding about something you aren't even that upset about, it's just the last thing to set you off? We all do it. This is what happens when you suppress your emotions-they often transfer to something else. In this episode I'm going to explain what this is, why it happens, and how to stop doing it. If you want to learn how to stop exploding, this is the one for you!
Exciting announcement! I am running a 3 day intensive: More Than the Porn Addict's Wife from December 13-15. This will be where we dive deep into YOU-not just who you are in relation to your husband's pornography addiction. Watch for registration to open on November 29! And head to my website and sign up for my email list in order to receive early registration access AND a discount code!
Ready to start implementing everything you're learning on the podcast? Let's do it! I am now accepting clients to being on January 1! Sign up directly through my website today and get $500 the price when you pay in full up front. Merry early Christmas!
Not only is it important to become aware of our feelings, its important to become aware of the thoughts we have ABOUT our feelings. The way you approach your emotions can radically alter the way you experience them. On the podcast today I am going to go over some very common thoughts that my clients have about emotions and offer you some alternatives that will hopefully help you approach your emotions in a much better way!
Come coach with me! You can now sign up for the next group that will begin on January 1! Two groups will be starting: One on Thursdays at 3pm EST and one on Tuesdays at 8:30pm EST. There are 10 spots available in each group and the groups will run for 6 months. Plus, sign up today and pay in full up front to get $500 off! Details are all on my website! Head to the website to reserve your spot today!
Have a few questions or concerns about joining the group? That's totally normal. I would love to chat with you about it and answer your questions! Simply sign up for a free consultation call with me and we will get on the phone and chat about your situation to make sure this is the right next step for you!
Mark your calendars! Coach week will be December 27-30! This is a week of free coaching that I will be hosting as a kick off to the group that begins the following week! Sign ups will be on the website soon but for now, just mark your calendar! All are welcome and it's completely free! Come coach with me! I'd love to meet you!
Let's say you want to trust your husband again-how do you do it? Today I'm going to offer a new concept to you: conscious trust. We often think that trust is something that is earned, and that is felt based on the actions of others. But I want to counter that today with another option-one that doesn't leave you at the mercy of someone else's decisions. Trust is something you can feel anytime you want. Toward anyone. Even yourself. Join me on this episode and I'll tell you how.
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Buffering is anything that we do to distract ourselves from how we are feeling. It is the buffer we place between ourselves and our emotions. In many cases, these buffers look like scrolling Instagram, or texting, or playing video games. Other times, these buffers are concentrated, false pleasures that mimic natural pleasures, like pornography and concentrated sugar. Today I'm going to teach you what a buffer is, and how it applies to your husband's pornography addiction.
Ready to conquer your own buffering? Let's do it! Sign up for my next group that will begin coaching on January 1, 2022! Click here to schedule a free consultation call today to get started!
My daughter broke her arm and had to have surgery this weekend: unexpected. And as I was spending countless hours in various hospitals, I began to look at the way our brain responds to unexpected circumstances (for example, a husband's pornography addiction). In this episode, I break down a few of the ways our brain responds and how to combat it when it isn't the most helpful thing. I hope ya'll enjoy this today and share it with someone else who is going through something unexpected!
Holidays are just around the corner! Don't forget to ask for what you REALLY want this Christmas-coaching! My next group will begin on January 1! If you are ready for a new year, and a new you, now is the time to sign up! Reserve your spot today by booking a free consultation call with me to go over all the details!
Overcoming beliefs is a simple, 5 step process. Not easy. But simple. And when you learn how to apply it to any belief (including the one we all have of "I am not enough", it is life changing. In this episode I am breaking down that 5 step process that I teach in my coaching program and illustrating how it works with the example of this belief. I am also showing you how your brain is strengthening that belief all the time and how to stop it!
Want to save your spot in the next coaching group beginning Jan 1, 2022? Let's do it! Sign up for a free consultation call today and we will get you all set up!
As a follow up to the most recent episode, here is a conversation I had with my husband about the relationship between pornography addiction and sex. He breaks down his side of how they are not the same, how he experienced them during his addiction, and how he came to understand the difference between the two. We talk about how it affected us sexually and emotionally and how that has evolved during our relationship. If you like what you hear, please go leave a rating and review to help others find the podcast!
Thinking about signing up for coaching? Let's chat about it! Sign up for a free consultation call with me today! I would love to chat with you, answer your questions, and get you more clarity on how you can overcome the struggles you have with your husband's pornography addiction.
Buckle up, ladies, this is a good one. It's very common for you to think that your husband's pornography addiction is about you. But today I'm going to tell you WHY you think that and WHY it's not true. Take some notes and be sure to subscribe to the podcast because there will be a follow up bonus episode with my husband about this very topic that will be releasing this week!
Want to get on the waitlist for the next coaching group? Sign up for a free consultation call with me today and we will get you on the list!
Over the years I have found that there are 3 main keys that, if developed, will help you move forward from your husband's porn addiction faster than anything else. The best news is that each of these are internal characteristics that YOU can develop and they are completely free! So join me today as I discuss what they are and why they are so crucial to getting unstuck and moving forward.
Don't miss out on Coach Week! It is an entire week of FREE coaching that is running from October 3-7! Click here to register today and you'll get access to all the call recordings! Come join me to ask your questions or listen in!
The last group of clients that I am taking for this year begin on October 11! If you want to make sure you are one of them, click here tosign up for a free consultation call so we can get your spot reserved today!
I am SO excited to bring you a conversation I had with my client Monica! She was gracious and honest and open and is sharing what her experience was like finding out about her husband's pornography addiction, how she and I came to work together, her journey with therapy, and the biggest hurdles she struggled to overcome regarding her husband's addiction. I hope y'all can find some hope and wisdom from her story and know that you are not alone. And if she can find the healing she so desperately yearned for, so can you!
Don't miss out on Coach Week! It begins on Monday and it is free! Click here to register before you miss it!
Is pornography addiction infidelity? Join me today as I take a deep dive into this question and answer it-probably not in the way you'd expect. I go through the reasons our brain wants to believe that addiction to pornography is infidelity, why it's not serving you to do so, and offer a few thoughts that could change the entire direction you choose to take. Buckle up for this tough one ladies!
Don't forget to come to Coach Week! If you struggled with today's episode, let's get you coached. Join me for a week of free coaching by registering now. You will not only have the chance to get coached live by me, you can learn from others getting coached and get access to the call recordings. Register today before you miss it!
Only 8 more spots are available in the next round of coaching. And that's it until next year! Reserve your spot today by clicking here and paying the deposit to guarantee that one of those client spots is yours!
How do you look at yourself? How do you perceive yourself and see yourself in your life? Do you even know why it matters? Join me today as I discuss the concept of self-perception and why it is so important to become aware of and master in your own life. Simple shifts inside your mind can add up to immeasurable change!
Don't forget to register for Coach Week! Join me for a free week of coaching from October 4-7 at 12pm est! I will be going live on zoom each day to teach and coach just for you! Register today by clicking here so you get access to the calls and the recordings! I can't wait to see you there!
Ready to start taking what you are learning on the podcast and applying them to your life? Then it's time to join the next group of women who are ready to do the same! The last group of the year begins on October 11 and it has only 10 spots! This is your chance to not only surround yourself in a wonderful community of like-minded women, but to also get the one on one coaching you need from me. Let's go. Now is your chance to finally move forward. Click here to sign up for a free consultation call today and get your spot reserved!
Today I am going to give you look at one of the 5 main tools I teach in my coaching program: Self Acceptance. It sounds basic, and perhaps it is, but it is the one that can propel you forward if you can master it. This is learning how to accept where you are without judging yourself for it. As humans, we have a lot of judgement for our thoughts and our feelings, and all that does is prevent us from moving forward. Thoughts like, "I shouldn't think that" or "I should feel differently" sound really nice but they aren't helpful. Join me today as I give you a new way of looking at yourself, your thoughts, and your feelings.
Join my next coaching group! It begins on October 11 and has just 10 spots so reserve yours today! We will coach together in a small group every week to make sure you not only have the one on one guidance you need from me but also the support you crave from other incredible women! Click here to sign up for a free consultation call to reserve your spot today!
Today I'm diving into what it means to be self aware. And it's not what we normally think about it. Join me as I talk about what it looks like, and why it is such an important skill to develop.
Don't forget to register for Coach Week! Simply click here to sign up for an entire week of free coaching!
Ready to move forward and put this behind you once and for all? Let's get you signed up for coaching! I am now accepting one on one clients or you can reserve your spot in the next group starting coaching on October 11! Sign up today for a free consultation call to get started!
Have you ever thought "I can't believe this is happening to me?" or "I never thought he would do this to me?" or "He is not the man I thought he was"? That could be because your brain is in a state of disbelief and/or disillusionment. Today I am talking all about why our brain likes to have these thoughts, why it's important to change it and HOW to do so.
Come join me for coach week! Register today for an entire week of FREE coaching! October 4-7! Head to my website and register today!
Ready to move past your husband's pornography addiction and start your own healing? Join my next coaching group! It is starting on October 11! There are 10 spots and they are filling up fast so snag your spot today!
The things that we believe run our lives. Our brain is constantly looking for evidence to prove ourselves right so it is always looking for confirmation that what we already believe is true. For example, if we believe that our husband is hiding something from us, our brain will constantly be on the lookout for proof that he's being secretive and sneaky. Your brain will always find evidence to solidify your beliefs-which is why it is CRUCIAL to become aware of WHAT you believe! Trust me, it is trickier than it sounds! Tune in today as I talk about how to do this, why our brain works this way, and as I give a pretty hilarious example from my own life this week. :) Enjoy!
p.s. Don't hesitate to reserve your spot in the group that is starting coaching on October 11! This group will have 10 spots in it and will fill up so don't delay! Head to my website right now to see more details and schedule a free consultation call with me today!
Not a group coaching person? No worries! I'm accepting one on one clients right now as well (at a new price)! Click here for full details!
I processed a lot of emotion the last few days and as I did so, I allowed myself to see all the lies my brain likes to believe about myself. It wasn't pretty. So I wanted to share what that was like and how I worked through it. I hope it helps.
Ladies, if you are feeling stuck, allow me to help you. Sign up for a free consultation call today and I will get on the phone with you and talk about how we can get you through it. I promise it's possible. Head to my website to sign up today.
Have you ever wanted to just let go but you can't seem to? Like, no matter how hard you try, you just want to hold on tighter to what your husband is choosing to do? Like you can't seem to let go of the need you have to control what he is doing? That's what today is all about. Today I will talk about why we have a hard time letting go and HOW to actually do it. Yes, it can be done. I can teach you how.
Grab your spot today for the next group coaching class starting on October 11, 2021! Only 10 spots total and they will fill up so reserve yours today by signing up for a free consultation call with me!
For more details head to my website!
Part of us wants to be the reason he stops. We want to be enough for him to quit. We want so badly to do enough, be enough, help enough so that he can overcome his addiction to pornography. Unfortunately, that is never going to work. Join me today as I walk you through WHY your brain wants to think this way, why it won't work, and what you can do about it.
The next group is starting on October 11! This group will have 10 women in it and it's already starting to fill up! Reserve your spot today by heading to my website and signing up for a free consultation call! We will sign you up and get you ready to go!
If you don't want to wait until October to begin coaching, no problem! Sign up for a free consultation call today and we will get you started working with me one on one!
Join me on this special bonus episode today as my husband Rob and I talk about how my healing journey impacted him (and how it didn't!). We share what it looked like for him to see me hurting and what it was like for him to see me heal. Enjoy!
The next group for coaching begins on October 11! There are only 10 spots and they will fill up so enroll today! Schedule a free consultation call with me to reserve your spot in the group or begin coaching one on one!
What do you "need" in your relationship? Do you "need" your spouse to tell you he loves you? Do you "need" to have trust or vulnerability? Do you "need" to not harbor feelings of resentment or bitterness? Today, I'm going to dive into why we develop these beliefs about what we "need" in relationships and how that can actually be hurting us. I want to encourage you to take a listen with an open mind and evaluate what you think your "needs" are in your marital relationship (Or any relationship!), why you need those things and what you make it mean if it doesn't happen. The truth is, when we rely on others for our emotional stability, we will always be in a place of victimization and disempowerment. Let's change that starting today.
Register today for Coach Week! I am so excited to be hosting Coach Week again! From August 9-12 every day at 2pm EST I will go live on Zoom to teach you and coach you! The theme for August will be Back to School and it will be all about schedules, business, stress, time management, and SO many other things that I never get the opportunity to talk about with y'all! It's just $25 for the entire week of coaching plus you'll get access to all the recorded calls! Go to my website today and register before you miss it!
Do you have a hard time making decisions in your life? Allow me to explain a few things that go on in your brain that might be factoring into that! Your brain will always be motivated by a few things and that will push the way you make decisions. Follow along today to learn how your brain makes decisions and how you can observe it and change it!
We have a lot of thoughts about lying-especially when our husband is the one doing the lying. Today I am diving into common thoughts and beliefs we have about lying and how that affects the way we heal from our husband's pornography addiction. This is a good one ladies! Buckle up for some tough thoughts!
Ladies, if you are loving the podcast, please go leave a rating and review! I want to know what you've found helpful (or not!) and how I can better serve you!
My next group for coaching will launch at the end of the summer! Schedule a free consultation call today to reserve your spot to make sure you get in! I can't wait to talk to you! Find out all the details on my coaching offers by visiting my website!
What does it mean to be free? What does that look like in real life? What does it look like to be free from your husband's pornography addiction or from other circumstances that you can't control? And how do you achieve it? Today I am going to answer all those questions and more. Freedom is possible. And you don't need anything to change in order to make it a reality.
Happy Independence Day everyone!! God bless America!
If you are feeling stuck and want help moving forward, I'd love to help you take what you are learning on the podcast and applying it specifically to your situation. I offer one on one coaching or group coaching so whatever fits best for you is perfect! Sign up for a free consultation call today and we can go over all the options and work out what would be best for you!
When we resist negative emotion, we simultaneously close ourselves off to positive emotion. And our brain wants to resist any change that is outside of our comfort zone-even if it's positive. Learning how to feel and allow positive emotion in your life is going to expand your life SO much! Join me today as I walk you through examples of how allowing positive emotion can change your life and I'll give you examples of my clients, my husband, and myself!
Ready to start applying everything you are learning on the podcast? Let's start coaching! Click here to sign up for a free consultation call with me and we will talk all about it!
You will NOT want to skip this one! This is a special excerpt from Coach Week! I pulled the audio recording of the live call I did last week during coach week so that you get an inside look at what coaching is like, what the online program I've developed is like, AND what group coaching is like! PLUS you get amazing content all about vulnerability! How to be more vulnerable, lies we believe about vulnerability, and why vulnerability is so important. Enjoy!
Don't forget to reserve your spot for group coaching launching July 1, 2021! There are 10 spots and it will fill up so click here to schedule a consult call and reserve your spot today!
Today I am going to teach you the most simple tool that will have the most profound impact on every area of your life...and that is learning how to shift your mind from IMpossibility to possibility. There are so many reasons why our brain likes to believe that things aren't possible for us (it's not possible to lose weight, to overcome these emotions, to strengthen our marriage, etc) and NONE of it is truth. It's all in our mind. Today I will share how you can change this and why it's so important that you do!
Join me THIS WEEK for Coach Week! Every day from June 14-17, 2021 at 3pm EST I am going live on Zoom! I will be coaching a different topic each day and then opening up for live coaching! Come learn and listen about triggers, physical insecurity, vulnerability, and conscious trust-topics I've never discussed before! And come get coached! Simply click here to join my email list so you get the zoom link! We will be doing a different topic each day so make sure you come all week!
Group coaching is beginning on July 1! It will have 10 women in it and it will fill up so reserve your spot today! Simply click here to sign up for a free consultation call with me to discuss it or email me at coach@jolenewinn.com to tell me you are in! Let's get you added to this amazing group today!
We think that relationships exist outside of us or that they are somehow created based on what the other person is or isn't doing. That's one of the reasons we think our marriage is doomed to fail if our spouse is addicted to pornography-because it must mean that our relationship is awful because he's doing this terrible thing. Right? WRONG. Join me today as I offer a brand new way of thinking about your relationships, a way that gives YOU all the control!
Join me for COACH WEEK! June 14-17 at 3pm EST every day I will be going live on Zoom to instruct and to coach! It's completely FREE and this is a great sneak peek inside my group coaching program that is launching July 1! Come join me next week! Be sure to sign up for my emails so you get the zoom link sent to you!
If you are ready for coaching, let's go! Sign up for a free consultation call today by clicking here! We will discuss both the one on one option and the group option to see which will work best for you. What are you waiting for? Let's get you started! I can't wait to talk to you!
There is a difference between our body and our body image. We think that we are just experiencing our body, that we are simply observing and that what we think about our body is fact. In reality, we are interpreting our body through a lens, one that is shaped by our experiences-including our husband's pornography addiction. If you are struggling with your body image and want to chance it, I outline the first step for you in this podcast episode.
Happy Memorial Day! Please don't forget to thank God and our servicemen and women and their families for the sacrifices that have been made so we can enjoy this beautiful country!
Group coaching is starting in just over a month! I am so excited and inspired by those who have already signed up! Who's next? What are you waiting for? Now is the chance to work through this, not just with me, but with a group of supportive women who are on the same journey as you. It is going to be a powerful experience that I can't wait to lead! Simply click here to sign up for a free consultation call today and we will get you signed up!
Today I am going to teach you the main coaching tool I use with all of my clients! It's called the Self Coaching Model and it breaks down our entire life into 5 categories that all interconnect and explain HOW we are getting the results we have in our life. I've been teaching this to you in bits and pieces but I broke it down today in one episode to help you understand all of it. This is the most important tool you will ever learn! If you allow it, it will change your life!
Reserve your spot today for the group coaching launching July 1, 2021! Spots are filling up and I want to make sure you get in so click here today for a free consultation call with me so we can talk all about how to get you started! If you liked today's podcast episode, you are going to love this group! You're not alone. Join a group of courageous women and begin this journey together! I will lead you the entire way!
Don't forget to click here to register for the week long "Mamas In the Village" event that starts Monday, May 24, 2021! You can register after the fact, too! This will give you LIFETIME access to an entire week's worth of classes including my own, "How To Help Your Kids Handle Their Emotions". For just $27 you get all of this content for life! It's a no brainer! Sign up today and start watching how to make your life as a mom easier!
A very special bonus episode for ya'll! In here I am talking all about how YOU can join my group coaching program that is launching July 1, 2021! In this episode I talk about what a life coach is, how that can help you, the difference between group and one on one coaching, and how you can sign up! I am so excited to offer 10 spots in this first group and they are already filling up so come join us! Click here to schedule a free consultation call today to reserve your spot! I can't wait to coach with you!
It can be super easy to blame other people or things outside of us for how we feel. "I'm mad because he did this thing". But the problem with blame is that it keeps us the victim. It keeps our emotional state dependent on the other person or the situation changing. And that keeps us feeling stuck and hopeless. Join me today as I offer an alternative to blame: responsibility. In this episode I break down the difference between the two, why it's so important to understand, and how to shift from one to the other.
Don't forget to reserve your spot in my group coaching program! This group is launching July 1 and it will be kept small and intimate to make sure that you get the one on one attention you need but also give you the opportunity to be part of a strong community of like-minded women who are also on their healing journey. Sign up for a free consultation call today to reserve your spot and talk about if this is a good fit for you! I can't wait to talk to you!
Click here to register for my next class: "How To Help Your Kids Handle Their Emotions". If you have a kid, this class is for you! There have been so many times that I have sat and wondered, "How on earth do I help my kid with this emotion they are feeling?!" and I know I'm not the only one! This class will teach you how to help your kids deal with anxiety, anger, frustration, and any other emotion that they feel. The registration fee for this class is $27. Plus, this is part of an entire week of incredible presentations that you will get LIFETIME access to! Mamas, this is for you!
Ladies, this is a good one! In this episode my husband Rob joins me in a discussion about what it was like to go on a tropical vacation a few weeks ago-and whether we were worried about triggers and temptation. We dive into what this has looked like throughout our marriage, what it was like while he was active in his addiction, what it was like while I was unaware of his addiction, what triggers actually are versus what we think they are, what it was like once I became aware of it, and how we both handled it. There is SO much good stuff in here and I can't wait for you to listen to it! Be sure to leave a review and let me know what you think!
ANNOUNCEMENT! Group coaching is launching July 1! This is the perfect combination to get you the individual attention you need plus provide you with the support and unity of a group! This group will be kept small and intimate to get you the coaching you need to help you finally move forward and put your husband's pornography addiction behind you. Click here to sign up for a free consultation today to reserve your spot!
Have you ever thought "I would never do this to him." That's what we are going to talk about today. We are going to dive into why we think that way, why it's a problem, and what the options are for changing it. This is one you do NOT want to skip!
Don't forget to join my email list to be the first to know the details on how to sign up for the "Mom's in the Village Event' on May 24, 2021! I will be teaching a class called "Helping your kids handle their emotions". If you have a child that struggles with anxiety, depression, anger, or any other emotion, this is for you! Come learn how to teach your kids about all the things you are learning on the podcast! Click here to head to my website so you can sign up for my emails!
What does it mean to forgive someone? What does that look like? Is it even possible for me to forgive my husband for his pornography addiction? Does that mean that I'm ok with it? Join me today as I walk you through what forgiveness is. This is just a small sample of the newest addition to my online program that you get unlimited access to when you sign up for coaching with me. If you want help forgiving your husband, come coach with me and I will show you how. Sign up for a free consultation call today and let's get started.
This past week I had an experience where I felt completely inadequate. My husband and I were discussing his old "triggers" and all of a sudden, my old thoughts came flooding to the surface. Today I want to share the lessons I learned working through that experience and why we often feel inadequate. Come coach with me and I'll teach you how to work through it.
Don't forget to register for my LIVE event tomorrow, April 20! Join me for an entire week of healing! This is a week dedicated to healing from emotional, physical, and spiritual trauma and I can't wait to talk to y'all about How to Forgive After Betrayal. I will be speaking on April 20, 2021 at 8pm EST. Register today and join live so you can ask questions!
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Do you ever think "I don't deserve this?" It's completely normal. So many women think that and feel that way. I want you to join me today on a very important topic as I address why our brain thinks this, and why it's not helpful. This is a deep topic today so take notes! It's a good one!
Come hear me speak live! I am thrilled to be speaking at a week-long virtual event all about healing from trauma. This event will be April 19-24, 2021. I will be diving deep into how to forgive someone you love after they've betrayed you and I can't wait to share what I've been learning! Click here for full event details!
In this episode my husband, Rob, joins me for a discussion about what our spiritual side of this has been. What our religious beliefs were growing up, how that influenced how we faced his pornography addiction, what it was like for him to feel the guilt and shame and still attend church, what spiritual tools helped us both and what didn't...there is so much in this one! We hope that you enjoy it and find it helpful! If you or your spouse are looking for a coach to help you through this, please reach out! Rob and I both coach and we would love to guide you through this.
The way you tell your story matters. We often like to dramatize our story because it justifies our feelings. But adding the drama only adds more emotional weight and heaviness to an already emotional and heavy situation. Your story is already dramatic enough. You don't need to keep adding to it. Today I am going to talk about why we do this, why it's important to recognize it and how to change it.
Join me for a week-long virtual event "Healing the Hallowed Heart". This will be a week dedicated to spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical healing and I am so excited to be talking about how to forgive after betrayal. Click here for all the details and mark your calendars for April 20!!!
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Do you do things so that people will like you? Or so that you don't hurt their feelings? Do you act in a way that isn't true to who you really are so that others aren't put out? That's people pleasing. And it doesn't lead to anything except an outfit that you don't really want, that you regret purchasing, when you'd rather have something else. (Trust me, I share a shopping story in this episode that makes that make sense!) Join me today as I talk about what people pleasing is, why we do it, and why we should stop.
Join me for a week-long live event about healing! I am so honored to be part of the "Healing the Hallowed Heart" virtual event from April 19-24. Click here for all the information and details and come join me! I will be speaking on how to forgive after betrayal.
If you still have things that pop up about your husband's addiction that you just can't get past, come coach with me. I can teach you all the tools to help you work through it and put it behind you once and for all. Schedule a free consultation call with me today to talk about it.
Am I always going to worry that my husband will relapse and watch pornography again? Short answer? Not if you don't want to. I know it seems crazy because that fear is so real, constantly running our thoughts or determining whether or not we go on vacation without our spouse. But join me today as I dissect our fear of relapses, why worrying about them seems important but is unnecessary, and how you can get to a place where you never fear them again. It IS possible to get to a place where your husband's pornography addiction is no longer controlling your life. Listen in and I'll tell you the secret.
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Rob joined me on the podcast today to talk about our sex life and how it was affected by his pornography addiction. We hope that you will look at what we share with compassion and understanding and hope. In this episode I talk about one of the biggest tools that I used and teach to help women work through how their sex life is affected by their husband's addiction.
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Today is a special episode. I interviewed one of my clients! I wanted to give you guys a better idea of what life coaching is like and what is possible with it. I wanted to give you an example of a real client who has gotten real results and how her life has transformed as a result of coaching. She is so relatable and so fun to listen to, I know you all are going to love her as much as I do! Thank you to my sweet client for being brave enough to share her story with all of you!
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If you have a spouse struggling with pornography addiction and you want to talk about how it is affecting your sexual relationship, this is the episode for you. In this episode, I talked with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. She is an LDS psychotherapist who specializes in sexual and relationship therapy for couples. She and I talked about why women feel like their husband's pornography addiction is somehow their fault and why that's not true, what role sexual fantasies have in the marital relationship when pornography addiction is involved, and how the marital sexual relationship is affected when men are addicted to pornography. This is one you do not want to skip!
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Most of the time, we split our life up into two categories: the things we "want" to do and the things we "have" to do. But notice how much more miserable that makes completing tasks when we think that we don't want to do them. Today I'm going to talk about why we do this, why it's not serving us, AND how to change it. Plus, I'm going to dive into WHY it's so important that we change this AND the secret to making it easy. Yeah, it's a good one!
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My husband Rob joined me on this episode as part of a bonus series where he and I talk about various aspects of this journey. Today, we're talking about what it was like (for both of us) when he told me he was addicted to pornography. He shares what he felt beforehand, the emotions he felt when he first confessed, what it was like telling me about relapses, and I share what my part felt like as well. We hope this helps y'all as you go through your own journey.
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If your husband is struggling with his pornography addiction and is ready to eliminate his desire for pornography for good, have him click here to schedule a consult with Rob for one on one coaching.
The opposite of having a victim mentality is taking 100% responsibility. But that does NOT mean taking the blame or judging ourselves. It means accepting where we are and acknowledging what is within our power to control. It means we stop using outside circumstances as the reason for what we feel, the actions we are (and are not) taking, and the results we have in our life. THIS is how you begin to take complete control of your life and begin making the changes you so desperately want.
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This is a special series of episodes where my husband Rob is joining me on the podcast! We are going to dive into a variety of topics about pornography addiction and how it affected both of us in our marriage, how we handled it, and, of course, tips for you. We are excited to give you both sides of the story and some insight that will hopefully help you in your own marriage as well. Don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss any of these bonus episodes!
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Rob is a life coach for men who struggle with an addiction to pornography. If your husband is interested in looking into getting help, sign up for a free coaching call with Rob here.
What is a victim mentality? Why do we have it? How do we get rid of it? Why is it such a problem? Today, I'm going to tackle all of these questions with a little tough-lough truth about having a victim mentality. If you are feeling stuck, feeling like you are at the mercy of your husband's pornography addiction, this is the episode for you!
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My biggest piece of advice that I share for women who have a spouse addicted to pornography is that you should be talking to 3 people: 1: Your spouse. 2: A professional 3: One confidant. But the problem is secrets. Our brain comes up with lots of very important-sounding reasons for us NOT to talk about this, to keep it a secret (from our spouse, our friends, our family, and from a professional). But secrecy breeds distrust, anxiety, and isolation. Today I'm going to share what I learned about secrets by doing it the wrong way. Learn from my mistakes :)
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We have these ideas for how people in our lives ought to behave. Things they "should" and "shouldn't" do. But the problem with this is that then we are constantly comparing the way people show up in our lives with this subconscious list that we've created over the years-and they rarely measure up. This is even true for ourselves. Today, I'm going to teach you about manuals that we've created for ourselves and others, why we've done this, what this is doing, and why it's so important to become aware of all of it.
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We are really good at resisting emotion. But it isn't helpful. All it does is keep that emotion right below the surface. Learning how to work through your emotions is crucial if you want something in your life to change because our emotions are the reason behind all of our action. It's so important that we learn how to conquer this resistance. So join me today as I teach you why we do this, how to recognize if you are doing it, and how to stop it.
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Self-pity is what I call an "indulgent" emotion. It feels really good to sit in it. The problem with allowing ourselves to live our lives in self-pity is that it keeps us stuck. We go nowhere. Because we give credit for everything in our lives to things outside of our control. Self-pity keeps us a victim, which never allows us to progress. Join me today as I talk more about this and give you tips on how you can identify your self-pity thoughts and how to change them.
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We think that having expectations is a good thing. We think it is what inspires people to rise up and improve and become who we know they can be. Right? But what happens if they don't live up to our expectations? Then what? Join me today as I dive into the expectations we have for others, and for ourselves and why it's important to let one of those go.
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Today I am diving into the difference between Confidence and Self-Confidence. Learning the difference between these two attributes changed my life and I am so excited to share this today! I'm going to teach you the difference between the two, why it is so important to understand, and HOW to develop more self-confidence.
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Alright ladies, let's have some tough love. If you really want 2021 to be different than 2020, then you are going to need to invest in yourself. Not just time. Not just energy. But money. And purpose. And intention. Not just into your physical health but into your mental health. Getting where you want to go doesn't just happen passively. It happens on purpose when you step out of your comfort zone, take action, and become fully invested in yourself. Today I'm talking all about it, the objections that come up within us, and I'm sharing my personal journey and what I've invested in order to get where I am today.
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There are so many moments where we face so much emotion that it seems overwhelming-the moment we find out about our husband's pornography addiction, or the moment we find out about his relapse, or when we find out details about his addiction that we didn't know before. Today I'm going to walk you through what is happening inside our brains during these moments, why it's happening, and what to do about it.
Plus, you'll get a little bonus in the beginning about how I set resolutions so that you can follow the pattern to finally keep your resolutions this year!
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How do we show up as our best selves when we don't know what is in our future? How do we plan our lives if we don't know what is going to happen? How are we supposed to think about our future when we don't know what will happen in our future? Today I'm going to talk all about HOW you can shift your focus to change how you think about yourself and how it can completely change your future.
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Do you want to change something in your life or something about yourself? Do you want to lose weight or be more confident or be a better mom? THIS is how you do it! Acting from your future self allows you to become the person you want to be. On the podcast today I'm going to be telling you the 5 steps to follow to think about yourself from your future self and HOW to step into that role!
Don't forget to find the 2 podcast episodes I was on this week! Check out the interview my husband and I did on the Choose Recovery podcast! And then check out the interview I did on the Certain Woman podcast!
We define ourselves by our past-what we've done, the things we've already accomplished, habits we've had, where we have lived-but all that does is perpetuate our present. If you want anything in your life to change, it is going to require that you start thinking of yourself from your future instead of your past. If you continue in the same patters, you will get the same results. Let's change it!
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We have a lot of things we believe. And we also have little exceptions to those beliefs. For example, "I believe I'm smart...except with math". These little exceptions to our beliefs seem harmless and factual but they can be extremely detrimental to our belief system if we don't become aware of them. Today I'm going to explain what these are, why it's so important to become aware of them, and how to change them.
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We often try to resist the emotional pain in our lives because we don't want to feel it and we think that if we accept it, it will make our lives worse. What we don't realize is that we actually make our lives worse already by trying to resist it. Crazy, right? Join me on the podcast today and I'll talk all about it. Don't worry, I have some great analogies to help you visualize it!
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Alright, we've all experienced this: we "know" in our minds one thing but we don't "feel" that way. Am I right? Perhaps we "know" that our husband's pornography addiction doesn't have anything to do with us but it doesn't "feel" that way. Sound familiar? Today I'm going to dive into why this happens AND how to change it!
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Let's talk about anxiety-we all feel it. But sometimes, we get a little too accustomed to it and we start to identify ourselves by what we are feeling. I know, it sounds crazy. But join me today and I'll explain it all. Plus, I'll give you the 4 easy steps to help you manage the anxiety you feel on a day to day basis. Trust me, you can do it.
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Communicating with your spouse about his addiction isn't easy. It is natural for us to want to lean forward, to share, to explain, to fix and to try to help. But, most of the time, all that does is create a pressure that doesn't resolve the situation and makes things tense and uneasy. What we need to do is learn how to lean back, to open the space between us and our spouse and to allow an opportunity for honest and intimacy to come through. Join me today and I will tell you how you can shift into this today.
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If you are still unsure how to work through the distrust, lack of communication, and lack of self worth you feel, I want to invite you to coach with me. Helping my clients work through all of this is my privilege and I know how to do it because I did it myself. Find all the details on my website and schedule a free call today to talk more about if this would be a right fit for you.
When we face resistance or difficulties in our lives, we have two options: 1: surrender or 2: use that resistance to get stronger. Just like building muscle, building our emotional and mental strength requires resistance. We cannot get stronger if we do not USE the resistance we face to do so. Join me today as I dive into this so that you can start using the challenges you face to create the life you want.
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Not on facebook but still want help working through your husband's pornography addiction? That's exactly why I am here! I have designed a coaching program specifically for women who have a husband addicted to pornography. I will teach you all the tools I used to work through my own husband's addiction and I will be with you every step of the way. See all the details on my website or schedule a free call with me to talk more about it. I'll see you soon!
The default setting of our brain is what shapes how we see our world. Today I'm going to go into what our default settings are, why they are that way, how to change them, and why it is so important that we do so. I will be discussing my own personal examples of how I did this as a frustrated mother as well as how this helped in the intimate relationship I have with my husband. This is one you do NOT want to skip!
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If you are ready to make changes in your life and in your marriage, there is no better time to join my coaching program. I will teach you what to do with all the thoughts and feelings you are having, how to navigate trust, improve physical intimacy, overcome triggers and improve your self esteem. Sign up today directly on my website or schedule a free coaching call to talk more about it!
Our brains like to think of the world as black and white. Our brains like it when everything is placed in a "right" box or a "wrong" box. But that's just because our brains are lazy. If we open up the space to allow things to be neutral, then we can choose our reactions to them on purpose rather than being on autopilot. Join me today as I talk more about it!
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Forgiveness is a process. A journey. And learning to forgive my husband for his pornography addiction was not something that happened overnight. But I did have one powerful experience one weekend that shifted me forever. It was a profoundly spiritual experience that I am grateful to share with you in hopes that it will help you navigate your own journey of forgiveness as well.
As always, if you are struggling with the side effects of your husband's pornography addiction in your life, if you are feeling stuck, I would love to help you. You can sign up for my individual coaching program today via my website or schedule a free consultation call to get started.
Do you feel like you are struggling to find purpose in the roles you find yourself in? Maybe you feel like you are "just a mom" and don't know how to feel more fulfilled? This episode is for you. Join me today and I will give you a new way to approach this in your life and be sure to do the exercise at the end!
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Do you feel stuck? Like your life is on a loop and the same thoughts and feelings keep coming up? Do you feel like you are going nowhere and have no control or direction over your life? This episode is for you. Join me today as I go over the 4 most common reasons why you are feeling stuck in your own life. Don't stay stuck. Let's get you moving.
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It is one thing for emotions to be part of the reason we do something and another for us to use them as the EXCUSE for what we do. It is important to learn to tell the difference because when we blame our actions on the emotions we are feeling, it leaves us powerless and stuck, unable to change what is happening in our life because it feels beyond our control. And that is simply not true. Join me today on the podcast to learn what emotional excuses look like, why they are so important to become aware of, and how to start changing them.
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Fear feels really important. Like we should listen to it and stop doing whatever it is we are afraid of. But the truth is, fear is just an emotion. And our primitive brain likes to convince us that what we are afraid of will kill us. But it won't. Not usually. And yet, we miss out on SO much of our own life because we stop ourselves when we feel fear. Join me today as I talk about the 3 biggest lies we believe about fear and why it is so important to feel the fear and do it all anyway.
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I know. That sounds crazy. Why would we want to stay hurt? Hear me out: Our brains like to stay hurt because being hurt means that we were wronged by the other person. Basically, it means that we are right and the other person is wrong. And being right feels really good. So our brain wants to stay there. But in order to stay feeling "right", we also have to keep that hurt. And trust me ladies, it's not worth it. Join me on this episode to learn why our brains like to keep us in the hurt and why we can choose to let it go.
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Is pornography use an addiction or a compulsive behavior? Does it matter? What's the difference? Join me today as I talk about the difference between the two and share some statistics that will shed some light on pornography use. The takeaway today is this: YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
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Sometimes we make our lives more emotional than they need to be by adding layers of emotions unintentionally. Today I am going show you how we do this, why we do this, and how to stop doing it so that you can drop all the drama and overwhelm in your life and just feel emotions as they come up. I promise this is exactly what you need to learn!
If you're having trouble with all the emotional turmoil that comes up around your husband's addiction, I want to invite you to join my coaching program. This is where we take a deep dive into your emotions, teach you how to process them, learn how to overcome triggers and establish boundaries, and where you get the one on one help you need. See all the details on my website www.jolenewinn.com and set up a free consultation call today.
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Boundaries are one of the most common concerns for my clients and for the wives of porn addicts. It's also one of the most misunderstood. Join me today as I discuss the difference between boundaries and consequences, why one of them works and one doesn't, and clarify why setting consequences for your husband's behavior will never make him change.
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If you are struggling with boundaries, I would love to help you. I highly recommend joining my coaching program where we deep dive into boundaries, what a proper boundary looks like, how to set one, and if you need one. Plus, my program comes with one on one coaching sessions where I can help you adjust the boundaries in your life according to your unique situation. Sign up for a free consultation on my website today.
Just like physical pain tolerance, we have emotional pain tolerance. And the things that we experience in our life usually result in us having a high tolerance for emotional pain. Listen in today as I talk about what that looks like, why it happens, and why it is completely unnecessary.
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Do you worry about the future? Do you worry that your husband will relapse or have an affair or that you are being deceived? When we have anxiety about the future we think it will make us more prepared for our "what ifs". But it doesn't. Join me today on the podcast as I talk about why you should let go of your future anxiety right now.
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That's the question, right? Do I trust my husband? Do I NOT trust my husband? Does it make me a bad wife if I don't? Does it make me a doormat if I do? I want to take a deep look at what trusting can look like if you see it as a choice.
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There are so many decisions we have to make that are difficult. But when we think about each one of them as if there is a "right" or "wrong" answer, that doesn't always serve us and, more often than not, leads us to make no decision at all. Join me today on the podcast as I talk about what this looks like, why this is something we need to become aware of, and how to make choices in a better way moving forward.
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We think that we know why we do things. Our brain offers us answers that seem logical. But those are often just surface level answers that don't show us the true reason underneath. Join me on the podcast today to learn how I learned to ask myself why and the reason this is so important to learn how to do! I share real examples of how I've applied this in my own life and outline how you can start TODAY to begin this in your own. Enjoy!!
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My husband Rob joined me on this episode today so that he and I could share our story with y'all. We talk about what our marriage used to look like, what his addiction looked like in our marriage, what was the core of his addiction, how we both overcame his addiction and where we are now. We share this with the hope that it inspires you to know that wherever you are on your journey, wherever your spouse is on his journey, it is not the end. Your story is just beginning.
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We spend so much of our life thinking that what happens around us, or outside of us, is what causes us to feel a certain way. This is never the case. Your husband's addiction is not causing the feelings inside of you. Your weight, your mother in law, the things someone said on FB-none of those are causing your feelings. Your feelings are caused by your thoughts. Always. Join me today as I go through examples and teach this to you so and tell you why this is such an important truth to learn!
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We aren't taught how to feel our emotions. We are taught how to resist them, react to them, or avoid them. But none of that is going to allow you to process anything in a healthy way or improve the way your life is going. Today I will introduce you to how you can process emotions in a healthy way and why it is so important to do so.
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Confession: I've gotten so wrapped up in the "how" of starting a life coaching business that I forgot about the "why". I became a life coach because the tools I learned along the way have transformed my life and I am now a completely different person. And I feel a responsibility and a privilege to share that knowledge with as many women as I possibly can. Today I'm going to give you a taste of what tools I teach, what life coaching truly looks like, and give you an example of how it changed my life. I know it can change yours too.
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There are 4 main stages of progression that women tend to go through as the wife of the porn addict. In this episode I lay out what those are, what the difference is between all of them, and the last stage that you may not even know about yet. Join me today to hear more about it!
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In case you missed it, I wrote an article in Leading Saints that was published! It details a little bit of what my journey was like in the LDS framework. You can find it here!
Tony Overbay is and LDS licensed marriage and family therapist and the host of The Virtual Couch podcast. He is the creator of an online porn addiction recovery program called The Path Back. In this episode he gives tips and tools on how to talk to your kids about pornography. Listen in and take notes! This is so helpful!
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When your husband is addicted to pornography, there is no getting around having hard conversations. But allow me to give you some tips for making those a little less difficult and MUCH more fulfilling! Don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss the bonus episode I have coming at you this week! And be sure to head to my blog for more tips on how to have hard conversations with your spouse, your kids, and anyone else in your life!
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Our brains like predictability and patterns. That's when the brain doesn't have to look for danger. This is where we like to live. In comfort zones. The problem with comfort zones is that they don't lead us to grow or progress. We stay exactly the same. And, most of the time, they are a false sense of security. Your life will always have discomfort. So you can choose: You can either stay in the discomfort of distrust and disconnect and always being on edge waiting for your husband's relapse, OR you can choose to face discomfort head on and grow so you can reach a comfort zone completely healed from his addiction. It's completely up to you.
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Did you know that the words we use have 2 meanings? They do. And we don't even realize how critical our word choice is when we tell ourselves our story. The words we use to describe our experience is what we end up believing. So choose your words wisely.
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Intellectually, we understand that we are allowed to feel our feelings. But that doesn't mean we don't feel like there are certain emotions we should avoid or that we don't have a right to feel. And what's more, we usually take ownership of those emotions and make them part of our identity-rather than just letting them be something that we feel inside our bodies. It can all be a little confusing so listen in as I clear it up a bit.
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I want to talk about guilt today...not your husband's...YOURS. That's right. I saw this in myself and I see it all the time with my clients. We have these sneaky thoughts that sound helpful but they all stem from this belief that our husband's addiction is somehow, in some way...our fault. It's not. Let's talk about it.
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Sometimes, we think we have accepted the reality of our husband's addiction but what we have really done is lived in ignorance. We think that ignoring the depth of our emotion is better or less hurtful but the truth is, that is not a long term solution. Allow me to explain the difference between ignorance and acceptance and how you can try to move to acceptance today.
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