Beyond Your Past Radio: Recent Episodes
Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
Beyond Your Past Radio, with your hosts, Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP, and Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP. Join us each week as we talk with guests who have overcome their past and are using their powers for the greater good! Clinicians, Life Coaches, Advocates, Bloggers, and others will be here to help inspire and encourage you that no matter what you have been through, there is Hope and You can make a difference. In addition, as Coaches, we give you practical strategies and insight you can use every single day to help you move forward from what's been keeping you stuck. Contact us anytime with your thoughts on the show, topics you'd like us to cover, and please consider sharing the episodes with someone who might find it helpful. Contact us anytime by emailing us at "podcast at beyond your past dot com"
Have you thought about reaching out to a therapist? Have you considered working with a Counselor? What about working with Life Coach?
In this episode of the podcast, we talk about the importance of making your mental health a priority and deciding if it's time to seek professional help. Now more than ever, with your life being turned upside down, and dealing with the uncertainty surrounding everyday life due to COVID-19, you have a whole new set of pressures to work through every day. Then, what happens when life gets back to what it used to be, or a new version of what it used to be? Maybe your daily life will change in ways you never expected.
We talk about the benefits of deciding to seek out help for your mental health and the blocks that may be holding you back from doing so.
You'll learn how the perspective and insight that a mental health professional can give you, in virtually any aspect of your life, can be an invaluable resource in helping you feel more encouraged, inspired, grounded, and focused to handle what's coming. We'll also discuss the very important fact that, "You don't have to have a mental illness to seek out therapy".
We always want to hear from you, so hit us up anytime using the contact form at BeyondYourPastRadio.com. You rock and we appreciate you so much. Thank for the listens, likes, and shares! Don't forget to give us a review and subscribe on your favorite podcast app.
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We're talking to an essential employee, and offering support, encouragement, and validation to everyone who is on the front lines in hospitals, doctor's offices, animal hospitals, grocery and food store workers, and so many others who are dealing with a seemingly unending amount of stress and uncertainty.
We share insight, tips, and strategies to help everyone who has to be away from home, away from family, friends, pets, and their usual routine. The long hours, lack of sleep, lack of personal time, and feeling like there's no end in sight can be debilitating and take its toll on not only our physical health but our mental health.
Joanne and Matt talk about ways essential workers can cope and reach out for support.
Mindful Breathing, Planned Worry Time, Exercise, Focusing on What You Can Control, Understanding and Embracing that this is a Season, Telling Your Family What You Need, Doing Everything Mindfully and Intentionally, and more!
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The next episode will focus on helping loved ones and those who are at home holding down the fort while their partners are away.
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After a 5 month hiatus from recording new episodes, we're back with a special edition of Beyond Your Past Radio, and we couldn't be happier to be rejoining the podcast airwaves and spend some time in your podcast playlist this week. :)
As certified coaches working with clients, and continuing our own healing, awareness, and discovery, we wanted to spend some time talking about the struggle of isolation and the uncertainty that comes with the covid19 crisis, and how it takes its toll on our mental health especially.
After catching up for a few minutes, we talk about the differences between Concern and Worry; and how understanding the two can make a big difference in how you approach the unknown and uncertainty that is so prevalent in life these days.
We also share several strategies to deal with anxiety and isolation, putting our own unique spin on ways you can cope and reframe the challenges that face us all in the coming weeks and months ahead.
A huge thank you to everyone who continues to listen to our previous 170+ episodes, and is hopefully finding them to be validating, encouraging, and yes even a bit entertaining at times!
We promise it won't be 5 more months until the next episode.
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The long-awaited and wildly anticipated (more or less) return of the Mental Health Megacast is here! Season 3, Ep. 2 I believe is where we are, although truth be told it's hard to say for sure what episode it is. If you're a regular listener of these podcast episodes with Wes, Mike, and Myself, you know that episode numbers and times are a running joke with us.
Anyways, on to the topic of What We've Learned About Ourselves Through Therapy. We discuss, in a round table format coming from 3 guys who are mental health advocates and recovering from our own struggles, not only what we've learned but also the struggle of overcoming the shame and stigma that therapy can bring.
It's a candid chat where we talk openly about our own lessons and struggles and ways we've found to overcome some aspects of our past and of course still continue to figure out much of it as we go.
Anyways, just in case you aren’t familiar with the Megacasts, you can check out past episodes here, and also my cohorts platforms as well….
To that end, the Megacast is the combined collaborative brain powers (more or less) of Wes from AudioRising.com and Mike from MikesOpenJournal.com, and myself. I encourage you to check out and follow them online and through your favorite podcasting platform. Each of these guys has a tremendous message to share and an inspiring and unique way in how they go about it.
We hope you enjoy this latest episode, and if you do have suggestions for future shows, we are always happy to field your ideas. One of the best things about these episodes is that that they are completely unedited, unscripted, just us hanging out and having a chat, to which you are always invited to listen in on.
Be sure and follow Wes on Twitter @WesA1966 and Mike @Mike_Douglas_ & Open_Journal_ …oh and don’t forget to follow and subscribe to all of our shows on your favorite podcasting app!
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Healing from physical pain, disease, or trauma is not an exact science; there is no "one size fits all" approach to healing. Each of us is different and experiences the feelings and emotions that come from healing in different ways, and of course on our own timeline.
We talk often on the podcast about different ways that survivors of trauma, chronic pain, or illness, have found to embrace healing. The ways they have taken what's happened to them in life and figure out a way to turn it into a learning experience and being able to help others. Our guest on this episode, Amy Oestreicher, using art and creative expression in her journey, and she talks about that with us in an inspiring chat that is sure to leave you encouraged.
Amy is many things, but first and foremost, she is a storyteller...she is an artist, writer, and influential speaker whose work is rooted in inspiration and built to be eclectic. From the visual arts to music to writing to education, click on any of the pictures above to explore her work and services offered. These include offerings such as a variety of hailed workshops and outreach programs, the sale of her visual art and fashion line, her original multimedia solo-musical PASSAGEWAYS, and her newly released book available below!
During our chat, Amy talks more about how she uses creative expression to heal and navigate PTSD:
- Amy talks about the 29 surgeries she's had throughout her life and a backstory of how she first ended up in the hospital with a condition that nearly killed her.
- How does she cope with emotional and physical healing; the sexual abuse she experienced and the physical trauma. How is emotional recovery different than physical recovery.
- The four hardcore skills to resilience that have helped her.
- How creativity can be anything you want it to be, and the importance of being ok with making mistakes. In addition, how the approach to writing and creative expression in similar to the approach she takes in all of her life.
- Why she wrote her book, My Beautiful Detour, and the message she wants to share with everyone.
You can learn more about Amy, her story, her artwork, her one-woman show, Ted Talks, her book "My Beautiful Detour, and more, over at her website, AmyOes.com. Be sure and follow her on social media as well!
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Since gratitude and forgiveness are key to healing, feeling empowered, enforcing healthy boundaries in relationships, and so many other aspects in life, we wanted to bring back a guest for a podcast episode who specializes in fostering a mindset of gratitude and understanding forgiveness.
Lisa Cybaniak has dedicated her life to helping women in particular, and survivors as a whole, to find their voice. To begin to realize that they too have the ability to reach out for help, work through their past moving from victim to survivor, and ultimately from survivor to warrior.
Lisa Cybaniak is a Motivational Speaker, Success Coach, NLP Practitioner, Author, and survivor of 10 years of child abuse. Over the last 3 years, her work has been featured on radio programs, podcasts, in magazines, and other media outlets. Her first book, Survivor to Warrior is available now on her website, LifeLikeYouMeanIt.com and on Amazon. She outlines on her website, I’ve developed three healing streams to empower you to build a life of purpose after abuse, wherever you may be on your path to recovery: Reaching Out, Victim to Survivor, and Survivor to Warrior.
During our chat with Lisa, we talk more about how we learn gratitude and embrace forgiveness:
- The lessons you learn about your life and who you are, when you begin to understand what forgiveness means to you, and how it relates to your journey.
- The differences in all types of personal and professional relationships before you learn forgiveness and after.
- How you begin to practice gratitude; the first initial steps and the progression of taking it to deeper and higher levels in your life.
- The challenge of regrouping when you're knocked down, and how gratitude and forgiveness can help.
- Learning how acceptance is key to both forgiveness and gratitude.
- How you can recognize which patterns in your life need to be addressed in order to change how you approach relationships.
- How gratitude can be a game-changer in not only healing from trauma but all aspects of life.
If you’d like to learn more about working with Lisa, her programs, upcoming new book, and her speaking engagements, just head over to LifeLikeYouMeanIt.com…and be sure and tell her, “Beyond Your Past, sent you”. 😉
You can follow her on Twitter: @LisaCybaniak , Facebook.com/lifelikeyoumeanit, and Instagram: @Life_Like_You_Mean_It
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Childhood trauma is going to affect you into adulthood, and even with doing the hard work of healing, there will still be times of struggle. The difference is, the understanding, awareness, and skills you learn with the help of a trauma-informed professional can make all the difference in coping during those ongoing tough times.
Our chat on this episode of the podcast is with Miranda Pacchiana, MSW: I am a writer, social worker, and survivor of childhood sexual abuse. When I first disclosed to my family that my brother had abused me as a child, I thought my whole world would change. I assumed my family members would share my desire to examine what had gone wrong in our home and pursue a path toward healing together. I was sadly mistaken. In fact, their behaviors left me feeling as though the abuse didn’t really matter. Yes, they believed me–but my family members still seemed determined to brush my trauma under the rug. Over time, I came to realize they viewed me as the problem for focusing on the abuse. Not the brother who had abused me or whatever damaging experiences he had undergone as a child.
During our chat, we discuss the challenges of confronting family members who your childhood trauma, in particular:
- What is "the second wound" for trauma survivors?
- It's one thing to come to terms with a traumatic past, and as difficult as that is, revealing the details of the abuse to family members adds a whole new layer of fear, anxiety, and shame.
- The dynamic of a family who intentionally is covering up the abuse in order to hide a secret and keep the family name from being tarnished, vs the dynamic of telling family members who have no idea anything ever happened, and the risk of invalidation or minimization.
- The importance of a multi-faceted support system, and how to go about building up the support when you first begin to end your silence.
- Challenging the family's desire to keep everything a secret, and finding the courage to talk about it and not live in silence.
- Second-guessing yourself before and after you share your story.
Be sure and follow Miranda on Twitter and Facebook: @SecondWound, and on Instagram: @TheSecondWound. Learn more about her coaching, clinical work, and her story at SecondWound.com as well as her podcast "Truth and Consequences, Navigating the Aftermath of Trauma."
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Our guest on this episode of the podcast is well known in the narcissistic abuse recovery circles and has dedicated her life to exposing the tactics of narcissistic individuals and helping people break free from the grasp of a narcissist. I like to say that Kim Saeed is a narcissist's worst nightmare, because she's got the knowledge, skills, and lived experience to expose them for what they are trying to do in the lives of their victims.
Her website, KimSaeed.com is the hub of all of her books, coaching programs, videos, blog posts, and materials...."I created this collective space after visiting seven different therapists, which not only failed to offer relief from my symptoms of narcissistic abuse, I felt further invalidated and more confused than ever. Most of the modalities and self-help out there simply don’t provide the solution for lasting relief.
During our chat on the podcast, we dive into some specific aspects of narcissistic abuse and the tactics that a narcissist will use, including Cognitive Dissonance, Gaslighting, and Brainwashing. Kim explains each of these terms and how a skilled narcissist uses these manipulations in such a way that you don't even know something is happening until they've already got a grip on you.
We talk about how to recognize when you're in an unsafe relationship and ways you can begin to pull yourself out of it when you're ready to take that step. As Kim mentions, they won't just go quietly into the night, they will step up their game to keep you in their grasp and believing their lies.
Kim talks about the importance of paying attention to patterns, not words, in order to see a narcissist for who they truly are rather than what they've led you to believe. In addition, you'll learn how a narcissist can even use a therapy environment to their advantage, where you believe they are honestly trying to change, but in reality, their agenda is still the primary goal.
Be sure and check out Kim Saeed on her website, KimSaeed.com for information on her courses, The Essential Break Free Bootcamp, and Beyond No Contact. You definitely don't want to miss her blog posts and her YouTube videos, all done in a way that is both educating and validating.
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Recovery and addiction sadly often go hand in hand. What is modeled for us as a child, or not modeled for us, along the trauma of any type of abuse can lead to struggles with addictions of drugs and alcohol.
Our guest today, Lisa Boucher, joins us to talk about her life which started out with abuse early on in the home, and a mother who was an alcoholic, and how those events and circumstances paved the way for her own struggles with alcohol.
Lisa Boucher is the author of Raising the Bottom: Making Mindful Choices in a Drinking Culture, an award-winning book that won the 2017 Best Book Awards in the category of women’s health and placed as a finalist in the category of addiction/recovery. She is also a speaker.
After short stints where she trained polo horses, worked as a flight attendant, hairdresser, and bartender, she realized that the time to implement serious change had arrived. She gave up drinking, revamped her life and settled in as a registered nurse where living a life in recovery became her way.
For the past twenty-eight years, Lisa has worked with hundreds of women to overcome alcoholism, live better lives and become better parents. She was prompted to write Raising the Bottom when after twenty-four years of working in hospitals, she realized that doctors and traditional health care offer few solutions to women with addiction issues. She is dedicated to not only help women recover from alcoholism, but has extended her reach to educate and help corporations deal with the growing addiction problem that has permeated every sphere of American life. An author of five books, she holds a BA in English, and is the mother of twin sons. She currently resides in Ohio with her husband.
During our chat with Lisa, she tells us more about her childhood and the circumstances that lead to her struggles with alcohol, and the events that transpired which help her begin the healing process from not only her trauma but also overcoming her addiction, and leading to her to a life of advocacy and helping others who struggle.
We discuss the link between childhood trauma and addiction, as it relates to the ACES Study. WE also talk about how society today glorifies alcohol as the primary means of having fun, unwinding, and enjoying times with friends and family; that glorification can have a dramatic impact on a growing childhood and young adult.
There's so much more to our chat with Lisa Boucher, that I hope will inspire you and encourage you that regardless of your childhood and regardless of the circumstances you are currently in, there is hope in healing, and there is no shame in recovery.
Learn more about Lisa Boucher on her website, RaisingtheBottom.com and find her book on Amazon or your favorite book store.
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How do you figure out what a trauma narrative is, how do you even know if what you went through was indeed trauma? What steps can you take to make sense of all the struggles you've endured throughout life, and how can they be traced back to that trauma you may have experienced?
These types of questions are what our guest on the podcast helps you begin to figure out. Dorothy Pierre-Joseph talks about the movement she is starting, "The Trauma Tour", where you can come and experience a safe place of learning about trauma and how to not only tell your story but also embrace the progress you make as you begin to heal.
As Dorothy Pierre-Joseph outlines on her website: Born to immigrant parents from Haiti, I can tell you from experience that life can be challenging. I was a product of a very abusive relationship and a victim of sexual abuse as a child. Much of my life was spent in anger and darkness. My decisions were heavily influenced by my brokenness. However, I always had a passion for learning and helping. I just did not realize that in order to fully help others I had to get healing myself. After a tumultuous period in my life, I attempted suicide and that was the turning point in my life.
During our chat, Dorothy begins by sharing her background, which is in Psychiatric Nursing, and the circumstances that lead her to change her career direction from seeking to become a doctor, to become a nurse.
We discuss what a trauma narrative is, and how when we begin to first tell our story, it's often from the perspective of being a victim because that's all we know. She shares how we learn to tell our story as we heal and not make the victim side of the story, the only side of the story. As Dorothy mentions, "Learning to Command Your Story, not Your Story Command You".
She shares how as you begin to heal, not only does your story change but you change. You become more confident, more empowered, and able to release the shame of what you experienced...to not be bound by those experiences in life.
We also discuss more about the Trauma Tour that she created, how to inform and educate your childeren about your struggles as you navigate your own healing while being a parent, and much more.
If you'd like to learn more about Dorothy Pierre-Joseph and the Trauma Tour, check out her website, HeartBreak2BreakThrough.com.
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Friend of the podcast, author, artist, and survivor, Larry Ruhl, joins us to talk about what life has been like since he released his book, "Breaking the Ruhls", and the new challenges that daily life brings after his openly wrote about his experiences.
Larry joined the podcast previously, back in episode 72, where he talked about the experience of writing his book, why he did it, and the message he wants to share through his writing.
Larry Ruhl serves as a board member for Taking Back Ourselves, which facilitates weekends of recovery for female survivors of sexual abuse, and is a registered speaker with the RAINN network (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). He previously served as a board member at Male Survivor. He also spoke at colleges and retreats to increase awareness of sexual abuse against men and boys. Today he shares his story publicly to spread awareness and to help others shed the shame and stigma associated with sexual abuse. He graduated from the Fashion Institute of Technology (FIT), with a degree in Display & Exhibit Design, and worked as a creative director at a textile firm for ten years until opening his own home furnishings/interior design business in 2004. He works as an artist and designer in the Hudson Valley. You can learn more about Larry on his websites, www.BreakingTheRuhls.com and LarryRuhl.com.
During my chat with Larry, he gives us a recap on what's been happening in his life since his book has been published, including new speaking opportunities at conferences and some travel he's been able to do in support of his art.
- We also dive more deeply into the challenges and rewards that come with writing a book about your experiences.
- Larry shares about dealing with the personal struggle of some family members who may support you but choose to keep the struggles you share at a distance.
- We talk about navigating daily life after sharing your story openly, and the struggles of keeping up with self-care, along with the challenge of handling triggers, especially new ones that may come up.
- We discuss the importance of being open to exploring new coping strategies in ongoing healing, even if you have a solid arsenal of go-to skills.
- Being fully present in your body and being open to exploring new memories, personal struggles, or other challenges with your therapist, even if you feel like you've already done extensive healing.
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Today's guest on the podcast, Austin Robin, is a survivor of childhood trauma and lives with Complex PTSD. She has also hosted her own podcast, "The Complexities Podcast", where she shares in-depth about her story and the challenges of living as a survivor and healing. While the show is currently on hiatus, it's most definitely worth a listen to the 30+ episodes.
During our chat, Austin shares some of her back story of being a survivor, and we dive into some specific areas surrounding self-esteem:
- Her survivor story of abuse includes abandonment, neglect, and living with a narcissistic family.
- How going No-Contact with her father and mother was the best decision she ever made and was instrumental in her healing.
- Healing is exponentially more difficult when you are still in a toxic environment. Finding a way to break free is key.
- Understanding the reasons why you struggle with self-esteem, and perhaps downright hate yourself; where those feelings come from.
- Finding a reason to break free, go no contact, and take control of your healing. Even if that reason isn't "you", just find any reason to cling too.
- How eventually just finding any reason can lead to you learning to put yourself first.
- Her struggles with an eating disorder, that included checking herself into a medical facility to get help.
- The strategy of getting to a neutral place, before you try and go full speed ahead with your healing. Learning to embrace that "maybe I'm not quite so bad" is a key step, and can lead to "I'm a pretty resilient, amazing person".
All this and more during my chat with Austin Robin. While Austin is not actively podcasting at this present time, and taking a break from social media, she can be reached via the Complexities Podcast Instagram Page or by emailing her directly at Complexities dot Podcast at gmail dot com.
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Tricia Moceo advocates long term sobriety by providing resources to recovering addicts and shedding light on the disease of addiction. Tricia is a mother of two, actively involved in her local recovery community, and is passionate about helping other women find hope in seemingly hopeless situations. She is also an Outreach Specialist for Recovery Local, a local addiction/recovery based marketing company. She advocates long term sobriety by writing for many addiction recovery outlets online.
During our talk, Tricia shares more of her personal survivor story, which included being molested by a family member starting at 5 years, and then her attempt at reaching out for help during a school seminar, which would ultimately pushed into decades of staying silent, internalizing the shame, and trying to deal with it on her own.
The lack of support and understanding of just how much her past was affecting her as she grew up, lead to experimenting with alcohol late in high school, and then more heavily in college, eventually leading to her dropping out because the numbing and avoiding that had taken over through addiction.
When her stepmom passed away of a heart attack, she was left to try and hold the family together, while still taking care of her young son, resulting in a turn to drugs to help cope. The perfect storm of losing one of her only support outlets, combined with her existing struggles with alcohol, and running the family business virtually on her own, caused her to spiral into drug addiction, unhealthy relationships, co-dependency, other unhealthy coping skills which eventually found her in the midst of a Child Protective Services case and the reality that she may lose her son.
Tricia talks about the rock bottom moment of sitting in a jail cell, detoxing on a cold cement floor and realizing something had to change. Through the help of her caseworkers at CPS, she checked herself into a rehabilitation facility and began the process of healing. It was during that healing process that she finally found a healthy support system, including a therapist that she felt safe enough with to finally talk about the childhood trauma she experienced and the resulting CPTSD symptoms that she had battled her whole life.
If you'd like more information on Patricia Moceo, just simply Google her name, and you'll find her story on countless rehabilitation and mental health-related websites. You can also find her on Facebook and Instagram.
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The official definition of Borderline Personality Disorder, as outlined by the National Institute of Mental Health: Borderline personality disorder is a mental illness marked by an ongoing pattern of varying moods, self-image, and behavior. These symptoms often result in impulsive actions and problems in relationships. People with borderline personality disorder may experience intense episodes of anger, depression, and anxiety that can last from a few hours to days.
Jody Betty is a Certified Crisis Responder and a Trauma-Informed Peer Support mentor. She is a survivor of trauma and multiple suicide attempts and lives with BPD. She is also a blogger and podcast host, and her work as a mental health advocate with Sick Not Weak, is well documented through her writing and social media presence.
Jody is a returning guest on Beyond Your Past Radio. She joined us back on episode 109, where she talked about some of her survivor story and life as a survivor. You can listen to that episode here or on your favorite podcasting app. She also wrote a blog piece a few years back, on Surviving My Past, where she talks about her safe place as a child.
During our chat on the podcast, Jody gives us insight into what life is like living with BPD, and the constant struggle to understand what's happening, where her emotions are taking her, and utilizing the coping skills she's developed throughout her life.
- What is life like waking up each day and dealing with the daily struggles, of borderline personality disorder?
- When did she realize there was something wrong and decided to seek out treatment, and ultimately receive a diagnosis of BPD?
- The emotional roller coaster that happens throughout the day, and how often times it's all she can do to just get through one hour at a time.
- Coping skills that Jody has found helpful in living with BPD.
- Learning how healing happens "in the middle"; what that means for survivors living with BPD.
- Learning to hold two truths in your mind about who you are.
- Her peer support program where she works with survivors of trauma, struggling with chronic suicidality and living with BPD.
You can learn more about Jody's advocacy work, check out her podcast, Mental Health Raw & Open, and read her blog, over at JodyBetty.com.
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Our guest on this episode of the podcast, Kimberle Taitano, has seen her share of challenges in life, physically, mentally, and emotionally. She joins us to talk about her experiences and how all of the challenges she's faced, brought her to a place of being able to work with others to help them heal and keep fighting for themselves...to never give up, regardless of a diagnosis or a traumatic past.
Kimberle is an Integrative Wellness and Life Coach, Survivor, and Speaker: As survivors of sexual abuse trauma, we seek a way to find and achieve healing from the past. Here at Surrender 2 Wellness our unique perspective and life experience with the impact sexual abuse leaves in a survivor’s life is key to our coaching approach. Low self-esteem, self-worth, and lack of a positive self-image and self-love affect every area of your life.
After an eight-year journey to find alternative healing modalities, Kimberle a sexual abuse survivor discovered new Fields of study. Studying with Deepak Chopra; David Simon; and Davidji learning the principle steps needed to obtain overall healing and closure. Kimberle has integrated these teachings and personal experiences with other holistic healing modalities. Resulting in a unique trauma recovery-focused process.
During our chat with Kimberle, we talk about the diagnosis that brought her to a crossroads in her life, and already being a place of dealing with a traumatic past.
- She shares how the abuse began at 4 years old when she was sexually abused by her father, and experienced bullying and physical abuse at the hands of her stepfather. In addition, she also endured being molested by her stepsister.
- She talks about her attempts to take her own life, which started at age 8, and her last attempt at age 38. In addition, we discuss the reasons why she tried so often to take her life; and it wasn't because she wanted to die...she just wanted the pain to stop.
- You'll learn of the events that lead her to return to California after spending time in New York working on her acting career, and the diagnosis of MS that brought her to a crossroads, and a decision of either accepting that diagnosis or fighting for herself and finding alternative methods of healing.
- We talk about the holistic approach to healing that changed her life, which includes reiki, meditation, massage, yoga, supplements, acupuncture, nutrition, and more. You'll hear of the incredible healing that happened as a result of working with holistic doctors, using alternative medicine, that had her back on feet in a matter of months, and how she uses that same approach with her clients today.
- We talk about her research with ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences), and the connection of childhood trauma to chronic illness and disease.
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Our guest today on the podcast, Delisa Richardson, has dedicated her life to finding the balance of living with chronic illness, recovery from being a survivor, being a mom and wife, and working with clients in her coaching business. As she outlines in her bio:
Delisa Richardson Wellness focuses on empowering women to break the chains of trauma and abuse. I work with you to develop Mental, Emotional, Physical and Spiritual balance & wholeness. This will enable you to thrive and live your BEST life! My goal as a certified Integrative Wellness & Life Coach, NLP, EFT practitioner, and Hypnotherapist, is to help break the chains of trauma, end destructive relationships, help you to learn to love yourself not only survive but THRIVE! You will learn how to fully and confidently step into your life purpose.
During our chat, Delisa and I talk about some of her survivor story, which started around the 9 and lasted until she was 13. She shares how and why she kept her abuse a secret and how it affected her all throughout her teenage years and into early adulthood, especially in the area of relationships.
- You'll learn the circumstances that transpired which lead her to seek the help of a therapist, what it was like to verbalize for the first time, out loud, that she was a survivor of abuse.
- Delisa talks about the struggles of being in abusive relationships, both physically and verbally, as a result of childhood trauma, and how the events of her past affected her ability to seek out healthy relationships and enforce boundaries.
- We discuss the importance of releasing the shame and guilt that comes with being a survivor of childhood trauma, and how recording her own voice, by listening to how she talked to herself; internalizing all of the shame and blame, helped her move forward and break that cycle.
- Her life with inflammatory bowel disease, and how living with chronic pain and illness can be traced back to the childhood trauma she experienced.
- We discuss how healing from trauma is a life long battle and the hope that comes from putting in the hard work of healing so you can live the life you want and be the person you want to be.
- Releasing yourself from the need to try and control the people around you or the events in your life, and how the process of healing helps you release that need and realize that you actually have very little control over most of your life.
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Even in today's world, where mental health is becoming more mainstream to talk about, there's still a stigma surrounding those dreaded two words. Even more than that, what about the judgemental mindset that comes with admitting you've attempted suicide, or live with chronic suicidality?
It's for those very reasons that I wanted to bring Frank King, The Mental Health Comedian, onto the podcast so we can discuss not only some of his story and his work, but primarily in hopes of helping at least one person start a conversation that could make the difference between being alive today, and gone tomorrow.
Frank King, aka The Mental Health Comedian, is a Suicide Prevention and Postvention Public Speaker and Trainer who turned a lifelong battle with depression into a keynote worth spreading. His mission is to end the stigma surrounding mental health by sharing his insights with anyone and everyone who will listen in an effort to “start the conversation.”
Frank uses comedy and personal life lessons to help break the ice and start an engaging conversation amongst those struggling with mental and emotional stability. This act of faith helps those struggling to find a voice to express themselves. He believes that where there is humor there is hope. And where there is laughter there is life… Nobody dies laughing.
During our chat, Frank shares how he got started as a comedian, speaker, and trainer, and how he's able to use his own life experiences to create a sense of support and understanding for those who struggle, and those who are supporting them. He talks about living with chronic suicidality, and how that affects even the most normal of everyday circumstances.
The stories Frank shares of his experiences throughout his life are sure to not only move you deeply but also make you smile and laugh...a combination you don't see very much in the world of mental health and suicide prevention.
If you get the opportunity to see Frank King perform, please don't pass up the opportunity. He's an amazing guy who has dedicated his life to helping people stay on this planet, one day at a time. Be sure and head over to TheMentalHealthComedian.com and follow him on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, & YouTube.
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This topic of an unhealthy or abusive relationship in therapy is not something you probably hear about every day, and unless you've experienced it personally or know someone who has, you may not even know it's actually a thing. My guest on the podcast today, Analie Shepherd, has experienced this type of abuse first hand, has written a book detailing her experiences and healing and speaks at conferences and with therapists on this topic.
Analie joined the podcast previously back in 2017, where she first shared some of her experiences and gave us some insight into the world of healing from an abusive therapy experience. Today we continue that discussion as Analie shares a recap of her story and discusses more in-depth some of the more pertinent aspects of what abusive in therapy actually is, how to recognize it, and what healing looks like.
From her website, MendingtheShatteredMirror.com - During the last four years, I have fulfilled one of my life dreams! I am a published author! For many years, friends have encouraged me to write the story of my life. Recently, I went through a traumatic experience, and have struggled to reclaim my life. This struggle became the motivation to finally write my story.
Mending the Shattered Mirror chronicles the life-shattering abuse I suffered in psychotherapy, but also tells the life-affirming story of my search for healing and wholeness. Within the pages of this book, I have included my remarkable life journey--the sometimes tragic, sometimes triumphant, story of me!
During our chat on healing from abuse in therapy, we cover:
- Analie shares a recap of her story on how and why she first sought the help of a therapist.
- How the abuse in therapy began and continued for 4 years. In addition, why she stayed in the environment for so long before finally being able to leave and begin healing.
- How to recognize the signs of a potentially unhealthy or outright abusive relationship with a therapist; they aren't as recognizable as you might think.
- Why it's not a bad thing for a client to long for a deeper relationship with their therapist, and the importance of the therapist being able to maintain the boundaries of a professional relationship.
- Are there dangers in showing any type of affection, even innocently, between a patient and their therapist?
- Working through the shame and self-blame that comes with realizing you were a victim of abuse in therapy.
- Things you can do to address concerns with your therapist or other helping professional.
You can purchase Analie's book, Mending the Shattered Mirror, A Story of Recovery from Abusive Therapy, on Amazon. Be sure and also follow her on Twitter: @AnalieShepherd
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Our guest today is an expert in the field of helping communities heal after mass shootings and other trauma's, and she shares some of her insight and experiences with us on this episode of the podcast. Melissa Glaser, MS, LPC is a community response and recovery leader. She was the coordinator of the Newtown Recovery and Resiliency Team (NRRT) from 2014 to 2016. Glaser is currently in private practice as a psychotherapist and actively consults with other organizations and communities. Previously, Glaser has served as a clinical and behavioral health director to several Connecticut non-profit organizations.
Melissa is the author of, "Healing a Community: Lessons for Recovery after a Large-Scale Trauma", which outlines the twenty months spent in Newtown, Connecticut as the leader of the Newtown Recovery and Resilience Team. Her task as the leader of this team was to address the emotional impact and guide the mental health response after a gunman killed twenty children and six adults at Newtown's Sandy Hook Elementary School in December 2012.
Our chat with Melissa does not cover the issue of gun control, nor was that the intent of bringing her on to the podcast. Rather, we wanted to talk about the ways that we as every day people can help a community heal from such a tragedy; providing insight into the needs of survivors and their families and outlining some of the struggles that face not only the community but also the first responders and mental health professionals.
- Understanding that healing from mass trauma is an ongoing process. Recovery and support teams of mental health professional and first responders are often actively in place for at least the first 21 months after the trauma.
- The various stages of recovery and healing from a mass trauma, including the crisis management stage, the consequence stages, and more.
- The need for multiple different modalities of support. Many survivors are not able to utilize Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and other similar modalities due to not being able to express their needs verbally, immediately after a trauma. Other supportive methods including art therapy, music therapy, acupuncture, and yoga can be vital to helping survivors feel grounded.
- The challenge of dealing with the media after a mass shooting. How their desire to get a story out by asking survivors and family members to talk about what happened can cause a tremendous amount of guilt, confusion, and anxiety. In addition, Melissa shares how the vulnerability in sharing is often caused by a need to talk about the victim because of the fear of not being heard later, especially due to so many emotions in play immediately after a tragic event takes place.
- The agenda of politicians to try and portray a community that will be ok, that will heal, and pick up the pieces. That message of unity, while likely done with the best of intentions can have a negative effect due to the time it takes to heal and trust that's been shattered.
- The challenge of survivors guilt. When the community is portrayed as a group that is strong and resilient; that guilt of not feeling ok can cause survivors to be afraid or ashamed to ask for help because they are still struggling.
- What have learned from past mass shootings, and are we improving in our responsiveness and providing access to resources and support for victims and their families.
We appreciate Melissa Glaser's willingness to come on the podcast and share her insight on this topic that affects us all so much. You can learn more about her work as a counselor and her book, on her website, MelissaGlaser.com.
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When you come to a point in healing from your past, from all of the abuse, the trauma, the years of suffering, you may come to a point where you just break down, fall to your knees, and cry out for help. That's exactly what our guest on this episode of the podcast did, and the answers she received were life-changing.
Karen Cesario Rizzo is a spiritual coach, clairvoyant, and author: Having experienced tragedy and pain as a young child, I knew I felt different. But I always knew I was being protected by angels. I could hear them, feel them, speak to them and see them at an early age. After many years, I made the decision to lift the veil of pain and fear. It was a painful process I had to endure. As a result, I began experiencing increased psychic awareness beyond what I could comprehend. The journey has been amazing.
During our chat with Karen, we talked about her unique survivor story and the journey of healing that lead her to be in a place of writing two books so far, and sharing her clairvoyant gifts and experiences with others through her coaching program:
- How she endured sexual abuse at the age of 7, from her father who was also an alcoholic and later took his own life.
- The breaking point that she came too that literally had her on her knees crying out for help and answers, and the life-changing results that came with that cry for help.
- How she learned that she could talk to angels and the healing benefits she experienced as a result; as well as how she began to develop this gift.
- The importance of peeling off each layer of pain, sitting with those feelings, and learning how to heal them through counseling and therapy.
- What you learn about yourself throughout that process
- Working through the shame, pain, and victimization that comes with being a survivor so you can learn to see yourself through the eyes of love.
- How radical acceptance can play such an important role in healing from your past.
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So what can we do? How can we identify a relationship that is filled with emotional abuse? Is there a way to see it and get out before more damage is done and heal more compassionately and efficiently once it's over? What can we do to help ourselves in the future, to enforce healthy boundaries and not let someone take over our very existence?
Liz Goddard returns on this episode of the podcast to dive deeper into healing from an emotionally abusive relationship. Elizabeth is an Author, Spiritual Life Coach, Soul Transformation Therapist, Soul Plan Reader, and Reiki Master Teacher; training with the Holistic Healing College in London. She works with women to help them understand why they attract abusive relationships and helps them heal the ORIGINAL wound. She believes that by healing the original wound you can feel whole, something you may never have experienced and allow you to take charge of your life.
During our chat, Liz shares about her upcoming new book, "The A to Z of Emotional Abuse", and how the key to healing lies in understanding. In her new book, she takes the approach of education and learning about what emotional abuse is, in order to not only identify it but also to heal.
- How cognitive dissonance and gaslighting can go hand in hand in an abusive relationship, and consequently literally damage our brain from the emotional trauma.
- Understanding who exactly is to blame for the emotional abuse, and working through the urge to self-shame.
- What role did you play in the relationship, and what you can you learn from it without interpreting the events in a way that causes you to take on all of the blame?
- What is a manufactured soulmate and how can that mindset keep us stuck in the emotionally abusive relationship? For that matter, the importance of understanding that the toxic relationship itself is a manufactured relationship in the first place?
- How to recognize if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship; the key to understanding what's happening.
- Idealization and Devaluation phases of a relationship, and how the toxic partner will use your ideals against you to manipulate you.
Learn more about Elizabeth Goddard, her ROAR program to Help Heal from Emotional Abuse, her Free Meditations available, her upcoming book, and more, over on her website ReviveYourSoul.co.uk
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So what does that hope actually look like, what does it feel like? Well, I'm glad you asked because our guest on this episode of the podcast is Monique Koven, Trauma-Informed Recovery & Resilience Coach.
I have worked for over 25 years as a social worker where I worked with older adults, many of whom were Holocaust survivors. As a survivor of ongoing, repetitive childhood trauma, I know what it's like to believe that things will never change. I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and chronic PTSD. I was always trying to find the right therapy to provide some relief and finally "fix" me. Over the years, I tried well over 15 therapeutic modalities, but nothing ever helped. I lived with chronic anxiety, fear, and distressing daily PTSD symptoms such as flashbacks, disassociation, and triggering. Waking up with feelings of dread at the thought of a new day and then living it in constant anxiety. Every. Single. Day. I was told that trauma and anxiety were going to be with me for the long haul and that I would have to learn coping strategies to manage my symptoms. I believed it. Until... everything changed.
I have found complete freedom and am living my life fully without anything holding me back. I drive wherever I want, I take risks and step into things I never dreamed possible, and I feel at ease in my own body and mind. No more waking up in dread at the thought of another day. And the best part was that I didn’t need any tools or techniques.
I can help you step back into your innate power and peace of mind. There is hope. Change is possible.
During our chat with Monique, we talk about:
- Monique shares some of her past and the struggles she felt growing up in an abusive home.
- How she managed to try and feel safe in an environment full of chaos and violence.
- As she grew up, the challenges of seemingly having a perfect life but feeling pulled back into her past.
- Is it actually possible to fully heal from CPTSD and PTSD; and if so, what does that look like?
- Finding balance during your healing and what it means to go to both ends of the spectrum during healing work.
- Why is it important to have someone witness and validate your story.
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Your survivor story, the way you live it every day, and the way you tell it to others, evolves throughout the various stages of healing. Each version is your truth, as you experienced it in the past and how you live in the present. Each stage of healing represents how you've grown and how much you learn about yourself; and so naturally the details, the way you live each day, and the way you tell it, changes and evolves with you.
On this episode of the podcast, we're talking about this very thing; learning how to tell your survivor story, as well as forming relationships with others after your trauma. Rachel Grant, Sexual Abuse Survivor Coach, is a regular on Beyond Your Past Radio, and I'm honored to have her join me today as I share a chat we had recently.
Rachel Grant is a Sexual Abuse Survivor Coach, with an M.A. in Counseling Psychology. Her website, RachelGrantCoaching.com features not only her individual and group work with survivors, but also her book “Beyond Surviving”, Facebook Group, Master Class, and free and low-cost Audible Downloads covering topics such as Shame, Boundaries, Abandonment, and much more.
It's always a privilege to talk with Rachel on the show; her message of healing is always encouraging and filled with hope for how we can move forward from the trauma and abuse, and be more than a survivor. We can Thrive!
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Joanne and I share some thoughts on self-doubt during this episode of the podcast. Her new book, "Ditch Your Doubt" gives you practical insight into how self-doubt is manifested in your life and ways you can overcome it.
How is self-doubt presenting in your life? Are there strategies you’ve tried that just don’t work? There’s a reason for that; every event in life is a learning experience for your brain. What we teach ourselves, what we’ve been taught (consciously or otherwise), the people we interact with in daily life, it’s all connected and can all foster this mindset of perpetuating self-doubt and feeling stuck.
There is hope, there are ways to work through this and retrain your brain to default to new pathways, new mindsets, and a more positive, authentic outlook on not only who you are, but what your capable of, and the way you see others.
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June is self-worth month here on the podcast. We started off talking with the UK's leading confidence coach and transformational mentor, Amy Rushworth, as she shared some of her story and talked about how finding your voice is in direct relation to self-confidence and developing your self-worth. After that, we shared some thoughts on how you are the one that gets to define who you are, and what you're about; your worth is not dependent on anyone or anything. So if you haven’t checked out those two episodes you’ll want to go back after this one and give em a listen.
Continuing on with the self-worth theme, we’re talking with returning guest and friend, Brian Cardoza. Brian is an author, artist, and national speaker, using his platform to help share the message of his survivor story and encourage both men and women to take that first step of seeking help to work through a traumatic past.
Brian’s message of hope, presented in such an authentic, genuine, and down-to-earth way, is inspiring because he’s able to relate to the unique struggles that survivors go through, including the silence and shame that keeps them stuck and feeling unable to reach out for help.
We talk with Brian about his survivor story and get into a deep discussion about the struggles of survivors who are trying to find their voice and reach out for help. Throughout our chat, with Brian, you’ll notice how we use some well-timed, and improvisational humor to help illustrate that while this work is deep, powerful, difficult, and necessary, there is hope in healing and all of that work hard pays off.
Plus, near the end of the podcast, in true Brian Cardoza form, he drops a nugget of wisdom that will result in a future episode on the topic of bringing awareness to "coercive rape" and the pressure that both men and women feel when it comes to intimacy. Believe me, friend, this one will definitely cause you to pause and ponder his take on this delicate subject.
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In keeping with the theme of Self-Worth, that we have going right now for June 2019, I wanted to share my thoughts what exactly our self-worth is tied too. It's an interesting question to ponder if you pause and think about it for a minute. What things in your life are you maybe tieing your worth to as a human being?
- Your Job or Career
- Getting a promotion
- Achieving a particular goal
- Being a parent
- A spouse
- A hobby
- Your house, Your Car, Your Possessions...
Insert whatever you want... but consider taking stock of how much of your well being, your personality, your existence, your purpose, you put into those things..and how is that serving you? How does that make you feel, how does that inspire you?
How temporary, or volatile are those things...are you always striving to live up to a standard of someone else, and if so, how's that working out for you?
I share some thoughts on the importance of tying your self-worth, your reason for being on this planet, to only you. Not allowing anyone or anything to dictate who you are, how you should act, where you focus your time, efforts, and resources. Understanding that relationships, hobbies, friendships, careers, possessions, and the like...are all well and good, there's nothing wrong with any of those things, as long as you always know that you are amazing, worthy, capable, and important just for being you.
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During my chat with Amy Rushworth on this episode of the podcast, we are talking about how self-confidence is born, developed, and honed throughout your life experiences. It's those experiences that help you find your voice, which is discovered by developing your self-confidence; and your self-confidence is born out of everything you've been through in your past, and continues to develop as you live your life.
Amy Rushworth is the UK's leading Confidence Coach & Transformational Mentor. She helps her clients and those who take her programs, to ignite their confidence, fire up their self-worth, and get their sparkle back.
During our chat with Amy, you'll hear how she came to a pivotal point in her life of realizing she needed more out of her life than what she originally thought. She was checking off the boxes; a wonderful relationship, apartment on the beach, glamorous fashion career, and so on but there was something missing, and her body was beginning to show her this in ways she never expected.
- Through some difficult medical circumstances, she was left with plenty of time to reflect, and knew it was time to make a change.
- She shares how being in a place of true acceptance and self-love, helps her be in tune with what her body and mind are telling her.
- We discuss how gratitude opens your heart and rewires your brain, and that rewiring is essential in developing confidence and self-worth. She shares helpful strategies for starting your own gratitude journal and making it a part of your life, every day.
- We talk about the importance of getting to the root of limiting beliefs to help change the maladaptive coping skills that hold you back and keep you stuck.
There's so much more during our chat with Amy, so be sure and check out the podcast by scrolling up and clicking that play button, or on your favorite podcast app. You can learn more about Amy's programs at AmyRushworth.com, and follow her on Instagram, and Facebook.
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It's funny how things work out in life, and I don't mean funny haha, but more like funny strange, or funny interesting.
In this episode of Mobile Musings, sponsored by Beyond Your Past Radio, I look back at an episode I recorded 3 years ago, and wouldn't you know it..it's as relevant today as it was then.
The struggles unfolding all around us in government, world violence, a divided nation and really divided world on so many fronts, can take its toll on your emotional health. These volatile times, the same as back then, can very easily steal your joy and bring down your outlook on humanity overall as well as the potential in your own life.
For that matter, not even just 3 years ago, but these struggles have been around in various forms for decades, and one can make a case for these things being around since pretty much, forever. Times change, technology changes, and we just don't seem to learn from our past in some areas. You know how that old saying goes, right?
So I hope you'll enjoy this look back at my thoughts on embracing the good the people around you, sharing a smile, and finding ways to rid yourself of the negativity in your life so can embrace everything wonderful about you and those around you.
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Problems falling asleep, staying asleep, getting enough sleep, feeling sleepy during the day...any of these ring a bell as something you struggle with? If you're one of the 50-70 million people in the U.S. alone that suffer from a sleep disorder, you can definitely relate. Even if you aren't diagnosed with a specific sleep disorder, problems falling asleep and getting enough sleep can still be an issue.*
Dr. Mendelson joined us back in episode 104, where we talked about Antidepressants, PTSD, and Taking an Active Role in Your Treatment. After that chat, we talked about his work in the area of sleep, and I thought it would be a great idea to bring him back again to talk about this important topic.
Dr. Wallace Mendelson is currently in the clinical practice of psychiatry. He was formerly Professor of Psychiatry and Clinical Pharmacology at the University of Chicago. At that time, he was also Director of the Sleep Research Laboratory there. Dr. Mendelson earned an MD degree from Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis and completed a residency in psychiatry at the same institution. He has held professorships at Ohio State University and the State University of New York at Stony Brook, was Chief of the Section on Sleep Studies at the National Institute of Mental Health in Bethesda, MD, and Director of the Sleep Disorders Center at the Cleveland Clinic.
Among his honors is the William C. Dement Academic Achievement Award from the American Sleep Disorders Association as well as the Special Award in Sleep and Psychiatry from the National Sleep Foundation, and he is a distinguished fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. In 1997, he was President of the Sleep Research Society. Dr. Mendelson has authored or co-authored three books, and co-edited another, and published over 190 peer-reviewed papers on various aspects of sleep research.
During our chat, Dr. Mendelson shares his insight about sleep, including some of his research and information contained in his latest books, The Science of Sleep and Understanding Sleeping Pills.
- When you sleep, it's a very active time both for your body and your mind, as it goes through many stages while you are asleep.
- Processing, cataloging, and storing memories, and how emotional healing can also take place during sleep.
- Can you actually make up for lost sleep by trying to sleep in longer or going to bed earlier?
- Needing more sleep as you get older, and the difficulty in functioning without proper sleep each night.
- Types of sleep disorders: including disorders that affect falling asleep, staying asleep, excessive sleep, and abnormal behaviors while sleeping.
- Therapy modalities available to help with insomnia and other sleep disorders, including CBTI (cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia).
- How phones and tablets can have a dramatic impact on falling asleep and the quality of sleep we get.
Thank you to Dr. Wallace Mendelson for coming back as a guest on this
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Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. This relates to the law of averages, which is the theory that the result of any given situation will be the average of all outcomes. When it comes to relationships, we are greatly influenced — whether we like it or not — by those closest to us. It affects our way of thinking, our self-esteem, and our decisions. Of course, everyone is their own person, but research has shown that we're more affected by our environment than we think.
Not only in relationships, but that train of thought can apply to virtually any aspect of your personal or professional life. So the challenge then becomes, not only keeping your individuality (which is a podcast for another time) but also if you are influenced by others to any degree, being selective about the people you hang out with becomes paramount.
That is the topic of this Mobile Musing episode, where I reflect back to our chat with Tiffany Toombs, on the power of reframing your limiting beliefs to change your life. During that chat, we talk not only about reframing, and what that is, but also about the importance of surrounding yourself with the right people. We discuss the importance of enforcing healthy boundaries and being selective about those who are not only in your inner circle but also in acquaintances and other relationship levels.
You may not be able to choose your colleagues, for example, but you can choose how much you own and internalize their comments and how much you allow them to influence your mindsets. If they are a negative influence, if they don't help you feel encouraged and empowered, then perhaps limiting exposure to them outside of the necessary meetings and such, may be something to consider.
The same goes with friends and family members, of all levels:
- Do the people you spend time with make you feel good about yourself?
- Do they help encourage you in a genuine way? Are their comments uplifting?
- Are they there to listen and validate your struggles, without having to "fix" you or always give advice?
- Do you truly feel better about yourself when you're in their company?
These types of questions are at the heart of ensuring that you not only feel inspired and encouraged but safe and supported. Of course, not everyone can live up those standards, and not everyone has the ability to relate to every aspect of your life, so it's important to have a diverse group that can be there to meet specific needs at any given time. And, in turn, you can be the very best support person for those in your life.
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So how exactly do we even figure out what this whole "reframing" thing is? How do you figure out who the safe people are and make changes to surround ourselves with them? How do we change all these negative core beliefs that we've been rooted in for so long, so we can build new pathways in our brain and develop a new outlook on who we are and what we're capable of?
I'm glad you asked...our guest, Tiffany Toombs is here to help shed some light on this subject and address those struggles and more.
Tiffany is a Mindset Coach, and Master Practitioner of Matrix Therapies and NLP. She is the founder of blue lotus mind, a program she developed to help inspire men, women, and children to reconnect and love themselves, unconditionally, from the inside out. Her goal is to create a self-love revolution, where everyone feels empowered to redefine what happiness and love look and feel like, to them.
I have experienced first hand what it is like to feel stuck and lost in life. This experience allows me to coach from a deeply personal place, from a place of being broken wide open and diving in to sort out the pieces...and so I want to start a self-love revolution. I want everyone I come into contact with to feel empowered to re-define what happiness and love look and feel like for them.
During our chat on the podcast we cover:
- Self-Love; why do we resist it?
- Why it's so important to heal negative emotions & experiences from the past.
- The importance of doing what's best for us, even when others judge and call you selfish.
- Understand that every behavior has a belief system, and focusing on the behavior alone won't accomplish the goal of healing.
- Learning not to settle in your career, relationships, or any aspect of life.
- Taking time to connect with your highest intentions each day to help yourself continually grow and not regress back into old patterns you worked so hard to change.
- Life is full of ebbs and flows, ups and downs, and not getting too attached to either.
We unpack all of this and more during our chat with Tiffany Toombs, so be sure and check out the podcast right here on the Beyond Your Past Radio, or search your favorite podcast app for "Beyond Your Past".
Thank you to Tiffany for sharing her incredible insight and wisdom on the power of using Reframing to change your limiting beliefs.
You can learn more about Tiffany Toombs, including her coaching programs and online resources, over on BlueLotusMind.com - Be sure and follow her on social media as well:
Twitter: @TiffanyNToombs - Facebook: @BlueLotusMind - Instagram: @TiffanyToombs
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Continuing on with our new Mobile Musings podcast series every Thursday here on Beyond Your Past Radio, I'm sharing some thoughts around the topic of Interrupting Anxious Thoughts.
How do we actually interrupt an anxious thought in the first place; and why is it important to develop this skill? On that note, it is indeed something that needs to be practiced and fostered over time since we are actually retraining our minds to stop using those old, negative, programmed, default responses that no longer serve us.
What about reframing emotional responses? How does anxiety try and use your emotions against you? One reason is that it loves to live in an emotional mind, making it much easier to gain and keep a hold of us, which ultimately perpetuates the very actions, reactions, and mindsets we are trying to change.
I talk about a current example in my own life, and how anxiety could very easily take a medical challenge I'm facing, and turn it into a worry-fest. An opportunity for me to stay up all night, overthinking, researching, and worrying myself over things I have no control over.
There's a lot more in store in this episode of our new Mobile Musings series, so be sure and check it out and see what you think. If you'd like to send us a message and tell us what you think, we'd love to hear from you.
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Recently, Joanne had the opportunity to chat with Andrea Evans, about her first endeavor into the world of being an executive producer and the message she wants everyone to take away when you see her documentary, "Rocking the Couch".
Andrea Evans has been a Hollywood icon for decades, staring in television shows including The Bold and the Beautiful, Passions, One Life to Live, The Bay, and more. Now she's teamed up with longtime friend and director, Minh Collins, to create a documentary in the wake of the scandal involving Harvey Weinstein, Bill Cosby, and others, to help bring awareness to sexual assault victims and what can happen on the casting couch.
Andrea talks with Joanne about how the idea for, 'Rocking the Couch', came to be and why she, Minh, and her team decided it was so important to make this documentary. She shares some of the processes in talking to women who would be willing to speak out and share their story, and the struggle of so many who simply couldn't share their experience due to shame, fear, their career, or family and friends who don't know they've experienced this type of trauma.
Ms. Evans shares how especially vulnerable and susceptible aspiring actors are to what can happen on the casting couch. Since there is no clear cut path on how to make it in the entertainment industry, newcomers to the scene have to find their way and are often left to their own devices, which means they simply aren't aware of what can go on during the process of trying to make it in the industry.
Andrea shares with us the message that she hopes everyone will take from this movie, that more people will be aware of what can happen in this situation and hopefully this can be a step in the direction of raising awareness and empowering survivors of sexual assault to reach out for help, share their story, and hopefully be a catalyst for helping to prevent this trauma.
Rocking the Couch is currently available on Amazon Prime, Hollywood titans, Harvey Weinstein & Bill Cosby, have been brought to their knees by the #MeToo movement. The term casting couch has existed for decades in Hollywood, but in 1992, a case against talent agent, Wallace Kaye, was brought to court by 12 unknown actresses, who braved the loss of their careers, privacy & Hollywood dreams. Against all odds, they won, and no one listened, until now.
"Our documentary explores the case and asks, "Why didn't we hear about this?" More importantly, why didn't Hollywood learn from this case? For, if they had, maybe the Cosbys and the Weinsteins would have learned as well, and these sexual exploitations could have been prevented". - Rotten Tomatoes
We appreciate Andrea Evans taking some time out of her busy schedule to talk with us on Beyond Your Past Radio. We encourage you to consider checking out her film, and get a glimpse into a world that so many of us have never experienced but is none the less as real as it gets.
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Welcome to the next installment in the Mobile Musings series here on Beyond Your Past Radio. Each episode is recorded while out walking or driving, with nothing more than a mobile phone. You'll hear my thoughts on life, mental health, making a difference in the world and in the lives of others.
So how can we potentially see ourselves, and the world, in a different way? Do we even need to, and if so, why?
What kind of difference can it make in our daily life; personal, professional, relationships, everywhere?
In this episode, I'm out doing some walking, did ya notice the walking intro too? :) Thinking about how much of a difference it can make if we decide that maybe, just maybe, we can choose to approach our day, or a specific situation, in a new way?
Think about how you wake up each day, what is your mindset as you get ready to head out to work? What's going through your mind as you approach that lunch date with a friend? How much do you dread calling back that person you've been avoiding because you're afraid of what they'll say or ask you to do?
What if you could take a chance, a calculated risk, and ask youself what it might be like to see that situation differently?
How might that look to you?
Give this episode a listen as I talk about it on the podcast!
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-Matt
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May is GBS-CIDP awareness month, and what better way for us to help do our part here on the podcast than to talk with a fellow survivor of this rare disease, and get his take on his experiences during diagnosis, treatment, and how life has changed for him since.
Jeremy Oster reached out to me a couple of months back, when he was looking for connections to other survivors of GBS, and came across the podcasts I recorded about my experience. We chatted through email and on the phone, swapping stories, struggles, things we've learned along the way of our healing; and I thought it would be cool to bring him on the podcast to continue our chat during GBS-CIDP awareness month.
Jeremy was like so many before the onset of GBS; married, children, successful career in both technology and sales, and while he had his share of struggles personally and professionally, he was primarily living life the way so many of us do each day. Then out of the blue, everything changed, and ever since his life has taken on a new normal in a way he could have never imagined.
During our chat:
- Jeremy breaks down what exactly GBS is, and what it feels like to live with it each day both physically and emotionally.
- He shares what his life was like on a daily basis, an what happened just before Guillain Barre set in.
- The importance of moving past "how did I get GBS" and focusing on "what am I going to do about it".
- The toll this disease can take on a spouse and family, during treatment, recovery, and life afterward.
- Finding your new normal, and approaching life with the right mindset so you can be proactive in your healing, rather than just resigning yourself to what you think will never change.
If you'd like more information on this rare disease, related conditions and variants, treatment options, and how you can help support research, please head over to GBS-CIDP.org, the official foundation website to see how you can get involved.
To check out my other podcasts on this topic, check out "The Diagnosis that Changed My World", and my "One Year Later Update Episode" .
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Welcome to the return of Mobile Musings! A short weekly podcast sponsored by Beyond Your Past Radio and Beyond Your Past.
Each episode is recorded while out walking or driving, with nothing more than a mobile phone. You'll hear my thoughts on life, mental health, making a difference in the world and in the lives of others.
This was a segment that originally started a couple of years ago but we ended up getting away from it for no other reason than, well we just did. I really enjoyed recording these and now seems like a great time to bring them back.
So welcome back to Mobile Musings, the Reactivation..or the Return..or well, you get the idea.
In this episode, I share alittle bit about the back story and also the reason why I decided to bring this format back to be a companion to our full-length episodes which get released every Monday.
I share about the importance of knowing your limits, being able to pivot and adjust, and not trying your self-worth to the outcome of a project, or strategy change. I also share why burnout in any area of life is real, and why these episodes will help alleviate that concern.
Plus, there's nothing wrong with having a little fun with a podcast right? You'll see what I mean when you listen, and if you enjoy them you'll notice other cool quirks and fun stuff each time that hopefully will bring a smile to your face.
Please do let us know your thoughts on this raw, simple format which will begin being released every Thursday. Hit us up anytime at https://beyondyourpastradio.com/contact-us
-Matt
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Bipolar Barbie, a mental health advocate who shares her life on social media, joins me on this episode of the podcast to talk about this very subject and to share some of her life's story.
If you follow B on social media, you know that she is very active on live streams, documenting her life as she continues to learn who she is and along the way inspiring followers from across the globe who resonate with her vulnerable, honest, message. A message of, "be unapologetically you", regardless of what others think.
It's ok to struggle, to have bad days, and not have all the answers. It's ok to wake up and have no idea what the day is going to bring and how you'll feel; to be completely unsure of how you're going to manage from one hour to the next. Living with Bipolar, Depression, Anxiety, or anything else doesn't mean you are broken, hopeless, and destined to be something less than that you want to be. It just means, the way you get through each day, and accomplish your goals is going to look different than you originally thought, and that's totally fine. All that matters is that you keep going, keep fighting, and never give up.
During our chat, B. shares why she calls herself, Bipolar Barbie, and how she began this life of being a mental health advocate and sharing her story on a global scale.
We also discuss:
- The importance of being able to communicate effectively with a doctor or mental health professional about your diagnosis and the challenges you face every.
- Educating yourself on your diagnosis so you can take an active role in your treatment, and to help ensure you get the best treatment for you.
- Why her message resonates with so many people around the world, and why sharing her life so vulnerably and in an unscripted way, allows her to connect on a deep level with her followers.
- In addition how she also continues to learn about herself and further her own healing by sharing her life.
- How labeling someone and throwing around words like "mentally ill" in a negative context, only perpetuates the shame and encourages silence rather than seeking help.
- The importance of just being there for someone who's struggling, without needing to give advice or answers; just listen without judgment.
Thanks again to B. for coming on the podcast, especially with the large time-zone difference between our locations. There's a lot more that we didn't get too, and to be honest, what we originally planned to cover wasn't what we actually talked about. That's the beauty of chatting with someone and just letting the conversation flow naturally. Don't worry though, she'll be joining us again later this year as a returning guest.
You can follow Bipolar Barbie all across social media:
YouTube - Twitter - Instagram - Facebook
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Our guest on this episode of the podcast has dedicated her life to helping women in particular, and survivors as a whole, to find their voice. To begin to realize that they too have the ability to reach out for help, work through their past moving from victim to survivor, and ultimately from survivor to warrior.
Lisa Cybaniak is a Motivational Speaker, Success Coach, NLP Practitioner, and survivor of 10 years of child abuse. Over the last 3 years, her work has been featured on radio programs, podcasts, in magazines, and other media outlets. Her first book, Survivor to Warrior is due out in June of 2019. She outlines on her website, I've developed three healing streams to empower you to build a life of purpose after abuse, wherever you may be on your path to recovery: Reaching Out, Victim to Survivor, and Survivor to Warrior.
If you've not had an abusive background, but still suffer from low self-esteem or confidence, impostor syndrome or a lack of fulfillment in your life, you will find many options here for you too. Remember, if you keep doing the same thing, you can expect the same result. If you're ready for a different result, then you're in the right place!
During our chat with Lisa, Joanne and I talk with her about her survivor journey and her work with clients:
- Lisa shares about the multiple types of abuse she suffered at the hands of her stepfather, and how she found the courage to tell someone what was happening.
- The incredible story of how her mother came to her rescue, validating everything Lisa said was happening and immediately made plans to get her away from the abuse.
- The challenges of relationships and being able to tell her story to others; only a handful of people knew what happened during her teenage and young adult years.
- We discuss the importance of tying the validity of your abuse, and survivor story, to the outcome of a court case when filing charges against your abuser.
- The struggles of using detachment as a coping skill, and how that lead to suicidal thoughts and closing off from nearly everyone in her life.
- How she is using her life experiences now to work with clients, speak internationally, and continue her own ongoing journey of healing.
If you'd like to learn more about working with Lisa, her programs, upcoming new book, and her speaking engagements, just head over to LifeLikeYouMeanIt.com...and be sure and tell her, "Beyond Your Past, sent you". ;)
You can follow her on Twitter: @LisaCybaniak , Facebook.com/lifelikeyoumeanit, and Instagram: @Life_Like_You_Mean_It
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP
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Joanne recently had the opportunity to spend a few minutes chatting with Abby Johnson; Author, Speaker, founder of "And Then There Were None", and former Clinical Director of Planned Parenthood. Abby has been using her voice in support of the Pro-Life movement since leaving her career in the industry in 2009. Her story has been featured on Fox News, ABC, and many other high profile media outlets as she uses her voice to help encourage women to consider a stance of what she refers to as "pro-love".
As outlined on Abby's website: ...We see that every life, from the child in the womb, to the elderly - and in between, including the abortion clinic worker's life, has incredible value, and worth. We believe that abortion strips women of their dignity. We believe that motherhood is empowering. We believe that not conforming and giving into societal pressures when it comes to femininity is empowering.
We believe that justice applies to every single human being on this earth. We believe in redefining the pro-life movement to include everyone, every age, race, gender, religion, and every job.
During Joanne's chat with Abby, they discuss the movie now in theaters, "Unplanned", which is based on Abby's life experiences in working with Planned Parenthood and the events which transpired that ultimately changed her life; turning in an entirely new direction. Abby shares what the reaction to her movie has been, how important her support system has been to her, and what it's been like in her own life since releasing the movie. We encourage you to consider checking out the movie, regardless of where you stand on this issue.
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP
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Have you ever said to yourself, "if I only knew then what I know now?" It's quite likely you are nodding your head in agreement, as that old saying is timeless. For better or worse, it's one of those things that gets passed down from generation to generation. It comes in especially handy when you're giving advice to a child about what you've experienced and what they can learn from your mistakes. Of course, we all know we've heard that and didn't listen right?..but I digress.
Anyway, we wanted to share some of the things that we've learned along the way during times of deep healing in therapy, wisdom shared with us from therapists, friends, and others, or just revelations that come to us in the middle of the night. Don't you just love it when those happen?
So what have we learned?
- Reaching out for help is hard, but necessary.
- For that matter, it doesn't make you weak when you reach out for support.
- Gaining a greater awareness of yourself, and knowing your limits.
- Knowing when to go all in with healing and when to take a break; listening to your body.
- Focusing on your strengths, rather than "what's wrong with you".
- How you talk to yourself
- Self-Care as a preemptive strategy to help with burnout in trauma recovery.
- A few more important ones that you'll have to listen to find out. :)
- Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP
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Our guest on this episode of the podcast is Leslie Peters, RN. Leslie is a registered nurse, who left a career she loved, to step out of her comfort zone and start following her intuition and her heart, by sharing her story as a speaker, self-love strategist and accountability partner in self-care.
Leslie Peters is a woman who has spent a lifetime asking, listening and learning from others. The only person she never listened to was herself; she grew up, married and raised men with addictions. She trusted unhealthy people who loved her more than she trusted herself. Leslie says that this is actually the "Gift of her story". She felt no connection to her parents or husband - being an intuitive she knew she needed to feel connected for her survival. When she was 16, with the freedom of a drivers license, Leslie went in search of connection.
She quickly learned that on the other side of the door of her home was a world where she could let her true self-free. The world became her home and the people walking down them her family. She routinely asked strangers thought-provoking questions about themselves; Leslie always found a way to relate. Their answers confirmed that she was not alone in her story and that she was indeed part of something bigger than her own small world - the greater good.
During our chat with Leslie, we cover areas including:
- What is living life with H.E.A.R.T., and how she discovered this way of living is not always easy, but so important.
- Leslie shares the struggles she experienced in trying to live this way, and how she's been able to work through those challenges.
- Releasing the shame and anger she was holding onto for allowing herself to becomes something she wasn't, just to make others happy.
- How the ACES Study, (Adverse Childhood Experiences) plays a key role in all aspects of development; physically, emotionally, and cognitively.
- Understanding your ACES score and how it affects not only you but others in your life.
- Leslie's shares her score and what it's meant to her personally and in working with clients to help them understand their score.
- The healing that comes through neuroplasticity, awareness, education, and being in tune with yourself on a very deep level.
If you’re not familiar with ACES, we encourage you to google “aces score” or go to acestoohigh.com and other similar sites for more information on this groundbreaking study originally conducted by the CDC and Kaiser Permanente, and learn more about your aces score.
You can reach Leslie at LesliePetersRN.com or email her directly: Info at LesliePetersRN dot com
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Elisabeth Corey, MSW, and founder of BeatingTrauma.com joins me on the podcast as a return guest to discuss how writing and journaling can be an incredibly beneficial modality of healing. I first had the opportunity to chat with Elisabeth back in episode 38 as we discussed working with our inner parts to help heal trauma. Inner Parts work is a specialty of Elisabeth and continues to be a focus in her work with private clients and in her group sessions, webinars, and other resources created for survivors.
During my chat with Elisabeth Corey on this episode of the podcast, we're diving more into those aspects of writing I mentioned earlier:
- How writing from our inner parts can help us connect with what we don't remember.
- What exactly are repressed memories, why are they so crucial to healing, and what misconceptions are there surrounding these types of memories?
- How the idea that writing doesn't come naturally for so many but why it's so important.
- On that topic, the type of writing that Elisabeth teaches her clients and those in her programs is not supposed to come naturally because of you're diving into areas of your life that you've spent years trying to forget. In addition, the coping skills that served us during traumatic events can be a cause of keeping certain memories repressed.
- How naturally, or not, do our inner parts take to writing and being given a voice?
- Which parts are more resistant vs which parts are more open to having a voice?
- Connecting with your inner child and writing from a place of your inner child's voice and perspective, as opposed to an adults version of their voice.
- Flashbacks, and how they are not always the overwhelming memories that cause so much turmoil and turn our world upside down.
- The importance of using these as a learning experience in writing to help uncover repressed memories.
This was such an incredible chat with Elisabeth and she dives more in depth to those topics and shares her vast knowledge in a way that is validating and inspiring. I hope you'll consider checking out this episode and sharing it with someone who might find it helpful.
Be sure and follow Elisabeth Corey, MSW on Twitter @BeatingTrauma and her website, BeatingTrauma.com, where you can also learn about her programs, webinars, and workshops.
Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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Our returning guest for this week, Kelli Gettel, originally shared some of her story in episode 80, Life with Autism, CPTSD, DID, and Narcolepsy. If you haven't checked out that episode, you'll want to add it to a playlist on your favorite podcasting app and check out more of her story.
During our chat today, Kelli gives us an update on how her healing work is coming along, including:
- How she's learning to interact with her alters, and give them the voice they need.
- New memories of childhood trauma, including sexual abuse and being subjected to a pedophile ring.
- The struggles with trust issues, even with a therapist who you've been working with for a long time.
- The challenges of opening up and sharing, trusting others to hear your story, and how you share.
- The strain that living with DID and other mental health challenges can put on a relationship.
- The adjustments her husband is making and how much his support helps her and her family.
- Taking an active role in your healing, and educating yourself, as well as interacting with the survivor community for support.
Kelli lives in the central Pennsylvania area, with her husband and 3 children, including a 4 yr old who also was diagnosed with autism. You can contact her via email, kelligettel at gmail dot com, if you'd like to connect with her.
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Everybody has one, and it follows you around, constantly causing you to second guess your decisions. It creates an element of self-doubt, perpetuates anxious feelings, and generally make your life miserable if you allow it that kind of power. What is it...Your Inner Critic.
In this episode, Joanne and I are talking about the importance of not only recognizing it, but also responding to your inner critic This is such an important topic because it affects so many aspects of daily life, from personal to professional, relationships of all types. Virtually any aspect of your life is an opportunity for your inner critic to gain a foothold.
I wrote in a previous post on my coaching website about some strategies to deal with your inner critic, and in this podcast episode we take that post a step further and offer more thoughts and strategies that you can use to take back your power from that voice in your head that causes you to doubt yourself and your abilities.
- What does it mean to be in charge of your inner critic?
- How can giving your inner critic a name, be helpful and empowering?
- How your inner critic uses your past against, especially when it comes to struggles or perceived failures?
- How can you turn down the volume on your inner critic? What does that mean?
- How can separating yourself from your inner critic be helpful and how do you do it?
Remember, your inner critic is not your friend, it does not have your best interests at heart. It's there to make you believe that your best is not good enough, to perpetuate anxiety and unrest in your life, to steal your joy and contentment, and to bring self-doubt to the forefront of virtually every thought you have.
You can take back that power, keep your inner critic in check, and live life knowing that your past or present circumstances are not the end all be all definition of who you are.
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Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP
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I'm honored to welcome back returning guest, Vennie Kocsis, as we continue our conversation on how childhood trauma manifests itself in your life, both physically and emotionally. In particular, we're discussing the effects on dating and romantic relationships.
We had originally intended to dive into more areas, beyond relationships alone, during this episode but as often happens, there is so much to cover that we thought it best to focus our time on this important part of survivor life. While relationships can be difficult to understand and navigate for anyone, the unique struggles that childhood trauma brings into the equation, add a dimension that not everyone can understand.
Vennie Kocsis is an author, poet, artist, and survivor of Sam Fife’s Move of God cult. My creativity is the therapy by which I have survived the memories of abuse I suffered in my childhood. There are many caves where memories hideout, and I intend to travel them all in this lifetime. I understand the journey through trauma recovery, and I am here to share it with you.
During this episode of the podcast, Vennie and I discuss some of the struggles for survivors and relationships:
- The importance that "no means no" regardless of the tone of voice you use to verbalize it.
- Understanding the fear aspect, and how "the way we say no" to someone, can be based on your past experiences of sexual abuse.
- How dissociation can take over when you are in a romantic situation with someone, even if they are completely safe?
- Understanding why survivors tend to try and justify the actions of others because of the grooming that affected our self-worth.
- Healthy boundaries: not only the importance of having them in the dating and relationship world, but also the struggles of trying to find a way to implement and enforce them.
- Being in a healthy relationship that ends, and the challenge of not going down the road of self-shame and self-blame for the reasons it ended.
- Can a little bit of hypervigilance be healthy in the dating world?
- Even in a seemingly safe social situation, triggers can arise that make us feel unsafe, and why it's okay to remove yourself and not feel bad about it.
- The trial and error that is part of dating and relationships for everyone, but especially for trauma survivors and knowing that even if you do something that you regret, it's not the end of the world and you can learn from it and move on without self-shame.
This is such an important topic, and we hope you'll share this episode with someone who might benefit from it. After all, everyone can use alittle validation and encouragement in this area, right?
Be sure and follow Vennie on VennieKocsis.com and Twitter, Pinterest, and Facebook.
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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My returning guest for this episode is my good friend, fellow survivor, and advocate for survivors of childhood trauma, Vennie Kocsis.
Vennie Kocsis is an author, poet, artist, and survivor of Sam Fife’s Move of God cult. My creativity is the therapy by which I have survived the memories of abuse I suffered in my childhood. There are many caves where memories hideout, and I intend to travel them all in this lifetime. I understand the journey through trauma recovery, and I am here to share it with you.
I am a highly-sensitive, embodied Empath and integrated DID carrier. I productively live with the aftermath left over from extreme child abuse. I understand the journey through recovering from the shattering of religious and sexual abuse recovery. I know the work it takes in returning to our original, authentic mind and inner child. It CAN happen for you. It WILL happen for you. You can integrate the dissected pieces of yourself. You can heal. You can tell your story from a place of truth and vulnerability, rejecting critics and owning your own strength. I believe you. I support you. I am cheering you on!
During this episode, we are talking about the Physiology of Childhood Trauma, and how sexual abuse affects not only our mental health but also our physical health. These effects can carry over into adulthood and cause not only the physical struggles of chronic illness and pain but the deep wounds created by the trauma create emotional challenges that affect virtually every aspect of our life.
Vennie has done a great deal of research on this topic and shares some of that knowledge during our chat, as well as her own personal experiences of the abuse she suffered and the ways she continues to heal herself.
- We also cover some of the misconceptions of childhood sexual abuse, and how it's not always violent in nature.
- The connection between the biological DNA change of the body’s bacterial defenses when a child begins to eat the same solid foods as the family AND the nervous system at the end of the spinal cord which runs into the brain.
- The damage to the physiology of a child when they are so young and how this can lead to misinterpretations of their body as they get older.
Vennie and I share this candid discussion because it's the things that not everyone wants to talk about. These are some of the effects of childhood trauma that not only she herself has experienced, but so many others as well, and that's why we are doing this series. To shed light on how being a survivor of childhood trauma affects you as an adult, but also to share the hope in healing and the important research that's being down by leading experts across the globe to better understand not only how is affected but also how we can heal.
Be sure and follow Vennie on VennieKocsis.com and Twitter, Pinterest, and Facebook.
Look for more of our chat and we continue this discussion during part II coming up on March 28, 2019!
Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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Recovering from childhood sexual abuse, narcissistic above, emotional neglect, bullying, or any type of childhood trauma is not something you can rush through. It's a long process, full of ups and downs, struggles and triumphs, and virtually every emotion you can imagine.
One of the things I struggled with during intense times of healing was the concern of doing too much, too fast, and overextending myself without doing proper self-care. I was all in on my healing, which is not a bad thing at all, but at the same time, I often neglected the signs that I was approaching burn out or at the very least the signs that I just needed to ease off the throttle a bit.
The more I healed, the more I learned, and the more I wanted to keep going. That's not to say there weren't times when I just wanted to quit, because believe me those were quite plentiful as well. Still though, I was inspired and driven to learn about trauma recovery and how it affected me and what I could do to help myself. My therapist warned on more than a few occasions to take breaks and not "live, eat, and breath" this stuff so much. Hindsight is 20-20, and if only I knew then what I know now...
This episode is a look back at a previous podcast episode, #27, released back in 2017, and is one where I'm reflecting on this very topic of burnout in trauma recovery.
It's a good reminder for myself, and perhaps something to consider for you too, that the risk of burnout in healing from childhood trauma, or any type of trauma, is real but there are ways to help ourselves avoid this while still moving forward. After wall, we don't want to quit and undo all the hard work that we've put in.
With my co-host, Joanne Cipressi doing some traveling right now, this was a great time to launch this little project of re-releasing some previous episodes. Many of these older episodes are during the early stages of the podcast, and consist of me just sitting down and talking through my survivor journey.
I hope you'll enjoy this look back at my thoughts on how I dealt with this, by working through it in my head and with my therapist at the time. And remember, there is no time table in healing except the one you place on yourself. Give yourself the opportunity to heal at a safe pace and embrace the process, because the destination of healing truly is the journey itself.
If you'd like to be a guest for an upcoming episode of the podcast, we'd love to hear from you.
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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Our guest on this episode of the podcast discovered that his place of peace, of inspiration, of solace, was in the kitchen working as a chef. Spencer Gorman-Prow is the author of Solace in Chaos, a Chef's Memoir, which can be purchased on Amazon, both in paperback and in Kindle form.
An Executive Chef's memoir of how he was able to overcome seemingly insurmountable odds of child sexual abuse and tragedy and forgive himself in order to achieve success. Chef Spencer relates his journey to health, happiness and healing - all found within the chaotic nature of the professional kitchen. Prepare to be inspired and perhaps even find your own coping strategies within the context of your professional passion.
Spencer reached out to us to continue his journey of inspiring others by coming on the podcast to talk more about his story, including:
- How the childhood sexual abuse he experienced changed his life, and when he was able to begin working those memories as an adult.
- The lack of support available to him and how he navigated most of his healing journey alone until he met his wonderful wife.
- Why he initially turned to alcohol as a coping strategy and a way to numb the pain of those memories.
- Working through the trust issues, relationship struggles, as well as the self-blame that he internalized as a way to make sense of what happened.
- How he began to find peace in the kitchen, and what cooking offered him as a place of peace amidst so much pressure.
- How journaling helped paved the way for Solace in Chaos to become a reality.
- The challenges of speaking out as a male survivor, and the importance of sharing your truth to not only aid in your own journey but also to help inspire others.
Be sure and check out Solace in Chaos, on Amazon. A resource that will surely inspire you to speak your truth, explore your passion, and not be ashamed of who you are and what you went through.
You can also follow Spencer on Twitter: @ChefSpencer68
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Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP
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Welcome back to the Mental Health Megacast, a semi-regular round table discussion with 3 mental health advocates, podcasters, and survivors of circumstances we’d rather forget, who are trying to find our way through life and make a difference.
To that end, the Megacast is the combined collaborative brain powers (more or less) of Wes from AudioRising.com and Mike from MikesOpenJournal.com, and myself. I encourage you to check out and follow them online and through your favorite podcasting platform. Each of these guys has a tremendous message to share and an inspiring and unique way in how they go about it.
In this episode,
Wes brought up the topic of how we act and react around family members, and those who aren't necessarily active in mental health advocacy circles.
We discuss the challenges of living authentically both inside and outside the world of mental health and recovery.
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- What that authenticity looks like with family members vs friends vs colleagues vs those online who we interact with in our advocacy work.
- The challenges that arise when certain things are considered okay to say or talk about in some circles but not okay in others.
- The importance of fostering not only relationships with people who understand your struggles and the work you do in healing, but also those relationships that are just about having fun, relaxing, and blowing off steam...how this can be a form of self-care.
- The comfort level of sharing, and how much to share with those who don't necessarily understand life in recovery or what a healing journey is when they ask you to talk about it. The importance of not judging what we think they may or not understand, before we have a chance to talk with them and find out how interested they are.
- When to go deeper and share more, vs keeping information at a more surface level.
We hope you enjoy this latest episode, and if you do have suggestions for future shows, we are still taking them.
One of the best things about these episodes is that that they are completely unedited, unscripted, just us hanging out and having a chat, to which you are always invited to listen in on.
Be sure and follow Wes on Twitter @WesA1966 and Mike @Mike_Douglas_ & Open_Journal_ …oh and don’t forget to follow and subscribe to all of our shows on your favorite podcasting app!
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This podcast focuses on inspiring you to break free from the chains of your past and move forward to experience the world of healing, possibilities, and opportunity that comes with working through past trauma. We wanted to spend some time with you today explaining why this is so important. There are many who feel like they don’t want to let the past go and others that believe they just can't do it even if they did want too. Sometimes we find comfort in holding onto the past because its familiar or we believe that by holding and constantly reminding ourselves of the past pain, we can protect ourselves from future pain so we keep all those memories alive. We come up with countless reasons to justify we doing this is so important; things like “the past is a part of me”, “this is just who I am” and “I don’t know who I’d be if I let that go.”
We understand these statements and emotions because both of us, Matt and Joanne, have lived in that mindset for a long time. But, we also understand the amazing benefits of moving beyond that type of mindset -- which is why we do this podcast - in hopes that people will find the encouragement and motivation to move beyond their past so they can reap the benefits of doing so.
It can be challenging to know the benefits of something if you have not experienced them yourself. So, today, we wanted to share with you some of those benefits that you can experience when you dedicate yourself to your own journey of healing. Remember, everyone heals in their own way and it doesn't matter how long it takes you, all that matters is that consider the possibility of how much more fulfilling and enjoyable life can be when you make your healing a priority.
In addition to 4 primary benefits of healing, we also cover some of the reasons why it's so difficult to even attempt to begin healing past trauma in the first place; including reasons why we focus on the past, why it's hard to let go, and why we tend to focus on the negatives aspects of our life.
I hope you'll check out this episode and please consider subscribing on your favorite podcasting app and sharing it with one person who might benefit.
We also appreciate feedback too, so reach out anytime and tell us how we're doing!
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Leo Zaccari is a history professor, writer, and author of the psychological thriller ARKHANGEL. He teaches history at Brookdale Community College and loves thrillers, sci-fi, fantasy, and the paranormal. My book is a psychological thriller about a girl learning who she is and it touches on themes of coping with mental illness, isolation, alienation, and schizophrenia. I really hope that this book will help young and old alike feel that they don't have to be alone and that they can identify with a character who shares some of the same problems that they do, and that they can overcome them.
During my chat with Leo, he talks more about his first book, which begins a series that will see the main character and protagonist, Raven, begin a journey of self-discovery while confronting her personal struggles in ways she never imaged.
- How did he come up with the character, Raven, and what was his inspiration for writing the book?
- The types of research he found himself undertaking and how the research he did helped develop the main character and story.
- What he's learned most during his research, especially since much of the mental health world was new to him.
- How this new awareness has influenced him and what he would like to see changed in the mental health world.
- How does Raven's mental health pose a challenge in the story and how she begins to explore and overcome these challenges.
It was great to talk with Leo, not just to learn about his book but also to get his unique perspective of only recently entering the world of mental health struggles and things that people from all walks of life struggle with as a result of past trauma of all types.
As someone who spends a great deal of time engaged with the mental health community in many ways, it's important to always be open to new ideas and perspectives. It's often all too easy to be wrapped up in our own world as we see it, and there's certainly nothing wrong with that, but gaining a different perspective allows us to explore this world we are so passionate about, in a different way. Maybe that changes some things, maybe it doesn't but giving yourself the opportunity to explore mental health challenges in a new way can only serve to broaden our horizons and help to remember pause and think outside the box now and then. You never know what you might come up with.
Be sure and head over to Amazon and check out ARKHANGEL and also consider becoming a Patreon and join him on the journey of Raven and the adventures which await her during her superhero journey of self-discovery.
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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I cover the topic of DID regularly, both on this podcast and on Surviving My Past, and consider it an honor when a former guest is interested in coming back to continue our discussion. Rob Goldstein joins me regularly to discuss his experiences with DID, the things he's learned about himself, an continues to learn about his alters and the way they all interact with him in daily life.
As Rob outlines on his site RobertMGoldstein.com: I’m a Certified Mental Health Rehabilitation Specialist who became symptomatic with a dissociative disorder in 2010. When I started this blog in late 2013, it was to advocate for myself and other people with trauma-related mental health problems.
I wrote in my first profile statement that as I evolved the blog would evolve and over time, I learned about photography, digital art and I rediscovered my writing. I call the blog Art by Rob Goldstein but I can just as easily call it life by Rob Goldstein.
This is my life as I live it, evolve, process its history, and prepare for an uncertain future. My life is my work and my work is my art.
Art by Rob Goldstein is an expression of my emotional and intellectual evolution and an ongoing journal of my psychotherapy. I’m blunt, passionate in my beliefs, and willing to state my mind. If an honest exchange of ideas is what you want you’ve found the right place.
During this episode of the podcast, Rob shares his insight on an aspect of DID that we have not previously discussed, "do your alternates agree with your diagnosis"?
- When he was first diagnosed with DID, and now that he's been living it for many years, how do his alternates react to being diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder?
- He shares how much he knows about his alters, and if he is aware of all of them.
- What does it mean when alternates are distressed and how do they let you know they are distressed?
- How aware is he when his alters switch, and how does that affect his daily life?
- Setting healthy boundaries in relationships of all types.
- The struggles of virtual reality and gaming, while living with DID.
Be sure and follow Rob's Art and Blog over on https://robertmgoldstein.com and on Twitter at @Robrt_M_Goldste
You can also check out the Guest Blog posts Rob has written for Surviving My Past and the previous episodes on the podcast.
No Longer Sick with DID, I am Well with DID
Life with DID, where everything is a Trigger
Dissociative Identity Disorder, A Week in the Valley of Shadows
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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My guest on this episode of the podcast, Barbara Joy Hansen, shared her story on my blog previously and continues to find new ways to inspire, educate, and encourage survivors to embrace healing, release the toxic self-shame, and find hope through faith.
Long before #MeToo & #ChurchToo, I lived with a silent scream for 40 years; having experienced sexual, emotional, verbal, psychological & spiritual abuse. I now choose to use my voice to help others with broken wings to break free from shame. I am a pastor’s daughter who has risen above generational curses with my voice!
God has raised me from the ashes to give hope to deeply wounded & broken people including drug addicts & prisoners, as a result of my own inner soul healing. I recognize that lack of response on the part of churches when abuse strikes families of faith. I work with church leaders to help equip them to respond to the challenges they face today.
Grieving my tremendous losses, I wrote my memoir, Listen to the cry of the Child, where I share how victims of abuse often conceal their pain as they carry their scars. Chained as prisoners of their past, many hide in secrecy, afraid of the consequences of revealing the horrors of childhood experiences. On the surface, they may seem carefree and happy, yet inside, a festering wound exists. The only road to freedom from this prison requires confronting the past and revealing its pain in the light of God's love.
My story has been featured on The Dr. Oz Show, CBN Asia, radio stations, and many websites and blogs, and I am also a regular co-host of the Stop Child Abuse Now radio show, sponsored by the National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse (NAASCA.org)
During my chat with Barb, she shares deeply about her faith and the way God is using her and her husband to change the lives of countless survivors:
- Barb tells her story of surviving sexual, emotional, psychological, and spiritual abuse, and why she decided to write a book about her experiences. This is a very emotional story as you'll hear in her own voice how she survived and ultimately continues to overcome the effects of abuse.
- Her advocacy work recently took her to the Philippines as a humanitarian aid worker for two months. You'll hear a detailed account of the villages she visited, the people she met, and the work they did to help children, families, churches, and inmates in prisons.
- She shares how her message of faith and hope was received, and the lives that were changed as a result of her message and work.
- We talk about the opportunities to tell her story on TV, Radio, and other media outlets, and how her faith continues to open up doors for her to share her message of hope and healing for survivors.
Barb's story is one of deep sadness for the experiences she endured as a child, but also a story of hope, inspiration, and encouragement as she continues to be a beacon of light for survivors of trauma; sharing her story and how her faith has raised her out of the ashes and transformed her life.
To learn more about Barb, be sure and follow her on Twitter @BobbieJoyHanse1, Facebook @Barbara.j.hansen1, and LinkedIn. You can purchase a cope of her book, Listen to the Cry of a Child, on her website www.listentothecry.org.
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I originally shared my experience with GBS, in February 2018, in episode #58. That podcast took me quite a long time to record and the blog post even longer to write since it was right in the early stages of healing and I was still coming to terms with what happened. Still, I was compelled to write and speak my story as best I could, mainly because that's one of the ways I cope with things of this severe nature. You can check out that episode and detailed blog post, here.
During the last year, I've spoken to a handful of survivors of Guillain Barre Syndrome, and participate regularly in some Facebook groups full of survivors of GBS or CIDP (Chronic Inflammatory Demyelinating Polyneuropathy) who all have varying experiences with this disease and its variants. I've kept in contact with some of them regularly, and inparticular with a person I invited to become a guest with me here on this episode, Mary Catherine (MC).
MC is the Founder and CEO of Coffee and Cocktails with MC, a nonprofit organization whose mission is to help promote, represent, and support local, family-owned, and small businesses through a variety of media and social opportunities, to help further their exposure. She is also a blogger at MyBlindLife.com, where she documents her new-normal life as a wife, mother, small business advocate and survivor of GBS and a medical incident that left her visually impaired.
MC and I talk about our experiences with Guillain Barre, from how things were before the disease hit, how we both contracted it, our treatment experiences, and the ways we've worked through recovery since.
We talk about how much we've learned and the attitude and mindset we've had to embrace in order to heal from this dreaded disease. The struggles, the wins, and everything in between have helped shaped our individual lives since and also helped to give us a message to share with others. As you'll hear, and if you're a listener of this podcast you know already, the power of sharing your story can be an amazing means of inspiring and validating. It's something I try to embrace, and MC also is a big believer in finding ways to use her experiences to help others.
I hope you'll enjoy this episode, and take heart in knowing that throughout the recovery from this ordeal, one of the similarities you'll hear is that during healing, it's important to surround yourself with a good support system, both in person and online. The power of support is crucial to healing and whomever you can get to help you, virtually or otherwise, will make things so much better...especially during the dark, difficult times that will inevitably come but will also give way, in time, to new possibilities and hope.
Be sure and check out Coffee&CocktailswithMC to learn more about the work MC Derin is doing and the ways she is using her experiences to help others.
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
Guillain Barre Syndrome Survivor.
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My guest, Melissa Wilson, is a survivor of bullying and is now a Certified Coach, working with clients who have experienced bullying, and other forms of abuse and childhood trauma to help them get unstuck and move forward toward their goals and dreams. She is also a podcast host of, "The Grass Gets Greener Podcast" where she talks with survivors, professionals, and everyday people who have a story to share and ways to help inspire you to not give up even in the wake of a traumatic past.
I had the pleasure of being on Melissa's podcast a few months back, where I shared some of my survivor story of childhood sexual abuse and bullying, and how I've been able to work through those experiences. I hope you'll consider checking it out and sharing it with someone who might benefit from it.
The Grass Gets Greener represents hope and optimism. Sometimes you may feel as if other people have a better life than you, that the grass is greener on their side of the fence, so to speak. Well, this site is here to provide you with inspiration and support to help you overcome the effects of what you experienced that can make you feel this way. This site is here to help you become the person you are meant to be. To show you how the grass gets greener for you!
During our chat together, Melissa shares the experiences of bullying that she endured and how it affected her life:
- How and when the bullying began for her in school, when she was the new kid and experienced both physical and emotional abuse from classmates.
- She shares how the teachers in her school did nothing to stop it, and this helped fuel the fear of reaching out for help from her parents, due to fear of making the situation even worse. Her silence was the only thing she could control.
- Five years after the bullying stopped, she was finally able to tell her parents, receive the support she needed, and start to pick up the pieces.
- You'll learn how those experiences she endured help fuel her to learn more about herself, study Psychology, and how the effects of being bullied last well into adulthood.
- The importance of reaching out and telling someone when you need help, and how staying silent keeps you stuck and perpetuates the idea that you do not deserve help.
- We discuss the skills that Melissa developed to aid in her healing journey, and how even though she still struggles at times with the after effects, life is so much better because of putting in the hard work of education and healing.
Be sure and check out Melissa's Podcast, The Grass Gets Greener, over on her website, and available wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts. If you're interested in working with Melissa Wilson as your coach, drop her a line, she'd love to hear from you.
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Since I started this podcast a few years ago, it's been quite an interesting and exciting journey, to say the least. From the very first episode where I sat in front of my laptop, talking about being a survivor and the struggles of daily life, to now interviewing coaches, clinicians, and advocates every week; sharing their work and stories. I enjoy each and every episode and consider it a true honor to be a part of your day as you listen to the podcast.
Podcasting has allowed me to take the process of sharing my story to a new level, and as much as it's hopefully helped you as you listen to the episodes, it's helped me grow in my own journey even more. I'm also very grateful to my friends and colleagues at Mental Health News Radio Network, for the opportunity to be among a group of incredible advocates who aren't afraid to talk about the difficult subjects encompassing Mental Health.
Now, the next phase of the Beyond Your Past Podcast is about to begin, with the introduction of my new co-host, Joanne Cipressi.
Joanne is a Certified Coach and Survivor, experienced in a variety of modalities and skills which have helped her in her own journey as well as her coaching business working with clients, both in personal and business coaching.
You might remember when Joanne joined me on episode 107, where she shared some of her survivor story, and the importance of rebuilding trust in yourself and others. Ever since then, we've stayed in touch; supporting each other's work in social media and brainstorming some collaborative ideas, which has lead to her now joining me on the podcast.
Joanne Cipressi brings new insight and a new dynamic to the show, which I hope you'll find encouraging, validating, and yes even fun, too! Because hey, let's face it, as I've said many times before, there's no shame in interjecting some well-timed humor into difficult topics to help us cope and understand the challenges of being a survivor and living with mental health challenges as a result of our past.
Her experience in the areas of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Hypnosis, Reflexology, Reiki, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Age Regression Therapy, Holistic Nutrition, will surely bring new insight to the conversations we have on this show both as host and co-host, and with the amazing guests who join us each week.
Learn more about Joanne, including her survivor story and her work as a coach, by heading over to JoanneCipressi.com and be sure to follow her on Twitter
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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Licensed Psychologist turned Coach and Speaker helping moms bust the “supermom” myth and become more calm, effective, confident, and joyfully imperfect moms. Dr. Muller is not only a moms’ coach, but she also a mother.
As a wife, mother of two, and professional therapist for 17 years I have also struggled with the conflicting and multiple demands of raising a family and being a loving and attentive partner, while also pursuing personal fulfillment through my career. In my work I use my professional skills and personal experiences to teach moms--whether they work outside of the home or dedicate themselves exclusively to their families-- strategies to help them bust the “supermom” myth so they can reduce stress and be more calm, confident, happy and effective mothers.
During our, Dr. Muller and I discuss:
- How she began working with women, and moms in particular, and how her own experiences in life lead her to the decision of helping moms and trauma survivors.
- Dr. Muller shares her combined approach of trauma work, using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and the TEAM approach, which teaches that the agenda of therapy is not dictated by a therapist, or a diagnosis, but rather by what the client wants to work on.
- We also discuss exactly what CBT is, because let's be real, the mental health world is full of acronyms and we always want to make sure everyone is informed.
- What exactly is a "supermom", the pressures of trying to be perfect, and live up to the unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves because of what we see others doing?
- Key elements that are important in helping to heal from trauma. While Dr. Muller specializes in working with women, these principals are universal for all survivors.
- Work on your mindset
- Operate from Overflow
- Master Self-Acceptance
- Activate Self-Compassion
- Nurture Your Relationships
- We talk more about the self-acceptance and self-compassion aspects, and how difficult that is especially for trauma survivors.
- The most important thing to remember when beginning to work on your trauma and change the supermom or super parent mentality.
All this and more during my chat with Dr. Raquel Muller on being a survivor, a mother, and learning to be okay with who you are, and just as you are, and know that you are good enough.
To learn more about Dr. Muller, including her work as a therapist, her videos, and more about busting the supermom myth, head over to https://www.joyfulimperfectioncounseling.com/ You can also follow her on Instagram and Facebook by searching for "JoyfulImperfectionCounseling".
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My guest today, Melanie Vann, shares her insight as a clinician, on the debilitating effects of anxiety that she experienced in her life and also saw in her son as he grew up. In addition, we also discuss the benefits of being fully present, learning emotional regulation, and equine therapy to help with taking control of anxiety so it no longer controls you.
Melanie is the program director for Mental Health News Radio, and also a clinician and podcaster, as well as the founder and CEO of Your Wise Therapist. She has been in the mental health field for over 15 years and obtained her Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from Regent University and her undergraduate degree in Psychology from Old Dominion University. Her passion to help others embrace their hardships and heal has taken her to multiple realms of the mental health industry. Her expertise is multi-dimensional as she has counseled those suffering from eating disorders, brain injury, borderline personality disorder, depression and anxiety, self-mutilation, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, and unresolved grief.
During our chat on this episode of the podcast, we're talking more in-depth about understanding and coping with anxiety, and recognizing how it affects us in daily life:
- Melanie shares how from the time she was a young girl, she resigned herself to the idea that she was a worrier. She had no idea what anxiety was or how it was manifesting itself. She didn't understand why other kids seemed so calm and comfortable.
- As a child, nobody explains to you what's going on so you are left to try and figure it out for yourself, and again the cycle of perpetuating anxiety starts at a young age and we don't even realize it.
- One of the primary skills she used, not even realizing it, was to escape to her own mind where she felt safe and free from these anxious feelings.
- Learning to see the signs in your children and talking to them about what they struggle with so you can get them to help early on.
- We discuss how when you are unable to live in the moment and be fully present (mindfulness), it's difficult to find joy and contentment in life and consequently, anxiety can thrive.
- How managing anxiety is exhausting and since it can start when we're young, it carries over into adulthood.
- Using logic and rational thinking to combat anxiety. Expose the anxious feelings for what they are, rather than what they are trying to make you believe is true.
- Using writing and other coping skills to help get the feelings out of our head.
- How retraining our brain, to change the default reaction to specific situations that cause anxiety to spike, is a key to taking back your life.
- Equine therapy and the benefits of being around horses to help with anxiety.
- Melanie and I share some stories of our experiences with horses and how much they help you to be fully present because they themselves are always present and they will reflect back to you what you present to them.
- The resiliency and ability to come back to a calm state after being triggered is something that horses have down pat, and we can learn this as well.
All this and so much during my insightful and inspiring chat with Melanie Vann. Please be sure and check out, YourWiseTherapist.com for more information on Melanie's work. including her Coaching, Counseling, and Therapy services available. And of course, you don't want to miss out on all the incredible podcasts over on MHNRNetwork.com!
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My guest on this episode of the podcast, Marnie Grundman, has made it her life's mission to advocate for runaway for children and youth, and raise awareness to the reality of what really goes into the decision to run and what life is truly like living on the streets.
Marnie Grundman is the renowned author of MISSING: A True Story of a Childhood Lost, Which can be found on her website, MarnieGrundman.com. A child who belonged to no one, missing at the tender age of 13, she experienced first-hand the worst of humanity. However, she didn't just make it through; she rose above the darkness, becoming a beacon of light, of empowerment, for others to do the same.
She is living proof that no matter what life hands you, you have within you the spirit to rise, to rewrite the outcome of your story, to create a life filled with love and happiness.
What began as a story of healing led to one of triumph, of the power of the human spirit, of one woman's surthrival against all odds. Marnie has since become an advocate for the missing, working to change the perception of runaway children so they might finally get the help they need. Her compelling articles, engaging talks and interviews, and page-turning memoirs have become a shining light to the lost, the struggling. Marnie teaches people how not to live their damage, how to heal and overcome, how to rise up and reclaim a life of happiness.
During our chat, you'll hear Marnie and I talk about:
- Updates on her work and how her life has changed especially in the just the last few years. She discusses the stigma that surrounds childhood runaways, and her efforts to erase that by sharing the truth as seen through her own eyes and through these whom she advocates for every day.
- The reasons by young children and youth decide to run away, and how it's much more complicated than simply rebelling against household rules deciding to go on some kind of adventure.
- You'll learn how children who decide to run away are often not able to effectively articulate the reasons why, because they are afraid.
- They've been silenced and running is a way for them to try to speak out.
- How the very act of running and living on the streets is not some glamorous adventure, or a fun time of memories to look back on later in life.
- The 40th anniversary is coming up of her last runaway experience. The memories and wounds are still as fresh as ever, and the struggles are still difficult. This milestone is something that she continues to process, but the difference now is that even with those struggles, she has tools and knowledge to help her cope.
- Seeing how far she's come is inspiring and validating, but also heartbreaking because there is still so much work to be done to help the children and youth today.
- Realizing that while she has met so many people who are supporting her work and helping to spread her message and raise awareness, there are also many who do not support her; people who she was close too before she began speaking her truth.
- Her work with Covenanent House and her goal of doing "sleep outs" for all 31 Covenant Houses in North America, this calendar year, to raise funds and awareness for runaway and homeless children and youth.
- Consider taking a moment and give a smile, some change, or a moment of kindness to someone who is struggling. You never know the difference it can make to a child, youth, or adult who feels like nobody is listening and nobody cares.
I hope you'll consider joining Marnie in 2019, and participating in a Sleep Out or Donating. There is one ne
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The work I do now in overcoming anxiety and working with survivors, ultimately began in a therapists office and coming to the realization that I was a survivor, and what that meant was a revelation that has changed my life in countless ways. It took that first step though, of asking for help, which is at the heart of the conversation with my guest on this episode of the podcast, Emily Samuelson, Ph.D.
Emily is an author, and passionate activist on behalf of sexually abused children and adult survivors. Based on her experience as a psychologist and a survivor, she knows it is possible to heal. With over 35 years of experience, Emily specializes in the treatment of trauma. While living in Philadelphia, she was on the faculties of Temple University, Thomas Jefferson University and Hahnemann Medical College.
She has served on the Board of Stop the Silence and was a member of the Baltimore City Health Commissioner’s Sexual Abuse Task Force. Emily has been a consultant to the Ms. Foundation and RAINN, and has been a guest on numerous radio shows. She also wrote a chapter for the book, Celebrating the Wounded Healer Psychotherapist: Pain, Post-Traumatic Growth and Self-Disclosure, edited by Sharon Farber, PhD.
As it turned out, her practice is not far from where I live, so we decided that it might be a great idea to do my very first in person podcast. Everything went great, and it was an honor to chat with Emily and hang out with her awesome dog, Sam, while we recorded some thoughts about her book, "Soaring Above the Ashes, Thriving Beyond Childhood Sexual Abuse":
- Emily shares how she became inspired to undertake this project, which involved years of interviewing of interviewing survivors across the country; giving them the opportunity to break their silence and inspire others.
- How she continued to work through her own healing journey as she spoke with the survivors, and through their insight, learned so much more about herself.
- You'll learn how her abuser was her father; yet her family never believed her and threatened to alienate her if she wrote about her experiences. Ultimately she did lose much of her family because she refused to be silent and came to the conclusion that her healing journey was more important.
- We discuss the struggles of shame and blame, and how carrying that on your shoulders as a child is so difficult. The ability to put the blame on yourself as a child allows you to feel some control in the wake of events that were anything but in your control.
- Emily shares the importance of working towards a place of placing the blame and shame where it truly belongs, at the feet of those who were the abusers, or enabled those acts.
- We also talk about the struggles of reaching out and talking with someone, when staying silent seems like the safer move.
- The survival skills that served you for a time; such as dissociation and hypervigilance, should be acknowledged and appreciated for how they helped you.
- How can you take the positive aspects of dissociation and hypervigilance, and allow them to serve you and others.
- On that note, actually understanding that there are positive aspects of those struggles in the first place.
- We share more about the survivor community, and how much healing is out there when you simply look for it.
All this and much more during my powerful conversation with author, advocate, survivor, and Psychologist, Emily Samuelson.
If you are a survivor, at any stage of your healing journey, and even if you haven't started it yet, the insight that Emily shares will surely speak to you and inspire you. Please consider this important chat with someone who may need it, and consider checking out "Soaring Above the Ashes, Thriving Be
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Taking a unique approach to personal development, making it your own based on the circumstances you had to overcome and what message resonates with you, is exactly what my guest on this episode of the podcast, Devina Kaur, has done. After all, when you are dealing a history of mental health challenges, the cookie cutter approach isn't always going to resonate, much less be an effective tool for you to utilize.
Thinking outside the box is what Devina has done and it's allowed her to become a speaker, published author, and start a movement that encourages you to embrace who you truly are on the inside.
Devina Kaur is a fun-loving, flamboyant, straight-talking author, entrepreneur, filmmaker and inspirational speaker. Born and raised in rural India, she fought to reconcile her traditional upbringing with her ambitions. After a lifetime of being told she was too fat, too loud and too ambitious, her world fell apart in her 30s when her arranged marriage ended. Thirty years of desperately trying to be the person everyone else wanted had resulted in loneliness, depression and confusion.
During my chat with Devina, we discuss: (chapter time stamps included)
- How she did not like herself growing up. Her struggles with self-esteem about not only who she was and where she came from, but her weight and other challenges eventually found her sitting on railroad tracks contemplating taking her own life.
- When the shift happened in her life and the circumstances that allowed her to get to a place of accepting herself and loving herself. You'll learn how she left a secure job in the banking industry; even with all of the success, she was not happy and needed to discover who she was, take care of herself, and gain the courage to discover the direction that would lead her to a new life.
- How faith, confidence, experience, and your mindset are all key in your transformation. You'll learn how standing in front of a mirror helped her to reframe the language she used to describe herself, which would also change how she presented herself to others. Gaining inner self-confidence that comes from knowing yourself and your authentic gifts. Understanding both your strengths and weaknesses and that all of your parts, even the darkness, deserves love.
- Coming to terms with embracing brilliance, when she truly began to notice a shift in her life and have the ability to love herself not just accept herself.
- What can you expect when you visit her website, SexyBrilliant.com , attend one of her events or workshops, and embrace the Sexy Brilliant Philosophy of Personal Development.
- Devina shares some of her experiences in the dating world, as well as having to overcome several traumatic events in 2018, which resulted in the return of depression and suicidal thoughts. However, of the resilience she's built up, her support system, and having a firm understanding of who she is and what's capable of, empowered her to work through and overcome those struggles.
- How men view the Sexy Brilliant Philosophy of Personal Development, and respond to her message.
Sexy Brilliant - Empowerment from the inside out.
Be sure and check out SexyBrilliant.com for more information on Devina Kaur, including upcoming events, her book series, and appearances. Be sure to follow her on Twitter Facebook, and Instagram, all at TheDevinaKaur.
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My guest on this episode of the podcast, the incredible Michele Rosenthal is here to share some of her expertise in the area of PTSD and trauma recovery, including how her journey started and some of the experiences she's had a long the way that have helped to come to a point of being able to not only share her story but work with others to help them facilitate what their healing experience will be.
Michele Rosenthal's story, and her work, has been featured on NBC, CBS, The Washington Post, Women's World, Psychology Today, and many other outlets. She is a Trauma Recovery Strategist who began her healing journey in 1998 and has taken her recovery and made it her own by creating a healing intention and taking control of her life so that she could experience complete freedom.
As she outlines on her website: I learned about the importance of hope and belief – from inside myself and from those working with me. I also learned about the critical elements of self-empowerment, vision, meaning and identity. Plus, how we can harness those core strengths and apply them to healing trauma.
By the time I completed my trauma recovery transformation I’d learned a lot about what it takes to release the past, connect to the present, and build a new future. I’d also developed a really deep desire to do something with all that knowledge. Since then I have made it my focus to inspire, guide and assist survivors to overcome depression, worry, and fear as they rebuild their lives after trauma and adversity.
During my chat with Michele we cover:
- 4:45 - What does it mean to fully heal from trauma and what does that look like; how do we begin to facilitate that?
- 10:05 - We discuss the layers that make up Shame and Blame in trauma recovery. How do you get to a point of being able to share our story, and work through the fear that doing so creates. (as you'll hear, fear manifests itself in many ways during this process)
- 14:45 - We continue chatting about Fear in regards to moving forward in healing. How does fear hold you back? The problems with trying to control healing, so it moves at the pace you feel it should..and why that doesn't always work out. What being obsessed with healing can do to us and for us.
- 18:28 - Choosing your identity coming out of trauma, and how to continue that development. Creating and mastering the resources you need to sustain the changes you work so hard to implement.
- 24:40 - What is a Healing Rampage, and what did that look like for Michele. The process of clawing your way through everything that trauma has dumped on you, and giving 100% of yourself to the determination to be free. We also discuss what showing up for yourself means, and how healing is not just a once a week therapy session.We also touch on the benefits and necessity of working with a trauma informed therapist.
- 31:32 - Michele and I discuss some of the benefits of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) in healing from trauma and overcoming anxiety. The process of creating new neural pathways using the science of how the brain works. Using the language of the brain and how it works to your benefit to speed up healing and experience empowerment in such a more efficient way that feels natural and good to you as an individual.
- 38:38 - We wrap up by sharing more about the importance of creating and developing the tools that work for you, to sustain you once you've begun your healing journey and once you begin to reach the goals you've set for yourself, so you can handle what life throws at you and the struggles that will ultimately show up.
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So...New Years Resolutions. The very thought often brings about an eye roll, anxious feelings, perhaps apathy, just to name a few. If you're like many, you don't even bother with them because you feel like the don't work anyway so what's the point. For others, the start of each new year is an opportunity to try again with a renewed sense of confidence. Either way, you're not alone.
On this second podcast episode of 2019 (as you'll hear in the podcast I actually call it the 1st episode), I thought I'd take a few minutes and catch you all up on what's been happening with the show, the direction it's headed, and some other projects I'm working on...just in case you're interested in hearing some updates.
If you are..Great, then listen right from the beginning and you'll be all set.
However, if getting those news and notes isn't really your thing, that's cool too...just forward to the 6:50 mark of the podcast where I dive in to the New Years' Resolutions, Anxiety, and setting yourself up for success as much as possible with the goals you make for yourself.
We'll dive into things like:
- The worry of not accomplishing goals can stop you from even bother to set any in the first place.
- Extreme thinking, an "all or nothing" mindset, and catastrophizing can lead to self-shame with your goals.
- Deciding to make resolutions, or goals, is not a one shot deal, you can have as many do-overs you need.
- I share a bit more of using this "do-over" mentality to your advantage, not your detriment.
- Being vigilant about imposter syndrome, and old unhealthy, toxic mindsets that no longer serve you.
- Consider adding a goal of continuing something you're already doing, it's a great way to set yourself for a win with your goals.
- Make your goals, S.M.A.R.T.
- The 3 words, 1 simple phrase, you'll want to add it to every single goal.
Remember, whether you decide to set some resolutions or goals, or not...you deserve to put your healing first in 2019. Anxiety has no place in your life, so make this the year that you take your power back from Anxiety...and empower yourself for a change.
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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My guest on this episode of the podcast, Jeremy Schneider, MFT shares his experience as a survivor of trauma, and his work with individuals and families helped inspire him to write "Fatherhood in 40-minute Snapshots".
Jeremy G. Schneider is a marriage and family therapist whose career spans more than 15 years of working with individuals and families, focusing on parenting, relationships and mental health. For his work, he has been a featured in The New York Times, TODAY, and CNN and has been a speaker on panels in New York, Philadelphia, Dallas, and Liverpool, England. Jeremy lives and works in New York City with his wife, Gem, and his son and daughter, Lucas and Dorit.
During our chat on the podcast, Jeremy and I dive into some aspects of parenting as a survivor of childhood trauma:
- At 9 years old, he realized that not only did he have things he needed to work on in his own life due to a traumatic childhood, but that he wanted to be a therapist when he grew up.
- During grad school he came to a greater understanding of both himself and his family, and that if he was going to help others he also had to learn how to help himself.
- One of the most challenging things about coming to terms with a traumatic childhood is not only, "this is what happened to us and we had to deal with those events as a child", but also now as adults, "we are the ones who have to do the work to heal".
- How facing your past allows you to be much more free than if you continually run from it.
- How the trauma he experienced as a child still causes him to struggle at times today, but even with that ongoing struggle the realization that life is so much better now than ever before because he continues to put in the hard work of healing.
- Understanding that just because you will struggle as an adult, doesn't mean that we should just not even bother to try to heal.
- He shares about his inspiration for writing "Fatherhood in 40-minute Snapshots" and how the experience of writing has changed him, and his perspective on life and parenting.
My chat with Jeremy Schneider was such a great experience and I'm honored to have the opportunity to share some of his story with you here on the podcast. I hope you'll consider checking out his current book, as well as his memoir due out in mid 2019.
Be sure and follow Jeremy on Twitter and Facebook, and on his website, JGS.net. You can pick up your copy of Fatherhood in 40-minute Snapshots, on Amazon.
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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Welcome back to the Mental Health Megacast, a semi-regular round table discussion with 3 mental health advocates, podcasters, and survivors of circumstances we'd rather forget, who are trying to find our way through life and make a difference.
Officially, this is Season 2, Ep. 4 - but our numbering system isn't an exact science since this is actually episode 110 of my podcast, while it's also something different for Wes and Mike's shows. Anyways...we're just stoked for each opportunity to come together for an hour and chat about what's been going on in our lives; the struggles, the challenges, the wins and progress, and everything in between.
Anyways, just in case you aren’t familiar with the Megacasts, you can check out past episodes here, and also my cohorts platforms as well….
To that end, the Megacast is creation of the collaborative brain powers (more or less) of Wes from AudioRising.com and Mike from MikesOpenJournal.com, and myself. I encourage you to check out and follow them online and through your favorite podcasting platform. Each of these has a tremendous message to share and an inspiring and unique way in how they go about it.
In this episode,
after the usual cheers because we all got signed on at the same time (yes that's a thing we do and celebrate it because the struggle is real with us 3 and time) we begin the focus of this Megacast episode:
How things have changed for each of us over the last year, and how our lives have changed in terms of sharing our story and our advocacy work from the time we started, till now.
- Witnessing the evolution in each of our lives as we have changed over the last couple of years since we began this podcast collaboration.
- How the awareness of mental health has changed over the years, the availability of resources and help in the US and UK, and the ongoing struggle to speak up and ask for help.
- Struggles with anxiety and depression, and realizing that finding tools to help combat the those feelings is not a "one size fits all" approach; not everything works for every person, and if a particular skill does not work for you, it doesn't mean anything other than we just find a skill or skills that do work for us. We also share some of the skills that we all use in working through anxiety.
- Living life in the moment, and using mindfulness and perspective to help in recovery.
- and much more!
We hope you enjoy this latest episode, and yes if you do have suggestions for future shows, we are still taking them. ;) One of the best things about these episodes is that that they are completely unedited, unscripted, just us hanging out and having a chat, and you are invited.
Be sure and follow Wes on Twitter @WesA1966 and Mike @Mike_Douglas_ & Open_Journal_ …oh and don’t forget to follow and subscribe to all of our shows on your favorite podcasting app!
-Matt Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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Throughout this survivor of journey which has been such a huge part of my life in recent years especially, I have come across countless incredible people from all walks of life, from all around the world. I can still remember the first time I hopped online and searched for "survivor chats" on Google. That was a moment that forever changed my view of what being a survivor was, and it gave me a sense of the support available from people just like me who were struggling to work through a past filled with invalidation, abuse, and constant struggle.
One of the people that I connected with early on in my journey, was an incredible woman named Jody Betty. We met on Twitter and over the years have continued to follow each other, support our respective blogs, and collaborate. Jody wrote a post on Surviving My Past, entitled "The Safe Place that Saved My Life". Where she talks about how her mind takes her to a safe place, a safe memory, to escape the pain of an abusive past.
Jody is an active writer for her own blog, JodyB2016.wordpress.com, as well as being a regular contributor on Sick Not Weak, with her column, Raw and Open, and on The Mighty .
Her stories center around Mental Health Advocacy and writing about her own struggles as a 3 time suicide attempt survivor, and being diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, Major Depression, and ongoing struggles with passive suicidal ideations. Her traumatic past includes being sexually abuse as a child, sexually assaulted as a teenager, as well as experiencing domestic violence at home.
Jody bravely shares her journey to help others realize they are not alone, and that here is hope even when that means you somehow just survive the day, hour by hour. Throughout the years of her writing, and in the time that I've known her, countless people across the globe are encouraged and validated by the vulnerable way that Jody writes. She is as authentic as she is raw and open about her life; and through that vulnerability she is able to continue her own healing and help others along the way.
A few months ago, Jody reached out to me about coming on the podcast to share some of her story in a new way, by using her voice, literally. Of course, I welcomed the opportunity to chat with my friend and amazing survivor, because her story is one that cannot be told enough. Like all survivors who choose too, and are able to, "get this stuff out of our heads", there is comfort and healing by opening up and telling others about our struggles and triumphs.
During my chat with Jody on this episode of the podcast, she opens up about the abuse she suffered starting at birth and continuing into adulthood, and some of her ongoing story:
- Being born to a mother who was addicted to drugs and alcohol, and how her struggles in life began so very young.
- In and out of foster homes, each time being pulled out and relocated because of abuse happening in the home.
- An experience of nearly drowning which caused a fear of getting a bath or being around water
- Being sexually assaulted by a group of people at a party, when she was 16.
- That experience lead her to her completely closing out the world and shutting down inside.
- The trauma of seeing her adopted mother pass away after battling cancer, when Jody was 19.
- Her attempts at taking her own life, and the ongoing passive suicidal ideations that she lives with still today.
- Coping strategies she uses to fight back when life becomes
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Searching for our life's purpose, it's something that we can all strive for; merely not existing in this world and "going through the motions" but finding the true desire of our heart and where our passion is, and using it to help others. To not just wake up each day feeling like we are stuck with no hope of having a truly fulfilling and enriching life, but rather to live each day doing what we love and understanding that our purpose is unique to us.
Life purpose and helping others do not necessarily go hand in hand in everyone's view, but as we'll explore in this episode of the podcast, using your life's purpose to help others can make each experience so much more meaningful and fulfilling.
Business, archetype and releasing coach for ‘Mermaids,' singer with four recordings and mom to a bohemian son on the Canadian prairies, Beth Martens helps women ‘MerPreneurs’ be valued for their authentic life’s work. A ‘corporate cancer’ survivor, she now teaches women how to create and up level a divinely aligned business - so they can serve with the whole of themselves without spreading themselves too thin or burning out from over-giving. In addition to teaching the tools of high end business, she specializes in working with archetype and releasing coaching to help her clients navigate the emotional underworld, reclaim their lost energy and create abundance from love instead of fear.
Beth Martens is a 2 time cancer survivor, and has beaten the odds repeatedly throughout her life. Even when told she would not likely survive, she refused to give up on herself and her dreams of finding and embracing her life's purpose. "Over the 3 years of fighting for my life I lost everything – my house, my car, my ability to work, and several friends who couldn’t journey with me. I gave away my cats and all of the stuff I could no longer look after. I lost my hair, I looked like death itself and finally lost my hope to live.
That day I fell into the pit of despair. Dusk was falling, the room blackening and I laid there for hours on end in my parents’ book room, feeling my life had come to the end. When I finally caved and surrendered to all of the loss, and to death itself, instead of dying I had the most surprising breakthrough.
I saw who I really am. I saw that with nothing, I was intimately connected with humanity through what I’m here to be and do. And I saw how utterly fulfilled I was in that, despite having lost everything. What finally turned the key for me was working with archetypes. In discovering the ‘Mer’ archetype that was out of alignment for me I recovered enough energy that I completely healed, and never had to look back.
After recovering from cancer and the treatments, it took me more than a decade to build my calling into a business that served me and the people I work for equally. Now I teach women to do that in six months."
You are guided by your instincts about what is possible.But when you look out in the world it doesn’t reflect the vision you see. You are wired to serve others in the ways you are naturally gifted, emotionally inclined and expertly trained, and your soul won’t let you rest until you do it.
During our chat on the podcast, we cover more about power of working with archetypes and your life's purpose:
- What exactly are archetypes and do we all have them?
- How does working with our archetypes helping in healing from trauma, and overcome anxiety?
- How we can be in control of our emotions in a healthy way, and why it's so important.
- More about exploring our life purpose:
- What it means to explore your life purpose
- Why it's so important and why helping others makes it so much more ful
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Rebuilding trust; once it's broken it's one of the most difficult things to heal. Trust is one of those things that can take quite a bit of bending before it actually breaks. We give others opportunity after opportunity to save it. We can endlessly justify what someone in our life did to us, and how they didn't mean it, and how we shouldn't be so selfish and quick to judge for any number of reasons. We even blame ourselves for all the seemingly bad things we've done, and figure "who are we cut someone off just because...".
Yes, rebuilding trust in others is very difficult, but healing the trust in ourselves can prove to be more problematic. We are our own worse critic, right?
How could we let this happen, what were we thinking, we should have seen this coming...the list goes on and on of the words we tell ourselves to justify the emotional beating we feel is necessary. Blaming ourselves is always easier than blaming someone else, because we can control us...we can't control others.
When your trust in a parent, sibling, or authority figure is broken when you're a child, the road to healing is indeed rough but certainly not impossible. When that trust is broken again, as an adult survivor who is traumatized, everything comes rushing back to take it's seemingly rightful place at the forefront of your very being. All that hard work you did to heal and work through these emotions, all the progress you made, can seem like a distant memory. You may very well be knocked down temporarily, knocked sideways, and stumble a bit but all that you've done is not undone...you have get back up, dust yourself off, and keep going.
My guest on this episode of the podcast, Joanne Cipressi, has done just that many times in her life and now works with survivors to help them heal and rebuild that trust.
As she outlines on her website: I have been a life coach for about 20 years. Between my upbringing, personal experiences, and my educational training, I have put together formulas for helping people retrain the way they think, feel and act so that they can achieve their goals. I have worked with people on so many different issues, problems and concerns over the past 20 years, that she truly understands what people need in so many areas of their life.
I have seen the transformation power that retraining the way you think and feel has. When you learn to make your mind and emotions work for you instead of against you, your life truly does transform. With deep care and love for people, I work from a place or understanding, compassion and intuitive guidance to move people to change.
Joanne is trained in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Advanced Hypnosis, Age Regression Therapy, Timeline Therapy, Humanistic Neuro-Linguistic Psychology, Reiki-Master, and more. Using her skills and training, along with her personal experience as a survivor of both childhood and adult sexual abuse, she is able to help her clients through some of their most difficult circumstances a, transforming the way they think and feel about themselves, and embrace the progress of achieving their goals.
During our chat, Joanne and I discuss:
- Some of her survivor story, which includes sexual abuse by her step father when she was a child, as well as a sexual assault as an adult.
- Rebuilding trust in yourself, and others. The challenges and rewards of doing so, and why it's so important and affects many aspects of our life.
- Overcoming thoughts of and a mindset of suicide after trauma.
- How and why she decided at 19, to become a coach and help others. A very interesting story which includes a conversation between two strangers that gave her the motivation she needed to make changes in her life.
- How Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) has helped her find breakthrou
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Many guests who have joined me on the podcast come from a background of writing about their experiences. This method of coping paved the way, in many cases, to their to where they are today, and continue to aid in their ongoing journey of healing. For some, writing is an exercise in anxiety and simply too difficult an experience to endure because of the painful memories the come rushing back while exploring their feelings in this manner.
Writing is usually a solo activity, which in itself can raise the anxiety level to exponential heights; something of course we'd rather not experience any longer. For many however, myself included, blogging offers a way to get those deep-rooted feelings and memories out of our heads and in some ways, make sense of them. At the very least, getting these such thoughts out of heads, can help them seem not so intimidating.
My guest on this episode of the podcast, Shirley J. Davis, has spent a large part of her life writing, which has allowed her to exponentially aid her own healing journey from abuse which started at a very young age, and leading to Dissociative Identity Disorder.
Shirley Davis shares is a freelance writer, public speaker and grant writer who loves life, and hopes to help others to do so as well. Shirley lives with a severe mental health condition known as dissociative identity disorder but has made huge strides forward through many years of hard work and the help of a wonderful therapist. Her philosophy has become that life is not just an empty journey to simply survive and then die, rather it is a wonderful adventure to savor and enjoy.
She writes about healing from complex trauma and DID on her blog, Morgan6062.blog , CPTSDfoundationg.org , and many other outlets including NAMI of Illinois, and the American Psychological Association.
During our chat on the podcast, Shirley shares some of her survivor story, which includes abuse that started from birth, and continuing through age 15.
- Her personal experience in life with Dissociative Identity Disorder, and how she interacts with her alters.
- What prompted her to seek treatment, and what that treatment looks like for her in an ongoing basis.
- The process of giving her struggles a name, and how this helped her make sense of her life.
- Making sense of D.I.D., especially early on in her life when research and resources were not as readily available as they are today.
- Her daily life as a survivor and sharing how far she's come from the child who was abuse for so long.
- Making her way to the Fusion stage of D.I.D.
- Why writing has been such an important part of her life, including getting started with her own blog and CPTSD Foundation.
Be sure and follow Shirley J. Davis' work on Morgan6062.blog or simply google her name for the many outlets that share her work. You can also follow her on Twitter @ShirleyDavis18.
Please consider sharing this podcast with someone who might benefit from hearing Shirley's story and encouragement for trauma survivors and those with living with D.I.D., you never know the difference it could make. Don't forget to subscribe on iTunes or your favorite podcasting app.
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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Learning to break the cycle of abuse and heal past trauma can be a very spiritual experience for some survivors, and for those who have a desire to in touch with their spiritual side and using the energy of the universe to help in healing, working with a professional who specializes in Soul Transformation Therapy and Reiki can be an incredibly rewarding experience.
My guest on the podcast today is Liz Goddard. Liz reached out to me with an interest in coming on the podcast to talk more about her work in these areas and the benefits that working with a coach can have when a client is trying to heal deep wounds of the past by connecting with the energy around them.
Elizabeth is an Author, Spiritual Life Coach, Soul Transformation Therapist, Soul Plan Reader and Reiki Master Teacher; training with the Holistic Healing College in London. She work with women to help them understand why they attract abusive relationships and helps them heal the ORIGINAL wound. She believes that by healing the original wound you can feel whole, something you may never has experienced and allow you to take charge of your life.
Elizabeth has supported women who hadn’t realized they have been Emotionally Abused, but had been stuck in their lives not able to move forward and believing everything was their fault. She believes we take on our behaviours and beliefs growing up, and that some of these aren’t actually our own they have been handed down with each generation.
She herself has experienced both physical and emotional abuse in her life, but it was only when she was healing from a break-up that she discovered the cycle of abuse and although she had seen glimpses of similarities during the relationship, she was finally able to see the patterns in her life. During her healing journey, where she needed
closure, and to understand what had happened, she discovered the answers. She had taken all the blame for the breakdown and was left confused and drained both physically and mentally; a shell of her former self.
Elizabeth gives her clients the information and understanding they need, helping them see their own patterns and profoundly heal from the experience.
During our chat on this episode of the podcast, Liz and I discuss:
- Soul Transformation Therapy, what is it, how does it work, and what are the benefits?
- The importance of discovering and healing the original wound at the root of trauma.
- Her work as a Reiki Master Teacher, and learning more about what Reiki is.
- Animal Reiki, and the profound healing that can come in our furry family members.
- Why more men don't reach out for help to experience this type of healing
- The importance of not glossing over or overwriting red flags in all types of relationships.
Liz will be joining me again on the podcast in 2019 so we can dive deeper into her work in helping clients stop the cycle of abuse, recognize red flags in relationships, and learning from our past. In the mean time, I truly hope that you enjoy my chat with Liz Goddard on the podcast, and please consider sharing it with someone who might benefit from our chat...and don't forget to subscribe! :)
Learn more about Elizabeth Goddard, her ROAR program in Helping to Heal from Emotional Abuse, her Free Meditations available, her Book "Finding Lily", and more over on her website ReviveYourSoul.co.uk
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Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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Antidepressants, it seems to carry the idea of being a necessary evil for those who struggle with depression, any number of mental health challenges, including PTSD. It's not something that most would want to rely on, either temporarily or in an ongoing basis, but yet their effectiveness can bring about a world of positive difference when used properly and under the supervision of a trained professional.
I used medications to help get some struggles I had, under control, and while it took some time and several doctor visits to get the dosage, amount, correct, the results were with it. Using the medications to help regulate my mood, reaction to stress, and ability to cope did serve me for a time, and with the combined efforts of a trauma informed therapist, I was able to wean myself off of them in time, again staying in contact with a trained medical professional.
Millions of people rely on antidepressants or have used them in the past. In fact, in the United States alone, 16 million Americans experience a major depression each year, and at any given time about ten percent of the population is taking antidepressants. The popularity of antidepressants is increasing rapidly: there are about four times as many people taking them than in the 1990s. That means as you walk down the street, through the mall, or in the office, it's likely that someone you see is on this type of medication.
There's certainly no shame in using an antidepressant, but there is a certain amount of stigma and shame that can come with relying on a medication to help us in daily life. My guest today, Dr. Wallace Mendelson joins me on the podcast to discuss the use of antidepressants and share his expertise on how and why they work.
Wallace B. Mendelson MD is a Professor of Psychiatry and Clinical Pharmacology (ret) at the University of Chicago, and a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. He has authored or co-authored four books and numerous scientific papers, primarily in the fields of psychopharmacology and sleep medicine. His most recent book, The Science of Sleep (available on Amazon), shares with Understanding Antidepressants the goal of providing the scientific background of a group of disorders in a non-technical and very readable manner.
During our chat on this episode of the podcast, Dr. Mendelson and I discuss the following, surrounding the use of antidepressants:
- The use of antidepressants to help with PTSD. Which medications are actually FDA approved for PTSD, and how doctors choose between the correct ones to use with someone who's experienced trauma.
- Concerns and apprehensions about using antidepressants.
- The potential benefits of using antidepressants with therapy modalities such as CBT and Interpersonal therapy.
- CBT - (in the area of depression) works on the idea that some kinds of thinking in which a depressed person does, can contribute to making the depression worse. Changing those beliefs, processes, and thinking patterns.
- Interpersonal therapy - oriented to the way you interact with another person; having satisfactory relationship with others as being a critical part of ones overall mental health.
- How antidepressants actually work; what they do in the body and brain.
- The importance of taking an active role in your treatment, and educating yourself so you can better understand your progress and interactions with your medical and/or mental health professional.
- His book, Understanding Antidepressants: which outlines in a non-technical, lavishly illustrated introduction on how antidepressants affect the brain, and a more general presentation of how drugs are absorbed, distributed, and eliminated from the body.
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It's no secret that one of the keys to life, is balance. Lean too much towards work, and we can lose focus on our personal life and risk burn out. Lean too far towards the personal side, and we can end up losing sight of the career dreams and things we want to accomplish. When you toss Mental Health into the equation, it adds a whole new dimension to this struggle.
Not only do you have to juggle your personal and professional life, what ever that looks like for you individually, now you have any number of mental health challenges that bring about their own daily influx of struggles. Talk about the need for balance, right!
As a mental health and LGBTQ+ advocate, and current MSW student, Lee Thomas shares her thoughts on this topic and several others during this episode of the podcast.
I first met Lee when I came across her weekly Facebook Live show, Crazy Talk, after the HealtheVoice 2018 Conference. Lee regularly interviews advocates, clinicians, professional, survivors and others all around the topic of mental health and advocacy. I was honored to be on Crazy Talk earlier this year (you can find that episode by clicking here) and now I'm pleased to have Lee join me on Beyond Your Past.
Lee was born and raised in a small town in northern Alberta. From a young age they were heavily involved in athletics, student government, and other extracurriculars. However, during their teen years they began battling a mental illness. Feeling scared and alone, Lee struggled silently for many years. Their illness worsened throughout their high school years and continued into university, until Lee finally sought help and began the difficult process of recovery.
After Lee began the recovery process, they realized that there were still many people struggling with mental health issues in silence. To reduce the stigma around mental health issues on their campus, Lee founded the #MyDefinition poster campaign in 2014. Since then, Lee has been working as a motivational speaker and mental health trainer, speaking to groups of all ages and sizes about their own mental health experiences, the important of reducing stigma, and LGBTQ+ issues.
While continuing her graduate education in the field of social work, she continues to serve as a speaker, trainer, and writer in the mental health field; her work has been featured on The Mighty, TEDx, CBC News, and more.
During our chat on the podcast, we cover some of the struggles and triumphs in her life so far as well as her future work as social worker serving the LGBTQ+ community and others who know what it means to struggle with a mental illness such as depression, eating disorders, bipolar, and more:
- Her struggle with depression, eating disorders, and self-harm in her teen-age years.
- The realization that she had been suffering in silence for so long, and then learning what a mental illness means for her.
- The limited information available about mental health when she was younger, and what she re-learned later.
- Starting the #MyDefinition poster campaign and how that lead to acquiring speaking engagements and sharing her story at conferences and workshops.
- The 3 keys of validation she needed to get started in her career: Passion, Knowledge, and Something She was Good at.
- What vulnerability looks like for each of us
- Staying busy and the risk of doing so to avoid confronting and working through tough memories and emotions.
- How staying busy reinforces the mindset of "uncopewithable" situations, and how this can set back healing.
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When you come to a breaking point in your life, continuously being beaten down time after time, struggle after struggle, never seeming to gain your footing for any length of time, one of the things you might find yourself doing is praying for help and for wisdom. You reach out for help to God, the great spirit, the universe, or the higher power you connect with.
Healing from physical wounds is one thing, but healing emotional wounds is something entirely different. Not to minimize the pain of physical trauma at all, that's difficult enough as it is and can leave lasting traumatic, emotional wounds that go far deeper than the physical ones that can heal in time. When you're talking about the deep, deep wounds of emotional trauma that leaves scars only you can see; you need more than the body's ability to regenerate over time on its own.
It requires a commitment the likes of which you may have never experienced before in your life. Unpacking those old wounds that you've tried so hard to bury in the bottom of your mind, for years, even decades, is not something to be taken lightly. However, the rewards that can come from reliving those memories, processing and learning from them, and forging your personal healing path, are truly life changing.
Healing unresolved trauma takes a combined effort of mind, body, and spirit; which is exactly the message my guest on the podcast today is sharing with the world. Alexis Acker-Halbur is the founder and creator of the Never Give Up Institute, and the author of "Never Give Up: Break the Connection Between Stress and Illness".
Alex offers anyone who has suffered trauma or loss not just one way forward, but many. A survivor herself—of an astonishing number of traumas including, sexual, emotional and physical abuse, sexual exploitation by a therapist, rape, and cancer—she describes the connection between mind, body, and spirit and shows how the stress and anger she has experienced connect to her life-threatening illnesses.
I was in a hospital bed, diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer, and fighting for my life—not once but twice. I suddenly saw the connection of how stress and trauma made me so sick. I knew at that moment I needed to survive and find ways to help me thrive.
I founded the Never Give Up Institute to help you understand how unresolved stress and trauma can cause illness, increase financial difficulty, and keep you from living a meaningful life.
As a survivor myself, and someone who works with trauma survivors, the message that Alex shares today on this episode of the podcast, and what she teaches in her book and online program, "T.R.U.T.H.", is one that resonates so much with me. I'm so honored to share our conversation with you. During our chat, Alex and I cover the following topics:
- Some of her story of being a survivor, which includes childhood sexual abuse, physical abuse, rape, sexual exploitation, failed relationships and more, in addition to dealing with colon cancer, breast cancer, and auto accident, type 1 diabetes, and other medical issues.
- The experience of going for a colonoscopy and hours later finding herself being prepped for surgery for colon cancer. She tells of laying in the hospital and praying for answers and help.
- Her prayers were answered in the form of being presented with a list of every trauma she's ever faced, every disease or physical challenge, and the matching correlation to a past that involved a multitude of unresolved trauma.
- What she did with this information, and how it took it happening twice for her true heal
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Whether you are an advocate, mental health professional, a family member or friend of someone who struggles with a mental health challenge, or you yourself live with your own struggles, we can all agree that raising awareness and doing our part to help erase the stigma of mental health is needed now more than ever.
We can all do our own part, using our talents, gifts, and hard work to help make a difference in our local communities. After all, this is where we live, work, and socialize; it's where we spend so much of our time each day. So why not do what we can to make our little corner of the world a place where people can feel empowered to ask for help when they need it, and to not feel ashamed or alone.
This is exactly what Cynthia Chazen is doing, with "The Stigma Free Zone", in her local community of Bergen County, New Jersey.
The Stigma Free Zone, started by founder, Mary Ann Uzzi, in Paramus New Jersey, has a mission of inspiring public interest and open dialogues about stigma, raising awareness of the local mental health resources available, and breaking down barriers of mental health in local communities.
Cynthia and I first met at the HealtheVoices Conference in 2018; she is an enthusiastic advocate who believes everyone can educate about mental health. She is the editor of the Stigma Free Zone News of New Jersey, and has a huge following on Twitter where she shares both local and global news about mental illness. You can subscribe to her newsletter by checking out her Facebook Page, SFZNewsofNJ.
During our chat on this episode of the Beyond Your Past Podcast, we talk more about The Stigma Free Zone initiative, including:
- How the Stigma Free Zone movement started in New Jersey, and is spreading across the country.
- How you can get involved and create your own chapter in your local community. Get the toolkit here.
- You don't need to be a mental health professional or have a degree, to make a difference.
- How mental health education is the area for grassroots organizing.
- Giving people permission to talk about their own mental health struggles.
- Some of Cynthia's story of the challenges she faced in her life that inspired her to take action for others.
Be sure and follow Cynthia Chazen on Twitter and check out the Facebook Pages for the Stigma Free Zone for more information on how you can get involved where you live.
If you'd like to be a guest on a future episode of the podcast, you can contact me anytime. Don't forget to share this episode with someone who might need it; together we can all continue to make a difference.
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
All conversation and information exchanged during participation on the Beyond Your Past Podcast, on BeyondYourPast.com, and BeyondYourPastRadio.com is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Nothing on these podcasts or posted on the above mentioned websites are supplements for or supersedes the relationship and direction of your medical or mental health providers.
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Something I learned a long time ago, from both a therapist, and later from a coach, and to be honest more than a few others, is to celebrate the wins, no matter how small they may seem. It's something I encourage clients to do, talk about on the podcast often, and reference in blog posts. It's a regular reminder on the daily recovery support calls, it's something that I have written down right on a post it note on the wall, right behind this monitor.
So when I talked to a friend about a week ago, and was sharing just in passing that I was coming up on episode 100 of the Beyond Your Past Podcast, she said to me, so how are you going to celebrate that?
Uummmm, what? I replied?
"How are you going to celebrate this win, acknowledge this milestone...it's a big deal", she said.
I thought about it for a minute and said, well it's funny but this episode kind of snuck up on me, landing at 100; and so I hadn't really thought of doing something special initially. Of course it was then that I got a taste of my own medicine; a reminder that if I'm going to encourage someone to do something good for their journey, I should remember to do it more often too.
So...here we are at episode 100 of the podcast and I figured it might be a good idea to take a brief break from the normal routine and just talk with you for a while about what's been happening over the last year including some events over the last 12 months that have changed my life in ways I would have never even thought could happen.
As I tossed around some ideas on what to do, I had a brainstorm of making a compilation of highlights from a select number of episodes over the last year. However the more I thought about it, trying to decide which episodes to choose and which sections to use, it became a daunting task that I would never have been able to finish in time for my regular schedule. Plus, each and every guest, and their episodes are equally important and have their own special message, so trying to decide who would make the cut just didn't seem like something I would be ok with doing.
So I figured, hey, I haven't done one of those, "talk to you guys" episodes in quite a while, and now just might be a good time to do one again.
I'm happy to do just that on this milestone show, number 100...and I'm thankful that you've decided (or at least are considering) giving it a listen. And heck, maybe even share it with someone who might find it interesting as well. I know, living on the wild side, right!
During this episode, we'll chat about:
- What is Surviving My Past, how and why did I create it and how does the podcast fit into the blog. For that matter, how did Beyond Your Past form anyway.
- A look back at earlier episode topics and how the podcast has evolved from earlier show design and topics, to current episodes.
- The last 12 months of events, both positive and challenging that found me facing:
- Death of my dad
- The marriage of my daughter
- Birthdays and Holidays
- A rare illness that sent me to the hospital and a subsequent ongoing recovery.
- Continued education and finishing several new certification programs
- Leaving corporate America after 17 years and striking out on my own, full-time.
- New opportunities that have developed and a partnership with a friend and mentor, and now colleague.
- and more.
Thank you again to each and every one of you who listens each week and shares the podcast episodes; together we are reaching survivors, practitioners, and advocates all over the world with the message of hope, validation, and inspiration.
Remember...celebrate those wins, every single one of them and don't minimize the progress you've made so far and the path you are on that will continue
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Since I began recording this podcast, I've covered the topic of Dissociative Disorders and specifically, Dissociative Identity Disorder, quit a bit. Each time I talk with a practitioner or survivor of trauma who lives with DID, I always walk away from the conversation having learned something new, and with a further appreciation of the amazing people who live with DID every day of their lives.
I would definitely encourage you to check out some of the previous episodes with guests like Erika Reva (The We in Me), Robert Goldstein, Lisa Tobe, Erin Fado, Analie Shepherd, Elisabeth Corey, and more!
Anytime I have the opportunity to talk about Dissociative Disorders, I always jump at the chance because it means that someone else wants to speak up and share their story, or a practitioner wants to share their work and how their approach is helping trauma survivors with DID. This episode is no exception, as I'm so honored to talk with Kathy Broady, MSW, of Discussing dissociation.
DiscussingDissociation.com has been around 2008, and has been steadily growing ever since; offering a place for survivors, their family and friends, practitioners, and anyone who wants to come and learn about DID and share their experiences in a safe place. This incredible website offers videos, educational materials, shared artwork, therapy resources, blog articles, podcasts, and a host of materials on recovering from trauma. If you're interested in learning more about DID and Dissociative Orders of all types, you'll definitely want to make Discussing Dissociation a regular destination on the web.
I've been talking with Kathy for quite a while and we were finally able to get our schedules to line up and chat for a bit on the podcast, diving more into some specific aspects of DID, some of which have not previously been covered on past episodes.
- Living with DID does not mean you are crazy, psychotic, or looking for attention.
- When talking with someone who lives with DID, how do you address them? Should you address all of their parts or alters?
- When and Why do people who live with DID switch from one alter to another.
- The differences between dissociative amnesia and losing time or missing time.
- Some primary keys for healing:
- Safety, both inside and outside worlds.
- Internal communication / System Work
- Connection to the here and now
- When and How to do memory work without destabilizing the survivor.
- Tips for spouses, partners, and friends of dissociative survivors.
- Are there certain types of trauma that can increase the likelihood of developing DID?
Talking with Kathy was such a joy, and I'm sure that you'll get as much out of hearing her share her wisdom as I did. Her approach is genuine and validating with just the right about of humor; you'll feel as though you've known her forever as you listen to her speak about her experiences and her work in the field of trauma recovery and specifically with dissociati
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As you begin to learn how your past affects your present life, you start putting the puzzle pieces together of why you feel the way you do, what your specific triggers are and where they stem from, why you struggle in certain areas of life, and a myriad of other things start to come into focus and you have these "ah ha" or "lightbulb" moments when suddenly everything makes sense.
I've had many such enlightening moments during some very intense and difficult times in a therapists office, or working with a trauma informed coach. I can remember saying things like, "I never know that my self-esteem problems were because of being bullied. I didn't realize that my learning disability may very well have developed due to childhood trauma. The problems with my weight and issues with food are not simply some genetic family problem, but have been intensified and increased due to childhood sexual abuse and other trauma. The list goes on and on, and needless to say this revelation was both empowering and disheartening at the same time.
Realizing that all of these struggles were not my fault, and were either caused by or greatly influenced by past trauma, could have taken me down a very dark road. To be honest, it did for a time. Sitting with that realization was difficult, but one of the ways that I began to work through it was to use these situations and this information as a learning experience. Something I could take, so that I could change the tide of what was ahead for me, rather than just accept that I destined to suffer and struggle in these areas for the rest of my life.
One of the biggest hurdles that I continue to work through, is in the area of food, and because of this struggle I am always on the lookout for ways to discover and understand how the mind and body work in the wake of past trauma, and specifically in this case, with eating disorders, food struggles, and gaining weight.
My guest today, Dr. Carolyn Coker Ross, joins me on the podcast to discuss the connection between trauma and eating disorders.
Born in Houston, Texas, Dr. Carolyn Coker Ross spent her childhood in San Antonio where as the oldest of five children, she comes from a long line of physicians and healers. Her mother’s father was a well-known physician in Bryan, Texas, who opened his own hospital and nursing school. His mother, Betty Love, was a Cherokee medicine woman.
Dr. Ross’s own personal health crisis and the diagnosis of her mother with Alzheimer’s led her on a journey to healing in which her perspective about medicine changed and her desire to focus on integrative medicine led her to the University of Arizona’s Center for Integrative Medicine. Dr. Ross completed a two-year fellowship in Integrative Medicine, studying with Dr. Andrew Weil. Her path then led her to work as the head of the Eating Disorders Program and the Integrative Medicine Department at world-renowned inpatient hospital, Sierra Tucson where she pioneered the Integrative Medicine approach to eating disorder treatment. She currently works in private practice in Denver, Colorado, as an addiction medicine specialist and suboxone doctor who specializes in opioid addiction treatment. She also is a consultant for treatment centers across the country on eating disorders and integrative medicine. You can learn more about her practice, and how she got started in medicine, by checking out her bio on her website, CarolynRossMD.com
I'm so honored to talk with Carolyn on the podcast, and dive a bit deeper into some of the struggles with food and weight that are not only close to my heart but affect so many who listen to the podcasts and read the blog posts both here and on Surviving My Past. Durin
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One of the keys to healing from trauma, overcoming anxiety, working through depression, addictions, and virtually any other struggle is figuring out a way to get what's in our heads, out of our heads in a way that feels safe, validating, and in compliance with who we are as individuals. By doing so we begin to chip away at the self-shame that so often comes when battling any mental health challenge.
By showing up authentically, to ourselves and the world, even in the wake of extreme events, we gain confidence and resilience. We learn that what happened to us, does not define our future, and the struggles of our past only have the power that we allow them to have. This certainly does not mean that we should try to rush through recovery, or feel as though we should just get over what's happened. Instead, simply understand that, in time, we can learn to live and thrive in our present life, rather than being held back by the very thoughts, feelings, and coping strategies which served us for a time, but are now keeping us stuck.
My guest on this episode of the podcast, is someone who has developed a very unique approach to work through those very struggles that no longer serve us. William Pullen, creator of Dynamic Running Therapy, is a practicing therapist in the U.K., working with clients not only utilizing DRT, but also integrative psychotherapy in areas such as : substance abuse, emotional abuse, anxiety, relationship struggles, career change, life transition, self-esteem, depression, and more.
Integrative Psychotherapy aims to facilitate wholeness between the feeling, behavioural, cognitive, and physiological levels of functioning – in other words the whole person. This is done in part through looking at aspects of the self that you may be unaware of and making them conscious. Together we can look at the life you want for yourself and how to achieve it. Change takes time and cannot be rushed. I believe in providing focus and space, not pressure. I believe in removing expectation, often routed in the demands of others, and instead aligning ourselves with what we feel inside. Change comes about by clearing a path to where we want to be, not forcing our way through to it.
I work in a way that is warm, empathic, non-judgemental, and direct. I am not a therapist who will stare at you in silence. I also believe there is a place for humour in therapy. My work draws on many theoretical orientations and styles. Because each person is unique, my work is different with every person that I see. I tailor my approach to help you and your individual needs. I offer a comfortable and confidential space where you can look at your life free of expectation or judgement.
Dynamic Running Therapy includes the use of a smart phone app, and William's book, Running with Mindfulness: Dynamic Running Therapy (DRT) to Improve Low-mood, Anxiety, Stress, and Depression. You can find his book on Amazon, and the app is available for iPhone users in the app store.
During our chat on the podcast:
- We dive more into what exactly Dynamic Running Therapy (DRT) is, how it works, and how this strategy can help not only with self-esteem, anxiety, stress, and depression, but many other mental health challenges.
- His Tedx Talk, "Movement is Medicine".
- How the struggles of his past, not only in childhood but challenges in adult life,
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Admitting out loud to yourself can be difficult enough, but admitting to another person can be downright scary, embarrassing, and shame inducing. When you come face to face with an addiction of any type, it means you're taking the first step in a difficult recovery, but one that is absolutely possible. After all, without Hope, what's the point of trying to heal, right?
My guest on this episode of the podcast is Shena Tubbs. Shena is a Licensed Professional Counselor, MMFT, LPC, CSAT-C based out of Texas, and is an expert in the areas of Love Addiction, Sex Addiction, Sex and Love Addiction, and Trauma Recovery.
As she outlines on her website, ShenaTubbs.com and listed on Psychology Today: I help women from around the globe who struggle with creating and living in fantasy relationships with unavailable partners, often losing their boundaries and self-esteem for the promise of “love.” Some people call it codependence. Some people call it sex and love addiction. Some call it intimacy disorders. ...No matter the name, I am here to help.
Through our time together, you will be able to let go of desperation and feelings of low self-esteem, not be dependent on emotionally unavailable partnerships, and regain control of sexually compulsive behaviors by learning to love yourself first. Together, we may work on unresolved trauma and combat self soothing by overindulging in things over/under eating, shopping/debting, and overworking. Together, we help you break free of these patterns. I believe that you can have it all without losing yourself, and I want to help you get there.
Shena is also a host of her own podcast, Love Junkie, which I had the pleasure of being on not long ago. Shena graciously invited me to join her to discuss the connection between anxiety and trauma. You can listen to that episode by clicking here. Thank you again Shena!
During our chat on this episode of Beyond Your Past, Shena shares her expertise in the areas of love addiction, sex addiction, sex and love addiction, and how unresolved trauma can affect these addictions and inhibit healing. Some of the specific areas we cover include:
- Shena shares some of her story, which includes being the oldest of 3 sisters, being left in charge of many responsibilities in caring for her sisters, and growing up experiencing emotional neglect.
- As an adult, how going to a sex addiction meeting, after realizing she was crossing boundaries in her own life that she never thought she’d cross, changed her life, and over time helped her pursue a career as a therapist.
- The differences between sex addiction and love addiction, and what is "sex and love addiction"?
- How codependency fits in with sex addiction and love addiction, and is every sex and love addiction person codependent?
- What does recovery look like for someone struggling with sex and love addiction; what can you expect during the process?
- How a connection to God and her faith played a role in her own recovery.
Shena's expertise has proven to be invaluable to her clients and those who listen to her podcast. I'm grateful to have the opportunity to share her knowledge on Beyond Your Past, so definitely give the podcast a listen. Even if you do not personally struggle with sex addiction, love addiction, or codependency, you may someone who does and sharing this podcast with them may make a huge difference in their life.
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When I first started blogging, the primary focus was living with Dissociation, Anxiety, and PTSD. After all, those are the things that I struggled with the most. Being a survivor of childhood trauma, I never knew that I could have PTSD; for so long I thought that was only for those who were in the military. I had never even heard of Dissociation until I spent a couple of years working with a therapist. Anxiety, well I knew I was anxious but I didn't realize how much it was affecting my life and how those anxious feelings had turned into full-blown anxiety.
As time went on and my work with a therapist continued, and then working with a trauma informed coach, I began to learn about this concept of Post Traumatic Growth. It sounded intriguing to me since I was engulfing into healing so much that I figured it had to start paying off eventually, and this Post Traumatic Growth thing sounded like the path I was headed toward, which was exciting.
Wait, did I just say that trauma work was exciting? Well not really the trauma work itself, but the healing sure was. That's how I approached this journey; as a learning experience. I figured, if I had endured the childhood sexual abuse between 5-10 years old, if I had experienced more bullying in middle school than I cared to admit, then I should at least try to learn from it and use it to my advantage. I didn't want the trauma to be the end of my story.
My guest on this episode of the podcast, is Counselor, Teacher, and Author, Lucille Zimmerman. She is an expert on Post Traumatic Growth, and shares her insight on this subject with us on the show.
Lucille Zimmerman has a Master of Arts in Counseling degree, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor. She works with individuals and groups from supportive to insight-oriented psychotherapy, and has worked in a variety of mental health facilities, which included crises/resource oriented counseling to more one-on-one insight therapy.
I have experience treating people in crises, coping with health and midlife issues, eating disorders, struggles related to self-esteem, child abuse, trauma, and marital difficulties. I work with adults treat many people with a wide spectrum of emotional struggles and concerns. I work from a bio-psycho-social context and my treatment approach is adapted to each individual according to need. I am also trained in EMDR for trauma.
On the podcast today we dive into some specific aspects of Post Traumatic Growth, including:
- Some of her story, and how past traumatic events in her life, including the Columbine Shooting in 1999, affected her and lead to begin searching for how she could help others who experienced all types of trauma.
- Just because you experienced trauma, does that automatically mean you will get PTSD, and what factors contribute to PTSD?
- Why do some people grow as a result of trauma, while others stay stuck
- Keys to Post Traumatic Growth, and ways that we can help ourselves heal and learn from the trauma.
- How ruminating can actually be a good thing, and even necessary, in order to experience Post Traumatic Growth.
I encourage you to listen to Lucille share with you all of those topics and more on the podcast. We spend a good deal of time talking about those keys to growth and why some people struggle while others are able to heal; and as we talked I was examining my own life and how some of the skills and strategies I used to during some deep parts of my healing, were the very same ones she mentioned as well. In fact, I still use those skills today
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So how do you recognize you are in an abusive relationship? For that matter, what is a toxic person, and how can you see the signs of an unhealthy relationship? Why do you keep justifying the behavior of our spouse or partner when they are treating you in a way that is not loving and encouraging?
Those questions alone can cause an incredible amount of unrest in your mind, and if you are currently in or were previously in a toxic relationship, you can likely relate . You know something is wrong, you know you don't feel loved, understood, respected, and appreciated. At first everything was wonderful and then overtime, things began to change. You think it's you, and wonder what you did wrong and how you can fix it. You justify his or her reactions and think that in time it will get better, but unfortunately so often that is not the case.
My guest on the podcast today, Kim Saeed, shares her expertise in the field of healing from toxic relationships and understanding narcissistic abuse.
Kim is an internationally respected self-help author and educator specializing in recovery and rebuilding after toxic relationships. She is the founder of kimsaeed.com, a life transformation site that teaches people to flourish after narcissistic abuse. She is the author of the Kindle bestseller, How to Do No Contact Like a Boss! and is currently writing an upcoming book, The Way of the Warrior, for Balboa Press, a division of Hay House.
I truly believe that devastating situations can be catalysts for transformation if we let them. We don’t have to live lives of conformity or stay in abusive relationships. We don’t have to be victims of generational dysfunction or do things the way our parents and grandparents did them. We don’t have to hang onto dead dreams because we’ve been told we should. All of us – including you – have the power of choice.
Her resources reach 9 million people and her YouTube channel is filled with incredible content about every aspect of understanding and healing from narcissistic abuse. If you don't subscribe to her channel already, you're missing out on so much important information, presented in a way that will fill you with an empowering mindset to take back control of your life and relationships.
Kim Saeed and I discuss the following topics during our chat on the podcast:
- Some of her personal story and what inspired her to start advocating for narcissistic abuse awareness and recovery.
- How to recognize you're in an abusive relationship.
- The most important things to remember for someone who has recently left a dysfunctional relationship.
- How long-term narcissistic abuse can cause brain damage, and ways that we can begin to heal that damage.
- Advice for those who are still in a toxic relationship, and what if it involves children and shared financial responsibilities.
- The best way to go "no contact" with a toxic person. Break it off slowly or cold turkey?
My chat with Kim was an amazing experience. I was already a big fan of her work and getting the opportunity to learn more from her was something that I know I benefited greatly from and I'm sure you will too. If you know someone who is currently struggling with any of the situations we talk about, please consider sharing this with them.
It's never too late to start taking control of our life back, and protecting ourselves from further pain and damage at the hands of a narcissistic spouse, family member, friend, or boss.
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Mental Health overall has been getting more visibility in main stream media and socially, now more than ever. The awareness continues to increase, and more and more people are understanding the importance of not only their physical health, but also their mental health.
We don't always realize however, that our mental health at work is just as important as when we are outside of the office or job site. With the responsibilities of every day becoming more and more strenuous, we find ourselves with fewer and fewer opportunities to address our mental well being. There's a million and one things that pull us in a million and two directions every single day, which means that self care can go by the way side in favor of simply trying to make it through the day. Opening up and talking to someone; reaching out for help when the pressures of life become overwhelming, feels more like a luxury than a necessity. Or worse yet, feeling like asking for help is a sign of weakness, rather than self-awareness and strength.
My colleague, friend, and fellow podcaster, Petra Velzeboer joins me on this episode of the podcast to talk about her work as a mental health business consultant, as and how using her own life experiences helps break down the walls in the workplace, and encourage employees to speak out about their own struggles and not be ashamed in asking for help.
I also had the honor of being Petra's podcast, Adversity to Advantage, where I share some of my story of surviving and thriving after trauma. Give it a listen on her podcast website or your favorite podcasting app.
Petra Velzeboer is a psychotherapist, living in London, as well as an executive coach, mental health consultant, speaker, and podcaster. Her expertise of mental health in the work place, allows her to travel abroad speaking to companies or all types, about the importance of addressing mental health within the company. By sharing some of her own story to help break the ice, she encourages employees from all walks of life to normalize the conversation of mental health in their lives.
During our chat on the podcast, you'll learn how Petra was raised in a religious cult, where she experienced multiple types of abuse and public punishment. By the time she was able to leave and strike out on her own, she had no idea who she was, and how to survive in a world that was so foreign to her. The pressure was so great that she found herself nearly unable to function outside of that atmosphere, and this quickly lead to thoughts of ending her life.
In a final effort to survive, she made a pact with herself to give it 1 year to figure things out and learn to live successfully like she saw others doing. This was the opportunity she needed, and during that time she learned and practiced mindfulness, living authentically, taking care of herself, and realizing her own potential to not only survive, but thrive.
As she shares, you'll learn more about her struggles with being sexually assaulted, living as a young mother of two, struggles with relationships and boundaries, eventually through all her trials; realize her calling as a therapist and coach. Even in the midst of extreme trials and circumstances, she was being transformed into someone who now inspires and encourages others not only in the work place, but in their personal lives as well.
Petra talks about the important lesson she learned in the darkest parts of her life and throughout her ongoing healing; to show continue showing up in life. Be authentic, and keep tearing down the walls that only keep others out, but keep you from receiving the help you need as well.
We discuss the importance of allowing yourself a designated time to "fall apart", and feel the emotions and st
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Welcome back to our self-proclaimed, Mental Health Megacast, a semi-regular round table discussion with 3 mental health advocates and survivors who are trying to find our way through recovery.
I think we've finally nailed down a proper episode numbering system for these "shows within a show" that the 3 of us are doing. So this one is officially, Season 2, Ep. 3...at least that's what I'm calling it.
Anyways, just in case you aren’t familiar with the Megacasts, you can check out past episodes here, and also on cohorts platforms as well….
To that end, the Megacast is creation of the collaborative brain powers (more or less) of Wes from AudioRising.com and Mike from MikesOpenJournal.com, and myself. I encourage you to check out and follow them online and through your favorite podcasting platform. Each of these has a tremendous message to share and an inspiring and unique way in how they go about it.
In this episode, we talk about how doing not only the Megacast, but also our own individual shows, has influenced our journey of healing. How has talking about mental health encouraged us, challenged us, and forced us to confront some things about ourselves that we never thought we would have. We share the education aspect of doing these shows, as well as the humor; the challenges and the rewards. We also do a bit of catching up, and organically dive into the topic of a fear of failure, not only podcasting but in advocacy, and in our personal lives. The doubts and fears can be very powerful, and if we aren't careful can keep us treading water instead of moving forward.
We also....wait for it...actually deciding on a new approach to figuring out what to talk about on these collaborative shows. If you're a regular listener you know that we also mention our struggles with time, and trying to figure out a topic to discuss. To be honest it's not much of a struggle, it's just become something we joke about more than anything else, but at the same time the beauty of this collaboration is that once we start talking, subjects just come up and we run with it. So instead of trying to figure out a gameplan for the next show, we're just going to let it unfold naturally and see where each one takes us...rest assured whatever we discuss it will be with our own unique flair and about mental health.
We hope you enjoy this latest episode, and yes if you do have suggestions for future shows, we are still taking them. ;)
Be sure and follow Wes on Twitter @WesA1966 and Mike @Mike_Douglas_ & Open_Journal_ …oh and don’t forget to follow and subscribe to all of our shows on your favorite podcasting app!
-Matt Pappas, CLC, CPNLP
All conversation and information exchanged during participation the Beyond Your Past Podcast, on BeyondYourPast.com, and BeyondYourPastRadio.com is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Nothing on these podcasts or posted on the above mentioned websites are supplements for or supersedes the relationship and direction of your medical or mental health providers.
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Trauma survivors have literally experienced first hand what many could not even comprehend. A past filled with abusive parents and caregivers, toxic family members and friends, and a childhood full of secrets that, when told, can make your hair on the back of you neck stand up on end! It's a past that none would wish for, yet is more common than we realize. Chances are if are reading this or listening to the podcast, you know someone who is a survivor, or perhaps you are one yourself.
What about a different type of trauma though, one where you don't need to experience first-hand, in order to feel its effects. I'm talking about intergenerational trauma, and I'm honored to be talking with expert, author, and coach, Emily Wanderer Cohen about this very subject.
Over the 2 years or so that I have been recording this podcast, I've covered many different types of trauma, modalities of treatment and healing, and talked with incredible survivors who have overcome tremendous odds and now share their story to help inspire others. This is the first time I've covered intergenerational trauma, and I learned quite a bit from talking with Emily.
Emily Wanderer Cohen is a two-time international bestselling author, speaker, coach, and intergenerational trauma expert.
A second-generation (2G) Holocaust survivor, she knows what it feels like to live with transmitted trauma and helps her clients, including second- and third-generation Holocaust survivors; sexual, spousal, and child abuse survivors; and other genocide, natural disaster, and other severe trauma survivors heal from the trauma, move forward with their lives, and stop the cycle of intergenerational trauma.
So what exactly is intergenerational trauma is (also referred to as inherited trauma or transgenerational trauma)? As Emily explains, it's described as effects of trauma that the sufferer did not experience first hand. She dives deeper into that explanation during our chat, as well as:
- Does it only affect descendants of Holocaust survivors or others as well?
- What are some of the common signs of intergenerational trauma?
- How can someone stop the cycle of transmission?
- How do we know it’s real? Are there any scientific studies that you can point to?
Emily also shares case studies and information on how those who have experienced this type of trauma often have lower cortisol levels, and therefore can be less equipped to handle this or any other type of trauma than someone who has normal cortisol levels. Intergenerational trauma survivors also have an increased likelihood of developing cardiovascular disease and trauma based chronic illnesses such as Lupus, Fibromyalgia, and more.
We cover these topics and more as Emily Wanderer Cohen gives us insight into a type of trauma that can begin to manifest itself without the survivor ever even considering the possibility of its existence in their life.
I encourage you to listen to the podcast and do some additional research, including checking out both of Emily's international best selling books: From Generation to Generation, and The Daughter's Dilemma.
You can follow Emily Wanderer Cohen on Twitter, Facebook, and her website, TraumaHealingCoach.com
I hope you'll consider sharing this podcast on your social media, and maybe even subscribing and leaving a review on your favorite podcasting app! I would definitely appreciate it.
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP
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As fate would have it, divine intervention, or just total coincidence (not that I believe in coincidences), recently on the Beyond Your Past Podcast, I've been talking with guests surrounding the area of men's mental health.
Being a guy myself, it's not like I haven't covered this topic before on the show, however given recent events politically and socially, I'm glad that these recent episodes are helping to shine light on the male side of mental health and being a survivor of trauma. We are truly all in this together, regardless of gender, and the more we continue to bring this out into the open, the more we chip away at the stigma and shame of reaching out for help.
In episode 89, I talked with Andrea Schneider LCSW about overcoming shame, feeling alienated in regards to the #metoo movement, and reaching out for professional help as a male survivor of trauma.
My guest here on episode 90, fellow podcaster, advocate for men's mental health, and friend Al Levin.
"I’m an assistant principal in a public elementary school. I’ve been in education for nearly twenty years. I’m married and have four children. I’ve recently completed all of the coursework in working towards a Co-Active coaching certificate through the Coaches Training Institute. The coaching work has allowed me to support the staff I work with in the public schools, as well as others who are seeking support in reaching their goals or working past challenging times in their lives.
I am also a person who has recovered from a major depressive disorder, an illness that was quite debilitating for nearly six months of my life. Through this experience, I have become very passionate about learning more about mental health and supporting others with a mental illness, particularly men with depression. In addition to this blog, I speak publicly for the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and I tweet @allevin18."
Al's podcast, The Depression Files, and his advocacy work focuses primarily on men's mental health and specifically with depression, along with encouraging men to open up and seek help when their depression reaches a level where thoughts of suicide begin to surface. Al Levin himself was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and knows first hand what's like to wake up in the middle of night contemplating ways to take his life, feeling like a burden on his family and society, and living life completely consumed by depression.
His website, also outlines more of his story of "how everything seemed to be going well, yet everything seemed to come crashing down." Which is precisely the topic of our conversation on the podcast. I wanted to chat with Al because his story is one that so many men and women today can relate too. A guy who's life was seemingly humming along; good job, hard work paying off with a new promotion, loving wife and family, good friends, yet something lurking in the background and beginning to surface that he didn't expect.
During the podcast you'll learn how:
In 2010, Al received the promotion he had been working so hard towards, but once he took on the new responsibilities, everything began to change and his was slowly but surely being turned upside down. The stresses of late hours, budget constraints, managing staff, and oversized classes began to take its toll. He was running on adrenaline more often than not, not sleeping well or eating properly, and not communicating with his wife, family, and friends.
How those events translated into seeking help from his family doctor and starting on medications to help with a new diagnosis of depression.
As things began to continue spiraling down, affecting his job, family, and friendships, thoughts of suicide began to surface.
How waking up in the middle of the night aft
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For all of the progress that has been made in recent years in the area of men's mental health, or male mental health; it's still a subject that can yield a variety of responses based on not only who you talk too, but also the current social media and political climate as well.
I can remember back when I was I was in school, (and no the 1980's weren't all THAT long ago) the subject of mental health in general was not something you heard much about, and even less in the area of men's mental health. We didn't have bullying prevention rally's in school, sex education was a 1 semester class in your senior year, and intro to psychology was class you took to study the reactions of other classmates when you asked them certain types of questions.
Nowadays, mental health is all over social media, commercials on TV and radio, there are podcasts devoted to all aspects of it, incredible advocacy groups who share knowledge and help inspire change, and overall the exposure that this previously ignored and taboo topic is getting is encouraging.
So why is it then, that for all of that positive movement, there are still so many that feel ashamed to talk about it with a doctor or therapist, much less discuss it around the campfire or weekend cookout?
My point is, to reiterate that while we have come a long way, there is still so much work to be done. So much stigma and shame to expose in the area of men's mental health. I feel it's important to mention that I am by no means minimizing the important of mental health in women, but for the purposes of this podcast with Andrea Schneider, we'll focus more on the male challenges of this topic.
Andrea Schneider, MSW, LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker in private practice in San Dimas, CA. She received her MSW from University of Michigan (the top ranked social work program in the country) and her B.A. in Psychology from UCLA (#2 in the country).
During her 20+ year career, Andrea has counseled thousands of individuals and families covering a broad range of issues and challenges, developing specialties in maternal wellness, narcissistic abuse recovery, special needs parenting, and grief/loss. Andrea is EMDR trained, a modality which helps clients dealing with a wide range of concerns in trauma recovery, including PTSD, complex-PTSD, relational trauma, depression, anxiety, grief and loss.
She also has experience in helping children and families deal with loss and trauma issues. Not only is she trained in EMDR, but during her Master’s program, Andrea interned at a hospice agency and trained under an art/play therapy program. She uses art intervention in her treatment with both children and adults, and has a Trauma-Informed Expressive Arts Therapy Credential from the Trauma-Informed Practices and Expressive Arts Therapy Institute.
Andrea is also a fellow podcaster on the Mental Health News Radio Network, where you can find her show, The Savvy Shrink.
During our chat on the Beyond Your Past Podcast, we discuss some areas surrounding men's mental health including:
The man card, and tough guy image that follows males regardless of background
Building the trauma language, emotional language, and confidence in opening up to others
How men are getting more confident in reaching out, yet still feel ashamed and self-conscious
How much political climate and social media affect our confidence in talking about mental health, and how much we share.
Bullying and mental health, and the changes from decades ago and now in 2018.
Men and the #MeToo movement, including the feelings of alienation that are present even with all of the exposure.
Andrea Schneider and I dive more into each of those topics and hopefully shed some light on not only men's mental h
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Healing and Transformation, something most of us have likely heard about in one form or another. Perhaps it's in regards to mending a broken heart, transforming negative mindsets, or a shift in the way we feel about ourselves in everyday life. When we're talking about healing from trauma, it's all of those ideas and more.
When you are working through something that has negatively affected your life on a level that perhaps you don't even fully comprehend yet, your core beliefs are shaken and many times completely twisted so much that you don't even remember who you once were. Or, you have very little idea, if any at all, of being any other way than what you've been groomed to believe and accept.
Changing those negative core beliefs is an essential part of healing, and if we're being honest, it's vital to our healing. If we don't learn to transform the very way that we see ourselves in all aspects of life; healing becomes exponentially more difficult. Essentially we are fighting to change something that we aren't willing to or don't know how to change, because it's been so ingrained into our minds over years, decades even.
My guest on the podcast today, Christy Maxey, talks about the importance of changing negative core beliefs with 3 key components of healing and transformation.
Christy Maxey, MC, LPC, is based out of Arizona, and works with clients locally and virtually in the areas of depression, anxiety, relationships, trauma, self-esteem issues, divorce, and PTSD. She has also branched out into personal development coaching, which you can read more about on her website.
Christy utilizes a method she created and developed, called the Maxx Method, which helps manage emotions, identify the inner critic and find ways to change negative core beliefs, solve the wounds that keep you stuck, give yourself permission to dream and learn how to take action now on your own behalf. You can learn more about her Maxx Method by clicking here.
During our chat on the podcast, Christy talks further about the essential components of healing:
Awareness
Acceptance
Self-Compassion
As you listen to Christy share about these 3 key areas, you'll learn not only the importance of each and why, but ways that you can implement them into your life. After all, it's good to know about something but it's even more important to learn how to do it.
In addition to those key components, we also chat about topics including:
The 3 areas that we are all driven by in daily life and in healing
Why we can get stuck in one or more of those areas
More on the negative core beliefs and how to change them
How we judge ourselves, and why that makes it uncomfortable to revisit feelings and events of the past
How we are all born valuable, but along the way in life we learn to devalue ourselves
There's so much more I could tell you, but hey I don't want to spoil the podcast for ya before you even listen to it, so why not click that play button right here in this post, or listen on your favorite podcasting app and learn more about Christy's work in counseling and coaching, and about the importance of changing our negative core beliefs in order to heal.
Don't forget to follow Christy Maxey on Facebook, Twitter, and Linkedin as well as her website, MaxxMethod.com
- Matthew Pappas, CLC, CPNLP
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Living life day in and day out, as someone who has experienced extreme hardship in areas such as loss, childhood trauma, addiction, eating disorders, and more, is hard enough as it is, but to speak about it publicly as you continue to face your past each day can be even more difficult. After all this is something that we'd probably rather push down into a dark corner of our mind, and never think about again.
It's often a source that still has open wounds which are decades old, some of which still feel as fresh as the day they happened. Others, well the scars are there to remind us of what we experienced. Either way, those things that we'd rather forget, can be a source of motivation and encouragement, both for us and for those whom we influence each day, knowingly or otherwise.
Charlotte Underwood is an advocate, author, and freelance writer who's dedicated her life to talking about areas of personal struggle in hopes of helping others and instituting the change that she feels is so desperately needed. Her content includes topics including: Anxiety & Depression, Self-Harm, Suicide Loss and Suicidal Ideations, Eating Disorders, Bullying, and more. Bringing her on as my guest for this episode of the Beyond Your Past Podcast, is something I have been looking forward ever since I came across her profile on Instagram and began following her work.
As she outlines on her website, CharlotteUnderwoodAuthor.com : I’m Charlotte Underwood, a young 22-year-old from Norfolk, UK. I am a growing mental health advocate and like to use writing to inform and support. On this blog you can keep up to date with my written work, both self published and through other means. I post a lot about mental health, depression, anxiety and suicide. I want to raise awareness as well as end the stigma.
I have been writing professionally for a year now but don’t let that put you off, for though it seems like I have little experience, that is not that case. I have written two E-Books and run my own growing and successful blog, soon I even hope to break my poetry out into the world! I have written over 100 Guest posts, ...and have worked for The Metro, TalkSpace, Young Minds and The Content Wolf.
My content is focused on mental health and lifestyle, you can expect candid and thought-provoking content from me.
During my chat with Charlotte, you'll learn:
When she first felt like something was wrong in her life.
What it's been like for her living with a mental illness
How her recovery continues to progress
Ways that she manages daily life with her mental illness
What being an advocate means to her, and why sharing from personal experience is so important.
Seeking out mental health assistance in the U.K.; including her personal challenges and ways that she's working to help change that process.
Charlotte speaks very candidly, with a perspective that is well beyond her age. Indeed, she's lived through some tremendous adversity, including losing her father to suicide and surviving her own attempt. Her honesty and drive to help others and bring about awareness and inspire change, is inspiring.
There's much more I could share about my chat with Charlotte Underwood, but rather than me writing about it, how about I just turn it over to my podcast with Charlotte, and let you find out for yourself :).
Please consider following Charlotte on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram, where she is very active on a daily basis. Her blog is a great follow as well, and her two eBooks are available for download on her website.
Thanks again Charlotte for joining on the podcast, I'm honored to know you and to help share your message!
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, CPNLP
All conversation and information exchang
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Living with a mental health challenge of any type, often means that you go through many stages of exploration until you reach a true diagnosis that will allow you and your helping professional to put a plan in place of the proper treatment and self-care routine. Initially these types of changes in our mental health can often lead to having more questions than answers, but in time the new insight gained can be invaluable to our recovery.
My guest on this episode of the Beyond Your Past Podcast, John Dickson, lived with Major Depressive Disorder for 40 years, before being officially diagnosed. As he shares on his blog, The3inMe.ga, ...Over the majority of that period, my illness was undiagnosed and untreated. It’s only in hindsight that I can see that I’ve experienced many depressive episodes. Each episode was both darker and longer in duration than its predecessor. The most severe episode culminated in a suicide attempt in September 2014. It was after this attempt that I was diagnosed as having Major Depressive Disorder.
More recently I’ve been diagnosed with Bipolar II Disorder. Bipolar II Disorder differs from Bipolar Disorder in having a hypomanic state rather than a manic state. Hypomanic simply means less manic. I’m still coming to terms with this new diagnosis and don’t yet fully understand it. I’ll share what I learn in this blog.
Depression is the silent killer. This is true especially, among men. Men remain silent and steadfast while they suffer. I was one of those men. I suffered in silence until I succumbed. This lesson has taught me to speak out about the dangers of silence and in this blog, I speak out. I also have a son and family who I love very much. This blog is for them. Here they can see for themselves that I’m recovering.
John and I first met at the HealtheVoices 2018 Conference, in Chicago. We struck up a friendship there and have kept in touch since that event. You can listen to some thoughts that I had about the conference on a special edition podcast that I recorded this past spring.
During the podcast, we cover topics including:
Why John is so open about sharing his mental health struggles.
More about the events that lead to an attempt in taking his own life in September, 2014.
How those events lead him into not only his blog writing but advocacy work.
Talking specifically with your therapist or counselor about specific diagnosis treatments and options.
How his life has changed since the events in 2014, including the new diagnosis of Bipolar II disorder and learning to understand what it means for him, including the hypomanic states that come along with it.
Be sure and check out his blog, The3inMe.ga , as he writes weekly about his journey of understanding and healing, both past and present. John's message is one of vulnerable insight... an expression of hope, a declaration of love and a celebration of a life reclaimed. Ultimately, it’s my letter to my son, my apology and my promise.
You can follow John on Twitter @Zelandroid009
If you haven't done so yet, please consider subscribing to the podcast, to get notified when I release new episodes each week! I'd sure be stoked to have you on this journey of inspiring others with the power of sharing their stories.
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, CPNLP
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When I was approached by recent college graduate, Anja Burcak, about being a guest on the podcast, I was intrigued not only because she wanted to share her story, but also that it would be coming from the perspective of a young adult, fresh out of college, speaking on the struggles of Depression, Bipolar, and mania. I've covered these topics many times in the past, usually though from the perspective of someone who had experienced similar struggles during their younger years.
I'm always on the lookout for ways to help share get the word out about what living with a particular mental health challenge is like, from as many perspectives as possible, and being able to chat with Anja is surely going to help reach so many, especially those who are young adults and parents who's children are growing up and heading out on their own.
Anja is a blogger and advocate for Mental Health, and a recent graduate of UNC, Chapel Hill, where she studied Psychology, and is now looking to begin her career in addition to continuing her current advocacy work.
As outlined on her blog, "She often writes about mania, depression, and anxiety, from a first-person perspective. Being diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder (Type 1) 2 years ago has given her insight into the struggles many face with finding the right diagnosis, treatment, and providers. She hopes that sharing her story will create more open, honest conversations about mental health, fighting the stigma one conversation at a time. Lately, she has been exploring new ways to be an advocate, including getting involved in a podcast, guest posts, and vlogging."
Her blog, The Calculating Mind, is her thoughts on living with Bipolar, Depression, and Mania, written from a unique and insightful point of view. As I read through several of her recent articles, it gives me a sense that Anja writes with the intent of telling it like it is, and not sugar coating the challenges or what she feels needs to be changed. Her blog was also recently nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award! Congrats, Anja!
Some of the topics we cover during her podcast include:
FIRST SIGNS OF DEPRESSION: What were the first signs that what you were experiencing was more severe than a typical "low" period? How did you know that it was depression, not merely sadness?
BIPOLAR DIAGNOSIS: When did you realize that your diagnosis of Major Depressive Disorder was inaccurate? What were signs of bipolar disorder? How did you react (i.e. denial, sad, angry, relieved)?
IMPACT OF ILLNESS ON COLLEGE: How did being depressed or manic impact your academic life (i.e. exams, grades)? --This could also be asked about impact on family, friendships, relationships, etc
HOSPITALIZATIONS: From your experience (hospitalizations), what do you believe are some misconceptions the general public has about psychiatric wards? What did you think the hospitalization would be like (i.e. Were you scared to be admitted)? How did your perception of those with "severe mental illnesses", such as schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, change during your hospital stay?
RECOVERY: What has helped you get back to "baseline" level? Medications? Therapy? Support networks? Coping mechanisms?
ONLINE MENTAL HEALTH COMMUNITY: You are an active member of the mental health community online. What got you started? Why do you continue to be active with mental health blogging and social media? What is your overall goal (i.e. fighting stigma, psychoeducation)?
LOOKING TO THE FUTURE: What is your outlook regarding your future and your condition? Are you concerned about relapsing? Are you keeping a more positive outlook? Given your past episodes and what you know now, do you feel better prepared for another episode, should it happen?
If you are in college, have a child in college
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My guest on this episode of the Beyond Your Past Podcast is Photographer, Digital Artist, Blogger, and Mental Health Rehabilitation Specialist, Rob Goldstein. He is also a former guest blogger on Surviving My Past, where he shared some of his story in a post titled, "Life with DID where everything is a trigger". That post has been incredibly helpful and validating for so many who live with dissociative identity disorder, or those who have a loved one who lives with DID.
As outlined on his blog, Rob writes:
I’m a Certified Mental Health Rehabilitation Specialist who became symptomatic with a dissociative disorder in 2010. When I started this blog in late 2013, it was to advocate for myself and other people with trauma related mental health problems.
I wrote in my first profile statement that as I evolved the blog would evolve and over time, I learned about photography, digital art and I rediscovered my writing. I call the blog Art by Rob Goldstein but I can just as easily call it life by Rob Goldstein.
This is my life as I live it, evolve, process its history, and prepare for an uncertain future. My life is my work and my work is my art.
Art by Rob Goldstein is an expression of my emotional and intellectual evolution and an ongoing journal of my psychotherapy. I’m blunt, passionate in my beliefs, and willing to state my mind. If an honest exchange of ideas is what you want you’ve found the right place.
During my recent chat with Rob, we dive into more of his life leading up to getting the true diagnosis of having DID. As you'll hear him describe so eloquently and in detail, there were so many things going on in his life that just didn't add up; people were saying things like, "you aren't the Rob that I knew before". He knew that things going on in his mind and in life were fragmented, but hearing things like that was devastating to him. After all, he'd been living his life for decades knowing that something was going on, but wasn't able to put it all together with a true diagnosis from a professional who understood dissociative identity disorder and was able to get him a proper diagnosis much later on in life.
As Rob points out, what drove him to seek the help of a psychiatrist was the realization that his alters had a constant desire to log into virtual reality to have their own lives. This became such a pathological routine that it was consuming all of his time and finally something had to give.
Our conversation continues with his experiences in life, 6 months after his psychiatrist referred him to a therapist that specialized in DID. However, it wasn't until about a year and half later, that he finally called and made and appointment with that therapist, because he didn't want to accept that he could have something like dissociative identity disorder, and due to his research, finding out that DID is often caused by sexual trauma. Quite simply, the thought of it all was overwhelming and something he just didn't want to deal with.
Rob continues to share more of his story:
How things finally started to make sense since he began receiving the help he so desperately needed.
He also discusses the challenges of his relationships, and how the evolution of healthy boundaries in all aspects of his relationships was life changing for him and his recovery.
You'll learn how something like VR, that was completely taking over his life and becoming nearly toxic to his well being, is now something he is using to help others and himself along his journey.
We discuss his view on how DID has truly been a gift for him, as he's lived through all of the challenges in his life to date.
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When you've been married for 17 years, you can certainly say that you've seen your share of struggles and triumphs, ups and downs, good times and rough times. Even more, through all of those experiences you can most definitely say that you are dedicated to each other and your relationship. It's that kind of dedication that can help carry you through the challenges that come with mental illness, and also help you celebrate each and ever win in your relationship and advocacy work. That's especially true with my guests on this episode of the Beyond Your Past Podcast, Beka and Joe Lombardo.
I first came to know Beka a few years back when I started Surviving My Past, and she offered to be a guest blogger, and share some insight in the area of body image and bullying. Since then we've kept in touch and supported each other's work while building a friendship and mutual respect for the struggles of living with mental health challenges.
Beka is a blogger for The Mighty, and an author of her own book, It's Not Your Journey, the true story of one woman that fights a battle inside her mind every single day and attempts to document what she is feeling to help others while she helps herself. Her ongoing battle is not fought alone, her incredible husband Joe is there with her every step of the way as they navigate daily life in the wake of a troubled past. Their never ending desire to help others is forged not only in blogging and her book, but also with their podcast, Voices for Change 2.0, which I had the pleasure of being a guest on previously.
During my recent chat with Beka and Joe, we talk primarily about their relationship and the unique challenges that come with being a suicide attempt survivor and having a mental illness:
Did Rebecca explain her mental health struggles before you started a relationship?
You’ve been married for nearly 17 years despite the difficulties mental illness brings. What advice do you have for someone entering a relationship with someone with mental illness?
The effect that Beka's suicide attempt had on Joe and how he's been able to support her as well as making sure to take care of himself.
How and why they started the #KeepTalkingMH hashtag and what it's meant for them and so many who use it on social media.
Thanks so much to both Beka and Joe for joining me on the show, and being so open about their struggles so that others can benefit and realize that no matter what they endure, there is hope and that they are surely not alone. Be sure and check out RebeccaLombardo.com for information about their advocacy work, her book, and the podcast. Oh, and if you are looking for a guitar teacher, Joe teaches on the weekends and just might be looking for some new students!
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-Matthew Pappas, CLC, CPNLP
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Welcome back to our self-proclaimed, Mental Health Megacast, a semi-regular round table discussion with 3 mental health advocates and survivors who are trying to find our way through recovery.
There is some debate as to which episode we are actually on with this particular series, and we've covered that fiasco in previous episodes, so whether or not it's actually episode 82, or episode 9 in the series...well who knows!
Anyways, just in case you aren’t familiar with the Megacasts, you can check out past episodes here, and also on cohorts platforms as well….
To that end, the Megacast is creation of the collaborative brain powers (more or less) of Wes from AudioRising.com and Mike from MikesOpenJournal.com, and myself. I encourage you to check out and follow them online and through your favorite podcasting platform. Each of these has a tremendous message to share and an inspiring and unique way in how they go about it.
In this episode, we do a bit of catching up before diving into some more specific topics. As you’ll see, we have a lot of fun and regardless of the between shows, we’re able to pick up where we left off. That’s the beauty of this collaboration, not only is it a mutual respect and admiration for each others work asadvocates, but also the struggle and subsequent resiliency that comes with battling our own pasts.
The topic of this episode is one that we've been wanting to cover for quite awhile now, and as luck would have it, and a bit of good timing, we were able to pull together a time to meet to dive into our views on faith and religion and how believing in God, or a higher power, can influence your mental health and specifically your area of struggle; be it addiction recovery, depression, self-harm, trauma survivor, etc.
We each have somewhat differing views, but the great thing is, we chat and debate a bit in way that not only ends up being informative and a humorous, but also so that none of us ever feels like our view is less than the others. As Wes points out, we can chat and nobody feels like they have to win!
To that end, we hope you enjoy this latest episode as we cover this difficult and controversial topic, and if you have suggestions for future shows, please contact us and let us know...but whatever you do, please don't mention the time! ;)
Be sure and follow Wes on Twitter @WesA1966 and Mike @Mike_Douglas_ & Open_Journal_ …oh and don’t forget to follow and subscribe to all of our shows on your favorite podcasting app!
-Matt Pappas, CLC, CPNLP
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Every now and then I have the opportunity to chat with a former guest blogger on Surviving My Past, and when I get that opportunity it's always an incredible experience. Not everyone is ready to, or enjoys sharing their story on a podcast, and that's okay. The main thing is that when you are at a point of being able to use your experiences to help others, while continuing to aid your own recovery journey, you do so in a way that feels congruent with you and in line with your values.
This episode of the podcast is just such one of those opportunities to chat with a former guest blogger and share more about his story, hearing it in his own voice. Jason Miller, of BipolarisBeautiful.com and @CostlyLoveWins on Twitter joins me for an incredibly moving chat about his life.
His submission on the blog, "A Bipolar Life: He spent years making mud pies in a slum, but no more!" was vulnerable and honest as he shares many of the struggles he's endured, in a way that makes you want to keep reading to find out how it all turns out and how he made it through such trauma. As with so many survivors, you may find yourself not only saddened by their experiences, but cheering them on as they begin to pull themselves out of the depths and into a new world of healing and awareness.
On his blog, Jason describes himself as: a grizzled veteran of the roller coaster of this deadly illness, I (barely) survived it for 43 years. But today, I live with it (bipolar disorder). Perpetually on the edge of that cliff of mania or depression, but with the joy and peace of that boy feeding the gentle giraffe. I hope to help you learn how to do the same. It may take years of diligent effort, but if you want a life instead of a miserable existence, the support networks, tools, medications, recovery angels in skin, and spiritual miracles are all there.
Throughout our conversation, Jason shares more indepth about some of the struggles in his life in the areas of Living with Bipolar Disorder, Mania, Addiction to Pornography and Alcohol, a traumatic accident at work which left him with severe burns, as well as these following topics:
To what do you attribute your getting into recovery and what tools do you use to stay there?
What has been most beneficial to your recovery?
Besides working on your own recovery, what do you do within the mental health and addiction community?
What are your thoughts on the stigma surrounding mental illness and addiction?
What are your thoughts on our broken mental health care system?
As you listen to Jason talk, don't be surprised if you find yourself hanging on each word as you hear him recount struggle after struggle, starting over again and again, until finally coming to a place where he could seek out help, surround himself with safe people, and embrace acceptance along his life long journey of healing.
Thank you again Jason for coming on the podcast, your story is undoubtedly helping so many and I'm honored to help share your story.
Don't forget to check out Jason's post on Surviving My Past, and we hope you'll consider sharing his podcast with those who you feel might benefit from his story.
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This episode focuses on a topic that I have not yet covered on the blog or podcast to date; autism and being a survivor. So when Kelli Gettel contacted me and wanted to share her story of living with Autism, PTSD, Narcolepsy, and being raised by a Narcissistic parent, I knew this was going to be an episode that would be as educational as much as it will be inspiring.
Kelli is an entrepreneur living in the central Pennsylvania area, and a parent of 3 children, including a 4 yr old who also was diagnosed with autism. As you'll hear on the podcast, Kelli has overcome tremendous odds in her life, as so many survivors do, and wants to help others understand life with the challenges she faces. By doing so she wants to educate others that these are not reasons to stay silent, isolated, and living in fear or shame. Rather, by utilizing the power of research and learning about your situation, you can find ways to adapt and overcome, and reach others with a positive, stigma fighting message.
Some of her challenges we discuss on the show include:
Life as a female, living on the autism spectrum; including when she was diagnosed, the struggles of non-verbal communication with others.
How Narcolepsy affects her relationships, and how Narcolepsy can be a form of Dissociation.
Sensory Struggles; the challenges of not being able to filter out surrounding sounds and distractions to be able to focus on a single event or conversation.
Social Rules & Protocols - how she had to, and continues to learn how to interact in a social setting. Things that come natural to others have to be learned and adjusted too, which can cause struggles in relationships of all types.
Her ability to think in pictures; in her mind she sees life in the form of pictures and moving images, so trying to translate that into words and communicate her thoughts can be a huge challenge.
We also touch a bit on her life growing up with a parent who had narcissistic tendencies, and how she's learning more about understanding her alters and using the IFS model to help.
As you'll also hear how Kelli is so proud of her youngest son, who, diagnosed with autism, taught himself to read before the age of two and is a huge Beatles fan, knowing every song they've ever written and nearly everything about the band. Which also leads into our chat about some of the things that she wants to share about how she's adapting to the daily struggles that multiple diagnoses can bring:
Education has been so important to Kelli; especially reading books to help understand what she's experiencing, and make sense of the challenges in her life. She shares some of the books that she has found especially helpful; some of which you might recognize:
The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk
Neuro Tribes, The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity - Steve Silberman
Boundaries - John Townsend & Henry Cloud
In Sheep's Clothing - George K. Simon
This was such an incredible podcast, and as you'll hear there was no way we could fit in everything that Kelli wanted to share, in just one show. So be on the lookout for future episodes with Kelli as we dive a bit deeper into particular areas of her life.
If you'd like to connect with Kelli Gettel, you can reach her on Facebook. If you would like connect with her, she requests that you please be sure and let her know that you found her via the Beyond Your Past Podcast.
Thank you again Kelli for joining me! Your story is inspiring, your resiliency is amazing! I look forward to future shows with you.
Matthew Pappas, CLC, CPNLP
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I'm so honored to welcome back returning guest, Julie Coons, to this episode of the Beyond Your Past Podcast. Julie first joined me back in October 2017, to discuss her upcoming book at the time, This Does Not Leave This House. That was an incredible show, and the first time that I was introduced to Julie, and learned more about her amazing and heart wrenching story of being a survivor.
Julie tells us that the inspiration for the title of her book, “This does not leave this house”, comes from being raised in a family where she was told regularly by her father, "what goes on in this house, stays in this house, it was their family secret and nobody’s business but theirs."
As outlined on JulieCoons.com -
Raised by an abusive, narcissistic mother (who once tried to trick her into having an abortion), Julie Coons was also raped in college by a stranger and later married an abusive man who threatened to kill her if she ever tried to leave. Suffering from physical and mental torment resulting in very low self-esteem, Julie often felt so completely alone during the many struggles of her life that she tried to take her own life.
This book is her true story—telling all the secrets she was never allowed to tell to encourage and motivate others to heal their own lives and break the cycle of abuse. Her story shows that there is hope and life after abuse. Now that the secrets are finally out, Julie has found freedom.
So can you.
This Does Not Leave This House is a raw, poignant, and secret-revealing memoir written to lead a movement to break the silence of abuse and finally end its vicious cycle. With strength and resiliency, Coons provides a voice for the silent abused, letting them know they’re not alone. Justice and hope can prevail. The abused can become victorious. Read the heartbreaking true story of her journey to triumph above overwhelming obstacles.
I wanted to bring her back to see how things have been going since the release of her book, and discuss more of how her life has changed, the struggles she's faced and the trials that she's overcome and used as a learning experience throughout the process. As you listen to our chat, we'll discuss many topics, including:
Expecting backlash from her family, and what it was like to not get any at all.
The response of her friends who offered her incredible support and validation.
The struggles of being an author and a survivor of childhood trauma, including the memories that resurface while writing.
How writing a book is not necessarily as cathartic as you might think at the time, and in fact can be retraumatizing as old memories resurface and new ones come to light.
Dealing with reviews and comments, both positive and negative, and the struggles of not letting those define her or invalidate her story.
Updates on the situation with her mother and where she is now with those challenges.
Her new work of fiction, titled "Why She Lied", is in the works, and Julie shares how that book is coming along and why she's writing it.
All this and much more on this episode of the podcast is waiting for you, so grab those headphones or plug us into your car and join me as I chat with Julie.
I encourage you to check out JulieCoons.com for more information on her story, a link to buy the book on Amazon, and to sign up for her newsletter so you can stay in the know as she progresses on her new book.
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On this episode of the podcast, I'm talking with returning guest Erika Reva, of The We in Me. I first met Erika through Twitter, and I reached out to see if she might be interested in writing a guest blog post for Surviving My Past. To this day, that post is still one of the highest viewed pieces of content on the blog, which speaks not only to her ability as a blogger, but her genuine desire to share her story, continue her healing journey, and also help others who live with DID.
Since then she has joined me on the podcast, and we've remained in contact through social media and periodic emails following each other's journey. After one such recent email exchange, I learned of a new program she had created, called Living DID. After hearing more about it, I knew I wanted to see if she'd be interested in coming back on Beyond Your Past, to share with us how this program came to be, what it's about, and the feedback she's received from participants who've taken it.
As Erika outlines:
The feedback has been wonderful and many others with DID & trauma disorders have contributed their stories and journey’s for us to share as various examples throughout the discussion based course. Each week we delve into detailed discussion based lectures that pertain to various topics on DID.
Week 1- intro to us (The We in Me) and the course.
Week 2- Protectors, these parts that are often demonized and feared will be discussed Week 3- Triggers
Week 4- Littles, the young traumatized parts that are protected and hidden
Week 5- The problems with Docs.
Week 6- Therapy, an in depth look on what therapy can/does look like for someone with DID and as the psychologists ways to best help them.
Week 7- Relationships & Closing
Focus this final week will be on relationships within the system, people such as romantic or friend type relationships as well as the correlation of BDSM & the trauma community that is vastly overlooked.
As you'll hear, Erika has fostered collaborative relationships with her local NAMI chapter, and the Chicago Police Department to help educate first responders on how they can prepare for and have a better understanding of, the challenges of walking into a situation involving victims of trauma and those living with DID. She's also been invited to speak at an event sponsored by #SickNotWeak, not-for-profit corporation started by Michael Landsberg.
It's always such a pleasure to talk with Erika, and to discuss Dissociative Identity Disorder with her and others who live with it and have decided to take their story and use it to try to help others. The more light we can share on this topic, the more we continue to educate ourselves and those who are affected with DID.
Be sure and follow Erika and her work with Living DID on , TheWeInMe.com - and follow her on Twitter and Instagram @TheWeInMe.
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Welcome to Part II, of my new series with Author, Artist, Poet, and Incredible Survivor, Vennie Kocsis. I'm so excited to be recording this series with Vennie, because the message she has, from her own lived experience is one that countless survivors can relate too. Plus, I enjoy being able to help support her work and message any way that I can because it's helped me in my own journey.
Vennie is an author, artist, poetry writer, and survivor survivor of Sam Fife’s Move of God cult. My creativity is the therapy by which I have survived the memories of my childhood abuse. There are many caves where memories hide out, and I intend to travel them all in this lifetime. I am raw. I am flawed. I am open and here without shame, to tell the true story of my own childhood. I write to survive, and I write for those who cannot find the words to tell their own story. Most of all, I write for those who cannot express it. For you, I give my heart and all of my tender parts.
We're talking about some of Vennie's own personal survivor story, which includes enduring childhood sexual abuse, and being raised in a religious cult. You'll hear some of the tragic circumstances, grooming, and brainwashing that inspired her write her best selling book, Cult Child. Through it all she is here to share her story, in her own unique and personal way, to not only continue her own healing journey but also her passion of reaching others and being a voice for those who are unable to speak their truth.
Along with her story, we spend a lot of time discussing what it means to love ourselves, as a survivor. We explore that means for her, how I've learned to do that for myself, and how you can explore that in your own life. As you'll hear, it's important to remember that the way we choose to do this is an individual experience, a very personal and heartfelt part of healing.
We'll discuss how journaling and post-it notes can play a huge role, especially early on in the process. Writing letters, embracing the mindset shift, working through the pain and anger, and realizing that as an adult, free from abuse, nobody has the right to tell us that we can't love ourselves, or that we don't get to heal. What an incredibly liberating time when we get to that point, and as Vennie shares, it opens up a whole new world of healing and speaking our truth.
We cover all this and much more, so grab those headphones or plug us into your speakers and join us for the next installment in the series, How Trauma Manifests Itself in Adulthood.
Be sure and follow Vennie on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, @VennieKocsis. You see her artwork, read her poetry, and pick up a copy of her book, Cult Child, at VennieKocsis.com
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One of the struggles that I have faced my entire life, and most certainly as a result of childhood trauma, is in the area of food. Or better put, realizing out how unhealthy of a relationship I'd had with it for most of my life and finding ways to turn that around. Not out of guilt, but out of self-awareness and compassion for who I was, what I went through, and where I wanted to see myself in the future.
My guest, Vennie Kocsis, joins me on this episode of the podcast to discuss this particular aspect of how trauma manifests itself in our lives.
Vennie is an author, artist, poetry writer, and survivor survivor of Sam Fife’s Move of God cult. My creativity is the therapy by which I have survived the memories of my childhood abuse. There are many caves where memories hide out, and I intend to travel them all in this lifetime. I am raw. I am flawed. I am open and here without shame, to tell the true story of my own childhood. I write to survive, and I write for those who cannot find the words to tell their own story. Most of all, I write for those who cannot express it. For you, I give my heart and all of my tender parts.
I first met Vennie several years ago, through Twitter, and almost immediately we hit it off as friends and fellow survivors. Our mutual respect for each other as survivors and being willing to share so openly about our struggles, helped form a lasting bond of friendship that I value so much.
Her insight into the world of surviving some of the most horrific abuse imaginable has helped her in using her voice and talents to reach a huge audience with a message of hope and resilience. A message of finding ways to tell your story, and not be ashamed in asking for help. To that end, not being ashamed to admit that she is still a work in progress, as we all are on our own journeys. She uses her book, Cult Child, her art and poetry to convey what's in her heart both now and when she was experiencing the trauma first hand.
It's real, it's raw, it's vulnerable, and it's all about not being ashamed of who she is and the message that she has for the world.
In this podcast we cover topics related to food and survivors:
Self Shame with how, when, and what we eat.
Why dieting doesn't work for us
Reparenting ourselves when it comes to food
Moderation
Lifestyle Changes
and more!
As you listen to the show, we hope that you'll feel validated and encouraged with the realization that you are not alone. The struggles of looking at ourselves in the mirror each day can be daunting, but it doesn't have to be that way for the rest of your life. Making small changes in our lifestyle and a conscious effort to give ourselves a break for a change, can be just the ticket towards finding that self-love and acceptance that's been absent in our lives for so long.
This is the first in a series of how trauma manifests itself in adulthood, so be sure and watch for future episodes on other topics of being a survivor.
You can learn more about Vennie, her book "Cult Child", check out her poetry and artwork, on VennieKocsis.com. Be sure and follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram as well, @VennieKocsis.
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Living in today's volatile and controversial world can take its toll on anyone. With so much violence happening around the world, discord among not only world leaders across the globe but certainly in the US, and the phrase "mentally ill" being tossed around in context to some of the most heinous crimes in recent history, and it's no wonder we can feel unsettled.
For survivors, it's tough enough navigating daily life in the wake of a traumatic past, but add in all of the pressures of being bombarded with news and current events 24/7, and the struggle gets exponentially more difficult.
I too struggle with my own thoughts and even my most trusted coping strategies are taxed to their limits at times trying to stay grounded while "fighting the good fight" as it were, to raise awareness and get involved in areas that I'm passionate about. It feels like an uphill battle that gets steeper and steeper, even with the best plan and self-care strategies in place.
That's why I wanted to spend some time chatting with friend, colleague, and returning guest to the podcast, Rachel Grant. From the very first time that we collaborated back in the earlier episodes of the show, we've developed a friendship and mutual respect for each other not only as advocates and survivors, but as everyday people just trying to find our way in this world and make a difference while we continue to heal.
Rachel Grant is a Sexual Abuse Survivor Coach, with an M.A. in Counseling Psychology. Her website, RachelGrantCoaching.com features not only her individual and group work with survivors, but also her book "Beyond Surviving", Facebook Group, Master Class, and free and low-cost Audible Downloads covering topics such as Shame, Boundaries, Abandonment, and much more.
Some of the topics that Rachel and I discuss on this episode include:
Feelings of Shame and Triggers that can arise in regards to the mass violence and political climate across the world.
"Mentally Ill" labels being tossed around in negative and stigmatizing ways in regards to school and church shootings, gun control, world leaders, and those who suffer with depression.
Getting involved in causes that we believe in, and trying to do too much.
Looking at labels in a different context, as a way to help feel inspired and educated, and provide direction towards treatment and resources.
Learning to pause, think before we speak and react, when it comes to highly charged situations, reducing anxiety, and in everyday life.
Using "service" to help get out of our heads, reduce burnout, and re-energize for not only our own journey but our involvement in causes we are passionate in.
Thank you again Rachel from coming back on the podcast and sharing your insight and heartfelt message for survivors. I've learned so much from you and I look forward to our collaborative work in the future.
Be sure and check out RachelGrantCoaching.com and follow her on Twitter: @CoachRachelG.
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, CPNLP
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If you're anything like me; someone who's suffered with anxiety, depression, insomnia, and perhaps you also live with PTSD, then you've likely tried many, many different types of treatments. Everything from supplements and medications, to oils, meditation, holistic approaches, and much more. The list is seemingly endless, as is the frustration of exploring so many options to try and find what works for you, even if it's only some of the time.
If you do live with any of those mental health challenges, or know someone who does, this alternative to traditional treatments might be something you consider exploring. My guest on this episode of the podcast is Chip Fisher, President of Fisher Wallace Laboratories, based in New York, a medical device company that specializes in a wearable device to help with Anxiety, Depression, and Insomnia.
Designed collaboratively by world-class engineers and doctors, the Fisher Wallace Stimulator® uses proprietary waveforms to gently stimulate the brain to produce serotonin and other neurochemicals responsible for healthy mood and sleep. Proven safe and effective in multiple published studies, the device is cleared by the FDA to treat depression, anxiety and insomnia.*
As Chip explains, In 2001, renowned addictionologist Martin Wallace, PhD, CCN, CAd, was unable to find any means of coping with the depression that brought him to a standstill in the aftermath of eight hours spent trapped in a building at Ground Zero on 9/11. In 2002 he discovered the Stimulator, originally created by brilliant engineers Saul and Bernard Liss, and used it to successfully treat his depression.
Wallace and Fisher met not long after at a business conference, and Chip was so impressed with the lack of side effects and the incredible results that using this product produced, that he began using it himself and still does today.
You can read more about the story of how this device came to be, and the science behind it, over at https://www.fisherwallace.com
One of the things that I was most interested in, was how survivors of trauma might benefit from using the Fisher Wallace Stimulator. As is often the the case with trauma survivors and those living with PTSD, the brain's normal functions of stimulating the production of and regulating neurochemicals such as serotonin, cortisol, and dopamine, is hampered. As a result, living with hypervigilance, anxiety disorders, insomia, as well as other mood disorders is all too common.
This device using patented technology to gently help the brain begin to resume it's normal duties in this manner, and as a result countless patients have experienced life changing results. You can also check out his Ted Talk, in which he reveals some of the science and history behind the development the Stimulator.
As he explains, this device is painless, and most patients experience nothing more than a slight tingling sensation if anything at all. It can be used at home, while traveling, virtually anywhere, and see results without any serious side effects.
In addition, Chip himself lives with Depression and Seasonal Effective Disorder, so he knows first hand some of the struggles that the users of this device live with each day. He too tried countless traditional methods to help with his symptoms, including talk therapy and traditional drugs, but mostly found that they did little to help and some of the medications had severe side effects.
By taking proven technology that originated in 46 A.D., with a physician using a Torpedo Fish to help treat Migraines and Gout, has developed into state of the art technology that can be combined with many digital health applications to help treat some of the most detrimental mental and physical health conditions in modern history.
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My guest on this episode of the Beyond Your Past Podcast, Lisa Tobe, talks about her struggles with being diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) and Complex Trauma.
Lisa is a Executive Director of Wildflower Consulting, LLC. - partnering with clients to design, facilitate, and evaluate policy, system, and environmental strategies that improve public health.
During our chat, we discuss topics including:
The challenges she faced in getting the diagnosed at 27 years old, and the years leading up to the diagnosis that included a hospital stay.
The depressions, and suicidal thoughts that plagued her for years before she was able to get a proper diagnosis.
Triggers and Flashbacks associated with PTSD and Complex PTSD.
How writing helped facilitate healing and understanding of her alters.
The power of sharing stories with yourself on a clinical level.
Her memoir and starting a non-profit to help women who have survived all types of violence.
I always find it so amazing that during a simple conversation on a podcast, you realize you have so much in common with someone. This show with Lisa was no different, especially when she talks about learning about her particular type of DID and how similar that is to Dissociative Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (DDNOS), which is what I am recovering from.
There is safety and validation among survivors and those who get what it means to live daily life with these types of challenges. It's a testament not only to the resilience of the human spirit, but the willingness to reach out and share and help others who struggle.
Thank you again Lisa for coming onto the show, I look forward to talking with you again once your book is published.
If you'd like to learn more about Lisa, her story, or about her non profit for women survivors of violence, you can email her at lisatobe.consulting at gmail.com or at Wildflowerllc.org
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In this episode of the podcast, I'm joined by author and survivor, Larry Ruhl.
Larry’s book, Breaking the Ruhl’s, is his story as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Throughout the book he faces the challenging questions. “Is it truly possible to move through the shame I carry every day? Can I have a full life without depending on mind-numbing drugs and alcohol? And the most difficult question of all: Do I tell? But how do I tell? Who do I tell? What happens if I do tell?”
Larry Ruhl serves as a board member for Taking Back Ourselves, which facilitates weekends of recovery for female survivors of sexual abuse, and is a registered speaker with the RAINN network (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). He previously served as a board member at Male Survivor. He also spoke at colleges and retreats to increase awareness of sexual abuse against men and boys. Today he shares his story publicly to spread awareness and to help others shed the shame and stigma associated with sexual abuse. He graduated from the Fashion Institute of Technology (FIT), with a degree in Display & Exhibit Design, and worked as a creative director at a textile firm for ten years until opening his own home furnishings/interior design business in 2004. He works as an artist and designer in the Hudson Valley.
During my chat with Larry we cover topics including:
This memoir is so personal and the story is so painful. How did you find the strength to share your story? Did writing it help you heal?
When did you first realize that what was happening in your household was not only not normal, but was physical, emotional, and sexual abuse?
You talk about how you’ve found a way to forgive your parents, but that you’ll never forget what happened. Can you speak to that?
You’re no longer in contact with your parents, but you are close with your sister, who still lives with them. Can you talk about how you decided to move forward with this book?
Now that the book has been released, how has it impacted your healing journey, your relationships, and your life as a whole?
Larry shares openly and vulnerably about his life and struggles, and offers such hope and encouragement during our conversation that you can help but be inspired by his bravery and the bravery of all who speak out and refuse to be silent.
I’m so honored to have had the opportunity to talk to this incredible survivor and I look forward to bringing him back on the podcast in the future to talk more about his story. Thank you again Larry for your book, your message of hope, and your continued desire to reach those all who have survived the trauma of abuse.
You can purchase, Breaking the Ruhl’s on Barnes & Noble and on Amazon. Be sure and follow Larry on Twitter & Instagram, @LarryRuhl
-Matthew Pappas, CLC, CPNLP
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Welcome back to our self-proclaimed, Mental Health Megacast, a semi-regular round table discussion with 3 mental health advocates and survivors who are trying to find our way through recovery.
There is some debate as to which episode we are actually on, since each of us have our own separate podcasts, and to that end also number our episodes differently. So technically for me this is episode 71, however I believe it's actually episode 8 of the Megacast, but overall it's really episode 80 in the grand scheme of all podcasts of various types done to date since I started talking about my survivor journey online in this format.
So there, hopefully I haven't completely confused you, but then again I'm not sure I didn't confuse myself...there's something to be said for simplifying your life that's for sure :)
Anyways, just in case you aren't familiar with the Megacasts, you can check out past episodes here, and also on cohorts platforms as well....
To that end, the Megacast is creation of the collaborative brain powers (more or less) of Wes from AudioRising.com and Mike from MikesOpenJournal.com, and myself. I encourage you to check out and follow them online and through your favorite podcasting platform. Each of these has a tremendous message to share and an inspiring and unique way in how they go about it.
In this episode, we do a bit of catching up before diving into some more specific topics. As you'll see, we have a lot of fun and regardless of the between shows, we're able to pick up where we left off. That's the beauty of this collaboration, not only is it a mutual respect and admiration for each others work as advocates, but also the struggle and subsequent resiliency that comes with battling our own pasts.
I'm truly grateful for the opportunity to get together with these guys and share what's going on in our lives, but also to talk about the tough topics as we see them through our own eyes; the eyes of 3 dudes who have been through hell and back and continuously fight as we not only continue to heal but also hopefully validate and inspire others in the process.
To that end, we hope you enjoy this latest episode as we not only catch up and banter back and forth a bit, but also lay the ground work for what might just be our most controversial topic yet for our next espisode...
Be sure and follow Wes on Twitter @WesA1966 and Mike @Mike_Douglas_ & Open_Journal_ ...oh and don't forget to follow and subscribe to all of our shows on your favorite podcasting app!
-Matt Pappas, CLC, CPNLP
This post and podcast are for informational purposes only, and should not be used as diagnosis or treatment for any mental health or physical health illness or condition.
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My guest on this episode of the Beyond Your Past Podcast, Sarah Jane, embodies the dedication, determination, resiliency, and creativity that we can all appreciate. Even for those of us who aren't artistically gifted, seeing someone like Sarah Jane use her talents to help bring hope and encouragement to other survivors, is remarkable.
Sarah first reached out to me after seeing a tweet that I made, looking for podcast guests, and after conversing with her through email and checking out her website, I knew I wanted to bring her on as a guest to the show. Anytime I can help someone share their story, it reminds me of the people early on in my journey that helped give me a voice. I know how powerful doing that is, how much healing can come from opening up in a vulnerable way.
Sarah Jane is the founder and creator of Mere Objects, an ongoing participatory artwork honoring people who have experienced sexual violence. Her dedication to giving hope and validation to other survivors, using her own talents and gifts in a selfless way, is inspiring to not only myself but to all who take part in Mere Objects.
As she writes on her website: The world around me inspires both intense curiosity and profound reverence. My creative responses include site-specific and collaborative works as well as sculptural pieces and mosaics. I am particularly interested in creating art that speaks across cultural, religious, or economic differences.
I’ve worked as a university professor, art program manager, and gallery coordinator. I currently live and work at the Grünewald Guild, an intentional arts community in the Cascade Mountains of Washington state.
During our chat, we talk about topics such as:
Her own history in an abusive relationship, including experiences of sexual violence, financial abuse, gaslighting, being denied medical care, and being a rape survivor.
Ways her family & friends inadvertently pressured her to stay in that relationship by placing them on a pedestal as the “perfect couple” and refusing to believe her when I began to reveal the abuse.
How church leaders pressured her to stay by emphasizing a narrative of “marriage is hard” and the importance of wives submitting to their husbands.
How her friends and current partner have come alongside her in her healing with incredibly faithful presence, patience, kindness, compassion, and generosity.
How that healing gave birth to a participatory art piece, Mere Objects, that offers space for others to tell their stories, and to bear witness for one another.
What she's learned in the past 18+ months of working on Mere Objects: the astonishing number and diversity of people affected by sexual violence, the depth of our wounds and the fierceness of our resilience, and the incredible healing power of truth-telling and bearing witness.
Check out the full writeup on my chat with Sarah Jane, over on http://beyondyourpastradio.com/?p=694&preview=true
If you'd like to learn more about Sarah Jane and Mere Objects, please check out MereObjects.org , and follow her on Twitter and Facebook.
-Matthew Pappas
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I recently had the privilege of attending the HealtheVoices 2018 Conference, in Chicago. It was an incredible event where advocates representing over 40 mental and physical health communities came together for 3-day weekend of collaborating, education, and networking.
It was my first time attending an event like this, and to be honest I really didn’t know what to expect. I did my research, watched videos, and checked out past event information, but still you never know until you get there right?
I’m so grateful to Janssen Pharmaceuticals for the honor of being one of the mental health advocates there, representing Anxiety and Trauma Recovery. So, I decided what better what to share some of my experience at the conference than to do a podcast about it. Since, hey I’m a podcaster right! :)
Thank you to everyone at Janssen who organized this amazing weekend, I’m so humbled and honored to have had the pleasure of attending. I learned so much, made new friends, and even met a few people that I already knew!
The staff, the event organizers, the sponsors, and of course all of the amazing and dedicated advocates that I met have left a lasting impact on my life. I left feeling inspired and encouraged, realizing that we all have so much in common, even if our platforms are different. Our common goal of raising awareness, providing resources and encouragement and information to people just like ourselves, who need it now more than ever.
We’re all living the experience for which we advocate for, pouring our heart and souls into this labor of love of doing all we can to help others while on our own journey. I’m not ashamed to say that I am a survivor, a recovering anxiety sufferer, and someone who is right there feeling all the pain and frustration in the trenches of recovery.
Going to this conference was like feeling at home with 122 people that I’d never met before in my life. That’s the beauty of this event, everyone is there to learn, share, and encourage one another and to be reminded that none of us are ever alone on this journey of healing and recovery.
I look forward to hopefully being invited back in 2019 to HealtheVoices!
https://www.healthevoices.com/
-Matt Pappas, Coach, Podcaster, Advocate.
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When you think about how you view yourself, your inner world...what comes to mind? Is it compassion, kindness, self-love, and contentment...or do things like, self-criticism, shame, broken, and hopeless come to mind?
For so many. those positive views seem like a pipe dream; something we wish we could do but yet never feel like are achievable because of the past. We see others who exhibit those qualities, or we think that they do, and that leads to even more shame, blame, and resistance to change because "we could never be like that, we're too broken".
How you view yourself, your inner world has a profound influence your life as a whole, and how you see others. Your romantic relationships, your job, friends, even what you do for fun can all be influenced by our view of what we're capable of and what we think we are worthy of trying to achieve.
Beth Rogerson has dedicated her life to helping others see their true inner self with a different lens. A lens that allows you view your inner world differently, giving you opportunities to not become overwhelmed by the emotions that flood your mind and your life on a daily basis.
Beth has a Ph.D. in Counseling and is licensed in the United States as a Marriage and Family Therapist and Counselor, and has completed training with The Center of Self Leadership with Internal Family Systems therapy, and the Gestalt Institute in Cleveland, Ohio. Residing in Stockholm, Sweden,for most of the year, she provides individual and couples counseling services over a video-conferencing service as well as in person.
She's also the creator of her own incredible podcast, The Therapy Spot, which is dedicated to people like you who want to help your Self and live a better, more balanced life. I had the privilege of being on The Therapy Spot podcast in April of 2018, discussing Anxiety and Trauma Recovery.
During her time on Beyond Your Past, Beth and I discuss the Internal Family Systems model, which was developed by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D (1995), which describes your inner world as being like a family. It's a gentle kinder view of your inside world. A new frontier for you to know your self differently, and connecting kindly with respect toward yourself from the inside out.
The basic idea is that we have a family of parts inside of us as well as an abundance or self energy.
Self is best described in qualities. It has the qualities of Calm Curious Compassionate Clarity Confidence Connection Courageous and Creative. The 8 C’s We all have them within us, but they can get blocked when our parts take over and we feel, act, or react only from a part or parts of ourselves.
Beth sees the Internal Family Systems model of therapy really as a lens we can all have. It is like putting on a new pair of glasses and not even knowing you couldn’t see until you see better. I want others to have this lens. It is not a secret.
The IFS lens of viewing our own personality is that we are multiple in how we think and feel and all these different ways of thinking and feeling are different aspects or parts of ourselves. The nature of our personality is to have different parts with our Self as the leader of our system, however, problems happen when one parts gets to strong or large and hijacks our system and we have a dictator.
We talk more about the Internal Family Systems model and how the IFS approach to personal development teaches you how to cultivate your Self Qualities for greater happiness.The 8 Self qualities are:
Calm
Compassion
Curiosity
Courage
Creativity
Connection
Confidence
Clarity
We cover these 8 qualities, the IFS model, and much more, so be sure and check out the show and also don't forget to subscribe and lea
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One of the big things that so many of us seek in life is simply the desire to feel good, to feel happy. We want that feeling of being totally relaxed, not a care in the world...or the high of something exhilarating that gives you such a rush of being on top of the world. There's nothing wrong with those feelings, the problem is, it's just not something that typically happens every day.
Everybody wants to feel good and not dwell on struggles in life. To wake up each day expecting something great to happen in our lives, and then if it doesn't, we're dissapointed. Or maybe you're okay with not expecting something great to happen, you just hope that nothing bad happens.
It's a roller coaster way to go through life, so many ups and downs, highs and lows, and unrealistic expectations that we have for ourselves. When it comes right down to it we have to ask ourselves, "how has this worked out of for me so far?" am I truly experiecing all that life has to offer, am I actually embracing life for what it is with an open mind, taking in each experience for what it is, and using it as a learning tool for the future?
How exactly do we figure out how to do that, how we find a way to live a satisfying sustainable life, with the ability to embrace the great days, ride out the low days, and take each experience in with an open mind? And how does that fit into your life if you're a trauma survivor?
If you're asking yourself those questions right now, then my chat with clinical psychologist and motivator, Dr. Jennifer Guttman might be just the ticket for you.
When you read her mission statement, you can't help but intrigued about the possibilities of what her Sustainable Life Satisfaction can do: To use my experience, expertise, voice and pen to help people realize there is “a path to sustainable life satisfaction through a belief in your inherent lovability.” “Sustainable Life Satisfaction” SLS® is based on theories that I have researched and developed from cognitive-behavior therapy and refined over my 20 years of interaction with clients. My brand of therapy and therapeutic success is based on the precept that the majority of people do not have an inherent belief in their likeability or loveability...With life satisfaction comes an ability to conquer inner fears of inadequacy and the profound discovery and trust in your “inherent loveability.
Since the summer of 2016, Dr. Guttman has been featured as a Contributor and/or has written articles in over twenty nationally recognized publications and blogs including; The Washington Post, Redbook, Reader’s Digest, The Hill, Family Education, and Thrillist, among others. She has talked about a wide range of subject matter, from health/wellness, relationships and dealing with adolescent issues to coping with divorce.
The focus of our chat is on those 6 techniques, and Dr. Guttman gives some insight on each one, what they mean, and the benefits of applying each technique to your life.
-Starting is Easy, Closing is Hard: Learning the importance of closing tasks-not just starting. It’s imperative not just to start, but to also finish and close
-Decision Making: Feeling confident in decision-making, without fearing mistakes or ramifications improves self-confidence and in turn improves chances for “closing.”Br> -Facing Fears: Do not be afraid to be afraid. Use your fear as positive motivation to propel and compel you to move forward.Br> -Reduce People Pleasing Behaviors Avoid situations of co-dependency and enmeshment. Learn to live an authentic life without living in “service” of others. Watch people pleasing behaviors which secure feelings of indispensability while averting fears of abandonmentBr> -Avoiding Assumptions: Avoid making assumptions about what other people think or feel about you. Your
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Even with all the knowledge in the world, all of the awareness, the training, the therapy, you aren't immune to finding yourself in a spot where you just can't seem to get to the next step. You know how you want to feel, but actually getting to a place where you can embrace and actually live that feeling, is something totally different.
That's why when I came across a recent article that my good friend, coach, and incredible advocate, Svava Brooks, had written, I knew I wanted to bring her back on the podcast so we could talk about it.
Svava is a is a survivor of child sexual abuse and the co-founder of a nationwide child sexual abuse prevention and education organization in Iceland called “Blátt áfram.” She is also a certified instructor and facilitator for Darkness to Light Stewards of Children, as well as a certified Crisis Intervention Specialist, a certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, a BellaNet Teen support group facilitator, a Certified TRE® Provider, and an Abuse Survivor Coach.
The mother of three children, Svava has dedicated her life to ending the cycle of child sexual abuse through education, awareness, and by helping survivors heal and thrive. She is a certified facilitator for Advance!, a program created by Connections to restore authentic identity. Every week she writes about healing after trauma on her blog, and also leads a discussion forum on Child Sexual Abuse Healing and Recovery online.
During our podcast together, Svava and I discuss that recent blog post, in a very in-depth and powerful way. As you'll hear when you listen, each step builds upon the other and each has a direct effect on the other as you move forward. Being able to apply these principles in your own healing journey, and actually embody and live each one, is crucial to moving forward.
The 7 steps to help you get unstuck and move forward in healing from trauma:
-Establish Safety. Figure out what makes you feel safe. This is your first priority. Develop Courage. Eventually, your willingness to heal will develop into courage, as you take more and more healthy risks.
Create a Mindfulness Practice. Connecting with your body is essential for healing. As abused children, we learned the toxic skill of disconnection. Mindfulness will help you reconnect.
Express Your Emotions. Learn how to identify, listen to, feel, and express your emotions in a healthy way. All of them: the good, the bad, and the ugly!
Change Your Negative Beliefs. You created these toxic beliefs as a way to survive an abusive childhood. But you’re an adult now. Change your story (beliefs) to what benefits your adult life. Practice Self-Care, Self-Love, and Self-Compassion. Put yourself first on your To-Do list. Every day, find a way to lovingly care for and celebrate yourself.
Build a Support System. You can’t do this alone. Healing doesn’t work that way. Surround yourself with nourishing friends who support your healing goals, and a safe place to practice your new way of thinking/feeling/being.
You may still be saying to yourself, " but how do I apply these my life?" or "I've tried similar steps before but it just doesn't work"
Check out the show and find out Svava's insight into all of these incredible steps!
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Kelly Aiello joins me for a chat about these very topics; living with Bipolar Disorder, being a Mental Health advocate, and the importance of "telling it like it is" when it comes to living with mental illness.
Kelly is a contributor for The Mighty as well as blogger, student, wife, artist and activist. She writes primarily about mental health issues and has currently returned to school to study neuropsychology. She has bipolar type I disorder and borderline personality disorder, and lives with her husband and way too many cats in Toronto, Canada. You can learn more about her by visiting KellyJAiello.ca , including her upcoming novel and maybe send her a message and find out just how many cats she has :)
I originally connected with Kelly on a roundtable discussion coordinated by our mutual friend, author, and advocate Rebecca Lombardo. After that talk, I knew that I wanted to bring her onto the Beyond Your Past Podcast, to learn more about her life and advocacy work.
Kelly shares openly about her life and struggles with Bipolar Disorder, and paints the picture in a very real, authentic way. She talks about the particular spectrum, or level, that she lives with and also the difficulty that she experienced in finally getting the proper diagnosis.
We also discuss, is that not every person fits nice and neatly into one of the 4 defined categories. Therein lies the struggle, even with someone who is knowledgeable, in getting the proper diagnosis. Similarly to Dissociation, you don't always have the symptoms of just 1 particular type of Bipolar Disorder. As Kelly shares, it can take years to get the right treatment plan in place; and that's an incredible struggle for the person going through it and for those that help support them in their healing journey.
We also talk about her work in advocacy and the importance of sharing what really happens in daily life. Living with a mental illness has become quite a mainstream topic these days, which is good in some ways and not so good in others. The awareness is always a good thing; I think most of us would agree that anything that helps destigmatize mental health challenges is a positive.
One of the problems is though that you can't always put a positive spin on it; which is what some of the advocacy groups that Kelly has tried to work with, attempt to do. The tough days when you struggle to get out of bed, to get a shower, and go to work when you'd rather just stay in bed or curl up in a ball in the corner of your room waiting for the emotional struggle of a trigger to pass. Being a survivor of trauma and living with Bipolar or any other mental illness isn't about something positive all the time..it's many times just about just trying to make it through the day.
When you share in this real and vulnerable way, you reach an audience that would otherwise feel like they are completely alone.
Kelly also shares some tips and insight on what she's learned in the areas of self-care, which also equates to self-love, as you'll hear her explain. She talks about the importance of setting up a schedule in advance, that you can refer too on a day that you struggle, so you're prepared ahead of time and have a plan in place to take care of yourself and celebrate each win that day.
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If you're trying to conquer a traumatic past, and you live with PTSD and Dissociation, then you'll likely be able to relate to my guest on this episode of the podcast, Alexis Rose.
Alexis Rose began her remarkable healing journey in 2009. Sparked by a family tragedy she began to piece together, for the first time, a personal history of abuse and trauma. Supported by her spirituality and writing, as well as family and friends, she has profoundly grown and changed over the years.
While learning to live with the effects of her trauma, and working with the deficits caused by PTSD (Post-traumatic Stress Disorder), she has co-authored three inspirational books. Her memoir, Untangled, speaks to the courage, resilience, and triumph over her unimaginable hardship. Her newest book, If I Could Tell You How It Feels is a series of essays and poems about living authentically with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Alexis is an experienced speaker on the topics of living with Post-traumatic Stress Disorder. She is also an active blogger who writes about PTSD, Mental Health, and Trauma, with a bit of poetry sprinkled in along the way. She is passionate about bringing awareness to help break the stigma of living with a mental illness, particularly PTSD.
She shares with us some of those skills, and elaborates more on how they helped her then, and still today as she lives with PTSD:
Reach out to family and friends who are safe.
Learn to be vulnerable in your authentic self.
Distraction can make us feel guilty, but it's necessary in healing; color, draw, go for a walk in nature.
Exercise
Bilateral stimulation, that part of journaling helps keep you grounded in a big way.
Sometimes you just aren't going to be ok...that's ok.
Grounding skills
Join us on the show as we discuss these tools, more about her journey as a survivor, and how it came to be that she would write her memoir.
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Kristin Sunanta Walker is the CEO of the technology consulting firm, everythingEHR, and the founder of the Mental Health News Radio Network. She's also a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, and an advocate for survivors of childhood trauma. She has interviewed leaders in the behavioral health community such as CEO’s of technology companies, counselors, best-selling authors, and global experts in the field of Behavioral Health. Her show is downloaded in over 171 countries and continues its reach with inspiring guests from every corner of the world.
Kristin is on the board of several organizations within Behavioral Health as well as the subject matter expert regarding EHR technology. Multiple strategic partnerships and speaking engagements about childhood sexual abuse, narcissism, and behavioral health technology keep her traveling schedule extremely full as well as being a sought after guest on other popular podcasts.
If that name sounds familiar, it's because my podcast, Beyond Your Past, is also on the MHNR Network, and I thought it would be great to chat with my friend and amazing advocate, Kristin, so she could share her story of being a survivor, her struggles and triumphs along the way, and of course about how and why she started this amazing platform for mental health and advocacy podcasters.
Podcasting is something that Kristin is passionate about, and even though the MHNR Network now has over 20 active podcasts and many more waiting in the wings, it didn't start out like that. It started with her having a vision of just needing to get her story out there, to start talking about not only her past and the things that she struggles with, but to shed light on advocacy as a whole. She knew that she had to start talking about it; silence was no longer an option.
So she got a mic and started her own podcast, talking to anyone and everyone who would want to share. Over time and utilizing her connections in the business world, her own "1 woman show" blossomed into the MHNR Network. A place to give her a past, and healing, a voice, and where other people who had a similar vision could come together with a common goal of Advocacy.
During our chat, we cover several topics in a very open, vulnerable conversation:
How old were you when you were sexually abused?
How did that make you view men?
How has that affected your interpersonal relationships?
What were the circumstances around you telling and how old were you?
What people can you remember that helped you through this?
How did your past of being a childhood trauma survivor inspire you to start MHNR?
What is Mental Health After Dark?
It was a wonderful time chatting with my friend and fellow advocate, and I'm honored to share that with you now. I hope you'll consider checking out her show, and as many of the other amazing podcasts on the network. It's through using our voice, and sharing, that we can make a difference in our own journey of healing and in the lives of countless others.
Check out Mental Health News Radio Network and learn more about Kristin Walker by following her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn
Matthew Pappas, CLC
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My guests for this episode of Beyond Your past, are Dawn Compton and Amanda Schrader, two incredible women who are survivors themselves, and their story is sure to encourage you as listen to them share. Their passion for helping survivors of childhood sexual abuse and any type of trauma, is inspiring, and I'm honored to help them share their message and the work they are doing in their local community on behalf of child advocacy.
Dawn and Amanda contacted me through the blog, and wanted to come on the podcast and talk about their mission to help establish a child advocacy center (CAC) in Jones County, Mississippi, and also to spread the word about their upcoming book, and just to share their stories as survivors and best friends.
These two ladies originally met at backyard Bible club about 18 years ago, and then were reunited when Amanda came to work as an RN in Jones County, and discovered that Dawn also worked at the same hospital as an RN. The two reconnected and have been best friends ever since. During their time together they discovered that each had a past that involved being abused as children, and now they have teamed up with a mission to spread awareness for childhood trauma and create resources in their local community for other survivors.
Their story is incredible and one that will both inspire and encourage you. I know for me personally, every time I talk to Dawn and Amanda, I'm filled with so much encouragement because these two women are so driven and passionate about helping children. They've taken it upon themselves to be the voice that they never had as children.
In addition to their individual stories as survivors, we talk about:
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What is Voice for the Silenced and how was it started?
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The child advocacy center.
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When is your book, Nursing the Wounds, going to be available?
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What's ahead in the future, a second book?
If you'd like to learn more about Voice for the Silenced, please check out their Facebook page and consider signing their petition for a Child Advocacy Center in Jones County, Mississippi.
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My guest on Ep. 60 of the Beyond Your Past Podcast, is Rukshana Triem, and she is certainly no stranger to trials and tribulations that come from a childhood full of trauma.
Rukshana is former refugee from Mozambique who came to the United States in 1990s. She overcame childhood sexual abuse during her time in the refugee camp and is now an advocate for parents and child care providers to support them on their healing journey. She is also the C.E.O of her Women's Lifestyle coaching business where she helps women overcome their rough past and create their beautiful life through Nature Retreats and online coaching programs and communities.
Rukshana holds a Bachelor’s Degree of Science in Human Development and worked as an Early Childhood Teacher, Trainer, Mentor, Social worker, and now a Lifestyle Coach for women.
When she's not working she's spending time with her husband, her girls who are currently in college, and volunteering taking women on outdoor adventures, including hiking and backpacking.
During our time on the podcast, Rukshana and I discuss things such as:
Some of the past of living in the refugee camp, and the trauma that she endured, and how she uses those experiences to help others overcome their past?
How did she change her story from Trauma to Success?
When did you get to the point that you said its time to change your story from Victim to Victory?
How did her journey lead into a career in entrepreneurship?
What she would like to share with others who are stuck in their old story?
How long did this journey take to heal the Trauma, and what other steps did she take to heal her wounds?
For more information on the podcast, or if you'd like to be a guest on the show, please head over to BeyondYourPast.com/Podcasts and contact me.
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Dissociation, a topic that has fascinated me as much as it’s frustrated me ever since the first time I ever learned what in the world it even was. For all of the research I've done on this topic, it never ceases to amaze me how the brain takes over during trauma to remove us from being fully present in order to protect us. Of course, long after the trauma has ended, the effects can still linger on.
I can remember sitting in a therapists office years ago, when I first came to terms with the fact that I was a survivor of trauma. She caught me staring out into space, while looking right at her. She noticed when I would tune out during a conversation that was particularly troubling for me to have. Even when the topic wasn’t anything particularly difficult to discuss, the ease with which I transitioned out of being fully present to “never never land” was a clear sign of Dissociation.
Some time ago I reached to guest blogger and friend, Erin Fado, to see if she wouldn’t mind coming on to do a podcast and share her experience of living with dissociation and dissociative identity disorder.
Erin has written extensively on SMP and on her own blog, You Will Bear Witness, about her experiences of being a survivor of trauma and now living with dissociative disorders. She uses her experiences to help validate others and encourage survivors to keep fighting; to never give up on themselves.
Erin joins us from Australia, where she is now medically retired after working as a Professor of Sociology and lecturer at the University of Wollongong in Sidney. She lives with her husband in the countryside, and undergoes extensive EMDR therapy to help with her DID.
Some of the topics that Erin and I discuss on this episode of the Beyond Your Past Podcast:
What is dissociation? Do you usually go to the past, present of future:? How long does it tend to last for? Is it usually triggered by something? How does dissociation impact your everyday life? Have you found treatments/solutions useful?
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In this episode of the podcast, I'm honored to be joined by my friend and colleague, Claire Cappetta.
Claire is a Coach, Author, and Speaker, specializing in areas such as helping you break free from the pain of abuse, overcoming guilt, gaining self-confidence, setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, and discovering the authentic you.
Her books include, A broken Ring, a journey from abuse. Stalking Liberty, Are you safe? and her latest release, Rekindle Your Inner Sparkle: An Alternative Way to Heal from Trauma and Abuse. You can find all of her books on amazon, and her website, https://www.clairecappetta.co.uk/.
Claire joins us to talk about the following topics:
-How childhood trauma affects our self-esteem -How growing up with a narcissistic parent can affect our ability to cultivate healthy relationships and healthy boundaries. -Sharing some of her story as a survivor -Her new course - Rekindle Your Sparkle after abuse - A step by step course to regain your self-esteem from a narcissistic relationship. Her involvement with the new Clarified Lifeline device and app, - Understanding your bio-metrics it will alert emergency services for help if you are in a life-threatening situation, record and time stamp what is happening around the wearer. It is waterproof up to 30 feet and will vibrate to let you know your alarm has answered and help is on its way. Understanding your bio-metrics it will alert emergency services for help if you are in a life-threatening situation, record and time stamp what is happening around the wearer. It is waterproof up to 30 feet and will vibrate to let you know your alarm has answered and help is on its way.
The app contains Meditation, Mindfulness and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to help you stay calm and lessen potential PTSD and anxiety. We are designing this with Libby Seery, a London Harley Street psychotherapist.
Thank you again Claire for joining me on the podcast. I look forward to having you on the show again in the future.
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In this episode, I take on a topic that has never been discussed before here on the podcast. I'm not even sure there's been much said about it on podcasts at all, period.
Today i'll be sharing with you an experience that has recently changed my life, one that took me from the status quo, going about my business to a complete pause. This recent health concern, and really scare if we're being honest here, took everything that I had been doing in life, and all of the plans that I'd been working on for the last few years and made me reassess a great many things about my life.
As you'll hear, what I thought was nothing more than a chest virus or some kind of flu like symptoms, turned into a possible stroke diagnosis, then possible Bells Palsy, finally winding up with a week long hospital stay and a diagnosis of Guillain Barre Syndrome.
In the midst of all the things that were going on in life at the time: Life Coach working with clients Working on a new book Blogging Podcasting Working a full time day job Being a parent and many other things that occupied my time, the events of the last 6 weeks have made me realize a great many things.
Join me on the podcast as I talk about the events leading up to the diagnosis, what life was like then and what it's like now. The fire, the passion, the desire for all of those things is still there, and will always be, but the importance of taking better care of myself in the process, and drawing closer to my creator has been monumental.
It's my hope that this podcast will reach you with a message of hope and encouragement, and validation that you are not alone, in your struggles in life.
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For my guest on this episode of the podcast, Laura shares some of her story about one woman’s struggle to overcome a childhood of abuse at the hands of her cruel, bullying brother. Laura is an author and survivor, currently living in Ontario, Canada with her husband of twenty-two years, her twenty-year old son and two rescued dogs. She is a successful entrepreneur, and passionate about her business and an avid animal lover.
When I was first contacted by Laura about coming on the show, I checked out her website, MyCourageToTell.com, and was immediately interested in learning more about this amazing survivor and her book, My Courage to Tell, Facing My Childhood Bully and Reclaiming My Inner Child. Her story is exactly what the podcast is all about, talking with people who've overcome incredibly difficult circumstances and are now using their story to help inspire others.
Laura shares with us her inspiration for deciding to end her silence and write about her personal story; memories of this abuse remain deeply buried until an aunt dies in Manhattan, leaving an estate that Laura must settle with her estranged brother. As she tries to administer the estate, she is plagued by symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder. Suppressed memories start to rise to the surface as Laura begins to remember, and she now realizes that she has to face a childhood of psychological and physical abuse.
Laura and I cover topics including:
Can you share what kind of bullying you had as a child? Where were your parents when all this was going on? Can you talk about psychological and emotional abuse and how harmful it is? What is psychological abuse? What will a child experience who has been abused psychologically? How did you work out your PTSD symptoms?
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How many times have you said something like this to yourself, or heard someone else say: "I'm just an anxious person by nature, it's all I know", "I've always been anxious about everything in life, I can't ever just relax", or "I was born this way and that's all there is to it".
Anxiety can take over your life, and can define how you see yourself if you let it. That's the key right there my friend, "if you let it". Anxiety only has the power that you allow it to have. The sooner we realize and embrace that, the sooner we start to see anxiety for what it is...a liar!
My guest on this episode of the Beyond Your Past Podcast is someone who's dedicated their life to helping everyone see anxiety for what it truly is, and overcome it. To empower them with the knowledge that not only is anxiety a liar, but also to equip them with skills to take their life back and live free from the grip of overwhelming anxiety.
In her work as a Psychotherapist, Jodi Aman has helped people in the areas of: Anxiety, depression, divorce, chronic pain, illness, eating disorders, abuse trauma, gender identity, relationship issues, as well as military/war trauma. She's also an author of, "You 1 Anxiety 0, Win Your Life Back From Fear and Panic". This incredible resource has helped countless people all over the world realize that there is hope in the fight against anxiety.
The main topic of our chat centers around the question of, "is anxiety curable?"...and the short answer is a resounding, YES!
I pose that exact question to Jodi and we discuss the 3 reasons why anxiety is indeed curable, and why so many feel that it isn't. We discuss why anxiety keeps us stuck and how we can overcome it. By the way, that's precisely what it wants you to believe, that there is no cure for anxiety and that it's a life sentence of misery, isolation, depression, and living in fear.
So why exactly do so many think that there is no cure? Well, one reason is because someone told you that it wasn't, so therefore you believe it. There are some mental health professionals and coaches that believe there is no cure; that you can only work to manage it, but not completely overcome it. If that's your mindset then it becomes exponentially more difficult to try to make any type of positive change. If you feel like there's no hope, no end goal of healing and feeling better, it's very easy to not work as hard or just give up completely. You eventually begin to define yourself in every negative way possible, so therefore trying to embrace any hope of healing is darn near impossible. Then you emotionally beat yourself up because your stuck, miserable, broken and alone. It's a vicious cycle to say the least.
Another reason is that it's just so easy to stay still and not even try. We stay isolated and alone at home, seemingly safe from the outside world. We don't go out with friends, we don't embrace and enjoy what life has to offer. We have such a negative view of our ability to cope, that we figure we're better off alone so we don't set ourselves up for more failure.
The third reason is that you've tried everything to cure your anxiety and you still don't like yourself. You still don't feel like you've made any progress, like this whole idea of beating anxiety is a pipe dream and you simply aren't capable enough to pull it off. The key here friends is...
We cover these 3 reasons more in-depth on the podcast, so you'll definitely want to give it a listen! Plus, we discuss some strategies that you can put in place to help embrace a positive mindset of completely healing from anxiety.
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-Matt Pappas, CLC Certified Life Coach, Specializing in Overcoming Anxiety and Working with Trauma Survivors.
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When we think about bullying, the immediate effects include, but are not limited to, low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, isolation, depression, loss of trust; but it's important to also realize that the effect that bullying has on our brain and our body, goes far beyond the short-term.
I can remember back when I was in late elementary school, and all the way through the end of middle school, I suffered from all of those things in my life, and a few others. Not only was my self-esteem shot and the very thought of going to school each day caused my anxiety to sky-rocket, but I think one of the worst things that I experienced was a feeling of complete loneliness. I felt like there was something wrong with me since I seemed to exist only to be an outlet for others aggression. That kind of intense pressure on a child or young adult causes serious emotional developmental problems, and likely was one of the reasons that I spent a good deal of time in a learning disability center in school. Looking back, I am grateful to those teachers who helped me, but at the time it also served as yet another target on my back.
Even now as an adult and able to take care of myself, I'm not immune to the pangs of childhood trauma memories that surface when I read about a child who's been beaten up at school, or suffers from bullying at the hands of a sibling.
This topic has become main stream in the last 10 years or so, with advocacy sites and anti-bullying programs readily available to most anyone who has an internet connection, yet even with all of this access and awareness, this problem still exists. Let's not forget, that with the onset of social media, cyber bullying has taken this problem to an entirely new level. In the US alone, 28% of U.S. students in grades 6–12 experienced bullying, and in a single large study, about 49% of children in grades 4–12 reported being bullied by other students at school at least once during the past month, whereas 30.8% reported bullying others during that time.*
Unfortunately, victims of bullying are 7 to 9 percent more likely to consider suicide, according to a study at Yale University. In addition, children as young as 6-8 years old have taken their own lives as a result.*
Those statistics are staggering, which why it's so important for us understand the long-term effects of bullying and how we can not only help ourselves, but also help others who have experienced this type of trauma. Make no mistake, being bullied is a form of trauma.
To help understand how these effects can last well into adulthood, and how to cope and recover, I wanted to talk to an expert and share not only his experiences of being bullied but also his amazing journey of recovery and the work that he's doing now to help educate youth and their families on this important problem. My good friend and fellow life coach, Alan Eisenberg, recently sat down with me for a chat on this topic, and that is the focus of this episode of the Beyond Your Past Podcast.
Alan is the founder of BullyingRecovery.org, and organization who's dedicated to helping those who suffer from the long-term effects of bullying (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or C-PTSD) to find the help they so desperately need by providing media, materials and support for their recovery.
Be sure and check out the rest of the blog post over on BeyondYourPast.com.
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The "man card", the thing that supposedly defines what a man is, or should be in the eyes of his peers. It's been used in relation to everything from sports, to politics, to who's makes the best burgers. It's something that's been joked about since the beginning of time I suppose.
"Dude, you just lost your man card"...."So when did your wife take your man card again?" I'm sure you've heard these and countless others before, and they can definitely be in good fun among friends. To that, did you know that there is actual an official (so to speak) definition of a man card?
A Man Card is required proof of manhood in order to become a respected member of the male community. It can and will be temporarily revoked if privileges as a Man are abused.*
So what does all this "card talk" have to do with Beyond Your Past? To that point, if you're a woman and you're wondering "what could this have to do with me?" Well, I'm glad you asked...
I recently had the honor of talking with friend, fellow survivor, advocate, artist, and author, Brian Cardoza, and we decided to record a podcast together. I'm stoked to share this with you, because this show was something that inspired me and also validated me as a survivor, in some incredible ways. Since we're being real here, it doesn't matter how long you've been at your healing journey from trauma, more validation is always a good thing.
In case you aren't familiar with Brian, he's the author of , "The Unexpected Victim", his story of recovery from repeated childhood sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. You can find his book on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. Brian's message is one of responsibility and hope. As a survivor, he works diligently raising awareness and money to fight against sexual assault and physical abuse. He believes in the potential to change your circumstances by changing your thinking. His motto of, "Don't let this moment dictate the next moment" is shared by the many that he inspires, and I'm definitely included in that group.
We covered so much during our time together, but I wanted to highlight a few key topics to get you ready for our conversation...
One of which was that "man card", because when I mentioned it during our chat, he brought up such an insightful way to look it and how we need to redefine it's meaning. You'll notice I keep putting it in quotes, because I never put much stock in that man card stuff in the first place".
Anyway...so what would it look like we could give a card to everyone who's a survivor of abuse? To any man who steps up and shares his story, and refuses to be ashamed? To a guy who saves someone from being abused, or offers refuge to a victim when they have nothing left or nowhere to go? To a boy who speaks up and tells someone what's going on in his home because he isn't safe, or tells someone because his friend is living in an abusive home?
Now that my friends, is a real Man Card right there! As Brian also mentions, "I can still be a man and not have machismo, I can still be a man and be sympathetic. " We get into that topic more in depth, so you'll want to check out the podcast for sure!
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Also Be sure and check out BrianCardoza.com for all the information on his story, the book, his art, and more!
-Matt Pappas, CLC
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When you bring up the subject of food issues, and things like weight control and binge eating, it strikes a very personal chord for many people. It's a touchy subject, and one that often times comes with a great deal of self-shame. According to statistics, it's estimated that up to 30 million people in the US alone suffer with some type of eating disorder. *
To say that you are not alone if you struggle with food in any way, is an understatement, but it's important to understand that for those who have or current do live with any type of food issue, often times they absolutely feel alone. This has been a personal struggle for me, and a really a life long battle that has more ups and downs than you shake a stick at.
So when I was approached by my friend, and returning podcast guest, Davina Lytle, about discussing this subject on the show, I had some unsettling feelings. Not because I didn't want to talk about it, but because I wanted to make very sure that we covered it in a way that was validating, encouraging, and supportive for everyone who listens.
Davina writes for her blog, on DavinaLytle.com, and shares how "I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) just over 12 years ago, but I’ve had it most of my life. I don’t function like most other people, but I believe I function quite well for someone with PTSD. I try to look at things positively and I try to avoid things that are negative; especially people, because I take a lot of things to heart."
As we get started on the podcast, Davina talks about when her struggles with binge eating began, and how it started about the same that her parents had split up and abuse in the home began to escalate. She talks about "eating her words", and you'll learn how by doing so it became a substitute for reaching out and asking for help.
We talk about the struggles that both of us endured, since our stories are similar in some ways, of using food as a coping mechanism and a comfort. How sitting around and downing a bag of chips and a bowl of ice cream became the go to way for dealing with stress, anxiety, and numbing from the pain of what was unfolding around us while growing up.
Into adulthood, the struggle is still real because things that were learned in younger years had carried over and those unhealthy coping strategies and using food to numb the pain had also carried over. As she shares, food became a way for her to try to avoid the very subject of men and relationships.
"I figured if I got fat then I would be unattractive to men who were inappropriate with their actions and words...but you know what, it didn't. It just kept on."
As we discuss, we not only judge ourselves because of the way that we look, but then we also shame ourselves because of the way we deal with how we look, again by eating. The cycle just keeps going on and on, eating and shame, eating and shame, and it wasn't until Davina was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes, that things began to change...because her life now depended on it.
We discuss these topics and more, in-depth, during our show...so grab those headphones or plug us into your car speakers and join us on the podcast.
Thanks again Davina for sharing so openly, and for validating all who struggle with finding a healthy relationship with food. your insight will surely encourage so many with a message of hope!
Be sure and check out DavinaLytle.com and follower her on Twitter: @DavinaLytle.
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*Source: Mirror-Mirror.com
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On this podcast, I'm joined by friend and Psychologist, Dr. Baker.
A Clinical Psychologist, based in California, Dr. Baker works with individuals, families, youth, veterans, and first responders in areas such as Anxiety and Panic, Family Issues, Self-Criticism, Trauma Recovery, PTSD and more. She is also the creator and host of the Go Friend Your Self Podcast.
Dr. Baker graciously accepted my invitation to join the podcast, and what better topic to discuss, than self-acceptance and self-love, which happens to be one of the areas she specializes in with her private practice. She also does Periscope videos on this topic, as well as ways that we can get a handle on anxiety by understanding it.
During our time together on the podcast, we discuss what it means to fully accept who we are as survivors, and why it can be so difficult when you factor in trauma recovery to self-love. I know that you'll find her insight relatable and encouraging as she shares how the journey of healing can be a tremendous struggle, yet the rewards are real and very attainable, no matter what you've experienced in the past.
We discuss how the mask that we wear in every day life can be directly related to how we view ourselves. By putting on a mask, so to speak, we only allow others to see what we think they want to see, or what we want them to see, all the while our true selves are dealing with self-shame, and the pain that we feel we will be judged by if we reveal our true selves in a vulnerable way. This is an incredible struggle that can keep us stuck in self-defeating mindsets, and inhibit the healing that we desperately seek.
We also discuss what it means to be curious about ourselves, in the sense of allowing our minds to embrace the idea that there just might be a different way to view who we are now and the outlook that we have on our future. By working through the limitations of black and white thinking, a whole new world of self-advocacy opens up right before our eyes.
Dr. Baker also shares her insight and strategies for how we can begin to create a good relationship with who we are every day, and the importance of doing so. By creating a positive, loving, and curious relationship with ourselves, we become more compassionate and understanding in our own life and how we view others. By becoming more compassionate and understanding, we are more able to give ourselves a break along the way, understanding that life and healing is a journey, full of ups and downs, and that's it's okay to make mistakes, to not be perfect.
We cover this and much more on the podcast, so grab those headphones or plug us into your car speakers, and join us!
Be sure and check out her blog, GoFriendYourSelfDoc.com and Follow her on Twitter: @DrBakerPhD
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Welcome back everyone to Ep 7 of the Mental Health Megacast! A round table discussion from 3 guys who are advocates for mental health awareness.
Your hosts for the Megacast are Wes from AudioRising.com, Mike from MikesOpenJournal.com, and myself. Each of us are podcasters and bloggers in support of not only Mental Health, but also addiction recovery, depression, self-harm, and trauma survivors.
In this episode we are talking about Halloween! We cover topics such as: -Our thoughts on Halloween and how we celebrate it, or don't celebrate it. -What our triggers are around this holiday, including the anxiety that can be caused by social media, the movies, television, haunted attractions, and more. -The importance of self care during this time, not only from being triggered about the events themselves but also the feelings of peer pressure, loneliness, depression, and more. -Plus we talk about what we're up too and potential topics for Ep 8 which will air in early December, 2017.
So grab those headphones or plug us into your car stereo and join us for the Mental Health Megacast.
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I'm joined by Miranda Pacchiana, MSW. Miranda is here to share her story as a survivor of sexual abuse at the hands of her brother, while she was a child.
In this episode we not only learn of her story of survival, but also Miranda shares insight into coping with a family who does not support your healing journey.
You'll learn why family members react in the manner that Miranda's did and why this is unfortunately so common when you share the realization of a traumatic past.
We'll also talk about forgiveness and how personal that is, unique to each survivor. There is a emotional freedom from forgiveness, but ultimately it is up to the survivor alone to determine when, how, or if that should ever be approached.
You have the right to share your story the way that you know it to be true. You have a right to not be silenced.
Miranda's story will validate and encourage you in your journey, and inspire you that your past does not have to define your future. You are more than your trauma, even with a lack of support from family.
Be sure and checked out Miranda on Twitter: @MirandaPacchian , Her blog - SecondWound.Wordpress.com, and on Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/SecondWound
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Today I'm joined by special guest and author, Julie Coons. Julie wrote the book, This does not leave this house. A story about growing up with an abusive mother, surviving sexual assault, and escaping an abusive relationship.
Julie is here with me today to talk about her book and share some of her experiences as a survivor, in hopes of reaching as many as possible with her story, to help inspire hope and validate all who have endured similar struggles.
We cover topics including:
- Why she decided to write her book and where the inspiration for the title came from.
- The different types of abuse that she endured throughout her life.
- New realizations of her mother and how that relates to narcissistic abuse.
- Her future plans for not only her current book but future books and speaking engagements.
Julie's story is one of not only a traumatic past, but also a story of a resilient survivor who refused to stay silent.
Be sure and follow her on Twitter: @JulieCoons1 and stay tuned to her social media for information on the publish date of her book and future projects.
So grab those headphones or plug us in to your car and join us for a time of sharing, validation, and healing. Don't forget to head over to RachelGrantCoaching.com to find out more about Rachel, her program - Beyond Surviving, and all of the amazing resources she has available.
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In this episode I'm talking with Advocate, Speaker, and Author, Josh Rivedal.
Josh joins me as we talk about his work in suicide prevention, and his unique approach to advocacy. He uses his experience and talent in theater to share his message of not only his only suicide attempt but also enduring the loss of his father to suicide. His powerful story, shared as only he can, gives you insight to not only his life, but the feelings of others who struggle. His one man play goes above and beyond normal speaking and teaching, and allows you to connect in a real, raw, emotional way.
We also discuss his books, the I'm Possible series, one of which my story as a survivor is featured (volume 2).
Join Josh and I as we talk Suicide Prevention, Advocacy, Awareness, and the importance of giving a voice to those who may not have one, and inspiring others.
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Welcome back to Surviving My Podcast! I'm please to introduce a returning guest and my good friend, Rachel Grant. Rachel is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach, and has an MA in Counseling Psychology. Her extensive research on how the brain is affected by trauma has been life changing for her clients and everyone who has read her book, Beyond Surviving, the Final Stage of Recovery from Sexual Abuse.
In this podcast we discuss the topic of Flashbacks. We learn about what they are, and how our brain reacts during a flashback. We discuss the importance of understanding why they happen and we share ways that you can effectively decrease not only their intensity, but their frequency.
So grab those headphones or plug us in to your car and join us for a time of sharing, validation, and healing. Don't forget to head over to RachelGrantCoaching.com to find out more about Rachel, her program - Beyond Surviving, and all of the amazing resources she has available.
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Back again with my podcasting buddies, Wes from AudioRising.com and Mike from MikesOpenJoural.com - for another edition of the Mental Health Megacast.
3 guys in a round table discussion on various topics surrounding mental health advocacy and our personal struggles as guys doing blogging and podcasting on the topics of Addiction Recovery, Trauma Recovery, and Depression.
In this episode we are talking about diversity in blogging and advocacy. We discuss the challenges that come with talking about sensitive subjects, and the all too easy way out of just staying silent.
We also share some of our own stories of what being an advocate has meant for us, and how that plays into our daily lives and interactions with friends and family.
There's a ton a of great chat in this episode...and some fun too as always! So grab those headphones or plug us in to your speakers, and join us for a time of sharing, validation, and healing. Don't forget to to subscribe to our channels so you always know when new content is released!
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I'm joined by Dr. Charlotte Howard on this episode of the podcast, where we discuss Emotional Healing from Trauma Recovery.
Charlotte is a Psychologist at Deep Eddy Psychotherapy in Austin, Texas. She has helped hundreds of women learn to love themselves and feel great about who they are and their place in the world.
The topics we discuss also include mindfulness, self-love, self-compassion, and overcoming shame and self-blame in trauma recovery. It's an amazing show that you don't want to miss!
So grab those headphones or plug us in to your car and join us for a time of sharing, validation, and healing. Don't forget to head over to YourselfTruly.com to find out more about Charlotte, her work, her book, and the programs she has available!
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In this episode, I talk with Analie Shepherd, author of Mending the Shattered Mirror: a Story of Recovery from Abuse in Therapy.
We talk about her life as a survivor of abuse in therapy, living with Dissociative Identity Disorder, and her book. It's a show you don't want to miss, and be sure to head over to MendingTheShatteredMirror.com for more information on Analie.
So grab those headphones or plug us in to your car and join us for a time of sharing, validation, and healing. Don't forget to head over to KatiaCooper.com to find out more about her advocacy work, the podcast, and her book.
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In this episode of the podcast, I am joined by the amazing Sarah Fader. Sarah started StigmaFighters.com, and amazing mental health organization dedicated to helping people who live with mental illness. Sarah and I discuss topics such as how Stigma Fighters got started, the 3 volume Anthology, her advocacy work, life with mental health challenges, and so much more!
Be sure and head over to StigmaFighters.com and check out Sarah on Twitter @TheSarahFader.
So grab those headphones or plug us in to your car and join us for a time of sharing, validation, and healing. Don't forget to head over to KatiaCooper.com to find out more about her advocacy work, the podcast, and her book.
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In this episode, I am joined by special guest, author, survivor, and healing creatrix, Katia Cooper.
We discuss her book, An Elf's Journey, Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse. This amazing resource for survivors is sure to inspire and encourage you as follow an endearing elf who carries a burden that didn't belong to her. This book will tug at your heart and validate you at the same time as you gain a unique perspective on healing from childhood trauma.
Be sure and check out KatiaCooper.com for information on how to get a copy for yourself and a friend!
So grab those headphones or plug us in to your car and join us for a time of sharing, validation, and healing. Don't forget to head over to KatiaCooper.com to find out more about her advocacy work, the podcast, and her book.
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Rebecca Lombardo joins Matt on this edition of the podcast to talk about the impact that the loss of a loved one has on our overall mental health.
We discuss the importance of working through the grieving process, and how it can often bring up a multitude of emotions and memories from the past. This time of loss can have a great impact on our overall well being, especially for those that live with mental health challenges.
As a suicide survivor, and someone who battles depression and bi-polar, Rebecca is an inspiration to so many. Her unwavering desire to advocate for others is evident in her book, her podcast, and her blogs.
We also discuss the release of her book, It's Not Your Journey, along with her podcast, Voices for Change 2.0.
So grab those headphones or plug us in to your car and join us for a time of sharing, validation, and healing. Don't forget to head over to RebeccaLombardo.com to find out more about her advocacy work, the podcast, and her book.
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Welcome back to episode #5 of the Mental Health Megacast (even though Wes think it's episode 4.haha )
I'm joined by my amazing podcasting partners and brothers in advocacy, Wes from AudioRising.com and Mike from MIkesOpenJournal.com.
We're catching up with where we've been, what we've been up too, and what the future plans are for each of us. Then we discuss the importance of embracing where our lives are at, and knowing when we need to slow down a bit from the hectic pace that life and advocacy work often takes us.
We cover all of that and much more...so grab those headphones, plug us into your car stereo and join us as we rock this megacast.
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In this episode of the podcast, I talk with Tali Love, writer, advocate, creator and host of the compelling Podcast and Blog, KinfolkChronicles.com.
We chat about about the tough topic of forgiveness, and how it a personal decision, unique to each individual, and nobody has the right to tell you how, when, or if you decide to forgive or reconcile with those who have invalidated you in the past.
We also discuss her advocacy work, facebook group, blog, and much more!
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I'm excited to welcome special guest, Sheri Poe, to the podcast! Sheri is a sexual assault survivor, advocate, coach, mother, speaker, and entrepreneur.
On the podcast, she tells us how a seemingly normal day in college turned into a tragedy as she suddenly found herself a lone in a car, at the mercy of someone who would change her life forever. She details the experience, along with the emotions and thoughts that ran through her mind that day, not even knowing for sure if she would make it out alive.
We also discuss her coaching practice and advocacy work on behalf of sexual assault survivors.
This is an amazing podcast that you don't want to miss!
Be sure and head over to SheriPoe.com to learn more about Sheri, including her coaching work, advocacy work, speaking engagements, and more!
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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I am honored to be joined by my friend and warrior sister, Dawn Hendrickson, on this episode of Surviving My Podcast.
Dawn, who has also guest blogged many times, shares her inspirational story of surviving childhood abuse, rape, and emotional and physical abuse. Throughout her life she has certainly experienced more than her share of struggles, but through it all she refused to give up.
https://www.survivingmypast.net/?s=song+warriors
Join us as we also discuss working through PTSD, Triggers, and why it can be so frustrating when you realize that you need to go back and start working through your past, all over again.Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
I'm honored to be joined by Elisabeth Corey, MSW, in this episode of Surviving My Podcast.
She is an author, advocate, and survivor of child sex abuse and trafficking. Elisabeth uses her life experiences to help others through her Coaching practice, and to generate awareness about sexual violence and complex post-traumatic stress disorder.
We cover so many amazing topics in this podcast, so you definitely don't want to miss it. Things like Inner Parts Work, Inner Child, Dissociative Identity Disorder, and healing from Chronic Pain.Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
In this podcast I'm honored to speak NLP Master Practitioner, Mike Bundrant. Mike is the founder of INLP.org, a writer for Psych Central, and a retired Psychotherapist.
Mike shares just what exactly NLP is, Neuro Linguistic Programming, and some of the ways that it can help in trauma recovery for abuse survivors.
I hope you'll find this podcast encouraging as you work through your own survivor journey or as a supporting partner in their recovery.
Check out INLPCenter.org for more information on their programs and training's available.
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In this podcast I'm honored to be joined by Breakthrough Recovery Coach, Best Selling Author, and expert on Codependency and Narcissistic abuse, Lisa Romano.
Topics include discussing the emotional trauma that a narcissistic parent inflicts on a child; including brainwashing, invalidation, confusion, and low self-esteem just to name a few.
We also discuss confronting a narcissist and the mindset that we as the survivor, needs to have and the expectations that need to be understood before even considering going down that path.
To learn more about Lisa, her coaching programs, and the amazing resources that she has available, head over LisaARomano.com
Be sure and head over to NikkiDuBose.com and PeacefulHeartsFoundation.org
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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I am honored to talk with Survivor, Author, Advocate, and Ambassador, Nikki Dubose.
Cast into a world of excess, superficiality, and vanity, Nikki traveled the globe and experienced the finest that the material world had to offer, all while feeling empty inside. Her disorders, addictions and mental health issues took her to the brink of mortality and only though a deeply painful inner-battle and her mother's death was she able to reconnect the lost pieces of her soul and see the person she had so long rejected.
Her recovery from a nearly lifelong struggle with PTSD, psychosis, addictions and eating disorders has left Nikki with a passionate longing to help others who are also suffering by advocating for mental health and self-acceptance.
In this podcast you will learn so much about what she has overcome and how important her advocacy work is with the many organizations she is apart of, including being Board President of Peaceful Hearts Foundation.
Be sure and head over to NikkiDuBose.com and PeacefulHeartsFoundation.org
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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Hope for healing for abuse survivors and those living with chronic illness, that's the topic of this podcast with Kami Lingren.
Specifically, we discuss neuroplasticity and the DNRS program. Kami is a chronic illness blogger on LivingGraceBlog.com and also a participant in the DNRS program. After a few months, her results both on her physical and emotional health, have been remarkable and we share those along with her experiences so far in working through the program.
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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The importance of open, honest, communication is key for any relationship to thrive. That important is paramount also in the lives of abuse survivors and partners of survivors.
The support and encouragement of a spouse, family member, or close friend is incredibly helpful as a survivor navigates his or her own healing journey.
In this podcast I welcome back returning guest, Heather Tuba, and she shares her insight as the wife of a childhood trauma survivor. Her tips and questions will help keep the lines of healthy communication open and validating for everyone involved.
Be sure and check out HeatherTuba.com for more information, resources, and to get a free copy of her ebook - "For the Partners of Childhood Abuse Survivors".Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
In this podcast I'm joined by returning guest, author, and sexual abuse survivor coach, Rachel Grant. www.RachelGrantCoaching.com
In support of child abuse prevention month, we discuss developing and enforcing healthy boundaries for children and youth. We also discuss how our self-agency is damaged as a result of abuse but there is always hope and healing to embrace.
We also the pressures that today's youth feel from not only peers but also from social media and how boundaries are important in the digital world as well.
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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Continuing with my series of podcasts during Child abuse prevention month 2017, I'm joined by returning guest, friend, advocate, and coach, Svava Brooks.
In this podcast we discuss the 5 steps to preventing child abuse, as outlined by darkness to light. D2L.org.
Join us as we discuss these steps, and deep dive into what it means to really educate ourselves and our children to give us all the best possible chance to keep our children safe.Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
In honor of child abuse prevention month 2017, I'm honored to be joined by a returning guest, friend, and survivor coach, Kelley McElreath. This is the first of several podcasts that will be uploaded in honor of this important month.
In this podcast, we talk about: Being a survivor and a parent, and talking with our kids about prevention. Discussing some reasons why child abuse may not be able to be prevented initially, and sharing hope of how to rectify that. Talking with kids about social media and school pressures, and educating them on the dangers of what's out there in the online world. Educating ourselves as parents so we can best help our children.
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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In this episode of the podcast, I am joined by friend, fellow survivor, and radio show host, Stewart Thompson.
Stew joins me on the show and we discuss some of his survivor journey as he heals from abuse, and what led him to The Gatehouse. He talks about all of the amazing programs that are offered there, and how this organization has changed his life.
We also discuss CSA international and other programs that are sponsored by the Gate House, to help survivors all over the world connect and heal together.
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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Welcome back friends, and thank you so much for checking out the podcast! This week's show centers around the topic of Dissociative Identity Disorder, and Self Harm.
I chat with friend, blogger, and survivor, Erika Reva of TheWeInMe.com - Erika gives us insight on what it means to live with DID, and we discuss alternative healthy strategies and tips to self harm.
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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Welcome back to Ep 4 of the Mental Health Megacast! An ongoing series with @AudioRising and @Open_Journal_ . We three dudes get together as often as we can in a round table discussion and talk about mental health related concerns.
This episode focuses on recovery from abuse, addiction, and self harm and how to avoid burnout during recovery.
We talk about our own coping skills, our own experience with burnout, and some of our personal stories of survivor journies. I hope you'll check it out, and feel not only validated and encouraged but also enjoy a smile or two as we always have some fun in the midst of these tough topics.
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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I'm honored to be joined by my friend and special guest, Svava Brooks, for this episode of the podcast.
Svava is an abuse survivor coach, and you can learn more about her on www.Educate4Change.com
We discuss expressing emotions in a healthy way, specifically the emotion of anger. As survivors of abuse this can be incredibly difficult, especially when it wasn't modeled properly while growing up.
We also discuss expressing other emotions, the importance of a healthy support system, hope for healing, and more!
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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I'm joined by a very special guest, Rachel Grant. Rachel is a Coach who has an MA in Counseling Psychology, and she works with sexual abuse survivors to aid them in their recovery.
In this podcast we talk about how trauma affects our brain. We discuss the Amygdala, Retraining the Mind, Immediate and Long term affects of Trauma, and most importantly, how to heal and realize that there is hope!
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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We've all likely heard of the term, burnout before. Perhaps in the area of finances, relationships, hobbies, virtually anything we can do can cause us to experience burn out if we aren't careful.
We need to make sure that we listen to ourselves, take care of our minds and bodies, and know that it's okay to slow down and take a break even during recovery from abuse.
In this podcast I talk about the real possibility of burn out, ways to avoid it, and the importance of listening to our mind and body.
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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In this episode of Surviving My Podcast, I talk with Kelley McElreath, The Survivor Coach.
Kelley is a regular guest on the show, trusted friend, and survivor. We decided to talk about mental health medications. Not an easy topic but one that both she and I, along with millions across the world are all to familiar with.
We discuss our thoughts surrounding starting the meds, how we reacted, what we expected and didn't expect, and ultimately how Kelley used her experience on meds to create her Survivor Coach Program.
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
Be sure and check out www.SurvivingMyPast.net - and follow me on social media.
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This podcast is an interview with my friend and survivor, Becki Percy.
Becki is a survivor of trafficking, childhood sexual abuse, and ritual abuse, but that does not define this amazing young woman. She shares her story of the past that she endured and her daily fight for survival, along with how the kindness of a stranger across the ocean and her faith have helped her to escape her abusers and have the opportunity for the life she wants and deserves.
Be sure and check out the blog post www.survivingmypast.net/surviving-trafficking-and-ritual-abuse-interview-with-becki-percy
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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Welcome back to Mobile Musings. This one comes courtesy of a recent drive where I just got inspired to share some thoughts about giving your fellow human being a break.
Put aside the thoughts of judgment and think of what may be really going on in the lives of the people you interact with. The lives of those who you wish would do more for this or that cause. There just might be a reason that someone is the way that they are that particular day.
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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I'm pleased to share this podcast with you, as I talked with Marnie Grundman. An amazing woman who has dedicated her life to help raise awareness and educate everyone on behalf of abused and runaway children.
As a child runaway herself, Marnie shares some of her story with me here on the show. We discuss why children run away, the myths, and misconceptions, as well as ways we can help support these young children and youth.
It's not just about being a rebellious child, in fact it goes much deeper than that, to a life that often includes all types of abuse.
I hope you will be encouraged by her story of survival and how she fought through and overcame incredible trials to be where she is today. Be sure and check her out on MarnieGrundman.com !
Thank you again Marnie, I look forward to chatting with you again!
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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Hypervigilance, it's something that many survivors of abuse live with on a daily basis. While not a diagnosis all on it's own, it often is associated with PTSD and Anxiety Disorders.
This hyper awareness, as I like to call it, is a constant state of high alert. Being on the lookout for any potential threat, either perceived or realistic. It's an exhausting way to live and unfortunately it's all too common.
In this podcast I talk about what it's like to live with Hypervigilance, and offer ways that I help cope that might just help you as well if you suffer with this constant state of ultra awareness.
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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Caregivers and supporters of abuse survivors play an integral role in the recovery of the survivor. Having the support, encouragement, inspiration, and validation of someone we trust, means the world for those of us trying to heal from trauma.
I'm joined on this podcast by my friend, Heather Tuba. Heather is the spouse of an abuse survivor. She is also a blogger and working to raise awareness and educate the spouses and family members of survivors.
In this podcast we talk about PTSD, CPTSD, support your spouse in recovery, and the 7 truths of childhood abuse and how they relate to spouses and family members.
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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I'm pleased to share this chat with you with my friend and survivor, Davina Lytle.
We chat via Skype and share stories of our past including trust issues, different types of trauma, relationships, anxiety, dissociation, and being abuse survivors. And we share a few laughs as well, Davina is an amazing person and I'm honored to have had the pleasure of talking with her.
Be sure and check out her website and blog, www.DavinaLytle.com and follow her on Twitter: @DavinaLytle
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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Greetings friend! In this episode of Surviving My Podcast, I'm working through this whole, New Years Resolution thing from a Survivors point of view.
Are they realistic, should we even bother? How can be best make them fit for us to give ourselves an optimal chance for success in following through?
All this and more, plus there is a blog post that goes with this podcast, which I be stoked for you to check out!
www.survivingmypast.net/making-resolu…se-survivors/
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Greetings to you friend, this episode deals how we can find ourselves in the midst of an identity crisis based on what we've built ourselves up to be. Also, being able to know that we did the best job that we can and just let it go. Let it be. Know that we did our best, and that we can't control what others will think or say about us or our body of work.
I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.
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In this episode, I'm talking about doubting our feelings during recovery of abuse. This can be very confusing and discomforting; doubting whether what we are feeling is true or not, and if it is, who are we to feel this way?
"Did this really happen, was it real?" "Who am I to have a good day and feel good while so many others are suffering. On top of that, why am I feeling good, am I really healing?"
I cover all this and more here on the podcast, and it's my sincere hope and desire that you find validation and comfort while you listen. You are not alone friend and your feelings are real and genuine.
Check it out, see what you think, give me a follow, and share this with someone who may need it. :)
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I'm stoked to have the opportunity to get together again with my Mental Health Podcasting buddies, Wes from AudioRising.com and Mike from MikesOpenJournal.com.
In this 3rd episode, we discuss surviving the holiday season. The stress, anxiety, feelings of being overwhelmed, and just the overall tough times that the holiday season brings for so many. Plus we discuss tips to help you handle the stress and we share our strategies of coping.
So plug us in, turn us up, and let's chat Mental Health and the Holidays.
Check it out, see what you think, give me a follow, and share this with someone who may need it.
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When a marriage comes to an end, or a long term relationship with a partner, the affects can resurface long after we think we have moved forward.
Second guessing ourselves after a former partner moves on can cause a ton of anxiety and self doubt. Even something that may not seem like a big deal, can be the trigger that causes feelings to resurface. In this podcast I explore, openly and vulnerably, what that feels like. Because I have been there and experienced it first hand.
Even when we think we have things under control, old feelings can make themselves known again.
Check it out, see what you think, give me a follow, and share this with someone who may need it.
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This podcast is part of a post over on the blog, which you can check out here ---> http://www.survivingmypast.net/dissociation-in-daily-life/ where I am discussing a follow up on living with Dissociation in daily life as a survivor of abuse.
Dissociation and Dissociative Disorders is something that is close to my heart; living with Dissociation every day, I'm never too far away from the reminders of my past. My mind still takes off into never never land quite often, but I do know there is hope. I share some of that with you on this podcast.
Along with that hope though, comes the realization that I will likely have this for the rest of my life, so learning how to best deal and cope is a top priority. That comes from continued work in healing.
Check it out, see what you think, give me a follow, and share this with someone who may need it.
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Greetings everyone! I'm so glad you are checking out this episode of Surviving My Podcast. This is all about helping us rid our lives of negativity, embracing the positive, embracing the good in ourselves and others.
There's so much happening in this world that can make us angry and frustrated. Between social media, the news, and pretty much anywhere we look, there are people trying to tell us why we need to be angry and pissed off at the world.
I'm taking my timeline back on social media and I'm taking the initiative to embrace the positive and good in people, and spread some of that myself!
Check it out, see what you think, give me a follow, and share this with someone who may need it.
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In this episode of Surviving My Podcast, you are coming along with me on a mental health walk on a beautiful fall morning. Taking in the sights and sounds of nature on a local trail.
The topic for this podcast isabout embracing the social desires, the social creature in all of us.
That desire to reach out and be with others, do things with friends, to go out of our comfort zone. To do things that other people do that maybe we think we aren't worthy of, or that we shouldn't bother doing.
When we feel like we'd rather be locked up in our house, or our safe room where nobody can hurt us, we are denying ourselves so many amazing experiences. Even the most simple of ventures outside of our home can help instill confidence to reach out and be more social and enjoy different parts of life with friends or family.
Check it out, see what you think, give me a follow, and share this with someone who may need it.
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Ep 10 of Surviving My Podcast talks about not giving in the negative voice in our heads that tries to tell us that we can't do something. That tries to keep us stuck, keep us from reaching our full potential. The voice that tries to make us believe we aren't worth anything, that nobody cares, that we can't possibly do what we want.
I challenge myself and I challenge you to not give into that voice. To stay strong, to fight it, and to know that you are worth it. No matter whether you are a survivor of abuse or not, we call struggle with confidence at times.
Be your own advocate and know that you don't have to listen to the negativity that your mind, or others, can try to make you believe.
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Welcome back to episode 2 of the Mental Health MegaCast with Mike from MikesOpenJournal.com , Wes from AudioRising.com and yours truly as we discuss mental health awareness, our struggles, suicide prevention, helping others, and much more!
Join us and stay tuned for future collaborative shows as we come together to share our stories and inspire as many as possible.
Survive-Thrive-Conquer
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The first every Mental Health MegaCast with Mike from MikesOpenJournal.com , Wes from AudioRising.com and yours truly as we discuss mental health awareness, our struggles, suicide prevention, helping others, and much more!
Join us and stay tuned for future collaborative shows as we come together to share our stories and inspire as many as possible.
Survive-Thrive-Conquer
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Greetings all and welcome back to another episode of the show. This topic is on validating ourselves and others.
I discuss the importance of surrounding yourself those will encourage you, validate you, and inspire you and how that can help us become our own self champion and in turn help others.
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Thank so much! Survive-Thrive-Conquer
-Matt Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
This latest episode of Mobile Musings focuses on rewarding yourself. Treat yourself to a little something nice, to show yourself some gratitude and kindness.
Something as simple stopping for an ice cream cone, or a smoothie, or anything that makes you feel good can do wonders for self esteem and self confidence. It doesn't have to be expensive, but the ongoing gestures of kindness that we show to ourselves can have lasting positive effects.
Remember, spread the word, and check out SurvivingMyPast.net for more podcasts, videos, and blog posts.
Survive-Thrive-Conquer!Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
Welcome back to another Mobile Musings Podcast. This episode is all about encouraging ourselves without psyching ourselves out.
Don't be afraid to embrace the positives about yourself. Believe in what you've done to prepare for a task, trust the process, and then go rock it out! Don't over think it.
Worry and questioning yourself not only brings you down, and crushes your self confidence but also wastes time.
I hope you'll share this with anyone who you think might benefit. Also it would be awesome if you could follow me here on SoundCloud so you get notified right away of new podcasts both here on Mobile Musings and also SurvivingMyPodcast.
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Welcome back to Podcast #3 of Mobile Musings - This short podcast episode is all about being your own cheerleader, giving yourself some credit, and realizing how awesome you really you!
Even when others don't realize how hard we've worked or how much we care, we can make sure that we give ourselves a break and some applause. :)
Tips to relax, release stress, feel better, and just generally unwind after a long day.
I hope you'll share this with anyone who you think might benefit. Also it would be awesome if you could follow me here on SoundCloud so you get notified right away of new podcasts both here on Mobile Musings and also SurvivingMyPodcast.
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Recently I had the extreme pleasure to do a combined podcast with an amazing woman, survivor, and coach, in Kelley McElreath.
I connected with Kelley via Twitter a few months ago while doing some researching on trauma recovery coaching. We got to talking here and there and swapping some of our stories of survival from our past abuse. Those talks led to her and I doing a combined podcast, which you can listen too right here in this post.
I encourage you to check out her full story, including her battle as a breast cancer survivor, over on TheSurvivorCoach.com
On the show we discuss some topics such as our experiences with bullying, sexual abuse, relationships, how we were treated in the church, and much more.
So tune, grab those headphones or plug us into your car and give it a listen. I'm sure you'll be inspired and encouraged by Kelley's story and our chat together.
Thanks again Kelley, I look forward to doing another show with you in the future!Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
Welcome back to Podcast #2 of Mobile Musings - This short podcast is all about grounding techniques and Breathing. Tips to relax, release stress, feel better, and just generally unwind after a long day.
I hope you'll share this with anyone who you think might benefit. Also it would be awesome if you could follow me here on SoundCloud so you get notified right away of new podcasts both here on Mobile Musings and also SurvivingMyPodcast.
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This is the first ever Mobile Musings Podcast - These short podcasts will center around: Things to make you smile, think, stay calm, be happy, be content, and focus on the positive. These will be recorded, usually, while driving using a hands free device and are intended to just bring you some encouragement, validation, and realization that simple things can make a big difference in your overall attitude in your daily life.
So this first show is Taking Notice of the Simple Things.
Give it a listen and please subscribe, share, and send me your feedback.
Be sure and check out SurvivingMyPast.net , where these shows will be featured also. Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
In this episode of Surviving My Podcast we discuss how Kami got started with LivingGraceBlog.com, her daily struggles with Lyme disease, Anxiety, and Depression, and how much her husband's support means to her.
I hope you'll enjoy this show and I definitely encourage you to subscribe to Kami's blog and follow her on social media.
www.livinggraceblog.com www.twitter.com/livinggraceblog https://www.facebook.com/kamilingren19Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
Greetings all and thank you so much for checking out my latest Podcast. In Episode 6 I'm talking through the idea of being able to get out of own way when it comes to healing.
We can be our own harshest critic and our own worst enemy. When we look at ourselves in the mirror, at times we see what others have told us we are supposed to see. Or what we were groomed to see because of our abuse or trauma.
It's important to know that we are capable of doing what we want and feeling ok with it because we did our best regardless of what others may or may not think.
I hope you'll subscribe and check out my other episodes! www.SurvivingMyPast.net
Rock on, MattSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
As survivors, it can be very difficult for us to be vulnerable. To get real and honest about what our daily struggles are is quite scary. That means we are opening ourselves up to the world and letting them know what life is really like for us day in and day out.
In this episode I get real and honest about my recovery journey and the struggles I face with Anxiety, Dissociation, PTSD, and trying to face life on a daily basis. Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
Welcome to the 4th podcast here on my new SoundCloud channel for SurvivingMyPast.Net - Surviving My Podcast. This episode is all about how I deal with anxiety, and pretty much just how Anxiety flat out stinks! It can take over our lives and rule us if we don't control it. That is so hard in itself! I offer some encouragement at the end though too, there is hope!Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
Welcome back to Surviving My Podcast! (yes that's the new name). This show I'm honored to be joined by my friend and fellow survivor, WesA1966. Wes and I talk about some of our struggles in recovery from past trauma and substance abuse. We offer insight and encouragement from a real life, regular person, point of view. Please sure to visit Wes's site at www.audiorising.com and of course check out SurvivingMyPast.net. Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)
Episode two of the Surviving My Past Podcast - This topic deals with a recent blog post on my site, where I discuss how healing from trauma can take an unexpected turn and potentially deter or minimize the progress you've made. Real life scenario of what I'm going through. http://www.survivingmypast.net/podcast/inaugural-surviving-podcast-show-1-intro-vision/ Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)