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Hosted by Lisa Bilyeu, co-founder of the billion dollar company Quest Nutrition and President of Impact Theory, this show features women who have overcome incredible hardship to achieve massive success. Our mission is to empower you and all women to recognize that you really can become the hero of your own life. Welcome to Women of Impact.
What up homie! Let me tell you how excited I am to share the incredibly powerful two-part episode that exposes even more of the narcissistic tricks and emotionally abusive behavior so that you’ll never question if you’re crazy again! Dr. Ramani is no stranger to Women of Impact and she’s an absolute powerhouse when it comes to shining the light on narcissistic abuse and behaviors straight out of their playbook. Not only has Dr Ramani been here more times than I can count, she’s delivered levels of insight that has helped millions of people spot it and create their escape strategy to take back their power, every single time. Today we’re unmasking the tricks narcissists use to stay in control, and arming all of the ladies watching with the knowledge to recognize B.S. manipulation and control tactics immediately.
How narcissists use threats, mockery and even the silent treatment to keep you under their control,
Why a typical narcissistic response to you setting boundaries is more manipulation and a fight for control (Girl! Not only is this exhausting, but it’s even more reason for you to get away),
Dr Ramani unpacks the unconscious process of narcissistic behavior that makes them unreasonable to stay and deal with.
When toxic partners weaponize your shame to maintain control over you, Dr Ramani shares exactly how you should respond)
Dr Ramani reveals why self-reflection is absolutely critical in breaking free from narcissists,
Whew! Ladies understanding narcissistic behaviors and being able to spot their manipulation tactics may actually save your sanity (or even better, save your life!). I want you to have a little more knowledge, and at least one more tool in your belt to become stronger and more badass.
DR. RAMANI NARCISSISTIC TRUTH BOMBS: “Their motivation is to maintain the ground rules of the relationship that works for them, and that’s usually that they are in a dominant position.” “You need to know who you are, and be able to be self-reflective, [...] but it’s also about knowing your history. Sometimes ‘disproportionate’ responses to something can have origins in trauma.” “The key is that if you have something that if you have something that you love and do in your life, never ever share it with a narcissistic person.” “You can make one of these relationships work easy! Just give into everything and give up on your sense of self, and if you do that this relationship will work.” “The work of therapy, the work of healing is that you were in something where you were paying the ultimate cost which was yourself.”
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When it comes to relationships and marriage, having kids together, unhealthy cycles of love and abuse, and financial or lifestyle dependency can make it really difficult to walk away from the wrong partner. But homie, I’ve got you covered with the second half of this epic conversation with the woman investing and earning millions of dollars after walking out on the so-called “perfect life.” If you’ve been on the fence about what your next move is to get OUT of your current situation, this is it! This episode is dedicated to the women who have quietly accepted a life they never dreamed of nor wanted. For the women stuck living life without passion and excitement, and who learned to sacrifice and stay quiet for everyone else, this if for you! No more playing the “nice girl” It’s time to let the Bad B*tch out to play this game on her terms. Codie Sanchez went from living someone else’s dream life to tearing it all down and building her own dream life. This woman is not for play, she’s about making power moves and being crystal clear about what she wants. Codie said to hell with being a complacent well kept wife and chose to become the woman she wanted to be. Codie is joining me today for this two-part-inspiration-packed conversation to encourage you to get off the fence, make the decision, and stop living the trapped life.
“If you are in a group right now of people who do not have the desired life that you want, you are looking at your future.” -Codie Sanchez
That’s just a glimpse of part one! If you’re not living the life you dreamed of and you’re trying to figure out ‘how the heck do I get here?" this conversation is for you. I want you to see what’s possible for you and take the most powerful ideas you hear and figure out how to use them to turn your life around. You don’t have to feel trapped in your life, and you sure as heck don’t have to stay unhappy for the sake of everyone else.
BAD B*TCH LOGIC WITH CODIE: “I’ve never once regretted saying the quiet thing out loud, and I regret every time I don’t.” “Being able to look back at all the moments you almost broke and realize that you didn’t is an incredible stack of evidence of what you can overcome in the future.” “If you are in a group right now of people who do not have the desired life that you want, you are looking at your future.” “You don’t have to be better all the time, maybe just input a few better things into your life and watch how much easier that breath of willpower begins to build.” “Your dream outcome is their everyday reality or you’re around people where their everyday reality is your nightmare.”
Follow Codie Sanchez: Website: https://www.codiesanchez.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CodieSanchezCT Twitter: https://twitter.com/codie_sanchez Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/codiesanchez/
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When it comes to relationships and marriage, having kids together, unhealthy cycles of love and abuse, and financial or lifestyle dependency can make it really difficult to walk away from the wrong partner. You don’t like where the future of this relationship is taking you, you already feel out of touch with yourself, your purpose and passion for life, but you feel utterly trapped! Homie, if you’ve been on the fence about what your next move is to get OUT of your current situation, this is it! Today’s episode is dedicated to the women who’ve quietly accepted a life you never dreamed of, who settled for a life of comfort and safety over a life lived with radical passion, and those who learned to keep it all to themselves because it's better for everyone else. We’re done with playing the “nice girl” for everyone else at the expense of losing the Bad B*tch you were absolutely born to be. My guest today didn’t just build million dollar wealth for herself, she looked at the life she wasn’t excited for and she frikin changed it! Codie Sanchez went from living someone else’s dream life to tearing it all down and building her own dream life. This woman is not for play, she’s about making power moves and being crystal clear about what she wants. Codie said to hell with being a complacent well kept wife walking away from it all because the woman she desired to be deserved the chance to live. Codie Sanchez is joining me today for this two-part-inspiration-packed conversation to encourage you to get off the fence, make the decision, and stop living the trapped life.
How do you walk away from the “good life” or the “suffocating life"?
Don’t run from difficult conversation and you’ll avoid impossible conversation later
Add the Anti-Goal Planning strategy to you toolbelt for tackling bigger than life goals
That’s just a glimpse of part one! If you’re not living the life you dreamed of and you’re trying to figure out ‘how the heck do I get here?” this conversation is for you. I want you to see what’s possible for you and take the most powerful ideas you hear and figure out how to use them to turn your life around. You don’t have to feel trapped in your life, and you sure as heck don’t have to stay unhappy for the sake of everyone else.
CODIE SANCHEZ QUOTES: “You can either have difficult conversations up front or you can have impossible conversations at the backend. I will take difficult to avoid the impossible.” “I can make my own house a home, it doesn’t have to be this one that I was living in before.” “You don’t need more advice typically, you need to listen to your f*cking gut.” “You may change, but most people will not change, and if you realize that you then will stop trying to get people to understand your standpoint and instead get people to move out of your way.” “Your actions and the life you live will be the biggest way to change people;s mentality as opposed to any words you could say.” “I’ve never once regretted saying the quiet thing out loud, and I regret every time I don’t.”
Follow Codie Sanchez: Website: https://www.codiesanchez.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CodieSanchezCT Twitter: https://twitter.com/codie_sanchez Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/codiesanchez/
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[Original Air Date: Jan 26, 2018]
Lisa and I discuss how you can build a business and improve your relationship at the same time.
DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: Principles by Ray Dalio: http://amzn.to/2DywNF9
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Alright ladies, welcome back for part two of this epic conversation about cheating men, red flags and deal breakers that leave us hurt and guarded in ways that makes future relationships difficult to entertain without trust issues and trauma bonding becoming the new norm.
If you ever asked yourself, "How can he still say he loves me after cheating on me?, this episode is for you. If you’ve been cheated on, lied to, and confused if he’s worth sticking around for when he says, ‘it won’t happen again,” this episode is going to expose a side of cheating we don’t often talk about.
You know on Women of Impact my goal is to keep straight up and never sugar-coated. Just episodes with guests that are raw, real, and designed to empower YOU to take the next step.
I realize this conversation may be triggering and hard to hear but we really want to pull back the curtain on the painful reality of infidelity and the men who claim to love you while they cheat and repeat.
If you missed part, do NOT pass go, head back for the first episode. It's a must for women who recognize, we can’t control them, but we can recognize the game, spot the lies, and move accordingly. In this episode we’ll continue breaking unhealthy relationship cycles and give you the encouragement and tools you need to stop accepting lame a$$ excuses and lies about how he’s going to change after being caught one too many times.
If you feel like you MUST check his phone, Sadia suggest doing this instead
We’re calling out insecurities and intrusive thoughts wrapped up as women’s intuition and distorted versions of reality
Sadia reveals practical strategies for dealing with those irrational uncontrolled emotions that bring out our friend, the crazy ‘b*tch.’
We're diving deep into the toxic aftermath of betrayal, exploring why snooping around his phone isn’t the answer, and to look for THIS instead. Sadia exposes the danger of confusing your anxieties with your intuition and by the end of this episode you’ll have some new strategies for dealing with the insecurities and relationship-sabotaging behaviors that are keeping us hurt single and afraid to mingle with the right partner.
SADIA KHAN QUOTES:
“Insecurity is when you bring this baggage with you in every relationship, in every situation. It's familiar. You do this a lot. Don't confuse intuition and insecurity.”
“Try not to punish people for things that they didn't do or didn't cause in you.”
“We as women also need to take accountability for why narcissistic men have such a monopoly over us. It's because they're the ones that we are attaching to.”
“If they're accepting any energy that comes into place, they haven't sorted their self-esteem out. Whereas if they can be selective about who they're engaging with, then it shows that they've got a handle over their sexual experiences. So it's not a number, it's about the ability to turn down sex and hopefully that should be available in men and women.”
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I have to warn you, this episode may be very triggering for some of us today as we talk about some hard truths for women to hear about cheating with relationship expert and psychologist, Sadia Khan.
If you ever asked yourself, "How can he still say he loves me after cheating on me?, this episode is for you. If you’ve been cheated on, lied to, and confused if he’s worth sticking around for when he says, ‘it won’t happen again,” this episode is going to expose a side of cheating we don’t often talk about.
You know on Women of Impact my goal is to keep straight up and never sugar-coated. Just episodes with guests that are raw, real, and designed to empower YOU to take the next step. This two-part episode pulls back the curtain on the painful reality of infidelity and the men who claim to love while they cheat. Brace yourselves, because in the first part of this episode, Sadia is going to deliver some ideas that may challenge you, anger you, but ultimately, liberate you from the pain of these unhealthy broken cycles of relationship traumas.
Discover Sadia’s genius way to identify potential cheaters
Learn how to distinguish red flags from character flaws, and what real deal breakers look like when you’re in control, and
What responsibility and control you have over him cheating or not cheating
We're diving deep into the toxic aftermath of betrayal, exploring why snooping around his phone isn’t the answer, and to look for THIS instead. Sadia exposes the danger of confusing your anxieties with your intuition and by the end of this episode you’ll have some new strategies for dealing with the insecurities and relationship-sabotaging behaviors that are keeping us hurt single and afraid to mingle with the right partner.
SADIA KHAN QUOTES: “They can love you but have unmet needs. And with men, because communication isn't their forte, they don't like to communicate what these unmet needs are. So they outsource them.”
“If you can make quality time to ask more open-ended questions to your partner, it makes a world of a difference.”
“If you want to know someone's having an affair, you have to look at your emotional connection with each other. If you have an emotional connection with each other where on a daily basis you're connecting, you're speaking to each other, you are emotionally, physically, spiritually connected, it's difficult for that person to stray without you realizing, you'll notice within a day or two.”
“It's always good to identify your own red flags so you don't have to control people.”
“When you are insecure, you'd rather be right than be happy, unfortunately. So you'd rather predict all the problems, [...] and self-sabotage than just trust the process and accept you might be wrong.”
Follow Sadia Khan: Website: https://www.sadiapsychology.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sadiapsychology TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sadiapsychology Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sadiapsychology/
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What’s up homies! Lisa Bilyeu here to share one of my favorite parts of the week with you. I go live on Instagram every Thursday at 9 AM PST to share stories, insights, answer questions and even bring on special guests just for you.
This episode today is from a Live Q&A where I had a chance to share advice on exactly how you build up confidence when you’ve never done the thing before, the key to helping teenage girls increase their confidence (which happens to be a huge part of my personal mission statement and why I do what I do), and the absolute best part of being 40 that every woman show know about!
Ladies if you haven’t reached your forty’s yet, girl you are in for a treat! If you’re already there and can testify to your 40s being one of the best damn decades of your life so far, make sure you comment below so we can encourage and support our homies coming through their 20s and 30s.
Join me, in my happy zone here, talking with women like you sharing advice and life experiences to encourage and uplift each other’s journey. I get so much from spending time with all of you.
And hey, while you’re here, if confidence is one of those things you seem to always struggle with no matter what you try, I want to give a FREE gift to help you walk in total frikin confidence wearing your bad b*tch boots any day of the week!
Check out my Free 4-part Confidence Course: http://4stepsworkshop.com/ (IMPORTANT: Please use this link for the free course and not the link I mention throughout my IG Live)
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Pause… Did you catch part of one of my conversation with Dr. Mariel Buque? By the end of today’s episode you’ll know exactly how to spot the gaslighting and manipulation tricks being used against you.
When it comes to love and relationships, being love-bombed only to be manipulated and gaslighted by your partner is a trap even professional psychologist have found themselves in. When you don’t have words to put to the experience and you’re not even sure what is happening at the time it’s confusing and scary.
I want you to have the knowledge and the tools you need to spot the bullsh*t early and act accordingly knowing your value and your self-worth.
My guest today, Dr. Mariel Buque and all of her awesomeness, was named to Lewis Howes’ School of Greatness Top 100 List of the Greatest People of 2022 Doing Good. She’s been featured on Good Morning America, The Today Show and so much more.
In part one, Mariel exposed a side of love-bombing you never hear spoken of that way. In this part of our conversation Mariel goes layers deepers on the 7 stages of manipulations:
Breaking the default “sorry” mode we’ve all fallen into
Ways to cut off that “Hoovering” ex that’s always lurking
A brand new way to think through the best version of you being manifested
Ladies! We’re done with feeling like we’re crazy and we’re flipping the damn tables with this episode.
Check out Dr. Mariel’s book, Break The Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma: https://www.amazon.com/Break-Cycle-Healing-Intergenerational-Trauma/dp/0593472497
MARIEL BUQUE QUOTES: “Gaslighting can be very debilitating especially when we don’t know that gaslighting is happening and we can’t call it out as a result.”
“When a person is in submission they’re chronically saying, ‘I’m sorry’ [...] who made you believe that you were always at fault, so much so that you apologize by default.”
“The more grounded you are, the more mental clarity you have, the more capacity you have to be attuned to yourself, the more we can finally find out who that core self really is.”
“The weaponizing of our vulnerabilities is something that happens in these toxic cycles.”
Follow Dr. Mariel Buque: Website: https://www.drmarielbuque.com/ Podcast: https://breakthecyclewithdrmariel.buzzsprout.com/ Twitter:: https://twitter.com/drmarielbuque Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.marielbuque/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKa79peiy6CJf2RDI13YNeQ
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When it comes to love and relationships, being love-bombed only to be manipulated and gaslighted by your partner is an easy trap to fall into. When you don’t have words to put to the experience and you’re not even sure what is happening at the time it’s confusing and scary.
This is why Women of Impact is committed to bringing you experts and some of the most inspiring women around. Homie! I want you to have the knowledge and the tools you need to spot the bullsh*t early and act accordingly knowing your value and your self-worth.
My guest today is practically a real life superhero for herself and her patients. If you’re not familiar with Dr. Mariel Buque and all of her awesomeness, you will be after this two-part episode. Mariel was named to Lewis Howes’ School of Greatness Top 100 List of the Greatest People of 2022 Doing Good.
In part one, Mariel is breaking down exactly what you need to do to end the gaslighting and say ‘so long’ to the manipulative cycles you keep finding yourself in. In addition to breaking down the 7 stages of manipulation, Mariel exposes:
The side of love bombing no one ever talks about
How to diffuse being gaslit when you’re in the moment
Partners that create more triggers than safety for you
Ladies! We’re done with feeling like we’re crazy and we’re flipping the damn tables with this episode.
Check out Dr. Mariel’s book, Break The Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma: https://www.amazon.com/Break-Cycle-Healing-Intergenerational-Trauma/dp/0593472497
MARIEL BUQUE QUOTES:
“People that have toxic traits tend to be fairly predictable. You’re going to see the signs show up eventually.”
“When we’re truly dealing with a manipulation strategy, we tend to get gaslit into believing that what we’re seeing happen, didn’t happen.”
“Clarity can be very helpful, but also labeling and allowing everybody to be on the same page about what’s happening.”
“It’s a really tragic socialization for all of us because we’re not only taught not to express our needs, but we’re also taught to be self-sacrificial and to service the needs of everyone else around us.”
“Whatever it is that happens here, I understand what my non-negotiables are, and everything else, there’s space for compromise, for grace, and for compassion.”
Follow Dr. Mariel Buque: Website: https://www.drmarielbuque.com/ Podcast: https://breakthecyclewithdrmariel.buzzsprout.com/ Twitter:: https://twitter.com/drmarielbuque Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.marielbuque/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKa79peiy6CJf2RDI13YNeQ
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[Original Release: March 30, 2018]
On this week’s episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu discuss why having high expectations in your relationship is essential.
DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE Impact Quotes: https://bit.ly/2pPRVRp The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work by John Gottman: https://amzn.to/2Gj7QTl
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What up homie! We’re continuing with the second half of this incredible two-part episode with the powerhouse international speaker, CEO of Motivating the Masses and a very good friend of mine, Lisa Nichols!
If you missed part one, stop what you’re doing and listen to that episode. Lisa exposed how empowered she really was marrying at 55 years young and shared the 3 Agreements you need to establish a safe space with anyone, anywhere, any time.
Lisa drops gem after gem when she speaks. So you better believe it when I tell you, part two of this episode is just as packed with experience and wisdom every woman needs to hear.
Inviting your partner into your transformation journey to evolve together
You are invited to along on this experience Lisa and myself. We go straight for the dee end with real, uncensored conversation about life, self-discovery, and more. Grab your tissues, it’s okay today! You’re about to hear real empowerment and understand what grown a$$ woman business is really all about.
“I began to trust the woman that I am more than the woman I was trying to become.” -Lisa Nichols
I do these episodes for women like you who know that having strong boundaries, more confidence, commanding respect, and aiming for an above average life is possible, we just need a dose of motivation, a pinch of inspiration and a shot of badassery to help you get there.
Let’s get tactical with Lisa Nichols. If you’re a woman who has lost your way and your light is so dim it’s almost burnt out. Complete 7 statements for each of the following prompts everyday and listen to this episode for how transformative and powerful this was in Lisa’s journey..
I’m proud that you…
I forgive you for…
I commit to you…
Join Lisa Nichols’ 5 Day Legendary Speaker Challenge: http://motivatingthemasses.com/womenofimpact “Being Unapologetic means that I will be All of Me. I will no longer shrink or compromise myself by playing small so others will not feel insecure in my presence.” -Lisa Nichols LISA NICHOLS’ POWER QUOTES:
“I gave myself permission to not hold my future hostage to my past.”
“Can you give yourself permission to trust again as if you’ve never been hurt while using the discernment and the judgment that you developed from all of your past hurt.”
“I wasn’t running toward who I was becoming, I was out running who I had been.”
“I had to just first accept who I was, and not be a victim to who I was.”
“I wasn’t staying single because I chose to be single, I was staying single because I was afraid of being hurt again.”
“What would the world see if your fear didn’t interrupt your desires?”
Follow Lisa Nichols: Website: https://motivatingthemasses.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LisaNichols Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisa2motivate/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LisaNicholsFanPage
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What up homie! I have another exciting episode for you today with powerhouse international speaker, CEO of Motivating the Masses and a very good friend of mine, Lisa Nichols! Get ready for a super engaging conversation about finding the perfect relationship (yes, that still exists), breaking up with everyone else’s expectations, and boundaries that support self-love and creates the safe space you’ve been looking for!
Lisa can’t help but drop gem after gem when she speaks. So you better believe it when I tell you, this episode is packed with the kind of experiences and wisdom every woman needs to hear.
How to not cave to societal pressures regarding your timeline for marriage.
Why you are more than enough just as you are, with or without a relationship.
Your purpose and contribution to the world have nothing to do with being married or not.
Lisa’s power sentences that relieve the pressure in any situation.
Lisa’s 3 Agreements to establish your safe space
You are invited to experience life's roller coaster ride with Lisa Nichols and myself right here on Women of Impact, where we indulge in the real, uncensored conversations about life, self-discovery, and more. Grab your tissues, it’s okay today! We’re learning what real empowerment and grown a$$ woman business is about that you can feel deep in your soul..
“I began to trust the woman that I am more than the woman I was trying to become.” -Lisa Nichols
I do these episodes for women like you who know that having strong boundaries, more confidence, commanding respect, and aiming for an above average life is possible, we just need a dose of motivation, a pinch of inspiration and a shot of badassery to help you get there.
Join Lisa Nichols’ 5 Day Legendary Speaker Challenge: http://motivatingthemasses.com/womenofimpact
“Being Unapologetic means that I will be All of Me. I will no longer shrink or compromise myself by playing small so others will not feel insecure in my presence.” - Lisa Nichols
LISA NICHOLS’ POWER QUOTES: “Marriage is a chapter, it’s not the book.”
“If it felt right I leaned in. If it didn’t feel right, I didn’t lean in. I didn’t try to put perfume over poo poo.”
“I’ve had enough evidence of broken Lisa, scared Lisa, floored Lisa, ‘damn I can’t believe I did that’ Lisa, [...] I had enough evidence that in her brokenness she still had the will to get back up one more time.”
“Don’t let me get in the way of our greatness. Don’t let me get in the way of what I said I wanted.”
“I’ve learned how to dance with my chaos.”
“I’m a river, I’m not a lake. I’m always flowing and always growing.”
“If someone keeps crossing your line in the sand, it is not because they are rude, it’s because your line is not deep enough in the sand. It’s because you’ve negotiated the line so many times that now the line is blurry, now the wind has blown the line, and no one can see the line. And you feel as if you’re suffering in silence because no one is honoring your line, it’s because you didn’t honor your line sis!”
“Unconditional love is messy, unconditional love has thorns in it. Unconditional love actually says will you agree to love me through my ugly? Will you agree to love me through my righteousness? [...] Will you agree to love me when I’m actually unloveable.”l
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What’s up homies! Lisa Bilyeu here, and I am over the moon excited to share this special Instagram Live recorded with my hubby, Tom Bilyeu, celebrating 21 years of marriage!
We're spilling the tea and giving you 9 secrets of what we’ve learned along the way to have a happy and successful marriage. From managing insecurities to protecting your individuality, we're unpacking the experiences of a couple who grew together through their twenties and have learned to navigate many challenges on their way to love that can stand up to anything life throws their way.
Regardless of where you are in your relationship, and especially if you haven’t found a partner yet or you’re just starting and not sure how to get through the hard times together, this episode is practically a relationship masterclass.
“The only way that I can see a relationship being worth all the compromises that you make to be in it is that you can be completely open and vulnerable with that one person. " - Tom Bilyeu
Join me, as we pull back the curtains of intimacy and our 21 year love affair that explores why 'not sharing blankets' might just be the key to a happy marriage!
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I have a special treat for you today! It's an incredible conversation with the Mother of Holistic Medicine, Dr Gladys McGarey, the 102-year-old woman that changed the world of medicine at a time when women weren’t even allowed to vote..
Gladys is internationally known for her ground-breaking work in holistic medicine. She's been honored for being a pioneer, she’s been to Afghanistan teaching women safer birth practices that led to a 47% decrease in infant mortality rates in that area. Gladys has been inducted into the Arizona’s Women Hall of Fame, and the impact of her work has reached hundreds of thousands of people all over the world.
She accomplished this and so much more and did it through a time when women weren’t even doctors. Talk about resilience and true wisdom! Gladys is testament to the power of a life well-lived and filled with love.
I hope you’re ready to be blown away. We jump straight into Gladys’ shock, humiliation and unexpected victory after being publicly divorced by her partner of 46 years, and why on Earth she literally put herself in his shoes.
Gladys is the original 102-year-old boss-babe before babes were bossing and voicing their opinions. She’s sharp, fierce, and living her best fulfilled life full of love that has led to 6 life lessons that every woman going through something needs to hear today.
If you’ve been through a painful divorce or breakup, if you know what it’s like to not have a voice, and you find yourself struggling some days to even see the simple moments of life then this episode is the medicine you need.
GLAD QUOTES FROM GLADYS:
“There was too much good stuff for me to keep telling myself that it was all bad. I had to start being glad that I had all this time. It wasn’t a misused time, it was a well used time that I could reclaim what we had done.”
“I had to find the reality that was my voice when it was saying what I wanted it to say, and I didn’t need anybody else to validate it.”
“The reality of love is that love is a great healer for everything.”
“You can find the light in the darkness if you’re looking for it, but if you’re never looking for it you'll never see it.”
“If you focus on the fear and the pain, you’re stuck and you can’t move forward.”
“We as human beings are looking for our true humanity.”
“You have to have self-love in order to be able to love other people.”
“When things are really nasty, if you can reclaim some aspect of your whole life at that time that allows you to feel, ‘I have to keep on breathing,’ you can affirm, and as you affirm yourself, you affirm life and you affirm your love and your life changes.”
“Laughter without love is mean, it's cruel and it hurts.”
“Listening without love is empty sound.”
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[Original Release: Oct 17, 2017]
Tom and Lisa answer relationship questions from the community. From how to deal with your significant other using social media, to helping a sibling in an unhealthy relationship. This episode deals with the values necessary to navigate the toughest situations in any relationship.
Tom Bilyeu is the co-founder of 2014 Inc. 500 company Quest Nutrition — a unicorn startup valued at over $1 billion — and the co-founder and host of Impact Theory. Impact Theory is a first-of-its-kind company designed to facilitate global change through the incubation of mission-based businesses and the cultivation of empowering content. Every piece of content Impact Theory creates is meant to underscore the company mission to free people from The Matrix and help them unlock their true potential.
Impact Theory exists to inspire the next generation of game-changing companies and creators that will make a true and lasting impact on the world.
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What up homies! I hope you’re ready to be flooded with inspiration from Lelia Hormozi who is joining me for a super badass conversation.
Leila Hormozi may just be the queen of taking action that scales to multiple 6-figure businesses. She’s not only a managing partner and the CEO of the $100M+ business, Acquisition.com with her husband, Alex Hormozi, she’s also the iconic badass straight shooter with a no b.s. style taking social media and the entrepreneurial landscape by storm.
This woman oozes confidence and embodies the power of self-improvement, resilience and authenticity. Homie! I am so excited for you to see how frikin’ strong and rock solid this woman’s mindset and focus really is.
In part 2 of this incredible episode, Leila reveals how she doesn’t allow challenges to become catastrophic and never plays the victim card. By the end of this episode you’ll know exactly how to flip your adversity into success on your terms.
Whether you’re starting your commute, busy around the house, or relaxing after a long day, this episode with Leila is going to destigmatize being unapologetic about your personal choices, give you powerful insights into how you can turn your challenges into your victories, and why s strong mindset is the key to every change and every success you ever have.
FIRE QUOTES WITH LEILA:
“I never want to be a victim. Even if I am, what good does that do me? To say that I am, I give away my power.”
“Not holding boundaries with someone else hurts them as well.”
“More people put effort into their wedding than into their marriage. More people put thought behind what my wedding is going to look like than what is my spouse going to be like.”
“It’s really hard to help your partner grow in who they are if you don’t have one thing you’re growing together.”
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What up homies! I hope you’re ready to be flooded with inspiration to go and recreate your life and truly make the changes you’ve been putting off because today, Lelia Hormozi is joining me for one badass conversation.
Leila Hormozi may just be the queen of taking action that scales to multiple 6-figure businesses. She’s not only a managing partner and the CEO of the $100M+ business, Acquisition.com with her husband, Alex Hormozi, she’s also the iconic badass straight shooter with a no b.s. style taking social media and the entrepreneurial landscape by storm.
This woman oozes confidence and embodies the power of self-improvement, resilience and authenticity. Homie! I am so excited for you to see how frikin’ strong and rock solid this woman’s mindset and focus really is.
In the first part of this 2 part episode, Leila shares the secret sauce that allows her to take massive action forward with all the fears and all negative emotions that paralyze many of us. This woman is about taking action, owning your sh*t, and not allowing her current situation define her future situation.
Whether you’re starting your commute, busy around the house, or relaxing after a long day, this episode with Leila is going to destigmatize being unapologetic about your personal choices, give you powerful insights into how you can turn your challenges into your victories, and why s strong mindset is the key to every change and every success you ever have.
FIRE QUOTES WITH LEILA:
“Who you are today is no longer who you are tomorrow.”
“I felt completely fed up with myself and mostly because I realized that everything other people said was correct.”
“I know when sht hits the fan, or sht’s really hard, I’ve got my back, and I didn’t used to.”
“Success is not biased if you take the actions. You can be insecure and inexperienced, but if you take the actions of somebody who’s not you can still have that thing.”
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What’s up homies! Lisa Bilyeu here, and boy, do I have a treat for you today with this uplifting Instagram Live conversation with my girl, Kimberly Shannon Murphy. In this special episode, we're diving into an incredibly inspiring and powerful journey of resilience and transformation.
Now, if you don’t know who Kimberly is, let me just say, she's a woman who wears many hats - she’s a survivor, an author, and an award-winning Hollywood stuntwoman! Yes, she’s jumped out of buildings and hung from helicopters, but what truly sets her apart is her unyielding spirit to turn the most heartbreaking adversity into frikin’ hardcore strength.
“I had the moment of, ‘f*ck you, you’re not going to win.” -Kimberly Shannon Murphy
So, whether you're tuning in while sipping your morning coffee or during your evening wind-down, get ready for a candid, heart-to-heart chat that will leave you inspired and empowered to make the change you’ve been longing for in your own life.
If you missed the 2 part episode with Kimberly, make sure you check it out! This woman’s story, her strength and determination to break cycles of abuse and become the hero of her life and the lives of women and her daughter is the ultimate stunt!
Dive into the two part episode with Kimberly Shannon Murphy starting here.
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I am beyond excited to welcome you to another powerful episode of Women of Impact. Does the mom life, wife duties, and career obligations have you feeling lost in a whirlwind? Are you ready to reclaim your identity and reignite that spark of joy? Then buckle up because today's guest, Andrea Navedo, is about to change your life!
You may know Andrea from her role in 'Jane the Virgin', but her real-life journey is even more inspiring. She battled through fears, fought the inner negative voices, and emerged as the powerful, authentic, badass. Today, she's here to share her story and empower you to do the same.
In this episode, we dive right into the guilt of choosing yourself - we tend to rank all of our other roles to everyone else over ourselves on a daily basis. But guess what? Your needs matter too! We'll explore how to combat fear, silence the negative chatter in your head, and stop using family and responsibilities as an excuse not to chase your dreams.
And if you're looking for a game-changing strategy, wait till you hear Andrea's super tactical trick for using the Power of Regret as a powerful motivator for success.
So, are you ready to break free from the 'Nice Girl' habits, set boundaries, and start prioritizing YOU? Trust me, Andrea’s story is so relatable, and her tactics are incredibly actionable. This episode is a true dose of inspiration, empowerment, and total badassery.
Let's do this journey together and ask ourselves one simple question today. What action do you need to take (right now) to start living without regret?
Check out Andrea’s book Our Otherness Is Our Strength, Wisdom From the Boogie Down Bronx: https://www.amazon.com/Our-Otherness-Strength-Wisdom-Boogie/dp/1506485707
QUOTES:
“I won! I’m on the plane and I slayed that dragon of fear, and whatever happens after this, I’m good with it because I know I won over the fear.”
“It takes one person to start it, to change generational cycles.”
“I wasn’t a failure, I just failed because I didn’t put the work in.”
“When you own your shit, you are taking 100% responsibility for your life, for everything that has happened to you, that is happening to you, and will happen to you. Even if things that happened to you were unfair and were wrong, you still have to take responsibility for what you’re going to do right now.”
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Alright, ladies! Get ready to be wowed by our phenomenal guest today, Dr. Louisa Nicola. This neuroscience whiz has an all-access pass into the minds of top-tier athletes in the NBA and NFL. Get ready as we take a deeper dive into brain health in the 2nd part of this episode. We’re making brain health sexy as we talk about its crucial role in our journey to becoming our own heroes, and the importance it holds in maintaining our 'badassery'. Buckle up for this ride while we talk about:
Why your brain is begging you to take your sleep more serious
Nicola gets tactical about ways to step up your Sleep Fitness
How that beloved glass of wine after a long day is destroying your sleep and your brain
Stay tuned to the end to discover the few supplements vital to your brain, energy, and focus
Ladies, don’t forget to start having more conversations about brain health. Women are more likely to develop diseases of the brain such as dementia and Alzheimer’s. Though there may be no cure, there are things we can do starting now to start lowering those risks and start caring for our older, more badass selves.
NICOLA BRAIN QUOTES:
“Put your brain in a safe environment and it will thrive.”
“I treat sleep as if it’s an Olympic game. Treat it as if you need to train for sleep, you need to warm up for sleep and you need to prepare for sleep the moment you wake up.”
“You can make more money with a higher-performing brain.”
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Today, we're embracing the power of brain health to make you confident, clear and focused with the neurophysiologist and human performance/billionaire brain coach, Dr. Louisa Nicola. She is a powerhouse in revealing ways to better care for your brain and boost your performance.
Get ready for a deep dive into brain health, its crucial role in our journey to becoming our own heroes, and the importance it holds in maintaining our 'badassery'. Don't miss this two-part episode where we talk about
Why stress management is the key to your brain health and aging
How to safeguard your brain after 30
Why exercise is one of the most powerful tools for optimizing your brain
Ladies, we have to start having more conversations about brain health. Women are more likely to develop diseases of the brain such as dementia and Alzheimer’s. Though there may be no cure, there are things we can do starting now to start lowering those risks and start caring for our older, more badass selves.
NICOLA BRAIN QUOTES:
“The quality of your brain will dictate the quality of your life, [...] we need to have a high-performing brain to be able to fight off negative thoughts.”
“People are talking about Alzheimer’s disease as if it is a loss of memory, yes, but it is also a disease that robs you of who you are because you can’t stay present.”
“Lift hard, lift heavy, and do it about 3 to 4 times a week.”
“Exercise for the brain, that’s what’s going to keep it alive and thriving.”
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Get ready for an episode that is as inspiring as it is empowering! And honestly, I want to warn you up front, this episode is also really heavy and may be triggering for some of you.
Join me as we sit down with Hollywood stuntwoman Kimberly Murphy, whose story of resilience and healing will leave you in awe. She has jumped out of a building, hung from a helicopter, and tackled Brad Pitt! Her career and affinity for putting herself in painfully dangerous situations however, comes sadly from the pain of an abused 2 year old girl crying out for help.
Despite a tough exterior, Kimberly's past is marked by childhood abuse that led to a cycle of unhealthy relationships. She believed this was normal - a misconception shared by many of the one in three women who have experienced childhood abuse.
Watch as she shares how therapy and even exploring psychedelic work in her healing journey started to change her life.
The unhealthy behaviors that Kimberly’s abuse led to are all too common to many women dealing with the broken pieces and aftermath of an abusive start to life.
Speaking your truth is a powerful tool for empowerment.
This episode with Kim is a testament to the strength of a woman’s totally badass journey to healing. While her story is beyond heartbreaking, I want you to know my commitment to approach this sensitive topic with utter love and grace.
My hope is for the woman that really needs to see and hear what is possible can find what she needs and take away the valuable lessons about self-worth, growth, and the power of resilience.
Check out Kim’s book, Glimmer: A Story of Survival, Hope, Healing: https://www.amazon.com/Glimmer-Story-Survival-Hope-Healing/dp/0063228262
Hit that play button, prepare to be moved and inspired, and remember - you're not alone on this journey. Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content and knowledge that'll help you navigate and improve your life!
KIM TRUTH BOMBS: “I don’t believe you need to forgive something that is unforgivable in order to be at peace with yourself.”
“I feel more powerful in saying ‘I don’t forgive you and look at what I’m able to do with my life.’”
“I’m a big talker and that comes from living in a secret my whole life.”
“I don’t care who you trust in your family, you do not fully ever trust anyone.”
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Prepare for an emotional rollercoaster as we delve into the chilling experiences of Hollywood stuntwoman, Kimberly Murphy. I want to warn you up front, this episode is emotionally heavy and may be triggering for some of you. Join me as we sit down Kimberly Murphy, whose story of resilience and healing will leave you in awe. She has jumped out of a building, hung from a helicopter, and tackled Brad Pitt! Her career and affinity for putting herself in painfully dangerous situations comes sadly from an abused 2 year girl crying out for help. In part one of this two-part episode, we unpack her harrowing journey from childhood abuse through physical violence and emotional manipulation. Kimberly's story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the power of transformation. Despite the scars of her past, she has turned her life around in such an epic way, battled unhealthy relationships, and emerged as the badass woman she’s become. Join me as I navigate this incredibly difficult conversation with Kimberly, exploring the depths of trauma and the uphill battle to recovery. This isn't just another podcast episode; it's a story of hope, strength, and the power of self-belief. My hope is for the woman that really needs to hear what is possible to find what she needs and take away the valuable lessons about self-worth, growth, and the power of resilience. By tuning in, you'll gain insights into the effects of trauma and the healing process, empowering you to face your own challenges head-on. Check out Kim’s book, Glimmer: A Story of Survival, Hope, Healing: https://www.amazon.com/Glimmer-Story-Survival-Hope-Healing/dp/0063228262 So, are you ready to embark on this transformative journey? Hit that play button, and let's dive in! And if you haven't already, be sure to subscribe and leave a review for more empowering content and knowledge to help you level up your life!
KIM TRUTH BOMBS: “I needed to walk away from my family in order to really heal.”
“I didn’t need validation from any f*cking one to tell my story. I can tell my story when I want, how I want, and the way I want.”
“If you want something in life, do something everyday towards it.”
“I had the moment of, ‘f*ck you, you’re not going to win’.”
“We can be so judgemental when we have no idea what people are going through.”
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Hey, it's Lisa Bilyeu here. Ever felt off in a relationship? Like you're being used, manipulated, or wasting time with the wrong person? In today's episode, we're tackling red flags you simply can't ignore, the importance of self-assessment, and how to reclaim your power.
This one's for all of you in relationships, dating, or contemplating a break-up. Nobody wants to feel used or taken advantage of. The key to taking back control? Knowing yourself, your feelings, the situations you're in, making decisions for yourself, and standing firm on your boundaries. That's where your real superpower lies!
Remember, ladies, you're the CEO of your life - don't let anyone treat you like an intern! Stay tuned for those "7 Signs He's NOT SERIOUS About You!" and remember: you've got this!
QUOTES: “You just have to make a demand of yourself that you are so much better, you are worth so much frikin’ more than being with someone that doesn’t care about your feelings, [...] this is a non-negotiable!”
“If this is a partner that you want to try to build a relationship with, a long-term relationship with, you don’t just want to keep coming at them like they’ve done something wrong.”
“Maybe he is taking and taking and taking. The truth is you just need to get better at saying no.”
“They can only take what you’re willing to give them.”
“Someone using a fear tactic in your relationship is a big frikin’ red flag!”
“Don’t you dare give your power away when you see all these red flags. You have the ability, you have the strength, you have the frikin’ badassery to assess the red flag, [...] and you decide whether you’re going to accept it or not.”
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Through the power of music, Milck has given a voice to millions of women around the world with her songs like Quiet, the 2017 anthem of the Women’s March. She has stood beside powerful women like Oprah and Michelle Obama speaking up for women to be empowered, be uplifted and be resilient. In the second part of this interview we’re going deeper to help the women that are over being silenced and in need of a little support and a lot of inspiration to become the hero of their own journey.
Milck opens up to share the journey of a girl that’s struggled through abuse, self-doubt, and insecurities. She lays out the tactical steps she’s taken as a woman and as an artist to come into her own to find her voice and become the voice for millions of women around the world.
Milk exposes the greatest lie we tell ourselves keeping us broken in toxic relationships, how to break away from feeling trapped in patterns of abuse, and the power of personal responsibility
Milck Quotable Moments:
“Once I stopped defending my stance, [...] it changed everything.”
“I’m so happy but I still have this anxiety, and it’s like this echo from the past, so I have to tell myself I am sovereign and I am safe.”
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Ladies, if you’re like me then your woman's intuition is something that could use a little help. We try to read people we meet and in meetings, but the truth is we may be misreading a lot of people and missing a lot of potentially great relationships.
What if I told you that you may be misreading as many as 26 people for every 100 you meet?
First impressions matter and learning how to read cues and verify if your gut is telling you truth or not is a skill we can learn and my homie, Vanessa Van Edwards, the charismatic human behavior detective and recovering socially awkward person, is giving us a masterclass on how to decipher the hidden secrets behind the smile, the handshakes, and quirky quirks that seem like red flags to run away from.
Dating isn’t easy, but we’re making it super easy in this 2 part episode by breaking down:
What body cues mean ask more questions
How to speed read your date (and yourself)
What he’s hiding behind those dreamy bedroom eyes that you should watch out for
Learn how to confirm what your gut is telling you, master the art of connection, read his mind confidently, and never worry about being lied to again.
And, to make sure you’re feeling super confident, I’m including this episode with Linda Babcock so you know the psychological tricks to winning any argument and negotiating like a total badass.
QUOTES:
“Your filters can mess up your first impressions.”
“Trust your gut instinct as I need to pay closer attention, but that's all it is.”
“When a red flag comes up, you are looking for a difference in the baseline.
“Your first word in your date, on your zoom call, in your meeting is actually the most important thing you can do for your confidence.”
“I like to take a Pollyanna approach to lie detection in that we should assume the best. We have to assume the best in people because if we do that, we are not going to get as many false positives and we're not going to see as many false lies.”
“Fear is contagious, but pride is contagious too. This is why charismatic people we're so drawn to them. It's because we want to catch their charisma.”
“When we check our phone, we accidentally go into the defeat posture.”
“If you think about negotiation as a conflict, as a battle, as a war, as like threats and as aggressive behavior is what will work, then you’re going to be in big trouble.” -Linda Babcock
“A ‘no’ is not actually the end, it’s an opportunity to discuss more and find a common ground.” -Linda Babcock
Follow Vanessa Van Edwards: Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT/featured Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/
Follow Linda Babcock: Website: https://www.thenoclub.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs_1Mw8sX8pfh8ARO3JesAg Twitter: https://twitter.com/linda_c_babcock Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenoclub/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theno.club.52
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Ladies, if you’re like me then your woman's intuition is something that could use a little help. We try to read people we meet and in meetings, but the truth is we may be misreading a lot of people and missing a lot of potentially great relationships.
What if I told you that you may be misreading as many as 26 people for every 100 you meet?
First impressions matter and learning how to read cues and verify if your gut is telling you truth or not is a skill we can learn and my homie, Vanessa Van Edwards, the charismatic human behavior detective and recovering socially awkward person, is giving us a masterclass on how to decipher the hidden secrets behind the smile, the handshakes, and quirky quirks that seem like red flags to run away from.
Dating isn’t easy, but we’re making it super easy in this 2 part episode by breaking down:
What body cues mean ask more questions
How to speed read your date (and yourself)
What he’s hiding behind those dreamy bedroom eyes that you should watch out for
Vanessa Detective Quotes:
“Your filters can mess up your first impressions.”
“Trust your gut instinct as I need to pay closer attention, but that's all it is.”
“When a red flag comes up, you are looking for a difference in the baseline.
“I like to take a Pollyanna approach to lie detection in that we should assume the best. We have to assume the best in people because if we do that, we are not going to get as many false positives and we're not going to see as many false lies.”
“Your first word in your date, on your zoom call, in your meeting is actually the most important thing you can do for your confidence.”
Follow Vanessa Van Edwards: Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT/featured Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/
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Sponsors: Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Visit my sponsor Future: https://tryfuture.co/lisa to get 50% off your first month! Get 3lbs of Bone-in Chicken Thighs FOR FREE in every box, for a year, on top of $20 off your first order, when you go to butcherbox.com/impact and use code IMPACT If you’re looking for a simpler, effective investment for your health, try AG1, and get 5 free AG1 Travel Packs and a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D with your first purchase. Go to drinkAG1.com/lisa. That’s drinkAG1.com/lisa.
When it comes to inspiring millions of people to have healthier, happier, more exciting sex lives and unlocking endless pleasure, Emily Morse delivers overtime. The New York Times called her “the Dr. Ruth of our generation”, and in the 2nd part of this 2-part episode with Emily, the conversation gets extra spicy!
Get ready to take notes with Emily as we learn how to unleash our fun, playful, curious side in the bedroom. This means we’re saying so long to BAD SEX and hello to the BEST SEX EVER!
In this episode Emily reveals exactly why your sexual health and wellness is the #1 priority:
Stop faking orgasms and a great sex life when you can have the real thing
Doing this will teach you to have better orgasms
Enjoying more sex starts with this (are you doing it?)
Stay tuned to find out more…
Don’t miss Emily’s new book, Smart Sex: https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100
Sex Ed for Women with Emily:
“Masturbation is a huge part of being sexually healthy and sexually well.”
“What we crave in long term relationships, we crave spontaneity, the newness, and the novelty.”
“Couples who find that they don't have that chemistry anymore, that can’t get it going, it’s because they’re either both in their masculine or they’re both in their feminine. No one’s making a move, no one’s initiating, this train isn’t going anywhere. That’s platonic.”
Follow Emily Morse: Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/sexwithemily Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexWithEmily
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Seduction is talked about being manipulative. The art of seduction is usually sexually charged with a lack of connection and one motive, to get what you want at someone else’s expense.
Well, I have to tell you after talking with Chen Lizra, the social entrepreneur of seduction and empowerment, it’s abundantly clear that influence and seduction have more to do with confidence, self-worth, and pride for all that you are and what you bring to the table. Now, that’s a tool every woman can use in her tool belt.
We talk about the misconceptions tied to seduction, why it's a powerful skill in the boardroom that doesn’t have to ever be sexually charged, and what to do if you’re feeling blocked from tapping into your seduction.
Later, we get into the truth about attraction and why those butterflies we feel meeting someone aren’t a sign of love at first sight, it’s a big fat red flag for this and after watching this episode with Dr Laura Berman, you’ll never think about those butterflies the same again.
QUOTES:
“When you’re seducing someone, you’re actually leaving them full and better off than before, you’re not taking something, you’re giving something.”
“There’s seduction around us all the time, but that’s exactly the problem. Seduction has become something that we’re so stuck on the aspect of the sexuality of it that we think that seduction always has to be sexual.”
“Learn it for yourself, for the self-confidence sake, [...] for your own self-worth, for you to feel your own power.”
Follow Chen Lizra: Website: https://www.powerofsomaticintelligence.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ChenLizra Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clizra/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/clizra
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Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2dFREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5On Today's Episode:Jealousy. How does it enter our minds, what feeds it, and is it perhaps just a reflection of our own insecurities? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss the harsh reality of confronting your own jealousy in a relationship and why it may actually be a matter of your own insecurities and not their behavior. They discuss the time when Tom and Lisa went together to Tom’s ex-girlfriend’s birthday party, how they dealt with it, where jealousy originates from, what feeds it, how it is an ugly look, and what to be aware of before jealousy spirals out of control.SHOW NOTES:Honesty | Lisa shares her experience when Tom took her to his ex-girlfriend’s birthday party. [0:21]Establishing Feelings | Tom shares his side of taking Lisa to his ex-girlfriend’s birthday party. [3:11]Jealousy | Tom and Lisa discuss how buried insecurities feed jealousy. [4:36]Choose Confidence | Lisa shares why insecurities are a turn off. [8:38]Harsh Reality | Tom and Lisa discusses why it’s not sexy to wallow in your insecurities. [11:23]QUOTES:“You never made me feel like it was a comparison, and you never tried to hide how you felt about them when you were talking about them.” [2:35]“There are two things you should never worry about: things you can change, because go change em’, and things you can’t change, because you can’t change em’.” [7:37]“No one looks at someone else’s insecurities and goes, “Yeah, that’s a turn on. That’s attractive.”” [8:38]FOLLOW TOM:Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanACPodcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFLFOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKhYouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcHPodcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
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On Today's Episode:
Does hooking up on the first night make a woman confident or does it make her promiscuous? We wish there was a straightforward way to answer this, but the reality is there are too many variables to say. Men may not think about sex on the first date as the worst thing or the only thing they want from you.
Stephan Speaks, the relationship guru with 79 million views and several bestsellers, has been bridging the communication gap between men and women looking for healthier relationships, makes it clear that whether you sleep with him on the first date on not, there are some key things you should be doing and paying attention to that will help you decide with confidence.
Given the pressure we all face in dating, seeing how men think about sex on that first date can make dating less stressful and more enjoyable. Stephan's biggest recommendations are keeping the first date simple and not being afraid to ask questions.
You will never scare off the right person by asking questions, and giving someone the opportunity and permission to reveal their intentions is key to beginning a great relationship. You don’t have to be upset or mad if his intentions aren’t aligned. You can use the opportunity to move on quicker and spare yourself the heartache.
QUOTES:
“Men become more cautious when it comes to making sexual attempts the more they like a woman.” [7:33]
“If you are concerned about his intentions, keep him talking.” [11:57]
“Focus on having fun first, and through having fun, be confident enough in yourself to be aware.” [14:02]
“Most men come into that date putting you in a box.” [15:34]
“Women, growing up, were fed more of the fantasy idea of ‘the one.’” [19:43]
“When we’re dealing with the person who is not truly best for us, things are going to go left for us, [...] because we do not connect correctly.” [23:11]
“The toxic man is toxic in many ways.” [25:16]
“A lot of guys are good guys in the wrong relationship, and there’s a lot of good women in the wrong relationship…” [26:35]
“When a woman feels the need to have to propose it’s because deep inside you sense that if you don’t he will never.” [27:30]
“Every woman who dates from now on should give that man permission to be blatantly, brutally honest because it will save her the headache of confusion and his fear of how she’ll receive it.” [29:46]
“It’s not about what the person does, it’s about how they handle your feelings about it, how they handle you addressing it. That’s when you’re going to see what we’re really working with.” [45:22]
“The process of a man getting sex and the process of a woman getting sex are viewed completely different, and they are completely different. [58:55]
“Once you take time to master the person’s body, you will be on a level that no one else can match.” [1:17:24]
“Some people want to make empowerment about not wanting or needing a man. I view empowerment as living in your truth.” [1:25:59]
Follow Stephan Speaks: Website: https://www.stephanspeaks.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPBO9gLGy8ujsJ7xjARI7ow Twitter: https://twitter.com/StephanSpeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephanSpeaksRelationships/
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On Today's Episode:
Ever argued about money in your relationship? Maybe sometimes felt guilty about not contributing money to the relationship? In this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share how they manage and talk about money in a way that deepened their love, respect, and overall relationship. Watch this episode to learn their proven strategies and plug them into your relationship to create the loving, lasting relationship you always dreamed about. After you watch this episode, you´ll be able to: Split money in a way that is fair for both sides. See the value you bring to your relationship, even when it´s not money. Make your partner feel good about staying at home. Know how to stop feeling guilty for not contributing monetarily. Avoid the critical mistake most people make that ruins their relationship.
SHOW NOTES:
Why Lisa doesn’t like being called a housewife and the unusual name Tom called her instead, that made her instantly feel good about what she was doing. [1:26] The open conversation about money you need to have, so both of you feel equally contributing to the relationship. [3:12] Why the money should be split 50/50 and how that is fair for both sides. (Even when only one partner goes to work. [4:13] How Lisa can spend money on shoes & Tom on video games without feeling guilty or ask for permission (Even when spending the money seems stupid for the partner.) [5:19] The critical mistake most people make that ruins their relationship. (And how to prevent it.) [6:49] The foundation that makes a relationship worth making sacrifices for. [7:46] Two strategies you can use to instantly stop feeling guilty about not contributing monetarily. [9:38] Lisa’s strategy to feel like an independent woman instead of a maid while managing the household. [10:23]
QUOTES:
“If we are coming into this as a partnership. If we decided this is what we are doing as a partnership. You´re gonna go to work every day, and I'm gonna stay at home and work on the “Bilyeu Enterprises” then whatever money comes in should be 50/50…” [4:13]
“If I put myself in a position of power, that feels great for me, but it disempowers you, and it's gonna feel terrible for you. That just seemed so obvious to me, that it's a terrible long term strategy...” [6:49]
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DISCOVER THE BADASS IN YOU: https://bit.ly/3fSXqNe
On Today's Episode:
The thought of family gatherings gives the best of anxiety. Navigating close relationships and those once or twice a year holiday encounters doesn’t have to be so intimidating with the right tools.
The key is recognizing that you have disordered boundaries, and the Boundary Boss, Terri Cole, is back with us again to make this super easy to follow. Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and female empowerment expert. The steps she lays out for you to take the Resentment Inventory are life changing.
We all tell ourselves lies to avoid the conflict and get around difficult conversations but this doesn’t make our relationships any better, and it leaves us with more stress than being succinct, accurate, and honest about our preferences from the start.
By the time you finish this episode you’ll have the skills and strategies you’ll need to identify your disordered boundaries that need work, and catch the amplified emotions that are stemming from childhood traumas.
Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Terri Coles 0:36 | Take A Resentment Inventory 6:40 | Self Blame for Broken Boundaries 13:00 | Learned Boundaries From Childhood 23:19 | Reading Emotional Boundaries 30:48 | Unmet Needs In Relationship 34:43 | Internal Boundaries Are A Must 35:30 | Codependent Relationships 45:47 | Are You Auto-Advising People? 52:22 | Suppressed Anger Boundaries 58:40 | Tips To Express Your Boundaries 1:05:01 | Strategies for Family Gatherings 1:13:50 | Broken Boundaries Have Real Consequences
QUOTES:
“When it comes to our boundaries, it’s always an us thing. Because we are the keeper, we are the one who knows…” [5:39]
“At the base, so much of disordered boundaries has to do with people pleasing [7:20]
“It’s about becoming the observer without judgment of yourself and your reactions in real time.” [17:38]
“If you have a deep pain from you don’t actually love, I promise you, you’re most likely having a transference.” [18:06]
“It’s so much easier to go to anger, [...] than it is to be vulnerable and say, ‘this is why I’m hurt.’” [28:43]
“Anger feels empowering, where sorrow does not.” [29:24]
“Being a boundary boss means keeping your word to yourself.” [34:56]
“At its core, codependency is and overt or covert bid to control other people’s outcomes.” [36:33]
“Resentment is anger. If you’re feeling resentment, most likely something happened that initially you felt angry about.” [56:26]
“Silence is a lie. You are abandoning yourself and not saying what is on your mind.” [58:29]
“Your job is to be as unprovokable as possible.” [1:06:22]
“Not all boundaries are non-negotiable, some things are just preferences.” [1:16:11]
Follow Terri Cole: Website: https://www.terricole.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-OC1zN27enpTA_eNWB7dKw Podcast: https://www.terricole.com/podcast/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/terri_cole Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/
Are you and your partner feeling the pressure to have kids but just aren’t ready yet? Are your parents, friends, and family constantly asking, "When are you going to have children?” but you don’t know how to respond without disappointing them?
On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you should approach the decision of having kids and why you shouldn’t feel guilt or regret if you decide not to. They discuss how to deal with pressure from family, why honesty about what you want is important, why you shouldn’t let fear of regret drive your decisions, why desire of fulfillment always leads people to have kids, and how children are a reflection of each partner.
SHOW NOTES:
Pressure | Lisa and Tom discuss how they deal with pressure to have kids. [0:34] Honesty | Lisa and Tom discuss why you have to be honest about what you want. [2:36] Regrets | Lisa and Tom discuss why you shouldn’t live with regret in mind. [3:54] Fulfillment | Lisa and Tom discuss why fulfillment is the driver behind having kids. [5:50] Holding On | Lisa and Tom discuss why having children connects your to partner. [7:42]
QUOTES:
“I’m not willing to make a decision about having kids now if it’s not right for a fear that I have in the future.” [5:40]
“So, at the end of the day it comes down to fulfillment. Like one of the reasons I think people have kids…” [5:50]
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On Today's Episode:
If you’ve struggled with what you see in the mirror, you’re not alone. So many women, beautiful women, struggle with what they see. Our mental health is challenged trying to fit in, looking for love and acceptance, and wanting to somehow feel like you’re good enough.
This is the episode where it gets real, it gets personal, and it hits home for many of us. Today’s guest is the world renowned award winning hip hop dancing violinist, Lindsey Stirling. She was once humiliated on one of the biggest stages in front of millions of people, and now has over 3 BILLION views on her YouTube channel. She’s worked with some of the biggest names in music and it could have easily never started for her.
When it comes to matters of the heart, uncovering where our behaviors are doing us more harm than good, and where they are separating us from the things we most love, you have to dig deep and be willing to fight for happiness.
This is about finding a new normal outside of the lies you’ve convinced yourself of and outside of the comfort zone you’ve created for yourself. This is your opportunity to open your heart and get connected with yourself and the things worth fighting for.
Check out Lindsey’s Snow Waltz Music Video: https://youtu.be/YIqSFna1RTY
Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Lindsey Stirling 0:54 | Not Good Enough Yet 7:33 | Do This When Fear Takes Over 16:45 | The Battle With An Eating Disorder 32:59 | Beating Mental Health Triggers 36:03 | A Reason To Keep Pushing 45:57 | Gratitude Needs Balance Also 51:21 | Making Time for Love & Loss 1:05:21 | Snow Waltz Christmas
QUOTES:
“Just because you didn’t have the greatest moment doesn’t mean that you don’t have what it takes to be great tomorrow.” [3:28]
“I was good enough because I put in the time and I didn’t give up and I listened to that inner voice.” [3:56]
“Step one of any process is this feels impossible.” [12:26]
“The most powerful experience you have in your court is doing something right.” [15:26]
“I was willing to fight for my health because of the people I loved, I wanted to love them again, fully.” [20:01] “We do adopt a way of thinking to make our behavior feel okay, and by saying it’s normal makes us then be okay with the behavior and not then feel shame or embarrassment...” [24:14] Lisa Bilyeu
“It doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person just because you’re having a hard time being full of happiness and gratitude.” [44:39]
“Comparing ourselves to other people diminishes what we’re going through, it lessens the weight of what we’re going through, and I don’t think it serves us.” [45:40] Lisa Bilyeu
“Certain people bring out your sparkle, [...] I know what I can feel and now it makes it so you can’t accept less than what you know you have the capacity to feel.” [55:27]
“I deserve a life with a partner that supports me, or I deserve to freaking live on my own.” [1:02:43]
Follow Lindsey Stirling: Website: https://www.lindseystirling.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/lindseystirling Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lindseystirlingmusic Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindseystirling/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lindseystirling
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On Today's Episode:
Boundaries are absolutely necessary, and without a doubt you should have personal boundaries in any healthy relationship. But what do you do when your boundaries are getting in the way of you creating a relationship? Are you stuck in a place where you want to get into a relationship, or maybe you want to take it to the next level, but you're stumbling over being too rigid or too laxed on your personal boundaries? Tom and Lisa walk you through several scenarios that may be tripping you up when it comes to setting boundaries and being relaxed enough to give the relationship space and opportunity to grow. As with every healthy relationship, communication is at the center of this issue as well. From being open, to defining types of boundaries, to recognizing your base assumptions, these tips will definitely help you.
Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships.
SHOW NOTES:
Open to Relationship | Why single person thinking in a relationship defeats the purpose [1:58] Create Boundaries | How Tom and Lisa established boundaries when they started dating [4:48] Hard & Soft Boundaries | Why preset boundaries can be a problem and non-negotiables [6:28] Framing Boundaries | 2 responses to boundaries tested, shut it down vs. maybe later [8:48] Introducing Boundaries | Lisa’s advice for how to address boundaries at the right time [10:11] Communicate | How you communicate your boundaries and limits is critical [12:30] Taken Advantage Of | Why Tom says people don’t take advantage of you they only try [15:15] Assign Levels | Lisa shares example and reason assigning levels helps communication [18:05] Base Assumptions | The problem when both people think things are self evidently clear [20:19] Appreciate Friction | Why friction between people can be desirable & best for attraction [24:07]
QUOTES:
“Part of the joy of being in a relationship is to actually open yourself up to being a pair, and you've got to want that.” Tom Bilyeu [2:40]
“Be in a relationship, don't be in a relationship doesn't really matter, but whatever you do, do it all the way. Like if you're going to be in a relationship, be in a relationship.” Tom Bilyeu [3:47]
“Setting boundaries beforehand can be a little dangerous, because you may be setting some interest, you may be closing yourself off.” Lisa Bilyeu [7:13]
“It's not that people are taking advantage of you because you either let that happen or you don't, but people can overextend.” Tom Bilyeu [16:21]
“We may not agree with each other, a collision of values, but now we can understand each other, and that alleviates a lot.” Tom Bilyeu [23:35]
“Public service announcement: In life, people have got to want a diversity of opinion. You've gotta want it. You have to believe that what makes the world work is the friction between competing viewpoints.” Tom Bilyeu [24:13]
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There is something called the nice girl syndrome which is an idea and expectation that you have to be nice to be loved and accepted. It leaves the mark of not feeling good enough. Being pleasant, agreeable, and accommodating doesn’t mean that you have to make yourself less than someone else.
“Becoming and remaining a nice girl, is a kind of malnutrition to the soul of a woman.” -Asia Suler
What happens to you when you’re always put last on your own list or lucky if you even make your own list? In this episode Lisa is channeling all of her badass energy into exposing how you can be nice and prioritize yourself and communicate your needs. You don’t have to be afraid of speaking up and worried about being rejected or thought less than by the right people in your life.
Do a gut check with yourself on which one of these myths hit the hardest and come up with a plan to restore your power and balance where there is none.
Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Nice Girl Myths 0:12 | #1 Nice Girls Aren’t Needy 8:15 | #2 Nice Girls Listen to Their Parents 21:12 | #3 Nice Girls Aren’t Rude 25:14 | #4 Nice Girls Don’t Push Back 31:02 | #5 Nice Girls Don’t Swear 31:16 | #6 Nice Girls Don’t Rattle Cages 39:12 | #7 Nice Girls Are Not Confrontational 47:11 | #8 Nice Girls Take Their Friends’ Advice 52:05 | #9 Nice Girls Don’t Show Their Emotions 1:02:46 | #10 Nice Girls Don’t Disagree 1:16:45 | 5 Biggest Myths About Love
QUOTES:
“There’s a big difference between being needy and having needs.” [0:40]
“There should be no guilt in making that decision and then failing, even if your parents told you otherwise.” [20:48]
“Sometimes it’s the fact that we don’t want to be rude that ends up being so frikin’ detrimental to us…” [21:17]
“You absolutely can be nice and you can be firm; they don’t have to be separate. They can go hand in hand.” [25:49]
“I can be nice, and I can say the hard frikin sh*t.” [30:01]
“If you are in a cage you have to think about how you’re the one that’s gonna get yourself out.” [33:28]
“You absolutely can confront someone when they’ve disrespected you and you can do it with utter frikin grace and ease.” [44:53]
“If you do not address your emotions you will break.” [52:57]
“If you allow your emotions to run wild, whether you like it or not, the truth frikin is that people may start to dismiss you.” [1:01:47]
“You can disagree, but it doesn’t make them wrong.” [1:08:00]
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Does your partner make you feel sexy? Do they appreciate you for the work you put in to look good for them? Is your partner not displaying enough affection, attraction, or giving enough compliments? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore what to do if your partner isn’t complimenting you or displaying signs of affection in a way that would make you feel sexy and attractive. They discuss the importance of raw sexual attraction with your partner, why giving compliments is crucial, how your self-esteem shouldn’t fully rely on your partner’s opinions, why communication might be the root cause of your problems, why externalizing thoughts is a trained skill and requires work, and why both partners need to have a deep understanding of each other’s love language.
SHOW NOTES:
Feeling Attractive | Lisa and Tom discuss what to do if your partner doesn’t compliment. [0:30] Compliments | Tom and Lisa discuss the need for signs of affection in a relationship. [2:10] Self-Esteem | Lisa and Tom discuss why you shouldn’t rely on others for confidence. [3:31] Communication | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of communicating your needs. [5:19] Externalize | Tom and Lisa discuss why externalizing thoughts is a trained skill. [6:05] Love Language | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of knowing your partner’s needs. [8:42]
QUOTES:
“You don’t have to choose. There is a world where you can date somebody who feels like your best friend and they make you feel sexy and attractive…” [2:40]
“Cause I can’t just rely on you, right? If I just always got my self-esteem based on whether you were giving me compliments for not, I think that’s a disaster. I have to work on that by myself.” [4:21]
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We live with so many rules and ideas around diet that stem from effective marketing from food companies with one agenda, increase sales! The downside is that people have adopted these marketing messages as dietary facts. Eating processed grains for breakfast, 6 small meals a day, and avoiding fats are just a few examples.
Jessie Inchauspie is a biochemist better known as the Glucose Goddess on her Instagram and the international bestselling author of the book, Glucose Revolution. She is blowing our minds today in the crash course on all things glucose.
You want to get off the energy roller coaster, stop the monstrous carb cravings and rebalance your hormones, then grab a pen and take notes. Jessie has hacks that anyone can do and with minimal effort, you can start using these hacks to lower the glucose spikes your food causes without completely changing your diet. The best part is that weight loss is a symptom of fixing your glucose spikes.
Learn how to make food decisions for pleasure and enjoy the foods that you like guilt-free. You can be healthier and more balanced in energy mind and body with these simple hacks and knowledge that makes you unstoppable.
Check out her book, Glucose Revolution: https://amzn.to/3zz3vVS
Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Jessie Inchauspie 1:00 | Crash Masterclass on Glucose 4:00 | Signs of Too Much Glucose 7:00 | Reduce Sugar Spikes For Good 14:45 | Fruit Juice vs. Coke 22:30 | Get Rid of Bad Labels on Food 29:42 | Calories Are B.S. for Weight Loss 40:58 | Healthy Sugars & Sweeteners 44:49 | Use Your Muscles to Lower Glucose 48:18 | Becoming the Glucose Goddess 55:55 | If You Must Do Carbs, This Is Best 59:55 | Tips for Fasting & Eating Before Bed 1:03:48 | Following Diet Trends & Habits 1:09:02 | Glucose Isn’t The Full Picture 1:12:07 | The Magic of Vinegar 1:17:41 | What Your DNA Can’t Tell You 1:23:18 | Science of Artificial Sweeteners 1:26:31 | Hormone Connected Glucose Spikes 1:33:22 | Do You Really Want Wrinkles? 1:34:45 | White Or Brown Doesn’t Matter
QUOTES:
“Weight loss becomes one of the consequences of learning about your glucose and stabilizing it, but it’s not really the main objective, nor is it the only thing that happens.” [1:18]
“Often the symptoms we’re experiencing, we kind of mask or feel bad about the symptoms, when really often what’s happening is that these symptoms are, [...] messages.” [5:51]
“You don’t have to change what you’re eating, just think about fiber and the fact that she needs to go in first, and that will completely change the impact of your meal on your health.” [14:16]
“The fruit we find today in supermarkets is actually not natural at all.” [16:48]
“In the same way we bred wolves into chihuahua, humans have bred ancestral bananas into bananas that we see today.” [17:26]
“The amount of calories in something tells you nothing about what the food is going to do to your body.” [30:41]
“The calories thing is an easy thing for the food industry to hide behind.” [37:41]
“I don’t like saying good and bad carbs. I like the distinction between starches and sugars.” [57:10]
“Your glucose levels are very tightly correlated to your hormonal system.” [1:28:08]
“The decision of white sugar or brown sugar is not where health happens. That is not where feeling better happens.” [1:37:51]
Follow Jessie Inchauspie: Website: https://www.glucosegoddess.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/GlucoseGoddesss Twitter: https://twitter.com/glucosegoddesss Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/glucosegoddess/
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More than half of all teenagers are totally uncomfortable discussing the same thing that nearly a third of adults are uncomfortable discussing. Sex! The question that Tom and Lisa tackle today is if waiting to have sex before marriage is the right thing. Yes, there are religious and cultural beliefs that will provide the answer and wisdom you need should you subscribe to those beliefs, but in this episode Tom and Lisa take a practical perspective about sex before marriage, living together first, and discovering compatibility and a common baseline in one of the most important aspects of your relationship. Their advice for a long-term healthy and happy relationship acknowledges the importance of feeling safe physically and emotionally, but more importantly being open to communicate and discuss sex together.
SHOW NOTES:
Sex Before Marriage | Tom why waiting for marriage to have sex is madness [0:35] Living Together | Tom explains why living together 1st is a best practice for longevity [1:25] No Fireworks | Lisa on the disappoint of first sexual experience and missing the fireworks [3:41] Safe Exploration | Connecting and having safety to physically and emotionally explore [5:28] Compatibility | Being on the same page, shared electricity, and know your sex flavor [8:05] Frequency | Having open communication about frequency and feeling neglected [9:02] Orgasmic | Tom on the neuro chemistry and power orgasm has for antidepressant [11:33] Fetishes | Important of openly discussing fetishes and having no judgement [13:07] Growing | Tom shares the value evolving in the sexual relationship and journey together [15:27] Real Talk | Real time communication Tom’s intention vs. Lisa’s values on “experiment” [16:06]
QUOTES:
“I thought fireworks were gonna go off, I was going to be crowned, my life was never going to be the same, I was going to be finally a woman, like, it was like this big grand thing. And I had sex for the first time and was like, ‘huh!?’” Lisa Bilyeu [4:10]
“one of the best pieces of advice I ever got about sex was until you're able to talk about it openly don't have it.” Tom Bilyeu [5:49]
“...the things you will learn about yourself, what you like, the nature of sex itself is so profound, that having a level of experience and exploration I think is truly rewarding.” Tom Bilyeu [11:02]
“if you if you don't have sex beforehand, if you don't discuss it especially, then you may end up in a relationship with someone that is that may be the antithesis of what sexually turns you on.” Lisa Bilyeu [14:57]
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The relationships you were in that made you doubt yourself because of what someone else told you about you. The times that you tried to stand up for yourself and your partner flipped the whole argument around and had you buying into lies and made the truth so blurry you couldn’t trust what you were seeing and hearing with your own eyes and ears.
Staying in a relationship like that is self-destructive. You can’t stay just to keep the peace for everyone else while you suffer in silence. You can’t continue letting yourself down because you try to set a boundary and your partner stomps all over it and mocks you for even trying to have one.
Today’s guest, Audrina Patridge, is the MTV reality show star of The Hills and author of the book, Choices: To The Hills and Back Again. She’s sharing the results she experienced from being a chronic people pleaser, and a woman stuck in toxic relationships living with the regret of bad decisions and wrong choices without any consideration for the consequences she would have to face. Audrina shares how she was able to break out of that and start identifying the areas she most needed boundaries and who the enablers were in her life that needed to go.
You can break out of toxic relationships, these are solid tips and examples of how you can start on that path of healing and self-love today…
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SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction Audrina Patridge 0:18 | Stop Settling On Toxic Relationships 10:21 | People Pleasing Is A Choice 16:23 | Choices We Regret Instantly 20:28 | Handling Broken Trust 32:54 | After Trust Is Betrayed 38:40 | Communicate Clear Boundaries 45:20 | Manage Insecurities & Jealousy
QUOTES:
“You need a support system, you can’t do it alone.” [6:03]
“I just didn’t think of consequences. I was always in the moment and impulsive and I learned a lot from that.” [9:34]
“I ignored everything and I just kept pushing forward and I definitely took the hard route of love at that point…” [16:10]
“You can’t change people, they have to want to change, and they have to go through life lessons and something to open their eyes, [...] they have to want it.” [30:56]
“Sometimes you have to be loud and clear, and just blunt.” [42:25]
“Be careful when you’re so quick to judge someone or when someone is in a bad mood…” [44:48]
“To have a friend you have to be a friend.” [48:56]
Follow Audrina Patridge: Website: https://audrinapatridgeonline.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AudrinaPatridge Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/audrinapatridge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AudrinaPatridge/
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Be upfront about your cheating past. It may feel counterintuitive to open up about your history of cheating with your new partner to win over their trust, but it may actually be the absolute best thing you should do. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss the best way to address your cheating history with your partner, when the best time to do it is, and how it will actually lead to a stronger, better relationship. They talk about how honesty is crucial, why you should set rules for your life, how being honest is actually a benefit to you, and why you shouldn’t be afraid to be brutally honest upfront.
SHOW NOTES:
Be Honest | Lisa and Tom discuss how to address your past cheating to your partner. [0:26] Rules | Tom and Lisa share why it’s so important to set rules for your own life. [3:30] Your Own Sake | Tom and Lisa discuss why being honest is actually for your benefit. [4:25] Be Upfront | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should be honest early. [5:17]
QUOTES:
“I will never ever cheat on you. I can’t say I’ll never break up with you.” [3:38]
“The reason to be honest with somebody isn’t for them nearly as much as it’s for you.” [4:25]
“It’s about the lie, not even about the actual incident.” [6:28]
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Often we talk about and look up things like: feeling disrespected, how to enforce boundaries, relationship red flags and how to know if your partner is toxic or narcissistic. On this channel, we are all about empowering you to recognize your value and your worth. Developing the grit and strength you need to stand up for yourself is critical for the best version of you. So we go hard on self-love, radical confidence and upholding boundaries.
But… what about when you’re the culprit in the relationship and if you’re honest, you could show up in your relationship a little (or a lot) better?
Our guest today is the queen of real talk and a no b.s. take on life and what it means to reach your fullest potential. Mel Robbins is a best selling author, motivational speaker, and now the host of The Mel Robbins Podcast!
In this episode we’re going from how to identify when you’re being disrespected to what to do when you’re the one disrespecting your partner and your relationship. It’s not always obvious to people, but relationships are hard work and Mel is so real about how she shows up in her own marriage of 26 years. It’s easy to see a bit of yourself in her vulnerabilities of not being the perfect partner
Check out Mel Robbins new podcast here: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcast
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SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Mel Robbins 1:11 | Disrespect In Your Relationship 9:40 | Take Responsibility In The Relationship 20:18 | Identify Your Toxic Behavior 29:40 | Alpha Female Ambitions 44:48 | The Power Dynamic of Money 50:10 | Do This to Fix Your Relationship 1:09:27 | Change & Separation 1:21:15 | MDMA Relationship Therapy
QUOTES:
“The second you are around a stranger, or a friend, [...] and something feels off, or you feel any kind of bad vibration, there is all the evidence that you need.” [12:35]
“A lot of us were taught in childhood that love is transactional.” [14:31]
“We feel guilty because we think we’re responsible for somebody else being happy.” [15:46]
“I’m not a toxic person, but I engage in toxic behavior.” [20:42]
“Nobody is going to get better if you don’t tell them what they’re doing wrong.” [23:22]
“If you’re putting pressure on your partner when it comes to finances, that is your ambition, that is your desire. It’s not their responsibility to pay your bills and to provide for you.” [35:29]
“Providing doesn’t, in society’s lane, mean love and emotional connection, it means money.” [36:30]
“The gender roles that have been imposed on us are complete fcking horse sht.” [44:48]
“Power follows the money.” [47:05]
“If you don’t value the support that your partner provides, that's a huge problem.” [49:10]
“Couples therapy, in my opinion, doesn't work that well if you’re not also willing to work on yourself.” [52:10]
“I had to see my own toxic behavior of using enthusiasm to bulldoze people.” [59:53]
“You cannot expect another human being to know where your emotional landmines are.” [1:02:47]
“If you have someone willing to meet you halfway, you will never regret at least trying to make it better.” [1:07:57]
“When anybody grows or changes it makes the people around you question what they’re doing.” [1:12:15]
Follow Mel Robbins: Website: https://melrobbins.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins
Download your FREE copy of The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2dOn Today's Episode: Resentment, comparison, and our partner’s life circumstances versus our own. What do we do when our situation in life seems overwhelmingly harder than our partner’s and how do we deal with resentment in a healthy way? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they address resentment towards your partner in a relationship and how to overcome such feelings in a positive-healthy way. They discuss why we compare ourselves to our partner, why we need to take ownership of our life’s decisions, why resentment is just the projection of our own insecurities, and why we need to shift our focus back towards ourselves rather than onto others.SHOW NOTES:Comparing | Lisa and Tom reveal how to stop comparing yourself to your significant other. [0:27]Taking Ownership | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of owning your decisions. [2:22]Projection | Lisa and Tom discuss how we mirror and reflect resentment onto our partners. [4:17]Both Sides | Tom and Lisa discuss both sides of projecting resentment in a relationship. [5:21]Focus | Tom and Lisa discuss why resentment truly doesn’t move you towards your goals. [8:48]Acceptance | Lisa and Tom discuss not holding your wants in life against your partner. [10:29]QUOTES:“This is the perfect example of ‘comparison' being the thief of ‘joy.’” [1:53]“So stay focused on your options rather than comparing yourself to the one person.” [8:23]FOLLOW TOM:Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanACPodcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFLFOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKhYouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcHPodcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
Download your FREE copy of The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2dFREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3RJxOPMOn Today's Episode: The uncertainty of dating and being part of a relationship that you want to make last forever causes many of us so much anxiety. The doubts if this person is for real, can you trust them, is this relationship as important to them as it is to you? You don’t have to keep living in fear of not knowing if the person you are dating is the love of your life forever or if it’s doomed to fail cause you’re missing all the signs and avoiding the right conversations,Today, let’s break down 9 questions you can ask your partner to determine if you’re placing you heart, your time, and your energy in the right place with the right person.For hard truth telling and relationship revelations around self worth, value and accountability, check out the full episode with Sarah Jakes Roberts: https://youtu.be/IbriO6QIxoU To hear more Red Flags from relationship expert, Matthew Hussey, check out this full episode with Lisa exposing if He’s Wasting Your Time: https://youtu.be/ny2KL8mYyFE Get all the juicy tips for communicating with your partner more openly about sex with the sex expert, Emily Morse, a.k.a. Sex with Emily here: https://youtu.be/KLukArHg-vk Relationship expert, Stephan Speaks, exposes all the ways men are wasting your time in this interview with Lisa, and you don’t want to miss this: https://youtu.be/dqEke-0o9y8 SHOW NOTES:0:00 | Introduction to the Relationship Test0:18 | Is It Even A Relationship Without Actual Trust?5:41 | Should Your Partner Value Anything Above You?9:58 | What Deal Breakers Would End Everything?17:59 | Does Your Partner Feel Supported?34:19 | Do You Envision A Future Together?41:55 | What’s Missing From Your Sex Life?51:51 | If Your BFF Flirted With Your Partner!?52:24 | Lisa Questions Tom On The Spot1:00:48 | Does He Want An Independent Woman?QUOTES:“Without trust I don’t honestly see how the hell you’re going to have a long lasting relationship.” [0:30]“The relationship was a symptom, it was not the disease. It was a symptom of an insecurity that started long before I met the person.” Sarah Jakes Roberts [4:14]“Make sure you give your partner space to speak about what else they value apart from you.” [9:48]“Acknowledging and being able to deliver are two very different things.” Matthew Hussey [17:47]“It’s so terrifying to think how fragile trust really is that it only takes one gnarly comment that was aimed to be cruel and you can really do a lot of damage.” Tom Bilyeu [33:53]“You want to know the truth for your own sake so that you know how you show up in this relationship and whether it's a relationship you choose to be in.” [37:43]“Not only does your relationship grow and evolve, but you grow and evolve.” [38:02]“Bed death, [...] is literally poison to a relationship.” [46:11]“Even if you’re having the most incredible sex, and I’m telling you sex isn’t just about orgasms, in every single relationship, it’s going to get stale after awhile.” Emily Morse [50:54]“Red flags are not see it, run. Red flags are see it, address it, then if it’s not corrected walk away Stephan Speaks [1:05:44]“The goal should be not trying to fit into other people’s lives but see who we fit...
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The road to recovery once trust has been broken in a relationship can be long and painful for everyone involved. In this episode Tom and Lisa take a look from both sides of the one betrayed and the betrayer. Healing is a process and once that cannot be rushed, but is it more painful for the person who needs to forgive or the person that needs to earn back the trust that has been damaged? Regardless what side of the fence you are on, this conversation offers hard truths on both sides to consider. Letting go is easier said than done, and necessary if there is to be any recovery and future there after.
SHOW NOTES:
Getting past betrayal requires you to let it go [1:12]
The challenge of being remorseful and changing your behavior [2:08]
What the cycle of not letting go potentially looks like for the average person [3:22]
Knowing how to actually let it go [4:29]
Holding on to betrayal and not allowing yourself to heal [5:54]
Taking ownership of the betrayal to regain your power and not be the victim [6:32]
How to deal with letting go when it’s stills fresh [7:32]
QUOTES:
“Almost more of the work is on the side of the person that has to do the forgiving because you actually have to let it go” Tom Bilyeu [1:42]
“If it’s a mutually recognized betrayal, she knows she’s in the right, he knows he’s in the wrong. So, how do you meet again as equals?” Tom Bilyeu [5:40]
“If you haven't healed it's like a wound that keeps on bleeding” Lisa Bilyeu [5:58]
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On Today's Episode:
We strive to be women who stand up for themselves, who walk into any room with total confidence, and who never allow excuses. Becoming that kind of woman takes a lot of work, but the more women we surround ourselves with that remind us of who we want to become, and the more examples of women we see like this, the easier it becomes for us.
When you think of badassery at a level that leaves NFL Hall of Famers like Dione Sanders and Michael Strahan nodding in approval, this woman has to come top of mind, Constance Schwartz-Morini. She’s been holding her own, rising to the top, and commanding respect in the sports entertainment industry where men dominate for decades.
Constance oozes authentic badassery and beautifully embraces her confidence and vulnerability even when things are uncertain. This episode is dedicated to helping the 20 somethings find their way to more confident 30 something, and to helping the 30 and 40 somethings realize their time for confidence and releasing a victim mindset has come.
“The main challenge was what a lot of young women still face, guys getting brought in above me because they have connections. That happened three times. Instead of quitting or giving up I worked ten times harder, it put the battery in my back.” -Constance Schwartz-Morini
Resource mentioned in this episode:
Brene Brown Ted Talk, Vulnerability: https://youtu.be/iCvmsMzlF7o
Rocket Fuel by Gino Wickman & Mark Winters: https://www.amazon.com/Rocket-Fuel-Essential-Combination-Business/dp/1942952317
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Constance Schwartz-Morini
0:46 | Make Them Respect You
10:14 | Vulnerability Can Boost Confidence
15:43 | Girl, Lose Your Ego
21:40 | Lose The Victim Mindset
27:52 | Badass Leaders Need Support Too
32:16 | High Achievers Can Find Love
42:03 | Find the Right Partner For You
48:20 | Hustle Hard or Quiet Quit?
1:03:00 | Don’t Get Boxed Into Being Arrogant
QUOTES:
“I’m really good at what I know but I’m even better at what I don’t know.” [11:53]
“It’s a constant battle to move the ball forward.” [23:05]
“There’s no seat at that table for me, well f*ck you I’m building my own table.” [28:58]
“You’ve got to make room for your partner, and you’ve got to make room for yourself.” [41:46]
“You want to be with the right person that you can grow together, not part. [48:12]
“If you don’t show up and show out, what do you think is going to happen?” [55:00]
“I like to think that our discomfort is helping navigate the younger generation.” [1:05:14]
Follow Constance Schwartz-Morini:
Website: https://www.smac-ent.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/ConSchwartz
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Longing for a loving relationship that will stand the test of time is a dream for many people and yet it’s one of the hardest things to find. Building a long lasting love takes vulnerability, trust and a lot of communication. It also takes getting into a loving relationship with yourself. One of the worst things we can do when we’re dating is lack the self-trust, self-love and honesty we need to see the person we’re dating for who they really are.
It’s easy to get carried away with a perception of your partner when you’re dating and everything is new. Matthew Hussey, relationship expert and bestselling author of Get the Guy, strongly urges women to boldly ask the right questions and not fear scaring the right person for them away.
Stop fighting for dead-end, painful relationships that make you question your sanity and if the version of reality you’re living is actually real. Learn the rules for dating that allow you to invest in the right relationship and trust yourself to know when it’s time to leave because the intention and alignment is not right.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Matthew Hussey
0:10 | Want to Find Love?
21:51 | Build Long Lasting Love
48:47 | Commit to the Right Person
1:09:20 | Love Vs. Lust
1:35:06 | Bonus: Communication is Key
QUOTES:
“You don’t trust that someone is never going to betray you. You just trust that you’ll be able to handle it if they do.” [4:01]
“It’s one thing if someone is acknowledging the gap, but acknowledging and being able to deliver are two very different things.” [12:22]
“I’ve been a victim of me, and I need compassion for that, I deserve compassion for that because ‘me’ is a complex person.” [23:18]
“I'm afraid that me asking the question is going to scare someone away, but if it’s going so well how are you going to scare someone away that easily? [...] it can only scare away the wrong person [59:10]
“Attention is not the same as intention, you can give me lots of attention but have no real intention behind it…” [1:13:16]
“There’s the economics of value. What is scarce, what is difficult to obtain, what I have to fight for must be more valuable, and that’s a really dangerous thing to apply to your love life.” [1:27:07]
“No one is the bad boy to the person they choose, you can’t be! [...] If you’re chasing bad boys, you’re always chasing someone in a phase…” [1:31:51]
“You have to be able to separate hw you feel about someone from how someone makes you feel.“ [1:34:11]
“When do opposites become problematic? It’s all around values, [...] they just can’t fathom that there is another valid way to approach the world.” Tom Bilyeu [1:37:25]
“If you're in a relationship where one person wants things clean and one doesn’t, I promise you, you are at a collision of values.” Tom Bilyeu [2:04:11]
Follow Matthew Hussey:
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Moving in together can be one of the biggest steps you take in your relationship. When do you know it’s time to make the move, why might you or your partner have hesitations, and what should you do if your partner keeps making excuses to not do it? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss these matters and more as they explore what you should do if moving in with your loved one is proving to be more difficult to make happen than first anticipated. They discuss what to do when they’re not ready for the move, why you should be logical and honest, why you should know whether it’s worth it or not to even be in the relationship, how to approach the move like a written contract, and why you need to be absolutely clear on what your needs are with your partner.
SHOW NOTES:
Moving In | Lisa and Tom discuss what to do if your partner isn’t ready to move in. [0:16]
Logical | Tom and Lisa share their story of moving in together. [2:32]
Honesty | Lisa and Tom discuss why you have to articulate the ‘why’ behind your decision. [3:33]
Worth It | Tom shares the time when he weighed the sacrifices of being with Lisa. [6:04]
Contract | Lisa and Tom discuss how living together should be treated like a contract. [8:17]
PTSD | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need to be open about your past living situations. [10:53]
No Bullsh*t | Tom and Lisa discuss why you should be clear on what your pain point is [11:57]
QUOTES:
“…no, he’s just not that into you.” [1:07]
“It isn’t that he didn’t want to get married, it’s that he didn’t want to get married to me.” [4:35]
“What would have to be true for you to be willing to move in with me?” [12:02]
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Some seasons of life feel like one long endless battle. Maybe the battles are a result of decisions you’ve made, and maybe they’re unavoidable. Either way, it’s the moments in these battles that force challenge the real you, the authentic version of you that exists at your core.
There’s a host of things that can prepare you for battle and there’s one core principle from which everything else is powered to help you leave every battle victorious, and that’s self-love.
Roxy Saffaie is a super incredible badass. She’s the founder of Black Belt Beauty and a powerful voice for self-mastery. In this episode she’s showing us exactly how to connect and develop the mental fortitude through doing the hard sh*t that trains us physically.
Strong mind. Strong body.
Roxy is reminding all us that we need to be capable of carrying heavy loads and how it always comes back to really loving yourself.
Self-love is not making excuses
Self-love is getting f*cking uncomfortable
Self-love is developing discipline
Check out Roxy's Future Self digital course here: https://blackbeltbeauty.mykajabi.com/future-self-digitalcourse
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Roxy Saffaie
0:40 | How Much Effort Are You Worth?
4:34 | Do the Sht You Don’t Want to Do
7:41 | Get Mentally Stronger the Badass Way
12:20 | Ditch Your Excuses (At the Wall)
37:05 | Develop Discipline (To Hang On)
1:04:40 | Get Fcking Uncomfortable
1:22:39 | Stick to Your Path of Confidence
QUOTES:
“This effort that I’m making is really connected to my self-worth.” [1:29]
“You have to feel worthy of the battle and the victory.” [2:39]
“I embrace every challenge that is on my path knowing that, [...] me moving towards this challenge is me fortifying myself, the relationship I have with myself.” [6:44]
“When I’m lifting heavy sh*t, I’m telling myself that I am capable to handle heavy loads in life.” [9:07]
“That reserve moment is in f*cking everybody but not everybody is willing to push the trigger on it.” [17:19]
“...I can fall with respect, I can fall and feel proud. Can you fall and feel proud? You can when you put your f*cking heart into the work.” [19:29]
“To develop any kind of loving, trustworthy, respectable relationship with anybody, [...] you have to invest.” [30:11]
“Pull the best out of yourself in any and every moment of your life.” [43:24]
“When you are in your healthiest state, [...] the volume on your intuition is louder.” [46:45]
“Be willing to start from the beginning, be willing to start from the f*cking bottom, be willing to suck, be willing to sweat to take the punches, [...] you are literally telling yourself, ‘I love you, you’re worth it.’” [51:09]
“I wanted to go to the olympics, I didn’t go to the olympics but that’s okay because life is my sport and so everyday is like an olympic sport.” [56:21]
“In moments where you’re uncomfortable, where you’re being challenged, can you stay loose with it, can you stay flexible, so that you can actually respond to the challenge in a way where you won’t break ?” [1:07:09]
“When you really know who you are, nothing can override this knowing.” [1:24:53]
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Do you struggle with trust issues? Did your last relationship scar you from ever trusting or putting yourself out there again? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to overcome your lingering trust issues so that you can start to put yourself out there again and find love. They discuss what may be causing your trust issues, why finding love requires being vulnerable, why the little things in a relationship build trust, and how to set rules in your relationship to maintain trust for years to come.
SHOW NOTES:
Trust | Tom and Lisa discuss how to overcome your own trust issues. [0:28]
Love | Lisa and Tom recall a time in their relationship when they first said, “I love you.” [5:26]
Be Willing | Tom and Lisa discuss why you have to be willing to get hurt again. [6:37]
Divorce | Tom and Lisa discuss why even saying the ‘D word’ is difficult for them. [8:08]
Little Things | Lisa and Tom discuss how the little things that build trust. [12:25]
Rules | Tom and Lisa discuss how to know what rules to set in a relationship. [13:50]
QUOTES:
“If somebody comes into the relationship and they’re badmouthing their ex and they’re talking all kinds of shit, then just assume that’s exactly how they will be about you when you break up. So remember, you don’t divorce the same person that you marry.” [4:51]
“If you know that love is brain chemistry, then you have to learn to take control of your brain chemistry and learn to recapture and recreate moments that make you feel that, cause it won’t happen accidentally. It’s like happiness. Happiness and love are very similar in that sense — that if you don’t work at it, it’s not going to happen.” [9:42]
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There’s no doubt that you’ve faced some heavy challenges in this lifetime. You’ve experienced loss and just out of the nature of being a woman you’ve definitely faced adversity on multiple levels. Yet, you’re here at this moment and that’s worth celebrating!
Being resilient takes courage. It requires you to face down your fears and still be willing to go again even though you’ve made all the mistakes, even though you’re heart is hurting, and in spite of all the trauma you’ve experienced.
In this episode, Rachel Hollis, who is no stranger to adversity, is sharing her heavy challenges and losses to share how she’s been able to overcome it all and become more resilient. Rachel is a bestselling author, lifestyle blogger, podcast host, and entrepreneur. Today we’re digging into the pain of showing up when you don’t want to, knowing yourself at a level that makes unstoppable, and how you can cultivate resilience to keep goin
The bonus part of this conversation is thinking through how you feel about your hormones, your cycle and how you feel about the food you eat. It’s not about being skinny or looking a certain way, but rather having the best relationship you can with yourself as all of these things impact your mood, how you show up, and how you feel and think about yourself.
Recommended Reading:
Intuitive Eating, A Revolutionary Anti-Diet Approach: https://amzn.to/3RU9snz
Period Power , Harness Your Hormones & Get Your Cycle Working for You: https://amzn.to/3Lc3AmX
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Rachel Hollis
0:34 | Secrets to Being More Resilient
8:38 | Keep Showing Up Even When…
15:00 | Positive Change Doesn’t Feel Great
22:39 | Trust You Know What’s Best
40:17 | How The Younger You Shows Up
48:14 | Stop Your Emotional Eating
1:14:38 | Overcome Fear, Failure &, Mistakes
1:22:26 | Brain Fog, Low Energy, & Hormones
1:43:47 | Embracing Your Cycle & Hormones
1:51:38 | Know Yourself At This Level
QUOTES: 37 sec
“If you don’t process it in the moment, you’re going to process it for the next decade, [...] There is no escaping the emotions of the hard stuff we go through.” [5:36]
“Women are stronger negotiators when they are fighting for someone else.” [11:32]
“If I have trust with myself, I feel like my inner knowing will always tell me if something is not okay.” [27:27]
“When you learn to listen to that [intuition], I believe we are never guided incorrectly if you’re listening to true wisdom inside yourself.” [37:54]
“We are either a reaction to, or a reflection of the people who raised us.” [52:15]
“There was always a reason I could find to keep emotionally eating and never find a solution for how to make myself feel better in a way that didn’t involve food, […] nothing outside of yourself is ever going to satisfy you.” [57:25]
“There isn’t bad food, but there is food that is incompatible with my body.” [1:06:55]
“If we trusted that we would go again more than we trusted that we would fail, anything would be possible!” [1:14:38]
“If you knew that it wasn’t normal you would feel empowered to take steps that would heal you. It’s because we think that feeling badly, [...] all of this stuff that we are made to believe is normal isn’t normal.” [1:45:54]
“If you know yourself then you know what your intention is, you know your heart, you know your values, you know your why. And if you really truly know yourself and you mess up you’ll know that you were doing your best and that you’ll do your best next time, and you won’t let other people speak in and change your truth because you know who you are…” [1:51:41]
“Begin to build a history of being strong and that’s what you look at the next time that you feel weak.” [1:53:07]
Follow Rachel Hollis:
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Having a healthy vibrant sex life is not just fun, it’s also healthy for your relationship and for your personal health. In the past how comfortable have you been with talking about your sexual wants, desires, and fantasies with your partner? It can get super awkward and uncomfortable really really fast.
In this episode we’ve got you covered with Emily Morse, the sex expert and host of the Sex with Emily podcast that has been saving people’s sex lives and relationships one after the other. All the ways you want your partner to please you, the things your partner does that don’t feel great, are one conversation away.
Watch this and take notes so you can get more confident with your body, your sexuality, and discover how you like to be pleased so your partner can share in getting you to a real orgasm so you never have to fake it again.
You can check both of Emily’s full conversations with Lisa here:
Confidence in the Bedroom: https://youtu.be/CpSl1NH13zs
5 Taboo Tricks You Should Try: https://youtu.be/KLukArHg-vk
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction Emily Morse
0:17 | Secret to Sexual Desire
28:48 | Master Confidence in Your Body & Mind
59:25 | What No One Shares About Your Body
QUOTES:
“If you’re a couple that prioritizes health and wellness you can’t have you sex life be the outlier of your health and wellness.” [8:01]
“The confidence comes from knowing you deserve pleasure, that you deserve to be in a healthy relationship…” [20:15]
“If you don’t accept your own body, it’s going to be really hard to get somebody else on board with it as well.” [20:41]
“Communication is a lubrication, talk about your sex life.” [32:19]
“Your communication as a couple has to come first and foremost.” [43:40]
“Women are slow cookers and men are frying pans.” [1:00:48]
“Everything about sex needs to be rebranded, and one of them is that masturbation is shameful or wrong, [...] healthy masturbation is the key to unlocking our own pleasure because we’re responsible for our own orgasm.” [1:04:13]
Follow Emily Morse:
Website: https://sexwithemily.com/
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You’re worth more. Period. Do not settle for someone isn’t bringing out the best in you and is championing the relationship. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu discuss when it’s time to let go of someone who is simply just dragging the relationship down and causing more pain than joy. They discuss how disfunction is at the root cause of any unhealthy relationship, how sacrifices need to be made to pursue both your personal goals and to support your relationship, and how you are worth more and deserve joy.
SHOW NOTES:
Let ‘Em Go | Lisa and Tom discuss breaking up versus giving space during uncertainty. [0:25]
Disfunction | Tom and Lisa discuss when disfunction is the root cause of a relationship. [2:01]
Sacrifices | Tom and Lisa discuss the focus between your goals and your relationship. [3:05]
You’re Worth More | Lisa and Tom discuss what you deserve in a relationship. [4:56]
QUOTES:
“Do you feel like you’re their number one? Do you feel better about yourself when you’re around them?” [2:26]
“I don’t think that a dysfunctional relationship makes your life better than being alone.” [4:05]
“…you’re worth more…” [5:05]
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You should never have to walk around not feeling safe just because you are a woman. Being a victim of a crime is horrendous that can cause lifelong trauma and setbacks. There are some stats that report over 40% of women in the U.S. have encountered sexual violence in their life. While fighting back can feel scary and impossible whether you’re five feet tall or 6 feet tall, the alternative of not fighting back is even scarier.
In this episode Lisa brings on a 3rd Black Belt Badass to share her moves, tips, and tactics to defend yourself, stand up for yourself, and love yourself through it all. Jenn Cassetta has appeared on national television, and has helped brands such as Apple, Nike, and Uber teach self defense for women. After being attacked herself near her home late one night, she took her fear to a dojo and learned how to fight back and master her thinking.
Jenn shares the Ultimate Comeback for life:
Give yourself grace
Reimagine your life
Recreate your life
Ignore the naysayers
Set a plan in motion
Having practical tactics to help you better deal with people when they’ve crossed your boundaries and ways to stand up for yourself that allow you to be more confident may save your life on the street or in the workplace.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Jenn Casetta
3:38 | Embrace the Suck (White Belt)
8:45 | Suited Up in Amour
11:12 | Choose to Defend Yourself - Peace - mind body connection
15:50 | Make Your Sh*ts List
23:29 | Bounce Back (Yellow Belt)
28:35 | The Ultimate Comeback
37:11 | The Ultimate Comeback Moves
39:27 | Block the B.S. (Orange Belt)
48:52 | Moves to Block B.S.
52:15 | Find Your Roar (Green Belt)
1:04:29 | Unleash Your Battle Cry
1:09:35 | Elevate Your Energy (Blue Belt)
1:19:09 | How to Kill Energy Vampires
1:30:34 | Connect to Your Inner Warrior (Red Belt)
1:38:28 | Take the Lead (Black Belt)
1:43:38 | 3 Tactics to Show Up for Yourself
QUOTES:
“We’re throwing ourselves into the unknown, into the uncomfortable and it’s the only way to get through and not just stay stuck.” [8:16]
“We need to create our own safe space.” [9:58]
“When you can look at your sh*ts list and be like, pat yourself on the back [...] and be like you did not have it easy, you weren’t dealt all the cards, [...] but here you are, still standing, you’re alive…” [17:16]
“If you’re not actually doing the steps, you’re not going to get anywhere.” [37:02]
“It’s also okay to raise your volume when you want to set a powerful boundary [59:34]
“Ask questions! If you want to grow you’re going to need to learn to take feedback.” [1:01:59]
“If you want to be a black belt in badassery, you need to really be aware of the words you’re saying to yourself, and then have some skills or some tools to turn that around when it gets negative…” [1:02:40]
“All those negative thoughts are just like weeds that are growing in your mental space.” [1:04:06]
“If we don’t stop and take an energy audit and see how much output of energy we’re giving versus the input and the self-care, sooner or later you’re going to head for burnout.” [1:11:11]
“I want to be around people who want to lift themselves up too. It’s a different energy, and [...] you feel like you’re elevating with them.” [1:20:18]
“If you’re feeling badly and you know, with grace ,that you’re comparing yourself, stop freaking following people.” Lisa Bilyeu [1:25:16]
“We have to slow down to hear it and then have a practice, a daily practice, where we get to tune into her and really start to listen, and then over time not just listen but to trust, and trust that inner voice.” [1:31:23]
“My view of leadership expanded and i truly believe now that everyone can step into leadership in the microcosm of their dojo.” [1:40:08]
“We need more feminine types of leadership, nurturing leadership, people that look out for others, and help other people rise as well.” [1:42:30]
Follow Jenn Casetta:
Website: https://jennifercassetta.com/
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Communication is an essential part of great sex. But many people worry about hurting their partner’s feelings by bringing up the topic — especially if they'e not feeling satisfied. These conversations can bring up a lot of anxiety and can cause you to avoid having them. Thus, damage your relationship in the long run. But there are strategies to make these conversations easier. In this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share how to talk about sex with your partner even if you are afraid to do so. Now you have the chance to learn easily what they had to learn with great difficulty to make their relationship last for over 20 years. After watching this episode, you´ll know what the right moment for starting the conversation looks like. You'll understand how to prevent triggering your partner. Why asking for flowers isn't unromantic and how to guide your partner, so he knows what makes you happy. Furthermore, you'll learn how to handle your emotions when you're getting triggered and how men can articulate sexual attraction in a way that makes women feel good.
SHOW NOTES:
Why you should talk about sex if you're not sexually satisfied. [00:37]
How does the right moment for starting the conversation look like? [3:21]
This is how Tom and Lisa used the movie “Rush Hour” to end one of their biggest fights. [5:35]
The most powerful question Lisa asked in the marriage. [7:33]
The mindset you need to have to improve any area of your relationship. [8:10]
Avoid this communication mistake to prevent triggering your partner. [9:45]
What Lisa and Tom don't do (This radically improves their relationship.) [11:10]
Why asking for flowers isn't unromantic and how to guide your partner, so he knows what makes you happy. [12:00]
What “communication is key” does actually mean and how to implement it. [15:00]
How to handle your emotions when you're getting triggered. [16:00]
What happens to most relationships, so they end up in an unhappy relationship. [17:00]
How men can articulate sexual attraction in a way that makes women feel good. [18:56]
The difference in how women and men think about sex (If you don´t understand this, you think the other side is crazy.) [20:03]
QUOTES:
“If you’re not ready to talk with your partner about sex, you’re not ready to have sex.” [1:05]
“I take on the ownership of: “What am I not giving you?” Because to trick ourselves into thinking we are always giving our partner exactly what they need all the time is absolutely putting blinders on.” [8:12]
“Does this person love me? And if the answer is “yes” then I know that there is no ill-will, so whatever they’re trying to do, I am gonna give them grace and understanding, and I am gonna be open and receptive.” [16:40]
“Women need to feel loved to have sex, and men need to have sex to feel loved.” [20:03]
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Maybe you’re a single mother, or a sister, aunt or best friend of a young man in your life trying to learn how to navigate the ropes of life and you’re wondering how you can be enough for him, and if you’re enough.
There’s been a debate about whether a woman can raise a strong man or not, but today’s guest puts this argument to rest once and for all. Devon Franklin released an audible exclusive called, It Takes a Woman, to pay tribute to the love, the sacrifice and the value he and his brothers received from the women that helped raise them.
Devon Franklin is an award winning film and TV producer, former Senior VP of Production at Columbia Pictures and current president and CEO of Franklin Entertainment. The way he connects to his emotions and pain with clarity of mind is inspiring.
In this episode we’re discussing how to be okay and how to find the line where sacrifice requires more self-care to be even better for the people you love the most. There are things that only a woman can do to make things alright, but it doesn’t have to come in the form of perfection and it doesn’t need to be to your own detriment.
“We never fully come to terms with the lost that cuts us to our soul” -Devon Franklin, It Takes a Woman
Check out Devon’s Audible Exclusive, It Takes A Woman: https://www.amazon.com/Audible-It-Takes-a-Woman/dp/B09X24B5B1
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Devon Franklin
0:41 | It Takes A Woman’s Strength
6:29 | A Mother’s Perfect Imperfection
14:55 | Remedies for Childhood Trauma
18:44 | Self-Care, Sacrifice, & Healthy Boundaries
29:54 | Define Your Role & Identity
37:41 | Strong Men Raised By Women
44:47 | Recognize the Pain & How You Feel
50:50 | Love, Sex, & Relationships
QUOTES:
“There’s an expectation that women are going to do a certain thing, and as a result it isn’t always valued.” [3:55]
“My mother was a strong woman because of her vulnerability.” [5:17]
“I’m not about being selfish, but I've learned the value of self-prioritizing.” [17:48]
“As men we do tend to be selfish when it comes to what women offer us and give us, and we do tend to undervalue and take for granted what women give us.” [22:30]
“Yes, you should sacrifice, certainly there’s nothing wrong with that, yet please don’t sacrifice to the detriment of who you are.” [24:05]
“I love you enough to offer whatever advice or help or support, yet if I step in and do it for you, then I’m actually not loving you.” [28:08]
“If I find my identity in service to someone else, that to me is the equivalent of building your house on sand.” [34:20]
“A lot of things, when they hurt us, is because there’s a seed of truth in it. So our reaction is really very revelatory. How we react to certain things is a great indicator of what’s going on in here.” [42:03]
“This pain is here to teach me if I let it, and this pain is here to help me understand who I am and who I’m not…” [43:43]
“I’m a perfectionist in reform. I thought, [...] I want to get through life perfectly, and that didn’t work, so I rather get through it truthfully. It’s not going to be perfect and that’s okay as long as it’s true I can live with that.” [44:21]
“I allowed others’ perception of me to be my prison.” [50:05]
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On Today's Episode:
When you see your partner looking at other people, how does that trigger your emotions? Do feelings of jealousy come up? Do you start thinking there is something wrong with you? Do you attack yourself? Everyone comes across these feelings of jealousy and insecurity in life, and how you decide to respond to those feelings is critical. Often people want to address the other person’s actions, but exploring why these feelings are coming up for you is more important. Tom and Lisa expand on the importance of self-worth, building confidence, and working on yourself until you are unbreakable. Your value, your worth, and securities are not given to you, they are built from within. No matter where you are in your relationship, or even if you don’t have a relationship, the process of working through jealousy and insecurities is a highly prized skill that will serve you well.
SHOW NOTES:
Jealousy Trigger | When the feeling arises assess what insecurities are being triggered [1:30]
Self-Worth | Not attaching self-worth to phases but on what’s valuable & worthy [5:21]
Overcoming Insecurity | Lisa facing insecurity, anchoring to self-worth, keep your power [8:50]
Self-Centered | Being strong & confident in yourself in a way you can always rebuild self [13:28]
1st Step Out of Jealousy | Work on yourself, build confidence, and set your boundaries [16:40]
QUOTES:
“...jealousy and envy is a good reminder to do the work in yourself to shore up your insecurities to figure out why you're on such an uneven footing with that” Tom Bilyeu [4:27]
“I still want to be in the place where I'm so secure in myself that it's like if you choose that, it will break my heart, but you won't break me.” Lisa Bilyeu [12:46]
“if you do hurt me, I can get back up because I built the foundation of how I see myself” Lisa Bilyeu [13:20]
“He can't give you confidence, nor can he take it away. He can trigger something that's already inside of you, but he can't give it or take it away, so you have to do that work.” Tom Bilyeu [15:49]
“if the behavior is predictable, it shouldn't upset you.” Tom Bilyeu [18:49]
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On Today's Episode:
We’ve normalized PMS, bloating, and mood swings so much you can find jokes, stereotypes and commercial products everywhere to treat those symptoms and more. But is it really normal for women to have all of these symptoms?
Dr. Trevor Cate is the bestselling author of the book, Clean Skin from Within and she’s also the owner and founder of The Spa Dr, a natural skin care line. She’s chatting with Lisa to debunk all of the symptoms that have been normalized for women for far too long.
It’s time to start paying attention to the symptoms we have and stop passing them off as the way it is. Dr. Cate shares in her new book how waking up refreshed from a full night’s sleep without coffee first thing in the morning and having energy throughout the day is attainable.
We have to start recognizing these symptoms for what they really are, our bodies' way of getting our attention and letting us know something is off. Diet choices have more impact on our symptoms and our ability to alleviate them by treating the root causes than you know.
Great sex drive and normal appetite and live in balance
Take the Hormone Series Quiz: https://hormoneseries.com/quiz/
Check out Dr. Cates incredible book, Natural Beauty Reset: https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Beauty-Reset-Harmonize-Hormones/dp/163774126X
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction Dr. Trevor Cates
0:41 | Norm’s That Are NOT Normal
6:44 | Reset Your Diet in 7 Days
16:36 | Food Symptoms to Watch For
23:44 | Danger of Added Sweeteners
30:30 | Feeling Triggered by Food
34:01 | Don’t Dismiss Your Symptoms
39:27 | Hormone Disruptors You Don’t Expect
45:42 | What Is Leaky Skin?
49:36 | Symptom-Free Life Is Possible
51:43 | Tips for Thriving Sex Hormones
54:26 | Self-Correcting Sleep Habits
QUOTES:
“If we never give ourselves a break, and we don’t fuel our bodies with the right food, with the right movement, with the right mindset, those sorts of things, then we’re going to burn ourselves out, [...] our hormones get out of balance.” [3:06]
“When we eat more diverse foods, especially those in season when they're closest to the earth or to picking it from the tree it actually helps our gut microbiome diversity.” [7:32]
“There are things that we are doing that are interfering and creating symptoms that we don’t even realize that we’re having.” [9:11]
“When you have a symptom, [...] pay attention to your body. Symptoms are a sign that something is not quite right.” [17:03]
“Whether it’s kale or mac n’ cheese, it’s not that food that we’re hungry for sometimes, it’s something else.” [32:05]
“Birth control pills were made for birth control, let’s just let them be that and not try to use them for managing symptoms.” [39:13]
“If you can get your oxytocin going it will help you bond with your partner, [...] when you feel that connection you feel more in the mood.” [53:34]
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On Today's Episode:
Do you struggle with low confidence when talking to a potential love interest? Do you find yourself wallowing in your insecurities, telling yourself that you’re not good enough for them? Well, now is the time to stop. You need to suck it up, own your insecurities, and shift you focus towards positivity and confidence so that you can develop a happy and healthy relationship. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore the importance of confidence in any relationship and how you can move away from a place of insecurity and towards a place of positivity. They discuss how to talk to women when lacking confidence, ways to develop confidence, how all of us have insecurities and ways to overcome them, why you shouldn’t obsess over your insecurities, and how to shift your focus onto productive and positive thoughts.
SHOW NOTES:
Talking | Tom and Lisa discuss the best skills needed when talking to a future partner. [0:13]
Confidence | Tom and Lisa reveal the importance of confidence when talking to women. [1:55]
Insecurities | Tom and Lisa discuss insecurities and why you shouldn’t obsess over them. [4:02]
Fine Lines | Tom shares the differences between owning and obsessing over insecurities. [5:55]
Emotions | Lisa shares a story of when emotions began taking hold of her insecurities. [10:31]
Focus | Tom discusses the importance of shifting your focus towards positive thoughts. [12:46]
QUOTES:
“It is okay, be insecure about that thing. Don’t wallow in it and take action about it.” [7:14]
“Absolutely no good behavior comes from obsessively thinking about something that you’re insecure about it. So do something to address or move on.” [10:23]
“Don’t approach things to want to get the compliment by putting yourself down.” [12:04]
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On Today's Episode:
How do you know if he’s really interested or just obsessed with you? In reality, it’s hard to decipher what’s fact and what’s myth when it comes to knowing what men want.
Him chasing you and giving you lots of time and attention may not be reliable in determining his real intentions for you. His lack of time and communication doesn’t necessarily indicate that he’s playing games or not interested either.
Stephan (Labossiere) Speaks is a relationship coach dedicated to helping men and women experience happier and more fulfilling relationships. In today’s episode, you’re going to see that much of the problems we need to address are internal.
Ladies, it's time to reconnect with your greatest source of power, that female intuition, and slow down long enough to be honest with yourself. Having the best relationship of your life is possible, but it’s going to take you asking the hard questions and answering them honestly.
Why are you really here in this current relationship?
Why are you holding onto a relationship with the wrong person?
What are you afraid of, really?
It’s time to get some straightforward advice from the relationship expert himself, so you can be strong and have your own back in every relationship.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Stephan Speaks
0:13 | Don’t Fall for the Chase
12:19 | How to Spot Real Connection
26:30 | Do This On Your Next Date
42:54 | Connection, Compatibility & Chemistry
58:14 | Shamed Into Bad Relationships
1:04:02 | Don’t Stay Out of Fear
1:13:10 | Why Sex Too Soon
QUOTES:
“Him chasing you is not always the greatest indicator that he’s serious about you, or that he has genuine intention.” [1:08]
“There’s this idea that men don’t have feelings or that men are not being heartbroken by women out there.” [8:06]
“I do believe the strength of the man is the logical mind, and the strength of the woman is the intuition mind.” [15:10]
“If you have to cultivate it that means you’re just growing attached to this individual that’s not a connection.” [20:49]
“It can’t be not true love on my end, but true love on your end.” [22:07]
“Stop doing what you think will work and do what works for you.” [31:22]
“The goal should be not trying to fit into other people’s lives, but seeing who we fit together with.” [34:22]
“Best foot forward should not be how do I win the date over. Best foot forward should be how do I really show who I am to see if they really connect with me.” [35:45]
“The key to great long lasting sex is connection.” [55:54]
“I believe a lot of people become narcissists in their relationship, they were not narcissists in the beginning.” [56:46]
“Some of you are holding on because you’re afraid to be alone, not because you love them.” [58:14]
“Are you willing to put in the work to receive what you want out of life?” [1:02:12]
“One of the biggest mistakes a man or a woman can make is to let someone think that no matter what they do you will stay.” [1:07:02]
“When a man really likes a woman, he’s more concerned about how she perceives his pursuit of it [sex], so he’s going to be more careful, he’s going to be more willing to be patient, [...] the last thing he wants to do is to make you think that’s all he’s here for…” [1:16:33]
“Don’t have sex on the first date because you need time to evaluate what you’re dealing with, and doing it so soon can blind you. Sex can easily cloud your judgement.” [1:20:42]
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On Today's Episode:
The heartache after a bad breakup, the pain of being rejected, the suffering that comes along with hiding and not fully showing up as yourself, and the disappointment of not speaking up for yourself (again) makes us feel powerless and less than. If you’re in that space right now, or want to make sure you never return to that space again, healing yourself and finding your voice is crucial. Your life, your freedom, and your future is depending on you.
Najwa Zebian is an activist, speaker, author and educator. Her poetry and message has been inspiring millions of people around the world while she speaks up for women everywhere. She uses words and poetry to encourage others to “live, love and create fearlessly.” This episode with Najwa has more aha moments than you can imagine, so let’s go!
Check out both of her interviews with Lisa on Women of Impact:
How to Stop Others From Mistreating You: https://youtu.be/5m0c0VDB_8s
How to Establish Healthy Boundaries For Yourself: https://youtu.be/xWWSgnIGIRg
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Love Yourself
21:54 | Start the Process of Finding Yourself
48:48 | End Your Loneliness
1:08:54 | Move On & Embrace Your Pain
QUOTES:
“There’s nothing wrong with not constantly being that shining light on everyone and everything.” [2:25]
“Saying no to a person in power, when you’re here and they’re up here, is not that same as saying no to a person who’s at your level of power. Consent is not the same when there’s power involved.” [9:06]
“I decided to put this person aside and let this person flourish.” [13:07]
“To start the healing process, healing couldn’t begin if I was ashamed of my story.” [14:41]
“Every victim of any form of abuse is someone to someone, is worthy of being heard…” [18:48]
“My most powerful asset was my truth at that point, there was nothing to hide.” [21:30]
“The one who broke you cannot heal you. You have to heal you.” [31:42]
“We give people the power to break us, [...] you give the power to someone to love you and you give the power to someone to break you. It’s their choice with what they do.” [34:05]
“Boundaries aren’t about being in protection mode. Boundaries are about knowing that what you have within is so valuable that you will not allow certain people to come near it, [...] they stem from self-worth.” [37:57]
“If pain is knocking at your door and you deal with the pain and take it out of the way, you’re allowing room for yourself to see and feel that happiness that’s waiting at your door.” [56:44]
“Self-love is picturing the person that you love the most and telling yourself, ‘I will not treat myself any less than I will treat this person.’” [1:06:44]
“The emptiness we feel on the inside doesn’t mean that we have nothing left within us, it just means that what we created we placed outside of us…” [1:16:27]
“When you need love, don’t sit there on the floor, in your bathtub, in your bedroom with your phone by your side waiting for someone to magically write a couple words…” [1:23:28]
You don’t deserve to have someone’s burdens placed on your back for them to believe you love them.” [1:25:11]
“The price of someone loving you should not be you not loving you.” [1:25:44]
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On Today's Episode:
Long distance dating can be difficult as there is certainly no substitute for close proximity. There’s no denying that. However, there are simple, yet powerful, practices that a couple can be mindful of that will ensure the relationship will go the distance while long distance dating. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly of long distance dating and what you can do to ensure you go the distance and still grow closer while living far apart. They speak about best practices for making the relationship work, what the endgame is, the importance of planning, how to maintain your connection and bond, the importance of maintaining sexual intimacy, and what it means to be giving the gift you know they want to receive.
SHOW NOTES:
Best Practices | Lisa and Tom discuss what is key for making long distance relationships work. [0:25]
The Endgame | Lisa and Tom discuss what long distance relationships should be moving towards. [3:19]
Power of Planning | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of a plan that seeks to maintain your connection and bond. [4:50]
Intimacy | Tom and Lisa discuss sexual intimacy and sexting during a long distance relationship. [7:23]
Clear Communication | Lisa and Tom discuss communicating your desires and dislikes in a relationship. [14:11]
Giving | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of giving the gift you know they want. [15:20]
QUOTES:
“At the end of the day, there’s no substitute for proximity.” [2:05]
“You need to communicate and find out if it is a gift that is desired.” [7:47]
“Encourage the behavior you want, and discourage the behavior you don’t want.” [14:11]
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On Today's Episode:
Has being a people-pleaser become part of your identity? Are you the person everyone knows they can rely on when they need something? Feeling like you're stuck in a rut and lacking the confidence you need to go after what you want isn’t serving you. In fact it’s leaving you feeling more like a low-value add in every relationship and situation you find yourself in.
News flash homie! We are all high value!
Lisa’s about to break down 8 traits of a high value woman and give you the boost and motivation you need to tap into your high value super power. Join Lisa and these amazing women to see how you can increase your value today!
Sara Jakes Roberts is a woman of faith and the bestselling author of Woman Evolve. Her episode is absolute fire and will leave speechless in tears. Check out her full episode here: https://youtu.be/IbriO6QIxoU
Elle Russ is a bestselling author, master coach and badass when it comes to women’s confidence You can catch her full episode on confidence and find out her superpower here: https://youtu.be/c5J8vR0fwzc
Chalene Johnson is not only an entrepreneur, fitness coach and business coach she’s a fighter that proved herself to be a high value woman against the odds. You can checkout her inspiring full conversation with Lisa here: https://youtu.be/yn0GgM4wguI
Faith Jenkins is an attorney, Divorce Court TV Judge, entrepreneur and bestselling author of the book, Sis Don’t Settle. In her episode with Lisa she really unpacked what it meant for her to be single as her option and something with her power, watch the full conversation here: https://youtu.be/zgmQHz0OqCE
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to High Value Woman
0:24 | A High Value Woman Doesn’t Need A Man
5:59 | A High Value Woman Has Self-Esteem
15:33 | A High Value Woman Has a Growth Mindset
17:34 | A High Value Woman Has a Self-Care Routine
25:47 | A High Value Woman Has Standards
31:40 | A High Value Woman Has Ambitious Goals
34:36 | A High Value Woman Celebrates Her Achievements
37:08 | A High Value Woman Listens to Her Intuition
QUOTES:
“A high value woman knows that she’s got her own frikin’ back!” Lisa Bilyeu [0:36]
“I’d finally learned to protect my space and my energy and my growth, and I wanted to know that whoever I was inviting into my space could continue to cultivate the garden of who I am…” Sarah Jakes Roberts [5:41]
“Everyday I’m going to do something that becomes an incremental step towards building my self-esteem.” Lisa Bilyeu [6:50]
“If you don't speak up in life, from the bedroom to the boardroom, you’re not going to get what you want out of life.” Elle Russ [12:35]
“Being open and okay with vulnerability is actually confident as f*ck.” Elle Russ [14:18]
“A growth mindset allows you to take negative feedback and see the positive in it.” Lisa Bilyeu [15:42]
“A high value woman actually knows to stop sacrificing for everybody else” Lisa Bilyeu [18:46]
“What I do need to carefully covet and protect is my time, cause I can’t get more of that…” Chalene Johnson [24:46]
“I knew I was already bringing a lot to the table and I wanted someone who was going to add to the happiness I already had.” Faith Jenkins [28:38]
“Homie, having a job or a career or a goal and going after it isn’t frikin’ selfish.” Lisa Bilyeu [33:17]
“Giving yourself a pat on the back and grabbing the pom poms and cheering for yourself will start building your confidence.” Lisa Bilyeu [36:31]
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Does your partner have ambitious goals but lacks the motivation to act on making them happen? Does it pain you to see your partner holding themselves back from the life they dream about having? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you can push your partner into a motivated state so they start accomplishing their goals and creating the life they want for themselves. They discuss how to motivate your partner, why rewarding your partner is powerful, why you should be able to have open communication, and why the problem might be that you have different work ethics.
SHOW NOTES:
Action | Lisa and Tom discuss motivating your partner to take action towards their goals. [0:05]
Reward | Lisa and Tom discuss how you should reward your partner to motivate them. [6:07]
Talk Through It | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should speak with an open heart. [8:43]
Partnership | Lisa and Tom discuss how they each approach work differently. [11:49]
QUOTES:
“…always, always, always, whenever you can do it through reward, do it through reward. Because they feel like that wonderful-warm sensation about the person that’s rewarding them.” [1:55]
“…and then sometimes you just have to trigger people’s emotions — because they don’t hear it until that point. But I’m telling you, if you lead with that, it will damage the relationship.” [3:28]
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On Today's Episode:
There are some statistics that report 1 in 4 women have experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner, while other stats report more than 40% of women in emotionally abusive relationships.
When you think of dating and being in a relationship with a romantic partner, Dr. Ramani reminds us in this episode that safety should be a high priority and concern. Neglecting the importance of safety and disregarding red flags that she and Lisa discuss in this episode can easily lead to patterns and behaviors that are unwanted, unsafe, and painful to escape with time.
Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a repeat guest and favorite on Women of Impact. She’s a clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic traits and behaviors.
This conversation is about breaking the silence and helping women to reclaim the power we’ve lost and handed over to the wrong people in our lives.
“Evil enters like a needle and spreads like an oak tree” -Dr. Ramani
Check out Dr. Ramani’s new podcast, Navigating Narcissism: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/navigating-narcissism-with-dr-ramani/id1629909313
Take a look at Dr. Ramani’s Monthly Healing Program: https://doctor-ramani.teachable.com/p/taking-yourself-back-healing-from-narcissistic-antagonistic-relationships
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Dr. Ramani
0:07 | Questions That Raise Red Flags
6:54 | Are They Really Interested?
10:02 | Know Your Personal Red Flags
16:16 | How Narcissists Test Easy Targets
19:28 | Narcissistic Love Is This…
28:14 | Narcissists Don’t Support Your Success
35:24 | A Relationship Based in Fear
39:30 | Being Crushed by Narcissists
45:25 | Losing “Friends” to Narcissistic Lies
52:38 | Recognize the Isolation Game
56:33 | How to End A Narcissistic Relationship
1:00:03 | Who Gets Sucked In By Narcissists?
1:03:44 | Narcissistic Family Systems
1:07:18 | Helping Someone in Narcissistic Relationship
1:16:17 | What Works For Your Dating Life?
1:23:07 | Stop Giving Your Power Away!
QUOTES:
“It’s almost less of what the narcissist is doing and more of the story we’re telling ourselves about what they are doing.” [0:42]
“What narcissistic people are really skilled at is learning everything about you so they can outplay you.” [6:16]
“For all the damn time people spend in gyms, I would love it if people would actually spend time strengthening their boundaries.” [9:24]
“My red flags aren’ always someone else’s. Sure there’s the universal ones, but beyond that they tend to be really personal.” [13:02]
“For a narcissistic person it’s a very shallow experience. It’s about validation, it’s about attention, it’s about admiration, it’s about short-term pleasure, […] that’s what they mean by love.” [19:48]
“When we talk about love, we talk about romance, we talk about fun, we talk about sex, what we don’t talk enough abut is safety.” [24:35]
“You’ve got to judge the relationship on those bad days, not the good days, and too many people judge narcissistic relationship on the good days.” [27:01]
“I’d argue that fear is the heart of the narcissistic relationship, [...] you’re constantly afraid of doing, or saying, or being the wrong thing.” [35:32]
“Don’t go D.E.E.P., [...] don’t defend, don’t engage, don’t explain, and don’t personalize.” [40:57]
“Friends and other social relationships are an essential part of a healthy human being.” [53:42]
“As their friend and supporter you can’t get invested in the outcome. All you can be invested in is being a good friend to them. [1:10:24]
“Different people make different deals with the devil.” [1:10:53]
“The world has suffered from people being so crushed by these relationships.” [1:25:38]
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On Today's Episode:
Dealing with mismatched sex drives can be horrifying, frustrating and a host of other undesired emotions for both partners. How do you find compromise when one partner is in the mood every day, any time ready to go, and the other partner could check in once or twice a week and be perfectly satisfied? In this episode, Tom & Lisa break down advice, solutions, and examples from their own relationship for how to deal with mismatched libidos. They discuss everything from frequency, porn, and orgasms all the way to being absolutely transparent about just wanting to be desired.
SHOW NOTES:
Neurochemical Sex Drive | Understanding frequency urges are related to hormones [1:17]
Solution | Dealing with high sex drive and what it means to accommodate a partner [2:53]
Sexually Satisfied | Finding compromise to satisfy each other for mutual benefit [5:02]
Orgasmic Pull | Considering what your partner wants and the bond of orgasm [8:03]
Foreplay | Getting her in the mood begins outside of the bedroom [10:58]
Porn | How viewing porn and received with resistance from some parters as bad [13:22]
Okay To Ask | How Tom & Lisa have agreed it’s okay to ask and it’s okay to say no [16:29]
Open Dialogue | When there is a reason for concern having open communication [19:00]
Desirable | Real talk with Tom & Lisa about changing sex drives and being desirable [21:06]
Men Vs. Women | Tom on the relation between feeling connected, sex, and erection [25:43]
Checking In | Lisa’s advice for regular check-ins with each other about sex and more [27:35]
QUOTES:
“if you're in a committed loving relationship, and you're not thinking about what your partner wants, that is a Horsemen of the Apocalypse” Tom Bilyeu [7:35]
“I don't want to do it if we can't get you interested in the idea.” Tom Bilyeu [11:12]
“once you have to hide something, now you start to feel like it's taboo, and it's bad.” Lisa Bilyeu [15:31]
“you shouldn't have sex if you can't talk about it.” Tom Bilyeu [17:42]
“guys don't need to feel connected to have sex, guys need to have sex to feel loved. Women need to feel loved to have sex.” [25:48]
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On Today's Episode:
When you are being used in a relationship, you may notice something feels off, and you may even pinpoint the things he’s doing to trigger you, but the scary truth is that you also may not notice these things.
In this episode, we’re talking about red flags you cannot ignore, why it’s important to make accurate assessments of yourself first, and all the ways you’re going to be able to take back your power and never blindly hand it over again.
If you’re dating, in a relationship, or debating if it’s time to go or not, this episode is for you. No one wants to be used in a relationship or taken advantage of wasting time with the wrong person. The key takeaway in this video is that taking back your power comes down to knowing that your ability to assess yourself, your feelings and the situations, decide for yourself, and honor your boundaries are all part of your superpower and badassery!
Lisa Bilyeu is a successful entrepreneur, former housewife, all around badass and the best-selling author of Radical Confidence. She’s about empowering women and sharing practical tips that allow you to get tactical with how you level up and channel your inner badass to become unstoppable! Today is the day to make sure you're never used by anyone again and the day you step up and be the hero of your own life.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction Don’t Let Him Use You
0:06 | He Avoids Future Conversations
5:35 | Not Introduced to Friends & Family
8:45 | No Consideration for Your Feelings
13:20 | All He Does is Take!
15:51 | Threatening to End the Relationship
20:05 | Doesn’t Talk About His Feelings
24:02 | He Never Apologizes
QUOTES:
“There’s a big difference between actually putting someone to the test or putting yourself to the test.” [0:57]
“In those moments of asking them the questions and being transparent you can get the truth out of them.” [7:49]
“You just have to make a demand of yourself that you are so much better, you are worth so much frikin’ more than being with someone that doesn’t care about your feelings, [...] this is a non-negotiable!” [9:00]
“If this is a partner that you want to try to build a relationship with, a long-term relationship with, you don’t just want to keep coming at them like they’ve done something wrong.” [12:20]
“Maybe he is taking and taking and taking. The truth is you just need to get better at saying no.” [13:50]
“They can only take what you’re willing to give them.” [15:23]
“Someone using a fear tactic in your relationship is a big frikin’ red flag!” [16:00]
“Don’t you dare give your power away when you see all these red flags. You have the ability, you have the strength, you have the frikin’ badassery to assess the red flag, [...] and you decide whether you’re going to accept it or not.” [19:42]
“You never use their vulnerability as a weapon.” [23:10]
“Their ego is so frikin’ important that they can’t bring themselves to say, I’m sorry…” [24:17]]
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On Today's Episode:
You can be in a room full of people and feel completely alone. You can also have hundreds of relationships in your life and more friendships than you can count and feel unlovable and unworthy of love.
History of abuse, emotional trauma and attachment issues are just a few reasons we struggle with insecurities, low self-esteem and lack self-love. Serial toxic relationships, blaming everyone and feeling helpless aren’t healthy, and luckily they aren’t permanent feelings or states of existence.
This episode is for you if you need a reminder that confidence is a journey, and that noticing your triggers can be a major step in the many small steps needed to make changes for a better life filled with self-love.
Let’s ditch other people’s opinions and find a routine practice for daily confidence that will get you on the right path with wisdom from these incredible women.
Dr. Emily Morse is the doctor of human sexuality. She has the longest running sex and relationshi podcast called Sex with Emily. Watch her full episode, How to Get Rid of Insecurities: https://youtu.be/M02jJC70onE
Gabby Bernstein is a NY Times Best selling author and spiritual coach that identifies as a holistic spirit junkie. Watch this full Women of Impact episodeto hear Gabby on the Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Love: https://youtu.be/tPJw8EMFY3U
Brittany Burgunder is a certified professional life coach and author of the book, Safety in Numbers: My Battle with Eating Disorders. She helps others with similar struggles to find their path to recovery. Watch her full episode on How to Heal, Validate Yourself & Be Good Enough for You: https://youtu.be/H1ZoDLRUBto
Lisa Bilyeu is a successful entrepreneur, former housewife, all around badass and the best-sellling author of Radical Confidence. She’s about empowering women and sharing practical tips that allow you to get tactical with ways to level up and channel your inner badass!
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Feeling Unlovable
0:37 | Gain Confidence in Your Mind & Body
24:08 | Get Rid of Shame and Guilt
47:11 | Forget Opinions & Focus On This
1:02:25 | Find Your Voice
1:25:26 | Fix Insecurity & Jealousy
QUOTES:
“We’re not going to pick always the best partners if we’re coming from desperation, or coming from a place of lack, or coming from a place of deep insecurity…” Dr. Emily Morse [1:49]
“Confidence is not a destination. Confidence is a journey, and it is a lifetime journey.” Dr. Emily Morse [15:06]
“If you don’t show up for what’s up it’s going to keep showing up.” Gabby Bernstein [26:00]
“The only way I was able to uplevel in these moments of crisis was I was so devoted to feeling free, to being free in my energy system…” Gabby Bernstein [37:22]
“The moment that you acknowledge your suffering, you open an invisible door to receive guidance.” Gabby Bernstein [40:22]
“Whether we like it or not, sometimes, especially when people have insecurities, like really deep insecurities, they won’t be able to see past how that is a reflection of them.” Lisa Bilyeu [48:51]
“If you want to show up as a routine, you have to pay attention to these tiny little things that we do on a daily basis.” Lisa Bilyeu [59:11]
“I had to rearrange my thinking one by one, and that led to change, but it was just transferring that same fight and energy towards positives within me.” Brittany Burgunder [1:08:30]
“Everyone kept asking me, ‘do you want to die,’ [...] but what no one ever really asked me and what I never asked myself was, ‘do you want to live?” Brittany Burgunder [1:09:39]
“If something scares me, I have to do it cause I know that’s what’s going to help me grow.” Brittany Burgunder [1:24:50]
“How do I take my kryptonite and make it my superpower?”[1:27:42]
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On Today's Episode:
How do you know if you’re ready for your next relationship? Perhaps your past has left you in fear and apprehensive about falling in love again? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such questions and more as they explore the process of entering a new relationship, falling in love again, and how to learn from your past relationships to strengthen your next one. They discuss how love should drive your decision, how to address concerns going into your next relationship, how to heal from heartbreak, and how to own up to your past mistakes so that your next relationship isn’t riddled with them.
SHOW NOTES:
Waiting for Them | Lisa and Tom address chasing a love interest that’s dragging their feet. [0:24]
Feelings | Tom and Lisa discuss how love, not apprehension, should drive a relationship. [2:53]
Concerns | Lisa shares overcoming feelings of concern she had early in their relationship. [5:08]
Forward | Lisa and Tom share how to move on from the pain of past-toxic relationships. [6:23]
Heartbreak | Lisa and Tom discuss recovering from the trauma of heartbreak. [11:58]
Fear | Lisa and Tom discuss their fears surrounding their relationship and life in general. [17:08]
All In | Lisa and Tom discuss their journey of going ‘all in’ with their relationship. [18:54]
Own It | Tom and Lisa reveal why you need to take full ownership of your mistakes. [20:14]
QUOTES:
“When you feel about somebody in such a strong way that you think no one has ever felt about someone the way that I feel about this person, that’s when you know it’s love.” [3:36]
“…you can either let things be scars or you can just really heal them and let go.” [7:53]
“The beauty of love is to know, “I can always be hurt.”” [14:05]
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On Today's Episode:
What if the gap in equal pay for men and women is partly our own fault? What if in the spirit of Extreme Ownership and Self-Empowerment we saw part of the gap that exists as a result of us not being comfortable asking for more money? When we never ask or have the discussion about our initial salary, over an entire career we can fall short over $1 million in wages.
Not negotiating your salary literally costs a fortune!
Linda Babcock has a PhD in Economics, is a James M. Walton Professor of Economics, and is an expert on gender equity that researches equal pay and opportunity for women and girls to harness the power of negotiation. In this episode, Linda is sharing the blueprint we all need as women to become better negotiators.
If you didn’t negotiate your last salary, if you’ve been avoiding making certain requests with your boss because it’s uncomfortable or you’re afraid of the pushback and possible negative reaction of asking for what you want, then THIS EPISODE IS A MUST FOR YOU!
It’s easy to celebrate other people, and advocate why they are deserving of that promotion and salary increase, but it’s close to impossible when it comes to doing the same for ourselves. So, Linda is making this very practical and giving you the what, the why, and the how of getting what you want and negotiating like a pro. Here’s a hint, it starts with your mindset!
Negotiation is a dialogue and a problem solving activity. The sooner you learn that questioning is a powerful strategy for negotiating and change your focus to having a discussion, and problem solving you’ll be way more comfortable and have much more success.
Check out Linda Babcock’s books to take your negotiation skills to the next level.
The No Club: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09JPHNHGJ/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0
Women Don’t Ask: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08CR5GGZL/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i2
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Linda Babcock
0:22 | Why Women Don’t Negotiate
7:13 | Rethink Negotiation vs. Asking
14:07 | Why Negotiation Has High Costs
18:17 | Blueprint for Saying ‘NO’
28:32 | Activate Negotiation Super Power
35:25 | Non-Negotiables & Being Told ‘NO’
39:21 | Negotiating Personal Relationships
45:33 | Know Your Triggers Before Time
QUOTES:
“That is something that society tolerates from women is that women are allowed to be assertive on behalf of other people.” [4:33]
“If you think about negotiation as a conflict, as a battle, as a war, as like threats and as aggressive behavior is what will work, then you’re going to be in big trouble.” [7:51]
“The best way to think about negotiation is a cooperative problem solving activity.” [8:21]
“Women are asked to do things more than men because we know they’re going to say yes.” [19:38]
“If this ask was for today, would I feel just as excited about doing it, and the answer’s probably no.” [24:56]
“You have to envision you sitting side by side trying to solve a problem rather than across a table [31:01]
“A ‘no’ is not actually the end, it’s an opportunity to discuss more and find a common ground.” [38:10]
“Negotiation in a relationship is easier because you have some trust, because you know you can just sit down and talk.” [41:29]
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Are you struggling with an inner negative voice that tells you, “You’re not good enough,” and makes you feel insecure around your partner? It’s time, here and now, for you to shake off and silence that destructive way of thinking and step into a mindset of growth and positivity so that your relationship thrives in the long-term. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you can get out of your own head, shake off and silence your inner negative voice, and adopt a growth mindset within your relationship. They discuss why its critical you break any patterns of negative thinking, the importance of being real and openly honest with your partner, how to allow your partner to challenge you in healthy ways, the power of adopting a student mentality, and why loving the process is a non-negotiable when pursuing your passions.
SHOW NOTES:
Breaking Patterns | Lisa and Tom discuss how to silence your inner negative voice. [0:34]
Being Real | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need to encourage honesty. [3:42]
Make Each Other Better | Lisa shares her story of overcoming feelings of inferiority. [4:53]
Student Mentality | Tom and Lisa discuss how you can learn from your partner. [8:19]
Love the Process | Tom and Lisa shares why you need to absolutely love the process. [9:24]
QUOTES:
“There’s nothing, nothing, worse in the long run than someone who is emotionally needy all the time. We all just have to step up, we all have to learn to love ourselves and be proud of ourselves. We cannot turn for external validation for that. It’s not a good look…” [2:40]
“If you don’t love the process in and of itself, don’t do it, don’t go down the road…” [11:31]
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How many times have you come across influencers and ads on social media promoting intermittent fasting for weight loss, increasing energy and feeling great?
The issue for us as women is that we get half the story, none of the results we’re really after and rarely does it turn into anything we can sustain over time. You’re left feeling frustrated, anxious, still overweight and bloated, and more like your energy has taken a nosedive.
The Fasting MD is on set this time with Lisa, Dr. Amy Shah, and the way she simplifies fasting for women that works in alignment with our cravings, our hormones and monthly cycles is seriously a Game Changer! Dr. Amy Shah is a double-board certified medical doctor specializing in food allergies, hormones and gut health. Her book, I’m So Effing Tired, is more like a groundbreaking blueprint for women to take control of their health like never before.
In this episode Dr. Shah is laying out the foundational things we need to understand as women about our menstrual cycles and how to fast effectively to maximize your energy levels, your quality of sleep, and your hormones. Today is about how we stop fighting our biology, give ourselves grace, and learn to customize your approach to fasting, and why you’ll want to start fasting, like today (or at least tomorrow).
Key Pointers from Dr. Shah:
3-5 days Before Your Cycle: Avoid fasting, exercise, and big decisions - Eat high fiber, low glycemic foods. Focus on self care.
Days 1-3 of your period - hormones are resetting, pay attention to how you are feeling.
Day 14 of Your Monthly Cycle: Testosterone is spiking. Time to go harder on workout and make big confident bold moves during this time.
How to Check-In with Yourself:
How is your energy level?
How is your sleep?
How are your cravings?
How are your hormones?
Check out Dr. Amy Shah’s book, I’m So Effing Tired: https://www.amazon.com/Im-So-Effing-Tired-Burnout/dp/0358446422
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Dr. Amy Shah
0:37 | Boosts How You Feel Every Day
5:19 | Fasting In Flow With Your Cycle
11:55 | How Fasting Improves Gut Health
17:28 | The Power of Circadian Fasting
22:56 | Live Healthier Without Sanitizing
25:35 | Relationships & Your Gut Health
34:05 | Sleep, Hormones, & Feeling Younger
51:42 | How Fasting Reduces Inflammation
58:25 | Stress-Eating “Comfort Foods”
1:06:15 | Customize Intermittent Fasting
1:16:00 | How to Eat For Your Cycle
QUOTES:
“Just like a nature walk is so good for you as a form of exercise [...] Circadian fasting, looking at time of day, and eating with the rhythm of the earth and with yourself is equivalent to a nature walk, everyone will benefit…” [1:27]
“You’re feeling how the bacteria in your gut are feeling and what they walkie talkie to your brain.” [3:33]
“Learn your cycle, it’s a vital sign.” [6:04]
“Your confidence right now, your anxiety level, your happiness is coming from your gut…” [12:49]
“Think about how biologically to support yourself, [17:05]
“The circadian rhythms are everything, 80% of our body’s functions depend on circadian rhythms.” [19:23]
“Your immune system needs to see other people, other bacteria, other illnesses. It needs that stimulation to be able to be as healthy as it can be.” [24:13]
“Start to eat and live with your circadian rhythm, improve your diet quality, [...] you can feel twenty years younger.” [45:23]
“Inflammation is total body health, and that’s where we’re going wrong in this world. We are eating foods that are so inflammatory, they are signals in our body that there is a problem.” [52:52]
“We’re eating sugar, emulsifiers, toxic chemicals in our food, morning, afternoon, after lunch, as a snack, as a drink, at night right before bed and then you expect our body to be able to clear all that by the next day” [55:10]
“Until you experience an alcohol free, a toxic food, toxic-person free life, you don’t know what you’re missing.” [56:10]
“When you have a little win that’s surprising or that’s just random, celebrate when it’s on the path to something positive.” [1:04:50]
“The difference between a diet and a lifestyle is that the diet leaves you depleted of energy [...] When you’re on the right path you’ll feel clearer, more energy, you’ll have better sleep…” [1:09:41]
“We want women to win in this world, and you have the power to do that, and you give it your best shot at certain times of your cycle.” [1:15:53]
“Keep in your mind that you want to get stronger and you want your energy to get bigger then you start to lose that restriction and that poor relationship with food and society [1:22:58]
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Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
On Today's Episode:
Mutual respect is a must for any successful relationship. Disrespect isn’t always obvious and can take on many forms. Your partner may leave you feeling resentful, wary, unseen and unheard, if so listen up!
The goal of this episode is to reveal the red flags you’ll want to pay attention to so that you can see what mutual healthy respect for each other looks like. Tom and Lisa Bilyeu have been together more than 20 years and have gone through all of the ups and downs and have experienced many trials and errors in learning how to have a long lasting relationship and beautiful life long shared experience together built on trust, respect, and open communication.
So, if you’re not sure that your partner is respecting you, or it feels like you are both disagreeing at a fundamental level with no agreement in sight, it’s time to take notes on what may save your relationship or help you decide if it’s time to go.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Red Flags on Respect
0:40 | They Weaponize Your Insecurities
28:02 | They Don’t Work Through Conflict
1:04:05 | They Don’t Support Your Feelings
QUOTES:
“Manipulation is moving somebody to your advantage and influence is moving them to their advantage.” Tom Bilyeu [4:14]
“To be in a relationship and make that person feel better about themselves when they’re around you is to understand that leadership is fluid, and there are going to be times when I’m leading, there’s going to be times when you’re leading…” [9:08]
“When someone has a conflicting value with you they see the world in a way that you think is worse.” [30:01]
“When the other person is doing something nice for you, lavish them with praise for that…” [50:39]
“When you really think about what makes a couple powerful it’s the way that you shape each other's value system…” [1:06:43]
“In life you go through phases. Enjoy every phase for what it has to offer.” [1:17:59]
“Focusing on all these other things allows me to get my confidence in other places, so that as I just get older and older I’m not attached to that and I’m not feeling insecure about it.” Lisa Bilyeu [1:25:51]
“I don’t think just asking your partner to be sweet and kind and understanding is the answer to the long term solution.” Lisa Bilyeu [1:30:42]
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On Today's Episode:
Are you sensing a disconnection between you and your partner? Have you communicated to them your needs in a clear and reasonable way but they still aren’t being met? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to tackle what to do when, despite clear communication, your partner still isn’t putting in the extra effort to meet your needs. They discuss how to maintain a connection with your partner through texting, why respecting needs is critical in a relationship, how to negotiate so everyone’s needs are met, the feeling of guilt over not meeting your partner’s needs, and the power of honesty in a relationship.
SHOW NOTES:
Needs | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of clarity when communicating your needs. [0:43]
Leeway | Lisa and Tom share their texting habits during times of extended travel. [2:54]
Respect | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of having your needs respected. [5:35]
Negotiate | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should be willing to negotiate your needs. [7:29]
Guilt | Tom and Lisa discuss feeling guilt due to not meeting your partner’s needs. [7:57]
Honesty | Lisa and Tom discuss the power of brutal honesty in your relationship. [9:10]
Mindfulness | Lisa and Tom share how they came to terms with texting. [11:06]
QUOTES:
“The person who is refusing to send the text and is saying, “That’s stupid,” is making a critical error of judgement.” [2:09]
“If someone is saying, “That’s stupid,” right off the bat, they clearly aren’t respecting your wishes.” [6:02]
“Trying to give your partner what they want when you can, I think is pretty important.” [12:13]
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Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
On Today's Episode:
Let’s address the habits you have that are destroying the most important relationship in your life, and we’re not talking about the relationship with your significant other or your family either. It’s time to address the habits that are destroying your relationship with YOU!
As women, there are so many unconscious messages and programming taking place from the time we are toddlers till even now. It’s hard to solve a problem you can’t see exists, and in this episode Lisa is going to shine the light on a few habits you need to stop and put an end to today!
After watching this episode, you’re going to be careful when you choose to use the 3 letter word “yes”. You’ll be able to practice embracing the 2 letter word “no,” and you can start eliminating the 5 letter word of death, “sorry” from your vocabulary when it isn’t even necessary.
Grab your pen and paper, we’ve got work to do. Lisa is rolling out a grand plan for how to stop habits that are detrimental to your self-esteem, that devalue your self-care, and that put you last on your list of priorities (if you’re making it to the list at all).
Lisa Bilyeu is a successful entrepreneur, former housewife, all around badass and the best-sellling author of Radical Confidence. She’s about empowering women and sharing practical tips that allow you to get tactical with how you level up and channel your inner badass to become unstoppable!
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Habits to Stop Doing!
0:08 | Stop Saying Yes to Everyone!
6:13 | Stop People Pleasing
15:43 | Break the Nice Girl Expectation
23:45 | Don’t Get Walked Over
31:08 | Set Boundaries
45:02 | To Apologize Or Not To Apologize
QUOTES:
“Don’t say yes out of fear of saying no.” [3:22]
“Don’t just instinctually say yes to things and then regret them after, [...] because you want to be liked.” [5:56]
“I really did want to please them, but it became my own trap. It became the velvet handcuffs that I put on myself, and I chose to frickin’ throw away the key.” [9:55]
“When you go from being a people pleaser, and you want to change that into being the person that is proud of yourself, where you show up and please yourself first, that is going to cause maybe some friction…” [12:14]
“Read yourself your boundary rights because you have every frickin’ right to have them.” [31:10]
“We need to stop apologizing, and yet in the same tone, we need to always apologize.” [45:03]
“It can be detrimental to who you are by saying sorry to the things that aren’t your fault.” [49:10]
“When you say you’re sorry for choosing selfcare ahead of anything else, what do you think that subliminal message is saying to you?” [50:38]
Follow Lisa Bilyeu:
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Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
This episode was shot as part of Radical Confidence Live. For the full experience, check out this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/GwCiv96H2lg
On Today's Episode:
Does the thought of defending yourself sound empowering or frightening? If someone were to cross a physical boundary with you, do you feel prepared and capable of protecting your boundaries?
Safety is a primary concern when you are human, and it is even more of a concern when society isn’t doing the best job making you feel safe or capable of keeping yourself safe. Don’t dress that way and attract unwanted attention they say. Don’t walk alone late at night or early evenings they say. Often women are left feeling like the victim long before a crime or a siituation has occurred.
Eve Torres Gracie is a Self Defense expert and instructor at Gracie University of Gracie Jiu Jitsue. She’s opening the conversation with how the core lof self defense for women is to feel confident and to be able to enforce boundaries. Defending your boundaries and giving yourself permission to know that you are worth defending is key.
At this Rad Con Live event Lisa is joined by Celebrity Makeup Artist, Molly Roncal, Co-Founder of Bossbabes, Danielle Canty, Holistic Psychologist, Nicole LePera, and Self Defense Expert, Eve Torres Gracie. The conversation gets open and extremely vulnerable. Discussing aging and insecurities around beauty, scars, and self-worth isn’t easy to do openly, but as women we need to be able to have these conversations.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction Eve Torres Gracie
0:37 | Confidence to Set Boundaries
6:12 | Confidence to Save Yourself
11:23 | Get Tough As Hell
29:04 | Take Back Your Power
QUOTES:
“People will not set boundaries that they do not feel capable of enforcing.” Eve Torres Gracie [1:43]
“Radical confidence really is not about feeling amazing, [...] It’s knowing that you can get started without the confidence, that you can keep moving forward…” Lisa Bilyeu [5:34]
“When it comes to the moment we have to practice, start using our voice, or telling somebody no… that can be the challenge.” Eve Torres Garcie [8:35]
“Part of what it is is reestablishng that relationship with our intuition and with those moments of reprioritizing our safety over other people’s feelings.” Eve Torres Gracie [10:23]
“If we don’t feel safe, how can we feel confident.” Eve Torres Gracie [36:03]
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Love, trust, and the ever-growing connection between you and your partner. Are you focusing on these positive parts of your relationship, or are you letting anxiety, worry, and insecurity plant seeds of doubt and consume your mind? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters as they explore how to deal with insecurities, worry, and anxiety that stems from the possibility of your partner cheating. They discuss how to overcome such negative feelings, steps you can take to confront your own insecurity, the best parts of love, why someone might cheat, and how to become emotionally sober.
SHOW NOTES:
Anxiety | Lisa and Tom discuss overcoming feelings of anxiety due to fears of cheating. [0:32]
Insecure | Tom and Lisa discuss the steps you can take to deal with your insecurities. [2:26]
Constant Reconnection | Tom and Lisa discuss the best parts of what love is about. [3:42]
Why Someone Cheats | Lisa and Tom why cheating isn’t about looks. [6:06]
Emotionally Sober | Lisa shares the power of being emotionally sober and empowered. [8:11]
QUOTES:
“Insecurity is not sexy.” [2:37]
“The shared experience is what the game of love is about.” [3:42]
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Stop everything you’re doing and listen up! Not asking yourself the right questions keeps the best part of you hidden from the ones you love and even worse, it keeps you from you. Going through your days feeling stuck and somehow not even conscious of what’s wrong, or that something is wrong, or that there is a way better existence possible is not okay!
What will it take for you to stop walking through life ignoring messages meant to save you and start living more aware in the moment of your emotions, your needs, your wants and even better what you don’t want and need?
Jenna Kutcher is the host of Goal Digger, the podcast that delivers life struggles, reframes, clarity and value through the lens of a mom, entrepreneur and marketing guru. She’s taking this dive with Lisa to discuss her first book, How Are You Really, and get to the heart of what so many women are struggling to articulate.
Pause where you are right now, before you continue and think about where you will be in 5 years if you continue as you are today with no changes? Is this what you want for yourself? What needs to change for you to get excited and really look forward to a version of you 5 years out that is worth moving towards?
In this episode, grab the pen and paper, Jenna and Lisa are bringing hard questions we all need to be brave enough to really answer. From aligning with the future vision you have for yourself to creating space that allows creativity and curiosity, and dealing with burnout, Jenna is bringing sunshine to the reality of the emotions we all face.
Check out Jenna Kutcher's new book, How Are You Really: https://amzn.to/3O6QLdO
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Jenna Kutcher
0:50 | Stuck Avoiding The Hard Question
11:25 | The 1st Step To Finding Your Truth
18:10 | Inviting Self Change
22:28 | Talked Out Of Your Feelings
29:16 | Motherhood, “Shoulds” & Balance
36:47 | Breakthrough Burnout With This
42:27 | Boundaries Are the Hero
51:23 | It’s Okay to Change Your Mind
QUOTES:
“The universe, our intuition, maybe a friend, our bodies are all trying to get through to us, but we just keep on, [...] We keep on doing all these things and we ignore all of these messages.” [8:28]
“If the answer is that ‘I’m not okay,’ then I’ve got to face that, and I think we’re afraid to face it.” [10:17]
“I learn better through what’s not for me than understanding what is for me.” [15:51]
“We get so overwhelmed by these big visions that we let our procrastination turn into paralyzation.” [17:45]
“If I look back on my decade of entrepreneurship, the biggest times that I had the greatest evolutions or breakthroughs were the times I gave myself margin and space, like time to think.” [21:48]
“Sometimes we need to remember how to smell the flowers and blow out the candles so that we can just sit in our feelings without trying to push them or get past them or move through them too quickly.” [24:45]
“I feel stretched thin because of the fullness of life. Nothing is bad and nothing is broken and nothing is wrong, but life is full, and I don’t know if I can always carry that.” [27:28]
“Joy and gratitude can exist with challenge.” [32:44]
“I have learned the exact opposite that boundaries keep me in my life , they keep me in the moment, they keep me in alignment, they keep me living in integrity.” [43:29]
“We’ve gotta strike while the iron is hot. Well the iron is hot when you turn it on friend!” [47:34]
“We all forget, we have our own microscope up to our own lives. Everyone is also head down in their own life, no one is paying that close of attention.” [58:41]
“To me there is no greater compliment than someone saying, you changed.” [59:58]
Follow Jenna Kutcher:
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Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
On Today's Episode:
Regardless of where you are located, your educational background, or your financial situation, we tend to have similar emotional and personal struggles, yet feel so isolated and alone dealing with them. Everyday stress and avoidant behaviors and habits leave you fearful, disappointed, and lacking enough significance in your own life to even prioritize YOU!
Marissa Peer’s mission is to help people realize there are simple, rapid and effective techniques that can change life for the better. She is sharing these tactics here with Lisa and with you to understand the power that your words and thoughts have over your life.
Put an end to your self-destructive behaviors and habits, get to the root of the feelings sabotaging you, and start telling yourself a better lie.
“Thoughts dictate feelings, your feelings dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your events.” Marisa Peer
Check out Marisa Peer’s latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie: https://amzn.to/39U2M7w
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Marissa Peer
0:25 | Control Your Thoughts, Not Your Feelings
23:29 | Start Practicing This!
42:49 | Find What Lies Beneath
59:23 | Bonus: Stop Feeling Trapped
QUOTES:
“When you can take control of your thoughts you really can make your life extraordinary.” [5:47]
“If you’re not meeting your child’s needs for significance and safety, and being proud of them, then you haven’t really succeeded.” [10:57]
“You may as well tell yourself amazing stuff because it’s very likely to become real.” [15:50]
“If you can just like yourself you’ll never feel rejected, ever.” [23:21]
“Responsibility means an ability to respond.” [25:44]
“Just decide, I don’t have to let this in, it's her belief, it doesn’t have to be mine. It’s not easy being with people who are super negative, but you can just drown it out. You have a choice.” [27:09]
“Your words form and shape your reality. If you don’t like your reality, before you try to change, try to change the words that are shaping it because that will change your reality.” [41:29]
“Your mind is the genie, your wish is its command.” [51:17]
Follow Marisa Peer:
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Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
On today's Episode:
Change is “wildly complex!” It’s exciting, it’s inspiring, it’s also nerve wrecking, anxiety inducing and scary as hell. Some people do extremely well with change while others have meltdowns and can barely handle the stress of change.
The thing we’re diving into in this episode is not just the external side of dealing with change, but the internal state of change. Whether you’re moving, taking a new job, ending a relationship, dealing with the loss of a loved one, or trying to adapt with polarized political wins and losses, your identity is being challenged at the core of everything.
Maya Shankar is the host and executive producer of, Slight Change of Plans, a podcast about, “who we are and who we become in the face of a big change.” She is a former violinist that was accepted into Julliard who underwent a massive change of identity. Maya later found herself leading as the founder and lead of the White House Behavioral Science Team under President Barack Obama.
Let’s talk about the tactics you need to let go of the identity you’re holding onto in the face of life’s major changes. As Maya points out, some of the changes you experience are willing and others are unwilling changes, but in both cases the value is placed on detaching your identity from the pursuit of a specific thing, and deciding on purpose who you are in the face of change.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Maya Shankar
0:25 | How Change Threatens Your Identity
10:32 | Grieving The Loss of Identity
27:02 | Recreate Habits for a New Identity
39:20 | Find Meaning In Suffering
QUOTES:
“In that moment, I was grieving the loss of the instrument, but actually in many ways I was grieving the loss of a huge part of myself…” [3:01]
“If you can identify the things that make you happy about the things you do, and more strongly attach yourself to those things rather than the things itself, it’s going to give you a more stable self-identity as you move through a world that will inevitably change.” [8:49]
“Sometimes the labels or the roles that we want to occupy, or the traits that we want to embody like independence, we might want to revisit from time to time to make sure that our working mode of what that thing ought to mean really aligns with our values and our long term goals.” [24:30]
“Change is wildly complex, and you not only lack control over how you might respond to all those internal changes that are happening, but you don’t control how other people will respond differently to you…” [30:39]
Follow Maya Shankar:
Website: https://mayashankar.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/MayaUmaShankar
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Podcast: https://mayashankar.com/podcast
Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
Is being an independent woman about the way you dress? Is it about how others see you or feel threatened by you? Of course not! Those may be small factors in a much bigger picture, but being an independent woman is more internal than external.
Are you thinking for yourself and putting yourself and your dreams first or allowing yourself to prioritize everyone else? When we start to do internal work, we begin to understand ourselves on a much deeper level. Doing so allows you to find confidence and let go of the insecurities and doubts that may have forced you to play small in the past, but those days are gone.
Are you ready to start doing for yourself what you’ve been doing for everyone else and flourish?
From managing your finances and opportunities to ditching your shame and making friends out of the inner b*tch that reminds you of every time you’ve messed up and what you’ll likely get wrong again, this episode is packed with a few of the most badass independent women and independent women supporters around.
What does being an independent woman look like for you?
Our guests on this episode include:
Mel Robbins is a motivational speaker, television host, and the author of The 5 Second Rule and The High 5 Habit. She went from being a criminal defense attorney to one of the most inspirational and motivational speakers and public figures around.
Patrice Washington is known as the Wisdom & Wealth Money Maven. She founded Seek Wisdom Find Wealth. She’s empowering money to develop better money habits, taking women from debt management to money mastery.
Cyntia Pasquella-Garcia is the Modern-Day Coach that helps people become self-made. She’s inspiring women to rewrite their story by being the example. She’s no stranger to struggle and is expert at helping people ditch their shame and stop apologizing.
Tom Bilyeu co-founded a billion-dollar brand Quest Nutrition and is the co-founder and other half of Impact Theory alongside his totally badass wife, Lisa Bilyeu. His mission is pulling people out of the matrix to realize that human potential is nearly limitless.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Independent Women
0:10 | Find & Pursue Your Dreams
18:44 | Become Your Best Self
42:42 | Don’t Be a Victim
1:06:28 | If He’s Threatened By Your Independence
QUOTES:
“If you’ve ever wanted something deeply, it doesn’t leave you, it gets stored in the subconscious part of your mind waiting for you to remember that it’s there, and to get to work on it.’ Mel Robbins [2:23]
“We not only don't give ourselves support and celebration, we do the opposite. We tear ourselves down, and we beat ourselves up, and we pick ourselves apart.” Mel Robbins [8:00]
“We rationalize a lot when it comes to our finances, and to me that means ration out lies, we like to lie to ourselves.” Patrice Washington [28:21]
“I believe that what you verbalize, you magnify in your own life, and the more you talk about something, the bigger it becomes to you…” Patrice Washington [29:37]
“I think that what’s going on is they don’t feel their worth doing it.” Cynthia Pasquella-Garcia [53:39]
“We don’t always allow people to be who they need to be. Instead, we try to bring them along on this journey that they’re not even trying to be on but they think they should be on, and then we set them up for failure.” Cynthia Pasquella-Garcia [1:00:49]
“‘Feel good’ is an angle people need to look at instead of us writing everything off as insecurity.” Tom Bilyeu [1:14:39]
Follow Mel Robbins:
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Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
Once upon a time someone started telling stories about falling in love, being swept off your feet and feeling butterflies in your stomach was a sign this person must be the one. How many of you have honestly deceived yourself trusting those butterflies? What if we told you, those butterflies didn’t mean love and connection, but they are actually a red flag to pay attention to?
Looking for physical and chemical attraction from kiss and the smell of your date may be more reliable than trusting butterflies, but relationship expert and sex guru, Dr. Laura Berman is revealing exactly why you have to practice being self-aware first so you can be more careful of the traps we’re putting ourselves into.
This is the episode you’ve been waiting for. It’s time to sit with yourself and think about how you can start opening the door to the basement of shame. Being clear about what you want is only possible when you’ve taken the time to know yourself and understand why the relationships you thought were great end up feeling like familiar anxiety, distrust, and old trauma wounds.
“The pain of being in the relationship has to be greater than your fear of leaving it, or you’re not going to leave.” Dr. Laura Berman
Healthy relationships, healthy boundaries, self-love, and healing are goals worth pursuing for the radically confident woman.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Dr Laura Berman
0:22 | Feeling Butterflies Is A Warning 2.15
9:07 | Why Your Stuck & Not Moving On
14:56 | The Gifts & Strategies of Your Shame
20:08 | What Feeling Are You After?
29:44 | Frequency of Painful Relationships
38:57 | The Sex Romance Stale Mate
49:30 | Sexual Exploration and Connection
QUOTES:
“More often than not, when we feel like we’ve known someone in that way, [...] ‘He feels so familiar to me, or she feels like I’ve known her my whole life’, that’s because they are embodying your wounds.” [0:50]
“We fall in lust at first sight, we don’t fall in love. We fall in love at first insight, and it feels like peace.” [1:23]
“What we’re taught to do in this society is to work around our gut, not listen to it.” [8:57]
“Anytime you’re stuck in resistance and not being able to get over someone, it’s rarely about them.” [10:03]
“Once it’s exposed to the light, shame almost always evaporates.” [14:03]
“All of these wounds and the way that we respond to them is how we survive our childhood, and they all have gifts.” [19:00]
“Look for those opportunities just to be in the energy of those feelings you most want to feel as much as possible.” [24:43]
“Any boundary you don’t set is out of fear: fear of consequences, fear of abandonment, fear of judgment.” [36:51]
“Most women in a long term relationship, [...] don’t have a ton of spontaneous horniness. They are inspired to be sexual…” [41:09]
“Women are like a slow-burning stove, men are like a microwave oven.” [43:27]
“She doesn’t understand that her not being sexually available for a man that has a healthy libido is like him being unwilling to ask you about your day or hold your hand.” [45:57]
“You have to practice, you have to really get into the experience through self-stimulation, and self-reverence and self-exploration, of really claiming your own sexual experience for, by and with yourself.” [50:44]
Follow Dr. Laura Berman:
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Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
The number of us who have been in (or are possibly still in) relationships where you don’t even recognize that you’re being manipulated is astounding. Unhealthy relationships have a way of starting off “normal.” You go from being showered with gifts and attention everyday to barely feeling seen or heard at all sometimes without even noticing.
Nedra Glover Tawwab is practically a queen of boundaries She’s a therapist, relationship expert and the author of, "Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself". She’s been a guest on Women of Impact multiple times, sharing practical tips and solutions for setting boundaries, being assertive and learning how to recognize when you are in an unhealthy relationship and being gaslit.
If you’ve been questioning your sanity after every argument, if you find yourself apologizing to your partner or people you have a relationship with even when you know you’re not to blame, it’s time to put an end to these unhealthy behaviors, set boundaries and find strength in you peace of mind.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction Nedra Glover Tawwab
0:13 | Look for These Signs!
19:00 | How to Set Boundaries
36:49 | Be Assertive & Know Your Value
49:58 | Take Control Today
QUOTES:
“When you apologize and sometimes you don’t even really mean it, you’re just using it as a peace offering, [...] it is a betrayal of self because nothing has been improved…” [4:19]
“Anytime you’re apologizing to keep the peace, that’s not an authentic apology.“ [5:21]
“Arguing is a choice, [...] I will not argue with you about something being my fault when I know it wasn’t.” [11:01]
“When we find ourselves ruminating and talking about those things that are troubling and problematic, that is an indicator that we are having an issue with something.” [19:44]
“You can’t change another person’s behavior. The best boundaries are the boundaries that we set with ourselves with other people.” [28:35]
“Conflict is a growth tool.” [44:36]
“It has to be okay for us to have some limits around when we’re able to talk about certain topics.” [54:46]
“We’ve had so many boundaries put on us by other people, it is okay for us to have a few.” [1:00:40]
Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab:
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Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
Show Notes:
Comparison doesn’t sound super threatening. It’s easy to tell someone to stop comparing yourself to others. It’s even easier (and cheesier - although true) to say, comparison is the thief of joy. Who really wants to be reminded of that when they;re looking at the mess or their best next to someone else.
The scary thing about comparison is the connection it has to low self-esteem, depression, and mental health issues. Not everyone copes with comparison the same and it can really affect yur quality of life and the quality of your relationships.
Melissa Ambrosini is a best-selling author, “queen of mastering your mean girl,” dancer and former actress. She’s learned how to work with your inner critic and allow the energy of your emotions to go through you instead of fighting and suppressing them.
Lisa is speaking with Melissa to understand how comparison is a disease that impacts self worth. As important as relationships are to us all, whether you admit it or not, accepting that the relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll have in your lifetime.
Regardless of the trauma you’ve experienced in your childhood, awareness about what you’re saying to yourself about yourself is critical, and so is the story you’ve been carrying with you since then. Melissa wants to remind you to embrace your uniqueness and know that you are the best in the world at being you.
Melissa’s 4 Steps to Feeling ACE!
A - awareness
C - choosing a different path
E - eliminate exit or exhale
S - shift your state
“Make no mistake, comparisonitis is a toxic disease that’s eating us up and spitting us out leaving paralyzed with fear, crippled with guilt, and our confidence in tatters” - Melissa Ambrosini
Get Melissa’s new book, Comparisonitis: https://amzn.to/3Q0Nfn4
Lisa’s episode on the Melissa Ambrosini Show: https://bit.ly/3Q4MGZj
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Melissa Ambrosini
0:38 | Body Comparison Tearing Us Apart
7:40 | Careful What You Say to Yourself
11:34 | 4 Steps To Feel ACE
18:21 | Not Getting What You Want
26:05 | How to Park Your Emotions
35:12 | Use Self Sabotage As Fuel
41:34 | Stop Rejecting Your Emotions
50:53 | External Validation
QUOTES:
“Every ‘no’ that I got along my journey slowly chipped away at my self-confidence and my worth.” [2:54]
“It’s really sad that we tear ourselves apart, that we pick apart every single freckle, bump, blemish on our body, [...] and our children are watching.” [5:18]
“You’ve only got two options. You go down the comparison where you beat yourself up or you go down the other one which is inspiring and motivating.” [16:41]
“Relationships are so important, and so many of them get fractured because we’re not practicing crystal clear communication. It is imperative, not only with others, but with ourselves.” [34:46]
“Self-sabotage is a big area that a lot of people struggle with and it doesn’t have to be your reality. You can use the inspiration from other people as fuel to propel you forward.” [36:48]
“My default was lack, but lack is so boring, and that default caused me a lot of suffering that I chose a different path.” [37:37]
“Anytime we try and stop something or push it under the carpet eventually it’s going to be like a volcano and it’s going to erupt and explode so it’s really important that we feel whatever it is that is coming up for us.” [43:15]
“Lean more towards the relationships that light you up, [...] and walk away from the ones that don’t. That is how you create the life of your dreams…” [46:40]
“Parenting is personal development. It gets you to look within at every action and every word you say.” [53:58]
Follow Melissa Ambrosini:
Website: https://melissaambrosini.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoUydVMx0tYz4NU5bx8ifXQ
Twitter: https://twitter.com/mel_ambrosini
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissaambrosini/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MelissaAmbrosiniTribe/
Podcast: https://melissaambrosini.com/podcast/
Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
This episode was shot as part of Radical Confidence Live. For the full experience, check out this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/DhrQsPIwWHU
When you think of makeup what comes to mind ?
Are you excited and ready to contour and beat your face to the gods? Do you feel like it takes away and diminishes the natural beauty of a woman? Or do you see women in makeup and feel critical, like she must be hiding something, she’s being phony or superficial?
When it comes to being confident, looks do matter, but maybe not for the reason you think. Mally Roncal is an entrepreneur and celeb makeup artist that exudes levels of confidence and beauty anyone would want. She touches on why embracing what makes you different, what makes you unique, and sometimes what makes you feel the most uncomfortable is a power only you can harness.
There is a connection between our inner beauty and the physical. You are not defined by one or the other, and there is no shame in celebrating yourself the way that makes you feel most confident.
Beauty isn’t about other people, it’s about you and feeling good and dressing up and highlighting your beauty in the way you choose to feel and look your best.
At this Rad Con Live event Lisa is joined by incredibly confident and strong women such as Danielle Canty of Bossbabes, Nicole LePera, and Eve Torres Gracie from Gracie Jiu Jitsu. The conversation gets open and extremely vulnerable. Discussing aging and insecurities around beauty, scars, and self-worth isn’t easy to do openly, but as women we need to be able to have these conversations.
If you struggle with your appearance or catch yourself judging yourself and other women for the choices they make and don’t make in relation to beauty and living above the standards, this is a must watch!
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction Mally Roncal
0:19 | Badass Inside and Out
4:13 | Embracing Your Differences
11:43 | Be Your Own Beautiful
28:02 | Ditch Your Inner Critic
QUOTES:
“It can be your power. We don’t have to think of it as self hate, for wanting to look good, for wanting to feel like you can go out there and empower yourself by looking in the mirror.” Mally Roncal [3:23]
“Finding a new relationship with makeup, and finding a new relationship with my face as it changes, and learning to do that with grace and appreciation is a journey.” Eve Torres Gracie [30:27]
‘Scars are the fact that you made it through something, [...] today I’m going to cover that because I feel like it, and today I’m not, and that’s okay too!” Mally Roncal [34:01]
“Beauty is not for him or her or them, it’s for yourself.” Mally Roncal [36:28]
“That's what love is, acceptance. It is the space to be exactly as we are in whatever moment that is.” Nicole LePera [38:43]
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Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
Very few things in life may be as difficult as being part of a thriving, healthy and happy long term relationship with the love of your life. Finding the love of your life can feel next to impossible. Even worse, feeling lost in the relationship between the responsibilities, work, and stress you both have to manage.
When you’re in healthy, loving relationships you deserve to feel seen by you partner, but first you must learn how to select the right partner for you.
Today I’m answering your questions and giving you tools you’ll need in your empowerment kit to be confident in how you show up in your relationship. This is about setting you up for success so that you learn how to set your partner up for success and for a long loving relationship.
I can promise you this is no easy work. By learning about yourself, new strategies to try in your relationship, and how to give each other the grace to be human, you can turn your relationship around and set each other on fire for a beautiful life together.
6 Tips To Surviving Each Other’s Transitions:
How you feel
What makes you unhappy
Share what makes you feel fulfilled and why
Ask for your partner’s support on your new direction
Mark and celebrate the transition together,
Give your partner space to
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction Relationship Q&A
0:27 | Finding a Life Partner
4:09 | Is It Time To Walk Away?
11:02 | Qualities of a Good Partner
16:48 | If You’ve Grown Apart
24:38 | Are You Ready for Marriage?
31:07 | Take It To The Next Step
36:54 | Keep the Fire Burning
QUOTES:
“Set your partner up for success in what is about to happen. Be open to listening to them just like you want them to be open to listening to you.” [6:43]
“He’s coming along the journey with me even though it's difficult, even though it’s not the path he’s currently walking, we did it together [23:31]
“I think we focus on the wrong things. I think we need to focus on, do I trust them? Do I align well with them? Do they accept me…? [27:15]
“Come back to how your instincts were when they responded…assess how your gut responded to it.” [33:53]
“I just know as long as we’re always still trying. Sometimes it’s going to be a roaring bonfire and other times you’re going to be these little flames in order to try to make it fire more.” [37:29]
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Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
Meeting someone new that gives you all the right feels is tough. Once you’ve met that someone and that new relationship energy has you drunk in love and intoxicated with hormones, you blink and a year or two have passed and now you’re sobering up… uh oh!
How do you make relationships work when all you know and can relate is what and how you feel, what you want, and what’s best for you to be happier here?
Licensed therapist, Spirit breaks down why compatibility is more important than chemistry, ways to get pass the representative when you’re dating, and how to start coming to agreements once you’re in the relationship.
Your relationship is different from you and your partner. Spirit reveals how your relationship is its own entity that both partners are committed and invested in caring for.
Understanding how to respect and govern yourselves as two individuals while finding your way to the middle out of love and desire to be together, is tricky, it’s not easy, but there is a science to it that can be applied. It will change everything for you, but only if you put any ONE of these strategies into practice.
Spirit’s reminder about the love you want in you relationship:
Acknowledge there’s a problem
Be honest with your partner
Reinvigorate the relationship
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Spirit
0:15 | Stop Looking for Chemistry
6:53 | Avoid Relationship Splinters
14:00 | Set Proper Boundaries
23:57 | Grow From Forgiveness
32:19 | How to Make Love last
41:54 | Feelings, Thoughts, and Behaviors
QUOTES:
“People are afraid as chemistry changes. They’re afraid and they mistake the chemistry changing for them falling out of love.” [2:39]
“We need to see them in different environments and then compare do they actually appear to be who they say that they are over time.” [9:21]
“If you really want to know who somebody is divorce them, or break up with them. Many people learn way more about a person at the end of a relationship than they did in the entire relationship.” [11:37]
“I can forgive you and accept that has happened to me and move on for my own healing and still put up appropriate boundaries or barriers that says, I choose to no longer engage you.’” [15:29]
“People want immediate forgiveness, they don't want forgiveness that is part of a process to healing.”[16:53]
“The key is not to forget but to pay attention to how it makes us feel, and if we’re still holding on to negative energy about a thing then that means that we need to heal it.” [24:21]
Every relationship has scars. Scars are okay because scars are the testimony to what you survived. [...] Open wounds though over time will fester, will become toxic, and that will kill a relationship.” [24:35]
“A compromise is where everybody comes to the table and everybody gets up winning or getting something that they wanted, but no one person is 100% happy. Because if I win and you lose, then our relationship loses.” [27:23]
“The relationship is its own living breathing entity, and it’s up to the two of you to constantly work together in partnership to resolve the problems in your relationship.” [33:26]
“You are not the problem and your partner is not the problem. The problems are not the problem, and it’s up to the two of you to work together as a team to solve the problems.” [33:38]
“Everything starts with us as the individual and then radiates outward.” [38:42]
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It is beyond disheartening that it’s believed that 90% of sexual abuse victims never say a word about their abuse to anyone. According to NAASCA.org, 50-60 million American adults have been sexually abused in their childhood.
Unfortunately, the emotional trauma inflicted upon us as children doesn’t magically disappear. If you or someone you know has been a victim of childhood abuse, or any kind of abuse, our hearts are with you. If you are here, hopefully it means that you are on a journey seeking healing and ready to claim your power.
Anne Heche is an Emmy Award winning actress that has been in more movies that we can name such as Donnie Brasco, I Know What You Did Last Summer, and even Dancing with the Stars! She’s brave, she’s bold, and so beautiful. She’s also a woman that learned to stand up and tell her truth, live her truth and take back her power from the abusive and traumatic childhood she experienced.
In the conversation with Lisa, Anne shares the wisdom and hard lessons she’s learned from getting up and taking responsibility and taking action on the things that gave her the power she needed to reclaim her life and start loving herself. Her open, raw, powerful display of what it means to find your worth, love hard, and release the pain that was pushed on her at a young age may be the thing to hear today.
Anne’s mantra: You are not your abuse
Anne’s Power Questions to Get to the Other Side:
Am I worthy of taking responsibility for myself?
Do I value me enough to take care of me today?
SHOW NOTES:
Rejecting Self | How Anne found power of telling her truth through her father [1:02]
Covered Reality | Anne explains the trap of going with what you know and telling truth [3:44]
Seeing A New Path | Anne reveals how she thought her way out of the lies and abuse [6:38]
First Step in Fear | Anne on how she took action and activated her power in self-love [10:17]
Demonstrating Love | Why defining what love looks like for different people is needed [13:13]
Being Validated | Anne on how she decided to show up after coming out in her truth [16:18]
Power Over Abuse | Anne’s secret to taking power over the abuse you experienced [22:06]
Power Questions | Anne’s two powerful questions to get you to the other side of abuse [27:28]
QUOTES:
“When you look back at somebody’s life, it makes absolutely 100% sense how they are and who they become cause you can look at their journey…” [3:10]
“Go with what you know is habit, and also going with what you know has covered your reality so you become whatever it is that you’ve had to manufacture to make what you know make any sense at all.” [3:54]
“Activating our curiosity enough to pause before hating ourselves so much that we dive deeper into our insecurities…” [17:02]
“I asked myself if I really didn't commit to the truth, or if I was a lying sack of shit and wanted to join the crowd.” [20:06]
“You have to get 100% clear on your story about what happened and who belongs to the pain of it and who belongs to the heart of it and the love of it, [...] You are the heart and the abuse belongs to somebody.” [23:02]
“Responsibility is about beginning the story in the morning with yourself, and asking yourself if you want to take responsibility for where you want to be…” [26:06]
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Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
One of the hardest things to accept as an adult is that many of the beliefs you have about yourself and the world you live in were developed from a childhood where you didn’t know any better and you weren’t equipped with the resources or capacity to process the complexities of life happening all around you.
Those experiences helped you shape the story you tell yourself today. Whether the story is good or bad is irrelevant considering that chances are the story isn’t even accurate or factual.
Marissa Peer is not just a best-selling author, she is a trained hypnotherapist that created Rapid Transformational Therapy, or RTT. She joins Lisa here to discuss the ideas from her latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie. Her tips and strategies are powerful to rewrite your story and create a narrative that gives you meaning, fulfillment and more happiness.
Check out Marissa Peer’s latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie: https://amzn.to/39U2M7w
SHOW NOTES:
RFPI Illness | The unconscious role, function, purpose and intent of illness [1:06]
OCD Control | Marissa shares about an OCD patient’s illness rooted in control [5:55]
Uncover The Root | Uncovering when and why trauma starts helps to identify the cause [10:14]
Choose for Yourself | Helping people see their normalized behaviors on their own [17:07]
Change Isn’t Hard | Choosing the unfamiliar over what’s familiar and comfortable [22:49]
Be Enough | How you go from thinking it, to saying it, to actually feeling it’s true [27:19]
Lie to Yourself | Marissa on why the lies you tell yourself are super powerful [30:39]
Be Flaw-some | How you are a flawed person in a flawed relationship, be proud [36:20]
Stressed Eating | Examining how you are hardwired and being accepted or not accepted [38:27]
Self Sabotaging | Why people self destruct because they don’t feel self-worth [43:53]
Feel Your Emotions | Marissa on why allowing yourself to feel all emotions is good [47:20]
Outcome of Beliefs | Words shape your reality and that’s controlled by your thoughts [51:03]
QUOTES:
““When you think a thought a lot, it’s not a thought. It’s a direct request to the mind.” [3:26]
“That’s the saddest thing for children when they don't get love and care. When their needs aren’t met, they don’t stop loving the parent, they stop loving themselves immediately, and often permanently.” [11:47]
“When the mind starts to look for what’s the same, it finds it. But if you look for what’s different you find that too.” [15:04]
“You can make anything familiar with a little bit of persistence, [...] I have chosen to make this familiar, I have chosen to feel great about it.” [25:15]
“If you didn’t have love, or success, or joy or wealth, that’s a shame, but you can go out and get it.” [29:33]
“Nobody gets away without pain, but it’s what do you do with the pain.” [36:08]
“The minute you fall in love with you, your world will change so dramatically.” [52:48]
Follow Marissa Peer:
Website: https://marisapeer.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarisaPeer
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGb0bBp7bTQBHLlyAfNV-Fg
Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
The term narcissist gets thrown around a lot to the misfortune of people who are not actually narcissistic. Toxicity, emotional, mental, and verbal abuse are clear common markers of narcissistic behavior. Hopefully, you’re not in a relationship with a narcissistic person, but perhaps you’ve recently left a toxic situation and still feel lost, confused and uncertain how to handle the narcissist in your life.
Dr. Ramani doesn’t mince words when it comes to dealing with narcissists. The depth of knowledge she has from working with victims of narcissism is mind-blowing. In this episode we’ve packed some of the best advice Dr. Ramani has shared with Lisa on Women of Impact so you can take notes and the cycle of abuse and start healing.
If you’ve managed to avoid relationships with narcissists to this point, we’re cheering for you. We want you to be safe and be aware of the red fags many people miss until it’s too far gone.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Dr. Ramani
0:09 | Look for These Red Flags
26:02 | They Weaponize Vulnerabilities
47:48 | 6 Types of Narcissists
1:04:44 | Red Flags in Conversation
1:15:15 | How to Heal & Detox
1:37:06 | Break the Trauma Bond
1:52:15 | How to Leave a Narcissist
QUOTES:
“Once you’ve communicated something about three times, and it has been dishonored, devalued, not listened to, or validated, that’s it! You're done…” [3:29]
“Charisma is a tricky pattern, because we always assume, that it's a good thing and I think people have to be discerning about charisma.” [15:12]
“We're literally more protective of the password we have for some game on our computer, then we are with the most sacred parts of our psyche.” [27:02]
“There's a short list of reasons people stay in their relationships, hope, fear, guilt, and lack of information.” [40:48]
“Secure, people don't lash out at other people, [...] they know they're not always going to get it right. They're not always trying to overcompensate, they apologize when they are wrong.” [52:18]
“this is it. This is who this person is. You stay. And this is how it is” [1:04:40]
“It's not just about the trust of the other. It's about that you have the right to set a boundary. And that's about trusting yourself. “ [1:36:30]
“The primary motivations of these difficult relationships are that the narcissistic or difficult person wants power. They want control. They want everything for their own pleasure, their own needs.” [1:51:19]
“There’s no such thing as failing at healing. If you’re getting out of bed in the morning, even if you’re slow and even if it’s later than you want, you’re healing because you had the courage to face down another day.” [1:54:03]
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What up homie! If you're struggling to find purpose and strength to achieve your frikin' dreams, join me and 5 other world-leading experts this Saturday May 14th at RADCON Live to learn how to become Radically Confident in all areas of your life! Registration is free at radconlive.com - see you there!
Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
Confidence is something too many of us struggle with. Tragically, lack of confidence impacts the quality of life for many of us, and the lack of confidence isn’t necessarily a reflection of the things you have and don’t have. It’s internal, it’s personal, and it’s self reflective of how you feel about yourself.
The great news is that you can give your confidence a major boost. Being confident today is an ongoing process, and Lisa is stepping into her Bad B*itch Boots to get vulnerable and share with you the hard road to Radical Confidence.
Admittedly, it’s been a heck of a rollercoaster ride. There is pain, tears, many fears, and stages of denial along the way that Lisa not only had to overcome, but that she admits to still working on even still! In this special episode, Lisa is reading passages from her first book, Radical Confidence and giving you the lowdown on how to start taking charge and changing your life today.
It’s time to stop living in denial about the reality of the life you’re living, and it’s time to start dealing with the negative thoughts, and Dream Killing mentality that has you living in a mundane existence. Lisa’s experiences are not only totally relatable, but they are an inspiration of how you can take small planned incremental steps toward confidence and showing up for yourself today!
Lisa’s 3 Dream Killers to Look Out For:
Dismissing your own Happiness
Not defining the Dream or Goal
No Deadline on the Dream
Lisa’s 5 Tips for Negative Thoughts:
Observe your thoughts
Identify the patterns
Put your thoughts on trial
Allow the negative thoughts to fuel you
Deal with your negative thoughts
Practice! Practice! Practice!
SHOW NOTES:
Part 1 | You Can Change Your Life [0:46]
Outside Perspective of Your Reality [7:04]
Dream Killers | Lisa’s 3 Dream Killers [10:17]
Part 2 | You Can Figure Sh*t Out [12:24]
Journey to Becoming the Entrepreneur [15:37]
4 Tips for Your Negative Thoughts [19:12]
Part 3 | You Can Boost Your Confidence [24:27]
Lisa’s Confidence Boosters [31:30]
Vanessa’s Event Tips for Confidence [34:37]
Boost Your Confidence in Style [41:02]
QUOTES:
“We don’t let our dreams die by chance. They aren’t taken away from us. We’re not unlucky, it’s a choice.” [0:52]
“You can be over the top freaking grateful for what you have and you can be madly in love with parts of your life, and be utterly miserable in others.” [1:51]
“Sometimes you need a slap in the face for us to actually see the reality. We really cannot see ourselves the way other people see us.” [5:48]
“Just like I made small, tiny choices every single day to be stuck, I actually could make small tiny choices in the opposite direction to get myself out.” [10:03]
“I started to see that I don't know, was nothing more than an excuse. If I didn't know how to do something, then I had to get radically confident and bloody learn, period.” [12:54]
“I had to overcome the obstacles [...] I had to show up every single freaking day and face my inadequacies...” [14:21]
“There is no moment where there's no negative voice, there is no moment where you're not going to need courage, but that you can always have radical confidence.” Tom Bilyeu [19:01]
“We don't want confidence just for the sake of feeling confident. We want to be confident that we can go out and kick ass…” [24:43]
Follow Lisa Bilyeu:
Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/
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Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
Have you ever set out for a get together, family dinner, or a company meeting thinking, ‘I hope no one here likes me.’ Of course not! Though some of us have a harder time admitting to it, we all want to be liked. No one sets a goal to show at the next social event feeling awkward and unaccepted and not liked.
As social beings, our nature drives us toward being social, but our awkwardness drives us to feel (and sometimes live) like social outcasts. Vanessa Van Edwards, professional behavioral scientist and queen of the recovering awkward people, is no stranger to the show.
We’re bringing some of Vanessa’s best highlights with tips and tricks to help you put your social anxiety to rest, and walk into the next event feeling confident and capable. By following her strategies to up your likability and knowing how to unapologetically say no, you can become a recovering awkward person too.
Vanessa’s 3 Keys to Saying No:
Offer something nice to say
Do not offer a reason
Offer an alternative plan or idea (only if you want to, no obligation)
SHOW NOTES:
The Secret of Being Liked [0:08]
It’s Okay to Say No, This Is How [10:54]
Boost Confidence & Charisma [22:34]
Deal with Awkwardness [43:59]
Be More Likable Online [58:30]
QUOTES:
“You are in control of how many people like you because you like the most other people.” [2:57]
“Saying no is a skill. It’s a skill that as women as men, we have to hone that skill, and we have to get good at it.” [12:56]
“If you give a reason, it invites someone to question your reason.” [13:41]
“Most emotions fade quickly [...] but contempt sits and it festers.” [43:16]
“If you’re setting yourself up to be fake, it’s almost impossible for you to get into authentic, real, deep connecting discussions and relationships because you’ve primed yourself for it.” [50:45]
“I decided to put my awkwardness forward, [...] I don't want you to fake it til you make it. I want you to show up anxious and awkward and learn how to use it.” [57:07]
Follow Vanessa Van Edwards:
Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/
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Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/
Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!
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Matthew Hussey is a great relationship expert with solid advice. “How a person is making you feel is more important than how you feel about them,” is just one tiny piece of his advice that will surely challenge the perspective you have of your current and former relationships. It’s not easy putting yourself out there, being vulnerable and open to the possibilities of a new relationship when you're barely navigating the signs of how into you this person is, and what to do with the off comment he or she made over dinner you didn’t like.
Matthew rejoins Lisa with no shortage of knowledge. If you’ve been stuck trying to figure out if you’re in love or in lust with your current partner, this episode will help open your eyes and consider angels of your relationship you haven’t considered.
SHOW NOTES:
Love or Lust | Examining the differences between the two and if love at first sight it real [0:40]
Defining Love | Knowing what love means to not be victim of being lavished with attention [5:23]
Be Intentional | Matthew shares how to be intentional and communicate what you want [12:01]
Value Consistency | How love values consistency but it needs to be communicated [16:26]
Bedazzled | Matthew exposes truth on why average days matter more than 5% dazzling [19:33]
How He Makes You Feel | Why how he makes you feel is the reality of the relationship [24:28]
He’s Not All Bad | How someone can be bad for you and not inherently bad as a person [28:10]
Different Person | The person you break up with isn’t the same person you started dating [33:03]
Address Issues | Ignoring issues becomes inevitable problems, confront the hard topics [37:45]
Trust Yourself | Ways to take comfort in trusting yourself even if you’ve been wronged [48:10]
Putting Yourself Out There | Matthew shares 2 easy steps to putting yourself out there [55:36]
Breaking Beliefs | Secret to breaking existing beliefs that keeps you from happiness [1:00:00]
Run Experiments | Trying new things in similar dating situations can help you evolve [1:06:08]
Be Humble | Matthew exposes how humility is needed to see how wrong you are [1:11:50]
QUOTES:
“Attention is not the same as intention. You could give me lots of attention, but have no real intention behind it. There might be no intention for this thing to go anywhere.” [4:38]
“It's very easy to value intensity, when we have it, especially because it plays to some kind of love story or an idea of a love story we've had in our head…” [7:42]
“A longtime partner is someone we have to be able to live with, not be dazzled by.” [21:27]
“If you're chasing Bad Boys, you're always chasing someone in a phase. You're chasing someone who's in that period of their life, but they won't do that to someone else down the line.” [23:28]
“I had convinced myself that the bad times weren't indicative of who he was, and the good times were” Lisa Bilyeu [25:04]
“You have to be able to separate how you feel about someone from how someone makes you feel.” [25:33]
“Because the reality for you, if somebody is bad, it doesn't make them evil. It just makes the reality for you bad.” [30:19]
“They're not the devil. They're a complex person, but I care enough about me to protect myself from the inevitable consequences of having a relationship with that person.” [32:21]
“A lot of the time relationships end the way they began just with you paying more attention.”[36:46]
“The moment we start ignoring things, the moment we start going, ‘I'll just hope that goes away,’ that's when we set the timer.” [39:18]
“Someone may have done something that was wrong, and in that sense, we are a victim to someone else's actions. But at a certain point in our journey, we have to also realize that we've been a victim of ourselves.” [48:10]
“When we trust our ability to pay attention and to act accordingly. If someone isn't making us happy, regardless of how strong we feel for somebody, we don't fear the things they do as much” [50:32]
“In life, you can't make an impact without being vulnerable.” [54:53]
“If I get vulnerable and I get a bad response to my vulnerability, then I'm learning I'm actually learning something new.” [1:05:13]
Follow Matthew Hussey:
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When you walk into a new situation, a new job , or family function, how you show up matters more than most would rather admit. How you dress, the way you speak, and your facial expressions are all communicating and telling a story on your behalf. Evy Poumpuras, former secret service agent has been a guest on Women of Impact multiple times, and each time she’s brought so much knowledge and hard hitting truths with her that can level you up and change your life. Whether it’s being more confident, taking control of your emotional responses, or commanding respect in the workplace, Evy is unpacking everything you need to know to be super badass.
SHOW NOTES:
Master Body Language & Be Warm [0:28]
How to Handle Disrespect [20:39]
Master Confidence [37:33]
Master Your Emotions [48:56]
This Commands Respect [1:14:23]
Think & Speak With Conviction [1:23:48]
How to Handle Confrontation [1:36:30]
QUOTES:
“My goal isn't how I want that person to feel about me, my goal is what do I want my end result is this, and how do I navigate my conversation to get to that point…” [3:02]
“The more you have stress in your life, the more you're able to cope better if you know how to use these situations as a learning tool.” [10:38]
“Even if you can't articulate it, even if you don't understand it, if you feel it, follow it! There is a point where you have to trust in yourself…” [16:06]
“If I cannot master myself, forget about the outside world. So, it always has to begin with you.” [25:56]
“You're not going to own my response to you. I'm going to own it. That's why, I do for me not for you.” [33:50]
“When you assert yourself as an authority, in body posture, and voice in speech, and how you present yourself, people are less likely to mess with you.” [58:10]
“If you're not dealing with any stress, if you're not dealing with adversity, you're not dealing with obstacles, then when something does happen, you're not going to know what to do.” [1:15:36]
“When you avoid conflict, you don't know what to do when real conflict shows up [...] repetition in creating habits that are healthy, so that when things happen, you default to those habits.” [1:26:57]
“When you first meet people, and you're trying to figure them out, let them do the talking. Ask open ended questions, and then that way, let people guide you and give you the information you need rather than guessing.” [1:42:32]
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Do you have an internal voice screaming every time you’re ready to speak up about something you see could be done better? Does the voice get louder in agony when you get complimented on the project knocked out of the park and impressed everyone? What does that inner voice say to you when you’re scrolling and see how much prettier, how much richer, how much more ‘ers’ everyone else seems to have on your feed?
You want to be more confident. You want to accept praise with grace, and not feel like a total imposter as you reach new levels. Learning how to discern and control your inner voice is a critical lesson that takes specific strategies, trial, errors, and lots of practice over time. Lisa is giving you a run down on tactics and strategies you can start practicing immediately to step up and stop villainizing your inner critic, your inner voice, today!
You don’t have to give default to feeling jealous, you can absolutely feel inspired. You don’t have to deflect the compliments you receive, you can accept them and simply say thank you. Get ready to take notes and put these tips into practice right away!
SHOW NOTES:
Trick to Comparison | Comparison that inspires and avoids feelings that bring you down [0:13]
Be Confident | Lisa’s tips to show up confidence without being obnoxious, or arrogant [5:46]
Accept Praise | Why you should stop deflecting compliments immediately and own it [12:32]
To Fake It or Not | Do what makes you feel best and don’t waste time on anything else [17:59]
Inner Critic | How to change your inner critic’s voice by listening and not villainizing her [21:32]
QUOTES:
“When you can look at someone so mind blowingly amazing [...] and not let it be detrimental to your self esteem, but actually be the complete opposite, see it as a frickin inspiration.” [4:30]
“Confidence isn’t me just coming into a room and saying why I disagree. Confidence is someone disagreeing with me and me being able to admit that they’re right! [11:34]
“Stop thinking that we are boasting, or that it means that we're big headed, if we accept the compliments that actually come with recognizing that we frickin busted our asses [...] let's freakin’ own that shit.” [17:32]
“We hold meaning to things, and the meaning we hold to things can really hold us back...” [20:16]
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When it comes to physical health, it’s no secret that too often research of new medications and studies being released are disproportionately reflective of results based on men. Women’s health issues have been poorly studied for years. More physicians and scientists are starting to shine light on the problems that exist with treating men based studies as sufficient evidence for how to best treat women. Dr. Lisa Mosconi is a neuroscientist and author of the book, The XX Brain, which dives deep into women’s cognitive health and preventing Alzheimer’s disease.
If you’re curious about how stimulants such as caffeine or alcohol effect you between cycles or how significant physical activity truly is for women over the age of 35, this interview is going to help you get started. As Lisa Mosconi says, it’s not about which is better or more superior. men’s brains or women’s brains, it’s about understanding there are functional differences that we can optimize for to have greater cognitive function and energy throughout our lives.
Check out Lisa Mosconi’s latest book, The XX Brain: https://amzn.to/3rBH4ex
SHOW NOTES:
Bikini Medicine | Lisa on women’s health is treated indistinguishable from men’s health [1:07]
Ambien Study | A study that revealed how women medicated with Ambien crashed more [4:30]
XX Brain | Lisa on understanding how the xx brain is wired and responds and functions [6:56]
Brain in Puberty | Lisa explains what happens to the brain during puberty for women [13:42]
Brain During Menstrual | How menstrual flow effects women’s changes in the brain [17:10]
Caffeine Stimulants | Lisa explains how to optimize energy from stimulants for your cycle [21:28]
Diet for Your Cycle | How foods functions for women’s brain health and how to optimize [26:39]
Supplements | Lisa shares how to supplement with a healthy diet to optimize xx brain [31:03]
Exercise for Women | Lisa on why consistency is usually more important than intensity [33:05]
Stress in Women | Reducing stress is a brain protective strategy that relies on hormones [38:33]
Tips Against Stress | Practical tips that can help you effectively fight stress day by day [43:13]
Magic of Sleep | Lisa reveals the self care process that happens during sleep [46:41]
Pregnancy & Your Brain | How pregnancy stimulates brain plasticity and connection [50:08]
QUOTES:
“Men's brains and women's brains are not different. In the sense that one is better than the other, [...] the way that the brain is built, or the way the brain functions really dictates different strengths in different vulnerabilities.” [7:54]
“This is a system that works as a system and changes at the same time, and whatever happens to your ovaries has an impact in your brain.” [19:29]
“The truth is that the same exact foods that change your body also really impact the functionality of the brain.” [22:15]
“There's so much more to food than just food. Food is information and food is function, and one of the functionalities of food is that very specific nutrients can literally speak to our cells.” [27:22]
“What the brain wants the minimum, it's a moderate intensity exercise, and the need for frequency ranges between three and five times a week.” [35:03]
“Reducing stress doesn't just save your day, it also really says your brain for the long term.” [40:59]
“Very little has been done for people to really have the tools to cultivate mental health and well being, and we live in a society that consistently prioritizes productivity and just soldiering on and just toughening up, instead of distressing and taking time for yourself.” [41:51]
“If you don't have a healthy lifestyle, you're enabling all your risks to become actual medical issues in a way. Whereas if you have a strong healthy lifestyle, you're effectively reducing this risk and keeping the risks under control…” [49:34]
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As a woman, how many times have you politely stayed quiet because culture wouldn’t allow anything else. Whether the culture came from your workplace, your family and home life, or social environment because of the country you live in, this doesn’t always have to be your reality. Sure, we’re all guilty of not speaking up at some point or another, but we can certainly agree there are extremes of being a woman forced to silence that exists in the world. Not all forms of extreme are far from home or in third world countries either. Julia Haart joins Lisa to discuss her eye opening experience that led her to a brazen victory far away from cultural and religious oppression that made her feel powerless, frustrated, and insignificant. There is a part of her story each of us can take with us to be more confident, more powerful and more secure in who we are as women.
Check out Julia Haarts new book, Brazen: My Unorthodox Journey from Long Sleeves to Lingerie: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0593239164?tag=randohouseinc47720-20
SHOW NOTES:
Invisible Woman | Julia on traditional roles of women and not conforming to invisibility [0:52]
Spiritual High | Julia talks about the nature of being righteous and miserably trapped [3:10]
Breaking Beliefs | Julia reveals how she came to question her beliefs and breaking away [7:42]
Giving Up Power | How extreme religions trap you with strong beliefs & being powerless [11:19]
Brazen Moments | Julia on laws of Judaism versus add ons and standing up against it all [12:16]
Walking Away | How Julia walked away from her religion and strict life for her daughter [18:46]
Courage to Go | Julia shares how she made moved towards the impossible to be free [27:04]
Polite Women | Julia sheds light on the trouble of polite women tolerating too much [31:34]
Reprogram Old Beliefs | Julia reveals the slow process of reprogramming old beliefs [35:03]
Work In Progress | Julia is honest about the ongoing work to get to putting herself first [39:14]
Get Uncomfortable | Julia on how to be successful in spite of the fear and discomfort [43:43]
QUOTES:
“The greater of a woman you want to be the more you need to have complete removal of self” [2:53]
“The odds stacked against me seemed impossible to overcome.” [27:44]
“It was me accepting these boundaries, these rules, these commandments and strictures that made my life so miserable. I chose to do that. It was my mind that was keeping the prisoner.” [31:21]
“There are words that are reserved exclusively for women. You ever heard the word a well behaved man?” [32:52]
“As far as I've come, I still find myself in a place where I think men know better” [35:50]
“I have a long way to go until I eradicate that inferiority complex I've had my whole life” [42:12]
“I don't think fearless actually means not having fear. I think fearless means facing your fear and overcoming it.” [44:47]
“Just because this is how something is done. Doesn't mean it's something how it should be done. I literally don't give a flying fuck” [48:45]
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Losing your cool has probably never ended well for anyone. Whether you are in the workplace or home with your family, there never is an ideal or acceptable time to lose control of your emotions. But how can you keep it together when everywhere you go there is someone or something there to trigger you?
Lisa has had lots of practice doing the inner work needed to gain control of her emotions, but she will also be the first to admit, it’s a process and no one is perfect, We all slip and fall short. Being dedicated to being empowered, successful and strong has taught her so much that in this episode Lisa is sharing tips and dropping gems on how you can take practical steps to control your emotions and start making progress everyday. Staying cool when someone has trigger you is far from easy and you may fail the test 100 times, but assessing the situation, your reactions, your feelings, and learning how to rewrite the script is going to set you on the path to self mastery, and it begins now.
SHOW NOTES:
Discover Your Triggers | Lisa’s steps for discovering her triggers when emotionally sober [0:34]
Take a Step Back | How to make decisions when you are in an emotional state [11:05]
Overcome Jealousy | Lisa shares tips on how to acknowledge it and determine if it’s real [18:09]
Let Yourself Feel Emotions | Steps to uncovering the emotions you’ve been suppressing [29:58]
How to Handle Arguments | Lisa 2 rules she has to not allow arguments to go too far [42:04]
QUOTES:
“I haven't seen any situation from my own experience, where I made a decision that I was proud of making in an emotional state.” [17:55]
“Actions speak louder than words, they're showing you time and time again that they're saying, ‘this is on you, [...]. This is your problem.’” [27:24]
“There's no room for jealousy in a relationship. So you have a choice, either acknowledge it, [...] or identify that the jealousy is actually very warranted, and they are totally disrespecting you.” [28:00]
“I want to make sure that no one ever feels shame or embarrassment or any type of emotion around seeking help.” [30:35]
“I can only assess why I acted the way I did once I look back without the emotion.” [34:07]
“Giving yourself the freaking grace to get there over time, to put the work in, put a plan in place, and then every day make incremental steps to get there.” [40:37]
“I can't control what the other person says to me. But you better frickin believe that I'm never going to lower myself to their level.” [43:16]
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Are you choosing the history of a bad relationship, when times were good, over the pain of leaving an unhealthy relationship now? Often we make relationships about what the other person is or isn’t doing and we have the tendency to focus on our reactive emotions. What feels good and what doesn’t. The problem with this kind of relationship habit is that we give our power away. Judge Faith Jenkins has been a prosecuting attorney, a judge on Divorce Court TV, and is now hosting and producing an Oxygen True Crimes show, Killer Relationships. She is revealing the success we can have in healthy relationships when we realize our power to be happy comes from within. If you are single, Faith is highlighting all the lessons and opportunities available for you to properly prepare, learn, and plan for a successful marriage or relationship that you choose to be in. Taking some time to journal after this episode may be a great way to get started on having a better relationship now.
Check out Faith Jenkins new book, Sis Don’t Settle: How to Stay Smart in Matters of the Heart: https://amzn.to/3uCFg5R
SHOW NOTES:
Relationship Disaster | How loving relationships turn into divorce or worst [0:37]
Power to be Happy | Why your personal foundation is a must for healthy relationships [3:05]
Lessons of Single Life | Faith reveals what single life is teaching and preparing you for [7:10]
Accept, Reject, or Build | 3 options you have when taking relationship to next level [8:39]
Being Resentful | Ways to navigate conflict and reveal a person’s true character [10:39]
Normalized Hurt | Faith on why healing is your responsibility, not normalizing disrespect [15:22]
Commitment | How to know if you are committing to love and the same things together [18:44]
Manifesting Love | How Faith manifested love from knowledge and acceptance of self [19:38]
Broken Love | Faith reveals the process for staying positive for love after being broken [26:44]
Toxic Traps | Revealing how people get trapped and remain in unhealthy relationships [30:59]
Danger Zone | Examining the danger of external pressure of being single and settling [36:38]
Rejection is Okay | Faith on how rejection isn’t about you and cannot be taken personal [41:35]
Due Diligence | How counseling gave Faith peace with her decision to marry and invest [46:38]
Successful Love | Why love deserves the same planning for success as your career [49:11]
QUOTES:
“People don't really have a lot of relationship problems [...] they have problems that they bring into the relationship.” [1:27]
“Being single was not a rest stop in my life, it was time for me to really live.” [6:07]
“It is easy to treat people right when things are going well. How do people treat each other when things are not going well? That is the key and a reflection of someone's true nature. [15:10]
“We aren't in charge of the person who hurt us. But we are in charge of our healing.” [15:58]
“I knew I was bringing a lot to the table. And I wanted someone who was going to add to the happiness I already had.” [21:43]
“I could not be a cynic about love and attract it into my life at the same time.” [26:28]
“If you're not careful, over time, you will internalize that messaging, and being single can start to feel like something you're embarrassed about.” [38:07]
“When you're single and you're dating, you can be the total package at the wrong address.” [41:48]
“A lot of times rejection has nothing to do with you. It's what somebody else is dealing with, and their perspective and what's going on in their lives, but if we're not careful, we make it a whole story about us.” [44:58]
“It was all about preparing, because I wanted to set myself up for success in my relationship, just like I did for all those other aspects of life.” [50:40]
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So many women have problems with boundaries. If you are fortunate enough to have thought through what boundaries you should have in place, you may lack the skill and discipline you need to uphold them. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and female empowerment expert. She is turning the conversation of boundaries on its head and revealing the key players running defense against your best efforts to create stronger and healthier boundaries. Whether your boundaries have been too laxed or too rigid, Terri is spotlighting the importance of your relationship with yourself and why boundaries have to start with knowing your preferences, your desires, and your limits. Boundaries are more about you than the people around you. If you’ve been struggling with boundaries, there’s a good chance you’re frustrated with the people you love, you’re feeling exhausted, unappreciated and overly sacrificing yourself and it’s making you resentful. Take a moment, sit down, and open up for some self-reflection time with Terri and Lisa.
Take Terri’s Boundary Quiz: https://boundaryquiz.com/
Check out Terri’s new book, Boundary Boss: https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Essential-Guide-Finally/dp/1683647688
SHOW NOTES:
Assessing Boundaries | How corrupted boundaries affect you and ways to assess them [1:30]
Self-Abandoning | Prioritizing needs and wants of others over what's true and right for you [4:37]
Codependency | Terri on what high-functioning codependency looks like for women [5:26]
Awareness is Key | Why being radically curious without judgment is the key to boundaries [8:50]
Guilt-Free Boundaries | Why helping isn’t a help and how it hurts the one you love [13:57]
Obligation-Free | Terri shares how important it is to recognize boundary issues [17:52]
Boundary Violators | How to take small steps to uphold and honor your boundaries [20:40]
Know Yourself | Why it’s important to know your preferences, limits, and deal breakers [23:22]
Self-Love & Giving | Terri on what self-love is and how it’s a way of life not a feeling [26:10]
People Pleaser | Strategies to stop the automatic ‘yes’ and start healthy boundaries [30:10]
Type of Boundaries | Terri explains physical, material, emotional, & mental boundaries [33:49]
Rigid vs. Non-Negotiable | Understanding what deal breaker boundaries for you [39:35]
Boundary Consequences | Steps to take in relationships enforcing boundary violations [42:44]
Stay in Your Lane | Terri discusses importance of respecting other people’s boundaries [50:12]
Indecision | Terri reveals what indecisiveness really says about your situation [55:54]
QUOTES:
“Women have a tendency to over give, and let’s be honest about how we were raised, most of us were raised and praised for being self-abandoning [and] codependent.” [4:37]
“But, what is codependency? It is you being overly invested in the feeling states, the outcomes, the circumstances, the relationships of the people in your life to the detriment of your internal peace…” [7:05]
“It is wrong, emotionally, to think that we have the answers for others.” [15:58]
“You must know your preferences, your desires, your limits, and your deal breakers because those are the things that not only make up your boundaries, they also make up who you are.” [23:22]
“Giving is love, over giving is dysfunctional.” Terri Cole quote read by Lisa Bilyeu [26:10]
“...it’s less of a feeling and more of a way of life that is evidenced in your relationships, your boundaries, your self-care, how well you negotiate for your own needs. That is what self love is.” [26:21]
“If you are not rocking this kind of self-love where you’re taking care of yourself first, you really don’t have that much to give to others because what we’re seeking from others they cannot provide because it’s an inside job.” [28:28]
“When you’re saying yes when you really want to say no, that isn’t being nice, that’s just being dishonest. So, how can anyone ever authentically love you if you never allow them to authentically know you.” [29:48]
“When you have healthy emotional boundaries you're not easily guilted by others. You also don’t blame others for your life, your choices, and what you’ve done.” [36:33]
“We don’t just learn how to say no, we learn how to accept someone else’s no and talk about that.” [51:09]
“No matter where you are stuck in your life, if you can reveal the unobvious gain you’re getting, unconsciously, by staying stuck, it makes it so much easier to get unstuck.” [57:37]
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Hey guys, Lisa here! If you didn’t already know, I am super frikin excited to share that I’m writing a book! To be the FIRST to get sneak peeks about my book and other exclusive content go to: http://lisabilyeu.com/ and be sure to sign up for my newsletter.
With anxiety affecting more than 40 million Americans and 264 million people worldwide, chances are anxiety and stress have been affecting you too. Anxiety is more common in women, as we are twice as likely to be diagnosed than men. What’s the best solution for anxiety and is it a one size fits all kind of band-aid? Dr. Ellen Vora breaks down why treating anxiety strictly as mental health without looking at the entire body is problematic. Not only will it be beneficial to your anxiety and stress levels to look at your diet and lifestyle for clues to treat your anxiety, but it’s also a game changer and Dr. Vora is simplifying ways to address anxiety and lower your stress levels dramatically.
Check ut Ellen Vora’s new book, The Anatomy of Anxiety: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0063075091?tag=imprintweb-20
Dr. Vora takes a functional medicine approach to mental health, considering the whole person and addressing imbalance at the root, rather than reflexively prescribing medication. In addition to her private practice and speaking engagements, Dr. Vora consults for healthcare startups as well.
SHOW NOTES:
How Anxiety Manifests | Ellen explains why anxiety isn’t just coming from your mind [0:34]
False Anxiety | Ellen reveals what avoidable anxiety does to our stress responses [4:34]
Substance Induced Anxiety | How substances affect anxiety levels and neurotransmitters [9:17]
True Anxiety | The beautiful side of anxiety that is a purposeful way to communicate [16:08]
Body Relationship | Our relationship and ability to heal really listen to your body [18:39]
False Yes | Ellen explains what a false yes and how it silences our inner voice [21:52]
Healthy Boundaries | Ellen explains how to uphold boundaries to honor saying ‘no’ [23:39]
Goals | Ellen reveals why finding balance is more important in deciding to go hard or not [28:12]
Relaxation & Ease | How healing and doing the right thing is better achieved with ease [30:39]
Long Term Diet Success | Ellen’s diet tips to help you focus on what to add into your diet [33:21]
Sleep Shoe Size | Why the right amount of sleep is necessary to lower stress & anxiety [41:28]
Hustle Culture | How to go after a fulfilling life first, be productive and allow space [51:27]
Panic Attacks | Ellen gives grounding tips for moments of anxiety and panic [54:09]
QUOTES:
“A lot of what's happening in our brain, [...] it's often a downstream effect of things that are happening elsewhere in the body.” [1:03]
“Many seemingly benign really common aspects of modern life are getting our body out of balance. And oftentimes it precipitates a stress response.” [4:57]
“Avoid the temptation to pathologize it, we want to see it as not the nuisance or the symptom to suppress, but the communication to heed.” [17:16]
“It's all about teaching ourselves not to betray ourselves, and if in that moment, not having the drink is the act of radical self love, we're now better at that we've developed that skill and kind of cultivated it.” [26:20]
“A really healthy goal is to kind of see this as well, what is building towards a fulfilling life? Sometimes it's more motivation, discipline, goals, and sometimes it's a little bit less.” [30:14]
“A lot of times we're anxious because we don't have enough healthy fats in our diet, or because we're micronutrient deficient.” [37:24]
“If you're someone who needs nine hours of sleep, rather than feeling like, ‘well, that's not fair, other people get to live more life’, just own it, embrace it and protect it fiercely and unapologetically.” [42:50]
“We don't just exist for productivity, we also exist to have a little bit of spaciousness to just enjoy what is to be enjoyed about the human experience.” [53:40]
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It’s been reported that the average person has 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day, 80% are negative thoughts every day. How many negative thoughts have run through your mind so far today? It’s easy to come across critics, naysayers, and haters with opinions about what you’re doing or saying and what you should be doing better. Whether the hate is coming from someone you love and respect, or people you’ll never meet, like internet trolls and gangsters, knowing how to maintain your confidence and identity through it all is super important. Evy and Lisa are exposing all the ways you can better face the haters in your life while taking aim on your most ambitious goals today.
Questions to Ask Yourself
Can I live with NOT following my dream?
Who is this person?
Why should I listen to them?
What’s more important at this moment? My goal or my identity?
SHOW NOTES:
Negative Comments | Evy and Lisa react to negative comments and reviews [0:00]
Tune Out Other Opinions | Deciding against strong opinions and culture for yourself [1:52]
Stand Alone | Evy on choosing the police academy against her parent’s support [6:03]
To Listen Or Not | How to decipher if a person is worth listening to about your dream [11:05]
Cruel Hate | Tactics Evy uses to deal with people that have expressed hatred and cruelty [16:54]
Screw What They Think | Showing up in spite of the hate being thrown your way [21:15]
Goal Vs. Identity | Lisa reveals not being willing to sacrifice identity for your goals [24:03]
Coping With Critics | Evy shares how she deals with haters and critics that don’t matter [29:20]
Don’t Play Victim | Evy’s advice to not allow anyone to make you a victim [36:06]
Ditch Your Inner Critic | Evy shares a time she allowed her inner critic to play small [38:17]
When to Hear Your Inner Critic | How to discern when to listen to your inner critic [43:59]
Negative Comments II | [55:02]
QUOTES:
“Just because somebody thinks something doesn’t mean I have to follow it.” Evy Poumpouras [8:53]
“There’s an expiration date for how long you can blame somebody else for the dreams you didn’t achieve.” Evy Poumpouras [9:47]
“I am not here to make choices to make the rest of the world happy. Do no harm, but live your life.” Evy Poumpouras [10:33]
“Just because somebody is your family member [...] that does not mean that is in harmony with who you are and your value system, and it does not mean that you’re supposed to listen” Evy Poumpouras [15:03]
“At the end of the day, if I betray who I am, who I feel like I want to show up every day to be, who I try to be every day. If I betray that, why am I doing a show to empower women? I would feel like a liar…” Lisa Bilyeu [26:21]
“People self-select… so those people who have doubt, who don’t think they can, they’ve already self selected out.” Evy Poumpouras [46:26]
“Focus on where you want to go because you don’t have the bandwidth to waste it on anything else.” Evy Poumpouras [54:54]
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Currently, women have been one of the slowest groups to learn and engage with NFTs, cryptocurrency, and Web 3.0. If you are clueless about what any of these things are, or you've heard about all of them but still don’t feel confident enough to explore, you’re not alone. Women only made up 16% of the NFT market. The NFT market is huge and consists of many layers of engagement and roles from all sorts of people. Until now, women have been showing very little interests, and this is the first episode Lisa is bringing a wildly successful NFT artist, Sara Baumann, up front to share how we can begin to change these disproportionate spaces that exists. NFTs are still new enough for you to become an early adopter and seize the opportunities being presented to you. It starts here with curiosity and ends with your commitment to self to not be left behind, not one more day.
SHOW NOTES:
NFT Gender Gap | Sara discusses the need for more women to venture into NFTs [1:00]
Where to Start | Ways to start learning and the benefit of joining great communities [4:48]
Imposter Syndrome | How to be confident with what you know and don’t know here [8:49]
Peak Curiosity | How Sara slowly stepped into her curiosity to learn more abou NFTs [11:09]
Sara’s Story | Sara reveals her path from occupational therapist to sold out NFT artist [12:28]
Opportunities | Sara on the opportunities available through the NFT/Web 3.0 space [16:39]
Beat Their Expectations | Sara reflects on cultural pressures and how to follow your gut [20:35]
Failing | Sara breaks down how she charges forward with confidence and is prepared [27:06]
Learn on the Go | Get over the fear of failing and embrace opportunity to learn on the go [31:03]
Supporting Women | Sara on the ways she’s been able to support and elevate women [33:42]
Community Vibe | How Sara leads her community & ways to choose a safe community [36:15]
Women and Weapon Art | Sara reveals the meaning behind her art empowering women [39:58]
NFT Art Business | The business side that Sara has been planning for to create value [44:58]
NFT Utility | Sara on the use of owning an NFT and receiving digital or physical product [47:25]
Metaverse Defined | Why this is a new way to interact and engage with community [49:33]
QUOTES:
“You are taking a risk jumping into a new space, but you’re also taking a risk by not jumping into this space and by not being early.” [4:13]
“I am certainly not an expert in the web three area, but I am more than happy to learn about it. Because there is nothing wrong with having more knowledge.” [29:19]
“I'm a huge believer in your vibe attracts your tribe.” [36:23]
“If somebody has something negative to say about you, that's on them. That's not on you.” [39:47]
“I want to give them weapons that are symbolic of the weapons that we as women carry on a day to day basis.” [41:46]
“It's absolutely bringing us all together very much becoming like an in one place world friendship.” [53:34]
Follow Sara Baumann:
Website: https://www.womenandweapons.io/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/NFTSaraBaumann
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You may have heard this advice at some point in your life, “don’t listen to what people say, watch what they do.” Nonverbal communication can be more authentic and transparent than the things we verbally communicate. Vanessa Van Edwards, behavioral investigator, reminds us that nonverbal communication and cues can also send the wrong message if a person is nervous or anxious. In her latest book, Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication, Vanessa explores over 90 cues that will help you become more effective in your communication efforts and perceptive to areas that require more attention or follow through.
Check out Vanessa Van Edwards new book, Cues: https://amzn.to/3leaa1j
Don’t miss Vanessa’s last episode with Lisa, “Are They Lying to You”: https://youtu.be/LkOEShBS6hQ
SHOW NOTES:
Blindsided Cues | When you’re missing cues being shown while focused on your delivery [0:44]
4 Kinds of Cues | Vanessa shares four cues: nonverbal, verbal, vocal, and imagery[2:29]
Imagery Cues | Vanessa explains how to use them to get your message across effectively [3:14]
Goals of Cues | Trying to assess warmth and competence to speed up your connection [8:10]
Listening Cues | Vanessa shares why watching people listen is more telling of their cues [10:00]
Warmth Cues | Why trust and reliability are important cues and the power of a slow nod [13:15]
Danger Zone Cues | How to spot danger zone cues and handle it when you see them [17:12]
Lip Purse Cue | Vanessa explains why lip pursing is a red fag and how to address it [18:33]
Lower Lid Flex | Vanessa describes why this cue that can be positive or negative [22:06]
Question Inflection | Vanessa explains why vocal inflection clues you to deception & lies [24:14]
Shark Tank Case Study | Vanessa shares cue insights on Jamie Siminoff’s pitch [28:02]
4 Space Zone | Vanessa breaks down how to use the 4 space zones to your advantage [32:58]
Fronting Position | Vanessa explains the importance body, toe, and seating position [37:30]
Context & Clusters | Vanessa shares why context matters and cues cannot be isolated [42:25]
Contempt | Vanessa explains why contempt is the #1 cue to get wrong [46:26]
QUOTES:
“If you can cue someone for your warmth and competence, right off the bat, it actually speeds up your connection.” [8:45]
“When someone's listening, they're not rehearsing anymore. They're off the clock, and their brain is much more focused on you.” [11:49]
“If you are smart, you might run into this problem where people underestimate you and your ideas, because you're not delivering them with the right competence and warmth.” [32:47]
“If someone is angled away, and they're just giving you head attention, their body and their feet are looking somewhere else. They are not fully engaged with you.” [41:29]
“Contempt is the number one cue people get wrong.” [47:43]
Follow Vanessa Van Edwards:
Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT/featured
Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/
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Trauma stems from any number of experiences, but women are twice as likely to develop PTSD and roughly 50% of women are reported to have experienced some sort of traumatic event in life. What trauma have you experienced that gets pushed out of your mind continuously so you can carry on with your day? When you still have to show up for work, care for your children, and attend family functions, when are you taking the time to face the trauma that is affecting you? As we disregard the warnings in our minds, symptoms can often manifest physically and go untreated. Gabby Bernstein is back to share the depth of work she’s been doing to get to the next level seeking freedom. Gabby is a NY Times bestselling author, spiritual coach and motivational speaker. She opens up and reveals her journey from being a meditative holistic spirit junkie to accepting medical diagnosis and prescription to help her through mental health challenges she needed to overcome.
“When an eggshell is cracked from the outside it is broken, when it's cracked from the inside it is reborn.” Ama
Check out Gabby’s new book, Happy Days: https://amzn.to/3JN8Dsb
SHOW NOTES:
You’re Not Crazy | Gabby on how to be compassionate and more curious about triggers [0:42]
Being Medicated | Gabby explains how she came to accept a diagnosis and medication [7:13]
Go Next Level | How being devoted feeling free is the catalyst for change to level up [12:56]
Codependency | Gabby exposes how codependency in relationships is an addiction [18:14]
Running Away | How to identify if you’re running away when you need to face the trauma [21:23]
Address Wounds | Why addressing your core wounds is a must even when medicated [24:38]
Shame of My Shame | Healing the trauma causing shame and caring for your inner child [28:00]
Discomfort | How to sit in the discomfort when you are ready and desire to feel free [35:27]
Rage on the Page | Gabby shares how to journal your anger and make space for love [38:49]
Doing the Work | Gabby explains how to do the internal work in your own pace [44:00]
Happy Days | Gabby explains why her book is meant to share hope of the other side [47:23]
QUOTES:
“When we're being guided and we're resisting that guidance, we block the miracles.” [12:19]
“The only way I was able to up level in these moments of crisis is because I was so devoted to feeling free, to being free in my energy system.” [14:35]
“Send those inner children just so much compassion, and so much love and respect and just calmness and say, ‘I am proud of you for getting to where you are. And I want to do more for you.’” [30:35]
“Noticing the ways that I could be as respectful to my own inner children as I am to my son, was really profound for me.” [32:26]
Follow Gabby Bernstein:
Website: https://gabbybernstein.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabbybernstein/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gabriellebernstein
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabbybernstein/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiGs8bAma9q1fqP-3SokQZw
Twitter: https://twitter.com/gabbybernstein
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How many times has fear kept you in the place where you work or where you live? So many women (and men) are fearful of making moves that change careers or change the relationships in their lives, but why? How are you supposed to break free from the ‘I can’t afford to’ traps or the ‘this is what’s expected of me’ traps? Today’s guest, Payal Kadakia is the founder and executive chairman of Classpass. She’s a professional dancer and choreographer and entrepreneur from the corporate world that knows the pressure of living with multiple identities. She is sharing her experience and lessons of what it took to successfully merge her different identities and align with her North Star. LifePass, is the book she wrote to help you do the same. Get empowered, walk through the discomfort of life with confidence and a plan to change your fear into a life you want to live for everyday.
Check out Payal’s book, LifePass, Drop Your Limits, Rise to Your Potential: https://www.amazon.com/LifePass-Develop-Mindset-Techniques-Optimize/dp/179720694X/
SHOW NOTES:
Train of Expectation | Pursuing family expectations and finding balance with dance [0:45]
Guilt of Expectations | How to live aligned with passion beyond the expectations [3:45]
Dual Identity | Payal on being Indian in America and embracing what made her different [8:49]
Self-Acceptance | Learning to blend her different communities to accept all sides of her [12:55]
Breaking Assumptions | How sharing wins & failures of all sides of her life made impact [18:30]
Listen to Yourself | Payal on not listening to others, setting boundaries to find your way [21:13]
True North | Payal on aligning with passion & understanding the value driving her path [26:21]
Plan B | Making sure to cover your bases and still wanting to live to the fullest [31:28]
Motivated | Live more by what’s motivating you versus what’s an obligation [33:08]
Be Emotional | Payal on allowing emotion and pushing through other side in business [35:23]
Do It Your Way | Payal shares how playing to her strengths and not the norm was a win [43:29]
Confidence & Fear | Focus on what you want to achieve rather than be a prisoner to fear [45:49]
Uncomfortable & Intimidated | How to keep showing up and get to the other side [50:54]
LifePass Goals | Payal on 3 steps of goal setting she designed for you to live with feeling [54:45]
QUOTES:
“Having these other things that helped me feel like I was progressing as a human being because really, that's really what it's all about is we're all looking for progress.” [3:12]
“The guilt just goes away because you were just living your life so inline with your being, that everything just dissipates.” [6:08]
“You might not be in a place today, where you can go after your dreams. But that doesn't mean you can't put a plan together today and start working towards it…” [8:14]
“When you really are doing stuff that you really love. I think you stopped questioning it because you're in the right environment. And you're in the right state of mind.” [18:20]
“Getting yourself in an environment where you are like, I'm going to do something and doing it well. [...] and getting that response from other people, helps you just break through a lot of those expectations of other people” [20:54]
“Design the people in your life to help you fulfill your mission.” [24:05]
“How can we create companies that have exceptional brands, if we're going to be devoid of emotion in our offices...” [42:17]
“There are environments that can trap even the greatest human beings, [...] We just have to work through these traps.” [48:53]
Follow Payal Kadakia:
Website: https://classpass.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/PayalKadakia
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/payal/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/payalhkadakia
Get ready for Valentine's Day with this fun Q&A for you and your partner to get even closer: relationships.radicalconfidence.com
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The truth about happy long lasting relationships and marriages is that most times, couples don’t know how they survive, but in hindsight they can see what worked and what didn’t. Tom and Lisa have been thriving together for over 20 years. Through many trials and errors they have found the secret to building a healthy and lasting relationship. Lisa takes Tom through several topics they formulated 26 hardcore questions around that keep the love strong and the relationship focused on what matters. In their experience, thriving together has looked like telling each other hard truths, handing over their insecurities and vulnerabilities to each other in exchange for a beautiful shared life experience.
SHOW NOTES:
Desire | Tom shares why understanding your partner’s changing wants over time is critical [0:55]
Perfect Day | Toms reveals what a perfect day would be if Lisa was down for anything [4:31]
Speak Up | The importance of letting your partner know what makes you happy [6:00]
Setup for the Win | How to set your partner up for the win and being happy[10:34]
Trust | Tom discusses what total trust looks like for a healthy thriving relationship [12:33]
Broken Trust | Tom and Lisa discuss ways to open up again after trust is broken [18:57]
Insecurities | The importance of never using your partner insecurities to hurt them [23:17]
Irreversible | Lisa shares 3 major things that can’t be taken back in healthy relationship [26:21]
Hard Truth | Asking your partner the one trait they want in a partner, you don’t have [32:00]
Reconsidering | Ask the hard question, what would make you reconsider the relationship [41:10]
Disruptors | Lisa and Tom break down how to pattern interrupt big arguments [44:29]
QUOTES:
“All the things that are self evident to you may not resonate with them. And if you don't understand what resonates with them, what they want, where they're excited, then you can get into ruts.” Tom Bilyeu [2:13]
“It's those moments where someone doesn't say anything [...] and now over time, I start to perceive that as you just keep pulling away from me, and that becomes the crack in your relationship.” Lisa Bilyeu [8:39]
“The relationship, prioritizing it, and then thinking of it in different ways, even when it's inconvenient, is so freakin’ important.” Lisa Bilyeu [12:11]
“To think about somebody else and compromise and make sure they're happy too [...] there's a lot of compromise, but there's certain things need to be true for that to be worth it.” Tom Bilyeu [14:40]
“What makes love worthwhile is that you are in a position where they can devastate you, and they don't.” Tom Bilyeu [21:42]
“I don't think that you can have what makes a relationship worth it, and be guarded, I don't think it's possible.” Tom Bilyeu [22:38]
“At my worst, I still don't reach for things that are going to hurt you. All of my micro personalities, you're safe with.” Tom Bilyeu [30:17]
“I think a lot of people get themselves in trouble because of one simple idea, I want them to know that it's important to me, I shouldn't have to tell them.’” Tom Bilyeu [37:04]
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Choosing the right person to date can be a high-stress situation for most of us. The choice is even more difficult when you begin to think about all of your previous choices and wonder if you can even trust your judgment anymore. Have you ever wondered how is it that you seem to attract not one, not two, but every wrong person possible? Does the madness ever end?
This episode is dedicated to a few basic strategies and ideas worth learning about and practicing so that you can stop attracting the wrong person to your life and start picking the right partner for you. Spirit, the relationship therapist, and Matthew Hussey are united in wisdom for a masterclass on not just how to date better, but also how to make better choices and get out of the wrong situations even faster.
Check out these full episodes:
Secrets of a Successful Relationship with Spirit: https://youtu.be/2dkk3D8tXDs
What Guys Really Think with Matthew Hussey: https://youtu.be/pse1IbIc7vM
SHOW NOTES:
Are you compatible | Spirit reveals truth about aligning with your partner [0:25]
Dating Rules | Tips for dating potential life partners [5:18]
Solving Relationship Problems | The healthy way to solve relationship problems [11:44]
Ask Hard Questions | Knowing the truth is better than wondering [19:25]
QUOTES:
“Compatibility is about how do we line up in the areas of our lives in such a way that if you never changed, and I never changed, we would still fit like a glove, [...] and have our needs met in this relationship for the rest of our lives.” Spirit [3:14]
“The longer that we can hold out on the sex, the more objective we can be about who the person is.” Spirit [8:58]
“The relationship is its own living, breathing entity, and it's up to the two of you to constantly work together in partnership to resolve the problems in your relationship.” [12:06]
“Everything starts with us as the individual and then radiates outward, and if you don't understand that, that's because either you haven't learned to be connected to all the parts of yourself, or somewhere along the line, somebody told you that what you needed and wanted wasn't important enough for you to express an advocate for you getting what you want in order to be happy.” Spirit [17:22]
“When someone is being intentional about dating, they are asking intentional questions about who you are and what you're all about.” Matthew Hussey [20:18]
“Be kind in your tone, but ruthless in your actions.” Matthew Hussey [26:53]
“The uncomfortable conversation lasts an hour, maybe five minutes, the knowledge, the answer you have for the rest of your relationship.” Matthew Hussey [30:35]
Follow Spirit: https://www.instagram.com/talk2spirit/
Follow Matthew Hussey: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/
Want to win a “hang out” with Lisa and Evy? Deadline to enter is February 6th 11:59pm Pacific. To enter:
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The CDC reports that 60% of women do not have a regular form of exercise, and yet multiple studies and science points toward the benefits of exercise for improving women’s health. Maybe you don’t feel like you have time for an exercise routine. Possibly the thought of going to the gym is making you want to click on another video right now, but before you do, know that getting healthier, stronger and more unstoppable doesn’t have to look the way you may be imagining.
Evy and Lisa are sharing practical strategies we can all put into effect starting today. Listening to your body is the biggest takeaway from this episode. As these ladies discuss workout routines, body movement, relaxation and how to eat, it all comes down to knowing your body and listening to yourself about what is best for you. Achieving better health is not going to be the same process for everyone. It will look different for each of us, but it can be fun even though it’s tough. It will also be rewarding when you are as Unstoppable as Evy and Lisa in your own unique way.
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SHOW NOTES:
Get Physical | Evy shares mindset around a exercise, body movement, and routine [0:55]
Mind-Body | Why mind-body cannot be separated for optimal performance [4:58]
Get Uncomfortable | Evy and Lisa on doing hard things without being overly extreme [11:09]
Cold Plunge | Lisa joins Evy for a cold plunge demo to talk or not talk [19:49]
F*ucking Relax | Plan your time and honor boundaries to relax and take care of you [23:20]
Avoid Burnout | What Evy and Lisa do to relax, avoid burnout, and sustain high levels [33:15]
Relax Time | Evy and Lisa show the different ways they relax to recharge [43:55]
Brain Food | How Evy and Lisa view food as fuel for the body to become unstoppable [47:41]
Listen to Your Body | Allow your body to dictate what and when you need to eat [58:22]
Collective Mindset | Evy on how collective ideas in the right environment shaped her [1:02:37]
What I Eat | Evy and Lisa show what they eat to start the day unstoppable [1:06:59]
QUOTES:
“I do it first thing in the morning, and that’s when I get all my best ideas. In moving and in the gym and working [...] I get my best creative ideas.” Lisa Bilyeu [7:15]
“I don’t do treadmills, I don’t want to see numbers. I don’t want to see how far I’ve gone. Some days I run three miles, some days I run a mile and a half, some days maybe I’ll go longer. I go with what I feel and I let my body guide me.” Evy Poumpouras [7:41]
“I have this mindset, kill fear while it’s still small, so I kept that in check.” Evy Poumpouras [11:26]
“It’s a lifestyle, and the second I shifted from ‘I just wanna deadlift 100 pounds’ to ‘I want to keep deadlifting until I’m 90.” Lisa Bilyeu [18:35]
“It took me recognizing the importance of f*cking relaxing, the importance of sticking to it, the importance of setting boundaries to it, and the importance of understanding what it does to you and why you need to make it a habit.” Lisa Bilyeu [26:44]
That’s why I’m not always in beast mode. I can’t sustain beast mode cause beast mode is going to make me crash. I save beast mode for when I need it.” Evy Poumpouras [34:53]
“Food is literally like gas in a car. If you’re not putting in the right gas, if it’s not good quality, if it’s not regular, if you leave the car on empty, your car just doesn’t work anymore.” Lisa Bilyeu [48:03]
“It’s not about how you f*cking look. Being unstoppable means you have to look at what you eat, how it affects your brain, how it affects your mood, how it affects how you show up everyday…” Lisa Bilyeu [1:06:34]
Follow Evy Poumpouras:
Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/
Heeeyyy guuuuyys!!! I’m SO frikin excited to share my upcoming book RADICAL CONFIDENCE with you guys! I have poured my heart and soul into this book and I CAN’T WAIT to share it with you! Sign up for updates about the book (and bonus content!!) here: lisabilyeu.com
People that experienced abuse as children are significantly more likely to be abused as adults. Even more shocking is a recent study that cites women who suffered from childhood abuse are at a higher risk of dying young. Sadly, drugs and alcohol addiction play a major part in this. Cheryl Burke is a professional dancer, podcaster, motivational speaker, and entrepreneur. You may have caught her in one of her 20+ seasons on Dancing With The Stars. She has recently braved the storm and decided to come forward about her alcohol addiction and childhood trauma. While she is a work in progress and making moves towards healing and recovery from a complicated past everyday, she is joining Lisa to openly share her struggles with addiction and finding herself with love, compassion, and acceptance.
For a deeper dive into Cheryl’s world and her story you can also check out the essay she published in US Weekly about her sobriety here: (https://www.usmagazine.com/entertainment/news/cheryl-burke-details-sobriety-healing-through-dwts-with-cody-rigsby/)
SHOW NOTES:
Abusive Past | Cheryl reveals traumatic events created addiction and Queen of numb [0:36]
Out of Control | How social anxiety was amplified even after being called out for drinking [5:31]
Pivotal Moments | Cheryl exposes what happened that helped her get sober [7:57]
Body Dysmorphia | Coping with an unhealthy body image & social media stressors [9:37]
Admitting Addiction | Steps Cheryl took to admit a drinking problem without sabotage [11:43]
Self-Identity | How Cheryl is discovering herself beyond toxic addictions and learning self [15:43]
Assessing Relationships | Deciding the relationships to stay with and outgrow for better [21:37]
Accepting Compliments | Working through the discomfort of taking a compliment [23:55]
QUOTES:
“When I was calm, or when I was not creating drama around me there was something wrong.” [2:10]
“Addiction is a disease and everybody will be triggered in certain ways that we will never know, and that doesn't mean it's your fault” [13:52]
“I'm just trying to be happy and understand that peace is not boring. Peace is a beautiful thing. but there's only little tiny seconds that maybe once every few months that I experience that.” [17:52]
“We get so consumed with what we think people want, that we don't know what we want.” [19:37]
Follow Cheryl Burke:
Website: https://www.cheryl-burke.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCemwzBiVg4zXdy9I4A8oGog
Twitter: https://twitter.com/CherylBurke
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The confidence gap between men and women has been studied and well documented. It was reported that 79% of women admit to struggling with self-esteem and confidence. Chances are that even if you are a confident woman, you have times where confidence is lacking and M.I.A.
Lisa is exposing why you don’t have to feel confident 100% of the time. Whether you are in a professional setting or in the privacy of your home and family, being confident around the clock sounds stressful and unrealistic.
It is, however, your responsibility to observe the things you do and don’t do that add and take away from how confident you feel. Taking back your power and showing up confident starts with you and that means not allowing other people in your life or in the room to affect your level of confidence. This episode is packed with tips for better strategies and tactics you can employ right now to start exuding more confidence. Before you show up in the next meeting, before you walk into the next event, and before you leave the mirror tomorrow morning do the internal work needed to be at your best.
“Walk in the room and freakin’ own it” -Lisa Bilyeu
SHOW NOTES:
Confident Vs. Vain | The line between confidence and being vain about your success [0:29]
Ditch Other’s Opinions | How to be sensitive to other without diminishing your confidence [5:27]
Daily Confidence Routine | Lisa’s tips to get suited up everyday to be confident [12:51]
The Right to Be Confident |Why you have the right to be confident no matter what [18:40]
Recover From Embarrassment | How to not allow shame to break your confidence [19:54]
Stop Hating Yourself | Recognize when you’re hating on yourself without judgement [26:46]
Dress for Confidence | Lisa reveals what you are in control of that makes you confident [35:18]
QUOTES:
“If they're struggling, don't let their struggle diminish your accomplishment.” [2:40]
“You can be confident that that journey existed, and confident that you were the one that did the work.” [4:59]
“Do not diminish your confidence, do not fake that you are not confident if you really are, but just be sensitive to the people you are talking to.” [11:11]
“When I dress up like this, and I step in front of the camera and I play my music, you better frickin believe I'm feeling confident.” [18:32]
“I don't necessarily want self love all the time. I don't want to be like [...] everything's okay, just love yourself, no, you're fine. No! I'm not, I've got to improve “ [34:53]
“The days you don't feel your best, you're not showing up as your best.” [35:59]
“If you're dressing differently because you're feeling differently, you then walk in differently which means your body posture is probably going to be different because of all these other things.” [37:38]
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Attention and focus may be at the top of every employer’s list and every woman’s dating requirements. We live in a society that highly values attention and praises anyone who can focus long enough to accomplish the seemingly impossible. Yet, many of us continue to struggle with both. Mindfulness is viewed as something that would be nice but very few are actually mastering the practice of being present and attentive in the here and now. With stress and overwhelm overtaking us at every turn in the day our minds are flooded and vulnerable to digital attacks and sabotage initiated by our own self. Amishi Jha is a professor of psychology at University of Miami and author of the new book, Peak Mind: Find Your Focus, Own Your Attention, Invest 12 Minutes a Day. She’s joining Lisa to dispel the rumours that improving your attention and meditation skills means that you have to clear your mind. She’s calling it out, and giving simple strategies and techniques you can start using before this episode ends. It’s time to take back your attention, regain your focus and do it in 3 simple steps.
SHOW NOTES:
Attention | Amishi reveals while attention can be a superpower it is vulnerable too [0:36]
Prioritized Info |How attention systems helps to prioritize information into subsystems [5:08]
Flashlight Focus | Spotlight information like a flashlight versus not focusing on something [7:17]
Suppressing Memories | Amishi shares ways to stop thinking about troubled memories [10:46]
Floodlight Focus | Information that is not limited but has a broad and receptive range [12:49]
Emotional Overwhelm | Strategy to manage emotions and overwhelm from 3rd person [15:32]
Hijacked Focus | When we create a simulated reality and are not in the present [20:29]
Mindfulness Practice | Ways that mindfulness in 12 minutes a day empowers you [25:32]
Executive Control | Amishi on the power of your mind’s attention being guided by goals [29:51]
Overriding Attention | Mindfulness of your attention requires initiating executive control [32:20]
Meditation | How mindfulness meditation is about staying present without the extra story [34:34]
Rumination Spiral | Time traveling in your mind and tips to break the lapse in attention [39:02]
Becoming Aware | Amishi shares simple exercise to find your attention flashlight [43:05]
Wandering Mind | Amishi on why you don’t need to clear your mind, redirect instead [49:35]
Well Wishing Practice | Deliberately speak to deep care and concern to yourself [52:55]
QUOTES:
“Whatever it is that we pay attention to recalibrates the entirety of the way the brain operates.” [1:49]
“Trying to suppress certain information actually brings it more saliently in your mind.” [10:12]
“Our default is always to simulate reality, make assumptions, conceptually elaborate, emotionally react, and then mentally time travel.” [20:38]
“If I can practice becoming more aware, moment by moment, I will have more opportunities to intervene, to best advantage what I want to succeed and do in my life.” [34:05]
“Mindfulness meditation is about being in the present moment without a story about it.” [37:03]
“We typically cannot think ourselves out of mental challenge. We've got to do something with our attention that is not thinking.” [41:43]
“The moment you've noticed your mind has wandered away. That's a win! That's the successful moment. If you had never noticed that your mind had wandered away, would you ever have been able to get it back?” [50:10]
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By now, you are most likely aware of narcissistic behavior being grandiose, egotistical and charming. If many of us can describe a narcissistic person, then how do we fall into unhealthy relationships with people that have zero concern for our happiness or well being? If you’ve experienced a relationship with a narcissistic person or happen to be currently living through narcissistic abuse then you are familiar with the frustration, the gaslighting, and feeling totally lost on how to end it or get out of the relationship. There are very clear traps narcissists use to keep hold of the people they want to control. Dr. Ramani Durvasula is an expert in narcissism and clinical psychologist. She is also a repeat guest on the show, joining Lisa for the third time. She’s breaking down all the ways narcissists are trying to trap you, how to heal from narcissistic abuse to move on, and how to create better boundaries and a plan for revenge.
SHOW NOTES:
Feeling Lost | What does moving on from a narcissistic relationship look like [1:02]
5 Traps to Avoid | Dr. Ramani breaks down 5 traps in narcissistic relationships [5:39]
Hoovering Trap | A powerplay tactic narcissist use to suck you in after you’ve left [9:38]
Avoid Enablers | Dr. Ramani explains how enablers make it harder to walk away [11:44]
The Hope Trap | Dr. Ramani reveals how narcissist trigger hope to keep you baited [13:44]
Trapped by Guilt | When vulnerable narcissists trap with the belief you can save them [15:24]
Responsibility | Dr. Ramani on why responsibility of being treated poorly is not on you [17:27]
Trauma Bonding | Why people hold onto the good things in bad relationships explained [21:47]
Breaking Triggers | Dr. Ramani explains why being alone for a whole year is necessary [25:35]
Danger of Control | Why controlling what someone wears is a dangerous dynamic [35:53]
Be Cherished | Dr. Ramani reveals why being cherished over desired is important [38:37]
Rebuilding Trust | Why it’s hard to rebuild trust for with yourself and tips for progress [42:00]
Boundaries | Dr. Ramani’s tips for setting boundaries when you don’t feel safe [55:21]
Revenge | Dr. Ramani explains the best form of revenge against a narcissist [57:25]
Self Efficacy | Dr. Ramani reveals how to heal from narcissistic abuse with indifference [1:04:38]
QUOTES:
“The hope is around, you are a better navigator of your own life, and you had the wisdom to extract the lessons from this really difficult experience.” [5:07]
“You can retain your empathy and compassion, and you can also preserve yourself, and your job on this earth is not to rescue another capable adult. That responsibility lies on them.” [17:03]
“Even if you try to teach them how you want to be treated, they ain't listening because they have no empathy. They don't care. You're merely an object to get them what they need.” [20:08]
“That time and becoming reacquainted while you're not in a relationship is where you find out that your legs can stand on their own.” [32:04]
“It's not just about the trust of the other, it's about that you have the right to set a boundary, and that's about trusting yourself.” [46:45]
“You may not be able to like, boom, set this line in the sand with this person, but that doesn't mean you have to sit here quietly and endure an uncomfortable situation, you can give yourself permission to leave, and it ain't your job to school that person anyhow.” [56:06]
“If you can think of revenge as you being your best self that shuts everybody down.” [59:04]
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It’s been said that more than 90% of people never achieve their goals. A big part of women and men failing their goals ties into fear of failing and being too scared to even dream of better. Lisa is experienced at handling multi-million dollar companies, leading teams, creating content that makes the world a better place, and becoming a bestselling author. In this Q&A, Lisa is sharing exactly how she prioritizes her goals and what you can do to create a toolbox that will help you stay the course and accomplish what you set out to achieve.
SHOW NOTES:
Goal Setting | Lisa on how motivation impacts achieving your goal [0:26]
Transform Your Life | How to undertake a complete life transformation and prioritize [8:03]
Steps to Your Goal | Lisa breaks down exact steps to achieving massive goals [14:53]
Stick to Your Goal | How to stick with your game plan and if it’s time to change goals [20:26]
Time Management | Lisa’s strategy for managing time and prioritizing all that she does [22:30]
Setup for Success | Making sure that you’re able to get back up after failing a goal [35:03]
Your Own Hero | Lisa reveals why not have family support doesn’t stop your goals [37:25]
QUOTES:
“When shit hits the fan, I just feel shitty about myself, that reminder of what my goal is, doesn't frickin help. It doesn't snap me out of this negative downward spiral” [2:44]
“Start on one aspect of your life in transforming that. And over time, you will actually start to see it already starts to interconnect with the other parts of your life.” [13:59]
“People change their path because of the difficulty it is to get to the goal, not because they don't want the goal itself.” [21:10]
“If you are setting a goal. It won't be easy. If you are setting a goal, you fall on your frickin’ face. [...] now we have to say is Is this the goal unwilling to fall on my face for.” [21:59]
“Even though you've decided these are the things that you love to do, there's going to be some times that you don't actually act in accordance, and you don't show up for the things that you've said.” [23:48]
“Break every preconceived notion of how you do things.” [32:14]
“I realized I'm the hero of my own life. Everything starts and ends with me.” [39:43]
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The Body Shop launched a global report this year that revealed 60% of women wish they had more respect for themselves. This study is shining light on a self-love crisis. Sexuality, economic status, age, and time on social media were all factors that seem to impact how people felt about themselves and their ability to love themselves. In this episode, we have 7 powerful women who understand the pain of being in a mental space that doesn’t make you feel confident or much like a badass. The throughline here seems to be that self love requires you to take the time to get to know yourself. So, in the next 35 minutes, take notes and think through areas you can start to remove the barriers in place preventing you from loving yourself. Where are you being most unkind to yourself? Where does self-doubt seem to always show up? It’s time to create an unbreakable relationship with yourself, and this is how…
“I’m my own worst critic, talk a whole lot of shit,
but I’m a ten out ten even when I forget!
I wonder when I love me is enough”
-Demi Lovato
SHOW NOTES:
Tip #1 | Spend Time with Yourself, Radhi finds herself through meditation [0:30]
Tip #2 | Challenge Yourself, Roxy has loving dialogue and a journal for challenges [4:41]
Tip #3 | Accept Yourself As Your Are, Cynthia says start with knowing who you are [11:30]
Tip #4 | Know Who You Are, Patrice anchored to her true self not outward situations [17:42]
Tip #5 | Treat Yourself How Like Your Best Friend, Najwa on making yourself feel heard [23:43]
Tip #6 | Humbly Brag About Yourself, Daniele says start bragging on your achievements [25:49]
Tip #7 | Slow Down, Mel takes pause to be with herself face to face in the mirror [30:07]
QUOTES:
“We never get into relationships with people or friendships without knowing them. We can't fall in love with someone without knowing them.” Radhi Devlukia [1:20]
“To love yourself is to say this shit’s hard, I'm not comfortable, but I love myself so damn much, and I love what's on the other side of this, this vision that I hold, this impact that I want to make that girl, You better get your ass up!” Roxanne Saffaie [4:44]
“The most valuable methodology tactic is really spending time in your journal to deeply connect with who you are, and developing a relationship with who you were blooming into.” Roxanne Saffaie [10:59]
“We're trying to love an idea of who we wish we were not who we are currently, and that's why we fail so much when it comes to this idea of just loving yourself.” Cynthia Garcia [14:18]
“We have to be fulfilled in different parts of our lives. if one thing goes down, that can't be the end all be all.” Patrice Washington [22:38]
“Self love is picturing the person that you love the most and telling yourself, I will not treat myself any less than I would treat that person.” Najwa Zebian [23:46]
“Be seen, so that you can see yourself because I think that's the thing is we're just like coasting through this life, thinking that we're supposed to get to this place, but it doesn't exist because everyone's trying to sell a salvation.” Daniele Della Valle [28:59]
“Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of every single relationship that you have. If you don't love and respect yourself, how on earth are you going to do that for other people?” Mel Robbins [34:31]
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It’s not really a secret that there is a huge gap in confidence in the workplace for men and women. There are reports that show 79% of women lack confidence at work! Too often women play small, are shy about speaking up, and not able to call people out in a business setting without allowing emotions to take over. Tracy Tutor is the Million Dollar LA Listing Luxury Real Estate Agent that shows up to play hard. Though real estate agents are largely female, Tracy is the first female real estate agent to star on the Bravo TV reality series. When it comes to confrontation and holding her own in high stakes, multi-million dollar deals, Tracy runs with the best of them.
Tracy is giving you high value strategies for better conversations, handling confrontations like a female alpha, and making a statement with your fashion.
SHOW NOTES:
Confrontation | Tracy shares how to check your emotions and communicate effectively [0:34]
Being Emotional | Being tough doesn’t mean that you’re not dealing with being emotional [6:37]
Gut Instincts | Tracy’s experience not following her gut, why intuition has to be trained [11:56]
Conversation Tips | Tracy on how to lead with a question, have the last word, & move on [17:56]
Processing | Why processing confrontational conversations are necessary [24:11]
Own the Room | How understanding personality types helps you navigate the room [26:00]
Different Moods | Tracy shares her tips on how to deal with apathetic and agitated moods [30:34]
Self Deprecation | Why being able to poke fun at yourself keeps your insecurities in check [37:07]
Relatable | Why being vulnerable and flawed and revealing yourself creates connection [43:17]
Power Fashion | Tracy’s rules for dressing to impress and using clothes to empower you [45:45]
Judgement | Tracy’s thoughts on the need for women to support women not judge them [51:04]
QUOTES:
“It's not about reeling back the emotion, it's about learning how to effectively communicate the emotion.” [6:03]
“ I should be able to, to wear something that makes me feel sexy and confident and strong, but also be equally talented, still a boss and effective in business.” [11:01]
“You have to find a way to connect on some level so that they're hearing you and that you're making that connection” [29:50]
“If you can't poke fun at yourself, then you're more insecure than you should be. I think by having the ability to poke fun at yourself. It actually speaks to your insecurity being at a level that's reasonable.” [37:12]
“By poking fun at your own insecurities and being aware of them. It's sort of like an exercise in being aware of your insecurities, and thereby making you less insecure” [38:02]
“I know what I feel good in, and as long as I feel good, then that's going to make everybody else around me feel comfortable.” [46:48]
“As women, we need to be more supportive of each other and celebrate each other's bodies and celebrate each other's successes.” [53:38]
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Resilience is one of the most important things you can do for your mental health and well-being. Being resilient is how single mothers go on to raise increible children. Being resilient is how generations that lived through war survive to tell the story and continue their traditions. The problem is that you may not feel resilient, and you may not have taken inventory lately to uncover how much adversity you’ve overcome. Adversity is the catalyst for change and the training agent we all need to bounce back from struggles with a stronger mind.
In part 4 of this series, Evy and Lisa are breaking down all the ways adversity and resilience make you the powerful badass woman that you are. This is how you can break the patterns that have been holding you back, become more resilient and reclaim power over your life. It’s time to answer the call and become more responsible to yourself.
Tips To Become Mentally Resilient
1. Be the Leader in Your Own Life
2. Taking Ownership Makes You More Powerful
3. Don’t Weaponize the Other Person’s Insecurities
Evy’s Nightly Journal Challenge:
1. Write 3 things you are grateful for
2. Write 3 things you want to do tomorrow
3. Write 3 things you could have done better today
Resilient Terms:
● Adversity: Difficult or misfortune
● Progressive Overload: Gradual increase weight, frequency, or reps to get stronger
● Hypertrophy: Increase and growth of muscle cells achieved through lifting weights
● Acceptance: Taking stance of non-judgemental awareness
● Ego: A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance
● Disruptor: A person or thing that interrupts an event, activity or process
SHOW NOTES:
Adversity | How adversity creates mental resilience and is better to embrace [0:44]
Shaped by Adversity | Evy and Lisa share ways they’ve pushed through adversity [6:55]
The Reframe | Remove the negative, find ways to make it work, & give yourself grace [17:01]
Take Ownership | Taking ownership makes you feel stronger & requires you to adapt [19:37]
Solution Mindset | Evy on being adaptable by shifting from problem narrative to solution [23:03]
Own It | How Lisa kicked herself into high gear and took ownership over her health [40:45]
Disruptors | 3 ways to interrupt feeling emotional: distance, time, and environment [41:42]
Lisa vs. Evy | It’s a battle of disruptors, whose disruptors take the win? What are yours? [57:26]
QUOTES:
“When you face adversity over a consistent period of time you know how to manage it, how to withstand it, it makes you stronger, it makes you more resilient” Evy Poumpouras [1:20]
“I take ownership of how I act and how I show up in the world.” Lisa Bilyeu [20:40]
“You are the recipient of whatever life is doing to you. You are affected, you are not affecting the world. The world is only affecting you.” Evy Poumpouras [22:07]
“If it was my fault then it means that I have the power to do something about it. If it’s someone else’s fault, then I’m waiting for someone else to fix me.” Lisa Bilyeu [29:19]
“It’s not okay to be vicious and mean to people, and it takes a lot of work to control that. It’s easy to lash out and rip somebody and shred them. It is not easy to control it.” Evy Poumpouras [52:27]
“If you engage with every fool you deal with you become as predictable as that fool. Stop responding to everything.” Evy Poumpouras [56:04]
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You’re no stranger to pain, none of us are. The heartbreaking reality is that too many women have allowed pain to fester and keep them stuck in cycles of negative thinking and habits that do not serve their higher purpose. Natasha Grano (a.k.a. Natasha Graziano) is no exception. She is a woman like many of us. She’s experienced unimaginable pain from sexual trauma to physical sickness, and barely being able to provide for her baby. She’s opening up the book with Lisa to discuss how she started shifting her thinking and became aware of all the ways her thinking could attract positive change or create more negativity and heartache. She is an instagram influencer with over 7 million followers, a best selling author, a model and so much more. She’s dropping so much wisdom in this episode you’ll want to take notes. The best way to create a new mindset that attracts the success you want starts with the story you create for yourself.
SHOW NOTES:
Self Talk | How having intentional and powerful talk changed Natasha’s life [1:01]
Being Worthy | What you focus on expands & changing your beliefs changes everything [5:28]
Attracting Energy | Your actions attract the energy you give, careful what you send out [9:27]
Creating A New You | Ways to change how you show up and build your character [13:44]
3rd Person Journal | How to amaze yourself and create the success you want [22:38]
Building Instagram | Going from broke and broken to Insta-famous best selling author [30:56]
Imposter Syndrome | What it took for to get over the fear and focus on the bigger picture [35:30]
Rejection | Using rejection as a rebound to fall and get back up when you have nothing [40:16]
Authentic Self | Why you can only ever be the best version of yourself and no one else [43:03]
5 Pillar Goals | Natasha shared 5 pillars of achieving goals, starting with clarity [46:17]
Gift of Pain | Why the painful experience of life contributes to your growth and beauty [47:48]
Law of Attraction | Why it’s not wishful thinking, it’s action that makes things happen [51:21]
QUOTES:
“If you can fix yourself, then you are able to show up in the world as the most amazing person, but if you do not fix yourself first, you can't ever pour out onto others.” [1:23]
“Whether you have a super positive or super negative thought, you are translating that to the universe through feeling.” [9:39]
“We can never be first place to someone else. Because they've already taken that slot, we can only ever be second place to them.” [43:21]
“It was in the failing of trying to be someone else that I discovered myself.” Lisa Bilyeu [45:05]
“When you look back at anything, in hindsight, it no longer has a negative connotation. It is now something that happened for you, to make you the person that you are today.” [48:23]
“Your outer reality is a direct reflection of your inner self beliefs. Who do you believe you're worthy of being.” [53:35]
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You’ve probably heard “it’s not how you start, but how you finish” and as cliche as it has become, it is such a powerful statement. Just because life starts out rough and harsh doesn’t mean it remains that way. Vanessa Lachey is a wife, mother, actress, model, and so much more and yet having her mother leave at the age of nine has not held her back. She shares with Lisa the perspective she’s developed over the years that has lead to her success and the release of her first book, Life from Scratch. Vanessa wants everyone to know that “creating your own happy ending,” traditions and happiness is always possible and within reach. If a life of shame and darkness or a string of failures and mistakes make it difficult to see how, she urges you to simply start with a time when you were your happiest and recreate from there.
To Purchase a Copy Vanessa’s book ‘Life From Scratch’: https://www.harpercollins.com/pages/lifefromscratch
SHOW NOTES:
New Tradition | Vanessa explains how she found her way to start a life from scratch [0:46]
No Regrets | Why living a life with no regrets started with knowing what you want [5:18]
Friend Traditions | Nurturing bonds with friends being intentional to stay connected [9:02]
Romantic Traditions | Making sure you don’t let important moments pass by big or small [13:15]
Saying No | How to say no to stress and anxiety to make room for what matters no guilt [16:21]
Self Care | Vanessa on what self care is for her to feel refreshed and better for others [19:36]
Communicating | How communication helped strengthen Vanessa’s family and marriage [23:41]
Future Rehearsal | Reframing mistakes, reshape the future, be prepared for what’s next [26:32]
QUOTES:
“You can make it happen! No one's going to bring you the job, no one's going to bring you the husband, it's not going to land in your lap. You have to be open to receiving it, to accepting it, but also [...] working on yourself to be ready for when it comes." [3:30]
“The hardest thing about friendship is reciprocity, where we always want to know that people have our back when we're down, but we don't ever think to reach out to them.” [11:00]
“In the moments of overwhelm or stress or anxiety, where's like that those are the times you really don't feel like it. But of course, those are the times that you really need it.” Lisa Bilyeu [16:22]
“Finding ways to say no to other things that will stress you out or give you anxiety to be able to say yes to the things that matter.” [16:32]
“People are really appreciative when you're like, ‘I'm going through a lot right now, and I think I over committed, can we raincheck, I don't know when ’” [18:04]
“When you hold it in and you blow up, you end up beating yourself up or you end up hurting someone close to you and then beating yourself up for hurting them.” [23:22]
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It seems like everywhere you look, society is constantly reminding us that successful, powerful women are failing at dating. In a survey that was listed this year on mantelligence.com states 64% of women prefer to find a husband who earns more money! So, are successful women raising the bar too high, expecting too much and are men feeling the pressure of having to step up their game and their status way higher than before? Being strong, independent and successful doesn’t necessarily come with an ego or attitude for women. So what is the best way for you to approach dating when you have your shit together and don’t want to be single?
Tom joins Lisa in this discussion and explores why at the root of this situation is a much needed conversation and a good working insecurity filter. It is important for women to understand that while there may be men that are intimidated by your success, there are also men that are confused by the mix of messages they are receiving from women. While one woman expects a man to pay for dinner another is easily offended. Have conversations while navigating the dating scene and meet people with compassion for where they are.
Survey mentioned: https://www.mantelligence.com/dating-statistics/
SHOW NOTES:
Facing Reality | Women being successful shrinks the dating pool, men want to lead [0:26]
Is It Insecurity? | Being intimidated is not insecurity, it can be what you want to be better at [3:55]
50/50 | Making a safe assumption half of men are insecure the other half aren’t into it [12:40]
Filter Insecurity | Why it’s not worth dating someone insecure and intimidated by you [14:58]
Attraction | Being attracted to what matters and enjoying what you’re better at matters [21:17]
Confusion Dating | Awareness that some women catch offence to a guy paying or not [24:36]
Feel Good | Understand both of you have something you are good at than the other [29:46]
QUOTES:
“Deal with the world the way it is not the way that you wish it were.” Tom Bilyeu [0:55]
“Feel good is an angle that people need to look at, instead of just writing everything off as insecurity.” Tom Bilyeu [9:04]
“With utter compassion, you clearly have insecurities that you need to work through, or find someone that isn't actually successful or wealthy as me, and that's totally fine.” Lisa Bilyeu [15:27]
“Have compassion for the people that have the insecurities” Lisa Bilyeu [16:40]
“Guys are judged by their height and access to resources, it's the fucking way that it is. Women are judged for beauty and youth, it's the way that it is.” [17:46]
“It's the differential. It's being good at something that you're not good at. It's you being good at something I'm not good at. That's what people like.” [24:26]
“While us women find ourselves in a situation where it's difficult because we want to be our own person, we want to be independent, we want to be around wealth creators, and yet, we still want this.” Lisa Bilyeu [26:32]
“People should very much avoid for their own reasons, avoid moralizing, or saying this is how people should be and help people move to where it is mutually better.” Tom Bilyeu [28:00]
When you hear about influence, maybe you think of influential people or you immediately think of social media influencers. Have you considered, however, your own influence? To varying degrees we all have some level of influence over someone or something. You probably have more influence than you take credit for and acknowledge. So, how are you using your influential power and do you know when and how to activate it and get the most out of it?
Evy Poumpouras, a former secret service agent, is sharing her own strategies of influence so that you can find creative ways to connect with people and stop getting steamrolled over. Having influence and knowing how to activate that influence is another ingredient for becoming unstoppable. In the first episode of this series, we talked about confidence, in the next episode Evy and Lisa took a deep dive into the skills you need to start using your voice. In this episode it’s time to add another layer and look at how to effectively off balance people’s perception of you and better adjust and navigate to the people and situations all around.
You can use these strategies to get people to say yes, stay in the forefront of their mind, and connect in a more authentic way.
Influential Terms:
Priming: exposure to one stimulus influences how a person responds
Reciprocity: exchange of something between two or more people where something is given
Stereotype: widely held and oversimplified idea of a particular type of person or thing
Common Ground: opinions or interests shared by two or more people
If you didn’t catch it the 1st time:
1st Episode of Unstoppable, Be Confident As Hell: https://youtu.be/kZ7R1T2GCQA
2nd Episode of Unstoppable, Use Your Voice: https://youtu.be/_vG_OcS5QiA
SHOW NOTES:
Priming | Tips for priming people you need to influence [0:57]
Pink Is Life | How to influence Evy into wearing pink on set [12:32]
Do Something for Them | Evy explains the idea of reciprocity [14:35]
Branding | The way you see yourself vs. the way others see you [24:08]
Swag Bag | Lisa reveals what’s inside Women Of Impact’s Swag Bag [31:27]
Common Ground | How to find common ground or create it [33:28]
Influence in Action | Evy shows how all these strategies work [48:32]
QUOTES:
“This is not about manipulating people, this is about setting you up so that you understand people, understand behavior and put them in a space where they feel comfortable and feel connected to you.” Evy Poumpouras [6:34]
“As long as you’re not manipulating or as long as You just don’t want this stuff to come off as disingenuous when you use influence techniques” Evy Poumpouras [41:35]
“We are resistant to things we don’t understand, we are negative towards things we don’t know, and we really want to break down those barriers and find the threads that connect us.” Evy Poumpouras [46:25]
“If you can just simplify people and find ways to connect and find that human element [...] how can I make you feel good about being with me and because I do that now I’ve influenced you to want to have a relationship with me.” Evy Poumpouras [48:12]
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A study referenced by the National Organization for Women, states that 53% of 13 year-old American girls are unhappy with their bodies. By the age of 17 the percentage of girls unhappy with their body increases to 78%! This isn’t a fad that ends when you reach womanhood, at least it doesn't seem to be the case for 60% of women surveyed in the U.K. How you feel about your body affects your confidence when you're dating and when you become more sexually active.
“Hands down, men and women say confidence is the sexiest trait in and out of the bedroom” Dr. Emily
So if you’re not feeling confident with your body image what are you supposed to do? Dr. Emily Morse returns to Women of Impact to give a lesson on confidence and some practical tips you can try right away! Being confident about your flaws and the parts of your body that you feel most insecure about is critical.
3 Ways To Boost Your Sexual Confidence (In and Out Of the Bedroom):
1. Make eye contact with yourself in the mirror
2. Look at yourself in the mirror in the nude and admire yourself.
3. Sign up for a pole dancing class or sensual dancing
SHOW NOTES:
Self Confidence | Dr. Emily on the importance of taking time to learn about yourself first [0:58]
Body Confidence | Why getting to a place of body acceptance is important to feel sexual [4:59]
Insecure Flaws | Acknowledging your physical flaws isn’t attractive or the right move [10:40]
The Journey | How confidence is a practice, and a tool you use to get what you want [14:42]
Aging Body | Celebrate your changing body and know that you deserve sexual pleasure [18:12]
Reprogram | Dr. Emily gives practical ways to surround yourself with realistic images [22:15]
Dating Confidence | How to show the real you when dating and not be confidently fake [26:39]
Body Counts | Dr. Emily warns you to never discuss how many people you slept with [31:24]
Good For You? | Why you should stop performing to please your partner and speak up [35:07]
Sex Positivity | Becoming sex positive and sex confident with no judgement [43:07]
QUOTES:
“We're not going to pick always the best partners, if we're just coming from desperation, or coming from a place of lack, or coming from a place of a deep insecurity that this person is going to complete me.” [1:51]
“A lot of women, too, are also focused on the external part of sex, which is how they look, and we're in our heads the whole time. But when we're in our heads, worrying about sex the whole time, the blood is washing away from our journals, and it's going to our head.” [13:15]
“I am my own worst critic, we are our own worst enemies. If we can also remember that, it's just really important to take a step back. Your thoughts are not the truth, and your thoughts are actually something that is keeping you from living the life that you want and finding the partners you want.” [21:47]
“You're choosing somebody whose difficulties you can work with, who's challenges you can work with.” [30:59]
“Never have this conversation, the body count conversation, or it used to be how many people you slept with [...] you should never have this conversation because we are setting ourselves up for failure.” [32:03]
“Find the partners that are invested in pleasure that have a growth mindset around sex, and pleasure..” [39:31]
“Before we go inward and start to beat ourselves up, just have a conversation, have a healthy conversation and remember to be open, and to be curious, and to be non judgmental, and to be an active listener.” [42:50]
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When was the last time you felt triggered? Was it a week ago? A few days ago? Within the last hour (no judgement here by the way)? Feeling triggered can not only make you feel threatened but it can also make you feel vulnerable and out of control in a situation. With stress and the potential for added stress on the rise everyday it’s more important than ever before to learn what’s triggering you and how to deal with it.
Lisa’s taking your questions and opening the floor to discuss emotional triggers so you can be better equipped and prepared the next time it happens. The best part is that in this Q & A, Lisa is being completely honest and transparent about how hard it really is to tackle your triggers while remaining cool, calm and collected. In this episode, we’re going to give ourselves permission to try, fail and escalate when the situation demands it of us to honor ourselves. It matters how you feel about yourself at the end of the day. When you lay down at night to rest, you want to be proud of how you showed up, how you stood up for yourself, and how you
responded without shame or embarrassment. Losing control, being mistreated and taken advantage of is a choice you make every day. Now Lisa is going to show you how to make that a conscious choice you can be proud of.
Lisa’s Empowering Tips & Takeaways:
- Remember how you felt the last time you lost control and use it to rewrite how you'll
respond next time. - Empathy can be a superpower when you have the right boundaries in place.
- Don’t allow someone else’s emotionally charged stay to dictate your emotional response.
- When you need to show up for yourself, ask yourself, what's more important, being there
for yourself? Or not offending people? - Know what kind of language to use in sticky situations so you can better handle them
and honor your boundaries to get the results you want.
SHOW NOTES:
Anger | How to not be triggered by emotions but stay cool, calm and collected [0:15]
Empathy | How empathy triggers boundaries needed to avoid being mistreated [8:08]
De-escalation | How to not get triggered by someone else’s emotional turmoil [15:03]
Guilt | How to stop being triggered by the guilt of being too assertive [24:48]
QUOTES:
“When you meet anger with anger, there's nowhere to go but up” [3:45]
“When it comes to people crossing your boundaries when it comes to you feeling like you are mistreated by your friends or people are taking advantage of you, that is a freakin 'choice.” [10:10]
“Stop dictating your actions based on how other people are going to perceive you, or whether you've hurt them or upset them or not.” [28:18]
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If you have ever dated someone and created expectations long before a commitment was ever discussed, or fallen victim to being gaslit and thinking you were crazy because of the person you were involved with, this episode is for you. Being single is great when it’s your choice, and you have other goals that rank higher on your list of priorities. But, when being single feels like an involuntary life status and no one you date seems to be working out, what are you supposed to do? We’ve pulled together 7 Tips for dating and getting rid of unreasonable expectations to help you find love in a healthy relationship that allows you the space and environment you need to thrive. These 6 relationship experts break down everything from why you have to stop trying to be the problem solver when he tells you why he doesn’t have time for you to reasons why you have to start prioritizing sex and stop getting too far ahead of yourself.
“Instead of going in with a curiosity, we go in with a conclusion.” Matthew Hussey
Also check the full episodes from any of these amazing clips here:
Matthew Hussey, Relationship Expert:
https://youtu.be/ny2KL8mYyFE
https://youtu.be/pse1IbIc7vM
Spirit, the Professor: https://youtu.be/2dkk3D8tXDs
Steph Purpura & Emily Morse: https://youtu.be/uTKIe8iVKls
Najwa Zebian: https://youtu.be/xWWSgnIGIRg
Stephan Labossiere, Relationship Coach: https://youtu.be/V96AzU8JZXA
Emily Morse: https://youtu.be/KLukArHg-vk
SHOW NOTES:
Tip #1 | You Get Ahead of Yourself [0:38]
Bonus | Matthew Hussey’s 4 Stages of Importance [5:10]
Tip #2 | You’re Not Actually Compatible [10:54]
Tip #3 | You Don’t Know How to Communicate [19:07]
Tip #4 | You Ignore Your Past [27:04]
Tip #5 | You’re Not Mature Enough [32:33]
Tip #6 | You Don’t Prioritize Sex [36:53]
Tip #7 | You Lack Self Awareness [41:18]
QUOTES:
“Instead of watching a story unfold, we've created the story before it's happened [...] so now what happens is our mind takes the 5% of what we know and uses it to build a story for the next 95%.” Matthew Hussey [2:06]
“You are hiring for the most important position on Earth. And that position is for your life mate. And that's how we have to see dating” Spirit [13:45]
“I had to understand how I got myself to a point where my whole self worth and my whole image of who I was, and understanding of who I was, was in someone's hands” Najwa Zebian [30:38]
“Just because someone took advantage of those needs, and of those dreams, it doesn't mean that something was wrong with me for wanting them, we all want love” Najwa Zebian [31:31]
“Recognize the difference between the person who does not belong in our life and continues to do wrong, and the person who does belong in our life, but makes mistakes.” Stephan Labossiere [35:36]
“As soon as you're having sex with somebody, it's time to start talking about it.” Emily Morse [40:19]
“At least allow your knowledge of how long you've been in the past to create the space for you to be curious instead of rushing to the end of the story already.” Matthew Hussey [45:10]
Follow Matthew Hussey: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/
Follow Spirit: https://www.instagram.com/talk2spirit/
Follow Steph Purpura: https://powerful-u.com/
Follow Emily Morse : https://sexwithemily.com/
Follow Najwa Zebian: https://najwazebian.com/
Follow Stephan Labossiere: https://www.stephanspeaks.com/
Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. More than 70% of people say they have regrets related to their ideal self. If you’re a human, you’ve most likely been in relationships and situations that spark regret, shame and confusion on what to do and who to be in the moment. So often, people spend time trying to please everyone around them. The way you dress, the way you style your hair, where you sit in the meeting, all of these decisions are so easily influenced by a want and desire to be given approval from the right people. But what about you? What do you want? How often are you spending time apologizing for feeling, and even better how often are you downplaying that you even feel anything? Najwa Zebian is an activist, poet and celebrated author. She joins Lisa for a second time to discuss how she came to radical self acceptance, and share the startling fact that we may actually be gaslighting ourselves when we diminish and disregard the pain we feel when vulnerability has been betrayed in the hands of the wrong person. Najwa’s Questions for Self-Acceptance: 1. Who are you? 2. Why do I believe what I believe? 3. Why do I live my life the way that I do? 4. Why am I scared of X, Y and Z? 5. Why are you so afraid of feeling pain? “When you build your home and other people you give them the power to make as homeless” -Najwa Zebian SHOW NOTES: Gaslighting Yourself | Why diminishing your painful experience lessens your self-worth [0:40] Homeless | How we build homes in others and end up homeless when they walk away [6:37] Toxic Savior | Trying to save someone doesn’t mean you’re owed anything, that’s toxic [9:47] Proof of Love | Examining the real cost of having someone love versus what you receive [16:03] Self-Aware | The need to be aware of your triggers and the filter you’ve created for life [19:56] Self-Acceptance | Self-acceptance versus indifference and know who you’re accepting [25:59] Identity Crisis | Najwa shares the personal crisis that made her question her identity [33:59] Being Hurt | Why you need to acknowledge the hurt and know healing in your power [39:30] Vulnerability | How to be open to vulnerability after being hurt even in protection mode [45:24] Unwinding Triggers | Finding the origin of your triggers and allow yourself to feel it [51:56] Self-Judgement | Not blaming or judging yourself for allowing things to happen [55:36] QUOTES: “You should never be okay with being treated that badly. You should never be okay with being betrayed. You should never be okay with having someone you trusted so much to turn around and treat you as if you never meant anything to them. You should never be okay with that.” Read by Lisa [0:46] “Don't push yourself to a point where you gaslight yourself out of your own pain” [2:09] “When pain knocks on your door, if you keep it out the door, yeah, it might stay there for a while, but you're adapting your life to noise in the background.” [5:45] “The foundation of your home is self acceptance and self awareness. Once you have those two elements, you can build whatever home you want within” [9:23] “Let me separate what I've chosen to give you from what you've chosen to reciprocate” [12:47] “You don't deserve someone's burdens to be placed on your back for them to believe that you actually love them.” [17:18] “Once you become aware of yourself, historically, and in the moment, you're golden” [25:49] “The one who broke you cannot heal you. You have to heal you. You can't expect the person who broke you into pieces to bring those pieces and say I'm gonna put you back together.” [42:32] “Vulnerability is beautiful, it is what's needed for connection to happen, but vulnerability [...] is being open to injury” [44:14] “Boundaries aren't about being in protection mode. Boundaries are about knowing that what you have within is so valuable that you will not allow certain people to come near it or hurt it or whatever. Boundaries stem from self worth.” [48:46] “The ending itself is not what you need to change, the storyline is what you need to change and that's in your hands.” [1:01:20] Follow Nejwa Zebian Website: https://najwazebian.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/najwazebian Twitter: https://twitter.cokkfdlk dfmlkfd m/najwazebian Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/najwazebian/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/najwazebian1 Podcast: https://najwazebian.com/stories-of-soul-podcast
Check out our sponsor: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Building a successful business takes confidence and some level of skill no matter who you are. As women, there are sets of challenges we face that have to become part of an intentional way through to success. Natalie Ellis and Danielle Canty are the genius inspiration, muscle and energy behind the infamous online community for ambitious women, BossBabe. Even after building an 8-figure business they share how imposter syndrome is still something to be dealt with at every level of success. They share the lessons and wisdom they’ve found along their journey and explain how to start having the right conversations to change your upper limits and reimagine what is possible. This episode is about having the understanding of the many forms of confidence it takes to be a successful entrepreneur and a Badass BossBabe! SHOW NOTES: Imposter Syndrome | Why imposter syndrome meets you at every level of success [0:35] Mindset | What it looks like being all in, getting resourceful, & deciding where to go [6:54] Competence | Finding confidence in what’s unknown through growing competence [9:06] Capabilities | How women doubt themselves more and ways to have more confidence [12:39] Confidence | Recognizing what your good at and celebrating yourself and others [14:32] Receiving | People struggling to receive compliments without deflecting back [19:26] Recognition | Why being recognized is important and can create positive spiral [22:28] Communication | Being open to conversation, being more efficient, avoiding triggers [25:19] Managing Emotions | Advice to manage emotions in business & personal relationships [29:15] Triggered | Being triggered and learning to work through it and not taking feeling as truth [34:33] Lifestyle | How lifestyle decisions impact confidence, productivity, and your responsibility [37:00] F.O.M.O. | Pursuing your goals and sticking to your decisions over what you miss [46:03] Money Talk | Why women are uncomfortable talking about money & the need for more [51:04] Upper Limit | Pushing through upper limits to find success without overwhelm [1:02:09] QUOTES: “Give yourself a reality check and do it anyway. There really is nothing that is going to set you up for success more than just being willing to do something, getting resourceful, leaving your excuses at the door and not waiting for anything to be perfect.” Natalie Ellis [1:28] “A lot of my imposter syndrome was doing the things that I actually wanted to do, and the thought of not doing them then became worse or like the thought of not achieving the goals became worse than the imposter syndrome.” Danielle Canty [3:09] “You have to own how you're feeling. So that you can start addressing it head on.” Danielle Canty [5:51] “If you're all in with something, you get resourceful. I can't say that enough, getting resourceful being the kind of person that just figures it out.” Natalie Ellis [7:31] “When you look at people who are famous or experts in the industry, they start at nowhere, like they started at the beginning to” Danielle Canty [12:17] “The people around me that actually matter will celebrate that I'm celebrating myself. And if they don't, I can't be around them.” Natalie Ellis [15:54] “If you struggle to receive, it's actually very hard, [...] like you actually repel that too, because you're just not good at receiving anything: knowledge, money, love any of it.” Danielle Canty [21:18] “You have to take responsibility for your words, your actions, everything. If you want to change your life, if you want to do something new, if you want to, if you don't like the situation, you have to take responsibility.” Danielle Canty [27:17] “Your only success was going to be mentally and physically capable of being.” Danielle Canty [39:16] “I don't have FOMO so much because whatever I'm missing out on is a choice.” Natalie Ellis [46:54] “Choosing an easy life now leads to a harder life later. Choosing a hard life now leads to an easy life later.” Danielle Canty [50:38] “If women are serious about building wealth it's important to really acknowledge that, and claim that, and not be ashamed to talk about it.” Natalie Ellis [53:40] “You get to change your narrative around money, you get to learn about money, and you get to understand how other people use money is part of the process.” Danielle Canty [55:39] Follow Natalie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamnatalie Follow Danielle Canty: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellecanty/ Follow Boss Babes: Website: https://bossbabe.com/ Podcast: https://bossbabe.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bossbabe.inc/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/teambossbabe/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6h1nurnE-9auq41a5oiPnA
This episode is brought to you by Evy's new course Becoming Bulletproof: How To Read People And Detect Deception. Go to http://Bulletproof.ImpactTheory.com to learn more. Though we all know how important communication is for literally every relationship you have, very few have taken the time to learn how to do it well. When communication is not done well, relationships suffer, individuals suffer and the consequences can be high stakes. If there’s any chance of your communication needing improvement, you’re in the right place. Grab and pen and paper, you’ll want to take notes and add this to your favorite playlist to listen to again. Evy Poumpouras is a former secret service agent and an Unstoppable Badass, here to lay out everything you need to know about communication alongside Unstoppable Badass, Lisa Bilyeu. Spoiler Alert! This is about you, and the tactics you can learn and practice to improve your communication skills to build rapport. It’s not about what the other person should do. Unstoppable Women of Impact Tips: ● Build rapport ● Tell the other person exactly what you’re looking for Evy’s Strategies for Building Rapport 1. Acceptance: recognize what is being said without trying to change or protest it. 2. Adaptability: able to adjust to new conditions or circumstances. 3. Autonomy: having the capacity to make informed and uncoerced decisions. 4. Empathy: ability to see from the other person’s perspective Unstoppable Communication Questions to Ask: ● Who are you speaking to? ● Who is that person? ● How do I speak to this person? ● What is your goal and what is the best way for you to achieve that goal? Unstoppable Key Terms: Rapport: The ability to understand and communicate with people Mirroring: When one person imitates how the person across moves, talks or acts Identify Based Motivation: Where perception of self motivates you to take action toward a goal Instrumental Based Motivation: The end state is what’s motivating the person to take action Relational Motivation: The way that two or more people are connected Order Evy Poumpouras’ book, Becoming Bulletproof: https://amzn.to/3hDQ4e4 SHOW NOTES: Build Rapport | Eva on why established rapport is a ping pong match for communication [0:45] Strategies | 4 ways to build rapport and keep people talking and communicating [1:41] Using Strategies | Example for using these strategies with close relationships & situations [8:07] Building Blocks | How building rapport establishes connection, trust and faith [10:23] Close Relationships | Handling rapport and these strategies with close family & friends [13:28] Being Adaptable | Not being so rigid, allowing people the space y build rapport [16:15] Lisa’s Rapport | Lisa shares behind the scenes ways that she builds rapport with guests [17:51] Get In Synch | Identity motivation vs instrumental motivation & getting to cooperation [19:26] Cooperative Zone | When you find a way to move the conversation forward together [26:53] Motivation | Eva explains how to use base motivations to get in synch and adapt [33:20] Identity Vs. Instrumental | Lisa and Eva showing you how it’s done [34:03] Choose Your Words Thoughtfully | Define words that you use, comply vs. resist [35:40] ‘No’ | Improving ways that you say no with compassion and without being harsh [41:38] ‘Sorry’ | Ways that language diminishes you when you apologize for everything [43:13] Word Play | How words land with people: powerful, shut people down, provoke reaction [46:25] Word Challenge | Lisa & Eva share how different words make them feel [47:13] QUOTES: “When it comes to communication, rapport is king. When you have rapport you have trust. When you have trust you have cooperation.” Evy Poumpouras [0:48] “I have someone who’s giving me no trust, and I want to move that relationship forward, I do it through rapport.” Evy Poumpouras [8:00] “People don’t remember what you say to them, what people remember is how you make them feel.” Evy Poumpouras [26:23] “Rather than me trying to change you, I’m going to adapt to you.” Evy Poumpouras [29:23] “Language can also diminish you and there are some people who their language is littered with, ‘I’m sorry’ and I think when you use that language when it lands on that person, it lands in a negative way for you.” Evy Poumpouras [43:39] Follow Evy Poumpouras: Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/
Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Girls begin going through puberty as early as 8 years old. From the moment you become aware of your body and people begin commenting on your changes, shame, discomfort, and confusion begin to settle in. While we all settle into our bodies in different ways and at different ages, the harsh reality is that 53% of American girls are not happy with their bodies by 13 years of age and by 17 the amount of unhappy girls grows to 78%! Behind the onslaught of body image issues and societal pressures that mark the barometer of where you fall on the ‘acceptance meter,’ are a mounting number of quietly misdiagnosed hormonal issues. Dr. Sara Gottefried is a Harvard and M.I.T. graduate, medical physician, and NY Times bestselling author of, The Hormone Cure. She shines light on the issues women are having with being properly diagnosed, treated and even heard on health issues that have been sold as not being related. As females, the number of factors that impact our hormones, our moods, our ability to function and feel like we have worth and value is mind-blowing. Dr. Gottfried is sharing some of the issues, their sources, how to resolve them and most importantly how to speak up confidently for yourself. She’s debunking myths about what’s the best diet for you and misconceptions around the “man hormone” testosterone and why it’s so critical for female health. “Genetics loads the gun and food pulls the trigger” SHOW NOTES: Misconceptions | Ways women can take ownership of their health and transparent risks [0:51] Testosterone | Why testosterone can cause problems with confidence and empowerment [4:15] Hormones | Identifying hormonal issues, and why cortisol is a big concern to watch for [7:13] Precision Medicine | How it starts with diet, lifestyle, & nutrition observed with wearables [13:34] Average Treatment | Dr. Gottfried shares reality of how medicine for the average works [16:58] After 40 | How hormonal changes affect women and allows us to speak our truth more [20:35] Food Plan | How to use elimination diet to assess how food is impacting your health, [24:15] Eating for Hormones | Connecting the dots between your food, hormones and mood [32:05] Body Messages | Stop ignoring the messages your body is sending you [38:33] Antibiotics | The havoc antibiotics caused Dr. Gottfried’s microbiome, changing it by 87% [43:28] Feeling Shame | How shame is holding you back from being honest about your health [46:29] Confidence | Feeling okay with challenging your doctor and getting hormones checked [52:38] Fertility Value | Women not given full evaluation and tests based on not wanting kids [54:52] Gut Related | Dr Gottfried explains why gut health has everything to do with estrogen [57:10] Nutrigenomics | How genetics predict food and nutrient response to gluten, salt, caffeine [58:30] QUOTES: “Whatever you're experiencing, is your truth, and you don't need a doctor to validate that for you.” [2:35] “When it comes to your hormones. Your food is the backbone of the hormones that you make.” [32:10] “What is a perfect meal for you today might be different than 10 years ago might be different than five years from now.” [36:32] “Women have such clear messages about what's going on in their body, and yet were invalidated when we bring them to our doctors.” [38:56] “It is normal for women to be moody. I just want to normalize that right now, that is totally cool, like that is our superpower to use our moodiness to use our willingness to speak our truth...” [47:56] “A big part of stepping into our power is not just not allowing a physician to disrespect you, but to not do it to yourself, like not reinforce the habit by putting up with it.” [54:11] “Medicine is set up to reinforce fertility in women.” [55:34] “Genetics is part of the story. Environment is a bigger part of the story. So, the way that we sometimes think of it is that genetics loads the gun, but environment pulls the trigger.” [1:01:27] “So much It is under your control the choices you make with food, the time that you go to bed tonight, the amount of morning sun that you get the, the people that you feed yourself with…” [1:04:59] Follow Sara Gottfried: Website: https://www.saragottfriedmd.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrGottfried Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saragottfriedmd/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrGottfried/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drgottfried/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrGottfried
Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Boundaries don’t push people away, they can actually make relationships closer. Anna Yusim says, “the stronger your boundaries, the closer you can get to somebody.” Have you ever stopped to think about boundaries in that way? I’m sure many of you, myself included, are guilty of thinking if we have stronger boundaries we’ll end up pushing people away. The fear we face of disappointing people or somehow offending them can easily keep us stuck in a space of not honoring ourselves. This episode is for all the strong women (even if you don’t feel strong every day) that need a little more assurance that it’s not only okay to have boundaries, but it’s essential to the health of your relationships and critical for your own mental health. Start standing up for yourself (no one else can) and prioritize you, your needs, and what matters for you to flourish in the life you choose to live. SHOW NOTES: Tip #1 | Communicate Your Boundary [0:34] Tip #2 | Set Boundaries with Those Close to You [5:34] Tip #3 | Know Who’s In Your Corner [14:03] Tip #4 | Get Clear on Your Priorities [18:30] Tip #5 | Separate work from your personal life [22:20] Tip #6 | Stand up for yourself [27:30] Tip #7 | Decide if the boundary is worth breaking [32:15] QUOTES: “A lot of times it means them changing, it means them experiencing you differently. It might mean them not having that role that used to play for them performed anymore, and they might need to find somewhere else to go with that need.” Nicole Lepera [2:31] “To know your own boundaries, you have to be comfortable enough with yourself to really feel in real time what you're comfortable doing versus not.” Anna Yusim [6:01] “Not every person in your family can help you promote growth, and to create an environment for you to incubate hope some people are blowing your candle out while you're trying to get the flame going” Sara Jakes Roberts [14:20] “What I do need to carefully covet and protect is my time because I can't get more of that.” Chalene Johnson [22:06] “Assertive is clearly stating what you want or need, being mindful of your tone, and trying to say it in the right setting.” Nedra Glover Tawwab [28:46] “If you're trying to turn these healthy habits into a lifestyle, you have to learn how to hold your boundaries in those social situations.” Melissa Urban [35:03] “There's no guilt, there's no shame, there's a consequence, and the only person who can decide at that consequences worth it is you” Melissa Urban [37:34] Follow Anna Yusim: https://www.annayusim.com/ Follow Sara Jakes Roberts: https://sarahjakesroberts.com/ Follow Chalene Johnson: https://www.chalenejohnson.com/ Follow Nicole Lepera: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ Follow Natalie Ellis: https://bossbabe.com/ Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Follow Melissa Urban: https://whole30.com/
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Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. At what age did you become aware of your body? How long after becoming aware of your body did you start to feel shame or embarrassment? When your walking down the street, sitting in a class, at work, or scrolling through social media, everywhere you look, consciously or unconsciously you are silently judging others and judging yourself. Maybe you think to yourself, ‘she’s so pretty,’ ‘at least I have more curves than her,’ or ‘she’s too skinny (or fat).’ From Khloe Kardashian to Billie Eilish, from your grandmother to your best friend and the last woman you saw today, everyone seems to be struggling with body image, self-love and confidence. Emme, the first plus-size supermodel that flipped modeling industry standards for how thick or thin is actually beautiful, joins Lisa and discusses her experience getting into modeling and on her first big photo shoot, being called a ‘fatty’.Emme is an international ambassador and champion for changing beauty standards to help “real” women embrace and love the body they have. She is speaking out against unrealistic standards and talking about leveling up your life, your vibe, your passion and purpose for living. For more information on eating disorders and body image issues, Emme highly recommends: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/ SHOW NOTES: Big Photo Shoot | Photographer refuses to work with Emme. This was her response [0:31] Not About Me | Emme on why it's more about where the other person is coming from [4:31] Fear | Identifying when people are coming at you from a place of fear and bullying [7:45] Body Dysmorphia | Think about what your relationship is with food and view of self [8:53] Comparison | Emme on why comparison is problem, know what’s right for you first [12:11] Solutions | Limiting social media, knowing yourself and connecting to nature is a start [15:00] Gratitude | Reframing gratitude and having appreciation for your body and soul [19:15] Confident | Emme shares how she found confidence in spite of body shaming at home [22:48] Empowered | You choose your journey and how you decide to feel, it’s empowerment [29:51] Self Talk | How to talk to yourself & counter negative self talk, you’re a work in progress [33:38] Self Acceptance | Love yourself and be free with who you are in the present moment [35:33] Passion |How to live a full with joy and a meaningful life with purpose on purpose [38:36] QUOTES: “If I let one person trip me off of my game, that's my fault. [...] you don't know where people come from with their own ideas of body image” [3:31] “The goal is always to be the master of your own universe” [10:49] “It touches me deeply when you can really get into that place of gratitude, and thankfulness when it's all hairy and crazy all around you and you can save yourself” [19:15] “You learn and then you go forward, and it's like life was presenting me with opportunities to get beyond that, but not to forget it.” [27:04] “Set yourself free to be able to to be okay with just exactly who you are in this present moment. Not a second later. Not a second from before, but right here. And now.” [35:35] “go for what really gets you so excited that [...] gets you so excited that when you talk about it and when you're engaged with it, that you feel it all throughout your body and you know that that moment of truth is real.” [39:41] “Go for what really gets you so excited that I'm goosebumps and pumps all over gets you so excited that when you talk about it and when you're engaged with it, that you feel it all throughout your body and you know that that moment of time Truth is real.” Follow Emme: Website: https://www.emmestyle.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/supermodelemme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theofficialemme/?hl=en
This episode is brought to you by Evy's new course Becoming Bulletproof: How To Read People And Detect Deception. Go to Bulletproof.ImpactTheory.com to learn more. In this special episode Lisa and Evy tag team and bring you into their world of confidence and share all the tips you need to walk into your day with the most confidence. As Lisa shares, competence is confidence, and this episode is about empowering women to become more confident and learn what it means to be unstoppable. Former Secret Service Agent and friend of the show, Evy Poumpouras, never disappoints and challenges you to reflect on all that you’ve overcome and everything you’ve accomplished to give your confidence an immediate boost. Think about your daily habits and examine if those habits are building your confidence or diminishing your confidence. TIPS FROM THIS EPISODE: ● Don’t be afraid to raise your voice ● Be proactive to avoid being reactive ● Use clothes to feel confident and also affect how others perceive you ● Don’t let people's negative perception of you affect how you present yourself ● Being authentic to yourself helps you feel grounded and confident ● Shift and adapt to what you are doing and how you feel A CHALLENGE FROM EVY: Write a list of the greatest accomplishments and difficulties you’re overcome. SOMETHING TO TRY ASAP FROM LISA: Put on your best outfit and say out loud, ‘I got this,’ ‘I’m confident,’ ‘I’m unstoppable!” Order Evy Poumpouras’ book, Becoming Bulletproof: https://amzn.to/3hDQ4e4 SHOW NOTES: Confident Woman | How to step into a space with comfort of being woman not stereotype [0:50] Watch Self Talk | Flip negative voices so you are not tearing yourself down with words [4:00] Confident Now | Looking at your accomplishments can help boost your confidence now [11:00] The Inner Voice | Listen in on the inner voice Lisa and Evy use to push through training [14:15] Over Prepare | How preparation is the secret to confidence, over preparing is peace [15:18] Proactive | The value of having a plan in place, not being reactive, just being prepared [21:20] Lisa’s Prep | Quick peak into how Lisa prepares for another amazing interview [25:54] Look Confident | What you wear has an effect on the way you act & feel about yourself [27:07] Identity | Remaining confident and not having your identity tied solely to how you look [37:17] Camera Ready | Behind the scenes of how Evy and Lisa get ready to show up confident [42:24] QUOTES: “Confidence is not like genetics, you either have it or you don’t. I really think it’s like a skill you cultivate [...] I think you build it by gaining competence.” Lisa Bilyeu [6:07] “50% is what the world does to you but 50% is you. This you can manage, and so if you want to be those things and you want to change those things, it’s something you can do.” Evy Poumpouras [13:21] “When I’m over prepared, it’s one less thing I have to worry about.” Evy Poumpouras [16:36] “I am proactive at prepare, prepare, so that when things happen I am less reactive. When you’re reactive you’re sloppy, you’re emotional, you’re in that moment, you’re going to make mistakes, you’re not sure.” Evy Poumpouras [23:20] “We shift and adapt to how we’re feeling in that moment to what we’re doing, or maybe what we’re trying to feel.” Evy Poumpouras [39:41] Follow Evy Poumpouras: Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/ Check out our AMAZING theme song by Lorenzo Taft here: https://open.spotify.com/album/12AV0W5m9SyUBE7GG6Liw8?si=LAp9IIl1TzSgAUWIZ5tA4Q&dl_branch=1
Check out our sponsor: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! So, you’re up early, get the kids ready (or not), grab a coffee and you’re running out the door to start another- busy day. The problem is everyday is a busy day, and the reality is that a majority of women (and men too) never feel like there are enough hours in the day. This leads to more stress and more anxiety. Add to all this the fact that in 2020 it was estimated the average person was spending almost 2 and a half hours on social media every day. This would be okay, except that Dr. Wendy Suzki points out that continuous exposure to news and social media is contributing heavily to anxiety and stress. According to Dr. Wendy, there are healthy levels of stress you need in your life, and there are detrimental levels of stress and anxiety that do you no favors. So how do you cope with all the added stress? Avoid it? Pretend it’s not a thing, or even worse, spiral out of control ? There are free, simple, very portable and easy ways to effectively lower levels of “everyday stress and anxiety.” Dr. Wendy Suzuki is a Neuroscientist and Psychology professor that brings movement, joy and fun into brain science. This episode is best listened to before your next anxious situation or immediately after if it’s too late. Order Dr. Wendy’s new book, Good Anxiety, Harnessing the Power of The Most Misunderstood Emotion: https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1982170735?tag=simonsayscom SHOW NOTES: Value of Anxiety | Dr. Wendy on why anxiety is a protective emotion that is really valuable [0:41] Identify Anxiety | Dr. Wendy explains how anxiety shows up and useful tips to calm down [4:30] Self-Reflection | How to productively reflect on your anxiety to rebalance with positivity [8:40] Connection to Smell | Dr. Wendy explains why smell is so effective conditioning memory [10:51] Foolish Reframing | Why calling failure a failure is healthier than pretending you don’t [17:10] ‘What If’ Playlist | Dr. Wendy explains how to turn worry into action with a positive effect [25:44] Social Stress| Being prepared for social situations and the danger loneliness is shocking [29:32] Get Moving | Dr. Wendy on power of movement with verbal information you can do now [34:45] 5 Points in Anxiety | 5 points to help emotionally regulate and get out of anxiety [36:24] Change Responses | Dr. Wendy explains why your brain is capable of change for better [39:42] Power Reminders | What you remind yourself matters and your brain can learn anything [41:44] QUOTES: “I like to call a big failure, a big failure. And I think it's healthy, to be able to, to be able to admit that and to learn from it, because everybody has failures.” [18:34] “Negative emotions, like embarrassment and fear and worry, are very useful for us.” [19:02] “We are human, we have this whole array of emotions for a reason, and the reason for those negative emotions is to help us learn, help us learn about ourselves, help us motivate ourselves.” [20:00] “It helped me realize how much wisdom comes from great pain.” [23:24] “Just because that scary person or that scary question is there doesn't mean you have to go there. You can tactfully and thoughtfully avoid that to decrease your anxiety.” [38:06] “The human brain is the most powerful structure known to humankind, and it was designed to learn.” [43:11] “You can train your brain to learn anything. If you remember that. That is the best mindset that you can go into life with.” [43:58] Follow Dr. Wendy Suzuki: Website: https://www.wendysuzuki.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/wasuzuki Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.suzuki/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WendyASuzuki/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-suzuki-5a509411/
Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. How many times have you come across that person that really sparks your interest and makes you want to get serious? What about that moment when you find out they’re not ready for a serious relationship, they just want to have fun, or go with the flow and see where things go. If you’re honest, how many mental gymnastics have you gone through to continue pursuing a relationship like that? You know they don’t want the same level of commitment, but you just feel like, ‘if only I hang in there long enough…’ Matthew Hussey is no stranger to Women of Impact and in this episode he’s addressing everything you need to know about commitment and why trying to commit and stick it out with someone who’s already told you they aren’t ready is not only foolish, but it’s high stakes and a total waste of your time. Matthew is the relationship expert many of you already know and love, but get ready because in this episode he’s going off to let you know how serious he is about the time you’re wasting on people that just don’t want a relationship. It’s hard truth ladies, but it’s a powerful dose of medicine you may need right now. Make sure to check out this FREE 30 Day Challenge from Matthew Hussey to build confidence: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/challenge/ SHOW NOTES: Committing | How dating apps and social media has made fear of commitment worse [0:59] Giving Yourself | Why it’s only painful in the wrong hands and choosing who to give to [6:36] Conditional Love | The costs involved with committing and how to assess what’s worthy [10:04] Energy Management | Protecting yourself from dating burnout from misplaced energy [13:50] Dating History | When a person’s character is questionable from their relationship history [19:00] Trust Yourself | Trust your gut and rely on people around you to make accurate decisions [24:16] Validation | Engineering answers you want to hear and not being honest about yourself [29:16] Communication | The purpose is making progress through the friction to get closer [32:39] Timing | Staying with someone not ready stunts their growth and wastes your time [41:00] Not Ready | When someone says they’re not ready what’s the best way to proceed [47:11 High Stakes | Why it’s arrogant to think you can change someone to want a relationship [50:15] QUOTES: “When we're away from someone and we're investing in them through our thoughts. Even if it's not visible to them, we're investing psychologically in the situation.” [3:10] “Take the beauty in what you gave, and know that in the right hands, that remains a beautiful thing.” [7:49] “The danger is if we say giving equals pain. No, giving doesn't equal pain. Ignoring things, ignoring the fact that I'm giving to the wrong person equals pain.” [8:29] “Romantic relationships are conditional, because who would want to be in a relationship long term with someone who never gave back?” [9:56] “Your game is not to worry about someone else. Your game is energy management for yourself.” [13:50] “I have a limited amount of energy. Not everyone can have it. And my heart isn't something I give. It's a house that I invite people into.” [14:36] “Character is something that you see in people's actions every day. It's not in a grand gesture. It's what behavior Am I seeing from this person every day” [20:40] “On a first date, your job is not to be a human lie detector. Your job is to see if what they're saying aligns with the kind of person you're seeing in front of you.” [24:19] “Every time we're hung up on a mistake we've made or something someone else has done, or whatever we're not, we're not living in the moment of what can be made beautiful now.” [40:16] “The fallacy is that, because I've invested this much time and energy, I now have to make it work. That is the easiest way to throw away your life.” [43:02] “Assuming that the relationship that evolves is going to fit the template that you want for somebody else, that's fantasy” [52:40] “You have all this pain staying here anyway. So at least have the pain that's a question mark. This pain is a period, it's not a question mark. At least leaving means possibility.” [56:34] Follow Matthew Hussey: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/ Website: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/
Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Real Good Foods: Click the link for $25 OFF any order of $25 or more! https://realgoodfoods.com/discount/WOMENOFIMPACT In what ways did last year’s pandemic impact you as an individual? Yes, it was disruptive to all of our daily lives, routines, and relationships, but what fundamentally changed about you as a person? Mel Robbins, author of the 5 Second Rule, joins Lisa for the first time on Women of Impact, and she came in so real, so raw and so authentic to her truth, her failures and how much she uncovered and found unhinged in her own life from the pandemic. If you’ve been dealing with any kind of self-doubt or if you’ve ever stood eye to eye with yourself in the mirror and felt disappointed, disconnected or unworthy this interview is going to speak straight to your core. Mel is sharing the power she found in giving herself a simple high and why this simple gesture that packs so much meaning may be the catalyst you need to start connecting with yourself again and start dealing with the truths and pain we’ve all ran from at some time or another. Maybe you’re still running. If you are, sit down, catch your breath, and dare to see yourself in a new light today. Order Mel’s new book, The High 5 Habit: https://www.amazon.com/High-Habit-Take-Control-Simple-ebook/dp/B096JQSWQ6 SHOW NOTES: The Imposter | Mel exposes feeling like a total failure leading up to her Impact Theory interview High 5 Attitude | How Mel developed a high five attitude in the middle of perceived failure Pursue Dreams | What happens when something becomes so important to you, it takes over High 5 Habit | How Mel formed the high habit standing in her bathroom on a bad day Mirror Moments | Mel breaks down the power of taking a moment in the mirror in the mornings Celebration | Mel exposes how self validation and celebration is hard wired & not to be denied Put Yourself 1st | How to acknowledge your own existence by fulfilling your own needs R.A.S. | Mel explains the reticular activity system as a hair net and a filter you control Visualization | Mel breaks down why visualizing the suck part of the process is more effective Responsibility | Mel on how you are your own responsibility and that’s liberating power High 5 Your Heart | Mel breaks down why placing your hands on your heart helps anxiety Stop Running | How being busy is a distraction from the need to face yourself, slow down! Self Relationship | Mel on the importance of loving and respecting yourself first regardless Failing to Win | Mel gives the difference between loser mentality and winning mentality Look Forward | Mel shares why you have to look at the best days ahead not what past QUOTES: “Your feelings are going to rise and they're going to fall, and feeling nervous and feeling scared and feeling on edge and imposter syndrome, it's all normal stuff. You’ve got to develop the ability to feel all that stuff, have your cheeks be as red as a baboon’s butt, and walk out there and do it anyway.” “You need celebration and support so that you can do those things that you deserve and you want in your life.” “When you realize you can change the filter in your mind, at any time, you can silence the bullshit you've been saying to yourself.” “Instead of visualizing the finish line, which is what we all want to jump to in life, right? Visualize all the crappy, horrible things you have to do, in order to get to the finish line. [...] If you just visualize the good stuff, you are not preparing yourself to do the work that it takes to get that stuff.” “You are not responsible for the shit that was done to you. Period. You survived it, which shows you're worth celebrating, but you are responsible for healing, for changing and for who you become next.” “Know that no matter what, you are going to be okay. Because you have your own back.” “Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of every single relationship that you have. If you don't love and respect yourself, how on earth are you going to do that for other people?” “At any moment, you can choose to change, but no one's going to come in and do it for you. You got to look yourself in the mirror and you gotta say ‘I see you. I see that you're not happy, and I'm going to fucking do something about it.’” Follow Mel Robbins: Website: https://melrobbins.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins
Relationships inevitably have arguments, fights, and disagreements, but are you experiencing them more than normal? Are they taking a toll on the relationship? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to address these questions and discuss how to overcome chronic fighting and begin loving each other instead. They talk about how arguing is a sign of deeper issues, why you need to choose compassion, the importance of reframing your partners motives and understanding their perspective, how to let go and move on from arguments, and tools you can use to deescalate any disagreement. SHOW NOTES: Constant Fighting | Lisa and Tom address a couple’s case of constant-explosive arguing. [0:35] Collision of Values | Tom and Lisa on how arguments are about something much deeper. [3:41] Choose Compassion | Tom and Lisa discuss strategically approaching problems. [4:34] Reframe Motives | Tom describes the letter he wrote himself to hack his neurochemistry. [7:30] Understanding | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need sympathy for your partner. [10:04] Fight for Them | Tom and Lisa reveal you need to know if you want to fight for them. [11:49] Let Go | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of truly letting go and moving forward. [13:39] Needs | Lisa recalls a time when both her and Tom’s deep needs weren’t in sync. [16:32] Tactics | Lisa and Tom discuss effective practices to keep yourself rooted in love. [19:31] QUOTES: “You can’t let dust settle in a relationship.” [2:10] “There’s a generosity of framing.” [10:04] “It comes down to people’s ability to make something sacred.” [21:12] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Gaslighting is one of those words that once you hear about it, you think to yourself “that’s what I’ve been dealing with all this time!?” When someone is gaslighting you, they are undermining your reality by denying facts and making you think you’re crazy. You find yourself asking questions like: Am I at fault? Did I do something wrong? Am I crazy? Do I need to start recording my conversations? Nedra Glover Tawwab is joining Lisa in this episode to take a deeper dive into manipulation and more specifically, gaslighting. If you’ve been in a relationship where you weren’t even aware that you were being gaslit, or you didn’t have the word to perfectly capture all the craziness and frustration, this is for you! Knowing how to recognize it is the first step in knowing how to respond and avoid being a victim of gaslighting in the future. These are unhealthy relationships to be a part of, getting the knowledge you need so you can apply it in the future is the beginning of stepping into your power. 3 Impactful Ideas from Nedra: 1. It's completely okay to not be perfect. 2. Arguing is a choice. 3. Conflict is a growth tool. Check Out Nedra’s 1st Episode, Don’t Be Manipulated: https://youtu.be/RslMYasPpxo SHOW NOTES: Gaslighting | Nedra explains why most people don’t realize it’s happening Apologies | The harm of apologizing when it’s not your fault, not being given apology Change Behavior | Focus on the behavior first not the origin story, action is a must Arguing | Nedra breaks down why arguing is a choice, you do not have to engage Speak Up | Nedra on finding courage to stand your ground and say it’s not your fault Internal Work | Practicing how to externalize the internal dialogue you should be having Be Assertive | Nedra explains difference between assertive and aggressive behavior Behaviors to Stop | Nedra breaks down conflict, the need to be right and denying others Preferences | Nedra exposes why arguing is usually about preferences Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: Website: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nedratawwab/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/nedratawwab/_created/
We’ve heard it from every relationship advice column ever: communication is key. But what does that even mean? In this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share their secrets for effective communication. Now you have the chance to learn easily what they had to learn with great difficulty to make their relationship last for over 20 years. After you watch this episode, you'll know why communication is the secret to a long-lasting relationship and how to communicate in the right way. Furthermore, Lisa and Tom share how to use the right love language with your partner. SHOW NOTES: Why communication is the secret to a long-lasting relationship and how to communicate in the right way. [1:02] How to use the right love language with your partner. [2:24] The one word that Tom should never use because Lisa gets very upset. [2:59] QUOTES: “I think the more areas you have specific, discussed, and agreed-upon rules of engagement, the better off you´re gonna be.” [0:46] “Let me tell you if you know certain words gonna rub the other person the wrong way, don´t use them in an argument.” [2:24] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. In 2018, ‘toxic’ became Oxford’s word of the year. You’ve likely fallen victim to toxic behaviors in different relationships in your life. Even more shocking, is that you’ve even been toxic at varying times in your life. We all have. Whether the word is overused and completely misunderstood, this episode will help you think through toxic relationships and behaviors that may be costing you more than you know. After this episode, you’ll be able to identify some of the relationships that are no longer serving you and start examining the options you have for letting go of toxic people. Learning to set boundaries and identify language that you can use to spot red flags will serve you for many years to come. Don’t miss the full episodes of these incredible guests on Women of Impact: Sarah Jakes Roberts - https://youtu.be/IbriO6QIxoU Dr. Ramani - https://youtu.be/uwtwnIxSO9s Amy Morin - https://youtu.be/fHzaceSFLwg Matthew Hussey - https://youtu.be/ny2KL8mYyFE Nedra Glover Tawwab - https://youtu.be/RslMYasPpxo Lori Gottlieb - https://youtu.be/gBRwYDZ4Vrs SHOW NOTES: Vilify Toxicity | Don’t Vilify Toxic People with Sara Jakes Roberts [2:36] Complainers | Avoid Complaining About Them with Amy Morin [6:30] Vulnerabilities | Be Thoughtful About Sharing Vulnerabilities with Matthew Husssey [12:02] Stand Up | Stand Up For Yourself with Nedra Glover Tawwab [16:12] Empathetic | Reconsider Your Relationship With Them with Lori Gottlieb & Dr. Ramani [19:39] Boundaries | Create Clear Boundaries with Vanessa Van Edwards [24:33] QUOTES: “When we encounter someone that is toxic, we have to understand that they are acting, thinking and speaking from their brokenness.” Sara Jakes Roberts [3:49] “If you have a toxic person in your life, and you find yourself wanting to complain about them all the time, it's probably a good sign that you need to do something different” Amy Morin [8:16] “Confronting someone is sometimes the most loving thing that you could do, and that it's really the kind thing [....] it doesn't have to be bad. It's about saying, I respect myself, but I respect you enough that I think we need to talk about these talk about these things” Amy Morin [11:41] “There needs to be some separation between labeling someone a toxic person and saying the way they're behaving is toxic, or the effect of their behavior is toxic.” Matthew Hussey [12:58] “Once you start to recognize the tactics that people will use to silence you, you can stand up for yourself better.” Nedra Glover Tawwab [17:24] “We must have tremendous empathy for narcissistic people. Otherwise, we lose the best part of ourselves, and I'll be damned if somebody who's toxic is going to be the reason the most beautiful part of myself gets turned off.” Dr. Ramani [23:57] “I don't have people in my life who put me in step number three very often. And that way, I know that I can totally be easy when I'm in interactions.” Vanessa Van Edwards [25:22] Follow Sara Jakes Roberts: https://sarahjakesroberts.com/ Follow Dr. Ramani: http://doctor-ramani.com/ Follow Amy Morin: https://amymorinlcsw.com/ Follow Matthew Hussey: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/core-confidence/ Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Follow Lori Gottlieb: https://lorigottlieb.com/
Are you or your partner extremely competitive? Does it sometimes get out of hand? Are you looking for ways to support each other while still having a healthy dose of that intensity? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you and your partner can be competitive with one another in a healthy way that pushes each other while still showing support, care, and love. They discuss the tactics they use to strengthen their relationship, how to properly be competitive in your relationship, how to handle intensity when competing, why you should push each other, and how to be each other’s biggest fan. SHOW NOTES: Tactics | Tom and Lisa discuss the best tactics they use to strengthen their relationship. [0:30] Competitive | Tom and Lisa discuss being competitive with each other in their relationship. [2:16] Intensity | Lisa and Tom reveal how they handle intensity when being competitive. [5:22] Working Together | Lisa and Tom discuss how they want to push each other. [7:10] Winning | Lisa and Tom discuss encouraging each other on a path towards winning. [9:08] Be Their Fan | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should cheer on your partner. [10:40] QUOTES: “You can’t imagine how gross I would find it if you thought you had to lose to me. That’s so emotionally weak when somebody can’t, like, tolerate that.” [8:34] “Just putting them first and saying, “I believe in you so much and I really want to see you succeed,” gives a support that I don’t know how to replicate other than that, like be your partner’s biggest cheerleader. So powerful.” [10:19] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Real Good Foods: Click the link for $25 OFF any order of $25 or more! https://realgoodfoods.com/discount/WOMENOFIMPACT By now, you’re probably proficient at spotting narcissistic behaviors in people and relationships you are involved with. You may notice gaslighting or maybe you haven’t been able to put a finger on exactly what seems to be off, but if you’re honest you know something isn’t right. Spotting narcissism and knowing someone is portraying narcissistic behaviors isn’t enough if you’re going to protect yourself. Dr. Ramani Durvasula joins Lisa for round 2 to break down the rules of engagement. Understanding that some women are unable to get away from the narcissistic relationship they’ve been “stuck” in for years does not call for judgement. As Dr. Ramani clearly iterates, leaving these kinds of unhealthy relationships are never easy, and there is also no need for judgement. The good news is that Dr. Ramani came loaded today with practical tips and advice to give you and the people you love the best chance possible for dealing with narcissists when escape isn’t an easy option. SHOW NOTES: Words Hurt | Why words hurt more than we like to admit and the damage being done [2:45] D.E.E.P. | Dr. Ramani reveals the D.E.E.P. technique to shut down narcissists [5:34] No Leaving | Dr. Ramani explains why some people can’t leave and how they survive [7:25] Don’t Defend | Why it’s not about being a doormat, it’s about not engaging in toxic routine [8:36] Firewalling | Not giving away your vulnerabilities and psychological “passwords” [10:56] Apology Cycle | Differentiating someone who is sorry or a repeat offender to shut down [14:21] Narcissistic Parents | Why these kinds of parents are tricky and how to deal with them [15:55] Narcissist Magnets | Why familiarity can be a magnet for unhealthy toxic relationships [18:32] Happiness | Dr. Ramani discusses if true happiness is possible with a narcissist [22:05] Staying In It | Dr. Ramani explains why people stay in narcissistic relationships [25:17] Empathy | Dr. Ramani shares having empathy for narcissist in an empowering way [27:26] Hangtime | That suspension time of trying to figure out and decide to stay or go [30:27] Support | How to best aide people leaving narcissistic relationships that are scared [34:05] Once You Know | Dr. Ramani’s advice on what to do and not do once you know [37:46] Responding | How to get out of dodge when under verbal attack and hold the tears [44:29] Good News | Dr. Ramani explains why you never share good news with narcissists [49:04] Communication | Why it’s best to have surface level conversations to protect yourself [49:35] Contempt | Looking for the contempt to identify narcissistic behaviors and not engage [51:45] No One’s Exempt | Dr. Ramani shares how even she still falls for the pity trap [56:16] QUOTES: “I think some people feel like, beat me with a stick, but please stop. Stop criticizing me, stop undermining me, stop invalidating me” [2:55] “Deep stands for don't defend, don't engage, don't explain and don't personalize.” [5:41] “What gets challenging with the narcissistic relationships in our lives is you almost have to have two sets of strategies, one set of strategies you maintain in your healthy relationship, and a different toolkit in the narcissistic relationships.” [10:03] “We're literally more protective of the password we have for some game on our computer, then we are with the most sacred parts of our psyche.” [11:34] “Once you identify the difficult people in the system, you can still be in that system, but you got to be mindful.” [17:32] “We must have tremendous empathy for narcissistic people. Otherwise, we lose the best part of ourselves, and I'll be damned if somebody who's toxic is going to be the reason the most beautiful part of myself gets turned off.” [28:33] “Empathy is understanding whatever happened in your story that brought you here, I am so sorry, and I really hope the path forward takes you to a place where you can work on this. I really do, but not on my time.” [28:55] “If you decide to leave them, and they don't want you leaving, you are in for the fight of your life.” [32:34] “I'm so glad I'm out, but had I really known how bad this was going to be, I don't know that I would have had the courage to do this.” [33:34] For narcissistic people, it's really important for their ego to always be in control, and the idea that someone else is calling the shots does not work for them. [37:13] “You don't want to serve up your pain to somebody who's going to melt it into bullets.” [46:33] “Your dreams, your aspirations, are sacred spaces within you. Why would you put that sacred space in front of somebody who's having contempt for it?” [52:57] Follow Dr. Ramani: Website: http://doctor-ramani.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/DoctorRamanDurvasula Twitter: https://twitter.com/DoctorRamani Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/doctorramani Podcast: http://doctor-ramani.com/podcasts-feat-dr-ramani/
Do you and your partner or spouse struggle with a clash of values? Do you find yourself in frequent disagreements, arguments, or fights and are looking to tackle the root cause of them for good? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you and your partner can overcome your disagreements and actually get to the bottom of what’s causing them. They discuss what to do when your values are different from your partners, how to properly handle disagreements, when and how to persuade your partner, and how to be open to your partner’s perspective. SHOW NOTES: Collision | Lisa and Tom discuss what to do when your values of your partner are different. [0:20] Values | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need to break down your most important values. [2:15] Compromise | Lisa and Tom discuss how to properly handle disagreements. [4:51] Convincing | Lisa and Tom discuss when it is and isn’t time to convince your partner. [7:03] Be Open | Tom and Lisa discuss why you have be open to your partner’s side. [9:40] QUOTES: “When there’s a collision of values, you have to get into a situation where each of you are assessing the importance to which that value means something to you and where the compromise lies.” [5:09] “…and that’s a big thing, it’s like, not thinking about it of winning an argument, or being right, or getting what I want…” [8:45] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. It’s so easy to get caught up trying to catch other people in lies. In your love life, working relationships, and even with family and friends, thoughts of, ‘what if this person is lying’ crosses your mind more than you’d like to admit. But, have you ever considered whether or not your own verbal and nonverbal cues were sending the wrong message and causing people to think maybe you’re the one not being honest? Vanessa Van Edwards is joining us to break down how to better identify if you are being lied to, and ways you can ensure you’re not sending the wrong signals. Lack of confidence, anxiety and shame are just a few of the ‘honest’ behaviors Vanessa warns could manifest almost identical to the cues used for dishonesty. Here is what you need to know to not just spot a lie, but to be a better communicator and create better relationships in your life built around honesty and transparency. Preorder Vanessa Van Edwards’ new book, Cues: https://amzn.to/3leaa1j SHOW NOTES: Science of Lying | Vanessa shares why mornings are better for honesty Assume the Truth | Up your ability to detect lies by assuming the truth Congruence | Vanessa breaks down looking for misaligned verbal and nonverbal cues Mixed Messages | Why anxiety and lack of confidence has same cues as lying does Step 1 Lie Detection | Establish a baseline of person when they tell truth Step 2 Lie Detection | Establish their nervous baseline to know their nervous tells Step 3 Lie Detection | Spot redflags and microexpressions incongruent with baseline Ignoring Instinct | Vanessa shares importance of not ignoring instinct if you see truth Step 4 Lie Detection | Look for redflag clusters, use the rule of 3 before moving to step 5 Step 5 Lie Detection | Circle back, ask questions, and give opportunity to to overcome the lie Share The Cues | Why learning cues together improves relationships and conversations Intentional Liars | Vanessa explains how to spot them and remove those toxic people Modes of Communication | Why people are more likely to lie over phone than text Kinds of Lies | When people are self-deceptive, ill-intentioned versus well-intentioned Truth Rules | Vanessa shares how to establish truth rules for people in your life Shame Cues | How to spot shames cues and respond for better relationships Modes of Lying | Listening for audio cues and how to communicate truthfully in email QUOTES: “The more you seek the good and people the more you focus on the truth, the better you are at spotting lies.” “The basis of lie detection is that liars have so many things they’re trying to keep straight that they forget where they leak out their truth. And so that means they're saying one thing, but their body, or their voice tone shows another.” “baselining is looking at how someone acts, sounds and speaks when they're telling the truth.” “ I trust the body because it's hard to be incongruent, it takes more energy.” “When you know what cues to spot, it gives you your confidence back, I think it's a secret backdoor into confidence.” “Give our partners and our friends and our people as much communication advantages we have.” “So if you've made it to set number three, with people over and over again, you're constantly in set three, you're constantly seeing red flags, you've confirmed, you've seen clusters, what's going on, you've done research, those people should not be in your life.” “It's against our nature to put any kind of lie in writing because we think to ourselves, I could get caught.” “It's really important to distinguish between ill will lies, like lies that don't mean well, and lies that people don't know themselves well enough.” “I would rather live in hard truth than ignorant bliss. I would rather hear the truth than think that everything's okay and it's not.” “Being sterile and emotionless and not using personal pronouns and not using emotional words actually makes you sound dishonest.” Follow Vanessa Van Edwards: Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT/featured Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/
Are you struggling to communicate in a clear and healthy way with your partner? Does your relationship struggle due to arguing, fighting, or a pattern of bad behavior? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways to identify patterns of negative behavior in your relationship and how to fix them for good so that you can communicate together in a healthy way. They discuss how you should be communicating with your partner, dangerous patterns to look out for in your relationship, why you need to just be clear about your feelings, how to prevent problems from happening again, and why putting pressure on your partner isn’t doing the relationship any good. SHOW NOTES: Communicate | Lisa and Tom reveal how to better communicate with your partner. [0:17] Patterns | Lisa and Tom reveal the power of predicting patterns in your relationship. [5:54] Feelings | Tom and Lisa discuss why you need to be very clear about your feelings. [6:58] Prevent | Lisa and Tom reveal how to prevent repeating problems in the future. [8:33] Pressure | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should never dismiss your partner’s feelings. [10:10] QUOTES: “Don’t ever say, like, the other person shouldn’t be feeling something, right? Cause you feel it and it’s real and there’s nothing anyone could ever tell you that’s going to make that seem less valid." [7:40] “They may kind of resolve it in the moment but then they don’t think about, “How do I prevent this in the future?” Because having the same argument or the same problem over and over again is just, like, a waste of energy.” [8:45] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
Check out our sponsor: Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. Relationships are never easy, and marriage is harder than most would imagine. With the average length of marriage in the U.S, being just over 8 years, I am happily celebrating 19 years of marriage this year and sharing some of the lessons learned along the way. I am answering your questions about everything from how to know if he’s the “one” to de-escalating those heated arguments that leave you angered and red in the face. Relationships are beautiful when you recognize the amount of work it takes to be in a great relationship, and when you finally realize the “perfect” relationship doesn’t exist and never did. So, whether you are in a relationship, thinking about marriage, dating or not even started yet, there’s definitely make you stop and think, ‘huh maybe I should give this a try.’ It’s not for everyone, but being married and in a healthy and loving relationship can be one of the best experiences for anyone. BONUS TAKEAWAYS: 2 Tips for when you find yourself sabotaging your own relationships: 1. Write it down and reflect to explore your feelings in detail with no judgement. When and how did things progress from argument? Exactly was it that triggered your response. 2. Communicate with your partner about exactly what things are triggering you before the next argument. Be open, be vulnerable, and be patient with yourself. How to disrupt heated arguments before they escalate any further: 1. Recall the argument and identify where would have been a good moment to walk away and take the time to change your mood. 2. Consider writing a letter to yourself to remind you to disrupt the moment. 3. Use something meaningful and significant, such as Lisa’s love chip, to signal to your partner and yourself what’s important. SHOW NOTES: Selection Matters | Lisa breaks down why who you choose to be with is critical [0:42] Sacrificial Love | A love worth sacrificing for starts with open communication [1:52] Self Sabotage | When killing relationships is a habit, identify your triggers and talk [4:42] Growth Minded | Lisa on why you can’t grow with someone that doesn’t grow [13:49] Arguments | Unavoidable, but treatable when you find ways to disrupt the anger [17:16] QUOTES: “If you're with somebody, you should be looking at them saying, are they worth the sacrifice that I could be spending on a relationship with myself?” [4:24] “That's the beauty about being in a relationship, being vulnerable, showing that you want to get better, but that you're not there yet.” [8:06] “If they're not going to be there for you, while you're stumbling while you're trying to figure it out, then maybe they're not the right one for you.” [8:48] “It all comes down to being each other's security, knowing I'm not going anywhere, when you know, someone's not going anywhere. It gives you a sense of safety.” [12:26] “Be vulnerable with your partner, show your weaknesses, show your vulnerabilities that builds trust. And honestly, a relationship without trust isn't a relationship.” [13:37] “having the communication about what the disrupter means, and then both of you being on board with making sure that you can use it in order for you both to have a beautiful freakin relationship.” [26:36]
Are you and your partner looking for powerful tips to help your relationship last? Are you wondering what the key lessons are when it comes to making your love thrive for years to come? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they share their key tips to help make ensure your relationship can stand the test of time. They discuss why you sometimes need to put yourself first and be selfish, why you need to go deeper and understand the root cause of your arguments, and why having little to no expectations is best long-term. SHOW NOTES: Be Selfish | Tom and Lisa discuss the hidden benefit of being selfish in your relationship. [0:34] Go Deeper | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of addressing underlying issues. [6:24] No Expectations | Tom and Lisa discuss how to set realistic and healthy expectations. [16:00] QUOTES: “While it’s not romantic, I actually do think it is a hundred-percent important to be selfish in the sense of taking care of yourself, what makes you happy, so that you can show up to be happy in that relationship.” [3:22] “You can either feel like you’re saying different things but you’re actually saying the same thing or you can actually be saying different things and think you’re saying the same thing and it causes like a total derailment.” [5:53] “People are mistaking an emotion for objective truth…” [11:55] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
Check out our sponsor: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Big audacious dreams scare most people back into their regular full time jobs. The sad truth is that the discomfort most of us complain about is usually the comfort we seek when opportunities present themselves to go after those big dreams we secretly carry around. If this sounds familiar or feels familiar to you, then Ellen Marie Bennett’s inspirational story may be the kick you need to find your inner spark and dare to take action. She went from zero experience, being a line cook at a Michelin star restaurant, to jumping at an opportunity to make a difference that led to the multi-million dollar brand, Hedley & Bennett aprons. Her energy is infectious and willingness to dive into discomfort, fail, and figure things out along the way are beyond motivating. This episode is packed with goodies that may have you making some major moves today. Order Ellen Bennet’s new book, Dream First, Details Later: https://amzn.to/3kgec8L SHOW NOTES: Override Perfection | Ellen on how she showed up for the journey of life asking questions [3:02] Opportunity | The importance of not focusing on what you’re missing, just take action [6:17] Inner Dialogue | How to listen but not be overtaken by inner dialogue to light your spark [11:37] Perseverance | Ellen share the perfect response when you hit against a “no” and failure [13:24] Self Belief | Ellen on being your own cheerleader and what humble enthusiasm is [15:33] Humble Enthusiasm | Ellen explains being “excited to share and excited to learn” [16:33] Confidence Belt | Building confidence with successes & failures out of your comfort zone [21:04] Covid Shift | Applying humble enthusiasm to an operational pivot making masks [26:56] Purpose | Ellen breaks down how your ‘why’ is essential to get through the shitstorms [31:03] Imposter Syndrome | Leaning into who you are and honoring your own special sauce [33:27] Weaknesses | How to tackle leaning into areas that are not your core strengths [36:26] No Ego | Ellen on knowing how to get better and allow others to step in [39:32] What to Take On | Ellen shares how she decides what to take on and what to pass [43:40] QUOTES: “You learn life on the journey, not staring at it or thinking about it or imagining what it can become, but simply, you want to do something, show up, start trying.” [4:53] “It put me so far out of my comfort zone that I wasn't just thinking about it. I didn't have time to think I had to act, and that's a beautiful thing when you're doing it versus thinking about it.” [9:37] “When you hit a no, a no is not a no, a no is like go left or go right, but still keep going forward in some capacity” [14:07] “Every day, you have to wake up and know that nothing is just there. You have to create it and make it and be willing to shift when things happen, and your playbook goes flying out the window” [30:17] “The shitstorms are so real. They're so aggressive, and so frequent, in growing something out of nothing, that if you don't truly believe in it, you don't have enough energy to fight through that storm.” [31:06] “I'm not trying to be like that person, I'm going to walk in and be 100% myself. And they're going to appreciate that, because I'm not trying to act like somebody that I'm not. So there's an authenticity to it.” [34:24] “If you have no ego, then you're willing to learn, and you're not claiming you know everything. Therefore, you can listen, if someone's telling you this is not working” [37:19] Follow Ellen Hedley Bennett: Website: https://www.hedleyandbennett.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/hedleybennett Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmariebennett/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hedleyandbennett/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellen-marie-bennett-72517367/
Are you still questioning whether your partner is 100% right for you? Do you sense a difference in your core values and aren’t sure if your relationship will go the distance? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore the importance of knowing if your partner is the right one for you and why you need to have clear and open communication about your shared values. They discuss the importance of selecting the right partner, understanding your differences, why you need to share the same core values, the power of communication, and why changing over time with your partner can be expected. SHOW NOTES: Selection | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of selecting the right partner for you. [0:28] Yin & Yang | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of always sharing core values. [2:56] Finding Each Other | Tom and Lisa discuss the experience of their early relationship. [5:00] Making It Work | Tom and Lisa discuss their connection despite early differences. [6:40] Communicate | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of having deep communication. [9:29] Changes | Tom and Lisa discuss the difference between change and influence. [11:35] QUOTES: “We understood very early on that you either grow together or you grow apart.” [2:36] “Once you get to the way things ought to be and you have a collision there. So, “I understand your position, you understand mine, but I think you’re crazy and you think I’m crazy.” That’s where it gets dangerous. You can have some — you will have some — but if you have too many and you don’t know how to navigate, or compartmentalize, or say, “Hey, cool like we’ll put that on the back burner,” you’re going to have a real problem.” [4:37] “…from the beginning, I think you have to establish communication with your partner, even when you have to say the hard things.” [9:33] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
Check out our sponsor: Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. When you are feeling overly emotional and trapped in your thoughts about stress, frustration and doubts you are having about everything happening around you, anything can set you off. Yet, so often you try to hold those emotions in, try to put on your brave and confident face for everyone else and feel like you’re falling apart inside. Radhi Devlukia Shetty joins me in this episode and opens up to all the vulnerabilities and insecurities we experience as women. We explore being emotional, and how healthy and freeing it is to have emotional release so you are not storing those emotions in your body. SHOW NOTES: Estrogen | Radhi on the symptoms and way she’s dealing with high estrogen levels [0:38] Support | Recognizing when you’re emotional or just need a little more support [3:17] Being Emotional | Why crying isn’t a weakness and permission to sit with your sadness [5:34] Emotional Release | Radhi on value of allowing emotions to move through and out of you [8:06] Trapped Emotions | Advice on how to release trapped emotions as a routine practice [11:49] Meltdowns | Radhi on feeling overwhelmed and not knowing what to do out of frustration [16:11] Pressure | Feeling pressure like you “should” be good at everything and processing that [21:17] Comparison | Radhi breaks down how detrimental it can be to your person growth [23:26] Weakness | Radhi shares how powerful it can be to use your weaknesses to grow [27:19] Self Doubt | Radhi’s evolution, not allowing it to turn into self destructive behavior [34:12] Future Stuck | Radhi & Lisa discuss being stuck by future expectation & fear of unknown [38:18] Conflict & Pain | Radhi on the healing we block when we hurt and try hurting others [42:17] Self Control | Radhi explains why self control is a daily practice and having freedom in it [48:16] Being Proud | Radhi & Lisa discuss the angles of feeling pride and celebrating yourself [50:00] QUOTES: “Whether you're getting a high from a happy thing, or a low from something that's made you sad, treat them equally. Allow them to feel those emotions equally, because actually, one is not better than the other.” [6:13] “Even if you want to cry alone, don't see it as a weakness. See it as something that's making you stronger and happier in some way.” [7:41] “Any emotions trapped in your body, anything mental trapped in your body is going to physically manifest in some way” [9:22] “Exactly how I do with exercise now, exactly how I see with working out, exactly how I see journaling, exactly how I see my meditation, I see releasing of emotion being just as important. [...] energy is not meant to be stagnant in your body.” [11:16] “If you just think of one thing that you're good at, and you realize that one thing actually does make you feel very happy, the rest is just bonuses.” [25:52] “if your weaknesses are something that you really are fixated on, and that you want to change, and you really feel is preventing you from progressing in some way, take one weakness a week, take one weakness a month, however long it takes you to feel like you're a little bit more in control of it, you're a little bit better at it, then you were.” [28:02] “Being a trustworthy friend, being someone who trusts in themselves, show up for yourself, show up for that person. That is how a relationship is built, and friendship is built in that way. So why do you think that you can keep going back on your word to yourself and still believe in yourself?” [32:01] “belief in yourself is what you exude out of yourself, like what people feel the energy that they feel when they're around you. It's everything that you are feeling about yourself within you.” [33:25] “I really have found so much growth in terms of doubting myself, but also so much growth which has come from the process of doubting myself.” [35:05] “I don't think self doubt is a negative thing, as long as you are trying to figure out ways to and using it as a platform for further growth.” [35:20] “...a lot of us use our past to keep us stuck but what we don't realize is, we use our future to keep us stuck.” Lisa Bilyeu [38:22] “Whatever I'm giving out to people, it's not only what they're receiving is what's being created inside of me, which means I'm choosing to create the energy within me to give out. I can't give out anything that's not already within me.” [43:19] “So pain and giving out pain is never going to heal your heart from the pain that you're feeling, you're gonna have to heal that, and you're going to have fend through that pain and, and really learn how to digest it, recycle it in a way that it's coming out of you in something better.” [45:56] “Yes the work is done by me but that work is supported through the nourishment that I receive through my teachers, through nature, through my parents, through the person that I randomly meet that inspires me.” [53:22] Follow Radhi Shetty: Website: https://www.radhidevlukia.co/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/
Check out the Relationship Theory Podcast here! Apple: https://apple.co/3wpECHD Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2SYC0Tz Are you and your partner struggling to have a deep and meaningful level of communication? Have emotions taken over your conversations and you can’t seem to achieve a break through? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they share their key communication techniques they find the most effective towards having a strong and healthy relationship. They discuss how they navigate moments of sticky communication, how emotions can skew your mind, the importance of being vulnerable with your partner, why you sometimes need to let your partner go crazy, how to help your partner during emotional times, why it’s always on you to improve, and how to learn from your past. SHOW NOTES: Communicate | Lisa and Tom share how they navigate sticky moments of communication. [0:31] Emotional | Lisa and Tom discuss how little things over time can influence your emotions. [3:39] Sanity Check | Tom reveals how Lisa keeps him from going too far into something. [7:20] Vulnerable | Lisa and Tom reveal the importance of being open with each other. [9:21] Crazy | Tom and Lisa reveal why you sometimes need to let your partner go all out. [11:38] Help | Lisa and Tom discuss how to help your partner during emotional times. [15:36] It’s on You | Tom and Lisa reveal why at the end of the day, it’s on you to step up. [16:59] Your Past | Lisa and Tom reveal why learning from the past is crucial to growth. [18:20] QUOTES: “In those moments, when someone says, “You’re just being emotional, it’s your hormones,” you want to fight back and say, “Stop using that as an excuse — as a defense mechanism,” right? “Stop deflecting, alright? Stop trying to blame me that it’s my emotions.” No, you actually did this.” [6:50] “You have to let the person, like, really go deep into crazy-land, before you say, “You’re being crazy…” [12:53] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
Check out our sponsors: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. As women, many of us have lived lives with moments that bring us shame, fill our hearts with pain, bitterness, and resentment. The thing is, you don’t have to stay in that mental space with negative thoughts and beliefs that say you’re not worthy, you have no value, or that you’re unlovable. Sarah Jakes Roberts is a woman of faith that breaks the mold and dares to own her scars, be bold, and walk in the truth of all that she is, from every mistake that she no longer allows to define her. She joins me today to help you flip the toxicity of the life you may be holding onto on its head and redefine what it means to create a meal worth serving from your leftovers. Order Sarah Jakes Roberts latest book, Woman Evolve: https://www.amazon.com/dp/078523554X?tag=hcads-20 SHOW NOTES: Self Worth | Sarah defines her self-worth and share how her flaws add to her value [2:03] Shame | Ashamed of her truth and deciding what to create with the “leftovers” [4:38] Leftovers | Sarah exposes the hidden power of creating from what’s left after the struggle [6:30] Poison | Sarah on purging the insecurities, fear, false confidence, and false positivity [8:06] Living Divided | Denying part of your truth, avoiding the ruins, and missing your strength [10:14] Negative Thoughts | How to look at the root of negative thoughts that echo insecurities [12:11] Relationship Work | Bring value and purpose into the relationship with yourself [17:46] Marriage | Sarah’s 1st marriage failing was a symptom and that she could do better [20:48] Walking Away | Sarah on how to leave bad relationships & questions to ask yourself [24:47] Incubate Hope | Creating an environment for hope to grow and starving your fears [27:16] Toxic People | Instead of labeling people as toxic, see that we are all broken [28:28] Being Hostile | Sarah shares how being petty takes energy and takes away from you [30:13] Betrayal | Understanding what betrayal communicates to you and knowing it’s about you [34:01] Inner Circle | Sarah on the value of knowing people’s value and intention for you [38:12] Success | How success is obedience to the urge and nudge to manifest what’s within [45:27] QUOTES: “Self-worth is believing in the value that I bring when I come into a room or space.” [2:31] “I had to really come to this space where I realized I don't feel smart, I don't feel worthy, I don't feel valuable. This is my truth. And as painful as that was to say, it was also liberating, because I took the whisper that was haunting me and taunting me throughout my life and finally gave it a voice.” [5:57] “I had my own poison that my insecurities were constantly pumping into my veins that fear was constantly pumping into my veins. And I realized that as long as I was poisoned, I could only attract poison.” [8:16] “fall more in love with you than you do with the potential outcome that you're achieving or looking to achieve.” [10:47] “I realized that just because a thought comes my way doesn't mean I have to accept it. To accept the thought is to say, I'm going to allow this to now become a part of my truth.” [15:06] “So just like you have to work a relationship with somebody else, you have to work in a relationship with yourself.” Lisa Bilyeu [17:56] “We're not qualified to be in a relationship until we realize what I need a person in my life for” [18:08] “at the end of the day, it's love that leads us out of places of fear.” [25:03] When we know that I am betraying myself to be in relationship with someone, then I have to ask myself, what am I receiving to them that is so valuable, that I am willing to betray myself?” [25:22] “I spend so much mental real estate thinking about what I want to go wrong with someone that I don't have time to consider what I want to go well with my own spirit and soul.” [31:09] “What I want to understand is how can I be a better qualifier based on this wound that I just experienced? Because betrayal does make you feel like I cannot trust myself, or the decisions I make?” [35:07] “Not every person in your family can feed you. Not every person in your family can help you promote growth, and to create an environment for you to incubate hope. Some people are blowing your candle out while you're trying to get the flame going.” [38:23] “The truth is, I'm afraid, but I'm going to dare to believe anyway. The truth is, I'm not qualified, but I'm gonna dare to go after it anyway.” [41:41] More About Sarah: In 2017, Sarah launched Woman Evolve a ministry that focuses on incubating every woman to her fullness. Since its conception Woman Evolve has been successful at reaching and guiding thousands of women to awaken healing, wholeness, and love for themselves and others. Follow Sarah Jakes Roberts: Website: https://sarahjakesroberts.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/SarahJakes Twitter: https://twitter.com/SJakesRoberts Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahjakesroberts/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SarahJakesRoberts Podcast: https://www.womanevolve.com/podcast
Check out our sponsor: Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. It is so easy to take inventory and list every person, every event, and every situation causing stress in your life. Regardless of where you are, what your social status or income, we are all having a similar experience. The stress and anguish you experience on a daily basis to co-exist and keep the peace with family, friends, and co-workers is overwhelming to say the least. What if the solution to relieving this stress and finding true happiness is much simpler than you think? Martha Beck is an amazing life coach dedicated to freeing people from suffering. She shares some shocking truths about curing unhappiness and getting in alignment with your true nature. Find out why “going harder” is usually the worst decision you can make, and how all the little white lies we tell ourselves and people around us are hurting our body, mind, heart and soul. Order Martha Beck’s new book, The Way of Integrity: https://amzn.to/3xVGmcY SHOW NOTES: Integrity | Martha explains what integrity and being whole [0:52] Lost Integrity | Martha on living out of integrity without your true nature [1:45] 6 Symptoms | Signs that you’ve fallen out of integrity with your true self [2:45] Should | Marth shares 2 possible solutions driving actions from unseen truths [5:14] Lies | Martha breaks down the impact of self-deception on body, heart, mind & soul [6:42] What’s True | Martha on checking in with yourself and finding her integrity [10:33] Throw It Away | Martha reveals what she gained “throwing” her life away for her truth [13:16] Moment of Pause | Martha reveals the power of pausing and why it’s key to your truth [16:53] Mourning | Martha explains why losing the familiar causes you to mourn [21:27] Purgatory | Why breaking away from culture allows others to find their integrity [23:34] Looking Back | Martha explains the point of no looking back stepping into true nature [25:21] Bad Relationships | Martha shares what it takes to be true to yourself to move on [28:40] Don’t Go Harder | Martha on why doing more of what isn’t true for you makes it worst [31:37] Positive Stress | How to go with the flow of what you need and not fight yourself [34:29] One Degree Turn | Martha shares the secret to small incremental steps to what you love [38:41] In Integrity | The miracle of peace that happens when you live in your integrity [41:55] QUOTES: “Whether the lie is for good or for evil, it has the same effect on you. When you speak to other people in a way that presents a persona that isn't what you really are, you've sold yourself away for those people to make them happy.” [7:15] “A lot of times you don't have to tell those lies to be polite, but if you say something that's not true, you yourself end up paying the price.” [8:04] “if it's worth throwing your life away, for one little child, it's worth throwing your life away for another, for your own inner child, for the truth of yourself. [15:08] “There is so much joy in an ordinary day, when you're living in integrity” [20:53] “The shape that fits with integrity is integrity. So you're actually inviting everyone around you to be honest with you, as you're honest with them.” [24:57] “You’re split from yourself because you were trying to be good. And you need to find out where that pulled you away from your truth, and reexamine that, so you can find your truth. And when you have enough of your truth, you act, that's how it works.” [30:49] “When we're pushing ourselves to do more of something, that's not true for us, not in integrity for us, it actually makes the pain much worse very quickly.” [32:34] “for you not to answer your life's purpose would be the ultimate stress.” [38:18] “fill your time with things you love, and subtract the things you don't love. Step by step by step, your whole life will turn around.” [40:38] “you don't get the success and that brings you peace, you go to peace, and that brings you success.” [43:04] Follow Martha Beck: Website: https://marthabeck.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themarthabeck/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/themarthabeck/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/marthabeck/
Check out our sponsor: Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. How often have you spent time with people you love only to feel frustrated and misunderstood? As humans we are all so complex in our network of feelings and emotions. Unfortunately, we’ve been raised thinking that negative emotions are bad and should be shunned. Many of us are barely holding it together, or are spiraling out of control because we don’t know how to handle the feelings that are leaving us totally overwhelmed. Lori Gottlieb, a psychotherapist and author joins me and breaks down why we don’t have to run away from those taboo feelings of envy and jealousy. She explains how to communicate better and hold space for your partner or children and allow them to just be heard. This episode is packed with so much you may have to listen a second time. Order Lori’s Latest Book, Maybe You SHould Talk to Someone: https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-You-Should-Talk-Someone-ebook/dp/B07BZ4F75T/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Maybe+You+Should+Talk+to+Someone%3A+A+Therapist%2C+HER+Therapist&qid=1623870198&s=books&sr=1-1 SHOW NOTES: Unreliable Narrator | Why your perspective isn’t the full story, it’s a faulty narrative [0:19] Unknow Yourself | Lori helping people unknow the stories they keep repeating [1:32] Insight | Lori explains why insight without action is useless [3:58] Idiot Compassion | Lori breaks down what this is and why it doesn’t help [5:05] Relationship Filter | Lori’s questions for examining people around you [6:45] Change | Lori on why change is difficult because of uncertainty and loss [8:17] 5 Steps | 5 stages of change to making a permanent change in your life [9:08] Change Anxiety | Getting through unfamiliar territory & anxiety with change [12:39] Choosing to Suffer | Lori on why we don’t choose pain but we choose to suffer [14:06] Numb the Pain | Distracting yourself from pain feeling overwhelmed [15:34] Feeling Compass | Lori on using feelings as a compass to know what you want [17:13] Negative Feelings | Why the way you deal with negative feelings matters most [19:28] Setting Intention | Lori on setting yourself up for a better day with confidence [22:55] Transformation | Lori shares why tiny steps are so important in change [26:35] Future Loss | Lori explains how change collapses the future & holds us back [32:18] Unfinished Business | How cycles repeat when we don’t address past issues [35:30] Selection | Lori confirms why selection is so important for healthy relationship [39:48] Childhood Wounds | Lori on why you have to give up hope for better childhood [41:53] Vulnerability | When someone opens up and how to navigate what they need [45:05 Understand | Why people need to be understood and heard, ask what they need [47:21] QUOTES: “my job as a therapist is to be an editor and to help people to edit these faulty narratives that they come in with.” [1:09] “Where people can really grow and change and communicate better is to understand and be curious about the other person's part of the story, the other person's perspective.” [2:38] “The fact that you're making the change, and that you were very human, and it was difficult sometimes, you're still on the path of success.” [11:49] “When we are in pain, we do something that is going to make us suffer instead of something that is going to help us sit with the pain and move through it in a more healing kind of process.” [14:48] “numbness isn't the absence of feelings. numbness is a sense of being overwhelmed by too many feelings.” [16:26] “feelings are like a compass, they tell us what direction to go in [...] all of our feelings are so useful there, there are no bad feelings, they're all extremely useful” [17:13] “there are no bad feelings. There are unfortunate ways that we deal with them.” [19:29] “therapy is like getting a really good second opinion on your life from someone who's not already in your life.” [31:22] “need a healthy person, be a healthy person, meet a healthy person, that's going to be a healthy relationship.” [39:23] “people don't look for the qualities that are going to be important in a happy, lasting, loving relationship.” [40:18] “we give them what we think they need in that moment based on what we might need in that moment. But we don't ask them, like, you know, how can I help in this moment?” [47:46] “Can you sit with me in my sadness? Can you sit with me in my anxiety? Can you sit with me in my anger so that I can make sense of this?” [50:11] Follow Lori Gottlieb: Website: https://lorigottlieb.com/ Podcast: https://lorigottlieb.com/podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GottliebLori Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/LoriGottlieb1
Check out our sponsors: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. What comes to mind when you think of what it takes to be a supportive partner in your relationship? Being in a relationship is beautiful, but you can run the risk of losing yourself if you’re not careful. You have to be mindful to communicate with your partner who you are, what you want, and how you can best be supported. In today’s episode, I am joined by the beautiful badass wife of Dr. Phil, Robin McGraw. They’ve been married over 45 years and she came to debunk any myths you have around what it takes to be a loving and supportive partner, especially when your significant other is larger than life and has a strong personality. She shares why she is so passionate about the importance of taking care of yourself and being okay with putting yourself first in order to show up 100% for your family. She’s unlocking the secrets of what it takes to spend a meaningful and purposeful lifetime together with the one you love, so take notes. SHOW NOTES: Supportive Wife | Robin on wanting to support Dr. Phil and not missing any shows [1:30] Purpose | Not being conflicted about your purpose, making sure your partner supports it [6:44] Changes | Robin explains why talking about changes together in marriage is so important [8:51] Non-Negotiable | Robin on what her deal breaker was and communicating that [10:25] Frustration | Robin on how she powers through anger with journaling and not lashing out [15:51] Put Yourself 1st | Why caring for your family isn’t a sacrifice but requires you to be #1 [18:58] Firm Beliefs | Robin on telling him how to treat you and what you want [28:17] Forgiveness | Robin on Dr. Phil not forgetting to mail hundreds of handwritten letters [30:39] Divorce | Robin discusses why divorce is not an option and early conversations about it [38:10] Payoff Phase | Robin shares what the dessert phase is like after 45 years married [42:40] QUOTES: “I respect myself and I always have. I respect who I am and what I stand for” [19:56] “it's not selfish to put yourself first you have to take care of yourself, so you can take care of those you love.” [21:14] “if you care about your kids, take care of their mother, if you care about your husband, take care of their wife, if you care about your parents take care of their daughter. [24:17] “I never knew how strong I was until I chose to forgive someone who wasn't sorry. and accept an apology that was never given.” [36:30] “The payoff for having so many conversations and working really hard is what the phase to life that we're in right now, and I call it the desert phase of our life.” [42:42] Guest Bio: Robin McGraw, #1 New York Times best-selling author, has been married to TV talk show host Dr. Phil McGraw for over thirty years. His viewers have embraced Robin--whether she's discussing her experiences as a mother and wife or dealing with issues that women face in their lives. Follow Robin McGraw: Website: https://www.ivegotasecretwithrobinmcgraw.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/robin_mcgraw Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/robinmcgrawofficial Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robin_mcgraw/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPYeLvLCbf05dLQEwQanb2w
Check out our sponsor: Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Taking control of your health and learning about your body is more important than ever before. With environmental changes affecting your body, foods, and mental stressors, there is no wonder that women are quietly suffering through so many health issues. Dr. Aviva Romm joins me in this episode and just kept shocking me with information about what is going on with women on a hormonal level that is impacting girls as young as 7 years old. We discuss everything from diet to libido, and how you can start gaining control over your days and your power living in harmony with your menstrual cycle because you have a better understanding of how to work with it and not against it. Order Dr. Aviva Romm’s New Book, Hormonal Intelligence: https://www.amazon.com/Hormone-Intelligence-Complete-Balanced-Hormones/dp/0062796216 SHOW NOTES: Early Menstruation | Dr. Romm explains why girls are starting puberty as early as age 7! [1:15] Hormonal Imbalance | Dr. Romm explains what hormonal imbalance is really costing [2:51] Microbiome | How increased antibiotics impact microbiome and hormones [3:41] Establishing Normal | Dr. Romm explains normal healthy vs. what’s normal ‘common’ [6:56] Quiet Risks | Not discussing issues like endometriosis is causing greater problems [9:36] 6th Vital Sign | Dr. Romm reveals menstrual cycles are the 6th vital sound for women [11:36] Me-Search | Dr. Romm emphasizes the importance of researching your own body [12:28] Behavior & Habits | How to use your cycle to your advantage for improving habits & behaviors [13:53] Diet Tips | Dr. Romm on eating habits around your cycle to improve health & cravings [21:28] Mind-Gut-Health | The shocking connection between the three that tie to your cycle [25:02] Long Term Process | Why you should understand long term health is not overnight [32:06] Sex Drive | Dr. Romm on knowing when you feel most sexual in relation to your period [35:24] Low Sex Drive | Dr. Romm share natural remedies to increase libido [38:46] Body Image | Dr. Romm on why body image and self esteem can lower your libido [42:03] Birth Control | Dr. Romm on what people should know about taking birth control [45:38] Depression | Dr. Romm exposes pill induced depression going unchecked and treated [50:11] QUOTES: “If your hormones are wonky, if things are going on, it’s not your fault, it’s not something you’re doing wrong.” [5:48] “It takes women nine years, on average, multiple different doctors to get a diagnosis.” [10:12] “So we’re doing ourselves a disservice by not pushing for information that we deserve to have.” [11:29] “If your microbiome is disrupted it can really have an impact on your hormones, especially your estrogen.” [26:25] “If you’re not feeling sexy, you’re not going to be feeling sexual” [36:00] “Right now, the use of electronic devices in the bedroom is one of the biggest buzz kills for sex.” [38:23] “In general, for an ongoing healthy sexual relationship and good libido it really is about that connection that we tend to want to get things going.” [41:23] “What I am opposed to is women not being told about the very real risks, and the risks of depression are real and they’re significant.” [46:35] “If you can do something as mild and safe and get lifelong benefits rather than do something that is just suppressive and has risks, why not try the other thing first?” [48:29] Follow Aviva Romm: Website: https://avivaromm.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/avivaromm/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AvivaRommMD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.avivaromm/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/avivaromm?lang=en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/AvivaRomm
Check out our sponsors: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. What does it take for you to show up everyday? And I mean really show up! If I’m honest, even now after all these years, it can still feel uncomfortable and a bit scary, but I do it anyway. When I come across people that are showing up and being completely vulnerable and authentic to who they truly are, I am struck with admiration. Gigi Gorgeous, the famous YouTuber, Transgender Activist, Author, and so much more has been showing up since 2008 inspiring everyone on what it is to live your best life through the highs and lows. Learn through our candid conversation about being vulnerable, resilient and committed to changing and evolving into your truest self. No matter who you are or how you identify, her story is impactful and inspiring. SHOW NOTES: True Self | Gigi on the ongoing struggle being herself through hard times & being happy [3:18] Avoid Bottom | Seeing others living as their true self and using that to inspire you [5:48] Mental Resilience | Gigi on getting down your thoughts & building up when knocked down [8:30] Internal Transformation | Building confidence with every external change to not comply [12:10] Being Compliant | Gigi on not being compliant and being open to your real thoughts [15:10] Social Media | Gigi on having a healthy relationship with social media and protecting self [16:57] Insecurities | Gigi on not allowing others to project what they’re dealing with onto you [19:26] Getting Hate | Gigi on seeing unkind people as hurt people and not taking it personal [21:57] Evolving | Getting beyond the battles and rising above the grudges you let go of [26:27] Defending Yourself | Ready for battle, ready to talk about it but not defending decisions [29:47] Evolving Together | Gigi shares how her & her spouse have handled many changes [36:22] Labeled | Being empowered by the labels others create, owning it or rejecting as needed [42:53] Vulnerability | Gigi explains why vulnerable is beautiful, and vulnerability is key [44:40] Overcoming | Gigi shares what she is most proud of overcoming so far [46:07] Coming Out | The importance of living your truth, celebrating life, live it to the fullest [49:13] QUOTES: “There’s no better feeling waking up and being yourself, your authentic true self. You don’t have to hide anything, everyone has that. It doesn’t have to be gender thing, it doesn’t have to be sexual orientation thing we all hold things inside and when we let go it’s the most healing and beautiful thing” [2:32] Gigi quote read by Lisa “You can never experience true happiness if you haven’t experienced true sadness” [3:45] “it was all internal for me as well, and then the second I reached out, the second I started making changes, it just felt so good, and I feel like that’s when your confidence really skyrockets” [13:21] “If you can’t look in the mirror and be like btch I love the fck out of you then something’s got to change” [17:54] “Hey on some days I’m really insecure. Some days I don’t really like the way I look, sound, or am, and I get really down on myself. Those feelings always go away and it’s just about how you deal with them.” [18:29] Gigi quote read by Lisa “When you think about it, it’s impossible to hurt you. What people think of me is none of my business” [19:46] “I can’t ever let any negativity dictate how I show up, and that was the big difference between me caring and letting it dictate my life and caring and not letting it dictate.” Lisa Bilyeu [21:19] “the second that you let that go it's such a gorgeous feeling and it sets you free and honestly it ages you, like if you hold onto all this negativity and anger you’re going to look horrible” [25:54] “I love to say I hate change, but I think I love change, it’s exciting [37:29] Follow Gigi Gorgeous: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzco9CewPf0F-SP1p6LhWrw Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GigiGorgeous/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gigigorgeous/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/thegigigorgeous
Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory Women’s sexual health has been neglected and shamed for far too long. Between being objectified and treated as taboo, women have been sitting in silence, often not brave enough to start asking questions about what it means to have a great sex life and what it takes to get your partner in on the action. Emily Morse, a sex therapist and host of the popular Sex with Emily podcast, joins me to answer all the embarrassing questions you were too afraid to ask. Emily breaks down exactly how to improve your relationship by first discovering your own pleasure, and then by having conversations with your partner so the two of you can explore and enjoy together. She’s here to change your sex life! Emily’s Yes, No Maybe List: https://sexwithemily.com/yes-no-maybe-the-list-every-relationship-needs/ SHOW NOTES: No Orgasm | Emily on why very few women orgasm with penetration [2:05] Faking Orgasms | Emily lists reason why women fake orgasms and the disservice it is [5:22] Masturbation | Emily explains its importance and why people think masturbation is wrong [6:30] Talking Sex | Emily’s 3 T’s of communication for how to express yourself to your partner [8:49] Sex Fantasies | Why having fantasies is healthy and normal and the 2 types of fantasies [14:11] Spice It Up | Emily reveals 3 things people miss that reveal it’s time to spice things up [16:03] Less Sex Drive | Emily shares what kinds of things may be impacting your sex drive [18:34] Mismatched Libidos | High desire and low desire partners revealed [19:36] Consistency | Emily on the magic number that works & getting in the mood for intimacy [23:18] Prioritizing Sex | Emily explains why sex is one of the top pillars of your relationship [29:27] Normalizing Sex | Emily shares her tips for making sex part of normal conversations [32:29] Porn | Emily shares her views on how porn is not a concern and when it is a concern [34:22] Being Judged | When your fantasies are judged & how soon you can share your desires [37:31] Sexual Confidence | Emily on being confident when discussing your sexual preferences [40:39] Pain During Sex | Why it’s so difficult for women to talk about the pain they experience [43:35] Hard To Say | More things women find difficult to communicate to their partner about sex [46:28] Impossible Orgasm | Emily reveals why she believes every woman can have an orgasm [48:53] QUOTES: “We need good ol’ foreplay. It’s not just a suggestion, it’s actually a requirement. It is a requirement for women to get turned on.” [3:20] “Healthy masturbation is the key to unlocking our own pleasure because we’re responsible for our own orgasm.” [7:00] “even if you're having the most incredible sex, [...] in every single relationship, it's going to get stale [12:09] “If we expect that every time our partner comes up to us, we should be ready to go, then we're not doing our part, we have to keep our own pilot light lit.” [18:16] “We got to make sex fun and something that you share. It’s not up to one person to carry the weight of the sex life.” [20:51] “Most people want to talk about it. They just haven't felt safe or had that person.” [34:01] “If you don't accept your own body, it's going to be really hard to get somebody else on board with it as well” [42:39] “we're going to be the ones who ultimately are going to be able to crack our own code, then we can share it with a partner.” [48:05] Emily Morse Bio: She is an American sex therapist, author, and media personality. She is the host of the long-running podcast Sex with Emily and is also known for her 2012 recurring reality television appearance in Bravo's series Miss Advised (2012). Follow Emily Morse: Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Email: Feedback@sexwithme.com Podcast: https://sexwithemily.com/listen/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/
Check out our Sponsor Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Masculinity is being challenged on all fronts by women, men, judges, and corporate cultures everywhere. In this episode, Justin Baldoni joins me to discuss his new book, Man Enough. We discuss the problems men are facing with finding acceptance among themselves and with their female partners to be more open and vulnerable. The issues facing men today reach beyond just masculinity and ego. It’s an issue affecting women as well. Justin dives into how we as women were raised hearing and being impacted by the same stereotypes on gender roles as men were. Whether you are married, dating, or raising a son, this episode will help you start a conversation around the challenges men are having with learning to be more empathetic and open. Order Justin Baldoni’s new book, Man Enough: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0063055597?tag=authorweb-20 SHOW NOTES: Being Human | Responding to error, having the bar set too low, and being empathetic [4:10] Masculinity | Justin unpacks masculine culture and dominance and how to end suffering [8:04] Power | Justin explains breaks down the zero-sum game of exerting power [12:26] Enough | Justin on why feeling enough means other’s success isn’t a threat [18:50] Socialized Women | Justin discusses the behaviors women are taught [22:25] Women Leaders | Justin highlights the disparity in how women are viewed in leadership [24:40] Open Men | When men risk vulnerability but his partner can’t handle it [28:11] Patriarchal Standards| How boys and girls raised desensitized to the same stereotypes [32:11] Traditions | Justin on why questioning is important and it’s not about right or wrong [38:05] Rightful Seat | Justin shares when your ego is tied to where you sit, move your seat [43:01] QUOTES: “I would never ask women to have compassion for men. I would ask women to see how the patriarchal structure and system hurts men and let that be the entry point into compassion.” [8:29] “I would rather challenge a system that will make me feel less than that will make me feel like a traitor to my own gender, then continue to be miserable.” [10:36] “there's something wrong if I feel confidence, or pleasure exerting power over this person who loves me, for me.” [15:38] “we don't have to seek power. It's not a thing to go and find. It's a thing that's innate within us, and it starts with recognizing our own enoughness.” [16:30] “the second you enter what the patriarchy deems a man's place. You can't be emotional. You're not allowed. You have to conform, and you're immediately judged for the very same things that are okay for men. “ [23:13] “We have to be willing to cry, and be emotional and vulnerable to the women in our lives. And the women in our lives have to brush up against that discomfort.” [34:00] “My hope for men is that they don't feel they have to sit at the head of the table to feel like a man.” [43:02] “I'm on the journey with you. And you know what, I reserve the right to change my opinion and to have my ideas and thoughts changed and challenged. Because I'm growing.” [46:50] Follow Justin Baldoni: Twitter: https://twitter.com/justinbaldoni TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@justinbaldoni? Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/justinbaldoni Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinbaldoni/
Check out our Sponsors Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. It doesn’t matter what culture or social climate you were raised in, you come into adulthood, womanhood carrying the burden of social demands, pressure, and expectations that weigh heavily. Maybe you’ve never questioned the beliefs you have around how a woman acts, what true love looks like, or if being your true authentic self is even an option. Who is she? What does she like? How does she feel about herself, marriage, or children? In this episode, Lisa is joined by the NYT bestselling author and clinical psychologist, Dr. Shefali. The conversation gets super real and right to the heart of breaking down belief systems that are keeping you trapped so you can rethink and discern beliefs that are uniquely empowering for you as an individual woman. Order Dr. Shefali’s book, A Radical Awakening: https://www.aradicalawakening.com/ SHOW NOTES: Belief System | Dr. Shefali on how beliefs restrain you from discovering who you are [2:35] Love Debunked | The idea and agenda of love as an idea that comes with expectations [5:16] Motherhood | Dr. Shefali explores Lisa’s backlash deciding to not have children [11:25] Motherhood Pressure | Dr. Shefali debunks mothers just identifying through their child [17:41] Authentic Life | Dr. Shefali explains and Lisa punctuates discerning life on your terms [23:19] Beauty & Youth | Dr. Shefali breaks down positive & negative of the standard of beauty [26:30] Feeding Insecurities | The problem with tying self-worth to the physical & being powerful [36:45] Niceness | Dr. Shefali debunks being nice and embracing the bitch and authenticity [41:17] True Essence | Dr. Shefali reveals your true essence is not destructible, false self hurts [45:20] Toxic Femininity | When good qualities of femininity is extreme and excessive [47:29] QUOTES: “we ingest these belief systems and then we robotically follow them, so they encage us, they don’t liberate us” [3:39] “The condition is always there, and there should be conditions. Those are called boundaries. Those are called, my standards, what I need, and we should flourish ourselves with conditions that allow us to blossom.” [8:35] “the fairytale ends when the real relationship begins.” [10:42] “There's a big distinction between biologically bearing a child and being a mother” [12:55] “We need the permission to believe that there are other options so that we can still feel worthy without what culture has told us...” [20:33] “We are at war with our own bodies, because of this inner critic. And we women need to say no more.” [29:26] “I'm learning for myself to neutralize the word cellulite, fat, thin, wrinkles, old. These are judgmental words in culture when actually they're just parts of life.” [31:18] “Everyone can have their own relationship with me. The key is, do I have a relationship with me?” [44:34] Follow Dr. Shefali: Website: https://www.drshefali.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/drshefali Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrShefaliTsabary Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKzsU94h-PkLBiF5xHo-SjQ
Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. As humans our desire to be liked and accepted by others is part of the human experience. We are social by nature, so caring what others think about us is something we all experience on some level, but it can feel like kryptonite when you care too much. When it starts affecting our self-esteem, our self-worth, our confidence and our ability to show up, it becomes a problem we need to deal with. In this episode, Lisa introduces the tactics and strategies she uses and reveals how to turn your kryptonite into a superpower that leaves you in charge with your empathy intact. SHOW NOTES: Beating Yourself Up | Lisa’s tip for catching yourself and asking ‘what’s the lesson?’ [2:18] Social Anxiety | Lisa shares tips socially awkward situations and having a plan [4:54] People Pleaser | Lisa reframes the problem & defines the main issue with people pleasing [9:56] Inner Critic | Lisa explains why caring isn’t a problem but listening to your gut is crucial [17:32] Caring for Others | Lisa reveals why boundaries and self-care are needed [25:21] QUOTES: “So every time negative thought comes in, you ask yourself, what is this telling me? Can I listen to it? Can I just do it? Can I get better? And then use it as getting better” [4:40] “...overcome the fact that caring and people pleasing can actually become detrimental to you. Don't switch off the part of you that is special. Just develop tactics to overcome them.” [8:52] “it can be beautiful to complete someone. But if you seek your value in that, that's where it becomes dangerous” [10:36] “your protection is having your own value system that cannot be damaged by external people.” [13:43] “Give your gut the megaphone and go, now does it feel true? What these people are saying? Does it feel true? [...] But if something doesn't feel right, that someone's telling you, ask yourself why, and start following that thought.“ [22:56] “....the reason why you give yourself over is because you do care because they are meaningful to you, so don't shut that off, but don't give up who you are.” [28:23] Lisa’s Book Suggestion for Social Anxiety: Captivate by Vanessa Van Edwards, https://www.amazon.com/Captivate-Succeeding-Vanessa-Van-Edwards/dp/0399564489
Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory If you fall into the category of average, you may be dealing with unresolved traumas and experiences that have left your mental and emotional state in chaos. Too many of us have been left coping with behaviors and feelings we don’t quite understand and therefore struggle to resolve. In this episode Lisa explores unresolved trauma, letting go of control, what it takes to surrender and living judgement free with the #1 NY Times bestselling author, Gabby Bernstein. Gabby shows up with grace and honesty to help you step out of the illusion of control into a place where you can exist and create from inspiration and balanced energy. You are capable of being genuine with yourself and letting go of your controlling ways. Take a dive in to get the exact steps how, so you can start today! SHOW NOTES: Unresolved Wounds | Gabby breaks down what it means to show up for you wounds [3:06] Honoring Wounds | Gabby shares why honoring your wounds starts with a decision [5:53] Judgement | Gabby on judging others and self and the need for evaluation & compassion [8:42] Self-Care | Gabby on being unapologetic about self-care and making time [13:56] Radical Honesty | Gabby reveals her practice of radical honesty in healthy relationships [19:40] Surrender | Gabby breaks down the difference between surrender and control [22:15] Lose Control | Gabby on letting go of control to succeed and be more grounded [26:31] Control Recovery | 3 steps to letting go of control and identifying negative control [28:53] Inspired Surrender | Gabby on getting into mindset of surrender and allowing inspiration [32:48] Choose Again | Gabby shares 3 steps to mentally recondition negative thoughts [34:43] Trauma | Gabby on her experience recovering traumatic experience & the gratitude [39:41] QUOTES: “...unresolved wounds from attachment breach, from childhood experiences, from feelings of being unlovable, and not good enough, [...] they will show up until you show up for them” [3:11] “So you have these moments in life where you are in the wound, you feel the experience, and you realize there has to be a better way. Those moments are a miracle because an invisible door opens for you” [7:12] “when we're judging, we're actually projecting out a disowned part of our shadow, a part of us that is unresolved, a part of us that is still needing resources and healing and support.” [9:38] “if my temple, if my energy field, if my physical presence, if my mental psyche is not steady its not at ease, it's not regulated, then everything in my life gets dysregulated” [14:15] “when people walk their talk, that is when they become unapologetic. Because it's no longer this thing I have to prove, it's something that I have to stand by.” [17:39] “when it comes to giving advice to others, and caring for others, just just telling the truth, is the most loving thing we can do.” [20:55] “surrender isn't giving up, it's giving over, it's welcoming a path, that may not be what we expected, it's taking our hands off the wheel, releasing control, opening up our consciousness to something that could be this or something better.” [22:17] “So when you release the control, you've relaxed your container, which is your energy field, your nervous system, and in that relaxed state, you have far more power to create and to cultivate.” [28:15] “you can still be in the pursuit of growth and healing and feel really fucking great at the same time.” [42:40] Follow Gabby Bernstein: Website: https://gabbybernstein.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabbybernstein/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gabriellebernstein Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabbybernstein/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiGs8bAma9q1fqP-3SokQZw Twitter: https://twitter.com/gabbybernstein
Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Sometimes it’s not about the marriage or the kids, or anyone else. Sometimes you go all out and are in it to win just for you. Fun fact, there are 114% more women entrepreneurs now than there were 20 years ago (source). In this episode two successful badass women entrepreneurs discuss purpose, life, taking pause from everything to reconnect with yourself and listening to your gut. A woman’s journey is never easy, but Camila Alves McConaughey opens up about the fulfillment, the rejection, the pain and the success she’s found along the way following her intuition. She and Lisa jump right in to get real, get vulnerable and get practical about what it takes to start successful businesses and balance marriage and kids. Episode Photos - Courtesy of Camila Alves’ Instagram SHOW NOTES: Business Journey | Camila recounts rejections and obstacles starting Yummy Spoonfuls [1:17] Purpose | Knowing when to leave and understanding the purpose of your business & self [5:32] Family Effort | Camila explains the importance of involving the family with business plans [9:03] Seasons of Life | Picking the right path for the season and knowing your priorities [15:07] Take Pause | Not getting lost in the journey and quieting the negative voices [20:58] Evolving | Growing with the journey and having new goals as we reassess [24:35] Ask Questions | Camila on how to ask yourself questions and find answers and therapy [26:34] Time for You | Giving yourself time to reconnect to you and find your adventure [31:17] Intuition | Camila and Lisa discuss going with intuition & listening to you gut responsibly [34:47] QUOTES: “So I think that having a purpose is so important beyond [what] you can even imagine because the hard times are going to come, the doubts are going to come, the questions are going to come and the sacrifice is going to come, so you need to have that purpose really clear to yourself, so it helps you through the journey.” [8:31] “I do believe [in] hard work and do things for the right reasons. [...] Be a good human and the universe and people around you, they will see that. It kind of shelters and you will find your path and you'll find your journey.” [38:26] “if you just really seek to do better for yourself, you can do better for others around you and for your community.” [39:29] Follow Camila Alves McConaughey: Website: https://womenoftoday.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/iamcamilaalves Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wotbycamila/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/camilamcconaughey/?hl=en
Check out our Sponsors Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. If you’re not sure what to look out for, or you think your partner’s behaviors are a bit questionable, then today’s episode is going to reveal all the red flags and warnings of toxic unhealthy relationships you’ll want to avoid as early as possible. SHOW NOTES: Identifying Flags | Know difference between toxic behavior and not being the right match [0:28] The Facade | Get past the representative to avoid a commitment to the wrong person [3:56] Narcissist Trap | When you’ve been disregarded 3 times staying is devaluing yourself [9:45] Lack Empathy | If your partner is not showing empathy it could signal a narcissistic trait [12:19] Unbalanced Effort | Acknowledge the gap, their intentions, and if the gap is reduced [14:54] Self Righteousness | Watch out for rigid people that thinks they’re right and knows better [19:48] Misaligned Values | Not aligned and lacking a mutual respect for the other perspective [20:55] Jumping Conclusions | Not attributing the absolute worst intention to behaviors [28:40] No Boundaries | A partner tries to set boundaries over your boundaries to stop you [30:58] Weaponized Insecurities | Using trusted information against a partner is broke trust [33:48] Broken Trust | Don’t live in fear of trusting others, trust in yourself [35:13] Matthew Hussey is a dating expert on ABC’s What To Text Him Back, columnist for Cosmopolitan Magazine and NY Times Bestselling author. He is a specialist in human attraction and relationship-coaching all over the world. Spirit is the owner and clinical director of her mental health group practice T2S Enterprises. She is also the host of Love Goals on the Oprah Winfrey Network. Dr. Ramani is a licensed clinical psychologist, best-selling author, professor, speaker and more. She is the go to expert on narcissism devoted to demystifying toxic narcissistic relationships. Evy Poumpouras is a former U.S. Secret Service Special Agent turned TV personality, host and multimedia journalist that authored the book, Becoming Bulletproof. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a therapist, content creator and author. Her book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace dives deep into healthy boundaries and how to say no. Tom Bilyeu is co-founder of Impact Theory along with his wife, Lisa Bilyeu. His mission is to pull people out of the matrix at scale through mindset QUOTES: “when someone is saying something that's not been earned yet, by the point in relationship you're at, that is something of a red flag.” Matthew Hussey [2:27] “people will tell you one thing, but their behavior can tell you something completely different. It takes time in order to see that.” Spirit [5:55] “with a narcissistic person, the earlier you leave, the easier it is to extract, right” Dr. Ramani [11:11] “people reveal who they are not through their words, but through situations. And you have to in order to really see who someone is you have to see them in in enough situations.” Matthew Hussey [15:24] “Highlight the gap in a classy and tactful way. Look at whether this person acknowledges the gap because it's usually the sign of a toxic relationship if the gap can't even be acknowledged.” Matthew Hussey [18:08] “You have to look at people holistically who they are with everybody, because that's going to come back to you.” Evy Poumpouras [20:40] “without immediately labeling, without immediately accusing if we can create just a little bit of space between the point at which we get curious and the point at which we've drawn all of our conclusions, that space saves relationships…” Matthew Hussey [29:32] “So the more you increase your language around what's happening in the situation, the better you will be at recognizing when someone is trying to set boundaries over your boundaries.” Nedra Glover Tawwab [32:28] “it's so terrifying to think how fragile trust really is that it only takes one gnarly comment that was aimed to be cruel, and you can really do a lot of damage.” Tom Bilyeu [34:38] “You don't trust that someone is never going to betray you. You just trust that you'll be able to handle it.” Matthew Hussey [38:37] FOLLOW MATTHEW HUSSEY: http://www.matthewhussey.com/ FOLLOW SPIRIT: https://www.linkedin.com/in/talk2spirit/ FOLLOW DR. RAMANI DURVASULA: http://doctor-ramani.com/ FOLLOW: EVY POUMPOURAS: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ FOLLOW NEDRA GLOVER TAWWAB: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ FOLLOW TOM BILYEU: https://impacttheory.com/
Check out our Sponsor Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Do you find it a struggle to love yourself in spite of how much you put on the line day after day for everyone else? How can it be so easy to put others first? Have you ever wondered, If you said to others what you say to yourself, would they love you, could they trust you or build a deeper connection with you? Lisa speaks with Jordan Green, a licensed therapist and coach, and the founder of the Love Group about the importance of self-validation, self-love and relationships in this episode. Jordan shares incredible insights on what it takes to have healthy relationships, what healthy conflict looks like and how it all starts with first valuing and loving yourself. SHOW NOTES: Know Your Value | The importance of your value and how it impacts your relationships [1:29] Love Letters | You can start doing these two simple things to start valuing yourself today [2:16] Seeking Validation | When seeking validation is okay and where it becomes a problem [3:40] Healthy Relationships | What validation looks like in a health relationship [7:25] Interdependence | Jordan breaks down what healthy identities look for couples [8:28] Nonverbal Communication | Jordan breaks down 4 types of communication breaking down relationships [10:17] Criticism | Jordan explains how criticism breaks down relationships [11:25] Contempt | Jordan explains how contempt is the greatest predictor of divorce [12:49] Defensiveness | Jordan explains how defensiveness escalates conflict [15:59] Stonewalling | Jordan on how emotional overwhelm can lead to shutting down [17:48] Self Regulate | Jordan explains techniques to self regulate or co-regulate [ 20:54] Turning Towards | The power of turning towards a person seeking your attention [22:54] Healthy Conflict | Jordan shares healthy and unhealthy ratios of conflict in relationships [25:13] Better Relationship Tips | Small bank appreciation deposits and minimal withdrawals [27:17] Not Being Needy | Jordan on how to communicate and not feel needy in a relationship [31:43] Rupture Repairs | How to repair those ruptures when they happen and the effort it takes [33:28] 1-2-3 Baby! | How Lisa and Tom resolve their conflicts and one is emotionally sober [37:08] Certainty & Uncertainty | The healthy balance of both in a relationship [41:34] QUOTES: “If you know what you have to bring to the table and the value that you bring to a relationship, it's going to make that relationship that much better.” [1:56] “validation is a skill that I think everyone should learn how to validate each other, and it's okay to sometimes feel like you need validation from the people around you, the issue is that when we need validation from others to feel lovable, and worthy.” [4:15] “So we have to retrain our minds by starting to focus on our partner’s strength and positive traits. And we have to start making repairs by making efforts to connect and communicate openly and show appreciation and love for each other.” [25:01] “I think a lot of times we feel guilty, like we shouldn't have to ask for that validation, or appreciation or love or, or to have to ask to do activities that help us to feel more connected, but it's totally okay to ask, and it's so important to ask,” [32:07] “It's totally normal to experience times of disconnection in our relationships. A lot of people think that we shouldn't have conflict. We have these beliefs from our childhood or just from society that we shouldn't have conflicts that until we avoid it, or we feel like there's something wrong, but it's totally normal to experience conflict, there's totally, it's totally normal to experience times of disconnection in your relationship.” [39:39] Follow Jordan Green: Website: https://jordanandrea.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jordangreencoaching/?ref=bookmarks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.love.therapist/?hl=en
Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory Do you ever feel pressured to behave a certain way because your family, friends, or society expect it from you? Most of us want to be liked, but by trying to please everyone, we end up pleasing no one—ourselves included. That’s why most people don’t live the life they want. But how do you stay true to yourself if your best friends and your family shame you publicly? How do you stick to your choices under overwhelming pressure to change and adapt to others’ opinions? In this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by the YouTube phenomenon Haifa Beseisso to discuss such matters and more as they explore how Haifa went from getting rejected to traveling around the world by succeeding on YouTube. How to keep going even if your closest friends judge your choices. Why awareness is the key to change, and what needs to change to give everyone the freedom to make their own choices. They discuss how to stay emphatic to people that try to tear you down, and what to do if you feel like other people don’t understand you, and much more. SHOW NOTES: Lisa introduces today’s guest Haifa Beseisso and shares why she´s a role model for being authentic. [0:00] What Haifa loved about Lisa when they first met and why this video is not about motivating other women to remove their hijab. [2:15] How Haifa went from getting rejected to traveling around the world by succeeding on YouTube. [4:40] How to keep going even if your closest friends judge your choices. [8:09] Why listening to your body can uncover if you should change. [15:02] Why awareness is the key to change. [21:20] What really needs to change to give everyone the freedom to make their own choices. [24:30] Haifa´s tactics to handle depression and find her soul´s mission. [31:18] How to stay emphatic to people that try to tear you down. [37:32] What to do if you feel like other people don´t understand you. [40:00] How Haifa deals with family attacking her and the choice you have at that moment. [45:15] Haifa shares how you can connect with her. [53:24] QUOTES: “I deserve respect. Me and any girl that’s standing to make any choice that they want. We need to learn how to do that.” [11:59] “I used to really care about being loved by everybody, and my biggest growth was: “You don´t all have to like me.” [18:30] “What I´ve learned is that there isn´t some ultimate truth. What could be true to me might not be true for another girl living in Jordan or Syria or America. What´s important is that we have the ability to think and know what our choices are as individuals, as all genders, and decide for ourselves without controlling one another.” [25:13] “Instead of seeing them as an attacker, I feel sorry for them.” [38:00] “The more we are open to seeing different realities and truths, the more we can live freely.” [51:50] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW HAIFA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flywithhaifa/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-utv5IW04U Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/flywithhaifa/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/flywithhaifa/
Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Today is the day to go from underestimated to unstoppable. It’s time to learn how to turn your setbacks into set-ups for success. Now is the time to push through failure and obstacles holding you back to build the unstoppable self-belief you need. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by one of Forbes America’s Richest Self-Made Women, Jamie Kern Lima, and CEO of the BRNGroup, Dia Simms, two women behind billion-dollar brands with incredible success stories. They discuss why most female entrepreneurs fail and what to do when you keep failing, and you can’t get back up again. Jamie shares how she managed to take on big risks and pushed through no after no. They explore the one moment, Jamie doubted herself most, yet she decided to trust her gut, thus completely changed her business. Dia shares how she failed with her first company, but what she learned made her successful 15 years later. Jamie reveals why your setbacks are actually your set-ups for success and much more. SHOW NOTES: Lisa introduces today´s guests, two women behind billion-dollar brands. [00:04] Dia and Jamie share why most female entrepreneurs fail. [5:17] What to do when you keep failing, and you can´t get back up. [10:10] Why entrepreneurship is actually the safer road. [12:24] Jamie shares how she managed to take on big risks and pushed through “no” after “no.” [13:21] The one moment, Jamie doubted herself most, yet decided to trust her gut, thus completely changed her business. [19:04] Why success is about taking risks over and over again and how to do that. [21:17] Dia shares how she failed with her first company, but what she learned made her successful 15 years later. [23:16] Jamie reveals why your setbacks are actually your set-ups for success. [26:20] What you will be most proud of when you´re successful. (Not what you think.) [29:09] Lisa, Dia, and Jamie share what they still struggle with today. [30:00] QUOTES: “The truth is none of us sat there and just loved ourselves. It has been an ongoing effort and work to look at our insecurities, our negative voice, all the things we had to go through.” [4:55] “I have the capability inside me because that is just science.” [11:25] “The greatest risk is not to trust yourself.” [14:08] “I would rather stand for something in that moment than sell a whole lot of products and stand for nothing.” [19:04] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW JAMIE: Website: https://jamiekernlima.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamie-kern-lima-35574a71/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JamieKernLima Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JamieKernLimaPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamiekernlima/ FOLLOW DIA: Website: https://www.diasimms.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diasimms/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/diasimms?lang=de Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diasimms/?hl=en
Check out our Sponsor Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Why do we stay in bad relationships? If you find yourself in one bad relationship after another, it could be a sign that you’d rather be with anyone than be on your own. Many people become complacent and settle for less than they deserve just because they like the idea of having someone. But how do you know if you are settling for less than you deserve? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Certified Life & Relationship Coach, Speaker, & Bestselling Author Stephan Labossiere, a.k.a Stephan Speaks. They explore three common reasons why most women settle for an unfulfilling relationship. Stephan explains the bad advice that makes most people stay in relationships they don´t belong in. Furthermore, Stephan shares the fundamentals that every successful relationship needs and why a connection isn´t built, how to know whether you’re listening to your fear or intuition. He explains why couples lose attraction and how to recreate attraction if you feel it´s gone and what to do if your partner has changed in a negative way and how to differentiate tough times with when it’s time to break up with your partner. SHOW NOTES: Three common reasons why most women settle for an unfulfilling relationship. [00:20] Why Lisa stayed with her ex-boyfriend before she met Tom. [1:41] This lousy advice makes most people stay in relationships they don´t belong in. [2:01] The fundamentals that every successful relationship needs. [3:29] Why connection can´t be built, and even a great connection is not enough for a successful relationship. [11:23] How to know whether you’re listening to your fear or intuition. [14:30] Why analyzing everything is sabotaging your relationship. [15:51] This is what kills most relationships and the three things you have to learn to build a successful relationship. [17:20] Why couples lose attraction and how to recreate attraction if you feel it´s gone. [21:59] What to do if your partner has changed negatively. [29:10] How to differentiate tough times with when it´s time to break up with your partner. [34:45] This mindset is the reason for Lisa´s long-lasting, happy relationship with Tom. [36:59] Implement this communication habit to keep your relationship on track. [38:48] Why being authentic from the beginning is essential for a lasting relationship. [41:25] Stephan shares how to connect with him. [43:30] QUOTES: “Women confuse intuition and fear, and they allow fear to overrun their intuition.” [14:28] “Especially within relationships where two people have a connection: This is the person that could hurt you the most and make you the happiest.” [18:12] “We got to recognize the difference between the person who doesn´t belong in our lives and continues to do wrong and the person who does belong in our life and makes mistakes.” [20:34] “The majority of people are not with the person they most love. The majority of people are not with someone they have a connection with.” [36:08] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW STEPHAN: Website: https://www.stephanspeaksshop.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/RelationshipExpert1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephanSpeaksRelationships
Check out Our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Are you tired of feeling lost with no purpose? Most people wake up one day and realize they have no idea what they should do with their lives. But what would happen if you allow yourself to trust your gut and step into your true authentic self? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Former National Spokesperson, #1 Best Selling Personal Finance Author and Speaker & Money Maven of the Steve Harvey Morning Show, Patrice Washington. They explore why “Follow your passion and the money will come” is BS and what to do instead to create wealth. Patrice shares why more stuff will never fill the void and what´s necessary to embrace purpose and fulfillment. Patrice shares how her career skyrocketed after she accepted herself. They discuss why it´s okay to piss other people off to be successful and much more. Pre-order Patrice´s book “Redefine Wealth for Yourself, How to Stop Chasing Money and Finally Live Your Life's Purpose” https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08RSNZQ7M?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420 SHOW NOTES: Why “Follow your passion and the money will come” is BS and what to do instead to create wealth. [1:22] Patrice shares why more stuff will never fill the void and what´s necessary to embrace purpose and fulfillment. [3:04] Why you´re confused and feel like something is missing even when you read all the books. [3:58] How to build passion around the things you´re good at even when your natural gifts are unsexy. [6:34] How Patrice’s career skyrocketed after she accepted herself and stopped caring about others. [7:35] The story about how Lisa first met Patrice and why Lisa was shocked when Patrice started to speak. [10:24] Why most people put their talent in a box and how to unleash it. [11:50] How Patrice threw away her suits, started to live into her authentic self, and why the reaction that followed made her cry. [13:40] Why you shouldn´t leave room for a plan B and go all-in when you make a real decision. [15:00] Why it´s okay to piss other people off to be successful. [16:20] How Patrice transformed from being insecure to badass self-esteem with the first pillar of her book. [17:47] The confident practices Patrice still does to this day. [21:00] How to use her book´s second pillar to create wealthy relationships that matter. [23:10] What is Patrice´s first responsibility, and what does she prioritize in her life above everything else. [26:40] Why Patrice turned down interviews with huge platforms that would´ve brought in lots of sales. [29:00] How Patrice trust and acts on what feels right for her. [30:20] The pillar of faith that helped Patrice through the most challenging times when her child died. [33:34] Three things you really need to be successful. (Most people will realize their current goals don´t matter.) [37:30] Why even when you feel miserable right now, you´re exactly on the right way. [43:18] How to know if it´s just a roadblock or if something isn´t for you. [45:26] Why you shouldn´t give up even when you feel like nothing is working. [49:00] Patrice shares how to connect with her. [52:27] QUOTES: “I believe purpose will connect you to the people you´re supposed to serve. That´s why I don´t care about pissing everybody else off.” [17:02] “Your business is only going to grow to the extent you´re willing to heal.” [19:49] “The thing that has allowed me to keep going is this idea, that none of those things happen to me; they happen for me.” [34:30] “We have to do it until other people believe it. We have to show up until they start to show up. If we don´t show up for ourselves, why would anyone else?” [39:40] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW PATRICE: Website: https://patricewashington.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seekwisdompcw/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SeekWisdomPCW Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/SeekWisdomPCW Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redefining-wealth-with-patrice-washington/id1281824139
Check out our Sponsors Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Do you casually throw a narcissist label on people simply because they were unkind, harsh, or brief with you? How do you know if a person is truly narcissistic or just experiencing emotions or a situation that hasn’t been communicated? In this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu speaks with Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist, best-selling author, expert of narcissism and so much more. Dr. Ramani and Lisa go deep into the world of narcissism. Together they walk you through a complete journey to getting a better understanding of the narcissist, their motivators, and how you may be allowing yourself to be the victim. Dr Ramani begins with the 6 types of narcissistic behaviors and teaches you what the narcissistic game is and how you can play to win by removing yourself or taking responsibility for staying. Order Dr Ramani’s book, “Don’t You Know Who I Am?” https://www.amazon.com/Dont-You-Know-Who-Entitlement/dp/1682617521/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3DVXDMXL6FQAD&dchild=1&keywords=dr.+ramani+durvasula&qid=1614728895&sprefix=Dr.+Ram%2Caps%2C221&sr=8-2 SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa welcomes Dr. Ramani Durvasula Define | Dr. Ramani explains what a narcissist is? [3:52] Grandiose | Dr. Ramani defines the classical grandiose narcissist [3:53] Covert | Dr. Ramani defines the covert narcissist [4:34] Malignant | Dr. Ramani defines the malignant narcissist [5:01] Communal | Dr Ramani defines the communal narcissist [5:35] Neglectful | Dr Ramani defines the neglectful narcissist [6:10] Self Righteous | Dr Ramani defines the self-righteous narcissist [6:42] Insecurity | Dr. Ramani explains the relationship between narcissism and insecurity Pathological Insecurity | Dr. Ramani explains the difference between Pathologically insecure and conventionally insecure [8:30] Misconceptions | Dr. Ramani talks about the misconceptions of narcissism [11:02] Relational Responsibility | Dr. Ramni explains the responsibility of respect, empathy and clarity[17:07] Not Changing | Dr. Ramani explains what to do when they are not going to change [19:41] Red Flags | Dr. Ramani reveals red flags to look for [20:40] Rules of Three | Dr. Ramani breaks down rules of engagement with narcissistic people [21:00] Wanting is Fine | Dr. Ramani explains it is okay to want what you want, but accept truth [23:22] Devaluing Yourself | Dr. Ramni explains about devaluation of yourself dealing with narcissist [24:14] The Game | Dr. Ramani reveals the narcissist's game [25:15] Avoid the Trap | Dr. Ramani explains how to void the narcissistic trap [26:00] Abandonment Issues | Dr. Ramani reveals narcissist have abandonment issues [26:30] Holding Safe Space | Dr. Ramani explains holding space when you’ve hurt someone [28:25] Communication | Dr. Ramani explains narcissistic people shut the lines of communication [29:45] Conversations | Dr. Ramani talks about having conversations when you’ve been shut out [31:17] Identify Narcissism | Dr. Ramani explains how important it is to identify these behaviors immediately [31:58] Charisma | Dr. Ramani explains the connection between charismatic people and narcissist [32:28] Changing a Narcissist | Dr. Ramani reveals her thoughts if narcissists can change their rigid behavior [37:17] Men vs. Women Narcissists | Dr. Ramani explains social impact on behaviors that impact narcissistic behaviors in men and women [42:07] Raising Kids | Dr. Ramani shares tips how to raise children to not be narcissistic [44:17] QUOTES: “Too many people try to draw water out of empty wells, they want people to communicate with them the way that they want. If this is not working for you then leave. Do not try to transform someone into something they can’t be.” [19:30] “They’re not going to change, what are you going to do? [...] I’ll stay if, there’s no if, this is it this is who this person is. You stay AND this is how it is [19:57] “With a narcissistic person, the earlier you leave the easier it is to extract. [...] The problem is, early in the game, the narcissist doesn’t like to lose, so they will try to suck you back, they will try to hoover you back, and that is very seductive” [25:17] “You are disrespecting yourself staying in this conversation, and it’s just going to get more abusive, so there is no way forward.” [31:48] “Charisma is like heavy perfume or cologne that someone that someone wears when they don’t take a shower, it’s probably covering up something else” [32:28] “No one gets made a six month old baby for crying, [...] a narcissist wants to be treated like a six month old, have their tantrums, and still have people snuggle them afterwards.” [38:42] FOLLOW Dr Ramani Durvasula: Website: http://doctor-ramani.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DoctorRamani Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/doctorramani/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/DoctorRamani
Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Do you find yourself living your life on others terms? Do you tend to let your friends, family, and even strangers influence your goals, dreams, and what you’re ultimately capable of? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by celebrity life coach, nutritional expert, and CEO Cynthia Garcia to discuss such matters and more as they explore the power of changing your perspective on your life, rewriting the stories you tell yourself, and how to live life on your own terms as your true authentic self. They discuss how to reframe your perspectives, why you need to look inward, how to get used to discomfort and change, why you need to understand and change the stories you tell yourself, the silver-lining of trauma and pain, how to stop focusing on what others think of you, why it’s okay to not always be happy, the power of curiosity, and much more. SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa introduces and welcomes today’s guest, Cynthia Garcia. [2:20] Reframe | Cynthia reveals the power of reframing and controlling your perspectives. [5:00] Inside | Cynthia reveals why you have to look inward and refrain from ‘numbing out.’ [7:28] Release | Cynthia reveals why getting uncomfortable is required for change. [9:30] Unstuck | Cynthia reveals how to break negative patterns and get unstuck from your rut. [10:35] Change | Cynthia reveals what you need to be truly change the course of your life. [17:38] S.T.O.R.Y. | Cynthia reveals the power of understanding the stories you tell yourself. [20:15] Immerse | Cynthia reveals the power of immersing yourself in the world you desire. [30:17] Endings | Cynthia reveals what to do if your story truly doesn’t have a happy ending. [32:00] Trauma | Cynthia reveals how the impactful events of your life form your narrative. [33:33] Aware | Cynthia reveals why you need to make an effort to be aware of your stories. [37:56] Naysayers | Cynthia reveals how to let go of what other people think of you. [42:31] Know Yourself | Cynthia reveals why you must know the truth about who you are. [45:12] Happiness | Cynthia reveals the truth about why it’s okay to not be always happy. [50:15] Stay Curious | Cynthia reveals why you should remain curious in life. [53:46] Enjoy Pain | Cynthia reveals the power and beauty of pain in your life. [56:48] Connect | Cynthia shares how you can stay connected to learn more. [1:01:14] QUOTES: “Our past is creating our present and, if we’re not careful, it will also create our future.” [6:30] “So there’s two requirements to do this work — two. One is you have to be willing and you have to be ready. If you can’t see it, you’re not ready…” [18:33] “That’s what stories are… We give meaning to events that don’t have them, but we need to make sense of it…” [26:52] “Any real solution that doesn’t explore our underlying feelings of shame, and unworthiness, and deep-seated beliefs that we hold is a distraction. It’s a distraction from the real work that needs to be done and trying to be happy all the time is a distraction. You can’t understand how to be happy all the time if you don’t know what makes you sad. You cannot know the light if you’ve never seen the darkness.” [51:27] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW CYNTHIA: Website: cynthiagarcia.com Website: transformationalnutrition.com Instagram: instagram.com/iamcynthiagarcia Facebook: facebook.com/iamcynthiagarcia
Check out our Sponsors Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Life is going to knock you down. You are going to have setbacks. It’s almost certainly inevitable. Still, it’s on you, and you alone to push away the temptation to simply become a victim of life. Instead, you must rise above, stand tall, and continuously adapt as life throws you curveballs. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by author, reporter, host of the ‘Better Together’ podcast, and all-around badass Maria Menounos to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to overcome setbacks in life and why you need to find your voice, feel a sense of empowerment, and start putting yourself first. They discuss Maria’s incredible journey from entertainment reporter to overcoming a brain tumor, why you need to feel a sense of empowerment, the power of being open to every perspective, why hardship is a blessing, how Maria has re-defined her definition of success, why you need to live life on your own terms, the power of purpose, and much more. Listen to Maria’s all-new podcast, ‘Better Together with Maria Menounos’: mariamenounos.com SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode and welcomes today’s guest Maria Menounos. [0:30] Journey | Maria shares her incredible journey of discovering she had a brain tumor. [3:00] Learning | Maria reveals what she would have done differently when looking back. [9:06] Empowered | Maria reveals how to empower yourself to start speaking your mind. [13:36] Possibilities | Maria reveals why you have to think of every perspective possible. [20:56] Hardship | Maria reveals how she pushes through pain and overcomes challenges. [23:18] Success | Maria reveals why it’s okay to radically re-define your definition of success. [28:11] Living Your Way | Maria reveals why she decided live her life on her own terms. [33:08] Dreams | Maria shares how her dreams have evolved and shifted over time. [37:48] Purpose | Maria reveals the little things that led her to finding her purpose. [41:16] Connect | Maria reveals how to stay connected and follow her for more. [43:50] QUOTES: “…I know our beliefs create a chemistry in our bodies that make shit happen.” [19:29] “You have to realize that your pain, your traumas, they can all be your fuel. They can be your ally in your pursuit of your dream.” [26:43] “For me, it was redefining success and knowing that just because I can doesn’t mean I should and then making choices that supported that — or it’s like, “Is this gonna serve my soul? Is this gonna to make me feel like I’m living my purpose? Or is this going to make me feel happy and have fun?” And if it wasn’t, I was like, “Well, not interested.”” [42:10] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW MARIA: Website: mariamenounos.com YouTube: youtube.com/mariamenounos Instagram: instagram.com/bettertogetherwithmaria Instagram: instagram.com/mariamenounos Facebook: facebook.com/MariaMenounos/ Twitter: twitter.com/mariamenounos
Check out our Sponsors Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. The term ‘toxic relationship’ gets thrown around quite often in today’s digital age, but what does it actually mean? How can you truly identify the red flags and warning signs of one? How do you know you’re not the problem in the relationship? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by the world's leading dating advice expert Matthew Hussey to discuss such matters and more as they explore the red flags of a toxic relationship and what to do if you spot them. They discuss why not everything is toxic just because it was labeled as so, why the rationale behind your feelings might be invalid, how to properly approach a breakup, what to do after you’ve broken up, how to heal your trust issues, why you need to be self-aware and self-reflective, why you need to have compassion when approaching your partner, and much more. SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa welcomes back today’s guest and relationship expert, Matthew Hussey. [1:03] Red Flags | Matthew reveals the key red flags to watch out for in your relationship. [2:36] Toxic | Matthew reveals how labeling things as ‘toxic’ can be going over the line. [6:30] Feelings | Matthew reveals why the rationale behind our feelings may be invalid. [12:22] Breakups | Matthew reveals why people use language poorly while exiting a relationship. [16:23] Post-Breakup | Matthew reveals why reaching out after a breakup can lead to pain. [19:22] Forgiveness | Matthew reveals why it can be so difficult to forgive. [22:46] Trust | Matthew reveals how to let go of the pain from your past relationships. [23:40] Compassion | Matthew reveals the power of approaching your partner with compassion. [30:05] Healthy Signs | Matthew reveals what to look for early into a relationship. [33:03] It Might Be You | Matthew reveals why you need to reflect and have self-awareness. [36:32] Be Curious | Matthew reveals why you should never rush to drawing a conclusion. [39:08] Vulnerable | Matthew discusses why you need to be vulnerable. [43:08] Connect | Matthew shares how you can connect with him to learn more. [45:50] QUOTES: “…when we’re scared, when we’re hurt, when we’re wounded, we have our favorite weapon. Our favorite weapon could be passive aggression. Our favorite weapon could be the silent treatment. Our favorite weapon could be storming off — it could be attacking you. We all have our favorite weapon and I think we often scare people off in relationships not because of our wounds, we scare them off with our weapons.” [7:45] “You don’t trust that someone’s never going to betray you, you just trust that you’ll be able to handle it if they do.” [27:55] “It’s very difficult, especially when someone is making us feel like we’re overreacting, to get impartial and to say, “Where is the line between me asking too much and me asking the right amount?” … and sometimes I think people don’t realize they’re toxic because they’re so convinced of their story.” [38:48] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW MATTHEW: Website: getcoreconfidence.com YouTube: youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: instagram.com/thematthewhussey Facebook: facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Twitter: twitter.com/matthewhussey TikTok: tiktok.com/@thematthewhussey
Check out our Sponsor Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Do you struggle with self doubt and a habit of putting yourself down right as you’re getting started on a new path? Do you tell yourself things like “I’m not good enough,” “I’ll never meet their expectations,” or “What’s the point of even trying?” It’s time to silence that negative inner voice for good and start walking on a path towards empowerment, encouragement, and letting your true self shine. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu answers your questions about how to overcome these negative inner voices and stomp out self rejection and doubt. She discusses how to own your true self, why you need to speak to yourself with encouraging language, how to not let others dictate your decisions, how to start valuing yourself, and how to set expectations that serve you in life. SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode about overcoming self doubt and self rejection. [0:20] Being You | Lisa reveals how to block out your self doubt and own your true self. [1:09] Build Yourself Up | Lisa reveals the power of using encouraging language with yourself. [7:16] Keep Showing Up | Lisa shares how to stop others from dictating your decisions. [11:22] You’re Valuable | Lisa reveals the importance of building a foundation of valuing yourself. [19:15] Expectations | Lisa reveals how to have expectations that serve you in life. [26:36] QUOTES: “So, be the student, don’t worry about all the failures or the mistakes you’re going to make — that’s part of the process. So you want to know the language I use, “It’s part of the process, I’m a student.”” [11:08] “It’s not about whether you care or not, it’s about whether you act or if you freeze. That’s what matters.” [13:14] “…eventually start showing people, start taking action, show what you’re made of, and who you are, and who you’ve decided to be… but first it comes to ‘decide who you want to be.’” [17:24] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW
Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Do you struggle to say no when others demand or expect something from you? Do you fold under pressure, constantly apologize, and have a fear of disappointing others? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by therapist, content creator, and author Nedra Glover Tawwab to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways you can begin to set powerful and clear boundaries in your life while still maintaining healthy, loving relationships. They discuss how to acknowledge the boundaries you need to set, how to shift the language you use to put you in control of situations, how to handle conflicting boundaries within your relationships, why you need to take ownership over your choices, how to handle disrespect, the power of being clear, why you need to stop apologizing, how to maintain boundaries after setting them, and much more. Pre-Order Nedra’s book, ‘Set Boundaries, Find Peace’: amazon.com/dp/0593192095/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_6LXdGbMN7FMVF SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode and welcomes today’s guest, Nedra Glover Tawwab. [1:46] Acknowledge | Nedra reveals how to acknowledge the boundaries you need in your life. [3:22] Recognize | Nedra reveals why you need to recognize when you’re being manipulated. [5:51] Language | Nedra reveals why you need to develop the language you use. [8:23] Boundaries | Nedra reveals how to deal with conflicting boundaries in your relationships. [9:13] Fine Line | Nedra discusses why you need to set boundaries with others within yourself. [11:57] Choices | Nedra reveals how you can take ownership over the relationships in your life. [14:06] Do This | Nedra reveals what to do if someone isn’t respecting your boundaries. [17:18] Empower | Nedra discusses the empowerment within recognizing you have the choice. [21:26] Lifestyle | Nedra reveals how you can build your lifestyle around empowering yourself. [23:42] Being Clear | Nedra reveals how to be clear with others about your boundaries. [26:50] Fear | Nedra reveals why you need to get over the fear of disappointing others. [30:03] Don’t Apologize | Nedra reveals how to avoid apologizing when you shouldn’t be. [33:20] All Around You | Nedra reveals how boundaries are constantly all around you. [34:56] Restate | Nedra shares how to keep boundaries in tact with your relationships. [38:20] Co-Dependency | Nedra shares how boundaries are healthy in your relationship. [41:26] What’s Key | Nedra shares the one key thing you can start immediately. [44:51] Connect | Nedra discusses her book and how you can stay connected with her. [46:52] QUOTES: “The more you increase your language around what’s happening in the situation, the better you will be at recognizing when someone is trying to set boundaries over your boundaries. They’re really trying to say, “Hey, I don’t want you to talk to me about this thing and this is how I’m going to get you to stop.”” [8:00] “You can’t make a person respect your boundary, you can only make a request. So you can say, “This is what I need, I would really like,” but you can’t change another person’s behavior…” [13:03] “The person that I have to please the most is me. It doesn’t mean that what I need or what I want is more important than anyone else, but I certainly believe in self-care first because I cannot care for anyone or anything before I care for myself.” [31:20] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW NEDRA: Website: nedratawwab.com Instagram: instagram.com/nedratawwab Facebook: facebook.com/nedratawwab/
Check out our Sponsors Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Believe it or not, the person you talk with most in your life is actually yourself. Are you treating yourself with kindness, grace, acceptance and love? Or are you harsh, unkind, brutal, and unforgiving towards the person you see in the mirror? It’s time for you to away from the scale and step towards a path of self-love and acceptance. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by award-winning fitness instructor, entrepreneur, and creator of ‘Blogilates’ Cassey Ho to discuss such matters and more as they explore why it’s critical you silence your inner negative-voice and begin to treat yourself with love, acceptance, and grace everyday, no matter your weight or size. They discuss the importance of being your true self, why you should love yourself unconditionally, how to end your negative thoughts, the four stages of your relationship with the scale, how to approach health, how to stop hating yourself and start loving yourself instead, the rules you need to set for yourself, why grace is important in growth, and the key steps you can take to get started today. SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode and welcomes today’s guest, Cassey Ho. [0:47] Transformation | Cassey shares her realization that she wasn’t being truly herself. [3:02] Be Kinder | Cassey reveals why you need to be kinder to yourself. [6:05] Change | Cassey shares how you can start to break your negative thoughts. [6:41] Be You | Cassey shares why you should never let others dictate your decisions. [9:09] The Scale | Cassey shares the four relationships you have with the scale. [11:21] Health | Cassey reveals why you can’t go overboard and disregard your health. [16:01] Stopping | Cassey shares the time when she had to stop a workout YouTube video. [18:12] Love Yourself | Cassey shares how to love your body while still pushing yourself. [20:26] Journey | Cassey shares her journey to being physically and mentally healthy. [24:10] Rules | Cassey shares why you should create a flexible structure for yourself. [25:35] Adapt | Cassey shares why it’s okay to have setbacks on your journey forward. [27:18] Slipping Back | Cassey shares how to avoid fluctuating and reverting back. [28:25] Confidence | Cassey shares how accomplishing your goals builds confidence. [30:46] Comparing | Cassey shares why you shouldn’t negatively compare yourself to others. [32:31] Grace | Cassey reveals why you should give yourself grace to slip from time to time. [36:25] Get Started | Cassey reveals what you need to get started on your fitness journey. [40:28] Connect | Cassey shares how you can continue to follow and workout with her. [41:58] QUOTES: “You know, there’s a camp of people who believe that if you want to change, it means you don’t love yourself… No, you can do both because in loving yourself, you want to improve yourself…” [10:26] “So, I highly suggest that anyone going through an abusive scale relationship, they need to take the scale out of their life until, at some point, they can see the scale again simply as a tool, not as something that can tell you if you’re going to have a good day or a bad day…” [14:28] “When you go on any type of journey, you have to write out your rules so that you stay in line and I think it’s really important to be very strict and ridged with yourself so that you know exactly where you’re going and how you’re going to get there…” [25:38] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW CASSEY: Website: blogilates.com YouTube: youtube.com/user/blogilates Instagram: instagram.com/blogilates Facebook: facebook.com/blogilates/ Twitter: twitter.com/blogilates LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/cassey-ho-23350792/
Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Are you struggling to make truly impactful change in your life? Do you struggle with overthinking, fear, worry, and you continue to make decisions that are self-destructive and continue to hold you back in life? Today, put an end to that way of living and start walking down a path of embracing change and owning every single one of your life’s choices. On this episode of Women of Impact, holistic psychologist and author Dr. Nicole LePera joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you can put an end to your self-destructive ways that are holding you back from making real and necessary change in your life. They discuss how to identify the things in your life that are causing self-destruction, how to let go of your thoughts, how to overcome fear of change, how to stop betraying yourself, how to start on a path towards making the changes you want for your life, why you need to stop overthinking, how to find meaning and purpose, how to start the healing process, and much more. Pre-Order Dr. LePera’s book, ’How To Do The Work’: amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patterns/dp/006301209X SHOW NOTES: Sabotage | Dr. LePera reveals how you can identify and address your own self-sabotage. [1:17] Awareness | Dr. LePera reveals how to begin to shift your mind so you can change. [3:50] Release | Dr. LePera reveals the power of letting go of your thoughts. [5:55] Thoughts | Dr. LePera reveals how to process and address your thoughts. [8:25] Fear | Dr. LePera reveals how to overcome fear and just start putting in the work. [11:13] Betrayal | Dr. LePera reveals the difference between self-sabotage and self-betrayal. [16:01] Intervene | Dr. LePera reveals how to not get caught up vulnerable moments. [18:20] Changes | Dr. LePera reveals why your life, mind, and body is always changing. [23:03] Shifting | Dr. LePera reveals why we fear change in ourselves and others. [25:07] Expression | Dr. LePera reveals why you have to retrain your mind before doing. [30:40] Overthinking | Dr. LePera reveals how your habit of overthinking is holding you back. [32:19] Meaning | Dr. LePera reveals how to cultivate meaning and purpose. [33:06] Choices | Dr. LePera reveals why you need to make positive-choices a habit. [36:22] Healing | Dr. LePera reveals why you have to reverse-engineer your life’s choices. [37:15] Connect | Dr. LePera reveals how you can continue to follow and learn from her. [39:33] QUOTES: “…there’s a universal reality that most of us humans share, or all of us humans share, which is that change is hard. Period.” [2:31] “…It’s not about the smallness of the promise, it’s not even about the promise. When we’re talking about healing from self-sabotage and self-betrayal, it’s just the act of observing yourself show up.” [15:49] “I think overthinking is a sabotage. I think humans and our thinking brain has become so primed,our school system trains us to solve all of problems from up here…” [32:27] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW DR. LEPERA: Website: yourholisticpsychologist.com YouTube: youtube.com/c/TheHolisticPsychologist Instagram: instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist Facebook: facebook.com/the.holistic.psychologist/
Check out our Sponsors Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Are you currently on or considering a plant-based diet? Have you been convinced that animal protein and eating meat is detrimental and a danger to your health? You would be surprised to know these current narratives being spun around in the medical community are simply wrong and are, in fact, the real danger to your health. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Dr. Gabrielle Lyon to discuss such matters and more as they explore how the trending narratives in the medical community are leading you astray, aren’t rooted in true medical data, and may be jeopardizing your health longterm. They discuss why red meat is something you should have in your diet, why most medical studies get healthy diets wrong, the pitfalls in a vegetarian diet, what optimal eating looks like, why protein is powerful for achieving great health, why your goal should be to optimize your health and body composition, the differences between plant and animal protein, and how you can start to eating healthier for longevity. SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode about food shaming and welcomes Dr. Lyon. [0:54] Red Meat | Dr. Lyon reveals the one thing you can do to optimize your health. [4:13] What’s Factual | Dr. Lyon discusses why some groups refuse to listen to true data. [8:56] Vegetarian | Dr. Lyon reveals how she got sick from being a vegetarian. [14:01] Optimal | Dr. Lyon reveals the exact diet she recommends for optimal health. [16:30] Why Protein? | Dr. Lyon reveals the power of packing your diet with protein. [17:58] Body Composition | Dr. Lyon reveals why you need enough muscle. [20:24] Optimize | Dr. Lyon reveals why you should care about protein and muscle. [21:30] Plant vs Meat | Dr. Lyon reveals the key differences between protein types. [23:10] Younger | Dr. Lyon reveals why most vegetarians and vegans are young. [25:20] Longevity | Dr. Lyon reveals what she concluded from seeing people live unhealthily. [28:03] Obesity | Dr. Lyon reveals why we’ve been focusing on the wrong thing. [31:03] Start | Dr. Lyon reveals how you can get started to shift your diet to optimize yourself. [33:11] Feeling | Dr. Lyon reveals how to be in tune with your health and how you feel. [37:39] Real Talk | Dr. Lyon reveals why what she teaches and believes is so significant. [38:46] Success | Dr. Lyon reveals what success looks like to her on this journey to educate. [40:45] Connect | Dr. Lyon shares how you can connect with her to learn more. [42:12] QUOTES: “This really isn’t about protein, this is about longevity. How you want to live?” [18:28] “We are missing the much bigger picture. And the much bigger picture is longevity and how you want to age and how you want to function.” [20:50] “…we’re going to be victim to what people tell us. And if you are victim to what people tell you, you don’t have a chance.” [40:04] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW DR. LYON: Website: drgabriellelyon.com Instagram: instagram.com/drgabriellelyon Facebook: facebook.com/doctorgabriellelyon Twitter: twitter.com/drgabriellelyon
Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory This week’s Woman of Impact, Janelle Ginestra has already achieved international fame just as a dancer. In this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Janelle talks about loving your own body, and how to ignore negativity by focusing on your own journey. SHOW NOTES: Janelle needed intense, honest criticism to become a successful dancer [2:40] “Don’t ever let anyone make you feel inferior, insufficient, or not enough” [5:45] Janelle and Lisa discuss vulnerability and strength [07:50] Janelle explains how she deals with competition [12:37 ] Janelle talks about body image and diversity [18:30 ] Lisa and Janelle discuss her positivity how she lives her truth [24:18] Janelle explains how she avoids burnout [27:15] Janelle advocates a strongly pro-choice political position [29:29 ] Janelle lays out three keys to success [31:39] Janelle shares her superpower [32:55] FOLLOW JANELLE: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/31UeC99 FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2xcvmdL TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2Fw2xgO
Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory Do you have a tendency to easily feel guilt, shame, or self-blame over things that are sometimes just out of your control? Are you looking to shed yourself of this guilt and start living more openly, without constantly feeling like you are doing something wrong or owing someone an apology? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by eight incredible speakers including Amy Morin, Sanja Hatter, Lilian Garcia, Natalie Ellis, Beth Manos-Brickey, Jen Cohen, Heidi Powell, and Najwa Zebian as they share five key tips for you to overcome self-guilt, self-shame, self-blame, and feelings of selfishness. They discuss why you should never downplay your successes, why you have the power to choose your own journey in life, why you need to start letting shit go, how balance in life is key, and why it’s okay to desire good things for yourself. SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode about dealing with guilt, shame, and feeling selfish. [0:04] Tip #1 | Amy Morin shares why you should never downplay your successes. [1:40] Thank You | Amy Morin reveals how to say thanks and take compliments. [3:36] Be Tasteful | Amy Morin reveals when and why it’s okay to share your successes. [4:23] Tip #2 | Sanja Hatter & Lilian Garcia reveal why you should choose your own journey. [6:16] Overcoming Guilt | Sanja Hatter & Lilian Garcia reveal how to not succumb to guilt. [9:17] Not Having Kids | Sanja Hatter & Lilian Garcia discuss guilt over not having kids. [11:30] Tip #3 | Natalie Ellis reveals why it’s you start letting shit go. [12:40 ] Self-Aware | Natalie Ellis reveals why it’s okay to not be everything at once. [14:03] Self-Worth | Natalie Ellis reveals how to not let guilt bring down your self-worth. [14:56] Tip #4 | Beth Manos-Brickey, Jen Cohen, & Heidi Powell discuss why balance is key. [16:54] Tip #5 | Najwa Zebian shares why you need to desire good things for yourself. [21:55] Happy | Najwa Zebian shares why you shouldn’t feel guilty if you’re not always happy. [24:36] QUOTES: “It’s not your job, you’re not in control of how other people feel about themselves anymore than they’re responsible for how you feel about yourself.” [5:49] “You have to give yourself permission. It’s really important that we give ourselves permission to avoid shame, guilt, whatever…” [21:27] “Would you ask the sun why it shines brighter on some days than others? Would you ask the moon why it breaks the darkness on some nights and not others? Such is the course of life. Some days we give our best but other days we just exist. Some days we are kings and queens of our minds and souls, and some days we are spaces to our hearts.” [22:2o] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH PODCAST: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW AMY: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2pubNgM INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2CYvIre FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2KBbvMB TWITTER: https://bit.ly/35ex8tN FOLLOW SANJA WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2H4Glut INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Lt1xiY FOLLOW LILIAN INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2LtWXBk FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/29nP1vn TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2VjIWKR PODCAST: https://apple.co/2PSANa8 FOLLOW NATALIE: WEBSITE: https://bossbabe.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Rct9tJ FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2G9FYyq TWITTER: https://bit.ly/38uIUBQ FOLLOW BETH: https://bit.ly/2T1Es7U FOLLOW JEN: https://bit.ly/35SSuNx FOLLOW HEIDI: https://bit.ly/35Vwstg FOLLOW NAJWA: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2virGWO INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2adrxex FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2GBCOEJ TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2vjRQZm YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2UzlDaJ
Check out Our Sponsors Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Do you or your partner struggle with insecurities, doubts, and uncertainties in life? Are you easily overwhelmed and feel like you’ll never be able to overcome such feelings? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by entrepreneur, speaker, host, and husband Tom Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore why you are trapped in a cycle of insecurity and ways you can break out of it. They discuss how a growth mindset leads to turning insecurities into strengths, why you have to own up to your insecurities, how understanding sexuality helps feeling less worried about it, how to let go of the things you can’t control, why you may need to re-prioritize what you value, why your insecurities aren’t sexy, and how to be clear with your partner so you know how to support each other. Check out Tom and Lisa’s ‘Relationship Theory’: youtube.com/channel/UCtHuUTWVRHUXVjmRrvS8WYg SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode about dealing with your insecurities and uncertainties. [01:33] Handle It | Tom shares why having a growth mindset is key early into a relationship. [2:49] Own Up | Tom reveals how to identify your insecurities and share them with your partner. [6:20] Identity | Tom reveals how to shift your mindset to deal with your insecurities. [9:3 0] Sexuality | Tom shares the reasons behind why we find each other physically attractive. [12:15] Value | Tom shares his insecurities and how he utilizes them as a strength and force. [ 20:12] Harmless | Tom reveals how men and women have to embrace their aging. [23:26] It’s Not Sexy | Tom shares why wallowing in your insecurities isn’t sexy. [25:53] Articulate | Tom reveals why you have to be tactful and clear with your partner. [29:39] Connect | Tom shares how you can continue to follow him and learn more. [34:09] QUOTES: “There’s two things you should never worry about: the things you can’t change and the things you can. Because if you can’t change it, what’s the point in worrying about it? And if you can change it, just go do something about it.” [9:38] “Men enjoy looking at something that turns them on and women enjoy being the ‘turn on.’” [16:50] “You shouldn’t put yourself in a weak, vulnerable position where you need somebody to echo value back to you. You should not need me to feed you that you are attractive and all that. And at the same time, what kind of person would I be if I don’t do everything I can to make you feel good about yourself across every dimension that a human can feel good about themselves?’ [32:14] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL
Check out our Sponsors Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT It’s time to awaken a radical confidence within. No longer will you listen to your fears, self-doubt, or negative inner-voice. Now is the time to reclaim the confidence you deserve, own your decisions, and live life unapologetically. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu takes on questions submitted by you, the audience, and answers them in a no-BS way so that you can begin to overcome your fears and awaken an unshakeable confidence within. She discusses how to overcome self-doubt, how to get over your fear of failure, how to have an inner voice that builds you up instead of bringing you down, why you need to be your unapologetic-self, the power of having conviction in your decisions, why you shouldn’t let others erode your self-worth, and how competence leads to confidence. SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode on becoming radically confident. [0:55] Self-Doubt | Lisa reveals how to overcome moments of uncertainty self-doubt. [2:10] Paralyzing Thoughts | Lisa reveals how to get over your fear of failure or change. [8:17] Inner Voice | Lisa shares how to change your inner voice to one that hypes you up. [13:54 ] Unapologetic You | Lisa reveals how to live without worry of what others think of you. [18:00] Staying Confident | Lisa reveals why you need to have conviction in your decisions. [26:00] Believe In Yourself | Lisa reveals why you shouldn’t let others erode your self-worth. [32:06] Competence | Lisa shares why your confidence is connected to your competence. [35:12] QUOTES: “It’s not that you want confidence. It’s not that you personally are looking to only build confidence. Confidence is a tool, right? So you want confidence to do something else. You want the confidence to be able to get started.” [12:08] “Flip the switch. Tell yourself, “Perspective is everything,” and tell yourself that, “I’m gonnarewind the gameplay, I’m gonna come up with a better plan, because that’s how I get better.”” [21:37] “The second you feel like you have to defend your decision, what are you actually saying to yourself? You’re saying that, “This isn’t for me, this isn’t my decision, other people get to weigh in.” Fuck that shit. Like, seriously no one gets to weigh in on your decision.” [26:56] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW
Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c You’ve been lying to yourself. Yes, everyday in the privacy of your own mind, you tell yourself lies over and over again. Most of the time, these lies are destructive and push your thoughts into negative places, thus bubbling up bad emotions and causing you to feel sad, depressed, anxious, frustrated, or angry. Well, it’s time to make a change—to start lying to yourself in a positive way. It’s time to stop criticizing yourself and start praising yourself instead. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by hypnotherapist, founder of rapid transformational therapy, speaker, and bestselling author Marisa Peer to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways to stop telling yourself destructive lies and begin speaking to yourself in a positive and uplifting way that informs your thoughts and behaviors to change for the better. They discuss why the thoughts you create dictate your emotions and behaviors, the power of connecting your mind and body, why you need to confront your thoughts head on and discover the root cause of them, why you have to begin telling yourself positive lies, why creating stories in your head is dangerous, how our thoughts influence our relationships, what RTT is and the power it has, how childhood trauma and lack of our needs being met influences us as adults, and why it’s okay to mess up time and time again. SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa introduces and welcomes today’s guest, Marisa Peer. [1:53] Feelings | Marisa discusses why your thoughts dictate and influence your feelings. [2:59] Thought Pattern | Marisa reveals how to disrupt your thought negative patterns. [4:43] Body Connection | Marisa discusses the power of connecting your thoughts to your body. [6:07] Ask Yourself | Marisa reveals why you need to question your beliefs and their origins. [11:13] Needs | Marisa shares the needs of children and what happens if they’re not met. [13:10] It Has to be You | Marisa shares why the thoughts you tell yourself must come from you. [15:38] Relationships | Marisa reveals why you should never threaten someone as a game. [18:55] Lying to Yourself | Marisa discusses the story you create for yourself in your head. [22:40] What Lies Beneath | Marisa shares how to address the root cause of destructive habits. [26:21] RTT | Marisa reveals how she treats other’s emotional pain fast and permanently. [28:54] Role, Function, Purpose | Marisa discusses how your issues have a job and function. [33:33] Children | Marisa discusses why you have to be very careful of what you say to kids. [37:04] Inner Child | Marisa discusses how our problems can be traced back to childhood. [40:23] Parenting | Marisa shares how you should approach parenting or treating children. [42:31] Connect | Marisa shares where you can keep in touch and follow her for more advice. [43:02] QUOTES: “Thoughts dictate feelings. Your feelings dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your events.” [2:10] “We have this fear that rejection will kill us. It won’t. It feels like it will, but it won’t.” [25:44] “…you have to keep going into expansion yourself. And when you move your mind into new dimensions, it never moves back. But it goes back again, you have to do it yourself. You can’t give someone else the agency to make you feel good about you.” [32:33] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW MARISA: Website: marisapeer.com RTT: rtt.com YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCGb0bBp7bTQBHLlyAfNV-Fg Instagram: instagram.com/marisapeertherapy Facebook: facebook.com/marisa.peer.therapy Twitter: twitter.com/MarisaPeer
Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT This week’s guest on Women of Impact is Victoria Arlen. As a teenager, Victoria contracted a rare disease that rendered her locked into her body in a vegetative state. After years of immobility and a prognosis that looked grim, she was suddenly able to blink. From there she began the long road to regaining her mobility to even competing in the Paralympics and Dancing with the stars. Today Victoria Arlen is an actress, speaker, model, and the best sellingauthor of her memoir, Locked In. BUY LOCKED IN: https://amzn.to/2UJj1b3 SHOW NOTES How Victoria reacted when she realized she was locked in [03:00] How to coach yourself through hard times [05:35] Are your doubters right? [10:07] The difference between surrendering and giving up [15:24] Why you can't let negativity get to you [19:00] How to use others' negativity to fuel you [21:51] How to dream big, breathe, and listen to your intuition at the same time [27:27] Why you can't put a timeline on your goals [33:29] The power of dreaming big [38:05] What to do after achieving your biggest dreams [41:46] FOLLOW VICTORIA INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TUK4mS TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2UJix4J
Control your emotions, stay calm under pressure, and walk through life with complete ownership over your decisions and actions. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu sits down with former Secret Service Agent and author Evy Poumpouras to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways to overcome pressure and begin taking complete ownership of situations in your life. They discuss how Evy handled pressure in times of immense stress, why you sometimes need to prioritize yourself first, the power of your words, why you need to be mindful of who you surround yourself with, how you can learn from your mistakes and grow, how to have authority with others, and the power of taking complete ownership of your life. Order Evy’s book, “Becoming Bulletproof”: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Bulletproof-Influence-Situations-Fearlessly/dp/1982103752 Check out our sponsors! Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Himalaya Toothpaste: Enjoy 20% off your purchase of Himalaya toothpaste, using discount code LISABILYEU20 when you checkout on Amazon. To learn more about Himalaya Botanique and Ayurvedic wellness visit https://Himalayausa.com SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa introduces today’s guest, Evy Poumpouras. [1:05] Pressures | Evy shares times she’s felt immense pressure and how she handled it. [1:50] Instincts | Evy shares which intuitions to listen to when under pressure. [5:53] You First | Evy discusses why you sometimes need to prioritize your needs first. [8:16] Learn | Evy shares why you need to asses, learn, and grow from your mistakes. [13:12] Verbal Economics | Evy discusses how and why you need to properly apologize. [16:57] Surround | Evy shares why you need to be around those that can handle pressure. [19:17] Composed | Evy discusses how to stay composed when tensions begin to escalate. [21:05] Authority | Evy shares the importance of clearly setting the tone with people. [22:49] Words | Evy shares the language that makes all the difference in establishing authority. [26:02] Priming | Evy discusses how to prime others to have them be more open to you. [28:05] Dating | Evy shares what to be mindful of when going out for the first time. [29:58] Deflect | Evy discusses how to deflect pressure off yourself and to focus. [31:09] Ownership | Evy shares why you need to take ownership over the situation. [34:19] No Excuses | Evy discusses why you shouldn’t let excuses trap you from living. [34:49] Choices | Evy discusses why you have choices that will make you stronger. [37:47] Victimhood | Evy shares how people get trapped in abusive relationships. [41:58] Resilient | Evy discusses how she built her resilience and learned to take ownership. [45:0p] Connect | Evy shares how you can continue to follow her and ways to connect. [46:43] QUOTES: “Choose what you let out. Not every idea that pops into your head should you verbalize. Because when you do that, you’re not putting weight into your words.” [26:27] “Own your shit. You make a mistake, own it. You make a mistake, fix it. Nobody wants to hear it. Find out what it is, fix what it is, and then that way you can move forward and excel.” [34:38] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW EVY: Website: evypoumpouras.com Instagram: instagram.com/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: facebook.com/evypoumpouras Twitter: twitter.com/evypoumpouras
Confidence, strength, and how to carry yourself with conviction. Are you looking to awaken an inner confidence that will empower you to fully take on any challenge in life? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu sits down to speak with five badass women including Evy Poumpouras, Mally Roncal, Elle Russ, Roxy Saffaie, and Eve Torres Gracie on confidence and ways you can develop it inside you. These women are experts on putting confidence into action. They discuss why you need to walk with strength, how to develop a commanding voice, why you shouldn’t rely on your looks for confidence, how to let negativity fuel you, why you need to be authentically yourself, and the power of surrounding yourself with badass women. Check out our amazing sponsors! Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Himalaya Ashwagandha: Enjoy 20% off your first purchase of Himalaya Ashwagandha, use discount code 20IMPACTFUL when you checkout on Amazon. To learn more about Himalaya Ashwagandha and Ayurvedic Wellness visit Himalayausa.com SHOW NOTES: Walk With Strength | Evy discusses the importance of carrying yourself with strength. [2:49] Your Voice | Evy shares how to convey strength and to speak with conviction. [4:33] Looks | Mally shares why you shouldn’t let your appearance influence your confidence. [6:22] Negativity as Fuel | Elle shares how to handle nay-sayers and let it fuel you. [12:48] Confidence | Elle reveals how to handle negativity when still developing confidence. [17:46] Be You | Roxy shares why you should always be rooted in your truly authentic self. [19:45] Turn It Up | Roxy discusses what it means to turn up the volume on yourself in life. [21:16] Awareness | Roxy reveals the power of being self-aware and journaling. [23:21] Surround Yourself | Eve shares why you should surround yourself with badass women. [28:25] QUOTES: “My success in standing my ground wasn’t really about my physical strength, it was about my mental conviction. I had to speak with confidence to make sure those who heard my message heard it clearly the first time and when I did act, I had to do it so in a way that ensured it would not be mistaken for weak or uncertain of my abilities.” [2:21] “Are you going to allow their opinion of you to dictate your success?” [18:09] “When you say, “I trust myself,” you’re also saying that, “I got myself, I love myself, I’m willing to bet on myself, I don’t want to exist in this world as anything but myself, and let all that comes to me be the result of me being a hundred-percent myself.” [20:33] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW EVY POUMPOURAS: Website: evypoumpouras.com Instagram: instagram.com/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: facebook.com/evypoumpouras Twitter: twitter.com/evypoumpouras FOLLOW MALLY RONCAL: Website: mallyroncal.com Instagram: instagram.com/mallyroncal Facebook: facebook.com/mallyroncal FOLLOW ELLE RUSS: Website: www.elleruss.com Instagram: instagram.com/_elleruss Facebook: facebook.com/elleruss Twitter: twitter.com/_elleruss FOLLOW ROXY SAFFAIE: Website: blackbeltbeauty.com Podcast: blackbeltbeauty.com/podcast Instagram: instagram.com/roxylook FOLLOW EVE TORRES GRACIE: Website: evetorresgracie.com Instagram: instagram.com/evetorresgracie Facebook: facebook.com/EveTorresGracieOfficial Twitter: twitter.com/evetorresgracie
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Is your greatest enemy, or bully, in life actually yourself? Do you put yourself down, tell yourself, “You can’t do it,” or shut down your own dreams before even giving them a try? On this episode of Women of Impact, empowerment coach, podcast host, writer, and athlete Roxy Saffaie joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to stop fighting with yourself and start fighting for yourself so that you can lead an empowered and confident life. They discuss the importance of turning up the volume on yourself in everything you do, why you have to have self-love, the incredible reward of always taking on challenges in pursuit of victory and change, how confidence will dramatically shape your life, the importance of staying true to your authentic self, and how to stay motivated each and every day in your relentless pursuit of greatness. Check out our sponsors! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa introduces and welcomes today’s guest, Roxy Saffaie. [1:44] Fighting Yourself | Roxy discusses why we rarely fight for ourselves. [2:27] Turn It Up | Roxy shares what it means to turn the volume up on yourself. [4:08] Awareness | Roxy reveals the importance of knowing and loving oneself. [7:04] Self-Love | Roxy discusses what it means to practice having self-love in life. [9:06] Know Yourself | Roxy shares why discovering who you are only is crucial. [14:09] Tension | Roxy discusses why challenge is the path to victory and change. [16:25] You Got You | Roxy shares why you have to be relentless and keep going. [20:01] Confidence | Roxy reveals the power and importance of having a confident mindset. [21:05] Authenticity | Roxy discusses how to do things that honor your authentic self. [22:42] Physicality | Roxy shares the importance of training, movement, and exercise. [24:03] Fuel | Roxy and Lisa discuss where their confidence and drive come from. [29:30] Rituals | Roxy shares the power of morning rituals and consistency. [34:44] Connect | Roxy shares how to follow and connect with her. [36:28] QUOTES: “I want to hit all my goals, right? But what I’m really interested in is, “Who am I on the way to the goal?”” [12:17] “…on the other side of challenge is victory.” [16:29] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW ROXY SAFFAIE: Website: blackbeltbeauty.com Podcast: blackbeltbeauty.com/podcast Instagram: instagram.com/roxylook
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On this episode of Women of Impact, motivational speaker and dating advice expert Matthew Hussey joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they break down the complicated parts of finding love and reveal how dating and relationships can be much simpler than you might think. They discuss the importance of feeling someone just try in a relationship, how to identify good intentions, why you have to invest in someone, the pitfalls of building up a story in our heads even before the first date, and why you should be willing to ask the difficult questions necessary in developing a strong relationship long-term. This episode is brought to you by: Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT SHOW NOTES: It’s Not That Complicated | Matthew shares the importance of feeling someone just try. [1:53] Intentions | Matthew discusses the difference between attention and intention. [5:46] Invest, Then Test | Matthew shares why trying and staying confident is key to finding love. [7:20] Complicated | Matthew shares why we try to force a fix when it gets complicated. [12:45] Fantasy | Matthew reveals the pitfalls of writing a story in your head before it’s unfolded. [15:15] Process | Matthew shares the four stages of importance in developing any relationship. [18:13] Maintenance | Matthew discusses why the work in a relationship never ends. [23:52] What They Actually Mean | Matthew reveals the true meaning behind what he says. [27:09] What You Can Trust | Matthew reveals what you can trust that signals he likes you. [31:45] Ask | Matthew shares why you shouldn’t shy away from asking the tough questions. [33:56] Be Ruthless | Matthew reveals why you have to stand firm in your conviction. [39:21] Love Switches | Matthew discusses the importance of knowing what your partner needs. [40:05] Difficult Talks | Matthew shares why you shouldn’t steer clear of difficult conversations. [43:12] Connect | Matthew shares how you can get his free guide and follow him for more. [47:05] QUOTES: “Attention does not mean intention. We can get lots of attention from someone who has no intention of taking it anywhere further…” [5:46] “Don’t invest in someone based on how much you like them, invest in them based on how much they invest in you.” [7:13] “Instead of watching a story unfold, we’ve created the story before it’s happened.” [15:15] “Women have to be brave enough to ask questions that they’re afraid of the answers to.” [35:35] “Be kind in your tone, but ruthless in your actions.” [39:21] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW MATTHEW: Website: threelovehabits.com YouTube: youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: instagram.com/thematthewhussey Facebook: facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Twitter: twitter.com/matthewhussey
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Has your potential for growth been constricted by your patterns and habits that seem to have been in place for nearly your entire life? Do you wish there were a way to identify and interrupt such patterns in an impactful and positive way? On this episode of Women of Impact, holistic psychologist and author Dr. Nicole LePera joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to identify patterns of self-sabotage and what we can do to break negative patterns so that we may develop positive change in our life. They discuss how childhood patterns are developed, how we carry them with us every today, ways we can break negative habits and patterns, the power of connecting to your emotional body, how to access your consciousness, the benefits of connecting to your senses, how to navigate relationships and your family, and our ability to expand in life. Pre-Order Dr. LePera’s book, ’How to Do the Work’: amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patterns/dp/006301209X This episode is brought to you by: Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa introduces today’s guest on Women of Impact, Dr. Nicole LePera. [1:41] Observing | Dr. LePera discusses childhood patterns that still aren’t serving us today. [3:13] Judgement | Dr. LePera discusses how to identify your patterns without self-judgement. [5:22] Resistance | Dr. LePera reveals the steps on breaking through patterns to new directions. [7:51] Connecting | Dr. LePera discusses the power of connecting to your emotional body. [10:41] Childhood | Dr. LePera on how to identify childhood patterns you’re still carrying today. [12:22] Conscious | Dr. LePera shares how to escape repetitive patterns that aren’t serving us. [18:05] Grounded | Dr. LePera reveals the power of becoming aware of your senses. [20:22] Trauma Bonds | Dr. LePera discusses the importance of gaining support from others. [22:24] Relationships | Dr. LePera shares how to work through trauma bonds with your partner. [27:08] Differences | Dr. LePera shares what to do if your partner isn’t open to doing the work. [32:49] Family | Dr. LePera shares how she worked through patterns and establishing space. [36:05] ‘And’ | Dr. LePera shares how to steer away from making excuse and show up today. [41:35] Connect | Dr. LePera discusses her new book and how to follow her to connect. [44:22] QUOTES: “Minds seek the familiar. Repeating the same behaviors is called a pattern, which comes from childhood conditioning. We repeat what we know.” [1:54] “I believe, quite universally, all of our souls as humans seek three things: to be seen, to be heard, and to have this space to just express as is.” [14:55] “Self healing means gaining the support of relationships around. You’re learning how to be in your authentic self and be connected authentically with others, because we need others. We all need other humans.” [22:03] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW DR. LEPERA: Website: yourholisticpsychologist.com YouTube: youtube.com/c/TheHolisticPsychologist Instagram: instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist Facebook: facebook.com/the.holistic.psychologist/
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Do you find yourself being spoken down to, disrespected, or repeatedly walked on by others? Do you later wish you had spoken up for yourself and had a confident presence that commanded respect? On this episode of Women of Impact, Former Secret Service Agent and Author Evy Poumpouras sits down with Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to handle disrespect and stick up for yourself in all situations. They talk about how to defend yourself in a non-physical way, the power of self control, how to walk away from people in your life that need to be let go, how to deal with being spoken down to, and personality red flags to watch out for. Purchase Evy’s book, “Becoming Bulletproof”: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Bulletproof-Influence-Situations-Fearlessly/dp/1982103752 This episode is brought to you by: Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c SHOW NOTES: Handling Disrespect | Evy shares a story of handling disrespect as a secret service agent. [2:57] Defend Yourself | Evy reveals the importance of defending yourself in a non-violent way. [7:02] Self Control | Evy discusses the elements needed to non-physically stand up for yourself. [7:24] Common Denominator | Evy shares her story of recognizing and owning her temper. [8:56] Trust | Evy describes conditional and unconditional trust and our emotional responses. [11:18] Own Your Response | Evy shares the power of owning how you respond to situations. [14:37] Walk Away | Evy shares when to know it’s time to walk away from someone. [19:38] Phones | Evy shares why you should be open with your phone in a relationship. [20:22] Jealousy | Lisa discusses handling jealousy in her relationship with Tom. [22:42] Starts With Trust | Evy reveals how to handle the fine line of jealousy in a relationship. [24:03] Size Doesn’t Matter | Evy discusses the importance of how you carry yourself. [27:00] Persona Red Flags | Evy discusses the two types of personas to watch out for. [31:20] Being Spoken Down To | Evy and Lisa discuss how to handle being spoken down to. [33:50] Letting Go | Evy discusses her process of letting someone go and moving on. [38:47] Connect | Evy shares how to connect with her and follow her. [40:56] QUOTES: “You’re not going to own my response to you, I’m going to own it.” [16:39] “You get what you tolerate.” [18:56] “My success in standing my ground wasn’t really about my physical strength, it was about my mental conviction. I had to speak with confidence to make sure those who heard my message, heard it clearly the first time and when I did act, I had to do it so in a way that assured it would not be mistaken for weak or uncertain of my abilities." [27:05] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW EVY: Website: evypoumpouras.com Instagram: instagram.com/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: facebook.com/evypoumpouras Twitter: twitter.com/evypoumpouras
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Forgiveness, grace, and healing. When should we embrace them, how can they help our relationships grow, and why do they sometimes cause continued emotional pain rather than the healing we first think they promise? On this episode of Women of Impact, Host of Love Goals on the OWN Network and therapist, who is simply known as Spirit, joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such topics and more as they explore forgiveness, grace, and the power of building scar tissue in a relationship. They discuss how to properly embrace an apology, the power of grace needed in a relationship, the difference between a mistake and a bad choice, why scar tissue is a good thing, how ego is the root cause of judgement, and why you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself because of your past mistakes. This episode is brought to you by: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. SHOW NOTES: Forgiveness | Spirit discusses forgiveness and the process of embracing it. [0:19] Grace | Spirit shares the power of grace in a healthy relationship. [4:53] Being There | Lisa share the power of the word ‘important’ in her relationship with Tom. [9:29] Scars | Spirit discusses why you shouldn’t forget, but instead work through it and heal. [11:42] Needs | Spirit reveals why your best interest can differ from your relationship’s. [13:38] Judgement | Spirit reveals why ego is the root cause of judgement in a relationship. [16:57] Your Past | Spirit reveals why you shouldn’t be hard on yourself because of your past. [20:51] Giving | Spirit reveals why a successful you leads to a successful relationship. [23:45] 3 Tips | Spirit shares three things to do if your relationship is losing its ebb and flow. [26:25] Follow | Spirit shares where and how you can follow her for more tips and advice. [30:32] QUOTES: “The key is not to forget but to pay attention to how it makes us feel.” [12:08] “Your relationship is different from you and your partner." [13:38] “If I can not judge me, then it’s that much easier for me to not judge you.” [22:50] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW SPIRIT: FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Talk2Spirit INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/talk2spirit/ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/talk2spirit T2S Enterprises: 888-718-2t2s
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Radhi Devlukia Shetty sits down with Lisa to discuss how to cultivate self-love, why you need it, and the importance of breaking down your fears. This episode is brought to you by: EBY: Get 20% your first order at shop.join-eby.com with code IMPACT20 Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. SHOW NOTES Emotional struggles of growing up overweight [01:55] Why basing your self-worth on external validation never works [04:49] How to develop a relationship with yourself [05:49] Why self-criticism isn’t always healthy [08:00] Tactical steps to changing your perspective [09:38] Balancing self-doubt and self-trust [13:17] Why we focus on physical appearance over internal strength [15:34] Stop hiding your emotions [17:11] How to embrace your emotions without being overly-emotional [18:07] Why having a safety net is ok [26:38] Learning to spend time with yourself [28:27] Recognizing and changing your negative qualities through observation [30:12] How to break down your fears [32:30] Developing the courage to step out of your comfort zone [34:28] The differences between men and women in the workplace [36:00] FOLLOW ROSHNI DEVLUKIA: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2wJwhCN FOLLOW WOMEN OF IMPACT: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28
Writing your life’s story, tilling new soil, and giving yourself second chances. These are the things most of us only allow to happen once we’ve received permission from others or from life itself. Don’t wait. The only permission you need is from yourself. Your story is being written now, the soil is ready for new seeds, and second chances are ready to be seized. On this episode of Women of Impact, speaker, author, and CEO Lisa Nichols sits down with Lisa Bilyeu to discuss why you should feel empowered to begin writing your own life’s story, as well as legacy, that will inspire change and action today. They discuss why you should welcome interruptions to your routine, why now is an amazing time to lay fresh soil, how imperfection is nothing to be shameful of, why second chances are unlimited, and why you should look for the positive evidence all around you. This episode is brought to you by: EBY: Get 20% your first order at shop.join-eby.com with code IMPACT20 SHOW NOTES: Impact | Lisa Bilyeu reveals the impact today’s guest, Lisa Nichols, has had on her life. [0:26] Unwelcome Interruptions | Lisa N. discusses complacency and the possibility for change. [2:50] Your Story | Lisa N. speaks about writing your life and legacy’s story. [7:20] The Unknown | Lisa N. discusses the finish line and how you’re never really done. [9:09] New Soil | Lisa N. discusses how our mindsets have experienced a massive disruption. [11:17] Imperfection | Lisa N. reveals the importance of learning to live with your disfunction. [14:58] Endgame | Lisa N. discusses how to accept yourself and rise above to new heights. [21:24] Power Voice | Lisa N. discusses how to identify and strengthen the voice inside you. [27:20] Second Chances | Lisa N. discusses why you should give yourself permission to fail. [29:37] Evidence | Lisa N. shares how she began to accept that her potential is limitless. [37:00] Connect | Lisa N. shares her upcoming projects and how you can connect. [42:52] QUOTES: “Don’t make me extraordinary to let yourself off the hook.” [0:26] “…my memories of myself 20 years from now will be based on the action that I’m in today.” [7:02] “People want to get clear before they fully get in action.” [10:35] “What you haven’t done yet has to call you to your greatest version.” [22:26] “Your mind is going to produce whatever you ask it for.” [40:05] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW LISA NICHOLS: Join Lisa’s Waitlist: powerhousespeakers.com Instagram: instagram.com/lisa2motivate/?hl=en Facebook: facebook.com/LisaNicholsFanPage/ Twitter: twitter.com/2motivate
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Values, priorities, and the ‘non-negotiables.’ What do you do if your significant other isn’t valuing the same things as you and may not be walking through life with the same growth mindset? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss how you can take your relationship to a deeper level of connection through communication and a mutual understanding of shared values. They discuss how to approach your significant other when change may be needed in their life, how to open up the lines to a deeper form of communication, and the importance of openly sharing each other’s values and priorities. This episode is brought to you by: EBY: Get 20% your first order at shop.join-eby.com with code IMPACT20 Fastic: Download Fastic for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. https://fastic.com/ SHOW NOTES: Initiating | Lisa and Tom discuss approaching a significant other about much-needed changes in their life. [00:27] Opening Up | Tom and Lisa share how to open the lines of communication. [1:50] Breaking Through | Lisa and Tom share how to talk to a significant other who may not have a growth mindset. [5:39] Values | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of why couples should be openly sharing their values. [7:51] Compassion | Lisa and Tom share how to give constructive criticism in a relationship without sounding superior. [11:20] Balance | Tom and Lisa discuss the balance of priorities, values, and sacrifices in a relationship. [13:25] Cut the BS | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of brutal honesty in a relationship. [16:20] QUOTES: “If you don’t carve out that space and say that these are my non-negotiables, you end up in a world of hurt.” [1:20] “What are the rules of this relationship? What are the values? What are the things that we as a couple are going to decide that we value together?” [7:51] “Things that are right, move you towards your goals. Things that are wrong, move you away from your goals.” [13:07] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
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Authenticity. What questions do we ask ourselves to know if we’re living it and how do we walk through the dark storms of life without losing it? Rachel Hollis, two-time #1 New York Times best-selling author of “Girl, Wash Your Face” and “Girl, Stop Apologizing,” joins Lisa Bilyeu on this episode of Women of Impact to discuss and answer these questions and many more as she takes us on a discovery of one’s true-authentic self. She shares why holding onto your dream equates to holding onto your true-self, how her childhood trauma shaped her vivid imagination, the importance of specificity and details, why you should shake off shame and not let criticism bring you down, and how people pleasing may result in anxiety, depression, and the loss of your true-authentic self. This episode is brought to you by: Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. SHOW NOTES: Take ownership. Take Control. Rachel discusses navigating the dark seasons of life. [5:00] “Every single day, we decide who we are.” [7:01] When life crashes down all at once; Rachel speaks about holding onto the dream. [8:16] “We should never teach from our wounds, we should only teach from our scars.” [10:23] Rachel shares her story of how childhood trauma formed her vivid imagination. [12:06] Visualize and imagine. Rachel discusses how to leverage imagination to bridge the gap. [14:05] The importance of details and being specific. Rachel discusses, “What does that mean to me?” [15:58] “It’s not enough to know your why, if you don’t know how your ‘why’ manifests for you.” [17:45] Approaching life as a business; Rachel discusses the lessons she applied to parenthood. [19:23] Shaking off shame; Rachel shares why criticism shouldn’t bring you down. [20:58] Backlash while staying authentic; Rachel explores why some women feel they have the right to tell others how to live their life. [23:55] Turning the mirror towards critics and haters; Rachel explores what drives internet trolls. [28:00] Finding your release valve; Rachel explores the different ways you can release pressure. [32:20] Rachel discusses staying connected to what is serving your goals. [33:41] Addressing anxiety and depression; Rachel shares how people pleasing can hold you back. [34:53] Pivoting in life; Rachel discusses how to adapt and lead during hard times. [40:38] The power of belief; How anyone can apply Rachel’s mindset to their own life. [45:56] QUOTES: “Every single day, we make a decision of who we want to be and not making a decision is a decision in and of itself. You, and only you, are ultimately responsible for who you become and how happy you are.” [4:40] “If I lose my dreams, I’ve lost myself.” [7:48] “It’s not enough to know your why, if you don’t know how your ‘why’ manifests for you.” [17:45] “Does this serve my goal or not?” [33:56] “Depression is your avatar telling you that it’s tired of the role you keep pretending to play.” - Jim Carrey [37:29] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW RACHEL: WEBSITE: thehollisco.com RACHEL’S BOOKS: https://amzn.to/2R8acY8 FACEBOOK: facebook.com/TheChicSite/ INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/msrachelhollis/ TWITTER: twitter.com/msrachelhollis
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Lisa Bilyeu shares her tips for deciding whether or not you want to have kids. This episode is brought to you by: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. TIPS Give yourself permission to ask the question. What does an average Wednesday look like with kids? Think about the bigger picture. Talk to your partner. Say it outloud. Have the hard conversations. Deal with the haters. FOLLOW LISA YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH PODCAST: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption on why you should never cling to a grudge. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Anjali Kumar, author of the provocative book “Stalking God”, realized when her daughter started asking spiritual questions that she didn’t know what she believed about big ideas like God, religion and faith. So, she went on a journey to discover and understand her own beliefs. On this episode of Women of Impact, Anjali Kumar describes her journey of spiritual curiosity, talks about what she learned, and ultimately says that we may all be looking for the same things, no matter how different our practices look on the surface. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Fastic: Download Fastic for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. https://fastic.com/ SHOW NOTES: When Anjali raised her daughter, she realized that she didn’t know what she believed [2:56] Anjali shares the story of how she started her journey to questioning her faith [4:58] Anjali talks about how spiritual practices like meditation are no longer seen as “woo” [6:37] The spiritual communities Anjali met with were very welcoming and encouraging [8:11] Anjali describes her reasons for avoiding the “big box” religious gatherings [11:12] Anjali shares some of her more uncomfortable and challenging experiences [13:08] Anjali explains how she balanced personal stories with a desire for evidence and data [15:12] Many people on different spiritual journeys are all looking for the same thing [17:29] Lisa and Anjali discuss our need to see our connections and similarities [23:22] Anjali strongly advocates staying open and curious [26:30] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW ANJALI: WEBSITE: anjalikumar.com INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/anjalikumar/ TWITTER: twitter.com/anjalikumar
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about someone telling you to act like a lady. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Lisa Bilyeu shares her top 5 tips you can use the next time you’re pissed off. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Podcorn: Visit https://podcorn.com Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. TIPS Acknowledge that you’re pissed. Walk away. Be alone. Do something that makes your heart sing. Don’t lean into the sadness. This too shall pass FOLLOW LISA YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH PODCAST: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about feeling like you're in over your head. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Vanessa Van Edwards, professional investigator into the science of human behavior, used to try so hard to be someone she wasn’t. Thankfully, she got tired of pretending, and decided to embrace her real self. And now she devotes her time and energy to helping others present their own authentic selves in the most likeable and powerful way. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Vanessa Van Edwards explains the best way to deal with video calls, job interviews, and even first dates. Those best practices include some surprising insights, including reasons why you might want to wear perfume and high heels in a video call interview, why you should use a real background instead of a virtual one, and why it’s better to reveal your inadequacies and insecurities sooner rather than later. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com SHOW NOTES: Vanessa spent about a decade trying to fake it, and then she got tired of it [2:04] There’s actually more cognitive load on a video call than in real life [4:02] The background people see behind you in a video call says a lot about you [8:33] Interviewers are doing tons of interviews now, and they’re tired of conformity [10:52] Your first impressions now include your visual background along with facial expressions [13:30] How formally should you dress for a video call? Should you wear perfume? [15:25] Vanessa explains why you should quickly reveal your secrets on dates or interviews [19:38] Vanessa explains why even a 1.2 second delay causes people to like you less [21:20] Vanessa discusses why in work calls you should show some of your upper body [26:03] Vanessa describes the importance of hand gestures, and talks about how to use them [27:06] We now have a brief window where we can create our own rules for dating [29:40] You can have fun with video calls in ways that wouldn’t be possible in real life [33:04] Vanessa discusses what the future holds for Zoom calls and in-person meetings [37:10] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW VANESSA: WEBSITE: scienceofpeople.com/ INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/vvanedwards/ FACEBOOK: facebook.com/vvanedwards/ TWITTER: twitter.com/vvanedwards
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about letting go of your past self. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Host of Love Goals on the OWN Network and in possession of a PhD in General Psychology, the therapist known as Spirit combines gritty real-world experience with high-level academic thinking in her straight-forward, powerful advice. She not only gets to the point, she nails the most important point every time. And on this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Spirit takes on some of the most important questions that everyone who struggles with dating and relationships need answered. She explains why you have to see dating as an interview process, breaks down the difference between chemistry and compatibility, and details exactly how to focus on solutions instead of problems in your relationship. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. SHOW NOTES: Spirit breaks down the difference between chemistry and compatibility [1:45] People often mistake the relationship’s chemistry changing for falling out of love [3:56] Spirit explains how people end up feeling that they are incompatible [6:45] When you are dating, that is the perfect time to go slow and really take stock [8:32] Spirit talks about how someone can be a 10 at 2 AM but a 2 at 10 AM [11:34] There are three sides: you, your partner and the relationship [14:38] Spirit explains what to do instead of focusing on the problems [17:57] There is science to relationships, and you can control intensity, duration and connection [19:48] Relationship problems and habits are passed down through the generations [22:01] Spirit explains how to deal with feelings, thoughts and behaviors [24:41] If you can change the way you think and behave, everything else will fall in line [27:33] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW SPIRIT: WEBSITE: oprah.com/app/love-goals.html INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/talk2spirit/ TWITTER: twitter.com/talk2spirit
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption on six things to say no to. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Accountability coach Teddi Mellencamp has changed the lives of over 10,000 people with ALL IN by Teddi, and in the process built that company into a multi-million dollar juggernaut. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, the Real Housewives star shares the story of her own journey to becoming accountable, discusses why you have to be authentic and vulnerable in your relationships, and explains why every morning she writes down her three non-negotiables for the day. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Apollo: Get 15% off your purchase at https://apolloneuro.com/woi/ Usual Wines: Go to usualwines.com and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT for $8 off your first order and try your first glass on us. SHOW NOTES: Teddi shares the consequences of believing that only winning matters [2:13] Teddi used to take everything personally because she wasn’t taking accountability [4:55] “Every day I write down my 3 non-negotiables for the day.” [6:40] Teddi no longer competes with other people. Now she competes with herself. [7:23] Take small steps each day that feel right to you [8:31] Be vulnerable with your circle, and write down your goals to keep yourself accountable [9:59] You have to figure out what formula works for you [14:15] If you’re being authentic you can always deal with your mistakes [15:39] Teddi discusses why setting boundaries in your relationships is so important [19:17] Teddi talks about why she tells her kids the whole truth about difficult situations [24:45] Teddi explains the difference between blame and accountability [28:02] What to do when you ask a question and you get an answer you don’t want [30:34] How to identify the moments when your behavior needs to change [35:28] Teddi and Lisa discuss how they keep improving their relationships [39:04] Teddi shares her superpower [45:59] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW TEDDI: WEBSITE: allinbyteddi.com/ INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/teddimellencamp FACEBOOK: facebook.com/teddimellencampofficial/ TWITTER: twitter.com/TeddiMellencamp
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption on never sweeping it under the rug. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Aileen Xu, creator of Lavendaire, describes herself as an “artist of life.” She helps people design their dream life and embody their best self. And she knows all about how difficult the process can be, given that she had to embrace her own creativity over the objections of a family that desperately wanted her to pursue a conventional life of middle-class success. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Aileen Xu explains how to find your passion if you haven’t discovered it, how to deal with other peoples’ criticisms and negativity, and how to rewrite the negative voices in your own head so that they become more compassionate and empowering. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Usual Wines: Go to usualwines.com and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT for $8 off your first order and try your first glass on us. SHOW NOTES: Aileen talks about parental expectations in an immigrant family [2:18] Aileen describes the tension between wanting to be creative and her family’s desires [5:50] You have to tell yourself you’re a pro before you become one [11:06] How to rewrite the voices in your head so that the self-criticism ends [12:38] People are mirrors and only projecting their own insecurities onto you [15:03] Follow your curiosity if you don’t know what your passion is yet [16:59] Aileen explains why she decided to not pursue singing and music [18:44] Done is better than perfect. [21:17] You are never too old to take the first step towards your ideal life [24:09] Aileen shares her superpower [25:28] Aileen talks about the lessons she learned from COVID-19 [25:59] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW AILEEN: WEBSITE: lavendaire.com/ INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/lavendaire FACEBOOK: facebook.com/Lavendaire/ TWITTER: twitter.com/lavendaire
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption on six life principles. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Best known as “The Budgetnista”, Tiffany Aliche is rapidly becoming America’s favorite financial educator. Her mission, which has made her wealthy and helped over 800,000 women worldwide collectively save over 100 million dollars, is to empower women so they can create a better life for themselves and their families. And on this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu and Tiffany Aliche discuss personal finance, big dreams, achievable goals and global impact. Tiffany shares her own story of hitting financial rock bottom, describes her visualization and journaling methods, and reminds us that our mistakes do not define us. And she also shares her new children’s book, “Happy Birthday Mali More”: https://happybirthdaymalimore.com/ This episode is brought to you by: Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Usual Wines: Go to usualwines.com and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT for $8 off your first order and try your first glass on us. Apollo: Get 15% off your purchase at https://apolloneuro.com/woi/ SHOW NOTES: Tiffany describes turning 30 and realizing she had more money at age 15 than age 30 [2:00] Fear makes the wolf bigger [7:06] Sometimes judgment comes from the people that love you most, because they are afraid [8:44] Tiffany grew up with a good financial mindset, but blew it at first with a bad relationship [12:11] Some of us are living someone else’s idea of “more” instead of our own [16:29] Money is merely a tool. You can use your money to build or to destroy. [21:10] Children show the fire of their passion easily, so that means it’s inside you [21:52] Unearth your dream, visualize what it looks like exactly, and write down your goals [25:56] Your mistakes do not define you and you can’t let your mistakes beat you down [29:22] You are literally a miracle [34:16] Tiffany talks about her bill to include financial education in New Jersey middle schools [36:31] Tiffany describes her struggle to remember to soak up the good things that happen [39:17] Tiffany and Lisa discuss how to normalize discussions about money [44:33] Tiffany talks about her free financial education courses [47:05] Tiffany thinks her superpower is her energy [50:27] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW TIFFANY: WEBSITE: thebudgetnista.com INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/thebudgetnista FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/groups/LIVERICHER TWITTER: twitter.com/TheBudgetnista
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about people trying to put you in a box. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Monica Berg, follow her @: @monicaberg74: https://instagram.com/monicaberg74 To see Monica Berg on Women of Impact, watch here: https://youtu.be/vpXqT9v3TI4
Hello fears! Whether it’s spiders, open water or public speaking, everyone has something that frightens them, whether it’s rational or not. Keynote speaker Michelle Poler invented the “100 days without fear” challenge because she believes it’s important for everyone to face even their fears that seem trivial or easily avoidable. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Michelle Poler explains why she visited the concentration camps her grandparents endured, why comfort, not failure, is the enemy of success, and why this year you should make a New Year’s resolution to fail. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Usual Wines: Go to usualwines.com and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT for $8 off your first order and try your first glass on us. SHOW NOTES: Why is it important to face even “trivial” fears like spiders and roller coasters? [2:05] Michelle explains why she believes she really only has seven core fears [4:35] Michelle says that her top three fears are pain, loneliness, and lack of control [7:15] Michelle explains how her relationship pushed her to become brave and independent [10:58] Michelle shares the story of visiting the concentration camps her grandparents endured [14:46] Why you should create a New Year’s resolution to fail [16:17] The enemy of success is not failure. The enemy is comfort. [19:12] Are the relationships in your life based on “me” or fear, or is the basis love? [20:54] Why are people so afraid of disappointing others? [23:51] Trying to check of society’s boxes leads to comfort, not happiness [27:07] Michelle and Lisa talk about why sometimes you really should listen to your fears [28:24] Michelle explains why she approaches fears with “x-ray vision” [32:12] Michelle started her journey because she wants to impact her future kids [33:55] Michelle describes the six stages of facing your fears [34:50] Michelle finally felt proud of herself once she finally pursued her own goals [39:00] Michelle wrote a letter to herself about gratitude and pride [40:43] Success is never guaranteed, so you are better off loving the journey [42:56] Michelle describes a surprising superpower [44:17] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW MICHELLE: BOOK: hellofearsbook.com WEBSITE: michellepoler.com INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/hellofears FACEBOOK: facebook.com/hellofears TWITTER: twitter.com/hellofears
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about why you must own your choices. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Tom Bilyeu, follow him @: @tombilyeu: https://bit.ly/3b44pvm To see Tom Bilyeu on Women of Impact, watch here: https://youtu.be/ADjORr9Ih5c
By most measures, TLC was the most successful girl group in popular music history. And T Boz, the “T” in TLC, attained that success while dealing with sickle cell anemia, overcoming the usual doubters and haters, and shutting up everyone who tried to tell her that she should fit into the stereotypical roles that women are encouraged to play. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu gets to interview one of her childhood heroes, the incredibly resilient and cheerfully outspoken T Boz. They discuss living with chronic illness, the importance of not holding grudges, and why it's so important to believe in yourself when others doubt you. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. SHOW NOTES: T Boz credits her mother as the primary reason for her incredibly resilient mindset [2:36] When people try to discourage you they are projecting their fears onto you [5:20] T Boz says that, for her, she needs to be the leader [8:58] You have to start by believing in yourself, because other people will not believe in you [11:37] T Boz explains that she turned down some hit songs because they didn’t fit her [15:30] What really matters is whether you are proud of your work and the way you live your life [18:56] TLC came back after severe hardships because they still had something to say [20:53] T Boz explains why she doesn’t hold grudges [23:04] T Boz discusses the ways she deals with being hurt and getting angry [25:31] T Boz talks about the consequences of trying to ignore her sickle cell anemia [28:38] T Boz didn’t talk about her illness because she didn’t want people pitying her [34:10] When you’re chronically ill, it affects everything you do [37:13] T Boz talks about why she started her natural products line, TLCBD [39:55] T Boz shares her superpower [43:04] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW T BOZ: WEBSITE: https://tionnewellness.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/therealtboz FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RealTBoz/ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/therealtboz
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about five tips on ending petty arguments. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Best known as the “Millennial Therapist”, Sara Kuburic has built quite an online following by posting hard truths in ways that allow people to actually accept and learn from them. Needless to say, that balancing act requires an unusual combination of a strong moral center, a non-judgmental attitude, and a whole lot of empathy. Thankfully, she brings all of those qualities to this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa and Sara discuss self-sabotage, self-awareness and personal growth. They talk about how to give and receive hard truths, why toxic positivity is so insidiously harmful, and the reasons why we judge ourselves and others. This episode is brought to you by: Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Apollo: Get 15% off your purchase at https://apolloneuro.com/woi/ SHOW NOTES: Why do we self-sabotage, and what constitutes self-sabotage? [2:03] How to deal with the desire for instant gratification [4:10] When we reenact patterns we feel in control, but that can be dangerous [6:16] Sara hopes to spark interest in improvement with her social media posts [8:22] Hard truths don’t have to be harsh truths, but a lot of suffering comes from avoiding truth [10:48] If you find yourself resisting a hard truth, ask what you need to be open to that truth [11:57] When is it our place to tell someone a hard truth, and when is it not? [14:00] Sara explains why we avoid believing people when they tell us who they are [16:14] Sara and Lisa discuss why you should put your true self forward even on a first date [18:45] Sara talks about why you might seek relationships with emotionally unavailable people [21:08] Sara and Lisa discuss why taking responsibility hurts your ego at first [23:01] Blame and self-judgment are never the point of self-awareness [25:03] Most of the time when we judge others it’s because we are triggered [26:36] Judgment also comes from a lack of understanding or real moral conflicts [29:25] Sara describes what moral injury is, and how it relates to infidelity [31:36] Lisa and Sara discuss how deeply personal morality is [33:59] Lisa asks why people invalidate themselves so much, and Sara discusses toxic positivity [35:58] Sometimes we try to make people feel better but it’s actually for us [40:06] Instead of telling people to calm down, try to understand them [42:10] Lisa and Sara discuss asking permission to give someone advice or truth [45:06] Sara says her superpower is adaptability [46:39] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW SARAH: WEBSITE: sara-kuburic.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2A2Nig8 FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2V81XOg TWITTER: https://bit.ly/3i2kfKT
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about how to forgive your partner. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
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Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship knows that you are going to have conflicts; you’re going to have fights. But what are these fights really about? Are arguments about washing the dishes and cleaning the closet really about those issues, or is something deeper happening? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu talk about how to deal with differing values and opposing ideas. They discuss creating shared goals, how they build positive habits, and their methods of making sure that conversations stay open, respectful and honest. And then they give a wonderful example of good communication by examining a real life conflict they have had over making the bed... This episode is brought to you by: Apollo: Get 15% off your purchase at https://apolloneuro.com/woi/ Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. When you are having arguments about money, you are really having conflicts over values [2:48] Concrete advice on how to minimize financial conflicts [6:59] When you have a collision of values, part of it is that you are judging each other [9:07] Why you have to start with shared goals and open discussion of those goals [11:02] Tom and Lisa discuss corporal punishment, spanking and discipline [14:08] Tom and Lisa talk about having differing religious beliefs and how they dealt with it [19:50] What do you do when your habits and routines conflict? [23:47] How to form habits that help your relationship [27:13] Whenever you have conflicts over “small issues”, they are actually about deep values [31:10] The problems that happen when you don’t articulate your values and just project instead [36:47] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW TOM: WEBSITE: impacttheory.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/33XrFYV FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2xDM4Xa TWITTER: https://bit.ly/39slhdy
Since the murder of George Floyd, protests and unrest have swept the country, reaching all fifty states. More and more people see the need to discuss racism and the brutality and oppression faced by too many Americans. But where should that discussion begin? On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Dia Simms, president of Combs Enterprises, addresses the uncomfortable conversations we all need to have, breaks down the structure and history of systemic racism, and advocates staying ruthlessly focused on overcoming the problem as quickly as possible. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE Jane Elliott’s Blue Eye/Brown Eye Study: https://youtu.be/6gi2T0ZdKVc Jane Elliott Blue Eye/Brown Eye study (condensed): https://www.instagram.com/p/CBLd0j4DNX4/ Thread Baltimore: https://www.thread.org/ National Urban League: https://nul.org/ Revolt TV: https://www.revolt.tv/ Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk about Power Posing: https://youtu.be/Ks-_Mh1QhMc Amy Cuddy Successfully Refutes Criticism: https://bit.ly/3f0SrnI Andreessen Horowitz Announces new fund designed to invest in underrepresented founders: https://tcrn.ch/3hc4wIC ARTICLES: How to Make This Moment the Turning Point for Real Change: https://bit.ly/2YmNgYi Your Difficult Questions About Race in America, Answered: https://bit.ly/2MLNNO9 TV/MOVIES/PODCASTS: -13th (Netflix) -When They See Us (Netflix) -Explained: The Racial Wealth Gap (Netflix) -LA 92 (Netflix) -1619 Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7j5MhJCMBvOjF1Asi9LPLX?si=el6TNr1RSjq4aFzzkvTJAQ What resources have you guys been using to learn more about systemic racism? Please share in the comments below so we can all learn together! SHOW NOTES: Police brutality represents only a fraction of the brutality that needs to be addressed [3:13] Dia describes the sorts of uncomfortable conversations that we all need to have [6:11] Dia explains why she needs to be dressed to the nines just to avoid being abused [7:54] Lisa talks about how powerful it is when you feel a connection to another’s experience [11:58] Dia gives a basic breakdown of systemic racism, its history and current reality [14:12] Dia talks about the famous, ground-breaking brown eyes/blue eyes story [17:34] Dia and Lisa discuss the failures and limitations of the American education system [21:10] “You can’t be what you don’t see.” [25:27] It’s not easy to change habitual ways of thinking, but it is possible and necessary [29:04] We are all inextricably connected, so how do we move ahead together? [33:25] Lisa talks about how protests and unrest have pushed her to talk about racism [38:28] Dia discusses the importance of humility and clear, honest communication [39:58] Dia advocates staying ruthlessly focused on overcoming systemic racism [43:35] Dia recommends resources and people to follow [47:41] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW DIA: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2IksIJi FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2x00xcm TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2XUkoWa
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about how to forgive your partner. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
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Self-esteem has been a buzzword for what seems like forever, but as a goal or concept it has some big drawbacks. Self-esteem tends to be comparative and fragile, and provides a shaky foundation for healthy growth. So what should we replace self-esteem with? Dr. Kristin Neff, who has researched the subject for years, advocates for a better framework: self-compassion. And on this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Kristin Neff explains what self-compassion is, discusses the difference between self-compassion and self-pity, and asks us to treat ourselves with the same mindful, motivating kindness that we so easily bestow on other people. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT BLUblox: Go to blublox.com/woi for 15% off your order or use discount code WOI at checkout. SHOW NOTES: What’s the difference between self-esteem and self-compassion? [2:20] Self-compassion does lead to self-worth, but that isn’t the end goal [6:05] Self-compassion is not self-pity, self-indulgence, selfishness or complacency [8:48] Why suppressing your pain actually makes it more intense [13:15] Be mindful. Remember that pain is part of life. Then, be kind. [15:36] Lisa and Kristin discuss the balance between compassion for others and the self [19:17] Why are we often harder on ourselves than we are on other people? [21:03] Kristin explains why it works to use compassionate touch on yourself [23:35] We need other people, but it’s not good to wholly rely on other people [27:13] Kristin discusses why it can be effective to talk about yourself in the 2nd person [29:21] Self-criticism comes from the desire to be safe. It’s misdirective care. [32:27] To come up with healthy methods of motivation, think about how you’d motivate a child [35:44] Sometimes kindness has to be a little bit fierce, like a Mama Bear [38:39] Kristin describes how compassion actually feels scary to someone used to abuse [40:06] You already know how to be compassionate. All you have to do is use it on yourself. [42:39] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW KRISTIN: WEBSITE: self-compassion.org FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/selfcompassion/ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/self_compassion
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about never forgetting how far you've already come. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
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Sarah Wilson is best-known as the founder of I Quit Sugar, and now she is at the forefront of another movement tackling one of the primary forms of human suffering: anxiety. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, best-selling author Sarah Wilson details specific methods for dealing with fear, anxiety, the feeling of overwhelm, and even full-on panic attacks. She advocates reading about others who have suffered, writing out your emotional reactions by hand, having intimate conversations with both acquaintances and strangers, learning to sit with your pain and discomfort, and talking to yourself as you would to your best friend. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. BLUblox: Go to blublox.com/woi for 15% off your order or use discount code WOI at checkout. SHOW NOTES: Sarah talks about how COVID-19 has revealed the lies we’ve been telling ourselves [3:08] Sarah describes the freeze mechanism, our response to fear when we can’t fight or flee [5:33] Sarah details specific strategies for dealing with feeling overwhelmed [8:56] “Let’s run the experiment.” [10:28] Sarah advocates talking to yourself as if you were your best friend, or even a small child [11:57] How to deal with an outright panic attack [13:01] Why it’s valuable to write out by hand what is going on emotionally [13:45] Sarah explains why she reads about world leaders and what they suffered [15:28] Lisa and Sarah discuss how your failures lead to your ultimate success [19:20] Sarah talks about getting older as an unmarried woman with no kids [23:17] Sarah describes the biological need for human contact [26:03] Sarah discusses how technology has prepared us for everything except real life [30:13] It is not natural to be sent into isolation to deal with a crisis [31:09] Sarah advocates having really intimate conversations with people [32:38] Sarah doesn’t eliminate bad habits. She forms new good habits. [35:47] Sarah describes her process for identifying the deep needs underneath bad habits [39:34] Sarah says that her anxiety is her superpower [44:33] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW SARAH: WEBSITE: sarahwilson.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/3cMattb FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2Tiao8D TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2yfyCJw
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about feeling like enough, while still striving for more. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
From America’s Matriarch of Money herself, Suze Orman’s Women & Money podcast speaks directly to every mother, daughter, grandmother, sister, and wife — and the men who are smart enough to tune in. Join Suze Orman twice weekly for unmatched personal finance expertise, and receive powerful insights and actionable advice on investing, saving, and life. https://www.suzeorman.com/podcast And right now, literally millions of Americans definitely need those powerful insights and immediately actionable advice on money. So on this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Suze Orman details exactly what steps people need to take to gain control of their finances. She guides listeners on how to create new truths about money, how to deal with shame, anger and fear, and how to eventually reach the point where saving is more pleasurable than spending. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT SHOW NOTES: What do you do when you are confronted with the truth about your situation? [3:35] What is your truth right now? Are you fearful, ashamed or angry right now? [5:47] In order to overcome shame, you have to own the situation you find yourself in [7:15] The past is the past and it’s over. It’s only valuable as a tool to learn from. [10:30] Live below your means. Always ask, “is this a want or a need?” [13:00] How do you define the difference between a want and a need? [13:57] When do you buy what you need instead of what you can afford? [16:02] Suze explains how to get more pleasure out of saving than spending [17:37] Power attracts money. Powerlessness repels money. Never be a victim. [18:18] People spend more money than they realize they are spending [19:57] Ask yourself why you get more pleasure from spending than from saving? [22:35] Right now many people have an unprecedented opportunity to save money [24:32] Suze advocates not making big financial moves right now [27:31] Why don’t you do what you know you should do? [30:05] Suze says her superpower is that she knows her own thoughts, her own motives [31:02] How do you deal with a spouse who has different financial goals and values? [34:28] The first step you need to take is to create a new truth [36:37] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW SUZE: WEBSITE: https://www.suzeorman.com/podcast INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Wr3UX8 FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2LjHlNK TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2SWiHa0
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about why money isn't everything. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
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The world’s most recognized parenting expert, Jo Frost, has spent years providing real, authentic, unfiltered advice as The Supernanny. Her show has reached millions of parents worldwide, and can still be viewed right now. The first eleven episodes of Supernanny Season 8 can be seen through your cable provider on Video on Demand, MyLifetime.com and the Lifetime app. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, the Supernanny herself, Jo Frost, shares honest, powerful and timely advice with parents struggling with the coronavirus pandemic and its associated lockdowns and quarantines. She explains how to set boundaries, how to talk with your kids about COVID-19, how to deal with anxiety and worry, and how to shift your own energy when it starts moving in an unhealthy direction. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Ettitude: Enter WOI at checkout or click the link for 20% off your sheet set and FREE shipping. https://www.ettitude.com/?utm_source=libsyn.com&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=micropodcast20200315&discount=WOI SHOW NOTES: How can parents talk to kids about the coronavirus when no one knows all the answers? [3:46] Jo advocates the importance of keeping a routine going even during isolation [9:11] Jo shares on advice on dealing with your kid’s negative influences [10:07] Jo describes ways to ground your family, and to encourage spiritual calm [13:22] Why it’s so important to accept your own vulnerability [16:08] How to deal with a partner who increases the family’s anxiety and worry [17:23] Right now you are doing as much as you can, and you are doing enough [22:38] Jo talks about the little rituals that hold families together [27:28] Jo strongly advocates not making things more complicated than you need to [29:21] Keep your ego in check, reach out to your partner, and take individual quiet time [32:09] How to shift your energy when you feel it start to go in the wrong direction [35:10] How to set effective boundaries [38:45] Jo describes the methods parents will need when kids start reentering society [42:29] Jo talks about how to talk with teenagers about staying physically isolated [45:19] You are not your children’s friend. You are their parent. Your job is to keep them safe. [47:13] You cannot make your kids happy all the time [49:47] The Supernanny shares her superpower [51:45] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW JO: WEBSITE: jofrost.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2YttiwL FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2Wmd71L TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2xuFMJu
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about seeing your own worth. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
In this solo Q&A, I answer questions from you guys about morning routines and feeling like the world is on pause. To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv
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Kelley Earnhardt Miller, one of the most prominent businesswomen in NASCAR, oversees a company with 125 employees, protects the legacy of one of the most famous names in racing, and still manages to find time to nurture her family. That would be challenging enough under normal circumstances, but right now circumstances are the opposite of normal. And during the difficult times everyone is currently facing, her insights and advice are more valuable than ever. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Kelley Earnhardt Miller discusses managing emotions in times of fear and uncertainty, explains how she balances running a juggernaut of a business with the needs of her family, and talks about why it’s so important to make other people feel like they matter. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Ettitude: Enter WOI at checkout or click the link for 20% off your sheet set and FREE shipping. https://www.ettitude.com/?utm_source=libsyn.com&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=micropodcast20200315&discount=WOI StoryWorth: For $10 off your first purchase, go to storyworth.com/womenofimpact SHOW NOTES: How do you manage your emotions in times of fear, uncertainty and the unknown? [3:14] Focus on what you can do right now, on what you can control [6:01] Kelley explains how she remains optimistic and adaptable [7:52] Even when you have negative experiences or emotions, owning them helps [9:45] How to juggle working from home and raising kids [11:46] Kelley advocates doing the right thing, always, and communicating transparently [14:09] Kelley describes trying to minimize the impact of quarantine on her employees [15:28] What does it mean to aim for the “win-win”? [17:01] How do you live a balanced life in the midst of pandemic, quarantine and recession? [19:39] Kelley talks about how important it is to actually carve out time and make a schedule [22:05] It was hard for Kelley to get remarried after feeling she failed at her previous marriage [24:09] Kelley explains why she didn’t postpone her book release [29:14] Kelley shares her superpower [31:49] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW KELLEY: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/358Bh3E FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/3bORbmA TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2Y9JKSM
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption with 5 things all entrepreneurs need to hear. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv This episode is brought to you by: Podcorn: Visit https://podcorn.com and use coupon code WOMENOFIMPACT KPS Essentials: Click the link http://ss1.us/a/RYwxV8yU And enter the coupon code IMPACT20 to save 20% on your first order. For more from Evy Poumpouras, follow her @: https://bit.ly/38iK9Up To see Evy Poumpouras on Women of Impact, watch here: https://youtu.be/loG9ujz0N4M
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Famed hypnotherapist, creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy, and all-around psychological superwoman Marisa Peer is one of the world’s leading experts on controlling your thoughts, your emotional state, and thus your life’s results. And right now, when people are physically isolated and spending so much time confronted with their own mental state, her message is more necessary than ever. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Marisa Peer discusses how her methods of controlling language and using powerful, positive words can help people make it through these unexpected times. She gives concrete examples of how to use self-talk effectively, discusses the importance of taking control of your thoughts, explains how to talk to children about the coronavirus pandemic, and even shares some surprising ways women can boost their immune system. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. SHOW NOTES: Marisa Peer advocates looking for what’s good about quarantines and isolation [2:30] You need to give yourself a daily routine to make it through the coronavirus pandemic [5:15] Why words matter and how they are so powerful [6:57] You can only control your thoughts, which control your emotions and your beliefs [10:48] Marisa and Lisa discuss how you always have a choice about how you think [13:00] How do you deal with living with other people who have a negative mindset? [17:06] Marisa and Lisa talk about how to break out of procrastination [21:02] Nobody can reject you without your consent, and you can always make progress [26:12] Marisa explains how to talk to children about dangers and uncertainty [29:11] To be happy you need someone to love, something to do, and somewhere to go [33:13] The words you use will shape your reality [34:44] Marisa shares her superpower [36:34] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW MARISA: WEBSITE: marisapeer.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/33kLFmz FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2XK3IBe TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2pLuJYu
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about staying positive during difficult times. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
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In this solo q&a, I answer questions from you guys about a new project, worth in relationship, and stress. To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv
Anxiety is currently at an all-time high, and right now more people than ever are stressed about their finances, their family and of course, their health. So this seems like the perfect moment to listen to a few extraordinary women explain how they manage their own anxiety, and even turn it into positive emotional energy. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, guests Tobie Gonzalez, Vanessa Van Edwards, Nicole Lepera, Seane Corn, and Ashley Stahl share their favorite stories, most effective tactics and best tips. Find out how improving your gut health can improve your mental health, learn why you have to face your past trauma and shadow emotions, and discover a really cool trick to instantly turn anxiety into excitement. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Ettitude: Enter WOI at checkout or click the link for 20% off your sheet set and FREE shipping. https://www.ettitude.com/?utm_source=libsyn.com&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=micropodcast20200315&discount=WOI Canvas People: Visit canvaspeople.com and use coupon code WomenOfImpact for your FREE print. SHOW NOTES: Nicole Lepera explains how proper sleep and nutrition can help you deal with anxiety [1:13] Nicole and Lisa discuss how strongly linked brain and gut health are [3:57] Vanessa Van Edwards talks about how to transform anxiety into excitement [6:51] Why you should never hide your flaws [10:40] Seane Corn shares her struggle with obsessive-compulsive disorder [13:27] Seane explains how childhood sexual trauma led to her obsessive need for control [14:55] Seane describes the ways that yoga and breathing techniques helped to heal her [17:13] When Seane first tried yoga, it actually made her anxiety worse [18:40] How to face your past trauma and deal with your shadow emotions [20:34] Ashley Stahl discusses why you need to embrace discomfort in order to defeat anxiety [23:52] Tobie Gonzalez talks about facing your fears head on [26:25] Your brain believes whatever you tell it [29:08] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW TOBIE: https://bit.ly/2y7V9Yu FOLLOW VANESSA: https://bit.ly/2KdZkVv FOLLOW NICOLE: http://bit.ly/2NbJn4B FOLLOW SEANE: https://bit.ly/2V8TcUN FOLLOW ASHLEY: https://bit.ly/2K2KBww
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Given that when we look around the world right now we see nothing but stress, anxiety and panic, it might be good for all of us to take some time building our confidence. Fortunately, cancer thriver, best-selling author and Chief Confidence Creator Rachel Luna is perfectly positioned to help us. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Rachel Luna represents thriving instead of surviving, being a champion instead of just barely making it. She explains how she stays in control of her own story, shares how she remains deeply rooted, and engages Lisa in a fascinating discussion of each of their deepest values. This episode is brought to you by: Whoop: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT SHOW NOTES: Don’t focus on not making mistakes. Instead, be aware of your stories and thoughts. [3:36] If you are uncertain, check in with your body and see how you feel. [5:39] We have to stop just looking for survival, and try to thrive. [7:17] It’s not easy to adopt a powerful, thriving perspective, but it’s worth it [10:17] Why you should build your identity on your core beliefs, and not on your roles [11:10] Lisa and Rachel discuss their core beliefs [14:02] When your identity is deeply rooted, it’s easier to collaborate with different people [15:51] Rachel advocates doing an audit of your week, and seeing where you spend your time [16:36] Who do you want to be? And how would that person handle the situation you’re in? [18:52] Rachel explains why she writes her story the way she wants it to happen [19:43] Rachel shares her story of battling breast cancer [21:29] At first, Rachel was not available for people who wanted to tell her “I’m sorry.” [25:34] Life is not always perfectly laid out like on social media [26:43] How do you give yourself grace when you make mistakes? [28:04] Rachel talks about how to let go of sorrow and embrace self-love [29:56] Rachel reviews the process for learning to truly love yourself and live out your values [33:16] Rachel shares her superpower [35:35] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW RACHEL: WEBSITE: rachelluna.biz INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2UQSCed FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2RhkB4n TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2JW5LfL
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Normally, people are twice as happy and find their lives much more meaningful when they are with their spouse. However, current quarantines may be causing stress for some couples. The sheer amount of time spent together is uncharted territory for many relationships. On this episode of Women of Impact, host Lisa Bilyeu and her husband Tom Bilyeu discuss the tactics, strategies and rules of engagement they have used to keep their relationship strong and growing for 19 years and counting. They discuss how to avoid letting the small things frustrate you, how to lift each other up, and how to hopefully find a way to make this surprise quarantine fun and empowering. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Skillshare: Explore your creativity at skillshare.com/woi for 2 free months of Premium Membership. Ettitude: Enter WOI at checkout or click the link for 20% off your sheet set and FREE shipping. https://www.ettitude.com/?utm_source=libsyn.com&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=micropodcast20200315&discount=WOI SHOW NOTES: How do you avoid getting annoyed with each other over small things? [3:39] How to view everything that happens as practice, and then make it fun [5:50] Don’t tell me I’ve done something wrong after I’ve done it [9:06] Why you have to take responsibility for yourself instead of matching negative energy [10:23] It’s OK to match your partner’s righteous indignation, but not their anxiety [12:42] Do not tell someone they are being irrational. Wait for emotional sobriety [16:31] How do you make space for yourself in a situation that seems impossible? [17:37] How do you deal with a partner who isn’t willing to do the work in a relationship? [21:26] Lisa talks about writing her “quarantine script” in real time [23:38] What would need to be true for this experience to be positive? [25:08] Why you shouldn’t let “dust settle” [27:06] You have to know exactly why things are bothering you [28:38] How to talk to someone who is agitated without getting them even more angry [31:55] What is one thing couples can do right now to get stronger? [34:35] Why you absolutely must take selfish time [37:13] Tom and Lisa used to do relationship theory, which you can still find on YouTube [39:21] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW TOM: WEBSITE: impacttheory.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/33XrFYV FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2xDM4Xa TWITTER: https://bit.ly/39slhdy
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Andrea Navedo didn’t get to see many positive portrayals of Latinas in the media growing up. So when she had the chance to play a starring role on Jane the Virgin, a role that cast her as a complex, flawed, and genuine Latina single mother, she jumped all over the opportunity. Now she focuses on making the most of her ability to influence and inspire others who grew up the same way she did. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Andrea Navedo tells her story of surviving abusive relationships, dealing with endless rejection, and eventually triumphing in the entertainment industry. She also talks about how to listen compassionately to your own internal dialogue, discusses why fame and validation did not make her feel better about herself, and explains why she never plays the victim. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Podcorn: Visit https://podcorn.com/ and use coupon code WOMENOFIMPACT Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Skillshare: Explore your creativity at skillshare.com/woi for 2 free months of Premium Membership. SHOW NOTES: Andrea and Lisa discuss the pressure to fit in and reject your own culture [3:51] Andrea explains why she needed to see positive role models on TV as a youth [6:59] Andrea used to believe that being an actress was a very selfish career [10:39] Andrea talks about being in an abusive relationship and why she eventually left [13:31] How to listen to the internal family dialogue in your own mind [17:28] There is an essential part of you that is pure and doesn’t need fixing [20:21] Andrea talks about her first acting gig on a soap opera [24:15] Andrea explains why she needed to take a temporary break from acting [30:09] Andrea feels she has a responsibility to inspire people who are similar to her [36:33] The curated, money-driven images you see of celebrities are pretty much BS [39:20] Fame, money and validation did not help Andrea feel better about herself [41:00] Why you should not numb out the emotions that you feel [44:10] It doesn’t matter what other people say about you. It matters what you say about you [45:36] Andrea explains why she never plays the victim [47:29] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW ANDREA: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2WKtXce FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2UB3bjU TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2y44P6c
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Tiffany Boone could very easily have become just another statistic. Raised by a single mother in Baltimore after her father was killed, she drew inspiration from her mother’s no-excuses mindset and incredible hard work. So instead of becoming a statistic, she became a successful actress and a role model. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Tiffany Boone shares her story, and she goes into great detail on the struggles she faced with mental health, her difficulties on a show that seemed like the opportunity of a lifetime, and her eventual triumph. Tiffany and Lisa also discuss building confidence, the connections between blessings and karma, and why nothing is more important than integrity. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. SHOW NOTES: Tiffany credits her mother with developing her no-excuses mindset [4:07] Tiffany says she will always keep striving until her mother doesn’t have to work any more [6:22] Tiffany describes suffering from anxiety and depression due to being rejected as an actor [7:15] After Tiffany returned to acting after taking a break, she wasn’t desperate any more [11:13] Tiffany explains why she used medication even though it was culturally unacceptable [12:32] “How can I be creative in a way that doesn’t harm me, that doesn’t beat down my spirit?” [15:37] “You can be grateful for situations that end up being really painful.” [19:56] “No job is worth my integrity.” [22:06] Lisa and Tiffany discuss why it’s unhealthy to hold onto personal hatred and bitterness [25:40] How do you forgive yourself if you have dishonored yourself? [29:42] Tiffany explains how she found her voice, why and when she decided to use it [32:45] Listen to your gut, to that little voice in the back of your head, and bet on yourself [36:40] Tiffany and Lisa discuss confidence and how to build it [37:35] You are more powerful than you want to give yourself credit for [40:07] Tiffany talks about working with her heroes and idols [42:21] We can’t push women to run things just to fill a quota [44:59] Tiffany and Lisa discuss blessings, karma, and doing the work [46:51] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW TIFFANY: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2WgU8as TWITTER: https://bit.ly/39XvU91
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How do you know if someone is lying to you? How often should you trust your intuition? What is the best way to deal with conflict and confrontation? These are the kinds of questions that everyone asks, and former Secret Service Agent Evy Poumpouras has devoted herself to answering them systematically and effectively. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Evy Poumpouras shows you how to tell if someone is lying, explains when and how you should listen to your gut feelings, talks about why she embraces confrontation, and gives a surprising lesson on why she thinks that respect is a gift--a gift she doesn’t need. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Skillshare: Explore your creativity at skillshare.com/woi for 2 free months of Premium Membership. SHOW NOTES: Evy explains how to build mental armor by dealing with small amounts of stress [3:36] Evy talks about how she overcame her weaknesses and outperformed expectations [5:46] How to differentiate between opinions you should heed and those you should ignore [8:22] Don’t get distracted by your own mental chatter [8:56] You can’t make people respect you. Respect is a gift, and you don’t need it. [10:15] Within the first five seconds people make their impression of you [13:12] What is your goal in every interaction you have with people? [15:21] In order to succeed at interrogation, you have to get your ego out of the situation [17:00] Everyone lies. And it has nothing to do with you. It has to do with them. [19:42] Evy used self-assessment to learn how to not let her emotions take control [20:33] Evy explains what it means to “introduce a disruptor.” [23:48] Why you should trust your instincts [24:51] The more prepared you are, the easier it is to pivot if things go wrong [27:43] Why you should welcome confrontation [29:39] Speak to people in a way that they can understand, and that they will appreciate [32:02] Evy explains the basics of body language, verbal language, and para-linguistics [34:38] Don’t be someone you’re not, but bring out the version of yourself that works [36:39] Shut up and listen. Ask open-ended questions. [38:00] Don’t assume your conjectures are facts [38:42] How to tell if someone is lying to you [41:12] There’s no gimmick to understanding people. Always be curious and empathetic. [45:55] Evy says her superpower is that she fails a lot [47:24] FOLLOW EVY: WEBSITE: evypoumpouras.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/38iK9Up FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2PH7lVN TWITTER: https://bit.ly/39jMy2r
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Many people spend their lives trying to fit in to their cultural narrative, their family’s expectations, or their social circle’s trends. But fitting in is rarely the path to success or happiness. In honor of International Women’s Day, this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu focuses on six extraordinary women who defied stereotypes, refused to fit in, and made a pronounced impact on the world as a result. Andrea Navedo, Anousheh Ansari, Noor Tagouri, Sabrina Kay, Brenda Gilbert and Najwa Zebian share their incredible stories of overcoming failures, outperforming expectations, and living a life true to themselves and their own deepest convictions. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. SHOW NOTES: Andrea Navedo believes that as a youth she needed to see herself reflected in culture [3:22] Do you want to try, and take the risk of failure, or not try and have failure guaranteed? [5:47] Anousheh Ansari says there are always problems, but she looks for the solutions [8:12] Anousheh explains why she always focuses on taking the next step [11:02] Noor Tagouri explains why she chose to wear the hijab [13:14] Noor’s parents always encouraged her to become a journalist [18:07] Sabrina Kay describes the pressure to marry the perfect man, and become a mother [19:17] Sabrina’s ambition and resilience was actually driven by fear of failure [22:32] Brenda Gilbert shares a story of standing up to a bully and what it taught her [24:29] Brenda is driven not just by the passion for her career, but by passion for other people [27:40] Najwa Zebian describes home as the place where you can be unapologetically yourself [29:31] Najwa never associated with other students in school [31:37] Najwa struggled for a long time with accepting that painful things had happened to her [33:21] FOLLOW NAJWA: https://bit.ly/2uMKKzU FOLLOW BRENDA: https://bit.ly/2PJFwwd FOLLOW NOOR TAGOURI: https://bit.ly/38klrD1 FOLLOW ANDREA: https://bit.ly/2PLph1B FOLLOW ANOUSHEH: https://bit.ly/32LItlf FOLLOW SABRINA: https://bit.ly/2VDc4vH
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Too much of the advice in the fitness, diet and self-help field is based on research that ignores reproductive-age women, their hormonal cycles and their natural rhythms. Functional nutritionist and women’s hormonal health expert Alisa Vitti intends to end that imbalance by promoting concepts, practices and bio-hacking methods developed by and for women. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Alisa Vitti explains exactly how women can get in tune with and benefit from their hormonal cycles. She also talks about why much of the health advice aimed at men is actually damaging to women, discusses in detail the unappreciated but critically important infradian rhythm, explains why PMS is absolutely not inevitable, and even suggests some ideas that could significantly increase your sexual pleasure. This episode is brought to you by: Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT SHOW NOTES: Why are women getting sicker? Why are women left out of so much research? [3:49] Women in their reproductive years have a second biological rhythm, the infradian rhythm [5:48] Your infradian rhythm impacts six key systems in your body [6:56] Men organize their lives around the circadian rhythm, which matters to women too, but... [8:00] Lisa and Alisa discuss the need for women to organize around the infradian rhythm [10:08] PMS is not inevitable. Alisa explains how to avoid it. [13:35] Alisa explains what happens if you disrupt your infradian rhythm too much [16:41] Women should not necessarily follow the same schedule every day [20:31] Alisa discusses the negative internal dialogue that women often struggle with [22:24] Alisa explains how it’s counterproductive for women to train the same way every day [23:56] Intermittent fasting and keto diets are harmful for many women [26:42] You should listen to your body, when health experts disagree [27:52] Women’s brain chemistry changes by 25% over the course of the month [28:55] Alisa explains how the infradian rhythm balances out a woman’s life [34:34] You may need extra self-care during different phases of your infradian rhythm [35:13] How to listen to your body and respond to it [37:47] You don’t need to be perfect in order to get started [40:00] Sexual pleasure is different throughout the different infradian phases [41:05] Lisa and Alisa discuss owning your own sexuality and its effect on confidence [43:24] Alisa shares her superpower [46:35] FOLLOW ALISA: WEBSITE: floliving.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/32o5nPj FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/32mjoNz TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2ToO391
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares her thoughts on the quote "It's not your job to like me. It's mine". Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Given that 1 out of 6 Americans are taking some sort of psychiatric drug, it’s probably time to let go of the stigma surrounding mental illness. And it might also be a good time to question whether giving people drugs is always the best go-to solution for mental health. Dr. Ellen Vora, a functional medicine practitioner and holistic psychiatrist, is one of the leaders of a movement that aims to treat the whole person, and to stop using drugs as a first resort. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Ellen Vora discusses how to find the real source of your suffering, what to do if you are too much of a people pleaser, the connection between gut health and brain health, and ways to encourage yourself to make better lifestyle choices. This episode is brought to you by: Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. SHOW NOTES: Why is the placebo effect so powerful, and does it last? [4:30] Sometimes the benefit of psychiatric drugs is that they lead people to therapy [6:12] Ellen talks about the first steps you should take if you are depressed [7:04] Some people are rebels, and do the opposite of what their therapist asks [10:07] Other people are obligers, and try too hard to please other people [11:01] Ellen discusses learning to value your true yes and your true no [12:32] Ellen describes ways to learn how to respond to situations that trigger you [14:35] Humor and an attitude of gentleness and patience is really helpful [16:08] How to get unstuck [17:18] How do you find where the real source of your suffering is? [18:06] Ellen discusses the connection between gut health and brain health [19:39] Depression can be seen as a bad adaptation of a good behavior [22:16] Ellen details ways to encourage yourself to make good lifestyle choices [23:49] What to do if you are too much of a perfectionist about your diet [28:45] How to deal with social situations that can’t accommodate your dietary needs [33:02] Ellen advocates having compassion for the people who trained you to feel shame [35:26] Ellen discusses her own miscarriage and eliminating the shame around miscarriages [39:29] How to deal with a miscarriage [43:02] Lack of community is our modern epidemic [46:17] You can refuse to tolerate bad behavior without judging the person [47:45] Ellen shares her superpower [50:55] FOLLOW ELLEN: WEBSITE: https://ellenvora.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2SHvs93 FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/37BcaGf TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2V0l11A
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What does it take to make a marriage work? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu invites the person she most trusts to offer insight into that question--her husband of 17 years, Tom Bilyeu. And if nothing else, he’s certainly the only person she could reasonably ask to discuss his most embarrassing relationship stories. Over the course of the episode Tom and Lisa share their history and talk about how to build trust, why you need to keep your sex life alive forever, the extent to which you can influence your partner, and how to deal with changing roles in the relationship. SHOW NOTES: Why you have to choose the right person to be with in the first place [3:28] Your personalities can be different, but your values need to be quite similar [6:08] Tom discusses how easy it was to have differences when he wasn’t giving anything up [7:37] “I don’t even know who I am without you.” [13:24] To what extent can you change, manipulate or influence your partner? [14:13] You should never weaponize your knowledge of your partner [16:57] Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of defining words clearly [20:04] Tom talks about defining roles in a relationship [20:58] At first it was incredibly hard for Lisa to admit that she had outgrown being a housewife [25:04] Tom tells the story of how Lisa’s changing role affected him [27:20] Lisa and Tom discuss loving each phase of the relationship for what it is [32:36] You will always find other people attractive [35:19] Never take anything for granted, and keep your sex life alive forever [37:33] “Don’t make me feel bad for asking, and I won’t make you feel bad for saying no.” [41:48] Tom shares the story of how he and Lisa learned to not test each other or drop hints [43:02] FOLLOW TOM: WEBSITE: https://impacttheory.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2UBHWjM FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2UMIFPj TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2SgF7TN
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Too often people confuse confidence with bravado or performance. But the most confident people are sometimes the quietest people in the room. That may not be the insight you’d expect from the author of a book called “Confident as Fck”. But Elle Russ is dedicated to talking about real, genuine, authentic confidence, without neglecting the importance of vulnerability and relationships. And fortunately, she is also dedicated to helping as many people as possible become comfortable with themselves at all times and in any situation. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Elle Russ shares some of her best advice for building confidence, dealing with jealousy, negativity, nay-sayers and shame, and learning to choose your battles wisely. Buy Elle's new book 'Confident As Fck' here: https://amzn.to/31vfTEa This episode is brought to you by: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. SHOW NOTES: What is confidence? [2:38] Confident people are kind, authentic, and unafraid to speak up. [3:20] Elle talks about how she struggled to allow herself to be more vulnerable [6:07] People will project their own lack of confidence onto you [7:57] Confident people choose their battles wisely [10:24] Being jealous and wanting others to lose is a sign of a lack of confidence [14:06] Elle explains being down with “OPC” (Other People’s Confidence) [16:21] Elle talks about how to deal with nay-sayers and negative people [17:13] Don’t try to prove people wrong. Prove yourself awesome. [21:48] Lisa and Elle discuss the importance of changing your perspective on rejection [24:27] We trust confident people because they believe they can figure it out [27:39] Elle discusses shame and disability, and how the shame was actually worse [31:48] Elle describes the blessings that came with her disability [36:42] Confidence is built by overcoming genuinely difficult challenges [37:58] Elle shares her superpower [40:35] FOLLOW ELLE: WEBSITE: elleruss.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/3b9eYNV FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/36VXi4U TWITTER: https://bit.ly/37V7jkd
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram about taking a break and not feeling bad about it. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Gabby Reece was declared one of the five most beautiful women in the world, and she could certainly have made a career out of modeling. But she decided that being pretty wasn’t exactly what she wanted to bring to the table. So she pursued what turned her on, volleyball, and eventually became one of the world’s most successful female athletes. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Gabby Reece talks about how hard it is to determine precisely what you want out of life, and how difficult it is to stay focused on getting it. But she also discusses learning to be vulnerable, shares stories about childhood, marriage and motherhood, and explains why she fulfills different roles in the home than she does in her career. Check out Gabby's new podcast: https://www.gabriellereece.com/category/the-gabby-reece-show/ This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Gabby discusses leveraging her beauty to become more successful in athletics [2:50] Being pretty is not what Gabby wants to bring to the table [5:37] How do you balance being in the present with thinking about where you’ll be in the future? [7:37] Gabby talks about how hard it is to clearly define success and stay focused on it [9:20] Gabby shares the story of her childhood trauma and how she never fit in [11:30] Gabby discusses accepting what cannot be changed [13:19] “Input from your kids is like an ice pick to the eyeball.” [16:47] Gabby credits a lot of her success to fear [19:41] Nothing in life, even a 22-year long marriage, is guaranteed [22:09] Gabby tries to bring the athlete’s attitude of excellence to her relationships too [26:05] Gabby explains why she wants to be submissive in her home life [27:57] Real alpha males need to be compassionate and honorable [30:35] Lisa and Gabby discuss differences between women and men [35:30] Gabby talks about the need to figure out what you really want [40:05] Gabby discusses her attempts to become more vulnerable and more tender [42:22] You have to lose to win [44:54] Gabby shares her superpower [47:25] FOLLOW GABBY: WEBSITE: gabriellereece.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/38O3Wfd FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2t8xZz2 TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2Rv811Y
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram about using an underdog mentality to motivate yourself. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Natalie Ellis is not just the CEO of Boss Babe, she is the embodiment of being a boss babe in real life. But everyone, no matter how successful, can experience chronic health challenges and personal hardship. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Natalie Ellis talks about applying the same consistency and intention she uses in business to solving critical health issues and making a marriage work. She also discusses separating her personal life from her business life, talks about becoming more compassionate towards herself, and describes her hopes for a future family. This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Natalie explains exactly how she decides what to focus on [2:46] Natalie describes her process for setting realistic goals and building on them [5:00] Set milestones for success, and have harsh conversations with yourself if you miss them [6:54] How to be honest with yourself without denting your confidence [8:56] Natalie answers the question, “What is your why?” [10:28] What happens when your personal “why” comes into conflict with your business “why”? [11:04] Natalie and Lisa discuss dealing with guilt around having to say no to people [12:36] Natalie talks about wanting to start a family in the future [15:11] It was a real wake-up call for Natalie that she couldn’t completely control her health [16:28] Natalie describes the changes she made in order to become more compassionate [19:27] Natalie gives advice on how to manage stress while building a business [20:43] You have to be really intentional about what you’re doing [25:22] Natalie discusses the health challenges she faced when coming off of birth control [27:04] Natalie doesn’t credit any specific thing for her health improvement [29:29] Lisa talks about her own health struggles as a result of ending birth control use [30:40] Natalie explains how she separates her personal life from work [32:40] Natalie never works week-ends [37:36] Natalie shares her superpower [39:40] FOLLOW NATALIE: WEBSITE: https://bossbabe.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Rct9tJ FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2G9FYyq TWITTER: https://bit.ly/38uIUBQ
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram about why she's proud and horrified that Women of Impact just hit 100k on YouTube. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Words like self-love, wellness, and health are thrown around so often, but rarely do people delve into how complex those big ideas are. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, a panel of nutrition and fitness experts discusses both their own personal experiences and the ways they have coached other people to better health and self-acceptance. Beth Manos-Brickey, Jen Cohen and Heidi Powell share their stories of dealing with eating disorders, chronic illness and body shame. Along the way they discuss the necessity of taking small steps, sticking to your plan, the difference between trust and control, and learning how to change your own self-talk about food and your body. This episode is brought to you by: Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: “Not everyone can be skinny, but everyone can be strong.” [3:47] Heidi recommends always asking why you are chasing a fitness goal [6:18] The goal of loving yourself is too broad, and people need to get specific [9:12] Beth talks about self-acceptance instead of self-love [9:46] Lisa and Heidi discuss the need for supporters and super-friends [11:22] Heidi explains when she decides to cut people out of her life [14:48] Heidi details exactly how she learned to ignore other people’s opinions [15:28] It’s not true that if you have an eating disorder you will always have it [19:43] Beth and Lisa discuss trust versus control, and Beth advocates taking baby steps [21:26] Jen strongly advocates not switching your plans constantly [26:23] Beth recommends refusing to identify with the labels applied to your diet [27:01] Deprivation is not the name of the game [30:21] Lisa talks about how her identity around food has changed [33:02] The stories we tell ourselves have nothing to do with what other people see [35:23] Beth discusses the dangers of trying to manage emotions with food [36:54] Jen advocates really knowing your personality type [39:24] Give yourself permission to avoid shame [40:33] Everyone shares their superpower [42:36] FOLLOW BETH: https://bit.ly/2T1Es7U FOLLOW JEN: https://bit.ly/35SSuNx FOLLOW HEIDI: https://bit.ly/35Vwstg
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram about taking a chance and changing everything about her life when she married Tom. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Superstar vegan recipe creator and conscious cooking advocate Radhi Devlukia-Shetty has developed quite a following by promoting plant-based food and fashion products. She is also justly known for being honest, compassionate and vulnerable in an online environment where those qualities are rare. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Radhi Shetty talks about setting boundaries, learning to not try to “fix” people, learning to be happy when your peers succeed, and how she overcame body image struggles and embraced healthy, conscious living. This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Radhi talks about learning to be happy for other people when they succeed [2:26] Radhi explains that her jealousy had been about not putting in the work [4:44] Radhi describes wanting to create exceptionally good content [6:51] Radhi and Lisa discuss the fact that there will always be haters [9:10] Radhi talks about how she uses meditation [12:35] Radhi shares her story of learning to not try to “fix” people [15:51] Radhi explains why she always gives advice, even when people don’t take it [18:11] Radhi describes her process for setting boundaries [20:28] Radhi says that her online persona is very separate from her husband’s [22:26] Radhi gives advice for people who suffer from social anxiety [24:45] Radhi describes going from struggling with body image to focusing on strength on health [26:30] Radhi talks about food and relationships [30:46] Radhi and Lisa discuss the difference between habitual cravings and the body’s needs [33:46] Radhi shares her reactions to her husband’s busy schedule [36:28] Radhi and Lisa discuss how they make their relationships work [38:52] Radhi explains how she deals with guilt [43:24] Radhi talks about what she’s most excited about next [47:00] Radhi shares her superpower [47:41] FOLLOW RADHI: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2QuTDXa
Whole30 founder and NYT best-selling author Melissa Urban specializes in helping people change their relationship with food, which often means helping people change their relationships with their loved ones and with their own past. And she herself went through a pretty difficult transformation, from being addicted to heroin to becoming a nutrition and fitness expert. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Melissa Urban discusses every aspect of healthy eating, from the nuts and bolts of dieting to dealing with emotional urges and setting boundaries in social settings. She also talks about empathy and confidence, self-reflection and grace, and explains why sometimes it’s a good idea to ditch the scale and the mirror. This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Melissa talks about recovering from drug addiction [3:32] Melissa credits God, therapy, and doing things one at a time for her recovery [5:09] Melissa explains why it’s so dangerous to focus on physical appearance [7:54] Lisa and Melissa discuss dealing with compliments and criticism [10:09] Melissa explains how she gained a sense of self-worth [11:40] Melissa describes the process of becoming empathetic to herself and others [13:01] Melissa talks about ditching the idea that thinness equates to health [14:40] You can’t win an emotional argument with logic, and excuses are emotional [17:10] Melissa discusses why sometimes people don’t want to take back their power [18:44] Melissa talks about how to tell that you are yo-yo dieting [21:07] Melissa explains how to tell when you are using food to deal with stress or trauma [22:40] Melissa describes the process of separating from her husband [25:02] Melissa discusses how to “bomb-proof” your confidence [29:01] Melissa advocates honest self-reflection and giving yourself grace [30:59] Melissa and Lisa talk about belief, religion and God [32:49] Melissa talks about how to deal with food and social situations [36:19] Melissa discusses setting boundaries with people who won’t listen to you [39:49] Melissa talks about food freedom and making clear, shame-free decisions [43:03] Melissa shares her superpower [45:48] FOLLOW MELISSA: WEBSITE: https://whole30.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2EDRoKh TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2tDLc2N
It’s easy to see the fairy-tale ending, that Jaime Kern Lima sold her cosmetics business to L’Oreal for a billion dollars. But what’s not so apparent are the years of constant rejection that she suffered in the beginning when she couldn’t even get her business off the ground. She couldn’t get a business loan and she couldn’t find anyone who would give her product a platform. Most people would certainly have quit. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Jaime Kern Lima explains exactly why she continued to have faith in her intuition, and why she absolutely refused to give up on her mission to create beautiful cosmetics for women who look like her. This episode is brought to you by ITU. ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Jamie talks about how she once got fired from Denny’s and how it turned into a gift [2:55] Jamie explains that she found success by following her gut instead of following the money [4:47] “Am I pretty any more?”, Jaime once asked [6:43] Jamie wrote her business plan on her honeymoon and then faced constant rejection [8:09] Jamie explains that she always felt she was meant to help other people [10:50] Jamie and Lisa discuss whether doing things for ego works [12:29] Jamie experiences her faith through her gut feelings and that keeps her going [15:44] Jamie shares the story of finally getting a “yes” from QVC after unending rejection [17:46] Jamie says she kept up through constant failure because she believed in her mission [20:05] Jaime was told that women wouldn’t buy makeup from someone who looked like her [23:21] Jaime explains why she ignored experts who wanted her to follow the normal formula [31:05] Sticking with the authenticity of her brand is the reason it grew to a billion dollar brand [34:29] Jaime worked 100 hour weeks for 10 years, and the stress took a toll on her body [35:41] Jaime talks about how after selling the business she had her first child [41:13] Jaime and Lisa discuss self-care for both women and men [43:26] Jaime shares her superpower [44:41] FOLLOW Jamie Kern Lima: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/36IKCig FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/34yhwAA TWITTER: https://bit.ly/36RtAPf
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram about her childhood dreams of moving to America. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
It would have been so easy for Chelsie Hill to give up or to play the blame game after a devastating car accident with a drunk driver left her paralyzed from the waist down. Instead of quitting, though, she pursued her dream of becoming a professional dancer in LA and even started a successful dance team made up entirely of wheelchair-bound dancers. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Chelsie Hill describes struggling to embrace her differences, talks about developing her purpose, and explains why you need to surround yourself with people who want to see you fulfill your dreams. This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Chelsie describes learning she was paralyzed and recovering from her accident [3:10] Chelsie explains how she took ownership of her decision to ride with a drunk driver [4:51] Chelsie has to work every day on accepting the reality of her situation [7:50] Chelsie describes the experience of making it onto an able-bodied dance team [10:03] Chelsie advocates accountability to friends as a way to deal with life’s ups and downs [11:58] Once a dancer, always a dancer [14:24] You need your tribe around you, the people who only want to see you succeed [14:42] Chelsie and Lisa discuss the different treatment of physical and mental limitations [16:05] Chelsie shares the story of starting Be Boundless [17:48] People are so much more than the labels attached to them [18:39] Chelsie struggled to embrace people saying, “Chelsie, the wheelchair dancer!” [20:55] Chelsie describes how she developed her purpose [23:57] Chelsie talks about why she defended the drunk driver who caused her accident [25:00] Chelsie must choose every day whether to be a victim or to pursue her dreams [29:26] Chelsie says her paralysis is actually minor compared to the loss of her close friends [32:25] “Everything that I’ve gone through has made me a stronger version of myself” [34:17] Chelsie explains how she changed her mindset [35:22] Chelsie talks about the importance of self-care [36:21] Chelsie shares her superpower [38:20] FOLLOW Chelsie: WEBSITE: chelsiehill.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2sJMNDu FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/33PTO2n TWITTER: https://bit.ly/33RtmWl
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram with her top 5 tips to become more desirable to your partner. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Nobel Peace Prize nominee Amanda Nguyen has achieved stunning success passing legislation to protect the civil rights of rape survivors. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Amanda Nguyen describes exactly what motivated her to take on the entire legal system and its double standards about sexual assault. Along the way, she describes the importance of radical empathy, details exactly how to stay centered on your own internal compass, and advocates just showing up and being present. This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 Audible. Right now, for a limited time, you can get 3 months of Audible for just $6.95 a month. That’s more than half off the regular price. Choose 1 audiobook and 2 Audible Originals absolutely free. https://audible.com/WOI or text WOI to 500-500 SHOW NOTES: Amanda details the experience of going through a rape kit and its legal aftermath [3:36] Amanda describes being betrayed by the criminal justice system [6:32] Amanda asks why evidence from murder trials is never destroyed, but rape kits are [9:57] Outrage fueled Amanda, but it didn’t sustain her. Hope sustains movements. [11:22] What is the difference between referring to people as victims versus survivors? [14:31] The difference between having a dream and having hope is having a plan [15:28] Amanda describes her internal compass, her North Star [16:50] Amanda explains how incredible optimism and outrage helped her deal with politics [17:47] Amanda talks about radical empathy, clear objectives and staying grounded [20:14] Amanda advocates the importance of just showing up and being present [24:27] Amanda deals with pressure simply by reminding herself that it’s not about her [27:15] Amanda talks about having already had two heart surgeries [29:36] Other survivors have been inspired by Amanda’s organization Rise to advocate [33:40] Amanda describes the experience of being seen as nothing more than a victim [35:38] Amanda talks about believing in democracy and running an efficient campaign [36:51] Amanda shares her superpower [40:35] FOLLOW AMANDA: WEBSITE: https://www.risenow.us/ INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2P5ZZdl FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/34PeOYI TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2LdEKFh
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about never losing yourself in a relationship. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
After suffering a series of devastating personal losses, Amy Morin was faced with a choice. She could have hope or she could wallow in self-pity. And as a psychotherapist, she worked with many people who faced the same choice. She noticed what separated those who are mentally strong, and now she dedicates herself to helping other people build their mental strength. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Amy Morin explains how to deal with guilt, self-doubt and self-blame, describes how complaining and venting actually damage us, and gives tons of detailed, concrete, constructive advice on building mental strength. This episode is brought to you by: Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Amy explains how she dealt with her loved ones dying [3:46] Amy describes the difference between healthy grief and unhealthy self-pity [6:03] When you are sad in a healthy way you still have hope [7:23] Mentally strong people don’t give away their power [8:30] Just because you think something doesn’t make it true [10:20] Amy and Lisa discuss vulnerability and facing your fears [11:29] Amy discusses the difference between secrecy and privacy [13:57] Amy explains how to deal with self-doubt [15:10] Amy describes toxic self-blame and apologizing [17:13] Lisa and Amy discuss that guilt can be irrational just like any emotion [18:30] Amy discusses how to deal with things that you cannot control [20:35] “There’s this huge misconception that venting makes us feel better” [23:10] Amy explains why you should set boundaries instead of complaining [24:45] Amy advocates changing your own behavior instead of having angry confrontations [25:59] Don’t downplay your success [28:53] How to say thank you [30:24] It’s OK to be proud of the successes you’ve had [32:20] Amy advocates looking at people as opinion-holders, not competitors [33:15] Amy explains the difference between upwards and downwards comparison [34:50] Amy advocates setting aside a specific time to worry [37:48] Parents should not take responsibility for their kids’ emotions [40:13] Parents also should never lose sight of their own values [42:51] Amy shares her superpower [44:48] FOLLOW AMY: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2pubNgM INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2CYvIre FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2KBbvMB TWITTER: https://bit.ly/35ex8tN
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about balancing work and health. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Best known as the first female announcer in the history of WWE, Lilian Garcia has had a long, extraordinary and surprising career as a host, singer, songwriter, and executive producer. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Lilian Garcia shares how she learned to always ask how to do something instead of saying she can’t do it. Along the way, she describes her struggles with marriage and wanting to have children, the stress she experienced as a perfectionist, and why she has decided to be herself and trust that it’s enough. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Lilian describes the first time she ever announced for the WWE and how afraid she was [4:04] Lilian advocates asking “how” instead of saying “I can’t” [7:35] Lilian describes the stress she used to experience by being a perfectionist [8:31] “If it’s causing you stress and you love it, keep at it.” [11:31] Lilian talks about her first marriage, why she stayed, and why she eventually left [13:12] Lilian describes her second marriage and the realization that she wanted kids [19:08] Lilian talks about going to Personal Success Institute and how it changed her [23:54] Lilian advocates always being yourself and trusting that it’s enough [27:00] Lisa and Lilian discuss how much is imprinted on us from a young age [29:12] Lilian explains what it was like being a woman in the WWE [32:25] Lilian talks about how her dedication has helped her in MMA [35:02] Lilian encourages people to stop lying about their age [37:37] Lilian and Lisa discuss why we need to stop judging each other based on age [43:48] Lilian shares her superpower [48:09] FOLLOW LILIAN: WEBSITE: https://liliangarcia.com FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/32F1owr INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/32E2VCS TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2NXVyAU
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about choosing to not have children. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Serial entrepreneur, fashion designer, philanthropist and educator Sabrina Kay has accomplished more than even she ever expected she could when she immigrated from South Korea to the US. And on her incredible journey she has learned tough lessons about how to deal with shame, depression, big disappointments and catastrophic setbacks. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Sabrina Kay explains how to deal with cultural and family pressures, why education is so valuable, and how to transform fear into light and grace. This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 Audible. Visit Audible.com/WOI today and start your 30-day trial with a free audiobook. That’s Audible.com/WOI, or text WOI to 500-500. SHOW NOTES: Sabrina describes growing up in South Korea and its social and cultural pressures [3:06] Sabrina explains that she was educated mostly to be able to educate her future children [4:47] Sabrina shares the story of marrying because she got pregnant [6:23] Sabrina advocates that her successes were driven by fear [9:08] Fear gives you hypervigilance, which shows you that opportunities are everywhere [14:15] Sabrina explains how she chooses which opportunities to pursue [16:07] Sabrina shares how she dealt with shame and depression [19:03] Sabrina explains why she went back to school [21:04] Sabrina claims she wasn’t determined and didn’t have a plan [24:11] Sabrina explains why she got a PhD while running two businesses [27:37] Sabrina describes coming to the realization that she is a workaholic [29:43] Sabrina explains why she cashed out of her investments at the worst time [34:48] Sabrina talks about being villainized for being successful [36:57] Sabrina shares her experience with spirituality and meditation [39:42] Sabrina advocates the necessity of going through suffering [42:37] Sabrina shares her superpower [43:56] FOLLOW Sabrina Kay: WEBSITE: https://sabrinakay.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2WGAaEd FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2NfNVH2 TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2WEOo8H
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption with her top 7 marriage hacks. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Ground-breaking astronaut, serial entrepreneur and philanthropist Anousheh Ansari is used to accomplishing the impossible. This is a woman who sold a business she and her husband created for $750 million, resisted cultural enormous cultural pressure in order to become an astronaut, and eventually became the first person to blog from space. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Anousheh Ansari describes her devotion to maintaining an optimistic outlook, explains how to overcome obstacles and excuses, and talks about how her perspective on life changed by being in space. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 Audible. Start listening with a 30-day Audible trial and your first audiobook plus two Audible Originals are free. Visit https://audible.com/WOI or text WOI to 500-500 SHOW NOTES: “Following your dreams is always a challenge, but I wouldn’t want it any other way” [2:52] Anousheh explains how she kept her dream in the forefront even when she put it on hold [4:55] “Finding excuses is the easiest thing in the world” [6:40] Lisa and Anousheh discuss overcoming obstacles and refusing to use excuses [7:51] Anousheh advocates that things will change, and that things will get better [10:37] Anousheh avoids complaining and quitting by focusing on living without regrets [12:18] Anousheh describes an X Prize exercise where you imagine the future you desire [15:21] Anousheh describes the difficult journey towards becoming an astronaut [17:44] Anousheh says that when someone tells her she can’t do something, it motivates her [22:08] Anousheh describes the cultural pressures young women face in Iran and the US [25:06] Lisa and Anousheh discuss the decision to not have children [26:45] Anousheh talks about blogging from space [31:06] Anousheh explains how her perspective on life changed by being in space [34:16] Anousheh advocates always promoting your passion for doing good [37:59] Anousheh shares her superpower [41:28] FOLLOW ANOUSHEH: WEBSITE: anoushehansari.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/32SMALv FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2BRUgSl TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2BSnWPp
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about going on "all in" in your business. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Chalene Johnson has made her name as a fitness coach, an entrepreneur and a business coach. But her path to success wasn’t easy, and she has dealt with severe health issues, an addiction to work, and the constant pressures of imposter syndrome. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Chalene Johnson describes the challenges of building a supportive team, giving up control, and taking responsibility. She also gives clear, specific, and immediately implementable advice on how to set boundaries, focus on one thing, and eliminate distractions. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Chalene discusses feeling unqualified or unworthy [1:58] Chalene talks about being addicted to work [3:30] Chalene describes the process of taking responsibility and setting boundaries [7:05] Chalene explains how she and her husband set clear, specific priorities [9:05] Chalene talks about the difficulty in giving up control [12:58] Chalene shares her health challenges and how at first she thought nothing was wrong [15:39] What would Chalene tell her past self to fix her relationship with health and work? [20:54] Chalene describes imposter syndrome and how to deal with it [23:46] Chalene talks about how her support system helps her take risks [25:35] Failures make for the best stories, and everything you want is on the other side of fear [26:58] Chalene discusses how to focus on one thing [29:03] Chalene explains how she creates habits by focusing on the rewards [32:26] Chalene describes exactly how she breaks her addiction to distractions [36:08] When you say no, don’t give reasons why [37:06] Chalene explains why you need to believe that your goals are possible [38:47] Chalene advocates focusing on your direction, not your obstacles [42:25] Chalene shares her superpower [43:12] FOLLOW CHALENE: WEBSITE: chalenejohnson.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/1RhxodM FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2MEizJH TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2PgcpBn
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about how Tom has supported her through her 4 year health struggle. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Beauty industry titan Mally Roncal has worked with the biggest names in the world--including Beyonce. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Mally Roncal shares her stories of making it in business, working with celebrities, maintaining a happy marriage, and dealing with the inevitable haters. She also explains how to not take no for an answer, how to balance work and family life, and how to live according to your deepest intuitions and your authentic self. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Mally describes the difficulty women have in being proud of themselves [3:08] How to not take no for an answer [3:37] Mally advocates listening carefully to the voice of intuition at absolutely all times [7:46] Mally describes her passion to lift women up [11:50] Mally and Lisa discuss the dangers of tying self-esteem to physical looks [13:26] Mally describes the danger of pretending that everything is alright [17:27] Mally believes in positivity, chooses it every day, and her positivity is rooted in reality [19:33] Mally and Lisa discuss gratitude and how it relates to staying focused [23:11] Mally talks about self-care and its relation to needing to hustle relentlessly [25:29] How do you balance working for your family and spending time with your family? [28:42] Mally believes we are too held-back, restrained, not free enough [32:08] Mally and Lisa discuss being your authentic self and whether that is good for business [34:15] Mally explains how learned to stop trying to conform [39:30] “I’m no longer allowing myself to be around people that make me feel like s***” [43:53] Mally shares her superpower [46:17] FOLLOW Mally Roncal: WEBSITE: mally.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2pmVW3n FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/31isg4o TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2MFkwnY
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about the importance of fueling your OWN soul. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Do you ever feel that fear holds you back? Do you want to get better at dealing with fear? On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, seven extraordinary women detail exactly how to learn to take risks, turn fear into an ally, and trust your intuition more. Listen as Liz Arch, Cynthia Pasquella-Garcia, Monica Berg, Amy Emmerich, Radhi Shetty, Marissa Orr and Amanda Bucci describe the ways that they have learned to face down, overcome and sometimes even befriend their fears. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 Butcherbox. For 2 lbs of 100% grass-fed beef FREE in every box for the life of your subscription PLUS $20 off your first box go to ButcherBox.com/WOI. SHOW NOTES: Liz Arch describes the two ways that you can deal with and experience fear [1:23] Liz explains how to regulate the nervous system to turn fear into an ally [3:16] Cynthia Pasquella-Garcia talks about tracing your fear back to the source [4:56] Monica Berg discusses the importance of listening to your intuition [7:15] Lisa and Monica discuss learning to deal with shame and trust your intuition [8:38] Amy Emmerich advocates focusing on excitement in the midst of fear [10:26] Radhi Shetty advocates writing down the craziest, worst things you fear [12:16] Marissa Orr discusses facing down fears of leaving a “normal” life [14:28] Amanda Bucci advocates self-awareness and taking risk [20:11] FOLLOW WOMEN OF IMPACT: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG FOLLOW LISA: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 FOLLOW LIZ: https://bit.ly/2MpNW9k FOLLOW CYNTHIA: https://bit.ly/2Xf7aTJ FOLLOW MONICA: https://bit.ly/2OrEyVy FOLLOW AMY: https://bit.ly/2USyfuU FOLLOW RADHI: https://bit.ly/2AQybmF FOLLOW MARISSA: https://bit.ly/2LTWlTu FOLLOW AMANDA: https://bit.ly/33d1bB6
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Author of “Strong is the New Skinny,” health and lifestyle consultant Jen Cohen is very used to pursuing unusual opportunities and taking surprising risks. Because, as she is fond of asking, “What’s the worst that can happen?” On this episode of Health Theory with Lisa Bilyeu, Jen Cohen explains why it’s better to be strong, bold and adventurous than merely skinny, talks at length about how to deal with your weaknesses, and describes exactly how to take small, sustainable steps to build confidence and resilience. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: Check out Impact Theory University at http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Jen explains the slogan, “What’s the worst that can happen?” [2:43] Jen advocates being bold and being willing to fail [4:18] Jen explains how to deal with failure and rejection [7:26] Jen claims that training fitness also means training your mindset [10:56] Jen describes the pressures women feel to be skinny [12:37] Jen advocates taking small, sustainable steps to form good habits [14:53] Lisa and Jen discuss why you need non-negotiables [16:58] Jen talks about how sometimes your best quality is your worst quality [20:34] Jen explains how to tell the difference between burnout and just making excuses [21:50] Jen and Lisa discuss being your own worst critic [23:54] Jen describes how to get trustworthy feedback [26:18] Jen shares one of her biggest failures and how she dealt with it [27:10] Jen and Lisa discuss how to deal with weaknesses and form a great team [32:02] Jen affirms the value of self-awareness, resilience and being deliberate [36:20] Jen shares her superpower [37:37] FOLLOW JEN: WEBSITE: jennifercohen.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2o1IeSK TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2nisLO7
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Do you want to be more confident? Do you ever struggle with self-confidence? This episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu is focused exclusively on how to build confidence. Guests as diverse as Nicole Lepera, Vanessa Van Edwards, Alex Hudgens, Alexi Panos, Cassey Ho, Noor Tagouri and Shawn Johnson explain how to control your anxiety, why it’s useful to think about death every day, and why you really need to take action before you feel ready. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 Audible: Visit Audible.com/WOI today and start your 30-day trial with a free audiobook or text WOI to 500-500. Butcherbox: For 2 lbs of 100% grass-fed beef FREE in every box for the life of your subscription PLUS $20 off your first box go to ButcherBox.com/WOI. SHOW NOTES: Nicole Lepera compares confidence and ego [0:31] Vanessa Van Edwards talks about how similar anxiety and excitement are [2:10] Alex Hudgens describes the times when she had to fake confidence [6:32] Alex explains why she thinks about death every day [8:41] Alexi Panos advocates taking action before you feel you are ready [9:49] Cassey Ho talks about taking the word “just” out of your vocabulary [11:49] Noor Tagouri advocates being exposed to diverse perspectives and backgrounds [14:34] Shawn Johnson describes the importance of your environment [19:34] FOLLOW WOMEN OF IMPACT: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG FOLLOW LISA: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 FOLLOW NICOLE LEPERA: https://bit.ly/2mqYoEp FOLLOW VANESSA VAN EDWARDS: https://bit.ly/2kV2LqP FOLLOW ALEX HUDGENS: https://bit.ly/2kRxvce FOLLOW ALEXI PANOS: https://bit.ly/2lukDJv FOLLOW CASSEY HO: https://bit.ly/2PE5JtA FOLLOW NOOR TAGOURI: https://bit.ly/2mUAkdd FOLLOW SHAWN JOHNSON: https://bit.ly/2lwzxif
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Do you want to hear the unfiltered truth about being an entrepreneur, about starting and running your own business? On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, she and three other successful female entrepreneurs get into the nitty-gritty details, describe the challenges, and celebrate the joys of business. Natalie Ellis, Victoria Young and Amy Stanton discuss self-care and balance, bringing on a partner, dealing with failures and setbacks, and the necessity of extraordinary self-belief. This episode is brought to you by: Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Natalie advocates the necessity of self-belief and confidence [5:02] Lisa and Amy discuss whether they were born or made an entrepreneur [8:25] Lisa and Victoria ask how to know whether you need to pivot or push harder [12:07] Natalie talks about the pros and cons of doubling your goals [14:48] Amy describes how her business unfolded in a completely unexpected way [16:36] Lisa and Victoria explain how important passion and purpose are [19:25] Amy talks about how important a financial safety net is [21:23] Natalie shares her experience with bringing on a partner [23:47] Lisa talks about how she and her husband run a business together [26:34] Natalie describes the benefits and challenges of having co-CEO’s [28:00] Amy advocates resilience as the primary element of success [30:15] Natalie advocates balance, boundaries and self-care [32:26] Lisa and Natalie agree that, at first, you have to ignore balance to succeed [34:08] Victoria describes her own self-care regimen [35:10] Lisa and Amy discuss how to measure your output when considering self-care[36:32] Natalie describes her meticulous methods of self-assessment [38:34] Victoria explains her process for deciding what matters [41:20] Natalie describes the sacrifices she has made to start her business [43:01] Amy doesn’t think she has sacrificed--she has prioritized [44:47] The panel shares their superpower [46:56] FOLLOW AMY: WEBSITE: http://stanton-company.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PpaMm8 FOLLOW NATALIE: WEBSITE: bossbabe.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2lZhu48 TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2mlLmbk FOLLOW VICTORIA: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2m0sw9f TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2kmEXvT
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Seane Corn overcame OCD and severe anxiety, not to mention drug abuse, through yoga and spiritual practice. Now she is part of the revolution of the soul, practicing radical healing, conscious action, and guiding people to self-awareness. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Seane Corn shares her history with trauma, explains how to identify and change the stories we tell ourselves, and describes how she healed herself with yoga. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University. Visit http://bit.ly/2MMGGX5 today! ButcherBox. Use the discount code: "TOM" at butcherbox.com to get 20$ off and FREE BACON SHOW NOTES: Seane shares her history with OCD, anxiety and drug abuse [3:00] Seane explains what caused her to move away from drugs and towards yoga [8:21] Seane describes what kept her going when yoga at first made anxiety worse [12:26] Seane and Lisa discuss trauma and the misconceptions surrounding it [14:23] Seane talks about the connection between mind, body and soul [20:58] Seane explains how to identify and unravel the stories we tell ourselves [23:43] Seane rejects “white saviorism” and confronts her own power and privilege [27:00] Seane advocates confronting your own participation in oppressive systems [31:18] Seane describes the process for dealing with harmful attitudes and behaviors [33:30] Seane explains how to understand intergenerational trauma [37:09] Seane hopes that her book inspires people to love and serve peace [38:32] Seane shares her superpower [40:15] FOLLOW SEANE: WEBSITE: www.seanecorn.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2lFemdH FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2lMOHja TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2kFaqt9
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It’s time to celebrate the one year anniversary of Women of Impact! This week’s episode features the best success tips from the billionaires, entrepreneurs, and life coaches that Lisa Bilyeu has interviewed. These trail-blazing women share the secrets to taking risks, taking time for yourself, earning respect and opening doors for the women who come after you. Several lifetimes of wisdom are condensed into one thirty-minute segment. Here is what any woman who wants to achieve needs to know. This episode is brought to you by Impact Theory University: Visit http://bit.ly/2MMGGX5 today! SHOW NOTES: Tip #1: Get sh*t done. Dia Simms discusses excellence [0:56] Tip #2: Face your fears. Lori Harder explains how to always move forward [2:38] Lori talks about how your fears are the key to your wildest dreams [3:43] Cindy Eckert describes taking on serious challenges, like the FDA [5:51] Constance Schwartz-Morini talks about earning respect [8:21] Constance shares her story of working with Snoop [9:59] Dia advocates taking more risk [11:54] Tip #3: Know your worth. Patrice Washington says, brag about yourself [13:14] Tip #4: Avoid burnout. Constance advocates taking real time for yourself [17:07] Tip #5: Be you. Natalie MacNeil advocates revealing yourself [20:28] Cindy discusses the pros and cons of not being what people expect [24:14] FOLLOW WOMEN OF IMPACT: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG FOLLOW LISA: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about the doubt she faced going into her now 17 year marriage to Tom. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Having pop culture icons as parents is a blessing, but it also creates incredible pressure and imposes some pretty limiting expectations. As daughter of Motown musicians Diana Ross and Berry Gordy, Rhonda Ross might be the leading expert on those sorts of blessings and pressures. On today’s episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Rhonda Ross discusses how she learned to find her true voice amidst everyone’s expectations, why she welcomes criticism, and why she has learned to remind herself always, in good times and bad, that nothing is permanent. This episode is brought to you by: DesignCrowd: Visit designcrowd.com/woi Impact Theory University: Visit http://bit.ly/2MMGGX5 today! Butcherbox: For 2 lbs of 100% grass-fed beef FREE in every box for the life of your subscription PLUS $20 off your first box go to ButcherBox.com/WOI Audible: Start listening with a 30-day Audible trial and your first audiobook plus two Audible Originals are free. Visit audible.com/WOI or text WOI to 500-500 SHOW NOTES: Rhonda talks about being limited by other’s expectations [2:27] Rhonda describes how meditation allowed her to hear her own true voice [5:59] Rhonda shares how she stopped doing what others wanted her to do [9:13] Rhonda and Lisa discuss how to use criticism positively to be self-aware [12:20] Rhonda explains how she saw through the idea that fame would bring happiness [15:07] Rhonda advocates daily, purposeful gratitude and appreciation [18:04] Rhonda and Lisa discuss taking ownership of your life [20:10] Rhonda talks about why it’s nobody’s job to make her happy [21:51] Rhonda explains why it’s so important to not try to control other people [25:46] Rhonda describes the difficulty she had in conceiving a child [28:04] Rhonda details how she learned to enjoy every step of any journey she’s on [31:14] “Belief is everything.” [32:47] Rhonda and Lisa discuss always reminding yourself that nothing is permanent [34:10] Rhonda shares her superpower. [35:53] FOLLOW RHONDA: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/31YBRya FACEBOOK:https://bit.ly/2Ziret5 INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/3422ggw TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2ZrM2Ka
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Do you often feel stuck? If we don’t intentionally engage our conscious mind, we end up spending 95% of our lives on auto-pilot. And according to Nicole LePera, those auto-pilot habits and subconscious thought patterns are exactly what keep us stuck. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, holistic psychologist Nicole LePera shares tips and tactics on how to deal with your deepest triggers, how to build confidence, and how to finally get unstuck. This episode is brought to you by: Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women Impact Theory University. Visit http://bit.ly/2MMGGX5 today! SHOW NOTES: Nicole explains what consciousness is, and why it’s necessary to tap into it [2:52] The first thing anyone should do is simply observe themselves [5:10] Nicole talks about how to not judge your own thoughts [8:28] Nicole describes using meditation and journaling to change habits and thought patterns [9:28] Nicole advocates focusing on the future, and imagining change [12:04] Nicole explains how, in the moment, you can switch away from subconscious habits [14:06] Nicole talks about how sometimes time and space are your best friends [17:05] Nicole describes why our relationships contain our most powerful triggers [18:29] Nicole advocates radical honesty to deal with past trauma [21:40] Nicole tells a story about how not doing the dishes led to huge arguments [24:39] Nicole discusses the difference between confidence and ego [30:30] Nicole describes the first steps to becoming genuinely confident [33:03] Nicole advocates the importance of sleep and nutrition [37:44] Lisa and Nicole discuss the brain-gut connection [40:30] Nicole describes 3 things that people can do immediately to improve their health [45:36] Nicole shares her superpower [48:16] FOLLOW Nicole: WEBSITE: http://bit.ly/2KTAgCS TWITTER: http://bit.ly/2KPF8sO INSTAGRAM: http://bit.ly/2NbJn4B
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about dealing with situations where her business comes into conflict with her marriage. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
“Comfortability is where all the destruction lies.” Tara Mackey was surrounded by drugs growing up, and at one point was prescribed 14 different pharmaceuticals. Then, she chose to give up the drugs and rely on natural healing methods. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Tara Mackey describes how to beat addictions, and how to get out of the comfort zone that may be killing you. This is someone who has definitely been there, and knows how to use intuition, discipline and love to completely transform. This episode is brought to you by: Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women Impact Theory University: Visit http://bit.ly/2MMGGX5 today! SHOW NOTES: Tara explains how the story she told herself governed her life [3:00] Tara illustrates the first step she took to change her story [6:41] Tara talks about how to learn to say no to what’s comfortable [8:45] Tara explains how difficult things often seems easy in hindsight [10:26] Tara defines intuition and describes how she uses it [11:52] Tara and Lisa discuss taking ownership of everything, and having no regrets [14:04] Tara talks about how to avoid getting to the point of attempting suicide [16:21] Tara describes the W.I.L.D. method of changing bad habits [17:40] Tara delves more deeply into how to use intuition to make better decisions [19:59] Tara talks about what love really means [21:15] Tara explains how to develop discipline [23:26] Tara describes overcoming the urge to reach for medication during hard times [25:18] Tara talks about struggling with coming into her power [29:04] Tara and Lisa discuss death and thinking about death [30:42] Tara illustrates using lists to keep her life balanced [32:10] Tara shares her superpower, resilience [33:50] FOLLOW TARA: WEBSITE: http://theorganiclifeblog.com/ YOUTUBE: http://bit.ly/2MeKfFZ INSTAGRAM: http://bit.ly/2KX0gNZ FACEBOOK: http://bit.ly/2KLdZHf TWITTER: http://bit.ly/2MexQSD
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Social media is famous for spite and drama, but it has also transformed people’s lives and allowed whole communities to be built around common interests. On this episode of Women of Impact, social media titans iJustine, Cassey Ho and Lisa Bilyeu discuss the opportunities and dangers of today’s internet. This elite panel tackles the foremost issues of the social media age, including body image, the difference between spite and constructive criticism, and how to tell when you are sharing too much online. This episode is brought to you by: Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women DesignCrowd: Visit designcrowd.com/woi Impact Theory University: Visit university.impacttheory.com today! SHOW NOTES: The panel talks about how they dealt with their first negative comment [5:30] How do you know the difference between constructive criticism and spite? [9:06] The panel talks about how to know when you are sharing too much [11:24] The panel discusses how to deal with social media being fueled by drama [14:50] The panel describes the responsibility they feel they have [18:15] The panel talks about how social media has positively changed their lives [21:34] The panel discusses how much you can learn on the internet [25:13] Do you choose to use social media for good or for bad? [26:08] Cassey explains why the “Perfect Body” video was healing for her [27:43] The panel advocates using empathy and kindness [29:05] Each member of the panel defines the best and worst thing about social media [31:11] Cassey and iJustine share their superpower [32:45] FOLLOW CASSEY: Website: www.blogilates.com Instagram: http://bit.ly/2M3tM7u Facebook: http://bit.ly/2GOKbbE Twitter: http://bit.ly/2OIipEl Youtube: http://bit.ly/2yIKpww FOLLOW IJUSTINE: Website: www.ijustine.com Instagram: http://bit.ly/2YA5g4N Facebook: http://bit.ly/2OGNfwZ Twitter: http://bit.ly/2Kvsuin Youtube: http://bit.ly/2ZCDS2r
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about why you can't listen to self-doubt. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
The odds of succeeding in Hollywood are absurdly low. So early on, Katee Sackhoff realized that she had better figure out what made her different from everyone else, and how to stay true to the person she really is. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, star actress Katee Sackhoff (best known as “Starbuck” from Battlestar Galactica) describes how she pursued her career against all odds, how she distinguished herself from everyone else, and how she remains committed to her own ethics and standards. This episode is brought to you by: Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women DesignCrowd: Visit designcrowd.com/woi Impact Theory University: Visit university.impacttheory.com today! SHOW NOTES: Katee explains how she went against her parents’ desires when she pursued acting [3:19] “Every time someone told me no, it made me work harder.” [4:55] Katee and Lisa discuss how unlikely making it is in Hollywood [5:58] Katee explains how to focus on your own success instead of the competition [7:18] Katee advocates never compromising yourself [10:27] Katee talks about taking on the role of Starbuck on Battlestar Galactica [12:17] Katee describes dealing with backlash [14:10] Katee discusses fear, vulnerability, and sadness [15:00] “Allowing your feelings to be hurt just means it mattered to you.” [17:36] Katee advocates that eventually only you are responsible for your future [19:55] Katee explains why she doesn’t believe in regrets [20:34] Katee talks about the severe limitations of texting and social media [23:37] Katee describes her new show, “Another Life” [26:53] Katee explains how the next project always has to be better than the previous [28:42] “You have to allow people to be honest with you” [30:14] Katee talks about how being a producer has changed the rest of her life [33:00] Katee shares that she used to give only 95% so that she had an excuse if she failed [33:59] Katee explains how she remains disciplined on days where she wants to give in [36:26] Katee explains how she learned to stop feeling sorry for herself [38:18] Katee shares her superpower [39:02] FOLLOW: WEBSITE: http://kateesackhoff.com/ FACEBOOK: http://bit.ly/2Ka0ErO INSTAGRAM: http://bit.ly/2OsTPHf TWITTER: http://bit.ly/30VVeHM
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How do you live authentically? How do you get to a place where you hear your own true voice, where you stop living according to what other people think you should do, and where you stop making the same mistakes over and over again? Psychologist and world traveller Anna Yusim devotes her life to helping people answer these kinds of questions. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Anna illustrates how to set boundaries, deal with the troubles in life that just keep coming back, and live an authentic, fulfilled life. This episode is brought to you by: Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women Audible: Start listening with a 30-day Audible trial and your first audiobook plus two Audible Originals are free. Visit audible.com/woi or text 'WOI' 500-500 to get started. BrandCrowd: Get started for FREE by visiting BrandCrowd.com/maker today! Impact Theory University: Visit university.impacttheory.com today! SHOW NOTES: Anna discusses the masks we wear and why we adopt them [2:53] Anna explains how to find your true, inner, quiet voice [4:16] Anna tells her own story [6:55] Lisa and Anna discuss how people often display the opposite emotions that they feel [8:48] Take baby steps to get rid of the “shoulds” [10:43] Anna describes soul corrections and soul contributions [11:46] Anna explains how to find the person you will be fulfilled with [14:54] Whatever bothers us in other people is a reflection of ourselves [16:56] Anna describes repetition compulsions, when awful things keep happening [18:15] How to deal with denial [19:33] Anna explains what it really takes to change [21:00] Anna and Lisa discuss boundaries [23:20] Anna illuminates how strong boundaries bring people closer [25:00] Anna and Lisa discuss specifically mother/daughter boundaries [28:08] Anna explains how to love yourself as you are and still improve [32:18] Anna defines the soul as inter-connectedness and purpose [34:00] Anna describes the placebo effect and its opposite, the “nocebo” effect [35:00] Anna shares 3 things people should do immediately to live authentically [38:43] Anna shares her superpower [40:10] FOLLOW: WEBSITE: www.annayusim.com TWITTER: http://bit.ly/2JL6iBP FACEBOOK: http://bit.ly/2M4JSgl INSTAGRAM: http://bit.ly/2OkJXzs
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Cindy Eckert developed a female sexual desire drug, and then sold the company that she founded for a billion dollars. When the buyers didn’t fulfill their promise to promote the drug, she took the company back (without paying a dime.) Bold enough to take on the FDA and empathetic enough to listen to her most ardent detractors, Cindy Eckert is the perfect entrepreneur to take on the medical industry and male-dominated culture in general. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Cindy Eckert discusses business, sexuality and female empowerment. This episode is brought to you by: Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women BrandCrowd: Get started for FREE by visiting BrandCrowd.com/maker today! SHOW NOTES: Cindy describes how common female sexual dysfunction is [3:27] Cindy tells the story about how the female desire drug came about [5:50] Cindy explains why she fought so hard to get the drug on the market [7:45] Cindy says that injustice is what fuels her and the results of that motivation [11:16] Cindy explains why she sold the company she founded [13:07] Cindy talks about whether being a woman has helped or hindered her in business [16:34] Cindy discusses the role of empathy in getting the drug approved by the FDA [19:29] Cindy explains how she got her company back after selling it [21:30] Cindy describes launching the drug [24:35] Cindy discusses sexuality being part of the human experience [27:36] Cindy explains why the FDA pushed back so hard against the drug [29:35] Cindy and Lisa discuss the importance of listening and perspective [34:03] Cindy advocates that women talk more about money and power [38:27] Cindy explains the sort of companies she supports [42:27] Cindy shares her superpower [45:08] FOLLOW: WEBSITE: https://thepinkceiling.com INSTAGRAM: http://bit.ly/2LmCygB FACEBOOK: http://bit.ly/2NXgSd6 TWITTER: http://bit.ly/2Y9ljoQ
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Not everyone in the corporate world wants to play the competitive, zero-sum game that leads to management positions. Marissa Orr, author of “Lean Out”, was a star employee for years at Google and Facebook. Eventually, though, she realized that established company’s cultures do not necessarily respect her strengths or her values. On today’s episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Marissa Orr discusses how to be honest with yourself and the company you work for, and how to “lean out” of other peoples’ stories and into your own. BUY LEAN OUT: https://amzn.to/2S2XhGG This episode is brought to you by: Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women BrandCrowd: Visit designcrowd.com/woi SHOW NOTES: Marissa explains why she became dissatisfied with the corporate world [2:03] Marissa advocates for empathy and criticizes corporate competition [3:59] Why women don’t say they are ambivalent about climbing the corporate ladder [6:00] “Why am I fighting so hard for something I don’t even want?” [8:43] Marissa talks about valuing people for their differences [11:53] Marissa explains how being likeable leads to less respect [14:15] Marissa describes leaning out of other peoples’ stories [18:57] Marissa talks about being honest with yourself and the corporation [23:39] Marissa explains how she finally pursued what she really wanted [25:51] Marissa describes understanding herself based on personality traits [31:38] The best leaders have a balance of respect and trust [33:58] Marissa explains the necessity of psychological safety [36:36] Know what game you’re playing, and whether you like it [38:36] In a big corporation many people are not productive at all [41:15] Marissa discuss opening up the conversation about corporate women [44:13] Marissa shares her superpower [45:09] FOLLOW: FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2xzpdZm TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2YHyfzg WEBSITE: www.marissaorr.com/
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This week’s Woman of Impact, Janelle Ginestra-Adams, has already achieved international fame just as a dancer. But now, along with her husband, “WilldaBeast”, she is building a hip-hop empire. In this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Janelle talks about loving your own body, negotiating marriage when your spouse is also your business partner, and how to ignore negativity by focusing on your own journey. This episode is brought to you by:Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at https://thrivemarket.com/women HelixSleep: Get 125 dollars off ALL mattress orders for our listeners at https://HelixSleep.com/WOMENOFIMPACT SHOW NOTES: Janelle needed intense, honest criticism to become a successful dancer [02:30] “Don’t ever let anyone make you feel inferior, insufficient, or not enough” [06:32] Janelle and Lisa discuss vulnerability and strength [07:50] Janelle talks about building a business with her husband [12:40] Honesty is crucial in relationships, even when it stings [16:32] Janelle explains how she deals with competition [19:15] Janelle talks about body image and diversity [23:07] Lisa and Janelle discuss her positivity how she lives her truth [28:28] Janelle explains how she avoids burnout [33:28] Janelle advocates a strongly pro-choice political position [36:06] Janelle lays out three keys to success [38:23] Janelle shares her superpower [41:05] FOLLOW JANELLE: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/31UeC99 FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2xcvmdL TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2Fw2xgO WEBSITE: thebeastnetwork.com
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Queen of Sean “Diddy” Combs’ marketing empire, tireless advocate for women, and all-around brilliant strategist, Dia Simms approaches everything like a scientist. In this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Dia explains how to improve second-by-second, how to negotiate for yourself by standing on the foundation of facts, and how to combat ignorance with excellence and grace. This episode is brought to you by: Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at https://thrivemarket.com/women SHOW NOTES Dia describes dealing with stereotypes of her as a black woman [3:15] Dia illuminates the role of gratitude and excellence in success [4:34] Dia explains how to use underestimation as a weapon [6:49] What does not knowing have to do with finding out? [7:48] Dia and Lisa discuss learning at all times [8:59] Dia observes that people, especially women, have to take risk [10:08] Dia talks about why titles are not important [13:21] Dia tells the story of becoming P Diddy’s marketing empress [15:16] Dia promotes negotiation and self-advocacy, especially for women [16:37] Dia and Lisa discuss women and compensation [19:35] Dia describes her philosophy that all things are possible [20:45] Dia discusses being transparent about having big, crazy goals [23:40] Focus on one thing at a time instead of just lots of activity [26:38] Dia dismisses the idea of balance and advocates protecting your time [27:43] Dia talks about achieving career success when family is the number one priority [29:58] Dia explains that the team is everything [32:04] Dia describes impacting disadvantaged people [32:39] Dia tells stories of her mother’s extraordinary fortitude and optimism [34:03] Dia shows the research that diverse leadership improves the bottom line [35:52] Dia advocates becoming known as a problem solver [38:08] Dia explains the importance of kindness, due diligence, and being relentless [39:30] Dia talks about when you have to change your path to reach your dream [42:20] Dia approaches everything like a scientist [43:14] Dia describes always doing her best [44:39] Dia shares that her superpower is gratitude [45:31] FOLLOW DIA INSTAGRAM https://bit.ly/2IksIJi FACEBOOK https://bit.ly/2x00xcm TWITTER https://bit.ly/2XUkoW
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This episode is brought to you by: Thrive Market. Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at https://thrivemarket.com/women What is it like being black and transgender in the United States foster care system? What is it like growing up queer in Iran? Nia Clark and Mahdis Rezaei join Lisa Bilyeu for a challenging and empathetic conversation. The adversity these two extraordinary queer women faced made them experts on discovering and celebrating their own sexuality and gender. They share their stories of continual transition, constant struggle and joyful self-love on this episode of Women of Impact. SHOW NOTES Nia explains that she always understood that she was not a boy [5:41] Nia describes the effect of abuse and social disapproval [7:43] Mahdis describes the effect of growing up female in a traditional Iranian family [9:51] Mahdis recounts her initial attractions to women [11:11] Nia shares her path to self-acceptance [13:04] Nia explains why she chose her authentic self over safety [16:36] Mahdis answers questions about the hijab and why she took it off [17:22] Nia describes her own very negative religious experiences [19:29] Mahdis talks about meditation and how it led her to come out [20:46] The panel discusses the journey to self-love [22:31] Nia describes her continuing gender identity and sexuality transitions [24:58] Nia illustrates how new terminology eliminates genitalia as the standard of attraction [28:55] Mahdis advocates that sometimes labels like queer are necessary [29:47] The panel considers gender as a spectrum, not a binary system [31:28] Nia illuminates the connections between judgment, fear and oppression [33:52] Nia talks about the transphobia she has faced from gay men and lesbians [36:30] Mahdis advocates for more media images of queer people [37:43] Nia expresses ambivalence about visibility, that it is not equality [38:18] Nia contrasts tolerance with acceptance [41:21] The panel discusses the benefits and dangers of coming out, disclosure and visibility [42:21] The panel talks about respectful questions [44:07] Nia and Mahdis describe their super-power [48:15] FOLLOW NIA: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2KGTYmP FOLLOW MAHDIS: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2MHfKcZ
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Brenda Gilbert is the Co-founder and President of Hollywood Powerhouse BRON Studios with a resume that most people only dream of. In this episode, the woman behind industry reshaping movies like Wonder Woman and Isn’t It Romantic speaks on why spotlighting stories and voices of the underserved will be the best part of her legacy. This episode is brought to you by: Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at https://thrivemarket.com/women HelixSleep: Get 125 dollars off ALL mattress orders for our listeners at https://HelixSleep.com/WOMENOFIMPACT SHOW NOTES Brenda explains how her childhood traits and experiences influenced her life path. [3:25] Brenda speaks on the importance and power of persistence. [7:00] Brenda explores how she broke into Hollywood without conforming to norms. [10:05] Brenda and Lisa discuss what it’s like being a business partner with your husband. [11:22] Brenda describes being a female leader in the industry. [17:51] Brenda speaks about the importance of giving everyone a voice. [19:45] Brenda on the influence hard work has on your career and others [24:43] Brenda touches on the importance of female-centric movies and stories. [27:24] Brenda details balancing ambition with satisfaction while avoiding burnout. [31:57] Brenda shares her long term goals and plans. [36:27] Brenda describes what her superpowers are. [39:08] QUOTES: “I call it 'The Three or Four P's' so the passion, the art form, that's what gets me up in the morning and to drive me to do what I'm doing; the perseverance, the patience, and the persistence because in this industry I've been told it's much more riskier than the stocks.” [5:28] “That's the key for me to be driven and motivated. Not just the passion for what I do but the passion for life and for people.” [7:46] “Being complacent has no place in my world” [9:35] “As a female I feel that we've been undermined time and time again and I feel we have to join hands. You know, we're collaborators, we're friends, we're colleagues, and we need to support each other. We need to provide each other with platforms and opportunities. That's what's really really important.” [17:58] “We need to have realistic role models and if women can see it then they feel they can be it so your onscreen reality can be your offscreen reality as well.” [28:48] “I think if we think of things as being obstacles we're gonna think we can't get through it, we can't do what we want to do in life and that's gonna stop us right there. I think that if we really provide a supportive network for people and a place to go and to help and it starts with the young people in particular.” [37:40] FOLLOW BRENDA WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2wwpn3g INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Iiu0Dg FACEBOOK - https://bit.ly/2Ii5BxL TWITTER - https://bit.ly/2JUVhz3 LINKEDIN - https://bit.ly/317Npj3
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This week’s guest on Women Of Impact is Monica Berg. Monica Berg is the author of Fear Is Not An Option and serves as Chief Communications Officer for Kabbalah Centre International. In this episode she talks about how she overcame a debilitating eating disorder at a young age and how she built her self worth. This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women BUY “Fear Is Not An Option” by Monica Berg: https://amzn.to/2WbaUJd SHOW NOTES: Monica talks about how to deal with fear [3:21] Why women have a harder time with listening to their intuition [6:32] Monica Berg talks about how to deal with shame [8:48] How Monica thinks about “regret” and why discipline is how to get around it [12:30] Why you need to get to know yourself [16:20] How to overcome your most debilitating fears [18:57] Why Monica believes “words have power” and how you can use them to overcome fear of failure [20:01] How successful people get that way (without luck) [21:07] How Monica responded to having a child with Down syndrome [23:12] How to retrain your brain to respond to any challenge positively [29:30] Why you should adopt the phrase “Fear Is Not An Option” [32:30] How Monica is able to live without expectation [39:42] How to control your emotional responses[43:32] Why it’s important to name your fears [44:40] FOLLOW MONICA WEBSITE: https://rethinklife.today INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/monicaberg74 TWITTER: https://twitter.com/monicaberg74
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This week’s guest on Women of Impact is Allana Pratt. Allana is an intimacy expert, the author of 4 books, and she is the go-to authority for people struggling to trust again after a harsh breakup. In this episode she talks about how to trust after betrayal, how to develop an intimate relationship with yourself, and the importance of embracing your sexuality. This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women SHOW NOTES: Allana recounts the first time she wore fishnets and a G string and how she began to feel empowered [3:27] Allana talks about how she used to compare herself to people [6:21] Allana tells the story about the first time she was forced to deal with the death of a friend [9:30] Allana’s script for addressing herself and acknowledging her needs [13:17] “What you resist persists” [13:56] Why you need to have an intimate relationship with yourself before you can have one with yourself [16:03] How Allana has taken ownership of her decisions [18:54] How to stop judging yourself and make real progress [22:03] How Allana dealt with not having money for a deposit to sell her coaching and the valuable choices she made to continue making progress [23:06] Allana talks about why it’s difficult for women to open up about their sexuality [26:47] Allana talks about her experience and relationship with money [30:02] How to trust again after someone betrays your trust [35:11] Why Allana says you have to match the vibration of the things you want [39:01] Why you need to ask to receive [39:39] Why Allana loves pole dancing [40:56] Allana talks about her superpower [43:23] FOLLOW ALLANA WEBSITE: http://allanapratt.com TWITTER: https://twitter.com/allanapratt INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/allanapratt FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/coachallanapratt YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/AlanaPratt
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This week’s guest on Women of Impact is An Deckers. After a childhood laced with sexual abuse, she married a money-laundering linchpin more than 14 years her senior. After finding her freedom, she started her own property management agency which now does millions of dollars in revenue. In this episode she talks about her experiences & how you can find your own freedom and live a life of authenticity. This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women SHOWNOTES: How she was able to overcome her circumstances and never feel like a victim despite being in a difficult marriage [4:02] You can be anyone you want to be, you don’t have to carry around baggage [7:17] How she went from absolute luxury to “regular life” and learned the true meaning of happiness [8:13] How she overcame her childhood abuse by confronting her past [9:52] What An Deckers has done that’s given her the courage to speak out about her experiences [14:46] How she was able to stay true to herself despite entering so many different environments and why she never conformed to society’s standards [16:02] An Deckers personal experience entering a relationship with Lisa’s mom and how they opened up about their relationship to Lisa and her siblings [19:41] How An was able to separate her relationship of the past from her new relationship [21:37] Lisa’s opinions on the importance of intention in a relationship [23:41] The story about how An Deckers was convicted of her husband’s crime and how Lisa’s mom showed her support through it all [25:02] How An started her business even while she was being convicted of the crime [26:04] How An was able to make the leap into being an entrepreneur with just 90 days worth of money [28:27] Why starting a company didn’t seem like a big deal after An had gone through everything she had personally [30:49] What Lisa admires about An, and how An is disciplined enough to run her own business but is also able to choose when she doesn’t want to be disciplined [32:28] An says you should do one big goal per year that really scares you [36:26] An Deckers reveals her superpower [38:48]
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This week’s episode of Women of Impact features two guests in a special talk on motherhood, careers and family. Sanja Hatter, wife and co-founder of the purpose driven company Thrive. Lilian Garcia is WWE host, singer and speaker who has performed in front of hundreds of millions of people and has been featured, well literally everywhere. GET TICKETS TO THRIVE: https://bit.ly/2Vlz57l SHOW NOTES How Sanja's upbringing shaped her views on motherhood [06:00] The reason Lilian focused on her career over kids [09:21] What it feels like to lose control [13:19] Is it selfish to not have kids? [14:28] Why we judge other women, even when we make the same choice [18:48] Tips for not feeling guilty for your choices [21:51] The freedom that comes with not having kids [30:09] Why it's normal to struggle as a new mom [31:38] The importance staying authentic through the hate [36:02] Battling with making the right choice for the long term [38:10] The sacrifices moms have to make [41:00] How to analyze if having kids is the right choice for you [43:06] Why having a nanny isn't a bad thing [45:23] The importance of choosing your words carefully [46:36] FOLLOW SANJA WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2H4Glut INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Lt1xiY FOLLOW LILIAN INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2LtWXBk FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/29nP1vn TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2VjIWKR PODCAST: https://apple.co/2PSANa8
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This week’s guest on Women of Impact is Natalie Manuel Lee. Natalie Manuel Lee is a fashion influencer and brand manager at Fear of God. In this episode she talks about fashion, entertainment, and the mental health epidemic we face in the age of social media. This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market! Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women WATCH NOW WITH NATALIE: https://bit.ly/2V68R8B SHOW NOTES How wanting legacy contributes to who we become [02:25] Why your identity shouldn't be tied to your job [04:58] When encouragement becomes dangerous [08:12] Why you need to shift your mindset every single day [10:02] The development of 'Now with Natalie' [11:31] Why do we glorify celebrities? [13:13] The real definition of success [15:14] How to meet people where they are [18:56] Dealing with judgment from others [20:22] How to extend grace to people you don't want to extend grace to [22:34] Why recognizing your mistakes is the first step towards growth [25:24] How to trust in the process [27:08] How clothes can be part of your identity [28:49] Is dressing sexy okay when you're married? [33:20] What story do you want to tell about yourself? [35:25] The future for Natalie's show [37:41] FOLLOW NATALIE INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2XYwz3Y
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This week’s guest on Women of Impact is Najwa Zebian. Najwa Zebian is a Lebanese-Canadian author, speaker, and educator. Inspired by her love of language from an early age, now she gives her voice to those who feel silenced. In this episode she talks about getting past trauma and how to know if your relationship is serving you. This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women BUY NAJWA’S BOOKS: The Nectar of Pain: https://amzn.to/2W52QWu Sparks of Pheonix: https://amzn.to/2Gun0mc Mind Platter: https://amzn.to/2IPzeIN SHOW NOTES A new way to think about ‘home’ [02:19] Does happiness just come to us? [05:48] Why we need to feel and accept our pain [07:09] How to actually feel your pain so you can move on [09:57] Boundaries you need to set up for future relationships [15:40] Najwa’s definition of self love [19:24] Why you can’t be positive all the time [21:52] The importance of taking responsibility for your health [26:30] How to find your voice [29:28] The real story behind Najwa’s International Women’s Day speech [35:08] Why you can’t doubt your truth [42:00] FOLLOW NAJWA: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2virGWO INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2adrxex FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2GBCOEJ TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2vjRQZm YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2UzlDaJ
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This week’s guest on Women of Impact is Vanessa Van Edwards. Vanessa Van Edwards is a behavioral investigator, speaker and the national best-selling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People. In this episode, she talks about how to set boundaries, how to be more likable, and how to talk to people at parties. This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women BUY CAPTIVATE BY VANESSA VAN EDWARDS: https://amzn.to/2Gpuvvz SHOW NOTES Tips for feeling less awkward at any event [03:08] Why you should never "fake it til you make it" [07:14] What to do when you feel anxious [11:17] Why sharing your falls makes you more likable [15:34] What makes people popular vs unpopular? [18:33] A mental hack to get other people to impress you [21:13] How to actually connect with people using 'hot buttons' [24:16] Why saying no is harder for women than it is for men [26:15] How to re-evaluate career motivation after having children [32:27] Weighing the highs and lows of life after having children [38:28] Why all of your relationships follow the same pattern [44:09] Why knowing your love language can improve your relationships [47:32] The power of "fill in the blank wishes" [50:34] FOLLOW VANESSA WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2SahZTF INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/28MKLDf FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2IumPL9 TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2UHFxVS YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2uLGzTb
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This week’s guest on Women of Impact is Patrice Washington. Patrice Washington is the Founder and CEO of Seek Wisdom Find Wealth, a personal finance training and development firm focused on moving you from debt management to money mastery. In this episode she talks about her experiences with debt, how to save money and what she did after losing everything in the 2008 financial crash. BUY Real Money Answers For Every Woman by Patrice Washington: https://amzn.to/2I4toUt This episode is sponsored by Thrive Market! Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women SHOW NOTES The mindset it takes to make money [2:33] How to ask for help without feeling bad about yourself [06:30] Learning to love who you are [08:40] Why wealth has nothing to do with material things [12:32] Why physical health is a necessary component of success [15:02] A new approach to building relationships [17:20] Why you have to keep your physical space clutter-free [20:18] Ditch your money excuses [22:25] How to think about spending money on your health now [26:51] The importance of building healthy habits [28:29] Why you can't compare your money habits to your partner's [32:01] How to set joint financial goals with your partner [35:39] Why women have a hard time negotiating [42:22] The reason you can't settle for something you don't believe in [47:40] FOLLOW PATRICE: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2UJsouF YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2VsLGBO INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2jZCkOx FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2uVsUHz PODCAST: https://apple.co/2OYBOwU
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In this special panel episode of Women of Impact, you’re introduced to Amber Caudle, a.k.a Chef Amber - the founder of the source cafe, Alina Brown - a nutritionist and wholistic health youtuber and Jen Esquer - a doctor of physical therapy and the creator of the mobility method program. In this episode, they talk about self image, misconceptions around what is healthy, and individual nutrition. This episode is sponsored by Thrive Market! Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: The Source Cafe: https://bit.ly/2VeT4R4 Get 25% off the Cooking with Chef Amber Cooking Series: www.chefamber.com/WOI Wellness Con: https://bit.ly/2TT9Fbw The Mobility Method Program: https://bit.ly/2UaUrE0 The Optimal Body Program: https://bit.ly/2K4qFMq Oura Ring: https://bit.ly/2OGC5EX Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://amzn.to/2Uys81L SHOW NOTES Why the word ‘health’ does us a disservice [04:14] Why the outside doesn’t always match the inside [05:54] The power of accepting who you are, not who you want to be [07:57] Tips for reconnecting with your body [11:47] How to switch your self talk from negative to positive [13:19] The real foundation of health [15:53] Why you need a ‘why’ in your health journey [20:47] How to actually shift your habits [24:37] The importance of having balance in life [28:59] Tips for powerful breathing [32:00] The role of self-deprication [37:48] How to prevent health issues [41:29] Why you need to take responsibility for your health [44:09] Advice for navigating health information on the internet [45:53] Tools you can use to learn more about your body [49:35] FOLLOW AMBER CAUDLE: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2WHYuED INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Uas4pw FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2uDD0N1 FOLLOW ALINA BROWN: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2LQvsgV INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2FPUUCz YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2uylNUI PODCAST: https://apple.co/E3ERUy FOLLOW JEN ESQUER: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2KCqiVr INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2I722fE FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2JZ9vzV YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2FPSOCK
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This week’s guest on Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu is Sophie Keller. Sophie Keller is a happiness and well being expert, the author of a collection of books on happiness and relationships, and also the founder of the Village Workspaces. She is also a spokesperson for a number of Fortune 500 companies. In this episode, she talks about how to maintain a relationship by being self aware and the secrets of long-term well being. This episode is sponsored by Thrive Market. Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women Check out Village Workspaces: https://www.villageworkspaces.com/ SHOW NOTES Why all of Sophie's books start with a quiz [02:19] The reason anger is a health problem [03:29] Why "the now" is all that matters [06:26] How to identify and change your internal thoughts [09:13] How Sophie used feng shui to bring harmony to her life [11:11] The importance of having an awesome workplace [12:46] Why making an impact doesn't have to be a huge endeavor [13:57] What types of people are you attracting? [16:10] How to create harmony within yourself [18:45] Why you'll never get a "perfect" partner [19:58] How to tell if your partner is right for you early on [21:29] Why you can't have any doubts about the person you're marrying [22:53] Should your partner come before your children? [25:01] How to work well with your partner [27:29] FOLLOW SOPHIE WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2OqEOSA TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2CENgsC
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This week’s guest on Women of Impact is Victoria Arlen. As a teenager, Victoria contracted a rare disease that rendered her locked into her body in a vegetative state. After years of immobility and a prognosis that looked grim, she was suddenly able to blink. From there she began the long road to regaining her mobility to even competing in the Paralympics and Dancing with the stars. Today Victoria Arlen is an actress, speaker, model, and the best selling author of her memoir, Locked In. BUY LOCKED IN: https://amzn.to/2UJj1b3 SHOW NOTES How Victoria reacted when she realized she was locked in [03:00] How to coach yourself through hard times [05:12] Are your doubters right? [09:42] The difference between surrendering and giving up [15:05] Why you can't let negativity get to you [18:29] How to use others' negativity to fuel you [21:21] How to dream big, breathe, and listen to your intuition at the same time [26:58] Why you can't put a timeline on your goals [33:23] The power of dreaming big [37:58] What to do after achieving your biggest dreams [41:14] FOLLOW VICTORIA INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TUK4mS TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2UJix4J
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This week’s guest on Women of Impact is Liz Arch. Liz is a trauma-informed yoga teacher, martial artist, author, and the founder of Primal Yoga® where she helps women uncover their strength, courage, and empowerment. In this episode, she talks about how to uncover personal trauma and reconstruct your internal dialogue to create inner peace. This episode is sponsored by Thrive Market! Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women BUY COURAGE TO RISE: https://amzn.to/2EXTxAg SHOW NOTES What is trauma? [02:08] How to identify past traumas [07:17] Why healing is never linear [11:16] The importance of taking the ownership to heal yourself [13:18] How yoga creates a safe space to heal from trauma [17:38] Using mindfulness to heal [26:35] Why being fearless is unrealistic [27:47] The power of belief [33:10] How Liz wrote her book while pregnant [34:54] Why nutrition can exacerbate trauma [38:35] How to figure out your food triggers [40:43] The best foods for your mental health [43:26] The first steps you should take to heal from trauma [45:26] FOLLOW LIZ: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2Tw41AM YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2Tw45k0 INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Ch7h8N FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2Y2eqmC
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This week’s guest on Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu is Shawn Johnson East. Shawn is a former olympic gold and silver medal-winning gymnast. In this episode, she talks about her transformation from athlete to entrepreneur, some intense vulnerability during a miscarriage and how she has maintained a healthy romantic relationship through it all. This episode is sponsored by Thrive Market! Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women SHOW NOTES What really happened at the Olympics [02:57] The importance of training the mind as well as the body [04:56] The best tactics for working through fear [06:15] Why Shawn couldn't compete in gymnastics as an adult [08:38] How to deal with burnout and know when to quit [12:12] What to do when you're identity changes [18:01] How to build your confidence [21:59] Body image issues in gymnastics [24:01] How to block out negativity on social media [28:08] The emotional rollercoaster of miscarriage [30:02] Why showing emotion is a strength [36:52] Why we need to face our fears head on [38:27] Shawn's best relationship advice [42:35] How transparency will help your relationship [45:10] FOLLOW SHAWN YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2kkdIQF INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TyWHUh FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2tUjITo WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2VErNHy
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This week’s guest on Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu is Dr. Zelena Montminy. Dr. Zelena is a wellness architect and the author of 21 Days to Resilience. In this episode, she talks about positive psychology, how to architect your best life, and how to maintain great emotional health no matter what you face in life. BUY 21 DAYS TO RESILIENCE: https://amzn.to/2SpioSc SHOW NOTES Why we shouldn't focus on being happy [02:29] Are we approaching gratitude in the wrong way? [05:25] How to let go of the need to feel perfect [07:48] The first step to feeling good enough [09:28] Why challenges are actually great [13:22] How to detach yourself from your emotions and feel them at the same time [16:00] Why being able to pivot is essential [18:26] How kids train you to be flexible [19:54] The things you're probably doing that are destroying your kid's confidence [22:12] Why "balance" doesn't exist [27:53] How to find meaning in everything you do [29:35] Tactics to become more present [31:36] The connection between what we eat and how we feel [32:47] Why we all need to prioritize sleep [35:06] Is there a difference between being resilient and being unbreakable? [38:00] Why we all de-prioritize our mental health [39:03] How to celebrate failure [40:55] The biggest thing Zelana had to change to become resilient [44:22] FOLLOW ZELANA WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2NznxXa INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TkEJF4 FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2H5dcRi
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Cynthia Pasquella-Garcia is known as the “transformational nutritionist” and has helped everyone from CEOs to stay-at-home mom’s to celebrities achieve their weight loss goals. As founder of the Institute of Transformational Nutrition, Cynthia’s method includes spiritual, communal, and biological health in the pursuit of wellness. In this episode, Cynthia and Lisa discuss tapping into emotion, learning to wonder, and how to actually transform your life. Check out our amazing sponsors! Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women Skillshare. Start learning on Skillshare today with 2 free months at skillshare.com/WOI SHOW NOTES Why Cynthia still feels emotional hearing her own story [02:24] How to get out of a victimhood mindset [04:24] Why we avoid the pain of transformation [07:49] Do we actually know how to feel our emotions? [08:45] The three E's for forming beliefs [10:01] Why self-love is bogus [14:48] How to balance loving yourself and improving yourself [19:24] Is social media doing more harm than good? [22:10] Why you are worthy [24:55] The "notice and name" game [27:10] How to take back your power [28:10] Why the "I wonder" game can help you accept yourself [30:59] Why it's okay to lose your sh*t [33:18] The reason you can't be attached to other people's journeys [35:49] How to deal with toxic people [38:25] Can you change other people? [39:42] Why intention is everything [42:27] Make yourself unavailable [44:40] The future for Cynthia [46:20] FOLLOW CYNTHIA WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2NoBhU8 INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Xf7aTJ YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2tZzmMO FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2lQ98IO
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This episode is sponsored by Thrive Market! Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women In this special Valentine’s Day episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, she and special guests Steph Purpura and Emily Morse get real about relationships. Steph Purpura spent her childhood feeling worthless but as an adult she’s found herself and put in the work to live an amazing life. With her husband she runs a company called Powerful-U. Emily Morse, also known as Sex with Emily, has a doctorate in human sexuality. She is a sex and relationship expert with one of the top relationship podcasts in the world. SHOW NOTES Why we repeat past relationship mistakes [04:58] How to develop a strong sense of self-worth [08:03] Why you need to focus on loving yourself before loving someone else [11:42] The first step to loving yourself [13:18] What to do when you have toxic people in your life [15:46] Why you can't make other people's emotions about yourself [19:33] How to avoid making assumptions [22:12] What to do when past issues come up in a new relationship [24:51] The importance of building communication skills [26:47] Why you can't put your relationship on the back-burner [33:38] Why you need to prioritize intimacy [37:48] Learning to enjoy sex and intimacy [41:32] How to set your partner up for success [46:34] FOLLOW LISA INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 FOLLOW EMILY: PODCAST: https://apple.co/2CrcTPY WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/1uwtdVs INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2wEL7uf FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2PE4RVP YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2wHo6pA FOLLOW STEPH WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2ByqMt3
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Constance Schwartz is the founder of SMAC entertainment where she manages talent like Michael Strahan, Wiz Khalifa and Snoop Dogg. She’s also a producer of television and serves as a strategic advisor to the entertainment industry. In this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, she talks about how to control your emotions in pivotal situations, how to find fulfillment and success in your career, and why it pays to have a chip on your shoulder. SHOW NOTES How to use that chip on your shoulder to your advantage [02:32] Why women have to command their place in the business world [04:40] How Constance got Snoop Dogg’s attention [06:45] Do you have luck or are you just a hustler? [08:41] Why talking down to yourself can actually encourage you [09:52] The worst moment Constance had to overcome in her career [12:33] Why Constance doesn’t give her employees titles [14:20] The reason Constance left the NFL [15:00] How to process failure after taking a risk [16:38] Are you too early for a trend or is it just a bad idea? [18:04] Why Constance treats her employees like family [21:59] How to earn respect AND command it [25:17] The best way to handle defeat [27:35] Why you always need to invest in yourself, even if you are capable of being a top earner [29:33] The realities making sacrifices in entrepreneurship [32:19] How to “stay sober” when looking at business opportunities that are wrong for you [34:04] Why you shouldn’t be offended when people go to your business partner for answers [35:44] The strategies Constance uses to keep her pace [37:30] The future for Smac Entertainment [42:01] Constance’s superpower [46:05] FOLLOW CONSTANCE WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2UGhuCd INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2GaiZ8F TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2Gh3SKP
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Brittany Burgunder is a Certified Professional Coach (C.P.C.) specializing in eating disorders and the author of Safety in Numbers: From 56 to 221 Pounds, My Battle with Eating Disorders -- A Memoir. In this episode of Women of Impact she talks about her journey through eating disorders and how to recover to become your best self. Check out our amazing sponsors! Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women Skillshare. Start learning on Skillshare today with 2 free months at skillshare.com/WOI BUY SAFETY IN NUMBERS: https://amzn.to/2sSL9My SHOW NOTES Why we lean on external validation to feel accepted [02:46] The control element of eating disorders [04:28] Why real change takes time and effort [07:19] The question every woman should ask herself [09:18] How to find your own voice [12:21] How to differentiate between feeling lonely and needing to be alone [14:58] Why you need to have a "why" [18:17] How to avoid the trap of identity [19:41] The importance of doing scary things [24:36] Recognizing and reversing self-sabotage [25:47] Tips for accepting yourself as you are, while still wanting to change [29:45] Why labeling yourself is dangerous [32:53] Why Brittany published her private journals after recovering from her eating disorders [35:57] How to turn your rock bottom into your greatest strength [40:20] Why Brittany felt like a fraud after publishing her book [42:50] Brittany's superpower [45:40] FOLLOW BRITTANY WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2sW2rZu INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2aslTRU FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/20FLrDt
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Eve Torres Gracie is a the head instructor of the Gracie Women Empowered Self-Defense Program, a 3x WWE Divas champion, mother, and jiu-jitsu enthusiast. In this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, she talks about empowerment, self confidence and how to balance self care with work. Check out our amazing sponsors! Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women Skillshare. Start learning on Skillshare today with 2 free months at skillshare.com/WOI GET 15% OFF WOMEN EMPOWERED DVD’S: https://bit.ly/2SPfsPT GET 15% OFF WOMEN EMPOWERED STREAMING: https://bit.ly/2AZb6hY SHOW NOTES Why having a safety net may allow you to take bigger risks [01:59] How to respond when you take a risk and fail [05:42] Why Eve left WWE to pursue something new [08:09] Can you be a career woman with a family? [10:11] What to do when you and your partner have different values [13:41] Can you be a badass and a nurturer?[16:08] How to mourn a previous identity [17:42] Why all women need to learn self-defense [21:52] How self-defense programs can help victims of assault heal [27:34] Why you need simple self-defense techniques for everyday situations [33:11] How self-defense will improve your confidence [37:27] What to do when you freeze in uncomfortable situations [40:16] How Eve demonstrated her confidence at Lisa’s party [42:32] Eve’s superpower [48:00] DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: Women Empowered Self Defense Program: https://youtu.be/XguG3wTrYPE A sample of Women Empowered: https://youtu.be/jAh0cU1J5zk FOLLOW EVE WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2FFFlyI YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/1jDeCwJ INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2FFF6ni FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2sEaOIQ
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Natalie MacNeil is the founder of She Takes on the World, where ambition and action meet adventure. She’s the author of 3 books including her most recent work, a planner called “Conquer Your Year”. In this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, they talk about stepping into your fear, the value of a “boost box” and why you need to trust yourself. CHECK OUT OUR AMAZING SPONSORS! Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women Skillshare: Start learning on Skillshare today at skillshare.com/WOI DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: Conquer Your Year Planner: https://amzn.to/2VTsptH The Conquer Kit by Natalie MacNeil: https://amzn.to/2AOJ2y1 She Takes on the World by Natalie MacNeil: https://amzn.to/2RU6eo0 FOLLOW NATALIE WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2RzaHx5 INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2FB9E8L FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2AMyAXN YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2VVTnkD
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about controlling your ego. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Certified nutritional therapy practitioner and author of Happy Weight, Daniele Della Valle sits down with Lisa Bilyeu to talk about where the diet industry has gone wrong, why you need to throw out your scale and the importance of self love. Check out our amazing sponsors! Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women Skillshare: Start learning on Skillshare today at skillshare.com/WOI BUY HAPPY WEIGHT BOOK: https://amzn.to/2VISyeS SHOW NOTES Why you need to ditch the scale [02:42] The importance of deconstructing society’s expectations of women [04:46] How to differentiate weight loss from health [07:54] The one question you should ask yourself every day [10:35] Why you need to express your feelings and set boundaries [12:58] How to handle rejection [17:48] Why getting out of “your normal” can be life-changing [19:55] How to decipher projection language from strangers [22:57] What to do when close friends and family project insecurity onto you [25:45] Why nudist communities have no body shaming [27:38] Can you love yourself while trying to change yourself? [30:05] The root of unrealistic body ideals [31:15] How to see your own worth [34:41] Why we all need to humble brag [37:30] Why social media challenges can bring up heavy emotions [42:14] Why finding yourself can be scary [45:55] FOLLOW DANIELE WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2TBfP0u INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2shm65u PODCAST: https://bit.ly/2FkKjjt
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In this episode, Lisa Bilyeu interviews Emily Hayden, Ashley Stahl, and Sahara Rose in a special New Years panel episode of Women of Impact. The ladies discuss why 80% of New Years resolutions fail, the importance of discipline, and how to deal with negativity. SHOW NOTES How to keep your motivation past January [05:15] Strategies to practice discipline [07:22] Why purpose is more important that passion [09:20] The importance of mind-body connection when reaching for a new goal [12:43] Dealing with other people’s opinions while changing your identity [14:38] How to talk about doing things you said you’d never do [18:44] Why you need to create your own reputation [20:11] The importance of grieving your former identity [21:22] Putting yourself before your brand [23:55] Why constantly evolving is essential [26:23] A new way to think about regret [27:58] Are you ever done evolving? [31:33] Why you need to listen to “the whisper” [33:17] How to get out of your own head [35:35] What to do when you have people who judge your decisions [38:18] Put yourself out there to become the person you want to be [42:07] Tricking yourself by achieving small goals [44:25] Why chasing money doesn’t work [46:39] Emily’s advice to achieve your goals in 2019 [48:38] Ashley’s advice to achieve your goals in 2019 [50:11] Sahara’s advice to achieve your goals in 2019 [51:23] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 PODCAST: https://apple.co/2oT9GPQ FOLLOW SAHARA ROSE INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2s1ZNRn PODCAST: https://apple.co/2xNVM5C WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2JRVxOV FOLLOW ASHLEY STAHL INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2QFGwQx PODCAST: https://apple.co/2zDk1rg WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2R1db7p FOLLOW EMILY HAYDEN INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2VkVcak YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2aOOkOp
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about a revelation while watching the movie "The Notebook". Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
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Refinery29 Chief Content Officer, Amy Emmerich, sits down with Lisa to discuss why you need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable and how family priorities have changed over the years. This episode is sponsored by Thrive Market! Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women SHOW NOTES Learn how to get comfortable with being uncomfortable [02:09] How a homicide detective used affirmations and mindset to solve crimes [06:25] Why getting to the root cause of our problems is the most efficient way to go about problem solving [08:46] The importance of slowing down [10:49] Why having a support system is essential [13:22] How society is changing support of women [16:15] How others' risks can inspire you [18:52] Does the checklist guarantee happiness? [22:01] How content impacts future generations [24:47] Why Refinery29 tackles taboo topics [26:41] The duality between femininity and masculinity [32:19] How to "balance" work and motherhood [36:31] Why nothing in life is easy [39:15] Amy's superpower [42:40] FOLLOW AMY: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2USyfuU TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2SX4szj FOLLOW REFINERY29: WEBSITE: https://r29.co/2MGTJXg INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2ixWgIh YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/1TEKaVG FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/1qR4BSo
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Journalist and host of Sold in America, Noor Tagouri, sits down with Lisa in this week’s episode of Women of Impact. They discuss going against the wave, believing in yourself, and why putting in the hijab transformed her life. SHOW NOTES: How Noor’s childhood affected her sense of identity [02:01] The first step to reverse your insecurities [04:18] Why Noor put on the hijab, despite media standards [07:31] Cultivating a supportive community and avoid the nay-sayers [12:37] How to find your purpose [16:42] Why you’re never truly alone [18:56] Transforming shame into confidence after sexual assault [24:17] How to avoid victimhood and using trauma to empower you [27:11] The power of believing in yourself [28:49] The power of believing in something greater than you [31:25] Noor’s interview in Paris that shook their community [34:05] How to stay focused on your purpose, even when times are tough [37:10] Why you need an ego check [41:51] Noor’s superpower [46:15] FOLLOW NOOR: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2EnnQCo WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2dyfsnf FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2QS5b7w TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2QPVk28 YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2EfLVKv
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about her transformation from housewife to co-founder of a billion-dollar company. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
In this episode of Women of Impact, entrepreneur Miki Agrawal sits with Lisa to share her powerful insights on disrupting society. This SHE-EO lays out what it takes to challenge societal taboos, block negativity, and own your authentic self. This episode is sponsored by Thrive Market! Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women BUY TUSHY: https://hellotushy.com/ PRE-ORDER ‘DISRUPT HER’ NOW: https://www.disrupther.co/ SHOW NOTES Miki’s career on challenging taboos [2:19] Reframing what society considers “shameful” [4:57] How we are marketed by societal standards [7:22] Becoming the “warrior gatekeeper” of your mind [11:21] Differentiating negativity by what actually serves you [15:53] Switching from festering to gratitude [17:51] Conflicts as stories we create in our heads [19:49] How to deal with fear [22:30] Showing up and bringing your all [24:36] Loving yourself first in order to love others [28:05] Find great examples to inspire you [31:37] Discovering your safe space in the face of judgement [32:53] Forcing yourself to feel better [35:10] The power of seeing trends before they rise [37:03] FOLLOW MIKI: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2EcBich INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2G07HVk
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American mixed martial artist and UFC competitor, Michelle Waterson, sits with Lisa to discuss strengthening your mind-body connection, using failure to motivate your success, and balancing diverse identities as a mother and a warrior. Check out our amazing sponsors! CareOf: Visit takecareof.com and enter “woi” at checkout for 25% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins! Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women SHOW NOTES Michelle’s story and MMA being taboo for women [2:01] Defying family expectations and tradition [3:45] Live the life that you want to live [4:37] Managing vulnerability inside and outside the octagon [5:34] Accept that it happened and move on [6:45] Failing means you’re still climbing [8:57] Don’t start something without finishing it [10:45] Embracing the challenge as your roots [12:34] Exercising your mind [13:33] Balancing identities between mother and fighter [14:25] Practice being in the moment [16:45] Building the mind-body connection [18:41] Respecting your body as a key pillar of your lifestyle [21:25] Leaning on family to motivate her passion [24:00] Separating personal and professional life [28:42] Being a mother is being a natural warrior [32:13] Fighting in order to strengthen your inner voice [34:37] The power of being able to flow [36:17] FOLLOW MICHELLE WATERSON WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2Qlxuet INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2P5w7vV FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2KD4I3Q TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2raX5Zb
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about becoming an entrepreneur. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about comparing your success to others. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Businesswomen and authors of The Feminine Revolution book, Amy Stanton & Catherine Connors, sit down with Lisa to tap into and break down what it means to embrace your femininity and all the taboos that follow. They discuss why we should own our feelings, why it’s okay to be emotional, and how to understand and empower female sexuality. BUY Feminine Revolution: https://amzn.to/2RN225K Check out our amazing sponsors! CareOf: Visit takecareof.com and enter “woi” at checkout for 25% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins! Thrive Market: Get 25% off your first order and a 30-day free trial at thrivemarket.com/women SHOW NOTES Being emotional is not a weakness [2:51] Feminine vs. masculine traits of power [4:19] Unpacking the meaning of "being emotional" [6:34] How to live your most authentic life [9:50] Not being ashamed of your emotion [12:49] The health benefits of crying [15:12] Reframing what crying represents [16:52] Awareness and practice of embracing your femininity [19:03] Tools that allow you to explore yourself [21:00] Owning your feminine sexuality [23:11] The taboo of public display of female sexuality [26:23] Understanding feminine sensuality vs. sexuality [27:23] What makes you feel good about yourself? [29:31] The desexualization of mothers and reclaiming it [34:59] Storytelling as a tool to empower women [36:56] The coexistence of vulnerability and taking control [43:12] The power of emotional intelligence and intuition [47:49] FOLLOW CATHERINE INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2z5bESC FOLLOW AMY INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PpaMm8 FOLLOW FEMININE REVOLUTION WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2Dix9Cn INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2T7mU9t
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about relationships. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
This episode is sponsored by CareOf! Visit takecareof.com and enter “woi” at checkout for 25% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins! Join Ashley Crouch, Visibility Strategist and professional writer, Rachele Brooke Smith, professional dancer and actress, and Danny J, serial entrepreneur, cover model and health expert as they sit together with Lisa to discuss the crucial concept of body image. These three powerhouse women dive deep into exploring what it means to feel beautiful as a woman and how to fall in love with yourself first. SHOW NOTES If this body wasn’t mine would I still hate it? [3:55] The reality of the self-love evolution [7:07] Accepting yourself in a culture of rejection [7:49] The standards of beauty as a cultural construct [12:54] Identifying yourself outside of how you look [15:00] Shifting the narrative behind body-image [17:55] Changing the perspective of body-imagery on social media [21:29] The danger of using beauty as a tool for power [26:01] Training yourself not to listen to your negative voice [33:01] Consciously planting affirmations in your state of mind [39:29] Reprogramming yourself through repetitive self-affirmation [42:16] Asking yourself questions [43:20] Knowledge is power [45:27] Ashley’s superpower of celebration [49:18] Danny’s superpower of laughter and cheer [49:44] Rachele’s superpower of gratitude [50:24] FOLLOW ASHLEY WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2SOSAQI INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2D8syCu FOLLOW DANNY WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2DoxrZd INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PdN63K FOLLOW RACHELE WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2Dl9bY9 INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2JKNGQQ FOLLOW LISA INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about how to handle a workaholic partner. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about her interaction with a woman at an omelette bar. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Professional boudoir photographer, Lindsey Hahn, shares with Lisa how to embrace your deeper self by sharing your physical and emotional vulnerability in front of the camera. She also discusses how we can reframe the way we see ourselves and turn our flaws into strengths. This week's episode is brought to you by CareOf! Visit takecareof.com and enter “woi” at checkout for 25% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins! SHOW NOTES Lindsey’s professional photography career [2:12] Transitioning to boudoir photography [4:46] Figuring out women's intentions [6:21] Shifting the way women see themselves [7:39] Showing love for yourself first [9:52] Reviewing the narrative you tell yourself [11:10] We view others how we view ourselves [13:00] Making radical shifts in self-love [14:50] Photographing real women with powerful stories [15:51] Physical and emotional vulnerability in front of the camera [17:54] Turning flaws into strengths [20:05] The power of embracing interior beauty [23:51] Connecting the beauty of the mind with the body [28:32] Embracing the stories behind your scars [31:07] Checking in with your deeper self [34:40] Seeing the beauty in anything [38:16] FOLLOW LINDSEY WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2J9ifzb INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2qdwZoh FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2OHz9es
Host Lisa Bilyeu reads a recent instagram caption (@LisaBilyeu) about not taking anything for granted. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Conscious Content Creator and founder of the non-profit organization, the E.P.I.C. Fellowship Program, Alexi Panos shares how she overcame the trauma of her sexual assault and used it as a catalyst to find compassion within herself. She also discusses how she learned to live unburdened by fear and choose happiness instead. If you or someone you know has been a victim of sexual assault, here are some valuable resources dedicated to help all survivors of sexual violence. If you’re looking for support, information or advice, you can contact these organizations for assistance. You are not alone. RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) - 800.656.HOPE (4673) https://www.rainn.org/ National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC) https://www.nsvrc.org/ Promoting Awareness | Victim Empowerment (PAVE) http://pavingtheway.net/ SHOW NOTES Happiness is a choice [2:07] Finding compassion in yourself [4:24] Allow yourself to be human [5:56] Assessing and unpacking the stages of your life [8:53] The ego vs. the soul, control vs. surrender [12:10] Let go and trust the universe [15:29] Alexi’s story of her sexual abuse [17:15] Confronting her victimhood [21:30] Connect with yourself first in order to connect with others [24:00] Don’t let the “shoulds” imprison you [26:21] Embodying the information we consume [29:50] Perfection is fear [33:06] Failure is feedback [36:49] Learning to trust over having to control [38:46] Navigating conscious relationships [41:17] Willing to be present to life [45:35] DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE The Confidence Gap by Russ Harris: https://amzn.to/2b6CrlF FOLLOW ALEXI WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2CmfUPU INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2NNnaqs TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2QMETjm FOLLOW E.P.I.C. WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2OZUZsH
Host Lisa Bilyeu reads a recent instagram caption (@LisaBilyeu) about how to handle conflicting identities. Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28 Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Creator of Phat Fudge, Mary Shenouda, joins Lisa to discuss why she left her corporate job to follow her passion, how she took her company to a million dollars as a solopreneur, and how she stayed authentically herself through it all. For 10% off Phat Fudge, be sure to visit phatfudge.com and use code WOMENOFIMPACT at checkout! SHOW NOTES Mary’s health issues and rejecting traditional medicine [1:25] Finding the answer [3:17] Transitioning from corporate business to independent Paleo Chef [4:14] Convince yourself you can do it [8:47] You are your best source of advice [10:08] Mistakes are not failures, they’re pivots [12:26] Philosophy on ending relationships [13:26] Pushing emotions aside in business [14:45] Using emotions as social currency [16:56] Being vulnerable vs. sharing your authentic self [18:51] Embracing the suck [20:04] Don’t triage your trauma [24:12] Good ego vs. bad ego [27:28] Being content with yourself [29:57] The story of Phat Fudge [31:36] Taking advantage of being the naive beginner [35:41] Keeping sight on the end game [37:37] Assessing what makes you happy [39:03] Eat. Play. Crush. [41:08] The strength of truth [43:22] DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE Terry Wahls Ted Talk: https://youtu.be/KLjgBLwH3Wc FOLLOW MARY! WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2E76DxW INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2IJawI2 TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2ylbTYB FOLLOW PHAT FUDGE! WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2CvOrwg INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2OJUJOp
American sports broadcaster and television personality Jenn Brown sits down with Lisa to discuss what it’s like being a female broadcaster in the sports world and how her pregnancy affected her career. SHOW NOTES Jenn’s evolution from law school to sports broadcasting [1:57] The power of the mind [5:00] Taking a step back to think things through [6:15] Dealing with distance in marriage [8:13] Entering the sports world as a female [9:45] Overcoming fear and self-doubt [11:54] Beauty vs Knowledge as a female sportscaster [14:04] How being pregnant affected her career [16:30] Jenn’s message to working women [23:11] Speaking out, its consequences, and staying positive [25:44] Becoming a “Mommy Blogger” [27:34] Handling the pressures of starting something new [31:07] Using self-criticism to motivate self-love [34:22] Finding the best way to make it work [38:00] FOLLOW JENN WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2yamMfO PODCAST: https://bit.ly/2RlLWkr INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2vMSqkD
Former Access Hollywood reporter and founder of Hybrid House Productions, Alex Hudgens, sits down with Lisa to discuss why you can’t let fear run your life. Make sure you subscribe for new episodes every Wednesday! SHOW NOTES Taking the risk of moving to Hollywood from a small town [1:48] What’s the worst that can happen? [3:16] Introvert vs Extrovert: Where do you draw energy from? [4:08] Everything is a choice you have to make [5:31] Fake it till you make it [6:45] Be active and present in finding the joy in what you’re doing [10:54] What’s the best that can happen? [12:25] Setting your goals to the highest level [13:19] Not letting fear run your life [14:22] Look for excitement and what feels right [18:04] Training your subconscious to trust yourself [21:13] Holding yourself accountable to setting goals [23:04] Balance your choices in service of your vision [25:54] Choose your version of joy [30:32] Giving your all instead of living with “what if?" [32:14] Pulling out the superpower in others [33:37] FOLLOW ALEX HUDGENS WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2Q9VVrF INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2xQfKg9
Tobie Gonzalez joins Lisa to discuss why past trauma doesn’t define your future, the importance of taking care of the next generation, and how to not live in the shadow of your partner. SHOW NOTES Tobie’s story [2:00] Why we perceive the same things differently [3:37] Past trauma shapes who you are [[4:41] Ways to overcome your fears [6:45] You can control your brain [8:26] Effective parenting strategies [9:00] Impacting the lives of thousands of children [10:32] Having difficult conversations with your kids [13:10] Teaching your kids the right values [14:23] Falling in love with Tony Gonzalez [16:27] Finding your place in a relationship [18:00] Why it's important to speak your mind [19:44] Surprise people with your identity [21:22] Why being resilient makes you stronger [22:53] What is your definition of love? [24:10] Freeing yourself from toxic relationships [25:03] Finding the right partner for yourself [28:14] Why it’s important to be independently codependent [30:00] Every relationship is uniquely beautiful [32: 42] Having an alter ego can be beneficial [33:30] Finding joy in every moment [36:51] DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins: https://amzn.to/2pfJChP Shadow Buddies: https://bit.ly/2MHNVvR Baby2Baby: https://bit.ly/1y6BQ9s FOLLOW TOBIE GONZALEZ: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2NiDR1A
Business coach and lifestyle entrepreneur, Amanda Bucci, sits down to chat with Lisa about changing paths to build the life you’re dreaming of. SUBSCRIBE for new episodes every Wednesday! SHOW NOTES How to deal with identity crisis [02:12] Why it’s important to step outside your comfort zone [03:30] Why "being different" is the right path to take [04:48] The fear of what other people will think [06:34] Why you need to take risks [09:14] Getting over imposter syndrome by becoming the ‘expert' [11:00] Taking it step by step [13:10] Be a learner, not a perfectionist [15:05] Being your own person [17:50] You and your thoughts are separate entities [19:12] How to not let fear dictate your life [20:57] Dealing with haters [22:36] Believing in yourself [25:36] Why having a growth mindset is everything [28:19] Experiencing the extremes [30:37] Facing your fears head on[32:54] Being unapologetic is key [34:05] Embracing your authentic self [36:02] Short term happiness vs long term happiness [39:08] Connecting with others at a deeper level [43:30] DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks: https://amzn.to/2x4WL0M Brain Over Binge by Kathryn Hansen: https://amzn.to/2oTYyCi Enneagram Personality Test: https://tests.enneagraminstitute.com/ Unapologetic video: https://youtu.be/k5PL5CrwfQs FOLLOW AMANDA BUCCI WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2x4gdL5 YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2avkFLG PODCAST: https://apple.co/2CEa9yQ INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2x32ViL FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2CIIsFo
In this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa is joined by the host of the iTunes top-rated podcast Sex with Emily, Emily Morse. They discuss Emily’s journey from politics to hosting a podcast about sex, why we should talk about sex more, and how to transfer confidence from one area of your life into another. SUBSCRIBE for new episodes every Wednesday! SHOW NOTES Pursuing your passion [2:05] What it takes to go after your dreams [4:15]Changing your life path [6:53] Why talking about “sex” is imperative [10:00]Sex should not be personal [12:54] Why owning your sexuality makes you confident [15:00] Loving your body [16:24]How to turn suffering into passion [17:21]Why it’s okay to not have kids [19:42] Communication is key to a good relationship [23:13]Don’t let your relationship stagnate [25:03] Talking about sex with your partner [26:19] Why men and women function differently [28:08] What works for you as a couple? [30:53] Never stop growing [32:25]There is no such thing as being perfect [34:48]Take time to give yourself credit [36:41]How to deal with negative thoughts [39:06] FOLLOW EMILY MORSE: PODCAST: https://apple.co/2CrcTPY WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/1uwtdVs INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2wEL7uf FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2PE4RVP YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2wHo6pA FOLLOW WOMEN OF IMPACT: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2wD7QGh FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28
In the pilot of episode of Women of Impact, Cassey Ho of Blogilates sits down with Lisa Bilyeu to discuss the nuances of friendship and why they ended The Sheroic Podcast. SUBSCRIBE for new episodes every Wednesday! SHOW NOTES Mixing business with friendship [2:39] Why Cassey and Lisa stopped Sheroic [4:10] Why it’s important to prioritize your friendship [6:36] Your friendship dynamic is bound to change [7:35] Why it’s okay to let go of a friendship [8:33] Embracing emotions is empowering [10:56] Give what you get [12:39] Accepting people the way they are [14:05] What value does your friend add to your life? [15:47] Having difficult conversations [16:38] What it means to have a “genuine” friendship [19:14] How to deal with jealousy [22:20] Hot to not let negativity get in the way of your friendship [25:27] Share your success and milestones [28:30] Downplaying yourself can be detrimental [33:30] Being assertive is necessary [36:06] Defining your friendship [38:46] FOLLOW CASSEY HO: YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/1iEUAY7 INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PE5JtA FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/1xvarwz WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2LYLrsn FOLLOW WOMEN OF IMPACT: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28
Roshni Devlukia of @veggieveganveda sits down with Lisa to discuss how to cultivate self-love, why you need it, and the importance of breaking down your fears. SUBSCRIBE for new episodes every Wednesday! SHOW NOTES Emotional struggles of growing up overweight [01:55] Why basing your self-worth on external validation never works [04:49] How to develop a relationship with yourself [05:49] Why self-criticism isn’t always healthy [08:00] Tactical steps to changing your perspective [09:38] Balancing self-doubt and self-trust [13:17] Why we focus on physical appearance over internal strength [15:34] Stop hiding your emotions [17:11] How to embrace your emotions without being overly-emotional [18:07] Why having a safety net is ok [26:38] Learning to spend time with yourself [28:27] Recognizing and changing your negative qualities through observation [30:12] How to break down your fears [32:30] Developing the courage to step out of your comfort zone [34:28] The differences between men and women in the workplace [36:00] FOLLOW ROSHNI DEVLUKIA: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2wJwhCN FOLLOW WOMEN OF IMPACT: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2wD7QGh FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28
Coming September 5th. FOLLOW WOMEN OF IMPACT: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28