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Manufactured weakness is the kind of limitation that isn’t inherited or imposed—but created.It’s the result of avoiding growth, rejecting responsibility, normalizing dysfunction, or surrounding yourself with standards low enough to never confront your potential. It’s weakness by design. Not because you couldn’t be strong—but because you’ve repeatedly chosen comfort over courage, survival over truth, and habits that serve emotions over values. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: 📩 Email: info@katehastingspodcast.com 📱 Instagram: Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: koakes@missionmedus.com 📲 Instagram: Coach Kate for 10% off
If you’re still complaining, you’re not processing—you’re practicing. If you’re still playing the victim, you’re not stuck—you’re staying. Let that land. This episode is a wake-up call for anyone who's been running the same emotional loop, telling the same story, and calling it healing. The truth? Most people don’t need more time—they need more ownership. What looks like “processing” is often just avoidance in disguise. What feels like “overwhelm” is usually a lack of leadership—internal and external. This isn’t about dismissing your pain. It’s about refusing to let it become your identity. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: 📩 Email: info@katehastingspodcast.com 📱 Instagram: Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: koakes@missionmedus.com 📲 Instagram: Coach Kate for 10% off
Most people don’t fail because they lack vision. They fail because they never trained themselves to execute when the hype wears off. Clarity is cheap. Discipline is rare. The gap between what you say you want and what you actually follow through on is where most people stay stuck. Not because they can’t—but because they’re still negotiating with distraction, perfection, or public opinion. Vision doesn’t need more excitement. It needs a system that holds when motivation drops off. The people who finish aren’t the ones who feel the most—it’s the ones who move with precision, especially when no one’s watching. If you can’t execute in silence, you’ll never hold the weight of what you say you want. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: 📩 Email: info@katehastingspodcast.com 📱 Instagram: Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: koakes@missionmedus.com 📲 Instagram: Coach Kate for 10% off
You don’t just end up in a dark place—you’re slowly trained into it. Conditioned by chaos, shaped by trauma, and wired for survival. In this episode, I’m breaking down what actually pulls us into darkness—and how to get out. We’ll talk about the nervous system, trauma identity, shame, and why pain becomes familiar—even addictive. I share the deeper psychology behind survival mode, and walk you through how to start reconditioning your life for safety, stability, and truth. You’ll hear parts of my own story: growing up with a father struggling with addiction and mental illness, developing an eating disorder as a child, staying in abusive relationships that mirrored the instability I was raised in—and what it really looked like to break free. This isn’t just a story of struggle; it’s a roadmap for healing. If you’re tired of performing strength, clinging to control, or confusing survival with purpose, this episode will show you what it takes to release the old, reclaim your identity, and rise. You’re not broken—you were trained by pain. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: 📩 Email: info@katehastingspodcast.com 📱 Instagram: Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: koakes@missionmedus.com 📲 Instagram: Coach Kate for 10% off
If you don’t know what you value, discipline will always feel like a grind. In this episode, we’re unpacking the deeper structure behind why most people can’t stay consistent—because they’re trying to build discipline without a foundation. Everything starts with your values. What you value shapes what you believe. And what you believe creates the need to protect it—through boundaries. Once you have clear boundaries, you can set strong standards. Those standards help you prioritize what actually matters. And when your priorities are aligned with your values, consistency becomes natural—not forced. That consistency is what reinforces identity, and identity is what makes discipline sustainable. This isn’t about hacks or hustle—it’s about building a life that runs on alignment, not anxiety. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: 📩 Email: info@katehastingspodcast.com 📱 Instagram: Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: koakes@missionmedus.com 📲 Instagram: Coach Kate for 10% off
I spent years showing up for everyone but me. Keeping promises to other people. Breaking the ones I made to myself. This episode is about the truth behind that pattern—where it comes from, why we call self-abandonment “loyalty,” and how to finally cut it at the root. I break down the difference between discipline and punishment, how boundaries start with values, and why healing has to lead to something bigger than just you. Because if your growth never leaves the journal, and your “self-work” becomes your full identity—you’re not free. This is about coming home to yourself, living with integrity, and treating yourself like someone who actually matters. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: 📩 Email: 📱 Instagram: Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: 📲 Instagram: Coach Kate for 10% off
In this episode, I break down why your wins aren’t sticking, your losses feel personal, and your emotions keep running the show. I share what used to drive me—chasing achievement highs, punishing myself for every misstep, and confusing shame with discipline. It worked—until it didn’t. I walk through the actual definition of debriefing, why it’s backed by neuroscience and performance psychology, and how to use it as a tool to stop repeating emotional patterns. You’ll learn how to reflect on losses without spiraling, how to break down wins so they become repeatable, and how to process emotions so they stop owning you. This is about setting standards, pulling out one small shift, and finally leading yourself like a pro.
You don’t live what you know—you live what you believe, and if your body doesn’t feel safe with the truth, it’ll keep choosing what’s familiar, even if it’s toxic. I used to say I wanted real love, but I kept choosing chaos, not because I didn’t know better, but because I hadn’t healed enough to believe I was worthy of better. The gap between knowing and believing is where sabotage lives—because belief isn’t built on facts, it’s built on repetition, safety, and identity. Integration is when your thoughts, emotions, and actions finally agree—when you stop proving your worth and start embodying it. So ask yourself: where are you living out a lie you no longer agree with—and what would change if you started acting like the truth was already yours? Kate Hastings/Mental Health Coach Phenyx.fit
This episode is a wake-up call. We’re not losing because we’re incapable—we’re losing because we’re skipping the basics. Everyone’s chasing hacks, aesthetics, and highlight reels, but nobody’s mastering the stuff that actually builds a life. Today, I break down what it really means to simplify, to show up with discipline, and to stop outsourcing your power to motivation or convenience. I talk about why consistency beats intensity, why your excuses are just polished versions of avoidance, and how getting back to your standards will save you from the spiral. This is about routines, not rewards. Systems, not hype. It’s not sexy—but it’s what works. If your life feels off track, this episode will pull you back to center. This isn’t just about getting better—it’s about getting honest. If you want to build a life you’re proud of, it starts here. Not with more noise, but with a return to the fundamentals. Listen in, take notes, and then apply it—because mastering the basics is what separates the ones who talk from the ones who lead. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach https://missionmedus.com
You build confidence by showing up when it’s boring—and sticking around when it’s hard. You love the process by trusting what it’s building in you. Not everything has to feel exciting to be worth doing. Most people chase the high—they want passion, results, applause. But real growth? Real self-respect? That comes from doing the reps when no one’s watching. You fall in love with the process when you stop needing it to feel good and start being proud that you didn’t quit. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
Unrealistic expectations are rarely random—they're often rooted in early experiences where love, attention, or safety were earned rather than freely given. As children, we absorb the unspoken rules of approval: be perfect, achieve more, don’t mess up. These rules become internalized standards we carry into adulthood, showing up in our careers, relationships, and personal goals. We think we’re aiming high, being disciplined, or pushing for excellence—but what we’re actually doing is reenacting a belief system where worth must be proven. This pressure creates a dangerous cycle: impossible standards lead to inevitable “failure,” which leads to internalized shame and dwindling confidence. This is the subtle art of self-sabotage. It doesn’t always look like destruction—it often looks like drive. You set the bar just out of reach, and when you can’t meet it, you turn inward and question your value. The loop is brutal: you fail to hit a mark that was never realistic, and instead of questioning the standard, you question yourself. The high-achieving mask stays on, but underneath is exhaustion, burnout, and a growing disconnect from your authentic self. You don’t feel proud—you feel pressured. You don’t feel accomplished—you feel behind. And it’s all rooted in the illusion that more achievement will finally fix the feeling of not being enough. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach https://missionmedus.com
Behind every high achiever lies a story most people never see—a narrative woven from unprocessed trauma and relentless pursuit. For years, I was fueled by a dark motivation: a survival instinct honed by childhood wounds that pushed me to perform, to prove, and to control every aspect of my life. I tracked every calorie, trained until exhaustion, and rebranded my eating disorder as discipline and wellness. On the surface, I had it all together. But beneath that polished exterior, I wasn’t thriving—I was merely performing. I wasn’t grounded; I was surviving. I realized that the fuel I was using—pain, fear, and the need to prove my worth—was slowly killing me. That dark drive, while it carried me through countless challenges, never allowed me to rest. It kept me in a constant state of chase, a relentless cycle of proving that I was enough, even when deep down I felt anything but. I had mistaken destruction for transformation, chaos for clarity, and performance for true growth. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
Discipline wasn’t saving me. It was silently destroying me. Have you ever been praised for how hard you push—while breaking inside? I used to be the woman who “had it all together.” Disciplined. Reliable. High-performing. But under the surface? I was a storm in a perfectly tailored outfit. I never missed a workout—even when I was sick. I tracked every calorie like my life depended on it. I said yes when I meant no. I showed up for others when I was falling apart. I confused exhaustion with impact. I called obsession “excellence.” But what I didn’t know was this: My “discipline” was a trauma response. My “drive” was dysregulation. My “success” was self-abandonment in disguise. I didn’t believe I was allowed to rest. Because deep down, I didn’t believe I was worthy unless I earned it. Society clapped for my grind. But I was building a life on the edge of a breakdown. Let’s stop glorifying the grind that’s killing us. Redefine discipline. Not as destruction—but as devotion. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
I know what it’s like to feel trapped—in your body, your mind, and the patterns you don’t know how to escape. For years, I chased extremes—bingeing, purging, over-exercising, partying—searching for control, validation, and worth. But what I didn’t realize was that food, fitness, and discipline weren’t the real problem. They were just symptoms of a deeper wound. This podcast is about breaking free—from self-sabotage, destructive habits, and the false beliefs that keep us small. Through raw storytelling, deep insights, and conversations that challenge everything you think you know, I’m here to help you heal at the root. If you’re ready to stop just surviving and start leading—this is for you. Listen on Apple Podcasts & Spotify. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
The Reality of Emotional Numbness Most people don’t even realize they’re in it until someone puts it into words. You wake up, go through the motions, handle responsibilities, maybe even accomplish big things, but inside, there’s nothing. No spark, no deep emotion. The things that used to excite you don’t anymore, and the things that should hurt barely register. You laugh, but it’s hollow. You succeed, but it feels empty. Life happens, but you’re watching from a distance. It’s not just exhaustion or a rough patch—it’s emotional shutdown. It happens slowly, the result of years spent suppressing emotions, avoiding pain, and pushing forward without processing life. At first, it feels like self-preservation, but over time, it costs you your ability to truly feel. The truth is, emotional numbness doesn’t just happen. It’s a survival response. Maybe it started with unresolved pain—childhood trauma, heartbreak, rejection, or loss—where shutting down felt safer than feeling everything. Maybe you’ve spent years in survival mode, constantly overwhelmed by stress, pressure, or responsibility, and your nervous system adapted by numbing out. Or maybe you’ve lost yourself entirely, molding your identity to meet expectations, suppressing your real thoughts and emotions until the version of you that exists isn’t even real anymore. Eventually, you don’t just numb the pain—you numb everything. If this resonates, listen to Episode 245 of The Kate Hastings Podcast on Apple iTunes and Spotify. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach https://missionmedus.com
What if I told you that every time you allow someone to cross your boundaries, you’re teaching them that it’s okay to disrespect you? Think about it. That friend who constantly asks for favors but never shows up for you. The coworker who dumps extra work on your plate, knowing you won’t say no. The relationship that drains you because you’re always the one compromising. Hard Truth: This isn’t about them—it’s about YOU. Because people will always push as far as you let them. But today? That changes. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
Ever catch yourself over-explaining or justifying your decisions? Welcome to The Kate Hastings Podcast, where I break down the truth about rejection, abandonment, and judgment—without the fluff. I dive into why we feel the need to explain ourselves, how to break the habit, and what it takes to speak with confidence and authority. Expect raw insights, practical strategies, and direct coaching to help you stop seeking approval and start standing in your power. It’s time to own your voice and speak unapologetically. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach Mission Med Plus
Comparison is a thief. It steals your joy, your confidence, your momentum. It convinces you that you’re behind, that you’re missing something, that your worth is measured against someone else’s success. But here’s the truth: you’re on your own path. You are not behind. You are not lacking. The second you stop looking sideways and start focusing on your mission, you take back your power. Every moment spent comparing is a moment wasted. The people you envy? They have struggles too. The ones winning? They’re too busy working to waste time worrying about someone else’s progress. Winners don’t compare, they execute.So ask yourself—what if today was the day you stopped waiting for permission and started living like the person you were meant to be? One day, you’ll wish you had started sooner. So don’t waste another second. No more watching. No more measuring. No more waiting. The world doesn’t need another version of someone else—it needs you, fully owning who you are. So go. Build. Become. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach https://missionmedus.com
Failure doesn’t happen overnight—it creeps in when you justify excuses, tolerate low standards, and let hesitation win. Success isn’t talent, luck, or motivation—it’s discipline, execution, and refusing to negotiate with weakness. If you don’t control your time, distractions will. If you don’t audit your environment, mediocrity will feel normal. The people who win aren’t the ones who feel ready; they’re the ones who move anyway, track their progress, and outwork their old selves daily. Every decision either starves failure or feeds it—there is no neutral. Half-effort guarantees failure a front-row seat, but full execution suffocates it before it takes root. So ask yourself: Are you feeding success, or are you feeding failure? Because at the end of the day, you don’t get what you want—you get what you demand. Now move. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
Standards, values and boundaries on their own, are just ideas. They don’t define you—your actions do. Saying you value discipline, honesty, or respect is meaningless unless you have the structure to back it up. That structure comes from principles, standards, and boundaries. Principles are the internal rules that guide your decisions, especially when motivation fades or external pressure builds. Standards are the actions that prove your values in real life, holding you accountable to what you claim to stand for. Boundaries protect those standards, ensuring that distractions, people, or excuses don’t pull you off course. Take discipline as an example. If you say you value discipline, then your principle might be: “I do what needs to be done, no matter how I feel.” Your standard would be showing up, training, working, and executing, even when you’re tired or uninspired. Your boundary would be refusing to let external distractions—social events, late nights, negativity—interfere with your set priorities. Most people claim to have values, but their actions tell a different story. The real question is: Are you proving yours? Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
Every single interaction you have sends a message about how you expect to be treated. Whether you realize it or not, you’re always teaching people how to treat you. People will only treat you the way you allow them to. Boundaries aren’t just something you set—they’re the blueprint for how people engage with you. Every interaction is a lesson in what you accept, what you challenge, and what you refuse to tolerate. If you tolerate mistreatment, disrespect, or inconsistency, guess what? You just taught them that it’s okay. Silence is dangerous—if you don’t speak up, you’re sending the message that you’re fine with whatever’s happening. People will push as far as you let them, and if you’re inconsistent with your standards, they’ll test those limits over and over again. Self-respect is the foundation—if you don’t respect yourself, don’t expect anyone else to either. Saying “no” but giving in teaches people your boundaries are flexible, and once they see a crack, they’ll keep pushing. The way you handle conflict tells people exactly how far they can go with you. At the end of the day, you don’t demand respect—you show people how to give it by what you tolerate, what you walk away from, and how you hold the line. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
Trauma often leaves us feeling broken, disconnected, and stuck in the patterns it creates. But what if, instead of letting it hold us back, we could turn those experiences into our greatest strengths? Healing isn’t just about survival; it’s about uncovering the gifts hidden in the pain. When we heal, trauma can become a source of incredible power, clarity, and purpose. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
The Hard Truth: Success Isn’t Comfortable If you’re chasing comfort, you’re not chasing success. Success doesn’t live in ease or convenience—it’s forged in discomfort, sacrifice, and persistence. It’s not about fleeting motivation or luck; it’s about showing up every day, doing the work, and embracing the struggle. True success doesn’t come from a single trait or effort. It’s built on the interconnection of resilience, discipline, and courage. These three traits don’t stand alone—they form a powerful feedback loop where each one fuels and strengthens the others. Together, they create the foundation for meaningful, lasting growth and achievement. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
This episode explores the freedom that comes from letting go of the need for approval and embracing who you truly are. Discover why so many people feel trapped by others’ opinions, the toll it takes on your mental and emotional well-being, and why it’s a race you’ll never win. Learn practical steps to break free from people-pleasing, set boundaries, and live in alignment with your values. By focusing on authenticity and self-respect, you’ll gain the courage to stop chasing validation and start living boldly. This is your guide to reclaiming your power and living a life that’s truly your own. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
Life can feel like a constant ride on emotional waves, from soaring highs to crashing lows. In this week’s solo episode of "Beyond the Highs and Lows: Embracing Neutrality for Resilience and Growth," I share my personal insights on how to step off this rollercoaster and into a space of calm, centered strength. Neutrality isn’t about suppressing emotions or being indifferent—it’s about cultivating the flexibility and resilience to respond to life with clarity and purpose, no matter what comes your way. In this episode, I’ll walk you through practical strategies for developing emotional adaptability, managing your nervous system, and reframing how you approach challenges. This isn’t just about surviving the ups and downs—it’s about thriving in the in-between. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the chaos of extremes, this episode is your guide to finding steadiness and empowerment through neutrality. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
Plateaus, those moments when progress stalls and frustration sets in, are not roadblocks but opportunities for growth. They force us to reflect, recalibrate, and prepare for the next level. Growth isn’t linear—it’s a cycle of effort and renewal. By embracing plateaus as a natural part of the process, we can transform them into powerful tools for transformation. Often, plateaus arise from two key factors: complacency and burnout. Success can lead us to settle into a comfort zone, avoiding the discomfort needed for further growth. On the other hand, relentless effort without rest can drain motivation and focus. Balance is key—recovery isn’t weakness; it’s the fuel that drives sustained progress. Breaking through a plateau requires a shift in mindset. It’s often internal fears or self-doubt, not lack of ability, that hold us back. Developing self-awareness through journaling and reframing limiting beliefs can help. By addressing these mental roadblocks, you open the door to new possibilities and a renewed sense of purpose. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
What does it mean to be a competent human being? Competence is about your ability to handle life’s challenges effectively by building the skills, habits, and mindset you need—it’s not about being perfect or naturally talented. It’s about showing up, learning from mistakes, and growing through action. True confidence comes from competence; it’s the quiet belief that you can handle what life throws at you because you’ve proven it to yourself. Competent people take responsibility, adapt to change, and stay grounded under pressure. They’re disciplined, resilient, and willing to keep showing up, even when it’s hard. It’s not about having it all figured out—it’s about knowing you can keep moving forward. Start small, stay consistent, and remember that the journey to competence is what makes you stronger. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
Discipline isn’t just action—it’s purposeful, meaningful action. Without a clear "why" tied to your core beliefs, values, and human needs, discipline becomes hollow, aimless, and unsustainable. True discipline has roots. It’s about alignment—anchoring your actions in what truly matters to you. Your values shape your standards, your standards establish your boundaries, and your boundaries foster habits that align with both your aspirations and fundamental human needs. These habits drive consistent action, creating results that resonate deeply with your sense of purpose and fulfillment. That entire chain of command reinforces the identity of someone who is disciplined. It’s not just a skill set; leadership isn’t just logic. It requires an emotional connection to purpose and people. It’s a way of life—it’s who you are. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
In a world where external validation feels like currency, it’s easy to tether your worth to fleeting approval, losing sight of who you truly are. Rejecting parts of yourself—your shadow, shame, or unowned truths—allows external forces to dictate your value, leaving you stuck in a relentless cycle of seeking and self-rejection. When your sense of self is tied to what others think, you sacrifice authenticity, living for their approval instead of your own purpose. This creates a disconnect from your true identity and keeps you trapped in behaviors like people-pleasing and perfectionism, which drain your energy and erode your confidence. True freedom begins with embracing internal validation, taking ownership of every part of yourself, and living in alignment with your values—creating a foundation of worth that no external force can shake. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach https://missionmedus.com
The Framework for Effective Leadership emphasizes six core principles: clarity, connection, consistency, courage, communication, and commitment. Leaders must provide a clear vision and direction while fostering strong emotional connections within their teams. Consistency in actions and communication helps establish trust, while courage enables leaders to make tough decisions and face challenges. Effective communication ensures alignment and understanding, and commitment to the team's well-being inspires dedication from all members. Together, these elements create a balanced and impactful leadership approach that drives success and growth. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach https://missionmedus.com
Resilience and resistance impact the development of discipline in powerful ways. Resilience requires us to face emotions openly, which strengthens our ability to handle stress and adapt to challenges. However, when we resist or suppress emotions, we prevent resilience from fully forming, which in turn hinders discipline. This is because discipline relies on emotional stability—being able to stay focused, committed, and consistent even when we face discomfort. Resistance disrupts this stability, causing us to react impulsively instead of with intention. By processing emotions rather than resisting them, we build both resilience and the steady foundation that discipline requires, enabling us to act with purpose rather than being driven by unprocessed feelings. Resilience and resistance interact in complex ways when it comes to handling emotions. Resilience involves the ability to face and adapt to emotional challenges, building strength and flexibility over time. In contrast, resistance is the act of suppressing or avoiding emotions, which often makes them more intense and harder to manage. When we resist emotions, we block the growth of resilience, as unaddressed feelings can overwhelm us and disrupt our stability. Resilience and resistance impact the development of discipline in powerful ways. Resilience requires us to face emotions openly, which strengthens our ability to handle stress and adapt to challenges. However, when we resist or suppress emotions, we prevent resilience from fully forming, which in turn hinders discipline. This is because discipline relies on emotional stability—being able to stay focused, committed, and consistent even when we face discomfort. Resistance disrupts this stability, causing us to react impulsively instead of with intention. By processing emotions rather than resisting them, we build both resilience and the steady foundation that discipline requires, enabling us to act with purpose rather than being driven by unprocessed feelings. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach https://missionmedus.com
Resilience and resistance impact the development of discipline in powerful ways. Resilience requires us to face emotions openly, which strengthens our ability to handle stress and adapt to challenges. However, when we resist or suppress emotions, we prevent resilience from fully forming, which in turn hinders discipline. This is because discipline relies on emotional stability—being able to stay focused, committed, and consistent even when we face discomfort. Resistance disrupts this stability, causing us to react impulsively instead of with intention. By processing emotions rather than resisting them, we build both resilience and the steady foundation that discipline requires, enabling us to act with purpose rather than being driven by unprocessed feelings. Resilience and resistance interact in complex ways when it comes to handling emotions. Resilience involves the ability to face and adapt to emotional challenges, building strength and flexibility over time. In contrast, resistance is the act of suppressing or avoiding emotions, which often makes them more intense and harder to manage. When we resist emotions, we block the growth of resilience, as unaddressed feelings can overwhelm us and disrupt our stability. Resilience and resistance impact the development of discipline in powerful ways. Resilience requires us to face emotions openly, which strengthens our ability to handle stress and adapt to challenges. However, when we resist or suppress emotions, we prevent resilience from fully forming, which in turn hinders discipline. This is because discipline relies on emotional stability—being able to stay focused, committed, and consistent even when we face discomfort. Resistance disrupts this stability, causing us to react impulsively instead of with intention. By processing emotions rather than resisting them, we build both resilience and the steady foundation that discipline requires, enabling us to act with purpose rather than being driven by unprocessed feelings. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach https://missionmedus.com
Handling pressure is a skill that can be developed over time. By understanding why we feel overwhelmed, identifying unhelpful behaviors, and implementing small, consistent changes, we can build resilience to navigate life’s challenges more effectively. Remember, handling pressure doesn’t mean eliminating stress altogether—it means learning to respond to it in ways that allow us to grow, adapt, and thrive. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast @coachkate1 Mental Health Coach
Have you ever found yourself reacting in ways you don’t fully understand, like shutting down emotionally, avoiding difficult conversations, or feeling the need to constantly stay “on guard”? These responses often stem from past experiences that leave an impact we may not even realize. In this episode, I dive deep into the coping mechanisms we develop after trauma, and how these patterns are not just reactions—they’re survival tools that shaped how we view the world. These responses, like avoidance, hyper-independence, or people-pleasing, were once protective but can hold us back if they become automatic. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach
At the core of every boundary is self-respect. When we set boundaries, we’re reinforcing the belief that our time, energy, and emotions are valuable. At the core of every boundary is a strong connection to our values. Our values are the foundation that keeps us grounded, while boundaries create the structure that protects what we hold most important. Without boundaries, it’s easy for others’ actions, opinions, or demands to push us off balance, leaving us feeling drained and disconnected. Setting boundaries helps us stay grounded in our values, ensuring that the relationships we invest in reflect our core beliefs. By doing so, we protect our emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being, allowing us to give to others from a place of abundance rather than burnout. One of the biggest challenges to setting and maintaining boundaries is our own mindset. Often, fears such as rejection, people-pleasing, or the need for approval prevent us from standing firm. When we let our insecurities dictate our actions, we end up compromising our values and feeling disconnected from our true selves. Over time, this can lead to frustration, resentment, and emotional exhaustion. The truth is, by not setting clear boundaries, we limit our potential and give away our power to external forces, leaving us feeling unfulfilled. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach
Being a strong, confident woman means owning your power, voice, and choices. You don’t let others define your path or settle for less than what you deserve. When life offers you breadcrumbs, you don’t accept them. You’re here for more than the bare minimum—you know your worth and aren’t afraid to walk away from anything or anyone who doesn’t meet your standards. This isn’t about being unapproachable or tough—it’s about standing firm in your value and knowing you don’t need validation from others to feel fulfilled. You already carry that strength within you. You respect the balance of the masculine and feminine, knowing that both energies have their own power. You honor a man’s strength without compromising your own. True strength is found in balancing fearlessness with compassion, power with grace. You embrace your femininity while holding space for your vulnerability. A powerful woman stands secure in her worth, leads with love, and holds firm to her boundaries, knowing that resilience comes from within. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach
The times when you’re backed into a corner, forced to make a decision: Do you stand your ground, tap into your perseverance, grit, and adaptability? Or do you let fear and panic take over and run with it? Life doesn’t come with easy answers, but one thing that’s certain is that our character is revealed in the hardest of times. Whether it's a breakup, a personal loss, or facing two of the biggest hurricanes to hit Florida—I understand what that feels like. During those moments, you’re thrown into uncertainty, and you quickly realize that you need to learn how to navigate it. It’s not about avoiding the storm or pretending it isn’t happening. It’s about finding a way to remain calm inside, even when everything around you is chaotic. Because when your back is against the wall, you have two choices: Let fear paralyze you, or allow these moments to reveal just how strong you truly are. This is where perseverance and grit come into play. Perseverance isn’t about simply holding on; it’s actively choosing to stay focused and driven, even when everything feels like it’s pushing against you. It’s about grit—digging deep and finding that part of you that says, "I will not be broken by this." But what exactly is grit, and how does it differ from confidence? Confidence is the belief that you can do something—it’s that feeling that tells you, “Yes, I’ve got this. I have the skills, the experience, and the ability to handle this.” But grit, on the other hand, is what keeps you going when confidence starts to fade. It’s about staying committed to a goal even when the process gets hard, even when you don’t feel confident at all. Confidence helps you begin, but grit is what keeps you in the game when things get tough. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach
For much of my life, I lived in a warrior mindset. I was constantly in survival mode, always protecting myself from being hurt, being betrayed, or being taken advantage of. My identity was rooted in fear survival tactics, self-isolation, chasing external achievements, and proving wrong the people who told me I couldn’t do something. It’s like I needed that fight to feel alive, to feel like I had a purpose. When your whole identity is built around surviving, you end up putting on a mask to protect yourself. This mask hides who you really are, and it often looks like success or strength to the outside world. My achievements became this mask—on the surface, it looked like I was winning, but deep down, I was losing the real battle with myself. The mask is a way to shield yourself from getting hurt, rejected, or judged. Maybe you show the world a version of yourself that seems successful, like you’ve got it all together, when in reality, you’re struggling inside. The achievements or control you project to others might feel good temporarily, but they don’t reflect who you truly are. The problem with wearing this mask is that, over time, it becomes harder and harder to take it off. You lose touch with your real self, and it’s exhausting to keep pretending. On the outside, it looks like you're winning—getting the promotions, hitting the goals—but inside, it feels empty. The more you rely on this facade, the further you drift from the things that really matter to you: your values, your passions, and your true feelings. It becomes a battle within. You might be achieving success in the eyes of others, but if you're disconnected from who you really are, it doesn't feel fulfilling. The mask may have helped you survive tough situations, but eventually, it keeps you from experiencing true peace, joy, or connection. You’re fighting to keep up appearances, but the real fight is with yourself. The only way to truly win is to take off the mask and reconnect with your authentic self. It’s about letting go of the need to prove yourself or protect yourself all the time. When you stop relying on the facade and start living as who you truly are, that’s when you find real peace and fulfillment—not just on the outside, but inside too. Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach
We all know what to do—wake up early, eat healthy, hit the gym, set goals—but why is it so hard to stay consistent? The truth is, it’s not just about knowing what to do, it’s about who you become through discipline. Willpower gets you started, but it’s short-lived. It’s the quick burst of energy you use to resist temptation or push through discomfort. Discipline is the long-term muscle you build. It’s what keeps you going when motivation fades. It’s about aligning your actions with your values and building sustainable habits that lead to real growth. The magic happens when you close the gap between where you are now and where you want to be. Discipline rewires your nervous system, stabilizes your emotions, and allows you to lead yourself with confidence. Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach
Often, we don’t realize how much our words matter. The way we speak to ourselves, how we speak to others, how we speak into our future—our promises, commitments, and daily conversations—all make up our word. Without language, who are we? This isn’t just about keeping promises. It’s deeper. It’s about how you show up in the world, how your integrity shapes your character, and how your word defines your reality. When you honor your word, you build a life of authenticity and power. Authenticity means being true to who you really are, even when it’s hard or unpopular.Character is the habits, choices, and morals that make you who you are. Integrity is staying true to your principles, even when no one is watching, and always choosing to do what’s right, even when it’s tough. _________________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website: Discover the benefits of Mission Med+ today and take the first step towards a healthier you!
In a world that constantly promotes instant gratification and success, many of us find ourselves chasing happiness. Whether it’s through career achievements, material possessions, or social approval, we’ve been conditioned to believe that happiness is the ultimate goal. But here’s the thing—happiness is fleeting. It comes and goes based on external circumstances. That’s why we often feel like we need to keep reaching for the next thing, never truly satisfied. The reason we chase happiness is that we confuse it with contentment. Happiness is an emotion, sparked by a particular event or accomplishment. On the other hand, contentment is a state of being, grounded in peace with where we are and what we have—without giving up the drive for growth. However, one of the fears of pursuing contentment is falling into complacency, the trap of becoming stagnant and losing the desire to push ourselves forward. But true contentment doesn’t mean giving up on ambition or settling. It means balancing gratitude for where you are while still striving for more. ___________________________________________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website: Discover the benefits of Mission Med+ today and take the first step towards a healthier you!
Focus, Discipline, and the Power of Choice We all have the same 24 hours in a day, but how we use that time varies depending on our priorities, responsibilities, and tasks ahead. Whether you're a CEO, parent, business owner, or juggling it all, your focus is the compass guiding your productivity. True focus isn’t passive; it’s an active, deliberate effort. It requires consistency, discipline, and a clear vision of your goals. In a world of constant distractions—emails, social media, and notifications—it’s easy to lose focus. But remember, scattered attention leads to diluted efforts, making even the most ambitious goals seem out of reach. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach ____________________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website: Discover the benefits of Mission Med+ today and take the first step towards a healthier you!
Success is often seen as the result of extraordinary efforts or dramatic changes, but the truth is that it's built on the foundation of consistency, not extremes. While extreme efforts may yield quick results, they are often unsustainable and can lead to burnout or failure in the long run. Consistency, on the other hand, is about showing up every day, putting in the work, and making steady progress. It's the small, daily actions that compound over time, leading to significant achievements. By focusing on consistency, you build habits, develop discipline, and create a solid framework that supports your long-term goals. Consistency also cultivates resilience and perseverance. When you rely on consistent effort rather than extreme measures, you become more adaptable and better equipped to handle setbacks. It allows you to maintain momentum even when the results aren't immediately visible. Success isn't about how intensely you work in short bursts; it's about how consistently you apply yourself over time. This steady, reliable approach not only ensures progress but also strengthens your character, making you more prepared for the challenges that come with achieving your goals. Phenyx Fit - Mental Health Coach ________________________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website: Discover the benefits of Mission Med+ today and take the first step towards a healthier you!
Courage is a learned skill—you’re not born with it. It’s like a muscle you build over time by exposing yourself, putting yourself out on a skinny branch, and pushing through tough situations. Courage doesn’t mean you’re fearless or delusional; it means you feel the fear and do it anyway. It’s about stepping up, even when you’re scared, because fear will always be a factor. Every time you face your fears and push through—or don’t—you’re reinforcing either your confidence or your weakness. You’re proving to yourself that you can handle whatever comes your way, and in doing so, you build trust, consistency, and discipline. And when you act with courage, others notice. Your courage lights the way for others. The more you practice courage, the braver you get. Facing challenges head-on builds resilience, grit, and confidence, so when life hits you hard, you’re ready to bounce back or handle the situation. Courage isn’t just about big, heroic acts. Sometimes, it’s as simple as speaking up, confronting a hard conversation, or not letting someone cut you in line when it’s easier to stay quiet and conform. You literally can’t grow without stepping out of your comfort zone. Taking risks and facing fears—that’s where real courage is born. Being courageous means being vulnerable. It’s putting yourself out there, exposing yourself to your fears willingly. Every single day, you have a choice. Will you act with courage, or will you let fear hold you back? Courage isn’t a one-time thing—it’s the small decisions you make over and over again. So, in reality, you will face pushback, be judged, or even be made fun of—embrace it. If you want a big life with big results, you need big courage. Get comfortable with those things, because they will happen. Failure isn’t an option for someone who chooses never to give up. **** Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website: Discover the benefits of Mission Med+ today and take the first step towards a healthier you!
We've all been there, trying to fit in or win someone’s approval, but when you live for the acceptance of others, you end up losing yourself in the process. I’ll dive into why we crave that approval and how it can turn into a trap that pulls us away from who we really are. We’ll chat about how our upbringing and life experiences—like childhood trauma or bullying—can shape this need to please others and how it can lead to living a life that’s not really ours. But it doesn’t have to be that way. I’ll share some thoughts on how to break free from people-pleasing and start living more authentically. If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in a cycle of seeking validation, this episode is for you. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach _________________________________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website: Discover the benefits of Mission Med+ today and take the first step towards a healthier you!
Have you ever wondered why you sometimes sabotage your own success and happiness? In this episode of "Overcoming Self-Sabotage & Control Issues," I explore the underlying fears and behaviors that might be holding you back. From procrastination and negative self-talk to perfectionism and imposter syndrome, we’ll uncover how your values, habits, and subconscious mind influence your actions and well-being. Self-sabotage can manifest in various ways, including behaviors that harm your mental health and relationships. These actions are often driven by deep-seated fears like fear of failure, success, the unknown, change, rejection, and not feeling good enough. I’ll share insights on how to identify and break these patterns. While control can offer a sense of predictability and stability, it can also limit your potential. In this episode, we’ll delve into the role of control in self-sabotage and discuss ways to shift towards empowerment and self-leadership. Tune in for practical tips to transform your mindset, overcome fear, and self-sabotage. ____________________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website: Discover the benefits of Mission Med+ today and take the first step towards a healthier you!
Your level of commitment defines you. Before building anything new, address what’s holding you back. Identify what you're currently committed to that's causing you to fail. You can't commit to something new while tied to the old. We can't build new discipline if we're disciplined in the wrong areas. Values need to be aligned correctly, and priorities must be set right. Commitment means sticking with your goals, values, and responsibilities even when things get tough. If you're not committed to yourself, you're committed to others, which is dangerous. You begin to live for others, mistaking busyness for progress. If what you’re doing isn’t yielding results related to your aim, you’re off the path. Being committed to yourself allows you to be committed to others and show up for them. Phenyx Fit Mental Health Coach _____________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website:
Starting at day one is something we all experience, but in today's society, we often forget that. With the constant influx of comparison and the paralysis of fear, it's easy to lose sight of the importance of beginning, especially when faced with fear, anxiety, and imposter syndrome. Fear is built into our biology to keep us alive and safe, but when it creeps into the wrong areas of our lives, it hinders us from taking action or putting ourselves out there. Many people look at day one expecting the final success chapter, but that’s not how life works. Often, people either have an oversized ego or an unhealthy one. An unhealthy ego is full of pride, fear, entitlement, and comfort. A healthy ego says, "I can achieve excellence, I can pursue greatness, and I am worthy of success no matter the cost." There is a cost and payoff to everything in life. The cost of not starting is an unlived life of fear, weakness, and unfulfilled potential. Potential is the capacity to develop into something in the future; qualities or abilities that may be developed and lead to future success or usefulness. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach _____________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website:
It took me years, but I am now confident in the things I'm not good at. When you don’t own your weaknesses, something else takes ownership over you. For 30 years, I believed I wasn’t smart, lovable, or worthy. I was strong in all the wrong areas, like people-pleasing, self-isolation, and suppressing emotions. These weaknesses tricked me into thinking I was a good person, but I was actually enabling harmful behaviors. Accepting my weaknesses as weaknesses was the turning point. I was a high-achieving, people-pleasing, co-dependent woman who thrived in chaos and pain. Pretending your weaknesses aren't there or masking them only weighs you down. It's hard not to live up to your potential because you're afraid to take the first step and look foolish. Reality check: we were all once beginners. I mess up all the time, especially with numbers and reading things backward. When we focus too much on our weaknesses, our strengths also become weak. My weaknesses no longer stop me because I own them. I learn, I grind it out, and I don’t harbor resentment or insecurity. Not taking action because of your weaknesses won't get you anywhere. You need to exercise taking action when you're afraid, and that means being courageous, authentic, and committed to something more. I built the strength to say no confidently by facing my fear daily. Over the years, I learned to love saying no because I have alignment, purpose, and confidence in my weaknesses. If you're paralyzed by fear, you'll find yourself in the same place a year from now, which is a major cause of depression and anxiety today. I continually work on tackling my weaknesses and say yes to moving forward despite fear. Embracing your weaknesses is about recognizing them, understanding their impact, and taking action to transform them into strengths. Every small step forward, even in the face of fear, is progress. True strength lies in owning every part of who you are. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach __________________________________________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website: Discover the benefits of Mission Med+ today and take the first step towards a healthier you!
Pain, whether physical, emotional, or psychological, often leaves deep wounds that can shape our lives in significant ways. However, these wounds can also become sources of immense strength and insight. Healing isn't easy, and it takes a lot of strength—the right kind of strength. I used to be strong in all the wrong ways, tolerating abuse and being a people-pleaser. True strength comes from being authentic and courageous. In this episode, I'll talk about the importance of recognizing our wounds and how they shape our identities. It's about letting go of survival tactics and becoming our true selves in order to shift that into wisdom. I know that many people get stuck on their healing journey because of fear and old habits. "Transforming Pain: Wounds into Wisdom" is here to help you break free from those patterns. I'll share stories, insights, and practical tips to help you embrace your pain and turn it into wisdom. Phenyx Fit | Kate Hastings Podcast | Mental Health Coach | WEBSITE: ___________________________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: • Dr. Kristen Oakes • Phone: 305-748-2517 • Instagram: @missionmed.plus • Website: Discover the benefits of Mission Med+ today and take the first step towards a healthier you!
rue discipline is rooted in consistency and flexibility. Life is unpredictable, and when I am rigid in my thinking, behavior, and emotions, I stifle my growth. Adapting to new circumstances, scaling down when needed, and changing my approach are crucial for maintaining discipline. I focus on setting realistic, manageable goals that allow for consistent progress. I aim low, hit it, and keep building. This approach has taught me to view setbacks as feedback rather than failures. Great things aren't built overnight; they take time and adaptability. High expectations on an inflexible foundation will always crumble. My journey has been about learning to adapt to cope and ultimately thrive. I used to adapt to abuse, high stress, and what others expected of me, leading to burnout and self-sabotage. Now, I teach the importance of adaptability for mental health and sustainable success. It's about adjusting to the right things and avoiding black-and-white thinking. As Max McKeown said, "Adaptability is about the powerful difference between adapting to cope and adapting to win. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach _____________________________________________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website: Discover the benefits of Mission Med+ today and take the first step towards a healthier you!
Wounded feminine energy can show up as feeling like a victim, experiencing powerlessness, or perceiving yourself as weak. It may involve manipulation, being guarded, withholding affection, and displaying neediness. Shame and a sense of never being enough can drive you to overdo things, constantly striving to prove your worth. This wounded energy can lead to over-sensitivity, difficulty regulating emotions, and a toxic ego, making you aggressive, combative, and overly opinionated. Understanding the natural energies within us is essential. Feminine energy is about receiving and being, while masculine energy is about doing and acting. Recognizing and balancing these traits is the first step toward healing and embracing a healthier, more empowered self. It's important to balance masculine and feminine energies, knowing when to be assertive and when to be nurturing. True femininity starts from within. It’s a mindset, a way of being, and an outlook on life. It begins with how you treat, love, support, and connect with yourself, and then it shines outward in your interactions. It’s about being playful, empathetic, and compassionate, showing diligence and trustworthiness, and blending empathy, nurturing, and intuition. A feminine woman values compassion, teamwork, and kindness, bringing a balanced, peaceful, and joyful approach to life. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach _____________________________________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website: Discover the benefits of Mission Med+ today and take the first step towards a healthier you!
In this episode, I dive into the nitty-gritty of self-trust, which is so crucial for personal growth and well-being. Trusting yourself means having confidence in your abilities, judgments, and decisions. But let's be real, why is it often so tough to trust ourselves? What behaviors are secretly undermining our confidence and integrity? I’ll unpack the foundations of self-trust, like self-reliance, self-integrity, self-honesty, self-compassion, and self-confidence. These are the building blocks that help you trust yourself more deeply. I'll get into the common culprits that destroy self-trust: self-sabotage, perfectionism, seeking external validation, neglecting self-care, negative self-talk, and ignoring your intuition. These behaviors can really erode your sense of self-worth and make it hard to trust your own judgment. I'll also touch on factors that influence self-trust, such as fear of failure or rejection, low self-esteem, and past trauma. These issues can create barriers that make trusting yourself feel like a daunting task. To help you rebuild self-trust, I’ll share practical strategies like practicing self-awareness and reflection, setting realistic goals, staying consistent in your actions, using positive self-talk, setting boundaries, seeking therapy, developing accountability practices, fostering a growth mindset, and integrating gratitude into your daily routine. This episode is all about empowering you to take actionable steps toward a more authentic and fulfilling life. ______________________________________________________________________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an exclusive offer: get $100 off your first month, plus free shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is simple—reach out via call or text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and their dedicated team will handle everything for you! Contact Information: Dr. Kristen Oakes Phone: 305-748-2517 Instagram: @missionmed.plus Website: Discover the benefits of Mission Med+ today and take the first step towards a healthier you!
Jealousy is a rollercoaster of feelings; it's a complex emotion—suspicion, fear, anger, bitterness, resentment, you name it. But at its heart, it’s about something we want or feel we’re missing. It's a fear of abandonment rooted in lack and low self-esteem. It’s a signal that there’s an unmet need or desire in our lives. We often block these feelings with fear and comparisons, feeling like we don't measure up. Whether it's comparing ourselves to someone else’s success or feeling envious in relationships, jealousy can pop up everywhere. It’s often tied to feeling insecure or not good enough. But here’s the good thing about jealousy: it can be a clue that points us toward our true desires and dreams. In this podcast, I will talk about how jealousy shows up in different parts of our lives—from sibling rivalries to work competition to romantic relationships. I'll dive into how it’s connected to feelings of lack, grief, and low self-esteem. And I'll look at how these feelings can make us feel anxious, emotionally self-sabotage, or feel resentful toward others. I'll also talk about how to cope differently and treat jealousy with more compassion and love. So, if you’re ready to get real about jealousy and learn how to turn it into a stepping stone for personal growth, join me on "Understanding and Healing Jealousy." Let's turn those tough feelings into something that drives you forward. ________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
Welcome to "Pacing Your Healing: A Marathon, Not a Sprint," a podcast dedicated to those on their healing journey. Healing is a gradual process that requires patience, grace, and self-compassion. This podcast offers insights on navigating the path to recovery, addressing emotional dysregulation, negative self-concept, and hypervigilance. Reflecting on my own journey, I realized the importance of pacing yourself. Many, including myself, bring an all-or-nothing mentality to healing, setting unrealistic expectations and being hard on ourselves for setbacks. Imagine running a race for 30 years and reaching the finish line, only to start your healing journey. It's crucial to slow down and see things differently. True healing began for me when I reflected on my experiences with newfound appreciation. Life's ups and downs can be especially challenging when constantly vigilant. Operating outside our window of tolerance leads to exhaustion and hampers healing. Remember, healing is a marathon, not a sprint. There are no shortcuts; the way out is through. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
Episode #204 KHP: I dive deep into the complexities of anger, exploring its roots, triggers, and impacts on our lives. Anger is a fundamental human emotion tied to our survival instincts, often arising from unresolved wounds and trauma. I discuss how anger manifests, from the fight, flight, or freeze response to its influence on our behavior and nervous system. We'll also explore how cortisol, released during stress, can lead to a sense of control and even shape our identity. Learn why anger shouldn't be managed but understood and healed, and the importance of setting healthy boundaries and transforming anger through compassion and self-awareness. Join me as I unpack these critical insights to better understand and navigate anger in daily life. Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Mental Health Coach _________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus https://missionmedus.com
Trauma affects us in many profound ways, often hindering our ability to play and experience joy. In this episode, we'll explore how trauma impacts the nervous system and why engaging in play is vital for emotional healing. I didn’t even realize I had emotions until I was 31—sad, happy, aroused. Let's start with the basics. When we experience trauma, our body's stress response is triggered, activating the sympathetic nervous system. This leads to anxiety, fear, and hypervigilance, causing us to split our personality in ways to protect ourselves. We develop patterns and cycles, turning our brain and body into a computer-like state, constantly processing and reacting. Unlike traditional talk therapy, play therapy allows individuals to reconnect with their natural inclination to play and explore. When we are in survival mode, our brain isn't focused on connections. Play helps shift us from survival to thriving thorugh PLAY! Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach _________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
Welcome to "Managing Chronic Stress & Burnout," where I delve deep into the world of burnout, looking beyond typical triggers like long work hours. In this podcast, I share my personal journey through chronic stress that spiraled into burnout, starting from a childhood filled with uncertainty and turmoil. I'll explore how my early experiences with unstable environments and abusive relationships shaped my approach to stress, leading me into patterns of overtraining and people-pleasing. "Managing Chronic Stress & Burnout" isn't just about coping with workplace stress—it's about understanding how neglecting our own needs and values can lead us to live lives that are far from fulfilling. Join me as I offer insights on breaking free from these destructive cycles, by integrating our emotions and challenging our deepest beliefs. Tune in to learn how to prioritize your well-being and reclaim the life you truly deserve. Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach ________________________________________________________ Experience the future of healthcare with Virtual Regenerative Medicine from Mission Med+. Say goodbye to the hassles of traditional healthcare and hello to safe, efficient, and effective treatment—the Mission Med+ Way! As a valued listener of our podcast, we're excited to offer you an exclusive deal: get $100 off your first month and enjoy complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Starting your journey to optimized health is simple. Just call or text Dr. Kristen Oakes at 305-748-2517, send a DM to @missionmed.plus on Instagram, or visit . Our dedicated team is ready to provide everything you need for a seamless experience!
I explore the intricate psychology behind the urge to consistently help others, often at one's own expense. The Savior Complex is not just a generous impulse—it's a deep-seated pattern that can disrupt personal well-being and relationships. This complex often stems from early experiences where individuals felt compelled to assume roles beyond their years, like becoming a caretaker at a young age due to parental absence or dysfunction. I will delve into how this drive can manifest in controlling and manipulative behaviors, as well as the overwhelming need to be indispensable to others for validation. We'll look at the characteristics common to those with the Savior Complex, including over-responsibility, guilt when not helping, and the sacrifice of personal needs to aid others. The episode also covers why individuals with this complex might find themselves attracted to those who are wounded or unavailable, filling a void within themselves. Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach __________________________________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
If there's one podcast I never imagined I'd record, it's this one—episode number 200. In this special episode, I share my personal journey to finding Jesus. It's a heartfelt testimony that I hope will reach and resonate with many. Join me as I open up about my experiences and the profound impact they've had on my life, in the hope that it might inspire and connect with others on their spiritual paths. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach ___________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
KHP 199: From identifying scarcity triggers to developing gratitude practices and shifting our mindset through affirmations, we'll provide actionable tips and exercises to help you break free from the grip of scarcity. Whether you're struggling with financial worries, career doubts, or feelings of inadequacy, this podcast offers guidance and support on your journey to a more abundant life. _________________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
KHP 198- We all face hard circumstances and moments in life that challenge us and leave a mix of often unwelcome feelings. We like to think that we can push them away either with logic or sheer willpower. We use whatever is available and the coping skills we have readily available. The goal in life is to identify, attune, regulate, and lead our emotions. For a long time, my entire life was lived out in extremes: two states, situational happy and deep despair darkness. Think of your emotions like a rainbow, not in extremes of black and white; there is variety and color to our life through our emotions. Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach _____________________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach ______________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach _________________________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
Welcome to episode 195 of the podcast "KHP: The Art of Surrender". In this episode, I delve into the profound concept of surrender and what it truly means to let go. Surrender is not just about giving up; it's about accepting and embracing reality without resistance. It involves releasing control and having faith that everything will be alright, even without my interference. Join me as I explore the roots of control, which often stem from fear, and how it can hinder our ability to live fully and authentically. I discuss the importance of letting go of past traumas, habits, and self-sabotaging behaviors in order to pave the way for transformation and growth. __________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus https://missionmedus.com
In this podcast, I share my journey of confronting the shadows within myself, drawing parallels to the process of developing old-school photographs in a darkroom. Just as darkness is essential for the image to emerge, so too is facing our inner darkness necessary for personal transformation. From childhood struggles to adult challenges, I delve into the depths of my own experiences, revealing the patterns and conditioning that shaped my beliefs, behaviors, and relationships. Through vulnerability and introspection, I uncover the misalignments and survival tactics that kept me trapped in a cycle of pain and limitation. ________________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
In episode #193 of my podcast, I delve deep into the essence of great leadership. For me, leadership begins with understanding myself—knowing my values, boundaries, and strengths. I believe in inspiring and creating more leaders, focusing on what I can do rather than dwelling on limitations. Effective leadership, to me, involves positively influencing others, instilling belief in shared visions, and fostering long-term success through empathy and connection. I've always seen leadership as a journey of empowerment and service, not control. It's about inspiring people to believe in what's profitable for them and guiding them towards growth and success. For me, honesty, kindness, and respect are non-negotiables. I treat everyone with dignity and acknowledge that leadership is about translating vision into reality. Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach __________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
In this episode, I explore the limitations of using restrictive food rules to combat emotional eating patterns. While it may seem like a quick fix to turn to food as a solution for emotional problems, it often fails to address the root cause of the issue. By recognizing these behaviors without self-judgment, we can begin to understand the patterns and scripts our brains are conditioned to follow. When feeling anxious, it's common to turn to comfort foods like chocolate for relief. While eating may temporarily alleviate these feelings, it doesn't address the underlying emotional distress. Stress, anxiety, boredom, loneliness, sadness, or fatigue cannot be permanently fixed by food alone. Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach ________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
Realizing what your human needs are is a total game-changer. It's what I talk about in my program's 3rd principle. Back when I didn't even know what 'needs' meant, I'd just push mine aside and focus on everyone else. But here's the kicker: that whole cycle of neglecting our own needs? It's a trap. We may not realize how we've suffered by neglecting our needs as we try to understand why we self-sabotage ourselves on a daily basis. But when your sense of self is built upon a system of survival and your personality is shaped by trauma responses, all while trying to obtain something you've never had and don't know how to get, it's one of the most helpless states to be in. Let me tell you, I used to have no clue what I even needed. And surprise, surprise, I ended up with partners who couldn't meet those invisible needs either. It's like we're playing this weird game of emotional hide-and-seek without even knowing the rules! Think back to when you were a kid—what did you really crave? Or what didn’t you have that you've now normalized as non-existence? Maybe it was love, or just feeling safe and cared for. Those unmet needs often shape how we act as grown-ups. Maybe you're always putting others first, forgetting about yourself in the process. Crazy thing is, we can still get our needs met, but sometimes it's in counterproductive ways like people-pleasing. But hey, that's where my latest podcast comes in. Well, my latest podcast dives deep into this stuff. It's not just a chat—it's a game-changer. Trust me, it'll make you rethink how you look at yourself and those around you. Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach ---------------------------------------------- Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus https://missionmedus.com
Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach ________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus https://missionmedus.com
Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach __________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus https://missionmedus.com
Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach ________________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus
In my podcast, "Trauma Responses: How Your Brain/Body Creates Safety Strategies," I explore a fresh perspective on trauma. Picture this: you're in a car accident, no ambulance in sight, and you're left with a concussion and broken arms. There's no help, no explanations, and no tow truck for your damaged car. You face a choice: abandon your car or keep driving it as is. This scenario parallels moments in life when we experience emotional acceints like heartbreak, conflict, or abandonment. We move forward without support, no emotional "cast" or support, therapy, and no structured recovery plan. We adapt to the emotional wounds caused by these experiences. Just like the car accident, we can't change the past, but what truly matters is what we do next, addressing and nurturing our healing journey. @coachkate1 ______________________________________________________________________________________ Sponser: Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus https://missionmedus.com
I explore the profound impact of leaving comfort behind and embracing a life filled with purpose and commitment. Learn about the key strategies that deepen commitment, such as setting incremental goals, adopting a growth mindset. Tune in for valuable insights on how to navigate your own journey towards a purpose-driven life, fueled by courage, determination, and unwavering belief in the value of your chosen path. Are you ready to burn your boats and commit fully to your own journey? Don't miss this episode! Kate Hastings Mental Emotional Health Coaching Email- ___________________________________________________________________ Sponsors - Mission Med+ Dr. Kristin Oakes Text 24/7 call 305-748-2517 Email: koakes@missionmedus.com IG: @MissionMed.Plus Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast.
Join me as I dive into the transformative journey of embracing my vulnerabilities and turning them into sources of power. In this podcast, I explore the voices and patterns that often shroud my weaknesses in shame, preventing them from becoming strengths. I'll discuss the importance of acknowledging and embracing my weaknesses, breaking free from conditioning, and opening the door to personal transformation. Discover the concept of the shadow, those hidden aspects of myself that I often reject, and the profound impact it has on my life. It's through the recognition and acceptance of these shadowed parts that I can truly grow and evolve. ____________________________________________________________ Sponsors: Mission Med Plus As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517!
In this episode of "KHP 184 - All-or-Nothing Thinking Trap: Finding Balance in Life," I dive deep into the pervasive cognitive distortion that has affected us all at some point: all-or-nothing thinking. Life's complexities can often seem reduced to two extreme choices, leaving no room for middle ground. I explore how this thinking pattern, also known as black-and-white thinking, can hinder personal growth and well-being. The podcast sheds light on the strong connection between all-or-nothing thinking and perfectionism, a pursuit of perfection that can lead to stress, anxiety, and procrastination. Moreover, I discuss the impact on mental health, emphasizing how this pattern can take a toll on our well-being. But the good news is that with awareness and practice, we can break free from this mental trap. I explore strategies to challenge this distortion, embrace imperfection, and practice mindfulness. Tune in to discover how recognizing and addressing all-or-nothing thinking can lead to a more balanced and resilient mindset. Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you! Dr Kristen Oakes 305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus https://missionmedus.com
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"Understanding the Silent Treatment: Causes, Effects, and Coping Strategies," I delve deep into the intricate web of emotional isolation. Unpacking the underlying causes and psychological mechanisms behind the silent treatment, I explore its profound effects on mental health, relationships, and self-esteem. Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach $100 off your first vist! @missionmed.plus Virtual Regenerative Medicine helping you optimize your health. Prescriptions are shipped directly to you. Safe, effective, and efficient care. The Mission Med Way! Our Mission is Your Health!
Forgiveness is a deliberate decision, not a mere emotional response. It empowers us to transcend hurt and find healing through conscious choice. Kate Hastings Podcast Coaching - Mental & Emotional Health Phenyx Fit
Healing anger requires a remarkable display of courage and sacrifice – forgiveness. This act of forgiveness operates through the heart, demanding the release of lingering resentments. It involves relinquishing the grip on memories and the past, even though anger has clouded the future. Such a release can be daunting, as it questions our identity and ego tied to that anger. It's an identity that thrives on blame and righteousness. Our reluctance to let go stems from pain weaving itself into our sense of self and connections with others. However, beneath the pain, you're not defined by the negativity it brings forth. Though we weren't created to hate, we also shouldn't endure abuse. This calls for a choice in who we wish to become moving forward. Remember, those who hurt us were once hurt themselves. This isn't about approving their actions but rather preventing their negativity from hardening our hearts. Life offers a conscious choice between love and hate, bitterness and forgiveness, resentment and peace, and division and unity. Embracing the latter leads to the gradual dissolution of pain's grip on your identity, replaced by the energies of compassion, empathy, and love.
Avoiding vulnerability can become a coping mechanism that hinders our emotional growth and connections with others. By shielding ourselves from vulnerability, we might temporarily escape discomfort, but in the long run, it limits our ability to form authentic relationships and stifles personal development. Embracing vulnerability allows us to confront our fears, share our true selves, and create deeper connections with those around us. It's a pathway to resilience, self-discovery, and meaningful experiences that enrich our lives. Kate Hastings Podcast Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach
People-pleasing is the habitual act of putting others' needs before your own. It is an energy-draining habit where one tends to take on too much to avoid disappointing others. This behavior is a 'reflex reaction' rather than a 'conscious' choice. Learned experiences of (reward/punishment) stored in the body act as powerful levers that dictate one's behavior & relationship to others. It often is a coping mechanism learned in early life that has become so ingrained and a way of being that it's the default mechanism for how one operates in the world. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach Trauma Informed @coachkate1
Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach Trauma Informed @coachkate1 Taking risks and putting all your chips in is a daring and courageous approach to life. It involves stepping outside your comfort zone and embracing uncertainty with full commitment. By wagering everything you have, whether it's your time, resources, or emotions, you demonstrate a profound belief in the potential rewards. It requires a mindset of resilience, adaptability, and a willingness to learn from triumphs and setbacks. While the outcome may be uncertain, the experience itself can be transformative, fostering personal growth, faith, resilience, and a sense of fulfillment. It is through taking risks and going all-in that we often discover our true potential and achieve remarkable feats that would have otherwise remained unattainable.
"You can't defeat what you keep entertaining" speaks to the power of our choices and habits in shaping our lives. It suggests that when we continuously engage with or entertain negative influences, whether they be toxic relationships, self-destructive behaviors, or detrimental thought patterns, we hinder our ability to overcome them. By willingly giving these elements a place in our lives, we inadvertently grant them power and control over us. However, the adage also holds a key to empowerment: if we recognize and actively disengage from these negative influences, refusing to entertain them any longer, we can pave the way for personal growth, resilience, and triumph. It reminds us that true victory lies in consciously choosing to distance ourselves from that which hinders us, opening the door to a brighter future where we can face and conquer our challenges with a renewed sense of purpose and determination. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach @coachkate1
Avoidance and overcompensation are two sides of the same coin. Avoidance is when we consciously or subconsciously avoid confronting uncomfortable situations or emotions. On the other hand, overcompensation occurs when we try to compensate for our perceived shortcomings or insecurities by going to the extreme. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach @coachkate1
Emotions play a significant role in our daily lives, influencing our thoughts, behaviors, and overall well-being. Understanding the physiological responses to emotions involves recognizing the various changes that occur in your body when you experience different emotional states. Emotions can trigger both conscious and unconscious reactions within your body, leading to specific physiological responses. Dysregulation of the nervous system can manifest in various signs and symptoms, including anxiety, overwhelm, difficulty concentrating, rapid heartbeat, digestive issues, chronic fatigue, mood swings, and sensitivity to sensory stimuli. The hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis, limbic system, and nervous system are interconnected systems that contribute to stress response, emotional regulation, and overall well-being. The nervous system is a complex network of cells, neurons, and tissues that coordinates and regulates the body's functions. Time alone does not heal the nervous system; it is the nervous system itself that heals. Time can create distance from one's authentic self and lead to counterproductive habits and self-destructive behaviors.
I share tools and techniques to help you identify dysfunctional patterns, understand their root causes, and create positive changes in your relationships, career, and personal well-being. I share ways to cultivate resilience, set healthy boundaries, and build a support network that fosters growth and healing. Remember, you have the power to break free from dysfunction and create a life filled with joy, fulfillment, and authentic connections. 💫 Don't let dysfunction hold you back any longer—embrace your worth and step into a future filled with endless possibilities. Listen to the full episode now on your favorite podcast platform and get ready to unlock the door to a life of freedom and empowerment. 🎙️💖
Lead Yourself from the Inside Out Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach @coachkate1
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Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach Trauma Informed @coachkate1 Phenyx.fit
For many, being authentic is a difficult challenge. Despite the fear, there is power in vulnerability, courage, and honesty. Opening yourself up to the world can help build meaningful relationships and offer insight into who you are and what matters most. Being true to yourself means you can finally find the freedom to pursue your dreams and fulfill your life's purpose. Though the journey of authenticity can be frightening, the courage to face it and come out stronger is ultimately worth the risk. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach Trauma Informed @coachkate1
We lie to ourselves and others for a variety of reasons, including to protect our egos, to appear more attractive or successful than we really are, or to avoid addressing uncomfortable truths. We may also lie out of fear of being judged or rejected, or to avoid taking responsibility for our actions. We sometimes find ourselves in situations where we are committed to things that don't bring us joy or don't align with our values. We may feel the need to stay silent and not speak out. We may stay in jobs that make us feel miserable and not take risks such as travelling or moving away. This can lead us to feel stuck, upset and unable to move forward, leaving us feeling a sense of confusion and purposelessness. We don’t stumble into authenticity we need to burn everything that we are not to then have the courage to be everything we are. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach Trauma Informed @coachkate1
Living from worth, not for worth. Website: Phenyx.Fit Kate Hastings Podcast Mental Health Coach @coachkate1
Tune in and learn how to establish new connections and feel empowered around the parts of your life in which you feel stuck. Kate Hastings Podcast Wellness Coaching - Mental & Emotional Health Phenyx Fit
“Top 25 Things To Stop Apologizing For” 1.Choosing who Loving someone. Following you dreams. Saying no. Going against the grain. Having boundaries. The things you truly want to do. Prioritizes what’s important and the season of life your in. Asking for help. Crushing your goals and doing good in life. For being healthy, discipline. Being vulnerable. Me time. For the things you didn’t know better at the time. Standing your ground. Holding people accountable. Leaving toxic one sided relationships or friendships. Your pain. Telling the truth. Your beliefs or opinions. Being yourself. Failures. Wanting more out of life. Leaving people behind who don’t want to move. Not responding to a text that isn’t urgent. Eating tuna in public. Kate Hastings Podcast Wellness Coach Phenyx.fit @coachkate1
When we identify with the suffering we become it. The attachment of the suffering gives us a sense of self and without it who are you? What you are letting go if, is the version of yourself that is inauthentic. @coachkate1 Phenyx.fit Wellness Coach - Kate Hastings
Do you act out what you believe or what you say? Do you find yourself saying one thing and doing the complete opposite? I believe when you want to align anything in life, the main component is addressing and understanding the misalignment and lack of integrity. Your life works to the degree you keep your agreements when we are not clear on the agreements we hold to ourselves and others to a low standard. When you don’t show up as your word, it creates a disconnect between yourself and translates to an inauthentic way of being. Your words matter. Your actions matter. Tune in !!! @coachkate1 phenyx.fit Kate Hastings Wellness Coach
Belonging to yourself means being radically responsible for your existence, purpose, identity, and living out your values. Belonging is about feeling accepted and valued by the people you associate with. In this podcast, I speak about why we are taught to belong to others before ourselves. Either way, the need to belong is inherently part of being human. The ability to communicate what you think and how you feel about yourself is critical. However much you improve yourself, you are always flawed in society. Living to belong to ourselves first frees us to live our truth. Wellness Coach @coachkate1
Do you ever have the experience that, despite doing everything "right" and having a "good" life on paper, something is missing? Or do you feel an overall tremendous void? Being yourself is the discipline of authenticity. Where do you distort the facts to avoid losing admiration, friendships, jobs, or toxic relationships? Being honest about one's inauthenticities is the only way to authenticity. Being true to yourself means being ready to recognize, face, and express your inauthenticities. @coachkate1 Wellness Coach Kate Hastings Phenyx Fit
Man up. Be a man. How many times in your life have you heard someone tell a male in an emotional moment these phrases? Men get sad too and they would rather get punched in the nuts rather than talk about their feelings. Kate Hastings @coachkate1
Your shadow isn’t a flaw or a mistake — instead, it’s a natural part of who you are. Shadow work is, at heart, about developing self-awareness and ultimately, self-acceptance and compassion. Your shadow side can have a negative impact on your well-being when you ignore or reject it. This part of yourself craves to be understood and explored. This is because it was ignored and possibly shamed throughout your life. We don’t feel mentally and emotionally at our best when our shadow is not integrated into our self. Working with your unconscious mind to uncover the parts of yourself that you repress and hide from yourself. phenyx.fit Kate Hastings Wellness Coach @coachkate1
Are you sick of hearing...just be disciplined, get up early, and go to the gym... Even As a coach, I'm tired of hearing this because I know and understand how ineffective it is to say to someone struggling with anything in life. So instead, you keep trying the same generic approach to wellness and getting the same results, plateauing or reverting to old habits. How can anyone truly make a difference if their narrative does not match the advice they are receiving? Tune in to find out!! @coachkate1
This can apply to relationships, careers, emotions, health, goals, or anything else you desire, aim for, or want to improve. Outcomes will undoubtedly face challenges, and it is only by focusing on the process and progressing toward the outcome with measurable results that you will be able to achieve your goals. www.phenyx.fit @coachkate1
We all need to be seen. It's part of what makes us human. When we don't allow ourselves to be seen, we diminish our greatness. We undervalue ourselves by lying, withholding, protecting, and defending a false sense of self that isn't our true nature. We limit our potential for greatness by defending things we believe we must defend in order to be worthy of love and respect. @coachkate1 www.phenyx.fit
Putting yourself out there requires a willingness to be seen and heard from your truth. I realized that putting oneself out there begins with yourself. Working from the inside out is the only way to this self discovery. Coach Kate Wellness Coach Phenyx Fit www.phenyx.fit @coachkate1
Have you ever convinced yourself that you won't be worthy or good enough until you achieve a particular goal? Setting standards and having goals are extremely important in life. However, when it's only motivated by that inner critic and unrealistic expectations, it's a formula for reinforcing the hamster wheel of your negative core beliefs. (not good enough, unworthy, incapable, stupid, failure.) Perfectionism is motivated by how things will appear and what others will think. People strive for perfection out of shame, only to feel even more humiliated when they can never achieve "perfection." You are so much more than your ability to impress others. Within you is a valuable, creative, and loving individual who longs to be authentic. @coachkate1 Kate Hastings Wellness Coach
Have you noticed in yourself a tendency to minimize your own needs? To not cause a fuss and keep the peace at all costs? These may be reflections of one of codependency’s main symptoms: self-betrayal. Self-betrayal causes cognitive dissonance. This is when your heart and your head are saying different things. This creates inner conflict which is an invitation to address the issue that is out of alignment. If you are numbing out your feelings and denying reality, you don’t address the conflict. Breaking the cycle is about gaining self-love and self-worth. Know your value and what you deserve. Do not numb out your pain, rather learn to get your needs met in healthy ways. Self-betrayal can look like: Allowing your boundaries to be violated so as not to be abandoned Going along with the group in order to be included Doing things to please others when it’s not what you want to do Letting someone else choose what you eat, how you dress Working in jobs that other influential people approve of, but you don’t like doing If this is you, ask yourself: Why do I not feel safe to be myself? When did it stop feeling safe to be myself? How have I adapted to feel safe? How do I serve others and self-sacrifice to feel safe and not be abandoned? Wellness Coaching IG: @coachkate1
I think one of the bravest things you can do is start something new when you're not “ready.” Nothing in life will be perfect, and no new beginning will be perfect. To be a beginner in anything takes courage, humility, and a willingness to just put yourself out there. I was able to see more of my true self and grow into who I am today. I realized what truly mattered to me by looking at my own struggles and strengths. Listen in to learn about my experience recording 100 episodes!!
Integration work is more than just joining a sharing circle, meditating, and eating clean. It signifies facing the shadow, all the forgotten, suppressed, invisible, and unintegrated mental material we left behind as we grew up and into the world. At a very basic level, ayahuasca integration means cleaning up your act in support of your newly upgraded self. Job, relationships, diet, habits, mindset—all these are up for transformation in the weeks following ceremony. A second aspect of integration involves shadow work. Ayahuasca is a potent activator of the unconscious, bringing buried traumas, forgotten experiences, and rejected aspects of self to the light. As we continue, a third level of integration emerges: the task of bringing soul to the world, showing up as our true whole selves. We begin to cultivate a way of being that is in touch with what really matters. Ayahuasca can be a very strong mirror. She works in a way of bringing things up to the surface, right in front of us. Giving us the opportunity to face our shadows, traumas, regrets, grief, and truly heal them.
You can begin to learn how lying was used as a traumatic response. We only lie when it feels unsafe, to tell the truth. In some cases, lying is the only way to avoid experiencing shame, dysregulation, or other unpleasant emotions if we tell the truth. When I was a child, my father labeled me a snitch. I was told I was fine when I wasn't, that everything was fine, that I just needed to get over it, that it didn't matter, that I didn't matter and that I had to get through it. But my question to you is, who are you without your lies, suffering and pain? Who are you if you didn't live or feel the desire to avoid pain? What possibilities would be available?
Before you can determine your life's mission, I believe it is more necessary and valuable to figure out what prevents you from becoming whatever you want to be in life. You create this story to match your limiting beliefs, which manifest in a persona you identify with. The true challenge isn't in the mission it's self its removing the barriers in the way that keep you in a stagnant place.
Gratitude when it is possible. However, while some from gratitude, for most it is challenging. The reason has to do with an overactive nervous system. For many survivors, the reactive part of the brain is in charge much of the time. This is not because they do not try—or do not want—to be positive. Their nervous system holds them in a constant state of reactiveness. The pain of trauma has left them feeling “not good enough,” ashamed, guilty, injured, and unworthy. Their upper brain is not engaged enough to overcome those feelings and contemplate gratitude on an on-going basis.
What are you dependent on every day when you get out of bed? Likes on social media, how many texts you receive, how many empty people pay attention to you, and how many calories you ate ???? Wake awake and cling to the carrot known as truth. @coachkate1
Because we don't properly grasp how to see, hear, and comprehend our needs, we don't feel seen, heard, or understood by others. The problem is that most of us are in so much pain and suffering just going about our everyday lives that we feel alone, disheartened, and alienated from our true self. @coachkate1 Phenyx Fit 1-1 Wellness Coaching
When we avoid doing the work that is required to heal, we create a reality of resistance, avoidance, and chaos. Even after the storms have passed, we leave an overcast of suffering, resentment, and disconnect. The aftermath is your identity becoming entwined with the impacted version of yourself. When you heal, you may experience a sense of loss because your identity is closely linked to the person you thought you had to become in order to move on. @CoachKate1
Have you ever asked yourself what does it truly take to change? I don't mean your physical body, bank account or hair. I’m referring to the type of change that drastically alters your perception of who you are and how you relate to the world. I’m talking about the type of change that provokes your very being at a core level that shifts your habits, emotions, behaviors and to a level of awareness. I can't tell you what the truth is but I can tell you what its not. Tune in!! @coachkate1
What would your life be like in 10 years if you kept up with your current lies? What's the impact of living this way, and what are you willing to lose? And if you can't face the truth or at least tolerate it, get honest and admit you live a lie by choice. @coachkate1
Struggle to see how anyone would want to help you? Ask yourself these 3 questions: • While you were growing up what kind of messages did you get about asking for help? • Did your family place more value on “doing it yourself” or “letting others in?” • When you did attempt to reach out in childhood, how did the people in your life respond? @coachkate1
Remember that you are afraid of the response and emotion that the word no will conjure up in you, not the word itself. Saying yes when you want to say no comes at a price: You burn out, you experience anxiety, and you devalue yourself. You have relationships that are toxic and you become resentful. You disrespect yourself and allow added stress to play the victim to not focus on you and your life. Remember that you don't have to respond right away. You can say: I need to check my calander ill get back to you tommorw. What is the impact of being a people pleaser?
Anxiety can manifest itself in various ways when it comes to relationships. Fear of being left behind or not asking for things could be signs of anxiety in a relationship. It can control your thoughts and affect many aspects of your life. Anxiety crumbles your authentic voice, causing panic and lack of self-confidence. Do you ever ? Wondering if you matter? Wait for something to go wrong? Look for reasons to break up? Constantly thinking your partner wants to break up? Missing out on good times? @coachkate1 Phenyx.fit
Whenever something good happens, something bad follows. Living with the expectation that sh*t will eventually hit the fan makes it difficult to acknowledge and accept when life is actually going good. It's difficult to celebrate your success when you feel unworthy of your achievement.You are deserving of good things. You weren’t put on this Earth to live “well enough,” you are meant to live an abundant, beautiful life. @coachkate1
I don't think we ever ask ourselves, "Are we living our truth?" or "What does that even mean?" Instead, I think we grow up to conform to the truths surrounding us, which may or may not be aligned, but I believe that no one except you can determine that meaning. Before you can live and express your truth, I believe you must first confront the extent to which you tell yourself lies. Ask yourself how much debt you have in your life? What's the impact of living this way? Is my environment and life consistent with my morals, values, and beliefs? Listen in! IG: @coachkate1 Website: Phenyx.fit
Living in a perpetual state of survival is detrimental to our health, relationships, goals, and overall quality of life. Stress is a warning sign; it prepares us to survive, whether by running or fighting the threat. However, it is not a condition in which one may prosper or live life with peace. You settle for a lot less because you're frightened actually to put yourself out there. So you isolate and keep people at a distance. You avoid, overcompensate, judge, fear, flee, and hide. Survival emotions and behaviors are hard-wired into our brains and nervous systems. The choices we make, our actions, and our perceptions are all influenced by the dysregulated emotions we are experiencing at any given moment. @coachkate1
When you're doing the work, but it's still difficult. We refuse to heal because we do not want to endure the unbearable pain of uncovering buried feelings, fears, and memories. You are unstoppable once you have fully immersed yourself in your truth. To avoid pain or discomfort, we typically control aspects of ourselves and our lives. Pain is unpleasant, so we do this to alleviate it. But we also do this because we are worried that we are not deserving of something greater. IG: @Coachkate1 @phenyxfit
Tolerating the intolerable drains you spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. Have you ever been in an obviously terrible situation and felt nothing at all? Do you suffer from a lack of emotional detachment from yourself and others, resulting from your inability to feel? A few bullets I touch upon in this episode. 1.) Recognizing your childhood mantra... "Get a grip," "suck it up," and "mind over matter," "You're fine," it's not that bad." 2.) What are you tolerating and why? (truth) 3.) What are the feelings you are unwilling or afraid to feel? @coachkate1 @phenyxfit
Have you ever thought to yourself, “How did I get here?” Why do the same friends, relationships, and events keep repeating? Almost everyone at one point in life has chosen to overlook red flags. We’ve suppressed our inner voice, which begged us to break up with that friend, don’t marry that person, and leave that toxic job. You are not weak or stupid, but human. Trial and error will be a part of the healing process; we won’t get everything right the first time. However, we can learn from our experiences and make better choices in the future. Everything isn’t a red flag, but if you grew up in an environment where boundaries were not respected, chaos was the norm, and toxic behavior was tolerated, you might not see anything wrong. We disregard red flags because we are terrified of expressing the truth to not be alone. So instead of facing the agony of confrontation, we engage in denial and continue about our business as usual. But, on the other hand, what is more lonely than being with someone who makes you feel alone? Tune in to this week’s episode- link in bio Itunes & Spotify @coachkate1
I speak from my personal experiences and can say I have a Ph.D. in this topic. By becoming aware of the patterns in your relationships, you can see what exactly you are attracted to. You cannot control what you’re not aware of. However, you can develop awareness and create new patterns. Why do you keep choosing the same toxic relationships over and over again? If you’ve been abused in previous relationships (or in childhood), you may have a hard time labeling abuse as abuse because you’ve grown accustomed to it and have learned to blame yourself for it. People stay in unhealthy relationships because they get accustomed to pain. The fear of uncertainty is what seems normal. They believe that if they stick it out, things might change. With a false sense of hope and desperation, denial will keep you in a state of one day someday. (aka waste years of your life) lol If you have low self-esteem or are codependent, you may be unaware of your feelings, guiding you. Toxic attachment is hard to escape the cycle of control- behaviors like jealousy, dominance, manipulation, selfishness, and desperation. Push-pull up and down affect is addicting to the brain. They feel personally responsible for their partner or their behavior due to codependency.
Abusive/toxic relationships makes you distrustful of others and yourself. You become sidetracked by how long you put up with a terrible relationship and environment. So guilt and humiliation rule your existence. You believe all men are bad. This kind of nice treatment is love bombing and manipulation, it can’t be real. You expect guys to leave without closure or to diminish your self-worth. But every day, the good guy shows he's the same guy. Someone has told you that you don't deserve the best. So you reject it. You don't want to be humiliated again, so you destroy the good. You're expecting a battle. Instead, everything is explained and discussed in a calm manner. Then comes a feeling of calm, and you understand that ordinary people don't retreat and destroy when anything goes wrong. He'll wonder why you apologize so often and for what. He'll notice the hurt from someone who made you doubt yourself in the past. I know someone taught you tough love, in the past. You've had to suffer a lot of things you didn't deserve. @coachkate1 Apple iTunes & Spotify
If you're depressed, anxious, fatigued, or have an autoimmune disease, these are the things you should look into before medication. One of the first recommendations when dealing with depression, anxiety, fatigue, or an autoimmune disease is medication. It took over ten years to develop the information I'm about to share. This is what I did to heal myself without medication through alternative medicine, therapy, food, supplements, personal development, and exercise. Listen in as I dissect all of the options and alternatives for self-healing.
A traumatic experience impacts your perception of your life and yourself, resulting in psychological trauma. People with PTSD are continuously scared of their bodies, and they've honed their skills at ignoring gut instincts and numbing awareness of what's going on inside. By precisely placing long-acting local anesthetic (ropivacaine) around the stellate ganglion, the unproductive and chronic “fight or flight” response is turned off for several hours. This allows neurotransmitters in the brain to “reset” back to a non-anxiety state. This “resetting” results in long-term relief of anxiety symptoms. The SGB may improve daily activities, sleep, relationships, mood, employment and more. SGB works to reset the fight or flight system in the body to help restore function. People suffering from elevated fight or flight responses, like in PTSD, will benefit from a SGB treatment on the nerves involved in mediating these responses. Specifically, this treatments resets the brain to baseline or pre-traumatic levels. IG: Coachkate1
Why attachment? There are many ways to be attached to things in life, like having attachments to people, emotions, jobs, image, food, and so on. Attachment typically stems from a fear of losing control. Can you make friends with the unknown and accept things as they come your way? What would happen if you lost that attachment? What fears might come true? What would be available in my life if I let go of that attachment ? We suffer when we put our happiness dependent on others, money, success, things, or circumstances. Attachments clings. We abandon our freedom and react emotionally to get what we want and reject what we don't. Imagine being free of attachments? IG: Coachkate1
The primary reason why individuals fail to achieve their goals is because they cannot identify a strong correlation between the desired outcome and the actual actions needed to achieve it. Outcome goals are the end results you want to accomplish, while process goals are the stages you'll need to take to get there. The outcomes goals are not always entirely predictable. The most usual issue individuals fail to achieve their goals is because they are unable to link the desired outcome to the required process. Do you focus solely on outcome? Or do you try to find methods to improve the process in order to get better results?
Affirmations are useful but not always effective. Positive affirmations could even do more harm than good. I’ll explain my point of view. People have a hard time believing things that they know aren't true. Bold statements will almost certainly be met with resistance, and they may even backfire, resulting in a stronger defense of one's original viewpoint. Positive affirmations do not work because they are directed at the conscious level of your mind rather than the unconscious level of your mind... The unconscious mind is the archive for all of our memories and past experiences. And everything we are aware of at any given moment is in our conscious mind. Every time you tell yourself something that sounds positive, your unconscious will repeat to you, "That's not true, that's not true!" This creates mental and physical tension…It's similar to when someone compliments you, you cringe, too. So instead give this a try! “What if?” question generates no previous precedent, paradigm, or example, and the only knowledge that can be relied upon is brand new information. Try "What if I love my body?" What if I became successful? What if I fell in love? What if I loved myself? Thinking about what-ifs transfer your brains focus, allowing you to consider new alternatives and redirects your attention and encourages you to think about different options rather than dealing with a past emotional response. “What if?” questions often spark creative and new ideas because they prompt us to fantasize or to actually generate new concepts. One of the best ways to get your communication energy flowing is to rethink how you speak to yourself and adopt new conversational practices, including specific words and questions you ask yourself.
You've probably heard that the most important relationship you have is with yourself. However, how frequently do you hear of people who are working towards that goal? We are born into this world and advised to find a life partner, but we are never taught or shown how to develop a relationship with ourselves. Treat yourself, eat some cake, get your nails done, take a bath, and love yourself….That isn't love. Recognizing, overcoming, facing, and grieving those aspects of yourself that no longer serves you starts there. It's about living & following your deepest values and doing things that important to you while still making a difference in the world. It's how you feel and act toward yourself, as well as the things you say on a regular basis. When you need it the most, it's being compassionate, patient, and kind to yourself….. Have you ever wondered why it's easier to deflect compliments than it is to embrace them? Tune into this weeks episode! @coachkate1
Why do we destroy the very things we want in life ? Why do we want love yet take all the wrong actions towards fulfilling that desire ? What if the things you struggle to acknowledge in others you lack within yourself? What if every failed relationship is just a reflection of the relationship with yourself? @coachkate1
Just like our physical health, everyone has mental health. Mental health and physical health go hand in hand, I believe that having one without the other and the meaning we assign to it is where I see the disconnect. Physical health is the state and functioning of your entire body, and mental health is the state of your emotions, mind and over all daily feelings. ‘Mental health’ and ‘mental illnesses are being used as if they mean the same thing, but they are not. Mental illness can be classified as things like depression, anxiety, bi-polar, eating disorders etc. Our mental health boils down to our ability to solve problems, overcome difficulties, make meaningful connections, regulate/understand our emotions, thoughts and feelings. “Great” mental health isn’t about feeling pumped every day and super confident 100% of the time, it’s a daily watering of your highest self. It’s about learning how to be compassionate and understanding yourself while developing the habits, systems and copping skills that work towards maintaining your mental health/illness at an optimal level. Mental health looks like ….. Getting outside Doing what you love Speaking to friends/family Challenging yourself/growing Being vulnerable Work towards your goals/ purpose Developing healthy coping skills Understanding your subconscious programing Healing trauma Being in a healthy relationship with yourself and others Exercise Treating yourself with respect and honor Being in empowering environments Support Sticking up for yourself and others Developing a belief and value system that works for you Sex/sleep Community Blood work Helping others Your food Creativity Travel Therapy Reading educated yourself Alternative therapy Setting boundaries Healthy Communication skills The list can go on and on … This is mental health. There is nothing wrong with mental health or illness. Mental health is a lifestyle To see a therapist or to get help is like having a coach for your mind! Tune into this episode!!!! IG: coachkate1
We live in a world full of beauty standards defined by external factors like the media and society. Have you ever stopped to think what beauty standards you are personally following and why? Realizing there is a subconscious programing, that we were either born into or inherited by our external environments that shaped our thinking. Why are we following a standards that have nothing to do with our personal beliefs, values and level of standards? How can you truly be happy by living and viewing beauty through a collective standard? Think about it.... I believe when you begin to question, de-program and re-program yourself to your own definition of what beauty is, you can reduce the amount of suffering and the limited views we've constructed towards this false sense of reality. The beauty industry is a multi-billion dollar industry that counts on our weak minds, insecurities and drives us to distort ourselves to fit into some image of ‘perfection’ that will never be attainable. Tune in! @coachkate1
I love speaking in metaphors and this episode is all about when you choose to pave your own path in life. We are all on this journey called life, right? Every day we are working towards something and there is a path to that goal. The path others expect of us, or the path you know that’s driven from your internal GPS. When you see roadblocks do you see a STOP signs or opportunities? When you have to make a detour do you use it to your advantage or keep going in the wrong direction? Have you ignored your check engine light that’s been on for the last 100 mile? You can’t fill your tank up half way and expect to go the distance.
Most motivation crumples under any test of hardship or adversity. Motivation is unreliable due the fact it relies mostly on emotions and external forces generating it. Motivation makes you feel like you can do something for the time being. While being driven keeps you in the game for the long run. Being driven is different. It’s an obsession that consumes you to act regardless of your circumstances or feelings. It’s a pull not a push. It’s choosing something outside of how you feel due to the fact you see the larger picture. Drive can’t be bought or sold. It means that even after you’ve arrived at your destination, you still won’t stop….. ever.
By challenging your current beliefs through action, will you begin to conquer your limiting beliefs. I think how anyone got from point A – to B wasn’t by thinking alone, it was by taking action. Or else we would all close our eyes and be millionaires with a 6 pack by now. How do you build confidence? You do things that require you to be confident.… and eventually you become that. Of course, the mental aspect is just as important but where most people get stopped is in their minds. So it only goes that far…. The solution to that roadblock is getting beyond the mind and how do you do that? Action...
The way to building lasting habits is focusing on creating a new identity first rather than the goal. Your current behaviors, belief system and mindsets are a reflection of your current identity. What you do now is a mirror image of the type of person you believe that you are, consciously or subconsciously. To transform your behavior for good, you need to start believing new things about yourself and what's possible for you. “I want to lose weight” “I want to lose 20 pounds” These goals are centered around our performance or our appearance. Performance and appearance goals are great to strive towards , but they aren’t the same as habits.
Here in this podcast I share my life after Ayahuasca. Its been 90 days since I've gotten back from Peru and the trip truly begins when you get home. Ayahuasca, although miraculous, is not a cure. She does not prevent us from having to face what we have avoided until we sit with her. She can only open the door. We still have to walk through it. Tune in to how I've been walking through the doors that have been opened for me and the ups and downs after Ayahuasca. My overall experience was life-changing and profound. It was when returning to “real” life that I was faced with what the plant showed me and for the healing to integrate I must become more conscious and make different choices daily. Creating new patterns of behavior and new ways of being is vital and it’s not easy lol Everyone’s experience is different I’m here to share my personal experience. Nothing could be more beautiful & difficult, more terrifying, more mind-blowingly challenging than facing our own demons and shadows; the subconscious traumas and programs that create our limiting beliefs are the core of our suffering.
Once we are more in touch with our needs and values, we can actively align our lives to honor our values and meet our needs, using them to guide our behavior so that we are able to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Simply taking a moment to ask yourself what they are ? So ask yourself: What are my needs? What are my personal prerequisites for happiness? Not what the commercials or your friends are telling you. What is your soul telling you? Do you need more creativity, passion, fun? More time in nature? Less stress? Once you’ve started discovering what your needs are, check in with yourself often. Are your needs being met right now? If not, how can you make that happen?
How do you handle failure? It is human to fail. It is human to make mistakes. So why do we shame and avoid it? Knowing how you handle failure is just as important as reaching success. Get clear about what you consider to be success first, and make sure that it’s your concept, not your what your friends and family think success is. Failing is life’s way of showing you that you need to improve, grow and shift your approach. But keep your goal and aim the same. It’s not about how big or small the failure is but how you react, respond, and process the result. Trying to minimize your feelings or distract yourself can be counter-productive in the longer term. One reason why some people find failure devastating is that their identity is tied up in succeeding. They view the failure as who they versus an external result.
Find an excuse to win, not to loose. The distance between where you are right now and where you really want to go can be measured by the amount of excuses you make or don’t make. Our brains are wired to keep us safe, and making excuses sounds rational to keep us out of harms way. Thank goodness we have the instinct to avoid dangerous situations, but it also keep most people from not really going after what they want. A tiger chasing you and you opening a new business, the same alert goes off in our brain. People say things like… I’ll stay in my 9-5 job because I have health insurance. Meanwhile your health is deteriorating because you hate what you do. But you convince yourself it’s safer to stay, because of the security, and pursuing your purpose then feels unsafe. God didn’t created humans to only live for health insurance. Making excuses is a habit. One excuse creates a landslide of more excuses. This is the power of repetition. You don’t become unhealthy overnight. Just like you don’t become successful overnight either. Skipping the gym one night turns into another and then your long lost second cousins needs a favor and you can’t go again. You learn a whole lot about yourself when you dig deeper into your excuses. What’s really there? Challenge yourself and keep asking quality questions until you get to the root. Typically it’s a negative core belief that’s running the show. Making excuses is saying no to yourself and the situation even before you get started. Say yes and find an excuse to win!
Wouldn’t you like to stop negative thinking? I know it’s unpredictable and hard to control the thoughts that pop into our head. It’s easy for people to say, “think positive” don’t be a negative Nancy, do your affirmations and all will be well…. No one said ever! Then you feel bad for thinking negatively and the vicious circle continues. I believe it’s more than negative thinking, it’s a daily story you identify with. When I was little they diagnosed me with multiple learning disabilities 🙄and I created a story about how I was stupid & incapable I was until about 21. I believed and identified so deeply with this story my entire life was a reflection of this one story. It took many years to deconstruct that story through rewriting my own. Not what a test or teacher said about me. And definitely not just sitting in a room thinking thoughts like, “I am smart.” When you don’t identify as smart person there is a gap, it’s as if you are speaking another language. Your brain and body doesn’t register it. What’s the secret?
Choose your struggles rather than letting them choose you. Everyone’s got struggles. We assume we should struggle less, but we actually need to reframe that. We need to struggle better. Life is about choosing which problem, which struggle is worth it, and then going for it. Most people only know what to do when things are going good, not necessarily when shit hits the fan. The people who are most resilient and handle struggle the best actually go further in achieving their goals. When you keep hitting a wall you build upon it to see higher, not as a roadblock. When you choose to struggle for something that’s meaningful and hard it becomes a personal gain. There’s no easy way to know what struggle to choose you just have to start somewhere. Getting used to struggle has practical benefits, too. In any goal, you are going to run into setbacks, failures and disappointments. And having the skills to be able to deal with that struggle effectively will keep you on the path moving forward.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we were just automatically born with our winning formula fully operating and functioning as adults…? The winning formula for self-love, great relationships, money, mindset, health, career etc. Doing the right things, experiencing continuous progress, having the characteristic of being driven, disciplined and motivated. Wouldn’t that be nice…. Well, that’s not reality.😂 We all have this villain voice in our head that tells us daily we are not good enough, not capable, stay comfortable, you belong in toxic environments, you are your past failures, and even the people closest to us may be drilling holes in our boat not realizing we need a new crew. I get it you’ve tried everything as far as diet, exercise, new relationships, careers but everywhere you go there you are with the same results, with what I call failing backwards. There’s this battle within you can’t seem to conquer and overcome, filled with resistance, defeat, overwhelm, guilt and shame. I totally get it and I’ve been there it’s taking me years to come to place I am a today, mentally, and physically and it wasn’t because I was smart and healthy it was the complete opposite. I use to love doing the same things repeatedly over and over again expecting a different result. I was a pro at that.🤪 Your new formula won’t work with a new boyfriend, new job, new diet, and new work out plan why …. Because you haven’t addressed and destroyed your current losing formula. The diet and workout plan won’t work unless you do, mentally and physically. It’s a system not one component. What is a formula? a list of ingredients just like any recipe. What’s your recipe? You don’t set out to make a pumpkin pie with pineapples expecting it to look and taste correctly. You not only add sh*t to the recipe that doesn’t belong, but you get upset when you see and experience the results…. That’s what most people do with their health goals. Constantly in denial masking pumpkin pie with pineapples ….
Nobody feels like a champ about who they are 100% of the time... “Ill do it when I’m feeling healthy” “I’ll start tomorrow” “When I have the money” “I’ll start after the weekend” How many times have you heard this? How many times have you said it to yourself? It’s easy to forget that we don't have endless "tomorrows". Days become weeks… Weeks become months… Months become years… And there you are... still the same person mentally & physically when you first said the excuse. If you keep putting off the things you need to do for yourself and health… You'll never become that version of yourself you've always dreamed of. The game is to become aware... Understand why you feel that way... And work to improve the areas you aren't satisfied with. Attack, burn, and destroy those parts. Don't just accept your shortcomings as if there is something wrong with you... There are things messed up with all of us... But you need to understand this... Your life/health is an ongoing project.... A marathon... Start taking action NOW instead of putting it off until "tomorrow"... Tomorrow is for the knuckle draggers....
This is a podcast dedicated to my self healing journey in Peru drinking Ayahuasca. @coachkate1
Why did I choose to do ayahuasca in Peru?? Check this podcast I talk about what triggered me to go and the challenges I faced going there! @coachkate1
Understanding your automatic ways of facing the good, happy, sad and bad can be a game changer. When you face anything with purpose and intention you will have leverage and empowerment. Not falling to the actions and reactions of your unconscious thoughts behaviors and emotions will better help you face yourself and circumstances. A lot of times we react and face things like they will be forever but in reality, it’s just adapting to the tempory environment feelings emotions and circumstance enough to get you by with ease and grace. But what about not just getting by but coming prepared and facing life and situations with balls, courage and intelligence. Check out this podcast !
You don’t get an award for just showing up for yourself in life, it’s what we are created to do. But why is it so hard ? I’ve come up with this concept and mentality to help shift the mindset to showing up for yourself is just who you are nothing special to “deserve” a reward. Eating healthy and being able to exercise is a privilege not an action to take in order to get.
ADVANTAGES OF ADVERSITY It can make us vulnerable, expose our weaknesses and set us up for failure. But even more frightening is what happens when we choose to avoid adversity. Without adversity we cannot learn, we cannot grow and we cannot find out what our true limitations are. Choosing to rise to the challenge of adversity is not easy, but it can be done. If you break up the huge challenge that you are taking on into small, manageable chunks, you will find the process less overwhelming. You will gain confidence with each step you take towards your goal. Then, eventually, you may just make your own masterpiece.
Whether you do something and fail, or you choose to avoid it out of fear of failure you lose either way. So why not take a chance? What I’ve learned over the years is more people would prefer to stay in a known hell than to take a chance and risk going after what they really want in life.
The change you’re most resisting holds the key to unlocking your transformation. What Is “Resistance” Anyway? Resistance is a psychological reaction to change. It’s like a self-protection mechanism where we oppose the change or struggle against our desired behavior modification. Resistance means that, despite being highly motivated with the best intentions, we fight that change at a psychological level. Listen to this podcast about loving, overcoming and beating resistance!
Being fearless doesn’t mean eliminating fear. It means knowing how to leverage fear. Fear can be as much an ally, as it can be an enemy. And fear of fear can keep you locked in a cage of insecurity. How do you overcome it? You learn to leverage it.
Negative core beliefs are not situation specific; they are generic thoughts and phrases that are triggered by certain instances. However, these thoughts will typically be connected to specific situations such as personal and intimate relationships and possibly general interactions with the public and work. For instance, if a person has been treated terribly in a past relationship, they may link their next relationship with thoughts of worthlessness or the fact that people cannot be trusted. These negative core beliefs are self-sustaining in the fact that the person will look for things that support their self-fulfilling prophecies and negative core beliefs. Any information that may prove them wrong is usually ignored and overshadowed by their negative thoughts. Remember, negative core beliefs are the internal chatter you have with yourself daily. You can identify some themes by recognizing when your anger is triggered. You can do this by remaining mindful when negative core beliefs are activated Become aware of when they appear.
There's a profound freedom that comes from living by a set of rules that you've chosen for yourself. Develop your own custom set of rules for each aspect of your life. These rules will provide the framework for having a more stress free productive life.
When you generalize your health to only how you work out and what you eat you limit yourself. While working out and eating properly is a huge component it’s not everything. Being in the industry for over 8 years now there’s patterns I’ve noticed. I developed a course and program that’s tailored to you that targets everything, health as a whole. I’ve been working with five clients over the 2 months test running the program and I see tremendous results, beyond the scale going down. When your mind is expanded to what’s possible beyond counting calories & physically being fit new doors open. Or say if your struggling with maintaining a healthy routine there’s other aspects to focus on that will have a jumpstart effect to healthy lifestyle w/ longevity & consistency. Usually the underlying problem of not being able to maintain some thing is not the actual action but something else.
Warner Trejo is an Entrepreneur & Success Coach and in addition to that he is one of the most sought out trainers in World Financial Group. Where he emphasizes in developing business brokers in the Financial Sector. Also, he is the host of the STAY IN THE BIG igtv series. A series that focuses on highlighting the habits, mindset, and stories of highly effective entrepreneurs and athletes! Check out this jam packed podcast full of useful knowledge!
Taking the short cuts in life and expecting huge results will have you not only in a losing mentality but failing backwards. Listen to this podcast all about the mental approach when it comes to measuring your actions and the effort your putting forth.
Everyone has their own definition of success, whether that’s high performance at work, increased financial means, having meaningful interpersonal relationships, fulfilling their passions, overall well-being, or a combination of all the above. Emotional regulation may be the “not so secret” skill! Emotional regulation is the ability to exert control over one’s emotions by effectively coping with these feelings in order to desirably respond to situations. In the past, studies have shown cognitive abilities relating to one’s performance at school and work. However, more recent research depicts a relationship to a boarder range of “successes” such as greater well-being, increased income, and enriched social relationships to emotional abilities. So is emotional regulation the key to success? Perhaps, but it can definitely allow us to feel better and enjoy the journey to our successes (Isn’t that what it’s all about?!😉) Tune in as we discuss emotional regulation, one of the four pillars of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy with Ali Rosen M.S. Ed Mental Health Counseling and Intern Therapist Disclaimer: The information above is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for individual medical or mental health treatment by a healthcare professional.
Why do we suffer to eat in our day to day life. Do you believe that achieving a certain body image will bring you happiness? How you eat is that aligned with what health is to you? check out this podcast! Love, Kate
When you experience something difficult or painful, do you bounce back and continue on your journey, or do you dwell on it and let it control your state? Listen to this podcast to understand and practice being able to train your emotions.
In this day and age our health is put into a box. Eat this and go to the gym. But what about being creative and living a full healthy life that's tailored to you and your needs? Check out this episode all about creating your Health outside of the box!
There are two paths in life: Should and Must. We arrive at this crossroads over and over again. And each time, we get to choose. Must is who we are, what we believe, and what we do when we are alone with our truest, most authentic self. It’s our instincts, our cravings and longings, the things and places and ideas we burn for, the intuition that swells up from somewhere deep inside of us. Must is what happens when we stop conforming to other people’s ideals and start connecting to our own. Because when we choose Must, we are no longer looking for inspiration out there.
When life present us people, places and things that promotes fear within us, it's an opportunity to show us where we lack freedom.
We are in a stage of information overload. Without effective action being taken towards a intentional goal learning information is useless. In this video I discuss simple exercises that you can implement daily.
What's your motive behind what you want to do ? Motivation is a feeling driven by an ultimate goal. But very often we are present to what are motive is behind the goal and we rely on the feeling to come to move s forward.
Do you feel stressed to the point of being overwhelmed and consumed by it?⠀ Coach Seve explains his approach and systematic way of eliminating and getting to the source of our stress. He goes into details about his modules and how he coaches his clients. This is a packed podcast filled with useful insights and information around managing stress.
This podcast is about negotiating effectively with yourself around your health and fitness goals! The most important negotiations we have — the ones that determine the quality of our lives and the impact of our actions — are the ones we have with ourselves. Learning to communicate well and to influence other people are essential in life. But even more fundamental to your success is learning to negotiate effectively with yourself.
Storms are the biggest blessing in life. They come to not only clear our path but to show us what we are made of. There are natures to all the storms we pass through in life. We sometimes create our own storms or even get caught off guard. Take a listen to how I approach storms and even weather them.
Telling the truth is hard. Society is largely responsible for creating a false concept of “truth” to begin with and then coercing us into believing it. We learn what’s “good” and what’s “bad,” what’s “right” and what’s “wrong,”and what’s “just” and what’s “unjust” from a very young age. This knowledge becomes engrained and makes up a large part of our perceptions of the world. But not only do we have the power to change that its our responsibility. Don't identify with the lies, the truth will set you free.
Dr. Jaclyn Tolentino, Lead Doctor at Parsley Health Los Angeles. Jaclyn Tolentino, DO is a Board-Certified Family Physician, an integrative and functional medicine practitioner, and a young breast cancer survivor. She has received extensive training in functional medicine through the Institute for Functional Medicine, and additional training in integrative oncology. Dr. Tolentino is deeply committed to creating opportunities for patients to make empowered and informed decisions about their health. Her practice combines innovative diagnostic tools, personalized lifestyle optimization, and a collaborative approach to cultivating the body's innate power to heal. A frequent contributor to publications including Vogue, Well+Good, CNET, and Bustle, Dr. Tolentino was also recently recognized by YellowCo as their October 2019 Do-Good Dozen winner for her work as an innovative healthcare provider. She practices a comprehensive, patient-centered approach to whole-body wellness as Lead Doctor at Parsley Health Los Angeles. In her free time, she can be found catching sunsets on the beach with her husband, and their chihuahua Cali.
Food is the fuel to our bodies. Not a number on the scale not a the size of our pants and not external validation to how we look. It's a feeling of flow and energy.
The small routines and habits that combine into the overall system of our life is what makes our goals into reality. Most people start the process of change by thinking about the outcomes they want to accomplish. How much weight do I want to lose? How much money do I want to earn? But I think it is often more useful to focus on the type of person you wish to become: your identity that will have you achieve your desired outcome. The way to change outcomes is to focus on identity changes; so it’s not about eating less, or eating more healthy, as a behavior—but rather that you are now the type of person who eats better.
One of the most important life skills to develop, for those just starting out in life (and everyone else!), is the skill of self-discipline.It’s like a superpower. One of the reasons we don’t have self-discipline is because we run from the hard, uncomfortable things. We would rather do the easy, comfortable, familiar things. One small task at a time, push yourself into discomfort. See how it feels. See that it’s not the end of the world. See that you are awesome enough to handle discomfort, and that the results are well worth it. When you have discipline you can have anything you want!
We are the creators of what we think and feel; if we can nourish a limiting thought or belief, then we can just as easily do the same for a non-limiting one. If we can build walls in our mind that obstruct our progress, then we can definitely knock them down. Self-doubt is a silent serpent that creeps into the patterns of our thinking and eats away at our self-belief. The miracle and magnitude of our soul does not contain self-doubt. We are the ones that open a door for it to walk through.
What is Vision\You weren’t born to do everything, but you were born to make an impact in this world. By discovering your vision, you have the extraordinary ability to contribute to this world making it a better place all while living a life of purpose. Vision is the act or power which gives a direction to our life to make our goals and dreams a reality. It is important to have vision and purpose because it helps make our decisions that create our lifestyle. Discovering your vision isn’t that hard. Each of us is put here on earth for a purpose. We want to achieve and accomplish certain things during our lifetime, and for most of us, the passion we feel deep down ignites us and brings our hopes and dreams to the surface. What are you deeply passionate about? What type of work do you find engaging and truly enjoy? If someone were to describe you, what words would you want them to use? At the end of your life, what will be the greatest accomplishment?
Yo-yo dieting starts when someone restricts calories one-way or another. This includes restricting carbohydrates, fat, bread, gluten, or meat, and the result is usually a few pounds or more lost. Then, because of the extreme calorie restriction, they eventually indulge in whatever it was that was missing from their life, and eat more than they would on a usual day The guilt from an unsuccessful diet puts an emotional drain on a person and decreases self-esteem. Then, because of the weight gain, they will put themselves back on a “diet”. The process is up and down with not only weight but also emotions. I have found more success with weight loss clients by avoiding “dieting”. Instead, create a lifestyle plan with a weight loss goal, and more importantly, a goal for a healthier lifestyle that promotes longevity and disease prevention. It also helps increase mental health by decreasing the emotional drain caused by being “on a diet”.
This podcast is all about un-conditioning the conditions we have been taught our entire life. Around ourselves, our goals and how our life should look and be. Enjoy
Uncertainty calls for creativity, perspective shifts and focus. Here is a short podcast on how to deal with what is happening in the world. Enjoy Kate
What's the foundation to your future? What is it built on? Fear, low self esteem, failures? Or a vision, confidence and unshakable faith in your mission in life. Listen to this podcast! Love, Kate
We live in an age where discovering your purpose includes a trail of personality tests, weekend retreats, and purpose-driven paperbacks. This often leaves us selfishly striving and stressed out. What drives us to seek purpose in life is an inner longing to make a difference. We want to leave our fingerprints on the face of this earth as proof that we were here. Enjoy! Love, Kate
The beauty of evolving is creating a new future. But how often do we hold ourselves to the past?... a lot Past relationships, work environments, friendships, goals. Whatever it may be we typically relate to ourselves as the person we once were. What about living into a future free of your past with a new mentality, behaviors and actions. Take a listen to this podcast and enjoy! Love, Coach Kate
Do you have a blueprint when if comes to your exercise and nutrition? Listen to this podcast about creating a new blue print and designing a kingdom that is substantial to creating/living a vibrant life that suits and serves you! Love, Kate
Here in this podcast I talk about the concept of detox and priming yourself. So often we put sugar on top of shit excepting a different result. When you don’t remove the toxins from our mind, environment, goals you will always end up the same place. Listen to this podcast and try out this approach! Love, Kate
A lot of times in life we can look at discipline and only think of diet and exercise but after a conversation with my friend Mike my view on disciplined opened up. Have you never thought about being disciplined about your feelings, distractions, current reality and your natural reactions? Listen to this podcast and try on a new pair lenses about being disciplined :) Love, Kate
What truly holds us back?? Thoughts, people, places and things?? Listen to this podcast about how I break down when I experience feelings of fear and negative anticipation. Love, Kate
What is health to you ? When you hear the word health what comes to your mind? Listen to this podcast about looking at health as a whole and transforming your views about creating a lifestyle that serves you and your greater self!! Love, Kate
So often we set goals onto of our old ways of being. I believe we need to look at our habits when we are setting out to accomplish a goal. Listen to my approach and see where you can apply this method!
The episode is all about shedding a different light on mental awareness and the healing of depression. The power of food and exercise and the extensive impact it has had in my life. I share my experiences, tools and knowledge. Stay tuned for more!!
This is my first recorded episode sharing a little bit about myself, the show and the process of getting the podcast started.