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On the Glass Ceiling, Sandra Ezekwesili leads a panel of women and men from all works of life to take an unflinching look at the barriers holding women back especially in Nigeria.
They discuss gender inequality in culture, politics, religion, and society, but always from a constructive angle, asking "how do we fix this"?
On air every Wednesday at 4pm on 99.3 Nigeria Info Lagos or www.nigeriainfo.fm
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We are talking about all things period. Period pain, period sex and pregnancy, the needless stigma around menstruation
What Should You Know About Periods?
Today on the Glass Ceiling, Let's talk about breastfeeding.
What Should You Know About Breastfeeding?
NigeriaInfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
On the GlassCeiling, let’s talk about the emotional support people need to escape domestic violence.
How do we support abuse victims emotionally?
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
Nnennaya Onu was murdered in her late father’s compound while demanding for her right, and her mother’s right, to inherit his property.
Will There Be Justice For Nnennaya Onu?
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Nnennaya Onu was murdered in her late father’s compound while demanding for her right, and her mother’s right, to inherit his property.
Will There Be Justice For Nnennaya Onu?
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
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How Much Longer Will Nigerian Women Occupy NASS?
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
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On the #GlassCeiling:
Are Work-At-Home Spouses Co-Owners Of Family Wealth?
If you’re a work-at-home spouse, do you believe you are entitled to half the wealth in your home?
NigeriaInfoHF Sandra Ezekwesili
On the #GlassCeiling:
Can The National Assembly Protect New Widows?
The House of Reps. is debating a bill to amend the Violence Against Persons Prohibition Act (VAAP Act)
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📌We finally got a judgment in the Abuja Raid On Women case.
📌We hosted the first-ever Glass Ceiling Convention
📌There was the story about a special assistant to the Ebonyi State Governor resigning to save her Marriage.
📌Then there was the story of some work-at-home wives faking illness and getting hospitalized because of excessive housework.
📌And that led us to a big conversation about how society treats Work At Home Spouses.
📌And as if to confirm our point, a Kenyan court ruled that work-at-home spouses are entitled to financial compensation.
📌We had a very important conversation about Gender Equality in Parenting.
📌We talked quite a bit about women as Breadwinners, especially after the Australian study which showed they were more likely to be abused by their spouses.
📌And then, there was the proposal at the National Assembly to create women-only seats.
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On the #GlassCeiling:
Are Wives Who Make More Money More Likely To Be Abused?
Australian Bureau of Statistics has been collecting very detailed data on domestic abuse and violence for a long time. But over the last 10 years, they’ve been collecting very detailed data about domestic violence as it relates to income. And here’s what the data shows.
The moment a woman starts making more than half the money in the family, the chances of her husband abusing her emotionally increase by 20%.
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
On the #GlassCeiling:
Are Wives Who Make More Money More Likely To Be Abused?
Australian Bureau of Statistics has been collecting very detailed data on domestic abuse and violence for a long time. But over the last 10 years, they’ve been collecting very detailed data about domestic violence as it relates to income. And here’s what the data shows.
The moment a woman starts making more than half the money in the family, the chances of her husband abusing her emotionally increase by 20%.
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
On the #GlassCeiling:
Are Wives Who Make More Money More Likely To Be Abused?
Australian Bureau of Statistics has been collecting very detailed data on domestic abuse and violence for a long time. But over the last 10 years, they’ve been collecting very detailed data about domestic violence as it relates to income. And here’s what the data shows.
The moment a woman starts making more than half the money in the family, the chances of her husband abusing her emotionally increase by 20%.
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
On the #GlassCeiling:
Are Wives Who Make More Money More Likely To Be Abused?
Australian Bureau of Statistics has been collecting very detailed data on domestic abuse and violence for a long time. But over the last 10 years, they’ve been collecting very detailed data about domestic violence as it relates to income. And here’s what the data shows.
The moment a woman starts making more than half the money in the family, the chances of her husband abusing her emotionally increase by 20%.
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
Monday was the International Day Of The Girl. And the theme this year is “Digital Generation, Our Generation”. By choosing this theme, the United Nations is asking all of us to reflect on what needs to be done to make sure that girls have equal access to Digital Literacy skills as boys so that as they grow up, they can become equal stakeholders in the Digital Economy.
Are Our Schools Discouraging Girls From Going Into Tech?
A work-at-home wife shared this on social media QUOTE:
“I am here again. Please the pressure of being a housewife is too much, and hubby doesn’t see all I do but comes home complaining. I need someone (preferably a doctor) that can give me a hospital that would agree to keep me on bed rest or preferably write that I stay at home and rest for at least one week. Something convincing please with real hospital terms. I don’t mind paying a token.” END QUOTE.
Are Work-At-Home Spouses Getting The Help They Need?
GlassCeiling | Sandra Ezekwesili
Are Work-At-Home Spouses Getting Their Financial Due?
These people who are often women are working very hard.
They’re running a home, they’re raising kids, they’re ensuring food is available, they’re planning meals, they’re keeping things clean… They’re doing the jobs of multiple people, and getting the financial reward of zero.
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
Are Work-At-Home Spouses Getting Their Financial Due?
These people who are often women are working very hard.
They’re running a home, they’re raising kids, they’re ensuring food is available, they’re planning meals, they’re keeping things clean… They’re doing the jobs of multiple people, and getting the financial reward of zero.
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
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On the #GlassCeiling:
Are Work-At-Home Spouses Getting Their Financial Due?
These people who are often women are working very hard.
They’re running a home, they’re raising kids, they’re ensuring food is available, they’re planning meals, they’re keeping things clean… They’re doing the jobs of multiple people, and getting the financial reward of zero.
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
On the #GlassCeiling, let's talk about the Abuja Raid On Women
Two years ago, authorities in Abuja conducted a massive raid that targeted innocent women, going about their business. They were targeted because they were found on the street at night, or in hotels, or in restaurants.
How Was The “Raid On Women” Court Battle Won?
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
Let’s talk about the idea of women as breadwinners.
How can we get to the point where more people stop seeing money as a reason to have more power than your spouse in the relationship?
How do we get people to leave behind the idea that there MUST be a head of house, and instead consider cooperation and partnership with their spouse?
How do we make society more accepting of a woman being the breadwinner?
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
Let’s talk about the idea of women as breadwinners.
How do we make society more accepting of a woman being the breadwinner?
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
Let's talk about homes where the wife is the breadwinner.
How do things change when the wife is the one making more money, or making ALL the money?
And WHY do those things change? Is it because of the wife, or the husband, or both? Or is it due to external pressures and expectations?
Do we expect a level of humility from women with money, that we don’t expect from men with money?
Is there an extra level of subservience we expect from women to their husbands that we don’t expect from men to their wives?
Now I’m not saying anyone should lord it over anyone. Not husbands, and not wives. But I’m just asking: when it happens, do we shout more about wives doing it, than we do about husbands doing it? And if so, why?
What Happens When A Woman Is The Breadwinner?
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
On the #GlassCeiling, let's talk about homes where the wife is the breadwinner.
What are some of the things men are worried about when it comes to their wives earning more, or being the breadwinner? Women, what have you or your fellow women experienced when you were the breadwinner, versus when your husband was the breadwinner?
What Happens When A Woman Is The Breadwinner?
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
On the GlassCeiling, let's talk about homes where the wife is the breadwinner.
What are some of the things men are worried about when it comes to their wives earning more, or being the breadwinner? Women, what have you or your fellow women experienced when you were the breadwinner, versus when your husband was the breadwinner?
What Happens When A Woman Is The Breadwinner?
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
On today's #TheGlassCeiling, look at this story:
"There was a lady who I wanted to come and work with us. But she didn't have an MBA. So included it in her offer letter.
She turned the offer down because her husband said that it would be bad for their marriage if she got a masters before him."
What do you think about her husband's reason?
What do you think of the wife's decision to give up the job?
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
Let’s talk about a man who stopped his wife from getting a Masters Degree.
We’re talking about situations where husbands see a wife’s continuing education or career advancement as a threat.
#NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
On the #GlassCeiling:
Why Are Women Getting Harassed For Wearing Abayas?
We’re talking about this because it’s happening right now, in different parts of Nigeria. I started noticing the discussion on social media about 3 weeks ago. Apparently, men of different ages are accosting abaya-wearing women in public.
They’re claiming that it’s not a decent way for a Muslim women to dress. She’s too exposed apparently. And these women are subjected to all kinds of assault: from heckling, to insults, to physical assault.
NigeriainfoHF | Sandra Ezekwesili
Today on the GlassCeiling:
Let's talk about Parenting and Gender Inequality?
How Does Parenting Increase Or Reduce Gender Inequality?
NigeriainfoHF | @SEzekwesili
On today's Glass Ceiling, let's talk
How Does Parenting Increase Or Reduce Gender Inequality?
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On today's Glass Ceiling, let's talk
How Does Parenting Affect Gender Equality?
#NigeriainfoHF | @SEzekwesili
Today on the GlassCeiling:
A bill that seeks to create 111 seats solely for women in the National Assembly has passed its second reading.
Should Nigeria’s Legislatures Reserve Seats For Women?
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@SEzekwesili
Why shouldn’t fathers and mothers have EQUAL childcare responsibility?
Is childcare the primary responsibility of fathers, mothers, or both?
NigeriainfoHF | @SEzekwesili
Today on the GlassCeiling: Let's talk about who should be responsible for childcare?
Why shouldn’t fathers and mothers have EQUAL childcare responsibility?
NigeriainfoHF | @SEzekwesili
Today on the GlassCeiling:
Let's talk about who should be responsible for childcare?
Why shouldn’t fathers and mothers have EQUAL childcare responsibility?
NigeriainfoHF | @SEzekwesili
Today’s Glassbreaker is a conqueror in the space of Activism, Advocacy, the grooming of women for leadership, social change philosophy, and media.
Let’s talk about the Glass Ceiling Convention and Nigerian Women Taking Political Power
Let’s talk about the Glass Ceiling Convention and Nigerian Women Taking Political Power
Two of GlassCon panellists. @HenshawKate and @ibijokefaborode from ElectHer joins @SEzekwesili
Did You Attend #GlassCon2021?
Who should be responsible for childcare?
Is childcare the primary responsibility of fathers, mothers, or both?
TheGlassCeiling | @SEzekwesili
Who should be responsible for childcare?
Is childcare the primary responsibility of fathers, mothers, or both?
TheGlassCeiling | @SEzekwesili
Who should be responsible for running the household? Do you believe a man’s only real job is to make money and come back? And do you believe handling the domestic chores is a woman’s job? #TheGlassCeiling |
@SEzekwesili
Who should be responsible for running the household?
Do you believe a man’s only real job is to make money and come back?
And do you believe handling the domestic chores is a woman’s job?
What about situations where the woman ALSO goes out and works to earn money for the family?
Is it still fair for the husband to remove hand from the domestic work?
TheGlassCeiling with Sandra Ezekwesili
This week’s Glassbreaker is a giant of the movie world. She’s an award-winning film director and producer. Her name is Mildred Okwo,
I talked about the story last Thursday on The Big 3. A Police Officer posted to Ekiti State has been fired for getting pregnant outside of wedlock. And we had a conversation about it. And ever since then, this single question keeps repeating in my head:
Why Does The Police Force Dismiss Unmarried Officers For Getting Pregnant?
Why do so many husbands make their wives choose between career and marriage?
Last week, I brought you the story of Emerald Udeakaji of Ebonyi State, who was a Special Assistant to Governor David Umahi, and how she had to resign to save her marriage.
Today on #TheGlassCeiling, let's talk to yet another Glassbreaker.
Georgina Ehuriah-Arisa MON conquered the world of Civil Service, retiring as Permanent Secretary at the Ministry of the Interior.
What does it take to survive and thrive as a woman in an MDA?
Why do so many husbands make their wives choose between career and marriage? Last week Emerald Udeakaji, Special Assistant to Governor David Umahi on Business Development resigned because, as she said, her marriage is tearing apart. #TheGlassCeiling with
@SEzekwesili
Who should cook in the home? Shouldn’t every adult be able to cook for themselves? Today on #TheGlassCeiling let's talk about who should cook in the home! #NigeriainfoHF | @SEzekwesili
Who should cook in the home?
Women are getting beaten, maimed, and KILLED over it.
A few months ago, in Kenya, a woman went for a family funeral. She was there all day. When she came home, her husband was angry that she left the house without cooking. And so, he chopped off her hand with a knife.
has shown you the barriers holding women back. Now let her show you the women that are shattering them. Introducing "Glass breakers". Our first Glassbreaker is conquering the world of publishing and editing. New Year, New Glass Ceiling.
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Let’s talk look at the biggest topics from 2020. We’ve covered a lot of ground on the show this year. Now, let’s have a fresh discussion about those stories.
Let's talk about leadership in your church, or mosque, or shrine, or temple. Let's talk about leadership in society. In Government, the workplace. Does your religion believe women shouldn’t be bosses? Does it believe women shouldn’t be Presidents/Governors? #TheGlassCeiling
Which approach do YOU think will end gender-based violence? Option A: Arrest the offenders, and send a message to abusers that they'll be jailed. Option B: The Governor, or Pastor, or Police, or the family, will step in, and help beg and reconcile the couple? #TheGlassCeiling
Today on #TheGlassCeiling, let's talk about women in leadership. What is it about Nigerian society, that makes a lot of people CHOOSE to ignore the great leadership ability in women, and insist that men should be preferred as leaders? #NigeriainfoHF | @SEzekwesili
Today on #TheGlassCeiling, let's talk some more about women in leadership. Why does the Nigerian society choose to ignore the great leadership abilities of women, and insist that men should be preferred as leaders? @SEzekwesili
Today on #TheGlassCeiling, let's talk about women in leadership. What is it about Nigerian society, that makes a lot of people CHOOSE to ignore the great leadership ability in women, and insist that men should be preferred as leaders? http://Nigeriainfo.fm
Has Nigeria FULLY accepted the fact that women are every inch as capable of leadership - at all levels - as men? Today on #TheGlassCeiling, let's talk about leadership. Why does Nigerian society still not fully concede that women and men are equally capable of leadership?
Has Nigeria FULLY accepted the fact that women are every inch as capable of leadership - at all levels - as men? Today on #TheGlassCeiling, let's talk about leadership. Why does Nigerian society still not fully concede that women and men are equally capable of leadership?
What do you think about the Feminist Coalition’s contribution to the End SARS protests? Why does Nigerian society still not fully concede that women and men are equally capable of leadership? A soldier who assaulted a woman at an ATM in Oshodi on Monday. #HardFacts
Do you make your wife cook fresh food everyday? Does your HUSBAND make you cook new food everyday? If you’re a man, what are the reasons? If you’re a woman, how do you feel about this? Today on #TheGlassCeiling let's talk about cooking!
Everyday, we talk about the various ways women are being held back CULTURALLY. But when you look at them, a lot of the time, fellow women are doing the holding. Let's talk about why this happens on today's #TheGlassCeiling with @SEzekwesili
Let's talk about why some women engage in dehumanizing their fellow women. Are women united in the fight for equality with the men? Would more be achieved if women united in one voice?
These and more in this episode of the #TheGlassCeiling with @SEzekwesili
Vanishing Twin or Stolen Baby? You decide. Listen to @SEzekwesili talk to Mr and Mrs Karuna on #TheGlassCeiling
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How Do We Protect Widows’ Rights?
It’s International Youth Day, but let’s remember that young and middle-aged women are widowed every day as well. And so, all the terrible widowhood ordeals we’ve been talking about for the last few weeks, are happening to young people too. So today, we’ll be talking MORE about that, but also talking solutions.
HardFacts | Sandra Ezekwesili
TheGlassCeiling: If your widowed mother wanted to remarry, would you approve?
Has the situation come up for you?
Or are you a widow?
Has there been an expectation of you NOT to remarry?
How do you feel about it?
Why do you think so many people in our society put this expectation on widows?
HardFacts | Sandra Ezekwesil
Turns out the NBA is a reflection of the Nigerian society
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TheGlassCeiling: Is a woman from her home state, her husband’s home state, or both?
Last week, the President nominated Nimi Akinkugbe as an ambassador from Ondo but some people in Ondo are opposing this because she is from Rivers State.
Do you agree with YAYON and the Ondo Youth Coalition? Or, do you think Akinkugbe is qualified, and is an Ondo woman by marriage?
Nimi Akinkugbe. She’s been married to her husband, Yinka, for 30 years, and they have 3 children. She’s a graduate of the London School of Economics. She has an MBA - a Masters in Business Administration. She worked in banking for over 20 years. In that time, she rose up to be General Manager of Private Banking at Stanbic IBTC, and then she moved to Barclays Bank, an international bank, where she became West Africa Regional Director for the Wealth & Investment Management Division.
Nimi Akinkugbe was born to a Rivers family. Her original surname is Ajumogobia.
We talked about how our society gives rapists a “soft landing”, and how that’s ONE of the reasons rape is so rampant. No consequences. There are MANY ways that our society basically makes it easy for people who rape people, to get away with it, without any permanent repercussions.
We have so many people, in Nigeria, raping with impunity. Because they believe nothing will happen. And you know what? They’re USUALLY right. USUALLY, we let the rapist go.
Sometimes it’s because they have power, and so they intimidate enough people.
Or sometimes, it’s because they have money, and so they pay enough people off.
Or sometimes, it’s because they are LIKED. Simply because they are LIKED. And so, we PITY them. We pity the rapist more than we pity the survivor. And so we say “forgive him na. Do you want to ruin his life?”
What about the survivor’s life?
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This episode took the blame to where it wqs always meant to be; away frin the victims and solely on the rapist. Why do rapists rape?
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What makes men disrespect women’s homes and spaces in a way they don’t with their fellow men? This episode explores this subject.
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What makes men disrespect women’s homes and spaces in a way they don’t with their fellow men? This episode explores this subject.
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This epsiode continues from the previous one, exploring the answers Lagos shares.
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This epsiode tries to answer this question with varying answers from Lagos.
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The lockdown affected the world in numerous ways and as with many things, had an added layer for women and girls. All over the world, reports of domestic violence and sexual abuse rose dramatically. This episode triea to answer why.
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The lockdown affected the world in numerous ways and as with many things, had an added layer for women and girls. All over the world, reports of domestic violence and sexual abuse rose dramatically. This episode triea to answer why.
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We talk about the Actors’ Guild of Nigeria making Senator Elisha Abbo a Patron. Some actors don’t like it, because we all remember him beating up a woman on camera.
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On this episode, we talk about the Acting Chief Judge in Cross River State, who was NOT confirmed, because she is originally from Akwa Ibom. This is even though she is the most senior judge in the State, and her husband is from there.
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To mark International Women’s Day, we did something different this week. There is no special topic, and in fact, you won’t be hearing from me. You will be hearing from other women. Everyday women. Sixty Women over the next Sixty Minutes. These women, from all works of life, from all ages, and from all over the globe, answered a question I asked: “What would you change about Nigeria, to make life better for women?” They thought about it, based on the lives THEY have lived, and sent me their answers. And here they are.
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What would you change about Nigeria to make life better for Nigerians.
These and more in this episode of the #TheGlassCeiling with @SEzekwesili
The Nigerian Law holds women back in so many ways. This episode explores all the ways it does this.
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It’s a topic that many people often find to UNCOMFORTABLE to discuss. But because of that discomfort, so many men are suffering in silence. Does thay discomfort come from the same tap that holds women back?
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It’s a topic that many people often find to UNCOMFORTABLE to discuss. But because of that discomfort, so many men are suffering in silence. Does thay discomfort come from the same tap that holds women back?
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On this episode, we continued last week’s conversation. Last week, I brought you a story that Pastor Adeboye told. I’m talking about Pastor Enoch Adeboye, the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God. He was tweeting about how to handle sexual tension in a workplace. Like I told you last week, the title of his sermon was “Crush That Crush”. It was really for married people. He was advising them not to allow friendships or work relationships with people of the opposite sex get TOO close, or TOO emotional, because na from clap dance dey start. Friendships lead to crushes, which COULD lead to something more. And he focused workplace crushes.
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A group of women are petitioning the National Youth Service Corps, to let them DECLINE to wear the trousers. They want to have the option to wear SKIRTS as part of their NYSC uniform. The group is called the “Serve with Skirts Movement".
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On this episode of the Glass Ceiling we talked about the idea of women getting fired and not getting employed, whenever male employers are worried about attraction. We looked at a tweet by Pastor Enoch Adeboye, that a married man should FIRE his secretary if he likes her too much, to save his marriage.
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This has come up because by the Nigerian Constitution, a foreign woman can become a citizen if she marries a Nigerian, but a foreign man cannot get Nigerian citizenship from his wife.
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We took a look at the ways in which the images and ideas that are communicated to us through entertainment may normalize, perpetuate, and justify rape culture.
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We took a look at the ways in which the images and ideas that are communicated to us through entertainment may normalize, perpetuate, and justify rape culture.
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On this episode, we talked about the EFFECTS this pressure has on young couples.
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We discuss this other common reason why people put pressure on young couples to have children. Children are seen as a sign of God’s Blessings, and having children is seen as God’s will. Have YOU ever felt that way? Did you ever feel under pressure to have children, for the sake of your parents or relatives? Do you know anyone who is under that pressure? Why do you think parents put so much pressure on their children, especially their daughters, to give them grandchildren? What can we do, as a society, to reduce this particular pressure?
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The pressure on women to procreate continues in this episode and takes a critical look at the need to carry on the family name as a possible factor for why society mounts pressure on women to have children.
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On this episode, we continued a very powerful conversation about baby factories. Baby factories were in the news because the Lagos State Police Command raided a chain of them. So because it was in the headlines, we talked about them with two women who know a LOT about baby factories, because they have done a lot of work to fight human trafficking, and to expose the social issues behind the rise of baby factories. They had their time last week. This episode was all about you.
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Over the last two episodes, we had a very powerful conversation about baby factories. At the start of the month, the Lagos State Police Command raided a chain of them. Last week, I brought the conversation to you. I asked you to call in, and share what YOU know about baby factories. You talked to me about WHY they exist. Why are people going to baby factories? Why is there a demand? And most of your answers came down to one point: People feel under IMMENSE pressure to have BIOLOGICAL children.
Thats what we discuss here.
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A few weeks ago, the Lagos State Police Command raided a chain of baby factories. This is just the latest in a LONG list of discovered baby factories all over the country, since at least 2006. Baby factories are places where pregnant women are kept, often against their will, until they give birth. The babies are then sold secretly. So on this episode, we talk about baby factories and the several crimes, and several problems, rolled into this huge criminal enterprise.
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This week, the BBC aired a documentary that turned a spotlight on an area where many young people, especially women, are being victimized every day, here in Nigeria. On this episode, on the Glass Ceiling, we are talking about “Sex For Grades”.
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On this episode, we talked about a very normal thing we all have done, or we all will do if you are an independent person. Yet, even while doing this very basic thing, women face an extra obstacle:
They were not married.
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On this episode, we are took on a crime that is destroying lives both within and outside Nigeria. The crime is human trafficking, especially sex trafficking.
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Domestic work/Household chores seemed to be the main sticking point that was causing conflict in the homes of the Nigerians living in the diaspora whom we talked about in our last two episodes. These women were working for long hours outside the home – often longer hours than their husbands. But their husbands STILL expected them to handle ALL the domestic work. Cooking. Cleaning. School runs. Childcare. Grocery shopping. Laundry. All the things that keep a home running. We talk about House work and Gender Roles on this episode.
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We are continuing the conversation we had in part 1, but taking it in a slightly different direction. On this episode, we want to explore the mental health and psychological side of this phenomenon. Some American researchers conducted a study into the Domestic & Intimate Partner Violence Among Nigerian Nurses In The United States. And we have one of the doctors who conducted the research on our podcast today. He is the Medical Director of Errera Community Care Center at Virginia-Connecticut Healthcare System. He is also Project Lead on The HAPPINESS Project which aims to increase access to evidence-based treatments for mental, neurological and substance use disorders in Nigeria. And we will be talking to him about that work as well. His name is Dr Theddeus Iheanacho.
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Irene Chidinma Nwoye wrote an article for Al-Jazeera called: “The hotline trying to stop men murdering their wives”. The article put a spotlight on a BIG problem in the Nigerian community in America: Lots of women, ESPECIALLY nurses, are suffering domestic violence at the hands of their husbands, and some of them are getting murdered. It’s a story we have been hearing about in bits and pieces over the years. It’s been murmured here and there. But this article really painted the big picture, and it talked about the efforts of the National Association of Nigerian Nurses in North America (NANNNA) to fight the problem. But a couple of weeks ago, the article started trending again, on Nigerian social media. People started talking about the hotline, and about the SOCIAL forces behind the t trend. Some people were condemning all the murders of nurses. But others were also attacking the nurses, and taking the side of the HUSBANDS. So on this episode, we talk about why this is happening. We talk about the cultural issues that are leading to all this domestic violence and murder, and the JUSTIFICATION of it by so many people.
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Sandra spoke with St. Petersbell Jigo about the entire spectrum of gender issues in Nigeria. St. Petersbell is an oil and gas executive, a life coach, a philanthropist, and a revivalist.
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On this episode, I talked about mental health with Hauwa Ojeifo, founder and CEO of She Writes Women, a movement that provides mental health services to women. Mental health challenges impact both men and women, so while we talked about challenges common with or unique to women, we also kept the conersation relevant for both genders. Because it is.
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So when we talk about "women and inheritance", let us remember we mean TWO categories of women. We mean daughters inheriting from their parents, but we ALSO mean WIVES inheriting from their husbands. And we are going to be talking about both phenomena separately.
Why do some cultures exclude daughters and wives?
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This episode is all about clearing the air. There is too much tension and misunderstanding around the issue of feminism in Nigeria.
So today is all about dialogue. Today, you will tell me what you think feminism is about, and I will have my guest – a feminist – telling you
what feminism is REALLY about. Let us see if there is a meeting of the minds somewhere. And then, once we are clear on what the TRUE
definition of feminism is, we can talk about whether or not feminism is a good thing for society.
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On this episode, Sandra looks at all the various avenues that put boys and young men at risk of rape. She talked about the aspects of rape culture in our society that makes men a target. She talked about the ways we can fight and suppress these aspects of our society and culture, to make life safer for all of us.
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This topic was inspired by something terrible happening in our country. The police raids and illegal arrest of women in Abuja.
The police went to different spots in our nation's capital, and arrested just about every woman they saw. They accused them of prostitution.
Women who could prove they were married were released. The single women were dragged off into police vans and pickups, and driven to Utako Police Station.
The women, and people who spoke with them, claim they were extorted for money, and some were sexually assaulted.
Over 70 women were taken to the station that night, to join others who had been previously arrested.
No man was arrested.
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On this episode, we talk about rape culture in one particular institution. The church.
Religious bodies are institutions like every other. They are made up of people. All types of people. There are rapists in every organization. The question is: does my organization give them room to operate?
We are hearing many stories about sexual abuse, sexual grooming, sexual harassment, and rape by church workers. But more disturbingly, we hear stories about these crimes being covered up not just by church officials, but even by members, including the families of the survivors.
We discuss how big the problem is, and try to figure out how to HELP the church fight it.
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On this episode, we discussed an issue that comes up a lot in Nigeria. State of origin.
Like most things in Nigeria, federal character affects men and women very very differently
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The FCTA and the AEPB sent a task force with police escort to various nightclubs in Abuja and arrested 70 patrons of these nightclubs, and even people just in the vicinity.
All of them were women.
The task force accused these women of being sex workers. Any of them who couldn't prove they were married, by showing a wedding ring, were arrested. The married women were released. The arrested women say that police physically assaulted them, extorted them for money, and raped them. They were denied access to lawyers and legal advice.
On this episode, we ask why.
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On this episode we looked at some of the major ways our laws make life harder for women. We want to look at how these laws and legal attitudes impact women at home, in the workplace, and in society.
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We talked about some of the challenges women face in the workplace, that slow their advancement up the corporate or business ladder on this episode.
Here in Nigeria, women have a smaller percentage of the workforce, because men get hired more often than women.
The percentage of women in management is even smaller than the percentage of women workers, because even fewer women are getting promoted.
And as for rising to the very top of Corporate Nigeria, to become CEOs and MDs, it is still mostly a Boy’s Club.
Why is it that the higher you go, the fewer women you see? What can be done to change this?
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We continued our conversation about Marital Rap. Why it keeps happening, why the rapists are usually not stopped, and what we all can do to wipe it out from society.
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This episode takes on a subject that is quite controversial in Nigeria, even though it shouldn't be.
Marital rape or spousal rape is the act of sexual intercourse with one's spouse without the spouse's consent.
Why is there a controversy about this? Why is the rape of one human being by another seen by some in our society as tolerable, or even not rape at all, simply because they are married to each other?
What can and should be done to sensitive Nigerians about this form of violence, and to protect women and men from it?
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On this episode, we discuss sexual harassment as we experience and witness it here in Nigeria.
It happens here so often that a woman finally said "enough in enough", and other women said "amen", and joined her. They organized the first ever "Market March", which went into Yaba Market, to protest how the male shopkeepers treat female shoppers, and to raise awawareness.
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Women on the road to power face at every milestone obstacles and challenges that their male co-travellers do not even have to THINK about.
We talked on this episode about those challenges. We discussed the way women in other nations have overcome these challenges, and whether those solutions can be applied in Nigeria.
But really, this conversation was about figuring out what ALL of us, women AND men, can do in our own space, to bring about better gender parity in government, and why this is a win for everybody.
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Let's take two examples, one from pop culture, and the other from sociology. So in pop culture you have women who started calling themselves "slay queens" because they were slaying life. They were doing well at work and at home, and looking good doing it. They congratulated themselves online by calling themselves slay queens.
Now, the term has been twisted and made into something derogatory.
In sociology, we have feminist. A feminist is anyone who believes in gender equality, and that women have the same rights as men. Simple. It's an ideology. But Nigerian society has twisted the meaning of the word to the point that many women are AFRAID of being Called feminists.
Why does this keep happening? Why does society twist the labels women give themselves into something ugly?
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