The House That Built Me: Recent Episodes
The House That Built Me
Hey! Join Deb and Nina as they discuss their childhood, their family's quirks, and how their lives became molded by their past. This podcast explores the homes that built our personalities, why we do what we do, and the good, the bad and the ugly of growing up.
As our lives have had gains and losses in a whirlwind of a summer, Nina and I have decided to take a little hiatus to breathe and recuperate as the world wakes up full speed ahead around us.
We are taking some time to enjoy the summer, re-center our spiritual and mental growth.
We will be back soon, with new content, new laughs and new house stories that built us!
If only movies and tv shows were a little more relatable.
In this episode Deb and Nina discuss how media doesn't embrace un-happy endings enough. Montages and make-overs always seem to trump grief and growth.
Media may be an escape but it is a reflection, so reflect the truth.
If you tell me to smile I will throw something at you.
In this episode Deb and Nina discuss the far reaching tendrils of toxic masculinity, how it affects out dating lives, how we dress, and how we raise our kids.
Listen as they discuss arm wrestling, earnings, and the inferior complexities of toxic masculinity.
TW : This episode contains references to domestic abuse.
How deep are your pockets? How big are the holes in them?
In this episode listen to Deb and Nina discuss their debt, who they owe and the mistaken allures of "free" money.
Banks are just legal loan sharks, debt is that demon on your shoulder, and the devil got marketing in his exit interview.
Trigger Warning : This episode discusses suicide.
Innocents is over-sexualized and women everywhere are convinced that they need to look/act/dress younger to be desired.
In this episode Deb and Nina discuss the obsession with virginity, the missing conversations, opportunistic predators and the deep stemming issues of virgin culture.
So much weight is put on the imaginary "integrity" of one's hymen that there are way too many people making money off of them. The bad, the worse and the ugly.
Trigger Warning : This episode contains conversation about grooming, sexual assault, and unconsented masturbation.
You're hungry, you're angry and ... you'll get the salad.
In the episode Deb and Nina discuss the contentious relationship of food in media, how its only the men that eat, and women are only "allowed"to eat through heartbreak and menstruation. The never ending la-la-land machine doesn't show good relationships with food and so the public doesn't learn good food relationships.
Eat what you want, when you want it, and if your date is offended, call an uber and order a pizza.
TW: The episodes contains body dysmorphia and eating disorders.
What a price to pay to be a lady. From your head to your toes, we pay a pretty penny to be pretty.
In this episode Deb and Nina rage rant about being paying for men's goods from a lesser wage, the mental, time and emotional expense of being a woman and ridiculous nature of the pink tax.
If you're gonna charge us more, PAY US MORE! We are enough without lacey bras, expensive makeup, and our virginities.
What's with all the hate online? Cancel culture is everywhere, and everybody seems to thrive on scandals of youtubers, celebrities and stars alike.
Listen in as Nina and Deb talk about public criticism, keyboard warriors, and the hypocrisy of public apologies.
Haters seem to be another cog in the capitalist's machine so unplug so that the money stops rolling to the people you hate.
Have you felt the air shift in a room? Or the sudden urge to look up only to see nothing out of the ordinary?
In this episode Deb and Nina discuss the supernatural, occult and old wives tales meant to protect you from the other realm.
Listen as they discuss the ecological crisis created by the funeral industry, lost family members, and respecting the dead.
To love a female villain is to recognize what makes them a good archetype.
In this episode Deb and Nina discuss good and bad female villains, the overuse of the seductress trope and children movies have the best female villains.
Give women the villainy they deserve, and pull the lever (Kronk!) on the homewrecker.
How many times have you found yourself surrounded by clothes and still think "I have nothing to wear!" ?
The Fast Fashion industry has us convinced that there are 52 weeks of fashion, but maybe its time to follow you own fashion calendar.
In this episode, Nina and Deb rip a new hole into the fashion industry, talk about re-wearing clothes, baby kicks and the monsters in the closet.
If clothes are an extension of out personality, is the fast fashion industry convincing us that we "need" to change 52 times.
The essence of most organized religion is "Don't be an asshole", but it seems like most people didn't get the memo.
As we struggle to find faith and spiritually, the established religions seem to have way too many pre-requisites in order to worship and it seems to protect those who qualify no matter how evil their actions.
In this episode Deb and Nina share their thoughts on the organized religion hiding evil, satanic themes and Steve.
Listen in as they discuss their spiritually, how evil is in the eyes of the beholder and how powerful titles don't need our respect.
Have you said a word so many times that its lost its meaning? Was it the word "NO"?
In the episode Deb and Nina discuss consent, boundaries, and respect.
Whether its work, friendships, relationships or public settings, consent and boundaries should always be recognized and respected.
Sadly more often than not, as women, as millennials and as POCs they don't get to keep their boundaries, but they sure as hell wear their bitch crown in all their glory.
Trigger Warning: This episode discusses sexual assault.
Can we really rely on media to portray realistic high-schools?
In this episode Nina and Deb discuss the failures of main stream media at portraying high schoolers, and their problems.
Listen as they pull apart the flimsy writing and horrible plots of high-school shows and the toxic influence that it puts on kids still growing-up.
They didn't peak in high school and they are sure as hell better for it.
Where does our food come from? Does it come from our ancestral homes and cultures or has it been manipulated by the corporate machine to be more trendy and "healthy"?
In this episode Nina and Deb explore food gentrification, judgement and exploitation.
Food seems to have de-evolved into a popularity contest, and its nourishing roles in our lives have been forgotten.
Eat and let eat!
Just as sure as the sun rises everyday, the women in your life bleed.. PERIOD
Listen to Deb and Nina as they discuss their first periods, period stigma, period dances and period sisterhood.
While the world seems to have menstruation in incognito mode, they want to discuss it in the open.
Why demonize a women when we make breast milk AND war paint?
Deb's period product of choice (Canadian small business ): https://www.newmoonpads.com/
Nina's period products of choice : https://www.shethinx.com/ , https://divacup.com/
Move over (out), here come the rich people!
In this episode Nina and Deb discuss gentrification and the difference between community improvement and capitalist movement. In a world that benefits the big wigs and bulldozers, they've seen first hand the exploitations of a system not built for the small people and community.
Bring back no frills and small cultural grocery stores cause communities are made by the differences of its people.
The token POC character in your life(time movie) doesn't owe you advice.
In this episode of The Media That Built Us, Deb and Nina rip into Hollywood's diversity hires, trope personalities and the occupations of POC characters. This time Nina has conspiracy theories and Deb wants to watch the world burn.
POC characters seems to appear like genies to solve a problem and are never seen again.
Ah to remember travelling when the world was normal.
Listen to Deb and Nina as they discuss their bugs, travel and viral, being perpetually lost and getting on lists.
Journey with them as they avoid being taken, stay in hostels, eat in hole-in-the-wall restaurants and have an all around good time.
Do body mods affect your eligibility? Does your body mods incite riots, give you strength or are pieces of eternal memories?
Listen in on Nina and Deb as they discuss body mods, satanic panic, marketing, appropriation and misunderstood artistry.
Its the eternal will they or wont they get matching tattoos.
Louder for the people in the back... SORRY NOT SORRY!
Let's discuss over apologizing, fake apologizing, gaslighting and a whole slew of unappreciated behavior from coworkers, bosses, "friends" and community.
Listen in on Nina and Deb's experience with apologies, their journey to overcoming programming and calling the slate even.
Take no prisoners and call people out folks.
Welcome to the new segment of The House That Built Me, The Media That Built Me(Us)!
In this segment Deb and Nina discuss whether Media imitate Life or Life imitates Media.
Listen as they discuss their vastly different opinions on rom-coms, how sex-dice are involved and how some rom-coms really don't age well.
Let's be candid about the complexities of hosting parties, friends and family.
Listen to Nina, Deb and Nik as they recall their favorite party stories, the nightmares of organizing and the things that make every party worth it.
Stay tuned for party clean up, enabling behavior and all around degeneracy with a hint of responsibility.
Let's talk about material wealth, advertising propaganda and the poison of trends.
Join Nina and Deb as they discuss concepts of luxury versus the realities of living above your means.
Raised in different countries, they discuss displaying wealth to meet status quo, finessing the system for better education and the dismal lives of the old money.
Before Wedding Jitters comes Wedding Jenga.
Join Nina and Deb with Special Guest Mackenzie as they tackle Covid weddings, event planning and family expectations...especially when they don't make sense.
Balancing familial expectations, wedding traditions and guest list size should be considered an Olympic sport.
In this time of uncertainty and outbreak, Nina and Deb reminisce about how their parents reacted when they were sick.
Listen in as they discuss, old remedies, classic salves and European bitters; corporations capitalizing on public ingenuity and how expiry dates are just "suggestions".
We don't put Windex on things but we understand the sentiment.
Where do we learn to work hard and hustle?
When do we learn what we want to do in our life? Is it our decision? Our parent's? Our passion's?
Learn with Nina, Deb and Special guest Liora what hustling means to them and how careers influence their lives and their choices.
Listen to their journeys so far, what they believe the future holds, and tales of female empowerment in the workplace.
Be loud, be confident and hustle to your passions.
WELCOME BACK! Happy New Shenanigan Year!
Listen to Nina and Deb talk about their various practiced skills and their completely unrelated careers.
How do parents encourage their kids to practice the arts but don't necessarily encourage the arts?
Join them as they discuss crappy coaches, hours of practice and seeking passions as adults.
As the year comes to a close listen to Deb and Nina discuss their favorite episodes, rescue dogs, and being grateful for the small things.
The House That Built Me is taking a short break for the Holiday Season but will return bigger and better in the New Year with more guests, more discussions and more stories.
Today we find Joe a home.
Join Deb and Nina as they listen to Joe’s life from college to home, how families are found, and how some people have no concept of parenting.
I think its time we have the talk kids!
Listen to Nina and Deb stumble their way through learning about sex through "educational" channels and media as an influence.
This episode was awkward for all those involved, past, present and future.
Hear them discuss flowers blooming, AV club and [REDACTED].
Astrology at it's finest.
Hear Nina dissect Deb's personality with the universe in this harrowing episode.
Stay tuned to learn Deb's mistrust in technology, Nina in her element & conspiracy theories about the moon.
Fake interest, Feign ignorance and play dumb. Our personal mantras when it comes to dealing with aggression.
Deb and Nina discuss micro aggression or major aggressions, toxic relationships, racial bias, and evasion tactics.
Ever has a dream where you were invisible in a crowded room but everyone was talking about you?
Listen to Deb and Nina discuss spy kids, parental rose colored glasses and the misunderstanding the age is correlated to social skills.
Let's talk about robust, effective parenting skills.
Eavesdrop on Nina and Deb discuss their parent's choice words or wooden spoons for discipline.
They discuss punishment effectiveness, lasting impressions and the rebound time of discipline tactics.
Let's talk about millennial bilingual habits... Actually our own language habits.
Were you raised in a multilingual household? Or you know, watched to much Asian dramas?
Listen to Nina and Deb discuss how language can be used as a weapon or a virtue.
Join them as they discuss only knowing the important words (food duh).
Let's talk about the weight of our womanhood.
Listen in as Deb and Nina discuss reincarnation, men in power and How God is a Woman.
This episode touches on issues of abuse, violence against woman and ignorance.
If you or anybody you know may require help please reach out to your local or national help lines.
For the Ottawa Region
Violence Against Women Crisis 24/7 Line - 613-745-4818
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Ottawa Rape Crisis Centre (ORCC) Phone: 613-562-2333 Office Telephone Line: 613-562-2334
The Sexual Assault Support Centre of Ottawa Phone: 613-725-2160
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We didn't have paw patrol or peppa pig but we learned some stuff from Television.
Listen to Nina and Deb discuss the their Law and Order when it came to media exposure and growing up.
TV helped us learn languages, avoid culture shock and plain old procrastination. WARNING: Netflix hate on this episode
Always look for Makeup Removers.
Listen in on Deb and Nina discuss their personal methods to cope with anxiety, in times where it worked and in times where it didn't. Now as they are a little older and a little wiser listen to how they learned to take their anxiety make up off and become au natural.
B-e-a-u-tiful!
Let's talk about our skin and our hair and how we can't control the things it naturally wants to do in the elements and somehow its our problem we don't meet fucked up beauty standards. Whatever, we are darker and wiser and don't subscribe to white power.
Listen to Deb and Nina as they unpack unrealistic beauty standards and how its not "FAIR", touching on societal expectations and corruptions of natural beauty and preference.
Listen to Nina and Deb discuss the phrase "because I said so" and all other aliases of the same 4 words.
While most kids would probably stop arguing after this has been said, we both didn't, but you aren't really listening to us cause we are smart.
Listen in. why?.... Because We Said So.
Oh Brother (or Sister)!
Let's talk about our siblings!
Listen to Deb and Nina talk about siblings, age gaps, living together and black market organs.
Not the car! Not Bavarian Motors Work!
Listen for a new definition of the acronym B.M.W. Find out how one uncle shed light on a secret rule, how one mom didn't want to raise expectations, and how Deb and Nina didn't listen and did them anyway.
Roll Call!
Listen to Nina and Deb having identity crises as they discuss Uber rides, cultural identity, mother lands and shitty people.
Hear them talk about faces that don't match names and places that don't match people.
Food! We are not liable for the hunger induced during this listening experience. Warning, Tacos required!
Listen to Deb and Nina as they salivate over food and food experiences in their childhood, adulthood and beyond.
Ready, Set, Go!
Join Deb and Nina as they explore competition in their childhoods, what it meant for their parents, and why they work way too much, all the time. Listen as they compete to tell their stories.
R-E-S-P-E-C-T! Find out what it means to Deb and Nina in their homes, and whether its an expectation, necessity or a needle in a haystack.
Strap on your tin foil hat, there are some conspiracies afoot.
Grab a drink, cause Deb and Nina dive headfirst into Alcohol, how it was introduced to them, what happened when it did and how they've grown to dance that sultry dance with liquid courage.
Are you an older kid that had to beg for freedom? or a younger kid that got their way? If these questions don't apply to you cause you are an only child, listen anyway, you might learn the plights of a multi kid household.
This week, join Deb and Nina as they explore what being the "good" kid or the "bad" kid means to them, how it has molded their interactions with their parents, and if things, if anything, have changed.
Welcome to The House That Built Me!
Listen to Deb and Nina explore their past and see how it's shaped their present.