Keeping It Young: Recent Episodes
Dave Young, Bethlie Young
A weekly podcast hosted by Dave and Bethlie Young who have spoken to thousands of people across America and around the world. Their heart is to encourage, direct, and strengthen your marriage, family, and ministry life. You will find humor, helpful teaching, and great encouragement. Join them each week as together they share Biblical and practical insights.
Part 2
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Insist on happy compliance
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If your child is not happy when you correct them, discipline is needed
- If your child will not comply when you speak to them, discipline is needed
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If you cannot take them to an event because they won’t behave, discipline is needed
- If this is an exception, then you are on the right path
- If this is the norm, then you are not
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Speak softly, directly, specifically, and only once
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When you have to reason with a toddler, you are teaching them to comply only if they want to do so
- If you practice replacement parenting, they will not learn to have self-denial and self-control
Suggestions for Training Toddlers (Part 1)
Prepare for the long haul, but get started.
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- This is a beginning and it will take adulthood before you are officially done
- It is always easier to correct a child while they are younger
Correct every selfish and willful act
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- Do it every time - even if it is awkward and difficult 1. In a church auditorium 2. In a store
- Refuse the temptation to let it go
- Never assume a child will be better when they are older
- They won’t unless they are taught and corrected
Discipline predictably
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- Use simple phrases
- Calmly and matter of factly follow through with consistency
- Interrupt everything for training
Five Ways to Damage Your Marriage
Review from Episode 233
- Neglect it - again
- Treat each other disrespectfully - again
- Separate from each other as much as possible
This week...
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Resist our God given responsibilities
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Husbands have to perfect love
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Wives have to master submission
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Fail to kiss and make-out
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This can be a challenge because life is so busy
- Don't stop working at it
- Kiss goodbye
- Kiss hello
- Kiss goodnight
- Kiss for no reason
- Making out takes some time
- Slow down and focus on each other
- Remind yourself of how wonderful you are together
Five Ways to Damage Your Marriage (Part 1)
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Neglect it - again
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Neglect occurs over a process of time
- Neglect always diminishes value
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Failure to invest over a process of time erodes our marriages
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Treat each other disrespectfully - again
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When we aren’t kind
- When we are rude
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When we never express love
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Separate from each other as much as possible
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Think me and not we
- If you are always heading in different directions, your marriage will suffer
- If you never take the time to talk, your marriage will suffer
- We have found that we have to schedule time each day . . .
Christian Womanhood
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It involves cultivating selflessness
- She is warm
- Safe and trustworthy v. 11-12
- Good - agreeable, pleasant, better (root is joyful and delightful)
- Illustration “You’re better than that”
- Don’t allow issues to turn you into a hard, cold, sarcastic, eye-rolling wife)
- Financially - no need of spoil
- Personally - does good and not evil
- Be careful that the familiar does not become an irritation
- Deeply - “good and not evil”
- Can He share? When and how he wants to share?
- Romantically - intimately - no need of spoil, good and not evil
- Beware of hurts, bitterness, frustrations, struggles
- Talk them out, work it out, get help-out
- Don’t fizzle; make it sizzle
- Beware of hurts, bitterness, frustrations, struggles
- She is warm
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She is wise
- Think - every time
- Be kind - every time
- Psalm 19:14
- Psalm 141:3
- Eph. 4:32
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She wants him to win v. 23
- Follow him - treat him like the leader God made him to be Eph 5:22-24
- Promote him - with reverence and awe Eph 5:33
- Be counter cultural
Conclusion:
Pro 31:28-31
So many women seek validation, praise, honor, status
They want the priceless label, but sell themselves short
What does Biblical Womanhood Look Like?
Consider the word virtuous
- It involves cultivating strength
- Virtuous is Strong in purity, chastity, and righteousness
- Modern dictionaries get it all wrong
- One strives to be virtuous to appear to be better than others
- Bible- it doesn’t make you better but priceless
- Dictionaries:
- Collins - to do what is expected and feeling pleased with themselves, perhaps too pleased
- Cambridge - Thinks oneself morally better than others, only does good so he can feel virtuous
- Oxford - behaving in a very good or moral way, irreproachable, claiming to behave better or have a higher moral standard than others.
- Modern philosophies get it wrong:
- A strong woman follows her heart
- The heart is deceitful and desperately wicked
- She shows her authentic self
- In my flesh dwells no good thing
- She cultivates her own interests
- Be kindly affectioned one to another . . . in honor preferring
- She is self-aware and continually growing into herself
- For me to live is Christ and to die is gain
- She stands up for herself and and is not afraid to share her thoughts and ideas regardless of what others think
- She speaks her heart and mind
- Whoso keeps his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from trouble Proverbs 21:23
- A strong woman follows her heart
- Dictionaries:
- Same word for going into battle
- Root is to twist, writhe, twirl, dance
- The Virtuous woman is strong
- She is prepared for battle
- She cha-cha-chas her way through her busy days
- Cf. Ephesians 6
- She is strong 6:10
- She is ready for battle 6:11
- She is prepared for whatever comes her way 6:13
It involves cultivating a strong relationship with God v. 30
- A woman who fears the Lord
- Can’t get enough of God
- Is in awe of God
- Will be praised
Dave and Bethlie's youngest child, Charity Young, joins them for this episode. As 15 year old young lady, how did God speak to Charity recently when she read through Proverbs 31?
Listen, and enjoy!
Proverbs 31:1-9
- Verse 1 Taught = to chasten, discipline, instruct, admonish
- Verse 3 Stay away from women because they destroy kings
- This is counsel which Solomon in later years chose to ignore
- Verse 4-9 Stay away from alcohol
- Kings shouldn’t drink the stuff
- They can cause you to forget the law
- they can cause you to pervert judgment
- Alcohol use should be reserved only for those who need it
- Someone who is dying
- Someone who is bitterly ill
- Keep away from it so you can be a wise leader
- Kings shouldn’t drink the stuff
Part 3
We want our children to have good appetites.
Appetites for eternal things over earthly things
- God's Word
- God' Love
- Diligence
- Faithfulness
- Character
- Integrity
- Family
We want our children to be successful adults
- Prepared
- All ready going that way before they get there
- Parenting is intended to teach our teens to parent themselves
- Know where you are taking your kids
- Give them opportunities to prove they are getting there
Part 2
The goals we should have according to the verse
We want our children to have good behavior.
This idea shows up especially in the early chapters
- Listen to our commands
- Heed our laws
- Do right and pursue wisdom
Teach them to obey
- Expectation
- Communication
- Follow-through
- Correction (Proverbs 13:24, 19:18, 22:15, 23:13-14, 29:15,17)
We Must Emphasize Training
Proverbs 22:6
Recap of our study through Proverbs:
Chapters 1-9 are about his training of his own son.
Chapters 10-31 contain truth about areas we should emphasize.
5 Reasons It Is Right To Emphasize Training
- It is a word from Solomon, - known for His God-given wisdom.
- It is the Word of God by the Holy Spirit and it is therefore profitable for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.
- It is based on the truth of sowing and reaping.
- It is simply a summary of God's plan for the home and family.
- It makes sense.
The Choices We Have As Parents
- To train or not to train
- To teach or not to teach
- To correct or not to correct
- To love or not to love
- To impart wisdom or to leave to folly
- To prepare for adulthood or to relegate to failure
- To succeed or to fail
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We must emphasize the dangers of alcohol
- We understand this is a debated matter
- All of us agree that drunkenness is wrong
- Drunkenness is when alcohol is altering our God given faculties
- It controls our emotions
- It controls our reactions
- Drunkenness is when alcohol is altering our God given faculties
- All of us agree that drunkenness is wrong
- We understand this is a debated matter
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We understand that this is a problem area
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We believe it is an easy matter
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- All of us agree that we are wrong when alcohol is damaging our life and the lives of those around us 2. Solomon’s main point over and over again is that alcohol is dangerous and should be avoided 3. It does much damage 1. One of the leading causes of preventable death in the USA (National institute on alcohol) 2. 1/3 of fatal vehicle accidents were alcohol related 3. 174 million abuse alcohol/only 9 million abuse opiods 4. Financially 1. It is expensive 2. It is costly in how it affects work and health and relationships and so forth
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We must understand that Solomon is warning us about these dangers:
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- What it does Proverbs 23:29 1. Also 20:1 1. It mocks 2. It rages 3. It deceives and destroys wisdom 2. How it happens Proverbs 23:30-31 1. Linger 2. Search 3. Look 3. Where it leads Proverbs 23:32-35 1. It bites and stings 2. It affects thinking and perverts v. 33 3. It makes you sick v. 34 4. It leaves you deceived. v. 35 5. It leads to addiction v. 35 6. It leads to perverted leadership Proverbs 31:4-5 4. Where it is acceptable 1. Proverbs 31:6-7 Medicinally 2. 1 Tim 5:23
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As parents we must emphasize the dangers of alcohol.
Show your children those who have been damaged by it
- Relationships
- Car accidents
- Health failures
Stay away from it.
The Dangers of Anger
We just emphasize the dangers of anger
Here are the main verses in Proverbs dealing with anger:
- 12:16 A fool's wrath is presently known; but a prudent man coverth shame
- 14:29 He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly
- 14:17 He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated.
- 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger
- 16:23 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty: and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city
- 19:11 the discretion of a man deferreth his anger: and it is his glory to pass over a transgression
- 19:18 A man of great wrath will suffer punishment: for if thou deliver him, yet thou must do it again
- 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman
- 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man thou shalt not go
- 27:3 A stone is heavy, and the sand weighty: but a fool’s wrath is heavier than them both
- 27:4 Wrath is cruel and anger is outrageous (a torrent - a flood); but who is able to stand before envy.
- 29:22 An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression
Lessons learned from these verses
1) We must address our own anger issues: Defeat anger or it will control you and damage you
- Confess it as the sin it is
- Take steps to forsake it
2) We must address our children's anger
- Younger Children
- Never ignore anger
- Rebuke it
- Correct it (determine beforehand)
- Teach them how to respond appropriately
- Older Children
- Model correct responses
- Strive to live gently
- Admit when wrong and ask forgiveness
- Take steps to correct yourself
- Teach correct responses
- Stop and correct every angry response
- Teach your children the proper response
- Do it every time!
- Model correct responses
- We must separate from anger: handle specific areas in specific ways
- On a team or in a sport
- Be drastic here
- Pull them out
- Remove them from the team
- Remove their privileges
- With a coach
- An angry coach is a bad influence in your child's life
- An angry coach is a lousy role model
- An angry coach is carnal
- In a relationship
- Anger will destroy relationships
- Anger is a deal breaker
- In friendship
- In courtship and dating
- Never date a person who gets angry - and certainly don't marry them
- Anger that shows up in dating will only compound in marriage
- We must learn to handle intense matters properly:
- Learn to speak softly
- Respond quietly
- Speak in a lower voice
- Leave an angry situation
- Learn to speak softly
- Be drastic here
- On a team or in a sport
Anger will prevent a happy life and a happy family
1) Councel Is Important
- Proverbs 11:14
- Lack of councel = a fall
- Lots of councel = protection
- Proverbs 12:15
- It is foolish to act on your own
- It is wise to heed councel
- Proverbs 15:22
- Lack of counsel damages plans
- Lots of counsel established them
- Provers 20:5
- Counsel is available
- It has to be found "on purpose"
- Proverbs 20:15
- Greater undertakings demand greater councel
- Greater undertakings are successful by councel
2) Councel Requires Teachability
- I should be willing to learn
- It is a heart matter
- It requires wisdom
- Bad councel - can be tricky
- There is a way that seems right
- Always evaluate the source
- Always evaluate the ending
- Aleays evaluate the consensus
- Good councel - has proof
- The end thereof
- Get counsel from those who have good fruit
- Dave Teis refused to write a book on parenting until his children were grown
- Don't learn parenting skills from a novice - a peer - a social media influencer
- Bad councel - can be tricky
- We should be training our children to listen to counsel
- Proverbs 24:5
- Wisdom = strong
- Knowledge = strength
- This requires wise counsel
- This requires much counsel
- Proverbs 27:9 Friendship is sweet when it includes hearty counsel
- Proverbs 24:5
- Where do you find good counsel?
- Daily devotions - the Bible
- Prayer for wisdom
- Hearing the preaching of God's Word
- Studying good books written by good authors and published by respected publishers
- Learning from successful people
- We have talked many times to successful parents to ask for advice
- We schedule talks with successful parents
- Study history...if something has worked for a millennium, pull from that
Never face difficult situations without much counsel
Consider giving a trusted counselor veto power during times of great difficulty
We must continually protect our children from foolish influences.
1) Internet
- Only when supervised
- Not just for fun
- Not just because they're bored
- Use Gryphon
- Use Covenant Eyes
- Frequently check phones and computer history
- Keept it random
- Make it a surprise
2) Social Media
- None is always best
- How to do it?
- Get other parents to join you
- Get your school on board
- Teach your children to stand alone
- What to do if you do it?
- Make it a rite of passage
- Sign an agreement
- Write a paper
- Read a book
- My Tech-Wise Life
- Ways your phone is changing you
- Make it a rite of passage
- How to do it?
- Tiktok - dangerous and damaging
- Emotionally damaging
- Relationally damaging
- Legally damaging
- Purity damaging
3) Music
Have standards
Talk thorugh matters and continually offer biblical wisdom
No one can handle a diet of unBiblical thinking communciated via music
4) Movies
- Be careful
- Always evaluate a movie prior to watching it
- Wait for it to be available via Vidangel or on Clearplay
- Talk about reasons and teach truths
Dave and Bethlie continue their study in Proverbs. This week, they'll continue their focus on Influences That Kill with a special focus on friendships.
We must protect our children from lousy friends.
- The Simple (they lack wisdom)
- The Fool (makes fun of sin; ridicules righteousness)
Lousy friends can quickly undo everything we teach our children
Better to have no friends than to have lousy ones
Amnon (Old Testament) had a friend and it eventually cost him his life
A good friend does right and helps you do right
We must protect our children from lousy friends
- Choose their friends
- Insist they sit with you rather than friends
- Never allow them to be unsupervised (alone)
- No overnight in another home
- No teens alone in a car
- No teens alone on a trip
- No teens alone in a room
- Drop out of sports rather than allow teammates to influence your kids in lousy direction
In this episode, Dave and Bethlie discuss the importance of godly and positive influences in the family. They emphasize the need to shield children and ourselves from negative, harmful influences.
Proverbs 13:20
We must emphasize the blessings and dangers of influence.
Proverbs 1:11-19
Proverbs 9:6
The best influences are those that impart righteousness and wisdom.
Dave and Bethlie discuss words that destroy marriage from Proverbs 12.
Our words can do massive damage:
- When we speak in "never" and "always"
- When we are mean.
- When we make broad assumptions.
Beware of the "norms" in our society
- Sarcasm
- Belittling
- Negativity
- Unkindness
- Rudeness
Determine to be different by:
- Gratitude is healthy
- Kindness is healthy
- Sincerity is healthy
- Gentleness is healthy
- Respect is healthy
Proverbs 11
Teaching our children to have Integrity
What it is?
- It is honesty v. 1
- The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles that one refuses to change (Cambridge Online Dictionary)
- Think of Joseph and Potiphar’s wife
- Think of Daniel and his three friends in Daniel 1
- And again in Daniel 3 when they wouldn’t bow to the false god
- And again in Daniel 6 when Daniel prayed even though it meant death
- This was an old command reiterated by Solomon
- Deuteronomy 25:12-14
- Proverbs 16:11 and 20:10
- It was a sin addressed by Hosea in 12:7
- We must teach our children to always be honest
- For us, this was a spanking matter
- Matthew Henry says “He is not an honest man that is not devout; he is not a godly man that is not honest.”
- Dishonest business dealings are offensive to God
- Nothing is more pleasing to God than fair and honest dealing
- It models who God is
- He will do right every single time . . .
- The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles that one refuses to change (Cambridge Online Dictionary)
- It is humility v. 2
- Notice that it is the opposite of pride
- Nebuchanezzar was severely judged by God for his pride
- Herod was as well.
- Notice that it is blessed by God
- Humility leads us to wisdom
- Notice that it is the opposite of pride
- It is uprightness v. 3
- The word means correct; right; straight
- Psalm 25:21 Let integrity and uprightness preserve me; for I wait on thee.
- It is righteousness. v. 4-6
Why it matters?
- It guides us v. 3
- It makes a difference in death v. 4
- A good conscience makes the end of ones life easier
- It leads us to righteousness
- It counsels us
- It makes us gracious
- It makes us generous
- It brings life v. 30
- It bypasses judgment v. 32
How do you get it?
- You train it
- Proverbs 20:11
- A child either has it or doesn’t
- Verse 5
- When they get it and mature - it directs their way
- Perfect = complete or mature or whole
- Proverbs 20:11
- You pursue it
- We often have opportunity to pursue integrity . . .
- You live it
- It shows up in how we treat people
- In how we run our business
Part 4
Solomon is writing about how to pursue happiness and success- especially in our families
How do we get there?
- We must emphasize God’s blessings v. 22
- We should believe in God’s blessings
- v. 25 HE gives an everlasting foundation
- v. 27 He prolongs days
- v. 28. He gives gladness
- V. 29 His way gives strength
- 28:20 a faithful man shall abound with blessings
- Psalm 107:38
- Genesis 12:2; 13:2; 24:35
- We should desire God’s blessings
- Sometimes they are material/physical
- Deuteronomy 8:17-18
- We work for these (and save and pray)
- We give thanks for these
- Sometimes they are spiritual
- Love joy and peace
- Contentment
- Favor
- Sometimes they are relational
- A good friend
- A good spouse
- He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor from the Lord
- Children
- Lo, children are a heritage of the Lord and the fruit of the womb is His reward
- In-laws
- A good spouse for your children
- A family connection that results
- Adams, Mundays, Pisneys, and soon to be Gentiles
- Bethlie’s parents to me and my parents to her
- Sometimes they are material/physical
- We should believe in God’s blessings
Questions:
- How do we balance the idea of God’s blessings and the issue of “bad things” that happen?
- How do we teach this to our children?
- Is it ok to think of God’s blessings as material? How do we balance this with the idea that the best ones are not?
In part 3 of this series we see that Solomon is writing about how to pursue happiness and success specifically in our families.
Question: How do we get there?
- We must emphasize diligence (Proverbs 10:4-5; 16)
- The word
- Sharp pointed
- Trench - in the sense of dug
- A massive amount of difficult work
- Time consuming
- Physically exhausting
- Gold - int he sense of mined
- Figuratively - determination, eagerness
- Gain requires forethought - diligently
- A harvest is an involved process
- Preparing the soil
- Preparing the seed
- Planting the seed
- Caring for the field
- Waiting for the full growth
- Gathering it for the days ahead
- Gain requires a process of time and in time
- We want our children to develop habvits that lead to success
- It is imperative that we ahve goals for our children
- Some are spiritual - this requries DILIGENCE
- Know God and His Word
- Love God and His Word
- Fear God
- Worship God
- Walk with God
- Give financially
- Some are relational - this requires DILIGENCE
- We want you to be sweet
- We want you to be kind
- We want you to be thankful
- We want you to be polite
- Some are practicle - this requires DILIGENCE
- We want you to learn discipline
- We want you learn skills
- We want you to learn to handle finances
- We repeat our desires and our demands - this requires DILIGENCE too. Repeitition is required.
- We model DILIGENCE
- We want our children to develop habvits that lead to success
- Gain requres work (vs.16)
- 4:23 Keep your heart with all DILIGENCE
- 11:27 he that diligently seeketh good procureth favor: but he that seeketh mischief, it shall come unto him.
- 12:24 The hand of the diligent shall bear rule; but the slothful shall be under tribute
- 12:27 The slothful man roasteth not that which he took in hunting, but the substance of a diligent man is precious.
- 13:4 The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat.
- 21:5 The thoughts of the diligent tend only to plenteousness; but of everyone that is hasty only to want.
- The word
Happy Family Life: Christian Parenting Tips and Bible Insights!
Proverbs 10 continued...
Practically, what does it take to have a happy life and a happy family?
1) It takes righteousness v2-3; 6-7; 11; 16;19-21; 24-25; 28; 30-32
- Righteousness in our treasures v.2
- Righteousness in our dealing with people v. 11-12
- Righteousness in our work v. 16
- Righteousness in our words v. 19-22
- How do you incorporate righteousness in your life?
- What is right?
- What does the Bible say?
- What would be the right response?
- What would be the right step to take?
- What would be the right way to handle this?
We're really excited to dive into Proverbs 10!
The US Constitution says that everyone has the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
- life is a right
- liberty is a right
- happiness is not, it is the pursuit of it and that is a right
It seems that Solomon is writing about how to pursue happiness.
vs 1 Having a wise son brings gladness and avoids heaviness
Get ready for an exciting series!
Join Dave and Bethlie as they close this 3 part series on Teaching Your Children To Embrace Wisdom out of Proverbs 8 and 9.
Proverbs 8:32
What is the value of wisdom?
(Find point 1-3 in Episode 212)
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It brings blessings to our lives Proverbs 8:32-36
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Reminds us that God and wisdom are ETERNALLY connected (vs. 22-31)
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You don't have one without the other
- Folly damages and destroys
- Wisdom builds and strengthens and lasts
Proverbs 9
Wisdom is better than folly
Wisdom takes time
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- (vs. 1) She has builded her house
- Dads and moms must recognize this
- It takes a lot of time to train our children for success in life
- It takes a lot of time to prepare our children for success in life
Wisdom takes investment
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- (vs. 4) Come live with me 1. Learn from me 2. Watch me and follow my lead
- (vs. 5) Come eat at my table
- Receive waht I offer you
- Let's talk and linger
- Wisdom takes decisions
- Forsake foolishness and live
- Go in the way of understanding
- (vs. 9) Wisdom takes learning
- (vs. 10) Wisdom takes God
Wisdom takes decisions
- Forsake foolishness and live
- Go in the way of understanding
Wisdom takes learning (vs. 9)
Wisdom takes God (vs. 10)
Folly is a horrible way to live
- Foolish woman is simple and knows nothing (vs. 13)
- Foolish woman is offering an alternative way to live
- Two choices on the shelf - pleaweing God or pleasing self
- Two choices in chapter 9 - the life of wisdom or the life of folly
- (vs. 14-16) Notice the offer
- (vs. 17) Notice the absurdity
- (vs. 18) Noitce the result
- This is life or death
- Galations 6:7-9
- Deuteronomy 28-30 I set before you life or death, blessing or cursing etc.
Dave and Bethlie continue in Proverbs 8 as we learn to help our children embrace wisdom.
Proverbs 8:7-11
- Do a wisdom check
- Think about and choose things that are excellent
- Think about and choose things that are right
- Think about and choose things that are true
What is the value of wisdom?
- It teaches us to hate evil (vs. 12-13)
- It is not enough to know what evil is
- We must learn to hate it...
- It teaches us how to lead (vs. 14-16)
- It teaches us how to be wealthy (vs. 18-21)
- Wealth is tricky in our society
- Examples: Musk, Bezons, Gates, Trump
- Social media influencers
- People want to make money doing nothing or just having fun
- Wealth is more than money
- It is family
- It is satisfaction
- Is is relationships
- It is favor
- Wealth is tricky in our society
Dave and special guest Charity Young (Dave and Bethlie's youngest daughter) share the traditions that the Young family have shared over the years.
Enjoy!
PART 1
Proverbs 8-9
These chapters seem to go together with one primary theme: Wisdom
What is wisdom?
What are the steps to wisdom?
What is the value of wisdom?
Proverbs 8
What is wisdom?
Dictionary defines it like this:
- the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment; the quality of being wise:
- the ability to contemplate and act productively using knowledge, experience, understanding, common sense, and insight
- The ability to do right regardless of inward yearnings, outward pressures, or eventual outcomes
- Godly skill for life
- The right way to live our lives
- Seeing a situation as God does; Acting on it as God wills; Learning from it as God intended
What are the steps to wisdom?
v1 Wisdom and Understanding are personified
- Remember:
- Proverbs are words of wisdom - truths to live by
- They help us train our children\
- They help our children make good choices and live successfully
- They lead individuals, homes, and nations to discover God's blessings
- WE HAVE TO LEARN FROM THEM
- Proverbs are Inspired Scripture
- REMEMBER THAT THEY ARE TRUE
- Sometimes they are pictures
- Think on them and learn from them...
- Sometimes they are literal
- Apply them
- Proverbs are words of wisdom - truths to live by
- v4 Calls to the Simple and the Fool
- Anyone can seek wisdom and find it.
- We must teach it to our children - Solomon is teaching it tho his son
- Wisdom itself speaks to our children
- Our children must also seek it themselves (see verse 17)
We diligently teach it; wisdom itself speaks it; our children continually seek it
A powerful 3 fold cord...this provides a wonderful foundation for our lives and our futures and our families.
Solomon Challenges His Son In Four Areas
It seems that Solomon is interupting his teaching on immorality to discuss other things. Perhaps he is pointing out that we are a "package"...every area of our lives matter.
- Be a man of character v. 1-5
- Be diligent and industrious v. 6-11
- Be aware of what God hates v. 16-19
- Arrogance
- Lying
- It is mentioned several times
- Destruction
- Of the innocent
- Of Unity and peace
- All of these are sins against others
- God hates when we sin against others
Sin Is Always Deceptive
Proverbs 5
- v.1-2 We need wisdom and understanding adn discretion and knowledge becasue all of us can very easily be overtaken with sin and its deception
- v. 3 The lies that are told and believed are enormous
- I can handle this
- Nothing bad will happen to me
- I will be ok
- Sin and its pleasures are on my side
- v. 4-5 It is always helpful to carefully consider the ending of any matter
- There is a way that seems right but the end thereof are the ways of death
- We should take steps to protect ourselves from the deadly effects of sin
- v. 8 Get as far away as possible
- v. 15 Continually choose waht is right
- v. 21 Alway remember the God factor
- God knows
- God sees
- II Chronicles 16:9 "For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him.
- God will see to it that we reap what we sow
Life and Family Lessons
Proverbs 4
- The challenge is for the son to get wisdom v. 5ff
- It brings understanding
- It brings life
- It is found in the Godly instruction of parents who teach, train, and rule
- It helps our kids to avoid wickedness v. 14
- Wickedness is a path - a well-traveled trail
- Wickedness is a way - a direction
- Wickedness is a walk - one step at a time
- What are some ways to impact our children with truth?
- Teach
- Talk
- Live
- Love
- We should expect a favorable outcome
- Life and health v. 22
Life and Family Lessons in Proverbs 3
- We should continually be focused on teaching and training truth
- "My son" is repeated over and over again
- 1:8, 10, 15
- 2:1
- 3:1, 11, 21
- 4:10, 20
- 5:1
- 6:1, 20
- 7:1
- It is wise to remember that Solomon teaches in chapter one that it can be too late
- Wisdom, righteousness and the fear of the Lord
- Are god
- Are better
- Are only available for a limited time
- Too late is always said...especially when it cmoes to getting these
- Wisdom, righteousness and the fear of the Lord
- "My son" is repeated over and over again
- We should continually be focused on seeking, finding, and living truth
- Trust in the Lord v. 5
- Fear the Lord v. 7
- Honor the Lord v. 9
- Enjoy the Lord v. 4, 8, 13, 18
- We should expet our homes to be blessed as a result v. 33
Five Ways to Make Easter Holy
Easter is many things.
- to some it is Spring Break
- to some it is just along weekend
- to some it is just another day to have some fun with eggs and easter baskets
To us it is a HOLY DAY
How can we make Easter Holy?
- We Worship
- Do attend a Good Friday service - even if you believe He died on Wednesday or Thursday (the point is the remembrance of the event and not the time frame.
- Do attend Easter services - sing and worship and celebrate.
- We Dress-up
- We dress-up for many things:
- Weddings
- Funerals
- Dates
- Homecomings
- Job interviews
- Dressing-up is a way to celebrate
- Dressing-up is a way to make something special
- We dress-up for many things:
- We Talk
- Use the event as a chance to slow down and visit
- Read the Story
- Remind yourself and your kdis of the reason for the celebration
- We Eat
- Feasting is a Biblical, historical, and cultural way to celebrate
- Jesus ate with His disciples (apostles) just prior to his death and again after His resurrection.
- We Serve
- Jesus served His apostles by preparing a meal, eating with them, and sharing a very intimate conversation and time with them.
- He established an ordinance
- He established a tradition
- It is a good thing when families have traditions - especially those that surround our faith.
- He established a tradition
- He washed their feet and taught them the importance of serving others.
Be involved in your church by serving.
Remember that Jesus really did die for our sins, was buried, and rose again the third day.
Have you trusted in Him to be your God and Savior?
Have you been born again through Him?
Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you shall be saved.
For whoever will call on the name of the Lord shall be saved.
If you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
Jesus Himself borew our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, having died to sins, might live for righteousness, by whose stripes you were healed.
For Christ has once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that He might bring us to God.
For God made Him, who knew no sin, to be sin for us, that we might be made the righteousness of God in Him.
Bethlie and I wish you a happy Easter week and we hope that you too will make Easter Holy!
Overcoming Adultery
Confess it
Confront the lies
Accept the consequences
- Accept the ramifications
- Accept the rebuke
Acquire help
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Begin the painful and arduous process of rebuilding
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- Your Purity
- Your Relationships
- Your Reputation
It Takes To To Build proof
- Of your desire to change
- Of the steps you are taking to change
- Of the direction you are going
Proverbs 7:6-27
Solomon Gives An Illustration
A young man lacking wisdom
He is a young man -
Bewafre of Youthful Lusts
- Youthful Lusts Will Rob Us of God’s Best
- Damage our thinking and point us in a wrong direction
- Build a weak foundation for our future
Flee Youthful Lusts
- Fight and fortify purity
He was void of understanding
- Not taught
- Not principled
- Not prepared for what was about to happen to him
He had bad company
- Among the simple - among the youths
- Jesus who was meeting with the older and wiser
He had nothing to do
- Laziness and idleness are always an opportunity for failure
- Sodom - abundance of idleness
He was out in the night when he should have been resting from a days work
He chose the way to her house
- Choices matter
A married lady who is wicked - she is the leader
- Her dress - She is dressed inappropriately verse 10
- Dress does matter
- Our bodies belong to God and to our spouse
- Keep your clothes full and flowing
- Illustration of an advertisement for “stretchy pants/yoga pants”.
- The commercial said “comfortable” but showed “sexy’ and “sensual”
- One can dress unwisely and not be aware of it; God’s Word calls us to be aware of it and dress wisely . . .
- Her deportment - She is loud verse 11
- Peter said a Godly lady has a “meek” and “quiet” spirit
- She is flirty, but not with her husband verse 13
- Her place - She refuses to embrace her role and responsiblity vs 11-12
- She is not being a “keeper at home” while her husband is away
- Her lies
- She professed to be religious about it
- She called it love - it was not; it was lust
- She considered it
- Her promises - She promises something she can’t give verse 14, 18
A glimpse of the results of adultery
- He goes to the slaughter
- It kills innocence
- It kills virginity
- It kills virtue and character
- It kills what might have been beautiful had he waited
- It kills relationships
- What will her husband do when he finds out
- What will his future wife do when she finds out
- He is never the same
- This is not to say you can’t repent and do right
- It is to say you can’t commit adultery without it damaging you in deadly and devastating ways
The Importance of teaching and training (Proverbs 6 & 7)
Proverbs 6:20-23
We must teach and train
- Believe in it . . .
We must buy in to the teaching of the Bible
- Believe it and receive it
The Importance of truth (Proverbs 6:24)
Truth will alert you to the danger
- Her words verse 24, see also 7:21
- Your lust verse 25
- The outcome
- It makes one less than what they should be verse 26
- It fulfills selfish desires, not love and blessings verse 27
- It burns the participate verse 28
- You are going to get burned . . .
Truth will alert you to destruction
- Adultery destroys one’s soul verse 32
- Adultery leads to wounds and dishonor verse 33
Truth must be received and embraced and applied (Proverbs 7:1-5)
- Parents must train and children must receive
- Win on both sides
- Teens - BUY IN to the truth
Solomon gives one huge illustration (Proverbs 7:6-27)
- A young man lacking wisdom
- He is a young man -
- Beware of youthful lusts
- Rob us of God’s best
- Damage our thinking and point us in a wrong direction
- Build a weak foundation for our future
- Flee Youthful Lusts
- Fight and fortify purity
- Beware of youthful lusts
- He is a young man -
Show Notes:
Proverbs 5:18-19
A reminder that marriage is wonderful and all sexual satisfaction is to be found and thoroughly enjoyed in that relationship.
Wanna have sexual relations?
- Get married and stay committed to one another all the days of your life
- 1 Corinthians 7
Our generation undermines this in many ways
- By failing to teach the truth about sexuality
- By failing to prepare our children for marriage
- By promoting worldly philosophies regarding gender
We skip ahead this episode to chapter 4. Don't worry, Dave and Bethlie explain why at the beginning of the podcast!2
Show Notes:
We must be wise about anything that is influencing us to be wrong here
- Entertainment undermines Proverbs 4:23
- Amuse = no think
We don’t think when we are being entertained; we don’t reason and we aren’t lead to conscious decisions of wisdom, knowledge, understanding, and discretion.
- Indirectly we are being told what to think and feel and choose
- That is a dangerous issue for our culture
We must be willing to limit our influence in favor of that which helps us to think
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- Social media
- Movies
- Reels
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Emphasize
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- Reading the Word of God
- Reading good books
- Talking and visiting with other Godly believers
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Dave & Bethlie continue the series on Proverbs.
This week they continue in Proverbs chapter 2 and discuss some sensitive topics regarding sexual activity before marriage and other issues regarding immorality.
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Thanks for downloading and listening!
Dave & Bethlie continue the series on Proverbs. This week they continue in Proverbs chapter 2.
This episode discussed the issue of imorality.
Immorality is a broad word that includes everything from pornography to pre-marital sex to homosexuality to adultery. It is anything outside of the clear boundaries set for us by God in His Word.
The point Solomon is making....
He is communicating and commanding and commending truth to his son.
We must communicate
We must command
We must commend
Solomon had a goal to convince his son to choose wisdom and apply understanding. he want to convince his son to pursue the Lord so he will have wisdom, knowledge,, and understanding. He wants to help his son have God's blessings.
Dave & Bethlie continue the series on Proverbs. This week they continue in Proverbs chapter 2.
This episode gives actionable steps that parents can take in providing good influences in the lives of their children.
As teenagers they were both encouraged to read a Proverb a day. That practice has continued into their adult lives. In fact, Proverbs has become a cornerstone of their fmaily devotions and time for them to discuss, share ideas, and learn together.
Take a look at the show notes below and follow along!
Find ways to provide good influences
Develop relationships that influence your kids well
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- We used Chick-fil-A
- We used work opportunities
- We used great books
- We used good movies
- We used people we know
Help your kids to find good relationships
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- With family
- With other adults (usually in a working or training situation)
- With other teens of your choosing
Do hard things when necessary
Dave and Bethlie continue the series on Proverbs. This is second second in a three part series on chapter 2 of Proverbs. As teenagers they were both encouraged to read a Proverb a day. That practice has continued into their adult lives. In fact, Proverbs has become a cornerstone of their fmaily devotions and time for them to discuss, share ideas, and learn together.
Take a look at the show notes below and follow along!
Part 2
Protecting ourselves and our kids from evil influences/friends
Proverbs 2:12
The evil influence identified
v. 12 Speaks perverse things (twisted)
v. 13 Always is doing wrong
v. 14 Rejoices at things that are wicked
v. 15 Always devious and crooked
The steps that lead to protection
Teach
Teach truth v. 11. Truth is the protector from all evil. - MacArthur
Teach our kids to say NO
Teach our kids to avoid
Teach our kids to stand
Remove our kids from these influences
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- Change schools if need be
- Withdraw our kids from sports
- Set some things in stone
- No overnights
- No alone with other teens in a car
- No influence that makes you uneasy
- No contacts without your approval
- Little or no social media
- Little or no multi-player video games
We encourage you to read Proverbs 2 and then listen to this episode as Dave and Bethlie discuss Proverbs 2. In a world riddle with deception, crying out to God for wisdom is vital.
Why were the Proverbs written?
Dave and Bethlie begin this series through Proverbs exploring why Proverbs was written. Don't miss this foundational episdoe as we begin the new year and new season!
Join Dave and Bethlie as they give some updates for what 2024 holds for the Keeping It Young Podcast. Thank you for your support over the last FOUR seasons!
Season FIVE begins...right now!
In this episode, Dave and Bethlie delve into a topic that's essential yet often overlooked in Christian weddings: the balance between the secular and the sacred. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize various facets of Christian weddings that they believe require a deeper reflection. They encourage you to consider the implications of elements such as alcohol, dancing, music, pranks, and the importance of modesty in the context of sacred Christian ceremonies.
- They challenge the norm of including alcohol in wedding receptions, citing specific warnings in the Bible about its use and the potential pitfalls it can present.
- The topic of dancing at weddings was discussed, with a reminder that dances are typically considered intimate and sensual in nature, even if they are not intended to be so.
- They also encourage a careful selection of music with an emphasis on avoiding songs that could potentially cheapen the ceremony's sacredness.
- They suggest avoiding pranks that could shift the focus from the holy nature of the ceremony to silliness and self-attention.
- Lastly, the importance of modesty in selecting the bride's dress was underscored. A wedding is a significant platform for expressing our Christian values, and an opportunity to set a firm foundation for the marriage to come.
As you listen to this episode, we challenge you to rethink the elements of your Christian wedding. We remind you that it's a sacred event and should be a reflection of your faith and commitment to biblical principles.
Remember, your decisions shape not just a single day, but a lifetime commitment under God's grace.
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In their ongoing series, Dave and Bethlie explore the idea of a Christian wedding not just as a ceremony, but a sacred covenant. They discuss various aspects, starting from engagement to the wedding itself, and the importance of involving family and the church community in this journey. They also delve into the importance of recognizing marriage as a covenant, not simply a fairy-tale event.
The focus in this episode is primarily on planning wisely. It's important to remember that a wedding is a combination of multiple elements. It starts with the best Christian premarital counseling possible, followed by thorough discussions about every aspect of your marriage in advance. They also advise you to set a budget for the wedding and stick to it. This may be challenging, but it's crucial to avoid falling into the trap of a consumerist culture that encourages overspending for a single event.
Focusing on the covenant rather than the presentation is another key point we stress on. Traditionally, weddings are seen as grand affairs, often influenced by the media and culture. However, in a Christian wedding, it's the covenant that should be front and center. This doesn't mean that your wedding can't be beautiful. It can be stunningly beautiful even with simplicity, and most importantly, it's the covenant that you are making with each other before God and your witnesses that makes it truly meaningful.
Planning wisely also includes thinking about the honeymoon as not just a vacation, but as the beginning of a covenant relationship. Dave and Bethlie suggest to choose a place that allows for relaxation, getting to know each other, and focusing on each other without distraction.
Thank you again for joining us today. We hope you find these discussions helpful and inspiring as you rethink the idea of a Christian wedding. Stay tuned for our next episode where we will continue to explore this topic and focus on making Christian weddings distinctly sacred.
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In this episode, we delve into the details of a Christian wedding, highlighting the importance of honoring traditions while also making room for personal expression. Dave offers a father's perspective as he recalls his daughter's wedding, and learn why this momentous occasion should be a celebration, not a heartbreak. Dave and Bethlie discuss the sermon, the charge to the couple, and the significance of prayer during the ceremony. Plus, they cover the spiritual exchange of vows and the symbolism behind unity displays. Whether you're a groom-to-be, a parent, or simply an interested pocast listener, this episode is sure to inspire. Share it with a friend!
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In this episode, Dave and Bethlie start a new series tackling the significance of Christian weddings. They examine the cultural influences on modern weddings and discuss the need for distinctly Christian ceremonies that highlight not just the celebration, but more importantly, the covenant. They also share a few personal anecdotes, and offer some useful insights into biblical examples of marriage ceremonies. Whether you're planning a wedding, reflecting on your own, or just curious about the Christian perspective on weddings, this podcast is for you.
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Join Dave and Bethlie as they they express their thankfulness for the opportunity to spend time publicly praising the Lord for His goodness in their lives. They remind listeners that the Bible encourages us to have gratitude and enter into God's presence with singing and thanksgiving. Expressing thankfulness can help bring an attitude of gratitude even during difficult times. During the Thanksgiving season, be intentional about expressing thanks publicly to those around you. Consider starting a tradition, such as setting aside time for a family devotional or getting everyone to share what they are thankful for at mealtime.
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Dave and Bethlie discuss how to handle special situation in training children.
Topics include:
What to do if you haven't been training
What to do if you have a divided family
What to do if you have adult children who need help
The process of training children, emphasizing that it's a task that requires continual attention and reconciliation between exceptions and truth.
Creating a structured plan is a must if there seems to be a deficit in training. One option is to hold a family meeting and clearly state new expectations with established consequences.
For blended families, it's crucial to have open communication, collaboration and understanding despite any disagreement or division. Orders should not be given to the other parent, but suggestions should be made, and willingness to work within the limits of your control is advocated.
For parents of adult children who are struggling or disobedient, pray without ceasing and never stop showing love.
It is equally crucial not to let negativity creep in during your interactions. This includes sarcasm or passive aggression. Dave and Bethlie recommend maintaining an open line of communication and sharing concerns in controlled, serious conversations.
Good communication is essential to enhancing the relationship and increasing influence and power in the lives of children.
Join Dave and Bethlie as they discuss simple suggestions for training children.
They'll discuss including your children in your life's requirements and normal routines.
Join Dave and Bethlie as they discuss simple suggestions for training children. They'll discuss developing routines and simplifying life.
Dave and Bethlie discuss goals that every parent should have when raising children.
- Respond When Addressed
- Obey Well
- Use Manners
- Develop Gratitude
If you have a friend or family member that have children, this is a must listen to podcast!
Dave and Bethlie discuss questions to consider when training your children.
Would I want my child to always behave this way?
Would I want my child to react this way when he or she is older?
What definite steps am I taking to train my children in the way they should go?
Enjoy this weeks episode and tell a friend!
In part one of a two part series, Dave and Bethlie discuss the pitfalls to avoid when training our children. They'll discuss the potential pitfalls when training younger kids and older kids.
- Younger kids
- Laughing when I should be training
- Allowing life’s busyness to hinder training
- Older kids
- Handling things by reaction rather than training
- Failing to build the relationship
- Inconsistency
- Lack of Clarity
- Be clear with expectations
- Talk through expectations
- Pre-determine punishments for failed expectation
- Failing to teach . . .
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4 years, 179 episodes, and 400,000 downloads ago, Dave and Bethlie recorded their FIRST podcast episode EVER! It was the perfect way to kick off a podcast. An entire episode centered around scripture and the family. Enjoy this best of episode.
We'll be back next week with a brand new episode!
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Training children how to sit in church is so important! Dave and Bethlie discuss some applicable ideas to help you achieve this worthy goal.
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How do you successfully navigate the empty nest? We all know it's a normal part of life, but that doesn't make it any easier.
Dave and Bethlie identify 4 key words to help you navigate this new season of life.
- Preparation
- Celebration
- Communication
- Innovation
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Dave and Bethlie recently celebrated 30 years of marriage! In this episode they'll discuss the final 4 words that they believe have helped them throughout the last 30 years and will help them in the future.
This episode they'll discuss:
4) Solve
5) Love
6) Commitment
7) Care
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Dave and Bethlie recently celebrated 30 years of marriage! They'll take the next few episodes to discuss some words that they believe have helped them throughout the last 30 years and will help them in the future.
This episode they'll discuss:
1) Learn
2) Time
3) Talk
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In this final episode of this seired, Dave and Bethlie conclude by giving some final thoughts on this series. Dave and Bethlie have only touched the mountain tops of the entire range of training and work that goes into raising boys to be men and girls to be ladies.
Keep Teaching...Keep promoting masculinity and femininity.
Winning in this area will enable our children to succeed in a world gone wrong.
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Dave and Bethlie take this episode (part 15) to continue discussing specifics about raising girls to be ladies.
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Dave and Bethlie take this episode (part 14) to continue discussing specifics about raising girls to be ladies.
This episode focuses on teaching your daughter to be a lady .
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Dave and Bethlie take this episode (part 13) to continue discussing specifics about raising girls to be ladies.
This episode focuses on teaching our daughters to be strong.
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Dave and Bethlie take this episode (part 12) to continue discussing specifics about raising girls to be ladies.
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Dave and Bethlie take this episode (part 12) to continue discussing specifics about raising girls to be ladies.
This episode teaches that we must teach our daughters to know God's expectations and embrace them.
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Dave and Bethlie take this episode (part 11) to continue discussing specifics about raising girls to be ladies.
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Dave and Bethlie take this episode (part 10) to continue discussing specifics about raising girls to be ladies. They focus specific attention on raising godly men.
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In this moment in history, more than any other moment, it is imperative that parents raise their boys to be men and their girls to be ladies. Bethlie and Dave take this episode to lay the foundation for a dynamic series over the next weeks.
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In this moment in history, more than any other moment, it is imperative that parents raise their boys to be men and their girls to be ladies. Bethlie and Dave take this episode to lay the foundation for a dynamic series over the next weeks.
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Happy Mother's Day to all the moms out there! In this episode, Dave interviews Bethlie and asks her all kinds of questions.....she hasn't seen the questions ahead of time! Enjoy!
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In this episode, Dave and Bethlie answer YOUR questions! Topics include the use of Instagram, what if your church doesn't have Wednesday night youth service, and more!
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Dave and Bethlie conclude their discussion of the book The Five Love Needs of Men and Women by Gary and Barbara Rosberg. Thank you to our sponsors! Please click the links and check them out.
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Dave and Bethlie continue their discussion of the book The Five Love Needs of Men and Women by Gary and Barbara Rosberg. Thank you to our sponsors! Please click the links and check them out.
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Dave and Bethlie discuss three reasons we celebrate Easter.
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Dave and Bethlie discuss the book The Five Love Needs of Men and Women by Gary and Barbara Rosberg.
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Dave and Bethlie answer more of your questions in the second part of this two-part series.
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Dave and Bethlie answer some of your questions in this first of two-part series.
What do you do when your marriage is falling apart?
What do you do when your kids aren't well?
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This is the last episode in this multi-part series on emotions and personalities. This specific episode wraps up the 3 part episodes on Overcoming Depression.
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Dave and Bethlie continue their discussion on a very sensitive subject called depression.
Dave and Bethlie begin discussing a very sensitive subject called depression. This is a power-packed part 1 of 2 episodes.
Part 2 in our discussion about Introverts and Extroverts. It doesn't matter if you are an introvert or an extrovert, you are designed by God and can struggle with a "me" problem. However, success is possible! We can serve others in the church, embrace who we are, and use who we are to develop great relationships and minister to others in the way God has made us. It's about others and not about who we are.
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It doesn't matter if you are an introvert or an extrovert, you are designed by God and can struggle with a "me" problem. However, success is possible! We can serve others in the church, embrace who we are, and use who we are to develop great relationships and minister to others in the way God has made us. It's about others and not about who we are. Join Dave and Bethlie as they dive in on this important personality discussion.
Dave & Bethlie continue to discuss the topic of narcissism. This word is thrown around a lot in our society. But what does it really mean? What verses in the Bible directly address narcissism?
Narcissism
This word is thrown around a lot in our society. But what does it really mean? What verses in the Bible directly address narcissism? Join Dave & Bethlie as they discuss this topic.
We are people of emotions and Dave and Bethlie believe that handling them well will help you, your marriage, and your family.
Join them now as they discuss this very important and timely topic.
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Happy New Year! Dave and Bethlie continue to discuss dealing with fear in marriage. If you haven't already, we challenge you to download this episode (141) and then go back and listen to parts 1-3. Thanks for listening!
Dave and Bethlie continue to discuss dealing with fear in marriage. Anger is an emotion common to us all but anger varies from person to person. Always remember that there is a difference between anger and intimidating violence. Join us as Dave and Bethlie discuss this and more!
Fear is a real emotion that all of us have experienced. What does the Bible say about handling that fear?
Join us as Dave and Bethlie discuss biblical principles in dealing with fear.
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Training and guiding a teenager through these formative years can be tough. Having a teen that struggles with anger can make these years even more difficult.
Dave and Bethlie continue to discuss biblical ways to handle these difficult times. .
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The series centered around dealing with anger, handling emotions, and personality issues continue this week with a special focus on children.
Dave and Bethlie discuss what actions parents need to take when dealing with anger in children. They'll discuss how self-reflection and understanding anger is really key to dealing with anger in their kid's lives.
The series centered around dealing with anger, handling emotions, and personality issues continue this week with a special focus on children.
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Dave and Bethlie take a break from the Dealing With Anger series to focus on Thanksgiving this week. Join us now for some helpful tips on navigating this Thanksgiving season and being thankful for what matters most.
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The series centered around dealing with anger, handling emotions, and personality issues continue this week.
We believe in the accountability that Covenant Eyes provides so much we dedicated an entire episode to it. Listen Here
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Our series on dealing with anger continues this week. Share it with a friend.
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Join Dave and Bethlie as they begin this new series centered around handling emotions and personality issues. This episode focuses on dealing with anger and what the Bible says about it.
Dave and Bethlie wrap up October with a Question and Answer episode. They will answer questions received via the www.keepingityoungpodcast.com portal and questions they’ve received at various conferences they’ve attended. Keep the questions coming!
Here is the website that was discussed at the beginning of the podcast. Defend Young Minds
Dave and Bethlie give insight into how to handle conflict as a parent to adult children. Join us!
Part 2 of Dave and Bethlie discussing this especially hard subject for many. This episode's biggest takeaway is, "do your best to get everybody on the same page." Join them now for continued practical steps to accomplish this very important goal when dealing with conflict in blended families.
Dave and Bethlie discuss this especially hard subject for many. This episode's biggest takeaway is, "do your best to get everybody on the same page." Join them now for practical steps to accomplish this very important goal when dealing with conflict in blended families.
In this second to last episode, Dave and Bethlie address the need for practical advice when solving specific disagreements with your teenager. Practically, this advice could be used in some form when dealing with disagreements with anyone. Enjoy!
"Proper training is essential." Dave and Bethlie discuss 4 way s you can develop a closer relationship with your teen.
This amazing series regarding resolving conflict between parents and teenagers continues this week. Grab your Bibles and hit play!
Dave and Bethlie continue this series and they pick up right where they left off with the 9 areas to develop. In Episode 123 they discussed the first 6 areas out of 9 to develop and today they complete that list with areas 7 (Patience), 8 (Options), and 9 (Friendship). Grab your Bibles and turn to Proverbs 18:13 and join them!
In part 2 of this multi-part series, Dave and Bethlie continue to discuss destructive ways to argue with your teenager. They'll dive into issues including withdrawal, name-calling, belittling or invalidating each other, and more.
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In this multi-part series, Dave and Bethlie discuss destructive ways to argue with your teenager. They'll dive into issues including withdrawal, name-calling, belittling or invalidating each other, and more.
Dave and Bethlie discuss conflict resolution between parents and children. You'll learn four ways in which conflicts can be solved.
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Join Dave and Bethlie as they discuss conflict resolution between parents and toddlers.
"Make the consequences of negative behavior big enough that it provides adequate incentive to change the negative behavior. "
This is the final episode regarding conflict resolution in your marriage. Dave and Bethlie discuss the goal, the essentials, the emotion, and the priority in every conflict.
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Today's episode completes the discussion on the 5 Practical Steps To Conflict Resolution.
In Episode 117 Dave and Bethlie gave the first two steps which are:
5 Practical Steps To Conflict Resolution
1) You Have To Pray About It
2) You Have To Learn To Listen
In today's episode 118, you'll learn the final 3 steps.
3) Be Kind
4) Use Praise
5) Be Forgiving
6) Practice Humility
In part 3 of this series about Conflict Resolution Dave and Bethlie discuss hindrances that often pop up in our relationships that cause us to delay reconciliation. Then towards the end of the episode, they'll discuss practical ways to apply conflict resolution solutions in your relationships.
In this episode, Dave & Bethlie finish up this two-part series discussing Conflict Resolution between parents and teens.
Join Dave and Bethlie as they discuss conflict resolution as it relates to husbands and wives.
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In this last episode of this series Dave and Bethlie answer some questions they've received over the course of this series. Two questions they answer are, "when is a line crossed in guy-girl flirting?" and "when do you cross the line of just friends?". We also asked our audience "what would you tell your married friends if you could tell them anything?" The feedback was phenomenal!
Dave mentions this book "7 Myths of Singleness" that was suggested by a listener. Dave and Bethlie haven't read this book and can't recommend it at this time but it is on their reading list.
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What are some areas to be concerned about when you are single?
Join Dave and Bethlie as they begin wrapping up this latest series. They'll discuss the do's and don'ts for you to consider.
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Join Dave and Bethlie as the sit down with author Gary Thomas to discuss the Loving Him Well book as well others!
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Our final episode on the book Loving Him Well!
Here's a link to the book by Gary Thomas:
https://garythomas.com/books/loving-him-well/
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Continuing our series.
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Here is a link to the book we are studying by Gary Thomas Buy @ Amazon
Listen as Dave and Bethlie read the submissions sent in by listeners honoring their spouse for a chance to win coffee gift cards! Five winners will be announced PLUS a bonus!
Here's a link to the book by Gary Thomas: https://garythomas.com/books/loving-him-well/
Register to join us in Gatlinburg this October!
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Here's a link to the book by Gary Thomas:
https://garythomas.com/books/loving-him-well/
Register to join us in Gatlinburg this October!
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Join Dave and Bethlie in this second episode of a two-part series as they sit down with daughter Abbi and son-in-law David as they ask each other questions and give a peek inside what it's like dating a Young as well as other questions!
Join Dave and Bethlie as they sit down with daughter Abbi and son-in-law David as they ask each other questions and give a peek inside what it's like dating a Young as well as other questions!
A few reminders for you.
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Join Dave and Bethlie as they talk about all things Thanksgiving.
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Remember to put it on your calendar now! The 2022 Prayer Advance and Keeping It Young Meet and Greet. October 13, 14, 15 at The Ridge in Pigeon Forge! A website for registration will be LIVE in a few weeks. We'll post about it...
Remember to put it on your calendar now! The 2022 Prayer Advance and Keeping It Young Meet and Greet. October 13, 14, 15 at The Ridge in Pigeon Forge! A website for registration will be LIVE in a few weeks. We'll post about it...
Click Here: Sacred Marriage
Remember to put it on your calendar now! The 2022 Prayer Advance and Keeping It Young Meet and Greet. October 13, 14, 15 at The Ridge in Pigeon Forge! A website for registration will be LIVE in a few weeks. We'll post about it when it's ready.
Here's a link to the book we are discussing:
Sacred Marriage
Listen in as we interview our son and his new bride as they discuss the dating process!
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Don't forget the challenge to read Deuteronomy 6:1-25 this week!
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Express Effusive Gratitude As Frequently As Possible (from the Art of Manliness)
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Smile At Each Other As Often As Possible
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Always Acknowledge Each Others Presence
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Talk
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Touch
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Teach Your Children
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Protect Yourself and Your Children
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No Technological secrets/no place to hide them
- We work at keeping our screens at bay during important times
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- During church
- During meals
- During car rides
- After certain hours
- We give the kids some leeway as they get older
- We also have to continue to monitor their progress as they learn their way
- We also have to intervene from time to time as they learned their way
- Before certain hours
“Technology is not bad, but is only good if it can help us become the persons we were meant to be.”
78% of families believe it is more challenging to raise kids today than in previous generations
Why? Technology tops the list ...
We need to make some choices
- Choose character - the cultivation of wisdom and courage
- Shape space - Make choices in our homes that enable us to develop character and creativity
- Structure time - arrange our lives for meaningful conversations and character development and skill development and for growth
We’ve received this question enough that it deserves an answer.
1) Birth control is it right or wrong?
2) Is there ever a time it’s ok?
3) How does it apply in a Christian family?
Hear from Dave and Bethlie as they discuss their personal journey multiple times down this rough road. You'll also hear how they found strength through God's Word and each other.
We receive so many kind emails and notes from everyone. We also receive show ideas and other questions. We have received so many we thought we'd dedicate an entire show to only YOUR questions! Here we go!
Dave and Bethlie lay the foundation for this series. This first in a series of three takes a look at the history of St. Valentine and also explores the biblical principle of love being patien and kind!
We live in a generation that we often can overlook that our children have to learn not just to know our God, and not just to go to church but to succeed in life.
With the holiday season fast approaching, Dave and Bethlie take a two-week break from their Family Success series to focus on two important words to remember over Thanksgiving and Christmas.
With the holiday season fast approaching, Dave and Bethlie take a two-week break from their Family Success series to focus on two important words to remember over Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Where do you want your children to be when they are officially on their own?
The Bible teaches it will be greatly determined by your training.
Midlife Crisis:
Personal awareness- things didn't work out the way you thought they would.
Personal interpretation - we try to figure things out in life and cannot do it
God designed us as the marriage partner to enjoy it.
Dave and Bethlie break down Song of Solomon.
Put the earbuds in and join us as we talk about one of the personal aspects of marriage. Romance...
Love is what you do; not what you feel.
- Do things for the other
- Do things together
- pray together
- dates together
- plan together
- hobbies together
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