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If you’ve ever wondered whether alcohol permanently damaged your body—or you’ve quit drinking and found yourself asking, Why am I so anxious? Why can’t I sleep? Why do I still have brain fog?—this episode is for you.

Today I’m walking you through what actually happens inside your body after you stop drinking. Not the social media myths. Not the gimmicks. The real biology.

You’ll learn how alcohol changes your brain chemistry, why early sobriety can feel so intense, and what your body is doing behind the scenes to restore balance.

We talk about the science behind sleep disruption, why your liver is one of the most remarkable organs in your body, how alcohol affects your gut, heart, immune system, and hormones, and why so many people begin feeling physically better long before they feel emotionally healed.

One of the biggest messages I want you to take away is this: feeling worse after you quit drinking doesn’t mean alcohol was helping you. It means your body is recalibrating after years of adapting to alcohol.

But we also have an important conversation about what sobriety doesn’t magically fix. Trauma, stress, anxiety, menopause, low testosterone, nervous system dysregulation, and emotional healing don’t disappear simply because you stopped drinking. Recovery is bigger than removing alcohol—it’s learning how to build a life you don’t want to escape from.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

01:25 Your brain: GABA, glutamate & early sobriety

05:56 Alcohol and sleep: why you wake up at 3 AM

13:38 Your liver’s incredible ability to heal

19:07 Gut health, nutrient absorption & inflammation

24:22 Your heart, immune system & hormones after alcohol

36:26 Physical healing vs. emotional recovery

If you’ve been wondering whether your body can recover after years of drinking, I hope this episode gives you something so many people desperately need in early sobriety: hope.

Your body isn’t working against you.

It’s been fighting for you all along.

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Related Episode: Worried About Your Health in Sobriety? Here’s How Your Body Heals After Drinking

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Prefer to read instead of listen? Here’s the full transcript of this episode. Angela (00:11.96)
Hello, my friend. Welcome back to Addiction Unlimited Podcast. I’m your coach, Angela Pugh. If you’ve ever wondered whether alcohol permanently damaged your body, or you’ve quit drinking and found yourself asking, like, is this normal? Why am I so tired? Why am I anxious? Why can’t I sleep? Why do I still have brain fog after a month? Then this episode is for you. Because here’s what I want you to know right from the beginning. Your body wants to heal.In fact, healing begins within hours of your last drink. And while every person’s recovery looks a little different depending on how long they drank, how much they drank, age, genetics, nutrition, overall health, the human body is remarkably resilient. Today we’re going to walk through what alcohol actually does to different systems in your body, what happens when you remove it, what kind of timeline you can realistically expect.

And why some parts of recovery happen on a calendar while other parts happen because of the work you choose to do.

Angela (01:24.884)
Here’s the thing about alcohol that almost nobody explains right. It’s not a substance your brain tolerates, it’s a substance your brain adapts to. Every single time you drink, your brain has to do damage control. And alcohol is a depressant. And before we go any further, I want to clear up one of the biggest misconceptions about that concept. When we say alcohol is a depressant,

We don’t mean it makes you depressed or sad. We mean it depresses or slows down the activity of your central nervous system. Think of your central nervous system as the command center for everything your body does. It’s your brain and spinal cord communicating with every other system in your body. It controls your thoughts, your reaction time, your breathing and heart rate.

Your coordination, your judgment, memory, emotions, everything. Alcohol comes in and starts turning the volume down on that entire system. Your thoughts and reflexes slow down, your reaction time slows down, your coordination gets worse, speech changes, your judgment becomes impaired. That’s what a depressant does. It slows the activity of your nervous system. But here’s where it gets really interesting.

Your brain is obsessed with one thing, keeping you alive. And more specifically, it wants balance. Scientists call this homeostasis. Your brain wants everything operating within a pretty narrow range. So when alcohol keeps slamming on the brakes,

Angela (03:13.194)
Your brain wants everything operating within a pretty narrow range. So when alcohol keeps slamming on the brakes, your brain doesn’t just sit there and accept it, right? It adapts. It starts pressing the gas pedal to compensate. It ramps up excitatory chemicals, mainly glutamate. And over time it becomes less responsive to the calming effects of GABA because alcohol.

Has been providing that calming effect artificially.

Angela (03:47.384)
Think of GABA as your brain’s brake pedal and glutamate as the gas pedal. As alcohol continues slowing everything down, your brain pushes harder on the gas just to keep you functioning normally. That’s why many people who drink heavily don’t necessarily look intoxicated because they’ve developed tolerance because their brain has adapted. But then one day you stop drinking. Suddenly the artificial breaks disappear.

But your brain is still pressing on the gas. That’s why early sobriety can feel so physically and emotionally intense. Anxiety, restlessness, racing thoughts, irritabilities, shaky hands, trouble sleeping, feeling like your skin is crawling. Those aren’t signs something is wrong. They’re signs that your brain is trying to find its balance again. And every day you stay alcohol-free.

Your brain begins adjusting in the opposite direction. It gradually turns the glutamate back down, restores its normal response to GABA, and it starts regulating itself without alcohol. That process doesn’t happen overnight, right? But it does happen. One of the biggest mistakes people make is believing that because they feel worse after they quit drinking, like alcohol must have been helping them. But that’s not what’s happening. You’re experiencing life without alcohol.

You’re not experiencing life without alcohol. You’re experiencing a brain that’s recalibrating after alcohol. Those are two very different things.

Angela (05:56.344)
So we talked about the brain. Let’s talk about sleep. One of the biggest lies alcohol tells us is that it helps us sleep. I cannot tell you how many people say to me, Angela, I have to have a few drinks or I’ll never fall asleep. And I get it, I was exactly the same way. It certainly feels that way. Alcohol can absolutely make you fall asleep faster, but falling asleep and getting quality sleep are two completely different things. Think about it this way: if someone put you under anesthesia,

Would you call that a great night’s sleep? Of course not. You were unconscious, but your brain wasn’t cycling through the normal stages of restorative sleep that your body needs. Alcohol works in a similar way. It sedates you, but it disrupts the quality of your sleep. One of the biggest problems is that alcohol suppresses REM sleep. REM stands for rapid eye movement, and it’s the stage of sleep.

That is incredibly important for learning, memory, emotional processing, and just overall brain health. It’s also the stage where most dreaming happens.

So even if you’ve slept for eight hours after drinking, your brain may have missed out on some of the most restorative parts of sleep. Alcohol also causes your sleep to become fragmented. Like you may fall asleep quickly, but as your body metabolizes the alcohol during the night, your brain becomes more active. It gets agitated. That’s why so many people wake up at two or three in the morning with their mind racing, heart pounding, feeling

Wide awake, even though you’re exhausted. Your heart rate stays higher, your body temperature is less regulated, your breathing can become less stable, and your nervous system is working much harder than it should while you’re supposed to be recovering. The good news is this starts to improve surprisingly quickly. During the first few days after quitting drinking, sleep sometimes can get worse before it gets better. That’s completely normal.

Angela (08:03.212)
Because your brain is learning how to fall asleep without alcohol, and that recalibration takes time. But over the next few weeks, your sleep architecture, right? The normal pattern of moving through different stages of sleep, all of that starts to recover. Many people begin noticing they’re sleeping more deeply, they’re waking up fewer times during the night and actually feeling rested in the morning. And that’s a huge difference.

Because when you were drinking, you may have been unconscious for eight hours, but now you’re actually sleeping. And I also want to be really transparent about something because I think we do people a great disservice when we oversimplify recovery. Better sleep is one of the most common benefits of quitting drinking, but it isn’t a guaranteed, but it isn’t guaranteed on some magical timeline.

Right. And I know this firsthand because I’ve never been a great a great sleeper. Not when I was drinking, and honestly, not long before I ever took my first drink. I’ve struggled with sleep since I was a young teenager. As I got sober, I started real recovery and healing, and I learned that alcohol wasn’t the only problem I had with sleep. I had a lot of problems with my nervous system.

Years of chronic stress, trauma, and living in survival mode. Like all of that just taught my body it wasn’t safe to fully relax. And I know I’m not alone in that. Many people discover that alcohol wasn’t the root cause of their sleep struggles. It was just the way they were trying to cope with a nervous system that had been dysregulated for years. That was certainly my story.

But once the alcohol was gone, I could finally see the other factors that were affecting my sleep. That’s why I want you to be careful about comparing your recovery to someone else’s timeline. There are so many variables. There are so many variables that affect sleep, right? Your history, stress levels, trauma, anxiety, depression, hormones, perimenopause and menopause, cortisol, blood sugar, caffeine, medications, sleep apnea.

Angela (10:13.036)
Like there are dozens of things that influence how well you sleep. But here’s what I can tell you without hesitation. The quality of my sleep improved dramatically. There’s a huge difference between spending eight hours unconscious because of alcohol and spending eight hours moving through the natural stages of restorative sleep that your brain and body are designed to have.

Even if I still have a rough night here and there, I function better as a sober person, getting sober sleep than I ever did as a person who drank myself unconscious. My brain works better, my body feels better, I have more energy, my mood is more stable, my memory is sharper. I’m actually recovering while I sleep instead of asking my body to recover from what I drank. And that’s really the theme of this entire episode.

Sobriety doesn’t remove every challenge from your life. It removes one of the biggest obstacles standing between your body and its ability to do what it was designed to do, and that’s heal. And once you’re finally getting real restorative sleep again, something else starts happening. Your body can begin repairing itself more efficiently. And one of the hardest working organs in that process is your liver.

So let’s talk about what happens there.

Angela (11:44.61)
You know, one thing I always try to be honest about is that sobriety didn’t magically make me a perfect sleeper. I’ve struggled with sleep since I was a teenager. So anything that helps create a calmer, more comfortable sleep environment, I am all about it. I’ve been sleeping on cozy earth sheets for a while now, and they really are as good as everyone says. They didn’t make it to Oprah’s favorite things list for no reason. Okay, they’re incredibly soft.

And honestly, they make getting into bed at the end of the day feel like its own little luxury. And since we’re talking about recovery, I think this fits perfectly. Recovery isn’t just about removing alcohol. It’s about taking care of yourself in ways that actually support healing. And creating a bedroom that helps you relax and get quality rest is one of those things that’s worth investing in.

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Angela (13:38.166)
Okay, back to the liver. I have to tell you, I’m absolutely fascinated by the liver. If you’ve listened to this podcast for any length of time, you already know I’m a total brain nerd, right? I can talk about the brain for hours. But the liver, it is a very close second. It’s one of the smartest, hardest working, most dynamic organs in your body, and it doesn’t get nearly enough credit. The liver performs more than five.

Hundred different functions every single day without you having to think about a single one of them. Like I say that and it makes me feel lazy. You know? It filters your blood, processes nutrients, stores vitamins, helps regulate blood sugar, produces bile so you can digest food, it makes proteins your body needs, it metabolizes medications, it supports your immune system. It just quietly goes about its business keeping you alive.

Every second of every day. Then alcohol shows up. You know, the liver’s number one priority becomes breaking down that alcohol because, from your body’s perspective, alcohol is a toxin. And here’s the catch. While your liver is busy processing alcohol, many of its other jobs get pushed to the back burner. It’s like pulling your best employee away from everything they should be doing because they’re dealing with one emergency after another.

If drinking becomes frequent or heavy, that emergency never really ends. Fat begins to accumulate in the liver. That’s what’s known as fatty liver disease. And it’s often the first stage of alcohol-related liver damage. the the important thing to know is that fatty liver doesn’t usually hurt, right? Most people don’t feel it happening. There may be no symptoms at all. That’s why a lot of people have no idea it’s developing. But if drinking can

Continues, that fat can lead to inflammation. And over time, repeated inflammation can lead to scarring called fibrosis. If enough scar tissue builds up, it can eventually become cirrhosis. And that’s where that healthy liver tissue is permanently replaced by scar tissue. Now, I don’t tell you that to scare you. I tell you because understanding what’s happening inside your body helps make you.

Angela (16:06.134)
I tell you because understanding what’s happening inside your body helps you make better decisions. And here’s the hopeful part: the liver is one of the few organs in the body with an incredible ability to regenerate. In many people, healing begins within days of stopping drinking. Fat accumulation can begin to decrease within just a few weeks.

And over the following months, many people with fatty liver disease can see significant improvement. It can be completely reversed if permanent damage hasn’t already happened, right? Inflammation goes down, liver function improves, your body becomes more efficient at processing nutrients and eliminating waste. Now, if someone has advanced cirrhosis, that’s a different conversation. Scar tissue that’s already formed generally can’t be reversed.

But even then, stopping alcohol can slow or stop further damage. And obviously it’s gonna dramatically improve quality of life. So wherever you are on that spectrum, removing alcohol is one of the best gifts you can give your liver.

Angela (17:21.354)
And did you know that the liver actually has the capacity to regrow healthy tissue? Like surgeons can take a portion of a healthy liver for a living donation, and both the donor’s liver and the recipient’s transplanted portion will grow to meet the body and that body’s needs over time. I mean, think about that for a minute. It it’s amazing. It’s such an amazing organ.

But so many people come into recovery believing they’ve ruined their bodies forever. And while none of us can erase the past, you have to understand the human body is amazingly resilient. If we give it the opportunity, it starts moving toward healing almost immediately. Like your liver is not just sitting there hoping for the best. You know, it’s constantly adapting, constantly repairing, constantly trying to keep keep up with whatever we throw at it.

The problem is that every time alcohol shows up, your liver has to stop what it’s doing and deal with the emergency in front of it.

And if alcohol keeps showing up day after day, your liver never gets the chance to fully catch up on all of its other incredibly important jobs.

So the greatest gift you can give it isn’t some expensive detox tea or a cleanse you found on Instagram. Your liver already knows how to detox your body. That’s literally its job. It doesn’t need help doing its job. It just needs you to remove the thing that’s been monopolizing all of its attention. Every day you don’t drink, it can just get back to work trying to heal. And I love that because there’s a lesson in that for all of us, right? Our bodies.

Angela (19:06.998)
Are often far more willing to forgive us than we are willing to forgive ourselves. Your brain wants balance, your liver wants to heal. Your body is constantly trying to move you toward health. Our job isn’t to force the healing. Our job is to stop getting in its way. Okay, let’s keep following the path that alcohol naturally takes through the body, because alcohol doesn’t just affect your brain and your liver.

It affects your digestive system from the very first sip. Your mouth, your esophagus, your stomach, your intestines, every step of the journey. Alcohol is incredibly irritating to the lining of your digestive tract. And over time it creates inflammation and it makes that lining more permeable. You may have heard the term leaky gut.

And that phrase gets used a lot online. The medical concept behind it is what’s called increased intestinal permeability. And here’s what that means in plain English: the lining of your intestines is designed to be selective. Think of it like a really smart security guard or a coffee filter. It’s supposed to let the good stuff through things like vitamins, minerals, amino acids, and other nutrients your body needs.

While keeping larger particles, toxins, and bacteria out. Alcohol can damage that protective barrier over time. Instead of being as selective as it’s supposed to be, it becomes a little more leaky. Things that normally wouldn’t pass through can slip into the bloodstream. And that triggers inflammation and forces your immune system to work harder than it should.

At the very same time, your body may become less efficient at absorbing some of the nutrients it desperately needs. The protective barrier in your intestines just doesn’t work quite as well as it should. And that matters because your digestive system isn’t just responsible for digesting food, it’s responsible for absorbing nutrients. And if your body can’t absorb nutrients efficiently, it doesn’t matter how healthy you’re eating.

Angela (21:25.206)
You’re not getting everything your brain and body actually need.

Angela (21:35.286)
And alcohol interferes with the absorption of a lot of nutrients, especially B vitamins, folate, magnesium, zinc. These nutrients are involved in everything from energy production to nerve function to brain health. So when people say they feel exhausted all the time while they’re drinking, alcohol itself is part of the story. But nutritional deficient, but nutritional deficiencies can be part of that story too.

Then there’s the microbiome. Your gut is home to trillions of bacteria. And I know that sounds a little gross, but you actually want them there. Those bacteria help digest food, they provide certain vitamins, they support your immune system, and they communicate with your brain. Researchers call it the gut brain axis because your gut and your brain are in constant communication.

So when alcohol repeatedly disrupts that environment, it can throw the whole system out of balance. And that contributes to bloating, digestive issues, inflammation, and even mood changes. The good news is your digestive system is another one of those parts of the body that starts responding pretty quickly once alcohol is removed. Many people notice less bloating in the first week, right? And

Digestion becomes more regular over the following weeks. Acid reflux may improve, stomach irritation calms down, your body becomes better at absorbing nutrients again.

Angela (23:18.862)
And when your body starts absorbing nutrients more efficiently, you’re giving your brain better raw materials to work with. That’s another reason people will often notice improvements in energy and concentration and mood over time. It’s not one magical thing, it’s dozens of systems all getting a chance to do their jobs again. And I do want to make one thing clear because I don’t think because

I don’t want anyone listening to think sobriety automatically fixes every digestive issue you’ll ever have, right? If you have food sensitivities, IBS, celiac, gallbladder problems, another medical condition, those don’t magically disappear because you quit drinking. Again, life is still going to be life, but removing alcohol eliminates one major source of irritation.

It gives your digestive system a chance to calm down and work the way it was designed to work.

Angela (24:21.804)
And I love that idea because it keeps coming back to the same theme. Your body isn’t sitting around waiting to fail you, it’s constantly trying to heal you. Sometimes it just needs you to stop interrupting the process. So let’s talk about your heart. Your heart has one job, right? Keep blood moving. Every minute of every day, it’s delivering oxygen and nutrients to every cell in your body and carrying away waste products.

And just like your liver, it never takes a day off. Alcohol asks a lot of your heart. Even a single night of heavy drinking raises your heart rate and your blood pressure. That’s one of the reasons so many people wake up after drinking feeling like their heart’s pounding out of their chest. It isn’t just anxiety. Your cardiovascular system is working harder than it should. And when drinking becomes frequent, that extra workload starts adding up.

Alcohol can contribute to high blood pressure, irregular heart rhythms, inflammation, and over many years, it can weaken the heart muscle itself. It also increases your risk for heart attack, stroke, especially with long-term heavy drinking. The encouraging news is that your heart responds surprisingly well when alcohol is removed. For a lot of people, heart rate begins settling down within days.

Blood pressure often starts improving in a matter of weeks, although that depends on a lot of factors too: genetics, weight, medications, diet exercise, other health conditions, blah, blah, blah. Again, I don’t want to oversimplify it. Sobriety isn’t a cure for every heart condition, but removing alcohol takes a tremendous amount of unnecessary stress off your cardiovascular system. Your heart isn’t

Constantly trying to compensate anymore. It gets to just do the job it was designed to do instead of cleaning up after alcohol all the time.

Angela (26:29.242)
And when your heart is pumping efficiently, then your circulation improves, and oxygen and nutrients are getting where they need to go. And every other system benefits from that. Your muscles recover better, your brain gets better blood flow, your energy improves, even your skin looks healthier because of improved circulation and reduced inflammation, right? Everything in your body is connected.

That’s something I hope you’re starting to hear throughout this episode. We tend to think about alcohols affecting one organ at a time or whatever, but your body doesn’t work that way. Your brain talks to your gut, your tu your gut talks to your immune system, your liver supports metabolism, your heart delivers oxygen and nutrients everywhere. They’re all part of the same team.

And when alcohol is out of the picture, it’s not just one player that gets better. The whole team starts working together again.

And then there’s your immune system, right? I think this is another one of those systems that doesn’t get enough credit. Most of us only think about our immune system when we catch a cold or the flu. But your immune system is working every single day. It’s identifying viruses and bacteria, it’s repairing damaged tissues, cleaning up injured cells, helping wound.

Helping wounds heal, monitoring for abnormal cells. It’s constantly scanning, communicating, and protecting you. And alcohol throws a wrench into that entire process, right? One of the biggest things alcohol does is increase inflammation throughout your whole body. Now, inflammation isn’t automatically a bad thing, right? If you cut your finger, inflammation is what helps it heal. If you catch a virus, inflammation is part of your body’s defense system.

Angela (28:25.282)
The problem is when inflammation never really gets the chance to turn off. That’s what chronic inflammation is. It’s like having your home’s smoke alarm going off all day, every day. Eventually, the whole system becomes stressed. Alcohol can keep your immune system in that constant state of activation. It’s responding to the alcohol itself. It’s responding to damage in the liver. It’s responding to changes in the gut. It’s responding to disrupted sleep.

Everything we’ve talked about so far is connected. And over time, that chronic inflammation can contribute to fatigue, slower healing, increased risk of getting sick, and a higher risk for a lot of chronic diseases.

Alcohol doesn’t just overactivate parts of your immune system. It can also weaken your ability to fight infections effectively, right? So if you’re in this strange situation where your immune system is working overtime in some ways while becoming less effective in others, it’s busy, but not necessarily efficient. When you stop drinking, that constant alarm finally starts quieting down.

Inflammation begins decreasing, your immune system isn’t spending all of its energy responding to alcohol anymore. And it can start focusing on what it’s actually designed to do. And a lot of people notice they don’t get sick anymore. That was huge for me. I had like clockwork a few times a year. I would get super sick and be in bed for, you know, seven, eight days. And I’ve been sober 20 years. I hardly ever get sick. I don’t even get sick when my whole family is sick.

Лайк ітскрази the difference it makes.

Angela (30:16.588)
But even when you do get sick, you recover more quickly too, right? Cuts and bruises heal faster. You just feel better. And while you can’t see inflammation the way you can see a cut on your hand, you definitely notice its absence, right? Like you wake up feeling less puffy, your face looks, your face looks less swollen, your joints don’t ache quite as much. Like your body feels lighter. Again, it isn’t magic, it’s biology.

Your body’s been trying to restore balance all along. Removing alcohol just gives it one less battle to fight every single day.

I think that’s one of the most hopeful things about recovery. Your body isn’t waiting for permission to heal. It’s been trying to heal from the very beginning. And sometimes the greatest act of self-care isn’t adding another supplement or buying another wellness product. Sometimes it’s simply stopping the thing that’s keeping your body stuck in survival mode.

Angela (31:20.832)
Okay, and then there are hormones, fucking hormones, ruining lives all day, every day. Okay, that might be a little dramatic, but only a little. When most people hear the word hormones, they immediately think about women: estrogen, PMS, perimenopause, menopause. And yes, we’re definitely going to talk about that. But hormones aren’t just a women’s issue. Every single one of us is running on hormones. They are your body’s chemical.

Messengers. Okay, think of them like tiny text messages traveling throughout your body, telling different organs and systems what to do and when to do it. They help regulate your mood, your stress response, appetite, metabolism, sleep energy, sex drive, reproductive health, blood sugar, muscle mass, your body temperature. They influence almost everything we’ve talked about in this episode. And alcohol has its hands in all of it.

So let’s start with cortisol. That’s your body’s primary stress hormone. Remember back in the beginning of the episode when we talked about alcohol slowing your nervous system down and your brain trying to compensate? Well, alcohol also disrupts your stress response. It can temporarily make you feel relaxed while you’re drinking, but as it wears off, cortisol often rises. That’s one of the reasons so many people wake up at two or three in the morning feeling.

Anxious and restless and sweaty or like their heart is racing. It’s not just anxiety. Your stress hormones are literally shifting while you’re sleeping. And then there’s blood sugar. Alcohol can cause blood sugar to swing up and down, especially if you’re drinking on an empty stomach or you’re drinking sugary drinks. Those swings don’t just affect your energy, they affect your mood, your cravings, your concentration, even your ability to sleep well.

And then there are sex hormones. Ladies, if you’ve ever been in perimenopause or menopause, you probably don’t need me to tell you that hormones can make life interesting, let’s say. Hot flashes, night sweats, mood swings, brain fogs, sleep disruption. I mean, sound familiar? Alcohol makes every one of those symptoms worse.

Angela (33:44.852)
It can intensify hot flashes, fragments your sleep even more, increases anxiety, it adds another layer of inflammation to a body that’s already going through enormous hormonal changes. So if you’re wondering why that nightly glass of wine doesn’t seem to be helping anymore, or why you suddenly feel worse instead of better, that may be part of the reason. But I also want to say something to the men listening: alcohol affects your hormones too.

Heavy drinking can lower testosterone levels over time. And that affects energy, mood, muscle mass, strength, recovery after exercise, sex drive, even fertility. So if you’ve been feeling tired all the time or struggling to build muscle despite working out, or you’re noticing a lower sex drive, or you just feel like you don’t have the same drive and motivation you used to have, alcohol may be playing a much bigger role than you think.

Again, it’s about understanding what’s happening inside your body. The encouraging thing.

Angela (35:05.214)
And many of these hormonal disruptions begin improving once alcohol is removed, right? Cortisol becomes more regulated, blood sugar becomes more stable, sleep improves, which supports healthier hormone production, inflammation decreases, your body starts communicating with itself more effectively again. And again, I don’t want to oversimplify this because if you’re in menopause, alcohol isn’t the only reason you’re having hot flashes. If you’re a man with clinically low testosterone,

Quitting drinking isn’t guaranteed to bring your levels back to normal. Hormones are complicated. Age matters, genetics matter, medical conditions matter, stress matters. Just like we talked about with sleep, life is still going to be life. But removing alcohol gives your endocrine system one less obstacle to overcome.

It gives your body the opportunity to find its natural rhythm again instead of constantly reacting to a substance that throws the whole orchestra off tempo. And that’s really what hormones are all about: communication, coordination, and balance. When alcohol leaves the picture, your body finally gets a chance to start having the conversations it was designed to have.

Angela (36:25.866)
As we wrap up this episode, I hope there’s one thing you take away from everything we’ve talked about today. Your body is incredibly intelligent. It is constantly working to protect you, adapt to whatever you give it, and move you toward healing. Your brain adapts, your sleep begins to recover, your liver regenerates, your gut repairs, your heart gets a break, inflammation starts to come down.

Your hormones begin finding their rhythm again. None of that happens because your body is punishing you, right? It happens because your body has been fighting for you all along. Alcohol didn’t stop your body from wanting to heal. It just kept interrupting the process. And the beautiful thing is the moment you remove alcohol, your body gets back to doing what it’s always wanted to do heal.

Now, I also want to make one really important distinction before we finish. Everything we talked about today is biology. Your body does this work automatically, but your emotional healing is different. Learning how to regulate your emotions without alcohol, building confidence, healing your relationships, setting boundaries, managing stress, working through trauma, learning who you are without alcohol, creating a life you don’t want to escape from.

Those things don’t happen on a timeline. There isn’t a study that says 47 days in, your confidence comes back, or after six months, you’ll finally forgive yourself. Right. That part of recovery depends on something completely different. It depends on the work you’re willing to do. And honestly, I think this is a part that people miss. They quit drinking and start feeling physically better.

And then they hit this point where they think, okay, now what? I’m sober, but I still feel stuck. I don’t know what I’m supposed to be working on. I don’t feel confident. My sobriety doesn’t feel solid. And if that’s where you are, I want you to know you’re not doing anything wrong. You’ve just reached the next stage of recovery. Your body’s been healing. Now it’s time to help the rest of you heal.

Angela (38:41.068)
And that’s exactly the work I love, right? It’s the work I’ve been doing with clients for years because quitting drinking isn’t the finish line, it’s the foundation. Once alcohol is out of the way, we get to build a life that actually feels good to live. A life where you have the tools to handle stress without reaching for a drink. A life where you trust yourself again, a life where sobriety doesn’t feel fragile.

It feels like freedom. So if you’ve been sober for a while and you’re wondering what comes next, or your recovery feels a little uncertain and you want guidance, I would love to help. You can book a call to talk to me about working together and what that looks like. You can do that at addictionunlimited.com forward slash call.

Angela (39:34.742)
And if you’re still in those early days of sobriety, be patient with yourself. Healing is happening even when you can’t see it. Your body is doing what it was designed to do. Give it time, give it support, and most importantly, understand you are healing. And I’d love to talk to you if you’re ready to get to work and actually enjoy your sobriety. Addictionunlimited.com forward slash call. That link is always in the show notes. Addictionunlimited.com forward slash call.

I love you guys. I hope you’re having a fantastic day and I will see you next week.

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I’ll walk you through five simple questions to ask before you go into any social situation.

One of the most common questions people ask in early sobriety is, “Should I go?”

Should I go to the birthday party? The barbecue? The wedding? The vacation? The girls’ weekend? The dinner where everyone else will be drinking?

And I get it. The world doesn’t stop drinking just because you did.

People still invite you places. Life keeps moving. And you don’t want sobriety to feel like a punishment where you hide in your house forever and say no to everything.

But here’s the truth: in early sobriety, your job is not to prove how strong you are. Your job is to stay sober.

In this episode, I’m helping you stop asking, “Am I allowed to go?” and start asking the question that actually matters: “Can I trust myself to follow my plan when the pressure hits?”

Because you can make the most beautiful little sober plan in the world. You can drive yourself, hold your mocktail, stay for 45 minutes, rehearse your exit line, and know exactly what you’ll say if someone offers you a drink.

But none of that matters if you abandon yourself in the moment it counts.

That moment when someone puts a shot in your face.

That moment when your friend says, “Come on, just one.”

That moment when everyone else is laughing and loose and you suddenly feel awkward, exposed, and outside the circle.

That is where sobriety is decided.

We’re also talking about why early sobriety is not the time to test yourself for sport.

You are not auditioning for the role of Most Impressive Sober Person.

You are learning how to protect something that is still new, still growing, and still becoming solid.

I’ll walk you through five simple questions to ask before you go into any social situation.

This episode is your permission slip to stop making sobriety harder than it has to be.

Sometimes the smartest, strongest, most sober decision is: not yet.

Not this weekend.

Not with that group.

Not at that place.

Not while I’m shaky.

Not until I trust myself more.

That doesn’t mean never. It means you’re honest about where you are right now.

And honesty is how you build sobriety that lasts.

Your sobriety is worth more than any party, any wedding toast, any awkward conversation, or anyone’s opinion about whether you’re fun.

It deserves your attention.

It deserves your protection.

And so do you.

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Hello, my friend. Welcome back to Addiction Unlimited. I’m your coach, Angela Pugh. Today we’re talking about one of the most common questions people ask in early sobriety. Should I go? Should I go to the birthday party? Should I go to dinner with my friends when everyone else is drinking? Should I go on the vacation to the barbecue, to the concert? Should I go to the pool party, the girls’ weekend, the neighborhood happy hour? And I get it because the world doesn’t stop drinking.

Just because you did. Life keeps lifing. People keep inviting you places, birthdays keep happening, vacations still show up on the calendar, and your friends are still your friends. And in early sobriety, all of that can feel really confusing.

Mm-hmm.

Angela (01:06.412)
Because on one hand, you don’t want to isolate. You don’t want to hide from your house. You don’t want to hide in your house forever. You don’t want sobriety to feel like a punishment. You don’t want to become someone who says no to everything and has no life and no fun and no connection. But on the other hand, you also don’t want to put yourself in a situation where you end up drinking and wake up the next morning feeling embarrassed, ashamed, and right back at day one.

So people say to me all the time, I’m not sure if I should go. And to be clear, if you’re asking the question or wondering, you already know the answer. If your brain is questioning it and whether it’s a good idea or whether or not it’s sobriety safe, you already know the answer is no. No, you shouldn’t go. You’re questioning it for a reason. Because when you’re in early sobriety,

Your whole focus, your entire job right now is not drinking. That’s it. That’s the job. And every decision you make, including whether or not you go somewhere, gets filtered through that one lens.

Angela (02:29.866)
Mm.

Angela (02:36.482)
Not whether your friends will think it’s weird, not whether you’ll miss out, not whether you can handle it in theory. The question is: can you stay sober if you go? And more specifically, can you trust yourself in the moment that actually matters? And here’s what I mean by that. You can make the most airtight plan in the world.

Drive yourself, only stay a little while, have your mocktail in hand. So you’re never standing there empty-handed. Text a safe person, know exactly what you’re gonna say if someone offers you a drink, have your exit ready. That’s a solid plan. Love it. But here’s the reality: none of that matters if you abandon yourself in the one moment it counts. That plan only matters if you’ll actually follow it when the pressure hits. And that moment is.

Tiny. It’s a split second. Someone walks up to you ready with a shot, or they order your favorite drink without asking. Or they say, come on, just one. It’s my birthday. Don’t be like that. Or suddenly everyone’s doing a toast and you’re the only one with a water glass instead of a cocktail glass. And you feel the heat start to rise up in your chest. That’s the moment right there. That’s the split second. Your plan either holds or it doesn’t.

And the question you need to answer before you ever leave your house is Do I trust myself in that moment? Can you trust yourself when everyone else is laughing and loose and you feel awkward and exposed and like you’re standing outside the circle looking in? Can you trust yourself when your friend says, my God, come on, just have one. It’s my birthday.

Can you trust yourself when your brain starts whispering, this is stupid, you’re fine, you can have one, you’ve been doing so well. Because that moment is where sobriety is decided. Not in theory, not sitting in your car in the driveway, rehearsing what you’ll say, but in that moment with that pressure, with that person, with those feelings.

Angela (04:59.062)
If the answer is yes, you trust yourself 100% yes, then you have your answer about whether you go. But if there is any hesitation, if any part of you is like, well, I think so, I hope so, probably, then you have your answer too. If you don’t trust yourself with 100% certainty in that moment to be able to say, no, I’m not drinking, then you don’t go.

Period. And that’s what we’re talking about today. Because early sobriety is not about proving you can handle every situation. It’s about learning how to protect your sobriety while you build enough trust in yourself to follow through when it matters. And listen, I know people don’t always love hearing that because we want freedom. We want confidence. We want to be able to say, I can go anywhere, I can be around anything, I’m strong, I’ve got this.

And I hear you, I do. But I need you to hear this. You are not trying to prove you’re strong. You’re trying to stay sober. Those are very different things. And in early sobriety, that mindset can be dangerous, especially if it’s coming from ego instead of honesty. There’s a big difference between confidence and recklessness, right? Confidence says, I know myself, I know my plan.

I know my limits. I know what I’ll do if things get uncomfortable, and I trust myself to do it. Recklessness says, I don’t want to miss out. I don’t want people to think I have a problem. I don’t want to admit this situation might be too much for me. I’m just going to tell myself it’ll be fine. Those are not the same thing. Going somewhere to prove a point is not a recovery plan. Going somewhere because you want to seem normal.

Going somewhere because you want to seem normal, because you don’t want to explain yourself, because you don’t want to miss out, those are feelings. And feelings are not a sobriety strategy.

Angela (07:17.74)
And if you’re in early sobriety, you have to get really good at knowing the difference because a lot of relapse starts with a lie that sounds like confidence. I’ll be fine. I can handle it. It’s not a big deal. I’m just going for a little while. I won’t drink. And sometimes that’s true. But sometimes it’s not confidence. Sometimes it’s avoidance. Sometimes it’s people pleasing. Sometimes it’s denial. Sometimes.

Angela (07:50.004)
Sometimes it’s your addiction trying to get you back into a room where alcohol is available, social pressure is high, and your exit plan is weak. And this is why you have to stop asking permission and start assessing risk. That’s the first big point today. You’re not asking whether you’re allowed to go, you’re assessing whether this situation supports your sobriety or threatens it.

And that assessment has to be honest, not dramatic or fear-based or shame-based, just honest.

Angela (08:30.348)
Because every social situation is not the same. Going to brunch with two supportive friends who know you’re not drinking and chose a place with good food and good mocktails is not the same as going to a bar crawl with your old drinking crew. A family dinner where a few people have wine with dinner is not the same as a family holiday where everyone drinks too much, gets loud, brings up old drama, and you leave feeling like your nervous system got hit by a truck.

So stop putting every social situation in the same category. This isn’t about saying yes to everything or no to everything. This is about learning how to think about it. And in early sobriety, you need a decision-making filter. You need a way to slow yourself down and actually look at what you’re walking into before you get there. Because a lot of people make decisions based on emotion. They feel guilty, so they say yes.

They feel left out, so they say yes. They feel afraid of disappointing someone, so they say yes. They feel rebellious, so they say yes. They don’t want anyone to know they’re struggling, so they say yes. And then they put themselves in a high-risk situation with a low-quality plan and act shocked when they get overwhelmed. No, we’re not doing that. Which brings me to something I want you to really sit with.

If you’re keeping your drinking problem a secret, if you’re hiding that you’re getting sober, hiding that you’re struggling, hiding that alcohol’s an issue for you, then you need to understand what you’re signing up for. You cannot be angry at anyone but yourself when you go somewhere you had no business being, and someone offers you a drink and you drink it. They didn’t know. You knew. They thought you were being social. You knew.

You were playing with fire. They offered you what they’ve always offered you because that’s what you’ve always done together. And you never told them anything changed. You knew. It’s time to grow up a little bit here. When you keep your recovery a secret, you’re also keeping yourself vulnerable in every single social situation because you don’t have any support. You end up white knuckling it alone in rooms full of people.

Angela (10:55.928)
who have no idea what you’re dealing with. And if you don’t have the strength to say no in that moment, you don’t have the strength to go to that event.

So let’s pause and let’s think about this the right way. We’re gonna start asking better questions. And question number one is what is the actual environment? Is this event centered around drinking? Is the main activity alcohol? Is it at a bar? Is it during your witching hour? Is it with people you usually drink with? Is it people who respect your boundaries or who push them? Is there food?

Is there something to do besides sit around and watch everyone drink? Is there an easy way to leave? Do you have your own transportation? How long will you be there? Will you be tired, hungry, stressed, or emotionally raw when you arrive? Because listen, if you’re already hungry, angry, lonely, or tired, and then you put yourself in a drinking situation, you are not setting yourself up for success. You’re building a relapse obstacle course and calling it living your life. We have to be smarter than that.

Question number two, what’s my actual motive for going? This one is huge. Why do you want to go? Do you genuinely want to be there? Is this an important life event, a relationship you value, something that matters to you? Or are you going because you’re afraid of missing out? You don’t want people to think you’re weird. You want to prove you can be around alcohol. Are you going to test yourself? God, I hear that one all the time. Because let me tell you something very clearly.

Early sobriety is not the time to test yourself for sport. You are not a science experiment. You are not auditioning for the role of most impressive sober person. You are not trying to prove to your friends, your family, your husband, your coworkers, or your own ego that you can stand in the middle of a drinking environment and be totally unbothered. You’re not doing that. You’re trying to stay sober. Remember, that’s the job.

Angela (12:59.85)
And some of you need to hear this. You’re making sobriety harder because you keep trying to make it look easy. You want to look casual, you want to look unbothered. You want to look like, no, it’s fine. I don’t care if everyone drinks around me. But inside, you’re crawling out of your skin and your brain is doing gymnastics. Inside, you’re uncomfortable and resentful and triggered and counting the minutes until you leave, except you don’t leave because you don’t want anyone to know.

That’s not strength, my friend, that’s performance. And performance will exhaust you.

Sobriety requires honesty. Sometimes the honest answer is I want to go and I have a solid plan and I trust myself to follow it. Great. Sometimes the answer is I want to go, but I don’t trust myself yet. Also great because now we have the truth, and truth gives you power. The dangerous answer is I don’t trust myself, but I’m going to pretend I do because I don’t want to deal with the discomfort of saying no.

That’s where we get into trouble. Okay, question number three. What is my plan? Not a vague plan, not just I won’t drink. That’s not a plan, that’s a wish. A plan has details. How are you getting there and how are you getting home? What are you drinking while you’re there? What if someone offers you alcohol? What are you saying? What are you saying if someone asks why you’re not drinking? How long are you gonna stay? Who knows you’re not drinking?

Who do you text if you feel shaky? What is your exit point?

Angela (14:46.1)
And this is where people love to get loose and they’ll say, Well, I’ll just see how I feel. No, not in early sobriety. I’ll see how I feel is not a strategy. That’s what we say when we don’t want to make a decision. An early sobriety needs decisions. You need to know before you go. You need to decide ahead of time. I’m staying for one hour.

Angela (15:13.42)
Because when you’re in the moment, your brain may not make the best decisions. Your brain may say, stay longer. You’re having fun. Don’t be weird. Everyone will notice if you leave. This is awkward. Maybe a drink would make it easier. Your brain is not always your best advisor in early sobriety. So you decide before your brain gets compromised. This is why I like simple plans. Drive yourself, arrive late if you need to, leave early.

Tell one safe person, don’t go hungry, have an exit plan and have a backup exit plan, and make your departure non negotiable.

Angela (15:56.194)
I’m gonna stop by for 45 minutes, say happy birthday, have a sparkling water, and leave before they start doing shots. That’s a plan. I’m gonna go to the wedding ceremony and dinner, but I’m leaving before the dancing turns into everyone getting hammered. That’s a plan. I’m gonna meet my friends for lunch instead of dinner because dinner turns into drinks and drinks turn into three hours of me sitting there white knuckling it. That’s a plan.

I’m not going to the bar, but I’ll meet you for coffee tomorrow. That’s a plan. I’m not going on the girls’ trip this year, but next year when I have more sober time and I’m a little more stable, I would love to. That’s a plan. And a plan can be, I’m not going. That’s a valid plan. And by the way, you don’t get bonus points in sobriety for placing yourself in danger and barely surviving it.

I want you to write that on a post-it note and slap it all over your house and car and office. You do not get bonus points for making this harder than it has to be. You know what you get? Exhausted, triggered, resentful, and probably drunk. So stop it. Protecting yourself is not weakness, it’s a strategy.

Angela (17:17.912)
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Angela (18:57.038)
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Angela (19:08.012)
Okay, here’s the thing about early recovery and specifically your first year that I want you to really understand. This is practice season. Your first year is where you get the reps in, right? Where you experience all of these situations for the first time as a sober person and you figure out how you handle them. The first birthday party, holiday with family, the first wedding, vacation, the first big fight with your partner where you used to drink to cope.

The first lonely Sunday where you have no idea what to do with yourself, the first bad day at work, the first dinner where everyone at the table is drinking except you. All of those are happening for the first time. And you are learning. You’re building the skill set. You’re finding out what you’re actually made of. You don’t become trustworthy to yourself by thinking about all this stuff. You become trustworthy by actually doing it over and over again.

One situation at a time. And that means sometimes the answer is, I’m not ready for that one yet. That’s wisdom. That’s you knowing yourself well enough to be honest about where you are. And that’s the heart of this episode. Your plan only works if you trust yourself to follow it. Let’s say you’re invited to a birthday party at a bar with your old drinking friends. You want to go because you love your friends.

You don’t want to miss the birthday. You don’t want to disappear from your social life. That’s totally understandable. So you make a plan. Drive yourself, only stay for a little while. Know what you’re gonna say, know what you’ll order, and tell yourself: if someone pressures me, I’m leaving. Okay, beautiful. But now let’s get real. You walk in, everyone is drinking, the music is loud, you feel awkward immediately.

You order your club soda in lime and you’re holding it like a security blanket, and someone yells, Hey, come do a shot, and they come over with a shot in their hand. Now your plan is live. This is not theory anymore. This is the moment. Can you look at that person and say, No, I’m good, and just let it be awkward? Can you let them be disappointed? Can you let them tease you? Can you let them think whatever they think?

Angela (21:29.838)
Can you walk out if they keep pushing? Can you actually grab your purse, go to your car, and leave? Because if the answer is yes, okay, maybe that situation is manageable for you. But if the answer is no, if you know deep down that you’ll freeze, overexplain, laugh it off, feel embarrassed, stay too long, and eventually get worn down, then you don’t go. Period.

Not because sobriety sucks and you’ll never have a life again, but because right now you don’t trust yourself in that specific situation. And that is valuable information. Sobriety is built on truth. If you don’t trust yourself yet, tell the truth. I’m not ready for that. There’s power in that sentence.

And maturity in that sentence, there’s sobriety in that sentence. Because here’s the mistake people think trust is something you have or you don’t have, but tr self-trust is built. It’s built by making a promise to yourself and keeping it over and over and over again. You don’t build self-trust by throwing yourself into the hardest situation possible and hoping for the best. You build it with reps.

You build it by saying, I’m gonna leave after 45 minutes, and then you actually leave after 45 minutes. By saying, I’m not going to that event, and then not going even when you feel guilty or weird about it. Or saying, I’m gonna call someone before I get overwhelmed, and then actually calling. Or I’m gonna eat before I go, and you actually eat before you go. If I feel shaky, I’m leaving, and then you leave the second you feel shaky.

That’s how you become a person you can trust by following through. And this is why your first year of sobriety is so important. Your first year is practice season.

Angela (23:27.264)
Okay, let’s make this concrete because I know some of you are mentally running through your upcoming calendar right now. All situations get the same question. Can I trust myself to follow my plan in the moment it gets hard? Not can I survive it in theory? Not do I want to go? Not will people think it’s weird if I skip it? Not have I been sober long enough, but can I trust myself fully, honestly? No bullshit. Can I trust myself when someone challenges my plan? When I feel

pressure when it gets uncomfortable. If yes, go. Follow your plan. Leave when you said you would. If no, or even maybe, don’t go. Stay home, go to a meeting, call someone, make a different choice and do not feel guilty about it for even one second. This is where the work becomes real. Because doing the work is not some vague spiritual phrase we throw around to sound deep. Doing the work means you practice the skills

That support your sobriety and your life. You practice setting boundaries, communicating clearly, saying no without writing a dissertation to justify it. Let people have their reactions. Don’t react or overreact. Notice your feelings without being controlled by them. Ask for help before you’re in crisis. Build your sober support system. Leave situations before they become dangerous.

Choose your recovery over your ego. That’s the work. That’s where you build the recovery muscles. We don’t build strength by only doing things that feel easy. I know that’s annoying. I hate it too, but it’s true, right? If saying no is hard for you, the only way it gets easier is by saying no. If leaving early is hard for you, the only way it gets easier is by leaving early. If asking for help feels awkward,

The only way it gets less awkward is by asking for help. That’s the process. And in the beginning, you need to be willing to make your world smaller so your sobriety can get stronger. That doesn’t mean forever. It means for now. I know people hate for now because they want a permanent answer. Will I ever go to a bar again? Will I ever go on a girl’s trip again? Will I ever be able to go to a wedding and not think about drinking? Maybe, maybe not. But that is not today’s problem. Today’s problem is staying sober.

Angela (25:53.838)
Today? And sometimes the answer is not right now. Not this time. Not this weekend. Not in my first 30 days. Not while I’m feeling shaky. Not with that group of people. Not at that location. Not without my car. Not if I’m already exhausted. Not if I don’t have support. Not if I don’t trust myself to leave. That is not missing out. That’s discernment. There’s a difference.

Missing out and playing the victim says, Poor me, I don’t get to do anything. Discernment says I’m making a smart decision because my sobriety matters. And I want you to be very careful with the poor me story because that story will take you out. I don’t get to go, I don’t get to drink, everyone else gets to have fun. My life is so boring now. I’m missing everything. No, ma’am, no sir, no, thank you.

You are not missing everything. You are missing some things temporarily because you’re building a life you don’t have to recover from. That’s the trade. And it’s worth it. The old you got to go everywhere and drink at everything. How did that work out? Exactly. So maybe the old decision making system doesn’t get to be in charge anymore. Maybe we stop asking, what do I want to do? and start asking,

What protects the life I’m trying to build? That question will change everything. Because your desire in the moment is not always aligned with your long-term well-being. Sometimes you want the thing that will hurt you. Welcome to being human. I want things all the time that are not in my best interest. It doesn’t mean I’m broken. It means I need a system. It means I need honesty. It means I need enough self-respect to not let every impulse run my life.

Also, I’m not five. I have to constantly remind myself I’m not five because I have plenty of moments I really want to act like a five-year-old. I want what I want and I want it right now. But we’re doing

Angela (28:04.193)
But what we’re doing in sobriety is different. We’re learning how to pause long enough to make a decision from our values instead of our cravings, our fear, our insecurity, and our people pleasing. So let’s wrap this up and talk about this simple decision-making process you can use when you’re invited to something. I want you to ask yourself five questions. First, is alcohol the main event? If the whole point of the event is drinking, be honest about that.

Wine tasting is not a social activity, it’s a drinking activity. A bar crawl is not a bonding activity, it’s a drinking activity. A boozy brunch with bottomless mimosas is not about eggs. Let’s not be ridiculous. Okay? If alcohol is the main event, especially in early sobriety, that’s probably a no. Two, do these people support my sobriety? Not do they understand it perfectly, because they won’t. Not do they say everything the right way because they won’t.

But do they respect your no? If you say, I’m not drinking, do they let that be enough? Or do they push, tease, question, make it about them, pressure you? Because people who pressure you after you say no are showing you something important. I want you to pay attention to that. Three, do I have control over my exit? This is non-negotiable. If you’re an early sobriety and you’re going into a drinking environment, you need a way out. Drive yourself.

Have money for an Uber, do not be trapped. Don’t rely on the person who wants to stay until midnight or carpool with the drunkest group at the party. Do not put your sobriety in someone else’s hands, especially because you didn’t want to be inconvenient. Be inconvenient. Inconvenient keeps you sober. Four, what is my current condition?

Are you rested? Have you eaten? Are you emotionally okay? Are you already stressed? Are you fighting with someone? Are you feeling lonely, resentful, hormonal, overwhelmed? Are you in one of those moods where everything feels like too much and one person breathing wrong might send you over the edge? Then maybe it’s not the day to go stand in a room full of alcohol and social pressure. Again, this is not weakness. This is intelligence. You have to know your own capacity.

Angela (30:21.728)
And five, can I trust myself to follow the plan? This is the big one. If your plan is to leave early, will you leave early? If your plan is to text someone when you feel uncomfortable, will you text them? If yes, proceed with caution and support. If no, change the plan. Don’t go or go for a shorter time or bring someone safe with you, or maybe just send a gift and stay home. Maybe you reschedule with that person one-on-one in a safer environment. There are options.

This is not an all or nothing situation. And I think people get stuck with that. They think the options are go and act normal or stay home and be a loser. No, those are not the options. The options are endless, especially when you stop being dramatic. You can go to a ceremony and skip the reception, go to the dinner and don’t hang around for the drinks. Meet friends for breakfast instead of happy hour. You can host something yourself, alcohol free.

Angela (31:25.09)
You can tell people ahead of time, I’m not drinking right now, I’m focusing on my health, or I’m taking a break, or you can say nothing. You don’t owe everyone a TED talk about your relationship with alcohol. And please hear me on this. You do not have to manage everyone else’s feelings about your sobriety. If someone is uncomfortable because you’re not drinking, that’s their work to do, not yours. If someone feels judged because you order a Diet Coke, that’s their issue.

You have to stop sacrificing your sobriety so other people can stay comfortable. That is not your job. Your job is to protect what you’re building. And in early sobriety, that protection may need to be aggressive. Not forever, but for now. You may need more structure than you want or more support than you think you should need. You may need to say no more than you’re used to.

People might be disappointed. You might need to leave early. You may need to go home and cry because it felt awkward and unfair and weird. Fine, cry sober. That’s still a win. Doing the right thing doesn’t always feel good in the moment. Sometimes it is awkward or lonely or embarrassing. Sometimes it feels like grief.

Sometimes you get in your car after leaving early and cry because you feel different from everyone else and you wish you could just be normal.

That doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. Sometimes the right choice feels hard because it’s breaking an old pattern. And every time you make that choice anyway, you’re building the new version of you. That’s the transformation. The version where you stop abandoning yourself to make other people comfortable. The version where you learn I can trust myself. That’s everything.

Angela (33:21.868)
Because once you start trusting yourself, sobriety changes. You stop feeling like you’re white knuckling against the world. You start feeling like you’re on your own team, like I know how to take care of myself. And you feel proud, not because everything’s easy, but because you follow through. You stay sober by making smart decisions before you’re in the danger zone.

Angela (33:51.542)
You stay sober by knowing yourself, respecting your limits, practicing the skills, and be willing to say, not yet. Can I go to the bar with my friends? Not yet. Can I do the girls’ weekend? Not yet. Can I be around my old drinking crew? Probably not yet. That doesn’t mean never. It means you’re honest about where you are right now. And where you are right now is in the building phase. You protect the build.

You don’t pour a foundation and then let everyone drive trucks over it. You protect it while it sets. Your sobriety deserves the same respect. So as you head into summer and all the patios and vacations and weddings and barbecues and pool parties, everything starts showing up. I want you to stop asking, should I go? Ask better questions. Does this support my sobriety?

Do these people respect my boundaries? What is my plan? Do I have a way out? What condition am I in?

Angela (34:55.808)
And most importantly, do I trust myself to follow through when the pressure hits? If the answer is yes, go with the plan. If the answer is no, don’t go. You can learn how to move through social situations without abandoning yourself, but you do it one decision at a time, one boundary at a time, one uncomfortable no at a time. That’s the work.

The goal here is not to avoid everything forever. I want to be really clear about that. The goal is to get to a place where you know yourself well enough to make an honest call. And you get there by practicing, by starting with the situations where the answer is clearly yes, I can trust myself. And then you work your way up from there by not rushing the process because you’re afraid of what it looks like to say no, but by being honest when you’re not ready instead of pretending you’re farther along than you are.

Your sobriety is worth more than any party, more than any wedding toast, more than anyone’s opinion about whether you’re fun or whether you’ve changed or whether you can handle it.

Angela (36:06.476)
Your sobriety is worth everything. It deserves all of your respect and all of your attention and all of your protection.

Angela (36:18.13)
And you know the drill. If you want personal support, if you’re really done fucking around with this thing and you are ready to get sober and stay sober and actually enjoy your life and feel good about it, call me. Addictionunlimited.com forward slash call. I am going to have two openings as of this weekend. I will have two spots open. Addictionunlimited.com forward slash call. That link is always in the show notes.

I hope you guys are having a fantastic day and I will see you next week.

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You survived the first 5 or 7 days of sobriety and you’re finally starting to feel better.

The anxiety is calming down.
You’re sleeping again.
Your face looks better.
The shame isn’t screaming quite as loud anymore.

And this is exactly where things start getting dangerous.

Because once the crisis fades, your brain starts doing what it was trained to do: convincing you that maybe things weren’t really that bad.

Maybe you overreacted.
Maybe you can handle it differently this time.

In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest relapse traps in early sobriety: the moment when fear and consequences stop doing the heavy lifting and recovery becomes a conscious daily decision.

I call this phase the plateau.

This is the phase where many people start feeling confused because they thought quitting drinking was supposed to fix the problem.

They finally feel a little better physically, but now they don’t know what they’re actually supposed to do next.

The crisis is over.
The urgency fades.
And without a real plan for recovery, the thoughts and second-guessing start getting louder.

Because most people don’t actually have tools for handling stress, anxiety, boredom, overwhelm, triggers, or emotional discomfort without alcohol yet.

So when life starts feeling hard again, they slowly drift back toward the one solution that always felt certain and familiar: drinking.

Not because they consciously decided to give up on recovery, but because they were never prepared for what comes after the initial relief.

We’re talking about why this happens, why it catches so many high-functioning people off guard, and what you need to do to stay sober long enough to actually build a life you don’t want to escape from.

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Prefer to read instead of listen? Here’s the full transcript of this episode. Angela (00:15.128)
Hello, my friend. Welcome back to Addiction Unlimited. This podcast is about what it really takes to stay sober. And I’m your coach, Angela Pugh. Thank you for hanging out with me today and listening to the pod. Today I want to talk about a trap. And this trap almost always happens in super early sobriety, like somewhere in day 15 to 30, usually.But it can also happen farther down the road in your recovery. But when you first stop drinking, fear and consequences do all the heavy lifting. The panic keeps you sober. The raw embarrassment keeps you sober. But that crisis energy has an expiration date, and it usually hits well before you even cross the 30-day mark.

Whether it takes two weeks for the dust to settle or a full month because you had a massive wreckage to clear, a moment is coming where things just feel okay. The shame spiral stalls out, you’re finally sleeping, you look in the mirror and you don’t hate who’s looking back at you. It feels like a victory. The physical misery stops, the anxiety lifts, and your life starts looking manageable again.

And right there in that quiet moment, your brain is gonna whisper, look at that, you’re fine, you figured it out. Your brain is gonna try to use that temporary comfort to negotiate you right back to a drink. Today we’re exposing that trap. We’re talking about why feeling better is not the same as being better.

We’re gonna talk about what’s actually happening in this phase, why it catches so many people off guard, and what you need to do when you hit it, because you will hit it. And when you do, I want you to be ready. So let’s start at the beginning because I wanna give credit where credit’s due. Those first few days of sobriety are brutal. I mean that. We’re talking about waking up in the middle of the night in a full panic, heart pounding, mind racing.

Angela (02:39.028)
Anxiety, so intense it feels like you’re gonna come out of your skin, shaking, sweating. Every sound feels too loud, and every feeling feels too big. And your body is just in full revolt because it doesn’t know what to do without alcohol in it. And then there’s the emotional side of it, the shame spiral, replaying every decision, every embarrassing moment, every consequence you’re now staring down.

The fear about what people think, the fear about what comes next, the fear that you’ve already done too much damage to fix anything. And you go through that. You stay sober through that. That’s not a small thing. And then somewhere around day five, maybe day seven, you start to notice something shifting. The anxiety starts to lift. You sleep through the night. You look in the mirror and your face looks different, less puffy, less red or gray.

Your energy starts coming back. You make it through a whole day without white knuckling every hour. And for the first time in a long time, life starts to feel manageable. Your body’s healing. Your mind is starting to clear. And that feeling of things getting better is legit. And here is what I also need you to understand about that phase.

Angela (04:04.876)
What powered you through those first few days wasn’t willpower. It wasn’t discipline. It wasn’t a sudden shift in your mindset or a new level of commitment you’ve never had before. It was crisis energy. Fear, shame, consequences you couldn’t ignore, a hangover so bad you swore you’d never do it again, a conversation with your kid or your boss or your spouse that you can’t undo.

A moment where you looked at yourself and you could no longer deny the truth. That’s powerful fuel. And it will absolutely get you sober, but it has an expiration date. Crisis energy burns hot and it burns fast. And when it starts to fade, when the consequences feel less immediate, when the shame starts to dull and the physical misery is behind you, that fuel runs out.

And if you don’t have something to replace it with, that’s when things get dangerous. Because here’s the thing about crisis energy: it makes the decision for you. When you’re in the middle of it, you don’t have to talk yourself into sobriety. The pain does that. But when the pain fades, sobriety becomes a choice you have to make consciously every day without the crisis pushing you.

And a lot of people aren’t prepared for that. This is the phase I want to name today because I don’t think it gets talked about enough. I call it the plateau. You know what a plateau feels like. If you’ve ever tried to lose weight or get in shape, you’re doing the work, you’re showing up, and then one day it’s like nothing’s happening, right? The scale isn’t moving, you don’t feel like you’re making progress. And that plateau is exactly where most people quit.

Not because the work stopped working, but because the momentum stopped feeling obvious. For us, we need that reinforcement. We need to see it’s working one way or another. Well, recovery has its own version of this, and it’s sneakier because the recovery plateau doesn’t feel like stalled progress. It actually feels like success. The pain is gone, the chaos has settled.

Angela (06:28.696)
From the outside and even from the inside, things look good. And that’s exactly when sobriety starts to feel confusing. Because in those super early days, the path was clear. Don’t drink. Get through the day. That was the whole job. But now you’re feeling better and you don’t really know what you’re supposed to do next. You’re not in crisis anymore. So what does recovery even look like now?

And here’s where it gets really specific to my audience, because so many of you are high functioning. You’re professionals, your parents, your people who hold it together. You’re not the person in the movie who hits rock bottom in a dramatic, obvious way. You’re the person who’s been quietly managing a problem that’s slowly getting worse. And because you’re high functioning, the idea of going to meetings or hiring a coach.

starts to feel like overkill. Like, do I really need all of that? Things are feeling pretty okay. Underneath all of this is something I want to bring to the surface because I think it’s the real reason the plateau catches people off guard.

Angela (07:48.288)
Underneath all of this is something I want to bring to the surface because I think it’s the real reason the plateau catches people so off guard. You thought quitting drinking was going to fix everything. And I get it, I do. When drinking is the source of so much pain and chaos and shame in your life, it makes total sense that you’d believe removing it would remove the problem. Like if I just stop drinking, everything else will fall into place. So you get sober.

You get through the hard part, you start feeling better, and then the initial excitement of feeling better fades. And you realize the anxiety is still there. The relationship stress is still there. The financial stress is still there. The uncertainty about who you are without alcohol is still there. You don’t automatically know how to handle your emotions or your triggers.

Or your social life or your boredom, right? You removed the substance, but you haven’t actually rebuilt anything yet. And that feels frustrating, deeply frustrating, because you did the hard thing. You stopped drinking, and life is still uncomfortable. And you want it to be better now. That’s not impatience. That’s actually just your brain doing brain things, right? That’s your brain doing exactly what it was trained to do.

Think about what alcohol did for you. Whatever the problem was stress, boredom, loneliness, anxiety, social discomfort, a hard day, a hard feeling, alcohol made it better now, not tomorrow, not after you worked through it, immediately, right? You felt the relief within minutes. That’s a powerful conditioning loop. You trained your brain to know that alcohol is the fastest route to relief. And your brain is very good at remembering that.

So when sobriety asks you to sit with discomfort instead of escaping it, when the answer to a hard feeling is not immediate relief, but working through it, that feels wrong. It feels like something is broken, not because sobriety is broken, but because you’ve spent years training yourself to expect the problem to disappear now. And the plateau is when that expectation hits hardest.

Angela (10:15.372)
Because the crisis is over. You should be fixed, right? The urgency has faded. And without the urgency, you’re left uncertain about what you’re actually supposed to do next. That uncertainty is the plateau, and it’s where most people slip. Not because they decided to drink again, but because they stopped actively deciding not to.

Angela (10:50.808)
Hey, real quick, let’s take a break because I want to talk to those of you who are in that early stage of sobriety and you’re feeling exactly what we’re talking about today. The crisis energy is gone, the confusion is setting in, and you know you need to do something, but you don’t know what. This is exactly why I built the Recovery Starter Kit. It’s a self paced course designed specifically to take you through your first 60 days, giving you a clear step by step

Blueprint to build your sober foundation. We focus entirely on the core pillars of long-term recovery: support, connection, managing your real-world emotions and triggers. When you grab the starter kit, you’re not just getting my full course, you’re also getting 30 days inside my private member community. And inside the community, you get access to our official sober society three-step success path.

This is the exact roadmap we use to take you from stage one struggle, where you’re trying to stop but don’t have a system yet, stage two, shift, where sobriety becomes your power instead of a restriction. And finally, into stage three, growth, where you’re building a life you actually love living. Inside the community, you get concrete.

Done done checklist for every single one of these stages so you can check off your progress and know exactly what to do next. You also get access to all the sober society meetings. You can go to a meeting almost every day of the week if you want. It’s only 197. You get immediate access. Stop white knuckling the plateau and go to addictionunlimited.com forward slash kit to grab it right now. And I’ll put that link in the show notes. Addictionunlimited.com

com forward slash kit.

Angela (12:55.072)
Okay, so let’s talk about what’s actually true.

Angela (13:06.88)
Okay, so let’s talk about what’s actually true. Feeling better is not the finish line, it’s the starting line. When the crisis energy fades and life stabilizes and you hit that plateau, this is not a sign that you’re done. That is a sign that the real work is beginning. The emergency is over. Now you have to actually build something. And I know that’s not what you want to hear.

I know you want sobriety to be the thing that makes it all better, that closed the chapter on the hard stuff. But here’s what sobriety actually does. It clears the wreckage so you can see what’s underneath it. It removes the noise so you can hear what’s actually going on with you. And it gives you the space and the clarity to actually do something about your life, which is something you could never do when you were drinking.

The plateau isn’t a problem. It’s a transition point. It’s the moment where sobriety stops being about surviving and starts being about building. And the people who make it through that transition are the ones who recognize it for what it is and keep going anyway.

So what do you actually do when you’re in it? When the urgency is gone and the confusion is settling in and your brain starts to quietly whisper that maybe it wasn’t that bad, maybe you can handle it differently now, maybe you’re just being dramatic. Well, you go back to what you know. You know you don’t drink well. Not some of the time, not when you’re stressed or when it’s a special occasion or you’ve had a hard week. You know that you don’t drink well, period. That’s not a judgment.

That’s just information about how alcohol works in your body and your life. You know you don’t want to drink anymore. That hasn’t changed just because the anxiety faded. The decision you made when you were in the middle of the worst of it, that was the clearest version of yourself making that call. Not the romanticized version, not the version that’s had a few weeks of distance from the consequences, but the real you with real information made a real decision.

Angela (15:24.192)
You know it was slowly wrecking your life. Even if it didn’t look dramatic from the outside, even if you were still showing up to work and taking care of your kids and holding it together, you know what it was costing you in your health, your relationships, your self-respect, your sleep, your anxiety levels, your sense of who you actually are. So you work on that.

Regardless of what your brain is trying to tell you in the plateau. Because here’s what’s happening when your brain starts romanticizing alcohol again. It’s not lying to you because it’s broken, it’s doing exactly what it was trained to do. You spent years, maybe decades, teaching your brain that alcohol is the fastest solution to discomfort. Not the best solution, not the right solution.

Just the fastest route to numbing.

And your brain is very efficient. When it feels discomfort, it’s gonna pull up the fastest solution in its files. And for a long time that was alcohol. That’s not a character flaw. That’s just how brains work. But here’s what’s also true: numbing is not real relief. It never was. It was just fast. And fast isn’t the same as effective. In recovery, you find real relief.

You learn what you actually need when you’re stressed or when you’re lonely or when you’re overwhelmed or when you’re bored. And that takes time. It takes practice. It requires you to stay sober long enough to figure it out, which means staying sober through the plateau, even when it’s confusing, even when it doesn’t feel urgent, even when your brain is offering you the easy way out. You work on sobriety because you know it’s the right thing, not because you’re still in crisis.

Angela (17:23.446)
That’s the shift. That’s how you get from white knuckling it through the emergency to actually building a life you don’t want to drink away.

Angela (17:38.178)
What we’ve really been talking about today isn’t just a timeline or a set of dates on a calendar. It’s about recognizing the subtle shift where your mind tries to convince you that the hard part is over or that you can handle it on your own now. The early sobriety trap is incredibly clever because it uses your own progress against you. When you start feeling better and getting your energy back and clearing the mental fog, that voice creeps in to say, see?

You’re fine. But that comfort is exactly where the risk lives. The plateau is the moment where the emergency ends and the real decision begins. True, sustainable sobriety isn’t built in the moments when everything is going well. It’s built by creating a bulletproof system before the storm hits. It’s about having the humility to admit while you can’t.

Can do this, you shouldn’t have to do it alone. It’s recognizing the trap is the first step, but choosing to actively dismantle it with accountability and tools and real world strategies is how you actually change the trajectory of your recovery. You deserve recovery that lasts, not just a temporary break from the chaos. That shift is everything.

It’s the difference between people who make it and people who keep starting over. The ones who make it aren’t the ones who had it easier or wanted it more. They’re the ones who recognized their brain trying to reel them back in and they didn’t fall for it. Because let’s be real about something. None of us are taking a break or quitting for a while to see how it goes because we drink like normal people.

We’re here because we already know we can’t drink like normal people. That’s not a story we’re telling ourselves. That’s the truth about how alcohol works in our lives. So when your brain starts creeping around with the nonsense, just one, just tonight, we can start over tomorrow. No one will even know. You have to be the one in charge. You have to recognize the manipulation for exactly what it is.

Angela (20:02.112)
And make the decision for yourself that you’re not drinking. Not because the crisis is forcing you, but because you decided. And if you feel bad, figure it the fuck out. That’s the work. If your anxiety is through the roof, figure it the fuck out. There are a million ways to calm anxiety. And 99% of them are free and only take a few minutes.

If you’re overwhelmed, figure it the fuck out. Google it. Go on YouTube, search how to work through overwhelm. And you will get answers, real answers. Answers that actually solve the problem instead of just burying it until tomorrow.

That is recovery, not defaulting back to the pattern you already know causes you harm, staying sober through the discomfort and actually solving the thing. That’s what building a life looks like. You did the hard part. You got through the crisis. You proved you can do this. The only question now is whether you’re going to use this window, this moment of clarity and stability, to actually build something. Or

Whether you’re going to wait until the next crisis forces you back here. Because here’s what I know to be true for sure. The plateau doesn’t last forever. You either move through it or it moves you backward, right? There’s no staying in the same place. So use this moment. Use the clarity you have right now before life gets loud again, before the next hard thing hits, before the whispers get louder than your decision. This is your window.

Don’t waste it. In this last part, I’m talking to someone very specific right now. Maybe you found this podcast a while back. Maybe you

Angela (22:20.044)
Maybe you found this podcast a while back. Maybe you and I have actually talked like directly on a consultation call and something in that conversation clicked. You felt it, you knew coaching was the next step, and then life happened, or the timing felt off, or the investment felt too big, or things started feeling okay enough that you talked yourself out of it. That’s literally what this entire episode is about.

That’s the plateau doing exactly what it does. I want to talk to the people who have been on a call with me, felt that connection with me, knew I’m the person they wanted to work through this with, but the fears kicked in and derailed you. Am I ready? Can I do it? What if I pay all this money and fail? Is this really what I need? That’s the plateau we’ve been talking about. Some crisis happened.

You drank too much, you got mouthy with your partner, you missed work again. So you reached out to me for help. We had a great conversation because all my consultation calls are great. We laugh, we connect, it feels right, but you didn’t sign up immediately with me. You hung up the phone with the best intentions, you felt good for the first time, you had hope because you felt supported and excited.

And then your brain kicks in with all the second guessing. That’s the plateau. Do I really need to spend the money on this? Can I really do it on my own if I try extra hard? That’s who I’m talking to. You are ready. It is time. You already know the answer. You already know this is what you want and what you need. And you’re dying to feel that hope and excitement and support again, just like you felt when we talked. If that’s you.

You know, I’m ready the very moment you’re ready. You can text me, let me know you’re ready now, and we can start this week. It’s literally that simple. Because here’s what I know: the people who get on a call with me and feel that pull toward coaching, they already know. They know what they need. The plateau is what stops them from following through. And if you’ve recently relapsed or you can feel yourself sliding.

Angela (24:37.794)
The quiet is getting loud. Please don’t wait for another painful crisis moment to make the decision you already made once. You don’t have to start over from the worst moment of your life again. You can just start from right here. Reach out. Let’s finish what we started. And if you haven’t been on a call with me already, but you’re feeling that pull toward coaching because you know it’s what you need, then book a call with me and let’s see if we’re a good fit.

Mm mm.

Angela (25:11.19)
Addictionunlimited.com forward slash call. That link is always in the show notes. Addictionunlimited.com forward slash call. You don’t have to have all the answers. That’s my job. Let me figure out the hard stuff. All you have to do is relax and feel better. Addictionunlimited.com forward slash call. I love you guys. I hope you’re having a fantastic day. And I will see you next week.

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Making rules, breaking rules, starting over — if drinking takes up too much space in your brain, you’ll recognize yourself in this conversation.

Not a dramatic rock bottom. Not losing everything. Not waking up one day suddenly certain she had to quit forever.

Just years of exhausting negotiation.

She tracked sober days on a calendar she bought at Target, crossing off each X with a pen and a ruler.

She made rules — only on weekends, only when she went out, never at home — and watched every single one of them quietly expand until drinking had taken over the whole week.

She quit for 60 days in the summer of 2019 specifically to prove to herself she didn’t have a problem…then went to a Zach Brown concert and hopped right back on.

Sound familiar?

The hardest part often isn’t the drinking itself. It’s the obsession.

The constant mental debate.

The planning, the bargaining, the monitoring, the shame. The promises you make to yourself that somehow never stick.

In this episode, we talk about:

The mental exhaustion of trying to control something that can’t be controlled
Why high-functioning people stay stuck for years — and why “I still went to work” isn’t the whole story
What white-knuckling sobriety actually feels like, and why willpower eventually runs out
How connection and community changed everything for Denise
What finally helped her stop going it alone
What life actually looks and feels like five years in

We also talk about the fear of quitting forever, the weird and wonderful things that surprised her in early sobriety, and why the evolution doesn’t happen sitting on your couch.

This one is honest, funny, and real. If you’ve ever thought “maybe I can still figure this out” — this episode is for you.

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This is a real conversation about what doing the work in recovery actually looks like beyond just “not drinking.”

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You quit drinking—and now you’re staring at your life like… now what?

No one really talks about this part.
The part where alcohol is gone, but everything else is still the same—and suddenly, nothing fits.

It feels hollow. Disconnected.
Like you’re just trying to survive your own evenings.

So you start questioning it:
“Maybe I’m doing this wrong.”
“Maybe sobriety isn’t for me.”

That’s not the problem.

The problem is you’re trying to build a new life using old materials.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why that gap feels so uncomfortable—and what actually needs to happen for sobriety to start feeling like your life, not just something you’re trying to manage.

Because nothing changes if nothing changes.

And I’m sharing the exact shift that made the difference for me: a simple decision filter that completely rewired how I lived in early sobriety.

“Is this what the old me would do?”

If the answer was yes—I did the opposite.

Not because it felt good.
Not because it was easy.

But because that’s how you build a new identity—one decision at a time.

You don’t need to have it all figured out.

You just need to stop letting the old version of you make the decisions.

Because you don’t get a new life by cleaning up the old one.

You get it by building something completely different.

If you’re sober but stuck… this is the episode that shows you what comes next.

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You’re doing everything right — so why does sobriety feel like it’s making everything worse?

One of my clients came to me about a month into our work together and she was defeated. Not the white-knuckling kind of defeated — the kind that comes from trying really hard and feeling like it’s not working. She was crying more than when she was drinking. Fighting more with her partner. She couldn’t answer the question “what do you like to do for fun?” without going completely blank.

She looked at me and said, “I think I’m doing this wrong.”

She wasn’t. And if you’re in that same place right now — somewhere in that 30 to 90 day window wondering if sobriety is actually making things worse — this episode is for you.

I walk you through the 4 things that happen in early recovery that look like failure but are actually signs you’re doing it exactly right.

In this episode:

Why nothing feels fun anymore — and what’s happening in your brain
Why you’re more emotional in sobriety, not less
Why your relationships feel harder right now
The difference between needing rest and disappearing
Why the 30–90 day window is quietly one of the most dangerous in early recovery

The discomfort isn’t a detour on the way to healing. The discomfort is the healing.

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Have you told yourself you were done — really done — more times than you can count?

Not cutting back, not taking a break. Done.
And then a few days go by, maybe a few weeks, and suddenly the conversation starts again.

Maybe just tonight. Maybe I’ve got it under control now.

If that pattern sounds familiar, here’s what’s actually going on: you haven’t decided yet.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the difference between visiting sobriety and actually leaving — and why keeping the door open even just a little bit is exactly what keeps the cycle going.

This isn’t about willpower or wanting it badly enough.
It’s about a decision you haven’t fully made.

You’ll hear why taking a break from drinking can actually keep you stuck longer than the drinking itself, what your brain is really doing when it keeps bringing alcohol back up for review, and why the fear of “forever” isn’t a sign you’re not ready — it’s a sign you haven’t closed the loop.

In this episode:

Why taking a break from drinking feels productive — but isn’t actually changing anything
The difference between trying to quit and deciding to quit — and why that gap is everything
What “visiting sobriety” really means and why so many people live there for years
Why clarity doesn’t come after you quit — it comes from the decision itself
What it looks like to build a real system around your sobriety instead of relying on willpower

If you’re tired of starting over, tired of the negotiation, tired of waking up and having the same exhausting conversation in your head — this episode is your next step.

Ready to stop the cycle? Book a call with Angela at addictionunlimited.com/call

Related Episode: The Science Of Sobriety And How To Feel Better Faster

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Every single time you said you were done, you meant it.

So why does it keep not sticking?

Most people blame willpower. Or discipline. Or not wanting it badly enough.

But this episode goes somewhere different — somewhere most recovery content never goes.

Because the real reason “I’m done” doesn’t hold has nothing to do with how serious you are. It has everything to do with what’s been happening underneath the surface, quietly, every single day you were drinking.

Every hidden bottle.
Every “just two” that turned into six.
Every lie you told yourself and your family.

Your brain was keeping score.

And over time, it built a verdict about you — one you never consciously chose, but one you feel every time you make a promise to yourself.

So now, when you decide to quit…

there’s a part of you that doesn’t fully believe you.

Yeah… we’ll see.

That erosion of self-trust is the layer nobody’s talking about. And until you understand it, you’ll keep wondering why intention alone isn’t enough.

In this episode, we cover:

The hidden sacrifices drinking demands — beyond the health costs and the money
Why every broken promise to yourself compounds into something that changes how you see yourself
What’s really happening internally the moment you say “I’m done” — and why part of you doesn’t believe it
How the self-trust damage bleeds out of the drinking lane and into your whole life
The only way to actually rebuild — and why it’s smaller than you think

In this episode, we’re going deeper than the usual conversation about willpower, discipline, or trying harder.

If you’ve been wondering why nothing sticks… this may be the piece you’ve been missing.

Ready to stop repeating the cycle?

If you’re done with the back and forth…
done starting over…
and ready for support and relief —

Let’s talk: addictionunlimited.com/call

Related Episode:

Why You Can’t Quit Drinking and What Stage You’re Actually In

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You’re not stuck because you can’t quit—you’re stuck because you’re still trying to control it.

If you’ve ever told yourself “this time will be different”… only to end up right back at day one, this episode is going to hit.

Because the problem isn’t that you don’t want to stop.
It’s that part of you still wants alcohol to work.

So instead of walking away… you keep negotiating.

You make new rules.
You try new strategies.
You convince yourself you’ve got it handled.

And for a little while, it feels like progress.

But it’s not.

It’s the same cycle—just dressed up differently.

In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly why moderating your drinking keeps you stuck, why it feels like effort but leads nowhere, and the truth you have to face if you actually want to get out of the loop.

This is the shift most people avoid… and the one that changes everything.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

Why trying to “control” your drinking is what keeps you stuck in the cycle
The real reason moderation feels like progress (but isn’t)
What’s actually happening when you keep resetting and starting over
Why this isn’t a discipline or willpower problem
The hidden attachment that keeps pulling you back in
How this pattern quietly destroys your confidence and self-trust
Why fear—not failure—is the reason you stay stuck
The truth about control that no one talks about
What it actually takes to break the cycle for good

If you’re tired of starting over…
tired of negotiating with yourself…
tired of feeling like you “should have this figured out by now”…

This episode will show you exactly what’s been keeping you stuck—and what needs to change.

Ready to stop the cycle for good?

If you’re done trying to figure this out on your own and you’re ready to build something solid, I can help.

👉 Book a call: https://addictionunlimited.com/call

We’ll talk about where you are, what’s been keeping you stuck, and what you actually need to move forward—with real support, real structure, and real direction.

👉 Related Episode: You’re Not Doing the Work — You’re Just Watching Other People Do It

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If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I just quit drinking and move on?” — this episode is going to hit.

Because the truth is, most people don’t struggle with sobriety because they’re incapable… they struggle because they’re trying to make it easy.

You want to quit drinking without disrupting your life.
Without changing your routines.
Without feeling uncomfortable.

You want to put the bottle down and just move on like nothing happened.

And that’s exactly why it’s not sticking.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the real reason you keep starting over—and it has nothing to do with willpower, discipline, or how badly you want it.

It comes down to this: easy doesn’t change anything.

We’re talking about what “easy sobriety” actually looks like in real life (and why it fails), what you’re really avoiding when you say you want this to feel easier, and the identity shift that has to happen if you want this to last.

Because sobriety isn’t just about not drinking.

It’s about becoming someone who lives differently.

And that requires change. Real change.

The kind that feels uncomfortable at first—but actually works.

If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of starting over, making new rules, taking breaks, and trying to “figure it out” on your own… this episode will show you exactly where things are breaking down—and what needs to happen next.

In this episode, I cover:

Why wanting sobriety to be easy is keeping you stuck
What “easy sobriety” actually looks like (and why it fails)
The real reason you keep starting over
What you’re avoiding—and why that matters
The identity shift required for lasting sobriety

Links mentioned in this episode:

Book a call (Private Coaching): https://addictionunlimited.com/call
Join the Recovery Accelerator: https://addictionunlimited.com/accelerator
Addiction Unlimited Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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You’re not crazy… but I know it feels like you are.

You say you’re done.
And you mean it.

You wake up with that clarity… that this time is different energy.

And for a little while, it is.

A few days. Maybe a couple weeks.

You feel better. Clearer. Back in control.

And then something hits.

Stress.
Boredom.
A bad day.
A feeling you don’t know what to do with.

And just like that… you’re right back where you started.

Again.

So what’s going on?

Because this is the part that makes no sense:

You’re smart.
You’re capable.
You handle everything else in your life.

So why does this one thing keep taking you out?

Why do you keep doing something you know isn’t working?

Here’s the truth:

It’s not a willpower problem.

You’re not weak.
You’re not broken.

But you are missing a few critical pieces.

And until you fix those…
you’ll keep repeating the same cycle no matter how many times you start over.

And there’s one part almost no one talks about—

Even if you’re doing everything “right”…

If part of you is still thinking:
“Maybe someday I’ll be able to drink again”
or
“I’m not that bad”

…you’re still in it.

Because as long as alcohol is still an option in your mind,
you will keep going back to it.

That’s the loop.

In this episode, I break it all down.

Why you keep ending up back at Day One—even when you’re trying.
What’s actually missing from your approach.
The moment where most people relapse—and what’s really happening there.
And the mindset that quietly keeps you stuck, even when you think you’re doing everything right.

If you’re tired of starting over… this is where things can actually change.

You don’t need more information.

You need structure.
You need support.
You need a system that works when things get hard.

That’s exactly what I’ve built inside the Recovery Accelerator.

👉 Join here: addictionunlimited.com/accelerator

Enrollment closes April 2.

If you’re done messing around and you want real help:

👉 Book a call: addictionunlimited.com/call

We’ll talk about where you are, what’s getting in the way, and we can start RIGHT NOW.

👉 Related Episode: You’re Not Doing the Work – You’re Just Watching Other People Do It

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You keep thinking about the fun times. The laughs, the connection, the way it helped you relax.

And the more you think about it, the harder recovery feels.

Sound familiar?

In this episode, we’re talking about why romanticizing your drinking keeps you stuck — and how to redirect that same energy toward the life you actually want to build.

Because your future deserves a highlight reel too.

Your brain isn’t lying — those moments were real.

The relief, the connection, the way it felt after a hard week — it happened.

But your brain is curating.

It’s playing a movie trailer of your drinking life — all the best scenes, none of the wreckage.

None of the 2am version. None of the shame you carried like a second skin.

And when the fantasy feels better than the reality of building something new, people get frozen between two lives — the one they’re trying to leave, and the one they haven’t started building yet.

That’s the trap.

What if you gave yourself permission to daydream about the future with the same energy you’ve been giving the past?

The vacation you’ll actually remember.
The money that stays in your account.
The version of you who makes a plan and follows through.
The parent who’s actually present.
The life where you’re not maintaining a double life anymore — where what people see is actually who you are.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through four tools to make that shift stick — including how to play the full tape when nostalgia hits, how to build a sober vision specific enough to compete with the past, and how to start building the identity you actually want to step into.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

Why your brain plays a highlight reel of your drinking — and why it’s lying to you by omission
The identity void that happens when you stop drinking and why it’s one of the biggest relapse triggers nobody talks about
How to build a vision of your sober life that’s specific, compelling, and worth staying for
Four practical tools to redirect your romanticizing from the past to the future
What it actually feels like to not have a double life anymore

Grab your earbuds, get comfy, and let’s build something worth romanticizing.

Links Mentioned:

📞 Book a call: addictionunlimited.com/call
🎧 Sober Vision episode: Crafting Your Most Powerful Sober Vision
📸 Instagram @addictionunlimited
👥 Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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What if life is boring without alcohol?

That’s one of the biggest fears people have when they think about quitting drinking.

Not just, “What will I do on Friday night?”
But deeper questions like:

Will I still be fun?
Will people still like me?
Will my relationship still work?
What do I do with stress, anxiety, awkwardness, or family events without a drink?

In this episode, I’m breaking down why that fear is so common, what’s really happening underneath it, and why “boredom” usually isn’t the real issue at all.

We’re talking about the way alcohol becomes the signal to relax, connect, celebrate, and cope — and why removing it can feel like pulling a load-bearing wall out of your life.

I also share a personal story about one of my biggest fears in early sobriety: that I wouldn’t be funny anymore.

If you’ve been worried that life without alcohol will feel dull, lonely, or less fun, this episode will help you understand what’s actually going on — and why the version of you on the other side of this fear is more real, more confident, and more free.

In this episode, we talk about:* why people fear life without alcohol will be boring * the real fear underneath “boredom” * social anxiety, identity, and sober confidence * how alcohol becomes the off switch for stress and discomfort * why early sobriety can feel flat or empty at first * dopamine, brain recalibration, and emotional healing * how relationships and social life change without alcohol * what it means to build a life you actually trust yourself in

If you’ve ever wondered what life without alcohol actually looks like, grab your latte, pop in your earbuds, and let’s talk about what’s really going on underneath that fear.

Mentioned in this episode:Ready to stop drinking and start right now?
DM me the word READY on Instagram or Facebook at Addiction Unlimited and let’s talk.

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Related Episode: The 4-Stage Recovery Roadmap and What to Work on at Each Stage

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Early sobriety can feel like your emotions are turned up to 100 — and if you don’t understand what’s happening in your nervous system, it can feel overwhelming fast.

One of the biggest mistakes people make in recovery is assuming every uncomfortable feeling is the same thing. We call it anxiety, we try to breathe through it, journal through it, or just push through it… and when that doesn’t work, we feel like we’re failing.

But the truth is, not all emotional activation is the same — and different states require different tools.

In this episode, I’m breaking down four common types of emotional dysregulation that show up in sobriety and the practical tools that actually help regulate each one.

Because staying sober isn’t just about willpower.

It’s about learning how to regulate your nervous system without alcohol.

You’ll hear about:

Why early sobriety emotions can feel so intense
• The difference between rumination, attachment activation, shame spirals, and under-stimulation
• Why trying to “think your way out” of dysregulation rarely works
• The reason alcohol felt like it solved everything — and what to replace it with
• Practical tools you can use when your nervous system is activated

If you’ve ever felt like your brain is spinning, your emotions are overwhelming, or you’re reacting to things in ways you don’t fully understand — this episode will help you make sense of what’s happening and give you tools that actually work.

Because the goal of recovery isn’t just quitting drinking.

It’s learning how to live in your own nervous system without needing alcohol to regulate it.

Links Mentioned in This Episode

Ready to get support and build a clear recovery plan?
Book a call with Angela:
https://addictionunlimited.com/call

Want a structured path to long-term sobriety?
Learn more about the Recovery Accelerator Group:
https://addictionunlimited.com/accelerator

Listen to this related episode:
6 Sobriety Traps That Trigger Relapse in Early Recovery
https://addictionunlimited.com/6-sobriety-traps-that-trigger-relapse-in-early-recovery/

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You know recovery is supposed to be more than just not drinking, but the day still feels like you’re mostly just getting through it.

You might just be missing the foundation that makes recovery actually feel like something.

Here’s what I know to be true: sobriety removes the alcohol. Recovery heals the patterns underneath it.

And those are two very different things.

But understanding the difference is one thing — living it on an ordinary Tuesday is another.

In this episode, I’m walking you through a full recovery-focused day — hour by hour — and showing you exactly what living in recovery looks like in practice.

We’re grounding it all in the three things addiction needs to thrive, and what you can do every single day to take them away from it. Not a perfect day. An intentional one.

If you’ve ever wondered what recovery is actually supposed to look like — or you’ve been sober for a while and still feel like something’s missing — this one’s for you, my friend.

IN THIS EPISODE:

The real difference between sobriety and recovery — and why it changes everything about how you approach your day
The three things addiction needs to survive — and how recovery dismantles all three of them
Why emotional isolation is just as dangerous as physical isolation — even if your calendar is full
Why 99% of recovery — especially early on — is nervous system regulation, and what that actually looks like in your morning
The eye contact story — and how breaking anxiety down into tiny pieces changed everything for me
What active participation really means — and how to tell the difference between showing up and actually doing the work
Why avoidance and procrastination aren’t laziness — they’re emotion regulation, and what to do about it instead
How to close your day with honesty and intention — without the shame spiral

This is the episode I wish I’d had when I first got sober. Hit play, my friend — let’s walk through the day together.

RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED:

Episode 420 — Why You’re Sober But Still Have the Same Problems
Episode 421 — Overwhelmed by Sobriety Advice? Here’s How to Actually Start
Episode 418 — Presence Is Not Participation
Recovery Accelerator — 4-Week Group Coaching Program: addictionunlimited.com/accelerator
Book a Call with Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call

CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/addictionunlimited/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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If you keep asking yourself “What am I doing wrong?” — this episode is for you.

Most people relapse dozens of times before they actually get it right.

And if that’s you, I know how exhausting that cycle is.

But here’s the truth: There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s not that you don’t want it badly enough.

It’s that the answer you need isn’t about actions and distractions.

It’s about the mindset shifts that create real, lasting change.

Today, I’m giving you the 6 non-negotiables that separate people who actually change from people who keep starting over.

This isn’t a checklist. This isn’t about doing more things.

This is about shifting how you think, how you show up, and who you become.

These 6 principles apply to recovery — but they also apply to life. Career. Relationships. Health. Any major transformation.

This is your personal code of conduct for real change.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

– 2:43: Why discomfort doesn’t mean bad — it just means you’re working a new muscle

– 5:07: The real sacrifices recovery requires (and the ones you conveniently forget you already made)

– 7:11: How to stop controlling what other people think and start prioritizing what you know

– 9:17: Why brutal honesty is the only way forward — and how ego keeps you stuck

– 10:53: What willingness actually looks like (hint: your feelings can’t run the show)

– 13:15: Why you have to grow the fuck up — whether you feel like it or not

– 14:00: The bear analogy that will change how you think about your alcoholism

Listen in and decide: Are you ready to stop doing busy work and start doing the real work? Because that’s where actual change happens.

LINKS MENTIONED:

– Recovery Starter Kit

– Book a Free Consultation Call: addictionunlimited.com/call

– Related Episode: Why You’re Sober But Still Have the Same Problems

– Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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The 4-Stage Recovery Roadmap and What to Work on at Each Stage

If you’re feeling stuck or confused about where you are in your sobriety and what you should actually be working on, this episode is for you.

I see it all the time: people trying to fix everything at once, or trying to skip ahead to the deep emotional work when they haven’t even built a stable foundation yet.

And then they relapse. Or they burn out. Or they just stay stuck in the same patterns.

Today, I’m breaking down the four stages of recovery—what you should be focusing on at each stage, and why you can’t skip ahead.

Here’s the thing: the timelines I’m giving you are general guidelines. They’re not rules.

For me, I spent way more time in Stage 2. I needed that time. But Stage 3 went faster for me because I loved that part of my process —it was hands down my favorite part of the steps.

So don’t get hung up on the timeline.

What matters is that you’re doing the work required in each stage before you move on to the next one. You get out of this exactly what you put into it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

–> 3:17: What Stage 1 actually looks like—and why the only goal is “don’t drink today”

–> 6:03: How to navigate Stage 2 when you’re asking “Who am I without alcohol?”

–> 11:05: Why Stage 3 is about rebuilding what matters and letting go of what doesn’t

–> 14:11: What it means to shift from surviving to thriving in Stage 4

–> 16:50: Why you absolutely cannot skip stages—and what happens when you try

Listen in and figure out where you are right now. Then focus on the work that actually matters at this stage—so you can build a life so powerful, so clear, so good that you’ll never want to leave it.

LINKS MENTIONED:

Recovery Starter Kit
Book a Free Consultation Call: addictionunlimited.com/call
Episode 421 – Overwhelmed by Sobriety Advice, Here’s How to Actually Start
Cozy Earth – Use code ANGELA for 20% off

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You know what’s keeping you from getting sober? All the advice telling you how to get sober.

Everyone’s got a different rulebook.

The old-timers say meetings every day, get a sponsor immediately, work the steps to a tee.

People like me say do it your way—you don’t have to follow the doctrine perfectly.

And newer recovery voices are teaching completely different avenues to recovery.

And you’re stuck in the middle, just trying to figure out how to get through today without a drink, paralyzed by all these options, wondering which path is “right.”

Here’s the truth nobody’s telling you: There is no wrong way.

I’m giving you the three universal foundations that every strong sobriety is built on, and showing you how to stop waiting for permission and just start.

You’ll learn:

Why success rates prove the program doesn’t decide—YOU do (and what recent research actually shows)
The three universal foundations every strong sobriety is built on
How to pick your path when everyone’s telling you something different
What to actually DO today to start building your sobriety

Remember, a program doesn’t determine your success. You do.

A program doesn’t work or not work.

YOU work. YOU show up, do the things, follow guidance… or you don’t.

Your success is your decision.

In this episode, I’m cutting through all the noise and breaking down exactly what you need to start your recovery journey today—no matter which path or program you choose.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EISODE

Free Download: Daily Plan

→ Recovery Starter Kit
Step-by-step lessons, worksheets, checklists, and conversation starters for the hard talks. Walks you through building the three foundations with actual tools, not just concepts.

Book a Call
→ addictionunlimited.com/call
Not sure where you are or what level of support you need? Let’s talk. We’ll figure out what’s the right fit for you right now.

Related Episode:
Episode 418: You’re Not Doing the Work, You’re Just Watching Other People Do It

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You quit drinking. So why do you still have all the same problems?

You quit drinking. That’s huge. But if you’re sitting there wondering why you still have all the same problems you had when you were drinking – I can tell you exactly why.

Drinking was never the actual problem. It was a symptom.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference between sobriety (removing alcohol) and recovery (healing the patterns underneath the behavior).

Because putting down the drink is just the starting line, not the finish line.

We talk about why you’re still making the same shitty choices (just without alcohol), the patterns keeping you stuck that have nothing to do with drinking, how to identify what you’re actually feeling when emotions are totally foreign, and the one thing that separates people who heal from people who stay stuck.

Here’s the truth: most people think quitting drinking is the finish line. It’s not.

Sobriety removes alcohol. Recovery heals the patterns.

If you quit drinking but you’re still people-pleasing, self-sabotaging, avoiding discomfort, or reacting emotionally to everything – you’re just living your drinking life without alcohol.

Same patterns, same problems, just without the numbing agent.

This one’s raw, real, and no fluff. Just the truth about what it actually takes to heal.

In this episode, I share:

3:30: Why drinking is only a symptom of bigger problems
8:03: The patterns you need to heal (and how to identify them)
13:14: What to do when you can’t even recognize what you’re feeling
15:10: Why action – not information – is what actually changes your life

Listen in, and if you’re ready to take big action and get big results, I have three coaching spots open this month. Book a call at addictionunlimited.com/call.

And check out this episode about how presence is not equal to participation:

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Everything you need to know about why sobriety alone isn’t enough – and what real recovery actually looks like.

Listen, I see this pattern ALL the time with the people I work with.

They quit drinking, they think they’ve done the hard part, and then a few weeks or months in… they’re confused.

They’re disappointed. They’re thinking, “Is THIS what the rest of my life is going to be like?”

And the answer is: only if you stop here.

Sobriety is quitting. Recovery is healing. And the only way to stay sober – the only way to actually build a life you love – is to do the healing work

Most people quit drinking hoping sobriety won’t be too inconvenient.

They want the same life.
The same relationships.
The same routines.
Just… without alcohol.

And at first, it works. You feel better. Clearer. Less foggy.

But then — weeks or months in — the feelings come back.

Anxiety.
Overwhelm.
Anger.
Fear.

All the things alcohol was quietly managing for you? They’re still there. And now they’re loud because you aren’t numbing them anymore.

That doesn’t mean sobriety is failing.
It means your nervous system is healing.

Today, I’m sitting down with Michael Z, who has 30 years of sobriety.

And let me tell you, this conversation is GOLD.

Michael is old-school AA, incredibly honest, and he shares exactly what it was really like in early sobriety and what it takes to build a life you actually want to live long-term.

Because recovery isn’t a destination — it’s a practice.

If you’re newly sober and struggling – if you’re thinking “why is this so hard?” or “I thought things would be better by now” – you’re not doing it wrong.

You’re just in the gap. The gap between sobriety and recovery.

Grab your headphones, get comfortable, and let’s talk about what it really takes to stay sober.

Trust me, this conversation is going to give you the clarity and the roadmap you need to move forward.

If you’re done white-knuckling, overthinking, or feeling stuck in that miserable middle — and you want real support to build a solid recovery foundation — I can help.

👉 Book a call with me and let’s talk about what support would actually move you forward.

Connect with me:

Instagram: @addictionunlimited
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Michael Z’s book: The Wisdom of the Rooms (daily recovery quotes and reflections)
Michael Z’s book: The Twelve Steps of Modern Hero’s Journey (recovery through the hero’s journey framework)
Joseph Campbell’s The Hero with a Thousand Faces

If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it. Recovery doesn’t happen in isolation – and neither does healing.

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Reading about sobriety isn’t the same as doing the work to get sober.

If you feel like you’re doing everything for your sobriety—but nothing is actually changing—this episode is for you.

And trust me, there’s a huge difference!

Here’s the thing: when I got sober, the landscape looked completely different.

There were no podcasts, no endless library of quit lit books, no free challenges.

But today? You can fill every spare moment with sobriety content.

And while that’s amazing in so many ways, it’s also created something I see over and over: people who mistake presence for participation.

They’re reading books, listening to podcasts, signing up for challenges, even showing up to meetings – but they’re not actually engaging.

They’re just… there.

And that’s how people stay stuck for years—busy, informed, and still drinking.

So in this episode, I’m breaking down exactly what it means to shift from passive presence to active participation.

Because that shift?

That’s where real transformation happens.

I dive into:
3:48 – Why passive sobriety feels like progress but quietly keeps you stuck
8:30 – The false comfort of other people’s stories vs. doing your own work
13:12 – How to tell if you’re participating… or just observing
17:36 – Why only showing up for celebration hurts your recovery (this one stings)
19:56 – What real participation looks like—and why the same people succeed
21:49 – Simple ways to start participating today, even if you’re uncomfortable

Tune in and get ready to shift from being present in your recovery to actually participating in it.

Because that’s where the magic happens, my friend.

And I promise you’re capable of it – right now, exactly as you are.

If you’re done consuming recovery content and ready to actually change, Sober Society is where that happens.

Join us in Sober Society for just $27/month! We’ve got meetings throughout the week (and we’re adding more in February, including a meditation meeting!).

This is a place where people actually show up, support each other, and do the work together.

Find all the details at addictionunlimited.com/society
Schedule a call to work with me at addictionunlimited.com/call

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If you’re getting sober in 2026, make it your only focus—everything else can wait.

Here we are, in that weird part of early January where everyone’s trying to overhaul their entire life at once.

New year, new you, right?

Quit drinking AND hit the gym AND change your diet AND meditate AND deal with your trauma… all at the same time.

But… when you try to transform everything simultaneously, you’re not being ambitious—you’re sabotaging the one thing that actually matters.

Today is my 20th sobriety birthday, and I’m sharing something that helped me get from one day to the next in early recovery: making sobriety my ONE thing. This simple approach allowed me to start accumulating time, finding relief, and building belief in myself—one day at a time.

Because sobriety isn’t 10% of your energy. It’s 100%.

In this episode, we dive into:

The hard truth about alcohol: it worked as your relief system, and you have to replace that relief

Why early sobriety is a full-time job disguised as “just not drinking”

How to do an inventory of your pain points and build a new survival toolkit

The ONE question to guide every decision: Is this getting me closer to sobriety or closer to a drink?

Early sobriety means managing cravings, sitting with unbearable feelings, rewiring every social situation, and learning to survive without your only coping mechanism.

That’s not a side project. That’s the entire project.

If you’re getting sober in 2026, or recommitting to sobriety, make it your sole focus.

Do this one thing well. Master it. And when it becomes stable, you can add something else.

But right now? Just stay sober. Everything else comes from that.

Listen in, and remember: sobriety IS the transformation.

Links mentioned in this episode:

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Why January 1 Isn’t the Answer — and What Actually Moves You Forward

It’s New Year’s Eve, and if you’re feeling that familiar pressure—that maybe-this-year-will-be-different energy—I want you to take a deep breath and listen up.

Whether you’re planning to drink tonight (even though you don’t really want to), or you’re already sober but looking at 2026 like it’s some kind of test you have to pass… I see you.

And here’s what I need you to know: You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re just in a stage.

In today’s episode, I’m walking you through the Stages of Change—a professional framework used in psychology and addiction recovery that’s going to help you figure out exactly where you are in your journey. Because once you know your stage, you’ll know exactly what to do next.

No more spinning your wheels. No more beating yourself up. Just clarity, action, and a path forward.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

The 5 stages are:

Pre-Contemplation
Contemplation
Preparation
Action
Maintenance

(Spoiler: If you’re listening to this podcast, you’re already past stage 1. But where are you really?)

Why people get stuck in contemplation (and the one thing that moves you forward—hint: it’s not more research)

The difference between preparation and action (and why support is the bridge between the two)

Why January 1st isn’t going to save you (but action will)

How to avoid burnout in maintenance (and why my 90-Day Focus Planner is built to help you actually make progress)

🎉Why This Episode Matters Right Now

If you’ve been beating yourself up for “not having it figured out yet,” this episode is going to shift everything for you.

You’re not failing. You’re not lacking willpower or motivation. You’re just doing the wrong work for the stage you’re in.

And once you understand that? Everything changes.

🔗Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Dry January Bootcamp – 31 days of structure, support, and figuring out who you are without alcohol.

90-Day Focus Planner – Built for people who want to make real progress without burning out. Three goals at a time.

Coaching with Angela – If you’re ready to stop effing around with starts and stops, book your consultation call and let’s get you the support you need.

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Healing, growth, and personal transformation — with or without a label.

This episode is the final conversation in The Unlimited Life™ Starter Series —
The 10 most powerful episodes from the Addiction Unlimited archives to help you rebuild your rhythm, structure, and emotional peace.

And I saved this one for last for a reason.

Because what Ian Morgan Cron and I talk about here goes beyond sobriety…
Beyond addiction…
Beyond labels.

This is about transformation.

The truth is, everyone has patterns.
Whether it’s alcohol, perfectionism, food, control, or people-pleasing — we all have behaviors we use to cope.
And the 12 steps offer a framework to heal the emotional root — not just the habit on the surface.

You don’t have to be an alcoholic to feel overwhelmed.
You don’t have to be a drug addict to crave peace.
And you don’t need a label to want something more.

This episode is your reminder that you belong in the work of healing — no matter how it looks on the outside.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

Why the 12 steps work for any human — not just those in addiction
What it means to transform your character, not just your habits
The truth about higher power — and why you might already have one without realizing it
What to do when you feel like you’re “not sick enough” to belong
How the 12-step framework helps with emotional sobriety, identity work, and deep personal growth

In this episode, I sit down with Ian Morgan Cron, author of The Fix, to talk about how the 12 steps aren’t just for addicts — they’re for humans.

🔥 Links Mentioned: 🧠 Join the Dry January Bootcamp — Start your year with structure, clarity, and support * 💬 Book a Call — For coaching, structure, and real transformation * 📖 Ian’s Book: The Fix — How the 12 Steps Offer a Surprising Path of Transformation* * 🎧 Original episode post:
→ addictionunlimited.com/healing-growth-and-freedom-the-12-steps-for-everyone

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Exhausted from overthinking everything before you even start? You’re not alone.

Well, my friend, I’m going to be really honest with you today – after 400+ episodes, I had absolutely no idea what to talk about for this one.

And you know what?

That’s actually the most honest thing I could share with you on Christmas Eve.

Here’s the truth: Even after 20 years sober, I’m still an alcoholic.

I still overthink everything. I still doubt myself. My brain still goes to worst-case scenarios sometimes.

The only real difference between me and someone newer to recovery? I’ve had more practice—and I know that everything will be okay.

So if you’re exhausted from trying to have it all figured out before you start, if you’re burnt out on constant self-improvement, or if you’re just… tired—this episode is for you.

No five-step plan.
No worksheets.

Just real talk about what it actually looks like to show up when you don’t have all the answers.

In this episode, you’ll hear all about:

00:13: Why I had no idea what to talk about today (and why that’s the most honest thing I could share)
02:30: What showing up actually looks like when you’re tired, confused, and a little bit lost
05:40: THE REAL WORK – How we burn through all our energy overthinking before we even start
07:34: Taking it one minute at a time with you, me, and my microphone
09:45: What long-term recovery actually looks like – not the absence of doubt, but the absence of panic about it

Listen in, and remember: you’re allowed to just be tired. You’re allowed to not have the answers. And you’re allowed to show up anyway.

Welcome to the club, my friend – you’re in great company.

Links Mentioned in This Episode:

• Dry January Bootcamp – Facebook group opens next week! Get structure, support, and direction one day at a time. addictionunlimited.com/bootcamp (VIP upgrade option available for weekly group coaching)

• Book a Call with Angela – Tired of the BS? Tired of crying? Ready for real relief? Let’s talk about working together: addictionunlimited.com/call

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Practical tools to manage stress, set boundaries, and stay sober during the most overwhelming time of year.

In this episode, we’re talking about why the holiday season is such a perfect storm for stress, exhaustion, and relapse risk — and what actually helps you stay grounded, calm, and sober when everything feels like too much.

This isn’t about “just don’t drink” or powering through with willpower.

It’s about planning ahead, setting real boundaries, managing your energy, and protecting your sobriety like it actually matters — because it does.

These tools are timeless and incredibly relevant right now — especially as we head into the final stretch of the year.

HERE ARE THE 3 KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1️⃣ Holiday Stress Isn’t the Problem — Lack of Planning Is

The holidays don’t sneak up on us. They come at the same time every year. When you plan ahead — for your schedule, your energy, and your triggers — you dramatically reduce overwhelm and vulnerability.

2️⃣ Boundaries Are a Sobriety Tool, Not a Personality Flaw

Boundaries around time, conversations, commitments, and how long you stay at events aren’t selfish — they’re how you stay regulated, present, and sober when stress is high.

3️⃣ Rest, Connection, and Support Are Non-Negotiable

Sleep deprivation, emotional exhaustion, and isolation make cravings louder. Staying connected to your sober support and refueling your energy keeps you strong when willpower runs out.

We’re days away from Christmas. If your energy is low and your stress is high, that doesn’t mean you’re failing — it means it’s time to slow down, simplify, and protect what matters most.

Take what you learn today and use it. Planning, boundaries, rest, and connection aren’t optional extras. They’re how sobriety lasts.

Links Mentioned in This Episode:

👉 Dry January Bootcamp
If you’re done white-knuckling your way through the holidays and into January, Bootcamp gives you structure, support, and a clear plan to protect your sobriety and start the new year strong.

👉 Book a Call
If you want personalized support and clarity on next steps, book a call to talk through your options.

👉 Join the Free Facebook Group
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If you’re a high-functioning drinker waiting for rock bottom to give you permission to quit, this episode will change everything.

Most people think rock bottom is an external event—a DUI, job loss, or divorce. But that’s not what rock bottom actually is, and this misunderstanding is keeping you stuck in a cycle that never ends.

In this episode, I break down the real meaning of rock bottom and why waiting for external proof is preventing you from taking action on what you already know.

You’ll learn why comparing your life to other people’s disasters keeps you drinking longer, what to listen for in recovery meetings (hint: it’s not the external details), and why the question “Do I really need to quit?” is actually your answer.

What You’ll Learn:

Why high-functioning drinkers misunderstand rock bottom and how it keeps them stuck
The “I’m not that bad” fallacy and why comparing external circumstances is the wrong measuring stick
What rock bottom actually is (internal, not external) and why it changes everything
How to recognize rock bottom moments before they become major disasters
Why people who don’t have a drinking problem never wonder if they need to quit
The real reason your brain keeps offering alcohol as a solution when things get uncomfortable
How lowering the bar and rationalizing red flags keeps the cycle going
Why you don’t need to wait for things to get worse to make a change

Key Takeaways:

Rock bottom is internal, not external. It’s not about what happens to you—it’s about the moment you realize you can’t live like this anymore, even if your life still looks good from the outside.

You’re comparing the wrong things. When you compare your life to other people’s disasters, you’ll always feel like you’re “not that bad.” But when you compare your internal experience—the exhaustion, the mental gymnastics, the constant negotiation with yourself—that’s when you recognize the real problem.

External events don’t create clarity—they force action. Most dramatic rock bottom moments are years in the making. There are a million smaller red flags that get rationalized away before the big event happens. You don’t have to wait for the big event.

If you’re asking the question, that’s your answer. People without drinking problems never wonder if they need to quit. They don’t think about alcohol constantly, plan their days around it, or spend energy managing and moderating it. If you’re here listening to this, you already know.

Episode Highlights:

[00:12] The common misunderstanding about rock bottom that keeps high-functioning drinkers stuck

[02:00] Why “I’m not that bad” only works if rock bottom is external (spoiler: it’s not)

[05:50] The AA meeting trap: comparing external details instead of internal feelings

[09:33] What rock bottom actually is: internal, emotional, and the moment you realize you can’t live like this anymore

[11:00] My two-year rock bottom and why I waited so long to take action

[14:42] If you want to wait until things get worse, they will (and here’s what that looks like)

[16:30] The small red flags we rationalize away that lead to bigger disasters

[17:50] A client’s rock bottom moment: choosing a drink over playing with his son

[19:19] Why asking “Do I really need to quit?” is actually your answer

[21:31] The takeaway: You already know. Stop waiting for permission.

🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode

💥 Dry January Bootcamp (Free!)

Get structure, support, and a clear plan to start your alcohol-free life with power.
👉 addictionunlimited.com/bootcamp

🎯 Book a Private Call

Ready to stop screwing around and get real results? Let’s talk.
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Here’s something nobody tells you about long-term sobriety: your brain doesn’t forget its relationship with alcohol just because you stop drinking.

After 19+ years sober, I can still walk into a restaurant and automatically glance at the bar. I can spend 10 minutes with my best friend analyzing five drinks in a hotel cooler. I notice who’s drinking at parties when my non-alcoholic mom never does.

And that’s exactly how I know – even after almost two decades – that I still can’t drink.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the ONE thing that tells you with 100% certainty whether you can drink again after sobriety. Spoiler: it’s not about time. It’s not about willpower. It’s about how much mental real estate alcohol still occupies in your brain.

What You’ll Discover:

The “mind space test” – how aware are you of alcohol even when you’re not drinking?

Why “normal” drinkers never think about alcohol (and why you can’t stop)

How alcohol becomes your higher power without you realizing it

Real stories from my own journey – including that champagne bottle I saved to celebrate 30 days sober (yep, I did that)

The difference between your brain and a non-alcoholic brain – and why it matters more than sobriety time

Why the fact that you’re even asking “can I drink again?” is actually your answer

The Bottom Line:

Non-alcoholic people don’t wonder if they drink too much. They don’t count down to their next drink. They don’t notice the bar when they walk into restaurants. They don’t plan their social lives around alcohol availability.

If you’re still hyperaware of alcohol – whether that’s craving it, avoiding it, or constantly thinking about it – your relationship hasn’t changed. Time doesn’t fix this. Only honesty with yourself does.

Struggling with the starts and stops?

Book a free call with Angela to explore your options (not a free coaching session, but a real conversation about what might help): addictionunlimited.com/call

Connect:

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Why 5pm Feels Impossible (And What To Do About It)

Let’s talk about the hardest part of early sobriety: that predictable window of time when the craving hits like a wave and you’re not sure you can ride it out. Maybe it’s 5pm on a Tuesday. Maybe it’s Friday night when everyone’s posting their wine glasses on Instagram. Maybe it’s standing in the parking lot at your kid’s soccer game watching all the other moms with their Stanley cups.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what I call the witching hour—that specific time when staying sober feels almost impossible. But here’s the truth: it’s not about the drink. It never was. The drink was the solution you were using for something else—exhaustion, overwhelm, loneliness, anxiety, boredom.

I’ll walk you through the four different types of witching hours, what you’re really craving during each one, and most importantly—what to actually DO about it. Because willpower alone won’t get you through this. You need a plan. And if you’re doing nothing, you’re planning to drink.

3 Key Takeaways From This Episode:

1️⃣ The Drink Was Never the Point — When you say “I want a drink,” what you’re actually saying is “I’m exhausted and need to turn my brain off” or “I’m anxious and need relief right now.” Understanding what you’re really craving changes everything.

2️⃣ Different Witching Hours Need Different Tools — The daily 5pm decompression requires different strategies than weekend FOMO or emotional overwhelm. Once you know your type, you can prepare accordingly.

3️⃣ Doing Nothing IS a Plan—It’s a Plan to Drink — If you know your hardest time is Friday at 5pm and you’re sitting back with no strategy, you’re not being neutral. You’re setting yourself up to give in. Proactive planning is non-negotiable.

And, if you’re struggling with that daily 5pm crash? I did an entire episode on breaking that specific habit: How to Break the 5PM Drinking Habit Without Losing Your Mind

Want structured support to actually implement these strategies? My Recovery Starter Kit walks you through exactly how to set up your environment, calm your mind when triggers hit, build real support, and create a daily rhythm that makes sobriety feel steady instead of shaky. It’s $197 for instant access—plus 30 days free in my Sober Society community. Perfect if you’re white-knuckling it through the holidays and need more than just willpower.

And this Friday, a bonus drop from the Unlimited Life Starter Series — the 10 most powerful episodes to rebuild your rhythm, structure, and emotional peace.

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You Put Down the Drink, But Now You Can’t Stop Thinking About Food. Here’s Why.

If you’ve traded your nightly wine for nightly ice cream binges, you’re not alone.

And no, it’s not just about willpower or “getting your act together.”

In this episode, I sit down with Ali Shapiro, creator of the Truce with Food methodology, to unpack the real reasons we turn to food and sugar in recovery—and it goes way deeper than you think.

Ali shares her personal journey from childhood cancer and pesticide exposure to developing a complicated relationship with food that mirrored so many of the patterns we see in addiction.

We dive into the difference between food addiction and disordered eating, why belonging (not hunger) drives most of our food choices, and the four emotional triggers that send us straight to the pantry.

This conversation will change how you think about food forever.

We talk about the TAIL framework (Tiredness, Anxiety, Inadequacy, Loneliness), why protein is your secret weapon against sugar cravings, and how self-trust—not perfection—is the real foundation of recovery from any substance.

If you’ve ever felt crazy around food, ashamed of your eating habits, or wondered why you can’t just “eat normal,” this episode is for you.

HERE ARE THE 3 KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1️⃣ Food Isn’t the Problem—Belonging Is — Understanding this invisible string changes everything.

2️⃣ The TAIL Framework Reveals Your True Triggers — When you can identify what job food is doing for you, you can address the real need underneath.

3️⃣ Protein Is Your Anti-Craving Superpower — It’s not about willpower—it’s about physiology.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Ready to get serious about transformation? Book a free consultation call to explore how we can work together.

Join the Addiction Unlimited Facebook Community — facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Explore Angela’s Programs + Tools — From courses to coaching, find the right support for your recovery journey.

Related Episode: What No One Tells You About Your Eating Habits — Food and fitness expert, Adam Gilbert, sets the record straight on the most common pitfalls of making lifestyle changes and how to overcome them.

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How to Stay Sober When You Can’t Control Your Family

The holidays don’t threaten your sobriety. Your addiction to control does.

In this episode, we’re tossing out the traditional holiday survival guides — no more tips about mocktails or leaving early. Instead, we’re talking about the real threat to your peace: the compulsive need to manage everything and everyone around you.

Because if you’re honest, it’s not just Uncle Bob at the punch bowl stressing you out — it’s your internal pressure to make everything go just right.

This isn’t about avoiding triggers. It’s about mastering yourself.
You’ll learn 8 things you need to STOP trying to control this season — and the ONE thing you can control that changes everything.

If you’re ready to protect your peace and stop abandoning yourself in the name of keeping the peace, this is your guide.

🎯 In this episode:

• How trying to control others’ drinking is still an addiction behavior
• The emotional cost of managing everyone’s comfort but your own
• How to set boundaries without apologizing or backtracking
• Why “perfect holidays” are a trap — and what success actually looks like
• The ONE thing you can control that makes sobriety sustainable

This is your permission slip to let go of chaos and reclaim your sanity.
You don’t need a strategy. You need ownership.

🎁 Free Resource:
Grab the Sober Holiday Podcast Playlist — your go-to episodes on cravings, boundaries, family dynamics, and sober socializing.
👉 addictionunlimited.com/holidayplaylist

👥 Join the Facebook Group:
A private space for high-level support, real conversations, and structure after sobriety.
👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

📞 Book a Free Call with Angela:
Ready to stop starting over and get serious about relief and recovery? Let’s talk about your next best step.
👉 addictionunlimited.com/call

🚨 BONUS: Don’t miss this Friday’s drop from The Unlimited Life™ Starter Series — 10 powerful episodes to rebuild your rhythm, structure, and emotional peace before the New Year.

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Avoid these traps so your recovery doesn’t become a revolving door.

Sobriety is just the beginning… and these 6 traps are the exact reason why so many people relapse even when they’re trying to stay sober.

In this episode, Angela Pugh breaks down the most common early recovery mistakes that sabotage your progress, wreck your structure, and chip away at your confidence. You’ll learn how to shift from barely hanging on to leading yourself with clarity, consistency, and personal power.

Whether you’re 2 weeks in or 2 years sober — this is a must-listen if you want long-term peace without chaos.

🔑 HERE ARE THE 3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

1️⃣ Recovery Is Biological — Not Just Emotional
PAWS (Post-Acute Withdrawal Symptoms) can hijack your energy, mood, and motivation for months. Learn how to support your brain and body so you stop spiraling and start stabilizing.

2️⃣ Bartering = Relapse in Disguise
That inner voice that says “just one won’t hurt”? That’s not logic — that’s addiction bartering. You’ll learn exactly how to shut it down with truth and structure.

3️⃣ Fun Isn’t a Luxury — It’s a Requirement
You won’t stay sober if you hate your life. This episode gives you permission (and strategy) to build joy into your routine — so recovery feels rewarding, not restrictive.

💡 Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

🎁 Free Recovery Recipe™
Your personal structure for strong sobriety — built around life domains.
Download here → addictionunlimited.com/recipe
🗂️ The 90-Day Focus Planner
Built on the life domain structure you heard in this episode — this is your tool for clarity, consistency, and follow-through in sobriety and life.
👉 Grab your planner → addictionunlimited.com/planner
🎧 Related Episode:
Are You Being Private About Your Recovery… or Keeping It a Secret?
Learn the difference between protecting your peace and hiding your truth — and how secrecy can sabotage your growth.
👉 Listen here → addictionunlimited.com/are-you-being-private-about-your-recovery-or-keeping-it-a-secret
🧠 Google This Term:
Anhedonia — the inability to feel pleasure after quitting drinking. Knowing this one word could explain everything you’re experiencing.
🛠️ Want Support?
Book a call with me for private coaching, check out my online course or join the Sober Society community.
Learn more → addictionunlimited.com/coaching

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Waiting to Feel Ready? Why Confidence Follows Action — Not the Other Way Around

Still waiting to feel ready before you take that next step?
Spoiler alert: that moment may never come — and that’s exactly why this episode is here to shake you out of hesitation and into momentum.

Inside this powerful episode of Addiction Unlimited, we’ll break down:

Why readiness is a myth (and how to stop waiting for it),
How confidence is built through action, not preparation,
And the daily discipline of doing what needs to be done — even when you don’t feel like it.

You’ll walk away with clarity, practical tools, and a renewed sense of ownership over your goals, your emotions, and your next move.

This episode is your call to stop waiting, start building, and trust that the path reveals itself as you move.

💡 3 Key Takeaways:

1️⃣ Readiness is Built, Not Found
If you’re waiting to feel ready — for sobriety, a hard conversation, or your next big step — you’re stuck in a cycle that won’t break itself. Readiness comes after action, not before.

2️⃣ Confidence Follows Action
Confidence doesn’t come from thinking. It comes from doing. And the only way to feel more capable is to show up and prove it to yourself, one action at a time.

3️⃣ Discipline is the Bridge
Motivation is fleeting. Discipline is how you stay consistent. Angela shares how to build the muscle of follow-through — even when your brain is throwing every excuse in the book.

💬 Mentioned In This Episode:

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Sobriety gets you stable — emotional intelligence gets you unstoppable.
If you’ve ever felt like you got sober… then life got louder, messier, and more emotionally demanding — this episode is your roadmap.

I’m joined by my friend and emotional intelligence powerhouse, Noble Gibbens, to break down why EQ isn’t a nice-to-have in recovery — it’s the foundation of building a life you’re actually proud to live.

Noble’s story is wild: military, high performer, “business cult,” decades of people-pleasing… and then a full-blown wake-up call that forced him to confront emotional immaturity head-on. What he learned rebuilt his marriage, rewired his relationships, reshaped his career, and transformed his entire identity.

And listen — if you’re sober, even for a day, you know exactly why this matters.
Alcohol numbed everything. Sobriety brings all of it back.
EQ is how you handle it.

This episode is loaded with tools, book recommendations, emotional vocabulary tips, and straight-up truth bombs to help you grow stronger, calmer, and more resilient in your day-to-day life.

Plus, I created a full companion guide for you — every resource mentioned in this episode is inside it.

Here are 3 Key Takeaways From This Episode:

1️⃣ Emotional Intelligence Is a Skill — Not a Personality TraitYou weren’t born knowing how to navigate emotions. No one handed you a manual. EQ is learned, practiced, strengthened, and refined over time — and it becomes your competitive advantage in sobriety and in life.

2️⃣ Self-Awareness Is the First Step (and It’s Usually the Hardest)Most people think they’re self-aware… until they start naming their emotions, tracking their triggers, and seeing how much of their behavior is fueled by fear, people-pleasing, or old survival patterns. Awareness is the doorway to freedom.

3️⃣ Growth Requires Discomfort — But Discomfort Builds PowerYou can’t emotionally mature without running straight into the stuff you’ve been avoiding for years. But the moment you start doing the work, everything shifts — your relationships, your confidence, your boundaries, your entire sense of self.

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Download the EQ Resource Guide: addictionunlimited.com/eq
Book a Free Call with Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call
Join the Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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The Hard Truth About Being “The Helper” (And Why It’s Keeping You Stuck)

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood patterns in relationships: codependency.

If you’ve ever felt exhausted from being “the strong one,” guilty when you prioritize yourself, or frustrated when someone doesn’t take your advice, this conversation is for you.

I break down how codependency masquerades as love but is actually a hidden form of control—and how the need to be needed keeps both you and the people you care about stuck.

You’ll learn to recognize the subtle daily patterns that signal codependency, from checking your phone for someone else’s emotional weather to canceling your own plans when someone seems “off.”

Then, I walk you through the practice of detachment with love—caring deeply while releasing your grip on outcomes.

This isn’t about being cold or distant. It’s about trusting that others have their own path, their own lessons, and their own capacity to grow.

I share practical steps like setting real boundaries (yes, you can not respond to every text), tolerating discomfort, and offering support without attachment.

Finally, we dive into personal responsibility and emotional independence.

You’ll discover how to build your own sense of meaning that doesn’t depend on being needed, practice self-compassion with the same kindness you give others, and reclaim the energy you’ve been pouring into everyone else’s lives.

🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode

🎧 Related Episode: Why Your Inner Voice Is So Mean — And How It Affects Your Recovery
💬 Coaching with Angela: Book a Free Solution Call
👥 Community: Join us in the Facebook group

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The Same Tool Used by Olympic Athletes & Top Performers to Change Your Life

If you’ve ever wondered how elite athletes, top entrepreneurs, and high-performers create insane results… this is it.

And no — it’s not woo, it’s not wishful thinking, and it’s not pretending life is perfect.

It’s science.

And when you learn to use it to rewire your subconscious, override old limiting beliefs, and shift the way you feel about your life… everything changes.

Here’s the wild part:

Science says 95% of your brain activity is unconscious.
That means almost everything you do — your habits, reactions, decisions, fears, beliefs — is driven by the part of your mind you don’t even realize is in control.

It’s running old programs.
Old stories.
Old beliefs you didn’t choose.

So the question becomes:

How do you work with your subconscious mind to rewrite those stories so you can get MORE of what you want in life… and LESS of what you don’t?

This episode breaks the whole thing down for you.

You’ll learn:

👉 The neuroscience behind why visualization works
(And why your brain treats imagined events like real ones)

👉 How your Reticular Activating System filters your entire life
(And how to reprogram it so it works for you)

👉 Why fear + anxiety are just negative visualizations
(and how to interrupt that pattern instantly)

👉 A super-simple visualization process you can start today
No crystals. No chanting. No drama. Just actual science you can use right now.

If you’ve been stuck in the start–stop cycle… doubting yourself… or fighting the same old patterns over and over…

This tool changes everything.

Grab your headphones and let’s dive in, my friend — you’re going to love this one.

🔗 Links Mentioned

Book a Call With Angela: https://addictionunlimited.com/call
Join the Private Facebook Group: https://facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited
Grab the Daily Plan Worksheet: https://addictionunlimited.com/plan

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You Might Be a Perfectionist (And It’s Stealing Your Peace)

If you’re constantly overthinking, procrastinating, or beating yourself up for not doing “enough” — this episode is going to hit home.

Because perfectionism isn’t about having high standards.
It’s about control, fear, and anxiety — and it’s quietly running your life behind the scenes.

In this episode, we’re exposing how perfectionism shows up in real life (even if you don’t think you’re a perfectionist), where it really comes from, and how to start breaking the cycle.

If you’ve ever said:

“I just want it to be good…”
“I’ll start when I feel ready…”
“I can’t screw this up…”

…then this one’s for you.

🔥 What You’ll Learn: Why perfectionism is actually a coping mechanism for anxiety * How it shows up as procrastination, irritability, people-pleasing, and control * Why so many high-functioning sober people feel stuck — even years into recovery * How to spot the perfectionist pattern before it steals your peace * 6 powerful mindset and structure shifts to move forward without the shame spiral*

You’ll also hear a personal story from me that cracked this wide open — and gave me a whole new lens on my own fear and vulnerability.

If this episode called you out in the best way, share it with a friend, and DM me on Instagram!

💥 Mentioned in this Episode:

🔥 Book a Free Call with Angela –> addictionunlimited.com/call

👉 The Daily Plan to Stay Sober
Your daily structure to regulate anxiety, create momentum, and keep your head clear — one page, five minutes, every day.

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You already know better.
So why do you keep saying yes to what you’ll regret tomorrow?

In this episode, Angela gets brutally honest about why you keep making decisions that don’t align with who you want to be — and how instant gratification is keeping you stuck in the cycle.

This isn’t just about drinking.
It’s about how you handle discomfort.
Fear, frustration, boredom, anxiety — you’ve trained your brain to escape instead of lead.

And that habit?
It’s wrecking your confidence, your progress, and your peace.

Inside this episode:

How instant gratification fuels bad decisions (even sober ones)
Why your “first thought” is often the wrong one — and what to do instead
What real commitment looks like when you want to protect your peace
The power of delayed gratification — and how it builds self-trust

You don’t need more willpower.
You need structure, discipline, and the courage to lead yourself differently.

🔗 Links List📅 Book a Free Consultation Call
https://addictionunlimited.com/call

💬 Join the Facebook Group (Sober Society)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

📝 Download my Free Daily Plan
https://addictionunlimited.com/plan

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If you’re thinking about drinking again — that’s the clearest sign you still can’t.

Maybe you’ve been sober for a while… and you’re starting to wonder if you could handle drinking again.
If that thought has crossed your mind — I want you to pause right here and hit play on this episode.

We’re talking about the subtle signs that tell you everything you need to know about your relationship with alcohol — even now.

In this episode, I’m sharing the addict traits that still show up in my life after almost 20 years sober — and how they confirm, without a doubt, that I’m not someone who can ever drink normally.

We’ll talk about:

The “more” mentality — when enough is never enough
Overthinking and rumination (AKA emotional avoidance)
Feeling “less than” no matter how much you accomplish
Being extra in everyday ways (and what that really means)
Why avoiding hard things in sobriety is just as dangerous as numbing them

And we’ll bring it all back to the biggest red flag of all:
Just how much mental energy you’re spending thinking about alcohol.

You’ll hear the truth about the addict personality: how it still shows up in overthinking, overdoing, compulsive patterns, and that constant hunger for “more.”

Because if you’re fantasizing, negotiating, or justifying a future where you might drink again… that’s not healing. That’s the addiction, whispering in a different voice.

🔗 Links List📅 Book a Free Consultation Call
https://addictionunlimited.com/call

💬 Join the Facebook Group (Sober Society)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

📝 Download the Free Daily Plan
https://addictionunlimited.com/plan

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A step-by-step plan to structure your day after quitting drinking.

You didn’t just remove alcohol — you removed the thing that used to shape your day, distract your mind, and give you a false sense of control.

So what now?

If you’re stuck in the cycle of starting over…
Or if you’ve been sober for a while but feel like you’re drifting through your days…

This episode is for you.

I’m walking you through my exact Daily Plan — the structure I use to stay sober, focused, and grounded in my sober power.

You’ll learn:
✨ What to do when you wake up
✨ How to avoid the afternoon crash
✨ Why structure creates peace
✨ And the #1 mistake that keeps people in relapse loops

This isn’t about willpower — it’s about ownership.

🎯 Your Next Step:
Don’t just listen — download the free Daily Plan and start putting structure into action.
This is where sobriety becomes your strategy.

🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode

🎯 Download The Daily Plan (Free Tool):
addictionunlimited.com/plan
💬 Join the Conversation in the Facebook Group:
facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited
📞 Book a Free Discovery Call with Angela:
addictionunlimited.com/call

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Why character work never ends — and how to dismantle the ego patterns and excuses keeping you stuck.

You don’t do character work once and ride off into a peaceful sober sunset.

You don’t quit drinking and magically become the healthiest version of yourself.

This work never ends.

And if that sentence annoyed you a little — you’re exactly who this episode is for.

This episode is a wake-up call if you’ve been sober for weeks, months, or years—and life feels flat, repetitive, emotionally dull, like you’re just going through the motions.

No joy. No spark. No goals.

That’s a sign your emotional growth has stalled.

You’re not fired up about life. You’re avoiding discomfort instead of growing. And your excuses sound really reasonable… but they’re killing your progress.

This is where relapse starts—not always with alcohol, but with chaos, overspending, overeating, overworking, control, drama… anything to feel something.

That’s why this whole idea that “more time sober = more maturity” is garbage.

Character isn’t measured in time. It’s measured in effort and behavior.

And plenty of people have a lot of time sober but stop working on themselves – and they’ll get stuck just as quick as someone with 10 days sober.

Today, we dig into the real problem: it isn’t alcohol anymore. It’s ego, excuses, and emotional stagnation.

🎧 In this episode:

(3:00) Sobriety solves the alcohol problem—not the everything underneath it problem
(8:00) What ego really is and why a big ego + low self-esteem are the same thing
(16:00) The excuse system: how your mind lies to protect your comfort
(23:00) What emotional sobriety actually is (not a meme—real psychology)
(30:00) The path forward: emotional fitness tools that create real change

Sobriety is the foundation. Character is the house.

And character gets built by dismantling ego, eliminating excuses, and developing emotional sobriety—the ability to feel everything without being controlled by it.

🔗 Links mentioned in this episode

Book a Call with Angela → https://addictionunlimited.com/call
Join the Facebook Group → https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited
Listen to this related episode: #396 – How to Take Action When You Don’t Feel Motivated → https://addictionunlimited.com/396

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If you’re tired of starting back at day one, this episode will show you how to rebuild habits that last — with structure, not willpower.

You don’t need more motivation.
You need a better system.

This is one of the most downloaded episodes I’ve ever released — and for good reason.

Because when life gets hard, we fall into old routines.
We wait for motivation to magically reappear.
And we keep starting over — again and again.

In this episode, I’m walking you through the exact structure I use (and teach my clients) to create habits that actually stick. No fluff. No trendy hacks. Just real, brain-based strategies that work.

You’ll learn:

How habits form in your brain — and why they’re so hard to break
What the habit loop actually is (cue → routine → reward)
How to identify your weak spots and reinforce them
Why reframing your goals makes all the difference
Simple ways to change your environment to support your new life

And if you want more on the motivation piece — go listen to the last episode:
“How to Take Action When You Don’t Feel Motivated.” That link is in the show notes, too.

🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode

💬 Sober Society Membership
Your private community for accountability, structure, and serious transformation.
👉 addictionunlimited.com/membership
📣 Join the Free Facebook Group
Connect with other high-functioning sober humans on the same path.
👉 facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited
📅 Book a Free Clarity Call
Ready to get serious? Let’s talk about your goals and map out your next steps.
👉 addictionunlimited.com/call
🎧 Episode 396 – How to Take Action When You Don’t Feel Motivated
If you want more support with motivation, don’t miss this one.
👉 addictionunlimited.com/396

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How To Take Action When You Don’t Feel Motivated: 3 Structure Hacks That Actually Work

Waiting to feel motivated before taking action? That’s the myth keeping you stuck.

I used to think successful people had endless motivation — some secret energy source I didn’t have access to. I’d wait to feel ready before starting anything: the workout, the journaling, the business tasks.

But here’s what I learned the hard way: motivation doesn’t create action. Action creates motivation.

The truth? Motivation is just a mood. Movement is a decision. And if you want to build consistent habits and reach your goals, you need to stop using your feelings as your strategy.

In this episode, I’m sharing why waiting for motivation keeps you stuck, the psychology behind emotional reasoning vs. executive function, and the three proven structure hacks I use to take action even when I don’t feel like it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why motivation is a terrible strategy for consistent action and productivity
How to stop emotional reasoning from sabotaging your goals
The 90-Second Rule for overcoming resistance and building momentum
How to create daily non-negotiables that anchor your routine
Visual trigger techniques to make good habits easier to maintain
Why discipline creates freedom (not restriction)
How to separate feelings from actions and take control of your decisions

Key takeaway: Structure gives your future self a fighting chance. When you stop waiting to feel ready and start moving anyway, everything changes.

🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode:

✅ Get my Daily Plan (Free Download)
Your one-page structure to stay grounded and consistent — even when your mind is spinning.
👉 addictionunlimited.com/plan
🧠 Book a Free Coaching Call with Angela
If you’re ready to stop trying to figure it out alone, let’s talk.
👉 addictionunlimited.com/call
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👉 https://cozyearth.com/ + discount code ANGELA
🎧 Unlimited Life Starter Series
3 Surprising Ways You’re Still Sabotaging Your Sobriety
👉 addictionunlimited.com/395

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If you’ve quit drinking but still find yourself frustrated, low-energy, or stuck in “what’s next?” limbo… this episode is exactly what you need.

Because… you don’t need another lecture on willpower.
You need to understand the real ways you’re still sabotaging yourself — even if you’re doing everything “right.”

In this powerful episode from the Addiction Unlimited archives, I’ll break down 3 sneaky patterns that silently kill your momentum in sobriety.

These are the mindset traps and emotional blind spots that no one talks about — and they’re probably the reason you still feel like something’s missing.

Whether it’s unrealistic expectations, lack of direction, or mistaking emotional overwhelm for alcohol cravings — this episode pulls back the curtain and helps you take your power back.

This is the kick-off of the Unlimited Life™ Series — bonus episodes released every Friday through the end of the year — where we bring back the most-loved episodes that laid the foundation for this movement.

They’re not just throwbacks.
They’re tools to help you build structure, confidence, and personal power in life after alcohol.

🎯 If you’re ready to stop coasting through sobriety and start building something real — this one’s for you.

🔗 Links & Resources from this Episode

📄 Grab the Free Daily Plan
Start building structure and focus into your sober life today.
👉 addictionunlimited.com/plan
💬 Join the Conversation in Sober Society (Free FB Group)
Surround yourself with high-level sober support — connection, clarity, and real talk.
👉 Facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited
🎯 Book a Free Coaching Call
If you’re ready to stop surviving sobriety and start leading your life — let’s talk.
👉 addictionunlimited.com/call

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Ever found yourself wondering, “Why me?”

Why can’t I drink like other people?
Did I inherit this?
If I’d made different choices, would it have turned out differently?

If these questions have kept you up at night, you’re not alone — and this episode is your answer.

Inside, I’m breaking down the real, full-picture WHY behind alcohol addiction — not in vague theories or shame-based clichés, but with a powerful, science-backed model that makes everything finally make sense: the Bio-Psycho-Social Model of Addiction.

We’re going deeper than “you drink too much.”
We’re unpacking what drove you to seek relief in the first place — and how you can finally start to untangle the layers keeping you stuck.

If you’ve ever felt confused, exhausted, or like sobriety still isn’t working the way you hoped — this episode is your wake-up call.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The truth about addiction: why it’s not just genetics, trauma, or stress — it’s the collision of all three.
What most people get completely wrong when trying to stop drinking
Why “just quitting” isn’t enough — and what to do instead
The exact factors that make some people more vulnerable (and how to take your power back anyway)
The one thing I tell every client about where to start when recovery feels overwhelming

🎧 Ready to finally understand your drinking — and start rebuilding from clarity, not confusion?
Press play now and discover how to reclaim your power with truth, structure, and ownership.

Links Mentioned in This Episode:

📘 The Recovery Starter Kit: A self-paced online course to help you build the foundation of a strong, sustainable recovery lifestyle. Tools for cravings, triggers, boundaries, emotional regulation, and more. → Get instant access here
📄 The Daily Plan: The #1 free resource to help you stay focused, clear, and on track every day — because structure is freedom. → Download it here
🤝 Work with Angela: If you’ve tried everything, you’re exhausted, and you’re ready to get serious — you can always book a call to see if we’re a fit to work together. → Book Your Call here

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What No One Tells You About Life After Sobriety — Until You’re In ItWhether it’s been 10 days or 10 years — if you’ve found yourself stuck in a cycle of blah, you are not alone.

You’re not counting days.
You’re not struggling to stay sober.
But something’s still missing — and you can’t quite put your finger on it.

If you’ve ever thought:

“I thought I’d be happier by now…”
“What’s wrong with me — shouldn’t I be better by now?”
“Why do I feel so bored, stuck, or disconnected?”

This episode is going to help you breathe a big sigh of relief. Because there’s nothing wrong with you.
You’ve just outgrown the survival chapter of your recovery — and now it’s time to build something deeper.

This isn’t another episode about early sobriety tips or why alcohol is bad.
This is about what comes after — the emotional flatness, the boredom, the floating — and how to get out of it.

🎯 In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why that “off” feeling isn’t a setback — it’s an invitation to rebuild
The truth about boredom in recovery (and why it’s not what you think it is)
Why ownership starts the minute the pink cloud ends
How to shift from just being sober… to living with structure, direction, and personal power

💬 If you’re ready to stop circling and start rebuilding…

Book a free call with Angela to talk about what’s next for your recovery journey:
👉 addictionunlimited.com/call

This is where The Unlimited Life™ begins.

🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode:

Book a Free Coaching Call with Angela
👉 https://addictionunlimited.com/call
Download the Free Daily Plan to Stay Sober
👉 https://addictionunlimited.com/plan
Join the Facebook Community
👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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Using Sober October to Build Real Change That Goes Beyond Day 31

In this episode, I’m getting honest about what “just taking a break” really means. Whether you’re trying to reset, test your willpower, or prove something to yourself, I want to help you go deeper — and actually get what you came here for.

I’ll walk you through the two times I took breaks (30 and 60 days), how I convinced myself I was in control, and why both times led to even worse drinking. You’ll learn how to spot when your relationship with alcohol has gone too far, why 30-day challenges don’t create lasting change, and what to do instead if you want to stop starting over.

If you’re waking up on Day One of Sober October with mixed feelings — hope, fear, uncertainty — this episode will give you a plan and a path forward.

HERE ARE THE 3 KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1️⃣ Taking a break isn’t proof of control. It’s often a sign you’re already negotiating with something that has too much power.

2️⃣ 30 days won’t fix what alcohol was covering up. The real transformation comes after the “break” ends — when you’re building a life that works without alcohol.

3️⃣ You need a plan that holds you. Structure, self-trust, and emotional support are the foundation for lasting change — not just willpower or white-knuckling.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

If you’re serious about making this stick — not just in October, but in real life — you need more than good intentions.

📓 90-Day Focus Planner – Built for sobriety, mental clarity, and next-level focus
💬 Book a Free Call for Private Coaching – 6 weeks of strategy, mindset, and full support
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Ever find yourself pouring a drink thinking, “I don’t even want this…”?

In this episode, we’re going deep into the neuroscience of cravings, the patterns behind self-sabotage, and most importantly — how to get back in the driver’s seat of your brain.

You’ll learn exactly what it takes to interrupt the pattern, rewire your brain, and take back authority over your decisions — even in the hardest moments.

Whether you’re early in sobriety or stuck in “start-over” mode, this is your guide to finally feeling clear, confident, and in control of your recovery — without shame and without starting over.

This one is packed with science, strategy, and the real-talk I wish I had in early sobriety.

You’ll hear:

Why your survival brain overrides logic (and how to interrupt it)
How to rewire reward loops and stop white-knuckling every craving
3 coaching tools to break the pattern without breaking yourself
How to lead yourself with clarity instead of fear

And if you’re ready to stop spinning in start-over cycles and finally feel in control of your sobriety — this is your roadmap.

🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode

💬 Book your free clarity call with Angela
Ready for real change and fast results? Let’s get clear on what’s keeping you stuck and map out your next steps together.
👉 addictionunlimited.com/call
🛏️ Shop Cozy Earth + Get 40% Off
Upgrade your recovery routine with the bedding that feels like a full-body exhale. Use code ANGELA for 40% off!
👉 cozyearth.com
🎧 Episode #372 – The Real Reasons You Self-Sabotage Your Sobriety (And How to Stop)
This episode pairs perfectly with today’s show if you want to go deeper on the patterns that keep you stuck.
👉 Listen here

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3am wakeups after quitting drinking? Let’s fix your sober sleep—for good.

You jolt awake at 3am.
Your heart is racing.
Your brain is going 100 miles an hour.
You know you’re exhausted—but you’re wired and wide awake.

Welcome to the 3AM Club, my friend.
It’s not just you. And it’s not just early sobriety.

Sleep issues can hit you at any point in recovery—whether you’re 30 days sober or 30 years in.

And in this episode, I’m going to show you exactly what’s going on in your brain and body when it happens—and give you real tools to quiet that 3AM mind.

Because here’s the truth:
This isn’t a “you problem.”
It’s a nervous system issue.
And you don’t need to panic—you need a plan.

In this episode, I walk you through the hidden causes of those middle-of-the-night wakeups (ADHD, anxiety, sugar, trauma, overstimulation… just to name a few), and I hand you my 3AM GET-YOUR-CALM-BACK PLAN—the exact system I use to calm my brain, get grounded, and take my power back.

No more shame spirals.
No more doom scrolling.
Just strategy, structure, and the truth about what’s really happening behind the scenes.

🔊 Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:
(03:22) Why waking up at 3am isn’t just an early sobriety thing (and why it still happens years later)
(08:55) The truth about ADHD, anxiety, sugar, and your overloaded nervous system
(16:33) How cortisol, trauma, and hangxiety hijack your brain in the middle of the night
(25:40) What your brain needs to finally feel safe enough to rest
(29:12) My full “3AM Calm-Back Plan” to stop the spiral and get grounded fast
(41:20) The biggest mistakes to stop making when you wake up anxious
(46:44) How to rewire your beliefs about sleep—and start trusting your body again

This isn’t about chasing 8 perfect hours. It’s about regulating your body, reclaiming your calm, and learning to rest without sedation.

👉🏼 Listen now and start building your 3am strategy—because a regulated brain is a rested brain.

🔗 Links & Resources

Related Episode: Guaranteed Ways to Make Sleep Easier for You

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Book A Call With Angela : addictionunlimited.com/call

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Numb, Anxious, or Overwhelmed: What the F Is Going On With Your Feelings After You Quit Drinking?*

The hardest part of sobriety isn’t cravings… it’s the F-word.

No, not that one. (Although you know it’s a personal favorite.)

I’m talking about feelings.

The ones you spent years numbing. The ones that come flooding in after you stop drinking.
Or… the ones you can’t seem to feel at all.

Whether you feel numb, anxious, totally overwhelmed, or like your emotions are playing hide-and-seek with your brain—this episode is for you.

💥 In this episode, I’ll walk you through:

What’s really going on when the Pink Cloud fades
Why your emotional overwhelm (or shutdown) is actually a sign of healing
What Post-Acute Withdrawal Syndrome (PAWS) has to do with it
How emotional avoidance becomes emotional disconnection
Why this phase is where many people relapse—not because of cravings, but because they don’t have the tools to deal
And 3 powerful tools to help you feel again—without drowning in it

You’ll walk away with a deep understanding of why your nervous system is acting up, the real reason you can’t explain how you feel (and why that’s perfectly okay), and my favorite strategies for handling emotions without shutting down, blowing up, or reaching for a drink.

This is the work I do every day with my coaching clients.
We don’t just “talk about feelings.”
We build the emotional skill set that alcohol took away.

So if you’re done screwing around… and ready to build real sobriety, confidence, and peace—
📲 Book a free coaching call with me. Let’s talk about what support could look like for you.

🔗 Resources + Links

🎧 Quitting Drinking & Post-Acute Withdrawal
🎧 5 Signs You’re Dealing With PAWS
🎧 The Science of Sobriety & How to Feel Better Faster
👩‍💻 Book your free call with Angela

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “I should be managing this better…”—this episode is for you.

Between work, family, caregiving, and trying to keep your sober routine intact, it’s easy to feel like life is spinning and you’re barely holding it together. You’re showing up, doing the work, and still questioning if it’s enough. That’s not failure—it’s a sign you’re at capacity. And your sobriety doesn’t break in those moments. It’s actually being built in them.

In this episode, we’re talking about what emotional sobriety looks like in real life—not the highlight reel. You’ll learn how to stay grounded when everything feels out of control, and how to reset without spiraling, starting over, or white-knuckling your way through it.

We’ll unpack:

What control really looks like in high-functioning sobriety
Why over-functioning isn’t strength—it’s survival mode
The 3-step emotional reset to reconnect with yourself (without doing 10 things)
How to calm the chaos and stay sober without shame
Why these messy moments are proof that you’re growing—not slipping

This isn’t about checking every box perfectly.
It’s about leading yourself with presence, not pressure.

Whether you’re 30 days sober or 3 years in, you’ll walk away with tools to breathe again, anchor into your why, and feel strong—even when life is anything but easy.

🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode:

🎧 Related episode: What to Do When Sobriety Feels Like a Constant Battle
📞 Free call about coaching (2 spots open): addictionunlimited.com/call

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You’re not failing—your method is.

You’ve already tried harder.
You’ve done the dry weeks.
You’ve poured bottles down the sink.
You’ve promised yourself, “Just weekends. Just one. This time it will stick.”

And yet, here you are… back in the same shame spiral, asking yourself: “Why can’t I get it together?”

In this episode of Addiction Unlimited, we’re burning down the biggest lie in sobriety: that if you just had more willpower, you’d finally quit drinking for good.

👉 Spoiler alert: willpower is a faulty system. Every. Single. Time.

What you actually need is a system—one that gives you structure, support, and solutions so you can stop starting over and finally move forward.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

🧠 Why willpower fails (and always will) — the science behind anxiety, decision fatigue, and why your brain defaults to alcohol when it’s overwhelmed.
⚙️ The 3 Pillars of Lasting Recovery — my proven framework: Science, Strategy, and Self.
📌 How to design your sober system — calming rituals, accountability, and practical tools that give you relief without a drink.
🚫 The ego trap of “testing yourself” — why it’s total BS and guaranteed to keep you stuck.
💪 Radical personal responsibility — the boundaries you must set with people, places, and yourself to protect your sobriety.

By the end, you’ll understand exactly why trying harder has never worked for you—and how to replace the endless loop of Day Ones with a system that actually sticks.

🎧 Hit play now, because you don’t need more motivation. You don’t need another Day One. You need a system. And this is where it starts.

🔑 Resources & Links Mentioned in this Episode: Listen to Ep. 275: Relief Not Relapse * Book your free call: addictionunlimited.com/call * Cozy Earth — Use code ANGELA* for 40% off: CozyEarth.com

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Loneliness and substance use often go hand in hand.

But what most people don’t realize is that loneliness can follow you into sobriety—and if you don’t address it, it can quietly push you toward relapse.

Sobriety means growth. It means changing your habits, your identity, and your relationships—and often, that kind of change means losing the people and places that once made you feel connected.

And it’s not just about early sobriety.

Sometimes it’s the next chapter:
Maybe your kids are grown and gone, and the house is too quiet.
Maybe the marriage didn’t last. Or the friendships didn’t make it.
Or maybe… you just don’t feel like you anymore.

You’re not drinking. You’re doing the work.
But you still feel disconnected—from your people, your purpose, maybe even from yourself.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I feel so alone in sobriety?”
This episode is going to answer that.

We’re unpacking the real reasons loneliness shows up in recovery—and exactly what to do about it so you can protect your peace, support your growth, and create a connected, fulfilling life that feels aligned with who you are now.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

✅ Why loneliness is common in sobriety—even years in
✅ How identity shifts, life stages, and personal growth create disconnection
✅ 5 powerful ways to rebuild connection in recovery
✅ Why waiting to feel better doesn’t work—and what to do instead
✅ How to stop relying on old social circles that no longer fit your life
✅ The role of community, consistency, and aligned relationships
✅ Why being of service is one of the most healing tools you have
✅ How to stop living in emotional isolation and start feeling supported again

Most people in early sobriety experience loneliness because their life is changing faster than their social circle is. But others feel it later on, when life transitions—like divorce, empty nest, or major growth—create emotional distance from the people they once leaned on.

This isn’t a sign you’re doing something wrong.
It’s a sign you’re evolving.
And that’s exactly why you need a new kind of connection to support who you’re becoming.

🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

🎧 The Identity Crisis No One Talks About in Sobriety (Podcast Episode)
📞 Book a Free Call with Angela – Let’s talk about where you are, what you need, and how I can support you with coaching or other resources.
💻 Join the Addiction Unlimited Facebook Group – A powerful, free community of people just like you.

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If you’ve ever told yourself, “If I could drink in moderation, I would do it all the time,” this episode is going to feel like I’ve been eavesdropping on your thoughts.

Maybe you’ve tried switching to beer, only drinking on weekends, skipping alcohol at home, or limiting yourself to “special occasions.” And for a short time, it works—until the rules bend, the “just one more” slips in, and you’re right back where you started. The truth is, you’re not weak. You’re not broken. Your brain is doing exactly what it’s wired to do: protect what feels familiar, even when it’s holding you back.

In this powerful episode, I’m breaking down:

Why your brain keeps selling you on moderation—even when you know it doesn’t work
The hidden mental, emotional, and physical costs of the moderation loop
The shift you need to make if you truly want freedom from alcohol

We’ll pull apart the survival brain’s “safe compromise” pitch, expose the decision fatigue moderation causes, and talk about how it chips away at your self-trust over time. You’ll see why moderation isn’t about control—it’s about delay—and how it quietly steals your energy, your confidence, and the life you want to live.

By the end, you’ll have a new target: freedom, not control. You’ll learn how one clear decision can remove hundreds of tiny exhausting ones, and how to focus on what you’re gaining—not what you’re giving up.

If you’re ready to stop starting over and step into real freedom, I can help. Book your free clarity call today at addictionunlimited.com/call. Together, we’ll create a plan that works—without willpower games or endless “rules.”

Because you deserve more than managing your drinking. You deserve to be free.

Links Mentioned in This Episode:

Book your free Clarity Call: addictionunlimited.com/call
Join the Addiction Unlimited Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited
Related Episode — Should I Moderate or Quit? addictionunlimited.com/should-i-moderate-or-quit

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If your witching hour feels like a daily emotional ambush—when the stress, noise, and cravings all collide—you are not alone. That 4 or 5PM pull toward wine or alcohol isn’t just a bad habit… it’s a wired-in loop your brain has learned over years. And breaking it takes more than willpower.

In this episode of Addiction Unlimited, we’re diving deep into why 5PM is such a trigger—and how to interrupt the craving cycle before it takes over.

Angela unpacks what’s really happening when that evening craving hits, from decision fatigue to emotional overload to the brain’s need for relief. This isn’t about being broken—it’s about building a new system that supports you when your brain and body are done.

What You’ll Learn:

Why your brain cues up cravings before you even leave work
The truth about decision fatigue and emotional depletion
How to use the “Interrupt Ritual” to break autopilot
The 5PM Flip: Replacing your reward without punishment
How to identify emotions using H.A.L.T. and stop numbing with alcohol
What neuroplasticity means—and why small shifts change everything

Angela also shares a powerful story from her early sobriety behind the bar, proving that the craving loop can be broken—even when it’s deeply ingrained.

This episode is a real-world, neuroscience-backed guide to help you stop surviving your evenings—and start leading them with intention and power.

Links Mentioned in This Episode:

👉🏼 Related Episode: Relief Not Relapse – Ep. 376
💥 Want Support? Book a call with Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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Listen On: If life feels messy and sobriety feels like an uphill battle — this episode will give you relief, language, and a path forward.Let me guess…You thought quitting drinking would solve most of your problems.You figured, once the alcohol was gone, things would finally calm down.You’d feel happier, more stable, less overwhelmed.But instead — sobriety hit, and life still feels like one giant mess.Here’s the thing no one really talks about:Life doesn’t stop life-ing just because you quit drinking.There are still bills, breakups, bad days, and unexpected chaos.The difference is, now you’re trying to face it without your old escape button.And that’s not because you’re doing sobriety wrong — it’s because life is still life, and your nervous system is still learning how to handle it.This episode is all about learning how to deal with the hard stuff — curveballs, chaos, and everyday stress — without unraveling.I’m going to show you how to build the kind of emotional endurance that helps you stay calm, grounded, and clear… even when life gets messy.In this episode, you’ll learn: Why just not drinking isn’t enough to feel better The real reason you still feel stuck or triggered How to stop getting derailed by every curveball The coping tools that actually work — and how to start using them What it really means to “do the work” in recoveryIf you’re sober (or trying to be) but life still feels chaotic, overwhelming, and exhausting — this is your episode.It’s not just about not drinking anymore.It’s about learning to live — really live — without running, numbing, or blowing up your life.🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode: What It Really Means to Be a Dry Drunk (And How to Change)https://addictionunlimited.com/what-it-really-means-to-be-a-dry-drunk-and-how-to-change Book a Call With Angelaaddictionunlimited.com/call Join the Facebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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Listen On:Have you ever asked yourself, “How do I forgive myself for what I did when I was drinking?”If the shame feels too big, the guilt too heavy, and the past impossible to escape—this episode is your turning point.In this powerful conversation, we’re diving deep into self-forgiveness—what it is, why it’s so hard, and how to actually begin the process of releasing regret and reclaiming your power in sobriety.I’m also walking you through a powerful 3-minute reflection practice from my brand-new Self-Forgiveness Starter Kit—designed to help you stop punishing yourself and start moving forward.Because your past doesn’t get to have the final word. You do.✨ In this episode, you’ll discover: Why shame feels necessary—and why that belief is hurting you How rumination blocks your ability to move forward The emotional + physical toll of carrying unresolved guilt The truth about what forgiveness really means (and what it doesn’t) A simple practice to reset your mindset and start healing todayThis isn’t just mindset work—it’s a full-body reset for anyone stuck in guilt, self-punishment, or emotional paralysis after quitting drinking.If you’re tired of carrying your past like a weight, and you’re ready to build something better… it all starts with one radical act:👉 Forgive yourself. 🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode🎁 Download the Self-Forgiveness Starter KitYour free, printable toolkit to start releasing shame and building real inner peace.👉 https://addictionunlimited.com/forgive🎧 Related Episodes to Deepen This Work:👉 How to Forgive Yourself👉 Forgive Yourself📞 Is Angela the Right Coach for You? Book a Call Here:👉 https://addictionunlimited.com/call💬 Join the Free Facebook Group for Support + Community:👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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A step-by-step breakdown of how your body heals after alcohol, from your liver to your heart to your gut.I know the fear you feel when you quit drinking and suddenly start paying attention to every little twinge in your body.You wonder: Did I mess up my liver for good? Is this brain fog normal? What if I’ve already done permanent damage?And if you’re anything like most people in recovery, you might have spent years avoiding the doctor, hiding your drinking, and ignoring the warning signs.That means your health anxiety isn’t just physical — it’s deeply emotional.You’re carrying around shame, guilt, and fear, wondering if your past choices have caught up with you.But here’s the truth: your body is incredibly resilient. And healing is happening — even if you can’t feel it yet.In this episode of the Addiction Unlimited Podcast, I’m walking you through what’s really going on inside your body after you stop drinking. We’ll look at how alcohol impacts your liver, brain, heart, and gut — and what recovery looks like from the inside out.You’ll also learn how to spot the difference between real health issues and the fear-based spirals that come from anxiety. I’ll give you simple, actionable tools to calm your nervous system, trust your body again, and stop Googling symptoms at 2 a.m.Because your recovery deserves more than panic and guesswork — it deserves clarity, confidence, and peace of mind.In this episode, I share:5:45 — What “health anxiety in sobriety” is and why it hits so hard10:12 — How your liver, brain, and heart really respond when you stop drinking14:18 — Why your gut is your “second brain” and how food affects your healing20:33 — What’s normal (and not) when it comes to stomach issues and recovery24:10 — Tools to manage fear without spiraling into Google28:05 — How to stop letting fear run the show and build real coping skills30:50 — Why you’re not broken — your body is healingIf you’ve been living in a constant state of “What if it’s too late?” this episode is going to give you hope, knowledge, and peace of mind. Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode: Book a free call with me to get serious about your recovery and build a plan that actually works Quitting Drinking & Post-Acute Withdrawal 5 Signs You’re Dealing With PAWS The Science of Sobriety & How to Feel Better Faster

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Why do we miss alcohol—even when we know it’s destroying us?In this raw and powerful episode, I’m unpacking the real reason it feels like grief when you quit drinking. We’ll look at how alcohol grooms you like a toxic partner, hijacks your identity like a cult, and lingers in your brain like a sleeping bear that’s always ready to wake up.This isn’t just about quitting a habit—it’s about breaking up with a manipulative force that’s been running your life. And when you understand why it hurts so much to let it go, you’ll finally be able to reclaim your peace, your power, and your self-trust.💥 In this episode, we’ll cover: What makes alcohol feel like a “best frenemy” The grooming phase: when drinking felt fun, light, and helpful How alcohol rewires your brain and conditions emotional dependency The cult-like takeover of your identity and social life What it really means to “poke the bear” in sobriety 5 actionable ways to rebuild trust and keep the bear asleep Why you’re not crazy for missing it—and how grief is actually a sign of healing 📥 Free Resource: Goodbye, Alcohol Healing JournalDownload your free guided journal prompts to help you process the grief of quitting drinking and reconnect with your true self.✅ Process the emotional layers of letting go✅ Understand what alcohol really gave you—and what it took✅ Start journaling with purpose, power, and peace🔗 Links + Resources: ✨ Book a FREE coaching call with me → addictionunlimited.com/call 🔥 Another episode: Grieving the Loss of Alcohol 💛 Join the community → Facebook Group 📱 Follow me on Instagram → @addictionunlimited ⏱️ Timestamps – Episode #380: Grief in Sobriety: Saying Goodbye to Your ‘Best Frenemy’00:00 – Why You Miss Alcohol (Even When It’s Hurting You)Exploring the emotional confusion of quitting drinking and why it feels like grief.01:30 – What No One Tells You About Early SobrietyAngela shares the emotional chaos of missing alcohol and how it impacts your identity.03:15 – How Alcohol Slowly Takes Over Your LifeThe grooming phase: how drinking goes from social fun to emotional dependency.06:10 – The Science of Craving: How Alcohol Hijacks Your BrainLearn how alcohol rewires your reward system and trains your brain to believe you need it.08:25 – When Alcohol Becomes Your IdentityFrom “fun wine girl” to isolation—how alcohol slowly shapes how you see yourself and your social life.11:40 – Grieving the Lie: The Emotional Breakup with AlcoholWhy quitting feels like losing a part of yourself—and how to start healing emotionally.13:00 – The Bear Analogy: Understanding the Addicted BrainAngela’s signature tool to explain relapse triggers and how to protect your progress.15:45 – 5 Triggers That Wake the Bear (and What to Do Instead)Clear, actionable tools to stay grounded in recovery and stop sabotaging your success.19:30 – Coaching That Helps You Go DeeperHow personalized support can take you from surviving sobriety to building a life you love.21:00 – Free Recovery Resource: Goodbye, Alcohol Healing JournalGrab the journal prompts that help you unpack your grief and stay emotionally clear.💬 If this episode hit home…Please share it with someone who needs to hear it.

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You quit drinking to feel better — and you do. But you also feel... a little lost.Your old life doesn’t quite fit, and the new one still feels unfamiliar.Welcome to the identity crisis no one warned you about.In this episode, we’re talking about what really happens after you get sober — the part beyond the cravings and the willpower. Because when alcohol is no longer part of your life, it takes your old routines, confidence, and identity with it.If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even recognize myself anymore…” this episode is for you.You’ll learn: Why feeling disconnected is actually a normal part of early sobriety The 3 phases of the identity shift that every sober woman goes through How to get out of the “in between” phase and build a life that actually feels alignedPlus, I’ll give you practical tools and journal prompts to help you reconnect with who you really are — without alcohol.This isn’t just about staying sober — it’s about becoming the person you were always meant to be. 🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode 🎧 Episode #29 with Jenn Kautsch (Sober Sis):https://addictionunlimited.com/jenn-kautsch/ 📞 Is Angela the Right Coach for You? Book a Call Here:https://addictionunlimited.com/call 💬 Join the Free Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited 🛏️ Cozy Earth – Save 40% with Code ANGELA:https://cozyearth.com 🔥 Highlights & Time Stamps [00:00] Why sobriety brings an unexpected identity crisis [03:15] My personal story: Letting go of the bar scene and finding new purpose [09:40] Phase 1 – The Drift: Why everything feels “off” even after you quit [15:22] Phase 2 – The Discomfort: When the old life fades, but the new one isn’t clear yet [21:15] Mid-roll ad: Cozy Earth Bamboo Sheets — sleep cooler, feel better [23:20] Phase 3 – The Becoming: How to stop surviving and start becoming the woman you want to be [28:40] 4 practical tools to support your identity shift this week

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If you’ve been telling yourself, “I don’t think I need to quit completely—maybe I can just cut back…”This episode is for you.I’m sharing a story about a client—let’s call her Sarah—who had all the drinking “rules”:✅only on weekends✅never before 5 p.m.✅only wineAnd still… every Monday, she felt ashamed.Not because she got blackout drunk—but because she broke yet another promise to herself.That’s when it hit me—what Sarah really wanted wasn’t moderation.She wanted to drink without consequences.And that’s the trap.Because moderation feels like control… but it’s actually just a delay tactic.One that keeps you stuck, confused, and constantly negotiating with something you’ve already lost control of.In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on: Why moderation seems safer but quietly steals your progress What’s really happening when you keep trying to “regain control” The emotional truth that no one’s saying out loud And my 3-question Clarity Framework to help you figure out your next stepThis isn’t just information—it’s a turning point.And if you’ve been white-knuckling the moderation loop, trying to avoid quitting altogether, it’s time for some real relief.You’re not doing anything 'wrong', you’re just tired from trying to fix something that can’t be fixed.🔗 Links & Resources: 💥 Join the Dry July Coaching Challenge → https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited 🎧 Listen to “Relief, Not Relapse” (Episode 376) → addictionunlimited.com/376 🔥Want private coaching? Book a FREE call for next steps: addictionunlimited.com/callIf this episode cracked something open for you, “Relief Not Relapse” is the perfect follow-up—especially if you're caught in the on-again, off-again loop. Go listen when you're done here!⏱️ Episode Timestamps:0:00 – IntroSarah’s story, the trap of moderation, and why this episode is your turning point.1:20 – Welcome + What We’re Talking About TodayWhy this conversation matters, what moderation really represents, and what you’ll learn.2:30 – Segment 1: The Moderation MindsetWhy moderation feels safer, how it keeps you stuck, and the emotional bait-and-switch no one talks about.7:45 – Segment 2: The Dangerous Truth About ModerationThe real-life costs of trying to moderate, the risks you're inviting, and the moment that could change everything.11:30 – Segment 3: The Clarity FrameworkThree powerful questions to get honest about your next step (and stop spinning in the maybe).14:30 – Your Takeaway + InvitationWhat to remember from this episode, where to get your Clarity Questions, and how to take the next step with support.

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If wine feels like the only way you can get through dinner, laundry, or one more bedtime meltdown—this episode is for you.In this powerful solo episode, I’m diving deep into the emotional truth behind mommy wine culture and why it’s not about the alcohol—it’s about the overwhelm, burnout, and emotional depletion so many moms are silently carrying.We’re breaking down: Why quantity doesn’t define a drinking problem—intention does The emotional load motherhood places on women (and what alcohol pretends to fix) 3 real-life sober self-care tools that actually work when you're overstimulated and exhausted How to shift from using alcohol as a coping mechanism to building a self-support system that lastsWhether you’re already sober, sober-curious, or just tired of feeling like wine is your only relief—you’ll leave this episode feeling seen, supported, and empowered. 🔗 Resources & Mentions: 🎧 Episode with Michelle Smith on Mommy Wine Culture 🛌 This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth – use code ANGELA at cozyearth.com for 40% off cooling sheets, loungewear, and more. 📓 Learn more about private coaching at addictionunlimited.com/call 🔧 In This Episode: [03:12] Why wine feels like emotional fuel—not just a treat [08:45] “Am I drinking too much?” The real question to ask [13:01] The One-Song Reset: a powerful nervous system hack [16:17] Grounding techniques for overwhelmed moms [20:42] Reclaiming your energy without the glass of wine [26:05] The truth about emotional addiction (and how to break it) Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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What to Do When Cravings Hit and Drinking Feels Like the Only OptionWhen a craving hits, it can feel instant and overwhelming. One minute you’re handling your day, and the next, your brain is screaming for a drink.But here's the truth: you don't actually want the drink—you want relief. And in this episode, I'm giving you the tools to get that relief without sabotaging your sobriety.We’re breaking down the C.A.L.M. Method, a 4-step, science-backed process you can use in the exact moment a craving strikes. Whether you're early in sobriety, navigating emotional triggers, or just sick of the cycle, this episode gives you the step-by-step guide to interrupt the urge and come out stronger on the other side.In this episode, you’ll learn: The crucial difference between thinking about drinking and actually craving a drink Why cravings are physical, not just mental—and how to calm your nervous system fast A powerful mantra that will change how you think about relapse How to shift from panic to empowerment in just a few minutes Real tools, real stories, and a repeatable framework that worksYou don’t need to white-knuckle your way through a craving. You need strategy, support, and a system that works—especially on the hard days.So if you’re ready to take your power back, press play now.🔗 Resources & Links: Join the free community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Need support? Learn about coaching with Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call Follow Angela on Instagram: @AddictionUnlimited

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You don’t drink because you’re weak. You drink because you’ve been stuck in patterns no one ever taught you how to recognize.In this powerful solo episode, I’m walking you through five emotional patterns that quietly sabotage your sobriety—even if you’ve quit drinking before, even if you think you “should have this figured out by now.” These patterns are subtle, but they run deep… and they’re often the very reason women end up back at Day One.So if you’ve ever asked yourself: “Why do I keep doing this when I know better?” “Why does it feel impossible to stop?” “Why do I start strong and then fall right back into old habits?”This episode is for you.Here’s what we’re covering:✅ The “Peacekeeper Pattern” (a.k.a. people-pleasing and emotional burnout)✅ Why escape isn’t about alcohol—it’s about unprocessed pain✅ How perfectionism, control, and identity confusion are fueling the cycle✅ The exact thoughts these patterns whisper to keep you stuck✅ Journal prompts to help you break the loop and move forward for good💬 I’ll walk you through each pattern, what it sounds like, how it hijacks your thinking—and how to start taking your power back, one decision at a time.🎧 Tune in if: You’re tired of starting over and want real tools to make this stick You feel like you’re doing “okay” on the outside but still struggling in secret You’re ready to stop half-assing sobriety and start healing for real ✨ Ready to stop spinning your wheels?If you’re done screwing around with the same tired cycle—and you’re ready for deep, lasting change—book a free call with me. We’ll get honest about what’s keeping you stuck and map out exactly what working together could look like.🖱️ Click here to schedule your call → addictionunlimited.com/call📣 Don’t forget:If this episode hit home, share it with a friend, post it on IG and tag me @addictionunlimited, or leave a review on Apple Podcasts—it helps other women find this life-changing work. 💛

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You don’t actually want the drink.You want relief.You want to quiet your mind, slow your breath, and feel just a little more okay.But here’s what you may not realize:You don’t need alcohol to get there.You need tools—tools that work with your brain and your body, not against them.In this episode, I’m giving you 5 powerful, science-backed things you can do instead of drinking tonight—things that soothe your nervous system, break the craving loop, and help you feel proud of yourself when your head hits the pillow.Whether you're fresh on your sober journey, struggling with nightly cravings, or just need a plan that actually works when the witching hour starts whispering, this episode is for you.Here’s what you’ll learn: Why movement interrupts cravings and resets your nervous system The surprising reason eating something nourishing can make cravings disappear How to rewire your habit loop (without overhauling your whole life) The power of casual connection and why it regulates your brain instantly One simple mindset shift that builds your self-respect and makes drinking less appealingYou don’t have to white-knuckle your way through tonight.You don’t need to be perfect—you just need a plan.Let’s build it together.🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode: 🎁 Download the FREE Daily Plan Worksheet + Video WalkthroughYour craving survival plan in one simple tool 📺 Episode 333: The Science Behind Making and Breaking HabitsDive deeper into how habits form—and how to break the cycle 🛏️ Cozy Earth – Use code ANGELA for [discount]% off their ridiculously soft bedding and loungewear 🤝 Schedule a Free Call with AngelaIf you’re ready for structure, support, and real transformation

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Do you feel like your sobriety gets harder the second a family event hits the calendar?You’re not imagining it—family is one of the most powerful and underestimated sobriety triggers.The roles, the judgment, the pressure to be “fine”—it all adds up to stress, emotional regression, and the urge to escape.In this episode, we break down why family triggers hit so hard (even years into recovery), how your nervous system gets hijacked by old conditioning, and what to do before, during, and after those emotionally loaded moments.You’ll learn how to: Spot mental, emotional, and social triggers early Set boundaries without guilt or people-pleasing Create an exit plan that protects your peace Use real-life tools to reset your energy and stay groundedPlus, I’ll share my own experience with family dysfunction and how I use a simple strategy I call “Don’t poke the bear” to keep my sobriety strong—especially when emotions run high.If you’ve ever felt like the confident, grounded version of yourself disappears around family, this episode will help you reconnect with your power and protect your recovery like your life depends on it—because sometimes, it does. 🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode 🎧 Episode 114: Understanding and Managing Triggers – A deep dive into emotional, mental, and social triggers + practical tools to protect your sobriety 💻 Work with Me – Coaching, courses, and support for your sobriety journey: addictionunlimited.com/call 🧠 Join the Addiction Unlimited Facebook Group – Your sober support tribe is waiting: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited 💬 Let’s Connect on Instagram – DM me your biggest takeaway from today’s episode: @addictionunlimited ⭐️ Rate, Review & Follow on Apple PodcastsIf you loved this episode, please consider rating and reviewing the show—it helps more amazing women like you find the support they need in sobriety.Here’s how: Open the Addiction Unlimited podcast in Apple Podcasts Scroll to the bottom Tap to rate with 5 stars Select “Write a Review” and share what you loved mostAnd don’t forget to follow the podcast so you never miss an episode. I’ve got bonus content dropping all the time, and I don’t want you to miss a thing. 🎧Thank you so much for being part of this community—super grateful for you. 💛

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You’ve probably been here before…You say this time will be different. You make a plan, set your intentions, tell yourself you’re really going to do it.You’ll say no to the wine night.You’ll go to the meeting.You’ll open the journal, start the morning routine, follow through.But then… you don’t. And you tell yourself you’ll start tomorrow. Again.If you’ve ever wondered why you keep sabotaging your own progress — even when you desperately want to succeed — this episode is for you.We’re not just talking about self-sabotage on the surface. We’re going deeper into the hidden emotional pattern underneath it all: broken self-trust.Because self-sabotage isn’t just procrastination or giving in to cravings — it’s what happens when you’ve made so many promises to yourself (and broken them) that you no longer believe your own word.And when you don’t believe yourself, it becomes almost impossible to stay sober, feel confident, or keep showing up.In this episode, we’re breaking down: Why guilt turns into shame — and how that spiral fuels self-sabotage What it really means to “break your own trust” (and why that matters in sobriety) The lightbulb moment most people miss when they keep starting over And how to start healing this cycle with one small, powerful shift: micro-promisesIf you’re tired of starting over, if you’re stuck in the “I’ll do better tomorrow” loop, or if you’re ready to feel proud of yourself again — this conversation is going to feel like exhaling for the first time in a while.It’s time to stop quitting on yourself — and start building a version of you that feels strong, steady, and in control.So grab your green tea and ear buds… and let’s get into it. 🔗 Links & Resources: Schedule a call for private coaching: addictionunlimited.com/call Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited #223 Unlock the Meaning of Self-Sabotage and Helpful Ways to Overcome It: addictionunlimited.com/223

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Here’s what to do when you're trying to stay sober… and everyone around you is still drinking like nothing’s changed.Whether it’s your partner having a glass of wine with dinner, your friends pouring cocktails on the summer trip, or your coworkers heading out for happy hour—being the only one not drinking can feel isolating, awkward, and downright exhausting.And if you’ve quit drinking before (maybe more than once), you might be thinking, “I don’t even want to tell anyone this time.”If that’s where you are, this episode is for you. I’m breaking down how to stay sober in a world that doesn’t always see your struggle—so you can feel strong, clear, and proud of your decision without isolating or explaining yourself to death.I’ll walk you through: How to set boundaries without guilt (even if you’ve “been here before”) What to say when people ask why you’re not drinking Emotional prep and restore strategies to keep your cravings in check before, during, and after eventsAnd don’t worry—I’ve put everything into a free download you can grab right now:🎁 The Sober Social Survival Guide.You’ll get: 5 boundary-setting scripts 3 quick exit strategies A simple emotional prep checklist A sneak peek at the Weekly Overview from my 90-Day Focus PlannerThis is the stuff I use with my clients (and myself!) to stay grounded, confident, and in control. 👉 Grab your copy HERE.So whether you’re heading to a family gathering, a dinner with friends, or just feeling the pressure of people not “getting it”—this episode has your back.Let’s get into it.Links Mentioned in This Episode: 🎧 Episode 75: Are You Depositing in Your Sober Bank? 📘 Download the Sober Social Survival Guide 📞 Book a Free Coaching Call 🗓️ The 90-Day Focus Planner Rate, Review & Follow on Apple PodcastsIf you found this episode helpful, it would mean the world if you’d take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps more people—just like you—find this show and get the support they need.✅ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then let me know what you loved most about this episode!And don’t forget to follow the podcast so you never miss a bonus episode or tool drop. Follow now!

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Early sobriety can feel like emotional whiplash—your brain is loud, your body is anxious, and you’re constantly wondering how to make it through the day without drinking. That’s why creating a daily sobriety routine isn’t just helpful—it’s essential.In this episode, we’re digging into the power of routine and how building just a few small, calming habits into your day can help reduce cravings, lower anxiety, and give you back a sense of control—without overwhelm or perfectionism.Whether you’re a few days in or still thinking about taking the leap, this episode will help you build a structure that supports your recovery, your nervous system, and your peace of mind.🔗 What You’ll Learn: Why your anxiety feels out of control in early sobriety (and how routine helps) The science behind why structure soothes your nervous system What to include in a calming sobriety routine (morning, midday, and evening) How to stick with it even when you’re unmotivated or “not in the mood” A real-life client story of how simple routines created massive changeGet the free companion guide that walks you through everything we cover in this episode—plus journaling prompts, calming routine ideas, and support to help you follow through even on the hard days.👉 addictionunlimited.com/daily Links mentioned in this episode: Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/callYour Daily Sobriety Reset: addictionunlimited.com/dailyFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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You’ve been sober for a while now. The cravings are manageable. The routines are in place.But something still feels… off.You're no longer who you used to be—but you're not exactly sure who you are now.You’ve done the work of quitting alcohol… but no one prepared you for what comes next:The identity shift.In this episode, we’re talking about what happens after you stop drinking—when the buzz is gone, and you’re left with the question: “Who am I without alcohol?”I’ll walk you through the emotional layers of this transition, why it can feel so lonely, and how to start figuring out what actually feels aligned, fulfilling, and true in your sober life.This is real talk about: Letting go of the identity alcohol gave you Why growth can feel lonely (and how to deal with it) Understanding your energy: introvert vs extrovert How to explore new activities, relationships, and routines that actually fit the real you What it means to evolve—and why that doesn’t always feel gracefulWhether you’re 6 months sober or 6 years in, this conversation will speak to the part of you that’s quietly wondering… “What now?” Links mentioned in this episode: Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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You’ve said it before: “I don’t want to do AA,” or “I’ll figure this out on my own.”But if you’re stuck in the cycle—making promises, breaking them, and wondering why nothing sticks—this episode is your wake-up call.In this powerful conversation we break down the real reasons your past attempts to quit drinking haven’t worked… and what it actually takes to get and stay sober—with a program or without one.You’ll learn: Why success rates are low across all recovery paths (and what most people miss) The three conditions addiction needs to thrive (and how you're unknowingly feeding them) What’s really behind the fear of joining a program like AA Why removing alcohol means removing relief—and what you need to replace it with The truth about connection, vulnerability, and being seenWhether you’re trying to quit alcohol without AA, searching for sober coaching, or just starting to question your drinking, this episode will give you the clarity, truth, and motivation you need to stop managing and start healing.👉 This isn’t about the program. It’s about the work. Links mentioned in this episode: Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedCozy Earth promo code ANGELA for 40% off: CozyEarth.com Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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You quit drinking.People congratulated you. Maybe you posted your day count, joined a group, downloaded a tracker, even started journaling…But deep down, it still feels like you’re just barely holding it together.This is white-knuckling—where you’re sober, but not free.Surviving… not thriving.And what no one tells you is: that’s not recovery. That’s emotional burnout.You’ve heard me say this before: sober is quitting the substance.Recovery is healing so you don’t go back to the substance.If you don’t have tools to regulate your stress, manage your emotions, and reset your nervous system…Then every single day will feel like an uphill battle.We're getting into the biological and emotional reasons behind why you still feel overwhelmed after quitting alcohol, including how post-acute withdrawal and anhedonia can hijack your healing.You’ll also get the 7 emotional triggers that sabotage sobriety and simple, powerful tools to help you respond rather than react.This is about more than just staying sober—it’s about feeling free, in control, and proud of your life again.🔗 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why “white-knuckling” sobriety isn’t a long-term solution What anhedonia is and how it impacts your motivation in recovery How post-acute withdrawal syndrome (PAWS) keeps your brain foggy The 7 emotional triggers that lead to cravings (and how to disarm them) How to build real emotional coping skills without alcohol What emotional sobriety really looks like—and how to start living it Links mentioned in this episode: Download your Emotional Sobriety Survival Kit: addictionunlimited.com/emotionalsobrietyIs Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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If you’ve relapsed recently or had a drink after a solid streak of sobriety, I want you to take a deep breath and hear this:✨ You are not broken.✨ You have not failed.✨ And you are absolutely not alone.Whether it’s a one-time slip or a full-on spiral, relapse doesn’t mean you’ve failed.It’s feedback.And it’s fixable.If you're feeling stuck in guilt, shame, or that voice in your head telling you, “You blew it,” this episode is your safe space to breathe, regroup, and move forward.🎙️ In this episode, you’ll learn: Why relapse happens (even to strong, smart, capable women) How to stop the shame spiral and take back your power What to do right now to recommit to your sobriety Why you're NOT starting from scratch—and how to build a better foundationYou’ll walk away with a fresh perspective and real-life tools to help you rise stronger and more grounded than ever.🎯 PLUS—I’m inviting you to join my Alcohol-Free April 21-Day Challenge, starting soon.This challenge is your step-by-step reset: Daily structure Real-time tools Accountability And the community you need right nowYou don’t have to do this alone—and you don’t have to stay stuck.👉 Click here to join the challenge nowYou’re not starting over.You’re starting from experience.And this time, you’re ready. 💪Links mentioned in this episode: Alcohol-Free April 21-Day Challenge: https://addictionunlimited.com/aprilIs Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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People often ask me, “How do you stay sober when life gets stressful?”And my answer is always the same: I don’t just work on staying sober—I work on managing stress and anxiety every single day.Because here’s the truth: Your brain doesn’t actually want alcohol—it wants relief.When you’re overwhelmed, exhausted, or anxious, your first instinct is to reach for something that changes how you feel. And if alcohol has been your go-to coping mechanism for years, of course your brain still thinks that’s the solution.You might be here because: You still crave alcohol when stress hits, and it frustrates you. You’re white-knuckling your sobriety and it still feels like a constant battle. You’re overwhelmed and just want simple, doable ways to actually feel better.No matter where you are, you’re in the right place.In this episode, I’m sharing the real strategy that helps you:✅ Reduce alcohol cravings✅ Build emotional strength✅ Stay sober even when life feels hard✅ Stop using alcohol as your only stress reliefThis is the heart of emotional sobriety—managing stress before it manages you.🎧 Press play to learn the tools, habits, and mindset shifts that can help you stay sober and feel strong, calm, and in control—no matter what life throws your way.Links mentioned in this episode: Get support with Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Your sobriety isn’t determined by one big decision—it’s shaped by the small, daily choices you make.If you’re wondering why staying sober feels so hard or why you keep falling into the same patterns, it’s time to take a closer look at your daily decisions for sobriety.In this episode, we’re diving into the subtle habits that either strengthen or sabotage your recovery.Are you prioritizing your sobriety the way you once prioritized drinking?Are you still making excuses instead of real commitments?The truth is, the little choices—whether you attend a meeting, set boundaries, or change your routine—are what truly determine your success.If you’re ready to stop saying you want to be sober and start proving it with your actions, this episode is for you.Tune in as we break down the mindset shifts and simple daily actions that will help you stay committed, consistent, and in control of your sobriety.This episode will challenge you to reflect on where your commitment really lies and help you shift from half-hearted attempts at sobriety to fully showing up for your recovery.If you’ve ever felt like you’re caught in a cycle of saying you want to quit but somehow always ending up with a drink in your hand, this episode is for you. Links mentioned in this episode: Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of overeating, promising this time will be different, only to break that promise again?The guilt, the frustration, the feeling that you just can’t trust yourself—it’s exhausting. If you’ve ever wondered why food feels like it has power over you, this episode is for you.Today, I’m sitting down with Tim, who spent decades battling compulsive overeating while working in the high-pressure world of Hollywood.His mind was constantly consumed with food—what to eat, when to eat, and how to stop—but nothing ever seemed to work.Sound familiar?His story is proof that freedom is possible, and recovery from food addiction is just as real as recovery from alcohol.We’re diving into:✔️ The surprising similarities between compulsive eating and alcoholism✔️ How breaking promises to yourself erodes your self-trust✔️ The power of community in overcoming food addiction✔️ Simple mindset shifts to help you take back controlIf you’re tired of feeling stuck and ready to change your relationship with food, this conversation will inspire you to take that first step toward freedom.Links mentioned in this episode: Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Have you ever tried to control your drinking with rules like, only on weekends, only two drinks, only on special occasions… only to find yourself breaking them?Have you ever told yourself, "I'm not really an alcoholic," just to justify drinking?Or maybe you've struggled with the fear of labeling yourself but still felt deep down that alcohol had too much control in your life?The truth is, when alcohol is a problem, moderation is just a trap to keep you stuck.We stay stuck in the cycle because we want to believe we’re in control—even when the evidence says otherwise.We convince ourselves we’re "not that bad" because facing the truth is uncomfortable.And by staying stuck in this cycle, we sacrifice the very thing we crave most: freedom.In this episode, we’re uncovering the distorted thinking that keeps you drinking, and I'll unpack the mental gymnastics we go through when trying to rationalize drinking, the fear of acknowledging our struggles, and how embracing sobriety—without needing a perfect label—can lead to real freedom and transformation.If you’ve ever wondered why quitting alcohol feels so hard, or felt trapped between wanting to quit but convincing yourself you don’t have to, this episode is for you. Links mentioned in this episode: Want new opportunities for help with quitting alcohol? Book A Call Here to learn more: addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Why do people flake? Why do they lie in their profiles? Why does it feel like no one is actually looking for a real connection?Dating apps promise endless possibilities, yet so many of us find ourselves endlessly frustrated.You swipe and swipe, hoping for a spark, only to be ghosted, breadcrumbed, or hit with yet another "Hey" that leads nowhere.It’s exhausting, discouraging, and sometimes downright infuriating.It’s easy to blame the apps, the algorithm, or the people on the other end of the screen, and to assume that the other side has it easier, that they’re the ones doing the ghosting or playing games.But in reality, they’re just as fed up with the disappointment, rejection, the feeling of being ignored, the frustration with people not putting in effort...Men and women are equally frustrated with inaccurate or just bad photos, the mixed signals, and the endless cycle of swiping with little reward.So today, we’re diving into the shared struggles of modern dating—the things we all complain about, why they happen, and most importantly, what we can do about it.Because when things don’t go the way we want, we get mad—at the apps, at the people, at the whole dating process.But maybe, just maybe, we’re all part of the same problem… and the same solution. Links mentioned in this episode: Talk to Angela : addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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You have more power in your dating life than you think.The way we think about dating—our expectations, assumptions, and mindset—shapes our experience before we even meet someone.When we go in with pressure, self-doubt, or fear of rejection, dating feels hard, like a lost cause, and discouraging.But with a few small mindset shifts, dating can become lighter, more fun, and way less stressful.In today’s episode, I’m sharing the life-changing lessons I learned from my sponsor—lessons that helped me break free from destructive dating habits, stop chasing people who weren’t right for me, and start approaching dating with clarity and confidence.And here’s the biggest shift: I realized I was the one holding the power all along, and so are you.💯You get to choose who you invest in.💯You get to decide what you want.💯And you don’t have to take it personally when someone else’s choices don’t align with yours.And the best part?These lessons aren’t just for dating—they apply to every relationship in your life.Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, learning to shift your expectations and own your choices will help you build healthier, more fulfilling connections.If dating feels frustrating, exhausting, or just not fun, this episode is for you.Let’s talk about how small shifts in your perspective can make all the difference. Links mentioned in this episode: Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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That rush of excitement when you meet or match with someone new—the butterflies, the spark, the hope that maybe this time it’s real.And then… it fizzles.They ghost. 🚫They’re not who they said they were. 🎭Their pictures were old or heavily filtered, and you don’t even recognize them in real life. 🤦‍♀️Or worse—they seem amazing, but they don’t feel the same way about you.And just like that, excitement turns into disappointment, frustration, maybe even bitterness.Sound familiar?Let’s be real—dating isn’t hard because there’s a shortage of good people.It’s hard when we don’t have a clear plan, when we ignore red flags, and when we’re too focused on what other people are doing instead of how we’re showing up.In today’s episode, we’re shifting the focus away from what other people are doing and taking control of our own dating experience.Dating gets easier when we get better at it, not when we expect others to change.That means setting clear standards, communicating our intentions, and filtering out the people who don’t align with what we truly want.Whether you’re actively dating, in a relationship, or even married, these skills will help you navigate love at every stage.I want to shift your entire approach and how you even think about dating, and what I’m about to share with you will transform the way you think about love, relationships, dating, and most importantly, yourself.If you’re tired of feeling frustrated with dating, ready to stop second-guessing your choices, and attract the kind of relationship that actually makes you happy then this episode is for you.So if you've ever felt like you're losing hope, or that you’re destined to be alone, grab your latte, fire up your earbuds, and let’s talk about how to date smarter, not harder. Links mentioned in this episode: Book A Free Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Ever feel like you’re stuck in a cycle of attracting the wrong people?You keep finding yourself in confusing, frustrating, or downright toxic relationships and you’re left wondering: What is wrong with me? Why do I always attract liars, cheaters, or emotionally unavailable people? Are there even any good ones out there?!If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. And in this episode, we’re breaking it all down.👉 Why do we attract the same types of people over and over again?👉 What subconscious patterns are keeping you stuck in unhealthy relationships?👉 How can you recognize and break these habits to create healthier connections?I’ll share some of my own hard-earned lessons (trust me, I’ve made ALL the mistakes), plus actionable tips to help you shift your mindset, set better boundaries, and finally attract the kind of relationships you truly deserve.💡 If you’ve ever thought: Why do I keep picking the wrong people? Is everyone emotionally unavailable or is it just me? Why do my relationships feel so one-sided? How do I break free from toxic patterns?Then this episode is for you!We’re getting real, we’re getting deep, and we’re getting you out of that cycle for good.🎧 Hit play now! Links mentioned in this episode: Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/call#202 What Unhealthy Boundaries Tell Others About You - https://addictionunlimited.com/202Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Everyone has compulsions or addictions, and needs relief from the discomforts of life.Whether you’re in a treatment center getting treatment for substance abuse, or the soccer mom who struggles with overeating that doesn’t resonate with typical alcoholic or addict, but can’t stop using food to feel better – to the people-pleaser that is causing major discomfort in their own life, and the lives of everyone around them - they're seeking support and could use the steps without the program because they don’t fit in an AA room.I often say I wish everyone would go to 12 step meetings because there are so many life-changing lessons you learn to just be a better, more balanced human.I also understand it’s both exciting to heal and change and, at the same time, terrifying.It’s like we all have a love hate relationship with personal development because we want the results, but we are scared to death of the discomfort of doing the work.I’m always interested in hearing different ways of how to recover, especially if you struggle with behaviors but not substances – because those options feel far more limited.So I wanted to bring someone on who is in the trenches everyday of bringing the value of 12 steps out of the rooms of 12 steps to be more accessible to everyone.You may have heard Ian on other podcasts or media outlets before because he is passionate about opening the doors of healing to all the people, with all the problems.And he wrote this book to do just that.Let’s dive in and chat with Ian all about using the 12 steps if you don’t fit the traditional alcoholic/addict mold. Links mentioned in this episode: The Fix: How the Twelve Steps Offer a Surprising Path of Transformation for the Well-Adjusted, the Down-and-Out, and Everyone In Between: https://amzn.to/3PSFO2DFree Webinar: How to Start Building a Lifestyle That Supports Long-Lasting Sobriety: https://addictionunlimited.com/lifestylewebinarIs Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Have you heard the term dry drunk and wondered, “Is that me?”Can you be sober and be a dry drunk?Or you may think, what’s the difference between dry drunk vs. sober or in recovery.Today, I’m going to break down the ins and outs of dry drunk. From what does it mean and is it me all the way to how to avoid it and/or change it.This is a jam-packed episode and perfect for the newbie, just getting sober, or the seasoned old-timer who always needs a good reminder of the importance of emotional sobriety.Or, anyone in between who may have been lulled into thinking that alcohol was the only problem.If you feel like: 🚨you’re not making as much progress as you thought you would🚨you have some time sober, moved away from your recovery work, and find yourself feeling like your life is suffering because of it🚨you feel your spiritual fitness slipping awayThen this episode is going to change your sober life. Can you be sober and be a dry drunk? What’s the difference between dry drunk vs. sober or in recovery Does it happen in early sobriety, can it happen in long-term sobrietyIf you’re having trouble understanding the difference, or worried you might fall into the dry drunk camp and need solutions to get back on track, this episode is for you. Links mentioned in this episode: Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/callFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Have you ever felt stuck in the shadow of your past, unable to move forward but unsure of how to start healing?In this transformative episode, we dive deep into the power of healing trauma and how it can unlock a life of clarity, confidence, and emotional freedom.Whether you’ve experienced a single event or the ongoing stress of circumstances like the recent California wildfires, or maybe you don't even know you have trauma because you had a great childhood - this conversation is here to remind you: healing begins when we acknowledge the impact of our experiences and choose to face the pain rather than numb it.This episode will help you see that healing isn’t about being “perfect” or “getting over it.”It’s about moving forward, one brave step at a time, toward a life where you feel more connected, more at peace, and more in control of your own story.Healing isn’t about forgetting; it’s about transforming.And together, with my guest Kristen Boice who is a marriage and family therapist and psychotherapist working with people for 25 years, we’ll explore how to take those first steps toward a new chapter filled with hope, resilience, and growth.Links mentioned in this episode: Find Kristen here: https://kristendboice.com/Close the Chapter Podcast: https://kristendboice.com/podcast/Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/callJoin the Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Happy New Year, my friend!I hope you are waking up today ready to tackle this thing HEAD ON.If this is your day 1... I'm glad you are ready to kick some a and make big changes starting today.There's no way around it. Holiday season is ex-haust-ing.I'm right there with you. 🙌If your head is a little fuzzy today, I want you to start with nourishing your body. Drink lots of water, get rest, and take a little time to do a gratitude list to start the first day of 2025 on the right foot.Don't waste time beating yourself up and looking at yesterday, instead, look forward to who you are going to be from this moment on. ❤️Let's kickoff this new year together!Dry January Kickstarter: A 30-Day Bootcamp with ME & YOU!WHAT: A 30-Day ass-kicking community to start your sober year STRONG. 💪WHY: This is an easy HECK-YES to get you a quick win with some truth bombs and major insight.BOOM BABY: In 30 short days you could boost your recovery to new levels, have a plan of action to stay on track, and get the serious relief you've been dying for.All you need to do right now is join here: addictionunlimited.com/bootcampNow’s your time!Put all of your doubts, excuses, and fears aside because you DO have what it takes and I’m here to help you turn your dreams into reality in 2025 and beyond.

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From the outside, it might look like everything is smooth sailing, but the truth is, even those of us thriving in sobriety encounter challenges.

As we wrap up 2024, I’m pulling back the curtain to share some personal struggles I’ve faced this year.

In this episode, I open up about what’s been going on behind the scenes, how I’ve coped, and the lessons I’ve learned about resilience and self-compassion.

Recovery is about more than just quitting alcohol—it’s about learning to handle life on life’s terms.

I’ll tie my journey to the powerful topics we’ve covered in recent episodes, from emotional regulation to facing triggers head-on.

Together, we’ll explore how recovery tools not only keep us sober but also help us navigate life’s ups and downs with strength and grace.

To kick off 2025, I’m inviting you to join me for the Dry January Bootcamp, a transformative kickstart designed to help you reset, recharge, and step confidently into the new year.

Whether you’re starting your sobriety journey or recommitting to your goals, this bootcamp has coaching, accountability, and an amazing community of like-minded people ready to thrive.

And it’s free.

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Join me in the Dry January Bootcamp: addictionunlimited.com/bootcamp

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Have you been trying to stay sober but find yourself back at square one?

You’re not alone, and it’s not about lacking willpower.

In this episode, we uncover the hidden roadblocks that could be sabotaging your sobriety.

These challenges often fly under the radar, making it difficult to maintain progress.

I’ll share five of the most common roadblocks and offer practical strategies to overcome them.

Get ready to identify these sneaky obstacles and take control of your sobriety journey.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

The surprising factors that derail your sobriety without you realizing it.
How emotional triggers play a crucial role in relapse.
Why self-awareness and preparation are key to lasting sobriety.

Sobriety isn’t just about resisting alcohol; it’s about changing how you approach life’s challenges.

By spotting and addressing these roadblocks, you can create a clear path toward confidence and freedom.

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True transformation happens when you fully embrace your identity as a non-drinking person and create a recovery lifestyle.

It’s not just about quitting alcohol, it’s about stepping into a new lifestyle, taking responsibility, living with purpose, and feeling totally empowered by it all.

When you want long-term sobriety, to feel confident in your recovery, and be happier… building a recovery lifestyle is the answer.

So the question is, how do you do that?

Especially in a world that is saturated with alcohol for every occasion. It’s at every gathering, at every store, all over TV and movies, it’s even in coffee shops and gyms now!

To get into all the ins and outs of sobriety I brought in another Coach to join me.

Chris and I are getting real about what it takes to shift your mindset, own your choices, and harness the power of the tools and programs available to build a thriving recovery lifestyle.

Just like you and me, Chris had to take a hard look at his life and make a decision to change.

But he didn’t just want to stop drinking; he wanted to live a life he could be proud of.

Together, we’ll explore how to tap into recovery programs and tools to build a lifestyle that works for you – We’ll share personal stories of the sobriety journey to remind you that you’re not alone and that change is not only possible but right at your fingertips.

If you’ve ever wondered how to take your sobriety to the next level or felt stuck in the same cycle, this conversation is for you.

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Sober Holiday Podcast Playlist: addictionunlimited.com/playlist

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Did you know that many people don’t realize they’re on the path to relapse until it’s too late?

The truth is, relapse doesn’t happen in a single moment—it’s a slow buildup of emotions, stressors, and unchecked behaviors that compromise your decision-making over time.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the early warning signs of relapse so you can recognize them before they get the best of you.

From seemingly harmless triggers like work stress and family dynamics to emotional overwhelm and self-doubt, I’ll help you uncover the patterns that could be quietly steering you back toward drinking.

Here’s what you’ll learn:
✅ Why cravings aren’t really about the drink but about the need to change how you feel.
✅ How daily stressors and emotions weaken your resilience over time.
✅ The key emotional and mental warning signs to watch for.
✅ Simple strategies to interrupt the relapse cycle and stay on track.

The number one takeaway?

Relapse is preventable when you know what to look for and have the tools to stay in control.

You don’t have to let life’s challenges derail your sobriety. Let’s get clear on how to protect your progress and keep moving forward, one day at a time.

Links mentioned in this episode:

3 Stages Of Relapse And How To Triumph Over Temptation: https://addictionunlimited.com/tag/relapse-prevention/

Your Sober Holiday Podcast Playlist: addictionunlimited.com/playlist

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The holiday season is magical—a time for sparkling lights, heartfelt traditions, and moments of togetherness.

But for many of us in recovery, this time of year can feel like navigating a minefield of stress, temptation, and overwhelming expectations.

The pressure to be everything for everyone, the endless to-do lists, and the ever-present cultural norm of celebrating with alcohol can make it feel like staying sober is an uphill battle.

You’re not alone if the holidays bring a mix of excitement and anxiety.

That’s why this episode is here to help.

Today, I’m sharing practical, actionable tips to stay alcohol-free while embracing the joy and connection of the season.

Whether it’s managing family dynamics, handling social events, or finding comfort in moments of solitude, we’ll cover strategies to help you navigate the challenges with confidence.

I’m getting into the hidden triggers that you probably aren’t thinking about because it feels like the holidays put your emotions under a microscope.

And to make this journey even easier, I’ve created something special for you—my Sober Holiday Podcast Playlist You Need, packed with binge-worthy episodes to keep you grounded, motivated, and inspired through every holiday moment.

This episode is your toolkit for a stress-free, alcohol-free holiday season.

So, grab a cozy drink, settle in, and let’s dive into how you can make this season not only sober but truly magical.

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The Sober Holiday Podcast Playlist You Need: https://addictionunlimited.com/holidayplaylist

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All right, my friend. Don’t even try to deny it—you know the feeling I’m talking about.

You start out with the best intentions, maybe after a particularly rough night or an emotional moment of clarity, and you tell yourself, This is it. I’m going to stop drinking, and everything will fall into place.

But then, reality sets in.

The road feels harder than you imagined. You’re not seeing the changes as quickly as you’d hoped, and before you know it, you’re wondering if you’re even doing it right.

You’re not alone.

These struggles are incredibly common, and they often stem from three big pitfalls: unrealistic expectations, a lack of direction or plan, and that deep desire to escape uncomfortable feelings.

These challenges are not a reflection of your strength or your willpower—they’re just part of the journey.

In today’s episode, I’m going to walk you through each of these pitfalls, step by step.

💡We’ll talk about how to reset your expectations so you can embrace progress instead of perfection.

💡I’ll show you how to create a simple plan to stay grounded and focused, even when life throws you curveballs.

💡And we’ll unpack the real reason behind cravings—spoiler alert: it’s not actually about the drink—and how you can handle them with confidence.

And as always, stick around until the end because I’ve got a bonus for you: a free resource that will help you put today’s tips into action and keep moving forward with clarity and confidence.

So, grab a cup of coffee, get cozy, and let’s dive into these common pitfalls and, more importantly, how you can overcome them to build a strong, empowered recovery.

You’ve got this, and I’m here to help.

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I wholeheartedly believe that learning to enjoy social situations without alcohol is one of the most empowering gifts you can give yourself.

It’s a skill that brings freedom and joy, allowing you to show up as your authentic self—without a drink in hand.

But as you probably already know, it’s not always easy.

Whether it’s handling those awkward questions, navigating a wedding or happy hour, or simply feeling like you don’t fit in, sober socializing can feel daunting.

In fact, social anxiety is considered one of the biggest hurdles for people who quit drinking.

And I’ll be honest—this is something that hits close to home for so many of us.

That’s why I invited Ellie, one of my 6-week program alumni, to join me for this episode.

Ellie knows firsthand how tricky it can be to navigate social situations in early sobriety, and she’s here to share how she handled those challenges from day one so her friends new exactly what was going on, where she was, and what to expect.

Ellie brings incredible insights and practical tips to help you feel confident, calm, and ready to face any social situation.

In this inspiring conversation, Ellie shares how to:

Prepare for events and gatherings so you feel empowered and in control.
Create meaningful connections with others without relying on alcohol.
Stay grounded and true to yourself—even in high-pressure situations.

Plus, Ellie reflects on the lessons she’s learned since my 6-week program and the tools that continue to help her thrive in her sober life.

I’ll go ahead and call it now—this episode is going to be a favorite. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do!

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Have you ever felt completely overwhelmed by the journey to quit drinking, like there are a million things to figure out all at once?

Or maybe you’ve wondered why it feels like a game of Whac-a-Mole with new habits popping up to replace old ones.

If so, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely in the right place.

In this episode, I’m breaking down three surprising traps that no one talks about when it comes to quitting drinking.

These sneaky obstacles can easily keep you stuck, frustrated, and questioning your progress.

But today, we’re getting into what they are—and more importantly, how to avoid them.

The “Advanced Topic” Trap: We’ll talk about how to stay focused on the “now” without getting distracted by what’s miles down the road.
The “Fix Everything” Trap: Overloading yourself with too many changes at the same time only adds stress.
The “Compulsion Replacement” Trap: Here’s a big one. Your brain naturally looks for ways to soothe, distract, or reward itself—and when alcohol isn’t an option, it’s common to replace it with other compulsive habits, like food, shopping, or even social media. I’ll share tips on how to recognize this tendency, so you can create healthier coping mechanisms and feel empowered to stay on track.

Each of these traps can quietly hold you back, but with a little insight and the right tools, you can recognize them and break free.

So, if you’re ready to quit drinking and finally feel in control without feeling overwhelmed by distractions and pitfalls, this episode is a must-listen.

It’s time to give yourself grace, simplify the journey, and know that every small step is a win on the path to a sober, fulfilling life.

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Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/call

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Sober Society (private member community): addictionunlimited.com/community

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Recovery isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey—it’s deeply personal, especially when you’re working to find what truly clicks for you.

On this episode, I’m sitting down with Jason Wahler to dig into the power of a solid recovery plan, the strength it takes to get sober in the public eye, and the importance of finding your unique way to stay on track for the long term.

Here’s what we’re diving into with Jason:

Why finding what works for you is key – and how the right recovery approach can help you create a life that feels true, balanced, and fulfilling.
Facing every intoxicated moment in the spotlight – and how Jason turned public challenges into opportunities for powerful personal growth.
Building a strong recovery plan for the long haul – because resilience comes from knowing you’re set up for success in the real world.

Jason has walked this path, and his story shows how resilience and authenticity can help you stand strong through even the hardest days.

If you’re serious about your sobriety or just looking to strengthen the path you’re already on, this episode is for you.

Together, we’re breaking down the real-life recovery tools you need to make every day a win—and to keep building that life you truly deserve.

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Change Your Brain Foundation: https://www.changeyourbrain.org/

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How are you feeling about your next social event?

Calm, confident, and ready to connect?

(Or did that question just stir up a wave of anxiety and second-guessing?)

And what about your body?

Tense, tight shoulders? Racing heartbeat?

(If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.)

The reality is that social anxiety can be incredibly overwhelming, especially when you’re newly sober. The situations that used to feel easier with a drink in hand—work events, family gatherings, even vacations—now seem daunting without that familiar crutch.

But here’s the good news: you don’t have to feel stuck or alone in these situations.

In this episode, we’re diving deep into how you can manage and overcome social anxiety without alcohol.

As someone who used to drink to relax and feel more comfortable around others, I know firsthand how challenging it can be to navigate social situations without alcohol. But trust me when I say, it’s not only possible, it’s empowering.

Today, I’ll share 5 proven strategies to help you build confidence, ease anxiety, and enjoy social gatherings without relying on alcohol. By the end of this episode, you’ll have real, actionable tools to help you handle those tricky situations with grace and confidence.

You deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin, no matter the setting.

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If you’ve ever found yourself asking, ‘Why do I keep spending when I know it’s not helping?’—you’re not alone.

Many of us fall into the trap of trying to fill emotional gaps, manage stress, or escape uncomfortable feelings by shopping and buying more than we need.

But that momentary buzz from clicking ‘add to cart’ quickly fades, leaving you feeling worse, not better.

Today, we’re not just talking about what’s happening on the surface—we’re diving into the real reasons behind overspending and how to break free from that cycle for good.

And to help us on this journey, I’m joined by a very special guest: Paige Pritchard.

Paige is the inspiring voice behind the Overcoming Overspending movement, which has grown to millions of followers on social media.

She’s also the host of the Money Love Podcast, where she empowers women to leave financial self-sabotage behind and unlock their full financial potential.

I’ve also created something just for you to support your journey: The Emotional Cost of Overspending: Simple Steps to Regain Your Money & Your Mind.

This free resource gives you all of Paige’s expert insights and strategies in one place.

In this episode, Paige will share her expert insights into what drives those spending impulses and how to develop practical strategies to regain control.

Together, we’ll explore:

🚨the emotional roots of overspending

🚨the mindset shifts needed for lasting transformation

🚨and actionable steps you can take today to build a healthier, more empowered relationship with money.

So if you’re ready to stop wondering, ‘Why do I keep doing this?’ and start finding your financial freedom—this episode is for you.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Free Resource: Simple Steps to Regain Your Money & Your Mind – addictionunlimited.com/overspending

Paige Pritchard, Money Love Podcast: https://overcomingoverspending.com/podcast

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Did you know that relapse can actually be a pivotal moment in your recovery journey?

It’s a reality that many people face when quitting alcohol, but here’s the good news—it doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

In fact, it can be one of the most powerful opportunities for growth and long-term success.

In today’s episode, I’m walking you through how to view relapse as a stepping stone rather than a setback and why embracing it can actually strengthen your commitment to sobriety.

✅ How to reframe relapse as a learning opportunity, not a failure.

✅ Recognizing your triggers and stressors that led to relapse, and how to prevent them in the future.

✅ Building resilience after relapse and why it makes you stronger for the next stage of your sobriety.

✅ Developing an actionable plan to bounce back quickly and confidently after relapse.

✅ Tools and strategies for responding to cravings and stressors, so you can keep moving forward.

And SO much more!

Relapse doesn’t erase your progress—it’s a sign that you are still committed to change, and you now have an opportunity to improve your tools, awareness, and support systems.

So listen in to these valuable insights on how to turn relapse into a growth moment and continue thriving in your sober life.👇

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Recovery Roadmap Workbook: addictionunlimited.com/roadmap

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Have you ever thought about leveling up your personal development?

Growing your emotional intelligence and emotional maturity can open the door to incredible transformations, both personally and professionally.

And today, my amazing guest is the perfect example of how expanding your emotional toolkit can be your best move ever.

I’m thrilled to welcome my new friend and emotional intelligence guru, Noble Gibbens, to the show.

Noble didn’t just improve his emotional intelligence; he went ALL IN on growing his emotional maturity, redefining his relationships, career, and life in the process.

And he’s here to share his journey—how understanding and regulating his emotions empowered him to become a better husband, father, entrepreneur, and mentor.

Honestly—can you imagine navigating relationships or your career with the emotional skills you had as a teenager?

No way!

We all grow emotionally over time, and Noble’s story is a powerful example of how emotional intelligence is a key part of that growth.

If I think about the difference between my emotional capacity in my first few years of sobriety compared to today, the transformation is massive!

Whether you’re just beginning to explore emotional intelligence or have been working on personal growth for years, this conversation is filled with valuable insights on self-awareness, emotional resilience, and the often overlooked power of emotional maturity.

Today you’ll hear about:

(4:13) Noble talks about his emotional fitness journey

(6:15) Understanding emotional maturity and how it affects your life

(11:17) Noble breaks down being over 40, married, and having zero understanding of feelings and emotions

(20:32) How building your emotional vocabulary is a key factor in growth and healing

(23:00) The manipulation behind people-pleasing addiction

(35:34) Taking ownership of your growth and change

Listen in if you’re feeling ready for the next chapter of your recovery and your life.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Get the Resource Guide for this episode here:

Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/call

EQ Gangster Podcast: https://www.eqgangster.com/podcast

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I know this is going to ruffle some feathers because the world is embracing mocktails in full force right now.

And I know alcohol-free drink options are a welcome alternative for many people and there’s nothing wrong with that.

This is NOT going to be a conversation about if it’s RIGHT or WRONG.

Because it’s neither.

This isn’t about making a judgment on your choice or mine.

I want to share with you the research, my personal experience, and some of the issues you’ve probably never considered that create unexpected risks.

Especially if you are pretty early in sobriety because there are a lot of insights that you probably aren’t aware of yet.

While you may not get the buzz, these alcohol imposters can still be harmful and I’m going to give you some alternative ways to think about the risks associated with non-alcoholic drinks so that you can make a smart and informed decision as to what’s best for your recovery.

I’m going to share some deeper insights and advanced recovery concepts that you’ve probably never thought of when you’re considering drinking NA beer or not.

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Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/call

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3 Stages of Relapse episode: addictionunlimited.com/260

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There’s only one thing you need to know, to understand you still can’t drink in a healthy way, even after a period of sobriety.

It doesn’t matter if you quit for a week, months, or years. I’m going to tell you how you know with 100% certainty that you still can’t drink.

Over all the years of my own sobriety, and helping thousands of people navigate their own sober journey’s, one thing has always stood out that makes it clear to me our relationship with alcohol is different.

And it will continue to be different for the rest of my life, no matter how long I go without a drink.

I want you to understand why it’s such a mess when you quit drinking for awhile then decide you can probably drink again.

I get it! I fell into the same trap the first time I ever took a break from alcohol – which is also something ‘normal’ drinkers don’t do, by the way.

So what is the one thing? The thing that makes you and me different from those weirdos who sip on one glass of wine for an hour, or leave half a glass sitting on the table and walk away?

Your brain will tell you everything you need to know… grab your earbuds and tune in to save yourself some time and drama.

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What if the little things—traffic jams, work deadlines, or even family gatherings—are quietly sabotaging your sobriety?

These everyday stressors could be leading you closer to relapse without you even realizing it.

People say, I don’t even know how it happened, or, it was a split second decision, but that is really never the case.

The point of this episode is to understand how and why you are compromised and weakened in a daily basis, and how that leads you to relapse without you knowing it’s happening.

The number one thing I want you to understand in the addiction recovery equation is that it’s all emotion-based.

Not to say that’s the only component, because it’s not.

At the core of addiction is a desire to change how you feel.

Whether it’s making your happy happier, quieting the noise in your head so you can relax, taking the edge off of stress, or numbing what you don’t want to feel at all.

Craving isn’t about the substance, it’s about wanting to feel different.

You are compromised every day by life’s daily stressors, and if you don’t do anything to feel better, to regulate your nervous system so that you can make better decisions…

…then you will always be prey for alcohol.

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Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/call

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3 Stages of Relapse: addictionunlimited.com/260

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If you struggle with alcohol, or marijuana, or any other addiction, chances are you’ve had some thoughts about your relationship with food, too.

I’m right there with you, my friend.

Many of us find ourselves in the situation of getting sober then find we are relying on food and sugar more than we ever did before.

And being a compulsive person, with little understanding of the word ‘moderation’, you can find yourself questioning your habits and not feeling great about them.

The good news is, almost everything is fixable, and our guest today is going to shed some much-needed light on food behaviors, the thought processes behind it, and how we are manipulated by the food industry.

Ali Shapiro is the host of the Insatiable podcast where she explores and explains the intersection of food, culture, and psychology.

Ali brings you insight from her own personal experience, as well as professional experience and this episode is full of lightbulb moments.

She tells us about:

The 4 Triggers of ‘food noise’
How self-trust plays a role in our food decisions
And how food is connected to attachment (and how that drives us)

If you feel like you struggle but aren’t sure where you fit, you won’t want to miss this one!

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Are you struggling with trying to figure out what you’re going to do and how you’re going to spend your time when you quit drinking?

Drinking takes up a lot of our time and mental energy.

When you take that away, it leaves a big void.

And if you don’t have a plan to fill the void, it will lead you right back to relapse.

If you are on your 100th day one again, or if you’ve been sober for awhile and you’re feeling a little stagnant and need a jumpstart…

… this episode is for you!

I’m going to let you steal my Daily Plan:

✨ how I structure my day

✨ what to do

✨ when to do it

✨ why it works

No need to take notes on this episode because I’ve got the plan laid out and ready for you to download! ⬇️

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Everyone from World Cup winning skier Lindsey Vonn, to legendary basketball player Michael Jordan, to actors Will Smith and Idris Elba, and musician Jay Z…

…each of them uses this technique to give them a competitive edge, and also to cultivate a sense of belief, build confidence and to help build motivation.

Science today estimates that 95 percent of our brains activity is unconscious.

It handles everything your body needs to function properly, from eating and breathing to digesting and making memories.

It also holds all the “programs” that control the way you think, what you believe, the way you feel, act, react, and pretty much everything else that forms who you are.

So how do you work on that subconscious mind and write new stories for yourself so you can get more of what you want in life, and less of what you don’t?

In this episode you’ll learn the power of this tool, plus:

👉 The neuroscience of WHY it works

👉 The simplicity of HOW it works

👉 And a process you can start TODAY to change your life

Get your earbuds out and your green tea in hand, my friend, you’re going to love this!

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Grief shows up in unexpected ways and sometimes at unexpected times.

You may lose a family member or friend, or your pet.

Grief may be a part of the heartbreak of a divorce or breakup.

You may grieve the loss of your youth, the loss of alcohol, or the life you aspired to live that didn’t happen, or the child you thought you would have but didn’t.

These curveballs that life loves to throw at you can often create a sense of loss, and grief over something you want that is no longer in your reach.

Healing from grief takes time and it’s not an easy process.

In my personal search for relief I came across a framework that explains the process of grieving, why it’s so difficult, and what you can do to heal.

This episode will change how you think about grief and give you a new process for healing in a healthy way that gets you long-term relief.

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Healing Grief Support Group: https://www.griefshare.org/

Huberman Podcast on Grief: https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/the-science-and-process-of-healing-from-grief

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You know you want to change.

You know you need to change.

Yet, you resist change for some reason you have yet to understand.

This episode’s for you.

But that old saying, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks”, just isn’t true.

Not saying you are old… or a dog…

The truth is, old habits are hard to break.

And new ones are challenging to create.

But if you follow these easy steps, you’ll be a healthy habit champion in no time!

I’d love to tell you, “Just believe in yourself!”, but we aren’t always good at that.

Especially if you’ve been battling the same ugly habits for years and losing.

What I will tell you is… believe in your ability.

Because you are able, and capable, of doing anything you want. And I’m happy to show you how.

Listen in for these easy and actionable steps you can start TODAY, and one of my super secret keys to success.

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Many aspiring sober people get hung up on the thought of never drinking again.

You don’t make a REAL commitment to stopping.

You want to be wishy-washy, on the fence, telling yourself you’ll be able to drink again one day…

…then you wonder how you end up hungover again feeling like sh*t about yourself.

I’ll tell you why; because it all starts with your decision-making.

Once you put down the drink, you have to learn the skills to get your decisions in line with your desire to be sober.

This week, we’ll talk about the pitfalls of instant gratification and how it will trip you up ALL THE TIME.

Instant gratification is one of the biggest obstacles to overcome, and once you see it, you can change it.

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If you’ve never attended a 12-step meeting, you likely have fears and anxieties running through your and keeping you from going.

Or, maybe you went to a meeting or two and wrote it off as ‘not for you’, but as you’ve continued to struggle with staying sober you’re starting to wonder if it might be the solution.

Either way, I want you to have the real real about what it’s like, what we are doing, and why we do it the way we do.

Feeling nervous about going to a meeting is totally normal!

Every one of us in that room felt nervous walking through the door the first time so we know exactly how you feel and we want to welcome you with love and support.

Being connected to successfully sober people is what will allow you to kick start, and build, your sobriety.

In fact, the more open-minded and connected you are, the stronger you will be and the faster you will grow.

Why not stay closely dialed in to the people who have what you want?

That’s the best way to achieve what they have…with your own flavor and style, of course.

Let’s start with debunking a few things:

No, you don’t have to talk if you don’t want to. For 18+ years I have said, “Hey everybody, I’m Angela, alcoholic, and I’m just going to listen today.”
Yes, you can leave early if you want to. There’s no AA police that will chase you down and, for the most part, no one cares.
No, you don’t have to believe in God or go to church just because AA uses the word God. 🤷‍♀️

AA has been around for decades with a sole purpose to help people. And all of us in those rooms want to help you, too.

In this episode I’m pulling back the curtain and giving you the lowdown on how things are done and why we do it the way we do.

We’ll talk about some of the myths, why suggestions are suggested, and how much power you have in your journey.

Your experience is your decision and I hope to see in the rooms one day.

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If you’ve been on the relapse rollercoaster stuck in that cycle of up and down, sober then relapse, over and over feeling like you are getting nowhere…listen up, my friend.

I’m going to give you my top 3 pitfalls that will sabotage your sobriety every… single… time.

You’re going to see that you may be looking at this thing ALL wrong.

You’re also going to get some clear-cut actions you can start taking today to feel better and get farther than you’ve gotten before.

Grab those earbuds and put on your running shoes, or walking shoes in my case, and let’s dive in to this solution-focused episode to change your sobriety for good.

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Skills, strategies, and tools for your emotional toolbox…

…any thing or activity that is good for your mental wellness and helps you stay balanced and happy.

Coping skills are things we can do in the moment, when we are feeling uncomfortable/anxious/angry/overwhelmed, to help us turn down the volume of our emotions and avoid letting them take control.

They help us to get through stressful situations with a little more ease, and without doing something we’ll regret later on.

Having healthy coping strategies isn’t going to cure WHY you have the anger, resentment, or general discomfort in life, but what it does, is allow you to create more calm in your life by having healthier responses to emotions.

And when you can respond to emotions in a healthier way you have more power in your life and you won’t need to turn to alcohol to numb.

Different coping skills serve different purposes, too, so let’s dive in to the coping strategies that will change the way you live.

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Do you wish you had more balance and control over your feelings and moods?

Tens of millions of people around the world struggle with anxiety, depression, and general overwhelm with life. And, although these feelings are now more common, many find it hard to understand what they’re feeling and how to find the right solutions for them.

Rest assured there are solutions to this common discomfort and that’s what we’re talking about in this episode. You need support, emotionally and physically, and with a little guidance anyone can banish the panic that comes with not being able to identify feelings and manage them.

Identify, understand, and balance your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress and anxiety, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict.

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If you are sitting in early sobriety, or feeling “stuck” in your recovery, this conversation is for you.

In the beginning, motivation is high because there is some event that makes you stop and analyze what you’re doing, ie. you embarrassed yourself at a party, you fell down drunk and hurt yourself, got in a fight with your partner, or got a DUI.

There is something that makes you wake up and think, “Holy crap, I’ve got to get it together.”

But, as you’ve heard me say before, you can’t depend on motivation because it comes… and it goes.

When motivation goes down, staying sober is a challenge.

Life strikes, throws you a curveball, emotions are triggered and you find yourself wanting a drink more than ever.

There are a few key skills you can start focusing on to set yourself up for success and we are doing a deep dive in this episode.

You wouldn’t start a road trip without using GPS so why would you start your sober lifestyle without a loose plan of what the heck you’re going to do?

This is an inside view of what it looks like to start your sobriety with the right mindset and a plan to get farther than you’ve ever gotten before.

Peace of mind and sober freedom are within your grasp, starting now.

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Episode #104: Sober Day One

Episode #178: How I’d Grow My Recovery If I Were Starting From Day One (again)

Episode #319: 3 Things I Would Do If I Was Starting Sobriety Today

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At the end of my drinking career, it was not fun anymore.

I hated it.

I felt like its hostage, and I despised it.

At the same time, I couldn’t survive without it.

At that stage, I didn’t have a choice.

Alcohol had me brainwashed, and that bear was fully in control.

But here’s the catch- once we have some time without alcohol, the physical withdrawal is over, the mental fog starts to clear, and that bear is starting to lose control.

He’s losing his grip on you and you are making your own choices now.

Once you get a few weeks, a few months- you have made the choice a million times to not take a drink- so you know you’re capable.

You have also made a million other choices like seeking out podcasts, going to meetings, reading books, getting a Coach- you are making choices every day.

And this is where I get confused when people say they ‘hope’ they don’t relapse.

You don’t ‘hope’, you DECIDE.

And this episode will tell you what to do and how to do it so relapse doesn’t have to be an ongoing part of your recovery.

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What would it feel like to continue NOT having a plan and wake up six months from now in exactly the same place- hungover again, feeling terrible, hating life?

I know that moment all too well.

My sponsor said to me once, “I want you to think about holding a hula hoop”,

“Okay”, I said.

“What all fits inside your hula hoop”?

And I was like, what the hell is this dude talking about?

And I looked at him and said, “Me”.

To which he responded, “Exactly. And that’s everything you have control of. So if it doesn’t fit inside your hula hoop, leave it alone”!

It was a moment that was equally frustrating and life-changing all at the same time, lol.

But if it doesn’t fit in my hula hoop, I can’t control it and I don’t need to expend a lot of time and energy TRYING to control it.

Listen in to hear more…

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Getting sober is hard and it sometimes feels like you are in the battle alone.

You feel like no one understands your struggle, you feel uncomfortable, lonely, and wonder if it will ever get easier.

But it only gets easier if you STAY sober.

Not going back and forth with one foot in the sober door and one foot in the ‘I still want to drink a little’ door.

In a raw moment of heartbreak and anger over a friend’s relapse I’m giving it to you straight.

I wrote a short letter to relapse to let it know exactly how I feel.

And it’s not warm and fuzzy.

If you want direct and easy action steps to take, stay tuned. I give you 3 very specific actions to start RIGHT NOW to strengthen your sobriety whether you have 10 hours or 10 years.

Start here.

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Is Relapse a Choice? Episode #79: https://addictionunlimited.com/is-relapse-a-choice/

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You may think you just have anxiety, alcoholism or ADD, but wait ’til you hear what’s going on under the surface and how to heal it.

My special guest, Dr. Don Wood is an inspired leader in the field of trauma, healing, and how our brain controls us. This isn’t only a field of interest for him, but a personal crusade that began with a desire to support his wife in her healing, and to unravel his daughter’s illness from the inside out.

He has worked with some of the world’s top athletes, is a renowned author, and has a special offer for Addiction Unlimited listeners!

Dr. Wood reveals how we’ve created codes in our brains that dictate our behaviors, like addiction, AND the way to re-write the code. You won’t want to miss this.

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There are many theories about the causes of addiction and many of us are curious about what our underlying issues are, that lead us to an unhealthy relationship with substances and behaviors.

What we know for sure is it’s a combination of factors – biological, psychological, social, and environmental.

This is also what makes addiction more challenging to treat because it isn’t an illness that can be approached with a single solution.

It’s not a matter of just putting down the drink and moving on with your life.

Even if there was a way to fix the genetic piece of addiction, that solution wouldn’t be able to fix the psychological pieces. And when you work on the psychological healing, that won’t fix the biology or change the environmental and social aspects.

Many of my clients spend a lot of time searching for why this happened to them.

How did I end up like this? Why did this happen to me?

But one theory that is super interesting to me, and will offer you some additional insight, is attachment theory.

What is it?

How does it affect substance issues?

What to do about it.

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Why is your inner critic so freakin’ mean??

We all have that inner monologue – We talk to ourselves all day long.

We debate with ourselves about eating another cookie, or drinking another cup of coffee, or how to respond to an email.

Regardless of the topic, we hear that inner critic running through our head all day.

At times this little voice can actually be helpful and keep you motivated toward reaching goals—like when it reminds you that what you’re about to eat isn’t healthy or what you’re about to do may not be the best decision.

But oftentimes, this voice can be more harmful than helpful, particularly when it gets into excessive negativity that can really bring you down.

Basically, negative self-talk is any inner dialogue you have with yourself that may be limiting your ability to believe in yourself and your own capabilities.

It isn’t just stressful; it can also make it difficult to get motivated and achieve the things you want for your life and family.

Today we’re talking about that inner voice we all struggle with:

why it’s so mean sometimes
how it’s holding you back from getting the life and recovery you really want.

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Secrets About Self-Esteem That Will Blow Your Mind: addictionunlimited.com/206

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The REAL reason for feeling some depression or symptoms of depression when you quit drinking alcohol.

And one of these may be something you’ve never heard of.

If you’ve ever used alcohol to deal with feelings of depression, you may have found that after your buzz wears off, you feel even lower than before.

It’s a chicken and egg situation – which came first?

Were you struggling because you were drinking, or were you drinking because you were struggling?

Well, both can be true.

Drinking can increase depression – but depression is also linked to heavier alcohol use.

There are a few things to be aware of to make sense of what you may be feeling and, more importantly, help you cope and have the understanding that it is fixable.

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If you find yourself in yo-yo sobriety, and you can’t figure out why you keep going back to drinking when you KNOW you don’t drink well – I’m going to give you some solutions.

If you have followed me for any length of time, you know I’m all about solutions and I’m a believer in investing the majority of my time and energy into solving a problem rather than obsessing about it.

One thing I can tell you with certainty is, I know what works for recovery.

Not only from my personal recovery and fighting all the same battles you’re fighting, but also from the thousands of people I’ve worked with over all the years of my career.

Addiction, alcoholism, alcohol use disorder… whatever you want to call it – is very predictable.

It’s course and progression is the same in everyone, and the core solutions are the same, too.

So if you are back at ‘day one again’ or you have been sober for a minute and you’re fighting your head telling you, “maybe it wasn’t that bad”, “maybe you can control it now”, “you can get away with just one drink!” – if you can relate, I want you to listen up, and take action.

And if you want my notes from this episode so you don’t have to take notes, then make sure you are signed up for the 30 Days to Fast Track Your Recovery series where I’m not only providing all these bonus episodes, but also some great bonus resources to help you in your process so you can get farther and feel better, faster.

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If you’re signed up then next week you are going to get access to some bonus videos I put together for you, then we are going to do a LIVE webinar so we can be face-to-face you and me! And it’s all FREE!

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Now let’s get into the magic of solutions and what to do to feel better, and stay sober longer.

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Does recovery give you a framework to follow to build a happy and fulfilled life?

Pete Sousa definitely thinks so, and he’s here to tell you all about it in this week’s episode!

In this episode, Pete breaks down his addiction step-by-step and shares all the things he did to get, and stay, sober.

Pete is a news anchor in Texas, an ESPN broadcaster, and a powerful recovery advocate on his podcast The Payoff with Pete and today he’s sharing his whole story with you.

From backing his car into a ditch at his friend’s party, going to treatment, and working at KFC to strengthen his recovery, Pete’s dedication to sobriety is second to none.

This episode is overflowing with moving personal stories, self-acceptance, and real life examples of how to live a recovery lifestyle for years to come.

Click here to listen on the web, or go to your favorite podcast app to listen to this incredible conversation with Pete!

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Being High-Functioning Doesn’t Mean You Don’t Have a Drinking Problem

I understand why you feel that way and how easy it is to separate from the pack when your habits and struggles look different.

It does create a sense of being different and not fitting in to traditional methods and programs.

And it’s hard to call yourself an alcoholic when your picture of what an alcoholic is, is not good.

But let me ask you this – if you are high-functioning, does that mean your problem is different? Or your lifestyle is different?

And if you continue to view your problem as different, which is probably what you’ve been doing, then you could continue to stay stuck in yo-yo sobriety, wasting your time and energy for months or years.

So what do high-functioning problem drinkers do to be successful at sobriety?

Well, we start with facing the real problem, instead of being distracted by the lifestyle and labels.

Think about it – there are tens of millions of people with drinking problems across the globe. There is no way all of our details are going to be the same.

How we live, education, houses, jobs, cars, money, how much we drink, how often we drink, trauma… all of these details will vary to some degree.

But our misuse of alcohol is the same.

If you’re like most of my clients, you use alcohol as a way to numb feelings and discomfort. You use it as a way to connect with your friends, to make laundry and kids and chores feel more doable, to escape the stresses of reality and adulting.

So, isn’t it more important to focus on the causes and conditions so you can get away from alcohol, get control of your life back, and be present with your family?

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The uncomfortable topic no one is talking about. Or, not too many people are talking about because it can be awkward and weird like everything else in life.

But it’s so important for women to understand.

And, there are some great recovery revelations in this episode that have nothing to do with life stages or being a man or a woman – but have everything to do with getting sober and living the life you really want.

You may know today’s guest from the To 50 & Beyond podcast.

When she quit drinking at forty-five, she felt like she had been run over by a truck for years.

She was doing the back and forth, back and forth thing, and she finally decided to quit drinking after thirty years of a close relationship with alcohol – finally tired of settling for that life.

Lori Massicot loves to talk about the disadvantage of just a small amount of alcohol.

From sleepless nights, waking up in the morning fuzzy and hungover, to ending the day with another drink even when you promised yourself you weren’t going to drink today.

She found herself in mid-life, stressed out, she didn’t like her work, had no confidence, and knew her life had to change.

And if you aren’t a 12-step person, you’re definitely going to love the inspiration and motivation that comes with Lori’s story because she had a different path, is respectful of the program, and has amazing and fulfilling sobriety.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Insights Into Addiction and 12-Step Programs Today with Angela Pugh: https://www.lorimassicot.com/to-50-and-beyond-podcast/283

Lori Massicot: lorimassicot.com

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Many of us love to get annoyed with the AA one-liners and all the recovery phrases out there, but the truth is, they work.

And if you get them, they can change your whole trajectory.

When you understand what they mean, the few simple words take on a whole new meaning and it becomes its own shorthand language where you hear these few words, and you know exactly what to do.

It’s a game changer.

Especially if you are caught up in future-tripping, thinking about a bunch of possibilities, what if this happens… what if they do this or say this… what will I do if this…

Did you know that studies show 85% of the things you worry about, never happen?

85%!!

That’s a lot of wasted time and energy.

I’m going to go through 6 of my favorite, life-changing phrases, what they mean to me, and how to use them.

And, if you’re signed up for the 30 Days to Fast Track Your Recovery series, you’re going to have access to six more, with a little surprise bonus I’m putting together for you.

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30 Days to Fast Track Your Recovery: addictionunlimited.com/fasttrack

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What does an addictive personality actually look like?

People always tell me, “I have a very addictive personality”.

Well, I’m right there with you, my friend – if you struggle with substances, it just makes sense we will struggle with behavior addictions, too.

Today we’re talking about having an addictive personality and the behavior addictions we can pick up along the way.

If I do something and I like it, I want more of it.

Food, people, work, exercise, self-improvement and recovery, television, ice cream – it could literally be anything.

If I get some gratification from it, I want to do it again, as soon as possible.

One common factor underlying nearly every addiction is the feeling of reward.

Your brain registers all pleasures in the same way, whether it’s a cold beer after work, a shopping spree, morning sex, or a delicious meal.

When you experience that feeling of reward, the brain is flooded with the neurotransmitter dopamine.

It’s the feel-good neurotransmitter and it is the thing we are chasing for most of the time.

So let’s get into some of the traits of an addictive personality, what they look like in everyday life, and how they manifest in some of the most common behavior addictions.

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Whether you’re in the early stages of sobriety or have been in recovery for a while, understanding post-acute withdrawal can help you navigate the ups and downs of addiction recovery more effectively.

PAWS can be a challenging phase in the addiction recovery journey, and knowing the symptoms and signs can help you create processes and gather tools to get through it without relapse.

🔸What is it
🔸What are the symptoms
🔸What to do

If you’re feeling a little crazy and need a name for it, this may be it.

Don’t worry about taking notes with this episode because I’ve created a whole guide for you as a part of the 30 Days to Fast Track Your Recovery series.

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Quitting Drinking & Post Acute Withdrawal (PAWS): addictionunlimited.com/73

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Recovery fears are the absolute worst, because let’s be real: all you want to do is get your life together and be present with your family, but you can’t stop thinking about all the ways your life will change and wondering if you can handle it.

This can also come in the form of not wanting to engage so much with friends because you are feeling torn between two lives and totally uncertain about what your future is going to look like. And I get it – I know that life, sober or not, isn’t always rainbows and kittens, but you shouldn’t be stuck in fear and letting it hold you back.

You may know Charlie LeVoir from the Way Out Podcast where he talks about powerful sobriety topics and recovery stories to inspire your recovery journey.

He was struggling with a drinking problem, but convinced his wife he could quit whenever he wanted to. In his attempt to moderate his drinking he almost lost a hand while carving the Thanksgiving turkey and that’s when it all came crashing down.

No more denial, no more convincing the wife, straight to treatment he went.

Through working steps and doing trauma therapy Charlie shares how he had to straighten out all the relationships in his life that were confused and not right, including the relationship he had with himself.

The major truths he had to face
The counselor that set him straight
And the realization that got him into recovery full-time

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30 Days to Fast Track Your Recovery: addictionunlimited.com/fasttrack

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Alcoholism, or Alcohol use disorder, is a brain disorder that impairs your ability to stop or control your drinking.

Welcome to our first 30 Days to Fast Track Your Recovery series where each week for the next 30 days I’m dropping an extra episode to answer some of the most confusing questions about this crazy alcohol issue we’re dealing with.

Today we’re talking about the stages of alcoholism to help you get clarity on yourself, and your habits, so that you can stop screwing around and get the support you want.

Alcoholism develops gradually and symptoms range from mild to severe, depending on what stage you’re in.

If you’re asking yourself:

what the heck is happening to me
do I have to quit forever or can I moderate

…you’re in the right place.

We’re going to talk about different stages of drinking, how it works, and when you cross the line where attempts to moderate your drinking are going to be a waste of time and energy.

It is important to know the signs so that you can accurately gauge where you are in the process and, hopefully, it will help you out of any denial that’s keeping you from getting help and getting in recovery.

Don’t forget to sign up for the 30 Days to Fast Track Your Recovery series and all the resources I’m sharing to help you understand your journey, and what to do to get help.

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You guys know me and how much I love simple strategies that get you exactly the results you’re looking for.

Creating a life you love doesn’t happen overnight.

Most of us are so wired for instant gratification that when we don’t get immediate results we get disappointed and discouraged and you can easily fall into thinking it’s too hard.

Or, your brain will start justifying giving up by telling you, ‘you don’t have time to focus on this right now’, or, ‘it isn’t even working so why are you wasting your time??’

I am the person who, if I eat well and work my buns off at the gym that day and stay on my food plan, I expect to see results the next morning!

And I’ve learned along the way, that’s not how it works.

Remember this: habits are the building blocks of results.

If you want a result, focus on the habits, the actions you take, to get you there. And I’m giving you 10 powerful habits that will change your life.

And I have a special surprise for Alcohol-Free April!

Bonus podcast episodes each week
Expert resources
Personalized guidance
Inspirational stories of other high-functioning people, just like you, who have overcome drinking and are living alcohol-free.

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If you’re listening to the Addiction Unlimited show, I’m guessing you’re a fan of living a sober lifestyle, right? If you’ve ever thought about going to a 12-step meeting or wanted to grow your sober community to have more support and fun, this is the perfect episode to get started. And I’m telling you – this conversation is not just for all of you; I also found so much value in this conversation and it warmed my heart taking me back to my 12-step roots!

Enter Arlina Allen, the fabulous founder of Sober Life School, the host of the One Day at a Time podcast & Self-Help Junkie podcast, and massive self-help junkie herself. I’ve recently gotten to know Arlina and I was a guest on her One Day at a Time podcast, and it’s been such a blast!

Arlina is another high-functioning alcoholic who left her corporate job to follow her personal development dreams. Now, she’s following her heart and helping others get the life they really want and working with amazing and powerful women every day.

We talk about the changes in the recovery world we’ve watched over decades of sobriety, what it feels like to be an old-timer in this space, and the beauty of simplicity in your recovery plan. She’s absolutely mastered long-term sobriety and is sharing all of her wisdom and humor with you!

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If you are trying to stay sober and change your life, I need you to understand this concept of Sponsorship – or Coaching.

Do you feel a little weird about getting a sponsor or having a hard time finding a reliable sponsor?

Maybe you have no idea what it is and don’t know if you actually need one.

This episode is all about sponsorship for those in 12-Step programs, and Coaching for those who aren’t, because the concepts are the same.

A Coach guides you in a process just like a sponsor guides you in 12 step programs.

I also like to highlight the similarities in these concepts because I consider my sponsor my very first Coach.

And, for the record, I was weird about a sponsor at first, too.

I didn’t really understand it or understand it’s value and, like a good alcoholic, I thought I could figure it out on my own.

Looking back, I wish I would have done it sooner because it was really fun to have someone in my corner and to have that person to ask questions about things I didn’t understand.

I’m going to cover 6 super smart insights to understand sponsorship from the inside out – the things I learned along the way, over the course of YEARS – and I’m sharing it all here with you so that you have all the answers I had to learn the hard way!

We’re going to cover:

What a sponsor does
Why you need one
Where you get one
What to look for
How it works
Things to consider

This is your all-in-one cheat sheet for all the questions you didn’t even know you had about working with a sponsor, or a Coach.

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Anna David is the New York Times bestselling author of Party Girl (plus seven more!), she is the founder of Legacy Launch Pad Publishing and three-time TEDx speaker who has appeared on Good Morning America, Today Show, The Talk and dozens of other programs.As if that wasn’t enough, her first novel, Party Girl, is in development as a feature film.With a list of successes that impressive, it would be easy to get the impression that her journey has been easy.But, just like you and me, her life, career, and recovery have been a steady stream of surprises, lessons, and victories – and she’s sharing them all on this episode.Anna shares her surprising insight on the world of traditional publishing, how she learned to ride the waves of change life loves to bring, to being a new mom, an old soul, and a badass recovery rockstar.(https://www.imdb.com/name/nm2278647/)Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedWant to work with Angela? Book A Call Here : addictionunlimited.com/callGet your copy of Party Girl here: https://amzn.to/3To1mXa Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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According to research 92% of people give up on their goals or fail to follow through.What happens with traditional goal-setting – set the goal, go after the goal, not hit the goal. Not only not hit the goal, but totally bomb and feel bad about yourself. set a goal, go after the goal, reach the goal, but it happens a month late or three years later so you still feel a little bad about yourself. set the goal, go after the goal, and all of a sudden something shiny and new pops up and it looks better, or sounds like a better idea, so you move over to that thing and you feel like a loser because you bailed on the original goal.Can you relate to these?? Because I feel like I just outlined my life.Goal setting can be a powerful tool for personal and professional growth.But, are you setting the same goals; pay off the Visa, go to Hawaii, lose 10 pounds, quit drinking FOR REAL THIS TIME…...and when you think about those goals you feel completely uninspired with no real direction?You’re about to learn an unconventional way to set and reach those goals.No stress, not fear-based feeling like you’re going to fail before you even start – but a powerful and inspirational way to look at what you truly want, feel good about what you’re going after and the way you are going after it.How do you set sobriety goals, and actually achieve them?Or, any goal, for that matter.If this is something you’ve struggled with, you’re in the right place. Links mentioned in this episode: Join the Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callThe Desire Map by Danielle La Porte: https://amzn.to/3UXwiyOCore Desired Feelings Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/daniellelaporte/core-desired-feelings-library/Empowering Words: https://wildsimplejoy.com/the-most-empowering-words/ Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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What’s holding you back from the life you’ve always wanted?When you want to make a big change in your life, you need to face anything and everything holding you back from making that change successfully.Anything that drains your energy, distracts your focus, or clutters your mind.Mental clutter is often what prevents us from moving forward at all or, at the very least, it makes our progress much slower.It’s baggage that has to be unloaded.As an expert in helping people, I can confidently say that, most times, people aren’t even aware of what’s really holding them back.You may think you are doing everything you possibly can but sometimes it takes slowing down and practicing true self-awareness to see your blind spots.If you're trying to figure out what yours are, this episode has nine simple things keeping you from getting the life you've always dreamed of.Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Most people are going about dating ALL WRONG.Have you ever felt like you attract all the wrong people in your dating life?I hate to be the one to tell you... but there are reasons you keep ending up in undesirable situations and it's not because of everyone else.I know, it was a hard lesson for me, too.You see the red flags early on, and you ignore them.That person you know isn't a great fit or is a little unhealthy asks for your number, and you give it.Your date lies to you about where they were or why they didn’t call, and you let them get away with it.This is how we end up with people that aren’t good for us.The common denominator in all my failed relationships was ME. It wasn’t everyone else’s fault.I was broken, so I picked broken people, and made all the bad choices to end up in all the bad relationships.Most people are doing it ALL WRONG.You ignore red flags, accept behaviors that really aren’t okay with you, then you find yourself in a situation where you aren’t being respected or valued, and you wonder how you got there.This episode is going to shine some much-needed light on a big topic complete with action steps you can take today, to improve your dating life starting right now. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedWant to see if we're a good fit to work together? Explore that here: addictionunlimited.com/callWhat Unhealthy Boundaries Tell Others About You: addictionunlimited.com/202 Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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I’m willing to bet you have a lot going on in your life right now.It feels like there are dozens of things that have to be done every day and, of course, life loves to throw those curve balls.I just had a huge curve ball of my own when my father unexpectedly had to have open-heart surgery and our whole world changed in the blink of an eye.He’s okay, btw – he is back home and we are taking his care one day at a time.And that phrase, one day at a time, is exactly the kind of growth principles this episode is about.It’s easy to wonder why things happen and how we'll get through all the curve balls.Why is this happening right now? Why do I have a problem with alcohol? Why do I have a spending problem or a food problem? How do I fix my problems? Why do I feel stuck? Why am I so overwhelmed?If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, that’s okay. And this will be a great episode for you.And if you’re thriving and all the things are going good right now, I still want you to listen up- because this episode is jam-packed with recovery and growth principles that will take your self-help game to a new level.You may know my guest from his own top-ranked pod, The Addicted Mind podcast.And as Duane shared his story with me there were so many growth principles in every step of his journey. From the tried-and-true one day at a time, to perseverance, curiosity, asking for help, being willing to try something different, getting out of his comfort zone and facing fears and insecurity, and the list could go on and on.You’re going to hear a lot of self-help buzzwords in this episode, too, and if you stick around to the end, I’m going to give you some ideas about what you can do with those to get you farther in your self-help, healing and recovery journey. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callThe Addicted Mind podcast: https://theaddictedmind.com/podcast/ Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Have you ever had one of those moments where somebody said something and you feel yourself instantly in anger?Your ears get hot – maybe your ears ring – you feel your face flush - your heart rate elevates - stomach turns... there are all kinds of indicators.We all know what anger is and we’ve all experienced it – whether it was a quick annoyance or full-blown rage.Anger is a normal, often healthy, human emotion.Feeling angry can be positive when it motivates you to make positive changes, stand up for yourself, or get out of unhealthy situations.But when it gets out of control anger can also motivate unhealthy behaviors like abuse – whether it’s verbal, emotional, or physical — isolation, food issues, depression, and self-harm - drinking too much alcohol or taking drugs might be ways of coping with anger issues......and you know those will just make you feel worse and likely create bigger problems.And all of those behaviors lead to problems at work, in your personal relationships, and have negative effects on your overall quality of your life.You could be angry at a specific person (such as a coworker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying about your personal problems.If you find yourself in some of these unhealthy behaviors, it’s a good sign that it’s time to get some support.So get your earbuds ready, my friend, we're diving into solutions. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callMore Episodes: addictionunlimited.com/episodes Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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If you're listening to the Addiction Unlimited show, I'm guessing you're interested in sobriety and recovery, right?If you’ve struggled to make sense of it all because you are high-functioning, have a great job, a family, and a house in the right zip code......but you know deep down that you need to make a change, and make it last, this is the perfect episode to get serious insight on how alcohol doesn't discriminate.It doesn’t care if you have money or come from a prominent family, it doesn’t care how cool your handbag or car is, it just doesn’t discriminate.Enter Elizabeth Chance, the fabulous host of the Busy Living Sober podcast and massive champion in the recovery community. I’ve recently gotten to know Elizabeth better and it has been a blast!Elizabeth is a high-energy mom and wife who came from a country club family and followed the family legacy right into an alcohol-fueled lifestyle.From distinguished galas to exclusive fundraisers with government officials, it took the simple words of a complete stranger to get her attention, and compel her to make a change.We talk about the process of understanding you have a problem despite all the privilege and prestige, how she got sober, and how much the world of recovery has changed over the years.She has absolutely mastered her recovery lifestyle and is sharing all of her challenges, tragedies, and the many sweet sober victories with you!So listen in, my friend, because the opportunities to learn something new are endless. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callBusy Living Sober: https://elizabethchance.com/ Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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73% chronically overthink??You heard that right.73% of 25- to 35-year-olds chronically overthink, along with 52% of people ages 45 to 55 struggle with chronic overthinking.It might feel like you’re the only one lying awake at night, dwelling on a decision you made earlier that day or worrying about tomorrow’s to-do list, but if you’re nodding your head yes right now because you are an overthinker… you’re not alone.We live in a fast-paced and demanding world, and although it's easy to fall into the trap of overthinking, it can be detrimental to our mental health, productivity, and overall well-being.While overthinking itself is not a mental illness, it is associated with depression, anxiety, eating disorders and substance use disorders.Ding, ding, ding... sound familiar??The great news is – it’s a habit. And with some dedication and practice, the right strategies and mindset, you can overcome this habit and get peace of mind.And in this special episode I'm taking the guesswork off your plate and breaking down the 9 types of overthinking, and how to stop it!In this episode, I’ll help you understand… What overthinking is and how it shows up The 9 types of overthinking so you can identify what to work on Why we do it and HOW it impacts your daily life Effective techniques to stop the overthinking and regain control of your thoughtsSo click the play button and let's dive in! Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedWork With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callMental Chatter Episode: https://addictionunlimited.com/292 Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Accountability is your secret weapon.Quitting alcohol is a powerful decision, and maintaining sobriety requires accountability. It's not just about giving up a habit; it's about creating a new, healthier lifestyle.If you’re serious about stopping the self-destruction and chaos that drinking brings to your life, this is something you want to understand, and get it right.In this episode we talk about some of the major misconceptions about recovery that will trip you up and keep you from getting the results you want.I'll also walk you through: Personal Accountability External Accountability And how to have a plan that will get you the results you actually want.Creating accountability is a process and, if you listen closely, I'll tell you the real reason behind WHY you're not doing it! Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedRenew You Coaching Program: addictionunlimited.com/callDry January Bootcamp: addictionunlimited.com/bootcampPodcast #108: Crafting Your Most Powerful Sober Vision Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Why do you drink?Why do you have this problem?What are the underlying issues??You've probably asked yourself these questions a million times in your journey to live alcohol-free.When you decide to quit drinking, you might have a sense of hope, relief, and optimism.You can see your new life free from alcohol, where you can finally be your true self and get your life in order.But, the reality is that quitting drinking is not a magic pill that instantly solves all your problems. It’s easy to track all of our problems back to alcohol, and to believe if you remove the alcohol, you remove the problems, but that’s not the truth.Sobriety is quitting drinking, recovery is healing.To truly transform your life and maintain sobriety, you need to do the work. And that’s what we’re going to talk about today - we’ll explore why quitting drinking is only the first step, what the underlying issues are, and how you can continue your journey to a healthier, happier, alcohol-free life.So, buckle up and let’s dive in. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callDry January Bootcamp: https://www.addictionunlimited.com/bootcamp Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Have you ever wondered if you have what it takes to step into the unknown, and commit to sobriety 100%?In a world where drinking, and over-indulging are often front and center, it's easy to feel that way.You know firsthand how difficult it is to step into this process, make a decision to quit drinking, then figure out how to stick to that decision on a daily basis, figuring out how and where to get help, with the constant anxiety of, what will my family say, how will I ever have fun again, are my friends going to ditch me, am I really never going to drink again???No one truly understands the pressure of sobriety like you and I because we live it.And if you’re a partner, and a parent, there are added pressures and anxieties that can feel too big to overcome.But, you’ve heard me say this before – if I can do this, I promise you, you can, too.And today, you’re going to spend a lot of time nodding your head in agreement as you hear this story.She’s a wife, she’s smart, was a business owner and always high-functioning, and a super-mom.And, like so many of us, she realized she was using alcohol as a coping mechanism because she didn’t have the necessary coping skills to deal with all the daily life challenges.She struggled to find help and support - devastated by the thought of leaving her family and kids to go to inpatient treatment, feeling uncomfortable with traditional support groups because of past religion trauma, and she knew she needed a private, personalized solution to help her figure out how to stay sober on a daily basis.You’ll hear Kari C. talk about how she found her perfect program, and also how she came to understand that it’s okay to take pieces from different programs and do your recovery your way.She’ll also tell you how she got through: Feeling selfish, as a mom, taking time away from her family for herself Realizing how important it is to take care of herself Finding the right support for her personal recovery plan And understanding how important it is to manage anxiety on a daily basisSo, how did she find the strength to take action, and get help?You’re about to hear every detail with all the ups and downs, in this episode. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callDry January Bootcamp: https://addictionunlimited.com/bootcamp/Sober Travel: https://addictionunlimited.com/events/ Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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We all know the saying: when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.And, I get it – lemons are sour and difficult to eat on their own – but if you add some water and sugar, all of a sudden you’ve got something sweet and refreshing.Take a challenge and make something good out of it.But sometimes, life hurls lemons at you so hard they splatter when they hit. And no one can make lemonade out of that.So, what do you do when you look at your life and realize you are barely surviving? When you feel like you are in a perpetual state of just putting one foot in front of the other, keeping your head above water, stuck full on in survival mode?Well, I’m not going to pretend to have all the answers, but I am going share with you some of the best tools that have helped me over the years.And, if you’ve been following me for awhile, you know I have literally made almost every mistake there is to make. I have screwed up everything and have had to dig my way out of it all, all by myself.And it is true that profound transformation often comes from difficulties and challenges and pain. It’s also true that profound transformation takes a long time.And, if you’re anything like me, you want everything yesterday.I'm going to share some very specific skills you can start RIGHT NOW, that will make your life, and your recovery, a thousand times better.If you feel like life is throwing you more than your share of lemons, and you want some relief right the F now, then this episode is for you, my friend. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callDry January Bootcamp: Join the Facebook Group for all the details! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Relapse - When it comes to recovery, maintaining the effort to avoid a relapse can feel like a lot.Even for someone with a couple of years sober, great kids, friends, and a job he loves.Today, we’re talking about relapse, and specifically, I’m taking you behind the scenes with one of my favorite radio personalities to share his recent experience with relapse.Scott Parks, from Dana & Parks, is sharing all the details from: pre-planning his relapse to the insanity of hiding all the empty bottles… from himself and how his co-host and family came together for an intervention where a few simple words from his daughter gave him the clarity he needed to get help and get back on the sober trackAnd my favorite part of this story is his honesty and openness with his audience – giving us the truth and allowing us to support him as strangers, and providing hope for those still suffering who need to hear that we do recover.Rebuilding his sobriety one day at a time and here to tell you how he’s done it so far. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callDry January Bootcamp: Join the Facebook group to watch for all the details!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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The holidays are right around the corner - along with extra stressors and temptations.But staying sober doesn't have to mean missing out on all the fun.So, how can you navigate the holiday parties and events with less stress and without taking a drink when it feels like everything centers around alcohol??That’s exactly what I’m going to tell you in this episode.I’m giving you a step-by-step process that you can actually apply. Not more of the same stuff that comes up in a Google search over and over again.I’m here to give you the tools you need to get the results you want.You've worked so hard to get this far in your sobriety - don't let the holidays derail your progress.With some planning and the right support system, you can enjoy all the wonders of the season without compromising your sobriety or wellbeing.I've got a step-by-step plan to keep you sober during this holiday season in a way that is simple and effective. Map it Plan it Do itAnd you'll get farther in your journey with a lot more happiness if you have a buddy to help you through. So, as you're listening, be thinking about someone you can share this episode with so you can go through the plan (and the events) together.A quick text helps stay on track when willpower alone won't cut it.You've got this - stay strong, remember why you chose recovery, and most of all be proud of how far you've come!Happy holiday season, my friend! Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callOther Sober Holidays Episodes: Stay Sober During the Holidays & Social Situations Protect Your Sobriety Through Holiday Stress 6 Tips to Stay Sober During the Holidays Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Healthy Habits - What if I told you there are a handful of simple actions you can take right now that will definitely improve your life?Would you be willing to try?Even if you "don’t feel like it"?We’re supposed to eat healthy, get 10,000 steps a day, work, sleep, take care of your family, exercise, go to your support group meetings, do self-care… and...seriously?!?Well, I’m here for you, my friend!I found a list of some of the best tools out there and they are free, proven, and at your fingertips.Creating a life you love takes work. But, contrary to popular belief, it doesn't have to be hard, or miserable, or expensive.Get your ear buds in and be ready to take some notes because this is a list of tools that will change your life... starting now. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callSober Retreat Bali 2024: addictionunlimited.com/baliRate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Mind Chatter - Does your brain start chattering and seemingly never stop?Do you feel distracted and unable to focus, like your brain just won’t shut up and it can be so noisy up there it’s overwhelming?I’m right there with you, my friend.The constant mind chatter that analyzes every single thing about you and your life, your circumstances, your fears, and all of your shortcomings.Reflecting on your problems and noodling over solutions is one of the best ways to move forward in life even if it's not the most pleasant way to spend your time.But sometimes all that mind chatter in our heads gets mean.We beat ourselves up for the slightest things, talk ourselves out of doing things we should actually do, or get stuck in a loop of worry or shame.We have brains that have a life of their own, and they have all kinds of thoughts and ideas they want to share with us all day every day.And there’s no question it can be overwhelming.It’s like background noise that never ceases, from the moment you wake up to the moment you lay down to go to sleep. It can even prevent you from falling asleep.Here are some of the questions we’re going to answer in this episode: Figuring out the balance of life and recovery to lessen the mental chatter Understanding healthy boundaries The difference between sobriety and recovery and how it helps you Powerful tools to use to quiet your mind Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callEpisode with Matt Jerr: The Myth of Rock Bottom When You’re High Functioning Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Sobriety - When you think about your sober future, what kind of life do you dream of living?What kind of impact will you have on your family?If you don’t think it’s possible to feel crystal clear on how to take your recovery and use it to build your dream life, happiness, and have a powerful impact on your family… you’ve never met Veronica Valli.Veronica is a busy mom and wife who passionately splits her time between her podcast, Soberful, writing books, and being the leader of her coaching business helping people build happy recovery.Veronica is on a mission to change the narrative on sobriety with 23 years of personal experience and a long career of helping people get sober, find happiness, and change their lives.Just like she has. Relocating from the UK to the US, raising kids, figuring out how to make sobriety fit in the mix, and growing a business is just another day in the life for Veronica.She doesn’t just talk the talk — she walks the walk.And in this episode, Veronica is breaking down how she connected all the pieces over the years to build strong long-term sobriety and purpose in her life.Together, we talk about: How she ‘accidentally’ got sober How 23 years of sobriety started with a commitment to just 30 days The key to lasting sobriety for anyone and everyone and so much more!So grab your headphones and click to listen — just wait ’til you see what’s possible! Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callGet the Soberful book: https://amzn.to/47zGjFg Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

Soberful: Uncover a Sustainable, Fulfilling Life Free of Alcohol

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Alcoholism and Relationships - If you think being an alcoholic is hard, try being in a relationship with one!You’ve heard me talk about relationship dynamics from time to time, and just how important it is to communicate with the people around us and to be patient with one another. But I’ve never really talked about what this looks like for the family, friends, and partners.On their own, keeping your sobriety in tact and navigating a relationship are tough. Put them together?It’s an entirely different beast. The fact is, addiction brings a very different dimension to relationships.People that don’t struggle with addictions or compulsions are baffled by how our brains work and they usually have more support and empathy from friends and family members for their trials and tribulations in life. Alcoholism can be very isolating, which is one reason it’s more challenging to get support, and even harder to ask for help.So today, we’re getting into the details from both sides.In this episode I’ll tell you: Why getting sober is harder than our friends and family realize Some of the thoughts and fears your partner is having about your sobriety that they aren’t telling you How to give each other what you need, EVEN during the most stressful times What recovery requires to be long-lastingYour relationships can be as awesome as you want them to be, but it does take everyone pitching in and being part of the team. And everyone has to be willing to pause, and see the other person’s point of view.You might be surprised by all the information you get from this episode!This is every bit as important as planning your next recovery meeting or your next attempt at sobriety. You’ve got to understand what’s happening for the people around you with the same passion and intensity that you put into your recovery.Go listen now, then share this episode with the people closest to you - they will thank you for it, I promise ;-) Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callSober Retreat in Bali: addictionunlimited.com/bali Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Rock Bottom - You’re all familiar with the concept.You see it in movies, all over television, and we read it in books.Someone’s life is spiraling out of control - they are getting DUIs, getting arrested, getting fired, going to prison – and when they are at their all-time low, they land at their rock bottom moment and decide they have to change their lives.The problem with this picture of addiction and rock bottom is – it doesn’t leave space for all of you that haven’t had any of those consequences. It doesn’t give you, the high-functioning person, an opportunity to see yourself and see how you fit in sobriety and what your path might look like.To be clear, not everyone destroys their lives before getting sober.You can be living a life with a nice roof over your head, a job, relationship, kids, drinking a latte and working out regularly and still have a substance problem.You may even relate to my situation where I was a little bit of both – I had some tragic moments that definitely got my attention – but the truth is, I was totally high-functioning.I made plenty of money. I lived in a beautiful home. I had an expensive car and a Louis Vuitton handbag.And none of those things had any impact on my drinking problem. It did allow me to avoid the seriousness of my problem and continue putting off taking action.Unfortunately, when it comes to understanding “rock-bottom,” there’s a lot more misconception than truth.You may know my guest from The Sober Friends Podcast – Matt J is with me to talk about what ‘rock bottom’ looks like, when you’re a high-functioning person. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callSober Vacation: addictionunlimited.com/baliSober Friends Podcast: https://www.soberfriendspod.com/ Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Quit Drinking Alcohol - You may feel like alcohol helps with feelings of stress, anger, worry and sadness, but it isn't what it seems and can actually have negative effects both in the short-term and long-term.Let’s get into this topic about your mental health - how you improve when you stop drinking, are the effects of substances permanent or is it fixable, and what that journey looks like.In this episode, you will be able to: Discover the surprising effects of substance use on mental health and how it impacts your overall well-being. Unlock effective strategies to improve your mental health and reclaim control of your life. Learn about the fascinating impact of alcohol on neurotransmitters and how it can disrupt your brain's natural balance. Explore practical ways to increase dopamine levels naturally and experience greater happiness and motivation. Gain insights into maintaining sobriety and how it can lead to significant improvements in your mental health.Also listen in to get the 3 most powerful ways your brain changes once you quit drinking alcohol, and eight simple (and mostly free) actions you can take today to improve your mental health and boost your dopamine and serotonin naturally. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callPost Acute Withdrawal Episode: addictionunlimited.com/200 Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Resources Used in this Episode: https://batonrougebehavioral.com/depression-after-drinking-alcohol/https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/whats-the-connection-between-the-gut-and-brain-healthhttps://www.renewallodge.com/5-ways-quitting-drinking-affects-your-brain/https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/how-to-increase-dopamine#10-strategies

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Betrayal Trauma - If a parent or romantic partner violates your trust, you may experience betrayal trauma.Any betrayal can cause emotional distress and that trauma may affect your self-esteem, emotional health, and relationships with others.Psychologist Jennifer Freyd first introduced betrayal trauma in 1991. She described it as a specific trauma that happens in key social relationships where the betrayed person needs to maintain a relationship with the betrayer for support or protection.Most people with addiction struggles also have trauma and most people, in general, have some traumas. What is interesting in betrayal trauma is that we have it because of our parents and partners, but we also cause it in our active addiction.Lying, deceiving, hiding details about life and addictions, these are all causes of betrayal trauma.Kristin Snowden is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and one of her specialties is addiction recovery.She's going to shed some light on betrayal trauma, what it looks like, and what to do about it.Some interesting facts you'll hear about betrayal trauma are: It can come from a parent or other childhood caregiver it can come from a romantic partner you may be willing to accept the betrayal for your sense of safety and securityThe struggle is real, my friend! And this topic hits close to home.We also touch on all the fears our partners experience when sobriety comes into our lives and how to change the disruptive stories you tell yourself about what will happen or how things will end.This episode is full of lightbulb moments that will change how you view your relationships, and yourself. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callKristin Snowden YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/KristinSnowdenSober Retreat Bali 2024: addictionunlimited.com/baliRate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Addictive Behavior - Have you ever felt like you have an addictive personality? Like you don’t have an off switch in anything. When you start something new it becomes your sole focus, you’re 100% in, and if it feels good and you like it, you just want to do more of it.I’m willing to bet, you’re nodding your head yes right now and I’m right there with you.The good news is, there’s nothing wrong with you. And you may be surprised by how many people struggle with addictive behaviors.Here's what you'll take away from this episode: What are the characteristics of addictive behavior? What does it mean? How do you know if a behavior has become addictive?Millions of people worldwide struggle with various forms of addiction, from substance abuse to gambling and even internet addiction. Addictive behavior is more common than you might think.Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callSober Retreat Bali 2024: addictionunlimited.com/events Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Moderate DrinkingWherever you may be in your journey, attempts to moderate drinking are a part of (almost) everyone's story.It's a relationship we spend years nurturing. It has your back, it's always there, and it always gives you what you need.Until it doesn't.You may know today's guest as the superstar host of the Hello Someday Podcast. And, believe it or not, she had all the same fears and anxieties that you have when she was facing the thought of quitting drinking.She worked at a Fortune 500 company, had the husband, and the kids and had a hard time wrapping her head around a drinking problem.Like you have probably done over and over again, she first tried to moderate drinking. You know what I'm talking about, all the rules you put in place for yourself to try to force you to not drink too much. I'll only drink on the weekends I won't drink until after 5 I'll only drink beer, NO liquor Only on special occassions!I know, my friend, I did it, too.Lucky for us, Casey started her journey with baby steps. She decided to quit for a little while then built her alcohol-free life from there.Little by little she eased herself into long-term sobriety and you can hear all about what worked for her, and what didn't, and what might work for you in this episode. Links mentioned in this episode: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/callHello Someday Podcast w/ Casey Davidson: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/podcast/Other Podcast Episodes About Moderation: Moderation, Gray-Area Drinking, and the Stages of Alcoholism Signs You Should Stop Trying to Moderate Your DrinkingRate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Sober Travel - What do you have planned for your next trip?A family vacation? A family reunion, a work trip, or a camping trip?Days on the beach? Nights on the town?It's hard to imagine doing any of it without a drink in hand, especially if you are new to sobriety or, if you are facing your first ever sober travel.Going on vacation usually means relaxing and being carefree. And for many of us, relaxing meant excessive consumption of alcohol or other substances.I was exactly the same. Every trip I ever took was a drinking trip. Honestly, everything I did was about drinking whether there was a trip or not.One of the greatest things about being sober is that my whole world expanded. I mean that, literally.I’ve gotten to travel the world and see beautiful places and have phenomenal experiences that I couldn’t have done in my drinking life.But as a sober person, traveling is full of triggers, and that can feel a bit daunting.This episode gives you a play-by-play of exactly what to do to keep your sobriety firmly in tact while you travel, and still have the time of your life.Sober travel is empowering - it is a way to establish your independence as a sober person — that you don’t need to be afraid of alcohol or have it limit your life any more.If you do the things you need to do to keep your recovery strong, and if you plan ahead, the only question really is: Where do you want to go? Links mentioned in this episode: Sober Retreat in Bali: addictionunlimited.com/eventsFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Ever wonder what’s possible when you change your life?In this episode, we’ll get into the amazing success story of Will Thatcher, a sober guy and published author.Will, the author of Killing Hurt, has taken his recovery to new levels by harnessing a passion that was already inside of him but had been hiding quietly for years.I understand that feeling of wanting to do things, have fun in your life, and be passionate about something – when I got sober, I had no idea who I was or what activities I liked!But let me assure you, it changes the game and can transform your sober life, just like it did for Will.And here’s the thing: You don’t have to be a pro with years of experience with something or have a ton of money to spend to find what lights you up.In this episode, Will shares it all. Including how his life was forever changed in one family vacation and what he did to get it together, to be a better father, husband, and now author.Even if you are on the fence about the power of living sober, Will’s story will empower you to dig deep to see what may be already inside you to make your alcohol-free life even better.A sneak peek: How his private drinking problem all of a sudden became very public What he did to stop How he fell in love with a new genre of books, Addiction Fiction When he knew he wanted to have more fun in sobriety The process of writing a book for the first timeSo if you’re eager to unlock the potential of sobriety and have more fun, pop in your earbuds and give this episode your full attention! Links mentioned in this episode: Get the book, Killing Hurt: https://amzn.to/44ZyKpGFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimitedBook A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts“I love Angela & Addiction Unlimited Podcast.” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to keep moving forward to the recovery lifestyle they want. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

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Long-Term Sobriety

Successful recovery has everything to do with how you approach your daily life.

Imagine this scenario:

Your recovery is going great. You’re staying sober everyday, things are on track, and overall, you’re feeling pretty proud of what you’ve accomplished so far.

But let’s b real — you’re also feeling a little bit burnt out from pouring every ounce of your soul into your sobriety, and some things are starting to slip because… well, you’re human, living life.

Maybe your days are packed so full you feel like you have absolutely no room to breathe, or you’re losing focus on the actions that got you this far because your mind is constantly occupied with other things.

Or maybe you’re feeling overwhelmed and scattered, and have no idea where to even start.

Can you relate?

I don’t know about you, but if I look to far into the future, I can easily get frazzled.

Overthinking everything, trying to think of every possible scenario that I can’t control, and it starts to feel like I have no idea what I’m doing.

In this episode I’m sharing my list of 6 habits you can start working on today, to stay on top of your game and move forward with a clear path to long-term recovery and all the other goals you have for your life!

It’s time to tighten things up, my friend — are you ready?

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How to Forgive: When someone wrongs you in some way, you may feel certain you’ll never be able to forgive them. Even after your immediate anger calms down, you may continue to think about the betrayal instead of letting it fade into the past.

It’s pretty common to feel this way. The problem is, holding onto the negativity will harm you more than anyone else.

Forgiveness might seem challenging, but in reality, forgiveness simply means choosing to let go of anger, hurt, and any desire for revenge.

Think you may be ready to forgive but you aren’t sure where to start?

That’s okay, we’ve got answers on this episode with Forgiveness Coach Brenda Reiss.

Brenda shares why forgiveness is all about you, NOT the other person, how it benefits you overall, and how to start the process.

Forgiveness helps you heal! It’s a part of your emotional recovery that allows you to close wounds and move forward.

It’s you deciding to let go of the burden of being stuck with unresolved emotions, let go of some of the pain that holds you back, so you can move forward in your life with a happier and much lighter heart.

Forgiveness improves your relationships, has health benefits, and reduces stress!

It also leads to a more fulfilling relationship with yourself.

If you’ve been wondering how to let go and move forward, to forgive others and yourself, you’ll want to tune in to this one!

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Effects of Alcohol on the Body

Figuring out your relationship with alcohol can be hard.

Especially if you’re looking for all the reasons to convince yourself you’re “not that bad”.

And, on top of all the questions flying around in your head, like, am I really that bad? Will I be able to control it after I stop for awhile? Do I really have to quit forever?

You may also be wondering what type of damage alcohol is doing to your body.

You may even think you don’t drink enough to have physical effects from alcohol. But I’m here to tell you, alcohol is far more damaging than you think. And the surprising thing is, some of the risks are just as high for “normal” drinkers, as they are for chronic alcoholics.

So today we’re talking about the effects of alcohol on the body.

And not only the post acute withdrawal type of stuff, but really about the real risks that come with drinking alcohol.

A sip of alcohol can feel like a your savior. You think it’s rescuing you from your anxieties, insecurities, boredom, and all the things you’re unhappy about in your life.

And under that lie, there is so much more going on and it’s manipulating your body’s landscape.

From the first drink to the last, and no matter how many there are in between, alcohol takes a journey through your body, changing things like your brain and heart and it’s creating long-term risks you don’t want.

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Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Book A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call

Quitting Drinking and Post Acute Withdrawal: https://addictionunlimited.com/73

The Science of Sobriety and How to Feel Better Faster: https://addictionunlimited.com/200

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Cope With Cravings For Alcohol

Can you relate to this:

You’ve made a commitment to yourself, and maybe even your family, that you aren’t drinking anymore.

You remind yourself you’re going to be more committed than ever, you’ve started some morning rituals to keep you on track, and you know this time it has to be different.

Maybe you’ve made it a week or a month- maybe you’ve even made it a few months.

Then one day, you are minding your own business, and out of nowhere you are hit with a craving for a drink. And it’s powerful.

You try to tell yourself to ignore it, distract yourself, it will go away.

But it feels like it is getting stronger, and the stronger it gets the more you start to panic.

All the thoughts are flying through your head a thousand miles an hour

what am I going to do? How am I going to get through this? Is one drink going to kill me? Should I have one? Should I not have one? Should I call somebody?

Now your brain is off like a runaway train.

Cravings can be one of the most challenging pieces of living a sober lifestyle.

Romanticizing the drink, the past, the nostalgia, and the comfort it once provided can all come together and create an emotional whirlwind.

We have some incredibly talented people in the recovery/alcohol-free podcast world, and today’s guest is one of your favorites. Gill Tietz, from the Sober Powered podcast, a fan favorite in the sobriety podcast space and an inspiration for countless people on their journey to sobriety.

We got together for an episode to talk about cravings.

You’re going to hear our personal experiences with cravings and how we got through them- and you’ll probably be pretty surprised when you hear how different it was for the two of us!

We'll tell you what was challenging, the importance of feeling safe during this journey, and some of the dangers of experimenting with non-alcoholic drinks.

These drinks might seem harmless, and sometimes they are! But they can also trigger memories, feelings of being left out or different, and all of that together can create cravings.

And all of that can derail your progress.

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Avoid Relapse

You’ve heard it before, right? Relapse is a part of recovery.

So how do you actually avoid relapse?

The truth is, the vast majority of people relapse in their first year of sobriety. I know through my own experiences and those of my clients that understanding relapse and having a plan in place to overcome it, can dramatically change your life.

What does that plan look like? How do you make a plan?

We’re going to get into some strategies and specifics today to help you get your head wrapped around where you want to focus in terms of your relapse prevention efforts.

This episode is all things relapse prevention. Not just because it’s a huge topic, but because it’s something we need to continually talk about to make sure you're putting your efforts in the right place and moving forward in your sober life.

So, I want to get you fully up to speed on the 3 pillars of relapse prevention and the exact strategies for each of those pillars so that you can focus your time and energy only on what you really want to be working on and you’ll get the confidence you want to feel good in your life and not to feel like you’re constantly looking over your shoulder waiting for a relapse to take you down.

Alcohol can’t pour itself down your throat. You have A LOT of power in this situation. That’s what this episode is all about.

By the end of this episode my hope is that you will have a really good understanding as to where you’ve gone wrong in the past and where you need to put a little more effort and focus to make your relapse prevention plan stronger than its ever been.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Book A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call

Relapse Triggers Episode 114: addictionunlimited.com/114

5 Useful Methods to Make Dealing With Triggers Easier: addictionunlimited.com/248

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One of the most challenging aspects of breaking the cycle of yo yo sobriety is learning to believe in yourself again.

Rebuilding confidence isn't an overnight process, but with the right guidance and mindset, you can rebuild a stronger, more resilient version of yourself.

We all understand that facing the relentless cycle of stopping and starting again can be incredibly disheartening. It's a rollercoaster of hope, guilt, and desperation, leaving you feeling trapped and defeated. But remember, you're not alone.

You may know today’s guest from the Euphoric AF podcast. Karolina is a powerful alcohol-free Coach and advocate and we are diving into the pain of coexisting with alcohol when you know your relationship has expired. We’ll talk about the isolation, sadness, and shattered self-esteem, and recognizing your own resilience to come out stronger on the other side.

Remember, your journey is unique, and healing is a process that takes time. It's okay to stumble along the way – what matters is your commitment to getting back up and moving forward. Karolina’s story will remind you that setbacks are not failures; they're stepping stones towards your ultimate transformation.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Sober Costa Rica: addictionunlimited.com/costarica

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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Overcoming Perfectionism

Are you tired of constantly chasing this elusive ideal of how you think you should be, only to end up feeling frustrated and burnt out? Well, you've come to the right place. Today, we're diving headfirst into the tumultuous waters of perfectionism and learning how to conquer it.

Perfectionism is this sneaky little thing that creeps into our lives, whispering lies in our ears. It convinces you that nothing you do is ever good enough, that the world will fall apart if you make the tiniest mistake or if things don’t go exactly as planned.

But let me tell you something: perfectionism is the ultimate party pooper. It drains your energy, takes all the joy out of everything, and turns you into an anxiety-ridden mess.

In this episode, we'll explore some pain points that hit close to home. We'll talk about the sleepless nights spent obsessing over that one typo in an email. We'll talk about that paralyzing fear of starting something new because you’re terrified of screwing it up or not being good at it. And we’ll talk about the pressure these unrealistic expectations put on your relationships.

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Feel Broken

If you know me, you know I live for a good success story. And today is definitely one of those.

What you'll love about my guest today is that she shares her real life and real struggles, from sitting in her life pre-pandemic dealing with a break-up, weight gain, and over spending to soothe her broken heart, to how she used the global pandemic to her advantage.

You may know Alexa Lowe as a beauty influencer and content creator on YouTube, but let me tell you, she’s so much more than her beauty.

When covid shut down the world she was struggling with feeling unattractive, unwanted, and overwhelmed. And not only was she over spending, she also lost her job.

This episode gives you all the feels because she is sharing what inspired her to take back control of her life and turn it all around, and how she did it.

Alexa will tell you:

how she used a bad situation for good when she decided enough is enough, we have to get it together! what she did to get started when she had SO many things to work on

This is an episode of inspiration and practical tips on getting yourself in gear when it feels like the odds aren't in your favor.

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Have you ever wondered if someday you’ll be able to drink again? Wondering if you quit for a few months, a year, or even multiple years, if you’ll be able to come back around and drink like a “normal” person?

First of all, there is nothing normal about those people- they’re terrible alcoholics and they have no idea what they’re doing- but I’m willing to bet, if you’re listening to this podcast right now, you’ve had these thoughts.

And today, we’re going to take a deep dive into the absolute truth about the whole situation;

we'll talk about the different levels on the spectrum of problematic drinking when you hit the point of no return and WHY it happens no matter who you are or how high-functioning you may be

This is Addiction Unlimited and I’m Angela Pugh- your personal life & sobriety Coach to guide you through this journey to transform yourself and your life. And if you’re done screwing around with all the starts and stops, you’re in the right place.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Relapse Triggers episode: https://addictionunlimited.com/relapse-triggers/

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Did you know that 56% of people with bi-polar disorder have a history of drug abuse? And 44% struggle with alcohol issues?

I’m so glad you’re here today, because this is something that we, as a community, need to continue talking about more, and that is our mental wellness.

And I'm raising my hand right now as someone who struggles with wellness, and I’m curious if you are as well.

Here's the truth: if you don't manage your mental health well—addiction and recovery can be difficult and lonely. There’s decision fatigue, you can have recovery burnout, there are tons of external pressures with friends and family, or, drowning in this drinking culture—and if we're not managing our own wellness, all of that stuff will take over.

And because I believe in my core that recovery can be one of the best gifts you can give yourself, I want to bring more awareness to these issues that run rampant in our society and definitely in the world of substance abuse and recovery.

Luckily, there are people out there who also take this seriously and are willing to show up, be brave, and help. And one of those people is Bailey Reber.

She's the host of Distressed to Joyful; Bailey's Way Podcast where she helps her audience learn to navigate the journey of mental health, family trauma, substance abuse, bi-polar disorder and so much more.

Like the greatest leaders, she doesn't only talk the talk, but she walks the walk.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Distressed to Joyful; Bailey's Way Podcast: https://whatisheybailsdoing.com/the-podcast/

Juicy Tips on How You Can Combat Recovery Fatigue: https://addictionunlimited.com/juicy-tips-on-how-you-can-combat-recovery-fatigue/

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In general, "be yourself" means be true to your core identity rather than faking a different one because you think it will be attractive to others. (psychologytoday.com)

You’ve heard the saying your whole life – Just be yourself!

But how do you “just be yourself”, when you don’t have a solid sense of who you are?

That’s what we’re talking about in today’s episode.

How do you figure out who you are so that you can be authentic in your life and create relationships with people that are fun, exciting, and fulfilling.

Because when you don’t know who you are, it’s impossible to show others who you are, to set healthy boundaries for yourself, and to have a life you LOVE.

And if you want to live a substance-free lifestyle, you have to LOVE your life. It has to feel rewarding and empowering and fun.

And that, my friend, is an inside job.

Let's plunge into:

some different ways to start figuring out who you are setting boundaries to teach people about you, and how to treat you

Get your earbuds situated and let's dig in!

Links mentioned in this episode:

Episode 202: What Unhealthy Boundaries Tell Others About You: https://addictionunlimited.com/what-unhealthy-boundaries-tell-others-about-you/

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Does exercise and movement give us a framework to follow for sobriety and fulfillment?

Coach Blu definitely thinks so, and he’s here to tell you all about it in today’s episode!

In this episode, Blu breaks down how to align your passion for sobriety with getting moving and healing your wounds… instead of just getting by day in and day out.

Blu is a mental health therapist, host of the Addict II Athlete podcast, and founder of the non-profit Addict II Athlete – an action-orientated organization focused on recreating recovery, one healthy activity at a time.

His mission is to establish and maintain recovery by erasing negative behaviors and replacing them with positive ones so you can learn how to help yourself, find inspiration, hope and the support you need.

And in this episode, he’s bringing the whole story to YOU.

When you listen in, you’ll hear Coach Blu break down the importance of healing and the premise of moving from ‘addict’, to athlete… but not in the way you may think.

This episode is overflowing with moving stories of trauma and triumph, self-acceptance, and real-life examples so you can walk away with new inspiration and put into a plan of action.

So don’t wait – click here to listen on the web, or go to your favorite podcast app to listen to my amazing conversation with Coach Blu!

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Addict II Athlete: https://www.addicttoathlete.com/

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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Sober Summer Activities

Does the thought of doing all the summer things and trying to stay sober at the same time absolutely overwhelm you? If so, I can guarantee you’re not alone.

I felt the same way when I thought about the lazy days at the pool with all of my over-drinking friends, or the 4th of July bbq’s where the bbq is really an afterthought and the cocktails are the main attraction. I knew I didn’t want to drink, I just had to figure out how I was going to make it happen.

But here’s the good news — it’s totally doable, and doing both things doesn’t have to feel defeating. While going to all the summer events while also keeping your sobriety in tact is definitely a commitment, pulling it off is more possible than you think.

It’s true, my friend — and I am living proof.

In this episode, I’m going to share with you the 3 things that your summer fun strategy needs if you want to stay sober comfortably and confidently.

And here’s the really good news. I also share how some of my clients have used these exact strategies to set themselves up for sober success in any situation, and I promise – it’s simple, completely manageable, and doesn’t require a ton of your time. Sounds pretty great, right?

So if you are in the throes of anxiety over all the pool parties, bbq’s, and family vacations coming up, this one is for you. Take a deep breath, clear your mind, and listen closely — because this episode is sure to set you up for success.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Relapse Triggers episode: https://addictionunlimited.com/relapse-triggers/

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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Emotional Abuse

If you come from a dysfunctional upbringing, have failed relationships, and struggle with boundaries, codependence and/or people pleasing.. you’ll want to tune in to this episode, my friend. We’re going to cover all the bases of toxic traits in relationships, emotional abuse, selfishness, and everything in between.

And you may be surprised by a few details I share about myself.

My guest today is a true Coach. And I say that because he is in the trenches, doing the real life-changing, emotional and difficult work not only with his clients, but he’s doing the work for himself.

He’s a regular guy who loves playing guitar, being out in nature, and he went through some major life-changing events, had a breakdown in the desert thousands of miles from home, and that breakdown led him to his breakthrough.

He started his own journey of healing and that led him to be the Behavior & Relationship Coach he is today, and he hosts 2 successful podcasts, The Overwhelmed Brain, and the Love and Abuse Podcast.

We are going deep in relationship issues and the nuances we all struggle with every day. If you want some super valuable insights into those toxic traits that make you crazy, it’s all in this conversation with Paul.

And, I have to tell you, this is one of my favorite episodes of Addiction Unlimited.

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The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast: theoverwhelmedbrain.com

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Thrive in Life

Do you ever feel like you’re struggling to feel like you’re making progress in your life, or, you find it challenging to figure out what to do to feel better despite all the changes you’re trying to make?

Don’t worry you are not alone. And as your personal Life Coach I am here to help you turn your life into a success story.

And, I know first hand how frustrating it can be when you feel like you aren’t gaining traction, or, when your efforts don’t seem to be paying off. But imagine, for a moment, if you could make a couple of simple tweaks to have a life that is thriving, creating the relationships and social life you really want, and yes, to feel like you are in control of your life and future.

Well that’s my mission today. I’m going to share with you the 4 things that I have found thriving people do differently than people who are going through the motions everyday with no growth or real joy.

I'll show you how you have all the power you need, to have the life you want.

--> A powerful (and often overlooked) way to break down guilt and shame.

--> An awesome checklist of actions you can take RIGHT NOW to feel better!

--> My favorite quote that changed my life... and can change yours.

Fire up your earbuds, my friend, because this is a short list to create big results and I can't wait to share it with you.

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When it comes to facing your recovery head on, breaking down your approach can be simple as 1-2-3:

Who can you open up to

Where can you get support

What lifestyle changes do you need to make

Today’s guest is a podcast host, sober warrior, and the author of several books about addiction and recovery and we’re breaking down the most important pieces of any recovery journey. You can apply these lessons, trials & tribulations to your own program or process and use them to your advantage.

Dirk Foster spent 30+ years drinking and realized his life was passing him by. Wasted time, energy, money, and happiness in an endless loop of drinking, hangovers, regret and shame.

It wasn’t until he got sober that his life truly began.

Today he’s sober more than 15 years and couldn’t be happier. He’s married, healthy, has financial security, and enjoys every aspect of life.

He went from dreaming about all the great things he wanted to do, and fantasizing about the big life he wanted to live, to actually doing the things and living the life! From travel, to writing, to running his own business, he gratefully owes it all to his sobriety and the support he had along the way.

So tune in and give it a listen for all those golden sobriety nuggets, and maybe give it a second listen if you really want the goodness to sink in!

Links mentioned in this episode:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

If you’re ready to turn your life around and get the relief you’ve been looking for, I’m happy to help. Book A Free Call here: addictionunlimited.com/call

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Life Stressors: When life feels like a big struggle, it can be difficult to move forward.

You can choose to embrace it and enjoy the ride, learning from your experiences along the way, or you can choose to avoid it, pretend it’s not happening, or be bitter and resentful over every thing that doesn’t go your way.

The thing is, overcoming your struggles is what helps you get strong and feel happiness in your life. In fact, it’s the most effective way to create real change in your life and motivate you to take action on the things you truly want.

No matter where you find yourself, there is always room for improvement. Even a monk strives daily to improve himself, and you and I can do the same.

Let’s dig in to the top 10 struggles of life that most people will encounter throughout the journey.

Focus on the solutions, not the problems.

Challenges in life are a given, and they can be used to your advantage. Each one is an opportunity for personal growth and self-improvement. Ultimately, the goal is to use what you learn as you grow to become the best version of yourself.

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Top 5 Most Impactful People: addictionunlimited.com/top5

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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If you are tired of diet culture and obsessing about what to eat, how you look, and how to change it… know, you’re not alone.

The negative thoughts you have about your body are not your fault. The diet culture has us obsessing about “fixing” ourselves and it’s draining our time and energy.

My guest today, Summer Innanen is also a Coach and she specializes in body image, self-worth, and confidence. And these are all things we need to talk about!

She is also a best-selling author and the host of the Eat the Rules podcast where she features interviews with leading experts in body image, the anti-diet movement, self-help, and feminism.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Book A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call

Bodies Are Cool (book for kids): https://a.co/d/aJCSASj

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How to Deal With FOMOImagine this… you’re crawling in your bed – you love it there – you’ve got your book in your hand and you are so ready to shut the world out, and relax. You’ve had a long week – work, errands, activities – and you can’t wait to get under the covers and sink in to the warmth and comfort of your bed.

And right when you get the pillows situated just right, you’re about to open your book, or, if you’re like me, hit the power button on the remote – your phone dings at you, begging for your attention.

You pick up your phone to see what’s up and it’s a picture of your friends;

They’re out, dressed up, looking amazing, everyone is smiling and having the time of their lives- and instantly you’re overcome with a wave of FOMO.

Just 3 seconds before you were ecstatic to be comfy and cozy in your bed!

But now… you feel inadequate. In bed at 9pm on a Saturday night… in your pajamas.

The good news is, you’re not alone in this.

And the point of this episode is to get some clarity on FOMO so that you can make choices that serve you in your life, rather than being impulsive and deciding to do something on a whim just to appease our ego or your social media feed.

FOMO will lead you to make decisions you regret because you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. I’ve done it, too!

I’ve been the person saying ‘yes’ to going somewhere I don’t really want to go or staying out way later than I like to because of all those thoughts that run through your head – I should be going out and doing things, I should be meeting people and having fun!

Then I end up doing things I don’t like or going places I don’t like and then I’m tired and mad and full of regret cussing myself for not knowing better.

FOMO steals your attention away from what’s important and from being connected to what’s actually happening in the moment. It contributes to anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and making bad choices!

I want you to ask yourself what you are saying “yes” to, that you should be turning down in your life.

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Hypnosis for AddictionI’ll be the first to admit that the thoughts in my head, aka the committee, have knocked me off track more times than I want to admit.

There is always the ‘fear’ voice in the committee telling me, “You might really screw this up!”, and the ‘insecure’ voice in there saying, “You can’t do this,” and “You’re not good enough”. And, although those messages aren’t true, I know they are deep-rooted in my past experiences.

So what do you do when the committee is chattering away and all you want is to feel better?

My guest today is going to give you a great option!

And because I like to stick to tools with a solid reputation, here’s a statistic that will blow your mind: In a review article, Dr. Alfred Barrio pointed out that the average success rate for hypnotherapy was 93% after an average of 6 sessions.

This was compared to a 38% success rate after an average of 600 sessions for psychoanalysis and 72% after 22 sessions for behavior therapy.

Mark Tyrrell joins me to talk about psychology, dopamine, addiction, and trauma and how working in a locked-down psyschiatric unit changed his outlook, and his path.

Tune in to hear:

What is hypnosis and what does it do?
How you can use it at home
Some common myths about what happens during hypnosis
And all the different ways we can use it to improve our lives

If you’re looking for another proven method to feel better then pop in your ear buds and hit play because you won’t want to miss this one.

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Find Mark here: https://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/

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Addiction Unlimited just turned 5! And to celebrate this journey that has been fulfilling and rewarding beyond my wildest dreams, I thought we would go back to day 1.

At least once a week I get messages from people who are looking for episode zero, About Me.

Keep in mind as you listen, my editing skills have come a long way, lol.

This is Episode 0, About Me.

I wanted to share some information about myself so you know who you are listening to and why I do what I do.

In a nutshell, I got sober on January 7, 2006 after crashing my car at 70mph and hitting another car. That was my rock bottom moment.

And, don’t get things confused. My rock bottom moment was low, but I was high-functioning.

Like many of you out there struggling, I could rationalize all the reasons I didn’t need to quit drinking. I had a good job, I made a lot of money, I lived in a beautiful place with a super expensive car in the garage, and, from the outside, it looked like I had it all together.

But that’s the funny thing about ‘rock bottom’, people think rock bottom is an event, but it’s really a feeling.

So, I quit drinking and focused all my energy on building a new life.

When I started to see all the changes happening to me and saw myself growing into an amazing sober, honest, upstanding person, I knew that all I wanted to do was help others get that same feeling of loving themselves, trusting themselves, and feeling proud of who they are becoming.

I got certified as a Life Coach, I did a 2 year Addiction Counseling program, started building a practice as a Professional Interventionist, went to social work school, and worked full-time to achieve 6000 supervised hours for my counseling credentials in a neighboring state.

My journey has taken a lot of twists and turns. I’ve struggled with self-esteem, relationships, money, food and weight issues on top of anxiety, workaholism, and a plethora of other things!

I want to share with you all the things I’ve tried and all the mistakes I’ve made so I can tell you what works, and what doesn’t.

This episode is a brief insight into me, my quirks, and my love of f-bombs.

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Inner CriticOngoing thoughts that are negative and critical create feelings of hopelessness and helplessness.

Did you get chills when you read that!? I definitely did, because I know that pain firsthand.

Like most psychological things, that constant chatter in your head stems from early experiences with your primary caregivers. The good news is, you don’t need to dig in to the nitty gritty right now to start making friends with that inner critic that always has so much to say.

The committee, as I call it, plays a significant role in how you live your life, the choices you make, and how you feel about yourself. And that means, we have to coexist in a positive way!

My guest today spent many years feeling lost and fulfilled. She thought she was living the dream with the husband, the kids, the job… but on the inside she was sinking.

A high-stress lifestyle of work and diapers made her life unrecognizable and she slowly started to shut down. Feeling unfulfilled and listening to the inner critic telling her her husband didn’t love her, she would dive deeper into work where she felt seen and successful, and straight into the arms of another man.

Jill’s rock bottom moment came crashing down and she had to make some tough choices. She got the happy ending, but it was at the end of a long and bumpy road.

I know you can relate to that.

Listen in to Jill’s story of harsh realities, facing the consequences of her decisions, dealing with alcohol having front-row seat in her marriage, and taming that inner critic to get to the happy ending.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Book A Call With Angela for private Coaching: addictionunlimited.com/call

Find Jill here: https://www.jilloboyle.com/

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stages of relapseWhat if I told you that you could statistically increase your chances of living an alcohol-free life, even if you’re just getting started, or you’ve been struggling with staying sober?

Well, today I have 3 proven steps to help you do exactly that, and these are the same steps you’ll use to get through each of the stages of relapse.

If you’re like me, and most of my clients, you know the struggle of trying to get and stay sober. And sometimes, no matter how hard we try, we fall back into our old patterns. So today, we’re going to explore the three stages of relapse and how to fight against them. We’ll take a look at how to recognize the signs, how to move through them, and how to come out on top.

Things that may surprise you in this episode are:

In stage one, you aren’t actually even thinking about drinking
High-risk situations can be hard to identify, but you’ll have a clearer picture after this
Bargaining! (I thought this was just one of the stages of grief!)

So when you start to feel frustrated, stressed, or overwhelmed, it’s important to understand where you are and take steps to manage your emotions and stress level.

You might start to doubt yourself or feel like you can’t handle the situation but I’m here to tell you, you absolutely can. And with the steps we talk about in this episode, you’ll know exactly what you need to do to protect yourself and nourish your recovery.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Episode #79: https://addictionunlimited.com/is-relapse-a-choice/

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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financesI want to talk about something that is near and dear to my heart, and if you aren’t already thinking about this in your life and finding solutions, you’ll want to start after this conversation.

This is a huge issue, not only in recovery, but for everyone. 63% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck.

And, most of us don’t have the know-how, the skills, or the confidence to not only get out of debt, but to properly manage the money we do have!

From total avoidance, trying to pretend it’s not happening, to just plain irresponsibility and overspending – it will affect every area of your life.

Jobs, how you live, your dating and relationship life, keeping secrets, never letting friends too close because you don’t want them to know too much, how you keep family at a distance because you don’t want them to know yet another way you are falling short – it is a lot.

So, when I came across my guest today, she got my attention immediately.

She is a financial Coach and she really gets that emotional attachment to money and how powerful it is in both negative and positive ways.

We’re going to talk about some practical money management strategies, and some emotional connections to money. Understanding your relationship to money, what motivates you and what makes you anxious- and how to start fixing it when your finances are out of control.

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Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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Emotional IntelligenceToday we’re talking about some limitations.

You know those habits you have that turn a conversation into a fight, or, make you avoid a conversation altogether because you know it won’t go well – the kind of traits that you absolutely need to develop and strengthen to improve every area of your life, but that aren’t so fun to talk about.

When I think about fun in my life, I think about travel, and friends, my family, and my businesses and all the amazing and cool things. I don’t necessarily think about these traits, although these traits I’m going to lay out for you today are absolutely essential in your personal growth and the growth of your relationships.

Both at home, and at work. I have grown so much in my emotional intelligence over the years and these skills have made my life so much better and easier!

Now, let’s dig into emotional intelligence so you can make your feelings more manageable, and continue building yourself into a person you love and respect.

Just to give you an idea of how important this topic is, check this out-

A 40-year study at UC Berkeley reported that emotional intelligence is nearly 4 times more powerful than IQ at predicting success.

So, what exactly is emotional intelligence, or EQ? What does it mean to be emotionally mature?

Emotional maturity means having the self-control to manage your emotions and work to understand them. As an emotionally mature individual, you don’t view emotions as a weakness. Instead, you value them and don’t try to hide them.

There are five key elements to EI: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.

We’re going break them down one by one.

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Some of you may be aware of another program we talk about in recovery, or, another struggle many of us have, and that’s being the adult child of an alcoholic/addict or being an adult child from a dysfunctional family.

And for those of you who aren’t familiar… growing up with these circumstances leaves wounds and scars and trauma. And we carry all of that into our adult life, it shapes how we interact in the world, how we choose partners, and the patterns we repeat over and over again.

My guest today, Andrea Ashley, talks about these topics in such a simple and refreshing way I couldn’t wait to get her on the show!

She is the host of the Adult Child Podcast, and some of the topics I want to get into today is the ‘convincing’ she talks about, as well as how being an adult child affects our dating and mating lives. Picking and dating emotionally unavailable people, You know this topic hits close to home for me, my friend, so buckle up and get ready for some TMI.

I also want to cover some of the common characteristics of growing up in this type of environment, what that looks like, and how we can heal.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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Find Andrea here: IG: @adultchildpod

ACA Laundry List: https://adultchildren.org/literature/laundry-list/

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self care routineIf you are a human being with a beating heart, you’re going to want to take notes with this episode because this topic is a game-changer!

And you know how I love to come at things from a different angle so we are talking about this in a way that no one else is talking about it.

We all know the importance of taking care of ourselves, you hear it everywhere, the buzzwords… self-care.

You hear the catch phrase, ‘you have to put your oxygen mask on first’, but how many of you are actually taking the time to put this into your daily life practice?

Are you really taking care of yourself?

Because, if you’re anything like me, and most of my clients, your life is busy.

You have a big job, a family, a partner, a house- and all the responsibilities that come with it.

And, usually, we get so caught up in all the things and getting the to-do list done and keeping the kids alive another day that everything gets prioritized over your self.

I hear you saying it,

“I should start exercising”
“I should spend more time with my friends or build new friendships”
“I really want to travel more”

… you are saying all the things… but when do you make it a priority to take care of you?

I want you to feel happier in your daily life and be more present with your family and feel more confident in yourself and your abilities.

So today, we’re talking to Dr. Melissa Durfey , aka The Self-Care Doc, all about taking everyday things and making them self-care rituals.

This is essential to your overall health and quality of life – it affects how you think, feel, how you act and respond to situations.

AND, when it comes to mental health, self-care can help people manage stress, lower their risk of illness and increase energy levels.

What I’m saying is… it’s kind of a big deal.

Get in your favorite podcast-listening position, my friend, and let it alllll sink in!

Links mentioned in this episode:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Book A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call

Dr. Melissa Durfey: https://www.myselfcaredoc.com/

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quitting sugarIf you’re looking for inspiration to get more energy, lose some extra pounds, get rid of your achy joints, improve your skin and digestion… you’ve come to the right place!

If you’re anything like me, you want to live a healthier lifestyle and make good choices for yourself and your family. And being a bit of a perfectionist leaves you feeling overwhelmed and totally confused by all the conflicting information in the diet culture.

You want the health benefits of intermittent fasting, you love the idea of being sugar-free and eating clean, but you struggle to actually give up your favorite comfort foods and, let’s face it, who wants to give up sugar?!?

No matter how strong, smart, and educated you are… this stuff is HARD.

With all the eat this, don’t eat that, intermittent fast, drink a gallon of water a day, no carbs, no sugar, go vegan, eat paleo, exercise, high-protein, high-fat… it’s so hard to know where to start and what’s right for you.

And when you reach a breaking point, much like I did, you are humble enough to know you need some support and guidance to change your habits, make healthier choices, and feel better.

My guest today is Netta Gorman. And her passion is to inspire you to live a happy and healthy sugar-free life that you love!

On this episode, Netta is going to share with you how making these changes brought her a life of freedom:

freedom from cravings
energy crashes
from that love-hate relationship with sugar
from all the health issues she had

Buckle up, my friend! We’re getting down and dirty about clean eating!

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Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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Netta Gorman: https://www.instagram.com/mylifeaftersugar/

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coping mechanismsIf you know that picking up a drink, or joint, or whatever is no longer an option, there’s no more Wine Wednesday or day drinking at brunch on the weekend, and you are ready to feel better and more in control of your life, you’re in the right place.

Stress can sometimes get the better of us and understanding coping skills for everyday stress, for big stressful life changes or negative situations can help you maintain some equilibrium and continue to grow your self-esteem and belief in yourself.

Coping skills are things we can do in-the-moment to turn down the volume of our emotions and allow the opportunity to relax so that you can respond in a more appropriate way and protect yourself from getting too overwhelmed where you make choices you aren’t proud of.

If you’re looking in on me and my life, you’ll see a regular exercise routine, rituals for dealing with stress, and the dedication to take control of my life and be super intentional about how I live.

You may even be working on some of those same things.

This is about learning how to cope with things differently and not just drinking to numb everything. Being comfortable with being uncomfortable and learning how to sit with feelings and situations and handle them better.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Sober Vacation October 2023: addictionunlimited.com/costarica

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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relapseWhen you make a BIG mistake, pull up your bootstraps, get scrappy, and use it as a learning experience.

Have you ever made a hasty mistake in your personal development journey that had the potential to be a disaster?

I definitely have. In fact, I think back to the night I realized I had no control over my drinking. I had to see my probation officer the next morning and decided I would have just one drink while I took my dog for a walk after work. Next thing I know, it’s 5 in the morning, I’m drunk, and my appointment was at 10. I was angry at myself, in shock that I really couldn’t stop drinking once I started, and I didn’t know what to do about it.

But here’s the thing that I couldn’t see at that time: Making those kind of mistakes, like the one I made years ago, are necessary — no matter how much you think you know and how careful you think you’re being. You have to muster some strength, channel your inner bad*ss, and use the experience as an opportunity to learn.

That’s what my guest on this episode (and 6 week course alumni!), Debbie McKillop, did when she had that moment of clarity that she had to stop drinking once and for all.

Some people fall apart under the pressure of a sober future, but Debbie did the exact opposite.

Instead of beating herself up and falling to pieces, she immediately got into action and figured out how to use this frightening momentum to her advantage. And guess what? She went on to rebuild a sober life that is happier than ever before…

Yes, you heard me right.

In this episode, Debbie shares her story of how she used the experience of relapse, to better herself as a mom, wife, and daughter, plus exactly what she did to get the fun and supportive sobriety we all want. She also shares:

Her major a-ha moment when she realized she couldn’t moderate her drinking and needed to quit 100%.
The things about recovery she wished she would have known from the beginning.
What she plans to do next to take her sober life to the next level.

This is a great listen for anyone, no matter where you are in your sobriety – and I know you’ll find Debbie as inspiring as I do.

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Sober Vacation: https://addictionunlimited.com/earlybird

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addiction cravingsWhen it comes to dealing with urges and cravings, check your thoughts, first.

What is your real struggle?

If you’re like most of my clients, especially in my 6 week program, you’re a very high-functioning, successful person. You have achieved things, you have a good job and family, and this makes it even more challenging trying to troubleshoot what the heck is going on with.

Sound familiar?

It’s like, “Wow, I’ve done all these great things and I’ve built this life, so whey the heck can’t I figure this one thing out? How do I not have control in this one area??”

It’s super frustrating, it’s totally normal, and we can work through all of it.

And I do this, too!

I will eat healthy and exercise and I want to see pounds fall off my body. The problem is, I’ll do it for like 3 days then get mad that I haven’t lost 10 pounds.

Then I start ruminating about how hard it is and how hard it’s going to be to keep it up long enough to get the results I want, and how much sacrifice it’s going to take… and BAM! All of a sudden I want a cheeseburger.

You see what I’m saying here?

Underneath the craving is my fear of how hard it’s going to be and my fear that I’m not strong enough to do it. That fear is what’s driving the craving.

If you’re ready to get answers, you’re ready for REAL solutions that no one else is telling you about, then you’re in the right place! This is an action-packed checklist for you to get to the bottom of what really fuels your cravings so that you can kick them to the curb and get more of what you want in your recovery and life.

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Marijuana AddictionMarijuana is the most commonly used illicit drug. Well, that was the story when it was still an unregulated, illegal and illicit market.

Now, the market is shifting, legalization is spreading, and THC is bringing on a whole new range of issues and causing more people to be addicted.

Although marijuana is just as addictive as alcohol, opioids, or stimulants, it looks different on the surface and may make you question if you have an addiction at all.

It doesn’t usually come with the classic ‘rock bottom’ moment you hear others talk about in their addiction stories, and the signs and symptoms aren’t so easily identified.

But that doesn’t change the fact that people are suffering, they need resources, and they need support.

In, A Doctor’s Opinion About Marijuana Addiction, it says:

“The unfortunate truth is that the lack of serious, early consequences to marijuana addiction allow for a long, slow decline, often without recognition, resulting in later-stage addiction before the problem is confronted. An individual may wake up years into this chronic illness, without a reasonable understanding of how their life got so far off track. Often one has no major medical or legal problems, no sudden tragedy that drives the search for an answer. However, isolation from friends and family, loss of interest and lack of participation in those activities that used to bring joy, and the crushing weight of missed opportunities add up.”

If any of this sounds familiar to you, you won’t want to miss this episode, my friend.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Marijuana Anonymous: https://marijuana-anonymous.org/

Find Jacob on IG: @naturalhighsrecovery

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what is moderate drinkingIf the illusion of moderation is very persistent and you find yourself thinking, “Maybe I can, in fact, have just ONE drink”.

And things aren’t going as well as you’d hoped, or you find yourself feeling left out in groups, or the lie tells you that once you ‘work through it’ then you can manage just one drink.

If any of this sounds familiar then you, my friend, are in the perfect place right now. This is a must-listen-to podcast if you are any of those scenarios.

So, if you’ve ever had challenges with the moderation myth or your brain keeps telling you it will different now and you’re a little bit worried about how to get through it, today is like a checklist of different areas that you can troubleshoot to make sure if you’re stuck you can move through it; and if you haven’t fallen into the trap yet, then you can side step some of these big mistakes.

It’s important that you actually listen to this episode and not tune out because this isn’t happening for you right now. This is a weird little tick in sobriety that can happen any time. None of us are shielded from these thoughts and traps- no matter how long you’ve been sober.

It took me a few situations before I really understood that I couldn’t control my alcohol intake. And when I say that, it doesn’t mean I never had nights out that I controlled it, I did. I had a few of those nights when I just had a few and went home without any drama.

But those nights were very few and far between. Just like you can quit for 30 days for Dry January or Sober October, or, sometimes we quit for much longer- and that feeds the myth that there is some level of control.

Let’s go ahead and dive into the trouble with your moderation dreams.

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Signs You Should Stop Trying to Moderate Your Drinking: https://addictionunlimited.com/signs-you-should-stop-trying-to-moderate-your-drinking/

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Movies About AddictionToday’s episode is a little extra special.

The reason for that is that we’re approaching this topic from a totally different angle.

We’re not going to talk about programs. We’re not talking about pitfalls, recovery plans, and another day 1. Not that we’re not talking about any of it, but, we are going to talk about a totally different approach to quitting drinking that you’ve probably never thought of before.

Today, we are talking about movies about addiction. That might seem a little bit weird as a way to get sober, and, if you know anything about me you already know I’m a planner and like to have things laid out. So this completely unorthodox way of approaching recovery really intrigued me.

When my new friend, Ted Perkins, reached out to me about his book and wanted to talk about the connection between movies and addiction and how he used movies about addiction to get sober, I thought it was something I definitely wanted to explore.

Ted is a former Universal Pictures and Warner Bros. Studio executive, university lecturer, public speaker, Hollywood producer, and a successful screenwriter for film and television

He watched 100 movies in 100 days to beat his alcohol addiction and documented his journey in his new book, Addicted in Film, and he’s here to tell you all about it! It’s a behind-the-scenes look at the best (and worst) movies ever made about addiction and recovery, and what they can teach us about living a happier, healthier, more balanced life.

I like that Ted turned to what he knows and loves, and used it as his support to make huge changes and understand sobriety on a new level. This is the epitome of figuring out a plan that is individualized to you!

I also really value what he shares. It’s different than how my brain works and that’s sometimes uncomfortable and always exciting at the same time. I don’t want to give it all away. I am going to let you listen in and see if this is something you might want to take action on. I know I definitely will be.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Dry January Kickstarter: A 30-Day Free Bootcamp: addictionunlimited.com/bootcamp

Addicted in Film Book: https://amzn.to/3HGG6GZ

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dealing with triggersI’m going to start this episode with a mind-blowing statistic. Are you ready? Okay, here we go. Everyone has triggers. Crazy, right? I know, I know, it’s not that mind-blowing when you think about it because we are all living life, dealing with the ups and downs and the changes we have to make as we go through it.

Change is inevitable. And when we are undergoing change, leaving old behaviors, habits, and people behind, there will be triggers.

It’s also a little comforting to know we’re in this together because if you’ve had to overcome triggers, like I have, then we’re not alone. Actually, we’re in great company.

Now, if I told you that you can get through all your triggers and I can show you how to do it, would you be interested? Yes? I hope you just said yes because that’s what we’re doing today. It’s important to continue talking about this topic of triggers because I know many of my clients experience it, to the point that they fear starting new and exciting endeavors or they will start and they definitely don’t follow through on these new and exciting endeavors because they begin to think, “I don’t want to deal with triggers and cravings 24 hours a day. Thursdays are a huge trigger for me and I don’t know how to get through it.” And so they don’t start, or stick with, the process.

Have you been guilty of this? I know I have, for sure. And I’ve overcome it, and I want to talk about how you can as well. The thing is, triggers are a real thing. And if you’re dealing with them and sometimes feel like they are winning the battle, I want you to know you are far from alone, there is nothing wrong with you, and you can definitely overcome it.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Episode #114, Relapse Triggers: https://addictionunlimited.com/relapse-triggers/

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people pleasingPeople pleasing is a common struggle for most people, especially those of us with addiction issues. The key is to not let those habits stop you from doing the work that you know you need to do. So what do you do when the fears of saying “no”, or setting boundaries around your time and energy threaten to throw you off your game or derail you completely? You get guidance, take action, and learn to keep moving forward. And sometimes you need a little inspiration to keep you going.

In this episode, my friend Nick Pollard (TikTok phenom) and I are going to dig into the underlying fears and feelings people have that turn us into exhausted little people-pleasers. As a Coach, Nick’s work is to pull back the curtain on the underlying issues we have to work on to create happier lives with more energy for our friends and families, and feeling more confident in the choices we make. Some of the very things you may be experiencing now may be obstacles, but they are not insurmountable.

This is my 15th year of being a Life Coach and Nick is in his 10th year! We’ve seen it all and have experienced ALL the fears ourselves (and still do!), so get your ear buds ready and listen in to the helpful insights Nick is sharing for you and your life!

You’re going to learn some valuable tips and tricks that will help you navigate the fears that come with making changes in your life, cutting back the people-pleasing, and stepping into a better version of yourself.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Dry January Kickstarter: A 30-Day Free Bootcamp: addictionunlimited.com/bootcamp

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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New Year PlanCan you believe 2022 is over already?

I know it’s so cliché and everyone is saying it- but this year has gone by so fast!

Maybe you can relate. I know when a year is packed with as many projects, challenges, milestones reached and lessons learned as 2022 has been for me, it makes time fly by.

Some years ago I adopted a new way of thinking about it – instead of thinking about resolutions, as if something isn’t right and needs to be resolved – I think about my intentions for the upcoming year. And because my sobriety birthday is in January, I have a tradition at the end of the year I always reflect back on what my life was like before I got sober.

Of course, that immediately puts me in a place of gratitude because I was such a mess in so many ways.

And, it gives me fresh inspiration on how I want to approach the coming year.

This year, I went through some major stuff. And, if we all get honest here, every year is full of major stuff.

So as I was reflecting on the past 12 months, I was writing down so many things that I had to turn it into a whole podcast episode for you.

Because, I want you to approach your next year with a fresh perspective and sense of determination like you’ve never had before. But also, a sense of ease. Like, we’re going to make this so effortless, and you are going to feel so empowered, that you look forward to getting started and following through!

The strategy I’m going over today is all about a different way to approach your goals so that…

you will get more done
everything is set up for you to succeed with ease
you end the day feeling more satisfied with your whole life

In particular, if you want to build a life around recovery and confidence in whatever you do, this strategy will be really applicable for you.

It will help you get more done with less stress, less guilt, and less resources… you know, all the precious commodities we never have enough of.

I suggest curling up with the last Christmas cookie, stir a little eggnog creamer into your coffee, and enjoy a final moment of holiday hibernation to brainstorm your 2023 intentions.

In the end, your intentions are really all about your balance. Understanding we are working on personal growth and taking on new habits more than just accomplishing tasks. Adding too little will leave you underwhelmed and unsatisfied; adding too much is just way more stress than you need.

This episode is your personal low-down on how to think about your intentions, and how to set yourself up for success from day one so that you can get your life and your goals aligned for an amazing year!

Links mentioned in this episode:

Dry January Kickstarter: A 30-Day Bootcamp with Angela Pugh:addictionunlimited.com/bootcamp

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Feeling better, adulting better, and how life will steer you the right direction (whether you’re ready for it or not!)

A mom with a huge heart, a nurse, and determined to change the game, Lucy Maina is here and she’s ready to help you take action on your recovery dreams, move forward even when fear wants to hold you back, and use the gifts you already have to support your sobriety.

I love this interview with Lucy, and I know you will, too. In this episode we talk about how she channeled her energy from the beginning to support her decision to quit drinking, why her thoughts and mindset were such a powerful tool in the process, and the importance of getting comfortable being uncomfortable.

There are so many light bulb moments, “a-has”, and brow-raising WOWS in this episode, I can’t even name them all. You’ll just have to listen to the podcast and hear them for yourself.

On this show, conversations have a life of their own and a lot of wisdom is revealed. And when Lucy says, “I decided to focus on two things that were really hard for me to distract me in the beginning,” you’re going to stop multi-tasking and listen in to hear the conversation that follows.

You’re in for a treat, my friend! Listen in, get excited and inspired, and driven to take action with Lucy’s insight and experience.

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Dry January Bootcamp: addictionunlimited.com/bootcamp

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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Healthy RoutinesWhen you’re going into a stressful time of year your healthy routines get off balance, there are tons of things to do, and stressors lurking around every corner.

And if you don’t know what to do, that lack of clarity can you lead you down the path of overwhelm and high anxiety. That’s why I recorded today’s episode. To take away your stress and make this process a lot easier for you.

I’m breaking down a few fundamental steps to focus on when your rituals and routines are thrown off balance in the holiday season with travel, family, and all the added financial and time stressors. Whether you’re just getting started, or you have decades of sobriety under your belt. These are absolutely crucial for a successful and sober holiday season (or any high-stress situation!).

Are you a successfully substance-free and getting through stressors with ease? Don’t click away because this episode is for you, too. I not only focus on these steps for the holidays, but I still practice this today whenever I travel or have any disruption in my routines and rituals.

Here’s a snapshot of what I’m focusing on in today’s episode:

–> action steps to keep your sobriety in tact

–> strategies you can use RIGHT NOW

–> a step-by-step plan to set you up for sober success

I don’t want you to feel like you are walking into a high-stress situation completely unprepared so I’m going to walk you through what to focus on so you are happy, healthy, and staying sober even when your routines and rituals are turned upside down.

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I don’t fit in anywhereNot all success stories are created equal.

There are easy stories, hard stories, and everything in between. All are different and unique in their own way and all of them can have a happy ending.

In this episode, I share an enlightening conversation with Nate Kelly about his quest of growing up, figuring himself out, and ending up in an unhealthy relationship with alcohol.

He talks about…

How he used alcohol to make him more social and to fit in more. The successes, and struggles, he went through trying to figure out where he fit and what his life would look like. Plus, we delve into trying to find yourself in a world that doesn’t support those of us who don’t fit in anywhere.

If you’ve ever just felt different, and unsure about how you fit or where you fit, this episode is for you!

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Join Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Sobriety Diaries Podcast: https://www.thesobrietydiaries.com/

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Coming Out Colton: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYu82eFgDhE

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Mental Wellness

I wholeheartedly believe that mental wellness in recovery can be one of the best gifts you can give yourself. It gives you the freedom to design your life the way you want to and gives you the energy to do the things you love. But as you have probably figured out, if you don't have the right plan in place, the stress of social and family events can really take a toll on you. Every day, recovering people are dealing with things like anxiety, loneliness, and burnout. The statistics on relapse are alarming, and if I'll be straight with you... the numbers are far too high and hit a little close to home. It's a goal of mine to bring more awareness and solutions to this issue that affects so many people. And that's why we're talking all about the actions, solutions, and tools you need to protect your recovery and continue to build on that happiness and comfort you're striving for in sobriety. Especially when you are going into social and family situations that can push ALL your buttons and triggers. You want fast and easy solutions and I've got them for you!

No time commitment!

It's totally FREE! And you can do it in your jammies!

In this episode I'll tell you exactly how to navigate every party, gathering, and anything else that makes your anxiety shoot through the roof. AND some science-backed actions that will change your life. Find balance between feeling vulnerable and being able to lean on your own instincts and plans when in stressful situations. Tap into your ability to feel joy, confidence, and acceptance when things don't go your way, versus fear and anger. And how to navigate FOMO and loneliness and so much more! I’m going to make the call -- this episode is going to be a fan-fave. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do! Links mentioned in this episode:

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take control of your life

When it comes to creating the life you want, most people think they are at the mercy of outside forces.

But what if I told you… you have the power to create what you speak? 🤔😯 It may sound like a cliché, but it’s 💯 true.

The thoughts we entertain and the words we speak create our reality.

One of the most important things you can do to take control of your life is to be mindful of your thoughts and words.

I’m telling you my friend, everything you think and say has an impact. So be deliberate in what you put out in the universe.

→ pay attention to the language you use when speaking about yourself and your life

Are you using positive, empowering language, or are you putting yourself down?

→ get clear on what you want and focus on creating that reality

When you know what you want, you can begin to take steps towards making it a reality.

Your thoughts are powerful and today’s guest, Sloane Freemont, is giving us the lowdown on how to create what you speak. Which is also the name of her podcast!

She speaks from personal experience of hitting an all-time low in her life, knowing she had to make major changes, and how she started digging her way out.

I know, I know…we can all relate to this!

She’s a podcast host, a brilliant mind, and new friend and she walks us through the power we have in our lives:

👉 If you focus on the negative, you'll get more negative.

👉 If you focus on the positive, you’ll attract more positive.

So choose your thoughts wisely and create the life you want!

With a little practice, you’ll be well on your way to creating the life you deserve — simply by speaking it into existence!

Links mentioned in this episode:

Learn more about Sloane here: https://sloanefreemont.com/

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Finding Passion

If you find yourself doing busy work because you don’t know what else to do, or feel like you are at a total loss when it comes to knowing yourself and your hobbies, it’s time to start finding passion in your life.

Imagine this: You get out of bed early feeling refreshed and ready for your weekend. You love to spend time with your kids and make their favorite pancakes for breakfast, and you can’t wait to get some time for yourself to do the things you love. You know your happy place, you love your hobbies, and you feel excited to get there!

Having activities you enjoy in your life is important! And, as much as we enjoy being workaholics, parents and partners, there has to be more to your life than just work and family.

Studies show that taking part in fun and leisure activities improves your overall health, but when you get lost in addiction you often lose sight of yourself and the things you once loved.

What are you passionate about?

What activities do you enjoy on your day off?

If you don’t take action to find what you love to do then you will always look for substances or food or shopping to fill that void. And none of those things will serve you well.

Instead of feeling overwhelmed or confused, let’s talk about some actionable steps you can take to find your self again.

In this episode you’ll get:

💥 Easy actions to find the self you’ve lost

💥 A gameplan to curb the overwhelm and get clarity on what makes you happy

💥 And a quick note on all the ways your life is going to improve!

Links mentioned in this episode:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Book A Call With Angela: addictionunlimited.com/call

Research Article: https://www.nytimes.com/guides/smarterliving/how-to-find-a-hobby

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mommy wine culture

You feel embarrassed and humiliated because you know you are hiding this secret, and you feel like you should know better. Unfortunately, way too many moms fall victim to the mommy wine culture and as a result, get completely lost in the comfort of the drink.

If this sounds familiar to you, then keep reading, my friend, because today’s guest, Michelle Smith, has a powerful story about losing yourself in alcohol and hiding it from the world, all while trying to work and be a great mom.

Michelle is a speaker, influencer, and educator with a digital community for women exploring an alcohol-free lifestyle

Her recovery is thriving -- but that hasn’t always been the case. In fact, it took a lot of soul searching, exploration, and life struggles for Michelle to land in a safe sober place in her life and how it truly lit her up. And by staying on track and pushing through some really difficult situations, she was able to create the sober life of her dreams

Today, Michelle shows women all across the country actionable steps for creating a successful sober lifestyle while also building a solid foundation for motherhood -- and she doesn’t need a drink to get through the day.

In this episode, Michelle opens up about her story and how living a double life was taking a toll, and how getting honest with herself ended up being her way out.

So if you’re ready to move from the wine mommy culture and the darkness of a double life into sweet sober freedom, get your ear buds ready for this one!

Links mentioned in this episode:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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Find Michelle here: https://www.recoveryisthenewblack.com/

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When life throws you a curveball, sometimes you have to get back to basics until you feel better.

When you are going through something really heavy, at some point you have to make a decision to get into action.

Otherwise, you’re going to sink.

I was sinking. And I knew I would continue to sink if I didn’t make a conscious choice to do some things, to take action to counteract all the negativity and sadness. I had to feel better.

And my first thought was, just get back to basics. Just do the most basic things that you know are good for you and if you do those things consistently, and let time heal you, you will get better.

There will be times in our lives that we will cry. There will be curve balls that make you feel like your soul is dying. Those days that are a struggle, that you don’t want to do it, you want to give up - those are the days that define who you are.

Don’t quit.

Hard times come for everyone, and they are what make you strong but only when you make the decision to keep moving forward.

Giving up, or wanting to give up is human nature. It’s just fear of the ‘what ifs’.

What if I can’t do it, what if I’m bad at it, what if it’s a mistake, what if I fail?

It feels easier to just quit.

But here’s the problem, you’ve heard me say it before, if you shrink to accommodate your fear, you are sentencing yourself to a lifetime of shrinking, and failing. You lose faith in yourself and the world around you.

Instead, get back to basics.

What are your basics? What do you need to do to take care of yourself? How do you push through to nurture your mental wellness?

Links mentioned in this episode:

Mental resistance episode: How to Conquer Mental Resistance & Energize Your Life

6 Week Signature Program: addictionunlimited.com/call

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Sober Motivation

It may sound crazy to think about getting geared up for holiday season, but I want you to be prepared so we are starting with some warm and fuzzy motivation.

In the midst of all the weight of getting sober, having jobs, raising kids, and being high-functioning... it can be exhausting to stay excited about this self-help journey.

And knowing there is plenty of stress for everyone, I want you to take a minute to breathe, and think about all the rewards for the hard work you are doing.

It's so easy to look at the road ahead and get focused on how far we have to go. It is a road with no end, by the way, our work is never finished. At the same time, focus also on how far you've come.

I went back in the archives of Addiction Unlimited and pulled some clips from some of my favorite guests to put together an episode that is laser focused on the beauty of transformation and all the rewards that come with having a clear mind and a vision for the future.

Allyson Kane, Russ Perry, Omar Pinto, Mark Crandall, Emily Paulson, Chris Hill, and our very own 6 week program alum, Amorie. They all shared their stories with us on the podcast and I want you to hear the blessings and gratitude that recovery brings.

These are all high-functioning, educated, entrepreneurs and self-starters, just like all my clients, and they have taken full advantage of the gifts of sobriety. As we move into the most demanding season of the year, I want you to have a fresh perspective and renewed energy moving forward.

We'll do a series of episodes on getting through the holidays and, as you know, mindset is where it all starts. So get your ear buds ready, start your workout or curl up in your quiet space, and let's energize your mindset with the gifts of transformation.

Links mentioned in this episode:

If you want to listen to the last episode I did like this, you can find it here: addictionunlimited.com/133

Join us in the Facebook group for more support, conversation, and ❤️, click here.

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family support in sobriety

If you’ve ever made a big change in your life then you know firsthand how lonely it can feel to be on the road less traveled.

And it’s not because the change you are making is bad or wrong (trust me, I’m a huge fan of changing and growing), you most likely feel lonely because the people around you are staying the same.

Having a strategy is the surefire way to stick to your change. It’s the driving force that will keep you going when it gets difficult or feels overwhelming – when you’re exhausted, and think you want to give up, isolate in your room with the door locked and watch the latest episode of Love Is Blind.

I’ve been there before, and I know you have, too. And that’s why, in this episode, I am giving you 4 easy actions you can take to ease the anxiety of feeling like you don’t have family support in sobriety and you begin to doubt whether it’s worth your time and energy to keep going.

Grab a pen & paper… or open an app… and get ready to jot down these steps so that those big beautiful sober goals you set for yourself are closer than ever before.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Finding your mentors episode: How To Find The Right Mentor & Why It’s A Game Changer

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If you’re a human being on this planet then I’m willing to bet there have been a million times that you have said, “If only I knew then what I know now, I would have ____________.”

Yes, my friend. Hindsight is always 20/20, and it’s so much easier to see the truth of your situation when you’re looking back on it in the past rather than standing in it in the present moment.

It’s also easy to look back and blame yourself for the “mistakes” you made. But here’s the thing, you were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time. And when you know better, you do better

I mean, I thought it was a great idea to overpluck my eyebrows in the early 2000s, and here we are now spending a small fortune to restore those beautiful brows back to the thicker life they once had.

But all jokes aside, in this episode you’ll meet Bob, one of my star clients with an incredible success story. He’s going to share his own bumpy ride to recovery, how relapse helped him stay sober, the things that have given him a ton of momentum in his sober life and how he pieced it all together one step at a time.

Bob will also share a couple of things he did that really moved the needle. And, I hope you’ll consider doing them, too.

As you know, it’s my goal to share powerful experiences with you -- both good and bad -- so you can learn from them and create the sober life of your dreams.

So if you’re ready, get out your earbuds and listen in!

Links mentioned in this episode:

Post Acute Withdrawal (PAWS) episode: The Science of Sobriety and How To Feel Better Faster

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Relationships in recovery

It scares you and excites you all at the same time.

You are making lifestyle changes and want, more than anything, to regain control of your life. You can see this sober future full of friends and laughter, having a clear mind, and achieving more than ever to build your dream life.

But where does romance fall into the equation?

Maybe the thought of leaving the booze behind to pursue an alcohol-free life gives you butterflies, but every time you think about how it will affect your marriage or your dating life you think, "Oh man, this could change everything."

Something I've learned over the last 16+ years of recovery and personal development is that nothing is more important than communication. Those butterflies in your stomach are a loud and clear message that it's time to shake things up and take some action.

It isn't always comfortable- I mean, let's keep it 100 - you have to get out of your comfort zone to do anything amazing and rewarding. But I can promise you this, the biggest moments of growth are the ones where I stepped out of my comfort zone. My life, my business, my recovery... none of it would be where it is today without being willing to take a leap of faith- whether big or small.

In this episode, I share with you some strategies to navigate your relationship when you get sober and your partner doesn't. This is a major topic that comes up over and over again and I want you to have some simple pointers to get you started in dealing with this journey.

Then, we take a turn and talk about dating in recovery and how to deal with some of the common difficulties in that situation. As a single person myself, I've tried dating all the different ways over the years and it is one of my favorite topics.

And, as usual, if you have more questions and want to talk more about this topic, join us in the Facebook group where you can find me every single day interacting, answering questions, and cheering you on.

If you are ready for more support and guidance to take your recovery to the next level, you can book a call with me here.

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Addiction in the family

Any difficulty can be resolved when people are willing to own their emotional issues and to get the process of communication healthy. You can have the kind relationships you have always wanted, but it takes becoming the kind of person who treats others the way you want to be treated regardless of how they treat you.

This is a story of a father and son’s journey to healing through substance abuse, depression, anger and family conflict. It is a story of redemption and growth through the emotional anguish that many families experience in the teen years and shares a message of hope that shows a path to maturity for struggling teens and for their parents.

These stories are told both through a father’s eyes as a family therapist and through the teen’s perspective and shares the profound heartache and deep love between a father and son. The lessons learned and the growth for parents and teens are clearly described so everyone who reads this can use these lessons in their own lives.

Healing is a journey and this is a family dedicated to doing the work and sharing the journey. The book, workshops, and a commitment to continued growth, there is something for everyone here.

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"I don't know where to start! I feel so overwhelmed by sobriety!" Sound familiar? No worries! I've got you covered. Most people know it's important to take action and do certain things to get, and stay, sober. But there's a big problem. They aren't sure how to do the right things at the right time to be consistently building their recovery and feeling better. They get super busy with a giant TO DO list filled with books to read and podcasts to listen to, and that's only part of the equation. There is a HUGE piece of this that starts right between your ears, with your beliefs and thoughts about sobriety. As parents and spouses and business owners we don't want to waste any more time on feeble attempts to get sober, to relapse again, and have zero understanding what happened and even less understanding of what to do next. Am I right? There's a better way to think about recovery and there are certain truths you HAVE TO get clear on to create your sober life without more overwhelm and failed attempts. I'm going to save you a lot of time. These are some of the most common misconceptions and missteps I see people make over and over again. It all starts in your head and you don't even realize how you set yourself up for failure, before you even start. I did it, too. You don't have to do this by yourself without a roadmap. You have support and resources, motivation and inspiration at your fingertips: Join the Facebook group here: www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Schedule Coaching with Angela here: addictionunlimited.com/call

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ADHD Symptoms

Do you have ADHD symptoms?

Have you ever struggled to complete the most basic life tasks? Being on time, keeping up on the housework, and never knowing what day it is?

Does this scenario sound familiar? You sit down at your computer, you open a tab to get started on your first task. You know you have a few important things to complete today and you are ready to get it done.

Then something else catches your eye and you think, "I'll just do this real quick", and next thing you know two hours have flown by, you've got 20 tabs open on your computer and you never completed the original task you sat down to do.

I think most of us can relate to a scene like this at one point or another. But there is hope, my friends! And that hope comes in understanding what's happening for you, why, and how to deal with it. And this episode is FULL of all of that information!

With some simple tweaks in the way you approach your day, and your life, you'll find much more success in the small things that may drive you crazy. Excited about showing up to things and being on time, feeling confident that you are good in conversations because you aren't constantly interrupting, and having a new sense of calm without major over-reactions to small things.

And this is where Kristen Carder comes in. Kristen, founder of Focused membership community, shows you how to recognize ADHD symptoms and how to manage them with support and education.

A few common symptoms of ADHD:

👉 Impulsivity 👉 Time Blind 👉 Difficult to Identify, Regulate, and Soothe Emotions

I wasn't familiar with the term 'time blind' until recently and this was a major aha for me! Are you ready to listen and get solutions?

After the episode, join us in the Facebook group for more conversation and support!

And if you want more support to get farther faster in your journey, you can book a call with me here.

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Change how you feel

You use substances and behaviors to change how you feel, because you don’t feel good.

For all my listeners who have dreams of a wonderful life and maybe struggle with a little self-doubt, fear of failure, or have an inner critic that tends to be a little harsh, this episode is for you.

My guess is that most of you just thought, “Yes. Angela, that is me 100%.”

And I get it because it's me too. I deal with those same struggles. In fact, as humans, I think we all do, which is why it's something that needs to be worked on day in and day out.

In this episode I'm going to break down the truth about change, and it may surprise you.

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Credit Repair

If you've lost hope, or you're looking for some, you're not alone and today's episode is all about taking some small simple steps to find hope in the midst of the overwhelm of credit stress and credit repair.

I've worked with a lot of clients through financial stress - job loss, divorce, over spending, and (like me!) just being irresponsible and immature with money.

When we are facing big life changes it's not uncommon for finances to be one of those stressors, which is why I thought it was time to have some conversation about this here on the podcast. It's a perfect time, post-Covid, when people are facing challenges they've never faced before. Our world has been turned upside down and now it's time to start the clean-up process.

The relief you get from taking the smallest step is unbelievable, and I want that for you, too!

If you are anything like me, when you have financial stress or fear of money problems, it is overwhelming. It took such a toll on my self-esteem, it consumed my thoughts all day every day, dodging phone calls from bill collectors, crying every day, and feeling like I had no idea what to do to fix it all.

I have ruined my credit multiple times in my adult life, and I've rebuilt it from the ground up.

In today's episode, Deryk Faber is going to walk us through some common misconceptions about finances, credit, and how to face the problems we've created.

I want you to have solutions so that you can make progress and feel better. And that's what this episode is all about. How can you start to make changes? How do you figure out where to start? What do you do?

We've got all that and more, so tune in!

And if you want more information and education on financial healing and wellness, join us in the Sober Society Membership Community where Deryk will share tips, tricks, and strategies on credit repair and money 101 on a monthly basis!

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Sleep Hygiene

I’ve been at this Life Coaching thing for a long time and sleep hygiene is a problem for a lot of people. I’ve worked with thousands of people and I’ve gotten pretty good at recognizing patterns. Specifically, patterns that cause challenges and often stop capable people in their tracks.

One common struggle I’ve seen countless times over the years is the struggle to get good sleep when you’re trying so hard to make positive changes in your life. Here’s the thing. Sleep can be tough, especially for people with anxiety, and it can definitely be frustrating.

One of my clients asked, “Angela, this is one of the reasons I drank, to quiet my mind. How do you learn to sleep when the chatter in your head is so loud?”

Another client asked, “It’s so hard just to fall asleep in the beginning stage of my sobriety. No matter how many calming exercises I do before bed, I just can’t go to sleep easily. What do you do when it feels like nothing is working?”

Have you ever felt like this? Have you ever wondered how you will survive with nights of tossing and turning, waking up frustrated and still tired, and feeling like there is no light at the end of the tunnel?

Well, you’re not alone, my friend. It’s all valid. And that’s why I wanted to have this conversation with you today because I want you to have solutions!

You're going to get a super easy checklist to start creating your very own sleep routine, building your sleep hygiene, and these are actions you can take TODAY!

your winding-down routine set your sleep and wake up time get your environment in order

We are taking a deep dive into how you can set yourself up for sweet sleepy success, my friend, and how to keep it super simple so you'll have no problem following through so you can feel better and be better.

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Food Habits

Food habits is a topic that comes up frequently in my professional, and personal, life. We see people in the Facebook group posting about eating too much sugar in early sobriety, or that they are eating out of control now that they aren't drinking. Some wonder if they will lose weight, others are scared to quit drinking because they think they'll gain weight. I was there, too. I want to talk to you about food, lifestyle, and being health-minded. Not necessarily about what to eat and what not to eat, although we will talk about some of that because I know what it's like to want to lose weight so badly, and when someone is making good food choices the first thing I want to do is ask, "What are you eating? What diet are you doing? Are you cutting out carbs?" All of these are normal questions, but what I've learned on my lifestyle journey is those are the least important questions to get stuck on. The conversation I want to have is about how to create positive change in your life that you feel good about. Change that is sustainable and that empowers you, builds your self-esteem, and changes your mindset about your life. And that didn't happen for me when all I focused on was the number on the scale and the increasing size of my love handles.

As a part of my membership community, the Sober Society, I am bringing in a new focus on lifestyle. Relationships, feelings, finances, and food.

Nutrition & Health Coach, Ellie Stewart, is going to share her knowledge and experience about food myths, how recovery can affect food habits, and she's going to give you a few key activities and choices to focus on if you are ready to start treating your body better.

It's not about cleaning out all your cabinets and replacing all the junk food with broccoli. Or, wishing you were the person you thought you were when you bought all those fruits and vegetables at the store only to throw them away when they went bad in the refrigerator.

Been there, done that. Many times.

This episode is to focus on understanding and making small shifts to feel good about yourself and change your life in positive ways and you're going to get some great tips on how to get that party started without turning your life upside down and stressing yourself out. I really hope as you listen to this episode and hear how I approach this that you decide enough is enough and you are going to figure this out in your own way so this doesn't become something that is holding you back from living the life you want to live. My food habits, eating habits, and weight gain were holding me back from that in a dramatic way until I finally hit my breaking point. Ellie offers some great starting tips, a lot of knowledge and personal experience with food habits, and you can get more of her in the Sober Society membership soon!

Links from the episode:

Facebook group

Sober Society Membership

Book: Food: What the Heck Should I Eat?

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Wine O'Clock

A successful recovery has everything to do with how you plan your day and approach your challenges.

Imagine this scenario:

You've been alcohol-free for a minute, and you really want to continue waking up without a hangover and having a clear head. You're getting through the days, you're on track, and overall, you're feeling pretty proud of your accomplishment.

But let’s be real -- you’re also feeling a little bit burnt out from pouring every ounce of your energy into fighting cravings, and some things are starting to slip because… you’re human.

Maybe you’re packing your days so tight that you have absolutely no room to think about wine, or you’re struggling to focus on the day in front of you because your mind is constantly going into future things and stressing about upcoming events. Or maybe, you're just feeling overwhelmed and lost, and have no idea what the heck to do. Sound familiar?

I don’t know about you, but I definitely had a 'witching hour' when I would get a little frazzled and start to lose focus on the goals and intentions I set for myself and my new life.

And if you’ve been a listener for some time, you probably know that having a plan in place sets the tone for my entire life -- and if I want to be successful in my intentions, I keep my plans front and center. Even if they just stare at me blankly as I daydream about a nap.

In this episode, I’m sharing powerful strategies you can do to avoid getting sucked down the rabbit hole of wine o'clock so that you can stay on top of your game and move forward with a clear mind and a grateful heart that you didn't give in to the craving and wreck all the good progress you've made.

It’s time to tighten up, my friend -- are you ready?

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How to stay engaged in life

Get ready to tackle the uninspired daily grind and uncover this not-so-secret framework that I use in my life (and with my clients!) to stay engaged in your life and feel inspired. Let's be real: kids, jobs, sobriety, households, yoga, and everything else you try to do to have a happy life can take a lot of time out of an already busy day. Just when you think you're on top of everything, you feel a nagging reminder in the back of your head that you aren't feeling super happy. Sometimes it can feel like you're just running from one thing to the next thing and you can't even catch your breath. You're in good company, my friend - many power players just like you are in the same boat. That's why in this podcast episode, I'm tackling that underlying feeling of discontent so you can start ramping up the inspiration in your life and start living the life you want. Not only will you get some behind-the-scenes sneak peeks on how I stay engaged, feel inspired and fulfilled but you'll also get the inside scoop on the framework I use to stay balanced. Here's what you'll get:

How to use this framework to create an engaged life so it's exciting and creates a sense of clarity and happiness Ways you might be missing huge pieces of your life and a simple solution to help across the board Getting past the dreaded excuses you'll make to talk yourself out of taking action so you can build the life you want

Get ready to break through that irritable, restless, and discontent barrier and get into an action-based state of mind - this episode is ready for you.

If you are struggling with solutions and want some pointers on what to do, join us in the Facebook group where you'll have a whole community of people to support you, share their experiences, and offer solutions to all the problems.

And for all my goal-getter action takers out there, if you're thinking about working with me as your Coach, you can book a call with me to get all the info and start working with me ASAP. Book here: addictionunlimited.com/call

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Mental Resistance

Stop getting trapped in mental resistance.

And right now, you may be saying, "But Angela, you don't know my life and how hard things are. I don't have support, I have kids and activities and work...."

Oh boy. Do I hear you. I've had the same thoughts a thousand times.

But I also want to challenge you on how that resistance is working against you…and that's exactly what I'm doing on this episode.

In this episode, I want to talk to you about recognizing resistance, even when it is totally logical and real, and starting to change that thought process to better serve you.

Mental resistance comes up in many different ways. It’s laziness, procrastination, telling yourself you can’t do something, you can’t afford it, you don’t have time, now isn’t the right time, you aren’t strong enough, you don’t have enough support. Or, it’s overwhelm, or fear.

I want you to lean into what might feel uncomfortable, but also actually may create more strength underneath all that discomfort.

And I want to challenge you in an area that you’re probably doing yourself a great disservice and staying stuck.

My friend, I am happy to help you gain as much courage as you need — and you'll find some in this episode — overcome mental resistance and put it to bed for good in your life so that you can step fully into this version of you that you are today, and continue to grow into the amazing human you are destined to be.

You can start to overcome mental resistance right now by joining me in the Facebook group!

And sign up for my Dry July Event: 30 Days to Wellness by clicking here.

If you've been thinking about doing a private coaching package with me and want to book a call, click here.

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Self-Sabotage Meaning

The title says it all. Let's start with self-sabotage meaning:

Self-sabotage occurs when we destroy ourselves physically, mentally, or emotionally or deliberately hinder our own success and wellbeing by undermining personal goals and values-

But why do we do it, and what does it mean?

I think the best explanation I’ve ever gotten for this was from my friend, Adam Gilbert, from My Body Tutor. He said: usually, people self-sabotage because the thought of maintaining the thing they are trying to achieve is more overwhelming than staying the same.

So let’s dig into some self-sabotaging behaviors so that you can recognize it and start breaking it down. Remember, when you want to break something down you have to directly counteract it with an opposite behavior.

In this episode you'll learn:

the most common self-sabotaging behaviors they 'why' behind your own self-sabotage how to start changing TODAY

Self-sabotage isn’t an inherent part of your character, nor does it define who you are as a human being. Why do we self-sabotage?

Self-sabotage is typically fear based. And that fear plays into toxic perfectionism or habitual procrastination. And that, increases anxiety and takes you into future tripping with all the what-ifs.. what if this thing happens... or what if that thing happens.

Or, you catastrophize and go straight to worst-case scenarios. These are distorted beliefs and they are exactly the thing that perpetuates the fear and causes you to self-sabotage.

Self-sabotage isn’t a character flaw; it is nothing more than a set of behaviors, usually arising out of fear-based negative beliefs, that are preventing you from achieving your goals.

Be patient with yourself and reach out for help if you feel stuck. These are all the things we work on in Coaching and, if you’re thinking about working with me as your Coach, you can book a call with me to ask questions and get more information.

Book A Call here.

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Whether you are getting sober, going through a breakup, or just look at yourself in the mirror one day and recognize it’s time to make some changes because you aren’t feeling great about who you are or how you’re treating people.

You have to have stellar coping skills, the ability to adapt, and the ability to change when you’ve gotten stuck in some habits that don’t serve you.

In this episode, we'll get into some of the specifics about what it takes to be successful in sobriety.

I know you want to have a lifestyle you enjoy. You want to be engaged in your life, have less anxiety, and have confidence in yourself.

So how the heck do you pull that off?

If you want to feel better you have to take action.

And one of the easiest and best ways to start taking action is working on that inner dialogue you are having with the committee in your head all day long.

Here's what we are covering in this episode:

You are your own CEO, responsible for the good and the bad How to manage your mindset and not beat yourself up Recognizing limitations and learning to work around them

The key in all of this is to be successful in the changes you want to make. No one is perfect! It takes practice to build these skills and that's why it's important to be an action-taker!

The greatest thing you can do today is to GET STARTED!

If you want support and fun in a no-pressure zone, join us for the Dry July Event: 30 Days to Wellness. This is an excellent way to get a jumpstart on yourself and have fun while you do it!

When you are in full-tilt action-taker mode and you want to do private Coaching with me, you can book a call here.

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Powerful Sobriety

One of my Addiction Unlimited besties is the textbook definition of a recovery warrior. He's in his second year sober, has been a valuable member of our Facebook group and Sober Society Membership community, and is an incredible example of how to get through sobriety, know yourself, and learn how to set boundaries to protect your recovery.

I respect and admire Michael so much because he's all about supporting other goal-getters to understand the activities needed to go from having multiple 'day one again' to powerful, fun recovery. And what I find most impressive about him is his willingness to look at his life and habits and recognize where and how he needs to protect his recovery and make it his number one priority.

In this episode, Michael shares his best tools and advice for creating a life and sobriety that lights you up -- and you know this is so important as a recovering person. You'll learn:

How to be resourceful and find the tools that work for you Tools to manage social situations and put your recovery and comfort FIRST How to get involved in online communities (like Sober Society!) to build relationships and have fun Ways to look at yourself, be resilient, and stick with recovery even when it takes multiple tries

Not only will you get some powerful insights on how to become the best sober version of yourself possible, but I know you'll walk away feeling super empowered by Michaels's recovery and honesty about his journey.

Get more here:

Join Addiction Unlimited Facebook group here.

Interested in having your very own recovery community and safe place to learn about yourself and sobriety? Check out my Sober Society membership community :-)

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Surprise! Enjoy a free gift from me! I've planned a free Dry July Event: 30 Days to Wellness so that you are confident in your sober journey and... can I even say it.... FUN?!

You'll love this event and the super easy plan I've mapped out for you because all you have to do is show up and follow along with the fun and simple prompts I have for you to make your Dry July feel easy breezy. Click here to get your spot for this free 30 day event to spice up your sober life.

There are two kinds of people in this world. Those who have routines, and those who don't. Especially when dealing with addiction because we tend to only have two modes... 100% enthralled... or completely uninterested.

I definitely have routines in every area of my life and it's a good mix of wellness, Henry, and family. #auntielife

I'm not here to tell you how to create your routine or what it should be.

On today's podcast, I'm going to share with you how challenging it can be when our routines get totally disrupted and what you can do to get back on track. What you should know is, everyone has their own routine and no two are the same. And did I mention that you can have successful routines even when you are super busy, like we all are, with a lot on your plate?

You get to design your own life and you get to call the shots with what routines are important to you and how you recalibrate when you get thrown off because, we all know, life is going to get in the way and throw you a curve ball.

Whether it's travel, work, getting sick, moving, or an unexpected death in the family I hope this episode inspires you to look at your routines a little differently and know that getting off balance is normal, and perfectly okay.

Join me in the Facebook group here so I can answer your questions and support you in your journey.

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"Machines are built to work 24/7, but not human beings."

This is a fantastic quote from Marie Forleo that has always stood out to me because most humans aren't very good at balancing all the areas of life to be sane and healthy.

And that goes for our mental wellness, too.

We have to be aware of how we set boundaries around our time and energy, but also our mental wellness.

In this episode with Ashley Sperber-Hirsch, we take a deep dive into the connection between our emotional and physical well-being. If you don't take care of your emotional struggles and resolve those things that are unresolved that angst and dis-ease will manifest with physical symptoms.

If I'm honest, I haven't always been great at setting boundaries, or sticking to them. In fact, I had to learn the hard way when I wore myself down to a point of almost being hospitalized.

Over the years, I've definitely come to understand the importance of being aware of my mental wellness, just as much as I'm aware of my need for exercise, dog kisses, and time with my family. It's required, not optional.

But before you can make strides to nourish your beautiful emotional mind, there's one thing I know for sure... you have to understand how important it is in your daily life that you take care of yourself. You have to know the WHY.

Take a moment and answer these questions for yourself.

Why do you want to make a commitment to better mental wellness? Why do you want to stay with it day in and day out? Why is it important to you? (and your family)

Getting crystal clear on why you are doing this is imperative if you want to make your mental health and self-care a priority and make it work for you.

Join me in the Facebook group for more conversation, support, and healthy living. ❤️

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Stalled Social Life

It's Friday night and you're home, alone, zero invitations to go anywhere, it's just you, your seltzer, and Netflix. Again.

You feel like your social life is stalled, you're stuck in a rut of boring, and your regular activities just aren't doing it for you right now.

But what do you do? How do you "have more fun"? And what about the crippling social anxiety you get when you go places where other people are??

Well, you're in the right place, my friend, because in this episode we aren't only talking about how to find more things to do, but I'm also giving you the lowdown on how to get your anxiety in check once you get there.

If that little voice in your head is saying:

What the heck do I do now? Everything I do involves drinking. Everyone I know, drinks. How do I have fun, if I’m not drinking?

Then you'll want to listen up, because I'm giving you all the answers. Not only are we taking a deep dive in some powerful ways to find fun things to do, but I'm giving you a step-by-step checklist on how to start breaking down your anxiety so that you can start planning fun events without that feeling of sheer panic.

I'm the master of faking a headache to leave early because my anxiety has all the power. But with a few simple actions, I put my anxiety on the back burner and I'm going to teach you how to do the same.

When you want to get out in the world, have fun and meet people it's important to make sure you are doing things you love and not getting stuck in people-pleasing mode.

As a bonus, I'm going to give you a couple of quick questions to ask yourself to make sure you are doing things for yourself and not for others.

Then we'll talk about strategies to break down your anxiety on a daily basis so that you feel confident going out in the world, and then we dig into some super simple strategies to get you out of your pajama pants and surrounded by two-legged friends who actually speak your language.

And then there's a special bonus for you in the Facebook group, if you're not a member you can join here.

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Sex Addiction

What kind of life do you dream of living?

What type of impact do you want to have on your family and the people you love?

If you don't think it's possible to get crystal clear on how to take your sex addiction, or any addiction, and leverage it into massive purpose, recovery and impact after just one podcast episode... you've never met Jace Downey.

Jace is a busy lady who passionately splits her time between sharing her journey with sex addiction, practicing multiple modalities of healing and nurturing her life, and working toward creating a rural healing community for people to live and find peace.

Jace is on a mission to help passionate recovering souls to shed that shame-filled view on sex addiction and trauma, find inspiration, and change their lives.

Just like she has.

And let me give you fair warning... Jace is a force to be reckoned with.

She's a loving dog mom, loves dance and somatic healing, and learning how to work a farm and live off-the-grid... that's just an average day for Jace.

And in this episode, Jace is breaking down how healing and exploration guides her in life, and in business. And we have some great book recommendations for you if you are struggling with sex addiction and trauma healing!

If you want more support and tools, join us in the Facebook group by clicking here.

Find all the free videos Jace was talking about here: www.youtube.com/jacedowney

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Judgmental Person

Being a judgmental person is usually a defense mechanism people use to try to boost their own sense of self-worth. Being judgy and gossipy is a way to get an ego boost, although it has quite the opposite effect. You know the people who are at the office or the gym or the pool party with something negative to say about everyone and creating an air of superiority in their own lives and choices? Yes, we all know those people. And because I used to be that person, and I have worked with so many for so long... I recognize the signs and the underlying discomfort that can put the brakes on the self-improvement journey for so many people that just want to feel better and be better. There are questions that arise when we think about dealing with a judgmental person. Questions like:

What does it mean to be judgmental? Why are people judgmental? How do I deal with judgmental people??

And all these questions are exactly why I did this episode! Because these questions creep up everywhere, especially as we are trying to heal and get control of our lives back.

Which means, we need answers so we can continue to heal ourselves and understand how to better deal with the people around us who push our buttons.

So, in this episode, I want to help you push through the negative thoughts and personalizing other people's judgmental nature so you can move forward, make bold decisions, and show up to regain control and build the life you know you deserve.

In fact, I share a few real-life examples of what being judgmental looks like so you can see if you have some work to do on yourself in this area, we talk about the underlying issues and what drives someone to this behavior (and how it's not your fault!), and some powerful strategies on how to deal with judgmental people without letting them drain your energy and ruin your day.

And, just a friendly reminder... 16 years into my recovery and self-improvement journey and I still have to watch myself on this one. But it gets so much better and easier!

Being judgmental doesn't have to continue to hold you down and keep you from being the person you want to be.

In fact, sometimes it 's recognizing the thoughts and counteracting them for the first time that allows you to have a major breakthrough moment.

There is a lot of power in these small shifts in our thoughts and behaviors that bring HUGE results in your life.

So settle in and get comfortable and let's figure out how to flip the script on judgment and negativity.

And here are the links I promised you in the episode:

Join the FB group here.

Join the Sober Society member community with 3 online meetings per week, tons of support and content each week, and no commitments.

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Alcoholic Spouse

Choosing to get sober can be one of the scariest, wildest, and most beautiful decisions you ever make.

But what about the people you share your life with and, possibly, shared drinks with?

Those that held your hair while you were sick, forgave you for the awful things you said and did, who babysat you, tucked you in, and lied to your family and friends to protect you.

Addiction doesn't only affect the alcoholic, for better or worse. It also profoundly affects the lives of the people closest to you.

In this episode, Amorie and Steven talk about how alcoholism and sobriety has both challenged and strengthened their relationship.

We talk about the before and after, how their relationship has changed, how they've grown, and how alcoholism really affected their lives.

And, you are invited to the conversation.

I'm sitting down with one of my favorite guests ever, Amorie, to talk about what has changed in her marriage thanks to alcohol, and how you can support, protect, and grow your relationship while you build your recovery support that helps you be a better partner.

We talk about:

How she struggled and what roadblocks her husband saw early on What was the hardest part for her husband as the spouse of someone getting sober And the connection recovery has brought to their marriage

I hope this episode gives you the encouragement to tackle the difficult and awkward parts head on with the people you love.

My alcoholism affected everyone around me, and I make sure my recovery does, too.

For more support and conversation, join us in the Facebook group!

Thinking about working with me as your Coach? Check out the options here.

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High Functioning Alcoholic

Many people deny a drinking problem because they are a high functioning alcoholic. You haven't had a tragic rock bottom moment yet, so you can continue to tell yourself, "I'm not that bad". But, rock bottom isn't about tragedy or an event that happens to you.

Rock bottom is that feeling you have when your mind is screaming for help, screaming to make it stop, begging for some force to take the desire to drink from you because you can’t bear to live this way anymore.

For me it was so sad, how I felt. My thoughts were dark I hated myself and hated my life, I lied to everyone, every thought I had was full of negativity, judgment, and disdain. Disdain for everything. My body hurt, my heart hurt. That’s rock bottom.

It’s not DUIs and car crashes and getting kicked out of the house and losing everything.

Rock bottom isn’t what happens to you, it’s how you feel when you get to that place that you just can’t go on living the same way for another moment.

And it doesn’t matter what the thing is- alcohol, divorce, weight, illness- we will all have many rock bottoms in many different areas of our lives over the years. Other researchers and specialists estimate that as much as 50 to 75% of those with AUDs are able to function at a high level in many areas of their life.* The first piece of this conversation I want to talk about is the infamous rock bottom. I am a believer that you tend to connect these two concepts- rock bottom and high-functioning. Because it seems as though the people who have a tragic rock bottom used to be considered low-bottom or low-functioning

I had a low-bottom moment, but was very high-functioning in my life and alcoholism.

And, as I spoke about in that prior episode- we tend to connect the rock bottom moment to an event or tragedy. But, the truth is, rock bottom is a feeling, not an event.

Want to join us for more conversation after the episode? Join me in the Facebook Group!

*Benton, S.A. (2009). Understanding the high-functioning alcoholic: Professional views and personal insights. Westport, CT: Praeger Publishers.

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Porn Addiction

One of the fastest growing addictions is sex and porn addiction.

Just because something is uncomfortable to talk about, doesn’t mean we can ignore it and sweep it under the rug because it’s awkward.

Addictions of every kind are on the rise- food, drugs, sex, alcohol, shopping...all of them.

And today's guest teaches his most successful strategies for living a healthy lifestyle, abstinent from sex and porn addiction.

Get ready for all the hidden secrets:

What are the signs and symptoms?

Is there porn addiction withdrawal?

I'm so excited to welcome Matt Sinkovitz to Addiction Unlimited Podcast to give us some insider info and how this addiction affects people, their lives, and relationships. This episode is a must-listen, especially if you are wondering how sex and porn addiction may be affecting you or someone you love, and your goal is to get control of your life back, have freedom, personal fulfillment... and more.

As a practitioner and teacher of personal & spiritual development for over a decade, he sets the stage to build a successful foundation for abstinence and recovery. He is an avid student of mindfulness and meditation, and Matt graduated from the Blue Mountain School of Mindfulness Arts seminary program with a Masters in Buddhist Ministry.

And now, he serves as a spiritual guide and interfaith chaplain in prisons and hospitals.

Overcoming his 20+ year compulsive relationship with porn he's here to share his journey and talk about:

How to get help What recovery looks like Long-term effects of porn addiction

Plus, Matt reveals his abstinence success tips and how thinking outside-the-box when it comes to getting help can ease the shame and stigma.

Learn more about Matt's program, Porn to Purpose, by clicking here.

Join me in the Addiction Unlimited Facebook group here. It's free, and private!

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People often ask me their most challenging life questions and want to know how I manage the day-to-day struggles we all go through.

And I will always tell you I live and die by knowing myself, my strengths, and my weaknesses.

Without that strong sense of self I wouldn't be able to set myself up for success in all areas of my life, recognize when something needs removed from my life, when I need to get help, and when it's time to refuel.

And that's why today's episode is so important. I want you to imagine feeling clarity, getting control of your life back and not feeling like you are constantly chasing your tail with more questions than answers. Instead, I want you to feel cool as a cucumber as you build the life of your dreams.

We'll talk about:

Dating as a sober person and how I navigate that conversation to work for all parties involved How long it took to get to a place where NOT drinking became a way of life The necessities you need to work on to deal with stress, anxiety, and angst like an old sober pro Pulling back the curtain on this whole higher power convo and how to not stress out about it

If you want to know how I've made it through years of personal development to go from a hot mess express to sober and powerful with a beautiful life, a ton of incredible and fun friends, and an inner confidence I never knew possible... you're in the right place.

And.. if you want to get answers to your questions and sober support, join us in the Facebook group- it's free and private!

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You want to set healthy boundaries, but you feel guilty.

A people-pleaser in a family that didn’t talk about feelings, sweep everything under the rug, and maybe you were labeled as 'too emotional'.

Then, you grew up believing you don't have the right to say no to things or stand up for yourself.

Our guest today, Amanda E. White, knows that journey, too.

Amanda struggled with her own high expectations of herself and the shame that comes when you don’t meet those expectations- and all that shame manifested through drinking, an eating disorder, unhealthy relationships, and so much more.

Growing up, you create a picture of yourself as a 'nice' person, and being a nice person means you do things for others, you help people, you say yes to things because you're nice. And, unfortunately, that doesn't set you up for success in healthy boundaries and protecting yourself, your time, and well-being.

If you want to start working on setting some healthy boundaries, Amanda is going to give you a couple of key one-liners to get you started with healthy boundaries and lessening some of that guilt you feel when you think about it.

As helping professionals it's your own journey of healing your wounds that leads you to do this work to help others. It is heart-centered and passion-based. I know for me, I have such a desire to support people in their journey because I know, firsthand, how difficult this deep personal work is.

I know what it feels like to look at your life and feel disgusted and defeated. I know what it feels like to think you will never get your life together and be a good person because so many areas of your life are messed up and you can’t even figure out where to start. That’s where I was.

And our guest, knows that journey, too.

Learn more about Amanda by clicking here.

For more support and recovery conversation, join us in the Facebook group by clicking here.

If you want to get access to the Free Resource Library on codependence, boundaries, and self esteem, click here.

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You may equate self-discipline and self-control to be virtually the same thing, and according to Webster’s Dictionary they pretty much are. But when it comes to the world of psychology, they are defined as two different processes.

Having strong self-control can help you keep your debit card on lockdown and save you from impulse shopping on Amazon. It can help you refrain from having another cookie when they are calling your name. Or, it can help you refrain from giving your number to that person you have no business giving your number to.

This is a struggle so many of my clients have, and it can make you feel bad about yourself.

What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I stop doing this? I’m shopping too much and it’s causing problems in my marriage, or, I’m working too much and it’s causing problems in my marriage.

I’m over-eating and I feel like crap! I can’t figure out this sugar thing! I quit drinking and now I’m eating sugar like crazy!

Lacking self-control can cause a host of problems from your temper getting the best of you, to deciding in a split second to go down the liquor aisle at the grocery store and put booze in your cart.

It’s that instant gratification thing we talk about in so many episodes. I want it right now, I don’t want to wait, I want to feel better now!

And, this is a damaging way to live. You will get much farther in every way if you have the ability to regulate yourself, and love delayed gratification. You will naturally make better decisions if you aren’t clouded by the need for instant gratification.

Think about it like this: self-discipline is the gas pedal, and self-control is the brake.

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You want to learn how to stop letting alcohol ruin your mood, your behavior, and damaging your life. But figuring out weekends, and vacations, and coping skills all feel overwhelming.

It feels like there is so much to manage when quitting drinking. And this is why it's so important to get back to basics and keep things super simple.

Your recovery path is your choice. I think this is something we don't talk about enough- even if you go to a program, you still get to choose how you create your recovery journey.

This episode is a great conversation about recovery, the stumbling blocks of 12 steps, how to stay sober without the 12 steps, and be a better human being.

Do you need a program? Are you powerless? Do you have to quit forever? Are you an alcoholic?

These are all questions we dig into in this episode. A portrayal of recovery and all the terms and all the different belief systems we have around this illness... and remembering that you have the choice to do your recovery however you want to do your recovery.

For additional resources to use in your recovery, please visit Currie's Non-Profit - Freedom Through Choice Foundation

And you can find Currie on the Recovery My Way Podcast by clicking here.

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Do you feel like you are in a bit of a personal rut? You’re in good company: the number of people struggling with their mental health has increased considerably in the past two years.

Thankfully, feeling stuck in a rut is something you have the tools to deal with, and in this episode we'll talk about how.

We’ll also deep dive into the why behind ruts and look at ways to avoid falling into a rut in the first place.

In general, I like to think of a rut like this: If someone asked you how something was going (your meal plan, your job, your relationship, etc.) and your honest answer was somewhere along the lines of... “meh” ... that’s a rut.

When you lack direction, you will lack action, and when you lack action you languish. In fear.

Something I really want you to get about this particular issue is that you have to do SOMETHING- it doesn’t have to be the RIGHT thing, but you have to start somewhere.

Being stuck in a rut is its own comfort zone that gives you the security of avoidance and certainty. Even if being stuck in a rut feels bad, you know exactly what to expect. Leaving the comfort zone forces you to face a host of unknowns- what will you do, what will it feel like, what if you make a mistake, what if you make the wrong choice, what if you aren't good at it... these are all the fears and unknowns that make you stay stuck in the rut. Because the rut is familiar, there are no unknowns, and it allows you to avoid responsibility for yourself and your life.

The good news is, you don't have to figure it out alone! And you can start by joining us in the Facebook group by clicking here.

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When you work in the service industry as a bartender, server, chef, or anything else, you know firsthand the culture is all about late nights and hard partying.

People who work in restaurants, food service or hospitality have higher rates of problem drinking and substance abuse than the general population.

As I researched this topic, this fact came up over and over again, year after year.

And it's a life I lived for two decades.

When the time comes that you have to face hanging up your party hat, the overwhelm is even more daunting when it is, literally, your job.

The questions run rampant in your head, "Can I do it??", "Will I have to leave my profession??", "Will sober people accept me??"

Thankfully there are friends and resources now to support us in every field, including the food and beverage industry.

Ben's Friends co-founder, restauranteur Steve Palmer said to Forbes magazine, “The industry enabled my addiction so readily and completely that I nearly drank myself to death on the job,” says Palmer.

I can easily relate to that statement.

Sober people are powerful and innovative, and we can overcome obstacles like no others. So Steve Palmer and Mickey Bakst joined forces to create a sober community for service industry workers. We have seen far too many good people lose themselves, their careers, and sometimes even their lives to alcohol and drug abuse. We were compelled to act when Ben Murray, a friend and colleague, took his life in 2016 because of his addiction. We could no longer stand by and watch tragedies strike around us – we needed to try to help. Through the pain of this loss, Ben’s Friends was created. https://www.bensfriendshope.com/about Support and fellowship for food and beverage professionals with meetings online and in-person in some cities. A safe space to connect and support one another Ben's Friends is a community, not a program.

Learn more about Ben's Friends here.

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My whole life I was a quitter.

I’d work out for awhile then quit. I’d lose a few pounds then quit and gain it back. I’d start a new thing I wanted to do, and as soon as it was hard I’d quit.

I was so scared to fail and scared to feel embarrassed and scared what people would think of me that I wouldn’t even try.

But in a single moment I knew, the pain of changing was nowhere near the pain of staying the same.

For me, sobriety was a huge self-esteem builder because my sobriety is the only thing I had ever been fully committed to, other than drinking.

It was the first time I said I was going to do something, and I actually did it. I followed through every day, I showed up every day, I made it a priority, I treated it as the most important thing in my life, and I did it.

I had never done that before.

Self esteem feels so challenging because it isn’t a tangible construct- it’s not something you can read the manual, go do the steps, and you’re all fixed.

It’s psychological.

It’s your true thoughts about yourself, who you are as a person, how you handle your life, how honest or dishonest you are, how strong or weak you believe yourself to be, and how much you trust yourself.

Self-Esteem is an inside job.

Join us in the Facebook group for the after-pod conversation by clicking here.

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Be happy in your relationship even if your partner won't do a thing!

Are you in the midst of a relationship rough patch or trying to heal from the last one?

No relationship is free from ups and downs, but we often lack the skills to jump in, do the work, and make it better.

And with the last couple of years of people being stuck at home with a lot of togetherness, anxiety being at an all-time high and the state of the world in general distress... we can all use some support.

Today's guest is super funny AND super experienced! Relationship expert Abby Medcalf is teaching us how to create a happy and connected relationship even if your partner won't do a thing!

3 major points of this one are:

shifting your relationship and communication mindset connect to correct and an amazing tool to make your communication feel easy breezy

Abby shares a simple phrase to help you communicate your thoughts more clearly and help your partner understand where you're coming from.

Join us in the Facebook group for after-the-show conversation, click here.

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I'm giving you my deepest codependence secrets in this one and I'm willing to bet you can relate!

This is the second episode in my 3-part series, Boundaries, Codependence, & Self-Esteem.

I like doing the deep dive into these concepts, figuring out how to apply it to your daily life how it makes sense for you, and getting real strategies about how to make changes.

These struggles of codependence, boundaries and self-esteem are universal. These aren’t issues specific to addiction- they’re specific to life.

At the same time, you can’t effectively recover for the long-term without addressing some of this stuff and making improvements.

Otherwise, you will still continue to be uncomfortable and not proud of who you are as a person and when you have that underlying discomfort and low self-esteem… it makes it very challenging to recover, very challenging to stay sober, and that’s when we transfer to another unhealthy behavior.

As an alcoholic, if I continue to be uncomfortable and not like myself, there’s a huge chance I will go back to drinking.

If I stay sober, and still feel uncomfortable and don’t like, trust, or believe in myself, then I will transfer to another unhealthy habit or addiction. Sex, food, shopping… whatever it may be.

To recover from life and all the curve balls it will throw at you, it’s imperative we see these troublesome pieces of ourselves and spend some time healing them.

I’m going to start this episode by laying out some codependent behaviors. And I’m going to take it a step further- there are different reasons we use different codependent behaviors and today we are going to dig in to denial patterns, compliance patterns, and control patterns.

If you want to be a part of the conversation after the show, join me in the Facebook Group here.

And if you want to get the Resource Library: Boundaries, Codependence, & Self-Esteem, click here!

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Gambling is addictive because it stimulates the brain's reward system much like drugs or alcohol can.

In fact, gambling addiction is the most common impulse control disorder worldwide. THAT... is a bold and frightening statement from addictioncenter.com and I feel like I'm still a little in shock from reading it.

Not enough people are talking about this, and the effects of gambling addiction on our families and relationships is devastating.

It's also a huge companion to alcoholism. That probably doesn't come as a shock when you think about it!

Jamie, creator of the After Gambling Podcast, was a competitive golfer, honor student, and math whiz. In this particular situation those math skills did not help the situation...

He walks us through the signs and symptoms of

crossing the line from fun to problem behavior common triggers for gambling addiction and how a pocket dial to his fiancé brought his world to its knees... oops

To learn more about Jamie, you can find him here: https://www.aftergambling.com/

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When you don't set healthy boundaries with the people around you, it sends a crystal-clear message... and it's one you may not be aware of.

There are several types of boundaries you are setting everyday without even realizing it. When you ignore a phone call because you are in the middle of your morning routine and getting kids out the door... that's a time boundary. You don't have time in that moment to deal with that call.

When you are standing in line at the store and someone steps too close to you, you move away. That's a physical boundary and establishing comfortable personal space.

We set time, physical, emotional boundaries, as well as relationship boundaries and others.

Setting healthy personal boundaries is how you communicate to others that you have self-respect, self-worth, and you won't let people walk all over you.

Do you feel:

pushed pressured bullied controlled

If any of that list feels familiar, this episode is for you!

And there's another trap with unhealthy boundaries! You don't set healthy boundaries, you overextend yourself and that makes you tired and grumpy, other things in your life suffer because you spread yourself too thin, then you want to be mad at the person you didn't set boundaries with like it's their fault!

Oh. My. Goodness.

But that's the cold hard truth, my friends.

We get angry at the person because we didn't have the courage to step up for ourselves and say "no". This is how anger and resentment starts to brew... and if you want to live a healthy and happy life, there is no space for anger and resentment.

Listen to this episode, then join us in the Facebook Group for the after-the-show conversation!

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Taking adversity and using it to our advantage is the name of the game around here. And today is no different.

Is it difficult for you to make decisions in your relationships? Do you have trouble identifying your feelings, communicating effectively and trusting yourself?

If you are furiously nodding your head yes.... you'll definitely want to listen to this episode!

Michelle Farris takes us into a deeper understanding of what it means to be codependent, how it affects us, and how we can start to make those much-needed changes.

This is a journey with a person who took her own adversity and struggles with relationships and used it as a platform to create a better version of herself. Learning the issues and the solutions, and using that information to heal. And like the rest of us heart-centered healers, her victory became her passion.

Come with me on this journey to learn codependence from the inside out, and start healing.

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There's a bit more to drug and alcohol withdrawal than just the physical symptoms and discomfort.

The initial withdrawal or, detox, period is mostly about your body's healing and purging the poison.

The next phase is all about your brain.

Post Acute Withdrawal happens after that initial couple of weeks when you quit drinking and lay low to get over the physical withdrawal. But PAWS is what happens as your brain begins to heal and adjust to this "new normal" without substance.

It can happen a few weeks into recovery or a few months down the road and it is a temporary condition lasting anywhere from a few months up to a year.

The scary part is, PAWS is a driving factor in relapse.

Your natural feel-good chemicals are all out of whack and your brain is in a major reboot phase. And if your natural feel-good chemicals aren't firing right... how good do you think you're going to feel??

We're digging in to all the details of PAWS. What is it, why does it happen, what are the symptoms, and what the heck can you do about it?!?

AND... I made you a PAWS Quick-Start Guide: Feel Better Faster, you can get that by clicking here.

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Our relationship with food has become disordered and borderline obsessive. As we ring in the new year we ring in new promises to ourselves to "be better", "try harder", and make all those changes we thought about last year.

But, it doesn't have to be such a struggle to learn good eating habits.

Especially if you have a healthy understanding of how to do it, and how to set your expectations appropriately.

Did you hear that? AP-PRO-PRIATELY. Say it again.

In this episode, food and fitness expert, Adam Gilbert, sets the record straight on the most common pitfalls of making lifestyle changes and how to overcome them.

And this isn't the same old stuff you hear and read everywhere - Adam digs in to the good stuff that helps you create the change you crave.

Three lightbulb moments to listen for:

discomfort is our compass the truth about self-sabotage (omg... blew my mind and changed everything!) support & accountability to really change the game

Adam's view on his health changed drastically after watching his father struggle with health issues, then get diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. In that moment he began to understand the importance of what goes in our bodies and how we treat them. And, although he was young, he started his own journey into wellness.

Now, he's the Founder of My Body Tutor, an online coaching and accountability platform that matches you with your very own coach for daily support as you move toward your health goals.

Find Adam here: https://www.mybodytutor.com/

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You know you want to change. You know you need to change. Yet, you resist change for some reason you have yet to understand.

This episode's for you.

But that old saying, "You can't teach an old dog new tricks", just isn't true. Not saying you are old... or a dog...

The truth is, old habits are hard to break. And new ones are challenging to create. But if you follow these 6 easy steps, you'll be a healthy habit champion in no time!

I'd love to tell you, "Just believe in yourself!", but we aren't always good at that. Especially if you've been battling the same ugly habits for years and losing.

What I will tell you is... believe in your ability. Because you are able, and capable, of doing anything you want. And I'm happy to show you how.

Listen in for my lightbulb moment that gave me a HUGE perspective shift, the 6 easy steps, and one of my super secret keys to success.

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Drinking less and feeling better is the desire of struggling drinkers everywhere.

It's why we start this journey in the first place, right? Less alcohol consumption, better life.

My guest on today's episode, Gillian Tietz, changed her life forever when she was forced to take a hard look at her drinking habits and as a result, her quest for moderation came to a halt.

But then, the unthinkable happened.

Gill experienced the relief she was seeking with no alcohol at all.

And she's breaking it all down during our conversation in this episode.

In it, Gill is throwing a wrench in the whole concept of moderation for alcoholics. So, if you've been looking for guidance on whether or not you are someone who can moderate, or someone who needs to quit altogether, you're in the right place.

In this episode, Gill and I talk about:

Exactly what Gill went through in her moderation journey How to recognize how badly you feel (instead of trying to sweep it under the rug and power through) How us problem-drinkers can begin to shift our perspective on getting help, instead of continuing to hide and be miserable

You don't have to ride the train all the way to a dramatic and tragic rock bottom. In fact, you won't get better if you can't get real.

So hang up your drunken dancing shoes, my friend, and listen to my less-is-more conversation with Gillian Tietz.

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You can't drive your car looking in the rearview mirror so why do you live your life that way?

If you want to move forward and create a new life, you have to look forward.

In this episode, I'm bringing you a BIG solution to a BIG problem.

It's big solution because it is so necessary for success in this journey. Not only the recovery journey, but the life journey!

I KNOW IT'S NOT EASY. But it's totally worth the effort.

Bottom line: Forgiving yourself helps you build self-esteem, trust with yourself, and creates self-respect. AND - if you are working on forgiveness and acceptance on a regular basis, you won't have to work as hard when poo hits the fan.

Meaning, it's easier to get quick relief when you are practicing healthy actions daily.

So no more excuses. Let's do this.

Trust me when I say, this could be the biggest game-changer for your sobriety.

And to help you make a commitment to action, I'm giving you a step-by-step process to follow that breaks down a system and tells you exactly how to get started.

If this was easy, everyone would do it and stay sober the first time they tried. You are with me right now because you want something more for your life. And, forgiving yourself is a foundation piece that is a must to grow your recovery.

It doesn't happen overnight, but if you start taking action TODAY, I promise you great things can happen.

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There’s a really good reason you hear “the struggle is real”.

Alcoholics and the alcohol-free alike hear the word “struggle” and think, “Ah, my familiar friend. I know exactly what the struggle feels like.”

It feels like poo. 💩

You could genuinely love your recovery!

But the hours it takes from the other areas of life that need you… plus the feeling there’s always something missing… are enough to steal the joy right out of the sobriety and life you love.

So I'd like to introduce you to my guest on today's episode, Christi Cripps.

Christi's life changed when she was forced to face the fact that her drinking problem had taken over her life. And when she did… she experienced more growth in her life than ever before.

When I heard this, I was like...

... I have to share this with my people!

And man, oh man, my friend, she's sharing it all ❤️

On today’s episode, Christi and I talk about:

Exactly how Christi recognized her problem AND what she did about it How to identify what the heck is happening (instead of convincing yourself that “it’s fine”... when it’s not.) How us achiever-types can begin to get comfortable getting help, instead of avoiding all the help out of pride (GUILTY)

I don’t want you to build a successful recovery lifestyle only to arrive at the place you’ve always dreamed of being… and then wish you were anywhere else because you aren't getting relief.

You don’t have to suffer all the way to sobriety. In fact, you won’t get to maintain sobriety if you feel like every step of the journey is a struggle.

So hang up your sober-curious cleats, and listen to my empowering conversation with Christi Cripps.

Join the Dry January Kickstarter: A 30-Day Bootcamp with Angela Pugh

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Do you wish you had more balance and control over your feelings and moods?

Tens of millions of people around the world struggle with anxiety, depression, and general overwhelm with life. And, although these feelings are now more common, many find it hard to understand what they're feeling and how to find the right solutions for them.

Rest assured there are solutions to this common discomfort and that's what we're talking about in this episode. You need support, emotionally and physically, and with a little guidance anyone can banish the panic that comes with not being able to identify feelings and manage them.

Identify, understand, and balance your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress and anxiety, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict.

If you're on the email list, you'll get my free feelings guide, too!

And if you're ready for the Dry January Kickstarter: A 30-Day Bootcamp with ME.... sign up here!

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Are you frustrated with having to face a partner who is still drinking or using drugs, when you've made the decision to change your life?

My guest on this episode is a master at putting together a powerful conversation with the partner you love, who is still on the drinking train.

Beverly Buncher is a person in recovery, a family recovery life coach, and innovator of the BALM method- a program designed for families impacted by substance and other use disorders.

In this episode, Beverly joins me to discuss what really works when trying to live with someone is stuck in their addiction.

We talk about the specific type of conversation that works to propel change, and what doesn't.

But more than that, Beverly and I also talk about how recovery gives us much more power in our lives than just the ability to stop suffering in addiction.

When we direct our efforts, we have more freedom to decide on our next steps and building our future.

Find Beverly here: https://www.facebook.com/FamilyRecoveryResources

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Skills, strategies, tools for your emotional toolbox… coping skills are anything, any activity that is good for your mental wellness.

Let’s start with the dictionary.com definition of “coping mechanism”, then we’ll go deeper- an adaptation to environmental stress that is based on conscious or unconscious choice and that enhances control over behavior or gives psychological comfort. Coping skills are things that we can do in the moment, when we are feeling something, to help us turn down the volume of our emotions and avoid getting overwhelmed. They help us to get through stressful situations with a little more ease, and without doing something we’ll regret later on.

Coping skills aren’t going to solve the deep, underlying issues. Having healthy coping strategies isn’t going to cure WHY you have the anger, resentment, or general discomfort in life. It doesn’t take all of that away.

What it does, is allow you to create more calm in your life so you can start to dig in to those things and understand them better.

Powerful coping skills allows you an entry point to get deeper into what’s really bothering you.

Different coping skills serve a different purpose, too, so let's dive in to the coping strategies that will change the way you live.

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It can be hard to figure out how to spend your time when you leave booze and alcohol behind. At the same time, if you're willing to step out of your comfort zone and make use of that extra brain power, that's all it takes.

In this episode Henry Ward talks about his recovery and this feeling of, "Is this it??".

How do you find your passion in recovery? How do you figure out what you like to do again and then balance it all with life and family and work?

If you've ever asked those questions, you'll love Henry's story of getting comfortable being uncomfortable, navigating the surprise twists and turns of life, and learning to love yourself and your new life, post-addiction.

QUICK REMINDER: The Holiday Gift Guide for Sober Gifts is now available! If gifting the sober people in your life has left you scratching your head, you won't want to miss this! I also have gift guides for the Beauty Lover, the Homebody, Lifestyle gifts, and Recovery Apparel!

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If I'm being totally honest, I was a quitter my whole life.

I didn't want to do hard things. I didn't care about being committed to something, and I was too selfish to get off my buns and show up for something when I didn't feel like it.

I had so much fear of embarrassing myself, people not liking me, messing things up... I isolated and fed my fear then, whenever I did try something... I quit as soon as it was inconvenient or hard.

It's easy to quit things when they feel difficult or uncomfortable.

Some days I want to quit work! I just don't feel like recording a new episode or responding to emails. If I had my way, I would lay on the couch with Henry binge watching The Real Housewives and researching new skin care products. But that wouldn't get me too far in my life, lol.

And when it comes to recovery, quitting is not an option.

One of the reasons I fell in love with recovery so quickly was because it was the first thing I had ever been committed to other than drinking.

As we roll into this holiday season and stress is at an all-time high, I don't want you to quit and give up on your recovery.

In this episode we'll talk about 6 things you can do to keep your sobriety strong through family gatherings, travel, and holiday shopping.

And, of course I made you a cheatsheet! Get over to the Facebook Group and I will post the cheatsheet there. Snap a pic on your phone and keep it close by so you have solutions at your fingertips.

Be a fighter, not a quitter.

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Food Addiction Need a confidence boost when it comes to overcoming addiction and the overwhelm of food cravings that come with it?

It's important for you to know what's really going on with your food, and how it affects addiction.

If you would have told me 15 years ago about emotional eating and the physical effects of food, I probably would have bailed on the whole thing.

Clear thought process, more energy, looking better... all on the other side of understanding food? Not sure I could have done it.

But after 15 years of using food for everything from fun, comfort, and connection... I have good news for you.

You don't have to fall down the shame spiral of wondering what the heck is wrong with you because you want to eat every cookie, donut, and XL plate of food you can find. And you don't have to be perfect.

But understanding the ins and outs of food, what's in it, and how it's manipulating you will give you more confidence and allow you to make better choices for your life.

And in this episode, that's what we're doing.

Dr. Joan Ifland is spelling it out for you. After years of personal experience, research, and writing a textbook, she's giving you all the insider information on what the food industry is really up to.

And it's not good.

If you are food challenged and in need of a little confidence boost when it comes to choosing how to treat yourself for maximum energy and brain power, I recorded this episode with you in mind :)

And I'll tell you now, I was shocked by what I learned and more motivated than ever.

To continue the discussion after the show, join us in the private FB group here.

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You’re cruising along in your day feeling good, just minding your own business, when all of a sudden the thought of a drink pops in your head.

What the heck?!?

You don't want to drink, you know it tried to ruin your life and you don't do it well, so why is your brain thinking about it?!?

Then, your brain wants to take it to a whole other level telling you you can do it!

Maybe you can control it now. You could drink today and no one would even know. You could just have one, that’s easy to hide.

Here’s the deal- cravings are totally normal.

Having a craving doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you or that you are doing it wrong- it doesn’t mean you are weak or that your program isn’t working. It's just your brain, doing brainy things!

Three key takeaways from this episode:

Cravings are NORMAL. Cravings are brought on by triggers. Studies show that an average craving lasts around 20 minutes.

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Find the Relapse Triggers episode here.

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Addiction Unlimited has an incredible, supportive Facebook group and today’s episode is one of our listeners, and one of my MVPs in the FB group. I plucked him right out of the crowd to come on and do an episode with me to share his journey, his struggles, and his strengths.

Stephen shares how his sobriety made him feel ostracized from the gay community because his identity had revolved around bars and clubs. Just like you and me.

As his sobriety grew, his new identity began to form. He is proud to be sober and wants to share all the great things he’s experienced living a recovery lifestyle. And he didn’t just sit back and wish he had a new sober community… he created his own!

You can find him on Facebook at Sober Gay Socials and if you’re around Manchester in the UK you have a sober family to laugh with!

This episode is full of laughs, and a true celebration of the gifts of sobriety.

For so many years you feel trapped, like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel.

It feels lonely, like you’re different from everyone and don’t fit anywhere.

That’s the drinking part of the story.

Now, let’s get to the good stuff. Break free from all that's holding you back... and live.

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Sober Gay Socials on Facebook here.

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It surprised me to read that some 40 million adults in the US have some sort of anxiety disorder. That's a lot!

I've known for several years that I have anxiety. And it can manifest in different ways at different times. Sometimes it's social anxiety where I don't like being in a group of people. Even if it's people I know and love.

Sometimes, if I isolate too much, I can get some anxiety about leaving the house and getting out in the world. Other times, I worry.

Worry about money, the future, am I making good decisions, should I be doing more, am I doing too much... you name it, I can worry about it.

In my search for solutions I came across this very interesting, and effective, method for managing my anxiety. I had always categorized this as a luxury, not a therapy. Boy, was I wrong.

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Let’s talk recovery fatigue.

Not the kind of fatigue where you are tired because you are early in your recovery and your body is on the roller coaster ride of it’s lifetime- but the fatigue you feel because you are doing so many things for your recovery you feel exhausted by it all.

You are told you have to make your recovery your #1 priority if you want to stay sober, and you are taking it seriously. You're doing meetings and groups, maybe even outpatient treatment. You are reading all the latest and greatest books by the incredible gurus and influencers, you are journaling and reading daily recovery inspirations, you are literally doing ALL THE THINGS.

Not only do you wonder if you have to keep this pace up for the rest of your sober life, but you are getting tired and overwhelmed. All the things don't feel as great as they did the first 30 days and the thought pops in, "Is this it?"

As your recovery activities start to lose their luster you wonder why it feels like it's taking more energy than it did in the beginning and you realize you are tired. Tired of recovery.

This fatigue starts feeling like your brain just won't function properly. You hear people use the term brain fog or, in self-help world we call it decision fatigue or brain fatigue.

You can't concentrate, it seems like simple tasks take forever, you're having to reread the same paragraph or going over the same things over-and-over.

Mentally exhausted, burned out, your brain is fried. Whatever you want to call it, it happens to all of us and it tends to sneak up on you after you have a stressful situation or when you've been thinking hard about something.

Most of us don’t have a problem recognizing physical exhaustion. Your limbs might feel heavy, your eyes droop, your energy is zapped. But recognizing when you’re mentally exhausted is a bit trickier.

In this episode I dig into a list of symptoms and, trust me when I say, a lot of these hit very close to home. And not only recognizing symptoms, but what it means, why it's happening, and what to do about it.

If you're feeling like you are drowning in meetings, quit lit, podcasts, and worksheets trying to do your absolute best and take your recovery seriously, and you are getting worn out... this episode is for you.

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Creating a life you love takes work.

We're supposed to eat healthy and cook fresh food for every meal, get 10,000 steps, meditate, work, sleep, take care of your family, exercise, go to your support group meetings, do self-care... and, seriously?!?

And don't forget we want all the results and changes RIGHT NOW. We are wired for instant gratification and 5 minutes is too long.

What if I told you there are a handful of super simple actions you can take, right now, that will definitely improve your life? Would you be willing to try? Even if it sounds too simple or it's something you don't "feel like" doing?

Well, I'm here for you, my friend! I found this fantastic article on Medium and it is a list of some of the best tools available. You can use it right now, get results, and practice these actions to continue to get better FOREVVVVVVVVVER!

As usual, we'll continue the convo in the Facebook group so join me over there! Click here.

Original article by Yousuf Rafi: https://medium.com/know-thyself-heal-thyself/10-micro-habits-to-improve-your-life-in-the-next-10-days-3c6c2a21557f

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"My journey led me to face not just alcohol and drugs, but all of my addictions and dependencies. My classic tale of descent and redemption can unleash the Superman hidden in each of us. A Superman who SAVES LIVES!"

Without the constant pressure that was pushing him to drink and engage in drug use, Adam turned his life around and was able to feel like himself again. He had big shoes to fill running his family business, the #1 lace manufacturers in the world. Now, he has sold the family business and has started his own coaching business called The Hero Project. In this program, Adam transforms his clients in 90 days and takes them from zero to hero, transforming pain into power.

"Getting sober woke up gifts in me that I never knew I had. But, at the same time, I was always wired for it." - yahoo.com

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Success stories tell-all.

I love hearing what other people are up to and how they build the amazing lives they are living. It's like a secret glimpse into the lifestyles of the sober and infamous 😂

In today's episode I reached out to a few of my friends and peers and asked them to share their #1 habit for building successful sobriety and enjoying life.

I'm talking about names you know in the sober world- Jarrod Collier, Jenn Kautsch, and Brock Bevell.

I was curious to know what habit really mattered and made a difference when it came to making lifestyle changes like... quitting drinking.

Because really, none of us needs to reinvent the wheel here! We can use each other's knowledge and experience to start building our own killer habits. I love to keep it simple!

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"I'm not in the results business. I'm in the effort business." - Wade Bergquist

Recovery is more than just putting down the drink. It's an accomplishment, a skill, a lifestyle and way of being, and in today's episode Wade and I are going to talk about how to step into this new life that is critical to your wellbeing, and why it's so rewarding to do this!

Wade talks about the importance of giving everything 150% of his effort if he wants it to work and success isn't measured by results, but by that effort you put in.

3 key points that stand out in this conversations are:

the skill of turning into your problems instead of running the other way when you get hit by a train it's not the caboose that kills you and the contrast of FOMO v. JOMO

If this episode is inspiring to you in some way, share it with me! Take a screenshot and tag me on Insta @addictionunlimited or post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me!

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There is a better life waiting for you.

And you're almost there.

I remember feeling like I would never be able to get over my fears and finally quit drinking. And, for awhile, I gave up.

The idea of giving up alcohol and everything it represents is terrifying. Wondering how your friends and family will react, questioning if you'll ever have fun again, and will you lose all your friends?!?

Even through all the unanswered questions you know you can't continue the yo-yo sobriety forever. It is exhausting. You are tired of waking up with the shame spiral and feeling all the pressure of not knowing how to overcome the fear and actually make a change.

I am so glad I didn’t give up entirely because now I get to know true freedom in my life instead of being a hostage to my drinking, I get to be present with my family and they know they can depend on me, and I like myself.

Something I NEVER thought I was capable of.

Telling yourself recovery is too hard, you can't do it, or you don't know how... are all lies to hide behind. Most of the time you don't even realize you're hiding. But when you begin to understand that these are lies, just stories you're telling yourself, then you can come out of the fear and isolation and start getting solutions.

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Wouldn't it be amazing to live in a world where you can talk about your mental health struggles and get love and support for doing it?

Ummm.... yes, please.

But I hear it all the time, people feel awkward and don't want to be judged for struggling with this issue or that issue and it feels like one of the biggest challenges there is.

My guest today, Archie Messersmith-Bunting (say that 3 times real fast), is going to clear up some confusion around this topic. He's going to tell you the difference between mental health and mental illness, and how to shift your perspective so that you can find the support and life you deserve.

Archie- a.k.a. The Feelings Guy - is an international speaker and the host of What A Feeling podcast.

Why is this topic so important, you ask?

Because Archie knows first hand how to figure out this road of sobriety, feelings & mental illness and he's sharing some of his best insights and personal struggles and how to use them to build a life where you are thriving, not just surviving.

If you are looking for more love and support on your journey, head over here and join us in the Facebook group. It's free & totally private.

And if you want to learn more from Archie, and, let's be honest, who wouldn't!?! You can find him right here.

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If you are sitting in early sobriety, or feeling "stuck" in your recovery, this conversation is for you.

In the beginning, motivation is high because there is some event that makes you stop and analyze what you're doing, ie. you embarrassed yourself at a party, you fell down drunk and hurt yourself, got in a fight with your partner, or got a DUI.

There is something that makes you wake up and think, "Holy crap, I've got to get it together."

But, as you've heard me say before, you can't depend on motivation because it comes... and it goes.

When it goes, staying sober is a challenge. Life strikes, throws you a curveball, emotions are triggered and you find yourself wanting a drink more than ever.

There are a few key skills you can start focusing on to set yourself up for success and we are doing a deep dive in this episode.

And for those of you who want more, join us in the Facebook group! Free, private, and we are going to be celebrating National Recovery Month all month!

Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Podcast mentioned in this episode: Sober Day One #104

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Are you exhausted by the constant chatter that wears you out and brings you down? If this sounds familiar then today's episode is for you.

You may think you just have anxiety, alcoholism or ADD, or many other things, but wait 'til you hear what's going on under the surface and how to heal it.

My special guest, Dr. Don Wood is an inspired leader in the field of trauma, healing, and how our brain controls us. This isn't only a field of interest for him, but a personal crusade that began with a desire to support his wife in her healing, and to unravel his daughter's illness from the inside out.

He has worked with some of the world's top athletes, is a renowned author, and has a special offer for Addiction Unlimited listeners!

Dr. Wood reveals how we've created codes in our brains that dictate our behaviors, like addiction, AND the way to re-write the code. You won't want to miss this.

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As human beings, we all struggle with a lack of communication skills, and have no fear, it's totally normal to feel overwhelmed with this sometimes. There are many things that make confrontation difficult and make you want to avoid it at all costs.

None of us wants to be in an argument or fight, we don't want to hurt each other's feelings or disappoint one another, but there are a few things we can do to navigate these tricky waters like a pro.

In this episode, I'm going to dive into 8 simple rules to fight fair that I swear by using everyday to prevent making some of the most common communication mistakes out there.

Tune in to find out how you can begin implementing these key strategies in your conversations and discussions today!

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It's a hundred miles into the forest, and a hundred miles out.

Sometimes it feels like it takes forever to get relief in sobriety. You want relief from the pain and you want it as quickly as possible. You see other people who look like they are thriving sober, they seem happy, they're smiling and laughing, but you aren't feeling any of that.

Dennis Berry, from The Funky Brain Podcast, breaks it down in this episode. He talks about the journey of sobriety and how you have to rewire your thought process for success in sobriety. Your brain has been conditioned for the instant gratification that alcohol and drugs provide, and the moment it feels uncomfortable you automatically go for the substance to make the feeling go away.

In recovery, you have to rewire your thinking for the long game. It took a long time to get to the level of drinking that I go to. It just makes sense that my recovery would take awhile, too.

It's a hundred miles into the forest, and a hundred miles out.

https://dennisberry.com/

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If you’re taking advice from more than 3 influencers, experts, gurus, teachers, mentors... whatever you want to call them… you are stunting your recovery growth.

A mentor is someone who has walked the path before you, and has succeeded in a way that you aspire to succeed, also. They give you tools, tips, and guidance that you can directly apply to your life.

Then, there are people you admire. You enjoy following them and seeing what they’re up to, listening to their podcasts and following their social media, however, they don’t necessarily align with your needs or your ambitions for your life.

The thing that sets apart an actual mentor is that you really take time to understand their values and philosophies- you are watching how they do recovery, and life. And you feel like their ideas and approaches are in alignment with what you want for yourself. And this takes time- you don’t necessarily recognize this in someone when you first start following them online, or if it’s a Coach you hire- it takes time to learn the ins and outs of why they teach what they teach.

When it comes to step-by-step guidance, I have just a couple of people I count on to mentor me and it has worked amazingly well.

I need to learn from someone who shares their precise strategies, thought processes, and action steps. That’s why I share all of that with you!

AND… I’ve got a download for you, to help you identify the people you follow, and are they someone you admire, or are they a mentor? Head over to addictionunlimited.com/174 and get your Identify Your Mentors worksheet!

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Identify Your Mentors worksheet here!

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We all struggle with finding things to do as we shift from our old lifestyle of chaos and substance, to a new lifestyle that we can’t quite define yet.

You know you need to be busy, you know you want to be connected, and you know you want to still have fun… even sober.

What if you had the opportunity to join a whole group of other sober people with events across the nation and options for all fitness levels?

What if you aren’t so much the crossfit or mountain climbing person but you’d like to do yoga with your fellow sober-minded people? Or a book club?

The Phoenix has got you covered.

It’s not an organization, it’s a movement.

Scott Strode is the Founder and Executive Director of this organization that has evolved into a national movement.

The intention of The Phoenix is inclusivity. It’s not about bigger muscles or weight loss, it’s about connection, moving your body, healing, and creating a new life you love.

Join us in the private Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Learn more about The Phoenix & Scott Strode: https://thephoenix.org/

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If you want to know how to thrive in your life and not just survive,

you want to be clear about what needs to be done to move you forward you want to feel in charge and you want to make sure you absolutely love the life that you create

...then this episode is for you! Because when it comes down to it, there is one thing I know you need to move to the top of your list (maybe even to the very top of your to-do list) to begin shifting toward a lifestyle that you love.

It’s your recovery recipe.

And while that may not seem all that exciting... hold up, because I’m going to flip that script for you.

Today I’m showing you just how important the recipe is whether you’re two days into sobriety or 15 years.

I want you to imagine what it would feel like to not be chasing a lifestyle that seems un-achievable and like a never-ending cycle, and instead feel focused and confident as you create the life of your dreams.

I bet you are listening to this episode today because you want your life to feel easy but right now it feels a little messy or unfulfilling, you may be feeling bored and restless, and you are missing the action and chaos of the life you are trying to leave behind.

Maybe you started your recovery because you want to feel better, be a better parent and human and it feels way harder and more overwhelming than you ever imagined.

Maybe you are frustrated because you don’t know what you should be working on in your recovery or your life to move forward and reach your personal goals.

No matter why you tuned in, you’re in the right place. I’m going to help you find solutions to what you’re struggling with.

If you are looking for support and fellow sober comrades, join us in the private Facebook group here!

To get your copy of the Recovery Recipe pdf, click here.

And, the book I talked about in this episode (and others!) is right here!

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Do you find yourself wondering if you are working on the right things? Or, asking yourself what you should be focused on at this stage of your recovery?

This is one of the biggest challenges in early sobriety, especially the first year or two. You are in the midst of so many changes, within yourself, your head is clear, your energy is up, and you want to continue to feel better and be better.

I was exactly the same way. And you know, hindsight is always 20/20.

There is no precise blueprint to healing. That is the #1 thing I want you to hear.

Issues will present themselves as you are ready to deal with them. And that includes trauma.

I always knew on some level I had some trauma- I had divorced parents, we had some chaos in our lives when I was young, I was an alcoholic, I had terrible relationships and made questionable decisions in my early adulthood- so I knew there were some deeper issues. But that’s all I knew.

And, if you’re anything like me, you may have this sense of something lurking deep below the surface.

I didn't feel sad, like a depression, but I felt like something deep inside was holding me back from thriving in my life.

What I love about today’s guest is her approach to working with trauma. She makes it feel not so scary and totally doable. I wish I would have had someone like this 15 years ago!

Heck, I wish I would have found someone like this 2 years ago when I started working on my own trauma!

Trauma is all kinds of things that happen to us every single day. Divorce. Hurricanes, fires, and other natural disasters. Death. Accidents- car accidents, sports injuries, head injuries- and not only are these regular everyday occurrences traumas, but trauma is accumulative. It piles up inside of us day after day, year after year.

And I wish I would have found someone like our guest today to make it feel good and exciting instead of scary- meet Amy Guerrero with Thrive In Recovery.

Connect with Amy: thriveinrecoverywithamy.com

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What if I told you you could go to all the summer events, pool parties, camping trips, going to the lake for the weekend, family vacays and bbq’s and get through them easily, even if you are in the beginning of your sobriety?

Today we are talking all about awkward summertime situations. Or, how we make them awkward before they even happen because we are future tripping about being uncomfortable and anxious.

What will people think if you’re not drinking and what will you say and how will they react????

Today I have 10 things you can tell people why you aren’t drinking to help you get through the summer situations confidently, with your sobriety in tact.

If you are going to go into challenging situations, or if you have to go into challenging situations because it’s a family thing or a work thing that you can’t avoid, then I want you to be prepared.

Today’s episode is a cheat sheet to fast-track you from struggling with overwhelming anxiety about what you will say and how everyone else will react, to being able to relax and feel confident like you’ve been alcohol-free for a hundred years.

All by planning ahead.

This is how you build confidence going into the situation is already having it planned out exactly in your head how you will do it and what you will say.

And if you are being that person right now, thinking, I don’t need to do this, this isn’t important for me to do- then I want to ask you, what would it hurt to try?

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You know that saying, you can't see the forest for the trees?

When you are caught up in the day-to-day life activities- kids, school, jobs, partners, homes- when you look up, all you can see are the trees. You can't see the way out because every direction you look is just more trees.

But if you get in a helicopter and fly up above the trees, from the sky you can see the whole forest. And as you look down on the whole forest you can easily see the path. You see exactly where to go straight, turn left, turn right... every move is obvious.

In this impromptu episode I'm sharing a personal story with you about getting stuck in the trees. I walk you through something I just went through, how I handled it, my fear, anxiety, stress, poor decisions... all of it. And, most importantly, how I got out of the mess I made.

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Are you at a crossroads right now in your life or in your lifestyle ie. drinking... or whatever other unhealthy thing you are doing that you know isn't serving you?

You are all over the internet searching, how to stop drinking, how do I stop drinking without AA, am I an alcoholic, can I stop drinking without AA, can I stop drinking without going to rehab?? And you see all the memes and inspirational quotes, bikini pics from the sober fitness people, and everybody is telling you to quit drinking and your life will fall into place.

But, your life isn't falling into place. And you're only stopping the drink for days or maybe weeks at a time and you're like... what the heck is happening?? What am I doing wrong?

If this is you... today's episode is for you.

Or, if you're like me, and you're comfy and happy with your sobriety but that "addictive personality" keeps popping up in other areas like food, relationships, spending, sex, online shopping...(my friends, it's like whack-a-mole around here!) you want to keep working on life and being balanced, then this is also for you.

As you know many years ago I found myself at the same fork in the road where I had to make a super tough decision to break up with alcohol.

I didn't go to detox, I didn't go to treatment, not because I didn't want to, but because I didn't know back then how dangerous alcohol withdrawal is, and I thought treatment was only for celebrities.

I went to AA. All I knew about AA was that's where people went when they didn't want to drink anymore and I knew I wanted to be a person who didn't drink anymore.

Also, I got sober a long time ago and there weren't dozens of different options back in the day. And.. you know you're getting old when you start using phrases like 'back in the day'. Okay, a long ass time ago.

Since I got sober I became a Life Coach, I went to school for Addiction Counseling, I went to Social Work school, got certified as a Recovery Coach, studied NLP and neuro-psych- and I have learned so much more about everything! Not only recovery and quitting drinking, but about life, how our brains work, human behavior and how we act and react, trauma, self-esteem, breaking habits, and a thousand other things.

What I've learned on this journey is that changing your life is about knowing yourself. It's about knowing who you are, what works for you, and knowing your limitations.

Join me for the LIVE masterclass! https://www.myrecoverytoolbox.com/masterclass

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You know the importance of building your sober tribe, and Jenna has become a part of mine, and YOURS!

In this episode, Jenna shares her recovery journey as someone who got sober during a global pandemic after drinking her entire adult life.

I met Jenna when I started Sober Sunday on the Clubhouse app. She showed up every week, loved being there, and always shared her story and insights. That's exactly the kind of person we all need!

She understands the true gift of service work and when I was unable to continue Sober Sunday, she stepped up and welcomed the opportunity.

Carrying on the tradition of Sober Sunday on the Clubhouse app, a totally free, live, audio-only experience.

Yes, you heard me... audio ONLY! No video, don't worry about your hair, just show up and listen and support each other!

We all need more tools, especially tools that are super simple and easy to use, and Jenna is happy to show up and keep this space open for all of our sober souls.

If you need an invite to Clubhouse, join us in the Addiction Unlimited Facebook group - we've got invites to share! And join us for Sober Sunday at 10am CST every Sunday!

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Have you ever felt like you just don’t fit anywhere because your brain is going 100 mph and no one understands you? Or, you feel like you drive people crazy because you are scattered and disorganized, you constantly interrupt people, or maybe you walk out of the room right in the middle of someone’s sentence!

Easily bored, sensitive to distractions, creative, and intense. If you grew up with ADHD symptoms, chances are you always felt “different.”

This is the reality of life with ADHD. And it leaves us susceptible to self-medicate with substances.

In this episode we'll tackle:

ADD-ADHD Symptoms ADD-ADHD Websites ADD-ADHD Problems ADD-ADHD Relationship Problems ADD-ADHD Treatment

I am so fascinated with this- as I was researching this episode I literally felt like I was beginning to make sense to me. AND all these people in my life are making more sense to me!

Here are the links to the sites/articles I used most for this episode: https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-in-adults-nervous-system/ https://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/adhd-adults Want more support and powerful conversation? Join us in the Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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There's a feeling I get when I connect with other people with addiction. It's a deep sense of connection, friendship, acceptance, love, and understanding.

We connect on a soul level because we are the only ones that understand what it's like, what it means, to have this illness. We know one another in a different way than we know other people and we care for and protect each other automatically.

Jarrod makes vulnerability look easy. And we all know it isn't!

But he has this way of sharing his thoughts and experiences that give you this, almost forbidden, insight to the struggles of addiction and recovery, how to thrive, and rebuild yourself from the ground up.

Jarrod isn't afraid to put himself out there and share his recovery as the superpower it is. He shares his journey and insights in videos on his Instagram, and today, sharing it all with you and I.

Find Jarrod on Insta: @strengthintime

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I can't believe it has been 13 years since I took my first course to become a Life Coach.

Every day I woke up I wanted to help people. I woke up feeling more and more excited about building the next chapter of my life and leaving behind the last bits of disappointment from my old life.

I realized that my journey through alcoholism and sobriety had led me to this incredible mentor that helped me change my life and believe in myself. And that's what I wanted to do for others.

So I did some research and I took action. AND IT CHANGED MY LIFE!

In this episode, I'm going to give you an inside peek at how I developed my Coaching programs and what is important to be a GREAT Coach.

I wake up everyday and get to have these incredible conversations with powerful and dynamic people that want to build better lives and be better people.

And one of the most popular questions I get is about how to become a Coach, what certification or program do I recommend, which one is the best and how long does it take?

When you overcome a huge obstacle in life it is natural to want to help others overcome obstacles, too.

Back in the day we all fell under the umbrella of Life Coach. Now, you see all different specialties and niche markets, and it is amazing. On my client roster alone I work with a Divorce Coach, an Obesity Coach, a Sales Coach, and a Leadership Coach.

In this episode we get into what it takes to be a GREAT Coach, my personal coaching foundation, what to look for in a Coach, and the differences between a Life Coach and a Recovery Coach.

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Lana Elco specializes in working with prominent visionary women and leading women entrepreneurs on their most intimate relationships & deeply private areas of life. Her focus is guiding her clients into the deepest level of intimacy and transforming their intimate relationships into a work of Art.

Lana believes that our intimate relationships are overdue for transformation. Many modern women don’t feel fulfilled with old outdated relationship containers anymore. There is still a lot of social and cultural conditioning in the area of intimacy and relationships that creates walls of separation between feminine and masculine.

Lana offers a new perspective and creative approach to intimacy and relationships. Her relationship models are based on the Tantric Sacred Union approach enriched by the insights of transpersonal psychology, NVC, the feminine empowerment movement and Lana’s genius direct downloads.

Lana guides women on the journey of discovery and exploration within their own Intimate Universe. In her work she utilizes highly experiential tools and facilitates practices in expanded states of consciousness.

Never stop seeking what seems unobtainable.

Lana has a Master’s Degree in Social Sciences, studied transpersonal psychology and is certified with Grof Transpersonal Training.

She has been working with cross-cultural couples and women from all over the world on their intimate relationships for about 12 years.

She is also trained in NVC (Non Violent Communication), Zegg Psychodrama, Intimacy and Tantra.

Follow Lana on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lana.elco/

Lana's website: https://www.lanaelcocoaching.com

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Before I got sober I struggled to do the most basic things. I spent the majority of my time drunk, hungover, or thinking about and planning the next drinking event. I was full of fear, had to drink to calm my anxiety and discomfort, and I never did anything outside of my little safe comfort zone. And because of that, I wasted a decade of my life doing a whole lot of nothing. The only thing I was committed to in my life was drinking. I worked, but I would quit a job as soon as something or someone made me mad. I dated, but I quit relationships when they got the least bit tricky or uncomfortable. I quit everything because I didn't know how to cope with my life and I felt inadequate and unworthy. So I ran away from everything and found comfort in the bottle. Now, I can look back to the beginning of my sobriety and I can see where all that changed. For me, it was 90 meetings in 90 days. The first time someone told me to do 90 in 90 I thought it sounded like such a huge commitment. How the heck do you do a meeting every day for 90 days?!? But I knew I had to go big or go home and I knew the most important thing to me was to NOT drink. No matter what. So I showed up. Everyday. Slowly but surely I got to see all those things start to change. I learned what I was really capable of and I started to see a new version of myself that I liked a whole lot better and I just kept going. It doesn't matter if it's 12 steps, SMART, or what program you do. The most important piece of the puzzle is that you show up consistently for yourself. Join the Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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Futures Palm Beach You know your drinking isn't quite "right". It has more control than it should, you aren't proud of your behavior while drinking or hungover, you've stopped a time or two on your own but always go back and drink worse than before.

You're not alone.

This story is so common for many of us. Every day I woke up dreading the day ahead. I woke up feeling more and more miserable. I wasn't fully satisfied with how I was leading my life. I felt like everything was falling apart and if it didn't change, I'd lose myself too. Then one day I woke up and decided enough was enough and started to take action. It was time to take back my freedom and build the life I wanted. If this sounds all too familiar, it may be time to get help. Help comes in many different shapes and sizes, and doesn't always cost money. There are several support groups that are absolutely free and you can show up as often as you want. TOTALLY FREE. Where it gets tricky is when you are trying different options and over and over again you find yourself back at day one. If you are back at day one, then you have to get honest that how you are doing it isn't working. In this episode, my dear friend, Stephen Watts and I talk about what happens in normal life that signals it may be time to seek help. This illness is manipulative, it's hard to understand, and there is a ton of help to figure it out. Stephen has worked in the treatment industry for decades and now spends his time doing community outreach and business development for Futures Recovery Healthcare. A passionate and reputable treatment facility in Florida. Learn more about Futures here. 6 Week Signature Coaching Program with ME!! Join the Facebook group here!

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Ever wonder "how did they get sober?" when you have been struggling to get there yourself? In the online world, we often compare ourselves to other people... even when we don't mean to. But we have to remember, we don't see what is going on behind closed doors. People often ask me how to avoid relapse when they are trying to get sober. But you can't maintain a sober lifestyle without understanding some basic pitfalls and troubleshooting solutions before you find yourself right in the middle of a pitfall. These are my top 5 pitfalls to avoid at all costs! I have shared some incredible results lately, but behind it all there have been a lot of mistakes made and a lot of lessons learned! So today,I am going to give you the truth about those self-sabotaging behaviors that wear you out, and wear you down. Come and learn from the mistakes I have made on my journey so you can prevent making them yourself. And don't forget the 5 Day FREE Live Training starts next week in the Facebook Group- join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

AND... I have invites to join me on the Clubhouse App for Sober Sunday! Join the Facebook Group to get yours!

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The addiction and recovery community has never been more vibrant, open, and fun. And these two ladies are proof of that!

Recovery podcasts are popping up left and right. Different people from different walks of life sharing their experiences of what sobriety looks like. It's never been more fun to be sober.

If you listen to Seltzer Squad, and I bet you do, then you are going to love this conversation with me and Kate & Jes. We talk recovery, we talk challenges, feelings, learning to be ourselves and accept ourselves, and we have A LOT of laughs!

I'm more proud than ever to be a part of such an incredible supportive community like recovery. I have never felt love the way I felt it from my recovery family and those are the people that taught me to love myself and taught me to grow up and become a better version of myself living without alcohol. And I felt that same love, acceptance, and support from Jes & Kate.

Enjoy the episode getting to learn more about these podcast hosts and recovery warriors.... Seltzer Squad on Addiction Unlimited.

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You hear the alarm go off, you don't want to get up because you stayed up late last night watching one more episode of that show you love, you hit the snooze, and hit it again... and again.

Next thing you know, you're 20 minutes late and already mad at yourself and your day and you haven't even left the house yet!

Imagine how you would feel with a simple routine that only takes a few minutes and sets you up to have a great day everyday. You feel good, relaxed, on top of your game, you're smiling, taking your time with that morning cup of coffee and the insanity of your kids just rolls off your back. Because you are already crushing your day.

I start with a morning conversation with myself and the committee to set my intentions for the day. You'll hear all about this in the episode. If you need a starter conversation try this simple sentence:

"I'm looking forward to having a positive, productive and calm day."

Easy peasy.

If you want my list of 12 Morning Routine Ideas from this episode you can join our Facebook group because I posted it in there for you to see, save and use. If you are a Sober Society member you can find this in your member portal! 🙌

You want to be intentional in your life. Use your time to your advantage and create these mini-victories that you can celebrate all day long, instead of being lazy and sloppy and being irritated and tired all day.

Get the list, be intentional, have a routine.

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Coming Out Sober Secrets make you sick.

We talk a lot about the masks we wear in life. All the things we do to create one picture to the outside world as we try to hide who we really are on the inside.

The truth is, as long as you are hiding something, the more uncomfortable and unhealthy you will be. Because secrets make you sick.

Mark shares his phenomenal story of becoming aware of his own mask and what he was hiding from the world. He understood his sexuality, but recognized that being involved with women allowed him to keep that mask firmly in place. After two failed marriages, suicide attempts, and a dramatic battle with drug addiction he finally realized his last secret had to come out or he was going to lose the battle.

He built up the courage and came out as sober.

His path has taken many twists and turns and he remained dedicated to finding his way and creating a routine that makes sense for him. Now, he shares his story through his blog, and his best-selling book: My Suicide Race.

Follow Mark on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markaturnipseed/

Buy the book: My Suicide Race: Winning Over the Trauma of Addiction, Recovery, and Coming Out

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It seems like nearly everyone is running around the planet stuck in anxiety and worry. Especially since coronavirus started.

40 million people in the United States suffer from anxiety. It is the number one mental illness.

Thoughts start swirling around your head, what's going to happen, will it be okay, I can't pay my bills, can I stay sober... and the more they swirl, the more you can blow them out of proportion and make them feel much bigger than they are.

Early in my recovery I was taught to "get things right-sized". Meaning, get clear on what is happening, what my thoughts are about it, and what is the ACTUAL situation. Not what I'm catastrophizing about it, but what it really is.

In this episode I'll talk about some quick strategies to get your thoughts in order, be realistic, and how to change the story you are telling yourself from one of doom and gloom and worry, to one of reality, preparedness, and truth.

You have two opportunities every week to connect with me live. Every Friday on Facebook in the Addiction Unlimited Facebook group, and every Sunday on the Clubhouse app for Sober Sunday. (Clubhouse is only available for iPhone users at this time.)

Don't forget to share this episode with someone else and I'll see you live on Friday and Sunday!

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When he had to get a prescription for pain medication, his doctor told him he couldn't become addicted because he was a cop. Like seeing all the tragedy of addiction makes you immune to it's powers.

Brock's story could easily be a movie.

Police officer and undercover agent, run over by a truck in the line of duty, and that led to multiple surgeries and pain meds.

The opioid epidemic in the US is in the headlines every day. It is devastating our communities and young people, and it has changed our society and how we view medications.

Brock shares his journey from the job he loved and lived for, through his demise and all the pain and drama of addiction, to his rising and reclaiming of his life.

When I tell you that people with addiction are strongest people ever built, I mean it. And Brock is further proof that we are made of something so powerful, when we put our minds to it, there's nothing we can't overcome.

Find Brock here: https://www.facebook.com/chasingthevase/

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Your biggest responsibility in life is to be the best version of yourself and be responsible for your own life and behaviors.

I came across this fantastic article by Anthony J. Yeung, on Medium and I wanted to share his insights and how we can adapt it to our selves and our lives.

We spend a lot of time watching other people and making judgements about how and what they do. But, are you aware of what you are doing and how you are doing it? Are you showing up and being the person you want to be in your life?

You know yourself better than anyone else. You can tell other people whatever you want. You can create a picture of your life to portray and manipulate the picture you want others to see... but what is your actual truth?

You'll love this quick checklist of 7 things to check yourself.

Link to Anthony J. Yeung article: https://medium.com/mind-cafe/7-little-things-that-can-tell-you-a-lot-about-someone-7a5f51157c3d

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"This is an album that helps to combat addiction, fears and anxieties and serves as a reminder that with the bad comes the good and to hold onto your loved ones as you travel through the ups-and-downs of life" - Alan Cackett, British Country Music Hall of Fame (shantellogden.com)

Addiction touches everyone. Whether it's a family member, co-worker, spouse or neighbor- everyone has a story to share about how their lives have been touched by alcoholism and/or drug addiction.

All of the stories are sad and often heartbreaking, but they are also powerful and inspiring. As people with addiction we do better when we stick together and support and love one another. And when we find amazing people who also want to love and support us, it's a huge victory.

In Shantell's own words she writes, "It’s my job to tell the truth about what I see and feel—and tell stories about real life. Whether I'm playing for you live or you hear it on TV or in a film, I want my songs to move you."

An entire album fully funded by fans and supporters, her music takes you on a journey with One Step Closer: Songs to Recover By.

Find Shantell and the album here: https://shantellogden.com/

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Self-esteem feels like this elusive 'thing' we want, but aren't really sure how to get it.

You know your self-esteem isn't great. You can see how it's holding you back in your life. But how do you change it? What are the actual steps you take on a daily basis to make it better?

You're in the right place.

It will not surprise you that I approach this from a different angle than all the reading you'll do online. There are some fantastic tools and blogs and suggestions you'll find when you search this topic. But what stood out to me in all of those lists was that everything was surface level.

One thing I can tell you for sure is that your self-esteem is NOT surface level. It's deep down inside of you.

Your self-esteem is a reflection of your deepest and innermost thoughts about yourself and WHO you really are.

It's fantastic to practice positive affirmations and healthy self-talk. But if you want to get serious, you have to take action on a deeper level.

It doesn't matter how many positive affirmations I do in the morning telling myself how awesome I am, if all of my actions throughout the day don't support that statement.

I'm going to take you on this journey of understanding how every little thing you do throughout your day builds, or breaks, your self-esteem.

And I'm going to tell you how to fix it.

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“It’s a lonely situation if you don’t have support.” - Mike Collins

That's the understatement of the century!

We can all agree that life can feel daunting and very lonely if you don't have a tribe.

As people with addiction, this is especially important. I need to be connected with people who think like me, who can relate to my habits and have a laugh with me about the insanity of it all.

One thing that stands out in this episode is when Mike talks about the family dynamics of giving up sugar, how people respond, and the effect it has on mood. Just like giving up alcohol.

Here are a few episode highlights:

Mike talks about his history with addiction, and states that after kicking his alcohol addiction, he developed an addiction to sugar. He says that treating it like a substance addiction rather than a diet or lifestyle change can be easier for people. Sticking to the outside aisles of the grocery store is a good way to eliminate sugar from your diet since it contains fruits and veggies, dairy products, meat and other proteins, etc. Much like alcohol, sugar is treated as something to consume when you’re celebrating an event or bonding with friends and family. It can take a long time to recover from sugar addiction, and it often leads to intense downturns in mood when you stop consuming it. Mike discusses the difficult family dynamics that can be at play when going 100% off sugar, especially when your close family members are not on board and don’t want to cut sugar out of their diets.

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Everybody is recovering from something.

Sobriety is stopping the substance, recovery is healing.

There are so many pieces of life and self that are affected by drinking. Our personalities change, our responses to people and life change, and our ability to bounce back changes.

Sobriety is putting the substance down and getting a clear mind and body. Recovery is the healing part.

In this episode I'm going to get a little personal. I use my personal story of my first heart break that led me to going out and drinking, all the feelings I couldn't cope with, and how it affected my life in the long-term.

This is a deep-dive into all the ways your life is affected by all the circumstances and consequences that come with drinking and using drugs to numb our feelings.

Inadvertently, we numb our lives. Then we sit back and scratch our heads wondering how we ended up in these lives that aren't what we thought they were going to be.

Sound familiar?

You know I don't like to focus on the problem, I want to focus my time and energy on the solution.

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On today’s episode of the Addiction Unlimited Podcast, host Angela Pugh talks to guest Kelsey Moreira, the founder of Doughp and Shark Tank alum, about how she got sober, what inspired her to quit the tech business after a decade to be an entrepreneur, and what life is like now after 5 years of sobriety.

She left a tech job, got sober, started an edible cookie dough company, went on Shark Tank, made the Forbes 30 Under 30 and she hasn't turned back.

Talk about taking advantage of your sobriety!

Tune in as we discuss:

Our culture glamorizes drinking in your 20s, and at 24 Kelsey was in AA meetings with people who were twice her age. Kelsey’s alcoholism was dismissed because she was very “high-functioning” and continued to get good grades in school and do well at Intel. In the 2000s, there were many reality TV shows that featured people drinking to excess and behaving sloppily, and it contributed to the culture of unhealthy drinking habits. However, there have now been changes in the culture that have made it “cool” to stop drinking.

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The thing about recovery is that one minute you might have it all going for you getting an A+... and the next, all you’ve got is one big fat F. (No not that one!) Fear. No matter what level you’re at, there will always be times when you just don’t know what to do. In today's podcast episode, I'm going to walk you through this simple process to effectively get through change. Change can be hard, and fear will definitely try to hold you down, but if you ask yourself a few simple questions through each of these steps you'll be amazed at what you are capable of! Don't hide behind all the excuses we all hide behind sometimes, instead, face it, work it out, and move forward. Excuses are super sneaky. At first glance, you might think this isn’t an issue for you. If that’s the case, I dare you to dig deeper. You never resist a good dare, right? In this episode, I’m talking all about:

The sneaky snake in the proverbial grass that will slow you down, throw you off your game and leave you asking what happened?

The hardest place to be when you’re trying to gain momentum and how to get past change with grace

How to move forward with change even when you don’t have all the answers

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Just because you don’t drink anymore, doesn’t mean you’re going to lock yourself in your house and never come out.

Giving up alcohol, and everything it represents is really overwhelming.

The fear of not knowing what to tell people, not knowing how people will respond to your life change, and will you EVER have fun again?!?

Society tries to convince you that alcohol is necessary in everything you do. You connect with friends over cocktails, you calm your nerves with alcohol, you deal with social anxiety with booze, sleep issues, and everything in between.

The truth is, there are millions of people EVERYWHERE who don't drink!

At some point, you understand that being sober is an asset, not a liability.

Duke Rumeley wanted to provide a clean and sober safe space where people can still get out, do the sporting events, concerts, and music festivals that you love, and do it all with sober people.

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Do you think back on some of the crazy things you did while drinking and feel overwhelmed with guilt and embarrassment?

Feelings are overwhelming. Especially when you don't know how to cope with them.

Every feeling serves a purpose and one of the greatest gifts of recovery is learning to recognize feelings, NOT panic, and use them as an opportunity to improve.

Feeling bad about things you've done in your past gives you ammunition to punish yourself and that's a dangerous trap. Look at feelings as feedback. See yourself taking in the feeling, seeing what you need to work on, and moving forward from there.

You can't evolve and grow without discomfort and mistakes. That's how we learn!

Focus your energy on who you want to be in your future instead of what you did in the past. You can't change the past, it's over, it's done. And you full power of who you become from this day forward.

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When you think about your “addictive personality”, do you automatically make a cringey face? I see it all the time.

This is a journey of being relentless and diligent to create the life you want. Not apologizing for who you are, not worrying about what others think of your journey, but being comfortable and confident in where you’re going and who you want to be.

I know many of you struggle to see yourself clearly in your new sober life and to believe you are capable of pulling it off. And no one can make you believe in yourself to create a vision of an alcohol-free life and to be the person that makes the plans and does the deal… but you.

The good news is, that same inner-strength that I found in myself also lives inside of you.

In today’s episode, Coach Alyssa Rocco shares her journey of recovery and all the insights she’s discovered on the way.

From an eating disorder, codependence, people-pleasing, love addiction, and everything in between! This is another testament to how powerful we are when we step back and recognize who we REALLY are, then make a plan to be consistent, feel all the feels, and following-through no matter what.

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Have you ever heard some of these terms; happiness by subtraction, process of elimination?

It's easy to get caught up in adding things to our lives, but what about removing the things that aren't serving you?

Do you have friends that don't bring out the best in you? The bar or person's house that every time you go there you practice behavior you aren't proud of? People that drain your energy? How different could your life and outlook be if you removed some of these people, places, and things from your life?

Imagine how much more relaxed you would be and how good you would feel about making smart choices and waking up with a clear mind.

By simply removing a few things from your life you can make significant changes.

What can you take away, to add to your happiness?

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2020 has challenged the best of us. Pushed beyond our limits, fear of the future, financial insecurity, job loss, death- it's been a lot.

As we enter this new year with some light at the end of the tunnel and hope for some sense of normalcy, it's important to close 2020 on a positive note so we can start 2021 the right way.

January 2021 is a powerful month for us and we have a lot of activities to get you started on the right foot, set up for success from the very start. In honor of #dryjanuary, we are doing a 5 Day Go-Dry Challenge. In 5 days, we are going to build your foundation for strong sobriety. We'll create a simple blueprint for you to work from, whether you are 3 days sober, 6 months, or 10 years.

You can sign up for the challenge at https://www.myrecoverytoolbox.com/5day.

In this episode I cover some of the differences in the stages of alcoholism, how we use it wrong, and binge drinking. You have to be clear where you are, and who you are, if you want to move forward with success.

You'll also get some pointers on how to change a negative outlook on 2020 into a positive one, and how to get your mindset in a healthy place to move forward and do more in 2021.

If you aren't grateful for where you are, you aren't ready to move forward.

Sign up for the 5 Day Challenge for a ton of support in our popup Facebook group (opens next week) and then we'll move into my free webinar to set your New Year Intentions.

Let's embrace 2020 and be thankful for the good parts, then let's move into 2021 fresh and strong!

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You wonder why you can’t accomplish something or why it always feels like one step forward, two steps back, and it may be because you are sending yourself mixed messages.

Let me start by giving you a definition of dissonance-

Lack of agreement, inconsistency between the beliefs one holds or between one's actions and one's beliefs.

When you say one thing, and do another. Or you make a decision in your head, but your actions don’t support that decision.

You are sending yourself mixed messages. And we are terrible at sending others mixed messages without even realizing it.

When you say you’re okay, but all your behavior and attitude clearly show you are not okay. Mixed messages.

When you say you aren’t drinking anymore, then you go to the party or meet the drinking friends at the bar because you don’t want to be different. Well, stopping drinking is different. So, do you want to be different, or do you want to be drunk? Quitting drinking is different, so you’re going to have to be different to support your decision.

When you say you aren’t drinking anymore then go with the drinking friends to the drinking places, you are sending yourself mixed messages. This is what makes you feel like you are losing your mind. You can’t figure out why you can’t stop drinking and oftentimes it’s because your words and your actions don’t match.

This creates confusion for you because you are trying to do two opposite things, it creates confusion for your brain because it doesn’t know which thing it’s supposed to support you in- and everything is a mess. Because your messages are all over the place.

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We so often screw up decisions because we are stuck in seeking instant gratification.

You feel bad and you want it to go away right now.

You feel a craving and you want to eliminate it this second.

You feel uncomfortable and you want to change it instantly.

Recovery isn’t instant. Recovery is a long game.

You’ve heard all these sayings, your whole life- good things come to those who wait- anything worth having is worth fighting for- the best view comes after the hardest climb.

All of these are telling you that it will be hard! It will be uncomfortable, it will take commitment and probably some tears and you are going to have to challenge yourself.

Instant gratification doesn’t require any of that. It’s the easy way out and that’s why you don’t get long-term rewards from it. This is why you will find yourself in the same spot over and over again, because instant gratification doesn’t create change.

When you want to change your life and grow as a human being, it’s not about instant gratification anymore. It’s about what is best for me moving forward?

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Expectations are premeditated resentments.

When I started this journey of recovery, this is yet another piece of my puzzle that I didn’t understand or recognize. I had zero understanding that I put all these expectations on people and outcomes and situations- and then ended up mad when it didn’t go the way I thought it should go.

I know you are going to relate to this, too- because it’s human nature! It is something everyone does. Addiction or no addiction- these expectations are out here running wild in the streets.

Expectations get us in a couple of ways- one is the expectations we put on others. Expecting a certain response from someone or a certain greeting when you walk in the room- expecting an outcome that you pre-determine in your head.

The other is, the expectations you put on yourself.

The bad thing is, when our expectations are not met, it leaves us bummed. Sad, mad, disappointed- and then we can’t even enjoy the situation as it is.

95% of people are really good. And sometimes we are careless, and sometimes we make mistakes, and sometimes we disappoint and hurt one another. That doesn’t make us bad, it just means we are human.

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Holiday season comes the same time every year, there is no excuse for not being prepared. This season will probably be a little different because of corona virus but don't sit back and do nothing, and wait for the overwhelm to crush you when you know it’s coming!

Holiday stress isn’t only about the parties and drinking. There is added stress of preparation for travel or people staying in your home, any cooking or baking you are doing, the grocery shopping for all the cooking and baking, and of course the holiday gift shopping! Being surrounded by family members we don’t know all that well, being in crowds, social anxiety- all of it is exaggerated and at a higher level than normal.

Did I even mention the financial stress of all of that??? Money, money, money going out every direction.

What I want you to focus on the next couple of weeks is getting a plan together for yourself. Not just thinking about it haphazardly, but really mapping out a plan to protect yourself, your sobriety, and keep your stress manageable so you don’t end up vulnerable to the drink.

When we are rundown, physically tired, emotionally exhausted, stressed out, spread thin- this is when we are most vulnerable to drinking. When you are compromised and exhausted, this is when the committee has it’s best opportunity to break you down and talk you into a drink.

I’m going to give you an action list- don’t F around and put it off and never do it. If you want to protect your sobriety and stay sober then you’ll take the action necessary to do so.

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Selfish.

Excessively concerned with oneself with no regard for the needs or feelings of others.

I’m sure we have heard this a thousand times, people telling us how selfish we are- all you think about is yourself, all you care about is you.

The problem is, when I was drinking, and even early in my recovery, I didn’t really understand what that meant.

Of course, I had a clear understanding that I was selfish, but I didn't recognize all the ways that manifested in daily life.

It doesn't feel good to be self-centered and selfish because it stems from insecurity. We all recognize some ways we are self-serving. But you may not see all the small ways this behavior comes out or the effect it has on the people around you.

A big part of this growth for me was my self-esteem. I couldn’t respect anything or anyone when I didn’t respect myself.

Think of yourself as a thousand piece puzzle. Some pieces are bigger than others, but we are made up of a lot of pieces. We are all a combination of positive pieces as well as pieces that need work. You already know you are kind and loving and generous, and now it's time to look at a couple of these pieces you can improve.

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When you are transitioning from a drinking life to a sober life you have a lot of questions.

Not only about what life will be like, but about a whole bunch of other random stuff that you don't think about until you are in the middle of it.

I get questions in the Facebook group, on Instagram, by email, you name it, people reach out to me there. Typically I use these questions for live videos and that's how I answer them, and today I'm using some of those questions in a podcast episode.

I took 3 of the most frequently asked questions about living a sober life, and I answered them in this episode. I get asked about relationships, marriage, non-alcoholic beer and wine, dating in sobriety, how to make friends and what is the best program to attend??

I wish I could give you a magical answer to every question to make sobriety easier so you could all live happily ever after. Unfortunately, it doesn't work like that.

What I can do is give you my opinion, share with you what I did and how I did it and why it worked or didn't work, and I can give you a fresh perspective on old topics. Living a recovery lifestyle works a little differently for all of us.

There are key foundational pieces you have to have to in place and the rest is a process of figuring out how it works for you. Something that really bothers me, may not bother you at all. And vice versa. That's why we have an open conversation and listen and learn from one another.

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Lying, manipulating, being lazy, avoiding life... that's not a great recipe for clean living. ⁠

When I think about the person I was in my active addiction, when I was still drinking, and I think about my personality traits and how I made decisions, it gives me a good idea where I need to start making changes to live clean and sober.

I was a liar. I manipulated people and jobs and situations and everything else. I was painfully selfish and self-centered. I was codependent.

And that's just the tip of the iceberg.

If you want to change your life and stop drinking, you have to change your behavior and lifestyle to match the NEW you. If you just put down the drink and try to continue being the OLD you, it probably won't last.

Once you make a commitment to put down the drink then you get the chance to start making adjustments in all the other areas. And that's when you start to feel good about yourself, people start to trust you again, and sobriety feels good.

It is much easier to STAY sober when you are enjoying your new self and your new life.

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When you are sitting at 1 week sober, or one month sober it can feel like an eternity to get to 6 months. You also have a ton of questions running through your mind about what it's going to be like and how will life be different?

Kristin just celebrated 6 months sober and she has learned so much! She went to treatment, relapsed, but never gave up.

These are my favorite stories. The most important part of this whole recovery/life change game is that you NEVER stop trying. Nothing has to be 'perfect', there is no such thing! But you do have to continue to show up for yourself on a daily basis. You have to challenge yourself to do things that are uncomfortable, and you have to do it over and over.

This is why I say people with addiction are the strongest people- because when we get this thing and it really sinks in, we are powerful and making hard choices each day. Kristin is a phenomenal example of trying over and over, embracing recovery, being teachable, and investing in herself and her life.

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Alcohol is gaslighting you.

It abuses you and humiliates you, it makes you feel terrible about yourself and makes your anxiety explode- then in the next breath it’s telling you how it can solve all your problems.

You don’t drink for a few days or weeks, then you hear it whispering to you telling you it wasn’t that bad.

YOU KNOW IT WAS THAT BAD!!!

But it’s telling you you’re blowing it out of proportion, things will be different this time. It’s keeping you unsteady, not knowing when the next unpredictable thing is going to happen, it has you and your friends and family walking on eggshells.

You’re trying to make the right choices, you want to be better, you are praying for the honeymoon phase to come back, but it doesn’t.

So how do you stop the toxic relationship?

Just like people relationships, it’s very unhealthy when we are using it to avoid or numb pain.

And that is exactly what we do with alcohol. We are using it for the effect. You aren’t drinking wine because wine tastes so good- you drink wine because you like how it makes you feel. If you weren’t attached to the effect then you could put it down and walk away from it without a second thought.

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We get caught up in the hard work of sobriety and forget to celebrate all the great things that come with the hard work.

All the questions about how will people react, worrying about the future, feeling embarrassed and uncomfortable, hating to feel feelings... but what about the clarity of thought? What about waking up without a hangover and not having to piece together the night before? How about showing up to work on time... for once!

Living with alcoholism is like being a prisoner of yourself and your own mind. But with sobriety comes this sense of power and control, a clear signal with your brain, and you get the opportunity to be a good person. Who knew?!?

This is my last question I ask every guest, and over the years, we've gotten some really good answers. Let's dig back in the archives and hear what some of our guests had to say about their favorite thing about being a sober person.

Austin Cooper of Sober Evolution, Courtney Friel, Vance Johnson, Jen Elizabeth, Russ Perry, and Jenn Kautsch.

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It takes some energy and planning. But it's not impossible to stop the yo-yo sobriety.

In this episode I'll tell you 11 reasons people continue to relapse, and some of them you've probably never heard before.

A lot of people love the drinking culture, and some have done it so long they don't know any other way. The more they think about not drinking, the more overwhelming it starts to feel. What will you do, what will people think, how will people treat you...

But it's all fake. Those are the stories they tell themselves to avoid taking action and being uncomfortable.

I did it, too.

Our culture has twisted the meaning of fun and what it looks like to have fun. Society screams you have to drink to have fun, you have to drink to relax, you have to drink to cope, you have to drink to connect with people.

This is a short road to wasted time and more years of regret.

The reality is, we know when our relationship with alcohol is toxic. WE KNOW.

I knew for a long time that I needed to give up alcohol once and for all, but I didn't have the strength or the courage to commit to that decision. I also didn't have all the resources the sober world has to offer today.

When you feel overwhelmed and scared it's easy to get stuck and freeze. Too scared to make any move at all. But remember, millions of people quit drinking every day. So can you.

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You may know him from the High Cost of Anonymity podcast, and he is a great friend and confidant to me.

In this episode, we talk about quarantine and how quickly it can take a turn for the worse.

The perfect storm of isolation, fear, being in close quarters with family, a huge amount of change in our routines, schedules, working from home, and our support groups being shut down.

WOW. It's a miracle any of us have survived.

Preston has long-term sobriety, 'knows' all the right things to do, and still struggled through it along with the rest of us.

What I love about this conversation is uncovering the struggle and what it looks like, and struggling doesn't always mean struggling to stay clean and sober.

It means struggling to feel good, struggling to cope, fighting off those old thought processes and behaviors that had me overwhelmed with anger and fear and bitterness all the time. Being in quarantine pushed us all to our limits and the craziness and restrictions of the coronavirus has forced us all to explore a new normal.

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You look at your life, your family, education, and many other things and wonder how anyone could ever call you powerless. You definitely don't want to refer to yourself as powerless.

The truth is, we are all powerless in certain situations. When a client or friend relapses, I'm powerless to help them get back to the point of stopping. You can't force it, you can't make it happen any faster, because it's up to them.

Illness brings a sense of powerlessness, family struggles and dysfunction, people liking us or disliking us, all things we have no control over.

And, for many of us, that includes drinking.

For some, the word 'powerless' sends them running for the hills.

That's the real reason this word has so much power, because it hits a little too close to home.

Working with addiction for so many years I have come to realize that there's a lot of misconception around this particular word, among others. There are a lot of assumptions around what the word stands for and what it says about us as individuals.

The word powerless is used in 12 steps and says "We're powerless over alcohol", the keyword there is alcohol. Not that you are powerless in your life, not that you are weak, not that you can't help yourself, simply, powerless over alcohol.

That means, when I start drinking I have no control over what may happen to me. I might be perfectly fine. And I might not. I may get home safely, or I may get a DUI, or get in a fight with my partner, or drive my kids home from soccer practice after sneaking one too many cups of wine from the sidelines.

The word powerless isn't about you or your character, it's about control. Or lack thereof.

So here we are, breaking it down and getting to the bottom of the misconceptions of powerlessness.

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Growing up in Beverly Hills, Amy Dresner had it all: a top-notch private school education, the most expensive summer camps, and even a weekly clothing allowance. But at 24, she started dabbling in meth in San Francisco and unleashed a fiendish addiction monster. Soon, if you could snort it, smoke it, or have sex with, she did.

I love this interview with Amy for so many reasons. She is so fun and crazy funny that it brought out a different side of me, too. I tend to be a serious person- this is very serious business, addiction and recovery- and I often forget to let people see the other sides of me.

From the moment Amy and I first spoke, we hit it off! We had a phone call the night before our interview in Los Angeles just to touch base and talk about the plan for the next day. Some people video their podcasts so I always get asked if there is going to be video etc…

We were on the phone for an hour!

We laughed and we connected on so many levels and I fell in love with her from that moment. We recorded in an office building and I feel certain the surrounding offices probably thought we were insane because we laughed so hard the whole time.

It was several weeks later when I edited the show to schedule it to go live, and I had the same experience all over again. Sometimes I wish you guys could hear the unedited versions of these episodes, lol, because they are really funny and we are much less polished than the finished versions!

I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I do. She is amazing and I am grateful I got to meet her and gain a new friend.

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I don’t want to be living a double life in my recovery like I was in my addiction.

I went out of my way to create this picture for the outside world, to hide what was really going on on the inside. And if that was my behavior when I was drinking, then I definitely don’t want to have the same behavior when I’m sober!

Being private is appropriate in a lot of situations. Especially when you are newly sober. You are just figuring it out, you are getting comfortable with a new lifestyle and a new identity as a non-drinking person.

It’s okay to be private and focus internally and share your details with a select few people who love and support you.

It’s being secretive that can be harmful. Because when you are hiding the details of yourself and your life, it’s because there is some shame around it.

We don’t want anyone to know who we really are and what we are dealing with because we fear they will think we are bad or weak- because on the inside that’s what we think about ourselves.

Been there, done that. And I'm not doing it again.

How do you start to make the shift and change your mindset? How do you start to feel better and stronger? This episode will give you some answers!

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The first months of sobriety are a roller coaster. In the beginning, you feel motivated, strong and confident- then, somewhere along the way, you begin to question if you can really do it, the committee starts telling you it's okay to drink again for a million reasons, you may feel bored, lonely, and restless.

I wish I could tell you there was a way around all of that, but there isn't. Life, in general, can be pretty uncomfortable. Jobs are uncomfortable, relationships are uncomfortable, raising kids is uncomfortable... and recovery is, too.

In the first year everything is new and there are a lot of 'firsts'. First sober birthday, first sober holiday season, first sober wedding, first sober vacation... everything is a new beginning and it takes some energy and effort to navigate through all the ups and downs while maintaining your sobriety and protecting it.

My first year was challenging in many ways because I had significant legal troubles looming over me and was facing a decent amount of jail time. But, my sobriety itself wasn't hard because I had friends and I had fun.

In this episode, we'll talk to Heather who had her rock bottom moment on a business trip. She was a high-functioning, executive, wife & mom, and it all came to a head in a split second when she had to make a choice to get herself together or sink into the drunken abyss.

She decided she couldn't take it anymore and asked for help.

She left her business trip, flew 3000 miles directly to treatment, leaving her husband, job, and kids, to get herself together and start a new life.

Earlier this year, Heather celebrated a year of sobriety and she talks to us about her journey of getting help and also about her transition home and back into regular life.

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In the early days, getting sober feels like a full-time job. You have to think about it all the time, you have to do things to protect your sobriety, you have to have new boundaries with friends and family while you get things figured out, and you always have that nagging feeling in the back of your mind that you're going to screw it all up.

Recovery does take a lot of focus in the beginning because you are doing everything different. And instead of being scared of relapse, I want you to create a lifestyle that is easy, fun, and drama-free... that supports living alcohol-free. If you put the time in building the foundation you will have more freedom and comfort than you've ever known before.

I remember going through moments of feeling bored, wondering if this was all there was going to be to my life, was I just going to go to meetings and eat pizza with my friends forever? I felt restless and it was a danger zone for me.

Luckily, I stayed the course and trusted there would be something better if I was willing to stick with it. I knew boredom was more about me not finding things to do and restless was pretty typical for me. I wasn't used to doing things that didn't provide instant gratification.

What I have learned over these sober years is that foundation I was building was the most important element of my recovery. Building new friendships with people who accepted me in my new life, being honest about how challenging my problem really was, allowing others to guide me and show me the way to a lifestyle I had never had before. These are a few of the pillars that I have built my sobriety on and I want you to do the same.

At some point we all start to realize that quitting drinking isn't the hard part. The hard part is continuing to do it day after day.

With the right foundation, you can create a life like you've never known. Confident in yourself and your choices, loved and admired by friends and family, and able to feel genuine happiness without the help of a substance.

Start here.

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We talk about sex addiction, we talk about porn addiction, but how often do we talk about the love part? And how about when we confuse love and lust?

It may sound a little weird to talk about love 'addiction', but it's not that weird at all when you think about the unhealthy habits, unhealthy relationships we create, lack of boundaries, picking partners that are unavailable or not good for us. And most people can relate these common struggles.

I can mis-use dating just like I can mis-use anything else. It's about co-dependence, seeking validation and approval from others, flirting to fill a void or make yourself feel better, having an affair to quench the thirst from what is lacking in your relationship, texting someone to get attention because you are bored or lonely.

Most people can relate to these behaviors on some level... but when does it become a problem?

You may recognize Brianne Davis from many tv shows you've seen. She is an actor, director, and a person in recovery. She has stepped up and is speaking out about some of the issues no one wants to talk about and I am so grateful for her bravery.

We all struggle with relationship issues, it's time we do something about it.

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Are you trying to get sober but feeling a sense of loss over losing alcohol? You are struggling to see your life without it, wondering what you will do and how you will spend your time- how will it effect your friendships and how will you ever have fun again?!?

Been there, done that.

When you give up the substance and move into recovery, you are going through a grief and mourning process. You are closing one chapter of your life and moving into a new one and there is a sense of loss that comes with that.

It is hard to leave something behind that has become so important to you. Something that you have relied on, that has been a steady and dependable sidekick. Right up until it turned on you and started creating problems.

There is nothing strange about grieving the loss of alcohol from your life or having fear about what your future will look like without it.

It is no different than a break up or a divorce. All of a sudden you are facing a new future that looks very different than you thought it was going to. There are all of these behaviors you are used to doing a certain way with your person that you now have to figure out a new way to do them without that person. Without calling that person or relying on that person. You can’t take them to the holidays with your family anymore, you aren’t going to go to certain places anymore because that’s where you always went together or that’s where all your ‘couples’ friends are and you aren’t a couple anymore.

So let’s talk about these stages of grief and how we can manage them and understand them as it relates to our lifestyle choices.

Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”

Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”

Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will ____.”

Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”

Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.”

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Healing from addiction is a long journey and often a confusing one. You think when you put the substance down, you will feel better.

And that is true.

But it doesn’t always happen right away.

You have a tendency to only think about yourself in the healing process and wanting to feel better. And you forget that your body and brain, and every organ inside of you, have to heal also. And that science requires a little more than just putting down the substance, it takes time.

Every sober story isn’t the same. Just like we’ve discussed in other episodes that every drunken detail isn’t the same. We all have our own chemistry, our own personalized brain wiring, our own learned behaviors over the course of our lives that also shape our brains and behaviors, and many other factors.

An added layer to addiction is mental health. It is not uncommon to have some level of anxiety, depression, ADD; and all of these things will vary from person to person, also.

Jeff Simone is a pharmacist, recovering addict, and the founder of Reaction Recovery. He offers a new approach to detox and a ton of insight on supplements and how to use them, and what to try for different symptoms.

Many of us as people with addiction have sleep problems, racing minds, anxiety, and some general discomfort. This is a great way to look at getting relief for these symptoms before turning to pharmaceutical solutions.

Prescription medications definitely have their place and are very necessary for a lot of conditions. I would never discourage someone from seeking professional guidance for anything that ails you. I also like to provide information on other approaches for those who are interested.

If you’ve been sober awhile and are wondering why you aren’t feeling better, you won’t want to miss this.

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High Functioning Alcoholic In the beginning stages of realizing you’re drinking out of control you wonder how you are high functioning, and an alcoholic.

In my day, we went out and bought all the self-help books and vowed to get our lives together and try harder than we’ve ever tried before! And you start a whole life makeover plan and eat better and workout and start journaling every day and you have a whole new commitment to life.

For about a week.

Now, you do the same thing, but you hit the internet and podcasts and all the sober people books. I’m sad I didn’t have all this good stuff when I was struggling and that’s also what fuels me to continue creating a ton of resources and information for you so you can find everything you need and learn at your own pace and have honesty and knowledge about alcoholism, addiction, and recovery.

Oftentimes, when people think about alcoholics you envision these lives and situations that are a real mess. You think about rock bottom as this disastrous place where you’ve destroyed your life.

DUIs, jail, losing jobs and losing homes and losing families, and overall losing everything. You think of a person who is a mess all-around and looks like a mess and everywhere they go you can tell they’re a mess.

It’s drinking to blackout and losing friends, getting arrested, waking up with bruises that you have no idea where they came from.

And if we continue drinking, we can all get to that place. Or, like me, crashing my car drunk- it’s kind of a low bottom. Certainly a low-bottom moment.

This is where so many people, so many of you, separate yourselves.

You hear these stories, even my story of crashing my car, and you separate yourself by saying, "oh, I’m not that bad, I would never do something like that, I’ve never gotten a DUI, I have a job, and money, and a business and I take care of my family and I’ve never blacked out”- and you try to convince yourself that your problem is different.

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One of the most popular recovery podcasts out there, Recovery Happy Hour, and another badass woman behind the mic. I'm so excited to have Tricia Lewis on the show and I know you are loving it, too!

On her podcast her focus is on helping others tell their story, but on my podcast, it's all about hearing the details of how Tricia realized she had a problem with alcohol, what her 'bottom' was like, and what she did to get it together.

She was a high functioning, successful, over-achiever who drank to black out on a regular basis. Her drinking was scary and unpredictable, and she went to great measures to hide it.

I love it when she talks about how you can't figure out the level of your own problem by looking at 'how much' other people drink. It's not about HOW MUCH, or HOW OFTEN- it's about your relationship with alcohol and how much you think about it and think about spending time with it or recovering from it.

The simple truth is, a person who doesn't have a problem with alcohol never thinks about alcohol or wonders if they have a problem.

And don't forget to continue the conversation with me after the show in the Facebook group!

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"I would rather go through life sober, believing I am an alcoholic, than go through life drunk, trying to convince myself that I am not."

I knew that alcohol was more important to me than it was to the rest of the world. I knew I did it too much. I knew I didn’t like myself because I was doing it too much and I knew I would be better off if I stopped.

The absolute worst part of my whole drinking life was when I knew I needed to stop 100%, but I couldn’t get myself to do it. And I went through all the drama and chaos of trying to convince myself that I didn’t have to stop 100%.

You know what I’m talking about- all the different ways you try to control your drinking to convince yourself that you have some control- all the rules you put on your drinking to prove to yourself that you can handle it, all the promises you make to your self and your family that this time is going to be different and you VOW to yourself that you are going to try harder than you’ve ever tried before and this time it’s going to work- you are going to drink in moderation.

What makes me the most sad, for you and for myself- is how much time I wasted trying to figure out how to drink a little bit because I was so scared to not drink at all.

How many times have you said; you’ll only drink on the weekends, you’ll never drink more than 4 drinks in a night, you’ll only drink after 5pm, you’ll just have a couple of glasses of wine with dinner, you’ll only drink after the kids are asleep, you’ll drink a glass of water between every drink, you’ll only drink wine or beer, but no liquor, you’ll only drink one drink an hour, you’ll only drink a couple of times a year, on special occasions or on vacation...

And the most sad part of all of this, is how much time we waste playing these games with ourselves. Wanting so badly to convince yourself that you don’t have a ‘problem’ that you are willing to waste another 6 months or another year of your life trying to prove it.

You have to be honest about what your situation is if you want to start to change it.

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The biggest struggle is changing your thinking and loving yourself. And you don't know how to get there.

It's a daily job to eliminate alcohol from your life and get out of your own way.

The most difficult part of my journey was when I knew in my heart that I needed to give it up completely, but I was too scared to make the commitment. I didn't know exactly what to do or how to do it.

Today's episode is right on track. Mike breaks down the inner turmoil that happens when we aren't proud of the things we are doing, but we feel trapped with our 'friend' and terrified to walk away from it.

Even when you know the relationship is toxic, it is scary to let it go. I love the opportunity to bring my actual clients on the show because you get to hear that firsthand account of fear and anxiety wrestling with the decision to walk away once and for all. To share these stories of people who are walking the same path, in their first months of recovery, and to see how far you can come in such a short period of time.

We are all fighting through self-doubt and guilt, learning to feel those feelings and move forward without using alcohol as an escape.

You want to numb every feeling from boredom to sadness with booze. And you don't have to live like that anymore.

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Here’s a truth bomb- alcohol and drugs are a SYMPTOM of the problem.

The problem is you don’t understand or cope with feelings well, and you use substances to numb the feelings so we don’t have to feel them.

You drink to manipulate feelings and dodge responsibility.

When you quit drinking, those habits don’t go away overnight.

Look at your recovery as a long game, not quick or instant results. You are healing, you are changing lifestyle habits and retraining your brain to have a positive and healthy mindset.

You know the person you want to be and the life you want to have and that isn’t going to magically appear just because you put down your bottle of wine. It takes work and it takes time.

When you quit drinking you will feel better. Your anxiety will go down, you will start to sleep better, you will have more energy- because you aren’t poisoning yourself anymore. And quitting drinking builds your strength and gives you a clear head so you can begin the process of healing and growing up.

No lifestyle is built overnight.

It has taken me years to become who I am today and every single year I see massive growth because I have a clear direction.

That’s what I want you to have. Being accurate with your expectations and having a clear direction will help you to feel a sense of accomplishment rather than getting stuck in that trap of “I should be better than this by now, I should feel better, I should be farther along”.

First of all, every sober person has those same thoughts- I think it at least once a week about something- and I have to catch myself and remember everyone feels that way and I am exactly where I am supposed to be.

You aren’t alone, you are super strong, you already survived poisoning yourself so surely you can survive recovery!

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If you feel stuck and frustrated with your eating habits, you won't want to miss this.

You thought substance was your only issue... but the truth is, you are compulsive by nature and it's easy to trade one compulsion for another.

Here's the real deal; if I do something and I like it, I will want to do more of it. That goes for hanging out with people, eating, bingeing Netflix, my dog, ice cream, shopping, and anything else you can think of.

From the beginning of quarantine I've gotten a ton of messages about struggles with food. Some of you are struggling to maintain sobriety during coronavirus and there are just as many people eating their way through the pandemic.

I thought it was a great time to bring in the big guns and talk to a professional.

This episode is full of great tips on how to change your thought process around food and overeating, and also some super easy ACTION you can take TODAY to start making better choices.

I can't wait to hear what you think!

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This is our last episode of the Double Down on Your Recovery series. This has been incredible!

Five weeks of double episodes, double the support, double the strategies. We've covered a lot of issues, and I've given you some pretty simple and focused action steps to really get you where you want to be, and we're going to continue on exactly that same path today.

15 Paths to Happy. 15 quick and easy strategies you can take with you to remind yourself of the life you want and the person you want to be.

You want to quit drinking to feel better and be a better person and sometimes that seems much more challenging than you thought it would be.

This episode is fast and FULL of actionable steps you can take TODAY to feel better, get your thoughts in the right place and heading the right direction.

Just because double episodes are coming to an end doesn't mean BONUSES are coming to an end... listen close to this one because there are a couple of announcements you won't want to miss!

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Last week I talked about how powerful your thoughts are- and that every single thing you do, on a daily basis, starts as a thought in your head. There is no work more important than getting your head together because that is the epicenter for everything else.

Thoughts = Actions, Actions = Reward/Consequence- That’s the equation and that’s what I want to focus on.

You and I talk a lot about thoughts and behaviors and recognizing that these need to change if you want to change. It makes perfect sense- if you want to BE different you have to DO different.

That means your thought process has to be different and your actions have to be different.

Where many people stumble, is they focus on the behavior and doing things differently, but they don’t actually change their mindset, or perspective on WHY they are doing it differently.

And even though the Double Down on Your Recovery series is coming to an end, I'm going to keep the bonuses coming!

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Today we’re going to talk about triggers. This is a regular topic of conversation in recovery- we always talk about knowing your triggers and protecting yourself from triggers- but I don’t see the deep dive into triggers- the different kinds and how to recognize them. And this is a game changer.

First let’s break it down into this simple equation: Triggers produce thoughts, thoughts lead to actions, and actions lead to either a reward or a consequence.

Every single thing you do on a daily basis starts as a thought in your head. This is why I put so much emphasis on mindset and thought process- because it 100% directs you in your life. Everything starts as a thought so it is extremely important that we are in tune with our thoughts and practice training them to support us and be positive instead of mean.

We understand triggers and how powerful they are- but did you know there are different kinds of triggers?

This is super important too because it goes along with learning to protect your sobriety and understanding what situations may be more challenging for you.

We are going to keep this simple and talk about social/environmental triggers ,mental, and emotional triggers.

You walk into a summer party at your sister’s house, hello social trigger! You were stuck in traffic all the way there (mental trigger) and you already feel worn the F out (emotional trigger).

You see how you are already vulnerable as you are walking in the door? No one has said anything to you, no one has offered you a drink, nothing has happened, but there are some triggers stacked up against you already.

And the MOST important part of the whole episode is the SOLUTION. I’ll walk you through, step-by-step how to protect your recovery in any situation.

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We are still going strong in our Double Down on Your Recovery series! If you are new here that means I am giving you double the episodes and double the support and double the strategies- and I want you to double your recovery efforts!

Today, we are going to talk about finding ways to have fun in sobriety. And I want you to start this episode with a clear and open mind.

I start with that because one thing you have to be aware of as you begin this new way of life is that fun isn’t going to look like it used to.

Fun to me, used to be very drunk, running the streets of Los Angeles, bar to bar and party to party, friends and hangovers and a lot of wasted time.

In sobriety, fun, looks entirely different. When I was drinking I could go anywhere, whether I liked it or not, have drinks, your inhibitions drop, your defenses drop, your anxiety drops- and you lose control of yourself and judgment and actions.

When I was drinking, I thought I was an extrovert. But I was never an extrovert, I was just drunk. One of the mistakes I made in my recovery was that I tried to go out and do extrovert things and I couldn’t figure out why I wasn’t enjoying myself.

You have to know yourself and what you enjoy, before you can figure out how to have fun as a sober person!

Many people spend a lot of time and energy stressing out about how they will have fun as a sober person, but this isn’t something to stress about. It’s normal to have different phases of life and to outgrow things that don’t fit us anymore. We outgrow friends, relationships, and hobbies. Getting sober is no different.

It’s a new phase as you grow into a better version of yourself. It only makes sense that your activities will change with you.

If you need some pointers or want some ideas, post it in the Facebook group and I’m happy to help. It’s totally private, no one can see you are in the group, and there is a ton of support and love.

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Do you have trouble staying sober?

You get motivated because you’re tired of feeling like crap and you can stop for awhile, but not long enough?

Or, are you one of those people who has been sober for awhile but you feel like you should feel better by now?

We’ve all been there, and sometimes it’s hard to keep your head in the game when you don’t have a plan or a toolbox FULL of tools to help you through the hard times.

That’s where your recovery SOS plan comes in handy.

In this episode, I’m going to give you these 3 simple steps to follow to get clear on where you fall short in your recovery plan, and how you can protect yourself from turning a challenging moment into a full-blown relapse.

Live sober, be confident, and feel better with this BONUS episode as our Double Down On Your Recovery series continues!

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If you don’t want to drink, you will do the things necessary to NOT drink.

But, if you feel like your recovery game is slipping a little bit, you are falling off some of your rituals and you know it’s not good, but you aren’t fixing it either- then you definitely want to listen up.

First you start slipping on journaling, then you aren’t connecting with others in AA or in our tribe, then you stop doing the readings you like, then you start talking to or hanging out with some of your old drinking pals a little more, then you hear the committee getting louder, telling you… “you weren’t really that bad.” You definitely weren’t as bad as some of these people, you can have just one or two drinks, you’ll be able to control it now- man, won’t it feel good to just have one drink??? You’ve worked hard all week, you deserve to be able to unwind on Friday night!”

And you make the choice to not tell anyone that the committee is getting loud. You keep it to yourself.

This is a BIG relapse choice. Feeding your addiction. You know the committee is effing with you, but you don’t tell anyone because you don’t want to be accountable to anyone.

If you don’t create accountability for yourself and protect yourself, the choice you are making is to protect your option to drink. Period.

And the very moment you protect your option to drink, it’s just a matter of time before a drink is in your hand.

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You know I’m going to give it to you straight. No BS, no fluff, no excuses.

Do you have to go to Alcoholics Anonymous to stay sober?

Absolutely not.

Can you stay sober ‘on your own’?

Absolutely not.

You may be able to quit drinking without going to meetings or going to rehab- but what about all those behaviors and effed up thought processes, bad habits, and selfish and self-serving perspective?

If you want to RECOVER, it takes work. And if you are more consumed with the thoughts of what you DON’T like and what you WON’T do, then you are already starting your sobriety on the wrong foot.

If you want to get sober, recover, grow up, and stop acting like a fool then you will want someone to help you and show you the way because you don’t know it!

When you are really ready to change, you crave guidance and support and community. It doesn’t matter what room you are sitting in.

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How many times a week do you ask yourself, “What am I doing???”

If you’re ready to give your recovery a boost that will make you and your sobriety feel stronger, you won’t want to miss this episode.

You know you need a plan, a different way to live, especially now that you aren’t pumping all your time and money into alcohol- you want to get rid of the unhealthy self-critic and maybe you haven’t done it yet because you don’t believe you can, or you don’t know how.

Everything you do, you’re either feeding your recovery or feeding your addiction.

If you are telling yourself a story that says you can’t stay sober, you’ve done this a million times before and you always screw it up, you’re going to lose the battle anyway so you may as well drink and get it over with- or, it’s just too hard- how will you ever have fun again or relax? What will you do for your birthday?

THAT, is feeding your addiction.

My friends! We have to take action! If you want to feel better, then do better things to feel better.

If you don’t want to be a victim of relapse, then do the things you need to do to feed your recovery instead of feeding your addiction!

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When you quit drinking, it leaves a lot of available time you have to fill and to protect yourself and STAY sober, you should have a plan for how you will fill that time so you don’t get caught in the moment with no plan and you panic!

If you recognize you have moments in your day that are more challenging than others, you need a plan for how you will cope with those moments and fill in that space so you can soar through it with no sober problem.

The concept of a vision is to get a little ways out and imagine what you want it to look like.

I look at what goals I want to accomplish- but when I get down to the nitty gritty, in order to accomplish any goal, it’s about ME being the person who accomplishes those goals. If I set big goals, then I have to challenge myself to step up to the plate in big ways to achieve it.

If you have been struggling with cravings, anxiety, boredom, you know you want to quit drinking even though you haven’t had any major rock bottoms- but you haven’t been able to string together any significant time.

Each day you say you aren’t going to drink, but by evening, the committee is winning the fight, telling you to drink, it’s not that big of a deal, you can start over tomorrow-

You feel alone, like no one cares, lost and overwhelmed.

This is where a clear vision can help-

Maybe you feel like you are missing out, you can’t wrap your head around quitting drinking forever, you can’t imagine how you will relax or enjoy social events.

Instead of obsessing about those fears, let’s put your energy into something positive- like building the vision of what you CAN do- who you CAN be, and seeing exactly what that looks like.

Let’s create a plan and fill in the gaps- build you a plan so you know what you are doing, how, and why.

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One DAY at a time?? How about 10 MINUTES at a time!?!

You hear it in the rooms of 12 Step programs from the minute you enter the door. One of the long-time staples of all the one liners; one day at a time.

It’s a great thing to throw around and we all get a good laugh, or a smile and nod when we say it to one another. But what does it really mean, and how do you use it in your daily life?

We’re going to break it down from one DAY at a time, to 10 MINUTES at a time. And I’ll give you a step-by-step strategy to get through those moments of anxiety, cravings, and any other discomfort.

Sometimes anxiety and cravings are completely overwhelming. The committee is going at you a hundred miles an hour and you can easily start to feel like you are going to lose your mind if it doesn’t stop.

I tell you all the time the most important thing you can do when getting sober is to make a COMMITMENT to not drinking. If you have committed yourself, 150%, then when a craving or discomfort kicks in you don’t get caught up in the struggle of “am I going to drink” or “am I NOT going to drink”, “should I or shouldn’t I???”

If you are committed then you already know you AREN’T drinking. What comes next is figuring out how to get through the uncomfortable moment- whether that is a craving, anxiety, or just a crappy mood.

For me, I took things 10 minutes at a time. And that’s what I’m going to show you today.

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You know what to do, but for some reason, you keep procrastinating and putting yourself on hold.

We all struggle with the frustration of procrastination.

You see the stack of things that need to be put away, you know you need to sit down and pay that bill or return that phone call- but you find yourself on the couch spending quality time with the Tiger King.

So what gives? Are you broken beyond repair? Are you lazy and undisciplined? Is something really WRONG with you??

Of course not.

We all struggle with the frustration of procrastination.

Procrastination is as much a habit as anything else. NOT going to they gym is a choice and a habit, just like GOING to the gym is a choice and a habit. But, how do you start to break down the bad habit and rebuild the new one?

It’s just like anything else; you need a strategy.

In this episode we’ll talk about procrastination triggers; what is the thought or belief that makes you not want to follow through on something?

And, we’ll get into some solid strategies to break down the procrastination monster and get you following through like a well-oiled machine.

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You think you can’t take another minute. Sobriety is hard, you don’t know what to do minute to minute, your brain is working overtime reminding you of all the crazy, effed up, stupid sh*t you did in your addiction and you want to run away and numb it all in the bottom of a bottle.

Stop.

Jen Elizabeth shares her story of the worst of worst. Homelessness, cults, trauma, eating out of dumpsters. And, while in jail, she had her light bulb moment that brought it all together.

Like the warrior she is, she survived one day at a time feeling like she was just hanging on by a thread. Sobriety doesn’t come with ‘knowing’ what to do. Sobriety comes with DOING what you know to do.

Now, 9 years sober, a mom, a homeowner, author, and a true survivor- when you think you’ve got it bad, think again.

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If I was starting over in my sobriety, from day one, this is how I would do it.

You’ve been thinking about quitting drinking for a long time, and you’ve had a lot of starts and stops. You know how to stop drinking, but what do you do after that?

Getting sober feels overwhelming and it leaves a lot of extra hours in a day. This is where you can get frustrated, your anxiety is on the rise, and you want to throw in the towel.

If I was starting over, from day one, this is exactly what I would do. I’ll walk you through the things I think are most important to focus on in your first days and months, and how to shift your attitude and perspective to fit your new life.

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