Fitz in the Morning: Make Up or Break Up: Recent Episodes
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Willing Northwest couples write us for advice on their relationship issues. We put them on the air to hear them out, and you play therapist; Should they Make Up or Break Up?
Danielle from Auburn has asked for help with her boyfriend Cameron after what she says was a disastrous Thanksgiving dinner with his family. She says after dinner, in the kitchen, as they were cleaning up the Turkey, Cameron’s father actually grabbed her butt and said “I wanna get up in those giblets.” She says, yes, the Turkey was right there, but it was clear the dad was talking about HER giblets, not the Turkey’s. No one else saw this, and she says when she told Cameron later he said she was over-reacting. When Cameron comes on he says his dad is just a butt-grabber, like baseball players, and he does it to everyone in the family, it’s no big deal. But Danielle feels very clear about that the dad wanted from her, and Cameron digs himself in a hole when he says the dad has no reason to hit on Danielle because the dad’s new wife – Cameron’s stepmom – is “hot”. Is Cameron fixing to be Dad 2.0? Should Danielle work it out or tell him to get stuffed?
Holly from Everett has asked us for help with her boyfriend Craig who she says has been lying to her for two months. She found out he lost his job two months ago but hasn’t told her yet; he just continues to leave the house every day and go somewhere and pretend everything’s fine. Holly says she found out when she ran into one of his coworkers a couple weeks ago who told Holly that Craig had been fired. Holly says she has no idea where Craig goes all day or how they have been making ends meet but mostly she is just stunned that he would lie about something so big for so long. When Craig comes on he says he didn’t mean to lie, he was just embarrassed and thought if he could just get another job right away it would all be fine. But then so much time passed, it got too big for him to handle. He says he didn’t want Holly to see him as weak…but holy crap, she does and she unloads! Will these two be able to get it back together?
Faith from Marysville has asked us for help with her boyfriend Jake whose family does not include her in any holiday activities. Faith says despite being together for three years, his family still does not include her in the Christmas Gift Exchange and they don’t ask her to cook anything for their potluck Christmas Dinner meal. And she says they are very rude and awkward around her as if she is a one-night stand he just dragged home. She wants Jake to stand up for her to his family and let them know she is here to stay and they should treat her like family. When Jake comes on he says his parents are just really traditional, the Gift Matrix is pretty solid, and they don’t want to bother her with trying to make the kinds of foods they like. He does sort of admit that until they get engaged they probably won’t count her in, but the P1’s (and we) seem to think it may go a lot deeper than that.
Claire from Tacoma says her boyfriend AJ is freaking out over a butt-dial call from her ex-boyfriend. She says it was totally just an accident, the Ex left a message saying so, and she thought it was funny and actually showed it to AJ not realizing he would totally obsess over it. Now AJ brings the Ex up all the time and is suspicious of all Claire’s plans and calls, asking her a lot more questions about where she’s going and what she’s doing. When Fitz says sometimes guys just want to “check in” and AJ is right to be nervous, Claire insists she loves AJ and has no interest in the Ex but admits AJ is being a total jerk and she’s not happy with him at the moment. When AJ comes on he says he’s not insecure, he just knows how guys think and thinks the Ex was totally testing the waters and Fitz agrees. But then he spends the rest of his time quizzing Claire on the identities of all the other people in her phone; turns out AJ’s got a little baggage.
Kate from Federal Way has asked for help with her boyfriend Josh who she says is turning their yard into a trashy junk yard. Josh has been buying cars with the intention of fixing them up and selling them, but Kate says he lacks the skills to do it, as well as the money needed to fix them up. At first Kate was supportive of Josh having this hobby and his vision of investment but now all he does is buy junky cars and leave them and their parts lying around and now the yard and garage make them look like, in her words, the “white trash house of the neighborhood” and she’s embarrassed to even have people over. Plus Kate is really stressed-out about how much money he is spending on all this. When Josh comes on he says this is an investment and she needs to be patient and in fact this is his plan for the future and how to send their kids through college. When he lists the cars he has, even Drew is impressed but Drew cautions Josh that if he doesn’t start working on them soon they will lose value. Josh says Kate needs to have more faith in him, but Kate says Josh needs to face reality. Can the P1’s help them? Can they work this out? And will Drew buy a few of these cars off Josh?
Ed from North Bend has asked us for help with his girlfriend Kelly who he says is out of control with spending for Christmas. He says ever since Prime Day, packages have been constantly arriving at their home and he is worried about whether they can pay their bills, especially with so much uncertainty right now. When Kelly comes on she says it’s been a crap year so she is going the extra mile to buy a little happiness for their family and friends. She says she’s getting great deals and also has a very specific plan for what she is getting for whom, as well as a plan for how to pay for it all. But when Ed says that now more than ever they need to be watching their spending, Kelly brings up HIS late-night online spending “habit” after she goes to bed, which she says is way “More Holly than Jolly”…
Tony from Lacey has asked us for help with his fiancée Whitney who he says sold her engagement ring to pay some bills. He says he can’t believe she would just casually sell off something so important that he saved so long to get for her. When we ask him to clarify if she sold it or pawned it he doesn’t seem to know the difference but also says it doesn’t matter – she should have talked to him first. When Whitney comes on she says she did try to talk to him but he refuses to ever have hard conversations around money. She says money is incredibly tight and she pawned the ring to literally pay the rent, and she says she will absolutely get it back. Also she points out they have never actually set a date for the wedding even though they got engaged long before the pandemic and she might be more concerned about needing to wear the ring if the wedding was looming. But Whitney is mostly frustrated that Tony wouldn’t talk to her but called a radio station about it. The P1’s think these two can work it out. Well, except this one guy who’s a little obsessed with butt implants.
Erin from Kent has asked us for help with her boyfriend Keith who she says wants her to cook a massive Thanksgiving Dinner for about 20 of their friends when she would rather go see her family. She says she hasn’t seen her family in Portland since Covid started and it’s important to her to spend time with them. Plus, she says his friends have not been particularly responsible; in fact she calls them “a bunch of Covid-infested monsters” who have been out partying a lot and she doesn’t want them crammed into their home. When Keith comes on he says he says his friends are not unsafe – only two of them got Covid and that was a long time ago – and he thinks it’s important to be there for people who can’t go see their families. He admits she’s the cook and yes maybe he “volunteered” her without telling her, but he’d just assumed she wouldn’t go to her parents because that would be too dangerous for them. The P1’s are pretty divided over whether they should Make Up or Break Up but everyone agrees Keith could benefit from better communication skills and a little Door Dash.
Marcus in Edmonds is upset that his girlfriend Kaylie is making extra money by selling her socks online. He thinks it’s dangerous and creepy and also seems concerned it will escalate into other activities like an “Only Fans” page or showing more identifiable body parts. When Kaylie comes on she says it’s really an amazing amount money, socks are less creepy than underwear, and it’s completely safe and anonymous. When Marcus asks what happens when someone offers a gazillion dollars for more, she says he needs to trust her that it’s only socks and nothing more and the socks alone are plenty good money to need any more. And she points out she’s been making his car payments for several months and can’t believe this is the first time he’s asked where the money is coming from; if she quits now, what happens to his car? Several P1’s call and text to help this couple out, although most of the women seem to want to know how to get in on this great gig!
Renee from Renton has been getting excited to go Trick-or-Treating with her son this week, but as the day gets closer, her fiancée Jonathan is getting nervous about it, afraid they are all going to catch COVID. Renee says she is taking a lot of precautions, and they will limit the number places they go, but it’s been such a tough year for the kids she wants them to have just one really special day. When Jonathan comes on, he says there are too many unknowns about how other people are taking precautions and he doesn’t understand why they can’t just make some fun inside the house. In the end though, he says he’s not gonna stop her, but if she goes out, he is going to self-quarantine at a hotel for two weeks. The P1’s wanna know: Where’s the Trust?
This may be one of the most controversial MUBU’s was have ever done. Nick from Olympia is upset that his fiancée Stacy suddenly says she isn’t going to take his last name when they get married. He says she hadn’t ever mentioned it before but as the date gets closer she suddenly decided that it’s too much work and not necessary. Nick says he’s traditional and the name-change should be a given in a marriage, plus he wonders why she would wait so long and blind-side him with it. When we ask him his last name, he says it’s Gracie, which would make her Stacey Gracie, and we wonder if maybe that’s part of the problem. When Stacy comes on, she says, yeah, the rhyme is a little weird, but it’s more about all the work that goes into having to change all the legal documents, plus she just doesn’t see why it’s a big deal – she likes her family name and wants to keep. And she did offer to hyphenate last names, but really feels like its old fashioned for women to be expected to totally change their names. The P1’s go off! Some feel its tradition and taking his name is part of the commitment; others think she’s having second thoughts altogether and isn’t’ really into marriage and others think Nick is way too old fashioned. But we really need to call our Therapist in Renton for Fitz and Claire!
Bonnie from Lakewood has asked us for help with her boyfriend Henry who she says lied to her about what he really did on his guys’ hunting weekend. It was the same weekend as his High School reunion which he told her he had no interest in going to but while he was gone on the hunting trip she saw on social media that he was tagged in several photos at the reunion, including some with his former Homecoming Queen girlfriend. Bonnie says she is not so much mad that he went to the reunion, but that he lied to her – so what else is he lying about? When Henry comes on he says he really didn’t want to go to the reunion and really was out hunting but his hunting buddies thought it would be fun to crash the reunion party and as their trip took them closer and closer to the reunion site, they went to it and he ended up in a bunch of pictures. Henry says it’s not a big deal and Bonnie is blowing it out proportion. He admits he was in pictures with the Homecoming Queen but says High School was a long time ago and he was definitely not interested in ever seeing that woman again. So who do the P1’s believe? Does Henry’s story add up? And where the heck are all the Elk?
Christine from Bothell has asked for our help with her husband Steve. She says they were getting a little flabby due to quarantine so she got them a couples' gym membership that included personal training. But now she's worried that Steve is getting way to close to his trainer. Christine says the trailer, Melissa, is a super cute girl with a really tight "Brazilian work out" butt, and the only reason Steve is going to the gym is to flirt with the girl and look at her butt, and Christine would be more comfortable if Steve chose a different trainer. When Steve comes on he says Christine is being ridiculous. He says he and "Melly", did hit it off but that's really helped him improve his workout and he feels better about himself than he has in years. He says Christine has no reason to be jealous of their relationship, although he can see why she's be jealous of Melly's butt. It's not like we don't all see both sides, but the conversation sure turns when we suggest Christine goes and gets a hot male trainer.
Lisa from Bremerton is really unhappy that her husband Eli went absolutely nuts on the decorations for Halloween. She says he spent money they don’t have and should be saving with every out-of-sorts due to Covid. But when Eli comes on he says Covid is exactly why he is pulling out all the stops this year, because he wants the kids to have just one good, normal thing this year. Eli says Halloween is an important time for kids to be creative and have fun and says the kids would probably be fine with fewer Christmas presents if they can have a super cool Halloween. But Eli also says this whole thing isn’t about money at all, it’s about how Lisa hates Halloween because of her religious upbringing. Lisa doesn’t dispute this – she thinks it’s a Satanic holiday and the whole thing should be scrapped and Eli is really pushing the issue by making it even bigger than it needs to be. Can this relationship be save? Wait until you hear the advice from a P1 from Issaquah who shares her experiences of being possessed.
Robert from Maple Valley has called for help with his girlfriend Gina who is says has not been keeping up with her hygiene during the pandemic. When we press him further it turns out he's not talking about cleanliness, he's complaining specifically that she's not waxing her bikini area and he is totally turned off by it. He says he understands that no one else is seeing it at the beach or anything, but he is seeing it and Gina should consider him important enough to keep up her appearance for him. When Gina comes on, she is surprisingly calm but clearly pissed off that Robert is making such a big deal about this. She says she keeps clean and shaves pretty often but she's not gonna do it every single day. And she reminds us - and Robert - that waxing is not allowed everywhere in salons right now and she's not qualified to do it to herself. But when Robert asks why his friend Josh's wife has been able to get waxed, things get really hairy.
Luke from Arlington has asked us for help with his wife Katie who he overheard telling a friend she had "settled" for him. He says he didn't mean to eavesdrop when Katie was talking to her BFF about the friend's man trouble but he heard Katie say "you shouldn't settle like I did." He says it was like a gut punch after all these years and he is not sure how to get past it, or whether he even wants to. When Katie comes on she says Luke is blowing this way out of proportion. He says the conversation was different than what he heard, and yeah she may have misspoken and used the word "settled" while consoling her friend, but she loves Luke and she wouldn't still be with him after all these years if she didn't. She says Luke is hypersensitive and reacts to things like this all the time and she sounds a bit tired of it. In fact they both sound tired. Luckily for them, we have the full force of you - the P1's - to help try and save this marriage.
Tim from Lake Forest Park has asked for help with his girlfriend Anna who is pregnant with their first child together. He says Anna has always been really into putting their lives on social media and wants everything they do together documented online. He even thinks Anna might’ve gotten pregnant just to have something to post about. Now he’s upset she wants to join the trend of a having a Gender Reveal stunt. Tim says that’s a moment he really wants to be private and not just done for “hits and clicks.” And he points to the brush fire started in California over an irresponsible Gender Reveal stunt and he doesn’t think they should do anything dangerous just for attention. When Anna comes on she agrees she is using Facebook as on online journal and scrapbook. Plus she says with the pandemic making it impossible to see her family, doing it online is a way to have everyone enjoy it together. Anna is really upset at Tim’s claim that she only got pregnant for the Facebook attention. But wait until you hear what he does for attention on our show…!
A married couple has asked for help so we don't want them to Break Up, but they have a major issue with their kids and really need your advice. Matt from Everett has asked for help with his wife Maureen because he says she refuses to get their kids vaccinated against Covid-19. He feels the kids need to get back to school as soon as possible and wants his kids to get vaccinated as soon as it's available, which is hears is going to be pretty soon. When Maureen comes on she says it's too soon - vaccines take time to test and she doesn't want their kids to be the guinea pigs for the vaccine. Matt is concerned for the kids' mental well-being, and says if the vaccine is good enough for the Government then its good enough for him, but Maureen is afraid the Government is politicizing the vaccine and it's not going to be safe if they hurry it along. The P1's come loaded for bear with this one and from all different directions.
Danielle from Lakewood has asked for help with her relationship with her boyfriend Victor. She says he and his best friend have been trying to become YouTube stars in the Jackass style for several years but they aren't very original or good at it and she thinks it's time Victor just got a real career. She says she understands there are people out there who are really successful at this but those people have good ideas and original material and a business plan and Victor and his buddy have none of those and Danielle thinks now that he's 28 years old, he needs to get a life. When Victor comes on, he comes straight after us "Boomers" for even having this conversation and not at all understanding what he's doing and who is he modelling himself after. After trying to drop a whole lotta jokes on us, Victor says believes in himself and is full of optimism for his career and wants no part of any negativity about his future. But...does he actually care at all about his future with Danielle?
Dana from Woodinville has written to us for help with her boyfriend George. She says now that more bars and restaurants are open she is dying to out but he still doesn't think it's a good idea. They first met just days before Covid hit and lockdown happened so even though they've been technically dating for several months they have never actually been on the town together for a real date. She says she knows they have to be careful but thinks he is being too cautious. Plus she knows he has gone out with his guy friends a few times so she is starting to wonder if he just doesn't want to go out in public with her. When George comes on he says Dana is blowing it way out of proportion. He says the times he has gone out were just "necessary" hang outs like a friend's going-away party and helping a guy move and he didn't bring her along because they were "guy" things and she doesn't know any of them. But Dana can't help think that maybe George is hiding her from his friends...or maybe he is hiding someone else from her?
Elisa from Enumclaw has asked us for help with her husband Brayden. Now, we don't want to break up a married couple but Elisa has a major problem and she really wants your help: she is pregnant and having a boy and they are trying to decide on a name. Brayden had a brother named Maxwell who passed away and he has always said when he had a boy he would name him for his brother. But Elisa has an abusive ex named Max and she absolutely cannot handle having a child with that name. She is looking for a compromise. But when Braydon comes on he says it's not up for debate - it will happen. He says Elisa is over-reacting and her ex couldn't have been that bad. He says this is important to his whole family and she will just need to find a way to get over her past. And in case you're wondering...the brother's middle name is no help...
Vanessa from Kent has asked for our advice with her boyfriend Carl who she thinks is still way too close to his college girlfriend. Vanessa says this girl is not just all over his social media all the time bringing up "the old days" but sometimes shows up to parties they go to, or even restaurants, and sometimes it's Carl that has invited her and she feels like it's a "Throuple". When Carl comes on he says, yeah, he and Shelby are still close, but they've been friends since their days as Drum Majors at UW, which is a really tight community, and they still have a lot of friends in common. He says they are not like "real" exes because they are better as pals than they ever were as boyfriend-girlfriend, and he doesn't think its fair he should have to stop being friends - he loves Vanessa and she needs to just stop worrying. The P1's debate this one pretty hard - can you really ever just stay "friends" with your ex? Or is Vanessa overreacting? And is the real problem that Carl is a Husky and not a Coug?
Shirley from Shelton has asked us for help with her boyfriend Cliff who she says absolutely refuses to vote in the upcoming election. She says she understands that they have different opinions about the candidates and issues but it's his duty as an American to vote no matter what you believe. But when Cliff comes on he says this is a trap - he says she is rabid about her political beliefs and her "red hat" and he is just tired of her talking about it "all the freakin' time". He has lost all interest is politics or voting or talking about it or even thinking about it. The P1's get super up fired at both of these two, coming at them from Left, Right and Center!
Miranda from Lynnwood has called for help with her boyfriend Eddie. She says they are in a Zoom Game Group with a bunch of other friends that are in couples. Miranda is able to go out to work at her office each day but Eddie is home all day, and Miranda came home a few days ago and found Eddie Zooming with one of the women from the group and now she’s worried he’s cheating. The other woman has a boyfriend, and she knows Eddie hasn’t actually left the house much, but Miranda wonders if even just a private Zoom conversation is a sign that he wants to get with the woman in real life. When Eddie comes on he says he is just a competitive guy and there is nothing more to his meetups with the woman than practicing the games. And he says he didn’t even want to play the Zoom games in the first place, that Miranda talked him into it, but now that he’s doing it he hates to lose.
Austin from Marysville has asked us for help with his girlfriend Rebecca who he says is a compulsive Little White Liar. He says at first it didn't seem like a big deal, like saying her parents were millionaires when they weren't, and other little tiny things, like saying she was at the grocery store when she was really at the nail salon. But now it seems she does it all the time to the point where he is starting to wonder if she ever tells the truth about anything. When Rebecca comes on she says Austin is exaggerating. She admits embellishing her background at the beginning of a relationship but says everyone does that at first, and with Austin is was especially hard because he is not easy to impress. But also she says he is often questioning her choices, like spending money on the nail salon, so she lies and says grocery store to keep him from nagging her. But when Austin reveals a story Rebecca put out on Facebook, it gets a little harder to tell what exactly is really going on here.
Graham from Puyallup has asked us for help with his girlfriend Maggie who he says is jealous of his relationship with his sister. Graham says he and his sister have been super close all of their lives and she’s pretty much his best friend. He says his sister is a great person and he doesn’t understand why Maggie doesn’t like having her around. When Maggie comes on she says she likes Graham’s sister just fine, but she is always over at the house, sometimes 3-4 times a week for dinner, without giving Maggie any advanced warning, almost like a third member of the relationship. He also seeks his sister’s opinion on every aspect of their relationship and sometimes she knows about big news in his life before she does. Maggie makes a good case, and Graham also seems reasonable at first, but then he gets super defensive and, we hate to say it, kinda weird…
Michelle from Federal Way has asked for help with her boyfriend Chuck. She says his friends are constantly hitting on her and making lewd comments about her body and Chuck never defends her or asks them to back off. She says while at first she was flattered by the attention, now it’s just annoying. Plus the fact that Chuck’s not stepping in makes her wonder if he cares anymore. When Chuck comes on he says these are his best buds in the world and while they may talk “guy talk”, they would never intentionally do anything to hurt him or to hurt her. And he says she has never told him it bothers her. She seems stunned that he hasn’t noticed how bad it is. But when one of Chuck’s bros calls in to the show, he claims Michelle is inviting the attention with the stuff she posts on social media and is basically encouraging Chuck’s friends to hit on her. If you think it’s testy between Michelle and Chuck, wait until you hear Drew and Claire.
Elizabeth has asked us for help with her boyfriend Cliff who is 13 years younger than her. She is 44 and he is 31 and they have been together for 3 years. She fell in love with him because she says he’s mature and interesting and they fit really well together. She says his friends have always joked about her being an older woman but now it has turned more serious, with them not just embarrassing her with gag gifts like Depends and calling her Granny, but now they are actively trying to fix him up with other women, sometimes right in front of her. She says she knows Cliff loves her but when they do that stuff he just laughs along with them and she really wants him to defend her in front of them. When Cliff comes on, he says he knows his guys are jackasses, but thinks their goal is to make fun of him, not her, that’s just what guys do. He thinks she needs to lighten up and see the humor, and also thinks she is trying to separate him from his buddies.
Sean from Snohomish says his girlfriend Allison can’t cook worth a lick and he wants our help finding ways to encourage her to get better at it. He says they get take out so much that it’s getting expensive and he is gaining a lot of weight. He wants her to take some lessons or at least put some effort into getting better at it. When we ask why he doesn’t cook, he says he works 50 hours a week and she works from home and has more time. When Allison comes on she says she has NEVER been interested in cooking and made that clear to him from Day One and she doesn’t understand why he is suddenly making a big deal. But when Sean reveals that he saw a Facebook Memory of her cooking a big dinner for her Ex three years ago, both of their stories start to fall apart and the P1’s are there to pounce.
This one gets very emotional. Olivia from Lake Stevens has written for guidance because her boyfriend Eric has a tattoo of his son who passed way, which she understands, but it’s a poorly done tattoo. She says it is coming between them when they get intimate because it looks like a “little goblin”. She has offered to pay for him to have it redone, but he refuses because it means too much to him as it is. When Eric comes on he says he understands her feelings, and has even seriously considered having it redone, but can’t bring himself to do it because his son was still alive when he had it done and the little boy loved it. They are both very calm and reasonable and have deeply thought this through but they just can’t meet up on it. Can the P1’s help? Is Olivia being selfish or is Eric being stubborn? Can anything ever heal the hurt of a lost child?
We’ve been getting a lot of couples with this exact problem: Jenn from Olympia is fed up with her husband Brandon’s obsession with TikTok. She says TikTok is for kids and he should not be on it nearly as much as he is, and while she says some of the things he does are funny, she thinks he is totally embarrassing himself, like dancing shirtless with his Dad Bod. And Jenn says Brandon has their daughter doing inappropriate thing like Twerking. But when Brandon comes on he says TikTok fulfills two really important functions: he is actually spending quality fun time with their 13-year-old doing something they both enjoy - which is hard to find with preteens - and he says TikTok is helping to keep him relevant on Social Media for his business. The P1’s are pretty divided along pro-TikTok-anti-TikTok lines, but we all seem to agree that Brandon may want to rethink the way he his promoting his business.
This one’s a doozy: Claudia from Buckley has asked Fitz for help with her husband Stuart who she says has hired a way-too-hot tutor for their kids. She says with everything going on with quarantine and working from home, she put Stuart in charge of finding a tutor for their kids to help them keep up with home schooling and distance learning. According to Claudia, Stuart looked on social media and found a hot 22-year-old with big boobs to just be eye candy. But when Stuart comes on, he says he interviewed 8 different potential tutors, and this one – Megan – has as good of qualifications as any of them, but also has the skills of younger people with making and posting videos, troubleshooting Zoom, and other things he says an “old school marm” can’t do. Claudia is skeptical that he couldn’t find someone the same age but less attractive. And then…she brings up some former babysitter she eludes was an “issue” with Stuart. We never get the full story on that babysitter, but the P1’s agree that whether or not Stuart cheated or Claudia is just paranoid, these two have a bigger problem than home schooling. And wait ‘til you hear the perspective of a P1 named “The Hot Nanny”.
Tiffany from Renton has asked Fitz for help because she’s pretty fed up with her boyfriend Brett. She cosigned on a loan for fully loaded $70,000 pickup truck he said would be ideal to use for renovating their home as well as for work projects. But after a couple of weeks she just found out he’s been renting trucks for all that work because he doesn’t want to scratch and devalue the truck. She is upset not just about the money but also because he has been hiding that from her. When Brett comes on, he says the truck is an investment in their future and he needs to keep it in good shape to keep its value. He says he is thinking long-term about it being the safest vehicle to carry their future children, as well as it’s usefulness for camping trips and such. When we question him about the lying, he is a bit evasive, but he does make a compelling argument about the truck’s long-term value versus the cost or rentals. But when the talk turns to the cost and value of an engagement ring, the wheels come off.
Alexander from Bothell has asked us for help with his girlfriend Stephanie and her obsession with filters on social media. He was at first concerned but is now actually annoyed that she can’t seem to post a normal regular picture of herself because he feels like it’s dishonest. He says even when he posts something she takes it down and redoes it and reposts it. When Stephanie comes on, the story becomes quite different. She says she does it because she is bothered by her chronic acne, something she says Alexander reminds her of constantly. The P1’s at first agree with Alexander about the annoying overuse of filters but Oh, Man, do they turn on him when Stephanie’s poor self-esteem comes straight at us.
Hunter from Bremerton needs our help, and fast, with this fiancée Sierra, who he is afraid is going to stay his fiancée and never become his wife. Like a lot of Northwest couples, they had a big, beautiful wedding planned for late summer that has now been put on hold due to COVID. Hunter says they agreed to delay the big wedding until next year, but he still wants to get legally married now and she doesn’t. He says Sierra thinks a quick courthouse wedding will make the big party wedding feel fake to her and ruin it. But Hunter says the wedding itself is not nearly as meaningful as the commitment. When Sierra comes on she says she had dreamt of this day since she was a little girl, and she wants it to feel perfect and not like a sham. She says they’ve been together so long they don’t need the piece of paper and one more year won’t matter. It all seems nice and workable until suddenly Hunter gets emotional and Sierra gets very, very chilly.
Hannah from Tacoma has asked Fitz for help with her boyfriend Robert who she says is always pointing out the way she smells. He says it’s not body odor so much as just a specific smell she has. She doesn’t smell it and neither do any of her friends and after about 4 months of extra showering and trying several perfumes and body scents, Robert admitted he made it up on the advice of his father who told him it was a technique for keeping women a little insecure so they stay around. When Robert comes on, he says he never said she stank, he just noted her personal odor, and he says he dad always taught him it’s important to keep women from becoming complacent in the relationship, and to remind her that she isn’t any better than him cuz, after all, he says stuff about him too, right? And Robert says it’s worked with other girlfriends – but has it, Robert? Really? There is at least P1 who thinks Robert has the right idea but the overwhelming majority think its Robert who stinks.
Miley from Enumclaw has asked us for help with her man Joey who she thinks needs a fashion intervention. She says Joey has been tearing the sleeves off all his shirts to make home-made tank tops, which generally is a nice “country” look”, but she doesn’t think Joey has the arms to pull it off and is embarrassing himself. When Joey comes on he says the idea he is doing it for fashion is stupid, it’s just hot out and he likes to enjoy the summer weather and cool off a bit with short sleeves. But he does say he’s worried that if she is more concerned with how he looks than how he feels, then maybe he she doesn’t love him as much as he loves her. The P1’s have a lot to say to Miley about self-image and unconditional love, but we all agree that cut-off sleeves and Jorts are what make America great!
Eddie from Sumner has written in to us for help with his girlfriend Diane who he says has been waking up in the middle of the night saying other guys’ names. He says she didn’t do it when they first got together so he’s concerned that she’s dreaming about other guys, and if she’s dreaming about them, well then, what else is happening with them? And he’s pretty sure she is dreaming about someone he doesn’t know because he doesn’t recognize the names, like other friends or TV characters. When Diane comes on, she says Eddie is being completely ridiculous; she is not cheating and can’t be judged on what she dreams. The P1’s agree that it’s weird that Diane says other dudes’ names while sleeping, but they don’t think that’s anything to act on. But as for this whole relationship? They may both be dreaming if they think it’s gonna work.
Tiffany from Bellevue has asked us for help with her boyfriend Ken, although more specifically the problem is with Ken’s son with his ex-wife. She says the little boy is really acting out against her over Ken’s divorce. She says at first the son was just rude to her, but now he is verbally abusive and sometimes violent. She feels bad for the little boy because she knows he is frustrated over his parents’ divorce but it has escalated to where she doesn’t feel safe around him and she needs Ken to address it with the boy, and probably the boy’s mom who Tiffany suspects is fueling the boy’s anger. When Ken comes on, he acknowledges the boy’s behavior is bad and says he has talked to him and will do it again. But Ken also says Tiffany is not totally blameless because she fuels some of the fight back to the mom. We get a TON of calls on this one as a lot the P1’s feel bad for Ken but think he’s the one who needs to get a handle this. Although…little boy aside…Tiffany and Ken may have some other lurking issue.
Tom from Renton has asked for help with his girlfriend Sophia who he says is mad at him for doing something he thought was really nice. It seems Sophia owed a bunch of money to her ex-boyfriend and was paying it off in installments so Tom went ahead and paid it all off. Tom says he thinks the guy was just using the debt as an excuse to keep in contact with Sophia so he figured this was a good way to end that and he doesn’t understand why she’s so mad. When Sophia comes on she says this wasn’t Tom’s issue to deal with and he stepped over the line when he paid the debt without asking. And she disputes his theory that the ex was using it to hang on to her – it was her decision to pay it in installments because it was a business-related debt and she wanted a clean record of payment. Now she just feels like owes Tom a bunch of money and thinks maybe this is all about control. The P1’s are pretty divided as to whether the ex was really just keeping her hanging on and also whether these two should Make Up or Break Up, but everyone seems to agree Tom has some control issues.
Eve from Federal Way has asked us for help with her boyfriend Derek who she says is chronically late. She says she feels disrespected because he is especially late to things that are important to her, but is usually on time, or even early, for things that are important to him. Her examples include him being late picking up their children and to parties she throws, but being hours early for his Seahawks tailgates with his buddies. When Derek comes on he says Eve is just picking out isolated incidents and making a huge deal out of nothing.He says he knows about the tailgates because they are on a calendar but picking up kids is usually last minute and easy to forget. The P1’s are split – some think Derek is being disrespectful of Eve’s time, others think he is just unintentionally flaky and have suggestions for how he can get more organized. But we ALL agree that Fitz’s unusual brand of “Kiss Therapy” is one of the weirdest things we’ve ever heard.
Janine from Puyallup has called in for help with her fiancée Eddie. She says he is letting his beef with another neighborhood dad stand between her son and that dad’s son, who is his little best friend. She says Eddie doesn’t want the kid exposed to this jerk because he has said stuff about Janine and refuses to apologize. When Eddie comes on, he says Janine doesn’t understand how bad this other guy is, and the things he says about her body, especially her butt, and it’s all inappropriate language for a man to be using in front of kids so he doesn’t want his son over there hearing that. Janine says Eddie is too jealous and sensitive about what men think about her bootie, and he needs to rise above his insecurities to meet the needs of his son who needs his best friend. This one gets us - and the P1’s - ALL riled up over a myriad of issues, but in the end, is it a Make Up or Break Up?!
Ben from Auburn has asked us for help with his girlfriend Angela who he says wants to start an “Only Fans” account in which she would livestream herself showing and doing…things...for money. He says she needs money since she lost her job during the Pandemic, and thinks it will be an easy way to make a lot of it. Ben is not down with this, even though she says she won’t show her face, so no one will know she is, because he feels it’s the same as if she were actually with other guys. When Angela comes on, she says Ben is over-reacting. She says it’s totally safe, she has several friends doing it making a ton of money, and since she has no distinguishing birthmarks or tattoos no one will ever know it’s her. But can she keep up those limits? And does that matter – it’s her body, can’t she do what she wants with it? Is Ben just being insecure? Should they Make Up or Break Up? And what exactly did Claire just admit to?
Damon from Bremerton has called for help with his girlfriend Angela who he says is a total Daddy’s Girl. He says she is way too dependent on her father for his opinions about everything in their lives, including their vacations. He says before COVID even hit they had to cancel a “once in a lifetime” trip to Africa because her dad didn’t like the idea. And pretty much every vacation they have ever taken was because her dad strongly suggested it like skiing in Vail and Whistler. Then Damon admits Angela’s dad has actually been paying for these trips, and we start to wonder how Damon thinks he is going to get her to stop being less dependent then they are both still taking Daddy’s money. When Angela comes on, she says her parents are very important to her and she really does value her dad’s opinion. And she thinks Damon is just jealous of her relationship with her dad because he never really had one with his own father. And the P1’s weigh in on this: in this day and age, do you still have to ask a father for permission to propose to a woman?
Tom from Lynwood has written for help with his girlfriend Tiffany. He’s upset because before COVID hit they planned to take a summer vacation together. But after 3 months of quarantine, Tiffany says when they are allowed to travel she is going on a girls’ trip with her friends instead. Tom thinks that ain’t right – she should want to spend their first time “out in the world” together and he is really hurt that she doesn’t want to. When Tiffany comes on she emphasizes how much she loves him but that they have really, really, really been in each other’s pockets all this time and she is honestly a little tired of seeing him every day. She says it’s healthier for couples to spend a little time apart and wants him to go take a trip with his boys. Some of the P1’s agree with Tiffany and think Tom is too clingy (and can’t wait to get away from their own spouses!) but others think she and her girl’s may have something - or someone - a little “extra” planned!
Kayla from Olympia has asked for help with her husband Joe who she says is feeding their son too much junk food. She says Joe uses fast food and ice cream as rewards and fun “Dad/Son Time” and the boy is getting really heavy. She says in the past few months he has gained about 20 pounds and she’s worried that when school starts up again he is going to be teased, but also she fears for his long-term health. And to make matters worse, Joe is encouraging the boy’s video game playing and not any kind of sports or outdoor exercise. When Joe comes on, he says Kayla is overreacting, that every kid in the neighborhood has gained weight during Quarantine, and this spring and summer have been so hard with all their sports and activities, cancelled that the boy needs some pick-me-ups to feel better and have some fun. Joe is also upset that she’s fat-shaming their son although she insists she has never said anything to the son about his weight, only to Joe. And then suddenly we get a view of what Kayla thinks of Joe’s weight and what Joe thinks of Kayla’s helicopter parenting
Maureen from Mill Creek has asked us for help with her boyfriend Kevin. She thinks Kevin’s female boss is after him, because she calls him a lot, sometimes late at night, and has nicknames for him, including “handsome”. And to add to Maureen’s suspicions, sometimes Kevin goes into a different room to talk to the Boss Lady. When Kevin comes on, he says the boss doesn’t call nearly as often as Maureen says, but admits she does call a lot because it is the nature of their business, which he says moves very fast. Kevin says he calls all the workers a lot, but his view is that she especially calls him a lot because he is a valued employee. And he says she calls all the men “handsome.” This sparks a big debate about male vs female bosses as well as whether flirting is an appropriate way to get a raise, but what about the main question: can they Make Up or should they Break Up?
Alexa from Shelton has asked Fitz for help with her boyfriend Ryan. Before COVID, they had been planning a big vacation for the summer which had to be cancelled. Fortunately they were able to get back the several thousands of dollars they had already paid for it. Unfortunately, at least according to Alexa, Ryan used most of it to jack up his truck. She says he has always loved his truck and put a lot of his own money into it, but this time she feels it was their joint money that went into something that is only for him to enjoy. When Ryan comes on he says Alexa is missing the big picture on how he did this for both of them: he says since COVID he no longer wants the kind of vacation where you fly somewhere and stay in hotels; now he would rather go off-roading and camping and that’s why he needed to outfit the truck not just with better suspension but with better gear inside and out. But is the truck really the issue? Because the P1’s seem to think it’s more about who controls the money.
Roger from Spanaway has asked for help with his girlfriend Melissa who he says has formed an unusually close relationship with his mother. He says at first he was glad they hit at off but now they are practically BFF’s. Roger feels weird that his mom is the one telling Melissa about his exes and important moments of his life instead of him which. And they hang out so much that Roger feels like he basically has to fight with his mom for Melissa’s time. When Melissa comes on she says she has no idea what the problem is and wouldn’t it be worse if they hated each other? She thought he would love that they hit it off so well and it’s been a great bonus for her personally because Diane, Roger’s mom, is a great person and they share a lot of similar interests. And then Diane calls in to the show! First of all she is a P1 and is pretty excited that her “baby boy” is on the radio. She confirms she and Melissa are clearly BFF’s and calls her the “daughter I never had”. She admits she never liked any of his other girlfriends before but thinks Melissa “a keeper” and thinks he should propose
Amber from Edmonds is asking for our help with her boyfriend Kevin. She says Kevin has been reaching out to his ex-girlfriend, and the ex-girlfriend has been over-reaching back, so much that Amber thinks she is trying to get him back. She says she knows the original contact had something to do with getting some family pictures, which she understands, but that could have been done in one conversation and an email, not multiple conversations and not needing late night private phone calls. When Kevin comes on, he says his grandfather recently passed away and his family is putting together an online memorial, and his ex has a lot of really great pictures. When Fitz questions why that would require more than one phone call, he says the woman keeps finding more pictures so she calls to ask if he wants them and they end up talking about good times. When Amber asks why this needs late-night phone calls, Kevin says she is a busy woman and that’s when she has time, and since she is doing him a favor he doesn’t want to be rude. But the P1’s are absolutely not buying what Kevin is selling.
Nicole from Issaquah is having a problem with her husband Josh that she says is damaging their relationship with their daughter. Nicole says Josh is totally up in the 17-year-old girl’s business all the time, not just watching her social media but also following her on dates with her boyfriend. Nicole says the girl is so upset that she has only applied to colleges in Florida, which the girl says is the farthest away she can get from her father, something she never even considered before this year. When Josh comes on, he says he is merely trying to protect their daughter from what he knows are the true intentions of teenage boys. He says he is sure to stay back far enough when they are out so they have privacy but he wants to be available in case of trouble. As far as the social media, Josh says it’s a different world now and thinks Nicole is naïve to not read everything the kids are saying and doing.
Reese from Federal Way has asked for help with her roommate Jeffrey. They are just friends, nothing romantic, and have always made great roommates, but quarantine may have brought an end to all that. Reese says ever since we were all ordered to stay at home, Jeffrey has been bringing more women home, than ever before, from Tinder, Bumble and Hinge. And if it’s not enough that the women are in the apartment, they are leaving their undies all over the place, including her bathroom, and Reese says doesn’t want anyone’s “fluids” anywhere near her or her stuff. When Jeffrey comes on he says he “screens” the women to make sure they aren’t symptomatic, and says he’s sure everyone is telling the truth because no one wants to get sick. But Jeffrey says he thinks the real problem Reese is having is that she is in love with him and is just jealous that he’s seeing other women.
This one is pretty perplexing. Danielle from Puyallup has called to ask Fitz for help with her boyfriend Luke. She says they are both P1’s of the show, listening to Fitz for many years, but she is perturbed because lately Luke will change the station. And she has figured out why: he doesn’t like certain songs. When we drill down to diagnose the problem with Danielle, we figure out the songs are what we call “Boyfriend Country” – simply put, Luke hates Dan+Shay and all the other nice guys who sing nice songs about their nice girls. When Luke comes on, he admits it: he doesn’t like a lot of the newest songs because they are too “wimpy” and they also don’t have enough banjo, fiddle, or pedal steel. Fitz defends Country Music in all its forms, and tells Luke he needs to keep up with the times. But that’s all beside the point for Danielle who says the true measure of a P1 is that once you set that present, you never, ever take it off.
Theresa from Port Orchard has written to Fitz for help with her boyfriend Marcus who she says has gained WAY more than the Quaran-twenty.. She says he is just eating junk food during the Coronavirus Quarantine. Theresa says He’s getting more lazy, and starting to look like the “get in my belly” guy from Austin Powers. Marcus admits he’s gained weight and that as soon as the gym opens he will start working out...he also says that he is supporting local business by ordering so much take out. Marcus believes it won’t be a problem once he’s back out in the workforce, He’ll go to the Gym and be back in shape in a week or two. We hear from the listeners who think that Theresa is being shallow and should love Marcus no matter what. Do the P1’s think this one can be saved?
Lauren from Port Orchard has written to Fitz for help with her boyfriend Tom who she says has gone remodel crazy since he’s been home on Quarantine. She says at first she was OK with the idea Small Repairs around the house. But then he tried to remodel the kitchen and ended up completely tearing the kitchen apart! And he doesn't ever cook in the kitchen! Lauren says she is the one in the relationship working currently, and that when she comes home she finds a new project started, before Tom is finished with the one before! More importantly Lauren thinks there was Nothing wrong with the kitchen the way it was! The P1’s Talk about how far is too far, but does anyone think these two will make it?
Janna from Issaquah has written to Fitz for help with her boyfriend Ben who she says wants to invest all of their money into a tech start-up. She says they’ve both been working hard to save up for a down payment on a house and with the economy so up in the air right now she thinks it’s too big a risk. And she says Ben doesn’t really know anything at all about investing or about tech and is just relying on the advice of the friend who wants the money. When Ben comes on he says he is really bummed that Janna doesn’t believe in him a little more. He says while he knows there is no such thing as a “sure thing”, his friend’s start-up is actually really great and he feels that by getting in on the ground floor, he and Janna will make a fortune. And he says now is a perfect time to invest because hedge funds have the time to take a good look at start-ups. Complicating the conversation is that Ben can’t tell any of us what this thing even is that his friend has invented and wants them to give him their life savings for.
Anna from Snoqualmie has written to Fitz for help with her boyfriend Mike who she says has gone crazy with surveillance cameras in their home. She says at first she was OK with the idea that the outside of their home was protected from strangers. But then he put them inside the house, and then he started watching them from work, and then he started watching her and calling her to ask her why she was doing certain things like sleeping in, or ignoring answering the door, or asking her where she is when she is out of frame for too long. Anna says she feels like a prisoner in her own home and can’t get through to him how invasive this is. When Mike comes on he says times are crazy with people stealing stuff and it is all to protect Anna. For his part, he doesn’t understand why she feels threatened rather than secure. The P1’s debate the difference between security vs surveillance, but does anyone think these two will make it?
Ryan from Lake Stevens has written to Fitz for help with his girlfriend Donna who he says is addicted to online shopping. He says he is still working during Coronavirus Quarantine but Donna is not, and she has not only spent all their stimulus money already, but is now starting to run up their credit cards. And Ryan says she is buying a bunch of frivolous stuff they don’t need like shoes and a wine club membership. When Donna comes on, she says she’s not buying anything they won’t eventually use or need and the sales are so incredible right now she is actually going to end up saving them money in the long run. She admits she has been shopping out of boredom but says she knows she is going back to work soon and will be able to pay off all the credit cards. Do the P1’s think this one can be saved?
Andrew from Everett has written to Fitz for help with his girlfriend Renee. For as long as they have lived together, Renee has had a really high-paying sales job and they have relied on her income. But due to quarantine, she has been laid off and has been working on some home craft projects and has decided that when quarantine ends she wants to quit her job and do the crafts full time. Andrew says no way – they need her income, and the whole “arts and crafts” thing is a boondoggle; he even goes so far as to say Etsy is a Cult. When Renee comes on, she says she never realized just how incredibly stressed she was in her job until she had a break from it. She says crafting is good for her soul and she thinks with her sales background she could eventually turn it into a good business. They both seem logical until the “C” word comes up: Control!
Allison from Everett has asked Fitz for help with her boyfriend Brent who she calls a “grown-ass kid”. Allison says Brent does not understand that “working from home” is actually working, and he doesn’t just interrupt her with goofy questions while she is working, but he wanders into her work Zoom meetings, sometimes in his underwear, and whenever she is not on the computer, he uses it to play video games and sometimes closes out all her windows. To make matters worse, Allison is the only bread winner right now, and she is legit afraid his behavior will affect her job. When Brent comes on he admits he is kind of acting like a slacker because he is enjoying being off work for the first time in ages and sometimes he just loses track of time and totally forgets she is actually working. He also wishes she would get her work done faster so she can spend more time slacking around with him. When the P1’s weigh in, we learn a lot about…well, how to play “Doom.”
Sarah from Olympia has written to Fitz for help with her boyfriend Jeff who she says absolutely will not argue. While it sounds like the kind of problem most people would like to have, she says she can tell when he is unhappy about a decision or situation but rather than discussing it she says he just says “whatever” and stews for a while. She knows that’s not healthy for either of them. She says - and we agree – that the occasional argument is good for a relationship so Fitz thinks it could be a sign that Jeff has lost interest in the relationship, maybe even to the point of looking at other women. Fitz always says that, right? But when Claire agrees, Sarah starts to panic. When Jeff comes on, he says we all need to calm down, especially Sarah. He says the problem is she wants to argue about every little thing, and enjoys getting into major blow-ups over nothing and he’s just not into fighting for the sake of fighting. This one really lights up the P1’s who agree if they don’t fix this now it could escalate into a major problem.
Adam from Sumner has called in to talk to Fitz about a problem with his girlfriend Wendy. He says quarantine has made him realize that Wendy cheats at absolutely everything. He says she is not only super aggressive, but she actually cheats at cards, board, games and video games. And he says Wendy is even cheating at Netflix, getting ahead of him on shows they are supposed to be watching together while he is asleep. When Wendy comes on, she says he is being way too sensitive – she grew up with older brothers and learned early that if you aren’t aggressive and don’t find ways “around the rules” you are never gonna win. Plus, she says, Adam just isn’t very good at games, and it’s actually not even fun to play video games because he doesn’t even try. While the P1’s mostly think this is just a big case of “cabin fever” and they probably shouldn’t break up, we do hear creative ways of saying Adam should “grow a set”.
Nicole from Graham has written to Fitz for help with her boyfriend Scott who she says has gone way overboard home-schooling their son. She says their son is 7, in second grade, but Scott treats him more like a teenager with discipline and a strict schedule. Nicole agrees with keeping what would be his regular school schedule and learning, but she says Scott is going well beyond that, not just locking up his toys until 3pm every day, but also introducing curriculum that’s beyond what their son would normally be doing. When Scott comes on, he says kids crave structure and if their son is going to get ahead, let alone keep up, he needs to keep the schedule consistent, and since he wouldn’t be normally home until 3pm to play with his toys anyway, it is only logical that the toys would be off-limits. As for the curriculum, Scott thinks his son’s teachers are not keeping up with the times and he has found better courses online. By the time these two are done talking, it’s the most divided the P1’s have ever been!
Gianna from Mill Creek is afraid her relationship with her boyfriend Daniel is going to implode over something that we are all going through in quarantine. She says he is taking the worry and anxiety over Cornavirus too far and has compulsively been washing his hands to the point where they are now dry and cracking. She feels like he might even be borderline OCD. He absolutely refuses to leave the house so she has to do all the errands which she doesn’t mind but he makes her shower multiple times when she returns home and now he won’t even go near her. She is afraid he will turn a corner he cannot come back from. When Daniel comes on, he says if everyone was as cautious as he is, we wouldn’t all be in this predicament. As for the excessive washing, he says because the science of COVID-19 is so new and unknown, just because he doesn’t go out doesn’t mean the virus is not in the house. And while Daniel does speak reasonably, we can all hear there is something much deeper happening.
Paul from Bothell is really concerned about the behavior of his girlfriend Kathy. He says she has gotten it into her head that now is a great time for a Road Trip. He says she is normally not this stubborn but she is really digging in on this one, insisting on getting in the car and going through several states to see her family in Colorado. He admits it’s probably cabin fever, but he can’t get through to her how dangerous it is for her and her family given all the truck stops and gas stations and fast food places she will have to hit on the way. When Kathy comes on, she is really irritated that Paul is not understanding how the quarantine is affecting her mental health and that what she is planning is well thought out and will be carefully done. She says the real problem is that Paul is a total control freak and maybe she just needs to get away from him.
Maggie in Renton has written to Fitz for advice about her roommate Brie who she did not realize was such a complete and total slob until the Coronavirus Quarantine. She says they are both working at home now, but prior to that, Brie worked very long hours and Maggie did most of the cleaning and dishes, and didn’t mind so much. But now that Brie is home, Maggie can see perfectly well that Brie has plenty of time to clean up and is just a lazy slob, spilling and splashing food and not cleaning it up. And then there’s the shower drain hair. When Brie comes on, she says Maggie is plenty slobby on her own, and is only complaining out Brie’s stuff. And it’s not just dishes – Brie says Maggie has her crap all over the bathroom, which leads to an argument over “good crap” vs “bad crap”. And what does Bigfoot have to do with all this?
We admit it, we are all really into “Tiger King”. But Kate from Carnation has asked Fitz for help because her boyfriend Jeff is super-obsessed with it, to the point where it is affecting their relationship and their finances. She says it’s not bad enough that he has watched all seven episodes multiple times, but now he makes pancakes in the shape of tiger heads, he’s shaved his beard into a Joe Exotic style, and…he’s threatening to grow a mullet. For real. When Jeff comes on, he says he can’t believe he lived his whole life not knowing about Joe Exotic and that Joe is the perfect man for the crazy times we are having right now. We all agree, and at first we think he’s just a fan like we are, but then we start to understand what Kate is talking about: while the two of them are struggling to make ends meet during the Coronavirus Quarantine, Jeff is sending money to a fund to get Joe Exotic out of prison.
Emily from Snohomish has written to Fitz for help with her boyfriend Mark. Mark has never been big into social media and even used to make fun of Emily and judge her for how much she was into it. But now that he’s home a lot due to Coronavirus, he is now on a bunch of sites – not just FB and IG but also now SnapChat and TikTok. And…he won’t let her see his phone, so while she knows he’s getting a lot of messages, she doesn’t know who they are from and he won’t tell her, which worries her that maybe he’s talking to people he shouldn’t. Plus she says he is watching a lot of “work out” videos and it’s creeping her out. When Mark comes on, he says he is feeling isolated and bored and craving human interaction so he got on social media to connect with his family and now, yes, he is really into it. We press him about how much time he spends with family on FB as compared to how much he spends on Tik Tok looking at dancing butts, but he stands by family interaction first and booty-watching second. Then Fitz has a brilliant idea: will making a Booty TikTok together save this couple?
Jack from Mill Creek has written to Fitz for help with his girlfriend Lauren. As with many people right now, Jack is working from home. He works in supply chain logistics so things have been very busy. Lauren meanwhile is a restaurant manager but has been laid off and both are being good citizens by staying home as best they can. But Jack says Lauren has been looking over his shoulder while he is working and listening in on his conference calls. One day she made a suggestion and he took it, and ever since she is constantly offering him advice and trying to horn in on what’s happening at his office. He says she needs to leave him alone because she has no idea what his work really entails because she “just” works in a restaurant. When Lauren comes on, she says Jeff needs her advice, and not just that one time; she thinks he still needs it and says her experience in food service is all about supply chain, and she also knows a lot about managing people. She admits she first listened in because she was bored, but now she knows she can be really helpful to him. But when he balks, things start to…smell…
The Stay-at-Home order has unfortunately increased your requests to be on Make Up or Break Up! Today we meet Justine from SeaTac who has written to Fitz for help with her boyfriend Ed who she has now realized is one of “those people” everyone is complaining about who is hoarding toilet paper. She says it’s not just toilet paper but all kinds of other supplies and she is concerned that he seems to be a paranoid doomsday-prepper. She says she was willing to let it go until she gave a pack of TP to her elderly neighbor and he freaked out. When Ed comes on he says this is an actual doomsday, and no one knows how long it will last, and he thinks it’s perfectly reasonable to stock up, thinking it’s better to have too much than not enough. As far as helping the next-door neighbor, he doesn’t want to become the “outpost” for a bunch of people who didn’t prepare. They both seem really reasonable but it’s clear that Justine is at the end of her rope and Ed’s doomsday could be coming from inside the house.
Tara from Lynwood calls in because, to prepare for weeks of home quarantine, her boyfriend Evan bought a giant new TV and subscribed to a bunch of streaming channels. She says they already had a TV and have plenty of choices to watch with Netflix, Hulu and Amazon Prime but now he has signed them up for HBO, Showtime, Disney+, CBS All Access, and bunch of stuff she’s never even heard of like Acorn and BritBox. And Tara is really upset because he put all of this on credit cards and thinks with so much uncertainty in the economy now is not the time be adding to their debt, especially with stuff they don’t really need. When Evan comes on he says these ARE things they need because they could be house-bound for months and he wants to make sure they have plenty of entertainment. And he says he bought the second TV for her, so that they can each have their own private time to watch whatever they want. Which makes Tara wonder, is Evan looking for a way to get away from her inside the house?
The Coronavirus Quarantine seems to have a lot of couples struggling with spending so much non-stop time together. Ben from Arlington has written to Fitz for help with his girlfriend Alicia because he says she talks in baby talk. He says at the beginning of their relationship he thought it was kinda cute and flirty but now she does it all the time and he is uncomfortable and embarrassed. He claims she calls him “Benny-Wenny” and sometimes even does that in front of his friends. And now that they are both in the house all time, it’s really making him crazy. When Alicia comes on, it turns out she actually just has a naturally baby-ish voice so it’s not like she’s doing it on purpose. We all think Ben is way over-reacting until Alicia starts to get a little upset and suddenly someone’s got an owie! Do the P1’s think she is doing it on purpose, or is there something a little…different…going on?
Adam from Arlington is upset that his girlfriend Liz is being pretty cavalier about Coronavirus. He says while he admits he may be an overly cautious person, she is carrying on as if life were normal, going out and seeing friends and sometimes in rather crowded places. He says they both have big families in town they could pass it to, and he is concerned that she seems to be treating this pandemic like it’s no big deal. When Liz joins us she says Adam is a hypochondriac and is buying too much into the negative hype and refuses to let Coronavirus defeat her. She says she knows it is a global problem and is absolutely taking it seriously and being very careful wherever she goes but she is not going to stop living her life. She says if they can do everything in the world to protect themselves and still get it, then why just hide at home and sulk? As things start to get heated she says she also thinks Adam is just using all of this as an excuse to just stay home and play video games. Will these two need their own “Social Distancing”?
Cassie from Tacoma is disgusted by her boyfriend Mark’s refusal to tip servers. She says she loves everything else about him, and he is not at all a cheap person, but he draws a really hard line on this for some kind of philosophical reason. She says she is embarrassed when they go out and even tries to sneak tips when he is not looking. When Mark comes on, he says tipping is a cultural problem; that the customers are not the boss of the servers and he shouldn’t be expected to pay their wages. He thinks if everyone took this stance it would eventually help to raise wages for servers. This ignites the P1’s on the phones with several people chiming in on both sides of the tipping debate and going into great detail on how much servers make and don’t make. It gets very passionate – so much so that we forget we are supposed to be helping Cassie and Mark with their relationship drama.
Today we check in with Brad and Anna from Gig Harbor. Brad had called for help in early February saying Anna was oversharing details about their life together on social media. He says at first it was just pictures and a “play-by-play” of their activities but when he started getting messages from his friends about their private issues he discovered Anna was posting about their troubles and fights, and asking everyone for advice and support. When Anna comes on she says she is using the social media as a journal of their lives they can look back on when they are old. She also admits she likes the validation of hearing what her friends have to say as well as relying on their advice and isn’t sure why Brad is so against that. Things got testy but they actually agreed to go see our recommended therapist in Renton. Today we find out how that went; is it a good sign they are calling together…?
Today we talk to Stephanie and Jeff from Des Moines. Stephanie is struggling because her mom is getting older and may need more help around the house and she thinks it would be best for her mom to move in with her and Jeff, but Jeff seems dead set against it. Stephanie says her mom is a widow and the house she is in now – they one Stephanie grew up in – it just too big for her, plus Stephanie feels her mom needs to really watch her money at this stage in her life. Plus, Stephanie really feels she doesn’t have that much time left with her mom and wants to make the most of it. When Jeff joins us, though, we get a very different picture of Stephanie’s mom: turns out she is a lot younger and more vibrant than Stephanie has described, and Jeff is frankly freaked out that mom is gonna bring home dates from Bell Town bars.
Ally from Lacey wrote to Fitz for help on Facebook for help with her boyfriend Chase. It seems he forgot her birthday - like completely, totally, forgot. She says they have been together for several months and he could have easily known when it was, if he had paid any attention at all, including the fact that it’s on Facebook and she knows he is on there frequently. She says while she would have disappointed that there was no dinner or gift, she would have ultimately been OK if he had even just remembered at the last minute and said “I’m sorry I forgot but Happy Birthday” but he didn’t even do that. When Chase comes on, he is very upset. He says they have only been going out 5 months so he would have no way of knowing when he birthday its, he is in the middle of a custody battle, and he is having job troubles, and he is upset that she is being so petty. These two already seem kind of rocky, but the P1’s think it can be worked out, until Ally mentions…Kevin?
Back in January, we met Megan and Tim from Auburn. Megan had asked Fitz for help because she thought Tim was going to propose on Christmas and he didn’t, and then she thought maybe it was New Year’s, but that passed too. It turns out Tim had planned proposing New Year’s Eve but made the mistake of telling her friends who leaked it to her but told her Christmas, after which, with no ring, she became very cold and when New Year’s came around Tim didn’t feel like proposing. When they were with us on MUBU, Tim explained that it was really important to him that the proposal be perfect and be a memory they have forever – like something out of a movie – so he was waiting for the perfect moment and New Year’s Eve wasn’t it and now he has to wait for the next perfect moment, after he’s not mad anymore. Megan didn’t realize any of that and just couldn’t figure out why he was taking so long to propose and though maybe he changed his mind. Today we get them both back on the phone to talk about what happened after their call with us, and maybe revisit their Valentine’s Day?!?! Although at this point, Megan would probably take President’s Day too. Pick a day, any day, Tim!
Tania from Auburn has asked Fitz for help with her boyfriend Noah. She says he has gotten into the “comfort zone” with their relationship is no longer putting any effort into being romantic. She says he wants to just stay home and watch TV all the time while she wants him to want to get out and do something more. She says she has been getting offers from other guys and never took that seriously but lately has been thinking that maybe she is missing out. She has not told him about the other offers – she doesn’t want to threaten him – she just wants to know how to get him to put in more effort into making her feel special. When Noah comes on he admits they don’t go out a lot, but he works hard and comes home tired and just wants to chill. He says he will try a little harder and, OK, sure they can go out to eat sometimes, but as Fitz says there is a big gap between what Noah thinks is “effort” and what Tania thinks is “romance”. These two are really reasonable…until Fitz mentions the availability of our therapist and suddenly Noah gets cold feet.
Joanna from Bremerton wrote to Fitz for help with her boyfriend Dave. She says he sometimes hangs out with her group of friends without her while she is at work. And the weirdest thing was he didn’t tell her – she saw a post on Instagram of them hanging out, and then learned they were doing it a lot. And it’s not just coffee and beers and stuff, but also - and this is odd – going to the gym together. She says she’s not necessarily worried that he’s cheating or at that any of her friends are trying to get with him, although it has crossed her mind; and in any case she just finds it unsettling and honestly wants our opinion on if she’s overreacting, because Dave thinks she is. He says he just likes her friends, and at first was just trying to be nice to them but just genuinely liked them so started accepting their invitations. And while he admits he is a “naturally flirty guy” and some of those girls are flirting back, he claims there is absolutely nothing else going on, they are just having fun. Plus, Dave says, since Joanna is a bartender it’s not like she doesn’t flirt with guys. His stance seems pretty reasonable until the gym butt-grabbing starts…
Ryan from Buckley has written to Fitz for help with his girlfriend Jessica. He says he followed Fitz’s advice to share his social media passwords with her so she can see he has nothing to hide, but now it seems she is using posing as him to try and bait women to see if she can catch him cheating. Ryan says he noticed he was getting a lot of weird answers from certain women but knew he hadn’t reached out to them, and says only Jessica has that kind of access. When Jessica comes on she says he has a lot of female friends and wanted to know how Ryan knew them all, so she sent some simple messages, as him, just to see how they would respond. When we press her it turns out she has been cheated on before so she has trust issues. This upsets Ryan because he says he is just not that kind of guy. He concedes that he is in sales and has a lot of attractive women “friends” and “followers” that he has to be nice to, but feels Jessica should not let her own past color how he lives his life, and she needs to learn to have trust. Can the P1’s fix this one? Or is Jessica too far gone? (Also - do you bring your wife or girlfriend on sales calls? Asking for a friend…)
Brad from Silverdale is having trouble understanding why after 6 years of being with his girlfriend Eva, he still has to make a big deal and spend a lot of money on Valentine’s Day. He says she demands the full treatment every year, with a ferry trip to Seattle and dinner at Canlis, and he just can’t afford that kind of stuff anymore. He says he did it at the beginning of their relationship when they were dating and stuff to show her he cared, but doesn’t think he should have to keep it up and he feels Eva should be at a point in her life where she is over Valentine’s Day too, but she continues to push it really hard. When Eva comes on, she sounds pretty frustrated with Brad being lazy about their relationship and she says money can’t be too much of an issue because he drops a lot of dough on video games. The P1’s think Brad may need to step it up a bit, until Eva brings up some dude named Derek who has offered to show her a good time and suddenly we all wanna get on a ferry and get away.
Brad from Gig Harbor has called for help with a situation with his girlfriend Anna. He feels like she is way oversharing details about their life together on social media. He says at first it was just pictures and like a “play-by-play” of their activities and he felt even that was too much, but thought maybe he was just less interested in the day-to-day of social and let it go. Then he started getting weird messages from his friends about their private issues and discovered Anna has been posting about their troubles and fights, and asking everyone for advice and support, and now Brad feels it’s an invasion of his privacy. When Anna comes on she says she is using social media as a journal of their lives. She admits she likes the validation of hearing what her friends have say but also sometimes really just wants to know that others are going through the same thing and to get their advice. Well, if she wants advice, here come the P1’s to give it to her, but it may be not the advice she wants to hear.
James from Lynwood moved here from San Marcos, Texas, three months ago to be with his girlfriend Maria who is an engineer for Boeing. He says he still loves her, but his own life feels like it’s going the wrong direction, mostly because totally he hates living in the Northwest. James says at first it was the rain and now it’s the snow and he finds the gray skies depressing and he wants to move back to Texas. Fitz says he understands, being from Texas himself, but it takes times, and James should open his eyes and heart and enjoy that the Northwest is a “Postcard Everywhere You Look.” But James sounds like has made up his mind, and he’s going back to Texas whether Maria comes or not. When Maria comes on, she says she understands it’s easier for her since she has a cool job and James doesn’t really have much to do yet, but he’s being unreasonably impatient about the weather; they moved here in the darkest part of the year and he needs to give it a lot more time to see everything the area has to offer and how beautiful it can be. But this all seems to be falling on deaf ears. Is James a lost cause?
Gina from Everett has called in for advice about her boyfriend Sean. Gina says Sean suddenly shaved off his beard and now he looks completely different. They’ve been together for quite a while and she had never seen him without his beard. She says she knows it’s just a simple cosmetic change but she can’t help herself – she sees him differently now; she wanted a rugged outdoorsy mountain man, and now he’s just a regular guy. But most of all she wishes he had consulted her. When Sean comes on he says he is not sure why she Gina is so upset – he is still the same guy, he still does the outdoorsy stuff, but he just got tired of dealing with the beard. He hadn’t seen his own face since he was a teenager and was curious what it looked like, but now that it’s done he’s enjoying not having to do the work to maintain his facial hair so he probably won’t grow it back, at least not for a while. He says he was actually getting eczema and he feels much better now. As far as not telling her, he thought it would be a new sexy surprise and didn’t think he needed her permission. As usual Fitz thinks the sudden change means Sean is cheating, and the P1’s agree, until Gina shows her ugly, superficial side.
Brittney from Bonney Lake has asked for help with her boyfriend Wes. She says he’s a crier. Like, a lot. She says at first she found it kind of sweet that he was able to enjoy sad movies and stuff along with her. But then she realized he was crying at happy things. And sports, win or lose. And not just in private but in public too. And it’s not just tears dripping down, but sobbing and wailing. Her breaking point through recently came when Harry and Meghan left the Royal Family. Brittney says Wes has been inexplicably upset by that and thinks he needs to man up a little. When Wes comes on, he says he was raised in a commune in which everyone – girls and boys – was encouraged to express their feelings. Wes says he doesn’t understand why it bothers Brittney so much because it is just a natural reaction to being in touch with your true self. And we get that. But when he starts to explain his take on Harry and Meghan, things get…awkward.
Listener Anna has asked Fitz for help with her boyfriend Walter. She is upset because he has decided to go ahead with his annual guys’ trip for Super Bowl weekend in Las Vegas even though her father is having surgery this weekend and she has asked him to stay home and help her. She says her dad has been like a father to Walter and she can’t believe he would up and leave when the man really needs him. And, she hasn’t even old her dad yet because she is afraid he will be upset. Before Walter even comes on, the P1’s demand to know what kind of surgery this is – life threatening or mole removal? When Walter comes out we find out it is in fact just foot surgery, a bunion, not at all serious, and Walter thinks even Ana’s dad would agree that’s a ridiculous reason to cancel any trip, let alone the Super Bowl. She says the type of surgery is not the point, it’s about being there for each other. But, come on, do you always really have to actually, literally, like, “be there?”
Taylor from Mill Creek has called in to talk about her boyfriend Chris. They live together in an apartment in which they have to use the living room as their bedroom because his DVD collection takes up the entire bedroom. She says Chris has obsessively collected DVD’s for years and refuses to get rid of any of them. But what’s worse is that he firmly believes that quality-wise they are best the way to watch anything and so he refuses to stream any current TV shows, so she can’t keep up with her friends on the latest shows that everyone is bingeing. And she feels like something as simple as watching TV should be a common interest for a couple but since he refuses to budge on the format she is forced to choose between spending time with him and keeping up with her friends conversations. And then there’s her concern over the third person in their relationship: Harrison Ford.
Erica from Lake Stevens has asked Fitz for help with a problem with her boyfriend Jeremy. She says last week during “Snowmaggedon” she lost control of her car and got stuck on the side of the road but when she called him for help he wouldn’t come. She says she specifically called him for help because he has a big truck with a winch and could have gotten her out easily but he said he was too busy to help. But what really upset her was that this wasn’t the first time – in fact, she claims, there have been several times that she has called him for help with either car trouble or some other issue where she really needed his help and he wouldn’t come. When Jeremy comes in he says the reason he didn’t help during “Snowmaggedon” was he was working and as an independent contractor he couldn’t just leave work. As for the all the “other times” he can’t explain every single circumstance, but thinks in general Erica needs to learn how to be more self-sufficient. Watch out Jeremy – the P1 Ladies are teeing off on you!
It’s a Make Up or Break Up Follow Up! Today we hear from Melanie from Poulsbo who we spoke to in December after her boyfriend Ryan got so drunk at her family Thanksgiving that he started hitting on her cousin! Ryan claimed it was her brothers’ fault he drank so much to begin with, but even so, he claims he wasn’t really that drunk and she was just exaggerating. And he further claims she was so drunk that she didn’t know what she saw, but Melanie can’t even with that statement. Things got so bad that Melanie asked him to refrain drinking for the rest of the holiday season! Ryan seemed like he thought that was overkill but was willing to do what she wanted to keep her happy. Today, Melanie catches us up on what happened over Christmas - and it went beyond her family to her office Holiday Party!
Megan from Auburn has asked Fitz for help because she thought her boyfriend Tim was going to propose on Christmas Eve and he didn’t, and then she thought maybe it was New Year’s Eve, but that passed too, and now she’s wondering why he is taking so long. When Tim comes on, he says he had been planning to propose on New Year’s Eve, but he made the mistake of telling a couple of her friends and they leaked it to her, but got apparently got the wrong day which why she expected Christmas. But he didn’t know that– all he knew was that suddenly and randomly after Christmas she got really cold and standoffish and so when New Year’s Eve rolled around, he was mad at her and didn’t feel like proposing. Tim says it is really important to him that the proposal be perfect and be a memory they have forever – like something out of a movie - but Megan has been waiting a long time and just wants the damn ring already. Then Fitz suggests Tim propose on the air….!
Trevor from Bremerton has written to Fitz for help his girlfriend Stephanie. The couple currently is in a situation most Northwest couples would kill for! They currently have an apartment with rent that is DIRT CHEAP! Trevor who gave up the lease at his old apartment to move in with Stephanie is upset because a month and a half ago, about a week after moving in he found out why the rent was so cheap! Apparently the father of her Ex who she dated for 2 years owns the building that they live in. Stephanie says the past is in the past and that she didn't think anything of it! Stephanie also says Trevor is overreacting, and he should be thankful that they have this great opportunity and she has ZERO interest in her ex Chad. Should they stay together for the rent? or will Stephanie be subletting???
Rachel from Marysville has written to Fitz for help with her boyfriend Dominic, who she says is addicted to Karaoke. At first she was suspicious that he was cheating because he was going out so many nights, but she did “Find My Phone” and tracked him and determined that he really was always at different Karaoke bars around the region. It’s affecting her for two main reasons: 1) he is totally obsessed and talks about it day and night and goes out every night so its affecting their time together. But perhaps more importantly, 2) she thinks he is not very good at it. She’s never told him that, but confesses it to us, not realizing he is already on the line and hears it! After Dominic and Fitz discuss the finer points of Karaoke, he talks about how important it is to him, and how much of a following he has and how happy it makes him. Fitz and some of the P1’s support Dominic and his dream, but Drew and the rest of the P1’s think Dominic should do some more work on the relationship. And wait – is that Barry singing?!?!
Today we catch up with Jessie and Mark from Carnation who we spoke to back in November. Mark was upset that Jessie hadn’t deleted all the pictures of her ex off her phone. He said he doesn’t know if she was still into the guy or just liked the pictures but it bothered him and he thought that was enough of a reason to delete them. Jesse thought Mark was being really insecure and says everyone has a past that shouldn’t have to be erased for someone new. The P1’s thought they both needed to give a little: Mark needed to “man up” because Jesse is with him after all, and but also Jessie needed to do some think cloud “housecleaning”, and frankly they both need some therapy. Today we had Mark on the phone to update us on their relationship and he says they broke up because she was too stubborn to erase the pictures. But Jessie called in - unplanned – and says that’s not really the way it went down…
Drew starts the day with an 8-year-old’s breakfast of Eggos! What Are You Kidding Me?!: neighbors complain when woman draws out man parts in Christmas lights on roof; Santa cocaine Christmas sweater is Amazon’s best seller. Hourly Bulletin: father from Amber Alert arrested again; Langley halts road work at request of local businesses; woman leads police on wild chase; man arrested for voyeurism in Auburn fast food restaurant; 5 teens connected to ammo found and Shorecrest High is back open; Seahawks sick with flu during loss to Rams and some guys still have it; Luke Willson begging to play after healing from hamstring injury but Pete’s cautious; Bobby Wagner nominated for Payton Award. The Fitz Files: Jessica Biel visits Justin Timberlake’s movie set to keep an eye on him; Survivor contestant kicked off for bad off-camera behavior; Lizzo kicked out by Lakers but invited by Rockets; Matrix 4 and Wick 4 have same release date. The Good Stuff: man goes back to low-income housing he grew up in and gives out thousands of dollars in toys to the families there now. Make Up or Break Up: Liam from Redmond won a cruise from work, but his girlfriend Erin refuses to go because they’d miss Christmas with her family. Whamaggedon Strikes!: Carolina Josh tells us how he got Whamaggedonned at home. Fitzmas Wishes: Mari from Auburn was nominated by her “Work Husband” Chris. It’s National Ding-a-Ling Day!: time to call someone you haven’t spoken to in a long time; Fitz wants to randomly go through Drew’s phone and call someone but Drew balks. Playlist Profiling: Blake from Puyallup! Throwin’ Shade: Christmas Stress is getting to our favorite Battle Rapper.
A few weeks ago Nikki from Bremerton wrote to Fitz about her boyfriend Andrew – or more specifically, about his mother. Nikki was dreading going to Andrew’s for Thanksgiving again this year because his mother doesn’t like her; she liked his old girlfriend a lot and was really upset when they broke up. She even makes comments about Nikki not having a college degree and wearing too much makeup and she calls her names behind her back. When Andrew came on he admitted his mom didn't like Nikki and also admits she really loved his old girlfriend, but he claims he has told his mother multiple times that it was a high school relationship and this is a grown adult relationship and it’s for real and forever. Andrew’s attitude was that his mom is never gonna change and that he and Nikki just have to suck it up and put up with it. He said it’s only one day and no one in the real world likes Thanksgiving, “it’s just something you get through.” The listeners are lit up over this one because, let’s face it, we all have “that relative”. But how did the dinner actually go? Did they Stand up to His Mom? Did they Make Up or Break Up?
Melanie from Poulsbo has written to the show because her boyfriend of a few years, Ryan got so drunk at Thanksgiving that began doing something that almost ended the relationship! Things got so bad that now Melanie is banned from drinking for the rest of the holiday season! Melanie says she banned him from drinking at christmas to avoid anymore issues, Ryan says that it is not an issue, that it wasn't his fault it was actually her cousin's fault, and that Melanie was drunk as well! Should they Make Up or Beak Up?
Hannah from Tukwila has written to Fitz about her boyfriend Justin. She says he refuses to get a car because he doesn’t want to contribute to the local transit problem and he has an idealistic notion about using mass transit and riding his bike or Ubering when necessary. But she says he doesn’t really do those things very often and ends up borrowing her car a lot. And he works in Redmond so when he takes the car he has it for a long time and she’s the one who ends up Ubering. When Justin comes on, he says Hannah is blowing it out of proportion. He says he certainly does ride his bike all the time, and has even ridden it to work in Redmond a few times. And he says he absolutely will use the light rail when it’s completed to Redmond in a few years although until then will just keep making do. And he says riding his bike is getting him into great shape, and they are both saving money by not taking on another car payment. These two sure have a different view of just how much he rides his bike and when Fitz suggests she put a mileage tracker on him, things get a little…heated!
Carson from Enumclaw has written in to Fitz for help because he thinks his girlfriend Cat is pretending to be this monster San Francisco 49’ers fan just to be obnoxious. He says it’s all a show because she doesn’t really know much about football and sometimes wears a football jersey when it’s not even football season. And to make matters worse, he thinks, it’s a Colin Kaepernick jersey. He is getting too embarrassed to bring her to his family occasions anymore because she once actually had a run-in with his dad. When Cat comes on she says Carson is misrepresenting this – she does love football and has always been a Niners fan, and she wears the jersey because she loves the colors as well Colin Kaepernick’s mission, although she’s not quite sure what it is. And she says her problem with his dad is more about how much his father drinks than it is about who she roots for. Can these two work this out or, as it often is on MUBU, is this a symptom of a much bigger problem? The P1’s have a thing or two to say…!
Today we have a “Make Up or Break Up Follow Up”. Last month we had Nicole and Jason from Marysville on the show. They’ve been together 3 years but Jason had never changed his Facebook status from “it’s complicated” to “in a relationship”. Nicole said she didn’t have any particular suspicions that Jason was cheating but found it weird and had her friends always asking her if things are OK. When Jason came on he says he doesn’t care about social media and is only on it because he “has” to be in today’s society and was hesitant to change his status because that would lead to a flurry of reactions and unwanted attention. But when Fitz pushed him on whether he was keeping his status loose as a “lifeline” to other girls, Jason got weirdly dodgy. So here we are a month since that call and we tried to get them both back on the show to find out what happened, but, ummm, only one of them agreed…
Blake from Des Moines has called into the show about his girlfriend Roxie. He says she is really over the top about cleaning, constantly picking up after him and vacuuming, and sometimes even gets up the middle of the night to clean. We kid with Blake that he should be happy living with someone that does all the cleaning so he doesn’t have to, but Blake says it’s hard living with the pressure of always feeling like he’s making a mess plus Roxie’s always dashing around doing something, and frankly Blake is just worried about her. When Roxie comes on, she says she grew up in a very dirty home and vowed that she would never live like that; she even confides that at some point authorities came to her home for a welfare check and nearly took her away from her family. This leads us to wonder about the deep-seated root of this problem, and we – and the listeners – weigh in on whether Roxie needs some professional help, or if Blake really is so much of a slob that keeping up with him really is a 24-hour-a-day job.
Eric from Auburn has called in for help with his family. Now, he and his wife have been married for 11 years, so this one isn’t really about “making up or breaking up,” but they really need your help, and they know you have a lot of experience with this one. Eric and Melissa have different styles of discipline for their kids - he does it and she doesn’t - and now their 8-year-old son is acting out and they have come to an impasse on how to handle him; plus they also have a 3-year-old son and Eric wants to get Melissa on the same page before the little one gets any older and sees what his brother is getting away with. When Melissa comes on she says she understands their son is difficult – he has ADHD – but her own father ruled through fear and she doesn’t want that for her kids. She says their son has never hurt anyone or done anything dangerous and they just need to learn his “discipline language”. The P1’s have some great advice – we’ll bet you do to. Shoot us a message at www.facebook.com/989bull !
Nikki from Bremerton has written to Fitz about her boyfriend Andrew – or more specifically, about his mother. Nikki is dreading going to Andrew’s for Thanksgiving again this year because his mother doesn’t like her; she liked his old girlfriend a lot and was really upset when they broke up. She makes comments about Nikki not having a college degree and wearing too much makeup and she calls her names behind her back. When Andrew comes on he admits his mom doesn’t like Nikki and also admits she really loved his old girlfriend, but he claims he has told his mother multiple times that that was a high school relationship and this is a grown adult relationship and it’s for real and forever. But, still, Andrew’s attitude is that his mom is never gonna change and that he and Nikki just have to suck it up and put up with it each year. He says it’s only one day and no one in the real world likes Thanksgiving, “it’s just something you get through.” The listeners are lit up over this one because, let’s face it, we all have “that relative”. But do the listeners think Nikki should just get over it, or should Andrew lay down the law with his mom?
Mark from Carnation is upset that his girlfriend Jesse has never deleted old pictures of previous relationship off of her phone or her cloud. He says he doesn’t know if she’s still into the old boyfriends, or just likes the pictures, or is just being stubborn, but it bothers him and he feels that’s a good enough reason to delete them. When Jesse comes she says she thinks Mark is being really insecure. She says we all have a past and you shouldn’t be expected to erase it for someone new. She says the pics remind her of good times in her life and, frankly, she likes how she looks in some of them. The P1’s think they both need to give a little: Mark needs to “man up”, because Jesse is with him after all, and not the old boyfriend; but they also think she could do a little “housecleaning” on the cloud.
Amy from Spanaway has written in to Fitz for help because she thinks her boyfriend Brad is extremely over the top about Christmas. Today is Halloween and she says their house is already decorated for Christmas, and not just decorated, but totally lit up Clark Griswold style. Not just outside, but also inside every room, garage and everything. Amy says she doesn’t hate Christmas or decorations – they are fun – but it’s the amount and how early in the year it is, when kids are coming to trick or treat, it’s embarrassing. Amy does offer that she is an atheist and wonders if Brad is trying to kind of throw that in her face. When Brad comes on, he is absolutely 100% about Christmas. He says it lifts his spirits and thinks others feel the same. And he even admits to the Griswold comparison because his parents loved “Christmas Vacation” and bought all the lights. Amy feels like we do not understand the enormity of his obsession, and Brad feels like she is missing out on something major in life. The P1’s are interestingly divided on this one – this couple may have deeper issues.
Marcus from Kent says ever since he proposed to his girlfriend Toni she has become a total Bridezilla. He says she is otherwise just a nice normal girl and he loves her – that’s why he proposed – but she is taking the wedding planning to extremes and not letting him do any of it. She also wants him to recreate his proposal with all their friends and family around and with better lightning and clothing than they had that day. He feels like Toni is sucking all the romance and fun out of a really important day and her obsession is starting to get in the way of their lives. When Toni comes on she’s says she has looked forward to this day all her life and that all women will agree with her that weddings are about the woman and not the man so Marcus should just relax and stay in his lane. But she may have miscalculated how the women will react – the P1’s are fired about Toni not staying in her own aisle, er, lane.
Nicole from Marysville has written in about her boyfriend Jason. They’ve been together 3 years and he has never changed his Facebook status from “it’s complicated” to “in a relationship”. She says he says he doesn’t care about that stuff but he is on Facebook so she knows it matters to him somehow. When Fitz asks if she thinks he is using “it’s complicated” as sympathy bait, she says she’s hopes not and she doesn’t have any particular suspicions that he’s cheating but she just finds it all really weird and her friends are always asking her if things are OK. She says it’s causing her anxiety and that alone should be enough for him to change it. She hopes WE will get to him to give up some kind of answer. When Jason comes on he says he doesn’t care about social media and is only on it because he “has” to be in today’s society. When we suggest that he just change his status to no status at all, he says that would lead to a flurry of reactions and unwanted attention. But when Fitz pushes him on whether he is keeping it a “lifeline” to other girls, Jason is a little….dodgy.
Clay from Maple Valley has asked for our help because he is uncomfortable that his girlfriend Megan from Kent is always paying for everything and spending a lot of money on him. He acknowledges that she makes more than him and says he is OK with that, but he doesn’t like that she takes him on elaborate vacations and buys him nice things; he thinks she should be saving more for the future. When Megan comes on we get quite a bit more detail, including that she works at Amazon and he is an assistant manager at Taco Time and her salary is about 4 times his. She says she has worked very hard to get where she is, she is absolutely saving for the future, and she wants to enjoy whatever time off she has doing cool stuff and travelling with Clay and she doesn’t get why he can’t just enjoy it. It seems like such a solvable problem and an easy “Make Up”, until Clay says the reason it’s so important to save for the future is because he assumes when they have kids she will quit working. That’s when the Mexi-Fries start flying.
Mike from Bonney Lake has written in to Fitz. He says he knows this won’t sound like a big problem to other people but it is to him: his girlfriend Sylvia is way too into Public Display of Affection. He says she is constantly wanting to hold hands and kiss on him and have him kiss her. He says he knows it sounds lame but she really goes overboard, even comparing her to a bear mauling him. When Sylvia comes on she admits she likes physical affection but doesn’t think it’s overboard. She thinks when people love each other they should show it. And she says it’s not just a public problem for Mike – he is not particularly affectionate at home either. And it gets a little…uncomfortable…when she brings up the name of another woman at his job and questions whether he is touchy feel with her. In fact, the P1’s are pretty much on Mike’s side until the name “Allison” pops up.
Michael from Issaquah has written in to Fitz because he has had it with his girlfriend Chase violating the couples “Streaming Code”. He says it was bad enough when she started getting ahead of him on shows they watched together, but now she is starting to not even care about saying spoilers in front of him. He says she has finished “Big Little Lies” and told her a major spoiler and now it’s ruined for him. When Chase comes on she says Michael is not giving us all the information: he falls asleep while they’re watching TV so if she waited for him it would have to be an entire day. And as for the alleged “BLL” spoiler alert Chase says she wasn’t talking to him she was talking to her friend on the phone and Michael just overheard. When the P1’s get involved, we get lots of versions of the rules of the “Streaming Code” and its clear both Michael and Chase need to go to the Penalty Box.
You’ve been asking if we ever hear back from couples who’ve been on the show before and whether they made up or broke up. Well, we recently heard from a couple from a few weeks back. Jeff from Buckley had written to Fitz because his girlfriend Vanessa didn’t like his friends. He said they were all great guys that he’s known forever, and they’ve been through thick and thin together, but he really loves Vanessa and doesn’t get why she won’t even hang out with his friends a little. But when Vanessa came on she said Jeff’s friends were all stoner losers and she thought they were holding him back from doing more with his life. And she thought they were purposely bringing around girls for him to meet to break them apart. While the P1’s felt Vanessa should try to be nicer and understanding about Jeff’s homeboys, they also thought maybe she had a point about them holding him back. On today’s show, we talk to Jeff and Vanessa again to find out what happened after they were on the show, and how they are doing now. Get some snacks ready.
Sasha from Auburn has written in to Fitz because of an incident that happened with her boyfriend Ryan. It started because Sasha has been having an ongoing problem at work involving her boss and a coworker. She was up for a promotion and the other woman got it and Sasha was really upset. This has been going on for a while and, as with all relationships, Sasha has been coming home to Ryan and venting about it. Ryan is a good listener but he is also a man of action, and suddenly one day he decided he wanted to help, so he called Sasha’s boss to try and correct the situation. Sasha says it is now super awkward at work and Ryan should have stayed in his lane. But when Ryan comes on he says he wasn’t trying to cross the line, he was just trying to help. He says he was tired of listening to her complain about something he thought was easily solved so he solved it. The P1’s think this couple can work this out, but it leads to a debate on the age-old question: do women want someone to just listen to them vent, or to actually go do something? And how are men supposed to know the difference?
Melissa from Parkland is suspicious about her boyfriend Tommy’s activities and whereabouts after work. She says he often takes a long time to get home, which he blames on traffic, but which she says can’t be true every day because she’s actually driven his route just to check. Sometimes he says he is at work late but he never has details to offer about what he was doing. Melissa admits she sounds paranoid, but she says Tommy works with a cute girl and he does have a past history of cheating when he was with his former girlfriend. When Tommy comes on, he says he loves Melissa but she is a complete control freak who tracks his phone and then calls him, wherever he is, to confirm his location and found out when he is coming home. Tommy admits to sometimes stopping off at a bar after work for a drink before going home for some “alone time”, and he also admits that yes, one time, a long time ago, he was unfaithful to someone else, but the past is the past and Melissa needs to let it go. Once the two of them start talking to each other, though…ooof, it is not looking good for these two.
Dave from Federal Way is asking us for help with his relationship with his girlfriend Olivia. He says she has become obsessed with weight loss and its affecting their relationship. He says he loves her and has always loved their lifestyle, but it’s all changing now. He says he fell in love with her the way she looked before, kinda curvy, and he loved their routines like going to Olde Country Buffet or going to the movies. Now he feels like he’s dating a “gym rat health nut”. When Olivia comes on she says he left out a major detail: her doctor told her she is at an unhealthy weight and at risk for diabetes and heart disease, and has to make some major changes. Dave says he gets that, but thinks Olivia is overreacting. He also doesn’t think she really needs to dress so provocatively to go to the gym, although he is describing basic workout clothes. And then…it becomes clear they’ve both been holding on to these issues for a while because the gloves come off!
Whitney from Stanwood thinks her boyfriend Bill has become a conspiracy theorist and she wants it to stop; he spends all of his free time reading up on aliens and the related government cover-ups, and has started chatting and meeting with groups who she says are totally winding him up. She says he’s entitled to his beliefs, but thinks it’s beyond reason and his obsession is starting to interfere with their relationship since it’s all he will talk about and spend his time on. When Bill comes on, he is frustrated and worried that Whitney doesn’t share his belief and is in no way prepared for the world to come. Bill also hates the term “conspiracy theory” because he says they aren’t conspiracies if they’re true. And he’s adamant about trying to get Whitney to understand what he knows to be true. The P1’s are pretty sure these two are not gonna make it because they don’t agree, BUT, the real drama is everyone’s disagreement on whether Bill is completely crazy or completely right!
Lyla and Chris from Bothell have been together for five years. Lyla has asked Fitz to put them on the show because she is getting tired of Chris having so many female friends and contacts on social media. She says he is constantly engaging in banter, commenting on photos, and using lots of emojis. And she says Chris says much nicer things to these random people on Facebook and Insta than he ever does to her. She says it’s not that she is fishing for compliments, but she would love some of the attention that he heaps on others. When Chris comes on he says he is a realtor and he needs to cultivate these relationships for work. He says the flirting and complimenting woman on their LuluLemon yoga pants is just part of the process of selling homes. No one is buying this act though: not Lyla, not us, and certainly not the P1’s, many of whom are realtors!
Christine from Lakewood has called in to the show because she feels like her boyfriend Ben is really cheap. She appreciates that he’s responsible with money and is saving for the future but feels he’s doing it at the expense of their present happiness like living in a really grungy apartment and wasting time on a Sunday waiting in line to get gas at Costco. And she’s really embarrassed when they go out to eat because he doesn’t tip servers, calling tipping a scam. When Ben comes on, he impresses us with how much money he’s saved with the intention of buying a house. And he says he does too tip, if the service is outstanding, but doesn’t see why you should tip people just for doing their job. Fitz calls him out for not tipping, but for the most part the P1’s are supporting Ben and saying Christine should consider herself lucky to have a man who is so good with money.
Brandon from Granite Falls is getting pretty grossed out by his girlfriend Tiffany’s lack of cleaning skills around the house and in his car. He claims that, on a scale of 1-10, she is a 2000. His primary example? Finding a Starbucks cup in the car console with - get this - a booger stuck on top! He tells us a few other examples that might make you lose your breakfast. It’s pretty damn funny, but it’s serious to Brandon because he is a Real Estate Agent and sometimes has clients in the car so it can be an expensive problem if an old cheeseburger rolls out. And he says he has spoken to her about it a million times and he’s tired of having the conversation. But when Tiffany comes on, she says Brandon is completely exaggerating about the car, it’s not that bad, and bedsides, she does his laundry and we wouldn’t believe the skid marks. When the conversation degenerates into an argument about Proper Booger Procedure, it seems clear these two are made for each other! And….it’s possible no else wants them!!
Noah from Covington is wondering why his girlfriend Stephanie has never introduced him to her parents after two years of dating. He says they don’t live very far away – Bellingham – and could easily be there within 2 hours. He says she goes see them on holidays and such but always for a short trip and says he “doesn’t need to go, it’s not a big deal.” But after two years, he says it is starting to bother him. He is wondering if there is something about them that she is trying to hide from him, or maybe something about him that she doesn’t want them to know. When Stephanie comes on she is pretty casual about it, and thinks Noah is making something out of nothing. She finds it more unusual when people rush into meeting family, but Noah points out that 2 years together isn’t “rushing” and presses her about why the delays. And as the conversation continues, she gets a little…evasive…
Hannah from Shoreline sent Fitz a message because she is concerned about her relationship with her boyfriend Alex. They’ve been together for 6 years and she loves him, but the fact that he’s a “momma’s boy” is really getting in the way now. The breaking point was their latest vacation – she says for six years running now they only ever vacation with his entire family in the same place every year - Phoenix in August! - and she’s tired of it. They are all trapped inside together, only go out together as a group, and she and Alex can’t even share a room. She also says his mom is very needy and controlling and whatever she wants Alex always puts her first, even ahead of Hannah. When Alex comes on, he is upset to learn his girlfriend “hates his family” and is shocked to realize that’s why they came on the show. He is also surprised that she doesn’t appreciate that they get a free vacation every year. His call does not last long and to be honest, this episode ends very awkwardly and abruptly.
Sara has called in to the show because she is concerned about her future with her boyfriend Dylan. She feels like he is not living up to his potential, and not using his degree to better himself. She also doesn’t like that he comes home dirty. She is a nurse and is not against hard work but thinks he could do something better. But when Dylan comes on, it turns out he is and a plumber’s apprentice. Money-wise, he earns well enough already and when he is done with the apprenticeship in 7 months, he could be making six figures within the year. And it’s not just about the money for him – his grandfather was a plumber, so it’s a family trade, plus he loves the challenges and the problem-solving, and helping people who are in dire straits. He’s perfectly happy and doesn’t understand why Sara is so unhappy about it. As for the P1’s, well, brace yourself, because the response is a landslide and they let Sara have it.
Steven from Bremerton has written in for help with his girlfriend Olivia who he says has impulsively quit her job to go to school to become a dental hygienist. Steven is upset and a little confused because she did it without talking to him and is unsure how they are going to be able to afford to live. He says he is proud of her and wants her to be happy but now he’s not sure how they are going to make it on just his check as a part-time waiter. When Olivia joins us, she acknowledges the actual decision was impulsive but says they had been talking about the future a lot and this was on the table, and she knew it was time to make a move to better their lives. She says she loves him and is doing it for both of them. The P1’s are pretty divided on their prospects for the future: some say she is selfish for doing it without talking to him, others say he sounds lazy and she could do way better. What do you think?
Sara from Federal Way has written for help with her boyfriend David. They’ve been together for a few years but she says two weekends every month he takes long weekends with his buddies to party in Vancouver BC. She can’t go to Canada because she has a DUI which stops her at the border. She feels like this is insensitive of him, but also she feels left out and like he is putting her second to his buddies. She also wonders if maybe there are women involved when they go. When David comes on, he says she is exaggerating about how often he goes to Canada although he admits it is about ten times a year. He says this is something he has done with these same buddies for several years and it’s their “thing”, and he says he and Sara go other places together. He also throws in a comment about how she brought this on herself with the DUI. The P1’s have some choice words for both of them.
Tara from Olympia has written to Fitz for help on our Facebook Page because she doesn’t like that her boyfriend Zack from Lacey is mean to his mother. She says he is very impatient with her, yells at her and says mean things about her, including calling her the “B” word, and declines her phone calls. When Zack comes on, he says Tara is being ridiculous, he is no nicer or meaner to his mom than the average person. He admits declining her calls but says he sends lots of people to voice mail all the time. He admits he has called her “the B word” but it’s OK for him to that, just not other people. Tara feels Zack is lying on this phone call, and is concerned about their longevity. We do not feel a lot of warmth from Zack for either his mom or Tara, and the texters point that out, but some P1 callers come to his defense saying that we don’t know much about the mom and Zack’s relationship with her and maybe Tara needs more info before she judges.
Kim from Shoreline has asked for help with her boyfriend Brian who she says is still in touch with his ex. She says he is constantly getting calls, texts, chats, and Facebook messages, and even FaceTimes with her. She says she knows the girl has health issues and that’s why Brian ended it, but she’s taking advantage of him and it’s time for him to let go and move on with his life with Kim. But when Brian comes on, he says it’s not that simple. He says his ex is struggling mightily with a drug addiction and related mental health issues and is a danger to herself; he’s afraid if he doesn’t help her no one else will and she could die. Kim says she feels for the girl but thinks Brian will never be fully committed to her as long as he is still emotionally involved with the girl. And is any of this healthy for Brian?
Tina from Kent wrote to Fitz on Facebook because she is having trouble with her boyfriend of four years Rob but doesn’t want to break up because they have a dog together. She feels like it will be really hard on the dog - Sigmund - to have them in different homes and going through custody issues. As for the relationship, she says she and Rob are drifting apart, spending less time together, and fighting more and Robert doesn’t want even to acknowledge it. Robert says he is willing to work on the relationship if she really wants to (he’s not especially enthusiastic) but if the relationship ends, he is taking the dog, there is no question about it. She says she it was her idea to get a dog and she is the one found Sigmund; he says he is the one who put up the adoption fee and first medical bills. They both seem to want to argue about the dog but not take any responsibility for their actual human issues and the P1’s try to get them to see be that.
Heather and Chris from Puyallup are raising a baby together. Their son is 18 months old and they needed a new car. But Heather wrote into Fitz to say that after they spent some time car shopping together looking at family cars, Chris went out on his own and bought a new Camaro. She is upset because it’s not what she would consider a safe and convenient family car, and because he made such a major decision without consulting her. When Chris comes on, he says there wasn’t time to call her as the dealer was offering him an amazing take-or-leave it package. He says he got the model with safety features and a good safety rating. And most important to Chris: a cool car he can hand down to his son when he turns 16, not some boring SUV. The P1’s seem divided, until a deeper issue bubble up.
Matt from North Bend has written to Fitz about his wife Cassie and a disagreement they are having about their 15-year-old son. Matt says their son struggles in school and doesn’t really like it, but he wants him to finish high school and get some sort of future going, like trade school or another goal. But their son is really into a YouTube channel he has created and Matt says Cassie is feeding that in the hopes that he will make a lot of money. Matt says Cassie has dumped thousands of dollars into what he considers a pipe dream. Cassie says this is their son’s real talent, and it makes him happy, and it’s no different than if she were spending the money on athletic gear in hopes of him getting a college scholarship or pro contract. She points to all the successes of other YouTube kids with great financial deals. But as they discuss it with us, some darker details about the two of them and their marriage start to emerge.
Ryan from Auburn has written into Fitz about his girlfriend Dana. Things were great until she moved into his place and started throwing out his stuff. At first, it seemed she just wanted to have her things there and make it homier, which he was cool with. But then she started taking down his favorite artwork and collectibles putting them in the closet. And then she started just throwing away some of his favorite clothing and personal memorabilia. But when Dana gets on, she says Ryan had a lot of useless crap lying around, with broken frames and pictures with beer stains, some actual trash, and really old ripped clothes from every era of his life. And she says she still left many of his personal items around, even though she doesn’t like them. But the real drama is this: Dana started doing all this without even asking Ryan, and they seem to have some serious communication problems. The P1’s weigh in, and it’s not looking good for Ryan and Dana…
Lauren from Lynwood has written to Fitz for help with her boyfriend Mike. A few months ago Mike started driving for Uber to make some extra cash. But now she says he’s obsessed with driving, does it all hours of day and night, and hardly spends any time with her. She says she understands the money is good, especially with the bonuses, but feels he doesn’t see her as a priority anymore like she is “coming in second” to his Uber job. She says it’s also occurred to her that he may be doing “other things” when he claims to be out driving. But when Mike joins, he is pretty upset. He says he is trying to save up for a “certain thing” which we assume means a ring. He says there is no “silly business” going on, it’s all just fares. And he is a writer so all the stories he hears from riders are going into his work. But she says there is no “us” anymore – all they talk about is his Uber people. We hear from a lot of P1 Uber Drivers and a few spouses as to whether they can keep this going.
Aaron from Sumner has written to Fitz for help with his girlfriend Meagan. Meagan has decided to become a vegan which Aaron says he respects but she has become really pushy about it. He says she has gotten very rigid and is trying to control what he eats. He says she didn’t come to it on her own but was talked into it by some preachy co-workers and now she’s all preachy. And Aaron says the change in her diet has affected her appearance; she’s lost weight and is much paler. But Meaghan says feels great and is hurt that Aaron is not more supportive and happy for her. And she says she wants them to have a happier and healthier future together and doesn’t understand why he won’t even try to make some changes. The P1’s weight in, not just on their relationship, but also on the vegan vs carnivore lifestyle.
Michelle has called into the show about her boyfriend Adam. She has a 12-year-son named Charlie from a previous relationship. Charlie’s bio dad is no longer in the picture, and Michelle says Adam has been a good second father to Charlie and Charlie adores him. But now she says Adam has started being really hard on Charlie for his hobbies. Michelle says Charlie is a really creative boy and he loves Anime, My Little Pony, and dressing up, including dressing up like My Little Pony sometimes. Adam says he himself doesn’t have a problem with Charlie’s hobbies but he’s very worried about how he will be treated when he gets to middle school. Adam says doesn’t want him bullied and understands a lot more about how the other boys will treat him than Michelle because he was a teenage boy once. He wants Charlie to diversify his interests and be more “manly”.
Kaylie from Parkland has written in to Fitz and she is pretty upset. She says her boyfriend Josh has started acting differently toward her recently ever since she told him that several years ago she had quite a bit of plastic surgery done on her face including her nose, chin and cheeks. She decided she needed to be honest with him because he’s started talking about wanting to have children and how he hopes they will look just like her. Josh comes on with his side of the story: he says he still feels the same about her but was just surprised that it hadn’t come up sooner. But when Fitz presses him about whether he’s concerned about what the kids will look like, he slowly admits that, yes, he is worried about the possibility of having ugly kids. P1’s weigh in on whether they should Make Up or Break Up, and they let both Kaylie and Josh have it.
Danielle has called in from Lake Stevens, upset that her boyfriend Mike seems to be trying to turn her into his ex-girlfriend. She says he buys her the same perfume and jewelry his ex used to wear and he is trying to get her to do activities he used to do with his ex. Her big fear is that Mike is simply not over his ex. Then we hear Mike’s side of the story, and he thinks Danielle is totally over-reacting. He admits he really liked his ex-girlfriend, and was upset when she broke up with him, but he loves Danielle and wants to be with her. He says the activities he did with his ex were things he liked to do anyway and that’s why he wants Danielle to do them. But it seems Danielle and Mike have some bigger issues and the P1’s opinions range from “break up” to “run!”
Jeff from Buckley has called in to Fitz because he is upset that his girlfriend Vanessa doesn't like his friends. He says she refuses to hang out with them, and seems to actively be trying to get him to hang out with them less often. But when it’s Vanessa's turn to talk, she says Jeff's friends are a bunch of loser stoners. She says they were nice at first but she realized they are “stuck” and are holding Jeff back from accomplishing more with his life. And she says they’ve caught on to the fact that she’s trying to get him to straighten up, and are actively trying to get him together with other, kinda shady girls. Is Vanessa too “stuck up” about Jeff’s bros, who are just cool dudes who know how to relax and maybe she could learn a little something from them? Or are Jeff’s boys really a bunch of aimless potheads who are holding him back? Should they Make Up, or Break Up?
Alexa from Auburn has written in to the show about her boyfriend Brian. Brian has a close female friend at work who is always texting him about really personal stuff including some major TMI about guys she’s dating and um….what she does with them. Alexa admits she’s been reading his texts, but the thinks she’s justified in doing so because she is sure this woman is after Brian. Brian thinks Alexa is overreacting; he has worked with this woman for a long time and she is just a friend. Alexa thinks it’s not possible for men and women to be “just friends” with this level of detail going on in the woman’s texts. She wants Brian to tell this woman to cool it, and he doesn’t want to. Turns out the woman they are arguing about has been listening to the show all morning and when she hears this segment she calls in and the fur flies!
Makayla from Renton wrote to Fitz on our Facebook Page. She has lived with her boyfriend Josh for a few months and really loves him but recently he brought home two cats that belonged to a family member that passed away and Makayla is highly allergic to cats. She has asked him to find a different home for them or thinks he is dragging his feet on it. She is starting to question whether Josh cares more about the cats than her. But then we get Josh’s side of the story: the cats are the last remaining family of his relative who passed and he wants them to stay in the family. He is only keeping them while he works on other family and if they all fall through he’ll try and find a shelter. But…when he reveals the kitty cats are named Garth and Trisha, we all vow to take them ourselves or help find homes and as we talk about the cats we start to wonder whether Makayla is right – maybe Josh really does care about them cats more than her…
Pete from Issaquah says his girlfriend's Ex hangs with her family too much. Should Mary cut all ties with the Ex? Or is Pete just being jealous?