Bridging The Gap Podcast with Marianne Rose: Recent Episodes
Marianne Rose
Host Marianne Rose conducts a relevant and timely journey of thought with Registered Psychologist, Dr. Syras Derksen.
Explore doubts and truths of relationships with people encountering God in being part of the local church.
Discerning people's energy, and knowing what to do with yours when it differs from theirs.
Are you holding too tightly? Are you aware of what's already there? Are you needing to hold it more loosely?
Living in the present moment.
Guest and author Linda Vickers shares the importance of pausing to grieve from her new book.
What we're thinking might not be true. It starts with an awareness; just knowing the dark path might not be true, then planning an alternative route.
When we plant a tree seed, it has the potential to become a full grown tree. How healthy or unhealthy it will be depends on the conditions it's grown in and its care. Similar to how our minds and bodies can grow or deteriorate with care or be affected by neglect.
If you sometimes struggle with conversations, or if you've ever heard yourself say, "Do we even know how to have a conversation?" in a relationship, this episode is for you!
Fun times today playing a game together that is a match made in heaven for what this podcast is about! We played the game, "Where Should We Begin" by Esther Perel on air and it was super insightful!
There are two resistances within each of us. One is to allow and the other to disallow. Know the depths of each in this important conversation.
Recognize your own voice in relationship to people in positions of power. Refuse division. Refuse hate. Keep your senses alert to false claims, cults and conspiracy theories.
How well do we know ourselves and our physical boundaries with consensual or non-consensual touch?
Join Dr. Syras Derksen, host Marianne Rose and guest Shaena Desiree for their discussion on healthy jealousy.
Got a dream? Add a plan and discipline with a radical dose of gratitude, and you're on your way to making it reality!
Advise, especially good advise, is very important to life, but how are we with giving and receiving it? Would it sometimes be better to just observe ideas and opinions?
Trust: One of the most difficult but essential relationship (with ourselves and others) survival skills.
How we manage fear of failure in connection and community, or re-entering community once we've been separated by loneliness or rejection (self or other inflicted).
Life will always come with obstacles, learn how to reframe them with joy instead of anxiety.
The value and research supporting giving and hearing apologies and how to manage never getting the apology you feel you deserve.
What is your true North? Are you steady on that, or do you want to be? This episode on staying true to your convictions can help.
What leads to codependence or incessant feelings of guilt? What are you responsible for? What should you be responsible for?
What if we woke up every morning with the thought, "There is no them. There's only us." ?
Pure, peaceful, compassionate wisdom is how you build a solid foundation for your life.
Weigh what you hear against what you know.
Test what you hear against research.
Verify source authenticity.
Always be willing to learn, unlearn and relearn.
We know about preparing for nature driven storms. Do we know about preparing for inner storms? Learn to plan pre-emptively to take care of your heart.
Love stands in the gap, covers, lifts, shields and heals. Love protects. It does not expose weakness or have contempt for another's joy. Narcissism does not protect people's worth. It shames the weak to make itself look strong. It preys and feeds on the victim it created and sees their cowering as a feast. We are not meant to join in the feast or stand back and do nothing. Love is not self-seeking, so run to cover the shamed and the weak! "It's not true what was just said or done to you in my presence!" Love protects.
Change is inevitable. Either way it happens, automatically or by choice, it's up to you.
The root causes of lying about sickness and how to teach society to care for themselves.
So much of our thinking is underneath deliberation and intention. We are wise to develop the skills to control that.
What exists in your mind and what exists in reality? Our feelings may be valid but how are we acting on them?
Both validating your feelings and understanding familiarity breeds contempt are two critical ways to work through anxiety in life's experiences and relationships. Please listen and share with others and include your insights to help each other through life's many challenges.
Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. ~ John 15:13
Listening is more than having ears.
It can be taught as a skill and practiced like an art!
Let's be antiracist! Let's celebrate our differences! Let's explore how to do that together!
Generosity is surprisingly uncommon but the world NEEDS us to change that! Especially with the effects of weather catastrophes causing unlivable circumstances. We need to lean in to accepting help and giving it when needed, and it is VERY needed!
How bizarre that Jesus said to, "Love your enemies," followed by "the rain falls on the just and the unjust." How do we react to that?
Forgiveness is a beautiful thing! It's both easy & hard. It's a process and has many different factors. Gentleness (in how and how much time it may take) is a key one.
All kinds of ways to practice minding your manners.. this one may be one of the more important ones.
Overwhelmed with struggle to overwhelmed with thankfulness. Both are better when you have someone to share it with.
When relationships go through a challenge, it's easy to cut 'n run because of pain, but worth the risk to work it out when authentic love is on the other side!
When you're in sorrow and you don't see the way through, how can you still believe you will?
Worth every effort to save you or someone you love from relationship suicide, even if all is well. Please share.
Leaders who rule with healthy authority are essential to healthy workers and unhealthy authority usually stems from fear. How do we understand authority from the viewpoints of leaders and the people under their rule?
Offence can begin at a VERY young age and can grow with us and keep us isolated and in pain, but it doesn't have to once we discover ways to think about and deal with it.
We have a natural response to suffering - often creating PTSD and chronic modes of flight, fight, flee and freeze. But we can find a way through that doesn't end in re-traumatizing ourselves over and over again. We CAN find peace in the storm.
When we invite wonder into our lives we can change the way we view and experience pain.
How to separate your identity from your actions but still be accountable and open to unlearn/relearn.
What response does anxiety require? How can we learn to live with something we generally resist? How can we recover from an anxious episode? Let's find out!
Truth. Trust. Confidence. Honour. Respect. Forgiveness. Unconditional positive regard.
Your First Love where you were formed before the foundation of the world.
An invitation to explore what Christmas could mean or does or doesn't mean to many people around the world.
A 2nd year going into the holidays during the Covid-19 Pandemic has many people feeling worn down and uninterested in caring about whatever others think, even to the point of being hollowed out and rude about it. Can we get our Christmas Spirit back? How in the world are we supposed to even do relationships anymore with the immense differences between each other? Let's talk about that.
We grapple with our imperfections and mistakes "to the point of no return," but what if we could return? Can you even imagine it?
We want justice for so many things and it's critical that people serve it when necessary, but when justice is confused with boundaries in relationships and it spells THE END, it causes unnecessary pain. Especially with our current pandemic, relationships are ending at lightning speed, and that doesn't need to happen if we can learn how to love justly.
Quick fixes are usually temporary and can lead to disappointment, but you can find life significantly more satisfying by delaying gratification. In this (our 40th - WOOT!!) episode you'll hear some excellent mind training methods to embrace taking your time.
Kinda like the saying "Silence is golden, but sometimes it's yellow," (i.e. if you don't have anything nice to say, don't speak, but if you're keeping silent on injustice... well, you get the drift). It's similar with willful ignorance being the opposite of bravery. It's not blissful if you can help it.
Helping people understand you, your personality, where they end and you begin. Helping you with your "NO" so you don't become co-dependent, but nurture interdependence in relationships.
Traumatic occurrences do not have to be the end all, but rather - education for the future!
Scientific reason or not, you have privacy rights and body autonomy. Some exceptions apply.
We can bring the world to a higher place. We can change chaos with understanding. Love is the higher power. Bridging the Gap celebrates our 33rd episode and end of season one with a challenge to turn around from hate and strife.
Helping create good government by choosing political leaders from a place of empathy. Leaning in to understand political differences helps us make healthy choices by allowing people to struggle with different views and trust they'll figure it out without forcefulness.
Psyching yourself up to follow through with day to day tasks doesn't exactly spell character, but faithfulness does, and it's way more important to surviving life than we sometimes realize.
Faith creates things we don't see, but hope to see and believe we will because we have it, even if only a little - faith can change things in and around us!
Negative thoughts can become habits and we can perhaps not even be aware it's causing pain to our brain to think them! Learn to capture those kinds of thoughts before they do serious damage!
Is there life after death? A monumental question nearly everyone wonders about and some have even settled for themselves. One of our most FUN and exciting topics we've explored where we deeply ponder this meaningful existential question.
Distinguishing healthy and unhealthy jealousy, exploring the healthy kind and inviting the experience of jealous Love.
"Hurt people hurt people" and "When we know better we do better." We hear this again and again, but how do we get to this place of understanding? It's a journey to recognizing capacity. Many people who do harm and many who do good do it from their own education or lack of it. If we teach society the value of succeeding from a place of potential it changes that.
Are you a new dreamer, a dreamer who's facing obstacles or have you even seen your dream die? There's HOPE! There's a future! Hang on! This episode is for YOU dreamers, once-upon-a-time dreamers and re-dreamers! It only takes a spark!
Self talk is a big part of how we interact with others and how we manage insecurities and arrogance within ourselves. Dr. Syras & Marianne discuss ways to influence our inner dialogue before we hurt ourselves and others.
We get to enjoy a second week with Syras AND Natasha Derksen! This week, we discover Natasha's book-loving side and get some insight on how books make great companions when we're lonely.
In celebration of our 20th episode, we had a "getting to know you" (insert Mr. Roger's song), time together with Dr. Syras and his AWESOME wife, Natasha! Woot! So much fun!
Yes. There's a new disorder. Is it any wonder?
How are we doing?
How are we going to do AFTER all this?
A little help?
How in the world can we possibly forgive the unconscious and arrogant who've destroyed or all but destroyed our lives and sense of safety? The Doctor is IN and he has a brilliant take on doing this!
Marianne shares her personal story of teenage pregnancy and choosing adoption, and she and Dr. Syras speak about learning vrs regret.
Understanding when anger is helpful in building assertiveness and harmful in hurting people.
In part two of this series, we explore the mind-body recovery aspect of trust. Learning to trust yourself and others and gaining hope towards being able to heal.
Sometimes, people need to hear the process of recovery even exists. In part one of this series, we begin to explore mind-body recovery, how they seem separate and how to work with that.
Overcoming rational and irrational anxiety and learning to be part of the solution instead of being afraid.
Who can you trust with your innermost secrets? How can you discern them apart from who not to trust? Does loss of trust mean vulnerability is not worth the risk of losing intimacy? Can we grow intimacy with vulnerability? Find out in this episode!
Deep rooted insecurities often come from shame, a force to replace with acceptance, forgiveness and truth.
What is the meaning of life? How do I find my purpose? A discussion everyone ponders but not often out loud. This conversation between Dr. Syras Derksen and Marianne Rose is so important! Please enjoy and share to everyone! It matters because you do!
Working through trauma instead of avoiding it in dealing with past, current and future threat.
We've learned that many freedoms we enjoy can be temporarily halted when there's a pandemic. But what do we need to know about authority and control and how do we cope with the reality of it? When is it healthy and when isn't it? In this episode, we explore how to tell and learn how to govern well in our own authority.
Perception is when we see someone or something one way and if we change the setting confusion occurs. It can lead to unmet expectations and disappointment because reality changes our imagined ideas. Are we holding people responsible for our negative emotions about that?
How can it feel good to feel small? Can we appreciate life more when everything else is bigger than us? IS everything bigger than us? Take an "awe walk" with Dr. Syras and discover how to find inner peace, even in the midst of turmoil.
We hardly hear, "Change your attitude," anymore, but it's a necessary reminder to keep ourselves from self-sabotaging or being emotionally disruptive to others. If we don't train ourselves to have empathy, we'll suffer cognitive dissonance because we'll feel contradictory to every belief outside our own. The simplicity of accepting other's opinions that are different than ours can even dissuade war!
In this episode, Dr. Syras Derksen breaks down how we can keep ourselves from hurting and from hurting others by understanding the harmful side of intolerance. We learn how to prevent hatred from taking root, causing unnecessary stress and conflict. Please be encouraged to share this with everyone because it could save a lot of troubled times ahead.
Is power safe for selfish people? Do you know how to tell? What happens when people abuse power in relationships, the workplace or in government? Dr. Syras Derksen explains how to become a detective in your personal and work relationships and examine how to strengthen yourself to keep from being abused.