The Parenting Teens Solutions Podcast. (Parenting Teens With Purpose): Recent Episodes
Phinnah Chichi
Welcome to The Parenting Teens Solutions Podcast where we help strengthen family connections by supporting parents with tools and tips on how to effectively communicate with their tweens and teens. Are you a parent struggling to understand the changes in your teen? Worried about the communication gap between you and your teen? Upset about the lack of motivation in your teen? We all experience these at various points in our teen's adolescence journey. Stay tuned, let's talk, let's share, let's encourage, let's inspire and let's help each other as we take this ride with our amazing teens.
In this Episode, we explore the concept of co-regulation and it’s vital role in helping our teens to develop effective self- regulation skills. I share some very practical strategies parents can use to support their teens emotionally and behaviourally. For more on parenting teens, preparing teens for adulthood , join us on Instagram, Facebook, (Parenting Teens Solutions) or follow me Phinnah Chichi on Instagram, Facebook or TikTok. Looking forward to seeing you on any of the platforms mentioned. I am rooting for you. Phinnah Chichi
Sometimes it can be quite confusing when it comes to parenting teenagers. Some days they may be in the mood to talk, some other days, they are not in a mood to talk. Sometimes you want to help but they reject your help. My encouragement to parents is not to give up. In this episode , I share some examples of what perseverance looks like and the benefits of perseverance in parenting.
As teenagers navigate their every changing adolescent journey, our supportive and nurturing relationship with them serves as a crucial foundation for their emotional and psychological well-being. In this episode, we share 5 ways we can nurture that relationship in ways that strengthens their resilience and our connection with them. For more resources, visit our BIO on our Instagram page @parentingteenssolutions
In this episode of "Parenting Teens with Purpose," we explore actionable strategies for parents to help build their teenager's confidence while navigating common pitfalls along the way. From fostering independence and providing constructive feedback to fostering a positive self-image, we delve into three key ways parents can empower their teens to navigate life's challenges with resilience and self-assurance. Additionally, we identify three common pitfalls to avoid, including overprotectiveness, comparisons, and setting unrealistic expectations. By understanding the importance of nurturing confidence in teenagers and recognizing potential obstacles, parents can create a supportive environment that promotes growth and self-discovery. Whether you're a seasoned parent or new to the journey of raising teenagers, this episode offers valuable insights and practical tips to help you empower your teenager to thrive with confidence and purpose. Tune in and embark on the journey of parenting with intentionality and empowerment! For more resources on raising teens, visit us on Instagram www.instagram.com/parentingteenssolutionsFollow us on YouTube www.youtube.com/@parentingteenssolutions4738Guiding Adolescence Online Course : www.parentingteenssolutions.selar.co/parentingteensJoin our Community : www.parentingteenssolutions.selar.co/warriors
How do we raise teenagers who are responsible and make responsible choices?
Embracing a sense of responsibility is key to the choices that teenagers make on a daily basis. When they build the skill of always checking in within themselves before making choices, it helps them in life.
Nurturing that sense of responsibility isn't something that is forced on them. It comes from the subtle ways that we speak to them, the ways that we respond to them and the ways we listen to them. It's hidden in these relationship gems. In this episode, I share ways in which we, as parents and other caregivers, can help nurture this sense of responsibility in our teens.
It pays off for them. They go on to make better decisions, surround themselves with the right people and live thriving lives.
It can be frustrating when we don’t feel heard in our own homes. It can be hurtful when sometimes our children peer’s opinions are prioritised over ours. What we do when we feel unheard? How do we feel when we feel unheard? In this episode, I share 3 things we can do when we feel unheard and how to express our feelings in a constructive way to our children.
Parenting our children and teens in ways that brings out the best in them and in ourselves requires intentionality, mindfulness and a commitment . These are the pillars in purposeful parenting that I talk about in this episode. These pillars will help guide us as we take on the kind of parenting required for 2024 and beyond. The issues and challenges that many children face in today’s world are so rampant that there is no chance that parenting can be justified to remain the same. Parenting should evolve. Stagnant parents will be left behind and I am glad that we are choosing not to stay stagnant. We are evolving and purposeful parents EPP 😀
Sometimes, we worry about our teenagers, which is okay, but one common mistake we sometimes tend to make is giving our teens advice from that worried point of view.
In this episode, I share a missing link between the worries and the giving advice. This missing link will change the outcome of what we share with them. They will listen more, and the chances of them reflecting on what we shared will be much higher.
Try it, and let's hear the changes you notice.
Remember to reach out if you need support in your parenting journey. As a Coach and Parent Mentor, I have programs that can help from parenting a new teenager to all other areas in parenting tweens and teens.
Reach out through our Instagram page and follow us: https//:instagram.com/parentingteenssolutions.
DECISIONSEvery parenting relationship thrives or fails based on parents' decisions in their relationship with their children. Some parents assume that their job is done as long as they provide a roof for their children, feed them, and ensure they are educated. This approach does nothing to nurture the relationship, and the parental influence is mostly lost by the teenage years. What decisions do we need to make in 2024 to ensure that our relationship thrives and that our children become responsible adults in society?In this episode, I speak about the four decisions that are game-changers in 2024. These decisions will help your children's emotional and social development.Happy New Year !!!
Lots of Love
Phinnah Chichi
This year, our podcast will be broadcast every week. See you next Tuesday,
In this episode, I share some tips and encouragement for teens. The ability to regulate emotions can be challenging especially in the teen years with all the brain development going on in that phase. Share with your teens to listen to this episode. It’s encouraging and non-judgemental as usual. For many more tips on parenting teens, subscribe to this channel.Phinnah Chichi
Dear Parents,Now more than ever, our teens need our support just in a different way.Many teens are anxious and depressed due to varied reasons. How can we help prevent this or support them through it? Data shows that low self esteem is a major feature in high number of cases with teens who suffer from anxiety and depression. There are reasons outside our control that could play a part as well but I want us to focus more of how we can help with the factors within our control. In this episode, I share 5 ways we can help our children build up their self esteem. I trust this helps. For more on parenting teens, come and join us on Instagram. We would love to see you there. 🥰. Phinnah Chichi (Podcast Host)
Welcome to another episode of our parenting podcast, where we delve into the changes, challenges and joys of raising teenagers. In today's episode, we explore the topic of "How to Have Peace of Mind Parenting Teens." Peace of Mind in Parenting Teens? Is that for real or is Phinnah pulling our legs on this one? Lol 😂 yes it’s for real. Yes you and I know that parenting can often be a rollercoaster ride, filled with countless decisions, worries, and moments of self-doubt. It's natural to feel overwhelmed at times, but it's essential to prioritize our own well-being as parents. After all, when we take care of ourselves, we can better care for our children.Peace of Mind in parenting is therefore a very essential piece of the parenting puzzle. In this episode, we will share practical tips to help you find peace of mind in your parenting journey.
In this episode, we delve into the topic of "How to talk to teens about the use of their phones". As a parent, you know that smartphones have become an integral part of your teen's life, but finding the right balance between connectivity and responsibility can be a daunting task. Join us as I share some vital stages for initiating an open and constructive conversations with your teens about their phone usage. The tools that I share in all the stages will help guide your teens towards a more balanced and mindful approach to technology.
Our voices of influence as parents are sometimes being ignored for many reasons. The world has gotten noisier with so many voices to contend with.Also, our lives have become so much busier and it has an affect on our tolerance levels. The more we yell, the more we drown out our voices of influence. My encouragement is for us to pause and question ourselves before the yelling gets out. “Is what we are rightfully upset or frustrated about worth losing our voice of influence for? “If your answer is no, then come back to that issue later on. If it’s yes, I have no suggestion 😉.But you get my point right? 🥰Our voices of influence is what will help our teens navigate better through their adolescence years. Protect it at all costs. That cost includes doing the work and putting in the effort to cut down our reaction times and choose intentional responses instead.Our latest 4 weeks parent group coaching coming up from Nov 3rd is a non judgemental led space where I will be helping a group of parents gain back their voices of influence and restore peace and motivation and success in their homes.The UPGRADE YOUR PARENTING TEENS LEVEL Group coaching program for parents will help you to help your teens as they navigate this journey.It will help you communicate differently and in ways that makes them really listen to you (using the parenting teens solutions code) It will help them to always make the right choices.It will help them to be courageous to say NO to negative peer pressures.It will help them learn to love themselves and be more confident about themselves.It will help them to navigating friendships more effectively.It will help them become more self driven to achieve their own goals.It will help you and your teens restore and maintain a healthier more respectful relationship. It’s a win-win program.Type in MORE if you want to know know about the program. I will personally send you a DM.(https://parentingteenssolutions.selar.co/upgradeparentingteens)I trust this helps.Phinnah Chichi
Managing and solving some of the challenging behaviours from teens does not start with the actual behaviour. It’s deeper than the behaviour. The behaviour is just a manifestation to what is going in their minds.
As our children settle into school for their new school year, one of the aspects of their lives that will help them navigate life in school and beyond is state of their SENSE OF SELF.
How they see themselves, how healthy their self esteem is, how confident they are in themselves.
This plays a very vital role in the choices they make, the behaviours they display and the amount of influence they allow people to have over them.
How can we help them build a healthier sense of self and what can get in the way of us supporting them in this arena?
That’s what I discuss in this episode.
Remember to check us out on Instagram and Facebook page and follow us so that you don’t miss out on our daily nuggets and tips that support you on this journey.
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The Parenting Teens Navigation System
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Parents often find it difficult to have certain conversations with their teens. Why is this the case? Sometimes it dies to the sensitivity of the topic or maybe the inexperience to talk about it. Many of the issues we come across today like the phone use and social media are way different from what we had growing up so we were not modelled on how to handle today’s problems. What are some prerequisites to having these difficult but very necessary conversations? I share some of them in this episode .
Dear Parents,
Do you want to have less conflicts with your teens?
We all have moments when we need to address concerning matters with our teens or our young adults (actually it applies to all children irrespective of their ages) .
Many parents do share with me the fall outs that happen after they have corrected their teens.
These fallouts most of the time could be a reaction to not considering these 4 points that I share in the video.
Have a self reflection and think back at the last time you corrected your teen and got a disrespectful or rude response back, which out of these 4 were forgotten to be considered ?
When you get in the habit of considering these 4 things, you will experience less conflicts with your children.
I trust you found this helpful. Please share this episode with your family and friends so that they can also experience less conflicts in the home.
If you found it helpful, please share with me what resonated the most for you.
Also if you have any topics you would love me to talk about for future episodes, please do let me know as well.
You can contact me via Instagram. https://instagram.com/parentingteenssolutions
Phinnah Chichi
Time flies when we are parenting. The child that used to be 10 years old is now 18. The child that used to be 7 years old is now 13. The list goes on.
The realisation of how time flies is an urgent wake up call to see that the opportunity we have cannot be taken for granted. We have the opportunity to listen more.
We have the opportunity to learn, unlearn and relearn.
We have the opportunity to correct without criticising.
We have the opportunity to parent differently and better.
In this episode, I talk about how we can use this opportunity well. Remember to connect with us for more on social media.
More weekly episodes will now be dropped every Tuesday morning.
Do you have a particular topic you want me to talk about? Send me a DM on Instagram @parentingteenssolutions.
I am rooting for you.
Phinnah Chichi
In this episode, I share some thoughts towards some of the culprits behind some of challenging teen behaviours we may experience in our homes. I share how we as parents can help get to the hidden reasons for those behaviours and support our teens in making better decisions. For more positive parenting teens content, check us out on Instagram and follow us there for more resources. www.instagram.com/parentingteenssolutions Grab a copy of The Parenting Teens Navigation System Book on Amazon https://amzn.to/3vySD8X USA https://amzn.to/3MFIxbV UK
Limiting belief mostly stems from criticisms, past judgements and failures. Most challenging negative behaviours can be traced to some form of limiting belief. In this episode, I share my thoughts on how parents can help their teens by intentionally focusing on filling up the Positive Emotional Bank of their teens.
Teens with more to draw out of their positive emotional bank are likely more resilient than teens with more limiting beliefs.
For more positive parenting teens content, check us out on Instagram and follow us there for more resources.
www.instagram.com/parentingteenssolutions
Grab a copy of The Parenting Teens Navigation System Book on Amazon https://amzn.to/3vySD8X
USA https://amzn.to/3MFIxbV UK
Limiting belief mostly stems from criticisms, past judgements and failures. Most challenging negative behaviours can be traced to some form of limiting belief. In this episode, I share my thoughts on how parents can help their teens by intentionally focusing on filling up the Positive Emotional Bank of their teens.
Teens with more to draw out of their positive emotional bank are likely more resilient than teens with more limiting beliefs.
For more positive parenting teens content, check us out on Instagram and follow us there for more resources.
www.instagram.com/parentingteenssolutions
Grab a copy of The Parenting Teens Navigation System Book on Amazon https://amzn.to/3vySD8X
USAhttps://amzn.to/3MFIxbVUK
The rise in the number of challenges that many teenagers are faced with in recent times is alarming. Most times, parents are torn with worries of how they can best help their teens. In this episode, I share how understanding them is the gateway to connecting with them and then helping them. Listen in to hear the way we can understand them. I share a strategy that I use in understanding my teen and now my young adult children better.
Listening is a big part of our communication to our teens. When teenagers accuse their parents of not listening to them, its their truth and it comes with other thoughts and assumptions. In this episode, I dive into some other thoughts that lie beneath the accusation and how parents can address the matter in a healthy and effective way.
Charles Swindon tells us that life is 10 % of what happend to us and 90% of our we respond to what happened. This quote is the foundation to our conversation on this episode. What we say and do when we react has no time to be filtered and processed of it consequences but when we add a PAUSE, we create pathways for more understanding and reflections. Postponing our corrections in the moment of non- compliance and conflicts in the home with our teens is the wise thing to do. I'm glad you are taking the time to listen to this. I mentioned the next Group of Parents of Teens classes thatbwe are running from the 17th of Feb 2023 for 4 weeks. Register on hhtps:bit.ly/parentingteens101pc. Send us a message via our Instagram page or email ask@parentingteenssolutions.com
It is more common to read about the problems families have with their teens than it is to read of the great things about teenagers . In this episode, I share 5 out of many great things about them. I'd love to you to listen to this with your teens nearby. Its a great reminder for them too. In a world that perceives them as negative, its time for us to help change the narrative. Do you agree
As we step into the new year, here are 5 things I would suggest for us to avoid in 2023. Avoiding these will help us connect with them better. Connecting with them better helps them mature and make wiser decisions.
The childhood conversations are becoming very common. As young adults and adult children are discovering you they really are way fromntheir parent, they are asking questions abput their childhood and some are sharing their hurys which can make it a difficult conversation. These conversations need to be had and i want to encourage parents that those conversations are not personal attacks on them, it more for the healing or closing some gaps for the children. In this Episode, I shares things to avoid saying and what you should say instead to make the process effective and stay connected. Remember you can connect with me on Instagram www.instagram.com/phinnahchichi or www.instagram.com/parentingteenssolution. Follow me there for more daily parent-teen tips, tools and solutions. Looking forward to connecting with you.
In this Episode, I share on what really matters to every teenager. The ability for parents to listen in a way that doesn't make teens feel judged or criticized is key to their hearts and ears. I share some practical ways we can actively listen and regain their attention.
Parenting through the teens years is said to be hard because of the changes and challenges that parents come across and teenagers go through. It is a big mistake for us to conclude that all the efforts we put in parenting them as children is enough to see them through their teenage years. Parenting teens requires pressing the reset button and evolving through this process as well. Parents who don't make a shift see themselves pay a price for it. Shifting is part of parenting teens. In this episode, I share my heart of this matter. This was more a conversation with you rather than a teaching on a specific parenting topic. Remember to follow us on Instagram. www.instagram.com/parentingteenssolutions and my personal page www.instagram/phinnahchichi
I was recently asked this question on Instagram and so decided to share my thoughts here on our podcast as well. The tips and tricks are found in our daily interactions with them. Listen till the end to hear what we need to do more of on a daily basis. Let's connect on Instagram www.instagram/phinnahchichi and www.instagram.com/parentingteenssolutions
When I come across rising figures of mental and emotional health distress among children and teenagers, my heart literally sinks. Its heartbreaking. There are many external factors that play a part to these rising numbers, but i want to focus on a part thatvwevhave control over. Our words to them or at them especially in times of distress. Listen in and lets talk some more about this. Lets connect on Instagram www.instagram.com/phinnahchichi or www.instagram.com/parentingteenssolution
Many parents are worried about their teens no longer opening up to them as they used. Some of the reasons teens may not open up may be due to
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Fear of Judgement
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Fear of Criticism
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Fear of Dismissals
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Embarrassment/Shame/Guilt
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Low self-esteem
In this episode, I share more about how you can have them open up to you. It requires some reconnecting tools, which I give examples of and having patience through the process.
Let's know what you think about it. Connect with us on our Facebook group and follow us on Instagram @parentingteenssolutions
Kind Regards
Phinnah Chichi
Mood swings are very common during the teen years. How can parents respond better snd be supportive during those mood swings? In this episode, I share 5 points to help us handle those mood swings. Actually I added a bonus point towards the end of the episode. Looking forward to hearing from you on what you thought about this episode '. Remember you can reach out on ask@parentingteenssolutions.com
Behind most of those anger reactions we see in teenagers also lies their inabilities to self regulate their emotions. Many of them haven't learnt how, they haven't been modeled to in greater details and they haven't been supported in times of their anger outbursts.
When teenagers learn how to self regulate, they can be better friends to their friends, they can get along with others in social settings and they can avoid getting into trouble in schools or on the streets.
In this episode, I share some practical ways parents/carers can help their children/ teens learn and practice self regulation.
I trust these points will help you get started in teaching them self regulation.
In other news, our latest book, titled The Parenting Teens Navigation System is out on Amazon. It is currently on the Amazon best seller list in the UK and we would love parents world wide to buy this book which is loaded with very practical tools and tips to help parents raise their kids, tweens, teens and young adults. The tools are universal, relatable and easy to understand.
Kindle Versions
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Paperback Versions
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These are available in both kindle and paper back versions. Looking forward to reading all of your reviews about the book.
Have an awesome week.
Phinnah Chichi
The fear of being judged is what puts a lot of teenagers off from sharing their concerns with their parents. As parents, we never set out to be judgmental but some of the ways we respond, can seem judgmental. In today's episode , i talk about what being nonjudgmental looks like in parenting teens?
Mental Health illnesses among teenagers are on the rise. How can we help as parents? What are some things we could do to help our teenagers build resilience and manage their mental health? Their mental health is just as important as their physical health. In this episode, I share 3 ways we can help nurture their mental health.
Self Control is the most important control to have in parenting. In this episode, I share what self control looks like and why it is a very important skill for both ourselves as parents for our children/teens. I would encourage you to reflect on your self control. Do you need to work on it some more? Then please take the step to start working on your self control. As one of my favourite quote says- We don't have to be great to start something but we must get started to be great at it.
Many parents share with me the frustrations they have over their teens's habit of telling lies. In this Episode, I share on how we can address this with our teens in a way that makes them get the point. It is not enough just to tell them that telling lies is wrong. I also share on how we can bring the concept of integrity into the conversation. Lets know your thoughts about this issue. I also shared a video about it on our YouTube channel. https://youtu.be/pysynQsHqfM (do watch it, comment on your thoughts and subscribe to our channel ) I'd appreciate it.
On this episode, I get the honor of speaking to our guest, Kimball Lewis. Kimball Lewis is an executive who has spent his career using research and technology to improve the lives of individuals and businesses. He began his career as a health, welfare, and child policy researcher for a leading public policy think-tank in Washington, DC. He then served as a technologist and executive in a series of successful healthcare start-up businesses. Mr. Lewis joined EmpoweringParents.com as CEO in 2017.
At EmoweringParents.com, Mr. Lewis is committed to ensuring that the timeless and practical parenting advice of James Lehman and The Total Transformation® endures for future generations of parents struggling to manage the most challenging child behavior problems. Mr. Lewis resides in Florida, USA, with his wife and two teenage sons.Free PDF for listeners: 5 Ways to Fix Disrespectful Behavior Now
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Listening to our Teens is so much easier said than done. They sometimes comes up with suggestions that we think doesn't make sense. As parents we have more experience in years and that can sometimes be an obstacle to listening. In this episode, I share a story about a particular issue with my 15 year old daughter where the power of listening made a huge difference. I hope my story helps you to keep your mind more open to listen more and consider more of their suggestions. Listening doesn't always mean we agree, it means we give them the space to speak freely without judgement.
Parental conflicts are not new They are quiet common. We think differently. We were brought up differently and we handle things differently. It is important to know that why we cannot also avoid these conflicts, we can decide what role we plat in them and what we model to our children. In this episode, I share 5 points that will help parents navigate through parental conflicts more effectively. You will find these points very helpful and they can act as great reminders when you are in one, or just coming out of one. Remember that when we know better as parents, we give oursleves the chance to do better and give our children a better childhood experience. I am rooting for you all the way. Phinnah Chichi 🤗
Every day we are writing our stories as parents. Every day what we say and how we say what we say is either building up our stories or tearing them down. I love that we get a chance to rewrite our stories. In this Episode, I also share an interesting example of Thomas Edison's mom. Let's rewrite our stories by embracing what needs to be learnt to be more evolved parents and unlearning unhelpful ways we have done things in the past. We can do it. I am rooting for you all the way. Regards: Phinnah Chichi
We all want to see some changes in our homes right? Are we willing to be the igniters of those changes? Do we know that being the ones to ignorr the changes does not mean we caused the problems? Change is needed for a change to happen . In this episode, I share a personal story of how I initiated a change with my teen son and got the result that I desired. Listen to this Episode and let me know what challenges you want ro see a change in and how you can initiate that change. I look forward to hearing from you. If you are on instagram, don't forget to follow our page, @parentingteenssolutions and also subscribe to our YouTube channel @parentingteenssolutions. Phinnah Chichi
In this episode, I share a few tips on how to nuture our children's sibling relationships. I also share some mistakes we should avoid making as they can fuel the sibling rivalry. I also shared 2 questions from parents on sibling rivalry and shared my tips and suggestions to them. If you are on instagram, don't forget to follow our page @parentingteensolutions and also subscribe to your YouTube channel @parentingteenssolutions. I look forward to seeing you there.
In this episode, I share 3 things we can avoid doing to keep our positive influence intact with our teens. As parents, we come with a lot of experiences and knowledge to share with our teens and theses 3 things if not avoided, could get in the way of our teens listening to us and trusting our opinions on important matters.
I get it, sometimes as parents we have said enough because our teens are not getting the point. We are tempted to say no more and keep our NO as simply that with no further explanations- As tempting as it can be, it can also cause unnecessary conflicts and misunderstandings in our parent-teen relationship. Our reasons will help avoid those wrong assumptions and keep the relationship healthy.
Not every conversation we have with our teens require a Lecture, Lesson or a Life Time Story. Sometimes just a Listen is all that is required. In this Episode, I share how important how Timing and our Tones really matters in nuturing our parent- teen relationship.
In thos episode, I share 5 tips that works when setting boundaries around behaviours in place for our teens. Boundaries are necessary and the way we express them to our teens is very vital to them getting its necessity. Join our Facebook group and Instagram page where we discuss this in more details. Do you need some coaching sessions for you and your teens? We have parent-teen combo coaching services available. Contact via our social media platforms
Communication challenges are among the top 10 challenges that parents have with their teens. In this episode, I am intentionally disrupting the way we view those challenges and giving us a different perspective on it. A part 2 on this will come out after, I dig deeper to get it all out of my head 😉.
Having controls and boundaries in our homes is an essential tool but sometimes, without the right skills to implement them, parents may be accused of being excessive with their controls. In this episode, I share how we can manage the controls better and get them to make sense to our teenagers.
They say it's easier to build strong children than repair broken adults. The key question is how do we then build strong children? Let's share some tips on how we build strong children. 1, Give them a voice. 2. Be there for them emotionally. 3. Recognise their uniqueness. 4. Affirm them. 5. Don't shame them for their mistakes. I also answer a parent's question regarding this and share some characteristics of strong children.
In this Episode, I introduce the concept of Solution Minded Parenting. It is a concept that embraces a mixture of growth mindset and other parenting teens solutions concepts. It gives parents lots of positive perspectives to choose from in their parenting journey. In this Episode, I covered who a Solution minded Parent is, I shared some consequences of not being solution minded and finally shared how what we can start with to become more Solution Minded.
Many parents reach out to me with the worry that their teens no longer spend as much time with them like they used to. In this episode, I share practical tips for parents on the aspect of Quality time over the Quantity of time we now get to spend with them. Let us know what other topics you would love covered in our future episodes. Speak soon. Phinnah Chichi
Most times when we hear about self care, we don't immediately think of being kind to ourselves. In this episode, I share 3 ways of being kind to ourselves. Being kind to ourselves teaches our teens how to be kind to themselves and that in itsekf helps build their self esteem. For more content and interest in our online courses, do get in touch with us through our social media pages or send us an email. Our online courses platform www.bit.ly/ptsonlinecourses.
The Yelling Habit has been on the increase since the pandemic and we are not sharing this as a blaming tool. It is more so that we see the effects of this unintentional habit that parents picked up along life's journey. In this Episode, I share 6 reasons why it is urgently necessary that we stop this habit. To know HOW to stop it, I will share the link to my online course called Shout Less to Connect More. It is a great resource where I show you practical steps to stop the yelling and enjoy the parenting relationships that you deserve. www.bit.ly/ptsonlinecourses. For more content and for interest in our 1-2-1 coaching programmes, do get in touch with us through our socisl media pages or send us an email.
In this Episode, I talk about how we can help build the great memories with our teens to make up the LEGACY we leave for them. This is very important yet very easily missed out on. I have seen many parents of adults today who regret not paying attention to these small but vital daily choices that would have made a big difference to the relationship they now have with their adult children. I would do myself a disservice if I don't continuously talk about these to today's parents of teens as I am on a mission to make sure we don't make the same mistakes. When we know better as parents, we do better. Please let us know how you found this Episode. Do get in touch via social media. Let's know your thoughts. Thanks all. 😉
Many teens complain that their parents don't listen to them and parents are shocked because they think that they do listen. I call this the Parent- Teen Listening Gap and here is my proven way of closing that gap.
In this Episode, I share 5 ways we can help our Teenagers in this lockdown season and in the next segment, I share a word if encouragement directly to your teens. (So you can have them listen to that part) It will help them look at this lockdown with a different perspective.
Many parents struggle with understanding their teens and are shocked by the behaviour change they see in them. What happened to their teens? Some ask where is my little son or daughter? I tell parents that thet are still here. They have evolved so we need to evolve in our parenting ways to meet with them. In the episode, I share 4 reasons why some of us struggle to understand them and how we can mitigate that struggle. We have our parenting programme coming up frim the 24th to the 26th of January. It is more than a parenting class, it is an experience where parents will learn how to evolve in their parenting ways and see themselves differently and end up being treated differently - more respectful responses and wider listening ears all around you. The programme is called RESTART...you get a chance to press that reset button. Registration details www.bit.ly/restartparenting (usd) www.bit.ly/restartGBP ( usd) . Or access the details on our Instagram page's BIO. I am looking forward to seeing you there. 😉
The pandemic was a shock to all of us and many areas of our lives including I must add, our parenting took a hit. All of a sudden, we had to juggle our children's schooling and our workplace duties. Our teenagers couldn't believe the sudden changes they had to adapt to but we scaled through it all and here we are. As we step on 2021, I share here 7 great principles that will help grow our parenting relationship. This is vital because it covers mental health, communication and emotional wellbeing which are the pillars needed for parenting in today's world.
A healthy self esteem in our teens is vital. It helps them with their choices. It also helps them with their self confidence and their ability to say NO to negative peer pressures. In this episode, I share tips on how we can help our teens build up their self esteem for 2021 and beyond. Please share this episode with others. It is so vital that many of us get these tips and apply them in the relationships with their teens.
Sometimes as parents, we do get caught up in the role of parenting that we forget ourselves in the process.
Don't get lost in the role of parenting, rather allow the role to compliment YOU.
Phinnah Chichi
Correcting our teenagers can sometimes be tricky because of the not so positive reactions we might get from it. Is correcting are teens wrong? No it isn't. It is vital and valid to correct them BUT how we make those corrections matters if we truly want transformation. I share the more about this here. I also share more information about our upcoming webinar 'How to Correct to Transform Teenagers ' on the 12th of December 2020. Register at www.bit.ly/correct2transform. Looking forward to seeing you there.
Many parents are shocked when suddenly the little boys and girls they once knew become teenagers and then can at times come across as disrepectful towards parents. In this episode, I share how to help teenagers be more respectful. There are certain scripts you can use that will help them understand you better. Listen in and let's know when you try them and the difference you have seen. Remember that you can follow us on our social media platforms.
The pandemic and all the changes that the world is going through is having its effects on many teenagers. Some are becoming very demotivated with the school work and can't see the point of working as hard as they used to. In today's episode, I share 5 ways we can help our demotivated teenagers. Please share podcast with your family and friends who have teenagers. Many parents are asking and these tips are very practical tips and steps. We appreciate you.
On this episode, I share my view on this question. Are they being difficult or is the fact that parents don't understand them. Listen in to what I chose and I added 3 game changers to understanding your teens better. Remember to connect with us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and YouTube .
Parental Conflicts has been on the rise since the pandemic and it is affecting our children's mental health in one way or the other. I shared on a recent a insta live video on 5 main points to consider that will help us manage parental Conflicts better.
The shock many parents have at their teen's refusal to do something they've been asked to do is totally understandable because growing up many didn't dare to do that. In this Episode, I share what we should do when that refusal is done.
In this episode, I share the effects our dismissive words can have on our teens. We can disagree on some of their suggestions but we don't need to be dismissive in our disagreements. Being dismissive ruins the validity of our disagreements.
I asked parents recently to send in questions about their parent-teen Dilemmas. In this Episode, I am sharing my responses to 2 out of the various questions I got. Trust it will help you too.
Many parents struggle with defensive reactions from their teens over instructions they give them. In this Episode, I share with a practical example, how your teenagers will respond better to your dialogues over your instructions. As teenagers get older, our conversations should be more dialogue based than instruction loaded.
Many of today's parents of teenagers didn't grow up with parents who saw the need to explain themselves to their children. Therefore this helpful habit of explaining ourselves is not very common and leads to many teens making the wrong assumptions about their parents and life in general. In this episode, I share some vital reasons why it is necessary to be clear to our teens. If you listening to this on an Apple device, please do write us a review Much appreciated.
As parents of teenagers, it is so important to know that our words and our reactions towards our teenagers play a massive role as they prepare for adulthood and makes an impact to the adult they become. Remember you can connect with us on Instagram and Facebook. We would love to hear from you. Parenting Teenagers is not an east ride but having a community of like minded positive parents who want to give it their best shot makes the ride hopeful with positive results. Parents testify how the small changes they embrace makes the difference they desire. Let us know how you found this Episode and other episodes. Email us at ask@parentingteenssolutions.com
This a replay from a Facebook live video that I recorded. With the valuable nuggets shared and all the positive feedbacks I have received from parents who watched it, I knew that I had to share with our podcast community as well. Remember you can connect with us on Instagram or Facebook or email us at ask@parentingteenssolutions.com. we would love to hear from you. Also offering a free 15 minutes parent coaching ( July) for parents who are interested. www.calendly.com/phinnahchichi/15min
In this season filled with so many changes, there are some things we want our teenagers to never forget. Parents please play this Episode and have your teens listen to it. Even if it is one nugget they take from the 20 nuggets shared, that is great. Use this as a conversation starter and ask them what nugget sticks out most with them.
We all get ready when we go on a journey right? And even if we don't have everything at the start of the journey, we stop by at the shops to buy what's needed. Parenting Teens is a journey and it is so vital that we equip ourselves and our teens for this journey to make it a smoother ride. In this episode, we share the benefits of equipping ourselves and the details of an upcoming webinar we have on this topic. Email us at ask@parentingteenssolutions.com or check our Instagram page in the BIO for the links or go directly to the below link and register. www.bit.ly/equippingyouandteen.
Teens crave for independence and most of the way they know to get is by pushing boundaries. In this episode, I share three tips we can use to avoid them going over the top in pushing boundaries. (As always with my podcasts, I share practical tips unedited..just having a regular chat with you. 😉)
We discuss briefly on how to make the controls we put in place, make sense to our teens and what we must do when we begin to let go of some of those controls as our teens grow older.
In this lockdown season, many parents are focused mostly on the education of their teens... another area that is as important or even more important is their teen's MENTAL HEALTH. Let's share some tips on how we can help as parents. You can contact us at ask@parentingteenssolutions.com
This Episode is a recording from a recent Instagram live video that we did. The content was packed with so many teaching moments that I had to share it to our podcast community as well. Email ask@parentingteenssolutions.com if you want a visual copy of the examples we spoke about.
We have never experienced this sort of pandemic in our lifetime. What can we do to make the best out this lockdown period with our teenagers?
A rendition for every dad to change the script that says 'they don't talk'. Your teenagers need you to talk.. Here why..
Parents can sometimes get very frustrated because they have to repeat sharing a rule to their children over and over again. In this episode, I share why REPETITION is not a weakness and what it really is.
Sibling Rivalry can get out of hand if not handled the right way. Let's talk about ways we can help nurture our children's relationships so that they don't end up with unsolved sibling rivalries.
In today's ever changing digital advances, it is necessary that parents become more internet savvy .... why?
Sharing a story and some nuggets from my 'No Yelling ' morning experience with my 13 year old daughter.
In this Episode, we focus and discuss on one of the very essential steps to stop yelling at our teens.
As we start the year and the decade, it is important to take note of parenting mistakes to avoid. Your change in parenting shows your growth and teenagers emulate our growth.
As we come close to wrapping up the year and looking ahead to the great things ahead for this platform, we feel it is important to state our vision.
Here we share some practical solutions to closing this gap of understanding between parents and teenagers.
As a parent of your teenager, you can only remain a great influence in their lives by growing with them. What does growing with them mean?
The role of a dad in the life of his teen son dare not be underplayed. Dads mean a lot to their sons. Your approval of them helps to steer them in better directions BUT we know that many dads and their teenage sons don't understand to each other. How their dads treat them plays a major role to how much they learn from their dads.
Comparing your child is NOT a motivating tool. Here is what you can do instead of motivating.
Learning to pause in the midst of chaos with our teenagers makes all the difference. Listen to the points I bring to the table of why being calmer in our reactions is the way forward to enjoying better relationships with our teens.
These life guide principles that I have shared in this episode will help your teens as they take on this new school year. The 10 life Guide Priniciples will act as reminders in building their Confidence, as they grow in Character and as they standout in their Communication
3 things every 10-11 year old are responsible for. Although I was talking to 10-11 year olds here, it relates to all tweens and teens.
In many homes, conflicts and power struggles are common occurrences between parents and their teens. One of the biggest reasons for this stems from our unchanged, outdated and outgrown parenting style. It's time to change things up if your current style is nothing working.
It is very common to hear parents say that unless they shout, their children don't listen to them. I would say that's because, they are used to it. In this Episode, I share 3 reasons why shouting on our children does not pay off.
Raising teenagers is not easy but they are certain keys we must be prepared to use if we want a less chaotic life raising our teens. We discuss 3 of such keys in this episode. If you do have any questions concerning this Episode or other past episodes, please do get in touch with us at parentingteenssolutions@gmail.com
This question is intentional and its intention is to get us thinking as parents with how we react and respond to the mistakes are children make.
A word of encouragement for all mums and dads on the power of NOW. We have NOW to make a start on things we desire to do and desire to be. We have NOW to complete things we already started. We have NOW to give ourselves another 2nd chance.
Here is a short poem that I just made for you to remind us all as parents that our voices are powerful. Be intentional with your voice.
In the world today, the rise in successful entrepreneurs who did not complete college has caused many teenagers to sometimes not see the importance of education. In this episode, we share 3 tips on how parents can help their teenagers understand the importance of education.
As our children turns 13, it is very vital for us as parents to have a chat with them. This is a very monumental stage in their lives and memories surrounding this stage will be with them for a very long time. We must therefore be very intentional with what we say and do in this phase. It is also not too late to take these steps even if your children are over 13 years old. As long as they are still teenagers, go for it.
Without the right tools and strategies in place in the preteen days, our teens can easily get bored and unmotivated about life. In this episode, we share 3 ways we can help avoid this.
In this Episode, we share 5 great tools for success in parenting teens that can make your life as a parent to a teenager less stressful and more understanding.
How NOT to ruin your child's life with low Self- Esteem. (recordings taken from a live video that I hosted)
Cyberbullying is on the increase among our teens and as parents, if we are not aware of the signs of Cyberbullying, we will not be to help them. In this episode, we share some signs and suggest ways we can approach our teens about it.
The thoughts our children have about themselves usually becomes their self talk. It is therefore important for their wellbeing and emotional health, that we help them manage their thoughts positively. We can do this by introducing them to POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS.
Just as we set goals in our careers and businesses, we should set goals in our Parenting too. In this episode, we share 10 Great Parenting Tips/goals that we can apply this year.
In this week's episode, I share my thoughts on why we should not judge our parents for their parenting styles. They really did what they KNEW best to do at the time. We have an opportunity to learn some new habits, unlearn some old habits and relearn some great habits to move us forward in our connections with our Children. It's time to move on and not dwell on what went wrong. It's time to turn a new page.
Here is an audio version on a recent Facebook live video that I shared with parents. We can correct our children without criticising them and in this episode, I share why we should not criticise and the consequences of criticising.
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