Power Your Parenting: Moms With Teens: Recent Episodes
Colleen O'Grady LPC, LMFT, author, speaker & C-Suite Radio
Colleen O'Grady, MA. is a speaker, trainer and author of the award-winning and best-selling book Dial Down the Drama: Reduce Conflict and Reconnect with Your Teenage Daughter---A Guide for Mothers Everywhere. Colleen shares her wisdom from twenty-five years of experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist which translates into over 50,000 hours of working with parents and teens. Colleen, known as the parent-teen relationship expert helps you raise the bar of what's possible for the teenage years. Colleen not only knows this professionally she has been a mom in the trenches with her own teenage daughter. You really can improve your relationship with your teen and dial up the joy, peace, and delight at home and work. Every episode is geared to uplift you, give you practical parenting tips that you can apply right away and keep you current on the latest in teen research and trends.
Can Neurofeedback help teens? In this episode we talk about what is brainwave dysregulation and how that manifests with teens. We explore what Neurofeedback is and how it can be helpful to all teens especially teens who have adhd , anxiety, trauma, and depression. Our guest today Dianne Kosto is an industry-leading expert and visionary, is the Founder and CEO of SYMMETRY Neuro-Pathway Training. Recognized as a compassionate “Mom on a Mission,” Dianne is dedicated to making Neurofeedback technology accessible to families and individuals worldwide. Drawing from her personal journey and the trauma her family endured due to brainwave dysregulation, she is committed to helping others avoid similar challenges. Dianne has been a trusted mentor and consultant for Neurofeedback providers across the continent, transcending various professions since 2010. Her invaluable expertise continues to guide and inspire through SYMMETRY’s SAGE Advisors division. Dianne Kosto’s path has been marked by unwavering resolve and a profound dedication to improving the quality of lives through Neurofeedback. Her personal and professional journey is chronicled in her upcoming book, ‘From Trauma to Triumph: A Mom’s Mission with Neurofeedback,' which is set to launch on 9.9.23. It is a testament to her commitment to helping each brain learn to better regulate, and in ., helping each person pave their own path from trauma to triumph.
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Would you like your teens to have better manners and show respect to you, your home, and others? My guest today literally wrote the book. Brooke Romney is a writer, speaker and leader of an online community who helps moms of teens and tweens create meaningful, healthy and enjoyable relationships with their children through practical application, education and community. Her goal is for every family to feel confident and connected. The mother of four boys ages tween to adult, Brooke knows parenting perfection isn’t real and takes an honest and hopeful approach with her audience. Her best-selling book 52 Modern Manners for Today’s Teens (Volumes 1 & 2) provides weekly tips to help parents and teens navigate the complexities of today’s world. The follow-up, 52 Modern Manners for Kids, will feature tips for kids and tweens aged four to 12 and is set to release this August. Brooke's work has been featured in The Washington Post, Scary Mommy and Forbes. Brooke and her family live in Utah. Here are some examples of her modern manners for teens
Be inclusive
You attract what you put out into the world
Say thank you
Be reliable
Reply
Work with integrity
Look up smile and say hello
Don’t be annoying
In this episode she shares her secrets to getting teens to actually listen (and not blow you off) and follow through with these manners. Follow Brooke on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/brookeromneywrites/ and https://brookeromney.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
When should you start thinking about college? How do you reach your teens college goals without draining your bank account? How do you earn scholarships regardless of family income? What colleges offer the best scholarships and financial aid? What are the best paths to medical school? Law school? Grad school? Our guest today answers these questions. For over 40 years, DR. KUNI BEASLEY has been helping students reach their college goals. Since 2011, Dr. Beasley and his team have helped students earn over $300 million in scholarships and grants, with students admitted to the top institutions in the country to include the Ivy League (Harvard, Cornell, etc.), Service Academies (West Point, Annapolis, etc.), and Top Tier colleges (MIT, Stanford, Duke, etc.). His SAT/ ACT Prep program has been used in public and private schools in over 20 states. Dr. Beasley was the Dean of the New College Preparatory Academy with 22 sites across the country from Springfield, MA, to Hot Springs, AR, to Palm Springs, CA. Dr. Beasley has a BS from Texas Christian University (Go Frogs), an MBA from Oklahoma City University, a Doctor of Ministry from Tyndale Seminary, and Ph.D. from the University of Texas at Arlington. He went to college 22 years and paid for only one semester. To learn more: https://www.beasleycollegeprep.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Are there any anxious mothers out there? Have you ever been shamed for being an anxious mother? Well, I definitely have been an anxious mom, just ask my daughter. Actually I have never met a mom especially a mom of a teen who hasn’t had to deal with anxious thoughts. Moms are going to worry. the challenge is how to make anxiety useful and not be a constant source of agony. In this episode we talk about how to get curious about anxiety and learn from it. Joining us today is Yael Goldstein-Love. She is the author of the novels The Passion of Tasha Darsky, described as “showing signs of brooding genius” by The New York Times, and The Possibilities, forthcoming in July. She also practices psychotherapy, with a particular interest in the transition to parenthood, and is working toward her doctorate in clinical psychology. Her dissertation research focuses on how mothers experience their anxiety for the unknown futures of their children. She is a graduate of Harvard University and currently attends The Wright Institute. Her writing has appeared in The Boston Globe, The San Francisco Chronicle, The Wall Street Journal Speakeasy Blog, The Atlantic online, The Forward, Commentary, and other places. She lives with her six-year-old son and a very patient cat in Berkeley, CA. Here are a couple of quotes from Yael's article on maternal anxiety. "There is a mismatch between the primal maternal drive to protect our offspring and our knowledge that we’re largely powerless to do so, and this gap between what we long to do as mothers taxed with seeing the next generation in, and what we can realistically do as human beings, is one of the more brutal gifts of evolution. No wonder anxiety is such a fundamental part of motherhood." "We don’t often think about the sheer existential heft of caring for a child, and how anxiety is baked right into it. To honor this aspect of mothering would be to look head-on at realities we all find harrowing: that life is fragile, we never know what’s coming next, we suffer, and in the end we die. Maternal worry gets at the heart of what is terrifying about being alive, and about loving." Learn more at: https://www.yaelgoldsteinlove.com/
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I’m excited to have Hunter Clarke Fields (AKA Mindful Mama) back with us today, to tell us about her new book, Raising Good Humans Every Day. Hunter shares some very practical tips to help us busy and often stressed moms to come back to calm. Make sure you stay to the end of the episode where she shares a wonderful meditation that you will want to listen to over and over again. Hunter Clarke-Fields MSAE, E-RYT (Philadelphia, Pennsylvania) is a Mindfulness Mentor, Mindful Mama Podcast Host, Mom, Global Speaker, and Number 1 Bestselling Author of “Raising Good Humans” with a New Book: “Raising Good Humans Every Day” (Aug 1, 2023). Hunter has over 20 years of experience in meditation and yoga practices, and helps moms bring more calm and family cooperation into their daily lives. She is a Mindfulness Meditation Teacher, the creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training, and has taught mindfulness to thousands worldwide, including a recent trip to Egypt. Hunter presents talks on parenting, is a certified teacher of Parent Effectiveness Training. In addition, Hunter coaches smart, accomplished, over-stressed individuals on how to cultivate mindfulness. Hunter is the mother of two active daughters, who challenge her every day to hone her craft! Her work has appeared in CNBC Make It, Parade, Paleontology, Motherhood Moment, The Hollywood Digest, along with on ABC Portland, NBC Milwaukee, and CBS South Bend,Kansas Public Radio, and many podcasts. And as part of her self-care, Hunter likes to do Scottish country dancing. Learn more about Hunter at https://MindfulMamaMentor.com Follow Hunter on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/mindfulmamamentor/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Have you ever thought, "What was my teen thinking?" In this episode, we explore the upside and downside of the teenage brain. I interview a knowledgeable and fellow therapist who is a parent to teens and is a therapist to teens. She is also an author and wrote Your Amazing Teen Brain which is written for teens but is good for moms as well. If you have a teen that can get lost in big feelings and get caught in negative automatic thoughts this book will help them understand their brain and give them tools to change their brain in a positive way. Her book is full of interesting research like how teens can increase their IQ through effortful work. Let me introduce you to Elisa Nebolsine. In addition to her clinical work, Elisa serves as an adjunct faculty at the Beck Institute in Philadelphia, and at Catholic University’s graduate school of social work. Additionally, Elisa teaches and consults on cognitive behavioral therapy and clinical practice with children and adolescents both locally and nationally. Elisa earned her master’s degree in clinical social work from Smith College, and she has been working with kids, teens, and young adults for the past twenty-five years. She has been featured in publications ranging from the Atlantic to NPR, and has been named a Washingtonian (DC) “Top Therapist” in multiple categories. Contact Elisa at https://www.cbtforkids.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we talk about healthy eating vs. disordered eating in our teens. What are the signs of disordered eating and when should parents be concerned? What can moms do if they think their teen has disordered eating or an eating disorder? And we'll talk about how moms can be helpful and how well-meaning moms make things worse. Our guests today are Juna Gjata and Edward Phillips MD. JUNA GJATA graduated from Harvard in 2017, with degrees in cognitive neuroscience and a minor in music. She is a concert pianist and composer. Gjata created and hosts the health podcast Food, We Need to Talk. She lives in Cambridge, MA. EDWARD M. PHILLIPS MD, is Associate Professor of Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation at Harvard Medical School and Founder of the Institute of Lifestyle Medicine. He has trained over 25,000 clinicians from 115 countries. He lives in Needham, MA. They recently published FOOD, WE NEED TO TALK: The Science-Based, Humor-Laced Last Word on Eating, Diet and Making Peace with Your Body (on-sale July 11, 2023 from St. Martin’s Press). In Juna’s own words, “I want this book to be the book I wish I had at eighteen before I started all the crazy diets and plans. I want it to communicate the basics of nutrition, exercise, fat loss, metabolism and health – all the things that I thought were not well understood and largely out of my control.” Perfect for fans of the Maintenance Phase podcast, Food, We Need to Talk provides all the information, and more, for readers to make informed decisions about their health journeys, whether their goal is looking, feeling, or living better. Find out more at: https://www.foodweneedtotalk.com/about Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foodweneedtotalk/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Part of being a good therapist is being a good listener and providing a safe place for moms to open up and tell me their truth. Moms tell me many hard and challenging stories and though the stories are different there is a common thread. It's not obvious to mom at first but when I expose this hidden thread, there is a sense of being seen and relief. And what is the thread? ANGUISH If you are a mom and anguish over your kids, I want you to know you are not alone. Many moms silently suffer with big feelings of anguish. You see something in your teen that you feel shame about or are worried about. You hide this from others because you don’t want to be judged and it would feel too awful to tell anyone else. So you isolate in your anguish. Here's what’s normal moms---- you can love your teen and the teenage years, you can be proud of their accomplishments and think they are amazing AND your teens will struggle, make some choices that scare you, make you sad, and pushes against your values. All these things cause us anguish. In this episode I define anguish and how moms experience it. Anguish can be brutal on moms. Moms can't completely escape anguish but your can dial down the severity. I give you five practical ways you can contain the anguish and not let it dominate your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do you spend more time connecting or correcting your teen? Do you feel that most of your interactions with your teen turn into a long drawn out battle. Our guest lives her message. Andee Martineau, a mom of 6, a reformed yeller, a bestselling author, and the creator of Connect Method Parenting: a breakthrough parenting framework that leverages connection as the primary mechanism for influencing children. Her approach helps parents discover why their kids don’t listen and shows them the step-by-step process of regaining influence and building relationships that will last a lifetime. With hands-on experience raising her own children (ages 14-23), intensive coursework in developmental psychology, and years of experience in parenting coaching, Andee has been able to help thousands of parents learn the parenting methodology that gets their kids to WANT to listen. Her goal is to help parents stay calm, confident, and connected no matter what their kids are doing, and build strong relationships through every phase and stage. Andee recently published Connect Method Parenting:How to Get Your Kids to Want to Listen to You Without the Yelling, Ultimatums and Bribes. In this episode Andee talks about...
how parenting is not correcting
control the controllable's
parenting“report card doesn’t include your child's behavior.
why I love D’s F’s and bombed tests..
how to connect consistently and choose connection even when you want to yell
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You are going to love this episode. Today we are going to dive into a teenager's emotional life. I think what makes parenting teens so challenging is dealing with their intense emotions. Sometimes you're the target of their emotional storms and sometimes they turn their emotions inward. You worry about them being depressed or anxious. How many times have we brought up a simple request to our teen, but it turns out to be not so simple because it triggers a huge emotional response? Moms can find themselves avoiding talking about important topics because they don’t know how to handle their emotions. I invited Dr. Lisa Damour, the author of The Emotional Lives of Teenagers, to talk about this nuanced subject of teenage emotions. In this episode we focus on her chapter called Managing Emotions, Part One: Helping Teens Express Their Emotions and the following chapter called Managing Emotions, Part Two: Helping Teens Regain Emotional Control Recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association, Lisa Damour, Ph.D., co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast, writes about adolescents for the The New York Times, appears as a regular contributor to CBS News, works in collaboration with UNICEF, and maintains a clinical practice. She is the author of three New York Times bestsellers, The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents, Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood and Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls. She and her husband have two daughters and live in Shaker Heights, Ohio. To find out more about the Emotional Lives of Teenagers go to https://drlisadamour.com/ And while you are there go to the tab that says How Can I Help to get your downloadable bookmarks. Follow Lisa on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/lisa.damour/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What does an emotionally intelligent teen look like? Can you teach your teens to be more emotionally intelligent? Why are self-awareness, self-regulation, and awareness of others foundational for emotional intelligence? Dr. Melanie is a licensed clinical psychologist and life coach specializing in working with Gen Z-ers who are eager to embrace their authentic selves. With 16 years of experience in the field of mental health and 9 years specifically dedicated to supporting tweens, teens, and young adults, she has developed innovative programs that foster self-confidence, goal-setting, and mental wellness. She holds a PsyD in clinical psychology from Adler University and a master's degree in counseling from Roosevelt University. Additionally, she is a licensed psychologist in 27 states through the Psychology Inter-jurisdictional Compact (PSYPACT). Dr. Melanie's expertise in youth mental health was recognized when she was invited to speak on a White House panel addressing the mental health needs of young people. Dr. Melanie is the author of The Emotionally Intelligent Teen: Skills to Help You Deal with What You Feel, Build Stronger Relationships, and Boost Self-Confidence, which offers teens proven-effective tools for developing emotional intelligence—the ability to identify and express their emotions in healthy ways. The book is set to be released on December 1st. Contact Dr. Melanie at Website: https://www.destinationyou. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmelaniemcnally/
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Why do 57% of our teen girls struggle with persistent sadness? To answer this question I brought in Dr. Orie who is the author of What's Getting into My Daughter?: 7 Golden Rules for Helping Her Thrive through the New Challenges of Young Womanhood DR. ORIE ACHONWA is best known as the health authority for a new generation. She has appeared on CBS, NBC, ABC, Fox, eHealth Radio, and other well-known networks, media outlets, and panels to share her perspectives on various health topics and lifestyle medicine. Thrive Global named her a female founder to watch and she also received a Healthcare Innovation Award from United Healthcare. Outside of the clinic, Dr. Orie is active in several projects focused on the future of our collective well-being. The City of Dallas recognized her with a Community Service Award and she's also been featured in Entrepreneur and Authority Magazine’s Women in Wellness series. In this episode, we talk about some of her favorite Golden Rules for helping our daughters thrive. contact Dr. Orie at plumknowyourbody@gmail.com drorie.com
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As we approach January we are starting to think about healthy habits for the new year. Our guest today has a habit that I want to master in the new year. Dr. Mike Rucker is the author of the upcoming book, The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life available January 23. I think this is a perfect podcast to be released in the holiday season. How about starting this fun habit during the holidays. Dr. Mike Rucker is an organizational psychologist, behavioral scientist, and charter member of the International Positive Psychology Association. He has been academically published in publications like the International Journal of Workplace Health Management. His ideas about fun and health have been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, Fast Company, Psychology Today, Forbes, Vox, Thrive Global, Mindful, mindbodygreen, and more. He currently serves as a senior leader at Active Wellness. There are so many gems in this episode. Why develop a fun habit? "It increases vitality and makes life worth living." Connect with Mike at https://michaelrucker.com Follow on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/thewonderoffun Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In todays show we talk about the importance of awe and wonder. Research reveals that the benefits of being awe-seekers is that you are more generous, curious, and more humble. Is the feeling of awe within our control or does it just happen unexpectedly? How do moms help their teenagers experience more awe? Listen as we discuss. Today’s guest is Deborah Farmer Kris. Deborah is an education journalist, parent educator Her bylines include PBS KIDS, NPR’s Mindshift, The Washington Post, the Boston Globe Magazine, and Oprah Daily. Deborah’s work is grounded in the two decades she spent as a K-12 teacher and administrator. She has a B.A. from Boston University in English, a B.S. from Boston University in Elementary Education and a Masters of Education from Rutgers University, 2009 for Counseling Psychology. . Her writing has been featured several times in The Washington Post; she is the co-author of the book Building Character in Schools: A Resource Guide; and she is the author of the picture book series All the Time, which has been featured on Oprah Daily, Slate's Mom and Dad are Fighting and more. Learn more about Deborah at https://www.parenthood365.com/ Follow on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/parenthood365/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Many moms feel the burden of parenting teens is on their shoulders and wish that dad would be more involved in their teens life. Today we are going to talk about why the fathers role is so important. Todays guest Patrick Cummings talks about his obsession with work as an entrepreneur. And how this took him away from his family and negatively impacted his teens. In this episode Patrick tells us how he turned that around. Patrick Cummings is an entrepreneur, business coach, and wealth management advisor who—after giving his all for twelve years to the corporate world—decided to start his own business so he could be closer to his young children and rebalance his life. Patrick has made a career out of being a family man, and his expertise and honest accounts of his own mistakes and triumphs would offer the perfect mentorship and encouragement to parents struggling to balance work and family. Patrick’s new book, The Family-Business Balancing Act, provides an inspiring guide that helps business owners gain perspective and take steps toward achieving harmony and balance in their lives—so their work and their relationships can thrive To find out more contact Patrick at https://www.pnpstrategies.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I bring in an expert who can help us with safety tips for teenage drivers. We want our kids to drive but most importantly we want them to be safe. The statistics are not good for teen drivers especially boys. What can we learn from the statistics? What can moms do to make sure their young drivers are safe and become safe drivers? Leo Waldenback is the co-founder, and head of growth, of Zutobi Drivers Ed, a gamified e-learning platform pioneering online driver’s education by making it fun, affordable, and accessible for all. Waldenback founded Zutobi to help teens get proper driver’s education and make the roads a safer place. Get free resources and contact Leo at https://zutobi.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I was so blessed to interview Emma Benoit. You are going to be so touched by this 22-year-olds courageous story. I was struck by her wisdom, honesty, and vulnerability. Emma has such an important message for moms and for someone out there listening this episode could save your teens life. Emma Benoit became extremely passionate about suicide prevention after surviving a suicide attempt in 2017, the summer before her senior year in high school. At the time, she was a popular varsity cheerleader with a supportive family and lots of friends, but on the inside, she was filled with depression and anxiety, and had never told a soul about it. Her attempt resulted in a spinal cord injury that left her paralyzed but helped her find faith and purpose; and propelled her on a mission to use her painful experience and miraculous recovery to help others. A few months after her attempt, Emma started the website liferejuvenated.org and a blog to share her story and recovery journey, in an effort to help other teens who are struggling. In early 2018, Emma began working on a documentary film called My Ascension, which was released in 2021, that chronicles her recovery journey and advocacy work, while addressing the youth suicide epidemic. Learn more at: https://www.myascension.us/ Follow at https://www.facebook.com/myascension/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What do you do when your teen has been cyber bullied, teased, or socially excluded? In this episode I interview KIM JOHN PAYNE, M.ED., a counselor, educator, consultant, and researcher for over thirty years. Kim is the author of several acclaimed books, including Simplicity Parenting, The Soul of Discipline, and Being at Your Best When Your Kids Are at Their Worst. His newest book is Emotionally Resilient Tweens and Teens: Empowering your Kids to Navigate Bullying, Teasing and Social Exclusion. We explore questions like, What does emotionally resiliency look like in our teens and tweens? and What can parents do to raise empowered teens? This episode is full of practical wisdom. Contact Kim at https://www.simplicityparenting.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I interview Dr. Charles Sophy, author of FAMILY VALUES: Reset Trust, Boundaries, and Connection with Your Child . He is the medical director of the Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services and a regular contributor on the Dr. Phil show. Dr. Sophy has helped all kinds of families break harmful patterns. Based on his wealth of experience as a psychiatrist and as a father, Dr. Sophy assures every parent: “No matter how complicated life gets or how off course your family dynamics become, it’s never too late to hit the reset button and move forward with confidence, love, and authenticity, with your family values leading the way.” For more information on Dr. Charles Sophy: https://drsophy.com/. Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sophyonthestreet/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do you spend a significant time worrying about all things, especially your kids. Anxiety is sneaky and gets inside your head. It convinces you that you are being a good mom if you worry and that you are a bad mom if you don't. It deceives you into thinking that worrying and obsessing is productive and will lead to problem solving. The truth is anxiety is exhausting and is a huge reason we can feel all mothered out. To talk about this I brought in a knowledgeable guest. Lynn Lyons, LICSW has been psychotherapist for 25 years and specializes in treating anxious children and their parents, with a special interest in interrupting the generational pattern of worry in families. Lynn has a podcast called, Flusterclux, where she helps parents understand how to manage anxiety. Katie Couric has also interviewed Lynn, and she has been featured in Psychology Today, The New York Times, NPR and Reader's Digest. Her new book, The Anxiety Audit offers an eye-opening look at the 7 sneaky ways that anxiety and worry weave their way into our families, our friendships, and our jobs, and provides actionable steps to reverse the cycle and reclaim our emotional well-being. https://www.instagram.com/lynnlyonsanxiety/ https://www.lynnlyons.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
If you are married, divorced, single, or remarried, you will get something out of this episode. Co-parenting can be extremely challenging. I have listened to countless moms who feel the other parent doesn’t support them, listen to them and actually disempower their parenting decisions. It's hard enough dealing with drama with a teen but it gets exponentially harder when you have drama with the other parent. I brought in an expert with great practical advice. Bestselling Author, Coach, Speaker & Certified Divorce and Co-Parenting Specialist Michelle Dempsey-Multack is the bestselling author of Simon & Schuster's Moms Moving On: Real Life Advice on Conquering Divorce, Co-Parenting Through Conflict, and Becoming Your Best Self and founder of the Moms Moving On community. Her notoriety on Instagram coupled with her extensive expertise in divorce and co-parenting have made her a sought after coach. Michelle also hosts the popular weekly divorce podcast, Moms Moving On. So If you are married, divorced, single remarried you will get something out of this episode. Coparenting can be extremely challenging and I have listened to so many moms in my practice who feel the other parent doesn’t support them or listen to them and actually disempower their parenting decisions. Contact Michelle at https://momsmovingon.com/ Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichelledempsey/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I was interviewed by Allison Michelle Conlon. It was part of a virtual summit called Best Mom Ever which was a free virtual event with top global experts. The name of my talk was Home Stretch: Delighting in Your Teen Junior-Senior Year. The question that plagues moms junior and senior year is, Will my teen be ready to leave home? It can feel like they’ll never be ready and you’re running out of time? In this episode I discuss how to enjoy these last few years with your teen and why it can be so hard. I explore what is normal for teens before they take off into the world. The content I discuss comes from my bestselling book Dial Up the Dream: Make Your Daughter's Journey to Adulthood the Best for Both of You. If you like what you hear today, pick up your own copy of Dial Up the Dream from wherever books are sold. Get My Free E-Book https://colleenogrady.com/bestmomever/ Learn more about Best Mom Ever Virtual Summit at www.allisonmichelle.co Get your copy of Dial Up the Dream: https://amzn.to/3SbUV6L Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I have a question for you? Would you like to feel less stressed and more relaxed? Do you feel you are on the road to burnout? Todays guest is going to help you find more peace in your life through taking mindful breaks throughout the day. Shonda Moralis, MSW, LCSW is on a mission to help women play big without burning out. She is a Life Balance Coach, Therapreneur, Author, and Podcast Host. Shonda serves on the board of Shanthi Project, an education nonprofit providing evidence-based mindfulness services to children and adults. She lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and two kids, loves to play outside, endeavors to practice what she preaches, and is perennially fascinated by what makes people tick. Contact Shonda at https://www.shondamoralis.net/ Follow on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/shonda.moralis/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
A BIG fear for moms is that our kids will hang out with the wrong people and get addicted to nicotine, alcohol or drugs. Our guest today, Jackie Polk was the perfect teen in High School and yet started hanging out with the wrong people and tried drugs. She quickly became addicted. Jackie can help you protect your teens with very practical advice from her experience as an ex-addict. Jackie Polk is an addiction awareness and recovery influencer who is five years sober from drugs and alcohol. During her addiction, Jackie experienced overdose, domestic violence, homelessness, lost custody of her sons, and more. Today, she has turned her life around, regained custody of her kids and uses her platform to inspire others and encourage open conversations about addiction and recovery. She shares her impactful story with over 110K followers across TikTok, Instagram, and other social media platforms. She currently lives in Oklahoma with her husband and twin boys. Find Jackie on: o Instagram (@itsjackie_polk) o Tik Tok (jackiepolk) o Facebook Learn More about Deterra Pouches at: https://deterrasystem.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is such an important conversation on how to raise our teens with agency so that they have the skills to set boundaries, and know what they want and know what they don't want. This conversation about consent explores all the nuances of a true consent. We address what moms can do to reduce the shame factor so our teens will be honest with us. Dr. Laura McGuire is an internationally recognized consultant, survivor, researcher, seminarian, and author of the book Creating Cultures of Consent (Rowman & Littlefield, 2021) and The Sexual Misconduct Prevention Guidebook: Consent and Conduct for Higher Education Campuses (Fielding University Press, 2022). They were named as one of the 2022 Champions of Pride by the Advocate Magazine and are regularly featured in media outlets for their expertise and approachability. Dr McGuire is a certified member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), and The Society of Professional Consultants. Dr. McGuire lives in the United States, where she works as an adjunct professor at Widener & Dominican University and CEO at The National Center for Equity and Agency. To learn more and contact Laura: https://equityandagency.com/ https://drlauramcguire.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
When teens and young adults struggle with their mental health they tend to isolate from friends and family. And when they are isolated they struggle with self esteem and shame. What teens and young adults and actually all of us need is conversation, connection and validation when we are struggling. Just knowing we are not alone makes us feel better and improves our mental health. Our guest today Lauren Cikara is the Director of K-12 Initiatives at Active Minds. Active Minds was founded at the University of Pennsylvania following the suicide of founder Alison Malmon's brother. At Penn, Alison looked for existing mental health groups that she could bring to campus to combat the stigma of mental illness, encourage students to seek help early, and prevent future tragedies. Finding none, she created her own student-to-student model and formed an organization known as Open Minds. In just a few years, Alison was fielding calls from all over the country from students and administrators wanting to do something on their own campuses, both at K-12 schools and universities. In 2003, the organization, now known as Active Minds, established a national office in Washington, DC and was incorporated as a 501(c)3 organization. Now in more than 1,000 campuses and communities, Active Minds directly reaches more than 1.9 million people each year through awareness campaigns, events, advocacy, outreach, and more. Active minds is about changing the conversation about mental health and therefore changing the culture. Find out more about Active Minds at https://www.activeminds.org/ Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/active_minds/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ok moms I have a question for you. Do your teens, college students, or emerging young adults know How to Money. Do they know how to earn it, manage it, use it and have an eye on the future. Do they know how to curb the urge to splurge. Well today I have two wonderful guests who can help you with teens and money?Jean Chatzky & Kathryn Tuggle, co-founders of HerMoney and the authors of How To Money: Your Ultimate Visual Guide to the Basics of Finance. Jean Chatzky is CEO and co-founder of HerMoney, the author of over a dozen books (including Money Rules, Women with Money, and Not Your Parents' Money Book), an award-winning magazine columnist and host of the HerMoney podcast. After decades of reporting on personal finance—including 25 years on the Today show—she knows that now more than ever, a successful financial life is within every woman’s grasp—and with the HerMoney team, she’s on a mission to help you get it. In her free time, Jean loves running, finding new ways to use her sourdough starter, and cooking for friends. Raised in the midwest, she now lives in Philadelphia with her family and new pup. Find her on Twitter and Instagram. Kathryn Tuggle is Chief Content Officer and Gracie-Award winning Editor-in-Chief at HerMoney.com. She produces the HerMoney Podcast and co-hosts its popular mailbag segment. Originally from Birmingham, Alabama, Kathryn has spent the last two decades writing and editing for magazines, television and websites in New York. When she’s not educating women about their money, Kathryn can probably be found thrift store shopping, teaching a yoga class, or browsing bookstores in Paris. Learn more at https://hermoney.com/ Follow on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/hermoneymedia/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3500 TEENS ・ 2 RESEARCHERS ・ 1 QUESTION What are adults missing about teens and technology? A lot. Drawing on perspectives from more than 3,500 teens, Harvard Project Zero researchers Emily Weinstein and Carrie James bring stories and data together for a powerful reframe of what teens are up against – and what teens need adults to understand. Emily Weinstein is a Research Director at Project Zero at Harvard and a Lecturer at the Graduate School of Education. Carrie James is a sociologist and Principle Investigator at Project Zero at the Harvard Graduate School of Education. She is the author of Disconnected: Youth, New Media, and the Ethics Gap (MIT Press). The authors' work has been covered in Time, the Boston Globe, the Washington Post, and the Atlantic, and they are sought-after speakers on teens and technology. You can learn more at www.behindtheirscreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do you think you can stay calm and parent a teen? Well Hesha Abrams believes you can. In fact, she believes you can "Hold the Calm". Hesha Abrams is on a mission to help people from all walks of life to find a solution when it seems impossible. A recipient of the Brutsche Award for Excellence in Mediation and 2021 Women Leaders in The Law, Hesha is an internationally recognized attorney, mediator and negotiator for crafting highly creative settlements and resolutions in very difficult matters. She has successfully mediated thousands of parties and was an innovator in the mediation field serving on the legislative task force that drafted landmark ADR laws and taught mediation and negotiation at the 2001 International Symposium on Negotiation and Conflict Resolution in The Hague. Hesha recently published, Holding the Calm the Secret to Resolving Conflict and Defusing Tension. And we are going to discuss the secret in this episode. So if you would like to resolve conflict and defuse tension in your family then listen to this episode. Contact Hesha at https://www.holdingthecalm.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do you wonder if your teen has ADHD? Well, I have invited back Dr. Norrine Russell . She recently published, Asking the Right Questions about ADHD Before, During and After your Child's Diagnosis. Dr. Norrine Russell began Russell Coaching for Students in 2009, now a premier national coaching practice for middle school through college students with students across the US and Canada. Her passion for providing support to frustrated students and weary parents is fueled by her own experience of raising two complex children who are both neurologically atypical (her children’s diagnoses include autism, mood disorders, ADHD, giftedness, and learning differences). Dr. Russell knows firsthand the exhaustion parents face as they day in and day out seek solutions for their out-of-the-box children. The entire team at Russell Coaching is committed to supporting the psychological wellbeing, education, and family life of their clients. To learn more contact Russellcoaching.com or call 212 716-1161 Follow on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/russellcoachingllc/ Special offer: Mention Power Your Parenting and you will get 10% off the first three months of coaching. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Can you be a parent of a teen and be at peace? Not 100% of the time. But yes you can be a mom and chase after peace. It's good for you and your teen. In this episode we will explore five ways moms lose their peace and how to not fall into those traps. You will be given four practical ways moms can dial up their peace.. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
40-50% of teens say that they feel addicted to their phones. 90% of teens admit that too much time online is a problem for their peers. In this episode I interview Alex J. Packer PhD. His newest book Slaying Digital Dragons: Tips and tools for protecting your body, brain, psyche, and thumbs from the digital dark side will be released October 2021. . Without avoiding the dark side of technology, this comprehensive reference book empowers young adults to take charge of their digital life and improve their mental health and well-being. Quizzes and exercises guide readers through the process of evaluating their relationships with their screens, social media, and tech in general. Alex J. Packer PhD. is an educator, psychologist, and award winning author of numerous books for parents and teenagers including How Rude! The Teen Guide to Good Manners, Proper Behavior, and Not Grossing People Out. Alex is sought after by the media for his provocative commentary on manners, child-rearing, and substance abuse prevention, and has led workshops and lectured widely across the United States and around the world. He received his Ph.D. in educational and developmental psychology from Boston College and his master’s degree in education from Harvard. We discuss...
Signs that screen time is affecting young adults’ bodies, brains, and relationships
Tips for protecting their privacy, safety, and reputation
Ways social media and algorithms can distort their reality and sense of self
Tools for finding life balance and resetting their screen scene
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In this episode we are going to talk about all things control. I think there can be a lot of confusion for parents around control. You hear phrases like keep your teens under control because you don’t want them to be out of control and then you hear don’t be too controlling or over controlling, or you need to exercise self control And then you have parental controls for everything social media. So I think it's easy to get confused about where you should stand on the whole control issue. In this episode we explore healthy control or monitoring vs being over controlling. We will look at the 4 traps over controlling moms fall into. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Have you ever thought, "I wish I could just hypnotize my teen so that they would . . ." Our guest today Dr. Ran Anbar is going to talk about how you can change teens and adult lives through hypnosis. Many people have negative connotations and misperceptions about hypnosis, Dr. Anbar explains hypnosis is not mind control over another person depicted in many children's and adult movies. It’s the complete opposite. Hypnosis therapy helps people claim more personal power –over their bodies their feelings and their relationships. Dr. Ran Anbar, MD, FAAP, author of new book “Changing Children’s Lives with Hypnosis” (November, 2021, Rowman & Littlefield). is board certified in both pediatric pulmonology and general pediatrics but what separates him from many doctors is the 25 years of experience he has treating children with hypnosis and counseling. He is considered one of the leading experts in this field and has served as a guest editor and advisory editor for the American Journal of Clinical Hypnosis. Dr. Anbar is on a mission to bring clinical hypnosis into the mainstream helping thousands of children benefit from this often misunderstood and under-utilized therapy. His new book is a down to earth guide on how this therapy works, including case studies of children he has worked with personally, with step by step advice for parents on they can take advantage of this non-invasive, painless method of treatment in caring for their children’s medical problems and emotional needs. Here are some of the questions we explored.
How did you find your way to hypnosis after several years as a practicing pulmonary and general pediatrician
How can hypnosis help when medical therapy isn’t working
Can hypnosis help teens with anxiety? And what would that look like?
Is hypnosis the same as visualization or meditation? How are they similar and how are they different?
What role does the subconscious play in hypnosis?
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Do you feel exhilarated, excited and alive? Or do you feel stuck in a rut, bored or even resentful? Does your life feel like one predictable routine after another? Do you feel mired in your comfort zone? Maybe we can take a cue from our teens. We expect them to take risks, try new things and put themselves out there even when it’s hard. We expect them to take action and experiment with new activities. In other words we want them to get off the couch and step out of their comfort zone. We have witnessed them do that over and over again. Maybe it's time we do the same. In this episode I invited Sue Ludwig to talk with me about how moms can dial up their own dreams while in the thick of parenting. You don't have to every thing figured out. You can take one small step and dial up your dream one click at a time. Sue is a dear friend and a sought-after speaker, consultant, writer, and educator. A licensed occupational therapist and certified neonatal therapist, she is president and founder of the National Association of Neonatal Therapists, where she uses a unique blend of clinical expertise, innovation, and leadership to support the advancement of this specialized field on a global level.
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In this episode I talk with guest host Sherry Duson, MA, LPC, LMFT about The Mom Story. Every mom has her own Mom Story even if you're not fully aware of it, but it is still playing in the background of your mind. A common theme of the Mom Story is "Am I a good mom or a bad mom?" Typically, when your daughter leaves home and you feel her absence, is when you start to become aware of the first draft of the Mom Story . The first draft tends to be full of negative emotions. This is when the resentments and disappointments surface from your years of mothering. The first draft is when you feel you lost more than you gained by being a mom. It's when you admit to yourself that parenting is/was hard. The good news is that the first draft is just part of the story. You don't want to get stuck in the first draft because you will be stuck in negative emotions. This is not good for you or for your relationships with your teens and family. To become aware of you first draft story takes courage, self-reflection and some soul-searching. Now that you have your first draft you want to integrate that into the second draft of the Mom Story which is a more complete and conscious story. The second draft takes a new set of eyes but you'll find that you have actually gained more than you have lost by being a mother. Too often our Mom Story is tossed about on the turbulent waves of life and our teens turbulent emotions. In other words we feel dependent on our family to shape our Mom Story. Often we are waiting for validation and appreciation. It's time to not be dependent on anyone else to shape your story. It's time to own your story. Your Mom Story is so important because it shapes how you feel about yourself and how you feel about your relationships and it determines your future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I interview Cara Kalf, who is a writer, editor and teacher who coaches high-schoolers to write their best college application essays and get ready for the top-tier schools they plan to attend. For more advice on writing, admissions, and academic success, check out carakalf.com. Questions we address are: What is the best way to get organized and get started on applications?
How do you avoid writer's block when it comes to writing your essays?
How to help teens that are completely overwhelmed and don’t think there is anything special about their life.
What are schools looking for in an essay? What are schools not looking for?
What should students consider in writing supplemental essays?
What are some traps that moms fall into when trying to help their teens with college applications.
What is your best piece of advice for moms who are trying to motivate teens with their college applications.
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In this episode I brought back my friend and therapist colleague Sherry Duson back as guest host where we discuss how to turn a hard conversation into a healing conversation with your teen or young adult. "Sherry Duson is a Texas and an Arizona Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice, and the Founder and Director of The Center for Postpartum Family Health in Houston, Texas. Since 1999 she has focused her practice on helping new mothers and the needs of young families. In 2014, she opened the Center for Postpartum Family Health, using therapists training under her supervision, to provide services on a sliding scale to the community. But before we dive into that I want to read you a story from the last chaper of Dial up the Dream which is called the choice Sherry and I dive into Chapter 7 Healing Conversations in my book Dial Up the Dream. Healing conversations rarely begin as healing conversations they start as hard conversations. In this episode I discuss the Six Keys to a Healing Conversation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In a world where tweens and teens prefer online communication over face-to-face communication, basic social skills are not being learned. My guest today Catherine Newman is the author of What Can I Say: A Kid's Guide to Super-Useful Social Skills to Help You Get Along and Express Yourself. Middle school is an essential time to learn and practice social skills, including how to get along with others, talk about hard things, be an ally, and a good friend. In What Can I Say?, Catherine Newman, provides supportive guidance to help kids establish or and maintain meaningful relationships with friends, teachers, family members, and others in their communities. Catherine Newman is the author of the award-winning bestseller How to Be a Person, as well as two parenting memoirs: Waiting for Birdy and Catastrophic Happiness, and a middle-grade novel, One Mixed-Up Night. She is also the co-author of Stitch Camp. Newman is the etiquette columnist for Real Simple magazine and the editor of the James Beard Award-winning kids’ cooking magazine ChopChop. Newman lives in Amherst, Massachusetts, with her family. Visit Catherine at catherinenewmanwriter.com. Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/catherinewman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode is all about safety and security. Safety expert and former scientist, Cathy Pedrayes is best known to her 2.3 million TikTok followers as the “mom friend.” With her signature blue dress and pearls, Cathy's content includes clever safety tips, such as how sleeping with a door closed can save a life and go-to lies for awkward situations and what not to post and what to do when strangers approach you or knock on your door. Cathy’s safety life hacks have been covered by Good Morning America, Buzzfeed, Today, and more, as well as in her new book published by Simon & Schuester, The Mom Friend Guide to Everyday Safety and Security: Tips From the Practical One in Your Squad. We also discuss. . . What are 5 seemingly innocent questions that strangers use to take advantage of you? What should teens know about protecting themselves in their dorm or apartment? What are the top apps to ease worried parents’ minds?
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In this episode I share highlights from my Dial Up the Dream Event and share the "Why" of my new bestselling book, Dial Up the Dream: Make Your Daughter's Journey to Adulthood the Best for Both of You. I also interview four amazing, authentic and knowledgeable women about their experience mothering emerging young adult daughters. Neha Gupta, author and founder of College Shortcuts. Sherry Duson, who is a Texas and an Arizona Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice, and the Founder and Director of The Center for Postpartum Family Health in Houston, Texas. Ann McKittrick, parenting coach, early childhood educator, and founder of Nurtured Noggins, Sue Ludwig, Author of Tiny Humans Big Lessons, President & Founder of the National Association of Neonatal Therapists (NANT), Sherry, Ann and Sue share the good, the gold and the challenges of parenting a late teen to early twenties daughter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I am talking to Cai Graham from Northern Ireland. Cai has been a teen mentor for decades. She shares some great practical advice for us today including the 3 questions that improve communications with your teens by speaking less and learning more. BIO: Known for being able to help teens get their spark back within three sessions, Cai Graham is a UK-based Master Teen Mentor with three decades of experience as a mom and Master Practitioner in NLP, hypnotherapy, and coaching. She goes straight to the heart of the issue and brings a side of humor to lighten difficult subjects. Cai is a podcaster, international speaker, and Amazon #1 best-selling author of The Teen Toolbox. Her mission is to help parents to support their children so that together they can build a mentally healthier and happier generation of young people. Three tools from The Teen Toolbox Box Breathing : Calming the chaos in your head : www.caigraham.com/boxbreathing Brain Dumping : Prioritising tasks to avoid overwhelm : www.caigraham.com/brain-dumping 3 Questions : Opening up the dialogue with your teen : www.caigraham.com/threequestions Learn more about Cai at https://www.caigraham.com/ Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/caigraham/
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Okay this is a very special podcast to me. Instead of me interviewing a guest, I’m going to be the one interviewed. If you have been listening to my podcasts for the last twelve weeks you know that I have written a new book called, Dial Up the Dream: Make your Daughter's Journey to Adulthood the Best for Both of You for moms of daughters from 17 to 25. Well, in this episode my friend and colleague, Sherry Duson will be interviewing me. Sherry Duson is a Texas and an Arizona Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice, and the Founder and Director of The Center for Postpartum Family Health in Houston, Texas. Since 1999 she has focused her practice on helping new mothers and the needs of young families. In 2014, she opened the Center for Postpartum Family Health, using therapists training under her supervision, to provide services on a sliding scale to the community. Sherry did a great job of interviewing me. You will enjoy listening to a couple of seasoned therapists who have lived (and living) through these emerging adult years with our own daughter's. We get real! Dial up the Dream is launching May 3rd, 2022. You can order it anywhere books are sold. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I interview Dr. Robyn Graham author of You, Me, and Anxiety: Take Action Over Anxiety to Enjoy Being you. Do you ever wonder what it might be like to not feel anxious all the time? The good news is you no longer have to feel alone and isolated. You me and anxiety helps you identify anxiety, recognize its symptoms, and take intentional action to manage and overcome it so that it no longer has a negative grip on your life. This book does not promise that overcoming and managing anxiety will be easy, but it will show you that you have the ability and tools to navigate through it. Dr. Robyn Graham is an anxious introvert on a mission to help teen girls go from feeling anxious to relentless by sharing her life-long journey with anxiety and the tools and resources that helped her not only survive but thrive. As a clinical pharmacist, professional photographer, brand strategist, and business coach, Robyn has witnessed both the clinical and social complications of anxiety and how it holds people, especially girls and women, back from achieving their goals and dreams. Robyn is a mom to Joshua, Samuel, and Grace, wife to Dr. John Graham, dog mom to Stella and Kona, and a daughter, sister, aunt, and friend. This is her first book. You can follow Dr. Graham on the following social media channels: · Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/therobyngraham · Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therobyngraham · Twitter: https://twitter.com/therobyngraham · LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/therobyngraham Contact Robyn at https://therobyngraham.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I interview Cathy Cassani Adams about her new book, Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World. We discuss what it means to have a Zen Mindset when parenting. There is so much wisdom in this episode like, "Kids don't learn kindness because we shamed them into it. True Kindness needs to be experienced and felt--ideally with their parents." Cathy Cassani Adams. Cathy Cassani Adams, LCSW, co-hosts the Zen Parenting Radio podcast and is co-founder of the annual Zen Parenting Conference. She is a social worker and former elementary school educator from a family of educators, and a yoga teacher who is a forever student when it comes to breathing and mindfulness. Cathy teaches in the Sociology/Criminology Department at Dominican University, and she lives outside of Chicago with her husband Todd and their three daughters Learn more about Cathy and her new book at https://zenparentingradio.com/ Follow on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/zenparentingradio/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
“Even mothers who hit all the marks may not be well or on a good path. For this reason, we need to talk about a mom’s inner life. We need safe places to process our struggles and needs, friends who listen and empathize, and healthy conversations that move us forward so we can genuinely thrive.” Kari Kampakis In this episode I interview Kari about her new book, More Than a Mom: How Prioritizing Your Wellness Helps You (and Your Family) Thrive. Kari Kampakis is an author, speaker, and podcaster from Birmingham, Alabama. Her newest book which we are going to talk about in this episode is, More Than a Mom: How Prioritizing Your Wellness Helps You (and Your Family) Thrive, Her book was just released on April 5, 2022. Her other books, Love Her Well: 10 Ways to Find Joy and Connection with Your Teenage Daughter, 10 Ultimate Truths Girls Should Know and Liked: Whose Approval Are You Living For, have been used widely across the country for small groups studies. Kari’s work has been featured on Today show, Today Parents, and Focus on the Family, Kari also hosts the Girl Mom podcast. Kari and her husband, Harry, have four daughters and a dog named Lola. Join Kari on Instagram, Facebook, and the Girl Mom Podcast, or visit karikampakis.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Staying grounded is one of the best ways to dial down the drama. However for most moms "staying grounded” is not on the top of your daily to do list. It probably is not on your list at all. What do I mean by being grounded.? (You may call it centered or anchored) It's when you are deeply rooted in yourself, in your clarity, in your values, in your spirituality and faith. And when you are rooted you are not preoccupied, you are present to the world around you and yourself. Being grounded is like a strong oak tree with deep deep roots. Even when hurricane winds of drama start to blow the tree remains stable . It might lose some leaves or some twigs but it stands strong even in the worst of storms...even adolescent storms. Another metaphor for being grounded is being anchored. Again you stay steady even though there is turbulence all around you. It’s very challenging for moms to stay grounded. And here's why. Because everyone is pulling for our attention. In this podcast I will give you practical ways to stay grounded. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Does your teen frequently get angry? In this episode, we talk about what anxiety-driven anger looks like in our teens. Kelsey Torgerson Dunn, MSW, LCSW, specializes in anxiety and anger management therapy for kids, teens, and college students. She opened her group practice, Compassionate Counseling St. Louis, in early 2017. She practices cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindfulness skills, and often finds that just having someone on your side is the most helpful part of counseling. Kelsey recently published When Anxiety Makes You Angry written for teens. “Using a proven-effective approach rooted in evidence-based cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), When Anxiety Makes You Angry will help you identify the anxiety beneath your anger, accept difficult emotions—rather than fighting or trying to ignore them—and learn healthy coping and self-regulation skills to help you find emotional balance. You’ll also discover how to “train your brain” to stop and think before reacting; and how to choose calm over chaos when faced with the things that trigger your anxiety or anger. To learn more contact Kelsey at https://www.kelseytorgersondunn.com/ Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/counselingwithkelsey/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The episode today is hard to hear but very important. It reminds us that the daily battle over the phone and internet are worth it because our teens (especially girls) are being stalked. Our guests today are Andrea Perry and Jeff Keith they both work at Guardian Group and are both committed to reducing human trafficking. What was eye opening for me is that human trafficking isn’t just stealing your daughter away from your home, it can happen in your home on the internet. Our teens don’t just need us to monitor the time they are online, they also need to be monitored about what they are doing and who they are talking to. In this episode we talk about the important conversations you can have with your teens to keep them safe. Andrea Perry received her degree in Psychology from California Polytechnic State University in 2009. Post college her efforts were focused in the adolescent counseling sector, working with youth in multiple different capacities. in 2015, she was introduced to Guardian Group and the efforts to prevent and disrupt trafficking. With a passion to make a difference in this world and help young people she began volunteering and later joined the team full time. Jeff Keith started his anti-trafficking work in 2004 while working with global anti-human trafficking organizations and researching best practices in the fight against human trafficking in the United States. During his research, Jeff recognized an opportunity to significantly reduce human trafficking in the United States by providing focused training, directed networking, better resource coordination and innovative anti-trafficking technology, and thereby founded Guardian Group. To find out more go to https://guardiangroup.org/ Follow on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guardiangroupus/
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How do we help boys develop positive body image? In this episode I interview Dr Charlotte Markey, a leading body image expert for close to three decades. While body image concerns have traditionally been considered a female-centric issue, recent research suggests that 75% of adolescent boys are dissatisfied with their bodies. Now more than ever, boys are facing the same competing pressures: to look a certain way, to wear the right clothes and shoes, to be strong and muscular, and on the mental health side, to hide their feelings and worries from others. That’s why the author of The Body Image Book for Girls tackles the subject for boys in a new book, Being You: The Body Image Book for Boys, which Cambridge University Press will publish on April 7, 2022, and I urge you to schedule an interview. Charlotte Markey, Ph.D., is one of the world’s leading experts in body image research, having studied all things body image, eating behavior, and weight management for close to three decades. A professor of psychology and founding director of the Health Sciences Center at Rutgers University, she is passionate about helping people develop a positive perception of their bodies. The author of The Body Image Book for Girls: Love Yourself and Grow Up Fearless, Dr. Markey will release her latest book, BEING YOU: The Body Image Book for Boys, from Cambridge University Press in April 2022. Her previous publications include Smart People Don’t Diet: How the Latest Science Can Help You Lose Weight Permanently, which Scientific American praised as “possibly the best book about weight loss ever written,” and Body Positive: Understanding and Improving Body Image in Science and Practice, co-edited with Drs. Elizabeth Daniels and Meghan Gillen. To learn more about Dr. Charlotte Markey go to: https://markey.camden.rutgers.edu/ Follow on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/char_markey/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I have a great conversation with Lisa Hinkelman, author of Girls Without Limits: Helping Girls Succeed in Relationships, Academics, Careers, and Life. Lisa has recently released her second edition of Girls Without Limits, Her first edition was published in 2013. Lisa and I talk about how much has changed for girls in the past ten years. Lisa raised a very important question. "What skills does a girl need to not have sex with someone she doesn't want to have sex with.? or "What skills does a girl need to not send a nude picture?" Lisa stated that it's not a "character deficit it's a skills deficit." Girls need to be taught concrete and discrete skills like being able to stand up for herself, setting boundaries ahead of time, know how to enforce that boundary verbally and physically, knowing who to talk to when she needs support, knowing how to deal with coercion, and when to end or leave a situation. Lisa Hinkelman, PhD, is the founder and CEO of Ruling Our eXperiences, Inc. (ROX). She is a counselor, educator, researcher and author. Hinkelman's work for the past fifteen years has focused on the critical issues impacting girls and how schools, parents and educators can effectively support and encourage girls' interpersonal, educational and career growth. Previously, as a Counselor Education faculty member at The Ohio State University, her teaching and scholarly research focused on social and emotional learning, non-academic barriers that impact learning and girls' self-concept development. She was selected as a Nominated Changemaker for The White House United State of Women, Smart Business CEO of the Year and is a Draper Richards Kaplan Social Entrepreneur Fellow. Contact Lisa at https://rulingourexperiences.com/ Follow Lisa at https://www.instagram.com/rulingourexperiences/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we discuss Everyday Resiliency which is so needed after all we have gone through in the past couple of years. Dr. Robyne and I have a heartfelt discussion about how life is hard but that we and our teens can tap into everyday resiliency and rise up. This interview is all about hope and practical tips on how to raise resilient teens. About Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe Described as one of the most sought-after, engaging, thought-provoking, and truly transformative international speakers and scholars in her field, Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe is a multi-award-winning education and psychology instructor and resiliency expert. She specializes in navigating stress and change, personal wellness in the workplace, and optimal performance – both personal and organizational. In her speaking and teaching work, Dr. Robyne offers us accessible and practical strategies grounded in global case study research that help to foster and cultivate resiliency within ourselves and others. Robyne is the author of Calm Within the Storm: A Pathway to Everyday Resiliency. Contact Robyne at https://robynehd.ca/book/ Follow her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/dr_robynehd/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do you feel caught on a hamster wheel running as hard as you can, not feeling in charge of your life, and not feeling like your getting anywhere? This episode will help you gain control of your life moment by moment and will help you slow down the hamster wheel. In this episode, I interview Sue Ludwig a sought-after speaker, consultant, writer, and educator. A licensed occupational therapist and certified neo-natal therapist, she is president and founder of the National Association of Neonatal Therapists, where she uses a unique blend of clinical expertise, innovation, and leadership to support the advancement of this specialized field on a global level. Sue is the media expert in neonatal therapy for the American Occupational Therapy Association, a member of the steering committee for the National Coalition for Infant Health, and a medical advisory board member for Hope for HIE. Today, Sue lives in Cincinnati, Ohio, with her husband and a couple of dogs, and has two grown children. Sue is the author of Tiny Humans Big Lessons: How the NICU Taught me to Live with Energy Intention and Purpose. Sue is an amazing human being and a great friend. Sue helps you get off the hamster wheel and start being a leader in your life one moment at a time. We talk about many great things like, how to slow down the hamster wheel, what our light-blockers are, what's it like to be on the receiving end of you, and how the energy you bring to the home and work matters. Contact Sue and find more about Tiny Humans at https://sueludwig.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Rags-to-riches author and CEO Gene Rice and his high school English teacher daughter Courtney Bejgrowicz, share critical information alongside professional and personal successes and failures to demystify adulthood. They are the co-authors of the book “Grad to Grown-Up” which teaches everything you didn’t learn in school but all you need to know to launch your personal and professional life. There are five sections in the book that give incredibly practical tips to young adults—There are 68 tips to help you excel in your personal life, job search, career, personal finance, and health and relationships—This book provides real-world insights that are often overlooked in formal education. GENE RICE is a leading executive retained recruiter, placing over 1000 executives while building one of the largest search firms in the world. He is also chairman of Rice Cohen International, and co-founder of the Plant a Seed Inspire a Dream Foundation, which has helped over 700 kids children pursue their passions. He brings a desire to help others to all he does. COURTNEY BEJGROWICZ is a high school English teacher who uses her passion for literature and desire to inspire others to inform her work. She enjoys mentoring teachers and helping her students find their inner voices. Visit their website gradtogrownup.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How do we raise teens to be critical thinkers so they won't believe everything they read online? In this episode I have a conversation with Julie Bogart who recently published, Raising Critical Thinkers: A Parents Guide to Growing Wise Kids In the Digital Age. Julie Bogart is the creator of the award-winning, innovative Brave Writer program, teaching writing and language arts to thousands of families every year. She homeschooled her five now-grown children for seventeen years and is the founder of Brave Learner Home, which supports homeschooling parents through coaching and teaching. She has also taught as an adjunct professor of theology at Xavier University. Bogart is the author of The Brave Learner. Julie helps us think about self-aware critical thinking. As you know today everyone feels like an expert. Our teens look to the internet for their answers and think they have found the truth. In Raising Critical Thinkers, Julie gives us tools to help teens navigate the misinformation they find online so that teens can identify a fact, versus a fiction, or outright lie? Also, she helps us identify the difference between fact, interpretation, evidence, perspective, opinion, prejudice, bias, belief, story, worldview, and what role they play in critical thinking. To learn more about Julie and get her free downloads from her new book go to: https://raisingcriticalthinkers.com/ Follow her on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/juliebravewriter/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What do you truly want for your life? Are you waiting for permission? In this episode, we are going to explore waiting for permission vs permission granted. There seems to be something deep in the DNA of a mom that seems to be waiting for permission. I think it's because moms can feel that it's selfish to pay attention to their own needs or have the life they truly want so they wait for someone to give them permission. But those closest to us are not mind readers and have no idea what’s in your heart or what you are secretly hoping for. The result is many moms end up resenting their family and their life because they feel they have given so much up for their families. I have invited an amazing guest who has walked the road from waiting for permission to permission granted. Patty Aubery is a powerhouse of wisdom, creativity, and authenticity. She can be your best friend or the tough love you need to get unstuck when it seems impossible. She's been there and done it - from her early days of building one of publishing’s first billion-dollar brands, Chicken Soup for the Soul, to her current role as president of The Canfield Training Group, she has created an inspiring life for herself (and others!) around the world. For the last several years she’s been empowering women to show up more boldly and authentically in their lives with her best-selling book and course, Permission Granted. In it she teaches clients how granting themselves permission can lead them down a path of fulfilling what they want most out of life. Contact Patty at Pattyaubery.com Check out her Permission Granted Course and Retreat at https://www.pattyaubery.com/a/2147504524/wUcLYXar Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Have you ever thought, "What was my teen thinking?" In this episode, we explore the upside and downside of the teenage brain. I interview a knowledgeable and fellow therapist who is a parent to teens and is a therapist to teens. She is also an author and wrote Your Amazing Teen Brain which is written for teens but is good for moms as well. If you have a teen that can get lost in big feelings and get caught in negative automatic thoughts this book will help them understand their brain and give them tools to change their brain in a positive way. Her book is full of interesting research like how teens can increase their IQ through effortful work. Let me introduce you to Elisa Nebolsine. In addition to her clinical work, Elisa serves as an adjunct faculty at the Beck Institute in Philadelphia, and at Catholic University’s graduate school of social work. Additionally, Elisa teaches and consults on cognitive behavioral therapy and clinical practice with children and adolescents both locally and nationally. Elisa earned her master’s degree in clinical social work from Smith College, and she has been working with kids, teens, and young adults for the past twenty-five years. She has been featured in publications ranging from the Atlantic to NPR, and has been named a Washingtonian (DC) “Top Therapist” in multiple categories. Contact Elisa at https://www.cbtforkids.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
An issue parents are facing everywhere: because of the events of the past couple of years, and social isolation especially, is that it's taken a huge toll on our kids - no matter their age. Especially with their confidence So how do we help teens become bolder, amidst the challenges of today’s world? Our guest today gives actionable ideas for parents who are hoping to foster greater confidence in their kids and themselves. Fred Joyal is an author, speaker, entrepreneur, and business advisor. He co-founded the most successful dentist referral service in the country, 1-800-DENTIST. He has previously written two books on marketing, has dabbled in standup and improv comedy, acted in bad movies and excellent TV commercials. His latest book, Superbold: from Under-confident to Charismatic in 90 days, was just released in October. He once beat Sir Richard Branson in chess and was also a question on Jeopardy. He is an avid cyclist, a below-average tennis player, and an even worse golfer. He lives in Los Angeles. Connect with Fred at fredjoyal.com, The fast link to the book on Amazon is geni.us/Superbold. (the capital S matters for some) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, we turn our attention to our moms. Every mother-daughter relationship is complicated and this is true with our own moms. We can tend to reduce our mom to a single story, for example, you can idealize your mom, "she was the best mom ever" or label her like "my mom was such a perfectionist." The truth is that several things can be true at once. Our guest today Dr. Judy Rabinor shares her journey with her mom in her newest book, The Girl in the Red Boots. I love these 3 quotes from her book. “Every mother contains her daughter in herself and every daughter her mother and every mother extends backward into her mother and forward into her daughter.” —Carl G. Jung, MD “We are taught to believe that pent-up hostility is dangerous, yet the real tragedy is pent-up love. . . . The release of pent-up love and respect for our mothers brings the added gift of love and respect for ourselves.” —Paula J. Caplan, PhD "Grief has been my teacher, helping me understand, accept and make peace with the fragility of life, the complexity of love, and the imperfections inherent in all relationships, especially mothering." Judy Rabinor, PhD Judith Ruskay Rabinor Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, author and writing coach, writing coach, and consultant. She offers psychotherapy consultations for individual, couples, families, and mental health professionals. She conducts a therapy group for binge eaters, a consultation group for mental health clinicians interested in women’s issues and 2 writing groups—you can read more about these groups on her website: Judithruskayrabinorphd.com. She is the author of the recently published book (2021): The Girl in the Red Boots: Making Peace with My Mother and two previous books: A Starving Madness: Tales of Hunger, Hope and Healing and Befriending Your Ex After Divorce: Making Life Better for You, Your Kids and Yes, Your Ex . Contact Judy: www.judithruskayrabinorphd.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, I talk about the limits of New Years Resolutions and how that can be a setup for disappointment. Instead, I suggest you commit for the next year to these two words, Begin Again. Part of this is taking the pressure off of you to make big changes in January. I talk about the power of intentions and taking responsibility for your life even if it's only 5%. Here's some sentence prompts. If I would take 5% more responsibility for my life and well-being I would (write 4 things down) If I would take 5% more responsibility living my passion I would… (write 4 things down) If I would take 5% more responsibility for the attainment of my goals I would (write 4 things down) If I would take 5% more responsibility for the success of my relationship I would (write 4 things down) If I would take 5% more responsibility for the level of my self-esteem I would. (write 4 things down) Moms we will get derailed from our best-laid plans. Your intentions remind you of who you want to be and what you really want. There doesn't need to be any guilt, judgment, or pressure, you can just begin again. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How can parents inspire their teens in challenging times? To address this question I have invited Ed Gerety to be our guest. Ed Gerety has been an inspirational speaker to tweens and teens for 28 years, He is an author, and podcast host of “Parents Navigating the Teen Years”. At 20 years of age, Ed established his own business dedicated to helping others develop as leaders and to reach out and make a difference. Since that time, Ed has shared his powerful message in all 50 states, Canada, and Europe. And his greatest creds are that he is a father to two high school students. This is such a great conversation. We talk about the difference between motivating and inspiring your teen. And how to empower your teens to be resilient in these challenging times. We talk about the traps parents can fall into. Ed and I talk candidly about our own experiences as parents. Contact Ed at https://www.edgerety.com/education/contact/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do your teens suffer from technology abuse? And how would you know where your teens are in the technology use continuum? To answer these questions I have interviewed Dr. Lisa Strohman. Dr. Lisa Strohman has widely become known for her advocacy and education around mental wellness as it relates to our digital lives. She has worked with thousands of parents, schools, and children around the globe. An attorney, clinical psychologist, and author, Dr. Strohman established the Digital Citizen Academy, a non-profit program offered to schools with an in-home plan that educates, empowers, and inspires balance and prosocial use of technology. Her newest book Digital Distress: Growing Up Online was just released in 2021. The first book of its kind to focus specifically on Gen Z, highlighting how children, who have grown up with technology as ubiquitous as air, are impacted by the challenges of growing up in a digital world. We talk about process addictions and the brain and how technology can hijack the structure of the teenage brain. We explore the behavior factors, physical symptoms, emotional symptoms, and interpersonal effects of technology abuse. We look at the alarming statistics of teens and pornography. This podcast is full of practical advice to empower parents and teens to resist technology abuse. Contact Dr. Lisa Strohman at https://drlisastrohman.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, we are going to talk about how to teach teens about earning, saving, spending and giving. Our guest today has an amazing tool that will help you dial down the drama around all things money with your teens. Dean Brauer is the co-founder and president of GoHenry, the ultimate kids’ debit card and financial education app that’s mission is to help millions of kids be good with money and offers unique parental controls. Designed for kids 6-18, children learn to spend safely and gain practical money habits through the Earning, Saving, Spending, and Giving features. The GoHenry card is issued by Community Federal Saving Bank, Member FDIC, pursuant to license by Mastercard International. To learn more or contact Dean go to https://www.gohenry.com/us/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode was inspired by this quote by Jill Bolte Taylor. "Please be responsible for the energy you bring into this space." Now I know every mom listening is thinking absolutely my teen needs to be responsible for the energy they bring into my space. You are tired of the negative, pushy, defensive, edgy, angry, and whiny energy they bring into your home. You can try to control their energy by threatening them, but the ironic thing here is often when a parent is in that threatening mode, the parent is usually furious and uses angry energy to subdue their teen's angry energy. A parent's angry energy doesn’t make their teen have good energy, it's quite the opposite. A parent's angry energy won't make their teen be happy or content it will only escalate the anger. You can’t control anyone else's energy. I’m sure you know you can’t dictate your partner's energy. You can only control your energy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
If you are a parent of teen you spend much of your time making sure your child can get into the college of their choice. But then the day comes when the reality hits, "OMG. How am I going to pay for the college of their dreams?" In this episode we'll discuss what parents need to understand about the college planning process, how parents can save and invest for college properly and maximize savings, and what are some of the big strategies to save big on college costs. To discuss this topic I've invited Brad Baldridge to our show. , Brad is a College Funding Specialist who has helped thousands of families plan and save for college with smart and proven strategies to save time, money and stress. As a financial expert, blogger and host of the Taming the High Cost of College podcast, Brad has been sharing his college planning insights with clients, subscribers and listeners for nearly 20 years. He teaches parents the best ways to save and pay for college, including how to find the right school, maximize financial aid and scholarships, avoid student loan debt, and make your children’s college dreams come true without wiping out your finances or retirement. To contact Brad: https://baldridgecollegesolutions.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
You may be thinking my teen is anything but grateful. Teens are definitely not naturally grateful but there are things you can do to increase gratitude in your teens. In this episode we talk about why gratitude is so important and how we can teach our teens to be grateful and thankful. On our show today we have a special guest ERICKA SÓUTER, Parenting Expert and Author of How to Have a Kid and a Life: A Survival Guide. Erika is a nationally recognized voice in parenting news and parenting advice. She has over 20 years of journalism experience and is a frequent contributor on Good Morning America and other national broadcast outlets, where it’s her job to speak to parents across the country about the issues, controversies, and trends most affecting families today. Her writing has also been featured in People magazine, Us Weekly, Essence, Cosmopolitan, Self and WebMD. She received her bachelor’s degree from Georgetown University and master’s degree from the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism. Website: ErickaSouter.com Twitter: @erickasouter Instagram https://www.instagram.com/erickasouter/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
My guest today is Jackie Simmons, a parent who is on a mission to prevent suicides on teens through having “The Talk”. Last May she gave a TEDx talk called, Have "The Talk" to Stop Teen Suicide. Jackie is a speaker, Radio Show Host, International Best-selling Author, Emotional Resilience Grand Master Trainer, co-founder and Director of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society. Jackie is best known for her mission to “Stop Teen Suicide.” Along the way she expects to shake up the mental health industry and challenge the way the world views suicide prevention. Jackie states that we have the talk about sex before they think about having sex, we have the talk about alcohol and drugs before our teens are thinking about alcohol and drugs. So why aren’t we having the talk about suicide before teens are at risk for suicide. Jackie states you want to have the talk about suicide before you think your teens need it. Jackie fights suicide by being an advocate for living. "The Talk" is not a substitute for having your teen evaluated or treated by a doctor or mental health professional. Again, If you have any concerns about your teen, please contact your mental health professional. Jackie offers us a very simple and yet powerfully effective way to talk to our teens about this uncomfortable subject. This could be the most important talk you have ever had with your teen. To know more go to talksthatsaveslives.com (When you go to their website where it says "Where did you hear about us?" write in Power Your Parenting Podcast. Jackie will send you a guide and recorded trainings for free.) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
One of the many concerns weighing down on parents is how to keep their teens safe from abusing alcohol and drugs. It's not the bad teens who are abusing alcohol and drugs. It's not the bad parents who raise teens who have alcohol and drug problems. All teens are vulnerable to alcohol and drug addiction. The ways teens are hardwired especially make them vulnerable to all sorts of addictions. Todays guest is an expert because he’s been in the trenches with teens struggling with addiction for two decades. I love this interview because he’s knowledgeable, passionate about helping teens and he's encouraging. Richard Capriola has been a mental health and substance abuse counselor for over two decades. He recently retired from Menninger Clinic in Houston Texas where for over a decade he treated both adolescents and adults diagnosed with substance use disorders. He is the author of The Addicted Child: A Parent's Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse. If you have a teen who is experimenting with alcohol or drugs then this podcast is for you. We not only talk about chemical addictions such as drug and alcohol, we talk about process addictions that deal with behavior like gaming, or self harm. Chemical and process addictions both are impacted by dopamine which is why it's so hard to detach from the substance or behavior. To contact Richard, learn more about his book, or ask him a question go to http://www.helptheaddictedchild.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we discuss, THE UNLIKELY ART OF PARENTAL PRESSURE: A POSITIVE APPROACH TO PUSHING YOUR CHILD TO BE THEIR SELF by Dr. Chris Thurber and Dr. Hendrie Weisinger. We hear a lot today about how much pressure teens are under and the dangers of parents pressuring their kids too much—and unknowingly creating kids who are anxious and depressed. They say that pressure itself actually isn’t bad — it’s an issue of how pressure is applied. And so we dive into what that means. How can parents differentiate between healthy and unhealthy pressure? All parents want their kids to be successful but what does that really mean? We explore the difference between stress and pressure. And then we talk about how to transform a "do or die" pressure into healthy pressure. Lots of rich and practical takeaways in this podcast , Chris Thurber, PhD, co-author of THE UNLIKELY ART OF PARENTAL PRESSURE is a board-certified clinical psychologist, educator, author, and father with a BA from Harvard and a PhD in child and adolescent psychology from UCLA. An acclaimed keynote speaker, he serves as a clinician and instructor at Phillips Exeter Academy. https://drchristhurber.com/product/the-unlikely-art-of-parental-pressure Hendrie Weisinger, PhD, co-author of THE UNLIKELY ART OF PARENTAL PRESSURE, is a world-renowned psychologist and pioneer in the field of pressure management, as well as the author of a number of bestselling books. He has consulted with and developed programs for dozens of 500 companies and government agencies. https://hankweisingerphd.com/
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Why are your kids so different? Why is one kid so much harder to parent than their brothers or sisters? If you have more than one child you know how different your children can be. And so why is this? To answer this I invited an expert on human and molecular genetics Dr. Danielle Dick. In her newest book, The Child Code, Understanding Your Child’s Unique Nature for Happier, More Effective Parenting she says, "Why is parenting so darn hard? It turns out there is a simple answer to that question. The reason that parenting is so challenging is that all of that well meaning advice from your parents and friends and pediatricians ignores one of the biggest factors that affects child development-genes. Danielle gives us a powerful, science-driven parenting that helps your child grow into the best version of themself. Danielle M. Dick, Ph.D., is the distinguished Commonwealth Professor of Psychology and Human and Molecular Genetics at Virginia Commonwealth University, where she directs a research institute on behavioral and emotional health. She is an internationally recognized and award-winning expert on genetic and environmental influences on human behavior. https://www.thechildcode.com/ https://twitter.com/DrDanielleDick Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we are going to talk about acne. Why? Acne is more than a physical irritation, acne can impacts teens on a deep emotional level. It can undermine their self esteem and confidence. It can be fodder for ridicule by mean girls or boys . Acne may be a cause of drama between mothers and teens. Many of the medications for acne have negative emotional side effects for teen. This is why I invited Dr. Varma who is happy to share his scientific wisdom and new alternatives for treating acne with us. Yug Varma, PhD, is the Cofounder & CEO of Phyla, the world’s most advanced probiotic acne system. He has 10+ years of microbiome research experience including an extensive background in bio-organic chemistry, microbiology, and synthetic biology. Dr. Varma received his scientific training at several distinguished academic institutions, including Johns Hopkins University (PhD) and University of California, San Francisco. His scientific work has been published in many prestigious journals, including Nature. Check out more at https://phylabiotics.com/pages/science Instagram https://www.instagram.com/phylabiotics/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/phylabiotics/ There's a 15% discount code for my listeners just type in MOMSWITHTEENS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I have the privilege of interviewing Molly Ringwald. What mom hasn't watched the iconic films of Pretty in Pink, The Breakfast club, and Sixteen Candles when they were teens in the 80’s. Molly talks about her past, what it's like to be a mom of teens, and how her 80's movies helped her be a better mom to her kids. Molly shares about her newest passion project The 16 Vaccine campaign. Molly is dedicated to educating other parents about the crucial second dose of the MenACWY vaccine. Joining her is Dr. Albert Karam who shares his perspective as a seasoned pediatrician. Star of stage, screen and television, Molly Ringwald’s credits include the film All These Small Moments which was released in January 2019 by Orion Classics and is on Video on Demand (premiered at the 2018 Tribeca Film Festival), an arc on The Netflix series “Tales of the City,” Netflix's film series The Kissing Booth, CW's “Riverdale,” and the off-Broadway production of “Terms of Endearment.”. An accomplished author and translator, her fiction and non-fiction has appeared in The New Yorker, New York Times, Vogue, Esquire, The Guardian, and more. Her translation of the French novel Lie with Me (April 2019) and the memoir "Your Name Was Maria Schneider” (2022) are both for Scribner. Today, she is carrying out her most important role and the one she is most proud of – being a mother to three children. Dr. Albert G. Karam is a pediatrician in Dallas, Texas. He is affiliated with the Karam Pediatric Group and is a Clinical Professor of Pediatrics at UT Southwestern Medical School. Known affectionately as “Dr. Al, the Kiddie’s Pal,” Dr. Karam has been recognized by multiple organizations, including Best Doctors in America, Texas Monthly’s Texas Super Doctors, and D Magazine’s Best Pediatricians in Dallas. He received his undergraduate degree in chemistry from McNeese State University, and then attended Medical School at LSU Medical Center Shreveport. To learn more visit https://the16vaccine.org/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Who doesn't like good stories especially important ones? Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls: 100 Real-Life Tales of Black Girl Magic: which tells the stories of 100 barrier-breaking Black women from over 30 countries ranging from athlete Naomi Osaka and poet Amanda Gorman to singer Rosetta Tharpe and journalist Ida B. Wells. This book was created by Black women from cover-to-cover: edited by award-winning journalist Lilly Workneh and #BlackGirlMagic originator CaShawn Thompson, written by four Black women, and illustrated by 60 Black women and non-binary artists. LILLY WORKNEH is an award-winning journalist who is passionate about impactful storytelling. She previously led HuffPost’s “Black Voices” and later served as the editor-in-chief at Blavity News, where she directed the platform’s mission to amplify, unpack, and celebrate the many aspects of the Black millennial community. Lilly has since joined Rebel Girls as head of digital content and is a Forbes “30 Under 30” 2018 honoree. CASHAWN THOMPSON is the brilliant mind behind Black Girls Are Magic and the hashtag #BlackGirlMagic. She believes in the phenomenal power and skill of Black women and girls. A passionate advocate of the work, will, and wonder of Black women, CaShawn champions their many causes online and in her everyday life. She lives right outside of her hometown of Washington, DC, in Mount Rainier, MD, with her husband, two cats, and the various children and grandchildren who visit daily. Connect with Lilly on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lilly_works/?hl=en and rebel girls https://www.instagram.com/rebelgirls/?hl=e Connect with Cashawn at cashawn.com and on instagram https://www.instagram.com/thepbg/ Check out Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls https://amzn.to/3FecBIL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Has your teen ever said, "I'm so embarrassed!" In this episode we talk about teens and embarrassment Has your teen ever been embarrassed to be seen with you? Doesn't feel good. right? Most of the time teens are embarrassed to be seen with you around their peers when you haven't done anything "embarrassment" worthy except exist. We also talk about the things you do around teens that will embarrass them. In this episode we will talk about why teens are vulnerable to embarrassment and what is that really? We talk about how there is a continuum of reactions to embarrassment with teens and why that is. And why some teens are at more at risk for embarrassment and how that can lead to social anxiety. We end the podcast by talking about the 6 things moms can do to help their teens move through embarrassment. . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I revisit why this podcast is named "Power Your Parenting." What does that even mean? How do you actually power your parenting? A big reason I named this podcast "Power Your Parenting" is because a lot of moms don’t feel powerful. Moms actually feel powerless and disempowered when parenting teens. When you feel powerless it isn’t good for you or your teens. I am committed to helping moms reclaim their personal power so that they are able to empower their teens. Easy right? Actually no. Moms can default into reactive power "force." This type of power leads to powerlessness. There is another way that will empower you and your teen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode was inspired from talking to one of the moms that I coach. In our session she was talking about a difficult situation with her teen and was trying to figure out if she was a good mom or a bad mom. Have you ever wondered if you were a good mom or bad mom? Well most of us do. But it's not helpful at all. Often this is an unconscious process where we obsessively go back and forth. We can even get defensive within ourself. We fear that we are not good moms. So our self talk sounds something like this. I AM A GOOD MOM, it's just I have a rebellious, obstinate teen. If you are in the Good Mom/Bad Mom mindset you compare you and your teens to other moms and teens. Sometimes this makes you feel a little better and often it makes you feel worse. This is a total waste of your precious energy. I call this The Good Mom/ Bad Mom Phenomenon. In this episode you will see how there is a better way, a new mindset for moms that is much better for you personally and for your parenting. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Having a rested teen is a major way to dial down the drama. So in this episode I have invited an expert Dr. Chris Winter to be on the show. Dr. Winter is a neurologist and sleep specialist who has been in the field of sleep science since 1992. He is double board-certified in sleep medicine and sees adults and kids in his clinical practice. In addition to working with numerous professional sports organizations (including the 2020 World Series Champion Los Angeles Dodgers), he is the author of two books on sleep: The Sleep Solution: Why Your Sleep Is Broken and How to Fix It, and the recently released The Rested Child: Why Your Tired, Wired, or Irritable Child May Have a Sleep Disorder--And How To Help. He currently lives in Charlottesville, VA. In this episode we talk about practical issues with teens and sleep and how you can help. We explore sleep deprivation in teens and what that looks like besides being sleepy. And how sleep deprivation can exacerbate mental health issues like depression and anxiety. It definitely will dial up the drama. Dr. Winter talks about how much sleep teens need and how to make up a sleep debt. Also, how ADHD could really be caused by a sleep disorder.. Of course we talk about technology but with a surprising twist. And do you know what a phase delayed chronotype is? Well, you'll just have to listen to find out.
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40-50% of teens say that they feel addicted to their phones. 90% of teens admit that too much time online is a problem for their peers. In this episode I interview Alex J. Packer PhD. His newest book Slaying Digital Dragons: Tips and tools for protecting your body, brain, psyche, and thumbs from the digital dark side will be released October 2021. . Without avoiding the dark side of technology, this comprehensive reference book empowers young adults to take charge of their digital life and improve their mental health and well-being. Quizzes and exercises guide readers through the process of evaluating their relationships with their screens, social media, and tech in general. Alex J. Packer PhD. is an educator, psychologist, and award winning author of numerous books for parents and teenagers including How Rude! The Teen Guide to Good Manners, Proper Behavior, and Not Grossing People Out. Alex is sought after by the media for his provocative commentary on manners, child-rearing, and substance abuse prevention, and has led workshops and lectured widely across the United States and around the world. He received his Ph.D. in educational and developmental psychology from Boston College and his master’s degree in education from Harvard. We discuss...
Signs that screen time is affecting young adults’ bodies, brains, and relationships
Tips for protecting their privacy, safety, and reputation
Ways social media and algorithms can distort their reality and sense of self
Tools for finding life balance and resetting their screen scene
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Is your child disorganized, scattered, forgetful impulsive and unmotivated? Maybe they have ADHD. Today I brought on an expert who primarily coaches children and teens who have ADHD. Dr. Norrine Russell began Russell Coaching for Students in 2009, now a premier national coaching practice for middle school through college students with students across the US and Canada. Her passion for providing support to frustrated students and weary parents is fueled by her own experience of raising two complex children who are both neurologically atypical (her children’s diagnoses include autism, mood disorders, ADHD, giftedness, and learning differences). Dr. Russell knows firsthand the exhaustion parents face as they day in and day out seek solutions for their out-of-the-box children. The entire team at Russell Coaching is committed to supporting the psychological wellbeing, education, and family life of their clients. We address questions like 1. How do you know if your teen or tween has ADD or ADHD? 2. What can moms do to help their disorganized teen get through school? 3. What are some strategies that work for kids with ADD or ADHD? What can moms do? To learn more contact Russellcoaching.com or call 212 716-1161 Follow on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/russellcoachingllc/ Special offer: Mention Power Your Parenting and you will get 20% off the first three months of coaching.
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How do you talk to your teens about consent? If you have a daughter you worry that if she wears that short skirt she could get sexually assaulted. If you have a son you can worry that he would be accused of sexually assaulting a girl. You think not my daughter or not my son. Today we are going to be talking about consent and what it is and . what role does drugs and alcohol play in the overall consent conversation. We'll talk about the do’s and don’t’s of consent and how to talk to our teens about it. To address these issues I have invited Christy Keating to be our guest. Christy Keating is the founder and CEO of The Heartful Parent. Christy is a Certified Parent Coach® , a Certified Positive Discipline Instructor, a Certified Instructor with the Gottman Institute. She is also a long-time leader and speaker at the Program for Early Parent Support, In addition to her work as a parent coach, Christy is a licensed attorney and former prosecutor of 20 years with an expertise in the prosecution of sexually violent predators, as well as an active member of the National Coalition to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse and Exploitation. Through The Heartful Parent’s sister company, Savvy Parents Safe Kids, Christy offers child safety workshops, presentations, and consulting to both parents and professionals. Take advantage of her free resource: Do's and Don'ts for Talking Consent https://www.theheartfulparent.com/consent Website https://www.theheartfulparent.com/ https://www.savvyparentssafekids.com/ Facebook Page URL https://www.facebook.com/theheartfulparent Instagram Handle https://www.instagram.com/theheartfulparent/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Recent studies indicate 90 percent of teens have viewed porn online, and 10 percent admit to daily use. Today we are going to talk about a difficult subject. Teens and pornography. Teens are especially vulnerable to pornography addiction for the same reason they are vulnerable to alcohol and drug addiction, because of where their brains are developmentally. I interview an expert who can help us protect and educate our teens about porn and how teens can recover. Christopher Bueker has provided individual and group therapy to patients struggling with addiction and co-occurring mental health disorders. He is experienced in providing counseling services for parents couples and families. Christopher has recently published his first book, Break Free of Chains: How to Help Your Child Reconver from Pornography Addiction. You can contact Christopher at ChristopherBueker.com Here are some of the questions we explore: 1. How should parents react if they find out that their teen is using pornography? 2. How do I talk with my child about the harms associated with pornography? How early should they start talking to them?. 3. Can you talk about why dabbling with pornography is still risky because of the progressive nature of pornography and how teens are even more at risk with their immature brains. 4. As a parent, what should I look for that could indicate that my child or adolescent is using pornography? 5. As a parent, what can I do to help prevent my child from using internet pornography? 6. How can I monitor my child’s use of the internet? 7. What are symptoms of pornography addiction?
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What is a disintegrating student and how has covid contributed to that? How can this be turned around before school starts? To address this I’ve invited Dr. Jeannine Jannot to be a guest on our show. Jeannine is the founder of The Balanced Student and author of The Disintegrating Student: Struggling But Smart, Falling Apart, & How To Turn It Around. She has over 25 years of experience working with children, teenagers and young adults in both public and private school settings spanning preschool through college. Jeannine has a master's degree in school psychology from The Ohio State University and a doctorate in child and developmental psychology from the University of Connecticut. She has also been a college instructor, teaching psychology courses and freshman seminars, for the past 10 years. We also explore the difference between a fixed mindset and growth mindset. Teens can self sabotage and self handicap themselves when they believe that they have a fixed mindset. In reality teens have a tremendous capacity for growth. Did you know that a teens IQ can vary as much as 18 points in adolescence? You are going to especially love Jeannines tips to be productive and well. specifically around organization, time management, study skills and habits, mindset , stress, sleep and screens You can find information about Jeannine's coaching, speaking, book, and her monthly Some Thoughts newsletter on her website jeanninejannot.com. Find Jeannine on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/jjannot/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do you believe you can feel positive emotions like joy, aliveness, inspired and still be a mom? Well there are cultural beliefs about motherhood that will definitely rob you of feeling good like... • Our teens should be perfect, because, naturally, our parenting is, too, or it should at least look or sound or seem that way. • Parenting causes perpetual exhaustion, dirty hair days, bad hair days, body confidence issues, and endless feelings of overwhelm. It also creates the need for nonstop caffeine and, of course, “wine o’clock.” • Parenting is hard, and if you don’t complain about it or feel miserable, exhausted, and stressed out most of the time, you’re not one of the “good” moms. • Its selfish to take care of myself I need to sacrifice everything for my family Our guest today Heather Chauvin has so much wisdom to share with us. She has a powerful story and has lived her message . Heather Chauvin is a leadership coach who helps ambitious, overwhelmed women conquer their fears and become leaders at work and home. Drawing from her professional experience as a social worker and her life experience raising three boys, Heather created a signature approach to help her clients create and enjoy sustainability, profitability and ease in business and life. She is the host of the Mom Is In Control Podcast where she reveals her most vulnerable truths about womanhood, marriage, parenting, living through stage 4 cancer and running a successful business without burning out. She released her first book, Dying To Be A Good Mother in 2021. Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherchauvin_/ Learn more about Heather and her new book at: http://heatherchauvin.com/book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Can you be a parent of a teen and be at peace? Not 100% of the time. But yes you can be a mom and chase after peace. It's good for you and your teen. In this episode we will explore five ways moms lose their peace and how to not fall into those traps. You will be given four practical ways moms can dial up their peace.. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today we are going to talk about how your teen can find the right college. Our guest today is Dr. Aviva Legatt who has recently published Get Real and Get in: How to Get Into the College of Your Dreams by Being Your Authentic Self. Dr.. Leggat states that it's not about finding the best college but the best college for you. Dr. Aviva Legatt is the admissions expert and founder of Ivy Insight, the gold standard in college admissions consulting for undergraduate college applications. An in-demand leadership and college admissions speaker with a fresh perspective, Dr. Legatt has been hailed by the New York Times as a trustworthy expert on college admissions, and recognized as an expert in corporate culture and diversity as a faculty member for Coursera and the University of Pennsylvania. Find out more go to https://ivyinsight.com/get-real-and-get-in/ Follow Dr. Aviva Legatt on Instagram athttps://www.instagram.com/avivalegatt/ and Twitter @avivalegatt t Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Have you ever had a teen stay in their room for hours. And they were actually doing their homework but it took them way longer than it should? A lot of my parents I've coached tell me, "My daughter takes four hours to get her homework done when it should've only taken two hours. And then she's up too late and doesn’t get enough sleep." Our guest today has some amazing research and practical tips that will literally help your teens extend their brains. . Annie Murphy Paul is an acclaimed science writer whose work has appeared in the New York Times Magazine, Scientific American, and The Best American Science Writing, among many other publications. She is the author of Origins, selected by the New York Times Book Review as a “Notable Book,” and The Cult of Personality, hailed by Malcolm Gladwell in the New Yorker as a “fascinating new book.” Her TED Talk has been viewed more than 2.6 million times. A graduate of Yale University and the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism, she is currently a Learning Sciences Exchange Fellow at New America. And she is the mother of two teenage boys. Her latest book The Extended Mind: The Power of Thinking Outside the Brain was just released. In this book she talks about how we can extend our brains by thinking with our bodies through sensation movement and gesture. Thinking with our surroundings through natural spaces, built spaces, the space of ideas. And Thinking with our relationships through experts, peers and groups. Learn more about Annie at anniemurphypaul.com Follow her on twitter: https://twitter.com/anniemurphypaul Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What did you appreciate about your dad when you were in high school? The reason I ask you this question is to give you perspective on how dads impact our teens by looking at how your dad impacted you in high school. Its sometimes hard to see it with your teens dad because you are so close to it. What do you appreciate about your teen's dad? Or is it hard to appreciate him? We'll talk about the greatest father's day present ever. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
One of the biggest challenges your teen will face when they enter college is self-management. Managing what they eat, managing alcohol , managing stress, managing sleep , managing relationships, exercise and their time. Self- management is everything for the college student without it they don't have their health and they definitely won't make the grade. Jill and Dave Henry met coaching high school sports in Los Angeles and have been working with teens for nearly fifteen years. With every graduating class, they’ve fielded their student-athletes’ concerns about the transition to college. Determined to help, the Henrys decided to leverage their combined professional skills in research, study design, data analysis, and storytelling (Jill is a veteran statistics teacher, Dave is a Peabody-award winning TV and film editor) to create a fun yet informative resource with the goal of preparing all students to enjoy college without sacrificing their health. Their just released book The Greatest College Health Guide You Never Knew You Needed---How to Manage Food, Booze, Stress, Sex, Sleep, and Exercise on Campus was published in June 2021. This interview is filled with great research, interesting stories, and practical information including how to get your teen to read this book. You can contact Jill and Dave at greatestcollegehealthguide.com Follow them on instagram @greatestcollegehealthguide Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Should you trust your teen? Has your teen ever said to you, Why don’t you trust me? I’ve seen so many moms come into my practice reeling from that question. Why would moms be so bothered by that question? It can make us feel like we are doing something wrong, like we are supposed to love our kids, believe in them, and trust them. When you teen asks you why don’t you trust me we need to see the question in context. We need to rewind the video a bit. I am guessing that question is being thrown at you because you set a limit or you said no to things like... You cant have screens in your room after your bedtime. You cant go over to Ryans house when his parents aren't there. So often when your teen asks you Why don’t you trust me? what they are really asking is Why wont you let me do what I want? We are going to explore the concept of trust in this podcast. It's more complicated than you think Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Have you ever picked your teen up after school and said, "How's your day?" and they tell you. "fine." Then when you ask him another questions they tell you, "I don’t want to talk about it." I already know the answer to that question. Of course this has happened to you. Our teens are guarded like castles ,surrounded with a moat of crocodiles and sharks. And you do your best to get them to lower the drawbridge, but it seems whatever you do they just retreat deeper and deeper into their castle. How do you get your teen to open up and talk to you? In this episode we explore how this impacts you when your teen shuts you out. We also explore why your teen won't talk to you, and finally what moms can do to get their teen to talk. The good news is that there are things you can do to help your teen open up to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I want to show you the power of acceptance and how that is different than resignation. When you hear, "You just need to accept . . .", it can feel like resignation, like you are giving up and you're losing the battle with your teen.. Actually the definition of resignation is the acceptance of something undesirable but inevitable. I'm not talking about resignation. I'm talking about accepting your teen. If you want to influence your teen and change negative behavior you need to accept your teen first. I know this can feel counterintuitive to moms. But acceptance is vital for your teens well being and mental health. Acceptance lays the foundation for a secure attachment between you and your teen. Acceptance is needed for lasting and positive change. When your teen feels accepted by you, not only will this improve your relationship, but they will be more open to you and your guidance. Because when your teen feels valued and that you care for them no matter what, they will see you as someone who is worth listening to and following. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
You are going to love this conversation. "I believe that parenthood is like a bungee jump. It’s scary and fun, it makes you fly and often lets you down. This book isn’t so much a parenting guide as an exploration of the complex emotional journey of being a parent, reminding us of the courage and energy it requires as well as acknowledging that no parent is perfect and at the end of the day, this relationship is about connection." Einat Nathan Einat Nathan is a parenting expert, public speaker, and bestselling author of My Everything (Haimsheli in Hebrew) in Israel. She holds a B.A. in law from Tel Aviv University, and is certified by the Adler Institute and the Ministry of Education for Parental Instruction and Group Instruction. Einat has been featured on TV, radio, podcasts, and in countless print outlets, and her second book (Mishelanu) about teenagers is due out in Israel this coming spring. Einat lives in Tel Aviv with her husband Yuval, and her five children Eyal, Yoav, Lihi, Rona, and Shira. Now translated into English, MY EVERYTHING: The Parent I Want to Be, The Children I Hope to Raise (on sale 04/06/21; Hachette Go, Hardcover; $28; ISBN: 9780306924040) provides a fresh, more millennial, relationship-based approach to parenting strategy. MY EVERYTHING is a rare mix of professional advice and intimate personal exposure that explores how to understand that your children are doing what they are doing in order to grow and develop, and how to release your expectations from them for the sake of their liberty to be who they are. Check out MY EVERYTHING: The Parent I Want to Be, The Children I Hope to Raise at https://amzn.to/3tSZGF9 Follow Einat on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/einatnathan/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Every parent wants to keep their teen safe online. But we can fall into the trap of spending most of our time fighting over screen time while spending minimal time on educating our teens and raising their awareness of the dangers online. We need to intentionally focus on having informative conversations with our teens. Every time your child logs onto social media they are at risk from a number of social media-related dangers like cyberbullying, depression and suicide, hate speech, sexting, and human trafficking, to name just a few. And many children are averaging over 5 hours a day on social media! To address these issues I have invited Marc Berkman and Ed Peisner to be our guests for this show,. Marc Berkman serves as the CEO of the Organization for Social Media Safety, a national consumer protection organization that protects against all social media-related dangers like cyberbullying, hate speech, and human trafficking. Under his leadership, the Organization for Social Media Safety has taught social media safety skills to thousands of students, parents, and educators across the country; passed into law essential social media safety legislation like Jordan's Law, the nation's first law to deter social media-motivated violence; and helped develop software and apps to protect against social media-related dangers. Previously, Marc served for over a decade as a senior advisor to members of Congress and the California State Assembly. During his time as a legislative aide, he developed and helped pass numerous legislative initiatives to protect vulnerable children and families. Marc received his JD from Columbia Law School and his BA from UC Berkeley. He lives with his wife and two children in Los Angeles, CA. After a long career in business, Ed Peisner founded the Organization for Social Media Safety in 2017 after his teenage son Jordan was viciously assaulted in West Hills, CA. The attack was filmed and uploaded to social media by an associate of the attacker. Jordan was left with serious and life-long injuries from the assault. Ed decided to dedicate himself to the goal of ensuring that no other family had to endure such a terrible ordeal. Ed now proudly travels the country teaching students, parents, and educators essential social media safety skills. To find out more about the Buckling the Social Media Seatbelt Course or to contact Mark or Ed go to ofsms.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
As you know we have a lot of stressed out teens. Because of stress our teens are having tension headaches. And though stress doesn’t cause migraines; it can trigger one. Today I have invited a special guest Dr. Alexander Feoktistov MD. This was a really informative interview for me. Here are some things that I didn’t know:
Over 10% of our teens are suffering from migraines.
The symptoms in teens are different from how they appear in adults.
Migraines often first appear during puberty.
If migraines are treated early on you can avoid chronic migraines in your adulthood.
Dr. Alexander Feoktistov MD, is the founder and the president of the Synergy Integrative Headache Center in Chicago, Illinois. Dr. Alexander Feoktistov is board-certified in Headache Medicine by the United Council of Neurological Subspecialties and is a Diplomate of the American Board of Pain Medicine. He is also board-certified in Internal Medicine by the American Board of Internal Medicine. Dr. Alex is received a PhD degree in the field of neurology at the Moscow Medical Academy, completed a fellowship in Pain Management at the Cleveland Clinic, and is currently serving as the President of the American Interventional Headache Society. In this episode we discuss:
what is the difference between tension headaches and migraines in teens. Can stress cause migraines?
What are some common symptoms of migraines in teens – and does it differ from migraine symptoms for adults? What are the different migraine types?
In teens, should parents keep an eye out for behavior changes that might indicate a migraine?
Why would drug treatments not be a first line approach for teen migraine?
What are the benefits of using a holistic approach to migraine treatment?
What are some school-friendly options that teens have for controlling and treating migraines?
How can parents help support their teen with migraine both at home and school?
Why is it important to get diagnosis and start treatment early for migraine?
You can contact Dr. Alex through his website www.synergyheadache.com or by calling 773 948-7557.
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If you are stressed out because your teen doesn't know what they want to be when they grow up. You are not the only one. Moms spend a great deal of time thinking/worrying about their teens future and so are teens. What are their interests, skills, and passions? What should they major in? What career are they going to pursue? Teens are under more pressure than ever before to know their life plan when they have had limited life experience. This pressure isn’t helpful. Today we are going to talk about how to help your teens turn this pressuring into exploring. I have invited Tamara s Raymond as a guest today.Tamara is a certified leadership coach and career strategist dedicated to helping professionals reach their maximum potential; and young people get on the right career path so they can make a difference. Careering: The Pocket Guide to Exploring Your Future Career is Tamara’s first book. It is available as a paperback, e-book and audiobook. For more information about Tamara and her other projects, including her coaching services, visit www.imcleaders.com Tamara believes that adolescence and young adulthood are the best time to explore, experience, and eliminate possible career paths. Careering will help you do all three–and get your teen on the path that is right for them! Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamarasraymond/
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In a culture of perfectionism and pressure we need ways to release the stress. I can think of no better way than healthy humor. There is so much fodder for humor while parenting teens and living in these middle years. Today's episode is on the lighter and even fun side. Our guest today helps us take ourselves and our situations lightly. In this episode I interview Kristen van Ogtrop. Kristin is the author of Just Let Me Lie Down: Necessary Terms for the Half-Insane Working Mom. The former longtime editor-in-chief of Real Simple and “The Amateur” columnist for Time, she is a literary agent at InkWell Management. Her writing has appeared in countless publications, and the New York Times bestselling collection, The Bitch in the House. She is a wife and mother of three, but sometimes loves her dogs more than anybody else. Kristin just released her new book, Did I Say That Out Loud? Midlife Indignities and How to Survive Them. Kristin is a very gifted writer who pays attention to the absurdities we endure and names them. She does address some of the challenges of those middle years but in a way that is so real, poignant, optimistic, and hilarious all at the same time. There were many times that I literally laughed out loud while reading her book especially reading her chapter, "When Things Fall Apart." I think it's such a gift when someone can help you laugh at yourself and not take your life, your parenting and your future so seriously and revaluate whats the point of it all. Check out her new book: https://amzn.to/3mpmJp9 Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kvanogtrop/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I interview Jessica Lahey. Her latest book, The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence, published by Harper Collins will be released April 6th, 2021 every where books are sold. Jessica writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Atlantic, The Washington Post, and the New York Times. She is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. Lahey is a member of the Amazon Studios Thought Leader Board and wrote the curriculum for Amazon Kids’ The Stinky and Dirty Show. She lives in Vermont with her husband and two sons. In this episode we dive into The Addiction Inoculation. This is a well written book with engaging stories and loaded with useful information. We explore questions like... How has the pandemic affected drug and alcohol use by teens? What does alcohol and drugs do to the teen brain? Does vaping impact the young persons brain? Is there a correlation between sleep and substance abuse? What risk factors make it more likely that a teen will abuse alcohol or drugs? How to talk to your kids about substance abuse? Also, we discuss refusal skills and exit strategies and how we can empower our teens to resist peer pressure. And we talk about how to tip the scales of addiction and what are the protective factors that outweigh risk. Check out her book or contact her at https://www.jessicalahey.com/ Follow on instagram https://www.instagram.com/teacherlahey/
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In this episode we are going to talk about space and why we all need it: you, your teen, and your partner. We'll also talk about how to use space well and finally six ways moms can reclaim their space. I think out of your whole family moms have the hardest time getting space and we probably need it the most so we have to be strategic to make sure we get it. Everyone in your family needs space, its not a nice to have; it is a core need of every human being. For a family to be healthy you need space and connection. Learning how to negotiate your space while in relationship is mandatory for having a healthy family. 2020 was definitely a hard year to get space. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I interview Dr. Kenneth Bock the author of "Brain Inflamed: Uncovering the Hidden Causes of Anxiety, Depression and Other Mood Disorders in Adolescents and Teens." This book is literally fresh off the press. Over the past decade the number of 12 to 17 years olds suffering from mental health disorders has more than doubled. Which leaves all of us asking what is causing this epidemic. And I know many of you listening have teens who struggle with anxiety, depression,ADHD, and other mood disorders. Dr Kenneth Boch shares a revolutionary new view of adolescent and teen mental health –which I think will be encouraging and helpful to those listening. Kenneth A. Bock, M.D. is a board-certified physician who received his MD degree with Honor from the University of Rochester School of Medicine in 1979. An internationally recognized pioneer of integrative medicine, he is the best-selling author of Healing the New Childhood Epidemics, The Road to Immunity, Natural Relief for Your Child’s Asthma, and The Germ Survival Guide. He has also contributed to numerous professional publications and is an in-demand national and international speaker. Over the course of his thirty-five-year career, he has become known for his unique ability to identify and untangle the most complex, multisystem, multi-symptom medical cases. His world-renowned private practice, Bock Integrative Medicine, is located in the beautiful Hudson Valley, in Red Hook, New York. Contact him through kenneth@braininflamed.com or go onto braininflamed.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we are going to talk about where to see and discover signs of growth in ourselves and in our teens. Recognizing signs of growth is so important to a moms well being. Signs of growth motivate us to get back in the parenting game because it reinforces that what we do matters. But signs of growth are rarely like blockbuster movies, they are not flashy. It's easy to miss them especially when it comes to our teens. Unfortunately one little negative word from our teen can set off a five alarm fire inside of us and blind us from seeing that there are still little buds of growth in our teens. This year especially we need to look for little signs of growth or signs of life. A year of quarantine has made our world look barren and bleak and that takes a toll on our souls it takes a toll on our vibrancy and our energy. I talk to moms all over and what I know is that moms are drained and exhausted . Your mothering resources are depleted. You may find that you get frustrated easier, you have less tolerance for things, people get on your nerves, especially your kids or your partner. Many of you will have some time off during spring break or around Easter. As we enter spring let nature remind you that there is hope and that change and growth are happening. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I interview Michelle Icard about her new book, "Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen: The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School." Michelle draws from her decades of experience working with families to focus not only on those big, thorny topics—like friendship, sexuality, impulsivity, and technology—but on conversations about creativity, hygiene, money, privilege, and contributing to the family. She outlines her family-tested formula for best approaching these essential conversations, the BRIEF Model (Begin peacefully, Relate to your child, Interview to collect information, Echo what you're hearing, and give Feedback) and helps parents overcome some of the most common hurdles when talking to tweens Michelle Icard is a member of the Today show parenting team and NBC News Learn. The author of Middle School Makeover, her work has been featured in the Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, The Christian Science Monitor, Redbook, Time, and People. Her leadership curriculum for middle schoolers, Athena's Path and Hero's Pursuit, have been implemented at schools across the U.S., and her summer camp curriculum is offered at more than 20 camps each summer. She lives with her family in Charlotte, North Carolina. Check out her new book: https://amzn.to/3rqxTeP Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleicard/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Between ages 8 and 14 girls confidence levels drop by 30%. Half of teen girls feel the pressure to be perfect. Girls are 22% less likely than boys to describe themselves as confident. Nearly 8 in 10 girls want to feel more confident in themselves. Katty Kay and Claire Shipman are on a mission to change this. Each of them have incredible experiences as journalists and both are mothers of fifteen-year-old daughters. They wrote New York Times Bestseller, "The Confidence Code for Girls" in 2018. Recently they have launched, "Living the Confidence Code," the book includes real, authentic and inspiring stories of thirty girls around the world between the ages of 8-14. I was so touched by these girls courage to face obstacles, failure, and take the risk needed to gain confidence. This book is upbeat and restores your hope in the world. This is such a delightful conversation with Katty and Claire who were very open about their relationships with their daughters. We talk about what moms can do to foster confidence in our daughters. The good news it's not about being perfect. Katty Kay is the anchor of BBC World News America, based in Washington, D.C. She is also a frequent contributor to Meet the Press and Morning Joe. In addition to her work on women’s issues, Kay has covered the Clinton administration sex scandal; four presidential elections; and the wars in Kosovo, Afghanistan, and Iraq. She was at the Pentagon just 20 minutes after a hijacked plane flew into the building on 9/11—one of her most vivid journalistic memories is of interviewing soldiers still visibly shaking from the attack. Katty grew up all over the Middle East, where her father was posted as a British diplomat. She studied modern languages at Oxford and is a fluent French and Italian speaker with some “rusty Japanese.” Kay juggles her journalism with raising four children with her husband, a consultant. Claire Shipman is a journalist, author, and public speaker. Before turning to writing, Claire spent almost three decades as an award-winning television journalist. For the last 14 years Claire was a regular contributor to Good Morning America and other national broadcasts for ABC News. Before that she served as White House correspondent for NBC News where she regularly reported on presidential policy and politics for NBC Nightly News and TODAY. Prior to that, she worked for CNN for a decade, covering the White House, and also posted in Moscow for 5 years, covering the fall of the Soviet Union. Claire’s reporting from Moscow helped CNN earn a National Headliners Award, and a coveted Peabody award. She received a DuPont Award and an Emmy Award for coverage of the 1989 Tiananmen Square student uprising, and a DuPont Award for CNN’s coverage of the 1995 Oklahoma City bombing. She graduated from Columbia College and later earned a Master’s degree from the School of International Affairs there. She’s now a member of Columbia’s Board of Trustees. She lives in Washington, DC with her family.
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In this episode we are going to talk about all things control. I think there can be a lot of confusion for parents around control. You hear phrases like keep your teens under control because you don’t want them to be out of control and then you hear don’t be too controlling or over controlling, or you need to exercise self control And then you have parental controls for everything social media. So I think it's easy to get confused about where you should stand on the whole control issue. In this episode we explore healthy control or monitoring vs being over controlling. We will look at the 4 traps over controlling moms fall into. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Parenting is hard. So what do we do with that reality? I’m definitely not going to give you 5 tips to easy parenting. It's going to be hard. So what do we do with that emotionally? It's easy to get angry about it, or bitter or resentful. It's easy to want to numb on great wines and Netflix. It's easy to fantasize about escaping the hard and going to a remote tropical island. It’s easy to get discouraged and frustrated. It's easy to feel trapped and cornered, and swim in the waters of, "it's just not fair." And maybe some of you are thinking I pour out my heart and soul to my teen and what do I get…disrespect. . What's in it for me? That’s actually a good question. What if there is something in this for you Is there anything positive or beneficial that can come out of all this?. Can these hard things shape our character and make us a better human? Can these things cause us to grow spiritually and emotionally? Yes! No one likes going through hard times, but if you knew that this was making you a better person with a whole new skill set, well, it makes it a lot more tolerable. I hope this episode encourages you. There is light at the end of the tunnel and it's not a train. Good things can come out of the hard. You are not being taken out; you are getting stronger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do you have a hard time saying no to your teen? Do you have a hard time saying yes to your teen? You may say no frequently because you are scared of letting your teen have more independence and freedom? You may yes frequently because you are scared of your teen's reaction. What you want to shoot for is saying yes and saying no from a clear place instead of scared place.. Today we are going to talk about why it's hard to say no to your teen and what you can do about it. We will explore the top 7 reasons why it's hard for mom's to say no and five things you can do about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is the 100th episode of Power Your Parenting: Moms with Teens Podcast. Woo Hoo. This is because of all you amazing listeners. Does your teen feel accepted by you? Why is this important? A big part of your parenting job is to tell your teen what is unacceptable. Setting boundaries and consequences for unacceptable, unhealthy, risky or dangerous behaviors is the hard work of parenting and is desperately needed. Your teens behavior can be unacceptable, but who they are and their true essence should always be acceptable. In this episode we talk about what it means to accept your teen and for them to feel your acceptance. And how this builds a secure attachment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
After observing moms and teens for decades, I see predictable traps moms of juniors and seniors fall into . These traps dial up the drama, leave your relationship strained and you drained. This podcast will help you avoid these common pitfalls so you wont miss these precious years with your teen before they go off to college. With a little information, awareness and strategy you can avoid the traps and experience everything you hope for before your teen leaves home. This is a hard season. Legally your eighteen year old may be an adult but they are far from it with their undeveloped prefrontal cortex. You are well aware of their emotional immaturity. Your knee deep in the college application process and your teen doesn’t seem to be taking everything as serious as you. All of this stresses you out. You could relax if you saw your teen was being responsible but you don’t. You feel the pressure to get them ready before they leave home. You want to see them being mature and responsible. But you don’t see evidence of that. I have heard this statement from parents for decades. How can my teen be ready for college if they cant even...
manage their money
clean their room
work on their college applications
get up on time
do their chores.
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Would you like to feel like you're moving forward in 2021? This episode is the last in a 3-part series to help you successfully start 2021. I want to focus on how you and your family can move forward even in the midst of a global pandemic and the constant barrage of bad news. Experiencing moving forward is so important to our mental health. You see that clearly with your teen. You want to see your teen moving forward with their emotional maturity, friendships, academics, talents, and accomplishments. Just like its good for your teens vibrancy and emotional health; it's good for our vibrancy and emotional health to see that we are moving forward. Building on last week we want to take what you want and help you move forward. There are three tools to help you mover forward: unleash the power of goal setting, creating affirmations and using visualizations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What do you want? This episode is the second in a three- part series. Think of this as your virtual retreat. My intention is to help you start the new year strong The previous episode we explored what you were tolerating. So that you can clean up the messes and irritations from 2020 and not drag them into the new year. When you dial down what you tolerate you free up attention for what you really want. In this episode we explore how moms tie themselves up in knots around what we want. Often we just say "I don't Know." I give you writing and vision exercises to help you identify what you want in seven different areas of your life. Let's have a little fun! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In the next several weeks I will lead you through a process to get you ready for the new year. Think of this as your personal retreat. What are you tolerating? Today we are going to explore tolerations, messes, and irritations. You know the things that annoy you on a daily basis and steal your I feel good energy. If I ask you the question what are you tolerating? What’s the first thing that comes to mind? Maybe the first thing that comes to your mind is something about your teen, your boss, or your partner. In other words you are tolerating your relationships. Or, maybe the first thing that you thought of is the color of your kitchen wall, all those piles of papers on the table, or the kitchen disposal that hasn’t worked in a year. You are tolerating things in your physical space. Heres the thing. All of us tolerate things we shouldn't, instead of handling them. Every time we tolerate things instead of managing them they drain our energy. It steals our attention away from what we really want to do and what we want to achieve. And if we don’t handle these little things in life we can go into resignation. Like if I can’t handle these little irritations then I can’t have what I want and we feel this at a deep unconscious level. This episode helps you become aware of what you're tolerating and gives you a plan to clean up your irritations and messes in your physical space and your relationships.
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Today we are going to talk about how mindfulness meditation can dial down the drama and help you be the best parent for your teens. Did you know that 47 different studies showed that mindfulness meditation reduces anxiety, reduces depression, increases well being , improves quality of sleep, and improves health outcomes? I have a special guest today that will help us explore mindfulness and parenting. Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE, RYT, is a mindful mama mentor. Hunter is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course, host of the Mindful Mama podcast and widely-followed author of Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids. She helps parents bring more calm and peace into their daily lives. Hunter has over twenty years of experience in meditation practices and has taught mindfulness to thousands worldwide. Hunter has a special gift for you today. Thirty-six minutes in Hunter will lead you in a special nine minute meditation to help you reduce stress. Here are some questions you can explore. 1. How did you get interested in mindfulness and meditation practices. 2. What is mindfulness and how does that help your parenting? 3. Can you explain how mindfulness meditation changes the brain? 4. How do you practice mindfulness? You can contact Hunter at https://www.mindfulmamamentor.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Moms, as you know social media has created a whole new set of problems for parents of teens. I know trying to monitor screen time will bring out the beast in most teens. And that’s so draining to deal with that day after day. Today we are going to go deeper and explore the impact of how social media is impacting our teens. Specifically addressing this selfie generation. And how it's not just about posting selfies it's directly correlated with how many likes you get. This is a recipe for compulsive posting, anxiety, and poor self esteem with a dash of narcissism. Our guest today is not only a wealth of information she is offering you a tool to communicate with your teen about the impact of social media and selfies. Kim Laureen is co founder of Fresh Independence Productions - a writer, speaker and advocate for youth and families at risk. Director of the award winning documentary 'selfless' Kim says being a mom of 8 has prepared her well and lends authenticity, compassion and understanding to the challenges families face today. In this episode we discuss these questions.
Why selfless?
· How the film came to be... (inspirational back story)
· What are some stats you have learned along the way?
· What are the realities you are hearing from youth?
· What did you learn parenting through 3 decades of teens?
· What is your greatest concern?
· What advice would you pass along to parents of teens today?
You can go to selflessmovie.com to watch and purchase via iTunes - Apple - Amazon or reach out directly to book a community screening license or workshop.
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Many teens are preoccupied with body image and girls especially can be obsessed with weight loss. In this episode we focus on health gain. A majority of weight and health issues are caused by unhealthy eating habits started in the teen years. Teens can get caught in that dieting and deprivation cycle, which can be extremely unhealthy. The goal is to interrupt those unhealthy habits as a teen so they don’t follow them into adulthood. Dr. D Nice or Dr Beaugelin, real name Denise Hunter, MD, is an Adolescent Wellness Specialist and has been a medical doctor for over 20 years. She is board certified in Internal Medicine and Lifestyle Medicine and has completed hours of training towards board certification in Functional Medicine. She’s also been a youth leader for over 30 years and a trained youth motivational speaker. Her training in improv and storytelling helps her presentations to be delightfully engaging. Dr. D-Nice also currently serves on the Wake County (North Carolina) Public School Student Health Advisory Council (SHAC). There are 4 major areas Dr. D Nice will address: - Your mind: how you think about food - Your mouth: how, what and when you eat - Your moves: how and when to exercise - Your rest: how rest plays an important part in health and weight loss Contact Dr. D Nice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.dnicebeaugelin/ Website: https://www.wisdomteethinger.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we are going to talk about what to let in and what to keep out. Another way to say it is where to tune in and when to tune out. There is lots of drama, chaos, and fear swirling around our world right now. Therefore we are experiencing a lot of drama, chaos, and fear in our families. Just because the drama is swirling around you doesn't mean you have to let it in. You have a choice. You don't have to let the chaos, drama or fear inside of you. We can stay centered, grounded and calm in the midst of an adolescent storm or a global pandemic and actually enjoy our day. Yes we are living in some turbulent times. My goal here is to keep you afloat and keep the toxicity out of this holiday season and so you can feast on life. I don't want you to miss the feast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How do you raise money-wise teens? Is that really possible? To answer this question I invited Molly Ward to be my guest. Molly Ward, CFP® (Certified Financial Planner), CDFA® (Certified Divorce Financial Analyst) and Founder of Well Lived Wealth, LLC is a Financial Planner based in Houston with more than 20 years of professional experience. When she’s not helping clients take control of their lives through financial management, you can find her throwing a ball in the front yard with her 11-year-old son, late evening dog walking with one of her teen daughters, paddle boarding on gorgeous Texas Hill Country Rivers, playing tennis with a friend, or hosting weekly Friday Fajitas parties. Molly Ward offers securities through Equitable Advisors, LLC, member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advisory products and services are offered through Equitable Advisors, LLC, which is an investment advisor registered with the SEC, and annuity and insurance products are offered through Equitable Network, LLC. Well Lived Wealth is not a registered investment advisor and is not operated or owned by Equitable Advisors or Equitable Network. During this episode we explore these questions. 1. When should you start talking to your kids about money? And what should you talk to your teens about concerning money? 2. What are some of the traps that moms fall into with teens and money? 3. Can teens really manage their money or be responsible with money? 4. How can you train teens to handle money and make spending decisions on their own. 5. How do you keep teens from being entitled when it come to money? Here's Molly's last piece of advice. Give them an allowance that does not give them 100% of what they want. If they want more, they need to get a job. The important part here is getting a job where they have to show up and work. I heard that only 33% of students have a job before entering college. these jobs, well maybe menial are so important to you developing great long-term habits with money. Especially, if you couple it with an Allowance that Isn’t enough for all their wants. there is a big focus on the résumé and the ACT scores, however a job will teach them Real world perspective and be great for the long term and in the short term it will put money in their wallet to buy the coolest pair of tennis shoes.
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I've been listening to moms for a long time. 99.9% of moms complain about their teens messy room. So if you struggle with your teen around cleaning their room you're not the only one. Yes this is not a life or death situation….but it is one of those damn dailies that can drain us and strain our relationship with our teens. So I have invited a very special guest who has personal experience with her own teens and also professional experience with organizing teens rooms. Amy Gardiner is a Professional Organizer and Organizer Coach based in San Diego. Her company, Higher Order, has helped declutter, destress, and demystify home organization for more than six years. Trained as an Organizer Coach, Amy helps clients identify and connect to their big goals, develop an actionable plan, and provides accountability and support along the way. She serves overwhelmed clients from executives to entrepreneurs, busy families, military on the move, and everyone in between. Amy also hosts decluttering challenges on The Daily Five, a Facebook group formed to encourage, support, and inspire people world-wide to live a bigger life with less stuff. Here are some questions we explore. 1. Why did you start the clutter free kid program. go into your philosophy. 2. What are lessons that you learned from your kids about what to do and what not to do. 3. What's realistic for teens? Did you have a clean room when you were a teen? 4. Can you tell me how you would approach helping a teen organize your room? (the process of clutter free kids) 5. What advice or tips do you have for moms who can't higher an organizer? 6. How can moms preserve the relationship with their teen and still have a clean room? You can reach Amy for complimentary consultations by email (amy@HigherOrderHome.com) or by phone. Find out more at www.HigherOrderHome.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we're going to check in with your heart. How's your heart doing mom? Some of you may feel that your mothers heart is just fine. Others may feel that your heart has numbed out. Some of you may feel like you have a bleeding heart.? Some of you may describe your heart has gone cold or like it just feels tarnished. Parenting a teen is hard on our hearts. But too often moms suffer needlessly. WHY is that? Because we take things personally. In this episode we discuss how moms can guard their hearts, nurture their hearts, and restore their hearts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
When your teen yells at you, "It's none of your business." Most likely it is your business! Today's episode we are going to get into your teen's personal business. We will address the question, "Whose business is it, your teens business, your business or our business? The way you define your teens business, your business or our business is by establishing boundaries. If you're unclear about whose business it is, you are unclear about the boundaries and your expectations. If you are unclear about these things, you can’t parent effectively. My goal is that as we explore the murky waters of "whose business is it" that you will become crystal clear about your business and your teens business. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today we are going to talk about all things empathy. Why should you care about empathy? In this episode we answer this question. Empathy is on the decline in our culture and we will look at why. How does social media and out digital world impact empathy? What can moms do to help increase empathy in teens? Can empathy be taught? Are middle school and high school students capable of empathy? What’s the evidence that people can learn to be more empathetic? What is the empathy advantage? We will explore self empathy, empathy to others and empathy to our planet. We have a special guest that is highly knowledgeable around the research and science of empathy and also has practical advice for you moms. LYNNE AZARCHI, author of THE EMPATHY ADVANTAGE, is Executive Director of Kidsbridge Tolerance Center outside of Trenton, New Jersey—a nonprofit organization dedicated to fostering bullying prevention, anti-bias, diversity appreciation, empathy, and empowerment strategies for youth. She is a tireless advocate for improving the lives of at-risk youth in communities across New Jersey. Kidsbridge helps more than 2,500 preschool, elementary, and middle school students and educators improve their social-emotional skills each year. Azarchi has won many awards and her articles have been published both in newspapers and academic journals. She is a frequent speaker to parent and teacher groups, corporations and major educational conferences. To learn more about the book or to contact Lynne click this link. https://empathyadvantagebook.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
There's no way to escape stress right now with all that's going on. Parenting alone is stressful. The problem with stress is that it impacts more than your mind and your emotions. It impacts your body. Being in a constant state of stress response is not good for you or your family. This is more than being drained from all the drama, it impacts your biology too. It effects all the systems of your body including muscles, respiratory, cardiovascular, endocrine, gastrointestinal, and the nervous and reproductive system . When you go into stress response you release a flood of stress hormones including adrenaline and cortisol, which rouses your body for emergency action. Your heart pounds faster, muscles tighten, and breath quickens. You tend to take shallow breaths which can make you dizzy. Stress that’s unchecked weakens your immune system, can lead to high blood pressure, heart disease and diabetes. In the book, Burnout: the Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily and Amelia Nagoski, they talk about two very important concepts about burnout. Understanding the difference between the stress and the stressor. Completing the stress cycle. To feel like yourself again and get your mojo back you need to complete the stress cycle every day. I discuss several ways you can do that.
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In this episode we're going to talk about what you can do to build courage and confidence in your teens. We’ll talk about why it is important to instill leadership skills in your teen especially your daughter and how to do that. This includes from being a leader of an organization, to being a leader among her friends, or even self-leadership. We also talk about the importance of resilience in our teens and what moms can do. And why instilling an entrepreneurial mindset in your teen is so important in current times. My special guest today is Amy Klein. As a former online TV host, Amy will make you laugh until you cry and find a way to make every #momlife moment humorous - even on the days when adulting seems way too hard. Amy has an award-winning sales and leadership background in coaching and managing very dynamic teams.
Follow Amy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/givehercourage/ To find out more visit https://givehercourage.com/
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You are going to really love this episode. I interview Marcia Smart who is going to make your life easier. We talk about meal planning and how this can help you dial down the drama around the dinner table. Marcia Smart is a food writer, recipe developer and culinary instructor based in Houston. She has taught cooking classes for 20 years and contributed articles and recipes to Cooking Light, Sunset, Parenting, The Houston Chronicle and others. On her blog, Smart in the Kitchen, Marcia shares simple, delicious recipes and free weekly meal plans Marcia is not only a culinary arts extraordinaire, she is a mom of three teenagers. Marcia's advice comes from a mom who has been there. How do you put together a meal plan? Marcia makes it easy and has great ideas for meals when you have had one of those days. You can follow Marcia on Instagram and find great recipes at https://www.instagram.com/smartinthekitchen/ You can also find smart recipes, meal plans, cooking classes and videos at https://smartinthekitchen.com/
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Teens are going to be curious, but it's not always positive. Parents can redirect teens toward healthy curiosity instead of unhealthy and sometimes dangerous curiosity. My guest today is Mike Alpert. Mike Alpert is the founder of Cogent Solutions, an educational consulting firm that designs professional development for teachers and administrators. Mike brings private sector experience to the field of education, where he used his MBA to become a project analyst at a wind energy firm before going back to grad school a second time to pursue a position teaching middle school humanities and entrepreneurship and working his way up as a Crystal Award Winning educator to an administrator position. Mike now spends his time empowering parents, educators, and administrators so they can more freely empower the next generation. In this episode he answered these questions. 1. Why is curiosity important? 2. How has it been historically cultivated or discouraged in school? 3. How can parents help to support curiosity at home? Are there any risks to be aware of? 4. What are some offline opportunities for parents and students that might not be obvious? 5. What role do teachers, mentors, coaches, etc. play in curiosity? How can you incorporate these aspects into your kids’ lives in the days of COVID? You can download the Graphic Survey Download for free at https://thecuriosityblueprint.com/freebies If you're interested in the Curiosity Blueprint course you can get a 20% discount when you enter the code "momswithteens" https://courses.thecuriosityblueprint.com/p/curiosity You can find Mike Alpert on social media @heymikealpert for Twitter, IG, and FB.
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What's going on with teens and e cigarettes? Dr. Kandi Walker answers this question. Dr. Walker is a Professor in the Department of Communication and part of the Christine Lee Brown Envirome Institute at the University of Louisville in Louisville, Kentucky. For over 20 years her work has explored the intersection between health and interpersonal communication looking at how people perceive the social world surrounding health issues. Her research primarily focuses on health, family, and interpersonal communication; specifically, her research examines how people talk and behave when an illness is present, how people perceive healthy lifestyles, and how people perceive and communicate about risky health behaviors, such as tobacco. With the American Heart Association’s Tobacco Regulation and Addiction Center, Dr. Walker has researched youth perceptions surrounding tobacco use. Here are some of the questions that we address. ·Is e-cigarette use or vaping an issue for teens? How many youth are using e-cigarettes? What risks are associated with vaping? What advice do you have with talking with teens about vaping? How do I talk with my teen about vaping? There is some evidence that vaping leads smoking initiation. What are your thoughts on this issue? Is vaping safer than cigarettes? What is the connection between vaping and using other tobacco products? What is the difference between e-cigarettes and Juul? Why is Juuling or vaping unsafe for youth and young adults? What role do flavors play with vaping? You can reach Dr. Walker at kandi.walker@louisville.edu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
As you start a new semester, I want to encourage you--What You're Doing Matters! It's easy to feel like what you're doing does NOT matter, because it can feel like a thankless job, you're not getting the results you want, and you feel powerless to change your teen. The truth is what you’re doing matters. You have an impact on your teens. It would be impossible not to have an impact on your teens. A better question is, are you impacting them in a positive way or negative way. I discuss ways to make sure your parenting and relationship matters in a positive and lasting way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I interview Kari Kampakis. She is author of the new book Love Her Well: 10 Ways to Find Joy and Connection with Your Teenage Daughter. We dive into her book and explore ways to speak life and see the good in your teenage daughter and different ways to be your daughter's emotional coach, Kari ends her book with 50 prayers for your teenage daughter and she shares some of her top prayers. This episode is full of sage advice. Kari is a top parenting blogger and national speaker from Birmingham, Alabama whose previous books for teen girls, 10 Ultimate Truths Girls Should Know and Liked: Whose Approval Are You Living For?, have been used widely across the country by teen youth groups and church groups to empower girls through faith. Kari’s work has been featured on the TODAY Show, TODAY Parents, Yahoo! News, Thrive Global, For Every Mom, EWTN, Proverbs 31, Ann Voskamp’s blog, The Huffington Post, and other national outlets. She and her husband, Harry, have four daughters and a dog named Lola. Learn more by visiting www.kari kampakis.com or finding Kari on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter.
Love Her Well book: https://amzn.to/2EtDBFX
Website: www.karikampakis.com
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/girl-mom-podcast/id1504764007
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Does your teen tend to say extreme generalizations like "everyone at school is so fake", "all the teachers are mean," or "I have no friends." These kind of statements can drive you crazy. You think your daughter is being so overdramatic or you think geez my son is so negative. Why does this bother you? Teens often speak in one extreme or the other. This can be called binary thinking, black and white thinking or all or nothing thinking. The problem is this type of thinking is hurtful to your teen and to others. If you teen tends to speak this way, they are not the only one. Actually, teens from all over the world often talk this way. Why is that? The answer lies in Neuroscience. In this episode I will give you practical steps to move your teen past this all or nothing thinking including avoiding the drama traps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Has your teen ever said to you, "Why don't you trust me?" My guess is they have. This usually happens when you’ve questioned what your teen said, or you’ve said no to something he/she really wanted to do. When a teen says, "You don't trust me," it can be confusing for moms. In this episode we will explore why moms get confused when teens say, "You don't trust me!" We'll look at why teens say that and what they are really up too. Should we trust our teens? This is the big question. And on what basis do we make that decision. We'll let neuroscience answer that. Finally we'll look at the best way to respond to your teen when they yell out, "MOM, Why don't you trust me?" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we explore the stories we tell ourselves and how they impact our lives and relationships. We have now lived in six months of uncertainty and this certainly has impacted us. And one huge way it impacts us is it shapes the stories we tell ourselves. Some of these stories we are aware of and many we are not aware of. The stories in the background of our mind can do the most damage to our energy, health and our vitality. We will explore some of these unconscious stories that we don't want and how to become aware of them and turn these stories into something we really want. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Is there more for you? In the teenage years you focus on your son or daughters future. You want them to have every opportunity possible and you’d sacrifice everything to make that happen. You want them to get the internship in Spain. You want them to get into the best university. But at some point this sometimes quiet and other times really loud voice thinks, "What about me???" Are you tired of your corporate job? Do you regret quitting your career when you had kids, because you've been out of the work force for so long? Do your wonder what's next for you? In today's episode I interview my friend and mentor Christine Kane. Christine helps people break through their fears and build wildly successful businesses from their dreams. Christine is gifting you with, "The Complete Guide to Vision Boards," which will help you tap into the power of intention. (link below) https://christinekane.com/visionboard-ck Before Christine Kane founded what became a multi-million dollar business-coaching company, she enjoyed fifteen years in the music industry, producing seven CD’s and a DVD on her own label, and selling more than 100,000 copies. She won a Telly Award and performed with none other than John Mayer, The Beach Boys, Los Lobos, Nanci Griffith, and Shawn Colvin, among many other luminaries. Her extraordinary success as a singer-songwriter had fellow artists, entrepreneurs, and fans asking how she did it while staying true to her art and herself. Those backstage questions turned into weekend retreats and set her on a new path. In 2010, Kane opened Uplevel You, a company that speaks directly to the ever-growing class of sensitive, idea-driven, aggression-averse entrepreneurs (a class she counts herself a member of). After just over a year, her revenues catapulted over $1 million. Among her early business successes was her self-published e-book, The Complete Guide to Vision Boards: The Ultimate Starter Kit to Get Wildly Clear and Create the Life of Your Dreams, which quickly became an Amazon best-seller and has exceeded over 75,000 downloads to date. Today, Kane leads a small yet mighty team at Uplevel World Headquarters in Asheville, North Carolina. Her openness and humor online, on stage, and in writing are what first attract her clients (or her “peeps,” as she calls them) to her and her approach to business. They become devoted followers and enthusiastic advocates because what she teaches works - their lifestyles and bank accounts prove it. Her first book will be published in November 2020. Check out Christine's podcast "Soul Sourced Business Podcast." (link below) https://christinekane.com/podcast/ Check out The Soul-Sourced Entrepreneur: An Unconventional Success Plan for the Highly Creative, Secretly Sensitive, and Wildly Ambitious which will be released November 2020. https://www.amazon.com/Soul-Sourced-Entrepreneur-Unconventional-Sensitive-Ambitious/dp/1950665445/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1C79XHN4IKIYR&dchild=1&keywords=christine+kane&qid=1596394985&sprefix=Christine+Kane%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we talk about a surprising way to be a leader in your home. My good friend Sue Ludwig and I were talking about Dr. Jill Bolte Taylors quote, "Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into the space," and how this quote changed her business, family and her personal life. Sue Ludwig is the President and Founder of the National Association of Neonatal Therapists (NANT), an organization full of passionate neonatal therapists who aim to improve developmental outcomes for premature and sick infants in the NICU. Sue practiced as a neonatal occupational therapist at the University of Cincinnati Medical Center for over 20 years. Sue is a sought after speaker, consultant, writer and educator. She is also a published author and poet. She is driven to improve the culture of healthcare, armed with decades of experience speaking for those who cannot speak for themselves. ' Believe it or not preemies and teens have something in common. They both respond to the energy we bring into the room. We can be the leaders of the energy we bring into the room through intention, pre-deciding, taking a pause, being mindful of transitions, and practicing self awareness. There is a huge cumulative effect on our teens when we practice this and when we don't. At the end of the day Sue would ask herself this very brave question, "What's it like to be on the receiving side of you?" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What is the difference between a reactive parent and a responsive parent? Why does this matter? This distinction can change your life, your family and your relationship with your teen. If you want to create a secure attachment with your teen you want to be responsive and not reactive. You want to make sure you’re responding in healthy ways instead of reacting in ways that are detrimental to you and your teen. No parent signs up to be a reactive parent, it happens automatically. In this episode we explore the 4 characteristics of a reactive parent and how to turn that around. We will also explore the do's and don'ts of responding versus reacting. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How do you safeguard your teens from Sexting? To answer this question I interview two experts. Heather Boynton who is a mother of four (three who are currently teens) and is a professor of Child Development at Clovis Community College where she teaches a variety of classes including child and adolescent development. AND Christy Monson who has an M.S. in Counseling Psychology and Marriage & Family Therapy from University of Nevada at Las Vegas. She established a successful counseling practice in Las Vegas, Nevada where she works with children and their families. Recently Christy Monson and Heather Boyton have coauthored Stand Up to Sexting, An Open Conversation Between Parents and Kids.. I have been a family therapist for decades and have seen many girls who have suffered greatly from the aftermath of sexting. There are so many consequences to the girl, the boy, the families, bystanders, law enforcement and school districts. Most of these girls were bullied into sending nude pictures. Often older boys would threaten and pressure these girls. They were promised that they would not share their picture ...only to have their pictures shared to multiple middle schools and high schools in their school district. Moms would bring these girls to see me, their heads hung down in shame. They were utterly humiliated. What I saw over and over again is that these girls weren’t bad girls...they were good girls, they were naïve girls, and they were scared girls. Many just didn’t know what to do and thought the only option was to send the picture. Christy and Heather wrote Stand up to Sexting so that parents and especially middle schoolers could have honest conversations. For this to happen the teens need to feel safe to share this secret with their parents. You can find Stand Up to Sexting, An Open Conversation Between Parents and Kids on Amazon. You can reach Christy at christymonson.com You can reach Heather at djbandhcb@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we have a very special guest Dr. Anna Tanner. Dr. Anna Tanner, MD, FAAP, FSAHM, CEDS, is the Vice President of Medical Services for Veritas Collaborative, a national healthcare system for the treatment of eating disorders. She is a Board-Certified Pediatrician and Certified Eating Disorder Specialist who has spent over 20 years of her career working with complicated adolescent patients with a special emphasis on treating patients with eating disorders. I invited Dr. Tanner to be a part of this show to talk about healthy eating, stress eating and eating disorders in our teens and what moms can do.. Brene Brown has said that the #1 area of shame for women and especially our teen girls is body image. Billions of dollars are spent in the beauty industry to make us feel that our bodies and how we look are not okay. Not only does this cause a lot of suffering and pain in our teens, but a distorted body image can manifest in eating disorders. This puts mom in a hard parenting position. Moms, we can get triggered when we see our daughter eat the entire box of donuts. Our teens erratic eating habits can trigger a lot of fear in moms. And when you try to talk to your teen about body image and healthy diet, it can be met with a lot of drama and emotional outbursts. Why? Because body image is such a trigger for shame. This is why I brought in an expert who has a positive approach and is full of very helpful information. Here are some of the questions I asked Dr. Tanner. 1. A lot of us are stress eating during Covid-19. Is that something to be concerned about? How should moms talk to their teen girls who are stress eating? 2. Most females have issues around body image. Culture norms and media plays a big role here. How can moms help cultivate a positive body image in their teens? 3. When should moms start educating their teens about eating disorders? What should they say or not say? 4. When should moms be concerned about their teens eating habits? What are the red flags? 5. What should a mom do when she sees these warning signs in her teen. What are her options for treatment? If you want to reach out to Dr. Tanner you can call 855-875-5812 or go to admissions@veritascollaborative.com or veritascollaborative.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What is novelty? Anything that’s new, different, or unusual that gets our attention. Novelty happens naturally for our teens during a normal year with school activities, programs, dances and musicals, soccer games, graduation dances, parties and interacting with hundreds of teens in a day. Also novelty happens naturally in the summer with camps, vacations, work, mission trips, internships and foreign exchange programs. However, because we are still in the middle of a pandemic and many are still shelter-in-place, our favorite things to do and go to places are shut down. We are experiencing a lack of novelty. We are seeing the same people, in the same place, and doing the same things over and over again. Teens need novelty. This is hardwired in the teen's brain. In this episode I talk about the science behind novelty. Basically, novelty gives us the reward of Dopamine, the feel good chemical in our brain. Teens especially crave novelty, which leads them to seek out thrill-seeking-behaviors. There is an upside to this and a downside to this. Here's the challenge. Many camps and programs have been cancelled this summer. Teens are disappointed and are bored. Many teens don't have a reason to go to sleep or wake up in the morning. In this episode I explore how to create positive novel experiences for you and your teen in the middle of this pandemic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Summer is here! How do you feel? Are you excited, relieved, or more stressed? The moms I have talked to feel let down because many of their plans have been cancelled. Recently I talked to a couple that looked forward to going to Hawaii every other year and they had to cancel their trip this summer. Many of us have had our fun summer plans cancelled and therefore mom, dad and kids are disappointed. Instead of moms feeling relief about the summer, we're stressed and plagued with the question of what am I going to do with my bored teenagers? Bored teens at home cut into mom's personal space and work time. Summer can feel like an extension of the school year except that teens have even less to do. I know every mom has different restrictions from shelter at home to different phases of reopening. Despite what phase you are in none of us have forgotten about Covid 19. And many feel there is more pressure and uncertainty as our cities and states reopen. There are more questions like--now that restaurants are open is it okay to go? Is it okay for my teens to go? Do we try to take a vacation? Should we fly or drive? Is that safe? When your teen wants to go over and see her friends at a pool party, now there are even more things to consider about those decisions. So it's not easy and all this uncertainty just adds stress. This is why in this episode I give you Summer Tips for an Unusual Time for you and your teens. This will give you a way to think about this summer and how to make the most of it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I have a vibrant conversation with my friend and colleague Megan McNealy. Megan believes well-being is the greatest asset we have. She knows this one personally. Twelve years ago Megan was super successful in her wealth management business, and yet her body was giving out on her. She had crippling rheumatoid arthritis, kidney disease, and kidney cancer. Megan was able to turn this around. Her formula for her recovery is in her award winning book Reinvent the Wheel: How Top Leaders Leverage Well-Being for Success -- her book was featured on the Top 20 Must-Reads of 2019 in Forbes and was awarded a Silver Medal by the Axiom Book Awards. Megan McNealy has devoted her career to helping others reach their highest potential in their personal and professional lives. As an award-winning, 22+ year Senior Vice President and Wealth Management Advisor at one of the largest financial firms in the world, she specializes in working with senior corporate executives and has become known as the “CEO Whisperer.” Megan is simultaneously an impact entrepreneur and a prominent Well-Being Thought Leader who founded Well-Being Drives Success, a multi-faceted platform designed to serve those in our workforce who strive for exceptional wellness and extraordinary success. Her work has been featured in the UK Telegraph, Fast Company, Chief Executive, Thrive Global, Business Insider and Entrepreneur to name a few. During this stressful time of the COVID-19 pandemic, Megan has been one of the most sought after speakers in the United States on how to rise in this moment by prioritizing well-being. A guest on six high profile podcasts in the last two months, plus this one (!) she thought it would be a wonderful way to serve an audience eager for uplifting advice. Megan is a single mom of two teen daughters, She is one of us! Megan recently has interviewed eighteen top leaders that she had previously interviewed in her book Reinvent the Wheel and asked them to share their behind the scenes well-being strategies during this global pandemic. Listen to hear this very helpful advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I talk about how to get the most out of your relationship with your teen their junior and senior year in High School. When your teen is a junior or senior, what do you think it will be like? Are your expectations positive, (I look forward to having more quality time with my son and watching his soccer games) or is it negative (It's going to be a huge battle all year to get my daughter to take her school work seriously?) After listening to moms, expectations tend to default towards the negative their junior and senior years. I believe there is a way to enjoy your teen during their junior and senior year in high school. I mean really relish your time with them. Enjoy their energy, their liveliness, and their playfulness. In order to enjoy these years you need to avoid 4 big drama traps. Listen and learn how. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I am bringing you another powerhouse guest to help your through this quarantine time with your teen. . .Diana Graber. Diana Graber is the author of “Raising Humans in a Digital World: Helping Kids Build a Healthy Relationship with Technology” (HarperCollins Leadership). She is the founder of Cyber Civics, an innovative digital literacy curriculum being taught in 44 US states and internationally, and Cyberwise, an information portal for digital parents. I interviewed Diana in the 52nd episode back in November on How to Keep Teens Safe Online. And ya’ll really loved that podcast. Diana really delivered helpful information in that episode and you won't be disappointed with this one either. Diana has graciously offered to our listeners a Technology Agreement that you can download at cyberwise.org in their learning hub. In this episode we focus on how to peacefully come to an agreement and not be battling with your teens about their screens. Also, we discuss what to do when teens want to stay in their rooms all day. Bottom line is that we want our teens to be safe, healthy, and flourishing humans both online and offline. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode addresses how to gently get back on track. In the beginning of the pandemic our adrenaline was buzzing and we reached for comfort food, drank lots of alcohol, and binge watched our shows. This all made sense when we were in the acute phase of the pandemic, but now six weeks in we have entered into a chronic phase. The numbing takes a toll on how we feel. We can feel blah, sleepy, irritable and default into the why bother syndrome because we have gotten off track. I have invited Elizabeth Barbour as our guest today to help us think through how to gently get back on track. Elizabeth Barbour, M.Ed. is a passionate advocate for smart, sustainable self-care—especially for women who are juggling the demands of career, family, and life. Elizabeth has been an intuitive life and business coach, speaker, and retreat leader since 2000. She’s appeared on PBS and in Experience Life and Martha Stewart’s Body & Soul magazines. Elizabeth is known for her ability to inspire busy professionals to make Smart Self-Care an integral part of their plan for success in both business and in life. For immediate inspiration, you can download 7 Daily Rituals for Self-Care, Sanity & Success (a free pdf) at www.elizabethbarbour.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Hey moms I know none of you signed up to have your teens quarantined in your homes doing online school. This only adds more pressure on you. Are your teens procrastinating and not motivated? Are they spending way too much time on their phones? Are your seniors worried about getting to go to college in the fall? And what will college admissions look like next year? I wanted to bring in an expert that can help you with this. Neha Gupta is the founder of College Shortcuts, which is a leading college admissions consulting firm that has helped tens of thousands of students achieve their academic dreams. For more than 14 years, they've supported students with services in mentorship, college admissions, and test prep. Their results include increased improvements in students’ confidence, reduction in stress and anxiety, and higher chances of getting into their top choice school based on their own merit. She has been on every news outlet during this crisis and is a leading expert for teens and parents in the admissions process. This episode is full of super practical advice that will help you and your teens. Neha has generously offered a free discovery call to those who are interested. Just go to collegeshortcuts.com/apply to sign up for your free call. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we talk about How to Recover and Rebound Fast Part Two. Last episode I focused on how you can recover by paying attention to you (and not ignoring your needs), honoring your feelings, and asking for help and setting boundaries. Part one is designed to help you recover first, Part two helps you recover with your teen and family and rebound fast. Part one is answering the question "what just happened?" in you. Why did I get so triggered? Part two is answering these questions. What just happened with my teen and what do I do about it? How can I stay connected to my teen through this? How can we come back from this even stronger and closer? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this time when you are quarantined with your teens, and dealing with the daily bad news of covid-19, stock market, and the economy, you can see an increase in drama in your homes. I want to give you some tools on how to recover and rebound fast after drama. I want to help you dial down the drama and stress because high levels of this is going to weaken your immune system and hurt family relationships. What do you do after the big fight? Do you take intentional action to recover and rebound fast or do you do nothing. If nothing is done, what you can see over time, is that your teen shares less and less with you and spends more and more time in their room. How it impacts you is that you really don’t like your teen or spouse anymore and find you get angry, frustrated and hurt really quickly when you interact with them. What you can see is that everything becomes a battle, even the simplest of interactions. In this episode I give you some practical tips to How to Recover, Restore and Rebound Fast after the Drama. This is Part One of a two part series. Today I focus on helping you recover by 1. Don't ignore yourself, 2. Honor your feelings and, 3. Set boundaries and ask for help. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is an unprecedented time in our history. The definition of unprecedented means, "never done or known before." Our old life has been temporarily suspended. This week we enter into a whole new realm. Mom, soon Your inner alarm is going to go off and you are going to feel like, "Okay everyone needs to get out of the house and get back to school,NOW!" Your kids will feel the same way. They want to get back to what they typically do. Everyone in your family is going to feel restless and off kilter this week…because its not normal. Moms this is new territory, and there are lots of unknowns. The old rules and expectations don’t apply. This is why I am giving you... Six Guidelines for this Unprecedented Time.
Time to be understanding
Time for low expectations
Time to be flexible
Time to be creative
Time to lean in
Time to extend grace
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Moms, I want to encourage you in this global crises. I know your life is up in the air and upside down and for this reason I wanted to give you eight practical ways to stay grounded and steady in these uncertain times. First, I want you to know that I am here for you. This is a very difficult and scary time for all of us, and especially hard on you moms. Your kids and teens are going to be home from school and quarantined in your homes for several weeks at least... And the hardest part is that we just don’t know when we will get past all of this. I feel for you moms. This is going to completely mess up your day-to-day schedule and beyond. Most of us have had to cancel our fun plans for spring break and our teens are disappointed and we are too. But there are many more disappointments with sports and musicals and concerts cancelled at your teens school. For 8th graders and seniors this is not how they wanted to end their school year. And this is really hard for moms, because we like structure, schedules, and certainty. The coronavirus has pulled the rug out from underneath us. Anxiety feeds on the unknown and we are surrounded with it. If you listen to the news for even one-minute, fear and anxiety can overtake us. Besides the coronavirus there are many other worries. But there are some things we can do! In this episode I give you 8 practical ways to stay steady and grounded. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode talks about the biggest drain to your energy, vitality, and your life. Fear...especially all the fear around your teen and parenting your teen. If you are a parent of a teenager; you can't escape fear. You are going to experience fear. The challenge is how to make the fear useful. Unbridled and unconscious fear can cripple you and drain you of all your energy, joy, and happiness. In order to not let fear dominate your life, you need a way to manage your fear. This starts with being aware of what your fear is...because if you are not, fear can unconsciously drive your thoughts, feelings and actions. This is not helpful to you or your teen. You can become paralyzed by fear and not able to protect your teen. Or you can become so obsessed about your fear that you are constantly combative towards your teen. This episode will help you take obsessive fear and make it useful. You will learn how to dismantle the F (fear) Bomb. You will learn a 3-part process; identify your big fear, Excavate the truth, and Turn your fear into action steps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We can't always go to a tropical island to escape stress. In this episode I give you 3 practical ways to dial down the stress by...
being kind to yourself
dialing down the drama
being intentional instead of reactive, specifically about the way you think about your teen and how you spend time with them.
This episode is full of tips and takeaways that can dial down your stress today. We live in a stressful culture. Stress has become the new normal. We need to be proactive to resist this trend, and bring down the stress in our lives, relationships and home. Why is this important? If you don't, stress will rob you of everything good about the teenage years. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What you think about your teen greatly impacts you, your parenting and your teen. How you think about your teen is not hidden from your teen. It is very evident to them. You wear the delight, the joy or the fear, sadness or anger on your face. How you think about your teen comes out in your words. It comes out in your actions. It comes out in your questions. It comes out in your body language. How you think about your teen is the deep work of parenting. How do you think about your teen? If I asked you to fill in the blank. My teen is_____ . What would you say? Because teens are hard wired for drama, it's easy for parents to think of their teens in a negative way. But that's not the whole story. That is not who your teen is. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode you'll explore what moms should and should not tolerate. An important question to ask yourself at the start of a new year is, "What am I tolerating in my life?" Clue, if you are not enjoying your life and you feel drained and you cant remember the last time you had a really good day, there is a strong chance you are tolerating something you should not be tolerating. What do I mean when I say tolerating? You are putting up with things in your life that you do not want. These things often annoy you, irritate you, weigh you down, and drain your energy . They can be things that you tolerate in yourself or surroundings, or in your relationship with friends, family or kids. You don’t choose to live a life that you are just tolerating. It happens over time. The problem is when you have been tolerating something for a long time, you don't even see it anymore. It becomes the new normal. There are 4 situations that you should never tolerate from your teen, if you do it will be detrimental to your teen and to your heart and soul. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I have spent a lot of time listening to what frustrates moms. At the top of the list is not being able to communicate to their teens. When I dig down and ask the moms what they mean by this, they say they want an open, authentic, and positive response from their teen. Because if you don’t get a positive response you are not going to have the conversation or the behaviors/results you want. The million-dollar question is, “How do you get a positive response from your teen?” There are many aspects to this question, and here's a big one. John Gottman, PhD (a very well known author, clinician and researcher) states, "94% of the time the way a conversation starts, predicts how it will end." So, how you start a conversation with your teen is going tostrongly influence the response. In this episode we explore the difference between harsh startups and soft startups. You will be given 6 key components to soften your startups. Some of you might be thinking, “This just sounds like too much work…I’m going to just be myself and express myself anyway I want.” You can express yourself anyway you want--- but does it give you the results or responses you want? Yes, being more intentional, and strategic is a little more work . . .but the work is worth it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Moms have no problem being hard on themselves, but often have a hard time being kind to themselves. Moms don’t do this intentionally. It happens by default, because we are taking care of everyone else's needs we forget and don't take the time to care for our own needs. This is not very kind. My last episode was on expectations. Because we live in a culture of perfectionism we are often striving after unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves. We end up feeling defeated and that’s not very kind either. We live in such a fast pace world and are constantly bombarded with information, to-do lists leaving us with no time to breathe and that’s not very kind. In this episode we explore what being kind to ourselves mean, and how to do that in a practical, doable way. When we are kind to ourselves everyone benefits. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode focuses on expectations and parenting. To be human is to have expectations. Our expectations can help us feel hopeful. They can help us get through hard times and transitions. But they can also cause parents a lot of pain and be the impetus for drama. Recently, one mom told me, "I have been so much happier lately. Since I have adjusted my expectations, things have been so much better between me and my teenage daughter. This got me thinking about how big a role expectations play in parenting. They have a big impact on you and your teen. We will explore realistic vs. unrealistic expectations, no expectations vs. high expectations. We'll explore why teens have immature expectations. And why competing expectations between parents and teens can be a big source of drama. This is especially relevant in the holidays. Parenting is difficult because every day there are conflicting and often unexpressed expectations between parents and teens. The daily battle is often the competing expectations between immature expectations of the teen and the mature expectations of the parent. I close the podcast with some tips for managing these competing expectations in the holidays. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode is about, Gratitude: Are You Feeling It? Even though Thanksgiving is just a few days away, this podcast is about (way) more than just Thanksgiving, this info is relevant 365 days a year. In this episode we will talk about why gratitude is good for us. It’s the gateway to true joy and even miracles. We’ll explore why being grateful is challenging at times and definitely not our natural state in this culture. Also, we’ll look at practical steps to put some genuine gratitude back into your life so that you are really feeling it. One definition of gratitude is, the feeling of thankfulness and appreciation. The key word is feeling. See, you can write 5 things that you are grateful for every night in your gratitude journal and not be feeling it. Naming things to be grateful for is a good start, but you are not going to reap the benefits of gratitude, if you don’t feel it. Did you know the root of the word gratitude is the Latin word gratis. Do you know what that means? You might think thankful, but it means to be free. So if these words gratitude and free are connected etymologically wouldn’t it make sense that the two are connected psychologically and even spiritually as well. Listen to see why.
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In this episode I discuss How to Keep Your Teens Safe Online. with Diana Graber. Snapchat, Instagram, Fortnite, cyberbullying, sexting, and technology addiction are some of the digital concerns that keep today’s parents up at night. Moms toss and turn, worry, second guess themselves about their rules and boundaries about all things digital. This is why I brought in an expert in the field to address your questions. Diana is the author of “Raising Humans in a Digital World: Helping Kids Build a Healthy Relationship with Technology” (HarperCollins Leadership). She is the founder of Cyber Civics, an innovative digital literacy curriculum being taught in 44 US states and internationally, and Cyberwise, an information portal for digital parents. Diana is an innovator in the field of digital literacy and trained in media psychology, Graber fully understands the overwhelming influence technology has on today’s young people and the challenges this presents. Everything a young person does online—every post, comment, photo—contributes to a digital profile that can open or close doors to their future. We discuss how Diana teaches reputation management and privacy with her teens. You'll learn what's the difference between Digital Drama and Cyberbullying and the importance of digital breaks and digital vacations. You can contact Diana at support@cybercivics.com and she will send you a PDF (Teen Hookup Sites Parents Should Know About.) You can visit her websites at: www.cyberwise.org www.cybercivics.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today we are going to look at parenting, through the lens of experience. There are many lenses in which we can examine parenting, like mindset. Today we will focus on the lens of experience. The goal of this podcast is to dial up thriving positive experiences with your family and dial down the negative ones by becoming aware of several X-factors that rob you of enjoying the teenage years. This is especially applicable as we approach the holiday season. Often there are parts of the parenting experience that we are not aware of, or we haven’t yet named yet. I call these the X-factors. One definition of an X-factor is, "A variable in a given situation that could have the most significant impact on the outcome." These intangible variables often are in the way of you having a happy home. You can’t ignore these variables. They have a significant impact on the outcome of your teenage years. They set the tone for your whole parenting experience. Being aware of these variables allows you to create more positive experiences in your home than negative. When this happens you have a Positive Sentiment Override. In this episode we will explore some of these negative X-factors, so that you won't have a Negative Sentiment Override over your home. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In my work I talk a lot about how to prevent and dial down the drama. A crucial part of this is how to repair the relationship after the conflict or the big blow up. And the good news is that you can repair the relationship. The first step is to give a sincere apology. And this can be challenging for teens. Have you ever asked your teen for an apology and got, "SORRY" or "SORRY you think I’m an idiot." or "SORRY that you are so sensitive." This is an insincere apology and doesn't make you feel any better. In fact it can make you feel worse. In this episode I will talk about why there is so much resistance to saying "I'm sorry" and how to move past it. A sincere apology is important for two main reasons; to grow individually, and to repair the relationship. I will explore the different components of a strong apology. And then I will address the million-dollar question...How can you get a sincere apology from your teen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today we are going to talk about how to help your teen figure out what's next after High School. Are there any moms out there that have teens who have no idea what they want to do after High School? I'm sure a lot of you do. Have you noticed how much drama comes from questioning or talking with your teen about the future? I frequently see these big decisions, like, what am I going to do after high school, stirs up a lot of anxiety. Therefore this anxiety can make it hard to have a conversation with your teen about what's next and can lead to a lot of drama for both teens and parents. Today we are in for a treat. I am going to interview Emma Perez who is a coach and mentor and helps teens and young adults make decision for their lives after high school Emma is the Founder of Life Quest, that helps guides teens through self-discovery, career exploration, and vision creating. This leads young people to a future that allows them to live thriving and fulfilling lives. Emma is also the author of "What's the Point of School: Ed Transformation, A Matter of Life and Death. Freebie: http://www.emmabperez.com/journaling.html More about life quest http://www.emmabperez.com/life-quest.html To schedule a free consultation https://calendly.com/emmabperez My book http://www.emmabperez.com/whatsthepointofschool.html
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Okay, in this podcast we are going to get real. Is it possible to be happy and be a mom of a preteen or teenager? And when I say happy, I mean are you truly happy? One definition of happy says, "feeling pleasure and enjoyment because of your life, situation." Do you feel pleasure and enjoyment in your life? Do you feel pleasure and enjoyment from being a mom? Many moms don't, and it is a source of shame. This episode will look at six guaranteed ways to be an unhappy mom and how to turn that around to being the six keys to being a happy mom. I know that it is highly improbable that any mother of a teen will live in a constant state of happiness. That's not what this episode is about. This episode will give you practical suggestions on how to dial up your happiness in the teenage years. This not only benefits you but your whole family. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It's hard to say "no" to an angry, upset, or demanding teen. Moms often feel pushed in the corner and begrudgingly say "yes." But when we do that it's not in the best interest of your teen or you. How do you feel when you say "yes" to your teen when you really wanted to say "no." I know from personal experience and from listening to thousands of moms that it doesn't feel good. You second guess yourself. You stress and worry. You feel disempowered as a mom. And you feel your teen is not protected. In this episode we will explore 5 reasons moms say "yes" when they want to say "no." Sometimes the best answer is not "yes" or "no." There is a third option which I will teach you.. Finally, you will learn 5 tips to standing up to your teen, being clear so that your "yes" really is a "yes" and your "no" really is a "no." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Often moms are told to "not take things personally," which could be said by a well-meaning spouse. Sometimes those words are said to shut down the conversation that mom desperately needs to have. Well, that's not helpful. However in this episode we are going to explore "it’s not personal." My intention is not to minimize mom's experience, it is to help protect mom's heart and energy. "Taking things personally" can cause so much anxiety, hurt, anguish, sadness, suffering and just sucks the life out of you. We will explore what "taking it personally" really means. What are some of the things moms take personally? Why does taking things personally cause so much pain and suffering? Why taking things personally is not helpful to you and your teen? Then we will look at why "it's not personal" through the lens of neuroscience. Finally, and most importantly we will discuss how you can protect yourself and your heart from taking things personally. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do you ever wake up and wonder, "How good can the teenage years get?" or do you think, "How am I going to survive the teenage years?" Many moms just wonder how they are going to survive the teenage years. And that's no surprise since this is one of the most challenging times to parent teens. The problem is, human beings have a propensity to remember only the negative. We can forget that we have good moments with our teens. The negative experiences can erase the positive experiences from our memories. The truth is that there are many gifts we can receive from our teens and the teenage years. Because of the unique challenges in this culture you will not naturally experience how good the teenage years can be. You have to be intentional and strategic and knowledgeable about the teenage brain. In this episode you will learn how to dial up the good experiences with your teen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Does your teen stress you out? If you have a normal teenager then the answer should be yes and the reason for that is where they are developmentally and I talk about the science behind that in the podcast. So yes your teen will stress you out. The better question is how often does your teen stress you out and to what degree? In other words whats the intensity of the stress you feel. In this episode I go into the major categories of what stresses parents out like monitoring, worrying about their safety and their future. There will be stress but you don't want the stress to dominate your life, your parenting, your teen and your home. Stress is not good for you or your relationship with your teen. Here’s the dilemma. It is stressful parenting a teen but your stress impairs your parenting. Your stress can stress your teenager out. Learn 4 ways to dial down your stress so that you can enjoy the teenage years. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today we are going to talk about the "4 Steps to Creating the Routine You Want". This is crucial to establish routines that work for you and your family this new school year. It's easy to think that you are starting your year off with a blank slate, but it is never a blank slate. Here’s why. The truth is that the same issues and struggles that drove your crazy last year are going to reappear this year. And why is that? Patterns repeat. Your son and daughter will do what they normally do and then you and your partner will typically react like you normally do. Over time these verbal and behavioral exchanges become predictable patterns of interactions. These interactions are often unconscious and on autopilot and can be triggered with an eye-roll, disrespectful comment, or the infamous slammed door. And then your last years amnesia has shattered and you remember the draining teenage drama from the past. You don’t want these unconscious patterns of interactions to become your “automatic routine” for your new year especially if they were fraught with drama. Many parents fall into routines or patterns that are not working for them or for their teens. You may be aware of some routines and not be conscious of others. Because the fall semester is busy, it’s easy to go on automatic pilot and just tolerate disrespectful behavior day after day. And this becomes routine. The good news is this year doesn’t have to be a repeat of last year. But things won’t automatically change you have to be intentional. Listen to find out the "4 Steps to Creating the Routine You Want". Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The new school year is starting soon or may have already started. Before the year takes off at full time speed, I want to discuss why intentional downtime is a big deal. With our busy schedules downtime is not going to happen naturally, you have to be intentional. Downtime is a pressure-free zone. It's non-productive time. There is no competition or comparing yourself to others . There is no pressure to get anything done. There is no agenda. There is nothing hanging over your head. Downtime allows for your mind to wander instead of having focused attention. You get to relax and chill out. Downtime is restful.
In this episode I discuss the 5 Benefits of Intentional Downtime.
- Downtime allows you and your teen time and mental space to let go of stress caused by friends, grades, a busy schedule, and lots of demands.
- Downtime naturally brings out our playful nature.
- Downtime allows for creativity and innovation.
- Downtime allows you to slow down.
- Downtime allows your mind to rest,
- Downtime is good for the teenage and adult brain. I spend the rest of the episode getting practical. What is a good use of downtime and what is not? How to insert downtime into your very busy schedule? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Has your teen ever said anything like, "Mom you are the only one who won't let me . . ." or "Everyone else is doing it so why can't I . . .?" If they have, congratulations you have a normal teenager. Teens from all over the planet use tactics like these to try to manipulate you to get their way. In this episode will look at the many different tactics that teen use. These teenage tactics only work when we are not 100% clear if we are making the right decision. These tactics can open the door to a whole lot of drama. You can shut these tactics down when you are 100% clear. However, there are two big challenges to becoming clear. One, is the Moving Target Syndrome, and two, is Mother Fog. We will discuss how to take your clarity back. Also, in this episode we will discuss the downside of making decisions based on consensus and why your clarity is a personal decision. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we'll discuss why curiosity makes you a better human being and parent. You’ll learn how healthy curiosity dials down the drama, and improves your relationship with your teen. Healthy curiosity is the secret ingredient to a well-lived life. Curiosity makes us feel alive, leads to more happiness, boosts achievement and creativity, expands our empathy and strengthens our relationships. Walt Disney once said, “We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we're curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”. Instilling healthy curiosity to your teens is one of the best gifts you can give them. You'll learn how curiosity brings down the teenage wall of defensiveness and helps you have the hard conversations with your teen with minimal drama. This skill is foundational to parent effectively. There is also a dangerous side to curiosity, that our teens are especially vulnerable to. When you combine a strong drive of curiosity with the teenagers faulty brake system (of their undeveloped prefrontal cortex), it can lead to trouble. You'll learn what you can do to protect your teen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I hope that Mothers' Day was all that you hoped it would be. But if you ended up disappointed, you are definitely not the only one. Heres the problem with Mother's day. I think you come to that day with huge expectations that your kids and partner will somehow make up for everything that was not right in the past year. Realistically on Mother's Day you are still dealing with teen issues and are in the kitchen cooking a meal for your mom or your mother in law. Even on Mother's Day it's hard to have a whole day that you are actually off duty. That's why moms need more than a day! Often moms are influenced by implicit messages in the culture like, "it's selfish to pay attention to me." It feels like that this message is true, so many moms feel guilty if they spend time taking care of themselves. They wait for someone to give them permission to invest in themselves. This results with moms feeling "all mothered out" and resentful for not being appreciated enough. Actually, it's not selfish to pay attention to you; it's CRUCIAL. 1. it's crucial to pay attention to you . . .So you can honor and appreciate you for everything you do for your family. 2. It's crucial to pay attention to you . . . to reclaim your self awareness. This is the first step to know how you are doing, what you need, and what you want. If you don't know what you need, a good place to start is the 5 essential areas of feeling good. In order to feel your best, you’ve got to focus on five essential needs: foundational, maintenance, relational, self-enrichment, and spiritual. 3. It's crucial to pay attention to you . . . every day. See part of each day needs to be mothers day. What I mean by this is that YOU needs to get in your calendar. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Whenever I speak to moms I tell them, "This is one of the most challenging times to raise a teen." A huge reason for this is navigating through the treacherous waters of cell phones, social media, and internet with teenagers. Most parents are blind sided with their teens about all thing digital because we didn’t go through this when we were teens. It feels like the iPhone has been around forever but actually it was released in 2007. So your mom didn’t have to deal with these cyber space issues when parenting you. Did you know that the average American touches their phone 2617 times a day? Did you know that According to Common Sense Media, teens spend an average of nine hours a day online? Studies have shown that the rise of anxiety and loneliness in teens is directly related to how much teens are online. 1 of 3 teenage girls will experience significant anxiety. In this podcast I talk about "The 4 big problems with phones, social media, internet and teens." 1. The addictive nature of all things online 2. Loneliness 3. Social comparison and why selfies are more like a question than a statement 4. Fomo (Fear of missing out) and how Snapmap is really EOMO (Evidence of missing out.) Most importantly we will end with what moms can do about this.
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I think what's challenging and perplexing about parenting is that your child/ teen can feel like a moving target---or you could say a growing target. You feel like you finally have mastered one stage and then your teen grows out of it and you are up against the next stage. This new phase has new dynamics to figure out and its own set of perils. Every time you turn a corner, there is new terrain to manage. You finally have elementary school down and then they are off to middle school. You finally have middle school down and then they are off to high school, and then your kids are wanting to get their drivers permit and on it goes. . . Add to this moving or growing target another factor that can completely throw parents off balance and is the source of much confusion and frustration. This is the Maturity Gap. Maturity Gap in adolescence has been studied by many neuroscientists. They look at the maturity gap through the lens of brain development. They define it as the discrepancy between an individual's cognitive maturity and emotional maturity. I am going to broaden the definition of Maturity Gap and will share some interesting studies about the brain. Here's what I mean when I am talking about the Maturity Gap. All the different facets of your teen (physical, social, cognitive and emotional) are not growing together at the same rate. Because of this there is a maturity gap between the different parts. Some areas of your teen may seem more adult-like. You can feel like your teen is maturing and you can relax, but then your thrown off by another facet that screams immaturity. This Maturity Gap doesn't magically go away at 18, it's alive and well until age 25. This podcast will explore how knowing about the Maturity Gap can help you be a better, happier and wiser parent. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I hear parents second guess themselves saying things like, "I wasn't hard enough on him," or " I was too soft on her." And what they are really talking about is their parenting approach in regards to discipline. The challenge about parenting is "one approach doesn't fit all." I have seen parents come into my private practice baffled because the first two kids sailed through the teenage years with no problems, but their third kid who now is a teenager is driving them crazy. Why is that? They are doing the same things with the third kid that they did with the first two. Why the different result? This podcast gives you some guidelines on how to approach different types of teens, specifically the one-down and the one-up teen. The one-down teen is a little more sensitive. She is hard on herself. She has poor self esteem and lacks confidence, She often has the intelligence and the abilities, but lacks the confidence. She needs to be pulled up to feel like she is on the same level as others. This is the one-down position. The one-up teen thinks he is better than everyone else. He has insecurities they are just more covert or hidden. Teens in a one-up position put others down because it feels good to be at the top. In other words they have to put others down to feel good about themselves. They tend to belittle, brag, bully and think they are always right. When they are in a one-up position they need to put someone else down in order to feel powerful. Bottom line When you are dealing with a teen that is in a one-up position they need to be pulled down to have good self-esteem. You need a very different parenting approach for the one-down or one-up teen. The one-down teen can greatly benefit from the wild card of grace. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How do you foster your child/teen's creativity? Expressing your creativity through art, dance, writing, film and music is an excellent way to develop the teenage brain. The brain is having a major growth spurt during the teenage years. It is a season where you use it or lose it, meaning that neurons that are not used wither away. Neurons that are used wire into the teenage brain. It is the easiest time to learn a new language or a piano concerto. There are many challenges parent face when trying to encourage their teen's creativity. Teens don't want to practice. They want to quit. There is too much competition. All of these situations can lead to arguing and conflict. In this episode I share an interview by Jean Ireton on her online video series Breakthrough to Creativity on how to get past the drama and truly encourage your teens creativity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
My friend sent me a post that said, "Check on your friends with strong willed daughters. We are not ok." I laughed but what really struck me is how many thousands of moms had shared it. Obviously it struck a chord. A strong willed daughter has an upside and then the shadow or dark side. Think of it as different sides of the same coin. Really we want a strong willed daughter. Strong: Having great physical, moral, and intellectual power. Will: used to express desire, choice, willingness, consent, or in negative constructions refusal. There is something beautiful, courageous and noble in a strong willed girl. And then the dark side of an immature teen.. 1. They approach the world from a one-up position. 2. They are relentless about getting their way. 3. They are all armored up. They hide the vulnerable emotions. 4. They can take on too much. It's hard to ask for help. In this episode we will talk about how to protect the spirit of the strong willed girl and how to effectively parent the dark side. And not let it get the best of you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
You need to be prepared when your teen has their first big break up. Parents see the worst version of their teen after a breakup. This makes it hard for you to help your teen and console them. They are angry and shut down. They can lash out at you. They are edgy and negative. They lose their motivation. They don't want to pick up their room, do their chores, or their homework. Helping your son or daughter successfully work through a big break up is extremely important. They will end up either wounded or wiser; depending on how they process it. This is a season where your teen is very vulnerable. The big break up is an assault on your teen’s heart. It's not just girls who have broken hearts I have seen plenty of teenage boys who have been deeply affected by a painful breakup. Often parents are more worried about their teen’s sexual activity than their hearts. We don’t want our teens to get pregnant or get an STD but we also don’t want them to have lasting trauma from a bad break up. This episode looks at the 3 big reasons teen relationships will probably end badly. You'll learn what "not to do" when your teen has a broken heart and what your teen really needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Why is it that you can be a CEO of a company and feel on top of the world and yet a sassy teenager can bring you to your knees. Why is it that moms of middle school and high school teens rarely wake up and think, "Wow, I am a successful mom. I'm rocking it with these teens." What is a successful mom? The important question is who or what is answering the question. There is a cultural definition of a successful mom that looks a-lot like a perfect mom. These implicit messages from the culture inform our expectations of what a successful mom is. These unrealistic expectations and ideals lead to hyper vigilance, which leads to anxiety, and then leads to exhaustion. Both parents and teens are not benefiting from this definition. It's time to redefine a successful mom. You can dial down the pressure just by redefining the successful mom. Listen and find out how. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I interview my friend and colleague Angela Caughlin, MA. Angela is an expert on how journaling can help you find your inner parenting wisdom. She has lived her message. When recently widowed she had to raise three children by herself. Angela has authored four books on different aspects of journaling. Angela is an Integrative Coach, which means she uses a holistic approach that integrates with other modalities of treatment during her coaching or counseling sessions. Angela’s integrative approach comes from her extensive training in journaling and her training in mindfulness and meditation, as well as traditional western psychology. Angela discusses all the positive benefits of journaling. It can help you be a better parent, stay connected to yourself and have a better relationship with your teen. She shares Dr. James Pennebaker research which reinforces this. Angela states that journaling can be your best friend and she shares her 3-part process which helps you move out of reactivity into a much greater clarity. What is emotionally true is not always factually true. This process helps you sort through your emotions to discover what is really true. 1. Download your emotions. 2. Ask yourself, "What's really true and what's not true. 3. And then you can rewrite your story. Towards the end of the episode she shares her practical tips for how to get started, how to protect your privacy, and how to find time in your busy schedule. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What do I mean by a hard conversation? Basically it's any conversation your teen doesn't want to have with you---and there are a-lot of those. In this episode I give you 5 key elements to help you have a (successful) hard conversation with your teen. 1. You want to balance the hard conversations with intentionally having positive conversations/experiences with your teen. 2. Timing has to be right. Bottom line is that if either you or your teen are emotionally flooded or have been drinking or high, it's the absolute worst time to have that conversation. This comes from understanding neuroscience. When you are emotionally flooded, you are in stress response. You are offline from that part of the brain that has everything you need to solve a problem. 3. You need to be clear. And to do that you don't want to rush into that conversation. Time is your friend. I describe the different areas you need clarity. If you rush in too quickly you vent. The problem is that venting is all over the place and it's not a conversation. Venting dials up the drama and your teen will not learn anything from this.. 4. You need to listen to your teens and hear their story. This can be challenging because often you need to have the hard conversation because they did not tell you the truth. But if you can get your teen to open up, you'll find the gold. You want to find the places your teen is stuck. The more accurately you can identify this, it informs the consequence and lets you know what your teen needs to learn. 5. You must be strategic and not reactive. The strategy is slowing down and deciding how you are going to approach these conversations. Often it is mapping out what you are going to say in the next conversation...and it might take multiple conversations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Every mom worries. You can't eliminate worry. Parenting a teen gives you endless things to worry about. Worry can be useful if it leads to effective action. But too often worry is just wasted energy. It doesn't lead to solutions it just leads to more worry and before you know it the worry grows exponentially like a wildfire. You don't want worry dominating your life and your parenting. Don't let worry control you; you can control the worry. A worried mom lives in a state of worry where her actions and responses are continually fueled by worry. Constant worry is not healthy for you and actually is a hindrance to your parenting. Constant worry negatively impacts your relationship with your teen. We want to replace the worry energy with reflective energy. All moms worry in some ways. We are biologically hard-wired to worry, but not all moms are reflective. Reflection is incredibly important to your parenting. Reflection is essential for you to be a happy, thriving, "I love my life" mom. Worry leads to a drained, anxious, and resentful mom. In this episode I am going to contrast worry with reflection and show you why worry is a hindrance to parenting and why reflection is the key to enjoying the teenage years. Reflection is foundational for conscious and intentional parenting. If you are tired of living in a state of worry, learn how reflection can actually set you free from the burden of worry and set you on a course to create the life you want. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Power Your Parenting: Moms with Teens is back. This is going to be an exciting year. I have lined up some great guests and of course I will be sharing some practical parenting tips and sharing current research on teens. One of my primary goals is to raise the bar on what's possible for moms and teens. You don't have to dread these years. You can actually enjoy them. In this podcast I first answer the question, "Why am I hosting a podcast on moms and teens?" Was I the perfect mom with the perfect teen? You'll have to listen to find out. :) I will share with you 3 key strategies that turned my relationship with teenage daughter around. You really can change your relationship with your teen in fifteen minutes a day. I shared some of these ideas in my TEDx talk, "Stressed-Out Moms and Ticked-Off Teens: 3 Keys to Dial Down the Drama" Watch here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z0U-U-Gggf8 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do your teens need better communication skills—especially when they are wanting something from you?
In this podcast I interview Laura Lyles Reagan who is a family sociologist with more than 30 years of experience in practical youth development and parenting coaching. She holds a Masters in Sociology specializing in interactionism and communication dynamics. She is the author of her new book, “How to Raise Respectful Parents” which is a teen’s guide to navigating adult culture by equipping teens with communication skills. Each chapter introduces a new communication skill by using real world examples and conversations between parents and teens.
I’ve invited Laura to be on this podcast because I think Laura will bring a very interesting perspective. In my book Dial Down the Drama I empower moms to reduce conflict by using effective communication skills with their teens especially when there is drama. Laura trains the teens to communicate effectively with their parents and gives them the tools that they desperately need. She teaches a technique called co-creation, which especially helps with the hot button issues of teen life such as failing school grade, desire for more freedom, alcohol use/abuse and social media. You can contact Laura at www.lauralreagan.com. Her book How to Raise Respectful Parents is available at Barnes and Noble and Amazon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do you feel like you worry about your teen 24/7? Does your son and daughter seem to always be stressed?
Ready to dial down the worry and the stress! In this episode I interview Jodi Aman, who has been a psychotherapist for over 20 years. Jodi is also the author of You 1 Anxiety 0 Win your freedom back from fear and panic. Besides being a seasoned therapist, Jodi is also a mom of teens and can relate as a parent. Jodi answered these two questions. What tips do you have for moms struggling with their own anxiety?What can moms do when they see their sons or daughters really anxious or stressed out?
Jodi believes you can win your life back from fear and panic. Her advice is practical and based on science. The good news is that though we live in a fear based culture, worry doesn’t have to define your life or your family. Bio: Jodi Aman wrote the bestseller, You 1, Anxiety 0 to help people WIN their life back from fear and panic. With sharp empathy into the complexities of people’s pain–since she has recovered from her own family chaos and panic attacks–and a keen understanding of how and why people get stuck there, Jodi has decided to dedicate her life to helping people feel less lonely and afraid. Find her at http://jodiaman.com. Check out her videos at http://youtube.com/jodiaman. Get inspired on Instagram @JodiAmanLove. Or feel loved on Facebook: http://facebook.com/jodiamanlove. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Has your daughter ever eaten a big bag of Cheetos and then fifteen minutes later run out of the room and screamed, “I’m so fat.”
Monitoring teenage girls and their food choices can be tough for moms. You can tell your daughter is struggling with her body image and you try to calm her down and she gets angry. You try to hold your daughter accountable by asking her if she really wants that second Crave cupcake and well…she doesn’t say thank you mom. Moms know that a healthy diet is important and when we try to help our daughters it can quickly go to drama. In this episode I interview Connie Sobczak, the author of Embody: Learning to Love Your Unique Body (and quiet that critical voice!). She is an educator, speaker, filmmaker, and co-founder of The Body Positive, a non-profit organization where, for the past 20 years, she has skillfully and lovingly reconnected teens and adults to their body wisdom to make more balanced, joyful self-care choices. Her Be Body Positive Model offers a guide for people to create a relationship with their whole selves that is guided by love, forgiveness, and humor. Connie’s experience with an eating disorder in her teen years and the death of her sister Stephanie inspired her life’s work to create a world where all people are free to love their bodies. She raised her daughter, Carmen, in The Body Positive community, where children and teens learn to value their authentic beauty and identity, and use their energy and intellect to make positive changes in their own lives and in their communities. In this episode Connie tells us why she started The Body Positive and why she wrote her book Embody. (which I highly recommend) Connie encourages moms to not make negative comments about their daughters food choices and eating habits. She states that it won’t help and will only create shame and resistance. Connie has a fresh approach that is practical, helpful, and doable for moms. In this episode she shares her proven techniques of The Body Positive that she has used for 20 years in schools and communities. Connie believes in creating supportive communities so that it’s not all on mom. She also shares what moms can do to help their daughters love their unique bodies. You can contact Connie at info@thebodypositive.org
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Why do you need a long-term perspective when parenting a teenager? The answer comes from the final Chapter in my book, Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter.
It’s important to remember that we were once teenagers and we did a lot of crazy stuff too. Despite our secrets and mistakes we made it safely into adulthood. When you are mired down in the daily drama it is easy to lose perspective. We just want the stress, struggles, conflict, and attitudes to go away and we can end up counting the days till our teen leaves home. It’s important to remember that your teen is a work in progress. Much of these irritations are because your daughter’s brain is under reconstruction. As she matures many of these infuriating behaviors will fade away. But perspective reveals another facet of the teenage years which is what’s good about teens. Teens have many gifts to offer us. They are emotionally vibrant, adventuresome, playful, creative, and lots of fun. They can wake us up from our doldrums and help us break out of our routines. It’s also important to have a long-term perspective on your relationship with your son or daughter. This is what helps you get through the teenage years with your relationship in tact. Dialing down the drama, is also dialing down the potential to do harm to you and your teen. There is a belief that once you ship your daughter off to college that your relationship will magically improve. This is not true. I’ve worked with women in their 60’s who are still having issues with their 90-year-old mothers. You want to create a relationship now that will carry you and your daughter into her adulthood. It’s not to late to rebuild your relationship with your teen. Start creating healthy patterns of communication now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
“How to be your daughter’s (or son’s) dream maker” is a complicated question. Your daughter or son may not know what they want to be when they grow up. Your son is set to get a scholarship for baseball in college but he decides his... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Have you ever felt like everyone in your family is driving your life? I had one mom tell me, “I feel like I’m my daughter’s personal assistant. I wish I had one!” This episode is the practical “how to’s” on how to recapture your life which comes from the eleventh chapter in my book Dial Down the Drama. The first episode of the Dial Down the Drama series was “Are you all Mothered Out?” We examined why mothers tend to let their own needs get bumped to the bottom of the never ending family to-do list. I can tell you after working with thousands of moms, this is not working for us. Here is the reality and this is the challenge.
I have never met a mom who wasn’t busy.
This is why we tend to let the daily demands consume our life. The problem is when we are speeding through our life we tend to lose control and sometimes our demanding daughter is driving the car. But to create a healthy home environment and live a healthy life, it’s crucial that you learn how to be the CEO of your life. A CEO steps back and evaluates the current situation and determines what needs to change. The CEO keeps the big picture in mind. She knows what are the important priorities are and how to implement strategies to move forward. She evaluates what is a waste of time and where she can delegate. This episode is full of practical suggestions to help you recapture your life like exploring “false obligations.” You can free up a lot of time when you eliminate these false obligations. They are the “shoulds” in our life (I should serve a home-cooked meal every night of the week) and we feel guilty if we don’t do them. In reality, we do have a choice and we can free ourselves from false obligations and decide what is best for us and for our families. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What does your son or daughter need to thrive? This is an important question for both you and your teen. The answer is sometimes personal to your own taste, but often it is applicable to all of us. This is especially true for teens. One frequent mistake mom’s make, is becoming hyper-focused on the teen’s crises of the day, which causes us to miss important information. The episode today comes from the tenth chapter in my Dial Down the Drama Series. This gives you a proactive parenting strategy. Instead of reacting to the problem at hand, we look at the big picture. We zoom out to see all the crucial elements needed for a teen to function at their best. This podcast gives you a checklist to see what’s missing in your son or daughter’s life. For your teen to thrive they need the fundamentals of nutrition, sleep, and exercise. Your son and daughter need a flourishing home environment, a place to belong, and a team of supportive adults. Most of you know this information. The challenge is implementing it, because your teen is not receptive to your suggestions. When your teen argues with you day after day, it’s easy to let go of your ideals and resign that this is how it is. Don’t give up. This episode gives you some practical ways to communicate with your teen on these important topics. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Let’s face it disciplining a defiant teen is challenging. Because parents often feel powerless when it’s two hours past curfew, we can be flooded with a whole array of emotions. At this point we are not thinking clearly. This is why it’s so easy to” lose it”, but “losing it” is not an effective discipline. We may be “letting them have it” but there will be no lesson learned, except how to lose control. It’s important to get back to the basics. What is the point of discipline and what makes it effective? Discipline comes from the Latin word disciplina, which meant “instruction given, teaching, learning, and knowledge. This means that empowered discipline is about equipping, guiding, teaching, motivating, and ultimately empowering your teen. Implementing effective discipline is only possible when you are calm and clear. This takes time. At the moment you learn about her BIG mistake you are definitely not clear or calm. You feel betrayed, disrespected, angry, panicked, and hurt. You may need to wait a day or two to get clear. Effective discipline is strategic. It’s so much more than grounding. See the question you need to ask is not “How could she do this to me” but “What does my teen need to learn?” Remember your teen is a work in progress and though she may look like an adult her brain is under major reconstruction and she still needs your guidance and instruction. Teens are hard-wired to make errors in judgment. This episode will give you discipline strategies and equip you with four potent parenting tools. Don’t give up mom. Your teen needs you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How Good Moms Become Drama Mamas is the title of Chapter 8 in my book Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter. In the previous podcast (which comes from Chapter 7) I discuss why teens are hardwired for drama. However,... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It’s easy to see why moms and teens can fight more during the month of May. Neha Gupta, Founder of Elite Private Tutors, gives us tips and tricks on surviving the month of May with our overwhelmed, stressed out teens with finals and how to... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Have you ever had a “What was she thinking moment?” If you have then you are going to want to listen to this podcast and see why her dramatic flair ups and disrespect aren't personal. This is the seventh episode in my Dial Down the Drama series. It comes from the seventh chapter, Why Your Daughter is Hard-Wired for Drama. Scientists in the past have blamed crazy teenage behavior on raging hormones, but in the last ten years neuroscientists have discovered there is a lot more going on developmentally. The teenage brain is under major reconstruction. Many of you know that the prefrontal cortex is undeveloped to the age of 25, but you don't really know what that means. That undeveloped prefrontal cortex is one reason the teenage years can be challenging. But there is so much more going on in that teenage brain. The teenage brain is having a tremendous growth spurt and there is a Window of Opportunity to “use it” or “lose it.” Simply said if the teenage brain is going to reach it’s full potential there are specific challenges the teen needs to pursue that will “use” it. Also, you need to be aware of how the teen can “lose” it and actually hinder the brain's development. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How to Like Your Daughter Again comes from the sixth chapter in Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter. "Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with your teen?" "And what does that even look like?" This is the million dollar question. You don't want to be your teen's best friend but you don't want to be her enemy either. When you are in a daily battle with your daughter, it's easy to not like her very much. This is why so many moms believe they have to wait until she is older and out of the house to "like" her. It doesn't have to be that way! It is possible and crucial to have a healthy relationship with your teen. Even though your teen is depending on her friends more and developing her autonomy, a secure attachment with your teen matters significantly and can be her lifeline. There are three elements that make a secure connection with your teen that I dive into in my book. Being there for your teen.Being tuned in.Being responsive.In this episode we'll focus on the first element. You'll learn how to be there for your teen, and how to get your teen to open up to you. (You'll also find out why your teenage daughter is like a cat:) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today's episode comes from the fifth chapter in my new award-winning book Dial Down the Drama.
It takes a lot of energy to protect, nurture, and guide your teenager. And this is only one facet of your life. This doesn't include the rest of your family, or your life. Moms are good at pouring out their good energy to their family but typically we are not good at replenishing this energy. It can feel selfish. But if we don't intentionally recharge our lives it starts to show to everyone around you. Believe me everyone in your family knows when you are stressed or exhausted. See our life is like a cup. We can only give what's in our cup. If are cup is full of joy, we pour out joy. If our cup is full of frustration we pour out frustration. We can't give and give and give and give and not think that it will take a toll on our body and emotions. No one wins when you are exhausted. If it's been awhile since you've laughed or enjoyed yourself, then you need to listen to this podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode comes from the fourth chapter in my book Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting to Your Teenage Daughter---A Guide for Mothers Everywhere.
Today we are going to discuss why your clarity matters. Your clarity is huge. Without it you can't parent effectively or enjoy your life. See your teenage daughter (or son) is clear about what they want. They may not be clear about when their history project is due but they are clear about what they want to do the next weekend. Often we lose our clarity because we live our lives at 90 miles per hour. We may accomplish lots of things on our to-do lists, but we can end up in a huge fog. What happens when foggy mom meets clear daughter. Well clarity trumps fog every time. It's time to get on the road to clarity which starts with understanding how you lost it in the first place. Next you need to know where you are, (which takes courage and honesty) to get where you want to go. This can be overwhelming for a lot of moms. You may feel like you have no idea what you want. Don't worry we can start small. I'll give you practical ways to tap into your clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This podcast comes from the third chapter in Dial Down the Drama: Why Moms and Daughter's Can't Get it Right All the Time,which was published at the end of October 2015. No mom or daughter can get it right all the time, but we feel the pressure to do so. This pressure drives us to do more and do it better. I call this the Pressure to be Perfect. Not only do we feel this pressure, but your daughter feels this pressure too. She feels pressure to have the perfect hair, body, friends, boyfriend, and grades, even when she acts like she doesn't care. This pressure is a setup for drama between you and your daughter. You want to get this parenting thing right and so your self esteem can be linked to how well your daughter is performing or behaving. If your daughter is doing well in school, you feel good about yourself as mom, if her grades drop, you feel like your making a D on your mom report card. Because your daughter is hard wired to be imperfect and actually the same applies for you, basing your self worth on how she is doing will take you on a stressful emotional roller coaster. All of this craziness is driven by Powerless Parenting Messages. In this episode I look at replacing these with new messages that will empower instead of shame. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The podcast today comes from the second chapter of my upcoming book Dial Down the Drama. Today we are going to address fear and how this impacts you, your teen, and your parenting. There are no shortage of things that we can worry about. Will your son or daughter turn out okay? Will they make it into college? Will they turn out to be successful adults? And many of you have heard the saying, "keep them alive to 25," well that's not very comforting either. And then their are all the teenage issues from getting pregnant, addictions, eating disorders, to fatal car accidents. No wonder we can worry 24/7. The problem is that there is nothing productive with that kind of worrying. It robs you of enjoying your time with your teen and your life. Most of what we worry about and are fearful of, will never happen. It's just our imagination torturing us. The problem is that intense fear throws us into the stress response and compromises our ability to protect our son and daughter. You can literally be paralyzed with fear, or find yourself LOSING it with them when they come home ten minutes after curfew. In this episode I give you a tool that helps your dismantle the "F" Bomb. ("F" = fear) This way you can excavate the truth from the fear and take effective action to protect and guide your teen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Are you feeling "All Mothered Out"?You are definitely not alone. This has become a cultural phenomenon for women. In this podcast you will learn why so many moms feel "All Mothered Out" and how you can turn that around. This is the first podcast in my Dial Down the Drama series. I can't believe it, but in less than three months my book, Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting to Your Teenage Daughter---A Guide for Mother's Everywherewill be published by Amacom. Because I can't wait to share it with you, I decided that each week I would give you a couple of takeaways from each chapter of my book. I am also starting the Mom Question of the Week. On each podcast I will answer one question. If you are interested in me answering your question then you can leave me a comment here, email me at colleen@poweryourparenting.com, or go to my Facebook page at Colleen O'Grady:Power Your Parenting. I look forward to hearing from you. I actually wrote a song called "All Mothered Out." It was great therapy---I'm sure you could have written your own verse. You can go to You Tube to hear my video or just click this link https://youtu.be/Rawxc9m3WZI.
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Does your daughter feel like you are the clothing police?
Well you are not the only one. This is definitely one of the hot topics for mothers and daughters. (and not in a good way.) You give her constructive criticism. "That dress doesn't look good on you." You just want to protect her. "You can't go out wearing that shirt or that short skirt." Your daughter doesn't see your good intentions and goes ballistic.
What she hears is "you think I'm fat," or "you think I'm ugly," or "you are trying to control me." What is a mom to do?
To answer this question,I invited Catherine Cassidy to share her expertise. Catherine Cassidy founded U*styled in 2008 to give professional women the tools to live their lives in style by curating a wardrobe they love that makes getting dressed each morning easy and effortless. For Catherine, it's not just about style. It's about empowering women to step into their power using their style as a catalyst. She helps women define their style, integrate it into WHO they are and how they show up and then help them build a wardrobe they love that supports their personal and professional goals. In this episode I ask Catherine these questions.
- Brene Brown talks about the #1 shame issue for women and girls is body issues. Being a stylist how do you address this issue when helping women find their style. Would you approach teenage girls differently?
- How would you work with a teenage girl? What can a mom do if her daughter is wearing something inappropriate?
- What about mom's style...Her daughter doesn't want her dressing like a teenager but she also doesn't want to be embarrassed by what she wears. In this podcast you will learn how to talk to your daughter about her clothing and style in an empowering way. You will be given practical tips on how to approach your daughter, what you should say, and what you should avoid saying.
You want to affirm your daughters beauty, build her self confidence, and empower your daughter to find her own style.
Catherine has a message for moms too. Learn what it means to be a Style Icon. Learn more about Catherineand get her free gift How to Build A Wardrobe You Love!at www.Ustyled.com.
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No parent wants to believe their middle school teen (or younger) is sexting. Maybe it's not your teen, but it's the teen culture. One thing that moms don't think about, is that your teen may not be an initiator of the sexting but could easily be the recipient. Sexting has become a huge cultural problem for teens. Here are some statistics from 2009 and the numbers are not getting any better. The percent of teenagers sending or posting sexually suggestive messages: 39% of all teenagers, 37% of teen girls, 40% of teen boys48 Percent of teenagers say they have received such messages71 Percent of teen girls and 67% of teen guys who have sent or posted sexually suggestive content say they have sent or posted this content to a boyfriend or girlfriend.36 Percent of teen girls and 39 % of teen boys say it is common for nude or semi-nude photos to get shared with people other than the intended recipient.51 Percent of teen girls say pressure from a guy is a reason girls send sexy messages or images; only 18 % of teen boys cited pressure from female counterparts as a reason.52 Percent of teenage girls used sexting as a “sexy present” for their boyfriend.34 Percent of teen girls say they sent or posted sexually suggestive content to “feel sexy.”12 Percent of teen girls felt “pressured” to send sexually suggestive messages or images. In this episode I interview Benjamin Dancer. He is an Advisor at Jefferson County Open School where he has made a career out of mentoring young people as they come of age. He wrote the novel PATRIARCH RUN, a coming-of-age story. Benjamin writes about parenting and education. He is also a father of three. Today we are going to talk about a very important issue that catches many parents unaware--sexting. Besides being the founder of Power Your Parenting, I have been in private practice as a marriage and family therapist for over 20 years. I have worked with many teen issues over the past two decades. By far the biggest issue I have dealt with this year is the devastating consequences of sexting. Many of these clients were girls in middle school, who because of pressure, naiveness, and an undeveloped prefrontal cortex, ended up sending semi-nude pictures to boys who forwarded them throughout the community. This is every mothers worst fear. My hope is that this podcast will help moms become educated and aware, so they can educate and empower their teens to say no to sexting. Benjamin and I talk about when we were teens we made lots of mistakes. The problem in this culture, is that a mistake like sexting leaves a permanent record in the digital world. Here are some questions we address.
At what age does sexting become an issue?What moms need to know about sexting.What can moms do to prevent and protect their teen from sexting?How do you talk to your teen about sexting?What should parents do if they suspect their son or daughter is sexting? *** If your teen has been shamed or humiliated because of texting there is a lot you can do. You can help your teen get on the other side of this.The girls I have worked with were able to learn big lessons from this experience and come out wiser, stronger, and with a greater confidence. Contact Benjamin Dancer at Website:BenjaminDancer.com Blog:http://www.benjamindancer.com/Blog/
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Not only is your teen impacted by hormones, so are many perimenopausal moms. In this episode I interview Dr. Anna Garrett who has been a clinical pharmacist for over 20 years. The goal of her business is to help women who are in the middle of midlife transition. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Your son or daughter is swimming in a teen culture of drugs and alcohol. Because of this you can't help but worry. Today my dear friend Julia Wolf answers your questions about the impact of drugs and alcohol on your teen. Julia is a seasoned Licensed MFT and has a thriving private practice in the Houston area. Julia was the Director of Community and Behavioral Health at the Houston Council of Alcohol and Drug Abuse. "So what's the big deal if my teen drinks wine and beer with her friends. They all do it." First Julia and I discuss how alcohol and drugs affects the teenage brain. The teenage brain is vulnerable to outside toxins of alcohol and drugs. This is because the teen brain is under construction just like a house with no roof. Because of this teens are more at risk for addiction especially when you throw in the undeveloped prefrontal cortex. Binge drinking and drug abuse are more than a moral issue, it is a brain issue. In this episode we discussed these questions. How does alcohol or drugs put your teen at risk? How can parents know if their teen is using? What are the warning signs? What do you do if you suspect your teen is abusing alcohol or drugs?
The good news is that there is lots of support for moms and teens. One of the most important things you can do is stay connected to your teen. You want to be able to have honest and real conversations with your teen about the risks of alcohol and drugs. Most importantly you want to be your teens safe haven and take action when needed. Current research has shown that a healthy attachment between parent and teen reduces the risk of addiction. That's one of the reasons I created the Power Your Parenting program. It gives you practical ways to reconnect with your teen and open up the communication. You really can turn your relationship with your teen around. If your interested in learning more about the Power Your Parentiing program contact me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I recently talked to a local church about why moms need to feel blessed to be a blessing. Moms frequently feel anything but blessed. They feel stressed, anxious, blah, resentful, and give up on feeling good. This is totally understandable. In fact our brains have a propensity to go to the negative. That's why you can have 55 good things happen in your life and one negative thing seems to erase all the good memories. This podcast gives you practical ways that you can not only know you are blessed but you can feel blessed. When you feel blessed everything is easier. You have more tolerance for the defiant teen, moody spouse, or the draining friend. You become the light to your family and community. The good news is that to feel blessed you have to be good to yourself, but when you do everyone in your life will benefit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
School is winding down, but the stress is amping up. Finals are around the corner and the pressure is on. It's easy to find yourself in a battle mode with your teen around studying and homework. When you add stress to the mix, it's easy for your teen to blow a gasket when you ask them a simple question like, "Do you have a test tomorrow?" Tests, homework, projects, and finals can be very stressful for moms. You know their grades matter. It's easy to feel like the burden of your child's future is all on your shoulders. The good news is that it doesn't have to be. You can build a Mom Team. A great place to start is to hire a tutor, or an organizational coach. Neha Gupta, the owner of Elite Private Tutors states "she makes mom's life easier."In this podcast Neha talks about when is a good time to hire a tutor, how they can be helpful and what to look for. She gives advice on how to sell the idea of a tutor to your resistant teen who thinks they don't need any help. She also gives moms tips on how to best motivate you son and daughter and how to avoid the common pitfalls moms fall into. She believes the secret sauce for moms is to be consistently positive and encouraging to your teen. Get Neha's free report "How to Stop Your Child From Being Entitled Unmotivated and Disorganized" at www.eliteprivatetutors.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The greatest gift you can give your teenage son or daughter is to believe in them. The real question is--what do you believe about them? And what you believe, boils down to what you focus on. If you focus on their good qualities and you combine that with faith, you are going to believe good things. If you focus on their attitudes and mistakes it's going to land you in fear. When fear strikes it blinds you from the good qualities in your teen. Your sight get's restricted to the very thing you are afraid of. Fear blows things out of proportion and greatly impacts both you and your teen. Your son and daughter are significantly impacted by what you believe about them. See, there is no perfect teen. They are a work in progress. Every teen is a mixed bag of drama, mistakes, talents, beauty and amazing possibilities. Listen and learn the Five Ways to Restore Your Belief in Your Teen.
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The teenage brain is under major reconstruction during the teenage years. There is a window of opportunity to "use it or lose it." What this means is that the brain is doing some major pruning of brain cells.
If you use these brain cells these neural connections will stay. Experience is what causes these neurons to fire and wire together. If you don't use them you will lose them and they will wither away. The neurons that get used repeatedly by experience are wired together into the brain's electrical networks. If the digital world is not monitored it can be a barrier to your daughter "using it."
It's not that the digital world is bad. There are many benefits.The Internet is a great resource for learning, sharing information, connecting with people, and being entertained. But how things have changed since we were in high school.The new digital world catches us off guard, because it's unfamiliar territory. When I was in High School I had a phone with a telephone cord. I could only talk in the kitchen or in my parents' bedroom. There was some built in accountability, but no more. With the ever-changing apps, instant messaging, texting, skyping, on cell phones, ipad's, and laptops; monitoring your teen can feel like an uphill battle.
Shelly is a therapist and has a daughter who is in middle school. Shelly came to my office extremely upset. She had just gotten her phone bill. Her 7th grade daughter had sent three thousand texts in the past month and most of them were from midnight to 4am on school nights.
Shelly was shocked, hurt and felt extremely betrayed. Shelly was unaware and unprepared. She didn't think about the addictive side of technology. She didn't consider her daughter's undeveloped PFC, and the dopamine thrill of connecting with boys at night. Once Shelly was educated about teens and cell phones, she realized it wasn't personal. Shelly intervened and put the brakes on, and took her daughter's cell phone at night. There are three big reasons you can "lose it" with electronics, which is too much screen time, inappropriate content, and chronic distraction.
Dr. David Walsh in his book Smart Parenting, Smarter Kidsstates, "Today the average school-aged kid spends more than fifty-three hoursa week watching television, playing video games, or using the computer." Most teens don't get this much sleep in a week.
A huge problem with this amount of screen time is that it is empty brain calories.They are not investing their attention, skills, and abilities in real life. This especially impacts their relationships. Many moms have complained that when their daughter has a friend spend the night that they barely talk to each other. They can be in the same room texting other friends, or even each other. As shocking as this is to us, in 2010 Pew Internet & American Life Project found that face-to-face communication fell behind texting as teen's favorite way of communicating with friends.
This causes big problems for brain development. This is a critical time for the teenage brain to wire networks for communication skills, empathic listening and the ability to interpret and respond to non-verbal cues. All of these skills take practice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this show you'll learn how I define the POWER in parenting, in contrast to the counterfeit of true power which is force. Many moms feel powerless instead of empowered in their parenting. One big reason for this is fear. When your teen is out of control you feel a mixture of fear, anger, and shame. Before you know it you are drawn into the drama vortex with your teen. This is when it's easy to default into using force. The problem is force is destructive to your teen and your relationship. It doesn't motivate or teach your teen anything except how to lose control and use force. But there is a deep, authentic power that heals, instructs, and protects your teen and your relationship.It's the power of taking care of YOU. It's the power of your energy, clarity, knowledge, love, play, rest, strategy, and spirituality. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Welcome to the very first Power Your Parenting Moms with Teens Podcast. I am so happy that you are here listening to my very first show. This is a gathering place for moms to be encouraged, nurtured and inspired. Also, you’ll learn the latest in teen research and trends. and get practical parenting tips. You really can improve your relationship with your teen, and enjoy the teenage years. Todays show is going to be a little different than a typical show. I'm going to give you a quick introduction of who I am and why I created Power Your Parenting. You'll hear what Moms with Teens Podcast is about and why I'm really hosting this show. I'll tell you how the show is structured. You'll hear how this will benefit you and why you’ll want to listen to this podcast in the future. I know you are super busy moms I want to make this worth your time. I will do my best to provide you some awesome content on this podcast, that you can apply right away. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices