The Same Boat: Recent Episodes
Roy Kim
A podcast that aims to help you feel there are others in the same boat as you. Roy Kim, an ordained pastor and licensed marriage and family therapist (MFT license# 82450), will interview a variety of Christians who handled difficult circumstances imperfectly, and experienced the amazing grace of God. He will also share reflections about the intersection of psychology and Christianity.
Roy and Wilson engage in a candid conversation with Kimberly Leong about living with bipolar disorder. Some talking points include: * Roy's regrets as a pastor when interacting with a member with bipolar disorder * Kimberly's vulnerable recounting of some manic episodes * The temptation to argue someone out of a distorted reality * The healing properties of sleep, and the safety that allows for deep sleep * The road to mental stability, and the supportive people who journeyed with her * The wonderful experience of authentic weakness in the presence of Jesus * Do medication and therapy help? * Living and thriving with mental illness
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim
Other podcasts:
SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927]
New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
[Warning: This episode contains discussion of suicidality. Please use discretion when listening.]
Wilson and Roy share an intimate conversation with Sean Fabros about his experience with depression and suicidality. Some talking points include:
- Anger towards life and injustice
- Pressure within the family to be (or not be) a certain way
- The pain of rejection
- Feeling isolated from friends and lacking a sense of belonging
- Questioning life
- Feeling invisible and unimportant
- The therapy experience
- Plans to end my life
- How God showed up and showed me a different type of death that leads to Life
Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: 988
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim
Other podcasts:
SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927]
New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
Wilson Wang and Roy Kim continue discussing the topic of sexual addiction. Some of our talking points: * The case for accountability groups * Paul Kelly's 5 column plan * Practicing honesty is part of recovery. Ministry leaders must lead the way. * Our hope for the Church to be gracious to those who truly want to heal. * We had no one to coach us through our emotions, and this created consequences in adulthood.
We hope something we share helps you feel like there are others in the same boat as you!
Special thanks to Paul Kelly for teaching me the 5 Column Plan http://www.paulkellycounseling.com
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim
Other podcasts:
SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927]
New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
Wilson Wang and Roy Kim continue discussing the topic of sexual addiction. Some of our talking points: * How many pastors do we think have a sexual addiction? * How do pastors preach so well and lead so well, yet have this huge secret life? * Are there yellow flags in "spotting" a sexual addict in ministry leadership? * If people are getting saved and ministry is thriving because of a pastor's leadership, is their sexual addiction the necessary blood payment since it's their outlet for stress? * What should we be asking God to do in this worldwide situation?
We hope something we share helps you feel like there are others in the same boat as you!
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim
Other podcasts:
SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927]
New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
Wilson Wang and Roy Kim dive into part one of the topic of sexual addiction. Some of our talking points:
- Confessing porn viewing, masturbation, and other sexual behaviors can feel as difficult as confessing murder.
- There are very few church onramps for talking about sexual addiction.
- What enabled Wilson and Roy to talk more openly about it?
- Is masturbation really that bad? What's a better way to phrase this question?
- How many in the church engage in compulsive sexual behavior?
- What are some ways to address sexual addiction in the church?
- Stages of Faith (http://www.janethagberg.com/critical-journey-book.html)
- Self Guided Sobriety Group 90 Day Challenge (https://www.newlegacycounseling.com/self-guided-sobriety-group/)
We hope something we share helps you feel like there are others in the same boat as you!
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim
Other podcasts:
SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927]
New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
Wilson and Roy start a new series on Mental Health. We first address Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. We hope our conversation helps raise awareness and compassion for adults and kids who struggle to focus, to stay still, and who are unfairly labeled as lazy or dumb. We hope something we share helps you feel like there are others in the same boat as you!
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim
Other podcasts:
SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927]
New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
Wilson Wang and Roy Kim continue their series focusing on the topic of Relationships. In this episode, Jenn Hsu joins to talk about underrated qualities in a partner. Some of our talking points:
- We say we want to marry a Christian, but what does that really mean?
- Does your partner know how to negotiate well? Do you know how to negotiate well? Does it feel like you both have an equal voice?
- When beauty and accomplishments don't matter anymore, will you want to spend decades on end with this person?
As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you.
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Follow Jenn Hsu on Instagram: @homeneathome_IG
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim
Other podcasts: SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927]
New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
Wilson Wang and Roy Kim continue their series focusing on the topic of Relationships. In this episode, Jenn Hsu joins to talk about overrated qualities in a partner. Some of our talking points:
- Addiction to the feeling of falling in love, or "limerence"
- Beauty, muscles, and charisma (Single's Inferno, anyone?)
- Wealth, status, and high ambition
- Opposites attract
- "Good" Christians dating "bad" people
- Questions to ask yourself to test if a certain quality is overrated
As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you.
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Follow Jenn Hsu on Instagram: @homeneathome_IG
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim
Other podcasts:
SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927]
New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
Wilson Wang and Roy Kim continue their series focusing on the topic of Relationships. In this episode, Jenn Hsu joins to talk about the wild west of online dating. Some of our talking points:
- Our reasons for trying online dating
- Memorable online dating stories
- Pros and cons of online dating
- Why introverts often prefer online dating
- Online chemistry can be very different from in person chemistry
- Online dating tips
- Roy got catfished
As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you.
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Follow Jenn Hsu on Instagram: @jenn_is_n.eat
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim
Other podcasts:
SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927]
New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
Roy Kim and Wilson Wang are joined again by Jenn Hsu, continuing their series revolving around the topic of Relationships. In this episode, we talk about different approaches to dating. Some of our talking points:
- "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris messed us up!
- You learn a lot about yourself when you're in a dating relationship
- The Chicken approach to dating vs The Eagle approach
- Do you have an off-ramp in your dating relationship?
- A successful relationship does not always end in marriage
- Sex has a way of masking true intimacy and character flaws
- Being desperate is not good for your evaluation skills
- We are complete as single people
- What do we look for when we are dating someone?
- Go to more Larping events
As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you.
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Follow Jenn Hsu on Instagram: @jenn_is_n.eat
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim
Other podcasts:
SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927]
New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
Mentioned in today's episode: "How to Get a Date Worth Keeping" by Henry Cloud
https://www.amazon.com/How-Get-Date-Worth-Keeping/dp/0310262658
Roy Kim and Wilson Wang are joined by Jenn Hsu, continuing their series revolving around the topic of Relationships. In this episode, we talk about same gender friendships from a straight perspective. Some of our talking points:
- Why are so many male friendships so superficial?
- The difficulty for men to be emotionally intelligent in marriage with limited emotional practice as a single
- What happens when we are not asked to be a bridesmaid?
- Does everyone have a bestie? Should everyone have a bestie?
- Ways we feel prioritized in a friendship
- Things we look for in a friendship
- Friendship doom stories
As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you.
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Follow Jenn Hsu on Instagram: @jenn_is_n.eat
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim
Other podcasts:
SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927]
New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
Roy Kim and Wilson Wang are joined again by Hiroko Hsieh, continuing our series on the topic of Relationships. In this episode, we talk about toxic friendships. Some of our talking points: * Being lonely can make us make poor relationship choices * Narcissism, Codependency, and Insecure Attachment * Is there something about us that makes us stay in toxic friendships? * Are Christians called to be close with everyone out of agape love? * Asian collective and loyal culture makes it extra challenging to navigate toxic friendships * Empathy and differentiation * Concrete ideas about dealing with toxic friendships * Jesus' modeling of Tiers of Friendship * Resources for us to get better at navigating friendships
As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you. Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster] Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img] Music by Nathan Baldwin Hiroko Hsieh's website: www.restingsheep.com Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827 Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim Other podcasts: SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927] New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
Roy Kim and Wilson Wang are joined by Hiroko Hsieh, continuing their series revolving around the topic of Relationships. In this episode, we talk about co-ed friendships. This conversation was motivated by the controversy of Pastor Matt Chandler stepping down because of his communication with a female friend. Some of our talking points: * What do co-ed friendships provide that same gender friendships do not? * What kinds of co-ed friendships are healthy when married, and what kinds are not? * Are there unique rules for pastors and co-ed relationships because of the power and trust dynamic? * Wilson and Hiroko's story of rich co-ed frienship * Roy's story of betrayal due to co-ed frienship * Co-ed frienship and sexual addiction
As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you. Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster] Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img] Music by Nathan Baldwin Hiroko Hsieh's website: www.restingsheep.com Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827 Roy Kim can be found on social media @thisisroykim Other podcasts: SA Speakeasy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sa-speakeasy/id1438434927] New Therapist FAQ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-therapist-faq/id1514669839]
Roy Kim and Wilson Wang dive into a new series revolving around the topic of Relationships. In this episode, we talk about how lonely it can feel when we don't have significant relationships, whether they be romantic relationships or friendships.
Some of our talking points:
- We get why people talk to toys or imaginary friends.
- Being extremely popular and extremely lonely at the same time.
- The loneliness of pastoring.
- Escaping from loneliness through games and porn.
- What happens if all your friends are married/dating or don't have time for you?
- The heartache of being an older single and there's no natural "group" for you at church.
- What if your hobbies don’t align with the majority of your church people?
- What are strategies to make friends as adults?
- Do married people do things that are off-putting to singles?
- Dating and marriage does not cure loneliness.
As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you.
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
View the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/8F8DBX4Oh58
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
Roy Kim @thisisroykim
Asian American Christians have been leaving the immigrant church for various reasons, and one of the consequences is strong homesickness.
Wilson Wang and Roy Kim share some of their reflections about missing the immigrant church, despite all its flaws.
Some of their talking points include:
- Nostalgic and familiar Asian family dynamics at church
- The centrality of eating together at church
- Getting scolded at the immigrant church is normal, but getting scolded at a White church is grounds for a fist fight
- Pastoral visitations are so inefficient, but can feel so good!
- Obedience to a pastor who knows you vs obedience to a pastor on a screen; and more.
Plus, we answer listener questions such as: Is there a way to explain to people why you are leaving church, but without slandering?
As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you.
YouTube version of this episode: https://youtu.be/z9-r2N6a09U
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
One of the reasons why Asian American Christians have been leaving the immigrant church is because of their experiences of spiritual abuse.
Wilson Wang, Jenna Fu, and Roy Kim share some of their thoughts, experiences, and questions about spiritual abuse in the immigrant church.
Some of their talking points include:
- Getting fired in the immigrant church
- Boundary-less family style church life
- Parallels with domestic abuse
- Korean churches resembling military hierarchy
- Trying to remember an immigrant pastor giving a genuine apology
- Good and Bad ways to trust a pastor, and more.
As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you.
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
YouTube version: https://youtu.be/vuZWq-Nm7vg
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com). You can listen to his sermons here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-church-oc/id1038985827
A common experience for people in English speaking ministries (EM's) is feeling like they have no voice. They feel an innate pressure to comply with the immigrant church leadership, with little room for discussion.
What does it do to a person's psyche when you feel like your voice doesn't count, not just in a church context, but in any context for that matter?
Wilson Wang, Jenna Fu, and Roy Kim share some of their own EM experiences of having no voice, as well as their thoughts of the implications.
Some of their talking points include: invasion of privacy; protecting the pulpit from false doctrine; Korean Morning Prayer; when is it time to leave? is it grace to allow a congregation to collapse? and more.
As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you.
You can watch the discussion here: https://youtu.be/xMhDuCDEKjo
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com)
English speaking ministries (EM's) and immigrant churches have had trouble finding ways to thrive together for various reasons. Many of these EM's have left the 1st generation churches, a trend that Helen Lee coined a "silent exodus."
Wilson Wang, Jenna Fu, and Roy Kim share some of their own EM experiences. They discuss mixed feelings such as "It's so nice to belong here with a village of aunties and uncles" as well as "How do we belong where there's so much condescension and heresy?" As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you.
You can also watch our conversation here: https://youtu.be/zHOemzExImc
Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Produced by Clayton Yip [@yipster_hipster]
Logo by Hyeyoon Chong [@hye.img]
Music by Nathan Baldwin
Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC (www.renewchurchoc.com) and author of the "Called to Be" series and "The Adulting Journal" (www.calledtobeproject.com)
A story about my wife, my stepdaughter, and the Lord God who wove us together. This episode bookends a beautiful collection of stories and conversations about life behind the curtain. The things we don't post about. The things that drive us to isolation. The things that make us say "Thank God you said that" because we didn't want to say it first.
My deep heartfelt thanks to all those who have supported this podcast in various ways. It really is an honor to be in the same boat as you. I hope you will continue to show your support as the same boat sets sail in season two ⛵️
** Make sure to listen to the very end. You never know, there might be some jokes told by a 10 1/2 year old ...
Go to a good school. Get a good job. Make good money. Marry a good person. Sounds simple enough, right? Sure except for the ones who aren't smart enough, not skilled or disciplined enough, not savvy enough, not attractive enough. Not good enough.
I invite you to listen to Rodrigo Castro's journey into the heart of darkness, where he realized not only was he not good enough for the goals of society, but he also wasn't good enough to make atonement for his sins.
Thankfully, just as God showed He can use a talking donkey to do His will, He can also use an LSD trip to reveal His majesty and grace.
Please rate, review, subscribe and share with a friend! For information on supporting the podcast, please go to www.patreon.com/thesameboat
Connect with me on Facebook or email: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
What do you do when your church boss is ok with false teaching? What do you do when there is someone influential in your church who pretty much resembles a cult leader? What do you do if you have to decide between ministry and spouse?
Listen in as I speak with "Bob" about this predicament. This story is both awful and awesome. (Bob's voice has been digitally altered to protect his identity).
All feedback is welcome: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Please help support the podcast by sharing, reviewing, or becoming a patron >> www.patreon.com/thesameboat
Hatty Lee rejoins me to continue our discussion about growing up as parentified children. In this episode we cover topics such as:
- The importance of intentionally creating space for ourselves to identify and express our emotions
- The fear of losing our identity or role as a caregiver
- Is there only one way to honor our parents?
- Avoiding being a "burden" to others
- Can we prevent our own kids from being parentified children?
- What can family therapy look like with our parents?
- Is it helpful to "retire" our parents?
Follow Hatty on Instagram @hattyjlee, and visit her website www.oakandstonetherapy.com
Follow Roy on Instagram @newlegacycounseling, and visit his website www.newlegacycounseling.com
Would LOVE your feedback: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Please help support the podcast by sharing on social, reviewing on your podcast app, or becoming a patron >> www.patreon.com/thesameboat
"You are not equipped to give your parents the love and care they needed and did not get from their own caregivers and partner," says Hatty J. Lee, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist.
Many of us have felt tremendous pressure to listen to our parents' marital problems, to protect them from loneliness or worthless feelings, to give them grandchildren for their legacy. Sometimes it seems like obligation, duty, or even pity.
Where do these feelings and thoughts come from? What happens when we live as a surrogate spouse, as a surrogate savior?
Hatty and I do a deep dive into this hot topic that affects so many of us. Join the conversation!
Follow Hatty on Instagram @hattyjlee or visit her website: www.oakandstonetherapy.com
Follow Roy on Instagram @newlegacycounseling or visit his website: www.newlegacycounseling.com
Would LOVE your feedback: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Please help support the podcast by sharing on social, reviewing on your podcast app, or becoming a patron >> www.patreon.com/thesameboat
What is it like being undocumented in the US? 2 Koreans who grew up in America, but have not been granted citizenship, bravely tell their stories.
Would LOVE your feedback: thesameboatpod@gmail.com
Please help support the podcast by sharing on social, reviewing on your podcast app, or becoming a patron >> www.patreon.com/thesameboat
Cheryl Kang Prout and Vivianne Kelly of Cordial Family Lawyers, LLP provide an intimate glimpse into the world of divorce mediation. Some of the questions we discuss:
- Are all family lawyers the same?
- How does divorce affect kids?
- How is your conscience affected as a family law attorney?
- Is there a way to make divorce less painful or harmful?
- How can mediators be ministers?
I was blown away by how much I learned from my guests, and I hope you will be illuminated as well. Please share this episode with anyone you know who is considering divorce.
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Has anyone ever apologized to you, and it really didn't feel like an apology at all? Have you ever tried apologizing to someone, and it had little effect on the person? On today's episode, Christine Lister and I discuss effective ways to apologize, and how resolving conflict increases intimacy. Plus, there's an additional surprise guest interview you won't want to miss!
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Something very bizarre and scary happened to Aly Lee, a student at University of Virginia. Tune in to hear what happened. Discover that you're not alone as we talk about:
- The agony of not having answers
- Worst case scenarios
- Choosing between praying for good outcomes and embracing suffering
- Why certain people mean well, but just aren't helpful.
- And more!
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If you'd like to read more of Alyson's writing, check out these links:
http://www.cavalierdaily.com/article/2018/10/i-had-a-stroke
http://www.cavalierdaily.com/article/2018/11/six-mris-and-counting
http://www.cavalierdaily.com/article/2018/12/back-to-new-normalcy
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Catherine Morrill, Susette Magana and I wrap up our discussion of the book "How We Love" by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. We talk about the concept of Secure Connection as the antidote to the 5 unhealthy love styles that we all tend to find ourselves repeating.
Some of the topics we cover:
What does it mean to securely connect with another person?
If I don’t naturally connect with others, can I get better? If so, how?
Is there a better way for me to be understood by others?
Why are emotions important, and why do we downplay them?
“God, change my spouse” and other unhelpful prayers
And more!
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Licensed MFTs Catherine Morrill (www.soulrestorationproject.org/catherine-morrill) and Susette Magana (www.susettemagana.com) and I discuss the relationship book "How We Love" by Milan and Kay Yerkovich.
Chances are that you can relate to at least one of these statements:
Why do people get so emotional, why can't they just move on?
My spouse has communication issues.
Sometimes I tell white lies to avoid conflict.
I have trouble saying no.
When people apologize to me, it's often too little too late.
I want to feel deep connection, I want to be pursued.
I stay in destructive relationships.
I lose my temper but they made me.
If so, then you'll want to listen in! And you definitely don't have to be married to benefit from the book and the discussion.
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Have you had an abortion? Whether you had an abortion long ago, or just recently, the shame and guilt can feel like it will never go away. Some women (and men) tell themselves they will take this secret to the grave.
I interviewed one woman who was willing to share her abortion story. She found healing, love and forgiveness, and I hope that her story will lead you to experience the same.
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Danny Roh gives us a rare look inside the mind and heart of a youth pastor who got fired. We talk about bitterness, shame, how he said goodbye to his students, unemployment, the difficulty of forgiveness, and the dangers of making pastoring become your identity.
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Daniel and Sora tell their incredibly raw story about miscarriage, unhelpful responses, faith and atheism.
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Michelle Park shares about her epic journey with chronic pain.
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Janet Chong and Sarah Chong share about the joys and pains of the artist pathway.
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Jim Lee, the Small Groups Coordinator at YoungNak Celebration Church in L.A., shares about the lessons he learned from his painful divorce, and the redeeming acts of God who blesses divorcees through Jim's ministry.
Penny Jo shares her story of regrettable decisions leading up to, and during, her first marriage, and how God lavished grace upon her. (Themes include: Addiction, Enabling, Boundaries, Divorce, DivorceCare, Discerning God's Will, Dating, Vocation as Ministry)
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This is the conclusion of the Safe People series. In this episode, I explore why we tend to choose unsafe people, why it's so hard to end unsafe relationships, and things to consider if we have unsafe parents.
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Dr. Chi Chung shares a fascinating story of how his life narrative didn't go as planned. He openly shares about missions, wrong assumptions, major illness, and how to tell if God really loves you.
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Young and Tim Chao share the compelling story of being parents to their 3rd child, who has Down's Syndrome.
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A continued look at how to tell if someone is safe or unsafe. Also, how you can become a safe person to others.
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Are you in relationship or friendship with a safe person? Do you know how to recognize one? Part 1 on the topic of Safe People, as explained by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend in their book "Safe People."
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Roy interviews James and Salome Hu, who describe the joys and pains of raising an autistic son.
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Roy Kim, the host of The Same Boat, shares his own story of heartbreak, rage, failure, and grace.
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