The Love Fix: Recent Episodes
Sherry Gaba and Carla Romo
Love doesn’t have to suck. We know this from overcoming our own dating and relationship horror stories, which led us to being experts in healing from codependency, dating and toxic relationships. Our 30 year age difference brings you an array of perspectives at any stage in life. If you’re dating, in a relationship or divorced, we’ve got your back. With leading experts, you'll learn the latest tools on how to navigate dating and how to thrive in a successful relationship.
In the heartfelt finale of "The Love Fix" podcast, Sherry and Carla take a nostalgic journey through the show's evolution, mirroring the ebbs and flows of relationships. The dynamic duo reflects not only on the success of achieving their podcasting goals but also on the profound impact the show has had on their personal growth. Like any enduring friendship, "The Love Fix" has been a catalyst for positive change, teaching Sherry and Carla valuable lessons along the way, and they take a minute to give thanks for the unwavering support and listenership that has made "The Love Fix" a cherished part of their lives.
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
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Sherry and Carla start things off with a Love Fix Question from a listener who is in an open relationship with her husband, but feels like he is not upholding his side of being honest and transparent. Then, they welcome Multiamory, a group that offers support and advice for modern relationships through their podcasts and books, whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, casual dating or if you just do relationships differently. If you want to deepen your current relationships, find your ideal romantic partners or develop a better understanding of yourself, then you have come to the right place by checking them out.
We are offering complimentary break free from toxic and codependent relationship strategy calls that are exclusively for our listeners. Head to thelovefix.com/contact to sign up.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
Multiamory: Website | Podcast | Book
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is multiamory?
- How is multiamory different from polyamory?
- What is NRE, or new relationship energy?
- How our different attachment styles can also show up in polyamorous relationships.
- The difference between “swinging” and polyamory.
- How love addiction can affect a relationship that is both monogamous and non-monogamous.
- Tips for healthy communication about defining that relationship, no matter what it looks like.
- How can cheating happen if a relationship is non-monogamous?
- The importance in getting a professional and outside perspective to sort out your feelings if you are unsure if you want to have a non-monogamous relationship, or if you are being gaslit or people pleasing.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Carla nurses her newly broken bone, and then she and Sherry take a Love Fix question from a listener whose boyfriend has photos of his ex on his phone. She’s wondering if this is normal and just annoying, or super sketchy red flag behavior. They then welcome Tess McMechan, a Certified Somatic and Trauma Integration Practitioner. Tess works one-on-one with people to help them identify the root cause of why they are suffering, heal their trauma, break cycles, and deprogram conditionings. In the conversation, Tess talks about how and why red flags in relationships often stem from past trauma, and what we can do about it. She also talks about the inspiration behind her audiobook release for her new book, “Breaking Free: Empowering Yourself Beyond Victimhood.”
We are offering complimentary break free from toxic and codependent relationship strategy calls that are exclusively for our listeners. Head to thelovefix.com/contact to sign up.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
Tess: Breaking Free Audio Book - 15% off | IG | Website
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- When we pick partners, we tend to mirror our relationships with our parents.
- How do we know when we are triggered in the present moment if it’s really stemming from a past wound?
- Tess shares some ways she helps her clients learn to self-soothe and work through abandonment issues.
- What are some things we can notice when dating that may later turn out to be red flags?
- Why do we seem to attract the same (very wrong) type of person repeatedly?
- What trauma responses can look like in relationships.
- How miscommunication about triggers and trauma can end relationships.
- Can two codependents heal together?
- The importance of individual work and awareness in healing codependency in relationships.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Carla and Sherry first share their love for their favorite takeout joints, and they take a Love Fix Question from a listener who is in the middle of getting divorced and feels quite fearful about what it will mean for their financial stability. They then welcome Seth Nelson, a Tampa-based family lawyer known for coming up with creative solutions to difficult problems, and Pete Wright, an experienced broadcaster who has spent 30 years helping brands shape their stories together, Seth and Pete aim to provide divorcing couples with practical advice and hope through their podcast, How to Split a Toaster, a podcast about saving your relationships.
We are offering complimentary break free from toxic and codependent relationship strategy calls that are exclusively for our listeners. Head to thelovefix.com/contact to sign up.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
Seth and Pete: How to Split a Toaster | NLG
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Why is dealing with a narcissist so frustrating in the divorce process?
- Some of Pete and Seth’s biggest wins when representing their clients.
- How to handle the fears of kidnapping and creating a sense of privacy and security in the courtroom.
- Why is divorcing a narcissistic a nightmare?
- Why a “tough” attorney may not always be the thing you want.
- The common questions that people have when people get divorced are: how long will it take, and how much will it cost?
- Why do narcissists tend to buckle in court?
- Remember - when dealing with a narcissist in divorce, it’s not personal. Seth has even represented the same man twice and saw how he treated both women the same way.
- Focusing on behaviors in court that back up narcissistic behaviors, rather than using the term “narcissist”.
- How the divorce process and support for domestic abuse victims has evolved over the years.
- What is the motive of a narcissist during a divorce?
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Carla and Sherry first take a Love Fix question from a listener who is feeling the attraction fade towards their partner. They would like to know whether it’s worth sticking through things, or if it’s the beginning of the end. They then welcome Love Fix guest Yasmin Kerkez, Co-Founder of Family Support Resources, an organization,helping transform the lives of people living with family conflicts and estrangement. Yasmin talks about what family estrangement is, the common reasons it happens, and how to let go of the shame and blame around the trauma that typically comes with family estrangement.
We are offering complimentary break free from toxic and codependent relationship strategy calls that are exclusively for our listeners. Head to thelovefix.com/contact to sign up.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
Yasmin: Family Support Resources | Facebook
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is family estrangement, and what are the common reasons why people break away from their family?
- Does family estrangement usually happen quickly or does it occur slowly over time?
- How family estrangement can make the person feel low self worth and shame.
- The intersection between family estrangement and trauma.
- The most common areas of emotional trauma that result from a family breakdown.
- How being estranged from a parent affects intimate partner relationships.
- Some real life examples of where family estrangement is the best option.
- Always listen to your gut instinct and take the time and space you need to heal.
- Is divorce a form of family estrangement?
- How the two words “yet” or “currently” can produce a huge mindset shift and give us more grace and space towards our healing.
- Where can people go for more community, connection and hope on this topic?
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Carla and Sherry first start the show talking about their preference for sweet vs. sour candies, and then they take a Love Fix question from a listener who feels like they are walking on eggshells around their partner. They are seeking advice on how to move on from past arguments and make some real progress, but aren’t even sure if their partner is open to it. They then welcome Anne Blythe, Founder of BTR.org and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast. BTR.org offers daily group sessions from women, victims of emotional and psychological abuse and sexual coercion with multiple sessions a day in every time zone. Anne is also the author of the educational picture book, Trauma Mama Husband Drama and a frequently requested speaker at events such as the National Center on Sexual Exploitation Global Summit.
We are offering complimentary break free from toxic and codependent relationship strategy calls that are exclusively our listeners. Head to thelovefix.com/contact to sign up.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
Anne: BTR | Podcast | Books
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- The importance of creating relationship check-ins.
- What is BTR.org, and what are the services they offer?
- What is sexual coercion?
- There are subtle types of threats in marriage that are often overlooked.
- What if a partner is using pornography against the other partner’s wishes?
- How does codependency relate to victims of betrayal, trauma and abuse?
- Sexual coercion marriage is actually very common.
- How can we create healthy conversation about our sexual needs in relationships?
- The importance of addressing the abuse first.
- Why Does He Do That and The Verbally Abuse Relationship are two books that Anne recommends for more knowledge, along with BTR’s Living Free Workshop.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla kickstart the show by discussing their favorite dating apps and Sherry's preferred age range. They then tackle a Love Fix Question from a listener who consistently feels dating jitters around 3 or 4 and is looking for advice on how to move forward and finally commit. Next up, they're joined by Jacob Lucas, a renowned UK dating coach with over 700,000 followers, real-life methods, and an impressive media presence, to uncover the secrets of successful dating.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
Jacob: IG | TikTok
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Jacob’s obsession with dating coaching and helping people find a great partner.
- Jacob’s philosophy on attraction and dating, and how much physical attraction matters in the first stages of getting to know someone.
- Why jealousy is such a big red flag in dating and relationships.
- You shouldn’t have to downplay yourself or play small just to make a man feel comfortable.
- How did Jacob meet his girlfriend?
- What if I guy tells you that he is intimidated by you?
- Jacob’s tips for women out there in the dating pool on how to make stronger connections with quality men.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla kick this week off with a Love Fix Question from a listener wondering how to cohabitate with a partner who isn’t the biggest dog fan, and she’s wondering how she and her pooch can compromise when he moves in. Then, they welcome Whitney Walker, a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in addiction, eating disorders, trauma, and spirituality. She also works as a recovery coach and spiritual guide. Whitney opened a private practice in the California Bay Area where she sees clients, couples, and families. Whitney created the “Women Waken” podcast, a holistic guide to wellness and abundant self-love along with an accompanying YouTube channel.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
Whitney:
Women Waken Podcast | LinkedIn | IG | YouTube
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What led Whitney to create the Women Waken podcast and create a tribe of women.
- Feminine energy and its role in society.
- Why we need Divine Feminine Expression in predominantly male-driven fields.
- Whitney’s story of learning to not live off breadcrumbs and waiting for the right soul connection.
- What is love addiction?
- It’s a daily practice to work on codependency and fill your cup up.
- With letting go of codependency, you can find more connection and adventure in your life.
- Self-care and self love as the antidote to feeling rejected and abandoned.
- How do your interactions change when you do the work of embracing yourself and letting go of codependent habits and thinking?
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry is in her self love era, and it all starts with the hair. She and Carla take a Love Fix Question from a listener that is interested in adding in a coach along with her trauma therapy, and has some questions on the timing and finding the right coach to fit the job. They then welcome Lilli Bewley, a seasoned dating coach with over a decade of experience in personal development. Her own journey took her from mere survival to thriving in both love and purpose. Today, Lilli is dedicated to assisting single, accomplished women in rediscovering the joy of dating and finding genuine love. With a mission to rekindle the fun in dating, even after divorce, in your 30s, 40s, 50s, or after years of singledom, Lilli shares her insights and expertise on navigating the path to love and companionship.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
Lilly:
Website | IG |
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is wrong with the personal development industry today?
- What are feminine dating archetypes, and how do you know which one you are?
- It’s not dating that sucks, but the experience of it that sucks.
- How Lilli used apps to get her ready to meet her man in real life.
- How to jump out of the “Delete and Download” cycle on apps and get intentional about what you want.
- The ways that our patterns of dating are informed by our past trauma.
- Yes, developing processes and systems in dating can be sexy and save us time and energy.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla start the episode pointing out that you shouldn’t trust everything you see online about relationships. They then take a Love Fix Question from a listener who feels ashamed of their past and wants to stop caring about what others think. Then, they welcome guest Rachel Harrison, an inspiring woman who founded the Recover Your Soul podcast and community over three years ago. Through her personal journey of recovery from alcoholism, control addiction, and codependency she experienced profound changes in her life. These experiences led her to discover the transformation and the power of a spiritual path to a happy and healthy life and what she calls Soul Recovery.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
Rachel:
Recover Your Soul Podcast | Recover Your Soul
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- More about Rachel’s own path to sobriety.
- What does Rachel mean when she refers to “Soul Recovery”?
- How codependency often runs the addiction.
- The importance of detaching with love in one’s recovery.
- Rachel’s 9 Steps to Soul Recovery.
- More about the role of trauma in some addictions.
- Rachel talks about making a long marriage work by also not trying to fix the person and letting them have their own journey.
- The important step for Rachel to be honest with herself is that she is powerless over alcohol.
- There can be very real physical and mental manifestations when we try to put all of our energy into taking care of someone else and mending their addictions.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla have a funny chat about their coffee preferences before they get into a Love Fix question from a listener who is trying to break away from pleasing people, but still isn’t comfortable or confident while stating their needs. They then sit down with two incredible guests who are changing the game in the world of sexual empowerment and pleasure, Amy Baldwin and April Lampert. Amy is a certified sex educator, relationship coach, and co-owner of a mother-daughter online pleasure boutique. April is the Co-owner of the innovative pleasure product company Hot Octopuss. Together, they've created the Shameless Sex Podcast, a platform dedicated to breaking down barriers and inspiring open conversations about sexuality.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
April and Amy:
Shameless Podcast | Pure Pleasure Shop | Shameless Sex | Hot Octopuss
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Sherry’s family sold sex toys?!
- How Amy and April made their way to sex education and learned to empower themselves in and out of the bedroom.
- What inspired the Shameless Sex podcast, and how it created a community of women looking to expand their sexual knowledge and shed the stigma of shame around sex.
- Our mindset around sex can have so much to do with how we were raised and taught around sex growing up.
- As women, what do we have to do in order to fully embody our own sexuality?
- How can someone start to get comfortable with their own needs and sexuality?
- How does codependency relate to sexuality and speaking up in the bedroom?
- A few must-read resources that April and Amy recommend, including The Erotic Mind.
- The importance of communication in sexual relationships, particularly when it comes to using sex toys.
- What defines a healthy sex life?
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla first share a little about the infamous Villages community in Florida, and then they take a Love Fix question from a listener wondering how they can stop feeling triggered from past situations in their new relationship. They then welcome Marlena Tillhon, a psychotherapist and relationship coach specializing in helping people heal from past trauma caused by unhealthy relationships. Marlena works with her clients so they can create healthy, loving and fulfilling relationships so they can feel loved for who they are today.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
Marlena:
Website | IG
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How negatively unhealed trauma affects our relationship.
- Learning to break the cycle of getting in unhealthy relationships.
- Appreciating the learning lessons in shorter relationships instead of feeling shame around them.
- The importance of codependent people learning to show up as they are instead of feeling the need to be perfect or control the outcome.
- What is the codependent nightmare?
- How Marlena learned to distinguish love from the traditional view of relationships, which in turn helped codependent thoughts and behaviors.
- Some of the most successful and thoughtful people also have traits that align with codependency.
- It could be anxious attachment, or it just could be a normal response to someone’s avoidant behavior.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla kick off the show with a Love Fix question from a recent divorcee who is looking for tips around dating, especially when they aren’t sure if they ever want to get married again. This leads to a conversation about how important it is to work on your issues before you enter the dating game. They then welcome internationally known psychotherapist, speaker, author and divorce recovery expert, Vikki Stark. Vikki is the director of the Sedona Counseling Center of Montreal and is known for her groundbreaking book, Runaway Husbands, which has led her to mentor a worldwide community of women recovering from unexpected divorce.
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
Vikki:
Runaway Husbands | Website
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is a “runaway husband” and “wife abandonment syndrome”?
- Vikki’s story of her husband abruptly ending their marriage, the soft signs that were there, and how she learned to trust again.
- How women can use shame and grief into a catapult for living a great life and learning to be resilient.
- Why are runaway husbands so cold and distant all of a sudden, when they were loving what seemed like just a moment before?
- Are runaway husbands also narcissistic or is there a personality disorder occurring?
- The worldwide community that Vikki is creating out of wonderful women that have experienced wife abandonment syndrome.
- Many of the runaway husbands tend to be covert narcissists, and the wives tend to be self sacrificers and codependents.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla start out talking about the real deal - the difference between loving someone and being in love with them. They go to a Love Fix question from a listener feeling spooked that they may be getting ghosted soon, and are looking for some advice on what to do. They then welcome Rachel Grant, founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and a leading sexual abuse recovery coach with an MA in Counseling and Psychology. As the author of "Beyond Surviving" and "Recovery from Sexual Abuse," Rachel combines her academic background, neuroscience insights, and personal journey to offer the transformative Beyond Surviving program since 2007. Rachel helps survivors of childhood sexual abuse break free from feeling unfixable, guiding them towards reclaiming their lives and embracing wholeness.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
- Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sherry
- Website | IG
- Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love
Rachel:
Website | Beyond Surviving | IG | Facebook
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- The life changing experience Rachel endured when she was just 10 years old in Oklahoma and was molested by her grandfather.
- The staggering statistics on just how common molestation and abuse cases are.
- More about the difference between sexual abuse and trauma.
- How to eradicate shame and blame and not place the onus on the victim.
- The ways that patriarchy plays a role in how the victim of sexual abuse usually is the one that feels like they have done something wrong.
- How does sexual trauma impact our ability to connect with others?
- How can those who have endured abuse and trauma learn to take a stand for themselves?
- More about Rachel’s 16 week program and how it slowly helps people unravel their beliefs around shame based thinking and learn how to heal again.
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Sherry talks about her love for life in Florida, enjoying the sunny days and vibrant energy. Then, she and Carla take a Love Fix question about how to spot signs of codependency early in dating to avoid getting stuck in such relationships. They then introduce Love Fix guest Marshall Burtcher, a codependency healing expert who helps people pleasers, perfectionists, and those struggling with codependency. Marshall's approach, developed after his own 30-year struggle, focuses on shifting from self-fixing to self-love, enabling fulfilling relationships and inner peace. He guides people trapped in codependency to break free from these patterns and find purposeful, loving connections in their lives.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Marshall talks about his own codependency and love addiction and ways he learned to regulate himself and build self confidence.
- Marshall’s work of codependency through the frame of trauma.
- What is the fawn response and what does it look like?
- One of the misconceptions about codependency is that it's an identity, rather than a reaction to a chronic cycle of chaos and harm, harm and neglect.
- The second misconception is that you can't overcome it, that you're always going to be coping with the codependence.
- The first step of observation and nervous system regulation and soothing techniques.
- Marshall shares his thoughts on the freeze and fawn response and what he recommends to someone who is in the middle of it.
- What are some ways to regulate our nervous system?
- How Marshall uses his soothing voice when working with clients. We want more recorded audio from Marshall!
- The risk of living in a fantasy or a fantasy, and the importance of being present in relationships and life.
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Sherry introduces her pup Mocha to the show, and Carla reminisces about the days that feral cats tore up her home. They then take a Love Fix question from a listener who is new to dating, has anxious attachment and can’t seem to console themselves. Then we met Gabrielle Stone, a familiar face in the entertainment industry, having grown up alongside the iconic scream queen, Dee Wallace. Gabrielle's childhood was steeped in the enchantment of showbiz, from playful days of faux-blood tasting to witnessing cinematic enchantment behind the scenes. Her early exposure to globetrotting with her parents fueled her wanderlust. Yet, life took a chilling turn when her father's sudden demise shattered her world at age seven. Later, a tumultuous journey unfolded as she weathered her husband's affair and sought solace in another man's arms, only to confront another heartbreak. Determined not to let life flatten her, she transformed her tribulations into a thriving career. Thus, "Eat, Pray, #FML" was born—a book that lays bare her missteps, triumphs, and the metamorphosis into a resilient trailblazer.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Gabrielle’s experience of trauma and fear of abandonment.
- How solo travel can help us get to know ourselves.
- Loving yourself is as simple as giving your soul the thing that makes you feel alive and happy.
- What was the process like for Gabrielle of writing Eat, Pray, #FML?
- How to not be so scared about change and letting go of some of the fear and judgment around stepping into a new identity.
- How Gabrielle stepped out to meet someone else and take another chance on love.
- There are no guarantees in life, so opening your heart again will either make you greatly happy or you will survive and learn more about yourself.
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Sherry and Carla start the week with a Love Fix question from a listener who caught their fiance watching adult movies, and now they are wondering what is normal and what may be going too far. They then welcome Love Fix guest Dr. Alexandra Solomon, who is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships. Her framework of relational self awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, professor, podcast hosts retreat leader and media personality, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating, cutting edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity and authenticity to real relationships.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Wisdom for digital dating and how apps have become more gamified and commercialized over the years.
- How to not get burnt out on the apps and stay in it for the long haul, if that’s what you’re looking for.
- Relational self awareness is key in all stages of relationships.
- How to start feeling more confident about yourself and your sexuality.
- For Dr. Alexandra, the starting point for sexual confidence is self compassion.
- People come into non monogamy or polyamory for a number of reasons, so there is not one size fits all approach.
- Normalize that even if you are in a monogamous relationship that you have defined clear boundaries on and around, you still are going to be attracted to other people.
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Carla kicks off the episode with an exciting announcement that gives us all hope for the dating apps, and then they take a Love Fix question from a listener unsure about what a healthy relationship really looks like. They then welcome guest Kenny Weiss who is an advocate for truth, healing, personal responsibility and forgiveness. As an author, speaker, coach, teacher, and healer, Kenny specializes in helping individuals and couples heal their emotional hurts and pain from the past to reclaim their authentic selves and become the greatest version of themselves. He accomplishes this through the use of his one of a kind Transformation Emotional Mastery method.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How the male/female roles have been out of balance, and the cost of this.
- Are females really more emotional than men?
- More about the idea that women have to adapt to the patriarchal system to survive and become the male model of a female.
- What are women really looking for in a man? Is it emotional intimacy, money and status, looks, or a combination of all of these?
- Do men still feel insecure about a woman earning more than them?
- How childhood trauma plays a role in our attraction and issues in a relationship.
- How to become an expert and your own imperfections so you can realize your dysfunctions.
- Some staggering statistics on dating, relationships, and why it’s so hard to meet up in real life!
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Sherry and Carla take a Love Fix Question from a listener who is tired of dating, is feeling burnt out, and wondering if they should take a break from the dating scene or keep plugging away. They then welcome guest Ana Maria, who is not the typical standard template kind of life coach. Ana Maria is a healing strategist with a thirst for problem solving, and a keen passion for root cause solutions. Today, she has transformed her pain into purpose, and now she's here to serve others who want to do the same. She talks with Sherry and Carla about healing from a breakup, getting to know and love yourself, and setting boundaries when starting to date again.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Anna's burnout at age 32 led her to seek therapy, where she confronted the concept of adverse childhood experiences and trauma.
- Can people heal while in a relationship, or is ending something necessary for healing?
- Healing often requires effort from both parties in a relationship; it's a collaborative process.
- Exploring the signs and manifestations of burnout.
- Understanding the distinction between good stress and bad stress.
- Tips for stepping out of one's comfort zone after a period of isolation.
- Debunking the idea of a dating pool; relationships are more nuanced and they can even change depending on where we are at in life.
- How personal growth can positively impact dating habits.
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First, Carla and Sherry connect over their shared passion for electric music and offer a glimpse into their upcoming group coaching program, designed to help individuals forge a path towards healthy relationships. They address a listener's Love Fix Question about recognizing the right time to end an unhealthy relationship. Later, renowned guest Farrah Abraham joins the show, showcasing her indomitable spirit and remarkable journey. Overcoming adversities as a teen mother, Farrah defied expectations, rising to prominence through MTV's "16 and Pregnant" and the Teen Mom franchise. As a bestselling author, keynote speaker, and advocate for women's empowerment, she continues to make history, notably in reducing teen pregnancies, all while nurturing her entrepreneurial ventures.
Farrah's relentless pursuit of personal growth includes completing trauma and paralegal programs, while her diverse educational background in areas like neuroscience, psychology, sociology, and law has seamlessly influenced her storytelling endeavors.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How Farrah deals with naysayers and judgment?
- More about Farrah’s upcoming show on A&E that will take an honest and authentic deep dive into relationships.
- What was Farrah’s breaking point or lowest point that acted as an agent for change in her life?
- Farrah shares how she connects with a higher power.
- Tools that Farrah recommends that worked for her to overcome loss and process emotions.
- The emergency move that Farrah had to make, and why she recommends acting fast in times of crisis.
- You don’t just graduate from being codependent, it’s more of a daily practice that takes work upfront.
- How Farrah’s perspective and relationships have changed completely after doing self work.
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The gals start out highlighting great life lessons from past relationships, and then take a Love Fix question from a listener looking for information on how to tell if someone may be an addict out there in the dating world. They then welcome Kat Zammuto, an artist with a passion for multiple creative fields. Kat’s podcast “Kat on the Loose: Sex, Dating and Relationships is growing a big and loyal following. Kat grew up in California and started working in the entertainment and modeling industries at a very young age, as her dad was a TV and video producer. This lifelong experience with video and photography makes her super comfortable in front of the camera and clients and brands love the natural organic approach of her work.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Kat’s journey of self-improvement and recovery out of a toxic relationship.
- The number one reason why people stay in unhealthy relationships.
- The psychological idea of repetition compulsion.
- The journey is not linear, and you can move one step forward and two steps back. That’s why it’s crucial to stop and do the work.
- How do you know that you are growing and making progress?
- Kat talks about her own self-worth and codependency.
- Learning how to be happy alone is crucial.
- How to not put too much pressure on yourself too much while you are single and looking for a partner.
- Dating with intention and knowing your non-negotiables.
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Carla shows Sherry a picture that takes her breath away, and then they take a Love Fix question from a listener who is dating a guy who said he gets bored easily, and it’s making her feel insecure and unsure of what to do next. They then welcome Kasturi M, a relationship coach and Marriage and Family Therapist based out of India. She has a global audience and helps individuals all over the world build healthy relationships and marriages. Kasturi talks about self sabotage, attachment styles, and provides some great resources for conscious coupling and upping your confidence when it comes to love.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Common examples of self-sabotaging in relationships.
- What are the most common reasons that people self sabotage?
- How understanding our attachment style can help us learn areas that we can improve, and where we may be self sabotaging.
- How infidelity and also constantly being the “saver” and “fixer” can be forms of self sabotaging.
- Is getting bored easily a red flag?
- Attachment styles are not permanent, they can change.
- More about the success rate of arranged marriage vs. “love” marriage.
- The importance of looking at different cultures and how dating and relationships are impacted.
- How can you do the work to be in secure attachment, so that you aren’t getting triggered in a relationship?
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Sherry and Carla start off with a Love Fix Question from a listener who has been cheated on in the past, and now they are dating someone who has cheated on their partner in the past, and they are concerned that they always pick cheaters. They then welcome Dr. Laura Copley, a highly respected trauma bond specialist, counselor, educator, and researcher who excels in unraveling the intricate dynamics of toxic relationships and facilitating healing from trauma bonds. As the founder and director of Aurora Counseling and Well Being, a trauma-informed group practice nestled in the beautiful Shenandoah Valley, she has dedicated herself to promoting mental well-being. In addition to her clinical work, Dr. Copley is the host of the podcast "Tough Love," where she shares invaluable insights on navigating relationship trauma. Her expertise has made her an internationally sought-after speaker on this subject, inspiring audiences worldwide. Dr. Copley's upcoming book, "Loving You Is Hurting Me," set to hit shelves in fall 2023.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is attachment trauma?
- What is Dr. Laura’s definition of a trauma bond, and how does that differ from love addiction and in what ways are they similar?
- Dr. Laura shares a few examples of what trauma bonding would look like in non-abusive dynamics.
- How can we recognize a trauma bond, and start to take the steps to recognize our patterns so we can unravel them?
- A therapist can help you recognize that it’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility to recognize the patterns and do the work to heal.
- What is Dr. Laura’s intergenerational work, and how can it help take the shame out of the situation?
- What are some of the core ruptures that create attachment trauma?
- Creating self-trust by getting through the hard things rather than never making a mistake.
- How can a therapist help unravel trauma bonds throughout the healing process?
- Check out Dr. Laura’s new podcast, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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This episode first starts with Sherry and Carla reflecting on embracing life’s journey without harboring regrets. They discuss how to find value in the ups and downs and recognize the positive outcomes that have emerged from past experiences. They take a Love Fix question about learning during conflict rather than turning away. Then, they are joined by Dr. Christina Reese, a highly experienced licensed clinical counselor who has dedicated the past two decades to helping children and their families affected by trauma. As an internationally recognized trainer, she works extensively with mental health professionals, specializing in trauma-informed schools, classroom mental health, attachment, and trauma in children. Dr. Reese is also the proud owner of Felicity Counseling Services. Her authored books, including "Attachment Puzzle Pieces," "The Attachment Connection," "Trauma and Attachment," and "Leveling Up," showcase her expertise in the field. Driven by her deep passion for attachment theory, she firmly believes in the transformative power it holds for building secure relationships in all areas of life.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What are the different attachment styles?
- Why is it important to understand what attachment styles you have?
- Are we stuck with the same attachment style for our whole life?
- How we get our attachment styles and the ways it develops in childhood.
- The four steps to secure attachment.
- How we can start small to build trust instead of giving it away freely from the beginning.
- The importance of grounding techniques.
- How somebody who has an anxious style can move towards a secure attachment, and someone who's an avoidant can move towards a secure attachment.
- What’s the difference between recovery from codependency and recovery from avoidant attachment?
- More on Christina’s attachment work, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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Sherry and Carla engage in a lively discussion about effective ways to alleviate post-first date pressure, whether it involves a leisurely stroll in the park or a delightful ice cream outing. They then address a Love Fix Question about a listener's concerns about the lack of communication from their date. Then, they welcome Krystal Mazzola Wood, licensed marriage and family therapist who has made remarkable contributions to fostering self-love and establishing profound connections with others through her Healthy Relationship Foundation. Krystal's expertise shines through her authorship of two immensely popular books, namely "The Codependency Recovery Plan" and "The Codependency Workbook: Simple Practices for Developing and Maintaining Your Independence." She has a highly anticipated third book titled "Therapy Within Reach: Setting Boundaries," scheduled for publication in September 2023.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Sometimes apps can be a trigger if we have unresolved trauma and attachment issues.
- The different levels of being ghosted.
- How to deal with dating trauma and ghosting in the digital age.
- Should you call out someone that ghosts you?
- How would Krystal decipher somebody who's going into dating as codependent versus not?
- What are some telltale signs that someone is avoidant, anxious or secure attachment?
- The importance of falling in love with reality, and not potential.
- The importance of self-soothing your own nervous system.
- What is the social verification theory?
- More on Krystal’s work, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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Sherry and Carla kick off the show talking about how much hormones affect us as women, and then take a Love Fix question from a listener that is dating an ex addict who isn’t getting the help they need, which leaves them feeling controlled and criticized. They then welcome Mary Giuliani, a certified coach, keynote speaker, and author of It’s Not About Food, Drugs or Alcohol: It’s About Healing Complex PTSD. As a coach, Mary supports survivors in healing from complex trauma and achieving long term recovery from codependency relating to food, drugs, and or alcohol, resulting in them moving from surviving to thriving and turning their pain into power and purpose.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is complex PTSD?
- What are the signs that someone may have complex PTSD?
- Mary talks about healing her own relationship with food and addictive behaviors, and how she learned to self soothe.
- The many ways that shame shows up, and how having addictions leads even more to a shame spiral.
- Mary opens up about her personal relationship and how she and her partner did the work to be both more in a secure attachment style.
- Childhood trauma is relational trauma.
- Why those in a 12 step program often need more when it comes to dealing with trauma.
- Mary’s book also provides a workbook to employ practical yet powerful steps, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla start off talking about the serious nature of stalking and how narcissistic partners can show scary traits that can be a form of stalking. They take a Love Fix question from a listener that has trauma from a former controlling partner and is worried that her next partner will also be the same way. They then welcome Dr. Joli Hamilton, the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. Dr. Joli is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and sex-certified sex educator. Dr. Joli also co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast with her anchor partner. She’s been also featured in The New York Times and NPR.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How is jealousy misunderstood?
- The ways that jealousy can be used to control a relationship.
- Joli has outlined over 12 types of jealousy - what is retroactive jealousy?
- Some of the common things that people get jealous over.
- How to self-soothe when feeling jealous.
- Why do some people tend to have more trust than others?
- What are the core wounds that tend to lead to jealousy?
- What is neurosomatic intelligence?
- How envy is different from jealousy.
- Dr. Joli talks about non-monogamy and how most people never even define what monogamy means in their relationship.
- Setting boundaries is super important, but they can also be a way to try and control our partners.
- Take Dr. Joli’s quiz, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla talk about putting the focus back on you and good self care, and how that starts by taking care of your teeth! They take a Love Fix question from a listener on a personal journey who recently lost their boyfriend and is feeling very alone. They then welcome Allana Pratt, a former small-town Canadian girl turned global media personality, who has emerged as a trusted authority for those who have endured heartbreak and are now ready to fearlessly embrace life and attract open-hearted ideal relationships.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Triggers vs. defense mechanisms.
- What does an Intimacy Expert do?
- There are always new layers of wounds that we can work on and address.
- It’s up to us to take ownership and do the necessary work to address these wounds.
- Total allowance, nonresistance and grace facilitate the integration of low vibe energies into wisdom.
- Knowing when to do the inner work and when to start dating again can be a challenge.
- Allana talks about doing the work so she feels now at home and grounded within her own body.
- Trust is not just a mental concept, but a deep knowing in the body.
- How can you be intimate with both yourself and others when you are also codependent?
- When we trust ourselves and have our own back, we gain true confidence to enjoy the dating process.
- When you trust yourself, you can listen to your intuition.
- More from Allana’s work, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Carla has a fun new announcement, and then she and Sherry take a Love Fix question from a listener who has a question about a situation that consistently occurs when dating interracially. They then welcome Dr. Scott Gornto, an LMFT, former pastor, church planter, certified sex therapist, speaker, and author based in Dallas, Texas. Dr. Gornto has over 35,000 hours of individual marriage, family, and group therapy. His specialties are addiction, codependency, boundaries, communication, couples, therapy, infidelity, repair, trauma, PTSD, and sex therapy.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How does the intersection of faith and therapy play out for Dr. Gornto as a pastor and a therapist? Do the two overlap?
- What are some of the trends in dating and relationships that Dr. Gornto has been seeing more of in his practice?
- Ways we can do better in sexual education, and have real, honest, and safe discussions about sex with the next generations.
- One of the things Dr. Gornto does is help his clients learn to sit with their own anxiety and discomfort when they set boundaries and start standing up for themselves.
- More people see sexuality from a broader perspective. However, it’s important to know the distinction between what you want and what you are doing from a people-pleasing perspective.
- It’s important for you to have sexual pleasure as well and to remember it’s not just about the man.
- Why is sex so hush-hush in our society when everyone does it?
- More from Dr. Gornto’s work, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla first talk about embracing your creativity, even if you have no clue how to put together that Lego set. They take a Love Fix question from a listener who believes that their toxic ex gave them an STD and are wondering how to move forward. They then welcome Evelyn Hale, a Trauma Coach supporting survivors of childhood trauma and helping them reclaim their power through a range of holistic practices that rewire the nervous system, heart, and mind. Evelyn’s own journey of healing from childhood sexual and complex trauma led her to have a spiritual awakening that guided her to create a process that helps others find inner peace in what can otherwise feel like an all-encompassing pain. Outside of her practice, Evelyn finds great joy in creating art and spending time with her son in upstate New York.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Why do we sabotage our inner child in terms of getting into controlling relationships and repeating the pattern?
- How to differentiate between it being our inner child that’s calling the shots and someone’s bad behavior in the relationship?
- Evelyn shares some tools that she would give a client in terms of inner child work.
- What is the difference between the inner and outer child?
- Examples of what the dialogue might look like of a back and forth between the inner child and then the parent just within oneself.
- How can we better regulate our nervous system when they know they’re being jealous?
- How to tell when you’re in inner child territory?
- Why your inner child influences who you are attracted to romantically.
- More from Evelyn’s book, The Inner Child Workbook, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla talk about practicing what they preach in their own dating life, and that sometimes it isn’t something you are doing wrong, but just plain bad luck. They take a Love Fix Question from a listener wondering when it’s time to make it official in dating, and how to initiate that conversation. They then welcome Jaime Bronstein, a licensed therapist, relationship coach,m and author of the upcoming book MAN*ifesting: A Step-by-Step Guide to Attracting the Love That is Meant for You. Jaime works on Zoom and in person with singles, couples, and people navigating breakups and divorces. Her studies and work enable her to help her clients heal, seeing each challenge in life as an opportunity to evolve as an individual to manifest love and live life to its fullest.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What does it mean to manifest love?
- How does the negative narrative we tell ourselves hold us back from stepping into attracting a healthy relationship?
- How Jaime learned to tap into her own intuition and started her on this journey where she knew there was something else out there.
- What is compassionate self-forgiveness?
- How can people let go of shame, and get out of the endless cycle of abuse and repeating the same thing over and over without making real change.
- Creating a stronger intuitive muscle is so important when it comes to manifesting love because we are the experts of ourselves.
- Tips for getting out of victim mentality and instead feeling empowered and choosing growth.
- There is freedom in choices, and much of it is how you look at it.
- More from Jaime’s work, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry gets ready for Bike Week in Florida, and she and Carla share a good laugh about men with beer, bandanas, and bellies. They then take a Love Fix Question from a listener who just escaped a toxic relationship and started to realize now how bad it was after speaking with friends and reflecting on the situation. However, they still accept breadcrumbs and really need to move on for real. They then welcome special guest Laura K. Connell, a Trauma Informed Author and Coach who helps women uncover the blind spots that hold them back. Laura blogs weekly about healing self-sabotage and dysfunctional family dynamics.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Laura talks about growing up in a dysfunctional home with emotional abuse and neglect. She discusses healing her narcissistic mother wound and learning to regulate her own serious system.
- How self-sabotage can be self-protection in disguise.
- What are the three components that make up mindful self-compassion?
- Examples of self-sabotage in relationships.
- How women can often shift blame to avoid intimacy.
- How can someone recognize their attachment style?
- Laura talks about her love of self-discovery and helping others in her work.
- More about re-parenting when it comes to inner child work.
- Reminding ourselves that we aren’t going through trauma alone can make us feel less isolated.
- More from Laura’s work, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry gets ready for Bike Week in Florida, and she and Carla share a good laugh about men with beer, bandanas, and bellies. They then take a Love Fix Question from a listener who just escaped a toxic relationship and started to realize now how bad it was after speaking with friends and reflecting on the situation. However, they still accept breadcrumbs and really need to move on for real. They then welcome special guest Laura K. Connell, a Trauma Informed Author and Coach who helps women uncover the blind spots that hold them back. Laura blogs weekly about healing self-sabotage and dysfunctional family dynamics.
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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Laura talks about growing up in a dysfunctional home with emotional abuse and neglect. She discusses healing her narcissistic mother wound and learning to regulate her own serious system.
- How self-sabotage can be self-protection in disguise.
- What are the three components that make up mindful self-compassion?
- Examples of self-sabotage in relationships.
- How women can often shift blame to avoid intimacy.
- How can someone recognize their attachment style?
- Laura talks about her love of self-discovery and helping others in her work.
- More about re-parenting when it comes to inner child work.
- Reminding ourselves that we aren’t going through trauma alone can make us feel less isolated.
- More from Laura’s work, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla start the show by talking about what they like to do for exercise, and the beauty of just getting outside and going for a walk. They take a Love Fix question from a listener who realizes they only like emotionally unavailable men, but can’t seem to stop herself and turn things around. Then, they welcome Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick, a Licensed Professional Counselor, relationship expert, and multi-unit group private practice owner in Arizona. She is trained in various therapeutic modalities and specializes in relationships, intimacy, trauma, depression, and anxiety. In addition, she hosts a relationship-based podcast, Relatable Relationships Unfiltered.
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Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How to foster emotional intimacy in a healthy relationship.
- How emotional intimacy is the glue that holds a relationship together, and it is the most important aspect of a healthy fulfilling sustainable relationship.
- Dr. Elizabeth explains the process of identifying the issue, working to address the issue, and then going into an adaptation face.
- What is relational programming?
- How does relational programming affect things like codependency and our attachment styles?
- When we do that first timeline to increase awareness, we identify those themes of abandonment, rejection, and criticism.
- We have to do the work within ourselves, but then we also have to create opportunities for corrective experiences.
- More from Elizabeth’s work and coaching, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla first take a Love-fix question from someone looking to spice things up in their happy yet somewhat boring relationship. They then welcome Diana Hill, Ph.D. Diana is a clinical psychologist, international trainer, and sought out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). She is also the host of the Your Life in Process podcast and co-author of the ACT daily journal. Diana works with organizations, high achievers, and health professionals who are committed to becoming psychologically flexible, so they can move from striving to thriving at work, home, and around the globe.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Acceptance is the willingness to do the uncomfortable thing, and sometimes that means leaving or setting a boundary, speaking your truth, or moving towards what you fear the most including being alone.
- What are the 6 core processes of ACT?
- What is psychological flexibility?
- How can someone that is codependent start to recognize what their values are?
- Diana explains cognitive defusion.
- What are some tools where someone can begin to learn the ACT process and fold it into their life?
- How the ACT processes can be also empowering for people in relationships.
- How we can begin to find compassion in ourselves, sometimes even just starting with the small neutral places inside our bodies.
- More from Diana’s work and courses, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.
Sherry and Carla start out with some pillow talk and then take a Love Fix question from a listener who is frustrated at the lack of consistency they get around their partner listening and showing that they care. They then welcome Bex Burton, a trauma-informed certified life coach, helping independent women attract and grow lasting love without sacrificing who they are or what they want out of life. After painfully hitting the same walls and love for over a decade, Beck is committed to the study and growth of lasting love today, and she enjoys a deeply connected partnership for 11 years with the man of her dreams.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- At the crux of codependency is losing yourself. So, how does one lose themselves and how do they find themselves again?
- The balance between healthy space and healthy closeness in a relationship.
- How do we know when we’ve lost ourselves in a relationship?
- How does someone start to carve out their own individuality and their own authentic self?
- It’s not bad to have needs, in fact, that’s what makes us human.
- What is the “butt pucker zone”?
- More from Bex’s work at Bex Burton Coaching, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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Carla has returned from her trip to India and had a wonderful experience immersing herself in the culture. She shares a few highlights with Sherry before diving into a Love Fix Question from a listener who is struggling to fully move on from a toxic ex that cheated on them, and is looking for guidance to stop peeking at everything they do on social media. They then welcome guest Dr. Sherrie Campbell, a licensed psychologist who specializes in assisting healthy individuals in severing ties with toxic people. Dr. Sherrie is a nationally recognized expert on family estrangement, a best-selling author, an inspirational speaker, the host of the "Sherapy Sessions: Cutting Toxic Family Ties" podcast, a prominent social media influencer, and a regularly featured media expert.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Dr. Sherrie’s own experience growing up in abuse, and how she overcame it.
- In dysfunctional families, the scapegoat is often subjected to abuse and control tactics to keep them trapped.
- How codependency and setting boundaries with family can be very different from the outside world.
- How do you know when you’re falling into the pattern of picking the wrong person again?
- How would Dr. Sherrie defines codependency in a toxic family system?
- The way Dr. Sherrie’s life changed when she read Codependent No More at age 25.
- More about Dr. Sherrie’s podcast Sherapy Sessions, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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Sherry starts off with a story about a date who was waving some big red flags, and then she and Carla take a Love Fix Question on how to stop second guessing yourself. They then welcome Tim Sosin, LPC, NCC, an internationally certified trauma therapy specialist, EMDR, therapist and licensed professional counselor. Since trauma is such a common denominator within the lives of so many, Tim has devoted his career to trauma liberation, relational reconciliation, and the recovery process. Everything he does is informed by a desire to see people break through the barriers holding them back.
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Carla
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Tim
Birthstone Trauma Healing
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is EMDR?
- What are developmental wounds, and how can they impact love and relationships?
- How can past trauma impact people’s attachment styles and relationships?
- What is a developmental wound and how does it impact love and relationships?
- What does an EMDR session look like?
- What Tim’s advice is for people just looking for a quick fix, and how trauma can actually help us become more self actualized.
- What is life like after EMDR?
- More from Tim’s work at Birthstone Trauma Healing, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
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Sherry and Carla first take a Love Fix question from a listener that is looking for more confidence in dating and wants to switch it up and speak with more compassion to themselves.
They then welcome Maryse Cardin, author of the book 5 Minute Morning Magic, Speaking to Yourself with Love and Speaking To Yourself with Love workbook, and more. As a speaker, workshop leader, and university communication teacher, Mary is passionate about sharing positive and loving self-talk skills.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What exactly is self-talk and how can we shift it to soothe ourselves?
- How can self-talk change the direction of how we feel during times of crisis?
- Maryse gives a few examples of positive self-talk.
- How the story we tell ourselves and our self-talk can impact us in a way that can help us take action towards healing from codependency.
- How we can begin to trust ourselves after betrayal.
- No contact doesn’t feel great and we are missing that dopamine hit, but it’s most often the only path to true healing after a breakup.
- Our body gives us clues as to when something feels good, bad, or neutral.
- How to deal with the part of you that wants to protect you at all costs.
- The internal battle that often happens when we are facing a very difficult situation like a toxic relationship.
- More from Maryse’s 5-Minute Morning Magic book, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
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Sherry and Carla start the show talking about the constant pressure women feel in almost every aspect of our lives, and they take a Love Fix question from a listener who knows logically that she shouldn’t go after unavailable guys, but she can’t seem to keep listening to her gut and always ends up going after the same type of man. Then, they welcome Multi-Award winning ICF accredited Trauma Informed Coach and Therapist Caroline Strawson. Caroline is also the host of the Narcissistic Trauma Recovery podcast. She uses a unique integration of brain body-based therapies such as brain spotting, internal family systems, EMDR, hypnotherapy, breathwork, and positive psychology and specializes in narcissistic and domestic violence with the unseen wounds.
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Caroline
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is repetition compulsion?
- What happens when we overuse the term narcissist?
- How can someone recovering from narcissistic abuse know when it’s time to date again?
- Caroline talks about the protector parts for both codependents and narcissists.
- What narcissistic abuse can look like through an internal family lens.
- What if you think the person you are dating may be a narcissist?
- What are inner child wounds?
- The types of feelings and behaviors that define a healthy relationship.
- Caroline shares her own experience of post traumatic growth after her relationship with a narcissist.
- More from Caroline about recovering from narcissistic trauma, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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Sherry and Carla first take a Love Fix question from a listener looking for the right answer when they get consistently asked about when they’re going to be back in the dating pool again. Then, they welcome Krista Resnick, Master Coach, Boundary Expert, and Podcaster for high-achieving females. Krista works with her clients to help them start standing in their power, taking up space, and owning their gifts so they can create the life they truly crave.
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Krista
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- When answering people’s questions about your life, keep it simple.
- What is Krista’s definition of a boundary?
- What if someone is stuck in the trauma response of freeze?
- How do boundaries look played out in healthy relationships?
- Why is setting boundaries so challenging?
- The importance of listening to your body. It sometimes tells us how we feel about a situation before our mind does.
- Krista talks about a client that is working on taking some space before she automatically says yes.
- We are not responsible for other people’s feelings.
- Our boundaries can change over time depending on how busy we are, how much energy we have or how much is on our plate.
- Krista talks about the shift in her life where she went from creating rigid boundaries from fear to feeling empowered with her boundaries.
- More from Krista about setting boundaries, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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Sherry and Carla start by celebrating their dual birthdays, wahoo! They take a Love Fix Question from a listener that is lacking confidence in speaking up both in dating and relationships and wants to be able to state their boundaries in a more clear and concise way. Then, guest Ken Bechtel joins the show. Ken is an author, speaker, and mentor who has been called the “love child of Simon Sinek, Oprah Winfrey, and Joseph Campbell”. Ken’s best-selling book Follow Your Yes provides simple guidance on how to build confidence and eliminate overwhelm across the full spectrum of life.
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Ken
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How can we learn to know what is our “yes” so that we can follow it?
- When dating, how do we stay positive when our internal voices tell us otherwise?
- How people can learn to let go of the outcome and be more in the moment.
- Instead of confidence, aim to have the courage to be a beginner and give something a shot.
- How following your yes can help you start to move away from toxic or codependent relationships.
- How you can follow your yes even if you’re suffering from trauma or PTSD, but you need the proper support.
- It’s never too late to start over and begin. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.
- More on Ken’s book Follow Your Yes, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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Sherry and Carla start the show talking about baggage of every kind, both the real luggage type and the kind that comes in a toxic relationship. They take a Love Fix Question from a listener whose boyfriend loses his cool and is two-sided, yet everyone loves him. They then welcome guest Stephanie McPhail, MS. Stephanie is the author of Being Loved Shouldn’t Hurt, a certified coach and has a double Master’s Degree in Health and Education, and a Bachelor’s in Psychology, and is a Certified Crisis Counselor and Certified Coach. She specializes in coaching professional women to heal and thrive so they can create and attract healthy partners and shares some great advice about codependency and moving forward out of toxic relationships.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What makes a relationship toxic?
- There are narcissists, but sometimes we’re just in a bad relationship with a toxic partner for us.
- Stephanie shares her story of getting out of a toxic marriage and realizing that love doesn’t have to feel so hard.
- How having a coach and therapist can help you discover what you really want and how to know who you are.
- How does codependency play a role in staying in toxic relationships?
- More on Stephanie’s new book Being Loved Shouldn’t Hurt, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- A lack of communication is a big piece of what makes something toxic. If you don't feel like you can communicate openly with your partner, that's going to cause toxicity.
- What should people know when moving away from dysfunction and towards creating healthy relationships?
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Sherry and Carla kick off this week by playing a clip from Michelle Obama and discuss how it exemplifies respect and patience for your partner. They take a Love Fix question from a listener that is down in the dumps from feeling single this Valentine’s Day and then welcome guest Robin Joy Meyers, a Molecular Geneticist, Self-Mastery Mindset Coach, TEDx, and international speaker, and author. Robin has empowered thousands of women worldwide to amplify their voices, embrace change, and thrive through life’s transitions by falling in love with themselves.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is a joy lifestyle, and what are the building blocks?
- How can someone find joy around holidays such as Valentine’s Day?
- What is the difference between happiness and joy?
- What is the difference between being alone and loneliness?
- How to get out of the loop of feeling like you “should be” doing something or living in a certain way?
- What Robin learned from her own experience of getting back together with her husband after her marriage ended.
- More on how to join Robin’s community, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Joy is just a consistent feeling of contentment within yourself.
- How can solitude be a time of growth?
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Sherry and Carla first start the show talking about the overuse of the word “narcissist” and then identify what hoovering is in breakups. They then welcome Lindsey Ellison, author, podcaster, and relationship coach who helps people discover their breakthrough after a breakup. Lindsey believes that all breakups and divorces are catalysts for self-discovery, and a gold mine awaits them when they are able to identify their destructive relationship patterns. She specializes in childhood trauma, codependency, and communicating with narcissists and high-conflict relationships.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- When you lean into healing and grieving during a breakup, the faster you focus on yourself and the less you worry about someone texting you.
- What is withdrawal in a relationship?
- Lindsey talks about having moderation around love.
- What does recovery look like for somebody who is a love addict?
- Lindsey talks about the three steps to a relationship: dating, courting, and committed.
- How dysfunction usually is learned from your family system growing up and typically way before we meet our romantic partner.
- Why does Lindsey think a breakup can be one of the best things to ever happen to someone?
- You can actually be a love-avoidant and a love addict in the same relationship.
- Lindsey talks about the “lala love” relationship dynamic.
- Why is no contact a great idea for any breakup, and what should you do if you have to have contact?
- More on Lindsey’s work in surviving and thriving after a breakup, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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Sherry embraces her inner Pisces and faces her ocean abandonment issues, and then she and Carla take a Love Fix question from a listener that keeps seeing the same patterns on a repeat of their relationships going nowhere fast. They then welcome Psychologist and Author Ingrid Clayton who talks about healing from narcissistic abuse and complex trauma, as well as the subtlety of self-gaslighting. She talks about the inspiration behind her memoir Believing Me, and how we can get more help and support from fawning, trauma, and codependency.
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Carla
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Ingrid
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What does it mean to self-gaslight?
- Ingrid talks about growing up with a classic narcissistic parent and the enmeshment with her mother.
- What steps can someone take if they do think they may be self-gaslighting?
- Even as a trauma therapist, Ingrid couldn’t first see she was dealing with complex trauma herself.
- How does gaslighting get embedded in our psyche and make us doubt ourselves?
- Ingrid never saw herself as codependent, but she later learned that she was extremely codependent.
- How can we view codependency through the lens of trauma?
- What is the fawning response?
- What kept Ingrid stuck in the fawning response, and how does our body try to protect us from trauma?
- More on Ingrid’s book, Believing Me along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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This week starts off with Sherry vs. the Florida bugs, and then she and Carla answer a Love Fix question on when (if ever) you should go back to an ex. They then welcome Britt Frank, LSCSW, therapist, educator and trauma specialist. Britt speaks and writes widely about mental health myths that keep us stuck and stressed. Britt received her BA from Duke University and her MSW from the University of Kansas where she later became an award winning adjunct professor.
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Britt
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Somebody can change, and somebody can do the work, but it might not end up being what you need in a partner.
- What modalities does Britt work with as a trauma therapist?
- Britt shares why she uses the word “stuck” when it comes to trauma and people blocking their healing.
- What does it look like when someone is stuck in the freeze phase?
- What are examples of staying stuck in the past when it comes to relationships or when it comes to dating, or even breakups?
- How long does it take to break patterns?
- What you can expect when you start doing inner work.
- Why do we need the parts of ourselves that we actually hate?
- When we have shame, it releases stress hormones. When we have love and compassion, it stops the cascade of stress.
- What is no contact and how can we help move through the feelings of withdrawal it gives us?
- We need to understand that even the things that we think make us flawed have self protective functions.
- How can we get out of shame for feeling codependent?
- More on Britt’s book, The Science of Stuck, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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Carla opens the show with a story about explaining polygamy to her 87 year old grandfather, and the conversation shifts towards how dating has evolved over the recent years in Sherry’s work. They then take a Love Fix question of the day from a listener dealing with anxious attachment after their jealous partner wants space, and welcome guest Junie Moon, Love Coach and Women’s Empowerment Leader and Certified Shadow Work Coach.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What does it mean to “call in the one”?
- Who really is the one we want to call in during this lifetime?
- Junie talks about her belief that we may have more than one soulmate, and that people are in our lives for a season and reason to teach us about ourselves.
- Junie talks about what a shadow self is and how we can access it if it’s in the unconscious realm.
- How our shadow self can continue to sabotage deep connection and love if we don’t tend to it and bring it into the light.
- More on Junie’s work to help you learn to fill your cup up and find more love connection, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How to move shame and blame into more self love and forgiveness.
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What a year it’s been! Sherry and Carla first reflect on how great it was to finally meet in person and that there will be more in person meetups in 2023. They then share their favorite memories of this year, and open up about some HUGE life changes they both made including the loss of relationships, new locations, and a lot of healing. Then get real about how they each found strength and support during very painful times and came out the other end even more confident and excited for what’s to come. Thank you for a great 2022, and Sherry and Carla have a lot up their sleeves for next year, so stay tuned!
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What was it like for Sherry and Carla to meet in person?!
- Sometimes the things we view to be the worst things can actually end up being the best things.
- Wait, Sherry isn’t a Swiftie?
- Sherry shares her bucket list move of purchasing a beach home by the water, and how she embraced doing things independently with confidence.
- Carla opens up about ending a relationship and the growth and healing that came from a very painful time.
- How did living in Mexico change Carla’s life?
- Can people really change, and should we give them second chances?
- Sherry and Carla talk about how they practiced what they preached in the ending of their relationships including getting the support they needed, doing the damn work, and going no contact.
- What’s next for The Love Fix and for Sherry and Carla personally in 2023?
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Happy 100th Episode! Sherry and Carla celebrate the big milestone and take a moment of gratitude for each other and all the fabulous listeners. Next, they take a Love Fix question from a listener struggling with anxious attachment issues in her relationship. They then welcome Tracy Crossley, a Behavioral Relationship Expert, author, and podcast host. Tracy identifies what breadcrumbing is in dating, how we can recognize the signs, and how we can get out of the pattern of just accepting crumbs and getting the love and respect we truly desire.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How drama can be addicting and allows us to actually be avoidant of our own feelings.
- If you don’t have consistency, you really don’t have a relationship.
- What exactly is breadcrumbing?
- How setting boundaries first starts with ourselves and then flows out into our external world.
- More on Tracy’s work on how to overcome insecure attachment, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How can you tell if you are being breadcrumbed in a long-distance relationship?
- Is a man breadcrumbing, or just inconsistent?
- Are all breadcrumbers also narcissists?
- How to start embodying self-love.
- Being trapped in the drama cycle of a breadcrumber chips away at our own time and energy.
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Sherry starts this week by sharing her own experience with trauma when the hurricane hit Florida, and how even as a trained therapist she felt the somatic and emotional symptoms of being in a trauma vortex. She and Carla also talk about how toxic positivity can sometimes impede us from feeling the real feelings we need to process our trauma. Sherry and Carla take a Love Fix question from a man dating a codependent woman, and is wondering how to help get her into therapy, but she has grown complacent. They welcome Love Fix guest Efu Nyaki, faculty member of Somatic Experiencing and a Professor of Family Constellation System Therapy. Efu was born and raised in Tanzania where she earned a Bachelor of Science, trained as a science teacher and later on was trained as a healer using holistic methods.
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Carla
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Efu
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Trauma is a powerful energy because it’s meant to protect us and even save our life.
- We respond to trauma strongly so that we can survive from any events that come to us.
- How does a traumatic event in a toxic relationship, unhealthy relationship or abusive relationship relate to PTSD?
- How Efu’s upbringing in Tanzania and now living in Brazil helps her work with clients all over the world.
- How does a traumatic event turn into PTSD?
- More on Efu’s holistic healing, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How codependency comes from developmental trauma.
- Efu shares examples of clients that liberated their trauma while working with her, even in just one session making a big difference.
- What are the first steps someone can take to move out of their trauma or PTSD?
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Sherry and Carla start with some exciting news, they met IRL! The sparks flew, and this leads them to reflect on just a few of the beautiful things about their partnership. They take a Love Fix question from a listener looking for some ways to process her emotions after leaving an ex that is an addict, and they welcome Bernadette Pleasant. Bernadette is a sensational speaker, somatic healer, sacred grief ritual facilitator, and founder of The Emotional Institute. Bernadette promotes emotional freedom through movement and empowerment. She talks with Sherry and Carla about what exactly grief is, and how we can learn to embrace it. Bernadette provides some fantastic tools and resources to get started finding support for grief, and how everyone’s grief is valid, no matter how different it looks.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Bernadette defines grief and discusses why our society wants us to move on from it so fast.
- Why is grief so painful, and how can we process it?
- It’s important to not grieve alone but to find support and others that can hold space for you while you heal.
- Grief is way beyond just loss and death. You can grieve a relationship, a job that didn’t happen, or just something you were expecting that fell short of your overall vision.
- More on Bernadette’s Emotional Institute community, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How grieving can be passed down from mother to child and through our ancestry.
- Some tools to be able to sit in grief, and even embrace it instead of running from it.
- Why is it important to deal with our grief before just jumping into a new relationship?
- Is there a different type of grief in toxic abusive relationships?
- How can grief actually be beautiful?
- Shame is the enemy of our healing work, and we don’t want to shame the shame, but let it come up and out.
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Sherry and Carla first start talking about how being single can sometimes get a bad rap, and the many reasons it’s better to be single than in the wrong relationship. Also, you’re never alone when you have a connection with yourself and to the higher powers in your life, whatever that means for you. They take a question from a Love Fix listener who is trying to stick to no contact with an abusive ex, but finding it really challenging and wondering how long the pain will last. They then welcome guest Leanne Oaten, a former counselor with over 10 years of experience working in the field of therapy and coaching. Leanne founded Awakening Women’s support in 2017 to raise awareness for women experiencing hidden abuse and narcissistic abuse in their relationships.
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Carla
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Leanne
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- No contact is really hard, but it’s crucial for breaking an abusive cycle.
- One of the first signs of abuse: if you find yourself confused and constantly questioning yourself, you are most likely being manipulated. Also, when you try to raise an issue, it always goes sideways and turns into a big long drama fest.
- What is the difference between a controlling, critical, and abusive relationship?
- More on Leanne’s Awakening Women community, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How a woman can begin to feel more empowered, even though she may not be ready to leave yet.
- What happens to your body when you’re in contact with the abuser, and how we can become addicted to the feeling.
- Leanne talks about building empathy for women from her own personal journey of being in an abusive relationship, and being able to get out of it to heal, set boundaries, and regain her confidence.
- Some tips to start leaving an abusive relationship before the breaking point, including making sure you have enough money and a supportive team in place.
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Sherry and Carla talk about self care during the holidays and how to find calm in all the rushed moments, and they take a Love Fix listener question from a listener fearful that she’s going to pick another cheater again. They then welcome licensed therapist and trauma coach Jamie McCoy, who has been working with people for over 10 years on how to regulate their nervous system using somatic healing and holistic health education. Jamie talks about her passion to empower people to master their stress, and how you can move from living in survival mode to becoming resilient.
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Carla
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Jamie
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- The difference between stress and trauma.
- How long people can stay in survival mode for, and how they can begin to get out of it.
- What is functional freeze?
- What is the ventral vagal nerve, and how it can help regularize our nervous system.
- How you can learn to communicate with your partner and set boundaries that help keep both your nervous systems regulated.
- The importance of taking self responsibility for understanding your triggers in dating.
- What happens when you are dating a narcissist and they are hot and cold, leaving you constantly in the dark about what’s coming next?
- More about Jamie’s Nervous System Reset, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- Yes, being cheated on is a trauma.
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Sherry and Carla first take a Love Fix question from a listener who feels their long-distance relationship running away, and is too afraid to cross boundaries to talk with her partner about it. They then welcome Whitney Goodman, LMFT, the radically honest psychotherapist behind the hugely popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit, author of Toxic Positivity, and the owner of the Collaborative Counseling Center, a virtual therapy practice in Florida. Whitney talks about what exactly toxic positivity is, and how we can shift to a deeper and more authentic connection with ourselves and the people around us. She talks with Carla and Sherry about how to recognize toxic positivity in your own self-talk and provides some better questions to ask when a friend is going through a breakup and you want to support them in the way they desire.
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Carla
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Whitney
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What exactly is toxic positivity?
- How does toxic positivity create a barrier between true and authentic connection?
- Tips for what to do and say when someone is displaying toxic positivity towards you.
- How toxic positivity can actually be people's pleasing and codependent behavior.
- Whitney talks about the correlation between toxic positivity and relationships or dating.
- How to be a better listener when one of your friends is going through a breakup.
- The things we think others are worried or concerned about quite often aren’t them at all, and that is why listening is so important.
- More about Whitney’s book, Toxic Positivity, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- How toxic positivity can actually be a trauma response as well, and the ways it is similar to spiritual bypassing.
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Sherry and Carla first give a shout-out to the Love Fix male audience, and then take a Love Fix question from a listener who feels judgment from friends and family for still staying with their addict partner. They then continue the conversation about addiction and relationships with guest Kevin Petersen, Author, Speaker, and LFMT. Kevin is the founder of the Chronic Hope Institute, which provides healing for families in crisis due to addiction and codependency. Kevin talks about family addiction coaching, intergenerational trauma, and why it’s okay to come out as codependent.
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Kevin
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How come there’s so much support out there for the addict, but not really the families?
- How do we address the family system when it comes to addiction?
- Kevin shares his experience of growing up in a house with addiction and his journey into sobriety.
- Why reality matters when looking at a relationship. You don’t marry someone’s potential, you marry who they are today.
- Just healing the addict doesn’t solve the problem.
- Kevin talks about what family addiction coaching is, and how he and his wife provide services to help.
- Two movies to check out about addiction and codependent relationships: When a Man Loves a Woman and Silver Linings Playbook.
- Check out Kevin’s family addiction coaching around the country, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How we can stop the generational trauma of addiction and shame that comes with codependency?
- Even if you can see the difference between the person and their addiction, as a codependent, it's okay if you have to have boundaries around not having a relationship with them.
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Sherry and Carla start off with some fun celebrity dating stories, and then take a Love Fix question from a listener to is anxious during sex and looking for ways to feel more comfortable. They then welcome Certified Mind and Body Coach, Juliette Karaman. As a teacher, mentor, and writer, Juliette’s work helps others with everything from relationships to trauma, healing, sex and intimacy. Juliette talks with Sherry and Carla about sacred sexuality, and how we can train our bodies to open up to more pleasure, no matter whether we are alone, in a relationship, or somewhere in between. Juliette talks about the Five Erotic Blueprint tyes and why knowing how you like your cup of tea can teach you about having the best mind blowing sex of your life.
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Carla
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Juliette
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Juliette describes what sacred sexuality is.
- Why we tend to have so much struggle between making love and sex.
- Yes, even if you’ve been in a very long term relationship, you can still put some sparks and excitement back in your sex life.
- Your way into pleasure may be very different from your partners, and even after 25 years, you can discover new things about each other.
- Juliette shares some ideas on how we can better open up our language and dialog in society about sex.
- The Five Erotic Blueprint types: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, Shapeshifter.
- How identifying which blueprint type(s) you are helps you build confidence and clarity around what you desire.
- How can your tea order translate into what you like in bed? Juliette gives a great analogy.
- You can train your body to be open to all kinds of sensations.
- Check out Juliette’s VIP Coaching, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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This week starts with some hydration motivation from Carla, and she and Sherry take a Love Fix question from a listener who worries that she and her partner may not have enough in common to make things last. They then welcome Dr. George Simon, internationally known expert on narcissists, manipulators, and other troublesome characters. He is the first to describe what is now commonly called the gaslighting effect, along with authoring five best selling books. Dr. Simon’s work has been published in over 25 countries and languages. He talks with Sherry and Carla about what exactly the gaslighting effect is, therapy induced trauma, and why there are so many relationship issues today.
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Carla
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Dr. Simon was one of the original researchers around what gaslighting was, and created the gaslighting effect into psychological definition.
- What does it mean to gaslight someone, and what is the gaslighting effect?
- How does modern society get the terms wrong and conflate them for something else?
- The importance of working with a professional when dealing with a gaslighter or narcissist.
- Do some people just want to drive you crazy for the sake of making you crazy? Yes.
- Does one have to be codependent to be gaslit?
- Gaslighting can occur in various different ways and different degrees of intensity, and it can also be a separate tactic.
- What is therapy induced trauma?
- Check out Dr. Simon’s new book Essentials for The Journey which he calls his life’s work, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- An easy way to remember a fact about narcissists: it's not that they're not aware. The problem is, they don't care.
- How do we waste time on narcissists and gaslighters?
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Grab your cup of coffee this week and join Carla and Sherry as they first take a Love Fix question from a listener that had yet another big fight with her boyfriend and is wondering if it’s time to break up. They then welcome Dr. Marni Feuerman, nationally recognized relationship and marriage expert and licensed psychotherapist with specialized training in couples therapy. Dr. Marni is also the author of the popular self help book, Ghosted and Breadcrumbed. She discusses how we can identify and resolve unconscious triggers that lead to patterns and actions that hold us back from growing, ways to bring in more self empathy, and how to build up confidence after leaving a toxic situation.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What are a few of the subconscious and conscious reasons that people end up in relationships where they are getting breadcrumbed?
- What does ghosting and breadcrumbing even look like?
- Dr. Marni talks about how you can bring in more empathy and compassion to your life.
- Some healthy and effective ways to address conflict.
- How to begin to tell the difference between a genuinely good relationship that just has natural ups and downs vs a toxic one.
- Check out Marni’s new book Ghosted and Breadcrumbed, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Why it’s important to work with a therapist or professional to help you recognize and reflect some unconscious patterns and habits you may not know about.
- Some healthy ways to manage and even thrive when your partner is just in a plain old grumpy mood.
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The episode begins with Carla’s announcement that she’s learning Spanish, and it leads to a conversation on all the languages she and Sherry would love to learn how to speak. Then, they take a Love Fix question from a listener that wants to stop running away in relationships when things get tough, and then Sherry and Carla welcome guest Jaclyn Bsales, EMDR Certified, Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Jaclyn breaks down exactly what EMDR is in a clear and understandable way, and how it can help both people with complex trauma and those looking to self regulate and gain more confidence. Jaclyn discusses how our old patterns can get us stuck in overwhelming, toxic, and abusive relationships, and how EMDR can help.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is EMDR, and how can EMDR help someone who has experienced or is currently experiencing trauma?
- How EMDR can help us re-establish a sense of safety.
- EMDR can also help people with no significant trauma who just desire a calmer nervous system.
- How can a toxic traumatic relationship impact our self esteem for years after the relationship ends?
- How EMDR can help people with obsessive love addiction.
- Carla talks about how working on codependency is a lifetime job.
- Sherry gives her thoughts on trauma based coaches!
- Join Jaclyn’s Community, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- The red flags within yourself that you should look into when doing trauma therapy.
- When we get to adulthood, we tend to be conditioned, whether it's subconscious or conscious to seek out relationships that kind of mirror our past experience.
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Sherry and Carla get in the Halloween mood with some spooky spider trivia, and then take a Love Fix question from a listener that needs help learning to not always put their partner on a pedestal. They then welcome Hilary Jacobs Hendel, Psychotherapist, Emotion Educator, and author of the award winning book, It’s Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle To Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self. Hilary talks about what the Change Triangle is, our 7 core emotions, and how to spot healthy vs. unhealthy conflict.
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Hilary
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Hilary discusses the 7 core emotions, and why they are each important.
- The need for us to practice slowing down and really listen to each other.
- 99% of fights are miscommunications.
- What is The Change Triangle?
- We all have some level of dysfunction, but some people’s trauma can be more debilitating than others.
- Should you add that it’s important for your partner to go to therapy in your dating profile?
- How we can learn to have healthy conflict.
- Join Hilary’s community, and get a monthly post with emotional wisdom, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
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Sherry and Carla start with a Love Fix question from a listener wanting to know when the right time is to get a therapist, which leads to a discussion on the important things to note before jumping into couples therapy. They then welcome Rafaella Fiallo, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Sexual Liberation Activist, Educator, and Therapist specializing in relationship, sex, and trauma therapy. Rafaella owns a therapy private practice, Healing Exchange LLC, and co-founded Afrosexology, a sex-positive pleasure-based sexuality education business. Rafaella talks about her guide to Sexual Self-Care, and group for Trauma Survivors, which is basically a sex-ed class with a trauma-informed lens to let people know they can take up space, in whatever sexual way feels good to them.
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Carla
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Rafaella
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Why it’s important for couples to seek out support and coaching or therapy before things go wrong in a relationship.
- In order for couples therapy to work, both people must be committed to making the relationship work. Otherwise, you’re just wasting your time.
- Rafaella talks about what being sex-positive means to her.
- Labels can be liberating, or they can be limiting.
- How can a toxic relationship and even just trauma or stress affect our sex life?
- We have stress and trauma every day, and then we can have it from childhood, PTSD, and other experiences that are going to trickle into our intimacy, our relationship, and just our overall body response.
- Check out Rafaella’s guide to sexual self-care and community, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- You don’t have to have sexual trauma, you don’t even have to have a big trauma. If you’ve just been under stress and duress and oppression like we all are, that can absolutely have an impact on different facets of our life and lived experience, especially our sexual one.
- How can we support consent culture and boundaries as a community?
- Why is victim blaming so prevalent, and what can we do about it?
- Rafaella discusses how our body and nervous system can confuse excitement for fear.
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Sherry and Carla start off the episode talking about self care, and take a Love Fix question from a listener in her 30’s who can’t seem to shake anxiety when she doesn’t hear from her partner. They then welcome Tana Espino, a LMFT and Somatic Coach, guiding women to heal codependency and anxiety in relationships. Tana talks about how you can learn to shift from an anxious to secure attachment, and move from codependency to confidence. She discusses the different nervous system responses, and the tools we can use to learn to have healthy and empowering responses to the world around us.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- With codependency, there is a behavioral component that stems from the belief that they are not good enough.
- How codependent behavior and anxious attachment are similar, and how they differ.
- What does it look like once our attachment systems are activated?
- Accessing our internal world looks differently for each individual, and it’s a highly personal thing. That’s why it’s best to work with a therapist or trained individual who can support you through the process.
- Tana walks us through a cliffs notes process of our nervous system reactions, and what that looks like in someone with anxious attachment.
- What is fawning?
- Check out Tana’s free coaching, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- The crux of codependency is someone not knowing who they are, and feeling invisible, abandoned, and not worthy.
- How can someone start to feel good enough and worthy of both love for themselves and from someone else?
- How can we better set boundaries with our friends, family, and in the workplace?
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Sherry and Carla start the show talking about east coast fashion vs. dressing in LA, and then take a Love Fix question from a listener wondering the difference between setting boundaries and reacting. They then welcome Certified Professional Coach Kamini Wood, creator of the Authentic Me Rise Up program and CEO of Live Joy Your Way. Kamini talks about how to recognize red flags and toxic relationships, what setting a porous vs. rigid boundary looks like, and how codependents can start to set aside time and space for themselves without feeling guilty.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Self love can be deep self acceptance of your authentic self, not the mask that you’re wearing for the outside world.
- Practicing self love does not make you a narcissist. In fact, they are two totally different things.
- Why codependents struggle with setting boundaries, and what porous vs. rigid boundaries look like.
- How to set better boundaries if you are a codependent dealing with a narcissist.
- Check out Kamini’s books and coaching, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How Kamini sets boundaries with 5 kids!
- Often the people that push back against our boundary the hardest are the ones that were benefiting the most from your lack of boundary.
- How we can recognize the elements of toxic relationships.
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It’s all about divorce and moving on from toxicity this week. First, Carla and Sherry take a Love Fix question from someone who is hesitant to date a divorcee. They then welcome Dawn Burnett, CSA who is the founder of the #SHEROproject and a divorce and lifestyle consultant. Dawn has helped countless people around the world free themselves from relationships, habits, and situations that are no longer serving their highest selves. She discusses her own journey of abuse and how she broke certain patterns and freed herself from toxicity, why what we eat and how we treat ourselves really matters, and why it’s important to have the right support and to take baby steps when leaving an abusive relationship.
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Dawn
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Dawn endured a very abusive and toxic broken home and a 15 year abusive marriage. She now is a thriver and is happy to be free for the last 13 years.
- Abuse is a very overwhelming situation, and it’s all about dealing with internal trauma through baby steps, positive affirmations, positive podcasts, etc.
- Dawn discusses the tools she uses to help people move from a toxic force to being okay.
- The importance of finding a community.
- How we can begin to clear out toxicity through focusing on what we eat, drink, how we move and what we put on our bodies.
- Check out Dawn’s #SHEROproject, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- What it means to Dawn for someone to go from victim to thriver.
- Can someone really be okay after divorce, or do they always have baggage with them in the next relationship?
- You can't think your way to positive action. You have to do positive action, and then it changes your thinking.
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Carla and Sherry share their favorite snacks, from Tostitos to eggs with ketchup. They take a Love Fix question about a listener who feels like they are constantly in denial about their relationship, and then welcome Darlene Lancer, best-selling author, psychotherapist, and international relationship expert on narcissism and codependency. Darlene shares some of her wisdom from writing 10 books and counseling individuals and couples for over 30 years and shines a light on some traits of a narcissist, how to spot one, and why certain people are more vulnerable to this behavior.
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Carla
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Darlene
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- The one inherited personality trait that researchers have found narcissists share.
- Narcissists score low on agreeableness as an inherited trait. They tend to think they are entitled to special treatment and that they are above the law.
- How narcissistic personalities are actually a defense to shame.
- Can narcissists be aggressive?
- Check out Darlene’s impressive body of work and free articles, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Why do narcissists act so nice at first, but end up being so hard to get along with?
- Why it typically takes people several meetings to notice a narcissist and especially in dating, a narcissist's goal is to try even harder to make you like them.
- A codependents' goal is to connect, and they feel safe when they are in a relationship.
- What is the “Q-TIP” acronym?
- What are some signs you are vulnerable to a narcissist?
- How can codependents gain their own power?
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Carla and Sherry start this week off with tips for staying focused, and then take a Love Fix Question about the difference between love addiction and codependency. They then welcome Aishia Grevenberg, LCSW., a psychotherapist with over 20 years experience and clinical expertise in trauma, relationships, codependency and addiction. Aishia is a on a tireless quest to promote transformational change in women and she talks about realizing her own self worth, embracing the non-married (and happy!) life, and giving herself permission to feel any and all emotions.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- It’s 2022, and we are still making it a primary focus for women to find a man? How do we flip the script so our self love and health comes first?
- Aishia talks about her journey into becoming a wellness consultant and psychotherapist.
- How can we better accept being single?
- Check out Aishia’s community, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- It’s great to have a relationship and be in love, but it’s equally as great loving the single life and deciding however you want your life to look as your reality.
- What to say when people accuse you of being “selfish” for not wanting a marriage or children?
- We must embrace our codependence and not run away from it, to be able to fully work on it.
- How Aishia works with her clients to help them look inside themselves for care and comfort rather than externally.
- What does it mean to “take custody of your inner child?”
- Aishia talks about her feeling of having her anger invalidated, and how she gave herself permission to be okay with whatever emotions came up.
- How somebody can take steps forward so that they are able to ask for their needs, but also express their love and be in a healthy relationship moving forward.
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Carla and Sherry start this week off with a Love Fix question from someone whose partner gets frustrated with their lack of focus and undivided attention. They then welcome Jessica Da Silva, LMFT and Attachment Coach, who helps adults end their unhealthy dating patterns to create strong and secure relationships. Jessica talks about the four different attachment theories, and how we can learn from both the challenges and gifts that each one brings.
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Jessica
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Where the attachment theory came from and how it stems from the attachment bonds between caregiver and child.
- More about the four different attachment styles and ways we experience love: anxious attachment, dismissive, avoidant, and secure attachment.
- No one is 100% one way of an attachment style, but it is on a spectrum.
- Jessica discusses some soothing exercises she does to help ground different attachment styles.
- Check out Jessica’s attachment coaching programs, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- What does it mean when someone is a dismissive avoidant?
- How can an anxiously attached person be in a relationship with an avoidant attached one?
- Jessica talks about her own experience as a fearful avoidant, and how her current relationship made her more secure.
- Which attachment style seems to go with codependents, and which is more narcissistic?
- Why it’s important for us to know what attachment style we fall more into.
- What the healing and recovery process can look like and why having a therapist or professional help you is critical.
- If we don’t deal with our traumas, we can end up projecting our insecurities on other relationships in our life.
- The steps someone can use to cultivate a secure attachment style.
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Sherry talks about her new move to Florida, and then she and Carla take a Love Fix question from a listener in a new relationship who is trying to break old patterns from having to deal with narcissists. They then welcome Nova Gibson, Founder and Principal Counselor at Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counseling Service. Nova talks about her expertise and passion behind supporting victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse, how to begin the process of recovery, why a tribe is important as you begin to seek help, and why victims tend to get stuck in a cycle of going back to either the same or a new narcissist partner.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How self-care and setting boundaries go hand in hand with narcissistic abuse recovery.
- Why is there so much talk about narcissists and the people that have been affected by them?
- How trauma bonding keeps victims physically attracted and addicted.
- Nova talks about her own experience with a narcissist, and why she chose this area of expertise after getting the help she needed.
- Check out Nova’s Brighter Outlook community, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Nova gives a snapshot of what love bombing looks like, and why even smart successful people can fall prey to it.
- Love addicts tend to live in fantasy rather than reality.
- Why no contact is important and finding a tribe that can support you is critical.
- What resources are there for people getting out of a toxic relationship that want to go no contact but have children?
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Do you say hi to your neighbors? Sherry and Carla start the episode talking about whether or not they say hi to strangers while out on a stroll, and take a Love Fix question from a listener whose partner can’t stop bringing up their ex. They then welcome Laura Charanza, relationship expert and narcissistic abuse survivor. Laura is also the author of Ugly Love: A Survivor’s Story of Narcissistic Abuse. Laura talks about her mission to help men and women navigate toxic relationships, and how it is possible to come out on the other side better than ever.
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Laura Charanza
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Laura shares her own story of surviving a relationship with a narcissist.
- What are the red flags both in others and ourselves that we can look for?
- What is the very step of someone as they seek to break away from a toxic relationship?
- Why finding a professional to help you wake up and become conscious about your patterns is critical.
- If you are worrying about being a narcissist, chances are you aren’t.
- How do narcissists move in relationships compared to others?
- Check out Laura’s book Ugly Love, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Women often want to find love so badly that they don’t listen to their gut and fall prey to toxic relationships.
- Why it’s important to become aware of your own triggers and trauma response.
- Some good signs that a relationship is healthy and based on a solid foundation.
- According to research, most people out in the dating world want a partner who is going to therapy.
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Sherry and Carla start the show with a first, talking about Khloe Kardashian and her continued relationship with Tristan Thompson, along with what we can take away from their patterns. They take a Love Fix question from a listener who is dating someone who has a drinking issue that has gotten worse as the relationship has gone on, and doesn’t know what to do next. Then, they welcome Johanna Lynn, Founder of the Family Imprint Institute, an International Private Practice. Johanna talks about how our generational past and imprints continue to influence us, and how epigenetics can release the past and break patterns.
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Joanna Lynn
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Why did Johanna start the Family Imprint Institute?
- How does our family imprint on us and how can we pass down generational trauma?
- Johanna talks about why it’s so important to do the trauma work on both a physical and emotional level.
- The ways that our subconscious influences us to pick out certain partners for relationships, and why we tend to repeat patterns.
- The “click” we feel often has to do with what feels familiar in our family of origin.
- Check out Johanna’s Services and Online Sessions, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Sometimes you can be the first generation to stop a pattern that has been going on for decades.
- The more emotions we keep inside, the harder it is on our whole body system.
- What are integrative body psychotherapy and epigenetics?
- How can a couple deepen their relationship and intimacy through understanding generational trauma and their family tree?
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Sherry and Carla kick off the week with a Love Fix question from a listener who is not feeling totally heard or listened to in their relationship. They then welcome Katelyn Baxter-Musser, LCSW in private practice whose areas of expertise include the treatment of trauma, PTSD, depression, anxiety, grief, intimate partner violence and relationship issues. Katelyn talks about what physical abuse and domestic violence can look like, how to begin to get help, and she shares some shocking statistics showing that abuse does not dscriminate.
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Katelyn Baxter-Musser
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Safety planning involves a couple of key components. It has to be victim centered and also personalized.
- Up to 10 million people each year can experience intimate partner violence.
- What constitutes domestic violence and physical abuse?
- Physical Abuse does not discriminate against any race, ethnicity, social class, etc. Katelyn shares some shocking statistics on abuse.
- What are some red flags that can indicate abuse or violence?
- Abuse is not always predictable.
- Check out Katelyn’sTrainings and Resources, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Is there a certain timeline of when a relationship starts to become physically abusive or is it really just dependent on the perpetrator and the victim?
- How trauma bonding and being addicted to the peptides of love can be contributing factors that keep people stuck.
- Katelyn gives her thoughts on how addiction and narcissism can play a role in abuse, but do not excuse it.
- The first step of getting help is reaching out for support. That hopefully means a trained mental health professional, but even just one person in your world can be a first step.
Sherry and Carla kick off the show talking about how pizza can be used in negotiation, and take a Love Fix Question from a listener who keeps attracting unavailable men, even though she doesn’t feel she has father issues. They then welcome in Kyle Benson, a self proclaimed relationship nerd who provides practical research-based tools to build long-lasting and intimate relationships. Kyle explores how you can stop settling for less and how to get over the illusion that you can fix, control, or manipulate someone.
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Sherry
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Kyle Benson
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What really blocks us from seeing our role in our relationships and the patterns of the partners we pick?
- It takes vulnerability to look at the role we play in our relationships.
- It starts with the relationship you have with yourself.
- What if the partner doesn’t see the role they play?
- Check out Kyle’s Intimacy Questions, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- What are some things to look for when deciding if this partnership can be long term?
- Kyle explains how couples can get stuck in a pattern of not being emotionally open and vulnerable with each other. It’s about working through escalation to get to that softer place.
- Some ways to tell if therapy is working, and how to bring it up with your therapist if you feel as though it’s not.
Sherry and Carla kick off this week talking about strip clubs and then take a Love Fix Question on how to lessen the tension in a relationship, which leads to a conversation on the need for mental health more than ever since the pandemic. They then welcome Alina Frank and Craig Weiner, Directors of the EFT Tapping Institute. These life and business partners talk about what EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is, how to begin using it as a tool in your life, and how it can help us get out of toxic relationships and heal from trauma.
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Alina Frank and Craig Weiner
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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What exactly is EFT, or the Emotional Freedom Technique?
- How is EFT different from other therapy or trauma healing techniques?
- Alina and Craig talk about how they discovered EFT and the ways it has developed over the years.
- Some signs you are in a toxic relationship.
- Toxic relationships also can result in long-term health effects such as migraines or digestive disorders.
- Join the tapping community with Craig and Alina, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- What are the steps that someone might take if they really need to leave a toxic situation, and how can EFT provide a powerful resource?
- EFT can help us learn to accept ourselves and notice the patterns that stem from our trauma. It provides full ownership over our own choices which makes a person feel empowered and less codependent.
- Toxicity usually has a history of where it came from.
- Alina and Craig name some green flags, along with a four-letter word synonymous with a good relationship.
Sherry and Carla talk about their first jobs and other career paths they went on before meeting each other, and how it helps them out today. They take a Love Fix question on getting out of a toxic relationship, even if your family and friends don’t recognize the need to leave, and then welcome Lisa Sonni. Lisa is a Certified Life and Relationship Coach, who helps clients of all genders and walks of life. Lisa herself is a survivor of domestic assault and narcissistic abuse, and she launched the Stronger Than Before Coaching Practice in 2011. Lisa talks with Sherry and Carla about what trauma bonding is, how it is similar and different to love addiction, and a few crucial tools to start the process of leaving a trauma-bonded relationship.
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Lisa Sonni
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question - I’ve been dating someone for 2.5 years and I feel like it’s getting toxic! My friends and family don’t see it though, and I feel too bad to break up. Should I make this relationship work?
- What is trauma bonding?
- How is trauma bonding part of narcissistic abuse?
- Gain access to Lisa Sonni’s Trauma Bond Recovery Workbook, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- It’s not just co-dependents that can fall from a trauma-bonded relationship.
- Trauma bonding feels like love but creates an unhealthy attachment between a victim and abuser.
- What does it take to create a trauma bond?
- Why is no contact and taking the relationship off the table important when dealing with a trauma bond?
- Trauma bonds aren’t just for romantic relationships but can be with family members as well.
- Narcissists may not mean to hurt you, but they often aren’t even aware of their actions or don’t care about how it affects someone else.
- How long does it take somebody typically to get out of a trauma bond?
- The difference between a toxic and abusive relationship: intention.
It’s all about codependency this week as Carla and Sherry start the episode with a Love Fix question about how to grow even further in your relationship as you are in codependency recovery and in therapy. They then welcome Nancy L. Johnson, a Licensed Professional Counselor and Licensed substance abuse treatment practitioner in private practice in Lexington, VA. Nancy gives some sage insight from her over 44 years of clinical experience on bringing awareness to our patterns, and why she prefers to look at codependent behaviors on a continuum. Nancy also talks about self-recovery, self-attunement, and how we can begin looking internally for validation.
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Nancy Johnston
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- There are red flags, and it’s important to explore them and follow your gut, but don’t look for them, because you can always find a red flag.
- Nancy discusses how we can differentiate between codependency in general and how it relates to someone who’s an addict or alcoholic.
- Why Nancy defines codependency itself as a loss of self in someone else.
- Gain access to Nancy’s book Disentangle and her events, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Codependency is about being externally focused and the core recovery dynamic is becoming aware of the external focus and bringing it back to the self.
- How is self-recovery different from self-care?
- Nancy describes some behaviors that fall under a codependency continuum.
- Nancy discusses Parts Work and Internal Family Systems and how they can help us bring awareness to different parts of ourselves and how we can feel multiple ways about a situation.
Carla finds out she is a lifestyle guru during a Google search, and she and Sherry take a Love Fix question on recognizing true manipulation versus trendy buzzwords. They then welcome Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, a Psychotherapist in anxiety, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, and ADHD. She is also the author of six books, one workbook, and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She talks about the key factors that can make someone susceptible to being gaslighted, what truly defines gaslighting, and how to disengage and get out if you are in a relationship with a gaslighter. Stephanie also gives us a glimpse into her new book, Healing from Toxic Relationships.
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Carla
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Dr. Stephanie Sarkis
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is gaslighting in relationships, and how did we get to a 1944 movie to it being used so much in popular culture now?
- Everyone is susceptible to being gaslit, even if you’ve had a history of healthy relationships.
- We are extra susceptible to falling prey to a gaslighter if we have a physical or mental issue, even ADHD.
- Word weaseling is picking apart words and using semantics so that the attention gets deflected and the partner becomes distracted, confused, and focused on something else rather than the gaslighter.
- People that are true sociopath narcissists can get a dopamine boost from controlling people.
- Ego dystonic means that what you’re doing and what your beliefs are, are not mixing. Ego syntonic behavior is when you think that you’re fine, but everyone else has the problem.
- Gain access to Dr. Stephanie’s new book Healing from Toxic Relationships, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- What can someone do when you are in a trauma response?
- Your brain goes to whichever option it thinks is the one that's most unlikely to ensure your survival, so don’t beat yourself up over your trauma response.
- What can we learn from how our partner treats the waiter or someone they see as lower than them?
- How can you fully break away from the never-ending loop of trauma and get back together?
Carla and Sherry first start out with some eyebrow tips if you want to look like Brooke Shields, and then take a Love Fix question from someone struggling with self-love at certain times during arguments in their relationship. They then welcome Dr. Margaret Paul, best-selling author, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful inner bonding self-healing process. Dr. Margaret first talks about the process of inner bonding, and how it can help co-dependents learn to love themselves and rely on their own validation and acceptance. She explains how what we eat affects us on a large scale, and why cutting out junk food can help us eliminate junk thoughts and actions.
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Carla
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Dr. Margaret Paul
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Self-love is not a one-stop destination, but a constant journey.
- Dr. Margaret shares her own self-love journey and how she worked so hard to get to the point where she treats her body with respect and nurturing. She is now 82 and has amazing energy, health, and vitality!
- When you eat junk food, you have junk thoughts. Dr. Margaret talks about the many mental and emotional benefits that come with eating clean and how food affects our mood.
- Not sure what to do in your relationship? Unless you are in an abusive or harmful relationship, Dr. Margaret recommends hanging in there until you are responsible for yourself and making yourself happy.
- Gain access to Dr. Margaret’s Inner Bonding book that has sold millions, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- What is the process of inner bonding and why is it important for everyone, especially co-dependents?
- Many times, we feel like if we take care of ourselves, people won’t love us because we aren’t giving to them.
- What does self-abandonment look like? Dr. Margaret shows four examples of how we tend to abandon our needs.
Carla and Sherry first talk about how we can use Taylor Swift songs to recognize attachment styles, and they take a Love Fix question on how to get back in the dating scene after a toxic relationship. They then welcome Ronia Fraser, internationally certified and multi-award winning Trauma Recovery Coach, clinical hypnotherapist, and one of the leading experts in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery. Ronia talks about how to start the process of becoming unstuck from being in a loop of codependency in a toxic relationship, why no contact is crucial for healing, and the difference between natural courting and love bombing.
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Ronia Fraser
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How did Ronia heal from her own experience in a toxic relationship with a narcissist?
- Why is it so hard for even smart and successful people to leave toxic and abusive relationships?
- For Ronia to work with someone, they must be in no contact in their relationship.
- Gain access to Ronia’s e-book How to Heal From Narcissistic Abuse, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How can a toxic relationship erode someone’s identity?
- How do we become physically addicted to love?
- Not every narcissist loves bombs!
- No contact is literally the most important rule for recovery because what we need to do is really create a safe space to allow for the healing to happen.
- When you really cut off the contact with an abuser, you're cutting off your drug.
- What is the difference between normal courting and love bombing?
Carla and Sherry kick off the show sharing their dream places to travel, along with a shout out to all the international listeners. They then take a Love Fix question from someone who is losing their friends and family because they decided to take back a toxic ex, and then they welcome Arielle Schwartz, Ph.D. and licensed clinical psychologist, EMDR therapy consultant, author, and somatic psychotherapist. Arielle talks about her Post Traumatic Growth guidebook and defines what post-traumatic growth is. She talks about how the journey of trauma recovery is an awakening of the spiritual heart, and how trauma can give us an opportunity to grow and become even stronger.
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Sherry
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Carla
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Dr. Arielle Schwartz
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is post-traumatic growth?
- What does it look like in someone’s healing when they have had the right type of support vs. they still need help with getting the tools to help?
- How can post-traumatic growth change the way we act in relationships, both with ourselves and the people around us?
- Resilience is actually a sign that we have gotten the right support.
- How can love and dating change after we have grown from trauma and gotten to know and trust ourselves a little bit better?
- Gain access to Arielle’s guidebook, the Post Traumatic Growth Guidebook, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How to take the first step in healing and growing from trauma.
Sherry and Carla start off with some favorite recipes, and Carla promises Sherry a homemade meal whenever she comes to visit. They then welcome Sarah Peyton, Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, Constellation facilitator and neuroscience educator, and author of Your Resonant Self Workbook. Sarah travels the world to help people learn how to use language and self-compassion to heal trauma, and how to use self-guided meditations and exercise to engage the brain’s capacity for healing. Sarah talks about how disconnection from our primary caregivers can set the stage for disorganized attachment, and how stress can change our attachment style. Towards the end of the episode, Sarah shares real-life examples of what gentle self-compassion can look and sound like. Connect with Us!
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Carla
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Sarah Peyton
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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question - how do I get my boyfriend to listen to me without saying that I’m overreacting?
- Research shows that more than 50% of people in the United States are securely attached - so where are they?
- We can move from secure to anxious or avoidant if stressed and stuck in a consistent trauma response.
- What are some of the greatest gifts that come when you are in a relationship where you can be vulnerable and open? What are some challenges that may pop up on the road to getting there?
- What makes us most resilient to stress is self warmth and self-accompaniment.
- What happens to our brain when we give ourselves compassion and when we get compassion from others?
- Gain access to Sarah’s workbook, Your Resonant Self, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- Sarah shares an interesting fact about traumatic and disorganized attachment starting from how our primary caregivers reacted to our emotions.
- Yes, people who are securely attached can find themselves in disorganized traumatic and violent situations, even with the best of intentions.
Are you an extrovert, introvert, or somewhere in between? Carla and Sherry start this week talking about which one they are, and then take a Love Fix question staying friends with an ex. Then, they welcome Kristen Boice, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a private counseling practice in Indiana, and host of the Close the Chapter Podcast. Kristen talks about the healing tool of EMDR and why it's so successful, what brainstopping is and how it’s different from EMDR, and how EMDR can be a great resource for someone dealing with attachment and abandonment issues. Carla also shares her personal story with EMDR and how it helped her with deep trauma work.
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Sherry
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Carla
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Kristen D. Boice
Close The Chapter | Website | Instagram | Facebook
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Carla’s version of coffee is hanging out with people! Sherry can play like an extrovert, but her social battery can drain energy fast.
- A Love Fix Question of the Day from a listener who may need to say goodbye to a guy friend she used to date.
- One of the biggest indicators of an avoidant or anxious attachment is someone who feels the need to stay connected with a ton of their exes.
- What is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), and who may need it? How is it different from Brainspotting?
- How EMDR works with both hemispheres of the brain and connects our thoughts and feelings in a way that can release stuck energy from our nervous system.
- How can EMDR help someone dealing with codependency, fear of abandonment, and attachment issues?
- Find out how to listen to Kristen’s podcast, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Abandonment issues and trauma can go as far back as in-utero and birth.
- Why would someone still do trauma work even when they are in a secure relationship?
- Dating can trigger fear, shame, and grief and stir up things even though we worked through it.
- There are more trauma responses than you may have heard of beyond flight or fight!
Carla and Sherry share hilarious Zoom fails and the unexpected silver linings from working online over the last two years. Then, they take a Love Fix question from a friend who thinks it’s time for her friend to get married. What are the red flags in this question and in this situation, and is marriage as important as finding the right life partner? Then, they welcome Lauren Zoeller, CTA certified relationship coach, motivational speaker, and podcast host. She has achieved overwhelming success in helping high performing, female executives attract a dream relationship and life they crave. She is the creator of The Aligned Love Experience™, a cutting edge coaching program that teaches women how to attract love and Balanced Boss Academy™, a learning platform that teaches online coaches how to build and scale a business with heart. Lauren talks about how she incorporates ventral vagal work into her coaching, how trauma can affect everyone differently, and how to release toxic energy and sit with your biggest emotions.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Lauren talks about somatic experiencing and how she uses it to coach her clients through trauma and the early childhood experiences that keep them stuck in toxic relationships.
- Do people who keep picking emotionally unavailable partners have a more anxious or avoidant attachment style?
- The importance of learning how to sit with the big emotions so that you can first have a healthy relationship with yourself.
- Why you need to stop fooling yourself- and others- into thinking that you’ve got it all together.
- Find out how to connect with Lauren, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Toxic people and narcissists are addicted to the manipulation that fills their self-worth cup.
- Two ways to calm yourself in the interactions leading up and on a first date.
- Mastering the ventral vagal state in your nervous system allows you to respond the way you really want to in any situation.
- There’s no one traumatic event that is more severe than another, and every brain responds to trauma in a different way.
- How to know if therapy, psychotherapy, or coaching is what you need now.
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sherry
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Carla
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Lauren Zoeller
Website | Instagram | Facebook
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Carla’s big sister Stephanie jumps on at the top of the show, to give the good ‘ole sister stamp of approval to The Love Fix. Then, Sherry and Carla take a Love Fix question from someone who is married, but things don’t feel like they are improving, especially in therapy. Then, they welcome Brynn Cicippio, LMFT and recovery specialist. Brynn is the founder and owner of BCA Therapy, a group private practice that sees Pennsylvania clients and residents in both in-person and telehealth. Brynn talks about how she got into supporting individuals, couples, and families to recover from the trauma left after an affair, addiction, and narcissistic abuse. She talks with Carla and Sherry about how to learn to trust your gut, what true self-care looks like, and how to cut off a narcissistic of what she calls their “narcissistic supply”.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Brynn talks about her life as a former probation and parole officer, and how that set her on a course to be interested in working with the topics of betrayal, infidelity, narcissistic abuse, and toxic relationships.
- How can being with a narcissist actually change someone’s attachment style?
- Yes, narcissists can know how to model empathy and pro-social behaviors instead of actually feeling those things. What are some red flags to look out for?
- Find out how to https://bcatherapy.com/, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- A lot of individuals who have experienced narcissistic abuse use alcohol and drugs as a coping skill in response.
- What does love bombing look like in a longer relationship?
- When it’s necessary to interact with a narcissist, less is better. Make your meeting very brief, clear, and factual.
- Brynn describes what she calls “a narcissistic supply” where the narcissist needs validation from even more than one outside source, often resulting in many affairs.
- The three types of self-care talking to yourself with love and compassion.
- Bubble baths and paying your bills are great for self-care, but you really have to first look at how you are talking to yourself. If you are tearing yourself down, the nice things won’t mean anything.
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sherry
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Carla
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Brynn Cicippio
Website | Instagram | Facebook
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla first talk about the importance of discernment when it comes to hiring the right coach or therapist and a few of the differences between therapists and coaches, especially when it comes to trauma work. They then welcome MIchelle Ferris, a licensed psychotherapist and anger management specialist. Michelle loves helping codependent people create healthy relationships without sacrificing their big hearts. She talks about how to begin to trust your intuition as a codependent, narcissistic rage, and walks Sherry and Carla through a live round of tapping to give an example of a powerful tool that can help dissolve fear and anxiety.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Love Fix Question of the Day - What if you have been in toxic relationships in the past and now have a hard time trusting your gut?
- Until you release the old stuff and work on your trauma, it’s hard to bring in anything healthy.
- How Michelle defines recovery, and how to begin learning self-trust and building up relationships built on trust.
- If you have any issues with codependency, self-trust is going to be really tough. When we can really look at our relationship with ourselves, that’s when things start to change.
- Find out how to connect with Michelle, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Michelle talks about the many forms that support can come in, including coaches, therapists, solid friends, and 12 Step Programs.
- How can we better learn to trust our intuition?
- How do our fears sometimes get in the way of us seeing the reality of our experiences in living in our truth?
- How is narcissistic rage different from someone just getting mad?
Tweetables:
- “You can be a therapist, but if you haven’t had trauma training you really shouldn’t be saying that you’re doing trauma therapy.” - Sherry
- “You really need to have some background in trauma therapy to say that you work in trauma.” - Sherry
- “Recovery is the process of unlearning the behaviors in childhood that really hurt us and to really learn how to self-trust and build relationships that work on all the skills that go along with that.”- Michelle
- “If you have any issues with codependency, self-trust is going to be really tough, because it’s going to be more intoxicating to look for the answer outside yourself.” - Michelle
- “When we can really look at how we are in the relationship with ourselves, that’s when things start to change.” - Michelle
- “The narcissistic rage is ‘I’m not getting what I want, so I’m going to hurt you in any way I can so that I can avoid my own behavior.’” - Michelle
- “The narcissist is going to make themselves right, so they don't have to do the work.” - Michelle
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sherry
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Carla
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Michelle Farris: Website| Facebook | YouTube
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
International Coaching Federation
Al-Anon
CoDA
Carla and Sherry kick off this week talking about birth control and then take a Love Fix Question on how to fall in love with reality instead of just the fantasy when you are struggling with co-dependnecy. They then welcome the mother and daughter duo Candace Burch and Jess Suchan to talk about hormone health, testing your hormones, and why it’s important to know and track your cycle. Candace and Jess also discuss how our relationships affect our hormones, and why there may even be a best time in the month to use (or not use!) dating apps.
Candace is a Hormone Health Educator with a Masters in Health Education and over 25 years of experience in the field. In 2017 she founded Your Hormone Balance as a 1:1 consulting practice and is now joined by her two daughters Ryan and Jess. Together, they help women around the world achieve better health and understand their bodies better.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question about co-dependency and learning to fall in love with reality.
- How can hormone imbalance negatively affect a person's mood and relationship?
- How are hormones a fundamental cornerstone of love and sex?
- Why are younger women experiencing shifts and fluctuations that disrupt their ovulation cycles?
- Candace and Jess discuss the different cycles of our menstruation, and how we can set ourselves up for success by matching the energy levels and building in time to rest.
- Find out how to work with Candace and Jess to test and rebalance your hormones, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How can our stress hormones such as cortisol affect how we relate to our partners? How can we support our adrenals?
- Why eating nutrient-dense foods is so important for hormone health.
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sherry
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Carla
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Candace Burch
Website | Testing and Rebalancing - use code LOVEFIX for $50 off any package
Jess Suchan
Website | Instagram
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
My Flo
Aviva Romm
Women Talking Frankly podcast
Sherry and Carla bond over aligned nervous systems, and take a Love Fix question about how to get back into the dating scene after losing a partner. Then they welcome professional Matchmaker, Talia Goldstein, who has found matches for 100’s high-level clients including top executives and celebrities through her company Three Day Rule. Talia talks us through how she found her path on pretty much the coolest job ever as a matchmaker and walks us through the process of how it works. She talks about the broad range that Three Day Rule services, helping clients of all types from ages 21 to 80 who are looking for love.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Talia gives the lowdown on how she became a matchmaker after a successful career in Hollywood. After her matchmaking grew to parties with hundreds of attendees, she knew she was on to something.
- How does Three Day Rule find and vet its network of busy professionals, all looking for life?
- Find out how to join the matchmaking pool or work with Talia directly, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- What are the compatibility factors that Talia and her team look for when matchmaking?
- Talia shares some client success stories, including one perfect example of rejection actually being redirection.
- What are some of the coolest parts of being a matchmaker?
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Talia shares how she “matched” herself with her current husband, and why she is so happy that she stuck around after a few mediocre dates.
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Talia talks about the trends that she is seeing a shift in those looking for love, including men and women being more open to long-distance due to working remotely.
Tweetables:
- “We are a great example of what works.” - Sherry
- “We feel like the sky is the limit and your match can be anywhere.” - Talia
- “Are your rules making you love avoidant?” - Sherry
- “A big part of the process is just trusting the process.” - Talia
- “It’s so much easier for us to match you than for you to match yourself online.” - Talia
- “If you are remotely attracted to them and they seem like a nice person, go out again.” - Talia
- “Rejection is redirection.” - Carla
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sherry
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Carla
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Talia Goldstein
Three Day Rule | Website | Instagram
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Carla and Sherry start the episode talking about how much is too much when sharing vulnerable parts of your life on social media, and then take a Love Fix question on discerning what trauma is from the past or present in a relationship. They then welcome clinician, consultant, author, and internationally-recognized speaker Deb Dana, LCSW. Deb talks about the polyvagal theory and how it informs her work with trauma survivors, how we all have a biological need for co-regulation, and the importance of therapists being anchored in their own regulation before working with clients.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How can oversharing be a trauma response?
- Love Fix Question: How do you tell the difference between past trauma and current trauma in your relationship?
- Deb explains what the polyvagal theory is, and how neuroception can play out in a relationship.
- Learn more about Deb’s Rhythm of Regulation courses, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- The different ways our nervous system responds to how safe we feel, why it’s important to regulate our nervous system.
- What happens when we interact with people and situations that make us feel unsafe?
- What happens to the nervous system with a codependent?
- How does early trauma show up in the polyvagal system, and is there hope for someone to learn how to self-regulate?
- How to support the safety of secure attachments.
Tweetables:
- “If you haven’t resolved early trauma, then you probably are bringing old trauma into the relationship.” — Sherry
- “I’m attempting to navigate the world of dating, finding a partner, and staying in a relationship, and what state I’m in is going to determine how I’m experiencing that moment in time.” — Deb
- “The first rule of therapy is the therapist has to be anchored in that place of regulation.” — Deb
- “These small moments add up. So notice the small moments.” — Deb
- “Trauma survivors are exquisitely attuned to picking up those cues from other nervous systems.” — Deb
- “I want to honor the way neuroception has acted in the beginning and continues to act.” — Deb
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sherry
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Carla
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Deb Dana
Rhythm of Regulation | Anchored
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Brené Brown
Carla gets in trouble for coming to California and not seeing Sherry, and then the two talk about when they will finally see each other after a year of working together. Then, they take a Love Fix Question from a listener that can’t seem to get past the first date, and welcome Dr. Christie Kederian, a nationally renowned relationship expert who specializes in helping clients create lives they love and find the love they deserve. Dr. Christie talks about her research-backed method for finding if the relationship has potential after 10 dates, if people can really have long-distance relationships, and why we should focus on compatibility over convenience.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question — I’m so single and can’t seem to get past the first date. What am I doing wrong?
- Dr. Christie explains her perspective on dating and why the way we do it now creates burnout and dating fatigue!
- The three things that have nothing to do with compatibility.
- Why do men tend to use dating as their personal therapy, when they are fresh back on the market?
- What is the 10 Day to Soulmate Roadmap that Dr. Christie created, and how does it give a research-backed blueprint to measure how your relationship is progressing?
- Learn more about Dr. Christie’s free training, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How can we be on the lookout for true emotional intimacy vs. love-bombing and a false sense of physical intimacy?
- How soon is it okay for a man to be back on the dating scene and how can you tell if someone is not emotionally available?
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sherry
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Dr. Christie
Website | Instagram | Coaching | Twitter
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Defining Decade
Tinder Swindler
Sherry and Carla start the show talking about toxic masculinity, and how men don’t often get the emotional support that women do. They take a Love Fix Question on the main characteristics of a narcissist and then welcome guest Wendy Behary, Founder and Director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey, and author of Disarming a Narcissist. Wendy discusses her private practice which is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners, and people dealing with them, along with couples experiencing relationship problems. She talks about the most common paths that lead to narcissism, how to set yourself up for confrontation with a narcissist, and why professional help is often needed for the narcissist to transform.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question — what are the main characteristics of a narcissist?
- No one is immune to getting attracted or captured under the spell of a narcissist, but not everyone stays.
- Wendy discusses working with narcissistic men directly, what are some of the most common themes she sees in these men?
- Wendy talks about how having a plan set in place when planning to confront or leave a narcissist is critical. You may even look for a narcissism-savvy lawyer in the process.
- A few highlights of Wendy’s new book Disarming the Narcissist, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- What is empathic confrontation, and how can you use it as a better chance of being heard?
- At the end of the day, it’s more important for you to hear yourself state your needs and boundaries than it is for the narcissist to hear you.
- How can you tell if there’s hope in a relationship with a narcissist, and when you should get out immediately?
- Wendy talks about why professional help is so important when trying to get a narcissist to transform. She details how long it typically takes to see growth and a few of the larger obstacles that show up.
- How to break a trauma bond.
- How is narcissism typically developed, and are people born with it, or is it something that is developed?
Tweetables:
- “No one is immune to getting attracted to or captured under the spell of the narcissist because they can be incredible, particularly in the courtship phase.” — Wendy
- “Narcissists get what they want and they know how to get what they want.” — Wendy
- “It’s not your job to figure out the profile of narcissism, but I do think it’s a bit of a gift for liberation.” — Wendy
- “The goal is for you to hear yourself. I want to hear me being the best advocate for me that I can be.” — Wendy
- “It’s really hard without therapy to imagine change that’s going to be sustainable.” — Wendy
- “I think that in betrayal trauma, which is the most common type of trauma, when you're living with a narcissist, the bond is such that it’s not so easy.” — Wendy
- “What happens with narcissists is they come into the world with a temperament that might be a little more sensitive, perhaps a little more impulsive, and they meet an environment that cannot adequately meet those needs or … imposes certain high expectations upon them.” — Wendy
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sherry
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Wendy
Website | Disarming the Narcissist | Facebook | Instagram
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Carla and Sherry start off the show with a conversation about buying expensive(ish) jeans, which leads to a deeper issue of how our spending typically reflects the way we were taught to feel about money as a child. They take a Love Fix question on getting over the fear that a new partner will be abusive and then welcome trailblazing expert The Little Shaman to the show. The Little Shaman talks about the most important things for people to understand about getting in a relationship with a narcissist, when the “honeymoon stage” really falls apart for a narcissist, and how to believe their true colors from the beginning, instead of trying to repaint them.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What does it feel like to be addicted to someone, let alone to be addicted to a narcissist?
- The number one thing you can do with a narcissist — leave! You won’t fix them.
- How can you begin to trust your gut and notice relationship red flags from the beginning?
- Everything that a narcissist believes someone else is doing to them is what THEY actually do.
- How to attend The Little Shaman’s workshops on boundaries and healing, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- The Little Shaman talks about her own experience with a narcissist, and how therapists and healers also can fall prey to one.
- What tips does The Little Shaman have for combating loneliness and feeling isolated instead of reaching out to a toxic ex?
- Some tips on dealing with no contact and weaning off an addiction to the relationship cycle.
Tweetables:
- “I think the most important thing for people to understand in relationships with a narcissist is that there’s nothing you can do to fix this problem.” - The Little Shaman
- “Everything that a narcissist believes someone else is doing to them is what narcissists actually do. - The Little Shaman
- “If you grew up in a co-dependent household with dysfunction or trauma, you don’t have boundaries. You’re a perfect little recipe to fall into these kinds of traps with a narcissist.” - Carla
- “The first thing to remember is that the voice of addiction is sneaky. It’s very, very sneaky and it will lie to you.” - The Little Shaman
- “When someone shows you their true colors, stop trying to repaint them.” - The Little Shaman
- “Narcissists want to be with someone who's successful, because that's great for their ego.” - Sherry
- “Once you know what to look for, you can start seeing through it quickly. “ The Little Shaman
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery - $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sherry
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https://sherrygaba.com/addiction-recovery/sessions-psychotherapy/rates-insurance/
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Little Shaman: YouTube | Podcast | Instagram | Website
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla open up the show talking about aging gracefully and the culture of dating in Los Angeles, mixed with the pressure of finding that special someone. They then take a Love Fix question about red flags in a relationship and welcome one of today’s most trusted relationship teachers, Elizabeth Earnshaw. Elizabeth talks about her standing as a renowned Gottman Therapist, a Licensed MFT, and influential IG therapist who has helped transform countless relationships. Elizabeth is also the head therapist at Actually, and author of I Want This To Work. In this super fun episode, Elizabeth gives her advice on when it’s time to leave a relationship, tips for recognizing codependency, and where to begin when navigating modern-day dating issues. What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What does it mean to be a Gottman-certified therapist?
- The Four Horsemen: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Let’s break down each one and know how they play out in toxic relationships.
- Find out more about working with Elizabeth, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- What is Elizabeth’s advice for someone in a new relationship trying to tell if what they are witnessing is a red flag or just a data point.
- What are the most important things to be on the lookout for when starting a new relationship?
- When is it time to let go of a relationship?
- Elizabeth breaks down some of the obsession that codependents have with making others happy and tips for originating your own opinions and desires.
Tweetables:
- “Consistency is huge. When you’re in a relationship and starting out with someone who disappears on you for a few days, that’s already not a good sign.” - Elizabeth
- “If in the very beginning, they're not acting like they think that you are very bright or that they think that you have interesting things to say, that's kind of a warning sign.” - Elizabeth
- “I think what it comes down to is are you able to communicate, and are you able to repair? Do you have a baseline of respect and responsiveness and reliability in this relationship?” - Elizabeth
- “Having resentments in a relationship is a big red flag.” - Carla
- “I don't have to be right and I can still hold on to my opinion, which is really important. And he can too.” - Elizabeth
- “With narcissistic versus codependent behavior, it's this inability to hold both people at once.” - Elizabeth
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Sherry
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Carla
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Elizabeth Earnshaw
Website | Instagram | Love Lessons
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
The Gottman Institute
The Four Horsemen
Sherry and Carla kick off this week with some TV talk about what they are currently watching and loving and then take a Love Fix Question on long-distance relationships. They then welcome Vanessa Bennett, Licensed Holistic Therapist, and codependency Expert, as well as co-host of the Cheaper Than Therapy podcast. Vanessa made the transition from corporate to wellness after years of doing her own inner work while always feeling like she was teetering on the edge of burnout. Described as the “cold water on the face” therapist, she gives it to us raw this week talking about codependency, the archetypes behind being a martyr and trauma bonding, and the importance of having a connection to something greater than yourself.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question about long-distance relationships, and Carla’s first-hand advice as someone who had one and made it work!
- Vanessa explains what depth psychology is, and why it’s known as the psychology of the soul.
- What are examples of common human archetypes, and how do codependency and trauma bonding fit in?
- More about Carl Jung, Swiss psychiatrist and psychologist, along with how he knew that real growth happens when there is a connection to something bigger than ourselves.
- Find out more about Vanessa’s podcast, Cheaper Than Therapy, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- So how do you look at codependency from a depth psychology viewpoint?
- Vanessa gives it to us real — why is being a martyr and acting in a co-dependent manner actually very manipulative and maladaptive?
- How does connecting with our soul’s purpose just naturally help with codependent behaviors and thinking?
- What if there is a spiritual element to trauma bonding, such as a past life or karma?
- Vanessa’s advice for those addicted to a narcissist, who keep seeing the same patterns pop up over and over.
- Boundary work takes time, and it’s a lifelong commitment. But, when working with a coach or a professional, you can expect more resiliency within yourself and a deeper knowing of who you really are inside.
- Vanessa teases her new book out soon, It’s Not Me, It’s You.
- The one emotion we’re all experts at naming? Resentment.
Tweetables:
- “I look at surrender as an active choice. We’re participating in life when we choose to surrender to the moment.” - Carla
- “We can understand what the soul is trying to speak to us and communicate. It not only helps us understand the behaviors we have to change, but also helps us connect a little more deeply to our meaning.”- Vanessa
- “Co-dependent behaviors are manipulative and a way to get some kind of need met.” - Vanessa
- “I think it’s so powerful to have a spiritual source, whether it’s religion or not.” - Carla
- “I really believe everything that happens in our life has a greater purpose. Unfortunately, we don’t always know what it is when we’re in it, and for many of us, we are impatient, but sometimes you really have to let things unfold.” - Sherry
- “Life is working for you.” - Carla
- “There's no magic wand, you don't just become a boundary master. We're not healing deep attachment and abandonment wounds in three conversations over zoom therapy. This is probably going to be a lifetime of that, but what happens is your resiliency is going to get greater, your ability to call bullshit is going to be way shorter, and you’ll bounce back quicker.” - Vanessa
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Sherry
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Vanessa
Cheaper Than Therapy | Instagram | TikTok
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sex Lives of College Girls
Ray Donovan
Sherry and Carla start by talking about what kind of podcasts they listen to, and Carla confesses her love for a good murder mystery. They take a Love Fix question from a listener that seems like she has the same issues in love, even while dating different men. Then, they welcome Codependency Recovery Coach Hailee Magee, who helps individuals of all ages break the people pleasing patterns, set empowered boundaries, and master the art of speaking their truth. Hailee shares why most people don’t set or stick with their boundaries, and what’s really going on under people's pleasing and codependency patterns, and how to begin starting to keep promises to yourself and gain confidence in saying that magical two letter word: “no”.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question - what do I do when the same issues keep coming up with different men that I date?
- Are co-dependents also manipulative people?
- In order to break the habit of codependency, we need to set boundaries and honor our own needs first.
- Find out more about Hailey’s Codependency Recovery Coaching, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- If we consistently break promises to ourselves, how do we expect others to respect our boundaries?
- Are boundaries really bendable?
- What was Hailey’s paradigm shifting moment where she worked on her own codependency after a gut wrenching breakup?
- How do we start small to break our patterns of codependency?
- What are some of the biggest reasons people don’t set boundaries?
- What do you do if someone doesn’t respect your boundaries?
- What does Hailee find to be the root cause of pleasing people?
- How do you deal with emotions that come up when you break the people pleasing pattern?
Tweetables:
- “Yes, doing the work is important, but part of that work is being gentle and kind to yourself.” - Carla
- “Feelings aren’t facts.”
- “Co-dependents are extremely manipulative people.” - Carla
- “It’s never productive to break up in the middle of an argument or make a really big life choice when you’re emotionally charged or upset.” - Carla
- “Codependency stems from a dysfunctional relationship with the self.” - Hailey
- “We can't have a conversation about codependency if you don't talk about boundaries.” - Sherry
- “In order to set a boundary and stand up for our needs, we need to know what those needs are.” - Hailey
- “I really do think every boundary with someone else has to originate with an internal boundary with us.” - Hailey
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery - $1 trial membership
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Find Out More:
Sherry
Psychotherapy Life Coaching Sherry Gaba Westlake Village | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships | Sherry Gaba’s Coaching Packages
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Hailey Magee
Website | Instagram | Say No Club
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla kick off the show with a Love Fix Question about dealing with pressure in your late 30’s and early 40’s about having children, especially when you aren’t sure what you really want. Then, they welcome Laura Behnke, writer, speaker, coach, and founder of The Life Actually company and podcast. Laura is a 16 year TV veteran and anchor, and left the business to follow her passion for supporting and empowering women in all phases of their life. Laura shares how she learned to stop “shoulding” on herself and no longer accept breadcrumbs, and why our past dating history doesn’t always predict our future. She talks with Sherry and Carla about throwing away the rules and living a life that’s authentically yours, no matter what it looks like to the outside world.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question — not sure if you want kids? How to untangle what you want your true future to be vs. what pressure society is putting on you.
- Are you creating stories in your head? How to get more into reality and grounded in your habits, thoughts, and actions.
- Laura shares her story of her husband being her first real boyfriend, and what she learned about herself in the experience.
- Why are dating rules unfair and unrealistic?
- Join The Life Actually community, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- Remember — you are perfectly loveable at all points across your journey and evolution.
- What are some of the biggest ‘shoulds’ in society that cause us to be a certain way?
- How is the way we mold ourselves to fit in society connected to codependency?
Tweetables:
- “We rarely ask, what do I want? What do I desire?” - Sherry
- “We have to remember, dating has become an industry. There are people who want to make money off your dating experience.” - Laura
- “I believe self love is an ongoing journey. You never master it, it’s always evolving.” - Carla
- “It’s all intertwined with codependency. It’s this pressure to be something to please others and to please society to fit in and feel less alone.” - Laura
- “At the end of the day, whatever works between the two of you is actually what is important. Otherwise, you get into the whole codependency stuff and living for other people.” - Carla
- “Make the rules yourself.” - Carla
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery - $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/
Find Out More:
Sherry
Psychotherapy Life Coaching Sherry Gaba Westlake Village | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships | Sherry Gaba’s Coaching Packages
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Laura Behnke:
Website | Instagram | Podcast
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla kick off this week talking about if it’s really that sexy dating someone with an accent, or if we just romanticize it. Then they take a Love Fix Question about how to break the habit of lying in your relationship and welcome guest Anne-Marie Zanzal. Anne-Marie is a coach, ordained minister, chaplain, and author. She came out later in life and shares her journey from tucking away her sexuality while raising a family, to stepping into her true authentic self. She talks with Sherry and Carla about her work specializing in women coming out later in adulthood, why there still is a stigma around being gay, and how we can face our own internalized homophobia.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question — what do you do if you find yourself lying and constantly being dishonest in relationships?
- What are the main reasons people typically lie, and how can therapy help?
- Anne-Marie is known as the Coming Out Coach — how did she know she was gay? What are the ways that she hid it, and how did she decide to step fully into her truth?
- Is being gay as widely accepted in America as we think it is?
- Want Coming Out Coaching from someone who has walked the path before? Here’s how to Contact Anne-Marie, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- Anne-Marie talks about being brushed off by her own (lesbian) therapist!
- What does Anne-Marie appreciate about dating women more than her past relationships with men?
- Is there an age where it’s too late to come out?
- What about if you want to come out, but you have shame and another type of life already in place?
- What are some of the reasons women may know they are gay but don’t come out until later in life?
- What is internalized homophobia, and how does it show up in ourselves and other people?
Tweetables:
- “Because there's visibility in the media and there's representation out there, I think people are less afraid to come out than they were in the past.” - Anne-Marie
- “The truth is, the truth is going to come out.” - Sherry
- “I really believe that sexuality is fluid.” - Carla
- “All of a sudden, I was with women who understood, and we're talking about things that I had never said to another human being.” - Anne-Marie
- “There’s a lot of shame about a woman being a good girl. We want to live to a standard that is set by our families and our parents and our churches and our communities. When we don't do that, we feel like we've done something wrong. - Anne-Marie
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- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery - $1 trial membership
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Find Out More:
Sherry
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Anne-Marie
Website | Instagram | Authentic Peace | Coming Out Later in Life Resources
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Carla and Sherry start this week talking about how proud they are of their clients and how they love seeing them learn and grow. Then, they take a Love Fix question on how to let go of someone who shows red flags from the start, and then welcome Tara Blair Ball, author and Certified Relationship Coach. Tara talks about the work she does to help her clients foster happy healthy relationships, understand their attachment styles, and learn new ways of thinking and acting in a way that sets them up for their best relationship with themselves and others. Tara also shares the inspiration behind her book Grateful in Love and how it can help couples become even closer.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix question: should you let someone go the minute you feel an inappropriate ick?
- Yes, it’s okay to block someone’s number if you need to!
- Why anxious and avoidants are like magnets to each other.
- Is it really possible to make drastic changes and rewire your brain, or is one stuck in their attachment style for life?
- Ways to learn more about Tara, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- What are some productive ways to get us out of anxiety and get the energy moving?
- How expressive writing can help anxious attachers even more than meditation.
- How to use dating more as a way to gather information than a black and white super heavy situation?
- Can someone be both anxious AND avoidant?
- Stop being upset about the man equivalent of a frozen waffle!
Tweetables:
- “Rejection is protection.” - Sherry
- “If you really know who you are and what you want, you are not going to second guess yourself.” - Sherry
- “You do not have to wait to find out what that red flag or icky feeling is.” - Carla
- “Is it easy to make drastic changes? No, it’s rewiring how your brain works. It does take work and it often requires support and accountability.” - Tara
- “I believe that the antidote to anxiety is action.” - Tara
- “Expectations are just premeditated resentments.” - Tara
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery - $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/
Find Out More:
Sherry
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships | Sherry Gaba’s Coaching Packages
Gain access to Sherry’s FREE ebooks for codependency, love addiction, or narcissistic abuse. https://relationship-quizzes.com/
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Tara Blair Ball
Website | Grateful In Love | TikTok | Instagram
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla kick off this week talking about their morning routine and the importance of getting a little exercise in, and then welcome in Personal Stylist and Dating Coach Alyssa Dineen, founder of Style My Profile. Alyssa shares her story of being new to the dating market at age 41 after a divorce, and how she saw a need for helping both men and women get their profiles maximized and ready to find long lasting matches. She combined her experience as a stylist for over 20 years, and now is helping online daters all around the world transform their destiny by intentional and mindful dating, and self-discovery. Alyssa also talks with Sherry and Carla about her new book, The Art of Online Dating, not discriminating your dating qualifications, why both photos and a great bio are important, and why Style My Profile may be great for you.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix question - my partner doesn’t accept that I’m a single mom and they are too enmeshed in their families beliefs. Should I let them go or keep fighting?
- How did Alyssa learn to navigate the online world of dating when she found herself single and in unchartered waters at 41?
- What are the differences Alyssa sees in working with clients ages 40 and up vs. millennials and GenZ in terms of how they view online dating?
- Want to get your profile styled? Ways to reach Alyssa, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Alyssa talks about creating and publishing her new book, The Art of Online Dating.
- Should you reach out to a ghoster? Furthermore, how can you let someone down with empathy and not be a ghoster yourself?
- How to be straightforward when you are being breadcrumbed. Learn from Sherry and stop the madness!
- All about the photos and bios: why it’s important, what you should put, and what you may want to leave out.
- What is mindful or intentional dating?
- It’s about being open and not pigeonholing yourself, and the ladies give some examples of love matches that happened only because people met IRL.
Tweetables:
- “I don't think the age difference actually really matters. It sucks to be chatting with somebody and actually go on a date with somebody and then never hear from them again.” - Carla
- “Along the way here in the online dating world, it became acceptable in a way to just drop somebody.” - Alyssa
- ‘If you're codependent, what you want to check off on your box might not also be healthy for you.” - Carla
- “I'm a real believer in doing a really great bio.” - Alyssa
- “Whatever it is you want, I think you have to be really clear with yourself ahead of time.” - Alyssa
- “You might end up falling in love with somebody that's not any of those things that you thought you needed, and it might totally work.” Alyssa
- “Sometimes we have to open up our horizons a little bit. I feel sorry for those guys that aren't tall. Come on my way!” - Sherry
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery - $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
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Peloton
The Big Sick
Dating Advice for Those Who Never Thought They Would Need Tinder
Taylor Swift - “All Too Well”
Sherry
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships | Sherry Gaba’s Coaching Packages
Gain access to Sherry’s FREE ebooks for codependency, love addiction, or narcissistic abuse. https://relationship-quizzes.com/
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Alyssa Dineen
Website | The Art of Online Dating | Facebook | Instagram | Style My Profile
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla kick off the new year with a fun solo episode where they interview very special guests — each other! They grill one another on everything from who they are, how they got to their career and how they met, to their own experience overcoming codependency and heartbreak. Plus, they share what the exciting future of Love Fix holds, and a fun rapid-fire of personal Q&A.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Believe it or not, Sherry and Carla are human too and they make mistakes. What experiences have they learned from in life both personally and professionally?
- Rapid-fire questions on their favorite word, favorite foods, and personal heroes.
- What have Sherry and Carla learned that helps them have their own healthy relationships now? How did they learn that a healthy relationship with someone else starts with yourself?
- When will Sherry and Carla finally meet up IRL?
- What do they each like to do for fun when they aren’t podcasting?
- Find out more about ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
Tweetables:
- “In healthy relationships, you provide emotionally and in a supportive way. There’s ways to provide and show up for a relationship that don’t have to have a monetary value to it.” - Carla
- “This is part of recovery, right? We all have our own journey, and our own story.” - Carla
- “I wouldn't be here today if I didn't take a step back and actually work on myself. I wouldn't know what a healthy relationship is. I would say it starts with me.” - Carla
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery - $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/
Find Out More:
Barbara Walters
CoDa
John Gray
Sherry
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships | Sherry Gaba’s Coaching Packages
Gain access to Sherry’s FREE ebooks for codependency, love addiction, or narcissistic abuse. https://relationship-quizzes.com/
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla share their intentions for the New Year and take a Love Fix question about how to know where to even begin where there are so many trauma treatments out there. Then, they welcome Clinical Psychologist, Author, and Trauma Specialist Dr. Heidi Green. She discusses why it’s so important to recognize and work on our trauma, and how every one of us has some type of trauma from our experience with family or just being out in the world. Dr. Heidi also talks with Carla and Sherry about how we project our trauma onto romantic relationships, trauma bonding, and what anxious and avoidants really need from each other to heal and grow.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Sherry and Carla set their intentions for 2022. What are yours?
- A Love Fix Question: where do you even begin when looking for trauma treatment and therapists?
- Dr. Heidi talks about the misconception that trauma is reserved for big events. If you’ve made it to adulthood, you’ve definitely survived some trauma.
- Why does everyone have at least some element of trauma, and how do we recognize it?
- What is relational trauma?
- How does experiencing infidelity and betrayal in our relationships affect us, whether we intend to stay in the relationship or find a new partner?
- How does trauma change the way we see everything and create a lens through which we see the world from?
- Find out more about Heidi’s workshops and services, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How do the relationships that we have early in life affect us in our attachment style early on?
- What do anxious and avoidant attachment styles really need from one another?
- How can you start to build a secure attachment with yourself and others, even if you had a traumatic upbringing?
- How to recognize your negative core beliefs and trauma bonding situations.
Tweetables:
- “If I were to really think about it, the intention of life is always to keep coming back to serenity.” - Carla
- “We find people who are about as emotionally dysfunctional as we are.” - Heidi
- “Trauma changes the way that we see everything.” - Heidi
- “If you’ve made it to adulthood, you’ve definitely survived some trauma.” - Heidi
- “It's almost like you put on these lenses, these trauma lenses, and now this is what you see the world through. Trauma changes the way that we see everything.” - Heidi
- “It’s your job as the anxious person to not keep seeking safety from your avoidant partner. It’s to seek safety within yourself.” - Heidi
- “When you start trusting yourself and stop second-guessing yourself and have that relationship, you have a much better chance of finding someone with a secure attachment.” - Sherry
Connect with Us!
- The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
- Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery - $1 trial membership
- Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
- The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/
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Find Out More:
Sherry
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships | Sherry Gaba’s Coaching Packages
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Dr. Heidi Green
Website | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram | The Path to Self Love and World Domination
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
At the top of the episode, Sherry and Carla talk about what “breadcrumbing” is in dating, and what to do if you think someone is just offering you crumbs. Then, they take a Love Fix Question on how long it takes to unlearn codependent habits and welcome Conscious Codependence Coach Cheryl Fidelman to the show. Cheryl talks about her mission to eradicate trauma from the human condition, one nervous system at a time. Cheryl developed her attunement practice called Feeling Without Thinking to help her clients heal from trauma and become the person they were inherently born to be. She talks about the three tenets of co-dependence, how to give yourself compassion if you have been or currently are co-dependent, and why self-love is the North Star for true independence and healing.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question: how long does it take to get over being codependent?
- Cheryl started focusing on codependence 6 years into her work, as she saw it was an epidemic that plagued so many of her clients.
- What are the signs of conscious codependency?
- What are the three tenets of co-dependence?
- The importance of having compassion for yourself if you did end up in a relationship with a narcissist or if you are codependent.
- Dating is a great way to practice our skills, but should we wait to heal ourselves before diving in?
- Find out more about Cheryl’s Conscious Codependent Listening Program, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How do our romantic relationships mimic the environment we grew up in as children?
- How is codependency rooted in unhealed trauma?
- Recovery doesn’t mean you never have any codependent actions, but that you are conscious of what you are doing, and are mindful about your patterns and actions.
Tweetables:
- “All of our unhealed trauma can be found in the filters through which we listen.” - Cheryl
- “Codependency is an epidemic. In almost every one of my clients, I could see big, red blinking lights of codependence.” - Cheryl
- “I think it's very empowering as a codependent to not victimize yourself. Because then you recognize you have choices.” - Carla
- “Codependency goes beyond being with an addict or alcoholic. It could also be someone who's attracted to a narcissist or could be people-pleasing and needing validation.” - Sherry
- “I focus through the lens of trauma healing because I look at codependence as one of the most obvious ways that we demonstrate our unhealed trauma in relationships.” - Cheryl
- “Codependency is incubated in some kind of wound that you had. It starts with that inner child wound and you're reacting to triggers related to those wounds. Whether it was that your parents neglected you, you were invisible, you were abused or you were abandoned.” - Sherry
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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
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Sherry and Carla kick off this week talking about why you may want to go on that second date, even if the first one didn’t blow you out of the water. Then, they welcome Licensed Clinical Psychologist Dr. Quincee Gideon to the show. As an advocate and doctor for trauma recovery and co-dependency, Dr. Quincee is adamant about helping people live their full and most meaningful life despite a history of trauma or chronic people-pleasing. She discusses the importance of building trust in yourself and being in your body, her virtual education platform called Traumastery, the Big and Little “T’s” of trauma and why both matter, and how trauma comes in all shapes and sizes.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix question on what to do when you notice avoidant tendencies popping up immediately after the first date.
- Dr. Quincee’s story of trauma work started with trauma. She suffered the traumatic death of a roommate and loved one, and then spent time traveling and working in a war zone in Africa.
- What is “Big T” and “Little T” trauma? How are they similar, and how do they differently manifest in our body and emotions?
- Dr. Quincee explains complex PTSD, and discusses how whichever modalities work best for you to help you heal from the trauma, is one to keep doing.
- Find out more about Dr. Quincee’s Course in Co-Dependency, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Why do trauma survivors tend to be empathic and have a strong intuition?
- How do those who have suffered trauma begin to trust their own choices and get realigned with their needs and feelings?
- Why slowing down and giving yourself the gift of time is so powerful.
- What stored trauma in the body can look like.
Tweetables:
- “Feelings aren’t facts.” - Sherry
- “My story of trauma starts with trauma.” - Dr. Quincee
- “We've got to move from from fear to faith - Sherry
- “I think that's why codependent love addicts are so obsessive, because they don't allow themselves the time and go right to obsession.” - Sherry
- “Time and slowing down seem to be so helpful. If you can allow yourself, it's like the biggest gift you can give yourself is time. - Dr. Quincee
- “Trauma happens in different sizes and shapes.” - Dr. Quincee
- “We’ve got to get reacquainted with our bodies instead of being enemies with ou bodies.” - Dr. Quincee
- “I find that relationships are so powerful in helping us understand our dynamics.” - Dr. Quincee
- “I would say for trauma survivors, particularly those with complex PTSD, getting close to themselves is the most terrifying thing that could be offered along the way.” - Dr. Quincee
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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
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Sherry and Carla get real about the ups and downs of the holidays, and then welcome OBGYN and Media Personality, Dr. Drai. As a highly respected board-certified OBGYN, he is nationally recognized as the go-to expert on women’s health and transgender health issues. Dr. Drai talks about how he got into the field of women’s health, his pride in working with the trans community, and the best protection he recommends against STIs. He also talks with Sheri and Carla about the importance of pleasuring yourself, a few of his favorite toys, and what makes his Feel the Moment line so special and unique. Dr. Drai’s personality and energy are one of a kind, so get ready to both laugh and learn!
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Is Sherry really a Christmas scrooge?!
- Why the holidays can feel extra stressful and difficult if you are also dealing with codependency issues.
- A Love Fix Question on how to stay sane, especially over the holidays, when you have an addict in your family.
- The mission behind Dr. Drai’s Sexual Wellness Company, Feel the Moment, is to make everyone feel accepted, educated, and confident about their pleasure and sex life.
- What are STIs, and how are they different from STDs?
- What are the patterns that Dr. Drai seems to notice from his client’s relationships that we can learn from?
- What was the moment Dr. Drai knew he had to switch from a path of Cardiology to OBGYN?
- How did Dr. Drai use his background in chemistry and working with all types of women, men, and non-binary clients to formulate products like lube and condoms?
- Interested in seeing America’s favorite OBGYN? Ways to connect with Dr. Drai, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- What should we know about fertility in our 30’s and 40’s, and what does Dr. Drai think about freezing your eggs?
- What are some ways we can open up communication with our partners about what they like and what you like?
- Why it’s important to pleasure yourself, no matter what age you are. Dr. Drai gives advice for women post-menopause to feel their best.
Tweetables:
- “This is what I’m supposed to do. I’m supposed to bring life into the world.” - Dr. Drai
- “It’s important to invest in yourself because we have a part in all of it. It’s not just blaming your partner. It’s “how are you buying into the story?” because maybe you don't feel confident and you really are afraid about being alone and not finding anybody.” - Carla
- “I definitely believe in getting rid of those negative energies, which means bad relationships, toxic relationships, with whoever it is. Get rid of them so you can have a prosperous life.” - Dr. Drai
- “I don't believe in being a traditional doctor. I definitely believe in doing what you're supposed to do from a higher power.” - Dr. Drai
- “It's all about communication, and you have to know who you are, right? To be comfortable with who you are, and be able to articulate what you want for yourself and your relationship.” - Dr. Drai
- “I think as you get older, it can be a deeper, richer relationship because you're just so much more comfortable.” - Sherry
- “The more you know your body, the more you're able to tell your partner what makes you feel good.”
- “An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away!” - Dr. Drai
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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
This week, Sherry and Carla welcome Aleah Ava, Co-Founder of The Royal Path and host of the Addicted to Love Podcast. Through using many tools including trauma-informed emotional healing and her unique method called “emotional recycling”, Aleah supports couples and individuals who face love, sex, and relationship challenges. The three talk about the benefits of Primal Scream Therapy, tantric sex, the difference and similarities of sex addiction vs. love addiction, and the signs of sex addiction.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question from a listener tired of being single and feeling the challenge of loving life relationship free.
- Aleah shares how she got into using tantra as a tool for growth, and how it can help us bring every issue and feeling to the bedroom.
- How is sex addiction different from love addiction? How is it similar?
- Interested in attending a retreat with Aleah? Ways to connect on your Royal Path to her, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- What is Primal Scream Therapy, and how can we use it to get stuck energy and unresolved pain and trauma out of our body?
- What is a retreat with Aleah like, and how do the particpapants support each other’s wounds and vulnerability?
- What are some signs that you or someone you know may be a sex addict?
- What are some other types of somantic work which provides resources and tools for trauma therapy?
- What are sex addicts typically running from at their core?
- What are three ways we can get into our body and feel more grounded in and out of the bedroom?
Tweetables:
- “Be present. Attune to the moment.” - Sherry
- “Sex can be either really, really traumatizing and just reinforce that wound of rejection or not feeling loved. Or, sex can be really nourishing.” - Aleah
- “As a woman, I really have to learn to listen to the tempo of my body.” - Aleah
- “Woman and pleasure is very different than men and pleasure.” - Aleah
- “Tantra in itself is a way of living. It’s really about surrending yourself to what is, saying yes to the moment, and accepting it.” - Aleah
- “It (tantra) is about giving up the idea of a goal, and having an understanding of where you want to go in sex together.” - Aleah
- “It’s about union. The feminine and the masculinine together in the bedroom and forgetting that idea of separation.” - Aleah
- “I always come back to the heart space. So if I can go in and really listen to it and understand that my body is my compass, it guides me.” - Aleah
- “It’s all about loving yourself whether you’re in a relationship, single, or going through a breakup. That is where the happiness comes from.” - Carla
- “Sex addiction or love addiction, it’s really an inability to truly connect.” - Sherry
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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Carla gives a shout-out to her brother-in-law’s impressive baking skills, and Sherry reminisces about the time she baked once. Then, the ladies welcome New York City based Teacher, Certified Relationship Coach, and Writer Jillian Turecki to the show. Over the past 20 years, Jillian has dedicated her life to researching and teaching others how to revolutionize their relationships both with themselves and with their partners. She talks about her holistic approach to the body mind connection, how to get out of just “me” thinking and focus on the needs of your partner, and why falling in love with being single is incredibly important.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question about how to handle shame in your relationship.
- How does Jillian help her clients develop a deep connection with themselves first, so they can build a relationship with others?
- It’s okay to desire love and intimacy and love being single at the same time.
- The more we work on ourselves, the more we can uncover our own patterns and take accountability for our actions and their results.
- So often, we are always thinking about “me, me, ME!” in a relationship. How can we get more in tune with the needs of our partner?
- Want to go deeper in Jillian’s coaching? More info on how to work with her in her Conscious Woman Membership, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How can you start to adopt the mentality that you and your partner are both 100% responsible, not 50/50? First, by realizing that the blame game never works.
- Jillians talks about how she recognized and healed her own co-dependency in relationships.
Tweetables:
- “If your vulnerability is being used against you, that is a major red flag right there.” - Carla
- “You want a relationship to make you happier. And to enrich your life and to add value to your life not be your life, ultimately.” - Jillian
- “The only way that you can choose better is if you know yourself more.”
- “We get so scared when we’re in a relationship, and oftentimes we forget that we are not in survival mode that there is another person in the relationship.” - Jillian
- “If you want to have better and healthier relationships that have more peace and harmony, the first thing you have to do is be accountable for your behavior.” - Jillian
- “I wish we could be in love with being single as much as people are so in love with having a partner.” - Sherry
- The only way that we're going to be free, is if we stop blaming others.” - Jillian
- “People have so much armor that they forget the love.” - Jillian
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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla take a Love Fix question on if you should call out your partner when you see narcissistic tendencies and then welcome NLP Master Practitioner and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach Tiara Thomas. Through her own process of healing and self-discovery, Tiara broke free of the codependent/narcissist cycle and founded the Self Love Method. She talks about how our core beliefs reflect the love we think we deserve, why self-love is so important when it comes to breaking patterns in relationships, and some subtle and overt signs you may be dating a narcissist.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Trader Joe’s people may seem weird on the East Coast, but it’s the standard on the West!
- A Love Fix Question — what should you do when your partner is displaying narcissistic tendencies?
- Tiara herself dated a narcissist and went through a lot of pain, so she knows firsthand the feeling of being caught in a cycle of feeling hopeless.
- What are NLP and PsychK, and how can they help us get past the level of the conscious mind and into the subconscious mind?
- A large part of the process of getting over a narcissist is realizing that it’s not your fault.
- Should we have empathy for narcissists? Does it come from trauma?
- What are some red flags that pop up when we start dating a narcissist or while we are in the relationship?
- What types of people do narcissists prey on?
- Interested in learning more about Tiara’s Self Love Method? More info on how to link up with her and ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming.
- What if a narcissist says they will get help?
- Narcissistic people are predatory because they are looking for people who give.
- Why are codependents a magnet for narcissists?
- Signs that a narcissist is projecting onto you.
Tweetables:
- “A big part of my process was understanding that it wasn’t my fault that someone was treating me that way, and having compassion for myself and knowledge and understanding.” - Tiara
- “I’m learning to not take things personally or internalize what other people are doing.” - Tiara
- “When you have a high degree of self-worth, you just don’t tolerate when someone treats you a certain way.” - Tiara
- “Have compassion if you ended up in a relationship with a narcissist. Part of that whole dynamic is gaslighting and manipulation.” - Sherry
- “Narcissism is created by trauma. And so it's okay to have compassion for someone who is operating solely from a place of trauma.” - Tiara
- “ That’s the whole narcissist, codependent dance. They're magnets for each other, because of the codependent giver and people pleaser, and the narcissist who will take.” - Sherry
- “When you see a red flag, you don't minimize it, excuse it, you know, or dismiss it, you push into it, and you put in a boundary or you, you know, called somebody out on that behavior.” - Tiara
- “They have their own abandonment issues. So they find other people that have abandonment issues, but they just express it differently than the codependent.” - Sherry
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Do you trust your gut? Even more, do you know the difference between your intuition and what may be a trauma response or someone else’s version of the truth? This week, Sherry and Carla welcome Yasmin Ibrahim, Life and Business Intuitive and founder of the Soul School. Yasmin shares a few key tools for self-healing and ways we can access our intuition. She talks with Sherry and Carla about why we tend to shut off our inner voice, and how to learn to say “no” with confidence, strength, and kindness.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question: Are you in denial and staying with someone because you are afraid to be alone?
- What does a “gut feeling” usually feel like, and what happens when we ignore it?
- Why do empaths and sensitive people tend to fall for those with narcissistic traits?
- How can we start to recognize our gut feelings, and what is being fed to us by society and those around us?
- Interested in learning more about Yasmin’s Soul School? More info on how to link up with her and ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- How can a person learn to say no in dating without feeling like they are missing the opportunity of a lifetime?
- How to say no but still come across as direct and kind.
- How do you know your intuitive nature or if it’s a trauma response?
- Being present in your body is the only way to know what you really need.
- Can you think of a time your intuition was trying to tell you something?
Tweetables:
- “The more you concentrate on what you want, the more you are going to get it.” - Yasmin
- “The more direct you can be, the more grounded and intuitive you are.” - Carla
- “ The universe wants you to be your best self.” - Yasmin
- The whole codependent way of thinking is I’m going to be fixed or fix others. It’s more a recovery. - Carla
- “If you are told growing up what your feelings are supposed to be, you don’t know your feelings and then you start second-guessing.” - Sherry
- “It’s not our job to fix someone else.” - Sherry
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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
At the top of the show, Sherry and Carla talk about the different forms that meditation can come in, and then welcome Licensed Professional Counselor and Relationship Expert Debra Fileta. Debra is also the host of the Love + Relationships podcast, and author of many popular books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, and Are You Really Okay? She discusses focusing on your own health to make your relationship better, a healthy way to move on from a toxic person, and the power of healing in a group or community.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How do Sherry and Carla each meditate, and in what ways can you incorporate mindfulness into your life?
- A Love Fix question about what to do when your ex moves on and it makes you jealous.
- More about the Love Fix Program, set to launch soon!
- Debra shares her tips from working with hundreds of people on taking care of yourself from a holistic standpoint, which will help us attract another healthy person.
- If you are healthy, can you still attract a toxic person?
- Interested in connecting with Debra for some True Love dating advice? More info on how to link up with her, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- When we focus more on our own health, our relationships naturally benefit.
- Debra’s advice for those who tend to overgive in a relationship.
- Debra describes how the “better than average” effect can lead us to assume we are actually doing better than we really are.
- How can groups and finding a community help us?
- Debra’s work asks the reader to do an audit of themselves and do regular “check-ups”.
Tweetables:
- “The process of becoming healthy is also learning to identify toxicity.” - Debra
- “I'm thinking, what if we were to change the narrative and say, counseling is like going to the gym to work out your muscles? You would never shame someone for going to the gym, you would High Five them!” - Debra
- “When you begin to get healthy, it changes the dynamic of the relationship, even if that means I begin to set more boundaries.” - Debra
- “The difference between a healthy person and an unhealthy person is that a healthy person will recognize a crappy person much faster than an unhealthy person.” - Debra
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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla kick off this week describing all the fun set to happen in their Love Fix Program and then welcome Toxic Relationship Specialist Sarah Kay Ramsey. Sarah is the best-selling author of the book Becoming Toxic Person Proof, and host of the globally acclaimed Toxic Person Proof podcast. Sarah discusses the multi-step approach she uses when working with women who have experienced toxic relationships and how they work together to get out of the cycle of pain and shame. She talks with Sherry and Carla about setting the example for how we want our kids to be, and hope for bouncing back while rebuilding after a toxic relationship.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- It is common for people to not know what to do with all the free time they have once they don’t have to research narcissism and toxic partners three hours a day!
- Toxic relationships can be romantic, but they can also very much exist in the workplace. Sarah helps women deal with the toxic relationships they have that may be their boss or even someone in a lower management role than they are.
- More about the Love Fix Program, set to launch soon!
- Sarah walks us through her three-step process for toxic people proofing your life.
- What is “Smart Girl Syndrome” and how does Sarah see many successful and talented women fall prey to it?
- Interested in connecting with Sarah? More info on how to link up with her, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- What are the common feelings of women who are currently wrapped up in toxic relationships?
- Sarah discusses how her program reconnects women with what is right with them. Then, the next phase is becoming toxic person proof.
- What can we do when our ex is running a smear campaign against us?
- How can you be kind without having your kindness used against you?
- Sarah shares getting rid of guilt and leading by example when it comes to being a role model for your children.
Tweetables:
- “In my career, when I give more time, energy, and effort, I do better. In toxic relationships, you give more time, energy, and effort, and life is worse.” - Sarah
- “When you are beaten down, you’re no longer conscious. You are now in complete denial and just trying to survive.” - Sherry
- “Get your own damn life. Build that out. Your kids and other people will see it around you. And if you have children, you're that role model for them. - Carla
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Sarah K. Ramsey
Website | Instagram | Becoming Toxic Person Proof Book| Toxic Person Proof Podcast
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry kicks off this week explaining her love/hate relationship with acrylic nails, and then she and Carla welcome Sara Kuburic, existential psychotherapist, consultant, writer, and columnist for USA Today. Sara specializes in identity relationships and moral trauma and explains how cheating can affect our identity and self-perception. The group discusses how not to blame the partner that got cheated on, why setting boundaries upfront is crucial, and Sara gives a glimpse into her new book out next fall.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Sherry and Carla discover they have yet another thing in common — a latex allergy!
- More about the Love Fix Program, set to launch soon!
- From an existential perspective, it’s hard to separate your morality from your identity. So how can cheating affect how an individual sees themselves?
- Cheaters often have to reconceptualize who they are as a person and come to terms that they can do something as hurtful to their partner as cheating. The dissonance of who they think they are and their actions can cause trauma.
- What do you say to a cheater?
- Why Sara, Sherry, and Carla don’t necessarily agree with the notion that people can’t change, and how that can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
- Interested in connecting with Sara? More info on how to link up with her, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- Reflection question: should you bring up cheating if it’s only one time?
- Cheating is a symptom of something in the relationship as well, but the partner that got cheated on should not blame themselves.
- Setting boundaries and discussing what is and is not cheating with your partner is very important.
Tweetables:
- “Cheating is a symptom of something in the relationship as well.” - Carla
- “It’s really really important to be explicit.” - Sara
- “Someone is only going to change if they want to. There’s nothing you can do to make someone else change.” - Carla
- “Conflict is never the issue. It’s how we handle the conflict that is the issue.” - Sara
- “My whole career is based on the premise that people can change.” - Sara
- “Cheating can be about the relationship, but it can also be indicative of the relationship you have with yourself.” - Sara
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Dr. Laura
Sherry
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Carla
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Sara Kuburic
Website |Instagram | Newsletter
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Leading Narcissist Recovery Coach Annie Kaszina joins Sherry and Carla this week to talk about narcissists and how we cannot fall prey to giving one our time and energy. She first talks about the importance of correctly diagnosing narcissism rather than throwing the term around too lightly, and shares the experience that has informed her unique way of helping thousands of survivors build their lives back better. They discuss signs that you may be dating a narcissist, how to build up your gut instinct after it’s been shattered, and why to not blame yourself if you have been caught up with a narcissist before. Annie is also the author of the Best-Seller, Do You Choose Your Dog More Carefully Than Your Husband?
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Feng Shui can be way more than just arranging furniture or a fountain a certain way. It can be about freeing up energy and space in a way that brings about more flow, abundance, and positivity in our space.
- More about the Love Fix Program, set to launch soon!
- A Love Fix Question — life can be messy, but what is too messy when it comes to arguing and bickering in a relationship?
- Annie shares her own experience as a survivor of narcissistic abuse in a relationship.
- Interested in coaching with Annie? More information on how to connect, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- What qualities in people do narcissists usually seek out in relationships, and why are some people more likely to fall prey to them?
- Narcissism is very real and there are definite patterns, but we need to be careful when we label someone as a narcissist.
- What things to look out for when dating, such as a narcissist blowing hot and cold, acting intrusively interested in you, and making you doubt your own gut feelings.
- How can you begin to trust your own judgement after it’s been wrong?
- Narcissists are playing a numbers game. They will go with the one who seems to be most impressionable and vulnerable.
- Victims of narcissists tend to know a lot about them, but not a lot about themselves.
- What is trauma bonding, and how does Annie help her clients overcome it?
Tweetables:
- “If you are resolving issues together as a team, you are probably okay.” - Sherry
- “Conflict is so constructive. It can also move you forward.” - Carla
- “Even their victim story can be a hero story.” - Annie
- “Find a person that is relationship-ready.” - Annie
- “Narcissists leave people with that crazy feeling, not trusting your gut.” - Annie
- “A narcissistic systematically dismantles your personality.” - Annie
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Sherry
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Carla
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Annie Kaszina
Website | Facebook | Do You Choose Your Dog More Carefully Than Your Husband?
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla start the episode with each of their opinions on Halloween festivities, and then welcome Emmy Marie, Certified Trauma-Informed Coach. Emmy specializes in helping her clients that have endured trauma or abuse create relationships with both themselves and others that help them feel safe and respected. Emmy shares her personal journey in getting out of abuse and stepping into her power. She also talks about surviving narcissistic relationships, toxic shame, and how we can tune into our body to begin building trust within ourselves and the world around us.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Sherry and Carla seem to have almost everything in common, except for their take on Halloween costumes and Thanksgiving sides.
- More about the Love Fix Program, set to launch soon!
- How did Emmy overcome her trauma from being in a narcissistic relationship and codependency to create a thriving life for herself?
- What is toxic shame, and why does it hold us back so deeply?
- What does a trauma informed life coach do? How does it differ from therapy?
- A few great free resources from Emmy’s workshops and programs, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- Can someone really heal after doing trauma work?
- Emmy describes the Neuro Affective Relationship Model for treating complex trauma.
- How does shame impact our ability to have safe relationships?
- Is it really possible to live a happy, joyous life after going through trauma?
- What are the most common ways Emmy sees her clients repeating their cycle of trauma in dating?
- What “personality trails” can really be unresolved trauma responses?
Tweetables:
- “Trauma can make us live in the future or past, so coming back to the present moment is so important.” - Emmy
- “What is one small thing you can do for yourself today?” - Emmy
- “Notice what it feels like in your body to have a yes, or a no.” - Emmy
- “People still do not understand the link between codependency and abuse.” - Sherry
- “People pleasing is a trauma response.” - Carla
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Sherry
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Carla
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Emmy Marie
Website | Blooming Relationships | Instagram
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Aces Test
Sherry and Carla get into a quick debate on leg washing, and then announce their first program together, The Love Fix Coaching Program! They welcome Monica Berg, author, podcaster, and Chief Communications officer at The Kabbalah Center. Monica shares how her many years of Kabbalastic study taught her lessons about life and love, and why so many of us are stuck in half commitments. Monica talks about the characteristics in our potential love partners that we really should be looking for, and how to trade perfectionism for presence in our lives.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Sherry and Carla announce their first program together - The Love Fix Coaching Program! They will get into all kinds of issues including love addiction, codependency, toxic relationships, and much more. Plus, it will be super interactive. Sign up to get on the waitlist!
- What are the benefits of group coaching?
- What does it mean when we are “living in the land of almost”?
- Are you in what Monica calls a half commitment? What does that look like, and what can you do about it?
- Monica is the Chief Communications Officer of The Kabbalah Centre. How did she get into kabbalistic study, and what are the tenets of the practice?
- Some great tips from Monica’s book Rethink Love, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- It’s not about asking too much, it’s about asking for the right things.
- Monica shares how we can both not settle for someone or something we don’t want, but also not expect perfection in ourselves or the people we love.
- What characteristics really are important when it comes to finding love? And yes, smelling nice can be one of them.
- What are some steps that someone can use to help create more presence in the relationship?
- Monica shares some common self sabotage behaviors.
- It sure may be fun to get, but giving really helps the giver more than the receiver.
Tweetables:
- “I see a lot of people living in the land of almost.” - Monica
- “You really know if you are compatible with someone during the hard times.” - Monica
- “When you are truthful, honest, transparent and vulnerable from the beginning, then you can fully show up.” - Monica
- “You can only change when you decide you are going to make a choice to do so.” - Monica
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Sherry
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Carla
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Monica Berg
Spiritually Hungry Podcast | Rethink Love | IG | Kabbalah Centre
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla kick off the week discussing their thoughts on if candles are a generational thing and take a Love Fix question on how to know what it is you really need when you’re focused so much on your partner. Then, they welcome Certified Counselor Marquita Johnson, who has over 10 years of practice and a large set of tools to use to help her clients heal and realize their potential. She talks about what millennials are doing wrong in love, how we can use technology to our advantage, and why we need to be accountable for what baggage WE bring into the relationship.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Millennials don’t want the relationships their parents had, so what is it that they really want?
- What are some telltale signs that it is time to say goodbye in a relationship?
- Stop trying to convince someone that you are worthy!
- We have the responsibility of working on our own baggage and wounds, so it isn’t an endless cycle of both people getting triggered by one another.
- You define love on YOUR terms, not by society’s or even by the people around you.
- Want a fun way to explore your relationship? Check out Marquita’s relationship conversation cards, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- What we can learn from J-Lo and her love life!
- Someone can add to your life, but it’s important to take responsibility for your own happiness and security.
Tweetables:
- If someone is having a need or a fear, it’s not about you. - Sherry
- Expectations are resentments waiting to happen. - Carla
- We can not change someone’s mind or convince someone that you are worthy. - Marquita
- If someone can’t see your worth it doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy, it means the person just can’t see it. - Marquita
- Even if you are not codependent, you are taught to fall in love with fantasy. - Carla
- I can’t make someone responsible for unpacking my bags that I came into the relationship with. - Marquita
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Sherry
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Marquita Johnson
Website | Being The One | Instagram
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla kick off the show talking about the difference between a therapist and a coach, and take a Love Fix question on how to fully grieve the end of a toxic relationship and not repeat the same patterns. They then welcome Trina Leckie, coach and host of the popular Breakup Boost podcast. Trina shares her most successful and proven tips for getting out of a stuck relationship and hurtful breakup, what traps she sees her clients fall into when it comes to splitting up successfully, and practical steps to disconnecting from your ex to focus on yourself and a brighter life ahead.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- The difference between therapy and coaching, there is a place for both, and you may possibly benefit from one more than the other at specific points throughout life.
- A Love Fix question about how to get out of a toxic relationship and fully grieve the process.
- Trina is like the best friend you have always wanted helping you get through the breakup. She’s not going to sugarcoat it, but she will also give it to you straight.
- The more we try to avoid pain, the more it will stay buried and stuck in our life. You have to feel the pain, be alone and do the work, and then things will start to shift.
- Trina’s popular podcast, Breakup Boost, explores all angles of a breakup. What are the things that Trina hears people most affected by after a split?
- How do you know when it’s time to break up?
- How can you break up kindly and respectfully with someone?
- Is there an appropriate amount of time to stay single after entering into another relationship after a breakup?
- Is a breakup really a failure, or is there another lesson you can learn?
- Need some 1 on 1 personal advice from Trina? Check out her coaching, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- Trina’s all star advice: stop focusing on the beginning and chasing the drug of the beginning of your relationship, stop instagram-stalking your ex, and take him/her off the pedestal!
- Being attracted to your partner is so important, but even more of a priority is finding someone that matches your mindset.
Tweetables:
- “If you really want to meet someone, try everything.” - Trina
- “What is repressed will be expressed.” - Sherry
- “Social media has made people so much less social.” - Trina
- “You have to be honest with yourself, or you are just going to keep yourself stuck.” - Trina
- “When you can stop caring about what people are going to think, you will have a new level of freedom.” - Trina
- “Confidence and independence are the biggest gifts you can give yourself.” - Trina
- “People need to take their relationship and ex off the pedestal.” - Trina
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Sherry
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Trina Leckie
Break Up Boost Podcast | Instagram| YouTube
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla kick off this week talking about the difference between openly sharing your life and oversharing on the internet. They then take a Love Fix question on how to self-soothe during an argument and welcome Sandra Brown, M.A., field pioneer, author and former psychotherapist. Sandra talks about the rerelease of the award-winning and highly popular book, Women Who Love Psychopaths. She talks about what traits typically make up a psychopath, why some women tend to be drawn to them, and advice on treating trauma after healing from a relationship with one.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- You can be an open book, but it’s important to respect your partner’s privacy if they aren’t as open to sharing their life details.
- A Love Fix question on how to self-soothe during and after an argument with your partner.
- Sandra has worked her whole career of 30+ years with narcissists, anti-social, and psychopaths and the women and children who have loved them. What are the patterns she has seen time and time again?
- Her book Women Who Love Psychopaths is updated from the 2008 first edition and explores the real-life relationships and stories between survivors of trauma and what exactly makes a psychopath.
- What are personality trait elevations that are a risk factor in potential pathological relationships?
- What led Sandra to become interested in what she calls “Danger Zone personalities” or lower conscious individuals?
- Are psychopaths aware of what they are doing?
- With 1 out of 100 people being a psychopath, you probably know one. Hopefully, you haven’t yet dated one.
- How is psychopathy usually created? Is it nature or nurture?
- Is there a type of person or characteristics that tend to date psychopaths?
- Resources to learn more from Sandra about Women that Love Psychopaths, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- What type of treatment for women that have trauma for dealing with psychopaths?
Tweetables:
- “I’m an open book, and I’m okay with that.” - Sherry
- “Psychopaths are sicker than we are smarter. If we aren't on top of who will be targeted, we are still at risk.” - Sandra
- “If there is one thing I want you to learn to trust, it’s the presence of cognitive dissonance.” - Sandra
- “It’s important that we as therapists differentiate. How you treat codependency, or how codependency is different in working with someone’s personality to raise awareness of trait elevations.” - Sandra
- “What a psychopath can do to someone psychologically is way more than your average jerk.” - Sandra
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Olivia Rodrigo
Melody Beattie
ACES Quiz
Rosenberg Self Esteem
Finding Competent Care
Sherry
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Sandra Brown
Women Who Love Psychopaths | Website
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Carla and Sherry reveal each of their biggest fears and then answer a Love Fix question on how to recognize the green flags in dating. They then welcome Dating Coach Anwar White, who combines his ability to speak to both men and women easily with his love of statistics to help his clients become the best person and partner possible. Anwar shares the biggest dating hurdle that his smart and successful clients face, and why we need to expand our net and focus less on checking off boxes when it comes to looking for a potential partner. What really holds women back from finding the love they want, need, and deserve? Tune in to find out.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix question on how to recognize the “Green Flags” in dating.
- Anwar White is a certified personal and dating relationship coach and founder of the Get Your Guy Coaching Program and Podcast.
- Self-described as “super gay,” Anwar has helped men and women understand each other from a young age and it’s his superpower as a coach!
- Resources to get a free consultation with Anwar, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- What are the biggest pitfalls in love that Anwar sees his super smart and successful women clients face?
- In order to get what we want out of love, we must first be clear on what we need.
- Why your checklist of traits may be holding you back from really connecting, and how to identify what really matters when looking for love.
- Most women narrow down their search to end up open to just .1 percent of the male population!
- How does our relationship with our parents relate to what we need from our partners?
- The importance of vulnerability.
Tweetables:
- “If it doesn’t work out — it’s okay! You had a social experiment.” - Sherry
- “If you can’t accept yourself there is no way you can accept another person. And if you can’t do that, you can’t be in a long-lasting healthy relationship.” - Anwar
- “You never stop getting to know somebody, even if you are married.” - Carla
- “You can’t possibly connect with another if you’re not connected with yourself.” - Sherry
- “Dating is about becoming the best person you can be, the best woman you can be, and the best partner you can be.” - Anwar
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Join Sherry’s FREE 5-day Codependency and Toxic Relationship Challenge. Join the FREE Toxic & Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge
Find Out More:
Arachnophobia
10 Things I Hate About You
Brene Brown
Sherry
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Anwar White
Website | Get Your Guy Podcast | Instagram
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla kick off this week tooting their own horn and then take a Love Fix question on self-care and why it can be extra hard during a relationship. They then welcome Dr. Betsy Chung, clinical psychologist in Southern California with over 10 years experience as a clinician in the mental health field. They discuss self-esteem: what it looks like in relationships, what a lack of it can do for our life, and how to get more of it. Dr. Betsy also talks about how to begin gaining your own self esteem and self worth even after a difficult and not so supportive upbringing.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix question about practicing self care throughout the ups and downs of a relationship, and why codependents tend to struggle with self care.
- Going through something? Don’t see it as a setback — try to see it as an experience that is shaping the next version of you and giving you resilience and confidence.
- Dr. Betsy shares her definition of self-esteem and personal story of becoming independent and free of self doubt.
- When you have a healthy self esteem, you can be your true self and not have to hide behind a facade.
- The difference between self esteem and self worth.
- Resources to connect with Dr. Betsy, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- How does someone find themselves when they have very critical parents?
- What does a lack of self esteem typically look like?
- Most clients come in acknowledging that they have self esteem issues, but it takes a while for the buy in to happen.
- When Dr. Betsy’s clients are able to see what a respectful and healthy relationship looks like, they can see that they deserve good treatment and it starts changing the barometer of what they expect from relationships.
Tweetables:
- “When we are kids we assume that it’s our parents' way or the highway but no, we just didn’t know any better.” - Dr. Betsy
- “Every experience is a layer to the next version of yourself.” - Sherry
- “It’s so empowering to tell your story and to release that.” - Carla
- “Having self esteem is really the glue to your guiding self in a healthy relationship.” - Carla
- “Nothing in our head is absolute truths, it is just things we got used to saying.” - Dr. Betsy
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The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
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Join Sherry’s FREE 5-day Codependency and Toxic Relationship Challenge. Join the FREE Toxic & Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge
Find Out More:
Sherry
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships
Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Dr. Betsy Chung
Website | Instagram | Facebook
Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Carla and Sherry start the show revealing they both have the same love language, words of affirmation. They then take a Love Fix question on what to do if you are rolling into “cuffing” season alone, and then welcome Dr. Diane Poole Heller to the show. Diane is an internationally recognized speaker, author, and expert in the field of attachment theory and trauma resolution. She talks with Sherry and Carla about what attachment style we are born with and how trauma can affect it, along with some hope for people looking to heal their attachment wounds. They discuss how to set healthy boundaries while still being available to love, some red flags to look for in dating or relationships, and how the different attachment styles need to feel stable and secure.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- What is your love language? For both Sherry and Carla, it’s words of affirmation.
- Love Fix Question of the Day - I’ve dated all summer long and still have no one! What should I do?
- What is cuffing season?
- Dr. Diane’s signature series called DARe (Dynamic Attachment Repatterning experience) helps facilitate more fulfilling adult relationships.
- Diane describes the different attachment styles and how they show up in our adult relationship patterns.
- If someone has insecure or avoidant attachment, can they be healed?
- What should you know if you are dating a different attachment style than yourself?
- Check out Diane’s Free Attachment Quiz, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- How can trauma impact our secure attachment?
- What does ambivalent attachment style look like and how can a partner help when they shut down or become emotionally exhausted?
- What are the ways to move through secure attachment and self regulate on your own if you aren’t in a relationship?
- Avoidants want connection like everyone else, but it’s buried within neglect.
- What can we do to cement our attachment bonds?
Tweetables:
- “We need to learn to support each other in our insecure attachment. As we do, it keeps moving us to trusting the relationship back to secure attachment.” - Diane
- “It’s very important to resonate on each other’s level and talk in each other’s language.” - Sherry
- “Stay open for caring behaviors where they happen, no matter where they come from.” - Diane
- “We always attract what we know.” - Sherry
- “If you want to cement your relationship, just be a regulating force in your partner's life.” - Diane
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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Sherry and Carla start this week with the age old question - bikini or one piece? Then, they take a Love Fix question on if emotionally available men really exist before welcoming Confidence Therapist, Dating Strategist, and Kimmy Seltzer to the show. Kimmy is also the host of The Charisma Quotient podcast, and her signature formula for helping her clients feel confident leads to them radiating energy and self love from the outside in. Kimmy shares her own story from going frumpy to fabulous in her own life, and the red dress that changed it all. She gives her advice for building confidence and what men really notice about a woman on a date. She gives her advice for creating a foolproof “dating prep plan”, stepping into feminine energy, and showing the world that your cab light is turned on and you are ready for love!
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Bikini, Tankini, or One-Piece? Sherry and Carla both share how they are showing up this summer at the beach.
- A Love Fix Question - are emotionally available men out there? How does one find one?
- Kimmy defines confidence as having experience, so of course we aren’t confident in dating if we don’t do it often enough.
- What exactly is a Confidence Makeover, and how can the way we dress and show up in the world affect our inner confidence?
- Kimmy works from the outside in, helping her clients discover styles that flatter their figure and make them feel the best versions of themselves.
- How can you raise your style intelligence?
- When we are in our feminine energy, we are able to receive the gifts of the universe, and the Law of Attraction is kicked into motion.
- Both men and women have a responsibility to be approachable. When you are playful and open, people are more naturally drawn your way.
- Looking for that push to get to the next level of self love? Kimmy shares resources to work with her, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
- Need to learn how to flirt? Kimmy can help you with her Flirt Academy. Even if you aren’t interested in dating, showing up in the world with confidence and curiosity is great for friendships and business.
- Create a date prep plan for yourself, where you focus on getting into your best energy through all the senses.
Tweetables:
- “What you repress will be expressed.” - Sherry
- “Sometimes when you shift your clothes and body language, it’s what actually helps the inside grow.” - Kimmy
- “Instead of working from the inside out, I work from the outside in.” - Kimmy
- “Create a dating prep plan.” - Kimmy
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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.
Who doesn’t love strawberries in summertime? Carla and Sherry start off the show sharing their strong feelings over this fruit, and then encourage listeners to check out their new waitlist-only Love Fix Coaching Program. Then they answer the Love Fix question- is there any way for an anxious-avoidant attachment style listener to become secure? Sherry shares an exercise anyone can do to focus deeply on their circle of love and practice receiving love. Then, they welcome Amy Fiedler, Certified Trauma Support Specialist, Holistic Life Coach and Reiki Master Practitioner. Amy shares insights into the trauma and childhood experiences that are often behind people pleasing, how to avoid getting into an unhealthy relationship with- or as- a people pleaser, and how to share all of yourself so that someone can fall in love with all of you.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Codependency starts in childhood, but that doesn’t mean it has to ruin your adult life and relationships.
- People pleasing habits form when we try to overcome someone’s rejection by gaining their approval.
- Knowing that you are enough is key to not worrying about pleasing others.
- Do you know how to say no? That is the number one symptom of people pleasing.
- Amy outlines the first step to un-doing the people pleasing- make your voice the loudest voice in your head.
- Stress and relationship wounds have to be healed before we can own our sense of self.
- Inner child work can get difficult, but you don’t have to do the work alone.
- Amy’s trauma certification helps her clients work through their fight or flight reactions during healing.
- How to connect and work with Amy either in a group or 1:1, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- People pleasing in professional settings is real, and have to be overcome with clearly defined boundaries.
- What is the biggest hurdle in a relationship with a people pleaser?
- You are allowed to have a difference of opinion from your partner.
- Other people’s insecurities are their issue, not yours. Own every part of your badass self!
- Playing small will only attract people who aren’t right for you.
- Be yourself so that someone can fall in love with all of you.
Tweetables:
- “In order to have an intimate relationship, you’ve got to be intimate with yourself.”- Sherry
- “If you’re seeking someone’s approval, then you’ve felt their rejection on some level.” -Amy
- “If you don’t even know what your preferences are, how can you possibly know what’s important to you in a relationship?” -Sherry
- “Playing small will only attract people who aren’t right for you.” -Amy
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Amy Fiedler
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Carla and Sherry open the show talking about their favorite vacation spots. From Hawaii and the Great Lakes to international dream destinations, the best part of any vacation is the people you spend it with. Then, they take a Love Fix question on the stigma around STDs and dating- when (if ever) is the right time to share the fact that you have an STD? Finally, they welcome Dr. Diana Kirschner, PBS love expert, psychologist, and best-selling author of Love in 90 Days. Diana has helped tens of thousands of singles and couples to find the relationship of their dreams. She has a unique approach to help women and men heal from heartbreak, create high-value self-confidence, and find lasting, passionate love. Diana talks about the chemistry behind lasting love, what you need to find in yourself before you start looking for a partner, and the secret weapon to finding true love- your very own fairy godmother.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question: What are your thoughts around the stigma of STDs and dating?
- Can marriage actually get hotter and better after decades together?
- What is the secret to a lasting, passionate love affair? 3 criteria to determine if you’ve found The One.
- Stop self-sabotaging your chances at true love with the help of your very own fairy godmother!
Dr. Diana’s Love in 90 Days coaching, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- Why would anyone consider dating three people at once, and why does it matter how they smell?
- Chemistry can happen in a heartbeat- don’t give up on new relationships and the potential for true love too quickly.
- Check in with your fairy godmother/coach/wingman about the new love interests in your life.
- What can a love coach offer you as you work through deep and big love issues?
- It’s true, we live by healing from the past and also creating new adventures for the future.
- Is Love in 90 Days really possible? Diana shares the amazing success stories that she’s witnessed from those who are willing to do the work and be coached along the way.
- Outer love comes when it matches your inner love and your willingness to give yourself a great relationship.
- Fun facts about finding love, including how to create the perfect photo for your online profile.
- Diana has an amazing gift for Love Fix listeners- a free 40 minute one-on-one consultation with one of the best coaches at Love in 90 Days.
Tweetables:
- “The key to a lasting, passionate love affair? Selecting the right person.” -Diana
- “Chemistry can happen in a heartbeat.” -Diana
- “The most important person to turn on is yourself.” -Diana
- “We live life by healing from the past and creating the future.” -Diana
- “Outer love comes because it matches your inner love and your willingness to give yourself a great relationship.” -Diana
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Carla and Sherry start off the show wishing that more people could accept differing opinions of others, and note the unfortunate nature of a lot of friendships ending during the pandemic because of this. Then, they welcome the “Relationship Help Doctor” aka Dr. Rhoberta Shaler to the show. Rhoberta is an acclaimed speaker, author, and Relationship consultant, and jumps in on the Love Fix question about abuse vs. anger. Rhoberta explains what a relationship hijackal is, and the red flags that we can look for when first dating to date them. She also shares how to express yourself without blame or shame, and to take accountability for your own self-growth and confidence.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- We should be allowed to disagree and still be civil and respectful to one another.
- The difference between anger and abuse.
- We can express and validate our emotions without stuffing them down.
- Anger is healthy, it’s what we do with it that becomes unhealthy.
- Rhoberta explains what she calls Hijackals, and how they end up causing a crazy-making relationship.
- Resources for Rhoberta’s books, podcast, and coaching, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- Are you in a toxic relationship with a Hijackal? Or are you possibly one yourself? Rhoberta explains what to look for.
- Why do codependent people seem drawn to Hijackals?
- Why someone may want to work on themselves while still in a challenging relationship before leaving and repeating the pattern.
- Learn to speak up for yourself without blame or shame.
- How can you start to protect yourself so you aren’t open to hijackals, even in the dating phase.
- A big red flag in the dating phase - future faking. They don’t “get you”, they “gotcha”.
- Watch how a person treats the wait staff and refers to their past relationships.
Tweetables:
- “Mean what you say, don’t say it mean.” - Sherry
- “Anger is healthy. It’s a response to life, circumstances and having someone trample on your boundaries. It’s what you do with it that becomes unhealthy.” - Rhoberta
- “Hijackals have to win, so they will be fault finding to keep themselves in a superior place.” - Rhoberta
- “Hijackles paint a public picture of perfection, while at home they provide a private place of pain.” - Rhoberta
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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
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Sherry and Carla start the show talking about how good it feels to have in-person meetups with friends again (taking safety precautions) and then take a Love Fix question about how to know when it’s right for your new love interest to see where you live. Then, they welcome coach and Marriage and Family Therapist Bree Jenkins on, where she talks about the current landscape of digital dating. Bree shares the important things to make sure you have if you are back out there online looking for love, and how to see ghosting as a blessing. Bree also gives us an easy way to spot red flags in both our own behavior and within our dates, and it leads to a discussion about disclosing a previous affair in a new relationship.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Whether you are out and about and back to normal activities or still chilling indoors, the pandemic has had a substantial impact on our stress levels. It’s important to take care of yourself now more than ever.
- A Love Fix question on when to invite your date to finally see where you live?
- Bree created her Diamond Dating League to help her students learn how to manifest a healthy committed relationship or marriage, and get what they really want out of life.
- What red flags should we look for in our own behavior that may show us we aren’t ready to date quite yet?
- Bree discusses the three “A”’s that we need to be aware of: addiction, abuse, and affairs.
- Do you need to let the person you are now dating know if you had an affair in your previous relationship? If so, how do you know when the right time is to share it with them?
- How to join Bree’s Diamond Dating Course, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- How can we learn to not overshare, especially on the first date?
- Yes, you may get judged after telling the truth about your life and previous relationships, but you may also get judged favorably for being open and transparent.
- So much of when you make disclosures is about your energy and your judgement about yourself.
- How can I tell the difference between love bombing and when someone is just very interested?
- Bree’s tips for success in the digital dating world. Yes, it means getting yourself a good profile!
- If 40% of relationships were initiated online before the pandemic, there are sure to be even more now.
- How can we recover after people ghost us, and is there a way to know if someone is about to ghost?
Tweetables:
- “People who don’t match don’t matter.” - Bree
- “Rejection is protection.” - Sherry
- “Love is inevitable. It will find me.” - Bree
- “There is always more love.” - Bree
- “Ghosting can also be a people-pleasing response.” - Carla
- “If you don’t take accountability for what you did, then you are likely to do it again.” - Bree
- “We also judge people favorably, and no one complains about that.” - Bree
- “Never take ghosting personally, because it’s never about yourself.” - Carla
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Dating Someone with Anxiety
Dr. Laura
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Carla and Sherry open the show talking about if opposites attract when it comes to love, and take a Love Fix question on eradicating shame around divorce, especially when you want to try again. Then, they welcome Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. from Stanford, Gay has written more than 40 books including bestsellers such as The Genuis Zone, The Big Leap, and Conscious Loving. Gay talks about working with his co-author and mate for more than 40 years, Dr. Kathyn Hendricks, and their commitment to take criticism and blame out of their marriage and home. Gay also talks with Sherry and Carla about the power of intention, how we can address our upper limit problems and get into the flow of our genius zone.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question: I’ve been divorced, maybe even multiple times. How do I get rid of this shame?
- What are “upper limit problems”, and how do we work on our personal ones so we can show up more fully with our partner?
- How do our upper limit problems also affect our issues with codependency and love addiction?
- How to get in the genius zone and stay there!
- The importance of tuning into our body and listening to the signals we get on a daily basis.
- Why are emotions such as sadness and fear often repressed, and what is the cost? Sex problems are never about sex, money are problems are never about money. They are about unexpressed key emotions along the way.
- Resources for finding your calling and taking The Big Leap to get there with Guy, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- It’s true, Gay and his wife Dr. Kathryn decided to run their relationship on positive energy rather than blame, and it freed them up to create more and live a healthier life.
- The way to get unstuck is to make a heartfelt commitment to something better.
- Practical tips for getting out of the blame/drama triangle and the “ha” move.
- The difference between blaming yourself and taking full accountability and responsibility.
- Most of us are a few 10 minute sweaty conversations from having a breakthrough with our loved one.
Tweetables:
- “If you can cultivate more body awareness, it will always tell you the truth.” - Gay
- “Every transformation project begins with heartfelt commitment.” - Gay
- “Every day of my life, I get to live on a steady diet of miracles.” - Gay
- “Relationship change starts with one courageous person taking a stand for something better.” - Gay
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Carla gets ready for a big move, and it brings up the topic of safety and security. Then, she and Sherry take A Love Fix question on when to know if it’s time to call it quits, or if you should keep on trying. Then, the ladies welcome Caryl Westmore, the Break-Free Goal Success EFT Tapping Coach and Author, who empowers women to become a “sparkling Unicorn in a sea of sameness” in three key areas. Caryl talks about manifesting awesome love, choosing the right partner, and how energy healing modalities can help you love the life you have, whether you are finding love or just enjoying it on your own.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- How we can use the 70/30 ratio to determine if our relationship is headed in the right direction, or if we may think about breaking it off.
- Caryl talks about how the hardest thing she needed to fix in her own life was a fear of commitment and limiting beliefs around love.
- Caryl shares the traumatic fire that left her broke and brokenhearted. She had to rise from and go on a journey to heal herself from the ground up.
- Resources for Caryl’s Online Dating Success Secrets, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- What EFT, or the Emotional Freedom Technique is, and how it can help us clear blocked energy.
- The biggest blocks that people have towards finding love.
- The work where people can imprint new beliefs and ultimately remove a lot of stress and trauma from our energetic and physical bodies.
- What is past life regression, and how can it help us cut the energetic cords we need to move forward and manifest healthy love?
- We must know what we don’t want, so we can be clear about what we do want.
- How Caryl manifested her own love, and how they made it work both coming from two different parts of the world!
Tweetables:
- “It has to be fluid, there has to be flow.” - Sherry
- “I had to clear my own belief that you can be committed and not a prisoner of the commitment.” - Caryl
- “Know what you don’t want, so you can get clear on what you do want.” - Caryl
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Caryl
Online Dating Success Secrets
Caroline Dawson
Sherry gets ready for a fun staycation, and then she and Carla take a Love Fix question about what to do when you think the person you are seeing is also seeing other people. Then, they welcome Dr. Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D., Marriage & Family Therapist. Deb has a specialty in trauma healing and helps couples learn to first love themselves and tame their triggers before learning how to communicate with their partner. She talks with Sherry and Carla about how to parent your inner child, what the Internal Family Systems model is, and what to look for when picking a trusted therapist.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix question — what do you do when your intuition tells you the person you are seeing is also dating other people? How does our attachment style also play a role in what we do next?
- The conversations that you have with your partner are the conversations about unhealed work in your childhood. Our partners provide a mirror for us to look at what needs to be healed.
- Communication is a necessary step in your relationship, but working on your own internal trauma and triggers takes precedence.
- Dr. Deb explains some indicators of what may look like abuse vs. when you feel the triggered feeling is coming from inside you.
- The Internal Family Systems model is one tool that Dr. Deb uses with her clients. It helps people learn to heal and negotiate with the family living inside of you, so you can learn to respond rather than react.
- Resources to Deb’s Love Yourself, Love Your Marriage Masterclass, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
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What about if one partner is ready to face their triggers, but their partner isn’t ready?
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When does it become more mature love? Is there a certain age, or is it more of a state of mind?
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What are some ways that we can both create safety within ourselves, and safety within our relationship?
- The power of taking 20 minutes to calm down when things get heated with your partner.
- It’s important to have a therapist or trained coach guide you through the healing process.
- Yes, even therapists need to manage their inner child!
Tweetables:
- “Your marriage is like a hotbed of all the problems that you had growing up and you need to work it out within yourself. It’s not going to happen from the person you are with.” - Dr. Deb
- “Most people don't know who they are, and they don’t know why they are triggered.” - Dr. Deb
- “You are allowed to have your line in the sand. You don’t have to accept unacceptable behavior.” - Sherry
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Sherry and Carla start the show talking about the importance of listening to your gut, and then take a Love Fix question on how to recover after getting dumped and ghosted by someone with little to no empathy or compassion. Then, they welcome Katherine Woodward Thomas, award-winning licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Master Teacher, and New York Times Bestselling author, whose books Calling In “The One”, and Conscious Uncoupling have helped millions of people across the world navigate love with more self-love and confidence. Katherine shares her own personal journey of moving away from limiting beliefs in love towards deep and lasting commitment. She shares a few mindset shifts she used to create a template for the love she wanted to call in. Then, Katherine talks with Sherry and Carla about how our love style is fluid and not fixed in stone.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Yes, even your therapists and coaches are people too, with their own triggers!
- A Love Fix question on how to recover after getting ghosted and dumped by someone who has no empathy or compassion for your feelings.
- Why trying to get closure after a breakup, especially from a narcissist, is never a winning game.
- Katherine shares how she went from unhappy and alone to practicing the steps in her book Calling in The One to attract the love which was perfect for that level of her life.
- The power of setting an intention will get you what you desire rather than worrying about the future or ruminating in the past.
- Katherine shares her advice for people who feel hopeless in love and like they are always forgotten about and left behind.
- Resources to Katherine’s Conscious Uncoupling, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- How much of our love and attachment style is determined by how we are brought up as a child and is it really something we can change?
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Katherine talks about the decision to consciously uncouple with her first husband, what that term means, and how it became known by the world after Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin modeled how it could be done.
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Calling In The One will be re-released as a new edition, but still has the powerful ways to look at our own beliefs and what could be standing in the way of getting the love we truly desire.
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Even if the breakup is 97% the “other person’s fault”, we can still look at our own 3% and learn and grow.
- Katherine works with her clients to really get in their bodies and learn not to give their power or energy away.
Tweetables:
- “Follow your damn gut.” - Carla
- “Healing is not linear.” - Carla
- “What we think is what we expand.” - Sherry
- “It is my destiny to love.” - Katherine
- “I discovered when I was 41, the power of setting an intention.” - Katherine
- “I look at breakups as an inside job. There is no reason you need to talk to your ex after a breakup.” - Carla
- “The identity that you formed in response to relational trauma is not who you actually are.” - Katherine
- “My love life is blessed. Not cursed.” - Katherine
- “Show me the face you had before you were born.” - Buddha
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Carla
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Katherine Woodward Thomas
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Byron Katie
The show begins with Sherry loving lavender in many forms and Carla sharing that she doesn’t drink coffee or alcohol! Then, we hear a Love Fix question on rebounding back after a break up and then welcome Lucia, author of “No Contact Secrets” and a Dating and Relationship Expert specializing in helping people get their ex back. She talks about why no contact is the best way to get your ex-back, how to decide if it’s even a good idea to get back together, and the three ladies each share their unique viewpoint on setting boundaries about cheating.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Is rebounding and getting out there after a break up a good idea? How long should you really wait, and does someone else help you truly get your mind off your ex?
- Lucia discovered that 60 Days was really the perfect formula for someone to reach out to their ex after a breakup.
- Lucia shares her own story of going from heartbreak to having an ex chase her, and why she ultimately decided she did not want to get back together with him.
- When is it healthy to get back together, and at what point should you definitely NOT get back with your ex?
- Some of the red flags to look out for when you are trying to get back together with your ex.
- Resources to sign up for Lucia’s Coaching Program, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- Lucia’s list of six questions to ask your ex before you get back together.
- Why are people so afraid to be alone and would rather cling to bad relationships?
- When you need a therapist rather than trying to get your ex back.
- Some of the biggest challenges people face when trying to get back with their ex.
- Cheating is something that should be discussed in the beginning of the relationship, and why partners need to have radical acceptance when taking back a cheater.
- Is adultery really a deal breaker?
Tweetables:
- “You don’t want to be walking through life still obsessed with the ex that you broke up with or who broke up with you.” - Lucia
- “You gotta be really radically honest with yourself and radically accept that person for who they really are if you are gonna go back with them.” - Sherry
- “If you are hiding infidentaly from your partner, there is something missing within the relationship that needs to be repaired.” - Carla
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Psycho-Cybernetics
Esther Perel
Sherry kicks off this week talking about how great exercise and movement have been for her mental health, and Carla couldn’t agree more. They take a Love Fix question about if it’s ever a good idea to take back a cheater, and then welcome psychotherapist Beverly Engel to the show. Beverly specializes in abuse recovery and is the author of 23 self help books and has been on Oprah! Starting over and many other TV programs throughout the years. Beverly talks about the difference between what she calls intentional and unintentional abuse, some red flags of both in dating, and gives her advice to those out there dating after an abusive relationship. She also talks with Sherry and Carla about how the way our date treats the wait staff matters much more beyond politeness.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- The gyms may still be closed or you may be shaking off the quarantine hibernation, but whatever it is - just move your body in some way every day! Working out can do wonders for not only your physical health but your mental health.
- A Love Fix question on how to know when to give someone a second (or third) chance after they cheat.
- The difference between what Beverly calls intentional and unintentional abuse.
- The difference between a narcissist and abusive partner, and how we can distinguish between the two.
- When is it time to say enough is enough when dealing with a narcissist?
- Signs of emotional abuse, even when it’s sneaky.
- When you feel small and confused, it’s very hard to stand up for yourself and confront the abuser. What is Beverly’s advice for those feeling weak and unwanted?
- Can you repair emotionally abusive relationships?
- Resources to sign up for Beverly’s Hope For Healing Program, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- The three avenues to begin breaking away from codependent abuse: speak up, do something separate, and seek support.
- Take your time. Make sure you are healed and don’t just jump in a relationship after another.
- Trust your instincts and trust your gut. Most women don’t trust their instincts and go slow.
Tweetables:
- “You don’t have to be a narcissist to be abusive”. - Carla
- “The rule of a narcissist is that they really don’t care that much about you.” - Beverly
- “Most emotional abusers are very good at deflecting and pointing out that you’ve done the same thing.” - Beverly
- “Standing up is crucial, if you can.” - Beverly
- “You need to see yourself as an equal to any potential partner.” - Beverly
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Sherry and Carla kick off this week with a declaration to stop playing games when it comes to matters of the heart! They take a Love Fix question on not tripping out about the future and then welcome Mike Goldstein to the show. Mike is a Dating and Relationship Expert, founder of EZ Dating, and helps men and women make dating and relationships easy. Mike has a batting average of getting 83% of his clients into relationships within 3-4 months, and shares some of his secret formulas with us this week. Mike also discusses using your heart during a date and your brain once you’re home, his four step approach to “NAAB” your man, how to focus more on the values of who you are dating then getting a perfect outcome.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Sherry and Carla call for no more games when dating! The ball isn’t in anyone’s court, so stop exhausting yourself and start having more fun.
- A Love Fix question on not “future tripping” and projecting too much about what is in store for your relationship and the timeline of taking things further.
- How Mike’s own heartbreak in his 20’s led him to dive into what really makes a relationship work.
- Using data from major data sites, Mike shares the winning ratio found that has women finding high quality matches in just a few weeks, that usually turn into a relationship by 3-4 months.
- A few of the fun success stories Mike has had through his EZ Dating Coaching.
- Mike teaches both on and offline dating techniques, and supports his clients with pretty much everything throughout the process (but not going on the actual date with the client, sorry ladies!).
- Mike’s tips for women doing circular dating.
- Mike, Sherry, and Carla’s favorite sites for dating depending on your age, and which is the most popular that Mike sees in his work.
- Resources to sign up for Mike’s How To Get A Man In 90 Days Webinar, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- How does Mike feel about being a single love coach?
- The four elements of “NAAB”ing your next man! Making them feel: needed, appreciated, accepted, and (sexy) boundaries.
- While on a date you should be focused on having fun and treating it like a science experiment. It’s when you get home that you can analyze whether or not this person is right for you, or even just worthy of a second encounter.
Tweetables:
- “There’s no ball in anyone's court.” - Carla
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“Even the best experts out there in the world make mistakes in their relationships.” - Carla
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“Once you realize you can be on your own and you are okay, it is such freedom.” - Sherry
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“We need to get strategic on our dates.” - Mike
- “If you want to get into a long lasting relationship, you need to have a system and get strategic.” - Mike
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Sherry and Carla kick off this week’s episode talking about embracing their weird quirks, and then take a Love Fix question on how long getting over a breakup really takes. Then, they welcome Kelsey Grant, Love, Intimacy, and Relationship Educator. Kelsey writes, speaks and teaches men and women the art of accessing greater alignment with themselves, one another and the essence of true love. Through The Legendary Love Academy and her podcast the Pleasure Portal, Kelsey has a wealth of wisdom to share about mismatched libidos, trusting your gut, and little ways to begin to cultivate appreciation for yourself and your partner.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Sherry and Carla embrace their weird quirks, and know that our quirks tend to show up and bother us even more when we are stressed.
- What is the average time to get over someone? Is it bad if we are still hung up on our ex months, or even years later?
- Sherry and Carla’s advice on how to not only look back on your relationship with rose colored glasses.
- Be gentle with yourself and allow time to heal during a break up.
- Kelsey knew there was a need for more open conversations about sex based on her own interests and what she and her friends would always end up talking about.
- Kelsey’s tips on cultivating a culture of appreciation in your relationship.
- Desire is not all about physically wanting someone, it is a by-product of trust and openness.
- How our family system plays a role in the dynamic we tend to seek out with our partners.
- How we can begin to resentizie our body and get in touch with our intuition so we stop gaslighting ourselves and can see any potential red flags.
- What does it mean if your partner’s libido doesn’t seem to match yours, and what does Kelsey think may be missing if you find yourself with what feels like almost too much sexual energy?
- Resources to sign up for Kelsey’s Mutually Met Program, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- Advice on navigating your needs with your partner that are rooted in you feeling confident about what you want and deserve.
Tweetables:
- “We always embellish the last relationship.” - Sherry
- “Loneliness makes us do crazy things.” - Sherry
- “Most of the time we want to be good to each other, but we don’t often know how.” - Kelsey
- “At the end of the day, your gut is always on point.” - Carla
- “Creativity and sex energy, are literally the same thing.” - Kelsey
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Sherry opens the show with some probing news about an upcoming doctor’s visit, and then she and Carla bond over the annoying nature of living with IBS. Then, they answer A Love Fix question about getting out of a victim’s mentality before welcoming Yasmin Ezomor, spiritual mentor, shadow work specialist, and relationship coach. Yasmin shares her story of hitting rock bottom at 21 that turned her life around to focus her energy towards inner healing and expansion. Yasmin explains what shadow work is, how it can be beneficial, and who it may not be right for. She also stresses the importance of having support around you as you do shadow work and opens up about how she personally is leading with integrity in her work after experiencing some emotional upheaval.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Sherry and Carla bond over their IBS and how awful it is, and we cheer Sherry on as she practices what she preaches about self-care in the form of a colonoscopy!
- A Love Fix Question on how to stop living in a victim mentality.
- Yasmin’s mission is to support others on their spiritual journey by helping them uncover their wounds so they can attract meaningful relationships and opportunities.
- Yasmin talks about hitting her rock bottom at 21 and the spiritual awakening that led her down the path of inner healing and expansion.
- Why we should look at dating as a social experiment, rather than going in with a ton of expectations that later lead to resentments.
- What shadow work is and how we can use this amazing modality.
- What happens when we start to repress the shadow parts of ourselves, and how that turns into trauma.
- Surrendering to our feelings doesn’t mean just giving up, but going with the flow and accepting our current reality.
- Journaling is a really big part of being able to break down the shadow and our inner wounds.
- You have to be ready for shadow work, and there is no pressure to do it. If you don’t want to heal, that’s okay, but forcing yourself to do something is not going to be helpful. It’s important that you actually have the intention of WANTING to do it.
- Sometimes the shifts and breakthroughs in shadow work can be huge and super quick, while other times it is a slow progress that we need to refresh every so often.
- Ways to get more of Yasmin including her Humanity Feels podcast, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- How having a coach can help you feel supported and seen during your shadow work.
- What the shadow work outcomes may look like for someone who feels unlovable and goes from one toxic relationship to the next.
Tweetables:
- “It is not personal. You don’t know this person well enough for it to be personal.” - Carla
- “You have to date as a whole person, not as a half person.” - Sherry
- “The body keeps the score. If we are not conscious and self-aware, it catches up with us.” - Yasmin
- “We think the mind leads the way, but really it’s the body.” - Yasmin
- “Healing takes time. It’s not a one time fix.” - Yasmin
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Yasmin
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Carl Jung
Sherry opens the show sharing how although she welcomes love in all forms, she made the choice to also be good on her own, and she and Carla celebrate the work it took to get there. Then, they welcome Darren R. Weissman, D.C. a chiropractic holistic physician, developer of The LifeLine Technique®, and best-selling Hay House author. Darren has been featured in the films E-Motion and the award-winning documentary, HEAL, and a series on GAIA. Darren talks about the power of our subconscious mind, and his 16 step process of working with people to discover patterns they aren’t even aware of that limit their love, life, and health. Darren shares the million-dollar question he wants us to ask to become aware of our choices, why it’s so important to dive into your subconscious, and how it can be a tool rather than a tormentor.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix question about how to know if you are the narcissist in your relationship, or if your narcissist ex is just convincing you that you are!
- Darren’s passion is to teach people how to intentionally change the emotional programs of their subconscious mind.
- Darren’s advice on how to help a family member that is struggling with their obsession of getting a loved one sober.
- A few of Darren’s many resources for those looking to continue with his work, including The LifeLine Center, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- Why our addictions and perceived weaknesses could actually be a portal to the next greatest version of ourselves, and what exactly that portal looks like!
- How Darren developed The LifeLine Technique®, an integrative therapeutic system that turns chaos into calm and confidence.
- How working with our subconscious can help enhance our body's natural potential to heal and thrive.
- Some of the ways that you know it’s time to make these changes and really address what’s happening in your subconscious.
- Everyone is healing from something and we all have things we are addicted to, whether it’s substance, love, work, etc.
- What Darren would say to those with a loved one facing addiction.
- The direct correlation between our thoughts and beliefs and our biology.
Tweetables:
- “Everything is a choice. We have a choice.” - Sherry
- “We can tap into the pharmacy within our mind for medicine. The mind medicine that we are capable of creating is beyond what most people can ever fathom.” - Darren
- “I really am fine either way.” - Sherry
- “The power to heal comes from within.” - Darren
- “There’s a spectrum to narcissism. Everybody has levels of narcissism, but, it’s a matter of whether you have empathy around it.” - Carla
- “What if addiction was a portal and doorway into another place, and that other place is the next great version of myself, relationship, behavior, and habits.” - Darren
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The Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton
Mel Robbins
Candace Pert, M.D.
Sherry and Carla open the episode talking about the fact that good sex and pleasurable experiences definitely do not have to dwindle later on in life! They then answer a Love Fix question about abandonment, and welcome Dr. Andrea Pennington to the show. Andrea is an integrative physician, acupuncturist, meditation teacher and a #1 international bestselling author. Andrea discusses the inspiration behind her #RealSelfLove Movement, through which she speaks globally to reduce the stigma of mental illness and to support people in building resilience and living authentically. They speak with Andrea about self love and how it differs from self care, a few surprising facts about orgasms, and how we can rewire our brain and body to be open for more pleasure and heightened sexual experiences.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- No, good sex doesn’t end when you hit 50! Sherry feels as though sex is wasted on the young, since we really get to know ourselves and what we like as we get older and wiser.
- A Love Fix Question of the Day all about abandonment, the many forms abandonment issues can take on, and the trauma work and inner child work Sherry and Carla have seen be effective.
- Andrea’s work is geared around helping people learn to love and express themselves. She has shared her empowering insights on holistic healing and resilience on the Oprah Winfrey Show, the Dr. Oz Show, iTV This Morning, CNN, the Today Show, and many more outlets.
- Andrea shares how her experience of getting trained in acudetox in medical school, which led her to see the lack of self-love behind those who fell back into addiction or consistently sabotaged their own recovery.
- Many people don’t have a clear answer of who they are and sometimes we need a little reverse engineering to get to the essence of our core, so that we can fully show up for ourselves and others.
- Ways we can tap into our own sensual energy and revive stagnant “chi” or vital life force.
- It is possible to reconnect the body and mind to become a more sensual person and reawaken the nervous system.
- Andrea’s surprising statistics on orgasms - where they come from, how often we should have them, and why we may not be having them often or at all.
- What self love is, and how it’s different from self care.
- More about Andrea’s 21 Day program for people to connect with their bodies, and partners (if they have one) and turn back on their arousal system, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- Advice for people finding themselves in repetitive patterns of dating the bad boy!
Tweetables:
- “In nursing homes, the number one problem they have is STDs.” - Carla
- “I feel like I had an informational orgasm...if that’s possible?!” - Carla
- “I think sex is wasted on the young because we know so much more as we get older.” - Sherry
- “Orgasm does not happen in genitals. Orgasm happens in the brain. - Andrea
- “Self love is not about self care.” - Andrea
- “Self love is unconditional self acceptance.” - Andrea
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Do we only have one true soulmate in our life, or are there many loves that can light us up? This week, Sherry and Carla welcome Kathryn Alice, bestselling author and one of the most successful life coaches in the world. Kathryn has changed countless lives with her work and has a “Wall of Marriages” to prove it. Kathryn talks about why she thinks there is a lid for every pot when it comes to love, how to stay patient when you are feeling very single, and getting out of what she calls “crazy love” into something more stable and secure. Kathryn also gives one simple tip that helps 80% of people get a second date, and her tips and tricks for being a magnet for the type of love you want as an independent, healthy, strong human.
Kathryn has been featured in Psychology Today, Parade Magazine, The New York Times, and many more nationally known publications. She was featured as an expert in the feature film Secrets of Love, and directed Agape’s Crisis Support Team for six years.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix question about uncovering a consistent fear in your relationship - is it a fear of confrontation or possibly something else?
- Kathryn is not only a best-selling author, but an extremely successful and sought after coach, speaker, and mentor to other coaches.
- Kathryn was a single mother for several years until she got together with her soulmate Jon at 41 and went on to have her own children.
- What is the difference between our soulmate and a twin flame?
- What if our soulmate passed away or left us? Are we done forever, or is there hope of finding love again?
- More about Kathryn’s books and Coaching, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- How to discern the difference between soulmate love and what Kathryn refers to as the “Voice of Attachment”.
- Many women in their late 30’s and beyond fear never finding love, but Kathryn reminds us to relax and enjoy the moment. Love is on the way!
- Kathryn has a “Wall of Marriages” in her office to remind her of all the success stories she helped facilitate.
- When we can learn to enjoy being alone, we can be more authentic on our dates and show up more fully as ourselves.
- The one easy trick that lands 80% of people a follow up date.
- A great coach will help you get healthier and heal with a better template, but that also doesn’t mean developing a co-dependent relationship with them.
- How we can best navigate feeling lonely, especially in this isolated time.
Tweetables:
- “There’s no limit on love.” - Kathryn
- “It’s pretty easy to become less socially awkward when you are around someone you like.” - Kathryn
- “Your future self is telling you to chill out. It’s fine. Love is on the way so just get ready and enjoy your last single days.” - Kathryn
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Kathryn
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Dealing with a narcissist at home is bad enough, but what if you have to do it in the courtroom as well? This week, Sherry and Carla proudly welcome Rebecca Zung, Narcissism Negotiation Expert and one of the top 1% of attorneys in the nation. Rebecca is the author of the bestselling books, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R. and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom, and is a sought-after major media contributor. Rebecca talks about the strategies to prepare and protect yourself while dealing with a narcissist, how we can understand how narcissists tend to win over courtrooms for their own advantage, and resources to negotiate with a narcissist should you have to take one on.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question on how to know if you are with the right partner, and does it mean it’s wrong when there is conflict to sort through?
- How Rebecca used her skills and experience as the top 1% of the attorneys in the nation to understand how narcissists operate and beat them at their own game.
- Why narcissists tend to get their way in the legal system, and how to protect yourself against this.
- Do narcissists even want to settle their legal issues and get peace, or do they get high from jerking you around?
- How to keep going when it feels like your drama with a narcissist will never end!
- Who really has control in the courtroom, and how to use it to your own advantage.
- Rebecca talks about the typical traits of narcissists, and how you can get skilled at unmasking that through her proven strategies.
- Tools such as Rebecca’s “Crush My Negotiation” Worksheet, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- When dealing with a narcissist, data, facts, and plans are your friends. Keep those receipts!
- What do you do to protect yourself when you aren’t ready to leave?
- Yes, there are female narcissists out there! Rebecca also helps show us how to get that person out of our space.
- How to best cope with PTSD and aftershocks that come after dealing with a narcissist.
- How to break free of the obsession that comes with dealing with a narcissist, no matter what stage of the relationship you are in.
- Options for people who broke up with someone and are being harassed by them.
- Our definition of co-dependents and empaths, and why they seem to be so drawn to narcissists.
Tweetables:
- “For narcissists, you are either for them or against them. Once they realize you are against them, you become enemy number one.” - Rebecca
- “Even if you gave them 100% of everything they wanted, it wouldn’t be good enough.” - Rebecca
- “Document, Document, Document.” - Rebecca
- “If I’m thinking about the drama, trauma, and chaos, I can’t be in creation mode. That is what you are meant to be doing and you can’t be in two places at once.” - Rebecca
- “Detach with compassion.” - Sherry
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Rebbeca
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Sherry and Carla start this week with a Love Fix question about how to ease the feeling of emptiness, no matter what relationship you are in. They discuss the difference between feeling empty and feeling as though something is missing, and how self love is the remedy for both. Then, they welcome Dr. Shannon Chavez, Licensed Clinical Psychologist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. Shannon has a booming private practice, SHAPE (Sexual Health and Pleasure Enhancement) Center in Beverly Hills, and helps individuals and couples with integrating sexuality and spirituality, sex education, and sexual discovery towards personal growth. Shannon seeks to bridge the gap between the freedom of embracing sexuality and the more conservative ideals that may have been around a more traditional upbringing.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix question about feeling empty no matter what relationship there is.
- How to know when it’s time to see a therapist when it comes to your sexual questions and concerns.
- How Shannon started her career as a Clinical Psychologist, and became a nationally recognized expert in the media.
- A few of the most common sexual concerns Shannon hears time and time again, and why we should normalize the fact that so many people feel this way.
- Shannon’s belief that sex addiction can also be tied to anxiety disorders, feeling out of control, emotional disregulation, and untreated childhood wounds.
- More about Shannon’s SHAPE Center and how it can help both individuals and couples, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- Couples often come to Shannon feeling a lack of communication, stuck, lacking desire, and unsure what to do next.
- Why we should think of masturbation as an act of self exploration and self care instead of feeling shame or judgement towards it.
- If Shannon sees sexual concerns varying between populations and age demographics.
- How we are raised has a lot to do with how we function sexually.
- Are there red flags when it comes to sex and dating that we should take note of?
- What does it mean to really be sexually compatible?
Tweetables:
- “Trust your gut instinct. You’ll know when you are ready.” - Shannon
- We have to be able to connect to your core before you can really connect with someone else. - Sherry
- “Everything is learned, so you are mirroring, mimicking and absorbing your parents behavior.” - Shannon
- What compatibility issues really are is someone not really open to feedback.” - Shannon
- “It starts with intimacy of self.” - Shannon
- “I want people to really enhance and find pleasure about. That is what erotism and sexuality is all about.” - Shannon
- “Think of masturbation as self exploration and self care.” - Shannon
- “Masturbation isn’t about just getting off or having an orgasm, but it’s really taking care of your body on such a mind, body, heart level.” - Shannon
- “See the body as a vehicle for pleasure.” - Shannon
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Dr. Shannon Chavez
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Sherry and Carla kick off this week with a Love Fix Question pertaining to letting go of an obsession with a crush that is already taken and in a relationship. They then welcome author, coach, and healer Melanie Tonia Evans to the show. Melanie talks about her own experience hitting rock bottom, and how she found healing tools to break free from her own negative patterns and limiting beliefs to now touch the lives of 6 million people through her work. She also shares why she isn’t a fan of the Law of Attraction, what you should know about Quanta Freedom Healing, the difference between a healthy ego and narcissism, and how to spot narcissistic abuse. Lastly, Melanie talks about the scientific reason behind our brain creating a peptide cocktail that gets us addicted to betrayal, and what we can do about it!
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Our advice for one-night stands — when to go for it and when it can create false intimacy.
- A Love Fix question about how to stop obsessing about someone who is taken and unavailable.
- Melanie shares how she released her own trauma and healed her own body and pattern of returning to narcissistic abuse.
- What narcissistic abuse looks like, and how Melanie works with her clients to help them heal in a holistic way that alters their tendency to be in abusive relationships.
- When we get ourselves healthy from within, we can expand out and deeply help and inspire others.
- Why you shouldn’t believe that every couple you see posting #couplegoals on social media is perfect every moment of every day!
- Melanie explains how she discovered quantum physics and Quanta healing, and how it completely changed her mind, body, and spirit and brought her to the truth of her own essence and path.
- How to join Melanie’s positive and solution-based community, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- The more you show yourself divine self-love, the more you learn to trust yourself and your own gut feelings.
- How our brain literally creates a peptide cocktail that keeps us stuck in abusive relationships, and Melanie’s advice for taking the first step to get out of it.
- What Melanie doesn’t love about the Law of Attraction, and how Quanta Freedom Healing uses aspects of Science, Self, and the Soul.
- Advice for people that just got out of a relationship with a narcissist.
Tweetables:
- “If someone has to be their own PR agent it’s actually not true.” - Melanie
- “I literally believe my brain broke. In a great way because what it did was to break down barriers and I saw life as it was. From that moment on, I saw life as it is.” - Melanie
- “Even codependency is an addiction.” - Sherry
- “If you are not living by your values and growth and you are trying to change other people to make yourself happy and whole, you are in the wrong town.” - Melanie
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Melanie
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This week Sherry and Carla take a Love Fix question on staying sane and in love while living with your partner during the pandemic. Then, the ladies are beyond thrilled to welcome internationally known actress Dee Wallace, best known for her role as the mother in Steven Spielberg’s E.T. Dee has authored five books on the subject of self-creation and works with clients all around the world. Dee uses her own magnificence, intelligence, and intuition to help others consciously create their own self-love and to love themselves beyond anyone or anything else. She talks with Sherry and Carla about letting our own light shine, her new book The Art of Self Creation” and a few practical tools to manifest abundance in love.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- The media should portray more images of little girls knowing that they are strong and worthy, rather than waiting on a prince to swoop in and save them!
- A Love Fix question about managing conflict when stuck at home with your partner 24/7 due to the pandemic!
- Dee Wallace is an internationally known actress, and a strong advocate for accepting our own magnificence and power in a positive, loving way.
- Dee opens up about her childhood where she watched her mom keep the family going while her dad struggled with alcoholism, and how this plus her coaching many acting students led to her helping others break out of their own patterns and limiting beliefs to achieve a more authentic and successful version of themselves.
- Dee talks about how she reinvented herself and how our creation is all about the choices we make and the stories we tell ourselves.
- Dee shares some practical, simple, yet eye-opening exercises to shift on what you do want in a relationship, rather than focusing on what you don’t want or what is lacking.
- A few of Dee’s favorite tools for conscious creation in manifesting a partner, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- Dee discusses more about her message that the basis of our challenges is because we don’t accept our own magnificence.
Tweetables:
- “If you don’t love yourself, why are you going to attract the person that will love you?” - Dee
- When you don’t love yourself you are expecting other people to love you. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy of insanity.” - Carla
- “When you shift, what you attract to you shifts.” - Dee
- “It’s up to you to reprogram your brain.” - Dee
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Sherry
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Carla
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Dee
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Podcast where Sherry talked about the love addict side coming from fantasy
Adi Jaffe is a best-selling author, highly sought-after speaker, and nationally recognized expert on mental health and relationships. He was a UCLA lecturer in the Psychology department for the better part of a decade and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country - until he started IGNTD. During his undergraduate career at UCLA, Adi struggled with drug issues and was immersed in the drug-dealing world in Los Angeles. He used his challenges to turn it all around and now has a tool to connect with others and help them find their own inspiration and power. He speaks with us today about his relationship with addiction, intimacy, and building trust within himself and others. Adi gives his expert advice on overcoming shame and leaning into mental health and wellness, and resources on how to further explore his cutting-edge and powerful programs.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Sherry and Carla may have the same birthday and a lot of other similarities, but they find one glaring difference — Carla is a cat person and loves their independent nature, and Sherry will take all the slobbery, excitable dogs. Which one are you?
- A Love Fix Question about how to support a needy friend while still setting and maintaining your own boundaries.
- Adi talks openly about his addiction to meth and arrest that eventually led to his rock bottom moment of reckoning. He also explains why he defines addiction as a syndrome rather than a disease, and the four factors that come heavily into play.
- Adi’s IGNTD program shows others that it’s never too late to change your path and work towards healing and redemption, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- We talk with Adi about how addiction and issues with intimacy and sexual addiction go hand in hand, and how his harm reduction model doesn’t always call for abstinence as the answer.
- Adi opens up about the ups and downs in his own relationship, and how he and his wife worked through things, built trust, and now have a quicker and more direct path to conflict resolution.
- Our advice for someone whose partner is not willing to do the work.
- Adi’s book The Abstinence Myth is a new approach for overcoming addiction without shame, judgement, or rules.
Tweetables:
- “When you find something you are passionate about, it changes the world.” - Adi
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“For all of us, the work is internal. We all have to work on ourselves, but not everybody does.” - Adi
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“If someone doesn’t want to be with you and they make it clear, they are giving you a gift. They are allowing you to untangle yourself from something keeping you anchored.” - Adi
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The Love Fix Relationship Quiz
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Sherry
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Adi Jaffe
Instagram | Tedx Talk | IGNTD | The Abstinence Myth
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Co-Dependents Anonymous
Al-Anon
At the top of the episode, we talk about if birth order really does make a difference when you are dating, and then we talk about present day breakups and why people's politics and pandemic perspectives are high on people’s list of reasons to split. Then, we are joined by Damona Hoffman, dating coach and media personality who is also a regular contributor to The Drew Barrymore Show, The LA Times, The Washington Post, and host of the Dates & Mates podcast! Damona talks about why it’s important to still be online dating during a pandemic, and how right now can be weird but an amazing time to date to talk about safety and beliefs with prospective partners.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Does birth order really matter when it comes to dating compatibility? Find out from Sherry, the oldest, and Carla, the baby!
- A Love Fix question about dating in a pandemic! Is it worth it? How do you still find a connection and an actually good relationship in the middle of a pandemic?
- Dating Coach and Media Personality Damona Hoffman gives us her thoughts on why we need to add online dating to our portfolio, and as the official dating expert and spokesperson of OkCupid, we think she’s pretty qualified!
- Should you be online dating if you are healing from codependency?
- How to navigate online dating during a pandemic and time with a lot of civil unrest and differing political opinions!
- Are couples that form during a pandemic more likely to stick together, or break up as soon as the outside world resumes?
- The intensity of COVID may bring up heavier conversations at the start of a relationship where couples are mindful about their values and expectations.
- Damona gives her advice on dealing with racial bias in dating, and why it’s important to broaden your perspectives when it comes to love.
- It’s a numbers game baby! Don’t take online rejection as a statement about who you are as a person and potential partner. Keep swiping.
Tweetables:
- “Yes, you have to be on a dating app!” - Damona
- “If you are really focused on finding a relationship and making a connection, have a dating portfolio. It’s important to be diversified in your dating portfolio.” - Damona
- “It’s important with online dating that you don’t look at this as a reflection of you and your worthiness and quality as a match.” - Carla
- “It’s a numbers game.” - Sherry’s dad
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Sherry
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Carla
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Damona
Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Dates and Mates Podcast
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Co-Dependents Anonymous
Al-Anon
We kick off this week with a Love Fix question regarding dating in your 40’s as a single parent, and invite you to open up your world to other single parents! Then, we welcome Carista Luminare and Lion Goodman to discuss the Four Attachment Styles in love, how to know which one you are, and why certain ones always seem to attract their opposite. We also talk about what really makes a narcissist want to work on their behavior, how to spot red flags as you are out there on the dating scene, and how to know when to call it quits.
Carista Luminare, Ph.D., has more than 40 years experience as a counselor, consultant and educator to individuals, couples and families. In her counseling practice, she integrates her lifelong research on early bonding patterns and how they impact our identity and our adult relationship dynamics.
Lion Goodman, PCC, is CEO of Luminary Leadership Institute and creator of the Clear Beliefs Method. He has 35 years experience as an executive coach, counselor, and healer. In 1984, he founded The Goodman Group, an executive search and consulting firm which served more than 250 companies and C-suite executives during its 18-year history.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Our real and transparent feelings about sharing our private life online as a therapist and coach.
- A Love Fix question about dating after 40 as a single parent, and who we really feel you should take a look at.
- Lion and Carista share their individual and joint interesting and impressive backgrounds as healers, educators, coaches and more.
- We discuss what trauma bonds are, why we have them, and how our attachment style is influenced by the relationship with our primary caregiver.
- More about the four attachment/love styles: secure, insecure anxious, insecure avoidant, and insecure traumatic.
- Why people with insecure attachment styles and codependency tend to seek out narcissists and avoidants.
- A free tool to take a quiz on Lion and Carista’s site to see what attachment style you may be, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- Some red flags to look for when dating, and what to do at the first sign of them popping up. Also, how to know when to call it quits and walk away.
- The narcissist and codependent agree on one thing — who is most important!
- A narcissist can possibly heal if they are willing to care about the feelings of their partner, own their emotions, and work to repair the situation.
- Yes, codependent behavior can be self absorbed as well!
- Is it possible for a partner with secure attachment and another with insecure attachment to work?
- Advice for a situation where one partner goes to therapy and tries to work on things, and the other partner doesn’t.
Tweetables:
- “Our judgements are just reflections of things we need to work on.” — Carla
- “The reason narcissists and codependents get together is they most agree on who is most important!” — Lion
- “If you want time with your partner, then ask for it. If you want space from your partner, then ask for it. Just do it in a loving way.” — Carista
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Sherry
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Carla
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Carista Luminare and Lion Goodman
Website | Cleaf Beliefs
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Co-Dependents Anonymous
Al-Anon
We kick off the episode with Sherry’s secret behind that Fountain of Youth looking glow. Then, we are joined by Lisa Ferentz, clinical social worker, author, and psychotherapist who has been in private practice for over 30 years. Lisa is an expert on helping people transcend trauma and toxic relationships to find their self-worth and inner sense of power. We talk with Lisa more about how to recognize a narcissist, why victims of abuse are not cowardly or weak, and why codependent people tend to rush into one destructive relationship after another. Lisa also provides some of her great resources for realizing the power you hold within yourself and letting go of self-destructive behaviors.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question about “dating yourself”!
- Why codependency and self-destructive relationships go together, and what keeps someone in the cycle of self-sabotage.
- Lisa’s workbooks and resources that help foster positive self talk, self compassion, and positive self care.
- The more independent we become, the more we focus inward and rely less on trying to focus outward and change others.
- It takes a lot of courage for someone to leave an abusive or codependent relationship.
- Abusers tend to make their victims feel isolated and dependent, which further takes away their ability to find the resources needed to break away.
- Why codependent people have to really work at not getting into another relationship right away.
- How trauma can affect us differently based on the meaning and power we choose to give it.
- A glimpse into the brain of a true narcissist, and a surprising fact about just how many people in our society have narcissistic tendencies!
- How attachment, connection, and empathy for a narcissist just may not be possible, and if this is a result of nature, nurture, or both.
- Oftentimes, a codependent and narcissist will find each other and have a relationship that feels like a coexistence rather than a true intimacy.
- Men can be victims as well.
- It takes a tremendous amount of courage and support to be able to step away from a toxic or abusive relationship.
Tweetables:
- “When you are in a codependent relationship, there is a real loss of a sense of self.” - Lisa
- “There is a reason why Bumble banned men taking mirror selfies on their app.” - Lisa
- “When you are in an abusive relationship, you are alone” - Lisa
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Sherry
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Carla
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Lisa Ferentz
Finding Your Ruby Slippers | The Ferentz Institute | Letting Go Of Self Destructive Behaviors
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Co-Dependents Anonymous
Al-Anon
We are so thrilled to welcome John Gray to The Love Fix this week, as we are sure many of you grew up and are very familiar with his work including his bestselling book, Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus. John talks about how he has built upon his ideas in the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time to reflect our current society and what has changed since he last wrote it. We also talk with John about not giving to get, how to balance the masculine and feminine both in ourselves and our relationships, and the real reason men love younger women.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Sherry and Carla talk about each of their plans for their shared birthday, and how they both feel more optimistic and powerful than ever going into this year.
- A Love Fix question about accepting where your partner is in their career, and recognizing that it takes a team to succeed.
- The success behind John’s books including Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus, Beyond Mars and Venus and how they impacted and helped millions of people.
- How John thinks relationships have radically changed due to the shift in consciousness with women employing more masculine traits, and men having more estrogen and less testosterone.
- How the independent and modern woman can still touch a man’s heart, even if she doesn’t need him financially or to provide in the ways she typically used to.
- Symptoms of men being out of their masculine side. Grumpy, passive, over-emotional...sound familiar?!
- John’s personal example of how he learned to provide support for his wife in an emotional way that then gave him the freedom to go off and be more masculine.
- Some sex science about ejaculation that will blow you away!
- How a woman can ask for what she needs without giving everything.
- Giving to get is not loving, it’s manipulation.
- Your intimacy should be dessert, and your work, friends, passions, and interests make up the main meal.
- Giving a man more than he gives you is toxic to you AND toxic to him.
- Why codependent women get turned on by the wrong men and continue to fall into the cycle of picking the wrong partners.
- Radical acceptance and not being attached to being always right in our conversations is sexy!
- Culture should nurture our nature.
- John’s idea of men going into their “caves” has adapted to everyone needing time and space to be independent and self realized.
Tweetables:
- “That’s what causes a man to mature, is having a happy woman around him.” - John
- “Don’t do what you feel like. Your feelings are often wrong!” - John
- “Women are more independent, and men are more addicted.” - John
- “Marriage is great freedom...when you are having great sex.” - John
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Sherry
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Carla
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John Gray
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Katrine Horn is a self-love activist and former professional people pleaser. Her online programs and coaching help others learn how to activate their own self-love and embrace their self worth and power within. In this week’s episode, Katrine joins us from France to talk about practical ways we can begin to call in self-love, how women in the United States may differ in approach to women in other countries, and how to navigate the balance between self-love and the need to succeed and achieve in a patriarchal society. Katrine also describes the difference between pleasing and seducing, and the yummy effects that come when you really dive in and do the self-love work!
What You’ll Hear In This Episode
- Our own definition of self-love.
- Sometimes the first step in the journey is just finding out what is blocking you from self-love.
- A Love Fix question from someone feeling insecure about their partner texting, even though they may not have a reason to.
- How Katrine herself went from a total people pleaser to a self-love activist and successful coach.
- How Katrine saw the toxicity of a relationship she was in when she saw how he treated her parents.
- We activate the Law of Attraction when we really learn how to accept and take in compliments without batting them away.
- If we turn our own people-pleasing tendencies around, we can experience a ton of pleasure which in turn actually helps the people around us as well.
- The difference between pleasing and seducing.
- There can be a very real battle of control for both women working and also women out of the job market who may not feel entitled to the family money.
Tweetables:
- “We teach other people how we want them to treat us.” — Katrine
- “There’s always something you can compliment yourself on. It’s really just about us allowing us to let in what’s right.” — Katrine
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Sherry
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Carla
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Katrine Horn
Femininity Formula Enhancement Session
Self-Love E Book
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We kick off this week with a Love Fix question regarding how to know if you are a love addict, codependent, or both. Then, we welcome Briana MacWilliam, a licensed and board-certified creative arts therapist, coach, and author. We talk with Briana about what anxious attachment and avoidant attachment looks like in relationships, and how we can learn to embrace our own attachment style best instead of trying to run away from it. Briana shares the interesting nature of her work, truly using tools such as cognitive reframing, body work, and creativity to strengthen the mind, body, and spirit. Briana also shares how to enroll in her online courses for the chance to dive into even deeper work.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Love addicts can be both anxious and avoidant, but typically the anxious ones are the type to seek help first.
- Briana shares how she overcame her own struggle with different attachment styles to now feel self-confident and able to make a difference for others.
- Anxious attachment can come out in ways where people both reach out to and reject love.
- How intergenerational patterns and our epigenetics can play a role in our anxiety and trauma.
- Anxious attachment can be codependent, but so can avoidant.
- Healing is a process and it’s more like a steady climb rather than a one day walk up a mountain.
- Briana uses a holistic approach for mind, body, and spirit activation. She uses creativity to bridge the mind and the body and to release negative energy.
- If it’s possible to change your attachment style, or if you should try to just work through it.
- What self-sovereignty is, and why Briana feels it is of our utmost importance to have it.
- Briana shares a success story where a client learned how to reframe her own self-image into that of a beautiful goddess, and ultimately learned how to receive the true love she desired.
- Some misconceptions behind different ages and love/desire.
Tweetables:
- “We have to do the work from the inside out. It’s not an outside job.” — Sherry
- “Be soft, compassionate and generous to yourself. Everything you need is already within you.” — Briana
- “It’s not about bettering yourself it’s about relaxing and unfolding into yourself.” — Briana
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Sherry
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Find Out More:
Briana MacWilliam | @brianamacwilliam | YouTube | Codependent No More | Attachment Styles Quiz
Welcome to the first episode of The Love Fix! We are your hosts, Sherry Gaba, LCSW and Carla Romo. We are here to show you that love doesn’t suck and share how our own dating and relationship horror stories led us both to be experts in healing from codependency. There may be a 30-year difference between us, but we have both overcome toxic relationships to be on the other side of healing and self-love, and want to show you the way. We kick off the show by sharing the kismet tale of how we met, and then welcome best-selling author and coach Nancy Levin.
Nancy talks about her Destination ME program and how she went from having almost no boundaries to healthy ones that have left her feeling vibrant and secure. We talk about what good boundaries look like, why they aren’t always verbal, and what to do when someone in your life isn’t respecting them. Let’s dive in.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Yes, we may be 30 years apart, but we have many things in common — such as sharing the same birthday!
- The Love Fix is a no shame and no blame zone. Both of us are here to help you with the most important relationship you will ever have — the one with yourself.
- A Love Fix question from someone with a raging partner. Is it a red flag she is trying to turn green?
- Nancy Levin is a master coach and best selling author. Her book Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free and Levin Life Coach Academy programs came from her mastering boundary setting in her own life.
- It is very common for women to push their own needs down to service others.
- It may not feel like it at the time, but rock bottoms and catastrophes can be amazing and a catalyst for change.
- Why setting boundaries is important and necessary.
- How to know if you are slipping back into perfectionism and what to do when you have a boundary relapse.
- How to communicate your boundaries to others without oversharing or overstating.
- Why it is a waste of time to try and uphold your own boundaries while in a deep relationship with a narcissist.
- Some examples of boundary scripting.
- If your boundaries are leaking in one area, chances are they are spilling over to other areas of your life!
Tweetables:
- “It’s so easy to get into the fantasy and the story we tell ourselves, but what are facts?” — Carla
- “It’s not anyone else's job to uphold, honor or respect our boundaries. It’s up to us.” — Nancy
- “Someone else’s response to my truth is not my responsibility to manage.” — Nancy
- “We can activate our power of choice. Every choice is either going to serve us or sabotage us.” — Nancy
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Sherry
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Carla
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp
Find Out More:
Nancy Levin | Permission To Put Yourself First | Destination ME
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Love doesn’t have to suck. We know this from overcoming our own dating and relationship horror stories, which led us to being experts in healing from codependency, dating and toxic relationships. Our 30 year age difference brings you an array of perspectives at any stage in life. If you’re dating, in a relationship or divorced, we’ve got your back. With leading experts, you'll learn the latest tools on how to navigate dating and how to thrive in a successful relationship.