The Sit Down with Roman Grey: Recent Episodes
Roman
A solo conversation on what it means to be human. A discussion on all the nuances of being alive and the paths we have to navigate as individuals. New episode every Thursday at midnight, US Eastern Time.
It's easy to slip into mediocrity and complacency.
What matters is what you do once you realize you let it happen.
Are you truly unique?
Or have you fooled yourself into thinking you don't fit in anywhere?
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Does home really exist for everyone?
Selfishness is important.
Selfishness is vital to life.
Legacy doesn't matter.
Legacy is a lie.
What matters is the memories we make with the time we have.
We tiptoe through life careful not to cause too much noise.
We like the idea of being harmless but cherish control.
We grow up and become hungry for power.
The question becomes, which side of power do you fall into?
What does it mean to a human being to have value when our lives are based on nothing but external validation?
Is self-worth really all that common to come by?
This year, instead of resolutions, I have a theme.
The theme for 2022 is simple yet difficult.
"Pull The Trigger"
Aging is a weird thing.
Since when was getting older include life being a constant worry of concern?
Becoming an adult is not what people led me to believe it would be.
That's okay though.
There's no telling when the change in life stops.
But when it does, maybe that's when we should be worried.
Everything good must come to an end.
Whether or not I'll be back is not the point.
The point is that this has happened.
Thank you.
The people who have managed to change the world, influence society, and maintain lifelong happiness all have one thing in common.
They all dared to be different.
This life is filled with ideas and assumptions.
And we chase those ideas and assumptions.
What if in the end, we can all look each other in the eyes and say with a smile "I didn't know what I was doing either."
Our fears keep us in the palms of everyone else's opinions.
Our worries drown us.
Our comparisons leave us in the shadow of mediocrity.
In the end, what if it really is just us getting in our own way?
Energy is neither created nor destroyed...
It only changes forms.
The same could be said for us.
We always talk about risk with a negative tone.
But what if I told you it plays a much bigger and positive role than you think?
It's time we change our relationship with risk.
We spend our entire youth as if adolescence is something to escape from.
Well, we're adults now.
We've "made it."
What now for the rest of our lives?
Who were you before you were lead to believe you weren't enough?
When was the last time you actually loved yourself?
Time and adulthood have a tendency to crush us.
It makes me wonder when I pass adults, who were they before they were burdened by the world.
What eventually become hollow versions of ourselves were once filled with life and curiosity.
Maybe it's when we lose the grasp and let our youth slip through our fingers that life becomes heavy.
"We're always in a state of transition. If only we could ever realize it." - Pema Chodron
There is something about being alive that I just find myself addicted to.
Being human is the definition of imperfection.
And yet, I wouldn't have it any other way.
As time passes we all end up saying "there isn't enough time."
So if we all say this, then does that mean there just isn't enough time?
Or does it mean we're living a rushed life with no time for our wants and aspirations?
What's the point in having values if we lack self-awareness?
If we lack self-awareness then how do we know what go after or who we want to be?
What if failure doesn't have to something negative?
What if setbacks are just moments to reflect on our progress?
My failures are my failures and my setbacks are my setbacks and no matter how hard I try they will always be around. I'm glad that's the case.
Who would any of us be if it weren't for dreams and ambitions?
Would even half the things we use have ever been made if it weren't for dreams and ambitions?
If we don't have dreams and ambitions then does that mean we're empty?
Life is a constant contradiction.
Despite that, I've come to accept that two polar opposites can coexist at the same time in the same place even though it doesn't seem like they should be.
Life is a big paradox of things but it reminds me that there is still so much to learn and unlearn.
In this episode, I address the weight and uneasiness we all feel from time to time that is anxiety. The thing that fills our chest till it feels like we can't breathe.
There is no greater tragedy than unrealized potential.
There is nothing more common than a man who or woman who waits to realize they sit in wasted possibility.
There's always a caveat to chasing what you want.
What are you chasing?
What are your obstacles?
Do you ever feel the pressure of time and how you're just wasting it?
Perhaps life isn't short but just long enough.
We just don't know how to use all that time to the best of our abilities.
Would you let fear mask your decisions and then say it's the safe route?
There's always some truths about ourselves that we don't like to hear.
We all want to just hit our goals and speed through any possible setbacks.
But how do we sit with ourselves realizing we're just living a rushed life?
I can't believe this is the last day of 2020.
So, as an ode to this crazy year and the future, here's my take on what it means to live a good life.
2020 has been quite the year none of us were expecting.
It was a reminder for me just how uncertain life can be.
This led to the question of how do we not lose ourselves in the chaos of life.
As life continues to move forward the more I realize just how absurd everything is.
Life continues to hit me in waves of irrationality and complexity in ways I never thought.
We live in a society obsessed with labels, numbers, and statistics.
Somehow, we're led to think that it also applies to our personal lives.
We cannot measure something as intangible as the human spirit.
Life is that duet between who we were, who we are now, and who we wanna be.
We don't owe anybody anything.
Be we owe ourselves everything.
It seems like all we ever do is wait.
We wait to be heard.
Wait to be loved.
I discovered along my journey that the word when is dangerous.
What makes you happy?
That's not what people really mean when they ask that question.
What is happiness?
It's an emotion.
And emotions come and go.
Just like fear, pain, and sadness come and go
So does happiness
It's fleeting
I think a better way of asking is
What brings you joy?
But in the end, what people really mean to ask is...
What makes you feel fulfilled?
So next time someone asks what makes you happy?
Respond with what makes you feel fulfilled.
We like to hold onto the idea of forever.
The end is like a hint saying nothing lasts forever, so I hope you enjoy it.
Have you ever just sat back somewhere and observe how old people and little kids interact with the world? The gap between what we were like and who we might be. I came to the conclusion on what it is that keeps us and our lives interesting.
It seems like so many of us make decisions based in fear masked as truth. Especially when it comes to the possibility of being replaced or forgotten in some form or capacity. We're scared that we'll become nothing more than a blurry idea of what was. So that's what I talk about today.
It seems like all we ever hear are things we can or can't do. We live most of our lives in boxes and try our best not to bounce off the walls too much. These "limitations" we think exist are nothing more than stories we like to tell ourselves.
I thought it'd be good to give more background as to why this whole podcast exists. How it came to be and the potential future. Hopefully, it gives you a little more understanding about the guy behind it all.
We spend so much of our lives escaping. Trying to get away from our jobs, families, worries, and responsibilities. What's a life worth living if all we do is just try to find new ways of escaping? I've gotten tired of running away from myself.
Whether we know it or not, we go most of our lives believing in lies and false ideas. Mistaking them as our own truth and following the principles of someone else's ideas.
We're bombarded with these false ideas of life, careers, love, and beliefs. And I've never been one to be okay with believing in lies and living my life within the false ideas of others.
Today's episode explores all of this.
The goal is to die with memories not regret. It's an idea or concept that I've never been able to get out of my head. And I find it slowly becoming more and more true. So I explore this theme that so many of us seem to ignore or forget.
Today I discuss two of the biggest things we seem to chase in our lifetime. Not only just the topics themselves but what's underneath it all that drives us toward it. Whether it's all healthy or detrimental and where we are with these aspects of life in today's society
I tackle love and it's power and potency it plays in our lives. I discuss relationships, self-love, doomed romance, and much more.
Time, we either embrace it or become prisoners within it. I can never stop thinking about time. It's here but also elusive. Time is today's topic of conversation.
On this August day, I play tug of war with what is exactly enough in America and then in the greater sense of humanity.
In this rather long talk, I open up about death and the role it plays in our lives as a collective but also in my own life.
Today I discuss the ever-present feeling of being behind in life and also address the future of the podcast.
A snippet for an upcoming episode due to some production delays. Thank you for your patience.
Today, I discuss the ever-present toxic masculine qualities that run throughout our society. I discuss my personal experience as well as narrowing in on some of its most important aspects.
In today's talk, I dive into why it feels like we've forgotten who we are and how we can get back to being who we are destined to be.
In this episode, we tackle the Jonah Complex and dive deep into the worries for achieving our greatest potential.
In this episode, I take you on a brief discovery to Japanese culture as well as address why perfection is not real.
A deep talk on the struggles of finding intimacy in our lives while not being scared of what is necessary in order to do so.