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Why Do I Get Triggered So Easily? A Therapist Explains 4 Reasons

Have you ever had a reaction that felt much bigger than the situation? Someone says something small, cancels plans, goes quiet or gives you criticism, and suddenly you're anxious, angry, hurt or overwhelmed.

Or maybe your trigger looks more like overthinking: replaying conversations, analysing what someone meant, seeking reassurance or wondering, “Why did I react like that?”

In this episode, we’ll explore what a trigger actually is and why certain situations can create such strong emotional reactions.

As a therapist, I hear this regularly in the therapy room, and I'll share four key reasons behind the triggers I commonly see in therapy, including how our past experiences can influence what happens in the present.

If you've ever wondered why certain people, situations or comments affect you so deeply, this episode will help you understand your reactions with more curiosity and self-compassion.

Listen now to understand what's really happening when you get triggered.

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If work has become the place where your anxiety feels the loudest, this episode is for you.

Maybe Sunday evenings are just filled with dread these days, or one email can send you into hours of overthinking.

Maybe you constantly question whether you're good enough, replay conversations on your drive home, worry you've said the wrong thing, or feel like you're waiting to be found out.

You might tell yourself you're being too sensitive, that you should be able to cope, or that everyone else seems to handle work so much better than you do.

In this episode, we're exploring why work can become such a powerful trigger for some. I talks about why your reactions often run much deeper than the job itself, how old beliefs can shape the way you experience work, pressure and success or failure.

If you're lacking confidence or self-esteem at work and it's really impacting you, listen now or save for later.

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Break free from limerence, obsessive thoughts, and rumination with these calming affirmations. If you find yourself constantly thinking about someone, replaying conversations, fantasising about a relationship, or struggling to move on, these affirmations are designed to help you shift your focus back to yourself.

Regular affirmation practice can help reinforce healthier thought patterns, build self-worth, increase emotional resilience, and reduce the grip of obsessive thinking. While affirmations are not a standalone treatment, they can be a powerful tool when practised alongside mindfulness, journaling, self-care, therapy, nervous system regulation, and other evidence-based approaches to healing.

These affirmations are created to help you:
• Reduce obsessive thoughts and rumination
• Let go of unhealthy emotional attachment
• Strengthen self-love and self-esteem
• Feel calmer, more grounded, and emotionally balanced
• Support limerence recovery and emotional healing
• Create healthier relationship patterns

Listen daily, whether in the morning, before sleep, or whenever obsessive thoughts begin to take over. Repetition helps strengthen new neural pathways and encourages a healthier, more compassionate inner dialogue over time.

You deserve peace, emotional freedom, and relationships rooted in mutual love and respect. Let these affirmations support your journey back to yourself.

Limerence resources:

10 signs of Limerence: https://carly-ann.co.uk/2026/07/06/limerence-10-heartbreaking-signs-youre-obsessing-over-someone-how-to-break-free/
Another podcast ep: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1e1A4rAumJVWqAt3qQUGpZ

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Hello! Have you been getting triggered and having reactions that feel out of proportion?

Maybe you snapped at someone you love, shut down, felt overwhelmed, or found yourself asking "Why did I react like that?"

I don't actually like the term 'over-reacting' but sometimes we call a spade a spade.

A lot of the time, our biggest emotional reactions are often about more than what's happening right now.

When we're triggered, our nervous system can respond from old experiences rather than the present moment, leaving us feeling stuck in patterns we don't fully understand.

In this episode, I discuss key therapy insights into these big reactions (that I know you want to change).

I'll also guide you through a gentle somatic practice - a simple yet effective technique that helps you step out of automatic reactions and into the role of compassionate observer. This practice creates space between the trigger and your response, helping you reconnect with yourself, regulate your emotions, and respond with greater clarity and intention.

If you often feel overwhelmed by your emotions, caught in repeating relationship patterns, or frustrated that your reactions don't reflect who you truly are, this episode is for you.

Come as you are. There is no judgement here, only curiosity, compassion, and practical tools to help you understand yourself more deeply and move towards greater emotional regulation, resilience, and inner peace.

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This guided somatic meditation helps you gently break the habit of relying on someone else for your self-worth, happiness, or sense of security. Using body-based awareness and compassionate guidance, you'll reconnect with yourself, soothe your nervous system, and strengthen the belief that everything you need begins within you. The more you practise, the easier it becomes to feel grounded, emotionally secure, and less dependent on external validation.

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Do you start overthinking or obsessing because of someone else's mood, behaviour, or attention?

Does your happiness or self-worth change based on how they treat you?

In this episode, I explore why this happens and we explore what it's like to live like this.

Plus, I'll share a powerful journal prompt to help you reflect, reconnect with your own worth, and start taking your power back (which is what we're all about over here!)

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In this episode I am sharing 3 strategies that I genuinely have practiced and discuss often in my practice, these tools draw on decades of psychological research from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).

These are the core intervention I use day to day in practice and across my work.

When I am making a list of 3, it can be so so tough to decide what to share. I am so passionate that therapy is not a one-size-fits all, but I also appreciate this is a blog and learning is a large part of doing the work. I’m sharing three that are fresh in my mind, and that I would say I discuss fairly regularly in sessions, DMs, interviews etc

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When we get stuck in overthinking, it's easy to believe we need to think our way out of it. But often, what we really need is to slow down and reconnect with ourselves.

This somatic meditation for overthinking is a gentle invitation to step out of your busy mind and into your body. Somatic practices help regulate the nervous system by bringing awareness to what's happening inside, helping you feel more grounded, calm, and connected.

This meditation is inspired by Inner Relationship Focusing, a practice that encourages you to meet your thoughts, feelings, and sensations with kindness instead of trying to change or fix them. I first discovered it while studying for my Somatic Attachment Therapy course, and I loved how simple, compassionate, and effective it felt. It's become an important part of my own practice and the way I support others.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or caught in a spiral of overthinking, I hope this meditation offers you a moment to pause, breathe, and come back to yourself.

When you're ready, get comfortable, press play, and let me guide you.

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If you've ever found yourself asking, "Why can't I stop overthinking?" then this episode is for you.

In this episode, I break down the five most common reasons behind overthinking, obsessing, and anxiety. Understanding why your mind gets stuck in these patterns is the first step towards breaking free from them. By uncovering the root causes of overthinking, you'll be better equipped to quiet your mind, stop the constant mental loops, and regain a sense of calm and control.

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In this episode, I'm sharing a powerful 4-step therapy intervention to help you start overcoming people-pleasing today.

I genuinely work through this in detail with people and it works!

If you know you have a tendency to put other people's needs before your own, say yes when you really want to say no, or abandon yourself in order to keep the peace, this episode is for you. People-pleasing is often a learned survival strategy, but healing requires us to develop new ways of relating to ourselves and others.

So grab a pen and paper, because this isn't just something you'll listen to, it's something you'll actively work through. I'll be guiding you through practical exercises and actionable steps that you can start implementing immediately to create lasting change.

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I've recorded a somatic practice for you.

A somatic practice basically helps you tune into and regulate your body and nervous system. While cognitive approaches focus on changing thoughts and beliefs, somatic work addresses the stress, emotions, and automatic patterns held in the body.

For me, it all about combining both that supports lasting change when it comes to overthinking, habits, and triggers.

This practice is designed for anyone who struggles with people pleasing, finds themselves self-abandoning, or regularly puts the needs of others before their own.

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In today's episode, we're exploring people-pleasing and why it so often comes at the cost of losing yourself.

We'll unpack what people-pleasing really is, the subtle and obvious ways it can show up, and why it often leaves us feeling anxious, worried, exhausted, and disconnected from our own needs.

We'll also explore why these patterns develop, how they are often rooted in similar beliefs/experiences. Most importantly, we'll look at how you can begin to challenge these patterns so you can care deeply about others without abandoning yourself in the process.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The key signs of people-pleasing and self-abandonment
• How anxiety, worry, and a fear of rejection fuel people-pleasing behaviours
• Why caring too much about others can lead to losing yourself
• 4 Practical steps to break free from people-pleasing and build healthier boundaries

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In the previous episode before this one, I spoke to those of you who feel stuck in your head and find it hard to really be in the moment. If that’s you, it’s worth going back and listening to that that too.

This episode is a guided grounding meditation for you to listen to when feeling triggered, or can notice you are overthinking/spiralling.

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Hello my friends, my fellow overthinkers, coming up in this episode we will talk about

Of course have a chit chat about how overthinking stands in the way of your dreams, the life you desire and deserve
How overthinking disconnects us from the present moment and the life happening around us
Share some every day examples of what it looks like to be more in your head

Share some key messages and psychoeducation that often support people to get out of their heads and back into life & what’s important to you

If your overthinking is getting in the way or slowing down your ability to enjoy your life, than this is for you.

Overthinking gets in the way of your potential and this conversation is all about giving you the boost, inspiration, and key principles to help you get out of your head and into the moment

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Helping you cope, ground, and feel calm with powerful affirmation

Are you being ignored or feeling ignored right now?

If you don't know where you stand and are feeling like you're left out or forgotten right now - I have recorded some affirmations to help you feel more secure, ground yourself, and think in a more balanced way

Music by Mykola Sosin from Pixabay

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Are you obsessing & overthinking about being ignored?

Whether you are obviously being ignored, subtly, or you're not sure, in this episode I (Carly Ann) am addressing the impact it can have on you.

As usual we will have an important conversation about the experience of being ignored and what this can trigger off within us, plus I'll share the any inspiring ideas that pop in along the way that I hope will help anyone currently being or feeling ignored.

I'll also share reason why it hurts so much, why some people are impacted more than others, and then we will round the episode off with four ways you can stay true to yourself when you feel ignored by one person or even a group.

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Are you an overthinker that gets stuck in your head?

Overthinking is often an attempt to protect us. Yet the more we wrestle with our thoughts, the more stuck we can become in cycles of worry, rumination, and self-criticism.

In this guided mindfulness and self-compassion practice, you'll have the opportunity to step out of the struggle with your thoughts and cultivate a different relationship with your inner experience. Rather than trying to think your way to relief, you'll be invited to practice awareness, acceptance, and kindness toward yourself.

This is an experiential episode, so you can follow along and practice in real time. If overthinking has been taking up too much space in your mind lately, this exercise offers a chance to slow down, reconnect with yourself, and discover a more compassionate way of responding.

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Why can't you stop obsessing over certain thoughts, conversations, mistakes, or future scenarios?

In this episode, I (Carly Ann) explore overthinking share 7 of the most common types of overthinking.

Understanding your personal style of overthinking is the first step toward breaking free from obsessive thoughts and regaining control of your mind.

Whether you struggle with anxiety, intrusive thoughts, worry, perfectionism, or constant overanalysis, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable steps to help you overcome overthinking and live more fully in the present moment.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What overthinking is
• The 7 different types of overthinking
• How each style triggers certain feelings & behaviours
• Practical guidance on how to stop overthinking and reduce anxiety

If you're ready to stop living in your head and start living in the moment, this episode is for you.

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Keywords: overthinking, obsessive thoughts, anxiety, rumination, intrusive thoughts, mental health, mindfulness, emotional wellness, self-help, personal growth, happiness, overanalyzing, worry, stress management, self-awareness, mental clarity, psychology, emotional resilience, living in the present moment.

In this episode, I’m (Carly Ann) introducing the new direction of the podcast and why I changed the name from Lessons in Self Worth to Lessons in Overthinking and Obsessing.

If you struggle with overthinking, obsessive thoughts, anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, social anxiety, health anxiety, reassurance seeking, or feeling stuck in mental loops you can’t switch off, this ep is going to feel lovely for you

Coming Up:

Why this is now the podcast and place to be if you're an overthinker
Different types of overthinking and obsessing
How overthinking links to self-worth
The emotional, behavioural, and physical impact of overthinking
The core mistake people make when trying to stop overthinking
A quick, more effective approach that can help take the weight and fear out of difficult thoughts today

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Are you feeling self-conscious, anxious, or like everyone is watching you, especially in social situations?

You might feel embarrassed talking at work, scared to share your opinion with friends, or nervous to talk to a stranger...That’s the spotlight effect - a common cognitive bias where you overestimate how much others notice our appearance, behaviour, mistakes, or the fact you're anxious.

In this episode, I (Modern CBT Therapist & Coach, Carly Ann) discuss the spotlight effect in more detail, including more on what it is, examples you can relate to, the impact, and I explore practical strategies to overcome the spotlight effect.

If you struggle with fear of judgement, awkward social moments, or replaying conversations in your head, this episode will help you give you a moment of feeling so seen - and how to break free from it.

Hosted by Carly Ann, this episode is ideal for anyone interested in psychology, mental health, anxiety management, and personal development.

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Changing your mindset and beginning to think in a new way is not just about learning & repeating the new thoughts.

It often comes with an internal battle that no one really talks about, feeling like you are arguing with yourself.

In this episode I (Carly Ann) explore what it feels like when you are trying to grow, but your mind keeps arguing with you, doubting you, or pulling you back into old patterns.

You might notice two parts of you showing up at the same time. One part wants change and another part does not fully trust it yet. This inner conflict can feel confusing, frustrating, and discouraging, but it is a normal part of building self-esteem and shifting long held beliefs.

I also share practical therapist informed tools and self help techniques to help you start calming that internal argument, strengthen new ways of thinking, and build more trust in yourself over time.

If you are in the middle of change and it feels hard - save this ep or listen right now

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Struggling with overwhelming thoughts, anxiety or low self-esteem? You are not alone, and this episode is here to help you take a meaningful first step towards change.

In this episode, we explore Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a modern and evidence-based approach that helps you break free from negative thinking patterns, build emotional resilience and reconnect with what truly matters to you.

You will learn the core principles of ACT, including acceptance, mindfulness and values-based living, so you can decide if this powerful approach is right for you. There is also a live guided practice, giving you a real and practical experience of how ACT can work in your everyday life.

If you are dealing with anxiety, intrusive thoughts or low confidence, this episode offers practical tools, mental health insights and empowering strategies to support your wellbeing and personal growth.

Tune in to begin changing your relationship with your thoughts and start moving forward with greater clarity and self-compassion.

Keywords: anxiety support, low self-esteem, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, ACT therapy, mindfulness, mental health podcast UK, emotional wellbeing, self development, confidence building

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Do you ever say something and then have hundreds of obsessive thoughts along the line of “I was awkward” “They don’t like me” “I’ve pushed them away”?

Or someone doesn't text back and you are flooded with “I’ve done something wrong”, “they’re losing interest”, or "why did I have to do that"

This kind of spiral feels so real...but what actually happened might be nothing, but you have a tendency to create a massive, panful story in your mind anyway

In this episode I (Carly Ann), talk about how to break this cycle and I share quite a famous method by a book I read years ago but has stuck with me.

I hope you love it and find it as useful as many others around the world.

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If your mood can shift in an instant and you quickly get stuck in your head - listen to this today.

We have thousands of thoughts every single day, but what most people don’t realise is that those thoughts often fall into predictable patterns.

And these patterns matter.

Because the way you think doesn’t just reflect reality, it can quietly distort it. It can change how you see situations, how you judge people, and even how you interpret yourself.

And once that shift happens, everything else follows: how you feel… and what you choose to do next.

In this episode, Carly Ann breaks down the exact thought patterns and the specific language that can make people feel triggered, hurt, overwhelmed, or suddenly irritated without fully understanding why.

And most importantly, she shows you how to start noticing these patterns in real time and begin stepping out of them.

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We all experience setbacks in the form of criticism, rejection, and failure - and the reality is that some of us getting more triggered by it than others

For some of you, the slight hint of failure or rejection will lead to intense worry, physical anxiety, and not feeling good enough

If that reaction is getting in the way of your potential, your happiness, and your wellbeing - you need to listen to this episode

It's short and sweet, it's a small clip from the most recent Self-Worth RESET

You're a good person, in fact you're probably anxious about not being a good person...

And you know that you people please.

You say yes when you actually mean no
You say sorry for things that aren’t even your fault
You go along with what others think, even if you don’t agree
You over-explain yourself so people don’t judge you
You put everyone else first and end up exhausted

You get to be a good person and show up as your self too, and ultimately feel happier

In this episode, Therapist & Coach, Carly Ann gives you 3 options that you can go ahead and put straight into practice

Not only does it help you reduce people pleasing (and feel free for the BS!), but it's brilliant for self respect, happiness, and self-esteem - absolute bonus!

I've put some real love into this ep based on what shows up in my practice, I hope you enjoy

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Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, old patterns or your past seems to get in the way?

You may seem confident on the outside, but inside, self-doubt, overthinking, or big emotions can take control.

Many of us carry invisible wounds from childhood, times we felt unseen, unheard, or unimportant. Those old patterns can follow us into adulthood, shaping how we see ourselves, our choices, and our relationships.

I believe it is our role, to reparent ourselves and be the kind of support we always craved.

When we do this, we get to create a life bigger than we imagined.

In this episode, Carly Ann, a psychotherapist and Somatic Coach who specialises in self-esteem and self-worth, talks about reparenting, a gentle and practical way to give yourself the care and support you may have missed as a child.

It is not about blaming the past. It is about learning to be your own nurturing parent.

If you have ever felt not enough, this episode is for you. Tune in and start giving yourself the love and care you have always deserved.

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Are you a mum? Are you feeling worried and anxious in a way that feels out of proportion?

Perhaps you have always worried or struggled with Self-Esteem, but when it comes to being a Mum it feels uncontrollable?

As a Therapist that focuses on self-esteem, I very often work with Mums that doubt themselves, criticise themselves, and set expectations that lead to anxiety, low mood, and overwhelm.

In this episode I share three common patterns that show up in the therapy room, in individual and group settings for Mum.

These patterns can contribute to daily struggles or post natal depression / post natal anxiety

If you do believe you may have clinical depression or anxiety, please do seek out support, you do not need to suffer alone

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Are you feeling bad about yourself, giving yourself a hard time, or struggling with self-worth?

You need to listen to this, I (Carly Ann) and getting real about what makes these moments and cycles even worse.

If you want to break free and embody your worthy SELF, I'm telling you what you need to hear in this episode.

It's here for a boost, plus tips on how to shift your thinking.

I invite you to use a mind-set shift that helps self-esteem, save this ep for later or dive straight in

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Supporting Your Inner Child Through Rejection

Rejection can hit deeper than we expect - whether it’s a major life moment or the subtle, everyday kind. If you’ve ever felt disproportionately triggered, shut down, or emotionally overwhelmed by rejection, it may be your inner child asking for care and attention.

In this episode, we explore how experiences of rejection can activate old wounds and why your inner child might feel unsafe, unseen, or unworthy in those moments. This conversation is for anyone doing inner work, self-healing, or exploring inner child practices and wanting practical ways to respond with compassion instead of self-criticism.

I’ll guide you through three powerful techniques you can use when rejection arises - these are simple yet supportive tools to help you reconnect, regulate, and create a sense of inner safety.

The third technqiue is inspired by self-compassion therapy and can be especially effective in shifting how you react.

If you’re ready to meet yourself with more kindness, soften your triggers, and build a more secure relationship within, this episode will give you grounding, actionable support.

Tune in to learn how to turn moments of rejection into opportunities for healing, connection, and self-trust.

Note: If inner child work ever feels overwhelming or 'too much'. Take a break, and feel free to do this with me during Single Session Therapy.

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Today I am speaking with a special guest, Mo Seetubtim, whose journey includes a deep passion for helping people live happier lives. You are invited to listen to a conversation where we explore personal development and steps towards being more intentional in your relationships and day-to-day life. From childhood curiosities to navigating the complexities of family dynamics, Mo shares personal stories of growth, self-awareness, and doing the work that led to a better relationship with herself and mother.

You get a lovely glimpse into some of the ways Mo has improved managing daily moods, and building habits that truly well-being.

The discussion touches on the challenges we all face when starting to change, the subtle ways our past influences our present, and the mindset shifts that can lead to more empathy, patience, and self-compassion.

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Why do relationships sometimes trigger anxiety, jealousy, or the feeling that you’re not enough, even when things seem fine on the surface?

I’m Carly Ann, a psychotherapist and coach specialising in self-esteem and self-worth. I work with people who appear capable and self-aware on the outside, but internally struggle with self-doubt, rumination, perfectionism, or relationship anxiety. You might know you’re worthy, yet still feel patterns repeating that leave you unsettled in your connections.

In this episode, I talk about how relational trauma can quietly show up in your adult relationships and anxiety. This isn’t about tips or quick fixes...it’s about noticing patterns, understanding what’s happening beneath the surface, and recognising that you’re not alone.

If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I react this way in relationships?” or felt frustrated by your own responses, this episode is for you. Press play to start seeing your reactions with clarity, awareness, and a little more compassion for yourself.

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You trust your partner… so why does jealousy still hit?

The obsessing, the overthinking, the anxiety that makes you question yourself and your relationship.

In this episode, psychotherapist Carly Ann explores why even self-aware, capable people struggle with jealousy, anxious thoughts, and insecure attachment, and shares a powerful mindset shift that can change how you experience love and connection.

If relationship anxiety, obsessing, or jealousy has ever held you back, this episode is for you.

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If you struggle with low self-esteem, self-doubt, or feeling not good enough, ands it impacts your anxiety and wellbeing - you’re in the right place. Honestly, a lot of people look confident and happy on the outside but privately feel stuck in cycles of overthinking, anxious attachment, perfectionism, and self-criticism.

In this episode, I (Psychotherapist and Self-Esteem Specialist, Carly Ann) open up a deeper conversation about what low self-esteem really is and why it can continue showing up even when you are doing the inner work. - we look at what keeps it going.

Low self-worth often isn’t just about confidence. It can be connected to deeper beliefs we carry about ourselves and the subtle patterns that keep those beliefs alive in everyday life, I will explain more in this episode.

If certain situations trigger intense self-doubt, you jump to the worst conclusions about yourself, or things just feel so difficult, I think this could really help you today.

I work with thoughtful, capable people who often appear confident externally but internally struggle with rumination, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and feeling like they are never quite good enough.

This episode is for anyone beginning to question their relationship with themselves and wanting to understand low self-esteem and self-worth on a deeper level.

If you are learning to reparent yourself, build self-acceptance, and develop a kinder inner voice - welcome to the community.

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Do you want your ex back? Or you want someone specific? If you're feeling down or anxious because you can't stop thinking about someone you like... this so for you.

I was there, where you are. This is the life changing advice needed when you are in that moment of needing them, wanting them, thinking about them.

It's all consuming isn't it, sometimes to the point of not being able to focus or function, which is why you want them back... that and you feel they truly are the one.

Do you care too much about what other people think? Are you constantly comparing yourself socially and feel like everyone else is more successful, more confident, more together than you?

In this episode, I talk about low self-esteem and the exhausting habit of comparing yourself to colleagues, exes, friends, and other mums.

From overthinking group chats and replaying conversations to scrolling social media and feeling behind, this pattern keeps you worrying, shrinking, and playing small inside your comfort zone - and this only makes worse how much you care!

I share a powerful self-help technique used in therapy called Behavioural Experiments, a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy tool designed to help you challenge negative thoughts, test your fears in real life, and build genuine confidence and self-love.

Instead of letting comparison and fear control your choices, you will learn how to step outside your comfort zone and start proving to yourself that you are enough, in four simple steps.

If you are ready to stop feeling inferior and start strengthening your self-esteem and self-worth, this episode will give you a practical and empowering place to begin.

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These affirmations are made with love for anyone caught in the anxious avoidant trap/cycle. This community knows push and pull relationship and how anxiety provoking it is

Listen to this if you need to stabilise and reclaim your sense of self

These words from Carly Ann are designed to help regulate your nervous system, soften anxiety, and support attachment healing without pressure or force.

Perfect for moments of overthinking, relationship anxiety, emotional overwhelm, or when you feel stuck between reaching out and pulling away.

anxious avoidant attachment
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Listen when you need calm, reassurance, and a reminder that you are safe

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If you are feeling not good enough and currently working on Self-Esteem, it’s very possible you get stuck in your thoughts.

Perhaps overthinking what was said, worrying about a text, replaying a mistake, chasing reassurance, getting jealous, or even caring too much what someone thinks…

This isn’t because you’re “too much”… it’s because your mind is ‘hooked’ and locked into the stories

In this video, I’ll teach you a simple tool from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that helps you stop automatic thoughts from taking over - like the ones that say:

•“I’m not enough”

•“It’s my fault and everyone knows”

•“I’m going to be abandoned”

•“I’m in trouble”

What if I told you, you don’t need to fight your thoughts?

You don’t need actually need more reassurance?

What you do need is space from the stories your mind keeps replaying on an exhausting loop

This episode will help you:

• Stop feeling controlled by insecurity

• Reduce overthinking

• Break the cycle/loop of rumination/worry using a simple ACT tool

• Feel more grounded and able to get space instead of being on a loop

If this resonates, like and subscribe for more practical psychology tools that actually help develop self-worth & self-esteem in real life.

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Are you doing the work on your low-self-esteem?

If you have recently had a wake-up call that it's time to improve your self-worth, you're in the right place.

In this episode, I give you three common patterns I see how up again and again in people with low self-esteem.

There are clear patterns that quietly shape how we feel about ourselves, impacting our confidence at work, in relationships, and throughout daily life.

My mission is to share these patterns with you so you can recognise your true worth and break free from outdated beliefs and past hurts. This journey is about reclaiming your life, living fully, and no longer letting negative experiences control your self-esteem.

When you understand these specific patterns that I reveal in this episode, you gain the power to change them...and create healthier relationships, greater success at work, and a more fulfilling life overall.

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If you struggle with self-worth and self-esteem, this podcast is for you. Self-worth shapes how you think, feel, and show up in your relationships, your work, and your everyday life. When it’s low, it often shows up as anxious attachment, jealousy, overthinking, obsession, perfectionism, mood swings, anxiety, people-pleasing, and constant worrying.

Hosted by Carly Ann, this podcast helps you understand why these patterns exist and how they keep you stuck. Each episode is here to motivate you, bring clarity, and share practical self-help techniques you can actually use.

The goal is simple: to help you build genuine self-worth, strengthen your self-esteem, and reclaim your life, your confidence, and your happiness.

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If someone is living rent-free in your head, this episode is for you.

Are you obsessing, overthinking, worrying, and constantly day-dreaming?

As a therapist (and ex anxious attacher!), the key steps that actually help you get your life back.

You’ll learn how to stop putting your happiness and self-worth into another person and start rebuilding happiness, self-trust, and peace from within

anxious attachment | self esteem | mental health

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Living with an anxious mind doesn’t mean happiness is out of reach.

In this episode I explore with you what it’s really like to build a fulfilling life while overthinking, worrying and feeling everything deeply, and how happiness can still show up anyway

You might think happiness isn't possible, or it doesn't last for you - but happiness is something you can create, even when you have an anxious mind. So listen in if you're craving more happiness in your life

anxious attachment | self esteem | mental health

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Why do so many adults who experienced childhood trauma struggle with self-respect?

This episode explores how early childhood wounds shape self-worth, boundaries, and the tendency to tolerate less than we deserve as an adult

I hope by understanding the survival strategies formed in childhood, you can begin replacing the tendency to self-abandon and lose yourself with SELF LOVE...and start rebuilding self-respect today

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Today’s episode isn’t an easy listen if you grew up in tough circumstances that impact you today.

This episode is especially for you if you ever notice yourself acting in ways that don’t feel true to who you are or if you struggle to hold onto your sense of dignity

I explore ‘developmental trauma’ and how early experiences of neglect, misattunement, or ongoing stress can shape your adult life today.

When safety, consistency, and validation are missing - children adapt in order to survive. As adults, those adaptations can show up as anxiety, people pleasing, difficulty with boundaries, emotional overwhelm, or a deep sense that your worth is conditional.

So if you find yourself acting out of character or doing things that don’t feel truly respectful or loving toward yourself, this episode is definitely for you. Make sure to listen - you deserve to understand your patterns.

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Is anxious attachment or worry causing you pain right now? This episode is for the woman that is absolutely determined to stop being taken over and hijacked by emotions, triggers, and the past!

What if your journey is not about “fixing” your anxiety or fixing yourself… instead it is about having a new kind of relationship with your anxiety and with yourself?

In this first episode of 2026, I’m taking you on a walk with me (no fancy studio, just real talk and nature sounds to add some extra charm). Together, we’ll slow down, get grounded, and chat about what it means for you to truly live with more intention and from a place where you feel like you are in your power - even when anxiety shows up.

If you’re tired of feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like anxiety is running the show, this episode is for you. It’s about choosing a different way to live….one that feels more real, bolder, braver, and aligned with YOU - your true self, that’s who this episode is connecting you - you’ll feel it!

No pressure. No quick fixes. Just honest conversation and a little hope for the year ahead.

In this episode, we talk about what changing your relationship with anxiety really means, why it’s okay to focus on intention, not perfection, how acceptance can actually help you feel better, finding the real you under all the anxious thoughts, and starting the year with a bit more courage and self-kindness.

Ready to start the year with a fresh perspective? Hit play and join me on this walk.

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This meditation is a gentle shield for moments that feel overwhelming.

Whether you’re navigating difficult conversations, challenging people, intense relationships, or emotionally charged situations, this practice helps you stay grounded without taking everything personally.

It’s designed to support you in remaining true to yourself, less reactive, and less triggered—so you can move through life with more ease, clarity, and self-protection. By strengthening your inner boundaries, you’re more likely to cope calmly and respond from a place of balance rather than stress.

You can listen to this meditation before entering a challenging situation, or take a short break during the day whenever you need to reset and reconnect with yourself.

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In this episode I (Carly Ann) am honoured to sit with mental health counsellor Lara Land for an honest and important conversation about trauma and recovery.

As you will hear, Lara is a compassionate expert - she is qualified, realistic, and so passionate which is what this podcast is all about.

This is really one not to be missed if you are interested in trauma recovery for yourself or clients.

We talk about trauma, without quick fixes or overwhelming explanations. This episode explores how trauma affects the nervous system, why healing is deeply connected to safety and choice, and how recovery can unfold at a pace that feels supportive rather than scary.

We discuss:What trauma is and how it impacts the nervous system
What recovery looks like
Choosing the right person to work with
Why choice and autonomy matter
What support trauma therapy to be effective
Good practice in trauma recovery (great if you’re looking for a therapist)
Why some tools work for certain moments and not others
How awareness and journaling can help interrupt familiar patterns

This episode is for anyone who wants a clearer, more compassionate understanding of trauma and what healing truly involves

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Listen if you self-sabotage

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep falling into the same habits, the same blocks, or the same frustrating cycles, this episode is going to hit home. I'm diving deep into self-sabotage (the quiet, often unconscious ways you get in your own way and hold yourself back from the life, relationships, success, and happiness you’re trying to create)

You’ll hear why these repeat patterns show up again and again, even when you know what you “should” be doing, and even when you genuinely want things to change. We explore the inner mechanisms that trigger self-sabotage, the hidden beliefs that keep you stuck, and the subtle ways your mind tries to protect you by doing the opposite of what you need.

And because awareness is only the first step, this episode also includes a powerful guided exercise designed to help you interrupt these patterns and start shifting them in real time.

If you’re tired of being the one thing standing between you and your goals… if you’re ready to understand why you keep repeating the same self-sabotaging behaviours… and if you want a practical tool you can use anytime you feel yourself slipping back into old patterns - you’ll want to listen all the way through.

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If you worry and spiral, this episode is with you in mind.

I'm thinking of you if you catch yourself fixating on a mistake you made, or worrying about someone abandoning you, or worrying about what might go wrong...and it takes over your mind and can be paralysing.

This pattern is truly a therapy insight, this is a key part of education for managing worry and it could really make a difference if you are keen to worry less.

Keywords: worry, overthinking, anxiety, mental habits, stress, self-awareness, coping strategies, emotional resilience, mindset, rumination

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In this episode, we dive deep into the moments that send us spinning and spiralling. Christina Lane joins us for an honest conversation about what a spiral really is, how to recognise the early signs, and how to support yourself so you can respond instead of react.

We explore whether it’s truly possible to stop being triggered by certain things, why triggers happen in the first place, and how self-awareness can shift the entire experience. Christina also shares practical strategies to prevent a spiral, interrupt it once it starts, and guide yourself back before you reach the point of regret.

If you’re struggling with spiralling and feeling like it's out of your control - this episode will help you understand the answer and show you how to navigate the moment with more clarity, compassion, and control.

Christina would love to gift listeners her free somatic tools -an Audio Reset for Men and a Journal for Women- both designed to bring you back into presence and connection.

Listeners can access them through: www.christinalanecoaching.com/email

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Understanding self-esteem and recognising if you’re anxiety is related to low self-worth

In this episode we will spend some quality time breaking down the most common signs of low self-esteem using the Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale which is a trusted psychological tool for measuring a person’s overall self-esteem

Recognising low self-esteem is important because it helps you understand the root of how you think, feel, and behave. When you become aware of whether your self-esteem is strong, shaky, or inconsistent, you can start to understand why you react the way you do - why certain situations trigger you, why you feel anxious or stuck, or why certain patterns keep repeating - we need that if we want to change and strengthen self esteem

I am Carly Ann, and I’m on a mission to bring the wisdom of therapy beyond the couch — helping people grow, connect, and thrive in life and love. This is not a replacement for therapy, but a space where you can learn practical tools, gain insight, and feel supported as you navigate life from your old self to your new self

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We break down the common mindset pattern that shows up in the therapy room over and over again - it fuels shame, anxiety, and low self-worth - the subtle thinking style that convinces you you’re always behind, always falling short, and never quite “enough.” If you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or constantly judging yourself, this episode will help you understand why.

If you have goals, dreams, or even the desire to feel better in your own life, you need to stop falling into this trap. You’ll learn how this unhelpful thinking pattern shows up in everyday moments, and you’ll hear a real example of someone who broke free from it.

You’ll walk away with a powerful cognitive reframe and guided prompts to help you reflect on your own day-to-day life - so you can interrupt this mindset and replace it with something grounded, compassionate, and truly empowering.

If you’re tired of feeling not enough, stuck, or weighed down by who you think you “should” be, this episode is for you, listen today

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If you’ve ever felt like your happiness depends on other people’s approval, or like you keep losing yourself trying to be “enough” this podcast is for you.

Stop Giving Your Self-Worth & Happiness to Someone or Something Else is your reminder that you don’t have to keep chasing validation - you can reclaim your confidence, peace, and power today.

Carly Ann shares important therapy insights to help you reclaim your power and what is rightfully yours!

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In this episode you will be given a simple therapy framework that could help you make sense of any problem, and actually interrupt it in real time. This is truly a powerful therapeutic framework designed to give you key insight and understanding into your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours, and habits. Meaning you can break old subconscious patterns and cycles.

You’ll learn this tool applies to common challenges like anxious attachment, procrastination, and worry, and discover how the same process can be used to navigate almost anything life throws your way.

We’ll break down each step of the framework, share real-world examples, and give you guided self-reflection prompts so you can start using it for your own growth and clarity right away.

Whether you’re a therapist, a self-development enthusiast, or just someone ready to stop feeling stuck, this episode will help you see your patterns clearly, interrupt them compassionately, and create space for change.

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Getting triggered over and over can be exhausting. It is frustrating when you can't control your reaction to the same trigger. If your triggers have been running the show lately, this episode is for you. Today, we’re diving into what it means to be triggered. I’ll walk you through four key pieces of psychoeducation that will completely change the way you see your triggers. This is what I always want my client to take-away.

Think of this episode as a therapy session for your triggers - one that helps you move from “I can’t believe I did that again” to “Ah, this is how I can move forward”

Believe it or not, when you can meet your triggers with curiosity instead of criticism, you stop living in reaction mode and start feeling safe inside yourself again.

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Is morning anxiety a problem? Mornings is one of the times people can feel in a real funk

Waking up with a racing heart, a clouded mind, or a sense of dread is a common theme and I believe the sooner we get a handle of our mornings the sooner we can start the day of fresh and feeling more like ourselves (and happy!)

In this episode, we dive into how to help when mornings can feel like the hardest part of the day. We explore the roots of morning anxiety.

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Tonight, I’m feeling inspired to share with you.

If you’re in the thick of it right now - feeling triggered, anxious, overwhelmed, maybe caught in your thoughts or emotions - I am meeting you right there

Where you can't let go, stop worrying, or calm down - I've recorded this for you

Sometimes we just need someone to pause with us, to remind us that we can soften, breathe, and come back to ourselves. So today, I want to offer a few gentle tools to help soothe your anxiety and reconnect with your calm in real time.

This space is for you to slow down even in the middle of the storm.

I truly hope it helps

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Do you find yourself endlessly waiting for a text, replaying conversations, or worrying about whether you upset someone? That’s your anxiety showing up and it usually means you’re stuck in old patterns instead of truly feeling your emotions.

We act out as a way to feel better, and it often makes you feel worse
In this episode, I’ll explain what it really means to feel your feelings and why sitting with them is so important for breaking anxious cycles. I’ll give examples that anxious attachers commonly experience, like waiting for messages, overthinking interactions, or catastrophising about someone pulling away.

You’ll also get a practical checklist you can use to pause, notice, and work with your feelings in the moment, so you can respond to life instead of reacting out of habit.

This episode is for anyone ready to stop letting old patterns control their heart, and start learning how to feel without fear.

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Feeling stuck in a cycle, habit, trigger, or mood you just can’t seem to break? You’re not alone - and you don’t have to stay stuck.

In this Workshop, Carly Ann guides you through a powerful 5-Step Therapy Framework designed to help you interrupt the patterns that are keeping you stuck and create real, lasting change.

Whether it’s emotional spirals, unhelpful habits, or recurring triggers, this framework gives you the tools to understand what’s happening, reset your mindset, and move forward with confidence.

Once you learn it, you can return to it any time, in any area of your life.

Expect big “aha” moments - so grab your notebook, your favourite drink, and get cosy. Let’s break the cycle together

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If you’ve ever promised yourself “this time will be different” only to end up back in the same cycle... the same relationship problems, the same habits, the same procrastination - this episode is for you.

Carly Ann breaks down the key areas to focus on if you actually want to create change that lasts. She shares therapy insights that no one else is talking about, sharing the psychology of what it really takes to rewire your mind and behaviour for good.

Whether you’re stuck in love, habits, or life itself, this episode will help you understand what you need to focus on in order to break free

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Do you have feeling you are made for more?

Do you see yourself repeating the same cycles and pattern even though you KNOW it’s not meant for you.

You may or may not be aware of your thoughts… especially negative thoughts.

In this podcast, I am talking about the beliefs that pull you back, keep you in a loop, and drive anxiety/low mood.

As well as key therapy insights, you will also receive motivation to get out of this, and of course - I’ll share a technique with you that you can then use again and again!

You are the leader of your life, you get to make a choice, and you can make a change.

Listen to this episode if you get stuck in your head overthinking, obsessing, worrying, and losing yourself

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Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a proven approach that helps you stop fighting your thoughts and feelings, make peace with what you can’t control, and start living a life guided by what truly matters to you

This episode is for those of you who feel like life just isn’t going your way right now. Maybe you’re stuck in overthinking, worrying if someone is pulling away, or replaying conversations in your head. Perhaps you’re caught up in anxious attachment, struggling to let go of what you can’t control. In this video, I’m sharing some key principles from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that can help you move forward, make peace with your feelings, and start creating the life and love you deserve

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Ever wonder how elite athletes stay consistent, how top business leaders keep showing up, or why your favourite podcast hosts seem to have it all together? It’s not just willpower, so many of them use mental training & visualisation.

Visualisation is a powerful mental technique - one of the most underrated tools for building habits that actually stick. It’s used by high-performers in sport, business and media to stay focused, motivated, and aligned with their goals (day in, day out0!

If you’ve ever felt frustrated by stop-start habits, struggled to stay consistent, or found yourself slipping back into old routines, you’re not alone. The truth is, most people rely on motivation... but that runs out fast.

In this episode, you’ll learn what visualisation really is, why it works (even if it sounds a bit “woo”), and three simple techniques you can start using straight away to finally stay on track with the goals and habits that matter most to you.

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Do you have an abandonment wound? Or are you questioning if you have one? An abandonment wound can affect your daily life in very subtle ways. An abandonment wound is usually the result of past experiences and it can hugely impact your life today, as an adult. The question is, how does your abandonment wound show up in your daily life? Seeing these patterns improve your wellbeing, choices, and relationships. Let's dive into the different ways your abandonment wound might show up at work, in relationships, and other areas of your life. You will hear what a recap of what an abandonment wound is, and key signs of how it shows up. I will also share the details of my CBT course, Becoming Secure. As always, at the end of the video I give you big value - one shift you can make when your abandonment wound is triggered. I would love to hear from you in the comments, what is the main takeaway that can help you live happier?

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This workshop is sponsored by my signature 6-week course, Becoming Secure. It does exactly what it says on the tin... it helps you move from feeling insecure, lost, or anxious, to feeling grounded, confident, and secure. It’s six weeks to rediscovering yourself..and right now there’s a special early bird offer available.

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FREE WORKSHOP (Breaking The Rules)

Part 5:
If you struggle with anxiety, anxious attachment, and your mood - it is very possible you are living by hidden rules and inner guidelines without even realising it. Rules like “I must always please others” “I need to be chosen” or “I have to get it right or I’ll be on my own” can leave you feeling anxious, self-critical, and stuck in the same old patterns. They quietly fuel overthinking, low self-esteem, and the constant worry that you're not enough... in life, in love, and in how you show up for yourself

In part 5, I teach you to be able to tell if your rules are helpful or unhelpful, and how to start changing your own inner guidelines for better self-worth and happiness.

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FREE WORKSHOP (Breaking The Rules)

Part 4
If you’ve ever noticed that your anxiety or low mood is tangled up with self-esteem, this episode is a must-listen (or must-watch).
There are sneaky thoughts and beliefs holding you back, keeping you stuck in self-criticism, stopping you from feeling confident, and blocking you from being your true self.

This, mini episode (4) is here to give you the motivation and reminders to start breaking free, building healthier self-esteem, and inviting more happiness into your life.

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FREE WORKSHOP (Breaking The Rules)

Today's bitesize episode is for those of you that prefer a real exercise compared to theory and ideas.

Rules for Living help you live a life where you feel OK, so long as those rules are met. The second they are not, that's when you spiral.

E.G. If you believe you should make everyone happy, you will lose yourself the second you think you might have upset someone.

In this mini episode, I am delivering a somatic exercise combined with music, affirmation, and visualisation. A great way to regulate yourself and cut ties with old rules that are not serving you.

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PART 2: Rules That Lead to ANXIETY

In today's bitesize episode I am sharing with you a key reason why you fall into panic, worry, & obsessing at certain times in your life. There is something that triggers this cycle and knowing about it has truly changed my life and how I manage my mood and thoughts.

If you care what others thinking, or notice yourself doing things you think you SHOULD or MUST do rather than what you WANT), this one is for you!

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In this mini episode Carly Ann introduces a popular concept (Rules for Living) that is discussed in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
Rules for living are influenced by your own negative core beliefs and they actually maintain low self-esteem, anxiety, low mood, and self doubt

It is when your rule for living is broken that you spiral into worry and feeling bad

If you can begin to understand this psychological concept, you can begin to change your life

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Have you heard of limerence? The longing, obsessing, and thinking about someone you like.

In this episode Carly Ann talk about what limerence is, what keeps you hooked on them (why you can't let go).

What makes this different to any other episode? I talk about the fact that logically you do know better.

You have read the books and you're doing the inner work, yet you still hold on

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These are not your usual affirmations. In this video, you won’t just repeat words, you’ll be guided to see, feel, and imagine the outcome as if it’s already real. This combination of affirmations and guided imagery creates a powerful shift in your mind and body, making it easier to attract what you desire and rewire old patterns that hold you back.

If you’ve ever felt like affirmations don’t “work” for you, this practice is different. By engaging your imagination, emotions, and senses, you’ll activate the part of your brain that doesn’t just hear the affirmation - it believes it.

Listen daily and watch how your thoughts, energy, and reality begin to align with what you truly want.

Say it | Visualise it | Become it

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You know the logic. You know what you should do. And yet… you keep repeating the same patterns. Why?

In this video, I break down what’s really going on beneath the surface when logic and self-awareness aren’t enough to create change. You've read the books, done the work, and yet you keep defaulting to old patterns.

You chase people, you over-give, you self-criticise - even though you know better.

Let's get clear on what is going on, plus you will receive your practice of the week!

If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why do I keep doing this even though I know better?” - this episode will explain what is happening

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TRY THIS: 5 Steps That Will Help You Overcome Your Biggest Fears
Fear can feel like it’s running the show.. keeping you stuck, small, and second-guessing every move. But what if you could face those fears head-on and finally stop letting them control your life? In this episode, I’m sharing five powerful, practical steps that will help you break free, to go from stuck to secure. Whether it’s fear of rejection, failure, abandonment, or the unknown, these 5 steps will stop you standing in your own way - you will gain courage and and confidence if you put this into action. This is your brand new blueprint.

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If your body feels like it’s either buzzing with anxiety or completely shut down, you’re not alone. In this mini training, Carly Ann explores how physical sensations like overwhelm, tension, or numbness can keep you stuck in the same painful cycles.

You’ll learn why your body reacts the way it does, how these sensations maintain anxious patterns, and one powerful tip you can start using today to find calm quicker.

✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break the cycle: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-course

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Did you know your behaviours influence so much of how you feel and what you do?

In this training, Carly Ann is sharing one powerful question that can help you shift your actions, align with your values, and become the version of you that you actually desire to be. Whether you’re stuck in old patterns or ready to take that next step forward, this episode will give you a simple but game-changing mindset shift.

✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break the cycle: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-course

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In this episode, we explore the power of emotions - how they show up, how they influence what we do, and why managing them matters so much, especially when you don’t feel good enough. You’ll hear insights on how emotions can hijack your thoughts and actions, and simple ways to work with them instead of against them. If you’re ready to get curious about your feelings and stop letting them run the show, this one’s for you.

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Welcome to Day 3 of Becoming Unstuck – today is all about your thoughts.

If you ever feel owned by your mind, trapped in spirals of overthinking, self-doubt, or fear, this episode is yours.

If you know you have negative thoughts that move you away from who you want to be - listen now or save for later!

Carly Ann shares a brilliant, practical tool to help you stop being a prisoner of your mind and start becoming its leader. This mini training is a must-listen if you're ready to quiet the noise and reclaim your inner calm. Let’s set you free.

🎧 Want more? Dive deeper in the free workshop I mentioned: https://youtu.be/IE-MJ4OqZ6E

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Triggered?

Feeling stuck in the same painful loops? Rejected, blamed, out of control?

Whether it is a specific person or a song on the radio, your triggers aren’t the enemy.. they’re the message. If you keep spiralling in love or life, this training is part of your RESET!

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Training 1/6 - Becoming Unstuck

Stuck in anxious loops or reacting in ways that don’t feel like you? This powerful exercise will help you take a first step in moving TOWRDS the life and love your desire and how to shift.

You’ll learn how to spot the moment you’re at a choice point, and how to move towards the secure, grounded version of you.

Join in with the exercise or just listen along, this is how you start becoming who you were always meant to be.

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This meditation is your emergency pause button when you need to soothe and regulate right now. To help with the spiral, the overwhelm, the noise in your head - this 5 minute audio will bring you back. Back into your body. Back into the present. Back into safety.

Whether you’re feeling anxious, triggered, heartbroken, or like you’ve left the room entirely, press play. Let these few minutes shift everything

MUSIC:

Cylinder Nine by Chris Zabriskie is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
Source: http://chriszabriskie.com/cylinders/
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If you’ve ever been stuck in a worry spiral...the kind that hijacks your mind, interrupts your sleep, and makes you question everything (non stop)..this episode is for you. I was in one recently. And while I didn’t fix it overnight, I found something that helped in the middle of it.

This isn’t a neat “5 steps to stop overthinking” episode. It’s a real look at what happens when anxiety takes over, and how to unmerge from the panic long enough to find your self. Carly Ann shares exactly what she did to stop spiralling, and then you can do the same for yourself

If you overthink, seek reassurance, obsess over decisions, or just want your peace back, listen today

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We all fall into patterns – but some of them silently chip away at our self-worth. In today’s episode, Carly Ann is uncovering the sneaky habits and thought loops that keep you stuck in low self-esteem and anxiety.

These are 3 common patterns that damage your self-worth if left ignored. In this episode you will receive practical, powerful tips to start rebuilding your self worth from the inside out.

Plus, stay tuned for a self-worth challenge you can start this week to begin showing up as the most confident, secure version of you.

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Ready for a powerful mid-year reset? This guided manifestation meditation is designed to help you get back on track, reconnect with your goals, and start attracting the life you truly desire.

It will guide you to cut ties with what does not serve you and call in what you desire

Whether you're manifesting love, success, confidence, or a fresh start... this is your chance to pause, reflect, and realign with your highest self. This is the perfect time to raise your vibration and set powerful intentions for the second half of the year.

💫 Manifest your dream life
💫 Mid-year motivation & mindset shift
💫 Get clear on your goals and next steps
💫 Release blocks and build confidence
💫 Step into your most magnetic, secure self

Listen now if you're ready to stop holding back and start calling in what’s meant for you. It’s not too late... in fact, this is just the beginning.

GuidedManifestation #MidYearReset #ManifestationMeditation #LawOfAttraction #ManifestingConfidence #AnxiousAttachmentHealing #SelfWorth #MindsetShift #BecomeSecure #ManifestMore

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Do you you keep going back to the good times with someone who’s no longer in your life? Whether that’s an ex, a situationship, or something that never fully got off the ground.

In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann (therapist & coach helping you heal anxious attachment) breaks down the real psychological reasons why we play the positives and stay stuck on a loop feeling bad about it all, wishing it was different.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I stop thinking about them and remembering how good it was?” this episode is for you.

I do not want you think think you’re not weak for caring. You’re human for remembering. But you don’t have to stay stuck, so let me help you.

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A Radical Acceptance Practice

If you have anxious attachment, you may find yourself stuck in the highlight reel of your relationship - that means replaying the good times over and over, wondering what went wrong, and blaming yourself when the present doesn’t match up

This gentle, guided exercise is designed to help you practice radical acceptance - to hold space for the memories and accept the reality of what is, without self-rejection or shame. Through six grounding steps, you’ll learn to calm your nervous system and move forward with more

Whether you're navigating a breakup, feeling distant in a current relationship, or just struggling with a sense of loss, this can help

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Your inner critic knows exactly when to strike, and if you can be ready for it - you can stop it in its tracks! In this episode, Carly Ann shares the common moments where self-criticism hits hardest, especially for those with anxious attachment, low self-worth, or a constant fear of not being good enough.

Plus stay tuned because you will because you will get so much value - Carly Ann will guide you through simple steps to notice and start responding to your inner critic.

If you’re tired of the same old thought loops and want to finally quiet the inner critic that holds you back in relationships, self-love, and everyday life - this one’s for you.

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A motivational episode - consider it your personal pep talk to manage your inner critic and give you a confidence boost.

Carly Ann is here to help if you’ve got something coming up that’s making you nervous. Whether it’s a date, a job interview, a boundary to set, or a tough conversation, this episode will help settle your mind and lift your energy. It’s for those moments when your inner critic gets loud and tries to convince you to stay small, quiet, or hidden.

Carly Ann is speaking directly to that inner critic and guiding you back into your body - back into your power. This pep talk helps you reconnect to the present moment with calm, strength, and self-belief. If you’re done playing small and ready to feel grounded and capable, this is the boost you’ve been waiting for.

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For Low Self-Esteem

Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough no matter how hard you try? Do you second-guess your worth, wonder if you’re truly lovable, or compare yourself to everyone around you? If your confidence feels fragile and your inner critic is running the show, this episode is for you.

In this episode, Carly Ann shares 4 powerful, evidence-based ways to start healing low self-esteem, drawn from her own experience and the work of psychologist Melanie Fennell. You’ll learn 4 common ways therapists support their clients to create lasting self-worth. If you’re ready to stop believing the worst about yourself and start feeling more secure, capable, and worthy, definitely don’t skip this one.

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This self-esteem reset meditation is for you if you struggle with self-worth, overthinking, people-pleasing, or anxious attachment.

In just 6 minutes, you'll be guided through a calming, healing experience to:

Let go of self-doubt and critical inner talk
Reconnect with your inner strength and self-belief
Start feeling good enough as you are
Build confidence from within, not from external validation
Heal patterns of low self-worth and emotional insecurity

This meditation blends CBT-based tools, guided visualisation, and somatic grounding techniques to help you rewire negative beliefs and feel emotionally safe in your own skin.

Whether you’re working on healing after a breakup, navigating anxious attachment, or simply tired of not feeling enough — this is your reset.

Listen anytime you feel overwhelmed, unworthy, or in need of calm confidence.

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Do you find yourself constantly preparing for the worst? Playing out disaster scenarios in your head? Comparing yourself to others and feeling like you’re always coming up short?

In today’s episode, we’re diving into a sneaky but powerful habit many of us don’t even realise we’re stuck in, the automatic pull toward the negative. Whether it’s fear, comparison, or imagining everything that could go wrong, this pattern is draining your energy, confidence, and joy.

Plus, I’m giving you reflective questions and a motivational boost to help you shift your focus, feel more grounded, and stop letting fear run the show.

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You know they’re not right for you. You know you deserve better. You know the anxious spiral is hurting you. So why does it still feel like your heart hasn’t caught up with your head?

In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the frustrating phenomenon known as head-heart lag...That all-too-familiar space where your logic is crystal clear, but your emotions and behaviours aren’t playing ball.

If you’ve ever said, “I get it, but I just can’t seem to do it” this one is for you.

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Struggling with anxious attachment? Always asking “Do you still love me?” or “Are you sure you’re not leaving?” even when you know the answer won’t help for long?

In this episode, Carly Ann unpacks why anxious attachers seek constant reassurance, how it keeps you stuck in a loop, and why your nervous system never quite feels safe.

If you're stuck overthinking, spiralling after silence, or chasing reassurance through asking non-stop questions, this one is for you

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JOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1ST

Everything seems fine… but you still feel stuck or lost?
Or maybe you know you’ve fallen into that pattern again - the overthinking, obsessing, clinging, second-guessing, unsure how to get out.

This episode is for the anxious attachers who keep finding themselves here: things look okay on the outside, but inside it’s the same fog, the same fear, the same cycle. Or you cant seem to stop yourself falling into old, painful cycles.

You've had enough!

Carly Ann explores feeling stuck and lost with you, what keeps it going, and how to start breaking free - today!

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Struggling with feeling panicky or desperate when you think someone you love is pulling away? Do you find yourself turning into a version of yourself you barely recognise - anxious, overwhelmed, even irrational…whenever you fear abandonment or rejection? If you’re tired of the emotional rollercoaster with avoidants or feeling stuck in cycles of panic and overthinking, this episode is made for you.

Join me as we unpack what’s really happening beneath the surface of anxious attachment, why your panic feels so overwhelming, and, most importantly, how you can start reclaiming your calm and grounded self, even if you don’t believe it’s possible!

If you want to finally stop letting fear control your relationships and start coming home to yourself, hit play now.

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Struggling with relationship anxiety/anxious attachment? Feeling like you are struggling with self-worth and showing up as your true self?

Today, I am sharing 2 common patterns that actually keep you stuck in a cycle of insecurity, fear of rejection, and low self esteem.

If you’re ready to get out of the anxious cycle and build your self worth - this episode makes it clear how you can start today!

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EXAMPLE ANXIOUS CYCLE
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If you know you're stuck in an anxious cycle, like overthinking, chasing, second-guessing, or feeling like you just can't relax in love, this episode is your lifeline.

In this free workshop, I’ll guide you through powerful and practical steps to break the cycle you're in right now. It doesn't matter if you're single, dating, in a situationship, or in a relationship that leaves you feeling unsure.

Grab a pen and paper, or simply follow along in your mind. This isn’t just something to listen to. It’s a hands-on experience to help you get clear on your patterns, understand what’s really going on underneath, and shift how you respond to your triggers.

Expect reflection, real talk, and gentle prompts that go straight to the heart.

You don’t have to stay stuck in anxious attachment. Let this be the moment things start to change.

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FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP

If you have an anxious attachment style and you’re doing the work, trying to heal, build self-worth, and stop losing yourself in relationships, there’s a question you need to be asking.

In this episode, I bring that question to the table. It’s the kind of conversation most anxious attachers skip over, but without it, the healing can only go so far.

If you’re still getting triggered, still chasing reassurance, or still forgetting who you are in love, this episode is a must-listen.

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FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP

If you’re feeling like you’ve messed it all up… again, like you’re back at square one, stuck in the same old anxious attachment spiral than this episode is for you. Maybe you’ve texted when you said you wouldn’t. Maybe you’re beating yourself up for caring too much (again). Maybe your mind is screaming: “Why am I like this?!”

Before you disappear into shame or start rewriting the story that you’re too much, too needy, or never going to change, listen to me in this ep.

Carly Ann shares the one thing you need to hear in this moment. It’s the thing that will help you soften the spiral, reconnect with yourself, and start moving forward again (without pretending it doesn’t hurt). It’s not a quick fix.. but it is a powerful shift, and will certainly help you get back on track.

If you’ve ever searched:

“Why do I always ruin relationships?”
“I feel like I’ve messed up again”
“Why do I keep going back?”
“How to stop being so needy”

…this episode is for you.

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FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP

Feeling triggered in love, dating, and relationships? Constantly worrying, acting out, and obsessing? This episode is for anyone with anxious attachment who finds themselves overreacting, spiralling, or shutting down. Learn the most common attachment triggers and even get some bonus tips on how to manage them.

Perfect for anyone healing anxious attachment, exploring their reactions, and ready to feel more secure in relationships.

🎧 Attachment triggers, relationship anxiety, anxious attachment podcast, reacting in relationships, healing attachment wounds.

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You've been working hard to heal your anxious and/or disorganised attachment and right now you just feel like nothing is working?

All the tools, the therapy, the journaling - none of it seems to be helping, and you're right back where you started? This episode is for you.

Whether you're feeling a heavy dip right now, stuck in a familiar loop, or questioning if healing is even possible for you, this episode is going to give you what you need right now. Carly Ann speaks from both professional and personal experience, plus shares expert insight about what these "stuck" moments really mean, and what to do when your attachment wounds flare up despite all the work you've done.

If your inner critic is loud right now, if you're caught in anxious spirals or shut down, tune in. This is for your healing heart.

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Anxious Attachment is often maintained by low self-worth..

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not good enough in love, dating, & relationships (especially when they pull away or act cold), this episode is 100% for you.

In this raw and honest moment, Carly Ann speaks straight from here heart to anyway that has anxious attachment, low self-worth, and knows the pain of being caught in a cycle you just want to break!

Listen when you’re feeling low, hurt, triggered, or just stuck in that familiar spiral of overthinking and self-blame. Or even when you just need a motivational boost. This one’s here to remind you, it’s not you, it’s the pattern...and guess what? it can change.

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Why do people ghost? If you have anxious attachment, being ghosted can feel devastating..like rejection, confusion, and obsession all rolled into one.

In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the reasons that different people ghost.

If you have recently been ghosted, I hope this gives you some clarity around what is going on.

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If you've ever found yourself obsessing over a message or an ex, worrying they've lost interest, or feeling completely triggered by distance or mixed signals...this episode is for you. Whether you're in a situationship, dating an avoidant, or constantly battling your own anxious attachment style, you’ve probably heard the advice: just self-soothe. But what does that actually mean?

This episode is your go-to if you’ve been confused about what self-soothing really looks like when your anxious attachment is in overdrive, your thoughts are spiralling, and all you want is reassurance.

Hit play if you’re tired of being stuck in anxious spirals and ready to learn what it means to self-soothe

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If you find yourself constantly worrying...Why haven’t they texted back? Did I say something wrong? Are they losing interest? this episode of Lessons in Attachment is for you.

When you have an anxious attachment style, waiting and overthinking can take over your whole day. In this episode,Carly Ann is sharing two powerful CBT-based tools to help you cope with uncertainty and worry!

You’ll hear real-life examples (including my own!) and learn how to gently shift out of panic mode, no matter what someone else is doing. Whether you’re dating, in a situationship, or navigating your own healing, these simple steps will help you feel more secure, grounded, and in control.

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Have you been ghosted? Ghosting is one of the most painful and confusing ways to be left behind, but do ghosters actually feel anything?

In this episode, Carly Ann dive into a fascinating study by Freedman et al (2022) to uncover what’s really going on in the minds of ghosters. Do they feel guilty? Do they regret it? Or do they just move on without a second thought? Spoiler: It’s not as simple as you might think.

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Do you ever feel crazy? like your thoughts are spinning out of control over someone? That intense, obsessive longing where every little thing they do feels like a sign?

You might be experiencing limerence. It’s more than just a crush - it’s an all-consuming obsession that can feel like an addiction to this person. It feels crazy - but I assure you you're not

In this episode Carly Ann give 3 major signs of limerence, how it differs from real love, and how people are healing. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of longing and obsession, this one’s for you

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If you’re going through a breakup right now, you already know how painful it is. But have you ever wondered why some breakups feel so much worse than others? Why, for some people, the pain feels overwhelming, like it's impossible to move on?

Well, research suggests there’s a reason for that. And in today’s episode, we’re breaking down exactly what makes a breakup feel so unbearable for some people, and what you can do to start feeling better.

Stick with me, because by the end of this episode, you’ll have a whole new perspective on your breakup and the tools to move forward.

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In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, we’re joined once again by breakup coach Holly from Break Ups and Love to dive even deeper into the challenges of heartbreak and healing. If you missed her first episode on May 26, 2024, scroll back to listen - it’s packed with insights on navigating breakups.

This time, we’re covering some really helpful and interesting topics to support your healing:

The urge to get your ex back
Feeling like you can’t cope
The non-negotiables for healing
Managing overwhelming emotions
Tarot for breakups
Dealing with triggers and reminders

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Healing your attachment wounds and childhood trauma starts with reconnecting with a very important part of you - your inner child. In this powerful episode, we dive into why inner child work is the key to true healing.

Our brilliant guest expert shares three essential keys for practicing inner child work in a way that creates real change and healing. Whether you sare recovering from attachment wounds and/or trauma, this conversation will help you nurture the parts of you that need love, safety, and connection.

Stay tuned! Carly Ann shares an exclusive clip from a recent mini-workshop inside the Attachment Recovery Gym, giving you practical tools to start your journey today.

Get ready to reconnect with your inner child!

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Do you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style? If you've ever felt that gut-wrenching fear that your partner might leave, that sinking feeling when someone else gets too close, or the endless overthinking that keeps you up at night... I'm sure you know exactly how all consuming jealousy can be!

In this episode, Carly Ann is diving deep into the jealousy through the lens of attachment theory, inner child healing, and reparenting. We’re unpacking why it feels so all-consuming, how it ties to your past, and most importantly - how you can start to break free from its grip.

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If you feel like life is against you, like nothing ever goes right and you’re stuck in a cycle of frustration...this 7-minute episode is exactly what you need.

When big/small, daily challenges pile up, it’s easy to slip into a victim mindset, but staying there only keeps you stuck and creates so much pain and negative energy.

This episode will help you shift your perspective, break free from resistance, and start seeing setbacks as stepping stones.

What if life isn’t out to get you? But instead it’s guiding you?

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Struggling to let go? Whether you're anxiously attached to a person, an outcome, or the way you thought life should be by now - this episode is for you.

When you're constantly waiting for reassurance, obsessing over what might happen, or clinging to control, it only fuels more anxiety. Feeling secure and peaceful comes from learning to detach.. as you will hear in this episode... that doesn't mean caring less from caring less in fact it's something else entirely.

In this episode, Carly Ann explore's:
✨ The Law of Detachment
✨ Radical Acceptance
✨ Retraining Your Attention (a practice to break free from obsessive thinking)

This isn’t even just about relationships today, it’s about how you show up in every part of life. Let’s talk about how to stop gripping so hard and start trusting that what’s meant for you will find you.

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This podcast is for anyone stuck in a cycle of being attracted to unavailable partners and ready to make a change. If you want to start attracting secure, available types then you need to hear this!

Join Carly Ann for practical steps, mindset shifts, and real-talk on how to start choosing secure, healthy love. No overanalyzing - just how you can change your type for good.

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? Are you doing the work to heal attachment wounds but keep repeating patterns?

In this episode, Carly Ann dives into key psychological techniques that can help break free from the anxious attachment drama cycle and create real, lasting change.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in overthinking, emotional highs and lows, or unhealthy relationship patterns, this episode is for you. Carly Ann shares how these tools can help you regain control, build secure attachment, and experience love in a way that feels safe.

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Is your inner critic running your mood? Be honest, has it been running the show for too long? Usually the inner critic is loud, especially if you have an anxious attachment style.

In this episode, Carly Ann explores how this harsh inner voice keeps you stuck, settling for less than you deserve, and holding back from true happiness.

She shares a simple but powerful two-step process to start shifting the way you speak to yourself this week, so you can begin reparenting yourself and building a healthier, more loving relationship with you.

It really is the time to break free from self-criticism and discover your most compassionate self. You’ve always deserved this and it is important if your serious about becoming secure.

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Do you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style?

So, you know that moment when your stomach drops because they took too long to text back? Or when you convince yourself they’re losing interest, even if nothing has actually happened? And then, before you know it, you’re overthinking, checking their socials, or panicking about being left?

That’s the anxious attachment drama cycle...and it’s exhausting.

In this episode, Carly Ann walks you through 7 key steps of this attachment cycleso you can see exactly where you recognise yourself and where real change can happen. Because if you want to heal anxious attachment and become securely attached, you have to recognise this pattern first.

It’s not about blaming yourself (ever) it’s about finally understanding your attachment triggers, breaking free from relationship anxiety, and learning how to feel safe in love.

🎧 Listen now & take another step towards secure attachment

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In this episode, I’m joined by Frankie Olivia (@Frankiestherapy), a trauma-responsive creative psychotherapist and EMDR psychotherapist, to discuss living with and healing anxious attachment.

We explore:
✨ Understanding needs & unmet needs
✨ Separation anxiety and why it feels so intense
✨ The first thing to do when you notice you’re triggered
✨ Techniques to regulate your nervous system
✨ How progress and healing can feel slow
✨ Navigating guilt in the healing process

Discussed in this episode:

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If you’re on a journey to becoming more secure, this episode is packed with insights and tools to support you

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If you always lose yourself in love, put everyone else first, and feel like your happiness depends on someone else...this one is definitely for you today.

Carly Ann gives you a key principle from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that will help you stop abandoning yourself in relationships, dating, and even situationships with unavailable partners.

This goes beyond just love...because when you keep sacrificing yourself to make others stay, it affects your confidence, mental health, and ability to feel secure in your own skin. It’s time to break free from the cycle of overthinking, people-pleasing, and making someone else your entire world.

No matter your relationship status, this is about you. Your self-worth doesn’t come from how much someone loves you or whether they choose you, it comes from within. Carly Ann is here to help you reconnect with who you really are, so you can build relationships without losing yourself. You deserve to feel whole, confident, and free - whether you’re single, dating, or deep in love.

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Have an anxious attachment?

If you’re stuck in patterns of overthinking, self-doubt, and craving reassurance in love, relationships & dating... your inner critic might be running the show. That harsh voice keeping you small, making you question your worth, and pushing you into relationships where you give more than you get...it’s exhausting and you've probably had enough!

In this episode, Carly Ann is bringing you a favourite idea that helped her on her own journey to becoming secure. Hopefully this will also help you recognise how your inner critic is holding you back and, more importantly, how to take a simple step towards self-compassion and secure attachment. She’ll walk you through the three stages of self-love so you can start to break free from toxic patterns and finally believe you are enough.

If you’re tired of being mean to yourself and ready to change the way you see yourself, this episode is for you. Tune in now

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Do you feel trapped in endless “what if” thoughts, especially in relationships? For anxious attachers, uncertainty can feel unbearable, fueling overthinking and constant worry.

In this episode, Carly Ann will explore why uncertainty triggers anxiety and share practical tips to help you break the cycle. Learn how to sit with the unknown, challenge anxious thoughts, and regain control in relationships. If you’re ready to stop overthinking and start feeling more secure, this episode is for you.

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Going no contact? Are you feeling torn, uncertain, or even panicky about breaking no contact? As an anxious attacher, it’s easy to feel consumed by the urge to reach out, even when part of you isn’t sure it’s the right thing to do. In this episode, I’m sharing three powerful questions that will help you connect with what you’re really feeling and give you the clarity and guidance you need in this challenging moment. Whether you’re stuck in overthinking or overwhelmed by emotions, this episode is here to support you.

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Anxious attachment can keep you stuck in obssessing, overthinking and self-doubt.
In this episode Carly Ann shares how to shift your perspective on your thoughts so you can approach relationships with confidence, calm, and reduced reactivity.

Discover how to zoom out and step back from overwhelming thoughts to create space to respond - helping you build stronger, more secure connections.

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In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, I’m sharing a sneak peek from the Attachment Recovery Gym with guest expert Holly, also known as Breakups and Love. Holly, an accredited EFT International practitioner combining EFT tapping & journaling to help with stress and life's challenges.

You’ll hear why these tools are so powerful and how they can support your healing journey. Plus, I share an inspiring moment about savouring positivity to transform attachment patterns...and you’ll be encouraged to focus on your word of the year or month!

Don't forget to join the Attachment Recovery Gym for access to workshops like this and more tools to move toward secure attachment!

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? Do you feel panicked when it seems like someone you care about is pulling away? Maybe you start overthinking their messages, checking your phone non-stop, or reacting in ways you wish you hadn’t. You’re not alone, and there’s a way through it.

In this episode, Carly Ann dives into the 3 things anxious attachers often do that actually make things worse—and how you can calm yourself instead. She breaks down why these habits feel so hard to stop and shares simple steps to soothe your emotions in the moment.

Whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or just working on yourself, this episode will help you feel more secure and in control when anxiety strikes.

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Have you ever felt like change is impossible? Like no matter how hard you try, you keep slipping back into the same patterns? If you’re on a healing journey with anxious attachment, you’ve likely experienced moments of doubt, frustration, and even hopelessness.

In this episode, Carly Ann offers a powerful exercise to help you rebuild your belief in yourself and your ability to change.

Whether you’re feeling stuck or just need a little motivation to keep going, this episode will remind you that change is possible for you. Carly Ann shares practical steps to restore your hope, get re-inspired, and reignite your journey toward becoming more secure in love and life.

If you need to move past self-doubt and reconnect with your healing... this one’s for you.

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Do you find yourself overthinking every little thing in your relationships? Like making up reasons to text them, holding back your true thoughts, or even pretending you’re totally fine when deep down, you’re not?

Maybe you’ve noticed you’re moulding yourself into what you think they want or making excuses for behaviour you know isn’t OK. Sound familiar?

In this episode, Carly Ann is getting into the habits that keep you stuck in anxiety and insecure attachment. If you’re tired of losing yourself in relationships, holding back your needs, or feeling like you’re never fully seen, this one’s for you.

It’s time to break free from these patterns and start showing up as the secure, confident version of yourself you’re meant to be.

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As we step into a brand new year, it’s time to focus on how to create the life you truly desire. In today’s episode, I dive deep into practical goal-setting techniques that will help you design your dream 2025.

Whether you’re looking to transform your career, relationships, or personal development, I am giving practical steps to align your goals with what's important to you.

Using mindset shifts, intentional planning, and powerful strategies, you’ll learn how to set goals that not only motivate but also inspire lasting change.

Ready to create the 2025 you deserve? Tune in for insights that will help you make this year your most fulfilling yet.

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In this special episode, I’m bringing you affirmations designed to support you through the holiday season and beyond. Living with anxiety can make boundaries, self-love, and emotional security feel like constant battle but today, we’re flipping the script.

These affirmations are here to help you reclaim your power, set boundaries that protect your peace, and nurture the secure version of yourself you’re striving to become. Whether you’re navigating tricky family dynamics, reinforcing your sense of worth, or dreaming of a more confident you, this episode is your go-to guide for feeling grounded and self-assured.

And don’t forget: for just a few more days, you can join The Attachment Recovery Gym for a special December deal of £199 for a full year’s access. It’s your chance to get all the tools, resources, and support you need to heal and grow in 2025.

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Have you ever felt that gut-wrenching moment when someone you care about pulls away? You’re left questioning everything from what you did wrong, why this always seems to happen, and if it’s somehow all your fault. But what if the reason had nothing to do with you?

In this episode, I dive deep into why people suddenly withdraw and what you can do to protect yourself as the anxious attacher. You’ll learn how their early experiences shaped their patterns and why their self-protection mechanisms kick in.

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Do you ever feel like your anxious attachment is just too much for others to handle? Maybe you’ve been in situations where you needed support, but the person you turned to couldn’t quite meet your needs. This can trigger big emotions, anger, or feelings of rejection, leaving you wondering why they don’t understand what you’re going through.

In this episode, I dive into what it feels like to be met with misunderstanding as an anxious attacher and explore how to navigate those moments. You’ll learn why others might struggle to get your needs and how to approach these situations with compassion.

Whether you’re looking to improve communication with your partner, manage your expectations, or find ways to self-soothe when support isn’t there, this episode offers practical insights to help you handle those overwhelming moments.

If you’ve ever felt unseen, unheard, or frustrated in your relationships, tune in to learn how to better navigate your anxious attachment and build stronger connections.

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Are your expectations in love setting you up for heartbreak? If you identify as an anxious attacher, your ideas about love and relationships might not be as "normal" as you think. This episode isn’t about dismissing what you deserve, it’s about redefining realistic expectations in relationships.

From craving constant reassurance to feeling like you should always be someone's top priority, these expectations can keep you trapped in a cycle of overthinking, disappointment, and emotional overwhelm. But what if your experience of love isn’t a reflection of reality? What if it’s a reflection of your attachment style?

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Are you stuck in a cycle of overthinking, replaying every moment, and wondering what you could’ve done differently? In this episode, we’re diving into the heartache of obsessing over an ex and uncovering how to break free from that mental loop. Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or it’s been months (even years), those intrusive thoughts can hold you back from healing and moving forward.

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? When it comes to the future, anxious attachers often fall into patterns of overthinking, fear, and doubt - ones that can feel overwhelming and even hold you back from the life and love you want.

In today’s episode, we’re bringing these patterns into the light, helping you become aware of the ways they might be shaping your thoughts, decisions, and emotions.

This is your chance to step back, reflect, and begin noticing when this happens to you. By recognising these habits, you can start to shift towards secure ways of thinking.

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In this episode, we dive deep into the pain of holding onto someone who’s made themselves unavailable. Whether it’s an ex or someone you have deep feelings for, this episode explores the emotional turmoil of wanting someone who’s not emotionally present. If you tend to lean toward anxious attachment, this pain can feel amplified, as it’s often accompanied by the belief that you need this person in your life to feel complete or secure.

Together, we’ll unpack why it’s so hard to let go, what to do when you find yourself repeatedly hurt, and how to break free from the cycle of longing. If you're ready to release the grip of someone who’s not showing up for you the way you deserve, this episode will give you the tools to start healing, set boundaries, and ultimately open up space for someone who truly meets your needs.

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In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, I'm feeling inspired and to speak to those of you with childhood wounds and unmet needs. Inspired by a juicy session inside the Attachment Recovery Gym, let's discuss the lasting impact of emotionally immature parenting and unmet childhood needs.

I share insights from our recent workshop, Heal Your Inner Child for Self-Worth & Healthy Love, where we explored themes of grief, forgiveness, and self-compassion. From navigating feelings of unworthiness to learning how to meet yourself with love today, this episode is here to remind you that you are not alone - and your past doesn’t have to define your future.

In this episode, I give you reflective prompts to help you reconnect with your authentic self and start showing up in relationships as your true SELF.

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Are you wondering why anxious attachers have intense reactions that feel out of proportion to the situation?

In this episode, we’re diving into the psychology behind those big emotions and over-the-top responses.

You’ll discover how past memories and unresolved core wounds shape your sense of threat, leaving you feeling vulnerable in relationships. We’ll also explore how your brain’s logical side seems to “go offline” during these triggering moments, making it so hard for you to respond calmly, even though you're trying so hard.

Whether you’re tired of feeling overwhelmed by your own reactions or want to understand the deeper reasons behind them, this episode will give you the insight to understanding and being more compassionate about your situation - that's when change can really happen!

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Do you ever feel like your relationships are stuck in a frustrating cycle of chasing unavailable and avoidant partners? You might be reliving dynamics you learned as a child. In this episode, we're diving into 5 Signs You Had Emotionally Immature Parents and how those early experiences might be influencing your adult relationships.

From unmet emotional needs to the deep-seated urge to "fix" or "earn" love, we’re exploring how your upbringing shapes who you chase and why emotionally unavailable partners feel familiar.

This is about understanding your story and rewriting it. Let’s heal the patterns that keep you stuck so you can stop chasing and start thriving.

Tune in for insights, validation, and some practical tips to help you take the first step toward breaking the cycle.

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In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, we dive into a common but unspoken challenge for anxious attachers, 'separation anxiety' for adults. While we might think of separation anxiety as something only children experience, actually, it can be a deeply distressing reality for adults with anxious attachment patterns. Whether it’s the constant “what if” worries about your partner leaving, fears for their safety, or anxiety about time spent apart, the thoughts become overwhelming and exhausting.

Listen as I unpack some common cognitive patterns that drive adult separation anxiety.

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In this episode, Carly Ann shares a powerful 5 step-tool designed to help you find calm when anxious attachment leaves you feeling triggered and overwhelmed. If you’re someone who struggles with anxious attachment and you have reactive impulses, this tool will guide you to pause, ground yourself, and regain control before taking action you might regret.

I walk you through each step of using this technique effectively, sharing insights on how to get the absolute most from it so it becomes second nature in tough moments.

Beyond just the tool itself, this episode is packed with golden gems on making self-soothing techniques more effective, tailored of course towards anxious attachers, and real-life ideas to strengthen your secure self.

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In this episode we explore self-love from the perspective of anxious attachment. Over on social media (HERE), Carly Ann has been discussing how to communicate with an avoidant attachment - to do this whilst loving yourself is key.

Whether you are single or in a relationship, this episode will provide you with some epic gems to support your healing journey today

That's why in this episode you will lear:

What is Self-Love
Why people with an anxious attachment struggle to self-love as adults
How to practice self love using S-E-L-F-L-O-V-E as your guild

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Do you want to communicate better and more effectively with a dismissive avoidant person? In this episode, Carly Ann discusses 5 common communication challenges faced by anxious attachers when interacting with avoidant partners. These are 5 things that push them away (even though you don't mean to). Understanding these mistakes is essential for improving relationship dynamics and giving the anxious-avoidant dynamic a better shot at connection.

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In this episode, Carly Ann shares three practical tools to help you calm your anxiety when it feels overwhelming. Whether you're stuck in a cycle of overthinking or feeling emotionally flooded, these self-soothing techniques will guide you to regain control and find some balance when you have lost yourself. Perfect for anxious attachers looking for quick, effective strategies to use in the heat of the moment.

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In this episode we dive into the 'Expectation Gap' with our special guest, exploring what happens when life doesn’t go according to plan. Have you ever felt like you’re not where you thought you'd be by now? Maybe 30 feels like you should be further along, or you're panicking about running out of time. This episode is here to break down the pressure and set realistic goals, especially if you’re juggling a lot of them.

From understanding your relationship timeline to meeting someone, this episode is packed with great insights. Plus, Kate shares 4 steps to help you tackle any goal you're struggling with. Whether it’s career, love, or personal growth - this ep has got you covered

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? If so, you likely know all about being your own biggest critic. In this episode, Carly Ann explores how to quieten your inner critic using the 3 core elements of Self-Compassion, based on the work of Paul Gilbert & Kristen Neff. If you struggle with anxious attachment, self-criticism, or self-blame, this episode is for you. We’ll break down3 core elements of self-compassion that you can bring into your day to day life.

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In this very honest episode, Carly Ann tackles the often tricky terrain of expressing needs a way that is "reasonable" versus "too much".

We’ll share relatable examples that highlight the fine line between healthy expression and being driven by anxious attachment. Discover times it is unacceptable to be called needy VS times we might also need to look inwards.

This is all about empowering you to embrace your emotions without shame and being able to look at yourself and your relationships more honestly. This episode invites you to reflect on your experiences, helping you understand that your needs matter and that how you deliver them can make all the difference.

Tune in for an honest conversation designed to resonate with anxious attachers.

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? If so, you likely ruminate - on the past. Over your ex, what you wore, what you should have said, their tone of voice.... and why why why,
In this episode, Carly Ann discusses rumination and what makes it worse - amongst that you will take away some tips to help you!

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? In this episode, we get real about four times your anxious attachment hits the hardest - when you're most likely to spiral and feel out of control.
From the struggles of nighttime to the stress of sudden changes in routine, Carly Ann breaks down why these moments trigger intense anxiety. We will discuss the moments when it feels like your attachment issues are taking over. If you're ready to stop letting these key moments control you, have a listen to this episode

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In this episode, Carly Ann discusses a tender and often overlooked topic - grief and its deep connection to anxious attachment. People with anxious attachment tend to experience unique and profound types of complex grief, often tied to unmet emotional needs, lost relationships, and the fear of abandonment. We'll explore 5 different types of unresolved grief that can manifest in daily life when ignored.

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? We all have core wounds that live in our subconscious. If you have an anxious attachment style, it's likey you fall into a certain type of wounds. In this episode Carly Ann discusses

What core wounds are
Impact of Your Core Wounds
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Are you on a journey of healing your anxious attachment? Well, what exactly does healing mean?
There is a lot of misleading information about what it means to heal... what are you allowing yourself to believe?
We know it's not easy, right? We know you want it to be quicker...You want it to be easier! That makes sense to us. But still.. what is it??
In this episode Carly Ann discusses some TRUTHS about healing your anxious attachment. Not only will you hear what healing IS, you will also hear what it is NOT.

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Do you have an anxious attachment? In this episode, Carly Ann offers a practical tool and five essential questions that you can use daily to help manage your triggers. By planning ahead and taking proactive steps, you can significantly reduce and understand your triggers over time.

Tune in to learn how to navigate your anxious attachment and walk away with five powerful questions that will empower you to manage your triggers more effectively each day.

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In this episode of Lessons in Attachment Carly Ann gives the key indicators that you or someone you know might be experiencing anxious attachment in relationships. If you often feel insecure, crave constant reassurance, or have a deep fear of abandonment, this episode is a must-listen.

We'll break down the most common signs of anxious attachment so you can recognise these patterns in yourself and others.

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Welcome to Lessons in Attachment! If you struggle with anxious attachment, past experiences can quickly lead you into mind-traps when triggered. Recognising these patterns is crucial for healing attachment wounds and moving from anxious to secure.

In this episode, Carly Ann explores four common cognitive reactions that occur when your anxious attachment is triggered. You might experience flashbacks, where past traumatic events replay in your mind. Intrusive imagery can also occur, with vivid, distressing mental images. Automatic thoughts, often negative and self-critical, may flood your mind.

Tune in to understand these responses and take a key step towards a more secure attachment style. Don't miss this essential guide to overcoming anxious attachment and fostering healthier relationships!

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Welcome to Lessons in Attachment! If you have an anxious attachment style, you know the struggle of feeling obsessed and preoccupied with someone you like. Have you ever heard of 'outside-in orientation'? It's a common tendency among people with anxious attachment.

In this episode, Carly Ann discusses some of the reasons behind this obsession and preoccupation you experiencer.

Discover how this mindset leads to neglecting and self-abandoning the most important relationship of all—the one with yourself. Tune in to learn how to break free from these patterns and nurture a healthier connection with yourself and others.

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? If so, it's very likely you know all about being triggered and having your anxious attachment system activated.

Perhaps your date has cancelled, they haven't text back, or your partner seems different towards you.

In this episode, Carly Ann shares practical strategies for managing anxious attachment triggers. Drawing on her personal experiences and professional expertise, Carly offers evidence-based advice to help you recognise and handle emotional triggers in your relationships. This is especially important if you are on a healing journey to becoming securely attached.

If you struggle with anxious attachment and want to develop a more secure attachment style, this episode is for you.Tune in for essential tips and actionable insights that can help you today!

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Can you sense someone is pulling away? Or maybe they have pulled away? Either way, it feels horrible and you can't stop obsessing over them?

In this short series of the podcast, Carly Ann shares some key lessons about her experience with having an anxious attachment - knowing why someone pulls away has helped in the recovery process. This episode is based on a combination of personal experience and professional experience (evidence backed research).

Carly Ann's insights have made a profound impact on her life, and they can do the same for you.

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In this short series of the podcast, Carly Ann shares some key lessons about healing her anxious attachment. Using both a combination of personal experience and professional experience (evidence backed research).

If you have an anxious attachment style and you're on a journey to becoming more secure, this episode is for you. If you are seeking to become more secure in your relationships, tune in to hear practical tips, real experiences, and essential advice to help you move towards a more secure attachment style.

Don't forget to write these down and hold them close, because these lessons are invaluable. Carly Ann's insights have made a profound impact on her life, and they can do the same for you.

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Do you have an anxious attachment style and feel determined to move towards secure? Well this epiosde deep dives into your healing.
We deep dive into so much goodness in this epiosde, it wasn't easy to choose a title.
This is an ideal episode if you have questions about the healing process and how to use the tools, this episode is definitely going to help you!

In this guest episiode with Gervase Kolmos we discuss:

Connecting to yourself/becoming intuitive & making choices when you're an overthinker
Do we need to address the past and get to the root cause?
When do we know something is right for us and when it's not
When is it attachment & when is it intuition? & How to tell the difference
What does safety feel like in the body & How to Create this in a Safe Way.
What stands in the way of healing ('mistakes')
How to deal with challenging parts of yourself
& we wind up touching on The mother wound

Gervase on IG:Gervasekolmos

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Have you heard the saying "when you know you know". Well, do you?
Is it True That "When You Know You Know?" If You Have an ANXIOUS Attachment

Can you really trust your gut in love if you have an anxious attachment? Dive into our eye-opening video to find out!

Carly Ann reveals how anxious attachment affects your love life, why you struggle to know if you've met "the one" and why you keep second-guessing your feelings.

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Following on from last week's episode where we spoke about why you compare yourself, I am now sharing with you some steps to help you change this habit

Comparing yourself is a mind-set that absolutely steals your joy. If you have an anxious attachment style and compare yourself negatively to your partner, their ex, other relationships, or your friends - this is for you.

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Anxious Attachment often goes hand in hand with the comparison trap! You compare yourself to their friends, their ex, their family. You compare your relationship to other people's or the ones in the movie. You compare them to your ex... it's endless.

In this episode, Carly Ann talks about why you compare. And I know, you want to know what to do about it too, that's coming in the next episode :)

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In Conversation with a Break-Up Coach!

Going through a break up and having your heart broken is by far one of the hardest things we face. Whether you want your ex back or feel ready to get you life back, this podcast episode is for you. Carly Ann is joined by Holly Jaskolka.

In this episode, we discuss common break-up themes such as unhelpful thoughts, losing our dream future, healing mistakes, not getting closure, whether to block your ex, and coping if they move on quickly. We also share practical tips to help you navigate these challenges. Don't miss out on this comprehensive guide to break-up recovery!

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? If so, you might struggle with distance and time apart in relationships. People in this community often talk about struggling with no plans in the diary or not knowing where their attachment figure is. Carly Ann has struggled with this herself so this really is an episode of experience. Tune in as Carly Ann discusses six signs that could indicate separation anxiety, including excessive reliance on contact and worrying about your loved one.

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Have you been working hard on healing your anxious attachment and have recently had an episode where it feels like you are back at square one or rock bottom?

It can be one of the most challenging times because you know so much about attachment styles and you're patterns. In this episode, Carly Ann talks through why this happens and gives some gens & ideas on how to help you reset.

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Welcome to Lessons in Attachment. Do you have an anxious attachment & find yourself doubting your relationship, constantly questioning if this is the right person for you? In this episode, Carly Ann offers valuable tips for managing relationship doubts and worries.

Did you know that feeling uncertain about your relationship leads to

jealousy
hypervigilence
overthinking

In this epsiode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann addresses the age old quote "when you know you know".

Curiously Triggered: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered

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In this week's episode of Lessons in Attachment, we are joined by our guest Kat Taiberg. It's a different episode for you this week if you have an anxious attachment, we are really expanding our horizons when it comes to your healing and happiness.
Kat is talking to us about how your mentrual cycle can support your attachments, day to day life, and lifestyle. This concept blew my mind when I first heard it!

Kat is a Hypnotherapist & Mindset Coach on a mission to guide you to reconnect with your most empowered & liberated self. She believes in bringing the unconscious to the conscious to do the deeper healing work & allow you to build the life of your dreams & drop the cookie cutter approach of how you think you need to live your life.

Kat's Instagram

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Do you have an anxious attachment wiith codependent tendencies? Perhaps you get too attached too qucikly, rely on their validation, worry when you're not together, lose yourself in love, and become the "fixer" or "people pleaser".

In this episode Carly Ann shares 5 truths about detachment, which is essentially the art of being able to love without losing yourself and giving too much.

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? Curious about co-dependency? In this episode, Carly Ann not only talks about co-dependency and how it can develop, she lists 10 clear signs of co-dependency. Listen to this episode if you neglect your own needs, put your happiness in their hands, seek validation, and lose yourself in love. Ready to rediscover yourself?

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style and keep finding yourself in the anxious-avoidant trap? Painful isn't it? In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann talks about the different types of avoidant partner you might attract, or the dynamic you find yourself in.

E.g. do they always come back? Do they always have a wife? Let's get real in this episode and move you towards a secure relationship instead.

We discuss:

Outline of anxious-avoidant trap
What they all tend to have in common (that triggers your anxiety)
Your role in this dynamic
Different styles of avoidant partners/dynamics
The hardest avointant get over (IMO)

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This week we are joined by Jenelle Annette. Full of wisdom, she supports you to consider practical ways you can live a more secure lifestyle. The conversation ranges from looking at your friendships to your addiction to unavailable relationships.

Including:

How to deal when you are growing and others aren't
Where to start when you no longer want to live how you have been
Dealing with feelings of stuckness
Nervous system of anxious and avoidant attachment
Healing practices
How to get into your body when you're a chronic overthinker
Creating new pathways and a regulated nervous system
Can you work on having a conscious relationship when you're single
Tips for a conscious relationship

Honestly, we discussed ALL of that in one hour - don't miss it. Sooooo many gems for you today.

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One pattern that creates a lot of pain and upset is obsessional thinking. Usually for someone with an anxious attachment style it looks like obsessing over your ex, your crush, or the person you are with. There are things you can do to help and things that won't help.
In this episode, Carly Ann shares some insight to help you, its just ten minutes which hopefully is perfect for you today.

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style and get stuck in moods or states of low self esteem. This isn't for those of you that sometimes have a moment of insecurity, it's for those of you that get stuck in that state and feel like you wind up ruminating, self criticising, and worrying.

In tis epsiode Carly Ann talks through an example of overcoming Low Self-Worth and hopes this will give you plenty of gems to take forward and use in your own journey today.

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Guys the next theme inside The Attachment Recovery Gym is learning all about the Anxious-Avoidant Trap which I know SO many of you are curious about. Don't miss your chance to join us HERE. You can ask me questions, join LIVE calls, and have access to a one-off workshop.

We are also running a FREE Workshop on Sat 23rd March, get the details HERE

In this episode, Carly Ann shares psychological models that offer valuable lessons in core beliefs. This will certainly give you some insignt into how you think and help you to change how you view yourself and others. This epsiode is ideal if you know you are always seeing the negative, expecting the worst, and worrying!

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Insecure Attachment and Low Self-Esteem can go hand in hand! In celebration of our brand new Porgramme GLOW, this episode is dedicated to sharing 6 subtle signs that you need to pay more attention to self-esteem work. If you fall into these patterns, you don't have to stay there, there is a way out!

Sign up to the FREE Workshop HERE

GLOW THE WORKSHOP

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Do you have an anxious attachment and find yourself falling into toxic habits? In this episode Carly Ann discusses the unhelpful reactions that are seen in anxious attachers when they are triggered. Whether you are someone that sulks or excessively contacts the person you like - you'll want to listen to this one!

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Carly Ann is interviewing different guests to help you learn, heal, and move towards a secure attachment style. In this epsiode Carly Ann meets Jessica Maguire (repairing_the_nervous_system)

Listen is as we discuss:
- Understanding the Mind-Body Connection for Self-Healing
- Creating Long & Short Term Change
- Essential Tools for Soothing & Healing Your Nervous System
- The Window of Tolerance and How it Applies to Your Attachment Style
- How to Go from Overthinking to Your Body

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This is your last chance to join my 7 week course Becomong Secure: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course
In this episode Carly Ann shares a psychology model that looks at how people change, of course through the lens of changing your attachment style. If you have an insecure attachment and you are determined to move from insecure to secure, there are some gems inside this ep just for you!

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The Attachment Recovery Gym (Feb Theme: Abandonment Wounds): https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Whatever your attachment style, we all have certain blueprints/templates that shape how we experience life (and love!). In this epiosde, Carly Ann outlines four innee templates you need to be aware of and gives you specific self-reflective prompts for each template.

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One of the most frustrating patterns for anxious attachers can be the fact they feel more attracted to unavailable folk than the available ones. This goes against your desire for a long term relationship! In this episode, Carly Ann discusses why you are less attracted to the nice ones!

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The Attachment Recovery Gym (Feb Theme: Abandonment Wounds): https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
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Do you have an insecure attachment style? If so (especially anxious attachment) it's possible you struggle to attract or sustain relationships with secure, available people. It's one of the biggest complaints/struggles I witness. You want a long-term relationship, but you're usually attracted to the unavailable type. In this episode, Carly Ann shares 8 Tips to help you become more attracted to available relationships.

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The Attachment Recovery Gym (Feb Theme: Abandonment Wounds): https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
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Do you have activated abandonment wounds? In this week's episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann shares 3 posts to inspire change and healing.

Including affirmations for when you are triggered,

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Listen to this if you have an anxious attachment and are trying to or want to navigate a healthy, long term relationship. Both Carly Ann and today's guest, Dominy Roe have moved on from the toxic, unavailable guys, but does that mean we are fully healed? Listen in as we talk about navigating our relationships.

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Follow @dominyroe

We discuss:

Living without a secure network and how you can manage that
What’s it's like when you lose yourself
How do you come back to self
When you react and say things you did mean to
Anxious/avoidant conflict
Coping with worry and uncertainty
Rediscovering and finding yourself

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Keen to chat about the no contact rule? If you have an anxious or fearful attachment style and you are trying to go no contact with someone that you still like, it can feel impossible at times.
In this epsiode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann gives you 5 tips for going no contact.

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do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style?

Lessons is Attachment is for the listener with an insecure attachment, that wants to self-soothe, stop attracting unavailable dates, and build their self-worth!

In this episode I share 3 short but important messages:

1) A message if you are currently attracted to someone that is being hot & cold with you
2) Something people don't tell you about anxious attachment but you need to know
3) A note on wanting your ex back

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Do you have any anxious and/or avaoidant attachment style?

Ever find yourself caught in a mood, sulking with your partner, or unable to let go of something that's bothering you? In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann dives into the pattern of getting stuck in your own head and struggling to soothe yourself back into the present moment.

If you're the type to sulk for hours, take things a bit too personally, or worry that your partner might get fed up with your moods, this episode is a must-listen

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment? If yes, it likely means you have had certain experiences when it comes to relationships, love, and having your needs met.
As adults, we have to take the opportunity to learn the skills we need in order to live happy, content, and fulfilled lives. This also includes how to get into and sustain relationships. Life is tough and when you lack self-love and secure skills, it can be even harder. Carly Ann is sharing the audio from an online workshop she ran earlier in 2023.

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The Attachment Recovery Gym (Feb Theme: Abandonment Wounds): https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
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Do you have any anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Lessons in Love brings you Carly Ann's and other people's inspiring stories to support you on your own journey of healing and change. If you are doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming more secure, you are in the right place.

You are invited in to a VERY special episode of Lessons in Love.
If you are in the trap of repeating unhealthy patterns in your life & love life, attracting people who do not or cannot commit then this is the place for you! (in fact, the whole podcast is - hit subscribe!)

Just a few of the topics covered are:
- The problem with playing the 'nice' girl
- Unlearning unhealthy patterns so that you can experience healthy relationships
- What happens to emotional baggage when you get into a relationship
- Have the movies warped our view of love?

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

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In this special Xmas Eve epiosde Carly Ann shares a meditation for that is taken from our Healing & Abundance Challenge that took place inside The Attachment Recovery Gym in 2023. If you have an insecure attachment style; grounding, loveability, and mindfulness is SO powerful for our healing journey!

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Do you have an insecure attachment style? In this episode Carly Ann discusses four common styles of overthinking people fall into:

Obsessing/Limerence,
Daydreaming
Worry
Ruminating

Whether you fall into one or all four, you are bound to find this episode useful!

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If you are living as an adult with attachment trauma, there are certain signs and consequences you might be experiencing. Impacts on self-esteem, attachments, and mental health. In this episode, Carly Ann is determined to let you know about what is coming up inside The Attachment Recovery Gym. Join Carly Ann as she discussed 6 key ways we struggle with love & life when we are living with attachment trauma.

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The Attachment Recovery Gym (Feb Theme: Abandonment Wounds): https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
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If you relate to having an insecure attachment, you will know already that there are certain consequences and impacts on our adult life. In this episode, Carly Ann is determined to let you know about what is coming up inside The Attachment Recovery Gym. Join Carly Ann as she discussed 6 key ways we struggle with love & life when we are living with attachment trauma.

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Links:

The Attachment Recovery Gym (Feb Theme: Abandonment Wounds): https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
Book a 1:1 Power Hour: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann
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Do you have an insecure attachment style? There is a specific pattern that keeps anxiety on a loop, once you retrain yourself in this area, you are much more likely to feel secure (and in control). In this episode Carly Ann discussed an unhelpful habit many of us fall into, it has the potential to increase our anxiety, fears, and upset.

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The Attachment Recovery Gym (Feb Theme: Abandonment Wounds): https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
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Do you compare your relationship? Your relationship status? Yourself? We all compare ourselves and for some it creates a lot of inner pain and upset. In this episode, Carly Ann discusses the different ways we fall into this negative thinking patterns. Which trap is sabotaging you the most?

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The Attachment Recovery Gym (Feb Theme: Abandonment Wounds): https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
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Do you have an anxious attachment? If so, you may have realised it is impacting your experience of dating. Dating anxiety is a real thing, and it is even more when you have an anxious attachment style. In this episode, Carly Ann discusses the impact of dating with anxious attachment, plus give you several tips on how to manage the anxiety so that you can have a better experience with dating.

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The Attachment Recovery Gym (Feb Theme: Abandonment Wounds): https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment and struggle with jealousy? Are you looking for tips?
If you can see jealousy is interrupting your happiness, I think you will take a gem or two from this episode.

I discuss:

Why we struggle with jealousy
Reasons we get Jealous
Jealousy and Individual Attachment Styles
Impact of Jealousy
Tips for Coping with Jealousy

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The Attachment Recovery Gym (Feb Theme: Abandonment Wounds): https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
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"What should I do if self-soothing techniques don't seem to work for me, or if I find them difficult to use in the moment?"This special "Self-Soothing Series" is perfect if you are ready and willing to make a commitment to your secure Self.

This series offers a structured self-soothing plan that is designed to help you heal old patterns and triggers.

INCLUDES:

A short course where we address YOUR self-soothing struggles and customise self-soothing plans to meet your needs.
LIVE Q&A
Private podcast that addresses why insecure attachers get stuck with self-soothing and HOW to break free
Self-Soothing meditation to start your day
Daily diary specifically to targeted at enhancing your self-soothing
Monthly Romance Reading to lead you into Dec
2 x Somatic Attachment Sessions for Self-Soothing

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? IIf so, it's possible you struggle to regulate and soothe your emotions when triggered. In this episode we deep dice into self-soothing, looking at our attachment styles and our emotional reactions. If you've ever struggled with self-soothing and find yourself becoming overly reactive when your attachment is triggered, this episode is a must-listen.

Covered in the episode:

Triggers for each attachment style
Reactions of each attachment style
4 Evidence Based Interventions for Self-Soothing
An unmissable invitation

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Are you wondering how to let go and move on without closure? In a world where endings often leave us seeking closure, this episode with Carly Ann invites you to consider moving forward without closure.

This episode includes:

Why We Need Closure
Should You Reach Out?
What No Response Means
Personal Reactions to Closure
How to Move On without Closure

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In this episode, Carly Ann discusses how people with avoidant attachment may respond to break-ups and heartbreak.

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Do you have an insecure attachment style? Do you ever make assumptions about your date, partner, or yourself? In this episode Carly Ann discusses the role of assumptions and their impact on people with insecure attachments. Join us as we explore the unexamined beliefs that often drive these assumptions, leading to emotional turmoil and strained relationships. Through a compassionate lens, we include the complexities of attachment insecurity and offer three tips to help you break free from making too many assumptions.

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? For the first time ever, Carly Ann is sharing a meditation on the podcast. If you have an insecure attachment styles, this is great for self-soothing, building trust, and healing (over time). If you would like more meditations, please review and let us know!

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If so, you might find you struggle to make change and see yourself repeating habits. In this episode, Carly Ann shares a psychological model that can explain how we move through change and learn new skills such as self-soothing and becoming more secure.

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If you have an insecure attachment style, it is possible you get stuck in certain states (e.g. panic, low mood). In this episode, Carly Ann discusses the 3 nervous system states. This is the start of a conversation and took place live on instagram.

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Heartbreak can impact you different when you have an insecure attachment style. In this episode Carly Ann is speaking directly to those of you that are experiencing heartbreak, especially if you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style.

We will discuss:

Attachment Styles & Heartbreak
Recovering after Heartbreak
Coming Home to Ourselves after Heartbreak
Moving from Insecure to Secure
Finding Your Lessons

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? In this episode we are looking into the power of Positive Psychology and how it can serve as a potent tool in your journey towards healing insecure attachment and becoming more resilient. We will touch on how the science of Positive Psychology, with its emphasis on strengths, well-being, and personal flourishing, can guide you on a path to healing and secure attachments.

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Do you ever wonder why certain patterns of behavior seem to repeat in your relationships or why you might feel anxious or avoidant in certain situations? In this episode, we're facing off attachment styles and discussing how they might be the hidden force holding you back from reaching your full potential.
If you have a feeling you are made for more - this one is for you!

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? In this episode Carly Ann is sharing an important tool to support healing and secure attachment. If you are always in a state of stress, worry, or shut down please listen to this one. This tool will also help you in your attraction to secure people too!

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment? Join Carly Ann as we navigate through the stages of healing, unraveling the intricate layers of growth and self-discovery. From the initial spark of self-awareness to the triumphant emergence of your secure attachment, we'll guide you through each phase.

But that's not all - We'll also shed light on the main challenges that often arise during this journey, whether it's confronting past traumas, battling self-doubt, or breaking free from limiting beliefs,

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Are you on a mission to change your life? In this case, your attachment habits? Many people talk about knowing information but struggling to create lasting change in their life. In this episode Carly Ann shares some valuable information from one of her inspirations.

HERE is the episode

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Do you haver an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style?

Join us as we explore the complexities of attachment styles and the journey to mastering the art of self-soothing. Whether you're an anxious, avoidant, or secure individual, we all encounter moments when self-soothing feels like an uphill battle. In this episode Carly Ann has a brief discussion and gives you some tips about coping when it feels like self-soothing isn't working.

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Do you worry that the next date is not planned? Does your anxious attachment trigger you into believing the plans are EVERYTHING. Perhaps modern dating tells you not to be too available. In this episode of Lessons in Attachment Carly Ann discusses something that might be more important than how quickly the plans are made and the date is in the diary. What do you think?
HERE is the article

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Are you determined to break old attachment habits and adopt new healthy habits?

This week Carly Ann shares a concept from one of her favourite books Atomic Habits (Author: James Clear). Hoping it will help you the same way it has helped her. This idea is one that is used across all of Carly Ann's containers to help people create long term change and break old habits.

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? If yes, it is likely that you "merge" with your feelings and thoughts when your anxious attachment becomes triggered. In this context, "unmerging" means to come home to yourself and not identify so much with the anxiety. During this episode, Carly Ann shares tips on how you can aim to unmerge when you become triggered.

Although we have aimed it as anxious attachment, you can use this information for a range of triggered states, including when you are feeling avoidant.

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you might find yourself feeling like you lose yourself.

In this episode, Carly Ann is joined by Alexandria Maria.

I'M ALEXANDRIA

Alexandria is a Business Amplifier, Manifestation Queen + International Speaker. Alexandria supports you as a high level leader + trailblazer to step into your limitless potential, maximising your wealth, freedom, happiness and success, by doing things your own way.

We discuss:

Your limitless potential
Why following a path that lights you up is so important
How to become unstuck
Finding self-love & oneness
Creating a bigger life outside of your relationship

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style that you are active working on to heal? It is possible you repeat patterns/habits and feel like you are back at square one. When it feels like you have taken steps back it can be so disheartening on your healing journey. In this episode, Carly Ann discusses how you can navigate the times when it feels like healing is not working. If you are currently worried about being stuck, list to this today.

Episode that I said I will link- It's episode 60, Listen HERE or wherever you get your podcasts

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? In this video, Carly Ann is giving five tips to support you with your anxious attachment. These tips have the potential to help you self-soothe and reduce the anxiety overall.

We cover tips for
- When you're anxiously waiting for a text
- When there is no plan to meet next
- Becoming more secure within yourself

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If so, it's likely you are on a journey to teach yourself how to regulate and soothe your emotions. In this week's episode, Carly Ann brings you a technique to support you to activate your soothing system. You can add this to your tool-box and share with us what you choose :)

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Do you have an anxious/and or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it is possible you have heard the term "going inwards". It is often a tip we are given yet it is a skill we lack. That's why in this week's episode Carly Ann begins to describe what it means to go inwards when you are on a healing journey.

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Are you wanting to find more joy in being single? Perhaps you feels sad and find yourself longing for "the one"? Or perhaps feeling left behind and in comparison? Whatever the deal... you KNOW you want to experience joy. This week's mind-stretch is bringing you a top tip from Catherine Gray in her book "The Unexpected Joy of Being Single"

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoid attachment style? If so it is possible you find yourself overthinking and ruminating (especially over a crush or ex). In today’s episode of Lessons in Attachment, I am talking you through that agonising experience of mentally obsessing over a crush, an ex, or a love interest!

I sharing WHY this obsession & loop happens
I am giving you 4 more top tips on how you can break this pattern
I am letting you know, you are not stuck like this & I PROMISE you can break this painful pattern in love

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When you are healing trauma and attachment trauma, there are certain guidelines to follow for self-help & coaching/therapy to make work. This week Carly Ann shares valuable information that will support your attachment healing journey. Without this, you are likely feeling big emotion and re-living the past, without changing your present & future. Listen to this if you are actively healing relationship wounds.

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Do you have an Insecure Attachment Style? Perhaps you struggle to self-soothe or trust in relationships. In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, I am joined by Keely Antontio.

You will hear us discuss:

What is Somatic Attachment Therapy & how can it help you heal?
Tips for when it feels like your tools are not helping
Tips for being in relationship with Insecure attachment
Tips if you are long-term single and want to meet someone

Guest bio: Keely is a highly acclaimed Somatic therapist, mental health advocate, and sought-after expert in inclusive strategies for LGBTQ+ employees. As the founder of the world's leading queer wellness company, Coming Out Happy, she has had the privilege of working globally with thousands of LGBTQ+ adults. Her transformative impact on this highly underserved demographic has earned her clients the recognition and respect they deserve.

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In this week's mind-stretch I'm bringing you updated information on the power of dating apps and how it could be the end of situationships. Carly Ann is reading from an article that shares the top dating trends of 2023 from top relationship experts.

Full article HERE

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you see your behave in ways that feel self-sabotaging. In this video, Carly Ann shares 3 ways you might be accidentally pushing someone away. Towards the end she offers some support to help you. If you want to move from insecure attachment towards secure attachment, you are in the right place.

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Welcome to your weekly Mind-Strecth! Carly Ann is bringing you new information to stretch your mind and support healthy relationships (with yourself included). This week Carly Ann is discussing an idea called "The Good Enough Relationship". Listen to this if you struggle with expectations and standards.

You can read the full article with John Gottman HERE

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Carly Ann teaches six core skills that can help you overcome insecure attachment and move towards a secure attachment. In this episode Carly Ann shares 5 ideas that will help you develop these skills. It just so happens these ideas can also help your well-being and happiness too.

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Perhaps you sometimes become annoyed or irritable by affection. Or maybe you even get the ick? In this video, Carly Ann explain what could be happening from an attachment lens

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you might question who you are and find yourself falling into patterns like people pleasing and self-abandonment. In this episode of Lessons in Attachment I am joined by Becky Rodrigues.

Becky is an Integrative Psychotherapist, Counsellor & Empowerment Coach for those who struggle with self-doubt, comparison, overthinking or anxiety and instead want to feel confident in who they are & have the courage to achieve what they truly want, in their relationships, work/business & life.

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Your Lessons in Attachment host Carly Ann shares 10 Lessons she has learned in the last 5-6 years of healing insecure attachment wounds. If you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style, this is an episode not to be missed. Carly Ann has been on her own journey to overcome anxious and avoidant attachment patterns & in this episode she is letting you know 10 of the core tips she believes can help on your own journey to becoming secure.

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you know the feeling of being left behind. Perhaps your friends are in relationships, you struggle meet someone, or you can't seem to sustain a relationship. Whatever your pattern, in this episode Carly Ann talks about why this might be and how important it is to heal attachment wounds.

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you know all about expecting the worst, worrying, and feeling like good things never last. In this episode, Carly Ann gives two tips to help you start enjoying the present moment.

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Are you actively healing your attachment wounds and looking for ideas on how to enhance your journey and experience more ease/possibility? Carly Ann believes (the right) community is one of the key ingredients needed to reach our goals and heal our past. In this episode Carly Ann shares why this is so important and ideas of how to find your community.

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Are you wondering if your partner should post you on social media? Is it a red flag if they won't share you to their followers? If you are worried about whether your partner should post you on their instagram, watch this video. You will also see Carly Ann mention it to her partner.

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You want to change your attachment style to feel more secure? This is the 6th skill in the series to help you overcome anxious and/or avoidant attachment. Do you have an anxious preoccupied or dismissive avoidant attachment styles? If yes, it's possible you play small, and now it's time to step into your power!

Join Becoming Secure before April 30th: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course

In this episode. Carly Ann is teaches the sixth of six skills that will help you move from insecure attachment to secure. Carly Ann shares the sixth skill needed to help you develop a secure attachment so that you can have enhance the quality of your relationships with Self & Others.

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Join Becoming Secure before April 30th: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course

In this episode. Carly Ann is teaches the fifth of six skills that will help you move from insecure attachment to secure. Carly Ann shares the fifth skill needed to help you develop a secure attachment so that you can have enhance the quality of your relationships with Self & Others.

Follow & DM Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_/

Join Becoming Secure before April 30th: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course

In this episode. Carly Ann is teaches the fourth of six skills that will help you move from insecure attachment to secure. Carly Ann shares the fourth skill needed to help you develop a secure attachment so that you can have enhance the quality of your relationships with Self & Others.

Follow & DM Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_/

In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann is joined by Chris Rackcliffe. Listen in as they discuss:

What anxious attachment is, what can cause it, and how it viscerally feels when this attachment style is activated and the nervous system is dysregulated
The concept of ‘freedom’ and the role this plays in relationships and love
The polarities of interdependence and independence, and how anxiously attached people have to work on bringing the focus back to themselves, to cultivate the latter
The power of validating yourself and your feelings, and the importance of asking directly for what you need
How even when dating and in the early stages of a relationship, it’s important to call out any blocks to intimacy or things that may prevent a healthy relationship
Tools and methods you can use to start healing your attachment system, including somatic practices, improving your nutrition, meditation and more.

Links:

BECOMING SECURE: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course
FREE ANXIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_
Work with Carly Ann 1:1: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann

Lessons in Attachment is the Podcast that helps you break through relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences and inspiring lessons to show you that you can change and break free from anxious and/or avoidant patterns of Love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Chris Rackliffe is an anxious attachment style coach, mental health advocate and author. His experiences of his parents divorcing, sexual abuse and family addition issues led to his own issues surrounding attachment which set him on a path of self-healing. Now, through his books, talks, and TikTok community of nearly 100,000 people he spreads messages of acceptance, healing and growth, with his sole purpose being to bring people peace, perspective and power through their struggles. His work has been published on Medium, Thrive Global, TIME and beyond.

You can purchase his book “It’s Good to See Me Again: How to Find Your Way When You Feel Lost” at all good bookstores, or at the below Amazon link:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Its-Good-See-Me-Again/dp/B08DC69BTN

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Do you have an anxious preoccupied or dismissive avoidant attachment styles? If yes, it's possible you think negatively about yourself, relationships, and others.

Join Becoming Secure before April 30th: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course

In this episode. Carly Ann is teaches the third of six skills that will help you move from insecure attachment to secure. Carly Ann shares the third skill needed to help you develop a secure attachment so that you can have enhance the quality of your relationships with Self & Others.

Insecure Vs Secure Thinking Patterns
Why We need to change out thinking habits
How to Change Your Thoughts

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Do you have an anxious preoccupied or dismissive avoidant attachment styles? If yes, it's possible you struggle to manage your emotions and struggle with anxiety, depression, jealousy, and even anger.

In this episode. Carly Ann is teaches the second of six skills that will help you move from insecure attachment to secure. Carly Ann shares the second skill needed to help you develop a secure attachment so that you can have enhance the quality of your relationships with Self & Others.

What is Emotion Regulation
Why is Emotion Regulation important
Idead for Regulation Emotions

Join Becoming Secure before April 30th: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course

Follow & DM Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_/

Do you have an anxious preoccupied or dismissive avoidant attachment styles? Carly Ann is teaches six skills to help people like you move from insecure attachment to secure. Inside this video, Carly Ann shares the first skill needed to help you develop a secure attachment so that you can have enhance the quality of your relationships with Self & Others.

Join Becoming Secure before April 30th: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course

Follow & DM Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_/

So your healing attachment wounds? Are you on a journey of doing the inner work to heal the past and become more secure? In this video, Carly Ann shares a pattern that could be holding you back. Make sure you are not doing this whilst you are healing attachment wounds because it will likely slow you down.

Get all the details for my brand new course Becoming Secure HERE

Don't forget to follow me on Instagram too: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_/

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? In this special episode Carly Ann shares a recent training delivered on how these 6 skills can help you heal attachment wounds and go from insecure to secure in life and love. This can help with dating, relationships, obsessing & overthinking.

Get all the details for my brand new course Becoming Secure HERE

Don't forget to follow me on Instagram too: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_/

In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann is joined by special guest, Persia Lawson. Listen in as they discuss:

The importance of being your authentic self when dating and not abandoning yourself in the pursuit of love
How we are drawn to what is familiar and therefore how for some people, being adored and loved can sometimes feel scary and vulnerable, resulting in “the ick” or feeling like the relationship is lacking in chemistry, leading to sabotaging behaviours
How to decipher between this and the relationship genuinely not being a good fit, and the importance of listening to your gut
Tips for when you’re getting back into dating after a healing phase
How dating apps are just one way to meet people, and the importance of sometimes putting your phone down, being present and turning your energy towards being open and connecting with people in real life

…. And many more insights!

Links:

The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE ANXIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_
Work with Carly Ann 1:1: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you break through relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences and inspiring lessons to show you that you can change and break free from anxious and/or avoidant patterns of Love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Persia Lawson is a dating and relationship coach, 3 x author and speaker, and has been named one of the UK’s most successful love coaches by ‘The Times.’ She hosts a top 5 podcast and her work is regularly featured in Vogue, Cosmopolitan and the BBC. She specialises in getting female leaders true Power Couple relationships that positively impact not only the couple themselves but their loved ones and communities. Her aim is for people to get healthy, exciting, meaningful relationships that are a force for good, not drama.

You can purchase her latest book ‘Love is Coming: How to Find Real Love in a Superficial World” at all good bookstores, or at the below Amazon link:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Love-Coming-Find-Superficial-World/dp/1913284255

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you know all about jumping to conclusions and making assumptions about your date, lover, partner. In this video, Carly Ann gives three tips to help you stop jumping to conclusions

Links:

Discover Your Secure Self Free Workshop: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/6-skills-to-becoming-secure
The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_
Work with Carly Ann 1:1: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann

Music by Atch

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Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Are you working on healing and becoming more secure? To develop a secure attachment there are certain skills you need to practice. I believe in daily habits. In this episode, Carly Ann shares three habits you need to introduce to your life so that you can become secure. Introducing these habits naturally help you manage insecure attachment.

Links:

Discover Your Secure Self Free Workshop: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/6-skills-to-becoming-secure
The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_
Work with Carly Ann 1:1: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann

Music by Atch

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Do you have an anxious attachment style? If yes, it's possible you know all negative and unhelpful thinking patterns. You might find you spiral and worry a lot, but did you know there is a patten to your thoughts? In this video, Carly Ann explain three common thinking patterns experienced by people with an anxious preoccupied attachment style.

Links:

Discover Your Secure Self Free Workshop: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/6-skills-to-becoming-secure
The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_
Work with Carly Ann 1:1: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann

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In this episode of Lessons in Love, Carly Ann is joined by special guest Rick William. Listen in as we discuss:

How to come back to love and connection whether you are anxious or avoidant
The experience of feeling secure when you’re single but anxious/insecure when in relationship with someone else
An introduction to different states & how to heal your nervous system for better connection
Whether rapid change is possible (and what helps)
How to use your triggers to support your healing

Links:

The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_
Work with Carly Ann 1:1: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you breakthrough relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences & inspiring lessons to show you that you can change a break free from anxious &/or avoidant patterns in love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Rick William is an EQ mastery coach, entrepreneur and business strategist. Rick supports high performing business owners, artists, investors, coaches and personal brands. After exiting his start up at age 25 that served over 200,000 members, Rick travelled the globe meeting and supporting some of the world’s most influential thought leaders and spiritual teachers who were featured on his hit Youtube Series “Stories That Matter™”. Today Rick has spent over a decade exploring his personal development and spiritual growth and has run online businesses around his passions for nearly two decades (he created his first business when he was 14 years old teaching other teens to play video games at a professional level). Rick always had a passion for transformation. He kept learning and pivoting, and finally realised that his deep love and passion was in service of helping others grow and transform their personal and professional lives. Today Rick helps support many conscious high performers master their internal state so that they can create real freedom in life, relationships and business. Rick is a certified coach and somatic therapist. He uses a multi-modality approach combining the latest in human behavioural psychology, spiritual wisdom and innovative life and business strategies to help his clients get life changing results. He now lives in Costa Rica with his dog Mayu and shares his work worldwide.

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Are you trying to date again but keep comparing everyone to that ONE person from the past? I see this happen especially if you have an insecure attachment style (anxious and/or avoidant attachment). It can really frustrating because you want to move on but each new date feels like a waste of time when you keep comparing to the other person.
In this episode, Carly Ann (somatic attachment coach) gives you four tips to help you stop comparing to your ex/crush on new dates.

Links:

The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_
Work with Carly Ann 1:1: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you breakthrough relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences & inspiring lessons to show you that you can change a break free from anxious &/or avoidant patterns in love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).

Music by Atch

SoundCloud: bit.ly/AtchSoundCloud

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Do you have an insecure anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If so it is possible you are dedicated to healing the past and becoming more secure. In this episode, Carly Ann (Somatic Attachment Coach) is sharing a habit that could be holding you back on your healing journey. Plus, in this video you will receive some ideas about where you can learn more to help you break free.

Links:

The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_
Work with Carly Ann 1:1: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you breakthrough relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences & inspiring lessons to show you that you can change a break free from anxious &/or avoidant patterns in love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).

Music by Atch

SoundCloud: bit.ly/AtchSoundCloud

Spotify: bit.ly/AtchSpotify

Do you have an anxious preoccupied or fearful avoidant attachment style? If so, it's likely you know what it feels like to obsess over the past, wish you could change how things went, change someone's mind, or fix things.

If you can't let go of an ex or the idea of a crush, this episode is for you.

Replaying, overthinking, and ruminating on the past can be difficult. In this episode of Lessons in Love, Carly Ann gives you 6 steps to help you move on and stop holding on to what could have been.

Links:

The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_
Work with Carly Ann 1:1: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you breakthrough relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences & inspiring lessons to show you that you can change a break free from anxious &/or avoidant patterns in love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).

Music by Atch

SoundCloud: bit.ly/AtchSoundCloud

Spotify: bit.ly/AtchSpotify

Do you have any anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Lessons in Love brings you Carly Ann's and other people's inspiring stories to support you on your own journey of healing and change. If you are doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming more secure, you are in the right place.

Join the Membership: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Work with Carly Ann: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann

Are you wondering about Attachment Styles? Perhaps you are aware of anxious and/or avoidant attachment tendencies and need more clarity around your own patterns.

In this episode, Carly Ann (Somatic Attachment Coach) Carly Ann shares 3 reason you are struggling to heal attachment wounds. Please note, at Lessons in Love HQ we absolutely believe you CAN heal your attachment wounds.

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you breakthrough relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences & inspiring lessons to show you that you can change a break free from anxious &/or avoidant patterns in love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

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Are you wondering about Attachment Styles? Perhaps you are aware of anxious and/or avoidant attachment tendencies and need more clarity around your own patterns.

In this episode, Carly Ann (Somatic Attachment Coach) is joined by Jessica Da Silva where we discuss:

Description of each attachment styles
What helped our guest say HELL NO to an unhealthy relationship
How to change and move towards secure attachment
Actionable steps you can take to change attachment patterns
How to trust in your healing and change
Reprogramming your inner experience

Links:

The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you breakthrough relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences & inspiring lessons to show you that you can change a break free from anxious &/or avoidant patterns in love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).

Music by Atch

SoundCloud: bit.ly/AtchSoundCloud

Spotify: bit.ly/AtchSpotify

Are you wondering about abandonment wounds? Perhaps you are aware of anxious and/or avoidant attachment tendencies and need more clarity around your own fear of abandonment, rejection, and being left. In this episode, Carly Ann (Somatic Attachment Coach) shares 8 signs you may have abandonment wounds, plus there is a special commitment to help you begin a process of breaking free from your abandonment wounds.

Links:

The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you breakthrough relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences & inspiring lessons to show you that you can change a break free from anxious &/or avoidant patterns in love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).

Music by Atch

SoundCloud: bit.ly/AtchSoundCloud

Spotify: bit.ly/AtchSpotify

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style?

If yes, it is possible you know what it feels like to lose yourself in love.

You likely want to stop losing yourself in love. Right?

Losing yourself and giving up your own needs is common for anxious & disorganised attachment styles especially.

In this episode, Carly Ann address key signs of losing yourself in love and gives a top tip on how you can rediscover and stay connected to yourself. This is a key skill for developing a secure attachment style.

Links:

The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you breakthrough relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences & inspiring lessons to show you that you can change a break free from anxious &/or avoidant patterns in love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).

Music by Atch

SoundCloud: bit.ly/AtchSoundCloud

Spotify: bit.ly/AtchSpotify

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style?

If yes, you need this today. I am bringing you a gift in this episode... Although I say it is for Christmas Day, this can in fact be used any time you need to shift states or boost your energy.

More: Carly Ann delivers a meditation combined with somatic practice, compassion, & intuitive movement. Get comfortable and allow yourself to reconnect and feel alive. You can use this for a bad day, to shift energy, or to create more energy, or because you want to feel even better.

Links:

The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you breakthrough relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences & inspiring lessons to show you that you can change a break free from anxious &/or avoidant patterns in love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).

Music by Atch

SoundCloud: bit.ly/AtchSoundCloud

Spotify: bit.ly/AtchSpotify

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Do you ever lose yourself in love? When you are so focused on relationships or other people's needs, it often means you neglect your own Self - your dreams, your purpose, your passion. This episode fully supports the idea that being yourself will have a positive influence on your relationship and who you attract into your life (not sure you agree? Have a listen)

I am joined by Fiona Moss and in this episode and we discuss:

How Cultivating your own happiness can support you to feel more secure
Why it is time to live your life according to your purpose and your passion
Tips on dealing with triggers
Fiona shares how her own life significant life events impact her to live with purpose
That it is time to expand your vision beyond your relationships

Links:

The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_
Follow Fiona on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/fionamoss_/

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you breakthrough relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences & inspiring lessons to show you that you can change a break free from anxious &/or avoidant patterns in love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).

Music by Atch

SoundCloud: bit.ly/AtchSoundCloud

Spotify: bit.ly/AtchSpotify

Instagram: www.instagram.com/atchmusic

In this episode, Carly Ann shares four common triggers for avoidant attachment. These are 4 honest ways we might trigger someone with a primarily dismissive avoidant attachment style.

The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you breakthrough relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences & inspiring lessons to show you that you can change a break free from anxious &/or avoidant patterns in love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).

Music by Atch

SoundCloud: bit.ly/AtchSoundCloud

Spotify: bit.ly/AtchSpotify

Instagram: www.instagram.com/atchmusic

Do you ever feel so overwhelmed and highjacked by your feelings? Despite this you are still over giving, burning out, and just trying to keep up.

In this episode I am joined by Wendy, known as The Completion Coach. We discuss:

Signs you are avoiding feelings & emotions (e.g. burn-out & overworking)
Coping mechanisms we use to cope with intense emotions
Regulating & Managing Emotions tips
Specific questions you can use when you are facing challenging times and intense emotions
Communication and undoing years of patterns
The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_

Lessons in Love is the Podcast that helps you breakthrough relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences & inspiring lessons to show you that you can change a break free from anxious &/or avoidant patterns in love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? You can work with my on a 1:1 basis (on zoom) or you can join the Attachment Recovery Gym (an online membership for people doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming secure).

Music by Atch

SoundCloud: bit.ly/AtchSoundCloud

Spotify: bit.ly/AtchSpotify

Instagram: www.instagram.com/atchmusic

Do you have an anxious attachment? If so it's possible when you are triggered, it is hard to remember everything you have been learning. It is a common theme that all your self-soothing tools & knowledge flee your mind. In this episode, Carly Ann offers three KEY reminders that you need to write down for next time you are activated & losing yourself.

The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym
FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
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Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

In conversation with TWO attachment experts. If you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style, this episode is definitely what you are looking for. In this episode of Lessons in Love, we dive deep into Attachment and I ask some of the most asked questions on this topic.

We discuss:

Is it Ok to lead or should we lean back
How to let things unfold naturally in dating when you struggle with control
What does it mean to "go Inwards" when healing anxious and avoidant attachment?
How to manage uncomfortable feelings you will experience on this journey
How long does it take to heal and become secure?
Should you tell your partner that you have a coach/therapist to support your attachment?

If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

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More about today's Guest:
Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW, is an attachment specialist. In her therapy and coaching practices, she supports her clients in developing secure ways of relating and improving their relationships by breaking old patterns and establishing healthy connections with integrity. Elizabeth believes in the healing power of connection, community, long walks, and warm cups of tea. She lives in Asheville, North Carolina with her family. You can connect with Elizabeth on Instagram @elizabeth.gillette. You can also visit her website ElizabethGillette.com for more information about attachment healing and healthy relationships.

Ever wondered what it's like to date someone anxious when the other person is avoidant? Or what it's like to date an avoidant when the other is secure? What about avoidant and avoidant?

Secure & Secure Relationship
Anxious & Anxious Relationship
Avoidant & Avoidant Relationship
Secure & Anxious Relationship
Secure & Avoidant Relationship

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

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Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Join us in this episode as we discuss:

Managing social pressures & comparison in your love life
When life/relationships is not how you thought it would be or wish it was
Grieving the life you wanted
Breaking up in your 30s and how to embrace the new path that has been laid out for you
Emma shares her personal egg freezing process
And of course.. Lessons in Love

Emma is the first and only life coach dedicated to helping those who are turning 30 to feel better at this transitional time. After experiencing her own personal turning 30 struggles five years ago, Emma began her mission to help others struggling with the 'thirty pressures', helping her clients to feel more confident and get unstuck in all areas of life from careers, dating, friendships, finances, lifestyle and more.

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Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

So you keep dating & attracting parters that are emotionally unavailable to you? It can be painful, especially when you have been doing "the work". Understanding WHY you are in this place is a first step in breaking this cycle.

Watch video mentioned: Signs You Are Not available for an Available Relationship: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vFNRYesmQ3o&t=54s

You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire). You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership
Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE
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Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Having worked as a Learning & Development Manager, Amira has over 12 years experience in the corporate world working with employees, managers and leaders to achieve the best version of themselves.

Amira’s also coached young people from a variety of backgrounds that have had some of the hardest introductions to life. She’s provided them with practical tools to set them up for university, motherhood and life’s challenges who have gone on to achieve great things.

She now runs her own business working with businesses and clients on a 121 basis to help them communicate with themselves and others to get the best out of their relationships. This in turn enables them to get the promotion they want, the career they dream of, be the business leader they want, the partner they’ve visualised and enhance their relationship with family and friends.

In this episode we discuss:

The fears that are behind our struggles to communicate such as "being too much" or losing this person + how to overcome this and discover your authentic voice.

The impact of our negative internal dialogue on how we talk and communicate

How an insecure attachment style can influence your thoughts, words, and choices when engaging with others

The power of reflection and repair when communication doesn't go to plan

Why it is important to be open about who your partner is/might be

You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire). You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership
Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE
Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_
Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.
Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

This week's video is taken from my youtube channel which you can check out HERE

If you find your anxious attachment or intense emotion difficult to self soothe/regulate when you are triggered, this video is for you.
One of the most common questions I am asked is how to calm yourself down and stop yourself reacting in the moment.

In this podcast you will learn:

02:45: What is Self-Soothing
07:20: Why people struggle to self-soothe
09:30: 4 tips for self-soothing

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Watch the full video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iockbXnsJ00&t=1s

Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE
Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_
Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.
Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Natalie is a confidence embodiment coach, leading women into the new paradigm of confidence through feminine energy embodiment, emotional elegance and communication mastery. Through her own unique style of coaching, which incorporates NLP and somatic healing such as breathwork and movement, Natalie is able to guide women into a deep sense of self trust and surrender, allowing them to reach their desires with ease and grace. Natalie is also the host of The Embodied Confidence Podcast, which is available across all major podcasting platforms.

In this episode we discuss:

Navigating anxiety in a relationship

Tips for communicating when activated

How to handle space & time apart

General shared experience

You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire). You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership
Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE
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Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.
Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Silvana Isaza is a feminine empowerment coach and plant medicine facilitator and she helps women reconnect with their innate wisdom, power, voice, and pleasure through shadow work, belief reprogramming, and embodiment practices so that they can experience a deep connection with life, attract their desires, and feel fully confident in their being & expression.

In this episode of Lessons in Love we talk about:

Why we prioritse romantic love over self-love

Healing your heart after heartbreak + our views on "healing"

The fear of dating and putting yourself out there (especially when you are happy & single)

Managing the moments when you are triggered and losing yourself in the moment or an argument

What we mean when we say "Trauma Bond"

The role of the Universe and believing in something bigger

You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire). You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership
Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE
Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_
Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.
Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Are you currently stuck in an anxious-avoidant dance?

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

Whether you have the anxious attachment syyle or avoidant attachment style, in this episode, Carly Ann is giving you all the details on:

What is The Anxious-Avoidant Dance/Trap
Insight into my own experience
What The anxious person gains from this dynamic
What the avoidant person gains from this dynamic
What to do next

You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire). You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership
Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE
Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_
Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.
Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

In this episode we discuss:

How to re-build a relationship with your body & sense of self

Self-Love; how to love yourself so deeply and create a life you love

The importance of building a life you love

Top tips if you do not know your passion and/or purpose right now

How to clear blocks, shame, & fears so you can return home to yourself

Practical tools you can use today to stop resisting difficult emotions & start living fully

How to choose vulnerability in life & love

You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire). You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership
Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE
Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_
Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.
Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

In this episode we are joined by Justin Sunseri

Justin is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California. He specializes in treating trauma in his day job of working with high schoolers, but also in his night time private practice working with adults. Justin is the host of the podcast, Stuck Not Broken, and an expert in the Polyvagal Theory.

In this episode we discuss

Polyvagal theory, what it is, & what how it benefits us to understand this framework

Understanding the biology behind our behaviours and our human experience of feeling stuck in certain states

Justin normalises our experiences of feeling "too much", insecure, and "needy".

We discuss our ability to get stuck in defensive ways of living and how this can impact our ability to choose a safe relationship

We discuss the idea of finding a secure relationship "boring" or "too nice".

Why we can shut down, numb, and detach + what it takes to move back to a state of connection

How to manage difficult feelings in your body such as rejection, loneliness, and sadness

You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire). You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership
Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE
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Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.
Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

In this brand new season, Carly Ann is picking up where we left off - Attachment Styles. Today we are discussing what it takes to HEAL your relational attachment wounds so that you can experience healthy, meaningful relationships in your lifetime (as you well deserve!).

You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire). You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership
Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE
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Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscriptionAudio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for anyone looking to heal attachment wounds and break painful relationship patterns.

In this episode I am introducing you to the framework that I credit for helping me finally take responsibility for my own patterns and provided me with the direction I need to go so that I could change my dating & relationship styles.

In this episode I discuss:

What is attachment Theory
Insecure & Secure Attachment Styles
How Attachment styles are developed
Why & how Attachment Theory can help you too

Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE
Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ If you relate to this episode, I have created my membership (Follow Your Fire) with you in mind. You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership
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Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscriptionAudio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for anyone looking to heal attachment wounds and break painful relationship patterns.

In this episode I am joined by Kat Horrocks. Kat is a passionate leader in Mindset, Goal Setting & Personal/Business Development.

Listen in to this incredible conversation where we talk about:

Importance of taking "space" in relationships (& the challenges involved for anxious attachment)
Comparing yourself to people in relationships & the power of manifesting to invite in what your desire
How to be more vulnerable
The role of play and "silliness" when it comes to happier relationships
Importance of putting yourself first

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Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscriptionAudio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for anyone looking to heal attachment wounds and break painful relationship patterns.

In this episode I am joined by my good friend Aimee Stewart! Aimee is a soul led life coach and this episode truly does feed the soul.

Join us as we discuss:

Is it possible to truly love all parts of ourselves?
How to FEEL and believe your new loving thoughts
How to develop self-trust and show up for yourself first
How to respond gracefully to triggering people and scenarios
Taking big leaps and believing in yourself

Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ If you relate to this episode, I have created my membership (Follow Your Fire) with you in mind. You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership
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Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscriptionAudio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for anyone looking to heal attachment wounds and break painful relationship patterns.

During this unique episode of Lessons in Love, I am joined by Amira, aka The Communication Expert. This discussion is taken from our monthly membership (details HERE) where we are joined by different experts to support you to have better relationships:

Mind-set & fears around communicating with dates/partners/love interests.
How your communication may change when talking to someone with secure/insecure attachment
The importance of timing with communication & (ever left it too late to say what you feel?) the language you use.
Impact of communicating under the influence
Practicing assertive communication

If you relate to this episode, I have created my membership (Follow Your Fire) with you in mind. You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership

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Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.
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Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for anyone looking to heal attachment wounds and break painful relationship patterns.

In this episode I am joined by Natalie Russell, a fellow Self-esteem & Relationship Coach.

We talk about our journeys to finding freedom from inner chaos and healing from past pain.
Included in this conversation is:
- The reality of an insecure attachment style
- How early trauma experiences inform our vision of love
- Healing from this distorted view of love and knowing what healthy love looks like
- Rewriting the relationship you have with yourself

If you relate to this episode, I have created my membership (Follow Your Fire) with you in mind. You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources. Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

In this episode of Lessons in Love I wanted to talk about my experience with anxiety and low mood.

Low self-esteem, insecurity, and abandonment issues get so entwined with mood it is hard to know what is real and what is not.

My lessons have taught me how to look after intense feelings of anxiety and spells of low mood - usually closely linked to relationships & dating experiences.

But here this truth - very few people have known this truth... why? Because I've got my sh*t together and have known how to hide the truth my whole life... anyone else get that?

This is my experience, and I am sharing this in case it helps one of.

If you relate to this episode, I have created my membership (Follow Your Fire) with you in mind. You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership

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Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources. Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

For this episode you are warmly invited to join two single dating coaches as we come together and discuss all things modern dating! This week I am joined by Ali, AKA Findingmrheight

Join us for this fascinating chat as we deep dive into:

Our thoughts, tips, and experiences of meeting someone online vs real life (we all have our own preferences)
What to do when you want to give up on love and it all becomes too much - this is how to take care of your happiness on this journey
Is it too needy to show you care? When is it OK to have those important conversations
Of course, we have to talk to you about ghosting and blocking (I got blocked once!!)
And in sticking to the theme of this podcast - we talk about anxiety in those early stages of dating

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Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

In this episode of Lessons in Love I am joined by my good friend and fellow coach Caitlin aka The Compatibility Coach. This is a juicy episode you don't want to miss if you are looking for love!

Listen in as we chat about:

How to change the negative narrative around your love life
Avoidant Attachment and signs you are unavailable for love
How to let your guard down and open your heart to the love you say you want
Whether it is possible to change your attachment style - and out own personal experiences
How to surrender to being single and let go of the air of desperation
The difference between boundaries and barriers

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Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources. Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

In this solo episode of Lessons in Love I am give you 6 tips you can use to give love your best shot.

(It can feel tough to find and/or sustain love - and so I wanted to give you an inside scoop on how you can feel secure in the knowledge you are doing your part - because what more can you do?)

Note - this is about finding a secure, healthy, extraordinary love - not just any relationship!

Enjoy and let me know which tips speak to you most.

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Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

In this episode I am talking to the brilliant Rosie Reese. This is a juicy one! This week we discuss:
⁃ Our thoughts on Love at first sight - does it exist?
⁃ The trap of looking for love in sex
⁃ Feeling safe enough to communice - these are great tips for recognising a secure & healthy relationship
⁃ Following that niggle & whisper towards what and who is meant for you
⁃ The powerlessness of losing yourself in love
⁃ How to trust again
⁃ & Recovering from an anxious episode when you have been triggered
⁃ Tips for self love

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.
Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

Welcome to a brand new series where we are kicking off with a BRILLIANT GUEST - Phoebe Greenacre.

In this episode Phoebe and I are sharing lessons and guidance on

Choosing the right relationship for you and finding inner strength to walk away from people who do not serve you
Our thoughts about whether love can come back around
Letting go of "forever" as a way to enjoy your life and relationships today (to reduce the anxiety!)
Phoebe's helpful take on "the timeline" and biological clock
What to do when life & heartbreak hits you hard - and emotion takes over

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.ukHead to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.
Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

In this episode I am talking to you about loneliness. This is for the person who mostly experiences meaning & fulfilment, and other times gets knocked down by feelings of loneliness and is unsure why it happens or how to move through it.

I am sharing with you some factors that influence this loneliness and some ideas on how to manage those waves.

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Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

In this penultimate episode of series two, I am joined by Jon Toms

In this episode you will hear our thoughts on:

Accepting praise & compliments and why this is SO important for you and your emotional health
How to strong in the face of the pressure that comes from "the timeline" - to be married & to have kids
We talk about our views on "settling" in relationships
Dealing with the “shoulds” and “shame” that we deal with most days
And not to mention - how to choose love again after pain and broken trust

Watch the Free Masterclass today - How To Choose A Relationship That Meets Your Needs

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Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

A podcast for anyone who has ever lost themselves in love and are searching for a sense of SELF

In this special episode we talk about:
- Listening to your "soul whispers" and "niggles" that are calling you for something different
- Choosing to Level up & following fire despite the fear that has held you back so far
- A personal journey moving from girl to woman
- No longer being defined by your past and finding full self-acceptance

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Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

Welcome to a brand new episode of Lessons in Love. If you are on a path of SELF discovery, I just know you will adore this episode.

In this conversation, I am talking to Elisa Kurylowicz.

We hear Elisa's take on:
- A very real account of the journey to SELf discovery
- A history of self-blame and how to break free from that mind-set
- Experiencing deception in relationships
- How to make the move into becoming independent (in the purest way) & self-loving.
- What it takes to discover who you are and begin to live life on your details
- The rollercoasters of dating and feeling ready for love

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Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

In this episode, I am joined by Amy Rushworth and we discuss:

Feeling unlucky in love & not enough
How to stop thinking you are the problem
The journey to attracting secure, healthy, and safe relationships
What we mean by "safe" (this is for you if safe sounds boring)
Training your attachment system to manage anxiety in dating & relationships
Choosing Yourself
Building wholeness through self-worth & inner child work

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

A must listen if you experience anxiety, insecurity, and attachment struggles in your dating and love life.
In this very unique episode I am answering the very questions I ask all my guests:

Tell us about your love story
What does love mean to you?
Love can be the most painful and the most amazing , how do you navigate life when love throws you off?
You get to go back to any age and teach yourself a lesson in love, what would it be? (not allowed to say no regrets).

In this episode I outline what love is NOT, they key practices that will help you come home to yourself when you are lost in love & someone else has all your attention, as well as outline the lesson we all have to remember as we try and navigate this crazy things called love

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Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

In this episode of Lessons in Love I am talking To Kelly Jenner. This is a must listen if you have ever lost yourself in love & relationships to the point of deep depression and physical pain.

Listen is as we discuss:
- Key elements to healing and what you can expect
- Patterns that manifest when you ignore your own needs & feelings
- The impact of believing relationships are everything you need to be worthy
- People pleasing & losing yourself in love to the point of deep depression
- Finding joy in healing, self-love, and being single.

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Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

In this episode of Lessons in Love I am talking To Amber Grubenmann about all things dating! This is ideal if you are getting bout out there on the dating scene or in a relationship that is overtaken by anxiety!

Listen is as we discuss:
- Finding JOY in dating
- How to date and find attraction without games and from a place of authenticity
- How & Why it is is important to allow time for space in your relationship (I know many of us struggle with that and take it very personally)
- How to heal heartbreak when it hurts so much you don't want to get out of bed

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

In this episode we discuss:

Taking responsibility for patterns in love and letting go of your ego
We dive deeply into attachment styles
Looking at the behaviours & narratives that we experience in different relationships
Why we experience infatuation at the beginning of a relationship
How to move on when still feel attached or in love with an ex or love interest

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

For the first episode of series 2 I am joined by Lucy Spicer!

In this episode we talk about
- Outstaying relationships & the strength it takes to
- Waiting & making space for love
- "Disney Princess Syndrome"
- Fear of rejection & abandonment

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Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

In today’s episode of Lessons in Love, I am talking you through that agonising experience of mentally obsessing over a crush, an ex, or a love interest!

I sharing WHY this obsession & loop happens
I am giving you 4 (kinda 5) top tips on how you can break this pattern
I am letting you know, you are not stuck like this & I PROMISE you can break this painful pattern in love

Carly Ann is a Self-Esteem & Relationship Coach, Podcaster, and Recovering Anxious Dater who is passionate about helping other women reclaim their worth in life & love.

Determined to put an end to you feeling ‘too much’, ‘crazy’, or ‘needy’ by giving you the inside scoop on why love makes you feel that way and how you can break free from people & patterns that enhance your insecurities.

Whether it is through her Podcast (Lessons in Love), free workshops, or private coaching, Carly Ann helps you go from insecure, anxious, and losing yourself in love, to feeling complete by yourself, totally irreplaceable, and standing in your power as the leader of your love life.

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

In today’s episode of Lessons in Love, I am joined by Rebecca Kimberley. We explore some of the KEY areas that we need to say out loud and talk about more, including:

- Comparison with friends & family (and how to break free)

- How to build trust after you have been hurt (physically, emotionally, & sexually)

- The importance of loving yourself first

- How you can navigate through intense emotions and re-gain your perspective when you feel lost

Rebecca is an award-winning psychological life coach, Cognitive Behavioural Therapist, and trainee Clinical Psychologist. She provides psychology-informed coaching to support her clients with the emotional baggage they have been holding on to from their past so they can rediscover who they really are, reclaim their lives, and start their journey back to themselves.

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram@carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment style.

If you have ever fallen into the trap of thinking "men are avoidant" and that is why you can't find love, you need to listen to this. There is another truth that is often ignored.

And if right now you are in the painful dance of being attracted to someone who is unable to or does not want to commit to you - I hope this conversation gives you some peace and supports you to take your next step!

Join me as I speak to James Walsham (TheHonestBloke)

In this episode we talk:
- Your own role within 'unavailable' relationships'
- How understanding attachment theory can change how you show up in dating
- We discuss when is the right time to communicate your feelings & needs without pushing someone away
- How to show up for yourself so that you can have healthier, happier relationships

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

For anyone who loses themselves in love!

In this episode, I am sharing 8 golden pillars that allow you to stand strong in your power with the knowledge, belief, and feeling that you are IRREPLACEABLE.

This is how you remain in touch with your SELF when you experience rejection, when it is time to move let go, when you are triggered about your ex, when you feel anxious they haven't text back, and when you are highjacked by all the emotions!

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

You are invited in to a VERY special episode of Lessons in Love.
If you are in the trap of repeating unhealthy patterns in your life & love life, attracting people who do not or cannot commit then this is the place for you! (in fact, the whole podcast is - hit subscribe!)

Just a few of the topics covered are:
- The problem with playing the 'nice' girl
- Unlearning unhealthy patterns so that you can experience healthy relationships
- What happens to emotional baggage when you get into a relationship
- Have the movies warped our view of love?

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

Welcome to this week's episode of Lessons in Love with the brilliant Kirsty Kianifard!
In this episode of Lessons in Love we talk about:

- Finding your own form of self-love
- Energy work & relationships!
- Choosing love when fear takes over
- Tips for Self-Soothing when emotion takes over
- Do opposites attract?

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

Welcome to this seriously eye-opening conversation with Daniele Della Valle.

In this episode of Lessons in Love we talk about:

- How to truly know yourself & find your voice
- Becoming Confident in finding your voice in the world & your relationships
- Owning & exploring your sexuality, sensuality, & spirituality
- Choosing unconditional love in your relationship
- & we discuss boundaries in the most HONEST way

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles.

You are invited to this incredible conversation with Becki Rabin.

In this episode of Lessons in Love we talk about:
- Staying with/"chasing" the person you know is not right for you
- Feeling 'crazy' in love and how to overcome the fear of believing you are "too much" & "needy"
- How to own your past pain & anxieties in love
- What to do when you are ready for love and feel yourself losing hope

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.

Music by Atch

This is for the woman who is done with believing she needs someone else to be whole, the one who has had enough of not feeling enough, who is not willing to let her past steal any more of her future, who is waving goodbye to a fantasy relationship and hello to the healthy, extraordinary love she deserves. This is where you learn how to become the most secure & irreplaceable version of yourself.

Meet Carly Ann. On this episode of Lessons in Love, Carly Ann shares with you why Lessons in Love is the place to be for anyone who has decided it is time to become the leader of your own love life.
It is easy to get knocked down in love, but what if these are the moments that make you? Carly Ann shares her love story, why you are not alone, and how the future of this podcast is going to support you to navigate through the highs & lows of dating & relationships.
If you experience insecurity, anxiety, self-blame, and a whole lot of people-pleasing - you are in the right place,

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Audio production by Bethany Donkin.
Music by Atch

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A SNEAK PEEK!!

Welcome to the Lessons in Love Podcast. With me Carly Ann, I am a Self-Esteem & Relationship Coach, I wholeheartedly believe I am here to help you break through the very relationship struggles that so many of us face.

Through my own experiences and other people’s inspiring lessons, I am showing you that we can change & break free from toxic patterns in love.

Inside this podcast, you are going to hear what has shaped successful love stories & healed heartbreak.

I want you to know you are not alone, you are not crazy, you are not too much.

This is for the woman who is done with believing she needs someone else to be whole, the one who had had enough of not feeling enough, who is not willing to let her past steal anymore of her future, who is waving goodbye to a fantasy relationship and help to the healthy, extraordinary love she deserves. This is where you learn how to become the most secure & irreplaceable version of yourself.

Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or go to www.carly-ann.co.uk

Music by Atch
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Instagram: www.instagram.com/atchmusic

Audio Production by Bethany Donkin