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Communicate Kindly

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Mary and Karen took an unplanned break from the podcast as they were both in what they call "Funkytown." In this episode, they're back to share what they learned and hope to help others to give themselves grace when they are feeling funky and to come out on the other side.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mary-feldman/message

Karen and Mary talk about being liked. And not being liked. And whether or not it really matters.

Not everybody’s going to like you. And that’s ok.
If you think that someone doesn’t like you, try to detach from it and move on.
Be kind. Even to people that you think don’t like you.
In relationships that really matter, have a conversation if you feel like someone doesn’t like you. You may come to a better understanding of each other.
Never waste a cheese ball.

Stay in touch. Karen's on Instagram @mommccormick and Mary's @mary.feldman. And be sure to rate, review, and share this episode with a friend so others can find the podcast.

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Karen and Mary discuss strategies to ensure that conversations end with a mutual understanding of what has been communicated.

Here are the takeaways:

Test for understanding. Recap your conversations so you know that everyone is on the same page.
Put things in writing. Send recaps. They don’t have to be lengthy. It can be a quick text or email.
Ask if the other person agrees with the recap.
Slow down. Multi-tasking isn’t a virtue. We can really only focus on one thing at a time.
Ask questions if you don’t understand what someone is trying to explain.

Stay in touch. Karen's on Instagram @mommccormick and Mary's @mary.feldman. And be sure to rate, review, and share this episode with a friend so others can find the podcast.

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Karen’s searching for a new car so she and Mary discuss how the process is going as she makes the difficult decision between getting her dream car and the more practical car.

Here are the takeaways:

Drive the car that makes you happy and pay no attention to people that think you look silly.
Sometimes you need to treat yourself and sometimes you need to be practical.
Don’t deny yourself something because you think that you don’t deserve it.
Don’t make a big purchase because just because the sales person is nice. Be sure it’s what you really want.
Find a good friend to work through difficult decisions and be grateful for what you have.

We'd love to connect! We're on Instagram @mary.feldman and @mommccormick.

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Karen & Mary discuss a Buzzfeed article entitled, "People Are Sharing The Unwritten Social Rules They Think Everyone Could Use A Refresher On, So Here Ya Go" and find out whether or not they are guilty of some of these faux pas.Struggling with a difficult relationship? Just go to communicatekindly.com where you can schedule a 30 minute zoom call with Mary to chat about ways to make those conversations a little less difficult.Enjoying the podcast? Be sure to share it with a friend and invite them to take a listen. It’s the best way for us to reach more people with our message and to encourage them to communicate kindly!--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mary-feldman/message

Karen and Mary sat down with Mary's friend, Steve Mulloy, to have a conversation about a new year’s resolution that he made a few years back to communicate kindly to friends from years gone by.

Here are the takeaways:

It’s the new year! Why not take time to reconnect with good friends from years gone by?
Social media doesn’t give you the depth of connection that an actual conversation does. Quality matters more than quantity.
A great time to catch up with friends is when you’re driving. It’s easy to have an uninterrupted conversation on a long drive.
Season. Reason. Be judicious about who you reach out to. If a relationship ended for good reason, don’t reignite it.
Nurture the relationships that you have that are drama free, pretense free and good for your soul.

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Mary and Karen discuss the differences between being nice and being kind.

Here are the takeaways:

Sometimes our attempts to be nice are not necessarily kind.
Being nice is about being socially appropriate and polite, while being kind is more about being thoughtful and considerate from a place of authenticity and truthfulness
Not hurting feelings can hurt feelings more in the long run.
Being nice instead of being kind can breed resentment.
Ask yourself why you’re being nice. Is it based in truth? Is it possible that you’re actually being selfish?

Connect with us! We'd love to hear from you. Send us an email at mary@communicatekindly.com or connect with us on Instagram @mommccormick or @mary.feldman. Communicate kindly...and transform the world one conversation at a time.

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Spotify sent a recap of the year and here's what we learned about Communicate Kindly The Podcast:

The podcast was streamed in 11 countries.
The episode that was shared the most was episode 8: The Big Game.
The podcast has a 5 star rating!
68 listeners rate Communicate Kindly The Podcast as a top 10 podcast and 52 listeners rate it as a top 5 podcast.
24 listeners rate it as their number 1 podcast!

The episode most downloaded was the very first: "The Dogs." So Karen and Mary are back to have another conversation about communicating kindly and our pets.

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Karen, Mary, and their bestie Lisa sit down and talk about the Thanksgiving dinner.

Here are the takeaways:

What are you bringing to the thanksgiving table. What kind of energy will you bring, what kind of memories will you bring, what expectations will you have? Will you bring comfort and no judgment?
Recognize taboo topics - avoid talking about differences and stay focused on similarities. Don’t talk about politics or religion.
Go around the table and have everyone verbalize what they’re thankful for over the last year.
Don’t kill the vibe! If everyone’s enjoying the conversation, don’t get up and start cleaning.
Consider having open ended questions to ask your guests to get conversations going.
Don’t personalize other people’s behavior. Be a rainbow in another person’s cloud and of course, practice empathy.
Consider pre-loading your energy before Thanksgiving by spending time doing something you love or spending time with people that make you feel like yourself. Fill yourself up with goodness.

Lisa shared some ideas on questions that you can ask to get some conversations going. Here are some suggestions:

What’s the most exciting thing you’ve done lately?

What is something people are really surprised to learn about you?

If you had an unlimited budget, what would you do and where would you go?

If you were the host of a talk show, who would be your first guest?

If you could only eat one of the foods on the table, what would it be?

What’s your favorite holiday/sport/book/TV show/movie?

What’s the funniest movie ever made?

What’s your strangest hidden talent?

Let us know what you think. Send us an email at Mary@communicatekindly.com or connect with us on Instagram @mommccormick or @mary.feldman.

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This episode was recorded after Karen called Mary to let her know that it was World Kindness Day, so they sat down to talk about the importance of recognizing kindness on this special day and every day. Take a listen.

Here are the takeaways.

There really is more kindness than unkindness in the world.
Recognize whether people are doing their best. It helps you to shed animosity.
What we put our attention toward grows. If we look for kindness, we find kindness. If we look for things to be angry about, we’ll find them too.
Choose to follow kind things on social media and see if you find yourself less anxious and angry.

What are some ways you recognize kindness in your daily life? How are you making it a priority to practice kindness? How do people respond when you practice kindness? We’d love to hear from you!

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Karen and Mary sit down for another generation gap conversation with college students Kiki McCormick, who happens to be Karen’s daughter and Josey Thorp. You may remember Josey from episode 6 of the podcast called "The College Dating Scene." Be sure to go back to listen if you haven’t heard it. This time, we’re talking about the ex factor. What are the rules around dating the exes of friends? Take a listen.

Here are the takeaways:

If you’re in a relationship, no one should have the upper hand. It should be an equal partnership.
In dating exes, it depends on the relationship that you have with the friend.
Social media friend isn’t a thing.
Relationships can get messy. There really are not hard and fast rules. We grow and we mature.
Respect yourself and other people. Always practice empathy. You can have empathy and still have boundaries to protect yourself.

Thank you for listening and let us know what you think. You’ll find Karen on Instagram @mommcormick and Mary on Instagram @mary.feldman. Share this episode with a friend and rate and review so others can find it.

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Karen celebrated her niece’s bachelorette party and served as the designated driver at the end of the night — only to get pulled over. Here are the takeaways:-When you get a chance to celebrate, dance, and sing karaoke, do it! -Practice party etiquette-if there’s drinking, make sure you designate a driver before the festivities begin.-If you get pulled over while driving, try to be calm, be quiet, and be kind and just answer the questions to avoid a more difficult situation.-Make sure you know where your car’s registration is in case you do get pulled over. It can make the difference between getting a ticket or not. -Respect yourself and other people. Don’t drink and drive.Do you have a story about a time you were pulled over? Let us know in the comments. You’ll also find Karen on Instagram @mommcormick and Mary on IG @mary.feldman. Be sure to rate and review so others can find it and follow Communicate Kindly The Podcast so that you don’t miss an episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mary-feldman/message

Karen and Mary talk to Todd Feldman of Seismic Wellness Labs (and Mary's husband) about his research into early detection of anxiety and depression. They discuss how early detection may help us to develop healthy behaviors so that we can avoid the symptoms of depression and how it could help to increase the capacity for mental health services and care so everyone can get the help that they need.

You can get in touch with Todd at seismicwellness.com or on Instagram @tfelds. You’ll find Karen on Instagram @mommcormick and Mary @mary.feldman.

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Karen and Mary discuss the importance of the occasional 'no do' day to get out of the overwhelm.

Here are the takeaways:

Make time to have conversations with your friends. We’re all just trying to figure things out.
If you are what you do, if you don’t you’re not. We’re all so much more than what we do.
Being present in the moment helps you manage the tasks that you’re trying to accomplish. Do one task at a time.
If you’re overwhelmed, clean a closet. Take a small task and complete it to make you feel like you’ve accomplished something.
Take a 'no do' day for yourself. And challenge yourself to a no do no device day to really unplug. You’ll be glad you did.

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In honor of Karen's birthday, Mary and Karen discuss birthdays and the fact that some like to acknowledge their birthdays and some really don’t.

Here are the takeaways:

When celebrating birthdays, try to understand if the other person wants the celebration.
Don’t order the singing waiter unless you’re pretty sure the birthday person will enjoy it!
Recognize in other people what they would really appreciate.
When you’re doing something for someone else make sure it’s about them and not about you.
If you can take the day off on your birthday - do it!

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Karen and Mary talk about boundaries and the importance of not only setting them, but expressing what they are.

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Karen and Mary sit down with Mary Rose Feldman, a certified Zentangle teacher and Mary's sister-in-law to talk about Zentangle - a mindfulness practice that uses the pen stroke as focus.

Here are the takeaways:

Zentangle is a mindfulness practice that uses the pen stroke as focus.
Repetition helps our mind to reconnect to how we’re feeling body, mind and spirit.
The difference between Zentagling and doodling? When we doodle, our pen is doing one thing while our mind is doing something else. In Zentangle, we feel the pen in our hand and our senses are engaged doing one activity in the moment.
Daily affirmations help us to communicate kindly with ourselves, build our confidence and change our approach to every day.
A fun byproduct to Zentangle is that you can use it to create beautiful art.

Go to Mary Rose’s website thesentimentalgift.com and click classes to learn more about Zentangle and the classes that she offers and you’ll also see examples of some of the tiles that she’s created. You can also find her courses at maryrosefeldmanczt.teachable.com/courses.

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Mary and Karen catch up with each other after taking a summer break and talk about how Covid can bring out the kindness in people as well as the difficulty in being kind to the unkind.

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Karen and Mary have a conversation with their dear friend, Gail who had a beef with their last episode on nicknames and sets the record straight. Here are the takeaways:

If you have a beef with your friend, set the record straight.
Ask if someone minds the nickname you use for them. They may really appreciate the consideration.
Kindness is universal - it’s definitely not gender specific. Dudes are dudes isn’t a reason to think it’s ok to be unkind.
Plant a seed in teaching others to be kind. Let it be and perhaps it will grow.
Communicating kindly can evolve out of communicating unkindly. It’s never too late for an apology.

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In this episode, Mary and Karen have a conversation about nicknames. Some nicknames we like, some we don’t like and some depend on who is using it. Here are the takeaways:

Some nicknames are endearing, some not so much. Know your audience when you use a nickname. If it annoys someone, don’t use it.
Honoring the names that people want to be called by is really kind.
If you’re not sure if someone likes a name you’re calling them, ask them!
Be careful using names like hon, sweetheart, dear with people that you don’t know. They may come across as condescending.
Pause, breathe in kindness and take the focus off of ourselves to bring kindness to others. If something’s not being received as a kind gesture, shut it down!

Share your thoughts on Instagram @mary.feldman or @mommccormick, email mary@communicatekindly.com or in the comments on your podcast app.

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Mary and Karen sit down for a chat with Jen Randazzo. Jen is the author of a children’s book called F.R.O.G. which stands for Fully Rely on God. It’s a sweet story about a Philadelphia-area nun, who is now 89 years old. She carries a little glass frog to remind her to fully rely on God. and passes this message on to the young children she teaches. Take a listen.

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Karen and Mary meet with Celine McGee, founder of The Compliment Squad! Celine's mission is to spread smiles, kindness & human connection one compliment at a time, which is very similar to the mission of Communicate Kindly--to transform the world one conversation at a time. Be sure to share this episode with friend, rate and review!

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Karen and Mary welcome Mary's dear friend, Joe Farrell the priest. Father Joe Farrell and Mary met when they were in high school and have been friends for over forty years. And now, Joe holds the global role of Vicar General of the Order of St. Augustine, the second highest office in the Augustinian order serving over 50 countries throughout the world. Fr. Joe joins the podcast from his residence in Rome, Italy for a conversation about communicating kindly with two simple words - "you're welcome".

Here are the takeaways:

When people thank you, try saying you’re welcome instead of no problem. Don’t minimize someone’s gratitude.
You’re welcome in Italian and in French translates to I pray. It’s so much deeper than responding no problem.
Don’t take another’s pleasure away from them by refusing their kind gesture or gift.
Say thank you. Even if it’s thanking for someone doing their job.

And be sure to check out Mary and Karen's Instagram posts promoting this episode @mary.feldman and @mommccormick. You’ll see the picture that Karen talks about in this episode of her with Joe at Mary's wedding in 1996. Good times.

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In this episode, you’ll meet Mary and Karen's bestie, Lisa, and you’ll be reintroduced to Kathleen, who joined them on episode 5 of Communicate Kindly The Podcast with a conversation about The Four Agreements. If you haven’t heard it, be sure to go back and take a listen. Mary, Lisa, Kathleen spent a great girls weekend in Washington DC and had a conversation with Karen about the importance of spending time away with friends.

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In this episode, you’ll meet Mary and Karen's bestie, Lisa, and you’ll be reintroduced to Kathleen, who joined them on episode 5 of Communicate Kindly The Podcast with a conversation about The Four Agreements. If you haven’t heard it, be sure to go back and take a listen. Mary, Lisa, Kathleen spent a great girls weekend in Washington DC and had a conversation with Karen about the importance of spending time away with friends.

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Karen and Mary return from a spring break with a brand new episode to chat about something they've both dealt with their entire lives -- anxiety.

Life is a roller coaster. When you get the joy, relish it.
Expect the best.
Come back to the present moment when you’re feeling anxious.
Everyone deserves the best they can give themselves.
Anxiety can be your hero if you use it to move forward.
We always have a choice.
How are you transforming the world one conversation at a time? Please share in the comments or on Instagram @mary.feldman or @mommccormick.

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Mary and Karen talk about righteous anger and specifically about Karen’s anger around a situation regarding the care of her elderly mom.

Here are the takeaways from this episode:

When confronted with a difficult situation, really try to focus on the facts, staying calm, centered, and firm.
With knowledge comes responsibility.
Anger can fuel us to improve our society.
Think about partnering with those that you have conflict with to make things better.

Please let us know your thoughts and share your suggestions on how you might handle something like what Karen’s going through. You can reach out on Instagram @mommcormick or @mary.feldman - we love voice messages that we can share or you can send us an email at mary@communicatekindly.com. Please be sure to share, rate and review!

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Communicate Kindly The Podcast Episode 13: The Grieving Process

This episode is in honor and memory of Mary's Mom, Peg, on what would have been her 98th birthday. Karen and I talk about her, her legacy and what the grieving process has looked like for both of us.

Let us know your thoughts and share your experiences with grief. We really believe these conversations can help all of us to feel less alone. Share your comments on Instagram, Facebook, or send a direct message. There are lots of ways to let us know your thoughts as we put out this content with the mission to transform the world one conversation at a time. And please be sure to rate, review and share the podcast. It helps so much.

Don't forget that Mary is available for one on one coaching if there is a particularly difficult conversation that you’re navigating or if you just need some coaching in your life. You can schedule a free clarity call at communicatekindly.com.

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Mary and Karen spent last weekend with their other besties, Gail and Lisa. They had a great time reconnecting and after having a few meals together, Mary had to ask Karen to explain her method of ordering in restaurants.

Here are the takeaways from this week's episode:

If you feel uncomfortable when you arrive at a hotel or motel, it’s ok to decide not to stay there.
Be kind to wait staff. And be sure to tip them.
If spaghetti’s not on the menu, don’t order spaghetti.
Make time to share a meal with your besties, and if possible a whole weekend. It’s great for your soul!

Mary and Karen love hearing YOUR takeaways from each episode so please share your comments on Instagram, Facebook, or send a dm. There are lots of ways to let them know your thoughts as they put out this content with the mission to transform the world one conversation at a time. And please be sure to rate, review and share the podcast. It helps so much.

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Mary & Karen are joined by Mary's husband, Todd, for a discussion about finding joy in the small, every day moments that we often overlook. Be sure to listen until the end for an entertaining follow up to the conversation.

Here are the takeaways from this episode:
1. Be really specific about what brings you joy. Down to the moment.
2. Try a practice of acknowledging what you’re grateful for and really make it a habit. It will bring more joy to your life.
3. Abundance is all around us, even in the simple things.
4. Take your time. We lose out on so much joy as we rush through our lives.
5. Enjoy every bite of your peanut butter.

Mary and Karen have a conversation about passive aggressive behavior inspired by the article in Inc. Magazine by Justin Bariso entitled, "Emotionally Intelligent People Use a Brilliant 6-Word Phrase to Stop Passive-Aggressive Behavior and Strengthen Their Relationships."

Here are the takeaways:

The thing that annoys you about someone else is often something that’s inside of you. The other person is a mirror to yourself.
Holding a grudge hurts us, not the other person.
Try to become aware of what your habits are so you can communicate clearly to others.
If someone is being passive aggressive toward you, be kind, yet firm and ask them to be direct.
Attack the problem, not the person.

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After Mary attended a silent retreat, she sat down with Karen to talk about being silent, the noisy world and how we can communicate kindly even when we're not saying a thing.

Mary & Karen welcome Mary's son, Dan, to the show and her sister, Peggy, is back to talk about last week’s big football game. We’re all Philadelphia Eagles fans so it was a tough loss, but there were lessons learned.

Here are the takeaways:

We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again. Don’t expect a certain outcome and you won’t be disappointed.
We all win some and we all lose some. It’s how we react that matters.
Losses help build character.
Life is about trusting the process.
Watch your trash talking. It’s probably going to come back to you.

We hope you enjoyed this week’s episode. Please share, rate and review. We love hearing from you!

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Mary & Karen welcome Mary's big sister, Peggy, to the show to have a conversation about road rage. She has a story to share. Take a listen.

Here are the takeaways:

Remember the title of Joey’s story: “Road rage, nobody wins.”
Pause. And if you have to - sit on your hands.
If in doubt, let the other car go in front of you.
Don’t be attached to a thank you wave on the road (or really anywhere. Give without expecting something in return.
Look for the best in everyone. EVERYONE is somebody’s child.

Let us know what you think. Are you a road rager or recovering road rager? Have you been a victim of road rage? We’d love to hear from you! Please share your stories with us. Leave a review, send us a dm or a voice memo on Instagram @mary.feldman or @mommcormick or send an email to mary@communicatekindly.com. If this or any or our episodes resonate with you, PLEASE share with a friend. Thank you to all of our listeners who have let us know that you’re enjoying the podcast. We appreciate every single one of you so much. When you communicate, communicate kindly. And transform the world one conversation at a time.

Mary & Karen sit down with Josey, a college student who attempts to bridge the generation gap between us to help us understand what it's like for women & men to "date" in college in 2023.

Spoiler alert: we don't get it.😂

Let us know what you think.

Are you a college student that can share some insight into the dating scene?

Are you a parent who finds these relationships thoroughly confusing?

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Mary and Karen welcome Mary's dear friend and former roommate Kathleen Broderick to the podcast. Kathleen was made aware of the book "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz. She shares how the four agreements resonate with her and how we can use them to live happier and more peaceful lives.Our takeaways this week are the four agreements: Be impeccable with your word - to others AND to yourself Don’t take anything personally - there’s so much freedom in that Don’t make assumptions - ask questions - you don’t know what you don’t know Always do your best - and ask yourself if you ARE doing your bestShare your stories about how the four agreements resonate with you. Send a dm or a voice memo on Instagram @mary.feldman or @mommcormick or send an email to mary@communicatekindly.com. Be sure to share the episode with a friend, rate and review.

Mary & Karen discuss the term "gaslighting" and how it's surfaced in their lives. They've been gaslit, they've been the gaslighter and they come to realize that we can often gaslight ourselves.

Here are the takeaways:

Beware of gaslighters. Call them out on their lies. Write things down as they happen so you have a log to refer to if needed.
When you hear anything that sounds like, “it’s all in your head” pause … and stand your ground.
Don’t give others the power to manipulate your thoughts.
If you’re being abused by a gaslighter, don’t engage. Get away.
Your opinion matters.Listen to your gut. If something feels wrong, it probably is.

And Above all, don’t gaslight yourself!

Have you been a gaslighter or been gaslit? Do you think you can gaslight yourself? Please share your stories with us. Send us a dm or a voice memo on Instagram @mary.feldman or @mommcormick or send an email to mary@communicatekindly.com and if any of our episodes resonate with you, PLEASE share with a friend!

Mary & Karen meet for a virtual happy hour to chat about gossip, how it’s affected them and how, with practice, they are learning to not let it leave their lips.

Here are the takeaways:

If you’re feeling offended or defensive, PAUSE to help you feel clearer so that you don’t go down the rabbit hole of gossip.
It’s ok to speak up. Don’t let things fester. Speaking the truth doesn’t have to be unkind.
Sometimes you need to disengage from people. And that’s ok.
Don’t get lost in people pleasing.
It’s awesome when you get to a point that you’re so content within yourself that you don’t need to gossip.

Let us know what you think. Do you tend to gossip? Have you been a victim of gossip? What are ways that you’ve handled yourself in these situations and how do they make you feel? Send us an email at mary@communicatekindly.com, dm me on Instagram @mary.feldman or Karen @mommccormick and be sure to follow us and subscribe to the podcast so that you don’t miss an episode! And please share, rate and review!

Mary & Karen welcome Karen's 22-year-old daughter to the podcast to introduce them to a new term to them - "Pick Me".

Here are the takeaways:

We can all be "pick mes" at times by wanting attention without using it to serve others.
You don’t need to look for validation outside of yourself. Your validation comes from within.
If someone offers you a compliment, say thank you.
Attention can be good when it’s used to lift other people up.
If someone offers you sunshine, take it. Then give it away!
Confidence is not a bad thing. We can’t help others shine their light if we don’t shine our own light.
The things that bother us about others can be mirrors to ourselves.
Remember the Golden Rule. Treat others the way you want to be treated.
Have multi-generational conversations. You can learn so much!

Mary & Karen discuss how dogs can be among the best conversation starters and how the unconditional love we get from our dogs and other pets can truly bring us humans closer to each other.

Here are some of the takeaways from this episode.

Dogs can help initiate conversations and bring out the best in people.
If you have a problem with a neighbor, you can speak up. Maybe they are unaware of the problem. And you can always follow up with a kiss-ass cake.
If something is irritating to you, it may not be about the thing - it may be about you.
When we don’t communicate effectively, we get frustrated and cause chaos and confusion.
What would happen if we communicate with each other the way we communicate with our pets? What a kinder world we’d live in.

Let us know what you think. How has your pet enhanced your life and made you a better communicator? Do you have a story about how you resolved conflict with a neighbor? We’d love to hear it. Send your questions and comments to mary@communicatekindly.com, or send us a message on Instagram @mary.feldman and @mommccormick.

Join the conversation about our conversations. Lifelong friends Mary Feldman and Karen McCormick host this podcast and discuss how we can improve our relationships with ourselves and others by learning to communicate with kindness and compassion. Their mission is to improve the world one conversation at at time.