Refs Need Love Too: Recent Episodes
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An honest perspective from the 3rd team on the pitch... the referees. Through humor, analysis and education, we are slowly changing how people view referees and officials in all sports. We care and have a love for the game as much as any player or coach. Sometimes even more.
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You can feel it right away: this isn’t a normal college soccer conversation. We’re talking with Morgan Dunham, Zachary Eggeston, and Kingston McDonald as they help launch the brand-new Tuskegee Golden Tigers men’s and women’s soccer programs, stepping onto campus as the first wave of players tasked with building an NCAA team culture from nothing. No hand-me-down traditions, no “ask the seniors,” just a blank slate and the pressure of knowing every standard they set becomes part of the program’s identity.
What makes their perspective even sharper is that they’re not only players; they’re referees too. We get into what it’s like living on both sides of the whistle: how knowledge changes decision-making on the field, why arguing rarely helps, and how referee abuse can either break your confidence or forge it. They share real stories of big offside decisions, chaotic moments, and the mindset it takes to make a call with people in your face and still stay composed.
We also zoom out to the bigger picture of soccer in the United States: the pay-to-play problem, the way cost pushes talented kids out of the sport, and why the World Cup and growing diversity in U.S. Soccer could be a turning point for access in Black communities and beyond. You’ll also hear how a docuseries will follow the team through this first season and how fans can track their progress.
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Five seconds. That’s the new line between “let’s get on with it” and a restart that flips against you. We sit down with Nathan McGill, Director of Referee Education and Development at U.S. Soccer, to unpack the IFAB Laws of the Game 2026-2027 changes that will hit community matches fast, especially anything related to time wasting, match tempo, and ball-in-play time. If you referee youth soccer, adult amateur, or semi-pro games, this conversation is designed to help you walk onto the field on day one with a clear plan and confident communication.
We break down the practical mechanics behind the five-second countdown on throw-ins and goal kicks, including the key question every referee is asking: when does the count actually start? Nathan explains why the whistle matters when the ball is dead, why the count can begin before the ball is in the thrower’s hands, and how U.S. Soccer wants referees to use visible and verbal communication to reduce surprises and conflict. We also dig into the tactical impact of a delayed goal kick becoming a corner kick, and what that means for coaches who still teach “wait, then go long” at the end of matches.
From there, we tackle the tougher grassroots challenges: the 10-second substitution expectation and the consequence that can leave a team short for a full minute, plus injury management when a trainer enters the field and the one-minute off-field requirement with important exceptions. We also clarify Law 4 updates on jewelry and accessories, highlight the DOGSO advantage update when a goal is scored, and get Nathan’s take on body cameras and the push for captain-only communication to cut dissent.
If you want the clearest path to consistent, safe, fair match control under the new rules, this is your playbook. Subscribe, share this with your referee crew, and leave a review with the law change you think will cause the most confusion in August.
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The World Cup can make even experienced fans feel like the rules changed overnight. Players stay on their feet more, restarts happen faster, and referees seem more willing to let contact go without losing control. That’s not an accident, and I wanted a real expert to explain what’s happening and why it matters.
I’m joined by Alan Kelly, a former FIFA referee and the Director of Senior Match Officials at PRO, the organization responsible for training and assigning top professional referees in the United States. Alan shares what it’s like watching the tournament from the stands while still evaluating the craft, plus why having so many PRO officials working the World Cup is a major milestone. We dig into the bigger story behind modern soccer officiating: credibility comes from reading the game early, moving proactively to create clean angles, and communicating in ways that prevent chaos rather than react to it.
We also get into the practical stuff fans are noticing right now, including stronger crackdowns on time wasting, quicker substitutions, off-field treatment requirements, and visible counts on restarts that keep the ball in play. Then we talk ref cam and why first-person footage can change referee education at every level by showing what the referee could and couldn’t see. We wrap with one of the best development tips I’ve heard: soft skills are built by watching more soccer with intent, not just studying big VAR moments.
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The World Cup is almost here, and my life is about to get loud in the best way: I’m heading to seven matches with FIFA and TikTok as a Creator Correspondent, with access that changes what I can share and where I can share it. That excitement is real, but so is the deeper reason I care about this tournament. When the US Men’s National Team takes the field, you see a diverse group that reminds us what it looks like to pull in the same direction, even when the country feels split apart.
We also sit with a story that is hard to shake: a Somali FIFA referee, after years of screening and international travel, reportedly lands in Miami and is denied entry for “vetting concerns.” We talk about what that decision costs on a human level, what it suggests about travel bans and bias, and why judging people as individuals matters. For anyone who loves soccer, refereeing, and the integrity of global sport, it’s a moment worth examining out loud.
Then we get tactical with Huck Sorock from Refer Sports about the biggest hidden problem in youth sports and amateur soccer: referee assigning. We dig into what modern referee assigning software should actually do, from paying officials faster to reducing admin chaos during massive tournaments. We talk AI schedule imports, agentic AI as a productivity multiplier, building an in-app community for training and support, and why retention improves when assigners can spend less time on spreadsheets and more time mentoring refs. If you care about sports officiating, referee retention, and smarter assigning systems, this one is for you.
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College soccer is about to change in ways that will hit everyone on match day: referees, coaches, players, and the people in the stands wondering why the game has stopped again. After sharing a personal weekend at the brand-new U.S. Soccer National Training Center, including the eye-opening mechanics of officiating deaf and power wheelchair matches, we bring on one of the best voices to explain what’s coming next for the NCAA.
John Collins, the NCAA national coordinator of soccer officials and a professional assessor across MLS, NWSL, and USL, walks us through the biggest NCAA soccer rules changes. We dig into the move to a coach-initiated video review challenge system, what incidents are actually reviewable, and why replay in college can be painfully slow without a full VAR team, dedicated replay operators, and a deep set of camera angles. John also breaks down why the fourth official becomes even more important now, how substitution opportunities shift when the clock is stopped, and what the optional Video Match Official role could mean for the future.
We also tackle the men’s Division I fall-spring calendar proposal, the student-athlete wellness case behind it, and the ripple effects on referee scheduling, development, and opportunity across all divisions. We wrap with the cultural hold of the countdown clock, plus discipline updates like simplifying violent behavior categories and new bench decorum accountability that puts staff cautions onto the head coach’s accumulation. If you care about NCAA soccer officiating, video review, coach challenges, and the direction of the college game, this is the roadmap. Subscribe, share with your referee crew, and leave a review with your take on coach challenges and replay time.
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The strangest part about refereeing is that everyone sees you, but almost nobody knows you. This week David was a guest on the "For Ref's Sake" podcast.
We talk about how I went from a grassroots soccer referee turned global creator during the COVID era, which sparked a community where referees, coaches, players, and parents can finally talk about the game like humans. What happens when officials stop being faceless and start being approachable, educational, and honest about how decisions get made?
We get into the real craft of officiating: why the Laws of the Game are subjective, how positioning and angle change everything, and how to discuss big moments like DOGSO, SPA, serious foul play, reckless challenges, and offensive or insulting language without turning it into clickbait. David shares why he tries to lead with a teacher’s heart, how he keeps up with the flood of clips and questions, and what it takes to build a sustainable refereeing platform that includes short-form content, long-form podcasting, and referee gear that funds the work.
Then we zoom out to World Cup 2026 in the United States. David lays out concerns many fans are not hearing loudly enough: visa barriers, high costs, heat and humidity, political headwinds, and the possibility of empty seats early on. But there is optimism too, including why ticket and housing prices may drop and why visitors can still expect warmth from everyday Americans. We close with a simple standard for any official who wants to level up: integrity, courage, a willingness to learn, and a deep love for the game.
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The fastest way to lose a new referee is to certify them online and then throw them into the deep end on a busy weekend. We start with a few big updates from my world, including our first Dr. Tom Gerson Pops Memorial Scholarships for referees and why telling those stories every year matters to me and my family.
Then I’m joined by Carlos Ledesma, a Northern California assigner, director of referees, and certified mentor who has quietly built what a lot of leagues are missing: a repeatable system to recruit, train, develop, and retain soccer referees. Carlos breaks down how he sells refereeing to 13 and 14-year-olds, why shadowing works in real games, and how club scrimmages can become a low-pressure training ground where new officials learn mechanics, positioning, pregame routines, and confidence before the first “real” assignment.
We also get practical about referee safety and retention: sideline seating policies that keep spectators off the assistant referee’s back, strict zero tolerance expectations, and the underrated step of communicating with referees after a referee abuse report so they know action was taken. If you’re an assigner, club leader, coach, or referee mentor trying to solve the referee shortage with better training instead of wishful thinking, you’ll leave with a model you can copy.
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A single referee mistake can hijack your confidence for days, especially when it happens in a high school playoff match with a crowd watching. I share a raw update on a procedural error I had to admit publicly, including the moment I took a go-ahead goal off the board and how heavy that felt after the final whistle. If you’ve ever walked to your car replaying one decision on repeat, you’ll recognize the mix of pride, guilt, and the need to keep showing up anyway.
From there, we pivot to the quick reset that every soccer referee needs: an easy assistant referee night that still had its own challenge (yes, you can get cooked by the sun even at a “night” game). Then we get into a competitive Georgia high school soccer matchup between 6A teams where game management matters on every touch. We talk injuries, five yellow cards, delays of restart, reckless challenges, and how using comms with a strong crew helps us spot flashpoints and keep players from boiling over.
We close with the small details that make officials better: smarter positioning on goal kicks, opening your body to read the long ball, and why over-apologizing (“I’m sorry”) can actually make dissent worse. There’s also a quick referee gear update with new referee socks and the latest on grip socks restocking and why they sell out so fast. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a ref friend, and leave a review so more officials can find it.
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A playoff match can feel perfect for 50 minutes and then unravel in 10 seconds. That’s what happened to me in Georgia, and I’m not proud of it. I’m sharing the full, raw story of a high school postseason game where I made a procedural mistake on a restart, saw the consequences hit the scoreboard, and then had to make the hardest choice a referee can make in public: admit it and fix it.
We talk through the whole arc, from pregame prep and crew dynamics to why comms can help when things get fast. I break down a clear DOGSO handball moment on a corner kick that leads to a penalty and a red card, then the decision that changed everything: allowing a quick free kick when the ball was still moving. When that restart turns into a goal, the match explodes. I consult the crew, swallow my ego, disallow the goal, and deal with the reality that doing the “right” procedural thing can still look terrible to players, coaches, and fans.
If you care about soccer officiating, NFHS rules, playoff game management, referee mindset, and getting back up after a rough night, this one is for you. Subscribe, share it with a referee friend, and leave a review with the toughest lesson you’ve learned on the field.
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The hardest part of picking up a whistle as an adult isn’t learning the signals, it’s walking onto the field while everyone assumes you’ve done this forever. Holly Jimenez knows that feeling firsthand. She starts refereeing at 42, feels the nerves at U9 games, makes the kind of mistakes that haunt you on the drive home, and still keeps showing up until her experience builds and the confidence grows.
We get into how she goes from local youth soccer to top level assignments like MLS NEXT environments and semi-pro matches in the WPSL and UPSL, including what changes when you’re in a stadium with real crowds and veteran officials. Holly breaks down the pieces that accelerate referee development: mentors who give honest feedback, assigners who challenge you at the right pace, and the mindset shift of treating mistakes as part of referee training rather than proof you don’t belong.
Holly also brings a unique edge to soccer officiating: she’s a longtime Spanish teacher, and her ability to speak Spanish can instantly cool down dissent, build rapport, and even catch the sideline when people assume the referee won’t understand. We also talk directly about the reality of being a female referee, the sexism that still shows up on touchlines, and why communities like the Female Referee Organization of Georgia matter for retention, safety, and growth.
If you care about better game management, stronger support for referees, and getting more women into officiating, you’ll take something practical from this conversation. Subscribe, share this with a referee friend, and leave a review so more officials can find the show.
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The fastest way to level up as a soccer referee is not learning one more obscure law, it is learning how to handle people when the match te. I’m joined by Jan Aravitra, a former FIFA international referee from Finland with nearly two decades at the top level, including UEFA competitions and World Cup qualifiers. We get into the behind-the-scenes reality of working with different crews, different cultures, and different communication styles, especially from the perspective of an elite assistant referee.
We talk about focus in hostile environments, and how you can “block out the noise” without ignoring the emotional temperature of the benches and spectators. Jan explains why players care so much about being treated fairly, how repeated moments can snowball into dissent, and what experienced officials do to keep the game balanced and under control. We also dig into practical man management: when to build rapport, when to stay composed, why yelling back never works, and how the best referees set clear borders without turning the match into a debate.
Then we shift into referee education and development. Jan shares why he built the Referee Academy, how video feedback and live clip discussions accelerate learning for grassroots referees, and why community is a key factor in referee retention and mental health. If you’re a new ref trying to survive your first seasons or a veteran trying to mentor others, you’ll take away specific habits you can use on your very next match.
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A soldier-turned-official sets a six-year goal to reach the Premier League—and makes it! Then he does an even rarer thing: he stays for over 15 years! We sit down with Scott Ledger, a 500+ appearance Premier League Assistant Referee and FA Cup Final appointee, to unpack the craft behind elite officiating—how preparation, humility, and sharp eyes under pressure create credibility when tens of thousands are judging every move.
Scott takes us inside the modern toolkit: pre-match data packs that map set-piece patterns and passing lanes, film study to anticipate offside traps and screens, and the small human edge of knowing players’ first names to defuse tension. He breaks down why “looking switched on” matters as much as getting the call right, especially for assistant referees who spend long stretches semi-active but must sell a complex decision in a heartbeat. We also explore the mental game of VAR: delayed flags, instant feedback, and the rubber-band reset that helps him let go of the last check and lock in for the next one.
From fitness to field craft, Scott explains the lateral speed work, GPS targets, and position resets that keep him aligned with lightning-fast wingers. He shares the culture shock of moving from Sunday League to the Premier League’s event-level logistics, plus a fan encounter that turned into a mini laws seminar. And he pitches a smart IFAB tweak to curb time-wasting on goalkeeper “injuries” by forcing a teammate to leave—small changes that could protect game flow without gimmicks from goalkeepers.
It’s a candid, practical masterclass for referees, coaches, and football obsessives who want to see the game with clearer eyes. If you value preparation, composure, and the pursuit of marginal gains, this conversation will sharpen how you watch—and how you work. If you've enjoyed it, please follow the show, share with a ref friend, and leave a quick review to help more people find us.
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Abusive sidelines don’t fix bad calls—and they’re driving referees out of the game. We sat down with U.S. Soccer’s Vice President of Referees, Kari Seitz, to break down how “Respect the Call” and Policy 531-9 are changing that story with clear standards, real accountability, and education designed for today’s crews.
We start with the foundation: knowing the difference between a raw emotional reaction and dissent. That clarity matters because early, consistent action keeps matches from spiraling. Kari explains the new video series that teaches practical skills most officials never learn in class—how to read tone and proximity, how to set boundaries, and even how to show a card with presence so your message lands the first time. You’ll hear why empowering young and new referees to act decisively is the single best way to prevent escalation and protect the flow of the game.
From there, we zoom out to the system. Kari walks us through centralized reporting for abuse, fair and age-appropriate sanctions, and league adoption that extends to parents on the touchline. We also explore the U.S. Refereeing Way, a national push to unify instruction and mechanics so referees in California and Georgia get the same guidance on AR positioning, dissent management, and match control. Think modern training modules, shareable vertical videos, and a future “referee passport” to track experience, education, and progression—less guesswork, more support.
If you’ve ever wondered how to stop the churn of officials, this conversation shows the roadmap: consistent definitions, confident enforcement, and a culture that treats referees as essential to soccer. Watch the new Respect the Call videos, share them with your club, and put the standards into practice. We need your help!
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Ever wonder what “clear and obvious” actually means when the stakes are high and the clock is running? We bring you a rare, candid look inside MLS video review with Greg Barkey, the head of VAR at PRO. Greg shares how the system was built in the United States—from early scrimmages with eight cameras at a local park to the first monitor review at Red Bull Arena—and why the guiding principle remains simple: to correct clear and obvious errors without re-refereeing the match.
We dig into the humanity officiating: game management over pure decision making, context over freeze frames, and game management considerations on red cards. Greg explains the concise language that keeps the booth calm and fast—kick point, point of contact, APP, and the all-important “check complete”—and why MLS sends referees to the monitor even on offside. You’ll hear why PRO avoids drawn lines, how their crews judge offside with geometry and field cues, and how that choice protects the flow and preserves goals. We also talk pressure in the booth, the shift to a centralized “Varlington” hub in Texas, and the weekly clip sessions that calibrate judgment across hundreds of games.
If you’ve ever argued about soft penalties, complained about slow-mo making fouls look worse, or wondered why one hold is called and another isn’t, this conversation brings clarity. Greg even floats a provocative idea for changing offside around advantage and impact rather than millimeters—aiming for simpler calls and more goals. Along the way, we trade stories about respect for referees, the small thanks that keep people in the game, and the balance between technology and trust.
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Ever wonder what a referee actually says to defuse tenssions—or how it feels to make a split-second call with no assistants and 22 players demanding an answer? We sit down with Eric Edge, the former semi-pro goalkeeper behind the viral channel Behind The Whistle, to unpack the real craft of Sunday League officiating: honesty that cools tempers, foul selection that protects the game, and transparency that turns critics into collaborators.
Eric explains why he films every match and posts full breakdowns, not as a highlight reel but as a learning lab. We explore safe refereeing—giving the decision football expects in high-risk areas—without smothering the flow, and how early, consistent thresholds prevent escalation. From the sin bin’s deterrent power to the difference between a quick outburst and persistent dissent, Eric shows how calm language, private chats, and a little humor can steer volatile adult matches back on course.
We go inside the unique chaos of club linesmen: when they elevate credibility by flagging against their own team, and when poor positioning or bias forces tough overruls. We talk fitness demands that rival box-to-box midfielders, the mental bandwidth needed to keep angles and advantage straight, and the way tech—video, body cams, and, where allowed, comms—can protect officials and teach the next generation the “gold” of game management dialogue. Elite support, from former UEFA and World Cup officials, highlights a broader shift toward accountability and empathy.
If you’re a player on the fence about refereeing, Eric makes a compelling case: you’ll rediscover the buzz, build community, and use your feel for contact to excel with the whistle. We also share practical resources—from gear that saves your feet to smarter assigning tools—that make long Saturdays workable and safer. Subscribe, share this story with a teammate who argues every call, and leave a review with your biggest officiating takeaway—what part of the referee’s job do you see differently now?
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This week, we have a true full-circle moment on the show. After listening to our recent episode with Kevin Klinger on referee mindset, Regional Referee Alex Perez sent in an incredible email about how he immediately applied those lessons during a grueling college showcase weekend. We were so moved by his story—and how he turned a potential on-field disaster into a success—that we immediately invited him on the pod to share his experience firsthand.
Based in West Virginia, Alex is a USSF Regional Referee and National Candidate who officiates in major collegiate pools like the ACC and Big 12, as well as USL2 matches. Beyond the whistle, he is a dedicated mentor and assigner committed to building the next generation of officials. Alex views the pitch as a "high-speed leadership lab," balancing technical mastery with the emotional intelligence required to manage the game's biggest personalities.
In this episode, Alex takes us inside the "8 PM Wall"—that specific moment of physical and mental exhaustion during a tournament when patience wears thin. He opens up about a specific U19 match where fatigue triggered a snarky response to a player, and how he used a specific "breathe and reset" technique to regain control. We discuss the importance of body language, how to make allies on the pitch, and how he turned a hostile environment into a game where players were swapping jerseys with him at the final whistle.
We also dive into the "suitcase life" of a traveling official (including Alex’s intense "Rule of 3" packing strategy) and share one of the funniest heckler stories involving a mustache that you will ever hear. Plus, we have special offers from our sponsors, Refersports and Umpiro, to help you upgrade your assigning software and your footwear. You are going to love the honesty, humility, and energy Alex brings to the show!
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Pressure doesn’t just come from the scoreboard—it lives in your head and your chest when the crowd roars and a coach questions your integrity. We sit down with Kevin Klinger, Director of Referee Education and Development at U.S. Officials and founder of Officials Mental Edge, to break down the mental skills that separate solid refs from truly elite officials. Kevin brings a rare dual lens as a longtime pro referee and licensed counselor, translating sports psychology into practical, on‑field tools.
We unpack how a real development ecosystem goes far beyond assignments: structured curricula, on‑site sessions, online learning, and high‑level mentorship that builds focus, confidence, and resilience over time. Kevin maps the moments that derail referees—performance attacks like biased or blind, identity jabs, background slights, and disrespectful behaviors—and explains why naming triggers is the first step to control. From there, he lays out a repeatable reset: acknowledge you’re triggered, center with deliberate breath and strong posture, address the conflict with clarity, then consciously transition before the next decision. It’s a trainable protocol that stops rumination, reduces compounding errors, and keeps your head in the game.
We also dive into retention and why so many officials leave between years one and two. The fix isn’t just more laws‑of‑the‑game lectures; it’s teaching emotional regulation, mistake recovery, and communication early. Kevin shares elite habits you can use today: ask your crew before kickoff to find one improvement for you, journal after matches, review targeted clips to prime decision‑making, and use visualization to rehearse tough moments. Along the way, you’ll hear candid stories, gear hacks for focus, and quick takes on captain interactions and pregame routines.
If you’re serious about refereeing—whether you’re working grassroots or aiming for the pro pathway—these mental skills are your edge. Listen, take notes, and try one reset routine in your next match. If this episode helps, follow the show, share it with your crew, and leave a review so more referees can build their mental game with us.
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A year can include joy and pain without destroying you. In 2025, I said goodbye to my dad—the person I called on every big news story, new tech breakthrough, or small family win—and then rebuilt my life in a way he’d love to hear about. That mix of grief and momentum shaped everything: how I left about work, how I re-built my career, and how I chose where to invest my energy.
The moment the fun drained out of a private equity‑owned, corporate job and the relief that came with choosing a nine‑person company where simple, focused execution mattered more than politics. Leads spiked, deals closed, and I found my stride again. With the commute gone, Refs Need Love Too took off: more than 2,000 orders shipped, new grip socks and made‑in‑USA buzzer flags, custom coins and badges for associations, and a robust global supply chain. On the creator side, TikTok and Facebook revenue jumped alongside brand partnerships, and creator events in Atlanta and LA cemented the feeling that I belong in that room—even as one of the oldest creators there.
The mission sharpened with consulting work for US Soccer, where I helped launch the national referee abuse policy with videos, social assets, and a clear message that reached millions. That momentum led to a full‑time role with SoCal Soccer, building referee development and a learning platform that bridges the macro and micro: content for a global community and hands‑on training for refs running U8 fields every weekend. On the whistle, I earned high school playoff assignments, State Cup finals, and a U.S. women’s youth national team AR slot, then headed to MLS Nextfest to learn from FIFA and CONCACAF referee coaches about the living nature of the game, the spirit of the laws, and the art of reading play.
Family milestones kept me grounded, and to honor my dad’s kindness, I'm launching the Pops Scholarship Fund: annual $1,000 and $500 awards for young referees pursuing education. It’s a way to keep his name moving forward while investing in the next voices with a whistle. If you’re building a life you’d be proud to tell someone you miss, you’ll find a lot to hold onto here—practical playbooks, hard‑won lessons, and a strong heartbeat for the referee community. Listen, share with a friend who needs momentum, and leave a review to help more refs find us.
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Ever tried to judge a play from six feet off the ground with bodies flying past and zero replays? That’s where referees live, and it’s nothing like the view from the stands. We sit down with RefReps CEO Kyle Armstrong to explore how first‑person video, multi‑angle breakdowns, and short, high‑impact modules are rebuilding the referee pipeline and reshaping sports culture from the ground up.
Kyle walks us through the origin story, the tech stack, and the classroom model that puts officiating into high schools and colleges. Students rotate between playing and reffing, then take those skills into local leagues for paid assignments. The result is a rare win‑win: more covered games, real income for teens, and a surge in life skills like conflict resolution, time management, and composure under pressure. We dig into the data too—confidence and intent to officiate hold above 80 percent across tens of thousands of learners—plus why brain science favors immersive reps over dry rule drills.
We also look at the culture problem. RefReps installs “Do You Have What It Takes To Make The Call?” kiosks at a state championship, and crowds only get 62 percent accuracy with only two choices and a ticking clock. That humbling moment sparks empathy without lectures, and it’s changing how coaches and parents behave on the sideline. From pricing and annual rule updates to VR experiments and partnerships with NFHS, this is a practical blueprint for strengthening youth sports, improving game management, and keeping officials in the game.
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Big games don’t get easier; you get better at carrying them. Ahead of my first State Cup final, I open up about nerves, preparation, and the quiet work that turns pressure into focus: fitness tuned for late sprints, gear and crew checks that prevent chaos, and a five-minute reset that keeps me in the match instead of in my head. The heart of the story is confidence earned over 1,500 matches and the decision to judge what’s in front of me, not the crowd around me.
Howard Webb’s The Man in the Middle adds hard-won wisdom to that mindset. We walk through his Goodison Park lesson on how dangerous it is to “hide” from decisions, the halftime mind games players use to tilt your judgment, and the power of owning mistakes quickly so the next call is clean. We also dig into respect, or the lack of it, even at the top level, and why referee solidarity is non-negotiable. From there, we push for practical change: body cameras that reduce abuse and dissent, and communication systems that help train new officials in real time. If the sidelines already have multiple cameras, it’s time the referee team had tools that protect and develop them too.
The mailbag brings warmth and urgency. A 60-year-old ref logging 60 games makes the case for body cams after assaults. A dad-daughter duo in North Carolina discovers how ref work builds confidence, grit, and a bond that outlasts any scoreline. For every late starter chasing a high assignment, there’s a reminder to keep family first; the matches will go on, but the breakfasts, concerts, and small moments at home matter most. Subscribe, share this with a ref who needs a lift, and leave a review telling us the one habit that steadies you before kickoff.
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We sat down with Daneen Gonçalves, founder and chief visionary officer of The Referee Advocates, to unpack a simple idea with massive impact: treat referees like an integral and supported part of your club, build clear development pathways and watch the entire matchday experience improve. Danine brings decades as a player, coach, official and leadership professional, and she’s using that experience to help clubs become great places for referees to work and grow.
We dig into the broken parts of the system—referees thrown into games they’re not ready for, clubs that see assigning as a checkbox, and a lack of mentorship that leaves kids isolated. Daneen outlines TRA’s answer: partner directly with clubs to set standards for sideline behavior, fund mentoring, and match officials to appropriate levels. We explore a cohort model with Google Classroom, on-field scrimmage reps, and weekend tournament learning that turns shaky confidence into steady game management. There’s also a powerful mental health piece: training teens to regulate after mistakes and coaching parents on what real support looks like after tough matches.
Expect practical takeaways for directors of coaching, assigners, and parents. Learn how a few dollars per game can support mentors, how presence on the touchline quiets volatility, and why data and feedback loops help everyone focus on quality. We also share clinic insights—from ceremonial free kicks to communication that keeps play fair and safe. If you care about retention, safer fields, and cleaner soccer, this conversation is your blueprint for change.
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Tired of holding your flag up for Offside, while the whole sideline screams “REF!”? We go straight at the problem and bring on engineer and referee Sam Rall, the creator of RareBit Offcial buzzer flags. He shows how a simple haptic signal can transform crew communication, reduce chaos, and keep matches flowing.
David opens with the bigger picture—why innovation in referee education meets resistance from comfortable committees—and then we zoom into the design and decisions that make a better tool: modern Bluetooth 5 for reliable range, firmware that boosts power only when needed, and an ergonomic, slightly elliptical grip that feels right for 90 minutes and beyond.
Sam takes us from sticker shock to solution. He breaks down how legacy electronic flags cost hundreds more than their parts, why redundancy matters even with comms, and where a buzz beats a shout: delayed offside, coffin-corner touchlines, quick subs, and review awareness. We map out practical pregame logic—press without flag to cue involvement questions, distinct patterns for AR1, AR2, or fourth official—turning a basic button into a shared language that prevents confusion after the net ripples.
Building hardware isn’t glamorous. Sam shares the five-year journey through prototypes, molds, dead boards, firmware bugs, and the realities of a niche market where American refs often buy their own gear. The payoff is real: long battery life with USB C charging, waterproof construction, and sets that sell out because they simply work. Along the way, David makes the case for builder-led progress in officiating—tools made by refs, for refs, at a price that brings pro-level communication within reach of the grassroots.
If you believe better decisions start with better tools, you’ll love this one. Subscribe, share with your crew, and leave a review to help more referees find gear and ideas that make the game better for everyone.
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The whistle isn’t the hard part. It’s the noise around it—sidelines boiling over, subtle bias that undermines authority, and those early games where one bad interaction can end a career before it starts. We sit down with rising official Mia Clark to talk about staying in the game, building real confidence, and why supporting women on the whistle changes everything.
Mia traces her path from a 14-year-old assistant learning the lines in the rain to assignments in the USLW and high school state playoffs. She shares the moments that almost pushed her out, the mentors who kept her grounded, and a simple, firm script that turns chaos into clarity: address the negative behavior, set boundaries and enforce consequences.
Along the way, we cover practical tools for young refs—rehearsed language for dissent and when to demand crowd management or terminate a match. Mia’s stories reveal how small choices by assistants, coaches, and athletic directors can empower or erode a center’s authority.
We also make the case for refereeing as a flexible, high-value job for students that builds decision-making, conflict resolution, and composure under pressure. And we spotlight why seeing women command a match matters for every player, parent, and future official.
If you care about better soccer, safer games, and keeping good people on the field, this conversation is a blueprint. Listen, share with your crew, and help change the culture one match at a time. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what’s your go-to line for handling dissent?
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Grief has a way of focusing the lens on what actually matters: how someone lived, how they treated those who couldn't fight back, and what they stood for even when it was unpopular. My dad never reffed, but he taught me everything about making life’s hardest decisions—kindness first, integrity always, and the courage to do the hard right thing when it counts.
We trace a life well lived: European trips, science missions to Alaska and Hawaii, a deep love of national parks, and a New Yorker’s unlikely passion for country line dancing that led to a 30–year romance.
We revisit tossing a baseball on city streets, marathon training before dawn, and the quiet discipline that turns effort into outcome. We share how encyclopedias on the floor, a giant Webster’s dictionary, and early computers turned learning disabilities into a path forward—fueling concise communication, clear thinking, and the confidence to advocate.
You’ll hear about a 37–year career at Queensborough Community College, summers at NASA, an 1,100–page dissertation on wave theory, and a refusal to soften standards just to keep the peace. The throughline is leadership: empathy without condescension, accountability without cruelty, and match control rooted in respect and the spirit of the game.
There’s family history and service, too: caregiving after Holocaust loss, showing up for elders, single fatherhood with PTA meetings and homemade lasagna, and even building one of the first elementary school computer labs—so kids could have opportunities he never had.
The takeaway is simple: love unconditionally, stay curious, work past comfort, and anchor your choices in honor. That’s the playbook we use on the field and at home, and it’s the legacy we hope to live up to—one “good man” moment at a time.
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Landing my dream job as Director of Referee Programming and Development at SoCal Soccer League marks the culmination of a four-year journey that began when I started the Refs Need Love Too channel as a joke in 2021. What started as an escape from corporate burnout has transformed into a full-time opportunity to improve referee development across the largest soccer league in America, with over 4,400 teams and 40,000 players.
This career shift represents everything I've been working toward—taking what I've done nights and weekends for years and making it my day job. The position allows me to create comprehensive training systems that address what current referee education lacks: practical guidance for managing real-world match situations beyond basic mechanics and rules.
Current referee training focuses too heavily on the top 1% of officials while neglecting the 99% working grassroots matches. These grassroots referees face entirely different challenges than what's seen in professional matches with perfect pitches and elite athletes. We need practical training for managing bunched play, varying skill levels, and parent interactions at youth levels.
For new referees especially, success depends on factors rarely covered in certification courses. Professional appearance creates a crucial first impression. Confident presence during check-in establishes authority. Calling fouls consistently prevents matches from spiraling out of control. Clear communication fills information vacuums that might otherwise be filled with complaints. Proper movement demonstrates effort and improves positioning for making accurate calls.
Whether you're a new referee seeking guidance, an experienced official looking to mentor others, or someone considering this rewarding path, remember that refereeing isn't just about applying rules—it's about managing people, creating positive environments, and finding purpose through service to the game we love.
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What does it take to officiate at the highest level of world soccer? Matthew Conger, who refereed at both the 2018 and 2022 FIFA World Cups, pulls back the curtain on the journey from grassroots to elite officiating in this fascinating conversation.
Growing up as a goalkeeper in Georgia before eventually representing New Zealand on the international stage, Conger's unique path provides rare insights into what truly separates good referees from great ones. "Positioning and movement is the bedrock of good decision-making," he explains, revealing how sometimes just two or three meters makes the difference between seeing a play clearly or missing crucial details.
The psychological aspects of elite officiating take center stage as Conger shares his philosophy that "pressure is a privilege" – a mindset shift that helped him perform on soccer's biggest stages. He details the deliberate team culture he built with his officiating crews, including creating meaningful team logos and focusing on emotional regulation to ensure clear decision-making under pressure.
Perhaps most surprisingly, Conger demystifies World Cup referees by noting they were "just like me" – dedicated, hardworking individuals with a passion for the game rather than superhuman figures. This humanizing perspective extends to his approach to mistakes, emphasizing the importance of owning errors, analyzing their causes, and using them as growth opportunities rather than dwelling in "that toxic soup of imposter syndrome."
Now through his company Total Referee, Conger is dedicated to developing officials at all levels using an integrated approach that recognizes referees as "their own athletic population" with unique developmental needs. His vision of refereeing as a creative endeavor that enables "the beautiful game to be played beautifully" reminds us why officials truly are essential stakeholders in soccer.
Whether you're an aspiring referee, a current official looking to improve, or simply curious about what happens behind the whistle, this conversation offers invaluable wisdom from someone who's been at the very pinnacle of the profession.
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What if the secret to transforming youth soccer wasn't silencing parents, but engaging them properly? In this eye-opening conversation, Skye Eddy, founder of SoccerParenting.com and "The Sideline Project" challenges the conventional wisdom about "crazy soccer parents" and reveals a path forward that benefits everyone in the youth sports ecosystem.
The narrative that parents are the worst part of youth sports has dominated for too long. Skye argues that while the truly problematic parents make up just 4-5% of the population, they've "ruined it for everyone" - driving away referees and coaches while silencing the level-headed majority who fear being judged if they become involved. Through her groundbreaking work, Skye is helping parents distinguish between supportive and distracting behaviors, with remarkable results: 32% report improved relationships with their children after just 15 minutes of training.
We dive deep into the structural problems plaguing youth soccer today - from the "professionalization" of childhood play to the excessive travel and financial burdens placed on families. Skye explains how these pressures create the perfect storm of parental stress that manifests as sideline behavior issues. The conversation takes a fascinating turn as we explore coach-parent dynamics and how establishing proper boundaries and communication channels naturally improves the environment for everyone, including referees.
With over 40,000 people already committed to the Sideline Project Pledge and partnerships with 175+ clubs nationwide, Skye's vision is gaining momentum. Her ultimate goal? A youth sports landscape where parent education is required, coaches are certified in parent engagement, and the focus shifts back to where it belongs: creating positive experiences for children.
Whether you're a referee seeking relief from sideline pressure, a coach struggling with parent relationships, or a parent navigating the complex youth soccer landscape, this conversation offers practical insights that could transform your experience. Join us as we reimagine youth sports from the sidelines up.
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What separates great referees from good ones isn't just knowledge of the laws—it's emotional intelligence. This deeply personal episode explores the challenging balance of life as a sports official while introducing a powerful mental framework called the "Let Them" theory from Mel Robbins."
We begin with an intimate look at the struggle to balance a demanding marketing career, family transitions, and referee responsibilities. As my two oldest children prepare to leave for college just as the new soccer season begins, I'm reminded how referees must constantly juggle competing priorities while still showing up fully present on match day.
For the first time publicly, I share a chapter from my upcoming book about the referee journey. It traces my path from undersized rugby player to soccer official, highlighting how my father's lessons in resilience and discipline shaped my approach to officiating. This rare glimpse into a referee's origin story helps humanize the person behind the whistle.
The core of the episode introduces Mel Robbins' "Let Them" Theory specifically applied to refereeing scenarios. This game-changing approach helps officials distinguish between harmless emotional release versus true dissent requiring intervention. When a player screams in frustration after missing a shot or a coach processes a call verbally—let them. When criticism becomes personal or persistent—that's when you step in with calm authority.
Most powerfully, the theory extends to self-compassion: referees must learn to "let go" of their own mistakes rather than carrying them like emotional weights. The ability to acknowledge errors, learn from them, and move forward with confidence isn't just helpful—it's essential for longevity in officiating.
Whether you're a new referee looking for game management techniques or an experienced official seeking mental frameworks for the toughest scenarios, this episode offers practical wisdom for maintaining composure when everyone around you is losing theirs. Share your own experiences applying these principles in your next match!
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Ever wonder why soccer fields seem to ignite emotions like few other places? In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Ryan Martin – known as the Anger Professor – reveals the perfect psychological storm that makes pitches emotional pressure cookers.
Dr. Martin challenges our fundamental understanding of anger, explaining it's not inherently negative but rather a signal of perceived injustice or goal-blocking. On the soccer field, this manifests when calls feel unfair or when someone believes the referee is preventing them from achieving their objective – winning. What makes sporting events uniquely volatile is the combination of high stakes, subjective decisions, and elevated physiological states that mirror emotional arousal.
For referees facing sideline rage, Martin offers practical wisdom: find your "pause button" by taking just a few seconds before responding to heated situations. This tiny delay gives everyone's brain oxygen to move past the reactive "lizard brain" response. Communication proves equally crucial – briefly explaining significant decisions helps fill information vacuums that would otherwise be filled with assumptions about bias or incompetence.
The most powerful insight might be his explanation of why referees ruminate on negative interactions long after matches end. This tendency to replay difficult moments isn't a weakness but evidence of caring deeply about excellence. While emotionally uncomfortable, this reflection process ultimately drives improvement when channeled constructively.
Whether you're a veteran referee seeking better match management techniques, a coach wanting to understand sideline dynamics, or a parent navigating youth sports culture, this conversation offers transformative perspectives on channeling emotions productively in competitive environments.
Ready to transform how you handle emotions on the pitch? Listen now and discover why understanding anger might be the most powerful tool in your referee toolkit.
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Soccer's law book undergoes a mini-revolution with the 2025-2026 Laws of the Game, and referee Leland Grant, National Referee Coach and Umpiro founder, breaks down the four most significant changes poised to transform how matches unfold across all levels of play.
The first major change introduces a powerful new tool for match officials: the captain-only zone. When surrounded by multiple players, referees can now signal for a four-meter exclusion zone where only the designated team captain may approach. This mechanic directly addresses referee harassment, requiring captains to wear proper armbands and take responsibility for communication. Players violating this protected space face yellow cards for dissent, transforming how disputes are managed on the field.
Perhaps most revolutionary is the guidance around the amount of time a goalkeeper may have possesion. The widely ignored six-second rule transforms into a more practical eight-second limit with an innovative visual countdown. Referees now raise their hand showing five fingers when three seconds have elapsed and count down visually until zero, with violations resulting in a corner kick rather than the previous indirect free kick. This balanced approach promises to eliminate goalkeeper time-wasting while providing clear visual cues to everyone on the field.
The drop ball procedure receives welcome clarification, allowing referees to use common sense in awarding possession to teams that would have clearly gained the ball, rather than rigidly following the "last touched" principle. The only exception remains within the penalty area, where drop balls always go to the defending goalkeeper regardless of circumstances.
These changes reflect soccer's commitment to fairness, clarity, and respect while addressing longtime frustrations with inconsistent rule application. While some competitions like MLS will delay implementation until 2026, most leagues worldwide will adopt these changes beginning July 1st.
Ready to understand these changes more deeply? Visit ussoccer.com/lawsofthegamechanges for videos and detailed explanations that will help you prepare for soccer's new era.
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Ever wonder how to stay passionate while juggling multiple demanding roles? This candid episode dives into the reality of balancing life as a referee, business professional, content creator, and parent during an especially hectic season.
David shares his journey through a particularly intense period—working full-time in sales and marketing for Hip Hues, running Refs Need Love Too, and preparing for his daughter's high school graduation while managing to referee challenging matches. Rather than feeling overwhelmed, he's discovered a powerful mindset shift that transforms exhaustion into fulfillment: consistently asking "Is what I'm doing getting me closer to my goal?"
The heart of the episode features a detailed walkthrough of David's newly launched referee cards with comprehensive pregame checklists printed on the back. This innovative tool provides referees with critical reminders about field inspection, coach interactions, substitution procedures, offside considerations, and foul management—all designed to boost confidence and crew cohesion during matches.
Particularly moving are the letters from the mailbag, including stories of young referees successfully implementing the new referee abuse guidelines and finding their voice on the pitch. These testimonials highlight how proper support systems can transform potentially career-ending negative experiences into powerful growth opportunities.
David also breaks down his recent experience officiating a challenging UPSL semi-professional match at age 50, complete with 12 cards, 5.7 miles of running, and valuable game management lessons. His account illustrates why pushing beyond comfort zones leads to greater satisfaction and skill development in officiating.
The episode closes with a poignant reminder about family priorities—with all three of his children home for potentially the last summer together, David emphasizes the importance of seizing these precious moments despite busy schedules.
Visit the Refs Need Love Too store to check out the new referee cards and other products designed to make your officiating journey more successful and enjoyable. Use code "refsneedlovetoo" for special discounts on partner products from Umpiro and Ref6.
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Ever wondered what it takes to officiate at the collegiate level? John Collins, the National Coordinator of Men's and Women's Soccer Officials for the NCAA, pulls back the curtain on a world that represents both challenge and opportunity for advancing referees.
With college soccer now boasting the largest officiating pool in NCAA sports—over 5,380 registered officials—Collins reveals the pathways to breaking into this level. "If you're working at the top youth level and at the amateur level, NCAA soccer is probably a fit for you," he explains, detailing how referees typically move from high-level youth matches to college assignments through networking and regional organizations. The conversation delves into how college soccer strategically positions itself between top amateur competitions and professional matches, creating a unique environment where officials can develop and thrive.
Collins, who balances his NCAA leadership role with a career in finance, brings perspectives from his own journey as both collegiate goalkeeper and national referee. His insights on evaluation criteria are particularly valuable: "We're looking for critical, skillful thinkers that can manage games, apply the laws, manage participants, and they've got to be good athletes." This emphasis on critical thinking challenges the simplistic "keep it simple" mantra that many referees learn at grassroots levels.
The discussion also addresses the evolving relationship between NCAA and IFAB rules, referee shortage challenges, and the critical importance of experiential learning and community-building for referee development. Whether you're considering collegiate officiating or simply interested in understanding the referee pathway better, Collins offers wisdom applicable to officials at every level, including his personal philosophy: "Plan for the unexpected."
Ready to explore collegiate officiating opportunities? Email ncaasoccerofficials@gmail.com to learn how to connect with conference assigners or NISOA chapters in your region.
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What does it take to excel as a defender when you don't fit the physical prototype? Michael Parkhurst, who captained Atlanta United to their 2018 MLS Cup victory, reveals how his mind became his greatest strength on the soccer pitch.
"My brain was my biggest asset," Parkhurst explains, detailing how he compensated for lacking the traditional center back qualities of height, strength, and aerial prowess. This mental approach not only fueled his remarkable professional career but also inspired his current mission helping young players develop beyond their technical abilities.
After watching talented academy players fail to earn second contracts despite their skills, Parkhurst co-founded Beyond Goals Mentoring with former teammate Greg Garza. Their organization addresses the immense pressure facing today's young players and teaches the often-overlooked mental skills crucial for success. From building resilience and confidence to developing leadership and emotional control, these tools serve athletes both on and off the pitch.
The conversation offers valuable insights for players, coaches, and referees alike. Parkhurst breaks down what makes a great referee from a player's perspective: mutual respect, clear communication, and consistency. He provides practical advice on player-referee interactions, emphasizing respectful dialogue and emotional management during heated moments.
Parents will find particular value in Parkhurst's observations about sideline behavior and how it affects both player development and referee retention. His perspective highlights how well-meaning parents often undermine their children's growth by removing opportunities to learn through mistakes and develop decision-making skills.
Whether you're a player looking to elevate your mental game, a referee seeking to understand the player's mindset, or a parent supporting a young athlete, this episode delivers practical wisdom from someone who reached soccer's highest levels through intelligence rather than physical dominance. Visit beyondgoalsmentoring.com to learn more about developing the complete athlete.
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Have you ever wondered how the best soccer referees reach the pinnacle of their profession? For national referee Bowen Taylor, the answer lies in stepping out of your comfort zone and traveling to officiate matches across the country.
At just 25 years old, Bowen has already achieved what many referees dream of – earning his national badge and working professional matches in leagues like USL Championship and MLS Next Pro. His secret weapon? Using travel as a catalyst for growth. When you officiate unfamiliar teams on unfamiliar fields with unfamiliar colleagues, you develop adaptability and confidence that transforms your refereeing forever.
In this revealing conversation, Bowen shares how he made the bold decision as a college-aged player to pursue refereeing full-time, recognizing that his potential in officiating far exceeded his prospects as a D2 backup. That decision led him to tournaments across the country, where he strategically sought feedback from national referee coaches and built a support network of colleagues who understand the unique challenges of the profession.
Now, Bowen is making these same opportunities accessible to all referees through Travel Ref, a free platform connecting officials with tournaments nationwide. From prestigious youth competitions to local events in beautiful destinations, the service helps referees find matches that match their qualifications while handling all the logistical complications that previously made tournament travel mysterious and difficult.
Whether you're an ambitious referee looking to advance through the ranks or simply seeking to combine your passion for officiating with seeing new parts of the country, this episode offers practical advice on making referee travel work for you. Bowen's tips on maintaining professionalism, preparing for different environmental conditions, and maximizing feedback opportunities provide a roadmap for successful referee adventures.
Create your free profile at travelref.com and discover how stepping onto new fields might be the key to unlocking your potential as a referee. Your next whistle could be in Miami, Colorado, South Dakota, or beyond – where will your referee journey take you?
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The soccer referee uniform has become an unexpected battleground where tradition, practicality, and safety collide. Drawing from over 11 years and 1,300 matches of experience, I share my frustration with the often unreasonable uniform standards imposed on grassroots referees that sometimes compromise their health and wellbeing.
Despite US Soccer officially approving hats as part of the referee uniform, many senior officials still pressure referees to forego this essential sun protection. This isn't just about appearance—it's a serious health concern. Many long-time referees have developed skin cancers and eye conditions from prolonged sun exposure. When you're working multiple matches in scorching summer tournaments, a black baseball cap isn't just sensible; it's necessary protection against potentially life-threatening conditions.
The uniform monopoly in American soccer creates another significant barrier. Unlike other countries where referees can wear any black shirt with their federation badge, American referees must purchase expensive Official Sports International gear—over $50 per jersey across five different colors. This financial burden becomes especially prohibitive for new officials just entering the profession.
What truly matters for the 98% of us working grassroots matches? A clean, tucked-in USSF Style Jersey, proper black shorts, socks and appropriate footwear create a professional appearance without obsessing over minor details. Yes, regional and national referees pursuing promotion should adhere to stricter standards, but for everyone else, reasonable accommodations for weather and comfort should be prioritized.
We lose 80% of new referees within three years due to abuse and inadequate support—not because they wore a hat to protect themselves from the sun. If we want to develop and retain quality officials, we need to focus on skills like positioning, communication, and game management rather than nitpicking uniform details that have little impact on match quality.
Does your approach to referee development focus on what truly matters? Join the conversation about finding the right balance between professional appearance and practical concerns in the beautiful game.
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What happens when we normalize abuse toward the most vulnerable members of our sports community? David Gerson, host of Refs Need Love Too, joins attorney Ben Glass on the Renegade Lawyer podcast to tackle one of youth sports' most pervasive problems—referee abuse and its devastating impact on officiating retention.
This raw, revealing conversation explores the alarming statistics: we've lost over 30% of certified soccer referees since 2019, with 80% of new officials quitting within three years primarily due to sideline abuse. David shares powerful personal stories, including the moment his teenage son nearly walked away from officiating after being confronted by an aggressive adult player, highlighting the human cost behind these numbers.
The discussion takes an encouraging turn as David reveals his behind-the-scenes work developing US Soccer's comprehensive new referee abuse policies. These groundbreaking guidelines establish clear boundaries between emotional expression and unacceptable behavior, with meaningful consequences—including triple sanctions when directed at minor officials. Meanwhile, states like Virginia are implementing landmark legislation making even verbal threats against officials a class one misdemeanor.
Both David and Ben, with over 60 combined years of officiating experience, offer practical wisdom for creating safer environments. They explore the puzzling double standard where children are protected as players but subjected to abuse as referees, and share strategies for addressing dissent before it escalates. Their conversation illuminates a path forward where respect for officials enhances the game experience for everyone involved.
Whether you're a parent, coach, player, or official, this episode offers actionable insights into breaking the cycle of abuse and building a youth sports culture that prioritizes both competitive excellence and human dignity. Subscribe to Refs Need Love 2 for more behind-the-scenes perspectives on transforming sports culture from the referee's vantage point.
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What does it really take to officiate at soccer's highest levels while maintaining a corporate career?Pro assistant referee Melissa Gonzalez pulls back the curtain on the demanding reality behind the flags and whistles.
"The perception is this is my full-time job, but it's not," Gonzalez reveals, describing her meticulous scheduling between IT project management responsibilities and professional refereeing commitments. Unlike many officials who map out deliberate career paths, Melissa's journey began simply with curiosity and the need for college spending money. Her progression came through consistently showing up, performing well, and remaining open to unexpected opportunities.
Standing at just 5'2", Gonzalez defied those who said she could never pass the men's FIFA fitness test, showcasing the determination that defines her career. Her transition from center referee to assistant referee highlights an often overlooked path in officiating – one requiring exceptional adaptability to work with different center referees and their unique communication styles.
Perhaps most compelling is Melissa's candid discussion of gender discrimination throughout her career. From being told she "belonged in the kitchen" to questioning her knowledge of the game, she faced barriers that could have derailed her passion. Instead, she transformed these challenges into character-building opportunities. "Refereeing as a female builds you as an individual," she explains, crediting the profession for developing resilience that extends into all aspects of life.
Whether you're a young referee facing abuse or an experienced official looking to advance, Gonzalez offers simple but powerful wisdom: "Accept failure, learn from it, and keep showing up with a great attitude." Her journey reminds us that the rewards of refereeing – professional opportunities, personal growth, and community connections – come to those who persist through challenges with passion and determination.
Want to connect with other referees or share your own experiences? Reach out through the Refs Need Love Too channel, where the referee community continues to grow and support each other through the beautiful game's most challenging role.
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Join us for a captivating conversation with Ismail Elfath, a FIFA International Referee who has officiated matches on the world stage. Throughout the episode, Ismail outlines the critical skills of game management and the significance of body language and authority in establishing respect from players. He shares personal stories and advice that showcase what it means to be not just a referee, but a figure of stability on the pitch.
Listeners will gain insight into the balance required to assert authority while maintaining empathy—essential for successful officiating. Ismail illustrates this through discussions on his early experiences, the importance of mentorship, and the critical lessons learned through years of dedication. Additionally, he recounts a heartwarming moment when he officiated a game for his son, providing a unique perspective on the emotional ties that exist in sports officiating.
Whether you’re a seasoned referee, a newcomer, or just a fan of the game, this episode offers impactful advice and touching stories. After listening, connect with us on social media to share your thoughts or favorite moments from the podcast. Together, let’s keep the conversation going about the vital role of referees in sports!
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Kari Seitz, one of the most distinguished figures in soccer officiating, unravels the secrets of her trailblazing career in our latest episode. As the Vice President of Referees for US Soccer and the former FIFA head of refereeing for women, Kari's insights are a treasure trove for anyone passionate about the beautiful game. With her unparalleled experience at four World Cups and three Olympic Games, she has a one-of-kind perspective as she shares her strategies for advancing refereeing in the U.S.
The landscape of refereeing has undergone immense transformation, and Kari takes us through this evolution with a focus on empowering female referees. She candidly discusses the hurdles faced in earlier decades and how performance excellence helped overcome gender biases. Kari's dedication is evident in initiatives like the Women's Initiative, which aims to uplift female representation among referees. We also explore the impact of technology on the sport, showcasing the continual advancements shaping the field today.
This episode doesn't shy away from addressing the pressing issue of referee abuse and how US Soccer's new policies are set to tackle these challenges head-on. Kari passionately advocates for education and better support systems for grassroots referees, emphasizing the critical need for community involvement in creating a safer soccer environment. By encouraging more individuals to take up referee courses, she paves the way for a more inclusive and understanding soccer culture. Join us for a conversation that not only highlights Kari's remarkable leadership but also envisions a future where refereeing is a respected and essential pillar of soccer worldwide.
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Michael Oliver's controversial red card decision during the Arsenal vs. Wolves match has ignited debates far beyond the pitch, demanding a closer look at the high-stakes world of refereeing. Join us as we unpack the intense scrutiny faced by officials in the English Premier League, emphasizing the importance of empathy and understanding for their challenging roles. We also dive into David Coote's candid revelations about his journey through personal struggles, painting a poignant picture of the human side of refereeing that often goes unseen.
We offer insights and a fresh perspective on the emotional rollercoaster of officiating youth sports while parenting from the sidelines. With a background in rugby, we bring a unique lens to the conversation, highlighting the cultural contrasts in how referees are perceived and underscoring the need for respect and professionalism across all sports.
Explore the intricacies of youth sports dynamics where young referees, coaches, and parents navigate complex situations on and off the field. We delve into specific incidents, emphasizing the pivotal role of constructive communication and patience in fostering a supportive environment. By teaching personal responsibility and encouraging positive parental involvement, we aim to enhance the sports experience for everyone involved, ensuring that both young athletes and referees thrive in their respective roles.
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What constitutes abuse in the realm of US Soccer? Join us for a deep dive into the pressing issue of referee abuse with Brian Barlow, the force behind the Offside page on Facebook, as we navigate the new policy spearheaded by Kari Seitz, VP of Referees for US Soccer. With a focus on clarifying and categorizing abusive behavior, the policy aims to establish a uniform approach across the nation. As Brian sheds light on emerging respect at national tournaments, we confront the ongoing challenge of underreporting incidents and the persistent issues faced at the grassroots level, where parental and coach misconduct still cast a shadow.
This episode unpacks the updated protocols designed to empower referees through a clear understanding of sanctionable behaviors, from verbal taunting to cyberbullying and physical contact. We discuss the introduction of stringent penalties for repeat offenders and the particularly tough stance on offenses against minor referees. By equipping referees with these decisive tools, US Soccer demonstrates a strong commitment to protecting young officials and fostering respect.
Our conversation extends into the governance challenges of youth soccer, particularly the role of parents in shaping the game-day experience. We propose stricter measures, including codes of conduct and suspensions, to address parental misconduct. As we champion widespread education and dialogue across the soccer community, our hope is for sustained change. Share your experiences and let's work together to cultivate a culture of respect on and off the field.
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Step into the intricate world of sports officiating with seasoned litigation and trial attorney Andres Vidaldez, who brings a dual perspective as both a legal expert and a referee. Discover the unique intersection of law and sports as Andres shares insights into the complex legal landscape referees must navigate. Learn about the critical importance of understanding contracts and legal responsibilities, as well as the passion and dedication required to thrive in refereeing, whether it's a vocation or an avocation.
Explore the potential liabilities referees face on the field, from handling mass confrontations to managing on-field injuries. We shed light on the essential duties that referees must perform diligently, like conducting pregame inspections and enforcing safety-related rules, to protect themselves from legal consequences. Through real-world scenarios, we illustrate how referees can maintain safety and uphold the integrity of the game, while also safeguarding themselves from potential lawsuits.
Our conversation takes a serious turn as we address the alarming issue of assaults on referees, particularly in youth sports, and the legal avenues available for their protection. Understand the critical steps referees should take if assaulted, from ensuring personal safety to pursuing both criminal and civil actions. We emphasize the need for robust security measures at sports events and the importance of legal support in maintaining the safety and integrity of officiating. Join us for an episode that not only educates but also champions the safety and rights of referees everywhere.
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Uncover the inspiring journey of Megan Richardson, a standout referee from Georgia who has shattered barriers and set new standards in the world of female refereeing. Recognized as the Female Youth Referee of the Year multiple times, Megan opens up about the less obvious challenges she overcomes on the pitch, beyond the commonplace chauvinism. From navigating life changes to mentoring the next generation of referees, her story is a testament to resilience and passion in a male-dominated field.
Embark on a journey through the highs and lows of progressing as a soccer referee, from local games to the intense realm of regional tournaments. We explore the strategic understatements of experience, the impact of prestigious awards, and the mesmerizing environment of multi-day tournaments that test skill and endurance. Listen in as Megan shares her experiences officiating college and semi-professional leagues, highlighting the significance of networking, maintaining strong relationships, and the essential balance between personal commitments and demanding travel schedules.
Empowerment and mentorship take center stage as we discuss the crucial role of programs like FROGS (Female Referees of Georgia) in supporting young female referees. Megan's dedication to inspiring others is evident as she shares the value of representation and the impact of setting a positive pregame tone with detailed preparations. From mastering offside calls to effective communication with assistant referees, we provide practical advice and strategies for handling the pressures of the game. This episode is more than just a conversation—it's a celebration of the resilience and strength female referees bring to sports.
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What happens when you walk away from a secure corporate job to pursue your passion for running a small business, refereeing and mentorship? Join me, David Gerson, as I recount the exhilarating journey from the office to the field, where the thrill of officiating high-stakes matches like the Georgia State Cup semi-finals and finals became my new reality. Through this transition, I discovered the power of female representation in high-level soccer games and found fulfillment in mentoring young referees, ultimately choosing family and well-being over climbing the corporate ladder.
Explore the critical yet behind-the-scenes role of a fourth official, where managing substitutions and being ready to step in as the main referee underscore the adaptability essential in this position. My firsthand experiences from the State Cup, including the unexpected honor of receiving a commemorative ring, highlight the recognition referees seldom receive, yet deeply appreciate. Modern tools like the Refr sports platform and the Ref6 Pro app have become invaluable resources that optimize our efficiency and effectiveness on the field.
Personal stories bring warmth and depth to this episode, especially as I share my son Jacob's journey back to refereeing after overcoming challenges. Listener interactions, like Dan's touching letter about discovering his passion for the sport through his son's games, weave a rich tapestry of community and inspiration. Together, we celebrate shared experiences, learn from the unpredictable nature of the game. Thank you for being part of this supportive community, and here's wishing you a holiday season filled with fair play and no red cards.
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Ever wondered what it's like to transition from the adrenaline rush of being an elite player to the disciplined world of professional refereeing? Join me as I talk to the trailblazing Amy Barrett - Theron, South Africa's pioneering international rugby referee. Together, we explore her groundbreaking journey as the first South African woman to officiate in esteemed competitions like Super Rugby and the Olympics. Our conversation celebrates the cultural heartbeat of rugby in South Africa, ignited by the iconic 1995 World Cup, and the sport's unique ability to bring together players of all shapes, sizes and backgrounds.
We shed light on the often-overlooked path from player to referee, tackling the fears and misconceptions that deter many professional players from picking up the whistle. Drawing from personal experiences, we discuss the enriching opportunities refereeing offers to stay connected with the game without succumbing to the spotlight pressures. Amy's insights highlight how former players bring a valuable perspective to officiating and the personal growth it requires to shift from a team to a more individualistic role. Our discussion celebrates the camaraderie within the rugby refereeing community and how mutual respect and dialogue between referees and players create a harmonious field environment.
Discover the art of communication and decision-making in rugby, where mutual respect between players and referees sets it apart from other sports like soccer. Amy shares her strategies for maintaining focus under high pressure, handling dissent with grace, and embracing the role of facilitating a fair game. Gain practical advice on simplifying rugby refereeing, focusing on key rules, and learning from mistakes to ensure the game remains enjoyable for all. Whether you're a seasoned referee or curious about the dynamics of rugby officiating, this episode promises valuable insights and a heartfelt appreciation for the unique world of rugby refereeing.
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Robin Ruegg, a USA Brevet rating gymnastics judge with over 40 years of experience, joins us to unravel the fascinating world of gymnastics officiating. Robin shares her journey from a gymnast at the University of Minnesota to a respected judge, offering insights into the crucial yet frequently overlooked financial responsibilities that come with being a sports official.
We tackle the nitty-gritty of tax responsibilities and deductions tailored for referees, judges, and officials. Uncover how to navigate the maze of tax-deductible expenses such as professional membership fees, training costs, and the specificities around officiating. Our conversation dives into the importance of differentiating between deductions and credits, with practical examples, including whether your iPad might help trim your tax bill.
Finally, we focus on financial strategies for sole proprietors, like referees and coaches, emphasizing meticulous income reporting—even those amounts under $600, which often slip under the radar. Robin offers valuable advice on securing your financial future through pension plans like SEP IRAs or Roth IRAs. With personal anecdotes, we highlight the power of consistent contributions to retirement savings and demystify the tax implications of different retirement account types, ensuring you're better equipped for a stable financial future.
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I had the pleasure of being a guest on the High Kicks Podcast. The discussion was fun and informative. I had a blast talking about what I love about being a ref and the challenges of being an official in the beautiful game.
The episode ventures into the world of professional refereeing, where the pressure is immense and errors are an inevitable part of the job. We offered a compelling look at the human side of officiating, recognizing the split-second decisions referees must make and the scrutiny they face, even with technological aids like VAR. We discuss the emotional charged atmosphere in sports, differentiating between frustration and personal attacks from players and fans, and how referees maintain their composure amidst it all. The insights shed light on the complexities of the job and the resilience required to thrive in such an intense environment.
Technology’s role in refereeing is a hot topic, and we explore its evolving presence in the game, from automated offsides to the balance between tech and the human touch. David weighs in on the challenges and opportunities that come with these advancements, advocating for better communication to help fans understand referee decisions. We also discuss issues of bias and professionalism, reflecting on high-profile incidents and their impact on the perception of referees. Whether you're a fan, a player, or someone intrigued by the art of officiating, this episode is packed with insights and anecdotes that illuminate the often misunderstood world of referees.
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Jan Ter Hamsel, the creator behind the influential Dutch Referee Blog (dutchreferee.com & @dutchreferee on Instagram), offers a unique look into the life and development of soccer referees around the globe. Join us as Jan shares the inspiration behind his blog, which has grown into an educational hub for referees seeking both personal and professional growth. He contrasts the robust training and development pathways available in the Netherlands with the limited opportunities faced by grassroots referees in the United States, emphasizing the role of continuous education and dedication in improving officiating skills.
Discover the intricacies of the KNVB's comprehensive referee training and mentorship programs that highlight foundational skills and real-world experiences. Jan explains how these programs support new referees with guidance from seasoned mentors and reflective practices. Our discussion sheds light on the challenges of referee retention and the cultural dynamics influencing interactions between referees, players, and spectators. New initiatives aimed at fostering respect and reducing referee abuse are explored, aiming to enhance the atmosphere on the field.
In a candid discussion about personal growth, Jan unveils the self-scan technique as a tool for referees to identify strengths and areas for improvement. We dive into the importance of physical fitness and a growth mindset, vital for maintaining credibility and ensuring continuous development. Jan shares insights into the structured referee progression in the Netherlands, highlighting the value of consistent learning and maintaining a positive outlook despite age-related challenges. Join us for an inspiring conversation that celebrates the dedication and resilience of referees worldwide.
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Are you ready to conquer the challenges of refereeing in cold weather conditions? Discover why I, David Gerson, prefer the chill to the sweltering heat and hear all about my top tips for staying warm on the pitch. Learn how you can maintain your professionalism while keeping comfortable, with insights into acceptable cold weather gear for referees and grassroots officials. We’ll explore everything from hats to long pants, ensuring you’re prepared for any icy encounter on the field.
Join me on a journey into the camaraderie and shared passion that binds referees from every walk of life. You’ll get a behind-the-scenes look at how we tackle tough calls, like potential penalties and debated offside goals, through effective communication and teamwork. With over ten years of experience under my belt, I’ll share stories of mutual support among referees and how we navigate the highs and lows together, always striving to uphold the integrity of the game we love.
For those of you looking to start your refereeing journey, I’ve got words of encouragement and practical advice. Find out how to gain certification, build confidence through practical experience, and handle criticism like a pro. We’ll discuss the importance of fitness, impartiality, and of course, the joy of giving back to the sport. Plus, hear an inspiring story from Wyoming that highlights the human side of officiating and our impact on young players. Whether you’re experienced or just starting, this episode promises valuable insights and stories from the field. And don't miss a special announcement about a secret new item launching soon that could be the perfect holiday gift!
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Ever found yourself in the middle of a soccer match, caught between the roar of the crowd and the whistle in your hand? Join me, David Gerson, as I recount the highs and lows of grassroots refereeing, sharing my first-hand experiences on the pitch. Starting with the sweet taste of success in a seamless match, we quickly progress to the chaos of an intense game where a tactical foul ignited a firestorm of protests. Through these stories, you'll discover the art of maintaining authority amidst a sea of dissent and learn essential strategies for keeping unruly behavior in check while ensuring fairness.
Safety and respect are paramount, especially when a player's well-being is on the line. Reflecting on a tense incident involving a young player's head injury, I underscore the critical responsibility referees have in prioritizing player safety, even when facing resistance from coaches. This episode also shines a light on the limited training referees typically receive and the immense value of mentorship in this role. By weaving in personal anecdotes and listener stories, we highlight the importance of patience and perseverance for both new and seasoned referees navigating the challenging dynamics of the game.
Lastly, we confront the darker side of refereeing—verbal abuse from spectators and the lack of support from coaches. Through vivid scenarios, we explore the emotional toll such behavior can take on referees and stress the necessity of enforcing guidelines to curb abuse. The narratives of former critics turned referees serve as a powerful reminder of the transformative impact of empathy and understanding. As we wrap up, the focus shifts to fostering a culture of respect and appreciation for referees, celebrating the passion and persistence needed to thrive in youth sports environments.
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What if managing a soccer match could be as strategic as a chess game, with every move calculated for maximum safety and control? Join me, David Gerson, as I unravel the art of officiating amidst the beauty and chaos of soccer, especially in the challenging aftermath of Hurricane Helene. This episode promises insights into the delicate balance of passion and responsibility, focusing on strategies to handle mass confrontations on the field. From forming a "triangle of control" with fellow referees to harnessing the leadership of team captains, learn how quick, decisive actions can ensure the safety and integrity of the game.
Drawing from over a decade of experience as a grassroots referee, I share the tools and techniques that have empowered me in my journey. Technology plays a pivotal role here, with the RefSix app transforming the way referees can enhance their performance. Imagine having instant access to metrics like distance covered and sprint stats, just like having your personal coach right on your wrist. The app not only aids in precise game management but also fosters a sense of community among referees, encouraging support and constructive feedback, which is crucial in a profession that can often feel isolated.
The episode also shines a light on the often-overlooked issue of referee abuse, with practical advice on handling hostility and maintaining professionalism in the face of adversity. Hear stories of dedication, like that of a 55-year-old grassroots referee chasing his dream to reach the regional level, proving that age is just a number when it comes to passion and commitment. Finally, I express my gratitude to our listeners, whose support through ratings keeps this platform alive and thriving. Let's celebrate the privilege of being part of the soccer community, where every match is an opportunity to grow, lead, and inspire.
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What motivates someone to remain dedicated to soccer for over four decades? Discover the answer as we sit down with Bryan McDermott, a cornerstone of Georgia's soccer community. Bryan shares his journey as a coach, referee, mentor, assigner, and board member, offering a comprehensive look into the life of an individual who has given so much to the sport. From his early motivations to the complexities of being a referee assigner, Bryan's insights are invaluable for anyone interested in the behind-the-scenes work that keeps the soccer community thriving.
Ever wondered about the logistical chaos behind assigning referees to soccer games? Bryan walks us through the tangled web of systems that game officials that referees must navigate each week. We discuss how disjointed platforms and communication methods create a frenzied environment for assigners, highlighting the urgent need for a more streamlined approach. Bryan also uncovers the financial dynamics of referee assigning, revealing how assigners are compensated and the unique challenges they face, especially during tournaments where scheduling changes and referee shortages are commonplace.
The journey of a referee is far from straightforward, and Bryan sheds light on the development process, emphasizing the role of mentorship and strong recommendations in advancing one's career. We explore the evolving maturity and resilience of young referees, noting how the landscape has changed over the years. Through personal anecdotes and experiences, Brian reveals the crucial role of club leadership in fostering a positive soccer culture. Join us as we celebrate Bryan's remarkable contributions and the vibrant soccer community he has helped build in Georgia.
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Ever wondered how to navigate the complexities of life as a referee while juggling personal challenges? This week's episode of Refs Need Love 2 takes you on a heartfelt journey, starting with my reflections on my 81-year-old father's health struggles. This deeply personal narrative serves as a poignant reminder of the importance of cherishing our loved ones.
Shifting gears, I share the unique challenges faced by referees, including weather disruptions and the physical demands of back-to-back games. An amusing story about "runner's nipple" adds a touch of humor, underscoring the passion and dedication required in grassroots refereeing.
Have you ever been confronted by a coach after a tough match? In a particularly intense U15 ECNL game, a surprising 1-0 outcome led to a post-match confrontation with a losing coach who blamed a missed foul for the loss. Despite reviewing game footage that didn't support his complaint, the coach's fixation on winning highlighted a troubling mindset. This episode delves into the importance of fostering a growth mindset in sports, focusing on player development and constructive feedback rather than a victim mentality. The insights drawn from this experience aim to provoke thought and inspire change in competitive sports environments.
Effective communication is the cornerstone of successful officiating, but how do you master it? This episode offers valuable techniques for handling interactions with difficult people, drawing from both on-field experiences and a listener's heartfelt question about mean individuals in everyday life. From strategic warnings to maintaining emotional control, I emphasize the importance of not internalizing others' negativity.
Discover how choosing happiness and empathy can transform challenging interactions, both on and off the field, and learn practical strategies for maintaining a positive mindset in the face of adversity. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on managing emotions and fostering resilience in the world of refereeing and beyond.
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What if transforming the culture of soccer refereeing could be as simple as introducing a new card? Join us as we explore this transformative idea with Richard and Will Bradwell, the father-son team behind the Positive Referee Coalition. Richard, a seasoned referee, and his son Will, share their innovative approach of using green cards to promote sportsmanship and respect on the soccer field—a practice Richard first pioneered in 1996 and which Will is now helping to expand. Together, they aim to create a more positive and enjoyable environment for everyone involved in the game.
Hear the inspiring story of a goalkeeper who received the inaugural green card for her resilience, a moment that motivated both teams and set the stage for broader adoption. We delve into the evolving role of referees, moving beyond mere enforcement to becoming ambassadors of positivity and respect. The Bradwells explain how the green card system, once a recreational tool, is now making waves in competitive matches and transforming the attitudes of referees, players, and spectators alike. They also share the early successes from New York, proving the system's potential to enhance soccer officiating and attract new referees to the field with renewed passion.
Discover the various strategies the Positive Referee Coalition is implementing to tackle referee shortages and improve the refereeing environment, from flexible attire to a buddy system for addressing spectator concerns. Learn about the coalition's free certification course and other resources designed to promote positive refereeing. This episode is packed with heartwarming stories and practical insights on how recognizing and rewarding good sportsmanship can revolutionize youth sports and foster a culture of respect and enthusiasm on and off the pitch. Don't miss this enlightening conversation that's sure to change how you view the role of referees in soccer.
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Have you ever wondered what it takes to become a top-level referee? Join us as we sit down with Jonathan Wilkes, a Level 3 referee from Brighton, England, who has officiated matches across Australia and Denmark. Jonathan opens up about how his father’s refereeing career sparked his passion and how the innovative Ref6 smartwatch app reignited his love for the game. His unique blend of sports science expertise and personal training for referees provides an insightful look into the world of officiating.
Achieving referee promotions in the UK is no small feat, and Jonathan guides us through this rigorous journey—from trainee to the competitive ranks of Level 3. He breaks down the fitness tests, assessment criteria, and regional rankings that referees must navigate to climb the ladder. We also explore the key differences between the UK and US refereeing systems, offering valuable insights for aspiring referees around the globe.
Effective communication is pivotal on the pitch, and we delve into the FA's strategies to improve dialogue between players and officials, especially in semi-professional leagues. Jonathan shares his experiences with the sin bin rule and the transformative power of technology, like the Ref6 app, that is revolutionizing how referees manage matches. From advanced timing features to performance analytics, discover how these tools are enhancing the referee experience. This episode is brimming with practical advice, personal stories, and a deep exploration into the evolving world of refereeing.
Unlock the secrets to peak performance for referees with our special guest, Austin Ardrey, CEO of Runnin' Ref. Have you ever considered the rigorous athletic demands placed on sports officials? Austin shares his expansive knowledge on why referees should be considered athletes, given their demanding roles in basketball, soccer, and football. Discover how sport-specific training programs are meticulously designed to address the unique movements and fitness needs of referees, and why these often-overlooked athletes deserve our utmost respect.
Managing energy and recovery is crucial for referees to perform at their best. In this episode, Austin dives deep into effective strategies for injury prevention, with a particular focus on tackling common issues like Achilles tendonitis. Gain valuable insights on how rest, targeted strengthening, and proper movement mechanics are essential for maintaining optimal condition and avoiding injuries. Learn how tools like the Ref6 app can revolutionize the way referees track their fitness metrics and enhance their performance game after game.
Prepare to elevate your refereeing skills with practical tips on nutrition, hydration, and fitness maintenance straight from the expert. Austin highlights the significance of a balanced diet, proper electrolyte replenishment, and effective warm-up routines to ensure peak performance on the pitch. From recommendations on lean protein and easily digestible carbs to choosing the right electrolyte products, this episode is a treasure trove of actionable advice. Whether you’re a seasoned referee or a newcomer, Austin’s expertise will empower you to excel in officiating with confidence and prowess.
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What if the future of football refereeing was already here? On this episode of "Refs Need Love Too," we break down the groundbreaking updates to the laws of the game for the 2024 and 2025 seasons. From allowing goal-line technology feedback to be communicated through earpieces, to introducing additional permanent concussion substitutions, and mandating team captains to wear identifying armbands, these changes have been enshrined to the laws of the game. We'll also discuss the differences in local competition rules, particularly around concussion protocols, and clarify the compulsory use of shin guards in IFAB club competitions versus high school and college soccer in the U.S.
Get ready to grasp the nuances of VAR in the Premier League, including recent tweaks to handball offenses, penalty kicks, and encroachment rules. We'll explore why yellow cards for non-deliberate handballs in the penalty area make sense and the new regulation ensuring that penalty kicks are consistently fair. Plus, we offer insights on the revamped approach to encroachment during penalties, emphasizing a fairer and more logical method of officiating. Our deep dive into these changes will help ensure you're up-to-date with the latest in football refereeing.
Finally, discover the latest enhancements in referee etiquette and tools that are changing the game. We discuss the semi-automated offsides system, referees explaining decisions on Twitter, and the critical role of the Ref Six Pro app. Plus, we clear up some misconceptions about goalkeepers and handball offenses. Don't miss our popular mailbag segment, where we engage with referees and coaches to bring you real-life insights from the field. This episode is packed with essential information and practical tips to keep you ahead of the game.
Agency for Change : A Podcast from KidGlov
Stories of changemakers and how their actions are driving positive impact in the world.
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Ever wondered what it takes to be a top-tier referee across multiple sports? Our guest Paul Risdall, a seasoned official in soccer, basketball, and lacrosse, shares his remarkable journey from a young referee to a collegiate and semi-pro level officiant. Paul’s unique story includes a hiatus from the referee world, only to return and ascend to new heights in officiating while balancing his role as the lead pastor and a dedicated family man. Tune in to hear about his thrilling initiation into high school varsity soccer and how it sparked a deeper passion for refereeing.
Join us as we explore the distinct challenges inherent in officiating different sports, with Paul providing insights into the intense environments of high school basketball and the nuanced world of girls lacrosse. Learn about the progression of refereeing careers and how the Minnesota State Referee Association plays a pivotal role in supporting officials at various levels. Our conversation also delves into the differences in pay scales and the added responsibilities that come with advancing to collegiate and semi-pro levels.
In an innovative twist, Paul recounts his frustration with existing referee gear, which led him to create his own rewritable referee cards. Discover the journey and success of these cards, now used by professional referees. We wrap up the episode with heartfelt reflections on the connections and friendships formed through soccer refereeing and offer a special discount on referee merchandise as a token of our appreciation for our listeners. Don’t miss this engaging and inspiring episode of "Refs Need Love Too"!
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Unlock the secrets to mastering the art of officiating in soccer as we talk to Will Reed, a referee and exercise science researcher. Will's journey into the world of refereeing began in north Atlanta, inspired by his professor Kevin Hewitt. From youth games to high-stakes academy and UPSL matches, Will shares his passion for staying connected to the game, mentoring young players, and the undeniable physical and emotional rewards of being a referee. This episode is packed with Will’s insights on his path to regional certification and his groundbreaking research into assistant referee performance.
Ever wondered how the fitness demands on referees compare to those on players? Will’s research reveals fascinating data on the distances covered by referees, particularly assistant referees, and questions the effectiveness of FIFA’s current fitness tests. We explore the unique challenges assistant referees face, such as maintaining offside lines while carrying a flag, and how these factors may impact their overall performance. Will’s candid take on the frustrations with existing fitness protocols offers a fresh perspective on how we measure referees' on-field effectiveness.
Our conversation takes a deep dive into the impact of holding a flag on sprint performance. Contrary to initial beliefs, holding a flag can sometimes result in better agility, but generally, it hampers top speed and power production. Will discusses the need for specialized training to mitigate these effects and the importance of simulating match conditions in workout routines. This episode underscores the critical role of fitness and confidence for referees at all levels, offering valuable resources like Scorch Fitness and the Running Ref Program to help officials maintain peak performance and reduce dropout rates. Whether you're a seasoned referee or just starting out, this episode provides indispensable advice and inspiration to elevate your game.
How much do we really know about what soccer referees earn? Join us on this deep dive into the financial realities of officiating, where we pull back the curtain on referee compensation across various levels of youth soccer. From the challenges of gathering transparent pay data to personal stories from my own refereeing journey, we discuss how the pay scales fluctuate dramatically between recreational and competitive matches. A valuable listen for both young folks seeking their first job and adults considering refereeing as a side gig, this episode shines a spotlight on the often murky waters of referee pay.
Did you know that the cost of living significantly affects referee pay rates? We uncover how rural referees in Utah are compensated compared to their urban counterparts in New York City. Get a glimpse into the lucrative rates youth referees can earn in high-cost areas, and discover an innovative bonus structure from a Virginia club designed to encourage more game participation and mentoring. Additionally, we break down the complexities of high school refereeing in Georgia, including mileage reimbursements and the personal fulfillment that comes with officiating high school games.
Refereeing isn't just about blowing the whistle—it involves significant financial and logistical challenges. From certification fees and equipment costs to the financial demands of advancing in one's refereeing career, we dive into the nitty-gritty of what it takes to officiate at various levels, including college and adult leagues. We also explore the less glamorous side of professional refereeing, highlighting how even top-tier referees in leagues like the MLS often need supplementary income due to modest salaries. Finally, we lighten things up with a humorous look at the common phrases referees hear and offer tips on handling criticism with grace and humor, making the referee experience rewarding both on and off the pitch.
Join us as we chat with Charley Cox, a referee with an astounding 45 years of experience, who has dedicated his life to the beautiful game. From his humble beginnings refereeing in the military to becoming a pivotal mentor for young referees in the Florida Futures Program, Charlie shares his incredible journey and the wisdom he's gained along the way. Discover the the importance of creating a positive environment for youth players, and how the role of a referee has transformed over the decades from strict rule enforcer to a facilitator of enjoyable game experiences.
Our conversation takes a closer look at the Florida Futures Referee Program, a groundbreaking initiative for budding referees aged 11 to 14. With an affordable entry fee and a comprehensive training regimen that includes online modules, field events, and essential gear, this program is a game-changer. Charlie explains how it not only addresses the critical shortage of referees but also instills valuable life skills such as responsibility, professionalism, and teamwork in its young participants. Hear inspiring stories of how these young referees earn their first paychecks while contributing to the smooth running of local soccer clubs, ensuring games are scheduled and played without a hitch.
Mentorship stands out as a cornerstone of the program’s success. Charlie delves into the support structures provided by the Florida State Referee Association, including monthly webinars with FIFA professional referees and hands-on guidance during tournaments. Learn about the common challenges that new referees face, such as handling dissent from coaches, and how accruing game repetitions can bolster their confidence and resilience. This episode is a heartfelt tribute to the mentors who shape the future of refereeing, the joy of making soccer fun for young players, and the profound impact that a well-supported referee can have on the game. Don’t miss this inspiring discussion on the art and heart of refereeing.
Ever wondered why refereeing styles differ so dramatically between South American football and European football? Join me, David Gerson, as I share my experiences from attending Copa America matches in Atlanta and contrast them with the officiating observed at the Euros. We'll discuss the critical role of referees, the electrifying yet challenging atmospheres, and how key decisions, particularly those involving red cards, can dramatically alter match outcomes. Along the way, I'll emphasize the indispensable need for players, fans, and coaches to adapt to these diverse refereeing styles and respect the game’s officials.
Unlock the secrets to effective referee communication and game management, drawing from Mark Klatenberg's insights and "The Social Ref" by a recreational league referee. Discover how clear communication, confident body language, and a dose of humility can transform a match. We’ll explore practical tips on maintaining focus and effectiveness on the pitch, the art of selective listening, and the necessity of understanding various perspectives. Whether you're an aspiring referee or simply a football enthusiast, these nuggets of wisdom will deepen your appreciation for the craft of officiating.
Step into the shoes of a professional referee with an exploration of Mark Klatz's tumultuous career in the Premier League. From enduring immense scrutiny and pressure to facing personal sacrifices and double standards, we'll discuss the real-life challenges referees encounter at the highest levels. Hear about a heated match incident involving coach dismissal and referee abuse, and understand the critical importance of reporting such behavior. Finally, I'll share my thoughts on supporting referees and fostering a culture of appreciation for their vital role in the game. Tune in for a comprehensive and heartfelt look at the highs and lows of being a soccer referee.
What happens when a seasoned referee takes on the concrete pitches of New York City for the first time? Buckle up as I share my thrilling refereeing adventures, starting with a heartwarming reunion with high school friends and a deep dive into the world of New York soccer. Navigating the ins and outs of officiating in NYC, I provide valuable tips for referees looking to expand their horizons, from coordinating with the Eastern New York Referee Association to managing the logistics of an interstate trip. My experience offers a roadmap for seizing new opportunities and overcoming the jitters that come with officiating in unfamiliar territory.
Meet Jenna and Adham, two extraordinary young referees who left a lasting impression with their ambition and professionalism. In this episode, I recount our collaborative efforts at Randall's Island, a venue where respect and sportsmanship shone brighter than the city's skyline. Amidst the unique quirks of refereeing in New York—unmarked corners and the preference for cash payments—we forged a camaraderie that transcended the pitch. Plus, a delightful interaction with Jenna's family adds a personal touch to an already enriching experience, highlighting the human connections that make refereeing so rewarding.
But the adventure doesn't stop there. Picture this: a serendipitous high school reunion amidst 1100 peers, an impromptu subway detour, and the electric atmosphere of the Copa America opening match. Sporting our referee kits, we mingled with fans, caught the eye of international media, and even snagged a spot on the jumbotron—all while witnessing Messi's magic up close. This whirlwind day, filled with unexpected connections and unforgettable moments, encapsulates the exhilarating highs that come with the referee's journey. Tune in for a tale of passion, perseverance, and the beautiful game that brings us all together.
Can a 16-year-old girl command respect on the soccer field as a referee? Today, we’re thrilled to welcome Katie and Scott Millsap from the YouTube channel "Reffing with the Sappers" to share their incredible journey into officiating. Scott started refereeing to bond with his son, while Katie, initially motivated by potential earnings, discovered a passion for the sport she’s never played. Listen as they recount the joys and challenges they've faced, from dealing with difficult coaches and parents to the unique family bonding experiences that refereeing has provided.
Katie's experiences as a young referee shine a light on the hurdles young officials face. Despite concerns about her safety and treatment on the field, Katie has developed strategies to command respect and manage difficult situations. Hear how she handles public dissent, sets boundaries with coaches, and maintains her composure under pressure. Scott shares his insights on what it takes to succeed as a referee, emphasizing politeness, resilience, and the maturity that Katie has gained through her experiences.
We also delve into the broader impact of refereeing, from game analysis and continuous learning to the importance of mentorship and positive behavior in youth sports. Scott and Katie discuss the critical role of constructive criticism and the negative impact of poor coaching. Katie’s aspirations to reach national levels as a young female referee highlight the importance of resilience and mentorship in officiating. Join us as we celebrate the Millsap family's contributions to the sport and discover how you can support and connect with their initiatives to improve the refereeing community.
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Ever wondered what goes through the mind of a referee that most people have no clue about? From pre-match jitters to the intricacies of making those split-second calls on the pitch, I share my real-life experiences of the hard truths of what goes into officiating games. We'll unpack the nuanced nature of calling fouls and dive into why experience and context are game-changers for making the right calls.
But that's not all. We also tackle the often unspoken financial motivations that pull many into the world of refereeing and why respect for referees should be a given, no matter their reason for being on the field. You'll hear about the critical support role of assistant referees and get an inside look at why calling penalty kicks is often a last resort. Plus, don’t miss the heartfelt segment where we read a letter from Chris Buehler of the Greene County Soccer Association, highlighting the very real and troubling issue of referee abuse in youth sports. This episode is a powerful reminder of the need for respect and understanding for those who hold the whistle. Tune in and gain a whole new perspective on what it means to be the person in the middle of the action.
This is a special, guest star appearance for me on the "Over the Ball" podcast which is sponsored by Soccer America. It was a fun conversation and I hope I represented the 3rd team well.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone who's felt the surge of emotion at a contentious offside call or debated a referee's split-second decision. We delve into the intricacies of VAR technology and its diverse applications across leagues like the MLS and Premier League, offering a rare glimpse into the ways referees are adapting to the digital age while striving to preserve the game's human element. Plus, we unpack the pressures of officiating at various levels, discussing the often overlooked aspects of referee development and the personal toll of sideline abuse.
Join us as we round out our exploration with a look at the role referees play in shaping soccer's future. We reflect on the evolution of officiating, the contrasting styles from icons like Pierluigi Collina to today's referees, and the pressing need for investment in their development. With a combination of personal anecdotes, expert analysis, and heartfelt advocacy from David, you'll come away with a deep appreciation for the unseen heroes of the pitch and the essential role they play in ensuring fair play and respect in the sport.
Join the ranks of those refusing to let age dictate their fitness regime as personal training expert Brad Williams and I, explore the intricacies of staying in top shape as a referee beyond 40. With Brad's insights on combating sarcopenia and tweaking fat storage, you'll be equipped to maintain that crucial burst of speed when it matters most on the pitch. As I approach my own half-century mark, I'll share the trials and triumphs of juggling the whistle with targeted, intelligent training.
In a game where every call matters, we break down how to adapt your workouts to keep you injury-free and on top of your game. Discover how to harness the power of time under tension, plyometrics, and balance training to ensure your agility and stability aren't left in the dust by younger players. Whether you're just starting out or you're a seasoned referee, the tips we provide will keep you sharp and swift for every slide tackle and offside trap.
Nutrition and recovery hold the cards to longevity in refereeing, and in this chat, you'll get a firsthand look at the best plays for your health playbook. Dive into the art of hydration, the science of carb cycling, and the necessity of a well-timed, nutrient-packed recovery meal. By the time you reach the final whistle of our discussion, you'll walk away with a holistic game plan that'll keep you raising flags and running the sidelines without fear of pulling a muscle or a red card. So gear up and tune in for a session that promises to keep you refereeing at peak performance, no matter the number on your birth certificate.
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Have you ever left a youth soccer game feeling furious at the referee? It's a familiar scene: parents and fans seething on the sidelines, convinced the referee has 'robbed' their kids of victory. I'm David Gerson, and in this episode, I confront this blame game head-on, championing personal responsibility over misguided finger-pointing. Referees aren't the puppet masters of the game's outcome; it's the players and coaches who carve their destiny on the pitch. I share my vexation with the slew of messages from disgruntled spectators and dissect the real factors that tip the scales in a match. It's a call to parents and coaches alike to instill resilience and accountability in our young athletes, fostering a mindset that values effort over excuses.
Let's be honest, youth soccer isn't about the scoreboard; it's about growth, teamwork, and the sheer joy of the sport. As I walk you through the essentials of nurturing our future soccer stars, I stress the significance of developing fundamental skills, soccer intelligence, and the right attitude from the tender U8 to U12 levels. I tackle the toxic 'joysticking' habit of sideline coaching that stifles a child's decision-making skills and dims their passion for the game. Instead, I advocate for an environment that breeds respect, empowerment, and a genuine love for soccer. Join me as I steer the conversation toward a culture that celebrates effort and learning, and above all, upholds the integrity of the beautiful game.
Have you ever stood in the center of a storm, making split-second decisions that could turn the tide? Welcome to my world, David Gerson, where the whistle's blast is my thunder. This episode takes you behind the scenes of my state cup refereeing adventures, where I own up to my blunders and share the invaluable advice tossed my way. I've been polishing my craft with tips from the pros, like honing my whistle's melody and mastering strategic placement during set pieces. It's a journey of growth, spiced with a dash of humor – like how the Ref6 app saved the day when I forgot my marker.
The pitch is my stage, and every game is a high-stakes drama with young athletes bringing their all. As I gear up to take the reins of a state cup semifinal, I reflect on the intricate dance of maintaining fairness in a world where not all players measure the same. This episode peels back the layers of complexity in the beautiful game, from scrutinizing the weight of each call to the nuanced balance of player safety against the thrill of uninterrupted play. Join me as I unravel the threads that tie together the heart-pounding moments of youth soccer.
As the final whistle blows on the high school soccer season, I take a moment to savor the rich tapestry of community, rivalry, and tradition that it weaves. But it's not just a celebration of goals and victories; it's also an honest look at the ugly side of the sport, from confrontational fans to the heavy mantle of maintaining sportsmanship. And through the eyes of Joe Burns, I spotlight the unsung heroes – young referees like his daughter, who exemplify courage in the face of adversity. So, lace up your boots and let's march together through the trials and triumphs of those who uphold the spirit of the game.
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I take you along my journey through this seasons high school soccer final matches, sharing personal reflections and the complex emotions that come with being the one in the middle, making the tough calls and receiving mixed reactions from coaches, players, and fans alike.
Ever wondered what goes on in the minds of referees during those high-stakes games? Here's where I peel back the curtain on the pressures and responsibilities of officiating, recounting a controversial semifinal match and the impact that sportsmanship—or the lack thereof—has on young athletes. The episode doesn't shy away from the intense scrutiny we face, nor the isolation that can come with the territory, as highlighted by Joe Burns, a fellow referee, and stories of the resilience required to uphold the integrity of the game.
To wrap up, we touch on the challenges that come with shortening seasons and the high demand for referees, really bringing home the essential, yet often underrated, role referees play in high school soccer. Whether it's a nod to the use of technology to assist in making calls or the heartwarming moments of unexpected parental support, this episode is an ode to the unsung heroes of the pitch and their unwavering commitment to the beautiful game. Join me for these insights and more, as we celebrate the passion and dedication behind the whistle.
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Ever woken up drenched in sweat from a nightmare that felt too real? I'm David Gerson, and that's exactly how my day started before a state cup game, with a dream that left me shirtless and unprepared facing the assessor's daunting presence. Tune in as I recount this chilling referee nightmare and its roots in the true pressures of officiating. But it's not all about the stress; join me as I translate the rigorous discipline and communication prowess required on the soccer field to invaluable life lessons that can navigate you through any professional landscape.
Let's talk the subtle art of handling critique and command—vital both on the pitch and in the boardroom. I share stories of managing tension with a cool head and a steady voice, even when fans and coaches are less than pleased. You'll hear how I've learned to maintain authority without sacrificing empathy, a balancing act that has served me well in life. If you've ever faced a crowd of dissent or the challenge of conveying bad news with grace, this episode packs insights that will sharpen your skills and bolster your professional playbook.
In our final act, the spotlight turns to reliability and respect—bedrocks of a trusted reputation. I recount a moving tale of a listener, Chris from Colorado, whose return to refereeing, inspired by our very conversations, was met with the familiar hurdles of game management and dissent. Plus, I muse on our collective power to foster change in soccer and beyond, championing the best in ourselves and those we encounter. Whether you're a referee, a professional, or someone who values integrity, this episode is about leading with confidence and the power of a positive influence.
Emerging unscathed from a brush with mortality, I was slapped with the stark reality of life's fleeting nature. The terror of a near-fatal car accident evolved into an overwhelming torrent of gratitude, serving as the cornerstone of today's soul-stirring discourse. Beyond the harrowing tales of survival, I regale you with the triumphs of my professional world—from orchestrating a marketing campaign that soared beyond expectations to embracing the joy found in the whistle and flag of a soccer referee. The fusion of professional success and personal passion underscores this conversation, revealing the multifaceted nature of our pursuits and the profound fulfillment they can bring.
The heart of this episode pulses with the vibrant community that's rallied around Refs Need Love 2, a channel no longer whispering but roaring with influence amidst the soccer world. Imagine the thrill as I recount my tête-à-tête with the captain of the US Women's National Team, and the humbling realization that our platform now echoes from Guam's shores to Zimbabwe's savannas. We peel back the referee's black-and-white exterior to explore the art of positioning and decision-making, which steers the ebb and flow of the beautiful game—a testament to the critical role these unsung heroes play in every match's unfolding drama.
In an emotional crescendo, we unwrap the poignant narrative of Bob Smith, whose metamorphosis from soccer outsider to impassioned referee and coach mirrors the transformative power this sport wields. His story is a mosaic of dedication, learning, and the potent influence of positive communication. As the episode draws to a close, I reflect on the awe-inspiring resilience of our children, whose growth and independence often leave us parents awash with pride and gratitude. Today, we affirm the importance of voicing our appreciation, holding our loved ones close, and approaching each day with a heart brimming with hope.
Ever wondered how the web of youth soccer organizations operates in the U.S.? Tune in as Matt Bernard of US Club Soccer joins us to untangle the intriguing complexities of the system. Together, we scrutinize the unique roles of different entities, from local leagues to national powerhouses like the ECNL and National Premier League. Discover how these organizations affect the competitive youth soccer scene and what the explosion of leagues means for local communities. It's a revealing look into the heart of American soccer, where local decision-making and national affiliations converge.
The landscape of youth soccer in America is a tapestry of challenge and opportunity, markedly different from the open pyramid system of English football. We delve into the absence of promotion and relegation in the U.S., examining its influence on club dynamics and the evolution of exclusive leagues that reshape community competition. Balancing the scales of development and competition, we address the financial pressures on clubs and families, the unseen hurdles of long-distance travel for games, and the critical learning curve for coaches in fostering a positive dynamic with referees.
Referee abuse is a troubling stain on the beautiful game, and we confront it head-on with candid reflections on how the issue is being tackled—or sometimes ignored—within the soccer community. Through real-life stories and a robust discussion with Matt, we shed light on the urgent need for a national registry to track incidents, the role of State Referee Administrators in resolving such cases, and the strides leagues like ECNL are making in championing a culture of respect. This episode promises insights and solutions, advocating for a supportive, educated environment that protects the integrity and joy of soccer for all involved.
Ever wondered what drives a seasoned journalist like Kai Ryssdal to swap his microphone for a soccer referee's whistle? In an unexpected twist, Kai joins me to share his zest for the game and how the intellectual rigor and physical challenge of refereeing invigorate him. We navigate through the parallels of his media career and life on the pitch, uncovering the profound impact a referee can have on young athletes. His compelling narrative is a siren call to those pondering the whistle, highlighting the joys of community contribution and shaping the sport's future.
As the conversation unfolds, we tackle the undervalued art of communication and empathy in coaching. My own journey in managing dissent on the field underscores the necessity for fostering an environment of respect, a point echoed in tales of pioneering policies from Southern California's AYSO to Utah's creative disciplinary actions. The raw realities of a referee strike in Los Angeles serve as a stark reminder of the high stakes in high school soccer and the often hidden complexities that referees navigate.
Concluding on a reflective note, we address the striking imbalance between the professional demands placed on referees and their compensation, notably outside the top leagues. The perplexing handball rule comes under scrutiny, inviting a plea for clarity akin to the simplicity of Da Vinci's Vitruvian Man. And for a dash of star-studded charm, we reveal the delightful antics of public figures like Will Ferrell and Alexi Lalas, who don their stripes and grace the soccer fields of Southern California. My candid recount of a post-interview blunder with Kai rounds off the episode, a testament to the authentic moments that connect us all through our love of the game.
Ever wondered why football referees are often the unsung heroes of the beautiful game? Prepare to unravel the mysteries of the whistle with Adam Humphries from the Red or Yellow Refereeing podcast, as we explore the intricacies of football refereeing that go far beyond the rulebook. From the grassroots to the semi-pros, we dissect the practical learning curve officials face and the innovative ways they're connecting with the next generation through platforms like TikTok. Plus, we discuss the public's misconceptions about tackles and the unseen pressures that come with the job.
Join us for a candid conversation about the significance of communication and the culture surrounding referees in the sport. Referees have more on their plate than just enforcing rules; they are integral in managing the match dynamics and shaping the respect within the game. We delve into the silent battles referees endure, the narratives spun by pundits, and how VAR is changing the game. It's a behind-the-scenes look at the high stakes, the swift decisions, and the need for football associations to step up and support their referees in the public arena.
Rounding off our episode, we celebrate our tight-knit podcast community and the incredible bonds formed over shared passions. Adam and I reflect on the importance of engaging with our listeners, the thrill of exchanging ideas, and the collective joy that comes from connecting with fellow football and refereeing enthusiasts worldwide. It's a tribute to the power of dialogue and the ongoing conversation that keeps us all learning, growing, and appreciating every aspect of the game we love.
As I stand on the brink of my 49th year, David Gerson here, I'm filled with an overwhelming sense of gratitude and an insatiable yearning for the next great adventure. This episode is all about celebrating those personal milestones and the intricate dance of soccer refereeing. I'm sharing my journey toward the big 5-0, contemplating the allure of solo trips to Iceland or Patagonia, and inviting you to weigh in with your travel pearls of wisdom. Plus, we unpack the contentious no-call from the League Cup final—a moment that sent shockwaves through the football world and a personal tale of a red card call that sparked a virtual firestorm.
Navigating the turbulent seas of soccer officiating, I delve into the nuances that define the roles and responsibilities of a referee. From the unique vantage point of someone who's blown the whistle and waved the flags, I recount a day in the life that swings from being labeled the worst to the best referee—showcasing the impossibility of satisfying every sideline critic while maintaining the integrity of the game. I also reflect on the joys and challenges of mentoring budding referees, emphasizing the transformative power of clear communication and the enduring value of standing by your calls, no matter the pushback.
Finally, in the spirit of supporting the unsung heroes of the pitch, I explore how empathy from parents and coaches can reshape our view of the referee's world. As I share my experiences with Soccer in the Streets and guiding new referees, we consider the indispensable role of mentorship in cultivating the next generation of officials. This episode is a tribute to the dedication of those who uphold the beautiful game's rules, and a call to recognize the critical awareness and quick decision-making our role demands. Join me as we celebrate the complexities and triumphs of the grassroots referee with heartfelt insights and engaging storytelling.
Have you ever witnessed the harsh realities young referees face within the beautiful game? Our latest discussion brings to the forefront the pressing need to shield our youth officials from escalating verbal abuse and to foster an environment of respect on the playing field. Sharing my own presentation for Soccer in the Streets, I delve into the steep learning curve and alarming dropout rates among young referees, underscoring the parallel necessity to safeguard them just as we would any young player. We lay out actionable strategies for sideline conduct, emphasizing the essential role of coaches and parents in creating a protective atmosphere for these budding arbiters of the game.
The whistle blows, and immediately the outcry begins – but why is the dissent towards referees so ingrained in sports culture? In this heart-to-heart, we examine the concerning trend of referee dehumanization and the unsettling consequences it reaps. Sharing poignant anecdotes and reflecting on society's broader attitudes, we dissect why fans and coaches sometimes cross the line into abuse. The episode further underscores the impact of such behavior on young athletes and stresses the importance of modeling accountability. Through the lens of Officially Human, we're reminded of the imperative to recognize the humanity of referees and to approach the game with empathy and understanding.
Concluding our impassioned narrative, we turn to the art of respectful communication in the sports arena. My personal guidelines for addressing referees without raising my voice are laid bare, serving as a blueprint for conflict resolution on the pitch. We discuss the power dynamics at play when adults interact with youth officials and how to engage in constructive dialogue that respects the officials' role in the game. This episode not only speaks to the essence of sportsmanship but also extends an invitation to coaches and parents to join us in educational endeavors, ensuring the next generation of referees, players, and spectators can enjoy a game marked by mutual respect and love for soccer.
Ever felt the pulse of the soccer pitch quicken at the flash of a referee's card? The introduction of IFAB's blue card might just send that pulse skyrocketing. Join me as I navigate the nuances of this game-changing decision and share my unique perspective gained from mentoring fresh-faced referees. We'll examine the blue card's intended role in penalizing offenses that aren't quite red, but more severe than yellow, and how this new element is stirring the pot across the soccer community. From the grassroots leagues to the grandeur of the FA Cup, the blue card is making waves, and we're here to ride them with you.
Mentorship is the backbone of any thriving community, and the world of refereeing is no exception. On today's episode, I recount the recent certification of a group of budding referees, discussing the challenges they face and the essential support they require. I also open up about a harrowing incident of referee abuse, driving home the importance of safeguarding our enforcers of fair play. As we welcome a new VP of refereeing at US Soccer, it's a pivotal moment to advocate for the resilience and protection of those who don the whistle.
Wrapping things up, we consider the future implications of the blue card on the sport's landscape. Reflecting on my classes with up-and-comers, I extend an invitation for your feedback and stories—especially if you've got sin bin experience to share. Remember, your support is what fuels this dialogue and helps us elevate the quality of content. Whether you're a seasoned referee, a newcomer to the scene, or a passionate supporter of the sport, this episode is a testament to the power of community and the spirit of the beautiful game.
I had the honor and privilege to interview Peter Manokski, President of the PRSA.
The PRSA is the Professional Referee Organizing body that represents MLS, USL, NWSL and CSA Referees. Recently, their membership has unanimously voted to authorize a strike if a deal is not made with PRO, their employer that represents the MLS.
They are working to improve the working conditions for the referees. Many people have no idea the mental and physical burden of what it takes to be a professional referee. Especially, beyond the top of the top center referees, almost every other official is doing this as a part time job. The strain on them physically, financially and emotionally can be brutal for the many years it takes to make it to the top.
I hope you enjoy this conversation and we would appreciate it if you will share it as far and wide as you can.
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I was absolute rocked to my core listening to a young referee describe the offensive verbal abuse she received at a High School Soccer match this past week in Southern California. Unfortunately, these stories are far too common.
In the moment, it can hard to tell what is common outbursts of emotion, dissent or OFFINABUS language. Additionally, it can be hard to summon the courage to confront that abuse head on.
By discussing this and sharing this story, I hope we can all get stronger together.
I've added a few LOTG hot takes and a nice letter from the mail bag to end this POD on a Positive note.
*This week we will look back at my personal life as a referee in 2023, what I hope to achieve in 2024 and some of the new rule changes coming to the MLS next season . We'll end with a few notes from the mail bag.
I wish you al the best in your upcoming 2024 season off and on the pitch! Happy New Year!*
Why can't we be more open with the considerations used by our best referees? Why can't we tell the general public? Why can't we do a better job of educating those we need to understand the laws of the game and how to apply them?
It's time for referees and mentors to open up and bring other people in. It's time for clubs to invest resources in the referees who ref at their clubs. It's time for us all to do more to share our knowledge for the betterment of the game for everybody.
I had so much fun yesterday reffing Futsal. It is similar in some ways to reffing soccer, but extremely fast paced and with some very unique rules. Although I had done it before, it has been a few years and there was quite a learning curve. If we want to speed up the game of soccer, we could learn a thing or two from our Futsal friends. It was non-stop action.
I also will answer a letter from the mail bag about how reffing plays into my financial stability. It's not a full time job for me or 99% of referees, but it is a nice source of supplemental income.
A few weeks ago, I tried to pass the FIFA fitness test to become eligible for promotion to Regional. If you are not familiar, this is the next step in the path of promotion for referees here in the United States.
On the same day, I also participated in the on-field training course needed to become a Referee Mentor. I am only a few weeks away from completing all of my assignments and getting my mentor certification.
Mistakes are learning opportunities. When we make a mistake, it gives us a chance to learn.
All of the greatest athletes, entrepreneurs and and politicians have faced spectacular defeats and disappointments in their careers. That is not defines them though. Can you imagine if we let the Copa America and World losses that Messi experienced in his career define him? Crazy talk. He is the goat because who experienced painful losses and defeat and found a way to persevere!
When we make mistakes, we should consider it valuable experience that will make us stronger and more resilient over time.
The work you do pre-game can prepare you for success during the game. Have a routine or just a mental checklist of good things to do before the first whistle can settle your mind and body and enable you to do your best during the match as a referee.
It's time to break down the massive VAR controversary that broke the internet a few weeks back. It was so avoidable, it hurts. I'm going to talk about how it could've been avoided and what contributed to all of the Liverpool controversies on the day.
Additionally, I want to share the worst phrase you can say to me in Pre-game. It is almost always an indicator of a difficult match ahead.
Lastly, we'll hit the mail bag. I got a doozy this week! ;->
This week we'll go over the wonderful world of Middle School Soccer and many more topics including Body Cams and what I say in my pre-match conversation with players. . I sincerely enjoy getting to meet and interact with people from allover the world. If you have any questions for me, please send them to refsneedlovetoo@gmail.com
It's time for transparency and openness. It kills me to hear all of the criticism of our fellow professional referees. I know people will say that they get paid well enough and that is part of the territory, but when pro refs look bad, it makes all refs look bad. This week, we'll take a look back at some of the most controversial calls of the first few weeks.
I just spent 2 days reffing at a local summer tournament. I enjoyed myself, made a great call and an iffy call, but there were also a few things that irked me.
We'll also discuss referee uniforms and Safesport training.
I had the honor and privilege of speaking at the National Association for Women's Gymnastics Judges in Grand Rapids, Michigan this past weekend. It was their 50th anniversary and an all around amazing event.
I spoke about referee / judge abuse, why it happens and how to potentially deal with it. The message was well received and I hope I was able to set them on a positive path forward. I hope I get to work with this organization and many others again in the future.
I had the honor and privilege to be invited to speak at the National Association of Women's Gymnastics Judges at their National Symposium in Grand Rapids, MI. This event happens once every 4 years.
It is a celebration filled of learning, development, networking and establishing the values for their membership every four years. I was specifically there to address abuse of officials, why it happens and how to potentially deal with it.
I think it went great! This podcast will cover some of the content I went over during my presentation.
I had the honor and privilege to be invited to speak at the National Association of Women's Gymnastics Judges at their National Symposium in Grand Rapids, MI. This event happens once every 4 years.
It is a celebration filled of learning, development, networking and establishing the values for their membership every four years. I was specifically there to address abuse of officials, why it happens and how to potentially deal with it.
I think it went great! This podcast will cover some of the content I went over during my presentation.
I had a blast connecting with Ahmed Rehan, a Grassroots Referee in Scotland. He is known as the The Football Referee on TikTok. Love his channel for raw behind the scenes footage of being a ref.
I had the absolute pleasure of meeting up with the guys behind the Marketing Mad Men Podcast. We talked AI, TikTok, Content Marketing and eventually worked our way into Refs Need Love Too. It was a fascinating conversation that I hope you will enjoy. Let me know if you want to hear the first half too!!! It's Marketing nerd stuff, but I think it's fascinating. :->
It happens to the best of us. We lose control of a match. It doesn't mean we are a bad official. Sometimes, there is nothing we can do about it. A bad tackle. A heated rivalry. A state championship where everything is on the line and it's do or die. That's not to say that we can't take actions to manage it though. This week we'll talk about some recent examples and how we might learn and apply that in our local matches,
Using comms is so much fun!!! I wish everyone had the opportunity to do it. There are good reasons why pros use them every game. I totally understand the counter argument that it can affect your signals and normal unaided communication, but the pros outweigh the cons for me. We'll discuss that and more in today's episode.
IFAb has graced us with the new LOTG updates that are coming for the 2023 - 2024 season which will begin in August 2023. Get up to speed with what is coming and let me know if you have any questions.
You can learn something new in every game. Learning opportunities are there in every match if you are willing to listen and be observant.
I recently read an interview with Mark Geiger, the new head of PRO here in the US. Mark ref'd for 14 years in the MLS and has had more international assignments than any other US ref ever! Here are some of his lessons and suggestions for aspiring referees.
You learn something new every single game. It's always good to look back and analyze what went well and what could've been improved. Here's my raw analysis.
It's a hard job. I think that's why I love it so much. The mental and physical challenges motivate me. I actually like that fact that is impossible to be perfect on the pitch. You can always improve. I also like that it's a job most people can't or won't do. It's an elite club or committed and passionate people who love the game of football. These are just some of the reasons why I love it.
My favorite podcasts:
- The Referees World Podcast
- Referees: The Final Whistle
- REFNEXT: The Referees Podcast
- Men In Blazers
- Total Soccer Show
Facebook Pages
- The Referee Forum
- Soccer Referee Society
- Offside
- Ref Support UK
If you think you are helping by yelling instructions at your kid, someone else's kid or the referee during a game, you're not. You are actually causing harm to the players, their coach and the referee.
There is a great scene in a Ted Lasso episode, when Ted tells one of his players to "be like a gold fish." The gold fish is the happiest animal on earth per Ted, because it has a very short memory. If something bad happens, they forget about in 10 seconds or less. Sometimes, as a referee, we also need to be like a gold fish.
I get nervous because I care. If I didn't care, I wouldn't feel anything.
The important thing is that we have perspective about what is driving those nerves and how to channel them into a positive experience on the pitch.
It's hard enough being a full time student. Imagine also playing a competitive university sport and also trying to become a professional referee. It is no easy task, but Jake Joyce handles it in stride.
In this insightful podcast, you'll hear what got Jake originally into refereeing and the meteoric rise he is on towards becoming Regional and eventually professional.
Across the country, state youth soccer organizations are making bold new rules to try and address the verbal abuse and often physical threats made towards our match officials. Today we are going to talk about these policies and what we can do to address Dissent on the pitch.
In today's episode, we will be discussing the all important "Pre-game". There is nothing worse than seeing a referee crew that is obviously not working well together. It is absolutely imperative that we act and communicate as a team on the pitch. Having a proper Pre-game briefing helps to ensure success and alignment no matter what may come our way.
This conversation was origianaly a TikTok Live event. I loved chatting with him so much, I wanted to share it here too. We talked about what got him into being a referee and the positive mindset needed to be a referee.
This young man inspires me and I'm thrilled to get to share his story.
This is the 2nd part of my conversation with Ted Unkel. He is a professional ref in the MLS with over 12 years in the pros. We dive into a few more key questions regarding game management. I specifically ask the foundational question "when is a foul a foul?"
An amazing conversation with one of the most well known American referees. How he began and what it's like being a professional referee.