The EFF IT Madres Podcast: Recent Episodes
Carla & Romi
Hi Everyone! It's Romi and Carla, and together we are The EFF IT Madres. We are here to invite you into the stories of inspiring madres, who have changed their lives through an Eff It moment. So, here we go...Just EFF IT!
In this episode, we are flashing back to one of our badass madres, Linda Garcia, who said EFF IT and decided to write her book WEALTH WARRIOR: 8 Steps for Communities of Color to Conquer the Stock Market. Prior to writing this book, she didn’t know about the stock market, but decided to teach herself all about it after an old colleague of hers showed her his stock portfolio. After gaining all this valuable knowledge, she knew she needed to shared it with her community, and so her book and her Wealth Warrior course were born. You just have to EFFing follow your internal guidance system, and if you are feeling fear, you are on the verge of something. It’s up to you to decide to run from it, or run towards it. But chances are, when you run towards it, your life will change for the better. You can purchase her book on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, your local book store or on her website, www.inluzwetrust.com. You will also be able to find Wealth Warrior: The Course, on her site as well. And, be sure to follow her accounts, @inluzwetrust and @luzwarrior on Instagram. Lastly, if you want to be part of Linda’s community, go to Patreon to join.
In this episode, we speak with Elise Grey, a madre of a little girl, who decided to say EFF IT and went on a trip to Europe that had been planned before she got pregnant. The trip date was set for 2 months after her due date, and although they heard it from everyone in regards to their opinions on whether or not she should still go on this trip or not, she decided she was gonna do it anyone, no matter how different and sometimes difficult traveling with a newborn can be. But, since doing that, she and her family continue to travel, and their daughter has adapted to change very quickly since she’s been doing it since she was 2 months old. Don’t let having kids stop you from living life. Make sure to still make time to do things that you enjoy, and travel if that’s something you love. Because if you are happy, your kids and family will benefit from it!
We love our flashbacks! We are flashing back to a past episode with an inspiring Madre. We love to revisit past episodes that a lot of you enjoyed. So, here’s a flashback to our interview with Erin Patten. Please be sure to give her a follow on Instagram at @iamerinpatten.
In this episode, we speak with Augie Duke, a madre who decided to say EFF IT when she was getting dismissed by her doctors in regards to a concern that she had, and decided to keep seeking out other opinions because she just felt in her gut that something was wrong. And, geez, was she right! Had she not said EFF IT and continued to seek out other opinions, the blood clot that she ended up having could’ve taken her life and that of her unborn child, which she had to deliver early due to this concern. And, funny how the universe works, aside from this concern, she also was terrified of the fact that she could possibly not work again as an actor after becoming a mom. But, 5 weeks after having her son, she got an audition for a one time spot, that ended turning into 15 episodes. Seems like divine timing to us! You just have to trust your gut when something feels off, and believe that you can keep doing what you love, even if it seems impossible. To follow Augie, check her out on Instagram at @dukeaugie, and on Twitter and FB at Augie Duke.
In this episode we speak with Chanita Fondacaro, a madre of two, who said EFF IT, and decided at 41, to have another child, even though she had thought she would be One and Done after having her first child at 21. It wasn’t an easy go around the second time, but it happened and now has an amazing daughter who’s about to start second grade. Her advice is to just not listen to what society might say if you are older and wanting to start a family. Do what’s best for you, not what’s best for others. To follow Chanita, give her a follow on Instagram at @chanibaby.
In this episode, we speak with Jaime “The Hurricane” Hayes, a madre of two, who said EFF IT and decided to hang up her boxing gloves after over 30 years to focus more on her kids and their life paths. Jaime was able to still follow her passion, despite how hard it was to juggle her career, her kids, their sports and everything else. She wanted to show them what had hard work looked like, an le that they should never give up on their dreams, no matter what people say. Despite what people may say, keep EFFing going after what you want or need that fills you up. Because if you don’t do that for yourself, you are doing not only yourself a disservice, but to everyone around you as well. To check out Jaime’s gym, please visit www.ontheropesri.com, and don’t forget to give her a follow on Instagram at @jaimethehurricane.
In this episode, we speak with Gila Pfeffer, a madre of 4, who said EFF IT and had a preventive double mastectomy because of the history of cancer in her family. But, it turned out that preventative surgery became life saving because they found early aggressive breast cancer in one of her breasts. Following her gut in all her preventive measures saved her life, despite how aggressive her approach seemed to others. But it ended up saving her life. You just have to EFFing trust your gut, and do whatever you need to do for you and your family, despite what others might think. Especially, when it comes to saving your life! To get a copy of Gila’s book, “Nearly Departed: Adventures in Loss, Cancer and other Inconveniences, you can go to any retailer where you buy your books (i.e. Amazon, Barnes and Nobles, etc.) or on her site at www.gilapfeffer.com. Also, please give her a follow on Instant at @gilapfeffer.
In this episode, we speak with Tara Trask, a madre of 2 grown kids, who said EFF IT, and instead of wasting time on dating apps, or getting wrapped up in relationships that can be consuming, she decided to explore the world of male escorts because….why the hell not?! Moms have sex drives, too! And, sometimes getting it the conventional way just doesn’t fit in someone’s lifestyle. Men do it, so why can’t women?! You just have to EFFing do you. Will you get judge? Probaby. But, whose life are you living? Yours or theirs? Remember that! To follow Tara, check her out on Instagram and TikTok at @tara_trask. And, to check out her daughter’s latest single, “Fallin’,” follow Berta Bunch on Spotify.
In this episode, we are flashing back to some of the amazing Madres, we have had on the show and focus one of the last we ask, which is “What’s your advice that you would give to another mom or your younger self?” Can all use some effing advice, sometimes, especially from some incredible moms that have gone through some hard, wild, life-changing moments. We hope that it leaves you feeling inspired, and you’re able to take on what whatever advice resonates with you most!
In this episode, we speak with Molly Winter, a madre of two, who said EFF IT and decided to open up her marriage to other partners, which led to her writing her book, “More: A Memoir of Open Marriage.” By doing this, she and her husband discovered aspects of themselves they would have never discovered had they not decided together to open up their marriage, and are about to celebrate their 25th wedding anniversary. You just have to EFFing find yourself and live your freest life for you, not for anyone else. Find whatever works for you and your family and don’t worry about what anyone else thinks! To get Molly’s book, please visit www.mollyrodenwinter.com, and follow her on Instagram at @mollyrwinter.
In this episode, we catch up with each other since starting Season 4, as we both have had a lot of things happening in our personal journeys. Also, we wanted to share with our listeners that we want to shake things up a bit and start introducing conversations that might be more uncomfortable and taboo. With a world so divided at the moment, we want to have honest, open and respectful conversations about topics that might, for some, be a little uncomfortable. We feel that it’s because people can’t talk about these things in respectful ways that we are so divided at the moment. So, we want to open our space up to views that might differ from ours and come from a place of curiosity and understanding versus judgment. The EFF IT moments will still be our main conversations, but we wanted to change things up a bit moving forward. If there are topics you would like to hear us talk about, please share. Nothing is off the table! If you’re interested in following the projects we are working on, please go to www.herpowerpins.com and @herpowerpins on Instagram to follow Carla’s work. And www.madreromi.com and @madre_romi for Romi’s coaching services.
In this episode, we speak with Cory and Nicol Varona, two sisters and madres who decided to say EFF IT and start a curly hair care line, even though they had no prior background to making products. Both had a background in finance, but that life was a complete blur until they both started working on what is now called Ocoa Beauty. Just goes to show when you feel aligned and passionate about something, you can and will figure out the tools and knowledge you need to help you achieve your goals and dreams. You just have to EFFing believe in yourself, and embrace who you truly are, despite what society tells you. Know your power, and don’t let your doubt get the best of you! To try out their curly hair products, please visit www.ocoabeauty.com, and give them a follow on @ocoabeauty on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, Linkedin and Pinterest.
In this episode, we speak with Deidra Romero, a madre of two, who said EFF IT, decided to open up about her divorce, and write a book about it. There was a lot of shame surrounding divorce at the time she was going through this, but she knew that she wasn’t going to go through this journey alone and quiet. And, it ultimately has led her to help women navigate divorce through coaching. We all have the capacity to hold so much. You can be happy and grieve at the same time, and know that we have the capability to do that and so much more. To follow Deidra and check out her book, “Begin Again: How to Heal after Divorce & Create the Life you Love as a Single Mom,” please check her out at www.deidraromero.com. And give her a follow on Instagram at @deidradaily.
Season 4 Episode 2 “Just EFFing Love Who You Are!“
In this episode, we speak with Lindsey Kane Leaverton, a madre who said EFF IT and wrote a book after the traumatic aftermath of 2 divorces, and then going through Covid, and what that brought about, which was a lot of mental health issues. Writing this book has allowed her to heal, but also provide advice to anyone out there that may need to hear her wise words. You just have to EFFing fully embrace who you are and love yourself. You are worthy! To check out Lindsey book and her journey, please go to www.notanotherselfhelpbook.com, and on Instagram at @lindseykaneleaverton.
In our 1st episode for Season 4, we interviewed Ash Kelsch, who said EFF IT and decided to go back and heal the relationship she had with her mother once she became an empty nester herself. She had put everything aside from herself first, and realized that in order to be the mother her kids will continue to need, she need to go back and heal herself by facing the trauma and the rollercoaster of a relationship she had with her mother. It’s a tough thing to do because even as adults, it can be hard for us to look at our parents and not feel all the things that would come up for us when we were kids. But, in order to move past all that, we have to get to a place where we can look at our parents as the flawed humans they, and we all are, and know that they were doing the best they could. We really are the ones that know what it is we truly need, so it’s important to really sit down and EFFing figure out what that is so that you can move forward in your life in a happy and healthy way. To follow Ash, please check her podcast called “Wait, What?” at www.ashleykelsch.substack.com, and on Instagram at @ashkelsch.
In this episode, we speak with Richelle Davis, a madre of 3 boys, who said EFF IT to choosing to stay home with her first born instead of choosing to go back to work. She didn’t want to miss being there for her kids, but also struggled with the shift in identity of always being a working, independent woman, to a SAHM dependent on her husband’s income. It’s unfortunate that she had to choose between the two because of the lack of support mothers have in this country. Luckily, she was able to figure out how to be home with her kids, start to bring in her own income, and come to a place in her motherhood journey where she now feels whole. You just have to EFFing believe that you are more capable than you think. It’s easy for us to believe the negative self-talk. Let’s start to believe the opposite! To follow Richelle, go to Instagram at @richellexo.
Being a mom is already super taxing. And, if you are trying to build a business on top of that, it can easily send a lot of us down a dark spiral, especially when we are pulled in so many directions that the light at the end of the tunnel can seem way dimmer than we like. A few weeks ago, Romi had hit a low, one that she hadn’t hit in a while where she didn’t even want to get out of bed. Like we have said many times before, these EFF IT “moments” are actually pretty long journeys for most of us, and it can be full of super highs and super lows. And we thought it would be a good idea to just talk about what she was experiencing since so many moms suffer alone because we are expected to take on so much. She goes into to what took her there, and how she managed to get herself out. We don’t want moms to feel alone, especially when it comes to mental health, because it’s hard not to go to dark places, sometimes. We can all be our own worst enemies, but it’s important to talk about these things so that others don’t feel like they are alone. If you’re having a hard time, please reach out to a friend, or find a community of other moms that you feel comfortable confiding it. It’s so important because when we are happy, so is the rest of our family!
In this episode, we speak with Amy Edwards, a madre of 2 daughters, who said EFF IT to people pleasing, and really finding what her true purpose was and living her life for her. At 40, she became a Rock ‘n Roller, and really started living a life that aligns with what she was feeling on the inside. And, she is the happiest she has ever been! Just know, that the best is yet to come! Just because we reach a certain age does not mean that our lives our over and we can’t pursue what brings us joy. You EFFing have it within you to make your life the best that it can be. We aren’t saying it’s an easy thing to do, but you must find the things that help you start believing that you are capable. To learn more about Amy and her journey, please check her out at www.amyedwards.info, Instagram at @realamyedwards, and on TikTok @themagicbabe.
In this episode, we speak with Leslie Lew, a madre of two, who we interviewed over a year ago where she shared her EFF IT moment that involved an altercation with her mother (If you haven’t heard it, listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-eff-it-madres-podcast/id1637465824?i=1000587773406). Now, she’s in a different place in her life, and like we always say, one EFF IT moment leads to many more, and now she’s working through being wrongfully terminated from her corporate job, and becoming a SAHM, which for her, isn’t the easiest and most comfortable transition. EFF IT moments can have many highs and many lows. And it’s important to us to also share the harder times moms go through so that other moms know that they aren’t alone, in their journeys and the complex feelings we can feel when our identities go through transitions. But, one thing is for sure, we always work through it because we are moms. We are warriors! To follow Leslie, please check her out at www.reclaimingyourcourage.com, and on Instagram at @reclaimingyourcourage.
In this episode, we speak to Sandra Contreras, a single madre of 2 kids, who said EFF IT and quit her full time job to pursue her crafting that started as a side hobby. She wanted to find a creative outlet outside of her role as a mom and work. And now, after 2 years of making her hobby her full time business, she just signed a lease on a space for her first store in downtown San Jose! She is proof that it can be done if you truly EFFing believe that you can do it. And just like she says, you just have the EFFing do it! To check out Sandra’s shop, go to www.cositascontreras.com. Also, please give her a follow on Instagram and TikTok @cositascontreras.
In this episode, we speak with Lillian Diaz Imbelli, a madre of 3 grown kids. She was always a writer at heart, but the Imposter Syndrome kept her from really owning her talent. Until she finally said EFF IT at 68, and finished the book she had started writing years ago. And, now she has built up the confidence to really own her “Writer” title. You just have to EFFing believe in yourself, be kind to people, and follow your dreams! To purchase Lillian’s book, “Seeking Grace Amongst the Living, click on this Amazon link: http://a.co/d/3Eaw9dZ. And, don’t forget to leave a review if you enjoyed the book!
In this episode, we are revisiting some of our past Madres, and sharing all the different EFF IT moments that they have shared with us to hopefully inspire you to just say EFF IT too, if you are feeling one coming on. Or if you are still moving through yours, to keep going because there is a light at the end of the tunnel! Or, perhaps you are searching for yours, and don’t necessarily know what an EFF IT moment is. We hope you find some inspiration from hearing from all these badass Madres!
In this episode we speak with Erin Patten, a madre to a little boy, whose world was turned upside by her ex-partner who accused her of not taking care of their son, who had been suffering from a digestive condition that didn’t allow for him to keep much of anything that was given to him down. So, just to be vindictive because of their split up, he called CPS (Child Protective Services) on her accusing her of malnourishment, and her son was taken away from her for 30 agonizing days. She had to go through hell and back through this situation, and once she was able to get her son back because her ex had no evidence to stand on, she said EFF IT and decided to get out of where she was in her life, and start a whole new timeline, in a whole new place and in a whole new, beautiful home. This has been one of the hardest experiences she has gone through, especially as someone with a prolific corporate career and as a Harvard graduate, but it has helped guide her onto the path of helping others by becoming a Metaphysical Master by integrating data-driven tools with ancient metaphysical principles to businesses and corporations. You just have to EFFing know who you are. And, as Erin put it so powerfully, “The more you know you, the better you can be you!” To follow Erin and her journey, please give her a follow on Instagram at @iamerinpatten, check out her website at www.erinpatten.com, and listen to her podcast, The MetaBusiness Millennial Podcast on all the popular podcast platforms.
In this episode, we speak with Angie Guerrero, a madre of a 13 year girl, a guardian to her niece and nephew, and a stepmom to her son. She decided to say EFF IT when a financial opportunity presented itself by becoming a surrogate, and she decided to move forward with the decision because it would help her and her family. What it also did was allow her to help someone else in need in a very significant way. So, although it initially started out as a financial decision, she realized that she was providing so much impact to someone by carrying their child and bringing it into this world. Sometimes, you have to make big EFFing decisions for the sake of your family, and whatever it is that you need to do is what is best for you. And, a lot of those decisions start out being for one reason, and then you realize the magnitude of what making that decision does for others. In Angie’s case, it affected someone’s life in a very positive way, aside from her own. As much as it is important to be selfish sometimes, you can EFFing be selfless sometimes too, and impact people in a big way with the decisions that you make. To learn more about becoming a surrogate, you can google “Surrogacy Companies” in your local area.
In this episode, we share some exciting news about things that are happening to grow the podcast. Signing with a management group, to our next photoshoot and Madre event. We also talk about how we’ve learned so much about our own strengths, and weaknesses that when combined create this great dynamic. And, lastly, we discuss how this podcast is something we feel called to do everyday. Women empowerment runs through our veins, and we share our goals of what we want this podcast to be for moms and women out there. We want to share our journey of building this movement with you, through the good times and the bad. And, it would really help us out if you did all the things: like, subscribe, share, and leave a review if you feel called to do so! We are so grateful for all your support, and love having you come on this wild ride with us!
In this episode, we speak with Starlyn Cafferata, a madre of 5, who decided to say EFF IT to all the expectations that she had placed on herself before having kids about what kind of mom she was going to be. And, she REALLY let those expectations go when they found out that they were pregnant for the second time with quadruplets! That’s right….4 babies at the same time! She realized that there was no way of holding on to any of that and be a happy mom. So, once she let all those expectations go, she became a lot more happy, and laid back and could find humor in all the chaos that come with having 5 kids. You just have to EFFing do what works for you and your family and not listen to all the outside noise. You can’t and will not please everyone. And, the only people that matter are your loved ones who are the closest to you.. Everyone EFF off! To keep up with Starlyn and her family’s journey, go to Instagram and Tiktok and follow her at @caffsquad.
In this episode, we speak with Mackenzie Gray, a madre of two, who had her first child in Italy, and then right before the pandemic hit, had moved back to the states. However, the EFF IT moment was a little different. First, she said EFF IT and had it in her mind that they were going to move back, and everyday was wanting to make it happen. However, the reality of their situation just wasn’t going to allow that to happen, at least not at the time that she was really itching to go back. So, she said EFF IT again, but this time, surrendered to what the reality was going to be, which was staying here because of her husband’s stable job. So, even though her original EFF IT moment of wanting to move back didn’t work out when she wanted it to, that mental shift to surrendering to what they current circumstances were got her to start taking care of herself physically and mentally with joining a gym and finding a community of like-minded moms who are able to support each other. Whether your EFF IT moment works out or not, it’s about the mindset shift that happens that makes you start doing, thinking and seeing things differently. You just have to EFFing find your peace in whatever situation you find yourself in because the only thing that you can control is you and how you react to things. To check out Mackenzie and help her grow her following for her fashion brand that helps inspire moms through fashion, go to Instagram and give @mackenzie_gray.
In this episode, we speak with Whitney Runyon, an adoption madre of 3, who said EFF IT and decided to get on antidepressants after pushing back on the idea for about a year, when her therapist recommended them to her. Her introduction to motherhood was especially hard, since the kids she and her husband adopted were a little older. So, there was a lot of emotional complexities and traumas (her kids’s and her own) to deal with. She finally came to the decision that if she didn’t do this, she may not live another day. A big reason people hold off on doing things that might actually help them is because of the stigma surrounding whatever it is they are wanting to do or explore. We say EFF that! EFFing do what is best for you and your family. And also, be kind to others and treat them the way we want to be treated because we just don’t know their journeys, just like they might not know ours. So, we need to try not to judge, and just be kind! To follow Whitney, please give her a follow on Instagram @whitruyon, check out the services she offers at www.whitrunyon.com
In this episode, we speak with Allison Hardman, a single madre of two, who said EFF IT and left a marriage of 14 years behind her because of how toxic it was to her and her kids. She took a sign from the universe to get out of what she had intuitively felt was not right for her and her kids to stay in any longer. And, once she got out, she did things that she never would have done had she stayed in something that wasn’t serving her. It’s through these EFF IT moments where we build resilience, and you should be damn proud of taking those steps in finding what works and doesn’t work for you. Just EFFing trust your gut, do what you love, and choose joy in everything that you do. To follow Allison’s journey, please follow her on Instagram at @alliinwanderlust. And, if you’re in Austin, go check out one of her yoga classes at @blackswanyogaaustin.
In this episode, we speak with Food Network star, Penny Davidi, a madre of 2, who said EFF IT and got divorced at a time when divorce was taboo. On top of that, coming from a Persian Jewish upbringing, it was very frowned upon. But, she knew it was not what she wanted anymore, and once she left, an onslaught of EFF IT moments followed: she bought pizza joints even though she knew nothing about it; manifested herself onto the Food Network; and found the love of her life. It just goes to show that you have to make things EFFing happen for you by putting yourself into different environments and take advantage of the opportunities that are all around you because they always are. You just have to be willing and open to accepting them. To check out all the projects Penny is involved in, go to Instagram and give her a follow at @pennydavidi. Also, check out her book, “It’s my Thyme,” on Amazon.
In this episode, we thought it would be fun to check in with each other since Romi’s birthday was this past week, and Carla’s is in a few weeks, and is also turning 42. We were both at such different spots since this time last year, so we wanted to see what we’ve learned, want to leave behind, and what we want to see and achieve in 2024. We talk about growth, realize that we can change our identities whenever we want, and that our EFF IT moment really has pushed us forward in so many ways. As messy as it has been, we are both super grateful that we said EFF IT and started this podcast. It literally has opened us both up to new perspectives, new opportunities, learning new things, and different ways of being. A big reason why we continue showing up to record more episodes is because we hope to inspire madres out there to say EFF IT so that they can reap the benefits that these big life changes bring. Don’t get us wrong, there will definitely be some shitty ass parts, but what you learn along the way supersedes the bad. So, if you’re at that point and want to say EFF IT, all we can say is just effing doing. It may suck at times, but it will be worth it in the end.
In this episode, we speak with Romi’s Aunt, Mary Nabers,, a madre of two, who decided to say EFF IT, and go back to school in her 40’s. When she was younger, she had dropped out high school, and ever since then carried around this narrative that she wasn’t smart enough for school. But, she always wanted to go back. So, when that opportunity arose, she went back to school and broke that narrative by really applying herself, and ended up on the Dean’s List and graduating with honors. It just goes to show that you can rewrite your EFFing story, and know that you aren’t the narratives that you have told yourself for so long. You have the power to break through them and become a fresh, new version of you. If you are interested in going back to school, know that you have tons of resources available to you. All you have to do is research your local community colleges in your area, and either call admissions or go in and speak with someone. Remember, where there’s a will, there’s a way!
In this episode, we speak with Chelsea Hale, a madre of one, that decided to say EFF IT and put her ego aside in regards to co-parenting her son with her ex. She realized that lawyering up and fighting with him was only feeding her ego, but hurting her son. So, they both decided to put their son first, and worked on developing a very harmonious co-parenting relationship. It went so well, that it made them reconsider their own relationship, so they are now on the path of exploring that. You just have to EFFing breathe, know that you will get through the hard times, and put your ego aside when it comes to what’s best for your kids. To follow Chelsea’s co-parenting journey, please give her a follow on Instagram at @thechelseahale
Now that we are in Season 3, and the year is coming to a close, we decided it would be nice for us to catch up with each other with where we each are at in our EFF IT moment. This has been a year of some major EFFing changes, growth, and self reflection. So we wanted to share with you all where we’re at because EFF IT moments can look different for everyone. Thanks for tuning in, and coming along for the ride!
In this episode, we speak with Barrett Prendergast, a madre of 3 boys, who said EFF IT with her husband, and decided to move their whole family from LA to Italy. It was something they thought they would maybe do once they were closer to retirement, but with everything going on in the world in regards to school shootings, quality of life and of food, they decided the time was now. They are 3 months into their move, and are experiencing all the highs and sometimes lows of stepping out of their comfort zones. But, by accepting that it was going to be very challenging, they are taking things day by day, growing together, and building their family connection through this new chapter in life. You just have to effing decide that you are going to do something, and commit to it. Change is scary and hard, but know that you will come out the other side, and that side will be worth all the emotions and fears that you feel when you take that first step. To follow Barrett and her family’s new chapter in Italy, please follow her on Instagram at @barrettprendergast, and their newsletter barrettandtheboys.substack.com. If you are interested in some holiday gift ideas, please visit www.valleybrinkroad.com to check out their luxury gift basket company, as well as @valleybrinkroad on Instagram.
In this episode, we have Jen Brady back on from Season 1 to update us on the momentum she has had since saying EFF IT a year ago. Since having her EFF IT moment, and embarking on a new career path of tattooing areolas for women who have had reconstructive breast surgeries, it has opened up a lot of opportunities for her to learn, and to fears that she didn’t know she had. It was great to bring her back on and talk about her progress because what we see, aside from our own journeys, is that once you say EFF IT, it makes you more willing to try and learn new things. And by doing these new things, you then become exposed to new people, environments, information, and perspectives that you wouldn’t have had if you decide to not take that first EFFing step. So, you just have to EFFing trust and fall in love with your ideas, especially if they make your heart flutter! To check out Jen’s journey, please follow her on Instagram at @jenrestoresatx.
In this episode, we speak with Sal and Lena Osborne, two madres to 7 kids, who said EFF IT and went against what they had learned growing up in Mormonism. They were both married to men, had children, and were living the way they were expected to in accordance with organized religion. But, when they met each other, they felt something that they had never felt before for anyone else. They both stepped away from Mormonism, went through painful divorces, and came together with a love so strong and so deep that it was worth any discomfort that they were experiencing.. They are now living their true, authentic lives together with all their children, and couldn’t be happier. You just have to EFFing be your own cheerleader, know that you will get through the discomfort and discover a freedom you never knew could exist. To follow Sal and Lena’s love story, please check out their show on Hulu called “Mormon No More,” and visit their website to check out all their latest news, services and courses that they offer. And don’t forget to give them each a follow on Instagram at @comingoutcoach,, and @lena_osborne.
In this episode, we speak with Heaven Leigh, a madre of one, who decided to say EFF IT and open up and be honest about making the decision to become a single mom, which was not an easy decision to make. But, the relationship was difficult, and was no longer serving her and her son. She knew that if she stayed, it would be her son that would be affected the most. So, she got herself and her son out of a toxic situation, and they are now on the other side of the whole experience, with the love and support of her family and friends, which she didn’t expect to get because she was never one to ask for help. This is an important reminder to all of us, madres, to know that asking for help is not a sign of weakness. We need the support and love of people around us. But, if we never ask or speak our truth, we may never know how much people are willing to help us, and stand with us. You just have to EFFing remember what you have been through, how far you have come, and just do your best and know that the right thing will come to you. To follow Heaven and her journey, please follow her on Instagram at @heavenleigh.
In this episode, we speak with Mel Martell, a madre to a little boy, who decided to make a big, EFFing life change by moving the whole family to Costa Rica in order to slow down and be present. After her career change about a year ago, things started moving really fast for her and her husband, but they didn’t want to miss out on all the magic of their son growing up. So, they traded their hometown of Austin for a slower pace, and monkey-filled, life in Costa Rica for a while. It was a very scary decision to make, especially when life was good. But, it’s been a good move because it has made the family’s bond stronger, and has immersed them in nature and community. Just know that it’s EFFing ok to slow down. It’s EFFing ok to change your mind about things you thought differently about before. And, lastly, to EFFing evolve! To follow Mel’s journey, please follow her on Instagram at @ohthatmel.
Welcome back, Madres! We are excited to be back for our 3rd Season, and to start us off is an incredibly inspiring episode with the founder of Nopalera, Sandra Velasquez. Talk about an EFF IT moment! At the age of 43, Sandra, a single madre of one, needed to make a big change in her life, or else she wasn’t going to be able to make ends meet. She decided to go big and start a luxury line of Mexican bath and body products, and knew that she needed to kick this out of the park. With no idea on how to formulate products, she signed up for a course, and learned how to make her products, and then went onto Shark Tank to raise money to fund her line. She worked 3 jobs to get her to where she is now, and her line has been mentioned in Oprah Daily as one of the top favorite Latinx and Hispanic Beauty Brands for the month of October. You just have to EFFing keep going and believe that you deserve all the success you want! To check out Sandra’s luscious line of bath and body products, please visit www.nopalera.co, and follow her at @nopalera.co on Instagram. And, if you are in LA, please check out the Nopalera Pop Up shop that will be open till December 5th at 3118 W. Sunset Blvd.
In this episode, we are flashing back to a popular episode that we did with Gloria El-Achkar, who had quite an EFF IT moment of leaving her abusive relationship, and got herself and her kids out with just the clothes on their backs. It was a very hard thing to do, but it was the best decision she could have made for her family. It’s truly an inspiring story, and one that resonated with a lot of our listeners, so we wanted to bring it back! On a side note, we have come to the end of Season 2, so we will be taking a break, but will be back with some new, inspiring mamas and stories for you all for Season 3. See you all in a month!
In this episode, we speak with Samreen Arshad, a madre of one, who decided to say EFF IT and start a cosmetic line after stumbling upon makeup tutorials on Youtube that were like an escape for her during her dark days of postpartum. Her depression was deep, but when she would play around with makeup, she started to feel better because she looked better. She had no makeup training or experience prior to this, but because she loved it so much, it has now become her career. You just have to EFFing be kind to yourself, stop thinking you have to be a supermom, and remember that when your baby is born, you also are reborn as your new self. And, know that it’s ok to not know who you are once you become a mom. You will ultimately find your way. To check out Samreen’s cosmetic line, please visit www.samreensvanity.com, and follow her on Instagram at @samreensvanity.com.
In this episode, we speak with Kayko Tamaki, a single madre of one, who said EFF IT, and decided to take on becoming a mother on her own. As a queer woman, she knew that she would need to make the decision to have a child, and go through fertility treatments to get there. And, despite not having a partner at the time, she knew it was going to be a hard, but fulfilling journey. But, as fate should have it, she did end up finding someone during her pregnancy that has blossomed into a beautiful relationship that she is raising her daughter in. It was totally unexpected, but it just goes to show that when you go after what you want, everything around you ultimately falls into the place that it’s meant to be. . So, just EFFing take that leap if you really want it because there never really is that “perfect” time to do it. To follow Kayko’s journey, please follow her on Instagram at @kaykotamaki.
In this episode, we check in with each other since so much change has happened for the both of us. One of us moved back to LA after a short stint in Florida, and the other has found a new job and romantic relationship, all while doing this mom thing. There have been a lot of ups and downs, but we are still moving forward despite the fears we have because we know what we are meant for more. And, we are narrowing down our path to that purpose. We may still not have our footing quite yet, but we’re getting there. You just have to EFFing keep going!
In this episode, we speak with Claudia Raiken, a madre to 2 adopted kids, who decided to say EFF IT to the programming job that she had that she hated, despite it bringing in a good amount of money. She moved into body work, that lead into becoming a Doula, which she thought she could never be since she had not given birth before. But, the Universe kept putting her on that path, and although there was financial sacrifice, the amount of happiness she and her family gained was invaluable. You just have to EFFing be focused, and have the courage to not be derailed by what other people think you should be doing. Please visit www.claudiaraiken.com to check out all that Claudia offers, along with her book called Messages from the Womb.VISIT OUR PAGES
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In this episode , we speak to Linda Garcia, a single madre of 2, who decided to say EFF IT and write her book, Wealth Warrior: 8 Steps for Communities of Color to Conquer the Stock Market. She had become obsessed about learning the ins and outs of the stock market after a colleague of hers showed her his investment portfolio, and started educating her about it. At that moment, she decided to become a student and learn everything she could, and help women of color learn how to invest by creating a crash course called Wealth Warrior: The Course. That’s when she was approached by a publisher, and ultimately got her book out into the world. From eviction notices to making up to $200,000 in one month, this madre has broken barriers for women of color by having a seat at the investing table, and educating women like us to have a seat as well. You just have to EFFing follow your internal guidance system, and if you are feeling fear, you are on the verge of something. It’s up to you to decide to run from it, or run towards it. But chances are, when you run towards it, your life will change for the better. You can purchase her book on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, your local book store or on her website, www.inluzwetrust.com. You will also be able to find Wealth Warrior: The Course, on her site as well. And, be sure to follow her accounts, @inluzwetrust and @luzwarrior on Instagram. Lastly, if you want to be part of Linda’s community, go to Patreon to join.
In this episode, we speak with Leslie Reeves, a madre of 2, who was looking for what she should do for work after the birth of her second child, and was presented with the opportunity to be the first franchisee of a kids hair salon called Sit Still. At first, she said EFF NO, for several reasons: She wasn’t a hairdresser, and her past experiences of visiting the Sit Still Kids Salon in her area were nothing great. But, after having a conversation with her husband, taking a trip out to visit the corporate offices of this salon, and seeing what the new salons were going to look and feel like, she said EFF IT and signed on to be the first franchisee. And, it was the best decision she could have made. You just have to EFFing call a friend or someone to get some advice when you are feeling stuck, and be open to change, even if it’s scary. Chances are that that change is just what you need. To check out Sit Still Kids Salon, please visit www.sitstillkids.com ,and their Instagram at @sitstillkids. And, for Leslie’s salon in Austin, TX, please visit www.austin.sitstillkids.com, and follow her on Instagram @sitstillkidsaustin.
In this episode, we speak to Danielle and Tiffany Kleiner, madres of 2 boys, who said EFF IT and tried to expand their family by way of artificial insemination. However, it didn’t take after a few attempts, so they decided to take that as a sign from the universe that it was just not meant to be. But because their EFF IT moment didn’t work out the way they had hoped, it allowed for other opportunities to open up work-wise that would have been difficult to take on had they been able to expand their family. So, in the end, it all worked out the way it was meant to. Sometimes, you just have to EFFing surrender to what is because there is another plan meant for you that you will come to see once a day. To check out the Kleiners and what they are up to, please follow them at @meetthekleiners, and @d.axt.productions.
In this episode, we speak with Sarah Covey, a madre of 2, who said EFF IT and decided to get back into singing by throwing a party concert for her 40th birthday party. Life had gotten a bit busy after becoming a mom, as that often happens with a lot of us moms. She had lost herself and wanted to return to her purpose. And, of course, after doing something that aligned with her heart and soul, other opportunities started to present themselves to her, which tends to happen when you start walking a path of authenticity and self-love. You just have to EFFing
decide that you can and keep going. It’s not as scary and hard as you make it out to be, so don’t let the fear stop you. To connect with Sarah and her journey, please go follow her on Instagram at @sarahgcovey.
In this episode, we speak with Kat Emrick, a single madre of 4, who decided to say EFF IT and tell herself that it is ok to not fit into the box of what society thinks motherhood and family structures should look like for so many people. At the end of the day, whatever you and your family “looks” like shouldn’t matter. What matters is that our kids are happy and loved, and however that looks like for you is just the way it should be for you and your family. Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise! You just have to EFFing stop looking at the ground, step out of your shell and be seen for the incredible mom that you are. Please go follow Kat’s journey on Instagram at @emotionalsupportbae.
This is the second flashback week to S1 EP 5: “Just EFFing Believe,” with none other than Romi’s mom, Ann Stemmer. This was another episode that got a lot of comments and downloads, so we wanted to reshare it with you all, or for the first time if you are just tuning in. Ann said EFF IT to everything the doctors were telling her about her son, Andy, who was born severely disabled. She knew he would go against the odds, and he has! It is an incredibly inspiring episode with a great message. Hope that you all enjoy it, and we will be back next week with a new madre with an incredible story! And again, please excuse the audio, lol!
Since it’s been pretty much one year since we both said EFF IT, and started this podcast, we thought it would be fun to do a few flashback episodes from our 1st season that got a lot of people’s attention and a lot of downloads. This week’s episode, we are flashing back to S1 EP 3: “Let’s EFFing Be Kind,” with Madre, Abbey Johnson. She said EFF IT to the “boy mom” story she had in her head when she had her twins that were both assigned “male at birth,” but one identified as female by the time she was about 3. It was a great episode, and hope that you enjoy hearing it again, or for the first time! And, since this was one of our first episodes, please excuse the quality of audio. We were just figuring this sh&t out!
In this episode, we speak with Cat Perez and Marianna Di Regolo, madres to their little boy, who said EFF IT and started Hey Famm, a website that showcases LGBTQ+ founded brands that are selling online all in one place. They started just one month ago, at a time where the LGBTQ+ community needs the most support with everything that is going on in the world. They felt called to create something specifically for their community because of how underrepresented it is. Even though they have had a roller coaster of emotions, they know their “why,” and are sticking to it. You just have to EFFing celebrate your wins, no matter how small. And, if you want to be an entrepreneur, remember that you can do it. If you set your mind to it, and learn how to figure it out, you can get there. To check out Hey Famm, please visit www.heyfamm.com. And, please go and follow them on Instagram and TikTok at @hey_famm.
In this episode, we decided to check in with Romi to see where she’s at in her EFF IT moment. There have been a lot of ups and downs in her journey, but that’s the way growth goes, right? EFF IT moments can take awhile to go through, but as long as you stay focused, and have the right support and love around you, you will get there! Taking small steps towards what you want will get you there. Just remember to be patient! If you haven’t already, go give Romi a follow on Instagram at @madre_romi, and if you are interested in being coached by her, please check out her website at www.safehavenlifecoach.com.
In this episode, we are the ones being interviewed by Zana and Giselle from The Strong Sunflowers Podcast. It is an awesome podcast about motivating and inspiring women to live wholeheartedly, and learn to advocate for themselves and others! And, it was our first time being on another podcast, yay! Big shout to them, and their community for welcoming us on their podcast to share our story! Please check out their podcast on all your favorite podcast platforms, and on their website, wwww.thestrongsunflowers.com. Also, please give them a follow on Instagram at @thestrongsunflowers.
In this episode, we speak with Sara Hernandez-Johnson, an entrepreneurial madre of one, that said EFF IT, and went from teaching Yoga to starting her own hair and makeup business that focused on weddings. And, that’s how Bonita Brides was born. It has been in business since 2017, and has grown exponentially since then. Her intuition told her that she should go down this route. And, because she listened, she is now running her own business, not only helping women feel beautiful on their wedding day, but also her team of women, who are mostly moms, put food on their tables for their families. You just have to EFFing take that messy action, and know that action is an important part of manifestation. And, if you share what you are manifesting, make sure it’s with positive people who support and cheer you on. To check out Sara’s company, Bonita Brides, please visit www.bonitabrides.com. And, go follow her on Instagram at @bonitabrides.
In this episode, we speak with Kathleen Carter, a book publishing madre of two, who had a snowball of EFF IT moments that were happening all at once. She said EFF IT to her marriage, her job, to starting her own business and leaving the place she had been living in that she didn’t feel good about moving to in the first place. She had been going against her gut, and falling into what society considered a “good wife” to be. But, she just couldn’t do it anymore. Even though these were hard times for her and her family to go through, she is so much happier now than she ever was because she finally started listening to herself. Just EFFing listen to your gut because if you don’t, everything will ultimately catch up to you. Be true to yourself, give yourself enough credit to trust those feelings, and don’t worry about what other people are going to think of you. It’s your life to live, not theirs! Please make sure to follow Kathleen and what she’s up to, please follow her on Instagram at @kccpr.
In this episode, we speak with Jenna Brocious, a madre of a 7 year old boy, who had her EFF IT moment when her son covered his ears to not hear her yelling. She immediately realized that she was repeating the same patterns from her upbringing, which she did not want to do to her son or her family. It was a big wake up call, and she and her family have put a lot of work into the way they communicate with each other as a family since that moment happened. You just have to EFFing take a step back, take a breath, and process the moment. Then, try finding a positive way to move forward that works for you and your family. Please check out Jenna’sr Etsy shop at JennaBSpiritual or amazing prayer cards with positive intentions, and follow her on Instagram at @jennab_spiritual.
In this episode, we speak to Clara Capano, a single madre of one, who realized once COVID hit that she wasn’t living her life on her terms. So, she decided to say EFF IT, and take back the reins of her life that she had given up because of safety. That ultimately led to complacency, and that was not how she wanted to live her life. You just have to EFFing start betting on yourself, and not take the safe route. Remember to live your truth because it will affect everything around you for the better. To check out Clara’s work and purpose, please go visit www.claracapano.com.
In this episode, we speak with Liz Meyers, a madre of 4, who decided to say EFF IT, and went against everyone’s advice about not sharing any personal information with the biological mother of 2 of her adopted children. She and her family weren’t wanting to take her kids away. Rather, she wanted to champion their bio mom to get through all her struggles while still be a part of her kids’ lives. And, from that incredible gesture of opening up her heart to her, she not only changed the lives of her kids, but also of their biological mother, who has completely turned her life around, and is now very much part of their amazing family. You just have to EFFing know that when you get to a place of wholeness within yourself, you may start to notice that the things that you do are not really about what you get out of it. But, more about the legacy that you leave behind, especially for your kids. For more resources regarding becoming a CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocate) for kids, please visit www.nationalcasagal.org. And, please make sure to follow Liz and her incredible family on Instagram at @lizcmeyers.
In this episode, we speak with Ariel Hauck, a madre of 1, who said EFF IT, and left her abusive ex-husband. She and her daughter were in a bad situation, and in another country, which made escaping that much more difficult. Thankfully, she found her way out, came back to the States and was able to rebuild herself, and her career after reaching her rock bottom. She was able to reestablish her hairdressing career in New York City, is now in a healthy relationship, and her daughter is happy and thriving. It’s hard to leave someone you love, but if they hurt you or your kids, you just have to EFFing get out, at least for the sake of your kids. If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Hotline at (800) 799-7233. And if you want advice from Ariel, please feel free to reach out to her via her Instagram at @arielhauck_.
In this episode, we speak to Amanda Freick, a madre of a little boy, who decided to say EFF IT, and convinced her husband to quit his job, and buy a motorhome so that they can travel the country. At first, he thought she was crazy, but after having to deal with all the stress and hardships from being the CEO of an Assisted Living Company, especially during Covid, he decided also to say EFF IT, and quit his job. Three months later, they purchased a motorhome, and have been on the road ever since 2021. It has been the best thing they could’ve ever done. Just remember that you always have an EFFing choice, to either stay in or get out of the current situation that you are in. Just EFFing be honest with yourself, get quiet, and see what comes up for you when you go inward. To follow Amanda and their cross-country journey, follow her on Instagram at @amandafreick. Also, be sure to check out their construction company called Boomer and Dukes at www.banddhomes.com, and the AI tech company that Amanda works for at www.altruistic.io.com.
In this episode, we speak with Brittany Overton, the step madre to Romi’s little girl, Frankie, where she shares her story of how she said EFF IT to stepping into the role of Frankie’s bonus mom. It’s hard enough for kids to have their parents divorce. But, the parents and their partners play a big role in how hard or easy that transition can be. Brittany, Romi and the rest of their family have chosen to work together to provide a loving family for Frankie because all they want for her is to feel loved and be happy. You just have to effing think about the kids on the other side of these situations, so don’t take the situation lightly. And, following the kids’ lead and being supportive to them are the best things you can do because they have a voice and deserve respect as much as anyone else. If you are interested in reading books on brain development in children, Brittany suggest, The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind. And, if you have any questions in regards to how to build a nurturing co-parenting relationship, feel free to reach out to Romi on Instagram at @theeffitmadres, or her personal account, @madre_romi.
In this episode, we speak with Emily and Yazz, two madres of two little boys, who decided to say EFF IT as a family and BOTH go back to school, which was scary since both of them were high school dropouts. But, this time around, they were moms together, and had a drive to achieve what they thought they couldn’t back when they were younger. And sure enough, they both have excelled, achieved awards and scholarships, and Yazz is now heading off to law school, while Emily completes her last 2 years at UC Berkeley, a university that they both attended that they never thought they had a chance at getting in. All while now raising 2 little boys! You just have to EFFing jump,and remember that it’s not selfish to put yourself first if it will better you for your family. To follow their story and reach out if you have any questions in regards to going back to school and what resources are available, please follow Emily at @em3sunflower.
In this episode, we speak to Simone Knego, a madre of 6, who decided to say EFF IT and climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, even though it was not something she sought out to do. This opportunity was offered to her, and it lead her to not only conquer that mountain, but conquer her crippling self doubt that she had battled with all her life. She now is a motivational speaker and published author, all because she said EFF IT. You just have to EFFing take a look in the mirror, say to yourself that you are proud of who you are, and know that you matter! To check out what Simone is up to as well as her book, The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You, please visit www.simoneknego.com. Also, please follow her on Instagram at @simoneknego and check out The Daughter Dearest Podcast that she has with her daughter.
In this episode, we decided to have a conversation between us about what came up for us after watching the Pamela Anderson documentary. The topic of sexualization is a tough thing to talk about, but we felt it was an important conversation to have since we both have daughters and want to try to raise them to know that their looks are not all they have to offer. We have both struggled in finding our own value outside of that since it was all the validation we got growing up. So, it is important for us to change that narrative for our girls. We would love to hear your thoughts and opinions on this topic, so please reach out to us via our instagram at @theeffitmadres, or email us at connect@theeffitmadres.com.
In this episode, we speak with Jennifer Battle, a madre of 4, who ran her own fitness coaching business for 6 years that was very successful. However, it no longer aligned with who she was becoming, so she decided to say EFF IT and shut it down to start a community of female entrepreneurs (Fem-preneurs) that really want to focus on real relationships and connections. She went against all the “business rules” and decided to do things differently this time around with her new business. And, even though she is starting over and having to deal with the hard realities of starting fresh, she wouldn’t have it any other way. You just have to EFFing trust yourself, and allow yourself to get to a place where you cancel out all the outside noise, pause and ask yourself, “what do you really want?” To follow Jennifer and the amazing community that she is building, please follow her on Instagram at @successrevolutionsociety.
Hello Madres! We are taking a short break, but we will be back in 3 weeks! Life is happening hard right now for the both of us, so to ensure we are bringing you our best selves, we decided to slow it down and catch up on some things. We want to always make sure we are showing up the best we can for this community. And, when times get tough, it’s sometimes hard to do that. But we’ll be back interviewing some more amazing Madres on sharing their big EFF IT moments, as well as one-on-one convos with us on topics that we feel are important to discuss, even if they might be uncomfortable or controversial. So, please catch up on our past episodes, and make sure to follow us on Instagram at @theeffitmadres for daily posts and updates for when our next episode is about to air. See you later!
In this episode, we speak with Zana Carbajal, a madre of four, who was living her life according to how her religion expected her to, even though it didn’t align with how she saw her life. Once she had her twin girls, she decided to say EFF IT to the confines of Mormonism, and decided to be who she always knew and felt she was: ambitious, wild and free-spirited. You just EFFing need to figure out what your story is and just go do it! To follow Zana’s journey, please follow her on Instagram and Youtube at @casacarbi. Also, go listen to her and her best friend’s podcast, The Strong Sunflowers, at www.thestrongsunflowers.com and on Instagram at @thestrongsunflowers.
This is Part 2 of us sharing our motherhood journeys, and now Romi opens up about hers. She talks about how having her daughter saved her life, has grounded her, and how she’s had to find herself again after going down the rabbit hole of just being Frankie’s mom. It’s important that we all share our stories because our motherhood journeys are different, and that’s ok. Never let someone tell you yours is good or bad, it’s just yours. And just EFFing be open to learning about others and their journeys versus judging or shaming others for not falling in line with what “should be.” We are all bonded by this journey. It just doesn’t look exactly the same for everyone, and that’s ok.
We decided to change things up for these next two episodes and sit down with each other to talk about our motherhood journeys because they are SO different from each other. In this episode, we speak to Carla about her motherhood journey, which covers her struggles with connection, identity loss, and tapping into her feminine, which is something that she really hadn’t been in touch with before, despite being a woman. Your motherhood journey is unique to you. Don’t EFFing let anyone make you feel bad for the way you are experiencing it, or tell you what you should/should not do. The only person that knows what’s best for you and your kids is YOU. Stay tuned for next week’s episode where we will hear from Romi about her journey!
In this episode, we speak to Jeanette Cantrell, a madre of four, who decided to say EFF IT and step away from her celebrity styling career she had built for many years to go back to school to become a licensed therapist. Her styling career demanded her to be away from her kids, and it just wasn’t serving her anymore. So, she said EFF IT and decided that she wanted to serve people in a much bigger way through therapy. You just have to EFFing take some time with you and reflect, and figure out what is serving you and what isn’t anymore. To learn more about Jeanette and the therapy she offers, please go to www.rockwallcounselingandwellness.com. Also, you can follow her on Instagram at @jeanettetalks.
In this episode, we speak with Sonja Teri, a madre of an 8 year old boy, who decided to say EFF IT and take her business to the next level by moving it from her apartment to a huge office in DTLA, along with hiring staff once her son was born. However, this move didn’t do what she thought it would do for her in regards to more freedom and flexibility. So, she said EFF IT again and downsized, and is now is in search of something new. Sometimes, those initial EFF IT moments don’t always work out the way you want, but they take you on a journey to your next one. You just have to EFFing take the risk, and just do it. Life is too short. And, even if you fail, you learn. To check Sonja’s work out, please visit www.posterchildprints.com, and go follow her on Instagram at @posterchildprints.
In this episode, we speak with Sasha Rogers, a madre of two, who was presented with two options from the position she had had for two years to either get back to traveling a lot, or be let go. She said EFF IT and chose the latter, and it was the best decision. She was not only able to be present for her family, but was also able to grow the online business she and her partner had started in the Health, Fitness and Personal Development realm, and now they have the freedom to live how they want. You just have to EFFing be ok with putting your wants and needs first, and know that it doesn’t mean you care any less about anyone else. To check out Sasha’s journey and the services that she offers, please check her Instagram out at @sasha_fitcounselor and on FB at Sasha Roger, Health and Fitness Coach.
In this episode, we speak with Katherine Pardee, a madre to a little boy, who decided to say EFF IT and finally put herself back out there to find love again after losing her partner to cancer. Finding her new love made her decide to make a big move, change her life path and become a stepmadre to 3 other kids with some animals in tow! You just have to EFFing find your own way to grieve after loss, know that it’s ok to self-care, and find what feeds your soul. To check out Katherine’s lists of services that she offers, please go to www.coffeechaosandkisses.com and check out her Instagram @coffeechaosandkisses. And, if anyone would like support/advice after loss, please feel free to reach out to Katherine by DM on Instagram.
In this episode, we speak with Darby Harrison, a madre to her 15 year old Autistic son, who decided to say EFF IT and take matters into her own hands when her son’s school was not properly addressing the bullying that was happening towards her son. She became an advocate for him and makes sure her voice is heard whenever a bullying issue arises. You just have to EFFing get involved in your kids’ schools, and ensure they are enforcing their anti-bullying policies. If your child is experiencing bullying at school and you would like some advice, please feel free to connect with Darby via her Instagram at @darby052183.
In this episode, we speak with Corie Wightlin, a madre of three, who decided to say EFF IT and leave her teaching career of 17 years behind without really knowing what was next. But, the time off allowed for her to be more present for her family. And, she ultimately found her path as an Executive Functioning Coach, where she guides and supports people through their own moments of overwhelm, transition, and task paralysis. You just have to EFFing get clear, write out your why, and find your people that will support you and hold you accountable. To find out more about Corie’s coaching services, please visit www.wightlincoachingservices. And, please go follow her on Instagram at @wightlincoachingservices.
In this episode, we decided to change things up and share our reflections on the past 20 episodes, and what we have learned since starting this podcast, aside from learning how to use our equipment! We each share our own thoughts on what we have learned from all the incredible madres we have interviewed, and our hopes for all things to come from building this community of madres supporting madres through their EFF IT moments. Just go EFFing try, and follow your heart because when you do, no matter what the outcome, you grow and learn from these impactful moments!
In this episode, we speak with Emilie Mascarell, a beauty product consulting madre of a 3 year old little boy, who decided to say EFF IT and quit the “dream job” that initially looked great on paper, but ended up being the most time-consuming, energy-sucking role ever. She now works for herself, and although it’s a relatively new change, she has no regrets and has a stronger relationship with her family than ever before. You just have to EFFing take a look at your situation, take that next step and prepare if it makes sense to you, and know that it’s not the end of the world if things don’t work out. You just have to try. To check out Emilie’s services, please visit www.emilieconsulting.com and also follow her on Instagram at @emilieinstagrams.
In this episode, we speak with Tamara Nowakowsky Komuniecki, a business-owning madre to a 13 year old boy, who decided to say EFF IT when she realized that she had to be her own hero, and not wait for anyone to come save her. Although she has always been looked at as “the strong one” in her family, it wasn’t until she had her son that she felt empowered to stand up for herself, and say no to things that no longer suit her. And, to never allow the trauma and abuse that happened to her to happen to her son. You just have to EFFing dig deep, know who you are, and carry it with strength. To check out Tamara’s brands, please visit www.strongasamother.club, and her home goods store at www.delishgeneralstore.com. Also, please follow her on Instagram at @strongasamotherclub and @delishgeneralstore.
In this episode, we speak with Leslie Lew, a self-defense coaching madre of 2, who decided to say EFF IT and break the intergenerational trauma when she stood up to her mother during a dispute. She had to disrupt those old, familial trauma patterns in order to become the strong madre that she is so that she can create a legacy of strength for her kids. You just have to EFFing start listening to your inner higher voice, know that you are worth fighting for, and unleash your lioness. To learn more about Leslie and the self-defense coaching that she offers, please visit www.reclaimingyourpower.com. And, please follow her on Instagram at @reclaimingyourcourage.
In this episode, we speak with Lauren Schwarzfeld, a madre of 3, who decided to say EFF IT and stop drinking. Not because she had a problem, but because it was just not in alignment with how she wanted to live her life. She was tired of going through life on other people’s terms, and decided she wanted to live according to her own, and do the things that felt right to her. You just have to EFFing slow down, be open, and stop asking other people how you should be living your life. To check out Lauren’s book, please visit www.everythinglauren.com. And, please follow her journey on Instagram at @itseverythinglauren.
In this episode, we speak with Michelle Valiukenas, a madre of a little boy and an angel baby named Colette. She decided to say EFF IT to following all the rules after having lost her daughter 9 days after being born. She had done everything by the book before that moment, and realized that no matter how hard you try and follow all the advice, nothing is guaranteed. So, she left her job and started The Colette Louise Tisdahl Foundation in honor of her daughter to help families who have experienced child loss through financial assistance, education and advocacy. You just have to EFFing take it one day at a time, be kind yourself, and surround yourself with people who are there for you. For more information on child loss and how to get support, please visit Michelle’s Foundation, The Colette Louise Tisdahl Foundation at www.colettelouise.com. You can also follow the foundation on FB, Twitter, LinkedIn and their Instagram at @colettelouisetisdahl.
In this episode, we speak with Steph Wright, a madre of a little girl, who after being diagnosed with Bell’s Palsy when she was 40 weeks pregnant, decided to say EFF IT to her corporate life to become a Cosmic Life Coach. The amount of stress she was experiencing before her EFF IT moment was not worth the health decline. Now, she is a stay-at-home mom and entrepreneur, growing her spirituality practice and showing her little girl that she can blaze her own path. You just EFFing need to love yourself in the moment that you’re at, meet yourself where you are, and love your inner child. To find out more about Steph, please check out her website at www.thewrightsteph, and follow her on Instagram at @the_wright_steph.
In this episode, we speak with Kim O’Hara, a single madre of 2, who had made herself a promise to buy her dream home in 7 years. But, as the 7th year came, so did the pandemic. She said EFF IT and decided to go for it anyway, even though it took her to an area she was not very familiar with due to the incredibly high home prices in the LA area. But, the experiences she and her kids have gained from the purchase of their home has made the decision all worth it. You just have to EFFing keep pioneering, don’t lock yourself down once you become a parent and keep upleveling! To learn more about Kim, please visit her website www.kimohara.com, and check out her books at www.kimoharabooks.com. Also, please follow her on Instagram at @kimoharacoach.
In this episode, we speak with Felicia Kashevaroff, a madre of 3, who decided to say EFF IT and leave her marriage of 20 years because she was not being valued for all the work she did as a mom. This inspired an idea for a business, so she and her best friend decided to launch Tendtask, a tech-enabled coaching platform that helps couples move towards equal partnership. You just have to EFFing find your community, get some clarity in what you need, and don’t be afraid to speak your truth out loud! For more information about the services Tendtask offers, please visit www.tendtask.com and be sure to download the app from the App Store (it’s free!). Also, be sure to follow them on Instagram and Twitter at @tendtask.
In this episode, we speak with Sara Lopez, a madre of 4 boys, who moved to a new community and did not have any luck finding resources that connected her to other families for play dates and other kid-friendly to-dos. So, she said EFF IT, and created one herself called Match2Play, the first virtual community designed exclusively to support the well-being of families. You just have to EFFing believe in yourself, don’t be afraid to ask for help, and know that you can take things one step at a time. It’s your timeline, not anyone else’s! To download the app (it’s free!), look for Match2Play in the Apple store. Also, check out www.match2play.com to get connected with other families within your community, and be sure to follow what Sara is up to on Instagram at @match2playfamily.
In this episode, we speak with Brittany Hamilton, a madre of 3, who was The Team Mom, always trying to conform to that picture-perfect pressure that society places on moms. And then she said EFF IT, and decided to let all that shit go once her son started having health issues. She decided to refocus on what is most important: family and their well being. You just have to
EFFing let go, stop controlling everything, and just let things be. For more information and resources regarding Crohn’s Disease and Ulcerative Colitis, please visit www.www.crohnscolitisfoundation.org. And, please follow Brittany on Instagram at @brittany.shaneil. If you have any questions regarding her story, please feel free to send her a message.
In this episode, we speak with Kristine McGlinchey, a corporate PR Manager turned Intuitive Mentor madre of two, who decided to say EFF IT to her secure job of over 10 years just two weeks after the birth of her first child. She found her purpose and now helps women quit their corporate jobs and step into motherhood. She also helps clear energy blocks from those having difficult fertility journeys. She was met with skepticism, from family and friends, but knew that the universe had her back. And it surely did! You just have to EFFing trust in yourself and the universe and know that it’s possible to live your dreams. To check out Kristine’s offerings, please visit her website at www.kristinemcglinchey.com and follow her on Instagram at @kristine_mcglinchey.
In this episode, we speak with Kaitlyn Crabtree, a madre of a little girl, who said EFF IT after barely recovered from a life-threatening illness while pregnant with her daughter, to travel to Latin America with a brand new baby. It was just the two of them traveling to different countries over the span of a few months with no solid plans, and were welcomed into the community like they were family. It was a life-changing experience, to say the least!. When life hands you difficult situations, sometimes you just need to EFFing really live your life, and trust yourself despite what may come up against you because you just never know what amazing things can happen. Please follow Kaitlyn on her Instagram @imkaitlynandilikeflowers. And, if you have any questions regarding her experience, please connect with her there.
EPISODE 8: Just EFFing Put Your Heart Out There!
In this episode, we speak with Alison Mohr Boleware, a fostering madre of a few children over the last few years, who decided to say EFF IT to the outcomes and uncertainties that might come when becoming a foster parent. She and her family decided to just take it day by day, and provide a loving home for their children. They are focusing on the present, and creating loving memories with them. You just have to EFFing open your heart, take things as they come, and enjoy each moment as much as you can. For more information and resources on becoming a foster parent/family, please visit CASA, https://nationalcasagal.org/, and Angels Foster Care, https://www.angelsfostercare.org/approval-to-foster. If you live in Austin, Texas, check out Fostering Hope, www.iamfosteringhope.org. You can also research within your area what resources are available to you locally. And, please follow Alison on her Instagram at @alison_kayyyyy to see her fostering journey.
In this episode, we speak with Jen Brady, a makeup and hairstyling madre of two, who is in the midst of her EFF IT moment (Just like us!). She has found something that calls to her heart, and is figuring out all the things she needs to do to achieve her goal. One thing is for sure when you are going through your EFF IT moment is that you just EFFing need to keep that energy going to stay in your EFF IT mindset! Please follow her on Instagram at @jenbradyatx for all her latest updates on her journey.
In this episode, we speak with Gloria El-Achkar, a madre of four, who found herself in a toxic environment and abusive relationship. She decided to say EFF IT, and literally took her kids and walked away with only the clothes on their backs. Despite how hard it was to leave with three children in tow, she knew in her heart that it was the best decision for her and her kids. And, it was! You just have to EFFing honor yourself and do you because it is the most important thing you can do for yourself and everyone around you. Please follow her on Instagram at her personal page @gloriaelaandco and her photography @photosandlattes.
In this episode, we speak with Romi's madre, Ann Stemmer. At 29, she had given birth to her third child, Andy, whose doctors said that because of how severely disabled he was, she should put him into an institution. But, she said EFF IT, and went against all the advice given to her because she knew in her heart that her son would succeed. And he has! Now at 34 years old, Andy has defied all the odds. He plays sports, loves to dance and loves the ladies. You just have to EFFing believe, do your research and focus on what can be done versus what can't be done. To help families find resources for intellectual and developmental disabilities in children, please visit https://www.harborrc.org/ for more information.
In this episode, we speak with Brooke Cervenka, a Christian songwriter madre of two little boys, who decided to say EFF IT, and broke away from the traditional song writing of Christian music, and collaborated with a fellow Christian musician who wanted to share with the world something that he had been hiding all his life. Brooke helped in writing a love song him that allowed for him to finally show the world who he truly is. And, also for her to break the cycle of traditional Christian teachings, spread the word of equality through her songwriting, and owning her own voice. Follow her at @brooke_cervenka and check out the song “Flow” by Jamar Rogers on Spotify.
In this episode, we speak with Abbey Johnson, a madre of 3 kids. She was so excited to be a mother to 3 boys. But, when one of her twins expressed to her that she identified as female, Abbey said EFF It and realized that her story needed to change and let her daughter be who she really is. And that people need to just effing be kind to others because you just don’t know what people are going through. Disclaimer: We do cuss!
In this episode we speak to Arden Tomosky, a SoCal madre of two who decided to EFF IT and move her family from their townhome in Newport Beach to Idaho and are now living their best lives, living on a farm and growing their own food! Follow her at @letsgotoidaho and @thedailyarden.
Indeed, we are. Two madres going through our own Eff It moment and decided to make this podcast to share amazing stories from inspiring madres who decided to just Eff It and make some changes to their lives.. And, we figured since this is the first one ever, we should probably introduce ourselves and explain why we are inspired to do it.
Hi Everyone! It's Romi and Carla, and together we are The Eff It Madres. We are here to invite you into the stories of inspiring madres, who have changed their lives through an Eff It moment. So, here we go...Just Eff It!