Bless Our Mess: Recent Episodes
Taylor LMFT
Life is meant to be rewarding, satisfying, and enjoyed - but life gets messy. Marriages and relationships can get rocky, we can feel like we are failing as a spouse, parent, and individual - which can lead to anxiety, depression, and a diminished outlook on life. Taylor and Kelli are having real, raw, vulnerable, and unedited conversations about strengthening marriages and family, parenting approaches, life's triumphs, life's failures, and all the mess in between. Taylor is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and brings his life's work and experiences to the crucial conversations in overcoming life's biggest challenges and finding joy in the chaos of life. Welcome to the Bless Our Mess Podcast!
Join us in this episode of Bless Our Mess as we delve into the crucial topic of dismissive parenting, drawing insights from the renowned research of Dr. John Gottman. Dismissive parenting can have profound effects on a child's emotional development, but fear not – we explore researched solutions based on Dr. Gottman's findings to help you stop dismissive parenting in its tracks. From prioritizing emotional connection and setting clear boundaries to offering positive reinforcement and spending quality time together, discover practical strategies to cultivate a nurturing and supportive environment for your child's emotional well-being. Tune in to learn how to nurture your child's emotional well-being and foster a strong and secure attachment that lasts a lifetime.
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In this episode of Bless Our Mess, we explore the fascinating world of dopamine – the neurotransmitter responsible for feelings of pleasure, motivation, and reward. Join us as we uncover five researched-based strategies to naturally boost dopamine levels and enhance your mental and emotional well-being. From regular exercise and engaging in creative activities to practicing mindfulness and prioritizing meaningful social connections, learn how simple lifestyle changes can have profound effects on your mood and overall happiness. Tune in to discover how to harness the power of dopamine to live a happier, more fulfilling life.
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In this insightful episode of Bless Our Mess, we delve into the unique challenges faced by parents raising children with ADHD and explore effective strategies for managing difficult behaviors. Join Taylor Jacobson a licensed marriage and family therapist dive into the invaluable guidance and support for navigating the complexities of parenting.
Discover practical tips for setting clear boundaries, establishing routines, and implementing positive reinforcement techniques to address challenging behaviors associated with ADHD. From hyperactivity and impulsivity to inattention and defiance, learn how to approach each behavior with empathy, understanding, and evidence-based interventions.
Through real-life anecdotes and expert insights, this episode offers a beacon of hope for parents grappling with the daily struggles of raising a child with ADHD. Gain a deeper understanding of your child's unique needs, strengths, and potential, and empower yourself with the tools needed to foster a supportive and nurturing environment at home.
Join us on Bless Our Mess as we explore the complexities of parenting ADHD children and provide practical strategies for promoting positive behavior, building resilience, and strengthening parent-child relationships. Whether you're a seasoned parent or new to the journey, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking guidance on parenting the difficult behaviors of ADHD children.
Don't miss out – subscribe now to Bless Our Mess and unlock expert insights to help you navigate the challenges of parenting with confidence and compassion.
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In this empowering episode of Bless Our Mess, delve into the psychology behind the timeless adage, "Bad Times Don't Last Forever," and uncover actionable strategies to cultivate resilience in the face of adversity. Host Taylor Jacobson a licensed marriage and family therapist, explore the inner workings of the human psyche during challenging times.
Discover the science-backed techniques and mindset shifts that enable individuals to navigate hardships with strength and grace. From reframing negative thoughts to fostering self-compassion, each strategy discussed serves as a beacon of hope for those traversing difficult terrain.
Tune in as we delve into real-life examples and anecdotes, illustrating the transformative power of resilience in overcoming life's toughest trials. Whether you're facing personal setbacks, professional challenges, or global crises, this episode equips you with the tools needed to weather the storm and emerge stronger than ever before.
Join us on Bless Our Mess as we unravel the psychology of resilience and embark on a journey toward resilience, growth, and triumph over adversity. Because indeed, "Bad Times Don't Last Forever" – and with the right mindset and strategies, you can emerge from the darkness into the light.
Don't miss out on this enlightening episode – subscribe now and unlock the secrets to building resilience in the face of life's greatest challenges.
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It's too easy for us as parents to see our child's behavior and attribute the behavior to their "nature", "just who they are," and "their temperament." In today's episode we discuss looking beyond the problematic behavior to assess if your child is suffering from some type of mental health issue. We look at some scary stats about how more then 50% of children with mental health issues receive no treatment, how depression and suicide are on the rise, and how if these issues go untreated how it manifests itself in adulthood.
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Nothing zaps our energy like negative toxic people. If we are looking for more peace and happiness in life decreasing and cutting out negativity and toxicity out of our lives. Today we discuss 9 strategies to deal with the negativity and toxicity some people bring into our lives.
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Life can get very stressful and overwhelming. High levels of stress are a breeding ground for negativity, decreased mental and emotional well-being, and is a major contributor to the decline of our physical health. Today we talk about simple, straight forward approaches to beating stress and staying calm.
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Today we discuss the most addictive social media features and how it feeds addiction, ruins our mental and emotional health, and the damaging effects on our children.
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Sometimes we engage in certain habits that keep us from the levels of happiness we want. In today's episode we will dive into what science has found to increase our happiness.
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Emotional Intelligence is finally starting to get the attention it deserves, and for good reason. EI is directly correlated to happiness, quality relationships, and success. Join us as we discuss what EI is and strategies you can implement today to start increasing your EI.
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In this episode Taylor briefly introduces nutritional psychiatry and how what we eat impacts our mental and emotional well-being. He discussed neurotransmitters and how food can either increase or decrease our "feel good" neurotransmitters.
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In today's episode Taylor dives into what fawning is - people pleasing behaviors - the dangers of these behaviors and what you can do to stop these harmful behaviors.
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Have you ever suffered from the pains of self-doubt? I have! In today's episode we break down a straight forward approach to building and maintaining high levels of confidence.
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We live in a society where endless novelty abounds. However, this creates a serious problem for our overall well-being. In todays episode we discuss how boredom can unlock our super power. We break down how this happens, why we should schedule time to be bored, the benefits of boredom, and how to implement boredom into our daily lives.
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In this episode Taylor breaks down some of the Do's and Don'ts of talking to your child about the harmful affects of porn. We discuss some of the scary statistics about exposure to porn, resources to help educate parents, and why we should talk early and often about porn with our children.
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Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) or better known as seasonal depression is upon us. In this episode we look at 9 foods that will make depression worse. Visit tayloredtherapy.com for current and upcoming therapy courses. Use coupon code: bom20 for 20% off your first two months.
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Our children are facing an ever changing and demanding world. Life is fast paced and only seems to be getting worse. In this episode Taylor introduces Taylored Therapy Courses and the first course is all about raising children who have the mental and emotional fortitude and tools to manage life's most difficult challenges. Visit tayloredtherapy.com for more information. Use coupon code: bom20 for 20% off the first two months!
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In this episode Taylor and Kelli break down six reasons why every couple should take a kid free vacation. Discuss the importance of connection as a couple and how a kid free vacation is also good for your children.
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In this episode Taylor discusses neuroplasticity and how to rewire the brain. He discusses how neuroplasticity can be used either for our benefit or detriment. Listen in to learn the fundamentals of rewiring your brain.
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In this episode (part two) of The Growing Concern of Technology on Teens' Mental Wellness Taylor discusses specific approaches you can take as a parent to help safe guard your children from the negatives of unhealthy electronic use and how to develop healthy electronic habits.
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In this episode Taylor discusses some of the alarming findings of how technology is impacting our children's' mental well being.
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In this episode Taylor dives into the importance of emotional regulation and self-soothing practices. He discusses how becoming emotionally flooded negatively impacts the relationships and steps each partner can take to restore calm and have healthy conflict.
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Part 2 of advancing skills to becoming a great listener. In this episode Taylor breaks down 4 key things we can do as a spouse to become a better listener.
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In this episode Taylor dives into the foundational steps of becoming a great listener and as a result there will be increased intimacy and closeness in your relationship.
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Every relationship will encounter a fight. In this episode Taylor breaks down 5 steps to take after you have been in a fight so you can make attempts to repair and make amends.
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In this follow-up episode, Taylor dives into 15 ways we can challenge our most frequently used distortions. The way we think influences how we feel. The way we feel influences the way we act. When you combined our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors we will have certain outcomes in our life both for positive and negative. Listen in to find ways you can break out of bad mood, challenge your negative self-critic, and find a more balanced and positive approach to life.
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In this episode Taylor discusses the most commonly used distortions that can negatively impact our lives. He discusses how our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors feed off of and impact the other and that when we are frequently using distorted thinking we can feel depressed, anxious, or decreased life satisfaction. Tune in to see if any of these distortions are plaguing your life.
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In this episode Taylor discusses the small things couples can do to maintain connection and build a positive lasting marriage. He discusses the importance of how we part in the mornings, reunite later, date nights, expressions of appreciation and affection, and the aftermath of a fight.
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In this episode Taylor dives into how our a selective attention creates labels and how these labels feed our assumptions about ourselves, others, and the world in which we live. We take a deeper look at the benefits we receive when practicing gratitude. Then we finish the episode with three simple tactics to foster gratitude and experience the benefits of being thankful.
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Unfortunately, infidelity is becoming more and more common in our society. Sometimes this infidelity happens because each partner has differing perspectives of what infidelity is for them. In this episode Taylor shares the different types of infidelity to better help marriages beware of the pitfalls of infidelity.
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Do you feel like you are alone in your marriage? Unfortunately, this is more common than ever. In this episode, Taylor and Kelli discuss how marriages fall into this trap and several ways to break out of the pattern, become united, and find more satisfaction within the marriage.
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Taylor is joined by his daughter where they discuss how hook up culture is concerning to the overall well-being of the individual and the impact it is having on society. Listen in for ways to identify your true life desires and the ability to build the fortitude to purse those goals.
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In this episode Taylor and Kelli discuss the symptoms of anxiety as well as the often over looked symptoms of anxiety. We share our personal and professional experiences in managing anxiety so we can more fully enjoy life.
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In this episode, Kelli and Taylor discuss stigmas surrounding therapy and what holds couples back from seeking counseling. Also, they discuss several warning signs that indicate couples should consider counseling - Break down in communication, arguments are destructive, lack of trust, lost the spark, and going through significant issues together.
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In this episode Taylor breaks down the four P's of anger (past, purpose, pattern, and payoff) and the universal truths of anger. How does anger show up in your life? Where did you learn to express anger the way you do? What is the purpose and desired payoffs of your anger? Listen in to find out more and knowing these things can better help us manage anger.
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In this episode we are joined by a very special guest to discuss how we as parents can build trust and be approachable by our kids. It is paramount that our children can trust and confidently come to us in time of need or crisis. We discuss what approaches parents can take to quickly gain the trust of their teens. I hear in therapy too often that teens do not feel comfortable disclosing certain life issues with their parents and instead turn to their peers for help. Listen in to find out how you can be the main person your teen trusts with life's biggest issues.
Life gets messy, it can be difficult, and it can be overwhelming. It's easy to experience negative thoughts which in turn affects the way we feel and act. It's easy to be consumed with these thoughts and if are present for long enough periods of time can result in us formulating negative limiting beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world. In this episode we discuss several options to challenging our negative thoughts which can drastically improve our mood and overall life satisfaction.
In this episode we reflect on what we have learned to implement to forge a strong, vibrant, and fulfilling marriage. We discuss communication tactics, behavioral interventions, and supporting our spouse as an individual and a partner.
In this episode Taylor breaks down two therapy tactics that help us make decisions that will help us be happier and experience less regret in life. Taylor shares several of his life experiences that have reinforced the power of these tactics.
In this episode Taylor shares his experience with his limiting beliefs, self-doubt, and how he is continuously challenging his feelings of being and imposter.
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In this episode Kelli and Taylor discuss self-doubt and how our insecurities hold us back and feed mental and emotional issues. They process through the concept of how we can't change what we don't acknowledge, how we developed self-limiting beliefs, and what we can do to recalibrate.
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In this episode Kelli and Taylor discuss their experience parenting with the Love and Logic methods. They discuss the importance of letting your children fail safely and being able to communicate how those behaviors translate to life as an adult.
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In this episode Kelli and Taylor share their personal experiences with identifying their insecurities that had been holding themselves and their relationship back from what it could be. They discuss the importance of being proactive in self-improvement rather than waiting until you're in crisis.
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In this episode Kelli and Taylor discuss further the why and purpose of starting Bless Our Mess. They discussed the initial fears of being vulnerable but unpack how powerful vulnerability can be.
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In this episode Taylor and Kelli share recent life and parenting trials that are upsetting and angering. Taylor shares several anger management techniques to help parents and individuals manage their anger in upsetting life events.
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Unfortunately, many parents are using approaches that set their kids up to fail where it matters most...LIFE! In this episode Kelli and Taylor discuss two specific parenting approaches that lead to your child developing poor self-esteems and learned helplessness (where they believe they are weak and incapable of doing anything in life, while expecting someone to do the work for them).
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In this episode Kelli and Taylor dive into how important the role of a parent is to their children. They discuss potential pitfalls of being your child's friend more than being their parent.
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Kelli and Taylor introduce themselves and give some background on how the podcast came about.
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