#Notallmen???: Recent Episodes

Calum Stronach

Delving into the questions of masculinity and how as men we can do better. Leading to happier lives for those that walk with us but also us, ourselves.

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Welcome back to season three of the #notallmen podcast. Today we are joined by the wonderful Asa Baav. Asa is a women's dating and intimacy coach as well coaching couples with her partner, David. Asa is also the host of the podcast A relationship podcast- turned on: tuned in.

In the conversation today we explore everything from finding the partner of your dreams to building a conscious relationship.

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Instagram: @coachwithasa
Podcast: A relationship Podcast: Turned on: Tuned in
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In the latest episode of the roundtable series, I am joined by three incredible men. Jamie Clements and Shaun Ferrari. The roundtable series is where we sit down with real men to just openly discuss a certain topics. 

In this episode we sit down and discuss what it means to do the work as man. We share our experiences of therapy and other forms of self development including the barriers we faced during our ongoing work.

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Instagram: @the_breath_space
Podcast: @theboystoiletspodcast
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A year of the podcast. A year of episodes. Today we delve into reviewing 2022 of the episodes and discussing what can be achieved in a year, all through the lens of the questions from you, the listeners.

What's been learnt? What have the main takeaways? How has the podcast evolved? What questions have you the listeners got?

Thank you to everyone who engaged this year. I am super grateful.

See you in 2023.

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Ben Owen and Pete Taylor are the founding members of the Awakened Man Project.
A movement designed to combine men do the work on the past conditioning and move forward in business.

In today's episode we discuss so much around men's work, our conditioning to suffer as men and breaking the mould when it comes to our personal and professional lives.

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Instagram- @coachbenjaminowen

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Instagram- @Pete_taylor

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Instagram: @theawakenedmanproject
Website: https://www.awakenedman.org/

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Alex Holmes is a therapist, mental health speaker, author and host of the Time to Talk podcast. He has a wonderful voice in the space of masculinity here in the UK.

In this conversation Alex shares much of his own story, male body image and discuss the value of vulnerability as opposed to the courage of vulnerability.

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Instagram- @byalexholmes
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Podcast- Time to Talk

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Harry Liddell is a men's coach and anger practitioner helping men heal and find their own peace and step into a more mature masculine.

In this conversation expect to hear about the difference between knowing enough and feeling enough, why connecting healthily to anger is so important and the why feeling shame. 

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Instagram- @iamharryliddell
Website: https://harryliddell.co

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In the latest episode of the roundtable series, I am joined by three incredible men. David Chambers, The Nice-ish Psychologist and Dan Osman. The roundtable series is where we sit down with real men to just openly discuss a certain topics.

In this episode we sit down and discuss ideas around calling men into the conversation. The balance of showing up compassionately and acknowledging everyone within the conversation, dealing with bystanders and so much more.

Follow Dan:
Instagram: @the_nice_ish_psychologist
Podcast: The Nice-ish Ramblings Podcast

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Instagram: @the.dan.osman
Podcast: Fitness Unfiltered
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Instagram: @theauthenticman_
Podcast: The Authentic Man
Work with David: https://www.theauthenticman.net/coaching-services

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Today we begin the roundtable series. The roundtable series is where we sit down with real men to just openly discuss a certain topics. Today I am joined by Steven McCready where we openly discuss male image challenge. Both the challenges as a whole and our challenges personally.

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Today I am joined by Matt Gunn on the podcast. Matt is a transpersonal psychotherapist and a Trauma informed breath work practitioner.

In this special episode we discuss what is trauma and the different ways it can manifest itself, the impact of breath work and the power of men's work. This is an episode that, in parts, feels more like a therapy session than an interview!

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Instagram- @mattdgunn
Website- https://www.mattgunn.co.uk/

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Today we are joined by Rich Diviney on the podcast. Rich draws upon 20+ years of experience as a Navy SEAL Officer where he completed more than 13 overseas deployments – 11 of which were to Iraq and Afghanistan. Through his career, he has achieved multiple leadership positions – to include the Commanding Officer of a Navy SEAL Command.

Since retirement in early 2017, Rich has worked as a speaker, facilitator, and consultant with the Chapman & Co. Leadership Institute and Simon Sinek Inc.

In today's episode we cover a lot around building healthier balance to masculine norms How to develop our own  attributes and developing self confidence.

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Instagram- rich_diviney
Website- https://theattributes.com/

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Today we are joined by Has Al-Hasani, who is the creator of the Human Down project. A project that champions male mental health.

In today's episode we cover male companionship, the idea of victory and competition and the role it play's in men's lives and the male ability to endure struggle and challenge. Plus much much more.

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Instagram- @hu_man_down

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Today we are joined by Ben Bidwell, known as the Naked Professor. Ben is a human potential coach and a breath work practitioner and an individual who is doing some incredible work in the men and masculinity space.

In today's conversation we cover finding connection in curiosity, exploring the different parts of us as well as developing healthy communication within relationships.

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Instagram- @benbidwell_thenakedprofessor
Website: https://benbidwell.com/

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Today we are joined by co-host Beckie Harris where we discuss, amidst the rise of Andrew Tate, the rise in content that are influencing young men. We also discuss the absent presence of the #notallmen brigade amongst of all of this as well as the role of compassion towards men.

I am so passionate about helping and inviting men to 'do the work'. If you want a free consultation with me then book in here: https://calendly.com/calumnutrition/nutritionconsult

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Today we are joined by James Oliver, otherwise known as The Compassionate Man on social media. James is a compassion coach and just a guy who is doing incredible things to invite men 'in' and hold a mirror up to themselves (Compassionately of course!)

In today's episode we discuss holding two truths, the silent suffering of men as well as dealing with the lads.

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Instagram- @thecompassionateman

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Welcome to Season Two! Today we introduce co-host, Beckie Harris and discuss where the next season of the NotAllMen? podcast is heading. 

We discuss the bystander effect. Appropriate times for compassion versus when we should shut up and point you in the direction of some incredible resources that will hopefully help you hold up a mirror to your masculinity. 

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Today we are joined by The Nice-ish Psychologist who is a Forensic and clinical psychologist with such a strong and amazing social media presence and podcast. He brings an amazing critical mind to the darker side of life.

In this episode, we discuss the oppression of women, the notallmen hashtag plus so much more. There is some real learnings in this episode!

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Instagram- @the_nice_ish_psychologist
Podcast- The Nice-ish Ramblings

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Today I am joined by Biff. Biff is a fantastic friend of mine who is an amazing coach. Bringing huge practices of self awareness to her practice she facilitates some incredible results for clients all around the world. 

In today's episode we discuss why you should watch a sunrise, how to build a routine that serves you and how you can use sex as a framework to shake the shackles of society's expectations. 

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Instagram- @biffoly

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Today I am joined by two of my closest friends, Joel & Ross. Having grown up since the first day of primary school we still remain the closest of friends, 27 years later.

Here is a real and vulnerable conversation as we invite you to join you to be a fly on the wall as we unpick our friendship. Nothing more than an attempt to provide you with a framework on how to check in with your mates.

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Today I am joined by Ed Cunningham otherwise known as aneed2read. Ed is host of the ever popular A need to read podcast and someone who is the most well read individual.

This episode covers everything from existential philosophy to freeing your mind of society's expectations. But more importantly we cover Ed's journey through therapy and the common barriers that we face in reaching out for help.

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Instagram- @aneed2read
Podcast: A need to read

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David Chambers is and a dating and intimacy coach. His work has been featured in national newspapers as well as being host of the Authentic Man podcast.

In today's episode we talk through seeing your parents as fully human, we talk about how we can bring healthier narratives around sex and dating with our male friends and we discover how we can use masturbation and sex to enhance our relationships, both with our partner and ourself.

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Instagram- @theauthenticman_

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Caitlin McFee is a lawyer and a life coach. A real super power who helps people enhance their lives and relationships through mindset work and emotional healing. 

In today's episode we talk through how we can find the balance between staying busy and slowing down. You can learn how we evaluate the meaning that we ascribe to certain behaviours in our everyday life and how embracing and demonstrating your humanity is one of the most important things that you can do.

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Instagram- @caitlin.mcfee

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Shane Walsh is the host of the Shane Walsh Podcast and heads up Shane Walsh Fitness, a wonderful group of nutritionists that help people improve their health.

Today we discuss the notion of burnout, going to therapy and overcoming mental health issues plus so so much more.

TW- there are discussions of suicide and suicidal ideations in this episode.

Follow Shane :
Instagram- @shanewalshfitness
Podcast: The Shane Walsh Podcast

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Today I am joined by a dear friend of mine, Beckie who helps facilitate sharing elements of my own story. Beckie has been a huge factor in the beginning of this podcast so it was an honour to have her join me today.

In this episode we discuss my own biggest struggle right now, being proactive in seeking discomfort and the reason behind the name #notallmen? as the title of the podcast.

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Instagram- @rebecca.harris1

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Dan is a health coach that has a fantastic ability to combine the physical elements of helping people achieve their health goals, with the psychological. He is also host of the popular Fitness Unfiltered podcast.

In today's conversation we discuss everything from finding nuance in social media, the objectification of Men’s bodies and the difficulties we face with body image and how we can connect to a more values based approach to goal setting. 

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Instagram- @the.dan.osman
Podcast: Fitness Unfiltered

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Harry Liddell is a men's coach helping men heal and find their own peace and step into a more mature masculine. 

In this conversation expect to hear about how stoicism can be a compensation tool, everything you need to know about the archetypes and why we are all in a polyamorous relationship.

Follow Harry:
Instagram- @harryliddell_
Website: https://harryliddell.co

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Richard Hill is an aspiring CrossFit Games athlete and owner of CrossFit Gritstone. However, to give him simply the label of athlete or coach does not do the man justice.

In this conversation expect to hear about the importance of holding yourself accountable for your actions and reactions, the role of self acceptance within your aspirations of your goals and how. we should all gas our mates up.

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Instagram- @_tricky_ricky

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Jamie Clements is host of the Man Down: Anti Man up movement Podcast. He is also a breath work coach and a lead instructor for Mind Labs- The World's first mental health platform. 

In this conversation expect to hear about repressing our feelings versus feeling our feelings. How to bring more curiosity to your life and what it means to take radical accountability in your emotions.

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Instagram- @jamieclements
Instagram- @the_breath_space
Podcast- Man Down: The Anti Man Down Movement

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Mark Bryant is a terminal cancer survivor who uses his healing journey to help inspire, educate and empower cancer patients on their own paths to recovery. 

Since his terminal diagnosis 6 years ago, when he claimed on his own life insurance, Mark has been on an incredible journey of learning, recovery and, more recently, endurance sport when he completed a 1/2 Ironman distance triathlon that involved running up Snowdon. 

In this conversation we discuss the the idea of self development being trauma led self development, his relationship with death and how we run away from suffering, plus so much more.

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 Instagram- @terminaltotriathlon
Terminal to Triathlon Podcast: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/terminal-to-triathlon-mark-bryant-5kl3u-xFJyr/
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Today, we welcome Harriet Frew aka The Eating Disorder Therapist to the Podcast. Harriet is a counsellor who will support you to overcome disordered eating and find peace with food. 

In today's conversation we talk about a subject that is very dear to my heart. Expect to hear about eating disorders in a different light, how we as men, can create a greater connection with our emotions and then why the quality of our relationships and our environment are the biggest factors that predicts recovery.

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 Instagram- @the_eating_disorder_therapist
 The Eating Disorder Therapist Podcast- https://harrietfrew.podbean.com

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Justin is an elite sports coach and head of the Willpower Weightlifting Club.

In this conversation, we cover how self awareness can lead to greater levels of self regulation which ultimately leads to greater levels of performance. We also discuss the beauty of the human condition and how fear plays into this. Later in the conversation, we discuss the importance of male role models and the power of forgiveness.

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Instagram- @willpowerweightlifting
Instagram- @justinalexanderholly
Youtube- Willpower Weightlifting


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Stephanie Lauren is a mindset facilitator, self love & relationship coach and host of 'The Think You podcast' and is someone who really embodies healing and gives the gift the healing to others. 

 In this amazing conversation we talk about about being emotionally available, the process of surrender and finding meaning in the most challenging of life events. We also lean into talk about our experiences with plant medicine too. 

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 Instagram- @stephanieeelauren
 The Think You Podcast- https://www.buzzsprout.com/1066858


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Growing up as siblings is never easy. Growing up when you are all a similar age and are all male certainly makes for a different dynamic. This is a very different episode, where I sit down with my two brothers, Fraser & Alex and we just allow you to be a fly on the wall as we discuss  growing up as three males.

In this episode, we discuss being put into boxes as children, sibling rivalry and being the impact of being the favourite and the pressure of having to show up as perfect in front of family.

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Ban is a master trainer,  PT and trainee psychotherapist that brings a presence of satire, strength but above all huge amounts of knowledge to the world of social media. 

In this conversation we discuss the concept of 'bro culture' and how we as men can contribute to our own isolation, the way in which we use social media and then how we, as men, are equally as guilty of objectifying our own friends. 

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Instagram- @banhass
Twitter- @banhass

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Lewis Robling is an ex professional athlete with 10 years experience of living, breathing and optimising health and performance. Now an online coach and an Ultra marathon runner, Lewis is continually finding ways to seek discomfort and step out of his comfort zone.

Whether that is in the form of a 250km race with 10km of elevation, numerous business ventures or reaching out for therapy, Lewis is no stranger to living outside of his comfort zone.

In this episode, expect to hear about the impact of childhood that has on us as Men and adults, the benefits of going to therapy and how to overcome discomfort.

You can see more of Lewis:
www.lewisrobling.com
Instagram-@lewisrobling

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This December we launch the #Notallmen Podcast. 

Join us every week as you join me, Calum Stronach, as I delve down the rabbit hole of masculinity. Talking through everything we as men should be talking about. Talking about how we can do better for ourselves and for the world around us. 

Join us every week and join the discussion and follow us on all socials at @notallmen#