Curiosity not Judgement: Recent Episodes
Gary and Birga
Curious about this podcast? You're in the right place! Join Gary Oppedahl and Birga Alden as they host compelling episodes each week, discussing how judgement can quickly waylay relationships, career, faith, health and more. Curiosity, on the other hand, can open the door for understanding, compassion and joy.
When you think back to times in your life where you made decisions that had a negative impact, are you left with feelings of regret? Can those feeling serve us? Join the conversation around regrets, and how to move beyond shame and into a space of healing and hope.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgment #regret #lookingback #movingforward
Inspired by a presentation from Jordan Rayner, author of Redeeming Your Time, Gary and Birga jump into a discussion about the ways we get things done not only impact those around us, but ultimately our productivity and mental wellbeing. Are you busy? Or, are you in a hurry? The difference matters.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#busy #hurried #curiosity #nojudgment #jordanraynor #conference #inspiration
We all have experiences from our childhood that impact us. One curious question is: Can we find the bridge between the stories of our past and the ways in which we react in the present? The effort it takes to do a little digging may help us as we look to be the best version of ourselves.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #questions #stories #bridges
Are you a hospitable person? What does it take to ensure the people in your life feel seen, heard and appreciated? Gary and Birga discuss how the concept of "I thought about you before you got here" can pay big dividends.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #hospitality #othersfirst #thelittlethings
Gary and Birga often talk about the need for curious questions. But, is there ever an occasion where we might need to lead with judgement? Surprisingly, yes. When decisive action is needed, judgement takes over. There are also times when asking questions can become problematic. Listen in to learn more.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #judgement #questions
Inspired by a recent presentation by Arthur C Brooks, Gary and Birga talk about the concept of removing things from your bucket list, and finding great satisfaction with less. Brooks goes on to share an equation for happiness that gets us thinking!https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #bucketlist #happiness #less
Have you missed the chance to share with someone the things that are important to you? Is it something that can be rectified, or is it too late? Gary and Birga discuss missed communication and some of the ways that could be implemented to correct it.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #miscommunication #missedcommunication
Have you ever been asked a simple question that caused you to feel uncomfortable or nervous? Perhaps you've asked an innocent question of someone else, and you watch them have an almost physical reaction. What's going on here? Join Gary and Birga for this important conversation.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #questions #responce
Do you ever take an action in good faith that may have led to a bad outcome? It's worth evaluating what we consider "good" in order to weigh the impact of our actions. It's a curious line of thinking, and one we hope you'll take with us today.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nonjudgement #goodthing #badthing
Have something big going on in your life and others have counseled you with "Don't Worry"? Easier said than done. But, could some curious questions actually lead to a strategy that could help you cope with worry in a more healthy way? Listen in and give your feedback.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #worry #processing
Have you ever come across a situation where you felt you should step in to help, but something keeps you from acting? Or perhaps, you see a co-worker who needs a lending hand, but you just can't shake the memory of when they did you wrong. Blame it on cognitive dissonance. Can curiosity help bring you to a place of resolution?https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #cognitivedissonance #dissonance
What is justice, and who gets to make that determination? This is a complex and potentially divisive topic. However, as Gary and Birga discuss this issue today, they hope to prime the pump of curiosity so that you are better prepared for the inevitable discussions that will come your way.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #justice #political #nojudgement
The irony is not lost on us that both Birga and Gary had a terrible night of sleep before filming this episode. There may be a few tired brained flubs to contend with. Questions around how to incorporate more silence and time to process, are difficult ones for many of us to answer. Do you have time built into your day to decompress and think through the various experiences that you've had?https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #sleepdeprivation #silence #processing
What do you do with the feedback you receive? Sometimes, it comes as noise, and we simply can't process it. Other times, we may have to filter it through the intention of the giver. Lots to think about, and process! All these voices are starting to sound a little like a Disney movie that was recently released. . . https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#nojudgement #curiosity #insideout #filters #intentions
In this week's episode, Gary and Birga discuss the importance of developing the right questions and evaluating the motivation behind the ask. Are you collecting information for the right reasons? And, what are you going to do with what you find out?https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #questions #evaluation
Birga dives into some curious questions around evaluating the effectiveness of your programming/product. This week's deep thoughts come courtesy of the UNM Evaluation Lab: https://evallab.unm.eduhttps://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#nojudgement #curiosity #evaluation #effectiveness
Gary is joined by his son, Mike Oppedahl, for this special episode. Together, they discuss how people communicate curiosity and judgement in relationship with others. #nojudgement #curiosity #relationship #fatherandson https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Do you find yourself trying to prepare for the future, despite all of the unknowns? Do you have plans, back-up strategies, and contingencies? While you likely can't prepare for everything, could you (through curiosity) be ready for anything?Gary and Birga dive into this curious topic.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.comThe Brené Brown podcast that was referenced can be found here: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/whats-coming-and-whats-here-2/#listen #nojudgement #curiosity #preparation #everything #anything
Thanks to some listener feedback, Gary and Birga have a robust discussion about Real Intelligence (RI) vs Artificial Intelligence (AI). What are the "ingredients" that make up the human experience? Can those elements be taught to AI?https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiousity #nojudgement #ai #humanexperience
Whether we're talking about Artificial Intelligence (AI), or some other technology, do we need to put up guardrails as these "platforms" get released into our society? Or, do we wait to see the results of exposure and then try to contain it? Big questions for the curious!https://www.curiositynotjudgment.com#curiosity #nojudgement #ai #guardrail #containment
If your invention/idea/product doesn't take off, or fails to meet the needs of others, it's easy to get stuck in pride and simply walk away. However, curiosity asks questions about what it would look like to pivot. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #pride #pivot
Are you an idea person? Do have the next great innovation, product, or process that has the potential to save or change lives? Have you taken the first step to ask those, for whom you create, how your idea will impact them? There are some great, curious questions in today's episode that you'll want to consider. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #innovation #knowledge #creations
Have you ever presented something, whether product or idea, as better than it really is? Or, have you been on the purchasing end of a transaction that left you dissatisfied and feeling like you were duped? Join Gary and Birga in a discussion about integrity, presentation, personalities, and of course, curious questions.#curiosity #nojudgement #integrity https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
The rapid acceleration of technology has made "keeping up" with knowledge an insurmountable task. But, do you really need to know? If knowledge were put into a quad chart, there are four categories:I don't know that I don't knowI know that I don't knowI don't know that I knowI know that I knowHow intentional do you want to be in order to stay in the "know"?Gary and Birga walk through some curious questions to help determine how much time and effort to put into the pursuit of knowledge.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #knowledge #stayinginformed #learning
If you had the opportunity to plan your own funeral, what would you want loved ones to say about you? Are there stories left to share, or forgiveness left to extend? These are curious questions that just may set you on a path to getting the memorial you would hope for.#curiosity #nojudgement #funeral https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Have you found yourself acting differently at home vs. work? How about the persona you project in volunteer work vs. how you interact with kids? Is it ok to shift who you are to fill the various roles in your life? Join in and be curious!https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #persona #roles
Innovation often requires introspection. We must examine what old patterns, ways of thinking, or routines are keeping us from moving forward in new and innovative ways. Join Gary and Birga as they explore this curious topic. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #introspection #innovation
What are you willing to give up to achieve your goals? What if there is no certainty of outcome, and you have to make a decision about sacrificing something important to you? Or conversely, have you unintentionally sacrificed something of value to fuel a habit or addiction? This is no easy conversation, but it is an important one. #curiosity #nojudgement #sacrifice #highvalue https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Is the pace of change accelerating? How do you adapt and adjust along the way? Join the conversation as Gary and Birga discuss some curious questions to consider along the journey.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #paceofchange
We all have biases. Some we are aware of, and others we are not. Join Gary and Birga as they discuss the practice of bias introspection, and what to do with what we find.The Ted Talk referenced by Birga can be found here: https://www.ted.com/talks/verna_myers_how_to_overcome_our_biases_walk_boldly_toward_them?language=enJoin in the conversation: https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #bias #introspection
We typically hate waiting. It's agony not getting what we need, when we think we need it. So, how do we wait well? Curious about any tips or tricks you may have. We started compiling a few ideas:Reach out to someone for helpFind a way to serve others.Start compiling a gratitude list.Determine if you are in a negative spiral or positive spiral.*Be intentional to disrupt negative thinking.What would you add? https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #waiting #waitingwell
How often do you compare yourself to others, and in what ways? It's worth some contemplation as you consider your own response. Gary shares his 5 "I's ": Influence, Involvement, Interest, Impact and Income.We be eager to hear about yours: https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #comparison
Special guest Shelley Repp from the NM Dream Center talks with Birga about how curious questions led her to form a nonprofit, and how curious questions ultimately helped change legislation around prostitution and the sexual exploitation of minors.For more info, please visit: https://www.nmdreamcenter.orghttps://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #humantraffickingawareness #sexualexploitation
We often talk about wanting to collaborate, but how do you actually do it? Gary has come up with 4 Ps to help. They include: Pain, Pace, Process, and Policy. Whether planning a family vacation, or starting a business venture, curiously navigating through this time could be the key to your success. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #collaboration #practicalexamples
Do you have a group of people that you consider to be your "inner circle"? If not, you might consider the value of building this type of trusted council to help you through the highs and lows of life. Join Gary and Birga as they discuss what this might look like.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #innercircle #trustedvoices
Despite our best efforts, we often fall into the trap of self-preservation and end up trying to prove, validate, or defend ourselves. Gary and Birga talk about this phenomenon and how to interject some curious questions when self-preservation starts creeping in.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #selfpreservation
You know what happens when you assume. . . ?Join Gary and Birga in an important conversation around assumptions and how to stay curious in an atmosphere that typically breeds judgement.#curiosity #nojudgement #assumption https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
As this episode drops, we are 10 days into the new year. How are you doing on any resolutions or goals that you had set out to accomplish in 2024? If you find yourself already getting derailed, join Gary and Birga as they ask some curious questions to help get back on track.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #resolutions2024 #meetinggoals
When you consider the year ahead, do you have a key word that serves as a motivator to spur you to different/better patterns? Gary and Birga talk about how identifying this word or phrase may serve as a great lens through which to view and engage in 2024.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #2024 #wordoftheyear
Eager to hear your feedback as we reach the milestone of 100 episodes! Your comments are welcome. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #episode100
As we head into the holidays, there is the potential for conflict around religious differences. How do we navigate this situation with curiosity and not judgement? Join Gary and Birga for this important conversation.
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It's easy to get stuck in our own heads, thinking about ourselves too much. Gary and Birga talk about some curious questions to ask when we need to break out of that rut, in order to see, and be of help, to others.
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Have you ever had a really good idea, only to find that someone else has beat you to submission or market? Is it time to throw in the towel or time to ask some curious questions about your contributions?
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Alone, or in a room full of people you may not want to celebrate with, how can we approach the holidays with realistic expectations? Are there curious questions we can prepare to help mitigate some of the more painful/stressful elements of the holiday season? Join Gary and Birga for this important conversation.
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Have you ever found yourself in conversation and the phrase "those people" gets used? Seldom is that a positive reference. Gary and Birga discuss the dangers of lumping "those people" together, and uncover some curious questions to ask that just might help restore a sense of individuality.
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Is it too extreme a statement to say that being part of a healthy community could be the difference between life and death? Gary and Birga talk through the issue and address some curious questions around what steps we need to take to form relationship within community.
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There may be some generational differences when it comes to the notion of saving the best for last. If you find yourself in discussion (or conflict) with someone on choices that they are making, this episode explores some good questions to maintain a posture of curiosity, not judgement.
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curiosity #nojudgement #savingthebestforlast
Have you found yourself looking wistfully at someone else's life? Perhaps you've been caught in the mentality that "The grass is always greener on the other side." Gary and Birga ask some curious questions about how to do an analysis of our own lives, as we look at the lives of others.
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curiosity #nojudgement #grassisgreener #comparison
If you were to analyze yourself or your organization, where do you think you rate on the scale of low/high grace and low/high excellence?Curious where you stand.Some of today's discussion came from content originally found on Praxis: https://www.praxislabs.org
With all the chaos in the world, it's very easy to fall into fear about the future. Are there steps we can take to bring about a culture of peace in our lives and in the lives of those around us? Gary and Birga dive into some curious questions to ask as it pertains to current events and future planning.
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curiosity #nojudgement #fear #future #peace
Do you ever find yourself looking at print or broadcast material wondering if the "facts" you are being presented are actually factual? Gary and Birga talk through some curious questions to ask as we try to discern fact from fiction.
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curiosity #nojudgement #factorfiction #bias
Is there an aspect about yourself that you are struggling to love? If so, is it impacting your ability to really love others fully? Gary and Birga discuss pain points and the curious questions around healing, self love, and the journey to love and inspire others.
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curiosity #nojudgement #selflove #healing
Birga is joined by her husband Bob on this episode of CnJ. They discuss Bob's journey of being transformed after reading the book This Naked Mind, by Annie Grace. They ask some curious questions about how food or drink addictions may be impacting us and our quality of life.
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curiosity #nojudgement #alcohol #sobriety #addiction
When you meet someone for the first time, after exchanging names, the next point of information is usually your professional role/job title. But, is that really who you are? Gary and Birga ask some curious questions to get to the root of how we identify ourselves.
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curiosity #nojudgement #whoyouare #identity
Does your first paycheck make you a professional? Or perhaps, is it when you can add a specific skill or job title to your LinkedIn profile? Gary and Birga have a curious conversation about when you can take credit for your work.
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curiosity #nojudgement #professional #skillset
Continued from Pt. 1
Gary and Birga discuss suggested questions and responses provided by the Trauma Healing Institute:
What happened?
How did it make you feel?
What was the hardest part for you?
Also, there is discussion over the promises/commitments a safe listener can make:
I will listen to understand.
I will keep what you share private.
I will not minimize your pain.
I will not compare your pain with my own.
I will not give quick solutions.
I will listen again when you want to share more.
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Gary and Birga discuss suggested questions and responses provided by the Trauma Healing Institute: What happened? How did it make you feel? What was the hardest part for you? Also, there is discussion over the promises/commitments a safe listener can make: I will listen to understand. I will keep what you share private. I will not minimize your pain. I will not compare your pain with my own. To be continued in part 2. . . https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com https://www.traumahealingbasics.org/three-questions
curiosity #nojudgement #questionswithsolutions #traumahealing
If you are trying to convince someone to adopt your point of view, it's next to impossible if you don't have a love for that person. Gary and Birga discuss if this also applies corporately. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
curiosity #nojudgement #lovebeforechange
Whether you believe you have all the time in the world, or you've been given a diagnosis that will cut your life short, we all have to consider how we best use the time that we've been given. So, how are you spending your time? https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
curiosity #nojudgement #spendingtime #notimetowaste
Sometimes it's easy to lose your way in the midst of tumultuous situations. Gary and Birga talk about the importance of navigating through chaos, and how to help others do the same. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
curiosity #nojudgement #chaos #navigation
Birga talks about her recent diagnosis. She and Gary discuss how to curiously and appropriately communicate with loved ones who have been given hard medical news. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #diagnosis #offertohelp
What atmosphere do you create when you enter or exit a room? It's worth considering how just a little bit of creativity can impact the people around you. Take a listen, and leave some ideas in the comments about how you might generate a trail of smiles! https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
curiosity #nojudgement #smile
Do you have an action in your past that you can't seem to move beyond? Perhaps a shameful secret is keeping you compartmentalized and disjointed. Gary and Birga have a powerful discussion on forgiveness and living life after painful situations. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #forgiveness #movingforward
Have you been in a situation where you are convinced that you are communicating clearly, but the other person seems to be hearing/speaking in another language? Gary and Birga discuss some curious questions we can ask ourselves to help get everyone on the same page.
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curiosity #nojudgement #communication
Getting ready to upgrade appliances or devices that run your home? It's appealing to get smart devices that can be controlled from your cell phone, but what risks need to be considered with power loss, internet disruptions, or even cyber security threats? https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
curiosity #nojudgement #smartgadgets #cybersecurity
Have you ever considered how much time you spend thinking your various thoughts? For those of us that are prone to have active imaginations or dominating thought patterns, it might be worth exploring how much time and effort goes into our thought life each day. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
curiosity #nojudgement #thoughtlife #doomscrolling
Ready to get philosophical? Join the second part of this intriguing conversation with serial entrepreneur Bronson Taylor. Together with Gary and Birga, they are thinking next level thoughts about how AI and automation may just help humanity become the best versions of themselves. Get curious! https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com For Bronson's info, please visit: https://www.dumbpunk.com
curiosity #nojudgement #ai #automation #humanity #creativity
Serial entrepreneur Bronson Taylor joins Gary and Birga to discuss how AI applications are changing the landscape of the workforce and the creation of new business. This conversation will really get you thinking!https://www.curiositynotjudgement.comFor more information on Bronson, visit: https://www.dumbpunk.com
AI #business #startup #curiosity #nojudgement
In an era of increased automation, we have phone trees, self check-out and online answers. As Gary and Birga get curious about how we got to this place, they ask the question: Did customers ruin customer service?https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
curiosity #nojudgement #customerservice #customerexperience #automation
Whether we're talking about Artificial Intelligence (AI), or some other technology, do we need to put up guardrails as these "platforms" get released into our society? Or, do we wait to see the results of exposure and then try to contain it? Big questions for the curious!https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
curiosity #nojudgement #ai #guardrail #containment
Gary and Birga continue the conversation around Artificial Intelligence. Who owns the intellectual property generated from AI? What about plagiarism? What happens when AI feels it knows better than the people who created it? Lots to be curious about!
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curiosity #nojudgement #AI
Artificial Intelligence. Is it a good thing or a bad thing? Gary and Birga get curious about this technology that is advancing by leaps and bounds and consider the impact that it has on our lives. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
curiosity #nojudgement #ai
Admittedly, there is some bad grammar in the title of this episode. But, if we are honestly introspective, we recognize that when it comes to being right, we think we are 100%. How about the person that you disagree with? Are they 100% wrong? There is no accurate measurement for this, but could we attempt to find the 5% of overlap where we might just agree?#curiosity #nojudgement #overlap #commonground https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
What are we giving away as we release our information (knowingly or unknowingly)? Can algorithms actually be beneficial as AI pulls and curates content based on our online activity? It's worth being curious about.
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curiosity #nojudgement #AI #algorithms
Do you feel low on hope these days? You aren't alone. Gary and Birga were curious about if there are steps we can take to raise our hope level. Join the conversation and feel free to add your own tips and tricks in the comments.https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
curiosity #nojudgement #hope
Liminality is a term used to describe the psychological process of transitioning across boundaries and borders. There are some curious questions to discuss on this topic, no doubt! Feel free to share your feedback in the comments below, or at: https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com#curiosity #nojudgement #transitions
Could curiosity save you from a lot of stress and anxiety when it comes to travel? We think so! Join Gary and Birga in a discussion about how our emotional posture could make all the difference when you hit the road (or air).#curiosity #nojudgement #travel #stressless https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Finding peace in times of chaos is no easy feat. It takes intentionality and the ability to remember the past and ask good questions. If you're curious about what this looks like, join Gary and Birga as they discuss it. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com #peaceinchaos #curiosity #nojudgement
Do you have the ability to chose what thoughts run around inside your head? Is there some level of control that we can take over the content of our thinking? Join Gary and Birga as they discuss this key concept. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com #youarewhatyouthink #thoughtlife #curiosity
How do we support the people in our lives? Does it take anything away from ourselves if we rally behind another? As Birga and Gary discover in today's episode, there is indeed a cost involved when you choose to be "for" someone else.
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Does not knowing serve to benefit your mental health? Conversely, does knowing, but being unable to act, cause additional problems? There is lots to unpack in this seemingly simply question: Is ignorance bliss? We'd love to know your thoughts. Leave a comment here, or shoot us a message at: https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
ignorance #bliss #curiosity #nojudgement
Is there a recipe for good communication? If so, it may include these 3 ingredients: Matching Pace Frictionless Transactions Clarifying Expectations
Join Gary and Birga as they discuss how to "cook up" good communication in family and business settings.
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curiosity #nojudgement #communication #expectations
Do you have a competitive nature? Or, conversely, are you someone who avoids situations that might turn competitive? Gary and Birga have a candid conversation about what competition does to our relationships, both good and bad.
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competition #relationships #curiosity #nojudgement
Stress can take a toll on your physical, mental, and spiritual health. But, are you always aware of stressors? Gary and Birga have an important conversation about recognizing sources of stress and discuss possible options for rewiring our thinking.
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What do you do when you are in a relationship with someone and you have differing value? In a parent/child relationship, can you support a child's value that is different from your own? Gary and Birga dive into this important topic. As always, we'd love your feedback. Feel free to leave a comment here, or shoot us a note at: https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Have you found yourself in a spiral of negative self talk wondering about your value? Gary and Birga dive into this important topic and propose some ways to ask good questions and interrupt harmful narratives.
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As Gary often says, "It's one thing to have a goal. It's quite another thing to have a plan." So, what's your plan for 2023? Join the conversation as Gary and Birga discuss how to exercise curiosity not judgement about the year ahead.
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Taking a look back at one of most popular episodes of the year. Join the conversation about the 5 Rs: Robustness, Redundancy, Resourcefulness, Response and Recovery.
Birga is joined by special guest John Freisinger as they discuss ego, and the high degree of judgement contained therein. There are, however, some curious tools to help check your ego at the door. Questions and comments always welcome: https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
As many people think about end-of-year giving, have you taken the time to be curious about who you give to, and why? What about giving your talent as a volunteer? Jump into the conversation with Gary and Birga.
Ever heard an old expression and contemplated its relevance in your world? Birga and Gary explore the old carpentry advice "Measure twice, cut once." It has a surprisingly important application in the journey of curiosity, not judgement.
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We all have fears. They might be "little" fears, like spiders or bugs, or "big" fears like disease or job loss. Whatever the fears that plague your mind, is there a way to be curious enough about it to stop or reroute your way of thinking? Birga is joined by special guest John Freisinger as they talk about "What are you afraid of?"
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Don't blow by this question. "Do you see me?" whether spoken or implied, is a weighty one. It's vulnerable and raw, and takes courage to ask. It also takes introspection to answer with sincerity. Are we seeing and being seen? We're curious what you think.
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With billions of dollars spent on advertising for the latest election, Gary and Birga ask some challenging questions about our election process. As they ponder the question "is there a better way?" they would love your feedback and ideas. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Hard, unfair, unjust times will inevitably hit us all. How do you move forward without bitterness? Join Gary and Birga as they talk about the critical juncture of pain and choice.
In looking to develop relationships, there are some specific questions that you can pose to build trust and deepen engagement. But, you have to be willing to really listen to the answer and consider your genuine response. "What does success look like for you?" "How can I help you accomplish this?" Are you curious enough to ask these impactful questions?
As a society, we have become addicted to fast and cheep. Have you ever paused to be curious about what that's really costing? Gary and Birga dig into this important issue on today's episode.
How many times do you get asked the question "How are you?" only to respond with "I'm fine" or "I'm ok"? But are you really? How vulnerable are we willing to be with ourselves and with others? Are we doing society a disservice by always staying surface level?
When you have a strong emotional tie to something in your mind, it can easily be mistaken for truth. How do you step back and get some perspective on something that you believe passionately? Gary and Birga discuss this question on today's episode of Curiosity not Judgement.
Do you listen with the intention to hear or with the intention to respond? This distinction is important. Join Gary and Birga as they talk about levels of listening and how you might challenge yourself to listen better. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Some are early adopters, and others have change thrust upon them. Gary and Birga discuss how to incorporate change into your home or work setting by exercising curiosity, not judgement. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Birga talks with her daughter Hannah about how early exposure to social media made an impact on her and her peers. Conversation also centered around how to be curious regarding where people fall on the technology scale, and how to understand the generational differences. Feedback is always welcome: https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
In today's episode, Gary and Birga get curious about times of irritation with family members, friends, and colleagues. Is there a possibility that the feeling manifests as a result of something within yourself that you don't like? Join the conversation. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
If you were to analyze yourself or your organization, where do you think you rate on the scale of low/high grace and low/high excellence? Curious where you stand. Some of today's discussion came from content originally found on Praxis: https://www.praxislabs.org
When you hear the word "detachment", most of us have preconceived beliefs about what this means for us, and for others. Join Gary and Birga as they get curious about the positive aspects of detachment.
Referenced in today's episode:
Detachment Detachment is experiencing our feelings without allowing them to control us. We step back and look at things objectively. We let go and accept what we cannot change. We detach from others’ choices, knowing that their spiritual work is not ours to do. We choose how we will act rather than just reacting. We step away from harmful cravings. Detachment is a deep breath of peace and patience in response to unexpected anger. We can listen without losing ourselves. With detachment, we see our mistakes honestly make amends, and start afresh. Detachment allows us to be in the world but no of it. It frees us to lead our lives with grace. -Unknown | TheMindsJournal
Has stress eroded your ability to bounce back? Gary and Birga are curious about what it takes to weather life's storms. Also, feel free to take your own stress assessment: https://www.stress.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/stress-inventory-1.pdf
We all have various stressors in our lives. Where do they come from? How do you handle them? When do you need external help? Today's conversation with Gary and Birga allows us to get curious about stress and what to do with it.
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Join Gary and Birga in a discussion about personal resiliency. They go over the 5 "Rs".
Let get curious about: Robustness, Redundancy, Resourcefulness, Response and Recovery
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Gary and Birga question if opposites truly attract in personal relationships. What do you do when the differences that once intrigued you about one another, become a source of aggravation? https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Opposites Attract, until they don't. Join Gary and Birga as they discuss how to navigate relationships in work and politics when you find yourself in direct opposition to someone in a position of authority. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
What is it that's caused us to be so adamant about our position? Is everything either right or wrong? Join Gary and Birga as they discuss the value in seeking to find points of commonality with our "opponents." https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Much like flags on the shoreline can indicate dangers lurking beneath the water, our emotional flags can signal problems ahead. But, do you know what the flags mean, and how to respond? Gary and Birga discuss this on today's episode of Curiosity not Judgement. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Ever find it curious just how difficult it is to sit alone with your thoughts? In this episode, Gary and Birga dig into the profound impact that you can experience if you are willing to just "be".
Can one little phrase make a difference in your outlook? You get to find out in today's episode. If you've been ruminating on a list of things you have to do, finding drudgery in your task list, join Gary and Birga and they explore the curious power of this of "get to." https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Curious about mentoring? Gary and Birga are too. What was once a pretty common practice has now become a rarity. How do you enter into a mentoring relationship these days? Join us to talk about it. https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Good or bad, transitions are something we all experience in life. Even in the best of circumstances, transitions mean a loss of something. Gary and Birga talk about the need to grieve and important questions that can be posed to look ahead with curiosity. As always, questions or comments are welcome at: https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com or simply post below.
Have you had a friend of family member suggest you start stockpiling certain items? Perhaps you've heard a news story that has brought you to a place of fear. How do we examine this polarizing subject through the lens of curiosity? Let's hear from you: https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
When you say or do something that causes shame, embarrassment or other negative emotions, do you take the time to be curious about where that reaction came from? In today's episode, Birga encourages you to stop, be curious and consider how to move forward in a new way. Feedback and comments always welcome. Please visit: https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com
Perhaps you have sprung into action, or made a calculated decision that was full of nothing but your best intentions. However, good intentions don't always produce the desired results. How do you handle this complication? Gary and Birga talk all about it in today's episode.
Have you had someone get up in your face, proclaiming the truth of their position? It's a challenging situation, and one that is difficult to defuse. Gary and Birga talk about how to handle conversations around faith and politics with curiosity.
We like to say we support loved ones when they make healthy changes in their lifestyle, but, if we feel judged for not making that same change, things can sour. Conversely, if someone has become convinced that this change will bring about great improvement, but you are skeptical, how do you navigate these issues?
Do you have a relationship that has gotten off on the wrong foot? It's time for an attitude check. Gary and Birga talk about taking inventory of what you might be able to do to offer a reset, transforming judgement to genuine curiosity.
Do you struggle with low self-value? Perhaps you've been frustrated by not being appropriately valued at work or in your community. Could it be that value really comes down to an issue of judgement? Gary and Birga explore this curious topic.
Have you ever had anyone tell you "It's all in your head!"? Well, what if we could examine that statement from a place of genuine curiosity? What if it is all in my head? Now what? Gary and Birga dive into this conversation, and more.
The way in which you view the world impacts your ability to experience meaningful change. Join Gary and Birga for today's conversation about how we can to begin to shift our paradigms, in order to experience curiosity, and not judgement.
Gary and Birga would love to hear from you about topics you want to see covered, or even suggestions for guests that you would like to see on upcoming shows. Please take a moment to reach out at https://www.curiositynotjudgement.com Just look for the "contact us" form at the bottom of the page, and type away!
Gary and Birga continue their conversation with special guest John Freisinger, discussing how the forming and framing of questions can be a critical component to healthy conversation.
Join Gary and Birga with special guest John Freisinger as they discuss the "art of the question" and how we might be curious about asking what really matters.
Stuck in a rut in your thinking? Join Gary and Birga as they talk about ways to be curious enough to dislodge judgmental attitudes.
"Pivot" has become the word we love to hate since the onset of the pandemic. Whether you've pivoted by choice, or been forced to pivot, are you staying rigid in judgment or finding traction by being curious?
Do you know your neighbors? If not, how might you be intentional about showing curiosity in a way that nurtures relationship? Gary and Birga talk about intentional observation and how to cultivate a neighborhood that's loving and supporting.
Is the American workforce getting more or less productive since the onset of the pandemic? Is there an accurate way to measure productivity and determine the value of one's work? Gary and Birga talk about this issue and address several curious questions for both employers and employees to consider.
Perhaps there is no easier person to judge than an addict. However, as Gary and Birga discuss in today's episode, finding ways to ask gentle questions might not just be a way to preserve relationship, but could even save a life.
Parenting is hard. It can become even more difficult when you feel you are being judged by other people who make different parenting choices for their children. Are you doing it right? Should your way look more like their way? Join Gary and Birga as they talk about how to be curious when it comes to raising kids and establishing boundaries.
Are you stuck in a behavior and don't know why you continue to wrestle through the same issues time and again? You certainly aren't alone. Today, Gary and Birga talk through the curious way we are wired, and how to not fall into the trap of judging yourself or others.
It takes considerable effort to exercise curiosity, not judgement online. Have you fallen into the trap of jumping to judgement, or been on the receiving end of someone else's judgement all because you are behind a screen? Join Gary and Birga as they talk this through.
On today's episode of Curiosity not Judgement, we talk about how to be your own best advocate when it come to your health. Are you asking questions, and being curious about the "prescription" you are offered?
Work, workforce and curious conversations. Are "non-negotiables" for employers in 2021/22 different than during pre-Covid times? Gary and Birga examine these questions and many other components of this complex conversation, implementing "Curiosity not Judgement" in work and life.
Does judgement impact the way you interact with coworkers? Does it hamper your ability to have successful relationships or projects? In this episode, Gary and Birga talk about the principles of Curiosity not Judgement in the workplace.
Gary Oppedahl and Birga Alden share the vision behind Curiosity not Judgement, and explain why this topic is so important. This video is the first in a weekly series designed to explore the theme of Curiosity not Judgement in a wide range of situations.