The Best You've Ever Had: Recent Episodes

Kelley Bode

The Best You've Ever Had is a podcast all about how you can have the best sex, relationships, and life- you've ever had! The host of this podcast, Kelley Bode, is an international intimacy & sex coach who currently lives in Bali. Listen in on conversations about taboo topics and leave with powerful insights that might just change your life.

Hi beautiful people!

Today’s episode is a bittersweet one, I’m announcing that I’m putting the podcast on hold. I’m not sure if it’s for now or if it’s forever but I know that it feels right to stop recording episodes for the time being.

I’ve loved having the podcast for the last couple years & I’m so grateful to all of you angels who listen weekly. I’ve loved hearing from you and even meeting some of you in person.

I’m turning my attention now to my membership called Womanhood. So if you still want to hear from me weekly on a more intimate level, I’m inviting you to join us over there! It’s a beautiful space to share, to connect, and to grow surrounded by women on a similar journey as you.

I’m so excited for this space. For more information, click the link below:

https://www.kelleymbode.com/womanhood

Sending you all SO much love & I hope to see you inside the membership.

Xo,

Kelley

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Hey babes!

On this week's episode, we have another podcast coaching session! This time we are diving into some somatic healing and moving old stories and protective mechanisms that are stopping Claire from experiencing the love she wants.

This episode is a great listen for single women or for any woman who finds herself continually frustrated with men and shutting down around them.

Can’t wait to hear what you get out of listening to this one!

Sending lots of love,

Kelley

Today’s episode is all about Bali! Living here, traveling here, why I’m here & more!

I’ve gotten a lot of messages from you guys on social media asking about Bali so I decided to dedicate a podcast to it! Before I lived here, I met an American guy who lived here full time and I was PERPLEXED! So I really get that there can be a lot of questions about it.

Now that I’ve lived here for 3 years, it feels so normal! I love living in Bali & it comes with its downsides as well - like any place!

I’m excited to hear what you get out of listening to this episode!

Xo, Kelley

P.S. If you want to be coached by me and ask questions about relationships & dating live: I have a Q+A session coming up next week!

Click the link below to check out all the details and sign up to join us:

https://www.kelleymbode.com/offers/sfzX3Qru/checkout

In a new series of coaching sessions, Kelley sits down with her first guest, Olivia, to discuss situationships, compromise, the process of connecting to your feminine energy and sticking with your truth. Olivia’s vulnerability in this episode is sure to help anyone in a similar situation who may be struggling to find a balance between compromising with a potential partner or staying true to yourself and following your desires. Join Kelley and Olivia in a raw discussion where they dissect Olivia’s feminine and masculine traits and where these may be causing a disconnect and gain clarity and new perspectives about herself and her relationship.

More from this episode:

Letting go of the super independent, self-sufficient role and embracing your feminine where you let your partner lead instead
How to deal with confusing emotions like being totally uninterested in dating to becoming completely infatuated with someone
How we should always strive to find happiness and joy within ourselves and not through our partners or other external sources
How to navigate the common trap of looking for your partner to be in his masculine so you can then be in your feminine
Practicing feeling your feelings through journaling, meditation, being present and more
How being willing to get in touch with your desire and hold that vision is an important part of being in your feminine

Connect with Kelley:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Nobody’s sexuality looks the same so why are we so afraid to talk about it? Sex and self-pleasure are those topics that everyone’s so curious about but no one wants to be the first to put themselves out there in case their experience isn’t like everyone else’s. But that’s just the thing, you define what your pleasure looks like, so you can never be wrong!

Today’s episode is honoring self-pleasure with Carli Jo Cabrera, a speaker, author and Self-Pleasure guide. Kelley and Carli leave no stone unturned in their discussion about how not talking about sex and self-pleasure can make addressing the hiccups in our sex lives that much more difficult. Carli also breaks down one of her self-pleasure sessions and shares how giving yourself permission in sex translates into permission everywhere.

More from today’s episode:

How Carli dealt with meeting the perfect person but having a sex life that just felt “off”
The essential differences between masturbation and self-pleasure
The importance of communication especially in those moments when we don’t feel 100% in the mood to have sex
Sisterhood is so important! Having that one conversation with a friend about our sex lives can literally change our lives and perspectives on sex and pleasure
How permission is at the root of a healthy, turned on relationship with our partners and ourselves

Connect with Carli:

The Pleasure Portal: Free Community - carlijo.mn.co

The Membership, 1 month free - https://carlijo.mn.co/plans/265293?bundle_token=98c7ee45f6089fa0197a03868cf53c48&utm_source=manual

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

You’re in for a treat today! I have an incredibly real and in-depth conversation with my guest Sam Orman where we dive deeper than ever into conversations about wanting acceptance from our parents, exploring the dynamics of feminine and masculine energy in gay relationships, and all the details from my shaved head butch lesbian days! Our conversation is a full and beautiful one where we exchange stories about coming out where Sam had to navigate a strong religious upbringing where purity was at the forefront of everything, and where I was still trying to find myself and battling external validation. Sam opens up about giving up his need for acceptance from his mom and finding something even more real underneath, all of our needs to be accepted by ourselves and to simply be happy.

What else we talk about:

How we can either choose to have a relationship with someone or we can be right
How Sam’s Unification Church upbringing encouraged him not to demonize others for their views even if they directly contradict his being
How the path to acceptance is an attempt to change each other when we really should be striving to find what’s underneath that need for acceptance
The power of giving up the need to be right (you’ll be surprised how much your relationships can shift after doing this!)
Reminding ourselves that our power doesn’t live inside of someone else’s worthiness!
Finding my natural state in femininity and my personal journey with my sexuality
How Sam practices being led by desire on dates and candidly asks for what he wants (e.g. sitting in silence with someone)
How fluidity in relationships can teach us so much about love and ourselves

Connect with Sam:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/__samwise/

Connect with me:

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

After some long, deep and meaningful discussions, Matt and I have decided to commit to a new level of growth in our relationship by talking about getting engaged, getting married and having children. This week I wanted to bring Matt on the podcast to discuss the next phase in our relationship with all the bumps and triggers along the way. Of course we get into the fun, juicy details like the process of buying my engagement ring together and how our cats have literally changed our lives and but we also dive deep into how both of our perceptions of marriage and having kids have wildly changed since being together and the pressures of planning a wedding.

What else we talk about:

How I never thought I’d be the maternal mothering type but now I seem to be thinking about nothing else other than caring for my future children
Matt’s previous views on marriage and how he’s come to really admire the commitment aspect of getting married
How men are extremely aware of when they aren’t able to support their partners or families and how this can lead to a lot of shame
Avoiding a potentially very expensive mistake by agreeing that I pick out the ring!
Juggling running a business and providing for a family simultaneously and our expectations for managing this together
Sharing the things we’re most excited about in starting this new chapter of our lives together

My 2-week program Open to Love: https://www.kelleymbode.com/open-to-love

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Hiii everyone! It’s a new year and I am so excited to be back on the podcast, I missed you all so much. I thought it would be great to start off the new year with a Q+A about relationships, feminine energy, personal responsibility and all the juiciness in between. Your questions are so potent we tackle a lot in this one including how human connection is so intricate and necessary to our existence but how it’s still important to make sure you can be happy on your own; creating new relationships with men if you’re struggling with a past trauma wound (even letting the guy at the grocery store carry your bags is a start!) and asking men for what you need in a way that makes them actually hear you. And so so much more.

What else I talk about:

My experiences ring shopping with Matt!
How to help a man with his masculine energy (clue: there’s no actual “helping” involved)
How I created a healthy relationship with men after making some huge realizations about the men from my past including my dad
My reasons why I don't believe in “low-quality men” or casual relationships
My physical health and long hair journey (all natural, all the time)
How terrifying it can be to walk away from something that doesn’t align with you or give you joy anymore but how incredibly amazing it feels after confronting that
Asking for what you want in a feminine vs masculine way and the outcomes of both
Seeking out quality relationships with men and the attributes I appreciate in a man

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We all know that money is one of the most common reasons for conflict in relationships, but how can we get a handle on it from the first date?

Today I’m diving into the male perspective so us ladies can get some REAL clarity on the age-old question, who should pay for the date? I’m joined by my guest Nathan Lang, a fitness trainer and coach who lays it all out on the table, feelings and all. Nathan describes his dating experiences and how he manages expectations when it comes to paying for his dates. We discuss how this small question can actually have huge impacts on the future of our relationships that can either lead to a better ability to have those harder conversations and more intimacy or a build-up of resentment and conflict.

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

How men should also get to receive the gratification and enjoyment of letting the other person pay for a date
How to navigate the often awkward moment of when the check hits the table!
That the decisions you make in that moment of offering or not offering to pay can give you insight into how the rest of the relationship will play out and all of its dynamics
How constantly fighting to hear our own perspectives can disrupt the flow of a connection
Some insider knowledge on how men actually feel when women pay for the date
Do the dance! Offering then accepting makes men want to do it even more and show up for you as a man
The damage the “Independent Woman” stereotype can often cause early on in dating and relationships
How being willing to lean into the discomfort can lead to satisfying rewards like being truly seen, attracting the right person and a much deeper relationship

Connect with Nathan:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebalibootyguy/

The Wanderlust Gym: http://wanderlustfitnessvillage.com/

Connect with me:

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Elaina’s on the podcast!! I absolutely loved speaking with Elaina today about her insanely successful business, how she managed to draw in the perfect man and a whole lot about business strategy, visualizing your desires and reaching for the very top. This one is definitely for my business ladies looking for love out there!

Elaina Ray is a dear friend of mine, a multiple-figure strategy mentor and business coach who is absolutely killing it in the game right now. In under just 5 years, Elaina has managed to grow her business to 7 figures and is not planning on stopping any time soon. Before the major success though, Elaina opens up to me and shares her difficult situation with money growing up, which hugely impacted her relationship with money. She also tells me how she was single for 9 years before taking on a major shift in doing deeper work on her self-worth, changing her beliefs around her self-image and realizing her orgasmic potential which eventually led her to her wonderfully turned-on relationship with her partner today who, in her words, checks every single box. Our chat is filled with lessons on self-worth and believing that you can reach the very top by telling yourself the story that you can and WILL get there, whether it’s money or love.

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

How easy it can be to fall into the trap of otherizing when we can flip the script instead of sticking by the sidelines and saying we’ll never get there
How Elaina grew her business by making decisions faster and trusting her destiny quicker
How your core energy vibration will let others know how much they should rise to your standards
Telling yourself the story you want to hear that aligns with your desires instead of your fears
How much money is tied to our worthiness and not allowing it to rule our lives forever
How Elaina visualized and wrote down all aspects of the type of partner she wanted and is enjoying that very man today!
Trusting in your destiny and acting in spite of your circumstances
How powerful women’s desire is and how we can use that to inspire men to step up and lead the mission from within

Connect with Elaina:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyelainaray/

Website: https://elainaray.com/

Elaina’s book ‘Becoming Self-Made’: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1989716717

Connect with me:

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Becoming Self-Made: The Journey of Building a Soul-Led Multimillion-Dollar Business

I’m so excited to have one of my former Dating for Love students here on the podcast this week, Allison Landry! Allison and I talk about what drew her to my course, her beautiful transformation all the way to, you guessed it, the juicy love stories that came afterwards.

Allisons shares her struggles with me including how much fear she had around relationships especially dealing with sexual trauma on top of that. We discuss how her lack of trust started to infiltrate all of her relationships and how it stopped her from being vulnerable around people and feeling really closed off from the world. But when you hear her today, you won’t even think she’s the same person. She’s made a complete 180! After completing Dating For Love, Allison has found herself in a polyamorous relationship where she feels safe and loved, goes out on regular dates, and even visits the occasional play party.

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

Allison’s biggest takeaways from Dating For Love and how much it’s changed her life
That learning how to be compassionate towards men lets us understand their own struggles better and how to be a compassionate partner
How the incredible self-discovery journey Allison went on allowed her to recognise her unhealthy patterns in relationships
How she lets relationships unfold instead of turning away from a lack of instant attraction
How play and kink can unleash bounds of suppression society has latched onto us
That you can receive so much clarity, openness and connection from playing with your partner (or partners!)
Her next pursuit of forming deeper platonic relationships and how she plans on forming those connections

Connect with me:

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Everything doesn’t become sunshine and roses the minute you heal, it just prepares you for the next level, and if there’s someone who knows all about this it’s my guest and former student of mine Kassi Horn!

After our journey of working together, Kassi found that her relationship had run its course and decided to end things. She’s brave enough to share her story with us today and tell us all about her experiences with dipping her toes into the pool of self-discovery before becoming completely encompassed by it all including relishing in sisterhoods and being confronted by her edge over and over again. We also discuss being open to wanting help and support, making space for people in our lives (not just men!), calling attention to our wounds around desire and being receptive to our sisters, even when they tell you things you don’t always want to hear! We also touch on anger and rage and being comfortable using those spaces to access more information about ourselves instead of writing them off completely. Kassi and I wrap up our beautiful conversation with religion and how we can practice being spiritual without feeling stifled by others’ perceptions.

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

Recognizing when things aren’t in alignment and seeing them as positive realities instead of opportunities to put ourselves down
Calling attention to our wounds, especially the ones around desire
That sometimes separation is good and we need it to get back to ourselves
Being part of a sisterhood is such an eye-opening experience that lets your wounds and the parts of yourself that need attention show up a LOT more clearly
The outcomes of taking the step to show up for yourself (they’re really good!)
The idea of letting go of the independent protective amour and softening the hard shell of independence

Connect with Kassi:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/call.me.kass/

Sanctuary Retreat: https://sanctuaryretreat.my.canva.site/

Desire on Fire Experience:

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Ladies! You’re gonna need a notebook for this one. We’re holding up a magnifying glass to every question you’ve ever had about birth control and your menstrual cycle from why you feel fine one day and crying over something someone said 5 years ago the next to how much damage birth control really does to us. We’re talking hormones, biology, menstrual phases, chocolate cravings, all of it.

My wonderful guest this week, Pauline Gisele is a hormone cycle researcher and educator who after her own year-long battle with depression as a result of coming off birth control after 10 years felt called to help other women all over the world get rid of PMS, optimize their fertility, and regulate their cycles. We talk about all the different ways birth control suppresses our bodies, creates a disconnect from our brain to our ovaries all the way down to it having a HUGE impact on how we choose our partners. It even changes our sense of smell. Did you know that? I didn’t! In the same ways that sometimes trauma can choose our partners for us, our cycle does almost the exact same thing, so we’re covering every single phase so you’re clued up on why the couch and a good bit of chocolate become irresistible at least once a month.

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

How we attract different types of men depending on which phase of our cycle we’re in
That symptoms of PMS and PMDD are actually abnormal and a sign from our bodies that something is wrong
How hormones affect every single thing in our lives from our thoughts and emotions to the decisions and partners we choose
The behaviors associated with each menstrual phase (there’s a reason you want to organize your entire life every month!)
How having a better understanding of our cycle can help us better understand ourselves and encourage more self-love and self-compassion
Two essential things we need to control to balance our hormones especially after coming off of birth control
How low moods and feelings of depression during our cycles is really just a drop in estrogen. It’s all biology, we’re totally normal!
How we as women are so predictable and there is nothing shameful about that

Connect with Pauline:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paulinegisele/

Website: https://balanceyourcycle.com/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

You may want to gear up for this episode because this week we’re tackling alllll the triggers. My incredible guest Lorin Krenn and I are uncovering feminine and masculine wounds, generational trauma and everything wrong with saying ‘All men are trash’. A tough pill to swallow, I know.

Lorin is a Masculine and Feminine Polarity Teacher who’s worked all over the world helping people experience deep intimacy with his provocative style and down-to-earth approach. We have such a beautiful conversation about how Lorin found his calling in coaching through meditations and reflections, we discuss the countless nuances of polarity in relationships and how they come into play during almost every interaction and Lorin shares his profound perspectives on what he calls the ‘embodiment of universal intelligence’ stored within each of us as women. We also tackle a little biology and discuss the chaos (the good kind) of feminine energy and how generational trauma can affect each of us even if we had relatively good relationships with our parents. Where does it come from? How do trauma and conditioning show up in our relationships? How can we release our pain and fears towards the opposite sex in the healthiest ways possible? It’s all asked and answered.

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

What the feminine oracle is and how to connect to it to deepen our connections to ourselves and our partners
Why men showing up with integrity makes us trust them more
Exploring your true hunger for growth
The differences between the awakened man and the awakened woman and why knowing these differences is integral to your growth as a couple
Throwing away the idea of fitting into a box and ensuring we are being our true authentic selves
How we shouldn’t be afraid to explore our dark feminine selves and trust that our partners will know how to handle it
Where the playboy/womanizer archetype comes from (it’s all gonna click into place once you hear this one)

Connect with Lorin:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorinkrenn/

Website: https://www.lorinkrenn.com/

Healing the Father Wound Workshop: https://www.lorinkrenn.com/trainings/healing-the-father-wound/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

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We’re diving into motherhood, womanhood and all things personal growth this week as I chat with a former Dating for Love student of mine, Caitlin Lili! Caitlin since taking my course and completely transforming her life is now a coach who helps other moms like herself embody their radiance and trust their inner knowing, something she used to really struggle with. Caitlin shares what she learned from the program and how much it has impacted her relationships with men, all the way down to accepting help and compliments on the street and recognizing that all men really want to do is love us and shower us with affection. Who wouldn’t want to get in on a piece of that! She also tells me how her life took a major perspective shift by looking at her requirements for men and dating by turning them into feelings instead and dating outside of her usual preferences. She learned sooo much from just this and I can’t wait for you to hear all about it!

Caitlin and I also discuss the relationship between motherhood and womanhood and how we should never be ashamed to claim our sexual needs and wants as a woman just because we’re mothers. In the wise words of Caitlin “being a mom doesn't mean you don't wanna be f*cked!”. We reclaiming sexuality, freedom and trusting your inner knowing all while being the best mother you can be in this one, so moms, this one’s for you!

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

All of the incredible knowledge and tools Caitlin gained from my Dating for Love course!
Unloading her fear of men and learning to accept and receive their attention
Recognizing that love doesn’t always have to be an instant passionate attraction but that love can grow over time into something really beautiful and long-lasting
That regardless of pushback, you should never feel stifled or put down for talking about YOUR truth. It’s yours, you can do whatever you want with it
How Caitlin claimed her desires by recognizing that her persona as a mother and as a woman were completely separate
That putting your needs first doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom and will actually improve your relationship with your kids
Throwing away the idea that men are annoying to ask for sex and intimacy. Isn’t that what we all want as women anyway?
How since Caitlin started trusting her inner knowing more her capacity to hold sensations in her body became so much bigger
Life doesn’t stop after having children!

Connect with Caitlin:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcaitlinlili/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Feeling safe is one of the most important foundations of a healthy loving relationship so this week I’m sharing with you some tips and frameworks so you can feel comfortable sharing your deep feelings with your partner in a loving space. I get a ton of comments and messages from people expressing their fear about opening up and sharing deeply or being completely shocked by the idea of sharing their resentments with their partner because they’re so afraid of how it will end. So don’t worry, I got you covered this week. I talk about the power of writing down our feelings to make us have an objective perspective on a situation, removing shame from being open about our feelings and I touch on one of my BIGGEST philosophies in relationships which is all about holding that mirror up to yourself.

WHAT ELSE I TALK ABOUT:

A step-by-step framework to help you feel your feelings and express your thoughts calmly and thoughtfully
Recognizing your blindspots, where you took part in a situation and being able to take personal responsibility
How safety is more than a foundation and needs to be present in ALL of our relationships
How these frameworks can be used for anyone in our lives not just our romantic partners
How we must do some internal growth and perspective work and can’t look to others to make us feel safe in our relationships
The importance
of outside support from coaches, friends or family after you’ve done some introspective work

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Hi everyone! I’m dropping in this week with a quick chat on something you’ve all been really wanting a deeper discussion about and that is being vulnerable with your partner. What does it really take to be vulnerable with your partner? What are some of the warning signs that you may be struggling with vulnerability in your relationship and may not even know it? And a big one, what does personal responsibility have to do with all this? Hint: A LOT! I’m tackling it all and so much more including the mirror effect that’s present in all relationships, working with vulnerability alongside staying true to your feminine energy and why so many of us struggle with feeling unseen in our relationships.

WHAT ELSE I TALK ABOUT:

What it means when you feel resentment over your partner not being vulnerable with you
The importance of personal responsibility and how you could be projecting your own fears into the relationship
How taking ownership of your power and impact is a really fundamental and sexy attribute to have
That struggling with vulnerability in your relationship may be a sign that something needs addressing within you
The illusion that lying and keeping our needs and wants to ourselves cultivates a peaceful relationship
That initiating conversation and being vulnerable about your needs is still a way of being in your feminine energy and is actually a beautiful way to express your femininity

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Relationship Check-in Workshop: https://www.kelleymbode.com/relationship-check-In-masterclass

Foundations of Love Course:

https://www.mattcama.com/foundations-of-love

I’m so excited to have my wonderful boyfriend on the podcast this week to indulge with me on all things relationships, love languages, being grateful, intimacy and lots more. Matt tells me about his recent trip to Australia to visit family, which sparks a discussion on what it really means if you’re the person who always feels the urge to help and save people, and how sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is letting them figure it out their dark paths on their own. We also have an open and touching talk on all the things we’ve been grateful for and loved in our relationship recently including our sex and intimacy levels, the fun things we have in store and super excited about for our future, LOTS of adorable kitten talk and give space for both our lowlights and highlights of the past month.

WHAT ELSE WE TALK ABOUT:

Practicing gratefulness and appreciation for one another and the love we have when someone practices our love language even without knowing it
Lots of cats and kitten talk including predicting when our cat will give birth and how the entire experience is a great opportunity to sense what having children will be like
How hypervigilance can stem from a lack of trust in a relationship or a result of childhood experiences
What it means when we try to control each other and the story we tell ourselves that causes these outbursts
How sometimes you have to sit in darker spots and be depressed in order to learn valuable lessons
How scheduling intimacy and date nights remind us to prioritize our relationship and doesn’t always mean sex but sometimes just physical touch or spending intentional time together
Debunking the myth that a relationship can’t be hot and spontaneous if intimacy and sex are scheduled

Connect with me:

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

In today’s episode, I’m going solo to answer a popular question I get on Instagram and give you full insight into how confronting conflict can offer you ultimate freedom in every area of your life. I’m uncovering all the layers in this one including where your fear of conflict may have stemmed from, how you responded to conflict as a child and the impacts that has now, the reasons why you may fear or totally avoid conflict and sooo much more. I unravel my own conflicts from the past starting with the very first with a high school boyfriend and all the ways in which my unstable upbringing and approach to conflict at home had a major impact on how I dealt with it and many more situations following until I found a framework that encouraged me to face my fears and be my true authentic self. I also discuss the major blocks that form from avoiding issues with conflict and how ignoring these blocks can stop you from reaching your full potential and achieving your biggest dreams in life.

What truly is the best way to deal with conflict? Tune in to hear the answer once and for all!

WHAT ELSE I TALK ABOUT:

How being afraid of conflict is a natural and evolutionary feeling that you shouldn’t be ashamed of
The REAL reason behind why you don’t feel seen in your relationship (hint: personal responsibility is a must-have quality!)
The hard-to-hear truth on what happens when you DON’T heal your issues with conflict
My personal journey with conflict as a child and how I deal with it now as an adult
The two ways to deal with conflict (I’m a big fan of no.2!)
How we explain conflict to ourselves as children and take those stories with us into adulthood
How freeing and fulfilling it is to confront your own inauthenticity with others and working through a framework and support system to break down those barriers to become a better version of yourself
How being in conflict with your partner is a deeply intimate act and how witnessing each other's anger and hurt can bring you closer together
The nuances of boundaries and how to keep our emotional center in balance no matter what is happening around us

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

(Mentioned in ep:)

Relationship Check-in: https://www.kelleymbode.com/relationship-check-In-masterclass

Foundations of Love: https://www.mattcama.com/foundations-of-love

For today’s episode, I’m joined by Lois McKenzie, founder of marketing agency, Up Club and actually someone who works on my team, as we dive head first into a really important and personal topic for both of us; abortion. In light of the recent news on Roe v Wade, it’s beyond important to start conversations about women’s right to abortion and what the ruling means for millions of women in America. We both open up about our own experiences with abortion while comparing the similarities in dealing with unnecessary guilt, and shame and discuss the differences between getting an abortion in the UK and the US. We tackle the nuances in the pro-life and pro-choice movements and the challenges that those labels can bring, how different our lives would be now and the situations we could have ended up in if we didn’t have access to abortions, and how we believe at the core, that most people are in favor of giving women the right to autonomy over their bodies.

WHAT ELSE WE TALK ABOUT:

The lack of support for women deciding to have an abortion and wanting more information from real people and real stories
How every story is riddled with guilt and shame and ways to counteract and welcome those feelings instead
Acknowledging the privileges and access opportunities that we have that so many other women may not have and how that affects their experiences
How not leaving space for conversations on abortion can lead to even more separation creating a dangerous Us vs Them dynamic
The lack of education among young women on sex, understanding our cycles, protection, pregnancy, relationships, when to recognize abuse and so much more
How much of an impact it can have on your mental health and how the lack of choice and support can only intensify these struggles
How Kelley’s first pregnancy ignited her self-growth journey and essentially made her who she is today
Lois’ experience with sharing her story on social media and the responses she received (we all have such similar experiences!)

Connect with Lois:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loismckenzieee/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Hi everyone! In this episode, I’m going solo to share my thoughts with you about processing with your partner in a relationship. Long story short, it’s a BIG no from me! Matt and I have found that when we process our relationship or start to coach each other when we have conflict, it just never ends well. I’ve seen first-hand how much this did not work for us and so I’m giving you all the reasons why I think this may not be the best idea for your relationship.

I talk about how processing can change the dynamics in a relationship, have major effects on sexual intimacy, desire and polarity, alternative ways to “coach” your partner if you’re having a disagreement and the importance of having an outside support system (that you have vetted first!) to work through and talk about issues you may be having.

I’d also love to hear your own thoughts on processing with a partner and whether it has worked for you! Have you noticed any differences in your relationship and sexual intimacy when you do process with your partner? Has it improved or hindered the relationship? Let me know!

WHAT ELSE I TALK ABOUT:

How to avoid becoming a teacher, therapist or authority figure over your partner when working through disagreements and have conversations from the heart instead
How processing with your partner may seem helpful at the start but will eventually wear away at your sexual desire, polarity and intimacy
Sometimes we DO need to know when we’re projecting but it’s best to hear that from a friend, coach or therapist rather than your partner
How something delivered with care, love and from the heart is ultimately better than it coming from a place of anger or resentment
The importance of having a full life outside of your relationship with a strong network of support

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

I’m joined with the amazing Gina Swire for a cute catch-up episode this week! We have a chat about what we’ve both been up to and I get to hear all of the INCREDIBLE stories from her eye-opening trip to Egypt! We touch on her experiences with realignment, self-discovery and her overall wild yet incredibly insightful journey as she explored the country and toured the infamous pyramids. She tells me about her life-changing experience visiting the inside of the Great Pyramid (which apparently looks like nothing you’d expect) and completely redefines the term “emotional rollercoaster” as she describes meditating in absolute pitch-black darkness with practical strangers. There are just so many stories and beautiful discoveries she had along this trip that sound like an absolute dream including seeing a lottt of attractive men be in their masculine which is always a plus, seeing a mirage and being one with the culture.

And naturally, we touch on aliens, dark entities and anal sex. Lots to listen to in this one!

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

How to navigate disappointment and control expectations
Our feelings on female lead dynamics in relationships and how to deal with our own fears around polarity
Searching for positive feedback in our relationships instead of looking for problems to fix that don’t exist yet
The joys of watching men be in their masculine as Gina tells me a story about a group of Egyptian men eager to help her fix a broken gift she received
Unsubscribing from certain beliefs that don’t serve you (goodbye Mercury retrograde!!)
The effects of dark entity attachments and why this could be a reason why people are drawn towards darker paths in life
Gina’s own experience with dark thoughts and entity attachments and how she was able to rid herself from it and recognize that it was not a part of her
Exploring the idea of other versions of ourselves in different dimensions living out other elements and paths of our lives and how that can bring us comfort
Realizing that our higher selves aren’t always up in the clouds but can also be in other places much closer to us

Connect with Gina:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ginaswire/

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1314022295340317/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Join Matt’s and my Relationship Check-in Masterclass happening soon:

https://www.kelleymbode.com/relationship-check-In-masterclass

This week I'm joined by a wonderful client of mine, Tori Neal! Tori is an incredible woman who took part in my Communicating with Men and Intimately Yours courses and was kind enough to let me dive back in and celebrate her journey and process and see how she’s getting on now. We of course get into her previous struggles in trusting her partner, the built-up resentment she felt and working through major disconnection issues, but we make sure to celebrate every single win! Tori went from wanting sex but getting too caught up in her thoughts, feeling too tired or uninterested or that the mood wasnt right, to both her and her husband barely being able to keep their hands off each other all day. We share so many beautiful moments in this episode from stepping into your feminine energy instead of constantly viewing everything as a problem to be solved, the HUGE differences in how men and women are wired and the effects this had on Tori’s marriage, her appreciation for the sisterhood in her work with me and how this allowed her to feel more safe and vulnerable to work through her personal healing journey.

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

✺ Tori’s experience of working with me and how helpful she found the tools and insights to take her marriage to the next level

✺ The flame to reigniting the joy in Tori’s marriage again

✺ Finding her feminine energy again and allowing herself to say yes to her husband wanting to take control and do the sweetest (and hottest!) things for her

✺ Letting herself receive and ENJOY gifts and gestures from her husband

✺ Learning the differences between how women and men’s brains are wired and how this can majorly impact communication

✺ How expressing your resentments and built-up emotions will always be messy and there’s just no escaping that (it’s a tough one to hear I know)

✺ The power of being inside a container filled with women experiencing the same as you and how that enables you to be truly honest with yourself and your needs and desires

✺ That understanding your erotic blueprint is a huge step in reigniting a sexual relationship, and even though they may not perfectly align, it doesn’t mean you’re doomed to have mediocre sex!

✺ Truly understanding the phrase “Men want to make us happy” and how this can open infinite doors of opportunity, passion, intimacy and more in your relationship

✺ The importance of appreciation, especially in Tori’s relationship and how that was the key to breaking free from the negative cycle of closing herself off to her needs and desires

✺ That it’s essential to know that little hiccups and bumps in the road are part of and important to healing and revitalizing your relationship and doesn’t mean it’s time to give it all up

Watch the Communicating with Men Workshop Here:

https://www.kelleymbode.com/offers/Zj86tLob

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I’m super excited to bring something new to you all today! I’m starting a brand new series of conversations with amazing men. I’m going to interview all sorts of men on their thoughts and experiences with relationships and their relationship to the feminine, to bring you a crystal clear image of every edge of the male perspective.

I’m kicking off this new series with a friend of Matt’s, Alex Waters. Alex is a serial-entrepreneur, single dad and business coach. Alex and I have a really raw and open conversation on his past codependency and abusive relationships, the hardships and struggles of being a parent whilst simultaneously dealing with a toxic partner, the relationship he had with his mom and the stories he held about himself because of that, followed by a courageous healing journey. No stone is left unturned in this one so if you’re eager to see the world from the other side (or wondering what men really think when we absolutely insist on paying for dinner), then this is one for you!

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

✺ Alex’s past relationships and his journey to fatherhood and how that’s impacted how he sees dating now (and what he’s looking for in his next relationship)

✺ The importance of finding the sweet spot between codependency and hyper-independence

✺ Healthy dating habits, the energetics around using dating apps and exploring a new way to meet other people without attaching stories to the other person

✺ Getting caught up in pretending to be something we’re not when dating because we think we have to be a perfect version of ourselves - and then we lose ourselves.

✺ That the birth of Alex’s son was a real wake-up call for him and an invitation to inspire change

✺ How you may be subconsciously choosing your own pain and how to let that pain show you what needs immediate attention and change in your life

✺ How expectations can rob us of gratitude, not only for our partners but for everything in our lives

✺ That the only way to find true connection is to take off the mask and be our most vulnerable selves

✺ How working on your shadows and going through periods of pain can ultimately birth the best version of yourself and be the greatest lesson on how to live your life

✺ His approach to parenting and optimistic advice that it definitely gets easier with time!

Connect with Alex:

Instagram: @alexanderwaters

https://www.instagram.com/alexanderwaters/

TikTok: @alexanderwaters

https://www.tiktok.com/@alexanderwaters

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

We’re having a little chat about self-love, femininity and polarity in this week’s episode and how all these things can impact our relationships, both with our partners and ourselves. My past relationships weren’t always the healthiest (and have even bordered on toxic) so I’m taking you on a journey of all of the most important things I’ve learned along my healing journey so you can steer clear of those huge red flags that everyone always talks about, but few people explain. We’re also touching on the five feminine archetypes and the right time and place to practice being our feminine selves (spoiler: it’s whenever you want). The most important relationship we have is with ourselves and if we don’t keep an eye on the conversations we’re having in our heads, they can cause major downfalls in our relationships, so tune in to get your self-love fix!

WHAT ELSE I’M TALKING ABOUT:

✹ How I found answers to the questions “What does it take to be in a loving relationship?” and “Who do I put first in a relationship, me or them?”

✹ The ONE thing I learned from my healing journey overcoming a toxic relationship

✹ How speaking your truth will always outweigh the need to be feminine in our relationships

✹ How prioritizing ourselves and practicing self-love can actually save our relationships

✹ How to tap into our feminine energies even when they appear “too masculine”

✹ The practices I use to overcome living in my “collapsed feminine” by default; people-pleasing, codependency, making myself small and what other women who relate to that can do, too.

✹ Asking for what you WANT and owning your desires (you are not too much)

✹ Self-love and polarity and how it all ties together to create a loving and healthy relationship dynamic

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Hi everyone! This week you get me all to yourself again as I bring you another solo episode. Today we’re revisiting the past a little to talk about expectations, particularly when it comes to relationships. Since getting into my relationship with Matt over a year ago, I have learned so much and I’ve changed my mind about a lot of things, particularly in the ways that expectations can drain us and cause major disruptions in our relationships. We uncover all the layers in this episode and finally figure out what it takes to surrender to the universe and how to appreciate that your partner truly knows what's best for you.

We’re finally going to get to the bottom of the age-old question: “Who should pay for dates?” No, really, we’re going to solve this one.

WHAT ELSE I’M TALKING ABOUT:

✺ The ONE difference between modern dating and dating 100 years ago

✺ How unspoken expectations breeds disconnection (this is a big one!)

✺ How our expectations can be damaging and emasculating for our partners

✺ What if he doesn't want to pay for the date? What does that mean, should it mean anything at all?

✺ Taking away the “I shouldn’t have to tell you this” vibe and how this nurtures a healthy, whole relationship

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

This week I’m hosting an amazing client of mine, Lena on the podcast!! Lena is a very special client, an artist, a believer in the energetics of love and life, a deep thinker and she’s also big on Human Design. So, naturally her reflections on our work together get real! We’re talking about so many beautiful things, like really leaning into desire and TRUST and surrender, and how things absolutely always work out - even if we have no idea in the moment how that’s going to happen. Lena talks through what her coaching experience was like with me and all of the ways it helped her to really transform on so many levels. She spent most of her life in her masculine energy: being the doer, the decider, the one who gets things done, and she talks about how she learned to really integrate her feminine energy even more. We talk about the baby steps that Lena took that meant that her dating experiences got more and more aligned every time. We’re also talking about how deeply connected successful dating and living the life you want to live are. The energy of really being deeply connected to ourselves and how that can literally change everything in our lives, not just the way we show up in dating or in our relationships - but of course these things naturally change dramatically, too.

We’re also talking about:

✹ Lena’s “missing piece” when it came to relationships before we worked together (listen to the end for this one)

✹ Being confronted with all of your core fears: fear of being rejected, fear of abandonment, fear of being vulnerable, fear of being really seen - and how it’s all a catalyst to growth.

✹ How owning and integrating our darkness and the parts where we have pain is the key to realising the things we really desire

✹ The power of good coaching, and not having to sit and suffer alone with the things you’re working through

✹ The lived experience of “there are no good men around me” and how this was an unhelpful belief for Lena and how she worked to change that story for herself (which then changed her reality)

✹ Learning how to love where you’re at and being OK with how you feel and who you are and how your life is right now in this moment

✹ Noticing and acknowledging the way the masucline is showing up in your life and appreciating and learning to love them, even if you’re not dating them

✹ Asking for what you want, letting yourself be seen and being in your feminine energy

✹ The experience she’s had since we’ve worked together: men treating Lena like a queen!

✹ How she’s now in the sweetest, most loving and caring relationship now and it’s different to anything she’s ever experienced

✹ We’re even talking about how they met, their first date and how he did something really cute that made her feel seen and recognized and really taken care of

Connect with Lena:

Instagram: @lena.maria.dutzi

https://www.instagram.com/lena.maria.dutzi/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Excited to bring you a new solo episode this week where I am finally sitting down to answer allllll of your questions. On a daily basis I get questions from you guys, in my Instagram, clients in my programs or masterclasses or even inside my Facebook community. So, I figured it was about time I did an episode to go through some of them. I asked you over on my Instagram what you really wanted to know, and I’m in this episode, I’m going through each one. I’m talking from my own perspective in my relationship(s), as a coach, for my clients, in my studies and the work I’ve done over the years to really understand myself, intimacy and relationships more and I’m offering what I hope will be helpful insights into some of your most common relationship challenges. Things like porn, sharing the things that trigger you in a way that stops those things impacting your connection, non-negotiables and more. I hope you love it! I promise I’ll do this again soon, so if you’re not already, come find me on Instagram and let me know your most burning relationship questions.

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

✹ Watching porn when you’re in a committed relationship: what happens when your partner watches porn and it’s triggering for you.

✹ Why relationships are the biggest catalysts for growth and change that a person can experience (if you let it).

✹ Non-negotiables, how to and when to decide if it’s a relationship that you want to be in.

✹ Some of the great things that fill mine and Matt’s relationship that really make doing “The Work” worthwhile.

✹ Embodying and healing shame around our sex life: how our sex can be sweet and loving and eye-gazing, and then at the same time it can be kinky and rough and primal.

✹ When Matt decided he wanted to be in a relationship how he was all in and has never wavered.

✹ How it’s normal to be scared to share something important to you in your relationship

✹ Matt and I’s conversations lately about marriage, getting engaged, what a ring even really means to me, and all of the triggers these conversations have the potential to bring up

✹ The stories we tell ourselves about not being loveable, good enough, wanted etc.

✹ What Matt and I do in our relationship to get reconnected when we’re maybe distracted or spending a lot of time apart, working or generally just not being intimate

✹ How to connect with and share your desires to get more of your needs met, more often

✹ How to trust the divine masculine and The Universe / Source as it relates to dating and masculine energy

Manifesting Love info: https://www.kelleymbode.com/manifesting-love-masterclass

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I am thrilled to welcome relationship and human behavior expert Alison Armstrong on the podcast this week. There are so many golden nuggets from the very first minute, it’s like a 90 minute masterclass on communicating, human behavior and relationships with men!

Alison’s exploration of human behavior began in 1991, with her decision to study men: “To find out how I was bringing out the worst in them. And hopefully, how to bring out the best.” Her success in understanding men naturally led to studying women’s behavior and making vital connections between the two. In this episode we’re talking about everything from the things that (most masculine) men tend to look for when making a decision about marriage (and love isn’t one of them), including the main reason a man would choose not to marry someone (it’s definitely not what you think) to nervous system responses and our caveman-like instincts and urges.

If you’re looking to learn more about male and female instincts, tendencies and dynamics in relationships and ways that you might be causing yourself trouble (without even realizing it) when relating to other people, then you’re going to want to listen to this one!

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

✹ “Why are men wonderful in the beginning?” - the million dollar question that changed Alison’s mindset and the direction of her work

✹ Harboring hatred, disdain and believing men are stupid - why do we do this!?

✹ Expecting men to be some version of a woman; to think the same and behave the same. Then when they don’t do “what a woman would have done”, they are stupid, immature, emotionally unavailable etc

✹ One of the most subtle and nuanced differences between how men and women communicate: how men often mean what they say, literally, and women often don’t

✹ How to know how a man truly feels about something (hint: there is a specific of number of seconds you will want to wait until you get a true answer!!)

✹ What Alison learned about men by asking them the question, “what is your favorite thing about women?”

✹ How most masculine men believe they make their biggest mistakes when they act on their feelings (and why this is important for women who want to marry a man)

✹ What happens when we’re not consistently voicing what we actually want and owning our needs and desires

✹ How men see competition in relationships (and it’s not what you think)

✹ Emasculating the men in your life, what does that even really mean?

✹ The ways we unconsciously project our own preferences and motivations onto another person and how that often prevents resolution to conflict (this may be why you have the same fights all the time and feel like the other person isn’t listening)

Connect with Alison:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealisonarmstrong

Website: https://www.alisonarmstrong.com

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Hi everyone!

I’m so excited to have my amazing boyfriend back on the show for this episode.

We recently got back to Bali after a 3-month trip in the US where he came to see where I’m from and meet my family for the first time (!!) after a period of being apart. We’re sitting down to talk about everything from what we did while long-distance to keep the connection alive between us, Matt’s experience in the US for the first time and meeting ALL of my family (jet lag included), living together for the first time in conditions neither we or our relationship have been used to, what we fight about, and all the way down to discovering each other’s annoying habits.

We’re even breaking down our most recent conflict and what we would do differently if we were to live that experience again.

Share, subscribe, & rate the podcast if you loved it!

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

✹ Sleeping in separate bedrooms and what that means for each of us.

✹ Conflict and exactly how we define fighting in our relationship (and what we do whenever emotional conversations need to happen).

✹ Communicating what you want AND letting go of those expectations in relationships in order to get more of your needs met more often and avoid unnecessary fights.

✹ Build up of resentment and what happens when you don’t simply communicate your desires.

✹ The difference between masculine and feminine in the way that the feminine typically wants more intimacy and the masculine typically wants more space - and that this is actually such a good thing, and the key to polarity… and all of that fire!

✹ Our relationship check ins: what are they, and why do we do them (this is something many people have asked us about - workshop incoming!)

✹ The physical side effects of not speaking your truth.

Dating for Love information: https://www.kelleymbode.com/dating-for-love

Connect with Matt:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matt_cama/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mattcama23

Website: https://www.mattcama.com/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Megan is a master-certified intimacy and desire expert. She’s helped hundreds of people around the world experience more love, better sex, and clearer desires through her retreats, group programs, and private coaching. Previously, she was a senior leadership consultant to Fortune 100 companies. Now, she lives in Bali with her husband, two puppies and their baby girl. In this episode we’re talking about initiating sex and what to do when you hear a “no”. We talk deep into the beautiful story of how Megan met her now husband, James, and how they manage the feminine / masculine dynamics of their relationship, keeping the fire alive between them while parenting and running a business together.

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

✹ Initiating sex with your words versus initiaing sex with your body (and what to do when you hear a “no”)

✹ Non-verbal connection with your partner and letting them feel you (and how hot this can be)

✹ Feeling the sensation of your own turn-on and embodying that desire so that you are more open to intimacy and sex more often

✹ Accepting all of those unhelpful stories: “am I good enough?”, “do I look supid?”, “is he going to reject me?” as perfectly normal and human and moving past them with grace for yourself

✹ Focusing on YOU and your own enjoyment in the build up to intimacy

✹ Sharing your internal experiences with your partner and using that as another beautiful opportunity to connect

✹ The subtle nuances of feminine communication and what that means in leadership / as a leader (contrary to what we are always told about having a core feminine energy and being a leader)

✹ The dance between the feminine expressing her desire and the masculine responding to that desire with a solution or a plan

✹ We don’t have to speak in a feminine way all the time, this is NOT the 1950s (and that’s not what this work is about). This is simply about leaning into the energy that feels more natural to you while allowing yourself to also experience the full expression of both the masculine and feminine energies within you.

Join Dating for Love: https://www.kelleymbode.com/dating-for-love

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Have you ever thought that that love you wanted wasn’t possible for you?

That’s what my guest today, Bethany Dixon, thought just 3 months ago when she first joined my program called Dating for Love. Fast forward to now and she’s in a loving, committed relationship where they’re both in it for the long game.

Bethany came to me in a place of fearing relationships, fearing men and being completely guarded - feeling like in all of her relationships she needed to be the strong one, and always needed to protect herself. She felt like if she admitted to herself that she really wanted to be in a safe, mutually loving relationship - then there was a risk she wouldn’t get what she wanted and that would hurt more.

While working together Bethany met her now partner, and in this episode we talk about how she met him through a dating app, the work we did together in order for her to get to this point - and how this is the first time in almost ten years that she’s been in a beautiful relationship that feels safe and nourishing for her.

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

The patriarchy, society and our ideas about what it means to be a feminine woman that wants to find love and our fear of being “too much”
Why it’s often hard to talk to our friends about or decision to start loving men and the masculine
The power of sisterhood and sharing your experience with other women
The choices we make as modern women based on what we think we should do simply because of how we’ve been taught to hate all men, especially when we’re carrying past trauma
How she met her current partner during our time working together, after healing a lot of the unhelpful stories she had been living in and using some of the feminine / masculine dynamics I teach inside Dating For Love
Bethany’s dating process and how it was implementing this new way of slow dating for her with her new partner
Expressing interest when dating and using dating apps: what’s OK and what’s not OK?
Ways to invite him to lead when dating (instead of just passively hoping for the best - and why this just doesn’t work)
Expressing appreciation for the special people in our lives in a feminine way that makes both people feel seen, heard, excited, received, happy and loved
Why being feminine doesn’t necessarily mean passive or never leading at all

P.S. The next round of Dating for Love is enrolling now! Click the link below for more information:

https://www.kelleymbode.com/dating-for-love

Connect with Bethany:

Instagram:

Email: bdixon.tz@gmail.com

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Hi BYEH fam!

I’m so excited to bring you a solo podcast episode with me this week!

Today, I’m sharing about my past & how I used to be before doing the growth work that I teach now. I truly used to be terrified to share anything vulnerable & was a complete chameleon to whatever situation I was in. I never felt like the people I dated knew who I was because I never told them… Until I hit my own rock bottom & chose a different path.

Enjoy the episode!

Xo, Kelley

Come to the Art of Feminine Dating: https://www.kelleymbode.com/aofm

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Did you know that it’s possible to free yourself (forever) from painful periods, fertility concerns, and PMS symptoms?!

Well, you definitely can and in this episode with Aubrey Summer - we’re going to dive into how.

Aubrey Summer is a movement & breathwork facilitator, yoga teacher, hormone & cycle coach, pro-juicer, and fasting queen.

She’s sharing with us how to ease menstrual symptoms and, actually, stop bleeding all together - and how that’s actually healthy for the feminine body. We talk about embodying our feminine and the journey to sovereignty - around our cycles and in our lives.

I can’t wait for you to listen!

Xo, Kelley

Come to the Art of Feminine Dating Masterclass: https://www.kelleymbode.com/aofm

Connect with Aubrey:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eclecticalkalarian/

Website: https://linktr.ee/preventativecarecollective

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Have you been more concerned about how it LOOKS than how it FEELS?

Your body, business, relationships, life?

This episode with Jasmine Lipska is made for you, then!

We’re throwing away the old paradigm of concerns about what others think, achieving endlessly, and trying to be perfect.

We’re embracing what feels GOOD! We’re embracing the feminine flow. We’re embracing things getting better and better!

Are you with us?!

Connect with Jasmine:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jasminelipska/

Website: https://jasminelipska.com/

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Do the stars we were born under really affect the people that we are?

Luna Veronica is coming on the show this week to talk all about this & so much more.

Luna is an astrologer, mystic, and a friend of mine who’s currently living in Bali. She teaches other witchy women how to own their gifts

& loves to read birth charts to help people understand themselves more deeply.

On this week’s episode, we talk about:

Why Astrology isn’t scientifically accurate & it doesn’t need to be
The bigger questions of fate, destiny, & free will
Matt’s & my birth charts and why we’re compatible according to the stars
How she got into astrology and how it’s guided her to having the magical life that she lives now

I can’t wait to hear how you like this episode!

Xo, Kelley

Connect with Luna:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luna.veronica.mystic

Book a Birth Chart Reading with Luna: https://lunaveronicamysticcalendar.as.me/birthchartreading

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

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Do I have any edgy one for you all today!

I’m actually super excited to share this life changing practice with you guys - it’s called Urine Therapy and I’m bringing in an expert piss drinker, Nick Caputo, to tell you more about it.

Listen before you judge! And forget getting any information about this on Google.

Below are a couple resources that I mention throughout the podcast:

The Book I Read: Water of Life by J.W. Armstrong

The Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eclkz586P1c

*Read the comments below it!

Connect with Nick:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/grubfromthegarden

Breathwork Bootcamp Course: https://grubfromthegarden.org/breathworkbootcamp/

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

How do you relate to yourself when you’re feeling down?

Vicky Aldana and I dive into a conversation on this week’s podcast episode about embracing and finding the gifts in the down - there are truly so many gifts!

Enjoy this weeks episode & I hope with you leave with more love for your downs.

Connect with Vicky:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vickylizette/

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Afraid of getting canceled? We were too! But the truth is - nobody can actually cancel you. And telling the real truth might be the adventure of your life! In today’s episode, Kelley and I share our stories of “getting canceled” this year and the powerful self-discoveries along the way. We discuss the truths that got us canceled, the impact and ripple effects on our lives & businesses, and why we are truly grateful for this expansive experience. Ready to lean into more truth in your life? Let’s dive in because we are going to tell you why it is SO worth it.

We dive into:

How to lean into more truth in your life - regardless of cancel culture!
Discovering what being canceled really means to you & how you can use it to expand
A breakdown of the posts that got us canceled (and a look at the comment section - it was pretty brutal!)
Personal responsibility, shame & blame, and tribe mentality
Political correctness - good or bad?
Valuing diversity of thought and conversation over censorship
And more!

Connect with Aimee:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Her Company, Desire on Fire: https://www.desireonfire.com/

Desire on Fire on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/

Connect with Kelley:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Hey everybody!

On this week’s episode, Victoria Lutzhoft and I are diving deep into what a relationship led by DESIRE looks like. She talks about how her desire led her to find her husband, get married, have a baby, and now go on dates (while still married!).

We talk about how to create real freedom inside of a committed relationship & how to step into a new paradigm where each of us gets to decide how a relationship looks to us.

Since you can have a relationship look anyway that you want it to, what do you really want?

Connect with Vic:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_mamavic_/

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Hi lovely humans!

In this episode, I answer your questions about all things dating, relationships, sex, and polarity!

Some questions I answer are:

If I want kids

My self-care rituals

How differentiate between a red flag or fear

How to make long distance work in relationships

How to communicate anything from kinky desires to annoyance in your relationship

How to express dominance in a healthy way in your relationship

How to embody your feminine energy so that you can trust & surrender in your life

& lots more!

If you loved the episode share it on social, subscribe, and leave a comment!

Thank you for tuning in!

Xo, Kelley

Connect with me:

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Welcome to Episode 31 with Claudia Lucida!

Claudia is a wife, a lover, and a mentor for alpha women seeking opulent, orgasmic love.

On this episode, we talk about:

Honoring the masculine + the feminine

Where feminine growth might be pushing us away from love

Her loving relationship with her husband

Her mission to help create truly sustainable, long-term, and orgasmic relationships

Thank you for tuning in! Comment, subscribe, and share if you like the episode.

Xo, Kelley

Connect with Claudia:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/claudialucida33

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/claudia_lucida/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Hey babes!

Welcome to this week's special hybrid episode with my friend Kayla Yoder. It’s ‘The Best You’ve Ever Had’ x ‘My Letter Isn’t Scarlet It’s Fucking Gold’

In this episode we are talking about:

How we both used to be in a serious relationships with women
The healing quality of experiencing pleasure with other women
Our journeys to softening into our feminine energy
What we love about dominant men
Our kinky adventures of being submissives
& so much more!

Thanks for tuning in! Subscribe, rate, and share if you loved this episode.

Xo, Kelley

Connect with Kayla:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talksexwithkayla/

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Welcome to this week's episode on overcoming dating obstacles with my dear friend, Kim Mellor! Join us as we talk about Kim’s dating journey and what has taken her from frustrated to enjoying her dating journey.

On this episode, we cover topics like:

Common pitfalls in dating and how to get out of those
How to be magnetic in your feminine energy
The magic of getting clear on your desire
Getting out of your preferences to find true compatibility

Thank you for tuning in!

Work with me:

Dating for Love: https://www.kelleymbode.com/dating-for-love

Intimately Yours: https://www.kelleymbode.com/intimately-yours

Connect with me:

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Connect with Kim:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimmellor_/

Website: https://www.kimmellor.com/

Let’s get TABOO THIS WEEK, BABES! We’re diving into all things femininity this week.

In this episode, I share about my personal journey with my femininity (It’s a juicy one!). I also talk about why I’m so committed to talking about the differences between men and women- even though it’s not “politically correct.”

I speak on current feminism and how it’s become a man-bashing ideology that I don’t agree with.

At the beginning and end of this episode, I share about a couple upcoming coaching programs that I’m launching. Click the links below to check out more information about them.

Dating for Love:

https://www.kelleymbode.com/dating-for-love

Intimately Yours:

https://www.kelleymbode.com/intimately-yours

If you have any questions about these programs and would like to speak to me directly, please DM me on Instagram.

Thank you for tuning in this week!

Xo, Kelley

Connect with me:

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

This week I’m talking with Despina Sokratous from Crystals Within about all things Shadow Work and Spirituality.

Have you ever wondered: What is shadow work anyway?

So many people are teaching shadow work and everyone seems to describe it differently - so it totally makes sense that you might be confused. I know I get confused sometimes and I’m a coach!

Despina is an expert on teaching shadow work and we dive into the depths of what that means and how she does it.

I can’t wait to hear what you think of the episode!

Connect with Despina:

https://www.instagram.com/crystalswithin/

https://www.crystalswithin.com/

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

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On this episode, I’m here to explain how I’ve learned how to create hot sex within a healthy relationship.

To sum it up in 2 words: Dominance & Submission

Dominance is an aspect of masculine energy that women crave - but we don’t think that we should want it.

Submission is an aspect of feminine energy that women crave to be in - but it’s very taboo and misunderstood.

During this episode, I’ll unpack the taboo and energetics of Dominance and Submission. I’ll also explain how to embody your submissive energy in your relationship to help you have the hot sex & healthy relationship that you deeply desire.

I can’t wait to hear what you get from listening.

Xo, Kelley

Connect with me:

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Casual Sex: To Have or Not to Have? With Rinsha Ballani

This week I’m talking with my dear friend, Rinsha Ballani, about casual sex and what that really means.

Rinsha and I seem to have super different perspectives on this topic: I’ve recently posted about my skepticism around casual sex and she’s been going on a whole sexual exploration journey and having all the casual sex that she desires!

During this episode we talk about how to create intimate spaces with short-term partners, we discuss if our sex and our hearts are connected, and we talk about how to take ownership of your sex life - whether you’re single or in a relationship.

I can’t wait to have you listen!

Rate, review, and share on social if you loved this episode.

Xo, Kelley

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Connect with Rinsha:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rinshaballani/

Have you ever asked yourself the question: “Who should be paying for this date?”

… of course you have! Haven’t we all?!

In this modern dating space, things can be so confusing.

I have some very interesting hypotheses on WHY that is that I’ll share with you on this episode. We’ll also talk about how to navigate dating, create polarity, and have it all just the way you want it.

I can’t wait to hear what you get from listening.

Xo, Kelley

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Are you having fulfilling relationships with men? Is your sex hot and turned on - or average and boring? If you desire a shift in your life, your relationship to the masculine might be a place to look! In this episode, I share all the juicy things I have learned on my journey to loving men, the beauty of masculine and feminine dynamics, and what’s possible for you on the other side when you heal your relationship to the masculine and fully embrace your divine feminine energy.

I’m diving into:

Masculine and feminine dynamics and how the energies can play out in relationships
How our cultural conditioning around men could be holding you back from deeper connections
My dive into modern feminism and what I learned
Why the divine feminine is NOT shitting on men
How I called in my sexy man by healing my relationship to the masculine (and how you can too!)
And more!

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Matt and I are diving into part 2 of our relationship episode! In today’s show, we are getting into all the juicy and vulnerable relationship topics - how we do relationship check-ins (and why!), dominant and submissive archetypes and how they play into our relationship and sex, and if we’ll be together forever! So, get comfortable, drop into your body, and join us for this super intimate and connected conversation.

We’re diving into:

What relationship check-ins are (and why they are such a game-changer!)
The conditioning around what it means to be a man and Matt’s relationship to his masculine
My vulnerability with giving and offering in our partnership and sex (and why it was such an edge for me!)
My first time exploring my submissive archetype with Matt (this one is so juicy!)
Our conversation about being together forever
Where to start if you want to explore submission in your relationship (and what to do if you have some resistance to fully surrendering)
Our sex life, why Matt doesn’t always like to ejaculate during sex, and a book recommendation to learn more about energetic orgasms!
And so much more!

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Ever wonder what a desire-led life looks like inside of a relationship? In today’s episode, I invite my boyfriend and amazing man, Matt Cama, to talk all about our relationship. In part 1 of this conversation, we are giving you a sneak peek at the beginning of our relationship - from our first date, to the monogamy conversation (and our break up!), to ultimately committing to each other. We get vulnerable and honest about what our path looked like and the personal growth work it took along the way.

We’re diving into:

The start of our relationship - from the first date to break-up sex (and everything in between!)
How we met and the kismet timing of me sliding into his DM’s!
The BEST 1st date I’ve ever had (and why there was no kissing)
All the juicy details of attending our first play party together!
The intimate details of our first RBDSM conversation
Expressing my desire to be monogamous with Matt (and his reaction)
Our favorite things about our relationship and sex
And more!

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Today I have a super special episode for you! I invite my amazing sister, Shauna Bode Kase, to give you a sneak peek into our upbringing and talk all things holistic living. Drop in with us as we discuss our abnormal childhood, Shauna’s fascination with all things babies, and the huge impact that being vegan has had on our lives.

We’re diving into:

Our abnormal upbringing and how it has shaped our lives
Why Shauna was sent to Outward Bound in Canada for troubled kids (and the amazing experiences she had there)
Her fascination with babies and becoming a doula!
Why Shauna has chosen the vegan lifestyle for all 3 of her babies (and the impact it has had on their health)
Her journey to health coaching and why she is so passionate about it!
And more!

Connect with Shauna:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shauna_kase/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Is there something you really want - something you know if you say yes to it, it’s going to require you to take an insane leap? In today’s episode, I talk to an incredible women’s life coach and my client, Emily DeBouver, about what the process looks like to finally say yes to your desires and what it really takes to lean in and follow pleasure to create a life by your own deliberate design.

We’re diving into:

Emily’s journey from leaving the grind of the professional dancing industry to hustling in real estate to ultimately following her true desires!
How the trauma and abuse she has suffered has informed how she helps her clients
Why putting desire before logic can get you all the juicy things you want!
Creating a relationship with her father after 7+ years of zero communication
Emily’s decision to move to Bali and pursue a coaching business - despite the fears and self-doubt!
And so much more!

Connect with Emily:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/em.debouver/

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Changing the direction of your life - is it really possible? In today’s episode, I invite yoga teacher, actress, and manifesting queen, Mariana Beckova - to get vulnerable about her journey from severe trauma in her youth to finding her true purpose. We discuss the law of attraction, conditioning around our sexuality as women, and how possible it is to change your path and manifest the things that you really want.

We’re diving into:

The recurring abuse from her childhood and working through the disconnection from her body and trauma that came from it
How the law of attraction has changed Mariana’s life
The harm that porn can cause as sex education
How competition could be holding you back from achieving your dreams goals
The “good girl” complex in the bedroom (and releasing it!)
And so much more!

Connect with Mariana:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marianabeckova/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

We are ALL things. We are brave and afraid, kind and inconsiderate, light and dark. And when we take back those parts of ourselves that we’ve put in the shadows - we get to have more of the things that we want! In today’s episode, I share what shadow work is, why it is so important, and how you can use it to reveal your deepest truths, power, and desires.

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Can you relate to feeling stuck in a toxic relationship? Or maybe you hop from one relationship to the next, never truly feeling fulfilled or connected to the other person? I want you to know this one thing - you are not alone! In today’s episode, I take you behind the scenes of my journey with romantic relationships - releasing myself from a toxic relationship (even though I still felt very connected to her!), why I chose celibacy to find healing, and how you can find deeper connection, better sex, and a loving relationship by putting yourself first.

We’re diving into:

The pain of leaving a toxic relationship (it isn’t easy, but it’s SO worth it!)
Acknowledging our unhealthy relationship patterns so we can release them
Why I chose celibacy to start my healing journey (and what happened when I broke it!)
The BIGGEST lessons I learned while celibate
Why I created a “dating plan” when I re-entered the dating world (and why this is such a GREAT tool!)
The MOST IMPORTANT things that are different in my current relationship
And so much more!

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Following what is true in our hearts isn’t always comfortable. But trusting our desire and working through the fears we have around showing up as our truest selves can lead to massive transformation! In today’s episode, I talk to therapist and psychosomatic mindset coach, Rhaya Lynn, about ways to deepen intimacy and connection in relationships, why noticing our triggers can lead to massive transformation, and how building inner-safety can be the key to unlocking your truest desires.

We’re diving into:

How Rhaya has combined therapy and coaching into her own offerings and a hurdle she had to get over around calling herself a coach
What happened when I expressed an edgy desire to my partner around honest communication
How you could be holding yourself back from deeper intimacy in relationships (and how to remove these barriers!)
Why feeling triggered by someone’s content or ideas can lead you to deeper transformation in your life
How Rhaya and her partner communicate desire for others outside of their relationship (and a tip if you want to bring this up with your partner!)
And so much more!

Connect with Rhaya:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rhayalynnn/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rhayalynn

Website: https://www.rhayalynn.com/rhaya

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Queer. Masculine. Domme. It can be confusing and overwhelming to find and embrace your own identity. And what if it shifts? Do you feel safe to change your mind about how you identify yourself to the world? In today’s episode, I talk to artist and psychosomatic guide Kathryn Rollins, about her ever-evolving relationship to self, the space she holds for others to explore and expand their own consciousness, and her journey to embracing the pleasure and joy of what it is to be human.

We’re diving into:

Kathryn’s journey from being sexually repressed to healing through exploring the consciousness and connection to the body
The significant wisdom she received from her body that propelled her into her work
Why some masculine/feminine energy work isn’t as helpful for queer people dealing with same-sex dynamics (and what she is doing to fill the gap)
Why Kathryn chooses to embody masculine energy in her relationships with women
The higher levels of shame and fear around sharing for queer people and how that affects representation in the self-development space
Why Kathryn is stepping into her dominant masculine energy (and what that means!)
And so much more!

Connect with Kathryn:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathryn.rollins/

Website: https://www.kathrynrollins.com.au/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Do you struggle with doubting yourself? Always striving for more so you can finally feel that sense of worthiness? You are enough - but the lie of perfectionism can lead you away from that one, simple truth. In today’s episode, I talk to coach and yoga teacher Taryn Raine, about her personal journey to healing and how she helps others release self-doubt and step into their truest desires with confidence, clarity, and full self-belief.

We’re diving into:

Taryn’s journey from a dark path at a young age to finding healing through yoga and self development
Why she was having the worst anxiety attacks of her life after excelling in college
How her divorce catapulted her into personal development
The obstacle of perfectionism and how it could be holding you back from your truest desires
How seeking “enoughness” through external validation could be harming your relationships (and how to work through this)
The struggle of toxic positivity and how to shift your mindset around it
A practice that Taryn suggests for her clients with high anxiety
And so much more!

Connect with Taryn:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theremoteyogi/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Masculine and feminine dynamics - it’s a dance! A magical, divine, pleasure-filled dance. In this week’s solo episode, I drop into my feminine and just let the transmission flow. I discuss masculine and feminine dynamics and the magic of manifesting from pleasure, relating to others by surrendering to your own desire, and how fucking from your own pleasure can truly light up your sex life!

I dive into:

The power of feminine magic and manifesting from pleasure
How surrender has played a role in my new relationship (and how my new boyfriend is fulfilling my deep desires!)
Masculine and feminine dynamics and using them to better relate to the people in your life
How to harness your feminine magic to create more connected relationships and sex!
Reclaiming your sexuality to bring more creative power and magic to your life
How being a Pleasure Witch has transformed my life (and how it can change yours too!)
And so much more!

Connect with me:

Join us for the Pleasure Witch Mastermind! https://connectwithkelley.as.me/pleasurewitch

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

We have a special episode for you this week! Tune in for a double dose of pleasure as I am joined by “With Pleasure” podcast host, Aimee Batuski - my Bali roommate, best friend, and fellow intimacy coach. We share all the juicy details of how we integrate our pleasure practices into our daily lives and how you can live a more turned-on and desire-filled life by adopting daily practices of tuning into your own body and getting clear on your deepest desires.

We’re diving into:

Why we have chosen to live life as a practice and the beautiful transformations that have come from it
Releasing the ego around being an expert at everything (and the freedom that comes from being an amateur!)
My morning self-pleasure practice of “peaking” (you only need 5 minutes!)
Why it can be so helpful to set a container for your daily practices
Connecting consciously to our pussies EVERY DAY
Aimee’s daily food practice and how it prepares her nervous system for digestion
The importance of personal responsibility as a practice
Some edges that Aimee and I discovered around expressing our desires to our lovers (and how they were received by the men!)
And so much more!

Connect with Aimee:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/desireonfire

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Today we are telling a different story - one where sex, pleasure, and eroticism are not dirty words. I invite Tamica Wilder, somatic sexologist and erotic educator, to talk about her journey to pleasure and developing the passion for helping other women reclaim their own sexuality. We get deep into the harmful gaps in modern sex education, what it looks like to raise 2 boys in a sex-positive household, and the beauty and power of communication in the bedroom.

We’re diving into:

Tamica’s upbringing in a sex-negative home and how her experiences with sexual abuse inform her teachings and life
Why it is SO IMPORTANT to fill in the “self-gap” in sex education
Releasing the narrative that pleasure is selfish (and the shifts you can make to start believing the opposite!)
How the gaps in sex education can show up for overly sexualized youth
Tamica’s advice for parents when dealing with the early masturbation period (hint: NO SHAME!)
Why having a very awkward conversation can lead you to juicier, hotter sex!
Some helpful tips for communicating your needs with your lover in bed
Reclaiming our voice in the bedroom (especially the “weird” sounds!)
And so much more!

Connect with Tamica:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theorgasmicmama/

Connect with me:

Join my Facebook community, The Magic of Pleasure: https://www.facebook.com/groups/410214960289096

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Are you a woman who longs for true intimacy, romance, and commitment? Do you feel some resistance around admitting it or asking for it? If this sounds like you, then tune in - because this week’s show is just for you!

In today’s episode, I have a powerful conversation with female libido specialist, Elena Rossi, about her personal healing through conscious sexuality and her passion for supporting women in their own healing by getting clear on what they truly desire. We discuss some of the harmful illusions that are sold to women about their own sexuality and how to release the shame around wanting true commitment and connection and yes - even monogamy!

We’re diving into:

The painful sex that led to Elena’s vaginal spasms and how she found healing
Why she feels so strongly about monogamy and the beauty of lovemaking
How modern sexuality might be holding you back from your truest desires
Our culture of consumerism and how this plays into dating in the modern world
Elena’s advice for dealing with online haters
The difference between mature monogamy and immature monogamy
How your “pink pussy glasses” might be keeping you stuck in a dating/love rut
Elena’s BIGGEST advice if you are dating and seeking a long-term commitment
Some tips to figure out if it’s the right time to have sex with the person you are dating
Her book about anal sex (and the real reasons women avoid it!)
And so much more!

Connect with Elena:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_yoni_empire/

Buy her ebook called Wide Open (Use code ‘kelley’ at checkout for a $6 discount): https://theyoniempire.com/product/500-revealing-questions-for-lovers-to-deepen-sexual-desire-ebook/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

When desire calls, when it’s scary, when it doesn’t make sense...take the call anyway! Following our desire can be super confronting, but finding out who we are as erotic beings and prioritizing our pleasure and sex life can change EVERYTHING. In today’s episode, I talk with the amazing Julia, AKA Magic JuJu, about her sexual journey - from her dependency on vibrators, to finding a partner who lit her up sexually - and the power it can have on your life to release the shame around sex and embrace the nourishing sex life you deserve!

We’re diving into:

How to become a walking, radiating orgasm by embracing your erotic being
Julia’s yearning to be sexually expressed and why she paid extra attention to her pussy during this time
How she called in her current (amazing!) lover by setting specific intentions with the universe
Why she communicated with her lover BEFORE they got in the bedroom (and how to set up experiences so you can have the mind-blowing sex you desire!)
Julia’s powerful sexual hunger and the desires she followed to feed it
The things that prioritizing your pleasure and sex life can actually manifest into your life
A BIG hurdle to becoming sexually free (and how you can bust through this!)
Why she prioritized SOBER sexual experiences
What a clitoris looks like and why it matters for your pleasure!
And so much more!

Connect with Julia AKA Magic JuJu:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/magic__juju/

Work with her: https://linktr.ee/magicjuju

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

We have a lot of conditioning around sexuality and the masculine. If we focus only on his pleasure, what does it mean for our own desires? In today’s episode, I invite intimacy and relationship guide, Minty Nguyen, to talk about her journey to healing her sexual shame and her passion for leading lingam massage workshops. We discuss honoring the masculine through sacred sexuality and reveal all the tips and tricks to pleasing your man while empowering yourself through the harnessing of your own sexual energy.

We’re diving into:

Minty’s journey to guiding women through cock massage
Healing sexual shame and how to connect to your sacred sexuality
Why sexuality is NOT just about pleasure (and all the things it actually is about!)
What is truly missing from porn and how it might be playing into your sex life
Why it is so important to heal our view of the masculine (and how lingam massage can help!)
A story from Minty about her very first lingam massage
Some practical advice if you want to try lingam massage with a partner
The 2 MOST IMPORTANT keys to a successful lingam massage
What “blue balls” really means
Some advice about after-care following a lingam massage
Why it is possible for a man to have a full-body orgasm when NOT erect!
And so much more!

Connect with Minty:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themintysage/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Do you feel like you give your all in relationships and still don’t receive what you crave and deserve? Finding real, true love can seem like an elusive concept, but it’s possible to find it - to love ourselves AND someone else! In today’s episode, I invite self-worth coach Stacy Doreen Trujeque to share her journey to finding self-worth and ultimately real love. We discuss how discovering your truth and the transformation that comes from healing your wounds can unleash the true goddess within and prepare you for the love you deserve.

We’re diving into:

Stacy’s past relationships and how she moved on from the pain
The catalyst for her deep dive into self-development
How to shift out of the post-relationship regret phase
Stacy’s advice if you are single and have a fear of stepping into dating again
Why she was looking for safety and protection in her partners (and how this manifested in the relationships)
A BIG myth about relationships (and why this matters for you and your partner!)
How you can take the trauma you have been through and turn it into a gift
And so much more!

Connect with Stacy:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stacydoreen/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

If your dreams seem really far away or you’re feeling unfulfilled and stuck - you are not alone. Truth is, if you leave space for them to reveal themselves, your dreams are much closer than you think! In today’s episode, I reflect on this last year and my journey from an unaligned path and toxic relationship to finding healing through deep spiritual work and following my truest desires.

I dive into:

The deep inner work I did during 2020 and all it brought to my life and business
Toxic relationship dynamics and releasing myself from codependency
My decision to move back to Chicago and the BIGGEST shifts I made to start my transformation
How following my desires changed EVERYTHING for me in 2020
The 1st desire I declared for 2020 and how it manifested
How a short visit to Bali turned into a long-term stay and the start of my business!
Finding stability and fulfillment in my life and business and the 3 MOST IMPORTANT steps it took to get there
And more!

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

What if sharing your deepest, darkest secret was the ticket to taking the next step in your life? In today’s episode, I invite heart-centered business coach Shoshanna Raven on the show to talk about her powerful journey to self-worth, deciding that there are NO rules, and how you can start living a life that is rooted in truth by releasing limiting beliefs and owning ALL the beautiful parts of yourself.

We’re diving into:

Harnessing the power of vulnerability and what it did for Shoshanna’s life and business
Her herpes diagnosis and the decision to talk about it publicly
How you can transcend your own story by doing this ONE thing
Looking for outside validation and releasing stories around what it means to be successful
Freeing ourselves from shame around money, sex, and free expression (and how Shoshanna successfully shifted her mindset around money)
The importance of releasing the grip in our relationships (and how she did this with her current partner Miles)
Committing to the process INSTEAD of the outcome
And so much more!

Connect with Shoshanna:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shoshanna_raven/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Have you ever dated someone who hated your friends? Or vice versa? If you’ve been caught having to choose between friends and lovers before, you’re going to love this episode! Today I’m joined by my amazing friend, Aimee Batuski. Aimee is a pleasure and intimacy expert who works with women on speaking and living their truths, and prioritizing their pleasure (inside and outside of the bedroom!) Join us as we dive into her work, life, and our friendship (from soul sisters to our friendship breakup and back again!)

We’re digging into:

The relationship that caused our breakup
Why friendship breakups can be worse than relationship breakups
The BIGGEST lesson Aimee learned from therapy during our friendship breakup and how it changed the way she worked through it
How I started to choose myself again
The mistake you may be making in your friendship that isn’t serving either of you (and how to shift it)
What it looked like to step into the feminine energy work
The ONE thing that was missing from our personal growth journeys
My experience going through Desire on Fire (it changed everything for me!) and the biggest takeaways I had
The new way of looking at masculine vs feminine energy that will help you understand it more deeply
Aimee’s clients most common fear and her BEST piece of advice for them
The ONE thing that is required for rapid change
And more!

Connect with Aimee:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Join the Desire on Fire community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/desireonfire

Listen to Aimee’s podcast, With Pleasure

Get in on the next Pleasure Challenge in January 2021 (and get it for FREE with the code: pleasure) https://www.thepleasurechallenge.com

If you’re ready to break the conditioning and shame around your periods and start stepping into the amazing power that comes with understanding and working with your cycle, you’re going to love this episode! Listen in as I’m joined by Charlotte Emma Johnston —an intuitive healer helping women connect with their intuitive power, divine feminine nature and ancient womb wisdom to create the life they were meant to live — to explore this ancient womb wisdom to help you find the magic and succeed in your life in a beautiful, flowy, and feminine way.

We’re diving into:

How Charlotte got into womb work and how it triggered her own healing journey
The surprisingly simple herb that helped her get her periods back after YEARS of suffering from irregular periods and cystic acne
How she lives in touch with her cycle
The time of the month when Charlotte channels the best energy for podcasts, interviews, and speaking engagements
Why she feels following the moon cycles for your energy ISN’T the best, and what to do instead to sink into your own energies optimally
What the seasons have to do with your period and how to sync your schedule to your cycle (and where to start!)
Charlotte’s favorite method for non-hormonal birth control
Why she decided to become celibate (and how long it’s been!)
Shadow work — what it is and why it’s so important
How Charlotte practices blood rituals and pleasure rituals
And so much more!

Connect with Charlotte:

IG: https://instagram.com/charlotteemmajohnston

Website: www.charlotteemmajohnston.com

Connect with Kelley:

IG: https://instagram.com/kelleymbode

FB: https://facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Ready for the best relationships, sex, and life you’ve ever had? Hell yeah, you are! I’m so excited to show you how and have you here for the pilot episode of The Best You’ve Ever Had podcast, where I’m diving into the inspiration behind the podcast, how I’ll be bringing juiciness into wellness and personal growth work, and how to live your best life through the compass of desire. Get ready for this epic, epic, sexy ride!

On today’s episode I’m sharing:

The healing of past wounds that happened in 2020
What it was like to start a business in the craziness of 2020
How to work through fears around starting something and let your desire voice overcome your fear voice
What 2020 has been all about
Why social media can be an important area of support for you and the power of community
What I think can be brought into the same plane as growth work
And more!

Connect with me on:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90