The Life Is Relationship Podcast: Recent Episodes
Jacqueline Vanderpuye
The life is relationship podcasts is conversations about guess what: relationships. About the challenges, we face in our fundamental relationships with parents, siblings, and family members. We also delve into the issues we can face in the relationships with our partners, work colleagues, and friends, etc, and how we can heal all these relationships so we can lead more loving, fulfilling lives.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, it's rather a sign of great strength. Being able to ask for the help shows your humanity and vulnerability. Everyone needs someone at some point on their life journey.
Put pride and ego aside and share your problem with someone. It can sometimes feel that you are alone or that you have to deal with your problem by yourself, but you are not alone, you will find others in the same situation as you are, if you have the courage to share your problem. Someone will be willing to help you if you reach out.
There are no perfect relationships! If you think there are, you will be terribly disappointed. Relationships need commitment and work. Your relationship is not bad because you argue or have disagreements, disagreements are quite normal, the key is how long does it take you to come back to balance after an argument? When you are committed to your partner, you can solve any problem together. I believe that there are no perfect relationship, because there are no perfect people. Everyone comes to the relationship with something, with their own set of issues. Each person in the relationship is responsible for doing the work needed to heal those issues. So the relationships most likely to work will be those relationships where both partners are making conscious efforts to work on themselves.
Are you a better person because of the title you hold? Are you happier, do you have the answers to life's questions or mysteries because of your title? These are some of the questions I tackle in this podcast episode.
In life we give so much of our power away to people who have titles that are perceived to be important. These titles are what society perceives to be valuable. Some titles have more value than others and those who hold these titles are treated differently because of their title.
However, are these people better than anyone else? Are they happier, more compassionate, more loving and caring than the rest of us? I don't think so!
Listen to the full podcast to get more of my insights on this subject.
How can you live your most authentic life? But before we dive in, we must first ask the question: What does authenticity mean? Well for me authenticity means being as honest with yourself as you possibly can about all aspects of your life and your self. Authenticity also means acceptance of yourself. To be truly authentic means you have to have accepted who you are, where you are in life, your status, background, history, where you come from, where you live etc etc...
If you're hiding and are ashamed of any of these parameters, then you may have to start creating lies about one or more of these factors. You first start lying outside of yourself about the thing you are ashamed of by lying to friends, colleagues and society. You then justify the lies by reasoning or lying to yourself about them. And so the cycle continues.
Listen to the full podcast to learn more.
The old year is over and the new year is now underway, so I want to ask the question: What would you like to change in your life in 2023? Did you make New Year's resolutions that have already gone by the way side?
Well, if that's the case, I think a good place for you to start if you want to make lasting changes, would be to try to understand what the hindrances are that are stopping you from making the changes you long for. Changing something in your life that isn't working requires patience, persistence and consistent effort. When you take small, but consistent steps towards your goal, you will surely be successful.
Forgiveness is the best gift you can give yourself. Learning to forgive is not for the benefit of the other, but rather for your benefit. Forgiveness releases and free's you, so practice forgiveness, so you can live your life in lightness and love.
You can think of your intuition as your inner knowing or 6th sense. It's the little voice that nudges you when you're doing something wrong, when you're going in the wrong direction and even when you're going in the right direction. Learning to listen and trust this inner knowing, opens up a whole new world of possibilities.
When you heal your inner child, life becomes more joyful. Discovering who and what your inner child is, is a process. A process that takes you back to your childhood, to the child you left behind. That child is still within you. Healing this wounded child gives space for your playful side to flourish, giving you the ability to laugh without limitations or inhibitions.
The first step in healing your relationships is to heal the relationship with yourself because everything starts with you. Through healing the relationship with yourself, you give space for the other relationships in your life to heal. Take the time to get to know yourself, love yourself, and see how this positively impacts the way you show up in your relationship with others.
Our ability to manifest what we want lies in the now.
What does being in the "Now" mean? Well for me it means bringing your mind and body into sync, so when the body is doing an action, the mind also participates in the action the body is doing, rather than wandering into the past or the future. Being in the now is where all opportunities lie, so the more we can live in the now, the less conflict we experience and the more joy we feel.
Do you love yourself? If not why? Loving yourself is fundamental to your being able to love someone else. For me loving yourself is about being present for yourself, giving to yourself, respecting and trusting yourself, looking after your health and wellbeing. Loving yourself means being everything to yourself that you expect a partner to be for you, does that make sense?
You can learn more by listening to the full podcast.
The wealth of benefits I've gained from Vipassana meditation, which is silent meditation, are invaluable. I am certainly calmer, more relaxed, able to deal with life's challenges in a more balanced way than I was before. I am much more tolerant of myself and others.
I've discovered that deep silence gives the body an opportunity to release its traumas. Allowing the body to release these traumas, without reacting, will hugely affect the way you react to stress and unwanted external stimuli in your daily life. You too can become more peaceful and calm, which is something we would all like to be, right? Why not give it a try?
Having periods of time where we give ourselves the gift of silence is both important and beneficial as it allows us to better know the workings of our inner world. Silence gives us the opportunity to work through our issues, which leads to us knowing ourselves better.
Why is it important to maintain our connection with one another? Well because people need people. We don't thrive when we feel isolated, lonely, or alone. We are our best selves when we feel connected with family, friends, and society as a whole. When we are in need, we have to have the courage to ask for help and not be afraid of being a burden. Everyone needs somebody at some point in time. Let us all open our hearts to helping each other.
How do we stay positive when everything around us is changing? We have to look to ourselves and trust in the power of the universe. Surround ourselves with positive people and do the things that help to keep us feeling good about life, that help us to see the good thats happening all around us. Change is inevitable, what's important is how we deal with the changes that present themselves.
What is the Law of Attraction and why is knowing about this important? How do your thoughts and beliefs impact your life. How do you create the life you really want? Listen to this episode to learn more.
What is the inner world? What is the outer world? Why is knowing about these worlds important? How do these worlds impact our lives? These questions and more are answered in this episode.
Everything is perfect in the present moment. In the present moment, there is no fear. When we get in touch with our fear it tells its story. When we listen to that fear, it vanishes. This quote from Sri Bhagavan is very powerful because it gives us a simple yet tangible tool, that helps us to be free of our fears. Sit with your eyes closed and take the time to listen to your fear and let it tell you its story, you may be surprised.
These are difficult times we are living in arent they? Many of us are experiencing some levels of fear connected with the situation in the world that we may perhaps have difficulty dealing with. This second episode of The Life Is Relationship Podcasts explores what we can do to help ourselves to confront and face our fears.
This is the first episode of The Life Is Relationship podcast. I decided to give my podcast this title, because of a teaching I received from my spiritual teacher Sri Bhagavan of Oneness University in India, now known as O and O Academy. Sri Bhagavan says that we as humans only come to life due to the relationships in our lives—that without relationships, we would have no life at all. I totally believe this teaching to be true and have come to value all the relationships I've had in the past as well as the relationships I have now, even those that have been difficult or challenging.
Think about it, what would the quality of your life be without relationships? Could you really enjoy your life without relationships? I think life wouldn't be very exciting, would it? Well, of all the relationships we have in our lives, the fundamental relationships we have with our parents are the most important, but they can also potentially be the most challenging for us.
By healing these relationships, we can heal a lot of the pervading issues we face in our lives. Therefore this first episode of The Life Is Relationship podcast is dedicated to looking at the relationships we have with our parents and looks at how we can start to heal these relationships.