Life Path Healings with Dr. Marie: Recent Episodes
Dr. Marie Feuer / Life Path Healings
What does it mean to have a Spiritual Practice and to consciously be on a Spiritual Path? Listen in for discussions on being an earthling in this incarnation while still recognizing you are an evolving soul.
We often say this to toddlers but many adults need to hear this as well. Passive aggressive people tend to use behaviors to punish or manipulate others. And many people simply don't have the tools to learn how to start participating in relationships, groups, and with their own self-care because they freeze up or dissociate...and can't talk . Sometimes people go to therapy or other kinds of healing modalities and and it takes them 1 to 2 years to be able to start talking!! There are ways to challenge yourself with little baby steps so it doesn't have to take years for you to learn how to be able to show up more fully in your own life.
I think the title says it all. I was in adult children of alcoholics for 15 years solid every week sometimes more than once a week. I was a sponsor and I sponsored and I did all the steps and I can't say enough good about the program. I've also been in codependence anonymous went to Al-Anon just to learn what that experience was like for other people cuz it wasn't my experience so much. Also went to AA because I moved into an area field with alcoholics and I needed to learn more about their experience. I tell you all this because I want you to understand I'm not just some kind of spiritual new age woo woo person while I am also very much a spiritual woo woo person. All the work on psychology and developing the self learning people skills etc only made my ability to handle the mystical arts, energy, working with spirits and entities so much better. I want to encourage you to work on both ends. The mystical spiritual and the psychological earth plane. I hope you find this podcast interesting possibly helpful. If you'd like to do some work with me privately or in groups check out my social media for upcoming schedules and my website once it's back up and running. I just changed hosts.
Questions and answers. I like to know who's helping me. What's their background? What have they been through? What do they believe? How do they sound and how do they feel when I'm listening to them. I'm hoping that this episode will help you to get to know more about me and my work
Question and answer session with Fabian and Dr Marie. All material here is specific to Dr Marie's practice. It is not a methodology or rules that you can apply like peanut butter to anything else. The practice at Life Path Healings is one where Dr Marie helps each person find their own way of connecting with the spiritual energies that they can work with to assist them with their own life as well as help others.
Thoughts on how to live this life from the perspective of reincarnation. As usual no production value I'm on a walk with the dogs.
Emotional addictions and behavioral addictions can be even harder to let go of and recover from and readjust your energy around then some physical addictions. One of the hardest parts is even realizing how addicted you are to the coping mechanisms that used to save your life and that are now harming your life. If you have a topic you're interested in hearing about or you'd like to participate in a podcast session please message me.
There are so many tools out there and we are in the age of information overload. Where do you begin? Where does it end? Here are some basic thoughts on using tools, living with the tools and learning how to learn..
What is mental health and what is mental illness? And doesn't matter whether we label it or not?Take another wandering journey with Dr Marie and Katie.If you're interested and doing a podcast with Dr Marie and getting your questions answered please contact us.
If you'd like to do a podcast where you ask me questions I would love it I find it very hard to record by myself. Feel free to contact me through my website or Instagram or Facebook messaging
I always struggled with the idea of being kind because typically I was kind at the expense of myself I would put myself last. I would overgive. I would be overly empathetic and it cost me jobs, friendships, business, and more. I had to redefine kindness for myself given my codependent over giving tendencies. I hope this helps all those sweet spiritual people who are let people run over them in the name of being a good spiritual person.
Angie used to be in Yucaipa classes traveling an hour to get here until she moved to the east coast. We haven't spoken in quite a while but she volunteered to do a podcast and we talk about everything from unicorns to talking fish to Trump and self healing. If you'd like to do a podcast with Dr Marie let me know. This is not a professional recording. You will find flaws at one point I think we were cut off as the app stopped working and you might hear some background noises. I don't have introductory music and I don't have a producer. Just real life and an app. ππ·β€οΈ
A wonderful session full of tech glitches, with long time student Katie. Here you can hear more of the style of the thoughts and teachings at LPH. This can help you decide if this style of honesty, humor and sometimes blunt talk is for you..... or not!
But remember, the primary work of Dr Marie is ENERGY and that cannot be described or experienced or even fully understood through listening to a podcast !! If you would like to do a pod with Dr. Marie, let us know !!
I got tired of talking to myself so I have been inviting people to have dialogues with me. I don't even know how to frame the content of the session and I may not be able to frame the content of future sessions I'll have to think about that. If you'd like to be someone recorded while having a dialogue with me please let me know. I'll have to figure out how to do it remotely if you're not close by but I'm sure it can be done. And I don't go for professional production on purpose because I'm not polished and perfect and I'm not into marketing I'm into sharing. So I want my podcast to be as imperfect and as messy as I am and maybe also perhaps I'm just lazy lol. You will find all of my recordings have flaws in them just like me. I hope you find these dialogues helpful, interesting, giving a boost to your curiosity about your own life. Journey on.Dr Marie
So many of us torture ourselves with made up measurements of perfectionism. We do want to try and do our best. How do you do that without getting caught in the trap of betraying yourself and even the world around you in the name of perfectionism?
Mariefeuer@gmail.com. MarieFeuer.Org. ππ· if you would like to take advantage of one free session 30 to 45 minutes long you must email me with your full name at Birth the one on your birth certificate and your birth date. Then tell me when you are typically available for appointments and what time zone you live in. And finally tell me if you would prefer to use zoom or Skype or if you have some other method this has to be a video session not an audio only session.
Life Path Healings offers weekly classes so you can experience energetic healings and expansions and private sessions for personal growth and developing spiritual gifts
What does this even mean LOL well you'll just have to listen to find out. Hope to see you at Life Path Healings
Everything you learn you have to apply it to yourself specifically you cannot take it as a rule
You can't protect yourself if you don't know the self. An animal care we have a saying that you need to learn species appropriate love. That means you need to know the species well enough to give it the kind of love that is for them not for you. Well the same is true for you in order to give yourself I love you need you have to learn about yourself first otherwise you're just going to repeat what other people told you to do whether it's appropriate or not for you
My Teacher will be in Yucaipa October 1st and 2nd 2022. I'm hoping this episode will give you a little bit of the flavor. If you'd like to attend the workshop is $325 cash or check only. If you have any questions please do not hesitate to contact me via text phone or Messengers
In person classes for Spiritual Evolution and personal growth have resumed at Life Path Healings Yucaipa California. Wednesday nights 6:30. Contact Dr Marie RSVP or if you have any questions
Detachment is a practice and it is a state of being that is granted it is not a state of being that we choose and implement it is the result of our own inner work and comes like a state of grace
We will be off line for about 3 weeks hope to see you at Life Path Healings and hope you're having a great summer.
Dr Marie at Life Path Healings has a PhD in Psychology and is a clairvoyant a shaman an energy healer. Located in Yucaipa California she offers private sessions as well as classes and workshops. Visit her website for more details
With so much information available these days lots of people have turned to the self-help movement. What is it and what are the benefits of it and what are some of the limitations?
The previous podcast talks about how being a co-dependent adversely affects others as well as yourself. Many codependents will not take on healing because after all it's just about them and they don't matter .....that's the thinking of a co-dependent. So by looking at the evil side of codependency and the harm it can cause other sometimes that helps people to get into recovered. No doubt some people will take that podcast is victim shaming and blaming. So to balance that out this is about the pain the internal pain a co-dependent experiences before waking up and starting to get into recovery.
Codependency is such a benefit to so many people. To have an over Giver in your life most people want to take advantage of that rather than see you change to be more balanced. We all want alcoholics to stop drinking but very few people want a codependent to stop over giving. Looking at the Dark Side of alcoholism people want to stop drinking. Well we are going to look at the Dark Side of codependency and hopefully you will want to stop over giving and get more in balance with your coping skills and self-care as well as helping other people.
We now have Zoom classes as well as in person and private session and be done online as well as in person. Do you have questions you'd like to hear answered and a podcast don't hesitate to send. And used every private message Instagram Facebook texting or email in all available on my website
It's estimated there are five to seven thousand cults in North America at this time. Yikes. Why do people join an organization that looks good and seems to provide answers to life and life's problems.... and then stick with it as it turns into a cult or maybe it was from the beginning but it just didn't look like it. Are you a potential cult member? Take a listen
Just when you think either leave or enhance your life and fill it with love this is if you can find me met this person what if it's a giant red spot
Don't forget I rely on your questions to keep this podcast going. Please keep sending them in
Life Path Healings office private sessions as well as classes and workshops. Many are offered now on Zoom. Hope to see you there.
Thanks for sending in questions keep doing it. We now have zoom classes and I'm starting to send out emails again with little things to think about. Drop me a line through Facebook or Instagram if you'd like to be on the email list
Why do we get readings and what's the point of remedies? Please keep submitting questions and we have Zoom classes now..... on Wednesday evenings for 2 hours 6:30 Pacific Time $36. And some of them are 7 a.m. Sunday time for people East Coast or Europe. Full schedule is on our website on the classes page https://mariefeuer.org/classes/ and you can find the schedule here also register and pay buytickets/lifepathhealings/
I hope people listening keep sending in questions because I have run out of topics on my own. You can send questions via Facebook or Instagram or going my website and text me via my phone number and there's also a get in touch with form that you can use. Thanks to all who have submitted questions. You can find our full schedule of events online and in-person here https://buytickets.at/lifepathhealings
When do we work with somebody or do we not? How do we practice newly-learned vulnerability? Thanks to the questions submitted that created this podcast and please keep the questions coming.
If you want to come to Life Path Healings the full schedule both Zoom classes which arr new and in-person are now posted on our website... and the link can be found on our Facebook page as well as Instagram page. And we now have a sign up if you'd like to receive text messages to remind you of upcoming events. Send LPH (all caps) to 866-806-5033.
Who you are and how you live effects everyone in your life. Good news and bad news!. Now have online Zoom events happening ....check the website for upcoming dates!!
Figuring out how to make choices and decisions that are good for you and how to not get obsessed with being correct all the time it's a bit of a complex topic. Take a listen. And please send questions for podcast topics
Starting out on your spiritual path. My audio ran out at one point so there is a second short section added on hope it works! Please keep sending your questions it really helps. You can text me via my website or message me through Facebook or Instagram
Most of us set goals in order to get our self motivated but then we get trapped and being addicted to the outcome and very often ignoring the process and the journey itself and that can get us in a lot of trouble.
Do you turn other people into your superheroes instead of cultivating yourself to become your own superhero? Take a listen
Thanks for sending in questions and keep them coming they're really helping. Sending you a podcast from a sunny day on my back lawn with the new puppy Hoshi and her big sister who picked her out Pia.
Detachment... what is it and how do you get there. Keep sending those questions. They're really helpful
Thank you to all who have given me questions keep them coming it's really helpful. You can submit them via email or text information is on my website you can also message me through Facebook and Instagram accounts called Life Path Healings
Great questions and I need more of them feel free to contact me with topics and ideas that you would like to hear talked about
I'm so excited I asked her some questions to have material to talk about on this podcast and I got some! I hope I get more thank you all for sending them in.
I'm running out of things to talk about. All I want to do is keep telling everybody about all the great podcasts I'm listening to and all the great information that's out there. So I'm making a request that people send me questions they like answered or topics they like to hear about. Yours in the journey
Many people are against medication because of their ego. It's cool to drink drug shop Etc but not cool to take meds that actually are proven to help stabilize your mood. I'm not saying I'm Pro medication but I'm also not anti. Many young people these days tell me with great pride that they have quote tried everything but no they are depressed or some other or diagnosis and their medications work miracles. Meaning they can get on with what they want to do in their life without having to solve any interpersonal or intra personal problems.
Being on a Spiritual Path means learning. You can learn how you learn by observing your current lifestyle and your choices. Sounds so simple no? But it isn't. Take a listen
So many people have a picture in their mind of a spiritual life It's being something austere. There are many stereotypes around the idea of living a spiritual life. But what does it really look like In modern day society?
If you're a codependent or you have low self esteem and your people pleaser.... You will often do nice things for other people or animals or the planet just to get attention and validation.. Sometimes you'll do it for your family you'll be the one that throws the party you'll be the 1 that is fun to bring the grandkids to all so you can get validation. Out of balance it is a form of narcissism.. Is it harmful? Well mostly to the person who's doing it.. But it can be harmful to others who get close to you and find out you're not really the person you always pretend to be in public in order to win validation and attention.
People who are rude or even aggressive and lack respect unless they are a narcissist or a malignant narcissist typically don't show respect because they don't have respect for their own self or their own path. And in the West we don't teach respect anymore. We teach celebrity. It doesn't mean we put up with disrespect it means we need to teach it. And that often means strong boundaries and accounts of consequences.. There's a little bit of noise on this recording in the beginning my apologies.. But hope you find it helpful anyway
Detachment is like grace it is granted to you through your spiritual practice. Yes it takes a little bit of left brain effort as well. Listen and
Buying another gym membership, buying more essential oils, using war crystal's, and other words constantly adding in more things to try to fix you fix your problems fix your life and make you feel better rarely works. What matters is how you do what whatever work you do.. Everything can be done poorly poorly and in a phony or lazy fashion . And the smallest thing that can be done mindfully carefully and with the sacred in mind
It's a bit of an ethical dilemma.. When people come to get healed by someone they think as special and all they do is lie and present do you keep quiet and take their money? Or do you push a little bit for them to become honest or tell them to come back after they've practiced being honest somewhere elet's get somewhere else because until then they're really wasting their money. What do you think?
What is it? Does it work Or is it a bunch of new age fluff that makes you go back over and over to endless workshops and by endless new age toys?
Life is not consistent and you are not a one dimensional being. Being spiritual doesn't mean that you only hang out with yoga folks or vegan folks or meditators or meditators. Being spiritual in many Eastern paths means bringing it into your world. You become an influencer because you bring your practice our practice into places where most people to where most people are not exposed. It is also part of your practice to learn to be with many different kinds of people will not compromise in yourself or self betraying. This doesn't mean that you have to be inappropriately honest to the wrong people either. Take a listen hope to see you at Life Path Heallings
Many wounded people are very psychic and clairvoyant. They had to be as children so they could sense when their drunk or abusive parent was coming home and whether or not they needed to hide or not. The problem with this is as an adult with a lot of psychic talent if you haven't worked on your wounds your wounded self will be leading your intuition and you will be guided by a lot of irrational magical thinking. Listen in
If you have this even to the slightest degree it can be torturous. Underneath It All our control issues and under control issues is fear... And at the bottom of that there's a lack of faith and trust both in yourself and in spirit. It's not the worst condition to have as a little bit of perfectionism usually means that someone will do a good job but if it's ruling your choices instead of being a tool that you use it can be exhausting as well as anxiety producing
We're in the era where people learn to talk very glibly and articulately about being codependent or their attachment styles or they spew out the right words about self-care and mindfulness. Their mouths are moving but they are not internalizing or synthesizing or even practicing all the language they are learning. Some people are using all of the vocabulary and hypnos of pop psychology to create a false sense of belonging to a community. It's the howl of implementation that makes all the difference between mocking up recovery and using presentation to feel like you belong versus walking a Path.
A lot of spiritual people new age people and maybe just lazy people don't like to use their left brain. But it isn't a mistake that we have a left brain. Like yin and yang left brain and right brain, science and magic go together and learning to use both in balance is an art necessary for living a good life and implementing self-care
Cults, new age religions, lazy educators create factory learning. One fits all methodology one fits all trainings that promise you the same outcomes no matter who you are and if you don't get the outcome it's your fault. But life is not consistent like that. The weather is not consistent your food is not consistent. The one thing that is consistent about life is change. And learning how to learn while being resilient and coping with change is how one becomes a healthy balanced human being with mature skills. If you keep looking for a Teacher who is consistent, who will give you the answers without you having to work or figure things out for yourself, you are looking for a cult, you are looking for someone to do your own emotional labor.
No matter how good a teyacher you might be working with.... no matter what great books you're reading or podcast you're listening to.... without application, without practice, it's information without wisdom. Being a learner is a lifestyle....a choice. Being a learner means you are willing to make mistakes and work through all the complex feelings that come up when you feel you have made a mistake. Being a learner also means that your life is incredibly rich and complex and so much fun.
You don't have to be free of shame and remorse or free of low self-esteem or even self-hatred in order to be proud of yourself. We humans can hold more than one emotion at a time and we usually do. You can work on becoming more of the person you want to be while still processing some of the things in your past or present that make you feel bad about yourself. Both can go on at the same time and they usually do unless you get stuck in the swamp of self-hatred.
You can stop participating in people's dysfunctional patterns. Stop being the person they want you to be change the relationship to being more of your authentic self with that person. This is a complex and very personal series of choices and a lot of it is related to having the privilege of being able to show up as an authentic person. But to some degree all of us have this option.... To become the unperson and shift the relationship to a healthier dynamic
Lots of people going to healing and want to be told who they are. They want to be told what sign they are.... What attachment disorder they might have or if they're new age their gift and their talent and their purpose. By the way wanting to be told all of this makes you a perfect candidate to be a cult member. Finding out who you are and being in a relationship with yourself is one of the most rewarding purposes talent gift Journey you could ever have. But it means you have to walk the Path.
A very brief and very surface discussion about sex and sexuality. Sex is energy and talking about energy is like talking about eating a meal as compared to eating a meal. To really work on sexuality one needs to work with sexual energies and that means working with the sex therapist or your partner or partners or a tantric worker which are almost impossible to find and which most westerners can't handle. But at least this brief discussion with my perspective on it might be a little bit helpful
So many people want to make a living as a Healer. In fact the new age industry is very seductive and telling you that you could pay a couple of thousand dollars for some workshops and now you can be a Healer. But what does it really mean to be a Healer and why do you have to make a living at it? Perhaps that's an ego trip. Every day of your life you can choose to be a Healer or someone who makes life more difficult for other people because you are really coming from your wounded self not from Spirit.
So many people have internalized this fantasy of what it should look like to be "successful" as a spiritual person. And then when you don't meet those expectations you feel shame. This is why so many people present a false toxic positive version of who they are and how their life is going. Add to that the pressure of social media and instead of growth what you have is posturing and self deceit. This creates a life of extreme loneliness and depression not to mention the anxiety that one will feel because they are afraid they are a fraud.
We're in a culture that worships success stories. We don't like hearing how hard it is especially if there's not a spectacular outcome. And other than 12-step meetings and a therapist office there is no place to process the dark matter in your life. But is Shadow work really dark matter? Listening
We talk a lot about being authentic and being vulnerable but we also live in a society where the majority of people are not involved in waking up, self growth, consciousness, psychology, spirituality ....the list goes on. Therefore there are politics to showing your authentic self based on gender class race your job your position in your job so many factors to consider. Take a listen.
I'm not sure people know what Serenity really is. I think the stereotype concept is that you're really chill kind of like when you're on barbiturates or heroin. But to me serenity is a heightened state of awareness and mindfulness that allows you to live your life from a place of feeling intimately safe, strong, and full of Faith... both in yourself and spirit.
You don't realize it but it's probably true that you work very hard at beating yourself up, terrorizing yourself, and convincing yourself that you've done everything wrong or a lot of things wrong. That is cultivating self-terrorism. This podcast is about cultivating Joy.Iit's the same amount of effort.... once you have put time and energy into creating a new habit. And that is a little bit of the hard part or the tricky part. Have a listen. ππΌπ
We all get stuck but for some reason the reaction to being stuck is that you've done something wrong or you're a failure and then you beat the crap out of yourself. There's another way to look at being stuck. It could actually be a sign that you're making great progress that you're on the edge of a giant change for the better. Sounds outrageous? Listen in
Giving seems completely unrelated to self-respect. But if you don't respect yourself what can you possibly give to others or what can you give to yourself. Listen in and join us at Life Path Healings.
What's trending now is being honest authentic and vulnerable but it is a complicated practice not as simple as is presented at least in my opinion especially if you are already an outlier meaning an ethnicity or a person of color or a non-binary gender person. You are already then at risk and to be your true self can offer me and losing your job or even physical danger. If you come from a dysfunctional family your concept of honesty and authenticity will be severely distorted. Listen in and consider some of the ideas presented here.
Respect is related to self-respect and self-respect is self care. How is this related to giving? You'll find out.
This is a journey and a process and after a while it is a lifestyle. Finding your Self is not about becoming more self-absorbed and self-indulgent. It is about becoming more fully alive, more functional, feeling safe in life and being able to receive and participate more in the Spiritual Magic that is now available to you because you have become you
This is the title of the holistic psychologist book and I love her work. But not everybody is self-driven and can do work online and not everybody can take generic advice and generic exercises and make them specific to their own life and their own growth. Some people have been debilitated by their parents and or the educational system and are so wounded that they literally cannot take the first steps to work on themselves. This is not a criticism this is an honest assessment that one has to make for themselves. There is no shame and working with someone else there is no shame in accepting help and guidance. I hope this podcast gives you some small tools to get started.
Being a good person does not mean that you do public acts in the public eye so that everybody notices how great you are. Being a good person means performing private intimate Acts for yourself that make you proud of who You are ...respect to you are and in fact you become your own superhero.
Your everyday choices will lead you to a life of learning and magic.... or they can lead you into the mosh pit. Harry Potter which means you attend Hogwarts, or muggle land. ππΌπ·
Addicts behave like addicts. People pleasing addicts are a little bit harder because others enjoy having people pleasers around. But like all addicts if you're a people pleaser you will spend most of your time manipulating everybody's impression about you and coming off as a very false and inauthentic person. This does tremendous damage to the family not to mention to the Self. With chemical addictions people will often finally speak up but it's very hard to prove people pleasing therefore it is much harder for a people pleaser to get into recovery.
Is it depression? Or maybe you just never been happy or peaceful. Transitioning from trauma based life or an anxiety based life to one that's working can actually be a little bit stressful and confusing.
After healing emotionally and on the psychological level.... take this to another level of learning and healing and evolution. After years on a Spiritual Path you may not have to do the emotional healing.... But if you have feelings you cannot skip over them and do spiritual bypassing. If you have emotions they are your Teachers. Soul Evolution comes with years of work and emotions become less of your Teachers and you are taught in other ways but you cannot skip the steps to get there.
Honesty with the self especially... is the cornerstone of healing. Confessing while groveling on the floor in shame is not honesty. Handling shame has to come first then honesty can come second. And honesty comes with discernment meaning you have to know who you can be honest with and to what degree.
Sounds so simple. And yet with a 68% divorce rate and over half of the Nation on medication need a prescription or recreational you have to wonder what's missing that people are feeling themselves with addictions and distractions in order to feel alive.
A number of my students got initiated with my Teacher. I thought I would talk about this and some of the things that were said at the workshop. For those of you who weren't here next year you can come if you plan ahead. My Teacher also stops in a number of other cities check his website.
All these new age slogans. Being your authentic self is complicated because not everybody is just worthy and not everybody is your best friend. And where you are on your healing journey and how vulnerable you are able to be and how open you are able to be is a personal choice.
Have you ever noticed that when you're in pain or feeling desperate you up yourself care you do things to make yourself feel joyful and happy? And then when life gets good you find it difficult if not impossible to make time to enjoy your life. What a strange dilemma.
Any person who has been wounded will have done horrible things to other people. They didn't mean it. Just like a wounded animal might bite and attack you they didn't mean it either. But at some point there is a stage of healing where you have to go back and look on accountability in order to heal your heart. We call The looking back part.... inventory. In order to heal the heart that's called making amends both to yourself and to other people when it will not cause them more harm than the original event or occurrence. And this age of worshiping the victim and overindulging in entitlement and moving towards toxic positivity this stage of healing and becoming a mature person that is responsible and accountable seems to have disappeared into the smoke of I deserve it.... I deserve it all and I want it. π
It's not easy to be an aware Spiritual person and yet it gives us a depth of life that is not always available to others. It makes relating to other people a little bit more complex with many different choices. Hope you find this podcast helpful.
Working with a Spiritual Teacher or a healer or even a therapist it's very special kind of relationship. And yet so many people especially in the spiritual movement or industry where there is a lot of ego and people want to be the all powerful healer clairvoyant telepath etc. spend a great deal of time analyzing and critiquing their chosen Teacher. Analyzing someone else in order to figure out your boundaries and tolerances it's definitely a good thing to do with friendships and love relationships and family. With a Teacher what I always look at is what am I learning. And does that Teacher have a practice... do they walk their talk. Beyond that I follow the 12th step advice "take the best and leave the rest." People on ego trips very often like to study with someone in order to bring them down or compare themselves in order to make themselves feel better. And then they will engage in a passive aggressive relationship with their Teacher and a secret game of compare and compete never asking questions never finding out backstories that are typically none of their business anyway. And then the hostility will fall out at some point. when you are walking this path you cannot be a student you cannot learn because all you're interested in doing is finding the flaws in someone you admire so you can feel better about yourself. Your Teacher is not your friend or your lover and therefore you are not at risk with getting submerged in a personality relationship. Your Teacher's personality and choices are none of your business. You don't do this with your car mechanic or your dentist do you? No because there's no ego gratification in that. If you have a cranky mechanic who does a great job you might keep that mechanic. Or you might decide it's too annoying and move on but you will not psychoanalyze them and tell your mechanic you don't like their tone of voice or how they're handling the wrench. Why do you do this with your Spiritual Teacher... Or with any authority figure that you admire? That is the question you need to be asking yourself if you want to become a student. Not everybody can learn. some people are too busy posturing presenting and competing to be a learner.
The great Spiritual Teachers talk about how we will change and be and behave as we evolve. But we cannot put on those behaviors like clothing on top of a body of inner demons. You can't fake it to you make it. You have to cleanse in order to evolve. You have to face the darkness in order to evolve. The evolution then that comes will match what the Teachers have taught you. Only now it will be your authentic behavior.
Such a popular phrase..... Feel your feelings and another one is do the work. But how do you do these things? Here are some thoughts that you might find helpful.
Acceptance and surrender is such a foreign concept to westerners. most people react to it as a kind of passive resignation perhaps even being a doormat. However it is not that at all. It is complicated and here are some thoughts on how I approach this primary practice of the Tao.
The journey towards the authentic self in the beginning is complicated and confusing. Hopefully this episode will give you some insight and comfort and courage to either start or continue your journey
For those of you who know the story of recovery in five chapters you will know what this title means. For those of you who don't know that story it is a common tool used in Alcoholics Anonymous. You might want to look it up. I've been taking some ongoing courses again and reading research-based material and that inspired this podcast. I also found a book you might want to check out it's a little extreme so take what you can use and leave the rest but it's written by a clinician and it's called F*ck Feelings.
Most people don't even know what fun is anymore. It is not recovery it is not distraction and it is definitely not when you're high or drunk. Having fun boosts your immune system as well as brain chemistry and in general feeds your body mind and soul. But most people these days need to learn how to have fun. and if you had a rough childhood you literally do not have the neural pathways for fun and learning to have fun might actually stress you out ....at first. Listen on ππΌπ·
The new age industry sells you the story of your life purpose and your destiny and your gifts. Ultimately you're making other human beings your God telling you through their methods and workshops why you are here on Earth. The Eastern traditions and Taoism in particular work a completely different way. if you're tired of spending thousands of dollars on an ego trip because after all they never tell you your life purpose is to conquer alcoholism or put up with an abusive mate there's always something spectacular because that's what sells....so if you're tired of that nonsense listen on. ππΌπ·
Are you really talking to the animals and listening to them or you just telling really cool stories that fit your own narrative?
The new age industry loves being out of body. The Eastern traditions teach you that this life this incarnation is your Path. You designed it and chose it before you ever were born. It is the schooling you wanted to elevate your soul to a higher level.
When you have fantasies about other people, when you have unspoken expectations, you will always find yourself in situations where you feel betrayed or disrespected or abandoned. And then you stop trusting other people when really the problem is learning to trust yourself.
Presenting as a victim or even victimizing your Self is a horrible self destructive pattern that causes you a great deal of pain. It also absolves you of any accountability and deflects your deeper more honest feelings. How do you stop this painful and destructive pattern?
I never know what episode this is. This was recorded on January 4th 2021. Becoming conscious and living as an awakened being will take you through giant periods of transitions that do not go quickly. It is a slow and in the beginning torturous process. After a while it is a joyous process but the first few times you go through it it is extremely challenging and it is a time when very often people turn around they do a u-turn and go back to their old dysfunctional choices because the new is so scary. Finding ways to get through the terror is a work of art, the art of self-care
Detachment like forgiveness is Grace granted by Spirit after you do the hard work of learning how you're feeling. And being willing to feel those feelings so you can learn the lessons they are giving you. Only then can Spirit take from you and Grant you detachment or forgiveness because you have learned what you needed to learn.
We need to find a balance between growth and punishing ourselves because we think we are not enough as we are right now. Start where you are says Pema Chodron... And actually every spiritual path. Start where you are means you accept where You are right now. Because that means you learn what you need to learn right now and only then can there be progression.
It takes strength to have an open heart. Having an open heart, being soft, is different than being a people pleaser.
You can't practice self-love when you secretly still hate yourself. This seems to be one of the most taboo subjects in the current New age industry. You're not allowed to talk about it or even admitted exists. And that attitude will kill you.
What does it look like to actually have a spiritual practice. How do you live life as an awakened being.
What does it really mean to be on a spiritual path? most people have a concept that it means you meditate a lot and your vegan and you always act calmly and your carry mala and pray a lot. Living a spiritual path means living awakened and living awakened means being mindful. It's as simple ....and as complicated as that.
Everybody reads listens to audiobooks watches YouTube and they know everything. But nothing's changing! That's because information doesn't change you. Doing things differently changes you.
It's not what you do it's how you do it. It's the timing, it's the energy around it, it's your consciousness about your choice and your self-awareness. Many people are involved with self-indulgence or self-abuse rather than self-care. It is complex. Self-care also has to do with having parenting skills so that you can help yourself mature and handle the challenges of life and if you have no idea what healthy parenting looks like you will be unable to do this part of self-care until you learn.
Overgiving can be a trait of codependency. It can be a trait of low self-esteem. Sometimes it's for people pleasing but other times it's to control people kind of like banking. I'm making deposits with these people with the assumption that they will pay me back when I need it. it's easy to put a label on your behavior but what we really need to do is dig deep and find out what's going on. Join life path healings for another dog walk and some contemplation
Nothing on this Earth thrives without stress. Stress on the discomfort that goes with it both stimulate and challenges the body mind and Spirit to be our very best. You see this in biology and throughout all the sciences. And Brene Brown's wonderful research has added to this body of knowledge. This means you have to do things. You can't just read and listen. Journey on
Two wonderful slogans. They seem to be contradictory but actually they are not . They work hand in hand like yin and yang however if you have not done some self work it is your wounded self that will be choosing the Bliss and it will be your wound itself that tells you how to do hard things. and when your wound itself is guiding you instead of Spirit the path is hard and Rocky. We have to start at the beginning . Listen. ππΌπ·
Self-healing is a cool concept but not everybody can do it and sometimes even if you do self heal there might be times you cannot. Find out what it takes to self-heal and find out some tools you can use to train yourself and self-healing and self learning
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Learning to get rid of your narratives is the first step towards healing. What is radical acceptance?