Going Inside: Recent Episodes
Alex Bishop & April Chonlahan
This is a podcast that invites you to explore your inner landscape through the lens of Internal Family Systems. Conversations with leaders in the space of psychotherapeutic healing and transformation work weigh in on spirituality, somatic practices, mindfulness, and more to equip you with the knowledge and tools to heal trauma and live authentically.
If you struggle with Relationship OCD (ROCD), you might also struggle when it comes to sex and intimacy, and take that as a sign you are in the wrong relationship. You might think that if you really did love your partner, intimacy would feel more natural. Or if you were sexually compatible, it would just be easier. In this episode, we talk about the core issues of sex and intimacy to help you understand the why behind it.
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Are you constantly obsessing over whether you are gay or straight or whether you should explore intimacy with the opposite sex? Do these questions lead to anxiety about whether you need to leave your relationship? Perhaps you are plagued with guilt about lying to your partner and potentially hurting them. Sexual Orientation OCD (SO-OCD) is a very confusing experience, but today we're here to help you make sense of it.
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In this episode, we cover topics like ex obsessions, chasing the unavailable partner, looking for the intoxication of desire and longing that we might have felt in other relationships, and worrying that there's no spark! We talk about the childhood dynamics that lead us to chase and pursue people who are emotionally unavailable, parentification, differentiation, and what it takes to heal from these issues and be at peace in our relationships. Hope you enjoy!
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If you struggle with ROCD + fearing you might be narcissistic or a terrible person, then this episode is for you. Agata returns to the podcast after our session a month ago, where we did some transformational inner work on her ROCD. Today, she brings forward fear and shame that's been coming up for her that she could be a narcissist, which has been arising due to thoughts that she might be better than her partner or more out of his league.
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If you feel like you've tried everything to break free from Relationship OCD (ROCD), and you are out of options, you're not alone! ROCD is a complex issue that many people do not know how to treat or approach properly. In today's episode, I'm going to give you an understanding of how to approach things differently than you have been. With a high-level understanding of my approach, hopefully, you'll have a lot more clarity around how to move forward and break free for good!
Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Ua_WHROp0J4
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Ever felt like there's a special person out there, and when you find them, you'll just know that they are right for you and that things will just click into place? Someone with whom you have zero doubts. Someone with whom things just move very smoothly and with whom you feel absolutely sure about. Well, today's episode is all about this and why it's important to grieve this fantasy. It's something that everyone with Relationship OCD will want to do as part of their healing process :)
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In this session, I help Agata explore her ROCD by using the Internal Family Systems Therapy model. We explored parts of her who demand she leave her relationship, question attraction, and hyperfixate on height differences, block her access to parts, and give her brainfog and eventually heal an inner child who carries the shame that something is wrong with her. It's a session you won't want to miss!
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Are your feelings for your partner constantly disappearing, leaving you confused and terrified that it means you are in the wrong relationship? In this episode, I talk about how this is a common phenomenon, especially for folks with Relationship OCD (ROCD) and a Disorganized Attachment style, and one that can be worked with so that you can finally be at peace in your relationship.
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Do you struggle with intimacy with your partner? Do you find that when it comes to being intimate, you feel repulsed, scared, avoidant, or just uncomfortable? Those of us with Relationship OCD (ROCD) have real issues with intimacy, and beneath the surface, we are ultimately terrified of it! In this episode, Grace and I explain why and how to go about navigating these fears.
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Do you feel the urge to pull away when your partner gets closer because you feel suffocated, trapped, or fear losing yourself? If so, listen to today's episode where we break down the common reasons why we feel this way, where it comes from, and how to be at peace in the relationship without feeling like you need to escape.
Join my new Relationship OCD (ROCD) Course & Community! Only $37 per month!
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Want one-to-one support for healing Relationship OCD (ROCD) from the root? Book a free discovery call to find out more about how we can help! https://forloveweheal.com/relationshipocd-therapy/
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Are you the partner of someone struggling with Relationship OCD (ROCD)? If so, this episode is going to help you make sense of what your partner is going through and how you can be of support to them and yourself. While incredibly hard, working through these challenges together can be an incredible gift. This episode will walk you through how to navigate your way forward together in this relationship consciously and how to survive the tough times.
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Do you struggle with attraction issues in your relationship? Do you ever look at your partner and feel disgusted? Do you worry that this is a sign that you are in the wrong relationship? Or if you were with someone more attractive, you'd be happier? In this episode, Grace and I reveal exactly why you are struggling to find your partner attractive, why you obsess about it, and what to actually do about it. We share why attraction issues aren't a deal breaker, and that you aren't even seeing your partner accurately due to the fear, shame, and insecurities you carry inside of yourself.
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I'm away on vacation, so posting the raw version of this episode without my usual intro or edits. The title says it all, and overall, it was a lovely conversation that I hope you enjoy and find helpful. :)
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In this guided exercise, you’ll be introduced to the Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) imagery protocol, developed by Dr. Dan Brown and used within integrative attachment therapy. This practice is designed to help heal insecure attachment patterns by gently and repeatedly engaging your mind, brain & nervous system in experiences of safety, attunement, and unconditional love.
Through guided imagery, you’ll connect with imagined ideal parent figures who are consistently responsive, emotionally attuned, and deeply supportive, allowing your system to experience what secure attachment feels like. Over time, this helps remap attachment patterns at a deep, implicit level, creating a new internal sense of safety and stability from which you can relate to yourself and others. Enjoy!
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In this guided exercise, you’ll be introduced to the Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) imagery protocol, developed by Dr. Dan Brown and used within integrative attachment therapy. This practice is designed to help heal insecure attachment patterns by gently and repeatedly engaging your mind, brain & nervous system in experiences of safety, attunement, and unconditional love.
Through guided imagery, you’ll connect with imagined ideal parent figures who are consistently responsive, emotionally attuned, and deeply supportive, allowing your system to experience what secure attachment feels like. Over time, this helps remap attachment patterns at a deep, implicit level, creating a new internal sense of safety and stability from which you can relate to yourself and others. Enjoy!
Join my new Course & Community!
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Want one-to-one support for healing Relationship OCD (ROCD) from the root? Book a Free Discovery Call to find out more about how we can help!- https://forloveweheal.com/relationshipocd-therapy/
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Witness this powerful session I did with Paula, who graciously offered to share her story and be a participant in what I would consider an absolutely beautiful and moving session. Paula shares her journey with Relationship OCD with someone she's been with since she was 15 years old and someone whom she's known almost forever. Paula touches into the core wounds of rejection and badness that live at the root of her fears of making mistakes. She tenderly reparents and heals the inner child that carries these wounds, freeing her system up from so much tension, anxiety, and worry that she's carried for so long. THANK YOU, PAULA!
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Are you worried that your doubt, fear, avoidance, and anxiety are signs from your intuition that you have to leave this relationship? Are you worried that none of this is Relationship OCD and that you must just be lying to yourself, and trying to convince yourself that you do want this relationship? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you, and I'm confident it will help you feel even just a little bit more at peace than you did before!
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If you are terrified of losing your partner and that all of your thoughts about leaving are true, then this episode is for you. I break down the root cause of Anxious Attachment and give you practical steps for healing this side of your insecure attachment style!
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Wondering why it feels like your truth that you're not in the right relationship? Why you struggle with break-up urges, emotional avoidance, disgust, or "grass is greener" mentality? In part 3 of the comprehensive framework series, we talk about the Avoidant Attachment system, and we cover these topics in detail!
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Part 2 of this series involves understanding the root cause of OCD Obsessions and Compulsions. OCD is an adaptive response to anticipating and avoiding mistakes that will lead to attachment disconnection (abandonment) and being shamed. OCD originates from attachment injuries resulting from a spectrum of parental emotional immaturity to narcissistic abuse. We talk about this in detail and offer a simple practice to be able to heal shame.
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Dive into this 4-part series where we break down our comprehensive framework for healing Relationship OCD (ROCD) from the root. Learn how Internal Family Systems Therapy, The Conscious Relationship Framework, and Attachment Healing can literally rewrite the subconscious programming that drives your obsessions, compulsions, and leave you stuck between that exhausting Fearful-avoidant oscillation between stay and leave.
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In this episode, I follow up with Karena from Episode 24, where a profound piece of IFS work allowed her to heal her wounds of failure, disappointment, and shame, leading to a sustained ending of doubt in her relationship. Karena is now happily engaged, but has felt the impact of things moving quite quickly, which led us into a new piece of healing in which we uncovered more parts asking for attention.
If you haven't listened to part 1, you can find it here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1230701/episodes/18373878
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If you are struggling with an internal pushback against your decision to commit to your relationship, then this episode is for you. In this episode, Rory opens up about her struggles with Relationship OCD (ROCD) and how, in the past, self-betrayal and people-pleasing put her into situations that were painful. We explore the internal rebellion she faces now due to this self-betrayal, and I help her find a way to heal her past, reclaim her option for choice, and step into her power.
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Right before Karena's engagement with her soon-to-be fiancé, we do this transformational session where we explore her fears and obsessions around commitment and potentially making a mistake. Karena's honest recount of her experience with Relationship Anxiety (ROCD) and a piece of deep inner work allow us to find that her fears were rooted in feelings of being a disappointment and a failure, a sentiment that has been with her since childhood. There's so much more to this episode, and I can't wait for you to listen!
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Akiva joins me for a follow-up session after our first one, where we talked about her persistent love addiction, limerence, guilt, shame, Disorganized Attachment, & Relationship OCD, which you can find here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1230701/episodes/18065421
In this session, we continue her work with a vulnerable inner child (exile) in which we offer the ideal parent figure she had been longing for since childhood.
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In this episode, I speak with trauma-informed coach Michelle Roehab on the impact that narcissistic parents have, particularly on highly sensitive and highly empathic children & adults, and how that shapes we way we navigate our relationships in the present. We speak about how it erodes our sense of self, contributes to guilt, shame, and self-blame, feeling responsible for other people's feelings and well-being, and makes us question healthy, secure leaning relationships. It also contributes to Fearful-avoidant (Disorganized) attachment patterns, where the person we go to for comfort, closeness, and intimacy is also the person that we consistently pull away from. All in all, a very good episode and definitely worth a listen! You can find links to Michelle's work below if you are interested in connecting with her.
https://www.michellethemindsetcoach.com/
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In this episode, Grace and I candidly discuss our personal journeys with parentification, a hidden trauma and role reversal where children take on inappropriate adult responsibilities. We share how this experience shaped our roles as the family comedian and planner, and the emotional toll it takes, leading to things like people-pleasing, anxiety, depression, self-trust issues, and various other relationship issues. We delve into the importance of recognizing these patterns for healing, the role of sacred anger in reclaiming our identities, and the necessity of setting boundaries to foster self-rediscovery and healing.
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In this session, Erin shares her journey of dealing with Relationship OCD (ROCD), attachment insecurities, and the challenges of seeking external validation in her relationships due to co-dependent patterns. She discusses her pattern of anxious attachment, the pursuit of unavailable partners, and the impact of these behaviors on her mental health. Through our session, Erin explores themes of self-trust, perfectionism, and her fear of making mistakes.
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In this episode, I help Akiva unpack and do a piece of healing around her persistent love addiction, limerence, guilt, shame, Disorganized Attachment & Relationship OCD using the Internal Family Systems Therapy Model. Watch Akiva go from a shut down, dissociated state to being able to access her parts and do a piece of healing, leading her to feel a lot better at the end.
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In this episode, Kleo shares her journey of navigating Relationship OCD (ROCD) andDisorganized Attachment. During our session, we worked on helping Kleo connect with her avoidant parts, something she had long resisted due to the intense overwhelm these parts often triggered. In the past, their activation would lead to spirals of anxiety, helplessness, and eventually depression.
By gently reassuring these parts and creating a sense of safety, we were able to facilitate a profound moment of healing. This episode offers an intimate look into the therapeutic process, illustrating how IFS Therapy can guide us toward deep emotional transformation, self-understanding, and resilience.
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In this episode, I help Andriy explore a chronic anxiety that he's been experiencing for most of his life, in addition to Relationship OCD and Disorganized Attachment. By focusing on this anxiety, Andriy was able to connect with a one and a half year old inner child that was abandoned by his mother due to her own mental health issues. Through Andriy bringing compassion and presence to this part of him, this inner child received the physical contact and loving embrace that he has been seeking for years.
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In this powerful episode, I sit down with Grace, who courageously shares her journey of living with and healing from Relationship OCD (ROCD). Grace captures the wild oscillation between fantasy, infatuation, and limerence and intense disgust, anxiety, and obsessive thinking, which has gotten considerably better with all the healing work she has been doing over the years.
If you've ever experienced any of this or you’ve ever wondered, “Am I in the right relationship?" or "Do I really love my partner?" then this episode is for you!
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In this session, Emily shares her struggles with ROCD that began in her early years. We explored themes of guilt, shame, and the fear of making mistakes, which are deeply rooted in her past experiences, including family dynamics and personal relationships. Through our conversation, we discussed how these feelings impact her current relationship and how shame is really at the root of her obsessions, compulsions, and the oscillation between "stay" and "leave." The session concluded with a hopeful message about the power of love and the importance of perseverance.
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In this episode, Devin discusses his experiences with Relationship Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (ROCD), which often manifests as feelings of disgust or lack of attraction towards his partners. He describes how these feelings can be sudden and intense, leading to confusion and anxiety about the relationship. Devin shares that these emotions are not necessarily reflective of the partner or the relationship itself but are symptoms of ROCD, which can distort his perception, creating a lot of anxiety and doubt.
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In this conversation, Molly shares her journey with Relationship OCD (ROCD) and how it has impacted her relationships, particularly with her husband. She discusses the patterns of infatuation and fear of commitment, the role of attachment, and the challenges of vulnerability in her marriage. The conversation delves into childhood influences on her attachment style and the healing process she is undergoing, including the importance of self-compassion and embracing her authentic self. The session culminates in a therapeutic exploration of her feelings of humiliation and the journey towards joy and openness.
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In this episode of the For Love We Heal podcast, Christine shares her journey with Fearful Avoidant attachment. She discusses the complexities of emotional connection, the impact of trauma, and the role of intuition and spirituality in her healing process. The conversation delves into the cycles of numbness and disconnection that arise in relationships, the importance of self-discovery through therapy, and the challenges of being neurodivergent. Christine emphasizes the significance of acknowledging and caring for vulnerable parts of oneself while exploring the balance between protective mechanisms like masking and authentic self-expression. The episode concludes with reflections on the journey of healing and the choices we make in our relationships.
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In this conversation, Harmony and I discuss her personal journey with relationship OCD, exploring the impact of her past relationships, self-sacrifice, the importance of self-advocacy, and the challenges faced in her current relationship. We delve into coping strategies, particularly in the context of Harmie's skating career, and how she navigates feelings of loneliness and fear of abandonment. The discussion emphasizes the significance of understanding one's parts and the journey towards healing and self-acceptance.
In this episode, Annuziata shares her personal journey with Relationship OCD, detailing her experiences from a young age and the impact it has had on her relationships. She discusses the feelings of guilt and self-doubt that arise, particularly in the context of her current relationship. The conversation explores the healing process, the importance of understanding one's inner child, and the role of therapy in navigating these complex emotions. In this conversation, Alex Bishop and Annunziata explore the themes of shame, guilt, and the impact of childhood experiences on emotional well-being. They delve into the process of reconnecting with the inner child, addressing feelings of isolation, and the importance of consistency in healing. The discussion highlights the challenges of navigating resistance in personal growth and emphasizes the value of self-discovery and acceptance in overcoming emotional struggles.
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Understanding Relationship OCD
02:58
The Journey of Healing and Self-Discovery
06:00
Navigating Guilt and Self-Trust
08:42
Exploring the Roots of Guilt
11:44
Connecting with the Guilty Part
13:56
Unpacking Childhood Experiences
16:11
The Path to Self-Compassion
24:11
Childhood Labels and Their Impact
25:22
Understanding Guilt and Anxiety
26:35
Exploring Resistance to Pain
27:50
Connecting with Childhood Memories
29:24
The Weight of Shame and Guilt
31:38
Messages from Childhood
34:32
Unpacking Shame and Guilt
36:15
Navigating School Experiences
38:12
Compassion and Resistance
39:58
Exploring Isolation and Support
40:59
Confronting Abandonment and Betrayal
42:50
Understanding Childhood Experiences and Labels
45:45
Navigating Resistance and Avoidance
47:18
Finding Safety and Comfort in Healing
50:57
Embracing Discomfort for Growth
52:48
The Journey of Self-Discovery and Healing
56:43
Reflections on Love and Life's Challenges
The main themes in the conversation with Colleen Herman revolve around her journey with relationship OCD (ROCD) and attachment issues. Colleen shares her experiences of anxiety and self-doubt in relationships, often feeling torn between staying in or leaving a relationship due to obsessive thoughts about making the right choice. She discusses her struggle with trusting herself and the impact of her childhood experiences, where she felt deeply sensitive and often misunderstood by her parents. The conversation also explores her inner child, highlighting feelings of shame, confusion, and the desire for acceptance and trust. Through the dialogue, Colleen works on healing these parts of herself, aiming to foster a sense of safety and self-trust.
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In this episode of the For Love We Heal podcast, Alex Bishop and Chandralekha delve into the complexities of relationship OCD, attachment issues, and the impact that anxiety and shame have had on her relationships. Chandralekha shares her journey of self-discovery, revealing how her mind often bullied her into avoiding connection. The conversation explores the importance of self-compassion, the healing of childhood wounds, and the connection between emotional pain and physical health. Ultimately, they emphasize the power of loving awareness in the healing process.
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Laura Patryas, an IFS therapist, ordained spiritual minister, and author of Awaken to Love, for a deeply moving and wide-ranging conversation. We talk about spirituality, non-dualism, Internal Family Systems (IFS), romantic love versus unconditional love, and what it really means to “come home” to ourselves.
Laura shares her concept of “duonity,” the experience of wholeness that includes both our divine essence and our very human parts. We explore how the seeking parts of us, especially the ones that are exhausted from chasing healing, are often just trying to get back to love, to presence, and to the feeling of being held. From a non-dual lens, we discuss how reality is not made of separations, but rather a unified field of consciousness that expresses itself through multiplicity. And yet, Laura grounds this vast spiritual view in the gritty, embodied reality of human suffering, trauma, and relationship pain.
Whether you’re on a healing path, wrestling with romantic doubt, or simply curious about the deeper nature of reality, this conversation invites you to soften, zoom out, and remember that the wound is often the portal, and that the love we’re chasing is already within and holding us.
In this session, we spent the majority of the time working with one of Sidney's dissociative parts, a very common part to run into when doing work in more complex systems. I hope you enjoy!
In this episode, I help Allison work on a part of her that falls into limerence, which is common for folks with Relationship OCD. We end up finding and healing a piece of shame and loneliness that is at the root of both the limerence and her ROCD.
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In this session, I guide Mia inward to connect with a part of her that carries the pain of feeling not good enough for her partner. She often finds herself stuck in obsessive loops, wondering if he finds her attractive enough or interesting enough. As someone with situationally disorganized (fearful-avoidant) attachment, Mia’s anxious side gets activated when her partner leans avoidant. In those moments, rumination becomes a protective strategy; a way to avoid sinking into the deeper feelings of unworthiness. Without giving too much away, this session unfolds into a powerful moment of healing that leaves Mia feeling "significantly less activated" when she thinks about the same triggering thoughts.
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In this powerful and heartfelt episode of the For Love We Heal podcast, host Alex Bishop welcomes Eric, who shares a deeply personal journey through Relationship OCD, disorganized attachment, and the lifelong impact of early trauma, particularly his experience as an adoptee.
Eric opens up about the emotional shutdown he feels in his relationships and the years of emotional turmoil.
The turning point came when Eric began to explore the deeper roots of his suffering. He reveals how discovering and integrating his adoption story made everything begin to make sense.
In our session, Eric connected with a part of him that had been protecting him from revealing to others what is written in what he calls a manuscript. This protector, which showed up as a weight, sat on top of this manuscript, preventing him from showing others what was written. The fear was that if he revealed what's in the manuscript, everyone would see and confirm the belief that he belongs on the outside. We talk about this a lot more in the episode.
Listeners will find this episode rich with insight on how early life experiences can shape adult relationships.
Whether you’re navigating ROCD, Disorganized Attachment, exploring adoption wounds, or just searching for a path to deeper healing, this episode offers hope, honesty, and a real path for inner freedom.
In this episode, I talk to Anxious Attachment Specialist Valerie Rubin about attachment wounding, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, conscious relationships, healing, and more! You can learn more about Valerie and her work at the links below:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/
Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1UZDfyhUZgAGIdlEv5VP85?si=69fb75f9b76444b7
As I said in today's episode we have a few openings for coaching clients so if you are interested in healing your attachment wounds and stepping into a more secure and loving place within then send me an email at alex@alexbishopcounselling.com and I will connect you with one of our specialists for a free consultation to see if you'd be a good fit!
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In today’s episode, I chat with Dr. Trish Phillips also known as The Doodle Doc.
In the episode, Trish and I talk a lot about her evolution into the therapeutic space. We talk about the Inner Child and the internal system. We talk about what the Inner Child is and how we access it. We also talk about conscious reparenting, what that is, and what it looks like.
Trish also mentions that there’s not just one Inner Child, there’s actually many inside.
Overall a great episode!
You can find more about Trish by clicking the links below:
https://www.thedoodledoc.com/
https://www.instagram.com/thedoodledoc/
In today's episode, I'm joined by a friend and colleague where we do a full unburdening process for a little girl who lost her sister.
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