Real-ationship Goals: Recent Episodes
Advocacy Center Prevention & Education
This week's episode, our Prevention and Education team highlights different individuals, groups, and traditions that all play a significant role in Hispanic culture and history. Come learn alongside us during this Special Topics episode all about Hispanic Heritage Month!..Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/12jNNrXXsYMOWaPSSF53FxymEUU8Rglzj_wgI7iBIw3k/edit?usp=sharingAdvocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
Welcome back to another episode of Real-ationship Goals! Our team's excited to break down the lyrics of Demi Lovato's song, "29"!Relationship Goal: Take some time this week to reflect on the lyrics of your current favorite song. What's being said, how are they speaking about themselves and others?Recommendation: Taking a walk in a local park!.. Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1aB8lp8fIoKMZj8tgjsCtZlFaoonP39Q9J5VlkrZJakA/edit?usp=sharingAdvocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
Hi everyone! Welcome back to another awesome season of Real-ationship Goals. We wanted to kick off this season by giving you a chance to get to know some of your hosts for this season, plus we've got some new faces around the podcast mic!..Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/109V6hgYb1C0hNa7u3baqU6sptpmqsgstNJ-idW1C6Ms/edit?usp=sharing Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
We're kicking off this summer with a special Pride Month Panel! Thank you so much to our panelists for being willing to share their thoughts and experiences with us. Below are more resources if you want to be more involved with the LGBTQ+ community in Waco:Website: wacopridenetwork.orgInstagram: wpridenetwork and baylor_gayFacebook: Waco Pride Network..Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1X6yIY3felbY1psr41mapfgNKePguQEAaX7sJ6g110WM/edit?usp=sharingAdvocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
Join the P&E Team as they discuss three influential people from the AANHPI communities in honor of Asian American Native Hawaiian Pacific Islander Heritage Month!
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Maria's Recommendation: Planting a plant!
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https://docs.google.com/document/d/14h-D_-PlsTrMURUfyrsN6HczWiX8TSSjIZOdh7tsoDs/edit?usp=sharing
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Join the Prevention Team as they chat about the song "Chloe or Sam or Sophia or Marcus" from Taylor Swift's latest album, the Tortured Poets Department!
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Kyla's Recommendation: Move your body/get exercise in way that feels right to you!
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https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hb_rHgMTKuccUi07-JaCrDPbetsQ9WlaLqLPIjrmDQQ/edit?usp=sharing
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Join the Prevention Team as they visit with Dr. Soo Battle, founder of Camp Careful about how to navigate difficult and sometimes uncomfortable conversations about safety, consent, and healthy relationships.
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Maria's Recommendation: Homemade pizza!
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https://docs.google.com/document/d/1gwLp3qW-6G-uiS_TltUGtk9DEAsGgRN_EB21oZsGm1o/edit?usp=sharing
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Join our P&E this week as they learn and chat about some of the different parts of Sexual Assault Awareness Month! From the SAAM Day of Action, to the origin of Denim Day, to the history of the me too Movement, they cover all this and more in this week's episode of Real-ationship Goals!
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Kyla's Recommendation: Taking a moment to text someone you care about, "I love you!"
Access the episode transcrihttps://docs.google.com/document/d/1clogbXLvz3KswBu_207xp6Gz7fI5jXLtFBcwRMReaek/edit?usp=sharingpt at the link below!
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Join Kyla and Arianna from the Prevention and Education team as they analyze Lilo and Stitch! Do Lilo and Stitch have an abusive relationship? What healthy relationship characteristics do we see represented in Lilo and Nani's community? We discuss all these things and more in this week's episode of Real-ationship Goals!
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Arianna's Recommendation: Spending time outside and visiting a local park!
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https://docs.google.com/document/d/1OIJ_fMC7vNhkEBsgZrcEzYez3y2JF3Afg6c0SLO91-Q/edit?usp=sharing
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Join our Prevention and Education team as they chat with Community Organizer, Alexandra Brock about all things advocacy! How do you advocate for others and yourself, what does advocacy look like in different settings, and tips for engaging in self care while doing advocate work? We cover all this and a little more in this week's episode of Real-ationship Goals!
Connect with our community partner!
Waco Pride Network:
https://www.wacopride.org/
IG: @wpridenetwork
McLennan County Diaper Collective:
https://www.mcdiapers.org/
IG: @mcdiapers
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Kyla's Recommendation: Coming to our Art Gallery at Cultivate 7Twelve on April 5th, 2024 from 6:00pm-9:00pm!
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https://docs.google.com/document/d/13enOd4QfjRNGXgbDGXAnx8xnOIShFE-nbUTn41LCs1U/edit?usp=sharing
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Welcome back to another episode of Real-ationship Goals! This week, the P&E Team dives into their special topic for the month, Women's History Month. During this episode, P&E will share what they learned about three special figures from history. For more resources on Women's History Month: https://www.womenshistorymonth.gov/..Maria's Recommendation: Trying new hobbies and finding one you love! (Maria's new hobby is cross stitching!) Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1lImhQJvu6UGTITg_BFazDOSJombuq1LMgICicgfRoOw/edit?usp=sharingAdvocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
This week on Real-ationship Goals the Prevention and Education team talks about the song "If I Were a Boy" by Beyoncé. Join our team as they analyze the song for healthy and unhealthy relationship characteristics, and reflect on how the song explores gender norms and stereotypes in relationships!..Kyla's Recommendation: Spending time in the sunshine! Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bk6K8sLh9zI3e468IpGpWnKbZEA3sXKOwuKfnuTn43o/edit?usp=sharing Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
Welcome back to another episode of Real-ationship Goals! Join our P&E Team as they meet with C-Pie from the Waco chapter of Bikers Against Child Abuse (BACA) to chat about safety and protection for youth after they've experienced abuse.
Want to learn more about BACA? You can follow them on Instagram @bikersagainstchildabuseintl, or check out their website at www.texas.bacaworld.org!
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Arianna's Recommendation: Chocolate Covered Strawberries!
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https://docs.google.com/document/d/1fUDJIvZZ-SMEPXeOybPQTXzfS_kGtSyhq3wHt1bbQCY/edit?usp=sharing
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Welcome back to another episode of Real-ationship Goals! This week, the P&E Team dives into their special topic for the month, Black History Month. During this episode, P&E will share what they learned about three special figures from history. For more resources on Black History Month: https://nmaahc.si.edu/explore/initiatives/black-history-month-2024..Arianna's Recommendation: Watching a documentary! Particularly one about someone who might have been overshadowed, or ignored in history previously. Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1O4oiOPlWEt8yL1BVvFonJCD1riLQJ1GK2G_uk7rc0WY/edit?usp=sharingAdvocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
This week on Real-ationship Goals the Prevention and Education team talks about "Kill Bill" by SZA! What healthy and unhealthy relationship characteristics and habits are mentioned, the impact of the song, and consuming media responsibly are all topics of discussion this week on Real-ationship Goals!..Maria's Recommendation: Fidgets! Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1r7cNr31U_hev6ReO-ojFOzhY8urfsPCJg1XPsxUOuzw/edit?usp=sharing Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
The Prevention and Education Team is back with the sixth season of Real-ationship Goals, and it's bigger and better than ever before! This episode, the team is joined by Shelbey Herring, the Program Director for The Cove to talk about boundaries and communication. What does it look like to set boundaries in your life, and what do you do if someone continues to violate them? We chat about this an more in this week's episode of Real-ationship Goals!For more information about The Cove, visit: https://www.thecovewaco.org/Follow The Cove on Instagram: @thecovewaco..Kyla's Recommendation: The Library! Go get a library card!Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1cvkVSHHRlj0RmLwgrGAychpLzziln-ek_2c69Erh_84/edit?usp=sharing Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
The Prevention and Education Team tackle the topic of Parasocial Relationships this week in Real-ationship Goals! How can parasocial relationships be healthy and beneficial, and when do we cross a line in admiration and investment into something much more unhealthy?Maria's Recommendation: Coffee! Especially any local coffee shops!Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Xz2476HSWbrmNYxbrfwctG7pXvH_as0yGnUq-EGdKN4/edit?usp=sharingAdvocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
This week the P&E Team tackles the topic of catfishing! How does catfishing impact your relationships, whether you're the catfisher, or the catfishee? P&E tackles this and more in this week's episode of, Real-ationship Goals!Kyla's Recommendation: Listening to music that makes you feel good! Access the episode transcript at the link below! Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
Join the Prevention and Education Team as they discuss anonymity online and how it can impact relationships, both online and off! Maria's Recommendation: Rubber duckies! Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BnoHMES3lmHosNriJ0qCtEG9y6Sm4Bqol2ZaEmImnfk/edit?usp=sharingAdvocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
Join our P&E Team as they dive into a discussion about AI/Deepfakes and their impact on relationships! How do when know when we can trust the content we're consuming? How can we use faceswapping and photo-editing apps in a way that is respectful to those around us? Prevention and Education covers all this and more in this week's episode of Real-ationship Goals!Kyla's Recommendation: Find a way to make the space you're in your own! Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1V4R_cde2JnoaVeheTim_BfIonZDhuA8wWyzkgEACNsI/edit?usp=sharing Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
Join the P&E Team as they discuss how comparison can impact your relationships! Are you using social media as a way of measuring yourself against others? How can adult influencers have meaningful conversations with students about comparison? The Prevention and Education Team covers all that and more in this week's episode of, "Real-ationship Goals"!Maria's Recommendation: Tamales! "I love me some good tamales. Green chicken tamales and sweet tamales are my favorite to eat and make!" Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1kNg7CrjN0QdrydqSggcDa_VZ_-BK5xWcqxMHoVPe0cU/edit?usp=sharing Advocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
This week the P&E Team tackles the heavy topic of sexting. How can adult influencers have conversations with the students in their lives about sexting? What impact does sexting have on relationships? Prevention and Education tackles all this and more in the latest episode of Real-ationship Goals!Arianna's Recommendation: Since we are in the midst of fall and Thanksgiving will be coming up soon. It’s never too early to try out a new dessert recipe: Caramel Apple cookies. Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/103KEsXGDZLFssEVBDpK75TaYgLW5HsLvmXrV68A8nLI/edit?usp=sharingAdvocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
The Prevention and Education team is back with another episode of Real-ationship Goals! Join P&E as they explore the topic of grooming, tips for recognizing, preventing, and having important (and sometimes difficult) conversations with the students in your life!Kyla's Recommendation: Trying something new! Resist the urge to give up, even if you're not immediately good at it.Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1uTsJMxPFkFoSXsD8P5xKMCzZxuWAholckPI-iIhFOFw/edit?usp=sharingAdvocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
The Prevention Team is back to revisit the topic of passwords! We last covered this topic with some of our students in a previous summer session, so be sure to go and check out that episode as well. Passwords and healthy relationships may seem like to completely separate subjects, but the P&E team is going to dive in and explore how they're connected!
Maria's Recommendation: Watching Harry Potter!Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1sDM1hPElC0oRRpbAl7JEBSnR8afmJhUom_wa0TWc0W8/edit?usp=sharingAdvocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
Join the Prevention and Education team as they tackle the topic of Online Dating! They talk about identifying healthy and unhealthy relationship characteristics in online relationships, and a couple of P&E's #1 relationship no-nos, ghosting and blocking. Arianna's Recommendation: Binge-watching all of the Fast and Furious movies.Access the episode transcript at the link down below!
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Join the Advocacy Center's Prevention and Education Department as they discuss cyberbullying. From understanding what cyberbullying is, to what it means to have conversations with the people in your life about cyberbullying, the P&E Team is ready to dive in to this series on relationships in a digital world!Kyla's Recommendation: Having a fun little cup to drink out of. (Helpful for drinking more water!) Access the episode transcript at the link below!https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PaRs1huDQVk2wUIRDv-ZAK0t76KHAj4nWizPeP0sxkU/edit?usp=sharingAdvocacy Center Crisis Hotline (254) 752-7233 or (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
Join the Advocacy Center's Prevention and Education Department as they discuss what privacy looks like online. From being mindful about what we post about ourselves and others, to what does it look like to have meaningful conversations with others about privacy, the P&E Team is ready to dive in to this series on living in a digital world!Maria's Recommendation: Corn in a cup Access the episode transcript at the link below!
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Arianna's Recommendation: Create a red flag/green flag/beige flag chain our of construction paper! You can use this craft to help you practice awareness in your relationships! Access the episode transcript at the link below.https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CbgrDQc5YNwMzkwBJ7V0T_BHp_QmtjL_Z9nvZ2s3IsI/edit?usp=sharingAdvocacy Center Crisis Hotline: (254) 752-7233 or Toll Free: (888) 867-7233.Follow us on Instagram at @ACCVC_Prevention to connect with us and for more great content!
Maria's Recommendation: "We're Not Really Strangers" Card Game
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https://docs.google.com/document/d/1QFTk2VUYEAp3Bsme2QWefFn2a2I3kdJafXbhRv6hmdE/edit?usp=sharing
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Kyla's Recommendation: Spider-Man: Across the Spider-Verse
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Arianna's Recommendation: “After the Breakup” by Lindsey Dortch Brock
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We're excited to bring you a BONUS EPISODE featuring six 8th grade students we've gotten to know and work with. Here they talk all about family dynamics, from toxic traits to thriving moments and ways families can love one another better. The students are thoughtful, insightful, and filled with many laughs, and this episode is essential for all of us, especially adults, who want the best for our families.
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Is there someone in your life who, every time you see or think about them, all you want to say is "Ugh"? Or you feel like rolling your eyes every time they say something? It might be a coworker, a sibling, even a romantic partner. And if you thought of someone, it's likely the thing you're feeling toward them is contempt. In the last official episode of season 4, our hosts talk about the poisonous nature of contempt and how it sneaks into our relationships, oftentimes without us realizing it. We propose some healthy antidotes, per the Gottman Institute, and chart a path forward for all of us to pursue healthier relationships.
Gottman Institute articles mentioned or that inspired the episode:
The Four Horsemen: Contempt
How to Change Your Own Contempt
What Causes Contempt in Relationships
Kyla's Recommendation: Spend some time outside, ideally in the sun.Access the episode transcript.
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There's a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. It's a difficult and painful feeling of disconnection, and it's an emotion many of us feel at many different stages of life. We hope you find this episode validating and hopeful.
Aleigh's Recommendation: Abbott Elementary (available on Hulu, ABC, and more).
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What do you think of when you think of grief? A lost loved one? A missed opportunity? The classic rain + black umbrellas + outside sad funeral scene from movies? Grief is different for all of us, and this episode we try to dip our toes into its deep waters. Unlike other episodes this season, we focus less on what healthy or unhealthy responses to grief looks like and instead we seek to hold space for grief and mourning, to validate our various responses, and to encourage all of us not to step away from others in their grief but to learn to sit with them in it.
Arianna's Recommendation: The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobeby C.S. Lewis
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It gets messy when, in a relationship, two people are happy with two different things... like one person is fine just "talking" and the other wants to put a label on the relationship. Or one friend is okay texting sporadically while the other wants to communicate much more regularly. We're calling this phenomenon "conflicting contentment, " and in this episode our hosts discuss ways to navigate what sometimes feels like a brick wall.
Blythe's Recommendation: Get a library card. Access the episode transcript.
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There are times and seasons in our lives and relationships when we feel helpless -- when someone we care about is going through something that we can't change or fix. On this episode, our hosts lean in to empathy and discuss healthy ways to respond to helplessness.
Kyla's Recommendation: Crocheting
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For you, is it worse to do/say something and wish you hadn't or to not do/say something and wish you had? There's no right or wrong answer, and both are incredibly difficult. On this episode, we're addressing how regret shows up in relationships.Blythe's Recommendation: Grilled cheese on rosemary sourdough bread with tomato soup (and friends!)
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No two people are the same, and that can be a wonderful and beautiful thing. It can also make relationships with ourselves and others complicated, because it can be easy to compare ourselves to others or others to each other in ways that are unhelpful and shame-inducing.
Arianna Recommendation: Divergent series by Veronica Roth
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New relationships are really exciting, and sometimes existing relationships can feel... stagnant. Or even boring. In this episode, we talk about how boredom shows up in relationships and what it looks like to respond to it in creative and kind ways.
References: Washington Post article "Boredom is a warning sign. Here's what it's telling you." by Richard Sima
Blythe's Recommendation: How Cultures Create Emotions by Batja Mesquita
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Sometimes we feel like "It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me." Shame sounds a lot like that -- believing we're not good enough and are unworthy of love and belonging. This week, we're discussing how shame shows up in relationships and how to respond to this uncomfortable feeling in safe and healthy ways.
Aleigh's Recommendation: Reservation Dogs (Hulu Series)
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Quote above in reference to Taylor Swift's, "Anti-Hero."
Does fire shoot out of your head like Inside Out's Anger character when you get angry? If so -- wow. While many of us don't become literal torches, anger is a near universal emotion and something we all experience to some capacity. It's inevitable and therefore so important that we know how to respond to it in healthy ways that preserve the dignity of those around us.
Arianna's Recommendation: A Measure of Belonging: Twenty-One Writers of Color on the New American South ed. by Cinelle Barnes
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Foreboding joy is a term coined and described by Dr. Brené Brown. In this episode, our hosts discuss how Dr. Brown's term is a widely experienced emotion that sits at the intersection of joy, vulnerability, and gratitude, and how it has a significant impact on the relationships with ourselves and others.
Arianna's Recommendation: Try a new hobby or activity!
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Relationships are complicated, and sometimes when we say we're over something, we're not actually over it... Cue: grudges. In this episode, our hosts break down what grudges are, how they can be unhelpful in our relationships, and what to do instead.
Blythe's Recommendation: Our Planet (Netflix)
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This episode our hosts are talking about the connection between disappointment and expectations, compromise, and clear communication.
Kyla's Recommendation: Stretching and listening to your body's needs.
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Having a crush, catching feels, or "like liking" someone can be really fun and exciting, but there are times when we can use those feelings for harm. On this episode, our hosts talk about the difference between attraction and feelings and how both are normal but still need to be responded to respectfully.
Aleigh's Recommendation: The Big Brunch on HBO Max
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Does it feel worse to be rejected or to reject someone? Whatever your answer, rejection is a difficult action and feeling. While there are many ways to respond to rejection, the most important thing is that our response is safe and respectful.
Arianna's Recommendation: Watch Avatar: The Way of Water
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Welcome back to Real-ationship Goals podcast - we're excited to be in Season 4, which is all about uncomfortable feelings that we experience in relationships.
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This was the most challenging tension for us as hosts to hold -- that people who abuse have often experienced deep trauma, but at the same time there is absolutely no excuse for abusive behavior. It is important that we all recognize that both things are true, and doing so does not minimize the abuse or experience of survivors.
Arianna's Recommendation: white chocolate mocha from Starbucks
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Boundaries are essential in healthy relationships -- they establish what we want and don't want, what we're going to do and not do, or share and not share. But what's the difference between a boundary and a border? How do we know that we're not just shutting people and connection out but calling it a boundary? We're discussing this tension on the podcast this week and hope to find nuance in this conversation
Aleigh's Recommendation: Brené Brown's interview with the Gottmans on her podcast, Unlocking Us
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Have you seen this TikTok? Or that meme? Or that your best friend from 7th grade who moved away is now off to college or having a baby or just made spaghetti for dinner? We ask questions like these of ourselves and others all the time because social media is all around us and part of our lives, for better or for worse. In this episode, our hosts wrestle through this tension and try to hold two things at once -- that social media keeps us connected and disconnected at the same time.
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One core piece of a healthy relationship is support. Good friends and partners are there for one another when they need it. At the same time, we all have limits, and sometimes we're just at capacity. So how do these things fit together? What does it look like to support our friends and partners when we're maxed out? And how do we care for ourselves in the midst of it?
Arianna's Recommendation: Create a stress jar or aquarium jar.
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Relationships aren't always 50/50, and that's okay. But when does that become not okay? How do we both hold our friends, partners, coworkers, etc. to high expectations while also giving them grace and flexibility that we all often need?
Aleigh's Recommendation: Cook with someone and learn a new recipe (or just even perfect a recipe if you've made it before)
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Spending time with people we love is so good and important -- but sometimes it can be hard or even exhausting to do so after a long day, especially if work/school is already very people filled. We're hoping to balance this tension with compassion and encouragement as we highlight the many dynamics within this relationship contradiction.
Kyla's Recommendation: Tomato soup and a crispy grilled cheese
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What's the difference between taking space and avoiding conflict? How do we address our feelings while talking through conflict without boiling over in anger? And how do we respond to that anger in healthy ways? We're addressing all this and more as we talk about the tension between needing to talk but not wanting to do so while angry.
Blythe's Recommendation: Get a library card
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Y'all compromise is hard but it's so essential to healthy, equitable relationships. This week the hosts discuss the tension between the necessity of compromise and the non-negotiables we have within all of our relationships.
Arianna's Recommendation: Journaling (and especially the journals from Walmart)
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None of us are perfect, and we all make mistakes. At the same time, growth is necessary in every relationship, and if there is not change after issues are confronted, that's a significant red flag. In this episode, we're talking about holding these two things in tension.
Other episodes of the podcast referenced in this episode: Gaslighting and Deflecting Responsibility
Aleigh's Recommendation: Take the Mic edited by Bethany C. Morrow
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We're back for season three of Real-ationship Goals!
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Starting a conversation about relationships, boundaries, and expectations can feel really daunting -- especially if that conversation is with a parent or a young person. So in this episode, we're hoping to give you some starters and ideas for how to engage those around you.
View the digital Table Topics conversation card deck.
Listen to our interview with local high school students.
For any questions about physical Table Topic cards, programming, and more, you can email Aleigh at aascherl@advocacycntr.org.
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How on earth do we model asking for consent to the people around us - especially when asking for something like a kiss can feel really awkward? In this episode, we're getting really practical about what it looks like to model asking for consent - as well as modeling "no" - every single day.
Previous consent episodes: Season 1 and Season 2
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Students have A LOT to say about who their partner can and can't talk to or hang out with while they're dating, about how it makes them feel when their best friend sits with someone else at lunch, and about how people can get upset if they don't respond to a text right away. Navigating space, boundaries, and time apart (physically and digitally) can be really difficult in a relationship, so we're here to give some tips and tools to start a conversation about maintaining healthy independence within any relationship.
Previous episodes mentioned: Independence. Isolation. Interview with High School Students.
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Students have a LOT to say about sexting. And more specifically they have a lot to say about sending and receiving nude and explicit photos. Should we? Shouldn't we? Isn't it just a normal part of a relationship? This can be a tricky and uncomfortable topic, so in this episode we're giving you some tips on what to do if you've been sent a photo without your consent and how to have conversations about sending and receiving these types of photos.
Games mentioned: The Game of Things and Ticket to Ride
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Students have a LOT to say about passwords. And more specifically they have a lot to say about whether or not they should be required to share their passwords with a romantic partner or even best friend. In this episode we're giving you some tips on how to set digital boundaries and have conversations about doing so with many people in your life.
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In this episode Aleigh is joined by Alyssa, Kacy, and Savannah, three students from a local high school who participated in our programming this year, to talk all things relationships - what they've observed about relationships from their peers, what kind of relationships they see on TV, AND what they want all adults to know.
This is a special one, y'all. You don't want to miss it.
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Physical safety, emotional safety, and feeling safe to be yourself are all nonnegotiables in every relationship you're in.
Aleigh's Recommendation: Fresh Ink by Lamar Giles (and others)
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You should feel safe in every single one of your relationships. Full stop. Today we're covering the not just unhealthy, but abusive characteristic of feeling or being unsafe in relationships.
If you or someone you know is in a relationship that is unsafe, several hotline numbers are listed below, including the Advocacy Center's. When you are ready, we encourage you to reach out to someone.
RAINN Hotline Number: 800-656-4673
National Domestic Violence Hotline Number: 800-799-7233
National Deaf Domestic Violence Hotline Videophone Number: 855-812-1001
1in6.org & their helpline chat support men who have experienced abuse or assault
LGBT National Hotline Number: 888-843-4564
Katie's Recommendation: Read This to Get Smarter About Race, Class, Gender, Disability, and More by Blair Imani
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If equality in relationships isn't 50/50 all of the time, then what is it? Today Aleigh, Blythe, and Katie talk tennis, goats, and a new Netflix show as they breakdown what it means for our relationships to be equal and what it can look like.
Blythe's Recommendation: Turn bandanas, handkerchiefs, or old t-shirts into reusable napkins!
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As we start to wrap up the season, our last two unhealthy characteristics are two very important ones to be aware of. Today Aleigh, Blythe, and Katie are talking about inequality in relationships, and why someone having more power or control in a relationship is not just unhealthy but puts us on a path towards abusive relationships. You won't want to skip this one.
Our hosts mentioned One Love and Love is Respect this week, and we highly recommend all of their articles and resources.
Aleigh's Recommendation: Small Things Often podcast by the Gottman Institute
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Trust, dessert, secrets - this episode packs a lot in as our hosts break down what trust is and what it looks like.
Katie's recommendation: Brené Brown's BRAVING Inventory
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If you live in Texas, do you remember the snowpocalypse of Feb. 2021 -- and how the following week was sunny and near 70 degrees? If you do, then you might have felt gaslit by the weather - or at least we did. So on this episode, we're break down and highlight the unhealthy characteristic of gaslighting because, honestly, it's a bit confusing and hard to grasp.
Blythe's Recommendation: Something Was Wrong podcast by Tiffany Reese
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It can be easy to lose yourself in a relationship of any kind, so how do we make sure we stay true to who we are no matter who we're in relationship with? In this episode Aleigh, Blythe, and Katie talk all about the importance of independence in relationships.
Aleigh's Recommendation: Reread your favorite book.
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Having close friends and close relationships is so important -- but it can go too far when someone starts demanding they're our only close friend or close person. So how do we draw the line between isolation and just closeness? Aleigh, Katie, and Blythe wrestle with this and more in this episode about isolation.
Katie's Recommendation: Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Vaid-Menon
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No ifs, ands, or buts -- well at least no "buts" when it comes to a good apology! We've been talking a lot this season about unhealthy relationship characteristics, and an essential piece to a healthy relationship (because we all make mistakes) is a good apology. Tune in to learn a bit more about some core tenets of a high quality apology.
We recommend reading through the rest of Dr. Harriet Lerner's 9 Ingredients of a Good Apology.
Blythe's Recommendation: (With consent) Use the reminder or calendar app on a friend or loved one's phone to send them fun, sweet reminders during the day.
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In this episode we're bringing you our healthy alternative to belittling, and hearing how Christmas lights help Aleigh acknowledge and see someone's full humanity.
Blythe's Recommendation: The Hundred Wells of Salaga by Ayesha Harruna Attah
More information on Love Bombing
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Ever have someone say "But I was just joking!" after they insulted you or made you feel small? It's the worst. In this episode Aleigh, Blythe, and Katie talk about this and other signs of belittling in your relationships.
Aleigh's Recommendation: Breakfast Tacos
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Today we're talking about owning up to our mistakes and harmful behaviors and how "What Not to Wear" and Stacy London helped Blythe be accountable for one of hers.
Katie's Recommendation: Man Enough Podcast
Lizzo's Valentines Day Post
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Thanks to the timeless wisdom of Hannah Montana, we know that "Everyone makes mistakes / Everyone has those days". But while we might all make mistakes, it's important to be on the lookout for when someone isn't owning up to their mistakes or their harmful behaviors. Today's relationship red flag: deflecting responsibility.
Blythe's Recommendation: Cold brewing tea
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Whether Olivia Rodrigo, Doja Cat, or Nick Jonas are singing about it or you're feeling it, jealousy can find its way into our lives in a lot of ways. In the first episode of Season 2 we're talking all about jealousy, jealousy and how though it's a totally normal emotion it can be a major red flag in our relationships.
CORRECTION: We meant to define jealousy as a natural feeling of protectiveness (not possessiveness) that can easily get twisted and intertwined with fear, suspicion, and control.
Katie's recommendation: Follow @i_weigh on Instagram!
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Whether you're texting, Snapping, Zooming, or chatting with a pal in person, we're communicating all the time with all sorts of people. So why can it be one of the most difficult things to get right in a relationship?
Aleigh's Recommendation: Netflix's "Love on the Spectrum"
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We're back with a brand new season of Real-ationship Goals!
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In our final episode of the season, we're talking consent. It's necessary (and not just because we say so) but can be misunderstood. We've got the details on the basics of consent and how you're probably already great at it and just didn't know.
For videos explaining consent, check out Tea Consent and Cycling Through Consent.
Blythe's Recommendation: Our Company of Fools by Madelynn Orion.
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You're in relationships of all kinds throughout your entire life, so you better have a good idea of what makes a healthy relationship. We got you.
Check out Love is Respect's Healthy Relationship Quiz here (or a PDF version here).
Aleigh's Recommendation: Angie Thomas' Book Series: including The Hate U Give, On the Come Up, and Concrete Rose
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Conflict is unavoidable and necessary, but that doesn't mean it's always easy. In this episode we're talking disagreements, arguments, and the time Aleigh spent a whole year not confronting her very inconsiderate roommate.
Katie's Recommendation: Brene Brown's tactic of "The story I make up is."
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Before you repost that article or video online, take a listen to this episode as we talk about the constant information and messaging we're receiving every day from all types of media and how to navigate that.
Check out All Sides for information about news bias.
Blythe's Recommendation: Write letters with a pen pal!
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We assume a lot of things about others and ourselves just based on gender. Tune in to this episode to hear our takes on toys, gender reveal parties and being put in a (metaphorical) box.
Aleigh's Recommendation: "Moxie" on Netflix
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What happens when we believe something about someone without getting to know them? In this episode Aleigh, Blythe, and Katie talk stereotypes and the impact they can have.
Watch Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's TED Talk here.
Katie's Recommendation: The House in the Cerulean Sea by T.J. Klune
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Have you ever wondered what the difference is between sympathy and empathy? We've got that answer for you and more about how to practice becoming more empathic as a part of being in a healthy relationship.
Watch the Brene Brown empathy video here.
Blythe's Recommendation: Ranch Seasoning Mix
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Who are you? Who are the people around you? And why does it even matter?
Aleigh's Recommendation: "Slay" by Brittany Morris
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Do all people deserve respect? (Spoiler: we definitely think so)
Katie's Recommendation: "Clap When You Land" by Elizabeth Acevedo
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Welcome to Real-ationship Goals! In our the first episode, you'll meet our hosts and learn what to expect in this first season.
Aleigh's Recommendation: Follow @ACCVC_Prevention on Instagram
Blythe's Recommendation: Cool Salsa by Lori M. Carlson
Katie's Recommendation: "Amend" series by Netflix
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