Cope One Hundred: Recent Episodes
Leonie Brown
A coping style is a typical manner of confronting a stressful situation and dealing with it. There are three basic coping styles: task-oriented, emotion-oriented, and avoidance-oriented (Endler 1997). Emotion-focused coping is a type of stress management that attempts to reduce negative emotional responses associated with stress. Negative emotions such as embarrassment, fear, anxiety, depression, excitement and frustration are reduced or removed by the individual by various methods of coping.Mental Health matters and self improvement starts with us.Love yourself first, share your coping skills
Leonie talks about being right where we are supposed to be, and being our authentic self.
Leonie talks about some of the negative inpacts of fear, and encourages individuals to step out of the fear zone.
The expectations we place on others can sometimes lead to disappointments.Be realistic about unrealistic expectations and avoid disappointments.
Leonie apologies for the delay episode and explained the importance of self care and love.
Leonie shares the benefits she found when using patience in managing challenging situations.
Leonie shares how she used strategies developed in childhood, skills acquired through counselling and self belief, not only to survive during emotionally difficult times, but to thrive with peace and purpose.
Happy New Year and welcome to season six. How did you cope last year, and how can you utilise the coping skills you acquired in situation you may not be prepared for?
Leonie expresses her gratitude to Cope One Hundred listeners, rounds up the year 2023 with highlights and shares best wishes foe 2024.Thank you all for listening 🎶
Leonie said her apology for the sound quality of the last episode. She had to decide whether to remove it or allow it to be heard.Allowing it to be heard also emphasised that at times we may try our best and do not get the best results.The lesson received from this is to check each time without assumption, even when we have very little time in our busy schedules.
Kindness is a type of behaviour that displays consideration, generosity and care about your the feelings and that if others, without expecting anything in return.Be kind.
Being Self-Full is mastering the art of Self-Love, Self-Care and Self-Actualisation.Fill yourselves with love. Show love towards yourself before extending it to others.You cannot give what you don't have.Be Self-Full.
Leonie talks about exclusion, and explores self imposed exclusion. She believes that limiting beliefs could help to foster an exclusion mindset.
Leonie shares insight into moments in our lives when we need the support that are giving to others.
Learning to love yourselves is the greatest love of all. Love yourselves back to health.
Leonie explores unrealistic goal setting and its effect on our legacy. What are you chasing? What will your legacy be? Have you lived?Setting unrealistic, unachievable goals can negatively affect our emotions. Be sensible in your goal setting.
Leonie talks about the weight of disrespect and how it can negatively impact our lives. We always have a choice but at times choose not to use our choices. Choose yours today.
Bulling is a cowardly act. It is a repeatedly, intentional hurting of others demostraing an imbalance of power by another . Bullying can be physical, verbal or psychological. It can happen face-to-face or online. Help stop bullying by calling it out.
Patience is an important part of emotional intelligence and should be exercised in order to get a clearer assessment and diagnosis of the situations we encounter.
Leonie talks about self identification. Knowing yourself is the beginning of wisdom. You may never know who people think you are until they say it. Your positive impact on others say a lot about who you are.
Leonie talks about some of the things that really matter in life and encourages the use of emotional intelligence to manage some common challenges we face.
Timing is crucial to self development and self care.Your time to shine differs from another. Never measure your timing off another's progress. You have your own journeys take in the right time.
Leonie shares an exciting update, apologises for not publishing and thank listeners for their patience whilst she was on vacation.
What do you see when you look at others? Are our perceptions of others correct? Are we looking with unconscious bias?
Misrepresentation of self and emotions can cause distress and misplacement of emotions. Learn to represent yourself and not take ownership of other people's emotions.
Self care is the best care. Leonie explains why this week's episode is delayed due to her feeling need to refill her cup and do self recovery. A late podcast episode may follow this week if she feels better. Watch the space and thanks for your understanding and continuous support.
Leonie talks about leaving the right legacy. What are your expectations of yourself and others expectations of you? People will remember how you made them feel, even they forget what you did. Be remembered for the right reason.
The truth is defined as the quality or state of being true. Being true to yourself is the art of inner peace. The truth may be difficult for some but in the long term, the truth generally sets you free.
A person may experience emotional distress due to various factors, including grief, loss, trauma, stress, or toxic relationships. These experiences leave an imprint on the mind and body.
Spend your time doing things you enjoy. Yes, you can cry about your loss, grief, and painful experiences but learn to manage your pain appropriately. Seek help if you find that your pain is not managable
Being authentic is attractive and respected. Show up and glow with your truth and never minimise yourself to fit into any space. Take up your space because you earned it.
Leonie raised her own profile on her awareness. Awareness involves acknowledgement and understanding that something is happening or exists. It is important to be alert to your level of awareness and take actions on the findings. This act can save us a lot of emotional damage and help us to be emotionally intelligent.
Leonie shares a thrilling story of realising her dream. We can believe until we achieve. Never give up on your dreams and share your story to help others achieve their dreams.
Leonie describes her feelings over certain time in her life, and explains how she overcame thechallenges without compromising her emotions
Leonie shares how she uses her voice appropriately, yet silence herself at times when she knows she should really use her voice.The voice can make or break you if you misuse it. Listening and observing can prove more beneficial than using your voice in some cases.At times your inner voice is screaming louder than your outer voice.
Leonie shares her experience of multiple stressed individuals she came across recently. The most intriguing ones were the two young ladies ahe net who forget where they worked.Stress can destroy a person from inside out. Be stress aware and seek support to manage identified stress.
Leonie shares her feelings when she saw an old colleague thriving after a long episode of stunting. She beams with pride when she heard his journey since she planted a seed and witness the growth.
Leonie celebrated her birthday and wedding anniversary recently in a quiet fine style. She encourages others to choose to celebrate their own way and not be pressured into the expected norms.
Leonie shares her impact on the audience at the International Women's Day chatity event.
Leonie describes her feelings towards gratitude, success and what her most treasured success is. She also talks about her early childhood and how she used her mindset to challenge the expected norms.
Leonie shares her feelings and thought, and gave an insight into how she coped with recent events.
Leonie shares an update on her recovery and gives a preview for next weeks season 5 launch. Thank you for your patience and support.
A family member asked me to talk about how we manage ourselves over the festive season.
Giving advice can be much easier that taking our own advice at times. Leonie shares that she had not taken her own advice in the past, which lead to seek counselling. Following the counselling, Leonie has had some clarity and feels more able to take her own advice.
LB shares a story from a young lady who was very disappointed when she was not appointed to a role that she was doing. LB explains that not all disappointments should be viewed as a negative aspect of life. Looking at the situation from a positive perspective can help to manage the disappointments better.
Let us celebrate how far we have come and the strength it took to get us here. We are enough and should own our spaces.
It is wise to get a support network available for when we need them most. At times the people we would generally call on for support may be busy. It is good practice to have other systems in place to utilise if this occurs.
It is so sad to hear of individuals who are struggling to cope. Some people are finding it difficult to locate a listening ear. Please speak up and listen. It is good practise to help and seek help. Love starts with you.
We were designed to be free and pretending is a form of control. Using your voice appropriately can help you to find emotional peace. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Ask for help and nurture your well-being. Pretence can take a toll on our general health and well-being. Choose you first.
You cannot heal in the same environment where you got sick. LB has been recovering and has tried different coping strategies to manage this. She shares a gripping highlight of her struggles and where she is with her recovery.
For everything there is a season and a time for every activity undertaken. A time to plant and a time to harvest. During the planting and harvesting stages, you may experience some difficult times. Keep growing, even if you cannot see your growth. Your growth will become visible at the right time. How you manage your emotions is vital to the outcome of your purpose.
How do you manage stress at work? It can be challenging but it is possible to destress and manage ourselves better in and out of work. Challenge yourself to do better for yourself. Remove yourselves from the identified stressors. Always choose YOU!
There are things that some people never speak about. There are things that if spoken about could save a lot of hurt and prevent ongoing trauma to others.
Caring for others is good, but do not forget to be kind to yourself and take carebof YOU. No one knows your needs more than you do.
LB shares her thought on Black History Month. She believes creating our own history and leaving a legacy is a good way of injecting a great history for the future generations.
Domestic abuse is any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coersive, threatening degrading and violent behaviour, including sexual violence, in the majority of cases by a partner or an ex partner, but also by family member or carer. In the vast majority of cases it is experienced by women and perpetrated by men. Men also experience domestic abuse.
Domestic abuse can include, but is not limited to, the following:
• Coercive control (a pattern of intimidation, degradation, isolation and control with the use or threat of physical or sexual violence)
• Psychological and/or emotional abuse [2].
• Physical or sexual abuse.
• Financial or economic abuse.
• Harassment and stalking.
• Online or digital abuse.
Leonie shares how she shows gratitude to the people who mistreat her and use the painful experience to her advantage and no longer expects to be rescued. She is her own rescue.
I was asked to share my coping strategies for the day to day adversity I face. Each situation is unique but having a foundation coping style can help to manage them appropriately. We cannot change people's perceptions of us but we can change how we react to their behaviours towards us.
Value yourself and put some respect on your name. Know youself and claim the respect you deserve.
A father related his on-going pain of not seeing his daughter after her mother took her away and he has no knowledge of the reason they left or their home address.
A very ambitious and talented overseas worker gladly took a seemingly grand opportunity to travel to the UK to make a better life for herself and her family. What she found was not what she was promised and far from what she expected. She managed her situation the best way she could but had to seek help to manage her own health and well-being.
The words you use can affect the receiver for life. Be very careful not to destroy others with your negative comments. Some people are more delicate than others and may never revover from the hurt from your spoken words.
Compassion fatigue is a condition characterized by emotional and physical exhaustion leading to a diminished ability to empathize or feel compassion for others, often described as the negative cost of caring. It is sometimes referred to as secondary traumatic stress.
Using your voice help you to feel alive. Being alive does not mean that you are living. What does it truly mean to live?
"Being in the moment, awake and alive and able to enjoy things now. Not worrying about the past or postponing happiness to a distant future." – Dr. Joos Meyer, a medical doctor at Fremantle Hospital in Western Australia. "We need to be introspective to live an examined life. We speak life into our situations as we live innthe moments.
Welcome to season 4. Having realistic expectations can often limit our frustration and save us emotional trauma. Leonie updates us about herself and shares a story from one of the Cope One Hundred family member. Be realistic about your expectations from others to limit the frustrations for yourselves.
Jealously is one of the worst human traits to exhibit.Jealousy can come from feelings of low self-esteem or lack of confidence. And when someone is unhappy about themselves, feels anxious and insecure, this can lead to feelings of jealousy and being out of control. Jealousy is slightly different from envy. You can envy someone for something they haveJealousy can come from feelings of low self-esteem or lack of confidence. And when someone is unhappy about themselves, feels anxious and insecure, this can lead to feelings of jealousy and being out of control. Jealousy is slightly different from envy. You can envy someone for something they have.Jealousy can come from feelings of low self-esteem or lack of confidence. And when someone is unhappy about themselves, feels anxious and insecure, this can lead to feelings of jealousy and being out of control. Jealousy is slightly different from envy. You can envy someone for something they have and you may not be willing to put in the hard work they put in to get where they are. Instead of exhibiting jealousy, try showing support and appreciation for other people's journey. Some of us were not born into privileges and had to fight our way to success. Be kind and not blinded by jealousy.
Assumptions are things that are accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof.
Making assumptions can lead to disappointments and regrets. It is best to get the facts of a situation before putting your emotions in gear.
If we do not master the art of managing our emotions, our emotions will certainly manage us. Learn to act and not react or over react to situations that may be of detriment to your enotional well-being. Think about your emotions and use them appropriately to benefit your well-being.
Live, revive, revitalize, reanimate, resuscitate and live again. Existing is not an option but living is a choice.
Mental Health affects us in one way or another. We may experience mental ill-health or know people who do. Having conversations about issues affecting our mental health can ease some of the burdens we carry alone. Talk to someone today if you feel mentally challenged. Trust the process and enjoy mental health instead of mental ill-health.
Inflicted pain can be hurtful and is avoidable. If we act from a place of love we can stop hurting others. Many people carry around hurt for many years and either pass it on to others or entrap themselves in the hurt and not thrive. Be mindful of how you handle or mishandle others you cross paths with. Be remembered for the right reasons.
Our emotions can be either aggravated by others or self stimulated. How we respond to either, will determine our emotional maturity. When we give others the authority ro puppet our emotions we also give them the permission to take our peace. Manage your emotions and cherish your peace.
In life, we may face some unexpected situations that can rapidly change our emotions. Have you got anyone to talk to? If not, do contact the relevant services if you find you are not managing the situation appropriately. Talking about it is good and help you make sense of the situation. Check online, ask a friend, speak with health professionals before it gets unmanageable.
Life can throw many challenges at us sometimes. How we handle them depends on how much we can manage our emotions when we think about each situation. Leonie shares how she has managed to handle many situations by appropriately labelling and managing her emotions.
To celebrate your self means to express admiration and approval for your self. We could sometimes wait for this act for years and not receive it. Therefore, it is vital that we celebrate our selves. We should acknowledge the good things in our lives more readily than focusing on the not so good ones.
Stop doing some of the things you normally do, see the difference it makes and feel the changes manifest in your lives.
Life is full of lessons to help us cope with everyday life. Sharing our lessons can be beneficial to many people and help to prevent some mistakes we generally make that can be prevented. When something profoundly changes a person's life, it may be referred to as a life lesson. A life lesson is just what it sounds like -a lesson you learn in life. It's really based on the idea of learning from your mistakes. These lessons could be described as defining moments that are remembered.
Being a new mother is like being a new child. The lifelong learning begins and never ends. The expectations and the realities can seem distant to many. However, only the mother knows how she feels and what support and coping strategies she finds helping. It is important to pay attention to both mother and baby as both need the right support to flourish well. Do note that people may not look how they feel and some people do not know how to asked for help
LB shares some strategies she used to thrive following several different types of bulling at different times in her life. She has used the negative experiences to turn her pain into purpose. The effects of bullying did not stop her from achievement her goals in life. #NoToBullying.
No one should have to experience bulling and it's lasting effects. Nevertheless, life has many unpleasant surprises, experiences and unkind individuals who want others to feel the way they do. Whether you are a bully, have been bullied or witnessed bullying, it is time to take actions against bulling by exploring effective strategies and support to deal with it. Remember, people may forget what you say and do to them but never forget how you made them feel. What will you be remembered for?
A 72 year old grandad disclosed how bullies hurt him so bad that he quit education at age 14. He reported having anger issues that affects his life to date. He is a loving , kind and caring gentleman with such an inspirational outlook on life.
There are moments in our life when we are let down by circumstances which are not in our control.
These are times when we are on the edge of giving it all up, not knowing a way out of it all. Times when there's no one around to help us get back up.
In moments like these, we need to know that time shall heal all, and we will rise above. There is no mountain too big; there is no river too deep; we are all capable of greatness. Life is full of ups and downs, and if you're persistent enough, you will eventually reach your goals. That is what it means to 'rise above'.
Throughout life, we face all kinds of problems. Be it our career, relationship, health, or wealth, there will never be a moment when every aspect of our life is perfect. These imperfections build character and resilience. As we grow we learn how to process situations appropriately and rise above our circumstances.
Facing disappointments can be daunting but how we deal with them determines the outcomes. Give yourself time to reflect. Allow yourself time to make sense of what went wrong, grieve your loss and think about why the disappointment happened. Adjust your expectations and re-evaluate the situation.
Don't let your disappointment linger for too long. Timely actions are important, as delaying could affect your physical health.
Create a positive mantra to counter the painful thoughts. Create physical distance from the situation. Do your own work on yourself and practice mindfulness. Be gentle with yourself and know that there are ups and downs as we go through life, and if you are down that means the only other way is up. Allow the negative emotions to flow and engage in self-care
Believing in yourself includes things like self-worth, self-confidence, self-trust, autonomy, and environmental mastery. Self-worth is the sense that you have value as a human being. Self-confidence is a positive attitude about your abilities, qualities, and judgment. Self-trust is faith that you can rely on yourself. Self belief is the right direction in managing any emotion or situation. Never allow anyone to take your self belief.
Mental health problems affect around one in four people in any given year. They range from common problems, such as depression and anxiety, to rarer problems such as schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. What does awareness mean in mental health?
Awareness is about developing an understanding of one's mental health and well-being needs and the potential to be vulnerable to further episodes of mental ill-health. Identify trigger, monitoring and effectively managing them can significantly reduce our risks of mental ill-health. Do remember that it is okay to say 'no' and 'I am not okay'. Mental health is real and affects more people than we recognise. Support yourselves and others in de-stigmatising Mental Health.
Confidence is something that many men grapple with internally, but it’s also something that shows in your actions and in your words. A confident man is, overall, happy with the way he is. This doesn't mean that he can't improve and get better, but he's not insecure about it and is not ashamed of himself. Confident men typically don't avoid certain things just because they're afraid of being judged. Live your truth. Be brave and proud to know that you are enough.
Socrates once said, “To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom”. So, how do you know yourself and why is it important? If you do not know who you are, you'll have no idea where you want to go. ... If you do not have a full understanding of who you are then how are others supposed to get to know you.
Positive thinking doesn't mean that you keep your head in the sand and ignore life's less pleasant situations. Positive thinking just means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst. Positive thinking often starts with self-talk. Self-talk is the endless stream of unspoken thoughts that run through your head. These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self-talk comes from logic and reason. Other self-talk may arise from misconceptions that you create because of lack of information.
If the thoughts that run through your head are mostly negative, your outlook on life is more likely pessimistic. If your thoughts are mostly positive, you're likely an optimist - someone who practices positive thinking.
Men's health refers to a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being, as experienced by men, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity. Some conditions that affect both men and women, such as cancer, and injury, also manifest differently in men. It is vital that we pay great attention to our health, whether we are men or women.
Cultivating gratitude is an important part of recovery. Gratitude is recognised as one of the foundational virtues in the creation of happiness. If individuals are grateful to be on the road to recovery, then it is less likely they will relapse because they are empowered to move forward. I exercised tremendous gratitude and found it quite instrumental in my recovery process.
If a situation or action is too much for you, it is so difficult, tiring or upsetting that you cannot cope with it. Recognising when it is too much can help us to cope with many situations that we face in our lives.
The key to recovery is forgiveness and letting go of anger and resentment. Forgiving doesn't mean saying the pain doesn't matter or that what the other person said or did was OK. It doesn't mean forgetting what happened. It means letting go of your need for an apology or for revenge.
LB shares her experience with emotional comparison and gives an update on her counselling.
LB explores some of the reasons behind setting up our Podcast and reiterate it's purpose.
LB shares some important points she found in finding peace through emotional discipline.
LB shares some important examples of how sharing emotional pain can at times help you and others.
LB shares some important points about emotional engagement - especially with our children.
LB gives an insight into how she developed some coping strategies to use during recovery.
Some changes can affect the emotional state of both men and women. Men feel the emotional effects of changes as well and some struggle with managing them.
LB talks about how emotional distance has helped her to manage different challenging situations and shares her thoughts on the subject.
LB shares how mindfulness has helped her in her daily life and give examples of how she found inner peace.
LB shares examples of how knowing herself from a young age has helped her to focus throughout life which helped her managed different emotions effectively.
LB shares some of her examples of changing the narratives and maximising potentials in challenging situation.
LB explores some of the benefits she experienced in accepting both positive and negative emotions.
LB shares how she accepts, manages and stays on top of stress. She also explores lived experiences and examples of mindful strategies she used to reduce stress.
LB shares - a thank you message to Angela for her public feedback. LB talks about how she finds tremendous benefits in acknowledging the source of her emotions and looking for the triggers and resolutions.
LB shares examples of long standing emotional triggers that can delay emotional growth and wellbeing. She gives some examples of her own triggers ans hiw she tries to manage them appropriately.
LB shares her reflections and talks on an emotionally challenging event that occurred this week. She believes we should practice telling people about their positive attributes when they are alive as opposed to when they pass on.
LB shares her own struggles with expressing emotions felt in certain situation. Her humility and gratitude have helped he to stay grounded. She find that feedback and support are vital to self growth and explores her reactions to some situations.
LB shares her experience of acknowledging and appropriately utilising different types if emotions to positively impact her life.
LB shares her experience on the positive impact of effectively utilising emotional agility, especially in unforseen circumstances.
LB shares how she uses singing as an emotional motivator throughout life. She encourages people to sing their way out of emotional distress.
LB shares - Regulating negative and positive emotions effectively to influence decision making.
LB - Shares some techniques used to manage stress. CB - shares some helpful stress management tips and the importance of teamwork in a relationship.
LB shares how thoughts, feelings and forgiveness play a vital role in managing emotions associated with disappointment.
NZ - shares how lonliness and homelessness brought him to a low point in his life. Someone sent him out podcast andbit gave him some hope. NZ has never spoken about his situation and felt comfortable doing so through this medium.
LB talks about her own beliefs on - expectations, recites and explains the impact of the Jamaica 🇯🇲 National Anthem on her life.
OS shares that he is unsure what normal is and how to cope in these times. He is so busy in studio that coping strategies never crossed his mind.
LB - How the use of Emotional Intelligence can help to navigate emotions appropriately in uncertain times.
Leonie reminds us of how the platform can potentially help us and others, update on the launch after the first responder, ways of sharing and thanks.
KL talks about utilising coping strategies and some available platfoms to regulate her emotions during another lockdown.
PO talks about how she copes with isolation and gives her top tips for managing her emotional.
This week we invite you to share your experiences on coping strategies used to manage our emotional wellbeing and reflect on how we can help each other with coping. Manging emotions, emotional regulations and coping strategies are vital to our well-being.