Porn and The Gospel: Recent Episodes

Spencer Sutton

For the Christian man, pornography use is at an all-time high. The most recent statistics indicate that 51% of all Americans seek out porn. And even though 80% of pastors believe porn use is a massive issue in their church, only 7% say they have a way to help men who desire to live a life of purity.

This podcast is for brothers in Christ who are struggling with porn and want to walk in sexual purity. We will explore how the Gospel destroys sexual sin and how a Christian man can leave the shame and guilt of habitual porn use behind and enjoy fellowship with Christ and live a life of purpose.

This is a Natural Porn Killer podcast.

Every man's struggle with sexual sin is different, but the road out is the same. In this episode I lay out the five markers of that road...

The valley of despair
The awakening
The long struggle
Transformation
Stewardship

Then I walk through Moses in Exodus 1–2: how he spent 40 years being shaped in Pharaoh's house, took things into his own hands, fled to the wilderness, and spent another 40 years being emptied of his false identity before God could use him. If you keep having victory and then falling again, if you're asking "why is this taking me so long," this one is for you. Transformation is real, it's God's work, and it's worth it...but there are no shortcuts to the peak.

What gets in the way when men fight pornography? In this episode, Spencer shares the five mistakes he sees most often after years of coaching and walking alongside men in this struggle: staying silent, looking for an easy solution, refusing to see it as all-out war, believing it will go away "when…," and failing to guard the heart with vigilance.

Along the way he draws on Scripture (1 John 1, Galatians 5, Romans 7–8, Proverbs 4, Psalm 78 and 108), the "funnel of fruitfulness," and hard-won lessons from his own life. He also folds in insights from other men he asked—including his son Grant—on identity, spiritual warfare, and the trap of chasing systems instead of Christ.

The takeaway: you're not strong enough on your own, and that's the point. Real freedom comes from throwing yourself fully on the grace and mercy of God.

Why do we keep giving in to the same sins? Because we've believed a lie. Spencer walks through Hebrews 11:13-19 and lands on one word: considered.

It's the same Greek word Paul uses in Romans 6:11 when he says "consider yourselves dead to sin." It means to take an inventory. To deliberately think through what's true.

Three things every man needs to consider daily. Then Spencer gets practical about what your time with God actually looks like, including a 6-layer funnel for engaging with Scripture.

I go straight at something I talk about with every man I walk with: you are at war. I start in 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 and unpack what Paul meant when he said our weapons aren't fleshly but carry divine power to destroy strongholds.

Then I tell a story from the San Diego Zoo that reframes the whole thing. Our tour guide pointed out that the zoo's lions had no scars, no hunger, no enemies. "Showcase lions," she called them. Born into ease. They'd die the same way. Wild lions? Shorter lives. Scarred bodies. But free. I draw the line: too many of us are living like caged lions, wanting comfort and calling it faithfulness. Peter says to arm yourself with the mind of Christ. And Christ's mind was simple: not my will, but yours. That's the weapon. That's the war.

Spencer reflects on a friend who called him nearly 100 days ago in crisis, and how that one act of raising his hand to say "I need help" changed everything. From there, Spencer looks at the Apostle Paul's prayers across his letters, specifically how often Paul asked others to pray for him. Three things emerge from Paul's prayer requests that every man needs to hear: the faith of Paul, the humility of Paul, and the mindset of Paul. Spencer walks through Old Testament and New Testament examples of answered prayer, shares what's been happening in his own weekly prayer group, and challenges listeners to examine whether they're using prayer as a wartime weapon or a domestic intercom.

Key Points* When men raise their hand and say "I need help," it's one of the most powerful and difficult things they can do. * Paul didn't just pray for others. He repeatedly, urgently asked others to pray for him. * The faith of Paul: He had studied, heard eyewitness accounts, and personally experienced the power of prayer (Moses, Abraham, Hannah, Elijah, Hezekiah, Solomon, Peter, Cornelius, his own conversion). * The humility of Paul: Even as the man writing most of the New Testament and seeing God do extraordinary things, he never put himself above needing prayer. * The mindset of Paul: He saw life as war and prayer as a weapon, not a comfort device. * Spencer shares how a simple text to his friend Olan ("Do you want to start getting together and praying once a week?") grew into a weekly Monday morning prayer gathering of five men, and the answered prayers that have followed. * Quotes from E.M. Bounds, Paul Miller, and John Piper on the nature and purpose of prayer.

In this episode of Porn and the Gospel, Spencer returns after a long break with a personal update about leaving Evernest and stepping back into work with neverthirst. He reflects on God’s providence, answered prayer, and the importance of walking in truth.

The main focus of the episode is simple: truth and prayer belong together. A life of secrecy, deceit, and hidden sin will hinder prayer, but walking in the light brings freedom, clarity, and joy in Christ.

Spencer encourages men struggling with pornography or habitual sin to stop hiding, tell the truth, come to God as helpless, and plead the blood of Christ. Freedom begins by stepping into the light and depending fully on the power of God.

Key Scriptures Mentioned* 1 Peter 4:7-11 . Be self-controlled and sober-minded for the sake of your prayers. * Romans 12:1-2 . Be transformed by the renewal of your mind. * Philippians 4:8 . Think on what is true.

In this episode of Porn and the Gospel, host Spencer Sutton invites brothers in Christ to take the first step on the ladder of blessing—becoming “poor in spirit.” Drawing from Matthew 5:3 and insights from Jerry Bridges, Charles Spurgeon, and Dane Ortlund, Spencer explores what true humility before God looks like for men striving for purity and holiness.

Through Scripture, reflection, and prayer, he reminds us that we cannot lead our families, workplaces, or ourselves without first surrendering our pride and acknowledging our spiritual poverty. This is where grace begins—and where real transformation takes root.

Key Takeaways Poverty of spirit is an attitude of the heart. True humility isn’t about behavior—it’s about posture before God. * God blesses the humble. He dwells with the contrite and revives the heart of the lowly (Isaiah 57:15). * Confession is freedom. Like the tax collector in Luke 18*, we come to God not with good works, but with open repentance. * Seeing God clearly reveals our need. When Isaiah saw the Lord, he said, “Woe is me!” before receiving cleansing and calling. * Humility magnifies grace. As Dane Ortlund writes, Christ is a billionaire in mercy—our dependence only deepens His display of grace. * Spiritual ambition and humility can coexist. Christ modeled both: total commitment to God’s mission and total lowliness of heart.

Scripture References* Matthew 5:2–3 — “Blessed are the poor in spirit…” * Deuteronomy 8:2 — God humbles to reveal what’s in our hearts. * Isaiah 57:15 — God dwells with the contrite and lowly. * Luke 18:11–14 — The Pharisee and the tax collector. * Isaiah 6:5 — “Woe is me, for I am lost.” * Philippians 4:13 — Contentment through Christ, not self-sufficiency.

Episode SummaryIn this episode of Porn and the Gospel, Spencer unpacks one piercing verse from Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount — Matthew 5:20 — and shows how it cuts through our pride and performance to reach the real issue: the heart.

Jesus said, “Unless your righteousness exceeds that of the scribes and Pharisees, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.”

Most of us try to fix our behavior — to stop looking at pornography, to clean up bad habits, to appear holy on the outside — while our hearts remain unchanged. But Jesus makes it clear: you can’t fake holiness or white-knuckle your way into purity. Only the Great Physician can perform the open-heart surgery your soul truly needs.

Through Scripture, honest reflection, and a story of a friend caught in adultery, Spencer reminds us that sin is subtle and deadly — like arteries slowly clogging — and that only surrender to Christ brings real change.

This isn’t about trying harder. It’s about laying your heart bare before God and letting Him do the deep, painful, yet loving work of transformation.

Key Scriptures* Matthew 5:20 — “Unless your righteousness exceeds that of the scribes and Pharisees, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.” * Philippians 1:6 — “He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”

In this episode, we will dive deep into the events surrounding the assassination of Charlie Kirk — not just the headlines, but what believers can learn from his life, his faith, and his example.

Charlie Kirk wasn’t perfect (none of us are), but his clarity of purpose and devotion to Christ left a mark. From his candid admission of past struggles with pornography to his unwavering conviction that faith comes before politics, Charlie’s life points us toward something bigger: living every day with a North Star that glorifies God.

We'll walk through:

Why Charlie’s openness about past battles matters for men wrestling with sin
How purpose and calling give strength to overcome temptation
Why true faith always leads to righteous action, not passive religion
The descent, turning point, and ascent of Psalm 73 — and what it teaches us when evil seems to flourish
Why nearness to God is the only true cure for sin and despair

This is both a sober reflection and a rallying cry: don’t waste your life sitting on the sidelines. Draw near to God, take your eyes off the world, and live boldly for Christ.

Key Takeaways* Faith and Purpose Crush Sin: Freedom doesn’t come by willpower alone but through Christ and a clear sense of calling. * Psalm 73’s Lesson: The turning point comes when we stop comparing ourselves to others and fix our eyes on God. * Your Life Has to Count: We weren’t saved to coast into heaven on a “featherbed.” True faith produces works that glorify God. * Nearness to God Is the Cure: As Spurgeon said, “The greater our nearness to God, the less we are affected by the attractions and distractions of earth.”

Scripture Anchors* Matthew 28 — The Great Commission as our North Star * Psalm 73 — From envy and doubt to joy in God alone * James 2:17 — Faith without works is dead

Closing ChallengeStop living defensively. Stop hiding. Lift your eyes to God, draw near, and live with eternity in mind.

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In this episode of Porn and the Gospel, we tackle one of the most dangerous threats to a man’s walk with Christ...deception. From James 1 to Colossians 2, we uncover why every man is prone to believe lies and how those lies can quietly shipwreck your faith.

You’ll learn:

Why it’s easier to justify sin than to dig for God’s truth
How to identify the “plausible arguments” Paul warned about
The daily habits that protect you from deception and strengthen your spiritual foundation
The powerful picture Proverbs 9 paints of wisdom and folly—and why you can’t remain neutral
Three reflection questions that will challenge your walk with God this week

This isn’t just about avoiding sin. It’s about building your life on the bedrock of God’s Word instead of the sinking sand of human reasoning.

If you’re tired of being tossed around by temptation, distraction, and half-truths, this episode will point you back to the hidden treasure of wisdom and knowledge found only in Christ.

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In this week’s raw and honest episode, we’re going deep. Deeper than porn. Deeper than behavior. This is about the heart and the eternal battle between comfort and calling.

You’ll hear a powerful story about Alexander the Great and how his army’s success became their greatest hindrance. And how that same pattern plays out in the lives of Christian men today. Spoils become shackles. Comfort becomes compromise. And sin, both obvious and subtle, keeps us from the race we were meant to run.

But we’re not left without an example. Jesus, the greater King, burned every worldly treasure to obey the will of the Father—and then called us to follow Him. Not to simply “go,” but to follow.

You’ll discover:

Why the call to follow Jesus means radical surrender
How to throw off the “weighted vest” of comfort and sin
A practical challenge to fix your eyes on Christ...not other Christians, not your Instagram feed, not your bank account
And a live invite to join a free workshop on biblical meditation (inside the Man of Valor community)

This is not about white-knuckling your way out of pornography. It’s about magnifying Christ and living for something that will never fade.

Mentioned in this episode:

The Alexander the Great story and spiritual parallel
Hebrews 12:1–4 | Philippians 2 | 1 Peter 2 | 2 Corinthians 8:9
Quotes from Charles Spurgeon
The “Murph Workout” analogy to carrying spiritual weight
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Here's the truth:“You don’t need another strategy. You need surrender.”

In this episode, Spencer unpacks what the Word of God reveals about overcoming sin, walking by the Spirit, and living with power in a world designed to defeat you.

We start with a battle scene—one king, 580,000 soldiers… facing an army of over 1 million. And what unfolds becomes a divine blueprint for anyone locked in a fight they’re losing—especially the fight against porn, shame, guilt, and the flesh.

But this isn’t a sin-management strategy.
This is about warfare. Worship. Total surrender.

In This Episode, You’ll Discover: The 5 biblical steps to spiritual victory drawn from King Asa’s story * Why most men live powerless, defeated lives—and don’t even realize it * The subtle trap of chasing relief over relationship with Christ * Why “half-hearted” Christianity guarantees defeat * What it really means to “walk by the Spirit” in 2025 * How success in God’s eyes has nothing to do with streaks, stats, or milestones * The most honest prayer* you can pray as a man today

Key Quotes:“Unless you are helpless before God, you will have no victory.”

“You can’t drag your flesh behind you and expect to walk by the Spirit.”

“Men will do anything—buy anything—except the one thing Scripture commands: surrender.”

“If you’re not giving God your whole heart… just be okay with defeat.”

Who This Episode Is For:* Men battling porn or any other stronghold * Anyone who’s tired of temporary victory and longs for deep change * Believers who feel spiritually dry, weak, or stuck * Those who want to move from “flesh-driven” to Spirit-led living

Scripture Featured:* 2 Chronicles 14 & 15 (King Asa’s battle and covenant) * 1 Corinthians 3 (Carnal vs. spiritual Christians) * Romans 8 (Life in the Spirit) * Luke 9 & Matthew 16 (Radical discipleship)

In this soul-stirring episode of Porn and the Gospel, Spencer dives deep into one of the boldest prayers ever recorded in Scripture—the moment Moses stood between God and a rebellious people and said, “Blot me out of your book.”

What gives a man such courage? What kind of intimacy with God allows you to pray not just for yourself—but with fire and urgency for others?

You’ll discover:

Why your freedom from sin is about God’s glory, not just your relief.
The missing link in most men’s prayer lives—and how to restore it.
Why habitual sin kills your concern for others—and how intercessory prayer breaks that cycle.
What Paul and Moses shared in common when they prayed.
A powerful, practical prayer from Ephesians 3 you can start praying today—for your wife, your brother, or even someone far from God.

Spencer brings Scripture, vulnerability, and a call to arms for every man who wants to go deeper in his walk with God and learn how to intercede with boldness.

Key Scriptures:* Exodus 32:30–32, 33:13–18 * Ephesians 3:14–21 * Galatians 6:1–2

Ask Yourself:* Who are you praying for with boldness? * Is God’s glory your deepest motivation—or are you just asking for relief? * What would happen in your life if you began praying like Moses and Paul?

Share This Episode If:* You’re tired of surface-level prayers. * You’re ready to be used by God to bring restoration and revival. * You know someone drifting away from the faith and want to fight for them in prayer.

In this episode, we'll discusses the struggles many men face in breaking free from destructive habits like pornography and masturbation. Based on scripture, we'll outline three key conditions for achieving spiritual fulfillment and joy: recognizing one's deep thirst and desires, believing in the truth and promises of the word of God, and asking the Holy Spirit to dwell in one's life.

In this raw and timely episode, Spencer speaks straight to the soul of every man walking the path toward purity. He shares how sexual sin doesn’t start in the bedroom, but in the heart. Drawing from Proverbs 4:23, he explains why guarding your heart is not optional—it’s spiritual life support.

You’ll hear the story of a brother facing deep relational brokenness because of compromise. You’ll hear how the slow drift into isolation and secrecy is Satan’s favorite trap. But most of all, you’ll be reminded of God’s promises, the power of confession, and the battle plan every man needs.

This episode is loaded with real talk, biblical truth, and powerful encouragement to:

Fight before the fall, not just after
Replace entitlement with worship
Trade secrecy for accountability
Pursue Christ as your true satisfaction

Spurgeon said, “If you want pure power in prayer, you must have purity in life.” You’re not just after freedom from porn, you’re after power for God’s purpose.

Key Verse: Proverbs 4:23 – "Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life."

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Recently, I was attending a mastermind in Dallas and I wanted to share some thoughts I had about a successful investor with significant material wealth and zero debt. What can we learn, if we are payin attention, to those with tremendous worldly success in this life?

00:00 Introduction and Host Welcome

00:14 Real Estate Journey and Mastermind Experience

01:40 Insights from Successful Investors

04:02 The True Meaning of Success

05:45 Biblical Perspective on Wealth and Joy

11:24 Reflection and Encouragement

12:56 Closing Prayer and Final Thoughts

In this episode of 'Porn and the Gospel,' we look at John 15:9-10 and explore how the principles of Robert Sternberg's Triangulation of Love theory can illuminate a deeper, more fulfilling relationship with God. I want to challenge you to evaluate your own relationships with God. Is willpower enough? Or does it require something more? Does it require deep emotional intimacy and passionate desire? This episode encourages reflection on how best to cultivate a rich, holistic love for God to combat temptations and grow in faith.

The Morning Hours - Prayer, Power, and Purity

Psalm 5:3 ~ O LORD, in the morning you hear my voice; in the morning I prepare a sacrifice for you and watch.

Let me begin this by saying, I understand that some men believe that they work and think and get energy mostly in the evening. And in doing so, they don’t give much thought to how they spend their mornings. If this is you, I want to challenge your assumptions. I want you to consider that prayer and preparation in the morning is far more valuable than evening productivity.

The man who is at war with lust must not sleep in. This war starts before your feet hit the floor. David says, “O Lord, in the morning you hear my voice.” And Spurgeon said it like this: “Prayer should be the key of the day and the lock of the night.”

Because your enemy doesn’t sleep, rest, or care about your excuses, it is imperative that we wake early and begin with careful and precise prayers to our Lord and God.

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In this episode, I'll be speaking specifically to a message from a brother who was looking for help and encouragement. This is what he said:

"I feel so hopeless, I say I want to be free, ive confessed to friends and even to family. Set up accountability but I somehow end up isolating from them and going back into porn. I know it requires commitment to fight to make any progress.... I just can't seem to muster any lasting commitment. I really want to. I just don't seem to be able to and it's making me feel hopeless. HELP!"

Tune in to hear how I respond.

In this episode, we'll explore the three characteristics of a man who experiences the presence of God. We'll be diving into Psalms 15:1-2 for much needed encouragement because, as men of God, there should be nothing more we desire than to live with integrity before the Lord in our daily lives.

In this episode, Spencer shares a deeply personal story about the recent tragic death of his brother-in-law, Mark Meadows, a police officer and Army veteran.

Sutton reflects on the fleeting nature of life and the importance of cherishing relationships over material pursuits. He emphasizes the urgent need for men, especially in the church, to engage in spiritual warfare against the schemes of the devil, particularly in the battle against pornography and sexual sin.

Drawing from Ephesians 6, Spencer calls for a renewed commitment to God, urging listeners to arm themselves with faith, prayer, and the Word of God. He concludes with a powerful message on finding joy in salvation through Christ as the ultimate remedy for overcoming sin.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:52 Tragic Loss of a Loved One

03:15 Family and Community Support

06:58 Reflections on Life's Brevity

08:38 The Importance of Relationships

10:50 Spiritual Warfare and Armor of God

17:28 Call to Action and Encouragement

26:26 Finding Joy in Salvation

28:46 Conclusion and Farewell

Satan's first trick to lure people into sin is to show them the bait while hiding the hook; to offer the golden cup but conceal the poison inside; to highlight the sweetness, pleasure, and benefits of giving in to sin, while hiding the inevitable suffering and misery that follow. This is how he deceived the first humans. The serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. God knows that when you eat the fruit, your eyes will be opened, and you will be like gods, knowing good and evil” (Gen. 3:4-5).

“You'll have your eyes opened and become like gods!” That’s the bait—the pleasure, the sweetness, the gain. But what he hides is the hook—the shame, the anger of God, and the loss that will come for sure.

There are two ways our eyes can be opened: the mind can be opened to joy and contemplation, or the body to shame and confusion. Satan promises the first but delivers the second. He cheated Adam and Eve, offering them an apple in exchange for paradise, just like he continues to deceive countless people today.

That's a paraphrase from Thomas Brooks

In this episode, we will reflect on the importance of identity and faith by examining the story of Moses in Exodus 2:11-15. We'll contrasts Moses's actions with the approach Jesus displayed in Matthew 9:36-38.

We must embrace their true identity in Christ, turn away from sinful temptations, and continuously look to God for strength and guidance. Join the community at themanofvalor.com to engage in deeper discussions and support.

In this episode of Porn and the Gospel, we dive into the deep struggle many believers face with pornography and masturbation. Drawing from John 11, I discuss the importance of aligning our lives with God's perspective and purposes, even when it seems impossible.

We explore the duality of the Christian life—both surrender and war—showing how true freedom comes from submitting to God’s will and waging spiritual battle against the flesh. Whether you’re in the midst of this battle or supporting someone who is, this episode offers encouragement and practical steps to refocus on the gospel and live in victory.

There's nothing more hopeless than being stuck in the patter of habitual sexual sin. The broken promises, the secrecy, the shame, and the struggling relationships.

In this episode we walk through the struggle and look at what God's Word and I'll share three helpful suggestions for any brother struggling.

We all have habits. These habits either help us or hurt us. They either move us toward a life pleasing to God or aid in drifting into a life of powerful and painful regrets.

In this episode, I'll share 8 helpful habits that anyone can start that will significantly impact your life over time.

In the last episode from this series, I want to walk you through the actual process that a man of God can become free from porn.

It's something that almost every follower of Jesus knows but rarely gives themselves to. I want to encourage you to take the next step in becoming the man of God he created you to be.

This will result in your freedom, joy, and, ultimately, God's glory.

The truth will set you free!

This is a popular quote from Jesus in John 8...but what does Jesus set us free from?

In this episode, we explore the four things that Christ sets every man of God free from.

For every man of God, Jesus says, "If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:31-32.

In this episode, I am going to walk you through how I became free from pornography. I hope that this will encourage you on your journey to freedom.

Every man of God who is struggling with porn wants to be free.

In this episode, I'll walk through what I see as four pillars of the man of God who finds freedom. These can all be found in 2 Samual 10.

How does Jesus respond to our sins? How did He respond to the woman caught in adultery and brought before Him by the scribes and Pharisees?

In this episode, we dive into the powerful words of Jesus in this encounter and how they apply to us, His followers.

It says in John 7 that Jesus caused a division among those who heard him.

Some believed while others wanted him arrested.

But even in the life of a follower, he can cause division. He will not allow us to sit on the fence and be casual bystanders in this life.

In this episode we will discuss the importance of commitment.

Let's face it: I've made every mistake in the book when it comes to living a life of sexual integrity. And now that I speak with men every week about the same thing, I have noticed a BIG mistake that most of them are making. Listen in to find out what that mistake is and how you can avoid it.

Jesus did not seek His own glory. He constantly reminded people of this throughout the book of John.

His chief aim was to glorify God in all things. And He did that by telling the truth and having no falsehood in Himself.

It had me asking the question, "How often do I seek my own glory even by telling lies of omission (not saying things I should be saying)? Hiding when I should be confessing...boasting when I should be fasting...laughing when I should be weeping."

My flesh hates submission to God. But because the Spirit of Christ lives in me, HE causes my spirit to rejoice at the thought of submission to God.

So much of it comes down to the truth. Am I willing to embrace the truth even when it reveals me to be a weak sinner?

This is what Paul said:

"But He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong." - 2 Corinthians 12:9-10

John 7:17 - If anyone's will is to do God's will, he will know whether the teaching is from God or whether I am speaking on my own authority.

Is your will to do God's will?

So often, men talk about obedience without actually obeying. And with that repetitive behavior comes a great danger - missing the truth of God's message.

In today's episode, we dive into hearing the truth with the intention of obeying it. This is the man who will be blessed.

Brothers, we want to be done forever with a lifestyle of habitual sexual sin.

This means that we must follow and set our minds on the things that the Spirit has His mind set on. In this episode, I will walk you through two ways we kill habitual sin through the power of the Holy Spirit.

Listen and then share it with a friend.

Brothers, the LORD is so gracious to us and answers His children when we call on Him. Today, I want to walk you through five prayers I am praying for men struggling with sexual sin that I believe YOU, too, can adopt into your own time of prayer.

These prayers have the potential to change your life forever!

To be a single-minded man of God, we must let go of anything that would keep us from following the Lord's will for our lives.

To be a double-minded man is the norm in today's world. Limping between two worlds and doing neither any good.

In this episode, we'll explore the warnings we see in God's Word.

What does it take to grow beyond our struggle with pornography? It takes faith in the promises of God.

How do we grow our faith? We grow our faith by hearing, reading, studying, memorizing, and meditating on the Word of God.

In this episode, we will look at four principles for approaching God's Word as outlined by John Newton.

There is a lot we can learn from the life of Moses. Some of the most telling verses are found in the book of Hebrews that talk about what his faith enabled him to do for the glory of God. This episode will be both challenging and encouraging as we think about our own life and faith.

The end of 2023 and the beginning of 2024 brought with it a lot of reflection. If 2023 were the last full year of my life, did I live it well?

If 2024 is the last year I'll be alive in this life, what would I hope to accomplish?

In this episode, we look at the Word of God's call for a life of urgency. We cannot afford to spend another year trapped, stuck, and held back by sexual sin.

Your best life is prayerfully and purposefully preparing for the next. In this episode, Spencer walks through several passages that encourage us to develop a long-term view of our life here.

Jesus 'found' His first disciples and called them to follow Him. What a rich calling and yet they didn't have an idea what that looked like. They simply followed Him believing that the reward they would receive was sure to come. You and I can have faith in the same promises!

In John, we read about the first disciples Jesus called to hang out with Him. We can learn several important aspects about being a true disciple of Christ from these early interactions.

I learned a valuable lesson from a man who spent $50,000 to be instructed to do what he already knew he should be doing. I want to pass on this insight to you!

A brother walked into my office this last week, and I asked him a question that I would ask you as well. "What do you and I need more than anything else?"

In this episode, let's examine what that is by examining the humiliation and exaltation of Christ in Philippians.

Calling on God during our troubles holds a promise and a responsibility.

The promise is that he will deliver us.

The responsibility is that we will glorify Him.

In this episode, we dive into Psalms 50:14-15 and see how God's deliverance will always lead to His praise.

Peter said 'Have no fear of them...' What is it that so many men fear that keeps them trapped in the prison of porn? In this episode, we'll remember God's Word to all of us who find ourselves struggling with the fear of others.

For men who constantly struggle with porn, it becomes a battle of belief -

"Does God love me?"
"Can He free me from this sin?"
"Will he free me?"

The true goal of the Christian life is not freedom from porn but life in Christ.

In this episode, we'll talk about the process each man of God should seek to walk in the Spirit.

Paul addresses the church in Corinth in his first letter and calls out something that had become evident to him...that they were Christians operating out of the self-life and not the Spirit-life.

He said that he couldn't feed them meat but that they still needed milk. This is an idea the writer of Hebrews also communicated to the church...they were still babies in Christ.

So what does this mean for us?

It means that it's possible to be a believer but remain a child in the faith stuck in the nurseries of our churches. But that is not where we're meant to stay. We have been told we need to grow up and make disciples. Babies can't make disciples; instead, they depend on others to serve them.

In this episode, we'll explore four worldly, carnal, fleshly Christian characteristics.

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Many men have asked me if they should install blockers on their phones, tablets, and computers. It's a great question and one I'll address on this episode. My answer may not be what you expect.

What does preparing your mind for action like Peter encourages the church in 1Peter 1:13 look like? How should we think soberly about our life and our stewardship of opportunities God's given us? What is my responsibility to lead others when I'm having a difficult time leading myself?

Brother, the LORD has called you to a life of action and bearing fruit for His glory. This will never happen without our minds being ready for action. In this episode, I'll discuss some very practical things that have helped me over the years.

In Psalms 101, we read some serious resolutions from David.

These should be both an encouragement and a warning for us, brothers.

Notice the "I WILL" and "I WILL NOT" statements from David. The praise of God should always lead us to promise, and that's what we see here.

Finally, these were never meant to be done in isolation. David needed men in his life just like we do.

Every man has an invitation.

And God provides the inspiration.

But we can't leave without noticing that we also have a warning.

As we break down Pslams 95, we'll see all three elements and how YOU can become a man of God who is the man of valor you desire to be.

Psalms 95

1Oh come, let us sing to the LORD;

let us make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation!

2 Let us come into his presence with thanksgiving;

let us make a joyful noise to him with songs of praise!

3 For the LORD is a great God,

and a great King above all gods.

4 In his hand are the depths of the earth;

the heights of the mountains are his, also.

5 The sea is his, for he made it,

and his hands formed the dry land.

6 Oh come, let us worship and bow down;

let us kneel before the LORD, our Maker!

7 For he is our God,

and we are the people of his pasture,

and the sheep of his hand.

Today, if you hear his voice,

8 do not harden your hearts, as at Meribah,

as on the day at Massah in the wilderness,

9 when your fathers put me to the test

and put me to the proof, though they had seen my work.

10 For forty years, I loathed that generation

and said, “They are a people who go astray in their heart,

and they have not known my ways.”

11 Therefore I swore in my wrath,

“They shall not enter my rest.”

You have been called, Brother.

But will you answer the call? Or will you run and run and run for miles on end without making any progress?

It's the difference between running on a treadmill and running in a race. In only one of those activities do you win the prize.

Every man who is a disciple of Christ has at least one thing in common. They have been called to bear fruit for the glory of God.

Every man should have ambitions to undertake something great for God.

In this episode, we'll examine the call of Gideon in Judges 6 and discuss THREE PRINCIPLES TO BECOME A MAN OF VALOR yourself.

Every man can experience great joy...and great distress and trouble.

When it comes to porn, most believers who are struggling are faced with feelings and shame and guilt, and their stories can even turn suicidal or leave them without hope.

I know I've been hopeless before and just told myself, "I'll never be 100% free..."

That, my friend, is a lie.

And in this episode, I will show you how to examine and destroy your lies.

Acts 3:1-10

1 Now Peter and John were going up to the temple at the hour of prayer, the ninth hour.

2 And a man lame from birth was being carried, whom they laid daily at the gate of the temple that is called the Beautiful Gate to ask alms of those entering the temple.

3 Seeing Peter and John about to go into the temple, he asked to receive alms.

4 And Peter directed his gaze at him, as did John, and said, “Look at us.”

5 And he fixed his attention on them, expecting to receive something from them.

6 But Peter said, “I have no silver and gold, but what I do have I give to you. In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, rise up and walk!”

7 And he took him by the right hand and raised him up, and immediately his feet and ankles were made strong.

8 And leaping up, he stood and began to walk, and entered the temple with them, walking and leaping and praising God.

9 And all the people saw him walking and praising God,

10 and recognized him as the one who sat at the Beautiful Gate of the temple, asking for alms. And they were filled with wonder and amazement at what had happened to him.

Judges 1:19-21

19 And the LORD was with Judah, and he took possession of the hill country, but he could not drive out the inhabitants of the plain because they had chariots of iron.

20 And Hebron was given to Caleb, as Moses had said. And he drove out from it the three sons of Anak.

21 But the people of Benjamin did not drive out the Jebusites who lived in Jerusalem, so the Jebusites have lived with the people of Benjamin in Jerusalem to this day.

One of the most amazing things about the Lord is that He seeks and saves us and then gently deals with us throughout this life.

He desires for us to find our joy in Him so much that He is relentless in His sanctifying grace. There were times when I felt like giving up or losing heart...I'm sure you've felt that way as well.

Instead, use the gift of confession as the gift it was meant to be. We will never find purifying power hiding in darkness or cherishing our sin.

Psalms 66:16-20
16 Come and hear, all you who fear God, and I will tell what he has done for my soul.
17 I cried to him with my mouth, and high praise was on my tongue.
18 If I had cherished iniquity in my heart, the Lord would not have listened.
19 But truly God has listened; he has attended to the voice of my prayer.
20 Blessed be God, because he has not rejected my prayer or removed his steadfast love from me!

2 Corinthians 4:16-18
16 So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.
17 For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison,
18 as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.

In this episode, I'll describe the three things that I see men who are walking in freedom from pornography doing on a consistent basis.

I'll also share what has been on my heart for men in the church and girls trapped in sex slavery. Stay tuned.

Psalms 27:1 - OF DAVID "The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?"

How would your life change if you truly believed that God is your light, your salvation, and your stronghold?

You wouldn't be afraid anymore. And not only that...but you would joyfully draw water from the well of God's salvation. You would leave behind the dirty water of the world that is diluted and polluted.

There is enormous power in the truth. I've heard it said that the man with nothing to hide is the most powerful man in the room.

There is a foundation on which all men must begin to build a different reality than the one they've been stuck in for so long.

In this episode, we'll look at what that foundation is and discuss why it's so important.

In Psalms 20 and 21, we read David's prayers for God's power and protection as he goes to war as well as his praise for certain victory.

In this episode, we'll walk through God's great victory and terrifying warning.

Man of God, we have much work to do for our King and we cannot afford to waste any more time - hours and days of our lives - on pornography consumption.

Today is July 4th, 2022...I pray it's your own day of independence from porn.

Psalms 5:3

3 O LORD, in the morning you hear my voice; in the morning I prepare a sacrifice for you and watch.

David put it this way: “In the morning will I direct my prayer unto thee, and will look up” (Ps. 5:3). This Scripture means that he marshaled his thoughts like men of war or that he aimed his prayers like arrows.

He did not take the arrow and put it on the bowstring and just shoot anywhere. After he had taken out the chosen shaft and fitted it to the string, he took deliberate aim.

He looked—looked well—at the center of the target. He kept his eye fixed on it, directing his prayer, and then drew his bow with all his strength and let the arrow fly.

Then, when the shaft had left his hand, what did he say? “[I] will look up.” He looked up to see where the arrow went, to see what effect it had, for he expected an answer to his prayers; he was not like many who scarcely think of their prayers after they have uttered them.

David knew that he had an engagement before him that required all his mental powers. He marshaled his faculties and went about the work in a workmanlike manner, as one who believed in it and meant to succeed.

Charles Spurgeon

The "secret" is not so secret.

Yet men still struggle to take hold of this gift, this weapon, that has the power to move them from the prison of porn to the peak of purity.

Brother - this is your DUTY that, if given attention, will become your Daily Addiction. And this is the path that leads to freedom.

You are an endurance athlete - spiritually speaking.

The Old and New Testaments are full of encouragement to remain steadfast, endure until the end, and run the race of endurance.

What does every endurance athlete need? Aid stations.

Aid stations give an athlete four primary things:
1. Water
2. Food
3. Encouragement
4. Rest Not stopping at aid stations along your journey will result in disaster.

Listen to this episode as we unpack what an aid station might look like for you.

Psalms 3:1-4
1 O Lord, how many are my foes! Many are rising against me;
2 many are saying of my soul, “There is no salvation for him in God.” Selah
3 But you, O Lord, are a shield about me, my glory, and the lifter of my head.
4 I cried aloud to the Lord, and he answered me from his holy hill.

Count Your Enemies:
1. Your flesh
2. The influence of the world
3. The Great Accuser and Liar

What are the lies of the enemy when men struggle with porn?
👉🏻 You don’t love God
👉🏻 You can’t trust God with your problems
👉🏻 God is tired of forgiving you for this
👉🏻 You’re a huge disappointment to Him
👉🏻 God is angry at you…He stopped loving you
👉🏻 He is going to punish you

But what are the promises of God...the truth vs the lies?

Google all of the promises of God and see if they don't prove to be a weapon against the lies of our enemy.

"There is a lifting up of the head by elevating to office, as with Pharaoh's butler; this we trace to the divine appointment. There is a lifting up in honor after shame, in health after sickness, in gladness after sorrow, in restoration after a fall, in victory after a temporary defeat; in all these respects the Lord is the lifter up of our head." ~ Spurgeon

How do you quit porn for good?

Your mind is either a weapon or an enemy.

You decide.

In this episode, we'll walk through specific thoughts from God's Word on how the mind is used to either remember and rejoice in God or forget His goodness and steadfast love.

What is hypocrisy?

When I live or act in contradiction to who I portray myself to be.

I remembered how subtle this can be this past Friday night.

Learn from my hypocrisy and change your own path.

Jeremiah 17:9-10
9 The heart is deceitful above all things,
    and desperately sick;
    who can understand it?
10 “I the Lord search the heart
    and test the mind,[b]
to give every man according to his ways,
    according to the fruit of his deeds.”

What does it mean that The Way (Jesus) is Unstoppable.

It means that when you have submitted to the rule and reign of Christ in your life, you will bear fruit in keeping with the truth.

Mark 4:20
"But those that were sown on the good soil are the ones who hear the word and accept it and bear fruit, thirtyfold and sixtyfold and a hundredfold."

What is that fruit?

Its practical outworking will look different in everyone's life, but it will most definitely be the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).

But what about the life of porn addiction? It will also bear fruit.

Jeremiah 17:5-6 says...
5 Thus says the Lord: “Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the Lord.
6 He is like a shrub in the desert, and shall not see any good come. He shall dwell in the parched places of the wilderness, in an uninhabited salt land.

And later in the same chapter...

9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?
10 “I the Lord search the heart and test the mind, to give every man according to his ways, according to the fruit of his deeds.”

Every day we're producing fruit. That fruit comes from being planted and nourished by the Word of God in the presence of Christ. Or it comes from a life wandering in a spiritual desert. That fruit will not provide any nourishment for the man or his family.

The way is not only uncommon, but it's also uncomfortable.

What does it mean to choose The Way over comfort in this life?

In this episode, we'll look at several passages that demonstrate that the Way of Christ...a life with Christ...does not mean one pursuing the most comfortable life here. We have a different Way. We are seeking things to come.

In what ways has porn been used to keep you from dealing with uncomfortable truths? Has using porn been an escape to a life of comfort instead of addressing issues that have lingered for months, years, decades?

Jesus said He is the Way...

What does it mean for Jesus to be THE WAY not only to eternal life with the Father but to a life of fruitful service here on earth?

First, it is an uncommon life.

The problem with many men today is our desire to follow Jesus...but do it our way. But the life of freedom from porn is anything but common.

In this episode 1 of 3, we'll break down what the uncommon way looks like in the Word.

Psalm 107 shows us what desperate men do in desperate situations.

They call out to God.

But one of the biggest challenges...your greatest enemy...is that you don't believe your life of porn is a desperate situation. You've managed to hide it and lie about it so long, that it's a part of your life.

But in the back of your mind, you believe it can come unraveled at any moment...your life can spiral out of control if the truth comes out.

You don't think you're desperate, and that's why you stay trapped in the pit of porn. Let's walk through Psalm 107, 2 Corinthians 4, and Galatians 1 to see, maybe for the first time, that your life of 'peace' is actually one of your greatest enemies.

When I speak with Christian men about quitting porn forever, one of the first things we discuss is their past.

We talk about the real struggle that is involved in Christian men leaving porn behind...not just for a day or a week or a month...but forever.

Many times this has been going on for decades. That's not unusual.

At this point in our discussion, it's important for them to know that they are demonstrating one of the requirements for freedom from porn.

But it takes two.

In this podcast episode, we use Psalms 88, Hebrews 10, and 2 Peter 1 to uncover these two requirements and put them in perspective for the man struggling to quit porn and masturbation forever.

Why do good Christian men say trapped in The Porn Circle of Insanity for decades and decades?

There is a pattern...the building blocks of sexual addiction...that robs the Christ-follower of usefulness and fruit-bearing for the kingdom.

But there is hope.

In this episode, we are going to begin walking through each step of the circle of insanity and some practical steps we can begin to identify our harmful stories and patterns.

This is a fight we need to fight. This is a fight we must rely on Christ to fight on our behalf.

In this episode, we are exploring some important concepts a man needs to understand on the road to recovery. We'll talk about...

The Circle of Insanity - Why You’re Stuck
The Resistance - Fear and Lies - what holds us back
How we shrink the Cross
The Wall
Robert Sternberg's Triangulation of Love
Do You Want To Get Well?
The Importance of a Band of Brothers
Your assignments

This is #1 in a series for Christian men who want to be completely free from pornography addiction.

In this episode, we will discuss the following:

How to achieve success throughout this series
We live by a code
The journey ahead
This is War
This is Deep
Freedom requires Commitment

If you're a follower of Christ struggling with porn, I want you to know that you can experience freedom through the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

Most men immediately think tactical and strategies without taking into consideration the greatest power available to them in this fight - the Gospel. This series is going to examine every aspect of freedom from pornography but with an extreme emphasis on the Word of God.

I hope you will find help along your own journey by the grace of God!

Our Mission is Simple God has commanded us to put to death whatever is sinful in us and set our minds on things above where Christ is seated in victory. Colossians 3:1-5

It is a very similar command that God gave King Saul, and yet he believed that partial obedience was good enough for God.

Where in your life...and in my life...are we holding on to sin and pretending that God doesn't care? For a lot of men, pornography is one enemy of God we keep alive like Saul kept king Agag alive.

1 Samuel 15:2-3

2 Thus says the LORD of hosts, ‘I have noted what Amalek did to Israel in opposing them on the way when they came up out of Egypt.

3 Now go and strike Amalek and devote to destruction all that they have. Do not spare them, but kill both man and woman, child and infant, ox and sheep, camel and donkey.’”

1 Samuel 15:7-9

7 And Saul defeated the Amalekites from Havilah as far as Shur, which is east of Egypt.

8 And he took Agag the king of the Amalekites alive and devoted to destruction all the people with the edge of the sword.

9 But Saul and the people spared Agag and the best of the sheep and of the oxen and of the fattened calves and the lambs, and all that was good, and would not utterly destroy them. All that was despised and worthless they devoted to destruction.

As men...as God's people...we are always doing something or not doing something based on WHO we believe ourselves to be.

God's people throughout history have struggled with their identity. And because of this, they struggled with sin.

In this episode, we will look at how Israel's request for a king to look 'like all the other nations' was not only a rebellion against God, but it was a refusal of the identity He gave them when He called them out of Egypt.

Are we any different today?

When we choose NOT to be identified as God's people - set apart as holy - it's easy to see porn as a part of who we are. When this happens, we remain trapped.

1 Samuel paints a sobering picture of God's people...even His judge Eli...taking His Word lightly.

The result is disastrous for the people.

But God raises up Samuel who ministers before the Lord and grows in both stature and in favor with God and the people (sounds familiar).

But Samuel's word is not enough...the people must suffer a humiliating defeat by their enemies before they repent, put away their idols, and call on God to save them from their enemies. In this case, as in many times throughout God's Word, purity precedes power.

Do your prayers reveal....

I live in comfort and ease as far as the eye can see...I am content to offer the customary prayers of a comfortable Christian.
I live as if I were in an orphanage where my father is absent and he will not hear my cries or answer my calls to Him.
I live in desperate need of my Father's help. My cry of prayer is a cry of faith and arises because I believe God is a Father who is able (powerful enough) and willing (loving enough) to answer.

"What creates great praying? A deep sense of our need and a deep sense of God's care." - Tim Chester

1 Thessalonians 3:1-5

Therefore when we could bear it no longer, we were willing to be left behind at Athens alone,

and we sent Timothy, our brother and God's coworker in the gospel of Christ, to establish and exhort you in your faith,

that no one be moved by these afflictions. For you yourselves know that we are destined for this.

For when we were with you, we kept telling you beforehand that we were to suffer affliction, just as it has come to pass, and just as you know.

For this reason, when I could bear it no longer, I sent to learn about your faith, for fear that somehow the tempter had tempted you and our labor would be in vain.

You and I don't have much time.

In fact, we don't know the day or hour we will draw our last breath.

Yet we live as if we are never going to die. Never going to meet Christ face to face and give an account of how we spent our lives.

In this episode, I want to remind you of the urgency with which we must live our lives.

We cannot afford to waste another day, week, month, year, or decade on porn and masturbation. You must resolve to do whatever it takes for as long as it takes to replace porn with the far surpassing joy of the gospel.

It does not happen overnight, but it will have it if you don't give up.

YOU and I need to receive this Word if we desire it to Work in us.

1 Thessalonians 2:13:

And we also thank God constantly for this, that when you received the word of God, which you heard from us, you accepted it not as the word of men but as what it really is, the word of God, which is at work in you believers.

If you are a true follower of Jesus Christ, Paul charges you to 'walk in a manner worthy of God.' (1 Thessalonians 2:12)

What does that look like? What does it mean?

In this episode, I point to three imperatives for every man who wants to live a significant life for Christ...for the man tired of his addiction to porn and masturbation...for the man who desires to walk in a manner worthy of God.

There is a Psalm I love that says: "So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom." Psalms 90:12 Numbering our days is just a way of remembering that life is short and we're not guaranteed tomorrow.

John Piper says great wisdom...life-revolutionizing wisdom...comes from thinking about these things from time to time.

I like to think of the end of a year like the end of a lifetime.

As I look back on 2021, I can ask questions like...

Did I live this year well?
What needs to change?
How do those I care about most feel about how I spent 2021?

Don't waste 2022 on resolutions that are promised today and forgotten tomorrow. Spend time thinking and praying deeply for a life-changing 2022. One in which you finally become serious about killing this sin in your life.

In this episode, we explore 1 Thessalonians 1 and Paul's encouragement to the church at the gospel-centered change that had taken place in their lives. There are lessons for us all over these first several verses. Be encouraged...God is greater and more powerful than your problem with porn. But it requires you to become deadly serious about transformation.

Galatians 5:17
For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do.

“Sin is always acting, always conceiving, always seducing and tempting.

Who can say that he had ever anything to do with God or for God, that indwelling sin had not corrupted what he did?

Do you kill sin?

Do you make it your daily work?

Be always at it while you live;
cease not a day from this work;
be killing sin or it will be killing you.”

John Owen

This is a tough question for most men. In this episode, I'll help you think through this important issue. Hebrews 11:23-29 23 By faith Moses, when he was born, was hidden for three months by his parents, because they saw that the child was beautiful, and they were not afraid of the king's edict. 24 By faith Moses, when he was grown up, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh's daughter, 25 choosing rather to be mistreated with the people of God than to enjoy the fleeting pleasures of sin. 26 He considered the reproach of Christ greater wealth than the treasures of Egypt, for he was looking to the reward. 27 By faith he left Egypt, not being afraid of the anger of the king, for he endured as seeing him who is invisible. 28 By faith he kept the Passover and sprinkled the blood, so that the Destroyer of the firstborn might not touch them. 29 By faith the people crossed the Red Sea as on dry land, but the Egyptians, when they attempted to do the same, were drowned.

The stories you tell yourself and believe have the ability to either keep you trapped in the Circle of Insanity or bring you freedom in Christ.

Choose wisely.

In Christ, I am accepted …

John 1:12 — I am God’s child
John 15:15 — As a disciple, I am a friend of Jesus Christ
Romans 5:1 — I have been justified
1 Corinthians 6:17 — I am united with the Lord, and I am one with Him in spirit
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 — I have been bought with a price, and I belong to God
1 Corinthians 12:27 — I am a member of Christ’s body
Ephesians 1:3-8 — I have been chosen by God and adopted as His child
Colossians 1:13-14 — I have been redeemed and forgiven of all my sins
Colossians 2:9-10 — I am complete in Christ
Hebrews 4:14-16 — I have direct access to the throne of grace through Jesus Christ

In Christ, I am secure …

Romans 8:1-2 — I am free from condemnation
Romans 8:28 — I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances
Romans 8:31-39 — I am free from any condemnation brought against me, and I cannot be separated from the love of God
2 Corinthians 1:21-22 — I have been established, anointed and sealed by God.
Colossians 3:1-4 — I am hidden with Christ in God
Philippians 1:6 — I am confident that God will complete the good work He started in me.
Philippians 3:20 — I am a citizen of heaven
2 Timothy 1:7 — I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind
1 John 5:18 — I am born of God, and the evil one cannot touch me

In Christ, I am significant …

John 15:5 — I am a branch of Jesus Christ, the true vine and a channel of His life
John 15:16 — I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit
1 Corinthians 3:16 — I am God’s temple
2 Corinthians 5:17-21 — I am a minister of reconciliation for God
Ephesians 2:6 — I am seated with Jesus Christ in the heavenly realm
Ephesians 2:10 — I am God’s workmanship
Ephesians 3:12 — I may approach God with freedom and confidence
Philippians 4:13 — I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me

What does it take to be done with porn forever? In this episode, we'll discuss the faith that walks with you through all of life's issues and struggles, and obstacles...including porn.

The power to overcome pornography in your life comes down to your ability to do three things:

Look back
Look ahead
Look deep

In this episode, we're going to see how the writer of Hebrews encouraged his struggling church (and US) to do this very thing.

What is it about us that makes us want to pay or redeem ourselves from our problem with porn?

What is it about a man that temps him to just try harder next time? Or vow to do better?

We love to be our own saviors. But the decades spent in pornography prove that we are the absolute worst at saving ourselves.

There must be a better way.

In this episode of Porn and the Gospel, we'll look at the only perfect sacrifice for our porn as well as all the other sins we commit on a daily basis.

To make ourselves feel better about our porn problem, most of us convince ourselves that the consequences are small, not that big of a deal, or don't exist at all.

In this episode, we're going to explore the TRUTH about what porn costs a man across all four domains - body, being, business, and balance. The consequences are not contained in a small part of our lives that no one else has access to...no, it impacts all areas.

But we won't stop there...we'll also look at the power of the Blood of Christ in our lives and how He brings us into perfect communion with God.

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Hebrews 6:7-8

7 For land that has drunk the rain that often falls on it, and produces a crop useful to those for whose sake it is cultivated, receives a blessing from God.

8 But if it bears thorns and thistles, it is worthless and near to being cursed, and its end is to be burned.

If you are a follower of Christ, your life is meant to produce a useful crop that brings glory to God and support for your brothers and sisters in Christ.

But in our struggle with porn, we realize that we're not much help to anyone.

It becomes such a problem that many question their salvation.

In today's podcast, we're going to look at what the Hebrew writer points to as evidence that you have genuine faith and that the faith you have will produce good fruit.

A lot of people want to change without changing anything.

Example - “I want to quit looking at porn for good.” OR “I want to get in shape.” - so many examples to choose from.

And yet nothing really changes in their life. They’re still looking at the same social accounts, still have the same morning routine, evening routine, eating habits, workout habits.

Instead, they download some internet blocking software that might make the change for them. Or take a pill. Or blame the government or their spouse or anyone else but themselves.

Over the past three years, I have learned a lot about change mostly through trial and error and failing and a little success.

In my opinion, the best way to change is to identify small daily opportunities (and there are many to choose from) that will produce large changes over time.

In this podcast, I'll walk you through nine important changes I made in my life that were part of my freedom from pornography.

There’s nothing complicated about any of these. As a matter of fact, someone might say these are ‘common sense.’ But common sense isn’t common practice from what I’ve observed.

And even though they’re simple. They are easier not to do than to do.

That is a choice you have to make.

Men (who are also followers of Christ) who have struggled with porn for years and years and possibly decades and decades have sought to be free in many ways.

Porn blockers
Accountability
Will power
Meetings

The list could go on.

And still, they stay stuck...WHY?

What keeps them in the pit of porn not able to live out of purpose? What keeps them living in the shadows afraid in the night and avoiding the light?

There are many answers to these questions...many complex answers.

But I can point to at least three indicators...three signs...that a follower of Christ will continue struggling with porn.

In this podcast, we'll examine each of these in order to see if you yourself can identify with this list.

There are three types of men in this world and you need to know which one you are.

This is especially vital when it comes to how each of these men responds to the Word of God.

Why is this relevant? Because this world is not our home and we have a promised rest for any who persevere to the end.

Hebrews 4:11-13

11 Let us therefore strive to enter that rest, so that no one may fall by the same sort of disobedience. 12 For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. 13 And no creature is hidden from his sight, but all are naked and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must give account.

Listen in to determine the type of man you are...and if you find that it's not the man you want to be, there's good news...God is patient with us and promises to transform us.

I was speaking with a man this morning about his porn addiction and he described all of his issues:

Porn and acting out
Anger
Depression
Loneliness

And then I asked him a question we all need to ask...I said, "Those all sound like symptoms and not the deep root issue...what do you think the issue beneath the surface is?"

And that's the subject of this podcast.

But we don't stop with the root...we'll also explore the remedy.

Hebrews 3:12-13
"12 Take care, brothers, lest there be in any of you an evil, unbelieving heart, leading you to fall away from the living God. 13 But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called “today,” that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin."

Anytime you want to change something in your life...to grow...to improve...you should expect resistance.

Change is hard. But as believers, we're after transformation (Romans 12:2). And that's impossible without the supernatural work of the Spirit.

If a man commits to being transformed, the first thing he needs to know is that there will be resistance. There will be resistance from within and without.

But if you are constantly asking yourself 'who am I becoming' and aligning your thoughts, patterns, habits, and addictions accordingly, then resistance becomes a signal that you're moving in the right direction.

If there's no resistance in your life, it's likely because you're comfortable with your current status quo.

In this episode, we'll examine how God's people have experienced resistance for thousands of years and what both Peter and the author of Hebrews command God's people to do/believe in order to overcome the resistance.

"Surrounded with millions of foes without, and infected with a legion of enemies within." - George Whitfield

YOU CAN BE SAVED BUT STILL BE A SLAVE!

We don't like to admit this, but it's the truth.

Men who are stuck in the pit of porn feel like they're in a prison they can't escape. They desperately want to escape but they can't find a way out.

We read in Hebrews 2:14-15n that the death of Jesus on the cross accomplished two things:

He destroyed the devil
He delivered us from lifelong slavery

He's talking about eternal salvation in this passage. And it's true if we're God's children, we are no longer slaves. But it's also true that many still live as slaves and not as free men.

When porn is a part of your life it's a clear indication that you are living not a victorious life, but an anxious, powerless, purposeless life with little to no power before God.

In this episode, we'll look at God's Word and talk about how we can become free.

https://www.naturalpornkiller.com/podcasts/porn-and-the-gospel

In this episode, we'll circle back to the discussion of the truth of your current condition and offer you an assessment that you can use for yourself to better understand where you are.

Then we're going to look at the great DRIFT. This is something we all do and we need to recognize in ourselves. Like a ship drifting at sea, if we aren't careful, we'll wind up in a place we never imagined.

The problem is the drift and the remedy is paying close attention to the truth of the Gospel.

Hebrews 2:1 - "Therefore we must pay much closer attention to what we have heard, lest we drift away from it."

“We have to be continually reminded of what we believe. Neither this belief nor any other will automatically remain alive in your mind. It must be fed. And as a matter of fact, if you examined a hundred people who had lost their faith in Christianity, I wonder how many of them would turn out to have been reasoned out of it by honest argument? Do not most people simply drift away?”

CS Lewis

It always blew my mind to walk into a community and see how people lived for generations. They lived with no access to clean water which meant certain results in their homes:

Poverty
Sickness
Lack of education
Women and children suffered the most

But I was no different inwardly.

The only difference was I was able to hide my sickness and spiritual poverty from my wife, my friends, my church. All the while pretending I had everything under control.

In this episode, we are going to discuss the desperate need of men who are willing tell the truth. Men who are willing to face the facts of their situation.

Pilate asked Jesus a very powerful question, "What is truth?"

This is a questions worth exploring because if we're not dealing with the truth of our current condition, it's a clear indication we're lying to ourselves.

The passage we'll look at is found in Psalm 139.

Psalms 139:7-12
7 Where shall I go from your Spirit?
Or where shall I flee from your presence?
8 If I ascend to heaven, you are there!
If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there!
9 If I take the wings of the morning
and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,
10 even there your hand shall lead me,
and your right hand shall hold me.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me,
and the light about me be night,”
12 even the darkness is not dark to you;
the night is bright as the day,
for darkness is as light with you.

Psalms 139:23-24
23 Search me, O God, and know my heart!
Try me and know my thoughts!
24 And see if there be any grievous way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting!

What happens when a man's heart is continually conditioned by years of pornography? In this episode, Spencer will share his story of how porn changed his heart and lead to an implosion in 2013. We'll also discuss why men continue to hide, isolate, and sedate even when they desperately want to be done with porn use.

In our first episode, we'll share what you can expect from upcoming episodes, some of Spencer's background, the heart behind the podcast, and we'll close with thoughts on Psalm 1:1-3.