Send It Sunday podcast: Recent Episodes
Melissa Wick
Send It Sunday is the podcast for entrepreneurs who demand big, fun, expansive businesses and lives. If you want to create a business you love and feel like a badass while doing it, you've come to the right place. In each episode, Certified Coach and business attorney, Melissa Wick, will teach you how to get over fear, deal with failure, reduce your anxiety, chart your own course, and get what you want in life.
Listen to this episode of Send it Sunday to learn how to stay open to possibilities for your life and business. If you have a desire to start a business, but you tend to shoot down your ideas, or tell yourself it will never work, this is the episode for you! Our primitive brains will shoot down our biggest ideas and dreams, especially if they require hard work or contending with uncertainty and risk to bring them to life. In this episode, I review some helpful ways to think about entrepreneurship so that you can get your creative juices flowing and not psych yourself out before you even start.
Masculine energy is getting a bad rap these days and masculine lesbians entrepreneurs have to contend with more heteronormativity than ever. This podcast explains how to brand and run your business by being authentically rooted in your masculine energy. I also explain how not to be swayed or discouraged by culture's gendered stereotypes and expectations of how a woman should be. I give you a four step process to use so you can be "YOU" while branding your business, creating offers for your niche clients, and growing your business.
Women entrepreneurs think too many broke A$$ thoughts, and this leads to too many broke A$$ lesbian entrepreneuers. Listen to this podcast to understand the metaphysical of attracting money, plus some concrete tangible tactics to implement in your business or life to attract more money and abundance.
Listen to this episode to learn how to use any resistance, challenge, setback, circumstance to grow as an entrepreneur. Antifragile is a step beyond being resilient. Antifragile is taking the negatives, the fails, the setbacks, uncertainty and even the chaos that comes with entrepreneurship and using it to grow, expand and create your business.
Listen to this episode of Send it Sunday to understand how framing a decision to leave, quit, change, anything, but especially your job, sets the vibe and either makes it way harder or way more exciting. You're either "running from" vs. "moving towards" and these states produce much different thoughts and feelings. HINT - moving towards is a much better place to be. Listen to the episode to understand why this reframe makes it easier and learn how to move towards instead of running from.
Listen to this episode to learn what holds you back from seeing possibilities in entrepreneurship and how to spin your skills from you current job into a side hustle or a full-time gig! I talk about a clear framework for seeing possibilities for entrepreneurship bu using SKILLS YOU ALREADY HAVE and creating a busienss that gives you more freedom, time, and meaning in your life.
Listen to this episode to understand why setting impossible goals is an amazing way to evolve yourself to the next level. Learn why you should set an impossible goal instead if biding your time with incremental steps up the corporate ladder. Spoiler alert - impossible goals evolve us into a bigger more expansive version of yourself and they allow us to see possibilities for our lives in different ways than the ways we've been trained by school and culture.
Lesbians in entrepreneurship, along with other folks from marginalized communities, can struggle with quitting on themselves and their goals. Quitting slows you down, and it also results in not trusting yourself to do what you say you are going to do. If you learn to let yourself off the hook far too easily, that will be what you come to expect from yourself. Listen to this podcast to learn some tricks about how to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep going even when you want to quit.
Queer entrepreneurs have a hard time finding quality friendships because there aren't as many of us doing the entrepreneur thing and many of our queer friends who aren't entrepreneurs aren't facing similar challenges or evolving in the same ways we are. In this podcast, I give three steps to finding "your people." HINT - You attract your people by being unabashedly yourself and being honest about what you want in your friendships.
Listen to this episode to understand how you can bring more GAY into your business by embracing your sexuality and gender identity. You'll learn 5 steps to using your past experiences relating to gender identity and sexual identity to cultivate your unique abilities. Honing your unique ability is what makes you a more successful entrepreneur because you offer a very select service or product to your ideal clients in a way only YOU could. And, you hone your unique ability by using your past to create something that only you could create and by nailing down exactly what you love to do while letting go of the rest of the things you are doing that you don't love so much. This podcast is all about self-actualization, so listen in if you are in the process of starting or growing a business and want to find true purpose and meaning in the products and services you offer.
Queers like magical thinking so this episode is about how fun it is to think of your big new brilliant ideas as living disembodied entities that, when they approach you, need to be loved, protected, and cooperated with, or else they will leave you and go get their needs met elsewhere. Listen to this episode because I give three steps to following your heart and making your ideas a reality, but in a fun way, not in the nose--to-the-grindstone kind of way. PS: there is a true story about Michael Jackson and Prince in this episode that PROVES that ideas are disembodied living entities that can come and go when they want to and work with whomever they choose. So, if an idea has chosen YOU, is stuck in YOUR head, and is begging you to bring it to life...buckle u, pay attention, and get to work!
Listen to the most recent episode to see how taking ownership of everything that happens in your business is a power play. Taking extreme ownership over everything, even circumstances that are easy to say were out of your control, is pure leadership and the fastest way out of a victim mindset. While you cannot control circumstances, you can control your experience of them. Listen to the most recent episode to understand how.
Anxiety is a HUGE problem for many of us, especially those of us who are women and/or Q+ entrepreneurs. Listen to this episode to learn 5 steps you can take to stop an anxiety spiral. HINT - it's about accepting your feelings, processing your emotions, challenging unhelpful thinking patterns, changing your thinking, and seeing your life through a less anxious lens using "glimmers." Give this one a listen!
Many of us believe happiness is always the goal. And when we aren't happy, we think something has gone wrong. But, many of the important and meaningful things, like building a business, or making a significant change in your life don't require happiness - and, they don't usually produce it quickly either. Instead, what's needed (and, quickly produced) is determination, resiliency, and passion. In fact, stories like Star Wars and Harry Potter involve lots of struggle, risk, and failure, and we love those stories because of this! Listen to this episode to understand how to focus on your own personal hero's journey (like Harry Potter) and your aliveness over being simply content and happy.
If you are an entrepreneur, I hope you get the chance to have as many fresh starts as you need/want! In this podcast, I focus on the kinds of fresh starts that aren't necessarily something you've chosen but instead have happened to you. For example, a fresh start from a shock when something doesn't go as planned or something totally unexpected happens, a fresh start from a new opportunity that changes the trajectory of your business, or a fresh start that comes from personal growth - personal growth of the kind that makes your present circumstances a little unbearable. In the podcast, I address how to approach this uncertain time, how to think about it, and how to treat yourself! Give it a listen if you are in a period of transition in your business!
Listen in if you want to see how avoiding the things that take you out of your comfort zone actually harms you by making your life smaller and smaller, more and more uninteresting, and ultimately lacking in contrast and meaning. You'll learn why those of us who have experienced trauma have a difficult time exposing ourselves to what we view as risky experiences and you will learn three steps you can take to edge into the discomfort, grow and evolve, and expand your life in beautiful and unpredictable ways.
Transitions can be hard, and progress is not linear. Sometimes we need to melt down completely before we can turn into the next version of ourselves. Listen to this episode to understand how to appreciate the struggle that goes hand in hand with change and how to know if what you want for your future is driven by your authentic self or cultural messaging.
This podcast is all about honoring your REAL & TRUE desires and focusing on what you actually want from your life, your business, your relationships, your friendships, all of it. So often, a client or friend will share with me what they want...but then, immediately, they list all the reasons they can't have it, shouldn't try, and go on to provide a laundry list of why it won't work FOR THEM. The implication is, that this BIG AWESOME LIFE I AM DREAMING ABOUT is for other people, smarter people, prettier people, richer people...Listen to this episode to get over that sh!t. This is a super woo-woo podcast about orienting your energy towards the thing you want and how magical it feels to do this! Give it a listen if you want to believe harder in your dreams!
What are you giving your energy to? I will venture to say that, at times, we all give our energy to things we wish we didn't, whether complaining, getting wrapped up in negative thought patterns, over social media-ing, over-exercising, comparing ourselves to other people, and on and on. Listen to this episode to learn how to keep the focus on creating the things you want in your life and how to not get dragged around by energy-sucking activities.
Women have been socialized to be modest and not take credit for their successes. We have been socialized to spread the credit around. But, I've found that owning my own successes is essential for many reasons, but especially so that I feel confident in my own abilities when confronted with a new challenge. If I credit others for my past successes, which, like many women, is my natural tendency, then how can I believe in my own ability to create amazing results in the future? Listen to this episode to learn to spot the sneaky dream-killer thoughts so you don't let them stop you from following your dreams.
Listen to this episode to learn how to spot where in your life and how you are limiting your capacity to have what you want. This episode was inspired by a book called The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks.
Entrepreneurs are always and forever needing to be "different" “entertaining” but “relatable” so they can “connect” with their potential customers. This episode is all about charisma in the context of entrepreneuership, sales and connecting to potential clients while also staying in integrity with who we actually are.
Where is the line between striving for excellence vs. self-acceptance? Excellence requires pressure. It requires pushing yourself. And pushing yourself and striving isn’t always the best thing, of course, for your mental health and your body. This podcast is about how to do both, how we strive, how we do the things we have to do to reach our goals, but also stay in self-acceptance.
Listen to this episode if you sometimes find yourself less than excited about your professional life, and want to incorporate more fun and creativity into your day-to-day. The way we feel is always because of what we are thinking. Listen in to learn the steps to take action from the feelings that you want to have, rather than from feelings like obligated, resentment, anxiety, etc.
Believing in your ability to create your dream business is crucial to your ability actually to do it. And, belief can be hard to sustain in the face of obstacles and failures. In the episode, I explain that sustaining belief is kinda like keeping a fire burning. Listen to this episode to find out how to stay in belief even when all your brain sees is evidence to the contrary.
Becoming an entrepreneur requires reinventing who you are. Going from employee to entrepreneur is a giant leap. When you create a future that's bigger than your current life, your future reinvents you. I am reinventing myself as a founder, a leader, an entrepreneur, and a life coach. I don't want to be just a lawyer anymore, and this requires an identity shift. It requires letting go of "good" in order to be "great." If you are on a similar journey, thinking of starting a business or making changes in your current business, give this one a listen! Don't let this process become a drag on your energy, it IS scary, but if you approach it with the right energy, it can be AWESOME!
Folks from marginalized communities often cling to what they already know because that feels like the safest bet in patriarchy and heteronormativity. But, if you are an entrepreneur, risk-taking is part of the deal. Doing things you have never done before is part of the deal. This podcast explores how important it is to give yourself the chance to find your own answers by trying stuff, failing, and learning from the failures. Trying, failing, and learning is the only way to create what you want to create in the world! Give this episode a listen if you often play it safe and let self-doubt win instead of risking failure, learning, and growing.
Emotional pain is a part of entrepreneurship (and, life). Listen to this episode of Send it Sunday to understand the ways we process pain, and get clear on the difference between clean and dirty pain. This episode is an important one if you want to learn to process your emotions rather than avoid and resist them. SPOILER ALERT - resisting and avoiding emotions is one of the root causes of dirty pain. The skill of processing emotions is crucial to being able to succeed (and not quit) in your business. So, give it a listen, especially if you are doing hard things that very likely will come with their fair share of pain!
Listen to this episode of Send it Sunday to learn how to take action even when it doesn't feel safe. If you are an entrepreneur you will be doing things afraid, so you need to understand how to move forward in discomfort. I give you a three-part framework for taking action while afraid, and I discuss how your fears will start to lose steam if you are on the right path.
Listen to this episode if you are and entrepreneur who is tired of letting circumstances make you feel powerless! I give you a framework for how to keep your power no matter what.
You might think you want entrepreneurship to be easier than it is. Listen to this episode to find out why you actually want the hard stuff to be hard. Hint-- it's for your evolution as an entrepreneur and human being. Success isn't easy, and if you don't earn it yourself, IT SHOWS and it isn't pretty. Think about the people you know who were given their place at the table because of family or connections. Now, think about how YOU are going to EARN it on your own. Think about the person YOU will become by earning it YOURSELF. It's raw power, now go listen to this episode and get to work.
Listen to this episode to learn about the importance of fueling your goals with the right emotions and energy. So often, when we take action towards our goals, the actions we take are infused with anxiety, overwhelm, fear, frustration, desperation... and that energy shows up in our actions, often causing us to fall short of reaching goals. I'd argue that this energy actually repels the goal! Listen to this episode of you want to learn to achieve your goals by fueling your actions with better fuel and enjoy yourself much more in the process.
In this episode of Send It Sunday, I am teaching you how to live into your future self, the version of you 5 or 10 years from now who has all the things your present self wants. This concept will help you "be in the energy" of the thing you want, whether that is a million-dollar business, a business that makes a huge social impact, an amazing group of friends, an amazing partner, etc. The way you feel as you take action toward your goals really impacts whether or not you will achieve them. Listen to this episode to understand how you can adopt a concept of your future self and go after your goals using the right energy and emotions to fuel you.
Many people from marginalized identities suffer struggle with self-confidence due to systemic prejudices deeply entrenched in our society. This can make starting and running a small business more complicated for LGBTQA+ folks since self-confidence and confidence are pretty crucial components to success. Listen to this episode of Send It Sunday to understand the difference between self-confidence and confidence and what steps you can take to cultivate more of both in your life!
Women and LGBTQA+ folks often struggle with imposter syndrome symptoms, such as self-doubt, non-belonging, perfectionist tendencies, and external validation seeking. It's no surprise because SHOCKER- WE ARE IMPOSTERS in patriarchy and heteronormativity. Listen to the podcast to understand more about why you probably suffer from imposter syndrome and what to do about it. I have a three-part framework for managing it and I hope it helps you!
Listen to this episode if you are prone to or have struggled in the past with sourcing your self-worth from other people. New entrepreneurs, especially LGBTQ+ and women, often look for outside validation that they are "doing it right." That's due to socialization and cultural messaging, but listening to other people more than you listen to and trust yourself can lead you so far off YOUR path. Listen to this episode to understand what you should do with other people's opinions.
The problems in our lives are actually really enlightening. Entrepreneurship shows us so much about ourselves! Often we try to avoid, fix, or ignore recurring problems, rather than listen to ourselves kindly and non-judgmentally so we can understand the root cause. I've personally found that my problems are always rooted in a limiting belief I've been carrying around. I think this is mostly true for others as well. Listen to this episode of Send it Sunday to see how your problems are often your compass to guide you toward something really spectacular - a more authentic and kind-to-yourself version of YOU.
Many of you blame circumstances for causing your feelings. This episode of Send it Sunday will help you see that your thinking is actually the cause of your feelings and this episode will also help you see why this is such great news. You will learn how you can coach yourself through any "unfortunate" event and show up as the best version of yourself no matter what the circumstances. Your power lies in the fact that you get to choose how you want to think and feel no matter what.
Listen to this episode if you want to feel better about your circumstances, whether personal, business, health, or relationships...thought work tools can help with anything. In this episode, I share some of my "problem" thoughts about my business and my health. Listen to see how I personally decided to change certain thoughts I had from my childhood about working hard and certain thoughts I had relating to a difficult health situation. In this episode, I give a framework for understanding how to create new thoughts and practice believing them. Thought work is not as simple as thinking positive affirmations or "positive thinking" which, by the way, doesn't work long-term! Thought work is a practice of understanding your thinking and choosing to practice believing a new story about yourself or your circumstances.
Listen to this episode to understand a phenomenon called confirmation bias and how it can negatively impact what you create in your life. Confirmation bias is the tendency to interpret new evidence as confirmation of one's existing beliefs or theories. For example, if you believe you are just unorganized...your brain will only find evidence to support that thought that "I'm unorganized." Your brain edits, and it finds whatever it is looking for to support your already existing beliefs. This is just the way brains work unless you guide them. So, it is your job to make sure your brain is directed toward finding evidence to support whatever it is you want. If you have an unhelpful belief about yourself, chances are you believe it because your brain has found a lot of evidence to support it. But, you can reprogram your brain to seek other evidence...this is the beauty of thought work. Listen to the episode to find out how.
Meeting the energy of the thing you want to create in your life is necessary in order to actually create it. In other words, you cannot create anything amazing from a place of overwhelm, hustle, exhaustion, and striving... and you certainly can't do it from a place of self-doubt. That's not to say you have to feel 100% unstoppable all the time in order to find success...that would be impossible! In this podcast, I show you how to generate emotions on purpose so you can take action from those emotions and create better products, services, and relationships.
Your relationship with yourself is the foundation for ALL of your other relationships. First, when you have a great relationship with yourself, you won't need other people's validation, acceptance, opinions, or guidance. You trust yourself first and foremost. Second, the relationship you have with yourself is key to whether or not you will set big goals for yourself and do the work to achieve them. Third, having a great relationship with yourself will definitely make you a better friend or partner because you will be more generous and loving towards others.
Allowing yourself to feel abundant can be tricky. Feeling abundant, especially for marginalized identities, can even feel unsafe. Worry feels necessary, focussing on what can go wrong, or what is going wrong, feels safer sometimes. The truth is that worry is not necessary and doesn't help. Listen to the podcast to hear my three-step method for feeling as abundant as I can on the regular. You will learn how feeling abundant can help you meet the energy of what it is you want...certainly in your business, but also your personal life.
In this episode, I talk about how painful it can be to feel like you don't belong and how crucial it is to cultivate feelings of belonging on purpose FOR YOURSELF and BY YOURSELF. We explore the concept that belonging is something you do for yourself and does not depend upon anyone else's approval. Even marginalized communities can confront patriarchy and heteronormative standards by deploying their own sense of belonging.
Starting a business can be a mindf*ck for anyone, even for the most typical cis-gendered straight white dude. But, for women, for LGBTQ+ folks, for fat, indigenous, neurodivergent, and certainly black folks, starting a business is so much harder. The usual suspects, like self-doubt, fear, and overwhelm, are compounded for these groups. In this podcast, I offer that thought work which leads to radical self-love and unwavering belief in your own worthiness is the answer! As always, your thinking creates the results you see. Listen to this week's podcast to learn how to grow and evolve yourself and your business even in a heteronormative and patriarchal society.
In today's episode, I'm talking how about uncertainty in entrepreneurship is literally the cost of doing business. Tune in to learn 4 ways to approach the feeling of uncertainty so your brain stops freaking out so much and you can keep moving forward even when the outcome or result is completely uncertain.
In today's episode, I'm talking about beliefs and how what you believe about yourself, your business, your target market, your current clients, and life, in general, affects the way you show up in the world. And, the way you show up in the world ultimately creates the results you see in your life! Entrepreneurs often have limiting beliefs that are running on default and creating results they don't like. Tune in to understand how you can learn to believe whatever the heck serves you, no matter what!
In today's episode, I'm talking about the tendency, as new business owners, to look to other people for "how" to start, run, and grow our own businesses. Join me to discover why asking other people "how" they did it and then trying to replicate their "how" is BS and a huge waste of time! Save yourself some time and find out how your own personal growth, power, and FUN are in finding your own "how" instead of asking other people for theirs!
What if you could turn off the negative chatter in your brain? Our human brains love to point out all of the things that can go wrong, and all of the reasons we should just play it safe and small. But, what if you could take control of the narrative and talk to yourself in a way gets you the results you want to see in your life?
Waiting until things are perfect or until you feel ready is a huge waste of time. In this episode, I share how I have learned to let go of perfectionist tendencies in certain areas of my work in order to get more done and move quicker. I share how insisting on perfection is really just you wanting everyone to like you. Perfection is boring, living and learning from mistakes is interesting.
In today's episode, I share how entrepreneurs can choose to accept that fear is part of the deal when growing a business and, rather than resist it, we can learn to process that fear and use that fear energy to create powerful results in our businesses.