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Addie Scharff Helbling
This podcast is about inspiring women to dream big, grow, set impossible goals and become the best version of themselves... regardless of background, ethnicity, or level of education. Not to settle for dullness, or anything less than what they truly desire in life! Our dreams ARE possible, if we but set our mind to it. We just have to desire and decide. Life is too short, so let's get after the life of your dreams! Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/addie970/support
When is “enough” enough?
For me it’s… ALWAYS, and NEVER!
Sometimes for me it is enough not to have to leave the comfort of my home to earn money to meet my basic needs.
Other times… let’s talk about why "enough" is not always enough.
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When we lose control of our emotions, we give our power away to another person, or a circumstance!
Being able to manage our temper is a sign of a good leader, a kind person, a person that can be trusted.
Losing our cool is a sign of having low self-esteem, where we take things personally, to our own detriment, and make others miserable!
Being able to control our emotions, especially negative ones, is good for everyone!
Let’s practice and model calmness, and let’s not surrender our personal power to anyone or anything.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’tfeel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
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Being aware of the contrast difference between us, can help us see and appreciate not being something we don’t like to see in the world.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
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[Stay to the end for a funny Ep 113: The Fires We Burnedit/remix by my husband!]
Growth and evolution are humanity’s nature, an innate desire… we can count on that forever.
How do I know if I want to grow & evolve?
If you feel stagnant, bored, sad, wish to do things you see others do but you think you can’t do.
How do I know what my purpose is?
We humans have MANY purposes at different phases of life. We have seasons… birth, teen, wife, mom, adult, a senior, etc. These are some clues.
We have different starting and ending points to our seasons as well.
Finding what our purpose(s) is for US…
You will feel it… unfulfillment, feeling there should be more to life, etc.
Follow your desires, search what your soul is calling you to do, to experience, to share, to leave behind!!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
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First, the “how” of unlocking the key to anything we want in life keeps being revealed to us over and over, but we keep missing the opportunity to grab it!
You/we all have ideas that pop up as we go about our everyday lives, all of us do… but what do most of us do with them? NOT a thing!
We also miss many ideas that are floating around everywhere… example: how to pay off your mortgage, improve our marriage, etc.
Also: You ever talk to someone and mention an idea?? that you think they would benefit from and they say something, “Oh, yes” and it appears as though they already know it, but are not doing anything about it? WE ALL do that.
Earl Nightingale referred to it as “know-it-alls withunpaid debts and empty bank accounts”!
So: Let’s put our thinking & listening caps on and be on the lookout, not for ideas/breakthroughs and being ready to receive them… the ideas WILL come!
BE ready for your brain to say NO/disregard the idea as a good one… it will come up with a list of why an idea is not good.
Ideas are always coming (from outside & INSIDE of us), but willing to seize them/say yes! Listen to the part on my video on investing in Real Estate and paying off your mortgage.
Not all ideas will be good, but we won’t know unless we try them (52/year).
Always have FUN.
LOVING something is a win/win (fashion, shopping, home organizing, home decor, garden design), and you can do it all or most of it ONLINE!
HUGE change may not come overnight, but it will come…it’s like working out and progress is not visible right away.
Things will get EASIER.
Use your phone’s NOTEs app.
I’m doing it, I’m going… even if it’s a snail’s pace, but I’m going!
Are you coming?
Let’s go!!!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more here
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We’ve all seen (and been) people who believe that ourlife’s results are outside of our control.
My hope is that, if you are thinking that now, from nowon you never again believe that your destiny is in someone else’s hands and not your own.
No one is in charge of us and our lives…
Not our work boss
Not our government
Not our husband
Not our parents, after 18
We do not ever HAVE to do anything if don’t want to… noteven a job, or that job! There’s power in knowing this!
I decide what work to do, who I marry, or NOT marry.
If I don’t like the work I do I can acquire a new skilland get a new job.
If I don’t like how little money I make, I can increasethe quality of the value I can provide and get paid more for that value.
Even at work I’m always my own boss, because I’m incharge of where I work, and what work I do… I AM IN CHARGE OF ME ALWAYS!
My work boss is in charge of him/herself and his/her job,not me, that’s my job.
So now knowing and remembering that you’re always incharge of all aspects of your life, how will you move forward?
Will you stay WHERE you are and HOW you are, or are you going to choose a new direction, a new horizon?
The whole point of this episode is to not stay stuck, bychoice!
So, let’s plan and let’s go!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’tfeel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more here
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What’s the difference between real and self-imposed victimization?Our thoughts!
In the movie Room, as little Jack reads the line
“For you see, out-of-the-way things had happenedlately, that Alice begun to think that veryfew thingsindeed were really impossible.”
From the book Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, thisgirl’s thoughts changed in one instant, although she had been, and most importantly had believed she was a victim.
Compare this to times in your life when you felt like avictim, and how you acted… it was something someone said or did, or something happened.
What’s the difference between a victim and a victor? The way we think.
We see this in movies all the time, but we know that artimitates life.
How can we retell our story in a way that we are victors,not victims? Even when (and especially when) we are also the villain.
Things to consider if you’ve felt like a victim, a prisoner, when in fact the door was wide open:
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Own your part in having co-created your current state (bad choices, over eating, wrong guy, over spending) … feeling powerless!
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Decide to own your future journey from here on out
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Own when you don’t take action… don’t blame external circumstances
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Adapt (start) an attitude of “I got myself into this, I’ll get myself out it”
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Use your influence, your VISION (The Power of Vision Ep 97), your VOICE… take action and SPEAK your future into being.
6. It’s ok to experience pain, but don’t allow it to become part of you, don’t carry it!
Travel LIGHT!!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’tfeel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
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Our narrative, how we think of our life and ourselves, creates who we become and therefor our lives.
When our narrative is not helping us create the life we want, what can we do?
Listen and find out.
Success stories on changing our narrative, and overcoming seemingly insurmountable circumstances… to ponder (extreme cases):
Viktor Frankl
Nelson Mandela
Edith Eva Eger
Helen Keller
Victor Herman
Amy Purdy
Stephen Hawking
Google their stories and be inspired!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more here
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It’s not always easy to be on the battlefield, where we are tested to our very limits.
Some days I just want to quit!! Today I wanted to quit… big time!
Then I saw the plays on my last few episodes and I remembered the words of one of my coaches, “If I can help even just ONE woman, my efforts matter. I will not quit and let her down.”
I also just wanted to cry, because she also said that in the beginning no one was listening, but she kept going… for ME!!
And I will keep going for YOU!!
Will you join me and do battle together??
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
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What does it mean to be at the HELM of one’s life?
What is a helm?
Helm (per Google): a tiller or wheel and any associated equipment for steering a ship or boat in a certain direction.
“She stayed at the helm, alert for tankers.”
Our life is like a ship… there are many moving parts that work in conjunction to get us to where we want to go.
Be at the helm in ALL areas of your life, they all matter.
Resources mentioned:
Sacred Space, book by Denise Linn
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours:24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR textSTART to 88788
Learn more
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What set of choices brought us to our current life?
Did we make conscious choices with a certain outcome in mind or did we just stumble our way here?
Are you on a trajectory of your choosing, with a particularoutcome for your future life?
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ throughinterpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
Let’s connect on social media!
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Why do most of us fall short of achieving our dreams?
Because we’re not ALL IN on what it takes to dothe thing!
We’re not willing to work 80 hrs/week for ourselves to not work 40 hrs for someone else, but work those 80 hrs on OUR TERMS!
Are you ALL IN??
I hope you said YES! Let's go!!!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and youdon’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours:24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR textSTART to 88788
Learn more
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The difference between on how we act in the momenthas everything to do with whether we are looking for short or lastinglifelongresults.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and youdon’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
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800-799-7233
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What’s important about this topic what it means to us, to me, to you.
I may think someone is settling, but if they are happy it really doesn’t matter what I think.
The question is whether we are settling for a life less happy and prosperous (to us) than what we truly want, and are capable of creating… therein lies the tragedy in settling!
How to know if we’re settling, and why we are doing so…
If you are unhappy about any area of your life, and you do nothing about it, you are settling!
Example: You rent where you live and your landlord is a pain in the toe, and you hate living there, but you’ve not ever even looked to see if you can buy your own place… you are settling for mediocrity and you arecontributing to your own unnecessary suffering!
A solution could be applying to getpreapproved and look for a place within your price range, right NOW, so that you never have to deal with a landlord again!
Whatever you’re settling for (you’re unhappy about it), start working on improving it.
Even if it takes your whole life to journey to it… in fact, pursuing an ideal is part of the joy we experience as humans.
It’s okay if it takes forever… that’s normal!
When we continuously strive to improve ourselves and our life, the joy is in fact in the journey and there is no end to what we can go after (think gardeners... They never stop gardening).
It is my belief that when we are unhappy in life, or blame others for our own misery, it’s because we are not pursuing a worthy ideal(s), big or small.
An ideal doesn’t have to be big, I can be anything that fills your heart with joy!
Putting up with anything that robs you of a joyful life is monumental… could be a matter of life and death!
Being unhappy can actually make you sick… our bodies thrive when we are happy and at peace.
Pursue happiness and peace in your life, always! Starting right now, start by focusing on and loving all the good you already have and then add to that, and never stop!
Related podcast Episodes:
EP 105: BE TOO BUSY TO BE UNHAPPY
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-105-be-too-busy-to-be-unhappy/id1597656935?i=1000636755131
EP 119: LOVE YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-119-love-your-life-right-now/id1597656935?i=1000648101508
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and youdon’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours:24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR textSTART to 88788
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What is your life can you concentrate your efforts on to make it as amazing as possible?
For me, on the surface…
My garden
My closet
My home equity (very important!)
My zero debt
My fridge full of every condiment you can think of!!
My hats, scarves, handbags (have many but mostly use an old trusted one)
My Spices
My fully stocked and organized pantry
My relationships
This list is endless for each of us, but it's little things like these that are very important in that they are like chain links/stepping stones if you will, that can grow and expand to and make our life as a whole even better…
What in YOUR life are you concentrating on, or COULD START, that would lead you in the direction of a better, more fulfilling life?
One area that a lot of us struggle with is RELATIONSHIPS… unsettledrelationships are sleep stealers, so we must do our best to cultivate the ones we care about most.
Let’s do this together. Everything, no matter how small, is a bridge to the next area, and all areas of life arelinked together!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and youdon’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
NationalDomestic Violence Hotline
Hours:24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR textSTART to 88788
Learn more
Let’sconnect on social media!
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What paradigm are you operation on right now?
We have paradigms such as…
“Diets don’t work”… I lose weight then I gain it all back! The ‘thermostat’ is keeping our program weight according to our current paradigm.
Why is that? The thermostat was programmed, and so are we, based on past experiences and everything going on around us and we go back to something we do not want.
“The most money I can make is”…
Whatever your current job pays you, which is based on your current skills set.
“This is the best job that I’m capable of getting/doing, so I’m stuck here”… How many people do you know who stay at a current job even if they hate it? They’re stuck in their current paradigm.
“I’ll never be able to afford to buy my own place”…
Unless you’re planning on moving or dying soon, what’s the reason for thinking this?
“I’ll never get out of debt/debt is BAD”…
Not all debt is bad, did you know that?
“I’m stuck in this”… marriage/this town/ this house.
Is this really true?
“I’m too old to”… learn new things, new technology,new skills, change my life.
What if all we had to do is try new things, new thoughts, new habits on???
Are you really too old to… ?
Are you really stuck in… ?
Is it true that diets don’t work? Maybe it’s our current programming/paradigm that keeps sending us back to eating foods we shouldn’t, when we are not hungry.
Let’s start REPROGRAMMING a new paradigm into our being.
Resources mentioned:
The Science of Being Well by Wallace D. Wattles
Bob Proctor’s Change Your Paradigm, Change Your Life
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours:24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
Let’s connect on social media!
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I think too often we think “if I only knew 'how to'”!Everyone asks “how”, but my how is not your how.
We need to ask ourselves “why”… the why is the reason and the way!
1st: Look and listen… be open, a vessel, a cup.
2nd: Take note… it’s like writing down a recipe and reading the instructions.
3rd: Apply… what good is owning a beautiful dress if we never wear it, having fine china you never use?
4th: Embody/PRACTICE... it’s like wearing high heels until you don’t fall, until if feels natural to you.
Everything is a working-in-progress… A never-ending journey, to be enjoyed. Never a one-and-done thing.
This is MY WORK too, I feel like I could say so much… but I still need to go deeper within and find the words.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours:24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
Let’s connect on social media!
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If someone offered to trade lives with you, who would that be, and would you do it?
My guess is that there is no one you know personally (there isn’t for me) that you would trade your ENTIRE life with!
Because even when we whine and complain about life, deep down we love our life so much, but sometimes we just think we don’t!
The easier and greatest journey would be to LOVE the MOST of what we have, while continuing to pursue an even better life.
Not because we hate our current life, but because we just want more. It’s ok to want more.
We can want more for us, for those we love, and for the world.
From this perspective… what an amazing journey this life can be!!
What is AMAZING in your life right now? Something you would be devastated if you lost it??
When we look at life that way, it will become more and more that way… it’s the LAW of the universe.
So, the trade-off is: instead of focusing on why life is not as grand as you wish it was, trade your POV… turn AWAY from that ‘not so happy’ reality and create a new one just by refocusing on what you love NOW, because that will inspire and drive you to create more of it.
There is no limit to what you can manifest, and you can start right now.
Make a list: What are the things you’d be devastated if you lost them… and start to love and celebrate having them.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the NationalDomestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours:24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
Let’s connect on social media!
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Is your environment keeping you stuck?
Let’s pay attention, as everything around us has an effect on how we feel, act, and create.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours:24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
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When the brain says “I can’t afford” it right now… Is it really true?
Or would it be better to say, I rather spend my money on something else, or I don’t value that right now?
“I don’t have time”… that’s a lie, how others do so much more “I don’t know how”… how about if you just start you’ll find out along the way & grow as you findout “What will “they” think?”… A better choice would be to inspire them instead… if someone is going to judge you, they ALREADY do!
If we’re constantly saying (and our subconscious is listening and manifesting) that we can’t do something we actually wish we “could” do, we are digging a bigger whole for ourselves in that direction!
(Think of Oprah vs a whining person you know, who blames everything and everyone… what’s thedifference the two? Their thoughts)
Instead let’s focus on how (for example) if the real reasonI can’t “afford” something (self-development comes to mind), doing it would cure the problem, by improving our skills, our ability to be able to “afford” it!
Is that TRUE or do I value something else more, maybe having that money in the bank not doing anything!
It’s best to be truthful with ourselves… like “I don’t trust that I will utilize that knowledge”, is better than “I can’t afford it”.
Don’t plant that poisonous seed in your mind!
Next time you find yourself stopping yourself from doing something you want to do, try to really examine the truth of the matter, the real “why not” and not believing theexcuse your brain if offering.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
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Dream the undreamnt... Why don’t we dare to even just dream a fantastical dream?
__ Reach for the seemingly unreachable: (You don’t have to do it all alone, or all yourself… just start)
__ Do it for more than just yourself: (Those watching you, especially those who are like you, will be inspired)
__ Do it for more than just the “getting”: (Who we become in the process is better than what weachieve)
__ So, is there something in your life that no one you know, or in your family has ever done before, but that you wish you could do? Go for it!
Things to Pioneer in: they don’t have to be monumental things…they can just be something meaningful to YOU, it can be anything that will make your life better, happier, calmer, more enjoyable.
__ Not doing things you don’t want to do, just because you’re expected to do them.
__ Not doing things that make me feel uncomfortable , forwhatever reason, such as “respect your elders”, attend the funeral of a family member you hated, no matter who doesn’t like it.
__ Honoring your feelings: after a certain age you don’t want to be part of your childhood religion
__ When we keep quiet, and hide our true dreams oremotions, we have no idea who we’re not helping or what hurtful secrets we’re keeping. Be a Pioneer in any way that suits you, that highlights your talents, your dreams, your abilities, and most importantly your ambition for HOW you want to live YOUR life!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
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You've heard of the phrase “Pros & Cons”, right?
Mostly everything in life has pros & cons, including us!
Up has down, high has low, happy has sad, day has night, light has dark… all most in balance, but too much of even a good thing can become a con.
Where do our CONs live? Our bodies, our minds, ourmemories?
They became part of us, based on our upbringing, and oursurroudings growing up.
What are they? They are our bad habits, fears, laziness, insecurities, doubt, not feeling worthy, and they keep us down in the dumps, where don’t want to be!
Side note: Laziness does not need to be a con!Examples:
__Someone robs a bank… that’s stupid lazy! Don’t be that.
__Someone who never does their yard work, weeds will take over, even becoming a hazard. Be smart lazy and hire that out, find a way to make that is not send you to prison!
How do we minimize them? (it’s not possibleto banish them forever!) (Make friends with them (but not BFFs!)… it can be a guest, a passenger, a distant friend/relative),
AND by Nurturing/Focusing our PROs and strengths (because what we think, we become):
(example:Clean kitchen, organized closet, beautiful garden, etc.)
CATEGORIZE and tackle things individually (at homeor work).
This is HARD work! Try a cleaning schedule, I do this (since everything starts at home (what happens inside our homes shapes our lives).
Book mentioned. Sacred Space by Denise Linn
Sacred Space: Clearing and Enhancing the Energy of Your Home: Linn, Denise: 9780345397690: Amazon.com: Books
IMPORTANT:
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The day you took your first breath was the beginning of the shaping of the life you have now.
The people who raised you shaped you… (rich, poor, famous, kind, mean, educated…)
Your life experiences shaped you… (we’re like a recipe!)
It has not been a straight road… all the bends and turns left an imprint in you, in how you see yourself.
It’s the same for me.
But your future (and mine) is yet to be written.
From here on out, you hold in your hand, or better yet in your mind, the paintbrush that can paint and bring to reality a future you envision.
So, overcoming brings about a new result, aresult we want to bring about, on purpose.
95% of the population wants this… why are we not where we want to be, what’s holding us back?
Our resistance to overcoming our current self, that’s what!
What steps can you take right now, where you are, to overcome your current self, your current life?
Start now, right where you are.
LET'S GO!!
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As you start to believe in limitlessness, things will start to show up in your life, to LINE UP with you!
__ 1 We’re all limitless beyond measure… know that, get it in your heart & soul, research it, study it, practice it, TEST it.
__ 2 Don’t be afraid to experiment/to fail… go after things you really want, start with simple “attainable” thingsthat will boost your confidence… Example #3
__ 3 I have tested this, our house, our gate, are both pure proof… I too am doing this work… let’s do it together!
__ 4 Don’t look up to those whose life you would not want to live.
__ 5 Don’t look to your (preprogrammed) past, look to doing something new to get new results.
__ 6 Get out of comfortness. Comfort is a killer of dreams… do the uncomfortable, unless you want to stay the same.
Open your mind to see how limitless you truly are (look for evidence if you must), research it, read books on it, hire a coach, etc.
I am not ‘telling’ you what to do, even if it sounds like it…
This is also the work of my life, I’m walking this path along side with you, inviting you to come along. Let’s go, let’sget it ours… no one else will claim what’s yours. It’s yours and yours alone.
Most of us don’t believe this truth…
“Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence”
– Carl Sagan, Astronomer and planetaryscientist.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the NationalDomestic Violence Hotline!
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800-799-7233
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“Absence of evidence is not evidenceof absence” – Carl Sagan, Astronomer and planetaryscientist
Things we want proof/knowledge of/how to know we don’t believe:
· How much money a job pays (we don’t think to create our own) We stay even if we hate it
· We put a CAP on what we can achieve (never trying to buy a home)
· We have limited expectations of what we are capable of (so we remain stuck)
· Age limitations (Martha biz at 50, some models are 70)
· Education/lack of (lack of education doesn’t have to mean poverty… not ever, not today!)
· We stop learning and growing (why?)
Why not just try?
· If we don’t try something we’ll never know what we’re capableof (or if it’s not for us, cold calling)
· Failing brings about experience (even benefits… my RE no mort)
· Growth comes as result of failing over and over (like driving a car), if we’re not growing we’re dying.
· Let’s adopt to what comes our way (not everyone was poor during the great depression/Covid19)
· Seeing is not believing… seeing comes as a result of believing.
· Lastly… picture the possibilities, don’t just draw from the past or just from what know now (what you don’t like in your life has an opposite… a solution!)
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the NationalDomestic Violence Hotline!
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Hours:24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
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What if instead of thinking something was “too late” for us, we let the new wave ofwomen of today, some in their 60s, 70s (like Joan, IG: Joan MacDonald @trainwithjoan) inspire us?
While it’s true that there may be things we can’t physically do after certain age, it’s also likely that we would not desire to do them, to put in the effort.
However, if you have a DEEP DESIRE to do something, it’s very likely that if you set out to do it, you will find a way to do it.
Joan (mentioned before) was 70, and 70 lbs overweight when she started training with weights, and at 78 she’s still going strong.
What are most 70 yrs olds in your life doing??
What happens if we’ve “missed the boat”?
RE-THINK things… look for evidence that it’s possible to course-correct… it will most likely not take much effort to do so!
The human body is an amazing miraculous machine…
it can (if not damaged beyond repair) repair itself… best news ever!!
Small effort produces amazing results…
(like working out)
In fact, often the less we do…
(eating less, but healthier) the better the results.
We often feel we’ll have “less freedom”…
if we change (dieting, changing habits)
Truth is… we willhave MORE freedom… (if we prioritize and re-focus our 20% effort), our 80% time will be more enjoyable than if you live life willy-nilly… (causing loss of sleep)…
Course-correcting can be done at any moment…
it just takes deciding.
Decide to start, and take your life in a direction of your choosing… (not like a leaf in the wind)
If you’re wondering but “HOW”??...
Your intuition will guide you, it’s your GPS!!...
When you truly desire something it’s an indication that you are capable of attaining it…
Someone could hand me the exact plans on how to go to Mars at 65, but without a desire is it likely that will do it?
Remember, go inward, the answer lies in your heart, follow you intuition!
Related Podcast episode:
Ep 120: GET M0RE WITH LESS EFFORT Women Rising Together: EP 120 – GET MORE WITH LESS EFFORT on Apple Podcasts
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the NationalDomestic Violence Hotline!
NationalDomestic Violence Hotline
Hours:24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
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Fair warning… this episode could have also been called “Interruptions”!
Oh my GOSH!
On with the show!
What happens when we think our ideas and dreams are too far fetch,pie in the sky, a pipe dream…
We give up!
And even worst, we don’t even try!
But how do we get started on creating our dream life?
We connect the dots… (like steppingstones over water lily pond), from hereto your future life.
SEGMENT your life AREAS…
What’s the first (most important or easiest)… and then what’s next do?
How many dots can you connect ASAP?
Dare to try (put into practice) new things.
Refer to your VISION for guidance… your vision is the answer.
FEATURED QUOTE:
“You would not have sought me, had you not already found me.” – Blaise Pascal
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the NationalDomestic Violence Hotline!
NationalDomestic Violence Hotline
Hours:24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
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Here’s what we’re discussing in today’s episode…
· Why do we vilify social media, yet we all flock to it?
· Social media is amazing, and we can use to either our advantage or our detriment… both our choice.
· Focus on the best version of you, for you.
· Post for YOU, for your future memories, not for others. Others will come and go, and all that remains is you.
Each time you live a moment by enjoying or by posting about it, you’re creating memories of your life, for your future life and for your posterity. Choose wisely.
Our memories affect our mental and physical health… focus on the best of your life, to create your best life.
· I’m a lover of all things nature, coaching, family, and food…so I post about that.
· Post about what you love, and the more you do the more your life will become just that.
We don’t always have to put it “all” out there for the world to see. We can pick and choose what memories we lookback on as we age. And the better we choose, the better our life will become.
See you next time!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National DomesticViolence Hotline!
NationalDomestic Violence Hotline
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800-799-7233
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Okay, this principle is going to blow your mind, and make things so much easier and fun in your life!
** LOOK AROUND YOU… DON’T LIKE WHAT YOU SEE?
It means you/your effortless-ness is producing80% of your "unwanted-ness."
THIS IS GREAT NEWS, because too often we tell ourselves how overwhelmed we are, but that’s actually not true (it’s only our thoughts)…
But our idea of messy is only ours (even if we have to clean up, just for us)
UP YOUR 20%/EFFORT : What to focus on?
Focus on what you enjoy doing, are good at, is more important, and of greatest value!
Focus on all the things that make you happy and that are good for you now and later, good for you and those you love.
** POUR OVER THINGS YOU LOVE, and they will GROW & overflow in your life
FOR EXTRA INSPIRATION… Add the elementof time constraint...**
Add the what I Chopped & Project Runway time limit element… give yourself a time to complete a certain task and commit to it!!
** AREAS OF POSSIBLE IMPROVEMENT:
- working out * eating healthier * home life,everything start at home * giving more at work * watching your finances, etc.
** As we honor our intentions, we become more confident… and you will start to blow your mind!!
Podcast episode mentioned: How I lost 35 lbs.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-99-how-i-lost-35-lbs/id1597656935?i=1000631575671
Vilfredo Federico Damaso Pareto, discovered the 80/20principle: 20% effort = 80% results…
The 80/20Principle: The Secret to Success by Achieving More with Lessby Richard Koch and Nightingale-Conant
TV shows on crunching time:
Project Runway & Chopped
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the NationalDomestic Violence Hotline!
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800-799-7233
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The law of attraction is all-knowing:Can’t be fooled, tricked doesn’t know good from bad * right from wrong…
The law of attraction is us, and is IN all of us, and in EVERYthing:
*It works through us, for us * what I do can have an effect on others * what I desire is brought into being by others.
We are, collectively, the manifestors of our lives:
we affect each other rely on each other support/provide for each other share with each other * learn from each other.
This law works through our subconscious:
it’s our subconscious * our subconscious does everything/it manifests… it takes orders from our conscious while we are awake we have thoughts that are like seeds when we sleep * our subconscious is the soil.
Start by* focusing in all that you have now that you love, and are thankful for in your life right now.**
Law of attraction books I love:
The Vortex by Esther and Jerry Hicks:
The Vortex: Where the Law ofAttraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships: Hicks, Esther, Hicks,Jerry: 9781401958787: Amazon.com: Books
Feeling is the Secret by Neville Goddard:
Feeling is the Secret (DeluxeHardcover Book): Neville Goddard: 9789389157208: Amazon.com: Books
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the NationalDomestic Violence Hotline!
NationalDomestic Violence Hotline
Hours:24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
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Believing creates a FEELING, and when you truly feel thatfeeling, is when you set things (creation) in motion.
This means a clearly defined road to the realization of yourdreams.
And it’s the law of the universe, of how things work… and it’shandled by our consciousness!
In order to operate this law, we need to understand the conscious(male) & the subconscious (female)
The conscious generates ideas and impresses those ideas into the subconscious, while the subconscious RECEIVES these ideas and gives FORM & EXPRESSESS (good or bad) these ideas into our reality.
In other words, it MANISTESTS them!
Ideas are conveyed to the subconscious through our TRUE FEELINGS.
This doesn’t mean suppression or restraint of one’s feeling,but rather consciously controlling our feelings, or disciplining of self, to imagine and entertain feelings that contribute to your happiness.
Indulging, dwelling, or entertaining feelings of wrong,unhappiness or imperfection, will be impressed upon the subconscious and it will work to manifest these things in our lives.
So… BEWARE that the DOMINANT of two feelings is the one that will be EXPRESSED… (it’s LAW), to become a reality.
Lastly, effort is counterproductive. Yay, I don’t need tomove heaven and earth myself in order to make my dreams come true… thank you!
Practice, practice, practice… feeling and believing (act asif) your desired is here, because in fact, it IS.
In some alternate universe the reality you seek already exists, but you must PICTURE, FEEL, and BELIEVE your way to it.
Your imagination and your subconscious will lead you. Allowyourself to be lead to your desired life and future.
Books featured:
The Vortex by Esther and Jerry Hicks:
TheVortex: Where the Law of Attraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships:Hicks, Esther, Hicks, Jerry: 9781401958787: Amazon.com: Books
Feeling is the Secret by Neville Goddard:
Feelingis the Secret (Deluxe Hardcover Book): Neville Goddard: 9789389157208:Amazon.com: Books
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National DomesticViolence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
Let’s connecton social media!
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There’s no better time than the present.
We take action based on past experience, which keeps us fromgrowing.
New goals have not ‘evidence’… yet.
We worry about/and let the “how” stop us. The how willreveal itself as we start moving forward.
We don’t trust our imagination… But our imagination is ourgreatest asset.
Our imagination is the KEY… Use it!
The picture we see is our MAP… Follow it and don’t stop.
Book mentioned: Quantum Leap Your Life by Jennifer Blanchard
Show mentioned:The Man in the High Castle (watched on Amazon Prime, about alternate realities)
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National DomesticViolence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
Let’s connecton social media!
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The After-the-Super-Bowl-58 Episode!!
As we watched this amazing game, eating and drinking allthe delicious things that would most likely kill us, quickly, if we ate them daily and in the same quantities, we most likely did not reflect on what it takes to get to be in the championship of our division or niche, to then get tohave the opportunity to be the “best of the best”… that year!
As you most likely know, the top 20 of the population MAKES/controls 80% of the wealth, while the remaining 80% SHARES the remaining 20%!
WHY is that?
Keeping also in mind that being at “the top” changes (WHATEVER the best is you’re going for), and there areso MANY fields… and that nothing is a zero-sum game.
Nothing!!
There are endless CATEGORIES and CONSUMERS for everything, that we can’t ever run out of possibilities in which to excel at.
Can we take notes from these players and keep showing up for ourselves no matter what?
Even when someone else (even our competition) wins, and we have to go back and start over?
Do we have the BELIEF in what we’re marching towards, in OURdream, to keep going?
My wish is that your dream will keep you marching toward it UNTIL you reach it.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National DomesticViolence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
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Are you doing toomuch of the things you don’t want to do, and not enough of what you do want?
Here’s the thing…
* There will never bea shortage of people thinking you didn’t do enough OR that you do too much ofsomething! But we all do that at times, and the thing is it’s no big dealbecause eventually all we truly care about is about the things that matter tous.
* So, you might aswell do what is enough for YOU, and less of what it’s not!
* We’re alldifferent, so what’s too much or not enough for each one of us is going to vary…BUT it doesn’t mean we’re not going to judge each other for it, and who caresanyway. Do YOU, what makes you a betterand happier person.
* Doing what’s bestfor YOU serves EVERYONE in the long run because you’re showing up as the BESTversion of you!
Thank you, ShondaRhimes for this advice!!
In her book Year of YES (affiliate link below), Shonda Rhimes (creator ofGrey’s Anatomy,
Scandal, How to Get Away with Murder), and yes I quotedher on Ep 114 also, she makes a clear point on doing things YOU want to do, howyou want to do them, and not let yourself guilt yourself for not doing what otherswant you to do how they want you to do them! AMEN to that!!
https://amzn.to/3uaReYc
So focus more on whatyou want and you and all those you love will be the better for it because you’llbe showing up as the best version of YOU.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National DomesticViolence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
Let’s connecton social media!
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As a life coach you don’t just wake up one day and decide tobe a life coach…
it’s a journey of self-discovery and self-healing thatbrings us to a knowing that we can help others discover how amazing life truly is/canbe, that propels us forth.
Part of my journey has been reading endless books on self-improvement,and today I want to share three of those books with you.
At least that’s been my journey… and today the books I whatto share a couple of takeaways from are:
*Sacred Space by Denise Linn
https://amzn.to/4b84RYG
“You are not separate from your home.”
Everything starts at home… which we know because too many ofus are traumatized by things happened to us at home as children.
When you have peace at home, the rest starts to fall intoplace.
Create (now!) a home YOU love to be in/at, not for “others”.
*Year of YES by Shonda Rhimes (creator of Grey’s Anatomy,Scandal, How to Get Away with Murder)
https://amzn.to/3uaReYc
Don’t let comparison (you to them) ruin your life…
Do what you want, how you want to do it.
To really see how what “we think about most becomes ourreality”, for better or for worse.
*Finding Your Own North Star by Martha Beck
https://amzn.to/47UQhB7
Who are “they” anyway? The people we are afraid will judgesand therefore we stay small.
Who cares about what “they” think? Only your ‘social self’ cares, but ouressential self can leads us to where we truly want to be. Follow your intuition,what makes you truly happy.
*The above links are affiliate links.
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Alright, so it’s a given we are born with the capacity to do anything we truly want to do in life.
Ability is what we must acquire in order to reach different levels of our capacity.
That’s such a simple concept, but too many of let fear get in ourway.
Let’s talk about the difference between the two and how to takeaction to improve our abilities.
See you inside!
Often we are heldback in life because believe we are not capable reaching our dreams, butthat’s flawed thinking.
In the movie AMillion Milles Away (on Amazon Prime Video now), Jose Hernandez keepsgetting rejected by NASA year after and year, and they his wife asks him “Whatthey have that you don’t?”
She’s referring to other applicants that have been acceptedinto the space program. He then startsto think about what he needs to improve on in order to learn new skills,develop his ABILITIES in order to stand a better change.
He always had the capacity... He needed to work in hisabilities.
The same is true for you and for me… what abilities/skillsdo we need to work on in order to reach a higher capacity?
I’ve seen people struggle in some of these, just as anexample:
If you’re tech challenged… take up computer science, googlethings, read books
Struggling with a language? Learning a second language thatwill help you get a better easier job, or help you learn new things faster is agreat step to take.
Acquiring a new skill associated with your dream of… painting,making jewelry, making toys (toy by polina)
Developing new habits that move you towards your goals… health,fitness, etc.
Lastly, and most importantly…
Having a DESIRE is KEY… without desire we stay as we are andwe will ither away.
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I could have also title this “tying up loose ends”!
Why do I say this?
Because we often dwell on what we “didn’t do”, that we believewe “should have” done.
According to cultural norms… what we see on TV, oncommercials, etc., or something “someone” said.
First: We need tounderstand that these are justTHOUGHTS.
Solution:
We can take steps to addresswhat’s keeping us awake, IF that’swhat we want.
Such as…
Call or text someone
Write a note, if that’s what it takes
Use Amazon (or any other provider) for gift-giving…
Do whatever ittakes for you to have peace of mind.
Understand that this is just for YOU…
Why do I say this?
Because I’ve NEVER been kept awake thinking of how others“didn’t do enough for me today”, sothat tells me that if I’m thinking that, it may just be me… MY thoughts.
So do what YOU need to do, for YOU to be at peace.
IMPORTANT:
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Did you know that most Americans end up or dead broke by age65?
I was shocked when I heard this a few years back!
“What we think, we become.” – Buddha
So if we don’t think about how we’re spending our money wewon’t have any.
How much is in your bank account now?
How much of what you made last year did you save?
Do you know your net worth? If not, figured this out now andset your mind up to increase it.
Have you thought about how much money you would make in 5years?
How much you will have in the bank in 10 years? Start doing, and working on the math on these things now.
How do you spend your money, whatassetsdo you own?
Are they appreciating (like real estate) or depreciating(like shoes) assets? Make a conscious effort to be choosy about where you moneygoes… think BANK!
Are you investing in YOU?
You are your best asset… you ARE the asset of your life,invest in your betterment, you’ll always have that!
How much is Netflix really costing you?
Not in monthly fees, but in how much more money you could bemaking, that are not, if you focused on that instead of Netflix’ing?
I love this little book on money (aff. Link):
The Richest Man In Babylon by George S. Clason
https://amzn.to/3RPSTdw
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7 tips to new beginnings…
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Start anywhere, just start! Start withwhatever is bothering you most… set your mind up to change it!
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Start with yourself… it’s reallywhere all our power lies.
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At home… our home is a reflection ofourselves.
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At work… only second to our home life,but it’s where we earn a living so it’shuge!
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With relationships… fix what you can,that’s broken.
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Beliefs that hold you back… Let go ofbeliefs that do not serve you.
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Habitsthat keep you stagnant (think of non-moving water)… The most power lies in how WEtalk to OURSELVES.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
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Happy Holidays 2023, friends.
I want to close out this year with one of my favorite episodes, "What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger."
What a great message to take with us into the New Year…
We’re here and we’re stronger than ever!
Enjoy, I think you’re going to love it, and I look forwardto seeing you in 2024!
Happy New Year!!
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If people who achieve great success, great fortunes lost it alltoday, they are the kind of person that can start over again from scratch andrebuild.
How’s that possible?
Because they have been through what it takes to achieve whatthey want.
If you set out to go from making 100k a year, to making 500ka year, you will become a different person in the process, even if you fall short!
Even if you only make 400k, you are no longer a person whocan only make 100k a year.
It’s not what you got or didn’t get, it’s who you BECAME inthe process!
The biggest thing that happens is that each time we trysomething new we become the kind of person that is less afraid of takingchances, of failing, of looking ridiculous, like fools, even as failures toother people.
People who dare care more (even if it’s just a little more)about what they want than of what other people think of them.
But people will have opinions about you no matter what. They will criticize you for sure, but you willnot die!
So the journey for me, and I’m inviting you to come along,is to set out to do things we’ve never done before, things we perhaps thought “I’mnot the kind of person that could do that”, or whatever it is for you.
Let’s BECOME that… let’s journey towards the unknown, theundreamnt, the extraordinary, the seemingly impossible… together!
One step at a time, no matter how tiny… and the path willreveal itself, and a new even more extraordinary version of you will begin toemerge.
LET’S GO!!!
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Why are we so afraid of “failing”? Most of us fail by not trying… which is theworst thing!
The biggest failing we do, in my opinion is failing as aparent, yet that’s needed in order for us to continue to evolve.
2nd is at marriage… the two most important things we do inlife we fail at the most, but we just keep on going any way, as we should.
And guess what else, most of us fail at this in some way, atsome point. I don’t think I’ve ever met a perfect parent.
It’s interesting that the most important job we do as humans,we do without any training whatsoever!!
Yet other things in life that would bring us so much joy weare afraid to do because we’re afraid of failing at.
Remember that when we fail at something, if doesn’t mean WEare a failure… we just have more to learn on any given subject, but too oftenwe forget that and see ourselves as “failures” in different areas of life,which is not helpful!
But what if we went into something knowing that we may notget it right at first, but that it doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing.
What if we saw it all as an evolution of sorts, and we tookthe time to see what we did right and the not so right and took notes on whatwe could improve on going forward?
And what if we OWNED our “failures” instead of being ashamedof them? Own them and then move one with life.
Especially if we feel we have failed others in our behavior? It’s not an easy thing to do, but howliberating to own where we think we’ve fallen short and even make amends ifneed be, then march forward making use of the lessons we’ve learned?
IMPORTANT:
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What are some beliefs you have discovered that were limiting, wrong, unfair, or downright destructive to yourself, a segment of the population, or humanity as a whole?
Slave owners had certain beliefs, the Ku Klux Klan (KKK) have certain beliefs, those who don’t believe in gender equality, in equal pay for men and women, interracial or same sex marriages… they have a set of beliefs.
Here are three ways to debunk beliefs that no longer serve you:
ONE:
Where does a certain belief that doesn’t serve you come from?
First, a belief is simply a thought we keep thinking. Nothing more.
Why would you want to get rid of a belief?
The first thing to do is understand how we came to believe something that is no longer serving us.
Who passed it down to us?
Who said that something was so… whatever it is?
For example, women should not ask men to marry them.
If you’re not married by a certain age you’re an old maid/spinster?
If it didn’t come from you, why should you keep it?
TWO:
How long have you held on to, and practiced this belief? The longer it’s been, the longer it may take to get rid of, depending on what it is.
A belief we’ve been believing for a long time is like a tall thick tree. No matter how much you push on it with your hands, you will not be able to topple it. But if you start chipping away at its trunk with an ax or a saw, little by little it will start to weaken its trunk. That’s all it takes… a sway in the wind, a wobble in its balance… it’s the same with debunking a long held belief… you can debunk it and topple it over!!
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THREE: Debunking beliefs…
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Busier people are generally happier than people who have too much free unfulfilled time to spare.Although it’s great to have free time, if we’re not using in a nurturing way, it can work against us! I’ve noticed that happily busy people don’t usually say things like…No one visits meI’m lonelyIf only I had a mateIf only I had friendsCome over anytime Unbussy/unhappy people tend to focus a lot more on the lack, and tend to blame external circumstances for their unhappiness, or hard life. They’re also more likely to reject suggestions on how to help themselves. I have observed that happier people seem to be more passionate about things that matter to them, like…Gardening, sports, hobbies, traveling, care about animals, and overall tend to see more beauty in the world, and create more beauty in their lives.They self-entertain… my husband is that way and I love it.If something is broken or not to your liking in your life, try to fix it as best you can… it’s worth it for your peace of mind. IMPORTANT:If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!National Domestic Violence HotlineHours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service 800-799-7233OR text START to 88788Learn more Let’s connect on social media!INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.togetherhttps://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021 (link below)Women Rising Together | Facebook--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/addie970/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/addie970/support
If you have ever looked back at how your life has evolved upuntil now, you may have asked yourself “what was I thinking?” I know because I’ve done that! And that was it for me… I was not thinking!! Not on purpose, not long term, and not with any particulargoal in mind. If that’s you… now’s the time to pay attention and wake upto the current state of your life... if you feel there should be more to life… therecan be! Sometimes we let “good enough for now” drag us along for years,maybe decades… and life is too short for us to miss out on making life asamazing as possible! And absolutely no judgment here if you’re happy staying thesame forever. But if you’re thinking to yourself “is this all there is?” this is for you. It’s time to awaken and become aware.Here are some tips:Google what you wantRead books on what you want to changeTrade Netflix for Audible if you can’t afford bothListen to podcastsChoose carefully who you follow/who is influencing youSet financial goals (buying a house, paying off a house,saving a certain amount of money, etc.)Learn a new skill IMPORTANT:If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National DomesticViolence Hotline!National Domestic Violence HotlineHours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and200+ through interpretation service 800-799-7233OR text START to 88788Learn more Let’s connecton social media!INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.togetherhttps://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021(link below)Women Rising Together |Facebook--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/addie970/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/addie970/support
Learning to own when I am part of a “problem” I’m having haschanged my life!
It’s still a work in progress, but if you really think aboutit and embrace this idea, it means that the solution is also within ourcontrol.
So powerful!
Imagine living a life where you can fix all, or most, of theproblems you now have? Amazing… and it’strue!
How this works:
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Think of a problem you’re having, and that youbelieve someone else is causing it.
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Think of the way(s) in which you have contributed in creating said problem? (too often we leavethis out)
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Examine indetail why you believe it’s “their” fault alone, and your thoughts about it(what are your thoughts telling you?)
When we assign blame for our problems to other people, wetake ourselves out of the equation of having co-created the problem, and worseyet, we believe it’s not within out control to fix things… so disempowering!!
There two flawed thoughts:
“I’m not responsible/not my fault/not within my control.”
“This should notbe happening.”
None of the two thoughts above serve us.
A better thought would be…
“Why should I be miserable because of the thoughts or howother people choose to live their lives”?
Thoughts to try on/choicesto make:
Own your part in the “problem”.
Take control of what you can do/control.
Decide on thoughts to have/an action to take.
Take other people’s past experiences/hurts into account…have compassion for them.
IMPORTANT:
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The question really is, what is too much or not enough, for YOU?
Are you in too much or not enough-ness on purpose, or bydefault?
Am we too much into consumption of things that are not goodfor us (or our loved ones) long-term?
Is what you are DOING/BEING too much or not enough for the long-termOUTCOME you want?
Believe it or not, I used to not have these thoughts!
I was uneducated and felt not enough… I was more vain’ish,and lived in more of a needing to “prove myself” mentality.
I am grateful to have this forward-looking insight… I want tobe healthy for my loved ones, for my future self, as it relates to me and how Iwant to live my life.
Too much can be: Netflix’ing, eating unhealthy, not workingout, too much consumption of unhealthy things.
No enough could be: Not evolving, living a forward-lookinglife on purpose, being an example to those we influence, opting for what wewant now instead of abstaining and holding for what we want in the long run.
Are you doing enough of the right things, or too much of thewrong things… keeping long-termresults in mind?
Maintaining a steady balance… easy does it. No perfection is required… just steady progress(repetition)
Lastly: Be SELFish each day… This is all for YOU (you want toand choose to)… for your approval. Notthat you don’t think of others, but that you don’t DEPEND on their approval.
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Re-Invention Yourself After 50 Rules: Eventually all the rules will be available in the Re-InventingYourself After 50 Workshop, but for now I wanted to share these with you. I think you will find them super useful! Let’s go!! Rule #1: Know what kind of life you really want.Rule #3: Know what you no longer want in your life.Rule #5: Know that you are the creator of your life. Rule #7: If you don’t change, nothing in your life willeither.Rule #16: Know that success requires failing.Rule #19: Pay attention to who is influencing you.Rule #25: Give YOURSELF permission to be who you want to be. More to come… stay tuned!! IMPORTANT:If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National DomesticViolence Hotline!National Domestic Violence HotlineHours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and200+ through interpretation service 800-799-7233OR text START to 88788Learn more Let’s connecton social media!INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.togetherhttps://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021(link below)Women Rising Together |Facebook--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/addie970/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/addie970/support
** It doesn’t matter on what side you are on, if you’re taking sides… I am not taking sides, but I’m standing for peace.
** What matters is to speak up, say something, do something… donate, pray, fly a flag in support, anything… except staying quiet!!
** I can’t say I truly understand the history of these two nations and why things are how they are, but one thing I know is that this conflict belongs to generations gone by and not to the people of today, not the babies who are being killed by the acts of MEN who want war and revenge.
** The sins or transgressions of our forefathers are not ours to fight, to kill innocent pople over, or to die needlessly for, not unless we take them on. And by doing so, we prolong the suffering of innocent generations to come.
** I would like to advocate for a new better generation who looks to a new and bright future for their children, and their children’s children.
** Ageneration known for being a peaceful and prosperous people.
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Okay, if you’ve been trying to lose weight and have not hadresults, here’s how I lost 35 lbs, and counting!!
It has taken me over a year, but I had hit a plateau, whichI found a solution to, and now it’s all downhill from here.
Yay!!
I summarized these in the audio, but here are the books incase you want to order them.
Here it goes… (affiliate links)
I first lost 25 lbs using the advice in Deep Nutrition by CatherineShanahan M.D.
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Fat Chance: Beating the Odds AgainstSugar, Processed Food, Obesity, and by Robert H. Lustighttps://amzn.to/3rLu4qdAfter hitting a plateau I again started to lose more weight by using the advice fromThe Science of Being Well: Completeand Unabridged (Wallace D. Wattles) https://amzn.to/46R48rRBest of luckand let me know how it goes for you!IMPORTANT:
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Fat Chance: Beating the Odds AgainstSugar, Processed Food, Obesity, and by Robert H.Lustighttps://amzn.to/3rLu4qdAfter I hita plateau I again started to lose more weight by using the advice fromTheScience of Being Well: Completeand Unabridged (Wallace D. Wattles) https://amzn.to/46R48rRBest of luckand let me know how it goes for you!Women Rising Together |Facebook
Fat Chance: Beating the Odds AgainstSugar, Processed Food, Obesity, and by Robert H.Lustighttps://amzn.to/3rLu4qdAfter I hita plateau I again started to lose more weight by using the advice fromTheScience of Being Well: Completeand Unabridged (Wallace D. Wattles) https://amzn.to/46R48rRBest of luckand let me know how it goes for you!
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I think it’s possible to be married and still feel like we’reliving with our boyfriend of years gone by.
Here are five ways that have helped me do just that, and I’mconfident they’ll help you as well!
1. Remember thebeginning:
Anticipation, butterflies, dreams of the future, how you felt,a dream come true… a dream come true, right?
2. Give up trying tochange him:
Try changing yourselfand see how hard that is… If you could change your bad habits, you’d most likelynot care about his.
We only focus on others’ “faults” when WE are not busyenough improving ourselves.
How organized is your closet, your underwear drawer, do youneed a pedicure, a haircut, to exercise, to enrich your mind, further yourskills, strengthen relationships with family…
3. Focus on hisvirtues and remember his trials:
Too often we unfortunately forget that we’ve been throughdifficult times in life, the hurts that have shaped who we are now to a greatextent.
When I remember my husband’s trials I love him so much moreand have so much more compassion for him.
4. Appreciate himand his efforts:
What does your husband do, as a man, as a husband, as aprovider, as a protector, that show you how much he loves you?
Too often after a while we neglect to notice and appreciateour husband’s efforts
Their contribution to our lives together
Their hard work and sacrifices
5. Allow him to beyour hero, your protector:
Men want to be our heroes, our protectors, and to PROVIDEfor us
When we allow them to be our protectors they thrive!
When we allow our husbands to just be men, we stress less!
When we become graceful receivers and allow them to give tous, we synchronize to each other’s natural innate energy!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National DomesticViolence Hotline!
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800-799-7233
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Did you ever stop to think and appreciate that EVERY man-madething on this earth now started with a vision?
A vision of something in someone’s mind?
My husband loves to watch the show The (foods, toys, etc)that built America… best example of people who had a vision, an idea and nevergave up on it… and we now get to enjoy the fruits of their labor.
Our vision is THE key in making our dreams a reality
What are your biggest dreams?
Is there something in YOUR mind, that someone DECADES fromnow will be grateful you or I didn’t give up on?
What vision do you have in your mind that’s possible andthat the future can benefit from?
That vision is the golden ticket to get you there… the mapyou need and it’s safely guarded in your imagination
Each time you try and fail, all you need to do is refer backto that vision… don’t take that for granted
You mind is the most magical idea-generating machine everinvented
Everything that has been built by man all over the world wasfirst a vision in someone’s mind
What is in your mind right now that you have not believedwas possible?
It’s time to start unraveling it, start manifesting it inyour life
How do I do that?
By trying something… starting at the beginning
Every time you take a step, the path will begin to open
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First off, what is success?
Success is doing something you set out to do on purpose andyou are happy doing it.
If you look around you, you’ll most likely notice that successfulpeople become a certain type ofperson before becoming successful.
They do a specificthing that propels them to be successful… not 100 things all at once, notbeing particularly good at any one thing. It would be ok to be a crafter and do different things, such as rings,earrings, bracelets, but it’s all jewel, and maybe even a specific type ofjewelry such as metals or beads, for example.
They are goal-drivenin a certain field or craft… such as a cattle rancher, a crops grower, avineyard owner, a fashion designer, a home decluttering expert, you get thepoint.
But they focus on that one thing, in that one field… and thenBECOME known for that. Usually whensomeone becomes famously successful they’ve done a lot of work that most of usdon’t know about.
It’s ok to pivot… it’s almost always by trial and error thatpeople find the one thing they’re successful at.
Never give up trying… keep your eye on the prize of your success. Relentless pursuit will get you there.
Quotes by Jim Rohn
“Work harder on YOURSELF than you do on your job.”
“Formal education will make you a living; self-educationwill make you a fortune.”
“You don’t get paid for the hour. You get paid for the value you bring to thehour.”
“The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes ofyou to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater valuethan what you get.”
Mentioned on this episode:
Ep 29 - FAIL FORWARD, FAST of the Women Rising Together podcast:Women Rising Together: Ep. 29 - Fail Forward, Fast on Apple Podcasts
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Can we just pause for a moment and try to grasp the reality ofthe world we live in is?
How everything around us was created?
Our homes, cars, airplanes, GPS, television, smart phones…
EVERYTHING started first in someone’s imagination… WHAT CAN YOUIMAGINE CREATING?
People did NOT KNOW “how” it was going to happen… but theyhad to rely on the PICTURE in their imagination in order to accomplish thething!
IT WAS ONLY IN THEIR MIND, THEIR IMAGINATION.
We are part of the universe’s intelligence… but too often wejust don’t think about it enough to grasp the powerful beings we are… ourcapabilities.
All that we can do
All that we are capable of doing of creating
There’s a reason we’re here right now… you, me, us!!
Our imagination is the portal through which we enter intoour greatness, our potential
What you can become or do, comes from your mind… it’sthat simple!
So what is possible for you to imagine and create?
Who can benefit from your creation?
I know one thing… someone out there is now just waiting foryou to come tell them you can help them!
No matter howsmall our contribution, even IF we can start by helping just one person at atime… it’ll make a world of difference to that ONE person… who can then go onto impact others, in their lives BECAUSE you showed up. That’s powerful!
How to begin…start with the simplest part, the easiest part of your mental picture… yourmind will lead you.
Trust yourintuition, your imagination, and move forward… the way will open up before you.
And beforeyou know it, you’ll be creating something from a thought you had…
And the moreyou think the more you can create!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusiverelationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National DomesticViolence Hotline!
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800-799-7233
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One of the biggest problems/complaints a lot of people have is “other people’s” behavior, and how that creates problems in our lives…
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What they do
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What they don’t do
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How they do it
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They do too much,
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They don’t do enough
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They do it wrong
*They visit too much
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They don’t visit enough
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They spend too much
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They spend their money on the wrong things (
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They’re too stingy…
I used to not be aware of this… I was myself swimming in the deep end with others about OPPs (other people’s problems)… Oblivious as to the harm this was causing, not just other people, but myself, too.
If someone wanted to complain about someone I’d jump right in the pool with them... what a waste of time and energy.
If you listen /pay attention you’ll know that what I’m talking about is true. I’m so glad for this knowledge now.
But just talking it about is one thing (still not a good thing though)… but letting what other people do AFFECT us and our lives is something totally different, and this is what I want you to pay attention to.
I’m talking about how deeply are you letting what other people do, how THEY live THEIR lives affect you, how you live your life?
Same thing as when we FEEL / THINK we fall short! Give yourself a break.
Stop thinking about this and just do you, make YOU happy! EP 59 – GIVE OTHERS THE GIFT OF YOUR HAPPINESS.
Clue: How do you feel when everyone in your life is happy? As supposed to them being miserable, always wanting and needing you to always do more for them?
So, here’s what I’ve learned… making ourselves happy is the best gift when can give ourselves and our loved ones, and allowing others to just that for themselves… be / live their lives the best they can. That’s one of the best gifts, if not the best gift we can give each other.
Try it and let me know what you find out!!
Mentioned in this episode:
EP 59 – GIVE OTHERS THE GIFT OF YOUR OWN HAPPINESS
https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/ep-59-give-others-the-gift-of-your-own-happiness/id1597656935?i=1000593406439
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These are just some of the ways in which coaching has forever changed my life, and I hope there’s something here for you as well. 1. It opened my eyes and mind to the idea that I alone can change anything in my life… Not without help (we are an interdependent society), but not to wait for someone else to do it for me. But by taking initiative and having the desire to change. 2. That I’m not too late to start, no matter my age I became aware of the impact women of all ages and backgrounds are making today… and I can do the same! 3. That I create my own reality and it’s not others’ fault that I’m stuck where I am.
Other people may contribute to how I experience life but it’s my responsibility to manage my own mind, thoughts, and action I can take. The KINDS of action I can take, as supposed to no action. So POWERFUL 4. That I have the capability to become (right now I’m a sum of my past and current environment) a new better version of myself – I used to think that I was stuck forever, no education, no “significant” skills to really dream big, but wrong was I!! Likes artists who evolve and get better and better My mind, my life, my personality, and experiences make a unique person and uniquely qualified to help others 5. That I can change how I see my past and how I tell my story to me – this is huge because I used to not know that too often I was using my story to go into VICTIM mode, a mode in which it’s hard to grow and evolve into a better version of us. How can I use my “bad” experiences as building blocks for a better future, a better ME! 6. To start learning how to love unconditionally - as people are and this has been a challenge for me and I notice it’s a challenge for a lot of other people as well, but one of the most freeing and rewarding when we make progress. I experience pushback from people when I disagree that people “shouldn’t do” certain things 7. To not care (stress) so much about what others think/expect of me and to people-please less – this can be so hard but again so freeing once we start practicing it. This also teaches you not to expect your happiness and well-being to come from others (for other to please you). IMPORTANT: If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline! National Domestic Violence Hotline Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service 800-799-7233 OR text START to 88788 Learn more Let’s connect on social media! INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/ PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021 (link below) Women Rising Together | Facebook
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Back on Ep 63 (not 61, sorry!) – WHEN THE STUDENT IS READY…
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-63-when-the-student-is-ready/id1597656935?i=1000598422326
2nd correction: I have 7 grandchildren, not 8!! I was thinking how many kids my mom had... 8!
Ok, moving on!
I talked about being really ready to hear what we need to hear, that will move us forward in a desired direction. Sometimes this is harder to do than we think.
After having listened to the below statements over 5 times, in the Audible book Start Here by Earl Nightingale, I finally got it!
It finally landed… it hit me right in my soul! Are you ready to hear them?
Here they are…
* Columbus cherished a vision of another world, and he DISCOVERED it.
* Copernicus fostered the vision and multiplicity of other worlds in a wider universe, and he REVEALED them.
* Buddha beheld a vision of a spiritual world of stainless beauty and perfect peace, and he ENTERED into it.
Perhaps you’ll agree with me when I say that your actions (and mine) from your/our past** have led you, me, us, to our current reality.
There was a multitude of possibilities** as to where our current reality could end up.
** But you are here, I am here, we are here.
From here on out the possibilities are endless, untold, and just waiting for you, for me, for us, to arrive and claim them.
** Do you understand what this means? Do you understand the impact this can have on how your future turns out?
These possibilities**:
Like Columbus’ another world,
Copernicus’ multiplicity of worlds in a wider universe
Buddha’s peaceful world of stainless beauty…
Mean that you do not have to “create” them, they already exist in the universe (in your mind), and all you have to do is take intentional, aligned action in their direction and enter into them.
My last and main point is EXAMINE where you are…
What’s important to you, what areas of your life do wish to change?
Whatever it is… think on it, and plan on marching towards the outcome of the future you desire.
IMPORTANT:
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Thoughts not to have… because they do not serve us.
And in fact, they harm us!!
Thought: I never catch a break!
First of all NEVER is too long… and also not true, so why think this or say it? When we say things like this our subconscious takes us at our word.
A better statement or thought could be is “Life has ups and downs, it’s part of being human, things will soon change for the better, I know it!”
Thought: When it rains it pours!
This thought says you’re expecting more bad things, and life gives us what we expect.
A better thought would be “Sometimes it rains and it means flowers are coming” and if by any chance it pours, even more flowers are coming… and maybe even some honey too!!
Having better thoughts tells my subconscious I’m not doomed!
Thought: If it’s not one thing is another!
This sends your subconscious the message that ALL kinds of things keep going wrong, and it will work to confirm that for you in your life.
A better thought would be “Life has challenges sometimes, but I can handle it… I will grow from this, I can do hard things, I’ve got this”!
Notice yourself noticing these negative things… as supposed to the million other things that are going well, even amazing… Like your health, internet, clean running water, that can breathe, a car, a job, a healthy family, a loving partner…
Thought: Money is the root of all evil! Or Money corrupts people!
Remember the quote…
“Circumstances don’t make the man, they reveal him to himself.”
- Epictetus
Having negative thoughts about money will prevent us from becoming rich
Thinking money is hard to come by manifest true in our lives…
Thinking money is easy to come by is a much better though and feels better too.
Thoughts that “other” people are the cause of your unpleasant circumstances.
This takes our power away and gives it to “them”, like we are at their whim.
A better thought would be “Other people have no power over me. It’s only my thoughts that affect how I feel. I decide my own state of mental well-being, not others.”
Posting too much negativity on SM means you’re thinking about it too much already, and it will expand.
Negativity spreads like wild fire… contain it!!
Thought: I’m my own worst enemy!
This is actually a true statement, but it doesn’t have to be.
How are your relationships… what thoughts do you think, are they becoming true?
People become what of them… expect good of you, from you. You are infinitely good. That’s the TRUTH
Let’s turn our thinking to the positive side… the silver lining. It’s there, look for it, try it on more often!!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,
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800-799-7233
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It’s true that sometimes we are annoyed by what people do or say, how they say it, but not only is it normal, it’s also optional.
We can be annoyed, unhappy, even hurt, but for how long is up to us!
And it’s very important to remember that the ONLY reason we’re annoyed is because of what we are thinking about it, what are making it mean!
No other reason!
We also forget that too often we misinterpret each other… one person says and means one thing, and we hear and making mean something completely different.
We must also take into account ours, as well as others’ CAPACITY to deal with life’s challenges.
Almost always how someone acts or interprets things is based on our CAPACITY to cope with life.
When someone is “too controlling” it’s not a reflection of those they want to control, but only of their own capabilities.
Example: When I try to “show” you how to do the dishes or make the bed, it’s only based on MY own brain’s capacity… not of your inadequacy!
But too often we take people’s behavior as a sign that it means something about us… it DOES NOT!!
How others do life has to do with themselves not you.
When we live our life on our terms, and allow others (susan/alan) to do the same, we all win! We’re all better for it… what peace that brings.
Please, do yourself and those you love a favor… don’t DEMAND of THEM to change how they live their lives in or that YOU may be happier… or worse yet, UNHAPPY!
How many people do you know if your life? 10, 100, 200?
Imagine if you had to please everyone in order for them to be happy and if you didn’t they would all recent you for it?
Allow, and receive, what others can freely give of themselves to you… demand nothing, and appreciate what they do give… for it’s all they can do.
No more being miserable because of what others do or say. All you need to make yourself happy it’s already within you right now.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
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800-799-7233
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Wimpy is defined as... weak, cowardly, feeble!
Feel you’ve been any of these things in your life, maybe in certain relationships or situations and you feel bad, or maybe even mad about it?
I truly do not believe we as women are any of these things, ever!! There come times when we must make certain choices, which is very different.
So if this is you, stop feeling bad… you did your best with what you were dealing with at that time. We do our best, always.
Sometimes beating ourselves up is even worse than the actual event, and it does not serve us whatsoever to have those thought!
A better thought could be “it was a CHOICE I made”, and OWN it!
At times we may think we allowed ourselves to be abused or mistreated in some way, but is that really true?
Did you have other better choices and you just chose to take the “abuse” or where you being wise under you current circumstances?
When we tell ourselves we had no choice, we continue to feel we were powerless.
But we did have a choice, and we chose the best we could at that time… that is so much more empowering a thought!
Was there conflict in the family and you chose peace, but felt like you were cowardly? No, you chose peace, and maybe not just for you but for others too.
If we have the thought “I was wimpy”, your subconscious will believe that and you don’t want that going forward. You can think instead “I was WISE”… “I am BEING wise”!
Let’s change it up, we are not wimpy women, we are wise women!!
In any situation you find yourself in now, know you’re doing your best given the situation. If there was a better choice you would take make it, but you are choosing the best you can and taking not just yourself but also others in to account.
Be proud of the choices you are making, you are a woman wise beyond words, my friend. Own it.
IMPORTANT:
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What false beliefs do we have about our evolving and self-development?
Often we believe that in order to be successful you have to have a proper education and/or all ducks in a row
Education is amazing, but if we for some reason missed the boat it doesn’t mean we’re out in the cold!
We believe that in order to be seen as successful you have to have a degree, experience, “proof” or credentials, testimonials, blah blah. We let that hold us back!!
While all those things are good to have, they are not a must, not in all cases.
An artist, painter, crafter who crates beautiful art for example… that IS their “degree” their “proof” !!
Sometimes we believe that if you’re overweight or past a certain age that you can’t be a model. That’s not true!
What is a limiting belief you have right now?
I encourage you to question any and all beliefs that are holding you back from doing all the amazing things you could be doing right now, just by tapping into all that you have inside right now.
Be a product of what you believe in and you’ll be on your way!!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,
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These are just some of the ways in which our own words can hurt/harm those we love, if we don’t choose with care what we say about them.
When we complain or talk negatively to anyone about our family or friends, we are downright hurting them, their image, and their reputation at the very least.
When we say someone is bossy, messy, lazy, a bad mom or dad, a bad husband or wife (in whatever way), etc., we hurt them. I’m not talking about having a serious discussion about a family member who may be in need of help, I’m talking about just plain gossiping about things about them you find they do “wrong”.
Here is how we may be hurting them:
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We may cause the perceived “problem” to grow or manifest, and to spread… law of attraction.
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We may cause others to have a negative opinion about them that may be hard to reverse once we say it
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We may cause them to lose opportunities, who’d want to hire them after what you said about them?
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We may cause them to lose the affection of loved ones… how do YOU treat those you have a negative opinion of?
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We may cause them to be possibly hated by HURTLOVED ones… like saying bad things to a child about a parent, grandparent or other beloved relative for example.
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They will feel our negativity, and that of others to whom we have said bad things about them.
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Negativity will spread to others, so we need to stop talking negatively about them, if we love them enough.
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Lastly, instead why not spread ALL and ONLY the good you SEE and KNOW in them… and THINK of it as well.
If you speak ill of your family (children, husband, siblings, in-laws, etc), to others, they will too … what else did you expect would happen? This is a tough realization to contend with, it was for me when I thought about it!!
If you truly need to discuss something about a loved one you’re having a hard time with, HIRE professional to help you... Like a life coach or a therapist. Someone who is neutral and who will not tell everyone what you’re telling them.
Let’s do our best to see the good in others (especially loved ones), the way we wish they would see us.
Let’s turn over a new leaf, starting today!!
And by no means am I suggesting we go around hitting people over the head overly bragging either… use positive moderation, no one likes a constant over bragger!
P.S. Also, WE do not come out looking good when we speak negatively about our loved ones. Talking about a problem is one thing, but bad-mouthing various people regularly is a completely different thing all together. That’s a reflection of us, not them.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
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How about if WE practiced, tried on, the thought “if I loved YOU” I would allow you to BE who YOU are, and I would love you AS you are?
But honestly, this can be one of the HARDEST thing you (we’ll) ever do.
BUT would that not be such a liberating a concept for all of us to experience, and embrace when it comes to dealing with each other?
Like feeling really free to BE who we are, and DO what we really want to do, WHEN we want to do it, IF we want to do it?
And although WE EXPECT, and DESIRE these things, we conveniently forget that OTHERS want the same thing!
I’ve been studying Human Design lately and it is blowing my mind!
Here are some things to keep in mind when dealing with loved ones, or even people you work with:
Each and every one of us (or at least 99% of us) are doing the best we can, while dealing with the cards we’ve been dealt in life. So giving each other grace as we do life would be the best thing we can do for each other, without EXPECTING others to do for us what WE want (not need) them to do, to PROVE they love us.
Let’s stop the insanity.
We are ALL innately and naturally good at something, but too often we are unaware of what this is. When we allow others (and ourselves) to do our thing, our way, we ALL win!
How do we know we are doing the right things? It feels good, we feel joy!
So how about trying to allow others to do the same, the same thing we ourselves are seeking?
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If you've ever wondered why things in your life just keep going wrong… rest assured, nothing has gone wrong!
The FIRST problem, when everything (or things) seem to always be going wrong is… just us thinking that they are.
Let’s be clear though that I am not talking about when something like an accident happens (example) and you need to recover from injuries sustained, or something similar, something temporary.
I’m talking about when in general you just feel like things in your life always happen that “should not be happening to you”, maybe for years or even decades.
First off, just know you’re not alone in this. Tons of people from all walks of life, ages, sizes, financial statuses around the world have these thoughts too.
The interesting thing is that what is a problem for you, may not be a problem for someone else, in the least!
Why is that? Because our thoughts about the SAME things are different..
Also, our approach to finding a solution is different… ONE of us may think there IS a solution while the other does not.
Let’s compare our “bad gone wrong” situation with someone having just been mistakenly diagnosed with a terminal illness, or maybe wrongfully sentenced to life in prison for a crime they did not commit. Either of these tow could probably tell you that they would give up all their possessions, including riches in order to regain their health or freedom.
It’s all about perspective.
Lastly, when we tend to focus on the “bad”, we’re going to have a miserable life, and if I may say so, make others miserable as well.
So, next time you find yourself thinking (feeling) your things in your life are horrible, take a deep breath and say to yourself “nothing has gone wrong here, I am so abundantly blessed”. Try taking a look around
and notice everything in your life that is coming to you without you having to do anything…
your breath, your health, how your body functions, clean water, heat, daylight, nature, the beating of your heart, your bed at night…
IMMERSE yourself in all the good in your life as much and as often as possible.
Positivity overcomes mountains… Nothing has gone wrong, everything is for our benefit, for our evolving, part of being human.
Nothing has gone wrong… it’s all about perspective, really.
.
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Knowing that nothing has gone “wrong” with your life is a huge deal!
It was for me, when I became aware of this fact and started to understand my thoughts.
I used to think SO much had gone wrong in life
__ (and sometimes I still do if I let my guard down),
__ but it only kept me from owning MY choices,
__ my power, from using my gifts, from growing and deliberately evolving,
__ and from moving forward as if everything in my life was EXACTLY as it was supposed to be.
__ it kept me from thriving… by just trying to exist in the “sad” circumstances I thought were unfair
Your life is also right on schedule too…
__ so be ready for what’s coming next,
__ and for what what’s coming after that… keep going, all is well!!
When we think something’s gone wrong…
__ we’re in VICTIM mode, and this mode is not a thriving mode…
__ it’s a poor me, someone come save me mode.
So, whether you’re…
__still paying a mortgage at 65, back to renting in your 70s
__still fighting with your husband after 25 yrs of marriage
__you’ve never owned a home at 50
__Still owe on student loans at 55
__you’re right where you’re supposed be whether you’re in your 20s/30s or beyond
__not getting along with all your relatives… it’s all JOURNEY to navigate…. ALL in due time
Otherwise you’d be somewhere else.
But if you have a desire to change the trajectory of your life, NOW is the time
Decide what you want and CLAIM it for yourself, by yourselfe… because NO ONE is going to come hand it to you!
You’re NOT too anything to try to do what you truly DESIRE to do. DESIRE being the KEY word here.
Time collapse books:
Slipstream Time Hacking by Benjamin Hardy
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
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The reason we’re talking about this is because:
When we look at our pain/hardships in this more “positive” way…
-- things are easier to overcome
-- life itself is better
-- we don’t pile all the “bad” up… “and my this, and my that… sigh”
Life is better because we’re thinking…
-- “even though this is so hard, it’s happening for me” instead of why is this happening “to” me??
-- living life in this more positive mindset produces a better life for us
** Can you look back at something in your life (that maybe you still struggle with)..
-- that you just thought “this hurts so much I think I’m going to die”?
-- and now looking back you know it was not all bad?
-- did some good did come out of it?
** I have been through tough times that I thought I’d NEVER get over…
-- but looking back, I became stronger for them,
-- AND in fact BECAUSE of them
-- I’m a better a person now
-- I have a better life because of them… my daughter, grandchildren, husband, I’m a life coach
-- I live where I life, which I love because of everything I’ve lived through
-- I get to work from home… HUGE thing for me
For you it may be:
** The dreaded boss/job who caused you to quit your job (or insert “bad” thing here)…
-- what if you had stayed in that job?
-- what would you not have or be now had that not happened?
** If you’re going through something difficult now…
-- know that there’s something in it that will make you stronger
-- and your future life better for it…
-- even if it doesn’t feel that way now.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,
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We can be either happy or sad, without changing anything, except our thoughts.
Whether you think something is good or bad, there will be others who think the opposite, and you yourself may change your mind about it later, to the contrary.
I love having the knowledge that just by my thinking I can improve my situation at any given moment!
“For there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” - William Shakespeare
I will strive all the days of my life to embody/REMEMBER this truth, because life is so much better when I do.
Anytime you’re struggling with something or someone difficult, remember this – it will most certainly lighten your mood/life.
We mostly struggle with things OTHERS do, but therein lies the problem… we (no one) likes to be told what to do, but we (most of us) expect others to do as we like them to do.
That’s troublesome if we want peaceful relationships with others.
Examples (1) of REALITY/THOUGHTS:
Grumpy or moody/Easily hurt
Messy/Carefree
Irresponsible/uncomplicated
Always late/enjoys life to the fullest without rushing
Yells too much/feels out of control for some reason. Being understanding of others’ struggles is good for us all.
We forget that the behavior we find bad/wrong/unacceptable in others comes from someplace deep inside of them, perhaps because of something bad/sad/trauma they experienced, AND it bothers US because of something deep inside US that we’ve experienced.
Examples (2)
I’m too (insert negative thought)
My life is too (insert negative thought)… some people if they saw my life would think it’s too boring, BUT I think my life is so peaceful. That’s TRUE FOR ME!
I’m too tall… vs I love being tall!
My life is too boring Vs my life is so peaceful and uncomplicated
My life too chaotic vs my life is so exciting!
My job is awful vs my jobs supports me and I chose it.
Some days we’ll have truly bad tragic days no matter our thoughts, and THAT’S OK, it’s life.
But whenever possible, see what happens when you flip your thoughts around.
IMPORTANT:
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How long can one be perpetually contented anyway, or in a “perfect” anything? Like no darkness, only sunshine 24/7!
I love the Spring, but I wouldn’t give up all the other seasons and have it be Spring year-round.
We need change, even when it could mean extreme heat or cold. It’s nature.
How many couples do you know who have a “PERFECT” marriage 24/7 since day one? I don’t know a single one! Not even my marriage fits that description, even though it’s amazing!
Too often we fool ourselves (why?) into believing that just because we don’t “see” couples go through difficult times, that their marriage is “perfect," without trials… but that’s not the case, and it’s in fact impossible. And thinking that is to our marital detriment.
Although each one of us was created perfect (in the image of God) and was born perfect (for our purpose), life came along and shaped us into the person we are today.
Each one of us is unique and different, so it’s only natural that from time to time, no matter how much we love each other, we will have disagreements (snits, as my husband & I call them). Even heated arguments/fights, it doesn’t have to mean anything, because we’re humans.
Where we get it wrong:
Expecting our husbands to do what we want, how we want, when we want.
“Do the dishes like I do them, fold the laundry but do it like I do it, give the kids a bath but not like that, cook dinner but…” It’s like saying that the way I do things is the BEST & ONLY way to do things!
What to do instead:
Imagine allowing your husband to do things exactly the way he wants to do them (or knows how to do them), just the way you like to be left alone to do things the way you want to?
Unless ordering him around doesn’t upset him, of course by all means ask away… this can be very freeing once we try it… but it does take practice!
Try it a bit at a time and see for yourself. You can always revert to your way if it doesn’t work out for both of you.
I think in general we all want to be free to do as we please, and this applies to our husbands too!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,
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Excuses we use/I’ve used to not do what we want to do.
Very often when we “have” to do something… like go do a job we don’t like, we do it.
But then when we want to do something we let circumstances get the best of us!
Here are a few:
Not enough time… this is my excuse when it comes to reading “I read too slow” I tell myself… my solution, Audible!!
What’s your excuse, and what’s the solution?
Not enough money… one solution could be DIY it, budget it, make extra money!! Now-a-days it’s so easy to make extra money any time we want!!
Being “too tired”… why are we tired? Not enough sleep? Find the source and work on it.
It’s “their fault”… this is a useless excuse, and it’s not true! The state of life and our affairs is always our own doing.
It’s “not my” fault… we use this a lot when we argue with someone, WE are always right and they are always wrong.
It’s too hot, too cold, that’s why I don’t go for a walk.
It’s too wet, too dry, that’s why my garden is a mess.
No!! None of this is true… but we make our truth because that’s the story we’re telling ourselves, so let’s change the story and let’s get things done regardless of circumstances!!
Here’s proof we can do hard things fast, that a lot of us can relate to:
Someone says they’re coming over in 30 minutes… come on!!
What else??
Resources mentioned here:
Ep 40 - The Power of Personal Power
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-40-the-power-of-personal-power/id1597656935?i=1000577774098
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Are the stories of your life helping you grow or holding you back?
Some, not all, of our stories come mostly from ourupbringing, our relationships, and our circumstances.
And to a point, shaped our personality.
But in reality our personality does not need to be permanent… grumpy, short-tempered, rude, inpatient… etc.
So if you ever find yourself listening to stories like “Ican’t do that”, “I’m just not good at that”, “it was because”, “if only I had”…stop and pay attention. Ask yourself if these statements are actually true?
Our whole personality is not set in stone! It’s only thatway at time because I think it is. But if we are willing to change, to grow, toevolve… there is no limit as what you can change in your life, or what you can achieve.
The trick is WE must be willingto change, have a desire to change, and be brave enough to try to change andgrow.
Resources mentioned here:
The Story of You (and How to Create a New One)by Steve Chandler
Ep 6 – How Do You Tell Your Story?
Ep 40 - The Power of Personal Power
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-40-the-power-of-personal-power/id1597656935?i=1000577774098
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Be the ONE with the greener “grass”!
As we become disenchanted with our husbands, we startthinking about the grass being greener elsewhere.
Try refocusing on what you love about your husband.
Wives often throw in the towel… they’re done too early.
Treat your husband ONLY as you want him to be, and there's no way he won't become it.
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Wish I had known long ago that my thinking (not on purpose)was creating my life!
If you’re unhappy with any area of your current life, mightbe for you.
Listen to find out more about:
Learning from your surroundings, in relationships, marriage,professionally, or life in general.
Is anything in currently in your life (you can change)contributing to you not being where you want to be?
I have work to do this too still… in many areas, and always willas long as I live… in reading, self-concept, relationships, etc.
Somethings are working great, the garden, my family (for themost part), self-acceptance, but the inner work is never complete as long as welive.
Other areas are in progress, like my willingness to grow, mycourage to show up (this is hard for me), to be willing to change, to be morevisible, and to have an open mind and a teachable heart.
Where are you? This canbe people or things-related… so keep an open mind when it comes to growing andevolving. Life can never stop getting better!
Inspirational people mentioned on this episode:
Plato
Seneca
Socrates
Emerson
Shakespeare
Jesus
Rumi
Bhudda
Gandhi
In reality we’re never done growing and evolving, so let’skeep going!!
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Did you know there’s a “wheel” where you can assess what’scausing you problems in life?
I did not know that, but when I learned this it made so muchsense!
If you’ve been struggling in certain areas of your life,this is for you.
When we look the areas that make our life what it is, we canexamine if we’re neglecting any of these areas, which in turn create problemsin other areas.
And when we improve one area of our life, other areasimprove as well, which will bring about confidence in continuing to improveourselves.
I hope you find this episode useful. If you do, please share and consider writinga review as to how it helped you improve your life.
Wheel example 1:
https://www.google.com/search?sxsrf=APwXEdcXKfk6WQELfy1Hyh415S6Cle2HMw:1683562317297&q=WHEEL+OF+LIFE&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjSloSvjub-AhWxk2oFHU8fAHYQ0pQJegQICxAB&biw=1536&bih=664&dpr=1.25#imgrc=azJqIo_fG4qURM
Wheel example 2:
https://www.google.com/search?sxsrf=APwXEdcXKfk6WQELfy1Hyh415S6Cle2HMw:1683562317297&q=WHEEL+OF+LIFE&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjSloSvjub-AhWxk2oFHU8fAHYQ0pQJegQICxAB&biw=1536&bih=664&dpr=1.25#imgrc=RaSrxWDs4PJvfM
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Ever felt indebted to someone because they did somethingnice for you?
Or felt like someone didn’t do something nice for you inreturn?
No worries, most of us do or feel that way at time… butthere’s a way to not do that any more.
The law of tithing talks about how we will be blessed byobeying this law, but it does not say we will get back exactly what we gave,from the same people we gave to.
It’s more like, we give and we receive. It’s not I give you and you give me… that’snot how it works.
When it comes to marriages… we almost always want backwhat we give from our spouses (“50/50”)… but that’s not how it works hereeither. If you’re married you probably know that.
If we ever find ourselves feeling in lack of something,start giving more. As we give wereceive… often times in just the joy of giving. But in general when we give, we never know how or when it will come backto us… but it will. It’s the law.
And reciprocity is not linear… keep that in mind. Give just to give, and give cheerfully.
Ways in which we can give (cheerfully)… think back totimes when someone gave you something you never forgot… that is one way inwhich you can also give:
- Remembering friends and those we love (b-days, anniversaries)
- Keeping in touch
- Giving compliments, for talents or unique abilities, etc.
- Acknowledging/giving praise for good deeds, talents, etc
- Sharing of your talents (cards, cooking, flowers from your garden, teaching a special skill)
- Showing gratitude/appreciation for deeds done for you, or for gifts received
- Not expecting/demanding reciprocity
- Not comparing (he does so much for his wife, her children show more love)
- Inspiring others by being more positive and less critical Resources featured in this episode:
The Richest Man In Babylon by George S. Clason: https://www.amazon.com/Richest-Man-Babylon-Original-1926/dp/1508524351/ref=sr_1_11_sspa?crid=SI03PBWS2X5J&keywords=the+richest+man+in+babylon&qid=1682994238&s=books&sprefix=the+richest+%2Cstripbooks%2C185&sr=1-11-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUFYV1NQMFVEVVBaUkkmZW5jcnlwdGVkSWQ9QTA0ODAzNDcxWFNIUzRHRU1NSTImZW5jcnlwdGVkQWRJZD1BMDE2NjE1MzExVUlSQ0dUNjJSNDAmd2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9tdGYmYWN0aW9uPWNsaWNrUmVkaXJlY3QmZG9Ob3RMb2dDbGljaz10cnVl
A Course In Miracles: https://www.amazon.com/Course-Miracles-Combined-Quality/dp/1883360242/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1682994182&sr=1-1
The Ten Bridges of Transformation by Marianne Williamson(on Audible)
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Often you hear that it’s not what we say, but what we dothat shows our true feelings.
Often we focus on the pettiest of things, or on inaction,to judge what others are feeling.
But too often we miss the important things (actions) thatmean true love.
But we can choose what we focus on.
What we focus on grows, IN us and AROUND us, so let’sfocus on what we want more of.
Focusing on others’ best qualities is the sure way to getof what we want from them.
So try to always focus on what you want MORE of.
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Gift giving, and receiving in general, can be tricky, difficult, and sometimes even downright not a good experience.
Nowadays a lot of us are opting to have less “stuff” anyway.
People who truly know me know that I am NOT a good gift RECEIVER, or giver… I get overwhelmed by the process.
My “gift” expectation, from anyone, including my husband… is ZERO. If I ever need something I let people know, I’ll ask.
I also do not believe in “gift reciprocity”. I often give out treats, as I like to bake, and the receiver feels they have to give me something in return. But I’m only giving to give, not so you’ll give me something back in return.
Here are my top tree “best gifts” to give others:
1ST:
The gift of LOVE… a win win, especially for the giver. I especially love loving my husband and our grandchildren. They are the best givers and receivers of loves I know.
Love includes the gift of time (as supposed to stuff), which for many of us, including myself, it’s the most precious resource we have. ButI think that for those of us for whom it’s hard to give our time, we also do not require it of others, unless we needed it due to illness or some other actual necessity.
2ND:
The gift of INSPIRATION… this is like giving wings to someone. When inspiring others they’ll never forget it and it costs us nothing except to see the best in others.
3RD:
The gift of ADVISE or CRITICISM (constructive)… one of the BEST gifts I’ve been given it’s been advise/criticism. I try to not getoffended, but instead have an open mind and a teachable ear to know how to accept advise/criticism in a way that helps me become a better person. I think too often people are afraid to give constructive criticism (fearing offending us) and it’s not helpful to us to not know how to learn from others.
If I disagree with criticism I do my best to tune it out… rarely (not never) do I get offended. And if/when I do I don’t hold on to it for very long.
Overall, the best thing to do is to ASK what others need from us and give according their needs, and our ability in a way that it’s goodfor both of us.
Mentioned:
The Gift of the Magi, a short film
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YUZIVxQ0lIE
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“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.”
- C.S. Lewis (suggested by my husband for a podcast topic)
How do we go about changing our end? Have a listen… hope you like it.
I love this quote because it reminds us that all is not lost, and that we have a great deal of control over the shaping of our future.
The past plays a part in our life, but it does not have to dictate our future, UNLESS we allow it to.
We can apply this to any and all areas of our lives… and when we change one thing, we change everything else.
When we use our personal power, much can be accomplished in life, even when circumstances are not ideal.
Although it’s better to take advantage or good circumstances… as in “the best time to get a new job is while you have a job”, there will be times when we’ll have to do our best in spite of what going on in our lives that’s beyond our control.
Mentioned:
Ep 6 – How Do You Tell Your Story?
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-6-how-do-you-tell-your-story/id1597656935?i=1000546865842
Ep 23 – Write Your Own Story
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-23-write-your-own-story/id1597656935?i=1000559441629
IMPORTANT:
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National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7.Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
SMS: Text START to 88788
Learn more
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A happily EVER after would only be possible, and very boring, if we could completely manipulate and control the other person… but WHO will do the controlling??
Come give this episode a listen and let’s see if you agree with me.
When we expect life and marriage to be 100% happy we set ourselves up for disappointment.
It would be like wanting to lie by the pool the entire summer and expect to never get splashed.
EVEN in movies… there’s conflict and making up.
I don’t know another couple that likes spending 24/7 together… yet we still argue every now and then… it’s NORMAL!
I’ve never been so mad at my husband THAT I did not want to hug and kiss him… never.
Being in an ever-happy marriage is like expecting nothing to ever go wrong in life… it’s IMPOSSIBLE!
We’re married to a living human being… and we’re a living human being.
For better or for worse, in sickness and in health… means we know there’ll be tough times.
Allow for detours, delays, trains, accidents, potholes.
Imagine expecting to drive across country (long drive) and expect that nothing will go wrong… say it takes 36 hrs to drive there and you have a very important speaking event to be at, and you leave with only 36 hrs to get there.
Makes no sense!
IMPORTANT:
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National DomesticViolence Hotline
Hours: 24/7.Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
SMS: Text START to 88788
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- 22%-70% of single mothers live below the poverty line in the USA, compared to 4.2% of married families.
- Children are more likely to experience emotional and mental health behavioral issues when going through a divorce.
- Kids are more likely to be engaged in fighting and theft when being part of a divorced household.
- Abuse is 6x higher in a blended family or when a step-parent is involved.
- Women who cohabit experience more violence than married women.
- Step-parents are more likely to abuse children than birth-parents.
- Divorce rate only increases with each subsequent marriage… because we take OURSELVES with us.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive marriage/relationship and feel you are not safe, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline below right away!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7.Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
SMS: Text START to 88788
Learn more
Featured on this episode:
“Fatherless America” by David Blankenhorn
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You’d think that the more experience you have in marriage, the better the chances of avoiding divorce, right? Not so! So here are the things I didn’t know back when my first marriage was falling apart, or when my second marriage seemed to be headed in the same direction and before I discovered life coaching… Not therapy or marriage counseling, but life coaching!I had not read "The Vortex" by Esther Hicks, nor "The Ten Bridges of Transformation" by Marianne Williamson, and so much more!But I’ve since discovered that WE are ALL damaged (been hurt) in some way, so we’re never going to find, or be, the “perfect-behaving” match at all times for everyone in our lives. It’s impossible.Here are the reasons I’ve discovered, contributing to our marriages failing, over and over again!Reason 1: Our complete happiness is 100% our responsibility, not our husband’s or anyone else’s… Thinking that if only “he would change”, everything would be just fine. This is a thought ERROR. Ignore it.Reason 2: Thinking (I thought) the problem was 100% our husband’s… I was an innocent angel, the “victim”… and we even tell everyone about how awful our husband is, but even worse than telling everyone is… WE believe it ourselves.Reason 3: I was hell-bent on changing/controlling my husband… because “HE was the problem”. Now I can’t say that with 100% certainty. Reason 4: I didn’t know a thing about my feminine power/energy or his masculine energy, or how to embrace that for our benefit and to save our marriage.Reason 5: I didn’t know a thing about how men like to be treated by the women, especially by their wife.Reason 6: I can’t pour from an empty cup. When we’re mentally lacking we come across as needy, clingy, insecure, jealous, and we forget ourselves and our personal growth, our potential.POINTS to remember: A: We were all born perfect, and then life shapes us… let’s not forget that we act according to our scars and fears.B: Each one of us is doing the best we can with what we have right now. Hold space for that.C: Our circumstances shaped us (up to a point), but we can create new circumstances in different areas of our lives. D: WE (you and I) are the secret, the fix, the solution… and that is freaking great news!E: Switching-out husbands only means dealing with new “problems” with the next one. Let’s work on ourselves instead.F: No matter where we go, we take ourselves with us! So unless we change, we’ll always be facing similar “problems.”IMPORTANT:If you are in an abusive relationship and feel you are not safe, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline below right away!National Domestic Violence HotlineHours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service 800-799-7233SMS: Text START to 88788Learn moreMentioned on this episode:"The Vortex" by Esther and Jerry Hickshttps://www.amazon.com/Vortex-Attraction-Assembles-Cooperative-Relationships/dp/1401958788/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1679359734&sr=8-1"The Ten Bridges of Transformation" by Marianne Williamson, on Audible, no link providedLet’s connect on social media!INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.togetherhttps://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021Women Rising Together | Facebook--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/addie970/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/addie970/support
All things I wish I knew before my first marriage ended in divorce.
You’re welcome!
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ALLOW your husband to be the man he was born to be… what is innately manly, for him. Allow him to DO for you… open your door, pay for dinner, be a provider, be your protector.
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Be in feminine energy, practice receiving any and all the things he wants to give you.
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Don’t mother him… when we mother men, they become a man version of a child.
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ALLOW your guy to be himself, to be his own person/self… just as we want to be ourselves.
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Love the man he IS, not a version you wish he was… We fall into a trap of wanting to CHANGE our husbands into something they’re not.
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Do for him just to do, not to receive back what YOU want.
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REFOCUS your attention… from what you don’t like, to what you like and want more of in your guy.
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Look INWARD… when we complain 99% of the time we don’t see ourselves as being at fault (at least when we complain to others), at all! There is always room in every one for personal growth and evolving.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and feel you are not safe, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline below right away!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
SMS: Text START to 88788
Ask for help… friends, family, church
Learn more
Mentioned:
The Ten Bridges of Transformation by Marianne Williamson, on Audible
A Course in Miracles
https://www.amazon.com/course-Miracles-Foundation-Inner-Peace/dp/1883360269/ref=tmm_mmp_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1678745244&sr=8-1
https://www.amazon.com/Courtship-After-Marriage-Romance-Lifetime/dp/0785260277/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1678030062&sr=8-1
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Here are just a few of my takeaways on courtship after marriage… may your courtship never end!
- It’s the little things that make a big difference – what you say to your spouse and how you say it
- You can end up marrying the wrong person, but treat them right and you end up with the right person.
- More important than marrying the right person is BEING the right person.
- There are going to be difficulties along the way, but most can be overcome… you can have everything in life that you want, when you help others get what they want (but NOT so THEY can do something for you).
- Make your mate #1 with you, and they may make you #1 with them.
- When YOU GIVE MORE to the relationship, you are going to be the biggest winner of all.
- Keep the big things in perspective, don’t focus on the small stuff that annoys you.
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1 reason for decline in productivity at work is marital difficulties at home – improve your marriage and everything improves.
- Invest in things that will improve your marriage, it will improve everything else in your life.
- The most important thing we can do for our children is to love their father/mother.
These points don’t even scratch the surface! Be sure to get the book, link below, or included with Audible subscription.
I can’t emphasize enough how amazing I thought this book was on how to treat our spouses.
I hope you get it and that you find it as useful as I have.
Mentioned:
Courtship After Marriage by Zig Ziglar
https://www.amazon.com/Courtship-After-Marriage-Romance-Lifetime/dp/0785260277/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1678137254&sr=8-1
Fatherless America by David Blankenhorn
https://www.amazon.com/Fatherless-America-Confronting-Urgent-Problem/dp/006092683X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=10CUICGFUM3FL&keywords=fatherless+america&qid=1678137158&sprefix=fatherless+ame%2Caps%2C434&sr=8-1
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Attention wives… don’t fall into the “perfection” trap in marriage. Happy doesn’t mean “perfect.”
If you have a “perfect” marriage, I am thrilled for you, and may that never end!
However, if the “perfect” in marriage thing has been lacking in your marriage, this is for you.
This happened to me, too, TWICE before, and it almost cost me a second marriage! I fell into the “perfection” trap!
Marriage is like life, it’s not always perfect… but it’s always worth fighting for it and giving it our all.
This is not to say that sometimes divorce is in fact not only inevitable, but sometimes also necessary. We’re going to keep it real.
That being said, having an amazing and loving marriage does not mean nothing whatsoever about each other ever bugs you… NO WAY! Do not fall for that.
We’re all perfectly imperfect, we make mistakes… allow for improvement in your partner. Forgive shortcomings, and hope he’ll forgive yours.
Embracing our differences… our “gaps” is not only normal, but essential to our happiness in our marital union.
Take into account what painful things in life have shaped your partner’s life, personality, and even things he fears and protects against. Be his refuge, source of healing and strength for him, and you will inspire him to be the same for you.
Allow for growth and repentance… we’re all on a life-long journey of evolution and growth, so live and let live.
Lastly, express yourself, make your desires known to your partner, AND ALSO be mindful of HIS desires as well.
When we’re mindful of each other’s desires and strive to fulfill them, life can’t help but reciprocate in one way or another.
See you next time, friend!!
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A life without obstacles is mundane, boring, uneventful, and who wants that?
It’s ACTUALLY life’s obstacles that grow us as humans. Adversity creates the best memories!
When we have a life without obstacles, even a “good” life, nothing to work through, no accomplishments, or nothing to overcome, it feels rut-like.
When you have an argument with your husband, aren’t you just so looking forward to the “making up” part? I know I am!!
The scriptures say that there’s no reward in loving those who love us… where’s the reward in liking?
The runner who wins the marathon doesn’t reap the reward without overcoming the struggle of training.
The Super Bowl winning team didn’t just get there by just leaving their couch and heading to the game.
So try to think of this when struggles come along, especially in your marriage… anytime you overcome an obstacle… your entire life will be better… marriage influences all areas of our lives.
Lastly… We, especially in marriage, are NOT the ONLY ones overcoming obstacles… our husbands are too…
WE are difficult to deal with sometimes (we are the obstacle) even if we don’t think so… at least I know I AM!
Let us not forget to remember that the obstacle is the way, and also to try NOT TO BE the obstacle!
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You, yes YOU… are still your husband’s heart’s undoing!!
In my 60 years of life I’ve seen plenty of evidence that men still love their wives even when the wives think otherwise.
In fact, in most divorces, it’s the wife that initiates the divorce, not the husband.
So what happens for us to think that?
… Maybe we forgot, or better yet we never knew that truly we were, and still are his heart’s undoing.
Was such an eye-opener for me and felt I had to share this message with you.
Sadly, too often we lose sight of who we truly are… of the divinity within each one of us.
Why do lose this knowledge?
So many reasons… our upbringing, how others treat us, what others tell us (and we believe)… but every now and then our soul, our light, shines through and captures our lover’s heart forever.
We must reclaim our true selves, the self that God created and that still lives deep inside of us.
How do we do that? We can start by simply believing in the uniqueness and individuality of us, the something our husbands fell in love with, and that we STILL are.
This can mean to not compare ourselves to other women (air brushed models), but rather be inspired by them, and not focus on negative thinking about ourselves, but rather on things we like about ourselves.
It may mean to seek personal growth and evolution of our selves. Our circumstances have shaped us into the (often times limited) version we are today, but our full potential is limitless… and have to but look inside ourselves to find it.
Don’t forget… you are still HIS HEART’S UNDOING, and always will be.
“The light that lies in woman’s eyes, has been my heart’s undoing.” - Thomas Moore, poet, writer, lyricist, 1779 - 1852
Mentioned:
When the Student is Ready…
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-63-when-the-student-is-ready/id1597656935?i=1000598422326
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If you’ve ever found yourself not being happy with your current life, or areas of your life, and you have wondered...
“What can I do about my current situation?” This is for you. Or if you’re like I was… do you even know to ask yourself the right questions?
I didn’t know I had options in my life! Too many of us feel we’re…
Not educated enough… a lot of people think this ·
Feel trapped, maybe financially · See no options to take ·
Have physical/health challenges ·
Can’t drive ·
Live in a small town
Not tech savvy ·
I can’t afford it ·
I don’t have the time ·
Too focused on not knowing the “HOW” ·
Feeling we’re too old… this is only because we compare ourselves to where others are
Know that having a true DESIRE to do something is PROOF that you have within you what you need to accomplish it. The question is are you REALLY READY?? Next question is, are you WILLING to start taking action… ALIGHNED action The things our brain comes up with also keep us from taking risks and are ENDLESS, but they’re just STORIES… don’t listen to everything your brain tells you! Today’s episode was inspired by the book As a Man Thinketh, by Allen James – Good or bad thoughts, we manifest what we think about… until we are ready to think on purpose of what we want to create. “A man is literally what he thinks… his character being the complete SUM of all his thoughts. Act is the blossom of thought… and JOY & SUFFERING are its fruits.” Man is made or unmade by himself… in the armory of thought he forges the weapons by which he destroys himself.” “He also fashions the tools with which he BUILDS himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength, and peace.” Read this book right now. Resources mentioned here: "As a Man Thinking," by James Allen https://www.amazon.com/As-man-Thinketh-Original-Wisdom/dp/B08W7DWHSS/ref=sr_1_1?crid=22T38TVAF0OJS&keywords=as+a+man+thinketh+book&qid=1675732033&sprefix=as+a+ma%2Caps%2C191&sr=8-1
The Richest Man in Babylon, by George S. Clason
https://www.amazon.com/Richest-Man-Babylon-Original-1926/dp/1508524351/ref=sr_1_4?crid=3AB2WWATIS4ES&keywords=the+richest+man+in+babylon&qid=1675762058&s=books&sprefix=THE+RICH%2Cstripbooks%2C413&sr=1-4
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Ever known people who seem to often be grumpy, moody, easily fly off the handle, blame everyone for everything all the time? They’re rude to the waitress, the cashier, have road rage?
So are THEY the problem, or are his circumstances the problem?
So let’s apply this to when LOVED ones become OUR problem…
We don’t usually have a problem when excited about something… why??
Sick or unhappy thoughts bring the body illness… if you pay attention to people who are always complaining about life, they are also complaining about being sick a lot.
In closing, the goal to focus on positive thinking, on self-fulfilling, and on noticing others’ best attributes
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Mentions:
9/11 Phone Calls from Inside the Towers, on Amazon Prime Video
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I too used to be unaware(like 95% of the population) that I was creating my own, unpleasant life circumstances by not intentionally thinking about what I was doing.
I just thought thateverything I didn’t like in my life was “happening to me.”
So, today I want to focus on a COUPLE of intentional things we can think about as far as what kind of marriage we want to have.
(Do we want a marriage where we not only lead, but also thrive, or one where we’re not happy and blame only our husbands for it?)
And BTW, we can apply this to life in general, but today I want to focus on a MOST important topic, which is the fostering of a happy and healthy marriage.
Thing ONE is NOT to focus on what’s not working… which will just get us more of the same. That’s the law of attraction at work!
So I want to suggest you do this instead:
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Focus on what you love about your husband
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What he loves about you
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What you enjoy doing together and doing more of that!
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The benefits of you staying married (there’s more poverty & abuse in one-parent households) are many, check out Fatherless America, by David Blankenhorn for statistics.
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Children spend less time with both parents, and their lives are disrupted
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Parents spend less time with their children and more time driving or logistics
So if we can avoid divorce all the better for all of concerned, especially our children and for society as a whole.
But we don’t want to do stay married at the cost of your happiness, correct?
And that’s why we’re talking about what our thoughts are creating… most times is just our thoughts, and that’s great news!
Thing TWO…
Here’s the POSITIVE plan!
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Focus on WHY you married your husband
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How you USED to feel about & around him
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How HE used to feel about & around you
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All the things he does well
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All the good things he does for YOU and your family
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His contribution to your life and household
And one last, but very importantly note… take into account what sad, hurtful, or difficult events in his life have shaped him into the person he is today.
Keep on eye on the fact too often us wives have a long list of complaints about our husbands while we don’t notice any of our own short comings, and LUCKY FOR US, neither do our husbands… THEY ACCEPT US FOR WHO WE ARE AS WE ARE!!
In closing… Focus on YOU not on all his shortcomings.
In Ep 59 – Give Others the Gift of Your Own Happiness – I talk about focusing on our OWN personal growth instead of what others are doing “wrong”, mainly our husbands. Check out here…
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-59-give-others-the-gift-of-your-own-happiness/id1597656935?i=1000593406439
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Have you ever asked yourself if you are successful?
In the book, The Strangest Secret, by Earl Nightingale being successful is defined as “The progressive realization of a worthy ideal.”
Realization: 2 the fulfilment or achievement of something desired or anticipated.
Progressive: Developing in gradual stages, step by step
If you examine your life, based on the questions posed here, and IF you come to the conclusion that you’re not succeeding… get to it!
That’s what happened in my life 3 yrs ago… I heard questions being asked of me that I had NEVER considered!
Ask yourself these questions: Am I happy, do I have a goal(s) to work towards, or am I just like a leaf floating in the wind?
Don’t wait as long as I did to examine your life and make changes to make it better.
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The Strangest Secret book, by Earl Nightingale – available on Amazon or Audible
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Are there people in your life that leave you exhausted when you talk to them?For whom the sad awful stories ever end!Being unhappy is not good for anyone, especially for the unhappy person.Give people the GIFT of your own happiness… so no one in your life ever has to worry about “making” you happy, or you not being happy.Make a list of people in your life who EXHAUST you and another list of those who DELIGHT you…What makes these two people different, how do you feel after spending time with them?Which one do you prefer to be around, and be more like?When you’re a happy person YOU’RE A GIFT to everyone, especially your family.Lastly, very important…Don’t jokingly “HINT” at your loved ones that they’re somehow responsible (or failing at) for your happiness or well-being… THEY ARE NOT.Let those you love (like your husband) know how full your life is, how happy you are… what if you’re not happy, you ask? My point exactly… BECOME a happy and fulfilled woman.When you make yourself happy, no one else can make you UNHAPPY… no one!Let’s connect on social media!INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.togetherhttps://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021Women Rising Together | FacebookMentions:FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY by Susan Jeffers, Ph. D.https://www.amazon.com/Feel-Fear-Do-Anyway/dp/0345487427/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2B85O0IGD179W&keywords=feel+the+fear+and+do+it+anyway&qid=1673316552&sprefix=feel+the+fear%2Caps%2C279&sr=8-1--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/addie970/support
In Ep 55 - Happy Wife, Happy Life, I talk about how we find “faults” with our husbands after we marry them and begin to want to change them… basically loving a different version of them, but not them as they are.
I believe most of us have deep secrets we’ve never shared with another soul, for whatever reason, that affects deeply not just who we are but, also how we react in life to protect ourselves.
For EXAMPLE what if someone got to know you completely, even the parts of you you’re afraid others will know, and after knowing all there is to know about you, they LOVED YOU ALL THE MORE?!
Our husbands too had a childhood (and a past), just like us, with pain and suffering and we just but remembered that, would have nothing but MORE LOVE.
When you feel resentment or any other not nice feeling towards your husband, ask them to share with you things about their life that shaped them into who they are today, and how they come to fear the things they fear (our actions always come from love or fear), and I wonder if you would not be able to help but to love them EVEN MORE!
Remember, not everyone shares all their secrets all the time, due to fear, pain, regret, whatever
All of humans make mistakes and sometimes we hurt people in profound ways that makes them grow up being defensive, angry, resentful, guarded, protective of their feelings… all kinds of things – capable of hurting others before others hurt them.
Having compassion is a good policy to err on the side of.
Mentions:
Ep 55 – Happy Life, Happy Life: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-55-happy-wife-happy-life/id1597656935?i=1000590008492
The SHOW (mini movie) I watched was The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDLKT_oFhvc
You Can Heal your Life, by Louise Hay: https://www.amazon.com/You-Can-Heal-Your-Life/dp/0937611018/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1HSI9JLCJNTBT&keywords=you+can+heal+your+body+by+louise+hay&qid=1672753685&sprefix=you+can+heal%2Caps%2C378&sr=8-3
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Some times in marriage, you have to choose to leave… but how do you know when that time has come?
In my training as a life coach, and by looking back at my previously failed marriage, I’ve learned the following, very valuable lessons:
- I thought of myself only as a blameless “victim” in the relationship. Looking back, I was wrong.
- I had been a co-creator of my circumstances, but thought of it completely as my husband’s “doing this to me.”
- I didn’t have the tools needed to help my marriage succeed, but I thought I knew exactly what HE needed to do.
- I believed my husband was full of faults, sadly focusing only on those faults… forgetting why I had married him.
- I falsely believed that my complete happiness depended on my husband doing certain things, or being a certain way, trying to control him
That being said, I left (twice), when I started to feel that things would never change, and that they were becoming unsafe for us, both physically and mentally.
Watch movies about women having gone through what you’re going through to help you evaluate your situation. Often we can’t see what’s going on with us until we see it happening to someone else.
Movies:
For Colored Girls, on Amazon Prime Video
What’s Love Got to Do with It, on Amazon Prime Video
Enough
Lou, on Netflix
Things to consider in your marriage when thinking of leaving:
* Do you feel unsafe? If you do, seek help right away… from a trusted source that can actually help you.
If you know you need to leave, it may not be easy but trust your instincts. Only you know what your situation is.
* You feel safe AND wish to make the marriage work, listen to the last two episodes
If you need to talk to someone, I’m here… I can help you! Please reach out and let’s put it all on the table and see what you have to work with.
Mentioned in this episode:
Ep 53 Marriage: End 2022 IN Love
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-53-marriage-end-2022-in-love/id1597656935?i=1000587904091
Ep 54 How to Know You Have An Amazing Husband
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-54-how-to-know-you-have-an-amazing-husband/id1597656935?i=1000589006595
Ep 55 Happy Wife, Happy Life
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-55-happy-wife-happy-life/id1597656935?i=1000590008492
The Happy Wife, Happy Life Coaching Program:
I have a couple of spots available for 1:1 coaching, sign up here:
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How do you think men feel about the statement, “Happy Wife, Happy Life?"
What if we, women, had to deal with something similar… maybe something like, “Happy Husband, Happy Household,” and it was up to US to make sure our husbands were happy, or else?
What an unpleasant thought, and I think I feel bad for our husbands for having burdened them with that the thought, that our happiness was THEIR responsibility.
What about the fact that our happiness is 100% our responsibility and no one else’s? Now there’s an empowering thought, don’t you think?
Only we know what makes us truly happy, and if we have the ability to harness that happiness and bring that to the marriage… and by doing so we will indeed be happy wives with happy lives.
Let’s not outsource our happiness to others, especially let’s not put that heavy burden on our husbands’ shoulders from here on out, not anymore!
The Happy Wife, Happy Life Coaching Program:
I have a couple of spots available for 1:1 coaching, sign up here:
https://winning-pioneer-7621.ck.page/products/convert-kit-training
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How to know if your husband is amazing… you married him, that’s how!
That’s how I know MY husband is amazing… I married him!
And in case you’ve forgotten just how amazing your husband is, here are 7 simple things you can use to remind yourself and test my theory! Listen on…
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Mentioned in this episode:
Women Rising Together: Ep. 53 - Marriage: End 2022 in Love on Apple Podcasts
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Marriage? How can we help our beloved, and our self?
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Have you ever thought about whether you’ve unconsciously set a glass ceiling for how successful you can be in life? Today we’re going to look into self-imposed upper limit ceiling! Let’s dive in!
In his book The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks talks about how we as humans have an “upper limit”, the threshold if you will, and how we sabotage ourselves when we hit that limit, bringing us back down.
But what happens when we ourselves (unconsciously) set a low ceiling of upper limit to begin with, by our thoughts, as to how high that limit is? A self-imposed ceiling to how successful we can be, how much we can achieve in life? And by the same token we’ve created a LOWER limit… what we are not will go below.
If we pay attention to those around us, or those on television/famous people, we can get an idea of what ceilings different people have set for themselves… including some people that have placed no limits on their ability to create, their ability to have and hold great things, the ability to know who they can become.
Some limits (or standards) we may have can be as simple as:
Can you live without a cell (smart phone) phone?
Can you live without Netflix and Amazon Prime?
* Can you afford to subscribe to ALL the streaming channels available out there? Jim Rhon said once in one if his speeches that a $300 TV actually costs us a lot more… in the potential we waste watching it!! Have you ever thought of it that way? I had not!!
What car you drive (or can you be happy riding a bike/taking the bus?
When we have upper limit CEILINGS for ourselves, we stay below those limits, never to go above.
BUT, what if we could raise or remove our upper limit CEILING, what would be possible for each one of us, and what kind of value (peace of mind, beauty, ease of life, convenience, confidence in others by being examples) would we put out into the world? Value that people want to PAY us for?
Here are a few things/ideas to consider:
Where am I limiting myself? (is it in the jobs I can do, in how much I know, lack of experience, self-confidence, what’s my self-image)?
One thing is not having the desire to do something (like something others think we’d be good at), but it’s another to think we can’t.
Where can I see myself improving? Think of easy things you can do now, with the least effort or cost that can improve you.
What is one thing I can do now to raise my ceiling/belief? Can I Google something on that one thing?
When can I start implementing?
Start NOW, there’s no better time like the present… it’s the end of the year (or it’s always the end of the month, the week, the day!), this can set the tone for what you’ll do next year!
Are you willing to fail, and keep going? Failing is part of the growth and evolution experience, so embrace it.
Know it will be UNCOMFORTABLE... always for as long as you’re growing. Only when you stop growing do things not feel uncomfortable, so if you’re comfortable… your life may never change.
But it’s also so REWARDING as well! You’ll see!!
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Mentioned in this episode:
Jim Rohn's Ultimate Library on Audible
The Ultimate Jim Rohn Library
Book by Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap
https://www.amazon.com/Big-Leap-Conquer-Hidden-Level/dp/0061735361/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1669072974&sr=8-1
Hearst Castle
https://hearstcastle.org/
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With the holiday season around the corner, are you feeling anxious at the thought of family get-togethers?
You’re not alone! It happens to a lot of us, and there are plenty of movies and real life examples of the things that can go wrong, or what happens when “we lose it” at family gatherings… SO, let’s talk about it!
Ideally, holidays should be a time for celebrating and having fun. Although at times, we’re very likely to end up stressed out, overwhelmed, and often tension during gatherings can put a damper on things.
Let’s not allow loved ones to become our enemy during times meant to be celebrating.
Our context is too small if we allow that to happen – we’re too in the weeds, and are being small-minded, and we’re not focusing on the big picture.
It’s happened to too many of us at some point, but from here on out, let us stay alert and not take part in the smallness of getting into arguments with those we love.
Think bigger… evolve beyond any petty stuff if/or when it comes up… it’s not worth it. Focus on making the best memories possible… DON’T FORGET to take lots of pictures, too!!
Arguments are usually a result of disagreements, perceived mistreatment, unmet expectations.
Blame NO ONE else for things going wrong when you’re part of it… we do too much blaming sometimes!
Remember… focus on creating the best memories, allow everyone to be themselves, overlook imperfections, enjoy yourself… be proud in the future of the memories created during this holiday season.
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Mentioned today:
Being Nobody, Going NOWHERE by Ayya Khema
Paperback: https://www.amazon.com/Being-Nobody-Going-Nowhere-Meditations/dp/086171198X/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1668464386&sr=8-1
INCLUDED with your Audible subscription.
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Ever woken up and asked yourself, “How in the world did I end up here, in this situation?”
I have.
And according to what I was thinking then… I HAD NO CLUE!!
Today we’re talking about being intentional when creating our lives from here on out.
Hey Beautiful!!
How’s that possible… but it happens to all of us, and to some of us more than others.
Going forward, I want to invite you to join me in creating our life ON PURPOSE!!
Which means thinking on purpose about the future.
If 5 or 10 years go by and NOTHING in your life changes, except you’re 5 or 10 years older, will you be content?
TO DO suggestions:
- Make a list…. Think of the OPPOSITE your DESIRES
- Include things you once wanted, and you NOW HAVE… include PEACE OF MIND things too, a good family
- Start preparing for the new outcome…
- As much as possible, start living in the new reality in your mind
- Think of the STEPS you must take in order to embody that feeling/to BELIEVE
- Do NOT rely on external things (like people) to bring about your reality… it’s in YOU… YOU will bring about the change
- Be ready to have people who will not believe in the new you… let them stay behind if they don’t want to come with you. They will tell you so directly, or in subtle ways, or they’ll just show no interest/support whatsoever… KEEP GOING
- Expect adversity/difficulties… they’re the training for your marathon!!
- Last thought: HOW ARE YOU DIFFERENT in 5 or 10 years than you are now?
Let’s get to work… you’re worth it, I’m worth it… we’re worth it!!
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What surroundings inspire you to be the best version of you?
Is it a lovely clutter-free home, a very organized closet or desk, a clean car, a beautiful garden? A light room, a dark cozy room, maybe a fireplace?
We all thrive under different conditions and we’re all inspired by different things, and people.
I get so inspired when my house is in order, especially all papers (including my crafting papers), I hate junk mail, and I love having a beautiful lush garden to walk out to in the morning and in the evening. At my house the curtains are never closed, I love a light and airy house!
So if you’ve been feeling uninspired lately, stagnant maybe, feeling a lack, then think about what works for you, what inspires you to soar, what gives you wings?
So if money is an issue… Putting money aside, what creates a feeling/experience of ease, comfort, peace, and pleasure for you?
And if you’re not surrounding yourself with as many of these things as possible, make a shift … that includes being surrounded by the right… people, watching the right movies/shows.
Reading the right books, wearing the best clothes possible, that make you feel your best… as has been said, "Dress how you want to be addressed.”
Let’s pay attention also to our physical surroundings… top to bottom, left to right… each room of your home, your closet /clothes, jewelry.
This is of course, keeping in mind HOW we want to be inspired!
Pay attention… change things little by little, or all together if you can, but move in the direction of having your surroundings match/support your vision for where you’re headed and that support the future you envision.
Ever been to someone’s house and you couldn’t wait to go home so you could make changes in your house or garden?? In last Episode #48, Our Thoughts Create Our Future, I mentioned my dear friend Debbie aka Debbie-Doo, whom I think could be a Home-styling Coach! Her home looks like it came out of a magazine page!
This also happens to me when I visit my sister Maria… her garden is so incredible, you feel like you’re in the Garden of Eden, and she always sends me home with tons of plants and cuttings. I want to be around people like them, who inspire me in many different ways. Everyone is different and different people will inspire us in different ways, as we also, hopefully, inspire others.
We’re all unique and meant for absolute greatness… so keeping that in mind, surround yourself with all the things that will inspire you to be all you’re meant to be.
MENTIONS:
Ep 48 – Our Thoughts Create Our Reality:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-48-our-thoughts-create-our-reality/id1597656935?i=1000583795195
Ep 20 – Bloom Where You’re Planted
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-20-bloom-where-youre-planted/id1597656935?i=1000557212708
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Looking at the world as “all this was created just for me”…
The trees, flowers, the air we breathe, the sun, your home, your bed, your sheets, gas to heat your home, electricity, hot clean running water, the internet, amazon.com, smart phones, Facebook… on my phone, GPS… on your phone!
Instead of “I never catch a break”… can really change one’s life
Changing thoughts like
“I’m a magnet for losers” to “I know a wonderful man is out there waiting just for me” would feel so much better, if we believed it!
“This job is awful and it doesn’t pay well”… how about trying on this thought instead “I’m gaining so much experience in this job that I can use to help me get my next job.”
Taking the focus off a negative thought like buying books on “How to de-clutter your home”, meaning my thoughts are “home IS cluttered”!… instead how about buying books that already reflect the home of my dreams (even if I’m not there yet!)
If you think your environment is bogging you down… Change it. Start small, just start.
When a good thought enters your mind, a bad thought can’t exist there at the same time.
Think of opposites / homework:
Whatever you’re currently not liking… start to ONLY think of the OPPOSITE, and walk in that direction, in those shoes… make that your NEW REALITY. LIVE in it, BECOME it… even little by little. Little by little will help our brain believe that they dream can come true.
Try to apply these thoughts to areas of your life you want to change.
I have a dysfunctional family… try this instead: I have a family and we’re working on improving our relationships.
My family doesn’t get along… try this instead: my family has had difficulties and we’re overcoming them.
My marriage is falling apart… try this instead: I’m so glad for the resources available on how to improve my marriage. I am grateful to have a husband/partner who loves me and that I love and care for.
My children don’t visit me enough… try this instead: I’m so glad my children have good lives and are taking care of themselves and their families. So grateful to know they’re ok
My in-laws meddle in my life too much… try this instead: I’m so thankful to have in-laws who care about us and want to be involved, and helpful in our lives.
Finally, just know that any challenges we face make us stronger in the end… so we can look at “negatives” as rungs in the ladder of life and evolution. Because when we do that, we can’t help but elevate ourselves and next level our lives.
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If someone made a movie about your life, and you went to see it, would it inspire you, make you sad, happy, would you cry happy tears? How would you feel leaving the theatre after having watched the movie of your life? What’s your favorite movie, and why? What movies about women inspire you? Movies mimic real life, even if we aren’t always aware of it. Would your movie become a classic movie that people would still want to watch long after you leave this earth? There are two reasons to ask ourselves these questions… one is that we are the star of our own movie, so it’s important to understand that the role(s) we play matter. It’s also up to us as to HOW we play those roles… wife, mother, sister, etc. Do we like how we are playing these roles? Exception: We are not going to be able, or desire, to play all our roles the best we can all the time, and that’s not a problem… we don’t have to. I’m just suggesting we become aware of the parts we play. Often we don’t think about these things… If I’m a wife, what kind of wife am I being? In movies, bad characters don’t end well, and I feel it’s the same in real life… how we play our part attracts a certain energy, certain people and things to us. Think about who you are (roles you play) and pick a role you like best… think of a movie where you love a character that had a transformation. The MOST important part of this idea is to ask yourself IF your movie represents the life you want to live on this earth, and what you’ll be remembered by? So maybe we can borrow some inspiration from movies we like: I feel Pretty, Amy Schumer comes to mind, as far as becoming our true selves and owning our uniqueness. Her transformation was internal first, not from how she looked. Lastly… what matters is our Character, not our appearances so much (at least not always), but often they go hand in hand. Appearances are important to our visual senses, and make a huge difference in how we see ourselves and how others experience us at first. Think consciously and on purpose of the role you’re playing, not just for your own enjoyment, but also for the example you’re being to those who get to be part of your life, and the memory you’re leaving behind with everyone you come in contact with. Play your part, or parts, in a way that you create your own movie for YOU to experience as you move forward in this life. To look back on and be glad of the actions you took… of how you played YOU! Mentioned in this episode: I Feel Pretty, movie Let’s connect on... INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/ PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021 https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenrisingtogether2021
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Having a problem in your life, with what IS?
When our thinking is constantly going to what other people should do, or not do, it creates big “problems” for us!
“He works too much,” “he’s so lazy,” “he’s so messy,” “she’s OCD,” “they should mind their own business”….
Thinking that what is happening should not be happening, but doing nothing about it when things are within our control, can ruin lives.
Thinking that things that just happen shouldn’t be happening, is a losing and toxic battle.
Thinking people shouldn’t be saying things about us, “behind our backs” … or that they should only do good things, will get us nothing. It’s only what WE do, or think that we can control.
What to do??Redirect that energy into creating something, something good for yourself.
Turning our suffering into goodness, to a positive… into a learning experience… into something good for everyone… this is good use of our energy. Complaining gets us nowhere, and I heard it said once that if we have a complaint we should have a solution. What a great idea, let’s do that!
Let’s turn our suffering into solutions. Right the “wrongs” we see, by thoughts that serve us, not hurt us.
Don’t fight what is… fight, and create WITH what is.
“When you argue with reality you lose, but only 100% of the time.” - Byron Katie
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Has there ever been a certain someone in your life that did something wonderful for you or someone you know, that you never forget?
Something ONLY THEY could’ve done the way it was done, and did it when it was needed?
Just like them, each one of us has divine gifts only we possess, and we’ve been chosen and called to share them with others.
Is there something BIG inside of us we can do for others, especially those we love the most?
Something SO HUGE that we have never even dared ask ourselves that question, for fear of even thinking we couldn’t do it?
How can we do that… develop and share our gifts?
Any way we can… start asking questions of YOURSELF.
If you knew how to do it, how would I do it? Start there, now.
Give yourself permission to try new BIG things, ideas, and the faster you try them the better.
You are unique. Those you love, and the world, need what only you can do. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, start exploring right now.
If this resonates with you, reach out to me. It’s my mission to help other women discover their greatness.
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Today let’s discuss why we have so many beliefs that don’t serve us, and questions why that is.
Like…
The meaning of having or not having money
How we make money
What’s the most money we think we can make
What our limitations are, depending on our level of education and background, our social status
We must start thinking how we can change our limiting beliefs…
Like not long ago we used to think/believe that you had to be young, thin, and tall to be a model!
Have a certain body type to be a ballet dancer? Take a look at Misty Copeland… she didn’t believe that.
Model ideals were the likes of Cindy Crawford, Heidi Klum, Naomi Campbell … then thank goodness contrast came along in the likes of…
Tess Holliday , Colleen Heidemann, Lyn Slater and more
Come on! What or who are we waiting for to break the mental mold keeping us boxed in?
We’re the ONLY ONES that can make things happen for us… you know why?? Because we’re the ONLY ONES THAT KNOW what the hell we want? People are not mind readers that are going to come along and hand us our desires on a platter… we/YOU are the ONE that has the power withIN.
Think of all the other things currently in your life (or not in your life) that you don’t believe are possible for you, for whatever reason. I have some of these beliefs to work on as well, most of us do.
Ask yourself this… if money didn’t play a part in deciding what you could be, do, or have?
What would your life be like? Go crazy here, it doesn’t cost anything to imagine.
Where would you work?
What would your hours be?
What would your commute be like, would you work from home?
Where would you live, what city, state, near the beach, the mountains?
What kind of house would you live in?
What car would you drive?
How would you dress?
How much money would you make?
Would you work for yourself? And IF so, doing what? Have you ever considered that?
So get thinking and imagining what could be possible for you. Think of and be motivated by other women who’ve overcome things and broken the mold.
So after we think all this up we’re going to “make believe” it’s already ours…. Why? Because what happens when we believe?????? Everything we want, that’s what! The only thing getting in our way is our brain… so it’s time to starting thinking and believing NEW things… believing what’s possible for us!
Look at things you’ve ALREADY created in your life… and just like that you can create new things, things you may have never thought were possible for you!
Where would you start, what would your first step be in order to align with the true desires of your heart? You are not too nothing to go after what you want... Starting questioning and GO!!
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If there’s anything currently in your life, not to your liking… the secret sauce to fixing it is YOU!!
It’s all inside YOUR brain!!
Today we’ll be discussing how to improve marriage/relationships, and how you’re the secret sauce to that.
Focusing specifically on love/marriage relationships.
I want you to pay attention because if YOU are having tumultuous/difficult relationships, especially with different people in your life… YOU are the common denominator here, and you must start leading in the right direction.
I once heard these words: “your marriage can as amazing as YOU want it to be.” This blew my mind and sent my brain into spiral thinking, and ideas as to how this was possible, if my spouse was not on board with it???
One question came to mind at some point after that… “if I were, say a queen, would my husband treat me differently?” And what came back was a resounding YES, he would!!
This told me that what I needed to change was not him, but my thinking as to WHO I was BEING.
In other words, if your husband is treating only you badly, but then he goes to work, the grocery store, church… and treats other women differently, it’s because he knows these other women will not stand for it.
Why does he feel he can behave differently with you/with me??
This is a very deep subject, with many variables and very specific to every couple. But what I want you to think about is this…
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What kind of marriage/relationship do you want to have?
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Do you believe you can have this with your current partner?
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Do you love your current partner, and do you believe he loves you?
Some tips to try, IF you want to, if you trust, feel safe (if this is not the case get help!), and if you love your partner enough to desire to improve your relationship:
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Do you behave in a way that will nurture the kind of relationship you want to have?
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How do you greet him when he comes home?
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How do you say goodbye when he leaves?
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How often do you kiss and hug each other?
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How to do you say good night and good morning?
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Are you (or trying to be) the kind of wife/partner he envisions, and that you envision being if he were to treat you the way you deserve to be treated? Act as if was already happening.
If you want more romance, do you make an effort to foster a romantic atmosphere in your home, especially in the bedroom? The bedroom is where you come together at night, so look at it and make it feel the way you want it, and hopefully the way he would want it. The bedroom should be a restful place where you come together to restore your relationship every night, where your souls reunite and reconcile after each day’s events.
That’s what I have for you today… hopefully it comes in handy in some way.
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Today I’m inviting you to do a few things with me…
1) To pay attention (to observe, not judge) the dialogue of those around you, TV, social media, who constantly complain about trials, past and present.
And pay attention as to what people complain about MOST, and who are these people?
What’s the contrast against which they (us) see these trials?
2) What happens when we focus on and complain about the not-so-great things in life? Everyone wants to sympathize and be understanding, it’s our nature… It’s a “being in the same boat” kind of gesture.
3) what happens when someone posts or talks about an amazing celebration/accomplishment (not including weddings, births, or graduations) such as, “I look and feel so amazing today, look how amazing I look in this new expensive dress”?
We have been conditioned to not “boast” about ourselves. The birth of child, yes, getting married yes, graduating yes, but not about just feeling great about ourselves, about our life, and being/loving who we are.
How many haters do the Kardashians have? Not like “they’re not my cup of tea” but pure haters? You never see the Kardashians complaining… maybe there’s something we can learn from them… like celebrating more in our own lives?
4) What if we thought of trials as “I’m going to grow so much from this," “who knows what amazing things will come my way because of this,” that one day I’ll get to celebrate.
Because if we look at our lives and we love where we are, or a lot of it… it all came as a results of where we’ve been, the road I’ve traveled and all its turns.
(For example, something I cried tears over decades ago lead me to where I am today… to live near my 7 grandchildren with my amazing husband. But I didn’t know then that there was a road being paved in front of me by my circumstances… everything was happening for me, not to me.)
When we complain about our (let’s say not significant) trials, we are not only disregarding what we’ve learned from them, but also taking for granted all the good in our current lives that came as result of those trials.
So this is just an invitation to keep an eye out for the things we complain about, or commiserate with others and sucked into their vortex of misery; life is so sad even when it’s not even your trial.
All we have to do is listen to the news to know that celebrating everyday joys would be boring… BUT not if you ask Martha Stewart… it’s no wonder I have decades-old collections of her magazines, which sadly (yeah here I go complaining, which may be the only thing you remember from this episode) are no longer being published! What??
But truly, we are not ever encouraged to celebrate the everyday openly, in fact we’re not even supposed to talk about how much we make. And as it turns out, what a convenience for companies who were paying men higher salaries than women for doing the same job!
So in closing, next time you feel in despair or like complaining about a trial, try to think of it as something that perhaps one day in the future you will be strengthened by, or even thankful for something that came your way as a result of it.
And let’s start celebrating the everyday joys more openly! I challenge you!!
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Are we living life in golden handcuffs?
This term Golden Handcuffs, when I originally heard it, referred to an employer paying its employees a salary just big enough to keep them from quitting, but not as much as they were worth.
Today I want to apply this concept to whether WE may be handcuffing ourselves to a life less than we desire, less than we are worthy AND capable of, by the thoughts we’re thinking, or not thinking.
It all starts with our thoughts and we create from there.
Often immediate gratification is easier for our brain to grasp and want, rather than the better outcome when we resist the temptation to indulge in the now.
For example; I desire something and that something requires certain action from me… but my brain wants the golden handcuff instead.
How to know if what our brain wants now is a golden handcuff?
1 it is good for me now, but maybe not for the future
2 it is good just for me, but maybe not for everyone I love
3 you can’t share it with others because of shame/fear…
4 something we wouldn’t want our children to do
Don’t make it habit.
Final point is handcuffs keep us from progressing, growing, and being our best self, having our best life possible…. As well as CONTRIBUTING to society in a way that only we can.
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Another way of saying “personal power” is... “we can do hard things!”
Not all things are easy or hard for everyone. What may be easy for you, because of your circumstances, may be hard for me because of mine… and vice versa.
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Often we get too caught up in noticing other people’s circumstantial power, ignore their personal efforts, and do the opposite with ourselves… by focusing on our “lack” of circumstantial power and not being aware of our personal power.
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When we get hold of our personal power, we become an example for all others like us (like us?). This is SO freaking important!
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So the more women who harness their personal power, it’ll be like a bunch of lit torches being lit EVERYWHERE and the more torches lit the more light there will be for all of us!
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Think about it!! My light/torch won’t be for every woman, and neither will yours…. But each of our lights will be for someone. It will be the right brightness, proximity, at the right place, at the right moment in someone’s life…
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So how do we harness our personal power? By redefining/thinking intentionally and on purpose about what we truly desire, and by changing the beliefs that brought us here.
We have the ability to think and plan, in order to overcome what didn’t/doesn’t come easy to us.
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What are some things you don’t have to overcome??
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We can combine both our circumstantial and personal powers… where we can create “recipes” if you will, by choosing to use what we’ve been given with what we can CREATE on our own.
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And if you feel you have NO circumstantial power, then by using only your personal power the fruits of your labors will be that much sweeter, and INSPIRATIONAL!
Example of Personal power:
Madam CJ Walker on Netflix
The Blind Side, movie
Hellen Keller
Mentions/Resources:
Fatherless America, by David Blankenhorn
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At times when people we know won’t understand, or will judge us, or both… rely on someone else who’s been there before, to walk with you!
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What unwritten rules have kept you from really spreading your wings and taking flight in your life?
Such as I need a certificate, a website, biz cards, I’m too young, I’m too old, I don’t have…
Where is it written that we can’t use our life experiences and our scars as credentials?? Nowhere, that’s where!
Experience is experience, and you can use yours to help other women going through what you’ve gone through in your life, if you just decide to.
Make a list of all the reasons why you’ve told yourself you can’t do something, then think again!
I bet there are a lot of women out there that could use your life experiences to get through what they’re going through right now. You can walk them through it… I know it.
So, start ignoring as many of the unwritten rules as possible that you’ve been attached to, that have kept you from sharing your wins in life… wins that can inspire other women doing life as a younger version of yourself!
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When your brain tells you, “You can’t do that," tell it to be quiet!!
Your brain will offer so many excuses as to why you can’t do something, but don’t believe it… it’s lying to you! My brain lies to me all the time, too! Let’s keep going!!
Your brain will tell you that if you dream too big, out loud and publicly, people will laugh at you… so what if they do? Some actually will, but most importantly, others will be inspired by you!
Fact is, some people already laugh at us and judge us… it will always be that way! They’re judging when we post “too much” about our pets, our food, our kids, grandkids… all of it!
So why is it we’re afraid of them to judge us about dreaming big in life?? Our brain tells us we’ll be perceived as showing off, being too much, and on it goes. So, we’d much rather just show up small and “safe”? Actually, we’re never safe, and that’s OK!
Let’s give people something good to talk about, maybe even something that may inspire someone else.
Are you in?
Don’t stay stuck because your brain tells you these things will hurt you… what else is hurting you by not daring to go after your impossible dreams?
As of this recording I still offer a free 30 min “getting to know you” call, so if I missed anything that applies to you personally, DM me and let’s have a chat!
Resources mentioned:
The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women, by Valerie Young, Ed.D.
https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Thoughts-Successful-Women-Impostor/dp/B06XQ6TDKM
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Ever see other women achieving amazing things in life, and you don’t think you can do the same?
Why not? Why not you, and why not right now?
If your most impossible, secret dream even, could come true, what would it be? It doesn’t cost anything to dream… So, what’s your most amazing dream that you wish could come true for you?
It can be anything you desire, maybe even seemingly impossible! Maybe something no one you actually know has ever done.
What if you dared go after your dream(s) and in the process became a role model for others like you?
EVEN if it took years!!
What’s the worst that can happen?? If you knew you could attain whatever you wanted, what would you do first in order to progress towards achieving it? What’s stopping you?
Is it fear of failing? Fear of dreaming too big? Fear of what other people will say? You have no time, you lack the skills, you have no money (there are free resources) to invest in yourself?
Because I can tell you that none of these reasons are a good enough excuse. They’re not for me, and they’re not for you either.
Will you fail? YES, you will but so what? Just make sure you fail forward!
Or maybe it’s that you’re dreaming too big? So what, you think you’re the first one to ever dream too big?
Will people talk about you and judge you? For sure, and so what? This is just fear talking… it happens to me, to all of us!!
The opinion that matters most about ourselves, is our own. At least it’s the only opinion that should matter most. In fact, we don’t really know other people’s opinions are of us, we only imagine them!
It’s really only my own opinion of myself that keeps me small or propels me forward!
Other people’s (secret) opinion of us, neither hurt us nor help us… they’re irrelevant.
START HERE… FIND YOUR THING:
If something (that maybe people you look up to) is not “your thing” that’s OK, but what IS your thing?
I’ve tried things that ended up not being my thing once I tried them, even though I see others doing those things successfully.
We have to “try on” things… much like shopping! You haven’t bought every dress you ever tried on… same thing here. Are you getting it??
Life coaching feels amazing to me… and here is why… I can help women just about anywhere, with pretty much anything, from home or anywhere else!
I make money doing it, and the more women I help the more money I make!
I set my own hours, I have more time to be with my family, and I have the BEST boss!!
So… What’s your thing? Do you know? Tell me, I want to know and/or I want to help you discover what it is!!
Lastly, get help from someone who’s slightly ahead of you… like just even 3 steps ahead, and here’s why – so it doesn’t feel like a daunting goal to go after. When we see others who are not too high up from where we want to be, it feels easier to go after our dreams.
Also get as much free help as you can and do not think that because something is free it’s not valuable. You’re still paying for it with your time… time being your most valuable resource. Make everything count!
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Today we’re talking about the power of making choices in life… past, present, and future!
Understanding the freedom we have to make our own choices, and also acknowledging that we have made our own choices in the past, is very powerful.
Too often we tend to tell ourselves that bad or unfortunate things just happened to us, when in fact it was a result of the choices we made, even when we don’t like the outcomes that our actions produced.
When we tell ourselves that we had no choice in how we got here, we step into the shoes of a victim, and that does not serve us.
What if instead we owned that we have been the co-creator of our life, and that we can continue to be from here on out? Because that in fact is the truth.
So owning our PAST choices empowers us, instead of feeling like victims.
Let’s really look at what choices we made, and why? And for whatever reason we made them, let’s give ourselves grace if needed, because we made a lot of good choices, too!
Owning our present – we have choices, we can make money, if that will help us make better choices.
Owning our future – let’s not get there blaming what we don’t like, on someone else, instead of proudly owning our choices.
Let’s make choices that empower us.
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Episode 31:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-31-what-choice-do-i-have/id1597656935?i=1000567967442
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The only final “destination” of our human experience is when we leave this life behind.
Otherwise it’s always just a most amazing JOURNEY!
Stop often and take in all the small things and don’t just wait for the “whens” in life.
Plan for the future as if it's already here… because if we do that, it already IS.
Resources
Ep. 27 - Manifest From Your Future... Now
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-27-manifest-from-your-future-now/id1597656935?i=1000564737787
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In this episode we explore what happens when we are broken in Spirit, forgetting our worth, forgetting our value to our family and to society as a whole – a true travesty.
For too long women have been oppressed, without a voice, and the chains that hold us are similar to an undertow not visible on the surface, but keep pulling us under.
The centuries’-old undertow reaches deep and wide and has deep roots in …
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Not equal rights
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Not equal pay
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Men can dictate our lives, still exists in many countries
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Boys preferred over girls for a long time, like in China during the one-child policy where boys were preferred
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Women not allowed to do things men do, still to this day in things like sports or joining the armed forces
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Being called the weaker sex, when in fact we are the most powerful and influential of the sexes
So we are coming from behind due to long-standing norms, even though we’re the ones birthing nations, birthing all men.
We must hold on to and fight for our God-given power… not with violence but with love, with perseverance, with commitment, and with faith.
We mustn’t lose our heads, our focus, our purpose, our destiny… everything that makes us women.
Too often we may just get bogged down with life’s circumstances, and it feels like we’re at the whim of every storm, tossing us about until we finally break.
And what happens then when we break is that we can’t hold what life and its challenges bring to us, including all the joys of life.
It’s one thing when men break, turning their backs on their responsibilities and commitments, but usually we pick up the slack. But if WE break, the world itself will fall apart where we stand… starting with our families, our children.
We must stay alert, and help each other rise and become (and stay) enlightened as to our power, and responsibility, starting in our homes, and from our homes as best we can even in our imperfections.
Our men may falter, fall asleep and forget their power and responsibility, but we do not have to join them. They can choose their level of commitment to be as God intended them to be, and most men do, I am witness of that, from examples of men in life, like my amazing son-in-love (as Zig Ziglar would say)!
There are prisons in these United States of America full of women. What happened to their families, what happened to them, what broke them?
Women in prison stats:
There are approximately 219,000 incarcerated women in the US according to a November 2018 report by the Prison Policy Initiative, and the rate of incarceration of women in the United States is at a historic and global high, with 133 women in correctional facilities per every 100,000 female citizens. The United States is home to just 4% of the world's female population, yet the US is responsible for 33% of the entire world's incarcerated female population.
How are we helping each other to not go in this direction, starting with our young girls, and our boys too?
Marianne Williamson’s A Woman’s Worth, which I read 30+ years ago, is a beautiful reminder of who we are as women.
Let us not forget this… the consequences are devastating and far-reaching.
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A Woman’s Worth by Marianne Williamson
https://www.amazon.com/Womans-Worth-Marianne-Williamson/dp/0679422188/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1657573644&sr=8-1
A Fatherless America
https://www.amazon.com/Fatherless-America-Confronting-Urgent-Problem/dp/0465014836/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1657573703&sr=1-2-catcorr
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Tune in this week and let’s ponder the idea that, just maybe, everything does happens for a reason… FOR us, not TO us.
Ever thought of that… especially long after something you went through in life that you thought was devastating at first, only to later see it was meant to be?
Could be a life-altering observation.
References
Amy Purdy - Wikipedia
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Unless we’re in prison (and even then), or someone is holding us hostage at gunpoint… we are able to make our own choices from the moment we wake up until the moment we go back to bed.
Each day, in fact, is a fresh new start.
Maybe you can’t change your destination overnight (your "now"), but you can change the direction overnight… you can change the trajectory!
We have endless resources at our disposal. Life for most of us has never been easier than it is right now. For goodness sake, we have the Internet, Zoom, cell phones, GOOGLE /YouTube!!!... come on now!!
Google knows everything… and it WORKS FOR YOU, FOR ME!!
You have no money to invest in self education right now? Start by asking Google “how to”…
“Failure is a few errors in judgement, repeated every day.”
“Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines practiced every day.”
- Jim Rohn
So it’s really all about taking baby steps forward, in the direction you want to go.
What’s something in your life that you don’t like, yet if you do nothing about you’ll still be in the same spot in 5 years?... or 10?
How you got here is water under the bridge, but what you do from here on out, will make all the difference!
Lift where you stand, start where you are, with what you have at your disposal right now… which is pretty much unlimited if you just look around.
And if you need help… I’m just a DM away, and 30 mins of my time is yours for the asking.
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Jim Rohn's Ultimate Library on Audible
The Ultimate Jim Rohn Library
https://www.audible.com/pd/B076PSG3MV?source_code=ASSOR150021921000R
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How much of your current life do you acknowledge having created yourself?
Too often we dream of an “ideal” life for ourselves… but doubt we could make that happen.
We see others living a life we desire, but down deep we don’t really believe it’s for possible for us.
Why not??
Who said we (all of us) can’t live a life we truly desire?
We keep going to a job (or two) we don't like (don't like the hours, the commute, the conditions, the pay... the boss!).
Living with someone we’ve fallen out of love with and no longer want to live with… Some of us even have affairs, heard of those?
We keep living where we don't want to live anymore.
We tell ourselves (think) we have NO choice. But that is a lie.
In reality EVERYTHING is, in fact, a choice we made. Therefore, it's a choice. Therefore, we can choose to change at any time… for a new reality, a reality we desire.
So I want to say that EVEN when situations are not ideal, at the moment, understanding that we have a choice makes a world of difference! Thinking it’s not our choice puts us in a victim mentality, like staying in a prison that has no door. Thinking/understanding I’m choosing this, is empowering!
We CHOOSE to do what we do in order to take care of ourselves and our loved ones… instead of living under a bridge. So EMPOWERING!!
I can also choose a new way of life if I so desire. That’s available right now.
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Benefits of failing… improvement, confidence, more knowledge, less afraid of failing at something we want to do!
Failing in school is considered bad… why?
Failing in sports is not great either, but does it make us a better player in the long run? You bet!
How many times did all the greats fail?
In fact, in order to BECOME great at anything, we have to have failed ENOUGH!!
So why do we look down on failing?
I’m here to say that if we want to become great at something, we'd better get failing... forward, and FAST!
If you’re good at Reels please teach me! I’m currently trying my best, and I will continue to do so, as I fail at it, but I would love to shorten the learning curve!
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Am sharing today's episode in an effort to save you and your pet the awfulness I'm now experiencing over losing our beloved rooster, Mars. Our grandkids named him.
He was as majestic and brave as can be. Right now it feels like I'll never stop crying over the image of how he died.
I'm sharing this experience in hopes to help prevent that from happening to someone else. Had I known this, I would have known what action to take before it was too late!
Be well and take care of those precious pets.
The link below is about his cause of his death. I had never heard of this.
Flystrike info (warning: awful photos, only open if you want to be informed). It's worth it if I can save someone else to heartache and an animal's suffering. https://the-chicken-chick.com/flystrike-in-backyard-chickens-causes/
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You are a manifester.
We are all manifesters… Everything we see around us that’s man-made, it was first created as a vision in someone’s mind, which they then manifested into physical reality.
You manifested your current life, just as I’ve manifested mine. Which not long ago, I did not fully know.
Think of what you have created in your life… a lot of it perhaps not intentionally or with a full understanding.
Most likely you chose your partner, where you live, your job, your car, and you decide what you eat, what you wear, and how you speak.
You can manifest whatever you want, again… just like you have in the past, especially if you desire more, or something totally different.
Think about things you’ve always wanted in your life… some have manifested already, and others are still only in your mind, not yet a physical reality. But they can be.
Not all things manifest according to our concept of time, so we need to be patient, and not try to rush or force things. Instead we need to align energetically with our desires. All things that are meant for you, that you have desired, will be attracted to you and come to you.
Practice being grateful for all the good already in your life, and learn from the not-so-good. Sometimes there are lessons we can learn from unpleasant experiences… perhaps of choices we should not repeat, or of red flags we ignored.
Practice manifesting daily, little by little… there’s no end to what you can create.
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Mentioned: The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
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When we’re complaining, we’re in negative energy, attracting even more negative energy.
Have you ever had these thoughts, or heard anyone else say them?...
• My life sucks
• I hate my life
• I hate my body
• My family is awful, they’re all dysfunctional
• No one in my family supports me or loves
• Everyone hates me
• I never catch a break
• I have bad luck
• People always take advantage of me
• I’m a magnet for losers
• I’m cleaning my “friends” list
• I wish I had a better job
• I wish I had a better husband (maybe not these exact words)
• I wish I had a better, bigger house
• My in-laws hate me...
The list goes on and on.
All these sentences come from real life... suffering created by our thoughts… and most importantly, they carry with them the power of multiplicity! Everything we do, say, think, and ARE… attracts MORE. We attract what we think about most.
That being said, keep an eye on your thoughts and the feelings they create, and the actions you take based on them. Ultimately, create your current reality... INDEFINITLY!
So, here’s in invitation to examine if there’s anything in your current life that feels negative, like you can’t get ahead, or like it’s someone else’s fault that you’re unhappy, and really think about whether those thoughts are actually true?
Mentioned:
The Vortex: Where the Law of Attraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships
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Doing things how they've always been, not stepping outside the box, or coloring inside the lines, has gotten us to where we are today.
To change that, if we want to, we need to go color outside the traditional lines of doing life. We have to ignore the teachings and norms we’ve been following… IF we desire change.
What do you think of when you here things like: “Minimum wage, working hours, vacation weeks per year, scheduled breaks, sick hours, sick leave?" They’re all inside the lines, or box.
Who here listening was ever asked as a girl, “how much money do you want to make?” Not hourly, but in general?
Who here listening was told, “we don’t talk about how much money we make?" Why not??
Did you know that once people started talking about how much money they made, it was discovered that women were being paid less than men for doing the same job?
When it comes to making money, we get paid by the value we provide, not for our time!
So when we learn to provide more value, we’ll get paid more money (extraordinary value = extraordinary money).
But to become a person who provides extraordinary value, we need to think differently. We must do things differently, outside the parameters we’ve been taught. Otherwise, we’ll continue to get the same results we’ve always gotten. Follow your own guiding intuition.
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Shout Out to my dear friend, Sandy Hayden!
Sandy is a wonderful example of the Women Supporting Women concept!! She’s never afraid that another woman’s success will diminish hers, or that supporting other women will in some way take away from what’s meant for her. Sandy, thank you for supporting me in whatever I do! It means the world to me, and I hope you know that you also have my support in anything you want to go after in life. I’m here for you, whenever you need anything.
The quote…
“For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, 'till death do us part.”
… says to me “Expect that tough times will come.”
And when I think of duality, I think of the law of opposites, of life’s ups and downs.
Our human life is a life of duality. We all get to experience all the things… happiness and sadness, love and hate, health and sickness… and so on.
When we understand this concept, our human life experience is even more beautiful… because we understand it’s not always rainbows & butterflies. Without the bitter, we would not know how to appreciate the sweet.
Do you know someone who is always complaining about all the “bad” things that happen to them, and never mentions any of the good? When we are in negative or complaining frame of mind, life appears to be much harder than it is, because that’s what we focus on.
The concept of ups and downs does not discriminate, and it will serve us to understand it.
These are all neutral circumstances, and they happen to EVERYONE as part of this human experience. When we embrace this concept, the sweet moments are sweeter, and the bitter ones not as bitter.
When we forget this concept, we only see others’ faults, but not our own. We notice when others “wrong us,” but not when we fail others. We expect accountability of others, but not of ourselves.
When we remember this concept we can hold more of the good that comes our way, with grace, because we know it is part of the deal we made. And we like the deal we made to get to experience this life!
Lastly, don’t forget that when you’re going through a though time, a low in your life, just know you are not alone… others are also going through trials. We just don’t always know it.
My wish for all of us is that we look around and notice all the beauty and abundance in life, more than we notice the yucky things that come along.
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Shout out to: Ann Parry… you have made such a huge difference in my life, and I want you to know that. Thank you for being example of how to treat other women. Today my life is better because of you. You believed in me, you treated me with kindness, and you uplifted me. You were an example of how to treat other women, how to be a woman who believes in herself, a woman of conviction. I will never forget that. I hope to pay it forward for a long as I live. Thank you, Ann!!! What parts of your life, looking back, can say you have WRITTEN yourself? What decisions did you make, on your own, that got you to where you are now? Why did you make those decisions? What (or who) has not turned out how you had planned? What parts of your life, going forward, do you think you can REWRITE, to create a future more to your liking? I’m here to tell you that as the writer, director, and star of your life, you can make any changes you want… at ANY time!! Put pen to paper right now and start rewriting your story! But don’t forget one important part of this… this is not make-believe. It’s the real deal! Be the STAR of the story YOU WRITE. Let’s connect! INSTAGRAM - https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/ FACEBOOK FREE private group - Women Rising Together | Facebook
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You ever wonder what it would be like if all your dreams came true?
Like actually thinking in detail, all the things you would like to change, but then did nothing about it?
I was listening to Jim Rohn’s Ultimate Library on Audible (yet again for like the 4th time!)… and he talks about taking action while the dream is alive and vivid in our minds, lest we forget!
I’ve always been a big dreamer, and an entrepreneur at heart! How about you??
I think anyone who knows me could tell you that I’ve always been reaching for the next dream, never thinking I’m done growing. Are you done growing and evolving??
I’ve not always done this because I’m unhappy with my life, although there have been times it WAS for exactly that reason. I’m usually a very optimistic person, so I always try to look at the bright side of things… while keeping my eye on an even brighter prize.
Take notes and take action, step into your dream… start LIVING the dream NOW as much as possible.
It’s a process… not an overnight transformation… it’s little by little, like a butterfly or a bud becomes a full bloom.
The KEY is not to forget to keep dreaming… to keep your eye on the prize.
If you have big dreams, don’t let them go dormant… keep them in the forefront of your mind, always.
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Discussed today: The Ultimate Jim Rohn Library by Jim Rohn on Audible. The Ultimate Jim Rohn Library
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Is all suffering necessary, or do we suffer unnecessarily at times, and for too long? Good question, right? When we think for too long about something that brings us unhappiness, we prolong our suffering. Ever thought of that? One of the things to be aware of is our thoughts or judgement, of our surroundings and/or circumstances, past or present. Most often (always, really!), our thinking about a particular event/comment/situation creates our reality… for better or worse. If it was always for the better, I would not be writing this. But I’m writing (or recording this podcast) for the instances when our thinking creates a reality we do not desire… in other words, unnecessary suffering in one form or another. It is not to say that our circumstances will never causes pain and or suffering… the question is for how long, and is it necessary? When a loved one dies we experience pain and we suffer, but that’s not unusual… it’s just part of being a human here on earth. But what about when a significant other “mistreats” us in some way and we’re never able to let go of it… Maybe even after decades? That may fall under unnecessary suffering, and it would serve us to examine our thoughts about it. Seeking professional treatment/therapy is one way, and another way is to examine our thinking… Our own interpretation of the facts. Today I invite you to examine your thoughts about anything in your life that’s not just holding you back from enjoying your life to the fullest, but also causing you unnecessary pain and suffering. It’s all in our THOUGHTS!! If there is anything in your life that you feel you want to talk about, I am currently offering a FREE coaching call (no obligation), so feel free to reach out to set up a call to go over anything that doesn’t feel right. FEATURED ON THIS EPISODE: Women Rising Together podcast, Ep #15 - Be Your Own Hero: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-15-be-your-own-hero/id1597656935?i=1000553279336 The Life Coach School Podcast: Ep #272: Underearning - The Life Coach School Ep #417: Coach vs. Hero - The Life Coach School The Practicing Stoic on Audible: The Practicing Stoic Let's Connect! on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/ Join our free Facebook community, Women Rising Together https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenrisingtogether2021 To be coached by Addie: Send a DM to schedule a 30 minute, no-obligation consult call, at: https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
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When does a plant bloom? And what does it mean to “bloom?” Do we bloom, like a plant out in nature? A plant blooms when it receives all the necessary nutrients, and when it is in the right, or good enough, environment. So of course, like plants, we also bloom… that’s our nature. But not all conditions produce the same quality of flowers. The same is true for humans. We are a lot like plants… the quality of our environment can have a huge effect on what we produce, and the condition of our body and mind. One big difference between a plant and us, is that plants don’t have thoughts… negative thoughts about themselves, and we do! Too often it’s not our external conditions that keep us from blooming big… it’s our internal conditioning, our thinking… I know this first hand! So, is there anything we can do… externally or internally to improve our chances of producing BIG, beautiful, healthy blooms for as longs as possible? What in our immediate surroundings can we change or improve on, that would have an effect on our state of being? Sometimes when I feel stagnant, it helps to start by making small tweaks around me… like changing my home décor, new bedding, new accent pillows, a new lipstick color. Reorganizing/decluttering areas of my home to make them look prettier. Anything that’s taking up (or producing negative) mental energy, like closets, pantry, laundry room, kitchen and bathroom counters, or paperwork (big one for me). Even something as small as making your nightstand look really pretty… it’s the last thing you look at night and the first thing you see in the morning. Last weekend I refreshed the flowers on our window boxes! I kept looking at the old ones and thinking “those look so sad”. Not good energy! Other times it’s bigger things, like looking to improve my thinking by reading books about what I’m feeling doubt about, or some other thing that doesn’t feel quite right. Change can have a big impact. Change… when you shop, buy something you would not normally wear, like a hat, or try a new color dress, a long dress, a short dress, just something new for you. Anything that breaks up the monotony, sameness, rinse & repeat cycles/routines of something that’s keeping you from feeling that you’re blossoming! If you try any of these things and you get results I would love to hear about it! Lastly, if you are looking to work with a life coach, don't forget to take advantage of my free 30 min coaching call. Just DM me!
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We don’t react toevents, we react to our judgment of them… and the judgement is up to us.
When we change our thoughts, everything “changes” for us!
It’s almost always not what people say, do, or when or how they do it. It’s OUR interpretation that matters!
This is great news because it means we can improve OUR state of being, at any time. What a freakin’ relief!
No more “they should/should not”…
Because in fact people can do what they want, and they WILL!!
We can most always right the "wrongs" in our lives by just changing our thoughts and how we judge things outside of our control.
So I invite you to evaluate your thoughts when things are not to your liking.
Save yourself all the grief, already!
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Perception is the interpreting of something… like how we interpret a particular external circumstance. What reality is your perception or interpretation of things creating for you in your life? If there’s something in your life you’re not particularly pleased with, I invite you to examine your thoughts about it, in detail. What is your reality of that circumstance? Too often it’s our perception, our thoughts about a particular thing we need to look at, and not the actual circumstance. I say that usually 99% of our results are created by our imagination, and too often to our detriment or unhappiness. Perception comes from our thoughts, and how we interpret things through our senses… what we see, hear, and feel. Which then creates our results or our reality. So, if we’re unhappy, or experiencing some type of unpleasantness about something… could it be it’s just our perception? It most always is! When we don’t have the full picture about something, like we see someone “acting” a certain way, but we don’t know their thoughts, our brain fills in the missing information and makes assumptions as to what the missing information could be. As to why someone may be acting a certain way… like they don’t care, they’re disrespectful, they’re rude, they should or should not be doing such and such a thing… the list goes on and on. The passing of time can change our perception, which is a good thing! Just look back at your life and you may see times in your life, like I have, when your perception of something caused unnecessary pain that now wouldn’t bother you one bit. Next time something’s upsetting you, take a very close look at your thoughts and ask yourself if this will bother you in years, maybe decades to come. It may help put things in perspective. Let's Connect! on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/ Join our free Facebook community, Women Rising Together https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenrisingtogether2021 To be coached by Addie: Send a DM to schedule a 20 minute, no-obligation consult call, at: https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
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Ever sat in indecision before, agonizing as to what action to take, and afraid of making the “wrong” choice??
Sometimes in life we will make choices we’ll end up not liking, but that’s better than staying stuck in an unwanted situation because we can’t decide, and never knowing what could've been. At least in my life whenever I’ve made a choice, it was either a good choice or I learned from it as what not to do next time.
The greatest minds of our time made many choices, only to find out they needed to pivot and find new solutions to accomplish their goals and vision. Life is about evolving and taking risks… if we never take risks, we’ll never know what we’re cable of doing. I hope you’ll put the fear of choosing aside and decide on a direction in which to go, and take lots of notes along the way.
Don’t forget to follow your instincts and enjoy the journey!
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Have you ever held back tears or anger in your life?
I know I have, but eventually it's better for our emotional and physical health to let them flow through, so eventually they can move past, and in the process heal us long-term, both mentally and physically.
When we hold emotions inside, they have so much power, even if we don't know it.
Even the power to make us physically sick years later. Because our subconscious can hold on forever to our emotions... like hate, anger, guilt, or regret.
Eventually, possibly manifesting in physical illness. Our emotions also can affect how our lives turn out... if we act against or suppress our emotions.
What we resist, persists. So our denied emotions can keep coming back, or even worse, lie dormant in our subconscious, and still have an effect our physical well-being indefinitely.
So be sure to take time, to let emotions in and then let them out, by crying, mourning, feeling, or any other way that works for you, even if you can't express them in the moment.
It's so important to not just control our emotions at times, but also to not take others' behaviors personally. If we act with our emotions leading the way, we might act like a child when she does something "wrong." We want to communicate from a place of clear and calm thinking, and not out of anger.
Eventually, though, it's imperative that we allow time to let it all go, pass through us and on its way, away from us.
Let's stop often and contemplate on what we need to let go of... for our sake and well-being.
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The Divided Mind: The Epidemic of Mindbody Disorders, by John E. Sarno, M.D.
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Who is your hero, if you have one, and why?
Have you ever thought of yourself as the hero of your own life?
I know I haven't, but I'm now suggesting we become the hero of our own lives.
That's right, and here's why... there isn't a hero out there who's coming to our rescue any time soon. And if there was, say a knight in shining armor... we would still have to prepare ourselves to not just meet him, but also attract him to us.
Bottom line is, if we want our future to be better than the life we're currently living, it's up to US to make that happen.
But how do we do that, you might be asking?
By aligning ourselves, the thoughts we're thinking (refer to Ep. 13 - The Fires We Feed), and taking inspired action based on how we want our future to turn out.
In other words, we must NOW step into the future we envision for ourselves. No one else can do that for us, no one else knows what we really want or don't want, except for US!
No amount of just complaining, or being unhappy and waiting, will produce the future we desire... we have to step into our hero shoes and start walking towards the future of our dreams.
Be the hero of your future... make the alignment needed now, in order to change the trajectory in the direction you desire. All the things you change won't be just for you, but also for those you care for now or in the future. Especially your future self... she will thank you!
I have no doubt you can create anything you want, and that you will in fact do just that.
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Ep. 13 - The Fires We Feed
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Have you ever Beaten the Odds at something in life?
YES, YOU HAVE!
The fact that you are here, having this human experience, is absolute proof that you have in fact beaten the odds... at being born!
And in fact, that's the most important odd to beat thus far... and you DID IT! You are here.
Today we're exploring Beating the Odds at this human thing we call “life”... life experiences, accomplishments, and at pushing ourselves in order to produce success/results not normally thought of as possible for someone like "us".
Someone in our circumstances, our difficult pasts, our physical appearance, our education/how "smart" we are. The list goes on and on. “Too short, too tall, too fat, too skinny, too old, too young, not tech savvy, don't speak the right language, too busy, having come from a dysfuctional family... blah blah blah!”
However, when we see someone else, seemingly unlikely to succeed, beat the odds, we begin to believe that maybe it's possible after all. That all it takes is reasonable doubt, a pinhole in the myth that things can't be what we want them to be, for us... whoever we are.
The only reason to not try to do something should be, because we don't want to. Period. I'm speaking of something we have a desire to do, and that would be humanly possible for anyone else in a similar situation.
In other words, I'm not taking about you telling me you can't become a heart surgeon because you're turning 92 yrs old next month.
I would venture to guess that that is not, in fact, something you would want to do at 92. I'm talking about having a deep desire to accomplish something that our physical and mental ability would allow, and all we would have to do was try, and give it our all.
But even in the event that you decided to become a heart surgeon (or whatever) at 92, would that not be the thrill of your life, and would you not inspire others to go after their dreams, no matter their age?
The purpose of going after things we've never done before, in many cases, is just to learn what we're capable to do as human beings. Even if we never achieve the ultimate goal. The person we become in the process, and the experiences we have, the journey, and who we'll inspire on the way, is what it's all about!
We don't have to set out to be "the first" in the world to do something... but the first for US, or in our family, is just as good! Even if we never get there. If we don't try, we'll for sure never get there, but what a pity to have never tried going after a dream or desire in this life.
Dare to go after a dream or desire of yours. At something YOU want. Even if the results are not guaranteed. Wouldn't it be fun if you actually accomplished it?
Dare to Beat the Odds, for you, and for those in your life that you can be an example to, of what's possible for WOMEN LIKE US, like you and me.
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What fires are you feeding in your life?
Are they burning you, and others, or keeping you warm and cozy?
Let's talk about how our thoughts are like logs we add to a fire, when it comes to situations in our lives... be it our relationships with our kids, parents, siblings, in-laws, co-workers, living situation, etc.
The fires we feed have an effect not just us personally, but also on other people's lives. The lives of the people we love. We're building those fires with our thoughts, our actions, and with the conversations we have with others we interact with.
Our thoughts and feelings are powerful, and can effect the results we produce in our lives. The more mindful we are about our thoughts, the more pleasant our feelings will be, and therefore the better actions we'll take, producing the best results for ourselves and those around us.
It's that simple! Not as easy to do as it sounds, but it truly is that simple, as long as we set our mind to it and make it a priority.
May all the fires you have going in your life produce the results you desire, for you and for all those around you... now and in the future!
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Erin Silver, Life After the Uniform podcast
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Candice Payne, Shine Louder podcast
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Are you living your life on purpose, or by default?
Sometimes there are things in our lives, that we do not like... we complain about them a lot, but do nothing about changing them.
If there is something in your life that you do not like? Picture your life at the end of this year, or maybe even 5 years! Will anything be different?
If we do nothing about what we don't like, other than complain about it and seek sympathy from others, nothing will ever change. So let's DO something about it!
Are you coming??
Featured in this episode:
The 4 C's Formula by Dan Sullivan
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The question is not Who Are We To.... The questions is... Who Are We NOT To?
Out there in the world someone is waiting for YOU, and for ME, to get off our butts and come help them with something they're going through in life. Come and let's lead. Come and let's be an example.
There are SEVERAL women in my life who've shown up (some in real life and some I've yet to meet). They showed up even BEFORE they knew me or knew I needed them, and got going so they could be ready to help me when I came along... and they have in fact helped me!! I am thankful for them having not let fear stop them!
Let's not let someone who is ten steps ahead of us be the reason we shrink and not go after our dreams, for fear of not measuring up. Let's look up and see in them an example of what's possible for all of us. Each one of us is walking towards our own destiny on our own path, but it is within us to change the trajectory of where we end up, of what our future looks like.
We, you and me, are women who someone out there is waiting for... we must show up, even as imperfect as we are. We must not let our potential go unevolved, unused... wasted. That would be a tragedy... Let's not let that happen.
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This week's Shout-outs:
Masako Kozawa https://www.instagram.com/masakozawa_photography/
Why Not Meditate Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/why-not-meditate/id1593265543
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Let's Do The Daily Differenly podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-do-the-daily-differently/id1599407907
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What does the word 'stagnant' bring to mind when you hear it or think of it?
Too often we let ourselves get into a stagnant phase that lasts way too long and hurts our lives now, and affects the trajectory of our future, and very possible that of our posterity.
If we're not vigilant as to our state of being, growing, and evolving is at all times, and keep tabs on our brain as what it's dictating us to do, or more importantly, not do, we could be slowly sliding into permanent stagnation. ¡¡No bueno!!
I invite you to take a closer look, on purpose, at your daily life. And if you find anything that you're not content with, something within your control, yhen what is there you can do to change it... and more importantly, would you want to change anything at all? And if so, what would it be, and to what?
When we become stagnant, as a society or as individuals, it affects more than just us individually. It affects the next generation, too... the ones we're preparing, by being examples to, to take over and run the world when we're no longer here.
So, what are we teaching them, by our example? Let's be on to ourselves on that!
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Are you the best version of you possible? If not, let's change that starting right now!
I personally don't think we ever stop evolving... Just like an iPhone or an Android phone evolves to newer better versions, so can we. We just have to have a desire to do so. It may not always be easy, but it will always be worth it!
Please enjoy my rant on the subject, and I hope you end up with a takeaway or two!
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If you’ve ever looked around and thought, “Is this all there is?” then come along with me, on a journey to change our current circumstances.
We’re the only ones who can change what is, into what will be.
And as we embark on this journey of becoming our best selves, perhaps we can be an example to those around us, of what’s possible.
Let’s dare to change the trajectory of our future, by changing what we do about it today.
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The day I learned that happiness did not come from outside of me changed my life forever... Don't ask me how old I was!
Why didn't someone tell me this when I was young, and hoping "someone" would come a long and make me whole... or "complete me"?
Thank goodness I was wrong, because I could've been waiting for a very long time! And although it's work, lots of work to grasp this concept, it is work so worth doing!
I encourage you to embrace this concept, and if you already know it, more power to you. We've got this... we've got our own happiness. May we never forget it, and may we pass it along to the next generation... much earlier than it came to us!
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When you tell your story, to others or to yourself, are you a victim or a fighter?
It matters so much that we take a good look at what we've overcome to get to where we are.
Playing the victim role over and over again, does not serve us. So if at all possible, depending on your circumstances, viewing ourselves as strong and resilient for having gone through hard things, can be so much more empowering.
Let's chose more carefully the story we tell ourselves from now on.
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Who will you become in the achieving of a goal?
As we set goals, the "how" is usually something that we'll figure out in the process, but who we become in the process, can start now.
As we embark on a new journey, the 'becoming' part doesn't have wait until get there... it can, and should begin now, no matter the degree. Because as we step into our new reality, the becoming starts taking place.
What we feel helps us live a new reality the moment we start believing it.
A belief is a thought we think enough that it becomes reality... so let's think what we want to become, enough to believe it.
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Jim Rhon's Ultimate Library, on Audible
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It's incredible how much we both want to fit in, and at the same time admire uniqueness in others! It's our human nature to not be seen as odd or weird, while at the same time wanting to maintain our own personality...
It's really hard to do!! Why? Well, maybe because deep down we want to do both, but are afraid to be different and being criticized for it.
In this episode we talk about daring to stand out and embracing what makes us US! May this episode resonate with you if you have been not feeling like your uniqueness is something you can flaunt, as I have felt, and may you do it any way and be glad for it!!
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In this episode we explore the differences between when we need something vs. when we just want more, when we just have a desire for extra!
Too often we may think that just having enough, or what we "need" is good enough, and may even criticize those who exhibit an outward desire for excess or luxury.
But having more is not the just for the sake of having something excess, it is also a desire to want more and better than just enough, or just the very basic necessities.
In fact, when we end up coming up short, it could be due to our mindset of being happy with just our "needs" being met, and not being open to the idea of luxury and abundance beyond that!
Hope you'll find this episode useful in thinking more positively about desiring more, because when we do, we're on our way to manifesting more in our lives.
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In this episode Addie talks about stepping outside our comfort zone in order to become the best version of ourselves we possibly can.
Even when our brain tells us it's too scary to risk being criticized, which is its job, if we want to grow and become a better version of our current self, we have to override this fear and jump in.
So maybe next time you're trying to take chances and your brain tells you it'll be too hard, you'll have the courage to push through the fear and march forth towards your dream!!
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In this episode you'll get to know your host Addie Scharff Helbling a little more, and get a glimpse of what her goals for this podcast are
Her idea is to not edit episodes, in order to give you, the listener, a taste of what it's like to start something new, without having to be perfect at it!
On this podcast, especially the first few episodes, you'll get a beginner's version of how to start something new, even when you are full of doubts. Proof that the only way to become good at something is to start where you are, with what you have.
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A podcast for women who feel they're meant for more, and who desire to go after their BIG dreams. Evolve, become, rise, inspire, and contribute.
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