The EighteenSeven Said Podcast: Recent Episodes
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The EighteenSeven Said podcast is produced for men, those who identify as men and those that care for them.
EighteenSeve is the podcast host and wishes to support men to assert their right to fail, rebuild and celebrate their successes. EighteenSeven wants to produce episodes that are valuable and thought-provoking.
Every listener can message me directly and let me know how right or wrong I have got it.
It is clear that if I mention SA or the R-word, there would be complaints. So much so, that victims of childhood trauma will find it more difficult to find the support they deserve to make sense of what has happened to them. Such support could enable these children at some point in their lives to live as close to the life they could have led if they were not R'd.Another result of 'we don't talk about SA or R' means that some perpetrators exist in a world of self-hatred, unable to get the help they need. While other perpetrators feel they are entitled to live out their ideology, altering the lives of those children who seek, as we all do, to live a childhood free of harm.We don't talk about R or SA because society (you and I) are too uncomfortable talking openly and honestly about the unspeakable. The vulnerable suffer because of the unspeakable.Luckily for us, Jeremy Indika is an individual who speaks about the unspeakable, and some organisations even trust him enough to help him share his experience. It is an honour for me, in my small way, to champion this good human who seeks to make this world a little bit safer for you and I.By now, you know what we are 'not talking about'. To learn more, listen to this episode, share, comment and get active in any way you can.To be active, visithttps://jeremyindika.com/ You will have access to links to his podcast YouTube . and much more.Other places of support in the UK.
https://www.thesurvivorstrust.org/
https://www.thehavens.org.uk/
Please let me know where in the world others have gained support, and after some due diligence I will add it to this list.
The EighteenSeven Podcast is produced independently.The presenter, EighteenSeven, has over 17 years of working with male perpetrators and victims of domestic abuse. He is a qualified IDVA (independent Domestic Violence Advisor) and, a level 4 Counsellor in Training offering therapeutic support to males (and those who identify as male).To support the podcast, visit my socials to comment and share here.Use this link to email me.Or call me by clicking here.
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Have you thought about getting older and who will protect you? Have you considered that perhaps you have worked hard to provide for your family, and when you are vulnerable, everything changes?Yes, this is another bleak episode where we explore domestic abuse of the over 60's. We discuss who can be abusers and how to recognise subtle clues that will identify a victim.
We look uniquely at the issues abusers face and why victims may not wish to cause a fuss and live with the abuse.
Hourglass is a unique charity that is funded to support victims.
Isobel Irwin no longer works with Hourglass. However, you can get all the information you need to support them and potential victims with whom you may come into contact.
The Helpline is open 24/7 – including weekends and bank holidays.
Email, text and instant message options are only available during business hours.
Freephone 24/7 Helpline: 0808 808 8141
The mobile number for the text service is 07860 052906
Knowledge Bank: https://knowledgebank.wearehourglass.org/
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Email: helpline@wearehourglass.org
The EighteenSeven Podcast is produced independently. The presenter has over 15 years of working in domestic violence and is currently qualified IDVA working exclusively with male victims of domestic abuse. He is becoming a qualified counsellor but wishes to work with males (and those who identify as male).To support the podcast, visit my socials to comment and share here.Use this link to email me.
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As a parent, you never want to have to bury your child. Imagine you have to, knowing that your child has been snatched from you and your family by someone who decided, after months or even years of coercion, control, and violence, to then murder them. What would you do?For this episode, I briefly examine the world of domestic homicide and its possible impact on families.I spoke with Nick Gazzard, who, with the support of his family, did something we should all the grateful for. Make no mistake; their work has saved lives. Has protected victims from false allegations and produced evidence that has helped convict perpetrators of abuse.Here you can learn more about the outstanding work the trust is doing nationwide.
Here you can download the Holiguard App. Probably the best personal protection app in the UK.
The EighteenSeven Podcast is produced independently. The presenter has over 15 years of working in domestic violence and is currently an IDVA working exclusively with male victims of domestic abuse. He is also training to become a qualified counsellor but wishes to work with males (and those who identify as male).To support the podcast, visit my socials to comment and share here.Use this link to email me.
Or call me by clicking here.Further Information on the subjects mentioned.
Mankind research. https://mankind.org.uk/statistics/
Suzy Lampugh Trust https://www.suzylamplugh.org/
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I'm not sure how many times I need to apologise, but I'm sorry for the late, late, late episode.
I reset my kit, and everything sounded horrible. All sorted now, I hope. (Let me know if I am wrong) I have a better idea of what I am doing with the podcast and how I am formatting the episodes. As a result, there will be a return to two episodes a month. Plus, the episodes will be longer with more information.
This episode is a bit about addiction but mainly about a man in recovery who wrote a fantastic book about his lived experience of alcohol addiction and his recovery journey.
The book is called Me and My Addiction, Written by Stewart Lee.This is an infuriating and empowering story about the guy we all know who needs a shake or a cuddle.
This book will help those who struggle with addiction and those who struggle with caring for an addict to understand each other.
A great read.
To buy the book, HERE. If you have read it, leave a review.
For more about Stewart Lee, the author.
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In this episode, I speak with Mark Brooks about his work with great people and fantastic organisations striving for equality for all by supporting male victims of domestic abuse and more.
For more information, please follow these links:
The Mankind Initiative https://www.mankind.org.uk Confidential helpline for male victims of domestic abuse and violence.
Lines open 10 am to 4 pm 01823334244
Call 999 if you are in immediate danger.
The Men and Boys Coalition. https://www.menandboyscoalition.org.ukTwitter @MBCoalition
To donate to the coalition
The Amendments to the Controlling and Coervice Offence
Remember, if you have a story to tell or need a question answered, contact me directly on,WhatsApp now
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Please join me and spend the next 30 minutes with Rick Clemons, author, podcaster and public speaker. He talks about his journey to getting closer to his true self. He proves that we have parallel journeys, and I hope you will be enthused enough to trust yourself and choose the path that suits you.
To learn more about Rick Clemons, visit https://rickclemons.com/
You will find all the information he mentions in this thought provoking interview.
If you have a similar lived experience or want to contact me, click HERE.
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This very quick episode is shy of 5 minutes long and was recorded on a different kit, so apologies for the audio.
The podcast must be getting some interest as I keep getting emails being negative and a bit troll-like from angry men and some angry women. So this is to put the record straight.
If you have any questions feel free to give me a call.
Take Care EighteenSeven.
Transcript
the 187 said podcast mission statement
the 187 podcast is a podcast for men
those who identify as men and those who
care for them but what does that even
mean
the podcast focuses on issues that men
face
I want to share ideas and information
that Aid the support of men to find
solutions that are right for them
now I have a personal understanding of
the expectations of being a male
however, that's my lived experience and
it's essential for everyone to hear
yours
on this podcast, I'm more likely to talk
about body dysmorphia than I am about
how to get a six-pack or consent for men
and boys rather than how to close the
deal on a luxury woman
now my views on my own and I'm open to
being challenged but
I make no apologies for being male
all my perceived maleness, I will not
make excuses for some men's entitled
Behaviour
anymore
that I would for some women entitled
behaviour
I believe we're all individuals who are part of
a global Collective, and that I you we us
have the responsibility not to be
unhelpful to each other, we should expect
to be challenged if we are being
unhelpful, and I believe we should
Challenge and helpfulness
with love and respect, looking for the
collective win rather than the
individual ego boost
all the unhealthfulness and unhelpful
that I mentioned can be replaced with
expletives, it's completely up to you
now how are we going to do this
activism is the key so
my contribution is to hold true to my
values and create a platform for
dialogue change and development hence
the 187 said podcast
support this podcast, do one of the
following
tell someone about the podcast by
sharing a link on your socials
subscribe be a guest on the podcast
suggest a topic and share your
experiences or ask a question
you can donate by patreon two pounds a
month
would make all the difference
or you can buy some merchandise which is
coming soon or book a course which again
is coming soon
who is 187. now I use this nonda plume
protect the identity of the
organizations and individuals that I
work with
some of my self-disclosures may impact
on my friends and family, so I need to
protect their privacy
finally
I think it's important to listen to the
message in each episode and question the
content rather than rely on class race
sexual orientation disability or my
perceived intellect to validate the
message
because these are precisely the
mechanisms that divide us
some of the things I get asked are
the following are your men's right
activists
no
are you a male feminist no
what are you, then
I'm a man who just wants people
not to be unhelpful
if you have any other questions
please email
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You are not the father. Paternity Fraud.Paternity Fraud is often seen as funny or not much of a big deal.However, in this episode, we discuss the impacts, a possible solution and who you can turn to when it is revealed that you are not the father. (or the son or daughter)
To find out more, visit Paternity Fraud UK
or
Email paternityfrauduk@gmail.com
All discussions are confidential, and currently, all support is free of charge.
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Remember, you are important.
Breaking free - Like a Viking.
We can focus on the issues impacting men but then spend too much time discussing who is to blame when we should look for solutions.
In this episode, we talk to Johan Rylander, The Viking Mindset Coach. He talks about his loss of self-confidence and how he regained his strength by re-igniting his inner Viking.
If the next 30 minutes resonate with you, use the links below to learn more.
www.vikingmindsetcoach.com
thevikinghjourney@gmail.cominfo@vikingmindsetcoach.com
You can find Johan on Linkedin at https://www.linkedin.com/in/johan-rylander-05768b19b
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Episodes 9 & 9.1 will show you how to manage parental conflict as you go through the courts.Have we really stopped thinking about the cost of going to court?Positive Conclusions founder gives us food for thought and asks should the family court be reformed.InformationPositive conclusions @positiveconclusions Linktree http://positiveconclusions.org.ukFor your free Child Arrangement Flow chart courtesy of Positive conclusions HERE
This episode is a brief explanation of consent, what I think it is and what it means when others cross boundaries. Plus, how can men protect themselves?
If you have any reflections, then please get in touch.
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How to dispose of a condom? https://www.wikihow.com/Dispose-of-a-Condom
For 2023 send a voice note if you need an agony uncle WhatApp your questions on +44 (0) 7367 034004
You’re a Perpetrator of Domestic Abuse
This episode is dedicated to the men who have a=or are being domestically abused. It is also a shoutout to friends and family members, co-workers and managers of men who are abusive.
Anyone can be a victim or perpetrator of domestic abuse. Rather than add to the dialogue of calling those individuals animals, disgusting etc., I have produced this episode as a starting point for abusive men to take stock and take control of their narrative. Then hopefully, others will be supportive enough to help those who have been abusive to get the support they need to change the way they communicate. For our part, we need to take people, whatever gender or orientation, more seriously when they report domestic or sexual violence.
If you wish to take part in an episode or have something to say, contact me
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Support the podcast to go weekly https://www.patreon.com/Eighteenseven
Music by. https://freesound.org/people/YellowTree/
Resource: The EighteenSeven Power and Control wheel.
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This a continuation of Episode 9, where I talked about ensuring that you were in the right headspace to begin the sometimes painful journey through the family courts. Rather than create separate episodes looking at what to expect when fighting for your child or children's right to spend time with you and then the type of professional relationships you will have. I have decided to produce a whistle-stop tour of the whole process.
If you have not listened to Episode 9, I think you should. It is s just as important as this one.
If I have missed anything or you disagree, contact me via the link below.
If you have an experience that you wish to share with other men, then get in touch. I would love to hear from you.
https://linktr.ee/eighteensevensaid
I do not have any links with the company in this video, but the information shared is well set out, and I have shared his videos with several clients. Let me know what you think.
https://youtu.be/lETb_dHpB38
Take care.
This episode is part of a series of podcasts dedicated to helping you navigate the issue of child contact when relationships break down, and you have been refused reasonable contact with your child(ren)
This can happen for no good reason and occurs relatively often.
For the next 20 minutes or so, I will talk to you about the idea of getting your head in the right place.
To get every episode the moment, they are available, subscribe to this podcast. To help promote it, share it with anyone who could use the information and leave a comment or review wherever you are listening to podcasts.
To make contact with me via my socials, follow this link.
The next episode will look at how to get started.
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Hello you beautiful human; this short episode goes hand in hand with the previous one.
What does the term Real Man even mean? What is the impact on men and boys?
If you have any questions or comments, then feel free to get in touch.
As always, follow this link to make contact via any of my socials etc. https://linktr.ee/eighteensevensaid
You can also use this link to contact me about ideas about episodes, or you may have an experience that you may wish to share.
Hello you beautiful human.
There haven't been many episodes for a while, as I have been finding it hard to balance life, work and my passion for this podcast. This podcast is about to start winning, so please subscribe. There will be more frequent and shorter episodes coming.
This episode explores a behavioural model that I have augmented to form the basis of how I question and make sense of the world around me. Let me know how what you think. You can view it by clicking HERE. I hope you too find it useful.
New flash - You are invited to attend an hour-long check-in session on the first Sunday of every month via google meets. There's no need to keep your cameras on, but please be cool. Here is the link
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In this short episode, a dad talks about his ideas on what it is to be a man and parenting and how important it is for him to pass on attitudes to his children.
Hopefully, you will be encouraged to get involved. So if you would like to take part in an episode, make a comment or suggest a topic, contact me via
you can also send a voice note or text message via WhatsApp to +44747367034004
In this episode, I have the privilege of talking to John James about his lived experience of domestic abuse at the hands of a girlfriend.
To learn more about John James's story, read his book From the Darkness: A True Story
You can also follow his podcast FTD Talk here
Or contact John James directly via Facebook or Instagram
Remember if you have would like to take part in an episode, make a comment or suggest a topic, contact me via
or send a voice note or text message via WhatsApp to +44747367034004
Take Care EighteenSeven
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The majority of domestic abuse perpetrators are men and the majority of victims are women.
However, 1 In 6 men (and those who identify as male ) are also victims of domestic abuse.
Many men are unaware if they are victims, many don't speak out. Some find that when they do they are not taken seriously,
To begin changing the landscape and making victims of domestic abuse visible I have recorded this episode.
This episode covers who is regarded as a victim of domestic abuse and what domestic abuse is with examples.
By the end of this episode, you should be able to work out if you are in an abusive relationship.
Your thoughts comments and ideas are always welcome.
Contact me via
Email EighteenSevensaid at Gmail dot com
WhatsApp voice notes or messages only +447367034004
If you are a male victim of domestic abuse visit Mankind
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I have spent months looking for listeners and their friends to share their lived experiences. However, I forgot that we as males don't always take the opportunity to share our experiences for fear of judgment. So to lead by example I am sharing my own lived experience. In this episode, I talk about what I feel is my shameful secret that I do not often talk about. i.e MY own poor decision making and lack of assertiveness while in a relationship with a woman without empathy.
I welcome your contribution and I will be happy to answer any questions you may have.
Contact me via
Email EighteenSevensaid at Gmail dot com
WhatsApp voice notes or messages only +447367034004
All children have the right to have contact with both parents where safe to do so.
For support (England and Wales only), and to find out what you can do to gain contact with your children visit www.dadsunltd.org.uk or give Mankind a call
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EighteenSeven has experience working with children and female victims of (intimate partner violence) domestic abuse. As well as clocking up over 11 years of experience delivering therapeutic programmes to male perpetrators of domestic abuse who identified as heterosexual.
This is the first episode on this subject that we will add to with your help. Today we hear the lived experience of a man who had been subjected to domestic abuse
If you have a lived experience or an opinion please get in touch via our social networks
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Or send us a voice note or message to our WhatsApp line. +447367034004
The first episode looks at a subject that is too wide to answer in one episode. Get in touch to have your say.
During this episode, I refer to the Anderson and Bushemans General Aggression Model. This model has been repurposed to form "My Model" that will be referred to in this and future episodes
To watch a video explaining what The My Model is visit this link. I hope that My Model will help us all be more curious and take time to be more understanding of each other.
A short introduction to the podcast and how to get the best out of each episode,
To learn more about the framework I use to make future episodes, visit our YouTube channel. I think it would be very helpful.
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