Introductory Episode: Recent Episodes
Toni and Lisa
This introductory episode lays the groundwork for the first season of this podcast developed by two friends who share a passion for decoding narcissism and toxic behaviors as they are both healing and prevailing over abusive past relationships.
With a friendship spanning more than 20 years, Toni and Lisa have shared many insightful conversations over their varied interests. It is their hope through this podcast that they can reach others who are looking for insightful and empathetic conversation on the journey to healing from narcissistic and toxic abuse.
They are both in industries that seek to help others find relief and a future of mental health and happiness. Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is a high school teacher completing her final year of her master’s in counseling.
The content provided on this podcast is for informational purposes only.
Toni and Lisa discuss the major red flags to watch for if one believes they may be in a relationship with a swindler, con artist or scammer.Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only—please listen with care. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes. If you enjoyed our podcast, please follow us and leave us 5 stars if you listen on Apple Podcast. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter: https://twitter.com/heresyourredExcellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing: https://heresyourredflag.com/further-readingHere's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa has her masters in school counseling and is working toward becoming a licensed professional counselor.If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.orgOther helpful resources:
- The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/
- Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/
- Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/
Toni and Lisa talk with “Victoria” about the red flags to watch for if one believes they may be in a relationship with a swindler, con artist or scammer.
If you enjoyed our podcast, please follow us and leave us 5 stars if you listen on Apple Podcast. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:
Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443
Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/
Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:https://twitter.com/heresyourred
Excellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing: https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading
Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa has her masters in school counseling and working toward becoming a licensed professional counselor. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.
If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.orgOther helpful resources:
- The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/
- Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/
- Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/
Toni and Lisa delve deeper with Victoria about her childhood hardwiring that contributed to her attraction to narcissistic and exploitative men as well as what contributed to those types of toxic men being attracted to her. They also discuss what she’s learned from the relationship with Eugene and what she’s done to move on.
STRONG CONTENT WARNING Suicidal ideation is discussed in the second half of this episode. This episode is intended for mature audiences only—please listen with care. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes.
If you enjoyed our podcast, please follow us and leave us 5 stars if you listen on Apple Podcast. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:
Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:https://twitter.com/heresyourredExcellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing:https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading
Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa has her masters in school counseling and working toward becoming a licensed professional counselor.
If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.
If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org
Other helpful resources:
- The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/
- Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/
- Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/
Toni and Lisa talk with “Victoria” about her relationship with a man claiming to be a professional poker player who in reality was actually a serial swindler and scam artist, abuser and narcissist. It’s so easy to wear blinders in matters of the heart. We hope this episode will arm you with some vital information to avoid falling into the clutches of people who prey on others’ financial and emotional vulnerabilities.
This episode is intended for mature audiences only—please listen with care. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes.
If you enjoyed our podcast, please follow us and leave us 5 stars if you listen on Apple Podcast. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:https://twitter.com/heresyourredExcellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing:https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading
Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester.
If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.
If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.orgOther helpful resources:
- The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/
- Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/
- Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/
Lily takes the listeners through the dramatic ending of her marriage, as well as how she navigated the court system in California to eventually gain 90% custody of her children. She provides practical steps to take and pitfalls to avoid for anyone who may be in similar circumstances. We hope this episode will arm you with some vital information that you can use to best support yourself or your loved ones in abusive and narcissistic relationships.CONTENT WARNING There are topics including verbal abuse and violence and some strong language in this episode. Please listen with care. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes.If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:https://twitter.com/heresyourredExcellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing:https://heresyourredflag.com/further-readingHere's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.orgOther helpful resources:
- The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/
- Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/
- Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/
CONTENT WARNING There are topics including sexual abuse and violence and some strong language this episode. Please listen with care. Lily will detail her former husband’s love bombing and grooming of her, what hooked her and the many red flags she noticed and pushed aside. She will further talk about his devaluing and her exit from the relationship. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes.
If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:
Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443
Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/
Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:https://twitter.com/heresyourred
Excellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing:https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading
Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester.
If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.
If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.orgOther helpful resources:
- The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/
- Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/
- Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/
Toni and Lisa interview “Lily”, a listener who reached out to share her story of marriage to a narcissistic abusive husband. In part 1, Lily discusses how her upbringing and low self-esteem contributed to her not seeing vital red flags.
The book mentioned in this episode: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bandcroft
If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:
Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443
Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/
Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/heresyourred
Excellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing:
https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading
Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester.
If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.
If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org
Other helpful resources:
- The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/
- Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/
- Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/
Freeing Rapunzel is Anne-Christine Witzgall’s first book. Her memoir is about how she escaped the shadows of her family’s Nazi past during the cold war era in West Berlin, Germany. This book reveals the consequences of family secrets on each family member. It becomes clear that by hiding past experiences, trauma is transferred to the next generation, but the story also explores the deeper issues women of all ages and cultures face: affirming their self-worth, purpose and becoming resilient.
Link to Anne’s Book, Freeing Rapunzel:
https://boook.link/Freeing-Rapunzel
Get in touch with Anne-Christine Witzgall:
https://www.annelifecoaching.com/
Other books mentioned in this episode:
Why Does He Do That? (Lundy Bandcroft)
The Body Keeps the Score (Bessel A. Van Der Kolk)
If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:
Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443
Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/
Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/heresyourred
Excellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing:
https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading
Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester.
If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.
If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org
Toni and Lisa discuss how all the past episodes lay a foundation for a specific order of steps in the learning process for people whether in healthy or in narcissistic, abusive and toxic relationships.
In both their own lives and in working with others in abusive, toxic and narcissistic relationships, Toni and Lisa have learned that it is beneficial to lay a specific, solid foundation so that we can understand not just what narcissism is but to understand and acknowledge if we are in an abusive or toxic relationship or situation. Lisa and Toni discuss the specific order of steps in the learning process as people become aware of their situation and especially if they are choosing to exit relationships with toxic people. We hope that today’s episode solidifies for our wonderful audience the importance of building a foundation by getting in touch with the inner you.
If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:
Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443
Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/
Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/heresyourred
Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester.
If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.
If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org
Other helpful resources:
- The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/
- Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/
- Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/
Toni and Lisa interview coach and therapist, Lynn Meinke, PCC. Lynn explains the differences between values, needs and beliefs and discusses the importance of developing and strengthening our values especially in abusive relationships. She teaches us an exercise to help us determine our own values by starting with what is most important to us in our lives. We all want to grow and learn, move from surviving to thriving and have the best life possible—that can start with getting in touch with our core values.
For questions for Lynn Meinke in future episodes please email us at heresyourredflag@gmail.com
Leonard’s Values Needs Wants Model: https://www.facebook.com/100086177694443/posts/pfbid0Qsmj2jDti6x8PBDhQ9Vf18d1DvAQyRMHAQkZnUFbRHyTGT3QCZDwHZbvXLxGEtb9l/?mibextid=unz460
If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.
Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443
Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/
Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/heresyourred
Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists.
If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.
If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org
Following on the heels of last week’s episode, the enneagram is such a useful tool to help us better understand ourselves, our needs, our motivations, our fears and it can help us improve relationships and better shape our goals and values. For this episode, we are going to navigate narcissism using the enneagram! We thought it would be interesting and helpful to examine the traits of each enneagram type from a narcissistic lens. We want to examine how each enneagram type can show up in an unhealthy, narcissistic way as each type can lack empathy, avoid intimacy, and/or develop a superiority complex. For more information about The Heart Magnet, you can listen to our episode covering it on Season 1, Episode 12.
If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:
Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443
Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/
Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/heresyourred
Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Lisa and I created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists.
If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.
If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org
In this episode, in keeping with our mission to equip each other with strategies for ultimate and lasting mental health, Toni and Lisa explain the ancient theory of the Enneagram which is an organized tool that explains our core beliefs, motivations, and personalities.
Learning our enneagram personality type, and learning about the other personality types, is like a super power through which to view personality types through an insightful new lens where we might learn more deeply about ourselves and help us better navigate both healthy and toxic relationships.
Toni and Lisa had a bit of fun by choosing examples of enneagram types from TV, movies, books and celebrities! So fun!
Free Enneagram Test: (Test #2 is the short version Lisa mentions.)
https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test
Where each type goes when healthy and unhealthy:
https://ninetypes.co/blog/enneagram-movement-points
Great books and articles about the enneagram:
The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile:
https://www.amazon.com/Road-Back-You-Enneagram-Self-Discovery/dp/0830846190/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1673116081&sr=8-1
Enneagram types:
https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/enneagram-types/
Thorough enneagram information:
https://www.integrative9.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQiAzeSdBhC4ARIsACj36uGWp5v6K7cUe7j3Otj8MCA2qm5RJxLaW6tu9seCaeoDxmWclhbxl20aAlGBEALw_wcB
https://www.integrative9.com/enneagram/
If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.
Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists.
If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.
If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org
Toni and Lisa discuss nine reasons women fall for bad boys and discuss how to break the pattern of falling for these types of men.
If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.
Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443
Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/
Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter: https://twitter.com/heresyourred
Here's Your Red Flag podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Lisa and I created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists.
If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.
The content in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org
Toni and Lisa discuss 20 social media red flags to watch out for in relationships, such as: they are always on their phone, they have secret accounts, they stay on dating apps in a relationship, they post provocative pictures and/or follow other accounts with provocative pictures, they continue to communicate with or follow an ex, they send flirtatious texts to others, they try to control your online content, the pitfalls of being catfished and many more!
More information about “catfishing”: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catfishing
Thank you for listening to season one of our podcast. We are actively researching and preparing for season 2! We wish you all a safe and very happy holiday season! Talk with ya’ll next year!
If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.
The content in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org
In this episode, Licensed Professional Therapist, Johanna Montenegro, walks us through the cycle of violence, trauma bonding, being stuck, and questions to ask yourself in toxic and narcissistic relationships. She also discusses the path out of such relationships.
Johanna is a Licensed Professional Counselor serving Texas and is the owner of Whole Life Healing Therapy, where she is serving women through trauma counseling, focusing on relational trauma including childhood abuse and neglect, spiritual trauma and narcissist abuse recovery. She is also the owner of The Mindful Collective Studio, where she provides integrative trauma-informed mindfulness practices focusing on healing the mind, body and heart. Learn more about Johanna’s from her website: http://wholelifehealingtherapies.com/
You can find Johanna on her Instagram accounts: https://www.instagram.com/wholelifehealing_/
and https://www.instagram.com/themindfulcollectivestudio/
Her email address is: info@wholelifehealingtherapy.com
If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.
The content in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org
We all were born with an internal guidance system that allows us to make our way through life, but we can become disconnected from this system. Carol walks us through the process of strengthening our heart magnet—it’s like a muscle to develop and strengthen. As adults, we are able to choose to reactivate this system.
Carol McClelland Fields, PhD, BCC is a coach, trainer, and author/creator of the Seasons of Change, Purpose Clarity, and several other programs including the Heart Magnet. When working with clients, Carol provides unique tools, refreshing perspectives, and powerful insights to help them transform their confusion, frustration, and procrastination into clarity, hope, and positive action. You can discover more about her programs at https://www.seasonsofchange.com/
Heart Magnet: Discover What You Are Drawn To
https://www.seasonsofchange.com/ebooks/heart-magnet
If you work with clients in transition, visit Carol’s other site: Flourish as a Change Catalyst for resources, training opportunities and business mentoring specifically for Change Catalysts.
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Toni and Lisa discuss the five types of narcissists and each give an example of each type from movies, TV and literature. It was such a fun episode to record!
Helpful resources:
Bonding with Baby While Feeding:
https://www.allinahealth.org/healthysetgo/care/eye-contact-helps-babies-learn-to-talk#:~:text=Whether%20breast%2D%20or%20bottle%2Dfed,a%20moment%20between%20two%20people).
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3916850/
Developing Your Children’s Empathy https://www.brighthorizons.com/resources/Article/empathy-and-young-children#:~:text=Reading%20is%20a%20great%20time,led%20you%20to%20that%20observation.
Types of Narcissists
https://psychcentral.com/health/types-of-narcissism#communal
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Toni and Lisa Interview Alicia Gregg, a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate.
We have the ability to change irrational beliefs into rational beliefs and we can conquer emotional disregulation in toxic situations. Lisa discusses a mindfulness exercise when dealing with past feelings and emotions related to a toxic partner. Alicia discusses Gottman Couples’ Therapy and the Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling and ways to replace them with healthy communication patterns, called Antidotes (Gentle Start-Up, Appreciation, Take Responsibility, Self-Soothing).
Our guest on this episode, Alicia Gregg, is a Licensed Professional Counselor-Associate with the Woodlands Family Institute. Her goal as a counselor is to provide an accepting, caring, and compassionate environment in which clients will feel comfortable exploring problems and implementing beneficial changes in their lives. You can contact her through this website: https://www.wfipc.com
How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything--Yes, Anything! by Albert Ellis
Additional resource:
The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/
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Toni and Lisa dive deeper into some of the main red flags in intimate partner relationships specifically.
Topics Covered in the first half of the episode: Narcissist/Toxic Person Test, How Does this Person Make Me Feel?, What is NOT Normal, Red Flags that Really Bring It Home.
In the second half of the episode they discuss domestic violence awareness, an exit plan from abusive relationships, and Lundy Bancroft’s early warning signs in abusive intimate partner relationships and the key difference between abusers and narcissists.
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
Lundy Bancroft on Narcissists vs Abusers (YouTube)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0iYfG8x80Yw
Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence
https://www.ctcadv.org/training-events/purple-thursday/
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
https://ncadv.org/STATISTICS#:~:text=1%20in%203%20women%20and,be%20considered%20%22domestic%20violence.%22&text=1%20in%207%20women%20and,injured%20by%20an%20intimate%20partner
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Toni and Lisa have collected and compiled a very comprehensive list of red flags from their own experiences and research, and they are so excited to finally share these with listeners. This episode focuses on red flags to watch for in the early stages of a relationship, as the relationship progresses, and how toxic people display flags in general to others.
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Toni and Lisa pick up where they left off last week discussing the main buzzwords and concepts of narcissism and toxic relationships. This episode focuses first on buzzwords from the devalue and discard stages including the silent treatment, isolation, gaslighting, triangulation, flying monkeys, smear campaign, "hoovering" and other concepts. They briefly discuss the "cult of two" that exists in a narcissistic relationship. They also discuss the two key strategies of grey rock and no contact for surviving and existing with toxic people. They conclude with a conversation on the lack of closure after leaving a toxic relationship and how we can create our own closure.
Learning more about these concepts may help in the identification of red flags in potentially toxic relationships.
Episodes 6 and 7 are a great primer or refresher of these terms for listeners and us!
Resources and links mentioned in this episode:
'I felt as if I was dead to her': The psychological cost of the silent treatment by Alia E. Dastagir https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2022/04/07/silent-treatment-how-its-defined-when-its-abuse-and-how-deal/9492221002/
Is Silent Treatment a Form of Abuse? Here’s What to Know by Kelly Burch https://www.verywellhealth.com/silent-treatment-abuse-5219934
Six Warning Signs of Isolation and Emotional Abuse https://www.therapycts.com/blog/2020/11/11/six-warning-signs-of-isolation-and-emotional-abuse
A Glossary Of Narcissistic Slang Terms https://abusewarrior.com/abuse/a-glossary-of-narcissistic-slang-terms/
50+ Crazy Gaslighting Phrases Narcissists Say – Direct From Survivors https://abusewarrior.com/abuse/gaslighting-phrases/
Narcissism 101: A Glossary of Terms for Understanding the Madness https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/2017/09/19/narcissism-101-a-glossary-of-terms-for-understanding-the-madness/
20 Narcissistic Terms: A Glossary Of Terms For Understanding Narcissism by Anne McCrea https://themindsjournal.com/twenty-common-terms-in-the-world-of-narcissism/
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Episode 6 begins with Toni and Lisa laying the foundation of narcissism and abuse by describing and discussing: the Four Main Needs of a Narcissist (Power, Control, Manipulation and Admiration), The Three Es of Narcissists (Empathy, Entitlement, and Exploitation), The Cycle of Abuse (Tension, Incident, Reconciliation, and Calm), The Dizzying Cycle of Narcissism (Idealize, Devalue, Discard and Hoovering), and an explanation of the Cluster B Personality Disorders.
They take a deep dive into the most common buzzwords and concepts of narcissism using personal examples in their discussion. Hopefully gaining a knowledge of these concepts will help in the identification of red flags in relationships.
This episode is a great primer or refresher of these terms for listeners and us!
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Boundaries, Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by John Townsend, Henry Cloud, et al.
The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope by Leslie Veronica
A Glossary Of Narcissistic Slang Terms
https://abusewarrior.com/abuse/a-glossary-of-narcissistic-slang-terms/
50+ Crazy Gaslighting Phrases Narcissists Say – Direct From Survivors
https://abusewarrior.com/abuse/gaslighting-phrases/
Narcissism 101: A Glossary of Terms for Understanding the Madness
https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/2017/09/19/narcissism-101-a-glossary-of-terms-for-understanding-the-madness/
20 Narcissistic Terms: A Glossary Of Terms For Understanding Narcissism by Anne McCrea
https://themindsjournal.com/twenty-common-terms-in-the-world-of-narcissism/
Lisa wraps up her story about leaving an abusive marriage. The abuse was increasing in frequency and intensity making the marriage very unsafe. She mentions the benefits of contacting the National Domestic Violence Hotline and how they assisted her in developing a safety plan and exit strategy. Upon informing #2 that she was divorcing him and wanted no further communication, he persisted in harassing and maybe even stalking her. This prompted her to obtain a protective order for her and her children’s safety. Though the road has been anything but easy, Lisa now lives a life of freedom from fear, control, and manipulation.
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Trigger warning: this episode contains instances of physical abuse that may be difficult for some listeners.
The episode begins with Toni providing some context of what it looked like on the outside of this cult of two between Lisa and #2. Lisa continues her story of what her life was like living with an abusive spouse. She details several instances of the accelerating psychological, emotional and physical abuse that she endured prior to becoming aware that she was, in fact, a victim of domestic abuse. She lays out for listeners why she stayed so long and how she found the courage and way out of that abusive relationship.
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Lisa details the escalating tension in her 7 year marriage with #2. Trigger warning: this episode contains instances of severe abuse, please listen with care.
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Lisa discusses her initial attraction to her second husband, "#2." She details the years of emotional and psychological abuse she suffered in their 7 year marriage and the many red flags she ignored. Trigger warning: this episode contains instances of severe abuse, please listen with care.
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Our personalities and relationship preferences are partly genetic and partly environmental. In this first episode, Lisa explains some of her childhood experiences, specifically her relationships with father figures, which hardwired the first forty-plus years of her life and led to love addiction and codependency.
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This introductory episode lays the groundwork for the podcast's first season developed by two friends who share a passion for decoding narcissism and toxic behaviors as they are both healing from and prevailing over abusive past relationships. It is their hope through this podcast that they can reach others who are looking for insightful and empathetic conversation on the journey to healing from narcissistic and toxic abuse. This is a podcast of self discovery. We’ll be talking about personal freedom, safety, security, and strength while embracing our inner voice, recognizing and honoring our gut instinct, accepting imperfection, showing grace to ourselves, and starting anew. They are both in industries that seek to help others find relief and a future of mental health and happiness. Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is a high school teacher completing her final year of her master’s in counseling.
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