Marriage Goals with Benjamin and Cindi Windle: Recent Episodes
Benjamin Windle
Marriage Goals: 8 simple rules to go from 😡 to 🥰. A quick, non-scripted, marriage enrichment course for real couples. Join Benjamin and Cindi and they distill nearly 20 years of marriage lessons into quick bite-size podcast sessions.
This has become a part of the ethos of our marriage: Same team.
You are not in a competition with each other. You rise and fall together. You are a team.
You are ONE. Not two.
All marriages go through seasons. Don’t make bad decisions in winter that affect your summer. Keep in mind that you are on the same team, and you win and lose together.
The foundation is that which everything else is built on. Marriages can be built on many things like attraction, common interests, or shared goals. But the best foundation is friendship.
Sometimes, married life can get so busy and life so complex that we forget to invest into the
friendship that marriage is built around.
Have you noticed almost all romance movies and love songs are about when a couple first
falls in love? Boy meets girl. Why? We love the romance and emotions of falling in love.
But here’s what we don’t seem to celebrate as a culture – staying in love.
How often we stop doing the things we did when we were dating. We become complacent. Sometimes we unintentionally take our spouse for granted.
What if we acted with the same romance and creativity as when we were dating?
Marriage is a building project. It never finishes. It requires a continual investment. And
whatever you build, you live in.
But many couples only spend 4 minutes in quality time alone each day. Is 4 minutes a day
enough to build a healthy marriage?
What makes a healthy marriage? Is it luck of the draw? Is it compatibility? The reality is that healthy marriages aren't randomly stumbled upon, nor are they created at a wedding, they are BUILT.
Never look for answers outside of your marriage that should be found within. The answer is in your marriage. Sexually. Emotionally. Relationally
Of course, you should get answers outside your marriage in terms of counselling and help.
The context and point here is that we don’t think cheating is the answer if we have unfulfilled needs.
Many couples feel like they are not living up to what is an unrealistic expectation of what
marriage is. The reality is, no marriage is perfect.
Perfection is not the goal – health is.