Button Downs And Basketball Shorts: Recent Episodes
Jeff Miller & Tatsu Fushimi
Bucking the fear based narrative, Jeff and Tatsu explore topics in a fun and unique way in service of personal growth.
We discuss the importance of building relationships and shifting from surface level to intentional deep meaningful relationships. Quality relationships provide access to limitless possibilities.
Not knowing the importance of building quality relationships early on
Lots of surface level relationships during childhood
Kids streaming programs today are shifting their mindset
Entrepreneurship more accepted today requiring collaboration
Correlation between building yourself and building relationships
Doing business with people we like and trust
Fears around building relationships
Shifting from being outcome-focused to just pure connection
Innate desire for our authentic selves to be seen and heard
Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
Connect with Tatsu: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
We share our journeys toward an empowering relationship with network marketing and our discernment process.
Myths around network marketing and multi-level marketing businesses
Myth #1: Pyramid schemes
Myth #2: Early entry creates an unfair advantage
Myth #3: People in networking marketing sell and push to friends and family
Any short-term success is not worth the long-term headache
Keys to look for in any business: track record, company’s leadership, product line, limitations on income earning potential, people who you’ll work with, company vision, mentorship.
What are you leveraging your job, company, business for?
An abundance of possibility and opportunity is scary for many people
Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
Connect with Tatsu: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
We discuss cultivating a relationship with our bodies that integrate our entire being.
Body guilt and shame
Expectation vs. reality
Treating my body as a slave to my mind and ignoring its voice
Listening to our body
Being mindful about external factors affecting our body
Accepting the entirety of ourselves
How we feel about our body impacts how we show up in society
It starts inside out
Separating observation from interpretation about the observation
Using comparison as inspiration
Maintaining ownership and acceptance of your current state
Are you empowered with your internal dialogue?
Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
Connect with Tatsu: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
We discuss some myths, patterns, and stereotypes of family dynamics.
Lack of appreciation of time with family
Definition of family evolves
Blood is thicker than water?
When times are tough, who has your back?
Challenges with relationship to family
Seeing eachother as who we are innately vs. judging conditioned patterns
Cultivating the global human family
Family behavior starts with the parents, as kids learn from observing
The ripple effect
Noticing and being aware, then choosing
Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
Connect with Tatsu: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
We explore our relationship to self in the past and present.
Self-judgement and playing the externally driven game
How do we know what’s true for us?
Logic vs. intuition
Checking in with yourself for clarity
Balancing coherence between intuition and judgement
Deciding first on a direction in alignment with true self before the details
What’s next for your relationship to self?
Not being your true self is too much work.
Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
Connect with Tatsu: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
Where does doubt show up in your life and how do you relate to it?
Doubt is like a peephole into fear.
The iceberg metaphor.
Inserting curiosity between doubt and fear.
Doubt and fear can be healthy.
Relationship between results and doubt.
Never questioning things is dangerous.
Checking-in with yourself through curiosity.
The powerful impact of processing doubt.
Moving from doubt to trust.
Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
Connect with Tatsu: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
What excites us about travel? Are we traveling as a way to escape and numb, to grow, or maybe both? We explore perspectives of intention on travel.
Memorable trips.
How do we relate to travel?
Integrating the learnings from travel back into daily life.
Intentionally creating travel experiences with planning.
Gratitude before and while traveling.
Having a deeper intention to trips.
Connecting deeper with the locals as well as the people you’re traveling with.
Connecting with yourself while traveling.
Corporate culture and its relationship to travel.
Creating the travel mindset in daily life locally.
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Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
Connect with Tatsu: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
We discuss our purpose and role as life and business coaches. In addition, we explore our perspectives on the impact of coaching.
Valuable lessons from sports coaches from our past.
What coaching is to us now.
The way of being of “coach” is applicable everywhere.
The role of a life and business coach, different from other coaches.
Coaching isn’t about giving advice.
Coaching dealing with the subconscious.
Why we pursued coaching.
Holistic approach to personal growth.
The impact trickle down effect of coaching.
Coaching as access to a broader view of the game of life.
Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
Connect with Tatsu: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
The decision to quit something is often influenced by wanting to “fix” uncomfortable feelings immediately. Other times, the decision can be empowering in service of love and well-being.
A negative connotation to quitting.
Choosing an empowered perspective on what’s working and not working.
Approaching quitting with curiosity.
The feeling of quitting is a symptom of a need not being met.
Lots of accountability needed with commitments.
From quitting to pivoting.
Quitting is a habit.
Stopping something without integrity to a commitment. The “feel good trap.”
Immediate gratification can be detrimental to long-term goals.
Fulfillment on a commitment is sometimes greater than achieving the goal.
Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
Connect with Tatsu: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
We discuss our relationship to wins and losses since childhood and how it has shifted.
Being intentional about noticing wins.
Sharing wins with certain people.
Judging our wins.
When I win, someone else loses.
Experiencing losses more fully than wins.
Masking wins as humility.
Shifting our relationship to wins.
Sharing our wins gives permission to others to do the same.
Rhabdomyolysis.
Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
Connect with Tatsu: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
We explore our experiences with anger and sadness.
Reactionary vs. intentional release of emotions.
Anger is bad, sadness is weakness.
Are you more comfortable with anger or sadness?
Willingness to practice anger and sadness on purpose.
Awareness of emotions coming up.
What’s on the other side of expressing “forbidden” emotions?
Expressing emotions is well-being.
Lack of education around processing emotions.
Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
Connect with Tatsu: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
We explore how reinvention looks and feels, and why we do it.
Being stagnant or complacent leads to reinvention.
Reinvention is an empowering and thoughtful process.
Becoming the person you want to become.
Humans don’t like change or uncertainty.
Openness creates experiences and leads to more possibilities.
Clarity around who I am now vs. who I truly want to become.
Willingness to undertake the process of reinvention.
Improving things that are already good.
It’s ok to recreate who you want to be in this world.
Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching
Connect with Tatsu: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi