A Good Kind of Scary: Recent Episodes
Saoirse Rafferty
AGoodKindofScary explores the positive ways we can challenge our fears. Saoirse Rafferty has an MA in Creative Writing & a background in Journalism and Psychology. She chats about health and wellbeing, books, traveling & her blog: a goodkindofscary.com
On this week's podcast we celebrate 100 episodes by reflecting on the journey this podcast has been on since day 1. I enjoyed listening back over certain conversations that stuck with me and getting to share snippets of different guest speakers throughout this episode.
Listen in to get a good overview of what the podcast has become and how it's impacted my life.
Thanks to everyone who has supported the show!
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This episode chats about how you can get unstuck creatively, as well as emotionally, and how both are connected.
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This year I graduated with a 300 hour Breathwork training certificate. As part of this training, I carried out 24 case studies in conscious connected breathwork. In this episode I help you understand what to expect in a CCB session. I explain what conscious connected breathwork is and isn't.
I did my training with Pat Divilly on Journey The Breath
Watch this podcast video on YouTube with My 2025 Reading List (Most but not all are mentioned in this episode):
Manifesto On Never Giving Up Bernardine Evaristo/ Big magic by Elizabeth Gilbert/ Awareness by Anthony De Mello/ Untamed by Glennon Doyle/ Shadow work by Pat Divilly
Midnight library by Matt Haig/ Rewire Your Mindset Brian Keane/ Intermezzo by Sally Rooney /Geek Girl by Holly Smale/ The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenken's Reid
Sensitive by Jenn Granneman and Andre Solo/ Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini/ The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks/ When the body says no by Gabor Mate/ Bird by Bird Anne Lamott
Alex Harmosi $100M Offers/ Talk like Ted by Carmine Gallo/ The Creative Act by Rick Rubin /The body keeps the score by Bessel Van Der Kolk/ Katie Byron Loving what Is
Colleen Hoover Heart Bones & Colleen Hoover Verity / Steppenwolf by Hermann Hesse Journey to the heart By Melody Breathe / Robert Sheehan playing dead
The Secret History by Donna Tart / Gerry Hussey I am I can I will / In Writing-Hattie Crissel
Listen to find out more about my new online community space launching on January 1st!
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I recorded this episode in a wardrobe! I read out some of my blog post The gift of time – A Good Kind of Scary then chat about:
- Early mornings
- The need for rest
- Following your heart
- The nervous system
- Intentional decision making
On today's show I chat about endings and beginnings, and I also exploring ways to be mindful this Christmas
https://agoodkindofscary.com/2018/12/12/be-mindful-this-christmas/
This episode chats about overcoming fears, taking chances, and how/why I got into winter sea dipping. I read and reflect on this blog post I wrote 3 years ago: Stop Dipping Your Toes; Take The Leap – A Good Kind of Scary
In this episode, I read out my blog post 'Getting to know yourself': Getting to know yourself – A Good Kind of Scary
Then I chat about seasonal changes, hibernation, shadow work, and finding the balance between being social and taking time out in solitude.
On this week's episode I share tips for figuring out what is a priority to you in your life and how to build habits as well as priortise your time effectively. I also chat about being kinder to yourself along the way and how to live with an over-critical mind.
This week's episode is all about welcoming joy into your life and embracing it while it's here.
It's my brother's 3 year anniversary weekend, so today I'm reflecting back on my journey with grief up until this point.
On today's episode I chat about waiting around for the right time vs making now the right time. Other topics covered: grief, dating, dogsitting and more. Here is the blog post that inspired today's episode:
The choices we make – A Good Kind of Scary
How could you start to peal back layers to connect in deeper with yourself? On this episode I talk all about the importance of expression and the many ways we can express ourselves. I also share a bit about a 5-day breathwork retreat I was on recently and what I learnt.
Here is the blog post that I read out during the episode:
Energy in motion – A Good Kind of Scary
On today's podcast I read out a blog post I wrote all about why I don't like tracking certain things and how it can lead me to become obsessed and seeking more dopamine hits, taking me out of enjoying the moment. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this and how you can/can't relate. Message me on Instagram @agoodkindofscary
Here's the blog post that this episode is inspired off:
I don’t like tracking my steps – A Good Kind of Scary
On today's show I chat with Anna Flynn (@annaflynnlookwithin) all about art, creative expression & how our deepest wounds can become our medicine. Anna shares openly about how years of creative/emotional repression led to a breakdown, which inevitably pushed her onto the artistic path she lives today. Anna alchemized her pain through painting, writing, speaking up, and bringing communities together.
We talk about our upcoming creative day retreat 'The Artist's Date' on August 17th in the Burren! Read more here. Limited spaces available.
This podcast episode explores what it means to be authentic and questions if being self-aware is a big part of it.
This episode is really just me piecing together some ponderings that have been on my mind lately. I chat about writers' block, mindfulness, breathwork, 'who am I', losing ourselves in narratives, coming back to values, and so on. It's a bit of a meandering flow of thoughts. Vast and moving fast. Enjoy!
On today's episode of the podcast, I chat about all things Irish: why some people are interested in learning our native language whereas others aren't, why culture matters and what it means, my experience of attending a bunscoil in Armagh, the division between communities in the north, why I think Kneecap can be therapeutic for many. I also talk about the repressed emotions so many of us carry from our history of colonialism on this small island. I explain how tools like breathwork, somatic movement, and physical touch can be beneficial for these blocked emotions and shamed experiences.
Listen in to hear me web all of the above topics together (AND MORE!)
- Grá Mór
A big theme of today's episode is taking space to yourself away from the busy world. I recorded this episode a month ago. I explore what it was like spending the first two weeks of this year alone catsitting in Germany. I also chat about my experience of being forced into a blackout for a week after a storm hit Ireland at the end of January.
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Today's episode is a special one. I'm joined by someone who has helped me feel less alone during challenging times and who I am grateful to call a friend. Jess is a neuroscience coach & reiki practitioner with a love of creative expression. She talks about how her outlook on life has changed since losing her dad John. We delve deep into finding purpose during grief, the importance of self expression, and the challenges faced when you're on a 'self-development' journey. Jess chats about why sharing online feels different to what it used to be.
You can follow Jess at @jw.healing
Download her 'Thriving Through Change' Ebook here
On this episode, I read out a letter I wrote to the version of me at the start of 2024 filling them in on what's happened since. This was a new way to reflect on the year and was surprisingly therapeutic. Listen in for a vulnerable journal entry.
Best wishes to all of you in this coming year!
This episode explores how we can encourage/discourage behaviours and the reason why some people find it more challenging to stay motivated than others. I chat about the different ways our body keeps the score and why particular painful experiences can leave wounds. I also cover how attachment styles impact our romantic relationships. I'll share some helpful words of wisdom for staying motivated when developing new habits or making personal development changes!
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On this week's podcast episode, I explore the meaning of 'freedom'. What is the difference between individual freedom VS collective freedom? Are people more likely to fight for freedom when something has been taken from them? Is freedom something we have to fight for or is it all about letting go? Is it about chasing dreams or is it about detaching?
Listen in to hear more!
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Today's episode is all about the benefits of taking yourself on dates. I chat about the beauty of learning to spend time on your own and how to romanticize your daily life. I give suggestions for easing yourself into trying new things and doing things solo. Fear, discomfort and uncertainty are all a part of the process.
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On today's episode I talk about how consuming art can be helpful for:
-Healing painful experiences -Nurturing parts of yourself -Calming emotions
-Feeling less alone -Personal growth
I foucs on books, tv series, movies, music & other art forms. I share my personal experience of how art has helped me throughout life. I also reflect on why words can only help so much during difficult times.
Share your own experiences of healing through art with me @agoodkindofscary
Today I'm talking to James Lindsay all about his experience of being diagnosed as 'schizoaffective'. He explains more about his own experience of having a psychotic episode as well as what it was like recovering afterwards. James has a lovely way of looking at his painful experiences and explains how they have changed his life in a positive way. He is passionate about breaking mental health stigmas and he has also written a book 'Befriending my Brain'! We talk about how creativity can be healing but also the importance of having a balance in all areas of life.
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On today's episode I chat about the 'shadow self'. Many of us shame the unwanted parts of ourselves into the shadows. I discuss an activity I did at a workshop recently to explore and have fun with these neglected parts of who we are. Many of us are oblivious to our 'shadows', but once you become aware of them, you can start healing them through love, compassion and acceptance. Listen for more!
On this week's podcast, we confront imposter syndrome.
Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, your efforts are never 'enough'? Do you struggle to take credit or accept help? Then you might be familiar with the feeling of 'imposter syndrome'. There are five sub-categories which came as a surprise to me. I give a run down on each and chat about how I can relate to some.
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On today's episode, I welcome someone who gave me a lot of guidance when I won a free birth chart reading. Caitríona (@caitrionaastro) and I sat down to chat more about astrology and her own personal story. She works as a teacher during the day and a karmic astrologer in her free time. She is a nature-lover with a hiking page (@caitrionani_anluain) and also has an MA of Fine Arts in Creative Writing. We talk about what it’s like to choose an unconventional path in life, the stigmas linked to spirituality, and the fear that comes alongside sharing online & offline
Check out Caitríona's website: https://www.caitrionaastro.eu/
Message me at @agoodkindofscary with any feedback on today's show.
On today's episode, I welcome someone who gave me a lot of guidance when I won a free birth chart reading. Caitríona (@caitrionaastro) and I sat down to chat more about astrology and her own personal story. She works as a teacher during the day and a karmic astrologer in her free time. She is a nature-lover with a hiking page (@caitrionani_anluain) and also has an MA of Fine Arts in Creative Writing. We talk about what it’s like to choose an unconventional path in life, the stigmas linked to spirituality, and the fear that comes alongside sharing online & offline
Check out Caitríona's website: https://www.caitrionaastro.eu/
Message me at @agoodkindofscary with any feedback on today's show.
Today I chat about some of the harmful impacts of putting people on pedestals and how we can navigate this tendency. I have been becoming more aware recently of my own tendency to put particular people on pedestals and exploring where this emerged from. Here's a breakdown of some topics covered:
- Romanticizing partners
- Glorifying celebrities and politicians
- Putting high expectations on ourselves
- Separating who people are from what they do
- Figuring out what you value in people and in yourself
- Societal influence of how we view the world
If you enjoyed today's episode, you can support the show through buying a cup of coffee here. Never any pressure as you are already doing a lot by listening 🌻 Thank you!
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On this week's episode, I'm chatting with Orla Bredin. Orla is a cofounder of @anamyogaandmeditation. She is passionate about traveling and trying new things but also values where she comes from and the Irish culture. We chat about her love of being in nature and how healing this can be. Something else we kept coming back to was the power of the story we tell ourselves and how important it is to push past our limiting beliefs and just take the first step. I had the joy of going to school with Orla so we were like giddy teenagers again throughout this episode. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
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In this week's episode, I chat about how you can make your mornings more enjoyable. I delve into some habits I found useful for motivating me to wake earlier. I explain the benefits of waking up early and having space to yourself in the morning.
If you have any questions or feedback please message me @agoodkindofscary
Thank you for listening!
Welcome back! After a bit of time away from podcasting, I explore the difference between expressing from a place of creativity & authenticity vs sharing for validation and a need to fit in. I also talk about a range of random stuff in between.
Enjoy!
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In this week's episode, I talk about how meditating regularly has transformed my life. I give different examples of what meditation means to me and discuss the benefits of it. I compare what we believe meditation should be VS what it actually is.
Message me @agoodkindofscary with any feedback or quesitons around this topic.
If you enjoyed today's episode, you can support the show through buying a cup of coffee here.
Never any pressure as you are already contributing a lot by listening 🌻 Thank you!
This week's episode is all about being brave. I take a look at what many of us are raised to believe 'bravery' is and how some beliefs can be toxic/unhelpful. I explain my own personal defintion of bravery while examining others'. I also question if we ever really 'overcome' fears and I talk about why feeling nervous can be a good thing.
If you enjoyed today's episode, you can support the show through buying a cup of coffee here. No pressure as you are already doing a lot by listening 🌻 Thank you!
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In today's episode, we are talking about love. Not just romantic love, but how you can let yourself feel more love in your everyday life. Last weekend was super sunny and I find the Irish are great at soaking in the good weather when it's here - the shift in mood is very obvious and understandable! But I also discuss ways we can find more sunshine in our life without just relying on the weather. I also talk about birthdays (considering mine has just passed), my experience at the 'Where Is My Mind' live podcast, & the power of letting go.
If you enjoyed today's episode, you can support the show through buying a cup of coffee here. No pressure as you are already doing a lot by listening 🌻 Thank you!
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In today's episode, I am joined by Ciara Meere, the founder of SAOR. SAOR is a wellness community that creates a space for people to feel free within themselves. Ciara and I discuss anything and everything including:
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What it's like to create a new community
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The low points on the road to success and why it's important to speak about setbacks when trying new things
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Pushing past the need to be liked and learning to show up as your authentic self instead
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The benefits of sea swimming
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Setting boundaries as a people pleaser
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Overcoming the fear of failure by embracing risk-taking!
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The September SAOR weekend retreat that I'll be taking part in
Check out @saor_free to hear more from Ciara, upcoming saor events or to book onto the September retreat!
**Note: apologies that my sound system isn't up to scratch. My usual high quality microphone wasn't working, but you will be able to hear Ciara's lovely voice clearly! Promise it's worth sticking with.
In this episode, I share some challenges that have come up while adjusting back home to Ireland after living abroad and how I have faced them. I also chat about the pressure to be constantly living it up in this fast-paced yolo world & why it's okay to feel this and not follow what everyone else is doing. We may feel a need to be doing more with our lives than what we already are, but sometimes just being here is enough.
If you enjoyed today's episode, you can support the show through buying a cup of coffee here. Never any pressure as you are already doing a lot by listening 🌻 Thank you!
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In this episode, I talk about crying.
Ever wonder why one friend cries easily and will openly share their problems, then another friend will never tell you what they are feeling let alone show it?
There's a bit of a social shame and awkwardness attached to crying, especially in situations that feel 'unsafe' like social gatherings. I chat about the benefits of crying, alongside how each of our individual upbringings can shape how comfortable this feels. I also delve into how discouraging men from crying can lead to internal struggles.
If you enjoyed today's episode, you can support the show through buying a cup of coffee here. Never any pressure as you are already doing a lot by listening 🌻 Thank you!
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Today's episode was a go with the flow Q&A. Topics Include:
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Is the obsession with needing to turn hobbies and interests into careers/business healthy
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Playing for the sake of playing VS always just doing and producing
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How I played as a child as well as joyful childhood memories/ambitions
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Taking pictures for showing off what you are doing VS capturing moments for the memories
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The year I won so many raffles I began to dread entering competitions
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Feeling like a little kid trying Muay Thai, but learning more about myself after the session
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Revelations I had in Thailand
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Times where I felt proud
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Using your pain to help others
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Lessons we can learn from the BFG
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Shibby the cat and his new girlfriend
If you enjoyed today's episode, you can support the show through buying a cup of coffee here. Never any pressure as you are already doing a lot by continuing to listen 🌻 Thank you!
In this episode, I delve into what being a 'teacher' means: the textbook definition of a teacher VS my definition of a teacher. The expectations placed on teachers in classrooms to be a superhuman parent and how there is always more than one teacher in every child's life.
I talk about how teaching has impacted my own life and how I believe you don't just have to work in a school to be a teacher.
Let me know your thoughts on this @agoodkindofscary
I recorded this week's episode over ONE YEAR ago when I was living at home in Ireland. I am currently living abroad & this episode reminded me of things I love about home.
The episode focuses on things I appreciate about Ireland and includes some ridiculous impersonations as well as anecdotes. If you want to listen to a casual chat about all things Irish, this one is for you.
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This week's episode is a visualization meditation I wrote to help you feel grounded and embrace gratitude in your life.
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This episode left me feeling like an insecure teenager all over again! I chat about what it was like being socially anxious as a teen in Ireland and why alcohol was a convenient normalized social crutch. I explore my relationship with alcohol: the rebellious teenage years, college nights, the bad hangovers, and how my relationship with alcohol has changed throughout the years. What was most difficult while recording this was sharing how much I used to isolate and criticize myself after a night of drinking.
Please let me know if you find this episode useful, helpful, or relatable.
Always open to feedback at @agoodkindofscary or email saoirserafferty@agoodkindofscary.com
Heads up: the episode, like many of my others, is personal and touches on topics like death, grief, and anxiety.
Social media is a tool used to share stories: stories of our personal lives, stories of the world around us, stories of what can benefit and harm us. What story is your social media sharing? Or do you use it to consume stories rather than create stories? And is the story you are portraying accurate to the life you are living?
In today's episode, I talk about how what we use social media for has changed in many ways and stayed the same in other ways. I explore the impact on our mental health. I chat about the power of visualisation meditation and taking time away from your phone, sharing why I never go on social media in the moring. I also discuss how social media has saved my life in many ways: how it can be used as a comfort when the world around you is bleak.
But why is it now becoming the responsibility of everyday humans to share the truth and can this be a good thing? The world is waking up to the corruption of governments and the horror of what's happening in Palestine because we are seeing footage on our social media.
Message me with any thoughts, ideas or comments on Instagram @agoodkindofscary
In this episode, I start off by reflecting on my upbringing and question if the way we are raised can influence our ability to spend time alone and travel. Further into the episode, I chat about why I like to solo travel, what I do and don't like doing when I travel & how I make it affordable. I also give some personal tips on what you can do to ease yourself into solo traveling if it's new to you.
As well as this, I speculate:
Are we attracted to people who have the traits we desire for ourselves?
Do we need to tick off a to-do list and see every part of a city to truly experience it?
I'd love to hear your opinions on this. Send me a message on Instagram @agoodkindofscary or email saoirserafferty@agoodkindofscary.com
Thank you for listening!
I am so excited to share today’s discussion with award-winning writer Kit De Waal. Kit shares what it was like growing up in Birmingham with an Irish mother and an African-Caribbean father, and the process of rewriting her story in a memoir. We discuss the struggles of being from a working-class background when pursuing a career as a writer and how a key component to wellbeing is having someone believe in you and your ambitions.
We chat about the multiple ways that stories can be told aside from writing and how snobbery to this is what prevents people from ever trying.
How do you find the persistence to keep going when there’s no guarantee of being published? Are you willing to start over, let go of a novel that isn’t working and try something new?
We talk about all of the above and more in today’s episode.
Check out her website & books here
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In this week's episode, I chat with Michael Pedersen about his memoir 'Boy Friends'. We discuss the importance of having close friendships in life and why he chose to write about this in his book. We also delve into how to find a balance between solitude & socialising, particularly when you are a writer. This conversation flowed in many directions so I hope you enjoy it!
Check out Michael's website here.
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Today’s episode is with spiritual coach, podcaster, and blogger MaryRose Shanahan. Mary Rose is passionate about bridging the gap between self-help and spirituality. She left a high-paying career & relationship to travel afar and connect more with herself. We chat about what it’s like to step outside your comfort zone, using your gut as a compass for where to go next, and how to figure out who you are outside of everyone around you.
(Also - happy 50th anniversary to the podcast!!)
Check out Mary's Instagram page @alignwithmaryrose_
In the first episode of 2024, I question the commercialised 'new year, new me' mentality. I chat about the benefits of slowing down VS speeding up, when we can find value from each and how they've both benefited me in my life. I also touch on how we can navigate when it's worth staying stilent VS speaking up.
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On this podcast, I reflect on five questions when looking back at 2023.
I focus on what I learnt, what you can take from it and how to navigate the below questions:
What were my most interesting moments and unique experiences?
What challenges did I face, professionally and personally? How did I grow from these?
What new skills did I develop/improve last year?
What have I learnt about myself, how I work, and what I need to be at my best?
What am I most proud of?
p.s. apologies for the few random dog barking disturbances
Listen to me chat away about all the books I read throughout 2023. The books I finished, the books I half-finished and the ones still sitting on my shelf. I delve deep into what I learnt about myself from reading.
Have a browse through my Goodreads account for the full list because it's too long to put here:
https://www.goodreads.com/review/list/37152334
On today's podcast, I chat about the 3 Cs that I believe are crucial for wellbeing:
Community, Cuddles & Connection.
(And of course, creativity too, but that's another day's episode)
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In this week's episode, I welcome addiction counsellor Justin Campbell. Justin played hurling with Galway for years so is passionate about the GAA. We chat about how the community can be an excellent safety net for a lot of people, but also how the binging/gambling culture can be detrimental for our mental wellbeing.
We explore different types of addiction, how we can become aware of addictive behavior & the impact on loved ones. Justin talks about how recovery can be an exciting time and we should celebrate the possibility of turning your life around. We brainstorm how we can improve as a society, particularly in normalizing talking about our mental health or just talking in general.
Book a session with Justin or contact him here: https://justincampbell.ie/
Read more about Movember & the 'Ahead of the Game' program here: https://aheadofthegame.movember.com/
This week is anti-bullying week. I chat with Chris Sherlock about his personal experience of being bullied, which led to him dropping out of school at thirteen. Chris now speaks openly about his story to help spread awareness. We talk about different forms of bullying, how we can spot it & ways we can help those around us. Throughout the conversation, Chris refers back to the importance of kindness in life.
Read more about Chris below:
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On this week's podcast, I'm sharing a visualization meditation I recorded to help you access your inner creative child. I take you along a journey to your personal safe space of joy.
This is part of my four-week course 'Writing for Wellbeing' (click the link below to sign up). I explain the reasoning behind including visualizations at the start of the podcast so skip ahead to 4.30 minutes if you want to get straight into the meditation!
Course website: Writing for Wellbeing Course
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It’s World Mental Health Day so I am sharing a conversation with a passionate mental health advocate — Daragh Fleming. Daragh is an award-winning blogger at 'thoughtstoobig' and a published writer. He writes to help people feel less alone in hopes of reducing the risk of suicide. We chat about his story but also how we can help ourselves and those around us when we’re having a bad day.
Daragh has published several books which we mention throughout the episode. You can find a list of them here. Lonely Boy is practically Daragh's personal journal where he documented his own challenges with depression, grief and what it means to be a man in Irish society.
You can follow him on Instagram @thoughts2big
In today’s episode, I share my story of how a medium approached me on a night out with messages from deceased loved ones. This happened at a time when I was manifesting in the midst of grief, wanting proof of an afterlife. This experience changed my beliefs & it’s one I was reluctant to podcast about, but hopefully you find the whole thing as fascinating as I did.
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This week's episode is all about what I've learnt from minding dogs and being single. I chat about the difference between experiencing things & people/pets VS owning things & people/pets (calling them yours). I also chat about my reaction after looking back on a vision board I made last year.
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It's suicide prevention month which means talking even more about mental health & wellbeing. In this episode I chat about my own personal experience in therapy & how it can be beneficial. But I also go into the stigmas around it in Irish society and around talking about it. Why is there still a shame around asking for help?
I know therapy is generally expensive but if you look around your local area there may be some free services available you don't know about! I found ones at a cancer support centre and a bereavement support group.
On this week's episode I talk with triathlete, motivational speaker & aspiring coach Josh Landmann. The trajectory of Josh's life shifted at 18 after he'd an accident in Ibiza & was left with a spinal chord injury. We talk about how to find a positive mindset through bad situations and where people find the strength to keep going. Alongside this, we discuss the language around stigmatized topics and how we can break stigmas. A main goal of Josh's is to encourage more people with any disability to get out and about, to train in public gyms and be open to having conversations with those around them.
Find more out about Josh & follow his journey on his instagram @joshlandmann
Today I discuss how questions can help us in many areas of our life: being open to learning and listening, connecting with others, breaking negative thinking patterns & refocusing your attention on what matters.
I provide a range of questions to journal on & explain how each can benefit your life.
If you found this helpful message me @agoodkindofscary or visit agoodkindofscary.com for more.
This episode is my most vulnerable and personal one yet — probably because my pain is a core focus of it. In the last few years, a lot of people in my life died: two of them were very young and meant the world to me. I chat about how my views of life and death have significantly changed, but also how I have learnt to hold myself and carry on after losing people I love, and how I have had to let myself be held by others when the pain was too much. I hope that listening to this can help you find your inner resilience to keep going when life feels hard. Creating art & helping others can be the most therapeutic form of coping with pain; I talk about the different people I met who turned to service during times of hardship to help them carry on.
In this week's episode, I share my experience in Bali and how I discovered far more about myself and life than what I initially expected!
Keep an eye out on @modernwomenbali where I'll be sharing my regular column 'Branch out in Bali' very soon.
What's Your version of 'normal'? In this episode I go deep into my own personal beliefs & what I am passionate about. I chat about how & why labels can feel very limiting to me : especially the label 'normal'.
The power of language continues to surprise me everyday as I catch myself using words that can dramatically change my mood & I notice when I am triggered by particular words that other people use.
Listen to this episode for more on mental health, the limitations of labels, how to set boundaries & what I feel it means to be selfish vs how to take care of yourself and set personal boundaries.
(Apologies if the sound quality isn't up to scratch: the downside of moving about while traveling!)
As always, send a message with any feedback at @agoodkindofscary on Instagram.
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This week's episode is one I will always hold close to my heart. I chat with Aoife Butler about the pain of losing a brother & how we can all find reasons to 'hold on' when life feels painful. We both share our personal struggles of learning to live a life without someone who has always been in it. Aoife lost her brother Matthew to suicide in 2016 and continues to honor him in her everyday life.
Aoife is a mental health nurse - someone who is very passionate about helping others & advocates the importance of kindness. We look at ways we can all be kinder to ourselves and delve into our imperfections. Aoife is this year's Sydney Rose of Tralee but believes there is no 'perfect person' or idealized rose on a stage. She is inspired to share this message as well as the importance of holding on when life is difficult because she never thought she would be standing on a stage as a Sydney Rose.
Listen to this episode to hear a very genuine, emotional & honest conversation.
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In this week's episode, I reminisce on my teenage years where I spent a lot of time at school and on the bus, looking forward to the next disco. I analyze the behavior that was considered the norm during this time and the challenges of learning to socialise in anti-social environments. I also touch on how being in anti-social settings can impact our ability to socialize as adults and heighten our insecurities. I chat a bit about the benefits of sea swimming, especially in regulating our stress levels.
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On this week's episode, I provide four steps you can take to move forward in an ideal direction that suits you.
Do you ever feel like you're running around in an endless loop with no clear direction in sight? Or do you feel stuck in a rut that there's no way out of? Maybe you are constantly moving forward and trying new things but unsure of the purpose. Or you're just bored!
This episode is for everyone and anyone. It will help you gain clarity into how to move forward & make a positive change in your life today. Just take a walk with me along these four simple steps!
Resources Discussed:
Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz
Matthew McConaughey Speech
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I had the most beautiful discussion with Lou, known for her community 'living and laughing with Lou' which she started with her adored Granny Nancy (who lived to 107 years). Lou talks about how she started this online community as a way to connect and stay close at a time when we were told to stay away. Lou documented her time with Granny Nancy during the covid pandemic, and what started as fun has led Lou to find her purpose — helping people known they are not alone and preparing them for the fragility of life.
We delve deep into the heartbreak of grief: something we are both very familiar with. This discussion was healing for me & I've no doubt it will be for all of you too. Lou has a warm presence and is so genuine in what she says.
Become a part of Lou's Facebook community here:
https://www.facebook.com/LIVINGANDLAUGHINGWITHLOU/
Follow her on Instagram @loucoghlan
Check out her website to read her book about her adored Granny Nancy or sign up to Lou's coacing services:
https://livingandlaughingwithlou.com/
Do you want to incorporate journaling into your daily routine? I provide some straightforward tips on how to do this as well as suggestions for getting into the creative flow and allowing yourself to have some fun while writing! I include a short visualization at the end of this episode to help spark your creative energy. There are many benefits of journaling and reasons why I love it (which I chat more about throughout this episode).
I have created an online course 'Writing for Wellbeing' & explain more on this. You can follow me at @agoodkindofscary or www.agoodkindofscary.com to keep updated on when you can sign up.
Emer Varley (@evpt2023) (@emervarley) is a close friend who is passionate about fitness and nutrition. We talk all things ranging from life in the UAE to building self-belief and healthy habits. We even reminisce on our teenage disco days when Emer’s social life would often suffer because of her dedication to taekwondo. Emer has always been one of the most confident people I know & we chat more about this throughout the episode.
Jo (@realsoberjo) tells her story about how she got fed up of the constant highs and lows in her life & why she became a life coach. She was always the party girl living a 'work hard, play hard' lifestyle until blackouts became a normality. We speak about the socially accepted drinking norms in society and how you can create fun environments without alcohol.
Jo is an inspiration to listen to. She is so honest and genuine in her words and intentions. You can check out her website and sign up for a discovery call if you're interested in working with her:
https://www.soberjo.com/
Ever had the Sunday blues? Maybe you are feeling a sense of dread about work tomorrow, spending more time worrying about what has to be done instead of doing anything. Or it's possible you are hungover from a wild Saturday night, overthinking your overdrinking. You could be living alone and feeling extra-lonely.
If this is you or if you just aren't feeling yourself, give this short episode a listen. I offer some words of comfort and advice based on my own experience.
In this episode, I'm chatting with lifestyle specialist (@eoindobbincatto) who helps people get strong, lean and confident without having to sacrifice their social life. Eoin explains how we can find the middle-ground between the extreme highs and lows in fitness & in life. We speak about why people are so quick to please others and to judge themselves. Eoin provides advice on how to be 'selflessly selfish' when setting boundaries in life. Then we spend a lot of time disecting the main theme of the podcast: why it's important to lean into fears. Eoin is refreshingly honest and personal throughout, willing to open-up about whatever.
Listen to Eoin's podcast 'The Eoin Dobbin Show' here.
In this episode, I chat with Marie Kelly about the heartwarming facilities provided at my local cancer support centre — Sláinte an Chláir. Marie is a therapist whom I have had the privilige of working with. We discuss the stigmas that are often linked to a health diagnosis and why it's so important to reach out for help. Marie provides practical tips for doing so and explains how humans are naturally social creatures seeking a sense of community. This is a discussion I recommend everyone listen to, especially if you or a family member/friend are coming to terms with a health diagnosis or undergoing treatment.
Find out more about Sláinte an Chláir:
https://web.facebook.com/clarecancersupport/?_rdc=1&_rdr
Donate to this wonderful cause:
https://www.idonate.ie/cause/clarecancersupport
In this week's episode, I talk about how you can bring more silence into your life; this could mean slowing down your mornings, being kinder to yourself and other people — especially by looking at the everyday language you use, or simply turning your phone off.
If you are an overworker or constant stresser, this one is for you. I delve into what I learnt from having to sit still on a silent retreat.
Read more on my blog:
https://agoodkindofscary.com/2023/04/30/bali-silent-retreat-what-i-learnt/
Books Discussed:
Jay Shetty 'Think Like A Monk'
Elizabeth Day 'How To Fail'
This week I'm joined by Bijal Shah. Bijal is a bibliotherapist, counsellor, author and poet. We chat about how books and journaling can be used as an effective form of therapy. Bijal explains why it's important to figure out your personal values so you can live a happier life. If you're after some reading tips or life advice, give this episode a listen.
More Information on Bijal:
She is the founder of Book Therapy, which offers individual, couples and group bibliotherapy, literary curation and personalised reading services. She also provides online bibliotherapy training and has trained mental health professionals, librarians, teachers and readers on using bibliotherapy through Book Therapy’s online Bibliotherapy, Literature and Mental Health course. Bijal has conducted bibliotherapy workshops for The United Nations, various corporate organisations and libraries in the UK and US. Bijal is also the co-host of the podcast, Raising A Reader & Storyteller, designed to help parents foster and develop a love of reading and storytelling in their children.
w: www.booktherapy.io
e: bijal@booktherapy.io
t: https://twitter.com/therapy_book
f: https://www.facebook.com/booktherapy1/
i: https://www.instagram.com/booktherapy.io/
t: https://www.tiktok.com/@booktherapy
Award-winning Irish novelist Donal Ryan speaks about why he writes and the range of emotions he encounters during the creative process. We discussed how sharing your art can be like revealing a part of your soul & why writers are so sensitive to criticism. Donal has published seven novels and is a professor of creative writing at the University of Limerick, yet still struggles to tell people he is a 'writer'.
This was an uplifting discussion that touched on a range of important topics. Donal also reads a sample of his latest novel 'The Queen of Dirt Island'.
In this week's episode I'm joined by women's coach & movement therapist — @alexandramariewild. Alex's job is helping women reconnect with their bodies through pleasure, play and movement. We discuss why pleasure is necessary for women, especially in a modern work-oriented society. Alex explains the difference between feminine vs masculine energy and how you can identify both in yourself. I hope this conversation inspires you to go easy on yourself and take time to get to know your body!
Find out more about Alex and signup to her coaching program here:
https://www.alexandramarieyoga.com/
In this episode, I talk about the pressure to be perfect in today's modern world and question our use of Instagram. Do we actually care about appearing perfect or are we just conforming to what everyone else seems to be doing?
I offer advice to make your life easier by asking you to take a look at your daily habits and what you focus your energy on. Doing this can help you discover what you care about by letting go of what you don’t.
Takeaway point: 'Imperfections' in our appearence is proof we are alive.
Resources Discussed:
Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey
This Is Going To Hurt by Adam Kay
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson
Roz Purcell's Podcast
Sinead Hegarty's Podcast: Judgement Episode
My Blog Post
This week I'm joined by a college friend — Jack Tighe. Our conversation flows in multiple directions ranging from our Top 16 on Bebo to angry auld fellas complaining about parking tickets on Facebook.
Jack speaks about his dedication to Muay Thai for years and the importance of belonging to a tribe. A main takeaway point: working with a group towards a goal can bring joy especially in fitness and sport.
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This week I'm joined by a college friend — Jack Tighe. Our conversation flows into multiple directions ranging from our Top 16 on Bebo to angry auld fellas complaining about parking tickets on Facebook.
Jack speaks about his dedication to Muay Thai during college and the importance of belonging to a tribe. A main takeaway point: working with a group towards a goal can bring joy, especially in sport and fitness.
Follow @agoodkindofscary for more.
Rejection. There is nothing pleasant about that feeling (and let's be honest, we all feel it).
This week's episode explores why rejection is so painful and how we can cope with that pain. But more importantly, I examine the fear of rejection and how we hold ourselves back from trying new things because of it.
Click play to hear 3 tips for overcoming your fear of rejection!
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Resources Discussed:
Jay Shetty Podcast
Experiments on Rejection
Awaken The Giant Within By Tony Robbins
This episode is inspired by my very brave brother, Rohan, who passed away in September 2022. He is the first guest I would have on the show if I could. I talk about our sibling relationship, his brain tumor diagnosis & how he and our family dealt with that. I include a short interview clip with Rohan at the end about his love of football. He will always be a role model for facing fears and handling challenges.
This week I’m joined by Robbie Cassidy (@themobilitytutor). Robbie is qualified in physiotherapy and runs an online business helping clients overcome long-term injuries. Follow his podcast ‘Rebalanced’ if you enjoyed today’s episode.
Episode Discussion points:
- Why do people only focus on the ‘quick fix’ physical aspect of pain but ignore the emotional side?
- How much do emotions and social experiences impact long-term injuries?
- Discovering your personal values and how they can affect every area of your life especially your wellbeing.
- Starting an online business: overcoming the fear of what others think.
- Navigating business on social media: influencers, imposter syndrome, authenticity vs relatability.
- The importance of allowing opinions to change and acknowledging others’ opinions.
- How to manage a fear of failure.
Episode Discussion Points:
- I provide a personal visual technique used to calm overthinking
- I discuss how you can use this technique when your mind is focused on the past VS when you are imagining the future
- Pat Divilly's Book: 'Fit Mind' and why it's worth checking out to help your mental health
- Toxic Positivity VS Acceptance
Resources:
- Pat Divilly's Book: https://www.patdivilly.com/fitmind
- Niall Breslin Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2CyjB6oxmOc8nsndBFCOVM?si=ad491e240f3c4a62
Points of Discussion
- My experience locked down in Hanoi during a pandemic.
- How panic can influence everyone in a social circle.
- Leaving a job: the anxiety and how to know when it's right for you.
- Why does it often take reaching desperation to make a change?
- Being broke when living away from home.
- Settling down in a foreign country VS backpacking around.
- Learning to go with the flow when travelling.
Episode Discussion Points:
- 3 pieces of advice related to career choice.
- Breaking stigmas associated with certain jobs / unemployment / not knowing what to do with yourself.
- Feeling pressured to find a socially acceptable job.
- When a job becomes your identity.
- Why do we praise a certain way of living?
- Why is there a drive to constantly consume?
- Do you need a college degree?
- Following what’s popular VS what feels right.
Resources:
Brave Way Meditations: https://www.thebraveway.co/
My Blog Post: https://agoodkindofscary.com/2022/07/15/welcome-to-the-real-world/
This week I'm joined by Ashley Healy — one of my closest friends.
Ashely has worked as a cabin crew member for over three years now. We discuss living a life of constant change and embracing the 'good kind of scary' when moving abroad.
Episode Discussion Points:
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Working as a cabin crew member on board and off board: what are the advantages and disadvantages.
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Can you establish a routine when you are constantly changing environments?
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Moving abroad: packing tips, advice on meeting people & overcoming nerves.
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Deciding to put yourself out there and try something new.
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Is there a pressure nowadays to travel more?
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Challenges of keeping in touch with loved ones when abroad.
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How our lives have changed since college.
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Personal fears: fears we have overcome and ones yet to tackle.
Episode Discussion Points:
- Why can awaiting health results cause more anxiety than the results?
- Googling symptoms & confirmation bias.
- My recent stressful experience after a health check.
- How can we get in sync with our bodies and trust our intuition?
- Why a diagnosis shouldn’t define your life.
- Can having too much information be a bad thing?
- Avoiding check-ups because of shame and fear.
Resources:
- Blog Post on health checks: https://agoodkindofscary.com/2022/08/25/do-you-have-a-translator/
- It’s a Sin (TV Series): https://www.channel4.com/programmes/its-a-sin
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5z61dy8QPotsxdE6leeb6i?si=84baa32d67754eb2 https://feeds.libsyn.com/448359/rss
Points of discussion:
- Should comedians joke about sensitive topics or can they take it 'too far'?
- How do we define 'too far'?
- The vulnerability of being an artist. What does 'artist' mean?
- Points in history when censorship was abused to dictate societies.
- Why laughing at our pain can be cathartic.
- Is excluding certain topics from comedy a form of ignorance?
- Examples of comedians who have received backlash.
- Does joking about sensitive topics increase awareness?
- Difference between laughing with people VS laughing at people.
- Belittling groups from a place of superiority: hate speech VS comedy.
- Taking jokes personally VS being personally ridiculed.
Resources:
- Kevin Harte & Seth Rogen Podcast Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3LAeIcSxDQYItdfj1JU8v6?si=3590343f044946f5
- Tommy Tiernan Backlash: https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/comic-refuses-to-drop-down-syndrome-jokes-26334735.html
- My Blog: https://agoodkindofscary.com
- https://www.theschooloflife.com/
- https://rupikaur.com/
Points of discussion:
- Should comedians joke about sensitive topics or can they take it 'too far'?
- How do we define 'too far'?
- The vulnerability of being an artist. What does 'artist' mean?
- Points in history when censorship was abused to dictate societies.
- Why laughing at our pain can be cathartic.
- Is excluding certain topics from comedy a form of ignorance?
- Examples of comedians who have received backlash.
- Does joking about sensitive topics increase awareness?
- Difference between laughing with people VS laughing at people.
- Belittling groups from a place of superiority: hate speech VS comedy.
- Taking jokes personally VS being personally ridiculed.
Resources:
- Kevin Harte & Seth Rogen Podcast Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3LAeIcSxDQYItdfj1JU8v6?si=3590343f044946f5
- Tommy Tiernan Backlash: https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/comic-refuses-to-drop-down-syndrome-jokes-26334735.html
- My Blog: https://agoodkindofscary.com
- https://www.theschooloflife.com/
- https://rupikaur.com/
Points of discussion:
- One of my biggest fears (public speaking) and how I grew more confident in my abilities.
- Physical changes when feeling nervous: reddening, stuttering, heart racing & why they are normal.
- Secondary school: ducking the head down during readings, running to the toilet & avoiding speaking out.
- Cultural differences with vocalizing opinions.
- Liking the sound of your voice vs Expressing an opinion.
- Studying at university in Ireland vs Studying in America.
- Are children overly praised nowadays and is it a good thing?
- Have we normalized using alcohol as a social crutch / confidence booster?
- What teaching high school students taught me about public speaking.
Resources:
https://agoodkindofscary.com/2022/07/19/holding-a-microphone/
Episode Discussion Points:
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The culture shock that comes with moving abroad (less talked about elements of travel)
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3 Advantages of Solo traveling (which can be applied to traveling in general)
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Is 'finding yourself' as easy as hopping on a plane?
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Personal stories from studying abroad in America & teaching English in Vietnam
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Advice on how to meet people when abroad
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Why is it important to speak to people from other cultures?
Resources Discussed:
'Deep Roots Podcast' by Damien Browne: https://damianbrowne.com/podcast/
Animal Sitting Website: trustedhousesitters.com
TEFL Internship Course: https://www.i-to-i.com/teaching-internships/
My Blog: https://agoodkindofscary.com/
Episode Discussion Points:
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What is 'the fear' in relation to drinking alcohol?
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Stigma of being 'Irish' linked to partying
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Personal anecdotes from nights out and having 'the fear'
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How to cope with overthinking: moving from inside your head --> outside world
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What could getting 'the fear' regularly be telling you?
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Why do we feel guilt and regret? Acknowledging feelings + learning from them without letting them consume U
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Finding alternative ways to have fun + be social
Resources Discussed:
'The Blindboy Podcast' Episode on class structure: https://open.spotify.com/episode/45TfMyvvXBKyHlhdOJZ7a3?si=ab5fc531ec184e93
Pat Divilly 'Fit Mind' book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Fit-Mind-change-soundtrack-greatness/dp/071719132X
My Blog: https://agoodkindofscary.com/
Episode Discussion Points:
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Being a spoilt brat at Christmas & the expectations with gifts
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Comparing your life to other people's over the holidays: Instagram VS Reality
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How the drastic change of our lifestyle at XMAS can impact our emotions
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Being open to breaking traditions & trying new things
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Keeping in touch with loved ones throughout the year instead of meeting for one day
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When the dinner table is missing people you normally spend christmas with & how to cope
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How to make the most of living abroad over the holidays instead of focusing on homesickness
Resources Discussed:
My Blog: https://agoodkindofscary.com/
Episode Discussion Points:
- Benefits of being grateful everyday, especially when life feels really difficult.
- How using a gratitude journal for a year changed my perspective on life and helped time slow down.
- Why sharing compliments/words of appreciation works both ways and improves relationships (WHEN IT'S GENUINE!)
- Is it okay to allow yourself to fully accept compliments/rewards and say 'thank you'?
- Being aware of the 'five love languages' in your relationships and how this will help you become more grateful.
- Why we shouldn't be comparing our life to others when practicing gratitude.
- The ways practicing gratitude could benefit today's modern society.
- Simple exercises to practise gratitude and self love.
Resources Discussed:
- My Blog Post: https://wordpress.com/view/agoodkindofscary.com
- 'About Time': https://g.co/kgs/8pcLZk
- Five Love Languages (Click to discover yours): https://5lovelanguages.com/
Recommendation
- Listen to this podcast of Sinead Hegarty chatting with Conor Creighton about self love: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HVupDBFvgic
Episode Discussion Points:
- Why are male suicide rates in the UK and Ireland considerably higher than women?
- Does the language we use in our culture impact people’s ability to open up?
- How can we respond to friends approaching us when feeling down? Or can we?
- The positive influence of letting your loved ones know you are thinking of them.
- Gender expectations placed on men and women from a young age.
- Why do certain people wait till they have a breakdown before they reach out?
- Are memes, tagged posts, likes and comments our new form of communication?
FYI I am not a qualified therapist or psychologist, but I have a degree in psychological studies. This podcast episode is based on my own life experience and research.
Resources Discussed:
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- Happy Place Roman Kemp & Fearne Cotton Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2LbbN2N3hQy6qaFlrJtOVg?si=FT5iIo9eT7ymSdTHEL__Xw
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- Homo Deus: A History of Tomorrow by Yuval Noah Harari: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/31138556-homo-deus
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- How Not to Be A Boy: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34661984-how-not-to-be-a-boy
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- My Blog Post: https://wordpress.com/view/agoodkindofscary.com
Episode Discussion Points:
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How I used gratitude and hope during a year of uncertainty.
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Living in a state of anxiety vs living in the present: what's the difference and what are the benefits of both?
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Manifesting: what is it and does it work?
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Why we need to consider privilege when we talk about manifesting our dream life.
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Settling out of safety vs Waiting for what you deserve.
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Why do so many Irish people have a scarcity mindset?
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Tips on acting in line with your values and desires.
Resources Discussed:
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'Manifest' by Roxie Nafousi
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The Sinead Says Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/57jugHtKhXL6uynTKOdBNv?si=7389d67e2ac9411b
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Happy Place Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1J6Ddy4dcXjFZDmWQs3Pu0?si=43317b716fbc4df5
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The Blindboy Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7HinkS0WZqDuMXYh02EUY1?si=3453a27975f049fc
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My Blog Posts: https://agoodkindofscary.com/
Episode Discussion Points:
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Introduction to the podcast and the inspiration behind the name.
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How do we measure fear & challenge our individual perception of fear?
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Why do we need to be more vulnerable and allow discomfort?
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My personal fears and how I learnt to embrace them.
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My personal interests & why I started a blog.
Resources Discussed:
Brene Brown’s TedTalk: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?language=en
My Blog: https://agoodkindofscary.com/