Here to F*ck Spiders: Recent Episodes
Here to Fck Spiders
A podcast about sexual health, education and exploration. Hosted by two Aussie, queer, health professional gals. Join them for a chat about all things sex, pleasure, relationships and everything in between. This is a safe place for learning and laughs with these endearing larrikins. Find them @heretofckspiderspodcast on instagram or send an email to heretofckspiders@gmail.com.
This episode is the final episode in our Boundaries series! This episode focuses on troubleshooting our boundary setting experiences, from receiving boundaries to navigating negative responses to our boundaries. We do a deep dive on gaslighting and logical fallacies, exploring how to fight fairly and manage intense emotions. If you would like to contact Alysha and Hannah to ask questions or suggest future topics please find them on Instagram @heretofckspiderspodcast or via email at heretofckspiders@gmail.com.
Helpful resources:
An illustrated book of Loaded Language by Ali Almossawi
An illustrated book of Bad Arguments by Ali Almossawi
If this episode has brought up any concerns for you or you would like further support and information, please contact your local health professionals or use the below crisis numbers:
Lifeline
13 11 14
www.lifeline.org.au
Beyondblue
1300 224 636
www.beyondblue.org.au
Kids Helpline
1800 55 1800
www.kidshelpline.com.au
SANE Australia
1800 187 263
www.sane.org
Headspace
1800 650 890
www.headspace.org.au
Suicide Call Back Service
1300 659 467
www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au
Emergency Services
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This episode is the third in our Boundaries series. In this episode we discuss why some of the reasons why setting boundaries can be challenging in different contexts and relationships, in particular we examine families, the digital age and managing social media. We also touch on the collision of core values and our boundaries and the challenges that can arise from this. We will unpack this further in our fourth and final episode in our boundaries series coming up next.
If you would like to contact Alysha and Hannah to ask questions or suggest future topics please find them on Instagram @heretofckspiderspodcast or via email at heretofckspiders@gmail.com.
Helpful resources:
To be updated.
If this episode has brought up any concerns for you or you would like further support and information, please contact your local health professionals or use the below crisis numbers:
Lifeline
13 11 14
www.lifeline.org.au
Beyondblue
1300 224 636
www.beyondblue.org.au
Kids Helpline
1800 55 1800
www.kidshelpline.com.au
SANE Australia
1800 187 263
www.sane.org
Headspace
1800 650 890
www.headspace.org.au
Suicide Call Back Service
1300 659 467
www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au
Emergency Services
000
This episode is the second in our Boundaries series. In this episode we discuss why some of the reasons why setting boundaries can be challenging in different contexts and relationships, in particular we examine romantic relationships, sexual relationships, friendships and workplaces. Following episodes will focus on boundaries within families and exploring the effects of the digital age on our boundaries. We will also discuss what can happen when our boundaries and values collide as well as some boundary setting troubleshooting.
If you would like to contact Alysha and Hannah to ask questions or suggest future topics please find them on Instagram @heretofckspiderspodcast or via email at heretofckspiders@gmail.com.
Helpful resources:
Fairwork website for information regarding workers rights - https://www.fairwork.gov.au/employment-conditions/hours-of-work-breaks-and-rosters/hours-of-work
ABC article re: The workers right to disconnect - https://www.abc.net.au/news/2021-04-06/right-to-disconnect-gives-workers-their-lives-back/100040424
Love languages quiz and information
https://5lovelanguages.com/
https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1059295/what-are-the-5-love-languages/
Boundary setting within romantic/domestic relationships -
https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSRM7cb9U/?k=1
https://www.fairplaylife.com/the-cards
Statitics/studies discussed:
To come
If this episode has brought up any concerns for you or you would like further support and information, please contact your local health professionals or use the below crisis numbers:
Lifeline
13 11 14
www.lifeline.org.au
Beyondblue
1300 224 636
www.beyondblue.org.au
Kids Helpline
1800 55 1800
www.kidshelpline.com.au
SANE Australia
1800 187 263
www.sane.org
Headspace
1800 650 890
www.headspace.org.au
Suicide Call Back Service
1300 659 467
www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au
Emergency Services
000
This episode is the first in our Boundaries series, which was created by popular demand to answer some of the many listener questions surrounding boundaries. In this episode we discuss what boundaries are, the benefits, different boundary setting styles and some general tips. Following episodes will include a deep dive on setting boundaries across different types of relationships, common challenges and how we can navigate these.
If you would like to contact Alysha and Hannah to ask questions or suggest future topics please find them on Instagram @heretofckspiderspodcast or via email at heretofckspiders@gmail.com.
Helpful resources:
Atlas of the Heart Book by Brene Brown - https://brenebrown.com/book/atlas-of-the-heart/
Untamed Book by Glennon Doyle - https://www.booktopia.com.au/untamed-glennon-doyle/book/9781785043352.html?source=pla&gclid=Cj0KCQjwxb2XBhDBARIsAOjDZ36V4_dcUN5KuwkvJzrsVmScVb1CKlIkjKO4A9VZUCZr7z_Q_LEq8VIaAtm4EALw_wcB
If this episode has brought up any concerns for you or you would like further support and information, please contact your local health professionals or use the below crisis numbers:
Lifeline
13 11 14
www.lifeline.org.au
Beyondblue
1300 224 636
www.beyondblue.org.au
Kids Helpline
1800 55 1800
www.kidshelpline.com.au
SANE Australia
1800 187 263
www.sane.org
Headspace
1800 650 890
www.headspace.org.au
Suicide Call Back Service
1300 659 467
www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au
Emergency Services
000
TW: Frequent reference to rape and sexual assault occurring throughout the episode.
This episode is the final installment of the consent series in which our co-hosts Alysha and Hannah explore consent in the light of the information discussed in the previous consent episodes and how we can practically apply this information on a day to day basis.
If you would like to contact Alysha and Hannah to ask questions or suggest future topics please find them on Instagram @heretofckspiderspodcast or via email at heretofckspiders@gmail.com.
Useful resources discussed in the show:
Operation vest and SARO
https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/hack/operation-vest-launched-to-deal-with-consent-allegations/13272276?fbclid=IwAR3FiiHjgplXL8KwkeWAAtVT_crPGeKlWA3xE7RWI4edm2R9NcbdhfhrSqI
FRIES acronym for consent
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/relationships/sexual-consent
Tea and Consent video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZwvrxVavnQ
Sexual Assault Clinics in your area can be found using the link below:
https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/sexual-assault-and-rape#helplines
If this episode has brought up any concerns for you or you would like further support and information, please contact your local health professionals or use the below crisis numbers:
Lifeline
13 11 14
www.lifeline.org.au
Beyondblue
1300 224 636
www.beyondblue.org.au
Kids Helpline
1800 55 1800
www.kidshelpline.com.au
SANE Australia
1800 187 263
www.sane.org
Headspace
1800 650 890
www.headspace.org.au
Suicide Call Back Service
1300 659 467
www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au
Emergency Services
000
TW: frequent reference to rape and sexual assault occurring throughout this episode
This episode is a continuation of the consent series, in which our co-hosts Alysha and Hannah discuss consent in the current context. This episode explores current laws around consent and coercion in Australia; some of the impacts of rape culture and the way it influences cultural beliefs and myths about consent.
If you would like to contact Alysha and Hannah to ask questions or suggest future topics please find them on Instagram @heretofckspiderspodcast or via email at heretofckspiders@gmail.com.
Useful resources:
Podcasts:
Sex & Consent Podcast by Dr Mardi Wilson & Lizzy Keen - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-consent/id1611951851
There's No Place Like Home by Future Women podcast, hosted by Tarang Chawla - https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/theres-no-place-like-home-by-future-women/id1608086343
The Trap Podcast by Victorian Womens Trust, hosted by Jess Hill - https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-trap/id1560577414
Books:
Eggshell Skull by Bri Lee- https://www.booktopia.com.au/eggshell-skull-bri-lee/book/9781760295776.html
Docu-series/Media:
See What You Made Me Do - SBS - https://www.sbs.com.au/ondemand/program/see-what-you-made-me-do
You Can't Ask That - Domestic Violence - ABC - https://iview.abc.net.au/show/you-can-t-ask-that/series/4/video/LE1817H001S00
Daniel Sloss "X" on HBO - https://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/entertainment/celebrity/scots-comedian-daniel-sloss-shares-23688472
Articles/Webpages for further information re:
Hannah Clarke
https://www.sbs.com.au/topics/voices/relationships/article/2021/04/27/coercive-control-legislation-could-have-saved-hannahs-life-sue-and-lloyd-clarke
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-03-21/qld-hannah-clarke-children-inquest-death-domestic-violence/100913608
Statistics re sexual and physical violence in Australia
https://www.aihw.gov.au/reports/domestic-violence/family-domestic-sexual-violence-australia-2019/contents/summary
If this episode has brought up any concerns for you or you would like further support and information, please contact your local health professionals or use the below crisis numbers:
Lifeline
13 11 14
www.lifeline.org.au
Beyondblue
1300 224 636
www.beyondblue.org.au
Kids Helpline
1800 55 1800
www.kidshelpline.com.au
SANE Australia
1800 187 263
www.sane.org
Headspace
1800 650 890
www.headspace.org.au
Suicide Call Back Service
1300 659 467
www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au
Emergency Services
000
Trigger Warning: Frequent reference to rape and sexual assault occurs throughout this episode.
This episode introduces you to the history and context of consent in the western world and why it is so important to talk about today. This will be the first of a 3-4 part series focusing on consent. Throughout this series our co-hosts Alysha and Hannah will explore the history of consent, current consent laws and how to practically understand and use consent on an everyday basis. In this episode Alysha and Hannah do a deep dive on:
1.15: Exploring the question, why is consent important?
38.50: Consent laws through the ages, common myths around consent, sexual assault and rape and how this influences current laws and and cultural beliefs.
If you would like to contact Alysha and Hannah to ask questions or suggest future topics please find them on Instagram @heretofckspiderspodcast or via email at heretofckspiders@gmail.com.
If this episode has brought up any concerns for you or you would like further support and information, please contact your local health professionals or use the below crisis numbers:
Lifeline
13 11 14
www.lifeline.org.au
Beyondblue
1300 224 636
www.beyondblue.org.au
Kids Helpline
1800 55 1800
www.kidshelpline.com.au
SANE Australia
1800 187 263
www.sane.org
Headspace
1800 650 890
www.headspace.org.au
Suicide Call Back Service
1300 659 467
www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au
Emergency Services
000
References to come
Welcome to our first episode of Here to F*ck Spiders!
This episode introduces you to our co-hosts Alysha and Hannah, exploring experiences of sexual health education and providing a preview of topics which will be explored in future episodes. Thank you for listening, please remember to rate and review wherever you get your podcasts.
If you would like to contact Alysha and Hannah to ask questions or suggest future topics please find them on Instagram @heretofckspiderspodcast or via email at heretofckspiders@gmail.com.
If this episode has brought up any concerns for you or you would like further support or information, please contact your local health professionals or use the below crisis numbers:
Lifeline
13 11 14
www.lifeline.org.au
Beyondblue
1300 224 636
www.beyondblue.org.au
Kids Helpline
1800 55 1800
www.kidshelpline.com.au
SANE Australia
1800 187 263
www.sane.org
Headspace
1800 650 890
www.headspace.org.au
Suicide Call Back Service
1300 659 467
www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au
Emergency Services
000