Messy Action: Recent Episodes
Brooke Nolly
Welcome to Messy Action, the podcast. I'm your host, Brooke Nolly. If you're anything like me, your primary motivators are connection and freedom. You're a sensitive soul.
I care about you feeling less alone on your life & business journey. I care about you connecting with those who see, hear & understand you. I care about you dropping the shoulds and doing more of what feels aligned.
Nature is messy, yet beautiful. We are nature, it's time we embraced our messy nature so we can accept more, lean in and be who we were always meant to be.
I'm glad you're here, I'd love to hear from you.
Welcome to Season 3. This season is all about individuation, resourcing from within, feeling your emotions, cultivating interdependence and living out the life of your dreams, well and truly before you feel ready.
Find me over on Instagram @brookenolly
Head to brookenolly.com/shop for courses on money, relationships and self discovery
In this episode, Lisa and I deep dive on all things addiction, chaos and overcoming guilt and shame.
It's really about feeling like you're 'living free'.
Lisa is a retreat host (a successful one at that), a former PT, pilates instructor and women's health coach, specialising in our cyclical nature and living in sync with your own unique makeup.
Lisa shares vulnerably about withholding important info from family, overcoming shame and living in utmost integrity.
To get in touch with Lisa, follow her inspiring content or to enquire about her work or her next retreat, head to Instagram https://www.instagram.com/inher.flo/
Let us know how you found this episode! Lot's of wild shares in the name of self discovery đ©”đŠ
In this episode, Casie and I deep dive on my personal branding shoot, her evolution as a creative director and now photographer over the last decade, what it's like to collaborate with A-players and why creative fulfilment and trusting your staff is so important.
Casie and I have been working together for approx 8-9 months, first of all in my Messy Action Skool Community which led into 1:1 with me.
Casie wears a couple of hats, first up, her newest venture, Casie Jean - Brand Photographer & Creative Director. This is where you go if you wanna do a personal branding shoot similar to mine and have Casie's eye on your genius and business spark - https://www.casiejean.co.nz/
Second up being her design agency, with a decade plus of experience, Design Garage - think websites, logos, full brand identities. https://designgarage.co.nz/
You can find Casie over on socials https://www.instagram.com/casiejean___/ (that's two underscores)
and
https://www.instagram.com/designgarage/
Let me know how you found this podcast by sending me an email or DM on Instagram, you can find out more about Brooke's work at https://brookenolly.com/ but she hangs out on Instagram more - https://www.instagram.com/brookenolly/
I had a discovery call yesterday for our R&R retreat on Waiheke Island this Nov 3rd - 6th 2025 and I wanted to share her questions, objections and reservations. She signed up - wooo!
Maybe you can relate to her reservations so I wanted to make sure I addressed them here, so you've got even more clarity re making an informed buying decision.
Here's a wee snippet from the transcript: â
"I personally have been on many retreats where there's been someone that is clearly not a fit. And what I mean by not a fit is the rest of the group are in synergy and there is one or two people that haven't done the work or are not quite up to where the other folks are in business and life.
Not from a revenue point of view, but from an energy, self-responsibility 'have done the work' on themselves point of view. And when someone comes on retreat and they don't quite get that, it's punishing for others and as this guest said "one bad egg spoils it for everyone".
This retreat is about receiving and being generous but ultimately making sure that you look out for yourself and after yourself first and foremost.
Being completely sovereign and self-responsible, not looking for a leader or a guru leaving their ego at the door so their ego's not, 'look at me'.
'Look how much I know'.
'Look how I can help'.
Here's me giving you advice.
No one wants that when they come on my retreats. And anyone that does want that is not going to feel compelled or want to come on the kinds of retreats that I host, we don't do main character energy.
We don't do ego, we do care. Self-love, tuning into the energy, being respectful.
If you enjoyed this podcast and want to enquire about coming on retreat, we have 7 spots remaining and you can email me to book a call at brooke@brookenolly.com
This has to be my most honest and authentic episode to date. In this ep I talk about my fear of being a narcissist, codependent 'friend' clients, discounts, overgiving and the recipe for absolutely hating your business and what to do about it.
Are you dying to connect with like souled women who have the same values as you? That are on the same wave length? That have been in business for a while and don't want to 'pick your brain' aka drain your life force energy...
Of course you do! Listen for all the info on our upcoming Nov retreat at Kaitiaki Lodge on Waiheke Island New Zealand.
Earlybird saves you $500 USD until Friday, September 5th 2025.
Send me a dm on Instagram or email me at brooke@brookenolly.com to connect and see if it's a fit. Enjoy this episode
In this episode I dive into performative metrics and how no one cares what you have achieved but people care about your humanness. People wanna know if you're similar to them, whether they can relate to you, whether they can make their specific life and business dreams a reality too.
Accomplishments impress, vulnerability connects. Stop lookin' so polished and get messy.
You'll make more money and get more aligned clients, I promise.
Welcome to SEASON 2 of the Messy Action Podcast. After 31 episodes in Season 1 and a lot of personal transformation, I decided season 2 was due to arrive.
Coming to you from New York City - let me know what you think of this episode.
In this episode I dive into sales, my top 5 tips for generating more money in your business and the common misconceptions around how to actually sell and how to actually make money as a creative entrepreneur or coach that is specifically selling services and expertise.
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AI Generated Summary
In this episode of the Messy Action Podcast, Brooke discusses the essential aspects of sales for service-based businesses, addressing common misconceptions and emphasizing the importance of building connections and understanding one's niche. She provides actionable tips for effective selling and encourages listeners to embrace rejection as part of the sales process, ultimately aiming for a fulfilling and profitable business.
Takeaways
You don't have a business if you don't sell.
Sales is purely a volume game.
You are your niche; share your unique story.
Cultivating connections is key to sales success.
Women often feel they lack permission to invest in themselves.
Sales is not personal; it's about the transformation you provide.
Building know, like, and trust is essential for sales.
Rejection is part of the sales process; embrace it.
Put out a volume of niche content to attract clients.
Trust yourself to take messy action in your business.
Time Stamps
00:00 Introduction to Sales for Service-Based Businesses
02:47 Understanding Sales Misconceptions
05:51 The Importance of Niche and Volume in Sales
08:59 Building Connections and Cultivating Relationships
11:39 Top Tips for Effective Selling
19:48 Overcoming Rejection and Embracing Sales Opportunities
Book a call with Brooke - https://calendly.com/brookenolly/call
In this episode, Amie and I deep dive into her experience getting sober, her relationship with self loathing and personal blame, her daughters experience with "Lebron" and what recovery on all fronts looks like for both Amie and her daughter.
Amie and I worked together numerous times, she's done 1:1, Purposefully Powerful, Permission to UPGRADE and is now 2+ years sober and an active member in her local AA community.
It's been an honor to watch Amie evolve into a woman facilitating and transforming the lives of others - if her story resonates with you, feel free to reach out to her and mention this podcast. You can connect with Amie below:
https://www.company143.com/
https://www.instagram.com/company.143/
https://calendly.com/amie-yudice
In this episode, Michelle and I deep dive on all things creativity, authenticity, business, vanity metrics, brand identities, Instagram do's and don'ts and her journey working with me as a client and why she came back after our first stint working together in 2020. Michelle is a designer and a coach/mentor for creatives, you can check out her work and connect with her directly below:Website: https://www.mishkustudio.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mishku.studio/If you want to join Michelle and several other "swans" in our community of business building coaches and creatives - head to https://www.skool.com/brooke/aboutIf you enjoyed this episode, we'd love to hear your key takeaways, our DM's are open â„ïž
In this episode, Donna and I deep dive into all things lifestyle design, retreats, nervous system regulation, taking the leap, overcoming perfectionism, safe space, rushing women syndrome, overwhelm, inaction and living and cultivating life on your terms whilst being seen as who you actually are which can be scary.
I hosted our spring R&R retreat at SandhĂŁna this past weekend 8th - 10th Nov '24 and the space we set, the intentions we created and the conversation we had during this podcast really set the tone for an incredibly successful weekend. 7 women poured their all into it and Donna was an integral part, I am so grateful we got to bring this together.
Donna hosts seasonal retreats and private coaching - you can learn more about her services and follow her on social media below:
https://www.sandhana.co.nz/about
https://www.instagram.com/donnaoconnor_/
https://www.instagram.com/sandhanaretreat/
If you enjoyed this episode or felt it resonated, I'd love to hear from you, send me your insights via dm to:
https://www.instagram.com/brookenolly/
If you'd like to get visible, show up authentically online and make some money - join our Skool community for experts, coaches and conscious business owners at: https://www.skool.com/brooke/about
This is the second episode I've done with Amy Luttrell on the Messy Action Podcast.
Amy has just completed 12 months in the Members Club and her results are unfathomable. I am SO PROUD.
In this episode we did some deep dives into letting go in order to call in what you actually want, going from a $14k biz year in 2022 to making over $17k in May this year, spending $20k to move to Rarotonga with her young family, increasing prices, self worth, self love, self sabotage and the most IMPORTANT part... how she was able to make the kind of money she now makes and it's not what you've been led to believe, it starts with e and ends with s.
Link to our first episode together: https://brookenolly.com/20-grief-growth-easy-5k-weeks-with-amy-luttrell/
Get in touch about Members Club 2.0: hello@brookenolly.com
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In this episode I speak about moneeeeeeey and how leaning into money is how we make more of it. Avoidance has the opposite effect. I give tips on cleaning up your finances, getting out of debt & below is my overcoming financial anxiety masterclass, go and change your financial future with it!
Enjoy!
https://bit.ly/4b65FfE
In this episode I speak into giving yourself permission to have what you want.
What you want really is safe guidance. You have desires and dreams and curiosities for a reason, to move you in the direction you were always meant to go in.
You will never be as young as you are now, you will continue to get wiser; use those gifts, monetise them and create the life you have always wanted. Permission GRANTED!
Join our Messy Action Membership for online coaches wanting to monetise their offers, makes thousands of dollars and have more time freedom: https://www.skool.com/brooke/about
In this episode, I talk about my weight loss journey; how I did it, who I enlisted for support, what resistance I had around it, why it was so simple and what worked so you can do the same if your physical body is something you have felt disempowered by.
For the longest time I thought I was doing all the right things but I had never actually enlisted support from anyone that actually had what I wanted. The world of weightloss made my skin crawl and my eyes roll. I had an inherent belief system that "if all the other things haven't worked, why would this?".
I needed to adopt a zen mind, beginners mind and throw away everything I had been indoctrinated with around diet culture and restriction/scarcity.
Working with Justin changed my life because his entire approach is rooted in self love and abundance - on all fronts. There's absolutely no restriction, it's a decision to step into radiance, self love and a willingness to shift your beliefs and see things differently.
To watch Justin's free training, you can do so here: https://go.justinnault.com/training?el=brooke
If you have ANY questions or wanna share anything in regards to this episode, please do so in the Q&A feature.
Join our Messy Action Community for making thousands in your online coaching business here: https://www.skool.com/brooke/about
In this episode Alanna and I deep dive into her journey, one of addiction, overwhelm, chaos and pain that led into recovery, self love, service, support and contribution. Alanna and I connected in 2021 and she went through three of my signature programs, Purposefully Clear, Purposefully Connected and Purposefully Powerful. We speak into the road to sobriety, abstaining from alcohol, connection, peace, ease, chaos and everything in between. Alanna has built a life for herself that is highly admirable and I am in awe of her courage, strength and commitment to her path. When we met, Alanna was a very different person and it's so beautiful to witness her transformation as a woman, mother and loving human being.
You can check out an additional interview I did with Alanna here in 2021: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lxSzHm0QwTo
To connect with Alanna head over to her Instagram: @alannamay82
If you're feeling snowed under, suffering with addiction and feeling like you're ready to move into a more spacious and loving life for yourself, Alanna's dm's are open.
Bex is a personal trainer, nutrition expert & coach that helps women ditch the diets, balance their hormones, reclaim their energy, get strong & EAT MORE!
You wouldnât believe how many women under eat, I was guilty for years and wondered why my mental health suffered.Bex was one of my first group program clients in 2018 & shares how that experience was a catalyst for the life she leads now!
In this episode we deep dive into nutrition, sleep, protein, processed foods, what to avoid, what Bex eats in a day, the marketing nonsense to look out for and so much more!You can find Bex over on Instagram @âdoitdaily.coaching
Timestamps:
(01:25) The Start Of Bexâs Health & Self Discovery Journey
(03:40) The Impact of Nutrition and Mindset on Health
(05:26) The Journey to Better Health: Realizations and Changes
(07:48) Understanding Nutrition and Its Effects on Mental and Physical Health
(19:47) The Marketing Trap: Navigating Health Trends and Misinformation
(25:49) The Impact of Food Choices on Health
(27:47) Navigating Social Pressures and Personal Health Goals
(32:36) Breaking Down the Daily Diet
(37:20) Understanding the Menstrual Cycle and Its Effects on Diet
(40:53) Challenging the Hustle Culture and Embracing Holistic Health
(43:26) Debunking Health Myths and Embracing Authenticity
(48:15) Finding Balance: Yoga, Trauma, and Coming Home to Yourself
(49:14) How to Connect with Bex
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In this episode, Kory & I dive deep into customer journeys, the very real present pain of your best prospects, why thereâs a lot of average marketers out there and how it all boils down to one simple thing⊠hint hint, it has to do with understanding human emotion.
When people are looking to purchase something, theyâre hoping your offering will create a state change.
We all know the pain point to paradise piece of marketing, Kory dives even deeper with us on how to really convert your ideal clients where 80% of your revenue is generated by 20% of your customers.
Kory & I met in an entrepreneur group Baby Bathwater, I found his group workshop so valuable I had to invite him onto the podcast.Kory speaks so clearly & concisely - to me, Kory makes marketing fun, itâs all about solving very real problems with impactful brands, services and businesses.
You can get in touch with Kory via his website storyresponse.com
Timestamps:
00:25) Introducing Kory: A Marketing Maestro's Journey
(03:13) The Art of Emotional Connection in Marketing
(05:45) Crafting Your Core Conversion Story
(06:34) Translating Authenticity to Online Success
(13:26) The Power of Understanding Your Customer's Journey
(15:20) The Human Element
(19:09) Building Cohesion in Your Marketing Strategy
(22:08) The Foundation of Success
(23:09) Leveraging Words, Video, and Imagery Online
(24:15) Unlocking the Power of Emotional Marketing
(25:31) Exceptional Copywriting
(26:09) Personality Types and Marketing Genius
(28:08) Building a Team That Resonates with Your Vision
(29:03) Clarity, Growth, and Authenticity
(32:54) Finding Your Ideal Customer
(39:04) Making Meaningful Impact
(42:31) Navigating Client Relationships and Staying True to Your Values
(46:18) Embracing Messy Action: The Path to Clarity and Confidence
(49:35) Connecting with Kory
For more written and video content,
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In this episode I speak with Amy Luttrell, from Be Well. Amy is a life & business coach, mama, creative and member of The Messy Action Members Club.
In this conversation we chat about grief, loss, building businesses, creating high ticket offers, letting it be easy, calling in $5k weeks, being a mum, messy action and everything in between.
Amy shared what messy action means to her, âbeing myselfâ.
Thatâs been my entire intention with this movement, what does it feel like to be me?
The club exists for folks craving a safe space, aligned revenue & the authenticity and connection of good hearted, like minded humans.
If this episode inspired you and youâd like to see if youâre a fit for the club, reach out to Brooke.
Timestamps:
(00:31) Amyâs Journey: From Wellness to Motherhood and Entrepreneurship
(01:32) Discovering Authenticity and Purpose with Amy
(03:44) The Essence of Creativity and Connection in Business
(06:56) Joining the Messy Action Members Club: A Transformative Experience
(08:17) Navigating Lifeâs Challenges and Embracing Vulnerability
(11:03) The Power of Community and Intention in Business Growth
(16:20) Embracing Creativity and Space for Personal and Professional Fulfillment
(22:58) Amyâs Profound Journey Through Grief and Rediscovery
(27:07) Discovering Unshakable Confidence Through Grief
(28:05) The Power of Authenticity in Creative Work
(29:30) Navigating Identity and Authenticity in Everyday Life
(33:01) The Transformational Journey of the Messy Actions Membership Club
(35:49) Embracing Authenticity and Abundance in Business and Life
(39:30) Real-Life Transformations: From Business Growth to Dream Vacations
(44:52) Manifesting Abundance and Joy Through Intention and Practice
(46:44) The Essence of Messy Action: A Homecoming to Self
(47:48) Finding and Connecting with Amy
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Laura Warren is a nature buff, kind human & devoted soul. Lauraâs business, Live Wild, helps folks move outside of their comfort zones, move into their bodies & experience the felt sense of the world internally & externally through cold exposure & intrepid adventure. Laura is a qualified nutritionist & applies a holistic approach to her clients wellbeing.
Laura didnât choose the ice life, the ice life chose her. Throughout this episode itâs evident Laura followed the omens, signs & invitations that life was presenting her to build, create and sustain the successful business she now operates nationally and internationally.
At Messy Action weâre all about the alchemist path, following one omen at a time that eventually leads to an outcome you couldnât have imagined or predicted. Laura is living proof of that.
Laura and I chat about God, synchronicities, mental health, suicide, the cold, Wim Hof and what it feels like to lead a heart & soul led business.
Enjoy & let us know what you think.
Time stamps:
(01:33) Laura's Journey on Authenticity, Adventure, and Growth in Entrepreneurship
(13:07) Health and Happiness Through Simple Habits
(20:51) The Power of Transformative Health Programs
(28:54) The Taranaki Retreat Experience
(32:18) Breathwork, Personal Transformation, and Wim
(41:06) Building Competency and Completing Tasks
(49:21) Laura's Offerings and Connecting With Her
For more written and video content, visit: https://brookenolly.com/
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In this episode I speak about what it means to have client boundaries, what it means to implement those boundaries over and over again and what it feels like when we breach our own boundaries. We are a constant work in progress and it would be foolish to believe we're complete experts at boundary setting when it comes to matters of the heart, dealing with abandonment wounds, childhood trauma and codependence, many of the avenues we navigate in a coaching business and client dynamic. In 2018 and 2019 I refer to myself as a flattened cardboard box, not having many boundaries and being overly accessible to everyone.
If you're a coach this episode will be beneficial in helping you honour and come back to the initial terms you set within a container or with a specific person. If you haven't created client boundaries, now is the time to honour yourself and start. Repeat after me: "it is safe to be discerning and set boundaries", a statement I wish I had adhered to sooner.
Access to you is something you get to choose.
Timestamps:
(0:01:28) Why itâs important to have the right coaches and/or therapists to support and help you process
(0:02:11)The Messy Action Members Club and setting boundaries
(0:04:20) Consistency when reinforcing boundaries
(0:05:59) Taking on unaligned clients in the early stages of coaching
(0:07:08) Discernment and trusting your gut instincts when choosing clients
(0:09:42) Putting yourself first
(0:11:22)Self care and clear boundaries
(0:13:03) Fostering creativity through alone time
(0:14:48) The beauty of nature and gratitude
(0:15:29) Effective ways you can set boundaries with your clients
(0:17:58)How fear of rejection affects client boundaries
(0:18:37) Setting boundaries with love and clarity
In this episode I talk about how I have navigated difficult clients in the past, what process I personally go through and what I tend to remind my clients of in times of uncertainty (do I see this through or fire this client). As a life coach, we tend to lean toward the people pleaser when it comes to securing clients (especially in the build phase of our businesses) and this can often lead to saying a big yes to the wrong kinds of clients.
It's ok though, every client is showing you what you do and don't want - moving you closer to your ideal avatar.
What do we do when we know we've taken someone as far as they'll go?
How do we refund someone?
What is your zone of genius?
What kind of clients completely drain your energy and you're cringing getting on calls with them?
This episode is a permission slip to have those difficult conversations with clients that have been led to the water but continually refuse to drink.
Remember, you are a self responsible human and it's your job not to fall into those rescuer tendencies!
Enjoy!
Timestamps:
(0:01:00)Purposefully Clear: Improving health, wealth, and relationships
(0:02:06)Understanding your zone of genius and its importance in a successful coaching business
(0:04:01)Operating from a place of authenticity and alignment with one's zone of genius
(0:05:49)Letting go of the need to rescue clients
(0:08:14)Dealing with challenging clients and setting boundaries
(0:10:57)Coaching vs therapy and the importance of taking action
(0:12:44)The benefits of meditation and self-reflection
(0:14:58)Permission to let go of difficult clients
(0:15:34)Fine-tuning your ideal avatar through surrender and trust
(0:16:49)Recognizing clients who are committed to their own bullshit
(0:17:23)Permission to have difficult conversations with clients
(0:18:32)Being a catalyst for change in clients' ego
Lucie Dawson wears many hats, formerly a private chef to the ultra wealthy she is now the tech founder of Templa. Templa is an interactive vision board app, helping people dial in on their dream life, one entry and visualisation at a time. In this episode we talk about her experience cheffing on luxury yachts, creativity, plant medicine, her journey into the amazon, taking messy action and what makes us human.
https://www.templa.app/
You can download the app on iOS. Android is coming soon.
It's a true commitment to choose your dream life everyday, especially when there are tests, trials, tribulations and road blocks that make it seem all too hard.
Lucie and I met in LA, when we were both living in Venice Beach in 2022, we speak of meeting kindred spirits and how it really does lighten the load on the creative path to love.
Let us know what you think of the episode!
You can find Lucie on Instagram @luciedawson_ and templa.app
Enjoy.
Timestamps:
(00:03:11) Lucieâs Journey from Chef to Creative Entrepreneur
(00:08:00) Building Resilience through Self-reflection and Personal Growth
(00:11:23) Bridging the Gap Between Journaling and AI
(00:13:15) Lucieâs Healing and Transformation
(00:17:44) Exploring Ayahuasca and Personal Growth
(00:28:21) How Templa helps with self check ins and authenticity
(00:33:38) The importance of trust and alignment on the heroâs journey
(00:34:51) The Importance of Messy Action for Self-Actualization
(00:36:27) The Responsibility of Connectivity
(00:46:46) Fostering Deeper Connection
In this episode I have lost my voice. I raged a little too hard and it was because a few things got me wound up and I needed to let rip. For too long we have kept our true feelings and emotions bottled up inside of us and it leads to irrational behaviour, resentment and regret.
If we can allow ourselves to feel, heal, regulate and move through whatever is present, life is so much simpler, lighter and more manageable.
Here is the playlist I talked of in the episode.
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2ktia0KYcCTp2O8zzeGVxL?si=c608992fc3b4480c
If you're feeling brave and ready to take on what has been keeping you feeling out of control, go and let rip on those pillows.
As Ria said in our most recent 5-Day Business Challenge: "I did a lot of cushion crushing"
Reach out if there's anything you'd like to share about this experience đ
Timestamps:
(0:01:01) Importance of giving space to emotions and experiencing anger
(0:03:15) Personal experience with anger and reclaiming power
(0:04:45) Instructions for somatic rage release exercise
(0:07:57) Different emotions that may be experienced during release
(0:09:57) Letting go of shame and embracing the full range of emotions
(0:12:16) Instructions for setting up a somatic release session
(0:13:29) Create space for emotions and lean into the places that scare you
(0:14:02) Welcome the unwelcome and release emotional rage
In this episode I speak about why I am anti 'boss babe' culture and I am pro lifestyle alignment and living true to your values.
It is an absolute marketing frenzy out there, especially if you are in the coaching and personal development industry. People have a course for just about everything these days, so the question is how do we differentiate the good from the bs?
Post pandemic we're not available to be marketed to in unethical ways, we're not as interested in 'get like me' culture and we've moved into a healthy feminine energy of authenticity, rest, receptivity and flow. Hustle culture is pretty unappealing to the kinds of people I attract into my world.
They're here for connection, creativity, collaboration and building ethical, sustainable businesses rooted in the principals and values they hold true.
Many influencers I follow have built their businesses off the back of a MLM career and it shows. What do you think?
In this episode I speak on how I wracked up $26,500 in overdraft and credit card debt when I first started my business from not deciding soon enough on what I knew was inevitable, maybe you can relate...
I had so much fear about not knowing what was on the other side that instead of going all in, I self sabotaged and spent a lot of money I didn't have to re-learn the same lessons. Those lessons being, the fear will always be there, we must take the leap.
I touch on my journey at Revolut and the toxicity of working in fintech, my spiritual awakening, a weird situationship I had with an older man and how important it is to stand the fuck up for ourselves.
I cover a lot more but you'll have to listen to find out!
I was the queen of running away, til I ran straight into my own problems once more.
Enjoy!
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In this episode I get deep on the "I don't know" statement. As a 21st century species we have an issue with commitment. We experience the paradox of choice.
The key to manifesting is "I don't know if it's available to me but I'm gonna go for it and do it anyway"
Napoleon Hill talks about folks that are committed and those that are drifters. Don't be a drifter.
Don't:
Delay the inevitable
Say "maybe"
Say "I don't know"
Say "I'm not sure"
You are sure, if a knife was held to your throat, I'd say you'd know đ
What do you desire that you don't let yourself commit to?
Venus Williams says, "if you're not committed, you get anxiety. We get anxiety from not doing our best. Only you know if you're not doing your best."
You know what your best feels like. Your best can only occur if you commit, not drift.
Enjoy this episode.
Timestamps:
(0:02:04) The key to manifesting and getting what you want
(0:03:41) The fear of commitment and settling
(0:05:46) The importance of knowing what you deeply desire
(0:08:03) The alchemist's message of following omens and synchronicities
(0:10:33) The permission to change your mind and not settle
(0:12:05) The 3 most important aspects of life: where you live, who you surround yourself with, and your work
(0:13:43) Making a decision and committing to move towards a desired situation
(0:14:20) Having a focus is key to living a successful and nourishing life
(0:14:51) Write down your desired outcome and follow the signs to achieve it
(0:15:24) Stay committed and keep moving forward to ensure success
(0:16:02) Feel a deep sense of satisfaction when you do your best
Jessey McGuire is a life coach, podcaster and former school teacher that worked with me 1:1 for 16 weeks and is now in my annual entrepreneur membership: The Messy Action Members Club.
Whilst Jessey and I worked together he:
Went full time in his online coaching business and quit his teaching job.
Moved cities as he was living on his parents property in a cushy apartment and it wasn't serving the man he was becoming.
Traveled for 20 days solo around Europe, working from cafes and marveling down ancient streets.
Fired clients that weren't aligned with his values, his coaching style and the results he likes to get.
Upgraded the standards in his life and identified areas he was hiding from himself.
Made $9,500 in a week after setting a $10,000 intention.
Secured aligned clients paying higher prices with more integrity and skin in the game aka greater transformations.
Has settled into a business of service over self sacrifice and grinding.
We talk about
God, self love, boundaries, standards, how it doesn't need to be hard, resistance vs messy action, how we all require support and so much more.
To apply to join Messy Action Members Club, send Brooke a DM on Instagram @brookenolly
To apply for 1:1 coaching with Brooke, head to brookenolly.com and we'll be in touch to book a discovery call.
To get started with Brooke, head to brookenolly.com/workshops and find the best fit for your current situation.
To follow Jessey on IG head to: @jessey.mcguire
To listen to Jessey's podcast: By Design, Hosted by Jessey McGuire on your favourite platform.
Enjoy this episode, we loved creating it for you.
In this episode I speak about the employee mindset vs entrepreneur mindset, boundaries, values and the 'over giver'. I speak into how making money, attracting money and being a match for money is an energetics game more than it's an output game.
Employee mindset = output
Entrepreneur mindset = somatics/energy/magnetism
If you're a coach, online biz owner, creator or creative, you'll enjoy this episode.
Time stamps:
(0:00:18)The martyr and overgiver mindset in coaching
(0:01:39)Employee mindset vs entrepreneur mindset
(0:03:01)The negative consequences of overextending and overgiving
(0:05:01)Reciprocity and value exchange in business
(0:07:29)The need for boundaries and alignment in serving ideal clients
(0:09:01)Embodiment and solving problems for clients
(0:11:27) The concept of lifetime value of a customer (LTV)
(0:13:47)The negative impact of compromising values and diluting offers
(0:17:36)The role of ego and the importance of taking messy action
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In this episode I mention the 'famous' Marie Forleo quote: "everything is figure-outable" - meaning, if we lean in instead of lean out, the odds of us coming out on top, alleviating a lot of anxiety & being successful is pretty high.
You're gonna be scared as an entrepreneur. You're gonna be scared as a new business owner. You're gonna be afraid of looking stupid on camera, of hate on the internet, of people not listening to you, of people judging you, of your work being kind of shit. Well guess what? We're all scared, of COURSE you're gonna be scared. That's the epic part of business & life, you get to be scared whilst simultaneously doing the thing anyway.
I mention Brené Brown and the comfort I get from her messiness and willingness to do it all anyway, despite it feeling like a shit show at times.
Ask yourself right now: what do I need?
It's usually support or someone to say "you're a fu* bada and I know what you're made of" - we can't stay stuck for long when someone believes in us.
Time stamps:
0:01:02Facing challenges and taking action
0:03:10The solution to avoidance and inaction
0:04:50Leaning in and opting out
0:08:11Choosing ourselves and our values
0:10:10Overcoming fears and regrets
0:13:02The importance of a supportive community
0:15:07The desire for financial freedom and impact
0:17:47Changing our money mindset and beliefs
0:20:21Neutralising money and its flow
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In this episode I address toxic people, toxic traits, people pleasing and our rescuer tendencies that go unnoticed. We don't know what we don't know.
The Karpman Drama Triangle is a great tool to analyse our relationships and it's even greater when utilised (aka stepping outside of the triangle all together).
We've all got toxic family members, friends that are past their use by date and people that are not meant to be in our future, it's whether we keep putting up with it, letting it interrupt our peace or whether we trust in the God's that be that if we choose ourselves, it'll work out in our favour.
Things don't work when we're holding onto people that aren't a values fit for the version of ourselves we're becoming. I dive into this and more, enjoy!
Timestamps
0:01:38Drama and family dynamics
0:03:20Relationships as a âstruggleâ
0:04:34The impact of emotional starvation on relationships
0:05:52The effects of being parentified in childhood
0:07:11Strategies for letting go of toxic relationships
0:09:45Understanding avoidant attachment styles
0:11:47Choosing peace and trust in relationships
0:14:08Overcoming the belief of not being chosen
0:17:08The importance of choosing oneself and finding peace
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In this episode I speak of 'building your version of Rome' - essentially whose life are you living? Of course, Rome wasn't built in a day, the question is what are you actually building?
Are you building the wrong version of Rome?
"We live within parameters we've created for ourselves for lives we don't actually want."
What do you actually want?
Do you know how to sharpen your self trust and intuition?
Are you stuck in perfectionist inaction?
Do you know what's been blocking you?
You see, only you know when it's time to move on. Is it time?
I address these statements and more in this episode.
Books mentioned:
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents Lindsay C. Gibson
The Pivot Year - Brianna Wiest
The Messy Action Members Club is coming soon, stay tuned, swan đŠą
Timestamps:
0:01:20Your Dream Life Wonât Be Built In A Day
0:02:12Fine-Tuning Your Intuition Through Healthy Habits
0:03:11Being The Version of Yourself That Is Required
0:04:00Overcoming Perfectionist Inaction
0:04:57The Importance of Community And Support
0:05:32Going Toward What You Want Vs. Away From What You Donât Want
0:07:00The Importance of Finding Internal Validation
0:09:32Rejecting The Baby Boomer Way of Life And Building Your Version of âRomeâ
0:10:56The Spiral of Overwhelm, Indecision, and Doubt
0:14:42Family Dynamics And Breaking Down Walls
0:16:15Building Your Dream Life Through Journaling, Meditation, And Forgiveness
For more written and video content, visit: https://brookenolly.com/
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Sometimes, we've gotta take a chance on ourselves. Sometimes we don't know how something is gonna work but we know we have to do it regardless. If you're a coach/consultant and your primary income is from client work/coaching clients, this episode is a goody.
I'll share how I increased my revenue 350%+ in one day, why firing clients is always necessary for expansion and what to do when you're left with a decision that is seemingly financial but it's really coming from your soul.
Timestamps
(0:00:00) The Challenges of Being a Female Entrepreneur in New Zealand (tall poppy)
(0:01:51) Journey of Career Change: Reflections on Moving to Melbourne and Following the Omens
(0:03:41) Reflection on Cross Pollination and the Benefits of Joining a Co-Working Space
(0:05:48) The Benefits of Working at The Commons
(0:08:01) The Power of Choosing Courage Over Comfort
(0:12:45) Letting Go of a Client Who Was Not Aligned
(0:14:42) Refunding a Client: From A Coaches Perspective
(0:16:31) Setting Boundaries with Clients and Letting Go of Those Who Donât Align with Your Values
Interested in the 3-Day Lifestyle Design Workshop? Email hello@brookenolly.com & we'll get that to your inbox.
For more written and video content, visit: https://brookenolly.com/
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In this episode, I share exactly how I made $307k profit in a little over 6 years, tax free. I unknowingly applied the principals from the book The Game of Life and How to Play It by Florence Scovel Shinn which you can watch on YouTube or purchase the book here: https://amzn.to/422n70R
This episode highlights how when you're young, naive and have little to lose, you've in turn got everything to gain. All I knew was to have blind faith, trust the process and see what happens. I wasn't spiritual in March 2015 when I made this decision but I have always had a blind faith that things will always work out in my favour because from experience, they always do, even when I don't get what I thought I wanted ;)
Timestamps:
(0:01:59) Messy Action & Purchasing a Home in March of 2015
(0:03:42) How I Bought a House with the Odds Stacked Against Me
(0:06:18) Outwitting the Devil When It Feels Like It Wonât Work
(0:09:23) Manifesting Desires with Napoleon Hillâs Outwitting the Devil
(0:12:10) How I Used Intention and Resourcefulness to Create an Asset for My Future Self
(0:15:39) The Power of Self-Fulfilling Success
Interested in the 3-Day Lifestyle Design Workshop? Email hello@brookenolly.com & we'll get that to your inbox.
For more written and video content, visit: https://brookenolly.com/
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In this episode I talk about branding and why branding with soul is the most important part of your business, especially if you're a personal brand, coach, creative or creator.
For years, I was my brand, I could meet people on the street and they'd want to work with me. The universe plonked me in places and spaces where people needed me. I didn't really know how to translate that into an 'online brand', I share about this more in the episode.
I use examples of Sophia Amoruso, Barry's, Soul Cycle, Lululemon and many more to illustrate my point.
Brands are what we associate with. We judge people, businesses and purchase decisions based on our values and whether that brand aligns with them.
In short, this is a podcast about branding, values, and how elitist we all are in some shape or form.
Timestamps
(0:00:48) Successful Brands and Our Sense of Belonging
(0:05:19) Analysis of Successful Branding Strategies
(0:07:51) Exploring Creative Branding Strategies for Entrepreneurs
(0:11:57) The Power of Branding, Self-Discovery and The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
(0:14:04) Building a Personal Brand: Reflections on Taking Action and Connecting with Others
(0:18:34) The Swan Archetype: How to Create a Brand Around Your Unique Identity
(0:22:15) Exploring the Brand Identity of the âSwanâ Community: A Discussion on Freedom, Authentic Connection, and Leaving the World Better Than We Found It.
(0:24:21) The Values of Barryâs Boot Camp and SoulCycle Communities
(0:27:11) The âInfinity Loop of Self Destructionâ and How to Break Free
(0:29:06) The Impact of Lack of Support on Overwhelm and Anxiety
(0:30:35) Creating a Community of Women Who Want to Change the World
For more written and video content, visit: https://brookenolly.com/
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brookenolly/
In this episode I speak about my up and down journey when it comes to honesty, with both myself and others, when suicidal thoughts would hit for me (specifically not wanting to wake up and get on with my day), being 'voluntarily' creatively blocked and how that can affect our mission, business and overall sense of wellbeing.
Messy action is always the intention but what happens when the perceived blockers just feel way too big? Too insurmountable?
Our greatest gift is honesty, first with ourselves, and secondly, with others.
Timestamps
(0:00:00) Creativity, Honesty and Authenticity in the Face of Trauma
(0:02:15) Overcoming Creative Blocks and Exposing Abuse
(0:05:04) The Impact of EMDR Therapy on Trauma Processing
(0:07:34) A Journey of Self-Discovery and Messy Action
(0:15:45) The Desire for Family and Creative Expression
(0:17:58) Raw Truths: Exploring Creative Expression and Authenticity
Osho wrote a brilliant book if you want to be more self expressed. It's called intimacy. You can find it here: https://amzn.to/42fAquw
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Welcome to the Messy Action Podcast. This episode is an introduction, the tell all. You'll further understand why I created it, who it's for and how we're gonna take the world by storm with the 'swan' movement.
Messy Action requires courage, paired with blind faith, paired with the acceptance of being imperfect and a lil bit messy.
We serve the creatives, the female artists with an entrepreneurial spirit that require time freedom, financial freedom and location freedom to be free.
Authentic connection is a huge motivator for swans, they can't stand small talk, rules for the sake of rules and anything that feels like pressure and restriction.
Welcome to the community. I can't wait to hear what you think.
Timestamps
(0:00:00) Taking Imperfect Steps Toward Improving Health, Wealth and Relationships
(0:02:37) The Benefits of Giving Up Alcohol: A Conversation on Revolut Culture and Sobriety
(0:04:17) The Difference Between Ducks and Swans
(0:08:42) Learning to Encourage and Uplift Clients without Codependency
(0:11:09) The Power of Messy Action: Cultivating Healthy Habits for Clarity and Love
(0:16:13) Taking Messy Action Towards Greater Fulfilment
(0:18:46) The Power of Self-Love
(0:23:13) Exploring Optimal Presence
For more written and video content, visit: https://brookenolly.com/
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Tori & I worked together in both group coaching and 1:1. Tori has been through Purposefully Clear, Purposefully Connected and Purposefully Powerful - all 3 of my signature programs.
Tori is now a coach, entrepreneur and co-founder of The Expansive Space - "create your reality, expand your mind, understand yourself". In this episode we jam on all things childhood, blocks, what keeps us stuck, our next evolutions, connection, sisterhood, pleasure, somatic work and self care practices that keep the ego at bay.
We hope you enjoy this episode, share it with a friend or on your socials! You can connect with Tori on IG at @tori__nichols @theexpansivespace. You can connect with Brooke on IG @brookenolly @purposefullyclear
Brooke's signature course: purposefullyclear.com - listen to the end of the podcast for an added bonus.
In this episode, Lanz (@alannah.aiken) and I jam on anxiety, unfulfilling work, morning dread, aligned activities, meaningful connection, openness, self care and so much more. Lanz has completed all my programs, the first program being Purposefully Clear. You can find out more about this program at purposefullyclear.com or on my Instagram.
Lou and I worked together for over 12 months and she is now a support coach, soul sister and integral part of my business. Lou is living proof that you can transform your life IF you choose to. Check out this episode where we dive into all things leaving your spouse, your job, moving to a different city, discarding old belongings and truly letting go of the self you no longer identify with. If you enjoy this episode, send it to a friend!
What better way to start a podcast than with a wee story. In this episode I share a fair bit about me and how I got from 'there' to 'here' with many trials and tribulations along the way. My story is certainly unconventional and I'm sure there could have been an easier way, but here we are!
I created this podcast in the hopes you'll feel less alone and ALSO in the hopes that you'll never settle. You deserve a Purposefully Clear life and I'm here to remind you how.
Follow us over on @brookenolly and @purposefullyclear and let us know how you found it, I am obsessed with 'key takeaways'.
The book resources I talked about in this episode are: Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody & Atomic Habits by James Clear.
Another great video on codependence by Pia, is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tk3a8n1uB1w. If you liked this episode, please share it on your Instagram story and tag me! If you think someone could benefit from this, share it with them!
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