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Jennifer Delliquadri
The Raising Happy Teens podcast is for parents of teenagers who are looking for insight, inspiration, and connection. Each week life coach Jennifer Delliquadri shares stories, tips and advice to help you successfully guide your teen into adulthood... without losing your sanity in the process.
Are you tired of saying yes when you really want to say no? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with leadership coach Robynne Weaver to explore the hidden costs of people pleasing—and why so many women, especially in midlife, struggle with it.
Robynne shares her own journey from the high-pressure events industry to coaching, where she now helps women recognize when people pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency are leading to burnout, resentment, and self-abandonment. Together, we unpack why women are socially conditioned to put everyone else’s needs first, how “being nice” is different from true kindness, and why discomfort is the currency of growth.
You’ll learn:
- What people pleasing really is (and what it’s not).
- The surprising role control plays in the cycle.
- Why women in leadership roles set the tone for healthy boundaries at work.
- Simple, practical tools to stop overcommitting—like Robynne’s rule of “no immediate yeses.”
- How to shift from rescuing and overdoing into authentic, assertive communication.
If you’ve ever felt resentful after saying yes, worried about upsetting others, or stuck in the “good girl” role, this episode will give you the awareness and tools to start breaking free from the habit of people pleasing so you can reclaim your confidence, energy, and joy.
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Thinking about starting strength training but feeling intimidated? You’re not alone—and this episode will help you take the first step with confidence.
In this short and practical conversation, I'll share how women in midlife, especially during perimenopause and menopause, can begin strength training without overwhelm. You’ll learn:
- Why building muscle in midlife is crucial
- The mindset shift that makes starting less scary
- Beginner-friendly strength training exercises you can do at home
- How to use progressive overload to safely increase strength over time
- The importance of form, consistency, and celebrating non-scale or gym victories
- Resources and apps that make strength training simple and accessible
If you’ve avoided the weight room because you don’t feel strong enough, fit enough, or “young enough,” this episode will show you that the best time to start strength training is now. Whether you’re brand new or getting back into it after years away, these tips will help you build strength, protect your body, and feel more confident in your workouts and your life.
👉 Download my free 5-Day Strong Body Kickstart to get started today
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Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with your doctor or a qualified healthcare provider before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, or lifestyle, especially if you have underlying health conditions.
Struggling with stubborn midlife weight gain? I feel you, friend! Listen up, you don’t have to wait until the new year to feel strong, lean, and confident again. In this episode I share my proven 3T Method — the exact three things that helped me lose 15 pounds of perimenopause weight and keep it off for over a year.
You’ll learn:
- How to track calories and protein without obsessing, and why it’s the most important first step for sustainable weight loss.
- The strength training and smart movement routine I follow to reshape my body and boost energy (even during perimenopause).
- Why patience, consistency, and mindset shifts are the secret to lasting results — plus how to celebrate non-scale victories.
Whether you want to lose midlife weight, get stronger, or finally feel at home in your body again, this episode gives you practical strategies you can start today.
📥 FREE RESOURCE: Download my 5-Day Strong + Lean Kickstart to start tracking, training, and feeling better now — no waiting until January required.
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- Midlife, Mindset, & Fitness: How I Reclaimed My Health After Menopause
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I’m so excited to share a personal update with you in this episode. Over the last seven months, I’ve been in what I call “the goo” — that messy middle stage of transformation where everything feels unclear and you start questioning everything. After running Raising Happy Teens for three years and then rebranding to Subtle Shifts, I’ve been experimenting, pivoting, and figuring out what feels most aligned for me and the women I serve.
In this short but powerful episode, I open up about the breakthrough I recently had while working with my friend and coach, Lisette King, and how it’s completely clarified the direction of this podcast. I share:
✨ What “the goo” really looks like in life and business
✨ The mindset shifts I had to make to break through resistance
✨ My own midlife weight loss journey — how I lost 15 pounds, kept it off, and finally feel at home in my body again
✨ Why I’m passionate about helping women in perimenopause and menopause feel strong, healthy, and confident in their own skin
This episode is the start of a new chapter for the Subtle Shifts podcast. Going forward, you can expect conversations about midlife health, weight loss, strength, mindset, and how to feel like yourself again — inside and out.
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Midlife, Mindset, and Fitness: How I Reclaimed My Health After Menopause
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In this episode, I sit down with Alyssa Zander, a codependency and relationship coach and host of the Codependency Alchemy podcast, for an honest and empowering conversation about breaking free from codependency.
Alyssa shares how codependency showed up in her relationships, family dynamics, and even her business, and how she began healing through shadow work, inner child practices, and redefining self-worth from within. Together, we explore the deeper meaning of codependency, the connection to perfectionism and hyper-independence, and how generational patterns, like the mother wound, shape our beliefs about value, love, and belonging.
You’ll hear us talk about:
- A clear, practical definition of codependency and how it shows up in everyday life.
- Why independence can actually be a hidden sign of codependency.
- The role of shadow work and inner child healing in breaking cycles.
- How to recognize the influence of the mother wound without placing blame.
- Why healing isn’t about being “fixed” but about compassion and integration.
If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, over-functioning, or tying your worth to relationships, success, or external validation, this conversation will give you fresh insight and hope.
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If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the weight of the world—saying yes to everything, running on fumes, and wondering why self-care doesn’t seem to fix it—this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, I’m breaking down the hidden cost of doing it all and how over-functioning slowly drains your energy, impacts your relationships, and keeps you stuck in the stress-to-burnout cycle.
I’ll walk you through my 4-step RESET Method to help you:
- Recognize the difference between stress and burnout
- Uncover the mental load that’s silently draining you
- Identify which responsibilities give you energy vs. deplete you
- Set boundaries, delegate, and reclaim time for what truly matters
This isn’t about dropping every responsibility or abandoning your goals—it’s about making intentional shifts so you can prevent burnout, feel more present with your family, and finally stop running on empty.
Whether you’re a high-achieving mom, professional, or purpose-driven leader, this episode will give you tangible tools to create more calm, energy, and balance in your daily life.
👉 If you’re ready for a reset, book a 60-Minute Breakthrough Session with me, or explore my 1:1 Coaching Program for deeper transformation.
Back-to-school season can feel like hitting the ground running after a slow, easy summer. Suddenly, schedules are packed, paperwork piles up, and the pressure to “do it all” kicks in. If you find yourself overwhelmed by the transition, you’re not alone—and this episode will help.
In this conversation, I share:
- Why high achievers feel the brunt of back-to-school stress.
- The most common mistakes parents make in September (and how to avoid them).
- Six simple strategies to protect your time, lower stress, and keep your energy steady.
Whether you’re juggling work, school drop-offs, extracurriculars, or simply trying to stay grounded, this episode will help you create more balance and calm as you start the school year.
✨ Ready for extra support? Book a 60-Minute Breakthrough Session with me to clear the overwhelm and reclaim your time.
In this transformative episode, I’m joined by Goddess Brittney King, a renowned Pleasure Priestess, as she shares her journey from a life of people-pleasing and disconnection to one of deep embodiment, joy, and self-discovery.
Brittney opens up about the pivotal moments that sparked her personal awakening and how she discovered the healing and transformative power of pleasure. We dive into why pleasure is much more than a physical experience—it’s a practice of presence, self-connection, and a path to healing past trauma.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, disconnected from your body, or trapped by societal expectations, this episode is your invitation to reclaim your power, explore what truly brings you joy, and step fully into your purpose.
🎧 Listen now and learn how to:
- Reconnect with your body and your desires
- Shed societal expectations and people-pleasing habits
- Use pleasure as a tool for healing and empowerment
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Are you caught in a cycle of overthinking that’s keeping you stuck? You’re not alone—and this episode is your roadmap out.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the real reasons we overthink—from perfectionism and past trauma to people-pleasing and fear of making the wrong decision. You’ll learn the seven most common causes of overthinking, the different types of overthinking (like future-tripping, rumination, and creative looping), and how to tell which one you’re caught in.
Then I’ll walk you through 8 proven strategies to stop overthinking and shift into aligned action—so you can finally move forward with clarity and confidence. These tools are the same ones I use with my 1:1 coaching clients, and you can start using them today.
Whether you're a high-achieving perfectionist, a soulful seeker, or someone who spirals in decision-making, this episode will help you get unstuck.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What overthinking really is and why we do it
- 7 root causes of overthinking (including fear, trauma, and social conditioning)
- The 7 types of overthinking—and how to recognize your flavor
- 8 strategies to break the overthinking cycle and start taking action
- Why having a reflection partner or coach can fast-track your growth
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What if one simple exercise could help you reconnect with yourself, clarify what matters most, and make empowered shifts in every area of your life?
In today’s solo episode, I’m sharing one of my favorite tools from my coaching practice: the Wheel of Life. It’s a powerful yet approachable way to reflect on where you are right now, notice what’s working (and what’s not), and uncover what’s ready to shift—without judgment or overwhelm.
After coaching hundreds of clients through life transitions—parenting teens, navigating career pivots, rediscovering purpose, healing burnout—this is the tool I return to again and again. Not just because it’s insightful, but because it works. It helps people see the whole picture and realize how one area of life is often deeply connected to another.
💫 In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What the Wheel of Life is and how to use it
- How to spot which areas of life are draining you and which are energizing you
- Why improving just one slice of life often leads to big, beautiful shifts in others
- The patterns I’ve seen over and over again in my work with clients
- How to set goals that actually feel aligned, doable, and joyful
Whether you’re craving more balance, clarity, or momentum, this practice offers a grounded starting point—and an invitation to evolve with intention.
🌀 You’ll leave this episode with:
- A practical tool you can use again and again as you grow
- A fresh perspective on what’s possible
- A reminder that you don’t have to figure it all out alone
If you’re ready to take what you discover and turn it into aligned action—with support—let’s talk. Click here to book a free consultation. We’ll look at where you are, where you want to go, and how we can get you there—together.
In this episode, I sit down with Emotional Ninja and subconscious reprogramming expert Lisset King to dive deep into the real reason we stay stuck—even when we’re doing all the right things.
As someone who has done a personal breakthrough session with Lisset, I can tell you—this work is next level. We go beyond surface mindset shifts and into the realm of deep subconscious transformation. If you've ever found yourself repeating the same toxic relationship patterns, sabotaging your success, or struggling to maintain the abundance you’ve worked hard to create, this conversation will open your eyes to what’s really going on.
You’ll learn:
- The difference between your conscious and subconscious mind (and why the subconscious is running the show)
- How our earliest memories and beliefs shape our adult reality
- Why we keep recreating the same problems (even when we "know better")
- What it actually means to release emotional baggage—and how it feels
- The four requisites of change—and why skipping step one (release) keeps you stuck
- How energy work supports transformation at the cellular level
- How to rewire limiting beliefs like “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t belong,” or “Money isn’t safe”
Lisset shares powerful analogies—like the ant and the elephant—to explain how your subconscious patterns are steering your life, even when your conscious mind has a totally different plan.
If you’re a perfectionist, high achiever, or personal development junkie who’s tired of doing all the things and still feeling stuck… this episode is your wake-up call.
🎧 Tune in now to hear my own personal breakthroughs, learn what subconscious baggage might be holding you back, and discover what’s possible when you finally release what no longer serves you.
Lisset is a Trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming, a Master Practitioner of Hypnosis Mental Emotional Release®, and a Level 4 Huna Practitioner and teacher — These tools are life-changing in helping people release the weight of the past and heal unresolved trauma. By blending ancient Hawaiian energy work with modern transformational modalities, Lisset guides her clients to reconnect with their deepest truth and align on a spiritual, mental, and emotional level.
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🔥 Ready for a reset? Join me on August 7 for Ignite Your Purpose — a powerful 90-minute live experience to help you reconnect with your mission and move forward with clarity. Save your seat now.
Are you on a journey of personal growth but keep bumping up against the same emotional triggers or patterns? Ever wonder why certain people or situations push your buttons—or why you sometimes feel disconnected from your true self?
This week, I’m thrilled to welcome Dr. Mike Simmons (aka "Shadow Mike") to the podcast. Mike is a shadow work coach and soul initiator who helps people explore the hidden parts of themselves they’ve been taught to ignore or suppress. Together, we dive deep into the world of shadow work—an often misunderstood yet profoundly transformative path rooted in Jungian psychology.
Mike opens the conversation with a beautiful poem that reframes what it means to do shadow work. Rather than something dark or negative, the “shadow” is presented as the unlived self—the parts of us that hold incredible wisdom, creativity, and power.
We talk about how shadow work can:
- Reduce emotional triggers and “psychic inflammation”
- Reveal what our projections say about ourselves (and how to use them for growth)
- Positively impact our relationships—especially as parents
- Help us reconnect with our purpose and live more authentically
I also share real-life stories, including experiences from my own clients, that show how shadow work isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about integrating your wholeness.
Whether you’re a parent wanting to break generational cycles, someone exploring spiritual and emotional healing, or simply curious about your deeper purpose, this conversation will give you a fresh perspective on what’s possible when you meet your shadow with compassion.
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Dr. Michael Simmons (aka Shadow Mike) is an expert shadow work coach and soul initiator. He specializes in finding the psycho-spiritual root ailing you, then guiding you to your own abundant medicine, power, and agency to embody your unlived soulful life.
Michael offers Shadow Work Journeys to guide individuals through their dense, dark, inner landscape. Schedule a free 60-minute Consultation Session
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In this episode, I break down what purpose truly means—and how to find yours. Spoiler: It’s not just one thing, and it’s definitely not just your job.
I'll share powerful tools, deep reflection questions, and a soul-aligned framework to help you discover what lights you up from the inside out. Learn how the Japanese concept of Ikigai (life purpose) can guide you toward a more meaningful, joyful life—and why your purpose is less about what you do and more about who you are when you’re doing it.
You’ll learn:
- Why purpose is not the same as your career
- How your purpose evolves over time
- The 4-part Ikigai framework
- Six questions to uncover your soul’s calling
- What your childhood “weirdness” can reveal about your true path
- How to align your gifts with what the world needs (and even get paid for it)
Whether you’re feeling stuck, burned out, or just ready for more meaning, this episode will help you reconnect with your inner wisdom and move forward with clarity and confidence.
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When was the last time you did something just for the fun of it?
In this episode, we’re talking all about how to bring more fun, lightness, and play back into your life—especially if it’s been a while. If your days feel like a constant loop of responsibilities, productivity pressure, and “shoulds,” this conversation is for you.
Inspired by real coaching conversations, I’m sharing 8 powerful ways to reconnect with what brings you joy—plus tips for breaking free from the mindset that everything has to be useful, optimized, or productive.
You’ll learn:
- How to redefine what fun means to you today
- Why feeling uncomfortable with fun is totally normal—and how to move through it
- The importance of novelty and how to create more memorable experiences
- What a “joy audit” is and how to use it to feel more energized
- How to give yourself full permission to do something just because it feels good
You don’t need to earn your fun. You don’t need anyone’s permission. This episode will help you stop waiting for life to be less busy and start creating joy right now—with small, intentional shifts.
Resources Mentioned:
Episode 101 - Unlocking the Power of Play with Psychotherapist and Coach TJ Matton
A Year of Yes: How to Dance it Out, Stand in the Sun and Be Your Own Person
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Manifestation is more than just wishing for something—it’s about aligning your energy, thoughts, and actions with your deepest desires. In this episode, I’m unveiling my DREAMS Manifestation Method™, a transformative six-step framework designed to help you create your best life.
Discover how to:
- Decide what you truly want and align with your desires.
- Release inner and outer blocks that hold you back.
- Embody the version of yourself who already has your dream life.
- Take bold, aligned Action toward your goals.
- Harness the Magic of intuition, synchronicities, and universal support.
- Surrender control and trust the process.
I’ll share actionable tips, practical exercises, and personal insights to guide you every step of the way. Whether you're ready to take that first courageous step or you’re looking for clarity on how to manifest your dreams, this episode is for you.
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In this episode, I’m diving into what it means to live a truly free and abundant life. And spoiler alert! It’s different for everyone. Whether your dream life involves traveling the world, building your dream home, or finally starting that business, this episode is all about defining YOUR version of freedom and abundance.
I’ll share why declaring what you truly want is the first step toward creating the life you deserve, how to overcome the fear of wanting “too much,” and why taking action (even when it’s uncomfortable) is the key to aligning with your goals.
You’ll also learn how to stop blocking your abundance and embrace the possibilities that come with living authentically. If you’ve been craving more joy, purpose, and freedom in your life, this episode is for you.
Let’s link arms and take this journey together. I’m here to support you every step of the way. Ready to explore what’s possible? Let’s get started!
👉 Remember to schedule a consultation if you’re ready to take the first step toward your dream life. I’m here to help you turn your vision into reality.
In this episode, I’m sharing my personal spiritual awakening journey, a story I’ve held back for years out of fear of judgment. But one thing I know to be true is that the more honest and authentic I am, the more aligned I feel. And, perhaps, my story will resonate with you and let you know that what you're experiencing is real and that you're not alone.
I'll share my perspective on what it truly means to experience a spiritual awakening and explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) shifts that happen along the way.
If you’ve been feeling a pull toward something deeper, noticing signs of transformation, or questioning life’s mysteries, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I reveal:
- My personal story of spiritual awakening, from leaving teaching to discovering a deeper purpose.
- Why I'm finally ready to openly discuss topics like intuition, universal connection, and spiritual gifts.
- 7 Signs You Are Having a Spiritual Awakening
I'd love to hear what you think! Leave a comment or DM me on Instagram, or send me an email (coachdelliquadri@gmail.com).
Do you often feel like no matter how much you accomplish, it’s never enough? In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful tool to help you feel more motivated, happy, and accomplished in your life. It’s an energy shift that can change how you measure success and help you see the progress you’ve already made.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
- The difference between “The Gap” and “The Gain” and how they impact your motivation.
- Why chasing an ideal can lead to burnout and dissatisfaction.
- How to reframe your progress and celebrate your wins.
- Practical ways to apply this tool to your daily life for more happiness and confidence.
- Simple strategies to stay focused on growth and forward momentum.
If you’re ready to boost your motivation and create a more fulfilling life, this episode is for you.
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In this episode, I’m joined by Charlotte Haggie, a resilience coach, mother of two, and host of the globally ranked podcast The Resilient Working Mum. Charlotte has spent nearly a decade researching and building her own resilience so she can thrive as both a coach and a mom. Now, she’s on a mission to help other working moms navigate the beyond-busy seasons of motherhood with more ease, peace, and calm—without needing to change their circumstances.
Here’s what we discuss:
- Enjoying the Busy Seasons of Motherhood: Learn how Charlotte balances being a focused, present, and productive mom and businesswoman by strengthening her mental resilience.
- Redefining Stress and Overwhelm: Charlotte shares how stress is something you can learn to manage, offering strategies to shift your perspective and build your capacity to handle life’s demands.
- The Myth of Work-Life Balance: Why aiming for perfect balance is unsustainable and how to focus on aligning with your values instead.
- Practical Resilience-Building Tools: Actionable tips, including her B.R.E.A.T.H.E. framework for emotional self-regulation, to help you pause, connect with your body, and make decisions from a place of clarity.
Whether you’re managing the demands of a corporate job, running your own business, or just trying to keep it all together, this episode will leave you feeling inspired and equipped to handle life with greater calm and confidence.
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I was recently invited to be a guest on my friend and fellow coach Darlynn Childress's podcast, Become a Calm Mama. Darlynn has been a guest on Raising Happy Teens several times, and in addition to sharing a passion for coaching, we are both moms in midlife with grown children.
The conversation was so rich that I wanted to share it with you. In this episode, Darlynn and I explore what it truly means to transition into midlife—from the chaos of letting go of traditional caregiving roles to rediscovering your purpose and identity.
We dive into:- The emotional toll of moving beyond day-to-day parenting and redefining your value.- Why midlife often feels overwhelming despite newfound freedom.- My transformative “Cocoon Phase” and the subtle shifts that reignited my joy.- How societal expectations shape—and often misalign with—our sense of success.
- Practical ways to embrace discomfort, reconnect with your body, and foster meaningful relationships.
I open up about my personal struggles, including my midlife confusion while on vacation and the pivotal moment on my Peloton that inspired my Subtle Shifts method.
If you’ve ever felt lost in the in-between of post-parenting and pre-grandmothering or wondered how to channel dissatisfaction into growth, this episode is your guide to creating a life filled with healing, peace, and purpose.
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Are you feeling stuck, uncertain about what's next, and unsure of how to move forward? In this episode, I dive into the struggles many women face in midlife—feeling like they're in the messy middle, grieving their past while longing for something more. Inspired by a beautiful excerpt from Glennon Doyle's We Can Do Hard Things, I share insights about belonging, identity shifts, and the transition from who you were to who you're becoming.
I’ll guide you through the first phase of the Subtle Shifts Method—answering the call. Together, we’ll explore how to acknowledge your current feelings, appreciate your past, and get curious about what’s possible. I also provide practical strategies to shake up your routine, step out of your comfort zone, and embrace change with intention.
If you’re ready to start building the next level of your life while honoring the foundation you’ve created, this episode is for you. Let’s navigate the messy middle together and discover what lights you up!
🎧 Tune in now to take the first step toward creating a life that feels aligned, purposeful, and joyful.
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We Can Do Hard Things: Answers to Life’s 20 Questions by Glennon Doyle, Abby Wombach, and Amanda Doyle
- The Subtle Shifts Method
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Are you ready to reclaim your joy and lift your spirits? In this episode, we’re diving into the 7 Happiness Blockers that might be holding you back and how you can break free from them. Whether it’s guilt, perfectionism, overwhelm, or losing your sense of identity, these common obstacles impact so many women, especially moms navigating midlife.
I’ll share practical tips to help you overcome these blockers and start living a more joyful life—one that positively influences not only you but everyone around you. Plus, hear the inspiring story of a client who broke through her own happiness barriers, creating ripple effects that transformed her family dynamic, including her teenage son’s mental health.
This episode is perfect for moms and empathic nurturers ready to find balance, fulfillment, and joy in their lives. Don’t let fear or societal expectations hold you back—your happiness matters.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- The top 7 blockers to happiness and how they show up in your life.
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Actionable strategies to overcome guilt, perfectionism, and overwhelm.
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- Why prioritizing your happiness can uplift your family and community.
- A powerful success story that shows how joy can create lasting impact.
- If you’re ready to make this summer all about YOU, join The Summer of You, my signature coaching program designed to help moms in midlife rediscover their joy, reconnect with their purpose, and create a life they love. Spots are limited, so don’t wait! Click here to learn more and claim your spot today.
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Are you feeling overwhelmed and burnt out in midlife? It’s time to bring fun back into your life with a simple tool that will help you rediscover joy, balance, and excitement—your Live List! In this episode, I’ll teach you how to create your Live List and use it as a powerful way to add more fun and fulfillment to your daily routine.
As a woman in midlife, it’s easy to lose touch with what makes you happy. But creating a Live List can help you reconnect with your passions, nurture your well-being, and inject more joy into your life. Whether you’re a busy mom or a woman experiencing burnout, this episode will guide you through the steps to make your life more enjoyable and meaningful.
Listen to learn:
- How to create your own Live List for midlife joy and fulfillment
- Practical strategies for incorporating fun and relaxation into your daily life
- Why making time for yourself is essential for mental health and well-being
If you’re ready to bring more joy, energy, and balance into your life, I invite you to join me for The Summer of You: A 6-Week Journey to Joy. This program is designed to help you rediscover fun, prioritize yourself, and make this summer your best one yet.
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Can there really be such a thing as a "good divorce"? In this episode, I sit down with Karen McNenny, a divorce consultant and founder of The Good Divorce Experience, to explore how separation can be handled with dignity and care.
Karen’s story is both inspiring and relatable—she’s gone from actress and dancer to therapist, mediator, and divorce coach, all while navigating her own divorce as a mom of young kids. She shares how divorce, when approached thoughtfully, can be a transformative tool for building a healthier co-parenting relationship.
In our conversation, we dive into:
- The biggest mistakes parents make during divorce and how to avoid them.
- How to create a solid communication plan for your kids, their teachers, and extended family.
- Tips for breaking the news to children in a way that minimizes trauma.
- Practical ways to let go of resentment, shift your mindset, and focus on growth—even if your ex isn’t on the same page.
Whether you’re just beginning the separation process or further along in your journey, Karen’s insights will help you reframe divorce as an opportunity for growth and healing.
Karen is a Certified Divorce Coach, Mediator, CoParenting Specialist, Crucial Conversations trainer, Gracious Space facilitator, and host of the The Good Divorce ShowTM podcast. Click here to learn more about Karen and her services.
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In this episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s been on my mind for a while but one I haven’t talked about too much—especially because it’s a bit triggering for me. If you’ve listened to my Midlife episode (episode 151), you may have heard me mention it briefly, but today I’m going deeper. I’m talking about the challenge of losing weight in midlife and why it can feel like everything you used to do no longer works.
Here’s what I’ll be covering:
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My Personal Struggle with Diet Culture and Body Image
- Growing up in the 80s and 90s with the pressure of “thin is better”
- How this narrative has impacted my confidence and health in midlife
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Why Weight Loss is Harder in Midlife
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Hormonal changes and how they affect metabolism
- The role of stress, sleep, and muscle mass in weight management
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Practical Tips for Healthy, Sustainable Weight Loss
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Getting your blood work checked
- The importance of eating in a calorie deficit (without deprivation)
- Tracking food mindfully to understand your habits
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The Three Key Steps to Start Feeling Good in Your Body Again
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Actionable tips you can implement today to take control of your health
If this episode resonates with you and you’re ready to feel confident and energized in your body again, I’d love to help. Together, we can create a personalized plan that fits your unique needs, whether it’s navigating midlife changes, building healthier habits, or reclaiming your joy and balance.
Schedule a free consultation today, and let’s explore how we can work together to create a sustainable, joyful path to your best self.
This week, we’re diving into a topic that has shaped so much of how we, as women, show up in the world: "good girl" conditioning and patriarchal trauma.
In this episode, I sit down with Lauren Redding, a licensed clinical social worker and doctoral candidate, to unpack the emotional, psychological, and physical toll of living in a system that devalues women.
We break down what "good girl" conditioning really is—the societal pressure to be quiet, compliant, and self-sacrificing—and how it impacts our mental health, relationships, and sense of worth. Lauren also shares practical tools to help us rewire our nervous systems, release these toxic patterns, and reconnect with our true selves.
Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:
- What "good girl" conditioning and patriarchal trauma are and how they affect us.
- How these pressures lead to burnout, anxiety, and feelings of unworthiness.
- Proven strategies to regulate your nervous system and heal from these ingrained patterns.
- The importance of inner child work and practicing self-compassion.
- How patriarchal trauma impacts men and women of color differently.
Lauren even shares powerful techniques like butterfly tapping and why reconnecting with our inner child is a game-changer. Plus, we touch on how this conditioning affects men and why healing is vital for everyone.
Learn more about Lauren here. And don’t miss Lauren’s Taylor Swift-inspired podcast, TheraSwifts.
Click here to learn more about how we can work together one-on-one to start creating a life that aligns with your true self—because you deserve to feel empowered, joyful, and at peace.
In this episode, I’m introducing a game-changing concept that has transformed my coaching practice—the Seven Levels of Energy. This isn’t just theory; it’s a powerful tool that helps you understand how your perceptions shape your reality and, more importantly, how to shift them to create a more joyful, fulfilling life.
I’ll break down anabolic vs. catabolic energy and walk you through each of the seven levels, giving you real-life examples so you can recognize where these energy levels show up in your life. You’ll learn:
- How your thoughts, emotions, and actions are influenced by your energy level
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How to shift out of stress, burnout, and overwhelm into a more empowered state
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Practical questions to help you identify and transform unhelpful patterns
This episode is packed with insights, so you might want to bookmark it and listen more than once! Plus, I’m hosting a FREE workshop on the 17th to help you apply this concept in your own life. Sign up here.
If you’re feeling stuck, drained, or just ready for a shift, this episode is for you. Hit play now and start seeing your world in a whole new way!
Are you constantly chasing happiness, only to feel empty once you reach your goals? In this episode, we explore why the pursuit of happiness often leads to discontentment and how you can shift your focus to find lasting fulfillment.
Topics Discussed:
- Why happiness is fleeting and not the ultimate goal
- The six pillars of a more fulfilling life: contentment, purpose, gratitude, harmony, satisfaction, and fulfillment
- How to create meaningful moments in your everyday life
- Practical tips to align your actions with your values
It’s time to stop chasing happiness and start living a life of purpose and contentment.
Ready to stop chasing happiness and start living a life of true fulfillment? Schedule a free consultation to learn how 1:1 coaching can help you create a life aligned with your values and goals. Click here to book your session today!
In this episode, I sit down with Karen Freeland, a life coach who left a high-powered corporate career to help women break free from their “golden handcuffs” and discover a life filled with purpose and joy. Karen opens up about the “oh shit” moment that led her to realize she was stuck in an unfulfilling life and how she took bold steps to reinvent herself.
We explore the power of self-awareness, the role of communication in relationships, and why investing in yourself can lead to incredible growth. Karen shares how self-sabotage can actually be a signal for transformation and why even small changes can create a ripple effect toward achieving your bigger purpose.
Whether you’re feeling stuck or ready to take action, this episode is packed with practical advice and inspiring insights on how to manifest the life you truly want. Tune in to learn how reinvention isn’t just a one-time event but an ongoing journey toward becoming your most empowered self.
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In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s been on my mind for a while—empty nesting. As a mom whose youngest daughter is preparing to leave for college, I’m facing the reality of this transition. If you’re also about to become an empty nester, or you’re already there, this episode is for you.
I share my personal journey of preparing for this shift, and how it can be a challenge for many moms who’ve built their identities around being the nurturer and caregiver. If you’ve spent years raising your children and now find yourself asking, "Who am I when I’m no longer needed in the same way?", this episode will help you navigate these complex emotions.
In this episode, I’ll cover:
- Why the empty nest transition can be so challenging for moms.
- The generational differences in how we parent and how it impacts our role as mothers.
- Why it’s normal to feel confused, anxious, and uncertain about life after your kids leave.
- Six actionable tips to help you handle this change with confidence and purpose.
If you’ve been dreading or are currently experiencing the empty nest, listen in for practical advice to process your emotions, nurture yourself, and rediscover your sense of identity. Whether it’s finding a new purpose or learning how to reconnect with your kids in a new way, I’m here to guide you through this major life shift.
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Have you ever thought grief was only about losing a loved one? Think again. In this insightful episode, I’m sitting down with Mandy Capehart, a grief coach, author, and somatic practitioner, to explore the often misunderstood and overlooked aspects of grief. Mandy reveals that grief isn't confined to major life tragedies; it's a natural response to any significant shift in our understanding of the world.
Mandy breaks down the cultural misconceptions surrounding grief and offers practical, compassionate strategies for navigating its complexities. We delve into:
- What grief truly is: Discover how everyday changes, from moving to job transitions, can trigger grief.
- The importance of integrating grief work: Learn how to create space for healing in your daily life, even with a busy schedule.
- Somatic practices for grounding: Explore techniques like bilateral stimulation, mindful walks, and gentle meditation to reconnect with your body and emotions.
- The power of curiosity and self-compassion: Understand how asking "I wonder what this is?" can lead to profound self-discovery and healing.
- Building resilience through small, daily practices: Discover how to navigate uncertainty and discomfort with grace and flexibility.
Tune in to learn how to move beyond traditional notions of grief and embrace a more compassionate and integrated approach to healing.
Are you lying awake at night, battling racing thoughts and endless worries? In this episode, I’m diving into the common struggle of nighttime overthinking. I’ll share my personal journey and proven strategies to help you break free from the cycle of worry and reclaim peaceful, rejuvenating sleep.
Discover why your mind tends to spiral at night and learn actionable techniques to:
- Interrupt negative thought patterns with powerful boundary-setting tools.
- Use mindfulness to stay present and find calm in the moment.
- "File away" worries to stop them from dominating your nights.
- Build a calming bedtime routine that signals it’s time to rest.
- Address the root causes of overthinking for lasting peace.
This episode goes beyond temporary fixes—it's about transforming your relationship with your thoughts and creating a foundation for restful sleep.
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In this episode, I talk with Dr. Tracy McCarthy, MD about the powerful connection between gut health, chronic inflammation, and mental well-being. We explore how personalized nutrition and mindful eating can improve conditions like depression and anxiety.
Dr. McCarthy shares practical tips for balancing blood sugar, adopting an anti-inflammatory diet, and building healthy habits over time. We also discuss the importance of community and how digestion impacts nutrient absorption. Join me for actionable insights to help you reclaim your energy and joy.
Discussion points:
- The gut-brain connection and its impact on mental health.
- How chronic inflammation contributes to anxiety and depression.
- Personalized nutrition for better mental well-being.
- Practical dietary changes for managing mood and energy.
- The importance of mindful eating and digestion.
- Building a supportive community to foster wellness.
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Are you tired of setting goals that leave you feeling stuck, uninspired, or burned out? In this episode, I’m diving into a fresh approach to goal-setting that’s designed to feel aligned with who you are and what you truly want.
Discover why traditional methods might not be working for you and learn how to set meaningful goals that fit your unique values and lifestyle.
Tune in for insights on:
- Why traditional goal-setting often leads to frustration
- How to avoid overwhelm when pursuing your dreams
- A mindset shift to make progress feel effortless and fulfilling
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Join me for a workshop for overwhelmed moms and discover 3 simple steps to reclaim your energy, find more balance, and bring joy back into your day-to-day life. In this 1-hour session, you'll learn:
✨ A simple tool to manage stress and stay present
✨ How to shift from overwhelm to calm
✨ A small daily habit to create lasting balance
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In this episode, I’m so excited to share with you mySubtle Shifts Method—a powerful, step-by-step process I’ve developed to help you navigate change and create meaningful growth in your life.
Here’s what we’ll cover together:
1️⃣The Call: Recognizing the inner pull for more joy, purpose, or fulfillment.
2️⃣The Cocoon: Doing the inner and outer work to align with your vision.
3️⃣Consistency: Evolving into the next version of yourself with clarity and confidence.
I’ll guide you through each phase and show you how this process can work across all areas of your life—career, relationships, health, and more. Whether you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or simply ready for a change, I’ll help you take intentional steps toward the life you truly desire.
✨ Ready to take the next step? Schedule a complementary consultation to learn more about my 1:1 coaching program for women in midlife.
In this special episode, I’m sharing an exciting announcement about the evolution of my podcast! For years, Raising Happy Teens has been a space to help parents navigate the challenges of parenting teens. But as I’ve grown personally and professionally, I’ve felt called to expand into a broader range of topics.
Introducing Subtle Shifts with Jennifer Delliquadri—a podcast dedicated to exploring the small, intentional changes that lead to big transformations in every area of life. From health and relationships to finances and spirituality, this new chapter will focus on guiding you to create a life filled with joy, purpose, and growth.
Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode:
- My personal journey of growth and why I’m rebranding the podcast.
- The inspiration behind Raising Happy Teens and its incredible evolution.
- The deeper meaning of “Subtle Shifts” and how it aligns with my philosophy.
- A sneak peek into upcoming topics like mindset, wellness, career changes, and more.
- An invitation to join me on this exciting new journey of transformation!
If you’re ready to embrace subtle shifts in your own life, tune in now and subscribe to stay updated on future episodes!
✨ Ready to take the next step? Schedule a complementary consultation to learn more about my 1:1 coaching program for women in midlife.
In this episode, I sit down with fellow coach Kristi Simons to explore practical ways to build self-confidence, overcome self-doubt, and cultivate inner peace. We share personal stories of self-discovery and offer actionable strategies to help you feel more empowered in your journey of personal growth.
Here’s what you’ll learn: - Develop Self-Trust: Cultivate inner confidence, trust your intuition, and make decisions with clarity. - Overcome Self-Criticism: Silence your inner critic with proven techniques and embrace self-compassion. - Boost Self-Esteem: Increase your self-worth and take actionable steps to feel better about yourself.- Break Free from Limiting Beliefs: Identify and challenge the negative thought patterns holding you back.
Whether you’re seeking to boost your self-esteem, strengthen self-trust, or let go of self-doubt, this episode offers the tools and inspiration to help you on your path.
Workshop announcement: Kristi and I are hosting a free workshop on Tuesday, February 4th at 10am PST: Finding Your Inner Compass: Discover Your Unique Gifts and Navigate Your True Path. Click here to register.
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Are you struggling to motivate your teenager—or even yourself? In this episode, I discuss a groundbreaking approach to motivation that shifts the focus from "lack of will" to "lack of skill." Inspired by Dr. Stuart Abalon’s transformative insights, I share a practical framework for understanding and addressing challenging behaviors in teens and adults alike.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
- A new perspective on resistance: Discover why resistance to change often stems from missing skills—not defiance.
- The power of empathy: Learn how to replace judgment with curiosity and understanding when faced with difficult situations.
- Collaborative problem-solving: Master three essential steps to solving challenges: letting go, avoiding power struggles, and collaborating with empathy.
- Applying it to your own life: See how this framework can help you tackle personal obstacles and achieve meaningful goals.
Whether you're navigating teen behavior or seeking personal growth, this episode offers actionable strategies to build stronger connections, foster cooperation, and unlock lasting motivation.
In this episode, I welcome Elle Kristine, a high school junior who has dedicated the past three years to researching and developing a solution to the challenges of teen dating in the digital age. I was fascinated to hear Elle discuss the unique obstacles facing today's teens, including the pervasive influence of social media, the shift towards online interactions, and the decline of in-person social skills.
Elle shared some eye-opening insights on how social media platforms like Snapchat and Instagram have impacted teen dating, highlighting the increased emphasis on physical appearance and the challenges of navigating online interactions. She also discussed the rise of teen loneliness and the difficulties teens face in initiating in-person relationships.
Elle introduced her app, "Ask Elle AI," an AI-powered dating advisor designed to provide teens with safe, vetted dating advice from experts. I found her emphasis on the importance of open communication between parents and teens about social media and dating particularly valuable, and she offered some really practical tips for parents to navigate these conversations effectively.
This episode provides invaluable insights for parents and educators seeking to understand and support teenagers in navigating the complexities of modern dating. I came away with a much deeper understanding of the challenges facing today's teens and the importance of open communication and support systems.
Key takeaways:
- The significant impact of social media on teen dating behaviors.
- The challenges of developing in-person social skills in the digital age.
- The importance of open communication and setting boundaries with social media.
- Practical strategies for parents to support their teens in navigating the dating world.
- The potential of technology to provide safe and accessible dating advice for teens.
You can follow Elle and learn more about her app on TikTok.
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In this episode, I share my personal journey of reclaiming my health after menopause. From navigating the physical and emotional challenges of midlife to making fitness a priority, I talk about the mindset shifts that helped me through this transformative time.
Whether you're in perimenopause, menopause, or simply navigating the complexities of midlife, this episode offers real-life insights into how to reclaim your well-being, boost your energy, and feel confident again.
Topics covered:
- My experience with perimenopause and menopause
- The physical changes I faced and how I adjusted my fitness routine
- My approach to weight loss in midlife and how it differs from earlier years
- The importance of maintaining mental health alongside physical fitness
Ready to get started? I've created a tracker to help you implement the exact things I shared in this episode. Download your free T3 Tracker here.
In this episode, I sit down with financial advisor Veronica Karas to delve into the critical topic of financial literacy for teenagers.
Together, we discuss:
- Practical strategies for parents to teach teens about money management, budgeting, and investing.
- The value of involving teens in financial decisions to build their confidence and responsibility.
- How to prioritize experiences over material possessions for long-term happiness and financial well-being.
Veronica shares her inspiring personal journey, transitioning from a challenging upbringing to becoming a successful financial advisor. She highlights the importance of early financial education and how it sets the foundation for a future filled with freedom and opportunities.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
- Why teaching teens about money is essential for their future success.
- Simple ways to involve teens in everyday financial decisions.
- How to foster a mindset of financial responsibility and independence.
About Veronica:
Veronica Karas is a seasoned financial advisor and advocate for financial literacy. She is passionate about helping families and young people create sustainable financial habits that lead to greater freedom and choice.
Resources Mentioned:
Money Matters Book Series
Robert Kiyosaki Games
Financial Planning Association
Connect with Jennifer:
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- Facebook Group: Raising Happy Teens Community
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- Website: https://www.veronicakaras.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/veronicakarascfp
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🎄 Happy Holidays from the Raising Happy Teens Podcast! 🎄
Hi everyone, Jennifer here! I hope you're enjoying a joyful and restful holiday season with your loved ones. As we wrap up 2024, I’m taking some well-earned time off to recharge and prepare for the incredible new content coming your way in 2025. Thank you for being part of this amazing community—I can't wait to continue supporting you in raising happy, confident teens in the year ahead!
For today, I’m sharing a replay of one of our listener favorites. This episode dives into a topic that resonates deeply with so many parents: managing expectations of your teenager.
✨ Episode Summary:
In this episode, I explore the common challenges parents face when their expectations don’t align with their teenager’s choices and individuality. From interests and appearance to friendships and academics, I discuss how unrealistic expectations can create tension—and how letting go of them can build a healthier, more meaningful relationship.
You'll discover practical ways to:
- Support your teen’s growing independence.
- Embrace their individuality and unique journey.
- Foster a parenting experience that’s more fulfilling and less stressful.
This conversation is full of insights to help you navigate the ups and downs of parenting during the teen years. I hope you enjoy revisiting this listener-favorite episode!
Here’s to a peaceful holiday season and an exciting year ahead. See you in 2025! 🎉
For free resources and information on how we can work together in 2025, head to my website.
Puberty is a time of significant physical, emotional, and social change for young girls. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Loretta Duggan, a board-certified Family and Adolescent Medicine physician and founder of HER Health, a practice dedicated to helping 11-26-year-old young women confidently embrace their periods, reproductive health, and sexual health.
Key Takeaways:
- Understanding Puberty: Learn about the physical and emotional changes that occur during puberty and how to support your daughter through them.
- Building Open Communication: Discover effective strategies for fostering open and honest conversations about sensitive topics like periods, sexuality, and body image.
- Promoting Self-Care: Learn how to encourage healthy self-care practices and support your daughter's emotional well-being during this period of significant change.
- The Importance of Professional Guidance: Explore the benefits of seeking care from adolescent medicine specialists and how to empower your daughter to advocate for her own health needs.
This episode provides valuable resources and practical advice to help you navigate the challenges and celebrate the joys of this important developmental stage.
Disclaimer: This episode provides general information and should not be considered medical advice. Always consult with a healthcare professional for personalized support.
Learn more about Dr. Duggan on IG, TikTok, and YouTube @lorettadugganmd
If you're looking for more support as you navigate the ups and downs of the teen years, I can help. Head to my website to learn more.
Today on the podcast, I am interviewing Tracey Yokas, the author of Bloodlines: A Memoir of Harm and Healing. She shares her experience navigating a teen mental health crisis with her daughter, including the struggles they faced and the lessons she learned that helped them both cope and heal.
We'll discuss:
- Tracey's firsthand account of navigating her daughter's mental health journey.
- How prioritizing your own well-being can positively impact your child's recovery.
- The impact of family history and how to break negative patterns.
- The benefits of therapy and other support services for both you and your teen.
- Strategies to manage stress, anxiety, and other challenges.
Tracy is the author of Bloodlines: A Memoir of Harm and Healing. Learn more about Tracy here.
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In this special holiday edition, I'm diving into the do’s and don’ts of parenting teenagers during the holiday season. From navigating family gatherings to managing expectations around traditions, gifts, and screen time, this episode is packed with practical tips to help you reduce conflict and increase joy in your home.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
✔️ How to avoid power struggles over holiday traditions and events.
✔️ Why flexibility with dress codes and social interactions matters.
✔️ The case for not gifting a smartphone or trendy gadgets.
✔️ The importance of creating quality time over quantity.
✔️ How to let your teen’s individuality shine while maintaining family harmony.
Plus, discover ways to implement device-free moments and maintain your sanity—without constant arguments over phone use.
👉 Don’t miss the free resource, Screen Sanity: Five Ways to Limit Teen Phone Use Without Conflict.
If you’re ready to enjoy the holidays and strengthen your relationship with your teen, this episode is for you! 🌟
📅 Schedule a free consultation if you'd like to discuss your unique challenges and how to build a better connection with your teen through 1:1 coaching.
Let’s make this holiday season one to cherish! ❤️
Ever felt like you're caught between a rock and a hard place, juggling the needs of your aging parents and your growing kids? Welcome to the sandwich generation! 🥪
In this episode, I’m discussing the unique challenges of this life stage.
Topics covered:
- The Sandwich Generation, Explained: What it is and why it's more common than ever.
- The Emotional Toll: How caring for both ends of the spectrum can impact your mental and emotional well-being.
- Practical Tips: Strategies for managing stress, setting boundaries, and prioritizing self-care.
- Finding Support: Discovering resources and communities to connect with others in similar situations.
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In this conversation, special guest Suzanne Hanna and I discuss the challenges faced by teenage girls, particularly regarding anxiety and coping mechanisms.
Suzanne shares her extensive background in education and her transition to life coaching, focusing on affective liminal psychology to help girls navigate their emotions.
We discuss the impact of societal pressures, and the importance of healthy coping strategies. In this conversation, Suzanne shares her transformative journey of self-discovery and her decision to stop drinking alcohol. She discusses the anxiety she experienced and how she learned to support others in their journey to sobriety.
Our conversation delves into the impact of alcohol on mental health, especially among teenagers, and emphasizes the importance of curiosity and self-awareness in making informed choices.
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In this episode, I’ll discuss a common issue many of my clients face: managing different parenting styles when co-parenting a teenager.
Whether you’re divorced, separated, or in a relationship where you and your partner have conflicting views on discipline and rules, it can feel like a constant struggle to stay on the same page.
I’ll share 8 practical tips to help you navigate these challenges and foster a more positive and consistent parenting approach, even when co-parenting with someone who has different values or rules.
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In this special bonus episode, I’ll guide you through a soothing loving-kindness meditation to help you process emotions and find peace, especially during challenging times. This practice can help reduce stress and anxiety and promote overall well-being.
Whether you're navigating the aftermath of a major event or simply seeking a moment of tranquility, this meditation offers a powerful tool to cultivate compassion and self-love.
Are you a people-pleaser parent? Do you constantly say "yes" to your teen's requests, even when it drains your energy and time?
In this episode, I’m discussing people-pleasing and its impact on your teen and on yourself. I’ll explore the root causes of people-pleasing, the negative effects on your relationship with your teen, and practical strategies to break free from this pattern and create a more fulfilling and harmonious family life.
Key Takeaways:
- Learn the common traits and root causes of people-pleasing behavior.
- Discover how people-pleasing can hinder your ability to set boundaries and raise resilient teens.
- Explore practical strategies to overcome people-pleasing tendencies and cultivate healthier relationships with your teen.
- Learn how to recognize your people-pleasing patterns and take steps to change them.
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In this episode, I sit down with Duygu Balan, a psychotherapist and author specializing in intergenerational trauma, attachment wounding, and working with young people.
Duygu offers invaluable insights into the unique challenges faced by today's teens, including rising anxiety levels, the impact of social media, and the complexities of navigating family dynamics.
We explore the concept of intergenerational trauma and how it can manifest in our relationships, as well as the importance of self-compassion and emotional regulation.
Key takeaways from this episode include:
- Understanding the impact of intergenerational trauma on teen behavior
- Recognizing the signs of attachment wounding and how to address it
- Effective strategies for supporting teens struggling with anxiety and burnout
- The importance of self-care and emotional regulation for parents
- The power of creative expression as a tool for healing and self-discovery
About Duygu Balan
Duygu Balan, LPCC is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in familial and intergenerational trauma and attachment wounding. Duygu is the first author ofConfidently Chill: An Anxiety Workbook for New Adultsand Re-Write: A Trauma Workbook of Creative Writing and Recovery in Our New Normal. She is a regular contributor at Psychology Today and has been featured on CNN, The Washington Times, and MSN.
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Today’s episode delves into a common teenage behavior: lying. As parents, understanding why teens lie and how to respond effectively is crucial.
I’ll explore the underlying reasons behind teen dishonesty, including seeking independence, immature brain development, and avoiding conflict. Plus, I’ll provide practical strategies to foster open communication, build trust, and address issues without resorting to harsh punishments.
Key topics include:
- Common reasons teenagers lie and what they lie about.
- How to know if your teen is lying.
- How to keep lying to a minimum and what to do when you catch your teenager in a lie.
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In this episode, I’m diving into the topic of teenage anxiety and exploring the top eight things that teens worry about the most.
From school and grades to mental health and relationships, I’ll share the underlying reasons behind these concerns and offer practical strategies for parents to support their teens.
Key Takeaways:
- Understanding Teen Worries: Learn about the anxieties teens often face, including academic pressure, social acceptance, body image issues, and future uncertainty.
- The Science Behind Anxiety: Discover why teens are more susceptible to excessive worry due to brain development and societal factors.
- Effective Support Strategies: Gain practical tips on how to model healthy stress management, provide unconditional love, be a good listener, and teach coping mechanisms to help your teen navigate their anxieties.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Understanding Your Gremlin: How to Manage Self-Doubt for Teens and Parents
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Are you feeling overwhelmed by your teenager's intense emotions? Struggling to cope with frequent tantrums and emotional outbursts? In this episode, I discuss the common pitfalls parents make when dealing with teen emotions and provide practical strategies for navigating these ups and downs.
Learn how to:
- Understand the underlying reasons behind teen emotional outbursts.
- Recognize the impact of trauma on your responses.
- Support your teen through difficult times with effective techniques.
By the end of this episode, you'll feel equipped to handle your teen's emotions with more compassion, understanding, and effectiveness.
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October 19th, Portland, OR
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It's one thing to accept your queer teen, and quite another to be a true ally. Queer teens need to know that you not only support them but that you will actively advocate for them. But it's not easy to know how if you don't have experience with this.
This is why I invited Jennifer Boudrye, a queer allyship facilitator, to the podcast to discuss the importance of allyship in supporting LGBTQ+ youth. Jennifer emphasizes the need for compassion, awareness, respect, and empathy (C.A.R.E) in navigating the complexities of queer identities and offers practical advice to parents of queer children.
Topics discussed include:
- How parents can effectively support their queer children
- The significance of setting boundaries with family members
- Resources available for both parents and teens.
- Common mistakes parents make and the importance of community support.
Mentioned in this episode:
PFLAG
The Trevor Project
Human Rights Campaign
Click here to learn more about Jennifer and her programs.
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Upcoming In-Person Workshop:
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Workshop & Soundbath for Parents
October 19th, Portland, OR
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Are you a parent of a college freshman? Join me as I discuss the top seven challenges faced by new college students. I offer practical solutions to help them feel more successful and thrive.
From emotional struggles like anxiety and homesickness to social challenges like roommate conflicts and isolation, this episode provides valuable insights and support for parents and their teenage children during this significant transition.
Key Topics:
- Emotional challenges: Understanding and addressing anxiety, homesickness, and depression in college students
- Social challenges: Navigating roommate conflicts and building strong social connections on campus
- Academic and lifestyle challenges: Effective time management, prioritizing sleep and health, and avoiding common pitfalls
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In this episode I’m talking to my friend and fellow parent coach, Darlynn Childress, about her experience transitioning her youngest child to college and embracing her newfound "roomier nest."
Darlynn shares her personal story and offers insights on how to prepare for this significant phase in parenting and navigate the challenges and joys of having an empty nest.
Whether your teenager is about to embark on their college journey or you're years away from this transition, this episode provides valuable advice and practical tips to help you navigate this life stage.
You can find more information about Darlynn here.
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Feeling disconnected from your teenage daughter? Wondering why she's suddenly distant or lashing out? One day she's your best friend and the next day she's shutting you out?
In this episode, I'll share 10 strategies to act as a guide as you raise your teenage daughter.
Having coached dozens of teen girls as well as raising two teen girls myself, I know a thing or two about what works, and what doesn’t.
Topics discussed include:
- The underlying reasons for her mood swings, social challenges, and changing interests.
- How to understand the emotional and physical changes she's going through during puberty.
- Tips for providing guidance and encouragement as she explores her identity and interests.
- How to balance independence with safety and responsibility.
- The importance of maintaining open and honest conversations without judgment.
Register for my upcoming workshop How to Talk So Your Teen Will Listen here.
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In this episode, I’m discussing one of the most pressing issues facing parents today: managing teen phone use and social media and provide you with a practical guide for navigating this challenging terrain.
Whether you’re considering new phone rules or managing existing habits, this episode will provide you with the strategies and insights you need to maintain a healthy, communicative relationship with your teen.
In this episode, I cover:
- The Evolution of Teen Phone Use: How smartphones and social media have transformed over the years and the implications for today’s teens.
- Current Challenges: Issues related to constant connectivity, including exposure to inappropriate content, frequent distractions, and the distorted reality created by social media.
- Updated Guidelines: Practical, stage-based guidelines for managing phone use from early childhood to late adolescence, including recommended practices for different age groups.
- Handling Existing Phone Habits: Actionable advice on conducting the essential "oops conversation," negotiating new phone boundaries with your teen, and fostering a collaborative approach.
For more tools and tips, be sure to register for my upcoming workshop How to Talk So Your Teen Will Listen. Reserve your spot today!
Sources mentioned in this episode:
Screen Sanity
Wait Until 8th
Phone Free Schools
The Anxious Generation
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In this encore episode, I discuss the challenges that come with transitions and strategies to support your teen when things get overwhelming.
The start of a new school year brings lots of newness. New schools, grades, teachers, sports, and possibly even social circles. Even if these things are expected and even welcomed, it can be a stressful time for both of you. So if you and/or your teen are feeling overwhelmed, you're not alone!
Fear not! I'm here to help. Tune in this week to learn how to help your teen cope with the emotional ups and downs of a transition. I'll also share tips for balancing schoolwork, friendships, and extracurricular activities.
Tune in for:
- Effective strategies to connect with your teen when things feel shaky.
- How to help your teen cope with the emotional ups and downs of a transition.
- Tips for balancing schoolwork, friendships, and extracurricular activities.
Workshop Announcement!!
Registration is now open for my upcoming workshop, How To Talk So Your Teen Will Listen. Find details and secure your spot here. I’ll see you there!
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Are you tired of the endless screen time battles with your teenager? This week I’m joined by screen time expert, Emily Cherkin, who shares practical advice and strategies to help you navigate the digital world with your kids.
This episode is packed with actionable tips and expert insights to empower you to reclaim your family's time and attention.
Discover practical tips and strategies to help you:
- Understand the impact of screen time on child development
- Build strong relationships with your kids in the digital age
- Set boundaries and expectations without causing conflict
- Overcome the guilt and shame often associated with parenting in the digital era
Emily's insights, combined with her experience as both a teacher and a parent, offer invaluable guidance for parents seeking to create a healthy balance between technology and family life.
Also, Don't miss my upcoming workshop "How to Talk So Your Teen Will Listen." Join the waitlist now to be the first to know when registration opens!
About Emily:
Emily Cherkin, MEd., The Screentime Consultant, empowers parents to understand and balance family screentime by inspiring a movement around becoming Tech-IntentionalTM. As a mother of two (13 & 16) and former teacher, she is intimately familiar with the daunting challenges facing families in today’s highly digitized world. Emily’s work has been featured in The New York Times, NPR, Vox, The Today Show, BBC, Good Morning, America, and even Chuck Norris has quoted her. Emily’s best-selling book, The Screentime
Solution: A Judgment-Free Guide to Becoming a Tech-Intentional Family, was published by Greenleaf Book Group in January 2024.
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It’s me, hi, I’m the problem, it’s me!
Are you tired of feeling like you're constantly battling with your teen? It might be time to look in the mirror. In this episode, I discuss the idea that sometimes, the problem isn't just your teen.
Inspired by Taylor Swift's "Anti-Hero," we explore the importance of self-reflection in parenting.
You’ll learn how to identify potential areas where you can improve as a parent, from adjusting your expectations to changing your reactive behaviors. I’ll also provide practical tools and questions to help you assess your parenting style and foster a healthier relationship with your teen.
Don't miss my upcoming workshop "How to Talk So Your Teen Will Listen." Join the waitlist now to be the first to know when registration opens!
Key Takeaways:
- The significance of self-awareness in parenting
- Practical steps to change your parenting approach
- How to identify your role in challenging teen behaviors
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Are you worried your teen isn't "on track"? Feeling overwhelmed by societal pressures and expectations? You're not alone.
In this episode, I talk about the challenges parents face when their teen doesn't fit the mold. From academic struggles to social pressures, I'll share practical advice and real-life stories to help you learn how to let go of unrealistic timelines, support your teen's unique journey, and build a stronger connection.
Topics discussed include:
- How societal pressures and well-intentioned advice can create unnecessary stress for both parents and teens.
- The importance of understanding that your teen has their own unique journey and timeline.
- How to trust your teen's ability to make their own decisions and navigate life's challenges (with your support, of course!).
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Join me for a conversation about personal style and parenting with image consultant Kendra Porter.
In this episode, we discuss how to rediscover your sense of style while guiding your teen towards expressing their individuality.
Other topics include:
- Kendra's journey from personal style struggles to becoming a successful image consultant.
- The meaning behind Kendra's motto, "Honor Your Style, Honor You," and how it applies to both parents and teens.
- The power of clothing as a form of communication and how to use it to boost confidence.
- Practical tips on how to rekindle your personal style after focusing on family life.
- Strategies for using clothing to feel good about your body, regardless of size or shape.
- How to encourage your teen's unique style while setting appropriate boundaries.
- Tips for helping your teen develop a stylish wardrobe without breaking the bank.
Whether you're a style-conscious parent or simply looking for inspiration, this episode is for you!
About Kendra:
Kendra Porter is a TEDx speaker, an award-winning image consultant, and wardrobe stylist. As founder of HonorYourStyle, she has worked with thousands of clients, helping them to reimagine their style. Her method of styling focuses on storytelling, using fashion as a tool in personal branding to communicate who you are to the world. These days, you’ll find Kendra on a microphone producing events for luxury retailers, facilitating trainings on personal branding and style, teaching at the Fashion Institute of Technology, or in-studio dressing on-air talent for NBC Sports and the Olympics. Her motto: “HonorYourStyle. HONOR YOU!”
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In this episode, I’m joined by Jo Figueras, a spiritual medium and intuitive practices mentor, to talk about how parents can develop their intuition.
We discuss the importance of trusting your gut feeling and distinguishing intuition from fear. Jo also explains how numerology can help you better understand yourself and your teen.
Topics discussed include:
- What intuition is and how it differs from fear
- The importance of inner work for parents
- How numerology can be a tool for self-understanding and parenting
- Different ways to connect with your intuition (meditation, oracle cards, synchronicities)
- The role of spirit guides and higher powers
More on Jo:
Jo Figueras is a Spiritual Medium, Akashic Record Consultant, Consciousness Growth Mentor and the co-host of the Esoterix Podcast.
You can connect with her in all the ways, via her linktree: Spiritual Tetralogy
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On this episode, I'm joined by Katie K. May, author of the bestselling book, You're on Fire, It's Fine. Katie shares her personal journey as a "troubled teen" and her subsequent career as a therapist specializing in teens with self-destructive behaviors.
She offers invaluable insights into parents' challenges when their teen is struggling, emphasizing the importance of understanding and validating their teen’s experience.
Topics discussed in this episode:
- How to create a supportive environment for your teen
- Practical strategies for understanding and validating your teen's experience
- How to support your teen, even when they resist help
- Underlying reasons behind self-destructive behaviors
- How to build a stronger parent-teen relationship through the "hierarchy of connection."
Resources:
You’re On Fire, It’s Fine: Effective Strategies for Parenting Teens with Self-Destructive Behaviors
Creative Healing
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Ever scroll through social media and see those perfect pictures of moms and their kids? Maybe their kid just aced a test, or they're on some amazing vacation, or even just look like they're having a blast together.
And you get that SINKING feeling in your gut?
You wonder what the heck you’re doing wrong and why your life isn’t as “perfect” as theirs seems to be.
We've all been there. That feeling that you just don’t measure up.
Mom guilt, it's a real thing and something all of my clients experience.
Topics discussed in this episode:
- What mom guilt is and where it comes from
- 4 steps to stop the guilt from taking over
- The importance of honoring your needs and protecting your time
- How to stop feeling pressured to “do it all”
- My secret process for finding joy and contentment
Mentioned in this episode:
The Feelings Wheel
Episode 121: Mom Burnout: Feeling Drained and Disconnected?
Episode 21: How to Set Healthy Boundaries: A Guide for Teens and Parents
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We all have an inner critic. That voice in our head that tells us we don’t measure up. In the coaching world, that voice is called a "gremlin.”
Everyone has one… even Taylor Swift! In this episode I’ll help you understand your gremlin, how it impacts your life, and most importantly, how to manage it.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- What the gremlin is and how and why it's formed
- Three ways your gremlin can hold you back
- The three key steps to silencing your gremlin.
- How managing your gremlin can lead to greater confidence, self-acceptance, and achieving your full potential
This episode is for parents and teens alike! Have a listen if you:
- Struggle with self-doubt and negative self-talk
- Avoid challenges or play small
- Want to learn how to be more compassionate towards yourself
- Are ready to break free from limitations and reach your goals
Resources:
Episode 3: Perfectionism in Teens
Episode 49: Helping Your Teen Silence Their Inner Critic
Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson
Is your teen hanging with the "wrong crowd"? This week, I discuss the tricky topic of negative friendships in the teen years.
I’ll talk about why teens gravitate towards certain friends, and how to navigate the situation without pushing them further away.
Learn how to:
- Communicate effectively without criticizing or lecturing.
- Set clear expectations and consequences.
- Become a safe space for your teen and their friends.
- Find alternative influences and leadership opportunities.
- Get support for yourself as you navigate this challenging phase.
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Summer is upon us, and you know what that means? More downtime for your teenager… and possibly a lot more screen time than you'd like.
In this episode, I will share some strategies to help your teen ditch the phone and have a fun and balanced summer break.
Topics include:
- The Summer Wheel: How to use this tool to help your teenager find balance in their daily schedule
- The 7 Essentials of a Well-Rounded Summer
- A fresh perspective on managing screen time
- How to help your teenager understand the meaning of time well spent and be more intentional with their time
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In this episode, I’m joined by Mileva Repaski, co-founder of the Phone Free Schools Movement. Mileva shares her personal story and how she, Sabine Polack, and Kim Whitman have banded together to ensure a better future for our children.
The movement’s mission is to provide youth the freedom to excel academically and develop socially without the distractions, pressures, and harms of phones and social media during the school day.
Topics discussed include:
- The negative impacts of constant connection, including anxiety, loneliness, and academic setbacks.
- What it means to be a Phone-Free School and practical steps for successful implementation.
- The benefits of removing phones from the school environment for students and teachers.
- Parent concerns about student safety and emergency communication.
- Stories from schools that have transformed their learning environment by going phone-free.
- How YOU can get involved - parents, teachers, and students alike.
Resources:
Phone Free Schools Movement Website
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"The Anxious Generation" by Jonathan Haigt
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Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your kids? You're not alone. Many moms experience mom burnout, a state of intense exhaustion and disengagement related to parenting.
In this episode, I share my personal experience with burnout and discuss how to spot it and what to do about it.
Topics discussed include:
- Understanding Mom Burnout: what it is, why it happens, and how it can impact your well-being.
- Recognizing the Signs: Common symptoms of mom burnout, from emotional depletion to questioning your parenting abilities.
- Strategies for Recovery: Healthy coping mechanisms to overcome burnout, rebuild your well-being, and rediscover the joy of motherhood.
This episode is for you if:
- You're constantly drained and emotionally depleted.
- Finding joy in motherhood feels like a struggle.
- You question your ability as a parent.
- You experience "mom rage" or intense frustration.
- You're disconnected from your partner or social circle.
- You rely on unhealthy coping mechanisms like overdrinking, overeating, and doom-scrolling.
Mentioned in this episode:
Episode 16: Parental Burnout: Causes, Signs, & Solutions
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Is your teen struggling with anxiety? In this episode, we continue our exploration of Jonathan Haidt's "The Anxious Generation," diving deep into the impact of the "great rewiring" of childhood on BOTH BOYS AND GIRLS.
Focus areas:
- Social Media's Impact on Girls: Learn how social media use can be particularly harmful to girls' mental health and self-esteem.
- Boys & Disengagement: Discover the unique challenges boys face, including disconnection from the real world and the rise of online gaming and pornography.
- Solutions for Parents, Schools & Governments: We wrap up the series with actionable solutions to help teens thrive. Learn how to:
- Foster healthy real-world experiences
- Set healthy boundaries for screen time and phones
- Help your teen develop purpose and direction
This episode is for YOU if:
- You're a parent concerned about your teen's anxiety or social media use.
- You want to understand the challenges facing boys today.
- You're looking for practical solutions to support your teen's mental well-being.
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We are the first generation of parents raising kids in the age of smartphones. As such, there is very little guidance around finding a healthy balance of screen time and non screen time activities.
At the same time, we’re seeing a concerning rise in mental health issues in our teenagers. Coincidence? Research is saying no.
In this episode, I discuss the connection between increased anxiety in teens and the rise of smartphones using the book “The Anxious Generation" by Jonathan Haidt.
Key Points Discussed:
- The correlation between the introduction of smartphones and a rise in teen anxiety, depression, self-harm, and suicide.
- Play-based childhood (active, social interaction) being replaced by phone-based childhoods (disembodied, asynchronous communication).
- How Phones hinder the development of social and emotional skills.
- The opportunity cost of a phone-based childhood (social deprivation, sleep deprivation, attention fragmentation).
- Jonathan Haidt's proposed solution: "Building a ladder from childhood to adulthood" - a gradual introduction of responsibilities and independence.
This is the first of two episodes on the topic, so stay tuned for Part 2!
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In this episode, I dive into the common hurdles parents face when raising teenage boys. I'll also offer actionable strategies to build a strong foundation of trust and understanding with your son.
Topics discussed include:
- Common challenges: From emotional withdrawal to risky behaviors, we'll discuss what to expect and why they act the way they do.
- Building trust: How to lay a solid foundation of trust and understanding with your son.
- Communication hacks: 4 proven tips to get your teen boy to actually talk to you!
You'll also learn:
- Why clear limits and consequences are essential.
- How to avoid punishment and focus on positive reinforcement.
- The best ways to connect with your son, even when he seems distant.
Remember, your teen son still needs you! This episode will equip you with the tools to navigate this crucial stage and build a strong and supportive relationship.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Why is My Teen So Angry
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A little over a year ago, I dropped an episode tackling the do's and don'ts of parenting a teenager, and guess what? I'm back for round two! Now, I'm not exactly the type to stick to every rule, but I do appreciate a solid guideline or two. That's precisely what I'm serving up in this latest installment.
Join me as I unpack 7 essential do's and 7 must-avoid don'ts when it comes to navigating the teenage years. From the art of embracing boredom to celebrating individual quirks, I'm covering it all.
Now, you know me—I'm all about shaking things up and questioning norms. So, fair warning: this advice might not be conventional, but it's definitely worth a listen. Tune in, filter it through your own values, and let's challenge the status quo together.
Mentioned in this episode:
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The Do's and Don'ts of Parenting a Teenager
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Adulting 101: Life Skills Every Teenager Should Learn
We're All Weird: The Rise of Tribes and the End of Normal - Seth Godin
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Raise your hand if you remember your first love. We all do! Because it's all so exciting and new and also so incredibly crushing at the same time.
Now you have a teenager ready to do the same... gasp!
But fear not! I am here to help you through it.
In this episode, we'll explore the 6 stages of teen love (crush, connection, "official," settling in, crumbling, breakup) and give you tips to navigate them all.
Learn how to:
- Spot the signs your teen is interested in someone
- Be a safe space for them to talk about their feelings
- Foster healthy communication & boundaries
- Identify red flags in unhealthy relationships
- Support your teen through breakups (they'll happen!)
This episode is perfect for parents who want to:
- Understand their teen's dating life
- Help their teen build healthy relationships
- Be a supportive rock during love's ups and downs
Mentioned in this episode:
Episode 24. Tips for Teen Dating
Teenage Love - Slick Rick
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Doing something that goes against the grain can feel scary, especially when it comes to parenting.
What will they think?
What if it's a mistake?
What if this all blows up in my face?
All of these thoughts have gone through my head as I've made parenting decisions along the way.
Decisions like pulling them from public school, finding a program that better suited their needs, and trying alternative approaches to mental health care.
I found something different because the old way of doing things wasn't working. And I wanted something better for my family.
I'm starting to see more parents challenging the norm and I'm here for it! The wave of a new paradigm in parenting is rising, and that's what this week's podcast episode is all about.
Topics discussed include:
- The Old Rulebook's Toll: The cost of hidden feelings, disconnection, a fear of failure, and a focus on punishment over understanding.
- The New Rules of Connection: The impact of open communication, building trust, and prioritizing mental well-being.
- Self-Doubt & Isolation: Strategies to overcome fears, trust your gut, and have the courage to do things differently.
If you're wanting something different and better for your teen, this episode is for you.
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In this podcast episode, I discuss type A and type B personality types and the challenges that type A parents face when raising a teenager. I'll explain the characteristics of type A and type B personalities and share my experience of transitioning from type B to type A.
I'll also provide tips for type A parents who have a type B teen and offer advice on how to be a more laid-back parent.
Get ready to learn about:
- How your drive to achieve can impact your teen
- 5 common struggles, from pushing your teen too hard to letting emotions take over
- How personality clashes can arise between high-achieving parents and laid-back teens
- Tips for managing stress, focusing on the bigger picture, and letting go of control
- Ways Type A parents can become more like Type B parents
So, if you're a Type A parent (or suspect you might be!), this episode is for you!
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In this episode, I invited Marriage Coach, Michelle Purta on to discuss the challenges of raising teenagers while maintaining a happy and healthy marriage. We talk about the importance of effective communication and conflict resolution so that you can remain connected as a couple.
Topics discussed include:
- Effective communication and conflict resolution strategies
- How prioritizing your marriage and creating a shared family vision can strengthen your relationship
- Why understanding and compassion are key in navigating differing parenting styles
- Why taking care of yourself is crucial for maintaining a healthy marriage and family dynamic
Where to find Michelle:
Website
The Marriage and Motherhood Podcast
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Raising a teenager can be tough for so many reasons. We question every decision, wondering if that fight over curfew or the forgotten permission slip somehow means we're failing them.
But here's the secret many parents don't realize: raising a teenager isn't just about shaping them, it's about shaping you.
All of the challenges are opportunities for growth, giving you the chance to become an even better person.
In this episode, I share personal stories as well as a few client stories.
You'll learn:
- Why your teenager's struggles can be a mirror to your own unresolved issues
- How your past shapes your parenting (and not always in helpful ways)
- 5 actionable steps to turn things around and become a more confident parent
This episode is for you if:
- You feel triggered by your teenager's behavior
- You suspect your own childhood experiences are impacting your parenting
- You're ready to heal old wounds and become a better person
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In this episode, we're diving deep into the world of parent groups and why they're absolutely essential for anyone raising a teenager.
You'll learn:
- Why raising a teen can feel so isolating (and what to do about it)
- 9 ways parent groups can benefit YOU
- How to overcome common hesitations about joining a group
This episode is for you if:
- You feel alone and isolated while raising a teenager
- You're looking for support and encouragement from other parents going through the same thing
- You're tired of feeling like you're constantly questioning your parenting decisions
- You want to feel more confident and effective when parenting your teenager
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Mentioned in this episode:
The Art of Non-Reactive Parenting Masterclass
Episode 100: Teen Loneliness & Parental Isolation
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Is your teenager's slamming door echoing in your soul? Are meltdowns (theirs or yours) becoming a regular feature in your home? You might be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and parenting a teenager can feel like walking a tightrope blindfolded.
In this episode, I’ll shed light on the unique challenges and hidden gifts of HSP parents navigating the teenage years.
Topics discussed include:
- How your empathy allows you to truly understand your teen's emotional rollercoaster.
- Strategies to manage your own overwhelm when your teen's emotions are running high.
- How to set healthy boundaries that keep you grounded without pushing your teen away.
This episode is for you if:
- You suspect you're an HSP and your teen's drama feels extra intense.
- You struggle to manage your own emotions amidst your teen's angst.
- You crave practical tools to create a calmer, more connected relationship with your teen.
Not sure if you're a HSP? Take this free online quiz.
Mentioned in this episode: Supporting a Highly Sensitive Teen
Free masterclass for parents of teens called The Art of Non-Reactive Parenting. If you’d like calmer communication and a better connection with your teenager, this class is for you.
WATCH HERE
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Is your house a warzone of bickering siblings? You're not alone! This episode dives into the five main types of sibling dynamics and explores why conflict between siblings is actually a good thing.
Topics discussed include:
*Common causes of sibling rivalry
*How to effectively resolve conflicts, including 7 steps to guide you through the process.
*How to reduce future fighting and create a more peaceful home environment for everyone.
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Mentioned in this episode: Free masterclass for parents of teens, The Art of Non-Reactive Parenting. If you’d like calmer communication and a better connection with your teenager, this class is for you.
WATCH HERE
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In this episode, I’m having a conversation with my friend and former client, Michelle Gauthier about why so many moms are feeling overwhelmed and dissatisfied with life.
This is something I've struggled with as have many of my clients. It's easy to just accept this way of life, but surprisingly just as simple to do something about it.
If you're a working mom, this episode is for you!
Topics discussed:
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Why so many moms are feeling overwhelmed and dissatisfied with life
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Where the drive to do more comes from
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The importance of asking for help and outsourcing tasks
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How being more relaxed and present in your life translates to a better relationship with your teen
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Michelle is a professional life coach who helps busy, overwhelmed women create a more calm and intentional life. She is also the host of the Overwhelmed Working Woman podcast.
www.michellegauthier.com
Overwhelmed Working Woman podcast
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This episode offers a simple yet powerful framework for navigating this unpredictable phase of parenting: the 3 E's of Parenting a Teenager.
Topics discussed include:
- How your emotional state impacts your interactions with your teen. Learn practical tips for managing your energy and staying present.
- Letting go of preconceived notions and allowing your teen to explore their own identity. Discover how releasing expectations can lead to a more peaceful and connected relationship.
- Building trust and understanding through active listening, empathy, and authentic communication. Explore ways to connect with your teen on a deeper level.
This episode will help you:
- Simplify your approach to parenting a teenager.
- Reduce stress and frustration in your relationship with your teen.
- Build a stronger, more trusting connection with your teen.
Episode mentioned: Letting Go of Expectations: The Key for Better Parenting for Teenagers
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Strict? Me? Never! That’s what you may be thinking. But strictness is a spectrum. And sometimes parents can teeter into harmful righty without even realizing it.
In this episode, I explore why some parents lean towards strictness, signs that you might be overly strict, and the effects it can have on your teenager.
Key Points Covered:
- Differentiating between authoritative and authoritarian parenting styles, and the spectrum within.
- Recognizing behaviors like zero tolerance for mistakes, excessive rules, and lack of room for discussion or natural consequences.
- Exploring why parents might be stricter regarding grades and romantic relationships, and the underlying motivations.
- How strict parenting can make teens feel inadequate, voiceless, and stressed, impacting their self-esteem and emotional well-being.
- Examining reasons like the need for control, cultural influences, emotional instability, and lack of positive parenting skills.
- Practical steps you can take to ease up on strictness, including self-reflection, embracing changing relationships, and seeking support.
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So often, as parents, our dissatisfaction with our own life negatively impacts our ability to effectively parent our teen. When we feel happy in our own life, it not only makes us better parents but also better people. One of the most effective tools I’ve found in improving my quality of life is manifestation.
Manifestation is often perceived as mystical or far-fetched, but it's actually a practical process of setting clear goals and aligning your thoughts and actions with those goals. In this episode, I’ll dive into the concept of manifestation, breaking down its components and sharing personal experiences to illustrate its effectiveness.
Topics in this episode include:
- My personal experience incorporating manifestation practices into my life and the results I have created along the way
- Practical techniques such as goal setting using the five "F's," visualization, and affirmations
- The importance of taking inspired action and staying open to possibilities
- Simple steps you can take now to start manifesting positive change in your life
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In this episode, I invited Leadership and Mindfulness Coach Vrin Rao to explain how to use the Enneagram to become a more intentional and less reactive parent.
We explore how understanding your own Enneagram type can offer insights into your parenting style and tendencies.
Through real-life examples and practical tips, Vrin provides a roadmap for parents to navigate the challenges of raising teens with mindfulness and empathy.
Topics in this episode include:
- How to use the Enneagram as a tool for understanding personal motivations and reactivity.
- How the Enneagram differs from other personality frameworks by focusing on inner motivations rather than behaviors.
- The nine Enneagram types, and how each type's basic desires and fears influence behavior.
- The importance of self-awareness and compassion in managing your reactions and understanding others.
- Practical ways to use the Enneagram to improve your parenting skills, specifically in becoming a more composed and less reactive parent to your teenager.
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Vrindavan (Vrin) Rao is a Leadership & Mindfulness Coach who specializes in helping individuals, parents, groups, and teams to decrease their emotional reactivity and overcome self-sabotaging tendencies. She uses the framework of the Enneagram, yoga psychology, and meditation practices to help others solve the question of, "Why do I get in my own way?"
Vrin is also a meditation teacher and a lifelong practitioner of nada yoga (the yoga of sound), japa yoga (the yoga of meditative mantra recitation), and kirtan yoga.
She has been featured in over twenty podcasts, has been an expert contributor to Career Contessa and Girlboss, and was selected as one of the top meditation coaches by Coach Foundation in 2022.
Website: www.illuminate.nyc
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Enneagram Consultation (figure out your Type and/or learn more about it): vrin@illuminate.nyc
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Teenage rebellion. It's practically a cliché, right? Grumpy teenagers slamming doors, staying out late, and making questionable choices. But what if the reality is more nuanced than that?
In this episode, we'll explore the true nature of teenage rebellion, debunking myths and stereotypes along the way. I’ll talk about the different forms rebellion can take, and the underlying reasons why teens might act out.
I’ll also offer practical tips on how to navigate this challenging phase with their teens.
Here's what you can expect to learn:
- 5 Signs of a Rebellious Teenager: Not all rebellion is obvious. We'll discuss some of the subtle signs that your teen might be struggling.
- Why Do Teenagers Rebel?: It's not just about being difficult! We'll explore the biological, social, and emotional factors that contribute to teenage rebellion.
- Tips for Dealing with a Rebellious Child or Teenager: We'll offer practical advice on how to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and build a stronger relationship with your teen.
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You know how a total stranger can rub you the wrong way? You can feel put off by them, even if there's no obvious reason for it.
Fun fact: In the early days of my Yoga Teacher Training, we had to do this really uncomfortable exercise in which all 25 of us walked around a room without talking.
After about a minute, we put our hand on the shoulder of someone who "rubbed us the wrong way" — someone we were triggered by, for some reason. Then we did the same thing with someone we felt comfortable around.
(I repeat: This was uncomfortable! Who wants people to know what you think of them, especially if it's negative?)
But the reflection was: "What is it in each of these people that I see in myself?"
Because in reality, everyone is a mirror to you. Everything you can see in other people, you can see in yourself. And if something you see triggers you in a negative way, it's something you (probably subconsciously) don't like about yourself.
This episode is about shining a light on those subconscious thoughts, so you don't have to be at their whim anymore — and so you can stop being triggered by your teen.
Here's what's inside:
- How subconscious thoughts work and influence your parenting
- Steps to bring awareness to these hidden patterns
- Ways to improve the interactions you have with your teens
Free resource for parents: How to Stop Being Triggered by Your Teenager
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Today's guest, Psychotherapist and Coach TJ Matton, is sharing what play really is, and why everyone - adults included - needs it!
She defines "play" to clarify that it's not just one kind of behavior, but a state of being in the body.
And it's a primal drive, just like hunger, thirst, and sleep. While we can't avoid this drive in our bodies, culturally, we really suppress play - which is why people need help re-engaging it.
Listen to find out:
- What the play state has to do with learning, safety, and fear
- What happens in the nervous system during the play state
- How parents can best help their teens engage in the play state (without accidentally pushing them into the fight/flight state)
- Why ask "When's the last time you felt free" and what to do with your answer
- What life-changing benefits you'll get when you have more play in your life!
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TJ Matton is a social worker, psychotherapist, coach, and educator focused on helping adults learn to liberate their minds and bodies through play. TJ’s business, The Playful Revolution, is focused on helping people understand the neuroscience of play and reconnect with the power and joy of play. Play liberates and gives us permission to embrace the ups and downs of life rather than brace for them. Play is a primal need of the human body and is the neglected side of mindfulness. TJ helps people find enjoyment in the everyday, playful ways to manage stress, and empowering ways to greater fulfillment.
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In this episode, we delve into the prevalent issue of loneliness among teenagers and the often-overlooked isolation that parents experience while navigating the challenging journey of parenting teens.
Topics discussed include:
- Reasons behind the rising tide of loneliness in teens, from the impact of technology to the intricate process of identity formation.
- Factors contributing to parental loneliness, such as dwindling social interactions, evolving dynamics with parent friends, and the changing interests of growing teens.
- Practical strategies to combat loneliness. From fostering meaningful in-person connections to trying new hobbies and limiting social media use, discover actionable steps to bring more connection and fulfillment into your life.
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In this episode, we delve into the impact of having a narcissist in your life, how to navigate co-parenting with a narcissist, and how to support your teen when they've developed a relationship with a narcissist.
Laura explains the two things that make a narcissist a narcissist:
- They use harmful tools to get their needs met
- They lack the ability to have self-awareness or empathy for the person in front of them
This naturally presents a challenge for people in any kind of relationship with narcissists. They feel emotionally attacked — they're sent into fight/flight mode — they're trying to survive and get their needs met.
This means they're more likely to people-please the narcissist, just to make things calm and peaceful again. Over time, they can end up in a whole quagmire of terrible feelings and confusion.
In this episode:
- What to do to support your teenager when you know their other parent's narcissism is impacting them
- A good approach to parenting if you're still married to and/or living with a narcissistic partner
- The best responses to seeing your teen develop a relationship with a narcissist (and what not to do)
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Laura Bytheway is a Certified Life Coach specializing in helping her clients reach their impossible goals while dealing with their impossible person. Her clients deal with narcissistic parents, co-parents, in-laws, and more all while creating their dreams. She lives in Houston, TX with her husband and 3 kids.
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If you have a teenager struggling with confidence (and honestly, I don't know any teenagers who don't), this episode will help!
I explore 5 reasons teens struggle with confidence and give practical tips on how you can help them.
We talk about how everyday challenges can negatively impact their confidence — including social pressures, academic stress, decisions about the future, and their sense of identity and belonging.
And specific ways you can positively influence their confidence — like helping them trust themselves more, see their successes, and find activities to tap into their innate strengths.--
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If your Middle Schooler is struggling to find friends, is being isolated from the friends they have, or is in the middle of a friendship transition, this episode is for you.
So many of my clients struggle with friendships: Keeping them, finding them, finding the right ones. If your teen doesn't have close friends — if they don't feel like they have a group they belong to — it can be really isolating, and their self-esteem can take a hit.
In this episode, we explore exactly why Middle School is such a challenging time for friendships, including important data from multiple studies.
And I offer 7 Solutions for you to help your teen respond to those challenges and make friends.
So why is Middle School present such challenges for making or keeping friends?
- Bodies, brains and social skills are all changing, and all at different rates. It can be really challenging for teens to find someone at their similar level.
- 25% of 5th-8th Graders consider popularity to be more important than friendships, which can really tear friendships apart.
- Confidence is at a low point in adolescence, with girls' confidence dipping by as much as 30% between ages 8-14.
- Big emotions at this age, combined with a still-developing prefrontal cortex, can result in some irrational and impulsive behavior — which can affect your teen's ability to make or keep friends.
What can you do to help your teen make friends?
- Help them build social skills (show an interest in others, active listening, being kind)
- Direct their focus away from themselves and onto others to lower stress and increase their ability to interact and connect
- Encourage them to pursue their hobbies and interests, which can help them meet like-minded people
- Help them look outside their immediate social circle — to strike up conversations with new people or get to know their friends' friends
- Suggest they text or DM people on weekends, to start bridging the gap between being "school friends" and outside-of-school friends
- Talk to a Guidance Counselor, who has a pulse on the student population and can help make connections
- Reach out to me! Helping Middle Schoolers feel more confident is one of my specialties, and I have a new program designed specifically to help this age group.
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I'm sharing 9 science-backed ways for parents and teens to manage stress and anxiety, that just take a little bit of commitment and knowledge to take effect.
In this episode, we get into:
- How to breathe effectively for stress management (I walk you through a round of the Square Breathing technique at the 2:00 mark)
- My recommendation to make mindfulness meditation more doable, so it's easier to use that skill to lower stress in your daily experiences
- How physical movement helped one of my teenage clients manage the stress of adjusting to college life
- What studies show happens when you reframe "anxiety as excitement" vs. tell yourself to "stay calm" when you're stressed
- An important fact about how teens experience stressful situations after they don't get enough sleep
- An intro to Relaxation Exercises (specific techniques for managing stress, like the Progressive Relaxation Exercise and Yoga Nidra)
- What other people in your life have to do with your ability to manage stress
- How to utilize the "controllables" to manage stress, especially when it's coming out of fear of the unknown (I describe an activity I do with clients to help with this, called the Circle of Control)
- The impact optimism has on your biological response to stress (bonus: You don't even have to be "positive all the time" to manage stress better! But I give you specific ideas on how to build optimism overall, so you're better equipped to handle and lower stress.)
If you choose one option from this list (I recommend picking the one that feels easy and doable) and you commit to integrating it into your life for at least a month, you'll be able to see how it impacts your level of stress!
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I work with so many high-achieving teens throughout the year, and one thing they all have in common is high levels of stress and anxiety.
In this episode, we'll cover:
- 7 Challenges high-achieving teenagers face
- 5 things you can do as a parent to help your teen find more balance and ease in their life
You'll get new and nuanced perspectives on perfectionism, imposter syndrome, burnout, and more, so you can have a better awareness of what your teen might be going through.
And you'll get practical strategies to help them manage this stress they're carrying.
This week's subject is one of my specialties: I know how to help high achievers because I am one myself - and I've had to do this work to manage the stress that comes with that!
So I hope that you save this episode and come back to it as a resource to support the stressed-out teen in your life.
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This week, I share some opinions on parenting that may not be widely accepted or understood — which I'm ok with.
I've been a parent for a while now. I've gone through the wringer with experiences with my kids, and it's really impacted the way I see parenting and what it takes to raise a human being.
And I'm sharing these potentially controversial thoughts to give you the freedom to do things differently, or outside the norm.
Because there isn't just "one way" to do parenting, that's going to work for everyone.
So it's okay for you to disagree with things I say here: the most important question for you to ask is "What's best for me and my teen?"
As you keep checking in with your value system, you'll keep figuring out what's right for you.
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The college application process can feel so overwhelming — to teens and their parents.
But that doesn't have to be a given.
My guest today, Stacy Boodman, offers strategies and processes to simplify this experience, so it doesn't disrupt your whole life and stress everybody out!
She helps teens navigate the college applications and all of the decisions involved in it.
Here's what's inside this episode:
- The Step-by-Step Process she uses to start and navigate the College App Conversation (sneak peek: this starts with the Application Persona — essentially, a mission statement for their applications: What gets them excited, what they're interested in, what they want)
- Why starting with the person rather than the "shoulds" and "checkboxes" of college applications makes everything easier
- How this process works even if you have no idea what you want to do (and how not to expect perfection from yourself)
Stacy Boodman helps college-bound students find their own passion in the planning and execution of their next big step. After helping her own daughter Emily with her college applications, She developed an easy, step-by-step, detailed program that makes the complicated college application process easy and enjoyable.
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We're getting a little vulnerable and personal today, as I talk about something I'm experiencing, which I find isn't really openly discussed in the parental space: Parental Grief.
Walking alongside your kid, as they transition from a baby all the way to an adult, is like a slow Letting Go.
They find more independence and rely on you less and less — and even though that's what you want for them, it can take a toll.
In this episode we explore:
- The reality of parental grief as your child moves through different stages
- Why it's normal to find yourself feeling lost when your teen is suddenly driving or off to college
- 6 strategies to navigate and come to terms with your changing role of "Nurturer"
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If you're anything like our clients, fear is a constant.
Fear that you're going to mess up, that your kid will feel something uncomfortable, that other kids will have advantages and yours will be left behind.
And while that fear is normal, you can create more challenges if your reaction to it is Social Engineering.
This week, I'm joined by Life and Parent Coach Darlynn Childress to talk all about this behavior, and ultimately what you can do bulldoze less and trust yourself more.
"Social Engineering" is purposefully orchestrating your child's environment and experiences. (Basically, not just putting up the bumpers on your kid's life, but figuring out who'll be at the bowling alley, what they're going to be wearing, which lane they'll be in...)
Bumpers on their own can be helpful — but the increased intensity of Social Engineering results in: "We're not even gonna let our kids bowl unless we know the entire experience is going to work for them."
So how do you avoid bulldozing the path you think your kid should or needs to follow (and still feel good about your parenting)?
In this episode we explore:
- Parenting pressure to "do everything right"
- Why bulldozing even a pristine, perfect path can't guarantee anything for your child
- Strategies to use if you notice you want to orchestrate everything
- The antidote to fear
- How to trust yourself and define your self-worth
Darlynn Childress is the host of the Become A Calm Mama podcast and founder of the Calm Mama Club. A life and parent coach since 2012, Darlynn spends her days helping moms while raising her teenagers and hanging out with Mr. Childress and their dogs. When she’s not coaching, you can find her reading a book, hiking a hill, lounging on the beach, or binge-watching Netflix.
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I always assume positive intent, from both parents and teenagers, but sometimes we need reminders to call out unhelpful behaviors we're not even aware of.
That's what this episode is all about. It'll help you recognize what you might be doing to unintentionally create a divide in your relationship with your teenager — and what to do instead.
In Untangled by Lisa Damour, a book I recommend to everyone, the teen years are likened to the experience of learning to swim (and I just love a good analogy). Your teen is figuring out how to swim on their own, and you're the wall of the pool: You don't move, and they know they can always come back to you as they naturally swim away on their own, more and more.
For you to stay a safe place for them to land, you need to know how to avoid pushing them away.
Being aware of these unconscious behaviors is the first step, so you can make a conscious effort to take a different approach going forward.
You'll learn:
- The 5 common ways parents push their teens away
- The real impact of those behaviors (that's different from what you intend)
- Key reframes that will set you up for a successful mindset
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So many parents and teens want a close relationship with each other more than anything. But conflict — and our inability to handle conflict — can easily get in the way.
In this episode, I explain where a lot of misunderstanding and disconnection comes from, and how it escalates into conflict.
I also share how you can effectively avoid that escalation, or at least mitigate its negative effects. Because the truth is, conflict doesn't always have to be a bad thing.
In fact, it can be an opportunity for both parents and teens to learn and grow. Handling conflict in a healthy way can even strengthen your relationship with your teenager.
Listen in for:
- 7 steps to resolve conflict with your teenager
- The most common dynamics and triggers of conflict
- Communication strategies that will help even when emotions are heightened
- 3 problem-solving techniques to use when conflict does arise
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Teenagers get a bad rap for being unreliable, rebellious, and self-centered. But in my experience, none of this is true.
In fact, when teenagers are acting this way, it's typically because they struggle with trust - both in themselves and those closest to them.
The good news? You, as their parent, are your teen's primary example of what a relationship looks like. Which means you can establish a trusting relationship with your teen by implementing some simple strategies!
In this episode, I'm giving you 7 ways to help you create a mutually trusting and respectful relationship with your teenager.
You'll learn:
- My tips for active listening
- How to set boundaries collaboratively with your teen
- Why understanding behavior isn't the same as indulging inappropriate behavior
- What actions you can take to show your teen you value who they are and your relationship with them
And more!
If feel like your relationship with your teen lacks mutual trust, or you want to prevent losing trust with your teen as they get older, this episode is for you!
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In this episode, I share three questions you can ask yourself when you’re stuck wondering if you should push harder or back off.
- Am I doing this for me or for them?
- What is your teen really needing right now?
- What is most important?
I also discuss signs that you may be pushing your teen too hard and signs that you’re not pushing hard enough.
Finally, I share a story about my own daughter and how I learned the hard way that forcing her to do something she didn’t want to do only made things worse.
This is a short and sweet episode that you'll want to have handy for when you're stuck questioning how you're showing up as a parent.
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You've heard of helicopter parenting. Now, let's talk about lighthouse parenting and how it may just be the key to raising a happy, resilient, and independent teenager.
In this episode, I discuss:
- What is lighthouse parenting and why is it important for teen development?
- The characteristics of a lighthouse parent, and how to be one
- The potential advantages and disadvantages of lighthouse parenting
- Tips for incorporating lighthouse parenting into your own parenting style, whether you're a new or experienced parent
Whether you're looking for a new approach to parenting your teen or want to refine your existing style, this episode is for you.
Learn more about lighthouse parenting and how to raise a happy, healthy, and independent teen by listening to this episode today.
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In this episode, I discuss the importance of letting go of expectations as a parent. When we have expectations of who our children should be and what they should accomplish, we set ourselves up for disappointment and frustration. More importantly, we put pressure on our children to live up to our expectations, which can damage our relationship with them.
Instead, it's important to focus on supporting your teenager and helping them to become the best versions of themself. This means allowing them to explore their own interests, make their own mistakes, and find their own way in the world.
I'll discuss some of the common expectations that parents have of their teenagers, and why it's important to let go of them. I'll also provide tips for how to support your teenager and build a strong relationship with them.
Listen to the podcast episode to learn more about:
- Why expectations are harmful to the parent-child relationship
- Common expectations that parents have of their teenagers
- Tips for letting go of expectations and supporting your teen
- How to build a strong relationship with your teen
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ADHD is often misunderstood, and the teenage phase can be especially challenging. In this episode, I'll share practical strategies for parents to provide the right support for their teenagers.
You'll learn how to:
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Create a supportive environment for your teenager and encourage them to pursue their passions.
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Help your teen feel more confident and supported.
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Implement routines and structure and establish fair consequences at home.
The key is to meet your teen where they are and provide the support they need to thrive.
If you’re noticing that your once happy-go-lucky teenager has lost their spark, I can help. I have helped hundreds of teenagers feel more confident and prepared for adulthood in my 1:1 coaching practice.
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Peer pressure is a common experience for teenagers, and it can have a significant impact on their behavior. And sometimes, it can actually be a good thing. In this episode, I'll discuss the different types of peer pressure that teenagers face, the impact of peer pressure on teenagers, and tips for how you can help your teenager cope with the negative impacts of peer pressure.
I'll cover topics such as:
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The different types of peer pressure
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How parents can talk to their teenagers about peer pressure and develop coping mechanisms
- Specific tips for helping teenagers resist peer pressure to engage in risky behaviors such as drug use, alcohol consumption, and unprotected sex
If you're a parent of a teenager, this episode is for you! I'll give you the information and tools you need to help your teenager navigate the challenges of peer pressure and make healthy choices.
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It's normal for teenagers to pull away from their parents as they get older and start to develop their own identities. But that doesn't mean you have to lose touch altogether. In this episode, we'll share 9 tips for staying connected with your teen, even when they're not making it easy.
We'll cover topics like:
- Creating a safe space for your teen to talk.
- Showing interest in their interests.
- Being supportive, even when you disagree.
- Setting boundaries without being controlling.
- Making time for each other, even if it's just for a few minutes each day.
If you're worried about losing your connection with your teen, this episode is for you. Listen in to learn how to stay close to your teen, even as they navigate this new and exciting stage of life.
One thing that can bring you peace of mind when your teenager is pulling away is to know they are in the supportive hands of a trusted adult. Someone they will listen to and learn from when they may be tuning you out. That’s where I come in.
As a coach, I’ll help your teenager gain the confidence that is needed to align with positive people, make good decisions, and really step into the driver’s seat of their life.
To learn more, click here to schedule a free consultation with me.
As the school year kicks off, parents of teenagers are presented with a golden opportunity to instill effective study habits that will set their teens up for academic success. In this episode, we dive into the journey of helping your teenager establish and maintain good study practices that lead to better grades, stress management, and personal growth.
At the outset of the year, enthusiasm runs high as students envision a year of accomplishments and growth. But often, around week three, this initial momentum can begin to wane, and students may find themselves struggling to maintain their study routines and goals. To prevent this cycle of despair, this episode offers actionable strategies to keep your teen on track.
Some of the topics I will cover include:
- How to collaborate with your teen to set clear expectations and goals.
- The importance of creating an effective study environment tailored to your teen's preferences.
- How to support your teen in setting realistic deadlines and prioritizing their workload, reducing stress, and fostering a sense of control.
- Effective break strategies to ensure that your teen remains engaged and motivated without falling prey to distractions.
- The importance of finding a study method that aligns with your teen's learning style.
Toward the end of the episode, [Your Name] emphasizes the significance of seeking help when needed and cultivating patience and understanding throughout the journey. The teenage years are a critical time of development, and teens need encouragement and support as they work to establish lifelong study habits.
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The first semester of college can be a challenging time for you and your student. They are adjusting to a new environment, new people, and new academic demands, and you may be feeling a mix of emotions, such as excitement, sadness, and worry.
In this episode, I will discuss the challenges and emotions that you and your freshman may experience during the first semester. I will also offer tips on how you can support your teenager during this transition.
Some of the topics I will cover include:
- How to respond when they're feeling stressed and missing home
- What to expect week by week through the semester
- How to support them from afar
- Common experiences and emotions they will experience as they adjust
The transition to college can be filled with lots of ups and downs. Give your college freshman a leg up with 1:1 coaching. I'll help your teenager get organized, feel more confident, and find their place in their new environment. Schedule a free consultation to learn more.
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In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Pamela Ellis - CEO of Compass College Advisory. For over 15 years she’s been working with families to connect their teen with a school that feels like home.
She’ll be sharing her expert advice on how to support your teen throughout high school and effectively prepare them for college.
You'll learn what to focus on each year of high school, how to create a “right fit” college list, and what you can do to help your teenager prepare for college.
Whether you have a high school freshman or senior, you won’t want to miss this conversation.
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Mean girls are a real problem, and they can have a devastating impact on their victims. In this episode, I'll discuss the different types of mean girl behavior, how to spot them, and what to do if your teen is targeted. I'll also offer some tips for parents on how to help their teens cope with mean girl behavior.
If your teen is being targeted by a mean girl, I can help. I’ll help your teenager learn how to self-advocate and stand up to the mean girls in their life.
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Parenting a teenager can be tough. There are so many decisions to make, and it can be hard to know what's the right thing to do. But what if there was a way to tap into your inner wisdom and make decisions that are in your teenager's best interest?
In this episode, I'll talk about parental intuition. What is it? How can you develop it? And how can you use it to parent your teenager?
I'll also discuss some of the things that can get in the way of trusting your intuition, and how to overcome them.
If you're a parent who's looking for ways to connect with your teenager and make better decisions, this episode is for you.
Parenting a teenager can be a bumpy ride. But you don’t have to figure it out all on your own. Schedule a free consultation to learn about how I can help you and your teenager feel more confident and connected with one another. Click here to schedule.
This week, I'm diving into the role each generation plays in the development of subsequent generations. I'll provide an overview of the characteristics and experiences of seven generations - Silent to Alpha. I’ll then talk about how the parenting style of each generation impact later generations. And finally, I’ll talk about why Gen Xers and elder millennials make fantastic parents for Gen Z and Gen Alpha. If you're a personality nerd like me, you won't want to miss this one!
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My goal as a life coach is to catch teens before they fall. And the best way to do this is to notice the more subtle behaviors that could potentially lead to an issue down the road. It's important to note that all of us struggle with low self-esteem from time to time. As such, we all have experienced some of the things on this list. But when the behavior is consistent and persistent, it may be time to step in.
If you believe that low self-esteem is impacting your teenager’s quality of life, I can help. Schedule a free consultation call to learn more about how coaching can help your teen feel more confident and excited about their future.
In today's episode, I invited Bill Brady, father of 5 and founder of Troomi Wireless to discuss all things technology and teens.
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How to introduce devices in a safe and age-appropriate way.
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The obvious and not-so-obvious harmful effects of phone usage.
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Why denying access to a phone won't work in the long run, and what you can do instead.
Whether hounding to get a phone has just begun, or your teen has had a phone for years, this episode is a must-listen.
About Bill:
Since 2018, he has focused on providing children with healthier solutions for using technology. Most recently, Bill co-founded Troomi Wireless, a mobile phone company designed for children, and serves as the company's CEO. Through his work in the industry, Bill has become an expert in helping families navigate the myriad challenges associated with kids and tech.
In addition to providing quality hardware and phone service priced for kids, Troomi is unique for its KidSmart OS®, an operating system that enables parents to graduate kids from one level of functionality to the next based on their needs and maturity. Put simply, Troomi is designed to grow with children and prepare them for the future.
Learn more about Bill and Troomi at:
www.troomi.com
www.instagram.com/troomiwireless/
www.facebook.com/troomiwireless
I was recently asked to be a guest on my friend and fellow coach, Julie Lamb's podcast. We had a great discussion, so I thought I'd share it here as well!
In this episode, we discuss:
• Why teenagers aren't totally rational yet and how that should impact your parenting
• Why your teens need to know that their parents are always a "Safe Space"
• The importance of teaching the balance of respecting others and personal confidence in your teens
You can find Julie on Instagram and listen to her podcast here.
Enjoy!
This episode is extremely special to me. I invited my daughter's friend Tyler onto the podcast to talk about his experience as a transgender young man. I met Tyler 5 years ago when he was he and my oldest daughter became friends in middle school. He is now a high school graduate and on his way to college next year.
In this episode, Tyler shares his story with us. He talks about the challenges he faced, resources that he found to be most helpful during his transition, and also how parents can act as an ally for transgender youth. Whether you know a transgender individual personally or not, this episode is a must-listen.
Resources for transgender youth and their parents...
The Trevor Project
Facebook Support Group for Parents
Trans Youth Equality Foundation
Summertime is a perfect time to dive into some of the best episodes of the raising happy teens podcast that you may have missed. This week, I’m repairing episode #3, which is all about perfectionism. Even if you’ve heard it before, I encourage you to listen. Now that your teen is older, things may have changed. And something that didn’t resonate before.
Join me in this episode as I delve into the world of perfectionism and explore practical strategies to help your teenager overcome its grip. From unrealistic expectations to fear of failure, I’ll uncover the signs and effects of perfectionism. I’ll also explain the distinction between high achievers and perfectionists, and provide you with tools to help your teenager manage perfectionism and learn to challenge negative self-judgments.
Do you lean more toward a feminine (yin) or masculine (yang) style of parenting? Spoiler alert! It has nothing to do with your gender! In this episode, I uncover the traits of both masculine and feminine parenting styles. I’ll dive into the pros and cons of each approach and reveal how your teen might respond differently to each one. Finding the right balance is key, and I’ll provide practical tips to help you strengthen the energy that resonates with your teen.
Get ready for a mind-opening episode! Today, I’m diving into the world of mental health myths and debunking five of the most widespread ones. Buckle up as we explore why not everyone needs a therapist, despite what you might have heard. I’ll also dig into the mind-body connection and uncover the various factors that play a role in holistic well-being. This is a great listen for parents and teens alike!
Click here to download my free resource for parents: What Your Teen Wants You to Know
Is your teenager addicted to their phone? Do they spend hours and hours online gaming, while neglecting their homework and physical health? They may have a process addiction. In this episode, I'll explain what a process addiction is. I'll also share some of the most common types of process addiction in teenagers, and what you can do to help your teen break free from the cycle.
Resources used in this episode:
What are Process Addictions: 6 Tips to Help Your Teen Cope
When to Intervene in Your Teen's Process Addiction
Click here to schedule a consultation to learn more about my 1:1 teen coaching program.
In a recent interview, I was asked what I would do differently as a parent if I could start all over again. While I'm not one for regretting past decisions, I do believe in the power of personal reflection. And now that one of my teens is officially an adult, I figured now is a great time to look back on my parenting journey and share my thoughts with you.
But this isn't just about me. I invite you to do the same. Whether you're in the midst of parenting a pre-teen or preparing to launch your senior from the nest, this episode is for you.
I'd love to hear your thoughts! Head over to Instagram and let me know what you would change if you could go back in time.
Not all symptoms of anxiety are created equally. And while most people are familiar with the more common symptoms like nervousness and worrying, some symptoms fly under the radar. That's because everyone experiences anxiety differently. What may appear as high achievement might actually be perfectionism, and introversion may actually be social avoidance. These signs may look similar on the outside but feel distinctly different on the inside.
In this episode, I will uncover 10 subtle yet significant indicators that could suggest anxiety in your teenager. You will discover how anxiety can manifest in unexpected ways, encompassing changes in behavior and social interactions, as well as physical symptoms and internal thought patterns. I’ll also share stories from my experiences working with and parenting anxious teens. You won’t want to miss this one!
Click here to schedule a free consultation.
Download my free resource for parents: What Your Teenager Wants You to Know.
Follow me on Instagram.
In this episode, we'll explore 12 life skills that every teenager should learn before leaving the house. From basic household tasks to important financial management techniques, these skills will not only help your teenager feel more competent and confident but also prepare them for the challenges that life may throw their way. What better way to spend a summer than learning how to unclog a toilet, am I right? Whether your teenager is getting ready to move out, start a job, or just become more independent, this episode is a must-listen for parents and teens alike.
Parenting a teenager can be complex, with new challenges arising every day. The good news is, there are some parenting skills that are universally effective, and by mastering them, you can strengthen your relationship with your teenager, support them as they navigate the challenges of growing up, and ultimately guide them towards a successful adulthood.
In this episode, I will be sharing 10 essential parenting skills that you can develop to better understand and connect with your teenager.
I’ll also be discussing the four "C"s of parenting- Connection, Communication, Consistency, and Consequences, which are fundamental principles of effective parenting.
Whether you’re a new or seasoned parent, this episode is for you. It’s never too early or too late to learn more about how to be a better parent.
Schedule a free consultation to learn more about my 1:1 teen coaching program.
Sources used in this episode:
What Makes a Good Parent By Dr. Robert Epstein
The Four C's of Parenting By Dr. Christian Conte
Are you tired of hearing the same old parenting advice that just doesn't seem to work for you and your family? Well, in this episode, I'm going to shake things up and give you some unconventional parenting advice that may ruffle a few feathers.
I'll be discussing some of the things that you shouldn't do as a parent, like forcing your teen to do activities they don't enjoy, or guilt-tripping them into going to college. I'll also share some things you should do as a parent, some of which may surprise you.
So, if you're ready to challenge the status quo and try some unconventional parenting techniques, then this is the episode for you. Tune in and let's get started!
Click here to download my free guide for parents: What Your Teenager Wants You to Know
Leadership expert and fellow coach Elijah Seay is here to talk about imposter syndrome. We'll discuss what it is, how it manifests in teens, and what factors can make someone more prone to experiencing it. We also delve into the five types of imposter syndrome, sharing personal stories and insights from our lives and the lives of clients we've worked with.
To round out our discussion, Elijah will provide practical tips and strategies for overcoming imposter syndrome and building self-confidence. So sit back, relax, and join us in this informative and engaging conversation!
To learn more from Elijah, follow him here:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elijah-rogeay-seay
Instagram: @eseay3
Sometimes teenagers do things that just don't make sense. But there is a scientific explanation - their brain hasn't caught up with their body. In this episode, you'll learn all about the developing teenage brain. I’ll explain why your teenager struggles with planning, decision-making, organization, problem-solving, self-control, and memory - why they engage in risky behavior, lack motivation, have mood swings, and feel so stressed all of the time. You've got questions, I've got answers.
Click here to schedule your free consultation.
Download my free resource: What Your Teenager Wants You to Know
Teens who know how to effectively advocate for themselves tend to be more successful in school, work, and life. They’ll also have a higher level of distress tolerance and self-esteem. And the great news is that self-advocacy is a skill that can be learned and developed over time. In this episode, I'll share 3 skills your teen can develop that will help them become a better advocate for themselves.
Follow me on Instagram for more tips on how to raise a happy teenager.
Schedule a free consultation to learn more about my 1:1 teen coaching program.
Resilience is closely linked to mental health. The better your teen is at handling the ups and downs of life, the happier they'll be.
In this episode, you'll learn what resilience is and why it’s important to have. I'll tell you about the 7 C’s of resilience, and share 5 things you and your teen can do right now to build resilience. This episode is jam-packed with information. Keep a notebook handy because you'll definitely want to take notes.
Free Resources
What Your Teenager Wants You To Know
Practice Yoga with me on YouTube
To learn more about my teen coaching program, schedule a free consultation. Click here to schedule.
I know that the last thing you want is for your teen to spend more time on their phone.
But remember, a phone is a tool - and it can be very helpful. It’s all about finding a balance. Knowing some apps that have a positive impact can really help with that balance.
In this week's podcast episode, I am sharing my favorite apps for teenagers. All apps mentioned are linked below. Enjoy!
Stress management
Headspace
The Breathing App
Mindshift
Blockudoku
Focus/homework time
Forest
MyHomework
Evernote
Exercise
Nike Fitness Club
Peloton
7-minute Workout
Popsugar Fitness
Mental health
I Am Sober
Calm Harm
Stress Ball
Rootd
According to the American Psychological Association, trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event. But "terrible event" is subjective. That's why it can be hard to know if your teen has experienced trauma. In fact, they may not even realize it themselves.
In this episode, you'll learn the difference between trauma and PTSD. I’ll also share the four kinds of trauma responses to look out for, and nine check-in questions you can ask your teen to know how they are doing.
Information from this episode came, in part, from the following article published by Newport Academy:
How to Do a Teen Mental Health Temperature Check
Download my free guide for parents:
What Your Teen Wants You to Know
Parents who hover and swoop down to help at the first sign of trouble are known as helicopter parents. Being involved in your teen's life is one thing, but constantly jumping in to fix or control things is quite another. In this episode, I’ll share the common causes and characteristics of a helicopter parent. I’ll also talk about the impact helicopter parenting can have on teens.
Click here to download my free guide: What Your Teenager Wants You to Know.
Anger, in and of itself, is not a bad emotion. It's a healthy and normal reaction to adverse life events. But sometimes anger can turn into a maladaptive coping behavior that negatively impacts the whole family. In this episode, I'll share some common causes of anger in teens. You'll also learn 7 things you can do to help your teen manage their anger.
Looking for more insight into your teenager's world? Download my free guide: What Your Teenager Wants You to Know. If you're wanting a better connection with your teen, this is the guide for you!
It's normal to not want to go to school, but for some teens, school avoidance is a big problem. In this episode, I'll share what school avoidance is, how to spot it, and what to do if your teen is struggling to go to or stay in school.
Attention parents of teenagers!
I've compiled a list of 7 of the most common things teenagers have told me they wish their parents understood in my newest guide: What Your Teenager Wants You to Know. If you're looking to better understand and support your teenager, this is for you!
Click here to download your copy today.
On today’s episode, I’ll be sharing 5 parenting mistakes you may be making. I recommend listening with curiosity, and reflection, rather than self-judgment. We’re all doing our best. No parent is perfect. But, like Maya Angelo says, "Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better." And that’s what this podcast is all about. Knowing better, so you can do better.
If you'd like more insight into your teen's world, download my free guide: What Your Teenager Wants You to Know.
Neurodivergence describes how a person's brain works - how they see and respond to the world around them. In this episode, you'll learn what neurodivergence is, how to spot it, and how to support your neurodivergent teen. I’ll also share my personal story as a parent of two neurodivergent teenagers.
If your teen - neurodiverse or neurotypical - could use some support, whether it be social, emotional, or otherwise, I can help. Click here to set up a free consultation with me. We’ll talk about where your teen is and where you want them to be. And I’ll tell you the steps we can take together to get them there.
You know that inner voice - the one that tells you you just don't measure up? You aren’t thin enough, pretty enough, athletic enough, smart enough, or strong enough? That's your judge. We all have one.
Your teenager's judge is keeping them small. It's the reason your teenager doesn't put themselves out there or have the courage to live more authentically. When your teenager feels inadequate, their judge is to blame. Fortunately, the judge can be tamed.
In today's episode, you'll learn how to help your teen identify their judge and minimize its impact.
If your teen struggles with confidence, I can help. Schedule a free consultation to learn more.
Have you heard of masking? It's a term used to describe when people hide their authentic selves to be more socially accepted. It's something we all do from time to time, but it can become a problem when we are constantly hiding inner turmoil.
In today's episode, I'll share three signs your teenager may be masking. I'll also share why it happens, and what you can do about it.
If you'd like to hear more about my 1:1 teen coaching program, click here to schedule a free discovery call.
One of the biggest challenges my teen clients face is a lack of motivation. Specifically, they lack the motivation to do anything they’d rather not do - like homework and chores. By putting things off until the last minute, they are more susceptible to added stress.
In this episode, I'll share three causes of procrastination and tell you how you can help your teen stop this cycle in its tracks. I'll also share the time management system I use that has helped countless teens finally take charge of their schedule and even find more time for things they enjoy.
Click here to download the Motivation Maximizer.
Schedule a free consultation here.
Money Mindset and Life Coach Shannon Brome-Ward is here to share her best strategies for setting your teenager up for financial success. Her approach to money is easy, accessible, and enjoyable. In this episode, we'll be talking about common challenges we all face when it comes to finances. Shannon will also share simple strategies you can implement now to get your teen on the right track when it comes to money mindset and management. It's never too early or too late to start. You won't want to miss this!
If you're interested in learning more from Shannon (trust me, you are), here is where you can find her:
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thewholebudget/
- Website: https://www.thewholebudget.com/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheWholeBudget/
- Email: shannon.brome-ward@thewholebudget.com
The new year is upon us, and with it comes all of the new year's resolutions. Resolutions you'll set and forget about in 3 months. If you're over that whole cycle, this episode is for you. I'll share the foolproof 4-step goal-setting method I've used for years. It's worked for me over and over and I see my clients achieving big things using it as well. Let's have fun and achieve big things. Happy New Year!
Use this worksheet to guide you.
Schedule a free consultation here.
In 2019 the American Academy of Pediatrics announced that mental health disorders had surpassed physical conditions as the main source of impairment and limitation among adolescents. And this is BEFORE the pandemic.
Our teens are in crisis. In this episode, I’ll be talking about the cause of declining mental health - it’s not what you may be thinking! And I'll tell you what you can do to support your teen with their mental health.
Matt Ritchel's New York Times Article
If you’re looking for someone for your teen to talk to, reach out to me. I’ll meet them where they are and help them get to where they want to be. Click here to schedule a free consultation.
If your teen is struggling to make friends or is in the middle of a friend group transition, this podcast is for you. In this episode, I'll share some of the reasons your teen may be struggling with friendships. Then, I'll share 7 ways to help them expand their social circle.
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Don’t we all love homework? It’s just the best. Said no one ever.
Sure, homework isn’t fun, but it’s necessary. And if your teen avoids or puts off doing homework, it may not be as simple as laziness. There’s often a lot going on under the surface. In this episode, I’ll share 6 reasons your teen avoids homework, and what can be done to turn things around.
This is something that I can help your teen with. Whether it’s motivation, study habits, or belief in themselves, I’ll help them overcome the obstacles in their way so they can find more success and happiness in their life. Click here to schedule now.
No matter what you're after - be it less stress, more happiness, better relationships, better focus, or better decision-making - meditation will get you there. In this episode, I'll share my story with meditation and give you simple tips to get started with your own practice. I'll also debunk some of the common myths about what meditation is and isn't.
There's no better time to kick off your practice. Grab your favorite teen(s) and try my free 21-Day Meditation Challenge.
Head over to YouTube and check out my simple guided meditation practice.
Be sure to share this episode with your teen and anyone else you think could use a bit more peace in their life.
The art of conversation is something I teach my teen clients all over the world. It’s an essential part of the core skills they acquire in our coaching relationship that contributes to their overall level of confidence and self-esteem.
In this episode, you'll learn about the three types of difficult conversations, and the simple 4 step process that will ensure a productive outcome. I’ll also let you know which words and phrases you'll want to avoid.
If your teen could use some support with this, your next step would be to schedule a free consultation call with me. On our call, we’ll talk about your teen - what you see happening, and what you’d like for them. I’ll share my thoughts and what it’s like to work together to support your teen. I’ll answer your questions and help you determine whether coaching is a fit.
Click here to schedule your consultation now.
When I’m coaching the parents of the teens I work with, one of the questions I get asked over and over again is, “Is this normal teen behavior?” Parents are seeing their teen doing something and they don’t know if they should intervene or when to chalk it up to “normal” adolescent behavior.
On today’s podcast, I’ll be talking about 5 behaviors often seen in adolescence. I'll share what's typical and what may be worthy of further investigation.
If you'd like more support with this, schedule a free discovery session. On our call, I’ll have you share what you see going on with your teen and what outcome you’re after. I’ll share my thoughts and explain what it’s like to work together and answer any questions you have. Click here to get started.
This week’s episode is all about common parenting traps I’ve seen and how to avoid them. We're all doing our very best as parents, but we sometimes make things harder on ourselves without even realizing it. Knowing what to avoid can make this parenting journey a little smoother for you and your teen.
If you'd like further support with this, click here to schedule a free discovery session.
To a teenager, there’s really nothing more important than forming relationships with other teens. But sometimes, in an effort to not feel isolated or excluded, teens will gravitate toward unhealthy friendships.
And once they're in a friendship, it’s not always easy to get out - especially if they’re seeing this person at school every day.
So knowing up front what to look out for can give your teen a leg up. In this episode, I’m going to talk about 7 types of friends to watch out for.
If your teen struggles with friendships, I can help. Click here to schedule a free discovery session.
When your teen has a good level of self-esteem, they feel good about who they are as a person. Having self-esteem will make your teen more resilient and generally happier in their life. They’ll also be more likely to make healthy choices and better peer relationships.
Fortunately, a person’s level of self-esteem can grow. One way is through familial relationships and support. And that’s where you come in. In this episode, I'll share 5 ways you as a parent can help your teenager build self-esteem.
If your teen struggles with self-esteem, I can help. Click here to schedule a free consultation.
This episode is all about relational aggression - also known as “mean girl” behavior. Though it’s referred to as mean GIRL, it can really happen with all genders. You'll learn what relational aggression is, the signs to look out for, why it happens, and its effects. I'll also share tips on what to do if your teen is experiencing emotional bullying.
For more support with this, Click here to schedule a free consultation.
Stress overload is a big anxiety activator. So it makes sense that if your teen struggles with anxiety, tackling stress would be a great first step. Today, I’ll be sharing the three “S” approach to managing stress. I’ll explain what they are and go into detail with each one.
Don't let your teen spend one more day feeling anxious and stressed. Schedule a free consultation to see if coaching may be just the thing that will help your teen feel more confident and in control of their life.
On this episode, I’ll to start by explaining the difference between fear, anxiety, stress, and worry. I’ll then share the primary cause of anxiety. I’ll tell you the three ingredients in anxiety, and finally, tell you what the antidote for anxiety is.
Here is the link to the list of stressful life events I mentioned in this episode.
To take this work deeper, I invite you to schedule a free consultation. I look forward to hearing from you!
What a magical world this would be if your teen would only listen to you. Believe it or not, it is 100% possible for this magical world to become a reality. In this episode, you'll learn about the 5 things that need to be in place for your teen to really hear what you have to say.
Download the list of values HERE.
For further support, schedule a free consultation.
For this very special episode, I'm joined by my friend Darylnn Childress to discuss all things parenting teens. This is part two of our two-part conversation and it's not to be missed.
Darlynn Childress is the host of the Become A Calm Mama podcast, and founder of the Calm Mama Club. A life and parent coach since 2012, Darlynn spends her days helping moms while raising her teenagers and hanging out with Mr. Childress and their dogs. When she’s not coaching, you can find her reading a book, hiking a hill, lounging on the beach, or binge-watching Netflix.
Find her here on Instagram.
Enjoy!
For this very special episode, I'm joined by my friend Darylnn Childress to discuss all things parenting teens. This is part one of our two-part conversation and it's not to be missed.
Darlynn Childress is the host of the Become A Calm Mama podcast, and founder of the Calm Mama Club. A life and parent coach since 2012, Darlynn spends her days helping moms while raising her teenagers and hanging out with Mr. Childress and their dogs. When she’s not coaching, you can find her reading a book, hiking a hill, lounging on the beach, or binge-watching Netflix.
Find her here on Instagram.
Enjoy!
In today’s podcast, I’ll start by sharing what a panic attack is. I’ll then give you 5 ways to decrease the severity of a panic attack, and finally, 4 things your teen can do to reduce or prevent them altogether.
If your teen struggles with anxiety, I can help. Click here to schedule a free consultation.
It's fall, and you know what that means.... back to school time! While the beginning of a new year can bring a lot of excitement, it can also lead to stress and feelings of self-doubt; especially if your teen is starting a new school or going off to college. In this episode, I'll share 5 things you can do to help your teenager navigate this new experience with grace and confidence.
If you're looking for further support with this, schedule a free consultation. Let's work together to make this the best year yet for your teenager.
Smoking at school is nothing new, but with the invention of the vape pen, it's become more prevalent and easier to hide. Here are three tips on how to talk to your teen about vaping.
Check out the CDC's website for more information.
If you'd like more support with this, schedule a free consultation with me. Let's work together to support your teenager!
I recently sat down with a high school teacher to ask about what it's like to teach in a public high school in 2022. In this episode, I'll share 5 challenges schools are facing right now, and what needs to happen to turn things around. I'll also share things you can do to be a part of the solution, for the betterment of our kids' future.
If your teen is anxious about the upcoming school year, I can help. Click here to schedule a free consultation.
In this episode, I'll teach you about the four different styles of parenting and how they impact the development of children.
For more support with this, click here to schedule a free consultation. I’ll share with you how I can take you from feeling around in the dark to parenting with confidence, so you can feel good about how you’re setting a strong foundation for your kiddos.
Ahhhhh... young love. If your teen is entering the dating world, this episode is for you! I'll share 8 things you can do to support your teen as they begin to explore romantic relationships.
If you'd like further support with this, schedule a free consultation to learn about my teen/parent coaching program.
Does your teenager tend to attract the same type of friendships over and over? There is a reason why. In this episode, I'll explain 5 different friendship patterns and the pros and cons of each.
If your teen could use some support with the friendships in their life - or lack thereof - I can help. Click here to schedule a free consultation.
In this episode, you'll learn about the 4 components of social anxiety. I'll also share simple steps your teen can take to manage their social anxiety and start enjoying their life to the fullest.
If your teen struggles with social anxiety, I can help. Click here to schedule a free consultation.
Setting healthy boundaries is an essential skill. In this episode, you'll learn what boundaries are, why they are important, how to know you need them, and how to set them.
Everything changed for me when I became a mother. In this episode, I'll share the experiences that lead me to find my life's purpose - helping teenagers and their parents.
In this episode, I'll share with you the aspects of my life that have made me the person and coach I am today.
Five ways you can make the most of the flexibility summer offers, while also strengthening your bond with your teenager
In this episode, I'll share the negative and positive impacts technology can have on teens, along with 5 ways to help keep your teen’s dependence on and usage of technology under control this summer.
If you'd like to learn more about my teen coaching program, click here to schedule a free consultation.
But parental burnout isn’t just a result of things that are going on in the world around us. It is created from the relationship you have with your child. Studies have shown that 1 in 5 parents suffer from burnout. In this episode, you'll learn three ways to protect yourself and dial down the effects of burnout.
If you're feeling burnt out as a parent, I can help. Schedule a free consultation to learn how.
In this episode, you'll learn about the similarities and differences between therapy and coaching. I’ll talk about when to seek therapy for your teenager and when a coach is a better fit. I’ll also share my personal experience with therapy and coaching, both for myself and my teenage daughter.
If you're wondering whether coaching or therapy is right for your teenager, this is the podcast for you!
Schedule a free consultation to learn more about my 1:1 coaching program for teenagers.
Anxiety is a huge challenge for so many teenagers. In this episode, I'll share the 4 steps of anxiety management every parent should know. If you have an anxious teen, this one is for you!
In this episode, I'll talk about the notion that being gay is "trendy" for teenagers and how NOT to respond when your teen tells you that they are LGBTQ.
In this episode, I’ll be talking about burnout in teens. What it is, how to spot it, and what to do about it. Inspiration for this episode came from the book:
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, by Emily Nagoski, Amelia Nagoski
If your teen could use some support with this, your next step is to schedule a free consultation with me. On our call, you and I will talk about the challenges you see your teen facing, and I’ll tell you step by step, how I will help them start enjoying their life again.
More teens struggle with anxiety now than ever before. In this episode, I'll share with you one major cause of teen anxiety. I'll also share simple strategies you and your teen can implement today to help them get their feelings of anxiety under control.
If you'd like support with this, schedule a free consultation to learn more about my 1:1 teen coaching program.
As moms, we bring all kinds of baggage into adulthood. Much of it has to do with our own struggles with body image. We would do anything to protect our daughters and make it so they never have to feel this way. But it's not always easy. In this episode, I’ll be talking about how to support your daughter when she's less than thrilled about the way she looks.
A lot of people take their mental health for granted. But then, when things get challenging, they have no idea how to bring themselves back into balance. That's why it's so important to prioritize mental health BEFORE there's a problem.
In this episode, I’ll be talking about the 4 components of mental health and give you examples of how you can teach your teen to keep them in balance.
Confidence is something that can grow over time. Today I'll share 5 things your teen can do to start feeling more confident and self-assured in their life.
If you'd like more support with this, sign your teen up for my Find Your Path program. Click here to register!
If your teenager is feeling uncertain and anxious about their future, this podcast is for you. In this episode, I'll be telling you all about my Find Your Path Program for teens.
You'll learn:
-Who the Find Your Path program is for.
-What your teen will receive when you sign them up, including a breakdown of the 1:1 and group coaching, and workbook.
-When the program begins and when calls will be held.
-How to register.
Click here for more information and to secure your teen's spot now.
I think we can all agree that anxiety has become an epidemic; especially amoungst kids and teens. In this episode, I’ll share my experience with anxiety as a parent, with my two teen daughters. Then, I’ll dive ito the science of stress, and share ways to help your teen manage feelings of anxiety and stress.
Non-violent communication will help you navigate even the most challenging conversations. In this episode, you'll learn the 4 steps of NVC and how to use them effectively.
On this podcast, I’ll be sharing tools to help you better communicate with your teen. The foundation of any strong relationship is communication. Most of the struggles the parents and teens I work with have are the result of lack of or poor communication.
You'll learn:
- How to be a better listener
- What to say & what not to say
- How to ask empowering questions
Schedule a free consultation to learn more about my teen coaching program.
Is your teen highly sensitive? In this episode, Jennifer explains what it means to be a highly sensitive person (HSP), and also shares three simple ways to support your highly sensitive teenager.
For more information on the subject, check out:
Elaine Aron's book, The Highly Sensitive Person
Elena Herdieckerhoff's Ted Talk “The Gentle Power of Highly Sensitive People.”
Perfectionism can really hold your teen back. In this episode, I'll talk about what perfectionism is, why it can be a problem, and how to help your teen manage it.
"Why is my teen so unmotivated?" This is a question I get all of the time. In today's episode, you'll learn what motivation is, where it comes from, and how you can help your teen feel more motivated in their life.
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What does it mean to be happy and should happiness actually be the goal? In this episode, I address these questions and tell you the three essential elements of happiness. If you want your teen to feel happier, this episode is for you!
Introducing Raising Happy Teens! I'm Jennifer Delliquadri, and I am a life coach for teens. This place is for you if you are currently raising a teenager, or will be in the near future. Each week, I'll be sharing parenting tips and tools to help you better support and connect with the teenager in your life. It doesn't have to be the roller coaster that everyone warns you about. In fact, having a teen can be some of the most enjoyable years of parenting. Be sure to follow Raising Happy Teens, so you'll get each episode as it's released.