Uncultured Hybrid: Recent Episodes
Erica Mateus
Here we talk about everything. Follow my life journey and learn from my experiences. My goal is to inspire and uplift people.
Grab your cup of coffee or tea and listen in. 🎙️🎧
'The dead are better off!" used to be my love's slogan. I would have rather died than be sick, unemployed, struggling, etc. Death was my easy way out. Can you relate to this?
Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality.
3 ... 2 ... 1 ... Fight! We will still see so many battles and wars in this world. Learning to fight right is of great essence.
Posting every day and putting out content just so you can grow your numbers doesn't make you consistent. Sticking to your goals is consistency.
Life is what we make of it. Creating a happy life is the only way to live a happy life. Make this life what you want of it because you have no guarantee that any other path would be better.
Depression is real and it has a great way of disguising itself. People will never know unless we speak up.
Fighting against exterior enemies seems impossible but it's the interior enemies that keep you up at night.
People will always have opinions but don't let those opinions make you uncomfortable in your skin.
Some things in life will push you to the limit. They will make you want to give up but with the help of good mentors the journey can be made smoother. Tune in and listen. Share and give your feedback. Thank you for listening. Also available on Apple podcasts, Spotify and other platforms.
I wasn't teaching when I wrote this but it makes me happy to know that my wish to continue teaching came true. Being a teacher was something I dreamed of since I was a little girls. I guess my love for speaking is being put to good use. Tune in and listen. Share and give your feedback. Thanks you for listening. Also available on Apple podcasts, Spotify and other platforms.
Many times we try to justify the end of a relationship because we believe it will help us understand and accept the end. Truthfully speaking I think that many of the reasons people give can cause more pain. Tune in and listen. Share and give your feedback. Thanks you for listening. Also available on Apple podcasts, Spotify and other platforms.
How we treat people affects them in ways we may never know. This post is a way to create awareness. Tune in and listen. Share and give your feedback. Thanks you for listening. Also available on Apple podcasts, Spotify and other platforms.
To summarize we all deserve healthy relationships. I have a list of things that I want in my future husband. Some of the things on my list are non negotiable and others reveal that shallow little girl in me. Listen in and find out what you deserve. Thanks for listening. Please share and let me know what you think. ☺️
Men includes your father, brothers, cousins, uncles, grandfather's, husband and boyfriend. Is that what you think of the men in your life? Listen in, leave your thoughts and share. Thanks for listening.
How should I be loved? If you have ever asked what is love or how should I be loved. This episode may give you some guidance on where to start. Love isn't blind and it shouldn't hurt. Listen in, share and leave your feedback.
Truly we are all students and life is the teacher who teaches us many lessons. Acknowledging those lessons and applying what you have learned can lead to a fruitful life. Listen in and leave your comments.
So many people go through life not realising that they are being abused. That is because many of us still believe that the only form of abuse is physical.
Being Human makes you imperfect. As imperfect beings we are prone to make mistakes which can make us feel so guilty. Sometimes our guilty makes us feel like we don't deserve forgiveness. Lucky for us reconciliation is always an option.
Everybody is dealing with something and sometimes we take our pain and frustrations on the people we love. We damage our relationships because we are damaged inside. Healing and transformation is crucial.
It was his persistence that swept me off my feet. Nobody expects a guy at college to chase one girl unless he wants to marry her. That's what intrigued me. I didn't understand why he kept chasing despite my constant rejection. He taught me a great lesson though, persistence builds resilience and it might just get you what you want.
So often we blame our circumstances and others for our situations. We forget that we are not the audience in our own lives but the main characters. As the main character you have choices to make and those choices can either lead you to a happy life or a life of misery.
So many people spend time looking for the perfect person. What you need to know is that there is no perfect person but there sure is a right person for you. Once you know what you want (need) you will find the right person for you.
It is not just horror for people with fuller bodies. Skinny people also have a difficult relationship with the scale. I personally struggled to accept my body for many years. It's quite annoying how easily I lose weight and no matter what I do I struggle to gain. I have come a long way and I am learning to deal with the changes in .y body
For a long time the thought of family heart me. I never wanted to be part of a family. This changed when I redefined the term for myself. Family are the people you want your life. Seeing how my relatives lead their lives is still a traumatic experience for me. It made me reject the idea of a family for a very long time. Overcoming this trauma would be crucial if I ever want to get married and build a family of my own.
Understanding failure and it's place in your journey is crucial to making life more bearable. We will all fail many times because there are lessons to be learned in failure but in the end it all leads to success.
Nobody wants to fail. Neither did I. My understanding of failure changed after reading this "Failure is part of the journey to success, it is a learning curve." Once you learn to accept failure you will be open to learning lessons you could never learn from success.
When he said he wanted to be more than friends I was like "What do you even mean!?" My insecurities really worked against for a very long time but once I began to understand myself, my needs and what I wanted there was a 180 degree change and a revolution. I used to wonder what exactly guys liked about me. I mean I found it hard to like me.
Mental health awareness is a great necessity because so many of us are struggling but we don't know where to turn. Sometimes because of the silence and fear so many people are lost. Ask for help when you are ready and be informed so you can help those in need.
Worth - the level at which someone deserves to be valued. You need to value yourself first, you need to know your worth. So many of us struggle with our worth. Whatever the reason if for your feeling of worthlessness, let it go!
Tell me that you have never been misunderstood and I will call you a liar. Every single human being has been misunderstood more than once in their live. Misunderstanding is not the problem. The problem is the consequences of the misunderstandings. Curious? Than grab a drink, some snacks, sit back, relax and listen.
I am a native Angolan living in South Africa and a black African woman who speaks no African languages 🤔. Are you even African? Yep, I have been asked that question over 100 times. Being a cultural hybrid is a new culture! What do you mean by that Erica? Grab your drink and listen in...
So often people miss the opportunity to be more than just friends because everybody is scared of rejection. Recently I was speaking to my housemates and they were saying that it's irrational to fear rejection. Our fears can push is to tight corners such as the friend zone. Listen in and don't forget your drink because listening with a drink is more relaxing.
Not even the Great wall of China is as strong as the walls we put up once we have been hurt. 🤷 Self-protection is something that we all do. If you are anything like me you are definitely putting up the greatest wall. Let's grab a drink an listen in.
We all have that one or even many things that we don't like about ourselves. These things make us feel less about ourselves. The make us doubtful, insecure and sometimes even resentful of ourselves. Let me not say more... Grab your drink and listen in!
Sounds like something we only see in fairytales but there are happy ever afters in real life. They may not end up in a long lasting marriage but they sure end in happiness. Remember it's happy ever after and not marriage ever after. Grab your drink and listen in.
Being in a relationship can be great but not all relationships last forever. It is important for one to recover before putting oneself out there again. Grab your cup of tea, coffee, smoothie or whatever drink you prefer and listen in.
We often stop believing in love after going through the most devastating and traumatic experiences in past relationships. It is easier to say "I will never love again!" then to take another chance at getting hurt. This pandemic has shown us that 'no man is an island'. Loneliness will creep in and damage us from within. I hope you enjoy this episode.